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He was a bully to me for months now, i Just got over him but now im stuck with another feeling , resentement and grudge . I definitly can't stand his presence or seeing him go on about his day normally .
Is there any way i can move on .
Im so angry at him :( | Crushes |
I told her that I liked her on Wednesday and I asked her how she feels and she said that she likes being friends but obviously something else will complicate it and that she needs time to think. Now it’s Thursday and she hasn’t texted me or anything. I don’t mind if she doesn’t like me but the way I have to wait in the dark for days is uncomfortable. I’d rather she just say that she doesn’t like me and we can move on. I feel like texting her and just asking her to either reject me or whatever instead of leaving me in the dark. I know it’s probably difficult for her but it does feel unfair how she asked me to be honest so I told her how I felt but now she won’t do be the same courtesy of honesty. It’s driving me up the wall. Any advice? | Crushes |
I thought I did everything right. I thought he really liked me back. I was even thinking of confessing to him today. But just a few hours ago, my friend found out that he was gay. It feels even worse that he didn't reject me. If he had just not liked me back, it would've been fine. But I never had a chance in the first place. I guess God just doesn't like me.
I don't feel like living anymore. | Crushes |
So my crush changed his username to his first initial, then from a screenshot he sent noticed one of his friends who is a girl also has her username as her first initial. He’s still single but it’s just out of nowhere. Btw i met him online and she goes to his school. I know he has a few irl girl-friends,but none of the others have a first initial username. Is this a sign he likes her? | Crushes |
Turns out she never loved me and had a plan to breakup with me and date her best friend since we started dating😐 Jokes on her, her best friend sees her red flags and now im in the talking stage with said best friend 🫶 | Crushes |
[17F] So I've liked this guy for a while. We have a lot of classes together, and it was him who approached me first and asked for my number. After hanging out for a while I asked him out, and he said he wasn't looking for a relationship. No big deal, we were still friends. But yesterday, while I was waiting to meet up with him at lunch like usual, he went up to this girl and asked for her number, and she smiled and gave it to him. He went back up to me afterwards and I made the stupid move of asking "oh, do you like her?" to which he replied "Uh, I guess, yeah. I thought she was cute." So it seems like he was letting me off easy last time.
I feel like he could have liked me when he first met me and then stopped. He acted interested at first and then slowly started seeming less so. Maybe my personality was a turn-off? We're still friends, but sometimes I wonder if he maintains the friendship out of necessity.
I'm not mad at him or anything, but damn... that kinda hurts | Crushes |
Okay so I’ve got this situation where a girl I’ve known for a little less than a year has said that she likes me. I’m truly flattered. She’s super popular and cool and we get on well but I just don’t have those feelings for her. I’ve tried to talk to her about it in the most sensitive way I can but I’m still not sure if I’ve been a bit dismissive perhaps.
She said this at a time where she was dipping quite a bit due to personal things.
When she came back we discussed and I told her how I feel about it which was basically that I think she’s great but I’m just not in the right space to try and have a relationship right now and I just really enjoy our friendship and don’t feel that it’d work out if we went further. Or smth along those lines.
She took it really well and we’re still talking like normal but I just wanna know from other people who you’d go about this situation. | Crushes |
I know this sounds really cliché, but I may have caught feelings for a close friend who I met a couple of months ago. I will never risk ruining our friendship although I desperately want to let him know. Somehow seeing his flaws and imperfections only makes him more attractive. He is intelligent yet immature and everything I could wish for. Can anybody relate? | Crushes |
Suppose you two get along very well.
For me: hell yeah!! Lol. | Crushes |
We not dating but he mah sneaky link!
I’m always thinking of topics we can talk about when we’re texting… please leave your favourites!!
Funny and serious ones are perfect and questions are appreciated too! | Crushes |
Ok so there’s this girl in my drawing class, right? Shy, tall, skinny, cute as hell, etc. One day, I noticed she was wearing a really cool soul eater t-shirt and I complimented her on it. She looked down, blushed and said thanks. Thought nothing of it, really.
Get this tho, the next week in class she sits RIGHT in front of me. I was thinking maybe she just felt like moving, someone was bothering her where she was, she couldn’t see well, whatever whatever. But ever since I complimented her she ROUTINELY sits right in front me or sometimes even in my seat.
This isn’t all tho. I’ve caught her looking at me a lot, sitting or standing really close to me, positioning her feet in my direction, mirroring me, like it’s CRAZY bro. I’ve complimented her on other stuff, said bye to her a few times, offered to pick up her shit when it fell, so it’s not like we’re TOTAL strangers. But i still want to get to know her more. Whenever I talk to her tho it seems like she gets really nervous and shy and I can’t keep a conversation with her for more than like 10 seconds lol
My question/s to you lovely people is this;
•what should I do/say to get her to open up to me? We only have one class together, once a week and it’s pretty stressful so I’m not really myself when I’m in there.
•does she like me? And if so, would it be too soon to ask her out? I’ve tried to put myself in her shoes and while I’d personally be flattered if someone asked me on a date idk if she would, but I don’t know what else to do or how else to approach this.
Like I said the class is pretty stressful and there’s HELLA people in it so it’d be mad awkward to just ask her out in front of everyone
So yeah that’s basically it. HELP ME PLEASE she’s so cute bro I hope she likes me too
Also I’m 21 btw and she’s 19 I think | Crushes |
this is a long one so grab some tea, or an apple or whatever your liking! so there is this guy.. i’ve actually known him since middle school, we went to the same hs too. i wouldn’t say we were friends but we have talked, hung out. we had prevalent mutuals. anyway we never really had any kind of relationship until recently. both 22, i probably hadn’t seen him since graduation. we have a mutual friend, she is my close friend. he came back after being in a different country for acouple years. anyway the three of us start hanging out. i felt like there was unspoken attraction between us the first a couple times we hungout. i started to notice that he would notice if i changed my look & compliment me. then one day specifically we were at a restaurant he was sitting infront of me and my friend. we were talking, having good conversations. out of nowhere i’m guessing i said something but he literally stares in my eyes longingly and then at my lips and his head falls into his hand like he’s in in love!!!! . i literally was in shock because i’ve never notice anyone look at me like that before. after that he was showing every body language sign that he was into me. but after that he never confronted me or reached out!! i was kinda hurt but maybe he didn’t notice what he was doing all i know is that i couldn’t get that look out of my head, even now i think of it . we hangout in group setting more than anything, but even in group setting I see subtle things he does. anyway i decide to reach out first because i’m thinking maybe he wants me to. he’s very nice and responsive. we end up hanging out alone but he seemed like he was holding back though. we’re hanging out in group setting again & he is literally in shock when he sees me eyebrows raised and i got a “woah” for my outfit & a unique compliment. anyway we hangout alone again. this time its extra different because he’s acting so into me, like not letting conversation die, being engulfed, very strong flirty eye contact, being gentlemanly & showering me with compliments, we’re bonding really well, it’s late & he doesn’t want to go home yet. that was the last time we hung out alone. fast forward to current day. we’ve only hung out twice with our mutual & he hasn’t reached out at all. he’s been acting weird when we hangout like kind of distant but than at the end of night he’s trying to talk to me & drop hints. i’m just so confused because it’s clear that he likes me but it seems like he’s trying hide it sometimes. he hasn’t made any many moves. the last time i saw him was a couple of days ago & we both seemed shy when we saw each other it was cute but anyway nothing has happened and i’m just wondering if i should make a move or give him the green light in someway. i’m basically asking if I should take it into my own hands or I should leave it up to him?? | Crushes |
everytime in the morning i see her drive and park really close to me and she’s just very pretty man. especially today cause our school was celebrating opening day and me and her have the same favorite team and when i seen she had that baseball shirt on, it just melted me. my friend said he could park kind of where she parks so that maybe that’ll have her park beside me and so i could say something to her but i really don’t know what to say because me and her did have a class earlier in the year but she doesn’t really know me/know me at all lmfao. she hasn’t accepted me on any of her socials. she drives with one of her friends so idk if it would work if i said something to her and the friend was there too. yes I am a senior and she’s a soph but i don’t think 2 years is that big of a deal especially since we will only just be getting older. any advice or comments are appreciated 😇 | Crushes |
So, I thought maybe I was overthinking things with my coworker waiting for me to arrive at work, so I went on about my everyday. Then this week I noticed my coworker that's been crushing on me started showing stronger subtle signs of interest now, by walking by my desk even more often and as she's opening the door past my desk she's been looking back at me, I guess to see if I was looking at her and yes I was and caught me checking her out and she quickly looked away, then she comes in and we lock eyes briefly and I could tell she got really nervous and she looks away really fast. Then today something very very strange happened, she leaves work early about 30 min before me today, then I leave and when I get to my car I look across the street and I think I see her car parked directly across the street from me. I think maybe I'm over thinking things but it was the same make model same tinted widows and look like it was her in the car, it was hard to see kinda there's a lot of sun but I'm about 90% sure it was her or looked like her as she didn't get out the car which is weird like this person was waiting for someone. Is this girl seriously obsessed with me that she would follow, observe and wait for me from a distance outside of work just to look at me while I'm not aware, why the sudden extremes? She's well aware I like her a lot at this point and I her so why follow me and wait? does she want me to ask her out and thats why shes waiting for me outside of work or just want to admire from a distance? | Crushes |
this is a long one so grab some tea, or an apple or whatever your liking!
