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so basically my crush asked me out on tuesday (21/03/23) and were dating now but my crush went home sick on wednesday afternoon till now and yesterday one of my crushes friends told me that my crush doesn’t know if he really likes me (basically he’s just confused.) and he must’ve told that to them on tuesday or wednesday because he doesn’t have a phone (yeah ik his parents are probably strict or something 😭😭😭) so… i’m kinda scared for monday morningg.. and i’m really confused and sad(?) idk.. | Crushes |
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i'm kinda scared of rejection and if he rejects me i want to deny it/say it was a dare xD | Crushes |
I need an objective opinion on my situation. a year ago, a guy came up to me and asked me out, but I refused. not because of him as a person, but during that period I was seriously ill and on strong therapies, and by chance I had the funeral of a close family member two days before. the person honestly shocked me by approaching because I didn't even notice him (happened at college). I refused and he insisted on another day if not that one, I thanked him and refused again. I said in the sense of maybe sometime another time (out of shock and nervousness because it's really hard for me to tell a stranger the reasons right away because I don't want to drag the person out and I want to be fair). to that he rudely told me that there won't be a second time and left angrily. the next period until now he looks at me, stalks me, regularly when he sees that I'm nearby, he walks around me several times and there's no need for it at all. he starts scratching his neck, throws his head back and looks a lot in my direction. sometimes when I see him now he angrily pretends not to see me passing by. he proudly raises his head and walks past me proudly. then sometimes he just stares at me sadly and starts fidgeting and acting strangely. I'm a little better now with my situation and I feel like talking to the man, but I can't get over that rude comment and the fact that if he liked me so much, I guess he would have better answer back then,approached again or already done something. I don't know what to do and think. it seems to me that he is an introvert who has walls around him. he tries to build an image of himself that is not so and thus ruins everything. he is smart,dedicated and hardworking. I really like him physically too.I spend too much time in the day thinking about him. men who are exactly the way I would like them to be, I refuse for someone like this who is stuck in my head... | Crushes |
It's a nice feeling | Crushes |
I had a huge crush on this girl at work. We talked for about 6 months and the whole time I was so afraid to make a move. Today was her last day at work. Found out two weeks ago that she’s leaving states to get out of her parents house. We talked here and there about work about anime and different beers because she worked in the beer/wine department . I get the feeling she didn’t really talk to other people even though she’s been there longe than me. She liked some of the same animes and she was so cute and that’s what got me crushing.
What do you guys do to get over your crush? :/ | Crushes |
Is this what having a life is like? | Crushes |
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I (14M) was sitting by myself and a very good friend of my crush (14F) came up to me and asked if I thought my crush was pretty, I responded yes and she walked away. Could my crush like me? | Crushes |
I like my best friend. He makes me feel so happy when I see him. I want to tell him but I don't know if it will affect our friendship if it doesn't work out. I don't know what to do. I am a bisexual cis male, he is gay and trans. Hopefully he doesn't find this post because of I tell him, I want it to be in person.
If you want to ask something, I will try to answer if I can. | Crushes |
I've been dreaming a lot about mine lately... | Crushes |
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So last month posted a story here titled
"Crush for 4yrs made me lose interest fast"
For those who don't know the story my crush posted something on twitter about me and it broke me.
Now we are partners for our JS prom and she started talking to me alot like hella alot more than how we used to talk in the past and now instead of moving on completely cause i know i don't have a chance to her.
few days back she asked me if i wanted to switch partners told her "no" and i ask her the question back and she told me no I said "nah you want to switch partners
"she said "ok do you want me to be honest"
apparently our homeroom teacher made her choose between me and two of my classmates,
I jokingly told her "she doesn't like any of us as a partner but she doesn't like the other two more than me" then she said "IM SAYING id rather choose u than any other mf" copy pasted this so this is the original message.
I don't know what to do
-sorry for bad grammar and stuff not my main language | Crushes |
So theres a girl in our badminton class and me and my friends ( trio ) are also there so like 1 of my friends in the trio liked her and asked her out and she rejected ( still feel bad for my guy ) then like yesterday another guy ( in our trio ) told her ( we all were just playing in a group truth and there there were other ppl also ) that I liked her and I had gone to drink water at that time ( I do like her :| ) but I somehow pull off the poker face and managed to convince evbody that I didnt like her but that fact that one of my frineds would say that, I havnt told anybody that I like her and idk if she likes me or not. So like I think the guy who told evbody that I like her likes her too. What are ur thoughts on what should I do? ( srry if I made it too long :( ) | Crushes |
Today he talked to me a lot more and laughed with me a lot. He also let me play on his phone. Also a lot of eye contact? I break them as soon as I notice tho.
Also we went to eat and he sat right in front of me? He never sits in front of me, he'd usually sit on the opposite end or stuff. He also keeps freaking looking at me, I notice from the corner of my eyes.
Days like this I'm like, oh he likes me? And then I remember that when our friend group makes plans, he doesn't @ me anymore. He used to give me personal @'so but now he just does a general @ to alert everyone. | Crushes |
I'm a college student (F18) and I'm having trouble figuring out my feelings towards one of my former teachers (F). We've known each other for 2.5 years (had her my JR and SR year) and we got pretty close when she tutored me for a few months and still maintain a good relationship now that I'm out of high school. However, I've been thinking lately that I might have a crush on her. I performed very well in her class and do not want my feelings to get between our relationship.
Here are some things that are making me wonder if I have a crush:
* I get this warm feeling when she touches me (like when she puts her hand on my shoulder), and I crave her physical contact more although I'm not big on it with my friends
* I often think about the nature of our relationship and feel nervous around her, but not giggly.
* I was very competitive with my guy classmates who would take over her and even the class to mansplain things and even teach the class which she was impressed with. (she was very soft spoken)
* I am upset at not being more proactive in her class last year, which was due to me wanting to self-study so I could impress her rather than going to her tutoring like 2 years ago.
* I still talk to her as a CC student about my studies every few months.
* (I'm sorry I have to admit this, this is rated R): Recently, she mentioned meeting her boyfriend in uni when I was talking to her about how I wasn't motivated. Since then, I can't help but have thoughts like 'the guy who gets to be intimate with her is so lucky.' even though I have ZERO intention to do that and think it's disgusting for me to want this.
On the other hand, there are some reasons why I might not have a crush:
* I don't find her physically attractive. She is married with kids.
* I always bounce between liking her class and hating her class a lot. Our personalities are exact opposites and I cannot always relate with her but her advice helps me.
* I've never had a crush, but I label as straight or asexual on forms because I would prefer "it" with the opposite sex, but have never had those feelings for anyone yet.
* I am able to remain professional around her and I often tell her to let me know if my communication as a former student makes her uncomfortable.
I really respect her and I'm not sure what to make of all of this. Did and do I have a crush on my former teacher? Would it be ethical to cut contact because of my feelings? Any advice or insights would be greatly appreciated.
Whatever the case, I will **NOT** act on my feelings.
Thank you! | Crushes |
Oh, my crush. It was fun while it lasted. I knew it was inappropriate, but jumped in anyways. I've been doing this type of thing since elementary school.
But hey, it was great having a crush that I only saw on Mondays because it took away the "Sunday Scaries" and actually made it fun to go to work! If you had a cure for The Mondays, wouldn't you use it? That was great.
And it was great looking at you because you're so easy to look at. Tall, dark and handsome as they say. Can you really blame me for taking an extra second to smile at you? I really liked how we both are into the same sports team. It made me wonder what things would be like in a different life and it made me want to look nicer at work and I even had a few songs that reminded me of you.
But alas, I made it awkward by making a little too much eye contact and lingering around a little too long. Now I have to dial it back. I deleted the little playlist of songs that reminded me of you and decided it's best to just leave things behind before something really stupid happens.
