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So, I've been friends with this girl for quite a while now and I've almost always had a crush on her. I told one of our mutual friends and she told me that this girl really likes me back and would 100% say yes if I asked her out. I would love to do so but I have crippling anxiety and the idea of doing this makes me really anxious. On Friday we are going to meet up with a load of friends to go and watch a movie. I am planning to ask her out then but I don't know how to do it (apparently she wants something simple and for me to just act myself) and I'm afraid I'll chicken out of it.
We have both known that we like each other for about a week now and since then we have both continued acting about the same except with a bit more flirting. I really like this girl and I really want this to go well. Any advice? | Crushes |
Would it be better to just continue liking them from a distance, especially since you are friends? | Crushes |
I was on a week long trip with my school when this girl i had no previous interactions with started talking to me. I have no idea what her intent was and it has been on my mind a bit so i wanna hear someone else's opinion on this. We had only one interaction after the trip.
Some of the interactions i remember:
saying there was something on my leg while we were waiting in line at the cafeteria and then removing it, saying "good night (my name)" as we passed eachother from and going to the bathroom late at night , asking if i was OK since I was being a wallflower at the ball/party event lastly I also might have received an anonymous compliment during the same event since of the 6 i got I'm only 100% sure of 2
Thanks for reading | Crushes |
Okay so I’m 16 and I went to this school but I’m transferring now. But while I was there I had a huge crush on this guy. We shared the same Japanese class period and he sat across the room from me. At some point I found his insta and followed him but I didn’t message him until the day before yesterday and I asked if he wanted to be friends with me (he said yeah). My friends where helping me talk to him and I was so nervous and when I’m nervous I talk a lot and my friend kinda scolded me for that 💀 especially when compared to me he was replying short and simple. Anyways the convo kinda died and it ended with me being left on sent after I ranted about my book club partner and her bf being a distraction😭. Then yesterday I messaged him again and asked if he read chainsaw man (since we both like anime) and he still didn’t reply even after he was active 2 hours before I sent that. My friend had advised me to ask if I could draw him (since he liked my art) but I was kinda iffy about that because it seemed too fresh and it might’ve been creepy to ask since he didn’t know me that well yet.
At this point I’ve kinda accepted my fate and kinda just wanna give up since it seems like he’s not interested in talking to me. But at the same time I still wanna try and see what happens from here. So I need some advice
1. Should I message him again? (I don’t wanna seem desperate though)
2. Do you think he’ll be weirded out if I ask to draw him?
3. Is it possible that he muted me?
4. Should I confess? (Kinda scared for this one since he doesn’t really know me well enough)
5. Help? | Crushes |
Offering boy advice to anyone who needs it! Ask me any questions and I'll do my best to help | Crushes |
Literally, I'm just tryna live my life here, and out of nowhere, boom my first crush (which I haven't seen irl in 4 years) pops up in my head and doesn't leave. I see no reason why would that happen, it's so random. | Crushes |
I guess the title says it all, thinking of taking it slow, as this is like a 1 in a million chance. But just any help would be appreciated? Idk if this belongs here. | Crushes |
so since we’re both kinda stupid i sent them this goofy image and it’s just cj (from geeteeayy) smiling with a low quality caption saying “happy birthday”
last post i made mentioned that they tend to just leave me on open so HOPEFULLY they’ll respond with something or just ss it like most do 😭 | Crushes |
Hi I like this guy and am not sure that he likes me back
What are some signs to know he likes me back? | Crushes |
I need to see if they are actually interested in me but I don't know what to ask myself 😭 | Crushes |
idk im bored and like talking ab him | Crushes |
So today after school on the bus me, my crush and her friend were discussing something and i didnt say a sentence how i wanted so it ended up sounding like i would rather do anything else than be with my crush, of course i apologized and said it was a mistake and as soon as i came home i texted her a really deep and long apology and after that confessed that i liked her for like 3 years and that i would rather be with her instead of going, doing or having anything else in existance and then i went outside to do some chores around the house with my heart failing from that text and after like 30 minutes i check my phone and see that she responded, she sent me a "oh dont worry its all good". Idk what to do now | Crushes |
My crush has recently shown a sudden interest in me and started talking to me a lot, we only have tutor together (i live in england). My crushes friend said another girl I was talking to thought i was fit and then she (my crush) said i think (my name) is fit too. But i can never tell if someone is joking or not. I’ve caught her looking a few times in class too and sometimes i see her whisper in her friends ear when i walk by, but i’m still too scared to make a move or do anything to ruin it and i need to know if she likes me back. | Crushes |
So basically, I (22f) have a crush on someone (23m). I have never been in a relationship, not for the lack of offers, but because I have never been emotionally and mentally ready for such a level of intimacy (in short, daddy issues). I do lack self esteem, but I am working on it, because I realised I turn away guys I like because I think they are too good for me or I don’t show them I like them because I’m afraid of rejection. Anyways, with this boy it all started two months back, when I returned back to my student work and I noticed there was a new guy (him) working at the café across from us and he immediately caught my eye because he was very close to the type of guys I like. I thought from the very beginning that he was out of my league, but then I caught him full on staring at me a few times. I got caught off guard and I never smiled at him; however, suddenly he was all I could think about because I thought “he noticed me”!! I felt crazy because I don’t think I ever had that happen to me, this crazy obsession about someone. Luckily, my best friend quickly warned me it could be limerence which I’m pretty sure it is, despite the fact that we NEVER spoke a word. He even stopped looking at me after a while. Now, for the problem: it happened twice to me that when I had an option to interact with him, I got deathly pale as in my heart dropped to my stomach and all the color leached from my face. That is so crazy to me!! This physical reaction, like I am terrified of him.
Does anyone have ANY advice how to tackle/prevent that from happpening again? Do you think that’s normal (such a strong reaction)? | Crushes |
a boy in my class has been staring at me any chance he gets and we have been making eye contact on a regular but whenever i’ve engaged conversation through texts he seems uninterested and bored. we’ve only talked once in person and that was before he started staring at me. | Crushes |
So I know this girl for like 10 months, we do theater lesson together one day at week, she’s really pretty but I don’t know even her name, cause I was a bit embarrassed to ask, but she finds me really friendly, I also find her friendly, so, is this a sign I like her? | Crushes |
I have a crush on a guy in my social circle and think there's a decent chance he's interested. The problem is his best friend seems to really like me (not sure if it's romantic or not but feels somewhat suffocating). I'm going on a 2 week road trip with both of them...bad idea? Any tips for trying to get to know my crush better and simultaneously get some space from the other friend's attention? | Crushes |
So today I saw that I had the same block off as my girl. I went down the stairs and saw her then she saw me so I asked her if she got off and she said yes, then I walked next to her and I asked her where she’s going, she said the learning center and I said me too. So I walked with her to the learning center and on my way, my friend saw me walking and talking to her but luckily I didn’t notice him but then another thing happened. I was walking to the learning center and I was running my fingers through my hair then I put my hand down and I accidentally touched her hand for like a split second before I noticed it but she didn’t say anything about it. Then in the learning center I didn’t get to talk to her that much because we both had homework to do. She said she was leaving early because of a doctors appointment but she left 30 minutes early and when she left, she looked at me, smiled and said bye to me | Crushes |
We have maths together and I was standing in the line outside waiting to go in when she came up the stairs, it was honestly a surreal experience. I know it didn't actually happen like this but it was like she shone so bright I could only see her, her hair fell around her shoulders so perfectly and when she walked through the doors everything stopped. When she got up the stairs she came to stand next to me and smiled at me and I looked into her eyes and there were shortcuts to heaven through them; she's so beautiful.
We sit next to each other in maths too and we were talking and her laugh is just so mesmerising. | Crushes |
So there’s this guy at school and we’ve spoken once in September, I can’t dm him again because of the things that I said in my other post. We often make eyes contact and two weeks ago he was looking for someone in a room where I was and then we made an eyes contact and he left. Today when he walked in front of me after he saw me getting awkward he smiled but not at me and not at his phone because he wasn’t using it and neither at someone because he was alone My male friend told me that if I ignore him I’ll finally get his attention. What do you think ? | Crushes |
It was about half a year ago when the new neighbor came into my building, a Soviet-style brick house in east Berlin where several residents have been staying since the 1980s. I didn’t pay attention to the neighbor at first, as I often returned late and left for my office very early in the morning. Before this neighbor, the apartment was occupied by a pair of young local students whom I (35 M) befriended with. I was somewhat sad when those kids told me they had to move out because the rental just went up. As a result, I wasn't supposed to like the new resident. Gentrification, who's going to like it?
