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w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | igmmmw3 | igm7fex | 1,658,142,196 | 1,658,129,748 | 5 | 3 | Your parents can't evicted you. They are not the landlord and isnt on the lease so they don't have a say in the matter. >The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. Your landlord is aware of the situation (the illness) and is giving you time to pay the missing share of the rent money Contact your Landlord about what your parents trying to do and get evidence to show him if possible. Get a lawyer, just in case, your parents try to evicted you with out landlord approval | Contact your landlord let them know what is going on . Then contact social services and inform them so your parents cant report you for fraud get ahead of them. Put a lock on your room door take pics of it . If they try to force you out call 911. | 1 | 12,448 | 1.666667 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | igl1ct5 | igmmmw3 | 1,658,104,458 | 1,658,142,196 | 2 | 5 | Realistically you have nothing to worry about as long as your landlord in writing has given you a extension of rent. Your parents don't own the property and thus can't evict anyone. They have no power in this and at most can just give baseless threats that can't lead to anything. Just make sure via written that the landlord is to not listen to anyone about your living situations. | Your parents can't evicted you. They are not the landlord and isnt on the lease so they don't have a say in the matter. >The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. Your landlord is aware of the situation (the illness) and is giving you time to pay the missing share of the rent money Contact your Landlord about what your parents trying to do and get evidence to show him if possible. Get a lawyer, just in case, your parents try to evicted you with out landlord approval | 0 | 37,738 | 2.5 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | iglmdgp | igmmmw3 | 1,658,115,197 | 1,658,142,196 | 2 | 5 | They’re not on the lease, they have no power or bearing over you. | Your parents can't evicted you. They are not the landlord and isnt on the lease so they don't have a say in the matter. >The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. Your landlord is aware of the situation (the illness) and is giving you time to pay the missing share of the rent money Contact your Landlord about what your parents trying to do and get evidence to show him if possible. Get a lawyer, just in case, your parents try to evicted you with out landlord approval | 0 | 26,999 | 2.5 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | igl2jvj | igks7s2 | 1,658,105,047 | 1,658,100,007 | 4 | 2 | I mean on what grounds? They aren't on the lease and you are. They don't own the house nor live with you. Your parents obviously have 0 understanding on law. Heck they might even have negative understanding considering they think in any way shape or form they have a say in YOUR lease. Just kick back, grab a beer, and don't worry about it. Just pay your rent and the actual landlord can't do anything either. | They have no legal basis to evict you, but if they work with your brother to dump your stuff outside, have a back up plan. Would police where you are help you in a case like that? If they manhandle you out, that would be assualt. | 1 | 5,040 | 2 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | igks7s2 | iglk732 | 1,658,100,007 | 1,658,113,934 | 2 | 4 | They have no legal basis to evict you, but if they work with your brother to dump your stuff outside, have a back up plan. Would police where you are help you in a case like that? If they manhandle you out, that would be assualt. | Honestly sounds like your parents are just trying to gain some form of control over you and trying to use a fear tactic they sound controlling like they are using the fact that they help some financially as a way to make you think they have control when in reality they do not I would attempt to try to become completely financially independent from them and going NC | 0 | 13,927 | 2 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | igks7s2 | igmlv47 | 1,658,100,007 | 1,658,141,625 | 2 | 3 | They have no legal basis to evict you, but if they work with your brother to dump your stuff outside, have a back up plan. Would police where you are help you in a case like that? If they manhandle you out, that would be assualt. | Not a lawyer. If they aren't on the lease and they don't own the house, they can't evict you. Your landlord is the only person who can evict you. | 0 | 41,618 | 1.5 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | iglnz2k | igks7s2 | 1,658,116,155 | 1,658,100,007 | 3 | 2 | As others have said, they can't legally do anything to you. But if your relationship is souring, it might be a good idea to start documenting your belongings and taking pictures of your room every time you leave. Just in case they start doing things that aren't legal. | They have no legal basis to evict you, but if they work with your brother to dump your stuff outside, have a back up plan. Would police where you are help you in a case like that? If they manhandle you out, that would be assualt. | 1 | 16,148 | 1.5 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | igm7fex | igks7s2 | 1,658,129,748 | 1,658,100,007 | 3 | 2 | Contact your landlord let them know what is going on . Then contact social services and inform them so your parents cant report you for fraud get ahead of them. Put a lock on your room door take pics of it . If they try to force you out call 911. | They have no legal basis to evict you, but if they work with your brother to dump your stuff outside, have a back up plan. Would police where you are help you in a case like that? If they manhandle you out, that would be assualt. | 1 | 29,741 | 1.5 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | igl2jvj | igl1ct5 | 1,658,105,047 | 1,658,104,458 | 4 | 2 | I mean on what grounds? They aren't on the lease and you are. They don't own the house nor live with you. Your parents obviously have 0 understanding on law. Heck they might even have negative understanding considering they think in any way shape or form they have a say in YOUR lease. Just kick back, grab a beer, and don't worry about it. Just pay your rent and the actual landlord can't do anything either. | Realistically you have nothing to worry about as long as your landlord in writing has given you a extension of rent. Your parents don't own the property and thus can't evict anyone. They have no power in this and at most can just give baseless threats that can't lead to anything. Just make sure via written that the landlord is to not listen to anyone about your living situations. | 1 | 589 | 2 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | iglk732 | igl1ct5 | 1,658,113,934 | 1,658,104,458 | 4 | 2 | Honestly sounds like your parents are just trying to gain some form of control over you and trying to use a fear tactic they sound controlling like they are using the fact that they help some financially as a way to make you think they have control when in reality they do not I would attempt to try to become completely financially independent from them and going NC | Realistically you have nothing to worry about as long as your landlord in writing has given you a extension of rent. Your parents don't own the property and thus can't evict anyone. They have no power in this and at most can just give baseless threats that can't lead to anything. Just make sure via written that the landlord is to not listen to anyone about your living situations. | 1 | 9,476 | 2 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | igmlv47 | igl1ct5 | 1,658,141,625 | 1,658,104,458 | 3 | 2 | Not a lawyer. If they aren't on the lease and they don't own the house, they can't evict you. Your landlord is the only person who can evict you. | Realistically you have nothing to worry about as long as your landlord in writing has given you a extension of rent. Your parents don't own the property and thus can't evict anyone. They have no power in this and at most can just give baseless threats that can't lead to anything. Just make sure via written that the landlord is to not listen to anyone about your living situations. | 1 | 37,167 | 1.5 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | iglmdgp | igmlv47 | 1,658,115,197 | 1,658,141,625 | 2 | 3 | They’re not on the lease, they have no power or bearing over you. | Not a lawyer. If they aren't on the lease and they don't own the house, they can't evict you. Your landlord is the only person who can evict you. | 0 | 26,428 | 1.5 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | iglnz2k | igl1ct5 | 1,658,116,155 | 1,658,104,458 | 3 | 2 | As others have said, they can't legally do anything to you. But if your relationship is souring, it might be a good idea to start documenting your belongings and taking pictures of your room every time you leave. Just in case they start doing things that aren't legal. | Realistically you have nothing to worry about as long as your landlord in writing has given you a extension of rent. Your parents don't own the property and thus can't evict anyone. They have no power in this and at most can just give baseless threats that can't lead to anything. Just make sure via written that the landlord is to not listen to anyone about your living situations. | 1 | 11,697 | 1.5 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | iglmdgp | iglnz2k | 1,658,115,197 | 1,658,116,155 | 2 | 3 | They’re not on the lease, they have no power or bearing over you. | As others have said, they can't legally do anything to you. But if your relationship is souring, it might be a good idea to start documenting your belongings and taking pictures of your room every time you leave. Just in case they start doing things that aren't legal. | 0 | 958 | 1.5 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | igm7fex | igl1ct5 | 1,658,129,748 | 1,658,104,458 | 3 | 2 | Contact your landlord let them know what is going on . Then contact social services and inform them so your parents cant report you for fraud get ahead of them. Put a lock on your room door take pics of it . If they try to force you out call 911. | Realistically you have nothing to worry about as long as your landlord in writing has given you a extension of rent. Your parents don't own the property and thus can't evict anyone. They have no power in this and at most can just give baseless threats that can't lead to anything. Just make sure via written that the landlord is to not listen to anyone about your living situations. | 1 | 25,290 | 1.5 |
w1ft6f | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you. | iglmdgp | igm7fex | 1,658,115,197 | 1,658,129,748 | 2 | 3 | They’re not on the lease, they have no power or bearing over you. | Contact your landlord let them know what is going on . Then contact social services and inform them so your parents cant report you for fraud get ahead of them. Put a lock on your room door take pics of it . If they try to force you out call 911. | 0 | 14,551 | 1.5 |
pynasd | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [PA]My Ex is dating a registered sex offender. Can I find out what his legal restrictions are? My ex started dating a lifetime registered sex offender. We have two daughters under the age of 10. My ex is trying to get 50/50 custody. My oldest told me after her last visit with her mother that my ex is planning on moving in with the sex offender. This guy just got out after more than 30 years in jail for rape. All I can find out is what's on the registry. 30 years seems like a very long sentence for rape. So I assume it was really bad. Can I find out what his parole and other restrictions are? Is it legal for me to dig into this? | hevxi47 | hevx261 | 1,633,029,679 | 1,633,029,489 | 1,409 | 216 | Contact your divorce lawyer, like, yesterday. Visitation may be out if she continues the relationship, pursuant to the terms of his release. This is not a self-help situation, though. | Try mycase.pa.gov search by his name. Should show all charges, sentencing, probation/parole conditions | 1 | 190 | 6.523148 |
pynasd | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [PA]My Ex is dating a registered sex offender. Can I find out what his legal restrictions are? My ex started dating a lifetime registered sex offender. We have two daughters under the age of 10. My ex is trying to get 50/50 custody. My oldest told me after her last visit with her mother that my ex is planning on moving in with the sex offender. This guy just got out after more than 30 years in jail for rape. All I can find out is what's on the registry. 30 years seems like a very long sentence for rape. So I assume it was really bad. Can I find out what his parole and other restrictions are? Is it legal for me to dig into this? | hevxi47 | hevfh4j | 1,633,029,679 | 1,633,022,166 | 1,409 | 212 | Contact your divorce lawyer, like, yesterday. Visitation may be out if she continues the relationship, pursuant to the terms of his release. This is not a self-help situation, though. | \*\*\*DISCLAIMER\*\*\* Warning Any person who uses the information contained herein to threaten, intimidate, or harass the registrant or their family, or who otherwise misuses this information, may be subject to criminal prosecution or civil liability \*\*\*DISCLAIMER\*\*\* https://www.pameganslaw.state.pa.us/Home/TermsAndConditions After you agree to the Terms & Conditions, there is a search function. This site won't tell you the conditions for parole or restrictions. It should tell you what they were convicted of. | 1 | 7,513 | 6.646226 |
pynasd | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [PA]My Ex is dating a registered sex offender. Can I find out what his legal restrictions are? My ex started dating a lifetime registered sex offender. We have two daughters under the age of 10. My ex is trying to get 50/50 custody. My oldest told me after her last visit with her mother that my ex is planning on moving in with the sex offender. This guy just got out after more than 30 years in jail for rape. All I can find out is what's on the registry. 30 years seems like a very long sentence for rape. So I assume it was really bad. Can I find out what his parole and other restrictions are? Is it legal for me to dig into this? | hevx261 | hevfh4j | 1,633,029,489 | 1,633,022,166 | 216 | 212 | Try mycase.pa.gov search by his name. Should show all charges, sentencing, probation/parole conditions | \*\*\*DISCLAIMER\*\*\* Warning Any person who uses the information contained herein to threaten, intimidate, or harass the registrant or their family, or who otherwise misuses this information, may be subject to criminal prosecution or civil liability \*\*\*DISCLAIMER\*\*\* https://www.pameganslaw.state.pa.us/Home/TermsAndConditions After you agree to the Terms & Conditions, there is a search function. This site won't tell you the conditions for parole or restrictions. It should tell you what they were convicted of. | 1 | 7,323 | 1.018868 |
pynasd | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [PA]My Ex is dating a registered sex offender. Can I find out what his legal restrictions are? My ex started dating a lifetime registered sex offender. We have two daughters under the age of 10. My ex is trying to get 50/50 custody. My oldest told me after her last visit with her mother that my ex is planning on moving in with the sex offender. This guy just got out after more than 30 years in jail for rape. All I can find out is what's on the registry. 30 years seems like a very long sentence for rape. So I assume it was really bad. Can I find out what his parole and other restrictions are? Is it legal for me to dig into this? | hex2162 | hexbpz5 | 1,633,048,254 | 1,633,052,955 | 11 | 198 | Your ex picked a real winner to be with. https://www.fbi.gov/scams-and-safety/sex-offender-registry https://www.nsopw.gov/ https://www.familywatchdog.us/ To report an incident or suspicious situation that may involve the extraterritorial sexual exploitation of children, file a report on the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC)'s website at www.cybertipline.com, or call 1-800-843-5678. Your report will be forwarded to a law enforcement agency for investigation and action. | Not a lawyer, but a PO who monitors sex offenders. You should be able to look on the state DOC website to see if he is on parole/community supervision or probation. You can get his inmate number, then call the main line to ask for his PO/CSO. If the info is restricted online (it sometimes is for these kinds of offenses), you can still call DOC and ask for his officer. They can follow up, if he’s in violation of his supervision conditions. I’d also call child services to report the info, and I’d definitely recommend talking to an attorney about adjusting custody. I would ask for full custody with supervised visitation. Her dating a SO can definitely jeopardize her ability to have custody of her children. Good luck. | 0 | 4,701 | 18 |
pynasd | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [PA]My Ex is dating a registered sex offender. Can I find out what his legal restrictions are? My ex started dating a lifetime registered sex offender. We have two daughters under the age of 10. My ex is trying to get 50/50 custody. My oldest told me after her last visit with her mother that my ex is planning on moving in with the sex offender. This guy just got out after more than 30 years in jail for rape. All I can find out is what's on the registry. 30 years seems like a very long sentence for rape. So I assume it was really bad. Can I find out what his parole and other restrictions are? Is it legal for me to dig into this? | hexbpz5 | hewwnhy | 1,633,052,955 | 1,633,045,594 | 198 | 5 | Not a lawyer, but a PO who monitors sex offenders. You should be able to look on the state DOC website to see if he is on parole/community supervision or probation. You can get his inmate number, then call the main line to ask for his PO/CSO. If the info is restricted online (it sometimes is for these kinds of offenses), you can still call DOC and ask for his officer. They can follow up, if he’s in violation of his supervision conditions. I’d also call child services to report the info, and I’d definitely recommend talking to an attorney about adjusting custody. I would ask for full custody with supervised visitation. Her dating a SO can definitely jeopardize her ability to have custody of her children. Good luck. | Meganslaw.org | 1 | 7,361 | 39.6 |
pynasd | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [PA]My Ex is dating a registered sex offender. Can I find out what his legal restrictions are? My ex started dating a lifetime registered sex offender. We have two daughters under the age of 10. My ex is trying to get 50/50 custody. My oldest told me after her last visit with her mother that my ex is planning on moving in with the sex offender. This guy just got out after more than 30 years in jail for rape. All I can find out is what's on the registry. 30 years seems like a very long sentence for rape. So I assume it was really bad. Can I find out what his parole and other restrictions are? Is it legal for me to dig into this? | hexfi3g | hex2162 | 1,633,054,777 | 1,633,048,254 | 168 | 11 | You should be able to pull his full criminal file. It should be a public record unless it was sealed for some reason (eg, to protect the identity of the victim). If he spent 30 years in prison for it, it was bad. Really bad. If he’s on parole, which seems likely, you should definitely reach out to his parole officer and let him know your concerns. He may be violating conditions of his parole. | Your ex picked a real winner to be with. https://www.fbi.gov/scams-and-safety/sex-offender-registry https://www.nsopw.gov/ https://www.familywatchdog.us/ To report an incident or suspicious situation that may involve the extraterritorial sexual exploitation of children, file a report on the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC)'s website at www.cybertipline.com, or call 1-800-843-5678. Your report will be forwarded to a law enforcement agency for investigation and action. | 1 | 6,523 | 15.272727 |
pynasd | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [PA]My Ex is dating a registered sex offender. Can I find out what his legal restrictions are? My ex started dating a lifetime registered sex offender. We have two daughters under the age of 10. My ex is trying to get 50/50 custody. My oldest told me after her last visit with her mother that my ex is planning on moving in with the sex offender. This guy just got out after more than 30 years in jail for rape. All I can find out is what's on the registry. 30 years seems like a very long sentence for rape. So I assume it was really bad. Can I find out what his parole and other restrictions are? Is it legal for me to dig into this? | hewwnhy | hexfi3g | 1,633,045,594 | 1,633,054,777 | 5 | 168 | Meganslaw.org | You should be able to pull his full criminal file. It should be a public record unless it was sealed for some reason (eg, to protect the identity of the victim). If he spent 30 years in prison for it, it was bad. Really bad. If he’s on parole, which seems likely, you should definitely reach out to his parole officer and let him know your concerns. He may be violating conditions of his parole. | 0 | 9,183 | 33.6 |
