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as the school year is coming to a close, i wonder if i will ever have the courage to tell you how i feel.
because honestly, i was content with keeping my feelings at this surface level state—minimizing interactions with you as though i could prevent my feelings from going beyond that. fear and anxiety had a chokehold on me, because i knew that i would have take another gamble at my feelings without knowing of the outcome.
but i did not expect you to be the person i came to know you as— you seemed like this larger than life entity, but then, you were actually not. how many experiences have you’ve been through to make you the person you are today? all your sorrows, insecurities,
and vulnerabilities…
i find myself wanting to share it all with you.
i want to stand beside you, and figure it out together despite our own imperfections.
but it is what it is— a want.
as much as i hope for you to reciprocate, i am also not going to expect this to go anywhere. because i do not know if i could handle the consequences if the worst outcome happens. | Crushes |
Hello guys,
I need some advice on reading signals.
A woman I have liked for a while came to visit me after an incident. As soon as she came through the door she looked me in my eyes and came in for a tight hug around my neck. As a young man, I’ve never had a hug from a woman before. The hug was around 20-30 seconds. I held her around her waist and one hand was placed on her ass cheek and the other stroking her back. After this hug, she looked me in the eyes, then looked down and patted me slowly 3x on my chest.
After this, she sat down speaking to a few family members, sitting on a kitchen stool with a coffee mug in her hand. I was adjacent to her on a chair with my legs wide open watching her while she made frequent eye contact with me while sitting with her body tucked infront and stroking her cup.
After a few mins, she stood up while everyone was talking and approached me speaking about her son and something funny he did. Then she walked over to the main room while I followed and she was observing a few things while I was behind her. The feeling of sexual tension was immense around her and we couldnt help but feel awkwardness. A shame I had to leave early.
Now every time I am outside my house, I catch her staring me down from afar as she walks past, almost in a trance at me.
Furthermore, when we come into contact with each other, she sees me, takes off her sunglasses and smiles with direct eye contact and a short hi/hello with me being on the way to somewhere.
I just want to know what this means as she is older than me. Thank you. | Crushes |
Guys!!! Here me out.
So I’ve been crushing on this guy for 2 months already. And I’ve noticed some subtle things he’s doing that would make me think he is interested in me. Like he’s always the first one to view my stories and he keeps liking my IG stories, particularly the ones with me on it (either me alone, or me with my friends and family).
Also, back when we were working on a project together…idk, I remember saying hi to him. And he greeted me by saying my name. Then out of the blue he briefly touched my wrist, which made me feel giddy ahaha.
I remember I tried hearting and asking him something about his story, just to start conversation about something “non-work (project)” related. But he just simply gave it a thumbs up. So I thought the feeling wasn’t mutual.
But just recently, I posted a picture of me with my cousins and he hearted it. I tried to follow up with another picture, and he hearted it again.
One of my friends thinks that he’s interested in me. And him hearting my stories is his “First move”.
What do you guys think? Is my friend right? And if my friend is right, what do you suggest I should do? 🥺👉🏻👈🏻 | Crushes |
I have a crush on this really nice (and cute) girl in my school. We’ve been friends for a quite a while and she seems to show slime signs of having a crush (refer to my previous post in this subreddit for more info). I really wanna tell her I like her but I’m just scared of getting rejected. I’m just so stuck! | Crushes |
I knew nothing would ever happen. I’ve crushed on her for over 2 years and tried to ask her out a few times, but always got flaked on. I really thought for the longest time she was into me, there were even mutual friends who said she was into me and that only made me believe it more. But nothing ever came of it. I blocked her on everything today. Not out of anger towards her, I did it to try and get her off my mind. I can’t be friends with a girl i like | Crushes |
Context:
We have been best friends since first grade. Recently, I started feeling like I love her as more than a best friend. To me, it's a bit weird because for all of these years I have been best friends with her, I now feel like I am in love with her. Before I felt this way, I saw her as like a sister. We do hug and cuddle from time to time whenever I see her.
I am almost done with my first year at college. Being in college really gave me time to reflect on things in my life. One of the things I kept thinking about was my best friend.
Three years ago, she started dating someone. I didn't like the guy she was dating because I knew he would do something bad. to her. I was right. He cheated on her. He also told my best friend to cut me off because he did not like me talking to her. I would never do anything that passes people's boundaries. She broke up with him, the first thing she did was contact me. I left her message on delivered for almost a week. I really wanted to talk to her, but I wanted to make sure that if I text her back, it meant that I still wanted to be her best friend. Im glad that I texted her back.
To be honest, I can tell her everything about myself and she does the same as well. The only thing I can't tell is that I love her as more than a best friend. I say this because even though it has been awhile since she has broken up with her ex, I still see that she is a bit broken from that relationship. I don't think it's appropriate to tell her how I feel. It will probably add to the things she is going through rn. The best thing I can do rn is be her best friend and support her. I just want her to be healed.
I think in the past, she may have liked me as more than a best friend. I remember her asking what I would do if she were to ask me out. I said idk at the time because I did not no what to say. Then I asked her the question she asked me. She told me she would say yes. Maybe I have chance, but it's slim because it's been quite a while since she asked me that question and she doesn't see me that way anymore.
If I plan to tell her, I want to wait to go back home for the summer so I can tell her in person. I don't want to do it over the phone.
Something else I should add is that we do say I love you to each other all of the time we talk, text, or see each other in person.
What should I do? Should I tell her? Should I wait? Advice would be appreciated!
TLDR: I am in love with my best friend. She is going through things right now and I don't think it is the right time to tell her how I feel. | Crushes |
Just to get this clear, I'm not interested in anyone atm. I just wanna know if this girl likes me because then I can prepare for whatever might come.
So for context, I've kinda suspected this girl may have a crush on me. I already made a post about this a while ago, but I've gathered even more evidence. To summarize what I said, basically she'd talk to me whenever we were at our lockers (since they're right next to each other) and generally seemed to be more friendly with me than I remember in the previous years I was at the school. We still don't talk all that much though, although we've got several mutual friends so it's not like we're unfamiliar with each other.
Recently they asked me for my whatsapp, saying it was for a project at school. This project is a voluntary thing, so it's not like she needed my number, but she thought I could help. I don't want to get into the details of this project, but I think you get the point. To me it seemed like she was trying to use it as an excuse to get my number but I can't be sure, the reason she gave was pretty legitimate (but again, this project isn't one that I'm required to do, it's entirely voluntary).
Idk I'm really not sure with this situation. Half of the time I feel like she does like me, but then sometimes I feel like I'm just being my usual self thinking everyone that speaks to me likes me. I need some outsider opinions on this. If y'all need more information I can give it to you. | Crushes |
Hi,
There is a girl that I like since the first day of shool year, and I figured out that I like her, more and more, after making a resolution of not seeing her as to lose my feelings to her, but every time I see her it's as if I fall in love with her and my feelings turn more and more stronger. But I'm a shy person (17M), which doesn't help me if I want to confess my feelings.
That's why I want somebody who has got some free time and an IG account, to ask the girl if she's interested on someone (if it was me, I'm more than happy to confess, if not, I'll move on) before I make my move.
(I asked for this because I have bad memories with girls being b*****, like the one whom I confessed to last year after she promised that she won't tell anybody, when the day after, 3 classes already know that I like her, which made my school year hard as a timid person).
Thanks and any help will be appreciated. | Crushes |
So I have a crush on a girl at work. Literally everytime we walk pass or look at each other with smile and just start laughing randomly lol. Also when we first met she ask about my life like how old I was or where you from. Is she into me to? | Crushes |
Okay, I'm currently in the last yr of my HS in Poland and... I have a crush on my classmate.
Sometimes. it's like i just turn my face around to look at him, and I find him looking at me as well. At least that's what I think. His glasses are very thick so maybe it's the refractive index... but if he was looking at me. And then I quickly move my gaze away.
Now yesterday I asked him for some question papers on Discord... and he sent me and then I replied something related to it. It was something random. He didn't reply for 10 mins so I thought that maybe he was ignoring me.
