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I feel kind of silly posting this because I’m a grown woman, but would like some opinions. I’ve known this guy- friend of a friend- for 4 years and I’m completely in love with him. We get along great, but I know I’m not his type romantically which is fine. We also have very different lifestyles. I’m ok with just being friends if he’s not interested in more. I’m assuming he’s not because it’s been 4 years and he’s had plenty of opportunity to make a move. He hasn’t given any indication he likes me as more than a friend.
The other day I mentioned a male friend was coming to town for a visit. He got quiet and kind of rolled his eyes like he seemed annoyed. If he’s not interested, why would he care if I talk about another guy? I guess I’m just looking for any glimmer of hope that we could be more than friends. | Crushes |
My name will be kat my sisters name is cat, my childhood crush will be ry and his brother Kyle.
I've had a childhood crush on ry since I was a child and he had one back, the thing is I don't think he ever knew I liked him back,however his mum knew and Kyle would always bully him and mock him for having a crush on me but he would never deny it and it was pretty obvious, our families would meet up pretty frequently and it would always be extremely awkward but after gathering up the courage to interact it would be fine, however some years down the line my family had to move to England and I didn't see ry for 4 years, around 14,15 years old we returned back to the same country for a wedding and I got to meet up with ry however it was extremely awkward between us 4 in general, specifically ry and me because we knew he had a crush on me, however I don't think Kyle and ry knew I had a crush back on ry.Later we would go for lunch and I could barely eat my sandwich because of the tension, I had to gather up so much courage just to say hi (idk why it was like this).
The day of our relatives wedding came-
when we were at the wedding I hanged our with cat as ry and Kyle hanged out with their friend, about 30 mins in I was heading to the toilet when ry is walking towards me and quickly asks where is Kyle and his friend, I rudely reply I don't know and give him a nasty look,he just walks off (maybe a bit shocked, I was shocked myself idk where this anger came from, maybe because I wanted to hang out with him) the wedding day passes and we meet for the last day for a goodbye meal and as per usual I can't even say hi because the awkwardness and tension is so horrible,about 40 mins in I head to the toilet and ry+Kyle say to cat=
Ry:why does your sister say 'lol' so much
Kyle:yea it's weird
Cat replies:how would you know unless you were looking through kats messages with you mum?
Ry and Kyle:*stay quiet*
I finish in the bathroom and re-enter back into the room and gather up the courage to say 'hi guys!' (There's no reply).
Towards the end of the meal I get up and head to ry to say bye and he says to me 'it's over', I stand there shocked and laugh it off and say ok but as I head into the car I kind of tear up then ask cat-
Why did no one reply to me when I came back from the toilet?
Cat proceeds to tell me how they judged me slightly and I sit in the car slightly shocked.
2 years later we leave our country again to go back for a holiday, we are all around 16,17
We meet in Ry and Kyle's house, I go up to them as say
Hi! *tries to hug ry* (so dumb)
Ry:oh I'm not a hugger
We both laugh it off
The whole night I stay quiet, ry seems to talk quiet a bit,cat too but Kyle and I are literal mice.
Once we leave ry and Kyle's place his mother texts my dad and says-'Ry enjoyed tonight 😉'
(I thought that was strange as I barely talked but I've always loved his presence and always looked forward to being around him even thought the tension was so high.)
Couple days later we go bowling but before that we have lunch in a café, we eat quickly to not waste time but towards the end of lunch ry looks at everyone including me and says 'oh ok everyone's soon gonna finish', however both ry and me have always been slow eaters, I finish before him and he takes a bit too long so his mother says 'ry come on, hurry up!'
Once he's finished we head to bowling
*ry bowls decently and is one of the first on the leaderboard*
Me on the other hand is all the way at the bottom
*ry looks at the leader board*
*ry starts to bowl horribly and the ball keeps going in the side tunnels and I constantly laugh*
*he seems to keep up his horrible streak of bowling*
Kyle says:'Hes doing it on purpose now'
And I just continue laughing, at the end of the whole game ry was last and I was before last so we ended up near eachother.
*I along with my dad and cat start heading home but have trouble finding our rented car, it took us 15 mins*
Some days go by and our holiday comes to a close and we meet up one last time with ry and Kyle's family for bowling.
*I'm waiting for my turn*
Rys mum comes up to me and says
'ry made a joke saying when we head to skl tomorrow we will see you guys still trying to find the car'
*while rys mother says the joke halfway through ry comes over and stares at me smiling to see my response*
I feel awkward and just laugh and he walks away along with his mother.
We finish bowling but this time ry was at the top of the leader board and wasn't purposefully bowling badly.
*we are all standing in the car park and saying our goodbyes*
I say to Ry:'Bye!'
Ry:*doesn't reply*
I think he didn't hear me but I'm not too sure
I get in the car and cat falls asleep while my dad drives, I look outside the window and start crying and won't stop I get home and sit in the toilet and continue to sob, same as I get on the plane and land back in England. Its been 4 months now, I still think about him and miss him, maybe I miss his presence or I still have a crush on him but I just don't want to let go I really want a life with him in the future and to experience new things together.
I gather the courage and text rys mum the next day and ask for their numbers and I send ry a message saying-
'Hi this is kat I forgot to ask for ur phone number so I asked your mum instead haha'
Ry replies:Hello there
I reply:😂Imma make a gc tomorrow with us 4 cause we need to catch up honestly none of us said a word to eachother today other than hi and bye 💀(very risky)
*couple days go by and no response*
*ry marks me as read on the 3rd day*
*I don't text him again until his birthday and the conversation goes like this*
Kat(me) :Happy birthday ry 🥳
Ry replies:Thx a lot!!
I reply: :)
*gets marked at read 30 mins later*
And that's it, now I post WhatsApp statuses to get his attention, creepy much but I really want to text him again I'm just scared the conversation will go dry very quickly, after posting multiple WhatsApp statuses the only one he looks at is a shadow photo of me, cat and a guy clearly in the middle, I post another one the next day that he also proceeds to view and I post one today which brings me to now which he decided not to view because its a video of the Internet. And that brings us to now
I tried to summarise the story as much as I could but help would be really useful in this situation :) | Crushes |
What exactly do I say though | Crushes |
As a woman, it's common to thoroughly discuss love interests to my other friends - 30 minutes to sometimes hours. Are men typically the same? | Crushes |
I’ve befriended a guy from school and I’ve noticed that he’s been calling me every night. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t do this to anyone else.
What are some other common behaviors when a guy has romantic feelings for a friend who is a girl? | Crushes |
Hi :)) this is my first time posting here :)
So, I have a crush on this one guy. He’s a grade above me though. We do share a couple classes. But I wouldn’t call us friends. We’re not close. I talked to him like thrice and that’s it.
He defended me in an argument once.
I’ve been liking him for three months now. My friends tease me about him. I never told them I like him btw. But they figured it out. I keep on denying it whenever they bring up the topic of me liking him because I’m not quite sure what else to do.
I am pretty sure he knows. I sat next to him three weeks ago, and he moved. I thought that was just a coincidence, so I sat next to him again. The same thing happened.
Is that a sign I should stop crushing on him?
lol, I need advice. | Crushes |
This also works as an update on a previous post I made - I wrote my crush a letter and got her a gift for Christmas, but the day before I gave it to her she gave me a letter, some highlights being: "I am very grateful to be your friend and it has really made me happy that we can share interests" + "I really enjoy talking with you and you are very entertaining to be around" - The friend part worried me slightly but that doesn't mean she doesn't like me back or wont in the future
But anyway, she seemed to really appreciate my gift and letter but said she felt bad she didn't get me a gift, which im ok with as a letter made me feel over the moon anyway.