pynasd | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [PA]My Ex is dating a registered sex offender. Can I find out what his legal restrictions are? My ex started dating a lifetime registered sex offender. We have two daughters under the age of 10. My ex is trying to get 50/50 custody. My oldest told me after her last visit with her mother that my ex is planning on moving in with the sex offender. This guy just got out after more than 30 years in jail for rape. All I can find out is what's on the registry. 30 years seems like a very long sentence for rape. So I assume it was really bad. Can I find out what his parole and other restrictions are? Is it legal for me to dig into this? | hewwnhy | hex2162 | 1,633,045,594 | 1,633,048,254 | 5 | 11 | Meganslaw.org | Your ex picked a real winner to be with. https://www.fbi.gov/scams-and-safety/sex-offender-registry https://www.nsopw.gov/ https://www.familywatchdog.us/ To report an incident or suspicious situation that may involve the extraterritorial sexual exploitation of children, file a report on the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC)'s website at www.cybertipline.com, or call 1-800-843-5678. Your report will be forwarded to a law enforcement agency for investigation and action. | 0 | 2,660 | 2.2 |
e03oh3 | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | (NV) Housekeeper brought a tier 3 registered sex offender to my house to help her clean... We have had a housekeeper for about a year who has been fine -- friendly, does a good job, not too expensive. A few weeks ago she asked my wife if she could have her boyfriend help her out, and my wife just said "fine". The guy arrives at my house with our housekeeper, and we get to talking and he mentions he had spent time in the joint (with no specifics). I relay this info to my wife who first asks the housekeeper what the deal was. The housekeeper says he was in the join in 2005 for a bar fight. My wife googles him and finds out he's a tier-3 registered sex offender with a conviction for sexual assault on someone under the age of 14 in 2015 -- and he's registered at the housekeeper's address. We have a three year old. Needless to say, we fired the housekeeper -- but my legal advice question is -- do we just drop it at this point? Or is his being around our child some sort of violation? The guy didn't do anything untoward when he was in the house, mind you. He didn't approach my child, he just did his job and was pilot to all of us. But, I'm sure the housekeeper has other clients and, given she wasn't upfront about this guy and now realizes that she'll likely be fired if a client finds out, she's likely to continue having him go to houses and help clean without informing he clients of his past. So, drop it or report him? | f8bpkns | f8bprkb | 1,574,442,373 | 1,574,442,502 | 60 | 107 | >Needless to say, we fired the housekeeper -- but my legal advice question is -- do we just drop it at this point? Or is his being around our child some sort of violation? He knows his own conditions. It's reasonable for him to ask, before going into someone else's house, whether doing that would put him in breach. If she needed "help", why not mention it when hired? Why now? What's changed? Did your housekeeper lie to you to get him into your house, so he could get closer to your kid? Did he coerce her to do that? Darn tootin' I'd report that. On the flipside, did the ex-con ever actually come into your house? Once he realised there was a kid there, what did he do next? Was he under any conditions to do anything next? It's not impossible that he's just trying to make some money however he can, knowing how hard it is to find work with a record like his. It might very well be that she's just trying to help him out, but again, she still lied to you to get him into a house she knew full well he might've had no business being in. Even if his intentions are completely innocent here, and for all we know they might be, hers unquestionably were not. How much of a hand you think he had in this might guide your decision-making here. e: having a record does not necessarily imply conditions, thank you randominternetguy | he most likely isn't violating any laws. being a sex offender doesn't mean you can't be around any children. | 0 | 129 | 1.783333 |
e03oh3 | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | (NV) Housekeeper brought a tier 3 registered sex offender to my house to help her clean... We have had a housekeeper for about a year who has been fine -- friendly, does a good job, not too expensive. A few weeks ago she asked my wife if she could have her boyfriend help her out, and my wife just said "fine". The guy arrives at my house with our housekeeper, and we get to talking and he mentions he had spent time in the joint (with no specifics). I relay this info to my wife who first asks the housekeeper what the deal was. The housekeeper says he was in the join in 2005 for a bar fight. My wife googles him and finds out he's a tier-3 registered sex offender with a conviction for sexual assault on someone under the age of 14 in 2015 -- and he's registered at the housekeeper's address. We have a three year old. Needless to say, we fired the housekeeper -- but my legal advice question is -- do we just drop it at this point? Or is his being around our child some sort of violation? The guy didn't do anything untoward when he was in the house, mind you. He didn't approach my child, he just did his job and was pilot to all of us. But, I'm sure the housekeeper has other clients and, given she wasn't upfront about this guy and now realizes that she'll likely be fired if a client finds out, she's likely to continue having him go to houses and help clean without informing he clients of his past. So, drop it or report him? | f8bpkns | f8carm9 | 1,574,442,373 | 1,574,456,334 | 60 | 95 | >Needless to say, we fired the housekeeper -- but my legal advice question is -- do we just drop it at this point? Or is his being around our child some sort of violation? He knows his own conditions. It's reasonable for him to ask, before going into someone else's house, whether doing that would put him in breach. If she needed "help", why not mention it when hired? Why now? What's changed? Did your housekeeper lie to you to get him into your house, so he could get closer to your kid? Did he coerce her to do that? Darn tootin' I'd report that. On the flipside, did the ex-con ever actually come into your house? Once he realised there was a kid there, what did he do next? Was he under any conditions to do anything next? It's not impossible that he's just trying to make some money however he can, knowing how hard it is to find work with a record like his. It might very well be that she's just trying to help him out, but again, she still lied to you to get him into a house she knew full well he might've had no business being in. Even if his intentions are completely innocent here, and for all we know they might be, hers unquestionably were not. How much of a hand you think he had in this might guide your decision-making here. e: having a record does not necessarily imply conditions, thank you randominternetguy | Unless the person is on probation or parole and part of their restrictions is not to be around minors, he's not breaking a law. In Michigan and Nevada as well (both states use the same reporting software if I recall) tier 3 is the most frequent reporting and reserved for the worst of the worst. Generally tier 3 verify every 90 days and must stay current on address changes, and things of that sort. You can call your states sex offender registry number usually ran by the state police. They may not be aware that he is working in the capacity he is. He could be found non compliant for failure to add an employer. You can also pick their brain about the legality of him working with his girlfriend. -source, I process sex offender registry daily. | 0 | 13,961 | 1.583333 |
e03oh3 | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | (NV) Housekeeper brought a tier 3 registered sex offender to my house to help her clean... We have had a housekeeper for about a year who has been fine -- friendly, does a good job, not too expensive. A few weeks ago she asked my wife if she could have her boyfriend help her out, and my wife just said "fine". The guy arrives at my house with our housekeeper, and we get to talking and he mentions he had spent time in the joint (with no specifics). I relay this info to my wife who first asks the housekeeper what the deal was. The housekeeper says he was in the join in 2005 for a bar fight. My wife googles him and finds out he's a tier-3 registered sex offender with a conviction for sexual assault on someone under the age of 14 in 2015 -- and he's registered at the housekeeper's address. We have a three year old. Needless to say, we fired the housekeeper -- but my legal advice question is -- do we just drop it at this point? Or is his being around our child some sort of violation? The guy didn't do anything untoward when he was in the house, mind you. He didn't approach my child, he just did his job and was pilot to all of us. But, I'm sure the housekeeper has other clients and, given she wasn't upfront about this guy and now realizes that she'll likely be fired if a client finds out, she's likely to continue having him go to houses and help clean without informing he clients of his past. So, drop it or report him? | f8c9xei | f8carm9 | 1,574,455,834 | 1,574,456,334 | 7 | 95 | If he's on parole or probation, this might violate a term and condition. If not, then it likely isn't illegal. | Unless the person is on probation or parole and part of their restrictions is not to be around minors, he's not breaking a law. In Michigan and Nevada as well (both states use the same reporting software if I recall) tier 3 is the most frequent reporting and reserved for the worst of the worst. Generally tier 3 verify every 90 days and must stay current on address changes, and things of that sort. You can call your states sex offender registry number usually ran by the state police. They may not be aware that he is working in the capacity he is. He could be found non compliant for failure to add an employer. You can also pick their brain about the legality of him working with his girlfriend. -source, I process sex offender registry daily. | 0 | 500 | 13.571429 |
7neo7n | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Just found out my tenant sub-let a room to a registered sex offender. Could this potentially effect me in any way? (NC) I'm leasing a single family home to one tenant. When we discussed her leasing, she asked if she could put multiple people (3) on the lease. I told her no, I'd sign a lease agreement with just her and would allow her to sub-let. Provided there were no more tenants than there were bedrooms. My sister called to let me know my house shows up on the sex offender registry now. I'm concerned this could impact me in some way. Any advice? | ds1um2x | ds1ws17 | 1,514,841,883 | 1,514,844,527 | 12 | 57 | Could make it a headache to rent in the future. Once an address is on the list, it could get pulled off onto a private site that's advocating for this or that w/r/t sex offenders, and even if the person moves out, your address may not get off that private site if there's sufficient (and normal) neglect of updates, which means that your address may well be enshrined in a vastly out-of-date list of sex offender addresses that will live forever. Figure out which tenant is the listed person, and when they move out, comb the internet for your address being connected to sex offenders and ask them to remove your property from the list. | I supervise sex offenders on probation, and I used to work for a property management company. I’ve never had a case in either circumstance where a landlord has been held responsible for anything a tenant has done, crime-wise. If this residence is inappropriate, typically the sheriff’s deputies/police officers who monitor the SO registry will let the tenant know whether or not they can reside there. You can always check with the agency that runs the registry in your jurisdiction, if you have questions about how it works, or whether or not your property fulfills the density restrictions. I actually work with several landlords who pretty much exclusively rent to sex offenders, as most people won’t rent to that type of offender. They charged quite a bit more than what the units were actually worth, and made a ton of money. As a PO, it is, frankly, nice to have an extra set of eyes on my clients. And, I can call the landlords and ask if they have any availability for my new releases. In my experience, sex offenders are otherwise pretty law abiding, usually were employed, and paid their bills on time. In fact, when I retire, I am seriously considering buying a couple of complexes to accommodate sex offenders, as there is a huge need for decent housing in that arena. Side note - If there are kids in the residence, and the offender’s crime involved a minor, I’d probably call child protective services to anonymously report that information, just for my own peace of mind. | 0 | 2,644 | 4.75 |
7neo7n | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Just found out my tenant sub-let a room to a registered sex offender. Could this potentially effect me in any way? (NC) I'm leasing a single family home to one tenant. When we discussed her leasing, she asked if she could put multiple people (3) on the lease. I told her no, I'd sign a lease agreement with just her and would allow her to sub-let. Provided there were no more tenants than there were bedrooms. My sister called to let me know my house shows up on the sex offender registry now. I'm concerned this could impact me in some way. Any advice? | ds1qd53 | ds1ws17 | 1,514,836,843 | 1,514,844,527 | 5 | 57 | Do you have any stipulations in the lease agreement prohibiting sub-leasing (unless you give express written approval)? If you don't have the right of refusal of any sub-lessee per the terms of the lease agreement, there is little you can do to stop this person from continuing living in your house. Depending on the terms of the sub-lease, your tenant may be able to evict this person, and you can (help) pay for a lawyer if necessary. Another clause that may help you is a clause prohibiting people described a certain way from residing and/or visiting the property. This will primarily impact your personal reputation, the value of the property, and your ability to rent your property in the future. There is also an increased risk of crime occurring in or near your property. | I supervise sex offenders on probation, and I used to work for a property management company. I’ve never had a case in either circumstance where a landlord has been held responsible for anything a tenant has done, crime-wise. If this residence is inappropriate, typically the sheriff’s deputies/police officers who monitor the SO registry will let the tenant know whether or not they can reside there. You can always check with the agency that runs the registry in your jurisdiction, if you have questions about how it works, or whether or not your property fulfills the density restrictions. I actually work with several landlords who pretty much exclusively rent to sex offenders, as most people won’t rent to that type of offender. They charged quite a bit more than what the units were actually worth, and made a ton of money. As a PO, it is, frankly, nice to have an extra set of eyes on my clients. And, I can call the landlords and ask if they have any availability for my new releases. In my experience, sex offenders are otherwise pretty law abiding, usually were employed, and paid their bills on time. In fact, when I retire, I am seriously considering buying a couple of complexes to accommodate sex offenders, as there is a huge need for decent housing in that arena. Side note - If there are kids in the residence, and the offender’s crime involved a minor, I’d probably call child protective services to anonymously report that information, just for my own peace of mind. | 0 | 7,684 | 11.4 |
7neo7n | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Just found out my tenant sub-let a room to a registered sex offender. Could this potentially effect me in any way? (NC) I'm leasing a single family home to one tenant. When we discussed her leasing, she asked if she could put multiple people (3) on the lease. I told her no, I'd sign a lease agreement with just her and would allow her to sub-let. Provided there were no more tenants than there were bedrooms. My sister called to let me know my house shows up on the sex offender registry now. I'm concerned this could impact me in some way. Any advice? | ds1qd53 | ds1um2x | 1,514,836,843 | 1,514,841,883 | 5 | 12 | Do you have any stipulations in the lease agreement prohibiting sub-leasing (unless you give express written approval)? If you don't have the right of refusal of any sub-lessee per the terms of the lease agreement, there is little you can do to stop this person from continuing living in your house. Depending on the terms of the sub-lease, your tenant may be able to evict this person, and you can (help) pay for a lawyer if necessary. Another clause that may help you is a clause prohibiting people described a certain way from residing and/or visiting the property. This will primarily impact your personal reputation, the value of the property, and your ability to rent your property in the future. There is also an increased risk of crime occurring in or near your property. | Could make it a headache to rent in the future. Once an address is on the list, it could get pulled off onto a private site that's advocating for this or that w/r/t sex offenders, and even if the person moves out, your address may not get off that private site if there's sufficient (and normal) neglect of updates, which means that your address may well be enshrined in a vastly out-of-date list of sex offender addresses that will live forever. Figure out which tenant is the listed person, and when they move out, comb the internet for your address being connected to sex offenders and ask them to remove your property from the list. | 0 | 5,040 | 2.4 |
3yjaol | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [PA] Bought a house 1 year ago. Apparently there are neighborhood covenants. Can these be enforced? I bought a house about 1 year ago that is located in a small plan on a dead-end road. There are about 7 houses that were constructed in the year 2000 time frame. There are about 15 additional open lots that have never sold. Recently someone dropped off in my mailbox about 20 rules titled "[Plan Name] Covenants" that l have never heard about. Most of the rules are related to the size and type of houses to be built on the land, which really don't apply to me since I bought a house that was already constructed. However, there are some other rules such as no fences allowed, no animals besides dogs/cats, no sheds allowed which may impact me in the future. I would like to build a fence around my garden... Funny thing is is that there are multiple people in the neighborhood in violation of the rules, some people have fences and others have built small sheds. I think the person who passed out the rules is the owner of the empty lots who still comes by to cut the grass and maintain them. First off, I have looked back through all the documents I signed during the home-buying process. The disclosure forms specifically state that this home is not part of an HOA or other neighborhood organization. There is no mention of neighborhood rules in any document that i signed. I looked back at the deed that I signed. There is no mention of any rules. There is only a generic statement on the deed "Under and subject to reservations, restrictions, easements and rights of way as the same may appear in prior instruments of record". Okay.. So, I looked in county records for every deed for this property dating back to 1970s before this plan was even developed. There is no mention of neighborhood rules in any of the deeds. Only the generic statement that I quoted above appears. I also looked through the deeds of my neighbors and none of their deeds mention neighborhood rules either... The deed references one other document in the "Plan Book". I looked that up and it is an engineering drawing that shows the lot sizes, rights of way, easements, etc. There is no mention of neighborhood rules on this drawing. I am trying to figure out if I am subject to these rules. They came as a total surprise to me. I cannot find them mentioned or recorded anywhere in the county records. Does anyone know where else I can look? I have standard title insurance. Should I contact them? I believe the title insurance company did the closing and these rules were never mentioned. I think this is something that should have been mentioned. | cydwr95 | cydwu35 | 1,451,321,158 | 1,451,321,286 | 19 | 90 | Restrictive covenants can be enforced, but typically it's only if the local municipality has a part in it. Anyone can attempt to enforce it, but they have to spend the time and money going through the proper channels to do so. | Local government official here. You may want to also check the local Zoning ordinances. Maybe your neighbor is providing an easily summed-up version of the zoning requirements of your neighborhood. | 0 | 128 | 4.736842 |
