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So that last couple of days I have been texting her and she replies one short sentence. It's usually I text first, but she never just texts me... why hasn't she blocked me tho? | Crushes |
It has only been three weeks of my first semester of college and I have developed a crush. In the first week of school, we all wore masks so I’d like to believe that my crush had humble beginnings. It was the first discussion of the book we were reading on disability studies (disability studies is one of my special interests). The professor had asked a question and I was thinking through an answer. Generally speaking, I have a hard time articulating my thoughts and usually can’t participate in discussion because of my slow processing speed. A girl raised her hand and gave the most eloquent, articulate answer I had ever heard to such a question. I thought to myself “Either she is really knowledgeable about disability studies or she is just really smart”. It turned out to be the latter. I left class not knowing her name or what her face looked like but being drawn to her way of articulating her words. Fast forward a week later, I found out her name was “J” (not saying for privacy reasons) and that she was extremely pretty. She has a really cute laugh and when she smiles it makes me feel all warm. She always gives the best answers in class and it's almost as if the words are choosing her as opposed to her choosing the words. I then went and followed her on instagram and decided to do a deep dive and see what else I could find about her. I found out that she's a sophomore and a transfer student. I definitely feel like I am in the infatuation stage because I think about her a lot during the day but we have had no interaction. Honestly, because of my debilitating social anxiety disorder we never will have an interaction but I feel like I need to tell someone about it :) | Crushes |
been a minute. nothing extreme has happened so far to be honest. same old staring and eye contact. nothing new. although, homecoming is happening soon so something might happen. anyhow, a few hours ago i had an idea to message her through a chat. i got her name, which means i could do that. issue is, i don't know if she knows my name. funny, i know. she knows my nickname, because my buds say it so extremely loud, but not my full name. i worry if i do this, she just might be confused on who i am. which is another can of worms i don't wanna open. i could just do it, but i'm a nervous fuck, so this is messing with me a lot. what do yall reckon? take the risk and by some chance she knows? or i play it safe and wait until tomorrow? thanks. | Crushes |
I’ve known him for over a year now and i’m 99.9% sure i have no chance. He’s really cute but he’s totally not into me and i don’t know how to convey that i’m more then “just a friend”. | Crushes |
I’m gonna try to start talking to this girl more tomorrow, so I just wanna know what to do in the event that people (rightly) accuse me of liking her. | Crushes |
There were a couple really awkward situations that I am most likely overthinking, but nonetheless I looked like somewhat of a creep.
I started feeling physically sick to my stomach, not in the usual "Oh, she's around, I have butterflies" even though that's how it was at first. But, it turned into "Oh... oh fuck"
For context of what happened, basically was spacing out while looking in her general direction (was not looking at her, just looking) and she just gave me a weird, skeptical look and pulled herself away from the situation, and where I was looking. Later, was walking by her as she's talking to two others. She wasn't working today, she just quickly stopped by. I stopped, looked at her, and said "Hey, when you're leaving have a good day" she glanced at me without turning her head. I just stood there not really sure what to do, being honest. She darted her eyes at me again, also not turning her head, and waved at me with that wave that loosely translates to "I am acknowledging that you're here" then went back to looking at the others like I wasn't there. Later I realized, she didn't actually hear me say it. From her perspective I was just standing there staring at her.
Which was basically two instances where I just stood there staring at her uncomfortably. Again, I'm likely just overthinking things, but I started to feel... well, physically sick to my stomach. Dude. I'm 23. Why. | Crushes |
It has been over six months since my crush and I stopped texting each other (this is not the first time for such to happen - its canon by now).
The question is if i should text her or not? | Crushes |
planning on talking to her tomorrow, but i have bad social anxiety and might back out last second. encourage me pls 😄 | Crushes |
In case you haven't read my previous posts, I'll do a quick summary:
I'm 17 and he's 22. We both work at Starbucks, and he's my shift lead. We have literally everything in common, and I'd say we're hopeful friends. He's shown a lot of signs of liking me (eye contact, staring, going out of his way to help me, joking a lot about not wanting me to leave my shift, and more).
I wouldn't confess now, but I'll be 18 in two days. I also know that baristas and shift leads can't date, but I really like him. I'd probably confess by the end of the year. Thoughts?
Also I've never confessed to anyone before, so I'm not sure what to do. | Crushes |
I'm in a super duper complicated situation where I have a huge crush on my best friend, and I have for for like 3 years, but I'm super shy so at the start we never went out anywhere and didn't know too much about eachother. At that point I told her how I felt and she said she just saw me as a best friend. Now we literally go out like a couple and do couple-y activities like going out to dinner at actual restaurants and watching movies and stuff. There are a lot of things that strongly Imply she likes me, and I still even now have a huge crush on her. We went to prom together last year and now we're in Year 12 or 12th Grade and it's genuinely distracting. We have to dress formally for my school, so rather than a uniform you wear a suit or whatever. I already found her really cute and attractive but now even more so with how she dresses for school (she looks like a lawyer and I find it adorable). Due to her appearance and the complicated relationship (ambiguous) I'm wondering whether i should talk to her about how she feels and how I feel? Sorry about the wall of text. | Crushes |
So we saw him today with his friend on the opposite side of the sidewalk and my friend said as soon as we walked past them he was already starting to look at me. Then when he noticed she was looking he looked at her but he was smiling the whole time? Then when I kept looking back it looked like he was gonna look back again. So basically when we passed he was looking at us? This is what I was talking about like he’s starting to ignore me when he passes me and then look back at me when I don’t even know? Then he’s not making any moves? | Crushes |
I have always felt kinda lonely, especially all elementary school, I had friends in school, but barely ever did anything outside and during the weekends. I’ve just got to high school, sophomore year to be exact, which for me where I live is a new school and new class, the first year. And I’ve found myself a friend group that I hang out with, even outside of school, there was one girl I got close with, but now realized I’d like to just be friends, which also enlightened me the fact that my lonely thoughts have got me thinking I need to hurry to get into a relationship, seeing everyone I know around me getting into one and just making me feel more lonely.
I’ve come to realize I don’t need to hurry, to chase to stress, if I don’t click with someone instantly, then they are not the one, the one for me will come when they come and it’s something everyone needs to realize, no wrong in being by yourself, but when that click comes, you need to be ready
On a last note, there’s a girl in my parallel class that have been taking notice of me, like assuring she’s listening to when I talk to a group and looking at me the whole time, maybe there’s something there, not gonna rush anything, but maybe :) | Crushes |
We dress formally for 6th form and she looks like a cute little lawyer about to represent somebody in court! I can't handle it, I keep looking at her and it's distracting me! | Crushes |
Ok so I asked her "do you have crush on anyone"? And she said she had 2. One with curly hair and one is blonde. I'M BLONDE?! (Not naturally but it's dyed that color) and also, they've genuinely been super sweet to be and they compliment me a lot. also I tried to flirt with them and her response made her seem like she was flustered - idk does she like me or is she being friendly 😭 | Crushes |
I(17m) am in love with my best friend(17f). I am really, deeply in love with her. I want to talk to her all the time, be with her all the time, I just.. I don't know. I think about our reletionship all the time. When gaming, boom she is in my mind. When showering, boom she is in my mind. When drawing, boom she is in my mind. When watching a show... Guess what? BOOM! She is now in my mind again. Every time she comes to my mind, I feel my heart getting... squeezed? I don't know I just want to tell her all my feelings but I know I will be a selfish prick if I do that since we are getting prepared this year for collage and I don't really want to mess this up for her just because I want her. Oh and she also hinted a few times that she liked me at summer but I felt chicken and got scared to talk about it. Now I guess I pay the price. And she also asked me to promise to not get any girlfriend until we are 20. To be honest I don't even know she even still remembers it. For a few days she is a bit, just a little bit cold. I am afraid I done something but I can't remember anything I could've done right. Sigh. I just wanted to not hold it anymore since it was eating me from inside.
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TLDR; I truly love my female bestfriend and I want to be with her but also don't want to be a selfish prick because we are supossed to get ready for collage this year.
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An important question: Should I tell her how I feel face to face this friday? We already planned going out this friday just to roam around and stuff. The "confession" idea just came to my mind.
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Sorry for the bad english and thanks for reading. I hope you all a good day/night. | Crushes |
He'd been putting more effort into acting disinterested so I was like, lets quit it.
He poked my side when walking by which was nice cos u dont do that to people u dont like.
My mate did it after but more.
We was stood next to machines while he was fixing one, I wasnt gonna pay attention, he actually tried to talk first instead of the other way round but I was like nah & conscious of my breath. Plus he said about holiday like I could share mine with him which duh sounds like lets spend some holidays together but I was like ur just messing with me arent u, didnt get excited this time an he ment me give him my holidays an I was willing cos I've got a bunch left an would prefer the holiday pay while still working but turns out he was joking.
The 'You' convo was good cos talked normally an I like him. He was fixing machine next to mine an theres a safety box so you dont get hurt, he had to go in then we talked about that.