I know replying 10 mins late is not ignoring... but he is my crush. So I made a fake acc on discord, and he accepted it in a minute. He asked me who I was. And I replied ''idk" and he replied "Okay" and then I asked if he wants to know my identity. He said he had 0 fucks to give or something like that and I replied "ok" and then he replied, "ok". Then I opened my real acc... but I found that he hadn't replied to my msgs. Which meant that he was ignoring me.
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He replied to my msgs after 1 hr. So I was like okay he hurt my ego. So I did a few things (not in his dm) that made me look like I'm active on Discord. I even turned on a song on Spotify which was displaying on my status. And then I replied to him today... maybe after around 11hrs or so. Then he replied something. And then I just said to him "Thanks" bcs of those question papers he shared.
Now he could have ended our convo by saying "No problem" or "Welcome" but he asked me something extra unrelated to any of those question papers. It was something random. Look if he wanted to end the convo he could have.
And I know it's nothing. But when the bare minimum is all u have, u can't help yourself but overthink. And ik these are no mixed signs | Crushes |
Apparently I’m invisible to any sort of affection or flirtation, so I’m calling out to anyone who has experience (I’ve never been in a ‘real’ relationship) to help me figure out if I’m reading the signals right or if I’m just busy romanticising life.
So there’s this girl (I am also a girl, just to be clear) who I have liked for almost five months now, and I swear she is giving me hints, but I can’t be sure. For example she touches my arms or hands occasionally, texts me first (only sometimes because we are both shy), always seems like she’s trying to get closer to me or have an excuse to be near me, smiles at me while making eye contact and does stuff she doesn’t do with anyone else that I know of. She has been in a wlw relationship before, and I can tell she likes girls, but I’m not sure what her sexuality is. Today, something that happened at the end of school/last lesson kept repeating in my head.
Basically, the bell was about to go and she walked all the way to the table my friend and I were sitting at (I took notice of her coming near us but didn’t want to stare) and since I was talking I got distracted but then I heard her say “bye” into my ear and got surprised and awkwardly said it back. After this happened I kept replaying this moment in my mind and realised her arm was separating my friend and I as she was leaning over me, and then she walked away smiling as if nothing had happened meanwhile I was absolutely flustered. Another instance is when we were on an excursion at the beach, and while our class was getting their photo taken she pulled me by the waist to get closer and fit in the frame when it probably would have been fine. Another excursion we went on, we were helping kids with their school work and we kept looking up at each other and smiling. And another time at school she held my arms to position them for volleyball, when I knew how to, and she was practically holding my hands the whole time. We also sit next to each other on the bus for each excursion.
Maybe I’m delusional and these moments aren’t as romantic as I picture them to be. Even if she was just being friendly we have a lot of those small, sort of sweet moments where her touching me isn’t necessary but she does it anyway. I also feel like I’ve been cold because I don’t know how to respond to affection, so I usually just awkwardly smile or say something awfully dry.
Please make me feel not crazy haha, thanks :) | Crushes |
I like this person but I personally don't have the confidence to ask her out. Because I feel like they aren't into me like I am to them. I always struggled with confidence issues with these topics. But I really want to grow a pair and ask her out but I have some things in my head keeping from me asking her out. 1. I don't have confidence to ask her out. 2 I feel like the feeling isn't mutual and she has likes another someone else. 3. I don't drive so I don't like the idea of someone driving me around for dates. I already told a friend of hers that I liked her but she said she would not tell her but I want say let her know that I like her. It also conflicts with my confidence issue. I am going ask her friend when I go back to work if she has ever had anything about me. Please give some good advice on what I should say or do. | Crushes |
So a little background: there's this girl in my school, let's just call her J. Now, I know J has had a crush on me for some time, but I didn't like her until recently. So now we both like each other, but the problem is that I'm not close with her, and she is an introvert, so it's hard to get close to her. We're also in a different class, making it even harder to approach her. What should I do? | Crushes |
So I met this guy at work and he's very kind and sweet. I'm in a relationship already and he has hit on me a couple of times but he has backed off from asking me out once I told him I'm not single. He still does very sweet things for me though! Like today I told him I was sick yesterday and only got an hour of sleep and he made boxes for me and cleaned up my isle 😊 he always makes my day better and he cheers me up when he waves and is all smiley towards me 😊 I'm never going to pursue anything because I love my fiance but it is a Lil harmless crush. I don't feel sexual towards him at all I just like how endearing he is to me ❤️ | Crushes |
I know it is normal to miss someone especially the person whom you have connection with but in my case, i don't if it is just only my thoughts messing with me or I just miss her. To be honest, me and my crush we're not close and we haven't spoken for I think 3 years in person cause shit happens (C\*vid). I already accepted the whole thing happened and I already told my self that, "things were not same as before, so stop expecting some twist and move on."
But everytime I saw someone who looks very similar to her, my chest tighten up as if it someone was holding it and the first person would come to my mind is none other than her. I already saw her several times this year because some of my classmates/friend was also her friends but I haven't had an oppurtunity to go say hello or something. We're (me and her) actually classmates back in Junior High School so some of her friends/my classmates were still attending to the school where we used to attend in JHS, including me.
I already move on the whole thing but as I mentioned, I think its still ongoing. Whenever I try to look someone whom I could have crush with, my mind would always say as if it was like, "oh you see, you used to have crush on this girl, what happened now sucker? | Crushes |
my friend likes a girl i like, he liked her first. we fought over chat, he told me not to talk to her, but i'm gonna talk to her anyway. it's 50/50 chance, if i talk to her and get rejected i lose her and my friend and if i success then i lose only a friend, fk him | Crushes |
would a 17 y/o boy play roblox w me 15 y/o girl | Crushes |
I kinda have a crush on this guy for like a year. So, here's the story,
I have a guy friend, and we've basically been friends since class 1, same school, same class, and then same coaching even. He used to be very talkative and cheery earlier, and we used to talk without any problems. Ever since 9th class or something (we're in 12th now), he suddenly got more quite, and would very rarely talk or initiate a conversation. The only time he would initiate a chat is after I've come back from coaching to ask if I've reached home. And that too, I feel like his mom makes him do that because our parents are college friends too. I always feel like it's all me who keeps the conversation going and he would just hum and listen. He stopped looking at me in the eye too. Also, he doesn't talk much in general. But he talks even less with me. I see him confidently talk to other people, he can hold eye contact with them, and is in general more comfortable around them. Even strangers. It hurts because I considered him my best friend, and I also kinda like him? He has no other female friends other than me, nor do I have any guy friend other than him. I feel like he is annoyed by me, should I leave him alone? I did ask why he doesn't talk to me much, and he just said, "What do you want me to say?" He's not rude and I know he genuinely listens to what I say, but when I ask about him, he just smiles and says, "No, it's fine. You talk."
He also kinda behaves like a parent to me, like telling me to finish my food, not cross the road without anyone, or not eat too much fast food. I am so confused because of his behavior, does he find me annoying, should I start distancing myself from him? | Crushes |
this is how it’s going to go, I mean this is what I’m imagining
me: “hey I need to tell you something.”
him: (honestly don’t know what he’d say)
me: “ummm I need to get this off my chest…I like you…lol let’s not make this anymore awkward and just forget I told you lol.”
me: *walk away*
him: (Idk how his going to react lol)
is this too cringe?
haven’t had a crush in 3 years, I forget how overwhelming this feeling is, I know the only way to feel chill about it is by telling him. | Crushes |
Hi! This is my story. Basically, M18 and I had been friends since grade 8. I wouldn't say we had that closeness between us but just a casual friend I could talk with sometimes. I once admired him that year but i chose not to continue any further for some reasons.
Now, we're in grade 12. Yet once again, I've began to admired him. But to my surprise, a friend of ours had a crush on him too. That made me uneasy so I decided to not talk about crushes when I'm with her. I knew giving up would solve this uneasiness but I just can't shake this feelings without doing any effort.
So I decided to give him a flower I made myself for valentines day and just casually calling out his name and stating, "Happy Valentine's Day". To be honest, its my first time giving someone a flower, never knew how relieve I felt once I've done it.
After counting the following days, I've become awkward when he's around. Ive realized that's all in me. I shouldn't be making him feel that.