Another massive development was when we went to London together with some friends to check out some stuff (Kew Gardens, National Archive, etc...) First of all she looked so pretty that day, she generally has her hair in a ponytail but she had it down that day and she looked so cute! And she got so excited about some of the stuff there in the most adorable way possible haha. We also sat next to each other, isolated from the group on a train, for about an hour or so and had a really good conversation in which she recommended some youtubers to me and showed me some pictures she had gotten of places she'd visited and just random memes (mostly Genshin Impact memes, as she is really into Genshin - on that note Genshin is what led us to be as close as we are now)
As for any goals I have with her in the future, a major one is to of course ask her out, but another is to ask her to prom, which knowing me is something I'll beg for advice on here.
I really am sorry I've rambled a bit here and gone on for way too long but I just really wanted to talk about the girl I like and haven't had a good chance in a while, I'm thinking of her basically everyday during the holiday period, but I digress.
Thanks for reading, and...
tl;dr: I'm talking to my crush more than ever, she gave me a xmas letter and I reckon I have like a 30-40% chance of her actually maybe liking me back a bit | Crushes |
so, there's this girl. there is this girl😭😭😭😭 she won't let me gooooo. she's all i know, i think about her way too often, i miss her every moment i can't reach her, and im smiling like a fool every time she says hi. problem is, we are both girls. You could get life imprisonment for being gay in my country, and she's straight😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
wespent new years together, she texted me that she'd be at the church i usually go to, once we got there, i spotted her and stayed with her the entire time. i wished i could touch her, hug her, kiss her, anything to let her know of this more than overwhelming feeling she gives me😭 but i just stood there smiling at her like an idiot😭 and then i had to go home😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 | Crushes |
We've just been talking recently but we knew each other through our friend for years now, every time we chat he always flirts, invites me to play games with him and his friends, teases me and says things about him wanting to be a 'good enough husband for somebody'.
But one of my biggest concerns are his other female friends, who are like 10x prettier than me.
Every time I ask him about his crush he asks me why'd I like to know and never really gives me an answer.
I don't want to let my guard down and open up to him, I haven't seen how he interacts with other girls, he also compliments other girl's looks in front of me.
Problem is I am really confused on what we are and what's his goal trying to flirt with me like that, I don't want to ask him about what we are cause I don't want to assume that he likes me.
Thoughts please??
Can anyone tell me signs of attractions through just chatting/texting? (Long distance) or maybe some red flags I have to watch out for?? | Crushes |
There is this girl who is 3 years older than me. She is the leader of our theater group and she wanted to exchange poetry with me. We did and then we started talking more and more. It soon turned into 1 hour long text messages and she even started sending me random pictures of herself. And we started talking only to each other during parties etc. She gave me a bunch of quizess, to see our compatibility, such as the 16 personality types quizz, some relationship quizzes and she even paid for a professional dating assesment quizz, which we completed. And she talked how she is attracted to younger dudes and each time we talk she gives me all the non verbal signs that she is into me (playing with her hair, whole body turned towards me, small constant touches, she looks me in the eyes and comments on them each time we talk in person).
But man this is a bummer, i learned that she still had a relationship with her summer thing. And then she really started complaining how she is only dating him, bcs she is afraid that he will do something to himself and how she is only there for the rest of his family. But now she went on a roadtrip with him and her best friends and idk what to even think anymore.
Honestly we have a great chemistry but mates, this is a bit wild. She even said that she would kill herself if she found out we were somehow related bcs of how similar we are.
Like she invited me for a binge watching session at her flat. Like what would you do in this situation?
I would really like to have something with her but fuck cheating and being dishonest. | Crushes |
because why the hell not | Crushes |
An old friend of mine, she wants to come spend the day with me. She's in a relationship. She's been sending flirty texts (including calling me hot), calling me late at night, and she's insistent on staying overnight at my place. I honestly don't think she's telling her boyfriend any of this because he'd be against it. It's kinda fucked up because I think she wants to sleep with me, which is immoral because she's in a relationship but we're also twin flames (basically proven at this point). I don't think she'll leave her boyfriend but I think she wants to experience being close with someone with a strong unspoken bond. I wouldn't ever date her if she was a cheater but I'm not going to lie it would feel amazing to have her in my arms for a night. Idk what to do. | Crushes |
It basically means “you have a good personality, and you done what you could do, its just that you lost the genetic lottery.” | Crushes |
Hi everyone! I’m new here! So there’s this guy that works at Academy and every time I speak to him I get chills all throughout the back of my neck and through my shoulders. I’ve only talked to him a few times. To me, it seems more of a spiritual and emotional thing because whenever I look into his eyes I just feel very safe and just so sure of myself. I’ve never had a boyfriend before and I’m 25. I’ve just never really had a mutual attraction with someone. But I’ve talked to guys before but I always felt so uneasy and nervous. But with this man I feel so calm and after I talk to him and when I’m walking away I just feel a sense of peace which is super weird because I’ve never felt that way with anyone. What does this mean? Is it like a God thing or like love at first sight or what? Please let me know what you guys think!! Thank you! 💕 Also, Happy New Years for those of you who celebrate. ☺️ | Crushes |
I mean Tomorrow loll. | Crushes |
So y’all said to keep texting her after those flirty emojis and extended letters, and it went great! We talked for about thirty minutes about a basketball game she went to, and she once again used emojis and all caps when she was happy. Still got a long way to go, but I’m on the right track! | Crushes |
So a few days ago i recieved a few messages one after the other from my crush/friend and later i saw that they've edited one of the messages probably an hour or more after they sent it. The message was not anything serious and the weird thing was that it was really too short to be edited lol
I was just wondering if that might be a sign that they like me back cuz for example i do the same - whenever i send a message to my crush i'd edit it like million times eventhough it's meaningless. | Crushes |
I’ve (25F) had a crush on a guy for almost 2 years now, were not that close knit and don’t know that much about each other, because I’ve been shy and I have fear of rejection. I run away sometimes! But He’s usually stressed over his job and life, so I try to only approach him when he doesn’t seem that way. When we talk, it’s about projects that we’re working on or holidays coming up. I don’t have his number, socials, haven’t hung out with him either. I’m not sure if he’s interested, since we never touched on that subject, but he does stare at me, blush, walk by me a lot and he’s literally touched my long hair on purpose before too. I heard from others that know him, that he’s single as well.
Td;lr: I need advice on how to shoot my shot but don’t know if I should even do it yet | Crushes |
I think I'm going to do it. I really want to text my crush to wish her a happy new year. Although we don't text all too often, I'm 99% sure she won't find it weird or something. Still I'm overthinking a bit | Crushes |
Hi Everyone,
I'm attracted to a guy in my office, but I have never shown any signs of it.
However, I don't understand why he ignores me.
When I'm talking to a colleague and he joins in, he never says "Hello".
He never speaks to me, only to other people.