so there is this guy.. i’ve actually known him since middle school, we went to the same hs too. i wouldn’t say we were friends but we have talked, hung out. we had prevalent mutuals. anyway we never really had any kind of relationship until recently. both 22, i probably hadn’t seen him since graduation. we have a mutual friend, she is my close friend. he came back after being in a different country for acouple years. anyway the three of us start hanging out. i felt like there was unspoken attraction between us the first a couple times we hungout. i started to notice that he would notice if i changed my look & compliment me. then one day specifically we were at a restaurant he was sitting infront of me and my friend. we were talking, having good conversations. out of nowhere i’m guessing i said something but he literally stares in my eyes longingly and then at my lips and his head falls into his hand like he’s in in love!!!! . i literally was in shock because i’ve never notice anyone look at me like that before. after that he was showing every body language sign that he was into me. but after that he never confronted me or reached out!! i was kinda hurt but maybe he didn’t notice what he was doing all i know is that i couldn’t get that look out of my head, even now i think of it . we hangout in group setting more than anything, but even in group setting I see subtle things he does. anyway i decide to reach out first because i’m thinking maybe he wants me to. he’s very nice and responsive. we end up hanging out alone but he seemed like he was holding back though. we’re hanging out in group setting again & he is literally in shock when he sees me eyebrows raised and i got a “woah” for my outfit & a unique compliment. anyway we hangout alone again. this time its extra different because he’s acting so into me, like not letting conversation die, being engulfed, very strong flirty eye contact, being gentlemanly & showering me with compliments, we’re bonding really well, it’s late & he doesn’t want to go home yet. that was the last time we hung out alone. fast forward to current day. we’ve only hung out twice with our mutual & he hasn’t reached out at all. he’s been acting weird when we hangout like kind of distant but than at the end of night he’s trying to talk to me & drop hints. i’m just so confused because it’s clear that he likes me but it seems like he’s trying hide it sometimes. he hasn’t made any many moves. the last time i saw him was a couple of days ago & we both seemed shy when we saw each other it was cute but anyway nothing has happened and i’m just wondering if i should make a move or give him the green light in someway. i’m basically asking if I should take it into my own hands or I should leave it up to him. | Crushes |
Ok so there’s this girl in my drawing class, right? Shy, tall, skinny, cute as hell, etc. One day, I noticed she was wearing a really cool soul eater t-shirt and I complimented her on it. She looked down, blushed and said thanks. Thought nothing of it, really.
Get this tho, the next week in class she sits RIGHT in front of me. I was thinking maybe she just felt like moving, someone was bothering her where she was, she couldn’t see well, whatever whatever. But since I complimented her she ROUTINELY sits right in front me or sometimes even in my seat.
This isn’t all tho. I’ve caught her looking at me a lot, sitting or standing really close to me, positioning her feet in my direction, mirroring me, like it’s CRAZY bro. I’ve complimented her on other stuff, said bye to her a few times, offered to pick up her shit when it fell, so it’s not like we’re TOTAL strangers. But i still want to get to know her more. Whenever I talk to her tho it seems like she gets really nervous and shy and I can’t keep a conversation with her for more than like 10 seconds lol
My question/s to you lovely people is this;
•what should I do/say to get her to open up to me? We only have one class together, once a week and it’s pretty stressful so I’m not really myself when I’m in there.
•does she like me? And if so, would it be too soon to ask her out? I’ve tried to put myself in her shoes and while I’d personally be flattered if someone asked me on a date idk if she would, but I don’t know what else to do or how else to approach this.
Like I said the class is pretty stressful and there’s HELLA people in it so it’d be mad awkward to just ask her out in front of everyone
So yeah that’s basically it. HELP ME PLEASE she’s so cute bro I hope she likes me too
Also I’m 21 btw and she’s 19 I think | Crushes |
We both started college a week ago, sadly we don’t really share the same group of friend but I do believe that she thinks that I am kind (obvly she might not feel anything more than that for me).
Now I got her phone number as she wanted me to send her a certain video and I am wondering how to go on from now on. Should I ask her out for a drink or a walk?
It would mean the world to me if you would help me! | Crushes |
Two months ago I had the fattest crush on this guy who I went on a school trip with a year ago. He’s older and we never interacted outside of the trip. I gave him my phone number two months ago (walked up and said “here’s my phone number” and walked away after he took it).
We talk a lot and got close to dating more than once but he’s broken it off every time. We would stop talking for a bit but he would always come back.
Anyway — we are not dating but are friends with benefits (and we’re healthy about it, as in we are clear about what we want and neither of us have feelings for one another) We lost our virginities to one another!
Thank you for all of the encouragement from this community to give him my number in the first place! Without the community, I might not have given him my number and none of this would have happened. | Crushes |
I have this big crush on a guy in my class we’ve talked a few times but never really shared much information so I don’t have his number or any social media. Idk if he’s single or even gay but I really want to ask him out. I’m not scared of rejection but I don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable. Is this was you how would u like to get approached as a guy?
(F20) | Crushes |
Basically, in my class there’s a guy who’s well-liked by pretty much everyone. Let’s call him Max. Max (17M), another guy (17M) and I (17F), are a trio. We spend the majority of our time together in class and have lunch together at least 2-3 times a week.
Max is not bipolar, but his attitude is really different from time to time. Sometimes he seems very flirty and is really looking for my attention (for example, he asked to see my gallery, called me smart, showed me pics of him little, he remembers little things about me and tells me stuff but doesn’t tell it to other girls). On the other hand, when we text, he’s often dry/ mean (for example: he tells me I talk too much, uses “pal” quite often). But this kind of attitude only occurs per text. In real life he’s never been mean to me.
I’ll paint you a picture of his personality: he’s very friendly, private and mysterious. He often has his AirPods in his ears during the 5min breaks for example, which shows that he doesn’t wanna talk to people. He just likes being on his own, but likes getting attention when he wants it.
Obviously I have a crush on him, but I wonder whether I see a pattern of his behaviour just because I like him, or if there’s an actual pattern.
Opinions needed. | Crushes |
Gonna text her “I like you” I’m really scared. We just had lunch with a few other friends and sat next to each other, after the others left I was waiting for the train and we talked for like 10ish mins!! | Crushes |
He held the door open for me and asked me how I was liking the job. He used to come up to me and just say “hey, how’s it going” lol but now it feels like he’s avoiding me.
I know I am a very awkward person and I was trying to be friendly to everyone and make myself more approachable. I don’t know how to talk to him, especially if he’s avoiding me.
We don’t work together and I’ve been trying to bump into him and make eye contact but :( | Crushes |
basically, a month ago i asked my crush to prom. he said he wasn't sure because it was so far away (it's in june). found out last week he's going with someone else who is absolutely gorgeous inside and out :) i can't even be mad lmao | Crushes |
So recently I‘ve noticed a boy in one of my classes that I’ve started to kind of like. He’s super kind and we seem to have the same energy. However, I found out that my best friend used to have a crush on him around 3 years ago and when she told me that story she said she was hated him now because they haven’t talked and that she doesn’t like him anymore. So I was like, ‘okay, maybe I can try my luck’. A couple weeks after that conversation she asked me if I was interested in anyone so I decided to tell her I was kind of interested in \_\_\_\_\_. Then she kinda got a bit quiet and said ‘if you steal him I’ll steal your old crush’ but in a joke-y way so I played it off cool and laughed even though I was a little confused. And that brings us to today when she told me that she has a crush on him now so I have practically no choice but to stop liking him.at all.
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I feel like an a\*\*hole for liking him, but I just can’t really help it. Advice would be nice! | Crushes |
I'm head over heels for one of my closest friends. We know each other for four years now and since a year I have developed feelings for her. At some point I have very much hope that she likes me back. She always gives me these big hugs that always last a bit longer than when I hug my other friends. And don't get me started about the hugs she gives me from behind. We have a lot of deep talk and we always sit close to each other. I feel really comfortable around her. I feel like she treats me different from our other friends. Still I can't help but worry about what will happen if I confess. What if I misinterpreted these signs completely? I don't know how she will react if I tell her. I don't want anything to be weird between us. I feel really conflicted. Anyone got advice? | Crushes |
So I recently started high school and there's a boy who's the first boy I've talken to in my class.
Now we are great friends and we often tease eachother, and one time he also comforted me when I was sad. He started to dance weirdly to make me laugh and he succeed lmao.
