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(first time posting + long post + apologies in advance)
I've been isolated for most of my high school and college life. I think I made genuine connections with my friends in high school. But I never hung out with any of my friends during the summer or outside of school. In college, since I commute to my university campus, I've felt very disconnected from most of my friends (most of whom live on campus). Being very introverted, reaching out to any of my friends has been an absolute struggle.
In high school, I said that I could handle being alone and that I should focus on improving myself. (Apparently high school me was an insane liar).
I started developing a crush on one of my high school friends last semester. Looking back, I think my admiration and respect for her during high school was a sort of crush as well (I don't know at this point, emotions are hard). I started seeing her in the hallway between one of my classes. I only see her maybe once or twice a week for a few brief moments but apparently, that was enough for me to want to reach out and connect with her. One time in passing, she saw me and said the most attractive "hey" I've ever heard. I absolutely melted on the inside. I'm a classic sleep-deprived college student, so I don't have enough sleep so that my dreams are any bit vivid. But in every single dream that I could recall, I was with my crush at some point.
I eventually worked up the courage, asked for her number and she gave it to me! But looking back, I felt it was very sudden and I think she gave it to me out of courtesy. We knew each other because we were both involved in our band program in high school. We've only ever interacted in group settings so I never developed a closer one-on-one connection with her yet. Friends of circumstance and all.
After I worked up the courage to text her, I asked her if we could arrange a time to meet up and talk. She responded by saying that her schedule was packed. I 100% believe that she was actually busy that week, but that little voice in my head was screaming that her busy schedule was an excuse to give me a soft rejection. Reaching out a second time is something I just can't work myself up to. It's been a month since I sent that text and I can't get over the perceived awkwardness of reaching out again.
I don't want to confess over text. I believe full-heartedly that discussing feelings and relationships should be done in person. If anything, I want to at least see her in person so I could confess my feelings and move on. But it doesn't help that I've been seeing her less frequently in the hallways as of late, and when I do see her, I don't want to barge in on her haphazardly, scream "I LOVE YOU!!", and leave. I can't find the courage to text her because I feel that I would only bother her (however small a bother a text can be).
I want to confess to her in person. I want to set up a little coffee date where we can talk one-on-one. I want to make memories and connections with her that I can look back on fondly. And if I can't become her romantic partner, I want to hear her say that she "just wants to be friends" or "already has a boyfriend" or "is not looking for a relationship" or "is too busy for relationships right now" so I can move on. I can't figure out how to approach her without that underlying risk of a full disconnection. At the same time, I already feel myself slowly fading from all of my friends' lives because of my texting anxiety. The amount of energy this takes out of me has become suffocating.
I'm tired.
**TL;DR:** I've been unable to create new friends in college, and I've grown distant from all of my high school friends. My feelings of isolation only compounded after developing an intense crush on one of them. My attempt at reconnecting with my crush was softly rejected by saying she was "too busy". I am unable to overcome my anxiety to reconnect without the perceived risk of them cutting me out entirely. I've grown tired.
To any internet strangers that read through this, I appreciate you. | Crushes |
I've known this guy for a while but I've never really talked to him until recently. Even now we don't talk much because we're busy. I'm thinking about asking him out but I'm scared he might think I'm weird? We're both in our 20s for context.
He's always looking at me and sometimes acts awkward when I'm around. One time he tripped over some boxes after talking to me, I caught him blushing once, he teases me sometimes too. He got a new car a while ago and even asked if I liked it. I've never had a guy act like this around me (I've actually been bullied by guys when I was younger). He's pretty quiet so it's almost surprising when he goes out of his way to talk to me.
Maybe this is just normal guy behavior and I'm overanalyzing from having bad experiences before. Idk. I think he's cute and I feel like there might be some feelings there from him as well. Should I just go for it? | Crushes |
Tought this was it,the chemistry and the bond was there.All ingredients to start my first relationship.But thats what I tought.Even though we got along very well ever since we first met,when I asked her out I got ghosted.Next week in classes,she brought a new guy with her to stay with our friendgroup.He seemed a nice person.Then she started to do the things that she did with me but with him.And they eventually made out in town,today.
Instead of thinking about this I need to move on.But thats easier said than done.All the memories and moments togheter cant be erased that fast.Even though it feels bad,I hope they will be happy.And I hope Ill find my happiness too sometime
Idk and idc if anyone sees this,but if you do enjoy every moment you have with your person.And try to avoid getting too attached,beacuse a sitiuation like mine can happen.Rant over😭 | Crushes |
I'm M24, and I have a crush on a guy....Suppose that guy is also crushing on me, does it mean anything that he changes his top in front of me only? And if I do not know whether he has a crush on me or not, does it mean anything if he does that? | Crushes |
Reposting it again because nobody saw it and i kinda need help on this...
To sum it up, last October i went through a breakup and although i don't feel nothing romantic towards my ex girlfriend anymore, i'm still a bit traumatized about the things she did to me and how she basically spoke behind my back making me look like the villain when i promise, it wasn't like that at all. Lack of communication was the main problem.
Last night i spoke about this issue with my crush and she was really nice to me. It's hard for me to open up about my feelings and well, she's amazing. I realized today i actually like her. I'm a football player, i play for the league here in my country, and yesterday i joked saying "hey, wanna be my wag?" (wag means wifes and girlfriends, mainly of sports people) and i also said "i would ditch (my favorite male footballer) for you" and she said the same to me. I think there might be a small chance of this to be a mutual crush but i don't know how to feel. Should i allow myself to crush on her? Or just keep this to myself and move on? | Crushes |
This girl we have been talking to each other for about a week she seems really into me, today she sent me a snap I called her cute she said thanks. Moment later I sent her a snap she opened it didn’t call me cute or at least a light compliment… is it a big deal that I should think about?? | Crushes |
This girl we have been talking to each other for about a week she seems really into me, today she sent me a snap I called her cute she said thanks. Moment later I sent her a snap she opened it didn’t call me cute or at least a light compliment… is it a big deal that I should think about?? | Crushes |
she made an instagram note with the text "M>". 👍
but my name begins with the letter B! 😱
she doesn't know my real name, calls me a name her friends call me and it looks like she thinks M is my real name 🤔
she made an instagram note with the text "M>" 😍😍 | Crushes |
As I already mentioned I might wanna gift him a bracelet but I don't know if that is weird.
And If I should give him a bracelet what kind of bracelet should I gift him like a basic black one or for example a green and white one with a black outline.Or another type of bracelet. | Crushes |
So I told her last night and it went ok. She said that I'm sweet and nice or something along those lines but shes not looking for anything serious right now since she just got out of a relationship. I knew that going in so I wasn't surprised. She said she would like to remain friends if I was cool with that, obviously I said yes. I told her that I knew her situation and that I wasn't trying to be like every other guy she knows and be hitting on her. She said I've never been disrespectful but she still wants to be friends. So it went better than I expected. Thanks for all the support on my last post, you guys are really great. | Crushes |
So I asked her out and she said yes, and then maybe a week or 2 later I did a sendit, and someone asked something like "did you ask your crush out?" And when I answered yes, she replied to the story with "no you didn't" and now it seems like she's mad or annoyed with me about something. Like wtf? How do you forget about something like that? Or is she just trying to blow it off and pretend I didn't ask as a way of showing she doesn't like me anymore? I do know she seems to forget a lot of stuff, but I find it hard to believe one would forget that. | Crushes |
It had been 2 weeks into the 8th grade, a good 2 weeks since he 1st met her. It was her birthday on Saturday. Or was it Sunday, I don’t remember. Anyways, on Monday, he asked her for her contact. She gave it to him. When he got home, he texted her “So I really like you. Will you go out with me?”
Apparently, he caught her eye in the 7th grade, and she thought he was hot. Somehow, she had been stalking him to find out if he was good enough for her. He was. Therefore, she said yes. | Crushes |
he is my mom’s friend’s son.(he’s quite attractive and a lot of girls liked him) i’ve seen him a few times when i was young but in middle school he went to the same school as me.(now we’re in high school)we didn’t talk much cuz we were in different classes. but this semester he always says hi to me when we meet in the hallway. i actually kinda ignored him a few times(im very slow to react so i didn’t get to say hi back). he probably thought i was ignoring him. but he still says hi every time which is very sweet. but i think he has a gf im not fully sure. and im guessing that his mom told him to say hi and become friends.(my mom says that too) and im a very shy person so its very hard to get approach him 😭😭 so is he being nice bcs his mom told him so or is he interested in me?? | Crushes |
I’ve been dating this girl for about 15 days now and we had our first kiss together yesterday and we had a great night and just hung out and talked. She was open to it, it was her idea and I didn’t force her into it so I don’t think it’s about the kiss. But I don’t know what it is, she just hasn’t liked my story at all either and she usually does every time I put anything on my story. She was also great that night and laughing so I didn’t say anything. Before I went to bed she even texted me goodnight and I said “Goodnight, thanks for being my first kiss” and she liked the message but didn’t respond back to that. Then I hearted three memes on her story and said something like “That’s so true😭🤣” and it’s been nothing since that. She even told me on the day that we kissed that she’s had a crush on me for months. The only good thing she texted me yesterday is that she can hangout with me on our school lunch.