The first time I met this neighbor was a late afternoon this January, when she, together with an old lady living in this building, was walking in the yard with her girl. We had some small chats, in which I learned she speaks perfect English, and the kid, as well as her mom back in Moscow, is all she has as family members now. As an ex-pat whose mother tongue is English, it's rather magnificent to know someone living close to you who can also use the language to spell out feelings. I extended my welcome and promised her I’d visit her apartment, provided she would need a hand from a neighbor.
On a February evening, I knocked at her door without an alert. After all, I forgot to ask for her number the first time we met. We had a warm dinner with her little girl, and a bottle of wine was finished along the way. The conversation was mainly about the kid, about the life she had after leaving her home country after the invasion. She asked me to join them for a movie. Again, I was a bit drunk that night and forgot to ask for the number, like again.
A week later, I returned to her place, this time with my homemade drinks and a gift for the kids. We watched a movie together, the kid liked me, and she was pretty open about her precious marriage. I was impressed by her knowledge of music and literature, and the damned invasion is something we both have quite a few opinions about.
Tonight, when I knocked at her door, as usual, with some drinks and a small gift for the kid, I found an unknown guy in the doorway. The guy fits the description of her husband. I wasn't sure what to say, what I did instead was to pretend there was a package waiting for me, and I came to check out.
I've never tried to date a single mom before, nor a neighbor. It seems to be the rules of the game are totally different here. I have a crush on her, apparently, but the presence of the kid, and possibly her ex-husband, kind of makes the whole thing complicated. I don't know if my reaching out looks like taking advantage of her situation, and if it's inappropriate to continue the kind of interaction. Shall I just ask? Does it make me look like some weird guys preying on her? | Crushes |
Hi everyone,
Ever since I was 8-ish I've had intense crushes on the most random people, and it started from them changing around between 1 week to a few months. It progressed as I aged further, didn't become an issue until a year ago when these crushes became more intense and more frequent. So far I'm at 150+ and counting, most are fictional btw, but idk if its anything I should be concerned by. Sorry there's not much info on the matter but if you need more non-personal info (not like age or smth) then please do let me know <3
PS, if this belongs in another subreddit then do say :)
Thank youu | Crushes |
like i kinda like this guy in my clg and i think he is attracted atleast a bit towards me tho we rarely interact online or offline, but he used to watch all my IG stories earlier but now he sometimes watches them, other times ig he just skips them or smth cause he has liked pics of mutuals within like 10 mins of their posting but haven't seen my story in the past 23 hours despite having around just 200 followers and almost always being on phone. it seems weird as it feels like he muted me or smth but why would he even do so? | Crushes |
My (19M) former crush (19F) and I haven't hung out in about a week and a half. I know that doesn't seem like a long time, but it actually is when considering that we're part of the same friend group and would see each other almost every day for the past three months. About two and a half weeks ago, we even hung out one on one for like four days in a row for at least five hours a day (one day it was as much as 10), and we would have lunch or dinner together. We'd also text a lot.
But that stopped all of a sudden, and I'm a bit concerned and confused. My guess is that she caught on to the fact that I liked her and decided to distance herself from me. I totally respect that, and honestly, I feel that being apart has made me realize that my feelings were kind of superficial. At this point, I'm pretty much over it. But I still value her as a friend. She and I were the only people in the group interested in certain things, so it was fun talking about them. I guess I'm impatient because I considered talking to her about this to make things go back to normal, but my friends told me that it's best to continue giving her space. Is that the way to go?
tl;dr My former crush who I used to hang out with a lot distanced herself. I think it's because she realized that I liked her. I'm over it now and just want things to be normal again. Considered talking to her to confirm my suspicions and inform her that I've moved on but friends say I should continue giving her space. What should I do? | Crushes |
Ask me anything about my crush and I'll ask u about yours,
I seen like three ppl doing this so yeah lol | Crushes |
It’s been 9 days that I got rejected by my crush, but I still like her, so, what should I do? (For now we are in a really good friendship) | Crushes |
He's on my mind 24/7 like give me a break | Crushes |
Bro I swear like a day before tomorrow I be like okay no time for boy problems he has tests and exams and so do I we don't have time for each other but seriously honestly I hate myself sm this one time I was walking to school with friend up to the hill and he was on the other hill then he was look at me and I looked at him back but I just turned away acting normal because litro no one knows I still have feelings for him but like this boy mate he has my heart no one can else has ever made me feel this way like I was so happy and nervous for what??? | Crushes |
Just got rejected and then she post a photo of her with her Bf
i dont know what to do
i cant sleep barely eating idk | Crushes |
The title has the question. What song(s) remind you of your crush and why? It can also be a song that you relate to a lot that has to do with your crush (for me, Without Me by Halsey is a song that I listen to a lot and relate to). Let's have a discussion! | Crushes |
So I have always had a kind of a crush on this classmate of mine. And I always felt he might find me attractive with the way he is around me. We have rarely talked, but I have seen him stealing glances. This was to the point that once he looked me right in the eye when I felt like he was looking at me briefly and our eyes met at that sudden moment, I reverted my gaze and didn't look at him again. However, he asked a question generally in my direction (ig to the guy standing near me at that time) and I answered since that guy fumbled with the answer, he said "okkkay" and moved to pack his bag. Anyways, he has mostly been a real regular watcher of my IG stories, has watched almost all of them, but has never responded to any. He once just filled a survey form for me that I had posted on it. But recently, he has been on and off and I have posted again and again too on the stories, and there is a high chance my stories appear in front because 1. he was a regualr watcher and suddenly turned on and off, 2. we have interacted online, tho not much, and 3. he has just around 200 followers. So whyyy did he stop watching it.. I feel like he muted me or is ignoring me with the way it is.. what would you guys do in this case?
P. S. even if he greets the guy friend I sit next to who is our mutual friend, he never greets me, never ever..! I mean, almost all the guys in my class greet me, simply because we feel we are classmates and we should be buddies, but he and his friends interact with everyone but me and my group. It sometimes even turns real awkward.
And can you help me know the reason why he ignores my stories and sometimes my whole existence..? | Crushes |
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I just feel like I need to talk to someone about my crush and yeah... It might be stupid but right now I kinda need it. (if you want to DM me, please start with some at least a bit specific question, 'cause I'm super awkward at the beginning) | Crushes |
i really want to find out if shes in a relationship but im too scared to ask her myself, should i ask a friend to ask her friends? | Crushes |
I'm thinking about us and about you
They say first loves always remain true
A bittersweet memory of our paradise
A connection electric enough to mesmerize
I met you at ten, kissed you at thirteen
Syncing your smile to mine in-between
Drifted apart yesterday with lives to pursue
Thinking today about us and tomorrow about you | Crushes |
My friend got invited to a dinner by his female friend and when he went there, guess what? She came with her mum and it was only the three of them and she didn’t even tell him that her mum was gonna be there. They always hangout alone, go to beaches, dinners as friends. My friend says that they’re only friends and he doesn’t like her, nor does she. Please comment your thoughts to let him know that there’s only one conclusion, that she likes him! | Crushes |
I just turned 17 and recently I’ve met a boy who is interested in me and I can see something pursuing from this he’s 19 and has had previous girlfriends but I’m completely inexperienced in every regard like everything. I’m terrified to pursue anything because of these matters and I’m worried if I don’t want to advance to anything sexual he will just leave I’m also terribly embarrassed of my body because I have certain conditions with my private parts. Helpppp | Crushes |
I’m 18 years old. She’s 12 years old. I came to argentina to visit my family since the last time i visited in 2019. I knew this cousin since she was a baby. She would always talk to me and i would always hang out with her. We would do sleep overs and play video games together. She would even talk to me and sometimes invite me with our younger cousin and friends. In 2019 she didn’t say much to me but i approached her myself, there were times she would try to not invite me with her friends and our younger cousin as if she was trying to avoid being around me. Her friends would also laugh when i came by back then. Anyways now She hasn’t spoken to me at all ever since i came here last wedensday. She has given me a culture greeting that people do here in argentina (hug and kiss) so idk if this kid is uncomfortable by me or something.
