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Same person, but I've been recently told that she still likes me.
A friend messaged me on discord, sent a screenshot of her saying that she still kind of likes me. She said that she gets happy and excited when I message her, but it's not the crush (her words not mine).
Now I'm overthinking things. I thought maybe I should ask her if she still likes me, but my friend told me she might be confused on what to say, also what if she says no and I make things awkward?
Last night I think she was kinda 'flirting' with me. She called me hot...
Context:
We're gonna watch minions so we wanna dress up and wtv, she's being gru, I said I would be a minion but I don't have yellow clothes. She said to dress up as Lucy, and I said that Lucy is too hot for me to dress up as her. After I said that, she said, and I quote, "ur hotter 😏". AAHAGGSVEJBFBDJSN
We're watching minions of Friday what do I do. I don't even completely know my sexuality yet..
It probably just needs time, right? | Crushes |
Ok so rightnow I’m a junior and there is this kid in my class who just the weirdest person I’ve ever met, but I kinda love people with weird personalities. Anyways even though hes like super weird and literally does whatever he wants whenever he wants he like responsible. Like he got over 100% grade in every class and he scores great and test and always tries his best. He’s also like kind and considerate of everyone even if he doesn’t show it. Like in the begging of the year when we met I was struggling and being extremely awkard bc I got suck at a table with him and his friends which I did not know, but he still tried including me and getting along with me even when he didn’t have to. He also doesn’t really talk to me but when he has the chance to he does but in like a silly way. And the other day our coach for cross country posted that he had covid and our practice would be delayed. He sent a get well message to him publicly and idk that triggered something in me bc he was the only one who did that and it was like so sweet and I couldn’t handle it. I was like I’m in love with this man. | Crushes |
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I'm 28 and I'm the one in a relationship and a crush. I've tried to distance myself as much as I could. I only work with him (my crush). so I didn't think it would bother me much. I avoid going in his direction when possible, we don't
make much conversation…but it's still getting harder and harder to deny the feelings I feel bubbling up inside. I learned today that there's an 8 year gap between my crush and I. So I've been telling myself that he's to
young for me and wouldn't understand half the stuff I know about. Dude can't even drink legally….but…it still doesn't stop the attraction.
I go home everyday to my boyfriend of seven years…and our five year old daughter. I think the problem is is that we’ve grown…used(?) to each other? We don’t go out much…and when we do it’s just to dinner or get groceries…nothing really fancy. We don’t get intimate much…and it’s hard to do when he works nights and sleeps all day while I’m home most of the time to watch over our child. It’s mostly just kisses and I love yous that are just automatic now. We’re talking about marriage (finally) but I feel like it’s just an automatic next step at this point.
I remember when I was young (as half of you guys on here) dreaming of my wedding. Now it’s just something that we casually bring up. I’m not even sure I’m going to get a proposal. I just feel we aren’t exciting in our relationship anymore.
I’ve heard it’s what they call the seven year itch…which makes since cause I’ve never really been attracted to anyone other than my boyfriend. So having this crush is new to me. It’s been a long time. I guess I just want someone to talk me out of my feelings…or help me rationalize what’s going on in my relationship. We love each other, but I can’t deny these new feelings for the crush. It’s new and exciting…and I miss that in my relationship. Everyday is predictable. | Crushes |
I mean, I’m a pretty insecure person in general, but I feel like it gets way worse when I have a crush. Sometimes I notice that my crush follows girls from his school on Instagram, and it makes me incredibly nervous and insecure. I know it shouldn’t matter as these could easily be classmates or acquaintances, but it makes me think “oh, he is probably already talking to her”. Even the thought of dating him makes me insecure because I worry people will think I’m dating someone “out of my league” or judge him for liking someone like me.
I know these thoughts are ridiculous and they’re incredibly frustrating but for some reason my brain just becomes extremely self conscious when I like someone.
Anyone else have this problem? | Crushes |
I've liked this boy for some months now, and we talk every single day. Right now I'm not in the city, and we keep texting and he told me to come back because it was so boring because I wasn't there, although we've only hanged out once, everyday he says goodnight to me and it is so lovely, although the other day my friends decided to go out and they invited him, his best friend also went (his best friend likes me) and whenever my friends asked him if he liked me infront of me and he denied it, then my friends asked him privately and he didn't not say he liked me, he said he liked someone. but when they mentioned my name he doubted it. My friends told me this and I dont know what to think. | Crushes |
okay so i was friends with this guy and i liked him but they completely dropped me when they got a gf. they blocked me on one social media app where we talked on but not on the others. i don’t know if i should reach out to him and confront him on how i felt towards him and if we are still friends or not for i won’t embarrass myself?? help me please! | Crushes |
[https://open.spotify.com/playlist/39fdnhHDN9tdXxPILJUyPN?si=63d63a61285745b4](https://open.spotify.com/playlist/39fdnhHDN9tdXxPILJUyPN?si=63d63a61285745b4) | Crushes |
I have a huge crush on this person and they’re going through things. He’s the type where he blocks out everyone and figures things out on his own. I can’t do anything and it’s killing me to see him like this and I just wanna cry.
What could I do? | Crushes |
So this dude in my class sitting next to me said “your ugly”. Idk if this was for me or some one else. I could hear this and I guess he realized that too so he followed it with a “NOT!”
Please, is this a sign? He has shown some other possible signs. Am I over hoping? | Crushes |
How do I tell the difference between actually having a crush or just needing male validation?
I grew up ugly and no boys every payed attention to me as a kid, so now i’m in highschool wondering if I actually like him or it’s just cause he likes me. I only started liking him since he payed attention to me and made me feel, idk, special? Now I can’t tell if it’s a crush or just in need of serious validation. | Crushes |
So I have a huge crush on one of my girl best friends and she knows about it. I was out with her and some other friends earlier and when the rest of them went off to get some food me and her stayed behind but during this time we started talking about the situation and she said that she does like me back, now this sounds like an ideal situation except she has a boyfriend who is currently away and said she likes him more than me. The issue is that idk whether to act on this new found information and keep trying or just leave her current relationship alone because even though it would be kind of a douchey thing to do to basically break them up I really like her at the same time. | Crushes |
we were on the phone, my nan asked who i was talking to and i said i was talking to someone on the phone, he said “yeahhh your talking to your boyfriend your bestfriend and your boyfriend”, and mentioned me liking him, in which he said “im only joking, well about you liking me not me liking you, i like you”
i froze up and asked him if he’d like to see my dog-
we haven’t spoke about it since | Crushes |
I'm sorry r/curshes discord. Looking back I was being an asshole. Tbh I intentionally tried to get ban the day I did and I just acted like a jerk in General. I didn't mean anything I said to anyone that day and I take it all back. Just wanted to apologize because I do feel awful about it honestly. I just wish y'all the best with whatever situations y'all face in the future and yeah just good luck | Crushes |
We are going to spend the whole day in Madrid, just the two of us. I believe she is kinda suspecting something though I am pretty sure that she is into me so I'm not too worried.
We have a reservation at a fancy restaurant and we will visit the Prado museum during the afternoon.
After the visit, I will make my move.
Wish me luck
Edit:
I posted this before going to bed. I cannot sleep. I can't stop thinking about this. | Crushes |
well previously I wrote on this subreddit about certain suspicions I had about a certain high school classmate, after receiving replies that it was a possibility and so I decided to write her, not even a hello she didn't answer me and I tried to write her several times (5), between one of those I got a little silly making him write more or less this "hey if you don't love me tell me and I'm leaving" (I know it's a little rude because I hate to be ignored and sometimes I get silly) but well after that as last I wrote him that I thought he was an excellent person and I told him the things I had noticed but clarifying that I didn't think they were bad, even compliments but I got no answer (before that I called her by accident but then they hung up on me almost instantly and I expected some insult but nothing happened) after that I left the subject aside and I started doing other things, why do I need her help? because in a month and a half I go back to school (my summer vacation is over) which scares me. because of the possibility of my classmates finding out.
link to the previous publication:[https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/vb30zz/does\_this\_girl\_like\_me\_i\_need\_your\_opinion/ic69s1u/?context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/vb30zz/does_this_girl_like_me_i_need_your_opinion/ic69s1u/?context=3) | Crushes |
So I started talking to this gorgeous girl a few days ago, both of us are going on vacations in a few days so I shot my shot before it was too late so we are going on our first date tommorow. She is tall, blonde, very cute and is such a sweet person, I just need someone to talk with about her! | Crushes |
so i have this amazing friend that i’ve been friends with since fall 2020. i liked him then, and he knew, but ended up not feeling the same although he never said it straight up. since then he’s been in 2 failed relationships, and we’ve stayed in touch through both. i’ve also been out of a nearly year long relationship for about 2 months. we always came to each other for advice on our relationships and now we just snap and talk to each other all day and night, giving updates on what we’re doing and teasing each other etc. ofc thats what friends do but he seems a little different than usual. i don’t want to take things the wrong way or ruin anything, what should i do? | Crushes |
Alright it all started 1 year ago when the school year started and this girl il call her L came to my class and was the centre of Attention because of her looks i didn't even talk to her i didn't think she would even notice me.
