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wlfyce | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I got a notice to vacate with no warning 4 days after I asked how to pay rent and I never got a response. What can I do? In Texas by the way. In mid-July my complex closed the payment portal because they said they were going to switch to a new one that should be up in time for August payments. They never sent any other messages about payments, so I waited until 4 days ago when I sent an email asking how I could pay my rent. They didn't respond to my email, didn't call me, didn't communicate with me in any way and today I got a notice to vacate letter indicating my lease was unconditionally terminated and I have to move out by the 13th. Is this legal? Am I totally screwed or should I be able to go talk to the leasing office in the morning and sort it out? Their website has a link to make payments online but it's definitely broken. I'm totally panicked and have no way to contact them yet, can't get this off my mind so I figured I'd ask here. Also worth noting because I know this makes a difference, I paid last month's rent late as it was my first full month and I didn't realize I wouldn't be sent any notices that I had to pay. This is my first apartment so I'm really new to all this. | ijta52z | ijt27k4 | 1,660,188,840 | 1,660,185,002 | 50 | 2 | Go to the leasing office and explain the link on the website is broken and tell them you're willing to pay in full immediately, including any late fees as outlined in your lease. Whether or not they are willing to accept your rent will be up to them. In the future, do not ever wait on this type of thing. If your rent is due on the 1st and there's an issue you need to get ahold of your landlord (or leasing office) immediately and sort it out. As you are seeing, there are serious consequences to not paying your rent on time. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 3,838 | 25 |
wlfyce | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I got a notice to vacate with no warning 4 days after I asked how to pay rent and I never got a response. What can I do? In Texas by the way. In mid-July my complex closed the payment portal because they said they were going to switch to a new one that should be up in time for August payments. They never sent any other messages about payments, so I waited until 4 days ago when I sent an email asking how I could pay my rent. They didn't respond to my email, didn't call me, didn't communicate with me in any way and today I got a notice to vacate letter indicating my lease was unconditionally terminated and I have to move out by the 13th. Is this legal? Am I totally screwed or should I be able to go talk to the leasing office in the morning and sort it out? Their website has a link to make payments online but it's definitely broken. I'm totally panicked and have no way to contact them yet, can't get this off my mind so I figured I'd ask here. Also worth noting because I know this makes a difference, I paid last month's rent late as it was my first full month and I didn't realize I wouldn't be sent any notices that I had to pay. This is my first apartment so I'm really new to all this. | ijtab8e | ijt27k4 | 1,660,188,927 | 1,660,185,002 | 13 | 2 | You waited until the 6th of the month to ask how to pay? What date is rent due by? | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 3,925 | 6.5 |
wlfyce | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I got a notice to vacate with no warning 4 days after I asked how to pay rent and I never got a response. What can I do? In Texas by the way. In mid-July my complex closed the payment portal because they said they were going to switch to a new one that should be up in time for August payments. They never sent any other messages about payments, so I waited until 4 days ago when I sent an email asking how I could pay my rent. They didn't respond to my email, didn't call me, didn't communicate with me in any way and today I got a notice to vacate letter indicating my lease was unconditionally terminated and I have to move out by the 13th. Is this legal? Am I totally screwed or should I be able to go talk to the leasing office in the morning and sort it out? Their website has a link to make payments online but it's definitely broken. I'm totally panicked and have no way to contact them yet, can't get this off my mind so I figured I'd ask here. Also worth noting because I know this makes a difference, I paid last month's rent late as it was my first full month and I didn't realize I wouldn't be sent any notices that I had to pay. This is my first apartment so I'm really new to all this. | ijt27k4 | ijtfjcv | 1,660,185,002 | 1,660,191,773 | 2 | 5 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | You should talk to them. It's possible that the notice to vacate was generated automatically. I understand your issue, but it's not a good look that you waited until the 6th to ask about how to pay. If they're going to go forward with the lease termination, and you refused to move out and they sued you for eviction, it's possible that a judge would agree with you. They canceled the old payment system and didn't give you a new way to pay, so technically (the judge might decide) you didn't actually violate the contract. The problem is that you'd have to get sued for eviction to get the chance to make that argument. If you lose, you'll have an eviction on your record. So talk to them and see if you can work something out. If they're not going to work it out, you should consider at least contacting a landlord/tenant attorney to get an opinion how risky it would be to try to fight it. | 0 | 6,771 | 2.5 |
zchm2r | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Filed HR complaint about discrimination a week later I was let go with no notice. I’m curious if I have a case here - I was part of a RIF at a tech start up that had around 50-60 employees. I filed an HR complaint about ongoing discrimination based on my sex and no one followed up. They then laid me off without telling me - I received an email that indicated I was eligible for COBRA and I had to press them to tell me that I had indeed been laid off. Hours later they emailed me to “let me know”. I can’t help but feel like this is retaliatory regardless of the RIF. I haven’t signed my separation package yet but want to understand if I have a case worth pursuing. State I live: CO Company HQ state: CA Thank you for any input. | iyws63e | iyy6c2w | 1,670,183,130 | 1,670,203,934 | 38 | 40 | EEOC & your state DOL. The EEOC will investigate the discrimination complaint & your DOL for unemployement. Once your EEOC investigation is done you will need to contact a lawyer. | You can go ahead and file a complaint with the EEOC. Being in Cali, it will take months before you get an interview call. So it is best to go ahead and get the process started. Being that your initial complaint was about the discrimination, that would be covered under the EEOC. It sounds like they may have retaliated against you for filing that complaint with them. Not enough information here for me to make that determination. But it seems highly likely. So make sure to include the wrongful termination when you file your report with the EEOC or DOL. Get all of the evidence that you can now, while you can. If you have any emails about this in your work email etc. About the discrimination, issues, reporting it or any other proof. Make sure to forward them to yourself. As this will be beneficial to your case. | 0 | 20,804 | 1.052632 |
zchm2r | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Filed HR complaint about discrimination a week later I was let go with no notice. I’m curious if I have a case here - I was part of a RIF at a tech start up that had around 50-60 employees. I filed an HR complaint about ongoing discrimination based on my sex and no one followed up. They then laid me off without telling me - I received an email that indicated I was eligible for COBRA and I had to press them to tell me that I had indeed been laid off. Hours later they emailed me to “let me know”. I can’t help but feel like this is retaliatory regardless of the RIF. I haven’t signed my separation package yet but want to understand if I have a case worth pursuing. State I live: CO Company HQ state: CA Thank you for any input. | iywvkdl | iyy6c2w | 1,670,184,417 | 1,670,203,934 | 10 | 40 | How many people were laid off? Was it an entire group/division or people selectively picked from groups? | You can go ahead and file a complaint with the EEOC. Being in Cali, it will take months before you get an interview call. So it is best to go ahead and get the process started. Being that your initial complaint was about the discrimination, that would be covered under the EEOC. It sounds like they may have retaliated against you for filing that complaint with them. Not enough information here for me to make that determination. But it seems highly likely. So make sure to include the wrongful termination when you file your report with the EEOC or DOL. Get all of the evidence that you can now, while you can. If you have any emails about this in your work email etc. About the discrimination, issues, reporting it or any other proof. Make sure to forward them to yourself. As this will be beneficial to your case. | 0 | 19,517 | 4 |
55jr1b | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (FL) My neighbors are convinced that I have to take care of them after a hurricane. Are there any laws I'm missing? I live next to two siblings. They aren't bright people. Matthew is churning away and might be headed for us, at this point I'd say it's a 50/50 chance but it's been 11 years and people are getting squirrelly. I prefer to be prepared. We're on a backroad, it's one lane and the only way in and out, it also floods during thunderstorms and stays flooded for at least a day. A hurricane would leave it flooded for a week or two. Add in the river,cypress swamp and miles of nothing but forest you have no chance of anyone being able to help you for a while. These two geniuses are very vocal about how they only bought beer and cigarettes for the storm, they have no stock of food or other supplies. This morning I was in my front yard clearing some brush and tree limbs when they came over to speak to me. They wanted to know of the storm would hit us or not. I told them what I wrote here that right now it's 50/50 but they should still stock up on food and supplies. The woman rolled her eyes and said that they don't have to since legally all the neighbors have to help them when they run out of food and water. She even demanded that I let them use my generator after the storm, when I told her no she threatened to call her lawyer and have him force me to. They then toddled off to their cesspool of a house. I'm 99% sure there's no such law and her lawyer can't do shit. But invade I've missed something, is there anyway I'd be legally obligated to help them? | d8bd68x | d8ba01d | 1,475,447,301 | 1,475,442,975 | 73 | 14 | How about instead of spending money on a lawyer, they buy some food and bottled water? It seems like a much better use of resources to me. In any case it sounds like you have it well in hand. Notify the local law that these idiots will surely need rescue and keep your 12 gauge handy. Good luck to you! | But wait wouldn't the lawyer be obligate to help them too? Get his name and refer them back to him. Tell them he forgot to call you to make arrangements so they have to go to his house. I mean IT IS THE LAW , AINT IT? | 1 | 4,326 | 5.214286 |
55jr1b | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (FL) My neighbors are convinced that I have to take care of them after a hurricane. Are there any laws I'm missing? I live next to two siblings. They aren't bright people. Matthew is churning away and might be headed for us, at this point I'd say it's a 50/50 chance but it's been 11 years and people are getting squirrelly. I prefer to be prepared. We're on a backroad, it's one lane and the only way in and out, it also floods during thunderstorms and stays flooded for at least a day. A hurricane would leave it flooded for a week or two. Add in the river,cypress swamp and miles of nothing but forest you have no chance of anyone being able to help you for a while. These two geniuses are very vocal about how they only bought beer and cigarettes for the storm, they have no stock of food or other supplies. This morning I was in my front yard clearing some brush and tree limbs when they came over to speak to me. They wanted to know of the storm would hit us or not. I told them what I wrote here that right now it's 50/50 but they should still stock up on food and supplies. The woman rolled her eyes and said that they don't have to since legally all the neighbors have to help them when they run out of food and water. She even demanded that I let them use my generator after the storm, when I told her no she threatened to call her lawyer and have him force me to. They then toddled off to their cesspool of a house. I'm 99% sure there's no such law and her lawyer can't do shit. But invade I've missed something, is there anyway I'd be legally obligated to help them? | d8ba01d | d8bedp6 | 1,475,442,975 | 1,475,449,015 | 14 | 70 | But wait wouldn't the lawyer be obligate to help them too? Get his name and refer them back to him. Tell them he forgot to call you to make arrangements so they have to go to his house. I mean IT IS THE LAW , AINT IT? | People who spend all their money on beer and cigarettes don't have lawyers. Lock up tight and be prepared to protect yourself and your belongings. I don't want to sound pessimistic or make you worry, but no one can say what starving drunks will do in the absence of the law. | 0 | 6,040 | 5 |
55jr1b | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (FL) My neighbors are convinced that I have to take care of them after a hurricane. Are there any laws I'm missing? I live next to two siblings. They aren't bright people. Matthew is churning away and might be headed for us, at this point I'd say it's a 50/50 chance but it's been 11 years and people are getting squirrelly. I prefer to be prepared. We're on a backroad, it's one lane and the only way in and out, it also floods during thunderstorms and stays flooded for at least a day. A hurricane would leave it flooded for a week or two. Add in the river,cypress swamp and miles of nothing but forest you have no chance of anyone being able to help you for a while. These two geniuses are very vocal about how they only bought beer and cigarettes for the storm, they have no stock of food or other supplies. This morning I was in my front yard clearing some brush and tree limbs when they came over to speak to me. They wanted to know of the storm would hit us or not. I told them what I wrote here that right now it's 50/50 but they should still stock up on food and supplies. The woman rolled her eyes and said that they don't have to since legally all the neighbors have to help them when they run out of food and water. She even demanded that I let them use my generator after the storm, when I told her no she threatened to call her lawyer and have him force me to. They then toddled off to their cesspool of a house. I'm 99% sure there's no such law and her lawyer can't do shit. But invade I've missed something, is there anyway I'd be legally obligated to help them? | d8bedp6 | d8bdrp5 | 1,475,449,015 | 1,475,448,138 | 70 | 5 | People who spend all their money on beer and cigarettes don't have lawyers. Lock up tight and be prepared to protect yourself and your belongings. I don't want to sound pessimistic or make you worry, but no one can say what starving drunks will do in the absence of the law. | Lol, lawyer. Almost positive they don't have one. | 1 | 877 | 14 |
55jr1b | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (FL) My neighbors are convinced that I have to take care of them after a hurricane. Are there any laws I'm missing? I live next to two siblings. They aren't bright people. Matthew is churning away and might be headed for us, at this point I'd say it's a 50/50 chance but it's been 11 years and people are getting squirrelly. I prefer to be prepared. We're on a backroad, it's one lane and the only way in and out, it also floods during thunderstorms and stays flooded for at least a day. A hurricane would leave it flooded for a week or two. Add in the river,cypress swamp and miles of nothing but forest you have no chance of anyone being able to help you for a while. These two geniuses are very vocal about how they only bought beer and cigarettes for the storm, they have no stock of food or other supplies. This morning I was in my front yard clearing some brush and tree limbs when they came over to speak to me. They wanted to know of the storm would hit us or not. I told them what I wrote here that right now it's 50/50 but they should still stock up on food and supplies. The woman rolled her eyes and said that they don't have to since legally all the neighbors have to help them when they run out of food and water. She even demanded that I let them use my generator after the storm, when I told her no she threatened to call her lawyer and have him force me to. They then toddled off to their cesspool of a house. I'm 99% sure there's no such law and her lawyer can't do shit. But invade I've missed something, is there anyway I'd be legally obligated to help them? | d8ba01d | d8bf76v | 1,475,442,975 | 1,475,450,231 | 14 | 19 | But wait wouldn't the lawyer be obligate to help them too? Get his name and refer them back to him. Tell them he forgot to call you to make arrangements so they have to go to his house. I mean IT IS THE LAW , AINT IT? | Have some of this Emergency Food Ration Biscuits on hand to offer them. If you live near a port, you can get cases of it free off a cruise ship that are out of date(still good another 20 years). | 0 | 7,256 | 1.357143 |
55jr1b | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (FL) My neighbors are convinced that I have to take care of them after a hurricane. Are there any laws I'm missing? I live next to two siblings. They aren't bright people. Matthew is churning away and might be headed for us, at this point I'd say it's a 50/50 chance but it's been 11 years and people are getting squirrelly. I prefer to be prepared. We're on a backroad, it's one lane and the only way in and out, it also floods during thunderstorms and stays flooded for at least a day. A hurricane would leave it flooded for a week or two. Add in the river,cypress swamp and miles of nothing but forest you have no chance of anyone being able to help you for a while. These two geniuses are very vocal about how they only bought beer and cigarettes for the storm, they have no stock of food or other supplies. This morning I was in my front yard clearing some brush and tree limbs when they came over to speak to me. They wanted to know of the storm would hit us or not. I told them what I wrote here that right now it's 50/50 but they should still stock up on food and supplies. The woman rolled her eyes and said that they don't have to since legally all the neighbors have to help them when they run out of food and water. She even demanded that I let them use my generator after the storm, when I told her no she threatened to call her lawyer and have him force me to. They then toddled off to their cesspool of a house. I'm 99% sure there's no such law and her lawyer can't do shit. But invade I've missed something, is there anyway I'd be legally obligated to help them? | d8bf76v | d8bdrp5 | 1,475,450,231 | 1,475,448,138 | 19 | 5 | Have some of this Emergency Food Ration Biscuits on hand to offer them. If you live near a port, you can get cases of it free off a cruise ship that are out of date(still good another 20 years). | Lol, lawyer. Almost positive they don't have one. | 1 | 2,093 | 3.8 |
55jr1b | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (FL) My neighbors are convinced that I have to take care of them after a hurricane. Are there any laws I'm missing? I live next to two siblings. They aren't bright people. Matthew is churning away and might be headed for us, at this point I'd say it's a 50/50 chance but it's been 11 years and people are getting squirrelly. I prefer to be prepared. We're on a backroad, it's one lane and the only way in and out, it also floods during thunderstorms and stays flooded for at least a day. A hurricane would leave it flooded for a week or two. Add in the river,cypress swamp and miles of nothing but forest you have no chance of anyone being able to help you for a while. These two geniuses are very vocal about how they only bought beer and cigarettes for the storm, they have no stock of food or other supplies. This morning I was in my front yard clearing some brush and tree limbs when they came over to speak to me. They wanted to know of the storm would hit us or not. I told them what I wrote here that right now it's 50/50 but they should still stock up on food and supplies. The woman rolled her eyes and said that they don't have to since legally all the neighbors have to help them when they run out of food and water. She even demanded that I let them use my generator after the storm, when I told her no she threatened to call her lawyer and have him force me to. They then toddled off to their cesspool of a house. I'm 99% sure there's no such law and her lawyer can't do shit. But invade I've missed something, is there anyway I'd be legally obligated to help them? | d8bfk67 | d8bdrp5 | 1,475,450,768 | 1,475,448,138 | 13 | 5 | Fwiw I would buy a $5 sack of rice to give them when they come to annoy you | Lol, lawyer. Almost positive they don't have one. | 1 | 2,630 | 2.6 |
55jr1b | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (FL) My neighbors are convinced that I have to take care of them after a hurricane. Are there any laws I'm missing? I live next to two siblings. They aren't bright people. Matthew is churning away and might be headed for us, at this point I'd say it's a 50/50 chance but it's been 11 years and people are getting squirrelly. I prefer to be prepared. We're on a backroad, it's one lane and the only way in and out, it also floods during thunderstorms and stays flooded for at least a day. A hurricane would leave it flooded for a week or two. Add in the river,cypress swamp and miles of nothing but forest you have no chance of anyone being able to help you for a while. These two geniuses are very vocal about how they only bought beer and cigarettes for the storm, they have no stock of food or other supplies. This morning I was in my front yard clearing some brush and tree limbs when they came over to speak to me. They wanted to know of the storm would hit us or not. I told them what I wrote here that right now it's 50/50 but they should still stock up on food and supplies. The woman rolled her eyes and said that they don't have to since legally all the neighbors have to help them when they run out of food and water. She even demanded that I let them use my generator after the storm, when I told her no she threatened to call her lawyer and have him force me to. They then toddled off to their cesspool of a house. I'm 99% sure there's no such law and her lawyer can't do shit. But invade I've missed something, is there anyway I'd be legally obligated to help them? | d8bdrp5 | d8bgqni | 1,475,448,138 | 1,475,452,587 | 5 | 10 | Lol, lawyer. Almost positive they don't have one. | Please update us when this all pans out OP. Hopefully nothing comes of it, but just in case, I'd like to know how stupid your neighbors really are. | 0 | 4,449 | 2 |
