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He just asked my friend, why she doesnt open his snapchats. Meanwhile he never answers to my chats or snaps.. Btw me, my myfriends, he n his friends are gonna go to outside. We are not gonna do anything important | Crushes |
So, he's been gone for a month, this is the first week I've got to see him at work since, I like him, he's unavailable an really committed but I still like him, cant help it, but means he wont do stuff like go for cig breaks with me or other stuff
Anyway, we work in factory, he's a mechanic, he had to stay next to my machine cos it's a faulty machine so have to sort it constantly, my work comes over on a conveyor belt, plastic.
My best work mate who fills the machines came over, its kind of his job to wonder round, the 3 of us had a chat while he was at the other side of the conveyor about half a meter away.
I said something to work bestie, I wore a vest today an can see the top of my bikini straps, I always wear a bikini cos theyre so much nicer an I'm skinny an have pretty flat chest so they fit better than any bra would.
He saw the top of it an asked am i wearing a swimsuit (he's polish so first language isnt english but hes pretty fluent), I said "ahh why u lookin haha" cos had a laugh about it, me:"yeah, bikini, do you wanna see?", I think i asked twice idk, I think he said yeah, I really slowly pulled down the front of my vest an showed him, it looks like blue snake print its really pretty an oh my gosh, I became so nervous.
I'm normally really fine with showing my body like I dress kind of slutty sometimes an shown my work bestie my bikinis tons of times.
But this was different.
Anyway, I got an adrenaline rush, I hope I did ok, it was so hot today an it made me so much hotter.
He stayed at the machine a while an kept his back to me which is chill, I got stuck thinking about it a little while,
later in the day he said it was a good day so I'm glad cos if I did bad it wouldve made it a bad day.
He couldve taken it normal idk but that was the first time ive shown him something like that on purpose an normal stuff with him makes me nervous.
It was a good day for me too, got to go on break with the mechanics & work bestie, chilled for a while in big metal thing they put all the bags with work bestie. Got to see work crush for a while at the end while he fixed the machines & my job was decently easy today so I still got to go chill an help w.bestie mix plastic for the machines.
#success #goodday | Crushes |
So we have been chatting daily since the past 1 month every single night, it is going well, but we are chatting using work app, and i want to do the texting over whatsapp, is there any smart idea where i can ask for her whatsapp indirectly? | Crushes |
Hello, college student over here! I have a crush on one of my classmates and I have known her for a year now. We are really good friends: we hang out a lot and we are very close. I even asked her to go to a fair together once and she said yes; we had so much fun. I have no clue whether she likes me or not, and with the end of the year party tomorrow, I feel like I should confess. However, due to past experiences, I am very reluctant. There are some flags that might point out that she feels the same way but I am not sure if I should risk it... Should I confess? If yes, how?
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hi to anyone who is reading. so my school is on break now (pretty obvious) though i was thinking about asking her out yk. i've been thinking about not doing it straight after the break, but rather after 1 week or so. So tell me if my decision is wrong, and/or if I should do it straight after the break. any kind of help would be appreciated :D <3 | Crushes |
I understand that it is different for every person and their scenario, but I’m just curious what y’all think.
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Warning formatting i am on mobile + fairly long post imo.
My current crush and I are in the same class, we very close friends since i've known her for 3 years. She has a unique, spicy, confident, cheerful personality on top of being drop dead gorgeous. I believe i did post about her before and may have deleted the post but anyways. Since the first day she has been really kind, and supportive of me when i just broke up with my ex, that break up has emotionally messed both my ex and I and there's little hope of us getting back together. My crush was there to help specially in rough times with my mental health. At some point she started complimenting me on a day to day basis. Paired with her character this it made me develop a crush and I confessed to her 1 year after i met her. She did reject me and it was quite the blow. Weirdly enough however she kept being her usual self with me like... It's as if i had never told her how much i loved her and she had never rejected me
I thought i let go of it.... However
I was invited to her birthday party the week before and well it's the most fun i had in 2 years. She was so beautiful and pretty omg. And idk why my brains started to order that we get another crush on her. After that we did have small talk with other friends who attended the party, well i got some more info like the kind of men she likes and i dont exactly fit the description. While i am a fairly handsome guy, i dont really have an athlete's body like she likes, and i certainly cant be down to earth due to what i strongly believe to be a form of ADHD but my parebts are so caught up with work i cant even go see a therapist/ psychologist.
And well i know stand no chance of being with her. Ever. Please help me to be able to move on and keep being friends cuz i realized after she first rejected me that she is a friend worth keeping :( i hate my brain and my chaotic mind. | Crushes |
This is gonna be long...
A few months back I met this guy at a school event and he asked me for my number. Me not knowing how my life was gonna turn upside down because of him, gave him my snap, and we became friends. Around the begining, we had a long serious talk about our lives and how we are both religious people, and truly bonded over that as a whole. Everything was great, we got along, we shared the same religion, and we both liked eachother. This was all until he found out my age. I'm 14, and he is 17, so we agreed to not continue being friends in that sense, and we were both cool with it. We started to distance ourselves and didn't really talk that much afterwards.
A few weeks later, he texts me and tells me how he thinks I'm pretty and a really good person, and I start catching feelings again eventhough we agreed not to. This goes on for weeks and weeks where he would just tell me I'm pretty and how he thinks that I'm a great person, and this was basically the only times we would talk. Fast-forward to last week, and he texts me asking me if I'm okay, and we talk until about 1 in the morning about all of our problems and stuff, and once again became really close. Over the next few days, we would call for HOURS and talk about anything and everything, we would have serious conversations, and silly ones that didn't mean anything at all. Eventually we start talking about relationships and stuff, and he mentions that he isn't really looking for anything, but I was fine with this eventhough I had practically fallen head over heels for him at this point. (mind you, this whole time he is telling me how pretty I am and how much he likes talking to me). We still continue to be friends and even stayed up until 3 in the morning talking about everything. Today he called me, and we were talking as we norally do, and were planning on meeting up to hang out. While we were talking about this, he asked me to remind him how old I was, so I did. Everything got completely akward, and he told me that it wouldn't be okay considering our age difference, and he talked about how I would only be 15 when he was 18, and he wasn't comfortable with that. He soon hung up and never responded. Now I am completely heartbroken, and don't know what to do. I think I might talk with him about it and try and figure things out, but I don't know how... Please help me.
Edit: He called me back and we talked as we normally do, and I think everything might be okay now. I just need to get over him now... | Crushes |
How do i get his number?
I’ve been talking to him for a while on Instagram and it’s really fun and I want to get his number so I can talk with him more freely. Like Instagram is great don’t get me wrong but I kinda wanna play game pigeon and send pictures more freely. Anyone know how to ask for his number without sounding weird? I’m very anxious about this
Update: I asked for his number just very simply in conversation and he gave it to me. | Crushes |
So I’ve had a crush on a coworker since my first day at my job, then as time went further another coworker began talking to me and progressed our knowing of each other. Eventually this other coworker asked for my social media and was trying to be around me yk typical showing interest actions, recently over time a coworker that he hangs around has been spilling his business to me. Besides taunting me by calling me that coworkers girlfriend he’s told me what the coworker tells him and others, idk if he’s lying to our coworkers and making it seem as if we have something going on besides regular conversation every now again but yea his buddy told me that he likes me and then yesterday another coworker told me that he likes me also and that he told her to try and put him on with me( idk if you guys know what this means but it’s basically like playing matchmaker for people who are scared to tell someone their interested themselves) he’s cool and all but as I already stated I’m not romantically interested in this guy because he’s a friend vibe, and I have my eyes on someone else at work. A lot of our coworkers view me as mean, and my blatant honesty isn’t helping my case I’m scared that the coworker that I actually like hasn’t made a move because he thinks I’m mean or I’m involved with the coworker who I don’t even have feelings for like he doesn’t want to step on his toes if he’s already trying to make a move on me. From the things I’ve overheard and from some of his behaviors I’d say my work crush has some mutual feelings for me too. But how will I know if he won’t come forward because it appears I’m already being pursued? And the coworker who likes me won’t be honest with me so I can’t just go ahead and let him down so😕I wish me and my work crush could see each other more often so I can learn more or talk to him more so he can see who I am for himself🥹I really desire to see him more and know him better also | Crushes |
I really am in love with this girl from school we used to talk alot. She got herself a new boyfriend right before I thought about proposing. Her boyfriend made her ghost Me( i know maybe she wanted so too)
Fast forward to 2 1/2 years i can't yet get over her i Still think of her everyday.I need help getting over her. I really hate myself for the way I am rn.
