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My wife was killed in an accident and the biological father to my kids wants full custody. My wife has passed away after a drunk driver struck her car days ago. Immediately after, my wife's ex and the biological father of our children (yes, they may not be related by blood but I consider them my kids) has begun to try to take custody of them despite having had no direct contact with them for the past ten years when my wife had been pregnant with the youngest child. The guy has been paying child support but he is otherwise a terrible man that has abused and neglected my wife and kids until he ran off to start a new family with a woman he cheated with (and has now divorced her and abandoned her and their three children too). I have not been able to adopt the children since their biological father is "involved" still. I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. I have asked the kids what they want to do, and they say they would like to remain with me, and they don't like or trust their bio-dad. The children are 14, 12, and 10 respectively. Is there any way I can retain custody of them? Will they automatically be placed with their biological father? Or can they remain with me while I fight for them? I live in New Jersey, their deadbeat father lives in Florida and intends to come up to take them with him, or so he claims. Yes, I am also in the process of getting a lawyer but I want to have an idea of how much of a fight I will have to put up...I have some money saved and...my wife has a life insurance policy that might end up paying the court fees... I have barely had time to grieve because their "real" dad sprung this up before the ink on my wife's death certificate dried... On top of this, I am caring for my infant daughter that my wife and I had months prior, adding to the stress and depression over the situation more.
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dje5ang
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dje3nl2
| 1,498,426,937 | 1,498,424,684 | 885 | 235 |
Unless you know exactly what you're talking about, stay out of this thread. It's not only irresponsible, it's cruel. ETA: Locking because OP has received ample good advice, and there is more noise than signal being added at this point. /u/77777777777777777770, if you have additional questions, please start a new thread. You are absolutely welcome here anytime.
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If you're not legally the father, you have a very tough uphill battle. Hire a family law attorney.
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6jgqab
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legaladvice_train
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My wife was killed in an accident and the biological father to my kids wants full custody. My wife has passed away after a drunk driver struck her car days ago. Immediately after, my wife's ex and the biological father of our children (yes, they may not be related by blood but I consider them my kids) has begun to try to take custody of them despite having had no direct contact with them for the past ten years when my wife had been pregnant with the youngest child. The guy has been paying child support but he is otherwise a terrible man that has abused and neglected my wife and kids until he ran off to start a new family with a woman he cheated with (and has now divorced her and abandoned her and their three children too). I have not been able to adopt the children since their biological father is "involved" still. I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. I have asked the kids what they want to do, and they say they would like to remain with me, and they don't like or trust their bio-dad. The children are 14, 12, and 10 respectively. Is there any way I can retain custody of them? Will they automatically be placed with their biological father? Or can they remain with me while I fight for them? I live in New Jersey, their deadbeat father lives in Florida and intends to come up to take them with him, or so he claims. Yes, I am also in the process of getting a lawyer but I want to have an idea of how much of a fight I will have to put up...I have some money saved and...my wife has a life insurance policy that might end up paying the court fees... I have barely had time to grieve because their "real" dad sprung this up before the ink on my wife's death certificate dried... On top of this, I am caring for my infant daughter that my wife and I had months prior, adding to the stress and depression over the situation more.
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dje4ox6
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dje5ang
| 1,498,426,098 | 1,498,426,937 | 36 | 885 |
> I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. If it was about the money he would have allowed you to adopt the kids, which would have released him of all child support obligations.
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Unless you know exactly what you're talking about, stay out of this thread. It's not only irresponsible, it's cruel. ETA: Locking because OP has received ample good advice, and there is more noise than signal being added at this point. /u/77777777777777777770, if you have additional questions, please start a new thread. You are absolutely welcome here anytime.
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6jgqab
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legaladvice_train
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My wife was killed in an accident and the biological father to my kids wants full custody. My wife has passed away after a drunk driver struck her car days ago. Immediately after, my wife's ex and the biological father of our children (yes, they may not be related by blood but I consider them my kids) has begun to try to take custody of them despite having had no direct contact with them for the past ten years when my wife had been pregnant with the youngest child. The guy has been paying child support but he is otherwise a terrible man that has abused and neglected my wife and kids until he ran off to start a new family with a woman he cheated with (and has now divorced her and abandoned her and their three children too). I have not been able to adopt the children since their biological father is "involved" still. I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. I have asked the kids what they want to do, and they say they would like to remain with me, and they don't like or trust their bio-dad. The children are 14, 12, and 10 respectively. Is there any way I can retain custody of them? Will they automatically be placed with their biological father? Or can they remain with me while I fight for them? I live in New Jersey, their deadbeat father lives in Florida and intends to come up to take them with him, or so he claims. Yes, I am also in the process of getting a lawyer but I want to have an idea of how much of a fight I will have to put up...I have some money saved and...my wife has a life insurance policy that might end up paying the court fees... I have barely had time to grieve because their "real" dad sprung this up before the ink on my wife's death certificate dried... On top of this, I am caring for my infant daughter that my wife and I had months prior, adding to the stress and depression over the situation more.
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dje3nl2
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dje4gbe
| 1,498,424,684 | 1,498,425,778 | 235 | 369 |
If you're not legally the father, you have a very tough uphill battle. Hire a family law attorney.
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I'm sorry. I really really am. I'm sorry for your loss, but most of all, I'm sorry because if he wants the kids, he'll get them. They're his kids, and he's maintained the legally required amount of contact to keep them. If it's primarily a financial thing for him, you can try the route of "you don't have to pay child support, please just let me adopt them". You can hire an attorney (And make sure it's a damn good one who is willing to get the kids to testify as to their desires) and try to fight to keep them, and I've seen it happen, but he's going to have to be damn near legitimately unfit in order for his rights to be severed.
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6jgqab
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legaladvice_train
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My wife was killed in an accident and the biological father to my kids wants full custody. My wife has passed away after a drunk driver struck her car days ago. Immediately after, my wife's ex and the biological father of our children (yes, they may not be related by blood but I consider them my kids) has begun to try to take custody of them despite having had no direct contact with them for the past ten years when my wife had been pregnant with the youngest child. The guy has been paying child support but he is otherwise a terrible man that has abused and neglected my wife and kids until he ran off to start a new family with a woman he cheated with (and has now divorced her and abandoned her and their three children too). I have not been able to adopt the children since their biological father is "involved" still. I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. I have asked the kids what they want to do, and they say they would like to remain with me, and they don't like or trust their bio-dad. The children are 14, 12, and 10 respectively. Is there any way I can retain custody of them? Will they automatically be placed with their biological father? Or can they remain with me while I fight for them? I live in New Jersey, their deadbeat father lives in Florida and intends to come up to take them with him, or so he claims. Yes, I am also in the process of getting a lawyer but I want to have an idea of how much of a fight I will have to put up...I have some money saved and...my wife has a life insurance policy that might end up paying the court fees... I have barely had time to grieve because their "real" dad sprung this up before the ink on my wife's death certificate dried... On top of this, I am caring for my infant daughter that my wife and I had months prior, adding to the stress and depression over the situation more.
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dje4ox6
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djeamk1
| 1,498,426,098 | 1,498,434,688 | 36 | 86 |
> I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. If it was about the money he would have allowed you to adopt the kids, which would have released him of all child support obligations.
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I'm so sorry for your loss, and for the situation you're in now. Beg, borrow, or whatever else you have to do, and get the best lawyer you can find immediately. It's going to be tough and your chances are not amazing, but you already know that. Take care of yourself too, okay? It's great that you're trying so hard to take care of these kids, but make sure you don't forget to take care of yourself. Good luck.
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6jgqab
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My wife was killed in an accident and the biological father to my kids wants full custody. My wife has passed away after a drunk driver struck her car days ago. Immediately after, my wife's ex and the biological father of our children (yes, they may not be related by blood but I consider them my kids) has begun to try to take custody of them despite having had no direct contact with them for the past ten years when my wife had been pregnant with the youngest child. The guy has been paying child support but he is otherwise a terrible man that has abused and neglected my wife and kids until he ran off to start a new family with a woman he cheated with (and has now divorced her and abandoned her and their three children too). I have not been able to adopt the children since their biological father is "involved" still. I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. I have asked the kids what they want to do, and they say they would like to remain with me, and they don't like or trust their bio-dad. The children are 14, 12, and 10 respectively. Is there any way I can retain custody of them? Will they automatically be placed with their biological father? Or can they remain with me while I fight for them? I live in New Jersey, their deadbeat father lives in Florida and intends to come up to take them with him, or so he claims. Yes, I am also in the process of getting a lawyer but I want to have an idea of how much of a fight I will have to put up...I have some money saved and...my wife has a life insurance policy that might end up paying the court fees... I have barely had time to grieve because their "real" dad sprung this up before the ink on my wife's death certificate dried... On top of this, I am caring for my infant daughter that my wife and I had months prior, adding to the stress and depression over the situation more.
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djent81
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djeyp18
| 1,498,456,028 | 1,498,482,201 | 71 | 77 |
Not a lawyer, but have a friend who recently went through something very similar. So, this is not legal advice, just some advice on how to approach the situation on a personal level. Get a lawyer first, talk to him/her, then do as he/she says. Don't do anything stupid. Don't talk shit about the father. Your lawyer is going to have to show in court that you are the most suitable parent, bar none, and that the bio dad is an unfit idiot. Keep the kids out of this, only answer if they ask about it and keep it as neutral as possible, don't fall to the temptation to use them as "pawns". So, you stay clean, let the bio dad make his mistakes, and let the lawyer fight for you. Others with more legal knowledge than me has said this one is winnable, but it'll be a tough battle to win, so think about every single action you take. Don't make anything rash. If the bio dad does something stupid, do not fight back, verbally or otherwise, just take a deep breath, walk away, tell your lawyer about it and let him/her use it as ammo in court instead. Even if you lose, remember that you can still keep contact with the kids. Keeping a "remote eye" on them is not the best solution, but it's better than nothing, and if things go really bad, you can support them and help fix it.
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I am a lawyer, who does family law in Illinois. I am also a Guardian ad litum. First thing first, this isn't legal advice and we aren't forming an attorney-client relationship. Second, get a lawyer. Now. Like right now. Get one that has practiced family law for at least 15 years in your county. Ask him/her for a list of the 3 most diligant, fair and hardworking GALS. Don't go to one of those "father's rights" firms. Third, an emergency motion is 100% needed. Fourth, you would be asking to be the children's guardian. This is a very uphill battle. It will be hard. You have a good chance of not winning. Fifth, you NEED to make sure a Guardian ad Litum is appointed. I have never seen or had a judge go against what the GAL says. Ever. The GAL will interview you, your kids, dad, teachers, anyone else you or dad suggest. They will make a suggestion and it will make or break you. Best of luck.