But today I said “Good morning!” And she just replied with “morning”
She’s usually much more enthusiastic.
I’m really worried. What should I say to her? Should I ask her how she’s feeling?Any ideas what’s going on? Any advice? | Crushes |
I'm 5,8 and ppl consider me average or short. That has made me be a bit insecure with my height n I'm having thoughts on whether ppl would date me bc I'm 'short'. Also I'm not a westerner, I'm Asian so maybe that's why from a genetics pov I'm not that tall | Crushes |
I want to give her hints that I like her, and I tried every possible thing on Google. She doesn’t know the signs. So far, on Google, the things I have tried, which have surprisingly not weirded her out, are:
1)Playing with her hair. It makes everyone laugh, but not in a bullying way, and is the starting sign of conversation.
2)Telling her jokes. They have made her and her friend group laugh.
3)Helping her with stuff.
4)Shaking her rapidly. Somehow, this has worked. Somehow, I was dumb enough to try it out. Somehow, someone was dumb enough to put it on Google. I’m strong and 6’, and she’s short and 4’.
Things I know=
1)She’s always with her friend group. Her friends are my friends so that doesn’t matter. However, I’m usually solitary.
2)Her birthday
Things she knows=
1)I’ll always annoy her.
2)I’ll always help her.
What do I do?
By the way, I don’t have her contact, and the only way of meeting is by school. | Crushes |
This is my first role within a corporate environment, and recently I (20F) have been seated next to a man around the same age as me and that I’m incredibly attracted to. There has been plenty of banter, and light flirting but nothing serious. The issue is that as time passes by, my crush and level of care I have for this man increases.
He’d messaged another coworker who’s a good friend of mine previously, and she didn’t reciprocate the interest whatsoever. Although they still message back and forth on the messaging platform used at work. This led me to have a growing resentment towards him as I felt he has a general disregard for me as an individual, and rather focused the attention on her.
Lately, however his focus has been directed towards me. I find myself inclined towards him during social interactions, and feel the most comfortable with him in comparison to my colleagues. He also often has this ridiculous smirk whenever we speak. Along with a couple days ago having light flirting. I will not compromise my career for a man who for the most part is unattainable. I also find myself being rude to him at times, despite his arrogance, because I resent the crush I have on him. He makes me laugh and smile so much, and I love the way he looks after me whenever I have an issue. Apologies for the rant, would appreciate any input. | Crushes |
I haven't been using social media for a month or so and she texted me randomly asking me to go to a movie
I was hella happy but there's no way I can go...
It's too far away and I don't know how to ride a motorbike
Now this just hella depressing man, a once in a lifetime opportunity and I missed it! | Crushes |
The last 2 months I've had 2 crushes. The first girl was willing to out with me some times but I eventually got friendzoned (she wasn't looking for something atm,not gonna push it). We're still buddies, nothing too special,we may go out every 2 weeks or grab a coffee or something to eat after class. Moved on immediately from her. Then I started crushing on an another girl from a different class,we got paired together in a group, thought I was lucky. We had a convo and the next time we met she whipped out her vape. At that point all my emotions disappeared lol. Now I'm looking for my next "target" | Crushes |
I’m going to have a date soon! But I’m low key nervous, to the point my anxiety kicks in horribly. They are letting me choose where I want to go, but I’m not so sure where. And any advice to calm down the nervous system or the anxiety? Thank you! | Crushes |
so there’s this guy that i’ve been talking to for like (not too long, also on snap we’ve never met in person) literally over a month, we became like friends? and we always bully each other (like call each other names or whatever) anyways we stopped talking for like two weeks and i popped up to wish him a happy birthday and then we began texting again. anyways onto the point
sometimes he will just leave me on opened, like if the convo is coming to an end but he could potentially continue it on. but then if there’s something i post on my private story that he can pop up to then he messages me (for example the other day i posted a selfie of me and he put ‘yum’)
anyways the other day i asked him like what’s happening like fr and he said something along the lines of ‘well we’re good mates but i think you’re stunning so i flirt too’ he even said, his own words ‘i like you you're my kinda gal and I think you're funny af + you give me shit which is great too icl’ and then later on in the convo i asked him to explain more simply to me, and he said, and i quote ‘i’m saying you have a vibe i’m liking. it’s attractive it’s sweet ygm i’m feeling you’
so essentially he told me he liked me… but he can go with leaving me on opened and that confuses me. like is this something that guys do? or is he not actually interested in me. idk i just feel like if we’re not texting all the time then he can’t be that interested 😭 pls help | Crushes |
Hello, I really need some advice with my crush.
I liked this girl since I met her and even though I didn't realise back then she liked me back and she tried to tell me with really obvious hints (I didn't realize back then)
We are now both 18 and do not attend the same school anymore, I've tried to get her out of my head but I'm not able too.
So I've thought of sending her a message telling her how I feel just to get this over but I don't in know what to say or how to say it.
Could someone help me out? | Crushes |
What are y'all's crushes code names? | Crushes |
I have a crush on a classmate and we are completely different. Basically, I like her because she is beautiful and athletic, she is helpful to everyone too.
She likes fangirling on Hollywood actors and she also speaks foul language sometimes but not towards people
I like anime and games.
She doesn't like anime and I don't like it when she starts talking to me about her favourite hollywood actors.
She is mature, quiet sometimes and she doesn't really start conversations. She is the introverted type
I am kind of immature, kind of popular with everyone in the school and I am very friendly to people and I have a lot of friends. I consider myself extroverted.
Im sometimes the one that starts conversations with her and she likes it sometimes because she has someone to talk to. She also told me about all of her secrets and I also told her about myself. | Crushes |
My crush and i talked a few days ago about relationships and our past with it.
He told me he liked a girl from his class back in 8th grade, which she rejected him and havent liked a girl since (which i know is a lie, he liked me since 8th grade but thought he would never have the chance with me)
Hes now in 10th grade, means its been 2 years but for some reason its turning me off. Is it normal or am i just over-reacting with my feelings? | Crushes |
Alright! This is my moment………
Recently, I went on a class trip to Kochi. The trip was great. We went to see cool historic buildings (boring as hell), we went on a cruise (this was pretty fun), and we went to the Lulu mall (most of the fun was here).
On the second day of the trip, I was having the worst time. The previous night I fought with my best friend, and I got to see her true colors, which led to the breaking up of our friendship. Despite having a shitty time, I tried to be upbeat. I wanted to take a picture with my crush so badly. I only have one awkward picture of us. I never took that picture because I was too shy to ask.
We were at a church festival where they sold cool accessories, toys, and food. I was shopping with my other good friends, and I jokingly said that I will buy a gift for my crush. They encouraged my comment and urged me to do it. I know my crush really well. He loves to wear accessories and such. So, the ring was the best move. I spent a long time trying to find the perfect one and I did! A nice black ring which surely fit him. I bought it and was very pleased with the purchase. When we got on the bus, I started to chicken out. I was scared of his reaction and was planning to keep the ring. But no!! I didn’t want to do that. I whipped out my phone and texted him.
“Hey, guess what? I got you something, I think you might like.”
“Wait really? but I didn’t get you anything.”
The conversation went on with him feeling guilty and me reassuring him. I did this so that he will ask for the gift himself and I have no choice but to give it to him. We went to the mall and had a great time. After that, we were at the meeting point, and I was waiting for him. I gave him a call, worried that he could be lost somewhere. Thankfully, he was fine. He rushed to me and I gave him the ring, my friends were secretly watching his reaction. He paused and just stared at me. I was scared he was disappointed and kept quiet as well. He started to cry and was stuttering while apologizing for getting anything and thanking me. He then hugged me. That was the first time he hugged me. I was a blushing mess and was choking on my spit. Best day ever!! | Crushes |
how do i ask a religious person if they would ever like a person of the same sex?
i'm really really close to this girl and i really really like her. but she's very religious (she's president of the christian club at school). despite this, she's very friendly to me, as in we hug a lot/hold hands/rest heads on shoulders, write little notes for each other, facetime often, send each other lots of posts on instagram and pinterest, things like that. she doesn't do these things with any of her other friends. we even bond over the same interests, such as music, video games, and other franchises.
however, i'm not sure if this is because i've been stressed recently so she's been trying to comfort me as a friend or if she has any possible feelings. i'm not even sure if she would ever like a girl. what do i do? | Crushes |
I joined this club at school and he's in it and we have a meeting in 30 mins and my heart is about to beat out of my chest thinking about him seeing me I'm freaking out. Caffeine was probably a poor choice today...