And to be honest, I feel better now that I've done that. Every now and then I miss the little rush of excitement I got from thinking about you, but I know deep down that things are better this way. | Crushes |
Alright, I hate Reddit and use it unfrequently but I'm kind of desperate and in need of either people who can understand me and maybe help me. That is why I'm here.
I'll try not to make this long, but if it is I'm sorry. The girl I like is someone who I used to hate violently and the feelings were mutual. She dated my former best friend and kinda changed him which upset me because he acted completely differently and we no longer worked as friends. Not getting into that, but after lots of drama we hate each other. And I hated her for what she did too. We argued whenever we encountered each other, but I had a crush on her all that time.
Another thing I don't really want to get into is how we became friends because tbh I don't even know how. I confessed that I liked her, but shes not over my former best friend now practical enemy kind of. She vents about him to me and sometimes tells me what he says, and honestly even though I've said awful things to her and know I shouldn't be the one talking, the things he said to her were awful. That he hates her, that shes effed up, and he broke up with her because of a dumb reason.
I know she doesn't like me but I feel awkward listening to her vent about her ex/my enemy to me. Like I kind of feel like a simp, but I might just be acting like a friend. I'm probably being dumb but Idk where to go from here. I told her I don't have a crush on her but I do and its as strong as ever.
I don't know if she has reddit but if she does im definitely screwed if she sees this.
Anyways, heres some info that might be somewhat relevant. I'm 13, she's 14, this happened online, and I've never had a crush before besides a girl in school a while ago so idk what to do really.
Anyways thats pretty much it. | Crushes |
I (23F) started going to the gym again, I always run into the same group of people because I always go at the same time. My group is mostly men in his late 30s and older and some girls my age as well as older ladies. I get along pretty well with the ladies. But there is this one guy I always see, he is between 25-28, he is kind of cute. Two weeks ago I noticed him looking in my direction many times. Since that day, we make eye contact (not excessively, I try not to look at him no matter how much I want to). We've only spoken once, we were alternating a machine, that’s it.
He also always looks when I finish and I am grabbing my bag, putting my jacket back on to leave and sanitizing my hands. And I notice him searching me with his eyes if I arrive before him( I think, maybe I am overthinking this a lot) but he never smiles at me (I haven’t seen him smile or speak to anyone else to be fair).
Today we were using the same machine again and when I finished my rep, he placed his towel over the machine before using it… is he grossed out by me? Lol! That was very weird, I am not a heavy sweat, so, no clue what that was about.
He's cute, I haven’t made my mind about whether I should approach him or not, what do you guys think? Am I being crazy or is there a chance there’s some interest there?
Is he disgusted by me? | Crushes |
I finally got up the courage to ask her out, but she's not interested in dating. It's not me. She's not interested in dating anyone. Which I'm fine with. It's her choice. We're still friends. But I can't stop thinking about her. Most of the time, I just fixate on her. Every time I get a notification she posted to Instagram I feel like I have to check immediately. We still talk regularly, but I need to stop obsessing. | Crushes |
I really miss my crush. Like really miss him I know he wants nothing to do with me and probably has forgotten about me but I'm so helplessly stuck on him. I still love him and I know I shouldn't. He goes to a different school now and I keep stalking the school's instagram page. I just want this to be over or for us to talk again. I don’t know what to do. | Crushes |
(A little context) I am a rather introverted person at my school and I never really went out of my way to talk to anyone we get new seats at the beginning of the trimester I'm sat to this girl (A) and i don't think much of it bug gradually over time working together we got to know each other and became friends skip to 2 weeks later field trip to a nearby park its only a 20 min walk me being me I am walking kinda alone just there and here (A) comes grabs me by the arm and its the two of us I oddly don't resist and just go with the flow, a second later its 3 of us (A's friend) and she decides to make conversation with me about various things anime games parents ect. later we arrive at the park and we chill for a break have fun with games ect. after we have an hour too get lunch she takes me to a near by grocery store shop eat ok then for the second set of activities there are options there's a hike and some other options i chose the hike and she follows me too and at this point i had a small spark but i tried to snuff it out/ ignore it we are hiking while talking and im thinking what is she doing she left her friends just to be with me?? skip to the end of the hike we arrive to the main group and head back im not sure how the convo started but we were talking about relationships and she seemed to be dropping some major hints so played along. As we arrived at the school i got her socials and (A) took me to her after school class to hang out. Skip to 3 weeks later (A) asks if i have feelings for her i say yes and she said she couldn't date rn so we were just friends and i made a huge goof i deleted our chats
PT2 when my fingers stop hurting | Crushes |
are there ways to give slight hints I like her? without being creepy or weird? 😭 I’m trying to hard here but she definitely doesn’t get it!!
I’m on my knees at this point yall like actually, it’s so hard to even look at her without going awks gosh… the gay panic is real LMAO | Crushes |
Just this past week, I wanted to get to know this girl I like, so I started sitting by her at lunch. I met her friend and started noticing something weird. Before I tell you though, know that I was in a previous relationship and I learned some things girls do when they like a guy. The friend would start twirling her hair when she wasn't talking. When she WAS talking, she would maintain direct eye contact, her voice would change pitch every so often, and she would always be interested in talking about ME. In the funny way that love works, my heart turned on its side to start liking this girl a lot. Should I feel like an asshole for completely forgetting my original interest, and liking this new one? Man, High School is weird. | Crushes |
I (16F) have a crush on this girl (16F) who I’ve been friends with for a little over half a year now. We spent a lot of time together back when we were in our school’s play together, but now that we don’t see each other that often it kinda made me realize how much I like her as more then a friend. I’ve been wanting to tell her that I like her, but I’m not sure because idk if she even likes girls, or likes me. I also really don’t want too loose her as a friend.
This is definitely not the first time I’ve found myself in this situation, but it just irritates me every time. Any tips on how/when too tell her, etc? | Crushes |
Basically, to start this off, at 9pm, we started talking about whether she had a crush on me or not and she said "I don't want to be promiscuous like my mother" since her mother ended up being all weird and shit but like I have no clue what to do now and I feel like im at a loss. I mean we are really close friends but idk if she's hiding it or just saying weird stuff. Please help someone. Im trying everything i can to make her feel special and important but idk what to do from this point. | Crushes |
Got three guys that could be worth my time, but I feel like I should mentally narrow it down and need some help deciding for my own peace of mind. Feel free to share your opinon based off the short description.
Dude 1:
\- Its noticable that he likes me
\- A little bit geeky at times
\- Defends my name idfk how to word that
\- Year older
\- Funny and easy to talk to
\- His moms a bit of a nut at times and has a reputation for it though his fathers nice.
Dude 2:
\- Brutally shy but has been warming up to me through the last few months
\- Smart and a quite shorter than me (Not like I care, but he may idk)
\- Year older, knows guy 1.
\- Nice smile and nice hair, seems to have a similar focus as me.
Dude 3:
\- two years older and breifly knows guy 2
\- comes off as cold but is actually just brutally honest and is highly respectable at times
\- Has weird parents and has a poor relationship with his sibling.
\- talks about me and always wishes me luck to my friends that he barely knows
\- long distance
\- Shook my dads hands and complimented me to him.
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Tf should I do reddit? | Crushes |
So I reconnected with an old friend and while talking the topic of my crush came up. But she said that she liked the same person. I was so shocked because I really liked him and I was hoping that somehow if I slide into his dms or something, then possibly we could become a thing? or at-least make some sort of progress. The WORST part is that according to my crushes friend; my crush likes her back. I told my other friend this and she said everything that happens happens for a reason? I think that’s kinda mean and I know I had a slim chance of making any progress with him but I thought he was so cute and I really wanted him to be mine. I finally figured out his sexuality too. What hurts the most is that there was so much hope in my heart. I told a different friend who has known him for quite a while and she said maybe she could help. I gathered the courage to talked to my new friend about him and she told me they dated for a bit last year which helped my confirm his sexuality. I really had the heart to make space for him and finally thought that maybe I could do all the cringy and couple things too. I thought maybe someone else could see me in the same way I see them. My heart is absolutely shattered and i don’t even know what to do. Imgonna cry | Crushes |
I (female) and in high school. I have a crush on this dude. He initiates conversations with everyone (including my most of my friends) but not with me. But I do not know why he never initiates conversation with me. We are friends, and I make sure that I never show closed body language, in fact I try to seem approachable. Also, he most-likely has no idea about my crush on him, as I have never told him or told anyone or ever showed it. All in all, I am as normal as all the other girls. Do you know why this could be?