He fixed my machine an took the scrap melted plastic an a long red strand got caught on my foot as he was walking past, i brought the strand to him an said it was a gift cos its just scrap plastic an I do that. Theres a romantic thing thats meant to mean people are connected by an invisible red strand an it means they're soulmates.
Work etc
New girl on night shift came 40 minutes early so the guys was having a chat with her outside while they had their coffee, my bestie came back an told me. Then eventually Anon came back. He had a chat with bestie an she walked to break room an they was checking her out an told bestie I saw them checking her out an he said he was just laughing at Anon.
He wont even go for a quick cig with me.
I was jealous cos she probably managed to accomplish more than I have in months.
I got a little sad about personal problems at the end an got moody from jealousy. | Crushes |
Anyone wanna rant about our crushes with me. Just talk about everything we like about them and how we wish we could just be with them? | Crushes |
He also tells me he loves me like “I love you babe/baby.” Even though we aren’t dating. | Crushes |
Bro i like him so much this is not okay, but he makes me so sad also, we were in school today and he didn't even talk to me, didn't even make a effort to do so, bro hes sending me so much mixed signals its crazy, lika yasterday was amazing we went out together and 2 other friends and we played bassin and he picked me to be on hes team even though i didn't know how to play it at all, and now hes been ignoring me all day, and he kinda confessed but then said he was being sarcastic and laughed at me, i just hate it so much just say you like me or say you don't don't say that you don't know, you're just leading me on and bro im so desprete, i wanna hug ih i wanna kiss him i wanna cuddle with him i wanna be around him. I will ignore him tommorow, or at least tey to, the same way he did with me today, god i don't know. I really don't :/ | Crushes |
I just met the girl i like about 4 weeks ago.
I also thinks she has a crush on me because we text al lot together on Snapchat or WhatsApp. Sometimes we also video call and talk about something. I do really think sh likes me because we also have a lot of fun together. | Crushes |
He was looking at me for a bit, then he said, "I'm trying to remember how [insert rap song] starts." Then I started it, and we both got to the chorus together 😭
He also showed me his art. I'm starting to think he really does like me. | Crushes |
We were talking and she fluttered because we were joking about her hight she's 4,11 and she told me to stop laughing in a playful way and got surprised when I told her I'm 6,2 and it was adorable and even hinted I should go to homecoming with her and her friends | Crushes |
[Link to the post when i asked him out](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/x9a1bw/i_did_it/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)So after this happened (it happened last Thursday) I waited a while (still waiting) for a response, but I haven’t gotten one yet. My friend put the note semi-deep in his backpack. I’m not sure if this is worth noting, but he also has pretty bad social anxiety and hasn’t talked in class since school started (we’re now on the 3rd week). Was I rejected, or should I attempt to talk to him this Friday? Please help :,) | Crushes |
he made a joke and m literally laughing thinking about it from the past thirty mins wtf😭😭 | Crushes |
I’ve had this crush for about 9 years now and we have been living separate lives, zero contact with one another, for about half of this time. He’s been in a steady relationship since we met. Our relationship was as friends in a professional setting. I cut off all contact. I thought time apart would make it stop. Besides remembering him now and then, I’ve been alright for years.
I ran into him recently and the feelings were still strong. Maybe stronger.
No butterflies or anxiety but a sense of warmth and happiness in his presence. Overall he’s still very attractive to me - personality, physically, and mentally. I would love to date him because I’m so curious about how he really is as a person. I know he’s not perfect and genuinely wish I knew about his bad parts so I could have a full picture.
I can’t stop the intrusive thoughts of him. Sometimes I indulge because it feels good but now I actively avoid it. I thought about dating around in hopes of killing the feelings but I don’t want to date for the sake of escaping something.
tl;dr: Very attracted to my long-term crush and can’t stop thinking about him although I try hard not to.
Any advice? | Crushes |
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Everything he does is cuteeeee wtf
he keeps telling me that I'm always laughing and don't stop laughing it's good😭😭😭😭
Little does he know I'm actually happy these days because of him
He taught me how to smile, he taught me how to actually be happy | Crushes |
Every crush I've ever had has either been lesbian or taken. Like I've been developing some sort of feelings for a girl and today I hear from one of my friends that she's lesbian. Tf is wrong wit me? | Crushes |
hello guys, so i (F) have a crush on this guy we have a lot of things in common that we sometimes talk about, i catch him staring at me a lot sometimes when i look at him he either looks away quickly or he keeps staring with a blank face. he remembers somethings i said in the past. when we laugh in a group settings i noticed that he would look at me first. he doesn't treats me differently that other girls from our group setting. when we are left together we stay completly silent which made me think he hates me. these days he sat in front of me and he would stand up a lot so i can see him and he would just act bored and i can feel he is stating at me or to talk to my girlfriends and i. he always has a recommendation about shows or twitch streamers to watch. we send each other some memes but no real conversation is going ( once i send him something and was excited to get a response from him but he left me on read, the next day i was pissed i didn't pay much attention to him and i noticed he was like shocked until he came up to me and told me something about what i sent him he sensed he fucked up)he just recently started to ask me stuff about me briefly, but this past week he would tease me a lot, he calls me old or auntie which he knows i don't like so he is just taking the piss lmao (we have a 3 year age gap and i'm older he is 21 i'm 24) and we just laugh, we got this teasing back and forth sometimes. today, we were talking with our friends about exes he said that he was over her but then he said that he never makes the first move he want it to happen naturally (didn't understand that part and it made me nervous lol). i don't really know what to do here, does he like me and he is just nervous or he just sees me as a friend? what should i do? what to look for so i'm 100% sure he has some kind of feelings for me? | Crushes |
Hey everyone! I literally wrote on here the other day but there has been no improvement. He keeps telling me that he will initiate the convos in person but he doesn't keep his promise, all he does is smile and say hi and even then I have to say hi first. I feel completely ignored. Google keeps telling me diff answers but I'm genuinely confused. I text first nowadays when we used to talk like 24/7. We were strictly online until i transferred schools. I want him to make an effort so I'm not initiating texts atm either. Someone pls tell me if this is pretty much they aren't interested anymore cuz im confused af | Crushes |
i'm probabily just being delusuonal but she wanted to ask a math question and placed the sheet on her thighs. i just think it's very unusual thing to do, bc normally ppl would put the paper on some surface or hold it with their hand. she's been very touchy in the past but im not sure if its just a display of friendship. idk if im reading too much into it or it could be smth | Crushes |
so he loves annoying me now and i actually find it cute
he took my tablet and ran away like a cute kid i mean i wish my eyes could capture that....like actually capture him while he was doing that
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so i was just listening to dandelions by Ruth b and the widget was on lock screen
the name of the playlist was actually " HIM "
idk if he paid attention or not lol i hope he did not cz i will b embarrassed if he did lol😭 cz that him is actually himmmmmmmm
he's making me fall more for him every single day
being friends w ur crush is the world's most beautiful and painful thing ever
he's the reason why I'm actually happy every single day, every single minute and every single sec | Crushes |
Yeah yeah It’s not much or anything, but hey, I did something for her.
During classes we shared glances, I know it’s not really a sign, but hey, she notices me. | Crushes |
I met this girl at an event and got paired for icebreakers, and we only talked for 2 minutes, but I felt like we had REALLY good chemistry - eye contact the whole time, really easy convos that flowed well, smiling and laughing. I’m a pretty shy and awkward guy, but I was super comfortable and relaxed talking to her it’s crazy.
There was a part in the convo where we both went silent and just looked at each other. But it didn’t feel uncomfortable or anything bad at all - at least to me. I didn’t even realize at the time, but I was literally staring into her eyes. I wanted to say something or look away to break the silence, but I just couldn’t. And then, she starts laughing with her face going red and all. But it didn’t sound like it was out of discomfort or awkwardness. I wanted to ask “Why are you laughing?”, but I was just too focused on her to say anything. After that, we got silent again for a bit and went back to talking again.
I didn’t even realize any of this was happening at the time until way later after the convo. I was way too in the moment. Unfortunately, I forgot to ask for her number.
Am I looking too deep into this?! I’d like to believe this means something, but I don’t wanna make any assumptions. I’ve been questioning about it for awhile now, and I don’t know if it means anything at all. What do you think it means? | Crushes |
I told one of my friends who is also their friend and they told me that my crush had a hunch about me liking them. Since they never made their move it is pretty obvious that they are not interested so it's time to move on. I really liked them so it definitely hurts but it's not the first time i got rejected and ill be fine.. im ready to slay tomorrow away or whatever but i will be leaving this subreddit to help me move on.
