post_id
stringlengths 5
7
| domain
stringclasses 18
values | upvote_ratio
float64 0.5
1
| history
stringlengths 22
39.2k
| c_root_id_A
stringlengths 7
7
| c_root_id_B
stringlengths 7
7
| created_at_utc_A
int64 1.28B
1.67B
| created_at_utc_B
int64 1.28B
1.67B
| score_A
int64 2
43.5k
| score_B
int64 2
43.2k
| human_ref_A
stringlengths 0
10.7k
| human_ref_B
stringlengths 0
10.8k
| labels
int64 0
1
| seconds_difference
float64 0
145M
| score_ratio
float64 1
3.72k
|
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
9uhr30 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Is there a FL law I can cite to get the HOA manager to stop harassing me about living in my own home? Okay, so I live in Florida. We bought a house in one of those communities where most of the homes are owned by investors and rented to tourists on Disney vacations. The tourists actually make great neighbors, they all tend to be in a good mood because they’re on vacation. Nothing in the HOA rules/covenants/etc forbids living in your house, rather than renting it out. The area is zoned residential, our home is a single family, we have no kids, or parties, and are much quieter than the tourists. We are very, very careful about following all of the HOA rules and restrictions, because we understand that our neighbors are effectively businesses, and we don’t want to be dicks and interfere with their customers. But no matter how nice, friendly, or rule-abiding we try to be, the HOA manager/director/crazy person will not stop giving us shit every single time we have to deal with her. The paint job on our house was getting old, so we popped over to the office to flip through the book of approved paint schemes. She lectured us on the fact that these homes were not intended to be full time residences. We applied to put up a mailbox. Many of our neighbors, full time and part time, have them. She okayed the request in the end because the HOA explicitly allows mailboxes, but it took half a dozen back and forth discussions, because again she wanted us to realize these homes are not intended to be lived in, and we should not expect ‘proper residential’ benefits. Her office is located by the community pool/store, and if I so much as dare my head in that area, she will come by to remind me, YET AGAIN, that what we are doing is NOT OKAY. Needless to say, I have taken to avoiding the place. Having just gotten another lecture from her today when I went to drop off a form she requested all homeowners to fill out, I started wondering. Do I have any sort of legal right to live in my own home, given that it is zoned for you know, living in, and I do not expect special treatment? I have triple checked the documents we signed, and nothing in them says we can’t live here. Is there a law I can quote that will potentially make this woman just shut up and leave me alone? We are not the only permanent residents in the neighborhood, but finding out who the others are seems to require asking LectureLady, so I have not yet gotten up the nerve to find out who they are to see if she gives them the same endless aggravation. | e95by33 | e94u5qb | 1,541,489,548 | 1,541,469,234 | 25 | 18 | INAL/I don’t live in FL... Does she seek you out at all? Does she approach you when you aren’t in the office or set to meet with her? I ask because, it would seem to me, that at some point this could cross the line over into harassment and/or stalking? Especially the blocking your exits to yell at you. All of those actions to me are crossing over into behavior that someone could see as more than inappropriate, but criminal. Also, try and document every interaction you have with her... date, time, place, what you were doing (ie did you go to her or did she interrupt your quiet enjoyment of your property/common grounds?), what she said, you said, behaviors... etc. You shouldn’t be apprehensive about being able to enjoy a home you paid for or the common grounds that you are entitled to enjoy. This is such a blatant abuse of power. Good luck. | Your county Auditor has a property owner search on its website. You can enter the address and it will tell you who owns it since it is public record. I'm assuming you're in Orange County so here's the link: http://www.ocpafl.org/. Can you try finding out who this woman's boss is and complaining to them about her, since I doubt she lives in the community. Although if she does then she's a hypocrite for going after you. You have the opposite problem my family has. We own rental property in Hilton Head and the owner/residents don't like the vacationers. They are trying *everything* to make staying in our complex a pain in the ass. The complex is in an area zoned as mixed residential/commercial so its legal to rent units out, so the legal route is out for these guys. Instead they tried to force the entrance code to the pool and tennis courts be change monthly. When that failed it they demanded quarterly, that was also rejected. Now its an annual code change but they are still pissed about it. | 1 | 20,314 | 1.388889 |
p9et7u | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I want to get a restraining order against my parents after they have continuously harassed me after moving out at 18. Is there any way I can do that? My family is very abusive and controlling, and because of this I moved out at 18 from Austin, TX to Colorado. I sent an email to my mother telling her my reasons for this and that I am moving out. I did not tell them my location. When they saw the email they contacted local police to file a missing person's report, and I had to call the police station to dismantle it. They also took all my money (4k) from my joint bank account right before it would transfer over to my secure one, essentially making me destitute. After this I moved to Colorado, and nearly every day my mother would send me emails to my address, telling me that I should come back. After about a month of these emails I sent her another one back telling her to stop contacting me. After I sent this email my father contacted the Austin police department, trying to file another missing persons report, and when I contacted the new officer to once again dismantle it she said that my dad made it seem I was taken across state lines (kidnapped), and that he would be contacting the FBI. After that they sued my friend who helped get me to the airport for kidnapping and extortion for the 4k *my family* took from my account. My friend's lawyer asked me to send another email in which I said that they never extorted of kidnapped me, and that I moved out of my own accord, and I did. Most importantly, last night around 12:00AM when I was walking home from work my father walked behind me for a block, revealed himself, and when I ran he tackled me to the ground and restrained me so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado? | h9y3w01 | h9xgmoi | 1,629,661,986 | 1,629,651,908 | 622 | 407 | 1. Set up a new email address you will use from here on out. Obviously don't let anyone with some form of contact with your parents to know this email. 2. Close any accounts that you and either one of your parents are on and then open an account solely in your name. Bank accounts and cell phone would be the main ones I would think but you could have others. As long as their listed on the account they will have control over it. 3. Should be obvious, but if they are tied in any way financially with you find a different bank and open an account. 4. You might get a wellness check on them from the police because either you are leaving out important parts of the situation or they are legitimately bat shit crazy. | Did you do any of the things that I suggested the last time you posted about this? "I would notify the city you used to live in and (if you want) request to file harassment charges for the false reports. This will hopefully give them the heads up that any report they receive will likely be fraudulent. I would also suggest you contact the city you are in now, and notify them of what's going on and that you are ok and left of your own free will. Provide them with your contact information in case there is an emergency and they do need to easily contact you. If you no longer want to speak with your parents, make that clear to the police. They may be able to stop it at the front end by basically saying "he's an adult, he's ok, stop calling"." | 1 | 10,078 | 1.528256 |
p9et7u | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I want to get a restraining order against my parents after they have continuously harassed me after moving out at 18. Is there any way I can do that? My family is very abusive and controlling, and because of this I moved out at 18 from Austin, TX to Colorado. I sent an email to my mother telling her my reasons for this and that I am moving out. I did not tell them my location. When they saw the email they contacted local police to file a missing person's report, and I had to call the police station to dismantle it. They also took all my money (4k) from my joint bank account right before it would transfer over to my secure one, essentially making me destitute. After this I moved to Colorado, and nearly every day my mother would send me emails to my address, telling me that I should come back. After about a month of these emails I sent her another one back telling her to stop contacting me. After I sent this email my father contacted the Austin police department, trying to file another missing persons report, and when I contacted the new officer to once again dismantle it she said that my dad made it seem I was taken across state lines (kidnapped), and that he would be contacting the FBI. After that they sued my friend who helped get me to the airport for kidnapping and extortion for the 4k *my family* took from my account. My friend's lawyer asked me to send another email in which I said that they never extorted of kidnapped me, and that I moved out of my own accord, and I did. Most importantly, last night around 12:00AM when I was walking home from work my father walked behind me for a block, revealed himself, and when I ran he tackled me to the ground and restrained me so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado? | h9y3w01 | h9x6lbe | 1,629,661,986 | 1,629,647,653 | 622 | 197 | 1. Set up a new email address you will use from here on out. Obviously don't let anyone with some form of contact with your parents to know this email. 2. Close any accounts that you and either one of your parents are on and then open an account solely in your name. Bank accounts and cell phone would be the main ones I would think but you could have others. As long as their listed on the account they will have control over it. 3. Should be obvious, but if they are tied in any way financially with you find a different bank and open an account. 4. You might get a wellness check on them from the police because either you are leaving out important parts of the situation or they are legitimately bat shit crazy. | Yes, go back to the police station or county attorney and explain that your dad assaulted you and held you against your will, and ask for a protective order. Then let the courts handle it. | 1 | 14,333 | 3.15736 |
p9et7u | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I want to get a restraining order against my parents after they have continuously harassed me after moving out at 18. Is there any way I can do that? My family is very abusive and controlling, and because of this I moved out at 18 from Austin, TX to Colorado. I sent an email to my mother telling her my reasons for this and that I am moving out. I did not tell them my location. When they saw the email they contacted local police to file a missing person's report, and I had to call the police station to dismantle it. They also took all my money (4k) from my joint bank account right before it would transfer over to my secure one, essentially making me destitute. After this I moved to Colorado, and nearly every day my mother would send me emails to my address, telling me that I should come back. After about a month of these emails I sent her another one back telling her to stop contacting me. After I sent this email my father contacted the Austin police department, trying to file another missing persons report, and when I contacted the new officer to once again dismantle it she said that my dad made it seem I was taken across state lines (kidnapped), and that he would be contacting the FBI. After that they sued my friend who helped get me to the airport for kidnapping and extortion for the 4k *my family* took from my account. My friend's lawyer asked me to send another email in which I said that they never extorted of kidnapped me, and that I moved out of my own accord, and I did. Most importantly, last night around 12:00AM when I was walking home from work my father walked behind me for a block, revealed himself, and when I ran he tackled me to the ground and restrained me so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado? | h9y3w01 | h9xphj0 | 1,629,661,986 | 1,629,655,707 | 622 | 179 | 1. Set up a new email address you will use from here on out. Obviously don't let anyone with some form of contact with your parents to know this email. 2. Close any accounts that you and either one of your parents are on and then open an account solely in your name. Bank accounts and cell phone would be the main ones I would think but you could have others. As long as their listed on the account they will have control over it. 3. Should be obvious, but if they are tied in any way financially with you find a different bank and open an account. 4. You might get a wellness check on them from the police because either you are leaving out important parts of the situation or they are legitimately bat shit crazy. | I am not a lawyer, I’m not your lawyer, and I’m not bar certified in Colorado. That said I have filed for protection orders in Colorado before. You can file for a temporary protection order (TPO) in Colorado without the need to involve the police or a lawyer. You can find all the paperwork and instructions here. That said I *would* report the stalking and your dad’s assault on you to the police. A police report will help provide the basis of getting a TPO issued. Even if the police won’t do anything else, make sure they fill out a report and get a copy to you. Likewise a lawyer, while not necessary, is very helpful in making sure everything is done properly. If you don’t feel your parents are an immediate danger I recommend contacting Colorado Legal Support a local non-profit public-private joint agency intended to help low income folk with legal matters. They’ll be able to help you with the paperwork, and may be able to have a lawyer in court with you as you file for your protection order. Once the paperwork is filed with a county court, you’ll have a hearing that day or on the next day the court is in session; with Covid that may be longer than normal, but TPOs are a priority. The courts tend to be very victim friendly on this first hearing. Your parents do not have to be there for the initial hearing. If you get a TPO issued (which seems likely given what you’ve posted), you then need someone to serve the protection order to your parents. Once served you have at least 14 days of protection, during which a hearing for a Permanent Protection Order (PPO) will be scheduled. From what you’ve posted here, a PPO seems doable. | 1 | 6,279 | 3.47486 |
p9et7u | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I want to get a restraining order against my parents after they have continuously harassed me after moving out at 18. Is there any way I can do that? My family is very abusive and controlling, and because of this I moved out at 18 from Austin, TX to Colorado. I sent an email to my mother telling her my reasons for this and that I am moving out. I did not tell them my location. When they saw the email they contacted local police to file a missing person's report, and I had to call the police station to dismantle it. They also took all my money (4k) from my joint bank account right before it would transfer over to my secure one, essentially making me destitute. After this I moved to Colorado, and nearly every day my mother would send me emails to my address, telling me that I should come back. After about a month of these emails I sent her another one back telling her to stop contacting me. After I sent this email my father contacted the Austin police department, trying to file another missing persons report, and when I contacted the new officer to once again dismantle it she said that my dad made it seem I was taken across state lines (kidnapped), and that he would be contacting the FBI. After that they sued my friend who helped get me to the airport for kidnapping and extortion for the 4k *my family* took from my account. My friend's lawyer asked me to send another email in which I said that they never extorted of kidnapped me, and that I moved out of my own accord, and I did. Most importantly, last night around 12:00AM when I was walking home from work my father walked behind me for a block, revealed himself, and when I ran he tackled me to the ground and restrained me so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado? | h9xfck4 | h9y3w01 | 1,629,651,364 | 1,629,661,986 | 121 | 622 | Also, i didn’t say this in my last comment, but you have more then enough evidence to prove that they are harrassing and stalking you at this point. You have multiple emails on record, you have 2 incidents where they tried to report a missing person report, where it was discovered the reports were false. You can tell the officers that they have written 2 false reports in order to harrass and find you when you were trying to get away from them. If it was reported to the officers that these reports are false, and they are constantly trying to say that you are missing, it shows the officers how crazy they are and it would help your case by a lot. This is considered as a domestic case and they should take this very seriously | 1. Set up a new email address you will use from here on out. Obviously don't let anyone with some form of contact with your parents to know this email. 2. Close any accounts that you and either one of your parents are on and then open an account solely in your name. Bank accounts and cell phone would be the main ones I would think but you could have others. As long as their listed on the account they will have control over it. 3. Should be obvious, but if they are tied in any way financially with you find a different bank and open an account. 4. You might get a wellness check on them from the police because either you are leaving out important parts of the situation or they are legitimately bat shit crazy. | 0 | 10,622 | 5.140496 |
p9et7u | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I want to get a restraining order against my parents after they have continuously harassed me after moving out at 18. Is there any way I can do that? My family is very abusive and controlling, and because of this I moved out at 18 from Austin, TX to Colorado. I sent an email to my mother telling her my reasons for this and that I am moving out. I did not tell them my location. When they saw the email they contacted local police to file a missing person's report, and I had to call the police station to dismantle it. They also took all my money (4k) from my joint bank account right before it would transfer over to my secure one, essentially making me destitute. After this I moved to Colorado, and nearly every day my mother would send me emails to my address, telling me that I should come back. After about a month of these emails I sent her another one back telling her to stop contacting me. After I sent this email my father contacted the Austin police department, trying to file another missing persons report, and when I contacted the new officer to once again dismantle it she said that my dad made it seem I was taken across state lines (kidnapped), and that he would be contacting the FBI. After that they sued my friend who helped get me to the airport for kidnapping and extortion for the 4k *my family* took from my account. My friend's lawyer asked me to send another email in which I said that they never extorted of kidnapped me, and that I moved out of my own accord, and I did. Most importantly, last night around 12:00AM when I was walking home from work my father walked behind me for a block, revealed himself, and when I ran he tackled me to the ground and restrained me so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado? | h9xxueo | h9y3w01 | 1,629,659,338 | 1,629,661,986 | 31 | 622 | Pretty good information already there. I would add that you look into making sure they can't get any other information about you later, i.e. Medical / financial information. As they are your parents, they could gain access with some smooth talking and an incompetent worker on the other end. | 1. Set up a new email address you will use from here on out. Obviously don't let anyone with some form of contact with your parents to know this email. 2. Close any accounts that you and either one of your parents are on and then open an account solely in your name. Bank accounts and cell phone would be the main ones I would think but you could have others. As long as their listed on the account they will have control over it. 3. Should be obvious, but if they are tied in any way financially with you find a different bank and open an account. 4. You might get a wellness check on them from the police because either you are leaving out important parts of the situation or they are legitimately bat shit crazy. | 0 | 2,648 | 20.064516 |
p9et7u | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I want to get a restraining order against my parents after they have continuously harassed me after moving out at 18. Is there any way I can do that? My family is very abusive and controlling, and because of this I moved out at 18 from Austin, TX to Colorado. I sent an email to my mother telling her my reasons for this and that I am moving out. I did not tell them my location. When they saw the email they contacted local police to file a missing person's report, and I had to call the police station to dismantle it. They also took all my money (4k) from my joint bank account right before it would transfer over to my secure one, essentially making me destitute. After this I moved to Colorado, and nearly every day my mother would send me emails to my address, telling me that I should come back. After about a month of these emails I sent her another one back telling her to stop contacting me. After I sent this email my father contacted the Austin police department, trying to file another missing persons report, and when I contacted the new officer to once again dismantle it she said that my dad made it seem I was taken across state lines (kidnapped), and that he would be contacting the FBI. After that they sued my friend who helped get me to the airport for kidnapping and extortion for the 4k *my family* took from my account. My friend's lawyer asked me to send another email in which I said that they never extorted of kidnapped me, and that I moved out of my own accord, and I did. Most importantly, last night around 12:00AM when I was walking home from work my father walked behind me for a block, revealed himself, and when I ran he tackled me to the ground and restrained me so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado? | h9x6lbe | h9xgmoi | 1,629,647,653 | 1,629,651,908 | 197 | 407 | Yes, go back to the police station or county attorney and explain that your dad assaulted you and held you against your will, and ask for a protective order. Then let the courts handle it. | Did you do any of the things that I suggested the last time you posted about this? "I would notify the city you used to live in and (if you want) request to file harassment charges for the false reports. This will hopefully give them the heads up that any report they receive will likely be fraudulent. I would also suggest you contact the city you are in now, and notify them of what's going on and that you are ok and left of your own free will. Provide them with your contact information in case there is an emergency and they do need to easily contact you. If you no longer want to speak with your parents, make that clear to the police. They may be able to stop it at the front end by basically saying "he's an adult, he's ok, stop calling"." | 0 | 4,255 | 2.06599 |