I feel like it's either he really hates me or he may like me back (based on what my previous reddit research related to this situation has shown, the chances are very slim though). Or am I simply overanalyzing all of it?
Any/all opinions are welcome and appreciated. Thank you | Crushes |
Alright, I’m giving up on my crush. I’m exhausted today and maybe that’s making me see everything in a negative light but, today just felt so cold. I can’t be normal around my crush and I think it’s making him start to dislike me a lot. I don’t know but, I think I give up. I don’t want hi to be miserable having to deal with me. I’m so in my head right now. There ARE people who actually like me and are romantically pursuing me, I just wish I could like them the way I like him… or (obviously) have him like me. Ugh!!! Done. Done. Done with liking people. I don’t even like myself after today. Such an embarrassment 😔 | Crushes |
I remember when I used to look on this sub for answers to the question "how do I get over them"
I cant guarantee this will help you nor can I guarantee the process will be quick, but it helped for me so I thought it would be nice to put this out there in case it helps anyone
Also um a lot of these kinda only work if ur not super close friends with them. I mean if ur friends with them then maybe try em but itll probably be more difficult
1. Stop yourself
Do you find yourself looking for them all the time? Or thinking about them? Stop yourself from doing it. If you ever catch yourself doing that, just stop yourself and try to think of something else. I know its hard at first but if you keep doin it, it really does get your mind off of them. Or at least for me it did...
2. Find someone else to think about
Ik it sounds crazy and stupid but it worked for me so I'll put it on this list
I'm not saying go and find a whole new crush, but like, maybe if you think one of ur classmates is cute or something, think about them instead. Ur less likely to think of ur current crush if ur... options are open, I guess.... 💀💀💀
I used to think it was dumb as hell too but then I actually did it and it worked so 💀 maybe go ahead and try it if ur that desperate
3. Dont bring them up in convos
This ones for people who love talking to their friends about their crushes (me😭)
I used to talk to my friend about my crush ALL THE DAMN TIME. For a while it would be the only thing we'd ever talk about. Idk how but we never got tired of it... it was just funny ig 💀 This one was really hard for me to do. But this method combined with method #2 in this list was something that helped me SOOO much. You just need to slowly get out of the habit of bringing them up. It's a really slow process but it helps a lot, or at least for me it did
4. Resist the urge to be around them
Ik this one probably seems stupid if ur like classmates with them or something. But if you dont HAVE to be close to them, dont. I used to have a hallway crush and I would always be trying to find ways to be around them since I didnt have classes with them, and if I ever saw an opportunity, I would take it.
Dont do that
I used to tell myself "out of sight, out of mind" all the time. And it's kinda true, for me at least. Whenever I was near them, they were all I thought about. The only thing I would ever think around them was, well, them. Things like "omg they're right there how do I get them to notice me"
If you dont have to be around them, then dont
5. Focus on class if ur in school
I know this one probably seems obvious. But when I actually stopped daydreaming about them in class and focused on what I was learning, it really helped me, especially since my classes are long and I get a lot of time to just think about whatever I want or do whatever I want.
Choose to like do homework or something instead of daydreaming. Ik it's fun and nice but yknow what else is nice? Good grades and no homework 😎😎😎
6. Treat them like any other person, because they are
Dont even lie to me bro ik u fantasize about them and think they're super cool and amazing and u put them on a pedestal
When u pass by them in the halls or whatever, do u think "oh wow there they are... they're so cool" or something like that?
Well stop it bitch >:( (respectfully)
Ever had a crush before and thought "damn bruh why did I like them"?
Well ur probably gonna think that in the future enough this crush too. Might as well start early if ur trying to get over them right
Ask urself, "what's so special about them?" Be realistic. They're not the ideal human being u may be daydreaming about. The person you like so much is probably just a figment of ur imagination with their face on it
7. Focus on yourself and maybe other people too
Do you love yourself?
If the answer is no, stop right there mf
How u gonna love other people if u cant love urself huh
That's a rhetorical question dont answer that
Instead of focusing on ur crush, focus on
🤩yourself🤩
Cuz ur COOL AS FUCK
Yknow liking my old crush used to make me hella insecure. Like I would always think stuff like "they're so much more talented than me" or "they have so many more friends than I do" but like... theres nothing wrong with that
There is nothing wrong with YOU
Just cuz they might not like u doesnt mean other people dont like u too
You are your worst enemy... probably
Nobody looks at u like u do. Like if ur insecure about ur face, ain't nobody gon look at u and be like "damn they're ugly" nobody does that only assholes do
I like to believe that nobody is truly ugly and that society just sucks ass
Ok kinda went on a tangent on that last one
But uh that's all I have, or at least all I can think of rn
If u have any of ur own advice that isnt on this list, feel free to contribute and help others and put it in the comments
For those who try any of these methods and are trying to get over their crush, I wish u luck | Crushes |
I never know when is the right time to talk to my crush but I decided I'll just go for it tomorrow and I need some encouragement! I'm so nervous but I know this won't go anywhere if I never talk to him.
We've talked before but our conversations have always been pretty short. I either get so nervous that I don't know what else to say or he ends up being busy. I also never approach him first, he's always the one initiating conversations, so I want to try going up to him this time. I'm terrified though! I'm hoping everything goes well enough for me to have a longer chat with him and maybe flirt a little.
He has shown signs of possibly liking me but im not sure how accurate that is. If he doesn't reciprocate then at least I'll have my answer. Please give me some encouragement and/or tips on how to not be so nervous! | Crushes |
I’ve had a crush on one of my best friends for about a year now. I’ve already been through the usual cycle of asking her out and getting rejected but for some reason this crush just won’t go away no matter what I do. It isn’t a active “ok let me go after this person” kind of crush but it’s just there. I know I like her it just isn’t a very powerful crush. Seeing her happy makes me happy, every time I look at her I just see how beautiful she is and I’m reminded about how I like her, she pops up in my thoughts randomly, and seeing her is the best part of my day. I don’t even care so much for how she looks anymore I just love who she is. I know it isn’t just really liking her as a friend it’s definitely a crush. She likes somebody else right now and the other person seems to like her back. As much as I would love to be jealous I can’t help but be happy for her since this is the happiest I’ve seen her in a long time, even if it does hurt a little to know that she’s being happy with someone who she’s known for a few months instead of me who she’s known for two years. | Crushes |
I’ve had a crush on one of my best friends for about a year now. I’ve already been through the usual cycle of asking her out and getting rejected but for some reason this crush just won’t go away no matter what I do. It isn’t a active “ok let me go after this person” kind of crush but it’s just there. I know I like her it just isn’t a very powerful crush. Seeing her happy makes me happy, every time I look at her I just see how beautiful she is and I’m reminded about how I like her, she pops up in my thoughts randomly, and seeing her is the best part of my day. I don’t even care so much for how she looks anymore I just love who she is. I know it isn’t just really liking her as a friend it’s definitely a crush. She likes somebody else right now and the other person seems to like her back. As much as I would love to be jealous I can’t help but be happy for her since this is the happiest I’ve seen her in a long time, even if it does hurt a little to know that she’s being happy with someone who she’s known for a few months instead of me who she’s known for two years. | Crushes |
I have got a crush on a girl who had a boyfriend, they broke up yesterday after being together for about a year, according to some people we both know, the relation became unstable 2 months ago or so, problems added up and she finally decided to end it.
