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I hate my life. | Crushes |
6 weeks into this, we see each other once a week. We don’t talk to each other because we re kinda of far apart but kinda close, hard to explain but she is like 30 ft from me.
I sit to her left and kinda back a little.
She looks at me from time to time and I started to notice when she started doing it and when I looked at her a little I never saw beauty as good as she is I can’t explain in words how beautiful she is.
For the past few weeks I have been trying to lock eyes with her and this week we finally do for like a second and she looks away. I swear when I see her I can’t wipe a smile off my face, it’s uncontrolled. Then at time I see her fixing her hair which is just something to spice it all up.
I don’t know her name but it’s just the energy she gives me is crazy, I have never felt like this before. One time after she looks at me I get a sudden stutter in my heart (probably bc I didn’t eat breakfast lol) and I felt my breathing alter weirdly. Even though it may not have been her I do like to think that she “made my heart skip a beat” and that she “took my breath away”. This is why say “she kills me”. | Crushes |
Out of the 2 crushes I’ve had they both thought I was gay idk why I don’t act gay but I think it’s cos I’m like easy to talk to and relate to them but for both of them I thought they liked me cos they talked to me a lot and said they’re secrets so I thought I was in and I had sealed the deal until I figured it out it’s just disappointing and it hurts I have nothing against the lgbtq community like I’m not himophobic to make this clear it’s just mad discouraging | Crushes |
dear crush, you can’t comprehend the small size of crumbs of attention I can live off. this is how insanely dry our interactions are 🤌🏼 | Crushes |
So there is this boy in my art class. I’ve been eyeing him and thought to myself-he’s pretty cute. I broke my ankle so I was depressed and felt ugly but he would open the door for me. Also when I was at the teachers desk talking with the teacher, he passed by me very closely but like very closely moving behind me. Now healed weeks later we were given a class assignment where we would have to draw a portion of a picture to make a huge portrait. However you have to meet with ur classmates to match up lines and HE WAS THE BOTTOM OF ME so he would come up to me and he would be unusually close and we would look up at each other at the same time whenever matching up lines. He’s really strong at eye contact. He also asked for my help part of his drawing and when I taught him he looked into my eyes and smiled and thanked me. Then he armed wrestle with his friends infront of me which he never done idk why it was really random but he won. BUT here’s the thing I found his Instagram didn’t follow but then a couple days later I couldn’t find his Instagram anywhere keep in mind it was small interactions so idk wtf I did :( (tell me good assumptions to feed into my delusions) Lmaoo ( I’m a senior in hs btw (f)) | Crushes |
When me and my friend walked passed my crush she said “oooooo” in this really annoying way. I freaked out and started yelling in Spanish. My friend was laughing, idk if my crush knows I like him now bc 1. She did the “oooo” thing and 2. I panicked. | Crushes |
Over the past few days, I have been giving serious thought to my crush and the reasons behind it. I contemplated the events of the past year, and why I could not seem to shake her... well, until recently. What I came up with was that the crush devolved from infatuation to self-loathing about my failures and chasing something that could not have, which was not healthy. So, I have firmly planted my feet in the belief that I am well and truly OVER her.
The full-time whistle has blown. The last strike has been thrown in the bottom of the ninth inning (insert sports metaphor here) and I am conceding defeat. | Crushes |
I am not scared to ask this girl out, I have only told one person, who is in a different school. I am unsure to ask her out because she has a very bad shoulder injury that needs surgery, I think that asking her out would be too much stress for her and it wouldn't turn out well, I know she is already stressed because she verbalizes it and puts it on the prayer board every day (I go to a Christian school). She broke up with my friend last year too which I don't think gives me a good look if I ask her out tomorrow. Also how should I ask her out, I was thinking that if I do I could ask her if she wanted to go to the mall with me after school (It is about 5-10 minutes away and there is a lot of stuff we could do). Thanks if anyone ever answers. | Crushes |
If a boy loves you from many years and was with u since u were 3 and is just too humorous and cute
But is chubby will u like him
I like a girl from when we both were 3 idk but
I just want to know what she might feel
Advice or help ? | Crushes |
So as I have explained the confusing signs given by her has been making me stressed. It's hard but I have to get over my crush due to certain reasons. But my message to the teenagers of this sub give your first priority to goals than of giving pure attention to him/her later it hurts when you realise the person is ignoring you or hates you. But once you're on the track to the success there will be no regret and an emotion of taking revenge will spark and after few years you will realise that the person you liked didnt deserved you. The time will come when you will get a person with mutual feelings and a better human.
The message is for those whose crush hates or ignores them. I'm leaving this sub but you guys gave me fantastic tips and suggestion which I would implement when I will find my true love.
Thank you, Alvida(bye)! | Crushes |
This man that I work with last month came up to me and ask for my number when we started texting he said that he like me but the next day he ghosted me. I would text him he doesn’t answer but when I see him at work he’ll say hi and talk to me. Should I tell him I have feelings for him or not tell him anything | Crushes |
Basically she got into a relationship on Friday and I nor she didn't talk with each other after. Yesterday I sent her a long ass paragraph asking for closure since I knew she won't magically fall in love with me but it made it easier to vent out and tell everything to her and end this crush story. Now I'm questioning if the closure thing was a good idea? | Crushes |
Barley said hi to me too. He usually approaches me to see what is up but this time he just kept hanging out with her. Did I mention how pretty this girl is? Everyone was looking at her beauty. Good for her.
I feel more sick by his treatment though. I do not really want to see him this week but I am going have to. | Crushes |
I (19m) think I’ve fallen in love with my best friend (19f). I’ve struggled with my mental health for a while now and just recently have started to feel happy and she’s been with me through all of it. At the beginning of this summer I partied with some friends and long story short I ended up calling her but I don’t remember what I said but I think I told her I liked her. The next day one of my friends was really vague about what had happened that night but from what he told me, all he said is that someone told him about their crush, and then he was about to spill the beans about someone liking me, but then said it wasn’t his place to tell me ( I didn’t put two and two together, I know I’m oblivious smh). Then a couple months ago she and I were talking about relationships and out of nowhere she said that she believed that a friendship could evolve into dating (again I know I’m dumb). Then on Halloween she started taking to everyone about how I would be a great boyfriend (another instance of me being a complete idiot). But she did get me thinking and I realized she’s been saying she likes me but now I’m in this weird predicament where we’re both going into adulthood and each of us knows what we want for ourselves in the next year, she’s staying in town for school and I’m moving 3 hours away for school(this wouldn’t be till the beginning of the next school year for the both of us). I really do think we’d be a great couple because we both know so much about each other and we just click. She’s also been there for me when times were tough for me and I love her for that, but with us each knowing what we wanna do and the eventual distance for us I’m just not sure, I guess I just need some advice. | Crushes |
My crush is just not in such a good place in life at the moment. So I want to be there for her and check up on how she is doing. She responds to my texts and snaps which is good.
But I kinda worry that it might be annoying if I do that. Would it be? Should I ask her if she doesn't mind me checking up on her since I am weirdly comfortable saying and asking things to her? | Crushes |
i have decided to slowly start my process of moving on from my crush since he’ll be leaving something we’re both a part of very soon and it’s also his last year of HS. i came to conclusion that we won’t interact like we have before and i’m not bold enough to make a move so i want to find a decent, healthy way of moving on.
i have suggested to myself of deleting pictures of things that remind me of him or pics of him but im not sure if it’ll make this situation hurt more or less.
i think im coming from an emotional place rn, but i have been thinking about moving on for some time so i just just like to know some ways LOL. if you can help, thank you. | Crushes |
Hey 13 M here there’s this girl I was thinking about asking her out tommrow or the day after I know she liked me a few days ago but not sure now we where playing truth or dare and they asked if she liked me she didn’t Awnser them they also asked if she liked anyone and she didn’t Awnser im just nervous and need reinsurance | Crushes |
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TLDR: I think my crush basically told me he likes me back, but I’m getting mixed signals.