3yjaol | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [PA] Bought a house 1 year ago. Apparently there are neighborhood covenants. Can these be enforced? I bought a house about 1 year ago that is located in a small plan on a dead-end road. There are about 7 houses that were constructed in the year 2000 time frame. There are about 15 additional open lots that have never sold. Recently someone dropped off in my mailbox about 20 rules titled "[Plan Name] Covenants" that l have never heard about. Most of the rules are related to the size and type of houses to be built on the land, which really don't apply to me since I bought a house that was already constructed. However, there are some other rules such as no fences allowed, no animals besides dogs/cats, no sheds allowed which may impact me in the future. I would like to build a fence around my garden... Funny thing is is that there are multiple people in the neighborhood in violation of the rules, some people have fences and others have built small sheds. I think the person who passed out the rules is the owner of the empty lots who still comes by to cut the grass and maintain them. First off, I have looked back through all the documents I signed during the home-buying process. The disclosure forms specifically state that this home is not part of an HOA or other neighborhood organization. There is no mention of neighborhood rules in any document that i signed. I looked back at the deed that I signed. There is no mention of any rules. There is only a generic statement on the deed "Under and subject to reservations, restrictions, easements and rights of way as the same may appear in prior instruments of record". Okay.. So, I looked in county records for every deed for this property dating back to 1970s before this plan was even developed. There is no mention of neighborhood rules in any of the deeds. Only the generic statement that I quoted above appears. I also looked through the deeds of my neighbors and none of their deeds mention neighborhood rules either... The deed references one other document in the "Plan Book". I looked that up and it is an engineering drawing that shows the lot sizes, rights of way, easements, etc. There is no mention of neighborhood rules on this drawing. I am trying to figure out if I am subject to these rules. They came as a total surprise to me. I cannot find them mentioned or recorded anywhere in the county records. Does anyone know where else I can look? I have standard title insurance. Should I contact them? I believe the title insurance company did the closing and these rules were never mentioned. I think this is something that should have been mentioned. | cydyngt | cydxbym | 1,451,324,275 | 1,451,322,097 | 22 | 20 | If someone put non-mailed material in your mailbox, report their crime to the post office, only the USPS may put things in your mail box. | For my house in NY, there was a similar set of covenants for the development. They were included in the abstract for the property, and had expired (house was built 40 years ago, the covenants applied for 25 years). If you had a lawyer for the purchase, you could try asking him/her. | 1 | 2,178 | 1.1 |
3yjaol | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [PA] Bought a house 1 year ago. Apparently there are neighborhood covenants. Can these be enforced? I bought a house about 1 year ago that is located in a small plan on a dead-end road. There are about 7 houses that were constructed in the year 2000 time frame. There are about 15 additional open lots that have never sold. Recently someone dropped off in my mailbox about 20 rules titled "[Plan Name] Covenants" that l have never heard about. Most of the rules are related to the size and type of houses to be built on the land, which really don't apply to me since I bought a house that was already constructed. However, there are some other rules such as no fences allowed, no animals besides dogs/cats, no sheds allowed which may impact me in the future. I would like to build a fence around my garden... Funny thing is is that there are multiple people in the neighborhood in violation of the rules, some people have fences and others have built small sheds. I think the person who passed out the rules is the owner of the empty lots who still comes by to cut the grass and maintain them. First off, I have looked back through all the documents I signed during the home-buying process. The disclosure forms specifically state that this home is not part of an HOA or other neighborhood organization. There is no mention of neighborhood rules in any document that i signed. I looked back at the deed that I signed. There is no mention of any rules. There is only a generic statement on the deed "Under and subject to reservations, restrictions, easements and rights of way as the same may appear in prior instruments of record". Okay.. So, I looked in county records for every deed for this property dating back to 1970s before this plan was even developed. There is no mention of neighborhood rules in any of the deeds. Only the generic statement that I quoted above appears. I also looked through the deeds of my neighbors and none of their deeds mention neighborhood rules either... The deed references one other document in the "Plan Book". I looked that up and it is an engineering drawing that shows the lot sizes, rights of way, easements, etc. There is no mention of neighborhood rules on this drawing. I am trying to figure out if I am subject to these rules. They came as a total surprise to me. I cannot find them mentioned or recorded anywhere in the county records. Does anyone know where else I can look? I have standard title insurance. Should I contact them? I believe the title insurance company did the closing and these rules were never mentioned. I think this is something that should have been mentioned. | cydyngt | cydwr95 | 1,451,324,275 | 1,451,321,158 | 22 | 19 | If someone put non-mailed material in your mailbox, report their crime to the post office, only the USPS may put things in your mail box. | Restrictive covenants can be enforced, but typically it's only if the local municipality has a part in it. Anyone can attempt to enforce it, but they have to spend the time and money going through the proper channels to do so. | 1 | 3,117 | 1.157895 |
3yjaol | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [PA] Bought a house 1 year ago. Apparently there are neighborhood covenants. Can these be enforced? I bought a house about 1 year ago that is located in a small plan on a dead-end road. There are about 7 houses that were constructed in the year 2000 time frame. There are about 15 additional open lots that have never sold. Recently someone dropped off in my mailbox about 20 rules titled "[Plan Name] Covenants" that l have never heard about. Most of the rules are related to the size and type of houses to be built on the land, which really don't apply to me since I bought a house that was already constructed. However, there are some other rules such as no fences allowed, no animals besides dogs/cats, no sheds allowed which may impact me in the future. I would like to build a fence around my garden... Funny thing is is that there are multiple people in the neighborhood in violation of the rules, some people have fences and others have built small sheds. I think the person who passed out the rules is the owner of the empty lots who still comes by to cut the grass and maintain them. First off, I have looked back through all the documents I signed during the home-buying process. The disclosure forms specifically state that this home is not part of an HOA or other neighborhood organization. There is no mention of neighborhood rules in any document that i signed. I looked back at the deed that I signed. There is no mention of any rules. There is only a generic statement on the deed "Under and subject to reservations, restrictions, easements and rights of way as the same may appear in prior instruments of record". Okay.. So, I looked in county records for every deed for this property dating back to 1970s before this plan was even developed. There is no mention of neighborhood rules in any of the deeds. Only the generic statement that I quoted above appears. I also looked through the deeds of my neighbors and none of their deeds mention neighborhood rules either... The deed references one other document in the "Plan Book". I looked that up and it is an engineering drawing that shows the lot sizes, rights of way, easements, etc. There is no mention of neighborhood rules on this drawing. I am trying to figure out if I am subject to these rules. They came as a total surprise to me. I cannot find them mentioned or recorded anywhere in the county records. Does anyone know where else I can look? I have standard title insurance. Should I contact them? I believe the title insurance company did the closing and these rules were never mentioned. I think this is something that should have been mentioned. | cydwr95 | cydxbym | 1,451,321,158 | 1,451,322,097 | 19 | 20 | Restrictive covenants can be enforced, but typically it's only if the local municipality has a part in it. Anyone can attempt to enforce it, but they have to spend the time and money going through the proper channels to do so. | For my house in NY, there was a similar set of covenants for the development. They were included in the abstract for the property, and had expired (house was built 40 years ago, the covenants applied for 25 years). If you had a lawyer for the purchase, you could try asking him/her. | 0 | 939 | 1.052632 |
f40dqk | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Bought a house six months ago, old homeowners are still having packages delivered here and are now demanding that I contact them immediately when it happens. What are my legal rights if they get nasty? Hello! Buckle up, this one’s kinda long. A little background, my boyfriend and I purchased our home in September of 2019. Our experience with the sellers was tense, as they accepted our offer during negotiation and then tried to pass off shoddy repairs that did not pass inspection. Everything was eventually repaired successfully, but we’ve since discovered more things that they falsely represented or outright lied about (i.e. not only was the pool not winterized, it also has a huge leak). Overall our home buying experience was pretty rocky, but we really love the property so we accepted its flaws and moved on. Since we moved in, we have continued to receive mail and packages for the old homeowners, both personal and for a marketing business that the husband ran out of the garage. We have been marking all mail “Return to Sender, No Longer Here” and putting it back in the mailbox, but packages tend to be trickier because we have received them both through USPS and FedEx. At first I scheduled return to sender pick ups, but it started to get extremely irritating, so a few packages ended up sitting in our foyer for awhile. In December, the old homeowners reached out to us through our realtor to say that there would be a large shipment of FOOD arriving at our doorstep within the next few days, and requesting that we text the husband directly as soon as it arrived to come pick it up. My boyfriend and I both work full time jobs, and certainly weren’t going to stay home to watch for this shipment. We do have a Ring doorbell, but aren’t comfortable with the old owners just showing up to wander our property and pick things up off of our porch. We reluctantly agreed that I would text the owner once we put the packages at the end of our driveway, but made it clear that they were not to visit the property without our permission. The shipment turned out to be several HUGE boxes, and we put them all at the end of the driveway (along with the other packages that had accrued). I texted the former owner, he came and picked them up, and we hoped that that was it and we could go on living our happy lives. Since then, the former owner has texted me every so often to inquire about packages arriving. We have only received one package since December, and I did place it at the end of the driveway when he asked. We still receive A LOT of his business mail, including tax documents, but have marked all of them return to sender, and he has never asked about non-package mail before. This morning, he texted me saying that he has attempted to “get his companies to update the address on file,” but that important mail for his business will likely continue to arrive at our home, and that I need to text him and let him know immediately if we receive any so he can come pick it up. I have not responded, as I find his request fucking ridiculous considering that we have lived here for SIX MONTHS on top of how courteous both of us have been to him through this entire situation. I have zero desire to continue to have contact with this man, especially considering what a negative experience we had while buying our home from him. My question is, what legal rights do we have if he continues to have packages delivered to our house? I would really rather not have to schedule FedEx return pick ups for the rest of my life. We are located in a Southeastern Virginia county if that helps. Thank you for any and all advice! TL;DR: bought a house six months ago, old homeowner owns a business and keeps getting packages delivered here, contacted us through our realtor to ask if he could come pick them up. It has since escalated to him demanding that I text him whenever packages or mail arrive. What are my rights? | fhnfxlw | fhn5xxa | 1,581,726,263 | 1,581,722,314 | 229 | 56 | Your rights are to block his number and let him do all the calling to USPS, FedEx, UPS, whatever, to solve his own problem. This may involve him showing up unannounced on your property at which point you have the right to call the police. | As another user pointed out, contact UPS, Fedex, DHS, and your local post office. Explain to them the situation and ask how to prevent it. If you want to take a hard nosed approach, tell them under no circumstances are they to contact you again about this mail issue and for them to figure out how to deal with the problem and that if they contact you again or come onto your property, you'll notify the police. | 1 | 3,949 | 4.089286 |
f40dqk | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Bought a house six months ago, old homeowners are still having packages delivered here and are now demanding that I contact them immediately when it happens. What are my legal rights if they get nasty? Hello! Buckle up, this one’s kinda long. A little background, my boyfriend and I purchased our home in September of 2019. Our experience with the sellers was tense, as they accepted our offer during negotiation and then tried to pass off shoddy repairs that did not pass inspection. Everything was eventually repaired successfully, but we’ve since discovered more things that they falsely represented or outright lied about (i.e. not only was the pool not winterized, it also has a huge leak). Overall our home buying experience was pretty rocky, but we really love the property so we accepted its flaws and moved on. Since we moved in, we have continued to receive mail and packages for the old homeowners, both personal and for a marketing business that the husband ran out of the garage. We have been marking all mail “Return to Sender, No Longer Here” and putting it back in the mailbox, but packages tend to be trickier because we have received them both through USPS and FedEx. At first I scheduled return to sender pick ups, but it started to get extremely irritating, so a few packages ended up sitting in our foyer for awhile. In December, the old homeowners reached out to us through our realtor to say that there would be a large shipment of FOOD arriving at our doorstep within the next few days, and requesting that we text the husband directly as soon as it arrived to come pick it up. My boyfriend and I both work full time jobs, and certainly weren’t going to stay home to watch for this shipment. We do have a Ring doorbell, but aren’t comfortable with the old owners just showing up to wander our property and pick things up off of our porch. We reluctantly agreed that I would text the owner once we put the packages at the end of our driveway, but made it clear that they were not to visit the property without our permission. The shipment turned out to be several HUGE boxes, and we put them all at the end of the driveway (along with the other packages that had accrued). I texted the former owner, he came and picked them up, and we hoped that that was it and we could go on living our happy lives. Since then, the former owner has texted me every so often to inquire about packages arriving. We have only received one package since December, and I did place it at the end of the driveway when he asked. We still receive A LOT of his business mail, including tax documents, but have marked all of them return to sender, and he has never asked about non-package mail before. This morning, he texted me saying that he has attempted to “get his companies to update the address on file,” but that important mail for his business will likely continue to arrive at our home, and that I need to text him and let him know immediately if we receive any so he can come pick it up. I have not responded, as I find his request fucking ridiculous considering that we have lived here for SIX MONTHS on top of how courteous both of us have been to him through this entire situation. I have zero desire to continue to have contact with this man, especially considering what a negative experience we had while buying our home from him. My question is, what legal rights do we have if he continues to have packages delivered to our house? I would really rather not have to schedule FedEx return pick ups for the rest of my life. We are located in a Southeastern Virginia county if that helps. Thank you for any and all advice! TL;DR: bought a house six months ago, old homeowner owns a business and keeps getting packages delivered here, contacted us through our realtor to ask if he could come pick them up. It has since escalated to him demanding that I text him whenever packages or mail arrive. What are my rights? | fhn4wla | fhnfxlw | 1,581,721,961 | 1,581,726,263 | 54 | 229 | it’s been six months and he needs to do whatever it is to update His correct address but your are not responsibility for his packages & to no longer Contact you and block his number | Your rights are to block his number and let him do all the calling to USPS, FedEx, UPS, whatever, to solve his own problem. This may involve him showing up unannounced on your property at which point you have the right to call the police. | 0 | 4,302 | 4.240741 |