Now me and her know each other from some time ago, but now she's in my classroom, we have been talking for some weeks, she's beautiful and a really good person to pass the time with and well i got a crush on her. She told me several times about the bad situation with her now ex-boyfriend, and i just kept telling her "time fixes everything". Now OBVIOULSY i can't start going deeper with her to tell her my feelings right now even tho she has made me some little flirting the past few days and willing to come talk with me. I AM NOT MAKING ANY ILLUSIONS she's absollutely into me, but when the pain from her last breakup ends i'll go for the chance. According to you guys, when will be a good moment to take action without being seen as an needy dude or her being seen as a love seeker? | Crushes |
hi i just wondered whether anyone could give any advice at all???
so i talked to this boy from july -september last year, and it didn’t end so well as i ended up not wanting a relationship - so he blocked me on everything. i haven’t spoken or heard from him since september.
just today i went to a concert and HE WAS THERE. the whole time i was meaning to speak to him, idk just to have some closure? but i was too scared to approach him. in the end it was me who rejected him so why should i speak to him?
but after the concert i ended up crying so much, SO much (i was drunk by the way lol) but i’m so mad at myself for not speaking to him. idk why but i just really wanted to, and now my brain is beating myself up bc i don’t know if i will ever see him again. idk i’m so regretful, does anyone have any advice? why am i still thinking about him? | Crushes |
He works there. I visit often. Very chill environment which often leaves some time for chitchat. But, I have always drawn a strong boundary between work and fun. I don't want to distract him from work...but that's the only time I see him. How should I approach him? | Crushes |
Like I said in the title I used to really like my best friend. She is nice, pretty, and funny and we just click. She smells like flowers and laughs in a nice way. Maybe this is why I hate every guy she dated. People always ask if we are dating. Honestly, I don't see myself with anyone, but I think we could work, but only with her. The fact we talk so much also doesn't help. We talk every day. We are flirty and fun, something in the way I do with no one else. Even if I do it's not the same. She doesn't know of course. | Crushes |
My crush and I are sort of "dating." I love hugging him whenever we pass in the halls. And I feel so loved when he rests his head on my shoulder, or my head on his. It's so refreshing to have someone who is physically affectionate. :') | Crushes |
I'm so excited, my crush and I have a date scheduled for tomorrow. We're planning to eat crepes and visit a plant nursery, and we may get a plant that we can raise together. | Crushes |
i don’t really know what to do right now. i have a friend, who i really really like. he’s hilarous, handsome, and so many other things i could say. he can be an asshole occasionally, so it has earned him a little bit of a reputation among my peers for being an obnoxious idiot. all of my friends think this as well. i don’t know why i’m so attracted to him. i’ve never felt something like this before. it feels like every time i think about him my heart lights up like a flame, and it spreads a heat to my whole body. it’s almost concerning sometimes. he’s tall, muscular, very overall “manly” looking”. and literally just my type. i feel like if i keep this inside i will explode, but if i tell anyone i will be outcast. and worse, him reveal he doesn’t like me. we have these little flirty moments sometimes, to the point where people comment on it, but he just isn’t the relationship type. i mostly just needed to tell someone about this, keeping it inside is killing me. | Crushes |
I’ve been responding to quite a few questions and I thought that it was time to share a few things about my crush, if you could call it that… There’s a person who’s been at my bus stop for a while but up until a few months ago I’ve barely even noticed them. Now I’m a pretty shy person so I’ve not been able to bring myself to talk to them. Okay, technically I did one time, like two months ago when the bus number was different and I had to tell them that, but that’s it! Honestly I’ve been trying to think of them less because it just pains me that I don’t have the courage to talk to a human who I just so happen to be attracted to. Now they’re talking to someone else who I know a little bit, and whenever I hear them I just try to drown them out because it physically hurts me. Even if I was to talk to them, I don’t feel like I’m interesting and kinda annoying. So yeah, interestingish situation, thanks for coming to my TedTalk. | Crushes |
I have a crush on this girl. We are the same age in middle school. She seems like that she likes me but it also seems likes she likes me as a friend. I have an intuition that she likes me but I’m not sure.
She stares at me sometimes as well. She seems like she is staring at me blankly. I saw her blush while she was staring at me once. I know for certain she doesn’t hate me and we don’t know a bunch about each other. We don’t have each other’s phone numbers. I am not usually shy but I only am around her. It barely seems like I can talk to her. She is probably an extrovert and I am in the mix of the two. I have sort of hid my feelings because we don’t really know each other yet. Whenever she looks at me, I usually look away out of shyness. She looks for a couple of seconds too. Most of the time, it is her who starts talking to me but we only do small talk, no huge conversations.
That is some context, can anyone tell me their thoughts on this? | Crushes |
Ahhhh oh boy so here we go. I’ve known this girl for about 6 months but we only got close kind of recently. We spent hours talking to each other and now whenever I see her we both make a point to just talk about anything. We’ve been texting recently and we just talk for hours, I’m so into her. I accidentally asked her out on a date and she said yes, so now we need to pick a day and I’m so nervous yet so excited. I really want her to feel the same way about me as I feel about her, and she gives me all the signs she does, but ahhh I’m so nervous! I want to talk to her more and I want to take pictures with her and find excuses to spend more time with her but she’s such a hard worker that she’s always busy so I stick to texting for now. She tells me such nice things and always throws :) on her messages, I’ve been doing it back too, I hope she gets the message. I don’t want to be super upfront and rush things, I want to take things slow so we can last, but I really want to take her on a date soon. Prom is coming up and I really want to ask her to go, but I’d hate to overstep any boundaries. Just had to get this out! My heart’s been pounding when I think of her and I get butterflies, I think she’s really something special, she makes me so excited but so nervous | Crushes |
It's been 3 years and a lot of ups and downs, and it seems like we've both liked each other at the wrong time. She seems fully devoted to school and I respect that that's why I liked her in the first place she's smart focused and determined. I'm still going to remain her friend just with boundaries so I don't fall back in love.
Also
Igor by Tyler the creator is the best album to get over a break uo if you ignore the loop. | Crushes |
Yeah I dont know why I did this
Ive been crushing on this chick ever since the start of high school when we first stumbled upon another in the bus
She goes to a different high school than I do
Im in senior year now
Im like 99.9% sure she doesnt like me but my brain likes to tell me sweet little lies
She was in the same class as me through the entirety of middle school but i never really noticed her, talked to her a few times but that was it
Then as high school started a few weeks in she was suddenly standing infront of me on the drive home in the bus
We talked a little and it was fun i guess, one of the first things she did was ask when I usually go out to take the bus to school
I said 6:40
The next day she suddenly was there, never seen her there before, Its like she switched up her mourning routine just to come out at the same time
And the next day too
And the next week too
Every day
Sometimes she almost missed the bus and was running to get in the same one as me
This went on for months
We talked every day on the drive to school, mostly about trivial school shit, never anything else, very basic shallow conversations
I made her laugh a few times, we joked around once or twice
On the drive home, i also sometimes ended up in the same bus as her
usually she would come sit or stand right next to me once she saw me
Every time, basic shallow conversations, or both of us with our mouths completely shut, not looking at eachother, like we both are socially awkward as fuck and dont know what to say or how to act
On one occasion i remember once, It was on the drive home
I always get out at the same station as her because she only lives like two blocks away from me
We get out, instead of the usual bye she starts following me, she follows me across the street, I realise, a few meters later, closer to my place already, she finally laughs and says bye and turns around, almost like she wanted to come over to my place at first
Fast forward a few months into this
I think if i remember this correctly
I once gave her a tiny hint I liked her
something along the lines of "You know, my sister once saw me in here with you, she was suspicious, had to explain to her so that she doesnt get the wrong picture, yknow..."
