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We known each other since school started but started talking less and less. Since he now has his own friend group. We just kinda know each other and that’s it. When we first met he was definitely interested in me and even sat next to me sometimes. We have similar interests but now he always seems so bored when I’m around. I regret not making a move before and now he already has other friends. I don’t know if we can still be friends now that schools almost over, how do I ask him? Maybe next year? | Crushes |
So... I do acting lessons and this guy I've kinda liked since we first met. We got partnered up for lots of activities and he's like the sweetest guy who is caring! On one day I had sore knees and he asked "are you ok?" Today I had a show and I back stage we were going into our lines and order and he said "keep walking" and gently placed his hand on my back to get me to keep walking! Then did it again to get me to move into my spot... After that we were talking with others and I was trying to say something but kept cut off so after a while he asked "what were you gonna say?"
Advice? What does he mean by that? | Crushes |
some tips is that its a girl and the name is norwegian so feel free to use Google
(shoutout to **Incarnation101213 for the inspiration )** | Crushes |
So I went to the store with my dad and my crush’s twin was in the store and when we got in the car to leave I told him that my crush’s twin was in there and he said, “Twin? Oh that’s good if it doesn’t work out with one you can just go with the other” 💀💀💀I lost it lmfao | Crushes |
That's the post basically. Me and my crush have been talking a little bit less because he's been busier with his own things in his life. I just said that I miss him. I didn't say this out of the blue, I found a way to sneak it in the conversation. Anyways, he didn't reply to that lmao, but he did to the messages I sent before and after that specific message. It's alright! I wasn't expecting him to say "I miss you" back anyways.
So I just wanted to share my takeaway from this. Don't hold yourself back from showing people that you care for them (unless of course you're doing too much and are suffocating them). Life is short. These people in your life important. It's okay to be affectionate sometimes. Also that this told me all I had to know. He does not miss me lmaooo and does not feel that affectionate towards me. Well, it's not like he likes me anyway (he knows that I like him).
Overall I'm proud of myself for speaking how I feel and for not being so affected by the fact that he didn't even reply to it. Now it's time to lie low 0.0 | Crushes |
hi | Crushes |
Dm me if u can help:
Basically there’s this girl in my class, I’m pretty sure she likes me aswell and today she was always looking me and walked up to me and asked me is I had a spare pen and I gave it to her and ties to carry on the conversation but then we had to go into class but she looked interested and not bored that was the first time we talked,
There’s alot more but yeah Il explain if I can help | Crushes |
Writing on my phone so sorry for any fuck ups.
I have liked a guy for ages, if you're any out history and shit check my profile it's my last post, after we last hung out I was kind of hopeful and was wondering how to make a move but the more I think about it the more I realise he probably doesn't like me and its just to confusing and painfu.
Im becoming more and more obbessed with him, constantly checking what he's doing if he's online on discord or seeing what he's doing on snapchat and constantly trying to come up with shit just to message him so I can talk to him or come up with excuses to travel 2 hours by bus so I can hang out with him and I need to stop.
It's unhealthy and I'm so fucking in love with him I need to get over him and the only way that's going to happen if I get rejected or stop talking to him, he has plenty of friends he would hardly miss me and I'm the one who starts nearly all our conversations and instigates hanging out.
The question is do I slowly do it? We talk alot mostly through sending memes on insta and tiktoks or replying to story's, I'm considering just stopping doing all that and just leaving him alone completely and if he wants to talk he can be the one to reach out.
The small stupid hopeful part of me though hopes he might feel the same and if I just stop he'll think I'm not interested and give up on me.
I don't know am I being stupid? Should I tell him so we can have a conclusion to our friendship or do it slowly and never let him find out?
I'm moving in a couple months where I'll be more like 3/4 hours away by bus so we will basically never hang out again so I feel like I should tell him just before I move so there's like you know something to really separate us I don't know
I also feel selfish letting myself be so close to him asking him for cuddles and shit as a friend when Ik it's because I like him like I'm using him and he doesn't know the real reason why | Crushes |
i don’t wanna give to much away but i have been talking to this guy for a little while and he said “whenever you wanna come over lmk” with context it’s not as weird i really like this guy but i feel a little awkward going to his house, advice? | Crushes |
So, It's summer break. I'm thinking about messaging her. We don't know a lot of things about each other, so I don't know any excuses to text her. Just saying "hi" doesn't feel like an option, because I don't know what to ask then, "how is your day going" doesn't really sound like a good option. Should I even text her?
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That's it guys. This was my first crush in last 7 years. She kept me giving mixed signals which made it even more difficult. But I got an straight rejection today. Which indeed feels like my heart is being torn apart.
Please do not give someone mixed signals. Direct rejections are much better. | Crushes |
Does that mean anything and is he talking about me? | Crushes |
this is the first time i’ve probably felt like this so it’s a new experience to me.
I’ve known him for about 5 years and god it’s just took me all that time to figure out how i feel about him.
It was a really pure love until i realised he’d never really see me in the way i see him. He’s not interested in me like that which, i thought i could handle, but it seems like i can’t. It’s really hard putting up an act without telling him how i really feel because i know i’m just going to get let down - not to mention he’s already got a gf and as much as a i respect his and her boundaries (that id never cross) it just hurts watching them together.
I know i’m going to be put down if i confess.
Any tips on how to stop feeling this way and to get over him without putting our friendship at risk? | Crushes |
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTdKjhAGE/?k=1 | Crushes |
Hopefully better for you than it is for me lol | Crushes |
Have you ever looked at your crush and thought "She's a better person than me. I have no business being with her, what do we have in common?" Then you finally talk to her and you find out that you two have a lot in common. I recently got around to talking to my crush and I'm just shocked to find out how much we have in common. It's like a breath of fresh air for me because it makes me feel that I'm not alone and that the girl I like is experiencing almost everything that I'm experiencing. | Crushes |
So kinda struggling in thinking of what we could do after having lunch and going shopping since we have at least 3 hours to kill afterwards
Can't go to the cinemas cuz they aren't open during the weekends (which is when we're going), so currently open to any and all suggestions | Crushes |
Oh boy, I have a story (probably very long idk yet) about my first REAL crush.