Almost all of my girl classmates say that he's obviously in love with me. There's also a girl who asked him if he likes me (we were on a meet call), and he suddenly disappeared and stopped answering us.
As I said before, we insult eachother very often (jokingly obv :), and we both know that) and today he has said to me something like : "that's why you don't have a boyfriend" jokingly. As a response I said to him "and that's why you don't have a girlfriend" lol.
About a month ago he also started to message me. He started the convo with a lame joke :). And now our convos are only made by lame jokes made by each other and also funny videos sent to each other.
So...what do you think? Thank you in advance! And I wish you to have a great day ahead :) | Crushes |
So I recently started high school and there's a boy who's the first boy I've talken to in my class.
Now we are great friends and we often tease eachother, and one time he also comforted me when I was sad. He started to dance weirdly to make me laugh and succeed lmao.
Almost all my girl classmates say that he's obviously in love with me. There's also a girl who asked him if he likes me (we were on a meet call), and he suddenly disappeared and stopped answering us.
As I said before, we insult eachother very often (jokingly obv :), and we both know that) and today he has said to me something like : "that's why you don't have a boyfriend" jokingly. As a response I said to him "and that's why you don't have a girlfriend" lol.
So...what do you think? Do you also think he likes me? Thank you in advance! And I wish you to have a great day ahead :) | Crushes |
So, there's this guy in college who keeps giving me sneaky glances when he thinks I'm not looking. He'll stop and stare at me as I walk by, especially when we're on the stairs. We both hit the gym on campus and I've noticed he always tries to position himself near me and show off his moves. Do you think he's crushing on me or what? | Crushes |
Okay, so I have a situation. There's a friend I have, I can't tell if I like them or not or if they are just a really good friend. I'm starting to consider feelings for them? I have no idea if they would like me back - however, I need help figuring this out!! | Crushes |
Hi! I have a "crush" on a guy at my school. We are not in the same class but see eachother at lunch because we have the same friendgroup. I kinda like him, normally i am not the person for love but if I had to choose someone it would be him. But I don't know if he likes me back. He is not populair but a lot of girl like him too. He is not really into them though. Everytime I see him he kinda smiles akward but happy and I caught him staring at me sometimes. When we talk he looks into my eyes and smiles. We also have this thing where we kinda poke eachother. (Not in a sexual way) but I don't know if he likes me. In a few months he will go to a different school and I won't see him everyday anymore, but i am scared to make a move. I just don't want to ruïn our relationship. What do you guys think? Does he like me back? (Sorry for my english it is not my 1st language.) | Crushes |
i’m 15f and i have a massive crush on one of my best friends and don’t know whether to tell her. I’m from the uk and i have my GCSEs in a month and after that we won’t be in the same school because we are going to different colleges, and I don’t know how or whether to tell her.
I joined my new school this time last year and we became friends because we sat on the same table in english (me, her and a mutual friend who i’ll call molly) and in december i realised i had a crush on her. This is my first real crush and i’ve never had a crush before this that counted as a real one so i don’t know what to do with all these emotions. I thought they would go away but my feelings have only intensified and i’m really worried i’ll ruin our friendship if i confess.
Our dynamic is that where i can’t tell if she likes me or not; we’re both either jokingly mean to each other or jokingly flirty to each other (which i am with all of my close friends) so that makes it really confusing. We always hang out outside of school and spend every lunchtime together at school (and i mean EVERY lunchtime- again confusing because i can’t tell if we are spending time because she my best friend or because we are CLOSE if you know what i mean.)
And there’s the problem of mixed signals both from her and mutual friends. My friend molly tells me that she’s sure she only likes me as a friend but we would make a cute couple, but my other friends i’ll call Eva and Anna are always trying to ‘wingman’ me. Anna said to Eva (who told me) and I quote ‘those two need to shag already’ so now i don’t even have a clear message from my friends.
There’s been a lot of moments between us two and we always hug and sit on each others knees and stuff which i don’t really do with my other friends and she gives me VERY mixed signals. As far as i’m concerned she’s not straight either so that’s a bonus.
I really don’t know whether i should tell her and potentially make things awkward. | Crushes |
We've been doing eye contacts and he stares at me whenever I'm here. Now I wanna get to know him but he seems to beg to differ. For example he was about to walk behind me when he stopped and waited a bit so that I could far enough. He also avoids my eye contact when we are sitting or standing closd to each other like on the bus. It makes me sad tbh. I feel like he actually doesn't like me and thinks I'm a creep :( | Crushes |
I’ve been hanging out with this guy and just as a person im very physical meaning I like to hug everyone and hold their hand or something. If I was doing it in a romantic way I would be even more physical but I think this guy is getting the wrong idea and I don’t want him to think I like him and I don’t want him liking me. What can I tell him to define this without being a bitch? | Crushes |
This question is for people who need an outlet and pour out their feelings to somebody ☺️ | Crushes |
So recently I noticed my crush changed his username to his first initial, then I remembered one of his friends who is a girl ALSO has her username as her first initial. He’s still single but it’s just out of nowhere. Btw i met him online and she goes to his school. I know he has a few irl girl-friends,but none of the others have a first initial username. Is this a sign he likes her? | Crushes |
I’m really dumb, and I have suspicions this girl (we’re both in the same class in college) likes me but I’m unsure, for the past few months I’ve caught her looking at me a lot more than last year and I’m pretty sure I’m catching her blush when we’re both together (I literally had to google what someone blushing looks like fml). So there’s about 7 people in my group of friends and she does some stuff that has me thinking if she likes me at first but then I’m just denying it for example she likes to link arms when we’re walking with any of us and also likes to sit on people’s knees and just hugs them (they like physical contact) but shes never really done that with me until about a few months ago and it’s quite often but then I think “oh she only does that because we’re friends and shes more comfortable around me” which now sounds dumb. Another thing she does that makes me think she doesn’t have any interest is that we message each other a little, i respond to people in 5 minutes at the latest (if I haven’t forgot about the message) but she messages and then respond to me in 3-5 hours. I really don’t know a friend said “im pretty sure she likes you” but I brushed that off as just a friend thing, like I said I’m dumb and I kinda just wanna get it off my chest and idk if anyone can help. Thanks for hearing me ramble. | Crushes |
She might have an idea but I’m not sure. I think he’s amazing and I think he might feel something also. Maybe she could give me some insight if I told her but it just feels like it it would be so weird if I did. Would it be weird/awkward? Or am I overthinking? I feel like I want to but I don’t want her to feel weirded out. | Crushes |
So in my last post i mentioned me liking a cute cashier who i thought left but turns just out just like one of the commenters said he was probably on vacation.😅 so he has been acting pretty odd and i have caught him staring at me multiple times but i am not sure if he’s doing it cuz he likes me or if he just wants to know if i like him or not. His friends have been laughing and looking at me and idk if they are laughing cuz he likes me or if they are making fun of me for liking him. | Crushes |
So I’m planning on complimenting my crush tommorow like something about his style but I’m scared and have a lot of questions! Do men like compliments? Should I be scared? How to continue the conversation if it goes well? | Crushes |
We got new table groups today (had some input on who we sit with)
It’s just me and my crush sitting across from each other (other 2 kids always skip) and so it’s really tense, which is weird because we’re both extroverts
Idk what to do but we won’t get any group work done if it stays like this, please share advice | Crushes |
Just curious about why you actually started to like them. Like what caught your attention and made them stand out? | Crushes |
I got her phone number today! We can finally start texting! | Crushes |
Ima trans guy and I fell for this girl I’ve been talking to but I fear she only knows me as a girl. My feelings are getting stronger but it’s going to be one sided for a long time, she also dosent use social media a lot and uh has no clue I came out online. I’m to scared to come out to her because I don’t know her opinion on me at all. | Crushes |
Just got his number 😍 | Crushes |
Since one of our colleagues caught COVID, I notified her about the situation and sent her a text to get tested, just to be safe. She sent a long paragraph with steps on what to do with someone whom has COVID (which I thought was a bit odd), and, out of concern, advised she get tested to make sure she didn't get it. She responded, "Yes, Sir. I will"
Given that she belongs to an older generation, am I reading too much into the whole "yes sir" thing? Or was it inappropriate of me to text her about what happened? I just cared about her health, that's all. | Crushes |
Okay, so I am gonna keep this pretty short.
I like this guy and I feel like we have gotten to know each other pretty well and are really good friends, but I have developed feelings for him.
I feel like he flirts with me and acts like he might have feelings for me too.
Here is the thing I am worried about: he told me he isn't actively looking for a partner right now and is happy being a single.
I don't want to pressure him and I don't want to be disappointed either, but I feel like I am so full of love that I have to tell him.