She is quiet after this
A minute later she says "Im so fucking done" in a frustrated tone
I ask "what is it?"
she says "everything, im done with everything"
now that i look at it, my sentence sounds more like i friendzoned her than giving her a signal i like her
Was she upset because she thought i wasnt interested? Was she upset because she just was being nice the whole time and just wanted a casual friend and not to get lusted over by every man she tries to befriend?
I dont know but after this happend, the amount of times we would meet slowly decreased to very rare occasions
Or maybe it was after I was texting her that I was waiting for her to get to the same station on the drive home so we could be in the same bus idk
the memory is hazy, but i know she was saying "no dont wait just go" and very repulsed by me, shit man i was probably so creepy
I dont know but basically eventually we start meeting less and less
she starts saying more and more that she just "missed the bus"
eventually i stop seeing her at all
then after like two months, i didnt have the balls to text her why, i finally see her again once on the drive back home on accident
I ask why
She says she found a better time schedule / bus route that gets her to her school easier
I dont know if all of this is true or if these were just excuses to get away from me
Its probably true idk
so then we just meet about once every two weeks on the drive home on accident every time
we always kinda just glanced at eachother sometimes, usually kept some more distance
repeat until today, about idk 6 months later
last time i saw her was two weeks ago
that time i actually managed to have a seat down next to her and have a conversation
nothing but trivial school bullshit convo again
it went normal, decent
So yeah fast forward to today
I feel so conflicted
Did i fumble the bag? Did she love me and my desperation and weirdness ruined it? Was she just a woman being nice and looking for friends from the very start?
I still have her discord, I got it from her like 6 months ago while we were on the bus drive home, she was actually pretty eager to give it but never really seemed interested in actually texting me
The last message was sometime back in 2021 Lmao
I just confessed to her on discord, its midnight
Honestly im 99% sure she doesnt like me, i mean why should she
im ugly, short, fat, nerdy, probably autistic, was basically the stereotypical "quiet kid" all my life in school
So yeah i dont know why im doing this to myself
Actually i do know exactly why, its a form of self harm i guess
I know the answer, she will say No, but im still asking just to emotionally hurt myself
whatever i highly doubt anyone cares or will ever read this
P.S: if you are curious about the title, check my post history, yeah im not the most mentally stable fellow out there
the only reason why i finally managed to muster the courage to confess to her, almost two years after the crushing started, is because my desire to live is rapidly dwindling and im looking forward to kicking the bucket early anyways so
Basically apathy
It doesnt matter anymore what happens so might aswell | Crushes |
It's important to note that I am a trans guy and he is a straight cis guy. I think that's were this dilemma is coming from.
So two days ago I confessed to my crush and he hasn't answered me yet. Not in the way that he didn't respond or he's ignoring me, but in the way of he's "contemplating" it. We had a really long conversation before hand where we talked a lot and it turned into a game of 21 questions that turned into him teasing me to get a confession out of me.
After I confesses he didn't really answer, which is fine, I'm not trying to force him to make up his mind right off the bat. But the next day the conversation we had was normal and we didn't mention last night. And today we talked the same way we used to.
Yesterday we had a decent conversation but not nearly what I wanted. I asked my friend what to do and she said to talk to him about something that happened at school or his interests. I don't wanna make it seem like I'm desperate. I tried texting him to try and set up some type of back and forth conversation but nothing was sticking. I was trying to get him to start talking about his day, I didn't want to have another serious conversation just something casual. But it all felt one sided.
I don't want to make him uncomfortable talking to him too much or force an answer out of him. I just want to know some tips to start a conversation or maybe just bring up if he's still thinking about my confession. I would just ask him straight up if it's a yes or no answer because I'm so nervous over this its affecting my appetite. But I'm scared that if I ask him too early he'll just say no, or vice versa, I ask him too late and he says no.
TLDR:
I'm a trans guy who confesssed to my straight crush two days ago and he said he'd think about it but I don't know how to start a conversation with him about it. | Crushes |
I’ve had the crush on this girl who is leaving the school. We have totally different politcal opinions and she has what I would consider a lot of “red flags”. But for some stupid reason my brain decided that she is my crush now. Her last event was school dance today and I failed to ask her out which got me feeling left very regretful and mad. I’ll probably just ask her out on instgram just to get rid of regret but I still feel mad that I didn’t aske her out in person. | Crushes |
So my crush and slept on the same couch for a week together because she claims the beds were bad and I don't know if that's true or she just wanted to sleep on the couch with me
( Don't know if this is important but she put my feet between her thighs because I had cold feet) | Crushes |
English is not my first language so please bear with me. (warning, long rant ahead)
Ok so I genuinely have no idea how to feel right now. I do think that he actually like me but maybe I am overthinking this. My friends and classmates had been teasing us relentlessly saying that we look good together. We obviously deny any rumours that came up but his friends keeps telling me that he once said that he likes me (for context, we rarely talk to each other at school to avoid rumours). The thing is, there is a lot of things that he said/did that makes me believe that he likes me but please let me know what you think.
One, he has a nickname for me. I think the nickname is very cute and he is the only one that calls me that. Not even my closest friends calls me that.
Two, we text a lot. Like a lot a lot. Five-to-six-times-a-day-everyday a lot. Usually he initiates the conversation but I did too sometimes. I genuinely enjoys talking to him so I wasn't annoyed or anything.
Three, he likes to say things that gives me butterflies(I think? I don't know). This one time we were texting and he suddenly asked me whether I have a crush on anyone. I told him I don't have any currently and we proceed to talk about crushes and stuff like that. He then tells that he too did not have a crush on anyone so maybe he should just like me. I mean– kindly, please don't make jokes like that but I still do feel something in my stomach nonetheless. Another time we were texting and I said for 2023 I wanna change my personality and not laugh as much and he replied with "Why? It's cute when you laugh a lot," I'M SORRY WHAT????? And this another time when we were yet again texting, we were talking about our heights and stuff and I mention how short I felt after knowing his height. He then responds with "That's fine, I like short girls. I think they're cute,".
There's other instances but the post is getting way too long. Am I overthinking? Is he just being nice? Does he actually like me?
tl;dr - This guy did and said a lot of things that makes me think that he likes me. Does he like me or is he just being nice? | Crushes |
I don't know how to approach my crush, I'm scared that she says no and that I'll have to live with it for 2 years until we graduate, she makes me feel a way no girl has ever made me feel. | Crushes |
So at school the other day I finally talked to my crush. This how it went. I got up and walked over to her since she was sitting alone and I asked for her ig and she gave it to me. I then asked her name and told her why I came over to her and I apologized for staring and she was like you’re fine. After that I lied and said I just want to be friends (even though i wanted to asked her out). Anyways she said “yeah you can text me”,. So I said ok. Later after school I texted her saying hi and that’s it’s me who talked to her and she has yet to respond and she didn’t even follow me back. I’m confused on what to do and need advice cause I won’t be able to talk to her in person for like a week cause we on break.
Btw she didn’t ask me what my name was and didn’t follow me back on Insta yet. Is this a red flag? | Crushes |
So i have this crush of 4 years and im now finally getting to bond with him. My friend i just met this school year also used to have a crush on him but he didn't like her. She told me that i should just give it up because he confessed at the end of the year but didn't want anything romantical with her. My other friend also had a crush on him and is telling me i probably should get over him. I was talking with my other other friend (sorry if theres sm friends) she told me i should just follow my heart. I have feelings for him and i shouldn't let anyone else decide for me. I'm just confused on what i should do, i love and always listen to my friends but i want to see if anything will happen between me and this guy. any tips? | Crushes |
Would you think anything of a coworker calling only you by a nickname (shortened version of your name), no one else on your team or that you’ve seen them interact with and you’ve also never told them that’s your nickname? I’m kinda interested in this guy, but super nervous to approach him and let him know. Am I over thinking it? | Crushes |
my friends tell me that this guy i like knows who i am and whatever, and that he knows my name, but he definitely doesn't, one or two of them told me to add him on snapchat because he knows who i am and we've spoken before (we had one very short conversation in a lesson once) and that he will accept me (on snap), my request has been pending for two weeks, and i don't know if i should just remove it, since it feels kinda stupid since i've added him and he has no clue who i am, and just because we have two classes together DOES NOT MEAN HE KNOWS ME??? how do i get him to know who i am? | Crushes |
Okay so I came across a guy on a dating (ish) app, and I messaged him. He responded after about two days. The convo just started off a little jokey.