It all started last year when my neighborhood had been expanding. I had a friend who already lived out that direction, and he had been hanging out with some girls that just moved in. I never really went over there bc I don't really like meeting new people lol. Then the schoolyear came around and we were on the same bus. They only knew my friend, and he sat with us, so they were around me. Fyi, they were all very pretty, but one stuck out the most. She is one of the prettiest girls I've ever seen, and she has a really bubbly personality and I couldn't help but immediately fall for her. My friend introduced da bois to them and them to us. She sat right across the aisle from me, which was pretty cool. Sometimes we all would be in a conversation and it was a vibe. I see its a normal thing, but every interaction has a special place in my heart.
I live in America, so there are American football games that pretty mush everyone goes to. I went to one with the homie introduced me to her, and her and the other girls from our neighborhood went too. We had gotten a little closer from chats on the bus ride, so I felt more comfortable being around her. The theme for that game was "white out" and she brought white face paint. She started putting it on everyone and apparently I made a funny face when she put it on me, and she started dying. I didn't think anything of it at the time, but now I realize I do that to other people I like. That night is one of the best nights I've ever had, ever. It was now the point where I could call us friends.
Now it wasn't just group conversations I was in with her, but one on one on the bus. She has the cutest laugh by the way, so I would do anything to hear it. Another great memory I have with her is: we would pass each other every day when I was leaving Gym and she was entering. One day, you could wear a hat during school spirit week. I was talking to a friend as we passed, and she just took it off of my head, put it on hers, and went in the locker room. I was so naïve (That will be a reoccurring thing during this story). She gave it back to me on the bus ofc.
Possibly the biggest sign that she liked me that went right over my head (until now) was that she stole my phone out of my hand and put her contact in. Note: she literally literally set her pfp as the heart emoji. How did I miss that. She was really showy and touchy for like a week, I enjoyed that a lot (but never made a move because I thought she was way out of my league and I was really naïve) I would literally dream about her. Then for a couple days she was sad, and I didn't know what to do so I just let her be. She then moved up to the front, where the other girls already went. I now realize she was being a classic girl and wanted me to make a move (no offense to anyone here just the stereotype). Now when I lock eye contact, she looks away and intentionally avoids me.
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Dear M,
I'm sorry <3 | Crushes |
My friend said she should go to prom with me as a friend. When she went home she told her sister and said "I don't like him like that, I don't want people mistaking us for a couple". Her sister is kinda like a wingman for me. I'm completely heart broken and I don't know what to do now. | Crushes |
Haven’t been this stoked in a long time lol. Finally had enough balls to as for my crushes socials and do go out some time and she was so down. One small step for some, a humongous one for me. (Just realized I spelt success wrong) | Crushes |
I just wanted to do my part in helping people that were like me. I liked this girl in my class for around 6 months. I started properly talking with her around 3 months ago and things were going well. I still had this doubt in my mind saying that she was out of my league or why would she like someone like me and still do. Long story short I was planning for a little bit and told her that I like her at around 2 weeks ago at the end of the day and she was surprised and also told me she liked me. This obviously shocked me but now I couldn’t be more happy that I asked and gave it a chance. Please try to do something and at the end of the day and tell them. You never know what will happen. Thank you <3 | Crushes |
pretty perfect and everything you could ever imagine she is( also 2 years older). And just imagining all day about her i think of a lame text just to convey up a conversation finding her vanished off of all of social media.
Mystery she is i think, the prettiest undoubtedly. | Crushes |
I don’t know what to do and I’m really scared. About seven days from now, we probably won’t see each other again as we would have graduated and she would be halfway across the world, yet, we haven’t talked about what’s going to happen with our relationship. What do I do? | Crushes |
i've posted a lot of stuff about my crush about 4 months ago and then went silent so i just thought i could give you some closure if u cared lol.
i confessed to my crush a few weeks after my last post, and she said she liked me a lot, but just as a friend. i was relieved because i dropped that weight off my shoulders, but what would follow would be a lot of distress generally.
just 1 or 2 weeks after she rejected me, she started talking to a friend of ours a lot more and a few weeks after that they started dating. i had very little time to move on, because we were very close friends and talked everyday.
about a month after she rejected me i started to desperatly try to find someone new to love (because i think i got really adicted to that kind of feeling), but it was very different from what we had. i was very sure we had something and so were my friends, so now i have a lot of trust issues as a result, and i think i won't be able to respond to flirting for a long time.
we still talk a lot, pretty much everyday. i'm pretty sure i don't love her anymore, but we are the closest we've ever been. her bf is a very good friend of mine and all i hove is that she doesn't break his heart.
all i want is to stop thinking about love, since i feel it can only cause me sadness at this point in my life, but it's very complicated to censor something that is so natural. i feel better, but i wouldn't consider myself happy. i think i got the closure i needed, but i think i need some serious changes in my life.
thanks for the support you had given me, and i'm sorry if this was a little sad, the next time i post, hopefully, it will have a better ending :) | Crushes |
i have a crush on this guy from my school i got 2 years left for me in it . and he 's in his last year . we kept making eye contact , but never actually talked . i felt that he might also be catching feelings from the way he acts .today was his last day of school meaning i will never actually meet .i have his socials , and im thinking to confess . because if he rejected me the good is ill never meet him again . and if he said yh i do like u back or something , idk whats next . so should i take the risk . | Crushes |
My best friend (unaware I like this girl) and the girl I like are doing stuff, which I wouldn't care about, but I'm being told in detail what is happening. I feel sick. Like I'm generally gonna throw up. AND SHES STILL TEXTING ME AND IT FEELS LIKE SALT IN THE WOUND. Why are girls easy for everyone around me, but hard for me. I don't understand>_< | Crushes |
I moved to a different country a few years ago so I had to learn English from scratch.