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6jgqab
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My wife was killed in an accident and the biological father to my kids wants full custody. My wife has passed away after a drunk driver struck her car days ago. Immediately after, my wife's ex and the biological father of our children (yes, they may not be related by blood but I consider them my kids) has begun to try to take custody of them despite having had no direct contact with them for the past ten years when my wife had been pregnant with the youngest child. The guy has been paying child support but he is otherwise a terrible man that has abused and neglected my wife and kids until he ran off to start a new family with a woman he cheated with (and has now divorced her and abandoned her and their three children too). I have not been able to adopt the children since their biological father is "involved" still. I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. I have asked the kids what they want to do, and they say they would like to remain with me, and they don't like or trust their bio-dad. The children are 14, 12, and 10 respectively. Is there any way I can retain custody of them? Will they automatically be placed with their biological father? Or can they remain with me while I fight for them? I live in New Jersey, their deadbeat father lives in Florida and intends to come up to take them with him, or so he claims. Yes, I am also in the process of getting a lawyer but I want to have an idea of how much of a fight I will have to put up...I have some money saved and...my wife has a life insurance policy that might end up paying the court fees... I have barely had time to grieve because their "real" dad sprung this up before the ink on my wife's death certificate dried... On top of this, I am caring for my infant daughter that my wife and I had months prior, adding to the stress and depression over the situation more.
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dje4ox6
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djeyp18
| 1,498,426,098 | 1,498,482,201 | 36 | 77 |
> I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. If it was about the money he would have allowed you to adopt the kids, which would have released him of all child support obligations.
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I am a lawyer, who does family law in Illinois. I am also a Guardian ad litum. First thing first, this isn't legal advice and we aren't forming an attorney-client relationship. Second, get a lawyer. Now. Like right now. Get one that has practiced family law for at least 15 years in your county. Ask him/her for a list of the 3 most diligant, fair and hardworking GALS. Don't go to one of those "father's rights" firms. Third, an emergency motion is 100% needed. Fourth, you would be asking to be the children's guardian. This is a very uphill battle. It will be hard. You have a good chance of not winning. Fifth, you NEED to make sure a Guardian ad Litum is appointed. I have never seen or had a judge go against what the GAL says. Ever. The GAL will interview you, your kids, dad, teachers, anyone else you or dad suggest. They will make a suggestion and it will make or break you. Best of luck.
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6jgqab
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My wife was killed in an accident and the biological father to my kids wants full custody. My wife has passed away after a drunk driver struck her car days ago. Immediately after, my wife's ex and the biological father of our children (yes, they may not be related by blood but I consider them my kids) has begun to try to take custody of them despite having had no direct contact with them for the past ten years when my wife had been pregnant with the youngest child. The guy has been paying child support but he is otherwise a terrible man that has abused and neglected my wife and kids until he ran off to start a new family with a woman he cheated with (and has now divorced her and abandoned her and their three children too). I have not been able to adopt the children since their biological father is "involved" still. I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. I have asked the kids what they want to do, and they say they would like to remain with me, and they don't like or trust their bio-dad. The children are 14, 12, and 10 respectively. Is there any way I can retain custody of them? Will they automatically be placed with their biological father? Or can they remain with me while I fight for them? I live in New Jersey, their deadbeat father lives in Florida and intends to come up to take them with him, or so he claims. Yes, I am also in the process of getting a lawyer but I want to have an idea of how much of a fight I will have to put up...I have some money saved and...my wife has a life insurance policy that might end up paying the court fees... I have barely had time to grieve because their "real" dad sprung this up before the ink on my wife's death certificate dried... On top of this, I am caring for my infant daughter that my wife and I had months prior, adding to the stress and depression over the situation more.
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djeg6i4
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djeyp18
| 1,498,443,160 | 1,498,482,201 | 16 | 77 |
First of all, so sorry for your loss & the trying time your family is going through. You are already on the right path by finding a lawyer. Make sure to get a family lawyer who handles custody cases. There is some case law in New Jersey since 2014 which does make the case for step/ psychological parents visitation & custody. Your lawyer should be able to explain this better for you. Again, sorry for your loss.
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I am a lawyer, who does family law in Illinois. I am also a Guardian ad litum. First thing first, this isn't legal advice and we aren't forming an attorney-client relationship. Second, get a lawyer. Now. Like right now. Get one that has practiced family law for at least 15 years in your county. Ask him/her for a list of the 3 most diligant, fair and hardworking GALS. Don't go to one of those "father's rights" firms. Third, an emergency motion is 100% needed. Fourth, you would be asking to be the children's guardian. This is a very uphill battle. It will be hard. You have a good chance of not winning. Fifth, you NEED to make sure a Guardian ad Litum is appointed. I have never seen or had a judge go against what the GAL says. Ever. The GAL will interview you, your kids, dad, teachers, anyone else you or dad suggest. They will make a suggestion and it will make or break you. Best of luck.
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6jgqab
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My wife was killed in an accident and the biological father to my kids wants full custody. My wife has passed away after a drunk driver struck her car days ago. Immediately after, my wife's ex and the biological father of our children (yes, they may not be related by blood but I consider them my kids) has begun to try to take custody of them despite having had no direct contact with them for the past ten years when my wife had been pregnant with the youngest child. The guy has been paying child support but he is otherwise a terrible man that has abused and neglected my wife and kids until he ran off to start a new family with a woman he cheated with (and has now divorced her and abandoned her and their three children too). I have not been able to adopt the children since their biological father is "involved" still. I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. I have asked the kids what they want to do, and they say they would like to remain with me, and they don't like or trust their bio-dad. The children are 14, 12, and 10 respectively. Is there any way I can retain custody of them? Will they automatically be placed with their biological father? Or can they remain with me while I fight for them? I live in New Jersey, their deadbeat father lives in Florida and intends to come up to take them with him, or so he claims. Yes, I am also in the process of getting a lawyer but I want to have an idea of how much of a fight I will have to put up...I have some money saved and...my wife has a life insurance policy that might end up paying the court fees... I have barely had time to grieve because their "real" dad sprung this up before the ink on my wife's death certificate dried... On top of this, I am caring for my infant daughter that my wife and I had months prior, adding to the stress and depression over the situation more.
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djeyp18
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djewws5
| 1,498,482,201 | 1,498,479,087 | 77 | 19 |
I am a lawyer, who does family law in Illinois. I am also a Guardian ad litum. First thing first, this isn't legal advice and we aren't forming an attorney-client relationship. Second, get a lawyer. Now. Like right now. Get one that has practiced family law for at least 15 years in your county. Ask him/her for a list of the 3 most diligant, fair and hardworking GALS. Don't go to one of those "father's rights" firms. Third, an emergency motion is 100% needed. Fourth, you would be asking to be the children's guardian. This is a very uphill battle. It will be hard. You have a good chance of not winning. Fifth, you NEED to make sure a Guardian ad Litum is appointed. I have never seen or had a judge go against what the GAL says. Ever. The GAL will interview you, your kids, dad, teachers, anyone else you or dad suggest. They will make a suggestion and it will make or break you. Best of luck.
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OK, I want to chime in here to add to what others have said. 1.) Yup, you need a lawyer. You also need to start proving all these allegations against bio-dad. Your first ally? The woman he cheated with and divorced. You also need to substantiate your statements about him being abusive - do you have pictures? Contemporaneous accounts (ie your wife told someone **other than you** near the time it happened)? Witnesses? Police reports or court documents? 2.) Your lawyer can file a petition to request that the kids get a guardian ad litem (GAL) or court appointed special advocate (CASA). That means the kids get their own lawyer. You should discuss this strategy with your lawyer, and determine the pros and cons. 3.) Dig out the old custody agreement and order. If there is relevant evidence in there (e.g. if it spoke of abuse at the time), then that will also help immensely because it's already gone through the court process. 4.) Look into respite services. Respite services can help find someone to watch the kids for a day or weekend so you can get some time to yourself. Please - driving yourself insane trying to do everything yourself will not help your kids here. 5.) If any of the kids have special needs that need special care to take care of, especially mental ones (such as autism) that makes transition a bad idea, get their medical providers to write a report to that effect. If all 3 kids prefer to stay with you, you have at least advantage, because they are old enough that the court will take their wishes into account, and will want to keep them together. Good luck!
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My wife was killed in an accident and the biological father to my kids wants full custody. My wife has passed away after a drunk driver struck her car days ago. Immediately after, my wife's ex and the biological father of our children (yes, they may not be related by blood but I consider them my kids) has begun to try to take custody of them despite having had no direct contact with them for the past ten years when my wife had been pregnant with the youngest child. The guy has been paying child support but he is otherwise a terrible man that has abused and neglected my wife and kids until he ran off to start a new family with a woman he cheated with (and has now divorced her and abandoned her and their three children too). I have not been able to adopt the children since their biological father is "involved" still. I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. I have asked the kids what they want to do, and they say they would like to remain with me, and they don't like or trust their bio-dad. The children are 14, 12, and 10 respectively. Is there any way I can retain custody of them? Will they automatically be placed with their biological father? Or can they remain with me while I fight for them? I live in New Jersey, their deadbeat father lives in Florida and intends to come up to take them with him, or so he claims. Yes, I am also in the process of getting a lawyer but I want to have an idea of how much of a fight I will have to put up...I have some money saved and...my wife has a life insurance policy that might end up paying the court fees... I have barely had time to grieve because their "real" dad sprung this up before the ink on my wife's death certificate dried... On top of this, I am caring for my infant daughter that my wife and I had months prior, adding to the stress and depression over the situation more.
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dje4ox6
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djent81
| 1,498,426,098 | 1,498,456,028 | 36 | 71 |
> I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. If it was about the money he would have allowed you to adopt the kids, which would have released him of all child support obligations.
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Not a lawyer, but have a friend who recently went through something very similar. So, this is not legal advice, just some advice on how to approach the situation on a personal level. Get a lawyer first, talk to him/her, then do as he/she says. Don't do anything stupid. Don't talk shit about the father. Your lawyer is going to have to show in court that you are the most suitable parent, bar none, and that the bio dad is an unfit idiot. Keep the kids out of this, only answer if they ask about it and keep it as neutral as possible, don't fall to the temptation to use them as "pawns". So, you stay clean, let the bio dad make his mistakes, and let the lawyer fight for you. Others with more legal knowledge than me has said this one is winnable, but it'll be a tough battle to win, so think about every single action you take. Don't make anything rash. If the bio dad does something stupid, do not fight back, verbally or otherwise, just take a deep breath, walk away, tell your lawyer about it and let him/her use it as ammo in court instead. Even if you lose, remember that you can still keep contact with the kids. Keeping a "remote eye" on them is not the best solution, but it's better than nothing, and if things go really bad, you can support them and help fix it.
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legaladvice_train
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My wife was killed in an accident and the biological father to my kids wants full custody. My wife has passed away after a drunk driver struck her car days ago. Immediately after, my wife's ex and the biological father of our children (yes, they may not be related by blood but I consider them my kids) has begun to try to take custody of them despite having had no direct contact with them for the past ten years when my wife had been pregnant with the youngest child. The guy has been paying child support but he is otherwise a terrible man that has abused and neglected my wife and kids until he ran off to start a new family with a woman he cheated with (and has now divorced her and abandoned her and their three children too). I have not been able to adopt the children since their biological father is "involved" still. I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. I have asked the kids what they want to do, and they say they would like to remain with me, and they don't like or trust their bio-dad. The children are 14, 12, and 10 respectively. Is there any way I can retain custody of them? Will they automatically be placed with their biological father? Or can they remain with me while I fight for them? I live in New Jersey, their deadbeat father lives in Florida and intends to come up to take them with him, or so he claims. Yes, I am also in the process of getting a lawyer but I want to have an idea of how much of a fight I will have to put up...I have some money saved and...my wife has a life insurance policy that might end up paying the court fees... I have barely had time to grieve because their "real" dad sprung this up before the ink on my wife's death certificate dried... On top of this, I am caring for my infant daughter that my wife and I had months prior, adding to the stress and depression over the situation more.