f40dqk | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Bought a house six months ago, old homeowners are still having packages delivered here and are now demanding that I contact them immediately when it happens. What are my legal rights if they get nasty? Hello! Buckle up, this one’s kinda long. A little background, my boyfriend and I purchased our home in September of 2019. Our experience with the sellers was tense, as they accepted our offer during negotiation and then tried to pass off shoddy repairs that did not pass inspection. Everything was eventually repaired successfully, but we’ve since discovered more things that they falsely represented or outright lied about (i.e. not only was the pool not winterized, it also has a huge leak). Overall our home buying experience was pretty rocky, but we really love the property so we accepted its flaws and moved on. Since we moved in, we have continued to receive mail and packages for the old homeowners, both personal and for a marketing business that the husband ran out of the garage. We have been marking all mail “Return to Sender, No Longer Here” and putting it back in the mailbox, but packages tend to be trickier because we have received them both through USPS and FedEx. At first I scheduled return to sender pick ups, but it started to get extremely irritating, so a few packages ended up sitting in our foyer for awhile. In December, the old homeowners reached out to us through our realtor to say that there would be a large shipment of FOOD arriving at our doorstep within the next few days, and requesting that we text the husband directly as soon as it arrived to come pick it up. My boyfriend and I both work full time jobs, and certainly weren’t going to stay home to watch for this shipment. We do have a Ring doorbell, but aren’t comfortable with the old owners just showing up to wander our property and pick things up off of our porch. We reluctantly agreed that I would text the owner once we put the packages at the end of our driveway, but made it clear that they were not to visit the property without our permission. The shipment turned out to be several HUGE boxes, and we put them all at the end of the driveway (along with the other packages that had accrued). I texted the former owner, he came and picked them up, and we hoped that that was it and we could go on living our happy lives. Since then, the former owner has texted me every so often to inquire about packages arriving. We have only received one package since December, and I did place it at the end of the driveway when he asked. We still receive A LOT of his business mail, including tax documents, but have marked all of them return to sender, and he has never asked about non-package mail before. This morning, he texted me saying that he has attempted to “get his companies to update the address on file,” but that important mail for his business will likely continue to arrive at our home, and that I need to text him and let him know immediately if we receive any so he can come pick it up. I have not responded, as I find his request fucking ridiculous considering that we have lived here for SIX MONTHS on top of how courteous both of us have been to him through this entire situation. I have zero desire to continue to have contact with this man, especially considering what a negative experience we had while buying our home from him. My question is, what legal rights do we have if he continues to have packages delivered to our house? I would really rather not have to schedule FedEx return pick ups for the rest of my life. We are located in a Southeastern Virginia county if that helps. Thank you for any and all advice! TL;DR: bought a house six months ago, old homeowner owns a business and keeps getting packages delivered here, contacted us through our realtor to ask if he could come pick them up. It has since escalated to him demanding that I text him whenever packages or mail arrive. What are my rights? | fho3gn3 | fhn5xxa | 1,581,740,221 | 1,581,722,314 | 112 | 56 | As an aside...change your locks if you haven't already, in case he decides to let himself in to look for his stuff...it's his problem, keep it his problem. | As another user pointed out, contact UPS, Fedex, DHS, and your local post office. Explain to them the situation and ask how to prevent it. If you want to take a hard nosed approach, tell them under no circumstances are they to contact you again about this mail issue and for them to figure out how to deal with the problem and that if they contact you again or come onto your property, you'll notify the police. | 1 | 17,907 | 2 |
f40dqk | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Bought a house six months ago, old homeowners are still having packages delivered here and are now demanding that I contact them immediately when it happens. What are my legal rights if they get nasty? Hello! Buckle up, this one’s kinda long. A little background, my boyfriend and I purchased our home in September of 2019. Our experience with the sellers was tense, as they accepted our offer during negotiation and then tried to pass off shoddy repairs that did not pass inspection. Everything was eventually repaired successfully, but we’ve since discovered more things that they falsely represented or outright lied about (i.e. not only was the pool not winterized, it also has a huge leak). Overall our home buying experience was pretty rocky, but we really love the property so we accepted its flaws and moved on. Since we moved in, we have continued to receive mail and packages for the old homeowners, both personal and for a marketing business that the husband ran out of the garage. We have been marking all mail “Return to Sender, No Longer Here” and putting it back in the mailbox, but packages tend to be trickier because we have received them both through USPS and FedEx. At first I scheduled return to sender pick ups, but it started to get extremely irritating, so a few packages ended up sitting in our foyer for awhile. In December, the old homeowners reached out to us through our realtor to say that there would be a large shipment of FOOD arriving at our doorstep within the next few days, and requesting that we text the husband directly as soon as it arrived to come pick it up. My boyfriend and I both work full time jobs, and certainly weren’t going to stay home to watch for this shipment. We do have a Ring doorbell, but aren’t comfortable with the old owners just showing up to wander our property and pick things up off of our porch. We reluctantly agreed that I would text the owner once we put the packages at the end of our driveway, but made it clear that they were not to visit the property without our permission. The shipment turned out to be several HUGE boxes, and we put them all at the end of the driveway (along with the other packages that had accrued). I texted the former owner, he came and picked them up, and we hoped that that was it and we could go on living our happy lives. Since then, the former owner has texted me every so often to inquire about packages arriving. We have only received one package since December, and I did place it at the end of the driveway when he asked. We still receive A LOT of his business mail, including tax documents, but have marked all of them return to sender, and he has never asked about non-package mail before. This morning, he texted me saying that he has attempted to “get his companies to update the address on file,” but that important mail for his business will likely continue to arrive at our home, and that I need to text him and let him know immediately if we receive any so he can come pick it up. I have not responded, as I find his request fucking ridiculous considering that we have lived here for SIX MONTHS on top of how courteous both of us have been to him through this entire situation. I have zero desire to continue to have contact with this man, especially considering what a negative experience we had while buying our home from him. My question is, what legal rights do we have if he continues to have packages delivered to our house? I would really rather not have to schedule FedEx return pick ups for the rest of my life. We are located in a Southeastern Virginia county if that helps. Thank you for any and all advice! TL;DR: bought a house six months ago, old homeowner owns a business and keeps getting packages delivered here, contacted us through our realtor to ask if he could come pick them up. It has since escalated to him demanding that I text him whenever packages or mail arrive. What are my rights? | fho3gn3 | fhn4wla | 1,581,740,221 | 1,581,721,961 | 112 | 54 | As an aside...change your locks if you haven't already, in case he decides to let himself in to look for his stuff...it's his problem, keep it his problem. | it’s been six months and he needs to do whatever it is to update His correct address but your are not responsibility for his packages & to no longer Contact you and block his number | 1 | 18,260 | 2.074074 |
f40dqk | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Bought a house six months ago, old homeowners are still having packages delivered here and are now demanding that I contact them immediately when it happens. What are my legal rights if they get nasty? Hello! Buckle up, this one’s kinda long. A little background, my boyfriend and I purchased our home in September of 2019. Our experience with the sellers was tense, as they accepted our offer during negotiation and then tried to pass off shoddy repairs that did not pass inspection. Everything was eventually repaired successfully, but we’ve since discovered more things that they falsely represented or outright lied about (i.e. not only was the pool not winterized, it also has a huge leak). Overall our home buying experience was pretty rocky, but we really love the property so we accepted its flaws and moved on. Since we moved in, we have continued to receive mail and packages for the old homeowners, both personal and for a marketing business that the husband ran out of the garage. We have been marking all mail “Return to Sender, No Longer Here” and putting it back in the mailbox, but packages tend to be trickier because we have received them both through USPS and FedEx. At first I scheduled return to sender pick ups, but it started to get extremely irritating, so a few packages ended up sitting in our foyer for awhile. In December, the old homeowners reached out to us through our realtor to say that there would be a large shipment of FOOD arriving at our doorstep within the next few days, and requesting that we text the husband directly as soon as it arrived to come pick it up. My boyfriend and I both work full time jobs, and certainly weren’t going to stay home to watch for this shipment. We do have a Ring doorbell, but aren’t comfortable with the old owners just showing up to wander our property and pick things up off of our porch. We reluctantly agreed that I would text the owner once we put the packages at the end of our driveway, but made it clear that they were not to visit the property without our permission. The shipment turned out to be several HUGE boxes, and we put them all at the end of the driveway (along with the other packages that had accrued). I texted the former owner, he came and picked them up, and we hoped that that was it and we could go on living our happy lives. Since then, the former owner has texted me every so often to inquire about packages arriving. We have only received one package since December, and I did place it at the end of the driveway when he asked. We still receive A LOT of his business mail, including tax documents, but have marked all of them return to sender, and he has never asked about non-package mail before. This morning, he texted me saying that he has attempted to “get his companies to update the address on file,” but that important mail for his business will likely continue to arrive at our home, and that I need to text him and let him know immediately if we receive any so he can come pick it up. I have not responded, as I find his request fucking ridiculous considering that we have lived here for SIX MONTHS on top of how courteous both of us have been to him through this entire situation. I have zero desire to continue to have contact with this man, especially considering what a negative experience we had while buying our home from him. My question is, what legal rights do we have if he continues to have packages delivered to our house? I would really rather not have to schedule FedEx return pick ups for the rest of my life. We are located in a Southeastern Virginia county if that helps. Thank you for any and all advice! TL;DR: bought a house six months ago, old homeowner owns a business and keeps getting packages delivered here, contacted us through our realtor to ask if he could come pick them up. It has since escalated to him demanding that I text him whenever packages or mail arrive. What are my rights? | fhn4wla | fhn5xxa | 1,581,721,961 | 1,581,722,314 | 54 | 56 | it’s been six months and he needs to do whatever it is to update His correct address but your are not responsibility for his packages & to no longer Contact you and block his number | As another user pointed out, contact UPS, Fedex, DHS, and your local post office. Explain to them the situation and ask how to prevent it. If you want to take a hard nosed approach, tell them under no circumstances are they to contact you again about this mail issue and for them to figure out how to deal with the problem and that if they contact you again or come onto your property, you'll notify the police. | 0 | 353 | 1.037037 |
kvne4n | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | My former friend has told me that he has hired a private investigator to investigate me for allegedly hacking into apple ID accounts and selling the nudes I find on the dark web. I clearly did absolutely did not do any of these things. Do I have any recourse? Columbus, Ohio I received text messages from this friend saying he hired a private investigator and "you are fucked". I asked him multiple times what they were investigating me for and he said that he has text messages from me saying I hacked into an apple ID accounts and sold the nudes on the dark web. THIS DID NOT OCCUR. He was blowing up my phone saying he is going to ruin my life, saying I am going to prison. He has had paranoid delusions before and was put in the hospital a few months ago. But his girlfriend contacted me as well and said she sent everything to his parents and they hired the investigator for him. I cannot stress enough, none of this occurred. Can I go to the police station and file harrassment charges? Do I have any recourse? I do not know what to do, it all feels so surreal. I can post the conversation on here if you think it would help, it is mostly me asking what he is talking about and him saying "you are fucked" "man your life is going to suck" "have fun in jail my old friend!" This is unfortunately completely real, please help me | giziadi | gizgpug | 1,610,445,193 | 1,610,443,592 | 43 | 7 | Screenshot and save everything he sent you, as he has been so upfront in telling you that he is going to “ruin you life”, this can be liable to harassment and potential extortion. Improve your home and digital security if you can, change passwords and add babysitter spy cameras if you can, just in case this guy is crazy enough to plant evidence Regarding the PI, some places requires PI licenses to operate while some don’t, you don’t have much to worry about the former as they are unlikely to put their license on the line to falsify evidence, but if it’s someone that “claims” to be one you may have to take precautions Definitely file a report with the police immediately that someone is harassing/stalking you, it will come in very handy if things escalate in the future. | Anyone could hire a PI and threaten you. That doesn't mean you should answer their texts or calls. Doing so may even make you do or admit to things that you never did. Filing a police complaint would be prudent. You would have a record that you can use as evidence of harrassment and threats. | 1 | 1,601 | 6.142857 |
kvne4n | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | My former friend has told me that he has hired a private investigator to investigate me for allegedly hacking into apple ID accounts and selling the nudes I find on the dark web. I clearly did absolutely did not do any of these things. Do I have any recourse? Columbus, Ohio I received text messages from this friend saying he hired a private investigator and "you are fucked". I asked him multiple times what they were investigating me for and he said that he has text messages from me saying I hacked into an apple ID accounts and sold the nudes on the dark web. THIS DID NOT OCCUR. He was blowing up my phone saying he is going to ruin my life, saying I am going to prison. He has had paranoid delusions before and was put in the hospital a few months ago. But his girlfriend contacted me as well and said she sent everything to his parents and they hired the investigator for him. I cannot stress enough, none of this occurred. Can I go to the police station and file harrassment charges? Do I have any recourse? I do not know what to do, it all feels so surreal. I can post the conversation on here if you think it would help, it is mostly me asking what he is talking about and him saying "you are fucked" "man your life is going to suck" "have fun in jail my old friend!" This is unfortunately completely real, please help me | gizc1ju | giziadi | 1,610,438,944 | 1,610,445,193 | 3 | 43 | Block these people from your life. If law enforcement contacts you, tell them you did nothing and to contact your lawyer. | Screenshot and save everything he sent you, as he has been so upfront in telling you that he is going to “ruin you life”, this can be liable to harassment and potential extortion. Improve your home and digital security if you can, change passwords and add babysitter spy cameras if you can, just in case this guy is crazy enough to plant evidence Regarding the PI, some places requires PI licenses to operate while some don’t, you don’t have much to worry about the former as they are unlikely to put their license on the line to falsify evidence, but if it’s someone that “claims” to be one you may have to take precautions Definitely file a report with the police immediately that someone is harassing/stalking you, it will come in very handy if things escalate in the future. | 0 | 6,249 | 14.333333 |
kvne4n | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | My former friend has told me that he has hired a private investigator to investigate me for allegedly hacking into apple ID accounts and selling the nudes I find on the dark web. I clearly did absolutely did not do any of these things. Do I have any recourse? Columbus, Ohio I received text messages from this friend saying he hired a private investigator and "you are fucked". I asked him multiple times what they were investigating me for and he said that he has text messages from me saying I hacked into an apple ID accounts and sold the nudes on the dark web. THIS DID NOT OCCUR. He was blowing up my phone saying he is going to ruin my life, saying I am going to prison. He has had paranoid delusions before and was put in the hospital a few months ago. But his girlfriend contacted me as well and said she sent everything to his parents and they hired the investigator for him. I cannot stress enough, none of this occurred. Can I go to the police station and file harrassment charges? Do I have any recourse? I do not know what to do, it all feels so surreal. I can post the conversation on here if you think it would help, it is mostly me asking what he is talking about and him saying "you are fucked" "man your life is going to suck" "have fun in jail my old friend!" This is unfortunately completely real, please help me | gizc1ju | gizgpug | 1,610,438,944 | 1,610,443,592 | 3 | 7 | Block these people from your life. If law enforcement contacts you, tell them you did nothing and to contact your lawyer. | Anyone could hire a PI and threaten you. That doesn't mean you should answer their texts or calls. Doing so may even make you do or admit to things that you never did. Filing a police complaint would be prudent. You would have a record that you can use as evidence of harrassment and threats. | 0 | 4,648 | 2.333333 |
dc3qc1 | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | TX I'm a divorced dad with a standard possession schedule to see my only son who is 7. I have observed behavior from him that may indicate some form of physical or sexual abuse, but I am unsure. Is the behavior I'm observing substantial enough to hire a lawyer or to pursue the help of CPS? I'm not an expert and it's entirely possible I'm connecting dots that aren't there. Tonight, I wrestled with him and he wanted to show me the new underwear he bought. I told him that that was inappropriate. We wrestled some more and then he started to kiss me. I stopped that behavior and then we stopped wrestling altogether and he decided to play video games. I doubt he left my house this evening with the impression that I was deeply troubled by this even though I am. For the past few years he has communicated in "baby" talk using a cutesy accent. I always assumed he would grow out of it, but he hasn't. Are these behaviors normal? I certainly do not want to go on a witch hunt, but I also don't want to turn a blind eye to what may very well be red flags. Are these even legitimate red flags? I am on amicable terms with his mother, and I truly believe she is a really good mother to my son and would never attempt to abuse him. I am concerned, however, with some of his extended family that he spends time with (his uncle and aunt). I confess I don't really trust them, but again I have zero interest in going on a witch hunt to what very well may amount to baseless suspicions. Is this behavior enough to warrant I contact a lawyer? Please advise. Even if the best course of action is not to pursue this, it would be helpful to know if there are any preventative measures I can put in place to prevent my son from being abused or to pay attention to red flags I may not even be aware of in the future. Thank you for your help. | f262g3r | f263q6h | 1,569,990,946 | 1,569,992,285 | 4 | 10 | You mentioned you have a good relationship with your son's mother. Is that relationship good enough that you could talk to her about this? Since it sounds like she has custody she might have more insight into this behavior seeing as the bulk of his time is spent with her. It might be beneficial to express your concerns to her first since, as you say, you want to avoid a witch hunt. If you can't speak to her about this, or she is unaware of the behavior you observed, you'll definitely want to seek guidance from a therapist before bringing out the big guns. Children lack a lot of inhibitions and so display behavior that is totally innocent to them but can be very disturbing when viewed through the lens of a concerned parent with all the knowledge and life experience that comes with adulthood. | I have been though a relatively similar situation. Before you reach out to CPS or an attorney, I would consider reaching out to his elementary school. Start with just an email to his teacher stating basically exactly what you posted here. The school should have experience with this type of situation. My son's school was great help. They had a licensed child psychologist on staff who was able to talk with my boy. Hope that helps | 0 | 1,339 | 2.5 |