But out of nowhere this other girl lets call her V texted me and told me that L would like my number I didn't believe it but i texted her and we talked it was awesome i quickly fell in love and went out with her often I was also very close with V during this time because she helped me i had no idea what to do say anything so i did what she said and it was going great.
But shortly before Christmas i had a present for L and my friend was on his way to give it to me and on the way it broke and i panicked because the next day was the day where we should give each other presents so i called V to help me get something else so me and my bestfriend meet with V and she helped me pick a present i bought it and wanted to go home but my buddy wanted to walk her home so i said alright and i walked her home with my buddy but V started holding my arm when she slipped because of the icy street and always tried hugging me and L saw that because she drove by and the next day she was extremely pissed and told me im just a friend.
This hit me like a bomb to the face and i was very sad and angry for about 2 months and after that i always looked at her secretly in class and was still in love but i didn't say anything about 3 months ago i built up my courage after going to the gym and building up self esteem so i started to talk to her and i didn't ask anyone for help or tips or anything it just all Happened naturally.
After a while she did many of the first steps holding my arm when scared in a haunted house roller coaster resting her head on my shoulder and so on but many dudes wanted her and we weren't official so the tried but she refused to even talk to them and after a while i told her often i love her she often did the same.
But now i was at a festival with her for about 30 minutes because a storm came so we went and i wanted to take her to her place and then go home but she said i should just go so i shouldn't walk so much (i live on the other end of town) and she persisted so i said fine and went and shortly after that suddenly she deleted her number from wattsapp and i couldn't contact her i don't know whats up if she maybe went on vacation so the number doesn't work or if her parents took her phone away or if she suddenly did this on purpose its been 5 days since the festival and im completely losing it and constantly thinking about it.
What can i do ?
Do you think its on purpose ?
How do i contact her ? | Crushes |
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So about one day before writing this, I had to say goodbye to someone very special to me. We were on a trip to Mexico, and staying in the same house. I was crushing on her. We have been close friends because of our parents friendship since we were little. I mean since I was born. But she is 2 years older than me. And that was the only setback. She was dropping what I thought were hints the whole time (they could have been but I’ll get into that later). I initially didn’t want to confess at all, but one night, I couldn’t take it and sent it over text. This was into the second week. We had 2 weeks in the house and 4 days at the beach after that. She never acknowledged the confession, that final week. We kept doing what we had been doing previously. We got even closer, and one day, the last full day we had together while kayaking together, just us two, she stopped and turned to me. Blushing and a bit nervous I think she said that we had something we needed to talk about. Proceeded to have a conversation about the confession, and touched on everything except if she actually liked me or not. It was very awkward, so we both kind of agreed to never speak of what happened in Mexico ever again. We dropped it. But then it hit me. She is 2 years older than me and although I already knew this, she would be going off to college. And this would be the last time I would see her, for a long time. We said goodbye the day after, and by that time I had lost all feelings. But that day, yesterday, was really tough. First time I have cried in a while. It would never have worked out (any type of relationship I mean) but I just wish we had more time together. We really started to connect in these past few trips and this one more than ever before. But thinking back about all the memories has me really missing her. | Crushes |
WE WILL CALL HIM TREE :):)
anyway so tree hasn't talked for two days and I think he's been on air force duty with his parents (because they take him every single time) and usually this is very random. he is notoriously a terrible texter and is much better at socializing in real life. we are neighbors, we sneak out at night to walk together, and we've built a park bench together. (plus a lot more, i ride on his back in the pool, he comforts me when I'm anxious, he went to an art exhibit to see my pieces.)
yet for some reason, he's scared to talk to me. i mean, i am scared to talk to him too, but somehow we still do it. one time we were on a school trip and he texted me good morning during breakfast and proceeded to say in his second text to come over to his table. i initially wanted him to come over to mine, but i gave in. he ended up including me in his friend group's game of blackjack, and constantly snapping in my face when i was drifting to sleep (it was 6AM.)
he gives me book recommendations (the last one being a romance genre.) he tries to flaunt himself a lot. i was walking him home one time and he just stopped and stood up taller over me and said "i am so awesome." i laughed and said i highly doubted that in response. he automatically hardened his expression and stared me in the eyes. :v
last time he texted me he texted me goodnight and happy birthday (THRICE) and i was planning to ask him to celebrate my birthday with me because the first time we met he took me out on his birthday and we were alone,, we went to the arcade, ate dinner, and watched a hockey game. THAT is what made me fall for him.
so in conclusion
i think he's interested but i am doubting myself partially because of how bad he is at texting and how anxious i get around him!!! WOOOO!..woo :') | Crushes |
So, I (20f) have a crush on a coworker (22f) and I seriously can’t stop thinking about her.
I’m on break and I will see her very shortly next Wednesday and then I won’t see her for about two weeks or so. (Honestly this feels like torture.)
I want to ask her of her phone number or give mine to her. We won’t have much time together on Wednesday, so it kinda needs to be smooth and quick. We don’t know each other very well so just saying “hi! Can I get your phone number?” feels extremely out of place weird. It kinda needs to be smoother you know?
I would really appreciate any help. :)
(I might even post a follow up if all goes well.) | Crushes |
So, I’ve been trying to figure out my sexuality for a while and at this point I’m pretty sure I’m gay. I’ve been watching all my friends get in relationships and shit for the last couple years, and have been not rlly looking for anyone while I was trying to figure myself out. But I made a new friend this year, and I have the biggest crush on her. She’s just so pretty, and she loves cuddling with me even tho she’s straight 🧐, and loves talking to me abt anything. She even said she’d kiss me so I could see if I was gay, which i declined, but I wish I didn’t. Yesterday she was laying on top of me, and she said my heart was beating rlly fast, and asked if she made me nervous. I said yes cause there was no digging myself out of that hole but that moment rlly made me realized how much I like her. I just wanted to get it off my chest bcs she’s straight, and I don’t know how to not catch feelings every time we’re together. | Crushes |
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I am probably one of the older people here, but here it goes. With this age this tends to happen more sadly- as more and more people are already married/in a relationship at 26. Heck- I was married a year ago to my highschool sweetheart. We were together 8 years total but married two. Ended up getting divorced because he cheated on me with who I thought was my best friend. We were best friends since 4th grade. Losing both of them, it’s been hard moving to another state and starting over now having no close friends or husband (who was also a best friend too). But a year ago in coding school that changed. I was enrolled during my divorce and made friends with a wonderful group of people. I met a guy that had a lot in common with me there- a crazy amount honestly. I accidentally fell for him hard. The problem? He was already married.
The thing is- we kept hanging out. I thought maybe if I hid my feelings I’d be ok. But it just got deeper and deeper. We never did anything physical and I respected his relationship as best as I could; but I selfishly thought I could hide my feelings and still be his friend. The worst part? We got really close: to the point where I do think some boundaries were kind of crossed in an emotional sense.
I fell in love with him. But I knew once I moved down here that he was moving away in September. He taught me a lot and we hung out all the time. We became best friends. I wanted him so much- but I knew he was married and we couldn’t be. Unfortunately- I had been confiding to mutual friends about it because I was devastated and drowning in how much I loved him. And one of them told him because they were “worried about me”.
We decided to take a break. 1 month later, I reached out and asked if we could be friends. I told everyone I was over it… but I guess in the back of my mind I wasn’t. It’s hard when someone and you vibe so well that it turns kind of romantic no matter what you do. We never ended up hanging out. I tried, but another month went by.
Fast forward to today. I knew he was acting different so I called it out. Being open and honest about your feelings is something you should always do- and never apologize for. I just wish I had never gotten so close with him in the first place- because I might’ve been able to avoid falling in love with him. Suddenly he turned cold- says he wants the last two months to spend with his family. I understand that. But I had said I was hurt for him seemingly ghosting me and acting weird over me asking if he wanted to hangout. He decided we should part ways. I’m crying as I type this.