Update if anyone cares: HE WASN'T THERE ☹️ | Crushes |
Sooo, these days, I have seen a boy in the school's hallway.. I kinda sympthasize him. I have to mention that I have never talked to him. I want to start the conversation with him. Also, I am a shy person and I am not nosy. Any advice how to start the conversation? I dont want to seem like a weirdo or I want a date with him. I just want to know him first. | Crushes |
tl;dr @ bottom
Alright I’m gonna hop right into it. Basically, I don’t know if I have a new crush or I’m just desperate for a new guy, but let me set the scene.
A few weeks ago (September 28, if it really matters) I had an after-school activity with one of my friends. It was me, some other people I know, and my friend’s friend. Now the friends friend, who I’m gonna call L from now on, I had seen a few times last year. I thought he was pretty cute but literally knew nothing about him, and never talked to him nor had any classes with him. Anyway, during the after school activity, we both semi-bonded over our mutual friendship with my friend. I thought nothing much of it, we didn’t exchange any social media, and I didn’t even learn his name, right?
Now this brings us to last Thursday. We had an all-day field trip for school and it was me, a different friend, and L. L, my friend, some other kid and I were assigned the same trip group, so me being me, I had the grand idea to have us all exchange numbers and social media so that in case we got lost or something, we could contact each other. Anyway, the *entire* time of the field trip, L and I were with each other. We were talking a lot, and we even got food with each other (just us two, nobody else). We had a really good time and became (what I think) was pretty good friends over that day we spent together. Anyway, the next day during school I felt extremely conflicted because I didn’t know (and still don’t) know if I like L or not, or if I still like my old crush. I would be able to figure out my feelings really quickly if not for the fact that L and I have no classes, no lunch together, and the most we see each other is after school when I’m going home, or for just about 3 seconds during passing period. I don’t know how to actually talk to him because he’s not the most engaged texter, but he’ll sure as hell talk your ear off irl. Dunno if this is important to add, but we’re both guys and one of my friends said he refers to himself as gay, and another friend of mine says he’s straight, so I’m super conflicted. This might also be worth mentioning, but I sometimes stay in his 1st period class before school starts because my friend is usually in there with our favorite teacher, but I never see L there in the morning until class starts (basically 7:25). If anyone has any advice on how to try and propel the friendship or if I should even try and pursue him, pls lmk. Thanks !
TL;DR: Spent an entire day (15 1/2 hours)with a guy I barely knew and only met once but is friends with my friend and now I don’t know if I like him or if he’s straight or not. | Crushes |
So today , in the park , she was sitting on a bench with her friend , talking, giggling and all while i was on bench opposite to her about 10m apart , on a bench . She came to me , asked if she can have my phone for a moment , i asked what was the purpose and said to wait for some moment (was playing clash royale so..) . She looked back and then asked if i can fasten her sleeve buttons(were wearing a shirt) , i said "ok" and while doing that i asked if that was some dare or something like that , she said her friend put a bet of buying a chocolate to her if she can do the task (buttons or phone) , then i asked what would I get , she said what you , i asked "whatever you buy for yourself, buy one for me too" , she agreed ,task completed, she went to a shop and bought some other thing which i said i don't like and i don't even need anything and actually i was kidding you have that. She said haughtily, "ok" and 5 min forward, she came with a chocolate , which i can't deny now , so i accepted and said thankyou , went apart . End!
What's your opinion?
P.S: she my ex best friend's Lil sis (about 16 yo ,and me 18 yo) | Crushes |
Basically I (14f) asked my crush (16m) about the years yet to come, since I just started HS, and irl we talk normally and it’s really chilled out, but online (Discord, lmao) it’s super up-tight, I keep on trying to loosen it up with Slang but he won’t really budge. He ended the conversation with “I’m always glad to answer questions”. I’m considering saying thank you and then asking him how he’s doing. Just some average small talk yk?
Idec if he’s not interested, just wanna keep the conversation flowing so that it’s more relaxed and not as “stick up ass”ish.
EDIT: Saw that I accidentally wrote 14m instead of 14f | Crushes |
I’ve never had a crush before, all of my past relationships happened fast and natural. Anyways, I’ve never talked to him but he’s in one of classes and he’s just my type. I want to talk to him, or give him my number but we don’t even sit anywhere near each other. All we have in common is we speak the same language. If I talked to him, what should I say?? Would it be weird to start a conversation with a stranger? I see him tomorrow, does anyone have experience with crushes and getting to know someone? Should I go for it? | Crushes |
So, right now when I was in the cafeteria I saw my crush looking really cute but I also thought of what happened last time we talked. I plan on talking to him about it but, I almost started like crying like I’m not kidding but, I feel like I miss him when half of it feels like I gotten over him. I doubt that. Does he miss me to? I thought I saw him looking at me once or maybe not but, only God knows if it’s really time or destiny. I wonder that a lot. Should I ask? | Crushes |
Hey all the people of r/Crushes!
I'll try my best to keep it short, but to be honest my current situation has me at a loss for thought and I'd like to know what yall think.
So basically I'm talking to this girl at my college, we both share a class. She's a bit shy as she doesn't do much while we're in class. I started talking to her about a month ago, and I started a thing where she would meet me in the school's library/chill-out area every other day when we share a class.
It's fun talking to her, as she likes to talk a lot and we'd often just talk about random things like childhood, previous classes, similar interests, all that neat stuff. She even asked me for my Instagram a couple weeks ago and then she dm'd me her Nintendo Switch friend code out of the blue which intrigued me. But anyway, I look forward to talking to her the days we have class and she seems to like it too since I don't even have to invite her and she'll still show up.
I even asked her if she wanted to go see the school's play that's coming up in a few days and she at first said she'd look at her busy schedule to see if it was possible. Cut to a few days later she said she'd probably not be able to since one of her siblings has a football game on the same day. But I said okay and brought up the idea of me meeting her at a Halloween event she said she'd be going to with some of her family in a few weeks. Then later I brought it up again and she says she doesn't even know if she's going to it at all or that it would have to be in the middle of the week.
Am I overthinking this or is it just unfortunate timing? I'm also feeling like there's not much chemistry going on between us besides simple conversation but I'm hoping that with time we'll be in a better spot relationship-wise.
So what do you think? Am I simply overthinking this? Probably. But do you think she's into me? I'm hoping an outsiders perspective would give me more clarity on where this relationship might go in the future. Thanks! | Crushes |
OPENING:
there's 2 updates in this post
UPDATE 1:
I have developed a crush on a girl in a few classes called Leah.
She's actually in my best friends girlfriend's friend group so that's a way I could start talking to her!
UPDATE 2:
This one's about Alicia.
On Tuesday I gave her my number! There's a Halloween party tomorrow at school and I will be going with my friends and she said that she will hopefully be going too! I said that we might see each other and she started smiling and even laughed a bit!
I'd say we're friends at this point. Tomorrow is the last day of the half-term and like I said, the Halloween party. She hasn't called me yet so I'll ask her to tomorrow!
ENDING:
I am so happy and excited for tomorrow! I might compliment Alicia on how she looks and possibly talk to Leah.
Every friend who knows about my crushes is being helpful and supportive for me so even though you probably won't see this, thank you! 😁
Thank you for reading this far! | Crushes |
Ive liked this girl for the about 4 months now, and as of recent I started to realize that she likes me as well. like me catching her glancing or even straight up staring at me, or being shy when ever I'm around. Actually, there was also this one time where I won an award in school, as I walked up and got the award, I saw her face light up and I mean LIGHT UP, as if SHE won it. I want to start talking to her, but I always see her with her friends or just in class (same grade but not same class). What should I do and I need to act fast cause I think that shes slowly losing feelings as well, or is that something girls don't do? | Crushes |
Because us boys most definitely notice it when our knees bump into each other or just stay on contact for a longer time period...do the girls like that too? | Crushes |
This is just a stupid rant but I’m 19 and I totally have a random crush on this probably 40year old guy and I’m laughing cause it’s just stupid. I was just drawn to him because he’s chill and laidback attitude Idek he was so peaceful and I met him at our school’s careers fair and now I’m like hmmm maybe I should join the company. Lol lol lol ahahahahahahahah
Édit: lol ‘getting groomed’ puhlease this guy does not even know of my existence haha. Plus I thought only children can be groomed? | Crushes |
i’ll start - i’m estj and my crush is istp ! | Crushes |
I've developed feelings for this girl. We're not close and we only have a few things in common(one being we both love anime). We've only spoken and interacted with each other 3 times in person. At school i see her all the time and i always notice her looking at me, but i dont think much of it. But there was this one time, school was over and i was with my friend. We were staying for extra classes. Im looking for something in my bag then when i look up i see her standing in front of me, her hand slightly reached out for a dap. A little nervous, i just say "Oh hi" I then dap her up. The dap was kinda awkward, i felt her hand pause midway and she didn't say a single thing the whole time. She then walked away with her friend who was waiting for her. Without saying a single thing.