Would it be selfish to do so? Would it put him into an uncomfortable situation? | Crushes |
I noticed a guy looking at me constantly or at least looks at me whenever I’m around him
And he notices me whenever i pass by or inter the hallway, at first I wasn’t very interested because i was in a situationship
And i was loyal to my ex, when we broke up
This guy was there and he was still looking at me and whenever I look he looks away
2 months ago, i started to like him
And I started to look at him and that was 3 weeks ago
Whenever he comes, I look a little and stuff
Until he made the first move, and asked me to work together in a lab experiment , he was super nice and made jokes and kept handing me the tools and leads me( i felt sooo happy) and it 100% showed on me
Then couple days later he followed me on ig
The problem is, he didn’t text me
He only liked my picture couple of times but never reply, also we still look at each other in college and make eye contact
Does he really like me? We’re about to graduate and I won’t see him that much in the upcoming 2 months before graduation..
Is he going to make any moves? | Crushes |
So this did not happen, but idk ive just been (over)thinking about it and I'm terrified. Even though its not likely to happen. I would probably just be like "a lot of people tbh", because I think if I say "no one" he'll take it the wrong way, especially if he does like me. Where a lot of people could include him. If anyone has better strategies, they would be greatly appreciated. | Crushes |
So i have a crush on this girl who's in my class, everybody ships us together and the only thing I can say is that she's only a friend.
She doesn't give signs that she likes me, i do though and it doesn't feel like it's doing anything. We only talk in class about the school subjects and she doesn't respond to my text messages(wrote 11 and that bitch didn't respond). I'm trying to be the nicest possible like giving her tissues when she's not feeling that well. I really wanna get closer to her, but it's quite impossible since I always have to start the conversation and she doesn't smile or laugh at me, we've holded stares for a while though. Got any advice? | Crushes |
I can't stress enough how amazing she is. She drives me completely crazy, but the good kind of crazy you know? I'm completely head over heels when it comes to her.
She's literally so sweet and gentle with me. No one has ever treated me the way she does, and I doubt anyone beside her could.
She's amazing to me, I'm amazing to her (I think?). She always brings the best out of me.
Her kindness must be protected at all costs. She's literally perfect OMG
I'd take bullets for that gal.
I'm a skeleton, but I'd break the entire bone structure of anyone who even dares entertaining the thought of slightly inconveniencing her. | Crushes |
Never mind he is here he didn’t move 💅🏻💀 | Crushes |
title says all. for my ‘experience’ (lol) i’ve had a total of three genuine crushes and dated two of them.
i’m just bored and want to chat about peoples’ crushes so share a situation w/ your crush you’d like my personal insight on in the comments! | Crushes |
my gym crush confessed he “noticed me a lot” and said “i look at you” at the gym..
is this a great hint 😗 | Crushes |
I have a huge crush on this junior girl (im 19, she's 18). We've been talking for the past 3 days. I don't want her to think of me as like an elder brother. How do i tell her this without being awkward. Also, how do i confess her without being awkward?? | Crushes |
So today we were at school and my deskmate had to leave after like four hours and she'd leave me alone in our desk. I said I'll move to a one student desk (we have desks for two students and desks for one student) and my deskmate said I should stay in out desk and talk to *my crush* and his deskmate after she leaves. I asked her "about what?", she said "boys" and I turned to them and asked them if they like boys (bcs what else am I supposed to say to them about boys like I seriously dont know). My crush nodded his head most likely jokingly and said "yes". That was that and it was fine, BUT THEN, this dumbass (my crush) goes "I like *n word* bcs their dicks are big" LIKE WTF??? I WAS FLABBERGASTED? THIS DUDE HAS BLONDE HAIR AND IS WHITE ALL DAY LONG. While I, too, am white, and have no say on who says the n word and who doesn't, I've been told that only black people can now rightfully say it as it's been used against them in the past for years and years. And I was so flabbergasted when he said that??? Mind you, there is no black people in our class besides these two boys who are Roma people. I was planning on confessing to him in June but I honestly don't know anymore. Him saying the n word was quite the deal breaker for me. And he kind of had potential bcs he's not a homophobe (as far as I know) and he agrees that what a woman does with her body is her choice. | Crushes |
i made a previous post - https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/12109tm/how_do_i_get_him_to_notice_me_at_all/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1
and i think he knows who i am now, considering we're friends on snap. we were talking with a group of friends earlier (his code name is paintbrush) and my friend-ish asked him 'hey (his name) is paintbrush fit?' and he said 'yeah' then asked who paintbrush is, and we were talking about paintbrush (just the code name, he hopefully doesn't know he's paintbrush lol) and asked if paintbrush was his friend 💀💀 but then he got on his bus or something so the conversation ended | Crushes |
I asked my crush if she would like to go home together from class and she said yes, but her class ends at 4 while mine ends at 1. I said I could wait for her, but she said I didn't have to.
Should I wait or not? | Crushes |
Hello. I have known my crush for a year, recently we have been ‘dating’ (couple months). Now i know the title seems a little off putting but bare with me. When i first meet him for the first couple months i would help him with girls or get him a girl. I would always ask him his type. He said asian girls. He told me he could never see himself not dating an asian girl. So every girl he ever takes to or dated was asian. I was fine with this until i found out he liked me. We fell for each other’s personality. How caring and nice we were to each other. But, if i would be honest i didn’t think he was being fr when he said he liked me. I always had brought up the fact that asian girls were his type. I’m white. But he told me he fell for my personality not my looks. I was okay with this. But i don’t know it’s really been bothering me. And i know people mostly would say “ Why so upset about it, you found someone that fell for you and not just your looks?” I know. I should be very grateful, and i am. But he rarely tells me i look pretty and when he does it feels forced and not genuine. I don’t want my mindset to effect our relationship. Whenever i say i don’t look good or feel like i look bad, he just says “you look fine, i like your personality not looks”. But maybe it’s just me that feels bad when your crush mentions their type and you don’t fit the physical description. i get every other box of a girl he loves, except looks. I don’t feel pretty with him or when he says i am. I’m glad he loves me for me but i would also like to date someone who finds me PHYSICALLY attractive too.I don’t really know what i’m asking on here, but i don’t have anyone to talk to about this. If you can or want please feel free to put your option below. thank you for taking the time to read.:) | Crushes |
And my crush is rooting for her bestfriend and I to get together. | Crushes |
I’m an introvert and want to get a little closer to my crush to get to know her better. How would i do that? I can’t help but confine myself to my 2 best friends all the time. The only times i can talk to her would be in school group projects and stuff. My crush, meanwhile, is extroverted. She loves to talk to her friends and doesn’t have a problem talking to anyone.
I’m also having a hard time trying to find out if she likes me back or not. Rarely i catch her glancing at me. But there are a small amount of evidences she does like me back. Should i try talking to one of her friends? | Crushes |
So, I after getting falsely fall into her and my friends bringing her shit into light to me I get soo much hated on myself and her too that its being bothering me soo much time like She all this time used me for work and stuff and in turn would be chatting every single day either I or her I almost thinking we have thing b/w us but the day of 23rd showed it all to me her constant ignorance and my friend earlier saying she wouldn't be showing interest but I ignored him and he showed me her chat of how she was flirting to him had a cheesy propose to him but he was in an r\\n he just ignored it but Damm like How could she be like this and now I don't know what should I do about her all this time with me Some people in high school are way great at getting every girl to confess them no matter what but always be a Great friend to the guy they know since long time.
Is there any way to know what went wrong nd how to move over | Crushes |
I’m starting to develop a kind of crush on a guy, and normally I start to have feelings when I kind of know that someone is into me too, but now after having my feelings all worked up, I’m wondering if he still likes me or not cause he acts a bit different.
So I (19F) just started college and started hanging around with other international students and there’s this guy who is (20M) also around. So he just joined the school but joined in a bit later so I only saw him later eventually afterwards but barely paid much attention to him cause he honestly just seemed like a background character. So after about some time afterwards he sat next ti me during a certain event and brought up the topic about needing someone to go around the country with him since were new international students. And proceeded to just talk for a bit and ended up buying me a treat when I just asked for it as a joke. So I had another friend who I’m quite close with, and she stated that maybe he is doing out of a “certain” intention, basically like out of intentions as a crush. And she knows him quite well since they come from the same country too anyway.
So anyway, this dude starts to get much more cuter in my eyes, and I remember needing his help for something to get a gift for the mutual friend we had, and as we went out trying to find stuff, there was subtle flirting from his side as well and asking me about relationship stuff that even our mutual friend noticed. And eventually starts asking for my type and what ethnicity I’m into, and making jokes about how I should be into a certain race instead. So eventually those subtle flirting are here and there.
And now I’m started to develop feelings from there, but I notice he often talks to other girls as well and I’m not so sure now. But he also seems like a nice guy, and I think me liking him is also getting a bit obvious now too.