55jr1b | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (FL) My neighbors are convinced that I have to take care of them after a hurricane. Are there any laws I'm missing? I live next to two siblings. They aren't bright people. Matthew is churning away and might be headed for us, at this point I'd say it's a 50/50 chance but it's been 11 years and people are getting squirrelly. I prefer to be prepared. We're on a backroad, it's one lane and the only way in and out, it also floods during thunderstorms and stays flooded for at least a day. A hurricane would leave it flooded for a week or two. Add in the river,cypress swamp and miles of nothing but forest you have no chance of anyone being able to help you for a while. These two geniuses are very vocal about how they only bought beer and cigarettes for the storm, they have no stock of food or other supplies. This morning I was in my front yard clearing some brush and tree limbs when they came over to speak to me. They wanted to know of the storm would hit us or not. I told them what I wrote here that right now it's 50/50 but they should still stock up on food and supplies. The woman rolled her eyes and said that they don't have to since legally all the neighbors have to help them when they run out of food and water. She even demanded that I let them use my generator after the storm, when I told her no she threatened to call her lawyer and have him force me to. They then toddled off to their cesspool of a house. I'm 99% sure there's no such law and her lawyer can't do shit. But invade I've missed something, is there anyway I'd be legally obligated to help them? | d8bdrp5 | d8c3ofc | 1,475,448,138 | 1,475,503,387 | 5 | 8 | Lol, lawyer. Almost positive they don't have one. | I'm going to advise against setting up cameras. I don't feel like that's necessarily going to help you any. You typically don't have a duty to help them so recording them isn't necessary. If it's just a prolonged period where the power is out, minor flooding, and crap needs to be cleaned up, it's not an emergency and they can go get help from the shelters and aid workers in the area. What you don't want is a worst case scenario where these two idiots died and you have recording showing them begging and pleading to come into your house for safety and you get sued by their idiot relatives for a wrongful death suit. If they do come knocking, go with your plan and tell the sheriff. If it gets really bad, you're likely going to be required to evacuate anyway. You can't lend aid to someone when you're following the law and aren't there. | 0 | 55,249 | 1.6 |
55jr1b | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (FL) My neighbors are convinced that I have to take care of them after a hurricane. Are there any laws I'm missing? I live next to two siblings. They aren't bright people. Matthew is churning away and might be headed for us, at this point I'd say it's a 50/50 chance but it's been 11 years and people are getting squirrelly. I prefer to be prepared. We're on a backroad, it's one lane and the only way in and out, it also floods during thunderstorms and stays flooded for at least a day. A hurricane would leave it flooded for a week or two. Add in the river,cypress swamp and miles of nothing but forest you have no chance of anyone being able to help you for a while. These two geniuses are very vocal about how they only bought beer and cigarettes for the storm, they have no stock of food or other supplies. This morning I was in my front yard clearing some brush and tree limbs when they came over to speak to me. They wanted to know of the storm would hit us or not. I told them what I wrote here that right now it's 50/50 but they should still stock up on food and supplies. The woman rolled her eyes and said that they don't have to since legally all the neighbors have to help them when they run out of food and water. She even demanded that I let them use my generator after the storm, when I told her no she threatened to call her lawyer and have him force me to. They then toddled off to their cesspool of a house. I'm 99% sure there's no such law and her lawyer can't do shit. But invade I've missed something, is there anyway I'd be legally obligated to help them? | d8bdrp5 | d8blrbx | 1,475,448,138 | 1,475,460,328 | 5 | 8 | Lol, lawyer. Almost positive they don't have one. | There is no such law. After Andrew, persons that came to get food without being asked were shot. | 0 | 12,190 | 1.6 |
jdgxwc | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | I am going to enforce property line with neighbor who has been encroaching for years. They parked a RV 4' on my property. I have a dead tree ready to fall that might hit it, should I tell them about the tree when I ask them to move it? | g98eaiy | g9816vv | 1,603,037,580 | 1,603,030,521 | 107 | 37 | Now that you know you have a dead tree, you need to get it removed ASAP. Any damage it causes will be on you. | Are you sure they are 4' over the line? Like you have a survey or can see property posts or something? Just let them know that the RV is on your property and please move it. If not you can have it towed. I wouldn't feel the urge to give them any extra information. | 1 | 7,059 | 2.891892 |
jdgxwc | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | I am going to enforce property line with neighbor who has been encroaching for years. They parked a RV 4' on my property. I have a dead tree ready to fall that might hit it, should I tell them about the tree when I ask them to move it? | g987iwm | g98eaiy | 1,603,033,964 | 1,603,037,580 | 26 | 107 | If your tree falls on their property they will either sue you or file a claim with your homeowners insurance. Or their RV insurance will subrogate against you or your homeowners insurance. And what if someone gets hurt. You're opening yourself up to massive liability for no practical reason. | Now that you know you have a dead tree, you need to get it removed ASAP. Any damage it causes will be on you. | 0 | 3,616 | 4.115385 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efgm2ii | efgjpa3 | 1,548,959,786 | 1,548,958,306 | 144 | 44 | Absolutely do not go. Call the attorney you were talking to before immediately. | If you have an attorney, it's absolutely best to tell them and let them handle it. | 1 | 1,480 | 3.272727 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efgm2ii | efgjsi3 | 1,548,959,786 | 1,548,958,365 | 144 | 2 | Absolutely do not go. Call the attorney you were talking to before immediately. | ---
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Title: **My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go?**
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> Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. > > Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. > > I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. > > I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. > > He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. > > Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. > > TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go?
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alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efgr5so | efgjpa3 | 1,548,962,972 | 1,548,958,306 | 125 | 44 | "On the advice of counsel, detective, I respectfully decline to answer any questions. My attorney is Saul Goodman, (212) 555-1212." You absolutely should not meet with the detective, or answer any questions, without your attorney. This is true no matter how nicely, or not-nicely, he asks. This is still true if police come to your home, put you in handcuffs, photograph and fingerprint you, and place you in a jail cell. You STILL don't talk to them without your attorney. Call your attorney. Tell him about the detective's request. Keep his number handy. | If you have an attorney, it's absolutely best to tell them and let them handle it. | 1 | 4,666 | 2.840909 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efgr5so | efgqxud | 1,548,962,972 | 1,548,962,833 | 125 | 11 | "On the advice of counsel, detective, I respectfully decline to answer any questions. My attorney is Saul Goodman, (212) 555-1212." You absolutely should not meet with the detective, or answer any questions, without your attorney. This is true no matter how nicely, or not-nicely, he asks. This is still true if police come to your home, put you in handcuffs, photograph and fingerprint you, and place you in a jail cell. You STILL don't talk to them without your attorney. Call your attorney. Tell him about the detective's request. Keep his number handy. | Never speak with cops without a lawyer. Call the one you consulted with and explain what is going on | 1 | 139 | 11.363636 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efgr5so | efgqksj | 1,548,962,972 | 1,548,962,607 | 125 | 9 | "On the advice of counsel, detective, I respectfully decline to answer any questions. My attorney is Saul Goodman, (212) 555-1212." You absolutely should not meet with the detective, or answer any questions, without your attorney. This is true no matter how nicely, or not-nicely, he asks. This is still true if police come to your home, put you in handcuffs, photograph and fingerprint you, and place you in a jail cell. You STILL don't talk to them without your attorney. Call your attorney. Tell him about the detective's request. Keep his number handy. | Oh hell no. Cops are crooked. Don't go near one without your lawyer. | 1 | 365 | 13.888889 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efgjsi3 | efgr5so | 1,548,958,365 | 1,548,962,972 | 2 | 125 | ---
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Title: **My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go?**
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> Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. > > Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. > > I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. > > I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. > > He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. > > Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. > > TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go?
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alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efgqxud | efh291q | 1,548,962,833 | 1,548,970,457 | 11 | 32 | Never speak with cops without a lawyer. Call the one you consulted with and explain what is going on | I've seen lots of other posts where OP asks if they should go down to the police station because they were asked to, and everyone always answers no. The reason behind this is because they will use every tactic that they can to try and make you trip up and say something that they can use against you, no matter how small or insignificant you think it is. Just tell them to talk to your lawyer, and do not talk to them about this issue without your lawyer present if you are brought in for questioning. | 0 | 7,624 | 2.909091 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efh291q | efgqksj | 1,548,970,457 | 1,548,962,607 | 32 | 9 | I've seen lots of other posts where OP asks if they should go down to the police station because they were asked to, and everyone always answers no. The reason behind this is because they will use every tactic that they can to try and make you trip up and say something that they can use against you, no matter how small or insignificant you think it is. Just tell them to talk to your lawyer, and do not talk to them about this issue without your lawyer present if you are brought in for questioning. | Oh hell no. Cops are crooked. Don't go near one without your lawyer. | 1 | 7,850 | 3.555556 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efh04ds | efh291q | 1,548,969,068 | 1,548,970,457 | 3 | 32 | NO. Refer them to your attorney. If they show up at your house, ask if you are under arrest and if not, do not go with them. Do not say anything else, just decline to speak with them, refer them to your attorney, and close the door. If you are arrested, do not resist, but also do not say anything other than "I want to speak to my lawyer." | I've seen lots of other posts where OP asks if they should go down to the police station because they were asked to, and everyone always answers no. The reason behind this is because they will use every tactic that they can to try and make you trip up and say something that they can use against you, no matter how small or insignificant you think it is. Just tell them to talk to your lawyer, and do not talk to them about this issue without your lawyer present if you are brought in for questioning. | 0 | 1,389 | 10.666667 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efgjsi3 | efh291q | 1,548,958,365 | 1,548,970,457 | 2 | 32 | ---
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Title: **My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go?**
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> Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. > > Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. > > I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. > > I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. > > He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. > > Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. > > TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go?
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alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efh7aqe | efgqxud | 1,548,973,939 | 1,548,962,833 | 18 | 11 | No. If they had enough to arrest you, they'd come get you. If they don't have enough and you go talk to them, you might just *give* them enough. | Never speak with cops without a lawyer. Call the one you consulted with and explain what is going on | 1 | 11,106 | 1.636364 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efh7aqe | efh2ht6 | 1,548,973,939 | 1,548,970,620 | 18 | 8 | No. If they had enough to arrest you, they'd come get you. If they don't have enough and you go talk to them, you might just *give* them enough. | I am going to second, and third, and fourth everyone else - No, get a lawyer. Everything you say can be used against you. Not to mention, police officers are allowed to lie to 'trick' you in to confessing or saying something that can be used against you later. I would not agree to speak with the detective at the police station OR ANYWHERE ELSE without my lawyer present. | 1 | 3,319 | 2.25 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efh7aqe | efgqksj | 1,548,973,939 | 1,548,962,607 | 18 | 9 | No. If they had enough to arrest you, they'd come get you. If they don't have enough and you go talk to them, you might just *give* them enough. | Oh hell no. Cops are crooked. Don't go near one without your lawyer. | 1 | 11,332 | 2 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efh7aqe | efh04ds | 1,548,973,939 | 1,548,969,068 | 18 | 3 | No. If they had enough to arrest you, they'd come get you. If they don't have enough and you go talk to them, you might just *give* them enough. | NO. Refer them to your attorney. If they show up at your house, ask if you are under arrest and if not, do not go with them. Do not say anything else, just decline to speak with them, refer them to your attorney, and close the door. If you are arrested, do not resist, but also do not say anything other than "I want to speak to my lawyer." | 1 | 4,871 | 6 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efh7aqe | efgjsi3 | 1,548,973,939 | 1,548,958,365 | 18 | 2 | No. If they had enough to arrest you, they'd come get you. If they don't have enough and you go talk to them, you might just *give* them enough. | ---
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Title: **My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go?**
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> Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. > > Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. > > I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. > > I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. > > He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. > > Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. > > TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go?
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> Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. > > Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. > > I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. > > I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. > > He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. > > Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. > > TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go?
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alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efh2ht6 | efh04ds | 1,548,970,620 | 1,548,969,068 | 8 | 3 | I am going to second, and third, and fourth everyone else - No, get a lawyer. Everything you say can be used against you. Not to mention, police officers are allowed to lie to 'trick' you in to confessing or saying something that can be used against you later. I would not agree to speak with the detective at the police station OR ANYWHERE ELSE without my lawyer present. | NO. Refer them to your attorney. If they show up at your house, ask if you are under arrest and if not, do not go with them. Do not say anything else, just decline to speak with them, refer them to your attorney, and close the door. If you are arrested, do not resist, but also do not say anything other than "I want to speak to my lawyer." | 1 | 1,552 | 2.666667 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efh2ht6 | efgjsi3 | 1,548,970,620 | 1,548,958,365 | 8 | 2 | I am going to second, and third, and fourth everyone else - No, get a lawyer. Everything you say can be used against you. Not to mention, police officers are allowed to lie to 'trick' you in to confessing or saying something that can be used against you later. I would not agree to speak with the detective at the police station OR ANYWHERE ELSE without my lawyer present. | ---
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> Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. > > Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. > > I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. > > I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. > > He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. > > Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. > > TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go?
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Title: **My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go?**
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> Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. > > Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. > > I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. > > I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. > > He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. > > Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. > > TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go?
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alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efhmcr1 | efh04ds | 1,548,986,904 | 1,548,969,068 | 6 | 3 | To add to what everyone else says, if the cops do arrest you, or show up where you are, tell them nothing but your identity, and then say "I'm not going to talk to you without my lawyer present.". If they say you don't need a lawyer tell them "I'm not going to talk to you without my lawyer present.". If they tell you you're not in trouble say "I'm not going to talk to you without my lawyer present." That should be the only answer to every question they ask | NO. Refer them to your attorney. If they show up at your house, ask if you are under arrest and if not, do not go with them. Do not say anything else, just decline to speak with them, refer them to your attorney, and close the door. If you are arrested, do not resist, but also do not say anything other than "I want to speak to my lawyer." | 1 | 17,836 | 2 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efgjsi3 | efhmcr1 | 1,548,958,365 | 1,548,986,904 | 2 | 6 | ---
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Title: **My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go?**
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> Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. > > Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. > > I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. > > I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. > > He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. > > Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. > > TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go?
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alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efhmcr1 | efhi6kg | 1,548,986,904 | 1,548,983,543 | 6 | 2 | To add to what everyone else says, if the cops do arrest you, or show up where you are, tell them nothing but your identity, and then say "I'm not going to talk to you without my lawyer present.". If they say you don't need a lawyer tell them "I'm not going to talk to you without my lawyer present.". If they tell you you're not in trouble say "I'm not going to talk to you without my lawyer present." That should be the only answer to every question they ask | No Attorney up, they will assist you. | 1 | 3,361 | 3 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efhigfq | efhmcr1 | 1,548,983,764 | 1,548,986,904 | 2 | 6 | Call your lawyer and ask them what you should do. | To add to what everyone else says, if the cops do arrest you, or show up where you are, tell them nothing but your identity, and then say "I'm not going to talk to you without my lawyer present.". If they say you don't need a lawyer tell them "I'm not going to talk to you without my lawyer present.". If they tell you you're not in trouble say "I'm not going to talk to you without my lawyer present." That should be the only answer to every question they ask | 0 | 3,140 | 3 |
alsbse | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | My former employer tried to pin a crime on me months ago, a detective just called me and asked me to speak with him at the police station, do I go? Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go? | efh04ds | efgjsi3 | 1,548,969,068 | 1,548,958,365 | 3 | 2 | NO. Refer them to your attorney. If they show up at your house, ask if you are under arrest and if not, do not go with them. Do not say anything else, just decline to speak with them, refer them to your attorney, and close the door. If you are arrested, do not resist, but also do not say anything other than "I want to speak to my lawyer." | ---
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> Throwaway and I am trying to keep this vague as to not give away any personal information. > > Back around September my boss attempted to pin an embezzlement charge on me. I did not do it, and left my place of employment. > > I got a lawyer and a case wasnt opened for a couple of months and he just told me not to worry about it, and it would just go away. > > I got a call about 20 min ago from a local detective saying he needed to speak with me. I let him know that I was working until late in the evening and work all day tomorrow, and he suggested Monday. I said I could tentatively plan on that, and see what my schedule is. > > He set a tentative time, and then dropped the bomb that he wants to speak with me at the police station. > > Do I go? Do I have my attorney present? I'm shaking in my boots a little. > > TLDR: A detective asked to meet with me at the police station, do I go?