My point is, she saw me and she could have just pretended like she didnt see me and just walk out the school, but she came to me, keep in mind we're not even close. I keep thinking about it but always come to the conclusion that it was most likely nothing.
Anyway, i cannot talk to her. Like seriously, i cant even say hi. I walk past her without saying a thing. Even if she's like a few inches away from me. Im terrified of speaking to her in person. We only speak on WhatsApp and even then we dont talk often. I haven't messaged her in 20 days. I get the impression that im way out of her league. She's into emo guys and im just a regular chubby dude. I just want to be able to talk to her so we can become closer, even if it's not as lovers. | Crushes |
For context, I started university at the beginning of October; that's when and where I met my crush. They are in my department and in my university friends group. Anyhow, some weeks passed and I can't sort out if what I get is just overreading.
They are kind, in their own way. I remember yesterday they said to the others that they were standing right next to me so that people wouldn't make me trip and fall (as I had my shoe laces untied); they waited for me to finish my exercise (out of all the 10 people that were doing the exercises together with us), and when today (out of jokes) I left a chair between me and them, they said they weren't smelly and that they showered. There are even other small things like, sometimes when we were waiting for class I could see them staring at me; today, as I was talking with someone else about tv series and others, they sat next to the other person and tried to engage into the conversation, even asking me if that was the list of things I saw, or, as we were leaving class and I was talking with someone else, I saw them staring at me while talking to others and even, when they talked about their ex, they said that I didn't need to know her and refused to tell me.
Apart from that, yesterday I even saw them driving (as we are both doing the driving lessons for the license) and today they said that they were too nervous because of me and that's why they forgot about the hand brake.
Anyhow, the little 2 times I tried a bit to get a conversation on chat, I noticed that they tend to not talk much with me and to stop writing everything when they see the possibility. Anyhow, I noticed too that they don't seem like someone who writes in chat that much, as they never really write, even in the group chat.
Btw, as much as I see these little things, the chat thing and the fact that he talks with everyone etc. make me think that I am highly overreading their gestures and that they were just born like that and I am the only one that, liking them, tries to see hope in their every movement. I would like to know what you think, mostly to even just give my head the confirmation it needs to understand that they really won't like me back. | Crushes |
My friend gives mixed signals. She touches me a lot, she is attentive and remembers small details about me, asks questions and we talk about deep stuff.
The problem is, she seems to not want to meet often and sometimes cancels our plans. I feel like she avoids meeting me irl.
What do you think about this? | Crushes |
My crush likes someone else and it hurt me so much to hear that because now I know I don't have a chance it hurts so much | Crushes |
When ever I try to talk to this kid I just can’t and I’m going to add that I have A LOT of anxiety so that makes it even worse and I’m just asking for advice or something | Crushes |
I told her and I regret it. Not because she doesn’t like me back but because I feel like a dick head. I can’t just make friends without somehow fucking it up one way or another and I thought I wouldn’t fuck it up again because I learned from my mistakes but I did the exact same thing and I Was really awkward about it. I feel like a dick for asking her out and I feel like a asshole for being sad I know it’s normal but I feel like I shouldn’t be sad about it or I don’t have the right to be a bit sad. | Crushes |
I’ve not even known her for that long but I still fucked up and became awkward. Idc that she doesn’t like me back I just feel like a asshole for asking her out. Idk if that makes sense. | Crushes |
This guy has had a school crush on me for 3 years, he suddenly then gave me a valentines day gift this year. I dont like him like that so I rejected him.
Now today (October 20th) its my bday and he gave me a gift again, despite me not giving anything to him on his bday. But its not an ordinary gift, its a whole tub of ice cream, starbucks inside a cup, and milktea with my own order 😭
Maybe he thought my feelings for him changed? should I remind/tell him again that I dont like him like that?
I just feel like im taking advantage of his feelings. Maybe hes waiting for something that I cant give him 😭😭
Also, we talk regularly in school sometimes and in chat we play some games together.. | Crushes |
To put it short and sweet (Not really) my “crush” told me she has a BF. I was more surprised than sad that I didn’t know she had one since I got mixed signals. But anyways I just want to ask for any advice on how to move on.
I made it clear that I’m okay on the relationship we have rn and nothing more. Unless some shit happens but I would not like that to happen with her. She deserves happiness and for me is to keep on being me. | Crushes |
Having trouble with confessing to my crush who is my close friend and more than likely has the same feelings and am hoping to get some reasons to ask her out because I need reason for encouragement.
Thank you to those in advance. | Crushes |
(With their crush/significant-other of course.)
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It was amazing today we talked all the time and teased and made jokes with eachother. Then there was an earthquake evacuation practice and in the chaos i got seperated from my friends,she lost hers and we spended the whole time together! It was amazing she is soo cute | Crushes |
I’m (M21) having trouble figuring out if my crush (F20) is interested in me.
We first met in bible study which I joined halfway through the University semester. I have a crush on her since then. When she was the only one talking in our discussion, she would maintain eye contact with me longer than I am used to. She didn’t look or only had a brief eye contact with others in our group. I thought she was just being polite. In our third bible study, she also maintained long eye contact and mirrored my behaviour (leaning my elbow on the bench) most of the time.
Now, our University Christian club has a social get together on Monday nights where all bible studied have dinner together. I went to my first Monday night the week after the third bible study and at the end of it, she suddenly appeared by my side. Before then, she was talking to her friends for the entire night. She asked me where I live, told me which suburb she lives in and which train line she uses, asked me if I will be coming to future Monday nights and finally asked if I was leaving for the night. I said I was staying for a bit longer and so she left with friends.
Since that Monday night, we did not see each other due to University mid semester break (1 wk) and busy University timetable. Fast forward to the Monday night of this week, I saw my crush again. We made eye contact when she walked into the room but seemed to ignore me. I had a few conversations with her throughout the night and she seemed engaged and responsive. What’s interesting was that when I was talking to others where I lived (I’m planning on joining a church near my place), she was browsing google maps on her phone. She only opened google maps after I said where I lived and seemed to be scouting my suburb.
I am confused about what she thinks of me. I think she was just being friendly at the start but after realising I had a crush on her (I sent her a message asking if she was going on a social outing organised by our club and wished her a happy birthday recently), wanted to distance herself from me because she was not interested.
Or maybe because we’re approaching exam period and she’s feeling a bit stressed.
What do you guys think? Either way, I’m planning on asking her out after exams. | Crushes |
i like this one guy, and he is very quiet. i want to pursue him and I'm not ugly but i am scared to do the first move thinking he might be annoyed by me | Crushes |
Okay so first of all my bf might see this but I am gonna say it anyway because it will be cute if he sees this. I want to be with him everyday and time away from him just feels empty. When I compare him to small problems I encounter daily I see that they don't matter. I am trying to be a better person for him because I love him so much. I want it to be us in the end and I am so so grateful we met now.
I have never had a relationship before but I believe this will be my first and last. He has all the qualities I want in a man- devoted, intelligent, funny, loyal, trustworthy. The last one is a big deal because I find it hard to open up but I am doing it with him. I am discovering things about me I didn't know existed, good and bad. Everyday I want to make him smile and every morning I want to wake up to him. I know we are LDR right now but we are going to meet soon. I just want to be everything he deserves and I want us to last forever. I want to listen to music together rice and I would sacrifice everything to be with you- even the version of me that's not nice sometimes.
I am trying to become a better person for you. I want to do all the things we talked about together and writing this is showing me how much I really do love you. You are mine, and I am yours, forever. | Crushes |
Went well, and I quote: "Wait, you like me? I'm gonna take a shower." | Crushes |
fuck fuck fuck fuck they actually like me and this is unreal.
i never thought they would actually like me out of all people. they would always talk about how they like masculine-leaning people and while that's my goal i usually end up dressing in the middle so i was worried. they also said they wanted a "friends to lovers" arc which i didn't even know they were hinting at me and them being together. or maybe not and that was just a coincidence idk.
but we're not dating. they said they like me a little bit and want to keep getting to know me which is like, "fuck, okay" but at the same time i'm just happy they like me and i'm willing to go as slow as they want.
they kept smiling at me when i confessed and i just hugged them really hard and ended up holding their hands out of excitement. i was too shy to even look at them at times so i just remember hiding my face at some point and being like "why are you looking at me like that" and they responded "i'm just happy". and that's so fucking adorable what the hell.
i was so convinced they wouldn't be into me but here we are. i really got in my head and depressed about it when i didn't even need to be depressed since they actually like me back!! i'm glad i took a leap of faith.
tl;dr: i confessed to my crush! they said they like me a little bit and want to get to know me more as friends first. so we'll just take it slow! was so sure they weren't into me but i was wrong. | Crushes |
This is going to be a long one... Happy reading!