It's a wholesome subreddit and ill probably see yall when i either get over them or get a new crush! | Crushes |
I’m gonna text her asking her out but I’m not sure what to say | Crushes |
i followed my crush on instagram and he followed me back, i had just posted that day and had reposted it onto my story AND HE LIKED it so thats pretty slay, im kinda a lil stalker so i went to his tiktok (it was linked in his bio) and i just looked at the posts on the account but not liking anything. little had i known was that tiktok tells people when you look at their accs. he ended up following me on their too. now heres the funky part, he sent me a tik tok of the worlds first recorded fortnite win. i thought it was weird and said "lmao?" he said it wasnt meant for me and i went with it. i havent talked to him since, did i miss something?/ should i keep messaging him? am i looking too deep into it? we go to the same school and are in the same grade but i just never get the opertunity to talk to him so i want to text him but idk, any advice? | Crushes |
I'm going to be honest, I'm not really sure how I feel at the moment. I've had a crush on my best friend for 4 years, we do everything together. I suppose she really brought me outside of my shell. Before I met her I probably only ever left my house for the necessities, never anything social, but then she became my friend and I began to want to find excuses to go out and see her. Everything we seemed to do together made me feel like a happier person. It felt like I could never get enough of seeing her. The thought that I'll cross her path when doing daily things makes me feel motivated in getting up in the morning. However I can't shake the feeling that she's way out of my league. Everything she does is so perfect, as corny as it sounds, she makes me want to be a better person. I admit, before I realised I had a crush I had no idea I was even attrected to girls. The thought of falling in love with a man, or even at all, made me cringe, and at one point I'd even say that I'd prefer to be alone and live by myself. Thinking back on that now I feel I could never say that again. Now when I imagine my future, I wish for there to be someone else to share it with me. I've started to look forward to little things I hope we can maybe do together some day, like sharing a smoothie or an ice cream, or even little smiles we might share.
However, she makes me so frustrated I can't stand it. A bit into our friendship, before the crush, we used to jokingly flirt or say stupid things. It was the type of joke where you'd say it almost seriously (also I can 100% confirm it was completely a joke as we do it to all our friends (not in a weird way)). This continued until about 4 years ago, where I realised I'd developed a crush on her. At this point, the flirting continued, but I started flirting for real, under the impression that she'd take it as a joke, and thankfully, she did, so no awkward crush conversation yet. Around this time, we had a small meetup with our friends, which was pretty fun, however by the end of it, we'd all decided to play truth or dare. So, naturally I decided to play. By the time it'd came my turn to go, I chose truth. It was only me and my friends, as I believe my crush had gone to the toilet. The truth my friends had decided on was 'who is your crush' the coward in me got the best of me and I asked for another question. Of course, they denied my request and compromised in making it less specific. They asked me if my crush was someone close to me. As she wasn't here, I figured I might as well say yes.
A few days passed from that day, and me being under the assumption that she had no idea about the question, was walking home with her one day, where she asked me about it. Great! Turns out another girl from the friend group had told her in private. When she asked me, I agreed, since I don't like lying, especially to her. But, then she started to ask me who it was. Of course I told her I don't like telling people that kind of stuff, since its a bit too personal. Thankfully she understood, but the encounter did confuse me a bit, since we do walk home the same way, but this was after the point where we split up, so she went out of her way, probably setting herself back half a mile to ask me the question. I thought nothing on it and moved on.
Since then, we've grown a lot closer. At this point I'd have considered her my best friend. We found that we shared a lot more interests than we thought we did. Turns out we had the exact same dreams of travelling the world. She promised me that we'd go together. After that point, yet again, we grew even closer much faster. I'm not sure when, but the within the joking we'd say that we loved each other. I'd even say, and I quote," I love you, but seriously " and she'd say,"I love you too" I hate this. I can never tell wether she's joking or not. When I think back on it, I suppose when I said it I had a jokey tone in my voice, since I figured it's better safe than sorry if she didn't take it well. Maybe I was a bit misleading.
Saying 'I love you' has now become part of our routine. Wether it's randomly screaming it at each other when we are spending time together or saying goodbye, every conversation seems to have an 'I love you' in it. She's kept her promise to travel the world a bit later, and still intends on doing it. She's even thrown a dog in there, which we will look after. She's also said that she wants to show me all her favourite places in the country her family are from, and we've made a list of the countries we'll go to and the route's we'll take. And maybe this went to a bit of an extreme, but she also promised to marry me... O_O
She's always holding my hand (locking fingers), drawing hearts on my hand, sleeping on my shoulder, and whenever she borrows my flannels says that she likes it because it smells like me. Help. I'm so f*cking confused, because despite all of this, I have good reason to think she doesn't actually like me back. For example, around the time I realised I developed the crush, I started noticing things. I'd figured out who she had a crush on. (spoiler alert not me) And when I said the girls name casually through conversation and I slightly hinted to me knowing, she got a bit shocked and my other friend just started laughing, saying "she knows" and ended up confirming her crush. Another reason, it feels patchy. The whole holding hands thing and drawing hearts on each others hand just doesn't feel right. I feel like if I tell her how I feel she'll just say it wasn't serious and get all awkward. It's patchy in the sense that I don't know what's real and what's not in our relationship. It just feels like its so possible for her to say it's not serious and is just a joke.
I don't want to ruin our friendship. She means so much to me, I feel like not saying anything and letting us stay just friends is better than risking ruin everything we have by telling her.
Am I being a hopeless idiot? Is she just a friend? I like her so much and want to spend the rest of my life with her. I have no intention of telling her how I feel anytime soon. I can't even order food at a restaurant, I can't tell someone I like them. Is there an indirect way of asking someone if they like me? And I mean as indirect as possible. I don't want her to take what I say about us a joke, but I don't want to leave things as they are, it's so frustrating.
Anyways, sorry for this whole ass book I wrote here, hope it wasn't too much torture to read through, okay bye. :)
(sorry for the weird stuff going on after the first paragraph, i never post on reddit so i pasted it from my notes app since i was lagging) | Crushes |
Lord he is so fu*kin cute! I just wanna tell him! But the dissapointing thing is, that we can't date when were both in high school theatre. But OML, we were in the same room together but our theatre director was in there, she ruined the momment.😢 I wanna ask him to homecomming but IM SCARED ASF! He's so cute & his eyes and lord his VOICE is so calm! 😍 I geuss... i'm in love. 😍🤭 | Crushes |
I’ve being dating my boyfriend for around 3 months now and my granny met him for the first time, she was nice and polite to him when I was there, then when I stepped out of the room she’s said that “if you ever break my granddaughters heart or hurt her, I’ll kill you, you will never do any better then her” , what should I do, should I confront my Granny and tell her not to stay things like that, or should I just tell my boyfriend that my granny is 90 and she’s protective of me | Crushes |
So I was in French and she was like ‘I think I’m going to ask my crush out tonight’ I was like ‘cool’ and then she said ‘he has blue eyes’ AND I HAVE BLUE EYES THEN FINALLY SHE SIAD ‘you have blue eyes’ IN A WIERD WAY AHHHHHHHHHH | Crushes |
I swore to myself to never ever have any crushes anymore and boy was I wrong.
I'd say we were very close as far as my memory goes. For over 7 years we never met again due to my family moving out, never said a proper goodbye to her (mostly due to the fact that i was very young). Literally forgot about her and moved on with my life until the pandemic struck. Then 2 years ago, we stumbled again together as classmates on online classes. Dang I felt so guilty and awkward about forgetting her. As an introvert and a person with social anxiety, online classes were a breeze and felt like a paradise. We then had an awkward exchange of hello's and for some reason I keep getting nervous whenever she messages me about school work. We never really talked much at the time since I usually don't interact as much.
With that being said, face to face classes just started a month ago and we finally met irl. Unsurprisingly, I can't maintain eye to eye contact with other people. But with her gaze, it's almost impossible to gaze back for more than a second. She made remarks on how we used to play in the neighbourhood and I just sat at my desk knowing fully well that she just wants to retain that old friendship. Then, the election of class officers began and she nominated me for president first. I was thoroughly shocked and blushed like a tomato (ended up winning thanks to her). After a few days, I got the opportunity to talk to her alone while raining. Unfortunately my courage failed me to even approach and talk to her.
After another few days, I get the feeling that she likes me a little. One time when we had group reporting in english class, I noticed she looks at me more often than others when it was her group's turn. Left me thinking about it the following night. Another time she got one of my poems and actually complimented me on how good it was. Now I can't stop thinking about her. Might plan to confess on how I feel especially the part where I forgot about her but things are still tense and awkward. Any advice?
P.S I might not be able to reply quick since I need some sleep for tomorrow's classes | Crushes |
Hello everyone
So, I'm a teenage boy, I have a crush on this girl and she really liked me too, all was working well and we went on a date, but right after that when the holidays rolled around, she avoided talking to me and eventually blocked me. We made eye contact for a few seconds, and it felt like she still liked me, my friends think so too. I suspect that she thinks I don't like her, maybe because we didn't hold hands on the first date or something. I want to talk to her in person again, to at least find out why she blocked me, but I'm not sure if that's a good idea or not. Sorry if I didn't provide enough details, please write if that's the case.
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My crush and I have known each other for over a year now. We used to work together at a restaurant, but I stopped working there two weeks ago. He was department lead. He's a nerdy guy, but he has a fairly vibrant social life. He would make flirty remarks on occasion, saying that I'm looking pretty and stuff like that. One time over the summer, he had a video game tournament, asked on Instagram if people wanted to watch. I said yes, and he invited me (and only three other people) to watch it.
