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SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is there anybody that has to take pain pills daily and has (or had) trouble managing them? Or anybody that has to manage withdrawal symptoms? I need help here.
POST: I have a kidney disease and my kidneys are slowly failing. I've been on hydrocodone for 5 years. Now, I'm up to 120 10mg pills that are suppose to last 2 weeks. I also have 120 50mg tramadol that are suppose to last 2 weeks (2 weeks of hydro, 2 weeks of tramadol. that is what my dr prescribed me). Thats 8 fucking pills a day and I STILL can't manage them! I always run out 5 or so days early on both meds.
Is there a better way to manage this? Self control is out, I just don't have it in me not to take them. I worked my ass off to get promoted at my job, now that I am I have to work even harder and the pills help with being able to work. I try to leave them at home and only take so many with me at work, but I find myself driving home on my break to get them.
And the withdrawals. FUCK. When I'm getting low I try to only take them on my days that I'm working. That doesn't work because the withdrawals hit maybe 20 hours after I've had my last bit of pills.
If anyone else has to go through this, is there a way you manage it or a way to manage withdrawal symptoms (particularly the stomach ache)?
TL;DR: | Kidneys failing, lots of pain meds that I cant manage on my own and I need help to ease withdrawal symptoms. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Last week I was complaining about rather unsupportive people at work, but there are still tons of supportive people. Loseit, what are your GOOD experiences with other people's reactions regarding your weight loss?
POST: A few weeks ago I was upset because a woman at work was telling me I was losing weight too fast and was concerned I was starving myself. (I'm not, I just had the most delicious ground turkey dinner with a side of veggies and shrimp. Allll the protein and yumminess.) But there are some pretty awesome people at work who have been extremely supportive!
There's this woman who I often cover for on her breaks, about once a week. And every time I see her she comments on my weight loss. She always says, "Every time I see you you look skinnier and skinnier. You look so good!" (Picture this from a short, adorable woman with a greek accent. Nicest person ever.) And today she said, "You look so good! And your face! Every time I see you, your face looks different. You look so beautiful!"
I am bad at accepting compliments, so I never quite know how to react to her. But she's honestly the sweetest person ever. It may be a little awkward to have my weight brought up so frequently, but I am so glad to have someone noticing my hard work. And after a rather bad week diet and exercise-wise, it's good to have a reminder of what a good diet and exercise can achieve. I have to properly thank her for being so kind and motivational...I'm unsure of how but I will think of something.
Has anyone ever else had an experience like this, where someone--even a person who is somewhat a stranger--has been extra motivational and supportive? I feel like I have complained way too much about the negative comments and forget the positive ones. So tell me your positive experiences with others regarding weight loss!
TL;DR: | Nicest woman ever always compliments on my weight loss. Any other people have a person like this in their life? And if you do please share! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] 4 months,online long distance relationship
POST: I met this person online by the end of last year, and we instantly clicked.
I asked her out,but she instantly said sharing pictures/voice chat was a big no, unless she changed her mind. She hinted at having issues with previous online relationships, so I didn't dig into details at the time as it seemed to be a delicate issue
I decided to go along with it anyways and give her time,until she feels comfortable with me, and hoping someday she will change her mind.
Fast forward to today, we have been texting each other daily, i don't think we went a single day without it. I'd say we get along pretty well, although i feel I'm a lot more invested in this relationship than she is.
We never touched that subject again, and sometimes i cant help but worry about it.Honestly,i'm unsure if i should give her more time or just tell her how i feel about it.
I want to bring it up.I want to know why she doesn't want to share pictures and how she feels about this whole thing, rather than just knowing what she looks like. Physical appearance is a non issue to me.
I'm scared of bringing it up and stirring some bad memories or fighting over this. But at the same time i'm scared of being manipulated and lied to.
Am i being unreasonable on wanting to clear this up/move forward, even though i agreed on not crossing that line even before we started dating?
TL;DR: | Met girl online, agreed to date her without ever sharing pictures, i want to move things forward but unsure how to handle it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I feel like I can't trust my girlfriend.
POST: My girlfriend (23) and I (22) have been together for 3 months now. I told her at the very beginning of the relationship that I really didn't like her ex boyfriend. He tried to get between our relationship right from the start, and I asked her to please stay away from him. She kept messaging him and I eventually told her it's either him or me, and if it's me needs to cut all contact with him. So she did, or so I thought.
After a series of events, turns out he had talked to him a few weeks ago, and she lied to me multiple times about it. She then blocked his number and from all social media, and cried her heart out saying she didnt want to tell me because she knew I'd leave her. I really like this girl and want it to really work out. But I feel like I can't trust her. I always have that thought in the back of my mind she's with someone else now. What should I do?
TL;DR: | girlfriend talked to her ex after I asked her not to, she did and lied to me about it, now I feel like I can't trust her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: 28M and my ex wants me back after I start seeing someone else
POST: I apologize for the length of this and will try to keep it concise.
I am not sure what I should do. I dated this girl, Shelly, for a year. Shelly was divorcing her husband and has two kids. We were madly in love. The story book feeling, everything you can imagine, etc. She makes me feel like anything is possible.
This all changed when she felt like I had cheated by talking to a friend of mine, who was a female. Shelly is a very jealous girl. We stayed together even though Shelly felt hurt and betrayed. A few months went by and Shelly left me for her ex husband and father of her children. Over the course of this year, Shelly and I have went back and forth about getting back together, but she never could commit to leaving her ex husband now boyfriend(Not sure what you call that). Finally I gave up and began seeing other people and acting single as I was.
I met a girl, Amber, who is very nice and we get along great. It's the start of a new relationship and is going well. This is where it gets complicated. Now Shelly is completely enamored with me again and wants to be with me. I absolutely LOVE the idea of being with Shelly again, but I don't know if I can get past all of the hurt she's caused me this year. Additionally, Amber seems like a great girl on her own. I feel like I'm stuck in the middle and I don't know what to do.
I love Shelly and always will. We are absolutely crazy about each other in every way possible. Emotionally and physically. The problem is she's hurt me like no one else ever has before. Amber is a great girl, but it's too soon to tell how things would really go with her. I know Amber is falling hard for me, and I started falling for her but now I feel emotionally unavailable.
If you have any questions I can clarify let me know, I may be missing some important info.
TL;DR: | Ex gf left me for her ex and now wants me back after I start seeing someone else. I'm torn on what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24M] am in love with this girl [24F] she says she loves me, but she doesn't want to be in a relationship due to commitment issues.
POST: So I [24M] am in love with this girl [24F] and she says she loves me back. We have been friends for about 3-4 years, and these feelings have been there, but not as strong as of the last year. (same with her) We hang out, we make each other laugh and we both respect each other. We kiss, hug and go out on dates. But she enjoys being single, and she really loves it. She has commitment issues due to her mother leaving her at a very young age, and everybody has left her life and abandoned her except her sister and her father, (as well as me). So she thinks if we get together, it will just end poorly. I love this girl, I love everything about her. I could see myself spending the rest of my life with this girl. I'm not sure what to do, she doesn't want attachment so it is easier to let go, but I don't want to let go. She talks to other guys, and hangs out with them, but I don't think its anything like our relationship. I personally don't know what to do.
(I had to make a throwaway account, because she reddits as well)
TL;DR: | I [24M] am in love with this girl [24F] she says she loves me, but she doesn't want to be in a relationship due to commitment issues. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [32F] am in love with a younger man [23M] and am torn about confessing to him that I used to be a sex worker
POST: I used to be a webcam model when I was aged 20-22. I used the money to pay for college to get an Associate's degree in art. From ages 23 to 26 I was a sex worker. I worked for a well-known company that releases porn movies. I never made movies of the kind that were released on DVD or streamed on the internet, but would often be sent to private parties to either strip or have actual sex with wealthy clients.
I did a lot of hard drugs.
After that I got my act together and these days I manage a vintage art and clothing shop with a friend. I'm not rich, but I've got my own apartment and car and am taking care of myself. I am absolutely sober. My days of coke, X, K, and other stuff are over.
A few months ago I met this really cute, younger guy who would sometimes come into our shop to buy shirts and things. One day we got to talking, one thing led to another, and it was actually me asking him out.
He's really a clean cut, decent guy who has always been a total gentleman with me. He's got his college degree in business and works for a law firm in the PR department. We have so many of the same tastes in music, art, film, television... everything.
The sex is amazing, which surprised me considering he's so young and shy.
He's already making nice noise about introducing me to his mother and father.
My own parents are split up and I don't have a relationship with either of them.
Here's my issue though. I really think I'm falling in love with him, and I know he ought to know about my past, but I'm scared to tell him because he might flip out and dump me. It's happened before.
Should I tell him? Does he have a right to know? It all happened a long time ago, I've been tested, and don't have any STDs.
Thanks for your help Reddit.
TL;DR: | I used to be a sex worker when I was younger and am torn about telling my boyfriend about it because I'm scared he'll hate me |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: /r/r_a: She's perfect. How do I express my feelings to this person?
POST: Me, 25yr male, she's 21.
We met when she was 17, didn't see each other again until she was 19. We dated for 2 years. It got really serious and I started a career, she got scared and split up in the hopes of discovering her "path" alone. I respected that, I know how it is when you're young and considering the rest of your life with someone. We recently started dating again and things are amazing, we both benefited greatly from the time apart.
We both know we're not perfect, but our relationship and connection is.
I've been trying to express my utter and complete devotion and borderline infatuation with her. She is the most beautiful person I've ever met, through and through. I tell her that, but it doesn't feel like enough (to me).
There is no indication that she doesn't know that I love her. I tell her just like I always did, I'm so lucky to share this with her, and she says the same.
But, I literally feel anxious and frustrated trying to think of a way to express the way I truly feel.
Is this normal, even after years?
TL;DR: | I'm just freaking out cause I'm so in love I don't know what to do with myself, thanks r_a. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my GF [23 F] of 3 years, her lack of personal hygiene is turn off.
POST: GF knows my username so throwaway.
My gf and I have been living together for a little over a year now and with that came the usual changes any couple who lives together experiences. One change in particular has slowly become a point of concern for me. My gf showers about once every 4 days on average. Now while I shower once everyday, I'm not some clean freak and have no problems with this normally. However recently I've noticed myself being deterred by her when it comes time for us to get frisky. Her skin feels greasy, I can taste saltiness when kissing her neck, and let's just say that doggy-style has me more thinking about the smell than what I'm currently doing. I'll say though that I fully understand there's always going to be a varying degree of that going on with everybody, but at this level it's very, very hard to remain in the mood.
So my first question is: is this normal for women to shower this infrequently? I understand a woman's showering process is usually more tedious than a man's so I don't expect them to do it as much. Now if this isn't normal, how in the world can I say this to my gf? She's very self-conscious about that sort of stuff and I know if I don't choose my words wisely she might end up in tears.
TL;DR: | Gf showers about once every 4 days leaving me not wanting sex. Is that frequency normal for a woman? How can I bring it up to her in a nice manner? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19F] with my good friend [20 M] duration 6 months, how do I gently let him down?
POST: 'Danny' is a good friend and I love spending time with him. A few months ago, he admitted that he had feelings for me. I was somewhat interested, but since I was not looking for anything serious at the time, I just told him that I didn't want to be in a relationship but I also didn't want to mess him about by hooking up with him when I knew he liked me. I offered to cut contact but he refused, so instead I told him to tell me if he feels like I'm leading him on, and reduced contact with him.
After a while of just chatting over the Internet, we began to hang out again, and I thought everything was alright until last night. We coincidentally went out to the same club, and since all of our friends are friends we were together for most of the night. It quickly became obvious that Danny still is interested in me, as he followed me around all night, kept putting his arm around me, repeatedly tried to kiss me, and glared at any boy who tried to talk to me. One of our mutual friends kept trying to trick me into kissing Danny, which unfortunately succeeded.
Obviously I have to do something about this but I don't know how to approach the situation. I am no longer interested in Danny whatsoever as while he is a good friend, he has a manipulative side that I do not like. To make matters more complicated, I am now properly interested in another boy, who seems to be interested in me as well, and would like to date him; I feel as though if Danny finds out, he'll think I lied when I said that I didn't want a relationship and be offended.
I know this post isn't very flattering towards Danny but he is one of my closest friends in university and he's a good person... I really do not want to lose his friendship but I also don't want him to continue pointlessly liking me :(
Thank you in advance!
TL;DR: | Even after turning him down, my friend is still interested, and I don't know what to do to make him stop. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Need help getting more motivated.
POST: Hey Reddit. College freshman here going into my second semester and not doing so great.
Starting the first semester felt amazing. Leaving high-school and beginning a fresh new start. I felt so active and for the first time in a while happy.
When the finals came around I fell into depression and completely bombed my finals. I was hopeing my GPA would fall somewhere around 3.5 but I ended up with a 2.7.
Ever since then. I have been so terribly lazy, extreemly Moody (usually angry), and when it came to think practically (about school work/ health) I have become almost emotionally numb. Like I just don't care. I hate this feeling.
My mother is in Afghanistan and I live with my brother. They worry so much about mY education which makes me feel even worse since I feel like I just don't care. I want to be successful I'm the future but I wont be going anywhere if I stay like this. I'm also kind of afraid that I am going to loose all my friends because of these emotions I'm going through.
So Reddit, I don't know if this is really the problem or not put some sense into me.
TL;DR: | I suck at school and feel like I don't care about school anymore. Have become very Moody and afraid to loose my friends. Help me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: my [17F] ex [19M] still harrasses me and it's affecting every relationship
POST: hi.
i'm sorry for possible mistakes, i've been crying the last hours and i can't see a thing.
i had a relationship that lasted almost 2 years back in 2012. i was young, naive and stupid. my ex, "liam", was very abusive, controlling and manipulating - and when we broke up he promised, he swore to ruin my life in every aspect and so he's doing.
for the starters, he started sending my friends death-threats and swore he would kill me. he also follows me everywhere on the internet and applies to be a moderator etc. on the forums i'm on. most have accepted him there and i've disappeared from there so he wouldn't stalk me. but no, he just continues.
today, 4 of my closest friends came and wrote to me shit on my facebook. i don't have many friends, i'm really lonely (i have aspergers, bpd and bipolar) so it really hurt and i rarely go outside since i don't want to be alone (all my friends are in the internet). apparently my ex had been posting some old logs (over a year old) to them where i had said something what a friend had told me in confidential under his threats and now they're mad at me for being a "untrustworthy bitch" and told me "liam was right" and "that's why you don't have many friends, you don't deserve them" etc.
i feel really bad. i can't go to the police, they'll never believe me since he has the logs from skype and i have none since he told me to delete them and i did.
i just feel bad.
i don't know if this would fit better in /r/depression or something but what should i do?