7zhyav | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [CA] I am a male stripper who was hired for a girls 18th birthday, she performed sexual acts on me and video evidence was spread online. I just found out that the girl was actually 17 and her boyfriend is threatening to report me to the police. This was a few weeks back and i just found out about all of this. I got hired for this girl's 18th bday and things got out of hand and a couple of the girls there performed oral sex on me. One of them was recording it and it got posted on what was supposed to be a private snapchat group. A couple of the girls there had boyfriends and after it got out a lot of drama started. I received a call last night from a girl crying telling me all of this information and saying that her life got ruined by her friends for exposing her infidelity. She also told me about the whole underage situation and how the girl's bf is planning on finding me and calling the police. When i got to the party i reviewed all ID to verify everyone's age, i didn't expect there to be fake ID's What steps should i take if the police shows up at my footsteps? Thanks | duo4ifv | duo4hgr | 1,519,331,339 | 1,519,331,317 | 584 | 130 | Good news for you. Unlike many states, California does recognize a mistake in age defense to statutory rape. If approached by the police, do not try to talk your way out of it. Tell them that you are going to exercise your right to remain silent until you have an attorney present. | >What steps should i take if the police shows up at my footsteps? "I will not make any statements or answer any questions without a lawyer present". | 1 | 22 | 4.492308 |
7zhyav | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [CA] I am a male stripper who was hired for a girls 18th birthday, she performed sexual acts on me and video evidence was spread online. I just found out that the girl was actually 17 and her boyfriend is threatening to report me to the police. This was a few weeks back and i just found out about all of this. I got hired for this girl's 18th bday and things got out of hand and a couple of the girls there performed oral sex on me. One of them was recording it and it got posted on what was supposed to be a private snapchat group. A couple of the girls there had boyfriends and after it got out a lot of drama started. I received a call last night from a girl crying telling me all of this information and saying that her life got ruined by her friends for exposing her infidelity. She also told me about the whole underage situation and how the girl's bf is planning on finding me and calling the police. When i got to the party i reviewed all ID to verify everyone's age, i didn't expect there to be fake ID's What steps should i take if the police shows up at my footsteps? Thanks | duo3nj1 | duo4ifv | 1,519,330,572 | 1,519,331,339 | 72 | 584 | You need to hire a criminal defense attorney. | Good news for you. Unlike many states, California does recognize a mistake in age defense to statutory rape. If approached by the police, do not try to talk your way out of it. Tell them that you are going to exercise your right to remain silent until you have an attorney present. | 0 | 767 | 8.111111 |
7zhyav | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [CA] I am a male stripper who was hired for a girls 18th birthday, she performed sexual acts on me and video evidence was spread online. I just found out that the girl was actually 17 and her boyfriend is threatening to report me to the police. This was a few weeks back and i just found out about all of this. I got hired for this girl's 18th bday and things got out of hand and a couple of the girls there performed oral sex on me. One of them was recording it and it got posted on what was supposed to be a private snapchat group. A couple of the girls there had boyfriends and after it got out a lot of drama started. I received a call last night from a girl crying telling me all of this information and saying that her life got ruined by her friends for exposing her infidelity. She also told me about the whole underage situation and how the girl's bf is planning on finding me and calling the police. When i got to the party i reviewed all ID to verify everyone's age, i didn't expect there to be fake ID's What steps should i take if the police shows up at my footsteps? Thanks | duo4hgr | duobc0p | 1,519,331,317 | 1,519,337,495 | 130 | 285 | >What steps should i take if the police shows up at my footsteps? "I will not make any statements or answer any questions without a lawyer present". | >I received a call last night from a girl crying telling me all of this information and saying that her life got ruined by her friends for exposing her infidelity. She also told me about the whole underage situation and how the girl's bf is planning on finding me and calling the police. I'm half expecting a request for money next. | 0 | 6,178 | 2.192308 |
7zhyav | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [CA] I am a male stripper who was hired for a girls 18th birthday, she performed sexual acts on me and video evidence was spread online. I just found out that the girl was actually 17 and her boyfriend is threatening to report me to the police. This was a few weeks back and i just found out about all of this. I got hired for this girl's 18th bday and things got out of hand and a couple of the girls there performed oral sex on me. One of them was recording it and it got posted on what was supposed to be a private snapchat group. A couple of the girls there had boyfriends and after it got out a lot of drama started. I received a call last night from a girl crying telling me all of this information and saying that her life got ruined by her friends for exposing her infidelity. She also told me about the whole underage situation and how the girl's bf is planning on finding me and calling the police. When i got to the party i reviewed all ID to verify everyone's age, i didn't expect there to be fake ID's What steps should i take if the police shows up at my footsteps? Thanks | duobc0p | duo3nj1 | 1,519,337,495 | 1,519,330,572 | 285 | 72 | >I received a call last night from a girl crying telling me all of this information and saying that her life got ruined by her friends for exposing her infidelity. She also told me about the whole underage situation and how the girl's bf is planning on finding me and calling the police. I'm half expecting a request for money next. | You need to hire a criminal defense attorney. | 1 | 6,923 | 3.958333 |
7zhyav | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [CA] I am a male stripper who was hired for a girls 18th birthday, she performed sexual acts on me and video evidence was spread online. I just found out that the girl was actually 17 and her boyfriend is threatening to report me to the police. This was a few weeks back and i just found out about all of this. I got hired for this girl's 18th bday and things got out of hand and a couple of the girls there performed oral sex on me. One of them was recording it and it got posted on what was supposed to be a private snapchat group. A couple of the girls there had boyfriends and after it got out a lot of drama started. I received a call last night from a girl crying telling me all of this information and saying that her life got ruined by her friends for exposing her infidelity. She also told me about the whole underage situation and how the girl's bf is planning on finding me and calling the police. When i got to the party i reviewed all ID to verify everyone's age, i didn't expect there to be fake ID's What steps should i take if the police shows up at my footsteps? Thanks | duo4hgr | duo3nj1 | 1,519,331,317 | 1,519,330,572 | 130 | 72 | >What steps should i take if the police shows up at my footsteps? "I will not make any statements or answer any questions without a lawyer present". | You need to hire a criminal defense attorney. | 1 | 745 | 1.805556 |
5g6kft | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [Vancouver/Toronto] Stalker situation turned out to be private investigator following me; mother-in-law admitted via Facebook to hiring PI to follow me. What are my legal options? [long post] For the past three weeks, I've had a problem with a female stalker, this woman kept following my car and she was also filming me in public (from a discreet distance). I know there's laws about privacy and filming in public... but this? This same woman has been following me in a Subway store, and even when I went across the border to the US for the Black Friday deals recently, she even was filming me and some girlfriends who live in Seattle when we ate at a Mexican restaurant there (I could tell it was the same woman, even with the beanie hat she had on). I've removed personal info and just given cities for privacy. I didn't want to confront her in case things turned violent. I'd had issues with a stalker before in my youth (male) but the guy wasn't threatening and didn't really understand he was even stalking me just because we happened to be on the same campus (luckily no harm done) and when I was 20 I had some creepy old guy following me; but that turned out to be a situation where he mistook me for a granddaughter of his (dont really want to talk about this). I'm 31 years old, newlywed, been married for 18 months now, my husband is 32. I told my husband about the stalking issue last week and he suggested we get the cops dealing with it, but then on Wednesday he showed me a message on Facebook from his mother (my MIL) in which my mother-in-law admitted to hiring a private investigator "to get closer to my daughter-in-law find out what makes her tick". My husband showed me a picture of the PI and a link to her website and other related things about her in his mother's Facebook private message. My husband has confronted his mother (who lives in Toronto) over this and told her it is unacceptable but she insists she's done nothing wrong. Since this site asks for location, I'm in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Why would a PI be following me? Surely it can't be legal for a mother-in-law to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this). | dapvoa3 | daq30r6 | 1,480,722,167 | 1,480,734,001 | 24 | 64 | I'm not well versed in Canadian law, but read this from an actual PI in Canada: https://np.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/pcqg8/i_am_a_private_investigator_from_ontario_canada/c3off0x/ | Neither your MIL nor the PI has done anything illegal, but your MIL is a goddamn nut. I do not know if hiring a PI to find out what makes you tick qualifies for a restraining order, but there's no reason you and your husband should not take steps to either cut out or severely curtail ANY contact with your MIL the goddamn nut. | 0 | 11,834 | 2.666667 |
5g6kft | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [Vancouver/Toronto] Stalker situation turned out to be private investigator following me; mother-in-law admitted via Facebook to hiring PI to follow me. What are my legal options? [long post] For the past three weeks, I've had a problem with a female stalker, this woman kept following my car and she was also filming me in public (from a discreet distance). I know there's laws about privacy and filming in public... but this? This same woman has been following me in a Subway store, and even when I went across the border to the US for the Black Friday deals recently, she even was filming me and some girlfriends who live in Seattle when we ate at a Mexican restaurant there (I could tell it was the same woman, even with the beanie hat she had on). I've removed personal info and just given cities for privacy. I didn't want to confront her in case things turned violent. I'd had issues with a stalker before in my youth (male) but the guy wasn't threatening and didn't really understand he was even stalking me just because we happened to be on the same campus (luckily no harm done) and when I was 20 I had some creepy old guy following me; but that turned out to be a situation where he mistook me for a granddaughter of his (dont really want to talk about this). I'm 31 years old, newlywed, been married for 18 months now, my husband is 32. I told my husband about the stalking issue last week and he suggested we get the cops dealing with it, but then on Wednesday he showed me a message on Facebook from his mother (my MIL) in which my mother-in-law admitted to hiring a private investigator "to get closer to my daughter-in-law find out what makes her tick". My husband showed me a picture of the PI and a link to her website and other related things about her in his mother's Facebook private message. My husband has confronted his mother (who lives in Toronto) over this and told her it is unacceptable but she insists she's done nothing wrong. Since this site asks for location, I'm in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Why would a PI be following me? Surely it can't be legal for a mother-in-law to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this). | daq30r6 | dapzvm3 | 1,480,734,001 | 1,480,728,740 | 64 | 28 | Neither your MIL nor the PI has done anything illegal, but your MIL is a goddamn nut. I do not know if hiring a PI to find out what makes you tick qualifies for a restraining order, but there's no reason you and your husband should not take steps to either cut out or severely curtail ANY contact with your MIL the goddamn nut. | Bring her a coffee and introduce yourself. I'm sure she's familiar with crazy in-laws. | 1 | 5,261 | 2.285714 |
5g6kft | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [Vancouver/Toronto] Stalker situation turned out to be private investigator following me; mother-in-law admitted via Facebook to hiring PI to follow me. What are my legal options? [long post] For the past three weeks, I've had a problem with a female stalker, this woman kept following my car and she was also filming me in public (from a discreet distance). I know there's laws about privacy and filming in public... but this? This same woman has been following me in a Subway store, and even when I went across the border to the US for the Black Friday deals recently, she even was filming me and some girlfriends who live in Seattle when we ate at a Mexican restaurant there (I could tell it was the same woman, even with the beanie hat she had on). I've removed personal info and just given cities for privacy. I didn't want to confront her in case things turned violent. I'd had issues with a stalker before in my youth (male) but the guy wasn't threatening and didn't really understand he was even stalking me just because we happened to be on the same campus (luckily no harm done) and when I was 20 I had some creepy old guy following me; but that turned out to be a situation where he mistook me for a granddaughter of his (dont really want to talk about this). I'm 31 years old, newlywed, been married for 18 months now, my husband is 32. I told my husband about the stalking issue last week and he suggested we get the cops dealing with it, but then on Wednesday he showed me a message on Facebook from his mother (my MIL) in which my mother-in-law admitted to hiring a private investigator "to get closer to my daughter-in-law find out what makes her tick". My husband showed me a picture of the PI and a link to her website and other related things about her in his mother's Facebook private message. My husband has confronted his mother (who lives in Toronto) over this and told her it is unacceptable but she insists she's done nothing wrong. Since this site asks for location, I'm in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Why would a PI be following me? Surely it can't be legal for a mother-in-law to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this). | daqedkw | dapvoa3 | 1,480,761,427 | 1,480,722,167 | 36 | 24 | Planning on having kids? Dear MIL, You have lost all access to your grandchild for first year of their life. You pull another crazy stunt like this, It will be for 3 years. Merry Christmas. | I'm not well versed in Canadian law, but read this from an actual PI in Canada: https://np.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/pcqg8/i_am_a_private_investigator_from_ontario_canada/c3off0x/ | 1 | 39,260 | 1.5 |
5g6kft | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [Vancouver/Toronto] Stalker situation turned out to be private investigator following me; mother-in-law admitted via Facebook to hiring PI to follow me. What are my legal options? [long post] For the past three weeks, I've had a problem with a female stalker, this woman kept following my car and she was also filming me in public (from a discreet distance). I know there's laws about privacy and filming in public... but this? This same woman has been following me in a Subway store, and even when I went across the border to the US for the Black Friday deals recently, she even was filming me and some girlfriends who live in Seattle when we ate at a Mexican restaurant there (I could tell it was the same woman, even with the beanie hat she had on). I've removed personal info and just given cities for privacy. I didn't want to confront her in case things turned violent. I'd had issues with a stalker before in my youth (male) but the guy wasn't threatening and didn't really understand he was even stalking me just because we happened to be on the same campus (luckily no harm done) and when I was 20 I had some creepy old guy following me; but that turned out to be a situation where he mistook me for a granddaughter of his (dont really want to talk about this). I'm 31 years old, newlywed, been married for 18 months now, my husband is 32. I told my husband about the stalking issue last week and he suggested we get the cops dealing with it, but then on Wednesday he showed me a message on Facebook from his mother (my MIL) in which my mother-in-law admitted to hiring a private investigator "to get closer to my daughter-in-law find out what makes her tick". My husband showed me a picture of the PI and a link to her website and other related things about her in his mother's Facebook private message. My husband has confronted his mother (who lives in Toronto) over this and told her it is unacceptable but she insists she's done nothing wrong. Since this site asks for location, I'm in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Why would a PI be following me? Surely it can't be legal for a mother-in-law to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this). | daqedkw | dapzvm3 | 1,480,761,427 | 1,480,728,740 | 36 | 28 | Planning on having kids? Dear MIL, You have lost all access to your grandchild for first year of their life. You pull another crazy stunt like this, It will be for 3 years. Merry Christmas. | Bring her a coffee and introduce yourself. I'm sure she's familiar with crazy in-laws. | 1 | 32,687 | 1.285714 |
5g6kft | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [Vancouver/Toronto] Stalker situation turned out to be private investigator following me; mother-in-law admitted via Facebook to hiring PI to follow me. What are my legal options? [long post] For the past three weeks, I've had a problem with a female stalker, this woman kept following my car and she was also filming me in public (from a discreet distance). I know there's laws about privacy and filming in public... but this? This same woman has been following me in a Subway store, and even when I went across the border to the US for the Black Friday deals recently, she even was filming me and some girlfriends who live in Seattle when we ate at a Mexican restaurant there (I could tell it was the same woman, even with the beanie hat she had on). I've removed personal info and just given cities for privacy. I didn't want to confront her in case things turned violent. I'd had issues with a stalker before in my youth (male) but the guy wasn't threatening and didn't really understand he was even stalking me just because we happened to be on the same campus (luckily no harm done) and when I was 20 I had some creepy old guy following me; but that turned out to be a situation where he mistook me for a granddaughter of his (dont really want to talk about this). I'm 31 years old, newlywed, been married for 18 months now, my husband is 32. I told my husband about the stalking issue last week and he suggested we get the cops dealing with it, but then on Wednesday he showed me a message on Facebook from his mother (my MIL) in which my mother-in-law admitted to hiring a private investigator "to get closer to my daughter-in-law find out what makes her tick". My husband showed me a picture of the PI and a link to her website and other related things about her in his mother's Facebook private message. My husband has confronted his mother (who lives in Toronto) over this and told her it is unacceptable but she insists she's done nothing wrong. Since this site asks for location, I'm in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Why would a PI be following me? Surely it can't be legal for a mother-in-law to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this). | daqedkw | daq9bgm | 1,480,761,427 | 1,480,745,591 | 36 | 21 | Planning on having kids? Dear MIL, You have lost all access to your grandchild for first year of their life. You pull another crazy stunt like this, It will be for 3 years. Merry Christmas. | It's a shame that you can basically stalk someone by proxy. If the MIL was following OP around and filming her all day, she'd be arrested. She pays someone to do it on her behalf and it's legal. | 1 | 15,836 | 1.714286 |