Please. Whether you’re in middle school, highschool, or even in your 20’s to even 90’s. Distance yourself as soon as you can if you start to feel even an inking or romantic feelings toward someone who is taken. It gets harder since a lot of good people are taken at my age, but the fact of life is that you deserve someone who is sure about you- and they deserve to have the marriage they chose work. When you get married, you’ll always have small crushes here and there but they’ll never be serious if you truly love the other person. As a person who was previously married and actually in love with my spouse…. I knew to never get close to those people and nip it in the butt early on. Being the single one now, I wish him and I both would’ve exercised more caution and not gotten close or talked as much.
I’m sad and tired. Two heartbreaks exactly a year apart. I’ve enjoyed being single but couldn’t help I loved him. I’m hurt once again. But that is life. There are ups and downs. But the moral of the story? Prevent precarious situations before they happen to help your mental well being. I guess I’ll just cry it out but I’m sad I lost him as a friend and as someone I was in love with. I parted ways being honest about being in love with him and it probably being for the best to let the friendship drift away. But I also told him how much he taught me and that even though I am sad I am grateful. I am just hurting and wish I still had a best friend to cry about it too. Please take care of your selves and know your worth, but also don’t become too attached to anyone who is taken. That’s my lesson today. Time to just live life and see where it goes I guess. I don’t mind being single at all. I just wish If I were with someone it was him. | Crushes |
okay so basically i was having a bad day like a really bad day a sum up was that my family was being annoying and everyone was upsetting me, and i just had a really bad nightt in the end i cried.. It was J4 and we were talking about watching fireworks before and he knew i wasnt going to see sum AND SUDDENLY in the middle of crying he sent me fireworks like videos of it AND I DIDNT EVEN ASK but it made my badd day 1000% better and i did end up letting him know he made my bad night better and i just like him alot more now, like to him it might of been a kinda gesture or something but to me it meant alot and yea :)) also in the end he asked me if i wanted to talk about it i didnt bc im not one who opens up OR ACTUALLY I AM but im scared bc theres time when i open up and people kinda just leave or distance themselves, i am so thankful for him being willing to listen however i dont think i will be talking or crying to him about my depressive episodes for now especially bc im going to cry about to to him and i dont want that for now | Crushes |
Dude I’m overthinking this and ik it means absolutely nothing.
But the other day I was hanging out with him and he asked me what my phone battery was at. I told him mine was at 42%. He was like “oh, mines at 64” or something like that. Idk but I feel like based on his tone it seemed like he wanted our phone percentages to be the same.
A different guy who I knew had a crush on me wanted our batteries to be in sync as well.
I’m almost certain the guy I like likes me back just based on our camping trip (I made a post abt that on here a few weeks ago). I just kinda liked whatever this happened to be. | Crushes |
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I whispered ”I just wanna hold you forever.”
She whisperes back ”Me too.” | Crushes |
For info, this guy literally changed my standards in men. I feel like he’s so perfect. It’s our first year back in-person for university, and this guy is such a breath of fresh air from all the other guys I met before. I think I’m having such a hard time getting over him not only because he’s my standard, but also because I feel like I could’ve gotten closer with him if we just had another class together in the next semester. Like we don’t even have classes anymore, I met him during first semester, and it’s already the end of the second semester but I’m still thinking about him. Part of me wants to get over him because I know I should be focusing on my studies, but I also don’t want to completely forget about him. I want him to stay in my head so that I don’t ever lower my standards. | Crushes |
Some of y’all are probably going to laugh at me when you see this and write me off as an obsessive creepy incel. I can assure you I am not, I’m just in love. I won’t name the celebrity that I have a huge crush on because if I name her this post might blow up and become a huge copy pasta meme or something like that. But she’s definitely one of the most popular actresses in Hollywood at the moment. The more I kept seeing her in my social media feeds, the more I started to fall in love. Every time I see her I just can’t help but smile like an idiot. Not only am I attracted to how beautiful she looks, but the mainly to how charming her personality is and how kind and bright she truly is. It’s to the point where she’s on my mind 24/7. Almost all of the girls I met in my life were never as charming as this one. Especially ones around my age (I’m 18 and this celeb is 20). I think that she is the perfect girl and one that I would gladly spend the rest of my life with. I’m still in high school as I type this. I wanted to go to college and become an accountant. And I still want to go to college. But I don’t want to become an accountant anymore. I want to establish my career as an actor because the only way you can actually meet this girl is if you work hard and establish yourself in Hollywood. And that’s what I intend to do. I do believe in my acting ability and I feel like I got what it takes after studying film for the past 5 years. This does sound like a long shot or a pipe dream. But this world has shown me that nothing is impossible if you work hard. | Crushes |
Hey do any of you ladies know of sites cheap or professional chatting sites were I can talk to dude's or where black guy hang out on I'm 18 | Crushes |
All in the title. Actors name is frankie muniz | Crushes |
It’s been a month since she rejected me, we’re still on good terms and it’s like nothing really happened, but I think I’m starting to have feelings for her again, and she’s giving more mixed signals, I know she probably doesn’t like me, but I still like her | Crushes |
Hi guys, hope y'all are doing good! I wanted to ask something quick and urgent...so I have this class after school with a group of boys that already know each other, I am the only one who doesn't really know anyone and I am also the only girl. The thing is that there is this one guy in the group, whenever I look around I catch him looking at me but he never talked with me. Do you think he is interested? What should I do to take this a step further? What do you guys think? The guys are always together and I'm shy to talk in front of all them, also tomorrow I'll have the last class with them, we had class only twice till today. If I want I have to shoot my shot tomorrow...I hope I'm not getting ahead of myself and making illusions.
Thanks in advance to everyone who read it <333
please help me🥺 | Crushes |
So to start off let me just give a recap of who I am, and who my crush is. I'm a 17 year old straight male, and my crush is a 17 year old bi sexual gender fluid. I am a relative normal guy at my high school, i know someone from almost every class of my year, and lots of upper-classmen, and under-classmen. She is less social. Now for the last 1 month ish I have found out that this crush of mine is quite unhealthy, and I also figured that even if she told me she liked me or smthn of the sorts it probably wouldn't progress to more than just being good friends, or maybe a relationship for 1-2 months at best. I hadn't spoken to her in like 2 weeks and thought that I was over it (maybe important information: I have limerence, meaning I make up fictive scenarios, and overthink quite a lot). We both attend the same High-School, but different classes. Yesterday i went down to her class (since I'm part of her friend group aswell), and then the feelings kind of resurfaced. It isn't as bad as in the beginning, but its genuinely annoying to feel like this, espeacially when I know that she has no feelings like that for me, and she probably never will.
Thanks in advance for the advice I have yet to receive, I know you guys of r/crushes will be able to help me, so please tell me what to do. | Crushes |
So one year ago I met this girl at a part-time job in a supermarket. I had been working there a few months before she joined. At first I didn’t pay any attention to her and the other newcomers, but then on a random shift she came up behind me and began to lead the small talk and asked a lot of questions and we got talking. Over the course of about 6 months I developed feelings for her because she gave me unusual attention for a normal friendship. But she’s a very outgoing extrovert and I’m the total opposite; a not so sociable but not shy introvert. Some of the signals I picked up:
• Stealing glances when I turn my back, but notice with peripheral vision
• Physical contact, like asking for high-five or touching my hand when I hand something over
• Prolonged eye contact with a lot of smiling
• Sometimes finding excuses to talk to me, but other times avoids me
• Her friends that work there too, other colleagues smile at me. Even the supervisors probably knew I had a crush on her.
But there have been a lot of mixed signals too, primarily avoiding me sometimes and never wanting to be alone with me but with a friend by her side she will engage in contact again. When she talked to other boys I got very jealous. Eventually she asked if I had Snapchat and so we added each other. But this amounted to nothing as neither of us really tried anything significant. Then a month later due to some circumstances at work and jealousy I decided to quit and also removed her snap. I haven’t gone back to that store since.
I think I have seen her a few times pass by but I’m not entirely sure. One of these times was two girls on a sidewalk, one looked like her bestie that also worked there with those round black glasses who was looking at me and laughing really hard, the girl next to her had a hood over her head and didn’t look but kept walking away.
She goes to a different high school than me, but it turns out that a couple girls at my school know her from dancing classes.
Those girls, also occasionally stare at me and smile when they see me. It’s been more than 5 months since I’ve spoken to her but her other good female friends seem to still pay a lot of attention to me.
What is going on and should I approach one of these friends of hers?
I’ve also checked out her Spotify public playlist and it has some recently added love songs, but not all of it is about love.