I fumbled my chance with another girl cuz of this | Crushes |
I had a crush at 4th grade and until 6th grade we were at same school. Then my school changed and i never saw her to then. I found her on social media but i dont know how to talk with a LIVING CREATURE.Its been 7 years and im still waiting her i dont know what to do. | Crushes |
Ok so I have this friend and hes really sweet and understanding and loyal and over all perfect- but i dont think he likes me back but i cant tell for sure. Which is kinda a problem because this could go 1 of 2 ways: 1. i tell him he doesnt fell the same and it ruins our friendship or 2 i dont tell him and theirs 0 chance anything happens. I mean i most likely going to just not tell him and try to wait it out becauses hes a really good friend of mine i dont wanna lose-- but at the same time i do really want to at least try-- sorry i dont really know what to do any advise? | Crushes |
Need some encouragement | Crushes |
Hello,
I'm in highschool (Grade 10), a friend of mine thinks a guy in our science class is really cute. But she isn't sure if she tell him this on the last day of school (Friday). She's been asking me for advice but I'm no sure myself because I've never been in a relationship. Anyways, what's a good way to tell a guy that you find him cute, without making him feel uncomfortable?
Thank you! | Crushes |
That’s it | Crushes |
Hello! I am in flight training to learn how to fly airplanes. When I met him for the first time during our discovery flight days... I was instantly enamored. We are both thrill seekers. ambitious, motivated and hard workers. We seem to have good rapport when we are together at school.
I also have his personal number and we did text a few times. MY school bought out of movie theater to watch To Gun Maverick together as a school event. I got all dressed up and wanted him to notice me. He didn't even say hi or look at me which made me sad. He wasn't sitting with anyone else either and I was too scared to sit with him...
He has been training me for the last 2 months and I get really excited each time I see him at school. I pick out cute outfits to impress him. Also, he is 1 year older than I am. So we are pretty close in age. I am not sure what to do about this... If things went weird, I could always move to a different instructor within that same school... I am not sure how I should handle this... I really want to say something, but I don't want to scare him away...
PS. Today is the Summer Solstice and we have a night flight from 7-8:30pm... I really hope something magical happens between us today... ha... | Crushes |
I have liked my crush for around 4 months. 2 months ago I finally had the courage to ask him to study together for an exam we had. We tried studying for the first 30 minutes but couldn't because we kept talking to each other. Then we went to get food and basically went on a date. The next interaction we had was a couple of weeks after that, we facetimed for an hour catching up with each other's lives. I ended the call, but before that, he told me he hates talking to me on here, discord, and he asked for my number. I didn't check my phone for a couple of hours after that, but when I did I saw that he added me on all my socials that are connected to my number. His birthday was a couple of days after that so I got him a present and I was going to surprise him during class. I gave him the present during class and he was going to open it after. He kept on telling me how shocked he was that I remembered his birthday, how no one has gifted him something in a long time, and how nice I am. He gave me a big bear hug after. Then he asked me to hang out with him if I had nothing else to do and that I should meet his friends. I left after an hour of meeting his friends because in the middle of us hanging out he got up and abandoned me for 30 minutes. He texted me a picture of the present later that night and told me that I'm very sweet. The last time we saw each in person was during our final exam, after the exam ended he asked if I wanted to "hang with him and his friends". I declined because of how he left last time and he said that if I still want to he'll be down there. He always teases me over text and always tries to make me laugh, but he's never flat-out flirted with me. Our mutual friends say that he probably likes me and won't tell me unless I tell him first because he's a little shy. I just can't tell whether he's being friendly because he is a pretty friendly person or if he likes me. | Crushes |
So for context I’m really good friends with this boy who has a lot of girls in his palm that he flirts with and whatnot. I liked him for the first time when we got close a little over a year ago, but then he started dating a girl. Not long after that, I got my first boyfriend. Now I’ve been single for maybe a month or so, while he’s been in countless relationships/talking stages with girls who care way more than he does. We’re really good friends—I’m even close with his sister—but lately things have been getting weird. The last maybe 4-5 times we’ve hung out, we keep ending up chilling in his bed and we practically cuddle. He’s not complimented me or kissed me, although we’ve both told each other casually we’d be down to. He doesn’t like commitment, so I don’t expect anything. I did end up confessing to him via iMessage a few hours after we hung out, saying that I liked him and hoped he was at least interested and I didn’t want anything to change if he wasn’t. He told me he just wanted to keep things how they are, but now he’s kind of ghosting me. Does anyone know how to go about this? | Crushes |
So this girl I liked for 2 months.HUGE crush and I asked her out in mid may and she rejected me, but wants to be friends. But I simply am in love with her. While when I asked her we had about two weeks of school left the popular kids were pressuring me to ask her again but I wanted to respect her boundaries. Now into summer I want to hang out but want the friendship to develop. How should I move forward? | Crushes |
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So basically I have been in a huge crush with this girl for this year and the last school day (we are classmates) she just told me she's moving to Ireland next year :(((((( | Crushes |
So i have crush on this girl and she used to be my classmate few years back we don't talk now but used to talk less when we were classmate too. Any idea how i can atleast get in touch with her now .(we are done with schooling and have different carrier path ) | Crushes |
So I invited him to hang out with me and said I was going with two other friends ( both girls ) as well. So will that be weird if it’s me and him and two of my friends or is that ok. He said he would come but I’m a bit nervous about the dynamic. Advice would be greatly appreciated !! | Crushes |
Don't get me wrong. He is indeed my crush and we've been flirting alot but even when we flirted there's absolutely no butterflies. It's just i feel nothing he doesn't have any effect on me at all. I like him alot and i like it when we hold hands and it's my first time having a boyfriend. Am i horrible to not feel anything? | Crushes |
So about a week ago, I graduated from middle school. I live in Greece, and all educational facilities here close down on June 15, and reopen on September 14th.This will be important later on...For about a month now, I've had this huge crush on this girl, in my class. I won't share her true name.I am very confident that she has a crush on me aswell, as she has shown multiple signs of attraction:
1. I've caught her staring at me, multiple times in class, in a romantic manner. She holds her gaze, once we make eye contact.
2. She talks to me in a different way, than she does to other boys. More specifically, when talking to me, she speaks in a higher, more soothing tone of voice. She's genuinely engrossed in the conversation, and she's very sweet. On the other side, she's visibly disinterested when talking to other boys in our class.
3. She's thrown all sorts of body language clues at me, including preening, playing with her hair, pointing her body towards me, straightening her posture when she sees me, and much more microexpressions.
4. She giggles & laughs at almost everything I say, regardless if it's slightly funny, or outright hilarious.I remember once, it was me, her, and two other boy classmates. We were cracking jokes to pass the time. The two other boys knew the most jokes, but they weren't that good. They weren't even worth a fake laugh.My crush, was visibly annoyed & fed up with them. She repeatedly asked them to stop, she couldn't focus on what she was writing.They (the two boys) continued anyways.I suddenly remembered an old joke, I read online.We were speaking Greek of course, and the joke wouldn't make sense if I told it to you.So I cracked the joke off the top of my head, and everybody started laughing their heads off, including my crush.You can tell real laughter from fake laughter, and let me tell you, she was laughing hysterically.That was a good day.
5. She talks to me only when it's the two of us. I strongly believe she's shy of talking to me, in front of her friends, for some reason.
6. She gets genuinely concerned when something unfortunate or bad happens to me.I remember once, it was a really rainy day at school, and my umbrella was flipped by the wind.Once she (my crush) found out, she came up to me and offered me a ride home, even though I live 5-6 blocks away from school.She knew where I lived, but she still offered me a ride home.Basically, her parents come to pick her up from school, if it's a rainy day. She has a younger brother aswell, he's one year younger than us.I politely refused her offer to take me home by car, stating that, "I know that you're very busy after school, I wouldn't want to prolong your schedule even more. Besides, you know that I live just 6 blocks down, I can go on foot. Thank you for asking, though""Oh, ok then"She appeared slightly saddened, but she just shrugged it off.
7. I'm very confident that, she used an old friend of mine to find out more about me.I won't get into details, but the whole situation was very obvious.