So eventually a few friends and including him all go for dinner, and on the way there he interacted with the others more instead of me, so I thought ok maybe that was the end of it and I should stop thinking about it. But during the dinner there was a joke and someone asked him when he would want to get married, and he turned towards me asking me when I would want to get married, like I mean this isn’t the first time he flirted with me like that now, but in front of everyone like that. So now I’m wondering is he just keeping this flirting thing like a pretty casual thing? We might go out in the weekend so I wanna see how it is as well, and if I should continue with these feelings. Please advice | Crushes |
it wasn’t a gross dream or anything like that. the dream was of me painting her & then both her & then canvas disappeared.
when i told her it was the most awkward experience i’ve had in my life, & all i can think about is going back in time & taking back what i said. | Crushes |
it wasn’t a gross dream or anything like that. the dream was of me painting her & then both her & then canvas disappeared.
when i told her it was the most awkward experience i’ve had in my life, & all i can think about is going back in time & taking back what i said | Crushes |
Hello, I’m dating my crush that i have known for a year. I know this title seems very put off but i’ve been really struggling with this and don’t really have anyone to tell this about. We have known each other for about a year now. We fell in love with each other’s personality, kindness, caring. Before when we were friends and i would help him look for people to date, i always asked him what his type was. He said asian girl all they way( he is also asian). I’ve always liked him so when he would mention this i would put that i’m rlly not in his league. But he said that he was attracted to personality not looks which is why he fell in love w me. He doesn’t tell me much that i’m pretty only like a few times. Whenever i feel bad of how i look he just says i look fine. Whenever i ask him if he is attracted to the way i look, because i know his type. He just says i look good but i’m for your personality. Now i know lots of people would side with him that i have found someone that has loved me for me and not my looks, but i would also like to date someone that finds me pretty or attractive, and tells me i’m beautiful all the time. When he does tell me i feel ye is only saying it just to say it, because he knows i struggle w self image. Idek what i’m asking on here, but it just feels bad when you know your not your crushes type. | Crushes |
Hello, I’m dating my crush that i have known for a year. I know this title seems very put off but i’ve been really struggling with this and don’t really have anyone to tell this about. We have known each other for about a year now. We fell in love with each other’s personality, kindness, caring. Before when we were friends and i would help him look for people to date, i always asked him what his type was. He said asian girl all they way( he is also asian). I’ve always liked him so when he would mention this i would put that i’m rlly not in his league. But he said that he was attracted to personality not looks which is why he fell in love w me. He doesn’t tell me much that i’m pretty only like a few times. Whenever i feel bad of how i look he just says i look fine. Whenever i ask him if he is attracted to the way i look, because i know his type. He just says i look good but i’m for your personality. Now i know lots of people would side with him that i have found someone that has loved me for me and not my looks, but i would also like to date someone that finds me pretty or attractive, and tells me i’m beautiful all the time. When he does tell me i feel ye is only saying it just to say it, because he knows i struggle w self image. Idek what i’m asking on here, but it just feels bad when you know your not your crushes type. | Crushes |
I stalked my first serious love and I don't feel any bitterness or hatred towards him. I just smile and feel happy because it happened. I miss the moments we had even though it's so traumatizing but still thankfull for him coz he made me who I am today. He's a part of me that never can be separated because I LEARNED. hahahahaha I'm just happy seeing him happy in his life. I'm still proud of himmm | Crushes |
just gotta talk about this because he's so unintentionally nice to me, even though he doesnt appear like a "nice" type of person.
one of my biggest personal issues is talking in groups. i always feel like i'm intruding and being annoying when talking in groups with others i'm not so close to. so something i strongly crave is validation that i'm not being a bother.
but this friend of mine always addresses me when talking in groups. at first, i thought it was just a coincidence that i'd notice him looking at me whenever he's talking to a group when we're seated with others, but over time i realised that that really is him making sure to address me even though i'm not talking much.
recently, i wasn't responding partly because of my insecurity issue and partly because i was feeling a little unwell. then he turned to me to repeat something that someone had said, even though i could clearly hear it. but he's making sure i know what they were talking about.
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i cant help but have a squish on this dude, he's so nice | Crushes |
.he broke up with me because we barely talked. he literally knew i’m a introvert and i find it hard to start conversations. he went from “im gonna sit here so i can be closer to .… (me)” to “ i’m breaking up with you” in less than 2 hours. | Crushes |
i hate my life. he broke up with me because we barely talked. he literally knew i’m a introvert and i find it hard to start conversations. he went from “im gonna sit here so i can be closer to .… (me)” to “ i’m breaking up with you” in less than 2 hours. | Crushes |
i hate my life. he broke up with me because we barely talked. he literally knew i’m a introvert and i find it hard to start conversations. he went from “im gonna sit here so i can be closer to .… (me)” to “ i’m breaking up with you” in less than 2 hours. | Crushes |
i hate my life. he broke up with me because we barely talked. he literally knew i’m a introvert and i find it hard to start conversations. he went from “im gonna sit here so i can be closer to .… (me)” to “ i’m breaking up with you” in less than 2 hours. | Crushes |
i need him so fucking much he makes me so happy just thinking about him i want him to hold me in his arms and kiss me and run his fingers through my hair and tell me i'm safe and that everything will be okay and and | Crushes |
Actually this is not about a crush but more of what I have experienced recently. I am dumb founded and I needed an opinion because I really didn’t what’s the purpose of what happened. Here’s the story.
My class ended and I was about to go home. I already booked a grab and while I was waiting, there’s this US Citizen Filipino Chinese who walked up to and ask me “where’s P. Noval?” I was about to answer his question but he shrugged and change the topic and started asking for an interview for his Thesis in Social Studies. I was taken aback but I know the struggle of getting a primary data so I decided to entertain. I said “so what’s the question? I’m actually waiting for my grab to arrive but maybe I could answer a few of your question”. He told me to cancel it because it would take a little bit longer, and told me that he would pay for my grab. I gave him the benefit of the doubt so I cancelled the booking and asked him “so what’s the question?”. He told me if we could walk while doing the interview, I said “Is this some sort of like a scheme, are you a bad person?”. He answered, “No, I’m not. Im just doing this for my Thesis, what else is there for me to do except for my Thesis”. I trusted him and then we sat down on the side street and he started talking. He said “pinky promise me you won’t tell anybody”. Like shit, I would of course tell this to anybody if this gets dangerous.
Then he started talking about the perception of western people about the Philippines that when they heard the name of our country they immediately think of “Manny Pacquiao” or “Duterte” rather than the what really Philippines is good at. I thought that maybe this is legit thesis and so I replied “If that’s the perception then I guess Philippines hasn’t promoted enough in the western countries of what our country can offer but come to think of it, is it really only those whose making remarks? Aren’t you like thinking about beach, palawan, mango, and banana like what our neighboring countries think of us?” And so he looked at me and said “I think you’re a conservative person”. I replied “Yes, I am. Very. What about it?”. He just told me “I dont think I can go on with the interview”. And I was like whut?! I mean I sensed something but Im not really sure. He told me “you can go now to where you were earlier, I have to pee”. I said “okay, I think this is going nowhere. In case you dont know, there’s more restaurant in dapitan where you can pee”. Then he said “No, there’s a restaurant near there. Bye!”. I know that there’s no restaurant there but he insisted.
I was really lost and I dont really know what’s the purpose. Does anybody have an opinion what was that that just happened? | Crushes |
Actually this is not about a crush but more of what I have experienced recently. I am dumb founded and I needed an opinion because I really didn’t what’s the purpose of what happened. Here’s the story.
My class ended and I was about to go home. I already booked a grab and while I was waiting, there’s this US Citizen Filipino Chinese who walked up to and ask me “where’s P. Noval?” I was about to answer his question but he shrugged and change the topic and started asking for an interview for his Thesis in Social Studies. I was taken aback but I know the struggle of getting a primary data so I decided to entertain. I said “so what’s the question? I’m actually waiting for my grab to arrive but maybe I could answer a few of your question”. He told me to cancel it because it would take a little bit longer, and told me that he would pay for my grab. I gave him the benefit of the doubt so I cancelled the booking and asked him “so what’s the question?”. He told me if we could walk while doing the interview, I said “Is this some sort of like a scheme, are you a bad person?”. He answered, “No, I’m not. Im just doing this for my Thesis, what else is there for me to do except for my Thesis”. I trusted him and then we sat down on the side street and he started talking. He said “pinky promise me you won’t tell anybody”. Like shit, I would of course tell this to anybody if this gets dangerous.
Then he started talking about the perception of western people about the Philippines that when they heard the name of our country they immediately think of “Manny Pacquiao” or “Duterte” rather than the what really Philippines is good at. I thought that maybe this is legit thesis and so I replied “If that’s the perception then I guess Philippines hasn’t promoted enough in the western countries of what our country can offer but come to think of it, is it really only those whose making remarks? Aren’t you like thinking about beach, palawan, mango, and banana like what our neighboring countries think of us?” And so he looked at me and said “I think you’re a conservative person”. I replied “Yes, I am. Very. What about it?”. He just told me “I dont think I can go on with the interview”. And I was like whut?! I mean I sensed something but Im not really sure. He told me “you can go now to where you were earlier, I have to pee”. I said “okay, I think this is going nowhere. In case you dont know, there’s more restaurant in dapitan where you can pee”. Then he said “No, there’s a restaurant near there. Bye!”. I know that there’s no restaurant there but he insisted.