TL;DR: | ex harrasses me, turns my friends against me. if i try to start elsewhere, he follows and the circle continues. what can i do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (15F) with short term boyfriend(17M). Worried about college and wondering if it's worth it?
POST: hey! So I'm a upcoming sophomore girl dating an upcoming senior guy. He really is awesome, nicest person I've ever met! Very considerate and shy. When talking about sexual things, he's extremely polite and respectful. We've only been dating for about 2 months now, and this is my second relationship and his first.
I'm worried that at the end of this year when he goes off to college it will end badly and hurt a lot. I know for certain that he is going to the college that's VERY close by, literally in our town, but you know how it is, we will be in different stages emotionally. It wouldn't be a long distance relationship but it would be harder, I think.
I'm just afraid of going into this and getting real feelings for someone just to have it end in heartbreak at the end of the year. Am I overthinking this? What should I do? Any advice is appreciated.
TL;DR: | I'm 15 and my boyfriend is graduating high school next year. Worried that him leaving will end in heartbreak and pain. |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: Internal transfer stalled after 7 months. Should I tell my company I'm applying for external jobs?
POST: I am an engineer for a large corporation that has operations throughout the Southeast. In January '16 I told my management I plan to pursue a transfer within the company to Atlanta because my wife's parents are there and we are expecting our first child. We have no family near our current location.
Since January I have applied to several internal postings and interviewed for one. I've done 8-10 informational interviews and talked to HR about what else I can do. HR says I'm doing all the right things, but here I sit 7 months later.
I decided to start applying externally, but I still have some desire to stay with my current employer if possible (good 401k, vested in pension with 8 years of service, room for professional and salary growth). I'm a good employee and I have been told they don't want to lose me. Would it make sense to tell HR and / or management that I'm looking elsewhere to force them to be more proactive about helping me move to Atlanta? Should I wait until I have a job offer to tell them?
I feel like if wait, perhaps up to a year or more, the internal transfer will eventually come. However, we are in the midst of company-wide layoffs and it is hard to say when I will be able to find something with the company in Atlanta.
TL;DR: | 7 months of trying for internal transfer has yielded no results. Now I am searching externally and am trying to decide whether to tell my company. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Reddit Fathers, can a dad actually hate their kid? I (F/20) feel like my dad (M/44) hates me
POST: I feel like my dad hates me. He tells me the worst shit ever (ugly, fat, etc)
Once after his friend's daughter got married he suddenly looked at me and said: "my friend cried so hard at his daughter's wedding. I'm pretty sure I won't cry at yours"... I was only 16 when he told me that
The list of the horrible emotional things he's done to me goes on
I feel like we're enemies. He doesn't respect me.
Does he hate me? Does he have actual hate feelings towards me? You surely can't tell me but tell me your thoughts based on his actions. Also can a father hate their kids? I was told that parents can never hate their own kids... I'm not sure I believe it
TL;DR: | my dad says the worst things to me. He treats me horribly. Like I'm his enemy. Once when I was about 16 he suddenly told me "I won't cry at your wedding". Can fathers hate their own children? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24 F] am considering relocating across the country with my boyfriend [25 M] of only a few months. Crazy? Hear me out..
POST: Hey y'all.
I know this sounds really crazy, but let me preface~
I've been seeing this guy D for 4ish months now.
We actually met on Tinder (lol) and hit it off right away.
Neither of us were really looking for anything serious, I had just left a cheating ex a few months before and his divorce from a cheating ex had just become finalized a few months prior.
**Note: He had been separated over a year before said divorce was finalized.**
Things have been going well and I really like him/see it potentially becoming more serious in the future. For now we're exclusive and I simply enjoy his presence.
A month or two ago he mentioned wanting to pick up and move to the West Coast (we're currently in the Midwest) and jokingly asked if I wanted to come.
I laughed it off in the moment but lately I've seriously been considering it.
Since graduating school I haven't been able to find a job in my field and have been slumming it in retail, I'm not super close with my family, and all of my closest friends have actually relocated to different states as well, so I don't have much keeping me here.
Tbh I've been wanting to get outta Dodge for a while now...so it's kinda like why not?
Prespective moving date would be late October, early November soo in 7ish months.
I'm aware a lot can happen in that time frame but I figure I should start saving now and go from there...
Hypothetically if said move did happen, and he and I didn't work out, I would either stay if I loved it or come back here.
Trying to be as realistic as possible.
Any thoughts guys?
I haven't mentioned it to friends or family yet because I'm wondering if it really does sound ill conceived...
TL;DR: | Considering relocating with a guy I haven't been dating all that long in 6-7 months time. Have been wanting to move regardless, would have plan if we didn't work out. Crazy? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I just found out my GF of 6 years has been lying to me. Please help!
POST: I have been in a relationship with the same girl for the past six years, I am 23 she is 22, and I recently discovered she lied to me about something rather significant in my eyes.
Background:
For the most part our relationship has been great although in the beginning I admittedly had some jealousy issues and made accusations without any evidence. I have since worked on those issues and, while i do still get jealous from time to time not nearly to the degree of throwing around accusations anymore, I am far less jealous and more secure in my relationship.
I love this girl to death i would give anything and do anything for her. She claims to feel the same and up until recently i have believed her whole heartily. She is everything i could ever dream for, she is beautiful, smart, funny, fun, determined, just the total package.
Problem:
The past few weekends she has been going to the shore with her best friend, or so she has said. However her body language and desire to not really talk about her nights down there were beginning to make me uneasy. I chalked this up as my jealousy trying to rear its ugly head again. However this morning on my way to the gym I drove past her friend, who she was supposed to be down the shore with, turning into the local restaurant she works at. That was around 10 this morning ,EST. We live about an hour and half from the shore and she was supposed to be sharing a hotel room with my girlfriend, which means she would have had to leave at 8:30 to come and go straight to work.
Question:
I feel as though my concerns have been confirmed and she hasn't been going to the shore with her but instead someone else. I am extremely hurt i feel as though my heart has been ripped in half and i want to express this to her and get answers but i don't want to seem like it's jealousy. Reddit what should I do please help.
TL;DR: | Caught the love of my life lying to me about who she went down the shore with last night and i don't know what to do please help! |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Credit card company employees of Reddit, do companies put more fraud alerts on people who earn cash back, and what type of card is best to avoid this problem?
POST: Since this summer my personal credit card has been repeatedly frozen during legitimate purchases due to Fraud Alert. Reasons included traveling to a city 6 hours from home without notifying the company, amount of purchase (a computer) and the salesperson entering the wrong security code. I have always been able to resolve the issue with a phone call to the credit card company, but the incidents are embarrassing and time consuming.
My card is a No Fee Cash Back card, and, since I always pay in full, I make about $300 per year off the credit card company. I suspect that because of this, the company is making it inconvenient for me to use the card in order to encourage me to leave the company or use other means for large purchases. But I'd like to know if that's actually likely, and, if so, what kind of card would be most likely to get me off the harassment list?
TL;DR: | Do frequent "fraud alerts" on my no fee cash back credit card mean the credit card company is trying to get rid of me? And would another card (maybe with an annual fee) stop these embarrassing incidents? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: ME M[20] NEED SOME ADVICE WITH MY CURRENT SITUATION
POST: so i have known this girl since we were kids and we lost contact through high school and then bumped into each other and caught up one evening.over a few months we started to see each other more regularly then out of the blue she starts to tell me of a crush she had on me when we were in school and how she may be having similar feelings for me again however there was someone else.(as a side note i have been diagnosed with depression lately and not to sure where to direct my feelings most of the time)3 months ago she wanted to give me a chance but i was a complete jackass and pushed her away when she offered to try and help me.she ended up dating this other guy for 2 months but ended it because in her words they arent compatible.when i heard the news of them dating i may have kinda spilled the beans ,i told here how i truly feel about her and that i never had an intention of hurting her.
for the duration that she was dating this other guy she sent the odd message here and there to check on me.now recently she invited me to celebrate her birthday with me and seemed to show alot of interest in me but towards the end of the night i had to leave for a work related situation and when i got back i saw her with another guy,i researched a little more into this guy and its only been a week since she broke up with her ex and she is now warming up to him what i want to know is should i pursue the feelings i have for her and if so how
TL;DR: | IM BIT OF A LOVE SICK PUPPY SHOULD I PURSE MT FEELINGS I HAVE FOR THIS WOMAN? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Screw you, MySavingsDirect
POST: So, like many others here, I fell for MySavingsDirect's 1.25% annual interest rate a few months ago thinking, "oh, of course I want to open a high-yield savings account with the highest interest rate... they promise the highest yield, so I'll give them my business. Cool."
Almost immediately after my first deposit, the rate fell to 1.10%, to which I said, "Dammit - that's lame, but whatever... at least they still have the highest yield. OK, not a huge deal."
Now, their rate has fallen to 1.00% just before the fed has promised to introduce rate hikes, and they no longer offer the highest yield. I feel like I've been duped, and while the difference is pretty much pocket change given my meager savings in that account, I'm really feeling salty about the change.
So, we'll see if and when they raise their rates again, but I'm definitely now in the market for a new high-yield savings account. I'm don't think I'm going to close my account with MySavingsDirect since there's no minimum or fees (and that could reflect poorly on my credit report, I think?), but I'm really thinking about it.
TL;DR: | MySavingsDirect has decreased its interest rate for high-yield savings for the second time in four months, and they no longer have the highest rate (which is why most people signed up in the first place). |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's the biggest favor you've ever done for someone else and never gotten anything in return for it?
POST: I'm only 18 years old, so I haven't lived a particularly long life, but I'll start.
A few months ago, I was with my brother and two of our friends going for a night on the town. Go out to dinner, have a gaming marathon, etc. Anyway, I get a random call out of the blue from one of my mom's friends. She's begging me to pick up this kid I've never met and take her to a girl scout dropoff house (they're all going out camping). So, on the other side of town, I go and get this girl, who is **supposedly** eleven years old. In lumbers this big black girl heading to the girl scout drop house. So I'm heading to this lady's drop house (she's not the one who called me, but another troop leader) when all of a sudden I get a call. They LEFT WITHOUT HER.
When girls scouts go camping, they go FAR. I had to double back and drive along the interstate for nigh on two hours to get this girl to where she needed to be, with three other guys my age in tow and this eleven year old monster.
Then the woman who called me never talked about it again. She told me she'd pay me, she'd get me gas, whatever. Nothing.
TL;DR: | I go on a four-hour roundtrip drive to drop off some girl I've never met at some place I've never been too, and all I got for it was some lousy karma. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Update]I 26F was unfaithful to my bf27M of 2 months but want to come clean and break up
POST: [Previous post](
Thank you for y'all's feedback. I told him within 24 hours of making my post via google hangout, and he took it surprisingly well... He said statistically speaking it's almost expected that a situation like this would happen, and that he was just happy to see me. I felt bad that I was crying on one side of the screen while he just looked at me with a grin on his face.
I wanted to break up, and a big reason was that I don't think he deserves a girl who cheats on him (I did say this to him). I was ready to discuss things that I don't think we are compatible in case he wanted to ask, but he didn't ask and I didn't feel like it was necessary to flood him with two pieces of bad news (that I cheated on him plus that I wanted to break up..).
I've finally returned to my country and haven't really contacted my bf since that googlehangout call. He doesn't have texting (so we dont' communicate that way), but I did get a couple emails from him. One was the regular update email that he writes for friends and acquaintances (he doesn't use FB either), and the other one is a few pics of what he was up to over the weekend for fun (street fairs, etc). I haven't responded to either.
This week that I've returned, I've been crazy busy with work and family matters. He called today and suggested meeting up. Whereas he wanted us to meet at his place and asked me to stay at his place, I declined.. He asked why, and all I could manage to say over the phone was that being at his place can lead to other expectations and I wasn't ready for it. Oh and that my period came early. He did say he was excited to see me.
I still have a book I need to return to him, but that's about it. I think I'm a bit at loss of how to initiate the breakup.. All I know is I don't currently want the burden of being in an official relationship.
TL;DR: | Told my bf about me being unfaithful and he reacted really nonchallantly. I am having trouble breaking up.. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Trying to save 8 month LDR relationship... did something stupid and need advice.
POST: My gf and I are both 20 years old (both in college) and our relationship spans half way across the country. We both love each other very much.
We have been fighting a lot recently and came very close to breaking up once or twice in the past two weeks. Both of us are now working very hard on making the relationship work and are doing our best to save it.
The other week while at work, my friends and I were joking about this pregnant girl and I said "I would bang her."
This happened a week ago and recently I felt very guilty about it and told my gf about it. Clearly it was a joke (I emphasized this to my gf), but she is VERY upset about it and wants to break up over this.
Is she over-reacting? Do my actions really warrant a break up?
Any comments/advice greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | Gf and I have been fighting a lot, now trying to save relationship, I jokingly said I would bang a pregnant girl and now she wants to break up. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Best friend (27m) of 15 years has been abusing pills for 8 years and is in jail for the umpteenth time. Today I'm (26m) going to visit but how do I tell him no one is bailing him out?
POST: All of his friends and sister agree that bailing him out is not the answer. This guy has been through so many struggles since he was a child and just 4 years ago his mom died of ALS or Lou Gehrig's disease and he has yet to change his lifestyle. If he sits out his fine for 10 days he would lose his job that hbas been enabling him all this time and would move in with his uncle who loves him like a son.
All of the signs point to that this is the right thing to do, but how do I tell him without offending him? Because every other time I bring it up he takes it as me talking down to him and that my life is "perfect". I just want him to love himself more than I love him.
TL;DR: | best friend is addicted to pills and in jail. How do I tell him no one is bailing him and he needs to start a new life without driving him further into depression/addiction? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25M] have been wanting to break up with my [24F] girlfriend of one year because I'm not fully being sexually satisfied by her and I feel bad for wanting to break up over something like that.
POST: So I am definitely more sexually experienced than my girlfriend, and when it comes to sex she is much more vanilla than I. It is not that we don't have enough sex, it is just that it is so boring and has zero excitement for me. It is always the same thing when we have sexy times. We go to the bedroom, she will go down on me for like 30 seconds, she then lays on her back and I go on top until I finish, then I go down on her until she finishes, not a lot of variance to that.