His behaviour makes it impossible for me to talk to him
Is there a reason why someone behaves this way? | Crushes |
I went for coffee with my work crush yesterday. We ended up chatting for an hour and a half at the coffee shop before returning to work. Does that seem like a long time? Then we continued to chat throughout the day once we got back to work. Trying to tell if there are any returned feels here. Would you spend that much time with someone you weren’t that into? I wouldn’t have done that with any other coworker. Any thoughts? | Crushes |
So my crush told me this after I had a meltdown. Not sure if he was just trying to make me feel better. I was venting about my self esteem and the fact I don’t feel good enough for anyone.
He goes off complimenting how beautiful I am, my lips, my body, and the fact I cook. Then he goes “I’d ask you on a date but feel weird to ask. I mean everything I say with all respect”
I told him he shouldn’t feel weird but then said “lift your head up. I’m here for you my friend”
so now I’m lost | Crushes |
***Important stuff (tl;dr) in bold***
For those who don't know, **someone who is aromantic experience little to no romantic attraction**. That is we rarely-or sometimes never- get crushes, **but may experience strong types of love or attraction with other feelings such as platonic attraction.**
**How do crushes feel? How do you differentiate them from friends?** I keep getting answer like "you just know" and it is honestly really confusing. And like **try and compare it to like good/close friends.** It usually isn't really always helpful to compare them to casual friends, although if you find a way to compare them then that would be good too.
I think I might be if I am aro (pretty sure), but it is still pretty confusing. **I am also neurodivergent so I get really emotional and can attached to people that are close to me and it also sometimes it can be very hard to read and categorize my own emotions.** I definitely notice that there are sometimes where I just find a person or a trait about them interesting. To make things harder **sexual attraction can give me a nervous feeling. I can't really tell if its butterflies or anxiety** (there are negative experiences I'm not getting into that would make me nervous about people I am sexually attracted to). And even if its butterflies, it doesn't always happen with people close to me; they kind of just have to be hot. It doesn't really require feeling any sort of attachment, so **it hard for me to tell apart romantic from sexual butterflies**.
Celeb crush comparison might be helpful to talk about to because I know I really don't get those. | Crushes |
I'm currently dating with a girl rn , preparing for a new year's eve party, we've known we had feelings for each other for a few weeks now , and have done 2-3 dates already. We're both relitaveley shy and are stuck at the holding hand stage and hugging , I'm wondering if I could take a leap forward and kiss her as soon as midnight strikes , what do you think? | Crushes |
So I’ve known my crush for a little over 2 years now and we’ve been friends ever since, though more chill and party friends, mostly spending time in groups.
I got into a relationship with a then-schoolmate of mine and it lasted until last April. Him and I are actually also married. Still.
Now 8 months have gone by since the breakup and I have only seen our friend (the one I’ve had a crush on since I met him) once since then.
He reappears in my mind a lot of times, then I push the thoughts aside but then they resurface. And now I decided to face them head-on and send him an audio today, saying: Happy New Year. Btw, would you like to do something sometime? I’d really like to see you again.
And then see what’s up from there and if things are right I will let him know that I feel drawn to him and have for a longer time.
I’ll be courageous.
But first things first, I’ll send the audio, I want to make it more personal ✨
And I’ll let u know how things turn out | Crushes |
So the new year just arrived and my crush sent me this short text of her saying the "I'm so blessed to have met you" and "thank you for 2022" stuff, and at the end she said "ily best friend", she then mentioned that she just reused the text, meaning she sent it to other people as well, and I just feel like if she liked me she would've removed the "best friend" part? Idk if I'm overthinking or not | Crushes |
It’s really embarrassing when a crush sees me by my self and having no friends. They definitely think i’m some boring and werid person and plus i’m unattractive which makes things worst. People instantly make fun of me and embarrass me infront of crushes i have so it makes me look stupid and weak infront of them. People don’t like sitting near me either and people make fun of the way i look and people spread rumors and of course my crushes will believe it and then hate me. I see my crushes hanging out with others all the time and the people they like is actually not alone unlike me. I’m always sitting by my self at lunch cuz people despise me and make sure i’m alone. People assume i’m some werid freak and it sucks when my crushes agree. They all hate me and it’s sucks. I have no friends and no one wants to be with me. Do you guys go through the same? | Crushes |
We're both away from uni for holiday break, and we haven't been chatting anything much. Today I received a message from her wishing me a happy new year, and that she's grateful for the time we've gotten to spend together this last year with a bunch of hearts.
Just needed go get it of my chest, it feels great and is a good way to end 2022. Hopefully there is something more in store for 2023. | Crushes |
If anyone didn't read my last post basically I asked her out and she said yes and that it would be a lot of fun. But when trying to schedule a time she said she has to get her stuff straight before school starts maybe another time. Then I never really sent her too many texts but the ones I have sent her she wasn't very responsive on. Then yesterday I asked her if when she gets off of work if she could drop me off back at home and she was like "eh idk maybe I'll see" like sounding like she didn't want to cause then she'd have to be around me or something. Anyways that's just a little update to keep everyone updated. This post is about me working with her tonight. I'm not just gonna easily give up on her like some redditors want me to do. I never really was pushy with her, but I'm not gonna be pushy or anything. I'm gonna go into work and say hi to her and ask her how her day has been and if she says more than just "good" I'll talk about it with her. Yeah and I'm just gonna be really chill and laid back today and try to make her feel comfortable around me. And of course if she looks like she doesn't want to be near me I will keep my distance but usually in person she's ok with being near me. And I'll just kind of see if she develops any feelings for me. I'm just gonna be a really cool guy and make her feel special and whatever else to where I'm a very likeable guy and maybe she'll start liking me. Ill conversate with her when i can and im going to try to make her laugh sometimes and make more eye contact when i talk to her. She's now working as a server so she doesn't really have a choice but to be around me. Whether she is around me and likes me of course is up to her and up to me to make sure I'm likeable. | Crushes |
How do you increase your Rizz game? Ppl keep saying I’m not good with girls n tease me for it. But I want to change that | Crushes |
I asked him out. And he said yes. And I'm happier than I've been in a long time | Crushes |
I had a crush with a girl since 7 year and i was unable to express my feeling to her.We use to talk everyday in last 2-3 year , we used to study together from text ..we used to talk daily in our highschool days in instagram and after that all those covid shit started .Somedays during lockdown she used to make me feel special and other day she used to ignore me but i used to text her daily everytime expecting to make convo we used to had before...whenever i try to make a move and say her that i love her i used to get thought that she will stop talking to me.
But all the fault was mine because sometime i used to say her i was sick even if i was not..at first she used to care and to get that care and lovee i started to say this things daily and this continued for a yearr our coversation used to be like question answer and i was turned into complain box..and it turned into toxic and i don't no whyy i started getting hurt and due to those un expressed feeling and overthinking i was at the lowest point of mine life
This thing continued more than a year and i was totally broked and could not to hold it anymore .So i decided to stop to text her and cut all connection with her and i deactivated my instagram and after a month i activated and saw she also deleted her insta.we are connected at snapchat but she uses it one in 3 months she sends somee snaps and disappear for next two months and this hass been continueing since we stopped to talk..Its already been more than 1 and half year but i still love her and still got no courage to text her and say I love her a lot.whenever i go to temple i used to go to temple i pray to make her minee but all those prayers are not listened.At present i want to talk to her say herr everything but its impossible.But afterr she left me at present i am totally different guy it turned introvert me into extrovert .But still i got no courage to text her and sayy all the things. | Crushes |
I was feeling courageous and onfessed to my guy best friend. It feels so good getting it off my chest omg. He feels the same way back. | Crushes |
damn you !! like literally !! i can’t sleep at night because of you. i can’t think in the day because of you. i try, but all i can think about is how much taller you are than i am. you’re the absolute *perfect* height. just tall enough so that when i hug you i can hear your heart picking up speed against your chest. just tall enough to rest your chin on my hair. perfect for resting my head on your shoulder. whenever i try to write a song, i just wanna write about the way you cuddled my stuffed animal, the way you look at me with deep, wide blue eyes, how confident you look and feel in a suit.