p9et7u | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I want to get a restraining order against my parents after they have continuously harassed me after moving out at 18. Is there any way I can do that? My family is very abusive and controlling, and because of this I moved out at 18 from Austin, TX to Colorado. I sent an email to my mother telling her my reasons for this and that I am moving out. I did not tell them my location. When they saw the email they contacted local police to file a missing person's report, and I had to call the police station to dismantle it. They also took all my money (4k) from my joint bank account right before it would transfer over to my secure one, essentially making me destitute. After this I moved to Colorado, and nearly every day my mother would send me emails to my address, telling me that I should come back. After about a month of these emails I sent her another one back telling her to stop contacting me. After I sent this email my father contacted the Austin police department, trying to file another missing persons report, and when I contacted the new officer to once again dismantle it she said that my dad made it seem I was taken across state lines (kidnapped), and that he would be contacting the FBI. After that they sued my friend who helped get me to the airport for kidnapping and extortion for the 4k *my family* took from my account. My friend's lawyer asked me to send another email in which I said that they never extorted of kidnapped me, and that I moved out of my own accord, and I did. Most importantly, last night around 12:00AM when I was walking home from work my father walked behind me for a block, revealed himself, and when I ran he tackled me to the ground and restrained me so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado? | h9xfck4 | h9xgmoi | 1,629,651,364 | 1,629,651,908 | 121 | 407 | Also, i didn’t say this in my last comment, but you have more then enough evidence to prove that they are harrassing and stalking you at this point. You have multiple emails on record, you have 2 incidents where they tried to report a missing person report, where it was discovered the reports were false. You can tell the officers that they have written 2 false reports in order to harrass and find you when you were trying to get away from them. If it was reported to the officers that these reports are false, and they are constantly trying to say that you are missing, it shows the officers how crazy they are and it would help your case by a lot. This is considered as a domestic case and they should take this very seriously | Did you do any of the things that I suggested the last time you posted about this? "I would notify the city you used to live in and (if you want) request to file harassment charges for the false reports. This will hopefully give them the heads up that any report they receive will likely be fraudulent. I would also suggest you contact the city you are in now, and notify them of what's going on and that you are ok and left of your own free will. Provide them with your contact information in case there is an emergency and they do need to easily contact you. If you no longer want to speak with your parents, make that clear to the police. They may be able to stop it at the front end by basically saying "he's an adult, he's ok, stop calling"." | 0 | 544 | 3.363636 |
p9et7u | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I want to get a restraining order against my parents after they have continuously harassed me after moving out at 18. Is there any way I can do that? My family is very abusive and controlling, and because of this I moved out at 18 from Austin, TX to Colorado. I sent an email to my mother telling her my reasons for this and that I am moving out. I did not tell them my location. When they saw the email they contacted local police to file a missing person's report, and I had to call the police station to dismantle it. They also took all my money (4k) from my joint bank account right before it would transfer over to my secure one, essentially making me destitute. After this I moved to Colorado, and nearly every day my mother would send me emails to my address, telling me that I should come back. After about a month of these emails I sent her another one back telling her to stop contacting me. After I sent this email my father contacted the Austin police department, trying to file another missing persons report, and when I contacted the new officer to once again dismantle it she said that my dad made it seem I was taken across state lines (kidnapped), and that he would be contacting the FBI. After that they sued my friend who helped get me to the airport for kidnapping and extortion for the 4k *my family* took from my account. My friend's lawyer asked me to send another email in which I said that they never extorted of kidnapped me, and that I moved out of my own accord, and I did. Most importantly, last night around 12:00AM when I was walking home from work my father walked behind me for a block, revealed himself, and when I ran he tackled me to the ground and restrained me so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado? | h9xphj0 | h9xfck4 | 1,629,655,707 | 1,629,651,364 | 179 | 121 | I am not a lawyer, I’m not your lawyer, and I’m not bar certified in Colorado. That said I have filed for protection orders in Colorado before. You can file for a temporary protection order (TPO) in Colorado without the need to involve the police or a lawyer. You can find all the paperwork and instructions here. That said I *would* report the stalking and your dad’s assault on you to the police. A police report will help provide the basis of getting a TPO issued. Even if the police won’t do anything else, make sure they fill out a report and get a copy to you. Likewise a lawyer, while not necessary, is very helpful in making sure everything is done properly. If you don’t feel your parents are an immediate danger I recommend contacting Colorado Legal Support a local non-profit public-private joint agency intended to help low income folk with legal matters. They’ll be able to help you with the paperwork, and may be able to have a lawyer in court with you as you file for your protection order. Once the paperwork is filed with a county court, you’ll have a hearing that day or on the next day the court is in session; with Covid that may be longer than normal, but TPOs are a priority. The courts tend to be very victim friendly on this first hearing. Your parents do not have to be there for the initial hearing. If you get a TPO issued (which seems likely given what you’ve posted), you then need someone to serve the protection order to your parents. Once served you have at least 14 days of protection, during which a hearing for a Permanent Protection Order (PPO) will be scheduled. From what you’ve posted here, a PPO seems doable. | Also, i didn’t say this in my last comment, but you have more then enough evidence to prove that they are harrassing and stalking you at this point. You have multiple emails on record, you have 2 incidents where they tried to report a missing person report, where it was discovered the reports were false. You can tell the officers that they have written 2 false reports in order to harrass and find you when you were trying to get away from them. If it was reported to the officers that these reports are false, and they are constantly trying to say that you are missing, it shows the officers how crazy they are and it would help your case by a lot. This is considered as a domestic case and they should take this very seriously | 1 | 4,343 | 1.479339 |
p9et7u | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I want to get a restraining order against my parents after they have continuously harassed me after moving out at 18. Is there any way I can do that? My family is very abusive and controlling, and because of this I moved out at 18 from Austin, TX to Colorado. I sent an email to my mother telling her my reasons for this and that I am moving out. I did not tell them my location. When they saw the email they contacted local police to file a missing person's report, and I had to call the police station to dismantle it. They also took all my money (4k) from my joint bank account right before it would transfer over to my secure one, essentially making me destitute. After this I moved to Colorado, and nearly every day my mother would send me emails to my address, telling me that I should come back. After about a month of these emails I sent her another one back telling her to stop contacting me. After I sent this email my father contacted the Austin police department, trying to file another missing persons report, and when I contacted the new officer to once again dismantle it she said that my dad made it seem I was taken across state lines (kidnapped), and that he would be contacting the FBI. After that they sued my friend who helped get me to the airport for kidnapping and extortion for the 4k *my family* took from my account. My friend's lawyer asked me to send another email in which I said that they never extorted of kidnapped me, and that I moved out of my own accord, and I did. Most importantly, last night around 12:00AM when I was walking home from work my father walked behind me for a block, revealed himself, and when I ran he tackled me to the ground and restrained me so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado? | h9xxueo | ha05fwu | 1,629,659,338 | 1,629,700,381 | 31 | 56 | Pretty good information already there. I would add that you look into making sure they can't get any other information about you later, i.e. Medical / financial information. As they are your parents, they could gain access with some smooth talking and an incompetent worker on the other end. | The cops that you spoke to told you that nothing could be done, but that is definitely false. The actions that you describe might be harassment, which is a crime. | 0 | 41,043 | 1.806452 |
p9et7u | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I want to get a restraining order against my parents after they have continuously harassed me after moving out at 18. Is there any way I can do that? My family is very abusive and controlling, and because of this I moved out at 18 from Austin, TX to Colorado. I sent an email to my mother telling her my reasons for this and that I am moving out. I did not tell them my location. When they saw the email they contacted local police to file a missing person's report, and I had to call the police station to dismantle it. They also took all my money (4k) from my joint bank account right before it would transfer over to my secure one, essentially making me destitute. After this I moved to Colorado, and nearly every day my mother would send me emails to my address, telling me that I should come back. After about a month of these emails I sent her another one back telling her to stop contacting me. After I sent this email my father contacted the Austin police department, trying to file another missing persons report, and when I contacted the new officer to once again dismantle it she said that my dad made it seem I was taken across state lines (kidnapped), and that he would be contacting the FBI. After that they sued my friend who helped get me to the airport for kidnapping and extortion for the 4k *my family* took from my account. My friend's lawyer asked me to send another email in which I said that they never extorted of kidnapped me, and that I moved out of my own accord, and I did. Most importantly, last night around 12:00AM when I was walking home from work my father walked behind me for a block, revealed himself, and when I ran he tackled me to the ground and restrained me so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado? | h9yzr65 | ha05fwu | 1,629,676,658 | 1,629,700,381 | 29 | 56 | You should also call the police and inform them about how your father assaulted you. | The cops that you spoke to told you that nothing could be done, but that is definitely false. The actions that you describe might be harassment, which is a crime. | 0 | 23,723 | 1.931034 |
p9et7u | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I want to get a restraining order against my parents after they have continuously harassed me after moving out at 18. Is there any way I can do that? My family is very abusive and controlling, and because of this I moved out at 18 from Austin, TX to Colorado. I sent an email to my mother telling her my reasons for this and that I am moving out. I did not tell them my location. When they saw the email they contacted local police to file a missing person's report, and I had to call the police station to dismantle it. They also took all my money (4k) from my joint bank account right before it would transfer over to my secure one, essentially making me destitute. After this I moved to Colorado, and nearly every day my mother would send me emails to my address, telling me that I should come back. After about a month of these emails I sent her another one back telling her to stop contacting me. After I sent this email my father contacted the Austin police department, trying to file another missing persons report, and when I contacted the new officer to once again dismantle it she said that my dad made it seem I was taken across state lines (kidnapped), and that he would be contacting the FBI. After that they sued my friend who helped get me to the airport for kidnapping and extortion for the 4k *my family* took from my account. My friend's lawyer asked me to send another email in which I said that they never extorted of kidnapped me, and that I moved out of my own accord, and I did. Most importantly, last night around 12:00AM when I was walking home from work my father walked behind me for a block, revealed himself, and when I ran he tackled me to the ground and restrained me so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado? | h9zsr3c | ha05fwu | 1,629,691,603 | 1,629,700,381 | 8 | 56 | Your email provider or program should have a Spam setting where you can block incoming emails you don't want. As for the police doing nothing go higher up in the department until you find someone willing to help you maybe that will work. | The cops that you spoke to told you that nothing could be done, but that is definitely false. The actions that you describe might be harassment, which is a crime. | 0 | 8,778 | 7 |
a538wq | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | How can my husband & I protect ourselves financially from his spending during a manic episode? My husband was recently diagnosed with bipolar 1. We have been married 2 years and do not yet have joint accounts (we have a shared credit card that we put all our shared expenses on, then divvy the bill, and then have separate checking/savings/personal cards, etc). He is stable now and is in treatment & on medication and his prognosis looks good, but we are trying to prepare for the worst. From what I understand, any debts accrued by him during a manic episode would also be my responsibility as long as we are married, so just having separate accounts isn't enough to protect me financially if he goes into a manic spending binge. Is there a way for us to arrange it (with his consent while he is well, of course) so that I can stop him from accessing his bank accounts and credit cards if he gets really manic? What about if he wants to open a new credit card? If he does go into debt while manic and I am held responsible, would my retirement fund & my 529 for my kid be at risk? We live in GA. Thanks in advance. | ebju89i | ebjvwlu | 1,544,513,155 | 1,544,515,747 | 26 | 39 | As well as freezing his credit and direct depositing his paychecks where he cannot access, he may want to train himself to operate on a cash only basis. Leave the cards at home. Another thing to think about is wiping the account info stored on websites like amazon or iTunes. | Since there is not much that can be done legally here, you might want to consider posting in r/personalfinance the folks over there can tell you about all the non-legal options you have, such as credit freezes, spending and withdrawal limits, budgeting etc. | 0 | 2,592 | 1.5 |
a538wq | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | How can my husband & I protect ourselves financially from his spending during a manic episode? My husband was recently diagnosed with bipolar 1. We have been married 2 years and do not yet have joint accounts (we have a shared credit card that we put all our shared expenses on, then divvy the bill, and then have separate checking/savings/personal cards, etc). He is stable now and is in treatment & on medication and his prognosis looks good, but we are trying to prepare for the worst. From what I understand, any debts accrued by him during a manic episode would also be my responsibility as long as we are married, so just having separate accounts isn't enough to protect me financially if he goes into a manic spending binge. Is there a way for us to arrange it (with his consent while he is well, of course) so that I can stop him from accessing his bank accounts and credit cards if he gets really manic? What about if he wants to open a new credit card? If he does go into debt while manic and I am held responsible, would my retirement fund & my 529 for my kid be at risk? We live in GA. Thanks in advance. | ebk6rt2 | ebk5be8 | 1,544,534,288 | 1,544,532,477 | 7 | 4 | Everyone seems to want to go a bit harder, but a daily spending limit on all of his cards is pretty straightforward and can be overridden if needed quickly. That doesn't give you too much control nor him too much freedom. | I know that you’re asking about financials but do you have GCAL’s number? It’s a part of the National Alliance of Mental Illness. The number is 1-800-715-4225. If you husband ever has a mental health crisis, call them ASAP. They can refer to a Mental Health facility or send a team out to your location to provide services. They are very understanding! | 1 | 1,811 | 1.75 |
a538wq | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | How can my husband & I protect ourselves financially from his spending during a manic episode? My husband was recently diagnosed with bipolar 1. We have been married 2 years and do not yet have joint accounts (we have a shared credit card that we put all our shared expenses on, then divvy the bill, and then have separate checking/savings/personal cards, etc). He is stable now and is in treatment & on medication and his prognosis looks good, but we are trying to prepare for the worst. From what I understand, any debts accrued by him during a manic episode would also be my responsibility as long as we are married, so just having separate accounts isn't enough to protect me financially if he goes into a manic spending binge. Is there a way for us to arrange it (with his consent while he is well, of course) so that I can stop him from accessing his bank accounts and credit cards if he gets really manic? What about if he wants to open a new credit card? If he does go into debt while manic and I am held responsible, would my retirement fund & my 529 for my kid be at risk? We live in GA. Thanks in advance. | ebknqdy | ebk9o80 | 1,544,548,821 | 1,544,537,407 | 3 | 2 | The other redditors advice is probably best, but let me tell you how my friend prevents himself from spending too much. He went and opened an account at a bank with only one branch that was a few hours away, and set a % of his paycheck to go to it every two weeks...and then cut up the card. He doesnt know the account number or anything, so the only way for him to spend any of it would require him to take a day off of work and drive over there, which hes too lazy to do. Maybe you could try something like that? | simple give 20% of combined assests to him and the majority to yourself on a separate account. | 1 | 11,414 | 1.5 |
a538wq | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | How can my husband & I protect ourselves financially from his spending during a manic episode? My husband was recently diagnosed with bipolar 1. We have been married 2 years and do not yet have joint accounts (we have a shared credit card that we put all our shared expenses on, then divvy the bill, and then have separate checking/savings/personal cards, etc). He is stable now and is in treatment & on medication and his prognosis looks good, but we are trying to prepare for the worst. From what I understand, any debts accrued by him during a manic episode would also be my responsibility as long as we are married, so just having separate accounts isn't enough to protect me financially if he goes into a manic spending binge. Is there a way for us to arrange it (with his consent while he is well, of course) so that I can stop him from accessing his bank accounts and credit cards if he gets really manic? What about if he wants to open a new credit card? If he does go into debt while manic and I am held responsible, would my retirement fund & my 529 for my kid be at risk? We live in GA. Thanks in advance. | ebknqdy | ebkeegb | 1,544,548,821 | 1,544,541,700 | 3 | 2 | The other redditors advice is probably best, but let me tell you how my friend prevents himself from spending too much. He went and opened an account at a bank with only one branch that was a few hours away, and set a % of his paycheck to go to it every two weeks...and then cut up the card. He doesnt know the account number or anything, so the only way for him to spend any of it would require him to take a day off of work and drive over there, which hes too lazy to do. Maybe you could try something like that? | Most credit cards will allow you to lower the credit limit to something small; if you have good credit, your limits are probably higher than what you would want him to have access to during an episode. Just call the number on the back of the card and ask if you can lower the credit limit, non-premium cards can often go as low as $500. I would not use a credit card issued by the bank you use to keep your money in. | 1 | 7,121 | 1.5 |
zn0d0i | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | Can my mom have a say in my medical decisions even if I’m married? So my mom is a very selfish person I would say narcissistic tendencies, my dad has passed away but before he did I gave birth to my daughter while I was still on their insurance they basically left me and my husband alone to deal with our daughters medical conditions and my c-section because my dad was able to contain her. Now that my dad is gone, I am pregnant again, and I’m not on her insurance, my mom has become unreasonable and not very flexible on when I spend time with her. She has also made demands about my medical care, I am to have a c-section again. I am worried that while I am out and recovering she will try to make demands with nurses and say that I want something that I don’t or try saying that she has a right to make my medical decisions. How do I prevent this? Do I need a lawyer to make a legal document? Is my marriage certificate with my husband enough? Would hospital staff need a document proving she doesn’t make medical decisions for me? | j0enu5j | j0fo7zn | 1,671,156,899 | 1,671,177,942 | 14 | 16 | First off go preregister at hospital and tell them the only person besides you who has any say in any thing to do with you is your husband Also tell them about your mom and what she will try to do. Give warning, and let them know no matter what she says she has no rights to make any decisions for you. If you want you can even set up a approved visitors list, and they will not allow anyone in who you don't want. You can also do the same for anyone who calls to get info. That is all you need to do and they will handle the rest | My girlfriend was my emergency contact. Recently went to ER. My mom called in to try and get information, and they refused to give it to her. She was pissed. Like others have said, you tell her no. She has no legal right to your medical information. You just make sure your ER contact is updated with the hospitals or make sure they are aware to NOT tell your mom anything. If your mom is physically present with you at the hospital and you feel pressured, excuse yourself to the bathroom and let a nurse know how you feel. I understand it may be hard to say no in front of her. But you're allowed too | 0 | 21,043 | 1.142857 |