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vboih2 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Tried to file a police report when a guy stole $700 from me. Police chief told me they can't do anything because the guy won't answer his calls. um, what? I'm in a one cop town in Illinois. I have very little experience with dealing with the police. This is the first time I've ever had to file a police report. A guy was pretending to be a "licensed and insured" concrete contractor online. We ended up deciding to hire him for a concrete patio. We paid $700 as a deposit. He wrote this up in a contract saying work would begin on a certain day. That day came and went and he never showed up to do the work. He dodged all online communications and all phone calls from my girlfriend's phone number that day, yet answered the phone when I called him from my phone, which he did not know the number of. I told him to come over and give our money back. Surprisingly, he came over, but he didn't have our money. He wrote ANOTHER contract, saying he'd give us our money by 5pm in 3 days. That day also came and went and I never saw or heard from him again. He blocked my phone number. This was over a week ago. We immediately went to the police when he missed the 5 oclock deadline to return our money. I didn't have his date of birth or license plate number at this time. The officer basically said he couldn't do anything without knowing for sure who he was looking for. He said a license plate number would help. We went home and I started digging. He and his girlfriend (his girlfriend claims to be the co-owner of this business) both have their DOB online. Through public record I found their address, confirmed both DOBs, they have an ongoing court case over felony possession of meth, their company name doesn't seem to be registered or insured, and both of their license plate numbers. We filled out a lengthy police report with all of this information, and both of our contracts, screen shots of their ads online. I sent this to the officer and waited a week. I just called and he told me it's a civil matter. (I get that getting my money back is a civil matter, but I also believe these people are hiding behind calling themselves a "contractor" to protect themselves from criminal pursuit while committing fraud, knowing cops will just say "it's a civil matter". The officer told me "He isn't answering my phone calls either. If he won't answer the phone and agree to a line up, there's really nothing I can do." I didn't expect the police to be a whole lot of help, but this seems absurd to me. I know $700 isn't a lot in the grand scheme of things, (though it is substantial to me right now). I realize i'll never see that money again and am chocking it up as a lesson learned. But there's really nothing to be done to keep this guy from scamming others? All you have to do to get away with a crime is put your phone on silent and/or switch numbers? Do I have any options? | ica42af | ic9dpcf | 1,655,172,789 | 1,655,160,124 | 180 | 28 | Make a report with the state contractor licensing agency as well. They may have a fund to compensate you. | Make a report with your local sheriff’s department or state police if your local police department isn’t taking this seriously. Criminal defendants can be ordered to pay restitution for money they stole. Just because something can be handled as a civil matter doesn’t mean that a crime has not also been committed. | 1 | 12,665 | 6.428571 |
vboih2 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Tried to file a police report when a guy stole $700 from me. Police chief told me they can't do anything because the guy won't answer his calls. um, what? I'm in a one cop town in Illinois. I have very little experience with dealing with the police. This is the first time I've ever had to file a police report. A guy was pretending to be a "licensed and insured" concrete contractor online. We ended up deciding to hire him for a concrete patio. We paid $700 as a deposit. He wrote this up in a contract saying work would begin on a certain day. That day came and went and he never showed up to do the work. He dodged all online communications and all phone calls from my girlfriend's phone number that day, yet answered the phone when I called him from my phone, which he did not know the number of. I told him to come over and give our money back. Surprisingly, he came over, but he didn't have our money. He wrote ANOTHER contract, saying he'd give us our money by 5pm in 3 days. That day also came and went and I never saw or heard from him again. He blocked my phone number. This was over a week ago. We immediately went to the police when he missed the 5 oclock deadline to return our money. I didn't have his date of birth or license plate number at this time. The officer basically said he couldn't do anything without knowing for sure who he was looking for. He said a license plate number would help. We went home and I started digging. He and his girlfriend (his girlfriend claims to be the co-owner of this business) both have their DOB online. Through public record I found their address, confirmed both DOBs, they have an ongoing court case over felony possession of meth, their company name doesn't seem to be registered or insured, and both of their license plate numbers. We filled out a lengthy police report with all of this information, and both of our contracts, screen shots of their ads online. I sent this to the officer and waited a week. I just called and he told me it's a civil matter. (I get that getting my money back is a civil matter, but I also believe these people are hiding behind calling themselves a "contractor" to protect themselves from criminal pursuit while committing fraud, knowing cops will just say "it's a civil matter". The officer told me "He isn't answering my phone calls either. If he won't answer the phone and agree to a line up, there's really nothing I can do." I didn't expect the police to be a whole lot of help, but this seems absurd to me. I know $700 isn't a lot in the grand scheme of things, (though it is substantial to me right now). I realize i'll never see that money again and am chocking it up as a lesson learned. But there's really nothing to be done to keep this guy from scamming others? All you have to do to get away with a crime is put your phone on silent and/or switch numbers? Do I have any options? | ic9zbcm | ica42af | 1,655,170,541 | 1,655,172,789 | 4 | 180 | Unfortunately since there is a contract involved it is a civil matter. The police won't be able to do much because i doubt a judge would even issue an arrest warrant for this. | Make a report with the state contractor licensing agency as well. They may have a fund to compensate you. | 0 | 2,248 | 45 |
vboih2 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Tried to file a police report when a guy stole $700 from me. Police chief told me they can't do anything because the guy won't answer his calls. um, what? I'm in a one cop town in Illinois. I have very little experience with dealing with the police. This is the first time I've ever had to file a police report. A guy was pretending to be a "licensed and insured" concrete contractor online. We ended up deciding to hire him for a concrete patio. We paid $700 as a deposit. He wrote this up in a contract saying work would begin on a certain day. That day came and went and he never showed up to do the work. He dodged all online communications and all phone calls from my girlfriend's phone number that day, yet answered the phone when I called him from my phone, which he did not know the number of. I told him to come over and give our money back. Surprisingly, he came over, but he didn't have our money. He wrote ANOTHER contract, saying he'd give us our money by 5pm in 3 days. That day also came and went and I never saw or heard from him again. He blocked my phone number. This was over a week ago. We immediately went to the police when he missed the 5 oclock deadline to return our money. I didn't have his date of birth or license plate number at this time. The officer basically said he couldn't do anything without knowing for sure who he was looking for. He said a license plate number would help. We went home and I started digging. He and his girlfriend (his girlfriend claims to be the co-owner of this business) both have their DOB online. Through public record I found their address, confirmed both DOBs, they have an ongoing court case over felony possession of meth, their company name doesn't seem to be registered or insured, and both of their license plate numbers. We filled out a lengthy police report with all of this information, and both of our contracts, screen shots of their ads online. I sent this to the officer and waited a week. I just called and he told me it's a civil matter. (I get that getting my money back is a civil matter, but I also believe these people are hiding behind calling themselves a "contractor" to protect themselves from criminal pursuit while committing fraud, knowing cops will just say "it's a civil matter". The officer told me "He isn't answering my phone calls either. If he won't answer the phone and agree to a line up, there's really nothing I can do." I didn't expect the police to be a whole lot of help, but this seems absurd to me. I know $700 isn't a lot in the grand scheme of things, (though it is substantial to me right now). I realize i'll never see that money again and am chocking it up as a lesson learned. But there's really nothing to be done to keep this guy from scamming others? All you have to do to get away with a crime is put your phone on silent and/or switch numbers? Do I have any options? | ic9zbcm | icahu1m | 1,655,170,541 | 1,655,179,670 | 4 | 7 | Unfortunately since there is a contract involved it is a civil matter. The police won't be able to do much because i doubt a judge would even issue an arrest warrant for this. | Call the Attorney General, he is known to scam people. They will look into it and try to find others to call on him as well. Attorney General at least in my state is the quickest to get stuff like this done. You may not see any of your $$$ but you may see him in jail. | 0 | 9,129 | 1.75 |
jcsiqp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (Missouri) My ex boyfriend committed suicide last week and his father is publicly blaming me- defemation of character? His father and I work together and its come to my attention, after telling me I am like a daughter to him, that he is telling people at work that it is my fault. I dont actually want to sue but is there any clause or protection that I can use to claim he needs to stop or I could take action? Work is moving him to another location but that hasnt stopped the talking behind my back | g93kl3d | g93r6w0 | 1,602,939,474 | 1,602,943,720 | 82 | 86 | Unless he is making false statements of fact about you, his opinion that it was your fault is likely not actionable. Very sorry you are going through this. Best wishes. | Are the comments occuring on company time or while he or yourself are doing something that represents the organization? If so, time to go to HR. If these comments are made on social media and his profile is public and list the employer, that will also benefit you. Not defending, but Id imagine the father is in a bad place and wants to blame someone. | 0 | 4,246 | 1.04878 |
jcsiqp | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | (Missouri) My ex boyfriend committed suicide last week and his father is publicly blaming me- defemation of character? His father and I work together and its come to my attention, after telling me I am like a daughter to him, that he is telling people at work that it is my fault. I dont actually want to sue but is there any clause or protection that I can use to claim he needs to stop or I could take action? Work is moving him to another location but that hasnt stopped the talking behind my back | g93r6w0 | g93kxpp | 1,602,943,720 | 1,602,939,733 | 86 | 43 | Are the comments occuring on company time or while he or yourself are doing something that represents the organization? If so, time to go to HR. If these comments are made on social media and his profile is public and list the employer, that will also benefit you. Not defending, but Id imagine the father is in a bad place and wants to blame someone. | Generally speaking, unless the person is making false statements and you can prove that those statements are causing you harm, there's very little you can do legally. Since you work together, you can bring this to the attention of HR if you feel he's creating a hostile work environment. | 1 | 3,987 | 2 |
hvjgi2 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | USA, GA - My friend's boyfriend transferred all of his funds into his girlfriend's bank account before he committed suicide. Is she legally entitled to the money? GA, USA. They were not married. They were both over 18 years old. He left no will. He gifted her the money on the pretense that his bank account had been compromised and that he was moving the money into hers for safe keeping. His family has not asked for the money back outright, but they are pressuring her into giving it to them to pay for funeral services, among other things. If she elects not to give them the money, does his family have the right to sue her for it? I am worried if she withholds the money, they will threaten legal action in order to coerce her. | fytx0vc | fyto1qj | 1,595,383,416 | 1,595,378,111 | 25 | 5 | If he told her he was moving it to her account for safekeeping it does not sound like he told her it was a gift. And it's not a gift causa mortis for the same reason/ in addition, most state statutes defining a gift causa mortis require death to be an external event. Georgia says, "must be in his last illness or in peril of death;". So it's debatable whether such a transfer would be upheld as a gift. It's likely that the money will be found to be part of her estate. Finally, as a baliee of that money, she may have extra duties or liability if she fails to return it. | They can threaten legal action, hire an attorney to write demand letters & file a lawsuit, but she's not required to give them the money unless a court says so. If it's a significant amount of money or she gets sued, she should see an attorney. | 1 | 5,305 | 5 |
34pr7m | legaladvice_train | 0.81 | [Va.] Boyfriend committed suicide and believed he was leaving his phone in my possession. His family took the phone and will not let me have access to it, even temporarily. My boyfriend of 8 years committed suicide in December. We were no longer dating or living together. He had developed severe opiate addiction in the course of law school (he graduated with honors in May 2014), and I had moved out. He wrote a holographic will leaving almost all of his possessions to me, including our dog and our house. In the will, he also left me instructions. He wanted me to get his guitars, violin and accordion out of pawn; he gave me pawn slips with which to retrieve them. He left a play list of songs (both his own and by other musicians) that he wanted played at his funeral. And he asked me to retrieve music (his own recordings) from his cell phone and give those files to his parents. To that end, he left his cell phone with the will and he wrote the passcode down so that I could open the phone. On the day that his father and I discovered his body, the police took the phone briefly then handed it over to his father. He took the phone away. I would not have stopped him, but I did expect to borrow the phone in the future. I did not tell him that, though; I just let him go. It was not appropriate to the time and it was not on my mind. I borrowed the phone for one day, to organize a wake at home, because Cayman's funeral was going to be held in his home town. His family wanted a private funeral and excluded me from it. So his cousin stole the phone from Cayman's mother's possession, let me use it to call people, and she knew that I planned to take all of the information regarding Cayman's drug dealers to the police--that I had further plans for the phone. Then at the wake, she and Cayman's sister took the phone away claiming they would return it later. But no one ever returned the phone. No one ever shared the music on the phone with me. And despite being the administrator of Cayman's estate (he named no executor), I have not received any cooperation from his family regarding my using the phone to identify his debts to friends who loaned him money, to have his friends phone numbers, to have any kind of information at all that is contained in the phone. What breaks my heart is that I want to have his musical recordings. His will tells me to share the music with his parents. Surely his intent, in leaving the phone in my possession, among everything he owned and specifically giving me the passcode, is that I would have access to the music, too. And photos that he took of the two of us together. His phone (an iPhone) was acquired as part of a family plan, and it was discounted as an upgrade for signing another two-year contract. That is what his family says when refusing to let me borrow the phone. He received the phone around Christmas of 2012, so there was only one month remaining on the contract when he killed himself. **tl;dr** My boyfriend killed himself and his will leaves his cellphone in my possession, along with the passcode to allow me to execute instructions to give musical files to his parents. I want those files for myself, but his parents simply took the phone and refuse to share. How can I get the phone? I am administrator of his estate, and I have been settling his very small estate without a lawyer. Thank you. | cqwwsf1 | cqwwjm5 | 1,430,660,490 | 1,430,659,741 | 32 | 11 | > I am administrator of his estate, and I have been settling his very small estate without a lawyer. Are you in probate with the estate yet? Have you been declared the executor by the courts? | What is a holographic will? | 1 | 749 | 2.909091 |
34pr7m | legaladvice_train | 0.81 | [Va.] Boyfriend committed suicide and believed he was leaving his phone in my possession. His family took the phone and will not let me have access to it, even temporarily. My boyfriend of 8 years committed suicide in December. We were no longer dating or living together. He had developed severe opiate addiction in the course of law school (he graduated with honors in May 2014), and I had moved out. He wrote a holographic will leaving almost all of his possessions to me, including our dog and our house. In the will, he also left me instructions. He wanted me to get his guitars, violin and accordion out of pawn; he gave me pawn slips with which to retrieve them. He left a play list of songs (both his own and by other musicians) that he wanted played at his funeral. And he asked me to retrieve music (his own recordings) from his cell phone and give those files to his parents. To that end, he left his cell phone with the will and he wrote the passcode down so that I could open the phone. On the day that his father and I discovered his body, the police took the phone briefly then handed it over to his father. He took the phone away. I would not have stopped him, but I did expect to borrow the phone in the future. I did not tell him that, though; I just let him go. It was not appropriate to the time and it was not on my mind. I borrowed the phone for one day, to organize a wake at home, because Cayman's funeral was going to be held in his home town. His family wanted a private funeral and excluded me from it. So his cousin stole the phone from Cayman's mother's possession, let me use it to call people, and she knew that I planned to take all of the information regarding Cayman's drug dealers to the police--that I had further plans for the phone. Then at the wake, she and Cayman's sister took the phone away claiming they would return it later. But no one ever returned the phone. No one ever shared the music on the phone with me. And despite being the administrator of Cayman's estate (he named no executor), I have not received any cooperation from his family regarding my using the phone to identify his debts to friends who loaned him money, to have his friends phone numbers, to have any kind of information at all that is contained in the phone. What breaks my heart is that I want to have his musical recordings. His will tells me to share the music with his parents. Surely his intent, in leaving the phone in my possession, among everything he owned and specifically giving me the passcode, is that I would have access to the music, too. And photos that he took of the two of us together. His phone (an iPhone) was acquired as part of a family plan, and it was discounted as an upgrade for signing another two-year contract. That is what his family says when refusing to let me borrow the phone. He received the phone around Christmas of 2012, so there was only one month remaining on the contract when he killed himself. **tl;dr** My boyfriend killed himself and his will leaves his cellphone in my possession, along with the passcode to allow me to execute instructions to give musical files to his parents. I want those files for myself, but his parents simply took the phone and refuse to share. How can I get the phone? I am administrator of his estate, and I have been settling his very small estate without a lawyer. Thank you. | cqx273z | cqwwjm5 | 1,430,673,096 | 1,430,659,741 | 14 | 11 | Whoever has the phone contract owns the phone. I suggest that you write to his family and explain your intentions, then ask them to meet you with the phone at an Apple store. Assure them they can take the phone with them when they leave the store. | What is a holographic will? | 1 | 13,355 | 1.272727 |
y4p0bw | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | my employer fired me and threatened my life. He had to be held back So, I work in the restaurant industry. I went into work. My boss/an owner told me not to clock in. He pulled everyone up front. Told them I got upset after asking for a raise the day before. Said I was lucky he was a good Christian/in AA and in the same breath said "I'll kill you motherfucker". Multiple employees had to pull him away from me. I do not know how to move forward. My main question is if I should file a police report for assault. Now that I am no longer working there I am also interested in looking at unpaid overtime. I was a salaried employee but don't believe I ever qualified exempt according to the flsa. I'm in florida so I know workers don't have a lot of rights but there has to be something I can do. Any advice? | isf6r30 | isfq6uu | 1,665,845,284 | 1,665,853,697 | 71 | 551 | I am not a lawyer, of course, but I hope this gets the discussion started. Assault in FL seems to require the following components: 1. A threat of violence 2. Ability to carry out the threat 3. An act that created a well-founded fear that the threat would be carried out (FL State Law 784.011) >An “assault” is an intentional, unlawful threat by word or act to do violence to the person of another, coupled with an apparent ability to do so, and doing some act which creates a well-founded fear in such other person that such violence is imminent. Edit: formatting errors. | Start by filing a police report. It won’t cost you anything and you can figure out if you have an employment law complaint. | 0 | 8,413 | 7.760563 |