I like a guy and I really need to know if this guy ever liked me. I used to be so confused by every single thing he did and when I described his behaviour to other people, they believed that he liked me, but when I told him I liked him he didn't reciprocate. So now I'm wondering, was I delusional the whole time?
Also, please don't tell me to ask him straight up, like, that's just... not on the cards. At all.
Okay, so we grew up in the same church but I pretty much didn't know he existed until I started this sort of Bible studies class. He had already completed his first year and my mom was assigned as the new teacher in my first year so the class was at our house every weekday morning. There were 6 people in the class (me included) and I knew EVERYONE ELSE quite well (I went to school with one, two of them were good family friends, and the other was my brother) everyone except him. As far as I was concerned, I just met him, pretty much. I never liked him from the get-go because I didn't know him. I was always kind of "scared" of him and also "curious" about him because I didn't know him at all, but, you see, being in a class of six in our living room every morning, I obviously wouldn't be able to ignore him for 3 years; I'd eventually get used to him in some way. I already knew where I stood with everyone else in the class, and I just started wondering where I'd stand with him in a couple of years. Again, I didn't have any kind of crush on him at that point; if it were anyone else I'd still develop that strange curiosity about them.
He seemed like "the quiet kid". Every time after class, everyone would just chat with everyone and he'd just be alone in the corner on his phone. But some months went by and I can't remember the first incident but it gradually started to seem like he was warming up to me. One day, for example, I was playing a game on my phone and he just sat with me and was like kinda playing along in a way idk. I found this weird because I am a very uninviting person and I'm not at all friendly. I had never tried to even form a relationship with this guy and suddenly he's just chilling with me. I guess he was probably bored out of his mind. I still didn't like him then so whenever he came close to me, in my head I'd kinda be like "Please go away, please go away, please go away!"
Then I started to notice that he used to stare at me during Bible studies class. Whenever I caught him he never looked away, he held his gaze. It was a rather expressionless face but I knew he wasn't "staring into space"; he was actively staring at me. I would switch seats with another girl next to me and he'd still stare at me. He even once lost his place while we were taking turns reading 'cause he was looking at me. On another occasion the girl next to me caught him gazing at me and brought it to my attention. He had a slight smile on his face and rested his head on his his chin. When I looked at him and shrugged, he shrugged back, I looked back down, but he was still staring at me. This made no sense to me because I'm really ugly so I don't know why he'd stare at me.
We once had a youth activity where we had to write and perform a song and he stayed with me for most of the evening. He told me that one of the girls in our class had a crush on him (at least that's what he believed) and he didn't like her back and was struggling to get her to get it lol. He even asked me to take a video for him or something that he could have done himself but because I did it, I ended up sitting with him the whole time. I keep wondering whether that was his motive all along lol.
He definitely started warming up to me after this. He would most often chill with me after Bible studies class in the kitchen or dining room and we'd do our homework together (not TOGETHER together, because we did different things, but, yeah, together). If not, he sat alone on his phone. During Sunday school he always sat next to me. I always switched where I sat and it wasn't as if the chair next to me was the last open chair; he ALWAYS actively chose to sit next to me: if we had class outside, he would put his chair next to mine. He even once sat next to me during the main Sunday service and my mom even noticed. Again, weird, because I didn't even consider him a friend. I really didn't know him well enough and we barely spoke, other than the times we saw each other. Didn't even have his number. During the Bible studies "tests" he'd ALWAYS sit next to me and we'd discuss our answers and stuff.
But he never acted this friendly with anyone else; it was really only me he'd ever speak to, otherwise he was alone on his phone.
Also, about that girl he thought had a crush on him: one day we had our Sunday school lesson outside and he put his chair next to mine and sat with me (as he always does). Couple moments later, aforementioned girl arrived with her chair. He leaned over to me and said, "She's gonna come and sit next to me, watch." Sure enough, she did. Which made me think: if sitting next to someone is what sometwo who has a crush on someone does, and given that according to him, she has a crush on him, can I conclude by that logic that HE has a crush on ME, given that he ALWAYS sits next to me? Right?!
I think this is where I started liking him.
More "signs":
He ALWAYS greets me when he sees me. I never greet him, I am generally a very shy person, and if he sees that I don't acknowledge him he will still greet me later. When we talk, he drives the conversation and spends every last possible second chatting with me until one of us has to leave.
He once randomly gave me a shoulder massage for like 30 seconds IN FRONT OF MY MOM. I didn't ask for it, I didn't need it. But it felt nice lol🙈 and my mom kept teasing me about it.
If he'd say a joke out loud in general, he'd always look to me for my reaction.
Once in Sunday school he wasn't sitting next to me, I sat in the front and he sat at the back. There was this fake plant thing with little bean-like thingamabobs that he started randomly throwing at me.
Once he played a song from his phone and he mouthed the lyrics "I love you" to me when that part played.
I was once talking about how I wouldn't want to go to my matric dance ("prom", if you will). He offered to go with me -- it never happened because of Covid, but still. (I don't think it would have happened though, it was just an in-the-moment suggestion. He did say it on 2 separate occasions though.)
He wanted to sing a duet with me at a talent show. He later seemed really flaky about it so... we never got past the "audition" anyway lol.
He randomly dabbed his forehead on my shoulder once for 1 second after playing soccer with the boys.
We teach kids' Sunday school and ever since I joined, he always sits away from the other teachers and with me in the back by the piano. When I was assigned he seemed kinda glad that we'd be "seeing more of each other now" (his exact words).
He asked me to accompany him to pick some other kids for church one morning when he saw me at church. He didn't need directions or anything; it was just for the hell of it.
Someone once jokingly made a comment about him meeting girls and getting a girlfriend after he went to a dance. According to that "someone" -- I didn't see this -- he then shook his head no and then looked at me.
I once invited my male best friend to church and according to someone, he looked pretty jealous.
I was talking to another guy at church, a newcomer, for a long while and I saw that he kept glancing over at me and he didn't look much pleased. Later, he asked me about the guy, "Who's your boyfriend?" I rolled my eyes and told him I barely knew that guy, then I jokingly asked if he was jealous. He said yes. To this day I really can't tell if that was a joke.
BUT
He never texts me. Then again, I never text him either so I shouldn't talk lol.
I once called him to me and saw him roll his eyes at me☹️ It wasn't sarcasm or jokingly, he was, like, literally rolling his eyes at me after I called him. It wasn't super dramatic but it was like a small spasm eye roll idk. It only happened once but still... yikes.
I told him earlier this year that I had a crush on him. I texted him (🤦🏾♀️) and he replied saying that we'd always be friends no matter what (note that he had never acknowledged me as a friend before, until on my birthday 3 weeks prior, and right now, the day I tell him I like him as _more_ than a friend), and I should be free and I'll find what I'm looking for etc etc. He was very polite about it. HOWEVER, I had actually said that I felt nothing good would come out of it if things went anywhere and that I was only telling him because I hoped it would help me get over him. My friend says that because of what I said, even if he did like me, he never would have said it and he would have just hid his feelings. I asked that we stop interacting with each other for some time so I could get over him, but he never did. He still greeted me every time he saw me. And I'm obviously not quite over him. I keep wondering if he did actually like me and I ruined things because of what I said, or if I was delusional the whole time.
Please help😩 | Crushes |
So me and my crush are pretty close and last night I asked her if she wanted to play 20 questions and she said yes
So we go through some deepish questions then some fun questions then some deep questions then I ask “do you trust anyone with your life” and she said “there’s a few people actually” and I was the first person she listed-
I told her I was kinda surprised to see myself on that list because we have only KNOWN known each other for about 2 months and she says “lol I get it but you were willing to talk to me even though we barely knew each other and it meant a lot, I’m not good at making friends anymore”. To which I responded “I’m mainly surprised (about how she’s not good at making friends) because of how open you are and tbh I was so nervous when I first wrote you and I hoped you wouldn’t think I’m weird” and she replied “I’m only open to people I know I can trust, and no you aren’t weird”
Beiwnshwkwndiekdbdkwkdjdk she’s so nice I like her so much | Crushes |
And that’s absolutely not how I wanted her to find out.
AFTER she asked to talk, I just told her everything. How in January, I felt something happening inside and was honestly afraid. How in February, I couldn’t stop falling for her. How in March, I had to admit it to myself, and I found out about her then-current toxic relationship. How in April, I fell harder still. How in May, I had to admit to myself that I was in love. How I’ve only been falling more each day from June to now, while trying to keep it locked away to give her the time and space she needs. I finally worked up the courage to say it from my own mouth: “I… really… *really* like you… I love you twice over… once as your friend… once as more.”