zn0d0i | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | Can my mom have a say in my medical decisions even if I’m married? So my mom is a very selfish person I would say narcissistic tendencies, my dad has passed away but before he did I gave birth to my daughter while I was still on their insurance they basically left me and my husband alone to deal with our daughters medical conditions and my c-section because my dad was able to contain her. Now that my dad is gone, I am pregnant again, and I’m not on her insurance, my mom has become unreasonable and not very flexible on when I spend time with her. She has also made demands about my medical care, I am to have a c-section again. I am worried that while I am out and recovering she will try to make demands with nurses and say that I want something that I don’t or try saying that she has a right to make my medical decisions. How do I prevent this? Do I need a lawyer to make a legal document? Is my marriage certificate with my husband enough? Would hospital staff need a document proving she doesn’t make medical decisions for me? | j0fcpfq | j0fo7zn | 1,671,169,581 | 1,671,177,942 | 5 | 16 | As you are 18+, and are capable of making your own decisions, you can prevent ANYONE (even your husband) from making any decisions on your behalf. You are NOT required to give the hospital any release information, although it is recommended that you get a living will, or give them an emergency contact. As long as you stipulate that no decisions can be made by people, whether it be your mother or your husband, children, aunts, uncles, godparents, ANYONE, the hospital is obligated to follow your directions. I believe that any medical decisions are then left to the doctor/surgeon. They want to respect your wishes, but may need to make life or death decisions on saving you or your baby, or try for both, in case the worse case scenario occurs. I think they try to go to your husband before going to anyone else, including the doctor, unless it's literally a last ditch decision. However, if YOU state (and may need to sign documents to this effect) that nobody is allowed to make those decisions, I think that it's then no longer a choice that your husband, or mother (in this case) is allowed to make for you. Talk to your husband, if you trust him and his decision making ability. Tell him that you don't want your mother involved. Talk to him about what you want to happen with the birth. A C-section? Natural birth? Painkillers? Mid-wife? Water birth? There's tons of choices out there, and your mother can't make you follow her wishes. It's not HER birth, or HER body. You can talk to your doctor as well, and see if there's any paperwork that you need to sign. Be clear on what YOU want, so that you can go give birth and feel safe. And make copies of every scrap of paperwork you sign. This way, if the hospital or doctor (or both) make any mistakes, you have a paper trail to refer back to. As long as your mother is supposed to be kept out of the procedure, and you have it in writing, then the hospital should be fully vested in preventing any accidents. And if they do fuck up, you can have them by the scrotum. Don't stress, just make sure your wishes are fully expressed and documented. Make sure that the nurses are also aware of your mother not being involved, they are sometimes more effective than the doctors, or even security. Make sure security is also aware. | My girlfriend was my emergency contact. Recently went to ER. My mom called in to try and get information, and they refused to give it to her. She was pissed. Like others have said, you tell her no. She has no legal right to your medical information. You just make sure your ER contact is updated with the hospitals or make sure they are aware to NOT tell your mom anything. If your mom is physically present with you at the hospital and you feel pressured, excuse yourself to the bathroom and let a nurse know how you feel. I understand it may be hard to say no in front of her. But you're allowed too | 0 | 8,361 | 3.2 |
zn0d0i | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | Can my mom have a say in my medical decisions even if I’m married? So my mom is a very selfish person I would say narcissistic tendencies, my dad has passed away but before he did I gave birth to my daughter while I was still on their insurance they basically left me and my husband alone to deal with our daughters medical conditions and my c-section because my dad was able to contain her. Now that my dad is gone, I am pregnant again, and I’m not on her insurance, my mom has become unreasonable and not very flexible on when I spend time with her. She has also made demands about my medical care, I am to have a c-section again. I am worried that while I am out and recovering she will try to make demands with nurses and say that I want something that I don’t or try saying that she has a right to make my medical decisions. How do I prevent this? Do I need a lawyer to make a legal document? Is my marriage certificate with my husband enough? Would hospital staff need a document proving she doesn’t make medical decisions for me? | j0ggyb2 | j0gcp3u | 1,671,198,575 | 1,671,196,378 | 7 | 6 | Don’t even tell her when the c section is scheduled. Register as private. Why is she even in your life? She sounds awful. | This is easy. Don’t invite her to the hospital. Don’t tell her which hospital you’re going to. Don’t tell her the date of the c-section. | 1 | 2,197 | 1.166667 |
zn0d0i | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | Can my mom have a say in my medical decisions even if I’m married? So my mom is a very selfish person I would say narcissistic tendencies, my dad has passed away but before he did I gave birth to my daughter while I was still on their insurance they basically left me and my husband alone to deal with our daughters medical conditions and my c-section because my dad was able to contain her. Now that my dad is gone, I am pregnant again, and I’m not on her insurance, my mom has become unreasonable and not very flexible on when I spend time with her. She has also made demands about my medical care, I am to have a c-section again. I am worried that while I am out and recovering she will try to make demands with nurses and say that I want something that I don’t or try saying that she has a right to make my medical decisions. How do I prevent this? Do I need a lawyer to make a legal document? Is my marriage certificate with my husband enough? Would hospital staff need a document proving she doesn’t make medical decisions for me? | j0fcpfq | j0gcp3u | 1,671,169,581 | 1,671,196,378 | 5 | 6 | As you are 18+, and are capable of making your own decisions, you can prevent ANYONE (even your husband) from making any decisions on your behalf. You are NOT required to give the hospital any release information, although it is recommended that you get a living will, or give them an emergency contact. As long as you stipulate that no decisions can be made by people, whether it be your mother or your husband, children, aunts, uncles, godparents, ANYONE, the hospital is obligated to follow your directions. I believe that any medical decisions are then left to the doctor/surgeon. They want to respect your wishes, but may need to make life or death decisions on saving you or your baby, or try for both, in case the worse case scenario occurs. I think they try to go to your husband before going to anyone else, including the doctor, unless it's literally a last ditch decision. However, if YOU state (and may need to sign documents to this effect) that nobody is allowed to make those decisions, I think that it's then no longer a choice that your husband, or mother (in this case) is allowed to make for you. Talk to your husband, if you trust him and his decision making ability. Tell him that you don't want your mother involved. Talk to him about what you want to happen with the birth. A C-section? Natural birth? Painkillers? Mid-wife? Water birth? There's tons of choices out there, and your mother can't make you follow her wishes. It's not HER birth, or HER body. You can talk to your doctor as well, and see if there's any paperwork that you need to sign. Be clear on what YOU want, so that you can go give birth and feel safe. And make copies of every scrap of paperwork you sign. This way, if the hospital or doctor (or both) make any mistakes, you have a paper trail to refer back to. As long as your mother is supposed to be kept out of the procedure, and you have it in writing, then the hospital should be fully vested in preventing any accidents. And if they do fuck up, you can have them by the scrotum. Don't stress, just make sure your wishes are fully expressed and documented. Make sure that the nurses are also aware of your mother not being involved, they are sometimes more effective than the doctors, or even security. Make sure security is also aware. | This is easy. Don’t invite her to the hospital. Don’t tell her which hospital you’re going to. Don’t tell her the date of the c-section. | 0 | 26,797 | 1.2 |
zn0d0i | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | Can my mom have a say in my medical decisions even if I’m married? So my mom is a very selfish person I would say narcissistic tendencies, my dad has passed away but before he did I gave birth to my daughter while I was still on their insurance they basically left me and my husband alone to deal with our daughters medical conditions and my c-section because my dad was able to contain her. Now that my dad is gone, I am pregnant again, and I’m not on her insurance, my mom has become unreasonable and not very flexible on when I spend time with her. She has also made demands about my medical care, I am to have a c-section again. I am worried that while I am out and recovering she will try to make demands with nurses and say that I want something that I don’t or try saying that she has a right to make my medical decisions. How do I prevent this? Do I need a lawyer to make a legal document? Is my marriage certificate with my husband enough? Would hospital staff need a document proving she doesn’t make medical decisions for me? | j0ggyb2 | j0fcpfq | 1,671,198,575 | 1,671,169,581 | 7 | 5 | Don’t even tell her when the c section is scheduled. Register as private. Why is she even in your life? She sounds awful. | As you are 18+, and are capable of making your own decisions, you can prevent ANYONE (even your husband) from making any decisions on your behalf. You are NOT required to give the hospital any release information, although it is recommended that you get a living will, or give them an emergency contact. As long as you stipulate that no decisions can be made by people, whether it be your mother or your husband, children, aunts, uncles, godparents, ANYONE, the hospital is obligated to follow your directions. I believe that any medical decisions are then left to the doctor/surgeon. They want to respect your wishes, but may need to make life or death decisions on saving you or your baby, or try for both, in case the worse case scenario occurs. I think they try to go to your husband before going to anyone else, including the doctor, unless it's literally a last ditch decision. However, if YOU state (and may need to sign documents to this effect) that nobody is allowed to make those decisions, I think that it's then no longer a choice that your husband, or mother (in this case) is allowed to make for you. Talk to your husband, if you trust him and his decision making ability. Tell him that you don't want your mother involved. Talk to him about what you want to happen with the birth. A C-section? Natural birth? Painkillers? Mid-wife? Water birth? There's tons of choices out there, and your mother can't make you follow her wishes. It's not HER birth, or HER body. You can talk to your doctor as well, and see if there's any paperwork that you need to sign. Be clear on what YOU want, so that you can go give birth and feel safe. And make copies of every scrap of paperwork you sign. This way, if the hospital or doctor (or both) make any mistakes, you have a paper trail to refer back to. As long as your mother is supposed to be kept out of the procedure, and you have it in writing, then the hospital should be fully vested in preventing any accidents. And if they do fuck up, you can have them by the scrotum. Don't stress, just make sure your wishes are fully expressed and documented. Make sure that the nurses are also aware of your mother not being involved, they are sometimes more effective than the doctors, or even security. Make sure security is also aware. | 1 | 28,994 | 1.4 |
zn0d0i | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | Can my mom have a say in my medical decisions even if I’m married? So my mom is a very selfish person I would say narcissistic tendencies, my dad has passed away but before he did I gave birth to my daughter while I was still on their insurance they basically left me and my husband alone to deal with our daughters medical conditions and my c-section because my dad was able to contain her. Now that my dad is gone, I am pregnant again, and I’m not on her insurance, my mom has become unreasonable and not very flexible on when I spend time with her. She has also made demands about my medical care, I am to have a c-section again. I am worried that while I am out and recovering she will try to make demands with nurses and say that I want something that I don’t or try saying that she has a right to make my medical decisions. How do I prevent this? Do I need a lawyer to make a legal document? Is my marriage certificate with my husband enough? Would hospital staff need a document proving she doesn’t make medical decisions for me? | j0ggyb2 | j0gcrgy | 1,671,198,575 | 1,671,196,414 | 7 | 3 | Don’t even tell her when the c section is scheduled. Register as private. Why is she even in your life? She sounds awful. | Cut off contact with your mother. Make the hospital you will be delivering in aware she is not allowed to visit. And perhaps consider making your husband your POA just in case things go south. | 1 | 2,161 | 2.333333 |
m39mme | legaladvice_train | 0.82 | My younger sister is on my mom’s account, she took everything out of the account the day she died, we live in Dallas TX. What can I do to get half of the money back from her. We have already asked her. I think out next step is to take her to court. Any thought | gqnpr93 | gqnozdl | 1,615,524,549 | 1,615,524,047 | 28 | 15 | Yeah you aren't entitled to any of it from a legal standpoint. If I was you, I'd appeal to my sister's sense of decency and fairness. Now, if your mom had any valuable possessions, life insurance, and/or property - the majority of that will go to your father if she died intestate. If she had a will, it'll be probated in accordance with her instructions. But as far as a joint account with your sister goes, she's on the account so you have no legal right to whatever was in it. | If she was on the account that means she can write checks and close the out without any recourse. | 1 | 502 | 1.866667 |
zsyfyg | legaladvice_train | 0.76 | What does "Parental Consent" mean in the context of emancipation in South Carolina, USA? I, (15 M), had some questions about the meaning of the term "parental consent" in the context of emancipation. Of the many requirements to be emancipated in South Carolina I have been told one of the most important is having "parental consent". What does that specifically mean? If one parent consents to an independent minor being emancipated but the other does not, would a judge accept it as "parental consent", or does it absolutely, always, mean that both parent's consent are required? How hard is it to become emancipated if you meet the other requirements but do not have the consent of the parents? | j1awai9 | j1aoko8 | 1,671,750,803 | 1,671,747,478 | 347 | 302 | Based on your responses here it seems you are being groomed by this “group of adults” to leave your family and rely on yourself. I don’t think emancipation will help with any of your mental health issues you claim to have (very unusual for someone at 15) as you have little to none life experience so there really is nothing to cause you stress in life from the sounds of it. Your best option is to get a job now and save until your 18. Move out and either go to college or find a higher paying job. Practice your religion at home in your room for now. I’m sure you can find far better solutions than emancipation. Also consider that emancipation will cause you a lot more stress and mental anguish than you currently may have. | First, consider that you're likely emancipating into absolutely debilitating, life ruining poverty. Landlords and housing offices are unlikely to rent to you due to your age (irrespective of emancipation status) and you're going to have an issue earning a living wage. Way, way too many people want emancipation as a way to fix a neglectful or abusive household. That isn't what it's for. The judge needs to consider why the emancipation is in the child's best interest. It's fine that the parent agree with the emancipation, but there are going to be real questions about who is going to support the kid financially once they're emancipated. Are both parents involved in your life? Do they both have some legal custody rights of you? If so, they're going to both need to consent. Is there a CPS history here? How much do you earn per month (keeping in mind that the answer probably needs to be above $3,000)? | 1 | 3,325 | 1.149007 |
zsyfyg | legaladvice_train | 0.76 | What does "Parental Consent" mean in the context of emancipation in South Carolina, USA? I, (15 M), had some questions about the meaning of the term "parental consent" in the context of emancipation. Of the many requirements to be emancipated in South Carolina I have been told one of the most important is having "parental consent". What does that specifically mean? If one parent consents to an independent minor being emancipated but the other does not, would a judge accept it as "parental consent", or does it absolutely, always, mean that both parent's consent are required? How hard is it to become emancipated if you meet the other requirements but do not have the consent of the parents? | j1awai9 | j1aoiiz | 1,671,750,803 | 1,671,747,452 | 347 | 144 | Based on your responses here it seems you are being groomed by this “group of adults” to leave your family and rely on yourself. I don’t think emancipation will help with any of your mental health issues you claim to have (very unusual for someone at 15) as you have little to none life experience so there really is nothing to cause you stress in life from the sounds of it. Your best option is to get a job now and save until your 18. Move out and either go to college or find a higher paying job. Practice your religion at home in your room for now. I’m sure you can find far better solutions than emancipation. Also consider that emancipation will cause you a lot more stress and mental anguish than you currently may have. | Emancipation is not easy. First, you must be 16. You also need to be able to completely financially provide for yourself and have a valid reason for needing emancipation. Parental consent is not always necessary. They will be notified and have to option to make their case against it. It’s up to the judge in the end. | 1 | 3,351 | 2.409722 |
zsyfyg | legaladvice_train | 0.76 | What does "Parental Consent" mean in the context of emancipation in South Carolina, USA? I, (15 M), had some questions about the meaning of the term "parental consent" in the context of emancipation. Of the many requirements to be emancipated in South Carolina I have been told one of the most important is having "parental consent". What does that specifically mean? If one parent consents to an independent minor being emancipated but the other does not, would a judge accept it as "parental consent", or does it absolutely, always, mean that both parent's consent are required? How hard is it to become emancipated if you meet the other requirements but do not have the consent of the parents? | j1aoko8 | j1aoiiz | 1,671,747,478 | 1,671,747,452 | 302 | 144 | First, consider that you're likely emancipating into absolutely debilitating, life ruining poverty. Landlords and housing offices are unlikely to rent to you due to your age (irrespective of emancipation status) and you're going to have an issue earning a living wage. Way, way too many people want emancipation as a way to fix a neglectful or abusive household. That isn't what it's for. The judge needs to consider why the emancipation is in the child's best interest. It's fine that the parent agree with the emancipation, but there are going to be real questions about who is going to support the kid financially once they're emancipated. Are both parents involved in your life? Do they both have some legal custody rights of you? If so, they're going to both need to consent. Is there a CPS history here? How much do you earn per month (keeping in mind that the answer probably needs to be above $3,000)? | Emancipation is not easy. First, you must be 16. You also need to be able to completely financially provide for yourself and have a valid reason for needing emancipation. Parental consent is not always necessary. They will be notified and have to option to make their case against it. It’s up to the judge in the end. | 1 | 26 | 2.097222 |
zo0chw | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | HELP! My landlord added a 1300 charge to our apt, no reason why, and is saying if we don’t pay she will evict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do? | j0k7f5t | j0k6l15 | 1,671,260,730 | 1,671,260,096 | 200 | 8 | After receiving the letter did you call the manager and say something like "hi, we got a letter saying that we owe $1300 and we are not sure what that is referencing as we are all up to date on our rent?" | Did a quick google check and found this: “I want to increase the rent on a unit. What do I need to do? If your tenant has a lease and you do not have an escalator clause in it, you must wait until the end of the lease and then may raise the rent by giving 30 days notice or signing a new lease. If your tenant is a tenant-at-will, you must give them at least 30 days notice before raising the rent.” https://www.somervillema.gov/departments/ospcd/housing/faqs What are my rights as a tenant at will in Massachusetts? In a tenancy-at-will the tenant pays the agreed-upon rent each month for an indefinite period of time. Either the landlord or the tenant can decide to end the tenancy by giving the other party notice either 30 days or one month before the due date of the next rent payment, whichever is longer. How much can a landlord legally raise the rent in Massachusetts? Rent Increases: There is no legal limit to the amount of rent a landlord can charge. However, in order for the rent increase to be valid, the landlord must provide the tenant proper notice of the raise in rent and the tenant must agree to it (signs the lease with the new monthly rent). | 1 | 634 | 25 |
zo0chw | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | HELP! My landlord added a 1300 charge to our apt, no reason why, and is saying if we don’t pay she will evict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do? | j0k65yb | j0k7f5t | 1,671,259,780 | 1,671,260,730 | 2 | 200 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | After receiving the letter did you call the manager and say something like "hi, we got a letter saying that we owe $1300 and we are not sure what that is referencing as we are all up to date on our rent?" | 0 | 950 | 100 |
zo0chw | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | HELP! My landlord added a 1300 charge to our apt, no reason why, and is saying if we don’t pay she will evict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do? | j0kz6jb | j0k6l15 | 1,671,282,989 | 1,671,260,096 | 131 | 8 | Massachusetts has really strong tenant protections. Eviction for non-payment requires 14 days notice. The landlord gave you improper notice, of only two days, and any suit brought following this notice will get immediately tossed out. It seems like this landlord is fairly incompetent. I would gather your rent records from the beginning of the tenancy. Then, inform the landlord that your records indicate the rent is fully paid, and that they are in error. Ask to see their ledger. If the landlord won't correct the error, call the Somerville Office of Housing Stability (OHS) at: 617-625-6600 ext. 2581. They have the ability to exert pressure on the landlord and should help you get this fixed. | Did a quick google check and found this: “I want to increase the rent on a unit. What do I need to do? If your tenant has a lease and you do not have an escalator clause in it, you must wait until the end of the lease and then may raise the rent by giving 30 days notice or signing a new lease. If your tenant is a tenant-at-will, you must give them at least 30 days notice before raising the rent.” https://www.somervillema.gov/departments/ospcd/housing/faqs What are my rights as a tenant at will in Massachusetts? In a tenancy-at-will the tenant pays the agreed-upon rent each month for an indefinite period of time. Either the landlord or the tenant can decide to end the tenancy by giving the other party notice either 30 days or one month before the due date of the next rent payment, whichever is longer. How much can a landlord legally raise the rent in Massachusetts? Rent Increases: There is no legal limit to the amount of rent a landlord can charge. However, in order for the rent increase to be valid, the landlord must provide the tenant proper notice of the raise in rent and the tenant must agree to it (signs the lease with the new monthly rent). | 1 | 22,893 | 16.375 |