After summer ended, and it was the first time seeing each other again, he was really shy. We were silent with each other until I started asking him about his summer. It's weird because he acts like he likes me, but he doesn't make any moves. When I left work, he was joking saying "goodbye (my name) I may never see you again". Yesterday, he posted on Twitter that he made a playlist for his crush (I don't know who this crush is). Is it possible I'm the girl he's talking about? Is it possibly someone else?
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in the morning he actually tried to put his glasses around my neck but failed lmfao
i was wearing a dress today and he asked me why i was wearing a gown lollll
and then he actually took my tablet and ran away and told that's his tablet ( he wwassssd sooooooo cuteeebojkwbjwkhbwpkhvwpiuwvpiuw ) i was listening t this song dandelions by Ruth b and the widget was on my lock screen and he was going through my lock screen and the song was playing from a playlist named HIM
it was a playlist i created for him and idk if he saw that or not lolllllll i would be embarrassed if he saw that🥺😭
and then while going back home he took my phone again and told me it's his phone 😂😭 and playing around w it
Why is he this cute WTF
Idk he's making me fall for him more every single day😭😭😭😭🥺🥺🥺🥺 | Crushes |
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(little bit of context for this, i used to identify as a lesbian but recently discovered im bi)
so i have a crush on this guy in a few of my classes and we used to have a few mutual friends (im not friends with any of them anymore) so we kind of new eachother and would talk sometimes but werent really friends. one time after school we were just talking and he made a joke about this guy being my boyfriend so i said something like "ew no im a lesbian" and he got kind of quiet and was like "oh yeah i forgot about that" and now im abseloutely kicking myself over that because it was literally like six months ago and im so mad that i maybe had a chance with him and i ruined it completely because i was unobservant and still figuring out my sexuality. | Crushes |
Hi so I'm a 16 yr old girl and there's this guy that I really like. I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints so I go to early morning seminary. I'm not friends with him, but we have talked a few times. I always catch him glancing over at me and he looks away when I see him. Today in seminary, I was at a table with him and he called me by name and complimented my phone case Maybe I'm reading the situation wrong, or I really want him to like me. Does he?
Edit: My cousin got him to dance with me at a dance. :) | Crushes |
Or you will end up like me | Crushes |
so i confessed to my crush, he was very happy and thanked me a few times and even said that he thinks its cool that i did it and said that its this first time someone has ever said that to him but he said that he didnt return the feelings sooo do you think i might still have a chance ( i mean to be fair i dont even look bad like compared to other people at school (ik you shouldnt compare yourself to others but i just wanted to give you an idea) id even say im quite the cutie lmao) | Crushes |
soooooooooooo i confessed today and i fell even harder when we talked yk i only had 2 convos with him before (we arent really close only we have a mutual friend and i spent a week in his class btw he is a grade above me) thats why lmao i never even considered the possibilty of me confessing to him but here i fucking am yaaaaaaaay im so happy and im somehow not sad at all and im also not giving up now and the fact that im gonna be able to say hi to him in the school hallways at school without it being weird gives me butterflies lol
in the next weeks im gonna watch him play football with mutual friends:))))))))))) im looking forward to that the most this year | Crushes |
I'm sorry for any grammar mistakes but english is not my first language
I (15f) just transfered school and beside me there is also "G" (15m) that transfered school. We are in the same class and never talked to each other (cuz it's been just 2 days since the start of the school). The thing is that "G" was my middle school crush... for like 2 years. Then we graduated and went to different high schools. He of course doesn't know about my crush on him and doesn't even know that we were in the same school cuz we were in different classes.
Anyways in these two days we talked on insta cuz I basically searched for him on every social media (thanks to my bestie) and texted him. I told him (on insta) that it's really hard for me to socialize and be able to talk face-to-face with another human being without having anxiety; he was so kind and told me that he'll not do the first move (i mean talking irl) and he'll wait till I'll be more comfortable to speak to him, mostly cuz he doesn't want to make me uncomfortable and also he wants me to be able to do it on my own (he said it cuz apparently he was like me). We talked a lot and he also told me that he hopes that at least for his birthday (octobr 5th) i'll say to him "Happy Birthday". Also told me that for my birthday (november 13th) to at least have a small chat. He's sooo sweet and I really really like him, but I don't know what to do... | Crushes |
being friends with him and knowing that he's into someone else and that someone else is also a friend | Crushes |
the more i talk to him, the more i get to know him, the more I'm falling for him🥺
its hard for me to look at him just as a friend whytf he is so cute🥺😭😭😭😭idk being friends with your crush is actually the world's best feeling but also the most painful one at the same time | Crushes |
lol so I basically wanted to approach her after school on the way to the metro to confess to her and I was waiting outside for her but then I found out she was already gone to the metro ☠️ she probably took the other door to go out of school so I failed today lol, I will try tomorrow again and update you guys | Crushes |
I'm 16 and Bi and My crush is 16 and straight (both Male)
I am not even sure where to start cause I feel there is so much to cover.
I never really noticed this dude up until the start of this year, he is your typical cool boy footy player. I peaked interest in him when my friend group (majority girls) were talking about which of the footy boys we found most attractive. Majority of the girls instantly pricked up to him being attractive before phew of them stated they thought he was closeted. He was talked about for a bit and I peaked interest quickly.
About a 1 month time skip and I still thought about it occasionally as well as him being brought up in conversations amongst friends. Between that month we started working together but I never said a word to him as I always pictured him out of my league. I spoke to majority of the boys I worked with well and nobody ever had a problem with me being Bi other than the occasional joke but they never openly effected me.
Note: during the crush me and one of the girls nicknamed him Tarzan as his name started with T and he kind of looked like him. its going to sound odd and a little funny in the story as it seems out of place but I guess it will put some light to the story
But ill get to what I feel most people are going to find interest in which is my first ever conversation with him. So we both work at a Maccas across the road from our school. I was talking to one of the boys when Tarzan joined in the conversation and they started joking about if I liked it up the A$$, the topic quickly died off as I learnt to be able to shut down them conversations pretty quickly. After the rest of the boys left at 9pm it was just me and Tarzan out back until 10pm, we talked a little and had some laughs and got to know a little about each other within the hour. I went home happiest I had been in some time and told all the girls about it.
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I'm tired as off now and bout to head to bed. I know this seems like a short story but in the next part I hope to tell you all a little more about myself as well as talking about how the crush developed and some of the events that took place between me and him at work during its development. | Crushes |
gonna do a hit and run
brb
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Ever have your extroverted crush invite you to sit down with his equally extroverted friends and just sit there and feel awkward? He flashes you a smile every now and then but the exchanging of pop culture references you don’t quite understand or experiences you don’t quite relate to overwhelms you. He then has to leave which is understandable but you’re left with other people you don’t quite know and feel that there is no other reason to stay so you awkwardly excuse yourself. Maybe it’s just me then.
But on a side note aaaaaaaaah I felt so stupid and dumb in my little outfit and the fact I couldn’t really say a lot to him or his friends and me gaping at him the entire time like a gaping fish frustrates me to no end 😭 | Crushes |
To be honest with everything, I miss her a lot and I think about her more than im willing to admit.
We go to the same school and hang around in the same areas a lot.
Lately, I’ve been seeing her way more for some reason, which a lot of times are probably coincidences.
But yesterday, we were both working out in the same area with both our different friend groups.
Me and my friends decided to leave and go get food, she had already been in the gym for a while, but she arrived at the same place to get food as us about 5 minutes later.
And I caught her looking around and we made eye contact for a second.
Later on, at night, she was in a room with a couple of her friends.
I was hanging out in the hallway with a friend but I barely talked so she didn’t hear my voice or anything. Her friend walked out for some reason, saw me, then went back in the room.
A couple minutes later, my ex walks out and goes to the bathroom, which is in my direction and she walks passed me.
I left those halls, then came back about 30 minutes later, but i was loud this time so I know she heard me.
She walked out the room as soon as I got to the halls and walked passed me about 3 more times in the span of a couple minutes.
For no obvious reason to me.
Am I nitpicking or do you think she is doing it on purpose.
It’s been 3-4 months since we last had a conversation
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uh yeh...
idk what to add to this, title says it all | Crushes |
I went up to her and talked to her at lunch and I asked her if she’s doing anything this weekend, she said no then she asked if I’m doing anything this Friday and I said I’m not doing anything this weekend. I asked her to hang out and she said yes, I proposed something in a town between us. I told her to text me when she’s free and she said if I don’t have anything then I’m down. I just had no idea what to say to her and she just kept asking questions the whole time. But I just need to plan something out for us this weekend so I’m consulting the friend group and I’ll most likely try and hit up a restaurant and get her dinner . | Crushes |
Hi all,
I [M25] have a senior colleague who I have strong feelings for. She is leaving the job and I feel heartbroken.
I joined a company just over six months ago where I met her. At first I didn't think much of her, she was just a senior who I worked closely with.