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djeg6i4
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djent81
| 1,498,443,160 | 1,498,456,028 | 16 | 71 |
First of all, so sorry for your loss & the trying time your family is going through. You are already on the right path by finding a lawyer. Make sure to get a family lawyer who handles custody cases. There is some case law in New Jersey since 2014 which does make the case for step/ psychological parents visitation & custody. Your lawyer should be able to explain this better for you. Again, sorry for your loss.
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Not a lawyer, but have a friend who recently went through something very similar. So, this is not legal advice, just some advice on how to approach the situation on a personal level. Get a lawyer first, talk to him/her, then do as he/she says. Don't do anything stupid. Don't talk shit about the father. Your lawyer is going to have to show in court that you are the most suitable parent, bar none, and that the bio dad is an unfit idiot. Keep the kids out of this, only answer if they ask about it and keep it as neutral as possible, don't fall to the temptation to use them as "pawns". So, you stay clean, let the bio dad make his mistakes, and let the lawyer fight for you. Others with more legal knowledge than me has said this one is winnable, but it'll be a tough battle to win, so think about every single action you take. Don't make anything rash. If the bio dad does something stupid, do not fight back, verbally or otherwise, just take a deep breath, walk away, tell your lawyer about it and let him/her use it as ammo in court instead. Even if you lose, remember that you can still keep contact with the kids. Keeping a "remote eye" on them is not the best solution, but it's better than nothing, and if things go really bad, you can support them and help fix it.
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My wife was killed in an accident and the biological father to my kids wants full custody. My wife has passed away after a drunk driver struck her car days ago. Immediately after, my wife's ex and the biological father of our children (yes, they may not be related by blood but I consider them my kids) has begun to try to take custody of them despite having had no direct contact with them for the past ten years when my wife had been pregnant with the youngest child. The guy has been paying child support but he is otherwise a terrible man that has abused and neglected my wife and kids until he ran off to start a new family with a woman he cheated with (and has now divorced her and abandoned her and their three children too). I have not been able to adopt the children since their biological father is "involved" still. I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. I have asked the kids what they want to do, and they say they would like to remain with me, and they don't like or trust their bio-dad. The children are 14, 12, and 10 respectively. Is there any way I can retain custody of them? Will they automatically be placed with their biological father? Or can they remain with me while I fight for them? I live in New Jersey, their deadbeat father lives in Florida and intends to come up to take them with him, or so he claims. Yes, I am also in the process of getting a lawyer but I want to have an idea of how much of a fight I will have to put up...I have some money saved and...my wife has a life insurance policy that might end up paying the court fees... I have barely had time to grieve because their "real" dad sprung this up before the ink on my wife's death certificate dried... On top of this, I am caring for my infant daughter that my wife and I had months prior, adding to the stress and depression over the situation more.
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First of all, so sorry for your loss & the trying time your family is going through. You are already on the right path by finding a lawyer. Make sure to get a family lawyer who handles custody cases. There is some case law in New Jersey since 2014 which does make the case for step/ psychological parents visitation & custody. Your lawyer should be able to explain this better for you. Again, sorry for your loss.
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OK, I want to chime in here to add to what others have said. 1.) Yup, you need a lawyer. You also need to start proving all these allegations against bio-dad. Your first ally? The woman he cheated with and divorced. You also need to substantiate your statements about him being abusive - do you have pictures? Contemporaneous accounts (ie your wife told someone **other than you** near the time it happened)? Witnesses? Police reports or court documents? 2.) Your lawyer can file a petition to request that the kids get a guardian ad litem (GAL) or court appointed special advocate (CASA). That means the kids get their own lawyer. You should discuss this strategy with your lawyer, and determine the pros and cons. 3.) Dig out the old custody agreement and order. If there is relevant evidence in there (e.g. if it spoke of abuse at the time), then that will also help immensely because it's already gone through the court process. 4.) Look into respite services. Respite services can help find someone to watch the kids for a day or weekend so you can get some time to yourself. Please - driving yourself insane trying to do everything yourself will not help your kids here. 5.) If any of the kids have special needs that need special care to take care of, especially mental ones (such as autism) that makes transition a bad idea, get their medical providers to write a report to that effect. If all 3 kids prefer to stay with you, you have at least advantage, because they are old enough that the court will take their wishes into account, and will want to keep them together. Good luck!
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c75s13
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[PA] My stepdaughter really wants to change her last name to my last name, but the law is unclear to me. Biological father doesn’t consent. My stepdaughter is 11 years old, going on 12. I’ve been in her life since she was almost 2, and I married her mother 5 years ago, at which time her mother’s last name changed to the same as my own. My stepdaughter has the same last name as her biological father, who is still in the picture and has visitation every other weekend. She’s been wanting to change her last name to the same as mine/her mother’s for a while. Her desire to change it has increased a lot since her brother was born a year ago. Recently she’s really been talking about wishing she could have the same last name as the rest of us a ton, but her father still doesn’t consent. We thought that he had to or else it was a non-starter, but after a little research it seems like maybe that’s not the case? Seems there’s a process for a petition, hearing, etc. However, it seems like a lot of the stuff I’ve read surrounds that process occurring when you want to change a minor child’s name to a name different from that of her custodial parent - which is not the case here; it’s just a change to the last name of the other custodial parent. It’s also the same last name as her sibling (she has no siblings from her father and her father has not had any other relationships/marriage, nor was he ever married to my wife). It’s her preference. So I’m unclear on how deep this process actually has to go and how much the other parent can block the change. Any info is appreciated. Thank you!
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esdjv9b
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Is hyphination an option? Include both names.
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In six years, she can do what she wants with no permission needed. Spell it out to her that way.
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[NJ] I was arrested for a dui and blood alcohol levels were 0.00 and drug test was negative. Parents don't want to pay attorney fees what can I do? I'm at a loss here. I was wrongly arrested and I had an attorney consultation. The fees will amount to 8,000. The breathalyzer came out as 0.00 and all the drug tests came up as negative. I was arrested for having my headlights off. Although I am completely innocent, I still have to go to court and a lot of money will be involved. I made a huge mistake driving without my headlights and I don't want to stress out my parents. But I also do not want to be guilty for something I didn't do. I am very disappointed in the legal system for causing me so much distress for something that I didn't do.
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cyknpan
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cykte46
| 1,451,851,385 | 1,451,859,718 | 20 | 56 |
When was the arrest?
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Consult with another attorney, $8k is crazy. I hired a highly recommended criminal defense attorney, with a proven track record of DWI reductions/dismissals for $3000 total in Texas. You should start receiving offers in the mail shortly if you havent already. If your BAC was 0, and the urinalysis was negative, try and calm down a bit. It seems highly unlikely that you would be convicted simply because of a failed HGN test. You are going to want a lawyer to represent you in court, but it doesnt have to cost nearly as much as you quoted here, especially for a case that seems this straight forward based on your information provided.
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3zb7cu
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[NJ] I was arrested for a dui and blood alcohol levels were 0.00 and drug test was negative. Parents don't want to pay attorney fees what can I do? I'm at a loss here. I was wrongly arrested and I had an attorney consultation. The fees will amount to 8,000. The breathalyzer came out as 0.00 and all the drug tests came up as negative. I was arrested for having my headlights off. Although I am completely innocent, I still have to go to court and a lot of money will be involved. I made a huge mistake driving without my headlights and I don't want to stress out my parents. But I also do not want to be guilty for something I didn't do. I am very disappointed in the legal system for causing me so much distress for something that I didn't do.
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cykte46
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cykpmr4
| 1,451,859,718 | 1,451,854,207 | 56 | 18 |
Consult with another attorney, $8k is crazy. I hired a highly recommended criminal defense attorney, with a proven track record of DWI reductions/dismissals for $3000 total in Texas. You should start receiving offers in the mail shortly if you havent already. If your BAC was 0, and the urinalysis was negative, try and calm down a bit. It seems highly unlikely that you would be convicted simply because of a failed HGN test. You are going to want a lawyer to represent you in court, but it doesnt have to cost nearly as much as you quoted here, especially for a case that seems this straight forward based on your information provided.
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Why did you post about this yesterday but leave out details in this second story. According to your first post you were drinking.
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3zb7cu
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[NJ] I was arrested for a dui and blood alcohol levels were 0.00 and drug test was negative. Parents don't want to pay attorney fees what can I do? I'm at a loss here. I was wrongly arrested and I had an attorney consultation. The fees will amount to 8,000. The breathalyzer came out as 0.00 and all the drug tests came up as negative. I was arrested for having my headlights off. Although I am completely innocent, I still have to go to court and a lot of money will be involved. I made a huge mistake driving without my headlights and I don't want to stress out my parents. But I also do not want to be guilty for something I didn't do. I am very disappointed in the legal system for causing me so much distress for something that I didn't do.
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cyknu8n
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cykte46
| 1,451,851,592 | 1,451,859,718 | 2 | 56 |
Did you fail any type of sobriety test, like walking a straight line?
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Consult with another attorney, $8k is crazy. I hired a highly recommended criminal defense attorney, with a proven track record of DWI reductions/dismissals for $3000 total in Texas. You should start receiving offers in the mail shortly if you havent already. If your BAC was 0, and the urinalysis was negative, try and calm down a bit. It seems highly unlikely that you would be convicted simply because of a failed HGN test. You are going to want a lawyer to represent you in court, but it doesnt have to cost nearly as much as you quoted here, especially for a case that seems this straight forward based on your information provided.
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3zb7cu
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[NJ] I was arrested for a dui and blood alcohol levels were 0.00 and drug test was negative. Parents don't want to pay attorney fees what can I do? I'm at a loss here. I was wrongly arrested and I had an attorney consultation. The fees will amount to 8,000. The breathalyzer came out as 0.00 and all the drug tests came up as negative. I was arrested for having my headlights off. Although I am completely innocent, I still have to go to court and a lot of money will be involved. I made a huge mistake driving without my headlights and I don't want to stress out my parents. But I also do not want to be guilty for something I didn't do. I am very disappointed in the legal system for causing me so much distress for something that I didn't do.
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cykpmr4
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cyknu8n
| 1,451,854,207 | 1,451,851,592 | 18 | 2 |
Why did you post about this yesterday but leave out details in this second story. According to your first post you were drinking.
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Did you fail any type of sobriety test, like walking a straight line?
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3zb7cu
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[NJ] I was arrested for a dui and blood alcohol levels were 0.00 and drug test was negative. Parents don't want to pay attorney fees what can I do? I'm at a loss here. I was wrongly arrested and I had an attorney consultation. The fees will amount to 8,000. The breathalyzer came out as 0.00 and all the drug tests came up as negative. I was arrested for having my headlights off. Although I am completely innocent, I still have to go to court and a lot of money will be involved. I made a huge mistake driving without my headlights and I don't want to stress out my parents. But I also do not want to be guilty for something I didn't do. I am very disappointed in the legal system for causing me so much distress for something that I didn't do.