zo0chw | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | HELP! My landlord added a 1300 charge to our apt, no reason why, and is saying if we don’t pay she will evict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do? | j0k65yb | j0kz6jb | 1,671,259,780 | 1,671,282,989 | 2 | 131 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Massachusetts has really strong tenant protections. Eviction for non-payment requires 14 days notice. The landlord gave you improper notice, of only two days, and any suit brought following this notice will get immediately tossed out. It seems like this landlord is fairly incompetent. I would gather your rent records from the beginning of the tenancy. Then, inform the landlord that your records indicate the rent is fully paid, and that they are in error. Ask to see their ledger. If the landlord won't correct the error, call the Somerville Office of Housing Stability (OHS) at: 617-625-6600 ext. 2581. They have the ability to exert pressure on the landlord and should help you get this fixed. | 0 | 23,209 | 65.5 |
zo0chw | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | HELP! My landlord added a 1300 charge to our apt, no reason why, and is saying if we don’t pay she will evict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do? | j0k6l15 | j0l7oin | 1,671,260,096 | 1,671,287,763 | 8 | 21 | Did a quick google check and found this: “I want to increase the rent on a unit. What do I need to do? If your tenant has a lease and you do not have an escalator clause in it, you must wait until the end of the lease and then may raise the rent by giving 30 days notice or signing a new lease. If your tenant is a tenant-at-will, you must give them at least 30 days notice before raising the rent.” https://www.somervillema.gov/departments/ospcd/housing/faqs What are my rights as a tenant at will in Massachusetts? In a tenancy-at-will the tenant pays the agreed-upon rent each month for an indefinite period of time. Either the landlord or the tenant can decide to end the tenancy by giving the other party notice either 30 days or one month before the due date of the next rent payment, whichever is longer. How much can a landlord legally raise the rent in Massachusetts? Rent Increases: There is no legal limit to the amount of rent a landlord can charge. However, in order for the rent increase to be valid, the landlord must provide the tenant proper notice of the raise in rent and the tenant must agree to it (signs the lease with the new monthly rent). | Step #1 is to talk to your landlord directly, in person if possible, and ask what the charge is for. Until you do that, no one can really provide much insight. There's no way to know if it's an error, to cover damage, etc. | 0 | 27,667 | 2.625 |
zo0chw | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | HELP! My landlord added a 1300 charge to our apt, no reason why, and is saying if we don’t pay she will evict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do? | j0k65yb | j0l7oin | 1,671,259,780 | 1,671,287,763 | 2 | 21 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Step #1 is to talk to your landlord directly, in person if possible, and ask what the charge is for. Until you do that, no one can really provide much insight. There's no way to know if it's an error, to cover damage, etc. | 0 | 27,983 | 10.5 |
zo0chw | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | HELP! My landlord added a 1300 charge to our apt, no reason why, and is saying if we don’t pay she will evict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do? | j0k65yb | j0k6l15 | 1,671,259,780 | 1,671,260,096 | 2 | 8 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Did a quick google check and found this: “I want to increase the rent on a unit. What do I need to do? If your tenant has a lease and you do not have an escalator clause in it, you must wait until the end of the lease and then may raise the rent by giving 30 days notice or signing a new lease. If your tenant is a tenant-at-will, you must give them at least 30 days notice before raising the rent.” https://www.somervillema.gov/departments/ospcd/housing/faqs What are my rights as a tenant at will in Massachusetts? In a tenancy-at-will the tenant pays the agreed-upon rent each month for an indefinite period of time. Either the landlord or the tenant can decide to end the tenancy by giving the other party notice either 30 days or one month before the due date of the next rent payment, whichever is longer. How much can a landlord legally raise the rent in Massachusetts? Rent Increases: There is no legal limit to the amount of rent a landlord can charge. However, in order for the rent increase to be valid, the landlord must provide the tenant proper notice of the raise in rent and the tenant must agree to it (signs the lease with the new monthly rent). | 0 | 316 | 4 |
zo0chw | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | HELP! My landlord added a 1300 charge to our apt, no reason why, and is saying if we don’t pay she will evict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do? | j0mf0re | j0k65yb | 1,671,306,448 | 1,671,259,780 | 7 | 2 | I wouldn’t freak out at all. They can’t just spring any charges on you that we’re not on the lease. Even if they are a new landlord… they should know. If it wasn’t on your lease, just chill. Now, you do want to have your records together. The original lease you signed, any subleases and receipts when it comes to your paid rent. You might also want to read through your lease to familiarize yourself with the terms. You want to keep whatever letters or emails this person sends you. I guess like others are saying, reach out to them and ask for more information on why they’re charging this. Any communication that is written is best (email/text) for these types of situations. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 46,668 | 3.5 |
zo0chw | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | HELP! My landlord added a 1300 charge to our apt, no reason why, and is saying if we don’t pay she will evict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do? | j0lv3l8 | j0mf0re | 1,671,298,203 | 1,671,306,448 | 2 | 7 | Check and see if your state has maximum rent increase laws. If your landlord increased your rent by $1,300, they could be violating local laws for maximum rent increase. | I wouldn’t freak out at all. They can’t just spring any charges on you that we’re not on the lease. Even if they are a new landlord… they should know. If it wasn’t on your lease, just chill. Now, you do want to have your records together. The original lease you signed, any subleases and receipts when it comes to your paid rent. You might also want to read through your lease to familiarize yourself with the terms. You want to keep whatever letters or emails this person sends you. I guess like others are saying, reach out to them and ask for more information on why they’re charging this. Any communication that is written is best (email/text) for these types of situations. | 0 | 8,245 | 3.5 |
zo0chw | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | HELP! My landlord added a 1300 charge to our apt, no reason why, and is saying if we don’t pay she will evict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do? | j0k65yb | j0mixdj | 1,671,259,780 | 1,671,308,113 | 2 | 4 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Join whatever tenant Facebook group exists for the Boston area and read through all the posts and advice. Get a paralegal and pay the consultation fee for their advice—it’ll be around $200. My partner and I got fucked over by a landlord when we first got together. Many years later a second landlord decided to evict us to get more money and this time we were prepared. Learn your rights and fight back, politely, if you think they’re being unfair. | 0 | 48,333 | 2 |
zo0chw | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | HELP! My landlord added a 1300 charge to our apt, no reason why, and is saying if we don’t pay she will evict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do? | j0lv3l8 | j0mixdj | 1,671,298,203 | 1,671,308,113 | 2 | 4 | Check and see if your state has maximum rent increase laws. If your landlord increased your rent by $1,300, they could be violating local laws for maximum rent increase. | Join whatever tenant Facebook group exists for the Boston area and read through all the posts and advice. Get a paralegal and pay the consultation fee for their advice—it’ll be around $200. My partner and I got fucked over by a landlord when we first got together. Many years later a second landlord decided to evict us to get more money and this time we were prepared. Learn your rights and fight back, politely, if you think they’re being unfair. | 0 | 9,910 | 2 |
nase36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Landlord evicting us for “squatting” after taking our rent for 4 months and giving us the key So, we’ve had a number of issues with the property management company we are renting through. Student rental company in a college town. They’ve been awful about fixing upkeep issues in the house. Everything from the pipes in our house getting frozen and no one coming to fix them for nearly two weeks after us asking multiple times for an update about when someone was coming because we had been without water, they replied with “we have 188 properties to manage and you are on a long list”. Only one of many issues. Most serious though, is the tentants on the other side of the duplex. It is a weekly occurrence that we have to call the police on them for violent screaming and banging around yelling about drug use in their home. It feels very unsafe living next to that and the police even warned us that their son was violent and everytime we see them or interact they are heavily intoxicated. We have a huge list of incidients and have been told multiple times that they are moving forward with evicting the neighbors but it hasn’t happened and it’s been almost 5 months since living here. They’ve been unresponsive and unwilling to communicate with us about this issue. We both work and school from home so it directly effects our wellbeing and ability to work productively when we are having constant problems with the neighbors. We had my boyfriends mom call to try to resolve it and she asked if they could put us elsewhere while they resolve the tentant issue on the other side. She was told to have my boyfriend call a specific person to get a release form so she can take over the siruationz He called, was asked to send our copy of the lease over to them which he did, was put on hold, then told that because no one on their end had signed a copy of the lease that we were squatting and had to vacat or they would get someone to remove us. We have been paying rent to them on time every month (we have receipts) and they gave us the keys. We signed the lease, and we’re told that they would sign everything else that needed to be signed. We had even asked a legal advisor if them not signing the lease was an issue and she was positive that because they had almost definitely signed their copy we probably couldn’t break the lease because of that signature not being there. We are tired of dealing with this management company anyway and are taking this as an opportunity to get out of here. If we were to pursue this in court though, would it be possible to get our rent money for the past 4 months back if they’re claiming the lease wasn’t valid anyway? | gxv9le0 | gxvb5es | 1,620,835,824 | 1,620,836,464 | 5 | 109 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. | You are not squatting, and are legal tenants, whether or not the lease is valid. Even if they are correct that the lease is not valid because they never signed it (not necessarily true), they gave you the keys and have been accepting your rent. You are, at the very least, entitled to the protections afforded to month-to-month tenants in your state. If you want to move out, and they want you to move out, it should be possible to resolve this amicably. Make sure it is documented in writing that your tenancy is terminated, and you owe no further payment (and of course, make sure they sign it this time). You don't want them coming after you for unpaid rent in a few months if they can't find someone else to rent the unit and decide your old lease is valid after all. You are not entitled to get your rent back for the months you lived there. You got what you paid for. | 0 | 640 | 21.8 |
nase36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Landlord evicting us for “squatting” after taking our rent for 4 months and giving us the key So, we’ve had a number of issues with the property management company we are renting through. Student rental company in a college town. They’ve been awful about fixing upkeep issues in the house. Everything from the pipes in our house getting frozen and no one coming to fix them for nearly two weeks after us asking multiple times for an update about when someone was coming because we had been without water, they replied with “we have 188 properties to manage and you are on a long list”. Only one of many issues. Most serious though, is the tentants on the other side of the duplex. It is a weekly occurrence that we have to call the police on them for violent screaming and banging around yelling about drug use in their home. It feels very unsafe living next to that and the police even warned us that their son was violent and everytime we see them or interact they are heavily intoxicated. We have a huge list of incidients and have been told multiple times that they are moving forward with evicting the neighbors but it hasn’t happened and it’s been almost 5 months since living here. They’ve been unresponsive and unwilling to communicate with us about this issue. We both work and school from home so it directly effects our wellbeing and ability to work productively when we are having constant problems with the neighbors. We had my boyfriends mom call to try to resolve it and she asked if they could put us elsewhere while they resolve the tentant issue on the other side. She was told to have my boyfriend call a specific person to get a release form so she can take over the siruationz He called, was asked to send our copy of the lease over to them which he did, was put on hold, then told that because no one on their end had signed a copy of the lease that we were squatting and had to vacat or they would get someone to remove us. We have been paying rent to them on time every month (we have receipts) and they gave us the keys. We signed the lease, and we’re told that they would sign everything else that needed to be signed. We had even asked a legal advisor if them not signing the lease was an issue and she was positive that because they had almost definitely signed their copy we probably couldn’t break the lease because of that signature not being there. We are tired of dealing with this management company anyway and are taking this as an opportunity to get out of here. If we were to pursue this in court though, would it be possible to get our rent money for the past 4 months back if they’re claiming the lease wasn’t valid anyway? | gxvb5es | gxv9gke | 1,620,836,464 | 1,620,835,768 | 109 | 3 | You are not squatting, and are legal tenants, whether or not the lease is valid. Even if they are correct that the lease is not valid because they never signed it (not necessarily true), they gave you the keys and have been accepting your rent. You are, at the very least, entitled to the protections afforded to month-to-month tenants in your state. If you want to move out, and they want you to move out, it should be possible to resolve this amicably. Make sure it is documented in writing that your tenancy is terminated, and you owe no further payment (and of course, make sure they sign it this time). You don't want them coming after you for unpaid rent in a few months if they can't find someone else to rent the unit and decide your old lease is valid after all. You are not entitled to get your rent back for the months you lived there. You got what you paid for. | ---
> http://imgur.com/a/myIAb
---
*I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*
---
**It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**
---
***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***
---
Author: /u/MommySauce
Title: **Landlord evicting us for “squatting” after taking our rent for 4 months and giving us the key**
Original Post:
> So, we’ve had a number of issues with the property management company we are renting through. Student rental company in a college town. They’ve been awful about fixing upkeep issues in the house. Everything from the pipes in our house getting frozen and no one coming to fix them for nearly two weeks after us asking multiple times for an update about when someone was coming because we had been without water, they replied with “we have 188 properties to manage and you are on a long list”. > > Only one of many issues. Most serious though, is the tentants on the other side of the duplex. It is a weekly occurrence that we have to call the police on them for violent screaming and banging around yelling about drug use in their home. It feels very unsafe living next to that and the police even warned us that their son was violent and everytime we see them or interact they are heavily intoxicated. We have a huge list of incidients and have been told multiple times that they are moving forward with evicting the neighbors but it hasn’t happened and it’s been almost 5 months since living here. > > They’ve been unresponsive and unwilling to communicate with us about this issue. We both work and school from home so it directly effects our wellbeing and ability to work productively when we are having constant problems with the neighbors. We had my boyfriends mom call to try to resolve it and she asked if they could put us elsewhere while they resolve the tentant issue on the other side. She was told to have my boyfriend call a specific person to get a release form so she can take over the siruationz > > He called, was asked to send our copy of the lease over to them which he did, was put on hold, then told that because no one on their end had signed a copy of the lease that we were squatting and had to vacat or they would get someone to remove us. We have been paying rent to them on time every month (we have receipts) and they gave us the keys. We signed the lease, and we’re told that they would sign everything else that needed to be signed. We had even asked a legal advisor if them not signing the lease was an issue and she was positive that because they had almost definitely signed their copy we probably couldn’t break the lease because of that signature not being there. > > We are tired of dealing with this management company anyway and are taking this as an opportunity to get out of here. If we were to pursue this in court though, would it be possible to get our rent money for the past 4 months back if they’re claiming the lease wasn’t valid anyway?
---
LocationBot 4.999988713 83/601rds | Report Issues | >!TdUO5NmMWlXWXJFcjJzZ!< | 1 | 696 | 36.333333 |
nase36 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Landlord evicting us for “squatting” after taking our rent for 4 months and giving us the key So, we’ve had a number of issues with the property management company we are renting through. Student rental company in a college town. They’ve been awful about fixing upkeep issues in the house. Everything from the pipes in our house getting frozen and no one coming to fix them for nearly two weeks after us asking multiple times for an update about when someone was coming because we had been without water, they replied with “we have 188 properties to manage and you are on a long list”. Only one of many issues. Most serious though, is the tentants on the other side of the duplex. It is a weekly occurrence that we have to call the police on them for violent screaming and banging around yelling about drug use in their home. It feels very unsafe living next to that and the police even warned us that their son was violent and everytime we see them or interact they are heavily intoxicated. We have a huge list of incidients and have been told multiple times that they are moving forward with evicting the neighbors but it hasn’t happened and it’s been almost 5 months since living here. They’ve been unresponsive and unwilling to communicate with us about this issue. We both work and school from home so it directly effects our wellbeing and ability to work productively when we are having constant problems with the neighbors. We had my boyfriends mom call to try to resolve it and she asked if they could put us elsewhere while they resolve the tentant issue on the other side. She was told to have my boyfriend call a specific person to get a release form so she can take over the siruationz He called, was asked to send our copy of the lease over to them which he did, was put on hold, then told that because no one on their end had signed a copy of the lease that we were squatting and had to vacat or they would get someone to remove us. We have been paying rent to them on time every month (we have receipts) and they gave us the keys. We signed the lease, and we’re told that they would sign everything else that needed to be signed. We had even asked a legal advisor if them not signing the lease was an issue and she was positive that because they had almost definitely signed their copy we probably couldn’t break the lease because of that signature not being there. We are tired of dealing with this management company anyway and are taking this as an opportunity to get out of here. If we were to pursue this in court though, would it be possible to get our rent money for the past 4 months back if they’re claiming the lease wasn’t valid anyway? | gxv9le0 | gxv9gke | 1,620,835,824 | 1,620,835,768 | 5 | 3 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. | ---
> http://imgur.com/a/myIAb
---
*I am a bot whose sole purpose is to improve the timeliness and accuracy of responses in this subreddit.*
---
**It appears you forgot to include your location in the title or body of your post. Please update the body of your original post to include this information.**
---
***Do NOT delete this post - Instead, simply edit the post with the requested information.***
---
Author: /u/MommySauce
Title: **Landlord evicting us for “squatting” after taking our rent for 4 months and giving us the key**
Original Post:
> So, we’ve had a number of issues with the property management company we are renting through. Student rental company in a college town. They’ve been awful about fixing upkeep issues in the house. Everything from the pipes in our house getting frozen and no one coming to fix them for nearly two weeks after us asking multiple times for an update about when someone was coming because we had been without water, they replied with “we have 188 properties to manage and you are on a long list”. > > Only one of many issues. Most serious though, is the tentants on the other side of the duplex. It is a weekly occurrence that we have to call the police on them for violent screaming and banging around yelling about drug use in their home. It feels very unsafe living next to that and the police even warned us that their son was violent and everytime we see them or interact they are heavily intoxicated. We have a huge list of incidients and have been told multiple times that they are moving forward with evicting the neighbors but it hasn’t happened and it’s been almost 5 months since living here. > > They’ve been unresponsive and unwilling to communicate with us about this issue. We both work and school from home so it directly effects our wellbeing and ability to work productively when we are having constant problems with the neighbors. We had my boyfriends mom call to try to resolve it and she asked if they could put us elsewhere while they resolve the tentant issue on the other side. She was told to have my boyfriend call a specific person to get a release form so she can take over the siruationz > > He called, was asked to send our copy of the lease over to them which he did, was put on hold, then told that because no one on their end had signed a copy of the lease that we were squatting and had to vacat or they would get someone to remove us. We have been paying rent to them on time every month (we have receipts) and they gave us the keys. We signed the lease, and we’re told that they would sign everything else that needed to be signed. We had even asked a legal advisor if them not signing the lease was an issue and she was positive that because they had almost definitely signed their copy we probably couldn’t break the lease because of that signature not being there. > > We are tired of dealing with this management company anyway and are taking this as an opportunity to get out of here. If we were to pursue this in court though, would it be possible to get our rent money for the past 4 months back if they’re claiming the lease wasn’t valid anyway?