I (f19) have liked this boy (m19) for a few months now. We have a lot in common and have a few classes together since we’re in the same major. For the last month or so we’ve been hanging out a good bit, but it’s almost always in group settings. Still, he’s so sweet and always holds the door for me and goes out of his way to walk with me after class. We also text a lot (he asked for my number) and I think he likes me back.
The problem is I’m getting mixed signals. He’ll say something that makes me think he likes me, but then openly make comments about other girls. For example we always go out together on weekends and last time a girl started flirting with him right in front of me and he flirted back. Then when she left he was saying how he “missed his opportunity” (I don’t think he’s the type to try and make me jealous) but then later that night told me he always chooses to hang out with me over another girl who asked him to go out.
I’m feeling more confident though because the other night we were out together without any of our group for the first time and he saw his friend at a party and the friend asked me my name. After I responded the friend whispered something to him and he nodded his head and said, “Yeah.” Then the friend started talking him up to me. When I asked him later what his friend asked he said he asked if he liked me and if we were a thing. I wanted to ask how he responded, but I’m awkward and just smiled and started blushing like crazy because I didn’t expect him to say that. I’m assuming that means he likes me back since he nodded his head, but I don’t want to get my hopes up and then get embarrassed if that wasn’t the case.
So should I shoot my shot? I don’t want to risk making our friendship awkward if he doesn’t like me, but I like him so much! And if I do, how should I go about it? | Crushes |
I came home after going to playground with my younger cousin, I still didn't know how to react after that, I was screaming in my head. The moment she came to me and touched my hand as she gave the cookies to me then kissed my cheeks, I felt like in heaven.
I fall inlove with her after my friend introduced me to her, she was taller than me and a goth girl. Then she slowly starts to eat lunch with me, I don't know why she would hangout with me tbh, I'm fat and a nerd. But she said that it doesn't matter, so my self-esteem and hopeness rises up, sometimes I think that what if she is only nice to me? I don't think I have any chance to be with her, I always see her with the Jock guy in our school. Can I have some tips on how to go closer with her? | Crushes |
I have an obnoxious crush on someone who I shouldn’t. We’ve had just a couple of interesting interactions, but nothing crazy or weird. In fact I’m pretty sure I’m overthinking those interactions, making them out to be something they are not. One I accidentally touched their hand and another time the just got really really close to me like hovering me just a fee inches away from my head that I literally melted (they probably couldn’t tell as I am really quiet and probably unassuming). I stalked their social media and they look so cute in photos. I didn’t realize how hot they are because I really try not to look at them and I really just want to stare at their photos now, but I don’t want to make my crush worse. I try to avoid talking to them but I had to quickly message them about something and once I talk to them I can’t get them out of my head for like a week. It’s quite painful and actually really stupid. Does anyone have any tips? After seeing a shirtless photo of them, it’s really hard to shake them off my mind now. Please help ughhhh | Crushes |
ik so i have a crush on this guy from my church. he is cute my type (thats why i like him) and i see him very often at church like 3 to 4 times a week. so what do i do? he is 5 years older than me and i dont know if we will ever be together. plus my sister is dating his best friend. what do i do? and how do i get over him fast?
I foundout that im related to him from both my mom and dads side. we are related trough marriage. | Crushes |
So my former crush ig got a boyfriend, and I always tell myself that feelings come and feelings go, but these just refuse to go away. Every time I start to gain interest in another girl, I always think about how potent my feelings for my former crush were in comparison to whatever girl I gained some interest in. This just makes my life super hard and depressing because, quite frankly, I feel like nobody I know is as amazing as her. | Crushes |
i’ve been speaking to this girl for way over a month and until a few weeks back i never thought anything of it. we only spoke normally with no attraction towards eachother.
but i’ve been confused bcs a few weeks back i went out clubbing for a few days and we spoke way way more and she was getting jealous telling me she hates when i go to clubs and kept asking me about my snap best friends list etc.
i told her she was first and she got happy.
at that point i saw she possibly liked me so we called all night and she confirmed it but my problem is that i don’t think she shows it as much or at all when i’m not at clubs or out
we don’t speak as much some days and she always goes to bed and doesn’t exactly speak to me before she does fall asleep which is fine
but does anyone know what i should do or can do? | Crushes |
1) I woke up
2) I went to school
3) I saw my crush
4) I hugged my crush
5) I kissed my crush
6) I cried | Crushes |
**TL;DR** \- How can I (16m) build a friendship and a relationship with my high school crush (16f)? I don't have much time with her during the day, and I'm introverted.
I am a junior in high school right now (16m) and it's my first time having a major crush on a girl (16f). How can I find time and muster up courage to talk to her? I want to build a good friendship before I confess, but I'm kind of introverted.
Her older brother is my good friend who gave me her number a while back so I could ask her a genuine question about homework. I've only ever texted her a couple of times for some help, but haven't confessed to my infatuation. I don't really get to talk to her in person either because she's always in her friend group of girls and we only share one class together every other day. I wouldn't say I have a strong friendship with her because of how little we talk.
Is it normal for me to think differently around her? I usually don't have a hard time talking to people and making friends.
Sorry for this rant on my crush...any advice on this relationship would be greatly appreciated! | Crushes |
i confessed to my crush today that’s also a good friend of mine and we were both quite awkward and laughing the entire time since it’s his first time getting a confession and my first time doing one but then he said he didn’t have an answer for me right now and asked me to wait and when i asked when he said on friday and i can’t tell if that’s a good sign or not help
UPDATE: he told me he doesn’t think of me in that way but we can still be best friends 😭 i asked him if i could keep trying afterwards and he said yes so ! i don’t plan on giving up until i stop liking him :) | Crushes |
There are regular crushes, and there are celebrity crushes, but I'm not sure how well my situation falls into either category. I don't know how common my situation is, so I'd like to hear your thoughts on it.
I don't know how much this counts as a "celebrity" crush, as the person in question is a YouTuber, and a lesser-known one at that. He only has a couple thousand subscribers, and hasn't released a lot of videos. He is mainly known for being a voice actor in my favorite animated series. I do think a lot of this may be inspiration/admiration-related, as he is one of my biggest inspirations in terms of both animating and voice acting, two things I am very passionate about and want to pursue in the future. One reason he inspires me so much, however, is because of how much I relate to him in terms of experience — he was once a mere fan of cartoons and other content, just like I am, and now he has major involvement in an all-time favorite show of many people, including me. I am hoping that when I become more known on YouTube, we can do a collab (which is something he tends to be very open to).
However, it also has a lot to do with his personality, and other related aspects. In all media I've seen that he's in (interviews/Q&As, podcasts, etc.), you can tell that he is a very kind and optimistic person, and is very encouraging towards others, which are qualities I really like in a person. We also share /a lot/ of the same interests, from hobbies, to liking the same kind of content on YouTube, down to liking some of the same foods. A couple friends of mine who have seen his videos have even told me that we have extremely similar energy.
I've read that celebrity crushes have a lot to do with physical appearance, which has little to do with my situation. Most of his content has to do with animation, and his face has been shown online very few times (and besides that, it was shortly /after/ I started crushing on him that I found out what he looked like).
However, even if I never ended up dating him (which is likely to be the case, given that we have an age gap of around 5 years), I wouldn't mind. I don't necessarily need a relationship in general to be happy, and I would be perfectly happy as a creator becoming friends with him and other creators. But my feelings for him are in fact intense, and I can no longer deny that. Should I try to keep these feelings at bay? | Crushes |
Ok so im a sophomore in high school and I have a crush on a freshman in my Spanish class. It is already the best class but with her in it it is EPIC. We were making crafts last week for dia de los Muertos and we both chose to make sugar skulls and it was great. | Crushes |
Background: Im a straight 17M, and I like a girl the same age as me, senior in high school. I knew her for some time, and I can't pinpoint the exact time where I started to like her, but I just remember sometime I did. I liked everything I knew about her, not just looks, I just liked her general attitude and humor IG. Idk tbh what it is.