I've expressed that I would like her to go down on my a little more evenly, and maybe try to get me off that way, she has always agreed to try but after a little over a minute she stops, saying that her jaw hurts and that it is taking to long for me. I've been too hesitant to express an interest in trying any other things in bed because so many times we will be watching TV and they will mention or talk about some sexual act that isn't vanilla and she contorts her face in disgust and says how gross and inappropriate that is. So I've never really asked to try anything more than having her go down on my longer because I'm worried that she will have the same response towards me and think I'm some freak.
Other than that she is a good girlfriend, I know if we had more excitement in our sex life that I would be happier with her but it scares me thinking that this could be the state of my sex life for the rest of my life if I stay with her, and that makes me a sad panda. However I feel bad for wanting to break up with her just based on boring sex, I feel like maybe something is wrong with me and maybe I need to try to have less sexual desires.
TL;DR: | The only reason I want to leave my girlfriend is because she is boring in bed, and I feel guilty for thinking that. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [23M] having serious insecurities with my girlfriend [29F] of 8 months, due to her history and age
POST: Throwaway because I have many friends who reddit
It's fairly simple. I'm a 23 y/o male with 1 serious relationship in my past. She's 29 (turning 30 next month), and she's had a multitude of both casual and serious relationships. She lived with a previous boyfriend of hers when she was my age.
I don't know what to do. I love her more than I knew I could- I just have insecurities and jealousy issues that I suppose come with being a recently-turned 23 y/o. I also worry about the age difference. I'm afraid that I'll grow to resent her if we get married, and that I'll feel that she robbed me of my 20's. That being said, I've had a lot on my plate- 15 hrs of class this semester, working 40 hrs/wk in a very demanding job, and dealing with bullshit of parents getting divorced (not necessarily emotionally based, but having to help parents/siblings move, dealing with new house purchases, etc), it's been a lot. Sometimes I feel like I'm taking the stress of everything out on my relationship, other times I feel like the worry about her past and the age difference is legitimate.
We've talked about everything (including this)- I understand the biological clock is ticking, and that a decision regarding our relationship needs to be made within the relatively near future, but she's made it clear that she loves me more than any of her other boyfriends. I have no reason not to believe her. I love her so much, and life without her seems impossible, but these thoughts of her living with another guy/being with other serious boyfriends drive me crazy. Additionally, I get really scared by the idea of me growing to resent her due to the age difference, and her somehow stealing my youth from me. I feel especially bad because when we first started dating, she laid everything out on the table, and was wary of dating me/someone my age & with my "experience" for these exact reasons, and I assured her it wouldn't be a problem. I suppose I'm just being jealous/shitty, but any advice from someone in a similar situation is appreciated.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend is older/has history. I'm under a lot of stress. Am I just being jealous & shitty, or do I have reason to worry? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I [F20] overreacting about my bf [20] sleeping at a co-workers house?
POST: So I have been seeing my boyfriend for three years and he is a really great guy. I have no trust issues with him, but I think last night he still crossed the line. He was out drinking with some co-workers and since he drove and ended up drinking a lot, he slept over at a girl co-workers house. I think this is totally inappropriate, even though I'm sure nothing happened. He doesn't seem to find that much of an issue with it, and said he just didn't want to pay for a cab home. I am seriously pissed, and I think this totally crossed the line. Am I overreacting here, or do I have a right to be really mad?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend [20] slept at a female co-workers house overnight because he didnt want to pay for a cab home. Do I have a right to be pissed off or am I overreacting? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Should I open a High-Yield savings account with my ~6k Savings?
POST: Hello.
I just got my first real "big boy" job, and have saved up about 6k, which I plan to have as an emergency fund/general savings.
I currently have it in the Chase Savings account that I have had for many many years ever since my parents first help me set up a bank account. But I can't help but notice how abysmal the interest rate is - In April I made a record $0.04 interest. About 0.007% interest rate. Wowzers!
I recently saw some ads for high-yield savings accounts. I know next-to-nothing about them... so I must wonder what the catch is? Why would anyone use Chase for savings when other banks offer literally 100x the interest rate.
I saw an ad on Mint which led me to find this list here:
Would it be wise for me to transfer most (say, 5k) of my savings over to one of those accounts? Has anyone opened a high-yield savings account recently with one of the guys mentioned in that list?
Is there any catch? Is there anything that can trip up a novice and cost them money? I am aware there are things like minimum balances or perhaps a debit card you need to use a few times each month, but those seem like incredibly small inconveniences for actually having my savings grow with time.
P.S. More info about my financial position is here, if you are interested, but basically I just got my first job. 25k debt, 62k salary - live in SF bay. I feel I'm doing fine but I want to maximize my potential.
TL;DR: | Should I open a High Yield Savings Account? Why would anyone continue to use a savings account that offers 2 orders of magnitude less interest when such a thing as H.Y.S. accounts exist. |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: My email is just filled with rejection emails. What keeps you going?
POST: I've been looking for part-time work since last November. I am a high school grad, never been in trouble with the law or anything like that and have found work previously (Call Centre & Fast Food).
I have looked for jobs daily, in-store and online. I don't apply to 50 jobs at once, I tailor my resume and cover letter for each application. I have had interviews for about 5-10 of those applied jobs. Most I thought I went fairly well.
Its just getting demotivating now, the amount of times you dress up, try your hardest and bend over backwards to try and get the job just to get a slap in the face is just depressing.
What keeps you going? Im starting to lose motivation in myself to even find a basic job
TL;DR: | been rejected so many times that I am almost depressed with the job hunt, what kept you going until you found your job? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is there such thing as angel investors for college tuition?
POST: My roommate is really at the end of his luck.. and it just got worst. He was enrolled in the ROTC program on campus in order to come to school because he strived higher education. That is, if you enroll in the program, you get your tuition and other expenses paid for you. Problem is that he committed himself to four years of Army training when he has no real intention of joining the Army, despite being required to serve beyond graduation. Last month, he was essentially cornered by upper chains of command into leaving ROTC, thereby rendering him unable to pay for the rest of college (he's only a sophomore).
With no financial support from his parents (whom have poor credit) and no credit of his own, he is unable to get additional student or government loans beyond the ones he currently has nearly exhausted. Today, he got denied a loan his grandmother (who has excellent credit and is well off) cosigned. With no money to pay for the current quarter as well as the upcoming one, he's pretty much stuck between a rock and a hard place.
I suggested he look into angel investors for college tuition, if there even is such a program out there. Anyone know of anything like this or have any other suggestions?
TL;DR: | Roommate is strapped for tuition money with no real means to turn to after being denied loans and "kicked" out of ROTC. Looking for ideas to fund his college education. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: It upsets me that my [19F] boyfriend [19M] nearly never compliments me
POST: This may seem like a trivial issue, but it still manages to upset me quite a bit.
My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly four months, and before that we were friends of a bit more than a year. Everything is great, except for the fact that he never compliments me. I am already quite insecure about the way I look, and I know I can't expect compliments to fix this, but I feel like it would be nice to receive some from him.
I often compliment him, but I don't do it so that he'll do it back.Its just that when something pops up in my mind, like how I like his smile or his new jeans or whatever, I say it. It feels natural to me, but maybe he just isn't the expressive type.
I have brought this up with him before, but he said he just doesn't always say what he is thinking or feeling... Also I don't want to ask him to compliment me as I don't want him to day things he doesn't mean, and I don't want to come off as really needy.
TL;DR: | So basically, he never tells me he finds me pretty or anything like that, and it's weighing on me. I don't know what to do about it, should I just accept that he isn't the complimentary type? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20 M] Would it be a bad idea to contact people from the past with questions?
POST: My girlfriend broke up with me a year ago.
It was a very bizarre relationship. She took me out a lot and showed me to her friends and what not. Then one day she tells me she has fibromylagia and breaks up with me. Tells me to leave her alone.
I honestly want closure. I would like to know if she was telling the truth. I would like to know if the things she told me were true.
I met two of her friends. They moved. I feel like contacting them through facebook and just ask them if she was lying. I sort of became friends with them, because she introduced me to them. I don't talk to them, so it would be random.
I have nothing to lose. Her friends could just block me and that would be it. Am I being selfish in wanting to know what happened? My ex girlfriend said I did nothing wrong and just wanted to be left alone. I'm really curious and desire to know the truth...anything wrong with that?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend broke up with me a year ago claiming she had fibromylagia, and I would like to know if she was lying so I can think right about her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18M] unsure next move with girl [18F]
POST: I really like this girl at school and I believe she likes me too. We are both 18 and freshman in a similar major. We have stayed up texting until 5 AM multiple times, gone on a couple dates with just each other, get each other gifts, and send a fair amount of texts usually.
The thing is, the last date we had was on Saturday night and I saw her Tuesday and Wednesday in school. We have a 3 day weekend and I won't see her again until Tuesday assuming I do nothing.
The thing is she said something that kinda caught me off guard in saying she doesn't want titles. It's still too early enough to say bf/gf anyways, but I will wait continue what I'm doing I guess and maybe eventually something will work out? I'm comfortable talking to her, but the thing is I don't know how I should plan the next date. Last time I called it a "meet up", but it was totally a date since I picked her up, we went to the park, got coffee and just talked until I dropped her back off at her house at midnight.
I want to see her over the 3 day weekend, but at the same time I don't know what I should call it and how to set it up. We talk about so many deep things and I think about her often. I'm just unsure of what I should do next. Thanks for any advice.
TL;DR: | Really interested in girl at school, went on a couple dates, said she doesn't want titles, still want to see her and want advice |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by browsing reddit.
POST: :O First TIFU post that happened the same day^Kappa
So anyways, in French class, we were all doing an online assignment mainly for the state tests that are coming up. Our French teacher doesn't care enough to check up on us most of the time, and reddit, along with google, are basically the only websites not blocked. So as I'm strolling along browsing r/TIFU, the librarian comes up and notices the NSFW tag on this post
I was looking through this post because it's one of my alltime favorites, but anyways. The librarian comes up and sees the NSFW tag, and immediately begins to ask questions. After a series of questions, she makes me click on the link. She sees the images and now google is the only allowed website AND computer privileges taken away, great.
TL;DR: | Going to one of my favorite TIFUs, librarian sees the NSFW tag, now google is the only allowed website. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: How to naturally repel and discourage neighbors dogs from pooping on my lawn?
POST: I live in a neighborhood where a couple houses just let their dogs roam free. Lately two of these dogs have taken up the habit of pooping on the outside perimeter of my lawn (I have a fence) and I've stepped in it on more than one occasion.
I have a small Shih Tzu as well that likes to run around the inside the perimeter of the fence so would like some suggestions on how to safely and successfully repel and discourage their dogs from pooping on my lawn without harming any of our dogs. Talking to said neighbor is useless as he's been letting his two dogs run free since he moved in a year ago. nobody is home half the day to chase them away either.
TL;DR: | I keep stepping on neighbor's dog shit on my own lawn. How do I safely discourage dogs from going on my lawn? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [23F] & I [23M] are struggling & I don't know how to tell her what I feel
POST: We've been together for three years, we are both young professionals, live separately (she lives with her family) and lately our relationship just feels flat. She has mentioned that she doesn't feel as happy together - I feel the same but not to her extent.
She works full time, is studying a professional qualification. I work full time as well, play at a high level a very competitive sport and volunteer every week or so at various places.
We struggle with the same stuff as most busy couples, making time together, tensions with each others families but thats all old stuff.
The biggest thing I feel is that she is not really happy with anything in her life, she does not enjoy her job, her work friends, her family, her studies, she has maybe a handful of friends she sees occasionally and no hobbies. It has been this way for a long time for her.
I feel so much pressure to be that thing in her life that makes her happy. More often than not when we are together I can put a gorgeous smile on her face - but it is exhausting. Lately with everything in my life I wish that my time with her could be more enjoyable for me also.
When we go out, I have to pick the venue, start and maintain the conversation and avoid all areas of conversation that she does not enjoy. Things I love, politics, art, music aren't really on the table. We mostly talk about how her bosses at work are stupid or how her family annoys her.
I love this girl and have more of a connection to her than to anyone else ever. Our relationship together is steadily becoming less and less enjoyable. She has noticed it as well and I feel more pressure to fix things.
Has anyone been through this before? How do I even approach this? Am I making something out of nothing?
(this is also my first post on reddit so be gentle)
TL;DR: | My Girlfriend is sad all the time and the pressure of cheering her up is making our relationship unenjoyable for me |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My gf [22F] is mad at me [23M] for wanting/asking to experience a lap dance. dating 6 months.
POST: So I have never received a lap dance before in my life. i asked my gf a few days ago if I'm ever allowed to get one from a stripper. She initially said yes, but once she learned the stripper actually strips (naked), she changed her mind.
I told her don't worry about it then I'll just never get a lap dance but she is angry at me for 'wanting' to experience it in the first place.
I think its unfair that she is blaming me for wanting to experience one. I mean...at least I asked her and I was fine after she told me no (while im sure a lot of other guys would get one behind their gfs back).
I also told her that I wont have strippers at my bachelor party if we do get married but according to her im still a horrible person.
*btw im not asking for the sake of it and im not rushing to go to a stripclub after approval. Im asking because a lot of my friends are getting married and yes there will be strippers/stripclubs for their bachelor parties.
TL;DR: | Gf mad at me for asking if i could get a lapdance even though i respected her decision. Thoughts? |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: I was in a car accident today in CA on a suspended license, but was told by the cops to go home...?
POST: I was driving home from work today in california, it was the first time ive driven in months because of my dui. In the caldacott tunnel i ran into the back of a car who slammed on their breaks. Idk if its because he hit the person in front of hik or not yet tho, but he spun into the other lane and was in pretty bad shape. My car was ok enough to drive home. Which brings me to my next point.
I gave the cop my id, insurance, and registration. He asked me what was up with the id and i told him i was working on getting my restricted license still. He said ok and continued to write down my info. I got the impression that since he was in a hurry to get our statements, since we were in a tunnel, that he thought i said i HAD a restricted license.
After he wrote my info down he asked me if my car was ok to drive out of the tunnel and i said yes. So he told me to go ahead and leave then. I wasnt sure if that meant pull out of the tunnel or go home, so to be safe i stopped outside the tunnel and pulled over to where the cops were and the other car. I got out and approached the same officer and one other and asked if they needed anything else from me or whatever, and they said no, just go home.
So i did.