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Conclusively, I'm incredibly confident that she has a crush on me aswell.But, we've never actually spoken to each other before, other than that rainy day.Now that I think about it, she must really, really like me, after all of the things I've seen her do.
The next time I'll see her again, is by September. I like her alot, really. She's not perfect of course, but I strongly believe that, me and her would mix together quite well.
We never fully spoke to each other. We don't really know alot about each other. At the moment, we're just classmates. Or, we were, since it's spring break right now (in Greece).
I wouldn't want her to lose interest in me. But, I wouldn't be heartbroken if she rejected me, because I know that there's plenty of other girls in the world.Besides, I heavily doubt that she'll reject me.
I've had this huge crush on her, for about a month and a half now.
Should I confess my true feelings to her, or not? | Crushes |
hi!
since i’m horrible at reading romantic vs. friendly signals, i thought i’d post and ask for a second opinion about the vibes a coworker has been giving me lately.
here’s some instances where i’ve questioned if he was flirting or not:
he’s always hovering around close to me, so we’re always accidentally bumping into each other or brushing hands.
he leans in when he talks to me, cracks jokes and laughs at mine.
complimented my hair when i changed it.
he (playfully) teases me about certain things.
asks questions about my weekend plans & personal life. he made a comment how he wanted to go somewhere in my city on a day off.
he’s never messaged me outside work, and his behaviour can change from playful to reserved quickly so i’m not sure if i’m reading any of this right!
advice would be appreciated please & thank you <3 | Crushes |
so basically after school ended my friend posted a pic w me and tagged me in it on insta, right? nothing special, not surprised idrc. i don’t send it to anyone bc idrc and i don’t really like how i look in it, but i leave it tagged on my insta bc why the hell not. anyway fast forward like a week ago and MY CRUSH sends a screenshot of something from our groupchat to me, and I can see my profile pic right? it’s the picture i was tagged in. now this is all good and well except for the fact that
a- and he had a pfp for me before (my insta pfp was also my imsg pfp)
b-and im the only one in our gc he has a pfp for
and c- he literally has the ability to put profile pictures for literally everyone else in the gc, but only puts one for me? kinda suspicious 🤭 he has pics of everyone bc they’ve sent pics of themselves and i’ve sent pics of them he could’ve sent to the gc, so why am i the only one w a profile picture of a pic he doesn’t even have?🤨 not creeped out at all, just curious | Crushes |
Do all woman cheat? | Crushes |
So there's this guy(18M) at my school, we've been texting for a while now, he mostly texts me(18F) first, replies fast and we usually talk for a few hours, often till 3 am. Everything seemed fine, he invited me to go out together, so I guess he takes it seriously - I don't know if he likes me as a friend or hopes for something more. Anyway, after I asked him where we are going, he replied that 'I'll see', I started joking that I'm a bit scared and his answer seems suspicious etc and he texted me saying 'One girl thought I would drown her in the river somewhere, the second one that I would bury her in a forest so I see you all have something in common'... Maybe it's a regular thing but it gave me a huge ick - for a moment I felt special but turns out I'm not the first girl that he pulled his tricks on. Not gonna lie, I'm hugely disappointed, he did the same thing for others girls he had a thing with in the past. I feel so worthless and jealous right now. What do you think about this? Should I feel the way I'm feeling at the moment? We're meeting tomorrow and honestly I'm not sure if I like him anymore after these messages... Girls want guys to be obsessed with them and I feel like I'm just another girl to fill his boredom. How would you feel in such a situation? Maybe I'm overexaggerating? | Crushes |
hi hello, first post on reddit but i’m curious to get some opinions on this cause i’ve just been confused n need confidence. sorry for the long paragraph in advance but pls help.
so, a couple months ago, i had started talking to an old friend.
we dated back in highschool briefly and we’re friends in college til i dropped out and we lost contact. apparently one night, he was searching for my username in social media platforms to find me and try to reach out. to make a long story short, my best friend was the one that had reconnected us after he reached out to her about me.
now since then, things have been really fun and i really feel like he really has become someone important in my life. we go out all the time, text nearly every single day, watch movies together, have each other’s location (ik this is a v couple thing but we’re obvs not dating), can talk about deep stuff and really make each other think.
we even have a playlist that we collaborate on full of our favorite songs or songs that we hear and share. keep in mind, most of these are LOVE SONGS and im a huge believer in communication through music. AND i’m a shy person when it comes to my music so to even being doing this with another person is kinda crazy.
when we touch, i can FEEL the energy and electricity. when we’re around other people the tension is so damn THICK and as soon as we’re alone it’s all calm again. he’s literally so kind n will talk to me for hours n is so supportive and thoughtful.
i know i have a crush on him. i know i like him a lot but things are weird and i don’t want to move into a relationship but… i just want to know if i have a chance? i’m a gender fluid/ trans person and he is a cisgender guy. he’s religious n i’m not. and i just keep thinking that he’s straight and i’m just being dumb.
but i can’t help but feel that there’s something there. what do you guys think? could he like me too? or am i just literally insane? | Crushes |
There’s a girl in my uni that i like so much. It’s been a long time since i had a crush on someone, so l couldn’t find a way to talk to her. She’s always in the cafeteria with her friends, so it’s rare when she’s alone. She is on my ig but I don’t think it’s w good idea to text her even that i see her everyday
What should I Do !! | Crushes |
He likes a friend of mine, so he told his friend to ask me about her and how he should ask her out :( | Crushes |
In love with my (F21) best friend (M22)
He flirted quite clearly but now, whenever he is acting normal (like a best friend but not flirting), I always think “oh he must have lost interest already”
My logical voice knows Im just overthinking but I still cant stop that overthinkinn and panic
Any advice? | Crushes |
Does anyone else have this problems? It's almost as if I'm telling him reasons as to why he shouldn't like me.
It's literal word vomit, I can't shut up about how much I suck as a person. We already don't talk a lot, and when we do I always end up giving him a reason to not like me.
At this rate I'm starting to question my own character... I don't think I'm that bad but... maybe? | Crushes |
tldr : rejected because of my height after talking to a girl for a week and she had already seen me before.
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I had been talking to this girl online for about a week and everything was going fine, even more than fine everything was incredible. She lived in the same city as me. We were supossed to meet up to go on a date the following week but we both told each other that we would be going to our local waterpark with our friends and we might see each other. So I was at the pool with my friends then I saw her with her friends. At the beginning I didnt go up to her because I hadnt built up the courage yet but a few minutes later while she was going to swim she saw me from afar and started smiling so I got enough confidence and I went up to her and we talked for a few minutes normally and we flirted a little bit and then we went back to hanging out with our friends. Later that night I sent her a message and she replied but not like she used to, she was distant and cold with the way that she replied to me. After trying to make conversation for a few minutes and her giving those short and cold replies I just stopped messaging her for the day hoping she would continue the conversation but she said nothing.
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The day after I went back to the waterpark and one of my friends who is friends with one the friends of the girl and he asked her why she replied to me like that yesterday. He then told me that she said it was because I was too short. That...hurt. She had already seen me before in person so I dont understand what changed. I messaged her and asked her what happend and she said "I'm just not down for a relationship right now before summer and thats why I replied to you like that" I then said she could stop lying and tell me the truth because I knew. She then said "I didnt know you were that short and I like taller guys" Even though she had seen me before and she said I was her type of guy but whatever. I then said ok and blocked her. I dont understand why my height changed our situation so much I dont know if her friends told her something but I was very sad for a few days because everytime i get rejected its mostly because of my height which angers me because Im taller than her. | Crushes |
Not to the extent where it’s rude and harmful though. Was playing an online game with my crush and we were just teasing each other back and forth for ages. Again, nothing harmful though. I was laughing, he was laughing, I could feel his smile though the call if you know what I mean.