5g6kft | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [Vancouver/Toronto] Stalker situation turned out to be private investigator following me; mother-in-law admitted via Facebook to hiring PI to follow me. What are my legal options? [long post] For the past three weeks, I've had a problem with a female stalker, this woman kept following my car and she was also filming me in public (from a discreet distance). I know there's laws about privacy and filming in public... but this? This same woman has been following me in a Subway store, and even when I went across the border to the US for the Black Friday deals recently, she even was filming me and some girlfriends who live in Seattle when we ate at a Mexican restaurant there (I could tell it was the same woman, even with the beanie hat she had on). I've removed personal info and just given cities for privacy. I didn't want to confront her in case things turned violent. I'd had issues with a stalker before in my youth (male) but the guy wasn't threatening and didn't really understand he was even stalking me just because we happened to be on the same campus (luckily no harm done) and when I was 20 I had some creepy old guy following me; but that turned out to be a situation where he mistook me for a granddaughter of his (dont really want to talk about this). I'm 31 years old, newlywed, been married for 18 months now, my husband is 32. I told my husband about the stalking issue last week and he suggested we get the cops dealing with it, but then on Wednesday he showed me a message on Facebook from his mother (my MIL) in which my mother-in-law admitted to hiring a private investigator "to get closer to my daughter-in-law find out what makes her tick". My husband showed me a picture of the PI and a link to her website and other related things about her in his mother's Facebook private message. My husband has confronted his mother (who lives in Toronto) over this and told her it is unacceptable but she insists she's done nothing wrong. Since this site asks for location, I'm in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Why would a PI be following me? Surely it can't be legal for a mother-in-law to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this). | daq48pn | daqedkw | 1,480,736,059 | 1,480,761,427 | 7 | 36 | This should be cross posted in /r/JustNoMIL. | Planning on having kids? Dear MIL, You have lost all access to your grandchild for first year of their life. You pull another crazy stunt like this, It will be for 3 years. Merry Christmas. | 0 | 25,368 | 5.142857 |
5g6kft | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [Vancouver/Toronto] Stalker situation turned out to be private investigator following me; mother-in-law admitted via Facebook to hiring PI to follow me. What are my legal options? [long post] For the past three weeks, I've had a problem with a female stalker, this woman kept following my car and she was also filming me in public (from a discreet distance). I know there's laws about privacy and filming in public... but this? This same woman has been following me in a Subway store, and even when I went across the border to the US for the Black Friday deals recently, she even was filming me and some girlfriends who live in Seattle when we ate at a Mexican restaurant there (I could tell it was the same woman, even with the beanie hat she had on). I've removed personal info and just given cities for privacy. I didn't want to confront her in case things turned violent. I'd had issues with a stalker before in my youth (male) but the guy wasn't threatening and didn't really understand he was even stalking me just because we happened to be on the same campus (luckily no harm done) and when I was 20 I had some creepy old guy following me; but that turned out to be a situation where he mistook me for a granddaughter of his (dont really want to talk about this). I'm 31 years old, newlywed, been married for 18 months now, my husband is 32. I told my husband about the stalking issue last week and he suggested we get the cops dealing with it, but then on Wednesday he showed me a message on Facebook from his mother (my MIL) in which my mother-in-law admitted to hiring a private investigator "to get closer to my daughter-in-law find out what makes her tick". My husband showed me a picture of the PI and a link to her website and other related things about her in his mother's Facebook private message. My husband has confronted his mother (who lives in Toronto) over this and told her it is unacceptable but she insists she's done nothing wrong. Since this site asks for location, I'm in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Why would a PI be following me? Surely it can't be legal for a mother-in-law to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this). | daqedkw | daq5br9 | 1,480,761,427 | 1,480,737,959 | 36 | 7 | Planning on having kids? Dear MIL, You have lost all access to your grandchild for first year of their life. You pull another crazy stunt like this, It will be for 3 years. Merry Christmas. | Not legal advice but if you notice they are following you while driving just start making right turns. Every right turn you see make it. Also if you see them while walking just run full speed towards them then just run by. | 1 | 23,468 | 5.142857 |
5g6kft | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [Vancouver/Toronto] Stalker situation turned out to be private investigator following me; mother-in-law admitted via Facebook to hiring PI to follow me. What are my legal options? [long post] For the past three weeks, I've had a problem with a female stalker, this woman kept following my car and she was also filming me in public (from a discreet distance). I know there's laws about privacy and filming in public... but this? This same woman has been following me in a Subway store, and even when I went across the border to the US for the Black Friday deals recently, she even was filming me and some girlfriends who live in Seattle when we ate at a Mexican restaurant there (I could tell it was the same woman, even with the beanie hat she had on). I've removed personal info and just given cities for privacy. I didn't want to confront her in case things turned violent. I'd had issues with a stalker before in my youth (male) but the guy wasn't threatening and didn't really understand he was even stalking me just because we happened to be on the same campus (luckily no harm done) and when I was 20 I had some creepy old guy following me; but that turned out to be a situation where he mistook me for a granddaughter of his (dont really want to talk about this). I'm 31 years old, newlywed, been married for 18 months now, my husband is 32. I told my husband about the stalking issue last week and he suggested we get the cops dealing with it, but then on Wednesday he showed me a message on Facebook from his mother (my MIL) in which my mother-in-law admitted to hiring a private investigator "to get closer to my daughter-in-law find out what makes her tick". My husband showed me a picture of the PI and a link to her website and other related things about her in his mother's Facebook private message. My husband has confronted his mother (who lives in Toronto) over this and told her it is unacceptable but she insists she's done nothing wrong. Since this site asks for location, I'm in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Why would a PI be following me? Surely it can't be legal for a mother-in-law to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this). | dapvoa3 | dapzvm3 | 1,480,722,167 | 1,480,728,740 | 24 | 28 | I'm not well versed in Canadian law, but read this from an actual PI in Canada: https://np.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/pcqg8/i_am_a_private_investigator_from_ontario_canada/c3off0x/ | Bring her a coffee and introduce yourself. I'm sure she's familiar with crazy in-laws. | 0 | 6,573 | 1.166667 |
5g6kft | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [Vancouver/Toronto] Stalker situation turned out to be private investigator following me; mother-in-law admitted via Facebook to hiring PI to follow me. What are my legal options? [long post] For the past three weeks, I've had a problem with a female stalker, this woman kept following my car and she was also filming me in public (from a discreet distance). I know there's laws about privacy and filming in public... but this? This same woman has been following me in a Subway store, and even when I went across the border to the US for the Black Friday deals recently, she even was filming me and some girlfriends who live in Seattle when we ate at a Mexican restaurant there (I could tell it was the same woman, even with the beanie hat she had on). I've removed personal info and just given cities for privacy. I didn't want to confront her in case things turned violent. I'd had issues with a stalker before in my youth (male) but the guy wasn't threatening and didn't really understand he was even stalking me just because we happened to be on the same campus (luckily no harm done) and when I was 20 I had some creepy old guy following me; but that turned out to be a situation where he mistook me for a granddaughter of his (dont really want to talk about this). I'm 31 years old, newlywed, been married for 18 months now, my husband is 32. I told my husband about the stalking issue last week and he suggested we get the cops dealing with it, but then on Wednesday he showed me a message on Facebook from his mother (my MIL) in which my mother-in-law admitted to hiring a private investigator "to get closer to my daughter-in-law find out what makes her tick". My husband showed me a picture of the PI and a link to her website and other related things about her in his mother's Facebook private message. My husband has confronted his mother (who lives in Toronto) over this and told her it is unacceptable but she insists she's done nothing wrong. Since this site asks for location, I'm in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Why would a PI be following me? Surely it can't be legal for a mother-in-law to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this). | daq48pn | daq9bgm | 1,480,736,059 | 1,480,745,591 | 7 | 21 | This should be cross posted in /r/JustNoMIL. | It's a shame that you can basically stalk someone by proxy. If the MIL was following OP around and filming her all day, she'd be arrested. She pays someone to do it on her behalf and it's legal. | 0 | 9,532 | 3 |
5g6kft | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [Vancouver/Toronto] Stalker situation turned out to be private investigator following me; mother-in-law admitted via Facebook to hiring PI to follow me. What are my legal options? [long post] For the past three weeks, I've had a problem with a female stalker, this woman kept following my car and she was also filming me in public (from a discreet distance). I know there's laws about privacy and filming in public... but this? This same woman has been following me in a Subway store, and even when I went across the border to the US for the Black Friday deals recently, she even was filming me and some girlfriends who live in Seattle when we ate at a Mexican restaurant there (I could tell it was the same woman, even with the beanie hat she had on). I've removed personal info and just given cities for privacy. I didn't want to confront her in case things turned violent. I'd had issues with a stalker before in my youth (male) but the guy wasn't threatening and didn't really understand he was even stalking me just because we happened to be on the same campus (luckily no harm done) and when I was 20 I had some creepy old guy following me; but that turned out to be a situation where he mistook me for a granddaughter of his (dont really want to talk about this). I'm 31 years old, newlywed, been married for 18 months now, my husband is 32. I told my husband about the stalking issue last week and he suggested we get the cops dealing with it, but then on Wednesday he showed me a message on Facebook from his mother (my MIL) in which my mother-in-law admitted to hiring a private investigator "to get closer to my daughter-in-law find out what makes her tick". My husband showed me a picture of the PI and a link to her website and other related things about her in his mother's Facebook private message. My husband has confronted his mother (who lives in Toronto) over this and told her it is unacceptable but she insists she's done nothing wrong. Since this site asks for location, I'm in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Why would a PI be following me? Surely it can't be legal for a mother-in-law to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this). | daq9bgm | daq5br9 | 1,480,745,591 | 1,480,737,959 | 21 | 7 | It's a shame that you can basically stalk someone by proxy. If the MIL was following OP around and filming her all day, she'd be arrested. She pays someone to do it on her behalf and it's legal. | Not legal advice but if you notice they are following you while driving just start making right turns. Every right turn you see make it. Also if you see them while walking just run full speed towards them then just run by. | 1 | 7,632 | 3 |
5g6kft | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [Vancouver/Toronto] Stalker situation turned out to be private investigator following me; mother-in-law admitted via Facebook to hiring PI to follow me. What are my legal options? [long post] For the past three weeks, I've had a problem with a female stalker, this woman kept following my car and she was also filming me in public (from a discreet distance). I know there's laws about privacy and filming in public... but this? This same woman has been following me in a Subway store, and even when I went across the border to the US for the Black Friday deals recently, she even was filming me and some girlfriends who live in Seattle when we ate at a Mexican restaurant there (I could tell it was the same woman, even with the beanie hat she had on). I've removed personal info and just given cities for privacy. I didn't want to confront her in case things turned violent. I'd had issues with a stalker before in my youth (male) but the guy wasn't threatening and didn't really understand he was even stalking me just because we happened to be on the same campus (luckily no harm done) and when I was 20 I had some creepy old guy following me; but that turned out to be a situation where he mistook me for a granddaughter of his (dont really want to talk about this). I'm 31 years old, newlywed, been married for 18 months now, my husband is 32. I told my husband about the stalking issue last week and he suggested we get the cops dealing with it, but then on Wednesday he showed me a message on Facebook from his mother (my MIL) in which my mother-in-law admitted to hiring a private investigator "to get closer to my daughter-in-law find out what makes her tick". My husband showed me a picture of the PI and a link to her website and other related things about her in his mother's Facebook private message. My husband has confronted his mother (who lives in Toronto) over this and told her it is unacceptable but she insists she's done nothing wrong. Since this site asks for location, I'm in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Why would a PI be following me? Surely it can't be legal for a mother-in-law to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this). | daqjll7 | daqiflz | 1,480,776,708 | 1,480,774,368 | 7 | 6 | Not legal advice, just relationship advice: go no or at least minimal contact with your MIL. Obviously your husband will need to be on board with it, but this is crazytown. Honestly, if MIL wants to waste her money on the PI, that's up to her, but she needs to know that the consequences are that she gets no contact from the BOTH of you as a result. The last thing you want to do is reward this behavior by giving her more attention. | This does give you the perfect impetus to get your husband to cut his mom out of your lives. | 1 | 2,340 | 1.166667 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71mc5c | d71mc1l | 1,472,499,823 | 1,472,499,819 | 588 | 52 | Don't take legal advice from your rapist's lawyer. That lawyer works for D, not for you. It's likely strictly true that hiring a PI is legal, but that's a very incomplete answer. Get your own lawyer to help you with the restraining order process. If you obtain a restraining order, it will likely also bar people from contacting you on D's behalf. PIs don't generally get to overrule restraining orders, so that will hopefully put an end to this. If you need a referral, or if you need financial assistance hiring a lawyer, reach out to a womens' shelter in your area. They'll be well familiar with this problem, and will likely be able to hook you up with the help you need or direct you to the right agencies and government departments. | I'm sorry this happened to you. I suggest that if you haven't spoken to a counselor, or a support group, that you try to at your earliest opportunity. You seem to be going about this correctly, you've reported the assault to the police, and you've hired an attorney to file a restraining order. You don't have to speak to anyone you don't want to, including the PI. What advice do you need from this sub? | 1 | 4 | 11.307692 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71mc5c | d71m8lm | 1,472,499,823 | 1,472,499,703 | 588 | 11 | Don't take legal advice from your rapist's lawyer. That lawyer works for D, not for you. It's likely strictly true that hiring a PI is legal, but that's a very incomplete answer. Get your own lawyer to help you with the restraining order process. If you obtain a restraining order, it will likely also bar people from contacting you on D's behalf. PIs don't generally get to overrule restraining orders, so that will hopefully put an end to this. If you need a referral, or if you need financial assistance hiring a lawyer, reach out to a womens' shelter in your area. They'll be well familiar with this problem, and will likely be able to hook you up with the help you need or direct you to the right agencies and government departments. | You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post. | 1 | 120 | 53.454545 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71mc1l | d71mjkw | 1,472,499,819 | 1,472,500,076 | 52 | 270 | I'm sorry this happened to you. I suggest that if you haven't spoken to a counselor, or a support group, that you try to at your earliest opportunity. You seem to be going about this correctly, you've reported the assault to the police, and you've hired an attorney to file a restraining order. You don't have to speak to anyone you don't want to, including the PI. What advice do you need from this sub? | Obviously first and foremost the PI does not work for you and does not have your best interests at heart. Do not speak to the PI. Also, do not listen to HIS defense attorney. | 0 | 257 | 5.192308 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71mjkw | d71m8lm | 1,472,500,076 | 1,472,499,703 | 270 | 11 | Obviously first and foremost the PI does not work for you and does not have your best interests at heart. Do not speak to the PI. Also, do not listen to HIS defense attorney. | You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post. | 1 | 373 | 24.545455 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71mc1l | d71nyie | 1,472,499,819 | 1,472,501,838 | 52 | 176 | I'm sorry this happened to you. I suggest that if you haven't spoken to a counselor, or a support group, that you try to at your earliest opportunity. You seem to be going about this correctly, you've reported the assault to the police, and you've hired an attorney to file a restraining order. You don't have to speak to anyone you don't want to, including the PI. What advice do you need from this sub? | I found a document that lists support and advocacy organizations in Kansas here. There is also the RAINN foundation, a non-profit victim's advocacy group. They have a 24 hr hotline, and I believe one of the services they offer is having an