---
LocationBot 4.999988713 83/601rds | Report Issues | >!TdUO5NmMWlXWXJFcjJzZ!< | 1 | 56 | 1.666667 |
4stcoc | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida. | d5c3ov6 | d5c4wkc | 1,468,513,005 | 1,468,514,534 | 8 | 64 | Did she trademark the finace's last name? Or the ex-wife maiden name? | Your step daughter does not have a trademark in the ex wife's name. She may have registered as if she does, but that means nothing. Trademarks arise through use of the mark in actual real commerce. Your step daughter has committed fraud. Look at what she signed to obtain the registration, it requires an oath under penalty of perjury. Her lawyer should be disbarred. This won't end well for her. | 0 | 1,529 | 8 |
4stcoc | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida. | d5cd4fi | d5cc0cw | 1,468,524,954 | 1,468,523,522 | 36 | 24 | >Our location is the state of Florida. Of course. | The ex-wife can file a petition with the USPTO to cancel the trademark registration. 15 USC 1052(c) bars registration of the name of any living person without their written consent. | 1 | 1,432 | 1.5 |
4stcoc | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida. | d5cd204 | d5cd4fi | 1,468,524,865 | 1,468,524,954 | 14 | 36 | Your stepdaughter is crazy. Was this her way at "getting back" at her fiance's ex wife? For what, being married to him first? I am not a lawyer, but in addition to the fact that she can't trademark someone else's name, she's harassing this poor woman for no reason other than she used to be married to someone. If I was the ex-wife, I'd sue the pants off of your stepdaughter for whatever I could and/or get some form of a restraining order. She will most certainly lose her lawsuit and have to pay ex-wife's legal fees. If ex-wife counter sues, your stepdaughter will almost certainly lose that case too. I think your stepdaughter needs mental help... | >Our location is the state of Florida. Of course. | 0 | 89 | 2.571429 |
4stcoc | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida. | d5cd4fi | d5c3ov6 | 1,468,524,954 | 1,468,513,005 | 36 | 8 | >Our location is the state of Florida. Of course. | Did she trademark the finace's last name? Or the ex-wife maiden name? | 1 | 11,949 | 4.5 |
4stcoc | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida. | d5cityx | d5cc0cw | 1,468,532,691 | 1,468,523,522 | 31 | 24 | Has your stepdaughter ever shown other signs of being a fucking crazy person? Other forms of harassment or anything like that towards others, or past legal trouble that was her fault? What the hell was she thinking by trademarking this other woman's name as her business? There is nothing in it for her, except the short lived satisfaction of irritating this woman, followed by (what I'm assuming will be) lots and lots of legal fees and explaining herself to a court. Also, who on earth would say to themselves "you trademarked my ex wife's name as your own business, and then sued her for using her own name. I'm going to marry you!" | The ex-wife can file a petition with the USPTO to cancel the trademark registration. 15 USC 1052(c) bars registration of the name of any living person without their written consent. | 1 | 9,169 | 1.291667 |
4stcoc | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida. | d5cd204 | d5cityx | 1,468,524,865 | 1,468,532,691 | 14 | 31 | Your stepdaughter is crazy. Was this her way at "getting back" at her fiance's ex wife? For what, being married to him first? I am not a lawyer, but in addition to the fact that she can't trademark someone else's name, she's harassing this poor woman for no reason other than she used to be married to someone. If I was the ex-wife, I'd sue the pants off of your stepdaughter for whatever I could and/or get some form of a restraining order. She will most certainly lose her lawsuit and have to pay ex-wife's legal fees. If ex-wife counter sues, your stepdaughter will almost certainly lose that case too. I think your stepdaughter needs mental help... | Has your stepdaughter ever shown other signs of being a fucking crazy person? Other forms of harassment or anything like that towards others, or past legal trouble that was her fault? What the hell was she thinking by trademarking this other woman's name as her business? There is nothing in it for her, except the short lived satisfaction of irritating this woman, followed by (what I'm assuming will be) lots and lots of legal fees and explaining herself to a court. Also, who on earth would say to themselves "you trademarked my ex wife's name as your own business, and then sued her for using her own name. I'm going to marry you!" | 0 | 7,826 | 2.214286 |
4stcoc | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida. | d5cityx | d5cex75 | 1,468,532,691 | 1,468,527,410 | 31 | 11 | Has your stepdaughter ever shown other signs of being a fucking crazy person? Other forms of harassment or anything like that towards others, or past legal trouble that was her fault? What the hell was she thinking by trademarking this other woman's name as her business? There is nothing in it for her, except the short lived satisfaction of irritating this woman, followed by (what I'm assuming will be) lots and lots of legal fees and explaining herself to a court. Also, who on earth would say to themselves "you trademarked my ex wife's name as your own business, and then sued her for using her own name. I'm going to marry you!" | This is going to cost your stepdaughter a fortune in legal fees when they courts make her pay for the ex's attorneys fees. I hope she has time to spare and money to burn. | 1 | 5,281 | 2.818182 |
4stcoc | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida. | d5cityx | d5c3ov6 | 1,468,532,691 | 1,468,513,005 | 31 | 8 | Has your stepdaughter ever shown other signs of being a fucking crazy person? Other forms of harassment or anything like that towards others, or past legal trouble that was her fault? What the hell was she thinking by trademarking this other woman's name as her business? There is nothing in it for her, except the short lived satisfaction of irritating this woman, followed by (what I'm assuming will be) lots and lots of legal fees and explaining herself to a court. Also, who on earth would say to themselves "you trademarked my ex wife's name as your own business, and then sued her for using her own name. I'm going to marry you!" | Did she trademark the finace's last name? Or the ex-wife maiden name? | 1 | 19,686 | 3.875 |
4stcoc | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida. | d5cc0cw | d5c3ov6 | 1,468,523,522 | 1,468,513,005 | 24 | 8 | The ex-wife can file a petition with the USPTO to cancel the trademark registration. 15 USC 1052(c) bars registration of the name of any living person without their written consent. | Did she trademark the finace's last name? Or the ex-wife maiden name? | 1 | 10,517 | 3 |
4stcoc | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida. | d5cd204 | d5c3ov6 | 1,468,524,865 | 1,468,513,005 | 14 | 8 | Your stepdaughter is crazy. Was this her way at "getting back" at her fiance's ex wife? For what, being married to him first? I am not a lawyer, but in addition to the fact that she can't trademark someone else's name, she's harassing this poor woman for no reason other than she used to be married to someone. If I was the ex-wife, I'd sue the pants off of your stepdaughter for whatever I could and/or get some form of a restraining order. She will most certainly lose her lawsuit and have to pay ex-wife's legal fees. If ex-wife counter sues, your stepdaughter will almost certainly lose that case too. I think your stepdaughter needs mental help... | Did she trademark the finace's last name? Or the ex-wife maiden name? | 1 | 11,860 | 1.75 |
4stcoc | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida. | d5cvy77 | d5cex75 | 1,468,553,813 | 1,468,527,410 | 13 | 11 | Honestly, ,maybe reddit should come up with a legaladvice subreddit just for Florida. | This is going to cost your stepdaughter a fortune in legal fees when they courts make her pay for the ex's attorneys fees. I hope she has time to spare and money to burn. | 1 | 26,403 | 1.181818 |
4stcoc | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida. | d5c3ov6 | d5cvy77 | 1,468,513,005 | 1,468,553,813 | 8 | 13 | Did she trademark the finace's last name? Or the ex-wife maiden name? | Honestly, ,maybe reddit should come up with a legaladvice subreddit just for Florida. | 0 | 40,808 | 1.625 |
4stcoc | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida. | d5c3ov6 | d5cex75 | 1,468,513,005 | 1,468,527,410 | 8 | 11 | Did she trademark the finace's last name? Or the ex-wife maiden name? | This is going to cost your stepdaughter a fortune in legal fees when they courts make her pay for the ex's attorneys fees. I hope she has time to spare and money to burn. | 0 | 14,405 | 1.375 |
7v865d | legaladvice_train | 0.85 | (Utah) Found out yesterday my sister has endured domestic violence for years; need help knowing how to dispose properly of a gun in the house My sister told me yesterday that she called the cops on her husband who was in a violent rage. He did not hurt her or her two kids (ages 5 and 2.5) but physically destroyed several things around the house before she called the police. He was arrested and charged with domestic battery and destruction of property. There is currently a restraining order on him to stay away from her & the kids until his court hearing Monday. I had no idea the extent of it because she kept it all from me (I live several states away so it wasn’t all that difficult), but apparently his anger issues and destructive tendencies have been a reoccurring problem for basically their entire relationship (about 4 years). So this has not been a one-time incident, but rather hallmark DV over the course of several years. Her husband has a gun (my sister thinks it’s a Ruger 9mm but I don’t know for sure) that my dad sold him within the state of Utah a couple years ago. According to my dad, no paperwork/registration was needed for a gun sale of that nature in the state of Utah. During the course of the DV, he would often threaten to shoot himself or harm himself with said gun. My sister told me she would hide it in various places around the house to keep him from getting to it, and would keep the ammo in a completely separate location from the gun. (I know how incredibly dangerous that is with two young kids, even if gun/ammo are separated. If I would have known...) She is incredibly fortunate (if that’s even the word to use in this kind of situation) that no one has been seriously injured or hurt because of the gun [yet]. I know she needs to get the gun out of her house ASAP, but I also know that she needs to make sure it is 100% above the table and also won’t have any repercussions on any future custody/divorce proceedings that could somehow weaken her case or chances at getting full custody of her child. A few questions: 1. What’s the best way to get rid of this gun? 2. Would there be any potential repercussions in divorce/legal proceedings if she sold a gun that was his? 3. Can she even sell it? Not having paperwork for a gun sale or not having to register it at all just seems really weird to me, but I know nothing about gun laws. 4. In the meantime, if she isn’t able to get rid of it altogether, can she give it to a trusted friend for safekeeping until she can speak with a lawyer and figure out how to proceed? He is a legal US resident but does not have citizenship (I don’t know whether this affects anything, gun-wise or otherwise). | dtq7njr | dtq7qyf | 1,517,766,960 | 1,517,767,058 | 10 | 58 | Under federal law, there's no paperwork requirement to sell or give a firearm to another private party. There may be state law requirements, but Utah is relatively civilized so they probably don't have any. If the gun is currently in the house I'm not sure what the concern is, since the husband won't be returning there while the case is pending. But if the husband is convicted of a crime of domestic violence, and it he's currently subject to a domestic violence restraining order, he cannot possess a gun under federal law, and I'm sure the police would be happy to take custody of it. | Call the local police department and have an officer stop by her residence. The officer may be able to confiscate the weapon and place it in the police property room. Alternatively, she may be able to give it to her divorce attorney. | 0 | 98 | 5.8 |
7v865d | legaladvice_train | 0.85 | (Utah) Found out yesterday my sister has endured domestic violence for years; need help knowing how to dispose properly of a gun in the house My sister told me yesterday that she called the cops on her husband who was in a violent rage. He did not hurt her or her two kids (ages 5 and 2.5) but physically destroyed several things around the house before she called the police. He was arrested and charged with domestic battery and destruction of property. There is currently a restraining order on him to stay away from her & the kids until his court hearing Monday. I had no idea the extent of it because she kept it all from me (I live several states away so it wasn’t all that difficult), but apparently his anger issues and destructive tendencies have been a reoccurring problem for basically their entire relationship (about 4 years). So this has not been a one-time incident, but rather hallmark DV over the course of several years. Her husband has a gun (my sister thinks it’s a Ruger 9mm but I don’t know for sure) that my dad sold him within the state of Utah a couple years ago. According to my dad, no paperwork/registration was needed for a gun sale of that nature in the state of Utah. During the course of the DV, he would often threaten to shoot himself or harm himself with said gun. My sister told me she would hide it in various places around the house to keep him from getting to it, and would keep the ammo in a completely separate location from the gun. (I know how incredibly dangerous that is with two young kids, even if gun/ammo are separated. If I would have known...) She is incredibly fortunate (if that’s even the word to use in this kind of situation) that no one has been seriously injured or hurt because of the gun [yet]. I know she needs to get the gun out of her house ASAP, but I also know that she needs to make sure it is 100% above the table and also won’t have any repercussions on any future custody/divorce proceedings that could somehow weaken her case or chances at getting full custody of her child. A few questions: 1. What’s the best way to get rid of this gun? 2. Would there be any potential repercussions in divorce/legal proceedings if she sold a gun that was his? 3. Can she even sell it? Not having paperwork for a gun sale or not having to register it at all just seems really weird to me, but I know nothing about gun laws. 4. In the meantime, if she isn’t able to get rid of it altogether, can she give it to a trusted friend for safekeeping until she can speak with a lawyer and figure out how to proceed? He is a legal US resident but does not have citizenship (I don’t know whether this affects anything, gun-wise or otherwise). | dtq7qyf | dtq7oga | 1,517,767,058 | 1,517,766,987 | 58 | 9 | Call the local police department and have an officer stop by her residence. The officer may be able to confiscate the weapon and place it in the police property room. Alternatively, she may be able to give it to her divorce attorney. | It's not her gun and legally, she just can't take it from him, I don't think. If the full order is granted, he'll be barred by federal law from possessing a firearm. She should tell the judge at the hearing that he has it, and see what the court says about it. She should not sell it or do anything with it other than remove it from the house during the duration of the restraining order. | 1 | 71 | 6.444444 |
7v865d | legaladvice_train | 0.85 | (Utah) Found out yesterday my sister has endured domestic violence for years; need help knowing how to dispose properly of a gun in the house My sister told me yesterday that she called the cops on her husband who was in a violent rage. He did not hurt her or her two kids (ages 5 and 2.5) but physically destroyed several things around the house before she called the police. He was arrested and charged with domestic battery and destruction of property. There is currently a restraining order on him to stay away from her & the kids until his court hearing Monday. I had no idea the extent of it because she kept it all from me (I live several states away so it wasn’t all that difficult), but apparently his anger issues and destructive tendencies have been a reoccurring problem for basically their entire relationship (about 4 years). So this has not been a one-time incident, but rather hallmark DV over the course of several years. Her husband has a gun (my sister thinks it’s a Ruger 9mm but I don’t know for sure) that my dad sold him within the state of Utah a couple years ago. According to my dad, no paperwork/registration was needed for a gun sale of that nature in the state of Utah. During the course of the DV, he would often threaten to shoot himself or harm himself with said gun. My sister told me she would hide it in various places around the house to keep him from getting to it, and would keep the ammo in a completely separate location from the gun. (I know how incredibly dangerous that is with two young kids, even if gun/ammo are separated. If I would have known...) She is incredibly fortunate (if that’s even the word to use in this kind of situation) that no one has been seriously injured or hurt because of the gun [yet]. I know she needs to get the gun out of her house ASAP, but I also know that she needs to make sure it is 100% above the table and also won’t have any repercussions on any future custody/divorce proceedings that could somehow weaken her case or chances at getting full custody of her child. A few questions: 1. What’s the best way to get rid of this gun? 2. Would there be any potential repercussions in divorce/legal proceedings if she sold a gun that was his? 3. Can she even sell it? Not having paperwork for a gun sale or not having to register it at all just seems really weird to me, but I know nothing about gun laws. 4. In the meantime, if she isn’t able to get rid of it altogether, can she give it to a trusted friend for safekeeping until she can speak with a lawyer and figure out how to proceed? He is a legal US resident but does not have citizenship (I don’t know whether this affects anything, gun-wise or otherwise). | dtqkfki | dtq7njr | 1,517,780,299 | 1,517,766,960 | 16 | 10 | With the restraining order and domestic violence charges it should become illegal for him to own a gun very shortly if it isn't already. Your sister needs to contact the police with the relevant details, the gun belongs to someone with domestic violence charges pending and a restraining order. The gun was also purchased in a private transaction with no record (this is legal unless the other person knew that he shouldn't have a gun. For example, you can't sell a gun to your uncle if you know he can't own a gun, but your uncle could potentially buy a gun from another person who wouldn't know about your uncle's past). If your sister wants other advice (it may be bad advice) the Crossroads of the West Gun Show has its last day today (Sunday, February 4, 2018) in Sandy, Utah. There are usually law enforcement officers and others there who have a serious interest in guns and gun safety. Some of them even teach concealed carry classes. | Under federal law, there's no paperwork requirement to sell or give a firearm to another private party. There may be state law requirements, but Utah is relatively civilized so they probably don't have any. If the gun is currently in the house I'm not sure what the concern is, since the husband won't be returning there while the case is pending. But if the husband is convicted of a crime of domestic violence, and it he's currently subject to a domestic violence restraining order, he cannot possess a gun under federal law, and I'm sure the police would be happy to take custody of it. | 1 | 13,339 | 1.6 |
7v865d | legaladvice_train | 0.85 | (Utah) Found out yesterday my sister has endured domestic violence for years; need help knowing how to dispose properly of a gun in the house My sister told me yesterday that she called the cops on her husband who was in a violent rage. He did not hurt her or her two kids (ages 5 and 2.5) but physically destroyed several things around the house before she called the police. He was arrested and charged with domestic battery and destruction of property. There is currently a restraining order on him to stay away from her & the kids until his court hearing Monday. I had no idea the extent of it because she kept it all from me (I live several states away so it wasn’t all that difficult), but apparently his anger issues and destructive tendencies have been a reoccurring problem for basically their entire relationship (about 4 years). So this has not been a one-time incident, but rather hallmark DV over the course of several years. Her husband has a gun (my sister thinks it’s a Ruger 9mm but I don’t know for sure) that my dad sold him within the state of Utah a couple years ago. According to my dad, no paperwork/registration was needed for a gun sale of that nature in the state of Utah. During the course of the DV, he would often threaten to shoot himself or harm himself with said gun. My sister told me she would hide it in various places around the house to keep him from getting to it, and would keep the ammo in a completely separate location from the gun. (I know how incredibly dangerous that is with two young kids, even if gun/ammo are separated. If I would have known...) She is incredibly fortunate (if that’s even the word to use in this kind of situation) that no one has been seriously injured or hurt because of the gun [yet]. I know she needs to get the gun out of her house ASAP, but I also know that she needs to make sure it is 100% above the table and also won’t have any repercussions on any future custody/divorce proceedings that could somehow weaken her case or chances at getting full custody of her child. A few questions: 1. What’s the best way to get rid of this gun? 2. Would there be any potential repercussions in divorce/legal proceedings if she sold a gun that was his? 3. Can she even sell it? Not having paperwork for a gun sale or not having to register it at all just seems really weird to me, but I know nothing about gun laws. 4. In the meantime, if she isn’t able to get rid of it altogether, can she give it to a trusted friend for safekeeping until she can speak with a lawyer and figure out how to proceed? He is a legal US resident but does not have citizenship (I don’t know whether this affects anything, gun-wise or otherwise). | dtq7oga | dtqkfki | 1,517,766,987 | 1,517,780,299 | 9 | 16 | It's not her gun and legally, she just can't take it from him, I don't think. If the full order is granted, he'll be barred by federal law from possessing a firearm. She should tell the judge at the hearing that he has it, and see what the court says about it. She should not sell it or do anything with it other than remove it from the house during the duration of the restraining order. | With the restraining order and domestic violence charges it should become illegal for him to own a gun very shortly if it isn't already. Your sister needs to contact the police with the relevant details, the gun belongs to someone with domestic violence charges pending and a restraining order. The gun was also purchased in a private transaction with no record (this is legal unless the other person knew that he shouldn't have a gun. For example, you can't sell a gun to your uncle if you know he can't own a gun, but your uncle could potentially buy a gun from another person who wouldn't know about your uncle's past). If your sister wants other advice (it may be bad advice) the Crossroads of the West Gun Show has its last day today (Sunday, February 4, 2018) in Sandy, Utah. There are usually law enforcement officers and others there who have a serious interest in guns and gun safety. Some of them even teach concealed carry classes. | 0 | 13,312 | 1.777778 |