She always hangs around my 8year old cousin but never bothers noticing that i’m here. One time i was staring at my mom and my cousin wa behind her, i glanced at her for a sec and she would stare away then stare back and blink alot. She hasn’t done that again when i made eye contact with her. On my 8year old cousins birthday, my 12 year old cousin would sometimes sit at my table so no idea if she hates me. Yesterday we were going in the car Idk if my 8year old cousin moved spots later but when i entered she was sitting next to the car door so if she was always there it would be meaning i would end up sitting next to my 12 year old cousin. She tried to make excuses that she couldn’t enter the car. She acts like i touched her or something. I don’t even do anything to her Havnt even seen her in so long. I’m at the point where i wanna tell my mom but i don’t think it’ll do anything. | Crushes |
That’s all. I just needed to tell someone | Crushes |
Was texting my crush and he ended up telling me how he thinks that I have the “tism”. I have no clue what this means and would appreciate it if anyone could help me figure this out. | Crushes |
Ok so there’s a girl I’m interested in talking to. I kinda have a crush on her. I haven’t seen her in almost three years, I found her on snap chat and added her. She added me back and neither of us said anything yet.
I wanna say hello and start talking to her and stuff, but every time I think about doing it, I have second thoughts. It’s not a nice feeling for me. Any helpful words? | Crushes |
Friends, about 8-9 months ago i was flirting with a girl in my senior year school class. She was cute with a very peculiar eyebrows, something i love.
I wasn't the cutest and definitely not the most funniest guy. But girls have Shown some attention to me in the past.
So i was flirting with her for couple of months. Even though we chatted both in online and offline, about a lot things. Most of them times I felt she didn't put in the same effort as me and I started to question myself about this situation. Whether should i continue it or not.
She and i have a common friend who is also a girl, when i asked her she said there is something def wrong with her. When another boy tried to flirt with her she showed some superiority complex or pompous about that. Also my friend said, it wasn't literal but she (crush) gave vibes out like that.
She then asked me not put anymore effort and stop talking to her. I didn't think much of it that time.
I still continued tho, but nail in the coffin happend at our school send-off. While she socialized and gave her best luck wishes to other boys and girls in class. While straight up ignoring me, didn't even talk to me let alone a wish. It's like i didn't exist for her, i was in the same class she went by like it was nothing. Not even a single word. When I was leaving school for last time. I was in my thoughts, what did I do wrong.
I felt truly heartbroken, not because she didn't gave a clear sign whether she is interested or not. But the amount of effort i gave for it. Helped her during exams, practicals, day to day tasks at school. Supported her in all other activities. Atleast i didn't even receive a friend.
After that I stopped talking to her, we had very brief chats in Snapchat. But all of that convo was initiated by her. I kept all of that convo very short and straight to the point.
Then i was dating another girl for some months.
Now weirdly somehow she and i managed to get into same uni, but i diffrent classes. I didn't know she joined here. I was flabbergasted when Professor called out her name for attendance register first time.
I made a decision i won't make the past mistake and won't talk to her first. I hoped maybe in 2-3 days she might come up, since we did study at the same school before and was good friends. But she didn't. Now a whole semester wentby all i got is she secretly looking and peeping at my, when we passby each other. I have catched her staring at me couple of times, when I found out she will just look away. It's like we are total strangers, and didn't know each other. At some point it went boderline creepy.
But still i think she still don't have a thing for me, i respect and accept that. But i thought this situation was weird.
I know i have made some mistakes, like making a grudge while i could have easily initiated a talk. Or having overly expectations from this. | Crushes |
Extra info: Male 16yo. Couple days ago I might’ve noticed that her friend tried encouraging her to talk to me, but she wouldn’t dare because she seems reasonably shy (I’m like 70% sure that was the case, from the body language).
Also should mention that her friend MIGHT know I like her because she might’ve hear something she shouldn’t have couple weeks ago.
We have never talked before, see each other max 1 time a day and have couple mutual friends. | Crushes |
Okay, so I think I have this crush on a boy. He's so adorable, kind, funny, and mature. I was in food tech today, and he offered to do all of my cleaning up from cooking. He normally tries to talk to make and make me laugh but I never know what to say. I often help him with school work, as we sit next to each other in some classes. (He normally copies me but it's okay:) )
He's got such an amazing attitude to everything, and omgmgmgmggggg🤭🤍 | Crushes |
We're both shy and very introverted. My classmates say we're good together. Haven't really talked to him but sent him letters and chocolates anonymously and I'm thinking of confessing to him about it, at least before the school year ends. Is this a good idea?
I'm also the quiet kid in class, I have no friends there but my online friends call me cute, but I'm still not sure if he will like it. I even think he doesn't like this kind of thing at all. As if he'd pick school over having relationships with anyone. | Crushes |
If it didn’t, why? | Crushes |
Daydreaming about your crush is annoying, but fun at the same time. You just relax (or zone out) and daydream about all the fun things that you want to do with your crush. Anyways, the question is how often do you daydream about your crush. The poll lasts for 3 days.
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You guys seem to like stories, so I am giving you one. For reference, I was in 5th Grade at a private school that only attends Tuesdays and Thursdays. It all started in 2nd Grade, when I joined the school. It was the first day. We were learning about who what when where why how, all of that stuff. We had to fill out a worksheet with already assigned partners. I got assigned a girl I will call A. A and I worked on it, and I had a crush on her. For the next few weeks, I would start a doughnut shop at the playground. She and her friends, T and J, worked on destroying it. My friends, W and J (different J) worked to save it. A few weeks pass, and we are learning something in science. This time, we got to choose partners. It seemed like this girl named E just popped out of no where! My thoughts were: REALLY PRETTY. So she went up to the top of list of crushes, and then there was another girl in the class named M, who got second. By now, A was at third, and by the end of 2nd Grade, I didn't have a crush on her at all. We fast-forward to the end of 3rd Grade, where M announces she is leaving the school. All I had left on my list was E. We fast-forward to the end of 4th grade, where E announces she is leaving. Apparently, I was staring at her and everyone knew I had a crush on her. Even her! Going back to 2nd Grade, we were reading a book about Squanto, and I asked her to be my partner (for the reading). She says no, then A walks up and whispers to her (I could hear. Not that good at whispering) and she said "But you love \[insert my name\]!" And she whispers back "I know, I just don't want to right now" In my mind I was going insane, but on the outside, I was perfectly normal. A might have been referring to my personality, because I have been complimented on my personality on multiple occasions (sorry to brag, but a LOT of occasions). Going into the 5th Grade, it started in October. My crush on A skyrocketed back to #1 (well, I didn't have a crush on anyone at the time, so everyone was at #0). At the beginning of 3rd Grade, my doughnut shop had basically been forgotten (by me included). Back to the 5th Grade, I wanted to do SOMETHING. Then, we had a family reunion. I talked to some of my cousins about it, mainly one because she was a girl and would know what to do, and she asked me what A and I had in common. There was only one thing. We both LOVED dogs. So, she suggested I get her a stuffed dog or something like that. So I bought one for $27, and my brother kindly payed $5 for a small box of chocolates to give to her. I had already conferenced with my brother on what to do, and he basically said be very open and tell her (he is 21). Then, on one Thursday, I had an after school elective. So did my friend J, who actually left at the end of 4th Grade, but they still let him do electives. I told him about my crush on A, and he tried to yell it out to her. I stopped him, but meanwhile, my friend T went up and told her. Then T told me that he told her. I died inside. It was the last day of school before Valentine's, and I was going to tell her on Tuesday. I called my friend T multiple times (and my friend L once), and we devised a plan. I would put the dog and chocolate in a box and put it in my bag (we had to have a special bag to put our sources in, as we were doing a project). I wrote on two sticky notes on the boxes "will you be my Valentine? signed, my name P.S. If no, keep it please :) and P.S.P.S please open this box alone" If I gave my friend a green sticky note (nothing on it) he was to deliver it when he had to go the bathroom. If I gave him a blue one, it meant I would do it myself. If it was red, it meant don't do it. On Sunday, I called L and asked what A's reaction was, as I was called away as soon as T told me, as was T. L said that A went up to him and said "Don't you dare!" as T already had a crush on A, and it was already revealed. L had a tiny crush on A. Then, it was Monday school that every girl went to, and the only boy that went was T. T asked A if she had a crush on me, and T reported that she said "No", but blushed. Eventually, Valentine's came. A and I pretty much stopped talking for the rest of the day. At a terrible moment, we were the only ones alone in the hall, getting stuff out of our bags. "\[insert my name\]..." she said "I know, I'm dead" I responded. I gave T the green note. He delivered, A saw, screamed a little, then went back to her seat. During some free time, she went up to me and said, "I am REALLY sorry, but no" She tried to give the stuff back, but I insisted she keep it. This is not confirmed, but I heard she gave the dog to a different A that went to the school. Then on a camp out thing that her older brother went to, I and 4 other kids were running back. My dad said something to A's dad, and A's dad responded with, "You know that your son asked out my daughter?" and then he complimented me and said I had a lot of courage. And that is my story. I think I have to write tl;dr too. | Crushes |
I just have to brag about him because I can’t get him off my mind.