But now i don't know whats going to happen! Im freakin out maaaan. Anyone know what will happen to me?
TL;DR: | i hit a guy in front of me in a tunnel who was slamming on his breaks, and have a suspended license. The cops just told me to go home after they mistunderstood me and thought i had a restricted license. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (20m) (19f) what do you think of this?
POST: Ive been on and off talking to the same guy for about 3 years. He was the type of guy you could call a "fuckboy", as he lead me on many times and continuously left me for other girls. Did i drop my pants for him? Never. However, he always explained to me that he had feelings for me.. but never showed through his actions that its true.
In the year of 2014, it happened again. We linked up and started talking. I expressed my feelings for him and he said that he felt the same, in detail. However, suddenly he trails off and i find that he has hickeys on his neck. Hes sleeping with the girl in my class... so suddenly... and that was the end of that. I heard he was sweet talking her as well. Apparently he wanted to be in a relationship with her.. but then, he ends up screwing around with this girl and she finds that hes in a relationship with someone new. That lasted for about 8 months and then she cheated on him.
Well in summer of 2015, we ended up talking again. This time he actually ends up hanging out with me and.. what do you know, we decide to become official. Its finally... "my turn?". I dont know why i bothered to give him a chance. I suppose i thought i was over everything he did to me but.. no. I am sadly mistaken as i keep finding myself obsessing over his past and over his ex girlfriend.
It has been a year with him now. He has been entirely faithful. However, im becoming more and more obsessed with his ex girlfriend and his past.. and i dont know why. A lot of it i can tell is jealousy because he decided to date her over me.. and now suddenly i somehow get a chance with him. He has fallen completely head over heels in love with me.. but i sit here with hate on my chest and nervous butterflies on my stomach as i stalk his past with this girl on facebook.
TL;DR: | why am i not over this all yet? Why does his ex bother me so much? I think about this all the time and i just cant let it go... its driving me nuts. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Facing a serious, permanent relationship decision with my SO of 2 years and really need some level-headed advice.
POST: Hi, r/relationships. Stressed-out girl [19] here
Long story short, my boyfriend [20] of nearly 2 years is making a decision to change colleges by the end of this week- to either my own, or one 6 hours away.
We've been able to make long-distance work for the past year and a half, and it's been great! His family is practically my own, and it's hard to imagine being without such a great sidekick. He's got all the qualities I've ever wanted in a guy, without the side effects.
So here's the problem: I just can't do this for 3 more years, but I don't want to lose him. We have such an amazing relationship, but he doesn't realize how hard the whole thing is on me. What do you do when you're facing another few years of being without the person you love? I know if I was with anyone else, I'd just be thinking about him.
TL;DR: | SO of a 2-year LDR has option to be with me at college or move further away; don't want to lose him but can't do another 3 years of this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24M] got into a car accident with my grandfather [71M] out of chance. I don't know what to do.
POST: Completely by chance, I got into a car accident with my grandfather. He ran a stop sign on the way to my house to see my mother, and *severely* damaged the left side of my car, including the tire, headlight, mirror, and passenger side window. The police showed up, and I somehow talked my way into them not giving him a ticket.
Here's my issue. If I call his insurance agency, I don't want his insurance to be raised, and it'll be raised to about quadruple what it is now, or in other words, about triple what he can even afford off his retirement + whatever other income he makes.
This amazing man put me through college, but I'm never going to be able to afford this. I don't know what to do.
I know I *should* call the insurance agency, because he's, you know, responsible for the damage to my car, but he'll have his only way of transportation taken away. He can see and hear fine. He's a safe driver, and this was just an accident.
Help.
TL;DR: | My grandfather ran a stop sign and now my car is fubar. I don't want to slam him financially by reporting it to his insurance agency. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [21F] paying majority of my boyfriend [21M], of 5 months, and my dates because he's broke. But he's working and I'm not?
POST: I've no qualms about paying for myself and even for both my SO and I. Ideally, I'd love for my relationships to be 50/50, with each taking turns to pick up the bills and taking turns with gifts and such.
With my boyfriend now, I find that he's always broke. That's okay, I can pick up the bills when we go out to eat. But he has a part-time job that pays ~300 a week, while I'm schooling full-time. We both still live with our parents (common where I'm from) so our disposable money only goes towards our social life.
It's beginning to irk me that I'm paying for most of the stuff, even though he's the one earning the money? He spends it when he's out with friends, then when he's with me he's broke. It's starting to make me resent him. Am I being unreasonable? What do I do?
TL;DR: | I'm paying for 75% of our dates even though he's the one with the job, and I'm starting to hate it and him for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I want to start a youth center......
POST: I want to start a music oriented youth center in the area, there's not much for the teens to do here. I want to start a place where teens can go to hang out with friends, bring their bands and practice,......I'd like to have a building with a big room and a stage to put on shows with the local teens groups/ bands/ whatever....to perform, have multiple practice rooms for them to use so they have a place to play music, a small recording studio where they can cut demos, and people on hand to provide lessons for instruments, vocals, stage presence, audio engineering (live and studio),.........Does anyone have a clue where to start looking for funding/ backers. I don't have the money, if I did, I buy a building and get started. With a building though I feel like I could get started and start helping local teens.
TL;DR: | I'm wanting to start a music oriented youth center and need help funding, doe anyone know where to look for funding? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] hooked up with a girl [24F] I wouldn't mind dating, how to proceed?
POST: Just looking for some thoughts. I hooked up with this girl a few months back. Just a one time thing, good times had by all. I know her through friends from years ago. We are not in the same social circles anymore.
I didn't think much of it at the time, I wasn't really looking for it to be more than a fun time. Since then she has texted me randomly, short texts and then doesn't really follow up much when I reply. Like, WTH, she texted me! But this has happened a few times, she initiates it. I get the impression she is interested but doesn't want to come on that way.
We hadn't seen each other in years prior to hooking up but she does seem like a cool woman and I would like to take her on a date or two and see how it goes. My question is how to approach this. I feel like a phone call would be way out of place and weird. She has texted me several times so I was thinking about a text but that seems lameish. I never see her socially so in person isn't an option.
What do you all think? Would she keep texting me like that if she had no interest? She kills conversations as soon as she starts them so there are definitely mixed signals.
TL;DR: | Hooked up a few months back, haven't talked much since but i think she is interested. How to ask her out? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I 24(m) cannot get over my ex girlfriend(22).
POST: I started dating this girl when I was 19 and she was 17. We were together for about a year before she turned 18 and when she did we moved in together. She was the first and only girl I have ever loved. We went through a messy break up and I had never really gotten over her until recently, or so I thought.
In the last two years she has had a kid and gotten into some serious drugs. About a month and a half ago I started dating a girl seriously for the first time since my ex. The new relationship did not work out very well and we have already broken up. My ex started texting me soon after the break up and we talked non stop for about a week by text before we hung out yesterday for the first time in two years.
I knew she had a baby but I had no idea about the drugs she was using. She told me that she is not doing them anymore because of the baby but I don't know if I believe her. We ended up going back to my house and cuddling/kissing a little bit but nothing more then that. When I was holding her everything felt perfect and I was happier then I have been since I was with her two years ago. Now all I can think about is her and I don't know if it is a good idea to try and work things out again.
There are so many reasons why I feel I should not be with her but for some reason I cannot get over her. I have not had a lot of serious girlfriends but I have had relationships with a lot of girls since our break up and none of them make me feel anything close to what my ex does. I don't know if I felt like I did because I had not seen her in so long or if I actually still have real feelings for her. I have never felt like this about anyone and I did not expect to feel like this so soon after not seeing her for so long. What do you guys think should I try working it out or attempt to move on for good?
TL;DR: | My ex, my first and only love who has had a kid and drugs issues since our break up came around after two years and all of my old feelings came back. Should I pursue her again or no? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [38 M] with my acquaintance[29M/F] for 2 years, we have a small circle of friends, they give me shit for not visiting her when I am up north. I don't feel obliged since I barely know her.
POST: So I met this girl through her mutual friends, and we have never really talked since we don't have much in common other than the same friends. So she is working on her doctorate in Goleta and comes down every couple of weeks to visit her family and friends. I travel up to Santa Barbara and the general area about once a month just to get away. I go to the beach and park the car and relax.
I have gone up once with a good friend of hers. He had a delivery and on the way down we stopped for lunch and we called her. I know her but I don't really consider her a friend since I only hear from her when I run into her. I have her on Facebook and Instagram but that is the only time we really interact, and even that is limited since she travels all over the world. So she is an acquaintance.
Her group of friends have been giving me shit for not visiting her when i'm up there. It isn't like I don't like her but if feels awkward going to lunch or whatever one on one or since we don't ever really communicate. When she is down here she never looks me up. I understand that is maybe how you make friends but I don't feel like she is interested in being friends.
TL;DR: | I don't feel obliged to visit someone I barely know, even though we have mutual friends./Am I overthinking this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Our chairs can't support an upcoming overweight dinner guest.
POST: A few weeks ago a new friend invited us to join a group of people who take turns hosting dinner parties. We are all in our late 20s to early 30s. My husband and I are 29 and 27, respectively. Last night we were asked to host next week.
We're excited but one thing occurred to me: one female member of the group weighs around 350 pounds by my estimation. My husband guesses closer to 375 or more..
Our dining set is antique. It's in good shape, but the chairs cannot support 350 lbs. I asked my husband (engineer) to check them out and he said the chair in best condition can probably hold up to around 305 lbs, the chair in the worst condition can probably hold up to around 265 lbs.
He also said we should avoid approaching even those limits - people sitting down "heavily" or shifting their weight could break the chair pretty easily. And even if a chair can hold 305 pounds for a two minute test, something may happen over the course of a couple of hours.
How can we handle this as non-awkwardly as possible?
So far all we can think to do is buying a sturdy new chair and assigning seats with place cards so she ends up using it. However it will probably be pretty obvious and may offend her.
I should mention that she is pretty vocal about the fact that she does not feel weight is ever a problem. She doesn't think that there's a big issue with weight vs. overall health, and she has made comments about her belief that everything should be made to accommodate overweight people instead of having special products to do it (e.g., all airplane seats should be very large instead of having a passenger use two seats). So it might be easy to offend her...
She seems like someone who I could be great friends with and we get along very well. I want to start our potential friendship off right and this feels like a road block.
TL;DR: | Next week we're having a dinner guest who is very certainly beyond the weight of what our antique dining chairs can support. How should we accommodate her without making a scene or offending her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Inexperienced in the dating game. I have a crush on my coworker but I can't tell if he feels the same.
POST: We're both 20 years old. He's about a month older than me. I've been working with him for over a year now and have developed a crush on him. The only problem is that I don't know if he likes me. He usually compliments my cooking (I work in the kitchen area) and tends to tease me. But I know he teases the other workers as well. However, he's always say'n we should hang out and says he's going to text me. He never does. We get along very well and he calls me cute sometimes. But I have no idea if he is being nice or if he's try'n to flirt. Most recently he said that we should hang out and get waisted on my 21 birthday. I want to ask him out but when we first met we both made it clear that we enjoy being single and relationships were a hassle. I don't want to ruin our current relationship or make the work place awkward...advice reddit?
TL;DR: | Have a crush on my coworker. Can't tell if he's flirting but we both friendzoned each other awhile back. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU trying to make an omelette
POST: Like most, this TIFU was actually a long, long, time ago (though based in this galaxy). Must have been something like 8/9 years ago now.
Growing up we had a separate fridge and freezer, both massive full sized ones, like 6ft tall-ish and a 2ft wide-ish each. Both were nearing the end of their life but never bothered to replace them because my parents knew they were planning on moving house with the last child's imminent departure from the family home and would get all new stuff anyway.
The fridge had reached a stage where, when opened, the door would need to be held up to remain on its hinges. And when I say remain up I don't just mean slipping slightly, I'm talking fully come off so you end up with a giant fridge door fully separated from the rest!
I had been left home alone for a few days whilst my parents were away and one night I fancied an omelette, I go to get eggs. The sensible thing to do would be to grab a few with one hand, close the door, put them to one side and then grab more. Instead I just swing the door open, and grab two handfuls of eggs. The door immediately clinks off the base and comes tumbling towards me. I try to stop it by planting one hand, (full of eggs) on the door. Splat... Egg all over the door, floor and hand. Scrambling to put it back up (still with one hand full) I manage to slip on the eggy floor and clutching the door fling the remaining eggs to one side against the wall.
So there I am, alone and ashamed, flat on my arse, covered in egg. Clutching an equally egg covered fridge door with eggs slowly dripping down the wall behind me. All in all, worse things have happened - but after all that there were no eggs left to try again :(
TL;DR: | Fancied an omelette, s***ty fridge door falls on me causing chaos and a giant eggy mess. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22F] with my boyfriend [22 M] 2 years, using his parents for their money and it makes me think less of him
POST: Hi reddit, long time lurker, first time posting! I recently found out that my boyfriend of 2 years plans to go no contact with his parents as soon as he graduates, and that the only reason he hasn't cut them off already is because they are paying his tuition. So he plans to continue playing the dutiful son until he doesn't need them anymore. The problem, is I can't help but feel a little disgusted by this. It's not the no contact part that bothers me, in fact I went NC with my own parents when I turned 18. But it bothers me that he would be willing to take their money and use them when he has no intention of talking to them ever again once he doesn't need their money.
To me, this lowers him not quite to their level but it does demean him. I chose to go to a state uni that wasn't really my top choice because I got a full ride there, so it was something that allowed me to escape my abusive parents' control. I got into some other, better schools but didn't get scholarships for them so I turned them down. To me, I would rather do pretty much anything else before taking another cent from my horrible parents once I turned 18, given all the strings that their money comes attached. I also feel that using your parents only for their money, even abusive parents, is like stooping to their level. Sure you could say that they deserve it but I feel it is better to take the high road.
I guess my question is, is this not actually as big a deal as I'm making it out to be? For me, my first reaction was to see it as a reflection of his moral character, and it really bothered me that he would be willing and able to use other people in such a way no matter who they are. But am I looking at it wrong?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend is using his parents for their money; is this a reasonable thing to do, or a reflection of poor moral fiber? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [18/f] Don't know what to do about a distant boyfriend (19/m)
POST: So I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months and in the beginning everything was perfect. But starting from a couple months ago we started fighting more, with fights usually ending witn him jinting abiut breaking up. The fights usually are cause he wasn't texting me or calling me enough. Then last month, because we were both busy (I go to highschool and had a trip one weekend, and he's in the navy and we live an hour and a half away from each other) we didn't see each other. So we see each other last weekend and everything's fine, and he's talking like he's planning on seeing me this weekend. Then on Friday he tells me he's going to the beach with his friends. Lately he takes forever to reply back to my texts (granted, the cell service is practically non-existent on the snip). We only have two months together until he's deployed and I go off to college. I got upset again and we ended up in a huge fight. Am I wrong in wishing he cared a little more or am I just being overly sensitive, and how do I make him care more?