I was really lost and I dont really know what’s the purpose. Does anybody have an opinion what was that that just happened? | Crushes |
Actually this is not about a crush but more of what I have experienced recently. I am dumb founded and I needed an opinion because I really didn’t what’s the purpose of what happened. Here’s the story.
My class ended and I was about to go home. I already booked a grab and while I was waiting, there’s this US Citizen Filipino Chinese who walked up to and ask me “where’s P. Noval?” I was about to answer his question but he shrugged and change the topic and started asking for an interview for his Thesis in Social Studies. I was taken aback but I know the struggle of getting a primary data so I decided to entertain. I said “so what’s the question? I’m actually waiting for my grab to arrive but maybe I could answer a few of your question”. He told me to cancel it because it would take a little bit longer, and told me that he would pay for my grab. I gave him the benefit of the doubt so I cancelled the booking and asked him “so what’s the question?”. He told me if we could walk while doing the interview, I said “Is this some sort of like a scheme, are you a bad person?”. He answered, “No, I’m not. Im just doing this for my Thesis, what else is there for me to do except for my Thesis”. I trusted him and then we sat down on the side street and he started talking. He said “pinky promise me you won’t tell anybody”. Like shit, I would of course tell this to anybody if this gets dangerous.
Then he started talking about the perception of western people about the Philippines that when they heard the name of our country they immediately think of “Manny Pacquiao” or “Duterte” rather than the what really Philippines is good at. I thought that maybe this is legit thesis and so I replied “If that’s the perception then I guess Philippines hasn’t promoted enough in the western countries of what our country can offer but come to think of it, is it really only those whose making remarks? Aren’t you like thinking about beach, palawan, mango, and banana like what our neighboring countries think of us?” And so he looked at me and said “I think you’re a conservative person”. I replied “Yes, I am. Very. What about it?”. He just told me “I dont think I can go on with the interview”. And I was like whut?! I mean I sensed something but Im not really sure. He told me “you can go now to where you were earlier, I have to pee”. I said “okay, I think this is going nowhere. In case you dont know, there’s more restaurant in dapitan where you can pee”. Then he said “No, there’s a restaurant near there. Bye!”. I know that there’s no restaurant there but he insisted.
I was really lost and I dont really know what’s the purpose. Does anybody have an opinion what was that that just happened? | Crushes |
Actually this is not about a crush but more of what I have experienced recently. I am dumb founded and I needed an opinion because I really didn’t what’s the purpose of what happened. Here’s the story.
My class ended and I was about to go home. I already booked a grab and while I was waiting, there’s this US Citizen Filipino Chinese who walked up to and ask me “where’s P. Noval?” I was about to answer his question but he shrugged and change the topic and started asking for an interview for his Thesis in Social Studies. I was taken aback but I know the struggle of getting a primary data so I decided to entertain. I said “so what’s the question? I’m actually waiting for my grab to arrive but maybe I could answer a few of your question”. He told me to cancel it because it would take a little bit longer, and told me that he would pay for my grab. I gave him the benefit of the doubt so I cancelled the booking and asked him “so what’s the question?”. He told me if we could walk while doing the interview, I said “Is this some sort of like a scheme, are you a bad person?”. He answered, “No, I’m not. Im just doing this for my Thesis, what else is there for me to do except for my Thesis”. I trusted him and then we sat down on the side street and he started talking. He said “pinky promise me you won’t tell anybody”. Like shit, I would of course tell this to anybody if this gets dangerous.
Then he started talking about the perception of western people about the Philippines that when they heard the name of our country they immediately think of “Manny Pacquiao” or “Duterte” rather than the what really Philippines is good at. I thought that maybe this is legit thesis and so I replied “If that’s the perception then I guess Philippines hasn’t promoted enough in the western countries of what our country can offer but come to think of it, is it really only those whose making remarks? Aren’t you like thinking about beach, palawan, mango, and banana like what our neighboring countries think of us?” And so he looked at me and said “I think you’re a conservative person”. I replied “Yes, I am. Very. What about it?”. He just told me “I dont think I can go on with the interview”. And I was like whut?! I mean I sensed something but Im not really sure. He told me “you can go now to where you were earlier, I have to pee”. I said “okay, I think this is going nowhere. In case you dont know, there’s more restaurant in dapitan where you can pee”. Then he said “No, there’s a restaurant near there. Bye!”. I know that there’s no restaurant there but he insisted.
I was really lost and I dont really know what’s the purpose. Does anybody have an opinion what was that that just happened? | Crushes |
Actually this is not about a crush but more of what I have experienced recently. I am dumb founded and I needed an opinion because I really didn’t what’s the purpose of what happened. Here’s the story.
My class ended and I was about to go home. I already booked a grab and while I was waiting, there’s this US Citizen Filipino Chinese who walked up to and ask me “where’s P. Noval?” I was about to answer his question but he shrugged and change the topic and started asking for an interview for his Thesis in Social Studies. I was taken aback but I know the struggle of getting a primary data so I decided to entertain. I said “so what’s the question? I’m actually waiting for my grab to arrive but maybe I could answer a few of your question”. He told me to cancel it because it would take a little bit longer, and told me that he would pay for my grab. I gave him the benefit of the doubt so I cancelled the booking and asked him “so what’s the question?”. He told me if we could walk while doing the interview, I said “Is this some sort of like a scheme, are you a bad person?”. He answered, “No, I’m not. Im just doing this for my Thesis, what else is there for me to do except for my Thesis”. I trusted him and then we sat down on the side street and he started talking. He said “pinky promise me you won’t tell anybody”. Like shit, I would of course tell this to anybody if this gets dangerous.
Then he started talking about the perception of western people about the Philippines that when they heard the name of our country they immediately think of “Manny Pacquiao” or “Duterte” rather than the what really Philippines is good at. I thought that maybe this is legit thesis and so I replied “If that’s the perception then I guess Philippines hasn’t promoted enough in the western countries of what our country can offer but come to think of it, is it really only those whose making remarks? Aren’t you like thinking about beach, palawan, mango, and banana like what our neighboring countries think of us?” And so he looked at me and said “I think you’re a conservative person”. I replied “Yes, I am. Very. What about it?”. He just told me “I dont think I can go on with the interview”. And I was like whut?! I mean I sensed something but Im not really sure. He told me “you can go now to where you were earlier, I have to pee”. I said “okay, I think this is going nowhere. In case you dont know, there’s more restaurant in dapitan where you can pee”. Then he said “No, there’s a restaurant near there. Bye!”. I know that there’s no restaurant there but he insisted.
I was really lost and I dont really know what’s the purpose. Does anybody have an opinion what was that that just happened? | Crushes |
Hey. So there is this girl that we used to go to the same school. She is a few years younger than me so we weren't really talking or anything. I always thought that she was really beautiful and there was something interesting about her. Now we are both into our 20s. A lot of times when I upload an insta story i notice that she is one of the first to view it and she is always liking on my posts, no matter the content.(I post a lot of nerdy stuff). A few days ago I was in a Bus stop and a Bus pulled through. She was inside and she was already staring at me. I stared back, but she immediately looked elsewhere.
I really want to approach her but the thing is that. She doesn't post anything on her social media, not pictures or stories. And we don't really have a relationship so I can casually send her a message out of the blue . Or should I? And if yes, what should I say ? I have been thinking about her a lot and I don't really know why 😄 Help? | Crushes |
ok so theres this girl at school i kinda like, we get along and have been friends for a while, but recently we haven’t been able to talk as easily to each other and at first i thought it was just because i was being weird or something. But they still seem to like talking to me even if its only for a few seconds which baffles me.
This has only started happening over the past few months. | Crushes |
I have a crush on a coworker.
I’ve had a crush on him for almost a year… not only do I not have the balls to pursue it, I don’t even see the point in it. We have nothing in common, even tho we get along very well. He’s really sweet, kind and very funny. But we are polar opposites. He likes to be active, he’s out partying every weekend or just any chance he gets and he’s extremely extroverted. While I, love to stay at home, don’t really like partying that much and a shy introvert. A relationship would not work.
He can sometimes be a little snarky while having serious conversations. I don’t know if he’s doing it to be funny or that’s just how he is. Either way it’s extremely annoying. Some stuff he can save himself from saying. One of my biggest pet peeve’s.
Like I see no future, nothing. Yet I can’t stop thinking about him. And I get super nervous, fidgety and butterflies when I’m talking to him.