y4p0bw | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | my employer fired me and threatened my life. He had to be held back So, I work in the restaurant industry. I went into work. My boss/an owner told me not to clock in. He pulled everyone up front. Told them I got upset after asking for a raise the day before. Said I was lucky he was a good Christian/in AA and in the same breath said "I'll kill you motherfucker". Multiple employees had to pull him away from me. I do not know how to move forward. My main question is if I should file a police report for assault. Now that I am no longer working there I am also interested in looking at unpaid overtime. I was a salaried employee but don't believe I ever qualified exempt according to the flsa. I'm in florida so I know workers don't have a lot of rights but there has to be something I can do. Any advice? | isgs2v9 | isgi8t6 | 1,665,869,824 | 1,665,865,589 | 36 | 10 | You asked for a raise so he threatened to kill you? Either there is more info missing or that dude needs to get a grippy sock holiday. | Wait, your salaried but u have to clock in? Did you ever get paid less for clocking out early or late? Did u ever get paid less for missing a shift? If so that's a federal violation. | 1 | 4,235 | 3.6 |
y4p0bw | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | my employer fired me and threatened my life. He had to be held back So, I work in the restaurant industry. I went into work. My boss/an owner told me not to clock in. He pulled everyone up front. Told them I got upset after asking for a raise the day before. Said I was lucky he was a good Christian/in AA and in the same breath said "I'll kill you motherfucker". Multiple employees had to pull him away from me. I do not know how to move forward. My main question is if I should file a police report for assault. Now that I am no longer working there I am also interested in looking at unpaid overtime. I was a salaried employee but don't believe I ever qualified exempt according to the flsa. I'm in florida so I know workers don't have a lot of rights but there has to be something I can do. Any advice? | isgdugn | isgs2v9 | 1,665,863,700 | 1,665,869,824 | 9 | 36 | He threatened you. That’s criminal. Call the police and give them the names of every person there who witnessed it. Then file unemployment and contact an employment law attorney | You asked for a raise so he threatened to kill you? Either there is more info missing or that dude needs to get a grippy sock holiday. | 0 | 6,124 | 4 |
y4p0bw | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | my employer fired me and threatened my life. He had to be held back So, I work in the restaurant industry. I went into work. My boss/an owner told me not to clock in. He pulled everyone up front. Told them I got upset after asking for a raise the day before. Said I was lucky he was a good Christian/in AA and in the same breath said "I'll kill you motherfucker". Multiple employees had to pull him away from me. I do not know how to move forward. My main question is if I should file a police report for assault. Now that I am no longer working there I am also interested in looking at unpaid overtime. I was a salaried employee but don't believe I ever qualified exempt according to the flsa. I'm in florida so I know workers don't have a lot of rights but there has to be something I can do. Any advice? | isgkiwl | isgs2v9 | 1,665,866,556 | 1,665,869,824 | 4 | 36 | Never delay on a police report. They'll wonder why you waited to file it. | You asked for a raise so he threatened to kill you? Either there is more info missing or that dude needs to get a grippy sock holiday. | 0 | 3,268 | 9 |
y4p0bw | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | my employer fired me and threatened my life. He had to be held back So, I work in the restaurant industry. I went into work. My boss/an owner told me not to clock in. He pulled everyone up front. Told them I got upset after asking for a raise the day before. Said I was lucky he was a good Christian/in AA and in the same breath said "I'll kill you motherfucker". Multiple employees had to pull him away from me. I do not know how to move forward. My main question is if I should file a police report for assault. Now that I am no longer working there I am also interested in looking at unpaid overtime. I was a salaried employee but don't believe I ever qualified exempt according to the flsa. I'm in florida so I know workers don't have a lot of rights but there has to be something I can do. Any advice? | isgi8t6 | isgdugn | 1,665,865,589 | 1,665,863,700 | 10 | 9 | Wait, your salaried but u have to clock in? Did you ever get paid less for clocking out early or late? Did u ever get paid less for missing a shift? If so that's a federal violation. | He threatened you. That’s criminal. Call the police and give them the names of every person there who witnessed it. Then file unemployment and contact an employment law attorney | 1 | 1,889 | 1.111111 |
vokeb3 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [New Jersey] My mom is possibly hiding medical information and prescriptions from me, Is this legal? I am a 17 year old female, turning 18 in a week. Earlier this year I went to get a checkup and after doing the standard things the nurse asked my mom to leave the room so he could ask me a few things. After asking me some questions, he asked if I had any. So I asked why is it that I have only had my period 2 times since I was 12 when I know it’s supposed to be monthly and I told him I was very concerned about it, I tried going to see a doctor for it sooner but my mom never allowed it and insisted I was fine. The nurse looked concerned and asked follow up questions and went back to talk to my mom, after some time, I was told I would come back in about a week to take some blood tests. The entire car ride home, my mom is just glaring at me and saying I shouldn’t be making a big deal out of it. A week later, I go in and have some blood taken so tests can be run. About two months pass and I do what the my doctor suggested, exercising more and avoiding fat/ sugary foods since it was possible that the problem could be my weight, still nothing. One day I’m looking through the mail and I see a letter for me. I couldn’t understand it much, but it was results of my blood test and then a small note that I couldn’t read before my mom toke it from my hands, angry at me for opening it. She told me to go to my room and I’m trying to remember what the note had said, definitely said prescription and had my doctors signature. Months have passed, and I’ve heard nothing from my mom about it. When I ask she denies that I ever got my test results. I know she’s very hesitant about medication and she has denied me getting anti depressants when I was prescribed them in the past. I want to know if she is keeping me from getting medication, is it illegal, and what can I do? | ieeonxt | ieecbai | 1,656,645,996 | 1,656,639,833 | 1,152 | 508 | If you're turning 18 in a week, the easiest course of action will be waiting until you turn 18 and walking into the office and asking about your medical history. You should also be changing all medical contacts to yourself, and instructing the office to contact you only via a method your mom can't intercept such as a cell phone or private email if you have one. | You should go see the doctor in person (without your mom) and let them know what happened. Months is *bad*. Do you have guidance counsellor teacher you trust to help you? | 1 | 6,163 | 2.267717 |
vokeb3 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [New Jersey] My mom is possibly hiding medical information and prescriptions from me, Is this legal? I am a 17 year old female, turning 18 in a week. Earlier this year I went to get a checkup and after doing the standard things the nurse asked my mom to leave the room so he could ask me a few things. After asking me some questions, he asked if I had any. So I asked why is it that I have only had my period 2 times since I was 12 when I know it’s supposed to be monthly and I told him I was very concerned about it, I tried going to see a doctor for it sooner but my mom never allowed it and insisted I was fine. The nurse looked concerned and asked follow up questions and went back to talk to my mom, after some time, I was told I would come back in about a week to take some blood tests. The entire car ride home, my mom is just glaring at me and saying I shouldn’t be making a big deal out of it. A week later, I go in and have some blood taken so tests can be run. About two months pass and I do what the my doctor suggested, exercising more and avoiding fat/ sugary foods since it was possible that the problem could be my weight, still nothing. One day I’m looking through the mail and I see a letter for me. I couldn’t understand it much, but it was results of my blood test and then a small note that I couldn’t read before my mom toke it from my hands, angry at me for opening it. She told me to go to my room and I’m trying to remember what the note had said, definitely said prescription and had my doctors signature. Months have passed, and I’ve heard nothing from my mom about it. When I ask she denies that I ever got my test results. I know she’s very hesitant about medication and she has denied me getting anti depressants when I was prescribed them in the past. I want to know if she is keeping me from getting medication, is it illegal, and what can I do? | ieefyga | ieeonxt | 1,656,641,593 | 1,656,645,996 | 423 | 1,152 | Not a doctor but in a medical field. You probably had a number of tests done in for PCOS given the irregularities of your menstrual cycle and him asking you to do exercise and eat less sugars , assuming it flagged something of concern there's a few things he could have prescribed you. At your age, surgeries are not usually recommended for PCOS and doctors usually prescribe birth control pills to regulate your hormones and keep any existing cysts under control. Aside from that, PCOS can be associated with insulin resistance and is normally managed with a combination of drugs (Metformin, glucophage) exercise and a strictly low sugar diet. Important to note, if you suspect that your mom has prevented you from knowing this diagnosis, PCOS is usually lifelong and evidence of will still be present when you turn 18, even if your mom can legally prevent you from finding out about it now. Both PCOS and insulin resistance can also be dangerous if left unchecked for indefinitely. I do urge you to make a conscious effort to get in contact with you doctor and find out your diagnosis + prescription. You should also have a consult with a gynecologist to discuss your long term options regarding your cycle and any diagnosis you may have received. Parents often don't like to have thier kids on birth control medicine or medicine usually prescribed to the obese. However, your health should be your priority. Edit: Not to scare OP or anyone but PCOS can be scary if left unchecked you can develop cancers, sepsis and all sorts of other nasty stuff that can be really awful. It can also be managed really well, if and only if you know the facts about what you're working with. It's in OPs best interest to go to a gynecologist sooner rather than later. | If you're turning 18 in a week, the easiest course of action will be waiting until you turn 18 and walking into the office and asking about your medical history. You should also be changing all medical contacts to yourself, and instructing the office to contact you only via a method your mom can't intercept such as a cell phone or private email if you have one. | 0 | 4,403 | 2.723404 |
vokeb3 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [New Jersey] My mom is possibly hiding medical information and prescriptions from me, Is this legal? I am a 17 year old female, turning 18 in a week. Earlier this year I went to get a checkup and after doing the standard things the nurse asked my mom to leave the room so he could ask me a few things. After asking me some questions, he asked if I had any. So I asked why is it that I have only had my period 2 times since I was 12 when I know it’s supposed to be monthly and I told him I was very concerned about it, I tried going to see a doctor for it sooner but my mom never allowed it and insisted I was fine. The nurse looked concerned and asked follow up questions and went back to talk to my mom, after some time, I was told I would come back in about a week to take some blood tests. The entire car ride home, my mom is just glaring at me and saying I shouldn’t be making a big deal out of it. A week later, I go in and have some blood taken so tests can be run. About two months pass and I do what the my doctor suggested, exercising more and avoiding fat/ sugary foods since it was possible that the problem could be my weight, still nothing. One day I’m looking through the mail and I see a letter for me. I couldn’t understand it much, but it was results of my blood test and then a small note that I couldn’t read before my mom toke it from my hands, angry at me for opening it. She told me to go to my room and I’m trying to remember what the note had said, definitely said prescription and had my doctors signature. Months have passed, and I’ve heard nothing from my mom about it. When I ask she denies that I ever got my test results. I know she’s very hesitant about medication and she has denied me getting anti depressants when I was prescribed them in the past. I want to know if she is keeping me from getting medication, is it illegal, and what can I do? | ieeonxt | iedpgbz | 1,656,645,996 | 1,656,629,228 | 1,152 | 383 | If you're turning 18 in a week, the easiest course of action will be waiting until you turn 18 and walking into the office and asking about your medical history. You should also be changing all medical contacts to yourself, and instructing the office to contact you only via a method your mom can't intercept such as a cell phone or private email if you have one. | When you turn 18, your parents no longer have the right to your medical records/information under HIPAA unless you sign a release allowing them this access. This is true even if you are covered by your parent’s insurance. If you are concerned, once you turn 18 you can contact your providers and indicate only you should have access to your medical records. But understand this may cause relationship issues with your mom. And you have the right to a copy of your medical records as an adult. I would contact your provider and tell them you’re coming by for a copy. If you have questions about what you have read, let them know. | 1 | 16,768 | 3.007833 |
vokeb3 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [New Jersey] My mom is possibly hiding medical information and prescriptions from me, Is this legal? I am a 17 year old female, turning 18 in a week. Earlier this year I went to get a checkup and after doing the standard things the nurse asked my mom to leave the room so he could ask me a few things. After asking me some questions, he asked if I had any. So I asked why is it that I have only had my period 2 times since I was 12 when I know it’s supposed to be monthly and I told him I was very concerned about it, I tried going to see a doctor for it sooner but my mom never allowed it and insisted I was fine. The nurse looked concerned and asked follow up questions and went back to talk to my mom, after some time, I was told I would come back in about a week to take some blood tests. The entire car ride home, my mom is just glaring at me and saying I shouldn’t be making a big deal out of it. A week later, I go in and have some blood taken so tests can be run. About two months pass and I do what the my doctor suggested, exercising more and avoiding fat/ sugary foods since it was possible that the problem could be my weight, still nothing. One day I’m looking through the mail and I see a letter for me. I couldn’t understand it much, but it was results of my blood test and then a small note that I couldn’t read before my mom toke it from my hands, angry at me for opening it. She told me to go to my room and I’m trying to remember what the note had said, definitely said prescription and had my doctors signature. Months have passed, and I’ve heard nothing from my mom about it. When I ask she denies that I ever got my test results. I know she’s very hesitant about medication and she has denied me getting anti depressants when I was prescribed them in the past. I want to know if she is keeping me from getting medication, is it illegal, and what can I do? | ieeonxt | iedmb17 | 1,656,645,996 | 1,656,627,907 | 1,152 | 95 | If you're turning 18 in a week, the easiest course of action will be waiting until you turn 18 and walking into the office and asking about your medical history. You should also be changing all medical contacts to yourself, and instructing the office to contact you only via a method your mom can't intercept such as a cell phone or private email if you have one. | Parents have broad discretion in managing their children's medical care. Several religions dictate against a lot of modern medicine and as abhorrent as it is, the law respects their backwards beliefs. Same with moms who have crazy beliefs. I recommend that you take your fate into your own hands as much as you can. Call your doctor's office and ask them to send things to an email only you control, or to set up a web-portal account for you. Go to the office in person if you can and explain what's happening. Do you know how your insurance works? Is it through your mother's job? Do you have your own coverage? | 1 | 18,089 | 12.126316 |
vokeb3 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [New Jersey] My mom is possibly hiding medical information and prescriptions from me, Is this legal? I am a 17 year old female, turning 18 in a week. Earlier this year I went to get a checkup and after doing the standard things the nurse asked my mom to leave the room so he could ask me a few things. After asking me some questions, he asked if I had any. So I asked why is it that I have only had my period 2 times since I was 12 when I know it’s supposed to be monthly and I told him I was very concerned about it, I tried going to see a doctor for it sooner but my mom never allowed it and insisted I was fine. The nurse looked concerned and asked follow up questions and went back to talk to my mom, after some time, I was told I would come back in about a week to take some blood tests. The entire car ride home, my mom is just glaring at me and saying I shouldn’t be making a big deal out of it. A week later, I go in and have some blood taken so tests can be run. About two months pass and I do what the my doctor suggested, exercising more and avoiding fat/ sugary foods since it was possible that the problem could be my weight, still nothing. One day I’m looking through the mail and I see a letter for me. I couldn’t understand it much, but it was results of my blood test and then a small note that I couldn’t read before my mom toke it from my hands, angry at me for opening it. She told me to go to my room and I’m trying to remember what the note had said, definitely said prescription and had my doctors signature. Months have passed, and I’ve heard nothing from my mom about it. When I ask she denies that I ever got my test results. I know she’s very hesitant about medication and she has denied me getting anti depressants when I was prescribed them in the past. I want to know if she is keeping me from getting medication, is it illegal, and what can I do? | ieecbai | iedpgbz | 1,656,639,833 | 1,656,629,228 | 508 | 383 | You should go see the doctor in person (without your mom) and let them know what happened. Months is *bad*. Do you have guidance counsellor teacher you trust to help you? | When you turn 18, your parents no longer have the right to your medical records/information under HIPAA unless you sign a release allowing them this access. This is true even if you are covered by your parent’s insurance. If you are concerned, once you turn 18 you can contact your providers and indicate only you should have access to your medical records. But understand this may cause relationship issues with your mom. And you have the right to a copy of your medical records as an adult. I would contact your provider and tell them you’re coming by for a copy. If you have questions about what you have read, let them know. | 1 | 10,605 | 1.326371 |
vokeb3 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [New Jersey] My mom is possibly hiding medical information and prescriptions from me, Is this legal? I am a 17 year old female, turning 18 in a week. Earlier this year I went to get a checkup and after doing the standard things the nurse asked my mom to leave the room so he could ask me a few things. After asking me some questions, he asked if I had any. So I asked why is it that I have only had my period 2 times since I was 12 when I know it’s supposed to be monthly and I told him I was very concerned about it, I tried going to see a doctor for it sooner but my mom never allowed it and insisted I was fine. The nurse looked concerned and asked follow up questions and went back to talk to my mom, after some time, I was told I would come back in about a week to take some blood tests. The entire car ride home, my mom is just glaring at me and saying I shouldn’t be making a big deal out of it. A week later, I go in and have some blood taken so tests can be run. About two months pass and I do what the my doctor suggested, exercising more and avoiding fat/ sugary foods since it was possible that the problem could be my weight, still nothing. One day I’m looking through the mail and I see a letter for me. I couldn’t understand it much, but it was results of my blood test and then a small note that I couldn’t read before my mom toke it from my hands, angry at me for opening it. She told me to go to my room and I’m trying to remember what the note had said, definitely said prescription and had my doctors signature. Months have passed, and I’ve heard nothing from my mom about it. When I ask she denies that I ever got my test results. I know she’s very hesitant about medication and she has denied me getting anti depressants when I was prescribed them in the past. I want to know if she is keeping me from getting medication, is it illegal, and what can I do? | ieecbai | iedmb17 | 1,656,639,833 | 1,656,627,907 | 508 | 95 | You should go see the doctor in person (without your mom) and let them know what happened. Months is *bad*. Do you have guidance counsellor teacher you trust to help you? | Parents have broad discretion in managing their children's medical care. Several religions dictate against a lot of modern medicine and as abhorrent as it is, the law respects their backwards beliefs. Same with moms who have crazy beliefs. I recommend that you take your fate into your own hands as much as you can. Call your doctor's office and ask them to send things to an email only you control, or to set up a web-portal account for you. Go to the office in person if you can and explain what's happening. Do you know how your insurance works? Is it through your mother's job? Do you have your own coverage? | 1 | 11,926 | 5.347368 |