On my first day of school we had PE, I was walking around hoping that no one would even look in my direction because I was not able to speak English fluently yet.
I kept walking and I noticed a beautiful girl just walked up to me and then started talking to me.
Mind you I was speechless because of how beautiful she was, the blue eyes staring into my soul, her long red hair, I swear I felt my knees shaking. Well she liked girls too so that was a win, not totally because she also had a girlfriend at the time, so never mind.
Well no, my stupid brain could not stop thinking about her for 2 years after that, even when we stopped talking, she moved away and got a boyfriend that she loved.
Fast forward 2 years later she texts me out of nowhere and we start talking again.
Meanwhile i was convinced that I didn't love her and that it was a stupid crush.
Randomly she tells me that she had/has a crush on someone that I know. And guess what?? THAT PERSON WAS MEEE.
To be honest the signs were there from the start, every one in my class knew that we liked each other, but no one ever had the bright idea of telling us.
I had absolutely no idea that she broke up with her gf because of me, and when she noticed that I didn't confess my feelings, she just gave up.
I'm pretty sure I loved her, I did tell her that I liked her, but I'm not sure I'm ready to tell her I actually love her until we settle down.
Now I don't know what to do, I'm in love with this girl that is 3 hours away from me, and is in a 2 year relationship. So yeah👍
This is what she sent me talking about the first time she walked up to me
-Literally my first thought was "omg she's so cute dont fuck up"-
And this is what she thought of me when we started talking again
-I saw your picture like when I started talking to you again and I was just like "wow she got hotter"-
I'm dying✌💀 | Crushes |
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I finally got to txt her and we were talking for like an hour and it felt like 5 minutes im sooo happy right now LETS FUCKING GOOO DUDE I LOVE HER SO MUCH <3333
She gigled so much while talking so thats a good sign😂❤️
THANK YOU SO MUCH R CRUSHES YOU HAVE BEEN GOOD TO ME
Also this doesn't mean im gonna im still gonna be posting updates | Crushes |
I think I will never gonna saw him again bruh | Crushes |
Question in the title. Now I have been liking them for like 8 years.. I don't want to be with them but I still get butterflies and change my behaviour around them. I don't know why but I just don't like how I am around them. I wait for them to text me for days and days even though I know that they wouldn't. I just know that we both have no future together and it has become quite annoying to think about them all the time. So I need a solution. | Crushes |
She said no… | Crushes |
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Well I asked her out and she said she didn’t see me in that way. I’m not as bummed as I thought I would be tho and we’re still friends so it’s not too bad | Crushes |
I feel like I need to give a little context before getting into the nitty-gritty of the situation. Either way, I will be putting a TL;DR at the end of the post.
I (15F) had my orchestra concert about a week ago. Essentially, we would be playing solo pieces in the first half, and orchestra pieces in the second half. As soon as I finished my solo piece, I went backstage and met the rest of the orchestra. I was already familiar with them, but didn’t quite know them well. They were people my age, but I mostly talked to one of the violinists (17M), with which i instantly clicked. He is tall, broad-shouldered, with deep brown eyes and the sweetest smile. I had already noticed him during practice, and caught him staring a few times. We talked a lot, and I discovered a ton about him. He had a very boyish and upbeat attitude but looked kind of flustered around me. When we finished the orchestra pieces, my family insisted that we go, since the place was pretty far from home. I made up that I needed to fetch some music sheets first and went searching for the guy. I found him backstage while he was preparing some kind of barbecue. He insisted that I remained for dinner, but I had to refuse. However, I did something which is very unlike me— I shot my shot and asked him his number. He seemed pleasantly surprised and did so without hesitation. I then bid him goodbye and returned home. We chatted the whole night, and I discovered even more about him. He seemed enthusiastic to know about me too, which is unheard of for me. We texted the following days too, and I decided to ask him out to hang out sometime. He immediately agreed and came across as very excited about it. We will be seeing each other as soon as summer ends, and we’re both back in city.
This has never happened to me before, but I really want to keep this person close. Firstly, I need to keep in touch with him throughout summer. Is there any way to be more appealing to someone through text? Are there things I should ask him that can deepen our relationship? How often should I text him without coming across as obsessive? And the more complicated part will come in a few months, when we’ll see each other. How do dates work? Should I organize everything beforehand? I have a tendency of overdressing, so how should I dress? Some ideas on what we could do together? As you may have picked upon, I have no experience in this kind of stuff. Just, are there things I can do just to appear more attractive to someone? I feel like this may be the start of something, but I don’t want to rush into anything. I could really use some advice!
TL;DR: I met a guy and we will be hanging out in a few months. I already like him but don’t know how to approach dating and such. Advice is needed. | Crushes |
No one has ever told me they’ve liked me.
I’ve spoken to my friends and Alr of them have had like 10+ people who crushed on them.
I’ve never been in a relationship, never had anyone ask me out and it makes me feel that I’m not worth loving like that.
I’ve as people tell me that I’m pretty but there’s been nothing to show that it’s true.
I think I had one guy kind of like me but he ended up choosing someone else over me. | Crushes |
No one has ever told me they’ve liked me.
I’ve spoken to my friends and Alr of them have had like 10+ people who crushed on them.
I’ve never been in a relationship, never had anyone ask me out and it makes me feel that I’m not worth loving like that.
I’ve as people tell me that I’m pretty but there’s been nothing to show that it’s true.