TL;DR: | I feel like my boyfriend doesn't care, am I just over analyzing, and how do I make him care again? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Have you ever said something ridiculously offensive and immediately regret saying it
POST: This is something that happens to me on a regular day basis but the worst occasion of this happening was one of my best friends.
Everyone's in P.E. and we're playing some game, let's just say basketball, and everyone's joking around shit talking. Well a girl says something to my friend and without any chance to think he replies with the first thing that pops into his head, which is and this is a quote " I hope you die while running". He said it so fast that he didn't realize who he was talking to and then it settled and I saw his eyes widen. He accidentally said that to a girl who's sad dad died a year early from a heart attack. I just looked at him kind of saying did you just say that and he just stood their for a couple seconds. Luckily the girl didn't here him but he always tells that's story saying that it's the worst he's ever felt
TL;DR: | my friend accidentally said to a girl that's dad died from a heart attack while running that he hope that she died while running |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[21F] with my boyfriend [25M] 2 yr relationship, both of are in school but i had to transfer an 1 1/2 hrs away because of money
POST: Me[21F] and my BF [25M] have been dating for over 2 yrs now. we met at college and are still currently taking classes.
A year(ish) ago my scholarship money ran out and since I was an out-of-state student I could not afford to go there any more. I transfered to the nearest school in my state. We live about 1 1/2 hrs away from each other. we only get to see each other a few times a semester. he works full time and goes to school full time. I just got a part time job and am a full time student.
We have been on the fritz relationship wise mostly because of the stress of a long distance relationship but more recently the age difference is getting to be an issue. i know i am a bit younger than him and I am really trying to act more mature. He was questioning our relationship a lot this past week but decided it was unfair to just quit after all the work I have been doing to mature more.
recently though(like the past 2-3 days) he has not talked to me. When I call his cell he doesn't answer. I have gotten a few txts but nothing super specific other than he is unhappy with life. I really am trying to give him space and let his figure his issues out. but I am really stumped at him not talking to me at all. he wont email or txted any more or Facebook.
Am I freaking out for nothing or should I worry??????? I really want this relationship to work. And from everything we have talked about, I can assume he feels the same. Please Help?!?!?
TL;DR: | My BF won't talk to me(after 2-3 days) should I be worried or let him breath?!?! |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: 11:15 PM phone interview?!
POST: I've got a phone interview tonight with a large company at 11:15 PM tonight. At first I thought it was a typo, and the meant AM. So I was sitting around waiting for a call at 11:15 AM. It never came, so I called the 866 # they gave me to double check it. It called "candidate care" which I'm assuming is some sort of outsourcing HR company.
To be fair, it is my fault, I picked the time of the interview (there was only 2 choice for Wednesday 1030PM and 1115PM), and I didn't notice the PMs nor would I have imagined that they would ever interview that late.
TL;DR: | 11:15 PM phone interview tonight, with HR firm candidate care for another company. Anyone work with cc before? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I am trying to quit Alcohol for good, and instead of turning to AA, I am asking fellow redditors for their alcoholic horror stories and if there is actually any actual medical benefit(s) ...
POST: Hi Redditors,
My name doesn't matter, and I really don't want to go to an AA meeting to show my face in person due to the extreme details I'm about to disclose (no I didn't suck d*ck for alcohol/cocaine), and decided to turn to you guys for my confidentiality. I'm in my mid-twenties, been drinking heavily (binge) for the last 10 years and I've come to a point in my life, where I feel I've wasted the last ten years of my life to alcohol. Alcohol has led me to drugs and other unexplainable behaviours when sober I wouldn't think twice about doing. I've come to a point where more recently, whenever I get drunk, I need cocaine and I want to stop drinking altogether as it starts a vicious cycle for me, sometimes lasting all weekend. I don't do cocaine without alcohol and only desire it when drunk, not sober.
My Worst Drunk story - waking up in the hospital with a nurse/doctor operating on my arm/body, trying to staple it back together while cursing at the top of my lungs, only to realize the bloodbath left on the bed once I stood up and realized where I was. Long story short, got black out drunk, got into a fight with and ended up getting stabbed multiple times.
You would think the story above would've stopped me from drinking, but no and this was ten years ago. Between then and now, I can't count for obvious reasons how many times I have gotten black out drunk and woken up to realize I have no idea where I am. I feel if I don't reach out to anyone and hear other peoples' stories, my habits will continue and only get worse. I know my circle of friends definitely doesn't help, it's almost routine now to get alcohol and cocaine as the precursor before going out on Friday/Saturday night, again sometimes lasting all weekend binging.
TL;DR: | I am a Raging Alcoholic who turns to drugs when drunk, attempting to seek help, wanting to hear your stories and if there is actually any benefits from alcohol |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My[17F] boyfriend [17M] of 7 months, broke up with me due to a bad time in his life right now. Regrets it. Help.
POST: We have been together for a little over half a year, he has been very distant, he says that he is not in a good place right now and wants some time to think about this. He felt like he wasn't enough to make me happy and that he failed as a boyfriend.
On the other hand, his friend told me about a past relationship my boyfriend had with another girl for a while at the beginning of the last school year, he said that my boyfriend was with her for a while but then decided to just be friends so that he can be with me. So shortly, he left her for me. I don't know how to feel about that.
I asked him a few times about it, and he never told me. His friend says that he was ashamed and didn't want to tell me in fear of me leaving him.
We have talked it over many times now since we broke up (which was a few days ago) He says he regretted it the moment he left, he has been crying for days and doesn't know what to do. He feels ashamed for leaving me and wants to make it up to me. He is scared of failing again and hurting me but he wants to try harder to make it better, and he wants a second chance.
My friends and family would kill me if I gave him a second chance, despite that I think if we wait a while and try to make it work it could end up being good again.
But the fact he didn't tell me about that other girl before me still bugs me in the back of my head and it gives me so many doubts. If he can do it once how can I be sure he won't do it again?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend and I broke up, his friend tells me about some relationship he had before me that I never knew about, but now he regrets breaking up with me and wants a second chance. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: How to reach out post-No Contact?
POST: Mid-twenties male and female, I'm the female, and I was broken up with. Relationship of a year and a half, with longstanding friendship prior.
I'm pretty sure I'm just over-complicating my own life at this point, but it's nice to get feedback.
We've been broken up for four months, half of which has been No Contact. In that time, I've re-established friendships, taken up new hobbies, and built up my self esteem considerably. Just in general, kept myself busy and occupied. I no longer feel like I "need" to have a partner, which is awesome. I'm the happiest I have been in half a year.
Our breakup wasn't over anything like infidelity, or wanting to see new people. Just that our relationship got too serious too fast. The breakup was difficult at first with both of us going back and forth on No Contact which set us both back. Every single time we have entered into No Contact, I have initiated it and I know he has struggled with it, and has contacted me to which I do not reply. The last we spoke, we both still had feelings for each other. Which leads to my question:
**I still have feelings for him, and I think if he's ready to, we could start something very light again in the near future. However, I worry that initiating any sort of contact will be interpreted as me not being serious about my own self-improvement, and that my own emotional stability isn't more important than keeping in touch with him.**
**Super
TL;DR: | After a relatively undramatic breakup, can you try again? How do you ask without ending up with egg on your face? Should I be leaving the ball in his court? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [34 F] need advice on how to respond my ex's texts [33 F]. We agreed to keep in touch but I'm finding it hard now.
POST: we were only dating about 3 months. She broke up with me without really giving me any solid reasons why other than to say i didn't make enough of an effort when she needed it. We had never made it "official" but were definitely getting there.
I want her back and told her during the break up that I wanted to try again. She "didn't think it was fixable". I never got any definites. But at the end of the break up i told her that I liked having her in my life and that it would be a shame to lose touch. She said she felt the same way.
Ever since the break up she's been texting me about once or twice a week. Nothing too serious or emotional. Just simple screen grabs or a link to something. I respond with a quip. and so on. The texts are never more than 8 exchanges deep. She has Also continued to like my instagram photos and facebook posts.
The thing is, i'm finding it very hard to move on. I know about the No contact rule and think it's time to set that in place. I dont want to FLAT OUT ignore her the next time since we agreed to contact. So I'd like to craft a simple powerful message to her as a response IF she writes again. Something that let's her know i dont think this is healthy for me because I have feelings for her still.
TL;DR: | What is an amicable way to tell my ex that I'd like to stop texting with her even though we talked about staying in touch? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24 M] have been with my girlfriend [23 F] for 1 year and I get irrationally insecure sometimes. Advice?
POST: My girlfriend is really great, and we have a solid relationship most of the time.
The problem is, I am a bit of a shy/insecure person.
I often over-analyze minute things that she says or does. If her mood towards me seems to change, or if she makes a comment I perceive as having subtext, I then start to wonder if I did something to upset her. I usually ask her if something is wrong, and 99% of the time nothing is. I read too much attention to her behavior.
I realize that my fear is irrational because she is a very devoted, loving girlfriend and deep down I know I have no reason to worry. But for some reason, this deep feeling of insecurity continually takes over. It usually leads to me asking her if something is wrong once every week or two.
She told me it is starting to get very irritating and I honestly understand that. She wants me to trust her more. I want to act more sure of myself, and feel more confident. **How do I do that? Can anyone relate to this problem?**
It seems like this would be easy to fix, but it isn't. I've been working on it over the 1 year we've been together and it is slowly improving. But I've had issues with insecurity my entire life. Now that I am in a relationship with an amazing girl, I am realizing how big of an issue this is. I don't want to push her away.
TL;DR: | I get very insecure in my relationship and end up worrying that my girlfriend is upset when she isn't. How do I avoid doing this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [15M] with my girlfriend [15F], barely replies to messages
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together for roughly a month, before I asked her to be my girlfriend. Ever since we have started dating, she seems really distant over text messages. Literally, taking a day to reply.
This would normally be annoying but bearable, as when we talk in person everything is still amazing as usual. However, she has just left to go away with her family over the holidays for just under three weeks, im really worried about not talking to her over this period of time & I miss her crazily so the lack of communication is really getting to me. I am really upset, as this is the first girl I have had real feelings and emotions for. This also makes it difficult to have a flowing conversation, so the short two or three message conversations we have are seemingly aimless.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend doesn't put effort into keeping in touch with me, ever since we started dating, what can I do to improve communication between the pair of us? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24F] with my BF [25M] of 10 months, he is still roommates with his ex 29M (WTF)
POST: It's late at night and I just had two beers. Perfect time to post here.
I knew my boyfriend was bisexual and his previous major relationships were with men even before we started dating. I want to say i have absolutely 0 issues with it.
A few months in we had a few discussions about relationships issues. I said I am very strongly anti-cheating. He admitted his only serious boyfriend left him because he was "drunk, young and stupid" and fucked another guy. He sound extremely remorseful and promised he would never ever do anything like that again. I trusted him.
Yesterday we had a Friday night out and he dropped this bomb on me: ex he had cheated on is his current roommate and BFF. Like, words cannot describe how close these guys are. They have tons of inside jokes, can pretty much read each other's mind, share so much interests they consider their stuff like books and games to be owned jointly.
This is the story my BF gave me: they met at work when my BF was really young and moved in together already as a couple. When my BF confessed they wanted to separate right away but it's not easy to find an affordable apartment in our city. They still worked together in some start up and they were actually assigned a big project together which had them working from home, so they decided to tough it out for a while. But after a while they figured they still worked well as roommates and coworkers so might as well continue to live together.
Reddit, I am not okay. And I don't even know what I am not okay with. I trust my BF, it's not like I am afraid he will cheat on me with this ex. I guess maybe I am jealous that one asshole dominates his life so completely - is his perfect friend and his wronged ex as well, but that makes me sound really bitchy. I also don't know how to confront my BF about it. it's not like I can tell him to move out of his home, esp since we can't even think about moving in together for now (family reasons that never really affected our relationship)
TL;DR: | Apparently my BF's best friend and roommate is also his ex. I am not okay with this, but I am not sure what I can do about it |
SUBREDDIT: r/college
TITLE: I got accused of cheating on a final
POST: I am college student and had a final in (generic basic science requirement course) today. I really enjoyed having the professor. I also studied pretty hard for the exam, and felt very ready.
Exam time rolls around and I start on the exam. All is well, except that the font used for the exam isn't the best for me (I was recently diagnosed as dyslexic/ADHD earlier this semester, but can't use accommodations til next semester). While I can usually manage to do decently on school-related things, it just takes me longer and I often take breaks from reading if the font is irritating. This final was no exception, and I broke my gaze from my exam and stared off into space (for some reason it does help me to take short breaks from reading and then get back into it). Idk how long I was out, but I must have zoned out a lot because the professor walked up to where I was sitting, scooted to the middle of the row where I was, and told me to "please keep your eyes on your own paper". She sounded extremely disappointed in me.
I felt terrible and could only mumble "okay, alright". I don't know why I didn't defend myself.
Later on, when I went to turn my exam in (I was one of the last people done so the room was pretty empty). The professor told me that she was going to check my exam against the people around me. I wanted to tell her that I didn't cheat, that this was just a huge misunderstanding. Now I am terrified that I will be booted out of school or lose my scholarship because I am a dumbass. What if we did put down similar answers? What if the science gods decided to fuck me over? To top it all off, I didn't even do as well as I wanted to because after the confrontation I was really numb and scared and didn't really concentrate.
TL;DR: | zoned out while taking exam, got accused of cheating. What should I do now? I want to go to the professor and apologize, but what if she doesn't believe me and things get worse? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23F] with crazy 'ex' [26]. Revealed his craziness to the world as a public service, now I'm afraid of revenge.
POST: God, I really don't know if I did the right thing.
I'll make things short. I met this guy a couple years ago. Went out with him three times. Did not get a good vibe from him. I was naive and I was in my experimental phase, so I ended up sleeping with him. Refused to see him again after that.