I didn't really think she liked me back, she would talk to me in class, and I would almost never initiate because of nervousness, so it would be her initiating 90% of the time. She would laugh at my jokes, ask me for help and join in on conversations I was having. Still, I didn't think I had much of a chance.
One day my friends asked me if I liked anyone, and I didn't want to lie so I said her. I told them it probably wasn't gonna work out and it wasn't a reciprocated feeling most likely, but they were hellbent on getting me with her I guess. They would tease me in the same class and every time they saw me and her remotely in the same area. I eventually got them to tone it down a bit and they apologized saying they just wanted me to be happy. I don't know if she picked up on this, because she never acted different even if I thought she overheard them. One day they were talking about it and one of her friends overheard and ended up telling her. I was at home at the time so I got texted it by someone else because it had spread a ton.
I thought for sure the next day she would come talk to me and tell me she knew and she would reject me or something, but it didn't happen. She continued as if everything was normal. A week later I saw she was alone in a classroom doing work, so I decided to ask her if she liked me back. She got really wide eyed and apologized a million times (Not even exaggerating I swear, that was like the majority of the conversation). But she said she only saw us as friends. This was back before school ended, so I was kinda down and depressed all summer but I continued to work on myself, running, swimming and hitting the gym. When school came back, she is in basically all my classes. I tried my best to avoided her for like the first month of school because I did not want to make her feel awkward. But one day she initiated conversations with me again, laughing at my jokes like it was before. This has happened again and again, and just last week we had an unexpected free period because a teacher was absent, and she out of all the tables decided to sit directly in front of me when I sat down next to two of my friends (who she knows, but isn't really friends with them). She didn't really have many of her other friends in that area, but there were people there I would expect her to sit with before me, and there was like 10 open tables. I didn't really talk to her that much because I was really surprised.
Anyway... I still really like her but I respect her answer that she gave me. It would be rude of me to try to make it more than what she told me, and I want to honor that. I'm just surprised she still interacts with me after all of that... I really do not know what to do and I cannot get over her... help? | Crushes |
I (21m) met her (19f) this semester in class and I felt like we hit it off really well and it was easy at first. We were spending a lot of time together studying, but mostly talking, and going out to eat a lot. The past month or so though we kinda drifted though and it's been kind of hot and cold. We used to sit next to each other everyday during class, and walk out together but some days she'll text me before saying she's late, or is just gonna sit in the back and she always is now in a rush to leave. I guess this is more me venting a little bit, but I'm more hurt lately at losing a friend than I am my crush not being into me. | Crushes |
Extremely shortened version: Okay so I just moved to a new school in the middle of nowhere. This one guy was super kind. I'm best friends with his sister and she told e he is awful at flirting and doesn't really know how to give people signs. He has offered me his sweatshirt, stares at me, and honestly just gives off the classic signs of a high school crush. There is this other girls though who has a very obvious crush on him, but he has told me that he has no interest in her. Last night we were at homecoming and he asked me to dance after his friend told him to "man up". I thought it went really well until he asked the other girl (previously mentioned) to dance directly after ours. It hurt my feelings a good bit, but I didn't let it ruin my night. He ended asking me to dance for the last song which I thought was super cute. Does he show signs of interest? What should I do next?
Normal version: Okay so this is my first reddit post and it's going to be a long one so I'm sorry lol. I (16F) need some help with this (17M) guy. To shorten up the beginning of my story I'll just say a couple important things. I just moved to a new area that is in the middle of nowhere, I'm at a little private school where everybody has known everybody since they were in diapers, and most people were no very welcoming toward me. I also understand that I am in high school and that none of this is actually going to matter in 5 years but I don't care because it matters to me now. Unlike most people, there is this one guy. I'll call him Alex. Alex was one of the first people to talk to me there and he was the sweetest guy I've ever talked to. He made sure I knew where all my classes were and made me feel much better about being in a new place. Since then we're not the closest friends but we still talk everyday and have this thing where we make sure to say hi to each other every time we see walk past each other. He is still super nice to me and I have caught his looking at me a couple times. Anytime we talk there is always eye contact and we laugh about everything. I'm also bestfriends with his older sisters which complicates things even more. They have both told me that he has no clue how to flirt and is really bad at giving hints. He has done a couple things like offering my his sweatshirt when I was cold, he stares at me a good bit, and has talked to me about not having a homecoming date a couple times. One issue is there is this other girl who likes him. It's very obvious and he has told me that he absolutely no interest in her. Their families are very close so he sees her more as a sister. Well yesterday was our homecoming. He told me I looked very nice and I said the same thing to him. He came up to me and his friend whispered something to him and said, "You said you would, so man up!" He came up to me and said, "I really want to dance with you later." So we danced. I think we both had a lot of fun, but I could tell he was nervous. We both have two left feet so it wasn't very graceful but we both enjoyed ourselves. I was really happy until he asked the other girl to dance the next song. It was more of a fun upbeat song but I still felt hurt by it. I didn't let that ruin my night and still had a ton of fun. He asked me to dance again and it was really cute. Does he have any interest in me? | Crushes |
I would like to seek some advice here because i have no one to talk about it irl. Context: i met this coworker, we both on mid 30, both married and thinking on divorcing our respective partners, thats how we come to get to know each other, by complaining about our partners. but then we started to text all the time, grab some beers together, talk all day on work and then after.
i started to think we had a bond, she worried a lot when i got sick, she started many of the convos and go outs ideas. I noticed her picking up little details of our conversations, and teasing me and trying to sit together in social gatherings ; i am in love basically, and i got the feeling it was mutual. i confessed my feelings, she said she wasn’t up for a relationship (of course we are currently married) and she didnt thought i like her. However, she is thinking of ending things on her side, but she doesn’t know what is going to happened next, also she said i have a mess on my side that also needs to be solved.
I agree with her. Also, she said we can still be friends and dont change a thing on our friendship unless i feel uncomfortable. And i tried to, still texting her but i try not to think about her on a romantic way and i better focus on my mess instead. She didn’t change a thing on our relation. but after that day, she double texted me when she goes out for drinks at night , even if i don’t answer, because i am asleep she texts until she goes to sleep, and some other days she throws teasings phrases like “i need to confess something… “ and then she proceeds to say something silly or unrelated. I have a hard time getting her out of my mind, cutting all communications is not an option. Thoughts? | Crushes |
found out from my friend (whos boyfriend is friends with my crush) that my crush has a long history of dating people that are completely different from me in terms of ethnicity, personality, and appearance...
it kinda hurts that im not his type but at least that helps me get over my crush on him quicker | Crushes |
I’m almost 16, I’ve never had a crush until a couple weeks ago, and it feels weird. I’ve dated a lot of people, but none I actually liked, I was figuring out myself and I’ve learned to drop a relationship if I don’t actually like the person. Although I have the mindset that dating as a teenager is setting myself up for disappointment, It took me a while to realize other people’s feelings too. But now I know what it feels like to have a crush.
I met this boy in my philosophy class, he’s a senior, and I thought he was good looking when I first saw him in the class. One day, he just sat next to me, I’ve never spoken to this person before but he now just sits next to me. We chat sometimes and I remind him to work on stuff, we build small towers with pencils and erasers, and I gave him a pen that’s his favorite color, blue.
I think he has a girlfriend, he always comes in late to class. So why did he sit next to me? No one sits next to me, and I don’t think he felt bad for me. I don’t know if I should ask for his Instagram/snap or if I should just keep what we have. | Crushes |
I have had a online best friend for 2 years we know each other's parents and have been calling or texting almost every day/night for the past 2 years. We live over 1,000 miles away from each other and she's still one of my closest friends ever, but i wish we were more than that. I joke-flirt with lots of my friends but never with her because I wasn't sure if she'd think I was weird but out of nowhere a few weeks ago she started doing it until something that sounds really stupid and silly happened.
She texted me a stupid picture of two people kissing that looked strikingly similar to the two of us, and I texted back "me and you lmao?" Because I thought she was trying to be funny but when she said "thats what I was intending 😍😍" It made me freeze for a second. I thought not too much of it but I texted "That makes us sound like a couple 😭"
"Yeah."