i wanna write about how you make time stop and yet go so fast. i cant believe i’ve liked you for five months already. i’ve never had a crush for more than three and a half. sometimes, i fear that you think i don’t like you anymore. but the truth is, these past five months with you have felt so short, and when it comes to you, every day i learn that time is no obstacle for us. this fear only makes me want to text you “hey! i think you’re an incredible, smart, beautiful person and i still like you!” but i know it would only make things worse. i hope one day i can buy you flowers. | Crushes |
So I've been friends with this guy for years and we we're really close when we we're younger and we used to hang out literally every day, but we stopped hanging out for some reason. But just a few months ago I started texting him and then caught feelings for him, he asked me if I wanted to hang out but I said no (idk why). Our other texts have been REALLY dry and most of them started by me texting him. Either he is very obsessed with me and is just too shy (which would've been odd because he's literally so confident) or he just really doesn't like me. What do I do?? | Crushes |
I asked him to hang out and he asked what time. After a bit he told me he didn’t think he could go as he was going out with his family that night. I am sad about it but I’m happy knowing that he was genuinely interested in going with me and he only said no because he had other plans. But I followed up and asked him if Sunday worked better :) I’ll keep you guys updated. | Crushes |
So I have been recently developing a relationship with a person long distance. To be honest I have no idea what we are. All I know is that I really like this person and I want to talk to her as much as I can. So I write her, and she responds and it is beautiful. Nonetheless, I noticed something that feels a little unsettling. When I talk to her about my challenges, my struggle and difficult thoughts, she always frames the situation as a request for help on my behalf. But I am not asking for help. It is a way to show that I trust her, and a way to suggest that she can do the same. But she rarely opens up, and I am not happy with the way she is relating to me in those instances. It feels a power dynamic in which she seams to be always in control. I am fine with the fact that she might not want to open up, but the question is: what does this dynamic means? What does it tell about her? And what shall I do? | Crushes |
I have a friend who's a girl and we met like 6 years ago. I chased her around basically being a simp. Eventually, I hated my reality of where I lived more than the fear of change and I moved. I went to school and now I make much more money than I did and im much happier in the place I am now. Well, I always liked this girl and she never really liked who I was. Anyways, she got into a relationship and to my understanding it was toxic as hell and its basically over. I got over her but we still text every once in a while. Recently, I replied to her story on snapchat and we started talking. I work nights so I was trying to cut the conversation short. Well, she kept it going and we talked for a few hours. She was asking me about how I'm doing and everything. The next few days she was sending me funny tiktoks about my profession and some of them were like sexual. Then we played cod online and we were in a party and she was asking me a bunch of questions. How I am, what's my schedule like, do I live with anyone, so on. Then we were talking about something and she mentioned her ex, I didn't say anything but she brought it up again. I was thinking of someone else but she mentioned it's her last boyfriend she was talking about. Anyways, she said she was happy for me and I told her I was coming home soon and she said she would love to see me. The last time I was home I saw her sister and her sister asked me if I was single, her sisters married to my friend by the way. So, I doubt she all of a sudden likes me but I just wanna make sure I'm right. | Crushes |
Okay, maybe I'm not in love. I don't know every intricate detail about her. But I have spent enough time with her to know that I care ever so deeply for her. I love spending time with her and talking to her. I feel an excitement every time I get a text from her. Every time I see her at work I'm instantly a lot happier. She's just a wonderful person to be around. I love listening to her speak and tell her stories. We may have some disagreements and have different tastes but at the end of the day I want to spend more time with her.
She'll never feel the same, though. She's made it clear she doesn't feel the same way, and that she doesn't want a relationship. But it's okay. It wants meant to be and that's okay. I'm happy I can at least remain as her friend. I'd rather stay close with her than lose her. | Crushes |
I keep missing the opportunity to confess to my crush because there's always other people around and it's never just us, but people have said it seems like he likes me and I want to confess. Last time I asked him to meet me, he brought a friend. Do you think it'd be weird if I messaged him and asked him to meet me alone tonight? I don't want to sound creepy I just want to finally be able to confess. What do you guys think I should say? And can I have some good luck wishes, please? I'm so nervous I can't even think of how to put this message together. | Crushes |
So in ove of my previous posts I told that she kinda gave me her number. So I looked her number up on a caller identification application and new year seems to be a good enough reason to contact her but on the app the number was registered on her father's name and it's kinda ok as a lot of people including me at this age use the numbers the same way but I'm kinda terrified to call her. | Crushes |
Also what does it mean if he playfully hits you? A really light punch on your face.... | Crushes |
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A really good friend confessed to me a few months back, and in a panic and attempt to keep things the same as before I rejected them. We both agreed to stay friends and we still keep close contact today.
However, I think I've caught feelings for them but I don't know if it's appropriate to confess to them after having rejected them. Like, it doesn't feel right but bottling things up also feels awful. In the past few months after their confession they've also started constantly complementing me, like calling me pretty and beautiful (I am their MPS). They claim it's because I deserve it but it still seems very fishy to me. Any chance of success in my case? | Crushes |
I made a post yesterday asking you guys how to befriend my crush. We have never spoken until today. I don’t know what luck struck me but I am extremely excited. It is 5am and we have been on call since midnight! Of course we weren’t alone until around 3am, but that’s still 2 whole hours. This isn’t just a step in the right direction, it’s a whole leap! | Crushes |
I genuinely don’t know. | Crushes |
My crush rejected me and it's my fault. When we first met, he flirted with me and for some reason I told him to stop. Later I developed feelings for him. I wasn't ready to be in a relationship so when I confessed I also rejected him. Now I'm having second thoughts. I guess I wanna be in a relationship with him. When I confessed, he didn't say anything about how he felt. So I asked him how he feels and he said something similar to "I'm sorry I don't feel the same way." I said "When we first met, if I didn't say you to stop, would things be different?" He said "I can't say for sure."