Then, just this week, we've began to had a small talk when our friends around. That made me super happy, and now, I have been mustering my courage to confess before giving up. I want to have atleast push my limits when it comes to this things I've unable to fight. Goodluck to me, I guess? | Crushes |
I (15F) like this guy who doesn't know I exist. All I have is his Instagram where we follow each other. I go to an all-girl school and don't know how to put myself out there because if I don't get this guy then I hope to get someone like him. I also fear I'm not hot enough for these guys and I really don't know what to do. idk how to talk to this current guy or present myself as an option for anyone. | Crushes |
so i kn this probably wont reach a lot of people but i need some advice. So i have liked this girl for about 5 months now and we knew each other before this but we never really conversed. Shes the sweetest and most innocent girl unlike anyone ive ever met shes really creative and smart and has always been there for me at my lowest. Anyways after the pandemic she ended being in my class and thats when first started talking. she ended up giving me her snap and we started talking day and night to the point where i wished every notification was hers and thats when i realized i liked her. a month later at a social event at out church which we were both going to i decided to tell her how i feel. buuuuut like right when i was going to tell her she indirectly brotherzoned me. I was pretty sad for a couple of days and then i decided i would remain her friend cuz i loved her company.anyways just when i thought it was over she started acting a bit different around me in a kind of "i like u" way and honestly im kind of tired of holding up all these emotions inside me and i just want to her so i plan to do it soon. However Im worrying im overthinking this and that shes just being friendly not fully sure cuz ive never really had a girl friend to this extent cuz usually its a hate friendship.
Anyways i though maybe id asked the best source of advice the Internet.....
this is my first post so i kn there might be a few mistakes here and there. | Crushes |
My crush who sits next to me is a quiet type. We have barely ever talked, we talked about our enjoyment in books, I gave her candy with a ribbon in valentines, and asked her to go to prom ( I asked her too late, so she already had plans with her friend and didn’t want to leave her alone but said if anything then she’ll see), and I at least say hi to her everyday. Our high school has days that give us an 1 hour long lunch. I want to ask her if she’ll like to hangout during that lunch but I don’t want it to be weird for her or anything should I ask her or no? If so, what’s the shortest way I can tell her cuz I get really nervous. | Crushes |
Basically on Sunday midnight, I texted her if she wanted to go to the botanical gardens with me and catch up on Tuesday and she replied with:
"Hi, thank you it's very sweet. I appreciate it. But I can't, my friend is coming over this week."
I checked her instagram stories yesterday and she didn't lie about her friend coming over and visiting. I texted her the next day (Monday) if she wanted to something another day when she is free and I haven't heard back from her since, still on delivered:(
Could her reply to me asking her out be a subtle and polite way of saying no? | Crushes |
I really want to improve personality and everything to forget about crush | Crushes |
Saw a guy on instagram and thought he was cute (we go to the same uni but never met in person). I slid in the dms and we started talking. We really hit it off until he said he wanted to focus on the semester and go off socials, so he deleted his ig account. I have a feeling he doesn’t feel the same way about me and MIGHT be getting away from me as he is active on twitter (I don’t follow him anywhere else). But if he was getting away from me, he could’ve just blocked me instead of deleting his entire account. Anyways, I messaged him on Facebook the other day and he never replied (unsure if he’s off Facebook too). Exam season is almost over and he still didn’t come back on ig. I found his private gym account because it’s basically the same username as his other account. Now my question is should I text him there after exam season to express how I feel or just to chat or is that hella creepy and stalkerish. I lowkey want him to reject me because then I can move on. Rn I’m assuming he doesn’t like me but idk for sure. Too many “what ifs” in my head. | Crushes |
I feel like I can't even say anything idk how to. | Crushes |
I (20F) have liked my crush (19M) for several months now here at college. We consider each other one of our closest friends here. We text everyday, talking about extremely mundane details about each other’s daily lives (like when our exams that week are or what we ate or how we slept). We always end up spending most of our time together at events with our larger friend group of 12 people. He is very good person and cares for his friends a lot.
Last weekend, I was pretty drunk and he was semi drunk and I ended up with my head on his shoulder on a couch and hugging his one arm with both my arms (the closest contact I have ever had with him). He put his head on my head and kept stroking my hair. If I got up, he would tell me to put my head back on his shoulder and grabbed my hand to wrap it around his arm again (this happened several times) because I was on him for like an hour and a half. Another close female friend (who he has known for a year longer than me) of his was on his other shoulder for half an hour, but he was not cuddling back with her.
The point is I can tell he obviously cares a lot about me, and I would honestly think he did like me back if not for two things. 1) He never seems to want to spend alone time with me for longer than 5-10 min. If we are alone at the library, he will leave. One time we had a plan alone, and he cancelled last minute. I do know he is an anxious person, but it makes me feel really unwanted and awkward. 2) He always mentions how attractive other girls are in passing. He does not mention anything more than that, but I still get annoyed. The only thing though is one time he was with two other female friends (who he isn’t super close to) at a dining hall, and he was about to tell them about an explicit dream he had with a faceless girl, but then I walked in with a guy friend (who he is closest to in the group anyway) and he then refused to tell us the dream. He also never told me he had a Tinder date about a month ago, but he told all of our other friends he is close to.
I am just so confused and do these two things mean he doesn’t like me? Is he just scared and trying to make me jealous? What does this behavior mean? Please help!! | Crushes |
Before I go on, yes the age gap is massive and I understand that. The age of consent here is 16 but it still feels so wrong.
I met her in my marching band after a friend introduced me to her, she found out that I currently went to her high school and told me that she’s an alumni there, we talked about the teachers, classes, and the type of the funny bullshit that we had at the school. We talked more over the marching band season and eventually I started to have a little crush on her, but it felt so wrong because of the huge age gap. I turn 18 soon but there’s still the 4-5 year age gap.
Despite this I still want to get know her and bond with her, so a couple months ago I asked her if she wanted to hang out and she said that she would love too, it shocked me because I honestly expected her to say no and make up some excuse. We went to the zoo and hanged out in the zoo’s cafeteria for a good 2-3 hours, I got to learn that we both have the same interests, same life style, and same job position. She did almost like 80% of the talking as I am a person who’s socially awkward, shy, and introverted. I am still deciding if that was a date or not, we did nothing romantic as we walked around the zoo looking at stuff and talked in a cafeteria for 2-3 hours.
Fast forward to now we don’t talk a lot as we are in different sections and a lot of the time in different locations during practice making it difficult for us to talk to each other. Whenever there would be an opportunity I wouldn’t take it because I’m a shy person who doesn’t know how to start a conversation with his crush. There would be times where I would walk past her without saying anything because I was scared.
The age gap guilt has been getting to me and I slowly start to think that she has absolutely no interest in me what so ever (which is fair because liking a 17 year old when you’re 22 is messed up). I think she has caught on the fact I like her, whoops that wasn’t supposed to happen. I mean I still have a massive crush on her, I always think about her, I love how she looks, I love her voice, smile and I get really excited to see her even if I don’t talk to her.
I don’t know man, I really like her but a part of me is telling me that I shouldn’t. Idk what to do.
TDLR:
I’m 17 and I have a crush on a friend who’s 22, I really like her but I have been feeling guilty about it because of the age gap. I don’t know what to do honestly. | Crushes |
Hey there again! Not many people saw my last post, but I really feel like I need to give an update and ask for some more advice.
So, I went ahead and asked my crush to watch the Mario movie with me, and she said yes (sort of). But now I'm feeling a little lost because while I spent all weekend preparing what to say, I didn't really plan out the actual "date" part. The movie is coming next week on Thursday, and I need some help getting ready.
Here are my concerns: I told my parents that I'm going to watch the movie with some classmates because I don't want to make a big deal out of it. They're not strict, but I'm still a little worried. Also, we live in a small city, and the nearest mall is at least 15km away, which is kind of far considering that neither of us has a car. My plan is to convince my mother to leave me there (I can even give my crush a ride as if I was just helping a friend) and leave, just passing by at the end of the film.