3ec5tt | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone. | ctdhniz | ctdin8c | 1,437,668,559 | 1,437,670,007 | 67 | 156 | You can go through insurance or you can sue him yourself in small claims. | Give him the receipt for the repairs, give him the number for the guy who repaired it, and tell him he can call to verify the amount. Tell him that if he's not comfortable paying you in this way, you can go through insurance. | 0 | 1,448 | 2.328358 |
3ec5tt | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone. | ctdhixp | ctdin8c | 1,437,668,373 | 1,437,670,007 | 5 | 156 | That's no small chunk of change, are you sure you want to do this without insurance involved? | Give him the receipt for the repairs, give him the number for the guy who repaired it, and tell him he can call to verify the amount. Tell him that if he's not comfortable paying you in this way, you can go through insurance. | 0 | 1,634 | 31.2 |
3ec5tt | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone. | ctdhixp | ctdhniz | 1,437,668,373 | 1,437,668,559 | 5 | 67 | That's no small chunk of change, are you sure you want to do this without insurance involved? | You can go through insurance or you can sue him yourself in small claims. | 0 | 186 | 13.4 |
3ec5tt | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone. | ctdhixp | ctdipvm | 1,437,668,373 | 1,437,670,114 | 5 | 37 | That's no small chunk of change, are you sure you want to do this without insurance involved? | My personal experience has been that it's a waste of time to get cash damages in car accidents. People always underestimate the cost to repair cars. They freak out over the cost and then just ask to go through insurance. You won't even need to notify your own insurance company. It's always been a straightforward matter when the other driver admits fault. | 0 | 1,741 | 7.4 |
3ec5tt | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone. | ctdpp2h | ctdjzuc | 1,437,679,984 | 1,437,671,938 | 20 | 19 | Keep in mind that you're doing him a favor by avoiding involving his insurance company. If he doesn't want to play ball you should just contact your own insurance and make a claim, they'll do the rest. I've had similar experiences where people act like they're doing you a favor by paying you cash instead of going through their insurance. They get shocked that fixing a car costs money and want you to give them a break or let them have their sketchy cousin "fix" your car with bondo and house paint. You're under no obligation to avoid his insurance. If he's giving you the run around forget it. | This is why you go through your insurance company. It's why you pay your insurance company. If you don't want insurance involved for some reason, your recourse is to sue him in small claims court. But why not just go through your insurance company? | 1 | 8,046 | 1.052632 |
3ec5tt | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone. | ctdhixp | ctdjzuc | 1,437,668,373 | 1,437,671,938 | 5 | 19 | That's no small chunk of change, are you sure you want to do this without insurance involved? | This is why you go through your insurance company. It's why you pay your insurance company. If you don't want insurance involved for some reason, your recourse is to sue him in small claims court. But why not just go through your insurance company? | 0 | 3,565 | 3.8 |
3ec5tt | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone. | ctdjzuc | ctdjn2n | 1,437,671,938 | 1,437,671,434 | 19 | 2 | This is why you go through your insurance company. It's why you pay your insurance company. If you don't want insurance involved for some reason, your recourse is to sue him in small claims court. But why not just go through your insurance company? | I sure hope you have insurance. If you do, they should handle all of this. It's why you pay a premium. | 1 | 504 | 9.5 |
3ec5tt | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone. | ctdhixp | ctdpp2h | 1,437,668,373 | 1,437,679,984 | 5 | 20 | That's no small chunk of change, are you sure you want to do this without insurance involved? | Keep in mind that you're doing him a favor by avoiding involving his insurance company. If he doesn't want to play ball you should just contact your own insurance and make a claim, they'll do the rest. I've had similar experiences where people act like they're doing you a favor by paying you cash instead of going through their insurance. They get shocked that fixing a car costs money and want you to give them a break or let them have their sketchy cousin "fix" your car with bondo and house paint. You're under no obligation to avoid his insurance. If he's giving you the run around forget it. | 0 | 11,611 | 4 |
3ec5tt | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone. | ctdpp2h | ctdjn2n | 1,437,679,984 | 1,437,671,434 | 20 | 2 | Keep in mind that you're doing him a favor by avoiding involving his insurance company. If he doesn't want to play ball you should just contact your own insurance and make a claim, they'll do the rest. I've had similar experiences where people act like they're doing you a favor by paying you cash instead of going through their insurance. They get shocked that fixing a car costs money and want you to give them a break or let them have their sketchy cousin "fix" your car with bondo and house paint. You're under no obligation to avoid his insurance. If he's giving you the run around forget it. | I sure hope you have insurance. If you do, they should handle all of this. It's why you pay a premium. | 1 | 8,550 | 10 |
3ec5tt | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone. | ctdsmds | ctdhixp | 1,437,684,199 | 1,437,668,373 | 9 | 5 | HE doesn't want to go through insurance. Tell him the repair cost is $2,600 (using a copy of the receipt) and if he doesn't like it you can go through insurance and let them decide. I bet he picks the $2,600 option. | That's no small chunk of change, are you sure you want to do this without insurance involved? | 1 | 15,826 | 1.8 |
3ec5tt | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone. | ctdryz7 | ctdsmds | 1,437,683,256 | 1,437,684,199 | 3 | 9 | It sounds like he doesn't understand that you're doing him a favor by not going through his insurance. | HE doesn't want to go through insurance. Tell him the repair cost is $2,600 (using a copy of the receipt) and if he doesn't like it you can go through insurance and let them decide. I bet he picks the $2,600 option. | 0 | 943 | 3 |
3ec5tt | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone. | ctdjn2n | ctdsmds | 1,437,671,434 | 1,437,684,199 | 2 | 9 | I sure hope you have insurance. If you do, they should handle all of this. It's why you pay a premium. | HE doesn't want to go through insurance. Tell him the repair cost is $2,600 (using a copy of the receipt) and if he doesn't like it you can go through insurance and let them decide. I bet he picks the $2,600 option. | 0 | 12,765 | 4.5 |
3ec5tt | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone. | ctdjn2n | ctdryz7 | 1,437,671,434 | 1,437,683,256 | 2 | 3 | I sure hope you have insurance. If you do, they should handle all of this. It's why you pay a premium. | It sounds like he doesn't understand that you're doing him a favor by not going through his insurance. | 0 | 11,822 | 1.5 |
3ec5tt | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone. | ctdwcdq | ctdjn2n | 1,437,689,845 | 1,437,671,434 | 3 | 2 | Get the insurance companies involved. End of story. | I sure hope you have insurance. If you do, they should handle all of this. It's why you pay a premium. | 1 | 18,411 | 1.5 |
com08m | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | (NC, USA) Landlord Wants me to keep utilities on after termination of my lease for inspection My landlord gave us an order to vacate so they could sell the house from under us. Among many other things, they have been generally unpleasant and slow to address problems. My lease ends on the last day of this month. So I will not move out until the last day of this month. I have paid for the month (they won't prorate) and so in my mind, I'm entitled to stay in it until it ends. The lease states: "Upon termination of the tenancy [...] Tenant shall (1) Pay all utility bills due for services to the premises for which he is responsible and have all such utility services discontinued" In the moveout check list the land lord states: "ALL utilities MUST be on at time of inspection. If not, you will be required to PAY a temporary hook-up fee so that the plumbing, appliances, fixtures, heat/cool, and sockets can be checked. Please leave them on for FOUR (4) business days after checkout." They further state that the house must be entirely vacated at the time of inspection. I am moving out on a Saturday and they will not inspect on the weekend. So they will either 1) only inspect after I have moved out past the time of my lease or 2) require me to move out before the period which I paid through. In addition to the reconnect fees, he states there is a $75 re-inspection fee. Can this actually be charged from me or deducted from my deposit if none of it was in the lease or even agreed to and signed on anywhere? If not, how can I go about challenging this? I already told him I shouldn't have to pay for services past my lease, citing the lease itself. | ewjrspl | ewjpzh7 | 1,565,471,031 | 1,565,470,277 | 15 | 8 | Do the walk through on the last day of the month. Then have the utilities turned off the next day. You can schedule that right now for the first. I would also film the walk through on your phone and with the landlord present. Let them know this is the walk through per the lease. Then you have meet the requirement of having utilizes on till then. | Unless the lease uses the same language as is on the move out checklist, you shouldn’t have to pay. Do not be surprised if the landlord attempts to withhold your security deposit for this and/or other reasons. Document everything, demand to be present during inspection. | 1 | 754 | 1.875 |
yb8zgu | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | I make minimum wage in New York, my employer deducts money from my paycheck for lunch. Hey, so as I mentioned I work hourly in New York, I make minimum wage. Whenever I go on break, my employer deducts $4 from my paycheck. I work at a catering place, so the food we eat is leftovers from whatever party we were hosting. It isn’t prepared for us in any way and if we didn’t eat it, it’d be thrown away. I get a 15 minute break per shift(that I clock out for) and work 12-18 hours a week. Additionally, the matre d’ (acts as a manager) can keep our tips and divide them up however they decide . Is any of this illegal? And if so can I be reimbursed? | itfepg6 | itgeyzo | 1,666,505,956 | 1,666,532,330 | 24 | 42 | Flsa says that short breaks (under 20 minutes) must be paid. There’s rules about requirements about a long break being unpaid. Generally this is they assume you take a lunch and you work through it to get work caught up. | You seem to be voicing 2 concerns here: 1. Being charged for food: Not illegal, even if they were going to toss it. You eat, you pay. Depending on quality and quantity, $4 seems reasonable for lunch. If you think you can do better, decline to eat their food. Side Note from my time in the hospitality industry - Policies on eating differ. Some places feel if they let employees eat food waste they will intentionally find ways to have more waste so they can eat it. Some places give employee discount and some view it as a fringe benefit to a good staff to provide a shift meal. 2. Rest Breaks: In my state, shifts over xx time must have a paid break, shifts over xxx time must have a non-paid 30 minute meal period. Different states have different break requirements. New York's are here at the Department of Labor website. I have copy/paste from the website below, sorry for format not translating. Employees who: Work a shift of more than six hours starting before 11 AM AND Continue until 2 PM MUST Have an uninterrupted lunch period of AT LEAST Half an hour between 11 AM and 2 PM Meal periods do not count as work time, thus employers need not pay for that time. Employers do not have to provide other "breaks", such as for "rest periods" or "coffee breaks." But, if an employer permits a break (of up to 20 minutes), then they should pay it as work time. Not a lawyer | 0 | 26,374 | 1.75 |
yb8zgu | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | I make minimum wage in New York, my employer deducts money from my paycheck for lunch. Hey, so as I mentioned I work hourly in New York, I make minimum wage. Whenever I go on break, my employer deducts $4 from my paycheck. I work at a catering place, so the food we eat is leftovers from whatever party we were hosting. It isn’t prepared for us in any way and if we didn’t eat it, it’d be thrown away. I get a 15 minute break per shift(that I clock out for) and work 12-18 hours a week. Additionally, the matre d’ (acts as a manager) can keep our tips and divide them up however they decide . Is any of this illegal? And if so can I be reimbursed? | itgeyzo | itg43eq | 1,666,532,330 | 1,666,526,115 | 42 | 4 | You seem to be voicing 2 concerns here: 1. Being charged for food: Not illegal, even if they were going to toss it. You eat, you pay. Depending on quality and quantity, $4 seems reasonable for lunch. If you think you can do better, decline to eat their food. Side Note from my time in the hospitality industry - Policies on eating differ. Some places feel if they let employees eat food waste they will intentionally find ways to have more waste so they can eat it. Some places give employee discount and some view it as a fringe benefit to a good staff to provide a shift meal. 2. Rest Breaks: In my state, shifts over xx time must have a paid break, shifts over xxx time must have a non-paid 30 minute meal period. Different states have different break requirements. New York's are here at the Department of Labor website. I have copy/paste from the website below, sorry for format not translating. Employees who: Work a shift of more than six hours starting before 11 AM AND Continue until 2 PM MUST Have an uninterrupted lunch period of AT LEAST Half an hour between 11 AM and 2 PM Meal periods do not count as work time, thus employers need not pay for that time. Employers do not have to provide other "breaks", such as for "rest periods" or "coffee breaks." But, if an employer permits a break (of up to 20 minutes), then they should pay it as work time. Not a lawyer | You clock out for breaks and they deduct pay for breaks? Sounds like wage theft. | 1 | 6,215 | 10.5 |
yb8zgu | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | I make minimum wage in New York, my employer deducts money from my paycheck for lunch. Hey, so as I mentioned I work hourly in New York, I make minimum wage. Whenever I go on break, my employer deducts $4 from my paycheck. I work at a catering place, so the food we eat is leftovers from whatever party we were hosting. It isn’t prepared for us in any way and if we didn’t eat it, it’d be thrown away. I get a 15 minute break per shift(that I clock out for) and work 12-18 hours a week. Additionally, the matre d’ (acts as a manager) can keep our tips and divide them up however they decide . Is any of this illegal? And if so can I be reimbursed? | itg43eq | itgv5kd | 1,666,526,115 | 1,666,539,582 | 4 | 13 | You clock out for breaks and they deduct pay for breaks? Sounds like wage theft. | Not a lawyer. They can charge you for food, but can’t keep your tips. Management is not allowed to keep tips except in very specific instances - like if a manager is acting as a bartender, but then should only keep their tips. They can’t be part of a tipping pool. You can report them for wage theft here https://dol.ny.gov/unpaidwithheld-wages-and-wage-supplements | 0 | 13,467 | 3.25 |
yb8zgu | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | I make minimum wage in New York, my employer deducts money from my paycheck for lunch. Hey, so as I mentioned I work hourly in New York, I make minimum wage. Whenever I go on break, my employer deducts $4 from my paycheck. I work at a catering place, so the food we eat is leftovers from whatever party we were hosting. It isn’t prepared for us in any way and if we didn’t eat it, it’d be thrown away. I get a 15 minute break per shift(that I clock out for) and work 12-18 hours a week. Additionally, the matre d’ (acts as a manager) can keep our tips and divide them up however they decide . Is any of this illegal? And if so can I be reimbursed? | itie6hq | itg43eq | 1,666,560,845 | 1,666,526,115 | 5 | 4 | Based on everything I've read in the comments and your post you should file a wage theft complaint. I checked out the dol.ny.gov website and there is a phone number you can call (1-888-4-NYSDOL) for assistance before filing a claim. I would give them a call and explain what's going on and if they say it's illegal then I would proceed forward with putting in a claim, which you can also do from the same website. Not a lawyer | You clock out for breaks and they deduct pay for breaks? Sounds like wage theft. | 1 | 34,730 | 1.25 |
yb8zgu | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | I make minimum wage in New York, my employer deducts money from my paycheck for lunch. Hey, so as I mentioned I work hourly in New York, I make minimum wage. Whenever I go on break, my employer deducts $4 from my paycheck. I work at a catering place, so the food we eat is leftovers from whatever party we were hosting. It isn’t prepared for us in any way and if we didn’t eat it, it’d be thrown away. I get a 15 minute break per shift(that I clock out for) and work 12-18 hours a week. Additionally, the matre d’ (acts as a manager) can keep our tips and divide them up however they decide . Is any of this illegal? And if so can I be reimbursed? | itie6hq | ithbw92 | 1,666,560,845 | 1,666,546,373 | 5 | 4 | Based on everything I've read in the comments and your post you should file a wage theft complaint. I checked out the dol.ny.gov website and there is a phone number you can call (1-888-4-NYSDOL) for assistance before filing a claim. I would give them a call and explain what's going on and if they say it's illegal then I would proceed forward with putting in a claim, which you can also do from the same website. Not a lawyer | If that deduction brings you below minimum wage, I think that's illegal. | 1 | 14,472 | 1.25 |
y7gg0o | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My landlord says I have to pay the $750 fee to the furnace company to have my heat turned on for the first time. Is this legal? My two kids and I have been at this rental house for about six months and the house has central air, but the landlord said the heat is from a gas furnace, and that to get it turned on, I would have to pay a $750 fee of some kind to the electric(?) company or whatever the company is called, in order for them to turn it on for the first time. It’s starting to get cold here like 39 degrees last night, and I’m having to use like 9 little space heaters and it’s still not keeping us comfortably warm. Plus I’m sure my electric bill will be insane from the space heaters I’m having to use. Anyways, is it legal for my landlord to not “provide” heat without me having to pay a huge fee to get it turned on? This is in Tennessee. | isucc0b | isumqpo | 1,666,121,592 | 1,666,125,529 | 76 | 458 | No, they cannot make you pay that. They must provide heating. | Does this fee not sound like the landlord’s back owed bill to anyone else? | 0 | 3,937 | 6.026316 |
y7gg0o | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My landlord says I have to pay the $750 fee to the furnace company to have my heat turned on for the first time. Is this legal? My two kids and I have been at this rental house for about six months and the house has central air, but the landlord said the heat is from a gas furnace, and that to get it turned on, I would have to pay a $750 fee of some kind to the electric(?) company or whatever the company is called, in order for them to turn it on for the first time. It’s starting to get cold here like 39 degrees last night, and I’m having to use like 9 little space heaters and it’s still not keeping us comfortably warm. Plus I’m sure my electric bill will be insane from the space heaters I’m having to use. Anyways, is it legal for my landlord to not “provide” heat without me having to pay a huge fee to get it turned on? This is in Tennessee. | isumqpo | isuc7hj | 1,666,125,529 | 1,666,121,544 | 458 | 2 | Does this fee not sound like the landlord’s back owed bill to anyone else? | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 3,985 | 229 |