What the hell is going on?! | Crushes |
She keeps giving me all these signs which are just confusing the hell out of me. | Crushes |
Me and my crush have been talking over text a lot over the past month or so, but lately we haven't been talking as much, and so I'm a bit down. I'd like to think it's because he's really busy and stressed lately (bc he's told me so before), but there's a part of me that thinks it's because he isn't interested in being friends anymore. For context: I have a bad habit of acting really nonchalant around people I like so I can combat the nervousness I feel around them, but I guess I went a little overboard. Could it be that he took my nonchalantness as uninterested in him? I've picked up the impression that he likes to text me, because whenever I initiate conversation he usually continues the convo with more subjects, but he doesn't do that anymore. So then there's a small part of me that thinks that maybe because I seemed uninterested in being friends, he became uninterested in me and backed off. I've tried to start putting more effort to seem more engaged, but he isn't retaliating, and I'm too embarrassed to put effort into someone who isn't putting the same effort back.
Tldr; he isn't as enthusiastic anymore over text and in person and I feel like it's because I was acting too chill and calm. | Crushes |
Been 11 days since I made this post talking about my crush and how it will be the last time I'll get to see her so I decided to tell her
https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11uolzh/something_sweet_my_crush_used_to_do_for_me/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
It was my last exam and smh we were sitting in the same class throughout all the exams except this one ,when the exam was over I was shocked cause it didnt go well... and I got out of the class a bit late ,I couldnt see her anywhere through the corridor as it was really crowded and I was really tired so my mind wasn't working either
I waited for 15 mins till nearly everyone left ;-; and she used to leave like really early
I left cause my group was calling me and I was feeling numb n haisy cause of the exam and as I hadn't slept in days tho I couldnt sleep when I reached home
For the past week I've been thinking what if I left a bit earlier? Why couldnt I muster up myself to focus on her..? what would have happened if I actually did... was she still there in the class..?
I just hope I can see her once more and tell her how I felt for her | Crushes |
There is a guy in my uni friends group, at first he was super nice and we got on well, he’s just a friend
Then one night we swapped socials and he was acting all over the top nice, in some of the videos from the night, he was looking at me like constantly staring at me in some of the videos, and my friends joked he liked me
Then we ended up going clubbing alone one night and nothing happened, but after he was hearting my stories
Then suddenly a random girl who lives in his accommodation threw herself at him, claiming she loved him for months, then suddenly he stops liking any of my posts or anything online
Then I’m suddenly not being invited to any events the gang does, and this new girl is being invited, I’m like total cut off
I don’t understand, nothing ever happened, so what is he being like this? Plus there is over girls in the gang and he still likes all there posts and invites them | Crushes |
It’s coming towards the end of my uni year, however next year the guy I like is changing subjects, so I won’t see him
We have spoke a few times, but this was at the beginning of the year, but now we don’t talk too much
We both follow each other on socials and we like each others posts
However I would just message him, but I’m scared I’ll look a right weirdo, like why am I randomly popping up to him!
I mean I’m not sure if he has a gf, because he’s super close to this girl, but they don’t act like a couple and could just be uni friends as they live in the same accommodation
Advice? | Crushes |
I confessed my feelings with my crush and she told me this long ass paragraph after she rejected me back when i got home ill just copy paste it: "Hey, yaziel im sorry but you are the most creepiest person ive ever talked to and everytime we hangout i feel uncomfortable and i hate it when people see us together because then they will think were dating. i would never date an ugly pizza faced nerd like you thanks for the gifts though. oh and btw i like your friend Diego hes actually good looking" im done im seriously does with this bs | Crushes |
I'ma do another one cause I'm bored. | Crushes |
so uhh... i asked her about the times she stared at me and immediately looked way, she denied it, like what, her staring was so blatantly obvious, it lasted for 4 MONTHS and is still happening, so theres no way i was just seeing things. why did she even deny that???? i literally confessed to her and she made the CONSCIOUS DECISION to deny it. i dont get it man. also check my last post here lol it will give you a better view of the situation | Crushes |
i have a crush on a libra guy and i wanted to know what they like and dislike in a girl so i guess this question applies to libra guys out there hehe | Crushes |
Throwaway account cause he knows my main.
So, there is this guy that I have been crushing. We have known each other for a long time (same school) however we reconnected recently and started gaming together.
Reasons i think he's into me:
* So I'm in therapy for social anxiety which he is aware of, he was the one who inspired me to seek help for it. He has offered to help me w my exposure exercises and is overall extremely supportive of me even more so than my friends at times.
* Whenever we game together he will always help me or give me stuff.
* I'm not good at certain games and he doesn't give me a hard time about it. I will go 0/15 and he will still insist that i somehow did good, boosted "team morale"
* He asks loads of questions about me.
* If I ask him for help/ a favor he always comes through and tries.
* Teases me a lot.
* Puts effort into accommodating me, and asks me if I'm comfortable/ok w stuff.
These were the reasons i thought of now so what's the verdict? I have no idea if hes usually this nice or hes like this toward me. | Crushes |
TLDR: crush unfollowed me after I texted him happy birthday
I had this thing going on with a guy I am really crushing on, we were being flirty and there was a kind of romantic tension I felt around him, and everything was good, we talk and flirt often on insta and I even gave him a present for Christmas/ his birthday which he seemed super happy about. Well I texted him happy birthday at around midnight on his birthday because I was awake and I remembered, but shortly after he unfollowed me. I haven’t seen him yet and I’m really hurt and confused, why would he do that? | Crushes |
I sent a message to my crush on Instagram on January 1st at 2 a.m. to wish her a happy new year (on a whim, my new resolution is "one life"). This person doesn't know that I crush on her.
But, I sent her this message with my anonymous account. In it, I did nothing more than to wish her a happy new year 2023 and to tell her that she is an amazing person. The person normally didn't know that I knew her instagram account.
Yet she recognized me. In my message, I put a "<3", and she replied "I think I know who it is thanks to the little <3". I asked her who she thought it was, and she left me on read. From there I thought this story was over, but the next day she made it clear to me IRL that she knew it was me.
What do you think ? Does the fact that she only recognized me from the <3 mean anything? | Crushes |
A couple weeks ago I (22M) met this girl (20F) and we really hit it off. We went on a couple dates and she slept over once and everything was practically perfect until recently.
She's diagnosed with OCD and has a pretty shitty home situation which causes her to be depressed often. She's also not really in a place where she can move out. She's cancelled our date 7 times now because of depression and OCD related panic attacks. I haven't seen her in like 2,5 weeks. I talked with her about it and she says she sometimes has extended periods of time where she doesn't talk or meet up with ANYONE at all. She also takes like 3-4hours every single time to respond over text which is giving me anxiety since I love to talk quite a lot throughout the day (she did too before this).
She's on a waiting list for therapy but no clue when that starts.
I have genuine feelings for her and I've never met anyone that matches with me as well as she does. I don't wanna give her up so easily. But I don't know if I can do this if it doesn't change. I mean how can you be dating someone you don't see or talk to that much.
I don't know what to do... | Crushes |
A couple weeks ago I (22M) met this girl (20F) and we really hit it off. We went on a couple dates and she slept over once and everything was practically perfect until recently.
She's diagnosed with OCD and has a pretty shitty home situation which causes her to be depressed often. She's also not really in a place where she can move out. She's cancelled our date 7 times now because of depression and OCD related panic attacks. I haven't seen her in like 2,5 weeks. I talked with her about it and she says she sometimes has extended periods of time where she doesn't talk or meet up with ANYONE at all. She also takes like 3-4hours every single time to respond over text which is giving me anxiety since I love to talk quite a lot throughout the day (she did too before this).
She's on a waiting list for therapy but no clue when that starts.
I have genuine feelings for her and I've never met anyone that matches with me as well as she does. I don't wanna give her up so easily. But I don't know if I can do this if it doesn't change. I mean how can you be dating someone you don't see or talk to that much.
I don't know what to do... | Crushes |
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This is gonna be a long one.
Some background... I'm 20M. She's 21F. We are coworkers, and we also go to the same college.
Now, where it all began. I got my job a bit over a year ago now. At the time I was chubby, unfit, and ridiculously shy and awkward. She was already working there. I'm gonna call her V. I remember thinking she was really pretty when I first started but it didn't go any further than that. We talked very rarely, she would be nice but she is nice to everyone. I should mention that I am a dishwasher, and she is a server. So I see her semi frequently, but it's usually brief.
Now, near the beginning of this year, another dishwasher got hired. I'll call her K. K is on the shyer side, but not as bad as me. At some point, K and V become really good friends. Now, I'm a very shy person, but I slowly open up to anyone the more I'm with them. Since K and I worked directly, it didn't take too long before we were a bit closer and I felt more comfortable around her. And naturally, since K and V were close, this ended up bringing me and V a bit closer as well. This was a long process, it took place over the entire summer and then some. Again, I thought V was great but at this point I still wouldn't say i really had a crush on her.