He texted me endlessly, asking me to go out with him. When I wouldn't, he'd send insane texts like "I hope your life is filled with bloody abortions" and followed them with "I'm sorry I didn't mean that, you're so beautiful." I threatened to take action, he finally left me alone.
So recently he got exposed as a pick-up artist/predator that's opened his own pick-up business where he trains other guys to do the same. I was so appalled. I literally felt like puking when my friend told me. The guys denies that he's being a predator.
I sent the site that published the article my history with the guy (without any incriminating details) and screenshots of his texts to me. They haven't published my message or anything. I think there's still time to take it back.
I don't know if I did the right thing. I just wanted to warn people of the person that he truly is. What if he tries to find me (he doesn't know my address) or my friends/family? What if he tries to contact my boyfriend? What if he taped us having sex and he posts it online in revenge (don't think this happened, but I wouldn't put it past him)?
TL;DR: | Sent website proof that my past fling is a legitimate predator/psycho. I'm afraid he's going to retaliate if he ever finds out it's me. Should I take it back? Or just stick to my guns? |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Lawyer uncle whom I never spoke to in my entire life wants to sue me for the funeral costs of my father/his brother.
POST: My parents divorced when I was 3, so my father was never a real father to me. I never lived with him, he dragged me and my mother to court to gain the right to see me weekly/monthly and so on. When I was 18 I decided I do not want to have scheduled visits anymore and I've barely seen him for the next 6 years of my life. He died recently but I managed to see him before he passed away, mainly for my mother who insisted I should see him before it is too late.
This all happened in Germany. I moved to and still live in New York City.
Now to the recent events. My fathers brother, whom I've never meet, paid the funeral costs and send me the bill. As far as I know in German law, the child of the diseased is responsible before the brothers get asked to pay. We all declined the inheritance. My uncle ( who is also a lawyer in Germany) threatened to sue me in the US and in Germany for paying the funeral costs (~3000 euro)
Some more facts that might be relevant:
- My father never paid alimony to my mother (even though he was supposed to)
- He lived off of the German state
- I am a student with no income
- I do not have any assets as of now (My mother is wealthy)
- My uncle has already paid the costs and wants the money from me ( The state is not involved anymore to my knowledge)
- My uncle/the lawyer has my US address
- My mother pays my tuition/living expenses (Since her and my father divorced she does not need to pay the funeral costs)
- I married in the US and count as dependent to my husband
Is my uncle's threat to be taken seriously? What would his chances be of winning this case?
TL;DR: | Father died, nobody inherited anything, his brother sues me for the funeral costs he already paid. They live in Germany, I am in the US. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23/F] with my Best Friend [24 M] 5years, I just found out he has been logging into my facebook and reading all of my messages for the past month (at least). He doesn't know I know.
POST: I have never felt so violated. He has been my best friend and the person i confide the most to for the last 5 years, and today I found out that he has been logging into my facebook. He was at my house today, he lives in a town about an hour away so we don't hang out too often. This morning I noticed a lot of my messaged said seen on them, but I never read them. I thought it was just my phone acting weird, because I don't have the best phone in the world. I got suspicious thought because It kept happening, so I checked my active sessions. 40 from his homwtown from this last month, and I have not been there. There were also 3 session active at the moment from my house, my laptop, my phone, and his phone. I freaked out and immediately logged out of the sessions and set up notifications so i know when someone tries to log in and from where.
Before i even had time to reset my password, he logged in again. I went downstairs and acted casual and said I had to leave. I went in my car and drove away and had a panic attack. He left at the same time as me, but i don't know how to address this. This is something I feel only a fucking isnane person would do.
Every conversation i've had as not been private. Someone that I trusted has been sitting there reading EVERYTHING. he has seen all the risque things I have sent. He has read every intimate detail about my fucking life. I am so revolted. I have no idea how to go about this.
I have secured my facebook, it now needs a code that can only be texted to my phone to be able to log in on any device that has not been authenticated yet. I als odont know how he got my password in the first place.
What do I do.
TL;DR: | Friend has been reading all my facebook messages for the last month at least. I never gave him my password. I secured my accont but idk where to go from here. I am freaking out. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My girlfriend [20/f] has been texting/skyping this other guy.
POST: So my girlfriend and I have been dating for about two years. Recently we went through some rough times but I think we got it all back on track. Now I've come to find out that she has been talking to this other guy who is a few years older than her for several weeks. They text, skype, fb chat, and other stuff together. They have even gone as far as to go to lunch together. I know the guy and he has shown signs of interest in the past and them talking makes me really uncomfortable. We all are in college and all attend different schools. After reading some of her texts I think they may be planning on hanging out without my knowledge.
I'm really hesitant to say something about it because I'm afraid she will think I'm not trusting or whatever but I also think that if I don't say something I will continue to get more and more paranoid. This is really stressing me out.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend of two years recently started talking to another guy. She says they're just friends but I have reason to suspect they may be more than just friends. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend 30[m] cheated on me, 21[f] with his ex - she's pregnant now - should I try to salvage the relationship?
POST: I'm a 21 year old college student, my boyfriend is 30 and has a very solid job. For the past year or so, we have been talking about getting married very seriously. I already live with him, and we have been very happy in the time that we've been living together. We were both very conscious of the other and frequently seeking to do better and make the other happier.
Recently, I learned that my boyfriend had sex with his ex-girlfriend, who he was with before me for 9 years. She broke up with him several times over that period, and he said he was certain that they would never work. The only reason I found out about them sleeping together was because she is now pregnant.
I moved from my home and my family to be with him and I just got residency in the state, so I cannot transfer (I will not be able to afford out of state costs). I don't feel like I can talk to my friends of family about it because I will just look like a complete fool for moving for this guy, even though it really felt right and more than anything I thought it would work out and I truly love him.
I think he is going to leave me for his ex, because he feels responsible for the child - which I understand, I guess. He has said that he won't be happy in that relationship and he is simply going to resign himself to making the sacrifice for the child. I feel really hurt and I don't know what to do. I want to salvage the relationship - I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.
Should I try to stay and make something work or should I just give up?
I guess I'm just looking for some advice.
TL;DR: | was going to marry my boyfriend, found out he cheated on me with his ex, she's pregnant. Should I try to stay? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24/F] am having trouble understanding guy's texting habits
POST: I have just recently started dating again, and I've consistently come across the same issue with the few guys I've talked to. These two guys in particular both pursued me, asked me for my number, and texted me as soon as they got it to tell me that the really want to hang out sometime etc. I'm far from clingy(if anything, a bit reserved), but I also make it clear when I do like a guy.
This second guy [29] in particular keeps starting a conversation and then just stops responding randomly. It really annoys me... am I overreacting? I just don't get why you would actively pursue someone and then get all hot and cold for seemingly no reason. He's told me multiple times that he thinks I'm beautiful and that he really wants to take me out(which we have planned), but then he will disappear for days at a time, only to reappear with something cute to say, and then poof, he's gone again. I don't understand this! Yesterday he told me he was going to call me tonight, but instead sent me one or two generic texts before disappearing again. UGH. Why does he even bother? Same goes for the other guy. Am I reading too much into this? What's the deal?
TL;DR: | I've noticed that guys can be very hot and cold when it comes to texting. Is this normal or does it mean something? |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Storage Facility Flooded, Insurance Company Claims Owner was Negligent
POST: **Location:**
Texas, USA
**Overview:**
I moved some things into a storage facility for a few months while I was in the process of graduating college/moving. When I came to check on my stuff after the summer was over, I found that the facility had at some point flooded, and was also infested with mice.
I had renters insurance that covered my storage facility, and covered flooding but when the adjuster came out he found signs of previous flooding, as well as a completely inoperable french drain system on the perimeter (Inoperable because it had filled with so much silt and mud that it no longer drained anything). He had to inform us, and the insurance company that they wouldn't be paying because the business owner had been negligent about known flooding issues.
When we reported this to the co-owner, my father and I both heard him say "Ah, well we did have to move our office from that side of the lot because of flooding." At which point my father and I said "So...you admit you knew there was flooding? You realize that negligence on your part?" To which this guy said "Blah blah, you signed a contract, not liable, blah blah" and told us to talk to his son who is "a lawyer in Dallas."
So at this point, I begin proceedings to take this guy to small claims court. We register the case with the county court and after a time get this letter from the guys lawyer. The summary of this letter seems to be "My client did nothing wrong, the case should be dismissed"
So at this point my father and I aren't sure how to proceed. We assume that we have to respond soon to say something along the lines of....we have evidence and this case should be seen by a judge. That being said, we aren't lawyers and we aren't sure the best way to proceed. Any help would be GREATLY appreciated. And please let me know if I can answer any questions
TL;DR: | I rented a storage facility that flooded. Insurance won't pay saying owner was negligent. Owner hires lawyer to have the small claims case we brought against him dismissed. How do you think we should proceed? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I am [25F] with [27M] we have been together for almost 4 years, Fought on Friday, Hes Ignored me All Weekend
POST: We have been together for 4 years and have lived together for most of that time. We picked out a house together. We have dogs together. We do everything together.
We got into a fight on Friday over something that shouldnt have caused such a response like this. He wants to break up. His solution to any really big fight we have is to break up. He will say really hurtful things to me. All I try to do is defend myself but he just doesnt want to hear what I have to say. He thinks he is always right and I am always wrong. Then when we try to make up he says that I need to be better. When in reality he doesnt take any blame for anything hes said to me. He says so have some class, as he is making fun of how I grew up. I grew up middle class. I have no idea why he says those kinds of things to hurt me. How I grew up shouldnt even be in the discussion because it was irrelevant. I am his first real relationship. He lets his anger get the best of him and it hurts the people that love him the most. As he takes it out on them.
He left to go to his dads on Friday. He has not spoken to me all weekend. The last thing we talked about was we are broken up. And since I can not get a word out of him to discuss what is really happening, as he pretends to break up with me more than a few times a year. I am doing my very best to keep it together. Ive started packing and I have started looking for a place.
Why after all this time does he treat me like I dont exist? Like our past 4 years meant nothing?
TL;DR: | Got into a fight. He fake breaks up with me all the time. He did it again. Yet has ignored me all weekend. I think its real this time. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Family problems, need suggestions
POST: Hello, I'll give you a long story, I live with my mother, and brother who have been raised wrong. I on the other hand had the Internet to influence me to be a "good" person. But I have trouble living here, because I resist my anger that is caused by their faults. I try to neatly correct them. But not enough for them to change their ways. I don't want to do anymore that I am doing, because I don't want to be a dictator.
Since I'm resisting my anger on them. It's bottling up and I do tend to snap, but not on them I try to enhance my studying with my bottled up feelings so I get better grade (hasn't work so far)
But today I've come to realized that I'm forgetting their personal life, Like I don't know there birthdays no more, and honestly I don't care about them no more. They treat me badly. but still "care" for me, I swear they just say that to not hurt my feeling.
So I've come to reddit for Advice.
TL;DR: | My family are strangers to me because I try to ignore them because I feel that they are inferior to me, Should I continue to block them out, or give me reasons why not to. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Pet specialists: Our cat is very stupid and runs to his old territory (our old apt) every time we let him outside. Tips on retraining him?
POST: My best guess is that he needs to prowl at night (he meows like a bitch all night every time we keep him in) and there is nowhere to hide in our new yard. I tried building him a fort but it wasn't solid enough I think, he needs to feel protected. He is very fear oriented and has to hide under things, in bushes, under abandoned houses, where "they" can't get him.. causing us lots and lots of anguishing trips to try to recapture him so he doesn't die from worms/cars. Girlfriend rescued him off the street when he was about 6 months old and dying of lung worms.. born a street cat, always a street cat? Winter is coming and he'll probably die if he keeps trapping himself outside like this. Most of the time we can't even find him. We climb strangers fences and I'm surprised we haven't been approached by police.
TL;DR: | I would appreciate some tips on retraining our cat to think of our current house as home when he wanders off at night. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [17F] insecurities are stopping me from happiness with a guy [17M]
POST: I'm 17 and I really like this boy and he likes me too. Most people would say he isn't good looking but I do and he's really shy which I adore. And he said he would want to talk to me and hang out but I freaked out and told him I didn't mean it. He didn't seem to feel bothered by it.
I really like him and the reason I don't pursue anything because of my insecurities. I'm 5'1 and like 110 pounds but I hold a lot of my weight in my hips and it makes my body look weird. He's also pretty skinny and I feel like I could never even want him to hug me because he would feel my fat. I have a lot more insecurities but my weight is the most of my problems.
I really like him but I'm so nervous and inexperienced I don't know what to do.
TL;DR: | won't date a guy because he's skinnier then me. should I not bother him with my baggage and leave him alone or try it out? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24F] am too insecure and it's ruining my relationship.
POST: I have always been insecure. I act like I'm not but I'm constantly comparing myself to other people and I feel jealous often.
I've learned to deal with it over the years. About a year ago, I started dating a guy [25M]. We had been friends for three years before that.
I've noticed my self-consciousness get even worse. He's a professional athlete, so he's surrounded by really successful people all the time. His parents were professional athletes. His brother is a retired professional athlete. His sister-in-law is a doctor. All his friends are professional athletes. His ex has worked at some of the largest tech firms in the country.
It's just a lot to live up to. I don't know how to be okay with myself. I close myself off a lot and I feel so stupid and boring when I talk to him.
I know he loves me. I just can't shake the feeling that I'm not worthy. How do I deal with this?
TL;DR: | I've always had issues with self-confidence, but I've recently started dating a guy and it's making it a million times worse. Help. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18F] with my SO [20 M] 6 months. LDR. He's let me down again and I'm so angry.
POST: First off, I am really angry with him right now. I'm living abroad at the moment and it wasn't possible for us to spend valentine's day together (in my opinion because he was too lazy to get a passport in time). So we were going to send each other cards with a few little gifts in the envelope.
I sent mine in plenty of time, he said it arrived a couple of days ago. I spoke to him today and he said he hasn't sent mine yet. As in, it's not even in the post. This, to be honest, is what I'd been expecting. I was hoping I would be able to wake up tomorrow and open a card from him, but in the back of my mind I knew that wouldn't happen. I've been let down and not cared about by a lot of people in my life and he knows that. This is just making me so upset
I know this might seem petty, but he's always letting me down and not doing things. It's like he doesn't care. I think he's lazy and selfish. He says he loves me and he cares but I very rarely see the evidence. So this is the final straw for me.
And he's blaming it on his depression again. He blames everything on his depression. He's unemployed, his place is a pig sty and he's almost homeless. He does nothing to help himself and uses me as an emotional crutch. I have severe depression too, I'm on meds and have tried to kill myself multiple times in the past year but I still manage to show him that I care.