I think I had one guy kind of like me but he ended up choosing someone else over me. | Crushes |
I msg ed l her and it didn't even get delivered | Crushes |
I messaged her and it didn't even get delivered | Crushes |
Helpp she appears straight but whenever we talk she giggles and flirts with me, and I don't know what to do aaaaaaaa | Crushes |
Legitimate question. My crush has been doing this for a while despite us being close and long-lasting friends… Is this a good sign or bad sign? | Crushes |
So I told her a funny story about my life and she replied “really judging you right now!”
What should I reply now?! | Crushes |
Long story short a girl I had a crush on moved away to Minneapolis, this was after I had asked her out but she turned me down. She posted about having a BF about a year ago and that she was happy. I assumed it was a guy she met there in Minneapolis BUT today I found out it is a guy from the old group that I knew as well!! Now this guy "donnie" has been with "Kate" for about two years now and she said they live together on the status. I do feel sad that this guy is with her, a bit of a background on Donnie, he was a nice guy I did not know him that well but he was dating this other girl in the group "Michelle". Donnie and Michelle were so in love but she broke up with him in 2012 (?) and he responded by dropping out of school and moving back home to Colorado. I just find it strange that those two are together, like she had a whole city of unknown guys to go out with and she chooses the short guy. Oh well I wish them well, I really do. I just think thats odd. | Crushes |
I’m 22 years old and have really been enjoying the bar scene lately, especially as a single, ready to mingle lady.
This weekend I met a mutual with whom I developed a crush on and really hit it off with. They made the subtle and sweet move of putting their arm around me in front of their friends a few nights in a row.
I, never having been in a relationship, was giddy. No one’s ever shown public affection like this. In bar talk, it feels like “this is my girl” and oh jeeeeeez, I am melting just thinking about it. 😅
Which is to say, I forgot how perfect this move is to shoot your shot!!! | Crushes |
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How come I like this girl so much, put so much effort in, change myself so much just for her. But I still can’t get anything back, she even saves the goodnight messages I send but never says it back. I know I only live once and I just want to make the most of being friends with her. But I also want so so so much more with her, even if she’s just too bloody good for me. It sucks so much… | Crushes |
Guys so this girl I once talked to ghosted me, and out of nowhere she texted me just now apologizing for ghosting me , and asking me how I’ve been. What’s that mean? I hope I’m not getting my hopes up and it’s nothing negative cause I got enough problems already 🤣 | Crushes |
So I have had a crush on this girl we can call "A" for a couple of months now, but we just started to have conversations the last week. I might have picked up some hints that she feels the same way towards me, but I'm not risking it yet. The thing is, I still haven't texted her or anything. I kinda have access to her number through our class' WhatsApp group chat, but even if I do text her, I feel like I don't have many things to say. So what should I do?? Start texting her now, wait to see more things happening in person, or even ask her in person if she is willing to start texting? | Crushes |
Still no response. Well, I guess he just didn’t check his email. I hope that’s the case. | Crushes |
Very few people have the ability to properly make me smile, but tonight, I was hanging out at my grandparent's house scrolling through Instagram, and I open her story, which simply was asking for music suggestions. Idk why, but for a solid half-hour after I sat there smiling and laughing like an idiot for no significant reason, my grandparents were probably like “WTF is up with him?” LMAO | Crushes |
So I have seen my crush irl and he has seen me irl. He stares at me ALL THE TIME, some stares he smiles at me and some stares are like death stares or just neutral stares. I found my crush’s account on insta and I followed him, several days later I unfollowed him because he didn’t follow me back, I tried to follow him again 1 month later but he didn’t add me back. I don’t think he knew it was me because he doesn’t know my name and he wouldn’t have guess it was me because of my dp. So I started to like his Instagram stories (a new Instagram feature) and he got the notification. As a result, he viewed my account and luckily I posted a selfie of me on my Instagram story and I saw him under the views. After that, he never viewed my story again. Since he doesn’t follow me on Instagram, I sent him a dm, confessing my feelings for me. It has be 5 days with no reply. Should I get the hint that he doesn’t like me anymore? | Crushes |
To be clear, I expect nothing in return. I don’t want to weird you out. For my sanity, I have to get this out. Since we are never able to have private space to talk, I’ll put it here.
I think you are amazing. You are spectacular at what you do. I notice all your moves and I struggle to maintain composure every time. You are more attractive than I think you realize. Your shyness is sweet. I’ve never experienced this level of attraction in my life, so I’m stumbling through it…likely embarrassing myself horribly along the way. Again, I expect nothing from you. I hope that you find a partner and live a happy life. I’ll always be a massive fan and thankful for all you do. I hope I am better able to cope with seeing you and talking with you going forward. Sometimes I get quiet, look away or seem to ignore you because I’m trying to hold myself together and keep my mouth shut. It’s not you, it’s my weirdness. When you stop by to chat, a highlight for me btw, I get so nervous and dorky. | Crushes |
I’m going on a second date tomorrow and I’m so nervous. I’m 26, female and pansexual. I never have any problems with anxiety or anything when I go on dates with guys but with girls it’s like I get really nervous and am afraid of over sharing and scaring them off. Luckily we’re going to the movies. | Crushes |
So I went to church camp Monday through Saturday. And I met this guy. We talked a whole bunch and I know so much about him.
He’s the most interesting person I’ve ever met. He listens to me when I talk about things I love and doesn’t get upset when I talk fast. He’s literally my dream guy.
But he has a gf. Now ofc she’s known him longer and I would never ever try to make any kinda of move on him while they’re dating. Idk her but she’s seems awesome based on the very small amount of stuff I know about her.
Ik i don’t have any right to be upset considering I met him not even a week ago but we got super close. I could go on and on about the time we spent hanging out at camp.