So yeah, was this like… flirting? We do this often | Crushes |
My crush is my friend, and he’s got two jobs. But so do I and I’ll text him and seems like it’s a good convo but then we’ll stop texting and I don’t want to respond again and make him annoyed…so how do I get him to text more? | Crushes |
I liked this girl for about a year and I just wanted to do a mini rant about it. I don't know if I still like her but I'll allow you to judge based on how I write this. 😌 We haven't had a proper conversation in months because I've been trying my best to avoid contact. We've been friends for about 4 years but only started getting close in the past year or so. About a few months after becoming close to her I realized that I had feelings for her. Which wasn't surprising since it's hard to be her friend without noticing how incredible she is. We started talking more frequently after her friends started carelessly leaving her on read and ditching her. Fast forward a few weeks we were sending each other multiple lengthy paragraphs on how we're doing and what we're currently interested in. We'd do this every day and send each other the standard 'Good Morning' and 'Good Night' texts. We'd start paragraphs with nicknames like Honey/Sweetie/Darling and end them with I love you. When these were sent back and forth I knew I was a bit smitten. No one ever took the time to actually reply to every single thing I said. I tend to ramble and I'm used to people describing me as annoying. (If this gets a single comment I might expose myself and show the paragraph) But she seemed to actually care. She's really smart and aware of it. Also, I loved the way she talked and would often be very distracted whenever she'd answer in class. I'd try to compliment her every day and remind her to take breaks because I know how hard she can be on herself. I often jokingly called her my wife or said she was my favorite person when our friend group was talking. Anyways I was appalled at myself for hoping she liked me back and began pulling away from her. She would tell me that she missed me and I always came crawling back. (This was magnified by the fact that a family member died in February and I began self-isolating because that's how I deal with grief) She asked me why I never replied to her private messages anymore in our friend's group chat. I simply said "We're talking right now aren't we?" Then we kind of fizzled out altogether. She recently contacted me a few days ago but I didn't really reply. I've been planning for months to tell her why but for all my ramblings I have not a word for what to say to her. "Sorry for not talking to you, I like you too much to function, my grandma died lol?, I miss you, I miss not talking to you, how do I not make things awkward, rejection is terrifying, I feel like I'm not worthy of talking to you blah blah blah" the whole thing basically. Also, I'm kind of a coward lmfao in case that wasn't glaringly obvious. I forgot what this post was about so I'm just gonna post it and hope someone's not too terrified by the word count. 🤩
please send help and a large pointy object to stab myself with - queer dumbass female with too much to say | Crushes |
Ask me anything:) I’ll try to answer! | Crushes |
So..i had this best friend and overtime i developed feelings for her. But i didn't confess to her since i thought it might ruin our friendship. And then i found out that she already had a boyfriend and even tho that really hurt me..I was trying to move on, since i didn't want to come between them. But somehow as i was moving on she caught a whiff that maybe i was into her and she was kind of hesitant talking to me, maybe to make it clear that she wasn't interested in me but i was her friend and i was really disappointed. But later we both started chatting again and while i was texting her i found that there's this tension between us, or maybe it's just something i'm feeling but yeah..it's like i can't talk more openly with her as a friend because of how she reacted when she thought that i had feelings for her. I just can't seem to get past the thought that if i like, ask to her hang out even as a friend, or reply to her texts quickly she might take it the wrong way and think that I'm into her again and she might leave me again. I really don't want to mess up our friendship but it's really hard talking to her and it feels like walking some thin slippery slope. So should I tell her that i *used* to have a crush on her? Would she believe it if i said that i don't have feelings for her now and that we could still be friends?
TLDR: Should I tell my best friend i used to have a crush on her but now I'm moving on, so that i could talk more openly to her but risk our friendship by asking that? | Crushes |
Yesterday, after school, me (m) and a friend (f) went to our local drugshop and when entering the shop you could see who was sitting at the cash register. It's was a blonde, cute girl, who I have see a few times before working there, but didn't really gave any thought to it. After entering the shop, I turned around to have a quick glance at her again and she looked back at me and just had eye contact for like a second. I don't even remember if she was smiling at me but apparently that did it. My friend got her stuff and we went to go pay. I'm a lot more confident when being with a friend so we were just talking about dumb stuff, like you do with your friends, and it's her turn to pay. We were joking about some shit and the girl joined in talking about her experience. So we talked to her for like 10 seconds or sum (I made a joke and she chuckled) and we left. Just from a look and maybe a 10 second "conversation", she left me in awe (idk if it's the correct term but I think you get it). I told my friend to come back the next day to maybe try my luck or some shit lmao.
So, today after school we went back and she wasn't there. It was someone else today, as I had expected. We came across another friend and she asked us what we were doing. So I explained about yesterday and she said "oh, you mean ****?". I don't know her name so I said idk and and apparently she knew her. She then showed me her instgram profile. That was a bad thing to do. She's 20 years and a model with over 11K followers and I now have access to her insta and it honestly crushed my hopes a bit cuz she's definitely put of my league. And it's so stupid too. All she did was look at me and talk to us, wich is a normal thing when working in a shop. But I just can't stop thinking about her. I'm feeling something I haven't felt for maybe over a year when the last girl I had a crush on destroyed me by just keeping me on a leash.
Idk what to do honestly, I feel like some kind of stalker too and it's just so stupid.
Edit: spelling mistakes | Crushes |
Have you experienced craving someone soooo bad it hurts? Like you can almost feel their touch, their affection, and attention? Although you haven't even had a single conversation yet. Lol is it because of the bouncing of energy between you two when looking at each other? Or some astrological stuff is going on here. Hmm | Crushes |
Not your common, confessing your love and getting rejected, but a rejection in my opinion.
Sent her a message if she would want to go over to a friends country side house along some other people, said she's busy that day.
We still have to go back to school for an hour or so cause it's end of the school year. So who knows maybe we will strike up some sort of conversation. If we don't then there's no more chances left. | Crushes |
im in high school, I have been crushing on this one guy but I don't know how to talk to him because I have no social skills what do I do? | Crushes |
I sent him a ❤️ (To let him know I like him!)and said thank you. He replied ❤️🙂.what does it mean? | Crushes |
Yeah idk what to say. I know she's super busy with work right now and maybe that'll change but I'm being left on read for the majority of the day. I love how career motivated she is but... I'd like to talk to her more I am in love with her after all.
I was going to ask her out for lunch but I doubt she'd be available right now. Sigh, being patient sucks man. I start overthinking too since my friend,N, went to a cafe with my crush to talk about "boy issues". I know my friend is going through a tough time but idk if my crush is interested in someone else now. Even though I was told she isn't looking for a relationship.
Sigh I don't even know just feeling a bit low and dispirited by the lack of time I've talked to her in the past week. | Crushes |
Well I replied to her story on insta, then started convo by saying, how’s 11th grade since I am on vacation and missed a lot of classes. She said its good and told me ‘’ I missed you tho’’(inner butterflies flying in my stomach). I told her I missed her too. After that was just nothing else. | Crushes |
My crush rejected me as she loves my nature but she doesn't feel same, i started doing calesthenics from last few weeks, so now when she came to know what I was doing she said she will date me and will be my gf after my progress,
Cant complain that she doesn't like my physique as i am 5.2 and 35 kg
And to all that will say "she only likes your physique and not attracted to you"
If a cute thick friend of yours whom you know from long time will propose you and you are single, pretty sure mostly will accept the proposal. If guy wants a thick cute thick girl its fine but if a girl wants muscular gf means she doesn't like the guy just dating him for physique | Crushes |
I just realized that I have a huge opportunity since my crush said no one ever said that they had a crush on her. Should I confess now? Cause we’re planning to hangout later one | Crushes |
So I serve tables at a restaurant and the bartender and my good friend tells me that someone called and asked if I was working that night and then they said for him to tell me that some friends were going to come visit me that night. He also said it was a girl or several girls. Which is odd to me because I only know a select few girls in this state. I've only been here for like half a year or so. I did get close with 1 or 2 girls at my job before this one and was trying to get one to work here after I quit that job but didn't know a good way to contact her. So that's really my best guess unless someone from my other state drove up here but that would be weird too. There's only a few girls I've gotten close to in that state too haha. My other 2 guesses are that it was a customer but they specifically said "friends" were coming to visit me so I don't think it was just some customer. Also there was another person with my name that worked there for like 2 weeks then quit who is far more attractive than me so could've been him but also as I said he worked there for 2 weeks and it was a while ago. But yeah nobody came visit and I'm slightly glad because I was really tired from all the doubles I had worked this weekend and didn't really feel like socializing much. But still I'm wondering who this girl was and I may never know. Very very strange. | Crushes |
Hi, 15M. So I like this girl she is my tutors sister and she always talked about how she was exactly like me. I wanted add her on social medias and I couldn’t I was kinda scared ,but month ago suddenly this girl added me on fb and I kinda developed huge crush on him seeing her photos etc I want to talk to her but I don’t even know what to say | Crushes |
Hi I’m new here so if this post seems kind of out of place I apologize I’m learning. But I need some advice. I’ve had a crush on this guy for almost four years. We’ve kind of been on and again off again friends since the pandemic happened because we didn’t see each other all the time like we did in school. But we hung out today and it gave me very mixed signals. I’ve always tried to hide it because I never thought he would like me back. I still don’t think he does but we got kind of flirty when we hung out. Holding hands, hugging, randomly touching each other. Do you think I’m reading too much into it or could he be into me too? I don’t really know how to read social cues and I don’t want to weird him out if he’s not into me. At this point I feel like it would be better for my mental health to either tell him so I can get over it or find out if he likes me back. This is actual torture😭 | Crushes |
I asked my crush out, she quite fastly said yes.