What am I going to do? Please anybody say something. I'm sad. | Crushes |
We had a 14 day streak on Snapchat and we only sent face pics. Ik that I was one of the only people she sent face pics to. I was kinda busy so I didn't open her snaps for a couple days so she stopped sending face pics and started sending ceiling pics instead. She only sometimes sends face pics now. Did I make her mad not opening the snaps? | Crushes |
So he is in 7 of my classes and he always comes over to sit next to me and start conversation and he asks a lot of questions he asked me if I wanted to hang out with him a few times and he helps me with school work. He will never talk about crushes or dating anyone so maybe he’s just not interested in a relationship. | Crushes |
So I’ve had a crush on one of my classmates for about 5 months now and we hang out at school a lot (we’re on holidays now) but a few days ago I found out that some girls who was supposed to be my friend told him about my feelings toward him. I’m worried that it will be awkward when we get back to school in 5 days. Will he not talk to me. I also don’t have any contacts with him so I can’t text him because he only has Snapchat and I am not allowed to get it. What should I do if it’s awkward at school? | Crushes |
After said party, and some wing-manning, I started talking to him! He's super cool and into a lot of the stuff im into. Im planning on meeting him at some social event going on next week. Might ask him out after that o.o | Crushes |
this is… unfortunate. i’m finally getting over my last crush only to start crushing on my best friend.
she’s lesbian, and in an open relationship, which actually makes it worse for me bc i’m getting my hopes up abt it and i know i’m not her type. but we’ve sort of been flirting (which doesn’t really mean much, she flirts with every girl she interacts with) and i’m probably seeing signs that aren’t there.
sigh…… i gotta do something about this. i can’t keep falling for everybody who is a good friend to me. | Crushes |
i have had a crush for about 3 years now i met her in my freshman years and we are going to our senior year this year we instantly had a spark we talk all the time but later into the year she got a boyfriend and she has showed no interest in my even though that’s the case for some reason i can’t get over her i can honestly say she’s the girl of my dreams and don’t want anyone but her but lately she’s been hitting trying to tell me to get a girlfriend i just need some advice to get over
(a little summary we met freshman year we sat next to each other before i knew it we facetimed in the morning in the afternoon after school and fell asleep on the phone i thought she felt the same after 3 months past i find out she has a boyfriend i was so devastated i don’t know how to explain how much it hurt finding out she had a boyfriend ever since then we didn’t facetime as much but we’re still good friends every time i try to make an advance she plays it off like a joke that’s how it’s been) i just want some advice of what i should do i really like this girl i don’t want to just ghost her i want some advice to get her out my mind and lose these feelings i have have her | Crushes |
If you Would become suicidal if you got rejected then you're obsessed but if you would respect it and move on you care and love them.
If you could you imagine being laughed at by your crush for asking them out you're likely obsessed with a nihilistic and negative view of the world. But if you couldn't imagine it you probably care deeply about them. When we love someone we find it hard to imagine them being horrible to us.
If you would you watch a movie you didn't like very much with this person just because they were there you care about their company more than anything. If you would think of that as a waste of time you likely don't care about them very much and just want to use them.
Does the thought of making them happy purely for the sake of their happiness matter to you? If so you have discovered what loving someone is. If not you likely just want to get laid and have a boyfriend/girlfriend
Would you buy them expensive gifts to win them over or keep them interested? If so you're probably obsessed and have low self worth. Someone who is in love doesn't need to give gifts constantly to keep a partner like a subscription service. If you would give thoughtful gifts you probably care about them more. | Crushes |
i’m happy for you guys who are talking to your guys crush’s but i want to know how you guys are doing every time i want to i don’t bc i get scared to talk to him🕴🏻 i think it’s bc ik he doesn’t like me back. :( | Crushes |
I miss you so much i wonder why don't you ever talk to me give cold stares become cold towards me and give attitude at times. I see you smiling and talking to others but never once to me, always cold eyes and no smiles. But you do stare at me we do make eye contact. You're the only reason these days i like to go there to see you only. I just wish we could talk :(( you got sick last day during our practice and even though i didn't care or looked like i didn't but i am really worried about you. Certainly i got a head injury last day as well and I'm extremely sick, i didn't get to go there, hope you're okay today i really miss you i hope you do too
The hope is what keeps me going
:( | Crushes |
She’s had a ton of work for a long time and hasn’t had a break and she said she wanted to take a nap with me all day to relax and my heart just melts every time I look at that text 🫠 | Crushes |
God... I feel so awkward now. I have had feeling for my flight instructor at school for 3 months now. We get along great and he gave me his number! We have great chemistry when we are together and it feels so right!
I have asked him numerous times about his weekend plans and we have even talked about family and such! Pretty personal conversations. He has never mentioned dating someone in all this time! I asked him out to dinner a month ago. He said he couldn't. I left the text conversation at that.
I tried asking him in person at school last week. He was already gone for the day. I did the next best thing and called. No answer... so I texted him asking for dinner on Friday. He said he was busy, so I asked again for Saturday and he texted "I don't know what's going on with you asking me to dinner"
I told him that I liked him a lot and wanted to get to know him better. (I didn't want to scare him off with a big confession, trust me , I wanted to gush!) He said he is dating someone and is flattered I like him though...
I am not sure what to do with this information. I feel weird... I see will be flying with him again on Saturday. I feel strange and rejected, but that I should also have hope? Idk... he didn't say he was in a relationship or had a gf. He also said he is flattered... I need some advice ! | Crushes |
She is my only BFF. Im not trying to break our friendship over a boy. But. I hate her demeanor towards my boy interests...the first time she started to be like this was in HS. My crush apparently bumped into her and smirked and she just could not WAIT to tell me 😒. I would never say things about her crush like that, even if he said "let me fuck that puzzy up", I would NEVER say it like that. Id simply tell her that hes a weirdo or seems like a fckboy or something. When I talked about a past crush one time, she just started talking about that "omg I remember in *blank* grade when he *blank blank blank* me" ?? Why do I have to know...then talked to her about the closest boy I been to and she just started going on about oh that he added her out of the random and is the #1 to see her stories as if teens today arent glued to their phones. And the last time she done this was when my crush came to out class, she said that he was looking at her a certain way. Like Jesus christ, I cant believe ppl constantly say things that sound off and do not notice. She is sweet, but u never know whats underneath I guess | Crushes |
So I've been best friends with this girl named Polina for almost 2 years now and we met online shes so talented and pretty even though she cant speak english very well and I'm scared she wont like me back because I dont know if she likes girls and I'm worried if she doesnt like me back then we wont be friends anymore. | Crushes |
2 days ago, my crush and I had a phone convo in which we were talking about some stuff and it turns out that my crush relayed that convo to her mom.
Tldr: Her mom made a funny comment regarding our topic and she told me about her mom's comment and I found it pretty funny tbh. I told my crush to tell her mom that I found her comment very funny and that it was good.
The following day after our first convo, my crush told me that she had told her mom about my reaction to her comments and we just kept laughing.
In short, is it a good sign that she's bringing me up in conversations with her parents? | Crushes |
Tomorrow we are going to go out together , and I have already confessed to her , she feels kind of the same.I really need to make a move , but dont know how. | Crushes |
I'm gonna get straight to the point. There's this girl I really like at work. It's an uphill battle because shes super quiet, I only work with her twice a week if I'm lucky, and I just generally think she doesn't like me. I think she can tell that I like her because I go out of my way to help her with super annoying tasks that I normally wouldn't help anyone else with. I'm kinda a scumbag but I'm super self aware of that and I'm generally super satire about it for whatever that's worth. I think its also worth mentioning that she does laugh at a lot of my jokes but its pretty hard to tell if she's laughing with me or at me. As I stated before she's super quiet and if she does like me then well how do I get her to make a move because that's never gonna happen. If she doesn't like me then how do I reverse course and change that? If I holds any weight most of my scumbaggery comes from me and my work bestie teasing each other and I'm rarely like that to anyone else. | Crushes |
I did the forbidden with my friend AAAAH- ok ok let me just calm down and try to explain...
Ok so I have a friend (we are both girls but she is MTF, that's all I'm saying so I won't give to much info) and we've been friends since sophomore yr 3 years ago and we've gotten closer being out of high school. She was dating my other best friend but recently they broken up and yeah that's bad for both of them and I was there for them after the break up
A few days ago I was holding her hand as we went to her place to chill (sometimes we hold hands for comfort nothing more) and we just vibes the night and having for you know the usual... we went to the park with blankets to lie down and idk how we got into this conversation but she asked if we can cuddle, without realizing I was smiling and I told her to take the lead since I've never cuddled. Keep in note that she specified that the cuddle was platonic...