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cyl2r0r
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cyknu8n
| 1,451,874,631 | 1,451,851,592 | 8 | 2 |
I've read through the other comments, and I have some questions: 1. Are you keeping this from your parents, or are your parents refusing to help you? The title implies one, the post itself implies another. 2. Was your drug test done in a lab, or did you buy it at a store? 3. I've been out of policing for 4 years, but the last I heard HGN is usually the first evaluation performed, not the last. Were you tested for HGN first and then re-tested? I'm not sure how it's done in NJ. But you can petition the court for a lawyer if you can't afford one. I would try talking to the prosecutor's office. Also, if you want to delay your court date, just call and tell the court you're still in the process of hiring an attorney and would like a continuance. I'm sure they'll accommodate you.
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Did you fail any type of sobriety test, like walking a straight line?
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3zb7cu
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legaladvice_train
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[NJ] I was arrested for a dui and blood alcohol levels were 0.00 and drug test was negative. Parents don't want to pay attorney fees what can I do? I'm at a loss here. I was wrongly arrested and I had an attorney consultation. The fees will amount to 8,000. The breathalyzer came out as 0.00 and all the drug tests came up as negative. I was arrested for having my headlights off. Although I am completely innocent, I still have to go to court and a lot of money will be involved. I made a huge mistake driving without my headlights and I don't want to stress out my parents. But I also do not want to be guilty for something I didn't do. I am very disappointed in the legal system for causing me so much distress for something that I didn't do.
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cyknu8n
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cyl9t82
| 1,451,851,592 | 1,451,887,843 | 2 | 3 |
Did you fail any type of sobriety test, like walking a straight line?
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See a different atty-$8000 is too much of the evidence is as you said it was.
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yn3938
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Are my parents legally allowed to get me to care for them when they retire? Hey guys, (20f) here, there’s been something on my mind the last bit and some of the things my parents have said in the past are bothering me. Recently I hooked a really good paying job, I’ll have my own apartment soon and Im Financially well off for the next couple years if not the rest of my life. Problem is my parents have repetitively threatened to legally bind me to keeping care of them after retirement. Even worse is they are divorced and I haven’t had contact with them in the last couple years from some emotional stuff. Do I legally have to keep care of my parents after they retire? Are they entitled to any sort of money from me and can they take legal actions against me? I live in Saskatchewan and as their “retirement” creeps closer it’s scaring me cause I don’t want any contact with them anymore. My money is for me and with how I’ve been treated I’d rather watch them crumble and fall realizing they have no retirement and their kids aren’t going to help them. I’m sorry if this sounds silly but it’s been eating away at me and I can’t find anything reasonable when I search besides people making jokes on how their kids are gonna keep care of them and articles about how to keep care of elderly people. I just want some reassurance if anyone has information…
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iv6xseo
| 1,667,677,703 | 1,667,677,850 | 204 | 525 |
Ask on r/legaladvicecanada. But have a quick read of this on the way: https://www.canadianlawyermag.com/news/general/my-parents-keeper/268141.
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According to this article Saskatchewan has a filial responsibility law (whether statute or common law I can't tell from the article). According to the law professor interviewed in the article, "there have only been a handful of reported cases over the past 10 years or so \[...\] with one of the usual characteristics being a lot of family tension, not because of the litigation but going back decades." Whether in your particular case your parents can successfully bring an action for filial support when they retire will only be answerable by an attorney practicing in Saskatchewan.
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yn3938
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Are my parents legally allowed to get me to care for them when they retire? Hey guys, (20f) here, there’s been something on my mind the last bit and some of the things my parents have said in the past are bothering me. Recently I hooked a really good paying job, I’ll have my own apartment soon and Im Financially well off for the next couple years if not the rest of my life. Problem is my parents have repetitively threatened to legally bind me to keeping care of them after retirement. Even worse is they are divorced and I haven’t had contact with them in the last couple years from some emotional stuff. Do I legally have to keep care of my parents after they retire? Are they entitled to any sort of money from me and can they take legal actions against me? I live in Saskatchewan and as their “retirement” creeps closer it’s scaring me cause I don’t want any contact with them anymore. My money is for me and with how I’ve been treated I’d rather watch them crumble and fall realizing they have no retirement and their kids aren’t going to help them. I’m sorry if this sounds silly but it’s been eating away at me and I can’t find anything reasonable when I search besides people making jokes on how their kids are gonna keep care of them and articles about how to keep care of elderly people. I just want some reassurance if anyone has information…
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iv6x5ez
| 1,667,677,850 | 1,667,677,576 | 525 | 67 |
According to this article Saskatchewan has a filial responsibility law (whether statute or common law I can't tell from the article). According to the law professor interviewed in the article, "there have only been a handful of reported cases over the past 10 years or so \[...\] with one of the usual characteristics being a lot of family tension, not because of the litigation but going back decades." Whether in your particular case your parents can successfully bring an action for filial support when they retire will only be answerable by an attorney practicing in Saskatchewan.
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r/legaladvicecanada
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yn3938
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legaladvice_train
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Are my parents legally allowed to get me to care for them when they retire? Hey guys, (20f) here, there’s been something on my mind the last bit and some of the things my parents have said in the past are bothering me. Recently I hooked a really good paying job, I’ll have my own apartment soon and Im Financially well off for the next couple years if not the rest of my life. Problem is my parents have repetitively threatened to legally bind me to keeping care of them after retirement. Even worse is they are divorced and I haven’t had contact with them in the last couple years from some emotional stuff. Do I legally have to keep care of my parents after they retire? Are they entitled to any sort of money from me and can they take legal actions against me? I live in Saskatchewan and as their “retirement” creeps closer it’s scaring me cause I don’t want any contact with them anymore. My money is for me and with how I’ve been treated I’d rather watch them crumble and fall realizing they have no retirement and their kids aren’t going to help them. I’m sorry if this sounds silly but it’s been eating away at me and I can’t find anything reasonable when I search besides people making jokes on how their kids are gonna keep care of them and articles about how to keep care of elderly people. I just want some reassurance if anyone has information…
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iv6xseo
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iv6vw7s
| 1,667,677,850 | 1,667,677,046 | 525 | 20 |
According to this article Saskatchewan has a filial responsibility law (whether statute or common law I can't tell from the article). According to the law professor interviewed in the article, "there have only been a handful of reported cases over the past 10 years or so \[...\] with one of the usual characteristics being a lot of family tension, not because of the litigation but going back decades." Whether in your particular case your parents can successfully bring an action for filial support when they retire will only be answerable by an attorney practicing in Saskatchewan.
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Location matters a lot here. There are states with filial responsibility laws that could allow you to be billed for their care in a nursing home. EDIT - just realized this is CA, so I have no idea, sorry!
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yn3938
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legaladvice_train
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Are my parents legally allowed to get me to care for them when they retire? Hey guys, (20f) here, there’s been something on my mind the last bit and some of the things my parents have said in the past are bothering me. Recently I hooked a really good paying job, I’ll have my own apartment soon and Im Financially well off for the next couple years if not the rest of my life. Problem is my parents have repetitively threatened to legally bind me to keeping care of them after retirement. Even worse is they are divorced and I haven’t had contact with them in the last couple years from some emotional stuff. Do I legally have to keep care of my parents after they retire? Are they entitled to any sort of money from me and can they take legal actions against me? I live in Saskatchewan and as their “retirement” creeps closer it’s scaring me cause I don’t want any contact with them anymore. My money is for me and with how I’ve been treated I’d rather watch them crumble and fall realizing they have no retirement and their kids aren’t going to help them. I’m sorry if this sounds silly but it’s been eating away at me and I can’t find anything reasonable when I search besides people making jokes on how their kids are gonna keep care of them and articles about how to keep care of elderly people. I just want some reassurance if anyone has information…
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iv6xg0b
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iv6x5ez
| 1,667,677,703 | 1,667,677,576 | 204 | 67 |
Ask on r/legaladvicecanada. But have a quick read of this on the way: https://www.canadianlawyermag.com/news/general/my-parents-keeper/268141.
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r/legaladvicecanada
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yn3938
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legaladvice_train
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Are my parents legally allowed to get me to care for them when they retire? Hey guys, (20f) here, there’s been something on my mind the last bit and some of the things my parents have said in the past are bothering me. Recently I hooked a really good paying job, I’ll have my own apartment soon and Im Financially well off for the next couple years if not the rest of my life. Problem is my parents have repetitively threatened to legally bind me to keeping care of them after retirement. Even worse is they are divorced and I haven’t had contact with them in the last couple years from some emotional stuff. Do I legally have to keep care of my parents after they retire? Are they entitled to any sort of money from me and can they take legal actions against me? I live in Saskatchewan and as their “retirement” creeps closer it’s scaring me cause I don’t want any contact with them anymore. My money is for me and with how I’ve been treated I’d rather watch them crumble and fall realizing they have no retirement and their kids aren’t going to help them. I’m sorry if this sounds silly but it’s been eating away at me and I can’t find anything reasonable when I search besides people making jokes on how their kids are gonna keep care of them and articles about how to keep care of elderly people. I just want some reassurance if anyone has information…
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iv6xg0b
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iv6vw7s
| 1,667,677,703 | 1,667,677,046 | 204 | 20 |
Ask on r/legaladvicecanada. But have a quick read of this on the way: https://www.canadianlawyermag.com/news/general/my-parents-keeper/268141.
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Location matters a lot here. There are states with filial responsibility laws that could allow you to be billed for their care in a nursing home. EDIT - just realized this is CA, so I have no idea, sorry!
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yn3938
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legaladvice_train
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Are my parents legally allowed to get me to care for them when they retire? Hey guys, (20f) here, there’s been something on my mind the last bit and some of the things my parents have said in the past are bothering me. Recently I hooked a really good paying job, I’ll have my own apartment soon and Im Financially well off for the next couple years if not the rest of my life. Problem is my parents have repetitively threatened to legally bind me to keeping care of them after retirement. Even worse is they are divorced and I haven’t had contact with them in the last couple years from some emotional stuff. Do I legally have to keep care of my parents after they retire? Are they entitled to any sort of money from me and can they take legal actions against me? I live in Saskatchewan and as their “retirement” creeps closer it’s scaring me cause I don’t want any contact with them anymore. My money is for me and with how I’ve been treated I’d rather watch them crumble and fall realizing they have no retirement and their kids aren’t going to help them. I’m sorry if this sounds silly but it’s been eating away at me and I can’t find anything reasonable when I search besides people making jokes on how their kids are gonna keep care of them and articles about how to keep care of elderly people. I just want some reassurance if anyone has information…
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iv6x5ez
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iv6vw7s
| 1,667,677,576 | 1,667,677,046 | 67 | 20 |
r/legaladvicecanada
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Location matters a lot here. There are states with filial responsibility laws that could allow you to be billed for their care in a nursing home. EDIT - just realized this is CA, so I have no idea, sorry!
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(Ca) SO's father died several months ago , she was not notified till today. He stayed at a retirement community that sold and trashed everything of his death, including a car. Is this legal? They had a poor relationship with him and didn't really want anything of his but her moms ashes that he had and they have been disposed of. She only found out he died from receiving a letter from his insurance that she has money coming to her. Was it legal of them to sell and remove his stuff?
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cvaoj2a
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cvakzpw
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They would be required to notify the listed next-of-kin before disposing of the property. It's possible that they tried to contact someone else, or he never told them who to contact.