Getting to the point, his bio said to ask for skating clips so I did both out of curiosity and to get him to talk to me for longer (it was pretty late at night and we’re in the same time zone so I asked him to send it later on).
He said he would but it’s been a day and he’s said nothing 😭 I said something else after that in case he forgot but it was left on delivered.
I really want to talk to him cause he seems cool but I don’t wanna seem desperate.
Does it matter? Should I say something or leave it? | Crushes |
i love it so much. the way it makes me feel is something i absolutely love. going on a trip to visit my mom during spring break though and won't be able to see it for a week. but omg i'm so obsessed with it!! | Crushes |
She slapped me on the butt one time is always looking at me when I’m not looking and I caught her staring a couple times but I texted her and she ain’t even know who I am tf wrong with this bitch | Crushes |
There’s this boy I’ve known for nearly six years now, and I’ve had a crush on him for four of those years. We were much closer when we were younger, talking every day and spending tons of time together because we were on the same school bus. One day though, he just stopped talking to me. I hadn’t done anything except steal his hat (which I gave back) and everything just stopped. We were still forced to talk in some respects but whenever I did, it was just tense. Today he sits behind me in two of my classes, and sometimes when I turn around I see him staring at me before he looks away, but he just doesn’t seem to want anything to do with me otherwise. Whenever I do manage to pick up a conversation nowadays, it’s just like old times, but he doesn’t seem interested in initiating these conversations for himself. I just really need to know if it’s time to move on or if I should try just a little bit harder to chat with him.
TLDR: used to be close with my crush, but he stopped talking to me. What should I do? | Crushes |
A meet-cute is apparently a meeting with someone that could come straight out of a rom-com. Its as if the universe aligned for you to meet this person.
I have had a couple meet-cute stories but I fumbled them badly and they resulted in nothing.
Share me some of your stories! | Crushes |
I am missing my crush a lot because it is the weekend. I wont see her until Monday. What do I do to distract myself from her?? :( | Crushes |
So like two months ago she rejected me, but I never stopped loving her. Now she sees that I really care about her and from what I asume she likes me too. It might seem simple but is not. Lately we acted like a couple, she makes sexual jokes about us. She also told me that she'd like to make the next step and stuff like this. I spoke to her today and asked her what are we exactly, she can't decide. So we'll have a date tomorrow and we'll see. She can't trust me yet, she can't trust anyone actually because of all her past traumas. She keeps telling me that I can find someone that doesn't have so many problems and it's mentally stable. I don't care about anyone else. I only want, she's the only person I want in this world. I want her and all her trauma. I told her that I would rip my heart off my chest if it's needed for her to be happy. How can I gain her trust? I'd literally do anything. I don't care how much pain it takes, I'll do it. I don't know how I'm going to survive without her. Please tell me. How do I show her that I will go as far as it's needed even if it means to walk through hell for her? My purpose right now is to see her happy. | Crushes |
He confessed around 3 weeks ago and said he actually liked me (he used to joke around being obsessed with me and wanting me but that time he was being fr) and last week we were joking around and I put something on my mother (joke around us where if we put it on our mother we really mean it)
He was like “I thought you don’t put things on your mother” and I was like ”thats the only time I will” and he was like “on your mother you don’t like me” (since I kept rejecting him before as a joke even though I told him I liked him) and I put it on my mother so now I think he thinks I don’t like him anymore and he doesn’t like me anymore since he also put it on his mother and kept insisting it😭😭
i ”reject” him irl too since I don‘t wanna seem desperate but I only put it on my mother that time since I really did lose a bit of feelings because I got jealous he kept obsessing over this other girl as a joke 💀
What do I do??! How do I indirectly tell him I still like him without being desperate?? I miss the attention he always gave me when he “obsessed” over me so much I’ve been liking him for 4 months now😭 | Crushes |
i got told she likes and cares for me a lot but “she’s in a ‘for myself’ period rn to figure herself out.
everyone knows this is just a nicer way to let someone down | Crushes |
I told him I didn’t like him and put it on my mother (this is like a joke around our friend group and if you put it on your mother you really mean it) that I didn’t like him because in those 3 days I lost a bit of feelings because I was getting jealous that he was joking around and obsessing over this girl when I knew he liked me, and now I don’t know what to do since I’m pretty sure he doesn’t like me anymore and I started to obsess over him again 😭
I always “rejected” him but in a joking way since he was the one “chasing” after me and I thought that as a joke until he actually confessed but I kept acting the same way because it was a thing in our friend group but after I rejected him I’m feeling so much regret
UGHH I’m just waiting until school is over so I can confess all my feelings and that I liked him from the start | Crushes |
Hi guys, I 21M has a crush on a 19F, I had this crush on her since the first day of college I see her every day in college and I always look at her, and so did she at least that's what I thought.
Last nihht6 i found her Instagram so obviously I texted her, but she didn't accept me, and now I am wondering if I misunderstood her, if I misunderstood the signs and she is not interested in me, please guys do you she is playing games with me or it's true she is not interested in me | Crushes |
I’m sorry for the long post
So I’ve had a crush on this guy for months now, and he’s super shy and quiet. I kind of hated him before because of an argument he had with my bff the last school year, but then I decided that it was last year, so I should let bygones be bygones, yk?
So anyways I found out that the reason why they had an argument was because he insulted my friend by saying that me and her were a gay couple(we absolutely aren’t) because she didn’t reciprocate his feelings…. Also found out that he’s probably racist and homophobic because of some OTHER things he said😬😬
Istg I’m so fucking stupid he keeps trying to get my attention and keeps staring at me in class CONSTANTLY. I found that he unfollowed me on insta a while ago, and that’s probably because he found out that we were still friends. He’s such a pos
But for some reason, I still kind of have feelings for him, and I sort of enjoy him looking at me now.. but ik it’s wrong and that he’s a super shitty person. I just don’t know what to do | Crushes |
I wish I could be with you.
I wish you felt the same way I do.
I wish I was yours.
I wish you’d adore me as much as I adore you.
But I could never be with you.
You don’t have feelings for me.
I’ll never be yours.
You’ll never look at me anymore than an object.
So,
I wish I could forget you.
I wish I never met you.
I wish we never started talking.
I wish we never had sex.
I wish I never confided in you.
I wish I never considered you a close friend.
Cause you never considered me one.
Sincerely,
Your old “friend”
“Friends” can break your heart too 💔 | Crushes |
I can't because he is way older than me, married and has childeren. Not that i want an relationship but the crush on him was way heavier than my feelings for my exes (obviously when i had an relationship with them at the time).
Why can't you be with your crush? | Crushes |
(Sorry for writing a lot TT)
My friend told me that someone had a crush on me, and that they would to talk to her about what they liked about me etc.
As someone with a really low self esteem and not very social, I was so shocked because I didn’t think that was possible.
Yet she wouldn’ttell me who, the most she would give me were clues. A guy, always wears black (literally every guy), and we used to message.
I could easily narrow this down to who this was (lets call him Guy) since I literally hardly talk to any guys at my school and only ever hang out with my two girl friends.
Whats even crazier is that as I was asking my friend for clues, I kept thinking, ‘wouldn’t it be crazy if it was Guy she was talking about lololol’ so when i realised it was him I freaked out beacuase???? I’ve been liking him for ages????
The problem is that my friend told me that he eventually came to the conclusion that I dont like him.