He’s so amazing and he’s really sweet. He goes to a different school though which is pretty sad but I can deal with that (we really only live 4-5 hours away from each other but after he moves next year it will only be 1 hour)
We have been friends for a little over a year now and I like him so much but literally everything has been completely platonic between us.
We do some VERY light filtering here and there but it’s not major enough to have a for sure “yeah he likes me back”
Yesterday we were talking and he was talking about how he liked ice skating and I said I had always wanted to learn, because I did. I always loved watching people ice skate and it seemed like so much fun. And he offered to take me ice skating when one of us was able to drive (so 10 months from now)
I know it seems like a long time but time goes by really fast and I’m sure the day will come in no time. I’m so excited. We were flirting quite a bit last night and he was talking about how excited he was and how he wished time would go by quicker. I have never gotten more butterflies in my whole life.
He’s really cute too. He’s a bit taller than me and he has mediumish (for a guy) ginger hair. He has brown eyes and kinda pale skin that's covered in freckles that I love so much.
We also have a lot of the same interests (one being the whole ice skating thing) we both love drawing, we both love watching the stars, we’re both kinda anime nerds, we both can be pretty mean when it comes to kids. We’re like your ideal best friends (but maybe it could be more then thattt)
He’s just so amazing and I really hope things work out with him because I have been crushing hard. | Crushes |
Update guys; I’m literally stressing about meeting him so much and I can’t stop thinking about it. Everyone that knows him keeps telling me he’s not the type to meet with a girl alone unless it’s a date but I honestly don’t know and it’s driving me insane. I really want him to like me back so now I’m overthinking and I can’t even text him like I normally would because things are just so awkward and I don’t want to risk messing anything up. I don’t know. Help me lol. | Crushes |
Being a middle schooler with a crush(?) on a high schooler is so damn awkward. I don’t have a crush?? I mean, I’m not sure. I think she’s really pretty, but I don’t think it’s a crush because I know absolutely nothing about her… not even her name. This is why Ithink That it is kind of strange that I have this weird thing with her. Imagine she knew I was writing this JUST because of her! She is a random person with her own life, thoughts and issues. And I’m just like “wawawa she is SOOOOOoooo pretty!!!!”the first time I called her pretty was when I was with my friend in 10th grade, and she was in the class for her friend. I told my friend “woah she’s so pretty…” every SINGLE time I go to her class. She’s not in 10th grade, she’s higher, but goes there idk. So, the friend had enough of it and told me to just tell her I think she’s pretty. I was all like “B-Buh buh buh I’m too nervous, I can’t!! Wahhh!!” And she said, the best thing to say to a middle schooler, “if you don’t do it I will.” I QUICKLY told her to kindly stfu because I’m an embarrassed ass and I wanted to prove myself I could do it without fainting (Spoiler alert, I fainted— Mentally…) I said she’s pretty. Then she was like “wow thanks” I don’t remember if she said “you’re pretty too” or if that’s just my subconscious just wanting me to be happy but um, she might’ve said that. Might’ve! Anyway, then that’s when the actual thing began. I first just thought she was pretty, but then I made it a thing. I told my friends about her. Fuck, biggest mistake ever. The thing is, I have to say “girl that’s pretty” bc my class is homophobic lmfao. “They’re gonna suspect…” trust me, they’re really stupid. One of them said “if you were a boy I’d date you” and more but that’s a different story. The people that are not in denial— I mean, homophobic, clearly got the gist that I crushed on her. So, then I didn’t like her anymore because I forgot about her. But whenever she passes by I’m like “oh gof it’s that girl!” And point at her. “You… you pointed at her?” IM SO STUPID. Why did I do that, actually. I only have my ADHD to blame for not thinking whatsoever that she would see me. I don’t know if she saw me or not but I assume she did for the multiple times that it happened. “MORE THAN ONCE?!” Yes, more than once! I know… Anyway, so after the realization hit rhat she could see me, everytime I bumped into her, I’d actually fucking freak. I tripped on my shoe lace once in front of her but idk if she noticed. Every time I see her I step out of the room quickly and / or ask my friends to hide me. Instead of hiding me, they’re like “who is it?? Who is it?” HOW IS THAT HELPING?! Me, an idiot, of course described her as any normal person would do in that situation. So now, they go out of there way, NOT EVEN HIDING that they’re trying to look for someone and it happens every time. Btw my friends still didn’t even see her face yet lmao. Sooo many embarrassing moments. I try not to look at her when we pass the hallways or anything bc I have to pretend I have nothing to do with her! Anyway. So today I saw her and like always I go tell my friend “oh hod is that girl I want to fucking KILL MYSELF and kill EVWRYBODY please I hope to NEVER see the light of day again.” Guess what? She was RIGHT. BEHIND ME. Seriously. My heart DROPPED. Fear I had never felt through my entire body just.. wow. Turns out, I dropped a flower my friend gave to me. I didn’t realize I had dropped it, but she picked it up and gave it back to me. I acted chill about it but as soon as I went to my class I SCREAMED. Not literally but internally, I still talked about it a lot though. Ok then I went hope and typing this after I just watched the Harley Quinn show it’s really good. Anyway thanks for reading if you did lol | Crushes |
I had this crush on a cute cashier and i have been getting mixed signals from him which yeah i get is usually nota good sign but i am absolutely devastated that he left. I know it sounds pretty selfish of me to be sad over him leaving cuz being a cashier can be pretty tiring cuz of the repetitive tasks and long working hours.I think i have a bigger issue going on with me. I het super sad when they are sad or when they leave and become extremely loyal to a “crush” and always end up getting hurt. i an pretty heart broken right now. :/ | Crushes |
Okay, I've read many interpretations of mixed signals, but please make it clear to me, WHAT DO MIXED SIGNALS FROM A GIY ACTUALLY MEAN?
Like, he sometimes gives me really obvious signals which sometimes feel like indirect confessions. You might say he's trying to play with me, but not only his words, I've seen those signals in his eyes. They tell me that he genuinely likes me. But the other times, he just passes by me. Like doesn't even look at me. And he would be like that for a complete month.
I would also mention that the times he ignored me, we were not in the most comfortable of surroundings. Like he gave me signals when we were completely around 'our people', so he wouldn't mind them knowing. But when we're not around comfortable people, he would practically act like a stranger. (It doesn't mean that he doesn't reply when I try to approach him, just those signals are absent) | Crushes |
She has a boyfriend | Crushes |
So, I was taking part in an event where I met this girl. We only ever talked to each other in a group and only for a bit, but she kind of defended me in an argument and now she's smiling at me whenever walking passed me at school. Her friends also keep looking at me.