It's been week and a half so far and going pretty strong. Not much to say to be honest...
All our friends are happy for us and say we fit perfectly | Crushes |
Do they get butterflies too?
How long does it last?
What do they feel when their crush is absent in certain event? | Crushes |
I've known him since last year, but I only started talking to him this year. He's a really nice guy, and I think the first thing I noticed about him is how careful and patient he is when he's doing a lab. We would often be the last ones to finish, and he wouldn't mind. He would also laugh at small jokes I would make and smile at me. I am not sure when I started liking him, but it might have been when he started sitting next to me in another class. I sat in that part of the classroom all semester, and he just randomly started sitting there too? I thought it could be because he wants to sit close to other friends, but he didn't even talk to anyone. I only talked to him a few times because I was shy and didn't want him to know that I was starting to like him. I can be pretty obvious lol
We met up one time before the semester ended to work on an assignment together, and it honestly felt nice. He started smiling and looking into my eyes at one point, which honestly freaked me out.
I don't think anything will ever come of it, since we're both busy with school and work, and I don't plan on telling him how I feel. We already don't talk anymore due to the winter break, and we never exchanged phone numbers. He most likely won't be my lab partner next semester, so I guess that's it. | Crushes |
I feel giddy or have butterflies on my stomach when I see him. I cant even hold eye contact with him. Im with him once or twice or more per week but I only look at him once or twice because im afraid he might caught me looking at him and at the same time too nervous to look at him.
There was one time Im talking to an elderly then I felt like someone was watching so I turned my head and I caught him staring at me but quickly look away. My brain was like: "AAHHHHHH OMGGG, DID HE JUST LOOKED AT ME??? OKAY SELF STAY CALMM." Whenever Im near him he would comb his hair quickly SO CUTE.
Sometimes I just wanna ask him if he likes me or not. But I know its forbidden. Since we're in a church. It's forbidden to confess to someone and have romantic relationships not unless you are spiritually ready and financially ready.
I really tried to ignore him and I think he kinda get a hint of what Im doing and started to do that to me too. And damn that hurts to get ignored by your crush so I stopped doing it. | Crushes |
(Reposted since i’m not actually sure she’s creeped out by me)
So i eat lunch outside and i just decided to eat at a new spot now, i sit infront of a building that has the library. I’m not sure if my old crush and her friends sat near that buldimg for lunch but one day during lunch i saw them walking to the right side of the building and her friend just saw me walking behind them (i’m worried that they probably think i was stalking them)
I just decided to sit down in my spot while they just continued walking and went to there spot and i couldn’t see if they were actually sitting at the side of the building since i couldn’t see them.
Anyways later her friends start walking to the side of the building and pass by me but they spot right near me cuz security didn’t let them go to the side of the building. Later i overheard one of her friends say “He is right behind you”
I was the only guy in sight. I’m kinda worried and this happened like late november. After that i continued to sit there. They didn’t sit there again and i’m not sure if they sat there when i first sat at the new spot. I think it’s too late to move spots now and i like my new spot but i’m worried i’m gonna be labeled as creepy and werid since my old crush hates me. I saw her friend also one time passing by me to see her mom and i didn’t see my old crush appear probably cuz i was there and she didn’t want me to see her.
[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/100m147) | Crushes |
I never dated before, i rarely fall for someone (recently fell for this girl after 3 years of feeling nothing) and till now, either I wasn't in their league or they've been dating someone. It feels awful to see her with her boyfriend every time, I try telling myself I have to give others a chance but there's no way... I'm really hopeless | Crushes |
So i eat lunch outside and i just decided to eat at a new spot now, i sit infront of a building that has the library. I’m not sure if my old crush and her friends sat near that buldimg for lunch but one day during lunch i saw them walking to the right side of the building and her friend just saw me walking behind them (i’m worried that they probably think i was stalking them)
I just decided to sit down in my spot while they just continued walking and went to there spot and i couldn’t see if they were actually sitting at the side of the building since i couldn’t see them.
Anyways later her friends start walking to the side of the building and pass by me but they spot right near me cuz security didn’t let them go to the side of the building. Later i overheard one of her friends say “He is right behind you”
I was the only guy in sight. I’m kinda worried and this happened like late november. After that i continued to sit there. They didn’t sit there again and i’m not sure if they sat there when i first sat at the new spot. I think it’s too late to move spots now and i like my new spot but i’m worried i’m gonna be labeled as creepy and werid since my old crush hates me. I saw her friend also one time passing by me to see her mom and i didn’t see my old crush appear probably cuz i was there and she didn’t want me to see her.
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That I really genuinely like him a lot, but not in the romantic sense. Those butterflies were probably just because I haven't been smiled at like that, so genuinely, by a guy, haven't been someone someone like him would want to be around and laugh with, or share a look with when someone mentions something we joke or talk about. It was probably just validation.
Denial really was a river in Egypt... LMAO 😭
Turns out he's really just a great friend and person, who was there for me in the ways he could be and still is. I didn't want or saw a future with him 😂 and my reasoning was, "I just want to enjoy the feeling of having a crush." He also probably sees me as a friend or even possibly a sister.
I will still love his personality and smile though. He's really really cute.
...I just hope I don't end up taking these words back and revisiting this sub soon 😭 | Crushes |
I don’t know if My crush likes Me back Or Not and its driving Me insane. ive liked him for a year now and my Mates have been making it as obvious as possible but he keeps ignoring them.
Also any the he goes comes in class They start yelling out “anne look whose here” and shit like that My class (including his mates) started singing “ anne and ….. sitting on a tree k i s s i n g” and all my mates told me his face went red, and when i tell u this guys face goes red, it goes RED. Also another time his mate added me and told me that he asked all the guys in class who the cutest girl is and the guy said me, but i kinda dont believe him. So please help me outtt!!!! | Crushes |
hey! new here, (15F). so for the past month i’ve had a fat crush on someone, it’s been going really well and everyone who knows thinks he likes me too and that i have a good chance with him. i do still like him, a lot, and we call and text a lot.
BUT, as is tradition, me and my family stayed with our friends for new years. one of the people we stayed with is my old crush, who it turns out i’m obviously not as over as i thought. we ended up cuddling and i literally had my head on his chest, but now i’ve confused myself.
i like someone else! why do i still have feelings for my old crush and why did i cuddle with him and why is my brain in such a mess-
any advice is appreciated because i’m very confused😭 | Crushes |
We hung out once at his house for the first time and i told him I liked him and he said “I know” and I felt embarrassed so I made a joke about it and he finally said “I like you too”.
The next day he texts me and says he’s not ready for a relationship and is comfortable with us being friends. I told him im not sure how us being friends would be like since we’d… ahem… had seggs. He suggested that if i fear getting hurt we can just stay “friendly” instead.
We didn’t communicate further for a month until I texted him to see if we’re still okay. His replies were slow (12 hours max) but enthusiastic but i was still anxious so I haven’t tried to talk to him properly since then.
Our communication’s been reduced to story replies and liking each other’s posts and I’m not exactly content with it. should I just forget about him and move on or is there anything left to salvage? | Crushes |
do they even last?
wanna know more about college relationships | Crushes |
I first saw him this fall. We took 1 class together. He’s quite a closed book doesn’t really talk, only answers in short if you ask anything.
I didn’t really noticed him at first but I caught him staring at me few times and that’s when I started thinking about him. I never tried talking to him, I didn’t even breathe in his direction because I’m THAT shy.