"???" "😧"
Her "anyway I'm having fun consuming these" *meme*
"I need elaborating?? "
Her "LMAO"
And then she switched topics and wouldn't go back. I think I waited too long to give a good response and she panicked maybe?? Or maybe I looked way to far into it.
Either way I've been thinking about it A LOT and I DO like her. I've had the biggest crush on her forever but I don't think I can say it. I just wanna tell her and get it out of the way but if she doesn't feel the same I don't know what I'll do will we even be friends anymore?
I'd love some advice as well. 😭 | Crushes |
I’m almost 16, I’ve never had a crush before. At first I thought this was weird, I’ve never turned down any men (or women) that have asked me out. I have the mindset of, “it’s middle/high school so it’s not serious”. I’ve hurt a lot do people with this mindset so I decided just to date a teenagers version of ‘casually’. I make sure to cut a relationship when I realize it’s not working for me. But for the first time, I finally got a crush, and it feels weird. I go to school with him, he’s in my philosophy class. I’ve been in this class for like 2 months, and one day he just sat next to me, so I decided to talk to him. I’ve never felt such strong emotions, it’s so foreign to me. I think he may have a girlfriend, but I feel conflicted, why did he sit next to me? | Crushes |
I think I finally got a crush. I think around June/July I posted on this sub asking "how does it feel to have a crush?". Well I think I've developed one. It's my friend whom I knew for around 3,5 years. She is in my class. We text a lot about different topics. Our conversations are always long and we always have something to talk about. She is funny and very nice.
Idk if its in all schools but in my school at the end of 8th grade there is a "party" i think is the right word. (In my country there is no middle schools, we have 8 grades in elementary, and then straight to high school) Anyway you should invite someone to this party. And since we have been going along so well I asked her if she wanted to go with me. She agreed :).
We talk a lot in school. I hang out with her and my other friends. It's a very fun and nice atmosphere around them. | Crushes |
So I finally got the courage to asked my gym crush out, she said she was talking to somebody, but that I was really attractive. I took it as a compliment and thanked her, in the end she didn’t give me her number or anything. I would like to know why she said that, was she being nice or planting a seed of hope? | Crushes |
Hmm where do I begin? This girl and I both live basically next to each other and I've seen her since last year. But near the start of this year was when I started to crush on her. After a long time of not knowing how to act or when the conditions would be perfect, one day, they were, and I confessed my feelings to her. She didn't really say anything besides "ok," but she did say we could talk, and after a bit she gave me her number.
Ever since I got her number, we have been talking a lot. Enough for me to think that maybe she thinks I'm a special person in her life. Well, now that I say that it just sounds really narcisstic. What I'm trying to say is we have been getting close. We both have been getting to know more and more stuff about each other, like our pets, our family, our hobbies, whatever. Occasionally I try to flirt with her but it usually ends up as pure cringe. But I've learned to kind of embrace it. We often joke about how much of a nerdy loser I am. I don't really try to hide it. I just try to sound the most like myself as possible. And when I do that I usually end up sounding like a complete virgin. I do truly believe shes the kind of person who doesn't really mind that though, or even thinks its cute. But who knows, I'm probably messing up any good chance of having a relationship with that.
So yeah. I've really been trying to see her outside of school, because then I'll really feel like we've reached a new level. I tried to get her to come over to my house on Friday, but she backed out. Maybe I'll try again next week, since she said she was down to do it anytime, she just wasn't able to. One thing that's really worked for me is the fact that one of my close friends is dating one of her friends, so we all kind of have a circle. My crush has told me multiple times what her friends think of me, and they usually say stuff that I'm cute or sweet or whatever. It's dumb to constantly think about something small that somebody said, I know, but stuff like that really just keeps me going. So yeah, that's where I am. Obviously not super far, but its nice to take my time with stuff like this. This Friday I am probably going to ask her if she likes me. Not asking her out or anything, but I'm just curious if she feels the same way I do. I am very scared but also really hopeful for what the answer will be. It'll be even better if she comes over this Friday and I get to ask her in person. I can just imagine the moment. But yeah, this is getting cringeworthy, so I'll end it off here. stay strong friends | Crushes |
Actively helping my best friend get together with my crush because they both like each other and would make each other happier than anything else. Am i jealous? A bit. But more so happy and supportive because we'll i love my friends and I'd be more than happy to see my crush with someone he actually likes | Crushes |
Recently I've had a crush on this girl who I've seen at school. The only problem is that we don't share any classes, and don't have the same lunch period. I only ever see her in the hallway in between classes. How do I approach her, or get a conversation going without it being awkward? | Crushes |
I (f18) have been writing with a guy (m30) since august almost daily- except since a few weeks it’s so weird.
Firstly, I know it’s a huge age gap but I really really like him and I’ve always been into older guys.
We had 2 dates yet ( in the second one we got very intimate), sadly it’s hard to have more since I moved away from my hometown to study.
Anyways, before our 2. date he has already been answering late, barely writing etc and excusing his behaviour because of work.
Then, we had our 2. date and everything was perfect.
Afterwards he was cold again.
I texted him about it, and he just said he is down because of some thing but nothing to worry.
I cried a lot because of him but decided it was best if I didn’t text so much more, to see if something came from him.
And yes, occasionally he did text me which made me very happy. But now he’s answering less again and being colder again and honestly I have no idea anymore.
We‘ve been texting for 3 months everyday and now it’s as if I’m writing with a completely different guy. But sometimes he still shows affection back, so I’m just really confused about everything . Why is he acting so weird? | Crushes |
My brain changed him so he's my age and not the middle schooler that I remember him as.
All it was was us talking in some class that we never had, and him telling me he had a crush on me and wanted to go on a date and I said "yes." But the whole thing really shook me. I didn't realize I even liked him, but looking back it's kind of obvious.
He was the only person who ever asked me out, and it was on a dare. I said "no" then; I wasn't ready for a relationship then anyway, because I was like, 12.
He also held my hand once, helping me get down off a tall chair. I don't know why, but that moment stuck with me.
I'm just cripplingly lonely and clinging to anything that tells me I won't be single forever. I've still never even kissed anybody and I'm in college now. | Crushes |
I’m posting here bc it’s active and I tend to see lots of responses here… me and an online friend of mine liked each other/ were really like REALLLY close. But he hasn’t messaged in >a month now, and it hurts… usually when I messaged first he takes hours to respond . I’ve been thinking about him this entire time and trying to move on but the pain is so real like I felt we could stay really close yk. He promised he wouldn’t disappear😭
What do ppl think I should do? | Crushes |
One of my guy friends was like "I hope you don't date _____. He's weird." Why would he say this? Is he crushing?
This might be a really stupid question, but I just want to make sure I’m interpreting things correctly. Thanks in advance :) | Crushes |
Almost a year ago this girl got hired at my job and at first, we didn't talk much. But lately the past \~4/5 months we have been talking, spending time together, and just having a good time together which developed into me having a crush for her. Now, 2 days ago I finally gathered the guts and confessed to her which when I told her she was shocked. She didn't reject me but didn't say she liked me back. Then the next day we messaged and talked, and she said she was still shocked and like honored and surprised I even like her like that. Now our friendship is like weird, but we still talk every day and get along really well. For better context, her and her ex-boyfriend are talking and planning to meet a week later (They were dating for 2 years and broke up when she got hired at my job). Did I mess up? Did I wait too long to tell her? I'm so confused and so like conflicted on what to do or just in general. Although things aren't too weird between us, every time we talk and see each other I think back to that night and all our moments. I still care and love her though. | Crushes |
i ended up confronting him. we’re going to stay as friends. ggwp | Crushes |
both f15
Ok so for context last time I made a post im pretty sure I was talking about how I dont think my crush likes me back and all.