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Are the 'they' and 'them' you referred to in your narrative referring to the retirement home your SO's father was living at?
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3lz6a3
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legaladvice_train
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(Ca) SO's father died several months ago , she was not notified till today. He stayed at a retirement community that sold and trashed everything of his death, including a car. Is this legal? They had a poor relationship with him and didn't really want anything of his but her moms ashes that he had and they have been disposed of. She only found out he died from receiving a letter from his insurance that she has money coming to her. Was it legal of them to sell and remove his stuff?
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cvakynp
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cvaoj2a
| 1,442,953,251 | 1,442,958,679 | 7 | 90 |
Somewhat related; how does Power of Attorney work if an elder relative is in a residential care facility? If I were forced to have my mom moved from my home to a retirement home due to an inability to care for her, would I retain POA?
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They would be required to notify the listed next-of-kin before disposing of the property. It's possible that they tried to contact someone else, or he never told them who to contact.
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3lz6a3
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legaladvice_train
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(Ca) SO's father died several months ago , she was not notified till today. He stayed at a retirement community that sold and trashed everything of his death, including a car. Is this legal? They had a poor relationship with him and didn't really want anything of his but her moms ashes that he had and they have been disposed of. She only found out he died from receiving a letter from his insurance that she has money coming to her. Was it legal of them to sell and remove his stuff?
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cvakynp
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cvakzpw
| 1,442,953,251 | 1,442,953,293 | 7 | 28 |
Somewhat related; how does Power of Attorney work if an elder relative is in a residential care facility? If I were forced to have my mom moved from my home to a retirement home due to an inability to care for her, would I retain POA?
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Are the 'they' and 'them' you referred to in your narrative referring to the retirement home your SO's father was living at?
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3lz6a3
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legaladvice_train
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(Ca) SO's father died several months ago , she was not notified till today. He stayed at a retirement community that sold and trashed everything of his death, including a car. Is this legal? They had a poor relationship with him and didn't really want anything of his but her moms ashes that he had and they have been disposed of. She only found out he died from receiving a letter from his insurance that she has money coming to her. Was it legal of them to sell and remove his stuff?
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cvap8nz
| 1,442,953,251 | 1,442,959,854 | 7 | 12 |
Somewhat related; how does Power of Attorney work if an elder relative is in a residential care facility? If I were forced to have my mom moved from my home to a retirement home due to an inability to care for her, would I retain POA?
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> Was it legal of them to sell and remove his stuff? Most likely not. This is a case which you really need an attorney for.
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(Ca) SO's father died several months ago , she was not notified till today. He stayed at a retirement community that sold and trashed everything of his death, including a car. Is this legal? They had a poor relationship with him and didn't really want anything of his but her moms ashes that he had and they have been disposed of. She only found out he died from receiving a letter from his insurance that she has money coming to her. Was it legal of them to sell and remove his stuff?
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I'm currently helping my parents move to a retirement home. There is a residency agreement, wherein they designate beneficiaries of the apartment proceeds. They also have a Will. Did her father have a Will or any contract with the retirement community? If he did and their actions did not follow the terms, you have a case. If there's a contract that does not name your SO as a beneficiary, you may be SOL. If no contract and he died intestate, next of kin should have been notified and would inherit his estate.
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The only way this could possibly be legal is if he signed an agreement with the facility where he signed over his property to the facility and/or allowed them to dispose of personal belongings upon his death. I could see that with personal belongings, but the car is more difficult. That requires proper documentation with the DMV. Are you sure the car wasn't sold prior to his death? The other possibility is the estate was administered by the Public Administrator, but your SO would have been notified.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Did he have a will? And the location (as in state and/or country) isn’t optional for this sort of question.
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Another important piece of information - how is the house titled? It's possible that you are the sole legal owner based on how it was titled and they do not have a claim, or it is possible that they now own half and you own half. Generally in most US states, the default if you purchase a home after marriage it's the first option.
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Why do you say he "left this house for me" when there isn't a will? Was there some other document like a trust or are you joint tenants with rights of survivorship?
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Please don’t try to figure out which replies are good, bad or accurate. Get a lawyer. I read a few and there is way too much bad info. You need a complete analysis of the relevant facts and how the law in your state applies to those facts and then develop a strategy for dealing with the estate, if any, and any claims.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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I’m an estate lawyer, although not in your state. You need to hire an estate attorney — if you don’t know where to start, call your county bar association for a referral.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Get a lawyer
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Please don’t try to figure out which replies are good, bad or accurate. Get a lawyer. I read a few and there is way too much bad info. You need a complete analysis of the relevant facts and how the law in your state applies to those facts and then develop a strategy for dealing with the estate, if any, and any claims.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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This is a BIG hire a lawyer territory especially with his children disputing and asserting their rights. Every single factor will matter including whether you were actually married (I assume so but just checking), whether his divorce was true and final (again I’m assuming so as well), but from then on, it’s a question of how was it titled, in what manner, etc. Also worth noting: the children are likely to get counsel anyways and you need yours. Only YOUR lawyer can represent your best interests, not theirs. GL!
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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As a realtor (not in your state) look and how he assigned title- if it is tenants by entirety, the house goes to you completely no questions asked. Tenants in common, then his share is not guaranteed to you. Your title/attorney who closed you on the home should have that information.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Please don’t try to figure out which replies are good, bad or accurate. Get a lawyer. I read a few and there is way too much bad info. You need a complete analysis of the relevant facts and how the law in your state applies to those facts and then develop a strategy for dealing with the estate, if any, and any claims.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Please don’t try to figure out which replies are good, bad or accurate. Get a lawyer. I read a few and there is way too much bad info. You need a complete analysis of the relevant facts and how the law in your state applies to those facts and then develop a strategy for dealing with the estate, if any, and any claims.
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Definitely talk to a probate attorney. Even of the kids are entitled to part of tbe house, you maybhave homestead rights.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Hire a lawyer. Common answer but he left you the house. He didn’t vest them, nor did he put it in a trust. I would find a good property law/probate lawyer. Depends on the state how laws are defined w/ decedents. You can sell and give your kids money, but break the “this was a mistake” mentality around your children. Off spring are not spouses. Hope for the best outcome for you! Or his kids, same same! Check report, see vesting for you tenancy. Tenant in common-probate Tenant of the entirety/joint tenant-property should be conveyed by law to surviving tenant, property is not subject to will. Verify with an attorney in your state. Provide all details with them but don’t solely go off this. Property law can be tricky and you need to lock all details down!
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Title: **Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share?**
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Please don’t try to figure out which replies are good, bad or accurate. Get a lawyer. I read a few and there is way too much bad info. You need a complete analysis of the relevant facts and how the law in your state applies to those facts and then develop a strategy for dealing with the estate, if any, and any claims.
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Sorry for your loss. You need to get a lawyer and talk to the executor of your late husband's estate.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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If there's no will they have a strong case. You absolutely need a lawyer for this.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Why do you say he "left this house for me" when there isn't a will? Was there some other document like a trust or are you joint tenants with rights of survivorship?
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Why do you say he "left this house for me" when there isn't a will? Was there some other document like a trust or are you joint tenants with rights of survivorship?
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As a realtor (not in your state) look and how he assigned title- if it is tenants by entirety, the house goes to you completely no questions asked. Tenants in common, then his share is not guaranteed to you. Your title/attorney who closed you on the home should have that information.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Why do you say he "left this house for me" when there isn't a will? Was there some other document like a trust or are you joint tenants with rights of survivorship?
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Why do you say he "left this house for me" when there isn't a will? Was there some other document like a trust or are you joint tenants with rights of survivorship?
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Hire a lawyer. Common answer but he left you the house. He didn’t vest them, nor did he put it in a trust. I would find a good property law/probate lawyer. Depends on the state how laws are defined w/ decedents. You can sell and give your kids money, but break the “this was a mistake” mentality around your children. Off spring are not spouses. Hope for the best outcome for you! Or his kids, same same! Check report, see vesting for you tenancy. Tenant in common-probate Tenant of the entirety/joint tenant-property should be conveyed by law to surviving tenant, property is not subject to will. Verify with an attorney in your state. Provide all details with them but don’t solely go off this. Property law can be tricky and you need to lock all details down!
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Why do you say he "left this house for me" when there isn't a will? Was there some other document like a trust or are you joint tenants with rights of survivorship?
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Title: **Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share?**
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkm4ni6
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hkm6ed1
| 1,636,913,282 | 1,636,913,904 | 6 | 86 |
Sorry for your loss. You need to get a lawyer and talk to the executor of your late husband's estate.
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Why do you say he "left this house for me" when there isn't a will? Was there some other document like a trust or are you joint tenants with rights of survivorship?
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkm5917
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hkm6ed1
| 1,636,913,486 | 1,636,913,904 | 6 | 86 |
If there's no will they have a strong case. You absolutely need a lawyer for this.
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Why do you say he "left this house for me" when there isn't a will? Was there some other document like a trust or are you joint tenants with rights of survivorship?
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkm0eom
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hkmnj55
| 1,636,911,566 | 1,636,920,241 | 28 | 56 |
Get a lawyer
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I’m an estate lawyer, although not in your state. You need to hire an estate attorney — if you don’t know where to start, call your county bar association for a referral.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkmg2q5
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hkmnj55
| 1,636,917,450 | 1,636,920,241 | 28 | 56 |
This is a BIG hire a lawyer territory especially with his children disputing and asserting their rights. Every single factor will matter including whether you were actually married (I assume so but just checking), whether his divorce was true and final (again I’m assuming so as well), but from then on, it’s a question of how was it titled, in what manner, etc. Also worth noting: the children are likely to get counsel anyways and you need yours. Only YOUR lawyer can represent your best interests, not theirs. GL!
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I’m an estate lawyer, although not in your state. You need to hire an estate attorney — if you don’t know where to start, call your county bar association for a referral.
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qtrwfk
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkmnj55
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hkm5dg3
| 1,636,920,241 | 1,636,913,528 | 56 | 15 |
I’m an estate lawyer, although not in your state. You need to hire an estate attorney — if you don’t know where to start, call your county bar association for a referral.
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As a realtor (not in your state) look and how he assigned title- if it is tenants by entirety, the house goes to you completely no questions asked. Tenants in common, then his share is not guaranteed to you. Your title/attorney who closed you on the home should have that information.
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qtrwfk
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkmnj55
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hkllbp4
| 1,636,920,241 | 1,636,905,277 | 56 | 11 |
I’m an estate lawyer, although not in your state. You need to hire an estate attorney — if you don’t know where to start, call your county bar association for a referral.
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Get a lawyer
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qtrwfk
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkmlf7z
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hkmnj55
| 1,636,919,450 | 1,636,920,241 | 7 | 56 |
Definitely talk to a probate attorney. Even of the kids are entitled to part of tbe house, you maybhave homestead rights.
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I’m an estate lawyer, although not in your state. You need to hire an estate attorney — if you don’t know where to start, call your county bar association for a referral.
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qtrwfk
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkmnj55
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hkm1l5q
| 1,636,920,241 | 1,636,912,057 | 56 | 7 |
I’m an estate lawyer, although not in your state. You need to hire an estate attorney — if you don’t know where to start, call your county bar association for a referral.