We went back, took a shower and were heading to bed and she rolled to the side away from me and asked, "I have a serious question... do you like me?" HOLY FRICK I NEVER THOUGHT SHE WAS GONNA ASK THAT EVER !! And when she asked I remembered that I did had a small thing for her before in high school... and I realized I still might when I felt jealous when I watched her and her bf. So I said yes.... just a little.
I asked the same and she gave me the same response. We were laughing and stuff Because we never thought either of us felt that way and we never intended to tell the other about this ever... and we cuddled all night and she kissed my hand omg ☺️😍 this felt like such a success and we felt like it was right and like it was supposed to happen. It was amazing even with that.
But now Idk what to do. I say I've done the fordden because i gave myself a rule to never date my friends. I felt like I've change the dynamic of our friendship and what if we don't want to be together and how do we get back to normal if that does happen. Above everything else, if it doesn't pan out that way I still want to be her friend. Frick. | Crushes |
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This anxiety about her anymore i cant just like her without beating myself up inside i still believe she likes me too despite this something in my gut | Crushes |
I have had a crush on a married coworker for close to a year now. I swear sometimes I wonder if I’m mentally disabled, not intellectually but emotionally or socially. | Crushes |
We were talking about stuff that happened at work and had a good laugh out of most then there's this part where I told him "we were stunned because her son is handsome as heck but he got a very demanding mom so I'll pass.." then this guy went "I feel challenged now" then he change the topic. I like him ALOT but I don't want to hope too much since it's just a mere crush. Also I couldn't stop thinking when he told me he's crushing on someone but nobody knows about it but me (though I don't know who). I don't know how to feel... We're not that close but we're close enough to know about each other. So complicated | Crushes |
its gonna be over call, and im not gonna make it a big deal. my feelings for him are disappearing so it truly isnt a big deal. anyways i’ll tell y’all what happens in an edit or comment if you commented
edit: I RESPONDED TO EVERY COMMENT YIPPEE but ok so i was in a call with him for like over an hour. im a bit of a scaredy-cat when it comes to this stuff. he did reject me but he did it in the way that was the best possible. he said he wanted nothing to change, and that we can always hang out and that he just doesn’t want me sad. ofc i just said that its ok and that i was expecting a no, and i reassured him that this wasn’t going to make me sad or mad at him, that i also didn’t want things to change. so that’s it! oh and yes, he did say he sees me more as a sibling so yeah i was also sibling zoned :’) | Crushes |
I don’t understand. Im in Maine for a week, shes also on vacation for a week. She told me she would not have her phone for the whole week. I was okay. (Matter of fact I was thinking of confessing to her before I went, but chickened out)
Do you know when you can tell someone is lying? Well she was pretending to be her sister. Asking me if I had a crush on her. I did not give her a exact answer. Instead The conversation went like:
Her: “Do you like her? Like like romantically?”
Me: “What do you mean? I thought she was straight.”
Her: “Yeah.”
(I myself am a girl btw)
So idk if shes trying to reject me before I even ask. Or if this is her way of trying to confess. But Im still kind of shattered. I don’t know when I should confess, or even if I should. We have a amazing friendship, talking everyday, and overall making each other the happiest.
But I feel hopeless and hopeful at the same time.
Why did ‘her sister’ ask me in Maine though? Because its hard to hide feelings when Im with family, it hurts. I have had a crush for 5 months. Do I ask? | Crushes |
It's really weird i mean is that even possible? | Crushes |
So I(14M) have recently developed a crush on my friends(15M) girlfriend(15F). I developed this crush after I properly started to talk to her and got to know her really well.
I really like her and I think she’s pretty, has a great sense of humour, a great music taste, and a great personality in general and I wish that I could be with her but I can’t.
Recently my feelings for her have gotten quite strong and I have started to feel jealous of my friend and his relationship.
(Advice would be much appreciated thanks) | Crushes |
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Girl I know has been crushing on me hard recently. She blushes around me and all of her friends have told me she likes me. Not sure how to feel about it she’s really cute and a cool person but we don’t really talk to each other a lot. How should I go about this? | Crushes |
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Sorry I forgot to give you an update earlier.
But nah, turns out we were all wrong. She wasn’t flirting with me, she doesn’t even have feelings for me. She just sees me as a very good friend. Though multiple times she said that’s “as of now”, which kinda gets my hopes up even though I try to keep them down.
Of course that hurt quite bad, so we met to ease up the mood. Got a hug from her for the first time, was amazing. A few seconds of pure comfort. Then we sat at a café for hours just talking. We had so fun we didn’t want to leave, but eventually they closed so we had to. She also loved the gift, she really wasn’t expecting it at all. She thought it was very funny.
So yeah, now I’m kinda struggling cause I want to lose feelings for her but I don’t want to lose her as a friend. Pretty difficult | Crushes |
Heyyy! I need some help y’all. I’ve literally been struggling what to do. So I’ve liked this dude for a couple of months now. We’ve texted here and there and gotten to know each other a bit. Summer comes around and I was like we gotta hang out during the summer. The thing is that I’ve been on a school club trip with him in Oregon and we’ve cuddled on the bed and I had my head in his shoulder. Some wholesome shit lmao, but nothing happened besides that. That’s when I started liking him. Back to summer, he invited me to a party and so I told my girls and they were down to come with me. We get there and he opens the door and gives me a full on hug while my girls get like a side hug. Mind you I didn’t know he had a gf when we were texting. After saying hi, there was a girl with him haha yep he introduced us to his gf. It was tucking shocking to say the least. That night I was drunk and I did cry. I also threw it back on someone while the guy u like held my hands and helped me throw it back on someone like wtf with his gf there. He also called me pretty and would put his arm around me and his gf, but then again he was drunk asf. That night was a mess. Anyways him and his gf are long distance, and we’ve been hanging out over the summer. We took night walks and ran through sprinklers. We hiked and swam together. We’ve watched movies together. Some hang outs were with other friends but not that night walk tho lol. I’ve watched him perform with his band and recorded for his gf who asked me to. During our hang outs he would tap my shoulder, pat my head ALL the time, and some point tap my thigh and liked player a bit when I had shorts on. We danced with each other too. I’m so fucking confused bcuz I was eventually getting over him but he’s so fucking confusing. I’m tired of it. I told my friends and they all said he liked me or was interested in me before but I feel he’s just dense and is just being friendly. What do I do? I want to rip off the band aid and tell him my feelings but he’s such a good friend and his gf is really nice. But like wtf is going on. Would y’all be mad as his gf that he’s hanging out with a girl and ping this shit? Usually the touching happens a lot more when he’s drunk. Also his gf knows we hang out and shit but not like the touching and shit. | Crushes |
So I had a crush on this girl we started talking on Instagram we talked a bit but I realised she wasn’t really interested so I stopped msging her and replying to her stories etc and with difficulty forgot about her , after like a month or 2 she started replying to my stories and sometimes msging me asking me stuff so I started to talking to her time to time again and was crushing hard on her again but after talking time to time for like 2 3 months she all of a sudden posted a story with a boy(not any family member) having lunch and from where I live this means there are probably dating or starting to date. So at this point should I just block her and move on? Please help | Crushes |
So I've (29M) been having a crush on her (27F) for many years, but for one reason or another the time was never right (relationships with other people both sides, living in different cities, doubts, etc). We have known each other all of our lives and she has shown some signals of being interested in me thru time. Now, i'm single after a long term relationship and i want to go for it. At least let her know how i feel about her. But i'm not sure if she came back with an old ex cause of some social media interactions between them. We're going for a drink this week (i invited her) and i was planning to tell her. But now the doubts are appearing again. Would you do it? Any advice?