But one in particular caught my attention, “boyfriend” from Ariana Grande. The lyrics describe our weird situation almost perfectly. | Crushes |
Hi, I’m new to this kind of thing. Im 17, she is 16. A while ago I started talking to her online from one of my classes, and we didn’t talk much because they don’t have notifications on their phone, which I know because her friends also get angry at her for this. Until suddenly we stayed up talking until 4am for a couple of times a week, checking on each other the next day. We got on really well but then, because of some mutual friends in the class we had, we decided to make a group chat. This is where things have gotten tricky, I hardly find the time to talk to her alone and because all of us in this group have become so close, I think I’m going to get friendzoned, ruin incredibly great friendships and make things awkward for everyone if I tell her how I feel. We still DM sometimes and I try to call her but usually another friend jumps on or she’s already on the phone and I find it so awkward that I’ve found it hard to keep trying. If she did like me in any way, I may have missed my chance. I have to stress how close this new friend group already is, I don’t want to push anyone out, but I also feel like I can’t tell the rest yet how I feel because I believe the girls would probably tell her before I could. She’s incredibly sweet and down to earth so I don’t think she’d react harshly, but I am coming up with all the worst possible scenarios, and do not know when I’d even get the chance and how to tell her these things. | Crushes |
I (18F) finally said hi to my crush irl for the first time and i messed up, my friends kept telling i was really giddy and shaky, so now it’s probably obvious to him that i like him. Im also TERRIFIED like what if i freaked him out ughhhh i wanna throw up | Crushes |
I recently developed a crush on a kid in my study class. I only have him in this one class as hes somewhat of a smarter kid I've heard and I have regular classes and he has more AP classes, and he doesn't talk much unless spoken to.
I've made it pretty obvious that I like him as I'm very open about it to people just not directly to him as I get nervous when it comes to confessing directly to someone. He always sits with this one guy at lunch and he even knows I like him, his friend has told me about twice now that I should just talk to him.
Everybody I ask keeps saying I should just talk to him, but I'm quite unsure if I should. My friends try to help me by talking to him for me without me requesting it, they always say something like "You should talk to her" "Do you plan on talking to her" "I think you two would be good together" and so far I've heard he hasn't said much either then just simply an "Ok".
He hasn't really said he doesn't like me or doesn't want to talk to me so I don't really know. I've asked a few boys about it and they said they feel like he would've been upfront about not liking me at this point since so many people have basically told him. And those same boys are saying I should just make the first move as he might be just as nervous as me or just be playing hard to get.
I'm really not sure what to do, I usually don't mind making the first move as I tend to have a crush on quiet people who usually aren't too thrilled on making the first move either , like I said i wouldn't mind but, I'd at least like to know if hes even interested in me at all.
I know this all sounds childish but, after all it is. I'm a freshman in highschool if that sums it up. I'm a more extroverted person and quite loud when im with friends so I usually don't have trouble expressing myself. But, when it comes to confessions I get extremely nervous and I turn super red with even the slightest confrontation.
I don't know what to do, any tips? | Crushes |
Guys, in my last couple of posts I talked about breaking ties with my childhood best friend, right? Well, I am not at all doing that. From yesterday until I met him today evening, I did not reply to any of his texts and he asked if I was mad at him, I denied and said that I don't wanna force him to make small talk if he doesn't want to, and if he wants, I'd stop annoying him. That poor boy looked scared to be honest and told me to stop assuming stuff and he just likes to listen to me rant. He then almost pleaded me to be patient, and said that he would tell me everything after our college entrance exams next year. I think I know what it is. I am pretty happy to be honest. Thank y'all for listening to me rant and advising me not to cut ties with him. | Crushes |
So there is this girl I like from my class. We have been sitting next to each other and making small talk everyday even in our lab.
Earlier this week I got her number and we decided to work on the hw together in the library. Over text, she said she’s down to work on the hw together. When I got to the library, I asked her if she’s ready to work on the hw and she told me that she already finished the hw a while ago. She instead sat there with me for an hour or more while I worked on the hw. She had no reason to be there bc not only did she finish the hw but prof is going to tell us answers the next day.
I thought it was odd, but what do you guys think?
If y’all think she’s into me what should my next move be? I’m planning to take things slow anyway.
Thanks! | Crushes |
it hurts how he's liked her since day one
and I've been in love since the moment i saw him
it hurts a lot
ik how she talks about him
HOW CAN SHE BE SO SELFISH
I WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR THIS BOI
ANYTHING JUST TO SEE HIM SMILE | Crushes |
so one of my female friend always saves my snap selfie what does that mean does she really interested in me or am just overthinking it.... we both are been frnds from last 4-5 months and she also has many friends and when ever she saves my snap i just overthink anyone can answer? Thanks in advance | Crushes |
I have a girl- friend.. not a girlfriend.. a friend that is a girl.. lol anyways
Me and her have been besties for a while, and we are very open with each other.. and now suddenly she openly tells me that she wants to touch me and also have sex with me.. and I don’t want to, but at the same time I kinda want to lol.. I know it sounds weird.. and the weirdest thing is.. I’m kinda gay lol.
And she doesn’t have a crush on me, and I don’t have a crush on her either.. and yes, we have talked about doing something ”freaky” lol just for fun, because we are besties and that we could please each other.. but like, it feels weird af lol. | Crushes |
She says she wants to be with someone polish because she's polish and it would just be easier, I'm English we both live in england we both speak fluent English. We've been good Close friends for years But does this mean she'd never like me ? | Crushes |
i developed a crush on a girl i found really pretty a bit ago (shes the best friend of a girl i dated for 10 days and dumped) . so i decided to text her hello and she replied with “hi?” and now im going insane (im 16) | Crushes |
There's a girl in my class (we're both about 15) and even though we've been acquainted and in the same class for a year, we never really talked a bunch. However recently in the past week or so, I learnt she plays a ton of games and we've been bonding over it a bit, mainly me asking for advice on buying games. I can't even tell if I like her, but that's not the question for now. My friend says she might be sending signals but I'm shit when it comes to that kinda stuff.
Here are some things she has done:
\- In class, she has randomly walked up to my desk, picked up my pen, and just started poking my arm
\- She randomly walked up to my desk (again), picked up my pencil box and just emptied it in front of my face... and just put all the stuff back in???
\- She responds to my msgs immediately (not much of a sign)
\- We randomly make eye contact in the class
\- We do a ton of teasing with each other, like mutual insults almost? like saying telling each other we have shit taste except we're both laughing about it
Idk if there's anything to it or if it's just her personality, but I'm the type of guy who overthinks things so I'm hoping to see what other people think | Crushes |
My (18f) crush (18m) just asked me to prom!!!
This is a huge surprise because when my friend (18f) asked him if he liked me he said no.
We were walking in the hall after having a conversation with another girl about prom. When we were walking I said something like "yeah, I don't know if I'll go to prom, but my grandma really wants me to go" and he quietly said "do you maybe want to... go with me?" And I, being the fool that I am, panicked and said "Yeah!, wait do you mean as friends or as a date?" And he said "...um I don't know whatever is fine with me..." and I double panicked and said "I'll say yes to either way! So let me know what you want to do!" And then I patted him on the shoulder and we went our separate ways... I texted him apologizing for how awkward I was and he says it's fine, and we are going to meet up at my locker after school! I am so excited I actually feel a little sick...
I am incredibly stupid, but all this would mean that he does want to go ad a date, right? | Crushes |
I was in class today and I was sitting a couple of rows behind my crush (my friend and I were the only two behind her). She was sort of grabbing her chair and twisting around to stretch and ended up facing right at me. I looked up and made eye contact with her, and she spun around really fast. Was she looking back at me on purpose and tried to hide it or am I overanalysing it. But of backstory…. I told her I had feelings for her last year and she said she wanted to just be friends but 6 months have passed since then
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Caught my crush staring at me (idk on purpose or coincidence) and she turned back really quickly. | Crushes |
it’s so upsetting. i never like anybody and when i do it’s the most random person ever!!! i never see this guy. how do i get his attention and get him to talk to me more? don’t tell me to make the first move because i WONT!! i just want him bad:( | Crushes |
I was attracted to him too, both mentally and physically, but due to my lack of social skills at the time and the awkward work context, I unintentionally rejected him.
Eventually, he had to move to another city. However, we still keep in touch through social media and our conversations are great because we share similar views and interests. He once mentioned that he had considered staying when we first met but ultimately decided against it since he did not want to change his plans for someone he had just met, a decision which I completely understood.
Now, I can't help but think that I missed out on an opportunity with him and I'm considering whether it's worth pursuing him now, especially since I might be moving to another city next year, for my studies.