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Hire a lawyer. Common answer but he left you the house. He didn’t vest them, nor did he put it in a trust. I would find a good property law/probate lawyer. Depends on the state how laws are defined w/ decedents. You can sell and give your kids money, but break the “this was a mistake” mentality around your children. Off spring are not spouses. Hope for the best outcome for you! Or his kids, same same! Check report, see vesting for you tenancy. Tenant in common-probate Tenant of the entirety/joint tenant-property should be conveyed by law to surviving tenant, property is not subject to will. Verify with an attorney in your state. Provide all details with them but don’t solely go off this. Property law can be tricky and you need to lock all details down!
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qtrwfk
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkmnj55
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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I’m an estate lawyer, although not in your state. You need to hire an estate attorney — if you don’t know where to start, call your county bar association for a referral.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkm4ni6
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hkmnj55
| 1,636,913,282 | 1,636,920,241 | 6 | 56 |
Sorry for your loss. You need to get a lawyer and talk to the executor of your late husband's estate.
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I’m an estate lawyer, although not in your state. You need to hire an estate attorney — if you don’t know where to start, call your county bar association for a referral.
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qtrwfk
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkm5917
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hkmnj55
| 1,636,913,486 | 1,636,920,241 | 6 | 56 |
If there's no will they have a strong case. You absolutely need a lawyer for this.
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I’m an estate lawyer, although not in your state. You need to hire an estate attorney — if you don’t know where to start, call your county bar association for a referral.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkm0eom
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Get a lawyer
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Get a lawyer
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Title: **Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share?**
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkm5dg3
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hkmg2q5
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As a realtor (not in your state) look and how he assigned title- if it is tenants by entirety, the house goes to you completely no questions asked. Tenants in common, then his share is not guaranteed to you. Your title/attorney who closed you on the home should have that information.
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This is a BIG hire a lawyer territory especially with his children disputing and asserting their rights. Every single factor will matter including whether you were actually married (I assume so but just checking), whether his divorce was true and final (again I’m assuming so as well), but from then on, it’s a question of how was it titled, in what manner, etc. Also worth noting: the children are likely to get counsel anyways and you need yours. Only YOUR lawyer can represent your best interests, not theirs. GL!
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkllbp4
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This is a BIG hire a lawyer territory especially with his children disputing and asserting their rights. Every single factor will matter including whether you were actually married (I assume so but just checking), whether his divorce was true and final (again I’m assuming so as well), but from then on, it’s a question of how was it titled, in what manner, etc. Also worth noting: the children are likely to get counsel anyways and you need yours. Only YOUR lawyer can represent your best interests, not theirs. GL!
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qtrwfk
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkmg2q5
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hkm1l5q
| 1,636,917,450 | 1,636,912,057 | 28 | 7 |
This is a BIG hire a lawyer territory especially with his children disputing and asserting their rights. Every single factor will matter including whether you were actually married (I assume so but just checking), whether his divorce was true and final (again I’m assuming so as well), but from then on, it’s a question of how was it titled, in what manner, etc. Also worth noting: the children are likely to get counsel anyways and you need yours. Only YOUR lawyer can represent your best interests, not theirs. GL!
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Hire a lawyer. Common answer but he left you the house. He didn’t vest them, nor did he put it in a trust. I would find a good property law/probate lawyer. Depends on the state how laws are defined w/ decedents. You can sell and give your kids money, but break the “this was a mistake” mentality around your children. Off spring are not spouses. Hope for the best outcome for you! Or his kids, same same! Check report, see vesting for you tenancy. Tenant in common-probate Tenant of the entirety/joint tenant-property should be conveyed by law to surviving tenant, property is not subject to will. Verify with an attorney in your state. Provide all details with them but don’t solely go off this. Property law can be tricky and you need to lock all details down!
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qtrwfk
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Title: **Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share?**
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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This is a BIG hire a lawyer territory especially with his children disputing and asserting their rights. Every single factor will matter including whether you were actually married (I assume so but just checking), whether his divorce was true and final (again I’m assuming so as well), but from then on, it’s a question of how was it titled, in what manner, etc. Also worth noting: the children are likely to get counsel anyways and you need yours. Only YOUR lawyer can represent your best interests, not theirs. GL!
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkm4ni6
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hkmg2q5
| 1,636,913,282 | 1,636,917,450 | 6 | 28 |
Sorry for your loss. You need to get a lawyer and talk to the executor of your late husband's estate.
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This is a BIG hire a lawyer territory especially with his children disputing and asserting their rights. Every single factor will matter including whether you were actually married (I assume so but just checking), whether his divorce was true and final (again I’m assuming so as well), but from then on, it’s a question of how was it titled, in what manner, etc. Also worth noting: the children are likely to get counsel anyways and you need yours. Only YOUR lawyer can represent your best interests, not theirs. GL!
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qtrwfk
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkm5917
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hkmg2q5
| 1,636,913,486 | 1,636,917,450 | 6 | 28 |
If there's no will they have a strong case. You absolutely need a lawyer for this.
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This is a BIG hire a lawyer territory especially with his children disputing and asserting their rights. Every single factor will matter including whether you were actually married (I assume so but just checking), whether his divorce was true and final (again I’m assuming so as well), but from then on, it’s a question of how was it titled, in what manner, etc. Also worth noting: the children are likely to get counsel anyways and you need yours. Only YOUR lawyer can represent your best interests, not theirs. GL!
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qtrwfk
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkob6d9
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hkm5dg3
| 1,636,945,826 | 1,636,913,528 | 16 | 15 |
CORRECT ANSWER: In Illinois, if your spouse dies without a will, you inherit a portion of the property. MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!! You inherit a life estate in the property, meaning you get to live there for the rest of your life. And no one can make you move out. Nor can they make you buy their share!! This was a major issue in Texas, which had a similar law. It led to a $4 billion judgment against JP Morgan Chase because they didn't understand this VERY SIMPLE AND OBVIOUS concept.
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As a realtor (not in your state) look and how he assigned title- if it is tenants by entirety, the house goes to you completely no questions asked. Tenants in common, then his share is not guaranteed to you. Your title/attorney who closed you on the home should have that information.
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qtrwfk
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkllbp4
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hkob6d9
| 1,636,905,277 | 1,636,945,826 | 11 | 16 |
Get a lawyer
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CORRECT ANSWER: In Illinois, if your spouse dies without a will, you inherit a portion of the property. MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!! You inherit a life estate in the property, meaning you get to live there for the rest of your life. And no one can make you move out. Nor can they make you buy their share!! This was a major issue in Texas, which had a similar law. It led to a $4 billion judgment against JP Morgan Chase because they didn't understand this VERY SIMPLE AND OBVIOUS concept.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Definitely talk to a probate attorney. Even of the kids are entitled to part of tbe house, you maybhave homestead rights.
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CORRECT ANSWER: In Illinois, if your spouse dies without a will, you inherit a portion of the property. MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!! You inherit a life estate in the property, meaning you get to live there for the rest of your life. And no one can make you move out. Nor can they make you buy their share!! This was a major issue in Texas, which had a similar law. It led to a $4 billion judgment against JP Morgan Chase because they didn't understand this VERY SIMPLE AND OBVIOUS concept.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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The “we bought a small house” indicates tenancy by the entirety. Talk to an estate litigator.
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CORRECT ANSWER: In Illinois, if your spouse dies without a will, you inherit a portion of the property. MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!! You inherit a life estate in the property, meaning you get to live there for the rest of your life. And no one can make you move out. Nor can they make you buy their share!! This was a major issue in Texas, which had a similar law. It led to a $4 billion judgment against JP Morgan Chase because they didn't understand this VERY SIMPLE AND OBVIOUS concept.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Hire a lawyer. Common answer but he left you the house. He didn’t vest them, nor did he put it in a trust. I would find a good property law/probate lawyer. Depends on the state how laws are defined w/ decedents. You can sell and give your kids money, but break the “this was a mistake” mentality around your children. Off spring are not spouses. Hope for the best outcome for you! Or his kids, same same! Check report, see vesting for you tenancy. Tenant in common-probate Tenant of the entirety/joint tenant-property should be conveyed by law to surviving tenant, property is not subject to will. Verify with an attorney in your state. Provide all details with them but don’t solely go off this. Property law can be tricky and you need to lock all details down!
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CORRECT ANSWER: In Illinois, if your spouse dies without a will, you inherit a portion of the property. MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!! You inherit a life estate in the property, meaning you get to live there for the rest of your life. And no one can make you move out. Nor can they make you buy their share!! This was a major issue in Texas, which had a similar law. It led to a $4 billion judgment against JP Morgan Chase because they didn't understand this VERY SIMPLE AND OBVIOUS concept.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Title: **Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share?**
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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CORRECT ANSWER: In Illinois, if your spouse dies without a will, you inherit a portion of the property. MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!! You inherit a life estate in the property, meaning you get to live there for the rest of your life. And no one can make you move out. Nor can they make you buy their share!! This was a major issue in Texas, which had a similar law. It led to a $4 billion judgment against JP Morgan Chase because they didn't understand this VERY SIMPLE AND OBVIOUS concept.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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CORRECT ANSWER: In Illinois, if your spouse dies without a will, you inherit a portion of the property. MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!! You inherit a life estate in the property, meaning you get to live there for the rest of your life. And no one can make you move out. Nor can they make you buy their share!! This was a major issue in Texas, which had a similar law. It led to a $4 billion judgment against JP Morgan Chase because they didn't understand this VERY SIMPLE AND OBVIOUS concept.
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Sorry for your loss. You need to get a lawyer and talk to the executor of your late husband's estate.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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CORRECT ANSWER: In Illinois, if your spouse dies without a will, you inherit a portion of the property. MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!! You inherit a life estate in the property, meaning you get to live there for the rest of your life. And no one can make you move out. Nor can they make you buy their share!! This was a major issue in Texas, which had a similar law. It led to a $4 billion judgment against JP Morgan Chase because they didn't understand this VERY SIMPLE AND OBVIOUS concept.
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If there's no will they have a strong case. You absolutely need a lawyer for this.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Typically children get half of an estate to share, and the widowed spouse gets the other half IF there is no will and nobody is designated as a beneficiary where indicates. Your name on a deed (often worded as joint survivorship) accounts, and as a beneficiary on insurances, 401k, pension/retirement plans will typically be enough to prevent children or anyone else from claiming a right to the estate. That being said - anything can happen and loopholes abound. It would be worth your while to seek out an estate attorney, and also file to be appointed administrator of his estate. Just because you are his wife/widow, does not mean you automatically are the administrator of the estate.
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CORRECT ANSWER: In Illinois, if your spouse dies without a will, you inherit a portion of the property. MOST IMPORTANTLY!!!! You inherit a life estate in the property, meaning you get to live there for the rest of your life. And no one can make you move out. Nor can they make you buy their share!! This was a major issue in Texas, which had a similar law. It led to a $4 billion judgment against JP Morgan Chase because they didn't understand this VERY SIMPLE AND OBVIOUS concept.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Get a lawyer
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As a realtor (not in your state) look and how he assigned title- if it is tenants by entirety, the house goes to you completely no questions asked. Tenants in common, then his share is not guaranteed to you. Your title/attorney who closed you on the home should have that information.
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As a realtor (not in your state) look and how he assigned title- if it is tenants by entirety, the house goes to you completely no questions asked. Tenants in common, then his share is not guaranteed to you. Your title/attorney who closed you on the home should have that information.