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She definitely is not of the shy type and already had the opportunity to have a one-on-one conversation with me, but didn't take it, so I'm unsure if she's just being nice or if she actually wants to get to know me more. She hasn't approached me yet. Should I strike conversation with her? I feel like that could be perceived as creepy if she is only being nice, but on the other hand, if she likes me, I don't want to let her wait or anything.
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For a bit of backstory, I've only recently restored my self-confidence and have only ever been crossed in love, all of this is really new for me.
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Thanks! | Crushes |
Basically I sent her a message telling her about how i'm sorry for trying to get close to her when she had a bf in order to end that chapter of my life and i told her to keep it private. She told the whole of senior and now i'm getting made fun of being called a simp and shit | Crushes |
So im relatively young (15) ive never felt this way before and i really need advice. So i met this guy and we started talking bc he liked me. We started hanging out and he ended up giving me his hoodie, cute nicknames and just being the perfect guy. A few days ago i had my very first kiss ever with him. We cuddled on his couch and everything was perfect. But lately hes been distant and it seems he dosent like me. He told my friend he was gonna talk to me about it later but im just terrified. I know hes probably gonna tell me how he lost feelings but i just dont know what to do. He was my first kiss and everything and i really want us to work out. He told my friend how he didnt feel that “spark” between us. Ive already met his parents and his friends and so many ppl think were together. But hes always talking to girls, i wasnt even on his list for top 5 prettiest girls(even though hes told me i was blah blah blah). He usually never talks to me during school but was fine on the phone. He also broke up with his gf about a month before we started talking. (Had atleast 3 other relationships that lasted no longer than 3 months) But still ever since yesterday when he started being distant ive just been really depressed. I cant seem to get this off my mind. What should i do? Im so close to having a mental breakdown rn. Should i delete everything i have of him? I just dont know what im gonna do because ive never been treated this way and ive grown attached to him. | Crushes |
I had a dream that she told me she loves me | Crushes |
What's the nicest thing your crush said to you?
Like everyday when he sees u.. | Crushes |
It’s been months since I’ve broken up with my (19F) first love, and we came to completely cutting contact after we returned to just being friends. I don’t have feelings for him anymore and I can say I truly feel it was better off for some time now. I’m looking for love again, but I don’t find myself crushing on anyone like I used to in high school. Not even little crushes of admiring someone who I think is good looking, as I don’t get attracted to them. I really like the idea of loving someone and being loved and I want to have that relationship with someone I’m attracted to. But why don’t I naturally have crushes anymore and don’t feel that excitement of mystery about someone I don’t know? Knowing me, I used to easily have small crushes on people but now, I haven’t had a single one. | Crushes |
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Today was my exam & my preparation was so poor. I've read for only around 6 hours for it. It's an annual exam of chemistry(16chapters). So I guess, i've made around barely 50/100.
In exam hall,firstly my pencil fall down on the bench next to mine.I'm on last bench at corner side, in my room, there're 6/20 boys. A girl,who was on that bench, given me it. In just about 10mins later, my scale fall down.This time I actually didn't need it in the rest paper.So I didn't ask & she didn't give me too. & a moment later, my hall ticket fall.Now she turned towards me & like smiling, but I said it's okay give me it later with expressing it with hands .When exam finished, she turned towards me with quite laughing/smiling & I ask her to give me it. She gave me & I thanked her. She smiled & welcomed me. But, now I'm thinking like isn't she might be thinking/seeing me as a idiot boy??or like a kid who can't keep things??Now it's freaking me out! Surely you got that I'm an overthinker!
I think she might thought that how silly this guy is!
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Incident, that happened on last exam. So today, I was completely aware that nothing should fall down by any chance. Bcz I don't want to sound silly person!!
This day, when I reached at exam hall, she asked me something related to hall ticket. She can ask this to other girls that were there too. And they all were even talking with eachother something about old papers too. But she asked me! Idk why? Just asked perhaps. So I didn't give it thoughts at all.
But unfortunately, happened! Again the pencil fall down in the middle of paper. I couldn't help myself! But this time she didn't even take a look at it. But fortunately, I always keep two pencils. In case, one's age broken, I don't need to waste time for sharping it. So I used it. When exam finished, she was looking for something under the bench. I shown my pencil by signing it. She told me that she wasn't looking for mine one, she's looking for her!! And just given me mine pencil. So I looked down for her's. I didn't see anything. Within a moment she moved towards door.
What's wrong was today? It's all was mere incident. I guess, she migh told this all first day to her parents. And they might told her not to give anyone without being asked. Kinda guys can be flirting and all.
And I guess, my crush is over! She's cute looking, no doubt! She's skinny, still looks better. But I guess, now I'm crushed! I can't see that feeling at all! | Crushes |
Update to my previous posts
To start off, imma be honest, I have no dating experience at all.
So we were texting a bit and i said that i really enjoy talking with her and i asked her out on a date, to have a drink, a coffee or something else. She agreed but i dont really know where to go from here.
Any date ideas ? I was thinking about going to a bar or a coffee shop. In the day or in the evening ? Im a bit lost !
TL;DR : asked her out on a date (by text), she agreed and idk where to go/what to do | Crushes |
I'm in high school, and I think I am crushing on a guy but honestly I really wish it would stop. I don't think he has a girlfriend(just because he seems like he never has). I don't want to have this crush on him, because one he has really bad opinions, two he's not very physically attractive, and three he's a toxic gamer. I think he might be a little perverted too.
But somehow, through all those bad qualities, I like him for some reason, but I really need to get over it. Like when I fantasize dating him, I just think he would be a terrible boyfriend. Like a major red flag is that he has a "waifu" that he idolizes. If he ever asked me out, I would want to say no, but it's hard because I have a crush on him that might prevent me from doing this.
When I'm talking about bad opinions, it's not like "pineapple belongs on pizza" or something silly like that. He has bad opinions on serious topics. I'm not going to go into detail, but one of the things he said was that all men enjoy doing "something" with a woman even if they were forced by one. I had to make that sentence weird, but you get what I mean, right? Just these words alone, kind of made me realize he was perverted.
Through all of that, I ended up trying out his favorite tv series and the games he plays. Like I started playing that game and watching that tv series mainly out of curiosity, but in the end we all probably know I did it for this guy. Like I'm mad that I keep doing this to myself.
And I already told my friends how idiotic he is. My friends already don't like this guy and thinks I should stop talking to him. If I told them that I had this crush on this guy, I feel like they would tell me to stop, and I want to, but telling them is so scary. I know they are always supportive friends, but I just don't want to be told the thing that I'm already trying to stop from continuing to grow. I also told my mom about this guy(not about the crush thing), and she thought he was strange too. I don't have anyone else to talk about this crush besides strangers on the internet.
How can I stop my feelings without having to leave this guy, and stop being friends with him? | Crushes |
So this kinda all centers around Instagram's new notes feature. I posted a note like 2 days ago, and a girl that I have never really interacted with at all before this point messaged me responding to it. We had the same class and were messaging casually in the class, and after about 10 or 15 messages she added me to her close friends list. After school I changed my note, and she responded via her own note, and did the exact same the next day. The only interaction I'd had with this girl was liking 2 of her stories in which she was playing the guitar, because I'm a guitarist and I acknowledge she is genuinely good at singing/songwriting. Could this be a possibility that she may like me or am I seeing something that just isn't there? | Crushes |
Hey guys,
so recently there was my first info event of my soon-to-be university. After the event, there was a get-together so we could meet our new classmates.
There was this one girl, she was amazing.
Some talking later it turned out she will take a train in the same direction as i will to get home. Then i gave her my number and told her to text me which train she will take. Later that day, she texted me :))), however, she almost missed her train already and she said she couldnt text me at first so she was already in the train and we couldnt take the same train home. From then on, the next about 10 days we text but only very little and she takes quite some time to answer which turns me down.
However, next week, there will be the first week which is full of parties and everyone will get to know each other, now i am wondering
if i should wait and do small steps (talking to her for a couple days, asking her out with a group of other people, asking her out alone…)
or
if i should be a bit more flirty at those parties and showing a bit more what i want.