I now know that she does like me we've talked about it and I've said I will end up waiting for her (im a girl). Heres the thing tho and this might sound weird but she lowkey flirts with everyone but she doesn't know it. Yet she knows I like her and she still flirts w me, like literally Friday in 5th period she kissed me on the cheek. I've never seen her do this with anyone else, mind you the farthest I've seen her go with her flirting is leaning on people and hugging then n stuff. I really like this girl like I cannot stop thinking about her. And here is the other thing, when I saw her start to go in and kiss my cheek I saw her eyes flicker to my lips, now she probably just thought she isn't ready for that which I respect.
In the past shes done stuff like rub my thigh and wipe things off my face for me when I didn't know, and that was even before I told her sooo I just dont know. When I asked her out originally she said she didnt know how she felt about dating a friend, but I reassured her saying that even if we broke up or anything I wouldn't start acting weird towards her or anything. Thats when she told me she was interested, so now she knows I like her she does lowkey stuff and kinda flirts with me. And I think its been progressing over the weeks. Idk what to do, I wanna flirt back but im a very self conscious person, I'm not gonna try and kiss her back or anything.
Its just if I flirt im just gonna do little stuff at first and see if she doesn't mind, but even still with that I dont wanna overstep my boundaries and ruin it with her. (She's the first person I've liked like this in over 4 years.) So I just don't know. Do i ask her if she would be okay w it or do I just go for it but be subtle? | Crushes |
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I don't post much but this is bugging me everytime I get close to a girl and we talk for a decent amount of time they mess with my feeling by dating another guy. Or I date them they cheat or break up week later boom new bf | Crushes |
So my 3rd period class is with her, Strength 2, we where doing soccer, and I kicked the ball and it curved and hit here in the rear end so…… | Crushes |
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I have had a foolish crush on this kid for four years and a month now. He has some thick, black hair he grows out. I think he is Asian but I never spoke to him. He’s darker than me.
I first him in 7th grade, in English class. I chased after him. I didn’t even talk to him that much.
I don’t know him like that. I am not his bestie . He never asks for help, or greet me, or even see me. The last thing he wrote was he didn’t speak to me in school. Yet, I stare get these feelings when I think of him. This is so messed up. He said next time I harassed him, he’ll call the cops.
This may not be a crush but I always thought it was.
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Title explains it. I’ve recently caught feelings for a classmate of mine and it’s both causing me an immense amount of stress, and it’s giving me a feeling of impending doom for our friendship. How do i stop crushing on them? | Crushes |
me and my friend were at a college party and she tells me after we get home that this guy couldn’t take his eyes off me the whole night right
and i know this guy bc he goes to my school and i’ve caught him looking at me at school a couple times before this
so I follow this guy on insta bc i started to catch feelings and wait a day or so but he still hadn’t followed me back
i ask my friend to follow him and see what happens and he follows her back a couple mins after she followed him
what does this mean?? did he not like me after all? | Crushes |
I’ve had a on and off again crush on this girl for a while. Like a while while like before my age had 2 digets. It kinda sucks cause she moved far. She said she used to like me when we where 7. Well I think I might be remembering wrong, it’s not a extremely massive crush cause if it was I would be absolutely devisted but it still sucks. I don’t know why I still talk to them we haven’t spoken in person in 4 years but every couple of months we have a great convo for a while. Idk exactly what I feel,I’m
Confused and I think it’s what’s been bumbing me out Lately | Crushes |
he fucking knows m into him and its really annoying cz he actually was staring at me and told me to look into his eyes and it was so hard I couldn't stop blushing pls help
I literally hid my face w computer and my phone fell and he was laughing 😭 | Crushes |
I'm bored and lonely and we've known eachother foe a long time so I thought it would be fun | Crushes |
over text or in person | Crushes |
About three weeks ago I started going to the library to study. The first time I went as the library of my school was closing at 6pm and I wanted to finish my work. So, I went to this library (Library A) and got my seat assigned (we cannot choose the seats due to covid, idk why they still keep doing it but whatever). I sat at my place and started working, as I was very focused on finishing my task and then going home. I really enjoyed the environment, it was a nice study session. There was a guy in front of me who was working on his computer. I didn't pay attention to him very much, but it seemed like he was kind of curious about me? I have this sensation, but as I wasn't really paying attention I don't know for sure. But I noticed that he was really handsome. The next days I kept seeing him at the same library, and it was like we exchanged eye contact pretty often, for some seconds. Just intense eye contacts I guess. I started to understand he was a creature of habit. Then, Sunday came and that library was closed, so I decided to go to another one, the only open library in my city on Sundays (Library B). As I walked in, with my surprise, I noticed he was here. It was something funny, indeed, I kept seeing him. But still, he was a good looking dude and nothing more. We exchanged eye contact again, idk what they were, was it a silent way of saying "I know who you are"? Idk. I was intrigued by him and by this silent game, I guess. Then, I started having a crush on him, and started coming to the library to see him, and maybe find the occasion to talk to him. But I am a bit shy, so that anytime I wanted to talk to him, I kept worrying he could be annoyed, or worse, have a girlfriend. I thought about giving him a note with my number, but then I preferred it to be casual and more natural, rather than being flirty out of nowhere. So, I was going to the same library (A), except for Sundays, where I switched to the other library (B), and kept seeing him, but essentially doing nothing. Then, yesterday I went to the library again; he came after me, and he got a seat assigned in front of me! What a coincidence, I thought it must have been a sign. We smiled to each other for the first time. I thought about writing "you wanna grab a beer?" on a post card, very simple and chill, but I didn't find the courage to do so. Then, something happened: he said "what a drag!" to his computer, as he was probably tired and saturated from writing and studying; I giggled, as I thought it was cute and funny, and he apologized with me; I was like "nevermind, I understand!" and we both smiled. It was cute. Then, when he left, he said to me "see you tomorrow then, will you be at library B?". I was a bit surprised and said yes, and he said goodbye. I was so happy as we broke the ice so naturally! and then it was nice that we both agreed about kind of "knowing each other". Idk what to think. Today I went, and he cheerfully said hi to me as he was stretching and looked at my direction. I thought about asking him for a drink again, but he left before the library closed, so my plan was ruined. But he also said goodbye.
Idk what to think! I know that I have to ask him out for something casual, so it is not even a big of a deal or an official date (more a getting to know each other informal thing), but still, I am afraid to expose myself if he's not interested. What do you think? have you some thoughts to share? Thank you in advice to everyone <3 | Crushes |
It’s just a funny thing that just happened to me and I wanted to share. She went to an event and put it in her story with this emoji slide thingy with this emoji 😍and she placed it directly under the music cover. Actually I didn’t meant to react and use this emoji slide, however I was dumb and wanted to tap on the music and hit the emoji slide. I tried to close the app so there won’t be a reaction and of course that didn’t work and the slide was on the left side which means that it’s on its lowest.
To make sure she didn’t think I dislike the event she is going to or just want to annoy her, I immediately texted her that it was by accident and while texting she already started typing because she probably just saw it. She texted me that she jokingly that she wanted to end our friendship.
It’s a kinda funny story and even though it sounds bad, she spoke about friendship between us which means she likes me at least as friend and that’s not to bad and since she was already typing after she saw my reaction that probably means she cared at least a bit about my opinion and wondered why my reaction was that weird. | Crushes |
Me and my crush met when we started high school (uk) a few years ago and when I first started liking him i only had one class with him And basically tried to talk to him as much as possible and he seemed decently nice and funny and then we start this year and he has been transphobic and racist to my face (but not at me or directed at anyone) I've also been informed of homophobia he has done this a few times now but recently he's been doing it less and less and it seems like just a thing he was doing a while ago because he thought it was a good idea he also showed interest in other girls who he probably knows doesn't like him back (they really don't they think I'm weird for liking him) but he did spend a residential trip in a group with them Nvm unimportant mentioned once never again and I dont want to like him but he seems to show an increasing amount of interest to me over the past months but I'm friends with most of his friends so eehhhhh but anyways just wondering what I should do about the possibility of more toxicness | Crushes |
So i'm in a not so happy relationship since 7 years and i never had a crush on someone else . But i have now i new coworker and i got a huge a crush on him. At the begining i tried to hide it but i didnt work out so well i guess. So today my Crush asked me about my BF (his Age, Job, Name ect.) i told him all and that our relationship is not going to well atm.( Me and my BF had a big fight last Weekend) my crush then told me i should make peace with my BF. So do you think my Crush knows i like him?? and why would he ask so much stuff about my BF?? | Crushes |
Okay so I created a new account to post this with extra anonymity.