It kinda hurts knowing he has a gf but it’s probably for the best considering it means both him and her are happy and I would barely see him anyway. | Crushes |
i hope the title isnt misleading BUT HE CALLED ME CUTE AND HE KEEPS ON CALLING ME CUTE AND HE EVEN SAID THAT MY BLUSHING FACE MADE HIM WANT TO MARRY ME!!! gosh i think i definitely have a shot with how more forward he’s been, wanting me to play with his hair and now hug him. anyways, just a happy lil update from lil ole me. (also i’m still nonbinary! they/them :) ) (also i must say this is not my coworker crush anymore, he has quit and soon will i) | Crushes |
I have this huge crush on this guy and he is giving me mix signals all the time, he doesn't know I like him and we are very close friends. He does so many things that make it seem like he likes me such as lots of physical contact and doing certain things that he doesn't do with his normal friend. He's even admitted that I'm his only female friend and that I'm the only female he talks to (we're in middle school if that helps). Then he'll make fun of the way I do things and constantly teases me. He's randomly touched my head and when me, him and a mutual friend were hanging out he offered me a piggy back ride when I was stuck in a tree or has used my shoes to walk in the water, or even just holding on to eachother for support in the creak. But he then he'll says really harsh things that honestly makes me feel bad and other times he'll boost my confidence in certain ways. We hangout all the time and he's comfortable hanging out just the two of us. But I've tried to lay down next to him he'll call me a weirdo and scoot away from me..... I'm so confused | Crushes |
I had accomplished the great, dating your crush. I even shared my first kiss with her but a year after it all happened and she broke up with me I’m still not over her it’s time to move on, no matter how hard it is it has to happen and anyone in a similar situation I suggest the same it causes nothing but grief | Crushes |
what are some signs that he’s interested? he asked me out to dance at a party and I texted him later that night and said i had fun with him but I dont know him well enough so I want to get close to him and befriend him, he also doesn’t text much and idk what to talk about with him. i’m not sure if he's shy and i have to get to know him better or if he’s just not interested. He keeps his texts short but tends to care a little every now and then. He never really talked in person either when I had classes with him and he’s mentioned to be busy at work and at the gym so i’m seriously conflicted about this. help, i’m interested in him but I don't want to seem annoying by texting him all the time :( how should i befriend him?
edit: he sent me a pic of him working out but whenever i try to send him memes or start up a conversation he either cuts it short or brushes it off 😅 how do i have a casual conversation with him without feeling like I'm annoying him? i don't understand him at all ahahah | Crushes |
So I have this close friend, let’s call her Ana, it’s close enough to her name. So me and ana have been friends for a few years now, best friends actually. We joke around a lot, and somehow we ended up making a running joke on calling each other mommy and stuff, basically flirting and stuff but as a joke. I’m bi, but she’s straight. Ana also just got out of a relationship and is looking for rebounds, and ended up dating a person with they/them pronouns for a while (broke up bc they repeatedly asked for nudes which ana didn’t like) and now I think I like Ana, I think she’s super pretty and super kind, but I thought the same thing with my ex and we were best friends before our relationship too. I don’t wanna ruin this friendship by saying “I think I have a crush on you” because she’s had friends who crushed on her before and they got into fights because of the play flirting before it. Ik she only thinks of me as a friend bc she does it with almost everyone, but I still rlly like Ana. I don’t have any friends besides her, besides really bad toxic ones I’ve been trying to stop being friends with. But she’s also been ignoring me a bit, and not rlly wanting to go anywhere with me.. Any advice on what I could do without ruining my only friendship? And also how to find out on if it’s a real crush, or if i just think she’s a very very good friend, I’m very confused UGH! | Crushes |
I have no delusions about this person liking me back, or any of these situations being real. But I do feel happy to imagine them, it also feels dangerously self-indulgent though, like I am polluting brain with dangerous delusions, even though I know I am imagining these situations. Is there any harm in doing this sort of thing? | Crushes |
Confess or act like an ass to push her away... | Crushes |
For me it’s “Dream a little dream of me” - Micheal Bublé. | Crushes |
it says how I like them but if they don’t like me back that I really value their friendship and want to be friends
I’m so scared to give it to them. I don’t want to lose what we have in our friendship. I feel like our friendship is special and extremely fulfilling to me compared to my otheand I can’t bear to take a hit. I’m so scared. I want to just tell them but I don’t know if they’ll even want to talk to me or be around me anymore.😣 | Crushes |
I am 19 i have never had my first kiss yet. The other day i asked this girl for her snap, asked her to hangout. Now we are going to qdoba tuesday night. I need some tips and advice for this date. | Crushes |
This has always been an issue for me with any crushes. If I should just invite crush to hang out in a non group setting. Or if I should wait for him to.
I dont want to come off as pushy and obsessed. Or anything of that sort. Just a hey want to go to (town name) or check oit that anime store we both want to go to.
Or if I should wait for him to ask? And see if it even happens.
Its been in my head that if a guy is intrested he will ask a person out. And if he isnt he wint make any moves just be nice. Yet another guy friend said hes to shy to ask so he waits to be asked out. It must be to each person.
Not sure if its true but just curious what everyone's experiences are. | Crushes |
I just want an excuse to talk about him 😭✋
^(Also, kind of random but cool fact: I'm actually the person that started the ask me about my crush trend on here! If you scroll down enough it's either on this account or my main account in around september or october 2021 (Since this is my 2nd account) and a ton of people were asking if they could use my idea and it became a trend! :D) | Crushes |
I’m (18M) and I like (20F) who I’ve been friends with for a few years. We talk everyday on Snapchat and text. We do sport and spend time just the 2 of us like going to the cinema, going for dinner, or to watch our favourite football team. When we are together even with our friends she always sits next to me and talks to me. We laugh with each other and like a few of the same things. Does she like me? How should I tell her how I feel about her? Q
Even if she doesn’t like me in that way, I would still like to be friends with her, so I don’t want to ruin our friendship. | Crushes |
You seen each other in quite a while but even after she rejected me the signs still get stronger and stronger. The other day the eye contact was very strong she even once looked in my eyes so much i wanted to ask her what's wrong. When ever she was talking on the phone or listening to a voice message her eyes will directly to me. And also when we where dividing our selves into team by each person picking a paper she directly looked at mine to see if we where teams she them proceeded to say we can change teams after a couple of rounds. I am still not sure if these are signs or it is just me overthinking. | Crushes |
Three main things that I feel like could be taken as something happened. It was for two nights btw. Oh and there’s one other thing but idk if it means something. And also we slept on bunk beds.