Would you say I am wasting my time ? | Crushes |
He only took an hour to respond to my text but it felt like five hours to me. I cried and basically had a breakdown and had suicidal thoughts again. The only condition I’m diagnosed with is autism. When he did text me back, I immediately stopped crying and started laughing and smiling like I always do when he texts me. What should I do about this??? | Crushes |
Note: A lot of text, English is not my first language so there may be some mistakes.
Context: This is one of many letters I have made for my crush, however this one is different since it explains why my affection for her feels different, I'm not sure what will happen in the future between us but I needed to share it with the world as I will probably never give it to her.
Well I'll explain briefly ok? (Well it will not be brief)
Lately I have nightmares I guess, if they can be defined as something ... There are already several friends that I dream like this that are sick or worse, and that makes me very sad and I start to worry a lot, I don't know if it's a side effect of trauma or something like that, but I don't have a good time, this last time I dreamt about you and it was horrible to imagine what could happen if you weren't alive, that pain felt very real, you know? Everyone thinks I love you just because I'm in love with you but I think that for a long time now that's what I care the least, since our relationship has always been very bizarre, hence our slogan "we only see each other in important events" ...
Since I met you for the first time I knew I would never be able to be with you the way I thought when I was younger, I liked you and I still like you a little bit ... Because let's face it you are great in many ways, but obviously if i don't spend time with you there is no purpose in trying again, maybe you are already with someone, maybe you don't want anyone, I don't know, you have always been a box of surprises, besides I am a clumsy mess although it seems that we have that in common, it made me too happy to see you after so long to know that you are ok and that you are still the same girl I had so much fun with years ago and we still have fun, it's strange you know? Physically you have changed a bit, you look smaller, in fact when you greeted me at the restaurant I didn't even know if it was really you, your eyes are still the same and your hands feel the same, I had forgotten what your voice was like and your strange accent.
Maybe I'm just hallucinating but I can't help but think that you wanted to tell me something important on the beach? Why did you come to see me in the first place? I'm so dumb I forgot to let you talk, something you wanted to say but I didn't want to ask, that wink from your friends while we were dancing together, what was it? Did you tell them about me? Why were you looking at me so much then? You are the most complicated person to decipher sometimes, maybe I'm just misunderstanding simple things and although I have never told you but I love you very much you know? you probably know it but it's more than you imagine and it's also more complicated than it seems, believe me I try hard not to fall in love with you again but you never help me in that aspect not that you do it on purpose either, you are always full of joy is basically the definition of you: Joy.
I have never understood for sure why I love you to this degree, I don't know if it is because you are my first love, I don't know if it was because you are the first girl to totally ignore that I am a semi invalid and also a terrible dancer and communicator etc.
But why do you care about me? Are we really strangers? Then why do you care about me? You had no reason to be at my dad's funeral... you had no reason to care and talk to me before and after all that happened, hell you didn't even have to talk to me again after I didn't talk to you or see you for a whole year, I'm weird and in many occasions I say a lot of stupid things (like this one maybe), but here you are again, I hate that you are like that because you only make me love you even more, and I'm sure that at some point the reality check will come and the part that still has the love that I have wanted to eradicate so much, and it will hurt more than many things in this world, the truth I just hope you are happy, nothing would destroy me more than seeing you suffer, at the end of the day I will always love you maybe not as that guy you talked to for the first time in that party, but whether as a friend, as a brother or as a total stranger, my love for you will always remain, no matter if you hate me, if you ignore me or if we never talk again I will not forget you, it sounds super corny believe me I know but the truth is that it is difficult to describe it in words.
I would like to see you just to talk, for me it is easier to talk to you than with most of the people in my life, tbh i'm very nervous , I feel less and less alive in my own life, I am worried about many things but I guess I am not the only one, it's crazy to imagine my life without having met you and your brother, it's also complex to imagine myself more in love with someone other than you but I guess I will eventually find something, if even the doctors recommend it is because I guess it works, I would like to give you that pearl necklace but what the hell would I do with it? I'd give it to you just like that, it would look super weird wouldn't it? What do I tell you? I'm not and probably never will be your boyfriend but damn it I've been wanting to give you something for a long time.... Even if I do would you like it? It's super obvious and cliché that even I hate it, but I couldn't think of a better idea, but I'd like you to have something of mine you know? just in case ... don't be alarmed I would never hurt myself, I couldn't forgive myself for making you sad because of me, but lately it's more complicated to control and silence my mind, sometimes I feel like I'm not in control anymore, that's why I write so much, it's one of the few places where I have a voice and I'm not afraid, that's why sometimes I think about you so much even though you give me anxiety sometimes, that's why I remember you, to feel something that makes me happy, the best and worst of all, is that I can feel the memories so I remember how your hands felt, how your body moves lol, your look, your eyes, your shoulders, the watery part of your elbow, the little spots you have on your hands, the fluffiness of your hair, your laugh and your smile, your screams, the inhuman jumps and jumps that with your super power you do, your voice, I wonder if I could feel the same with another girl, that's the only negative thing about meeting you girl, you set the bar so high that any other person seems insignificant and even boring compared to you, and it's not because you are perfect, in reality you are very far from being perfect just like me, but it is the ease with which you make me feel things with so little effort that attracts me so much, not your physique, not your intelligence, not your talent not many other things but that, to feel and what I feel when I am with you is happiness.
I hope to see you soon and that you are well, I just wanted to write you a little to calm down now that I can't sleep and to let you know that I am better (even if you don't know it) I am still making an effort for you, for my friends and my family, besides we still have to take that picture together that you want so much ...
Thx for reading this far | Crushes |
she says she lowered her standards so much for him
whytf is she w him
I would've done anything for this boy
the prettiest boy I've ever had in my life and the only one who can make me smile
my heart hurts fr everytime I see him sad and depressed and i can't stop myself from smiling everytime I see his smile
I'd still do anything for him
I just hope she doesn't hurt him
he's so madly in love with her and this is how she talks about him
hurts me a lot
a friend of mine told me they ain't even look like a real couple
they look like they're only in it for the last and physical aspect of a relationship and don't care for each other
they look like they're faking it
thought I was the only knew who felt that
I really wanna know how it would've ended if it was me n him
I still like him
I'll wait | Crushes |
My crush and I have 2 classes a week togeher and yesterday was one of them. I caught her glancing at me a couple of times and she smiled as she passed next to me once. The day before we had had a German speaking exercise and us 2 were speaking to each other. She tended to laugh a bit and smile when I gave her responses. | Crushes |
I never quite realized how boring it is without them lol | Crushes |
I am 25 yrs old, I'm bisexual, male, and had no relationships since birth and have developed feelings for a coworker.
I am not entirely sure if he will reciprocate the same feelings as I do. The first time I saw him in the office I think he is cute but I don't know his standpoint on the LGBTQ+ community and if he is into same-sex relationship but I kinda get this feeling that he is somewhat soft (please forgive me I don't know the PC terms)
Whenever I ask him to go out he would always say he's busy or has no budget to go out. I even offered to treat him but he declines. But whenever he is the one who is asking to go out with bunch of our coworkers, I would go. Now I kind of feel he does not like me at all or he is only there when he needs something or if it's convenient for him.
I need help. Please advice because it's making feel sleeplessness. Thank you so much. | Crushes |
i hung out with this guy i liked & confessed to (around a year ago) a couple days ago. he turned me down in the nicest way and we stayed friends (even though it was generally at a classmate level if im being honest). anyways, i ended up being in his area and when we met up he greeted me with a hug. i didn’t really expect it since til that point we only really talked through discord about our classes. we never really made physical contact until then and didnt expect for him to ever greet me like that.
i also really expected him to bail when it was the day we planned to meet. i didnt think he would actually be down to hang out with a girl who confessed liked him and all.. we’re both the same in a few ways, like being a bit awkward/introverted and majoring in the same field. i knew he said he would like to still be friends but idk i guess i just didnt know he meant it!!
i talked with my friend about this and we thought it was a little weird how he actually was interested to see me (despite what i said ^ ….) but maybe he’s just super nice? it wasnt really awkward too. i liked hanging out with him. we kind of joked around and were being pretty friendly? but i dont know, if it was me id try to avoid seeing a guy who liked me at all costs, but that might just be because i often end up feeling a little uncomfortable.
maybe everything i said is completely normal but its hard because a part of me still likes him so maybe im being delusional lol 😭😭 any opinions would be appreciated haha | Crushes |
I hadn’t thought of this person in years and randomly one night I had dream about them and ever since, the dreams haven’t stopped. Even if they’re not the main focus of the dream, they’re usually in the background or just there. Why would this randomly happen? Does it mean they’re thinking of me as well? | Crushes |
my crush is flirty with me and always smiling but he never makes a move.
should I move on? | Crushes |
I cant tell if she's into me. one minute she's laughing at my jokes, the next she replies very formally. She won't reply with one word answers but her responses sometimes feel like shes holding back. almost like a robot took over. what is up with this? Is this a sign that she's not into me? We're adults so we don't have to play games. at the same time, coworkers so cant just ask her out. I thought I found out that she has a bf until a mutual coworker told me that was her family mbr. IN OUR 20'S. meanwhile, i cant stop thinking about her. im dishing advise on this subreddit to try and help others while im finding this romance shindig time consuming and probably a waste of time. Any suggestions. | Crushes |
For context we’ve worked together for almost a year now and we went from purely coworkers to friendly to good friends and now we’re very close. We walkhome when we work together or I drive her and we text everyday too. But since she became single last month what we talk about and our level of interaction definitely changed.