So I, now (16m) used to really like this girl (same age) last year. After I had told someone, my crush (who I'll call BB) found out and ended up not liking me back, this resulted in her choosing not to talk to me for about three-ish weeks.
Understandably, I was heartbroken and attempted to move on, which I failed miserably at. So as the year went on I accepted that BB didn't like me and most likely never would, I did still like her (still do) however from that point onwards I forced my mind to treat her like I would anyone and that absolutely ANYTHING she did, wouldn't mean anything. (I'm guessing BB thinks I stopped liking her after the three-ish weeks and haven't liked her since)
So since then, it's been about 9 months, and I recently have been told by a new friend that BB USED to like me back, back when I forced myself to treat her like a random person I wouldn't speak to. Now what my friend told me seems to be true, as looking back BB was more, sort of bubbly around me and she, as well as her friends, would usually be around my vicinity during lunch and break when normally she wouldn't have been previously. Those signs stopped after a month or two however and I guess I just never saw them because I made myself accept that it wouldn't ever happen (to help myself get over her).
Bringing it back to today, I want to ask BB if it's true and if she still has feelings, which I doubt, but on the off chance she does I would ask her out either now or in 5 weeks time, as that is when our exams stuff would end and BB would be more relaxed and less stressed.
So my question is, say BB stopped liking me, would it be totally out of the blue for her to regain feelings for me?
Ps: I haven't really changed much in that 9 months if anything I'm a little more confident and I generally would think I'm a nice guy and that others would see me the same.
Lemme know if you need any extra info, or if you can't understand my rambling. Sorry for any bad formatting this is my first post, I'm used to just viewing other people posts.
:) | Crushes |
I made a fake snapchat account to talk to my crush pretended to be someone else and told him someone likes him and he asked who and i described myself and i think he knows. I said too much about myself and i have to see him 2nd period on monday. what should i do?? i want to talk to him but i’m even more nervous after doing this | Crushes |
I need to know since I thought about this myself | Crushes |
There has been a boy (lets call him A) and A has had a crush on me for a month. I am good friends with this best friends and we have 4 periods together. He is really nice, caring and he makes me laugh. But I realized he is (or was) also interested in another girl. I had a breakdown at school and he checked up on me if everything was alright. We were talking and another girl came to tell him something and he gave his full attention to her rather than me. I just left because I didn’t know what to do. I learned from another friend that he used to have a crush one this another girl in 8th grade (we are in 9th grade btw) and at their graduation they made a wedding for them as a joke (she says they didn’t like it but still). This friend also told me that he is just the class clown and he is just joking around rather than flirting with me. I tell myself I am not into him but I am also kind of jealous. I really like this guy but I am not sure if I like him as a friend or romantically. I also feel like I just like the attention. | Crushes |
I’m seeing a lot of guys wanting to talk about their crushes lately, but not a lot of girls posting AMAs to discuss their crushes, so let me be one of the first :)
Ask me anything and I’ll be as honest as I can be without giving away actual names, super personal info, and career titles :) | Crushes |
I’m seeing a lot of guys wanting to talk about their crushes lately, but not a lot of girls doing this, so let me be one of the first :)
Ask me about my crush! | Crushes |
I feel like I've done so many things to show that I like him more than a friend, yet he doesn't seem to reciprocate it that much. I spend so much time with him (DM if you want more details 'cause it's really specific and he'll recognize it on the off-chance he sees this) a day and am constantly beside or with him when I can.
He knows how much I smile and laugh whenever I see him and I look at him constantly while we're in class together. He smiles back whenever I look at him and it just makes me feel so warm inside.
I invited him to my homecoming party a few weeks ago and talked to him a bunch there even though a lot of my other friends were there too. Hell, my best friend told me that just from my voice that they could tell how affectionate I am of him.
Does he not like me back? Or does he really just not realize how I feel? | Crushes |
I want to know if it's a good idea if i text my crush for help with school work. I fell like it would make her think it's weird that of all the people from the class i ask her for help since we don't really talk to one amother | Crushes |
Just wanna talk a little bit about her | Crushes |
I want to confess but I want a backup plan if it backfires. If I get rejected( and I most likely will) and he gets uncomfortable I can just back peddle and say that it was all a joke. Is this a bad plan? | Crushes |
3 long years have passed since I first saw her, so much has happened, in the first year is when I got the crush, I was a cringe emo kid back then and I was pretty much a jerk but everything changed when I saw her, her pretty brown eyes, her forehead, long brown hair and of course, her personality, she was perfect, but I didn't know I would have these feelings for years to come. I was I nervous wreck, and I still am whenever she passed me I would freak out, and I never really talked to her, of course my friends knew about but never cared, the few times we did talk were short and sweet I had even asked her for her Roblox username so we could play together , I found out she likes anime and everything was well. But everything changed during PE when my friend whom I'm going to call Jackson ran up to her and told her I liked her, I was fuming while also really frustrated and kind of sad, so I chased him, throwing things at his feet hoping I could knock him balance and drag him away all while staring at my crushes shocked expression. After that I talked to my friend about it saying that that wasn't cool , I started hiding from her for the rest of the year scared of what would happen if I talked to her. All that changed at the end of the school year when during my vacation to Disney world I made her a note with a very bad drawing in it and with my phone number on the back. So on the very last day I gave it to her, well actually Jackson (remember him?) gave it to her but that's practically the same, I couldn't see her reaction because I was hiding in my shirt and waited until she left to go home. All summer I waited and waited for her to call but she never did and so for the rest of summer I reapeted in my mind "I'm sick of this shit". | Crushes |
So I've been talking to some of my girl friends about my crush (see last post) and they basically said yea, she's probably starting to get interested in you. Which is great don't get me wrong! Just I'm curious what do I do now? I don't wanna bother her cause she's in college and probably super busy but at the same time I do wanna talk to her. doesn't help that I get super anxious with stuff like this. Anyways yea that's my situation | Crushes |
There's a girl over Instagram that I've texted a good bit back and forth but nothing personal really just shared interests but I really like her and I really would like to try and talk to her more but I am really bad at talking let alone texting and I don't really know how to approach the situation without making a mess could anyone give any form of direction as I'm just kinda lost on what to say or do to get a good conversation going with them without being annoying | Crushes |
Alright, so I'm 14 and there is this girl i like in work, but I've only known her for a short amount of time. However 2 days ago we were on our own for about 4-5 hours and hit it off really well. She was laughing with me a lot and her body language was also very open and relaxed, i got her Snapchat too. All these signs made me think she was feeling a similar way about me as i was to her, but when I'm messaging her on snapchat she seems to be either playing hard to get or just changed around me for some reason.. she flirts with me online but then switches up to dry responses or taking ages to reply, then goes back to flirting and being open with me about her life. Idk how to go about this so if anyone can help it would be great | Crushes |
I’m a minor and I saw someone who looks like they might be ~1/2 years older than me, which is absolutely fine and in the normal age range that I date anyways, but how do you walk up to a STRANGER and tell them they’re hot and ask for their number or something??? And then be like oh btw how old are you? I don’t know his name? I normally date pre-existing friends but I’m trying to branch out. I don’t even know if he lives here but he looks like he lives in my town because he was reading a book and annotating it and it was just awesome — going back there next weekend and hoping he’s there again 😭 also generally just want advice for next time I see someone cute
TIA xo | Crushes |
So I work at a restaurant and my coworker is like always “jokingly” flirting with me, but I can’t tell if he’s joking or not. He’s always offering help, telling me I’m pretty, he asked for my instagram,he offered to drive me home…etc. Even my other coworkers make weird looks/smiles when he’s talking to me (as if like they know something). At first I enjoyed his company as like a friend/coworker, but I kinda have a crush on him right now. Then he told me about his girlfriend, tbh my heart sank when he told me that. I thought he would stop the flirting thing but he didn’t and it’s driving me crazyyy. Like I know it’s wrong and I shouldn’t keep up with him “flirting”but I don’t know how to stop it. I still want to joke around and have friendly conversations with him,but since I developed a crush on him and now that I know that he’s in a relationship, I can’t seem to find a way to move on !!