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Hire a lawyer. Common answer but he left you the house. He didn’t vest them, nor did he put it in a trust. I would find a good property law/probate lawyer. Depends on the state how laws are defined w/ decedents. You can sell and give your kids money, but break the “this was a mistake” mentality around your children. Off spring are not spouses. Hope for the best outcome for you! Or his kids, same same! Check report, see vesting for you tenancy. Tenant in common-probate Tenant of the entirety/joint tenant-property should be conveyed by law to surviving tenant, property is not subject to will. Verify with an attorney in your state. Provide all details with them but don’t solely go off this. Property law can be tricky and you need to lock all details down!
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Author: /u/Redsalt90
Title: **Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share?**
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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As a realtor (not in your state) look and how he assigned title- if it is tenants by entirety, the house goes to you completely no questions asked. Tenants in common, then his share is not guaranteed to you. Your title/attorney who closed you on the home should have that information.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Sorry for your loss. You need to get a lawyer and talk to the executor of your late husband's estate.
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As a realtor (not in your state) look and how he assigned title- if it is tenants by entirety, the house goes to you completely no questions asked. Tenants in common, then his share is not guaranteed to you. Your title/attorney who closed you on the home should have that information.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkm5917
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As a realtor (not in your state) look and how he assigned title- if it is tenants by entirety, the house goes to you completely no questions asked. Tenants in common, then his share is not guaranteed to you. Your title/attorney who closed you on the home should have that information.
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If there's no will they have a strong case. You absolutely need a lawyer for this.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Title: **Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share?**
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Definitely talk to a probate attorney. Even of the kids are entitled to part of tbe house, you maybhave homestead rights.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Definitely talk to a probate attorney. Even of the kids are entitled to part of tbe house, you maybhave homestead rights.
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkmlf7z
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Sorry for your loss. You need to get a lawyer and talk to the executor of your late husband's estate.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Definitely talk to a probate attorney. Even of the kids are entitled to part of tbe house, you maybhave homestead rights.
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If there's no will they have a strong case. You absolutely need a lawyer for this.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Hire a lawyer. Common answer but he left you the house. He didn’t vest them, nor did he put it in a trust. I would find a good property law/probate lawyer. Depends on the state how laws are defined w/ decedents. You can sell and give your kids money, but break the “this was a mistake” mentality around your children. Off spring are not spouses. Hope for the best outcome for you! Or his kids, same same! Check report, see vesting for you tenancy. Tenant in common-probate Tenant of the entirety/joint tenant-property should be conveyed by law to surviving tenant, property is not subject to will. Verify with an attorney in your state. Provide all details with them but don’t solely go off this. Property law can be tricky and you need to lock all details down!
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The “we bought a small house” indicates tenancy by the entirety. Talk to an estate litigator.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Author: /u/Redsalt90
Title: **Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share?**
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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The “we bought a small house” indicates tenancy by the entirety. Talk to an estate litigator.
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkm4ni6
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hkn8xat
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Sorry for your loss. You need to get a lawyer and talk to the executor of your late husband's estate.
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The “we bought a small house” indicates tenancy by the entirety. Talk to an estate litigator.
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qtrwfk
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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hkn8xat
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hkm5917
| 1,636,928,598 | 1,636,913,486 | 9 | 6 |
The “we bought a small house” indicates tenancy by the entirety. Talk to an estate litigator.
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If there's no will they have a strong case. You absolutely need a lawyer for this.
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qtrwfk
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Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Author: /u/Redsalt90
Title: **Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share?**
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Hire a lawyer. Common answer but he left you the house. He didn’t vest them, nor did he put it in a trust. I would find a good property law/probate lawyer. Depends on the state how laws are defined w/ decedents. You can sell and give your kids money, but break the “this was a mistake” mentality around your children. Off spring are not spouses. Hope for the best outcome for you! Or his kids, same same! Check report, see vesting for you tenancy. Tenant in common-probate Tenant of the entirety/joint tenant-property should be conveyed by law to surviving tenant, property is not subject to will. Verify with an attorney in your state. Provide all details with them but don’t solely go off this. Property law can be tricky and you need to lock all details down!
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cqqyxi
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I am a boat mechanic living on my boat in Florida. My reputation is being destroyed and I am being evicted because of a lie the marina owner's have chosen to believe. I have lived in this marina for 3 years, paid my rent on time, no problems. The owner called, and told me to get out of her marina immediately, no reason. She refused to talk to me any more. Later that day, when I walked up to her and husband to find out why I was kicked out, her husband stepped between us and screamed at me to get out of his marina. They seemed to be afraid of me. When I got back to my boat there was an eviction notice, giving me two weeks to get out. Then it hit me, someone must have told them something really bad about me. I am a 69 year mechanic on social security. I have never done anything really bad. Someone told them a lie. So I called a customer of mine and asked him to try to find out why i was evicted. He said, after calling the marina owner, that she said that someone had called and said that I had poured lighter fluid on a boat and set it on fire. I have never set a boat on fire. I've never intentionally harmed any boat or person. I'm a mechanic, I live on my reputation. I don't in believe in violence. If a boat mechanic wanted to cause harm to someone or their property I don't think he would do it this way. I went to the sheriff, told him the story. He said that they have to give me 30 days and that there is a Florida law that says they cannot ever tell anyone why I was kicked out, they already have. She told my customer. My ability to make a living is dependent upon my reputation. I'm an independent mechanic. I don't his rank but an officer said he would talk to them. Haven't head anything yet. Talked to the police day before yesterday. What should I do?
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ewz1gpe
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ewylxu2
| 1,565,889,853 | 1,565,883,298 | 91 | 51 |
Since you have a yearly lease, 83.57 can't be used until 60 days before the end of the annual period. So no, you don't have to be out in two weeks. (1) When the tenancy is from year to year, by giving not less than 60 days’ notice prior to the end of any annual period;
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How long does your lease run? Is it month to month or with a fixed end date?
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cqqyxi
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legaladvice_train
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I am a boat mechanic living on my boat in Florida. My reputation is being destroyed and I am being evicted because of a lie the marina owner's have chosen to believe. I have lived in this marina for 3 years, paid my rent on time, no problems. The owner called, and told me to get out of her marina immediately, no reason. She refused to talk to me any more. Later that day, when I walked up to her and husband to find out why I was kicked out, her husband stepped between us and screamed at me to get out of his marina. They seemed to be afraid of me. When I got back to my boat there was an eviction notice, giving me two weeks to get out. Then it hit me, someone must have told them something really bad about me. I am a 69 year mechanic on social security. I have never done anything really bad. Someone told them a lie. So I called a customer of mine and asked him to try to find out why i was evicted. He said, after calling the marina owner, that she said that someone had called and said that I had poured lighter fluid on a boat and set it on fire. I have never set a boat on fire. I've never intentionally harmed any boat or person. I'm a mechanic, I live on my reputation. I don't in believe in violence. If a boat mechanic wanted to cause harm to someone or their property I don't think he would do it this way. I went to the sheriff, told him the story. He said that they have to give me 30 days and that there is a Florida law that says they cannot ever tell anyone why I was kicked out, they already have. She told my customer. My ability to make a living is dependent upon my reputation. I'm an independent mechanic. I don't his rank but an officer said he would talk to them. Haven't head anything yet. Talked to the police day before yesterday. What should I do?
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ewyjnro
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ewz1gpe
| 1,565,882,213 | 1,565,889,853 | 23 | 91 |
If you were a month to month tenant, they can terminate your tenancy with 15 days notice. They do not have to give you 30 days. Also, that sheriff has no clue what he's talking about.
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Since you have a yearly lease, 83.57 can't be used until 60 days before the end of the annual period. So no, you don't have to be out in two weeks. (1) When the tenancy is from year to year, by giving not less than 60 days’ notice prior to the end of any annual period;
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cqqyxi
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I am a boat mechanic living on my boat in Florida. My reputation is being destroyed and I am being evicted because of a lie the marina owner's have chosen to believe. I have lived in this marina for 3 years, paid my rent on time, no problems. The owner called, and told me to get out of her marina immediately, no reason. She refused to talk to me any more. Later that day, when I walked up to her and husband to find out why I was kicked out, her husband stepped between us and screamed at me to get out of his marina. They seemed to be afraid of me. When I got back to my boat there was an eviction notice, giving me two weeks to get out. Then it hit me, someone must have told them something really bad about me. I am a 69 year mechanic on social security. I have never done anything really bad. Someone told them a lie. So I called a customer of mine and asked him to try to find out why i was evicted. He said, after calling the marina owner, that she said that someone had called and said that I had poured lighter fluid on a boat and set it on fire. I have never set a boat on fire. I've never intentionally harmed any boat or person. I'm a mechanic, I live on my reputation. I don't in believe in violence. If a boat mechanic wanted to cause harm to someone or their property I don't think he would do it this way. I went to the sheriff, told him the story. He said that they have to give me 30 days and that there is a Florida law that says they cannot ever tell anyone why I was kicked out, they already have. She told my customer. My ability to make a living is dependent upon my reputation. I'm an independent mechanic. I don't his rank but an officer said he would talk to them. Haven't head anything yet. Talked to the police day before yesterday. What should I do?
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ewyjh5f
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ewz1gpe
| 1,565,882,126 | 1,565,889,853 | 22 | 91 |
What does the eviction notice list as the cause of eviction?
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Since you have a yearly lease, 83.57 can't be used until 60 days before the end of the annual period. So no, you don't have to be out in two weeks. (1) When the tenancy is from year to year, by giving not less than 60 days’ notice prior to the end of any annual period;
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cqqyxi
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legaladvice_train
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I am a boat mechanic living on my boat in Florida. My reputation is being destroyed and I am being evicted because of a lie the marina owner's have chosen to believe. I have lived in this marina for 3 years, paid my rent on time, no problems. The owner called, and told me to get out of her marina immediately, no reason. She refused to talk to me any more. Later that day, when I walked up to her and husband to find out why I was kicked out, her husband stepped between us and screamed at me to get out of his marina. They seemed to be afraid of me. When I got back to my boat there was an eviction notice, giving me two weeks to get out. Then it hit me, someone must have told them something really bad about me. I am a 69 year mechanic on social security. I have never done anything really bad. Someone told them a lie. So I called a customer of mine and asked him to try to find out why i was evicted. He said, after calling the marina owner, that she said that someone had called and said that I had poured lighter fluid on a boat and set it on fire. I have never set a boat on fire. I've never intentionally harmed any boat or person. I'm a mechanic, I live on my reputation. I don't in believe in violence. If a boat mechanic wanted to cause harm to someone or their property I don't think he would do it this way. I went to the sheriff, told him the story. He said that they have to give me 30 days and that there is a Florida law that says they cannot ever tell anyone why I was kicked out, they already have. She told my customer. My ability to make a living is dependent upon my reputation. I'm an independent mechanic. I don't his rank but an officer said he would talk to them. Haven't head anything yet. Talked to the police day before yesterday. What should I do?
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ewylxu2
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ewyjnro
| 1,565,883,298 | 1,565,882,213 | 51 | 23 |
How long does your lease run? Is it month to month or with a fixed end date?