Over time, we started to get along very well. I kept joking around with her all the time and even intentionally annoyed her. She even said that I am her stress relief and that anytime the job gets too much for her, my humour would help her feel better.
Without even realising it, I started having feelings for her. I couldn't stop thinking about her, and I felt horrible everytime she was on leave. Every morning I would look forward to going to work just to see her. I never felt this way about anyone in my entire life.
She is exactly the kind of person I always wanted to be with - intelligent, easy to talk to, great sense of humour, down to earth and a beautiful smile.
I know she sees me nothing more than a coworker, she didn't even allow me to follow her on Instagram as she wanted to keep work and personal life separate. She is also seven years older than me so at best she will see me as a younger brother (she also has a brother exactly my age). I never confessed as I knew she will reject me and things will get awkward at work. I was just happy to be around her.
Today she told me that she is leaving the company. This really hurt me and now I am left wondering how I can go on working without her.
I just need some advice on unrequited love. How can I move on and how do I deal with this emtiness that I feel? | Crushes |
so you there’s a girl in my third period that i’ve liked since 8th grade and i want to ask her out but i don’t know how. i’m not the most attractive guy and am a little bit overweight though. we talk during class every once in a while but we aren’t exactly friends. should i become friends with her first then say something? how do i go about it? if you have any questions i’ll try to answer them. | Crushes |
Soooo I need someone to talk abt fictional crushes with. I’m going to list a FEW of them because I have a lot lmao. Anyone can comment their fictional crushes and if we have some of the same we can totally gush over them.
-Raven from Teen Titans (the original of course)
-Leon Kennedy from the Resident Evil games
-Gwen from Total Drama Island
-Touka Kirishima from Tokyo Ghoul
-Langa Hasigawa from Sk8 the Infinity
-Hange Zoe from Attack on Titan
-Kuroo Tetsuro from Haikyuu
- Abigail Blyg from The Quarry (video game)
-Armin Arlert from Attack on Titan (my boyfriend looks like s4 Armin)
-Abby Sciuto from NCIS
-Misa Amane from Death Note (ong Light was crazy for the way he treated her I woulda been all over her-)
This is only a few 😭 | Crushes |
YALL HAVE ANY TIPS ON HOW TO CONFESS TO SOMEONE IN APRIL FOOLS SO THAT THEY WOULD THINK ITS A PRANK?? | Crushes |
This is a lot of built up confusion and stress because I have no body else to tell so this might not sound coherent and just too much information, sorry.
So me and this boy have known each other for 4 years now and for a background, he is one of those "popular boys" and I'm just the average girl I don't want to make this weird but I wouldn't say I'm that good looking at all in fact I got bullied for my looks and appearances. However he is like the leader type, all the girls love him and all the boys want to be his closest mate.
It all started in year 7, we never really talked a lot because it was known that he liked this girl who was very popular in at the time (I'll call her K for convenience) because she just was and still is drop-dead gorgeous, so it would make sense that the most handsome and popular guy would get with the most beautiful and popular girl. Well at the time I among others had a crush on him but because my close friend had a crush on him I couldn't do anything and it didn't help the fact that I was friends with K and she would always make me help her with being with my crush, so ultimately I had to conceal my feelings and tried to forget it because after all it was just a small crush. Or so I thought. Time came were it was around December I think and in my classroom I sat at the far left and he sat in the fat right but we were in the same row. I would randomly catch him staring and when I looked back he would play it off as a game. He started becoming more and more interested in me and talking to me which was strange because we were nowhere near friends but I just brushed it off as him being bored. Then of course lockdown occurred and when everyone was doing online learning, me and him and a few others that struggled online learning had in school help. This time he was really interested in me because I'd revealed I liked anime and he did too. This continued for the rest of the year.
Then came year 8. This was when a lot of confusing things happened. When we came for the new school year, it was official that he didn't like K anymore because his friend liked her so he wanted his friend to be happy with her. Throughout the year he did strange things. During PE we were playing rounders and when it was my turn to hit the ball using the base he all of a sudden became a mentor and started teaching me what to do. He came up behind me extremely close and started touching my hands trying to show how to do hit a ball.. but he never did that with anybody else..? He was always so close when we had to line up I could practically feel his body against mine, which was strange. And in the early stages of year 8 we had that online learning again where only a few people came who needed help. I was there for some time but then he came and the teachers just had to put him right next to me. Basically we did the online lessons on teams just in school and did the independent work in school. Always after we finished the work we got to do what we wanted on the laptops and whenever I'd be doing my own stuff he would randomly look over at me, but maybe this was just him being curious. Another time he was teasing me with my laptop by unplugging the cord and turning the volume up. I had my hand on the volume and he put his hand on top of mine, that shook me to the core and I got so nervous but he looked normal, I just thought I was overthinking. Another time he randomly asked me to say his name? I said what? and he said nothing never mind. Like? There were so many instances like this that were strange. When we got out of online learning, and actual school I happened to be put right next to him. He was my desk partner, however whenever it came to talking tasks we never ever talked only sometimes. This was my fault because I was so shy and he would always try to make conversation he never got tired of it for a full year and I feel kind of bad. He did all these strange things that made me think maybe he likes me? But then his friends starting calling me his wife, saying I belonged to him or acting like I was their "bae" but then my crush would get mad and say shut up that's my girl, or that's my wifey. But sometimes when he would say this he was smiling, which made me feel like it's just not true. I remember another time he asked me on a date to Nando's :/ saying he would pay but him and his friend were laughing the whole time? The only notable thing was that his face was flushed but that could've just been because he was laughing. I felt like he was doing what those popular boys always do by acting like they like a girl for jokes or just for fun to play with her feelings. Even though he was always staring at me, like I remember he tried staring at me through a pocket mirror but it was so obvious, he kept doing things that made me feel like he didn't, it didn't make any sense. Another time I remember we were doing silent reading and then I kicked his leg because my friend told me too then he said to my leg near his so I did then he trapped my leg in the chair and people watching were like look at those two, when he finally let my leg go he said did you like that? I was so confused. Then the people across who were watching pointed at him did a heart then at me. Meaning you like her. He shook his head and made a disgusted face and pointed at himself then did a heart then at the girl who said that. Do you see what I mean? Later, K was moved to sit behind us and she liked him and would always do things to get him to notice her like she would emphasis her boobs over the table and he would copy her and she would giggle, seemed like flirting? But then another time, he just randomly kept throwing her books on the floor and made her angry at him and he would make it known he didn't like her because she cheated on his friend who liked her. All these things built up making it confusing for me to know whether he liked me.
Anyway, I'm talking too much basically a lot of similar thing was happening in year 9 just amplified with confusion like for example, 24/7 staring and always trying to talk to me and being close and stuff. He had this thing where he would act tough and I would copy him and he found it funny so whenever he saw me he would try and act tough just for me to copy him and he loved it. I don't know why but he always made a face where he looked so just excited, the biggest smile whenever I talked back to him. Maybe it was because I never really did talk to him. When I sat behind him he would always act like he's stretching but then stretch super far where his head would practically be on my desk and then open his eyes and make that excited big smile face again. I remember one time one of friends said something and this is probably the biggest stretch ever because I am really bad at hearing. I heard him say "it's cause he likes you". But I said huh? and he said huh? I said what did you say? And he was like nothing, nothing. But I could've heard wrong. I remember one day I was like maybe he does actually like me because whenever I seen him he always had a flushed face. So I tried to sneak a peak at his face and sure enough, he really didn't have the same flushed face, so I had hope. But in the same exact day, he was staring at me and I made a awkward smile and then he made the most annoyed :l smile ever. I think maybe he thought the smile was that I didn't like him, but idk. In the residential trip, we went to a farm and he was always so close with K more than ever this time. He was playing with her hands, sitting close with her, etc etc. But randomly one time when I was sitting in a close-by area, he just kept staring? Later, it was dinner and my teacher brought her kids and they were so cute I was looking at them and they were sat on his table where his other friends normally sit and he was sat in the same eye of direction as him but it was clearly obvious I wasn't looking at him because of the gap. He randomly got angry and shouted "Yo who are you looking at" and turned around then said "Oh" and was fine again? Was he angry because he thought I was looking at him or because I was looking at who he thought was his friends. But why would he care if he was all lovey-dovey with K? Do you see what I mean? And also my friend who sat next to him for a term would always ask who I liked but when she said my name he would always say no. He swore to god he didn't like me. But then randomly these girls would come up to me saying my crush likes me and he always talks about me? So much more happened but this would be a whole novel by then but just know that he regards me as a friend.