She was super sweet about it, and I had to tell her over and over not to be sorry for not feeling the same. If she doesn’t love me in that way, that’s not her fault. But at the end of the day… she doesn’t love me in that way. I honestly don’t mind being “like a brother” to her, because I do truly value our friendship, and I genuinely care for her. I’m more afraid of losing her than her not liking me. I’m actually mostly over the rejection, but I’m still worried about the state of our friendship. I might or might not have cried myself to sleep the night after we talked. Not because she rejected me, but because of how scared I am of losing her forever. I don’t cry. That’s how afraid I am.
That said, I think I’m done. It’s never happening, with her or another. I’m just not lovable in that way, and I don’t think I can handle another heartbreak. It hurts, because I really was starting to think that if anyone would love me back, she would. But it’s nothing I’m not used to. I think she’s my last love. I almost feel a certain weakness in my heart, like I don’t even have the strength to fall for another in the future. I hope I’m wrong, and I hope whoever proves me wrong will break the pattern. But I feel like I’ve been waiting for someone who doesn’t exist… someone who’s never coming. | Crushes |
This is random, but does anyone else think that Anuel AA is super hot? I feel like he isn't a guy most people would find attractive, but he really turns me on. | Crushes |
He had a crush on me first and i entertained it…I may have lead him on a little. I wasn’t attracted to him at first but I liked the attention and we hung out a few times. Then I started to catch feelings. And now he’s pulling what I was in the beginning. He was also talking to me about another girl and that one kinda stung but I literally cant even be mad bec we’re not together. I don’t know what to do with myself bec I wasn’t even into him at first. I need a need boy to fixate on.
Edit: my prayers have been answered. I have a new boy to obsess over. | Crushes |
So basically, there was a day (27/9/22) where my crush didn't answer my texts but read them so after texting a lot, I told her that I was done. Then she replied! 'K' she replied. I told her that she can stick with her other crush. I knew something was wrong when she started asking me (Her crush at that time) for tips to confess to her crush. Then after that, she started lying to me and trying to act funny and innocent.
That day was honestly the worst day of my life since she was the one I've loved for 4 years. We're classmates and we're going to graduate in less than 8 months. After that incident, I have became really depressed but I couldn't act like it. Please give me some tips to confess to her. I don't know why, but she keeps looking at me and when I look in her direction, she looks away. Google said it means she has a crush on me but... I honestly don't know anymore. My grades have gone down since then and I haven't been able to keep up with schoolwork. | Crushes |
Liked a guy for almost a year, got rejected last night :/
He was very nice about it, which is good cos I have about 4 classes at school with him.
My friend from my rugby club told me "just fuck it and tell him already, whats the worst that can happen? rejection?"
Yep. Rejection. "Hope we can still be friendsbut you are REALLY REALLY not my type" hurts to hear, but hey, at least its off my chest. | Crushes |
So with some insight, I developed a crush on this one classmate that I've known since 7th grade. I always thought he was handsome and didn't think much about it for the past four years. However, one of my close friends has been friends with him since 9th grade and all three of us have the same lunch period so we all sit at a table together with two other friends. The more I got to know him, the more and more I became attracted to him. I realized last week that I developed a serious crush.
Since everyone is getting closer to each other at my lunch table, we all decided to make a group chat on Tuesday. Turns out that it was the best decision I've made in months since we all kinda established a friend group. We even played a couple games together. I'm starting to become friends with him after all of these years. I also have Trigonometry with him and in that class, he used to only talk to me when he needed answers but I feel like that's rapidly changing.
Today in Trigonometry, we talked for about an hour. We were asking each other questions about ourselves, what we wanted to do in the future, our interests, etc. He smiled a lot and even laughed at my jokes. Even in the groupchat, he asks me questions about myself. Even though this may be headed in a positive direction, I'm still too nervous to text him outside of the groupchat. I've looked at conversation starters and positive affirmations but there's still a fear of rejection or being left on read. How should I approach him or text him?
I'm still planning on asking him out once I get to know him a lot more but I feel like this is an important milestone. | Crushes |
Hi!! I’m freakin out omg but I’m gonna update y’all from my [post last night](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/y7t3v0/were_going_on_a_daaaaate/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf). Tonight I went on a date with my crush and we watched Smile, and lemme tell you this guy does not like scary movies. He was cuddled up next to me all scared and hiding from jumpscares.
When we got back do the parking lot by our dorms we sat there for a moment. I didn’t know what to do- I could tell he wanted to sit there for a moment but I was just awkwardly rambling and looking around. I caught a glance of the way he was looking at me and I knew what was coming next.
He taps my shoulder, says hey, and asks if he can kiss me.
I’ve never kissed someone before and I said I didn’t know how and he said it’s ok and that I’m ok I’ll be fine. So, I said yeah, and leaned over to him and he kissed me.
I’m so shocked. He was so gentle and caring. He’s so perfect.
It was a very small kiss and I didn’t know what I was doing so we just giggled it off when we were done and he called me cute. IM SO HAPPY he called me cute so many times I was kinda jumping with joy and blushing so much FHSKFHSJFBSB
Anyway yeah I don’t know what we are just yet but we’ll try to have that conversation soon I’m sure!!!!
Seriously thank you guys so much for being here and supporting me and giving me pointers, I really really appreciate it and it helped me be more confident getting closer to this guy. 🥰🥰🥰 | Crushes |
Both me and her are in a special school designed for smart kids, and there aren’t many people in the school, and there’s only one couple that r there in the same school (the normal school is a walk away, we go there to eat, go to the bus, etc so there’s more couples I guess but it’s hard to see) and she is the only girl who likes my godawful memes I show her and she seems pretty oblivious for the fact that I like her, but here’s the problem…
Look at my posts on reddit.
Nobody in school knows about the wwe at least, but the rest, they know about I think, or rather, they should because the majority of the kids there r my friends. Here r some things I have done for her
Gave her an expensive cheeseburger that she liked
Showed her my memes
Asked if she wanted a cheeseburger, she said that she had to do TSI, to which I said that that was more important
Thinking about asking her to study with me
What should I do now? | Crushes |
Disclaimer: I support the LGBTQIA+ community 100%. These are based off my own observations and if I do say something wrong, please feel free to correct me!
I (18F) like a guy (20M) in my marching band, which happens to be a very LGBT-friendly place so many people are already out. The problem here is, no one knows a whole lot about my crush since he mostly keeps to himself and is very shy and introverted. I’ve tried asking two of my friends who happen to be a part of the LGBT community since they probably have a better understanding than me, but both aren’t sure either.
From what I heard about him, he’s shy, likes plants, and listens to several artists who are a part of the community. He also sometimes wears their merch to practice and is a part of a band organization that is primarily made up of women and other lgbt folks (with some straight men sprinkled in). I know it’s wrong to generalize here, but I’m just afraid that I’ll ask him out and he ends up being gay. Not that’s it’s a problem, it just obviously wouldn’t work out like that. If he happened to be bi/pan etc. then it would be a different story. I just don’t want to make a fool out of myself and look like an idiot for not knowing. | Crushes |
I have a crush on one of my friends from last year (sophomore year, I'm a Junior now) and It's really eating at my self-confidence lately. I have severe anxiety and it causes me to overanalyze the most smallest of things, even though I try and tell myself 'its not that big of a deal'. Someone please tell me I'm overthinking this whole thing...
I asked my crush to Homecoming 2 weeks ago and he said he couldn't go because he's going out of town that weekend. I really want to ask him on a date sometime but I ever since I asked him to the dance, he's kind of been avoiding me and whenever I talk to him he seems nervous. We have 2 classes together and we sit on opposite sides of the classroom for both of them. When he’s not in the classroom, he’s zooming to the next one and I have no time to catch up and tell him how I feel.
We used to know each other pretty well last year and got to talk alot and even hang out because his social circle wasn't that big and we knew each other pretty well. I hate myself for not asking him to hang out again over the summer, but the last time I did was out of impulse and I can't think of anything good that happened when we went out to the arcade even though I know he had a good time and it wasn't that bad. My brain just hates it when I feel good about myself ig... But I think me not keeping in touch over the summer just dissolved our friendship and now I have to start all over again.
The most stressful thing is that he has no social media, and hates texting. I rarely text him because of this, but recently I had to ask him some things regarding classwork or other school stuff and he just flat out does not respond. I don't know if this is because he is so uninterested in me that he doesn't want to respond to me, or if he's so nervous to text me, he just avoids it altogether. I have like a whole 5 unanswered messages stacked on top of each other of just "Hey xx did you finish the physics thingy?" "Hey xx ru there?" "hey xx you got a sec?" "Did you go to the meeting xx?" "xx" (They were all posted on different days) and it looks really bad with no context.
I remember in one of our classes, we were standing near the door, waiting for the bell to ring and me and some other friends had a conversation about tv shows. He said he was into "Moral Orel" and I asked "oh is that that one stop motion show on adult swim?" and he looked stiff and just answered "uh... yeah, yeah......." and looked to his other friend to talk to them. It seems like he doesn't like me but that's probably brain making it seem worse than it is...