What would you do? Any comments/tips are very welcome! | Crushes |
Yesterday there was a school dance i performed infront of my grade ( went horrible dont ask ) and i had just finished the dance so i went back to class and i was talking to my friend about the my shit dance and my friends called out my crush for staring at me through the door thrice...., and one day at an assembly we sat near eachother and his other friend was shipping us and he admitted that he was blushing... and one day his friend randomly called me to the football court saying that my crush wanted to tell me something and then when i came he ran away | Crushes |
i would consider him my only friend right now or at-least after graduating he’s the only one ill keep in touch with and hang out with on a relatively regular basis. Ive found myself crushing on him hard and this is the second time too since we became friends, i absolutely adore him as a friend/person and i have a strong feeling if i tell him how i feel our friendship would end(meaning im basically friendless, its a pickle of a situation) I really want to do something about it but I’m not sure so please give me insight if you’ve found yourself in the same situation!!! | Crushes |
I started liking this guy in September of 2022. (I'm gonna call him L) I'm gonna tell you guys some stories that have happened between me and him and you want, you can give me your opinion on all of this.
(btw, I told him I like him in Nov. on text) (ALSO, our homeschool tutorial is only once a week btw)
1. Jan. 5, 2023: So the first real interaction between us happened at a game night for our homeschool tutorial. We were playing "signs" and L was tossing a football around from across the room with his friend. Then, L threw the football at his friend when he wasn't looking and kinda hurt his friend's arm, then L said so randomly "It was Macy!" (I am Macy btw lol) I know it isn't a big deal but it was to me at the time.
2. Jan. 10, 2023: Another story is that his first day at school (he joined halfway through the year) (also I just want say our homeschool tutorial is really small, like there are literally 13 high schoolers) Me and my younger sister are both in art, and so is L. And my sister said that whenever our teacher would say something funny. L would look and me and laugh. Like every time apparently.
3. Jan. 24, 2023: A few weeks later in art, we were making sculptures out of wire, and L said "Macy! Can you give me the wire?" So I slid it across the table and it fell off. It was kinda embarrassing, but after, L said "Well... never mind" while laughing.
4. I told the teacher that I finished my sculpture, and L goes "The mouth needs surgery."
5. Feb. 7, 2023: We made eye contact countless times in art.
6. Feb. 14, 2023: We had a mini conversation at lunch. Also in bible drill class, our teacher was telling us that we were gonna have "bootcamp" (which is a thing at her house to practice) and L turned and looked at me and asked "What's bootcamp?" So I explained it to him and he was like "Alr cool" and then I said "Oh, and there will be food." And he looked at me and laughed. Another thing that happened that day was L was drawing a tattoo on his friend's leg with sharpie, and when he was done he turned to me and asked "Macy, is his new tattoo hot?" so obviously I was like "Yess are you a tattoo artist?".
7. Feb. 21, 2023: Made tons of eye contact again in art.
8. Feb. 28, 2023: In art, L looked at me intensely for so long that I looked at him 3 times before he looked away. In bible drill, L randomly turned to me while talking to his friend and asked me "Macy, do you watch Outerbanks?". Also me, L, L's friend, and my friend were talking, and I said something to my friend and then L's friend said "what?" so I said "I wasn't talking to you." and then L said "Were you talking to me??" Then L's friend said "I bet she talks about you in her dreams." So I said "TRUE." (btw his friend knows I like L)
9. Mar. 21, 2023: Now, it's time for today's stories. lolol. I can tell we're starting to get a little closer. Maybe friends. He sat by me in bible drill but then his friend had to ruin it by squeezing in the middle of us. We also had a lot of encounters today. Like, when we were walking past each other, he tried to give me a high five, but I only noticed the last second, so I didn't have time to. We talked a lot today but it all went by in a daze, so I don't remember it well.
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Anyways, that's about it. Tell me what you think in the comments. Also sorry if any of this was confusing. | Crushes |
Okay so tryna keep this as brief as possible, Ive a crush on someone ive never met, from another college in the same city as me, who have pursued the same degree as me. He ticks all the boxes for me, and he also seems very introverted and keeps his circle small and close, idk how to approach him without being a creep. Pleaaaaaaaseeee help
I really think we will click if we start talking, from whatever ive managed to learn about him from social media, his account is private too but he seems active on twitter.
I dont wanna be very straightforward as well, and wanna take it slow and subtly | Crushes |
I cant believe i love my best friend Leslie. Tbh she is just the best, she makes me feel whole and around her i can just be me, not just pretending to be someone im not. When we first met i didn’t think i would fall in love with her but after a while of talking to her at school i noticed that she really did care ab me and that she was starting to become my best friend. Most people either think we would be a perfect couple or already think we are dating, i wish we were although i don’t want to make a move because she has a boyfriend and even tho i don’t like him at all i will respect her and not do anything that may ruin our friendship. And i think that she may start liking me but then it might also just be her being nice and im just getting the wrong idea. I would really love to be in a relationship with her but i can’t. I know that she is really happy with her boyfriend and i don’t wanna intervene with their relationship. I feel like she likes me too but she is probably more into her boyfriend than me but yet i might just be reading this all wrong and her not actually liking me. She makes me feel cared for like nobody has ever made me feel. I would literally give her the world if i could but idk if we will ever be more than just best friends. Ive only noticed my feelings about 2 weeks ago and ive hated loving her because i know i wont be with her now or never. She means the world to me and thats why i cant tell her the feelings i have for her because then it’ll just be awkward between us and we’ll distance ourselves from each other. I feel like that would help but i still don’t wanna lose her. I just want to tell her all this and tell her how much she really means to me but if i do i’ll just ruin it and my chances of ever being with her will be over. I want to go to a quince with her so that we can dance together but if i get to touchyish with her she’ll know right away that i like her and she wont even wanna be my friend anymore. After writing all this i think that distancing myself just a little from her will probably be the best and try and get distracted with other things or other girls. I could just go on and on writing ab how she makes me feel but then it’ll just be pointless because its not like im actually going to get her to be my girlfriend. | Crushes |
I’ve had a crush on this girl 17F for about 6 months and I have zero progress with her. Although we hang out sometimes as I am kinda friends with her friends and they all kind if know I have a crush on her, we never really had any proper conversation about anything. Although i dont expect much out of me since I am way out of her league. I still plan to ask her out to prom, but at the same time im really anxious of the fact she can say no to me. So now I have no clue what to do just to get closer to her. We only have 2 classes together and she hangs out with her group while i hang out with my own group. But lately, I’ve been thinking about her a lot and Im really hoping we can get closer so now I am so lost on how im supposed to approach this situation because i really want to get close to her but there seems to be no setting for me to get to know her better. | Crushes |
we live in the same town and work at the same place and for me having a crush THIS hard is a first time thing and i didn’t really know how to handle it since i’m a bit older than she is and so i would occasionally make friendly conversation with her, or so i thought. then when she walked away my friends were like.. ok that was you flirting with her.
in my mind i figured it was just friendly conversation but when you can tell you can just TELL that it is not friendly conversation. like the eyes don’t lie man.
other little things ..i would catch her staring when i wasn’t looking and then the biggest issue i had was anytime i got near her she would completely almost run away. like she would immediately see me then try to avoid me at all costs if it was just gonna be the two of us and nobody else around but she had no problem speaking to me if there were other people near.
trying not to read into things but it’s very difficult for an over thinker like myself bc it has DESTROYED me as a person. which has NEVER happened before bc i don’t date/ get crushes.