Through the semester I found his insta and sent him a request and he accepted it right away. I got brave and asked him sth about homework and he answered “nah” and the chatting ended right there. During the semester we didn’t talk at all.
The winter break just started and I was getting really frustrated that it wasn’t going anywhere so I sent him a meme about crushing him for almost 2 months yesterday on the 31st and he left a “😳” reaction on it and that was it. And I asked him “that’s it? if you think im joking i’m not haha”,
“i’m just dazed hahaha”
“why? haha”
“idk” and this is how the conversation went. After that we didn’t chat AT ALL. And it’s driving me crazy like he didn’t exactly reject me but also didn’t tell me anything forthright I don’t understand please halp😭
(he’s a scorpio and i’m a virgo) | Crushes |
Me and my friends were in a video chat watching a movie and then we later had a conversation where my friend who's a girl called my crush bestie in the videochat chat. My crush then responded saying: "Bestie?"
What could this possibly mean? | Crushes |
It happened. After several days of going crazy and constantly monitoring her page, I decided to write to her just to know her. We chatted continuously for about an hour, everything seems to be fine, she said that we might talk later, since she needs to look after her little brother.
But the bottom line is that the main topic of our conversation was school and books, and I don’t really want to continue talking with her only on these topics.
How to move on to other conversations, more personal like?
Is it worth it to continue any relationship and dialogue with her, if I'm 18 in two months, and she turned 15 a couple of months ago?.. But with all this, I was pleased to communicate with her. | Crushes |
I have a crush on a girl, I haven’t talked to her yet. I told one of my friends (a girl who is also friends with my crush) and she said that my crush “doesn’t like the idea of relationships”.
As stupid as it sounds I thought I had a chance because me and this girl have been making frequent eye contact at school lol. But I guess that is the end. Time to try and move on | Crushes |
he's probably her boyfriend now and me liking him is not right
last thing i knew about them was she was gonna ask him out to be her boyfriend and I've seen how much he likes her
ik he's gonna say yes and he's probably said yes
im so not over him man wtf
i hate this sm
i hate feeling this bc i am bad at hiding emotions and i hate myself for this
i mean i can't believe I'm actually missing him rn and I'll be seeing him on January 16 next and that too we won't get much to talk bc of them i mean he's gonna be w her and obv they're official now lots of PDA
FML
he posted a pic of him and he loooooked soooooo fineeeee man wtf
this is not fair
not fair not fair
he shouldn't be looking this fine it makes me harder to get over him fuck it
2023 ruined fr
my main goal was to get over him and get a life tf
shud i wish him for new year?
or will it be weird awkward and he'll hate me? she'll hate me?
shell think m being a bitch?
bc she's already hated me before for some things w him
i mean they weren't even dating back then and she had no right to interfere but wtvr
UGH I HATE MY LIFE SM ATP
I WISH I NEVER MET HIM FR | Crushes |
I Ask My Crush Whether If I Have A chance On Her,But She Said She is Still Not Ready But When I wait for a Month And Ask Her Again She Said "I dont know Im Still Not Ready At That Kind of thing" With A Laugh Emoji,...I Dont Know If She Is Having Fun At Me or What?Should i Wait for Her Or Nah? | Crushes |
So i met this girl at a party, we had quite a good time, danced together for a couple minutes, shared a hug to say goodbye…
However, as i never met a girl at a party, i dont know how to proceed. I got her number cause we are in a group chat. The problem is, i am pretty sure that if i dont text her, dont ask her out that we will not meet again for quite some time, maybe for eternity, as we dont share a lot of friends (she is the sister of a friend of a friend of mine).
So what would you do? | Crushes |
so ive had a crush on this girl for a long time, and im getting the feeling she likes my best friend and i really dont know what to do right now, do i just give up? do i act like i dont care? what do i need to do? she doesnt know i have a crush on her but obviously my best friend does, we dont actually know if she likes my bff but she gives a lot of mixed feelings to him, shes sometime flirty sometimes just nice sometimes neutral but most of the time she just wants to be next to him, and this is making me get destroyed from inside, ive done a lot to become someone ideal for her, i used to be chubby, "untalented", lazy, anti social, depressive and just someone that noone would like to be with, so i tried to change for her, i started working out, i started new hobbies, i started studying, i started getting more and more disciplined, i started talking with people, i took care of myself i basically changed my whole body/personality just so i could have a chance with her, after i started changing for the better ( this took about a year and half ) i started to talk to her, me and her are really good friends now but i just cant stop getting the feeling that im not enough, that im lacking, and the fact that shes started to slowly go towards my bestfriend is just breaking me from the inside i really dont know what to do, i just cant get her off my mind, so should i just completely ghost her and try to focus on myself? should i just stop talking to her so i can stop thinking about her? i honestly dont think i can ask her out, im fairly positive she will reject me and if she actually does im sure im never gonna be the same again
so what should i do people of reddit? please help im in a really bad state right now. | Crushes |
she is sooooooooooooooo f(ri)cking adorableeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
her voice is perfect
her hair is perfect
her face is perfect
she can look amazing in anything, a dress, a jacket, whatever
eeeeEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
the way she brushes her hair behind her ear
the way she giggles at everything remotely funny (including my jokes)
the way she can inject herself into any conversation and come up with something witty to say
she is sooooo adorableeeeeee
I LOVE HERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR | Crushes |
for context: [https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/10025l3/wish\_me\_luck/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/10025l3/wish_me_luck/)
A few minutes past midnight I thought fuck it and sent the message. Out of all possible outcomes, I think I got one of the better ones.
She wished me back and asked me how and with who I celebrated it after which we had a very short conversation.
It felt so great! I feel like she really cares because she didn't just answer with a generic response. Other girls I have liked probably wouldn't have done that. Though I need some advice on the following:
She also used 🥰 and 😘 in her new years wish which she has never done before when texting me. She used some emojis before in texts to me but not those. Afaik, she also has never used them in any group chat we are in together. Is this a good sign? | Crushes |
In the beginning this school year i became friends with a girl. If im being honest i only became friends with her because she kept talking to me. Always including me in whatever she was talking about with the rest of my table. She was always nice to me too. Anytime one of my friends would clown on me or throw stuff at me she would always defend me. Anytime i can, i always return the favor and do something nice for her too. I never thought more of it though, up until i started picking up some clues. She would say hi to me in different classes or just compliment me randomly. And then i noticed that one of her guy friends wanted to get to know more about me. If im single, favorite movies, food, show, stuff like that and always in front of her and i dont know if she likes me platonically or in a different way. I really dont want to be the weird guy who thinks that if a girl talks to you then that means they like you. Its just so confusing because anytime i text her shes just so dry. I always, i mean literally almost always text first. Only time she texts first is if she needs something. Am i being played or??
I just hate falling in love with someone because i know i have absolutely 0 chance with her if i tried. Shes too pretty, too smart, a nice personality, everything i dont have. Im literally the most boring person i know, so why does it seem like she is interested in me?
So, does she actually like me? why does she seem so interested in a boring person? Should i give up?? | Crushes |
So I meet this girl two years ago on discord she lives in the same city we have been talking played some games and all then in july 2022 I confessed her all of the sudden then she rejected but I respectfully moved on but Idk Why I saw some of her pics recently And I started blushing again idk like I wanna confess her again what should I do? | Crushes |
I am a shy introvert guy(21) who has had a crush on a girl(20) for 7-8 months who is in the same year as me but in a different class. I used to see her occasionally during the exams or tests. Whenever I saw her it was like time slowed down and it felt like flowers blooming. I haven't even talked with her once and we have no mutual friends. I have been thinking of ways to talk to her but couldn't even think of one and have no courage to directly talk to her. The only progress have made so far is eye contact ig.
I tried everything to gather courage but I wasn't able to do so. She's definitely out of my league and I am not attractive. I have no social skills. I have no confidence. I found her ig and followed her (this was all I was capable of and this took all the courage had only to follow her). Since then I continuously thought to dm her but I couldn't.
I always end up thinking am no match for her, even approaching would be worse and all. And each time that realisation hit me, it hurt like hell. So I finally decided to give up and I even unfollowed her without making any progress. I used to think about her continuously and can't get them out of my head.pls help
Am I doing this right? Am I wrong? What should be doing?