1. We were gonna visit his uncle and aunt which was quite overwhelming. His dad was packing stuff and he had only packed two chairs and my crush, ‘D’, was like “oh my dad only packed two chairs, guess I’m sitting on the floor” and ik that’s like a normal thing but stillll
2. We were playing the game ‘codenames’ and his mom was talking about movies. Then his mom was like “Oh this movie has a lot of kissing scenes” and D didn’t react ig so his mom was like “Oh, D, are you not disgusted by kissing anymore? Do we need to have a talk?” (I guess his mom liked embarrassing him because we’re 100% far past the age where that would matter). But here’s the thing, I looked at D and he looked back at me for a second or two. Idk if that exactly means anything bc it’s quite subtle- I told my friend and she was like “he 100% thought about kissing you”
3. Him and I were watching a movie on the top bunk of one of the beds and we were lying next to each other, then later when we were watching the movie AGAIN, him and I were both under the covers of the bed. Then the laptop died so he moved it and I just lay there while he fidgeted around a lot. Then we both just lay down for a few minutes. Then he was like “this is strange.” And I was like “how so?” And he was like “well we’re both guys and we’re in a bed together. It’s kinda gay” and I was like “well I’m gay” and he was like “you like me, don’t you?” And I denied it of course. Maybe I shouldn’t have.
4. This one doesn’t mean much I just wanted to share it. (TW mentions of potential ed?)
I started talking to him. About a fear I have. Eating. We had a nice conversation, he was trying to help, I could tell. Not much he can do. He just listened I guess and it was nice. And he wasn’t mean to me like others have been. He wasn’t overly sympathetic which is something that bothers me sometimes. He doesn’t see me differently. | Crushes |
What does she/he looks like, personality or just character in general. | Crushes |
so he asked me out to go to the movies but before we do he wants to go to stores and walk around. he told me he likes me a lot but he’s moving soon. i don’t wanna get attached but i like him so much. any advice? | Crushes |
Okay so, the situation is fairly simply, and yet complicated so much so that I'm unable to decide what I do next.
So I was having a conversation with my crush through instagram DMs, at first I got really interested replies back, even asking me questions, but after a few hours of texting (We didn't text non-stop, it was back and forth, we have lifes) the conversation kind of took an unnatural turn, and just died down which I get. Conversation got real boring. What should I do?
Text a few days from now and start a new conversation with this knowledge in mind?Text tommorow later in the day, telling her I'm bored and down to talk? Other suggestions are welcome! PLEASE KEEP IN MIND: ALSO MY LAST MESSAGE WASN'T A QUESTION, SO I MIGHT'VE PUT HER IN A BAD POSITION TO REPLY.
Little side note: I'm not sure what exactly went wrong, I was unable to keep the conversation interesting after a certain length. Might just've been too lengthy for the first conversation, but I think I can say confidently, she's not hating my texts nor bothered by them.
Side Note: I was able to grab her attention for a grand total of 19.5 hours, not bad for a first chat, but some of it was boring. | Crushes |
Context:
I f(14) have a crush on m(13). We have been talking for about 8 months now. After some time we exchanged phone numbers. It’s gotten to the point we are say good morning every day(through text). The sweetest thing happened the other week. We were on a video call we he started showing me his cats. I haven‘t stopped thinking about that. Often we have been getting on a call and playing Minecraft.
Recently he slipped in a conversation that he would like to hang out (without our sibling) just the two of us for the first time. I have no experience ”hanging out“ at a boys house.
What makes this story interesting though is that my Mom got a message from his mom this morning talking about this meetup. Meaning he went out of his way to ask his mom to hang out with me. My mom asked me if this was a date. I freaked out and told her no, and that we aren’t anything more than friends. And we would just be playing with nerf guns and playing minecraft if I went over. She gave me a “look“ and said ok.
I explained that I would love to go over though.
Now I can’t stop thinking about this. Am I over thinking it, and he just thinks of me as a friend, or does he also have a crush on me? | Crushes |
I (20F) asked out my crush (20M) today. As you might have gathered from the flair, he said yes! Hehe :)
I haven't really posted here before but I was debating it pretty heavily. I'm still very stressed but I figured typing it out might help calm me down a bit.
He's very cute and I'm really looking forward to the date. We're going to do something we both really enjoy! I'm just scared we'll run out of things to talk about as I'm not always that great at conversations. Any help with that would be nice :) | Crushes |
Okay so he initiates our interactions (calling, texting, talking), asked me to make quite a few decisions for him, flirts a little, tells his friends about me (sometimes I would see them looking at me), he also gave hints about wanting to hangout with me BUT he suddenly stopped and i don’t think i did anything that could have caused it. What should i do? | Crushes |
Bare with me because this is gonna be a long post.
I've (14m) known this girl (14f) ever since 2016 and liked her on and off since then. We only get to see each other around once a year irl or less (mostly less) though which has been tough. In the beginning around 2016-17 we used to facetime almost everyday and she would initiate contact about 50% of the time. But I was really little then and I asked her irl if she had a crush on me and she said no. Since then we kinda just didn't text or ft because we saw each other irl much less and I didn't see any point. Then out of almost nowhere in 2020 she texted "I kinda like you" followed by "jkkkkk" instantly. Then she said that was her friend. Two weeks ago when I was with my friends they pressured me to add her snapchat and she added almost immediately back and sent a snap. Since then we've been doing streaks and snapping each other daily. She snaps back quickly and iniates the streak sometimes. She also sends full face pics with her tongue out or her smiling.