Which is crazy beacuase I HAVE for like a year and still do, but I’m very awkward irl unlike texting, and when im with new people I just stay very quiet.
On top of that, since i have a crush on Guy, I get even more nervous and just try to avoid eye contact (because of anxiety + I thought there was no chance he would like me )
Anyways, I dont know what to do now, he might not even like me anymore/gotten over me but now i cant stop thinking about him which is so stupid
In all my 18 years of living this is the first time that i hear about someone liking me. I have never been in a relationship so im completely clueless on all of this.
I want him to know that I also like him but idk how to go about it, he might not even like me anymore etc ughhhhhhhhhh i hate this😭😭 | Crushes |
I've been around her more often and I'm starting to like her more and more everyday. I can't get her out of my head. I wanna ask her out so bad but I'm nervous. | Crushes |
I told them, I just felt it was the right thing to do. The last months I have been almost obssesed with them, so it was time ti let go.
They rejected me, but in a gentle way. Im sad, but I know its for the best. Maybe now I can look forwards..... | Crushes |
What's the most impressive think you have done for a crush? | Crushes |
I developed a crush on one of my friends childhood friend. Currently I go to college an hour away from her, she goes to school in our home town (pure chance we're from the same area but going to different schools). She visited us a couple days ago because she's on spring break, and us 2 and our friends hung out all day basically. When we hung out she was always asking to sit shotgun while I drove, asked me to go with her in stores, and I felt like we talked a lot and clicked pretty well. We then went back and played group games for hours until everyone except us went to sleep. The next part is what I'm semi-conflicted on. We spent literally all night up talking, she usually goes to bed at like 10:30 and we were up until 5 am just talking about random things. A portion of it was us saying whoever got tired first would be losing the game hence why it lasted so long. I don't know whether or not this was just her being friendly with me and we were just having a good time or if I'm dense and stupid. She also has told me before about her dating life, and how there's one guy she's gone to see a movie with who wants to hang out more with her too soon on break. I'm pretty sure he's more her physical type as well, a small tidbit but she likes mustaches and I can't grow anything other than scraggly peach fuzz unlike this other guy. This is a big information dump but I'm sure it's not uncommon, I was curious about what you guys think about this. I dont have much time to see her since she's an hour away but I'm going to be probably asking her to go see a movie she really wanted to see coming out in about 2 weeks. | Crushes |
Or am I just setting myself for even more heartbreak. I confessed and he politely told me that he’s not into me. I was devastated and I still am. I crushed on him for around a year before confessing my feelings. Sometimes I regret confessing because it seems all it has done has made things awkward between us now. But he still seems to be friendly towards me. I respect his boundaries and know that I have zero chance. But I guess being his friend is the next best thing? I’m wondering what I should do now | Crushes |
Half a year of talking and texting every day to the trash.He first told me he liked me four months ago and today he told me he just sees me as a friend.I don't know what to do now.I really don't. | Crushes |
i asked him to go to the arcade with me in a few weeks! he agreed... i was surprised because we aren't really close and one of the texts he replied back to me gave me a big panic in my notifs... anyways i'm excited | Crushes |
She suddenly message me why am i not messaging her lately i cant block her because her Parents knows my Parents aswell. When i ask her about her Bf she ignores it and just read my message but still looking at my Stories Idk what to do | Crushes |
He’s not even attractive! But I’m so attracted to him and I keep going back even though he’s been a jerk.
First time I liked him (D) started a year and a half ago and lasted around a month. It was because of how he looked at me. I still help onto those feelings but I pushed them down because I liked someone else more.
Then the second time is when the guy I liked got Covid and was out for a week and D started talking to me and wanted to hangout with me. That one lasted around 6 months (over the summer until September). Then he started acting like a jerk so I made myself stop liking him and I started liking his friend who rejected me (not my fault, I’m not the one who confessed my friend told him).
Then I started liking D again around two months later because he was nice to me but it was on and off and caused me a lot of confusion.
Now it’s the forth time and it’s because he apologized. But I can’t let myself like him again because it’s not gonna end well. I’m afraid this’ll never end. I have nobody else to like so I’m back on him but I can’t.
My friends think he’s the ugliest guy I’ve liked but he’s not. I don’t think he’s ugly. I think he’s cute, I think he looks good. Nobody else thinks it but I do, I really do. | Crushes |
He said he has a girlfriend. He mumbled it, didn't even look at me. I hate my life. | Crushes |
she has been like my really good friend for almost an year and she is now asking me who my crushes are i think its either that my friend who know about my crush told her or its just curiosity but i stalled enough with lame ass excuses like you dont know her etc and today i made an excuse that my crush is a close friend and if she comes to know that i have crush on her she would probably not talk to me anymore that stopped her from asking and i dont know what to do the next time she asks me | Crushes |
i feel like every time i try to give my crush attention she kind of becomes a bit more distant but whenever i pull away and don’t give her as much of my attention she’s all over me
any advice ? | Crushes |
When my crush (who is pretty much a stranger btw, I only know him because he works at my local supermarket) noticed, I liked him, he started looking back at me more and more and he also seemed kind of nervous around me. Some weeks ago though I wasn't able to see him for like 4 weeks, even though I normally see him 2-3 times a week, which is where the problem started. The first time I saw him again, my mom noticed that he looked at me really intensely, so everything was still fine. Since I saw him again, I didn't get the opportunity to go to that supermarket as I used to though, which obviously meant that I didn't see him as often as before those 4 weeks. Because of that, I also couldn't show him, that I still like him and I feel like that for him it seemed like I might've ignored him, because whenever he did see me, I didn't look at him at all. Last week, my mom tried to get to know him a little more and started small talk with him for the first time, while I wasn't there. Today, while I was there, my mom greeted him for the first time, but I didn't greet him too, even though I was standing right beside her. Because I'm so shy, I again didn't even look at him while they were saying hi to each other. We were at his checkout some minutes later and he suddenly COMPLETELY avoided me. He didn't give me a glance and was intentionally looking into a different direction. If I'll see him again tomorrow, I'll definitely greet him for the first time too, but I'm so incredibly scared that it's already too late and that I missed my chance.
Sorry for the bad grammar btw, my head's currently all over the place. | Crushes |
So the moon tonight was amazing it was a crescent moon and had a star right in the middle. I messaged her and then she asked if it meant what it meant as the Japanese saying. I playfully teased her that it might. But then she replied how she wishes it wasn't the case and how great of a friend I am, so I just denied it and reassured her that I'd be a great friend for the long run.
I didn't even think about that saying until she said it. | Crushes |
We’ve been exchanging 1-2 text for almost a month. | Crushes |
Hi!
So, I have a crush on a girl. I mean, I wouldn't trully call it a crush, it's more an interest to know her better and not a romantic or relationship stuff. It's a girl that I met online (not on dating apps, but on social media) and I've already met personally once (we are many miles apart and our off-days usually don't match, it's not easy to be together with her).
I want to tell her my feelings, but also I'm afraid of being creepy/weird, losing the possibility to have a good friendship with her.
Through a common friend, I know that she already suspects about my interest or crush, she keeps liking some of my posts and stories on social media, but she doesn't tell anything - I should confess I have some hope that she brings it to the conversation. | Crushes |
She’s popular, outgoing, smart, and plays tennis. She has close to zero social anxiety when talking to people and seems to be friendly to everyone.
I’m well liked at this school as well but I’m definitely more reserved. I think I’m honestly in the middle when it comes to being social.
Is there any words of advice that would help me get over this thought or help ease my anxiety? | Crushes |
TLDR : Its such a shallow word/concept and leaves no space for true feelings.
The definition of a crush is “a brief but intense infatuation for someone” as found on google.
Sure some people may actually genuinely have a crush on someone and be infatuated by whatever it may be (looks, success, money, humor, idc) but why do people still call it a crush when true feelings are involved?