I thought I would share my story with you all. (sorry for my bad english) | Crushes |
So for context I've liked this guy for a few months now. I really wanna ask him out but I've convinced myself he doesn't like me so I'm having trouble asking him out. I met him at my old work place which was really dead and we basically did whatever we wanted. The place got shut down and we got transferred to another site which has way more employees and is way busier.
When we were at our old site he didn't really do anything where i was like "omg he likes me back" but at our new site he's done several things. One thing he has done on a couple occasions is I'll be cleaning near him and when i look up he's staring right at me and doesn't look away when i notice. I was also sweeping the pool floor and he was sitting down on the opposite side of the pool and when i looked up he was looking at me but from the corner of his eyes but when i noticed he didn't look away and I just smiled and blushed. When i got around to his side I had to push all the dirt to the drain but I would have to learn forward for that but he was sitting right behind me but I don't know if he was looking. I also had to clean the soft play area we have and he kept following me but he went aroujd the perimeter and even started climbing the outside to match my height. He makes lots of eye contact with me and when i sat down he was standing really close to me. 2 or 3 times when we've been talking he's bitten his bottom lip and his eyelids have gone down slightly.
But as soon as other employees go on shifts he seems less interested in me and seems less bothered. He'll chat to them only and be less enthusiastic about when we he does actually talk to me and he'll find other stuff to do away from me. He's also a very very dry texter. If he does reapond it won't say much but he usually leaves me on read or doesn't even read it. All of these though can kinda be explained butni don't know I'm super nervous to ask him out. | Crushes |
we hung out most of today gaming through it and got to ring in the new year playing together and they might just think of me as a friend but this is the most amazing thing for me who's been crushing haha !! | Crushes |
i like his eyes
i like his hair
i like the way he walks
i like the way he smiles
i like when he smiles
and he doesn't know
UGHHH | Crushes |
I have a huge crush on a girl but I have social anxiety So I would really appreciate any tips or advice | Crushes |
I slid into my crushes dms and the convo was going so good and we were both flirting and then he asks to see a pic of me and so I send it to him. I send him one that was the most recent I had at the time ( 14 year old me with braces acne and short hair) and then a couple days later, another one of me with no glasses acne or braces. Me and my friends thought i looked beautiful and he goes and replies to my two pics with a “ you look the same”. Maybe I’m just too butthurt about this but my confidence tanked after that. Ik that he’s out of my league but ever since he asked for my photos, he’s been cold and closed off. I feel like I ruined it by sending him my pics. Anyway, I’m pissed off and really sad so I wrote what I wish I could text to him. Im gonna put it below:
“Listen, don’t take this the wrong way but wtf is wrong with you? The first couple days that we’re texting, you act super nice and like you’re actually interested in having a conversation with me and then you ask to see what I look like. Do you have any clue how much confidence I had to muster to send you a photo of my face? Listen I know I may not be the hottest girl you’ve ever seen but my fucking god do you know how to make a girl feel like shit about her appearance. You really couldn’t say a damn positive thing about me? You had to reply with you look the same? Really? You’re telling me that I look like the freshman year me that had braces and acne along with terrible vision? You’ve got to be joking me. Dm me back when you pull the self entitled stick out of your ass, dickhead.”
Im worried this is me being too impulsive but I’m used to talking things out and I’m hoping he could apologize or somehow explain that I misunderstood the vibe he was giving off. Should I send it? What would you do? I have screenshots of most of the convo before the pic situation started if you would like to see how nice he was being along with the photos I sent to him. | Crushes |
This guy has me absolutely confused with his behavior and id appreciate a little bit of help!
Signs that he's into me:
1) Stares at me when im not watching
2) Goes out of his way to do things for me
3) Asks me a lot of questions - about movies, about books, about my taste in music, about marriage, about my taste in guys. ( He also wanted to know how much I need to know a person to date him)
4) Teases me a lot
5) One of these days, he literally took my hair clip with him and sent me a picture of it clutched to his bag (he later returned it to me).
6) He often asks about this other guy friend in my circle
7) I love reading, so for Xmas he gifted me his fav. book!
8) There are things he says randomly - like this time i was talking about how I have my cousins do whatever I want because im the youngest and he was like are you going to do this to me? I was taken aback and kinda changed the conversation after that.
Signs that he's not:
1) He referred to me as dude 👀
2) He often praises this other girl in front of me (I had convinced myself that he liked her, but there was this time last week when he had the opportunity to be alone with her, but he made me tag along with him)
3) He doesn't initiate conversations thru' texts.
I know those are more signs that he likes me, but since I have a crush on him - my brain may have picked up the positive signs. Tbh I recently helped him out of a rather traumatic experience and there's this lingering feeling that he's become friendlier with me because of that and that there are no other reasons whatsoever, that im misinterpreting his kindness and his friendship for something else. If that is the case, id try to cut off the delusional thread that's binding me to him and just be the friend. | Crushes |
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I was really fucking hoping she would call.
Then fucking Delilah called instead. I thought it was her. It wasn't her. Fuck this.
Why the fuck did I do that.
What the fuck am I going to do.
Fuck me.
Unrelated,
Why is it that whenever I show people shit that actually matters to me, they don't pay attention at all.
These are people that fucking matter to me.
Why does anything have to fucking matter
I can't.
Also unrelated,
But every time friend opens up to me about there problems they no longer see me as a friend, and only a fucking therapist
I wanted to get closer to you. Not fucking push you away and continue to be fucking ignored whenever you don't need me.
With, not to. That sounded fucking weird.
I'm not even a good asset, why can't I at least be a friend?
Fuck this.
Why didn't she fucking call me.
Why couldn't I be content with the opportunity I was given.
TL;DR: happy new year. | Crushes |
It's kind of confusing, but do yall ever get mood swings about your crushes? Like one moment I'll be chillin, then the next I'll start thinking about my crush and then I just start getting sad for apparently no reason. Like am I the only one? 😅 | Crushes |
So, I promise I’m not a freak, but I notice something about myself that’s maybe a bit concerning - how obsessive I get over crushes. To preface, I don’t mean joe from YOU obsessive, but I definitely think/fantasize more than is maybe healthy? Almost constant checking to see if they’ve texted me back, or checking their likes on social media to see if they’ve been active recently (and thus are ignoring me). Then I feel terrible about myself and spiral. Make up fake scenarios to cheer myself up. And repeat.
This isn’t normal. It’s a lot of energy to give someone who isn’t even a “situationship”, they’re someone I know who I have a crush on. Sometimes it’s someone I don’t even really know we’ll enough to know if I’d get along well with.
Help?? | Crushes |
So today I been hyped because I'm going to my FIRST NFL game ever and with that comes a very happy thought: what if I see her at the game tomorrow? I had all of these thoughts and I loved it.
Then later on while making a bet to tell her how I feel, we intentionally made the timeline from today till February 14th and I have thoughts of giving me a Valentine thing and just flat out kissed me, in class, infront of everyone.
I love when my brain can come with these thoughts I can think of. Thank you brain. | Crushes |
Usually my crush is high energy and always says lol and has ! After every sentence. But yesterday all I said was “Hey I can’t believe tomorrow’s New Years” and her response was “mhm.” And I decided to respond asking what her favorite moment of 2022 was, which then I got unfriended on snap. What did I do wrong? The worst part is that I sit next to her in one of my classes so after spring break that will be very uncomfortable (seats are not changeable) I don’t know what I did wrong either. I don’t want to message her to ask because I don’t want to make things more uncomfortable. The worst part is that she was so kind and funny that I didn’t expect this. I don’t even know if I texted her too much since 2 days prior I asked if we could talk tomorrow but she said had a lot of stuff. Does anyone know what I did wrong? Or what I can do? | Crushes |
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Texted a bartender I'm casual friends with, and we both flirt a bit in person, and she just called me the wrong name in the text back.
Idk why but I'm annoyed by it. | Crushes |
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For context we are both in 14 and in the same geography class, she asked me for my snap and also got my number. We can’t meet outside of school bc of parents, so I was thinking about grabbing lunch together. Also she has these 2 friends that are twins that are always around her(one of them is also in our geography class). I don’t know if she likes me or not bc she is shy. What should I do? | Crushes |
I don’t know where to vent this to. But, here goes…I had this crush on this guy for a couple of months. I’m female (24) and he’s 28. Well, at first hearing he’s been single, I try to mingle with him. Like, try to get confident to talk to him, get his number even to go to the movies with him one time. Which was scary even being out of a three-year abusive relationship and going back into mingling (for a lack of a proper word). Well, I stopped when I heard he has a girlfriend. Well, not stop crushing on him but, with other stuff I try to mingle with him like getting to be personal with him. You know like trying to talk to him outside of work and hang out with him. Even though my feelings never fade, we end with a playful banter towards each other. We have a mutual friend and always play fight with each other. Some people assume we look flirty but it was never like that.