advocate accompany you to meetings etc, they may also be able to help with the lawyer situation. I'm so sorry this happened to you! | 0 | 2,019 | 3.384615 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71nyie | d71mo4g | 1,472,501,838 | 1,472,500,233 | 176 | 30 | I found a document that lists support and advocacy organizations in Kansas here. There is also the RAINN foundation, a non-profit victim's advocacy group. They have a 24 hr hotline, and I believe one of the services they offer is having an advocate accompany you to meetings etc, they may also be able to help with the lawyer situation. I'm so sorry this happened to you! | You might contact Kansas Legal Services and see if they can help you. | 1 | 1,605 | 5.866667 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71m8lm | d71nyie | 1,472,499,703 | 1,472,501,838 | 11 | 176 | You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post. | I found a document that lists support and advocacy organizations in Kansas here. There is also the RAINN foundation, a non-profit victim's advocacy group. They have a 24 hr hotline, and I believe one of the services they offer is having an advocate accompany you to meetings etc, they may also be able to help with the lawyer situation. I'm so sorry this happened to you! | 0 | 2,135 | 16 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71p82r | d71mc1l | 1,472,503,433 | 1,472,499,819 | 80 | 52 | Make sure you file for unemployment, and then fight the initial contest. Does the PI work for a specific organization? | I'm sorry this happened to you. I suggest that if you haven't spoken to a counselor, or a support group, that you try to at your earliest opportunity. You seem to be going about this correctly, you've reported the assault to the police, and you've hired an attorney to file a restraining order. You don't have to speak to anyone you don't want to, including the PI. What advice do you need from this sub? | 1 | 3,614 | 1.538462 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71p82r | d71mo4g | 1,472,503,433 | 1,472,500,233 | 80 | 30 | Make sure you file for unemployment, and then fight the initial contest. Does the PI work for a specific organization? | You might contact Kansas Legal Services and see if they can help you. | 1 | 3,200 | 2.666667 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71p82r | d71nyrm | 1,472,503,433 | 1,472,501,846 | 80 | 13 | Make sure you file for unemployment, and then fight the initial contest. Does the PI work for a specific organization? | Has D been charged? | 1 | 1,587 | 6.153846 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71p82r | d71m8lm | 1,472,503,433 | 1,472,499,703 | 80 | 11 | Make sure you file for unemployment, and then fight the initial contest. Does the PI work for a specific organization? | You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post. | 1 | 3,730 | 7.272727 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71swzb | d71qdre | 1,472,508,343 | 1,472,504,906 | 64 | 55 | I agree with /u/BlatantConservative: file for unemployment. Challenge any ruling that does not come out in your favor. Unless you have a long history of well documented write-ups with your former employer you should be able to win. | Many Domestic Abuse/Sexual Assault shelters also provide free legal assistance. They are regional so, since I don't know what part of Kansas you are in (and don't want to), I can't recommend a specific one, but here are a few possibilities: KC Metro (including Kansas parts): http://mocsa.org/about-us/our-service-area KC Metro (including Kansas parts) #2: http://www.hopehouse.net/kansas-city-domestic-violence-shelter-and-services Wichita: http://wichitasac.com/services/ If you aren't in those areas, google your closest city and "sexual assault assistance". | 1 | 3,437 | 1.163636 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71mc1l | d71swzb | 1,472,499,819 | 1,472,508,343 | 52 | 64 | I'm sorry this happened to you. I suggest that if you haven't spoken to a counselor, or a support group, that you try to at your earliest opportunity. You seem to be going about this correctly, you've reported the assault to the police, and you've hired an attorney to file a restraining order. You don't have to speak to anyone you don't want to, including the PI. What advice do you need from this sub? | I agree with /u/BlatantConservative: file for unemployment. Challenge any ruling that does not come out in your favor. Unless you have a long history of well documented write-ups with your former employer you should be able to win. | 0 | 8,524 | 1.230769 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71swzb | d71s8h9 | 1,472,508,343 | 1,472,507,402 | 64 | 44 | I agree with /u/BlatantConservative: file for unemployment. Challenge any ruling that does not come out in your favor. Unless you have a long history of well documented write-ups with your former employer you should be able to win. | deleted ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^0.2619 ^^^What ^^^is ^^^this? | 1 | 941 | 1.454545 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71swzb | d71mo4g | 1,472,508,343 | 1,472,500,233 | 64 | 30 | I agree with /u/BlatantConservative: file for unemployment. Challenge any ruling that does not come out in your favor. Unless you have a long history of well documented write-ups with your former employer you should be able to win. | You might contact Kansas Legal Services and see if they can help you. | 1 | 8,110 | 2.133333 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71swzb | d71qj6s | 1,472,508,343 | 1,472,505,107 | 64 | 15 | I agree with /u/BlatantConservative: file for unemployment. Challenge any ruling that does not come out in your favor. Unless you have a long history of well documented write-ups with your former employer you should be able to win. | Does your local police department or prosecutor's office have a victim witness coordinator? You could talk to them. Is there a no contact order in effect? Attempts at third party contact, such as a PI asking to talk to you on behalf of the defendant, could violate the order. | 1 | 3,236 | 4.266667 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71nyrm | d71swzb | 1,472,501,846 | 1,472,508,343 | 13 | 64 | Has D been charged? | I agree with /u/BlatantConservative: file for unemployment. Challenge any ruling that does not come out in your favor. Unless you have a long history of well documented write-ups with your former employer you should be able to win. | 0 | 6,497 | 4.923077 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71m8lm | d71swzb | 1,472,499,703 | 1,472,508,343 | 11 | 64 | You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post. | I agree with /u/BlatantConservative: file for unemployment. Challenge any ruling that does not come out in your favor. Unless you have a long history of well documented write-ups with your former employer you should be able to win. | 0 | 8,640 | 5.818182 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71mc1l | d71qdre | 1,472,499,819 | 1,472,504,906 | 52 | 55 | I'm sorry this happened to you. I suggest that if you haven't spoken to a counselor, or a support group, that you try to at your earliest opportunity. You seem to be going about this correctly, you've reported the assault to the police, and you've hired an attorney to file a restraining order. You don't have to speak to anyone you don't want to, including the PI. What advice do you need from this sub? | Many Domestic Abuse/Sexual Assault shelters also provide free legal assistance. They are regional so, since I don't know what part of Kansas you are in (and don't want to), I can't recommend a specific one, but here are a few possibilities: KC Metro (including Kansas parts): http://mocsa.org/about-us/our-service-area KC Metro (including Kansas parts) #2: http://www.hopehouse.net/kansas-city-domestic-violence-shelter-and-services Wichita: http://wichitasac.com/services/ If you aren't in those areas, google your closest city and "sexual assault assistance". | 0 | 5,087 | 1.057692 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71qdre | d71mo4g | 1,472,504,906 | 1,472,500,233 | 55 | 30 | Many Domestic Abuse/Sexual Assault shelters also provide free legal assistance. They are regional so, since I don't know what part of Kansas you are in (and don't want to), I can't recommend a specific one, but here are a few possibilities: KC Metro (including Kansas parts): http://mocsa.org/about-us/our-service-area KC Metro (including Kansas parts) #2: http://www.hopehouse.net/kansas-city-domestic-violence-shelter-and-services Wichita: http://wichitasac.com/services/ If you aren't in those areas, google your closest city and "sexual assault assistance". | You might contact Kansas Legal Services and see if they can help you. | 1 | 4,673 | 1.833333 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71qdre | d71nyrm | 1,472,504,906 | 1,472,501,846 | 55 | 13 | Many Domestic Abuse/Sexual Assault shelters also provide free legal assistance. They are regional so, since I don't know what part of Kansas you are in (and don't want to), I can't recommend a specific one, but here are a few possibilities: KC Metro (including Kansas parts): http://mocsa.org/about-us/our-service-area KC Metro (including Kansas parts) #2: http://www.hopehouse.net/kansas-city-domestic-violence-shelter-and-services Wichita: http://wichitasac.com/services/ If you aren't in those areas, google your closest city and "sexual assault assistance". | Has D been charged? | 1 | 3,060 | 4.230769 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71qdre | d71m8lm | 1,472,504,906 | 1,472,499,703 | 55 | 11 | Many Domestic Abuse/Sexual Assault shelters also provide free legal assistance. They are regional so, since I don't know what part of Kansas you are in (and don't want to), I can't recommend a specific one, but here are a few possibilities: KC Metro (including Kansas parts): http://mocsa.org/about-us/our-service-area KC Metro (including Kansas parts) #2: http://www.hopehouse.net/kansas-city-domestic-violence-shelter-and-services Wichita: http://wichitasac.com/services/ If you aren't in those areas, google your closest city and "sexual assault assistance". | You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post. | 1 | 5,203 | 5 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71m8lm | d71mc1l | 1,472,499,703 | 1,472,499,819 | 11 | 52 | You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post. | I'm sorry this happened to you. I suggest that if you haven't spoken to a counselor, or a support group, that you try to at your earliest opportunity. You seem to be going about this correctly, you've reported the assault to the police, and you've hired an attorney to file a restraining order. You don't have to speak to anyone you don't want to, including the PI. What advice do you need from this sub? | 0 | 116 | 4.727273 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71mo4g | d71s8h9 | 1,472,500,233 | 1,472,507,402 | 30 | 44 | You might contact Kansas Legal Services and see if they can help you. | deleted ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^0.2619 ^^^What ^^^is ^^^this? | 0 | 7,169 | 1.466667 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71qj6s | d71s8h9 | 1,472,505,107 | 1,472,507,402 | 15 | 44 | Does your local police department or prosecutor's office have a victim witness coordinator? You could talk to them. Is there a no contact order in effect? Attempts at third party contact, such as a PI asking to talk to you on behalf of the defendant, could violate the order. | deleted ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^0.2619 ^^^What ^^^is ^^^this? | 0 | 2,295 | 2.933333 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71nyrm | d71s8h9 | 1,472,501,846 | 1,472,507,402 | 13 | 44 | Has D been charged? | deleted ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^0.2619 ^^^What ^^^is ^^^this? | 0 | 5,556 | 3.384615 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71s8h9 | d71m8lm | 1,472,507,402 | 1,472,499,703 | 44 | 11 | deleted ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^0.2619 ^^^What ^^^is ^^^this? | You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post. | 1 | 7,699 | 4 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71m8lm | d71mo4g | 1,472,499,703 | 1,472,500,233 | 11 | 30 | You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post. | You might contact Kansas Legal Services and see if they can help you. | 0 | 530 | 2.727273 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71qj6s | d71nyrm | 1,472,505,107 | 1,472,501,846 | 15 | 13 | Does your local police department or prosecutor's office have a victim witness coordinator? You could talk to them. Is there a no contact order in effect? Attempts at third party contact, such as a PI asking to talk to you on behalf of the defendant, could violate the order. | Has D been charged? | 1 | 3,261 | 1.153846 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71m8lm | d71qj6s | 1,472,499,703 | 1,472,505,107 | 11 | 15 | You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post. | Does your local police department or prosecutor's office have a victim witness coordinator? You could talk to them. Is there a no contact order in effect? Attempts at third party contact, such as a PI asking to talk to you on behalf of the defendant, could violate the order. | 0 | 5,404 | 1.363636 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71nyrm | d71ypdq | 1,472,501,846 | 1,472,516,777 | 13 | 14 | Has D been charged? | Did you take any time off work to seek help? Whether medical help, legal assistance or judicial to seek the restraining order? If you did and you provided your work at least 48 hours warning, you have additional legal protection from discharge, discrimination or retaliation. Even if the PI showing up was indeed what caused your employment issue, they're going to have to work extra hard to show just cause for letting you go. Full details: http://www.ksrevisor.org/statutes/chapters/ch44/044_011_0032.html | 0 | 14,931 | 1.076923 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71m8lm | d71ypdq | 1,472,499,703 | 1,472,516,777 | 11 | 14 | You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post. | Did you take any time off work to seek help? Whether medical help, legal assistance or judicial to seek the restraining order? If you did and you provided your work at least 48 hours warning, you have additional legal protection from discharge, discrimination or retaliation. Even if the PI showing up was indeed what caused your employment issue, they're going to have to work extra hard to show just cause for letting you go. Full details: http://www.ksrevisor.org/statutes/chapters/ch44/044_011_0032.html | 0 | 17,074 | 1.272727 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71nyrm | d71m8lm | 1,472,501,846 | 1,472,499,703 | 13 | 11 | Has D been charged? | You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post. | 1 | 2,143 | 1.181818 |
506v2s | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [Kansas] I reported my rapist and he hired a PI. The PI has gone into my work, called my job, called me, etc. The PI wants to talk with me today. I posted earlier on TrollX and they advised me to post here. I'm trying to get a restraining order but his defense attorney that he hired said that the PI is perfectly legal. I was fired from my job because my manager was fed up with dealing with this so she waited until a customer complained about me and used that as an excuse to let me go. On paper "customer complaint" was why I was let go from my job as a waitress. The first time the PI came to my work we called the cops. The second time she was asked to leave. At my first hearing his attorney said that I could have just asked the PI to stop calling my job and that "you are not being followed". So I'm jobless and hopeless. I need financial help and a new job, plus I have court soon for the restraining order. This is really hard! My Story of what happened: I was training animals as my job and I wanted to be an advocate for them as a career, so I posted an ad online looking for people to help me make a film raising awareness about animal abuse. My rapist(who we'll call D) signed up to help me saying it was a good project. D is a much older man(I'm a young woman in my 20's and he's in his 40's) with a wife and kids, I thought he was the family man type when I first met him at his studio. We worked together for a long time-a couple years on the film. We traveled over the country filming at various places, and he seemed nice. On October 30th of last year I went over to his studio. We worked for a bit, then decided to get lunch. We went to a bar/restaurant place and I got a pint of beer. D started saying weird stuff to me and I felt uncomfortable so I called my then boyfriend. BF came and had lunch with us and I felt fine. I thought I was being paranoid, so when D said let's go back to the studio I thought nothing of it. He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help. | d71m8lm | d728eft | 1,472,499,703 | 1,472,532,038 | 11 | 12 | You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post. | I am a licensed PI (but in a different country to you so my advice may not be applicable). If the PI tails you in public, takes photographs in a public place, even potentially records audio of you in public, or asks other people to speak them about you, you may not have any recourse as these actions are likely perfectly legal. PIs don't investigate many people who want to be investigated. If they are hassling you in person, interfering in your work place, trespassing on private property, spreading lies or disclosing personal information, you may have some recourse against them. PIs require licenses in almost all US states and the licensing authority probably accepts and investigates ethics reports. Without your own lawyer that may be the best you can do. As an aside, an ethical PI could potentially end up on a case like this. Perhaps the brief from the client is a crazy person is telling lies about you and they want to find out enough information for a lawsuit. But a savvy investigator will maintain a little skepticism and should absolutely think twice before acting in a way that is clearly meant to intimidating or harassing. I personally would certainly not be reporting on the daily whereabouts of a young woman to an older man who could be an abuser. It sounds like this PI has crossed an ethical line. | 0 | 32,335 | 1.090909 |
9865sn | legaladvice_train | 0.81 | My boss hired me a lawyer when my previous boss tried to sue me. I left the company and she wants me to pay for it. This is my first time posting so forgive me if I do anything wrong! I have to be a little vague about some details because of legal reasons. I am in my early 20s and worked with Company A for about 8 months. My first boss was absolutely crazy and I did not realize it until it was too late. I left there and took a break for 4 months from working and then went to Company B. Boss A then sent me a legal notice that I was violating a non compete contract and I needed to end my affiliation with Company B or he would take me to court. Company B is a main competitor of Company A and the two owners have had previous issues before I even came along. My boss at Company B encouraged me to fight Boss A and told me she would contact her friend that is a very well known lawyer. I am very non confrontational and wanted nothing to do with a legal battle but Boss B was extremely encouraging. We went to court and won one part (there was no non compete) but Boss A would not give it up so we settled with some small terms. The whole thing made me very uncomfortable and I told everyone from my friends to my lawyers and Boss B that I felt weird about the whole thing. The lawyer she got is apparently a very pricey one and I had no say in it. My anxiety and depression from not only that but personal and family matters made it to where I couldn’t even function at this new job without getting sick to my stomach. The environment was not good and I felt trapped. I told Boss B I wanted to leave the company for now and take time off from working to spend more time with my family who are hours away. She is now saying I have to pay the legal fees. I don’t remember signing a contract with the lawyers and was never told I would be responsible for it. I did not want to go to court in the first place. This bill could be $10,000 - $20,000. I am just now getting my credit and my life on track. I don’t know what to do. The lawyer has asked me to call her and I have put it off for tonight because I’m sick to my stomach about it. I do not make a lot of money at all and all parties involved know this. Do I have any protection against this bill being put on me? I of course realize now that I should never let someone talk me into this but I felt very pressured. I’m not naive(or so I’d like to think so) so I’m really beating myself up over this. I’m sorry if this is confusing! Just ask if you need any clarification. | e4dl5p2 | e4dnk46 | 1,534,541,823 | 1,534,544,116 | 4 | 6 | Are you very very sure that you didn't sign anything? Do you have anything in writing or evidence that boss A was going to pay? Or was this a pro-bono thing? As long as you are perfectly sure about not signing anything, I would be inclined to ignore her until you are served with court papers. At that time, you can politely ask for a company of the retainer/contract. Show up in court and deny that you ever agreed to pay. Show your evidence. | Did the settlement with Boss A result in you getting paid anything? | 0 | 2,293 | 1.5 |