Anyway, I really need some advice on how to prepare for this "date". I've never done anything like this before, and I'm feeling desperate. I don't want to mess things up or disappoint her in any way. I know I should just be myself, but without a plan, I'm worried that things might not go anywhere. | Crushes |
Before I confessed to my crush we were always really flirty with each other. You know he would always tease me, always come up to me to make conversation with and always try to keep the conversation going. He would always asked me if I ordered my Uber to go home (by the way we work with each other) he said he didn't want to wait. He couldn't really hold eye contact with me though. He genuinely have a smile on his face he talked to me. And his friends would joke about me to him like "go talk to your girlfriend". I was always complimenting him left and right and one time I were talking late while we were closing the store and kept fixing his hair in the door while he talked to me. One night he came up to me and started asking questions like what are red flags you in guys, what my type was, what age would I date, would I date someone older than me (by the he's older than by like a couple years), he asked me if I had confidence, he asked me if I had any insecurities, I also asked me if I liked anyone before, if I ever confessed to someone that I like them, and if I ever gotten rejected by someone. The same night he started being really open with me and expressing his feelings, like his depression and stuff. A couple days later I was leaving to go an 11 day vacation and I wanted to confess to him and told him I have something really important to tell you.
He looked at me smiled, like he knew what I was going to say and said wait til you come back and just left. The day I came back he looked at him with the biggest smile and said welcome back. I didn't end up telling him. The next two weeks after I came was same. Flirty conversations and stuff like that and we even touched hands and he smiled about it. 2 days ago I finally had got the courage to tell him how I feel because I couldn't take it anymore. When I told him that I liked him he took a deep breath, his mouth kinda moved upwards. Than he put his hand for me to shake and said "friends" I shook his hand back and then I started to leave, before I was out the door he stopped me and something like I hope we can still talk/ can we still talk. And I just left. What does this mean? | Crushes |
my birthday is coming, very close
I am curious whether he will message me, and say happy birthday or something else.
I will be back here to tell what happened on my birthday
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So he and his ex broke up like a year ago after dating for like 2 or 3 years. They were a middle school couple but broke up then got together for like 5 months and broke off again. She’s in a new relationship and he isn’t. She doesn’t like him anymore since she sometimes talk bad about him while he never talks about her. He always avoids her when she’s around. But today we were presenting and she was up with her partner and we had to pay attention or get points taken off. He watched them present but when she turned around and looked at the class he turned his head to his desk or the floor and looked back when she faced the board. We usually text but never really talk in person except for this project cuz it’s kinda hard for me to talk to him. Idk if just wants to avoid her or still feels something cuz they were together for so long. Help me out | Crushes |
I already know that she likes me and even if you don't believe me just imagine she does. She initiates conversation and gets really nervous when we talk so it's hard for me to really bring up a conversation. Any starters you can think of? | Crushes |
My friend is literally threatening to tell her today because he can’t handle not her knowing or something like that and I don’t know if he is joking he seems serious but I am so nervous I want to tell her with my words and be in person but it can’t happen now later I might have more courage but not today I will answer any questions in the comments if they are quick | Crushes |
So I met this guy online and at first we had a really casual friendly relationship. We would play games until sunrise all the time. Then this guy left for like a month and I didn’t think much of it. I tried to message him but he always replied blandly so I stopped trying. Then he came back and we got along even better than when we first met. At this point my crush got even bigger on him.
THEN he ghosts me for 3 months! I was so heartbroken, whenever I tried to message him he would leave me on sent or on read! I was getting over him until he came back and started trying to get to know me! He told me “it’s actually really nice talking to you” and when I told him I was upset abt him ghosting me he said he was so sorry and that hes bad at texting people. Now he has started to ask me random questions like what’s my favorite fruits, what’s my style, what’s my music taste, what YouTubers do I watch, etc. We shared our spotify playlists and sent each other our fit checks and he was really complimenting me on everything. NOW he even picks out video games for us to play!!!! He responds very quickly and reaches out to me most of the time, but we still don’t text a bunch. Does he likes me now?? | Crushes |
How do I ask my crush for his phone number? | Crushes |
so i’ve just found out that my crush (M) and a girl i’m kinda friends with (V) went out with each other last summer they’re supposedly broken up now but they still message each other and she invited him to a party the other week as well but i’ve been told by this girls friends that M gaslit V and manipulated her while they were together and that M tried to get V away from her friends by saying they were getting in the way of the relationship
l’ve liked this guy since before last summer and l did think last year that they might be dating but l didn’t know for certain and now l do but l think this is gonna be the end of my crush on him l can’t believe this is what he’s actually like i’ve spoken to him before and l never thought he’d be this type of person
l guess it’s a good job l never told my friends l like him | Crushes |
Hello :)
So for context I’ve been texting this boy for about 3.5 months now and I really like him. He’s sweet and nice and we vibe pretty well I would say. Recently he told me that he likes me a lot and honestly made me so happy because I really like him too.
However I find myself always being the one to initiate convos? For example I would say good morning first he would just reply back with a good morning and our convo is just stopped there. I’m dying to talk to him so I would bring up something random that happened in my life just to share it with him and keep the conversation going.
In general, I just find myself asking him all the questions to get to know him better and he would simply just reply them with no substance whatsoever. If I were to be honest I’m annoyed that he can be such a dry person sometimes because I’m seriously dying just to talk him since I do really like him :(
Im not sure if he’s just a bad conversationalist since I literally hard carry our convos every single time. | Crushes |
title! I sent a follow request to my crush around 5:40 PM yesterday. I never intended to make a move aince he really was just a happy crush. He viewed my story mid-March and I really didn’t think much about it because it could’ve just been an accident and then he viewed my stories again yesterday. He still didn’t send a follow request though so my friends were like, maybe he’s shy and waiting for you to send one so I sent one and he still hasn’t accepted. IRL, we almost barely talk but we make eye contact a lot for some reason. Well, he’s like an undergraduate subject leader (kind of like a TA) so sometimes I go to his office hours and we make small talk and this one time we actually had a really good conversation. I’m going to see him later during class and ahhh, I’m scared he’ll think I’m weird for sending a follow request. I know I’m not supposed to care but I do. | Crushes |
I unexpectedly had a crush on her after making dozens of eye contacts with her in the hallway, like damn at first she really just caught my attention with her unique hairstyle, then it developed to liking her. Recently, I got to know her name and Socials and she also followed me back. I'm not that good looking, but I guess I wanna try shooting my shot even though the chances are low.
My problem is that I'm afraid to make the first move through dm because maybe the reason she won't be interested enough is because of my looks? And today when me and my friends were chatting in the cafeteria, I saw her near us and one of my friends said that she kept glacing at us..I don't know, I'm confused, I don't want to get my hopes up but still i wanna try even though I'm inexperienced | Crushes |
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I (17f) have a crush (16m) and him and I met earlier this year during preparations for the school’s musical. We don’t really share any classes since he is grade below me, but ever since we met I got very close to him.
The main reason is because of his personality. It reminds me a lot of my childhood friend who look his like over two years ago. They both also share some of the same quirks and laugh exactly. First time I met him it freaked me out, but also comforted me.
As a result I felt very safe around him and ended up opening up a lot to him. I even told him all about the friend that I lost. Regardless, I feel like I have to tell why I feel so comfortable talking about my trauma to him since it may be strange how open I am since we met not too long ago.
Still, I don’t know if I should. I just want to explain and then tell him how I do see them as different people, but the reason I began to feel safe is due to their similarities. | Crushes |
her eyes, her smile and everything about her, for god sake she is the most beautiful and I cant even describe her beauty in words, she is the prettiest of all... Strangers, I don't even exist for her. Way out of my league but still......and I Couldn't even approach her, even missed the last chance to talk to her(even talking to her may have the same outcome anyways), and developed infatuation with her.(my fault for thinking too much) Now guilt is eating me up!! I wish some miracle would happen, or wish that things were different but sadly it doesn't. Or I could get a chance, maybe!
Well now nothing could change the things the way it is. I even know I could never tell her how I feel, also I don't want anything but I just wanted to let her know at least. My dumb heart rlly thought she was the one for some reason. Well I m pathetic. I am socially anxious with being an introvert.