While she was with someone she’d rarely reply to messages, she’d unsave everything on Snapchat before he’d get her so it’s blank and be very at arms length. I wouldn’t intrude on her relationship despite him making comments about me and stuff. But after her breakup we talked a lot about her relationships and my struggles with never dating before and I let her know that I care about her and want her to be loved and safe and provided with what she needs to be the person she wants. But I didn’t tell her I liked her.
A few weeks ago something happened at work where really sexual comments were made by our mutual friend that made us both uncomfortable and she said she won’t date a coworker and it’s not her business etc. She didn’t like that our friend assumed how she felt about me and appreciates that our friendship isn’t built on sex, which I knew before as she’s told me that she’s appreciative of how I treat her because most men she dates treat her like shit and abandon her but that I “haven’t done that yet”. Anyway, after the incident I decided to tell her that I do actually like her romantically and that I wouldn’t cross her coworker boundary if it wasn’t something she was comfortable with.
Since that incident we talk a lot more, she sends me tik toks and Instagram posts daily, she’s much more comfortable in my bubble, teases me all the time which I really like, sends me selfies when I send her one, asked me to meet her mom and dog, when we get rolling with a conversation it’s so good and she wants to walk with me instead of drive because it’s more time to talk. I even see her just watching my hands and looking at me in the exact same way I look at her when I’m just really captivated by her.
A different coworker even told me that the way her face lights up and how she goes on about me when my name is brought up around her was enough to ask her about me and she told him we’re really close and she appreciates how I treat her.
I know it’s a lot and a little confusing but I’ve had a friend say she’s only treating me this way because she wants attention and I see it a bit. When I’ve asked if she wants to go do something together it’s not a “yes” but a “sure”. Some days the texting is dry and I leave it, I don’t press or anything but all of the other stuff just makes me feel like there’s something there. I’m debating asking if she’d like to date as I am leaving our workplace in the near future and I don’t think it’d ruin our friendship but I just don’t know what to do. | Crushes |
my bestfriend was friends with my crush in 2021 and everyone always shipped them together even I did, but she always denied liking D (my crush) to everyone including me and we tell each other everything.
I didn’t have any classes with D so I never knew her I just knew of her. but in 2022 I started taking a class with D and we took this class every day and we also had a bus ride there and back. this situation led to us becoming close. after spending time with D every day, I realized that I was starting to develop feelings for her. I did not tell my best friend about these feelings, because it never came up in conversation but before I could mention it to her, my best friend told me that she had feelings for D.
I did not tell my best friend that I was also developing feelings for D because I didn’t want to make things awkward or ruin her happiness. But since my best friend had left the school after the 2021 school year (probably another reason why me and D got so close) and she couldn’t rizz her in person she asked me to help her get with D, so i did. eventually after enough convincing from me my best friend asked her out and D said yes.
to make my feelings “go away”, I tried to pretend they didn’t exist, but the things that D did, and still continue to do confuse me and make my crush stronger. I don’t know what to do because I love my best friend, and I would never do anything to betray her but my heart will not go on… | Crushes |
I am 14 and a freshman in HS. I am in such a dilemma!! I've liked this guy for a while and we have had our ups and downs in talking. We talked over summer at the same summer camp and then stopped talking. We do swim together so we started talking during swim szn then now we aren't talking. The semi-formal dance is coming up and I've noticed I'm developing feelings for him recently. I told a few friends abt this and they are telling me to just go for it I am so scared though because he is starting to become a fam friend and we are going to summer camp together against this year and since we are seeing each other a lot, I don't want to mess up what we have.formal is in two months so I thought I had time but one of my friends told me someone else is trying to set her and her crush up. i asked her why she didn't say no and her response was "if they are setting me up why would I say no" I was kinda astonished and surprised because she is so much prettier and more popular than me but she decided it was ok to settle on the guuy I liked. But since they haven't been set up yet, I have about two days to confess to him I could do it through one of his friends who is also mine but I am scared he would laugh t me or something. I am so stuck please help! | Crushes |
I don’t know what to do expect just be more honest with feelings. I keep on thinking about her even when it comes to listen to music | Crushes |
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Curious to hear about others’ opinions on this. Do you think it comes off as disingenuous or cowardly to confess over the phone? Is it best to do it in person? Let me know :) | Crushes |
Earlier today, I made a post.
Link to previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/12s1ys1/should_i_19m_tell_my_best_friend_19f_that_i_love/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
I asked to face time today and I'm still in the call with her. I told her that I had to send her a letter. I wrote a letter about the love I have for her and sent it to her. She told me she was speechless and didn't have answer for me at the moment. I told her to take her time. She kept giving me reasons why not to love her, but I told her that it's not going to change how I feel. I then asked her if she felt the same way in the past, and she said yes.
That gives me hope. We both promised that no matter what happens, we will always be in each other's lives.
I will update whatever the outcome is. | Crushes |
I'm gonna confess to the girl Iike after our bands show in two weeks how does this sound "hey ___ I kinda like you would you want to go out with me" | Crushes |
Might’ve accidentally slipped my crush on someone in front of one of his friends and I’m kind of nervous lol.
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My (f24) coworker/friend (m21) asked me out a few months ago, but I said no for the following reasons:
1) Our religions are too different. He is atheist and I am Catholic. We are both very strong about our beliefs. While I am not trying to out him down for his, this is a dealbreaker for me because I know that values are essential in a relationship and we just don't have any in common.
2) He doesn't like or want kids. I do not want kids either, however my future career is dedicated to helping them (therapist). So when I am done at the end of the day I just want someone who is willing to listen to me for a bit to get it off my chest or understand when I don't want to talk about things. He has already said he isn't interested in that nor does he understand why mental health is such a big deal.
3) He is pretty self-absorbed. While he is fun to talk to or grab a coffee with, he isn't interested in hearing about me or my life and will always bring it back around to himself.
I thought he was over me, but recently he has been texting me more. I didn't mind at first, because it was mostly just him venting about his personal life. But then he started saying things like "I wanna see you" "I miss you" "It hurts me to not see you" etc. I had mentioned a long time ago that I would love to go support him when he performs. He invited me to a show he is in this weekend then asked if I would want to grab a bite then head back to his place after and just hang out. I am not comfortable with that and said I would go to the show and to dinner but not back to his place.
I think he likes me, but I am not into him. What should I do? I feel like I should not go to the show, but maybe meet up earlier and get a feel to see if he is just being overly friendly. I would feel bad if I am miss reading this but I also don't want to lead him on. | Crushes |
How not to look bad, how not to be awkward, stories of what not to do, etc.
Please I'm desperate and extremely nervous 😭
I feel like I'm going to look so bad and that it's not going to be fun for him... | Crushes |
He avoids having alone time with me. But whenever it’s a group setting he teases me a lot and make witty remarks about me. He also seems very supportive in whatever I have to say.
He also doenst initiate texts but when i do message him sometime he always respond quickly with thoughtful messages and tons of emojis.
whats happening here? | Crushes |
Teased her saying that she liked one of my friends but then the convo turned into her crush on him. I told her I would get his opinion on the matter and she was fine with it. She wanted to learn who my crush was, I didn’t give her a name but a description of what we used to do together. She probably knows it’s her as she hasn’t replied to me for maybe 2 hours. I genuinely thought she had a crush on me | Crushes |
So let's call him Guy B.
I've kinda "known" him for two years now. Hes the only one of his friends who will actually speak to me willingly.
I didnt like him before. I heard from his dad, whose close with mine, that Guy B has a girlfriend, and judging from what he said I dont know if Guy B's dad likes her. I just happened to be sitting there hearing this.
Anyway, recently I've felt myself start to crush on Guy B. Idk why, but it's different than some crushes I've had before. Hes shared some pretty deep things about himself which I relate to and I find us similar in a lot of ways.