Well, this playful banter we do went far even to the point where he messes with my sketchbook. He had a habit of drawing…well, to be frank, male genitalia to mess with me. Of course, I fight back, laugh, and get after him. Today, coincidence on the last day of the year. He changes up the sketch to be very pornography to mess with me. I fight back like usual and get after him. Well after a couple of roughhousing, I just look at him sadly and was heading into the department office. He looks at me saying “OP wait. I’m sorry I promised I won’t draw stuff like that in your sketchbook.” Smiling and hugging me. I look at him pouty “how am I sure you’re not lying.” Not sounding too upset but still not happy. He just smile and chuckle, “I promised, I won’t I only do it because I like messing with you like a little sister. You’re like a little sister to me.”
This is the bombing point, I casually talk to him goodbye. But inside that hurt me even though I feel guilty it did. I know I had to step out when he came into our department to show the drawing and cry for a bit. I came back in when I knew he had to left. I still wanted to cry more and more.
My feelings were so mixed in the process. On one side my heart was saddened to be viewed that way and it felt weird being like a little sister. Yet another knew it never be like that. For the most obvious he’s dating among other things. I shouldn’t feel like this was not expected. Even a part of me feels so selfish for feeling this way.
My crush is a handsome and gentle-hearted guy. He has a sweet smile that feels so warm. He is very caring about others. Yes, I know a man who likes messing with someone by drawing genitalia doesn’t seem charming. But he is a charismatic and sweet guy for being the chaotic little shit he is. It also includes he’s a major dork.
I feel bad to seem saddened thinking about him. Just because he’s such an amazing guy and yea I do like him that much. I just really wanted to vent this out. I’m still saddened by this…yet I hope it can ease up by the time I go back to work. I know I will feel a bit distant from him more. Not to be a dick towards him, just really for myself. I don’t know…
P.S I don’t know if sister zone is a term used like friend zone. I just saw scrolling the web, when I was looking this up. | Crushes |
I was starting to get over him and last night I had a dream that we were on a school trip somewhere. There were beds for two with two pillows on each bed but one huge comforter. And for some reason my friends weren't there and it was snowing outside and we somehow were walking together and the two of us walked into the rooms we were staying in, there were a lot of big couches and several beds, hallway leading to another room, and it was pretty amazing.
Anyhow, i asked him where he'd sleep and he pointed to a side of a bed and i pointed to the other side and said as a joke that I'd sleep there then. He quickly said sure.
And then you know that stretch of time before you're getting ready to sleep when you're overnight with other people, like you're in bed but not actually going to sleep? The room was really cozy and homely and other people were in their beds talking and he got into bed and I got into bed and hugged him and we cuddled and i just felt so happy.
Are my hopes for getting over him ruined now .sigh. I was just thinking id gotten over him. | Crushes |
So I like this guy but pretty much he indicated he wanted space I guess out of the blue should I wish him New Years politely or leave it because his birthday is also in a couple days? | Crushes |
Sorry for the formatting lol. I'm on mobile.
Okay so, the main peeps in the entire situation are me (18 f), my crush (21 m), his younger brother who's also my bestie (16 m) who I'll call 'Ad' here, bestie's gf who's also my bestie (16 f) who I'll call "D" here and my cousin (15 m). All of us live in the same housing society.
Okay so here it goes. I met this guy around mid August during our society's Ganpati festival (hindu festival) celebrations. I was instantly attracted to him and told D about my little crush. And well, I've never been confident and hae major body image issues so I've never even had a conversation with any of my past crushes. But we'll ig for some reason, maybe because AD, D, cousin and well all the other people I hang out with are there, and I do talk to him. Great guy, very easy to talk to and fun to hang out with. Later he dm's me on ig and we chat. Like, a lot.
Then September rolls up, and I'm determined to tell him. So I send him one of those "I have a crush on you but I'm too shy to tell you so I'm sending this meme" things and follow it up with a text "Hey so just tell me what you feel. A simple Yes or No. And yes, even if you say no, that does not make anything awkward and we can continue to be friends just like before." He immediately sees it and sends "😶". So i ask him to please just tell me what he feels as at this point I'm very hyper and am starting to regret saying anything. He says "I honestly don't know what to say". I again clarify that there's nothing awkward about it. Just say what you want to. He then asks "i don't know what you even liked in me", So i tell him that he's a great person and has an amazing personality and he looks good too, which is a bonus. He then days that he hasn't been in any relationships from the past 5 years and that he wants to focus on his career right now and doesn't have time for relationships and so tells me that no, i don't want anything like that right now. I'm cool with it, as i had been telling him since the start. We go back to being friends. No awkwardness, until he starts making flirty remarks to me in normal conversation. Like, he does this over text. Then proceeds to kinda ignore me when face to face in public.
So then Navratri (Hindu festival) comes up in October and the flirty remarks haven't stopped. So again the housing society organises garba at night for all nine days. There, the flirty remarks stop, and he's legit flirting with me to the point where, AD, D, Cousin and others start to notice it too. So D asks me about it and i tell her it's been going on for a while, she then warns me that he (crush) has the rep of being a fuckboy and that i shouldn't take his flirting seriously. Cousin and AD tell me the same thing.
Now at this point, it's clear that he's just playing, and i should get rid of my feelings for him. Except that, I'm literally not able to get him outta my head. And my guy feeling tells me that he does like me too. It's honestly become frustrating and I'm just so done with all this but i just can't fucking stop thinking about him. What do I do? | Crushes |
So I used to be close to my crush on a friendship level until she started to date her ex boyfriend again. Two before that we used to take selfies while doing this Hand heart thingy so yeah it surprised me and it broke me mentally especially because I gave up a lot for her (she didn’t asked for it was just my decision). This New Year’s Eve she was with me and my and her friends and not her boyfriend because he isn’t as close to her friends as my friends are and it started pretty normal. However when ihre next year began she filmed how I started firework and drank a glass of sect on train and later she put her arm around me while we tried to start firework together with a lighter. The reason was that it was windy and we wanted to screen the wind so it was easier to light it.
Later she wanted to drink shots only with me, asked me to taste the beer she had and we jokingly fought about whose rock playlist was better. We met a few days ago and there we also fought about this topic and she wanted to do a box fight. Of course I wouldn’t box her the interesting part is that when one of my friends asked her about that she acted like she didn’t knew anything about this and then she comes to me today and says that there’s still a box fight between us. She also asked me about my bracelet and I somehow didn’t knew what to answer and just told her it was silver. Then I played one of my favorite songs and she asked me if it was in my playlist and I asked her what would be if it was and she told me I was a smash for her if it was in my playlist.
Also important is that her boyfriend called her and she didn’t answered and he already acted like an asshole in the short time they were together again so she seems to loose interest. The problem is she broke up the last time and when he texted her again after month she fell completely for him. I mean he’s cool and probably good looking but I wouldn’t say that they fit together and he’s Someone you would call a player which doesn’t fit to her since she is pretty feministic.
Even though she was so nice to me, our evening ended weird. She and her friends wanted to catch a bus and it wasn’t on my way home bur one of my friends also went with them so I walked a bit with them. When he had to go left while she and her friends had to go right I said bye to him and told her that I would walk with them since it was already not on my way home. But then she wanted to send me home. She wasn’t rude but she said “we have to say bye know I guess, you really should go home”. She hugged me to say bye which we only did once and that when I firstly met her. | Crushes |
There's this dude I'm currently talking to, he's giving me mixed signals and I just want to know what are some fool proof signs/indicators that he doesn't like me romantically and just want to be friends? | Crushes |
basically me and my crush have been bonding over the last few days, and he considers me his bestfriend. i told him i liked him at the new year countdown. he rejected me so politely that i didnt even feel it. he still wants to be best friends with me and im happy that he didnt stop talking to me. after that we binged an anime together. now its 4am, and i just wanna chat with someone, so if yall are up, feel free to text me😊 | Crushes |
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