She would be my last crush whatsoever, I was even loyal that I wasn't even looking towards other girl(as stupid as i am). Moving on seems impossible. | Crushes |
It's been ages since we last talked with each other. It's not like something happened, just that when my and her friends are both in school we don't do anything together.
I feel like shit because of this.
She's literally next to me sometimes, but we don't even look at each other, and I feel so weak in those moments.
The thing is that I notice I'm smiling the second she's talking to me and everyone would notice that I'm totally into her, and then it would only be a matter of days until she finds out, too. | Crushes |
Any further tips? Thanks y‘all in advance | Crushes |
We've been chatting almost everyday for a month i guess? So we "chatted" in 3 platform, instagram, whatsapp, and a game.
In the game, she is usually the one who started the chat while playing.
In Instagram, I'd say 75% is me, but she sometimes replies to my story to 'start' a conversation
In whatsapp it's 100% me. I guess it's because you have to have a topic to start the chat, and a girl won't just randomly chat a guy except she likes him.
Addition: in real life we don't really talk much because I don't want people know i like her.
So,
1. She definitely not into me right?
2. What should i do? Should i stop texting her stop to see, or should i keep being the one who started the conversation? | Crushes |
She keeps going to out house because my parents and her parents know each other since 2014 i keep seeing her she keeps talking to me even she knows what she did
I just got more and more depressed
Idk what to do it hurts so bad | Crushes |
Hi all, I recently developed neither a major nor a minor crush on this guy.
He always looks at me and smiles when we walk past each other or whenever we have clubs together - my friends all realise that.
He also found out fron a mutual friend that I want to take him to prom and he told my friend to not let me know that he knows. He told my friend he knows that I want him to take the initiative and ask me to prom. When asked if he's going to ask me, he just smiled.
My friend and I schemed to ask him to lunch on Friday.
Just now after school, I bumped into him and he asked me why my face was so red and laughed. I told him because I drank tea but clearly the tea in my hand was cold peach tea. I proceeded to ask him if he's got plans this Friday during lunch, he said someone has already asked him out to get to know him better. I look disappointed but then he clarified with me that it's nothing and that she just wants to know him better since they will be competing against each other in the school president election. | Crushes |
my crush told me who he likes, but he has no idea that i like him. he doesn't even suspect me, but we're pretty good friends too. he gave me gifts and we talk quite a lot, but only recently. should i just move on or not give up? i actually started liking him recently lol and we're in the same class. | Crushes |
So i have a crush and i really don't know whether he's quite interested in me or just being very friendly. I don't want to make a move cuz he might get weirded out and i'll lose the friendship. I honestly hate myself for assuming things. But how do you even know if he likes you or not?? | Crushes |
I was texting my crush on insta, and he sent me this questionnaire asking how much I knew about him, I got around 4/5 right and at the last question, it says "who am I for you?" And I said "my friend ofc" and he responded by answering which ones I got right or wrong, and at the last one he put "friends" in quotation marks, idk what that means but he didn't really give me a specific answer and it made me confused, does anyone have an idea of what he means? is it supposed to mean we're more than friends or we're less than friends?? | Crushes |
So few minutes ago i(24M) accidentally videocalled my crush on WhatsApp and hanged it in 3 seconds but i know she will receive a missed video call notification.
What should I do ?
Should I clearify myself RN by texting first or wait for her reaction ? | Crushes |
I don’t know where to start but as the title says they confuse me a lot and it makes me more curious if they like me back like how how we make eye contact a lot even if we aren’t talking I’m always the first one to look away because even if I want to make the eye contact I can’t handle it sometimes. When they do make eye contact with me they’re eyes are always smiling at me (they wear a mask). They kinda act more different with me and not our other friends and when me and our other friend walk they try to be next to me. They sometimes act nervous around me, when we talk they always lean near me when they are next to me. There are more actions of theirs that confuse me but this is getting to long. Sometimes I feel like I’m feeding myself with delusions because of their recent actions | Crushes |
I am in love with my best friend but don't wanna be. I don't wanna lose him he's my best friend for fuck's sake. Unlike I's stupid ass I am friend with him because of my personality not because of family. I literally love him so fucking much I hate it. How do I get rid of this crush. | Crushes |
I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this lol but I thought i'd give it a shot
I am obsessive sort of person in general and I am also, absolutely, a romantic with strong feelings
This actually poses significant problems for me because I seem to just become almost obsessed with people very easily, the worst thing is its rooted in actually knowing them
And I absolutely do not want to! I just want to be normal and have normal friendship feelings towards people. This thing is exhaustive and annoying as fuck. It will be nice to have strong feelings when i'm in a reciprocated relationship or maybe when I'm married but I am a freshman in college and I don't want to wear my heart on my sleeve. I am the opposite of nonchalant.
I develop small crushes on my guy friends very easily. And it is like the only people I would want to date are those I am also friends with and I am friends with them because they are nice and I enjoy hanging with them, but that is also what I would look for in a romantic partner. What the hell kind of paradox is that.
It's hard because I've worked hard on myself and am very self-aware so I know I am ready for a real relationship, but I am still pretty young and have no relationship experience in the first place but the only way to get experience is through experience but i'd like to not have crushes on my friends because I don't want to ruin anything, they are my friends.
Side note: it feels like I only ask out people who I don't fully like. If I ask someone out its because I don't obsessively like them, and then when i've been rejected I guess it hurts less and I get over it. I think i'd never actually ask someone out if I really really liked them.
I just want to see my guy friends as my guy friends and not think about all the crush stuff in my brain. I am so tired of it. I am prone to frequent crushes on friends and it is honestly detrimental to me. Crushes aren't fun for me, they're intoxicating and I am working to keep the small feelings I have for my friends the way they are, to not let them surface because I *don't want them to*. Genuinely I don't want those feelings and i'm not sure how to handle it.
And I still want to hangout with them, they're my friends. Distance could help, but based on how I am it doesn't. I need a mindset shift but I have no idea where i'm supposed to start. I've tried to frame my mindset and also work on knowing what I deserve but I feel stuck.
I have a tendency to obsess and I don't know how to stop that tendency from taking over my brain. And it sucks even more because I love my friends a lot in general, so I get heavily invested in platonic relationships too and it's just a natural gateway for my brain.
I think I just really crave deep connection, and so it feels only natural for a friendship to transition into that. However I don't want it to be so obsessive. And I don't even want a boyfriend right now, I haven't had luck in the past and so I want to focus on other things, but my heart seems to control my brain. | Crushes |
I got it and it so that's a win I guess but I'm hoping she adds me back. I asked her 3 hours ago and I feel like she liked me then she would've added me back but at the same time, people are busy and not everyone uses snap often so maybe I should just give it some time. | Crushes |
My boyfriend (and crush) and I are long distance, so we can't do anything together IRL. We text every day, several hours a day, and since we are into fantasy and character creation, we do roleplays with our friends online. (Nothing weird.) We've just gotten back together after a break and while we never really did much together in the first place, it's starting to make me wonder if we spend enough time together. The most we do is text and have the occasional call to chat for an hour or so. I've thought of a few things, but many of them are very simple or could be done within a few minutes.
Are there any activities you do with your crushes, and if so, do you think it would be a valid idea for him and I to spend time together? Thank you! | Crushes |
Some people say that it's complicated, or that it's too much to explain. Let me tell you though that this is legitimately WAYYY too much to explain. In a nutshell, we've become closer friends than we've ever been with anyone, he's having a lot of issues with his gf, and I've developed romantic feelings for him.
Whoops!
(See username above to see why I joined reddit) | Crushes |
Just wondering
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we were supposed to hangout tonight. it was a last minute thing and i had gotten all ready, he said he was going to go home and shower. After 2 hours of no text he says,
⬇️
i probably won’t be able to get you tonight
my mom is being weird
but we will hangout this weekend
promise
⬆️
i respond with “all good” purposely being a bit short since he inconvenienced me
he then said “sorry honey”
we aren’t dating, we aren’t even a thing and he calls me honey. idk if he just says that but idk. i’m conflicted. | Crushes |
Yeah it was wild | Crushes |
So I’ve had this crush on a guy for about 6ish months, I feel delusional for thinking that they like me so I need an opinion from people that aren’t my friends.