Whenever I talk to him or make eye contact with him, as weird as it sounds, he feels like home. His prescence is comforting and almost calming in a way.
As uncanny as this sounds theres just this THING between us that I've never had with anyone else. Maybe it's all in my head, I'm sure it is.
Anyway, I saw his girlfriend the other day and she is BEAUTIFUL. Most of the guys in the room started fixing their hair or shifting in their seats. She looks so kind and quickly got along with these other girls that she'd just met. I wasnt jealous or anything, but I just thought "Wow, shes really good at making friends." Meanwhile it took me 2 years to develop the friends I have now.
Shes so friendly and attractive and has such a pretty smile. Meanwhile I'm over here with these guys playing a game watching two of them sword fight with sticks.
Ik I'm pretty, or that's what I'm told, but I asked my mom and she even said I'm kinda tomboyish. I feel like I'm in a wattpad story where the handsome, athletic guy has an amazing gf and im the awkward "tomboyish" girl stuffing pizza in my face.
I'm currently trying to get over this Guy B thing I'm feeling because if I dont I'm only going to hyper fixate and be miserable and I dont want that again. | Crushes |
I didn't think I'd make it this far. Do we match colors? Are we taking pictures beforehand? Are we even meeting up beforehand? Or do we just show up at the convention and then dance? What do you even do that prom? What does it even mean to go "together"?
My parents aren't so accepting of me dating, would I go over to his house? And what about my friends, they want me to get ready with them but we aren't even going to a restaurant where I can be with him...
WHAT COMES AFTER HIM SAYING YES TO GO? I want to talk about it with him but I'm nervous and don't want to bother him. | Crushes |
HI!
My crush is the son of my parents' friends, so we have grown up together. He is (M25) and I am (F24).
When we were little, I was his crush and he would tell everyone, and we would always get teased about it. As we started to grow up, we used to play spin the bottle and give each other little kisses, but nothing important. But at that time, I already started to like him.
I think he was the first person I ever liked, but I kept that feeling to myself.
Until last year, I almost told him that I liked him. We were at a party and we were a little drunk, so while we were talking, I told him that I had closed myself off to love because I had liked him in the past (I didn't want to tell him that I still liked him) but it was impossible and that's why I repressed my feelings.
He told me that he also had those feelings when we were very young, but nothing more.
The next day, I regretted telling him because I felt like he rejected me. I had hoped he would say that he liked me too, not just as kids, because I already knew that. So, I decided that was the answer I was looking for, that he didn't like me and I had to move on with my life.
It had been a long time since I had seen my crush, but when I found out he was going to another party, I decided not to drink and to try to stay away from him. However, when I arrived, he approached me to talk and ask how I was. At first, I tried not to show any emotion or nervousness, but then I started talking to him about a guy I was talking to. To my surprise, he told me that the guy wasn't worth it because he was his distant cousin. I asked him to introduce me to a friend at the party, but he never did.
At one point in the party, a friend of my crush confessed his feelings to me and told me he had always liked me. I didn't believe him, but I told my crush, who said his friend had never told him anything and that it seemed strange. At that moment, I noticed a weird tone in his voice, as if he was a little jealous, but I thought maybe it was just my imagination.
Later on, most of the people left the party and only my crush, a nice and pretty girl I had just met, two guys and I were left. I felt jealous when I realized she also liked my crush, but I tried to hide it. I sat in a chair next to my crush and he started caressing my arm while we talked. I liked the feeling and didn't pull away my arm. We stayed like that for a while until the girl looked at us strangely and I felt uncomfortable, so I pulled away my arm. We kept talking and got to the topic of the other party, where I had talked to him about my feelings for him. However, to avoid the situation, I said that alcohol had erased my memory and that I didn't remember anything. Then he told me that I had told him that I liked him and that's why it was hard for me to open up to others. I denied everything and told him not to believe me, that I had made it up to hide other things. I felt cowardly and, although I wanted to keep talking to him, I knew I had to make him understand that I didn't want to continue in that situation, so I went home
One day, I saw him at a bar while I was there with my brother, and he was with another one of my friends (which made me feel jealous). When I went over to say hello, he told me I looked pretty and started complimenting me, something he ALWAYS does. During our conversation, he told me about a trip where he was attracted to one girl and kissed another, to which as a "good friend," I suggested he reach out to the girl. However, he confessed to me that it was complicated because the girl lived far away.
He asked me if I was seeing anyone, and instead of telling him no, I made up a story and told him it was complicated. He wanted me to give him more details, but I didn't.
We continued talking for a while until we had to leave.
My friend and he left together (they leave nearby) so when I got home, I sent them a message to make sure they were okay. I messaged my friend first and she confirmed that everything was fine, and then I messaged him. His response was, "Yes, beautiful gorgeous, how about you?" I replied yes, but I told him that he left me reeking of his men's cologne, which I don't like very much. He joked that it was so that I would remember that I had a FRIEND, but then I insisted that the cologne was too invasive for me. Although I joked that someone else might like it, he suggested that we meet up the following week and asked me to say hi to my parents.
I invited him to a barbecue that I was going to have that weekend, but he said he couldn't because he was leaving for a trip the next day. I didn't respond at that moment, and time passed until last week, when he confused me more with his behavior.
We had a party and he came with 2 friends (the one who lives nearby and the one from the 2nd party). When he greeted me, he hugged me but didn't say anything like "gorgeous" or anything, so I didn't pay much attention. He asked me if I came to the party with any guy, and I told him no.
After a while, I went to sit with some friends, and I felt a strong gaze on me. He was sitting on the other side of the dance floor, staring at me. I looked back at him, and then we both looked away. I continued to have fun with my friends and didn't pay much attention to him.
I tried not to spend too much time with him, and I was having fun. All the girls at the party were in love with him and kept telling me how much they liked him. He was talking to many girls (my friends), but I played it cool and teased my friends about him.
Towards the end of the party, he was leaving and I was a bit drunk. So I went to say goodbye to him, and he hugged me from behind (which he always does). I joked with him, telling him not to hug me too much because I'd smell like a man, and that he'd already done that to me last time. He laughed and kept hugging me. It was a bit uncomfortable because all the girls he had talked to were surrounding us, but we talked and I didn't look at him in the eyes. After a while, I glanced at him and felt something strange and powerful. We smiled at each other and then looked away. He told me we had to see each other more often, and I teased him, saying he was a liar because he always said that but we never ended up meeting. He showed me the message where I had left him on "seen".
I asked him why he was leaving, and he said he had to drop off my friend who lives nearby. We kept teasing each other, and he suggested we take a photo together. We took the photo, and he kept hugging me, but I kept telling him not to because I didn't want to smell like a man. Then he pulled out his perfume and started chasing me to spray it on me. I finally gave in and let him spray some on the sleeve of my jacket. We said our goodbyes, and as we hugged for the last time, he told me he wouldn't wear as much perfume anymore (weird). Keep in mind that all of this happened in front of all the girls, so I had to control myself so it wouldn't show that I liked him.
After he left, a close friend who always liked him told me that he grabbed her face and told her she was beautiful, using the same nickname he always used for me. She also said that he put his hand on her leg and left it there while they were talking.
Another friend told me that she saw him and my friend who lives nearby going to the dark part of the party.
Obviously, I was jealous, but I had to pretend not to be. Later, my mom told me to text him and ask if he made it home safely. We started talking, and he asked me to send him our photos. We kept talking, but I stopped replying because it makes me nervous, and I don't want to get my hopes up.
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TLDR:
1. Lifelong friends, he liked her when they were kids.
2. She confesses her feelings to him at a party and tells him that she used to like him "before", but not anymore. He rejects her.
3. They meet again at a party, he becomes jealous and caresses her arm while they talk. He brings up the topic of their last conversation, but she plays dumb.
4. They run into each other at a bar, he talks to her about some girls he met on a trip, and she lies to him.
5. She messages him and starts teasing him about his strong cologne, they plan to meet up that week but it doesn't happen.
6. They meet at another party and he gazes at her intensely from afar. They start hugging and flirting with each other. He leaves and she finds out he's been flirting with other girls too.
PLEASE! I'm asking for your help, I don't want to talk about this with anyone.
* Is he just being nice?
* Does he really like me?
* And if he does, what should I do? I'm not going to tell him how I feel about him, but how do I get him to open up and not have that barrier?
THANK YOU VERY MUCH!! | Crushes |
Me and my crush have known eachother since August and we're on the same cheer team. I've developed feelings for her recently. I genuinely like her, she's pretty, sweet, she's always a real one, and I feel like she gets me, my main concern is, what if she doesn't like me back? Would things be awkward between us? I'm afraid to ruin something that's there, I need this communities opinion | Crushes |
My homeroom teacher mentioned It because some friends were teasing me about it and he said “Are their initials (blank, and (blank)“ before I got up and had to do a lap.