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My crush of over a year told me that one of my own friends told her that I have said or done something "innapropriate" about her and now she wont talk to me, and she told me that what i said made her uncomfortable, but I have no fucking idea what i said, i asked her what i said, she just responded saying shes not allowed to say. and she wont even tell me which one of my friends told her, and she is just believing him without proof. im so fucking pissed. | Crushes |
TL;DR Crush takes a long time to respond, but seemingly barely goes online judging by her status which isn't hidden.
So I (19M) have had this crush on a girl for quite a while now. We don't really chat that much at uni, but we do chat a decent amount over text. However recently, I've noticed that she barely goes online anymore. She seems to stay off the platform for hours just to come online for a few minutes. Her responses though, are pretty enthusiastic and don't really make it seem like she's doing it out of pity.
I've just had this question swirl in my mind for a long time, and I don't know whether I should ask her or not: Why does she take such a long time to reply? If she came online, and ghosted me, I can understand that the feeling isn't mutual and move on. But here, well, it doesn't look as if she cares about texting anyone tbh.
I've tried letting the convo die out and seeing if she texted me first, and sure enough she did seem concerned that I wasn't texting as much and asked me if everything was okay. At that point, I was genuinely confused. Does she like me or not? I need your opinion guyss | Crushes |
Reposting from r/AmItheAsshole cus I can't post it there cus it breaks the rules
I 16f have liked this guy 16m for \~2 months. We were friends before I liked him, not super close but in the same friend group. Recently I've been trying to get closer to him but he's acted pretty uninterested.
I am really bad at having crushes. I have never had a crush where I didn't constantly beat myself up about it and tell myself they are out of my league or I'm not good enough or shit like that. This one has been super awful, to the point where I've been struggling to function. I know that if I told him and got rejected I would at least be on the path to forgetting about it.
But the other thing is that he's dropped enough hints that he doesn't want to be close to me that I feel like it would be pointless to confess and would cause him unneccessary stress. I know what the outcome will be, and if I do confess it will ruin our friendship. Plus I'll have the added anxiety about seeing him around school for the next couple of weeks. I don't want to stop being friends with him because I really like being around him.
If I confessed it would be only for myself and probably a bit selfish since he would have to figure out how to respond and then probably feel like shit also. WIBTA? | Crushes |
I'm 18M and I have this 16F coworker.(She's 1yr and 4 months younger)
I have had a few ppl tell me she likes me but I don't know if that's true at all.
There have been several "signs" that indicate that she likes me back. So for context, I've been working w this 16F for about 4 months now and I haven't had any romantic interest until recently. She had a fwb w this one guy at work, but she cut him off bc he was an ass. It looks like she values relationships more bc she's only had one bf before and he was long distance. She came to me for advice and asked me to hangout sometimes. She been asking me to hangout a lot lately, and we've gotten really close this past month.
About 2 weeks ago she waited for me 2 hours after her shift to walk w me at night to the metro station and 2 days later she waited 8 HOURS after her shift, to wait for me and a friend. Her excuse was she wanted to talk to ppl and stay w an old visiting shift manager. She asked to hangout the next week and I invited her to have a movie night at my house. We had an amazing time just bonding over dumb movies and giving eachother tattoos, nothing special actually happened (I didn't have romantic feelings at this time) and hungout again on Saturday that same week w 2 other friends. Afterwards, after Halloween she asked me to hangout again, but this time she wanted to take me out to eat to one of her restaurants.
So this last Friday I picked her up from her school and we went to the restaurant and headed to my place for another movie night. But, this time we were a bit more touchy, like she would hold onto my arms or she'd try and bite my fingers for some reason. During one of the movies we kind of starting holding hands, and we went to my bed and cuddled/played w eachothers hair, while we talked about our lives and family (non-sexually tho). Afterwards when she had to go home we waited for her uber outside my apartment and she wouldn't stop hugging me. Just yesterday we crossed eachother as she's coming out of work and I'm going in, so we chat for a bit, and she asks me for a hug before we leave.
My Stepmom was there during our first movie night and the next day said that my coworker likes me based on the way she looks at me but I denied it (she's on vacation now so she wasn't there this last time). Also my other coworker asked me if I had a thing for 16F bc she says we've been getting realy close lately. [I lied and said no] Another female friend I have, said that 16F probably likes me. It feels a bit weird for me since I don't go for girls younger than me, especially since I'm 18 now and she's 1yr and a few months younger.
What do you guys think, is she just being friendly or mutual feelings? | Crushes |
Hey there! I'm 16M and kinda super freaking embarrassed to even be on this thread. Anyway, I've got this lil crush on someone. It was a "love at first sight" sorta deal for me, but we immediately became friends because as it turns out we've got a few shared interests. We both love cats, we both love video games, and I've finally found an equally lazy person to love. Now, I do really want to ask this person out but I'm a little bit afraid to. I am in no way afraid of rejection. If the worst that could happen is I get rejected but everything stays the same otherwise, id have asked her out months ago. We've been friends for like, 9 months now give or take since we met at in September and immediately became friends. The thought of losing this friendship is far scarier to me than the thought of me missing my chance with her. But at the same time, the thought of dating her sends me WAY over the moon and I'm over here biting every clothe object in reaching distance every time I think about it. I've never really been in a relationship before(guess thats kinda embarrassing for my age), and I've never even had a crush before this person. What I seek from a relationship isn't really anything sexual, but this is someone I truly want to commit myself to.
But like I said, the scariest thought is losing one of my closest friends because I decided to grow feelings.
Any thoughts? Advice is super super super duper appreciated. | Crushes |
So I don’t “love” her and I don’t have any of those type of thoughts, but I do think she’s awesome and I can’t lie, she looks attractive. My problem is it being kinda weird. She’s 18 so she’s of legal age but seven years seems like a lot. Any thoughts/advice? | Crushes |
It was my last final exam this morning and we're moving to another city now that my finals are over. So i was sitting on a bench in our school yard with my friends and he and his friends were sitting on another bench like one meter away from us. My friend said to me "look, he got a haircut!" But i was scared that he'll catch me looking at him so i didn't look at him at all and now i'll never get to see how he looks with his new haircut and i'm really sad 😭 Bc he had long hair and i really wanted to see how he looks with short hair.
Aaa i'm so stupid. Even when we went to class for our exam and he walked right past me i just stared at my phone bc i got so nervous and couldn't look at him at all! Like i avoided looking at him so much that i don't even know what exactly he was wearing. (I could just tell where he is bc of his silhouette at the corner of my eyes lol) | Crushes |
Yes, this is a repost because my title was bad and i left out some important details.
Ok so, theres this girl that im not sure if i like-like her (because i havent had a crush in a while so i dont know what its like). I have also never had a crush on a girl either. Its just her. Shes cute (in both her personality and looks). I’ve felt this way towards her for a few months now (she’s a classmate). Sometimes i think about doing affectionate things with her (hugging, cuddling, kissing, etc). I would not be opposed to any
of those things. Im also not opposed towards a relationship with a girl. If i know i like a person (of any gender) i would be willing to date them/ have a relationship with them.
Maybe i think theres a possibility i dont like her in that way because I’ve never liked a girl before and its throwing me off.
I also had a dream about her that we were walking together and she grabbed my hand while we were walking and crossed our fingers together. And then she confessed or said “lets take it slow” Or something about that. It felt REAL. Tbh i kinda wished it was real. I was disappointed when i woke up and realized it never happened😭.
So in conclusion: i am very confused.