Recently, he have been nice to me but that’s nothing out of the norm. I do walk after school with him and his friends to which my friend tells me that he look at me a lot, even when I’m not talking to him.
This other time in homeroom he was having trouble getting the automatic tape dispenser to work. Me being me I decided to help him, so I grabbed him hands to help and we kept touching hands.(I was so red after homeroom)
I also remember this other time during our fall dance that took place before Halloween where he looked and joked around with me a lot. I was dressed as a pirate when he said something along the lines of
“Are you suppose to be a hippie?”
I gave him a look then he apologized and said
“ I’m joking, I know you’re a pirate.”
He touched my arm in a playful way, which made me a little nervous but happy.
So do you think he likes me? | Crushes |
I almost can't believe it. Which is stupid because he asked me to be his gf a month ago and I said no so it's literally me who said "finally, I think I want to be your gf". But idk. He's just so perfect and I am so me. I don't even know why he likes me, I really don't, and it scares me. But damn that gorgeous, sweet, adorable, kind, smart guy is MY boyfriend ??? I want to go to talk to random people in the street, show them picture of him and being like "you see this guy ????? He's my boyfriend can you believe it !!!!"
Also I feel like shit cause I broke up with my ex bf for my new bf. I really feel like it's a bad thing. And I feel like shit for breaking someone's heart and still be happy. I still love him in a way, it just wasn't working. I think he may kill himself. And I'm just here being happy about my situation. | Crushes |
My crush and I like each other, we both know and we want to date. However, his parents want him dating someone Christian.
I'm Catholic (which he says is technically allowed), but I rarely go to church anymore because my family just started attending again this month. He's not hardcore Christian, and i can't really tell if is parents are, but they do attend church weekly.
I, truthfully, don't feel very close with my religion anymore after discovering that I was on the LGBTQ+ spectrum. And I never really felt the same connections others described when talking about religion. I haven't attended church, or anything of the sort, in around 4 years.
I don't know whether I should start going to feel like less of a liar, or if I should just tell him that I don't go to church anymore, I just don't want him to find out I don't attend once we start dating and have him feel like I lied to him.
I am technically Catholic, i went to a Catholic preschool/ summer camp for the first 8 years of my life. I attended Bible club every Friday, and even began teaching it during the summer, it's not like I'm the antichrist or something. But i don't want that to be what makes us unable to date. | Crushes |
If I told someone I had a crush on them.. and i guess they were okay with it.. because they added me on Instagram and we still talked.. but i didn’t want my feelings to grow, so I stopped liking their pictures/stories or text. And when I post a story, they usually would see it. But one random day after being absent for 3 weeks, I post a story. And they just unfollow me. Why now? After knowing I had a crush, for almost a year and a half…?? | Crushes |
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Describe your crush in 5 words or less!!
I'll start: "Way out of my league" :) | Crushes |
It’s tech-week for theatre and we did a full run in costume and makeup today, dear God the tree costumes are awful. I was tired since it’s tech-week, I’m stressed, and I’m on my period, so I laid my head on my crush, Tyler’s, shoulder and was watching TikToks with him in his phone while we were waiting for my singing part, we were sitting together on an armchair/couch in the theatre room, and when it arrived I decided to express the fact that I was tired and worried about screwing up, and he pulled me into a hug and said, “Hey, you got this,” before I went to sing my part. Yes, our cast mates were staring at us, John in particular. But I’m so happy! | Crushes |
okay so today i was sitting at lunch with my crush, and from left to right on our side of the table it was me, then my best friend, and then her so like i couldn’t really see her face unless i turned my head.
oh and for context i’m in high school and we both girls
So the topic of liking/relationships/crushes came up but i wasn’t really joined in the conversation, just mostly observing/listening. Anyways when she was talking she was like oh i haven’t really ever liked anyone and said something ab how having a crush is embarrassing or something that BUT THEN she was like ‘oh unless im lying and i have a big fat crush on someone at this table’ and then looked at the girl in front of her as a joke to make it seem like she talking ab her (but she obviously doesn’t, knowing them).
And you’d be like ‘huh how would that mean she likes you?’ well based off everyone at the table the only person that makes sense would be me (like always play flirting and we’re the closest) and another thing is she always makes ‘jokes’ like that. for example if there’s someone she doesn’t like and she’s talking to them she’ll be like ‘imagine i secretly didn’t like you and thought u were annoying’ to that person. like pretending to joke but actually telling the truth right in front of their face.
there’s also a bunch of other reasons/background that makes me think she was talking about me but yeah idk. i just really needed to vent this tbh- like this my first ever post. also i ALWAYS get such mixed signals from her. like sometimes i’ll think she’s in love w me and other times i’ll wonder if she even likes being friends with me.
i have a bunch of other reasons she could but yeah this was an eye opener fr | Crushes |
Hello! I don’t use Reddit often, but I went to a party last weekend at his house and it seemed like he had feelings for me as well!
We’ve known each other for about a decade, but he’s recently been reaching out more on social media by replying to a lot of my tweets, so I’ve had some suspicion for a while now. He’s always been a kindhearted person, but I had a feeling that things shifted about a month ago.
For a few hours, we hung out on the floor with 3 of our mutual friends and had a few drinks to pass the time! It was so much fun talking to him to the point where I wanted to stay forever, but I had an hour long drive back and it was 2 AM after our late night Waffle House trip.
Our night involved a lot of teasing, smiling, and giggling and I can’t help but think he’s interested in me as well. He even joked about how he was going to hold my hand while going to the bathroom because I didn’t want to leave his side (LOL)! I cant stop daydreaming after everything that happened, but i’m curious to see what’s next for the both of us. Hopefully, he’ll ask to talk even more and maybe even ask me on a date! | Crushes |
I regret confessing. I thought that I’d feel better after I confessed it I honestly feel 1000 times worse than ever. We had a great friendship that has now been obliterated. He doesn’t even want to look at me anymore. He basically doesn’t want anything to do with me anymore. I ruined it all and I have no one to blame but myself. I just miss him so much | Crushes |
looks like im not subtle at all. he asked me if hes reading the signs right or if im just being nice and since i hate not being direct in this matter i said yeah!! youre reading them right! and he was relieved bc he hoped i was flirting 😭😭😭
we both really like each others company and really want to get to know each other better, im so excited!! | Crushes |
After following her instagram for like a few weeks, without her following me back, she finally followed me back on Sunday. The fact that she followed me back out of the blue has to mean something right? Anyways, today she liked my story within 7 minutes of me posting it. I’ve suspected her of liking me for a while, for various reasons such as her swiping up on my story last year, but the conversation didn’t go anywhere. Nice to see my suspicions may be true :) | Crushes |
I am a boy and she is a girl. I like her so much but I am not too certain on what signs that she actually likes me.
She isn’t super shy or doesn’t like to talk; she is an extrovert. I like to talk to people but it depends on who is there or who I talk to. We don’t talk much (hopefully that doesn’t make her think I don’t like her), and it sometimes seems like she likes me and other times it doesn’t. I need help!!
I don’t have her phone number and we share THREE classes every day!! (lucky me) | Crushes |
I was planning to ask for her number. I walked up, then turned back around, grabbed my stuff and ran-
She probably saw me.
Though later in the day I think I saw her? She saw me and started getting all shy and stuff. She went to hide behind her friend.
I’m being optimistic because I know my worth from past experiences.
I’m not sure what to do now :’) | Crushes |
no one has ever liked me. It sucks but it happens, shes somewhat of a friend idk if i have friends anymore but i would like to date her. but how do i get her to like me enought to agree to a date. they say theres always someone for anyone but i dont belive that or have no evidence of it | Crushes |
I have had this friend for 4 years. I found her pretty when I first saw her and then developed a crush on her as we became friends. I kinda lost my crush on her over the summer but then sophomore year, I felt something for her and actually confessed she rejected me and I got over it but we remained close friends. Then during my junior year for like 2 weeks, I started feeling something for her again but it went away fast because I had something starting with someone else with who I really wanted to be at the time. It didn't work out but fast forward to today. About last week I started to feel something for this friend again.