Am I overreacting? I have no idea. I'm just so sick of this and the whole relationship is such a headache. I think I love him but I don't know what to do??
TL;DR: | LDR. Hasn't posted me a valentine's card. Final straw as he's always letting me down. I'm so angry/upset. Am I overreacting? What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [21F] with [23M], I am very much needing advice regarding our sexual relationship.
POST: Hey. I am a 21 yo female in a new relationship with a 23 yo male. We've been dating for around 5 months now.
Over the course of our relationship, ive discovered, lets call him Joe, has some mental issues due to his younger childhood regarding depression, ocd, anxiety, etc. Because of this, he takes extensive amounts of medication daily.
I know now that he has issues getting aroused. From the amount of medication he HAS to take, its pretty much a dead noodle down there. So, we've tried a couple different medications prescribed by his doctor, like Viagra and Cialis. He takes multiple pills of the highest dosage and it wont last. We've only managed to have sex (sort of) once, pretty unsatisfying for me.
I cannot communicate how frustrated i am, considering how sexually active i was before, to absolutely nothing now. I am at a loss of what i can do for a solution. I really love this guy, and besides this one huge problem, i could see myself spending the rest of my life with him.
I dont want to end things with such an amazing guy, but i just..dont know, short of suggesting having an open relationship.
TL;DR: | My boyfriend takes copius amounts of medication for mental issues. Cant get a boner to last even when he takes high dosages of boner pills. Regular sex seems impossible. What to do! |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Dear Reddit, I would love some help in life.
POST: My mom wants to go live with my grandmother but she can't since my brother is doing bad in school. He is skipping classes, not going to school, just being a rebellious teen in general. Which is giving my mom such a hard time. My mom and dad do not get along very well, my dad doesn't love her, he sleeps in his own room and shuts her out almost completely. She wants to go to live with my grandma in another state because she thinks it will "refresh their marriage being apart for sometime." Don't get me wrong, it has worked (once) no guarantee it will work again though. I finished highschool and am currently working, I want to get into the Navy but I just can't leave my dysfunctional family.
What has become broken can be fixed.
TL;DR: | dumb as nails brother can't get his shit together in school, dad doesn't love mom, mom wants to go live with grandma. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Feelings I [21M] have for a girl [22F] is massivly holding me back
POST: OK serious case of caught feelings here. This is really putting me back and I cannot seem to move on and is seriously harming my love/sex life.
This is about a girl I met through mutual friends at uni I was close to. I did sleep with her and spent a bit of time around her but nothing ever progressed further than a few shares of a bed. As much as I wanted it to I never even asked to take things further - at the time I'm pretty certain things could have.
Anyway I still have crazy bad feelings for this girl. I've finished uni, got myself a job, but she still has a couple of years left at uni. I now work away from home and a fair distance away from what was my uni (still in the same country). However could so be relocating nearer to home at my old uni. I also do travel so would be willing to go see her.
Me having these feelings for this girl is stopping me from finding someone else to share my life with. I've tried Tinder and going out to meet others but I keep 'forcing' myself to hold out for this girl, hoping something may happen.
I keep thinking about a message I could send her just to get it off my chest. If she comes back and say she has no feelings towards me and there is no chance of anything happening then I'm fairly certain I can move on. I'm a bit curious about this as she could then think of me as some kind of weirdo? Girls, what would you do if this happened to you? Would she mock me with her friends.
I'm not talking to her over FB or Whatsapp every day, in fact the last messaged her was well over a month ago, however she does still acknowledge my existence and likes a couple of my tweets, FB posts and we have exchanged general chit chat over Twitter mentions.
Like I've already said, this is holding me back massively - I don't want it to start effecting my working life as I've worked hard to be where I am.
Advice on this would be massively appreciative. Thank you in advance
TL;DR: | Girl I met I uni I caught feelings for. Can't let go of those feelings and is holding me back. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 F] feel like I have nobody and want to know how to deal with hard times?
POST: I grew up in a negligent and abusive home as the oldest. I never had a hard time making friends or getting boyfriends, but I moved schools so many times (15 schools in my 12 years) that I never was able to build deep, meaningful relationships. I've become pretty independent emotionally and try my best to deal with things through research and seeking counseling sessions when things become unbearable.
I moved back in with my mom (who is no longer married to my abusive step dad) but she is still very negligent to my younger siblings (17 F and 9 M). I also live with my grandmother (60 F) and great grandmother (90 F). My grandmother is loving but she's hard to have a relationship with and my great grandmother is now dying. We think she only has a few weeks left, maybe even a few days. I'm in a relationship of 7 months to an amazing guy (24 M) and I've made some acquaintances and work friends in the last 9 months that I've lived here. I have childhood friends but we've grown distant just because life gets busy. My dad isn't really available that often because he has his own hardships with his girlfriend because she has drug induced psychosis. I'm becoming overwhelmed and a little depressed with everything, especially my great grandmother being on her deathbed. I want a shoulder I can blubber on in times like this and the only person who I feel close enough to is my boyfriend but I don't know what I'd do if we broke up. I'm working on strengthening my other acquaintanceships but I'm having a hard time feeling close to any of these people. I have a history of depression and panic attacks and have had friends distance themselves from me in the past because my depression overwhelmed them. So, I don't want to ruin the relationships I'm trying to build now. I'm being myself with these people but I'm not really showing them the messy side of my depression and anxiety. I feel really alone and I don't really know how to deal. Any reddit wisdom?
TL;DR: | How to deal with hard times (like deaths in the family) when you have depression and anxiety but don't want to ruin your relationships with the messy side of it all? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [21f] Exclusivity talk with guy[22m] I'm dating? Is it even appropriate to ask now?
POST: So I have been dating this guy for a month now and I really like him. However he seems reluctant to talk about the relationship at this point and sometimes I wonder how interested he is in me. Initially I asked him out, arranged the first few dates and made all the effort. He's only just now starting to do relationshippy things like texting everyday and surprising me with flowers.
Thing is I was asked out by a different guy recently. I'm more interested in the first guy but I'm not sure if the first guy actually wants to date me or is just into the sexy stuff. On one hand I feel like I should date guy 2 on the other hand I feel guilty since things are starting to get more serious with guy 1. (guy 1 dodges an actual relationship talk but has asked before if I'm seeing other people, my answer before was no but at the time I was too much of a wuss to ask him if he was seeing other people)
Is it too early in the relationship to ask guy 1 about being exclusive? I have no idea what scares off guys. I also am pretty sure that guy 1's answer to the talk will be different if he realizes that there is another guy, at this point I think he sees me as a shy nerdy virgin that asked him out and hasn't realized that just because I'm inexperienced doesn't mean I don't get offers, before I was just too shy to act on them. I've refrained from and wasn't planning mentioning the other guys because it seems manipulative. And I know I'm being petty and ridiculous.
So should I just go on a first date with guy 2, see what happens, and wait for guy 1 to bring up exclusivity on his own time? Is that normal for dating in college or at this point should I ask about my current relationship(?) first?
TL;DR: | dating one guy for a month, can't tell where its going, another guy asks me out, do I tell first guy I want to be exclusive or just go out with the other guy and see what happens? |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Hey /r/cats how can we convince our cat that sitting on laps is super cosy and full of win?
POST: We resuced our cat, Kalimah, off the streets about 3 years ago when she was about 8 weeks old. Her mother had disappeared when her and her siblings were only about 2 weeks old and a lady who lived by the alley where they were born kept them alive by leaving sausage mince and milk out for them. They had very little human interaction until the husband and I showed up and whisked her away.
She was very sick when we got her with a severe lung infection and a case of the Houdini's (on the day we got her, she managed to jump off a 2nd storey balcony, hurt her mouth a bit, but then proceeding to evade capture by 3 hominids for another half hour). She came around quite quickly though, and within 2 days was letting us pat her and was seeking attention from us and had learnt all the important indoor cat things (what a litter tray is for etc...). We spent a bucket load of cash at the vets getting her well and fixed and tattooed and now she's a picture of health and happiness.
Thing is though, she has never been a 'lap cat' and we'd desperately love her to be. She will let you pick her up and she will sit on your lap briefly while you pat her, but she is never at ease with it and always wiggles away (only to come back to your feet, begging for pats again a few moments later).
Does anyone have any tips for training a very stubborn cat to sit on laps and be comfortable with it?
TL;DR: | Stupid lardy cat don't know what's good. Won't enjoy lap pats like cats should. Looking for training tips. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what is this really strange package I got through the post completely out of nowhere? (pics included)...
POST: Okay, so I come home from work today to an envelope with what looked like arabic/middle eastern writing on wrote where my name would go and addressed to my home address...
The package felt like it had something rigid inside it, and a picture of what looked like a muslim lady in a niqab on the back, so I wasn't sure whether to open it. Anyway, I manned up and cut away the corner and had a feel inside for wires and such (damned paranoia).
There were no wires so I went ahead and opened it all of the way to find some strange things and a USB stick.
[HERE] is the album of things inside, I have no idea wtf they are, but it looks like some strange propaganda or something, the only text inside in english was some writing on a tag (on the USB stick) which looks like it says **PLAY** and some writing on another picture of a woman which looks like it says **PAKI**.
There's also a large card which says VONLEELA on it, what the fuck is a vonleela?
I'm not sure whether to try open the USB stick, in case it's some kind of virus shit or something that isn't for me and has some anti-government (get me in trouble kind of shit on it) What the fuck should I do reddit?
TL;DR: | Got a package to my house, with some random shit inside and a usb stick, wtf do I do? [pics here]( |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit medical/nursing/research students: Are cadavers, that is, bodies which have been donated to science, generally/usually treated respectfully and with dignity, in your experience?
POST: I wonder a lot about this. Because of my Crohn's Disease I have sometimes though about donating my body to research when I die, and having just been told a story about another, older man with CD who did just that, I have a renewed interest.
I'm not one who places a huge value on physical remains. It's really just meat, or at least, that's what I tell myself. I've always intended to forbid a wake in my will, or a funeral. I'd like a memorial party if my surviving family wants one, but not the traditional stuff. I'd like my body to be cremated and the ashes thrown out in a cardboard box.. UNLESS my cadaver might be useful to research.
That all said, it occurs to me that I don't want my remains to be treated disrespectfully by overtaxed, overtired, overworked graduate students looking to trivialize my contribution/remains for the sake of lightening the mood, or whatever other scenario.
TL;DR: | if you're a student who has worked with human remains, do you feel that the remains are treated with dignity and respect, or do students make light of them? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by sitting on the hood of my friend's car.
POST: Flashback to my senior year of high school. I live in a townhouse association, and there are only a few buildings on my street. That my street isn't very long. My friend had come to drop me off and her car was towards the middle of the street. We were fucking around, because we were idiots, and I was sitting on the hood of her car as she was getting ready to leave. As a joke, she started slowly rolling the car forward. In my infinite wisdom, I told her to keep going. In her infinite wisdom, she decided that she would indeed keep going, but at a much faster speed than I had anticipated.
I was sitting towards the edge of the passenger side of the hood. We both quickly realized that this was all a huge mistake, because she was heading towards the end of the street, where she either had to turn left or right. I think we both came to the conclusion that I was going to be thrown off the roof regardless of the decision, because with how fast she was going she either had to hit the brakes pretty hard or turn to keep from running into the fence at the end of the road.
She turned, and I rolled off and fell onto my side in the road, with her tires narrowly missing running over my ankle. I was stunned for a few seconds, and then started to wonder if she was going to come back and see how seriously injured I was. I was in pain, but I didn't think anything was broken.
She pulled back around the corner and, after getting out to make sure I wasn't dead or anything, we both started laughing. I actually don't think I've ever laughed that hard in my life. I hadn't broken anything, but I had a pretty awesome gnarly bruise on my hip/leg/most of the right side of my body for a while.
TL;DR: | My friend and I were jackasses in high school and I'm lucky to have not broken anything when I got thrown off her car. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How do I go about flirting with this girl who works at a busy Dunkin Donuts?
POST: Every morning I get an iced coffee at the Dunkin Donuts near my job. This one girl that works there has always caught my eye, but the past few days she has been taking notice to me, I think. She has been having the coffee prepared before I even ask. I'm pretty sure she gave me "the look" a couple of days ago. There's a couple of roadblocks that make flirting with her difficult.
First of all, it's a very busy location in downtown Chicago. Definitely too busy to try to strike up a conversation, even a brief one.
Second, since it's so busy there are lots of employees there *and* 90% of them are females, which I think makes the situation more sticky. Some are pretty too, but this girl is clearly the hottest. She wears these jeans that accentuate her incredible ass. She's got these perfect lips and great hair. Oh god...
Anyway, how do I go about flirting with her? Do I slip her a note and simply say "read this when you have a chance"? That's literally the only thing I've come up with but it seems a little too passive and not attractive.
TL;DR: | How do I flirt with a girl who works at a very busy Dunkin Donuts with lots of other female employees? |
SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Need advice for a trip to France. Few questions
POST: Hello, my family and I are planning a trip to France.
We'll spend 4 days at Paris and 2 days at Nice and we plan to drive from Nice to Paris on the last two days.
What route do you suggest (most scenic) and how long does this scenic route take (from Nice to Paris).
We have to buy a 'Paris Museum Pass'; Do you think it's worth it, since museums are generally the most populated places in Paris (I think, correct me if I'm wrong) We've read user reviews but I thought I could receive a first hand review from a hopefully unbiased individual
TL;DR: | Wanted to know the most scenic route from Nice to Paris and how long it takes to drive; And is the museum pass worth it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [25F] fiancé [30M], will be meeting for the first time after a 6 month LDR, said I could have sex with anyone before we get married.
POST: Which is a good thing, right? Somehow it felt degrading for me.
TL;DR: | Fiancé loves me but wants me to explore my sexuality before we settle down while he stays faithful, I feel degraded and confused. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] with my now ex gf [18 F] broke up three weeks ago. Who I still sense she still has feelings for me.