Fast-forward a lot of this wishy-washy business and into year 10, this current year. We are in different classes so we don't interact a lot but he still would try and talk to me during break. He would call my name and then nod his head while smiling all the time. And again 24/7 staring. But then one time during detention he went and sat in front of me saying is this where (my friend) sits, I said yea and then he sat down and looked at me and did the :l smile again? More recently like just around two weeks ago I had double detention and he could've sat anywhere but he sat in front of me. I just tried to ignore it but he randomly turned around but I couldn't tell if he was looking at me or somebody else. Then when we moved to the double detention room, the only seat that was left was the seat in front of him so I sat there and like he randomly called me name and then smiled/smirked and nodded at me like he always did. However this was weird because recently he's just been quiet like for the past month or two maybe even three I don't know, he just has completely ignored my existence but he was talking to other girls just fine. I remember one time I bumped into him and he didn't even look down at me once. Completely stopped talking for him to ask like this. Then recently, it just got worse. Complete ignorance but still kept staring. He started having private talks with his year 11 friends and would always look in my direction even when I'm alone? Literally on like last last Thursday we had an enrichment and we were outside and he was again in a private chat except it was with the boy who literally sat right behind me and always asks me questions and such which was weird but probably me overthinking it. He was literally so nearby to where I was sat with my friends so I thought nothing was wrong (btw my friends don't know that I like him because they all like him themselves). Come to see when I checked my phone because it was his birthday, and this was on snap btw, one of his friends had @ him saying happy birthday and I clicked the @ and it said add friend. I tried searching his user and it never showed up. I checked on my alt acc and it did. This just solidified that he blocked me. He never told me anything, none of the sort. I thought we were at least good friends but to be blocked? Unfriend is fine but to be blocked?? It wasn't like I texted him 24/7 in fact I probably texted him like a few times probably 5 at best. The next few days he never said anything, he was just weirdly quiet and stared at me but it was like a weird atmosphere? Two days ago, his friends were teasing me and normally he would join in but this time he just kept silent and just stared. Again I was walking to my class on just last Friday in the morning and he was walking with his friend and they just stared at me. Again when I left my class to go to the toilet I saw them again in the hallway and this time and again I could feel their eyes but I never looked at them once both time because I was so mad/sad. This is eating me up inside because I think I genuinely loved this boy. I wasn't going to do anything since my friends like him and it just wouldn't be fair, but still. It still hurts and I have nobody to tell this too that I can trust.
Was it all just a lie? Did he never really like me? Was he just playing with my feelings and that's why he blocked me? Is it because he's just moved on, I mean this has go on since we were like 10 and now we are 15.
tl;dr - A long time friend and crush of mine who seemed to have mixed feelings about me now starting to avoid and ignore me and ultimately blocked me. | Crushes |
I‘m just so emotionally attached to them andI finally want to stop thinking about them 24/7. Do you have any advice? | Crushes |
I didnt do it but I gave some small signs and she didnt seem to entertain it
i didnt take it too far
[https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/12abetq/is\_it\_ok\_to\_confess\_to\_your\_bestfriend\_who\_has\_a/jezdt3u/?context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/12abetq/is_it_ok_to_confess_to_your_bestfriend_who_has_a/jezdt3u/?context=3) (for context)
in the end guys, dont do it. | Crushes |
i miss him sm :( he said that he liked me, but I dont tell him what i feelin abt him. I always seen his messages cuz he end with ok, k all the time :) this indeed makes me mad and decide not to reply him. What I should do to make us like those days we were? we didnt see us in reality and just knew thru game🙁 we didnt chat each other for a week. Do he still like me ?
p/s: sorry if im not good at english 😭 | Crushes |
Well i asked her out and had a chance.. but as i said in my previous posts, she was way too nice, not only with me but also with many other boys. I thought she meant it and i wanted to forget about all of those ideas, until i saw her holding hands with someone else who may be her boyfriend (who btw isnt in our same school, and i asked her out when we were inside) so well uh, all i know is they were together a couple months back, then idk whats new. Any ideas guys? | Crushes |
so theres this guy I have been crushing on for like months, and we finally spoke some weeks ago, and started to say hi to each other lol, I was too shy to do it before. He spotted me sometimes and last time I saw him, we were the only two people at the gym, so we talked a little bit (while he was spotting me even if I didn’t ask him to do it) about some gym influencers we both follow and u know stuff like that, but it was a very short convo, since as I finished the last set I had to go home. Well, I saw him yesterday, and I wanted to talk to him so bad but I didn’t know what to tell him, as I didn’t need any spot, and we’re not friends enough to like talk every time we see each other. So, after this preamble lol, I wanted to ask for some convo starters, some tips to overcome shyness and keep a conversation going after I maybe ask him to help me. Thanks in advance! | Crushes |
So there's this guy I've been interested in since last week. I met him at this sports competition I went to with my friends. I thought he was really handsome and I tried to ignore my own thoughts since having a crush is the last thing I needed. But omg--I couldn't stop thinking about him for almost 2 days straight. So at the last day of the competition, I mustered up the courage to go up to him and ask for his ig. Luckily, he agreed and gave it to me. We even had a short conversation while he was typing it but that doesn't really matter. The problem is, we kind of have a language barrier since I'm a foreign student. I can speak his language but I'm not as fluent as a local yet. What's even worse is that he's grade 12 and part of the varsity team, while I'm only grade 10 (im supposed to be grade 11 but i got delayed for a year because of language class). He also only has 2 months left until he graduates. ugh, i dont know but i think he's just wayyy out of my league. Back to the topic, when i got back home i decided to dm him to congratulate him and his team for winning that night. He replied about 15 mins after but i just responded with an emoji since I didnt really know how to carry the convo after that. Now, a few girls are asking me for his ig which im ngl makes me really jealous but i ended up giving it anyway. I'm so confused right now. I'm usually not the type of person to do the first move, so asking for his ig was really out of character for me. I even dmed him :') I dont even know what im supposed to be doing now. He's probably just a small crush but I still really wanna get to know him. Right now, I'm just waiting for him to post another story so that I could reply to it and start a conversation with him again but it's been a whole day since he last posted so I cant really do that. I dont even know if he'd wanna get to know me so maybe all this is just a waste. | Crushes |
So we have a show we are performing in theatre tomorrow and her character has to flirt with my character and apparently when we were running today I was blushing. Anyway I am going to tell her I like her either after the show or at the end of class the next day. Wish me luck! | Crushes |
I know these are completely hard to answer and I eye roll for even typing this out but I’m just a bit confused tbh and would very much appreciate some advice.
Just for clarity I’m currently in a relationship and there’s a coworker I have that I’d class as a friend but not sure if he’s just being nice or if there is anything else.
He’s quite reserved and doesn’t really speak to me much in work much but whenever we have work drinks he always ends up coming up to me and we end up chatting the night away. He’s always keen to ask me questions about myself but im aware this could be him just being nice and making sure I feel included. (He’s mentioned this from time to time). He notices things about me too and makes comments on this when we are out and tends to laugh at my jokes when there not even that funny.
When we were out last he bought me food and some drinks (I offered but he flat out said he’d pay) then offered me a place to crash at his since I don’t live locally.
However when I’ve messaged him now and again on social I get one basic reply and that’s it like not really trying to continue the conversation. I get some people are super friendly and maybe I’ve just overthought bits but be good to get a bit of an understanding. | Crushes |
First of all, I would like to thank all of you who said encouraging words on my post yesterday. As you read in the title I was rejected because of age shes 27 I’m 18. Knowing that kinda makes me feel a little better. | Crushes |
Hey so we have a field trip a short one and there is my crush going as well. He has rejected me but gives me hints and we are in the same group and I wanna makes small moves and gestures any advice? | Crushes |
Me and my crush have been texting for quite a bit and it has been going very well. There are some flirtatious messages and the vibe was good. Right now is the Easter break and I texted her yesterday if she wanted to continues playing the 20 questions game. She then texted me “sorrrryy I’m a bit busy during the holidays:)”. Is this a way of saying straight up no? Or that she wants to play but wants to focus on her holiday. | Crushes |
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So i've had this crush on a guy for a long long time, I dream about him, and i used to think he was really nice. I do tend to look at him at class a bit, but i don't really think thats a bad thing. A while ago, everyone found out that I like him, including him. I was really upset at the time, obviously, and I knew that this meant i would never be able to get with him because everytime I text him or talk to him, he would know it's because I like him. And also made me feel like if he was nice to me it was just cuz he didn't want to hurt my feelings.
I really thought that he might like me back, cuz he said nice things to me, and we had a bit of a banter going on. One of my friends, who is a guy, found out before anyone else that I like him, and he told him as well. He's literally spoken to my crush about me but he's never said what they say. So that was annoying. Anyways, so I'm teasing this friend, and in retaliation, he says "u like \_\_\_\_" "And i met him yesterday and he said that everytime u see him u drool"
i felt like shit, and also it was like a slap in the face. Did my crush really think that about me? It confirmed my theory that nothing could every happen because he already knew, anyway. It also kinda gave me the ick. So basically i declared, yeah well i don't like him anymore so yk. But i don't drool at him as well, if anything i ignore him more than i used to , i just walk by and make a point of not looking at him at all.
On one hand, I don't want to like him anymore because it made me cry, but on the otherhand i know that he says wild things that i don't think he means all the time, and he might have just said that because he was with his friends? Idk.