When school started back up, it gave us something to talk about. I would see her every now and then on campus, usually just as we were passing by each other in our cars. At this point, I'm also starting to see her less in general because we are scheduled different days of the week. So on campus it's usually a quick wave. Then one day, and this is when I consider the crush to have officially started, I was parked along a side road on campus waiting a bit for my next class. I hear a honk and look over, and she is stopped there and waves and then drives away. I thought that was kind of cute but didn't think much more of it. Then, a few minutes later, she messages me through our work app, which is not a good app BTW, and she said something like, "I'm running late but I hope you have a good day!" This was the first time either of us had sent a message to the other. When that happened I had a little click like "Damn she really just went out of her way to do that."
That moment also made me realize I had like no communication with any coworkers outside of work, so I made an instagram account and followed a bunch of my coworkers. I also started coming to campus a little earlier and wait in my car, partially in hopes that I'd see her. I know that's lame but I felt it's worth mentioning just to give an idea where I was at. Again, didn't really see her at work so this was usually the only time I saw her. And to be honest, at this point, even though I'm coming early, I still wouldn't say I had a massive crush. It was on the smaller side.
Then a few weeks later I see her again at work. This was awhile ago, probably around early November, so I don't remember much from it but I do remember at one point during that day, she told me it makes her day when she sees me on campus. I told her same, and that it was a great way to start my day. She agreed. I'd say that was the first moment we talked about enjoying seeing the other. But, ironically, after that happened, I didn't see her again at work or campus for weeks. It still wasn't a massive crush but it was bigger than before.
During that period, I made it a goal to better myself. I had three goals: a new haircut, new glasses, and to start exercising. I had already lost probably 10 lbs since I started working just from work being active, but I wanted to do more. And I did all three of those things. I changed my hairstyle, got glasses that actually looked decent on me, and signed up for a gym (I actually went with K to the gym a few times and now go at the same time as her, though we usually do our own thing there. She is the only coworker that still works there that I've done anything with outside of work). Now I'm down another 15 lbs and am probably the most fit I've ever been in my life (I was fat throughout most of school but lost a bit of weight towards the end. Was still chubby, though, when I started work, but now I'm a healthy weight). It's worth mentioning that the glasses I got are very similar to V's glasses, however that wasn't my intentions when I got them. In fact I couldn't even recall if she wore glasses or not cause she doesn't wear them all the time.
Anyways, the semester was wrapping up. I was setting up my new classes for next semester, and sent V a message on Instagram asking for the name of a teacher she recommended me months back. I specifically started it as "Hey V, sorry to bother, but...". She responded back saying something like "I'll look it up, and [me] you're never bothering me. I miss you!" By this point my crush was in full swing, and I held onto that message lol.
Then a few days later I saw her again at work on a day she came in unscheduled. When she saw me, she literally yelled my name and hugged me (she had hugged me before at work once). She also called us twins cause of the glasses. Then, a little bit later, when we were near each other working, she told me I was phenomenal (she tells people they're amazing all the time but this was the first time I've heard this word from her). She said she was "so happy" I was there and mentioned that it's been forever. Keep in mind that I'm super awkward and still shy around her lol. I asked her if she'd be working more on our break, and she said yeah which was kind of a lie cause she really didn't, idk if she said that cause she didn't want to seem lazy or what but idk lol. Anyways, I told her I was working like everyday that week except Tuesday and shd told me I should come in on that day cause she would be there. I had to say no, and I said it was cause it was my only day off. She said that was fair. In all actuality I totally would have come in but I already had family plans that day.
During break I'd see her regularly at work like 2-3 times a week. One day she told me it makes her day seeing my car on campus, and mentioned my sticker in my window. She would also just be more talkative to me than before. She sometimes teased me (K and I tend to tease each other constantly while working and V joined in on it). She would hug me when saying bye. She even told me one day that she was happy to see me and that it was shit when I wasn't there which was wild to hear. She also one time told me to tell her if I ever wanted to smoke weed. I feel pretty indifferent towards that but it was the first time she kind of mentioned doing something outside of work.
Unfortunately, towards the end of break, she started just getting a bit colder and more visibly frustrated with work. She was talking to me less and it made me feel bad for her. She came in unscheduled one day, a day I wasn't scheduled to close, and when she saw me she told me that I had to stay. She also said the same thing later that day. I did actually end up closing that day but it was mostly unrelated. Another day, I asked her if she was still going to our college for the next semester, she said yeah and asked the same to me. I said yeah. She then said that we should get lunch sometime at the student restaurant on campus. In my head I'm like freaking out but I just said yeah I'm down let's do it. The next day, she was probably the most frustrated I'd seen her. I asked her if she was okay at one point and she said no but kind of in a joking way. I told her sorry, and that I felt bad cause she seemed stressed. She then made a comment about how it doesn't matter cause nothing matters and everything is meaningless and I'm thinking damn. But then she reassured me she was fine and that she was just messing around. At the end of the night she said bye and I told her I was sorry her day sucked. She said yeah, and we hugged. Then she said I hope my day gets better (I'm not really sure why she said that, my day was mostly fine, but I think she might've just been talking). She said if I ever needed help to let her know (talking about work) and I told her same goes for her. That was the last time I saw her, a few days ago, and idk when I'll see her next cause our schedules are now separate again since break is over.
Now, writing and reading all this it seems like it should be very obvious that she has feelings but I'm really not sure. I left out a lot of details, like the fact that she doesn't really ever seem to go out of her way to talk to me and really only does it if we're already next to each other at work for other reasons. She is also like literally the sweetest and kindest person I've ever met, and she does a lot of things that I mentioned her to other people at work too. She says I love you a lot to me at work, and I've really only just worked up the courage to say it back (she literally says "awww" when I say it). She hugs others, too, I think. She goes into the dishpit to talk to K a lot and will frequently not say anything to me when she does. I'm also still awkward with her and idk how anyone could be into that. In fact, if it wasn't for her mentioning lunch, I would be fairly confident she was just being friendly to me. Now I'm not really sure what to think, but I'm depressed cause idk when I'll see her again.
But I'm also happy to have formed what I have with her. And I'm confused, and anxious, and stressed.
I really am holding onto the idea of lunch with her, but idk if it will ever even happen. She specifically mentioned going when they are serving pad thai, and idk if and when that'll happen. And I can't ask her out. If she says no it'll ruin everything between me and her, and even me and K. I've got good friendships going with them, at least work friendships, and I don't want to risk losing it. Idk.
Idk what this post is lol, I guess it's kind of a vent but it was very long.
TL;DR - Coworker might like me, but I'm really not completely sure. I like her a lot and I needed to kind of vent a bit so I made this post. There's a lot of details to if so I'm being pretty vague with this. | Crushes |
The girl had severe mood swings ,which made spending time with her extremely risky, because you never knew if she would be open or closed at the time (i was also th only person to initiated conversation). Since she has no friends at our school, i was the only person to talk to her, now noone does , because i decided to ignore her.
Well, now she's alone, because she hurt my feelings too often, jus by sometimes being super open and sometimes completely unavailable.
I wish you good luck with your crush and see you in a long time :) | Crushes |
Incredibly strong crush.. for months now.. and I am 37!!
Is this normal, for a 37yo woman, to have this incredibly strong crush? It’s taking over 13 months now, he’s a colleague of 46yo and we’re both taken, but there is this undeniable attraction. It started off Zoom, working from home and all. And then, few months later, he started coming to the office once a week. I thought that seeing him in flesh and blood will make this crush go away. It didn’t! To this day I am practical shaking when I enter the office, knowing it’s just seconds before we see each other and talk. We are always professional, none of us wants or will make any move, but this “something in the air” is undeniable. It looks like we both work hard to turn it into a friendship. We chat about normal things, go for coffee, behave like nothing happens. When we talk, after some 2 minutes, I kind of calm down and feel normal again. But it takes extreme amount of energy to act normal the first two minutes. I simply don’t know how to handle my immense crush on this guy. And it’s not one sided, he seeks me out too, is always treating me like his female friend. Any advice? We seem both very happy in our personal lives. None of us wants to change our situation… how come I cannot normalise this? | Crushes |
He is a boy in my grade. For some reason, even though it was years ago, I remember that in freshman year I just perceived him as being a little mean - one of the guys, you know. I don’t remember him coming off like he really genuinely wanted to learn things in Spanish 1. I remember he actually once told me I looked nice when I straightened my hair this one time when we sat at the same table, even though he’s Asian and I’m black
I have a course w him this year - Psychology. He strikes me as being nice now, actually, or nicer than I initially thought. I remember I looked really tired and sad this one time and he actually spoke to me softly when he had to hand me a slip of paper for me to go to the nurse. I also swear today he said “what” like politely when I asked the girl I sat next to something and she didn’t respond.
He continues to follow me on social media even though his close friend unfollowed, and a club account that I think he helps run also continues to follow me
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