Can somebody tell me their thoughts? Or maybe if you have a crush, can you tell me how you feel about them? | Crushes |
one of the absolute best people i have ever met. **i still haven't asked him out.**
\- he takes care of me when i'm anxious.
\- he knows when i'm anxious.
\- he respects my family and parents.
\- when i'm with him, my family automatically knows i'm safe.
\- he is my neighbor.
\- he understands what mental illness is like.
\- trusted no one. until one night on discord, he dmed me a paragraph on how he truly felt about himself. i told him i'd accept him no matter what he went through.
\- he doesn't understand why my ex treated me the way they did.
\- knows all the simple stuff (favorite color, animal, birthday, hobbies, place)
\- he would drop everything to make sure i feel better.
\- he has told me how much he appreciates my art. he has gone to an art showcase to see my art.
\- he attempted learning how to draw for me.
\- he took me out on new years eve.
\- he gives me the best book recommendations. ever.
\- he always tries to outsmart me, but in the end he never does.
\- he made me believe i am worthy of myself. he stood with me in my driveway to hug me and tell me that i shouldn't be doubting my abilities. he made me realize that i'm too harsh on myself. he made me realize that jealousy isn't the answer to happiness.
\- the first thing we ever did together was walk his dog at night.
\- i played my favorite paramore song on the guitar for him. he wanted to learn how to play. i taught him.
\- we have a stardew valley farm together.
\- we have a minecraft server together.
\- he's usually always busy during the week, but doesn't hesitate to read the paragraphs i send him in the meantime.
\- said he would say yes if i asked him out. {information from a ...friend ;)}
\- built a bench together in the middle of the neighborhood
**i still haven't asked him out.** i have been to the edge and back of that decision. | Crushes |
So this girl I really like is really close to me and I want to tell her I love her but I don’t want to ruin the relationship we currently have as friends. My friends told me about signals and she always comes to me even in a big crowd that includes her better friends and she looks at me a lot and my friends say the signals are there. Should I confess or not? | Crushes |
No way you guys, I'm literally so happy! I've posted about him before on here and I wondered if he liked me back but omgggg aahhhhh!!! So we went to a drive in movie theater and we were sitting next to each other in the back of a truck while our other friends cuddled next to each other and he put his arm around me and I was like omg (in my mind) but then he got up to get some water from the front of the area then he sat back down and didn't put his arm around me again so I was like omg he's testing out the waters so I put my head on his shoulder and he put his arm around me!! I felt so slick omg and then our hands were like kinda touching since when we were cuddling I had put my head on his chest, so my friends were squeezing eachothers hands as tight as they could so I was like okay fuck it, this is it, now or nnever!! so I grabbed his hand and did it too and he fid it back!!!AHHHHHH OMGGG I just can't believe this is real, I'm so happy!! That means he likes me right? I'm pretty sure we are officially talking after that, I'm also his number 1 on snap and there are no other girls on it, he's popular in school too so I'm so shocked he would like someone like me omg. I've liked him on and off throught out all of middle school because we were childhood best friends so this all feels like a dream, I'll never forget this moment <3 | Crushes |
I’ve just never been into it. I tried to get into Instagram. And I just couldn’t. It seems like every dating or advice for guys thing I see involves Snapchat and stuff. It’s getting me worried socials are a requirement for being a guy these days.
I’ve really never been into it since I’ve never been someone who really wanted to be popular. I just try to be nice to everyone. I feel like the only people I knew who had ig had hundreds of followers. I’d never be that person since I’m more of an introverted guy. I don’t have any issues getting along with people or meeting people, I just can’t get into all this extra fluff with socials.
Idk maybe I’m paranoid, but I was just thinking about it recently and wanted to see what you guys think🤷🏻♂️ | Crushes |
So I (f) want to have a more deep convo with my crush (m) also he doesn’t know I like him. So we talk a lot about shallow surface level things. He has opened up to me quite a bit though about some of his struggles. I’m just not sure how to have a deep conversation without be like too blunt. What are some good starter questions and then maybe deeper questions to flow. I want to get to know him more without being weird or awkward. | Crushes |
I really really love this girl ever since I met her 2 weeks ago and the more I spent time with her, the more deeper I fell for her. She even gave signs like staring at me during lecture, laughing at my silliest jokes to even straight up blushing when she saw me and my imagination flew through the roof imagining my future and relationship with her. Turns out last Wednesday, her friend came and said to me that she has a boyfriend and that shit wrecked me to the core. I cried in front of my friends and even though they are great people they don't know the line between joking vs insulting people, everytime I meet them they'll be like "You cried for a girl?" or "Go, go cry for that girl you have nothing else to do" and even though we all laughed but deep down it hurted me into thinking I was a failure and worth nothing in life. I even asked her for closure and she was like it's fine since feelings are normal and she said we could be friends. Even yesterday we texted throughout the morning and when she asked where is everyone, I went around looking for her and found her flirting with another boy from my class and even though I knew I had no chance it still hurted me to see her like that. I really wish I can distance myself from her but we are in the same Uni batch and I'm even thinking of getting rid of her number but I still have huge feelings for her | Crushes |
Ok I’ll give some back story then get to the point. I rly rly like this girl and have done for ages but there’s multiple complications. Notes: for privacy I’ll give each people code names. (Who I like- Jane, her twin- Chelsea twin boyfriend and my best friend- jack). Ok so Jane in the past has had two bad relationships one with S**ual A*use and the other he ditched her. But I’ve helped her through it and she’s going ok now. Anyway I’ve fallen for her and things seem pretty good. We Snapchat each other a lot and we talk about a lot of things. She tells me I’m rly good looking and rly kind and I do the same. We r mutual snap best friends for 2 months and she also sends photos that r borderline inappropriate. However there is complications. Chelsea and Jack are dating and Jack is also my best friend. I don’t wanna ruin our friendship if me and Jane break up or don’t get together. But I also don’t wanna ruin my friendship with Jane. The final complication is she had a sleepover with a guy from work this guy seems nice but they held hands and hugged. She confirms this was as friends and she does not like him and never will but idk. What do u guys think does she like me or nah? If so I’m gunna go for it. | Crushes |
So I just recently started a new job and a lot of my coworkers go to the same high school as me. There's this guy let's call him "Bill" who's my coworker and we went to middle school with and am now currently in high school with. I was lunch friends with him in middle school but was obsessed with another guy at the time. Despite going to same highschool this is the first time I've seen him in years let alone talk to him. Problem is he's so attractive and I don't know what to do. I have a LOT of social anxiety and don't know how to have a conversation with Bill and don't even know if he finds me attractive. If anyone has any advice on how to have a conversation or even get his number I would greatly appreciate it! | Crushes |
So I’m confused on where our relationship is at. When we see each other in person, she is very nice and talks to me/teases me occasionally. Online though, it’s a little different. She hasn’t started a conversation with me online while I’ve started 4 or 5 with her. She also has a very high Snapchat score and she sends 200+ snaps per day. I believe a good 70% of those are just streaks she has going. She snaps me everyday (always just a generic pic, never any text or anything) and I always snap her back in about an hour. She then always leaves me on delivered. Sometime she opens my snap the next day, but sometimes she waits multiple days or even weeks without opening my snaps. She also very rarely opens my stories.
Is she just nice to me in person just to be nice? Is she just not a texter? Am I just another one of her 100 streaks? | Crushes |
\[M/Curious\]
so I have this friend \[M\] in class but we barely talked. Before we got close, he would always react to my instagram stories but that time I really did not care to be honest and I thought it's just a harmless gesture or something. Moving forward, we really became close and he would always send me memes and funny stuff and eventually, we watched movies togethers for several times. He sometimes send me teasing memes and whatnot so I am not sure if he likes me too (Yes I think I like him).
I am just confused if he likes me or is just leading me on. After movies we would always eat together just the two of us (but I'm not sure if this should be considered as a date). | Crushes |
Soo as the title suggests I got her snap but to be honest I don't really know how to use it, like I had used it before with just texting but she sends lots of pictures and I don't know how to respond with another picture word idk how this work please help, I sound like a complete novice rn lol | Crushes |
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