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So my crush (F18) and I (M18) are in the same uni course with only 15 people which means that everyone is close with everyone. The other day, a few of us had a day out and each put posts up on Instagram. Out of the five of us that posted, she only liked my post. Usually this is a stupid thing to get stuck up on, but given I am pretty sure there have been other hints that she likes me, I was hoping I could get an opinion as to whether this means anything.
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Crush likes my Instagram post but not my friends, even though we are all close. Could this mean anything? | Crushes |
It’s not a mean laugh but I’m commonly told I’m weird so I’m used to getting laughs even when I’m not joking.
He sort of treats me like a child if that makes sense (in a good way, not derogatory). Like you know how sometimes adults find kids funny but the kid has no idea why they’re laughing…? He kinda laughs like that.
Is this a good sign? I don’t purposely act like a child or anything I actually try to stay serious when I’m at work (I’m crushing on a coworker). | Crushes |
I haven't had a real crush in over a year and life is so boring. It's mostly due to not getting out much, but I don't really have anywhere to go. I work from home and most of my coworkers are double my age. I do go to the gym, but I don't want to bother anyone there.
The last chance I had to have some sort of relationship with someone was in Spring 2020, but I blew it big time.
I wanna end this post with saying, if you like someone, please just tell them. It will save you a lot of time and you will regret it if you don't. I wish you all the best of luck with your crushes. | Crushes |
So, ive had a crush on my friend's brother's friend for a while and i only see him when im at my friends house, my friend lets call her kimi told me he gets alot of female attention because of his looks and he sometimes posts about how he would never be a simp on his story(btw he doesnt know i have his socials) basically we barely have interactions but when we do it feels like he acts nonchalnt, cold and rude, but i always catch him staring at me and once kimi's brother said something along the lines of "ey does anybody have (my crush's name) 's number? My phone is dead, do YOU have? (me)" then he gave me a weird smirk and teased me about it but i honestly have no idea why he did that especially considering id be too shy to ask for his number in the first place and knowing he gets a bunch of girls i dont want to just be one more added to his collection. So reddit, what do you think? | Crushes |
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I'll start explaining straight away as there is quite alot of backstory to cover. TLDR can be found at the bottom.
I've been classmates with this girl for 2 years now, we shared 2 classes which we're "cooking" and "art". Unfortunately we are both moving to new schools and our time as classmates ended 2 weeks ago. So I decided to add her on Instagram which she accepted and she returned the favour instantly. We talked for a bit about casual stuff and that went decently well (not bad, not amazing or as wished but fine.). So about a week ago I was coincidentally close to her workplace so I texted her whether she wanted to smoke with me in her break and she agreed, and we had fun. She asked for me to come smoke 2 hours later but I had left her city at this point. So I decided to ask her whether she was open to hang out and she jokingly refused, then she got rude towards me and decided to offend me.
I however question whether I should take it seriously as we always had a jokingly vibe between us and the core rule we followed is not to take eachother too seriously, we're both quite impulsive.
Now I know she does like me as a person as she voluntarily came to me to smoke yesterday at an event we both attended without any prompting.
She's going on vacation Saturday, should I keep in contact with her and ask her to hang out again after her return? Or do I let her take the lead?
Any other suggestions are also welcome.
TLDR: Classmates for 2 years, recently changed schools, added on Instagram, decent casual texting, smoked with her once outside of school, asked to hang out, jokingly refused, still talks with me and voluntarily smoked with me. (Please read the whole story if you plan on commenting.) | Crushes |
Hello, me(F) have a crush on this one guy for more than 2 years.
Heres a timeline
1st year of middle school:
He has a crush on me from the day we met but i dont rlly notice him
2nd year of middle school
i had to move to another country for a year so we didnt see eachother
3rd year of middle school
i come back. he admits his feelings for me for the first time.
i knew he liked me from other people (classmates, friends...) but that was the first time he said it himself
he sent me a letter, and for the first time i realize that i like him more than a friend.
and i say yes (yes to hang out with him and yes i like him).
we are doing great.
best months of my life
everyone ships us and thinks we are cute.
us texting eachother hearts, hugging..
from that i gain a lot more friends and the past "relationship" with him still affects my social life positively to this day.
until, we end up falling apart.
he stops liking me so i got over it for a few months
end of 3rd year of middle school (covid starts)
i did get over him, but then i start liking him again.
start of 4th year of middle school
covid gets wild and our class gets separated into class A and class B
i was A and he was B we couldnt see eachother
i missed him a lot untill my social life got a lot better so i forgot about it tho i did try to ignore him everytime he walked past.
end of 4th year and summer
i make friends with the girl he plays guitar with.
he gets me close to him and we all play minecraft with eachother.
sometime me and him played just us when she couldnt play
those were also great times
i still liked him.
5th year of middle school
first few days we dont talk untill we eventually start talking and become friends again.
we werw greeeaaat friends.
lots of eye contacts, compliments.
real signs of him liking me
i had hope
i was really happy
untill
my friend (the one he plays guitar with) starts liking him (knowing i like him).
they are a thing for about idk.. 2 weeks.
i was reeaally jelaous
but happy it got over.
while they werw a thing i lied that i stoped liking him (which wasnt true)
we continiue being friends.
hes my boy best friend. :(
now. (end of 5th year/summer)
i STILL like him what do i do | Crushes |
So I have been working at my job for about 1 year and have been in my current team for about 6 months. My boss and I connected instantly! He is not only attractive, but funny, compassionate, organised, happy go lucky. Anyways, I have this huge crush on him, but the only thing is that he's married and has 2 kids... I know it's weird but I can't help but think about him and I.
Also, there is a crazy chemistry and sexual tension between us. He tells me often how he feels lucky to have me on his team and how we should go out for a bear once in a while.
While my work is mostly online, I have seen him once in person at a work function and the bound was crazy. We were giving eachother little side glances and we giggled the whole night together.
Anyways, I don't know if I'm crazy for thinking about these things since he's married and has two kids, but omg, I can't help dreaming about him. | Crushes |
Why do you like your crush? Do you love them, or is it just a little crush? And how close are you to them? | Crushes |
I don’t know what to do. She’s such an incredible person, I feel like I’m in love with her. I want to tell her, but she’s going through enough in her life that I feel like if I told her, it would just add extra weight to her problems. I explained other stuff in my last post, like her preference in men and such and such. However, I just need a simple tip, just some advice.