vokeb3 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [New Jersey] My mom is possibly hiding medical information and prescriptions from me, Is this legal? I am a 17 year old female, turning 18 in a week. Earlier this year I went to get a checkup and after doing the standard things the nurse asked my mom to leave the room so he could ask me a few things. After asking me some questions, he asked if I had any. So I asked why is it that I have only had my period 2 times since I was 12 when I know it’s supposed to be monthly and I told him I was very concerned about it, I tried going to see a doctor for it sooner but my mom never allowed it and insisted I was fine. The nurse looked concerned and asked follow up questions and went back to talk to my mom, after some time, I was told I would come back in about a week to take some blood tests. The entire car ride home, my mom is just glaring at me and saying I shouldn’t be making a big deal out of it. A week later, I go in and have some blood taken so tests can be run. About two months pass and I do what the my doctor suggested, exercising more and avoiding fat/ sugary foods since it was possible that the problem could be my weight, still nothing. One day I’m looking through the mail and I see a letter for me. I couldn’t understand it much, but it was results of my blood test and then a small note that I couldn’t read before my mom toke it from my hands, angry at me for opening it. She told me to go to my room and I’m trying to remember what the note had said, definitely said prescription and had my doctors signature. Months have passed, and I’ve heard nothing from my mom about it. When I ask she denies that I ever got my test results. I know she’s very hesitant about medication and she has denied me getting anti depressants when I was prescribed them in the past. I want to know if she is keeping me from getting medication, is it illegal, and what can I do? | ieefyga | iedpgbz | 1,656,641,593 | 1,656,629,228 | 423 | 383 | Not a doctor but in a medical field. You probably had a number of tests done in for PCOS given the irregularities of your menstrual cycle and him asking you to do exercise and eat less sugars , assuming it flagged something of concern there's a few things he could have prescribed you. At your age, surgeries are not usually recommended for PCOS and doctors usually prescribe birth control pills to regulate your hormones and keep any existing cysts under control. Aside from that, PCOS can be associated with insulin resistance and is normally managed with a combination of drugs (Metformin, glucophage) exercise and a strictly low sugar diet. Important to note, if you suspect that your mom has prevented you from knowing this diagnosis, PCOS is usually lifelong and evidence of will still be present when you turn 18, even if your mom can legally prevent you from finding out about it now. Both PCOS and insulin resistance can also be dangerous if left unchecked for indefinitely. I do urge you to make a conscious effort to get in contact with you doctor and find out your diagnosis + prescription. You should also have a consult with a gynecologist to discuss your long term options regarding your cycle and any diagnosis you may have received. Parents often don't like to have thier kids on birth control medicine or medicine usually prescribed to the obese. However, your health should be your priority. Edit: Not to scare OP or anyone but PCOS can be scary if left unchecked you can develop cancers, sepsis and all sorts of other nasty stuff that can be really awful. It can also be managed really well, if and only if you know the facts about what you're working with. It's in OPs best interest to go to a gynecologist sooner rather than later. | When you turn 18, your parents no longer have the right to your medical records/information under HIPAA unless you sign a release allowing them this access. This is true even if you are covered by your parent’s insurance. If you are concerned, once you turn 18 you can contact your providers and indicate only you should have access to your medical records. But understand this may cause relationship issues with your mom. And you have the right to a copy of your medical records as an adult. I would contact your provider and tell them you’re coming by for a copy. If you have questions about what you have read, let them know. | 1 | 12,365 | 1.104439 |
vokeb3 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [New Jersey] My mom is possibly hiding medical information and prescriptions from me, Is this legal? I am a 17 year old female, turning 18 in a week. Earlier this year I went to get a checkup and after doing the standard things the nurse asked my mom to leave the room so he could ask me a few things. After asking me some questions, he asked if I had any. So I asked why is it that I have only had my period 2 times since I was 12 when I know it’s supposed to be monthly and I told him I was very concerned about it, I tried going to see a doctor for it sooner but my mom never allowed it and insisted I was fine. The nurse looked concerned and asked follow up questions and went back to talk to my mom, after some time, I was told I would come back in about a week to take some blood tests. The entire car ride home, my mom is just glaring at me and saying I shouldn’t be making a big deal out of it. A week later, I go in and have some blood taken so tests can be run. About two months pass and I do what the my doctor suggested, exercising more and avoiding fat/ sugary foods since it was possible that the problem could be my weight, still nothing. One day I’m looking through the mail and I see a letter for me. I couldn’t understand it much, but it was results of my blood test and then a small note that I couldn’t read before my mom toke it from my hands, angry at me for opening it. She told me to go to my room and I’m trying to remember what the note had said, definitely said prescription and had my doctors signature. Months have passed, and I’ve heard nothing from my mom about it. When I ask she denies that I ever got my test results. I know she’s very hesitant about medication and she has denied me getting anti depressants when I was prescribed them in the past. I want to know if she is keeping me from getting medication, is it illegal, and what can I do? | iedmb17 | ieefyga | 1,656,627,907 | 1,656,641,593 | 95 | 423 | Parents have broad discretion in managing their children's medical care. Several religions dictate against a lot of modern medicine and as abhorrent as it is, the law respects their backwards beliefs. Same with moms who have crazy beliefs. I recommend that you take your fate into your own hands as much as you can. Call your doctor's office and ask them to send things to an email only you control, or to set up a web-portal account for you. Go to the office in person if you can and explain what's happening. Do you know how your insurance works? Is it through your mother's job? Do you have your own coverage? | Not a doctor but in a medical field. You probably had a number of tests done in for PCOS given the irregularities of your menstrual cycle and him asking you to do exercise and eat less sugars , assuming it flagged something of concern there's a few things he could have prescribed you. At your age, surgeries are not usually recommended for PCOS and doctors usually prescribe birth control pills to regulate your hormones and keep any existing cysts under control. Aside from that, PCOS can be associated with insulin resistance and is normally managed with a combination of drugs (Metformin, glucophage) exercise and a strictly low sugar diet. Important to note, if you suspect that your mom has prevented you from knowing this diagnosis, PCOS is usually lifelong and evidence of will still be present when you turn 18, even if your mom can legally prevent you from finding out about it now. Both PCOS and insulin resistance can also be dangerous if left unchecked for indefinitely. I do urge you to make a conscious effort to get in contact with you doctor and find out your diagnosis + prescription. You should also have a consult with a gynecologist to discuss your long term options regarding your cycle and any diagnosis you may have received. Parents often don't like to have thier kids on birth control medicine or medicine usually prescribed to the obese. However, your health should be your priority. Edit: Not to scare OP or anyone but PCOS can be scary if left unchecked you can develop cancers, sepsis and all sorts of other nasty stuff that can be really awful. It can also be managed really well, if and only if you know the facts about what you're working with. It's in OPs best interest to go to a gynecologist sooner rather than later. | 0 | 13,686 | 4.452632 |
vokeb3 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [New Jersey] My mom is possibly hiding medical information and prescriptions from me, Is this legal? I am a 17 year old female, turning 18 in a week. Earlier this year I went to get a checkup and after doing the standard things the nurse asked my mom to leave the room so he could ask me a few things. After asking me some questions, he asked if I had any. So I asked why is it that I have only had my period 2 times since I was 12 when I know it’s supposed to be monthly and I told him I was very concerned about it, I tried going to see a doctor for it sooner but my mom never allowed it and insisted I was fine. The nurse looked concerned and asked follow up questions and went back to talk to my mom, after some time, I was told I would come back in about a week to take some blood tests. The entire car ride home, my mom is just glaring at me and saying I shouldn’t be making a big deal out of it. A week later, I go in and have some blood taken so tests can be run. About two months pass and I do what the my doctor suggested, exercising more and avoiding fat/ sugary foods since it was possible that the problem could be my weight, still nothing. One day I’m looking through the mail and I see a letter for me. I couldn’t understand it much, but it was results of my blood test and then a small note that I couldn’t read before my mom toke it from my hands, angry at me for opening it. She told me to go to my room and I’m trying to remember what the note had said, definitely said prescription and had my doctors signature. Months have passed, and I’ve heard nothing from my mom about it. When I ask she denies that I ever got my test results. I know she’s very hesitant about medication and she has denied me getting anti depressants when I was prescribed them in the past. I want to know if she is keeping me from getting medication, is it illegal, and what can I do? | iedmb17 | iedpgbz | 1,656,627,907 | 1,656,629,228 | 95 | 383 | Parents have broad discretion in managing their children's medical care. Several religions dictate against a lot of modern medicine and as abhorrent as it is, the law respects their backwards beliefs. Same with moms who have crazy beliefs. I recommend that you take your fate into your own hands as much as you can. Call your doctor's office and ask them to send things to an email only you control, or to set up a web-portal account for you. Go to the office in person if you can and explain what's happening. Do you know how your insurance works? Is it through your mother's job? Do you have your own coverage? | When you turn 18, your parents no longer have the right to your medical records/information under HIPAA unless you sign a release allowing them this access. This is true even if you are covered by your parent’s insurance. If you are concerned, once you turn 18 you can contact your providers and indicate only you should have access to your medical records. But understand this may cause relationship issues with your mom. And you have the right to a copy of your medical records as an adult. I would contact your provider and tell them you’re coming by for a copy. If you have questions about what you have read, let them know. | 0 | 1,321 | 4.031579 |
vokeb3 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [New Jersey] My mom is possibly hiding medical information and prescriptions from me, Is this legal? I am a 17 year old female, turning 18 in a week. Earlier this year I went to get a checkup and after doing the standard things the nurse asked my mom to leave the room so he could ask me a few things. After asking me some questions, he asked if I had any. So I asked why is it that I have only had my period 2 times since I was 12 when I know it’s supposed to be monthly and I told him I was very concerned about it, I tried going to see a doctor for it sooner but my mom never allowed it and insisted I was fine. The nurse looked concerned and asked follow up questions and went back to talk to my mom, after some time, I was told I would come back in about a week to take some blood tests. The entire car ride home, my mom is just glaring at me and saying I shouldn’t be making a big deal out of it. A week later, I go in and have some blood taken so tests can be run. About two months pass and I do what the my doctor suggested, exercising more and avoiding fat/ sugary foods since it was possible that the problem could be my weight, still nothing. One day I’m looking through the mail and I see a letter for me. I couldn’t understand it much, but it was results of my blood test and then a small note that I couldn’t read before my mom toke it from my hands, angry at me for opening it. She told me to go to my room and I’m trying to remember what the note had said, definitely said prescription and had my doctors signature. Months have passed, and I’ve heard nothing from my mom about it. When I ask she denies that I ever got my test results. I know she’s very hesitant about medication and she has denied me getting anti depressants when I was prescribed them in the past. I want to know if she is keeping me from getting medication, is it illegal, and what can I do? | iedmb17 | ieetmu3 | 1,656,627,907 | 1,656,648,711 | 95 | 99 | Parents have broad discretion in managing their children's medical care. Several religions dictate against a lot of modern medicine and as abhorrent as it is, the law respects their backwards beliefs. Same with moms who have crazy beliefs. I recommend that you take your fate into your own hands as much as you can. Call your doctor's office and ask them to send things to an email only you control, or to set up a web-portal account for you. Go to the office in person if you can and explain what's happening. Do you know how your insurance works? Is it through your mother's job? Do you have your own coverage? | Unfortunately, New Jersey doesn’t have strong privacy protection laws for minors related to healthcare. However, wait until next week, wish yourself a happy birthday, then call your providers office and ask them to rescind your mother’s access to your healthcare information. Then ask for a login to the patient portal where you will be able to access your entire history, labs, prescriptions, etc. After next week you’ll need to do these appointments on your own and clarify each time that nothing should be mailed to your home and nobody has access to your health records but you. Additionally, do the same at your local pharmacy. For what it’s worth, I’m across the border in Philly and my access to my kids records gets rescinded when they turn 15 and then they are owners of their health information, and can grant me access if they so choose, but CHOP treats them as full and exclusive owners of their healthcare data at that point. | 0 | 20,804 | 1.042105 |
xajszf | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | Can I be fired if my medical leave isn't approved on time for surgery? [Wyoming] I am scheduled for surgery as soon as next week, however the company that handles HR for my company hasn't finished processing my medical leave paperwork. I was informed I had to put the application in under 30 days to the surgery or it would be automatically denied. So I waited until the 22nd of August when I had my pre-op appointment so I would have a better idea for what restrictions I would be under. This turned out to be three weeks off before being cleared to work without restrictions. However, to get to the point, this company hasn't finished processing the application yet. Hopefully this will finally get processed on Monday, but there is a chance it wouldn't be approved by the time I both have my surgery and would be expected to work this weekend. My insurance has approved the surgery, and it is deemed medically necessary. However trying to talk to my manager about this she refuses to take me off the schedule, and just tells me to talk to the company. She won't take me off the schedule, and abscesses would be treated as unauthorized. However I am being told this might take another week or two to be approved. Is there anything I can do to protect my job while this application is being done? Isn't there supposed to be protection for medically necessary medical procedures? | inu4xh8 | inuyhmp | 1,662,802,360 | 1,662,820,370 | 16 | 17 | Good luck with your procedure! TL;DR is that your position is (very likely) federally protected whether or not HR approves the leave beforehand. Make sure you submit specific medical paperwork documenting your condition and need for recovery. The paperwork should be filled out by your health care provider, not by you. But -- relax about this and focus on your health. I am not a lawyer but I review HR policies for an employment law firm. FMLA usually applies to situations like yours: a medical condition that requires the employee to take a leave from work while they're incapable of performing the essential functions of the position (like... safely standing up and walking). ADA also kicks in and overlaps because of the same medical condition. Both of these federal protections apply immediately upon the medical condition starting/being diagnosed/the employer becoming aware that the employee can't perform their job. Medical paperwork (filled out by the health care provider, not the employee) is often required but can be handed in at the earliest convenience after the fact - after the leave begins. Think of it this way: an employee can't file for medical leave BEFORE a major car accident that will require 6 weeks of recovery. They didn't know it was going to happen. It's not reasonable to demand they come into work and fill out paperwork before they're allowed to go to the hospital. The employer needs the paperwork ASAP .... but that's as soon as POSSIBLE for the employee. And meanwhile the employee's position is already protected from the moment of injury. Where there is overlap of protections, the more advantageous for the employee applies. FMLA requires that the employee be offered the same OR EQUIVALENT position upon return. ADA requires that the employer preserve the EXACT position (can't hire a replacement). So, the employee must be offered the exact position, regardless of what FMLA calls for. Please bear in mind that additional laws may (and probably will) apply in your specific case. FMLA and ADA give the employee permission to take leave, but that leave is unpaid. There may be other benefits available, like short- and long-term disability, that can arrange payment for the employee during their recovery. | How long have you worked there and how big is your company? Are you full time? If not how many hours (aprox) have you worked the last year? FMLA probably applies but might not. It sounds like it does -- you wouldn't think they'd have you fill out paperwork if it didn't apply to you, but some companies have their routines. It doesn't kick in until you've worked there a year and you have to work a certain number of hours for that employer. The employer also has to have a minimum number of employees in/near your location. If FMLA applies and the leave is approved then they can't hold any absence related to that leave against you. If you haven't already, you might want to let your manager know that you have applied for the leave, the surgery has been scheduled, and that you won't be there that weekend as you aren't waiting for the "official" approval for the leave before you have the surgery. Possibly remind her that this is allowed within FMLA as leaves can be retroactive. I saw my surgeon on a Wed, scheduled surgery for the following Mon, and submitted the leave paperwork after the surgery was done; the surgeon's PA was filling out the paperwork in the preop area. | 0 | 18,010 | 1.0625 |
8fwt6x | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Psychiatrist is refusing to let me transfer services (RI) I moved to Rhode Island this past September, and have been seeing this guy since maybe mid-September. I didn't care for the dude the first visit, but I had a lot on my plate and it had been hard enough to find a doctor at all, so I figured it would be okay. From September to now, he's had me on Celexa, Prozac, Zoloft, and wrote me a 'script for Klonopin. There have been several changes in mg in between as well. He started me out on twice the maximum recommended dose for Prozac. And really none of them have worked, or they have worked but not for long. In my last visit with him, he asked how I was doing, and I told him--terrible. Suicidal nearly all the time. He scoffed and said "At some point you're going to have to realize the medicine can only do so much and you have to do the rest yourself." This might be a perfectly acceptable response in some situations, but it felt at the time like he was handing me a death sentence because I cannot fix a chemical imbalance in my brain by myself. I have been working for years on my various mental illnesses with noticeable results, which he would know if he had ever bothered to ask in the collective forty-five minutes we've been together in his office since September. I asked him what he suggested; I asked what am I supposed to do when I am anxious for three days straight with no inciting incident, how I am supposed to deal with that and he literally threw his hands up in the air and said "You're not!" I went into panic mode for a little while after that meeting, thinking if this is a physiological problem and nothing more can be done, I basically have a terminal mental illness because I struggle so so hard not to kill myself on a way-too-regular basis. I do everything I can to ensure my safety by letting people know when i feel this way, surrendering medications to my bf, extreme (but necessary) things like that. If that isn't 'doing the rest myself,' I don't know what is. I called another office, but they are in the same system. A system that more or less has the monopoly on psychiatric care in RI, and they have a policy that my current doctor and I must come to a mutual agreement to terminate services and transfer to someone else. I find this policy ridiculous, but I emailed him right away and told him I wanted to transfer, and why. He gave me a not-apology and said he wanted to continue to work with me. I am uncomfortable being seen by this man. I was uncomfortable prior to the last visit. That was just the last straw. So I reiterated that I still wanted to transfer. And he responded that he still wanted to talk about options. (He also mimicked my sentence structure, which may or may not have been purposeful.) I am not giving this dude any more of my time. I do not wish to pay to see him again. He is overbooked until July, yet is still accepting new patients, which results in two minute office visits, sometimes not even that. I just want free of this fool, and I don't know what my next step could even be. I am open to non-legal courses of action as well (not illegal, but ones that do not involve legal action, haha) and anything anyone can suggest will be so appreciated. TL;DR My psychiatrist is holding me medically hostage and won't allow me to transfer services after he basically gave me the ol' "have you tried not being depressed?" bit. | dy76lfn | dy75of4 | 1,525,065,853 | 1,525,064,289 | 253 | 29 | >... Celexa, Prozac, Zoloft ... twice the maximum recommended dose for Prozac I assume he prescribed these meds sequentially, as opposed to concurrently \(all at the same time\)\-\-is that correct? The reason I ask is that too much of an SSRI \(selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor\) class medicine can cause serotonin syndrome which can be serious. What dosage of Prozac did he prescribe? >A system that more or less has the monopoly on psychiatric care in RI ... Do you mean a big healthcare organization or your insurance company \(if you have insurance\) refers only to one psychiatric group? \( or both?\) Your concern and frustration sound completely warranted to me. There are several red flags\-\-signs of incompetent medical care: 1\) Not taking a thorough history. Did he request records from your previous mental health providers or talk with them by phone? If not, that's another sign of sloppy practice. Here's a case where not asking standard questions every psychologist or psychiatrist learns during grad school or residency had tragic consequences: “Killer Nanny” Sought Psychological Help Just Days Before Murdering Two Children. What Went Wrong? 2\) >he asked how I was doing, and I told him\-\-terrible. Suicidal nearly all the time. He scoffed and said "At some point you're going to have to realize the medicine can only do so much and you have to do the rest yourself." Not only was his response uncaring \(to say the least\) it sounds like he has not adequately assessed your suicide risk and worked with you to develop a safety plan, which, by the way, would usually involve communicating \(with your permission\) with your boyfriend and others who love you so that everyone is on the same page. 3\) You have told him twice you are not comfortable seeing him, in an email and in person, and he continues to refuse and his organization supports him. Unless there are things you're not telling us, e.g., you have borderline personality disorder and tend to be very manipulative with doctors, then this policy sounds unethical. 4\) > He is overbooked until July, yet is still accepting new patients, which results in two minute office visits, sometimes not even that. At the least that's poor practice management, and likely unethical because he ends up not seeing patients with serious mental disorders for long enough or often enough. Literally two minutes or you exaggerating a bit? If he's seeing you for 2 or 5 or 7 minutes and billing an insurance company for a 15\-minute appointment then he is committing insurance fraud. If it were me, I would file a complaint with his licensing board. There are pros and cons with that approach. An advantage is that it will get his attention. A downside is that it takes a long time\-\-several months in some cases. More info for Rhode Island is here: http://health.ri.gov/complaints/ You could also ask for advice from a local \(county\) medical society, which might have a dispute resolution program or something similar. On the other hand, physicians tend to protect each other unless it's something egregious and easy to prove. \(That's my impression, others might have different perspectives.\) | OMG! What a horrible position you are in! In most cities there are mental health clinics that work on a sliding scale according to your income. Can you get an appointment in one of those? I don't know the law in your State or if a lawyer can fix this in Court, but I'd bet my shoes a sympathetic Judge would fix it. This is incredible! I'm so sorry you are being put through this. Good luck! | 1 | 1,564 | 8.724138 |