Why is it that whenever I don't have something going on with someone else she is the girl I keep feeling something for? Does anyone have someone like this in their life? | Crushes |
Me and my crush have been friends for about year now but we live far away from each other. In the year we have know each other he has never really talked about other girls around me. Well recently he changed his username to the first letter of his name and I noticed, from a screenshot he had sent me before, one of his girl-friends ALSO has her username as the first letter of her name! Does this mean he was trying to match her username!? Btw he isn’t dating anyone, he is still single. Also he posted a story with three friends and two of them were really beautiful girls. I feel like since we live so far apart he probably has a crush on one of them, but it’s sucks because he never talks about having a crush on anyone! I feel so confused! What do you guys think?? | Crushes |
I am an education student at a community college. I am pre service teaching at a middle school and the teacher "Ms. G" is really hot and cute! She is a good teacher and keeps her students under control but wow is she a smokeshow! She wears these hot boots and has a bum to die for! She always wears jeans as well. Granted she does seem like a nice person too and I think she is only a few years older than me. We also have similar interests, like I love The Lovely Bones and she does as well! I think if I was not working with her I would ask her out. Maybe when I am done with this semester I will? Of course she could have a secret BF like what usually happens with these things. There is just something about her that tantilizes me. | Crushes |
I can write this here because I KNOW FOR A FACT he won't see it! I can't tell my friend girls because they would judge me, big time!
I'm a 29-year-old female, he's like 60! I'm not normally attracted to older men, but he just gives me the smiles every time he looks at me. I take his class in the afternoon and I find myself watching the clock in my morning class, because I'm so ready to get to him!
I think I have a crush on him or I might just like the attention. I don't know. Funny, I'm blushing while writing this.
I like when he calls on me and when he taps my shoulder when he is making his jokes.
UGHHHHHH, I just wanted to vent this, don't really need advice. | Crushes |
So, recently I discovered that I have feelings for a close friend, but I don't know if they feel the same or if it's just the way they act. We've only been friends for about a year, but we've gotten pretty close, and I don't know if it's just that we're becoming friends or there's something else there...
This past weekend I went to see a movie at someone's house with them and a few other people. We were sitting next to each other about to start the movie, (our hands were next to each other's, but not really touching) and they just laced their fingers with mine, and put their head on my shoulder. This isn't super strange for them, because they give lots of hugs and stuff like that, but this was kind of out of the blue. Later on in the movie (after we had an ice cream break, because... ice cream) they put their arm around me, and kind of pulled me to them, so I had my head on their chest, and started playing with my hair.
Do they like me, or are we just close friends?? I've also heard them talk multiple times about this other person that they like... so they're giving mixed signals. I don't know what to do, so any advice would be much appreciated, because I can't really talk to anyone else about it. Thanks :) | Crushes |
i know this is kinda stupid and it happened a week ago but while i was walking to lunch, she saw me in the hallway and decided to make her presence known by walking up to me and bumping her left arm into my right arm. This made me so happy for no reason like damn why i am such a weenie we dont even talk to each other. | Crushes |
and I remember commenting on this post before, but something new happened and I didn't feel like re-commenting on the same post so I decided to make a new post instead.
Basically, my crush and I were sitting side by side, just talking (we're good friends), and I don't even know *why* I even did this, but for some reason, I decided to lean on him, and my head bonked on his knee (and it kinda hurt lol). I remember him asking me whether I was okay and proceeding to straighten his leg, thus moving his knee out of the way. And instead of lifting my head up, I decided to continue resting my head on his leg, WHICH WAS AT THAT POINT, BASICALLY LAYING DOWN ON HIS LAP AHHH\~
I asked him afterwards whether he felt uncomfortable with what I did, and for *some* reason, he said he enjoyed it... I don't think I'll EVER forget that moment... 🤭 | Crushes |
She was being very weird today annoyed and i talked with my dad about it he just called and asked if im still thinking about her and i didnt answer but of course i am | Crushes |
Me and my crush have been friends for about year now but we live far away from each other. In the year we have know each other he has never really talked about other girls around me. Well recently he changed his username to the first letter of his name and I noticed, from a screenshot he had sent me before, one of his girl-friends ALSO has her username as the first letter of her name! Does this mean he was trying to match her username!? Btw he isn’t dating anyone, he is still single. Also he posted a story with three friends and two of them were really beautiful girls. I feel like since we live so far apart he probably has a crush on one of them, but it’s sucks because he never talks about having a crush on anyone! I feel so confused! What do you guys think?? | Crushes |
I genuinely like talking to him, it’s the highlight of my mondays when I see him. I haven’t talked to him in a couple weeks now and I missed my chance today. I felt like something was off. I didn’t want to talk to him because I felt like there was some kind of tension between us but there’s nothing that I know of that would’ve caused it. Im always the one to start the conversation, but he leads it and seems interested as well. I feel like im bugging him when I talk to him but he has a positive reaction to me talking to him. I wanted him to start it, but we’re kinda both shy people, although he can talk to some other girls easily from what I’ve noticed. I want to get to know him better, I want to become good friends with him before the school year ends, but at this rate if I’m too afraid to talk to him it won’t happen. I just don’t know what to do anymore. | Crushes |
So I met this guy online and at first we had a really casual friendly relationship. We would play games until sunrise all the time. Then this guy left for like a month and I didn’t think much of it. I tried to message him but he always replied blandly so I stopped trying. Then he came back and we got along even better than when we first met. At this point my crush got even bigger on him.
THEN he ghosts me for 3 months! I was so heartbroken, whenever I tried to message him he would leave me on sent or on read! I was getting over him until he came back and started trying to get to know me! He told me “it’s actually really nice talking to you” and when I told him I was upset abt him ghosting me he said he was so sorry and that hes bad at texting people. Now he has started to ask me random questions like what’s my favorite fruits, what’s my style, what’s my music taste, what YouTubers do I watch, etc. We shared our spotify playlists and sent each other our fit checks and he was really complimenting me on everything. NOW he even picks out video games for us to play!!!! He responds very quickly and reaches out to me most of the time, but we still don’t text a bunch. Does he likes me now?? | Crushes |
Hello, i'm here again because i have no one to talk to about this situation. So like 2 months ago i asked here if i should confess to my crush cause she kept giving me mixed signals and i did confess and she told me that she has feelings for me too (just check my 2 last posts on my profile if interested) however, we never dated
all of this time we grew even closer with each other despite the fact that i have the biggest crush on her but apparently she's aromantic. I COMPLETELY understand her and there's no way that i'm forcing her to date me. But. it's just the way she makes me feel loved all the time, calls me pretty every chance she gets, DESPISES physical touch but is comfortable touching me, shows affection to me but doesn't like showing it to others, listens to me and tells me what's bothering her too and actually cares about me and my feelings. That's why i keep falling for her even more. PLUS she was my first kiss last friday like she literally just kissed me on the lips
But the worst thing about this situation is that i sometimes feel like she's just playing with my feelings. This whole week has been great because she has been treating me like she's literally in love with me (same) and kept giving me these mixed signals and then BOOM. She said she has a crush on some white boy. The same boy she was talking about like a month ago and said that she "moved on" because i'm way better than him. I know that i have no right to be hurt but bro it hurt me so bad. But even today she kept telling me that i'm way better than him so i really don't know what's going on and i think i'm just delusional lol. | Crushes |
My crush hasn't texted me back ever since
Saturday, it is now Monday. Should I be concerned & get over him or what? He is currently busy, seeing his family since he's on spring break. And he told me last week that on Wednesdav, he will be in Alabama for college tours. Should I just think of it as him not wanting to talk to me or understand that he's busy and we will eventually talk after spring break? My friends and family is starting to tell me to leave him alone, but. I don't want to. That'll hurt him, although he doesn't look at me that way. He is a very nonchalant person, but that's just him. Another issue is I’m a BIG OVERTHINKER!! The situation probably isn’t even a big deal, but since I’m such a overthinker, I think of it as one. | Crushes |
oh god i was kinda forced into this, because he knew one of our mutual friends knew who i liked, so he asked him. and the friend messaged me about it. now were messaging. goddamn. | Crushes |
For context, I'm madly in love with my best friend. Today is exactly a day before the month I found out he had a crush on me. We exchanged feelings, and eventually decided that because of the distance between us, we couldn't be together. That still stings, but not what I'm here to talk about.