Does anything point to her liking me? Many people have said the fake I like you message is her testing the waters but idk because she did the jk less than a minute later. | Crushes |
I’ve had a huge crush on my best friend for a while now, and lately she’s all I think about. I can’t even go to sleep without thinking about her for an hour or two.
We’ve been super close friends for the last year or so. We do everything together. We watch movies, sports, play games, etc..
I just don’t know if I should say it. I really don’t want to ruin our friendship, but its just eating me alive. Should I? | Crushes |
So today i went to my daily class every saturday for a religious thing that is required in order to get married and yeah whatever so the thing is im sitting in a bench waiting for my dad to come pick me up and theres also some boy that was in my class too like the other side a little further froma few benches so i kinda stared unintentionally and a few minutes later i was scrolling on insta and suddenly i see him walking up to me and sitting down on my bench next to me sorry if im too specific im just wow ok and my stupid ass decided to kinda ignore him and when i was about to say hi, my dad arrives and i obviously didnt want my dad to find out im talking to some mystery boy so i just said bye and waved😭 i felt really bad he didnt even look that ugly so um what should i do the next time i see him?? Please help i have 0 experience in boys im 16 | Crushes |
I want to feel lovedovey over someone and work towards getting her. But, I just not been developing crushes anymore. Just "wow she's attractive" and thats it. | Crushes |
Seriously story of my life I always end up falling or crushing for guys I can't have or don't want anything with me. For once I'd like to be on the receiving end to wonder what it feels like. | Crushes |
I go to a club with this really nice guy who is also my friend, but my mum is forcing me to leave the club and to make things worse i reallyyyy like him. I'm meeting up with him tomorrow and we couln't find any other friends to come so its just gonna be me and him, and i dont know him that well, but we talk A LOTT on text
i really wanna see him again but i wont be able to so yeah | Crushes |
I know this is from a long time ago, but I remember a girl liked me in 7th grade. I think I remember her and another girl asked me if I had Instagram once, and I responded with "no" (because I didnt have it). Everytime she came across me, she would always say hi to me, and then talk to me with her friends. I particularly remember when we were waiting for the busses to come for a school field trip, I was quietly on my desk waiting, then she said my name, but she had to say it twice to get my attention. She and another friend of hers asked if I remembered her from my Elementary school, to which I didn't (she afterwards remarked that I had "short-term memory loss"). They tried to talk to me about kissing games and Tik Tok dances, but I was what I would describe as panicking in my head and tried to get out of the situation. I never noticed that she liked me because I was so inept.
Afterwards, lockdown came and nothing happened for 7 months, and then I finally got Instagram and I followed her to which she followed back. I tried to DM her, but she just left me on seen.
She wouldn't view my stories for a long time, but did like a couple of my posts. I was also heavily into gaming that I ran a Gaming Club at my school. It's Instagram was mostly inactive, but when summer started, I started to post memes and stories in it daily. A friend of hers (who "aided" her with me back then) was viewing it's stories for awhile.
High school started, then she started to view my stories again, but after a few months she unfollowed me :(.
But I feel like there's still hope. I started another gaming-related Instagram account and she followed it. Because she might know I'm into gaming, and I ran a Gaming related account before, she might be following it because she might think it's me (but I don't say who I am on the account).
And a couple of her friends have followed me shortly after she unfollowed me. A particularly close one of hers kept following and unfollowing me after a few seconds. She currently follows me and has for a month. She also has liked a post of mine. So I think she's using outside help now.
I know why she might have not shown much friendship online, which might have been to avoid coming off as a stalker and/or clingy. But I kinda ask why she left me on seen when I DMed that one and only time. | Crushes |
I just cut off my connection with my crush cuz I accidentally makes her hurt. I think I will back off from her life now. I have seen a lot of people hurt bcz of me and before i met my new( which idk i will) ig i will not meet a lot of new people 🥲 | Crushes |
I can't really move on from him. and its been a while
Its basically me falling out and it again and its kinda of a torture ;
It really sucks because i really am into him and i cant really get over my feelings;
He probably is repulsed by me ; and im feeling an intense attraction towards him. and him not being availabe attracts me more lol | Crushes |
I met my crush when I was in 7th grade and we were good friends but unfortunately never dated. We still have great memories from hanging out together and doing fun things.
One time during 8th grade, we were in the middle of a conversation when I was at her house. She told me she was gonna take a shit and wanted me to come in with her so I did (this is the 2nd girl I've watched poop). Once she pulled down her pants and sat on the toilet, I was aroused since I saw her bare ass and yellow underwear. She took 15 minutes to poop and during that time, we continued talking and she also went on her phone. I was satisfied since she took her time and pooped a lot without feeling nervous. A week later, I asked her out and unfortunately she rejected me.
In junior year we became friends again. During senior year, we were both drunk at a friends house and people wanted us to kiss so badly. We both ended up agreeing and we made out for 3 minutes. Kissing her lips and all over her face felt absolutely incredible. This was something I was dreaming about for so long and I never thought this would actually happen. | Crushes |
So right now my stepbrother (17m) is outside my house with two of his friends and his new motorbike. I went outside to look at it with my mum and I think I caught one of his friends, M, looking at me and whenever M was at my house with my stepbrother I would always be nervous around him but I don't know if I have a crush on him or not. | Crushes |
We often hang out on discord a couple of months ago. Well, there are also other people in that voice channel. He often teased me. Somehow, some harsh jokes. But, I notice whenever I join the voice channel. His voice tone and attitude will change. He often opens the camera. I just find out he had asked about me, my friend. Like how I am doing. Stuff like that. I’m not claiming he like me. I just feel something from him. But, during that time. I was having a partner and he respects it and I’m okay with it. But, for now. I did reach out after losing contact for a couple of months. He did text me back however he just feel a bit shocked I reach him back out of a sudden. For now, I’m just curious. Does he like me or not? If he does, why he didn't reach out?