y7gg0o | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My landlord says I have to pay the $750 fee to the furnace company to have my heat turned on for the first time. Is this legal? My two kids and I have been at this rental house for about six months and the house has central air, but the landlord said the heat is from a gas furnace, and that to get it turned on, I would have to pay a $750 fee of some kind to the electric(?) company or whatever the company is called, in order for them to turn it on for the first time. It’s starting to get cold here like 39 degrees last night, and I’m having to use like 9 little space heaters and it’s still not keeping us comfortably warm. Plus I’m sure my electric bill will be insane from the space heaters I’m having to use. Anyways, is it legal for my landlord to not “provide” heat without me having to pay a huge fee to get it turned on? This is in Tennessee. | isucc0b | isuqavx | 1,666,121,592 | 1,666,126,884 | 76 | 101 | No, they cannot make you pay that. They must provide heating. | You need to call the gas company and find out what they need to have it turned on. It could be a deposit if it's natural gas, or if it's propane that may be how much it costs to fill the tank. This all should have been explained to you when you signed the rental agreement/lease. | 0 | 5,292 | 1.328947 |
y7gg0o | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My landlord says I have to pay the $750 fee to the furnace company to have my heat turned on for the first time. Is this legal? My two kids and I have been at this rental house for about six months and the house has central air, but the landlord said the heat is from a gas furnace, and that to get it turned on, I would have to pay a $750 fee of some kind to the electric(?) company or whatever the company is called, in order for them to turn it on for the first time. It’s starting to get cold here like 39 degrees last night, and I’m having to use like 9 little space heaters and it’s still not keeping us comfortably warm. Plus I’m sure my electric bill will be insane from the space heaters I’m having to use. Anyways, is it legal for my landlord to not “provide” heat without me having to pay a huge fee to get it turned on? This is in Tennessee. | isuc7hj | isuqavx | 1,666,121,544 | 1,666,126,884 | 2 | 101 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | You need to call the gas company and find out what they need to have it turned on. It could be a deposit if it's natural gas, or if it's propane that may be how much it costs to fill the tank. This all should have been explained to you when you signed the rental agreement/lease. | 0 | 5,340 | 50.5 |
y7gg0o | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My landlord says I have to pay the $750 fee to the furnace company to have my heat turned on for the first time. Is this legal? My two kids and I have been at this rental house for about six months and the house has central air, but the landlord said the heat is from a gas furnace, and that to get it turned on, I would have to pay a $750 fee of some kind to the electric(?) company or whatever the company is called, in order for them to turn it on for the first time. It’s starting to get cold here like 39 degrees last night, and I’m having to use like 9 little space heaters and it’s still not keeping us comfortably warm. Plus I’m sure my electric bill will be insane from the space heaters I’m having to use. Anyways, is it legal for my landlord to not “provide” heat without me having to pay a huge fee to get it turned on? This is in Tennessee. | isuc7hj | isucc0b | 1,666,121,544 | 1,666,121,592 | 2 | 76 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | No, they cannot make you pay that. They must provide heating. | 0 | 48 | 38 |
y7gg0o | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My landlord says I have to pay the $750 fee to the furnace company to have my heat turned on for the first time. Is this legal? My two kids and I have been at this rental house for about six months and the house has central air, but the landlord said the heat is from a gas furnace, and that to get it turned on, I would have to pay a $750 fee of some kind to the electric(?) company or whatever the company is called, in order for them to turn it on for the first time. It’s starting to get cold here like 39 degrees last night, and I’m having to use like 9 little space heaters and it’s still not keeping us comfortably warm. Plus I’m sure my electric bill will be insane from the space heaters I’m having to use. Anyways, is it legal for my landlord to not “provide” heat without me having to pay a huge fee to get it turned on? This is in Tennessee. | isx6iri | isuyfxl | 1,666,177,050 | 1,666,130,163 | 22 | 14 | Read your lease. If utilities are to be in your name, electric, water, and gas, then yes they are correct. The agreement to supply the house gas is between you and the gas company. The landlord is responsible for keeping the furnace operational. Again, read your lease. | Is your heat gas? Would this be the first gas service at your address and the $750 is to have services setup in your name? Where I live it is very normal for all utilities to be the responsibility of the renter, so if you were quoted that as a deposit/connection fee that very well may be on you. | 1 | 46,887 | 1.571429 |
y7gg0o | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My landlord says I have to pay the $750 fee to the furnace company to have my heat turned on for the first time. Is this legal? My two kids and I have been at this rental house for about six months and the house has central air, but the landlord said the heat is from a gas furnace, and that to get it turned on, I would have to pay a $750 fee of some kind to the electric(?) company or whatever the company is called, in order for them to turn it on for the first time. It’s starting to get cold here like 39 degrees last night, and I’m having to use like 9 little space heaters and it’s still not keeping us comfortably warm. Plus I’m sure my electric bill will be insane from the space heaters I’m having to use. Anyways, is it legal for my landlord to not “provide” heat without me having to pay a huge fee to get it turned on? This is in Tennessee. | isuc7hj | isx6iri | 1,666,121,544 | 1,666,177,050 | 2 | 22 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Read your lease. If utilities are to be in your name, electric, water, and gas, then yes they are correct. The agreement to supply the house gas is between you and the gas company. The landlord is responsible for keeping the furnace operational. Again, read your lease. | 0 | 55,506 | 11 |
y7gg0o | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My landlord says I have to pay the $750 fee to the furnace company to have my heat turned on for the first time. Is this legal? My two kids and I have been at this rental house for about six months and the house has central air, but the landlord said the heat is from a gas furnace, and that to get it turned on, I would have to pay a $750 fee of some kind to the electric(?) company or whatever the company is called, in order for them to turn it on for the first time. It’s starting to get cold here like 39 degrees last night, and I’m having to use like 9 little space heaters and it’s still not keeping us comfortably warm. Plus I’m sure my electric bill will be insane from the space heaters I’m having to use. Anyways, is it legal for my landlord to not “provide” heat without me having to pay a huge fee to get it turned on? This is in Tennessee. | isuc7hj | isuyfxl | 1,666,121,544 | 1,666,130,163 | 2 | 14 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Is your heat gas? Would this be the first gas service at your address and the $750 is to have services setup in your name? Where I live it is very normal for all utilities to be the responsibility of the renter, so if you were quoted that as a deposit/connection fee that very well may be on you. | 0 | 8,619 | 7 |
y7gg0o | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My landlord says I have to pay the $750 fee to the furnace company to have my heat turned on for the first time. Is this legal? My two kids and I have been at this rental house for about six months and the house has central air, but the landlord said the heat is from a gas furnace, and that to get it turned on, I would have to pay a $750 fee of some kind to the electric(?) company or whatever the company is called, in order for them to turn it on for the first time. It’s starting to get cold here like 39 degrees last night, and I’m having to use like 9 little space heaters and it’s still not keeping us comfortably warm. Plus I’m sure my electric bill will be insane from the space heaters I’m having to use. Anyways, is it legal for my landlord to not “provide” heat without me having to pay a huge fee to get it turned on? This is in Tennessee. | isxb8pd | isuc7hj | 1,666,180,121 | 1,666,121,544 | 9 | 2 | Are you sure they said gas and not oil? If it’s an oil furnace then the oil tank needs to be filled periodically and there will be an up front cost to that. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 58,577 | 4.5 |
y7gg0o | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My landlord says I have to pay the $750 fee to the furnace company to have my heat turned on for the first time. Is this legal? My two kids and I have been at this rental house for about six months and the house has central air, but the landlord said the heat is from a gas furnace, and that to get it turned on, I would have to pay a $750 fee of some kind to the electric(?) company or whatever the company is called, in order for them to turn it on for the first time. It’s starting to get cold here like 39 degrees last night, and I’m having to use like 9 little space heaters and it’s still not keeping us comfortably warm. Plus I’m sure my electric bill will be insane from the space heaters I’m having to use. Anyways, is it legal for my landlord to not “provide” heat without me having to pay a huge fee to get it turned on? This is in Tennessee. | isuc7hj | isy2ruy | 1,666,121,544 | 1,666,192,982 | 2 | 3 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | It's entirely possible that the electric company is charging a deposit of $750 because of the credit history of the property. However, if you have a current account with them, provided that it is the same company as the electric company, ask them is there is a way to split the deposit across 12 months on your bill, which would mean $62.50 per month for a year. They should be able to work with you in good faith. EDIT: Just make them aware that if they do charge $750 and will not work with you, ask them what state statute allows for them to deny a supply of heat to a unit because a deposit cannot be paid? | 0 | 71,438 | 1.5 |
y7gg0o | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My landlord says I have to pay the $750 fee to the furnace company to have my heat turned on for the first time. Is this legal? My two kids and I have been at this rental house for about six months and the house has central air, but the landlord said the heat is from a gas furnace, and that to get it turned on, I would have to pay a $750 fee of some kind to the electric(?) company or whatever the company is called, in order for them to turn it on for the first time. It’s starting to get cold here like 39 degrees last night, and I’m having to use like 9 little space heaters and it’s still not keeping us comfortably warm. Plus I’m sure my electric bill will be insane from the space heaters I’m having to use. Anyways, is it legal for my landlord to not “provide” heat without me having to pay a huge fee to get it turned on? This is in Tennessee. | isy2ruy | isxlgs8 | 1,666,192,982 | 1,666,185,524 | 3 | 2 | It's entirely possible that the electric company is charging a deposit of $750 because of the credit history of the property. However, if you have a current account with them, provided that it is the same company as the electric company, ask them is there is a way to split the deposit across 12 months on your bill, which would mean $62.50 per month for a year. They should be able to work with you in good faith. EDIT: Just make them aware that if they do charge $750 and will not work with you, ask them what state statute allows for them to deny a supply of heat to a unit because a deposit cannot be paid? | Are you paying the utilities directly or does the landlord bill you for utilities? If the landlord wants to bill you for this mysterious fee, ask if you can pay the company directly and clearly state that you want a bill/receipt for your records. Call the company and ask them directly what the cost is to turn on heat for a dwelling like yours. | 1 | 7,458 | 1.5 |
a41lxs | legaladvice_train | 0.74 | MN - Can I be required to pay for the birth of my son if my girlfriend is on state healthcare? Alright, so my girlfriend is entering her 3rd trimester of pregnancy. She is unemployed right now and has state health insurance. I work full time and have insurance through my company, however she is not on my plan as we are not married nor do I think she would qualify as a domestic partner as we haven't been living together for 6 months. Yesterday a friend of mine mentioned that I should check into this as he seems to think it's possible that because I'm employed that if I sign the birth certificate the state will come after me to pay the costs of the child's birth. I contacted another friend of mine who went through this exact situation with his gf and he showed me a horrifying bill. But said that neither he, nor she were asked to pay a dime of it, and that the state covered it completely. Now he also mentioned that he wasn't making much money at all during that time. I have no idea how this works, or who to even ask about this. I very much want to be the legal guardian of this child and plan to be a part of my child's life indefinitely, I'm a bit nervous right now however that by signing the paper that legally makes me the father I'm opting into a massive bill that I cannot afford for the birth of the child. I don't need to hear about how signing opts me into child support in the event we split up...I'm not worried about that and understand that. I'm only curious about the birthing bill. Thanks! TL;DR: Girlfriend (legally single) is pregnant, unemployed, and on state healthcare. I (legally single) am employed and on my company's insurance. If I sign the birth certificate can her insurance company come after me to pay the bill for our child's birth? | ebas7ez | ebatzhq | 1,544,201,328 | 1,544,202,726 | 2 | 51 | What state? | I get that the birth of a child is expensive, however the cost is not an easy one to bear for anyone. At least under my insurance a child is a qualifying life event and maternity and birth care are 100% covered. You will want to check with your insurance about this and determine what steps you need to take now in order to get this handled. Obviously you are responsible for some portion of this expense, but there are often options to help new parents with this sort of thing. Your girlfriends state health insurance is likely going to cover some of it, your own insurance may cover some of it, and for the rest, work it out with the hospital. They often have payment plans and financial assistance available for these kinds of events. Congratulations on being a new dad BTW. | 0 | 1,398 | 25.5 |
a41lxs | legaladvice_train | 0.74 | MN - Can I be required to pay for the birth of my son if my girlfriend is on state healthcare? Alright, so my girlfriend is entering her 3rd trimester of pregnancy. She is unemployed right now and has state health insurance. I work full time and have insurance through my company, however she is not on my plan as we are not married nor do I think she would qualify as a domestic partner as we haven't been living together for 6 months. Yesterday a friend of mine mentioned that I should check into this as he seems to think it's possible that because I'm employed that if I sign the birth certificate the state will come after me to pay the costs of the child's birth. I contacted another friend of mine who went through this exact situation with his gf and he showed me a horrifying bill. But said that neither he, nor she were asked to pay a dime of it, and that the state covered it completely. Now he also mentioned that he wasn't making much money at all during that time. I have no idea how this works, or who to even ask about this. I very much want to be the legal guardian of this child and plan to be a part of my child's life indefinitely, I'm a bit nervous right now however that by signing the paper that legally makes me the father I'm opting into a massive bill that I cannot afford for the birth of the child. I don't need to hear about how signing opts me into child support in the event we split up...I'm not worried about that and understand that. I'm only curious about the birthing bill. Thanks! TL;DR: Girlfriend (legally single) is pregnant, unemployed, and on state healthcare. I (legally single) am employed and on my company's insurance. If I sign the birth certificate can her insurance company come after me to pay the bill for our child's birth? | ebb8ihs | ebb2dhi | 1,544,214,129 | 1,544,209,252 | 11 | 5 | So here's how it works. I am not a lawyer Any expenses related to the mothers care while in the hospital will be billed to HER insurance. That has nothing to do with you and wont come back to you. You have 30 days after the baby is born to put him on a health insurance plan in order to have his costs covered, up to the plan limits. He can go on either insurance policy. Since you guys arent married I do not think the state would come after you to pay his costs. You guys would just be responsible for whatever the insurance wont cover which is usually just deductibles. | When it comes to adding the new baby on to your health insurance, don't wait. You usually have only 30 days to complete the paperwork and get all the necessary information to your HR. Knowing that it's coming, start talking with your HR now to get the ball rolling so you know what you need to do. | 1 | 4,877 | 2.2 |
a41lxs | legaladvice_train | 0.74 | MN - Can I be required to pay for the birth of my son if my girlfriend is on state healthcare? Alright, so my girlfriend is entering her 3rd trimester of pregnancy. She is unemployed right now and has state health insurance. I work full time and have insurance through my company, however she is not on my plan as we are not married nor do I think she would qualify as a domestic partner as we haven't been living together for 6 months. Yesterday a friend of mine mentioned that I should check into this as he seems to think it's possible that because I'm employed that if I sign the birth certificate the state will come after me to pay the costs of the child's birth. I contacted another friend of mine who went through this exact situation with his gf and he showed me a horrifying bill. But said that neither he, nor she were asked to pay a dime of it, and that the state covered it completely. Now he also mentioned that he wasn't making much money at all during that time. I have no idea how this works, or who to even ask about this. I very much want to be the legal guardian of this child and plan to be a part of my child's life indefinitely, I'm a bit nervous right now however that by signing the paper that legally makes me the father I'm opting into a massive bill that I cannot afford for the birth of the child. I don't need to hear about how signing opts me into child support in the event we split up...I'm not worried about that and understand that. I'm only curious about the birthing bill. Thanks! TL;DR: Girlfriend (legally single) is pregnant, unemployed, and on state healthcare. I (legally single) am employed and on my company's insurance. If I sign the birth certificate can her insurance company come after me to pay the bill for our child's birth? | ebas7ez | ebb8ihs | 1,544,201,328 | 1,544,214,129 | 2 | 11 | What state? | So here's how it works. I am not a lawyer Any expenses related to the mothers care while in the hospital will be billed to HER insurance. That has nothing to do with you and wont come back to you. You have 30 days after the baby is born to put him on a health insurance plan in order to have his costs covered, up to the plan limits. He can go on either insurance policy. Since you guys arent married I do not think the state would come after you to pay his costs. You guys would just be responsible for whatever the insurance wont cover which is usually just deductibles. | 0 | 12,801 | 5.5 |
a41lxs | legaladvice_train | 0.74 | MN - Can I be required to pay for the birth of my son if my girlfriend is on state healthcare? Alright, so my girlfriend is entering her 3rd trimester of pregnancy. She is unemployed right now and has state health insurance. I work full time and have insurance through my company, however she is not on my plan as we are not married nor do I think she would qualify as a domestic partner as we haven't been living together for 6 months. Yesterday a friend of mine mentioned that I should check into this as he seems to think it's possible that because I'm employed that if I sign the birth certificate the state will come after me to pay the costs of the child's birth. I contacted another friend of mine who went through this exact situation with his gf and he showed me a horrifying bill. But said that neither he, nor she were asked to pay a dime of it, and that the state covered it completely. Now he also mentioned that he wasn't making much money at all during that time. I have no idea how this works, or who to even ask about this. I very much want to be the legal guardian of this child and plan to be a part of my child's life indefinitely, I'm a bit nervous right now however that by signing the paper that legally makes me the father I'm opting into a massive bill that I cannot afford for the birth of the child. I don't need to hear about how signing opts me into child support in the event we split up...I'm not worried about that and understand that. I'm only curious about the birthing bill. Thanks! TL;DR: Girlfriend (legally single) is pregnant, unemployed, and on state healthcare. I (legally single) am employed and on my company's insurance. If I sign the birth certificate can her insurance company come after me to pay the bill for our child's birth? | ebas7ez | ebb2dhi | 1,544,201,328 | 1,544,209,252 | 2 | 5 | What state? | When it comes to adding the new baby on to your health insurance, don't wait. You usually have only 30 days to complete the paperwork and get all the necessary information to your HR. Knowing that it's coming, start talking with your HR now to get the ball rolling so you know what you need to do. | 0 | 7,924 | 2.5 |