I want to like him, and i do, but i really don't want to get hurt or humiliated. Also fuck the friend who talked to him, he's a dick :)
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please help me | Crushes |
I'm 19, male, and she's the most beautiful person I ever saw. I don't know her age, but I did find out her name, I will tell that later. She's also quite tall, actually taller than me.
I first saw her sometimes on the train to school/to home. At first, I noticed that she was tall, and later that we used the same train sometimes. I thought that I could get a train buddy, because she was kinda cute and later I developed a crush. I didn't talk to her at first because she seemed nervous, but later, I was also nervous. I also found out that she goes to my school, but she's probably a grade below me. On the way home, I also saw that she lives in the street next to mine.
I also see her in school sometimes. She often looks back, but not always. She's often with her friends, but I don't really pay any attention to them. One of them even marked me as friends on Facebook. Later, I looked at the "Suggested friends" on FB, and my crush was there! That's how I found out her name. I looked at her past and on one of them, from 2020, there were comments which signalled something romantic, but on her newest post from 2022 February, he didn't even give that a like, so that relationship is over.
Also, at school, it happened two times that she and one of her friends were kinda staring at me. When I looked back, they started giggling, I hope that's not a bad sign. They probably know that I like her, and maybe she also likes me, but I'm not sure.
Today, I also saw her, she was talking with classmates. She looked at me, and a bit later, her classmates (two people) one-by-one turned around and looked immediately at me, so that's a good sign, right?
Today, when I was waiting for the train, I saw a girl who was similar to her, but it was really far away and my exesight is not the best, so it's possible that it wasn't her. She was with a guy, but they didn't seem to be really close, no hand-holding, and she was on her phone. They also split up later, so I don't think that she likes him. There was also a girl with me who likes me, but I don't feel that way about her (but she's often rude to me so I don't believe it, but she said it and often calls me handsome), and it's likely that this was also the case with her.
Also, once when I was talking with a girl-friend (I don't have a girlfriend because I only like the tall queen), she checked her out, maybe she got jealous? I made some distance so it doesn't seem that we are dating, and I hope that she actually likes me and I'm not just delusional.
Since it's hard for me to intiate with strangers, I'm waiting for the perfect opportunity to talk to her. Sadly, I don't want our first meeting to be on the train, I want something special, but that opportunity never rises.
What do you guys think? | Crushes |
On the last day of school, I got to witness my crush pecking a girl on her lips twice, and he even grabbed her ass. After our school's festival, he walked away with her. The first thought that came to my head was definitely that they fucked that day (or even before).
I’m also confused because my ex best friend whom I loved and cherished for years, and who also treated me like shit, decided to apologize for his actions. Now, he’s texting me and he seemed different than before, and I he changed for the better. I decided to give him a second chance because we didn’t give each other the time to dig into our misunderstandings and explain them to each other. I was just very mad at him that I had to cut ties with him.
I don’t know if he still considers me more than a friend though, but I clearly told him that as long as we are friends, I have no problem with texting and meeting him. Ah, it’s a long story but I don’t go into more details.
I’m just in a very confused state and I feel overwhelmed. I’m hurt by my crush and shocked because of my ex male best friend. I don’t know if I’m asking for advice, I just wanted to vent ig | Crushes |
Me and my crush have realized that we both like each other and now we are trying to talk about it in real life, and it’s really hard for me to say it, i know what i want to say beforehand, but then when we sit and are about to talk about it, nothing comes out of me, I wanted to ask you if it would be wrong or just bad to text her about it, or if it ruins everything, she’s fine with me texting her about it, im just worried that i’m acting stupid and childish | Crushes |
So my friend teased my crush about me liking her on our group chat and my crush got mad because of it and left the group, I'm sure it's my fault for telling some of my friends about liking her to the point I did not expect almost everyone in our class knows. I did try making them stop teasing but they will continue it after some minute. I hate my situation right now, she doesn't like me why am I still continuing? I have no idea what to do at this point. | Crushes |
So I have a crush he used to have feelings for me bit I'm not sure and I didn't know. He's in the year above so it's kinda weird to just go up to him randomly and be like "well hello there" and it's annoying cause I only know one person who kinda hangs out with him like none of my friends are friends with his group. LMAO this sounds so cringe but yeah :) | Crushes |
Ok so I have been having a gut feeling recently or well have been noticing someone (ill be referring to them as them/they)
Anyways, ok first they touched my waist 3 times, i dont want to specify how in fear that they use reddit but for the 3rd time they were asking a question if I had scissors and approached me by poking my waist unnecessarily (to clarify we aren't friends just mutuals [friends of friends]) and idk they couldve just called my name or tapped me on the shoulders.
2nd point we have a group project where I am grouped with them. And they always manage to sit next to me (3 times) and be like squished next to me because the sits were full. The first time I did not think about it much. The second time though, I sat next to my friends and when one of my friends left her sit they sat right next to me. And when I asked where my friend was and she appeared they squished to my side further and pat to the sit left of them and told my friend to sit there (I was sitting on theit right).
3rd point is the same setting above where they unnecessarily placed their hand on top of mine. Like my hand was resting on a device and they just rested it on top (and they weren't gonna use said device).
4th point they were sitting on a bench and I was sitting on a stair in front of them. And I noticed something kept hitting my waist and I turned to look it was their foot and as soon as I noticed they leaned down and brushed out the dirt that got on my blouse and I swear to god I saw them smiling (I am not sure). And the same thing happened again but on my shoulder and again brushed out the dirt that got on my shoulder.
5th point same setting as the 4th point I felt something touch the left side of my face. Like a hand sliding or something and I turned to look who did it, they were looking away and the people beside them were too busy talking with others but at this point I am not really sure.
that's about it | Crushes |
confusing | Crushes |
Omg i love him so much. He is so cute and and sweet and kind and always gentle with me. I find it so cute when he panics about what he says when he says something really sweet. And omg the sweet words. I'm like very sure he likes me (i plan to confess in like a few days). Like idk man, saying "i love you" each day multiple times a day, and constantly telling me about how he wants to hold me, doesn't sound very platonic no more. And he is so cute when he talks about his interests. I could listen to him all day and i would never get bored. And he is so caring, he often tells me about how much he wants to take care of me. And he is often very confident, and when i tease him or bully him a bit he is completely unphased and just owns it. I feel so loved when he talks to me. Literally everywhere i look i see something that reminds me of him. Weather it be a notebook that is his favorite color, or a drawing of his favorite animal, or a tree that reminds me of a conversation we had. God this man made me fall so hard for him. Omg and each time he tells me about how much he wants to hold me or carry me or just be around me. Like i melt. I have become so soft for this guy. I completely lost all composure and cool and turned into mush. i could literally go on forever talking about him but i really gotta stop lol | Crushes |
What’s the difference between feeling strong crush/love feelings for someone in your chest vs. in your stomach?
Is there a difference?
Example:
Someone who has a crush on someone else, felt their physical feelings of “like” in their chest. Versus when they liked someone else it was felt in their stomach (butterflies).
What are y’all’s thoughts on this? | Crushes |
i have a facebook friend that im kind of in love with. Like she is my dream girl. So i wrote her a song. Then i used kanye west ai voice. Then i chopped the voice up onto a kanye beat. Then i lipsynced the love song to kanyes mouth using an ai app. Then i edited a video to put the kanye performance of my song to her in his voice along with like a collection of images..I was planning on using her photos n videos. Since she puts out tons every day cus she is an aspiring influencer..SO yeah? IS that creepy ? To spend like 10 hours on this? And would it b cool as long as i didnt add her own awesome photos to it? I ask now cuz im editing the video. And want to make it cool but maybe im going too far using the pictures? even though it isnt any sexual images or body stuff, jus8t like her eyes and cool photos of her? HOW DO I MAKE THIS NOT CREEPY? BUT IMPRESS HER N STAND OUT AMONGST THE OTHER MILLION DUDES IN HER INBOX? pls help | Crushes |
fat crush on this beautiful boy who cashiers at a market i deliver bouquets to once a week. we say hi and every time i want to chat a lil i’ll go buy a coke or something. i’m 20, he looks about my age, and it’s been a few weeks of this. we’ve established common interests and have a lil routine and i do sorta get the vibe he likes me, but could definitely be wishful thinking. in most cases i’d just be direct w him bc he’s cuuuute af but work is involved and id have to run into him every week if he turns me down. my coworkers say to make a move and bring him a flower and fully introduce myself (still don’t know his name LOL). but idk. feels like too much but also not enough. but what can i do to communicate interest without actually asking him out? or do i just let this work crush lie. help me yall | Crushes |
Yesterday was the big day. For the first time in literal years I asked out a girl I like.
**TL;DR at the end because this might be a very long post**
I asked her if she had a moment today, because I needed to tell her something (aka ask her out). We met up at the lockers during lunch break. It was a bit busy so we went outside so we could have a moment just with the two of us.
I was actually worried she would make assumptions or get scared by this or anything but she handled my request to talk really well. She came over as trustworthy and it felt like she would be there for me, if there was something I was struggling with. I didn't quite expect that, considering we aren't all that close actually
So then, the time had come. I had to say it. I thought it would probably take a while before I could finally spit out the words, but they came out quite quickly. And there I said it: "You know, <her name>, I really like you, would you maybe like to go out on a date with me?"