It will be so nice of you if you respond to my question because I’m really curious. | Crushes |
Yesterday we went out to the movies and later I met with my parents. Then he started showing cute pics of his cats to my mother??? And they really got along and smiling and I was like damm how is this possible. Then we got home and my mother told me : he is such a nice and cute guy right?
Now I 'm 10 times more confused about my feelings for him because I thought I didnt like him anymore, but now I DON'T KNOW HOW TO FEEL ABOUT THIS | Crushes |
Right so,
I really like this girl.
I know most things about her : e.g. Her favourite sport, her friends etc
But I want to talk to her more but I’m not sure how to
Please leave suggestions in comments | Crushes |
Will walking to work where we both work we saw each other, we were on opposite sides of the road and I had to cross, when I did she toke off her headphone expecting me to approach her, but instead just walked in front of her, I was thinking of stopping and waiting for her but I just couldn't. We've gotten really close lately and more confident around each other but I just feel like if don't address it, it will get in the way. | Crushes |
Ever since summer started I lost contact with her and I feel so sad I miss her like crazy is this normal. | Crushes |
ok we were talking about cookies, i was talking about how good my moms cookies are or something and then she read it, typed for like 2 minutes and then stopped and then just sent “yea” 40 minutes later | Crushes |
Okay so I had a crush on a guy at work when I first started a couple months ago and I told a few people about it and I think it got back to him. I was so embarrassed I would actively avoided him or hide from him and he’s caught me running past him a couple times out of sheer cringe and I believe Because of this I think I made him feel uncomfortable that he ended up leaving the job. It broke my heart because I never wanted that… well I work with his brother too and now I’ve noticed his brother always looking at me and I can’t lie I look for him too. I haven’t spoken to the brother before, we just kind of look at each other it’s weird? lol | Crushes |
I recommended a show to my crush and very next day, she posted a BeReal of her watching the show. Does this mean anything? | Crushes |
Found out she's dating some other guy but during class she stares at me. Wat da fawk is goin on | Crushes |
I have been talking to this girl a lot. We basic tease each other a lot and she laugh at all my jokes even my very shitty ones. But today I really question some stuff. So she ask me to do her Bereal so she and her friend pose and I am the one talking the picture so I take it then turn that camera back on them. So my face would not be in the picture and she was hoping I wouldn't do that but I know how bereal works. So a little bit later in the class room she ask me why I did that and you know I just say I didn't want to be in the picture and I then say I don't have a good face and she ansew with yes you do. I then just disagree with her again
I need help with what should be my next move does she even like me | Crushes |
Backstory about me. I never had a relationship or a date, and pretty shy. So i (M30) have met this girl (F25) a few years back. Tought she was cute then but didnt expect anything to happen so i didnt do anything. Years go by and I never interacted with her in any way shape or form.
Fast forward up to 3 weeks ago. She made an Insta post and i reacted to it (was early when I said something) and we talked the entire day Next day i started the conversation again and that week we talked about everything. Hobbies, food we love and hate, things we like to do etc etc. We had been talking daily till midnight for a couple days, and i took a shot and asked if she would like to go on a walk with me when she has the time. She almost instantly said yes and now I have to wait untill we both have time. She agreed to show the nice places in her town.
I cant wait to finally meet her 1 on 1 and get to know her in person 😊 | Crushes |
We've been talking with this guy for about 6 months now and I just realised I caught feelings about a month ago. I'm not too sure if he likes me too,he may be flirting idk..but he calls me a cutie and beautiful. Should I shoot my shot or nuh? | Crushes |
this is my first reddit post ever so, i apologize in advance. basically long story short, i had invited a 2 friends to the movies (1 dude, 1 chick) and we have known each other for years but i havent talked to them in a while, i had bought their tickets and everything was going good, although they have both been very touchy. For example, we’ll call the chick L and the dude K, L would hold on to K’s sleeve, or K would get very close to L, i had asked if they were dating and they denied it. After we had gotten our popcorn and everything and we were seated. K would lay his head on L’s shoulder.
It was very weird for me to see them be that close but, it was ok. 10 mins into the movie L would tap on my hand that i had closed up and i opened it up, she then proceeded to hold my hand and wrap her fingers around my hand. I felt (idk how to explain it but its that feeling you get like something is in your chest/throat) i felt kinda nervous but, i thought in my mind, this is how L treats other guys im guessing, until she moved our hands (still holding hands) onto her thighs. Her skin was so cold and i was extremely nervous, K had noticed us holding hands but never said anything about it. Im scared of getting attached to her because i keep thinking she treats other guys like this. what do y’all think? and very sorry about the typos and bad formatting, please let me know how i can improve in my next post, thank you! | Crushes |
He’s my coworker, we live in the same suburb and we go to the same gym.
I’ve been working at this job for a few months, and initially I thought he was cute but nothing more. I started to develop a crush on him about 2-3 months ago.
We never really used to talk. He gave the classic signs- glances, talking loudly when I was around, looking at me when everyone is laughing etc.
I used to think he didn’t like me because he wouldn’t speak to me. But in these last two weeks, we’ve randomly been having conversations and chatting at work. So I assume he’s a shy guy and he just needs me to put in some effort with making conversation, to show I’m interested too.
I guess I’m posting this because I’m asking y’all for a confidence boost 😭 I haven’t had the greatest experiences in the past with men and I’m really traumatised and afraid of getting used again. But I feel like he likes me and I have hope.
Thanks 🥰❤️ | Crushes |
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