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If you were a month to month tenant, they can terminate your tenancy with 15 days notice. They do not have to give you 30 days. Also, that sheriff has no clue what he's talking about.
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cqqyxi
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legaladvice_train
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I am a boat mechanic living on my boat in Florida. My reputation is being destroyed and I am being evicted because of a lie the marina owner's have chosen to believe. I have lived in this marina for 3 years, paid my rent on time, no problems. The owner called, and told me to get out of her marina immediately, no reason. She refused to talk to me any more. Later that day, when I walked up to her and husband to find out why I was kicked out, her husband stepped between us and screamed at me to get out of his marina. They seemed to be afraid of me. When I got back to my boat there was an eviction notice, giving me two weeks to get out. Then it hit me, someone must have told them something really bad about me. I am a 69 year mechanic on social security. I have never done anything really bad. Someone told them a lie. So I called a customer of mine and asked him to try to find out why i was evicted. He said, after calling the marina owner, that she said that someone had called and said that I had poured lighter fluid on a boat and set it on fire. I have never set a boat on fire. I've never intentionally harmed any boat or person. I'm a mechanic, I live on my reputation. I don't in believe in violence. If a boat mechanic wanted to cause harm to someone or their property I don't think he would do it this way. I went to the sheriff, told him the story. He said that they have to give me 30 days and that there is a Florida law that says they cannot ever tell anyone why I was kicked out, they already have. She told my customer. My ability to make a living is dependent upon my reputation. I'm an independent mechanic. I don't his rank but an officer said he would talk to them. Haven't head anything yet. Talked to the police day before yesterday. What should I do?
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ewylxu2
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ewyjh5f
| 1,565,883,298 | 1,565,882,126 | 51 | 22 |
How long does your lease run? Is it month to month or with a fixed end date?
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What does the eviction notice list as the cause of eviction?
| 1 | 1,172 | 2.318182 |
cqqyxi
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legaladvice_train
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I am a boat mechanic living on my boat in Florida. My reputation is being destroyed and I am being evicted because of a lie the marina owner's have chosen to believe. I have lived in this marina for 3 years, paid my rent on time, no problems. The owner called, and told me to get out of her marina immediately, no reason. She refused to talk to me any more. Later that day, when I walked up to her and husband to find out why I was kicked out, her husband stepped between us and screamed at me to get out of his marina. They seemed to be afraid of me. When I got back to my boat there was an eviction notice, giving me two weeks to get out. Then it hit me, someone must have told them something really bad about me. I am a 69 year mechanic on social security. I have never done anything really bad. Someone told them a lie. So I called a customer of mine and asked him to try to find out why i was evicted. He said, after calling the marina owner, that she said that someone had called and said that I had poured lighter fluid on a boat and set it on fire. I have never set a boat on fire. I've never intentionally harmed any boat or person. I'm a mechanic, I live on my reputation. I don't in believe in violence. If a boat mechanic wanted to cause harm to someone or their property I don't think he would do it this way. I went to the sheriff, told him the story. He said that they have to give me 30 days and that there is a Florida law that says they cannot ever tell anyone why I was kicked out, they already have. She told my customer. My ability to make a living is dependent upon my reputation. I'm an independent mechanic. I don't his rank but an officer said he would talk to them. Haven't head anything yet. Talked to the police day before yesterday. What should I do?
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ewzhm7z
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ewyjnro
| 1,565,895,929 | 1,565,882,213 | 48 | 23 |
I might also talk to a lawyer about a slander lawsuit. There can be ways to file suit against a "John Doe" defendant, and then use the legal discovery process to obtain records about who they got the information from. (This will also depend on exactly what happened - I'm guessing there's more to this than just some random number calling and telling them this.) But this is all rather beyond what you can do on your own. I'd look for an attorney who works on libel and slander cases, as far as protecting your reputation as a mechanic. Other people have given you good advice regarding the eviction.
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If you were a month to month tenant, they can terminate your tenancy with 15 days notice. They do not have to give you 30 days. Also, that sheriff has no clue what he's talking about.
| 1 | 13,716 | 2.086957 |
cqqyxi
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
I am a boat mechanic living on my boat in Florida. My reputation is being destroyed and I am being evicted because of a lie the marina owner's have chosen to believe. I have lived in this marina for 3 years, paid my rent on time, no problems. The owner called, and told me to get out of her marina immediately, no reason. She refused to talk to me any more. Later that day, when I walked up to her and husband to find out why I was kicked out, her husband stepped between us and screamed at me to get out of his marina. They seemed to be afraid of me. When I got back to my boat there was an eviction notice, giving me two weeks to get out. Then it hit me, someone must have told them something really bad about me. I am a 69 year mechanic on social security. I have never done anything really bad. Someone told them a lie. So I called a customer of mine and asked him to try to find out why i was evicted. He said, after calling the marina owner, that she said that someone had called and said that I had poured lighter fluid on a boat and set it on fire. I have never set a boat on fire. I've never intentionally harmed any boat or person. I'm a mechanic, I live on my reputation. I don't in believe in violence. If a boat mechanic wanted to cause harm to someone or their property I don't think he would do it this way. I went to the sheriff, told him the story. He said that they have to give me 30 days and that there is a Florida law that says they cannot ever tell anyone why I was kicked out, they already have. She told my customer. My ability to make a living is dependent upon my reputation. I'm an independent mechanic. I don't his rank but an officer said he would talk to them. Haven't head anything yet. Talked to the police day before yesterday. What should I do?
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ewzhm7z
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ewyjh5f
| 1,565,895,929 | 1,565,882,126 | 48 | 22 |
I might also talk to a lawyer about a slander lawsuit. There can be ways to file suit against a "John Doe" defendant, and then use the legal discovery process to obtain records about who they got the information from. (This will also depend on exactly what happened - I'm guessing there's more to this than just some random number calling and telling them this.) But this is all rather beyond what you can do on your own. I'd look for an attorney who works on libel and slander cases, as far as protecting your reputation as a mechanic. Other people have given you good advice regarding the eviction.
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What does the eviction notice list as the cause of eviction?
| 1 | 13,803 | 2.181818 |
cqqyxi
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
I am a boat mechanic living on my boat in Florida. My reputation is being destroyed and I am being evicted because of a lie the marina owner's have chosen to believe. I have lived in this marina for 3 years, paid my rent on time, no problems. The owner called, and told me to get out of her marina immediately, no reason. She refused to talk to me any more. Later that day, when I walked up to her and husband to find out why I was kicked out, her husband stepped between us and screamed at me to get out of his marina. They seemed to be afraid of me. When I got back to my boat there was an eviction notice, giving me two weeks to get out. Then it hit me, someone must have told them something really bad about me. I am a 69 year mechanic on social security. I have never done anything really bad. Someone told them a lie. So I called a customer of mine and asked him to try to find out why i was evicted. He said, after calling the marina owner, that she said that someone had called and said that I had poured lighter fluid on a boat and set it on fire. I have never set a boat on fire. I've never intentionally harmed any boat or person. I'm a mechanic, I live on my reputation. I don't in believe in violence. If a boat mechanic wanted to cause harm to someone or their property I don't think he would do it this way. I went to the sheriff, told him the story. He said that they have to give me 30 days and that there is a Florida law that says they cannot ever tell anyone why I was kicked out, they already have. She told my customer. My ability to make a living is dependent upon my reputation. I'm an independent mechanic. I don't his rank but an officer said he would talk to them. Haven't head anything yet. Talked to the police day before yesterday. What should I do?
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ewyjnro
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ewyjh5f
| 1,565,882,213 | 1,565,882,126 | 23 | 22 |
If you were a month to month tenant, they can terminate your tenancy with 15 days notice. They do not have to give you 30 days. Also, that sheriff has no clue what he's talking about.
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What does the eviction notice list as the cause of eviction?
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zmofeb
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Do I (a 16 year old) have the right to decide what parent I live with? To preface I as of recently moved to Oklahoma, I lived in Alaska the majority of my life and it is where my mom lives. My mom had a lot of issues when i was little, despite this she loved me enough to know that I needed to stay with my dad as she wasn't in the right head space to raise me at the time. I'm 16 now, since then I've moved away from the state she's in and have stayed with my dad basically my entire life. As per how things have been going with him for the last few years (constant fighting, refusing to let me get a job despite getting good grades and doing all of my chores, forcing me to spend what is essentially 100% of my free time baby sitting my brother, refusing to let me go to the gym, not letting me go to church, not letting me see friends most of the time, etc etc etc.) I've decided it would be better for the both of us if I was able to live with my biological mom where none of that would no longer be an issue. I'm 18 in one and a half years and i'd like to spend that time working on myself and setting myself up mentally and financially to go to college and make something of myself one day. My mom is completely willing to let me live with her, but I haven't brought it up to my dad yet. In the event he says no what steps do I need to take to be with her? Am I even allowed to choose custody this late into my life? Am I screwed? Somebody please help me, I can't sit back and watch my life fall apart anymore
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j0c7rvb
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j0cbdrc
| 1,671,121,356 | 1,671,122,749 | 10 | 13 |
Most states and judges take into account the wishes of a minor your age. But you can't go to court on your own as a minor. Your mom needs to sue for custody in the state you currently live in. In your shoes with that amount of isolation and parentification going on, I'd also talk to your school counselor. There's likely not a lot that they can do to change anything, but they can listen and may have ideas on how to improve the situation as it is until everything can work its way through the courts. And sometimes just knowing you have someone in your corner is incredibly helpful.
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Your mom needs to file to amend the custody agreement. The courts will almost certainly give a lot of weight to your opinion, but it's your mom that needs to initiate if she wants you to live with her.
| 0 | 1,393 | 1.3 |
zmofeb
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legaladvice_train
| 0.79 |
Do I (a 16 year old) have the right to decide what parent I live with? To preface I as of recently moved to Oklahoma, I lived in Alaska the majority of my life and it is where my mom lives. My mom had a lot of issues when i was little, despite this she loved me enough to know that I needed to stay with my dad as she wasn't in the right head space to raise me at the time. I'm 16 now, since then I've moved away from the state she's in and have stayed with my dad basically my entire life. As per how things have been going with him for the last few years (constant fighting, refusing to let me get a job despite getting good grades and doing all of my chores, forcing me to spend what is essentially 100% of my free time baby sitting my brother, refusing to let me go to the gym, not letting me go to church, not letting me see friends most of the time, etc etc etc.) I've decided it would be better for the both of us if I was able to live with my biological mom where none of that would no longer be an issue. I'm 18 in one and a half years and i'd like to spend that time working on myself and setting myself up mentally and financially to go to college and make something of myself one day. My mom is completely willing to let me live with her, but I haven't brought it up to my dad yet. In the event he says no what steps do I need to take to be with her? Am I even allowed to choose custody this late into my life? Am I screwed? Somebody please help me, I can't sit back and watch my life fall apart anymore
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j0c3e2w
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j0cbdrc
| 1,671,119,641 | 1,671,122,749 | 9 | 13 |
~~In Alaska, if the child is "old enough and mature enough to provide a reasonable opinion."~~ A court (in Oklahoma) can ask your opinion. You do not have a right to give an opinion, nor a right to choose.
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Your mom needs to file to amend the custody agreement. The courts will almost certainly give a lot of weight to your opinion, but it's your mom that needs to initiate if she wants you to live with her.
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