8fwt6x | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Psychiatrist is refusing to let me transfer services (RI) I moved to Rhode Island this past September, and have been seeing this guy since maybe mid-September. I didn't care for the dude the first visit, but I had a lot on my plate and it had been hard enough to find a doctor at all, so I figured it would be okay. From September to now, he's had me on Celexa, Prozac, Zoloft, and wrote me a 'script for Klonopin. There have been several changes in mg in between as well. He started me out on twice the maximum recommended dose for Prozac. And really none of them have worked, or they have worked but not for long. In my last visit with him, he asked how I was doing, and I told him--terrible. Suicidal nearly all the time. He scoffed and said "At some point you're going to have to realize the medicine can only do so much and you have to do the rest yourself." This might be a perfectly acceptable response in some situations, but it felt at the time like he was handing me a death sentence because I cannot fix a chemical imbalance in my brain by myself. I have been working for years on my various mental illnesses with noticeable results, which he would know if he had ever bothered to ask in the collective forty-five minutes we've been together in his office since September. I asked him what he suggested; I asked what am I supposed to do when I am anxious for three days straight with no inciting incident, how I am supposed to deal with that and he literally threw his hands up in the air and said "You're not!" I went into panic mode for a little while after that meeting, thinking if this is a physiological problem and nothing more can be done, I basically have a terminal mental illness because I struggle so so hard not to kill myself on a way-too-regular basis. I do everything I can to ensure my safety by letting people know when i feel this way, surrendering medications to my bf, extreme (but necessary) things like that. If that isn't 'doing the rest myself,' I don't know what is. I called another office, but they are in the same system. A system that more or less has the monopoly on psychiatric care in RI, and they have a policy that my current doctor and I must come to a mutual agreement to terminate services and transfer to someone else. I find this policy ridiculous, but I emailed him right away and told him I wanted to transfer, and why. He gave me a not-apology and said he wanted to continue to work with me. I am uncomfortable being seen by this man. I was uncomfortable prior to the last visit. That was just the last straw. So I reiterated that I still wanted to transfer. And he responded that he still wanted to talk about options. (He also mimicked my sentence structure, which may or may not have been purposeful.) I am not giving this dude any more of my time. I do not wish to pay to see him again. He is overbooked until July, yet is still accepting new patients, which results in two minute office visits, sometimes not even that. I just want free of this fool, and I don't know what my next step could even be. I am open to non-legal courses of action as well (not illegal, but ones that do not involve legal action, haha) and anything anyone can suggest will be so appreciated. TL;DR My psychiatrist is holding me medically hostage and won't allow me to transfer services after he basically gave me the ol' "have you tried not being depressed?" bit. | dy75of4 | dy7gmx5 | 1,525,064,289 | 1,525,088,083 | 29 | 146 | OMG! What a horrible position you are in! In most cities there are mental health clinics that work on a sliding scale according to your income. Can you get an appointment in one of those? I don't know the law in your State or if a lawyer can fix this in Court, but I'd bet my shoes a sympathetic Judge would fix it. This is incredible! I'm so sorry you are being put through this. Good luck! | This is not legal advice at all, and I know you said your car is messed up, but is there a possibility of you going to a psych outside of rhode island that your insurance still covers? | 0 | 23,794 | 5.034483 |
8fwt6x | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Psychiatrist is refusing to let me transfer services (RI) I moved to Rhode Island this past September, and have been seeing this guy since maybe mid-September. I didn't care for the dude the first visit, but I had a lot on my plate and it had been hard enough to find a doctor at all, so I figured it would be okay. From September to now, he's had me on Celexa, Prozac, Zoloft, and wrote me a 'script for Klonopin. There have been several changes in mg in between as well. He started me out on twice the maximum recommended dose for Prozac. And really none of them have worked, or they have worked but not for long. In my last visit with him, he asked how I was doing, and I told him--terrible. Suicidal nearly all the time. He scoffed and said "At some point you're going to have to realize the medicine can only do so much and you have to do the rest yourself." This might be a perfectly acceptable response in some situations, but it felt at the time like he was handing me a death sentence because I cannot fix a chemical imbalance in my brain by myself. I have been working for years on my various mental illnesses with noticeable results, which he would know if he had ever bothered to ask in the collective forty-five minutes we've been together in his office since September. I asked him what he suggested; I asked what am I supposed to do when I am anxious for three days straight with no inciting incident, how I am supposed to deal with that and he literally threw his hands up in the air and said "You're not!" I went into panic mode for a little while after that meeting, thinking if this is a physiological problem and nothing more can be done, I basically have a terminal mental illness because I struggle so so hard not to kill myself on a way-too-regular basis. I do everything I can to ensure my safety by letting people know when i feel this way, surrendering medications to my bf, extreme (but necessary) things like that. If that isn't 'doing the rest myself,' I don't know what is. I called another office, but they are in the same system. A system that more or less has the monopoly on psychiatric care in RI, and they have a policy that my current doctor and I must come to a mutual agreement to terminate services and transfer to someone else. I find this policy ridiculous, but I emailed him right away and told him I wanted to transfer, and why. He gave me a not-apology and said he wanted to continue to work with me. I am uncomfortable being seen by this man. I was uncomfortable prior to the last visit. That was just the last straw. So I reiterated that I still wanted to transfer. And he responded that he still wanted to talk about options. (He also mimicked my sentence structure, which may or may not have been purposeful.) I am not giving this dude any more of my time. I do not wish to pay to see him again. He is overbooked until July, yet is still accepting new patients, which results in two minute office visits, sometimes not even that. I just want free of this fool, and I don't know what my next step could even be. I am open to non-legal courses of action as well (not illegal, but ones that do not involve legal action, haha) and anything anyone can suggest will be so appreciated. TL;DR My psychiatrist is holding me medically hostage and won't allow me to transfer services after he basically gave me the ol' "have you tried not being depressed?" bit. | dy7uhhn | dy87qor | 1,525,104,034 | 1,525,116,220 | 7 | 16 | Not a lawyer, but someone who has struggled with lifelong mental illness. I totally empathize with what you're going through. I just severed ties with my psychiatrist a few months ago due to them repeatedly canceling my appointments at the last minute (or leaving me waiting 90 minutes past my appointment time) and then charging me $100 missed appointment fees. Then, when I told the office I was ending my care with them, they sent me a letter firing me from their practice, effectively barring me from seeing any of their therapists which sucks because they're the biggest mental health conglomerate in my area AND the practice my other physicians always want to refer to first. I would suggest doing the following things which helped me: 1. Find a psychiatrist in private practice who accepts your health insurance if possible. Depending on your insurance, they likely have a list on their website of psychiatrists they cover. 2. File a complaint against your current psychiatrist with your health insurance company about the multiple visits where you've been shorted on time. If you can write up dates and times of your appointment, that would be helpful if your insurance decides to investigate them. 3. File a complaint with the state licensing board. If he's treating other patients with the same lack of focus he's giving to you, he may already have other complaints filed against him. Good luck! I know this is a lot to take on, but I can tell you're really committed to the process. I hope things improve for you, OP. | >He is overbooked until July, yet is still accepting new patients, which results in two minute office visits, sometimes not even that. This is very suspicious. After you escape and are set up with a new doctor, I would make sure both your insurance company and his licensing board know about this. | 0 | 12,186 | 2.285714 |
8fwt6x | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Psychiatrist is refusing to let me transfer services (RI) I moved to Rhode Island this past September, and have been seeing this guy since maybe mid-September. I didn't care for the dude the first visit, but I had a lot on my plate and it had been hard enough to find a doctor at all, so I figured it would be okay. From September to now, he's had me on Celexa, Prozac, Zoloft, and wrote me a 'script for Klonopin. There have been several changes in mg in between as well. He started me out on twice the maximum recommended dose for Prozac. And really none of them have worked, or they have worked but not for long. In my last visit with him, he asked how I was doing, and I told him--terrible. Suicidal nearly all the time. He scoffed and said "At some point you're going to have to realize the medicine can only do so much and you have to do the rest yourself." This might be a perfectly acceptable response in some situations, but it felt at the time like he was handing me a death sentence because I cannot fix a chemical imbalance in my brain by myself. I have been working for years on my various mental illnesses with noticeable results, which he would know if he had ever bothered to ask in the collective forty-five minutes we've been together in his office since September. I asked him what he suggested; I asked what am I supposed to do when I am anxious for three days straight with no inciting incident, how I am supposed to deal with that and he literally threw his hands up in the air and said "You're not!" I went into panic mode for a little while after that meeting, thinking if this is a physiological problem and nothing more can be done, I basically have a terminal mental illness because I struggle so so hard not to kill myself on a way-too-regular basis. I do everything I can to ensure my safety by letting people know when i feel this way, surrendering medications to my bf, extreme (but necessary) things like that. If that isn't 'doing the rest myself,' I don't know what is. I called another office, but they are in the same system. A system that more or less has the monopoly on psychiatric care in RI, and they have a policy that my current doctor and I must come to a mutual agreement to terminate services and transfer to someone else. I find this policy ridiculous, but I emailed him right away and told him I wanted to transfer, and why. He gave me a not-apology and said he wanted to continue to work with me. I am uncomfortable being seen by this man. I was uncomfortable prior to the last visit. That was just the last straw. So I reiterated that I still wanted to transfer. And he responded that he still wanted to talk about options. (He also mimicked my sentence structure, which may or may not have been purposeful.) I am not giving this dude any more of my time. I do not wish to pay to see him again. He is overbooked until July, yet is still accepting new patients, which results in two minute office visits, sometimes not even that. I just want free of this fool, and I don't know what my next step could even be. I am open to non-legal courses of action as well (not illegal, but ones that do not involve legal action, haha) and anything anyone can suggest will be so appreciated. TL;DR My psychiatrist is holding me medically hostage and won't allow me to transfer services after he basically gave me the ol' "have you tried not being depressed?" bit. | dy87qor | dy7tplp | 1,525,116,220 | 1,525,103,308 | 16 | 4 | >He is overbooked until July, yet is still accepting new patients, which results in two minute office visits, sometimes not even that. This is very suspicious. After you escape and are set up with a new doctor, I would make sure both your insurance company and his licensing board know about this. | I admit that I straight up ghost therapists I don’t like. I just stop going and find someone else. It may not be the best advice, and it means you have to start completely over but if I don’t feel like I’m getting the help I need, I figure it can’t hurt to start again. And I feel that I don’t owe my therapist anything. They are there to provide a service, and I am free to shop around just like I would with any service provider. Good luck! I hope this works out for you! | 1 | 12,912 | 4 |
8fwt6x | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Psychiatrist is refusing to let me transfer services (RI) I moved to Rhode Island this past September, and have been seeing this guy since maybe mid-September. I didn't care for the dude the first visit, but I had a lot on my plate and it had been hard enough to find a doctor at all, so I figured it would be okay. From September to now, he's had me on Celexa, Prozac, Zoloft, and wrote me a 'script for Klonopin. There have been several changes in mg in between as well. He started me out on twice the maximum recommended dose for Prozac. And really none of them have worked, or they have worked but not for long. In my last visit with him, he asked how I was doing, and I told him--terrible. Suicidal nearly all the time. He scoffed and said "At some point you're going to have to realize the medicine can only do so much and you have to do the rest yourself." This might be a perfectly acceptable response in some situations, but it felt at the time like he was handing me a death sentence because I cannot fix a chemical imbalance in my brain by myself. I have been working for years on my various mental illnesses with noticeable results, which he would know if he had ever bothered to ask in the collective forty-five minutes we've been together in his office since September. I asked him what he suggested; I asked what am I supposed to do when I am anxious for three days straight with no inciting incident, how I am supposed to deal with that and he literally threw his hands up in the air and said "You're not!" I went into panic mode for a little while after that meeting, thinking if this is a physiological problem and nothing more can be done, I basically have a terminal mental illness because I struggle so so hard not to kill myself on a way-too-regular basis. I do everything I can to ensure my safety by letting people know when i feel this way, surrendering medications to my bf, extreme (but necessary) things like that. If that isn't 'doing the rest myself,' I don't know what is. I called another office, but they are in the same system. A system that more or less has the monopoly on psychiatric care in RI, and they have a policy that my current doctor and I must come to a mutual agreement to terminate services and transfer to someone else. I find this policy ridiculous, but I emailed him right away and told him I wanted to transfer, and why. He gave me a not-apology and said he wanted to continue to work with me. I am uncomfortable being seen by this man. I was uncomfortable prior to the last visit. That was just the last straw. So I reiterated that I still wanted to transfer. And he responded that he still wanted to talk about options. (He also mimicked my sentence structure, which may or may not have been purposeful.) I am not giving this dude any more of my time. I do not wish to pay to see him again. He is overbooked until July, yet is still accepting new patients, which results in two minute office visits, sometimes not even that. I just want free of this fool, and I don't know what my next step could even be. I am open to non-legal courses of action as well (not illegal, but ones that do not involve legal action, haha) and anything anyone can suggest will be so appreciated. TL;DR My psychiatrist is holding me medically hostage and won't allow me to transfer services after he basically gave me the ol' "have you tried not being depressed?" bit. | dy7uhhn | dy7tplp | 1,525,104,034 | 1,525,103,308 | 7 | 4 | Not a lawyer, but someone who has struggled with lifelong mental illness. I totally empathize with what you're going through. I just severed ties with my psychiatrist a few months ago due to them repeatedly canceling my appointments at the last minute (or leaving me waiting 90 minutes past my appointment time) and then charging me $100 missed appointment fees. Then, when I told the office I was ending my care with them, they sent me a letter firing me from their practice, effectively barring me from seeing any of their therapists which sucks because they're the biggest mental health conglomerate in my area AND the practice my other physicians always want to refer to first. I would suggest doing the following things which helped me: 1. Find a psychiatrist in private practice who accepts your health insurance if possible. Depending on your insurance, they likely have a list on their website of psychiatrists they cover. 2. File a complaint against your current psychiatrist with your health insurance company about the multiple visits where you've been shorted on time. If you can write up dates and times of your appointment, that would be helpful if your insurance decides to investigate them. 3. File a complaint with the state licensing board. If he's treating other patients with the same lack of focus he's giving to you, he may already have other complaints filed against him. Good luck! I know this is a lot to take on, but I can tell you're really committed to the process. I hope things improve for you, OP. | I admit that I straight up ghost therapists I don’t like. I just stop going and find someone else. It may not be the best advice, and it means you have to start completely over but if I don’t feel like I’m getting the help I need, I figure it can’t hurt to start again. And I feel that I don’t owe my therapist anything. They are there to provide a service, and I am free to shop around just like I would with any service provider. Good luck! I hope this works out for you! | 1 | 726 | 1.75 |
yim9vx | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Ex is cutting child support payments in half because he's already Voluntarily Terminating his Rights... Basically the title. Ex decided he was going to voluntarily terminate his rights. Nothing has been filed. He's just messaged and informed me of this recently. I'm honestly thrilled however I was hoping that he'd continue to pay the full amount of child support ordered while he's still legally my child's other parent. He's stating that sending something is better than sending nothing at all. He doesn't take his visits. He doesn't call. The one area he was contributing to was resources. And now he's refusing to pay the court ordered amount. What can I do here? ​ Edit: I'm in KS. | iujcgh4 | iujcbb5 | 1,667,245,034 | 1,667,244,977 | 529 | 212 | >Ex decided he was going to voluntarily terminate his rights. That's not how that works. >Nothing has been filed. Do you have a current order? If so you need to talk to your attorney or the support enforcement agency about enforcing that order. | That's typically not how this works. Parental rights are terminated (in Kansas) via: 1. Adoption 2. The state seeking to terminate when parents unable to care for child 3. Parents relinquishing child to the state/agency All three have to go through court. He can't give up his rights while you retain yours. So, no, this can't happen. He'll remain the child's parent, and will be required to continue to pay full support. He can choose to continue not to exercise his rights to visitation. Sorry, pops. | 1 | 57 | 2.495283 |
yim9vx | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Ex is cutting child support payments in half because he's already Voluntarily Terminating his Rights... Basically the title. Ex decided he was going to voluntarily terminate his rights. Nothing has been filed. He's just messaged and informed me of this recently. I'm honestly thrilled however I was hoping that he'd continue to pay the full amount of child support ordered while he's still legally my child's other parent. He's stating that sending something is better than sending nothing at all. He doesn't take his visits. He doesn't call. The one area he was contributing to was resources. And now he's refusing to pay the court ordered amount. What can I do here? ​ Edit: I'm in KS. | iujcls3 | iujk0dx | 1,667,245,094 | 1,667,248,079 | 209 | 459 | Call child support enforcement for your state. It will be part of a state agency, more than likely. Ask them for help. They should be able to assist you in enforcing the court order support, even if garnishment is needed. He can give up seeing the child, but he doesn't get to walk on the costs of raising the child unless there is another adult who willingly wants to adopt the child. | >And now he's refusing to pay the court ordered amount. What can I do here? Tell the court he's refusing to follow their order. They tend to take it personally. | 0 | 2,985 | 2.196172 |