But then, she dropped the truth: "I think you're a very nice guy, but I don't really like you in *that* way." She told me I was really brave for putting myself out there, considering not many guys would dare to do the same. She also assured me that nothing will become awkward between us and she wants to continue our friendship as is
During all of this I didn't know how to feel (yet). Though I was still shaking from my nerves. I told her that I didn't see myself as a guy who is all that willing to take such risks, and we talked for a short while. At the end, I asked her for a hug because I was still shaking and she gave me one.
After we parted ways, I went to one of my usual friend groups and someone very conveniently made cupcakes for a high tea and had some left. I took one and spent some time with them, and when the topic of the conversation shifted to crushes, I decided to open up to them about what just happened.
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I expected myself to burst into tears immediately whenever my crush would reject me, but it didn't happen. I thought I was just suppressing it, just to make it through the day so I could let it all out at home.
At home though, I finally realized what I was actually feeling. Eventually I did start to cry. I was sad and disappointed about the rejection, but not so much to my surprise. No, the real reason I was crying, was because I was overwhelmed with other, more positive emotions.
I was so grateful for how my crush handled the "news". I appreciate so much that she rejected me in such a nice way, so that she wouldn't hurt me as much. I was so glad to have her in my life, even if things didn't work out as I hoped. I knew that I will miss her so much when school ends. But I won't miss her as a crush I didn't get to make a move on. I will miss her as a girl, who meant a lot to me because of how sweet she is.
Tbh, the aforementioned feelings still make me cry while I'm typing this out. But, just like I mentioned before, I'm crying because of an overwhelming sense of appreciation towards her.
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**TL;DR:** I finally asked a girl out for the first time in literal years. She rejected me, but did so in the nicest way possible. She gave me props for being so brave, and assured me that this won't make our friendship awkward. This rejection made me realize that she means a lot to me, even outside of the fact that I'm crushing on her. I'm not all that sad that things didn't go as I hoped.
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I want to thank everyone here, and especially my and my crush's mutual friend, for supporting me and giving me advice along the way. You really helped me grow as a person. | Crushes |
I have recently started hanging out with friends again from high school that I haven't seen in a year. One of the friends is a guy that I used to be into from ages 13 to 15. I went to turnabout with him and kissed him and then right after covid happened and we kind of lost contact. When I went back for senior year, I didn't have any classes with him. When I passed him in the halls or saw him during after school events we usually only smiled at each other or had like 2 minute conversations. Seeing him again and spending so much time with him these past two weeks has resulted in me sort of crushing on him again. My friends invited me out Saturday night and we ended up going back to one of their houses to drink and play a card game. We sat next to each other during the game and kept getting closer to each other. The game was about learning more about the people you play with and it felt like we were really connecting. He made a few comments about me being pretty and was complimenting a lot. I ended up getting pretty drunk to the point where I could barely walk. I remember him being very helpful the whole time such as holding me up and bringing me water and crackers. I ended up falling onto him at some point and we cuddled. I fell asleep on his lap and woke up like that. All of this just made me more into him, but I feel like everything that happened only happened because we were both drunk and that it doesn't mean anything. Idk if I should just pretend the night didn't exist or try testing the waters with him and seeing if he maybe is interested in me. | Crushes |
So, there’s this girl at work that I’m crushing on HARD. I can’t stop thinking about her ALL the time. It’s interfering with my work and everything. Sad thing is, I’m pretty sure she’s into me, but it could never (and shouldn’t) happen. I just need to stop thinking about her 24/7. It wouldn’t be a big deal if I didn’t have to see her pretty much every day. I do tend to get obsessive thoughts in general, not just about women. Can anyone maybe help me or give me some advice? | Crushes |
I’m 21 years old, and I want to know what it feels like to have a crush. I come from a country where arranged marriages are the norm, and dating is taboo. I'm still young, and I'm not interested in marriage. I just feel empty inside like love is missing in my life.
:( | Crushes |
I think I might be maybe growing feelings towards my friend a girl and I’m a trans man and she is only into girls and I don’t like her but when we hang out alone it just feels so normal like a date like chemistry but we’re not | Crushes |
Where do I start? Last year for about a month, I had a “maybe” crush, where I don’t know if I liked her or not and was kinda still deciding. This lasted for about a month until I (male) decided to suppress my feelings because at the time, I thought the relationship wouldn’t work out. Since then, I’ve always assumed that the answer to my question of whether I liked her or not was a simple no. My “maybe” and I were friends at that point and still are today, and although I wouldn’t call ourselves really buddy buddy close, she is the closest friend I have that’s a girl. About a few weeks ago, I was talking with her over ft. It was about dumb school drama and all that jazz but we came to the topic of relationships. She said that she didn’t understand people who had a crush on another just for the sake of having a crush. (Previously, we had both talked about how neither of us had ever had a real crush before) I said that I “understood the feeling,” and suddenly she got really interested. Obviously, she knows that I never had a crush before but asked me how I understood it. I told her that I had a “maybe” and that I didn’t really figure out if I liked them or not. She playfully called me a liar and started asking a bunch of questions about my “maybe.” She got really interested and wanted to know who it was. She asked if she knew them, how old they were, etc. When I asked her why she was interested, she never really gave a solid, clear response. One question she asked that stood out to me was if I still thought about my “maybe” from time to time. I answered with “sometimes” believing it to be a neutral way to answer, and one that isn’t totally untrue. She also asked me why I stopped liking my maybe, and I responded with “it wouldn’t have worked out.” (I thought we were better of as friends although it still stung) She asked me why I thought that and I kinda just shrugged it off, repeating my answer. She started going on about how I never tried, so I wouldn’t know if it could have worked or not. Basically just calling me out for not trying lol, as friends do.
Fast forward a day or two and we’re sitting together in class and I talked to her about an upcoming trip I had. I joked that I was permanently moving there and she said something along the lines of, “You’ll never get to tell your maybe that they were a maybe.” I don’t think she’s brought it up since.
Now, as a guy with very little experience on relationships, what should I do? This girl and I have been joked around with as a ship before by other friends, and both of us deny any feelings for the other. In fact today I was asked if I was rizzing her up.
What should I do? (I’ll explain more if further context is needed) | Crushes |
I’m (25 f)
This guy at work (34 m ) is really shy and he often stares at me at work. He has stared at me and hold his stare when I look up at him. And sometimes he looks down immediately. One time I was bagging at a check stand and his entire was turned facing me and he was looking at me. His body was completely turned away from the checker. I looked up and got shy and looked down immediately. In the corner of my eye I could see him still staring at me. Also my friend talks to him about me and he says “ it won’t work unless I talk to him”. So I go up and talk to him and try to chat with him about work and myself. He is very quiet so he usually doesn’t respond much. He tries to make me laugh though at times. I find it strange he won’t start conversations with me but wants me to talk to him. I do think he knows I like him.
Any idea why he acts like this? Does he like me? | Crushes |
So I’ve been friends with this girl since I started high school but I’ve recently realized that I have feelings for her. I feel like there’s a lot of signs but I’m just not sure. We’ve been talking a lot more recently and she texts me a lot more than she would probably need to. Since I have one of the same classes as her, but a different period, she’ll ask like questions about what we’re doing. There’s other people she could ask but she only asks me. We’ve also been staying up really late just talking to each other on ft, the other day she talked about how she wouldn’t want to date someone she doesn’t know and would rather have known them first. Also earlier today she was texting me and she was with her friends when out of nowhere she FaceTimed me. Idk exactly what was going on but I heard one of her friends say “she chickened out” and then immediately she hung up. She then called back right after and her friend had the phone and said “there’s really no point to this call I’m just doing this to harass (her name).” So these are all the signs I can really think of but I’m still not entirely sure if they mean anything so please help. | Crushes |
My crush seems to like me back he’s sometimes stares at me in class and try’s to get my attention. He has even tried to get me alone before. Should I tell him how I feel about or wait till I’m sure. If I do confess how should I tell him. | Crushes |
i had a concert and when we finished i checked my phone and here we are. aahdsfdhjrwnewh HELP | Crushes |
Idk man, I'm crushing hard. But I'm getting the same vibes back from this person too..like I feel they like me back. I'm awkward and shy though.
I guess I'm trying to keep it cool cause what if they don't feel the same? I don't know.
I also feel like it goes way beyond just a crush. Cause im literally in love with them. Everytime I see him, i love being around him and I oddly miss him when I leave work? I've never felt this way before honestly. I feel safe around him, I like talking to him.
I don't know how to navigate this. Do I play it cool? Do I ask if he wants to hang out? | Crushes |
I finally went out to eat with my childhood crush of over a decade. The feelings are gone and we have no chance of being together, but I had to just share that my dream finally came true. It feels like the closure I needed to move on. Every part of it was so amazing and made me so happy!!! Agh I’m on cloud nine right now. | Crushes |
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