Do your feelings only last for a brief moment? Do you have crushes just for the fun of them? Its so unbelievably shallow. I hate it. It reflects the hookup culture we have currently and I despise it. I want real love, I don’t want a few hookups and short relationships here and there. I don’t want crushes. I want love. I want to have my feelings last forever, I want a relationship that means something, I want something deeper than a “crush.”
I love someone. Genuinely love them for who they are. I’ve loved them for 5 years and I’ll still continue to love them. They’re not even close to perfect and honestly they don’t treat me very well either but that doesn’t stop me from loving them. We’re not together as they’re dealing with personal matters as of now (which I completely support and will do anything to help) but they feel the same. However, it drives me absolutely crazy when someone tells me “oh its a crush! How cute.” No. No its not. Theres nothing brief and shallow about it. It’s love not infatuation. It means something to me. Crushes don’t mean anything. People cycle through crushes. Im not cycling through anyone.
Maybe I don’t hate the word and the meaning itself I just hate the concept of having a crush and only liking someone for a brief period of time over trivial characteristics such as looks and money. Over the years, we’ve been shying away from real love into this hookup culture bs and I hate it so much. I want something real not fake. Crushes are fake to me. | Crushes |
I have a major crush on My best friend and we are like really really close like very close and we tell each other everything and I think about her A LOT like she’s the first thing I think about in the morning and we usually fall asleep on FaceTime too and there’s more to the story but basically (by the way we are both girls and she’s also gay) but then she got a boyfriend like a few weeks ago and it sucks so bad because I have to see her less because of her boyfriend while still having a huge crush we still hang out thoand it’s still fun but Here’s another catch tho, we were at the mall and she told me that she’s obsessed with me and that if she didn’t meet her boyfriend we would be dating AND I WAS LIKE WHAT. it just sucks because I wish she never met him and I agreed with her so she knows I got a damn crush and we just went back to being best friends now. Like she just told me that info then went right back. I’m so obsessed with her ugh. I think loosing her even as friends would be worse than anything tho it’s just UGHHHH | Crushes |
So, the Girl I crushed upon I got to know from y friend that she was flirting and crushing on him. The past month was for me like somethings wrong b/w us like no talks and chitchat and not even looking at me like i used to well things looked great at June July august but September changed it all and I just so happened to didn't notice it at all and sudden changes came to light at January month their closeness and her friends say to him all like "she like you just get her ". I just happen to have a group party yesterday and there she was all ignoring and behaving as if who tf is this guy and why is he trying to talk to me although she was with her grp of friends and Ik the grp never ever interest in takks but her those signs just hurt soo much in heart like a stabbing knife pressing along . Their chats and flirt talks, her playfulness towards him and worst of all she just suppose to ask about him to me, that just hit harder.
I spent my entire 4-5 months of my life prioritizing my time for her daily talks and chats with her Helping her with things and knowing even mine is left out and all of this just to feel like crap that of like an idiot. I just cried so much after yesterdays encounter and I feel like WHY just why this happened to me I being a good guy, a gentlemen to her, looking out for her all She went for was a guy with dark humor, bullying everyone, but he is acting like that he has nothing for her and he has crush on someone else and he said it to me there are girls for other sections just so to propose to him. He has no interest in the girl I crush but supposed she does (If I look in that way) now It feels tough and heartbreaking even to forget her cause even I did I had scenarios in my mind that she will eventually try to get him and someday they'll be together.
He acts now like he wants to ignore it all but I still think he would approach her either on her upcoming birthday or ever forward . How to I get back to normal silent dead guy that no one knew was there even. getting over someone you spent so much of time and expect something for them like at least an appreciation for all this and idk maybe just a thanks . She is such a beautiful girl that I can't even forget her How do I even know if she hated me for real or just wasn't in a mood to talk to shall I confront her and talk this out or just wait and see . its been 1 week of no talks and chats to her | Crushes |
(PS- they don't) | Crushes |
(17F) here, I’m a junior in highschool. For some context, I have been diagnosed with ADHD and Autism.
Which makes it hard for me to tell the difference between certain emotions. Which includes wether or not I’m crushing on someone, or if it’s just friendship.
There is this person, (18M) who I have been talking to since last year. Our conversations were off and on until the beginning of this year; now they are more frequent.
We share a class together, and walk to classes we have near each other.
He’s attractive, it’s not hard to spot when someone is. He makes me laugh, and i like talking with him whenever I get the chance.
Recently, we’ve been making awkward eye contact. Even though eye contact usually makes me uncomfortable, I can’t tell if the feeling in my stomach is that, or nervousness.
I notice things about him that make my stomach drop. But not in a bad way. It might be his shirt, glasses, or even his hair that day. I wouldn’t say it makes me… flustered. But it’s close enough?
I look forward to talking with him! His smile makes me happy, and so does his humor. But I also have friends who make me just as happy.
He’s told his friends about me. One of them mentioned that I: “go find my boyfriend.” Even though me and him aren’t dating. It made me embarrassed but extremely happy at the same time.
If it is a crush, I don’t want to ruin our friendship… | Crushes |
M15 What do i do? | Crushes |
It was a 50/50 chance if he was going to kiss me back. I just went in for it. He did kiss me back and then we had the most heated makeout session.
Fast forward to a week later, I now have a boyfriend and I could not be happier! Girls make those moves I promise you won't regret it! | Crushes |
Im confused rn but i think im dating my crush. I told him i like him and he said he liked me to, the part im confused about is neither of us officially asked the other out. He said he wants to date me and seemed like we we started dating but im just confused.Me and him are gonna talk more in the morning about this(its currently 4am and our conversation took place at 11-1). Hes also coming over on saturday(its saturday). I really hope this ends well | Crushes |
SO my crush was there today. And i think he likes this one girl. bc shes like the only one he talks to when shes there. and he was kind of flirting with her today. and im kind of mad just bc i know that I'm better than her. like i dont mean to be rude but I'm a better swimmer and everything. Plus, shes only 12. HES 15, almost 16. She isnt even a teenager yet! Like, im right here bro. And you know just a few days ago it felt like he liked me. ughhh | Crushes |
My previous crush is now a good friend (I got over hiim after learning that he has a gf the entire time but now we are good)..
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A week later, I met this guy in my class (same class as previous crush) and we started talking. We have even hung out alone and we pretty much text everyday. However, he has been acting hot and cold recently when we text. So he often initiates conversations online but he doesn't usually respond when I reply to what he says. A few hours later, he will text me again and when I reply, he leaves it on "seen" again. Mind you, he was the one who first approached me after we met in class and I was not interested in him until we talked. I thought he was cute but never actually thoughut about him as a potential crush until recently. He was also the one to initiate the hang-out. And now he is like this everyday when we text but he regularly checks on me...
Do guys normally do this? is this a power trip? I really like him because we really have chemistry irl but I get a heartache from feeling invalidation everyday. | Crushes |
So I have had the same crush for almost 5 years now. But I have no clue if she likes me back. My friends have told me she acts like it, but I don't believe them one bit. I mean she was my valentine this year, but I still get mixed signals. I may just be overthinking like I seem to do. (I will answer most questions y'all ask) | Crushes |
I just wrote down in my phone’s notes,
“Hey, I thought you were really cute and I was wondering if I could get your number? :0”
Then I showed it to her, she said sure and wrote down her number down below it.
I then ran away- 😅
My friends later told me she was smiling. Doesn’t necessarily mean she likes me. I probably would be smiling too if someone did that to me :’) | Crushes |
Idk how to comprehend this, I'm gonna be lonely for like the rest of my life maybe
We hangout all the time, she's mainly the only reason I go out, and my other friend isn't texting me so idk how im gonna hangout with him from now on, but it was only my crush and my friend.
I'm gonna be inside all the time, nobody to talk to, nobody to hangout with, and my crush is moving, so I'm just gonna be even more fuckin sad.
What do I do, i cant explain how confused and sad I am. I dont know what todo. | Crushes |
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