yim9vx | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Ex is cutting child support payments in half because he's already Voluntarily Terminating his Rights... Basically the title. Ex decided he was going to voluntarily terminate his rights. Nothing has been filed. He's just messaged and informed me of this recently. I'm honestly thrilled however I was hoping that he'd continue to pay the full amount of child support ordered while he's still legally my child's other parent. He's stating that sending something is better than sending nothing at all. He doesn't take his visits. He doesn't call. The one area he was contributing to was resources. And now he's refusing to pay the court ordered amount. What can I do here? ​ Edit: I'm in KS. | iujk0dx | iujcbb5 | 1,667,248,079 | 1,667,244,977 | 459 | 212 | >And now he's refusing to pay the court ordered amount. What can I do here? Tell the court he's refusing to follow their order. They tend to take it personally. | That's typically not how this works. Parental rights are terminated (in Kansas) via: 1. Adoption 2. The state seeking to terminate when parents unable to care for child 3. Parents relinquishing child to the state/agency All three have to go through court. He can't give up his rights while you retain yours. So, no, this can't happen. He'll remain the child's parent, and will be required to continue to pay full support. He can choose to continue not to exercise his rights to visitation. Sorry, pops. | 1 | 3,102 | 2.165094 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g677bw9 | g67awq5 | 1,600,768,262 | 1,600,772,291 | 51 | 1,992 | If there is an autopsy there will be a tox report. Ultimately, does it matter? | You can inform police of what you know. They decide what to do with that info. State law determines when autopsies are done. The legal next of kin can pay for a private autopsy if the state doesn’t perform one. That would probably be parents if he wasn’t married. Sorry to hear about your cousin. | 0 | 4,029 | 39.058824 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g67awq5 | g67alhw | 1,600,772,291 | 1,600,771,962 | 1,992 | 37 | You can inform police of what you know. They decide what to do with that info. State law determines when autopsies are done. The legal next of kin can pay for a private autopsy if the state doesn’t perform one. That would probably be parents if he wasn’t married. Sorry to hear about your cousin. | You can talk to the police and they might investigate further but if there’s any doubt as to the actual death there will be an autopsy and they’ll uncover metabolites in the tox screen. If they don’t do an autopsy and accept the death of natural causes then you really don’t have standing to ask for an autopsy/tox screen. I can’t imagine why they wouldn’t do an autopsy. In California an autopsy is proscribed for suspected accidental poisoning (which this could be if you’re right) or otherwise if the death is unusual or there’s reason to believe it’s not a natural death. | 1 | 329 | 53.837838 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g67m1kp | g67kbqx | 1,600,780,979 | 1,600,779,886 | 1,709 | 187 | Death investigator here. A sudden death of a young person with a known history of drug use should necessitate an autopsy, part of which in this situation is a blood toxicology. Just make sure the police know about the drug history. That said, The coroner is the agency which will perform the toxicology | Not a lawyer If your aunt left and the death was reported as "unattended" ( no one else was there at the time ) there is usually a mandatory autopsy. You could ask the coroner or medical examiner if there will be a drug screen as part of the autopsy. | 1 | 1,093 | 9.139037 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g67m1kp | g677bw9 | 1,600,780,979 | 1,600,768,262 | 1,709 | 51 | Death investigator here. A sudden death of a young person with a known history of drug use should necessitate an autopsy, part of which in this situation is a blood toxicology. Just make sure the police know about the drug history. That said, The coroner is the agency which will perform the toxicology | If there is an autopsy there will be a tox report. Ultimately, does it matter? | 1 | 12,717 | 33.509804 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g67alhw | g67m1kp | 1,600,771,962 | 1,600,780,979 | 37 | 1,709 | You can talk to the police and they might investigate further but if there’s any doubt as to the actual death there will be an autopsy and they’ll uncover metabolites in the tox screen. If they don’t do an autopsy and accept the death of natural causes then you really don’t have standing to ask for an autopsy/tox screen. I can’t imagine why they wouldn’t do an autopsy. In California an autopsy is proscribed for suspected accidental poisoning (which this could be if you’re right) or otherwise if the death is unusual or there’s reason to believe it’s not a natural death. | Death investigator here. A sudden death of a young person with a known history of drug use should necessitate an autopsy, part of which in this situation is a blood toxicology. Just make sure the police know about the drug history. That said, The coroner is the agency which will perform the toxicology | 0 | 9,017 | 46.189189 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g67kbqx | g677bw9 | 1,600,779,886 | 1,600,768,262 | 187 | 51 | Not a lawyer If your aunt left and the death was reported as "unattended" ( no one else was there at the time ) there is usually a mandatory autopsy. You could ask the coroner or medical examiner if there will be a drug screen as part of the autopsy. | If there is an autopsy there will be a tox report. Ultimately, does it matter? | 1 | 11,624 | 3.666667 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g67kbqx | g67alhw | 1,600,779,886 | 1,600,771,962 | 187 | 37 | Not a lawyer If your aunt left and the death was reported as "unattended" ( no one else was there at the time ) there is usually a mandatory autopsy. You could ask the coroner or medical examiner if there will be a drug screen as part of the autopsy. | You can talk to the police and they might investigate further but if there’s any doubt as to the actual death there will be an autopsy and they’ll uncover metabolites in the tox screen. If they don’t do an autopsy and accept the death of natural causes then you really don’t have standing to ask for an autopsy/tox screen. I can’t imagine why they wouldn’t do an autopsy. In California an autopsy is proscribed for suspected accidental poisoning (which this could be if you’re right) or otherwise if the death is unusual or there’s reason to believe it’s not a natural death. | 1 | 7,924 | 5.054054 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g677bw9 | g67ubob | 1,600,768,262 | 1,600,785,672 | 51 | 127 | If there is an autopsy there will be a tox report. Ultimately, does it matter? | Hey, first off, I'm so sorry about your loss. I'm not a doctor or a police office, but I did work for social services in Los Angeles and am pretty sure I've had enough experiences with overdoses to speak up. Your cousin is young and probably didn't have any other massive health problems (cancer, heart disease, etc.). More likely than not, based off of what you said, they're at least going to do a toxicology report. In that sense, your Aunt can't really throw away any of the evidence because his body should be more than enough to show that he died of a meth overdose. That being said, in all the overdoses I've seen there is almost no chance that a person joining in on the drugtaking will get in trouble. No matter what, California DAs aren't in the business of turning one tragedy into two. While you might get some answers, I dont think there is much that can happen in this situation. | 0 | 17,410 | 2.490196 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g67ubob | g67alhw | 1,600,785,672 | 1,600,771,962 | 127 | 37 | Hey, first off, I'm so sorry about your loss. I'm not a doctor or a police office, but I did work for social services in Los Angeles and am pretty sure I've had enough experiences with overdoses to speak up. Your cousin is young and probably didn't have any other massive health problems (cancer, heart disease, etc.). More likely than not, based off of what you said, they're at least going to do a toxicology report. In that sense, your Aunt can't really throw away any of the evidence because his body should be more than enough to show that he died of a meth overdose. That being said, in all the overdoses I've seen there is almost no chance that a person joining in on the drugtaking will get in trouble. No matter what, California DAs aren't in the business of turning one tragedy into two. While you might get some answers, I dont think there is much that can happen in this situation. | You can talk to the police and they might investigate further but if there’s any doubt as to the actual death there will be an autopsy and they’ll uncover metabolites in the tox screen. If they don’t do an autopsy and accept the death of natural causes then you really don’t have standing to ask for an autopsy/tox screen. I can’t imagine why they wouldn’t do an autopsy. In California an autopsy is proscribed for suspected accidental poisoning (which this could be if you’re right) or otherwise if the death is unusual or there’s reason to believe it’s not a natural death. | 1 | 13,710 | 3.432432 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g686wnt | g677bw9 | 1,600,791,941 | 1,600,768,262 | 55 | 51 | Why do you want a toxicology report? What legal consequence are you seeking to have enforced if the cause of death is overdose versus something else? Your insistence that genetic vulnerabilities for you and your cousins seems ingenuous and only used as a justification for whatever your true motives are. Do you want your aunt to be held responsible for her son's death? There's nothing to be ashamed about if that is the case. Knowing what outcome you are seeking is going to help any legal advice here achieve your goals instead of answering your questions that seem misplaced. | If there is an autopsy there will be a tox report. Ultimately, does it matter? | 1 | 23,679 | 1.078431 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g67alhw | g686wnt | 1,600,771,962 | 1,600,791,941 | 37 | 55 | You can talk to the police and they might investigate further but if there’s any doubt as to the actual death there will be an autopsy and they’ll uncover metabolites in the tox screen. If they don’t do an autopsy and accept the death of natural causes then you really don’t have standing to ask for an autopsy/tox screen. I can’t imagine why they wouldn’t do an autopsy. In California an autopsy is proscribed for suspected accidental poisoning (which this could be if you’re right) or otherwise if the death is unusual or there’s reason to believe it’s not a natural death. | Why do you want a toxicology report? What legal consequence are you seeking to have enforced if the cause of death is overdose versus something else? Your insistence that genetic vulnerabilities for you and your cousins seems ingenuous and only used as a justification for whatever your true motives are. Do you want your aunt to be held responsible for her son's death? There's nothing to be ashamed about if that is the case. Knowing what outcome you are seeking is going to help any legal advice here achieve your goals instead of answering your questions that seem misplaced. | 0 | 19,979 | 1.486486 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g686wnt | g6843kb | 1,600,791,941 | 1,600,790,557 | 55 | 25 | Why do you want a toxicology report? What legal consequence are you seeking to have enforced if the cause of death is overdose versus something else? Your insistence that genetic vulnerabilities for you and your cousins seems ingenuous and only used as a justification for whatever your true motives are. Do you want your aunt to be held responsible for her son's death? There's nothing to be ashamed about if that is the case. Knowing what outcome you are seeking is going to help any legal advice here achieve your goals instead of answering your questions that seem misplaced. | I don't really see the point unless you actually have evidence that your aunt sells meth. In which case you should give them that information instead of pushing for a toxicology report. I don't think that a toxicology report of a dead person, alone, is going to give them enough to do anything to your aunt. If she did get rid of the drugs, they aren't going to find evidence of his OD or of her sale, so the investigation becomes DoA; even if there are drugs in her house, can anyone prove they were hers or that she gave them to your cousin? If not then the tox report is useless in that regard, as well. In theory he could have bought them off the street and did this himself; they'd need evidence of the contrary before they presume otherwise. And if you have evidence of all that already, you may as well give that to them, because it's worth more than the tox report. | 1 | 1,384 | 2.2 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g6814e4 | g686wnt | 1,600,789,114 | 1,600,791,941 | 22 | 55 | He’ll almost certainly get a tox screen, whether or not your aunt “races” to bury him. | Why do you want a toxicology report? What legal consequence are you seeking to have enforced if the cause of death is overdose versus something else? Your insistence that genetic vulnerabilities for you and your cousins seems ingenuous and only used as a justification for whatever your true motives are. Do you want your aunt to be held responsible for her son's death? There's nothing to be ashamed about if that is the case. Knowing what outcome you are seeking is going to help any legal advice here achieve your goals instead of answering your questions that seem misplaced. | 0 | 2,827 | 2.5 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g686wnt | g67xtw8 | 1,600,791,941 | 1,600,787,471 | 55 | 4 | Why do you want a toxicology report? What legal consequence are you seeking to have enforced if the cause of death is overdose versus something else? Your insistence that genetic vulnerabilities for you and your cousins seems ingenuous and only used as a justification for whatever your true motives are. Do you want your aunt to be held responsible for her son's death? There's nothing to be ashamed about if that is the case. Knowing what outcome you are seeking is going to help any legal advice here achieve your goals instead of answering your questions that seem misplaced. | Also, heart attacks cause tissue ischemia leading to tissue necrosis. You can definitely tell newer versus older damage caused by a heart attack. | 1 | 4,470 | 13.75 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g6843kb | g6814e4 | 1,600,790,557 | 1,600,789,114 | 25 | 22 | I don't really see the point unless you actually have evidence that your aunt sells meth. In which case you should give them that information instead of pushing for a toxicology report. I don't think that a toxicology report of a dead person, alone, is going to give them enough to do anything to your aunt. If she did get rid of the drugs, they aren't going to find evidence of his OD or of her sale, so the investigation becomes DoA; even if there are drugs in her house, can anyone prove they were hers or that she gave them to your cousin? If not then the tox report is useless in that regard, as well. In theory he could have bought them off the street and did this himself; they'd need evidence of the contrary before they presume otherwise. And if you have evidence of all that already, you may as well give that to them, because it's worth more than the tox report. | He’ll almost certainly get a tox screen, whether or not your aunt “races” to bury him. | 1 | 1,443 | 1.136364 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g67xtw8 | g6843kb | 1,600,787,471 | 1,600,790,557 | 4 | 25 | Also, heart attacks cause tissue ischemia leading to tissue necrosis. You can definitely tell newer versus older damage caused by a heart attack. | I don't really see the point unless you actually have evidence that your aunt sells meth. In which case you should give them that information instead of pushing for a toxicology report. I don't think that a toxicology report of a dead person, alone, is going to give them enough to do anything to your aunt. If she did get rid of the drugs, they aren't going to find evidence of his OD or of her sale, so the investigation becomes DoA; even if there are drugs in her house, can anyone prove they were hers or that she gave them to your cousin? If not then the tox report is useless in that regard, as well. In theory he could have bought them off the street and did this himself; they'd need evidence of the contrary before they presume otherwise. And if you have evidence of all that already, you may as well give that to them, because it's worth more than the tox report. | 0 | 3,086 | 6.25 |
ixjxs2 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My cousin (an unmarried adult, 27) passed away and my drug addict aunt wants to bury evidence related to his death. Can I or his sister request the police to run a toxicology report? Hey all. We’re from California. My cousin died in Santa Clarita a few hours ago. My cousins and I strongly believe he passed from a drug overdose. But my aunt is the one that found him. My aunt is addicted to meth and so is my cousin. She is usually his supplier. My other cousins (his sisters) all had to run away from home to get away from their abusive mother and brother. My cousins and I want a toxicology report done. Are we within our rights to ask the police to do one or at least get the results? My aunt will try to bury it and is already telling everyone it is a heart issue. My cousins think this is bullshit because I’m the only one in our entire family with heart problems and not one of them had an issue. We all strongly believe he overdosed. Are toxicology on a 27 year old male common? If not can we request one? My aunt left the scene to supposedly “call for help” we’re pretty confident it was to get rid of the drugs and she came back and reported “found her son” to the police 2 hours from their home. My cousin and aunt had a terrible addiction. But I take my aunts sayings with a grain of salt. However if there is a chance there is an underlying condition I and his sisters feel like we have the right to know. My aunt is talking about an quick cremation. | g6814e4 | g67xtw8 | 1,600,789,114 | 1,600,787,471 | 22 | 4 | He’ll almost certainly get a tox screen, whether or not your aunt “races” to bury him. | Also, heart attacks cause tissue ischemia leading to tissue necrosis. You can definitely tell newer versus older damage caused by a heart attack. | 1 | 1,643 | 5.5 |
6ar3rm | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | I'm being sued for a car that got repoed 2yrs ago (IN/USA) So about two years ago my stable job of three years decided to lay everyone off and it made me unable to make my car payment and the car, a 2005 Ford Mustang GT with less than 25k miles on it, was repossessed and sold. I thought that was the end of it. Fast forward the present I've received a summons from the bank saying I owe them close to $5000 for what I had left on the loan. I know for a fact that they made up money when they sold the car as it's worth was well over that. To make matters worse I was out of state when my brother accepted the summons and I only have two days now to write out a reply and take it to the clerk's office. I only make $9/hour and I just had a baby so I can't really afford a default judgement on this case. I'm going to write the letter tonight does anyone have any advice for me? | dhgpvju | dhgpaax | 1,494,594,804 | 1,494,593,920 | 17 | 13 | When a car is repo'd it gets auctioned. The price it goes for is often far less than its actual value. Are you sure you "know" they made back the entire amount due on the loan? | > I know for a fact Do you really or are you just assuming? Demand the bank prove the debt, including what they got for a car when it was repossessed. If the sale of the car didn't make up what was owed to the bank they can go after you for the remainder. | 1 | 884 | 1.307692 |
5gktw2 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Wrongfully arrested at work for unpaid child support payments. I don't have a child. Was let go by employer as a result. Who do I sue? Alright I'm pissed as hell. Last week out of the blue cops came and told me that I'm under arrest for unpaid child support. I told them that I don't have a child and they said they don't care and they have to arrest me. I asked to see the arrest warrant but they pushed me to the wall and handcuffed me and took me. I work at a credit union. This happened in front of people. Later that day, they let me go telling me this has been a mistake. I asked for details but the officer told me to "count myself lucky" and "don't push my luck" and "get the hell out of here". I came back the next day to my job only to learn the I was being let go because the union needs to save face. Boss told me that he's sorry but this is a policy and they let people go at the first sight of issues with law that are brought to work. My contract was at will. Boss also said that he's sorry but he's going to have to inform anyone who seeks references of what he observed (in other words, my career is ruined as nobody will hire me anymore). This is ridiculous. They can't do this to my life and get away with it. Do I have any rights? This has resulted in me losing a job, probably ruined career and reputation. Who do I sue for damages? Location: New York | dat6fbm | dat6e1s | 1,480,941,118 | 1,480,941,023 | 1,242 | 97 | File for unemployment and appeal when denied. As said you are about to find out the police can do many things like this and just say "sorry, we did not intentionally do it so its ok." and most courts will say Police have latitude to do that as they were working in good faith. Contact a lawyer ASAP and bring everything you have on why/how you were arrested. Contact the police again and ask for a report and if they do not give it to you then ask for a supervisor. Get as many names and as much information as possible. Be nice when asking, you may get a helpful person who wants to help. Your biggest hope is to get as much information as possible and hopefully the police messed up so bad it falls outside good faith or any other protections they have and the city will try and settle. And start looking for a job ASAP. If they turn you down for this arrest then try to get that in writing. But be honest if they ask. | can a court issue an order to that employer prohibiting them from disclosing that false arrest once it's proven the police made a mistake? Just curious. If OP is going to sue for false arrest causing him to lose his job, can he not ask for a gag order for that employer be included, as the manager at that location has specifically said they'd say he was arrested - although it was a mistake. Seems to me, if they're told by the courts it was a mistake, they would then have no reason to disclose it, and can just give a neutral recommendation "he worked here from x to x, no other comments are permitted by company policy" (I've seen places that the dates of employment are the only information they will give out, period about any former employee) | 1 | 95 | 12.804124 |