it’s just hard bc i decided to back off and we live in the same town so i’m bound to run into her eventually. | Crushes |
im seriously so shy and boring when it comes to talking to my crush at work😭 i know hes into me, and he always does sweet/cute subtle moves on me. i love it so much, and i want to do it back, I just dont know how😭 im so shyyyyyy and I dont want him to think I dont like him because I definitely do, I just go blank when I have convos with him. Im legit just scared he thinks im not giving him good signals. Any tips?😭 | Crushes |
So, I'm crushing one on of my freinds, and I'm 100% gonna text them tonight, but I don't know how to initiate the conversation. There's a school dance in a couple days where girls ask out guys, but I'm a guy, so I can't really ask them out. So, how do I start a convo out of the blue? | Crushes |
I (19F) got my first real crush. Crazy, huh? In high school I didn’t have the same opportunity to find relationships with people since my school had less than 100 students. (a hippie/alt school for ‘troubled teens’) Covid made socializing pretty much impossible for me since my mom is immunocompromised. Now, in my 3rd term of college, I have found someone who makes me very happy, and gives me butterflies every time he enters the room. During early February, he started flirting and we would tease each other. This happened everytime I’d go to the study center. (which was 2-3 times a week) I had to stop going to the study center since I mentally could not do my homework since I wasn’t sure if my dad would live or die at the time, which of course my crush assumed was a sign that I wasn’t interested since my crush had no idea why I was gone. After overhearing a conversation he had with his friend about his new girlfriend, she seems like an introverted 🍃 addict who only really talks when she’s 🍃. I only was able to get the context of him actually having a girlfriend by asking him if he did, but he then told me that he “doesn’t make a relationship official until a month in”. Since he said that, I took it as my opportunity to chase him again, but he’s not chasing me much at all anymore. I kind of told myself it’s now or never, so I texted him after school the same day and told him I liked him. He views my story, but other than texting me back dryly, he doesn’t interact with me at all. In person however, it’s mixed. Him and his friend have a nickname for me, he talks to me differently than he does anyone else, he even seems a little nervous. I’m going by my moms advice to give it time, and to pretend like it doesn’t matter much that he’s no longer single, and to even flirt with other men, but it’s hard to do since I only see him in the study room. I guess I just want advice? I really really really like him. More than I’ve ever liked anyone else, even more than my last boyfriend who was an ass that practically ghosted me the moment we officially got together. This is so hard. He’s just so perfect, and the thought of him not being mine haunts me. What do I do? | Crushes |
I don't want this next one to happen like the last. And I want him to actually end up the right guy for mez | Crushes |
In a few months, my crush and I are going to start the first year of college. It's exciting and at the same time, scary. We are going to the same college and we're already planning to date soon but here's where the problem is. Some couples are breaking up to focus on college. We are very studious and have big goals, but we don't want to let go of each other just like that. But I worry our studies will be affected and we will be unable to stay.
Does anyone have any tips to stay together but stay focused on your studies? I would love some. | Crushes |
So some background knowledge first off, I’m 17F and one of my best friends, let's call him A, is 17M. We’ve been close for years since we met when we were 11 through the chess team, and until a few months ago, you could honestly compare our relationship to one of family. But recently I've noticed him in a VERY different way, and I'm sort of scared I've caught feelings. We’ve always had a joking sort of relationship, and recently I can't help but smile every time I think of him. He’s the type of person to always remember small details, and recently I've noticed how much he does that for me. He always keeps a pack of Strawberry Altoids on him (for context that’s my favorite candy, and he hates mints in general) and whenever he sees me he always offers me one. I've never seen him touch any of the mints. He's always leaving things around for me, and once even attempted to write me a poem (I’m a journalist, and usually jotting down poetry whenever I get the chance) We’re both pretty academically inclined people, so we study a lot together, both for convenience and just because we enjoy each others company. When he knows I have a paper due, or that I’m working late, which I usually am, he always brings me coffee, in the exact way I like it, even though he's always complaining about how much sugar I put in my coffee (he's angsty and pretends like drinking black coffee makes him deep) Sorry about the ramble, but idk noticing all this is sort of made me realize I might have feelings for him? But I wanted to ask the internet what to do, because I'm too shy to say anything to him, because I don't want to mess it up. | Crushes |
okay so I like this guy and I’ve liked him since freshman year of highschool (we’re both sophomores now) and I really want to talk to him in person! We spoken on insta about music stuff since at the time we first chatted, he was in band/marching band and I was in orchestra. The last time I ever spoken to him was about me being in a gym class of freshman in the beginning of the school year. It is now March and I still haven’t had a real conversation with him face to face 😭
here’s some info that can hopefully give an idea of what I’m dealing with:
-I was his partner in math (9th) but we didn’t exchange a single word 💀
-he followed me on insta first since he saw my @ on a comment my friend made on a post (9th)
-we were actually classmates in preschool and that’s something I brought up during one of our insta convos
-I share one class with him and that’s biology (we don’t sit next to each other🚶🏻) we have shared this class this whole year so far
-i struggle to socialize, like I can never send a text to multiple friends and have my notifs FILLED (that’s something I need to fix as well) but it’s only really difficult while in public
-ik his favorite movie is rocky 4 and he has a dog and cat (I didn’t even know he had a cat, but ig thanks to the biology teacher and his daily question of the day)
-we both have December birthdays
-ever since I found out he was a classmate from preschool and always wonder where they went after all these years, I’ve just been interested and that’s something that confuses me, do I just want to be his friend or do I genuinely like him?
I really need some tips and advice, I downloaded reddit for this reason!! I really want to get to know him and try to get more social in general since so far, I’m just wasting my teenage years ☹️
thank you if you’re reading this!! | Crushes |
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She said yes, but now I have 2 questions(I’m lost):
What should I do in a first date (details are appreciated)?
What should I do before the date date arrives?
Thank you guys before hands | Crushes |
So I met this girl on spring break, she was going through a break up, I don’t wanna give the details but, obviously I didn’t really flirt with her because of that, I did talk to her a bunch though. I didn’t get her snap or anything, one of her friends(who’s also my friend and dating a friend of mine) said to take it very slow, and I want to do that, because I’ve got quite to the crush on her. That being said, before we left where we were on spring break, I didn’t get to give her a good goodbye, so she told my buddies to give hugs and kisses to me “from her” and ofc they did when we got home.
I don’t use Instagram often. But a couple people who went on that trip tagged me in the photos and she requested me, I requested her back and had a weird high panic of redoing my entire instagram and changing my profile picture, and not hours later she changed hers. Coincidence probably?
Should I reach out to her on Instagram?
I wanted to thank her for the hugs and kisses and get her back somehow.
Any comments please lol? | Crushes |
There's this girl in 2 of my classes, she's really cute. I thought she was attractive for a long time and I have this is very hard to word out, but I'm not sure what to do basically. Do I plan on talking to this girl? No. I'm not trying to weird her out, I did that a lot with my past 3 crushes, and ever since the school year I'm currently in has started, I stopped with the crushes. I said to myself I wasn't gonna fall for anyone this year and I still haven't. But every once in a while I keep wondering about this girl. It gets confusing a lot. Have we made eye contact before? Yes. Few times. I walked into my class late today because of traffic and I saw her and like 4 other people looking at me (I was like 2 minutes late) She was the only person I looked at and we made eye contact. We've made eye contact multiple times before that too. I used to think that was a MAJOR SIGN that a girl liked me but it's obviously not. I don't want her to think that I like her because I glance at her sometimes. And I sense her looking at me and when she's talking to one of her guy friends that sits at my desk, I ignored them and I did my work. I felt like at one point she was looking at me but I did not want to look back. She has a lot of male friends though. And I have a lot of friends too but they are all boys. I don't really talk to girls because of what happened in the past. I've had 3 crushes in my school throughout the years and once I realized it was all over, it was complete hell getting over them. It would take at least 3 months to get over one. And the same process happened 3 times. I decided to focus on other things other than girls such as sports and my school work, and I don't regret that. I've matured a little bit and I'm more comfortable talking to girls in my school. But I feel like a bum though. I don't have any female friends and no girls talk to me. It makes me feel unattractive and unlikable and just makes me feel like I'm just not good-looking. I don't think I'm BAD looking, but it's just girls don't talk to me. Any thoughts on this? | Crushes |
1. Meet someone
2. I start to fall for them and get excited thinking it's "going to be it"
3. They may either flirt back and give me false hope OR show absolutely zero interest
4. I start to realize that we're not going to be together
5. Cognitive dissonance from my happy thoughts not matching reality
6. Anxiety and discomfort
7. Anger towards the person for doing this to me OR anger that I once again did not even have a chance
8. Try to get over them while still being bitter
9. Repeat | Crushes |
I'm at a loss for words honestly I can't believe this guy, that I've liked for about a month from a far has liked me for about 7+ months, this boy really saw all the stupid stuff I do, has seen me trip multiple times, has seen me spill everything imagine on myself, has heard me cuss like a sailor, laugh ridiculously loud, seen me hit my best friend upside the head on multiple occasions, heard me being over dramatic as hell over and talk about different guys either I was talking to or that my friend was interested in and still looked at his friend group and maybe more than 10+ plus other guys and about 2 girls and said, "Yeah her, that's the girl I like, I want the one, help me talk to her.", (the I want that one parts exaggerated but the rest is true).