40j0u5 | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [NYC] Call from a stranger claiming I'm the father of her unborn child. This is completely impossible. Best course of action? So I still have no idea how I got caught up in the middle of this, but here we are. On Saturday night I got a call from a local (NY) number. On the other line was a woman who (if I recall correctly) said that she was a day late and that she believed it was mine. This was at 1:30 am so I basically said I've met/heard of you before and hung up the phone. The weird thing is, I believe she knew my name (I don't remember all of the details of this call - it was 1:30 am and I out drinking with friends). I also have a west coast number rather than a NY number so this wasn't completely random - she knew that I was living in NY. The next day I call back to see what in the fuck is going on. The woman will no longer answer the phone (says she's visiting her gran with Alzheimers so can only text) but calls herself Charlene and says that that we met a few weekends back - she saw me stumbling when trying to hail a cab and tried to help. Cabs weren't coming and we started talking and when a cab finally did come we went to her place. Now she says she's pregnant and going to the doctor tomorrow (this was yesterday, so tomorrow would be today). I pushed for more details and again she says we met a few weekends back ("coming up on a month" but still no specific weekend) around "the village, don't remember which bar exactly". I think that this can only mean Greenwich Village. She says she's getting an abortion because she doesn't want to ruin her life or mine. EDIT: While I was typing this she texted me and said that she went to the doctor, who said she's three weeks pregnant and that we met 3-4 weeks ago. She specified that we met on a Saturday (definitely not possible, I spend weekends with the GF who I think would notice if I went home with someone else. Okay but a lot of things don't add up: *Number one, this straight up didn't happen - at least not to me. I have no memory of this at all, I've had a girlfriend for nearly three years and have never cheated. *Number two, for much of December I wasn't in New York, and the weekends that I was in New York I know what I was doing and who I was with. Furthermore, I don't go out drinking alone so either my GF or my roommates would have to have some recollection of this happening. I also have no credit statements from that time from any bars in that area. *Number three, she gave me a fake name. She called herself Charlene, but I reverse searched her phone number against both Spokeo and Intelius and both engines said that the number belonged to a woman named LaShawnda. I also searched my own number to check accuracy and the engines were able to identify me. *Number four, it strikes me as suspicious that I got this call at 1:30 am on a Saturday - that's not how someone normally breaks that kind of news. Furthermore, she's a day late on Saturday night but has an appointment with a doctor on Monday? Doesn't make sense, some cycles are just a day late. I have no idea who this woman is or what she wants; she hasn't asked for money. She hasn't asked for anything. But something is definitely wrong here. If I'm being scammed I want some kind of justice. If it's a mistake I just want this woman out of my life. What do you all think? Sorry for the wall of text! TL;DR: Got a call from a stranger claiming to be pregnant with my child. This is completely impossible. What should I do? | cyuix6n | cyuj641 | 1,452,548,864 | 1,452,549,211 | 18 | 78 | Not legal advice. This definitely sounds like a scam. | You are not legally obligated to do or pay anything unless and until you are ordered to do so by a court. Unless and until you get served with a paternity suit, then you ignore it. If you get served with a paternity suit, appear in court and present a vigorous defense- that should be easy if you are not the father. | 0 | 347 | 4.333333 |
40j0u5 | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [NYC] Call from a stranger claiming I'm the father of her unborn child. This is completely impossible. Best course of action? So I still have no idea how I got caught up in the middle of this, but here we are. On Saturday night I got a call from a local (NY) number. On the other line was a woman who (if I recall correctly) said that she was a day late and that she believed it was mine. This was at 1:30 am so I basically said I've met/heard of you before and hung up the phone. The weird thing is, I believe she knew my name (I don't remember all of the details of this call - it was 1:30 am and I out drinking with friends). I also have a west coast number rather than a NY number so this wasn't completely random - she knew that I was living in NY. The next day I call back to see what in the fuck is going on. The woman will no longer answer the phone (says she's visiting her gran with Alzheimers so can only text) but calls herself Charlene and says that that we met a few weekends back - she saw me stumbling when trying to hail a cab and tried to help. Cabs weren't coming and we started talking and when a cab finally did come we went to her place. Now she says she's pregnant and going to the doctor tomorrow (this was yesterday, so tomorrow would be today). I pushed for more details and again she says we met a few weekends back ("coming up on a month" but still no specific weekend) around "the village, don't remember which bar exactly". I think that this can only mean Greenwich Village. She says she's getting an abortion because she doesn't want to ruin her life or mine. EDIT: While I was typing this she texted me and said that she went to the doctor, who said she's three weeks pregnant and that we met 3-4 weeks ago. She specified that we met on a Saturday (definitely not possible, I spend weekends with the GF who I think would notice if I went home with someone else. Okay but a lot of things don't add up: *Number one, this straight up didn't happen - at least not to me. I have no memory of this at all, I've had a girlfriend for nearly three years and have never cheated. *Number two, for much of December I wasn't in New York, and the weekends that I was in New York I know what I was doing and who I was with. Furthermore, I don't go out drinking alone so either my GF or my roommates would have to have some recollection of this happening. I also have no credit statements from that time from any bars in that area. *Number three, she gave me a fake name. She called herself Charlene, but I reverse searched her phone number against both Spokeo and Intelius and both engines said that the number belonged to a woman named LaShawnda. I also searched my own number to check accuracy and the engines were able to identify me. *Number four, it strikes me as suspicious that I got this call at 1:30 am on a Saturday - that's not how someone normally breaks that kind of news. Furthermore, she's a day late on Saturday night but has an appointment with a doctor on Monday? Doesn't make sense, some cycles are just a day late. I have no idea who this woman is or what she wants; she hasn't asked for money. She hasn't asked for anything. But something is definitely wrong here. If I'm being scammed I want some kind of justice. If it's a mistake I just want this woman out of my life. What do you all think? Sorry for the wall of text! TL;DR: Got a call from a stranger claiming to be pregnant with my child. This is completely impossible. What should I do? | cyuix6n | cyuouud | 1,452,548,864 | 1,452,558,019 | 18 | 39 | Not legal advice. This definitely sounds like a scam. | 3 weeks pregnant means conceived last week and hasn't missed a period yet. The 3 weeks refers to the date of her last period. | 0 | 9,155 | 2.166667 |
40j0u5 | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [NYC] Call from a stranger claiming I'm the father of her unborn child. This is completely impossible. Best course of action? So I still have no idea how I got caught up in the middle of this, but here we are. On Saturday night I got a call from a local (NY) number. On the other line was a woman who (if I recall correctly) said that she was a day late and that she believed it was mine. This was at 1:30 am so I basically said I've met/heard of you before and hung up the phone. The weird thing is, I believe she knew my name (I don't remember all of the details of this call - it was 1:30 am and I out drinking with friends). I also have a west coast number rather than a NY number so this wasn't completely random - she knew that I was living in NY. The next day I call back to see what in the fuck is going on. The woman will no longer answer the phone (says she's visiting her gran with Alzheimers so can only text) but calls herself Charlene and says that that we met a few weekends back - she saw me stumbling when trying to hail a cab and tried to help. Cabs weren't coming and we started talking and when a cab finally did come we went to her place. Now she says she's pregnant and going to the doctor tomorrow (this was yesterday, so tomorrow would be today). I pushed for more details and again she says we met a few weekends back ("coming up on a month" but still no specific weekend) around "the village, don't remember which bar exactly". I think that this can only mean Greenwich Village. She says she's getting an abortion because she doesn't want to ruin her life or mine. EDIT: While I was typing this she texted me and said that she went to the doctor, who said she's three weeks pregnant and that we met 3-4 weeks ago. She specified that we met on a Saturday (definitely not possible, I spend weekends with the GF who I think would notice if I went home with someone else. Okay but a lot of things don't add up: *Number one, this straight up didn't happen - at least not to me. I have no memory of this at all, I've had a girlfriend for nearly three years and have never cheated. *Number two, for much of December I wasn't in New York, and the weekends that I was in New York I know what I was doing and who I was with. Furthermore, I don't go out drinking alone so either my GF or my roommates would have to have some recollection of this happening. I also have no credit statements from that time from any bars in that area. *Number three, she gave me a fake name. She called herself Charlene, but I reverse searched her phone number against both Spokeo and Intelius and both engines said that the number belonged to a woman named LaShawnda. I also searched my own number to check accuracy and the engines were able to identify me. *Number four, it strikes me as suspicious that I got this call at 1:30 am on a Saturday - that's not how someone normally breaks that kind of news. Furthermore, she's a day late on Saturday night but has an appointment with a doctor on Monday? Doesn't make sense, some cycles are just a day late. I have no idea who this woman is or what she wants; she hasn't asked for money. She hasn't asked for anything. But something is definitely wrong here. If I'm being scammed I want some kind of justice. If it's a mistake I just want this woman out of my life. What do you all think? Sorry for the wall of text! TL;DR: Got a call from a stranger claiming to be pregnant with my child. This is completely impossible. What should I do? | cyuouud | cyumrz3 | 1,452,558,019 | 1,452,554,634 | 39 | 10 | 3 weeks pregnant means conceived last week and hasn't missed a period yet. The 3 weeks refers to the date of her last period. | >"Jane. You met me at a party about 6 to 8 weeks ago and you said I was a real good sport." >"Oh, Christ yeah. How are you, Jane?" >"Pregnant! And I'm gonna jump out the window!" >"Say, you are a good sport, aren't ya, Jane?" lol, j/k. Block her number until you get a notice from her lawyer. And if she does try to get child support, get a paternity test. | 1 | 3,385 | 3.9 |
40j0u5 | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [NYC] Call from a stranger claiming I'm the father of her unborn child. This is completely impossible. Best course of action? So I still have no idea how I got caught up in the middle of this, but here we are. On Saturday night I got a call from a local (NY) number. On the other line was a woman who (if I recall correctly) said that she was a day late and that she believed it was mine. This was at 1:30 am so I basically said I've met/heard of you before and hung up the phone. The weird thing is, I believe she knew my name (I don't remember all of the details of this call - it was 1:30 am and I out drinking with friends). I also have a west coast number rather than a NY number so this wasn't completely random - she knew that I was living in NY. The next day I call back to see what in the fuck is going on. The woman will no longer answer the phone (says she's visiting her gran with Alzheimers so can only text) but calls herself Charlene and says that that we met a few weekends back - she saw me stumbling when trying to hail a cab and tried to help. Cabs weren't coming and we started talking and when a cab finally did come we went to her place. Now she says she's pregnant and going to the doctor tomorrow (this was yesterday, so tomorrow would be today). I pushed for more details and again she says we met a few weekends back ("coming up on a month" but still no specific weekend) around "the village, don't remember which bar exactly". I think that this can only mean Greenwich Village. She says she's getting an abortion because she doesn't want to ruin her life or mine. EDIT: While I was typing this she texted me and said that she went to the doctor, who said she's three weeks pregnant and that we met 3-4 weeks ago. She specified that we met on a Saturday (definitely not possible, I spend weekends with the GF who I think would notice if I went home with someone else. Okay but a lot of things don't add up: *Number one, this straight up didn't happen - at least not to me. I have no memory of this at all, I've had a girlfriend for nearly three years and have never cheated. *Number two, for much of December I wasn't in New York, and the weekends that I was in New York I know what I was doing and who I was with. Furthermore, I don't go out drinking alone so either my GF or my roommates would have to have some recollection of this happening. I also have no credit statements from that time from any bars in that area. *Number three, she gave me a fake name. She called herself Charlene, but I reverse searched her phone number against both Spokeo and Intelius and both engines said that the number belonged to a woman named LaShawnda. I also searched my own number to check accuracy and the engines were able to identify me. *Number four, it strikes me as suspicious that I got this call at 1:30 am on a Saturday - that's not how someone normally breaks that kind of news. Furthermore, she's a day late on Saturday night but has an appointment with a doctor on Monday? Doesn't make sense, some cycles are just a day late. I have no idea who this woman is or what she wants; she hasn't asked for money. She hasn't asked for anything. But something is definitely wrong here. If I'm being scammed I want some kind of justice. If it's a mistake I just want this woman out of my life. What do you all think? Sorry for the wall of text! TL;DR: Got a call from a stranger claiming to be pregnant with my child. This is completely impossible. What should I do? | cyutw7g | cyuux9h | 1,452,566,013 | 1,452,567,561 | 5 | 8 | Stop talking to her. She is most likely a scam artist. | It's a scam. You don't go to the doctor until about week 8-10. There is nothing for the doctor to see or do until then. | 0 | 1,548 | 1.6 |
a00pqo | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Can I get legally married in Missouri to someone if I am already legally married (to that same person) in a different country? [MO, USA] My husband and I just eloped in Jamaica a week ago, legally binding, it was at a resort so they have people who sorted out all the paperwork for us. However our marriage certificate will apparently take “16 weeks” to get to us. I just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant (we weren’t trying but still happy) and I need my husbands health insurance as my current insurance through my work is garbage. We need proof of the marriage as a qualifying life event to add me. THe temporary marriage certificate we got after the ceremony as a placeholder until the official one doesn’t count as an official document. Could we just go get legally married in Missouri this week? Or might that create legal problems down the line since we are already technically legally married in Jamaica? Sorry if this question is dumb. Thanks guys. | eadvxl3 | eafidmc | 1,543,092,247 | 1,543,154,313 | 18 | 53 | As far as I know, you transcribe your marriage certificate in another country, in this case the u.s., so that they can register it and see it as legally binding. At least that's what I had to do being married abroad, we were always advised to not marry twice but I can't tell if you mean another wedding as in the religious ceremony or the official legal binding. | Yea this is pretty standard procedure for ppl with destination weddings. Easier to just get married again than dealing with foreign paper work proving you’re married. | 0 | 62,066 | 2.944444 |
z73gl1 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | [PA] How Do I Adopt A Child I Currently Care For? Long story short, I met my girlfriend when she was pregnant. The baby’s biological father passed away before he was born. The child has my last name & Ive raised him as my own. We have another on the way, and I consider this one my son and first born just as much as his sibling to be, period. I’ve been told by an attorney that I have no legal rights. I want to cover my ass if something were to happen to his mom, or between me & his mom. What are the steps I need to take to legally adopt him and have official rights as his parent? | iy4q8qc | iy5b290 | 1,669,662,401 | 1,669,670,586 | 8 | 41 | This is definitely worth the few hundred dollars that a family attorney may cost for just a consultation because then you will actually know. Do it! | I would consult a family attorney here, because while you *are* on the birth certificate, you need to determine whether: a.) she can remove you by showing lack of actual paternity. This requires a court order in PA - so she cannot just decide tomorrow that you don't have parental rights. Note: The older your child is, the less likely a court would do anything, since there isn't another parent in the picture. b.) Bio dad's parents could file for grandparents rights if they figured out they have a grandchild and had no prior knowledge. A step parent adoption closes both of those doors. Take the birth certificate with you to talk to them. | 0 | 8,185 | 5.125 |
z73gl1 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | [PA] How Do I Adopt A Child I Currently Care For? Long story short, I met my girlfriend when she was pregnant. The baby’s biological father passed away before he was born. The child has my last name & Ive raised him as my own. We have another on the way, and I consider this one my son and first born just as much as his sibling to be, period. I’ve been told by an attorney that I have no legal rights. I want to cover my ass if something were to happen to his mom, or between me & his mom. What are the steps I need to take to legally adopt him and have official rights as his parent? | iy5ks1p | iy6kxxt | 1,669,674,537 | 1,669,690,963 | 2 | 3 | Did you sign proof of paternity papers when you signed the birth certificate? Not a lawyer... | Try calling the state bar pro Bono referral hotline. I'd bet you can find a lawyer to donate their time for this. We love adoptions ❤️ | 0 | 16,426 | 1.5 |
6jgqab | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My wife was killed in an accident and the biological father to my kids wants full custody. My wife has passed away after a drunk driver struck her car days ago. Immediately after, my wife's ex and the biological father of our children (yes, they may not be related by blood but I consider them my kids) has begun to try to take custody of them despite having had no direct contact with them for the past ten years when my wife had been pregnant with the youngest child. The guy has been paying child support but he is otherwise a terrible man that has abused and neglected my wife and kids until he ran off to start a new family with a woman he cheated with (and has now divorced her and abandoned her and their three children too). I have not been able to adopt the children since their biological father is "involved" still. I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. I have asked the kids what they want to do, and they say they would like to remain with me, and they don't like or trust their bio-dad. The children are 14, 12, and 10 respectively. Is there any way I can retain custody of them? Will they automatically be placed with their biological father? Or can they remain with me while I fight for them? I live in New Jersey, their deadbeat father lives in Florida and intends to come up to take them with him, or so he claims. Yes, I am also in the process of getting a lawyer but I want to have an idea of how much of a fight I will have to put up...I have some money saved and...my wife has a life insurance policy that might end up paying the court fees... I have barely had time to grieve because their "real" dad sprung this up before the ink on my wife's death certificate dried... On top of this, I am caring for my infant daughter that my wife and I had months prior, adding to the stress and depression over the situation more. | dje4gbe | dje5ang | 1,498,425,778 | 1,498,426,937 | 369 | 885 | I'm sorry. I really really am. I'm sorry for your loss, but most of all, I'm sorry because if he wants the kids, he'll get them. They're his kids, and he's maintained the legally required amount of contact to keep them. If it's primarily a financial thing for him, you can try the route of "you don't have to pay child support, please just let me adopt them". You can hire an attorney (And make sure it's a damn good one who is willing to get the kids to testify as to their desires) and try to fight to keep them, and I've seen it happen, but he's going to have to be damn near legitimately unfit in order for his rights to be severed. | Unless you know exactly what you're talking about, stay out of this thread. It's not only irresponsible, it's cruel. ETA: Locking because OP has received ample good advice, and there is more noise than signal being added at this point. /u/77777777777777777770, if you have additional questions, please start a new thread. You are absolutely welcome here anytime. | 0 | 1,159 | 2.398374 |
Subsets and Splits
No saved queries yet
Save your SQL queries to embed, download, and access them later. Queries will appear here once saved.