5gktw2 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Wrongfully arrested at work for unpaid child support payments. I don't have a child. Was let go by employer as a result. Who do I sue? Alright I'm pissed as hell. Last week out of the blue cops came and told me that I'm under arrest for unpaid child support. I told them that I don't have a child and they said they don't care and they have to arrest me. I asked to see the arrest warrant but they pushed me to the wall and handcuffed me and took me. I work at a credit union. This happened in front of people. Later that day, they let me go telling me this has been a mistake. I asked for details but the officer told me to "count myself lucky" and "don't push my luck" and "get the hell out of here". I came back the next day to my job only to learn the I was being let go because the union needs to save face. Boss told me that he's sorry but this is a policy and they let people go at the first sight of issues with law that are brought to work. My contract was at will. Boss also said that he's sorry but he's going to have to inform anyone who seeks references of what he observed (in other words, my career is ruined as nobody will hire me anymore). This is ridiculous. They can't do this to my life and get away with it. Do I have any rights? This has resulted in me losing a job, probably ruined career and reputation. Who do I sue for damages? Location: New York | dat8838 | dat6e1s | 1,480,945,207 | 1,480,941,023 | 476 | 97 | I would never give the branch manager as a reference. HR department direct line. They know how expensive it is and how much bad press it is to successfully defended a defamation suit even if they said nothing wrong. That's why basically every HR department has the policy of not giving references and only confirming dates of employment and other purely factual and neutral details. It's individual managers whose egos get involved who go spouting off, and there is zero reason for you to get them involved. Have you tried taking to the HR department directly? It's possible they would be willing to just transfer you to another branch. Just because the branch manager is a spiteful asshole doesn't mean the whole company is heartless. They are also the ones interested in keeping their unemployment insurance low and their public and social media reputation high. They are the ones who have an interest in keeping you happy and employed and not blackballing you over some bullshit reason. If all else fails, after consulting with my attorney, if it were me, I would have a friend call claiming to be looking for a reference. Friend would be recording the call, but wouldn't say so (since it appears New York is a one party consent state). If the boss says even the tiniest thing wrong, I would then have my lawyer write a demand letter, threatening suit for defamation and offering to settle in exchange for a positive recommendation or a promise to only disclose dates of employment. (Of course, I would also occasionally follow up requesting a reference just to make sure they're following their settlement agreement.) | can a court issue an order to that employer prohibiting them from disclosing that false arrest once it's proven the police made a mistake? Just curious. If OP is going to sue for false arrest causing him to lose his job, can he not ask for a gag order for that employer be included, as the manager at that location has specifically said they'd say he was arrested - although it was a mistake. Seems to me, if they're told by the courts it was a mistake, they would then have no reason to disclose it, and can just give a neutral recommendation "he worked here from x to x, no other comments are permitted by company policy" (I've seen places that the dates of employment are the only information they will give out, period about any former employee) | 1 | 4,184 | 4.907216 |
5gktw2 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Wrongfully arrested at work for unpaid child support payments. I don't have a child. Was let go by employer as a result. Who do I sue? Alright I'm pissed as hell. Last week out of the blue cops came and told me that I'm under arrest for unpaid child support. I told them that I don't have a child and they said they don't care and they have to arrest me. I asked to see the arrest warrant but they pushed me to the wall and handcuffed me and took me. I work at a credit union. This happened in front of people. Later that day, they let me go telling me this has been a mistake. I asked for details but the officer told me to "count myself lucky" and "don't push my luck" and "get the hell out of here". I came back the next day to my job only to learn the I was being let go because the union needs to save face. Boss told me that he's sorry but this is a policy and they let people go at the first sight of issues with law that are brought to work. My contract was at will. Boss also said that he's sorry but he's going to have to inform anyone who seeks references of what he observed (in other words, my career is ruined as nobody will hire me anymore). This is ridiculous. They can't do this to my life and get away with it. Do I have any rights? This has resulted in me losing a job, probably ruined career and reputation. Who do I sue for damages? Location: New York | dat9udg | dat6e1s | 1,480,948,145 | 1,480,941,023 | 202 | 97 | Looks like NY employers aren't allowed to ask about or consider arrests without a conviction. Banks do have access to your RAP sheet though and proving you weren't hired for an arrest by any employer is hard to prove. I think u/improperlycited has the best angle to handle this. http://www2.nycbar.org/pdf/report/Labor_reentry_pamphlet_employees09.pdf | can a court issue an order to that employer prohibiting them from disclosing that false arrest once it's proven the police made a mistake? Just curious. If OP is going to sue for false arrest causing him to lose his job, can he not ask for a gag order for that employer be included, as the manager at that location has specifically said they'd say he was arrested - although it was a mistake. Seems to me, if they're told by the courts it was a mistake, they would then have no reason to disclose it, and can just give a neutral recommendation "he worked here from x to x, no other comments are permitted by company policy" (I've seen places that the dates of employment are the only information they will give out, period about any former employee) | 1 | 7,122 | 2.082474 |
5gktw2 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Wrongfully arrested at work for unpaid child support payments. I don't have a child. Was let go by employer as a result. Who do I sue? Alright I'm pissed as hell. Last week out of the blue cops came and told me that I'm under arrest for unpaid child support. I told them that I don't have a child and they said they don't care and they have to arrest me. I asked to see the arrest warrant but they pushed me to the wall and handcuffed me and took me. I work at a credit union. This happened in front of people. Later that day, they let me go telling me this has been a mistake. I asked for details but the officer told me to "count myself lucky" and "don't push my luck" and "get the hell out of here". I came back the next day to my job only to learn the I was being let go because the union needs to save face. Boss told me that he's sorry but this is a policy and they let people go at the first sight of issues with law that are brought to work. My contract was at will. Boss also said that he's sorry but he's going to have to inform anyone who seeks references of what he observed (in other words, my career is ruined as nobody will hire me anymore). This is ridiculous. They can't do this to my life and get away with it. Do I have any rights? This has resulted in me losing a job, probably ruined career and reputation. Who do I sue for damages? Location: New York | dat9udf | dat9udg | 1,480,948,145 | 1,480,948,145 | 74 | 202 | At what point did they release/"un-arrest" you? Were you transported anywhere? Booked into jail? Also, this: >I asked for details but the officer told me to "count myself lucky" and "don't push my luck" and "get the hell out of here" ...sounds like some movie trope. | Looks like NY employers aren't allowed to ask about or consider arrests without a conviction. Banks do have access to your RAP sheet though and proving you weren't hired for an arrest by any employer is hard to prove. I think u/improperlycited has the best angle to handle this. http://www2.nycbar.org/pdf/report/Labor_reentry_pamphlet_employees09.pdf | 0 | 0 | 2.72973 |
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69b39p | legaladvice_train | 0.64 | [Florida] Father owes my mother $450k+ from divorce/alimony/child support. Need advice on how to proceed Florida Will try to make this concise as possible. My mom currently has a judgment for $50k in the state of NC. She is trying to get a judgement for another $400k~ . This is a can't lose case. She is owed this money from the divorce and there is no way around it. Currently, we are having a lot of trouble in serving him (my dad) the papers. He currently lives in Florida and has for the past 12 years. So what needs to happen is the NC judgement needs to be transfered to FL. And we also need to get him served with the new lawsuit in the state of Florida, that would be for around $400k. Again, my mother cannot lose this case. My father has the funds to pay, but is avoiding this at all costs . We have tried multiple process servers and even a PI, but none of them are able to find him. Earlier this week we went to his home in Florida to scope it out and see if we could locate him ourselves, but we cannot seem to find him. At his home in FL. the only person that we can see is his GF. We have also been informed that he has permanently relocated to Costa Rica (by his former lawyer, who recused himself after my father would not legally cooperate, and by my dad himself after I called him on the phone.) Now, this is most likely not the case, because his GF of 12 yrs is living in his home in FL. and it seems very doubtful he would leave without her. (also other inconsistencies.. such as me asking him what city he lived in in costa rica and he not being able to give me an answer) I am guessing he is just hiding out in his home or in another part of FL. We have hired 2 lawyers, one in NC and one in FL., but we cannot proceed if we cannot locate him. We also do not have much money and can no longer afford to pay the lawyers at this point. What can we do? | dh58b0l | dh56v2z | 1,493,942,039 | 1,493,940,024 | 25 | 6 | Getting judgments is the EASY part. Collecting them is the HARD part. You already have a judgment for $50K. You should focus on trying to collect that judgment first, before you spend good time and money trying to get a second judgment that you can't collect. Domesticate your $50K judgment into Florida. Then find out who owns the mortgage on his home. Then subpoena them to find out how he pays his mortgage. Then garnish his bank account. If he fully owns a nice boat and a nice car, and you know where they are, then you can have the sheriff attach those assets. | Consult a lawyer about the possibility of having him served with substitute service | 1 | 2,015 | 4.166667 |
xeaqv4 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Step-father’s lawyer subpoenaed my bank records in parents divorce Parents are getting divorced and it’s turned a bit ugly; they are currently in Discovery phase. I received a notice from my bank two days ago that they had received a subpoena from my step father’s divorce lawyer. I have to respond by Sept 19 through the court or else they are sending the records. I feel this is a huge invasion of my privacy because I have nothing to do with their divorce or finances. My stepfather called me (after my mother called him quite furious and chewed him out) and he claims that he didn’t know they did that. He was very upset because he didn’t want to drag the kids into it. The “kids” are all adults in our 40s and 50s, and neither of my brothers records were subpoenaed, just mine. He was so upset in fact, he actually fired his lawyer immediately after finding out. He and my mother apparently had come to a settlement agreement the day before so the whole thing is somewhat moot anyway. My two part question- 1) Is it legal (or normally accepted) to subpoena bank records of an adult child in a divorce? They have only been married five years and I felt if they thought my mother was funneling money to me to hide it, they would see that in her outgoing regardless and my info still wouldn’t be necessary. Also, I have reached out to the law firm who filed the subpoena to explain, and see if they will rescind/quash and I’m waiting to hear back. 2) Do I have any recourse if they do not correct this in time and my irrelevant bank records are still sent to the law firm? Even if they never look at them, I feel this is a huge invasion of my privacy. Thanks for any help. | iofpikc | iofqb0t | 1,663,183,557 | 1,663,183,876 | 44 | 62 | 1- if they have some strong reason to believe mom is hiding money they're, or her name is attached to the amount: yes. They can request those records 2- you would need to hire an attorney to squash the subpoena | If your stepfather wants his lawyer to withdraw the subpoena, he needs to tell them that. If the subpoena is not withdrawn, then you can assume that, regardless of what he's telling you, he is in fact okay with it or has reason to believe he and his lawyer need that information. If your stepfather really did fire his lawyer, then reaching out to his now-former lawyer is futile. If they no longer represent him, they can't submit motions (such as motions to withdraw a subpoena) on his behalf. > Is it legal (or normally accepted) to subpoena bank records of an adult child in a divorce? It's legal, at least. _Any_ records can be subpoenaed if the petitioner can show good cause to believe that they would be relevant to the proceeding. There are a number of other tests involved when subpoenaing a third party instead of one of the parties to the dispute, but there's no rule against doing so. You've identified the most common situation - suspicions that money is being concealed. Subpoenaing your records could both produce corroborating information, and help show if others are involved. > Do I have any recourse if they do not correct this in time and my irrelevant bank records are still sent to the law firm? No. Your recourse, if you believe the subpoena is inappropriate and if you would prefer not to leave it up to the petitioner to yank it, is to move to quash. It's up to you to do so, and you need to do so before the records are turned over. If you do not do so, your consent is presumed. Quashing a subpoena on relevance is a fairly nitty technical issue, so you'll want to hire a lawyer of your own for it. | 0 | 319 | 1.409091 |
xeaqv4 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Step-father’s lawyer subpoenaed my bank records in parents divorce Parents are getting divorced and it’s turned a bit ugly; they are currently in Discovery phase. I received a notice from my bank two days ago that they had received a subpoena from my step father’s divorce lawyer. I have to respond by Sept 19 through the court or else they are sending the records. I feel this is a huge invasion of my privacy because I have nothing to do with their divorce or finances. My stepfather called me (after my mother called him quite furious and chewed him out) and he claims that he didn’t know they did that. He was very upset because he didn’t want to drag the kids into it. The “kids” are all adults in our 40s and 50s, and neither of my brothers records were subpoenaed, just mine. He was so upset in fact, he actually fired his lawyer immediately after finding out. He and my mother apparently had come to a settlement agreement the day before so the whole thing is somewhat moot anyway. My two part question- 1) Is it legal (or normally accepted) to subpoena bank records of an adult child in a divorce? They have only been married five years and I felt if they thought my mother was funneling money to me to hide it, they would see that in her outgoing regardless and my info still wouldn’t be necessary. Also, I have reached out to the law firm who filed the subpoena to explain, and see if they will rescind/quash and I’m waiting to hear back. 2) Do I have any recourse if they do not correct this in time and my irrelevant bank records are still sent to the law firm? Even if they never look at them, I feel this is a huge invasion of my privacy. Thanks for any help. | iofqb0t | iofq42m | 1,663,183,876 | 1,663,183,799 | 62 | 9 | If your stepfather wants his lawyer to withdraw the subpoena, he needs to tell them that. If the subpoena is not withdrawn, then you can assume that, regardless of what he's telling you, he is in fact okay with it or has reason to believe he and his lawyer need that information. If your stepfather really did fire his lawyer, then reaching out to his now-former lawyer is futile. If they no longer represent him, they can't submit motions (such as motions to withdraw a subpoena) on his behalf. > Is it legal (or normally accepted) to subpoena bank records of an adult child in a divorce? It's legal, at least. _Any_ records can be subpoenaed if the petitioner can show good cause to believe that they would be relevant to the proceeding. There are a number of other tests involved when subpoenaing a third party instead of one of the parties to the dispute, but there's no rule against doing so. You've identified the most common situation - suspicions that money is being concealed. Subpoenaing your records could both produce corroborating information, and help show if others are involved. > Do I have any recourse if they do not correct this in time and my irrelevant bank records are still sent to the law firm? No. Your recourse, if you believe the subpoena is inappropriate and if you would prefer not to leave it up to the petitioner to yank it, is to move to quash. It's up to you to do so, and you need to do so before the records are turned over. If you do not do so, your consent is presumed. Quashing a subpoena on relevance is a fairly nitty technical issue, so you'll want to hire a lawyer of your own for it. | 1. Yes. In a contested divorce it's common for a party to subpoena all sorts of non-parties looking for evidence of hidden assets or failures to disclose income. 2. No. Your bank is giving you the chance to file for a protective order in the court in which the divorce is being heard. If you don't do that and your bank produces the records, you don't have a a legal claim against the attorney who sent the subpoena or the bank. Your stepfather should contact the attorney he fired and instruct him/her to (i) contact the bank to withdraw the subpoena; and (ii) if that doesn't work, immediately destroy and not review any records that are produced. | 1 | 77 | 6.888889 |
3sk9uz | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Ex-husband is giving child support to 12 year old in cash/bank account he has access to. Refusing to pay me. My ex-husband is in arrears and after reading some thing on the internet has decided to ignore a court order to pay me ( he is an independent contractor so there is no employer to garnish. He gets paid by multiple people, not a single company). Our children are 5, 7 and 12. I work but he barely sees the children and definitely doesn't pay their insurance or schooling so I asked and was granted child support when we divorced 6 years ago. I have sole custody as he had some issues with a thing that really isn't relevant and I won't mention but it lead to me feeling the need to petition for sole custody and I was awarded it. He has visitation. He has this brilliant idea because the thought of paying me directly is appalling to him that he started a bank account and gave access to the 12 year old. He gave the kid a card which he is not allowed to show me at all. My 12 year old is excited, of course, because he has been told he can spend all that money on anything he wants for him and his siblings. My ex-husband will also give my 12 year old cash and have him sign a receipt saying he was given the money. Ok. Here is my issue: 1) That is ridiculous. It is stupid to give a 12 year old access to $400 a month and expect them to spend it on anything related to their upbringing. He buys stuff, basically. Not shoes or clothes or pays for aftercare cost for after school. He buys games, and food, hobby related items. 2) My ex isn't really understanding the concept of child support here. I am already paying for the daycare, the after school programs, the house payment, the medical insurance, the vaccinations, the food, the clothes, BEFORE he even hands over any money. So that money is meant to help reimburse me for a portion of those items. I really, really want to avoid going to court again. He constantly calls my 12 year old to speak for him and I know, he of all the children, remembers when daddy was around and things were better, and it kills me inside to have him even remotely feel like he has to defend anyone or pick a side. I don't want to drag him or anyone through that again. My ex-husband is claiming that because it is known that child support is for the child then it is perfectly and legally acceptable for him to pay a 12 year old. I know I need to contact a lawyer. I plan on it but while I make the call and wait for an appointment, I thought someone might know if this is really the loophole he thinks it is? He also has an idea about starting an "escrow" account where we can only make approved purchase that have been approved by both parents, starting a trust with all the child support that is payable to them on their 18th birthday and he just provides me with proof of deposit a month, etc. Basically, anything to get out of writing me a check at the end of every month. Are any of these legitimate alternatives to traditional child support that would generally be accepted by the court? Edit: Also, because he has mentioned it. Can a minor waive child support for the custodial parent? I am going to say no but honestly I've been wrong a lot in my life so I am not going to make an ass out of myself by assuming. | cwxyoyu | cwxydvh | 1,447,354,158 | 1,447,353,714 | 461 | 42 | Your ex-husband is a total moron. He thinks he's paying child support but he's actually paid none. He's given a bunch of gifts directly to his son and still owes you ALL the child support in your order. All those dollars he's given your son don't count, so in order to comply he's going to end up paying double, or he's going to have to somehow convince your son to give back the money. Get a lawyer to draft him a letter informing him of the consequences of this that can be imposed if he won't comply with the order. These can include a lot of nasty things besides just garnishment of wages. You can seize property including bank accounts, vehicles, real estate, or place liens. He can have his driver's license restricted or revoked. He can have his *professional licenses* restricted or revoked (that one might be the most effective). You can hit his credit. Also, a judge may imprison or fine him for contempt of court. When there is a legitimate fear that a custodial parent will misuse child support money, the courts will sometimes get involved and have someone watch the money. But that would never be placing the money directly in the hands of a child, *ever*. Plus, they have to have a good reason before they interfere in your financial life like that. | 1- ok, your kid is 12. He cannot do anything without you. He cannot go to the bank or store to buy things. Take the card and only let him buy things you approve of. If he comes home with money, take it and put it in a savings account. You are the adult and have full control here. 2- contact child support enforcement and let them handle it or take him back to court | 1 | 444 | 10.97619 |
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