I've been starting to feel so self conscious lately cause I never thought they'd notice my existence (he's my hallway crush and a year above me)
I'M JUST FEELING SO AHHHHHGGGGG | Crushes |
I’m friends with this girl, and I’ve developed a crush on her, and we were just sitting next to each other and reading and she is telling me things about the book and I was just responding so awkwardly…and then we just stared at each other for a minute…like what do I do to make it less awkward!? | Crushes |
Just go ahead | Crushes |
there’s a cute guy on my bus that i’ve known for year but never really talk to. he started talking to me just asking/taking my food out of my bag. today before i got off him and his friends were talking ab doing something and mentioning how he “doesn’t know my personality”. when i got off the bus he yelled out “bring me food tomorrow i know you hear me”. i don’t know if he just wants food that bad or if he’s trying to get my attention. | Crushes |
I want advice from shy men PLEASE. I'm so confused, I confessed to my crush (29M) over fb, who is very shy. He never told me if he likes me back, he said maybe we could hangout on the upcoming weekend, then canceled the day of saying he wasn't in a good place to be getting into anything and he appreciated the interest etc...it's just so confusing because he shows me signs in person he likes me (mirroring physical and verbal, different around me vs other girls, prolonged eye contact when he does decide to look at me in the eyes, etc) some days he'll go out of his way to say hi to me, some days he pretends he can't even see me when he walks past, like deliberately out of his way to not Acknowledge me.....drives me absolutely insane in an upsetting way and I'm about to just give up, I thought if I threw myself out there and just flat out told him I liked him that it would Kickstart something lol | Crushes |
I’m bored and I just really feel like talking about him so please just ask anything and I’ll ask you something back about yours:) | Crushes |
I [24F] see someone [29M] for a cosmetic service. I’ve been seeing him since November and he’s always been very friendly and in terms of his work, always makes sure I walk out the door happy with what I’ve received. I’ve always thought he was cute, but I’ve never questioned his intentions and we’ve always been on professional terms (client/professional). Again, I see him because I’m satisfied with his services and would continue to see him even if I didn’t think he was cute, if that makes sense.
Recently though, I’ve showed up to my last few appointments and the energy has been a little different. He’s told me the last few times that he likes the styles I’ve chosen for my service, he likes my outfits, has been opening up more (I’m usually pretty quiet during my appointments but he has been asking me questions about my personal life or things I like which I’m okay with sharing, also very normal), or that he thinks about me sometimes when he sees something out and about.
I didn’t really question anything until this last appointment, he said “not to be weird, but I feel like you can pull anything off and look good”. No matter how far behind he is, our appointments always run over by 15 minutes or so. He mentioned this last appointment that he was feeling anti-social, so I offered to invite him along to something or text him to go out, and he said “please do, I’d like that”.
He’s always been super professional so I can’t tell if he’s just being friendly to a client or I should try to invite him along to do something. I don’t want to make him uncomfortable being hit on by a client (I also work in the beauty industry, and I know it can be awkward). His clientele is also mostly men, so maybe he’s just being extra nice since I’m female, I don’t know.
I also genuinely enjoy his services and feel like if I’m rejected, I’d be too embarrassed to go back. What should I do?
TL;DR: person I see for services getting more friendly borderline flirty, don’t know if I should break client/professional barrier and ask him out or leave it alone | Crushes |
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I met and became friends with this guy online. We ended up talking and connecting really well, and in the end, we confessed that we like each other. We have only been speaking for a week, but I feel like I have known him my whole life. The only problem is that I haven’t seen his face yet, and he hasn’t seen mine.
Is it possible to fall in love with a person I have been speaking to for only a week and haven’t seen the face of? Because it sure feels like it. | Crushes |
I texted her because she gave me her number when I asked for it on Instagram and joked with her. I said I'm gonna cheat on a bio quiz and she said me too, then I said if I get caught, I'll say I thought the quiz was open notes, then she said haha smart. I also texted her good night after I had been texting late at night with her and she said good night and sweet dreams. I think it's a sign she's at least into me platonically, so I'll try and talk to her at lunch and give her a little compliment because nothing will go wrong. | Crushes |
He used to make an effort to talk to me but he just stopped all of a sudden and idk why. There was a big gap of time and we haven’t seen each other for a while. I catch him looking my way sometimes but idk if he’s just observing or actually looking at me cause he likes me. What do you guys think | Crushes |
No joke, after school and rehearsal we went to get coffee (though we both got tea), and then we walked to the gym. He goes to the gym all the time and, despite being an athlete, I do not. It was terrifying. Not to say I didn't like him helping me fix my form, but I was terrified. | Crushes |
What? You expected some kind of subtext? | Crushes |
he asked me to be his boyfriend during lunch and i’ve never been happier!!! thank you for the advice that gave me courage to make moves with him that led to this!! 🫶 | Crushes |
help :/ should i say something or just move on
so Im crushing on this guy i met at a social for my internship who hosted the social (he’s an intern from a diff city), the last social was abt 3 weeks and and so i messaged him on Instagram and thanked him for organizing the event and said hopefully we can catch up , he than said to let him know when I wanna catch up so I did… he said 3 days when he was free, I asked him which of the days works best, and then nothing from him since so he basically ghosted me (that was last Thursday) … I’m wondering did I do something wrong? Should I have just picked one of the days, suggested a time and asked him how does it sound … also is it too late for me to follow up or say something to him. Again, last time I messaged him was last Thursday, ik he partied all last weekend for st pattys so he would have been away, but now it is Tuesday so he had to have seen my message even though it says “sent” instead of “seen”, and he didn’t unfollow me or anything like that. I also have his number which he gave everyone who attended the social but idk if he’d be ok if I message him there. Should I even bother following up or just move on? I did add his Snapchat today from quick add but he didn’t add back (at least not yet). I don’t wanna be too forward or pushy or anything like that, if I’m doing anything wrong please let me know , im super inexperienced with this type of stuff | Crushes |
I (17f) like a guy (17f) who I sit next to in maths and English class. We are friends, and have each other on snap, talking on there briefly everyday. He often leaves me on opened for several hours however, which is what has me unconvinced he likes me.
In person we walk and talk together between and in our shared classes. Last week, there was a day off and our physics teacher was holding a tutorial. He asked me a few times if I’m going to it and told me on the day what time he’s going in.
I came in late and sat next to someone else, as the seats beside him looked taken. At the end of the tutorial, he moved his stuff to sit next to me instead of his other friend. Eventually everyone else had left and it was just me and him, we agreed to continue just studying there. However, we basically just spent 2 hours talking to each other rather than studying.
After a while, he invited me into town with him to get food. I told him I don’t have much money, but then when we got into town, he insisted on paying for my food and drink, and let me choose the place we got food from. He also asked for my number because “he doesn’t really like Snapchat,” so I gave it to him. (he hasn’t texted my number yet however, this was 6 days ago.)
We sat together by the lake, eating and talking and laughing.
He also told me when he’s leaving to go to his home city, and if I’m up there at that time, that I should let him know.
We spent another few hours together in town, and I then had to go home.
The next day, he had a physics test first thing in the morning. I’m in the other physics class, I hadn’t had my test yet, so he offered to spend his interval telling me the questions from the test that he remembered. So we did just that, and after he finished showing me the questions, we just talked about our home city.
During the last period of this day, his friend came up to me and asked if I like him. I told her that yes, I do. Apparently his other friend also teases him about us.
I really enjoyed that day I spent with him last week and I want to spend more time with him. I’m thinking of asking him to go to town again Friday after school, but I’m just not sure if this makes me come off as desperate? Or if there’s another way I should go about this? | Crushes |
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