POST: So i've been dating this girl for about 3 to 4 months but she broke up with me because I didnt really give her much attention at the beginning. But that was just one of the hints she gave among other ambiguous hints. She didnt give me an exact reason why she didnt want to continue the relationship. I realized pretty late that she wanted to get serious and she was attractive enough for me to keep so I started to become more attracted to her. One of the huge positives about her was that she doesnt smoke. Then comes the surprise break up. Figured I didnt want to waste any more of my efforts so I tried to get her back. Waited per week to talk to her but she never gave me an exact answer to why she made the decision. She would always ignore my questions, pressuring her to give me a damn good reason for me to give up on her. Already three weeks and ive had a friend call her once and tell her i still have feelings for her. Friend said she became emotional a little bit, sounded like she was crying a little. So thats when I realized she still misses me. So Im still adamant but Im wondering if you guys think i should leave her? She might have small trust issues concerning that her dad divorced her mom few years back. But she seems pretty sensitive whenever i ask her real reason to the break up. If you think its okay to proceed winning her back, considering her sensitive and emotional personality, how should i go about this? Mind you, we were doing great like a normal couple at first but she never told me what it was that was on her mind.
Appreciate your two cents
TL;DR: | Really mandatory? So she broke up with me but she still thinks of me. But also still doesnt want to continue the relationship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19M] and my SO [14F] were split up and are restricted from seeing or talking to each other.
POST: I am a college sophomore [19M] and my former SO [14F] had just started high school when the split began. We had been seeing each other in somewhat secrecy for almost two years leading up to August 2014. My parents forbade the relationship but her parents were always fine with it...until recently. They had started reading her texts messages and saw how serious the relationship had become and decided to set me up in such a way to have my parents break us apart.
The rule I was given by her mother and father was that I cannot talk to her or see her until she is of legal age, which is seventeen (17) in the state she lives in. However, I was recently told that they won't allow it until she's eighteen (18).
We had both made promises to each other to be there when the time came, which I believe in my heart to be true. Since the split we both have found new relationships. However, I know who I love in my heart and I plan on returning but it eats me away almost every day.
I'm just looking for some advice on what I should do with myself. Do I give up and move on like I've been told by both her mom and my parents or do I hold on to the hope we can make things work out again?
TL;DR: | Me and my SO were split up because of age difference. Should I hold on to hope and work towards returning to her in three years or give up and forget about her, even though I love her with all my heart? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Would a new puppy help our anxious dog?
POST: My wife and I have a three year old Saint Bernard, who up until the age of two was pretty well socialized with people and dogs. About a year ago he started to become more protective of us and our home and would seem to be slightly agressive towards strangers though we've found that he's actually more frightened and avoids strangers. He's also become a little food aggressive with other dogs but still hangs out with other dogs if we're dogsitting or someone keeps him while we're away. Please note that there was nothing traumatic that caused the change in behavior, we've worked with our vet, a specialist vet at the vet school who works specifically with behavior problems, and two very qualified private trainers. He's also still working with a great trainer and going to be starting a weekly dog camp with this trainer who is very well qualified.
Now for the big question, would adopting another dog be a mistake or could it help even him out? I ask because we have the opportunity to give a puppy a home because someone we know isn't able to take care of her due to some new developments. What do you think Reddit?
TL;DR: | we have an anxious/protective three year old Saint Bernard and have the opportunity to adopt a mutt puppy. Would this puppy help his anxiety or could this make things worse? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (19m) dont know what to do with my GF (20F)
POST: So I don't know what to do. The situation is that my girlfriend and I have been dating for the past year. We go to college together and live on opposite sides of the country. From the start the relationship has been rocky. Looking back I haven't been the perfect boyfriend but I also know she has never been able to let anything go and at times she feels controlling and maybe manipulative but id rather not get into that now. Anyway recently things have been really bad, I mean I dont know If i want to be in a relationship anymore sort of stuff.
We spent this past weekend apart as I was going to visit family, she had to go to the hospital with some health issues. It was also our 1 year anniversary. This coming weekend she says she has to go back to the hospital, unfortunately I already have a previous commitment to my ultimate frisbee team. I know im not being perfect but she is incredibly mad at me and threatening to breakup if I dont break off my commitment with the team. If anyone wants more details about our relationship feel free to ask so I can give more detail about our past since i didnt do a great job. Im sorry this is so poorly written I just dont know what to do.
TL;DR: | My girlfriend is asking me to stay with her in the hospital this weekend and breakoff a prior commitment i had to my team. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by making an awesome video but deleting it before I could show it to my friends.
POST: This is not the most dramatic or funny fuck up, in fact it's pretty depressing, but it is a fuck up none the less.
So me and my two friends are always playing xbox together and chatting on whatsapp. Today my friend Mo sent us a video in the group chat. It was a funny OTT trailer for a Hollywood blockbuster with footage that he had recorded of us playing Gta 5 that he had made using a movie editor on his phone.
Naturally, I had to one-up him so I downloaded an editor of my own and got to work making a similar film trailer, only this time with footage from left 4 dead 2. It took nearly two hours to make, but happily, the music I had chosen to go over the whole video synced up perfectly. I had completely unintentionally made it so each chorus of the song lined up with an actiony part of the trailer and the finished product came together really well.
I know it might sound pathetic but I was really proud of my work. "In a world where the dead walk the earth... 3 men must fight... For their right... To party" fast camera cuts of the chainsaw and then lots of shooting, typical style trailer. It was perfect.
Well when I tried to share the video to whatsapp, I noticed I could only send 2:50 minutes, but the video was over 3 minutes. So instead I uploaded it to youtube but the video came out terribly for reasons I can't fathom. It looked fantastic in the movie editor app but on youtube it was unwatchable. So I deleted that shitty video from youtube and my phone's memory. Big mistake.
When I went back on the app, I discovered the clip must not be saved on the app like I thought, and I realised I had just deleted the film I was so proud of. There was no way online I could find to recover it. I contemplated remaking the vid, but I knew it would never be that perfect, especially since L4D2 is so random. Now I'm playing Halo 3 online to cheer me up but the online population is pretty low and I've been sat here searching for a Big Team Slayer for 15 minutes. Feel pretty shitty.
TL;DR: | Made funny video with surprisingly high production values to share with my friend, ended up deleting it by accident and chucking my phone through the window. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend[17F] just left me[18M] for another guy out of nowhere, how do I get over the shock?
POST: My girlfriend and I have been together for six months now, and I am completely in love with her. She left to go to europe for a month, and I was eagerly anticipating her return. Once she got back, she ignored all my texts and calls, and changed her facebook status to "in a relationship " with another guy our age.
I had absolutely no idea this was coming, we had spoken on skype every night and I didn't doubt for a second that we were in love. When she finally returned my calls, she said we were done forever and that she was with him now, and no longer has any feelings for me.
Keep in mind she never hesitated to tell me she loved me, was a faithful partner, and anyone on the outside told us we were lucky to have such an amazing relationship. She has met and gets along great with my family and friends. I know we're young, but I honestly wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, start a family and everything. I truly believed she was the one.
When I saw that she changed her facebook I was completely taken aback and shocked. I immediately threw up, and have not been able to eat or drink anything for three days now because I keep vomiting (dry heaving as well because my stomach is empty). I can't stop shaking and I feel incredibly weak. I'm dehydrated and still in shock. My anxiety is through the roof. I have lost about seven pounds since Thursday. I am a complete wreck and everyday seems to hurt worse than the last. I have had to call in sick to work because I have no emotional or physical capacity to work.
I'm about done, please give me advice on how to get my life back.
TL;DR: | Amazing loving girlfriend of four months left me out of the blue for another guy, I've lost control of my mind and body and can't see anyway that it will improve |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: help
POST: m21 here. Was with ex for well over 4 years. Ended 4 weeks ago.
So here I am. I'm lying on the couch just like i have been for the past 4 weeks. Cant stand the thought of sleeping in my bed without her. I'm no longer able to sleep at night (it's 6am here now), which makes the whole thing more unbearable - everything is worse at night. I'm drinking almost every day, and I just feel so lost and alone.
Our relationship was far from healthy the last two years. Jealousy and arguments became normal for me, and my whole life was centered around her. We knew all along that this couldn't go on, but we kept trying. It was the first real relationship for both of us, and neither of us could imagine a life without the other.
Its weird. I've always been the guy with the good advice who knew what to do. But now, I'm fucking lost. I'm moving to a new city in 4 days, which I guess is good. I cant stand the thought of interacting with new people though, starting school and all that.
This turned out to be more of a rant than I'd hoped, but its a cluster of emotions all tangled up, and I cant really sort it out. I guess I just need someone to say something. I have no friends I can really talk to. Our relationship made my friend list a lot shorter as well.. I feel like crying, but I cant, so I have that feeling you get when you're about to cry constantly.
TL;DR: | I feel like I'm walking under water. Its lonely and weird, and I just dont feel like I can handle this shit.. I think I'm looking for someone to tell me how to carry on |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Am I [27f] settling with my boyfriend? [27m]
POST: I forget what a relationship is supposed to feel like! My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, living together for one.
I have always been more affectionate than my boyfriend is. I said I love you first, he didn't answer. He eventually said it, but I am still always the one that initiates it, and half the time his response is silence. He rarely tells me I'm pretty. I used to really love these things, and now it doesn't really bother me anymore that he doesn't do it.
We enjoy doing everyday things together like watching movies and going out for dinner, but he doesn't really share my passions. I would be happy to pursue these things with friends who share these interests, but he gets angry and aggravated if I want to do things without him.
We enjoy spending time together and we have the same sense of humor. We are generally pretty happy together. But I feel like I have these unreasonable expectations in a way. Are any of you out there in relationships where you love the same things in life and you truly feel loved every day? I have never experienced this and I don't know that I could find it at this point. I feel like I am less myself than I was two years ago.
TL;DR: | I love my boyfriend but I don't know if I am as happy as I could be. Is the grass sometimes actually greener? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by taking an exam
POST: So, today was the day of an English A level exam. As I am an English student, this meant that two and a half hours of my morning were spent in a hall with about one hundred other people frantically writing.
More importantly, a minor disagreement with my parents the day before meant that my mobile phone had been confiscated. As I wasn't very happy with this, I decided to take it back without their knowing, but hid it under the sole of my shoe to make sure they didn't find it if they were to check my pockets. It sounds odd, but this is something they've done in the past so I thought: "better safe than sorry".
Fast forward to the exam, i'm busy writing about drama and poetry I suddenly realise that I can hear my ringtone. For the curious, this is what could be heard:
Thankfully, because my ringtone volume was low and it was muffled by my foot, very few people actually heard it. But there were definitely a couple people around me who were asked to 'test their might' halfway through their paper.
TL;DR: | Phone went off in the middle of an exam, but ringtone was muffled as it was under the sole of my shoe. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Trying to figure out if this girl likes me!
POST: Little backstory here, I (18M) am absolutely horrific with the opposite gender. I have never been good reading hints from women and have a low self esteem.
Anyways me and one of my buddy's were hanging out in my car yesterday at the local meet-up spot. And this girl; one of my cousins friends, (16F) who I have known for about 2 months now and gotten to know pretty well, walks over to my car and gets in the backseat.
We were just chatting when my buddy got out of my car to grab something from his car. She climbs over the seat and into the passenger seat. It seemed like she was flirting with me. She then grabs my phone and starts to take about 40 selfies on it.
Fast forward about an hour of chatting and potential flirting when she asks me if I have a "babe". I replied no and she kept on prying, and even asking my buddy. I mean like really prying. She then asks if she is my "babe" (somewhat jokingly, I think). I got all red faced and embarrassed and quickly replied no.
Anyways, just looking for your opinion and help! Thanks
Sorry if there are a ton of mistakes. First time poster, long time lurker. Also on mobile.
TL;DR: | Gorgeous girl takes a ton of selfies on my phone, potentially flirts, and pry's me if I have a girlfriend then asks me if she is my girlfriend (jokingly.... I think..?) |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 20 F with boyfriend 20 M, together for over a year, want to tell him that if like to spend time together but not just studying and at the end of the day
POST: A little background: I'm not reall ambitious, I do my school work, I get by. My boyfriend is much more ambitious and very intelligent, I love him to death and he feels the same way. But because he's always so busy and I rank beneath work in the pecking order, unless i go on a date with him (which is pretty rare because of our schedules) I only get to spend time with him studying or late at night after studying. There's no way I'm giving him an ultimatum it's completely unnecessary as I think this is something pretty minor and it can be dealt with quite easily, how do I tell him I'd like him to make a bit of time for me during the day where we can hang out like we used to before we started getting serious. Reddit please give me some advice.
TL;DR: | want to spend more time with my man during the day, but don't know how to tell him without sounding needy af |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (17M) friends (17F,17F) seem mad at me and I don't know why!
POST: Hi everyone!
As the title says, my friends who I have known for 2 1/2-3 years are acting cold and distant to me :( and i really want to invite them to my birthday party (turning 18 tomorrow, yay :D) because we have so much fun!
Just some back story, these 2 girls are like the sisters I never had! Always caring and helpful and when we go out we have the best time ever! In fact I went out with one on Sunday and she seemed so excited! I messaged them (not about the party) yesterday and they just ignored me, they seemed quite irritated when they got back and I'm debating if i should just stay home tomorrow ( yes I have other friends, but like going out with them the most). I haven't talked to one since end of May due to the massive amount of work and i think she understands.
So in conclusion I would like to know if i should invite them tomorrow and what I could have done to make them angry.
Thanks in advance :)
TL;DR: | Long time friends seem mad at me out of the blue and i want to invite then tomorrow to my birthday but scared I'll be annoying. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Need Advice Regarding Potential Move (CA)
POST: I am a student currently in the fourth month of a 12 month lease in a house shared with 5 other intolerable roommates, located in a financially poor area of town. It is, however, walking distance to my school. Cost of rent is $825/month, all inclusive until the end of August. My plan at the start of the lease was to stay till the end of April and lease out the remaining months of the contract.
I've recently grown tired of putting up with my roommates poor habits (which I have addressed multiple times), and am looking into moving to a new home. I have found a nice house shared with a couple listed at $985/month, all inclusive. This house is much nicer and the housemates are very similar to me in terms of expectations. It would require me to commute 25 minutes to school so that adds on $108 monthly for transit costs.
If I moved, it would require me to find someone to sublet my current room immediately. I am wondering if this would be a smart move for me, from a financial and well being point of view. My roommates are not bad people per se, we just have different standards on cleanliness and sharing household items. I am trying to negotiate down the price of the new home. I am also wondering if I am able to sublet my current room at a rate higher than what I am paying? I gave my landlord pre-dated cheques so any subletter I find would be paying me directly.
TL;DR: | Paying $825 for rent with annoying roommates. Want to move at a cost of $985+108 in transportation. Good or bad? |
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