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HE HAS KNOWN SINCE NOVEMBER!!!!?????? | Crushes |
I started talking to a girl I like in person and over text for about a week, whenever I text her she always calls me “homie.” Am I being friend-zoned or is it too early? | Crushes |
I feel really disheartened as the girl I like has stopped talking to me near the end of summer, and instead of talking nearly everyday our few convos have become dry and boring. Worse part was that it was way to obvious she had a crush on me and now it looks like she have changed. She now has a very obvious crush on one of my friends which just puts the cherry on top. Any advice? | Crushes |
A few things that are important
1. Me and my gf are together for almost a year now, I constantly think about breaking up with her and being alone but I don't really have A good reason
2. I do love her, and we *very* rarely any fights or stuff like that, it's like almost too perfect but not in the way I would like it to be, but I keep looking at small flaws that I feel like shouldn't bother me. And Im constantly doubting our relationship and thinking about being alone when I'm not with her.
3. I few months ago I met someone and every while since then I think about her sometimes. She was great and I felt bad thinking about her that way because of my girlfriend so I shut her out. I barely talked to her in real life I just see her Instagram and stuff.
4. Lately ive been going thru a lot of confusing shit and along that I developed thees doubts and this crush again. I don't know what to do but I think I need to do something. It still feels dumb to break up over minor problems that shouldn't bother me and A crush I haven't had a full conversation with.
What should I do? | Crushes |
I'm a rlly oblivious and shy person and I have no idea if he likes me.
Here is some context.
I started working at my first job a month or two ago and I thought he was v cute, like a week in he asked for my insta and later we shared #, we have pretty much been talking non-stop. Here are some things that he does/things that have happened.
:we have a spotify playlist
:he has a album of photos of me ( in his phone)
: I got him this like, cute Keychain thing when I went on a trip and he said that he loves it.
: calls me cute, silly, silly goose.
:always says that he misses me or wishes he could see me ( we have v busy schedules)
: says rlly nice things about myself I won't rlly say here.
: says good morning every morning.
we talk about like everything and he is the person I've been most comfy with in a v long time. In all honesty im just bad at reading people lmao. | Crushes |
There's this girl I like and I know she likes me but I'm not sure if she knows I like her as well, and we don't really talk that much, it's more like we've just had small talk here and there. I was wondering if it would be fine if I ask her to be my gf, but I'm doubting because I kind of think that it would be in a rush. I could absolutely talk with her it's not like I'm secluded in my own world or am an introvert, it's just that I don't know what to talk about, and I'm not gonna say some cheesy ass line or ask dumbass questions like "what's your favorite food!" I would greatly appreciate if someone would have some advice from past experiences. | Crushes |
Need help on a girls I saw
I was walking down to a local shop and than I saw a pair of girls roughly my age I looked over at one of them and they looked back ,when I arrived at the shop I was walking around and stopped to chat to someone I recognised ,I than saw the girl from earlier as she walked along she looked at me from the side and waited for her friend before looking again. Was she checking me out or at least notice me I. Some way ? | Crushes |
I have the biggest crush on someone from work. Like I can’t stop thinking about him at all. It’s been an entire semester and I thought it would die down by now but it just keeps getting worse.
He has a gf, so I’m not gonna act on it. I’m just happy to be around him during work is all.
I’m wondering if someone can recommend like a fanfic or some shit that I can read to try and get over him. I really want to stop thinking about him. | Crushes |
okay so i (16F) have been talking to this guy (17M) for a little over a month now. we’ve known of eachother for a few years but we’d only see eachother at parties and have really small conversations. i’ve always thought he was cute but i never made a move. this time around though, i got his number and asked him for help with school and we just kept the conversation going after that. i really like him but i can’t tell if he likes me or is just being nice
- he texts me goodmorning every single day and tells me he hopes i slept good
- he refers to me as ma’am or say like “yes ma’am” when i ask something
- when we hangout with our mutual friend, if he’s standing next to her, he’ll move to be next to me
- we were at a book store and found hand puppets and i went to bite his with mine but he instead made them kiss
- the same day, i got him an animal figure and he keeps it in his car and he started to refer to it as our son (we even named him)
- anytime i offer to pay for anything he doesn’t let me
- i told him one day i was gonna do his makeup and turn him into me and his response was “i’d be l down to turn into you”
so idk i feel like he does like me back based off of those things but i’m also scared i’m misinterpreting his feelings cause i’ve done that before in the past and i’m not trying to be delusional yknow?? anyways let me know what you think it’s appreciated <3 | Crushes |
Right, so basically. There's this boy, who's gay thankfully ( I'm gay ) and I met him through a friend. Hessss super nice, funny and reallly fit. I really like him. We've known each other for about a year but have only really started getting close the past few weeks. When all of our friend group plays on Xbox after they leave it's always just us. We just talk about shit and stay in call playing together. Over text he makes like really suggestive jokes?? Like dirty ones towards me which I know are genuinely jokes and they don't make me uncomfortable or anything. Idk what to do though because I'm afraid that the friend I met him though isn't gonna like me if I try and get things on with him. | Crushes |
May you pls share any experiences (good, bad, embarrassing, cute, etc) that you've have with your crush? I kinda just want to talk about things like this rn. :) | Crushes |
I'm in a band with the girl I like, our final show of the season is in two weeks and I'm going to ask her out after we're done playing, I can't wait. | Crushes |
So there is this girl I’ve wanted to ask out. I first saw her when she sat down next to me when I was getting some lunch, but I didn’t talk to her.y friend came it sit with us and all three of us just started talking about classes and such. She left a little bit after that.
A month later my friend told me he saw her again after I told him she was cute and told her what I said about her.
Apparently she said something along the lines of “oh nice”. I got kind of mad at him for that because I don’t want to come off as a creep.
I’ve been thinking of just asking her out the next time I see her but I don’t know what to say. Should I? Or should I just let it go? | Crushes |
Basically I just want someone to chat :)
(mine might be a little dramatic but still)
i should add that i am f(16) | Crushes |
I just completely blew my chances of flirting today, she had something stuck in her hair and i wanted to take it out, it was bothering me ngl and i wanted to initiate something. But, i screwed up so bad and said some dumb shit that sounded like complete crap. UGHHH i can't.. i don't want to ever show my face to her again, i just want to crawl in a hole. | Crushes |
literally said that i liked her but i think that it would be better if she just acted as if she didn't knew (i thought she already knew that, but i was wrong apparently) and then after that she just asked me if i really liked her.
like bro we were talking through text, just literally re-read the message and you will know the answer to that. and i don't really know what to reply to her now since i'm kinda scared of being rejected. | Crushes |
In a way, I know this question sounds dumb as hell but for some reason I cant make the connection that a guy like him can be awkward/nervous around me in spite of the fact that everyone says his mannerisms says he clearly is. He just carries himself in such a confident/laidback way that it doesn’t make any sense to me. I’ve noticed he’s only ever brave to be flirtatious & to hold eye contact if there are people around/if its from afar. But the moment it’s just the both of us in the same space, he just gets all tense and aloof and quiet and the differing emotions he puts out confuses me so much. | Crushes |
So I was talking to him about something I like to do do and I said he should do it with me too and he’s said sure. Should I say when he wants to or ok? Idk😭 | Crushes |
This friend of mine, she would say hi to me everyday in a cute-like voice and whenever she's around my friend group (she's also friends with them), she would still only say hi to me, literally everytime she sees me, what does this mean? | Crushes |
we're first year med students. my (21M, bi) classmate (20M) is this great looking, smart, super outgoing dude. he's friends with everyone, he's the one to come up with plans and get togethers with other student groups - the golden retriever type. he's always been super nice to me and recently we started talking more. it started with a house party of his he randomly invited me to and now we're hanging out with the same people, i send him my notes, he comes over to our table in the labs and sits next to me. three weeks ago we got drunk, i switched clothes with one of the girls during a game of dare and caught him staring. he said he wants to get to know me better, we found out we both skate and he asked me to go with him. i didn't want to, i admitted i kind of suck, and he said it's no problem, he'll teach me. we're going on friday.
i've been told by friends i'm blind and deaf when it comes to people flirting with me (both men and women). it goes right over my head, i tend to assume they're just being nice. on top of that, i have no idea if he likes guys, and to be fair, i'm not out to our classmates either. i don't want to make things awkward, he's a great dude and i'd like to be friends regardless of how i feel about him.
(first time posting here, good luck to all of you out there!) | Crushes |
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