The thing is, my feelings for him have grown even stronger, and aren't going away anytime soon. Probably won't be going away **ever.** He's the most important person to me. In fact, I'd drop everything just to help him if he's going through anything or even feeling sad. I feel so dumb for still having hope that maybe one day he'd change his mind and that we could be together. Eh, probably not gonna happen, but my heart is still filled to the brim with hope.
I'm just scared these feelings aren't mutual anymore. I'm head over heels for him, but It's starting to feel like he's falling out of love with me. Thoughts like "*What if he meets someone else who's better than me and lives closer to him?*", "*What if he's already talking with and crushing on someone else?*", or even just "*Is he falling out of love with me? Am I being annoying?*" fill my head. I question all of these things everyday, and it cuts deep.
And if not that, I'm scared I'm not showing enough affection towards him and that might be making him lose interest in me. I wish I could say things like "I love you," but I know for a fact he wouldn't say it back. I've tried saying "I love you" a couple times before, but he never said it back. So after that, I just shut down most of my emotions and tried my best to stop showing affection. Now it's weird, because he's showing lots of affection towards me, and I feel like my responses are dry. I feel bad, and I wanna fix this, but now I can't. For some reason, I just can't get myself to say overly affectionate things **directly** towards him (ahaha, but if some of you have seen my Reddit, most of the posts I make are just me being overly affectionate and ranting about him.) I could talk about how wonderful he is for hours and hours, but just not to his face.
And here's the worst part. Now, every time we text each other (literally every single day,) I start to overthink. I start thinking "*Oh. He hasn't texted back yet. Maybe he's met another girl and is talking to her instead.*" upon waiting for a response from him. Now I'm starting to feel possessive towards him, and I hate that about myself. Then, those moments of jealousy and possessiveness leads to me completely breaking down and having another terrible BPD episode.
Buuut, then again I have to remember that I shouldn't even have hope for this in the first place. Wow. That was a lot to let out. Aaaaah, this is so troubling.
**TL;DR** My best friend and I have confessed our feelings to each other about a month ago. Now, he's more than a crush to me, but I'm afraid I might not even be a crush to him at all. | Crushes |
All of my crushes! I mean ALL of them were in a relationship or were about to get into one when I started liking them..it has happened 4 times already and the guy that I'm crushing on now (4th), is talking to someone else but they aren't together yet and I'm just super disappointed..
I really suck a choosing people to " like " and when I get a crush, I've always had a hard time getting over them..so I'm just tired and upset..because I know this crush will last for awhile even after learning all of this. | Crushes |
I'm so confused. It seemed like she liked me back or at least was flirting with me. Multiple friends/coworkers/family said the same thing. She would snap me alot and text me but now I'm being left on delivered for hours sometimes even for the day. I don't know if its because she busy because this started around a week or two ago and she said alot of things going on with school but she still views my stories but wont reply to me. I told her I liked her and things still seemed fine but our of nowhere she just stopped texting me as much, weeks after I told her. I'm trying to stop liking her but its going to take time. I just don't know what I did wrong, what happened. Why did it seem like she was flirting with me, telling me everything just to stop talking to me?
She still snaps but like once a day now even though I told her I was done with streaks and said if she snaps me I'll assume she actually wants to talk to me. She still snaps me even though she said she doesn't do streaks. She also leave me on delivered not open which she said she only leaves people on open who she really doesn't want to talk to. | Crushes |
I'm so confused. It seemed like she liked me back or at least was flirting with me. Multiple friends/coworkers/family said the same thing. She would snap me alot and text me but now I'm being left on delivered for hours sometimes even for the day. I don't know if its because she busy because this started around a week or two ago and she said alot of things going on with school but she still views my stories but wont reply to me. I told her I liked her and things still seemed fine but our of nowhere she just stopped texting me as much, weeks after I told her. I'm trying to stop liking her but its going to take time. I just don't know what I did wrong, what happened. Why did it seem like she was flirting with me, telling me everything just to stop talking to me?
She still snaps but like once a day now even though I told her I was done with streaks and said if she snaps me I'll assume she actually wants to talk to me. She still snaps me even though she said she doesn't do streaks. She also leave me on delivered not open which she said she only leaves people on open who she really doesn't want to talk to. | Crushes |
I know he is doing just for the fun of it. I’ve done the same thing to guys before so I know what he’s doing. I’ve played this game before. But it’s fucking with my head and I don’t like it😂.
We’ve been working together for almost a year. I’m 19F and he’s 21M and we are both interns at a government department, along with another girl and another guy. He had a gf when we first met, but they broke up last year cuz she went away to study abroad, so now he is in his fucking hoe phase and I know he’s with a different girl every weekend lmao.
Anyways, it’s almost never just the two of us, but every time we’re alone he does a lil something to mess with my head. Like today he said “bye princess, see you tomorrow”. I’ve never seen him call anyone else that, and he’d never say it in front of other people, but it messes with me. Also almost every time we’re alone he comes to my desk and leans over me, gets close and initiates more conversations. Or just starts air dropping me pics of his pets lmao. This past weekend we bumped at a party, but I was with my friends and he was with his friends and we talked for a bit and I borrowed his vape and he gave me like fuck me eyes, and then I got pulled away. And I only saw him again at 4 am from far away leaving with another girl. Ugh
He is not even really my type but he’s so cocky and suck a flirt that it got to me. And I don’t get a crushes easily at all and I don’t loose my cool like this. Oh well. I know it’s never gonna go anywhere and he doesn’t like me (I don’t like him either, it’s just the attraction and being together so often that messed me up). | Crushes |
last friday I shared on this sub that I found a guy from my gym a bit cute. He was staring at me a lot, putting on more weight on the machines when I was around, the usual stuff. Still, I didn’t know if that was a sign of anything, so I asked, the comments said he seemed interested.
Well, today at the gym he spoke to me, we were both training upper body and doing a similar routine. After I finished my first rep he spoke to me (I had headphones on, as always) so I didn’t hear the first thing he said, after I removed the headphones he introduced himself and asked how long I have been going to the gym, and asked if I am enjoying it so far (I am a newbie), and proceeded to tell me he has been going for a long time, I got nervous so I told him that it was nice to meet him, and ended the conversation there.
Just wanted to let it out 😂
I was very nervous 😬 | Crushes |
When we’re in a friend group, he acts social and can carry along the conversation in response to what I say. But when I talk to him one on one, he seems quieter, doesn’t make many jokes as he would in the group, and calmer and less emotive yet not rude. He also doesn’t start eye contact with me if I approach him from behind. Could this mean he just sees me as an acquaintance or possibly wants to know me better? | Crushes |
Idk if she likes me or not cuz some things she does just feels like she is creeped out by me when i never spoke to her and i only looked at her once. She never wants to sit infront of me either but she sits behind me (she didn’t back then). One time our desks were all sorted in groups. One of her friends was in a group already but since i barely know tjem I chose to sit somewhere else even tho my crush and her friends sat at my group table before.
Anyways i decided not to sit at her group and sat at another group. There was just 2 people in it. My crush decides to sit infront of me and at the same time that seat is next to her friend kinda. I was nervous af I tried my best not to overthink and look at her. But she was acting a bit uncomfortable. She had her legs up on the chair although she did put it on the ground sometimes, she would sometimes cross her arms and i heard that means they aren’t interested, she would sometimes keep going on her phone and sometimes she would keep leaving her seat and go somewhere else in the class idk where
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So this Friday, the drum line (band/marching band) are having this performance thing and I’m excited bc not only will I get to enjoy seeing the band perform (i really like band and orchestra performances), along with seeing my best friend, who’s going to be apart of it, i will also see my crush performing in it! I never spoken to him before irl so im hoping this can be a chance to talk to him!
Can anyone give me any advice or things to say and/or do? | Crushes |
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