I have seen him glance at me on several occasions but as soon as I do the same thing, he instantly turns his head in the other direction. It makes me feel like I'm ugly sometimes...
I know I shouldn't be overthinking this as much as I have but I can't help it. I've never been in a relationship before and I think he's one of the cutest people I have ever come across in my 16 years of living. He's really passionate about what he wants to do, no matter how miniscule it is, and he does everything with so much vigor I can't help but be fascinated too. There are alot of people who dislike him and call him weird because of his tendency to put 100% into alot of what he does.
I remember last year when we were reading Macbeth, when we were reaching the ending of the story, he acted out almost every part of Macbeth like we were in a play in front of the whole class. And in chemistry, for one of the presentations, he brought a whole gas mask to class he got from his granddad to wear when presenting.
I look at him as much as I can whenever we're in class together or if I see him in the hallway. Whenever I'm close to him I get so hot and my glasses start fogging up. I'm not good at having conversations or holding a conversation and I'm not all that confident (especially when I'm around him). He's a pretty shy person too, I mean, he's told me himself. I don't think he hates me, but I can't help thinking that he thinks I'm ugly or unattractive, or uninteresting, or just not a good person to be around. I don't know what it is I wish I knew what he was thinking.
**TL;DR: Ever since I asked my crush to Homecoming, He's been avoiding me. I want to ask him out but me asking him out seemed to mess up my chances. Does he like me, or am I overthinking it?** | Crushes |
he treated me like shit and insulted me and m still not over him fuck | Crushes |
We really told them to take a break - it's only been three weeks since they broke up with their toxic gf but they're pursuing another relationship 💀
It's ironic, too, that they told me first because they knew that my other friends would probably react poorly - I actually CRIED after nag-usap kami because Helluva Boss released during our conversation and that gave me an excuse to release ALL of my tears that night.
I was supposed to tell them on the first week of December about my feelings, and maybe SOMEthing could happen that would make it less awkward, but that's not going to happen if they're still together OR it's been too soon after they break up.
I'm happy for both of us tho - they're going to get someone who makes them feel less pressured, someone who gets them because they're both in the same field of expertise, (even if it was kinda soon) I'm happy they found someone else. I finally have the push, the closure to stop thinking about them kasi nga may jowa siya and I can focus on something else like probably not wanting to --- everyday, or maybe I can plan methods without anyone else on my mind but no dark details sorry :> but that's it I need a break | Crushes |
This year, me and the guy I had been crushing on for a year and a half finally hooked up lol. We were best friends (actually we use the term "deep friends") and after a concert in May we took a bit of MDMA and came back to mine alone... He told me how he felt and I told him how I felt.
It was an interesting conversation. He told me the reason he is around me all the time and does a lot of things for me is because he likes me a lot. Actually, he was infatuated with this girl atthe time and a week before he asked me for sex but I said no as I didn't want to get in the way.
But this time he asked and I was like, fuck it. But we made it clear that we weren't going into a relationship. Main reason being is I'm transgender and he wants to start a family which is fair enough.
We spent a lovely summer together. We got maybe a bit too couple-y though. He practically moved in, I cared for him, we were ALWAYS with each other and people noticed and asked questions.
Recently, two weeks ago, it got shakey because I realised things started to get coupley and we became more attached. We had "the talk" and decided to stop the whole thing sadly.
But... we still get it on in the bedroom and we still are very deep friends and have our heart to hearts. We want the best for each other. I helped him be himself and come out of his shell and he helped me become a better and more calm person. We're still very attracted to each other but we know we have to cool down the couple-y shit if we don't want a relationship. But we want to remain. a part of each other's lives in some form for a lifetime.
Which is hard and I think it pains us both. We give each other "the eyes" a lot when we are around and its hard not to say no haha. I'm happy though, for the experience.
He's in a bit of his own heads pace right now thinking things through. but very much still caring for me.
Not sure what type of relationship you'd call that but it was good times. We've had a positive impact on each other. | Crushes |
So my new college term started, with me being a junior and student council rep in my faculty, I was assigned a group of freshmen for the orientation process. She was the livewire of the crew, all cheery and bumbling but always wanted to help in anyway she can. During the second rehearsal for our dance routine, even with a stubbed toe from running all sorts of errands she still managed to pull me to a corner and told me someone in her class liked me. I had my suspicions but still picked up some cues, and slowly they added up. We continued to banter more and more the following days, and I started to bring her sandwiches to cover for her habits of skipping breakfasts while she fed me cookies and chocolates in the afternoon after my classes ended to reenergized me for the dance practice. Having just revitalized myself after one gruesome toxic relationship, I felt like she was a brand new pleasant breeze to clear away all my mental strains and allow me to once again tap into my joyful side. Yesterday afternoon, I sat in her philosophy class jotting down her notebook while she prepared her speech to run for class president. I got drowsy from the lecture, so she told me to take a nap and she would wake me up with a special spell. I dozed off, but sprang up immediately when she leaned in to whisper them 8 letters into my ears. Simple yet definitely magical. I will see the freshmen crew this afternoon after class, and damn am I ready to take on their congratulatory teasing and show off the pastel scrunchie on my wrist right now :))))))
P/s: yes, the magical 8 letters are I LOVE YOU for those wondering. Really hope you folks also get to hear them from your crushes soon! | Crushes |
I’ve struggled lately to find some songs to listen to (and think about my crush) in my library looking some recommendations… any suggestions?? | Crushes |
In your guys opinion does that mean anything? | Crushes |
fucking sucks cause i'm still into him and i gotta act like nothing happened
why does ts only happen to me😭😭 | Crushes |
on the way to college and idk i was over him but now i can't stop thinking and smiling about him
i feel like he knows me better than anyone else
he texted me saying he feels AWFUL and bad about how he treated me
and honestly i really don't want him to feel AWFUL because of me even after he treated me like shit
Whytf am i like this!?
he didn't have to say how he feels
cz he knows i feel bad seeing him depressed and sad
he even told it to me once, he said i know u'll feel bad if i m depressed
is he playing me again?
pls i don't wanna go through everything again pls pls
last few weeks were really hard cz of him | Crushes |
They came up to me once class was over to ask me to study soon. Just me. One on one. Currently have anxiety because for one- I have no idea how to study with others- and two, it’s just going to be us!!!! I’m so nervous!! | Crushes |
In art I heard her talk to her friends I think she said that shebus talking to three boys on snap, so I already told her I like her a month ago, and she said that she didn't want to date anyone, not just me, but hearing thar I think she was just lieing to try not to hurt my feelings. She is the cutest girl I saw in my life, but I know how slim ny chances are, and hearing that should I give up on her and somehow get over her? Instead of my original plan to ask her out again in a few months and talk to her every so often. | Crushes |
All the signs of me liking this one guy are there. However, I’m really thrown off by the fact that he isn’t my usual type and he’s not very convenientionally attractive. He also dresses kind of sloppily and has traits that I’m not normaly into. However, I find myself drawn to him and fantasizing about what a relationship could look like. I’m kind of confused as to whether I’m actually attracted to him or if I’m just playing mind tricks on myself. I sound super superficial—I’m not super attractive either—but I’m genuinely struggling with feelings of shame and doubt when thinking about crushing on him. I feel like I’d be “emberassed” to admit I liked him or to be seen with him, which I realize sounds really immature and stupid. Any advice? | Crushes |
When ever it's just the 2 of us alone together we talk a bit but mostly we are on our phones or watching a show together but when we are with a group it's so much fun and stuff and I see him laugh all the time with them but I feel like I'm just so boring to him.
One time we were talking about crushes and he was talking about how he would want to date someone who is willing to embarrass themselves and let lose and have fun and stuff and I can do that but around him it's so hard because I don't want to give him an ick and then he won't like me.
What can I do so I won't bore him when it's just the 2 of us??? | Crushes |
is all hope lost? | Crushes |
Been working on it. He use to like me I believe and he would always stare at me in class, he was always very touchy and playful and then it just stopped. That is when I realized that he was more playful with another girl in my class. He sits behind me in class and sometimes ms moves him when hes talking to much and he’ll be like “yessss” like he doesn’t want to be near me or something. He did that today aswell actually, and guess where ms moved him? Next to her. I’ve gotten over him for the most part but I still get really jealous seeing them laugh with eachother. Today I texted him to ask straight up if he likes her because it hurt even worse not knowing. He kept dodging the question and then he asked why I even like him which he asked TWICE just to ignore the question and I gave him the same answer. I told him and then I was like I guess that’s a yes that you like her since you keep dodging the question and he was like great guess but sadly, whatever that is sopose to me. I just don’t want to make my feelings for him completely come. I know I’m almost there, so why is it taking so long??????? | Crushes |
If he’s the first person you talk to in the morning and you fall asleep on the phone with him late at night… is he your friend or more?