9uhr30 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Is there a FL law I can cite to get the HOA manager to stop harassing me about living in my own home? Okay, so I live in Florida. We bought a house in one of those communities where most of the homes are owned by investors and rented to tourists on Disney vacations. The tourists actually make great neighbors, they all tend to be in a good mood because they’re on vacation. Nothing in the HOA rules/covenants/etc forbids living in your house, rather than renting it out. The area is zoned residential, our home is a single family, we have no kids, or parties, and are much quieter than the tourists. We are very, very careful about following all of the HOA rules and restrictions, because we understand that our neighbors are effectively businesses, and we don’t want to be dicks and interfere with their customers. But no matter how nice, friendly, or rule-abiding we try to be, the HOA manager/director/crazy person will not stop giving us shit every single time we have to deal with her. The paint job on our house was getting old, so we popped over to the office to flip through the book of approved paint schemes. She lectured us on the fact that these homes were not intended to be full time residences. We applied to put up a mailbox. Many of our neighbors, full time and part time, have them. She okayed the request in the end because the HOA explicitly allows mailboxes, but it took half a dozen back and forth discussions, because again she wanted us to realize these homes are not intended to be lived in, and we should not expect ‘proper residential’ benefits. Her office is located by the community pool/store, and if I so much as dare my head in that area, she will come by to remind me, YET AGAIN, that what we are doing is NOT OKAY. Needless to say, I have taken to avoiding the place. Having just gotten another lecture from her today when I went to drop off a form she requested all homeowners to fill out, I started wondering. Do I have any sort of legal right to live in my own home, given that it is zoned for you know, living in, and I do not expect special treatment? I have triple checked the documents we signed, and nothing in them says we can’t live here. Is there a law I can quote that will potentially make this woman just shut up and leave me alone? We are not the only permanent residents in the neighborhood, but finding out who the others are seems to require asking LectureLady, so I have not yet gotten up the nerve to find out who they are to see if she gives them the same endless aggravation. | e94gymq | e94dzxn | 1,541,457,352 | 1,541,454,889 | 560 | 64 | You should find out when/where the HOA meetings are and start attending those. At the very least you'll find out who the other owners are that actually live in their units. You should also be able to access the minutes of previous meetings, which might be enlightening as well. | I am not a lawyer, but check your States laws about audio recording. If you are one party consent, record each and every conversation you have with her in the future. After you have enough to build a harrassment case, seek legal council and see where you can go from there. This is harassment, plain and simple. | 1 | 2,463 | 8.75 |
9uhr30 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Is there a FL law I can cite to get the HOA manager to stop harassing me about living in my own home? Okay, so I live in Florida. We bought a house in one of those communities where most of the homes are owned by investors and rented to tourists on Disney vacations. The tourists actually make great neighbors, they all tend to be in a good mood because they’re on vacation. Nothing in the HOA rules/covenants/etc forbids living in your house, rather than renting it out. The area is zoned residential, our home is a single family, we have no kids, or parties, and are much quieter than the tourists. We are very, very careful about following all of the HOA rules and restrictions, because we understand that our neighbors are effectively businesses, and we don’t want to be dicks and interfere with their customers. But no matter how nice, friendly, or rule-abiding we try to be, the HOA manager/director/crazy person will not stop giving us shit every single time we have to deal with her. The paint job on our house was getting old, so we popped over to the office to flip through the book of approved paint schemes. She lectured us on the fact that these homes were not intended to be full time residences. We applied to put up a mailbox. Many of our neighbors, full time and part time, have them. She okayed the request in the end because the HOA explicitly allows mailboxes, but it took half a dozen back and forth discussions, because again she wanted us to realize these homes are not intended to be lived in, and we should not expect ‘proper residential’ benefits. Her office is located by the community pool/store, and if I so much as dare my head in that area, she will come by to remind me, YET AGAIN, that what we are doing is NOT OKAY. Needless to say, I have taken to avoiding the place. Having just gotten another lecture from her today when I went to drop off a form she requested all homeowners to fill out, I started wondering. Do I have any sort of legal right to live in my own home, given that it is zoned for you know, living in, and I do not expect special treatment? I have triple checked the documents we signed, and nothing in them says we can’t live here. Is there a law I can quote that will potentially make this woman just shut up and leave me alone? We are not the only permanent residents in the neighborhood, but finding out who the others are seems to require asking LectureLady, so I have not yet gotten up the nerve to find out who they are to see if she gives them the same endless aggravation. | e94i4jx | e94i19k | 1,541,458,338 | 1,541,458,258 | 535 | 295 | I would be extra petty and carry the HOA docs around with you. The next time she tries to tell you something like these examples, ask her to point out \*exactly\* where in the documents it says you can't use the amenities you pay for. | City planner here: Most cities do not allow hotels (and that’s what these are) in single family zoning. However given the location an exception may have been made, you can check your local zoning code. Also there is a chance these business are not charging or paying hotel taxes. | 1 | 80 | 1.813559 |
9uhr30 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Is there a FL law I can cite to get the HOA manager to stop harassing me about living in my own home? Okay, so I live in Florida. We bought a house in one of those communities where most of the homes are owned by investors and rented to tourists on Disney vacations. The tourists actually make great neighbors, they all tend to be in a good mood because they’re on vacation. Nothing in the HOA rules/covenants/etc forbids living in your house, rather than renting it out. The area is zoned residential, our home is a single family, we have no kids, or parties, and are much quieter than the tourists. We are very, very careful about following all of the HOA rules and restrictions, because we understand that our neighbors are effectively businesses, and we don’t want to be dicks and interfere with their customers. But no matter how nice, friendly, or rule-abiding we try to be, the HOA manager/director/crazy person will not stop giving us shit every single time we have to deal with her. The paint job on our house was getting old, so we popped over to the office to flip through the book of approved paint schemes. She lectured us on the fact that these homes were not intended to be full time residences. We applied to put up a mailbox. Many of our neighbors, full time and part time, have them. She okayed the request in the end because the HOA explicitly allows mailboxes, but it took half a dozen back and forth discussions, because again she wanted us to realize these homes are not intended to be lived in, and we should not expect ‘proper residential’ benefits. Her office is located by the community pool/store, and if I so much as dare my head in that area, she will come by to remind me, YET AGAIN, that what we are doing is NOT OKAY. Needless to say, I have taken to avoiding the place. Having just gotten another lecture from her today when I went to drop off a form she requested all homeowners to fill out, I started wondering. Do I have any sort of legal right to live in my own home, given that it is zoned for you know, living in, and I do not expect special treatment? I have triple checked the documents we signed, and nothing in them says we can’t live here. Is there a law I can quote that will potentially make this woman just shut up and leave me alone? We are not the only permanent residents in the neighborhood, but finding out who the others are seems to require asking LectureLady, so I have not yet gotten up the nerve to find out who they are to see if she gives them the same endless aggravation. | e94dzxn | e94i4jx | 1,541,454,889 | 1,541,458,338 | 64 | 535 | I am not a lawyer, but check your States laws about audio recording. If you are one party consent, record each and every conversation you have with her in the future. After you have enough to build a harrassment case, seek legal council and see where you can go from there. This is harassment, plain and simple. | I would be extra petty and carry the HOA docs around with you. The next time she tries to tell you something like these examples, ask her to point out \*exactly\* where in the documents it says you can't use the amenities you pay for. | 0 | 3,449 | 8.359375 |
9uhr30 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Is there a FL law I can cite to get the HOA manager to stop harassing me about living in my own home? Okay, so I live in Florida. We bought a house in one of those communities where most of the homes are owned by investors and rented to tourists on Disney vacations. The tourists actually make great neighbors, they all tend to be in a good mood because they’re on vacation. Nothing in the HOA rules/covenants/etc forbids living in your house, rather than renting it out. The area is zoned residential, our home is a single family, we have no kids, or parties, and are much quieter than the tourists. We are very, very careful about following all of the HOA rules and restrictions, because we understand that our neighbors are effectively businesses, and we don’t want to be dicks and interfere with their customers. But no matter how nice, friendly, or rule-abiding we try to be, the HOA manager/director/crazy person will not stop giving us shit every single time we have to deal with her. The paint job on our house was getting old, so we popped over to the office to flip through the book of approved paint schemes. She lectured us on the fact that these homes were not intended to be full time residences. We applied to put up a mailbox. Many of our neighbors, full time and part time, have them. She okayed the request in the end because the HOA explicitly allows mailboxes, but it took half a dozen back and forth discussions, because again she wanted us to realize these homes are not intended to be lived in, and we should not expect ‘proper residential’ benefits. Her office is located by the community pool/store, and if I so much as dare my head in that area, she will come by to remind me, YET AGAIN, that what we are doing is NOT OKAY. Needless to say, I have taken to avoiding the place. Having just gotten another lecture from her today when I went to drop off a form she requested all homeowners to fill out, I started wondering. Do I have any sort of legal right to live in my own home, given that it is zoned for you know, living in, and I do not expect special treatment? I have triple checked the documents we signed, and nothing in them says we can’t live here. Is there a law I can quote that will potentially make this woman just shut up and leave me alone? We are not the only permanent residents in the neighborhood, but finding out who the others are seems to require asking LectureLady, so I have not yet gotten up the nerve to find out who they are to see if she gives them the same endless aggravation. | e94i19k | e94dzxn | 1,541,458,258 | 1,541,454,889 | 295 | 64 | City planner here: Most cities do not allow hotels (and that’s what these are) in single family zoning. However given the location an exception may have been made, you can check your local zoning code. Also there is a chance these business are not charging or paying hotel taxes. | I am not a lawyer, but check your States laws about audio recording. If you are one party consent, record each and every conversation you have with her in the future. After you have enough to build a harrassment case, seek legal council and see where you can go from there. This is harassment, plain and simple. | 1 | 3,369 | 4.609375 |
9uhr30 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Is there a FL law I can cite to get the HOA manager to stop harassing me about living in my own home? Okay, so I live in Florida. We bought a house in one of those communities where most of the homes are owned by investors and rented to tourists on Disney vacations. The tourists actually make great neighbors, they all tend to be in a good mood because they’re on vacation. Nothing in the HOA rules/covenants/etc forbids living in your house, rather than renting it out. The area is zoned residential, our home is a single family, we have no kids, or parties, and are much quieter than the tourists. We are very, very careful about following all of the HOA rules and restrictions, because we understand that our neighbors are effectively businesses, and we don’t want to be dicks and interfere with their customers. But no matter how nice, friendly, or rule-abiding we try to be, the HOA manager/director/crazy person will not stop giving us shit every single time we have to deal with her. The paint job on our house was getting old, so we popped over to the office to flip through the book of approved paint schemes. She lectured us on the fact that these homes were not intended to be full time residences. We applied to put up a mailbox. Many of our neighbors, full time and part time, have them. She okayed the request in the end because the HOA explicitly allows mailboxes, but it took half a dozen back and forth discussions, because again she wanted us to realize these homes are not intended to be lived in, and we should not expect ‘proper residential’ benefits. Her office is located by the community pool/store, and if I so much as dare my head in that area, she will come by to remind me, YET AGAIN, that what we are doing is NOT OKAY. Needless to say, I have taken to avoiding the place. Having just gotten another lecture from her today when I went to drop off a form she requested all homeowners to fill out, I started wondering. Do I have any sort of legal right to live in my own home, given that it is zoned for you know, living in, and I do not expect special treatment? I have triple checked the documents we signed, and nothing in them says we can’t live here. Is there a law I can quote that will potentially make this woman just shut up and leave me alone? We are not the only permanent residents in the neighborhood, but finding out who the others are seems to require asking LectureLady, so I have not yet gotten up the nerve to find out who they are to see if she gives them the same endless aggravation. | e94xevq | e94dzxn | 1,541,472,130 | 1,541,454,889 | 171 | 64 | People can’t “lecture” you unless you let them. She works for you. The next time she says something that is batshit crazy, tell her that she’s being batshit crazy. Or ask her where in the world she gets the idea that the units aren’t to be used as full time residences and where in the HOA documents it says that. Does she work for a third party company that your HOA hires or dies she work directly for the HOA? You could contact whoever runs the company she works for or contact your HOA president and explain that she’s insane and/or anti-wheelchair. | I am not a lawyer, but check your States laws about audio recording. If you are one party consent, record each and every conversation you have with her in the future. After you have enough to build a harrassment case, seek legal council and see where you can go from there. This is harassment, plain and simple. | 1 | 17,241 | 2.671875 |
9uhr30 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Is there a FL law I can cite to get the HOA manager to stop harassing me about living in my own home? Okay, so I live in Florida. We bought a house in one of those communities where most of the homes are owned by investors and rented to tourists on Disney vacations. The tourists actually make great neighbors, they all tend to be in a good mood because they’re on vacation. Nothing in the HOA rules/covenants/etc forbids living in your house, rather than renting it out. The area is zoned residential, our home is a single family, we have no kids, or parties, and are much quieter than the tourists. We are very, very careful about following all of the HOA rules and restrictions, because we understand that our neighbors are effectively businesses, and we don’t want to be dicks and interfere with their customers. But no matter how nice, friendly, or rule-abiding we try to be, the HOA manager/director/crazy person will not stop giving us shit every single time we have to deal with her. The paint job on our house was getting old, so we popped over to the office to flip through the book of approved paint schemes. She lectured us on the fact that these homes were not intended to be full time residences. We applied to put up a mailbox. Many of our neighbors, full time and part time, have them. She okayed the request in the end because the HOA explicitly allows mailboxes, but it took half a dozen back and forth discussions, because again she wanted us to realize these homes are not intended to be lived in, and we should not expect ‘proper residential’ benefits. Her office is located by the community pool/store, and if I so much as dare my head in that area, she will come by to remind me, YET AGAIN, that what we are doing is NOT OKAY. Needless to say, I have taken to avoiding the place. Having just gotten another lecture from her today when I went to drop off a form she requested all homeowners to fill out, I started wondering. Do I have any sort of legal right to live in my own home, given that it is zoned for you know, living in, and I do not expect special treatment? I have triple checked the documents we signed, and nothing in them says we can’t live here. Is there a law I can quote that will potentially make this woman just shut up and leave me alone? We are not the only permanent residents in the neighborhood, but finding out who the others are seems to require asking LectureLady, so I have not yet gotten up the nerve to find out who they are to see if she gives them the same endless aggravation. | e94u5qb | e94xevq | 1,541,469,234 | 1,541,472,130 | 18 | 171 | Your county Auditor has a property owner search on its website. You can enter the address and it will tell you who owns it since it is public record. I'm assuming you're in Orange County so here's the link: http://www.ocpafl.org/. Can you try finding out who this woman's boss is and complaining to them about her, since I doubt she lives in the community. Although if she does then she's a hypocrite for going after you. You have the opposite problem my family has. We own rental property in Hilton Head and the owner/residents don't like the vacationers. They are trying *everything* to make staying in our complex a pain in the ass. The complex is in an area zoned as mixed residential/commercial so its legal to rent units out, so the legal route is out for these guys. Instead they tried to force the entrance code to the pool and tennis courts be change monthly. When that failed it they demanded quarterly, that was also rejected. Now its an annual code change but they are still pissed about it. | People can’t “lecture” you unless you let them. She works for you. The next time she says something that is batshit crazy, tell her that she’s being batshit crazy. Or ask her where in the world she gets the idea that the units aren’t to be used as full time residences and where in the HOA documents it says that. Does she work for a third party company that your HOA hires or dies she work directly for the HOA? You could contact whoever runs the company she works for or contact your HOA president and explain that she’s insane and/or anti-wheelchair. | 0 | 2,896 | 9.5 |
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