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It’s completely hopeless. He has a girlfriend so there’s absolutely zero chance of me getting with him also I’m a guy and I’m 100% sure he’s not bi or anything. We get along well and seem to have great chemistry but this could also mean nothing. I brought it up to my therapist and he said to write a letter to him and just never give it to him. What exactly would this accomplish? | Crushes |
She's lesbians sucks but doesn't hurt to bad | Crushes |
Hey you,
I just wanted to write this letter that I will never send you just to give you a glimpse into your future. You’re so worried about your job, but I’m here to tell you that you’re going to be okay. You are exactly like I was my first year, and if you keep up that drive and just be yourself, you’ll be good. You make a good addition here, and I’m not just talking about what I think of you. Everyone says it.
I also wanted to show you your romantic future because you seem so depressed about love and finding someone. You’re so young, and I know you’re going to find someone great. You’re handsome, intelligent (emotionally and academically), hysterical and just a good person. It’s hard to find people like you in this world, which is why I developed such a big crush on you. But I know what’s going to happen: you’ll meet a girl who is everything you ever wanted and things you didn’t know you wanted until you got to know her. Her smile will be bright and she’ll make you wondering “how did I land someone like her?” She’ll transform you into the person you’ve always wanted to be and more than that.
And the day you come into work and tell everyone you finally found a girlfriend, it will be the saddest day of my life. I’ll put on a brave face and a giant smile for you. I’ll say that I’m happy for you and I knew you’d find love. I’d excuse myself and sob in the bathroom.
It’s crazy. On one hand, I want you for myself. On the other, I want you to be happy, even if it’s not with me. And as I slowly get to know you, I’m coming to the realization that it won’t be me who you hold in your arms, and that’s okay.
So please stop looking at your future as terrifying unknowns, but instead look at it like a quest in D&D; you don’t know what’s going to happen next… how exciting ❤️ | Crushes |
I think this woman is beautiful. I think I fell in love at first sight. When I saw her in the queue, I couldn't take my eyes off and she noticed. Two weeks later we saw each other again, and then we caught each other looking. The next day, I was sitting with my friends, and she passed, she turned slightly as if wanting to look at me but shy.
Two days have gone by and I haven't seen her. I really want to introduce myself to her, I wish I get a chance to see her soon.
I'm not wrong in assuming that she likes me, am I ? | Crushes |
Ok so there's this girl i've liked for the past year or so, and like 9 months ago shes like, been looking at me? I don't mean like accidentally, like shes just been staring at me, and sometimes when i walk by her and her friends while the're talking i sometimes hear he mentioning me? | Crushes |
I met him a few months ago and we exchanged numbers. Didn’t have the guts to ask him out, but we clicked and everything seemed to go very naturally. I really liked him, so eventually I asked if he wanted to go for a drink.
And he said he’s been seeing someone for a while and wants to see where that goes. We talked it through and are on good terms. Yet I can’t help but blame myself for ruining my chance by not being faster to act. | Crushes |
A few months ago i confessed how i felt to my crush, and while i did expect to be rejected, it still felt great to do so. After i did, she told me i was the best friend she'd ever had. Sounds good, right? Well no, because she immediately got into a relationship with a 17 year old (she is 13). I then learn, that she had been shit-talking me behind my back because i kept trying to explain to her that being with someone 4 years older is a bad idea, and i also learn she was lying about the "best friend she's ever had" thing. Glad i'm over that, jesus christ | Crushes |
Summer break sucks. I'm trying to be patient, but it still sucks.
And that is all. | Crushes |
My best girl friend who I’ve been friends with for about two months has made me have my first proper crush. I’m 14 and I’m just obsessed. I suffer from social anxiety but when I’m around her it goes away and I can be myself. We go out on weekends and I know for sure I definitely like her. I’m just scared to ask her out in case she says no and ruins the friendship. | Crushes |
right now i have finished my pre high school (3 years) and since day 1 (literally day 1) i developed this crush on a girl.
she didn’t speak to me at all until the last 6 months of our time in there. then she started talking to me just a little about things that bothered her, annoying teachers etc.. i got really happy when she did talk to me.
now we’re going to different high schools. and i’m really sad about it. i mean, i got to talk to her just a tiny bit, but every time i did talk to her i was really really happy. i think of her every night before i fall asleep, every minute of the day. it’s a HUGE HUGE crush.
i don’t know what to do anymore. how to i lose my ridiculous feelings to her? what do i need to do to forget her without my heart breaking? i really don’t know what to do.
thanks in advance! | Crushes |
My crush and I work as student workers at a fast food restaurant on our university campus. He's department lead, which is like assistant manager. I don't think it would be wrong if we dated, because we're the same age, we're not going to work there forever, and by the time he got promoted, we already really liked each other.
I work mornings, and he works in the afternoons, but there is some overlap between our shifts. When he came in, he asked me if it had been slow that day. I said it was. He then said "really? So you've just been hanging around here looking pretty?" | Crushes |
Ok so this guy I really like is driving me crazy like I cannot stop thinking about him and I feel like the only way to stop this feeling is to just tell him 😂 it’ll either make or potentially break things between us but I think it’s the best thing to do. My friends all thinks he likes me back but idk we’ll see. Imma do it in person tho, messaging makes me more anxious because I won’t see his reaction and I’ll cringe at the message 😂 anyways wish me luck 😂 | Crushes |
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I know he doesnt like me. I literally confirmed it like a month ago. And here I am, still getting excited to see him and still hoping every morning that he'll come to school. I wont even see him again after school ends. Kinda weird to think about... him disappearing from my life as suddenly as he appeared.
Bruh wtf man why is it so hard to get over him??? This is genuinely like hella annoying and I dont wanna deal with this anymore. I got over him for a bit in February but then I fell for him again. It was weirdly easy that time... so why am I having such a hard time now?
I kinda wanna get a hug from him before the end of the year lol. I think that would be weird to ask tho. He would probably say something that would hurt my feelings. Yeah, hes that kind of person, and I know that. Yet here I am 🤡
Lol please help 😭 | Crushes |
so i (13f) have two best friends. both (13m) of them play video games, and call me regularly, something that has been going on recently is they have started always wanting to be on my team/ near me. you may think this is because i’m good at video games but ima actually really bad and both of them are wayyy better than me, also, in certain role play sims, they want me to live in their house and they’re constantly asking if i like them (ex: hey jack do you like T or me?)
am i just being paranoid or do they like me? if you have any questions just ask and i’ll respond. thanks for reading | Crushes |
I (M19) met this girl (F18) last semester, I really like her and I’ve gone out with her before, 2 days one after another, one was my idea the other was hers, but it felt like I had to remind her constantly even about the thing she brought up, before we actually hung out, because I asked her almost 4 weeks before we actually hung out. But ever since then she isn’t really talking to me, and it’s gotten to the point where she’ll respond with 2-3 substantial texts and then she will go to dry responses that end things fairly quickly, not to mention the hours of in between time. I just don’t think she likes me and she’s not talking to me like she used to (or this could be just what some people do, I’m not that well versed in the realm of women or romancing), but my friends just try to tell me that maybe she’s busy, but she used to text me even while hanging out with her friends or at work. She used to share a lot of random stuff with me, and that’s what kinda helped me believe she felt something too in the first place, but that hasn’t happened in a while. I even met her friend because apparently she wanted to meet me, and her friend jokingly said some things about sharing some responsibility for this girl since I was her college friend (but I could be over analyzing things). But I’m at a loss, we haven’t talked in many days, and she hasn’t initiated a conversation in almost 2 weeks. I want to ask her if she wants to do something again before our next semester (I’m taking some summer classes and she’s working), but I want to let her to know that I’d rather get a firm “no” than an unmeaningful “I’m busy” (or that could be her way of saying no now, but that wasn’t the case before, she almost seemed like she wanted to hang out and she even tried to work out the details with me before, now she’s just busy) and I don’t know how to word that without sounding potentially clingy or whiny, she’s said it sounds like fun again when I asked a couple of weeks ago, but she’s grown more distant, and I almost don’t want to ask again and distance her further. I’d also really like to tell her how I feel so I can just get it out of the way, but I think we have some common classes next semester and I don’t want to make things awkward between us during those classes, just because she’s the only person I’d consider a college friend (of course I had to fall for her right?). I know that I should just get this over with, but I want to see if I can’t stay friends at least through this next semester before I potentially ruin things, if there’s anything there. | Crushes |
i won’t go into the specifics cause i think he has reddit but oh my gosh it was so fun! it wasn’t a date but it makes me so happy just being with him that i don’t exactly care. BUT THE GUY WHO CHECKS OUR TICKETS ASKED IF THIS WAS LIKE A MORE THAN FRIENDS THING AND HE HESITATED! it was so embarrassing tho but made me happy!!! i can’t wait to hang out again | Crushes |
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