Should I tell her how I feel? | Crushes |
he is literally tall, slim but lean n he has abs (he took his shirt off when we were hanging out) n he has rlly perfect fluffy black hair n a rlly cute smile he has kind eyes n he is tanned and his hair is just perfect.
he has good style n he is smart but not obnoxious, and he’s funny and has a cute laugh, and he’s rlly nice n quiet but not an awkward quiet.
and the best bit is he likes me back n asked me out even though i had to say no because my best friend has liked him forever | Crushes |
Theres this guy i've been friends with for almost a year. And recently i found out he has a crush on me (3 different people told me) And honestly im attracted to his personality but not his looks. And i dont really know if i would date him (i didnt mention this but we're both in highschool) everyone hates him for like no reason . And my friends especially do not like him. Should i just blow him off? | Crushes |
I've been messaging my crush and she responds with short replies. Does this mean anything? | Crushes |
For the past 1 week I am crushing on a girl. I haven't even met her or seen her irl. I just know about her as I have several mutual friends and I've seen some of her pics on instagram ( tagged ones. I don't even follow her lmao) and some dance videos. Idk why I'm having crush like feeling for her ( Not any lust or anything of that sort) and wanting to know her / talk to her! Has anyone else ever experienced something of this sort???? What did you do / how did it end up??? Pls tell I'm comments. | Crushes |
i’ve had a crush on this shy guy for around four years now, and in all those four years we’ve only ever exchanged words in person a couple of times. however, i managed to get their contact info pretty early on, and we became good friends online. however in person, we almost completely ignore the existence of the other save for constant back and forth eye contact between us.
when lockdown happened i kind of stopped texting him as much as we both became preoccupied with other stuff, but when school opened again we started texting each other every single day, and not just one or two short messages. sometimes he texted first, sometimes i did. when we both were back home from school we would almost always immediately text each other. we also always played games at night on the weekends for hours on end, and it became a routine for us both.
as for in person, he would stare at me. A LOT. sometimes he would have this little smirk/smile on his face while staring at me, and he would be staring directly into my eyes while we were just a few feet away from each other. other times he would be with his group of friends, but i’d see him looking at me through their little huddle. and more times than i can count (basically every single day tbh), he would look at me while we were both waiting outside our classes for the door to be opened. he would literally sometimes push through the crowd of people waiting so he could see me. anyway, all that staring really made me believe he liked me back.
but then the school year ended and i found out he was going to a different school next year. i decided to just yolo it and try to get a bit closer with him, so i started two calls w him (which went well, we were playing a game together and it was funny), and i started trying to send some hints to him but i think i was too subtle because he didn’t acknowledge it. but even after school ended, we still texted every day and played games every day, but that just means we’re good friends, right? besides the constant staring at school i cant find any other hints that might say he has a crush on me. i’m hoping that us going to different schools will make my feelings go away, because i’m pretty sure he doesn’t like me back. but i dunno, is he just way too shy or does he have no interest?
thought i might also bring this up, theres been a few times when hes accidentally said something flirty and then he got pretty flustered and immediately tried to cover it up. probably me overthinking tho
alright, as for the people who will tell me to just confess and see what happens instead of making things so complicated, i’m just worried about losing a good friend. if he doesn’t reciprocate my feelings, i don’t think our friendship could ever go back to normal. that’s my worst fear, really, of losing him as friend. that’s why i don’t want to freak him out too much and scare him away.
TLDR; i have a crush on a shy guy, we text and play games online every day but don’t talk or hang out irl, he would stare at me very often at school, sometimes going out of his way to do so, but i cant tell if hes just being a good friend or if he likes me. do i crush my feelings or keep hoping? | Crushes |
So I knew she likes reading and I’m also really into reading. Then a few days back we talked about that she’s half Greek and really likes Greek mythology. I’m also really interested in Greek mythology and we talked about that for a good 10 min in class. So today we were at a school event and we talked sometimes when we had nothing to do. Then out of the blue she asks me if I saw the doctor strange movie and how I thought of the movie. After that we talked about anything Marvel related. So I found out that my crush and I have many shared interest. | Crushes |
I ask my friend but she told me just to go for it since they only talked and did not get back yet. But, I’m afraid that I will get rejected. | Crushes |
he looks happier with her than he is with me. i've lost all hope. am i that boring? am i annoying?
if i keep seeing them together (my enemy and my crush), i might just have to move on.
explanation:
so, me and my crush were just hanging out, when all of a sudden, my enemy came (shes my enemy for me but she doesnt know that i call her my enemy)? i noticed and looked at them. (shes a very big pick me honestly and is pretty obvious she likes him). she shipped us cause i was wearing his jacket and she asked if we were together. he said no, so i said: "no, never in a million years!" and then she kept asking and asking. i kept telling him: "can we go? i don't really want to be with her" and he kept saying no. after a while, we left but she followed us. we ran, she followed us. then he left, i don't know where, and she left with his sister to the park. i went to return his jacket, so i went to the park. no sign of him. i went back to our usual place, no sign of him. so i just went home and said i would give him it another time as i don't want to see her again. then he called me and asked me where i was, i said i was at home. he asked me about his sister, and i told him in the park. he left me on hold, and then hung up.
then you know what happened? i found out he was the one who invited her when he knew i did not like her at all since me and another friend (we are a trio) had a fight with her. mostly had a fight with my friend. i just sat there and watched cause i was too scared to say anything. i was FUMING. i don't mind him hanging out with her but please not when im hanging out with you. please. all i want is to stay with you.
and now i feel like i want to cry cause i feel like he likes her, not me. (you can read my other posts to see how he feels about me). he is looking for a girlfriend but i don't have the guts to tell him.
i want to cry so badly right now and i want to let it all out. but i cant, i don't know why. i love him so much but i know he doesnt. he loves her. he doesnt love me. he never would. never. never. never. never. | Crushes |
Hey so I just came back from this music festival and I am full of regret.
Basically, on day 3 of the festival (out of 4) I came across some guys from my high school (we graduated 4 years ago). I hadn’t seen them in ages but we all got along super well so I decided to stick with them for the rest of the night. Through the night I started to take a liking for this one guy in particular, he had always been handsome but really quiet but now suddenly he was all talkative and funny and I really liked this new side to him. We talked quite a lot and towards the end of the night I told him I was not planning on staying for the last night of the festival and he told me I should, he convinced me to stay saying him and his friends were staying and it would be fun if I hanged out with them. I don’t know I felt like he took a liking for me too.
So, in the end I stayed for the last time. The issue was I had had time to think about it. When I saw him the 3rd night I was chill because it wasn’t planned and everything felt very natural. However, by the 4th night I had had time to overthink everything in my head and create expectations. When I saw him I was all nervous, and he was speaking to a friend so I went and said hi to all his other friends, then he came to me and said something kind of weird which made me think he was nervous as well.
For the beginning of the night we barely spoke to each other. I feel like we both wanted to but neither of us had the balls to approach the other one. Then we started talking and it was nice. BUT. He was staying at one of his friend’s houses. While we were talking he mentioned how he didn’t feel like going to this guys house again and how he would much rather stay with me and my brother at the campsite. AND I DIDN’T GET IT. I thought he meant the apartment was far and it was a pain to get there while the camping was right outside so it was easier and I continued the conversation towards that direction. NOW I REALIZE HE MEANT THAT HE WOULD RATHER STAY WITH ME. I should’ve said something like for sure you can stay with us or something but no I didn’t get it at the time. Anyways he ended up leaving with his friends without saying good bye to me and one of his friends said that he didn’t say goodbye to anyone and seemed a bit off when he left. Now I am full of regret. That I could’ve spent the night with him. That even though he is really shy he reached out and I didn’t catch it. That I don’t know if I will see him again. We have friends in common from high school but I don’t see him often. I really think we were super compatible and would have been great together and that is why I keep going on about it in my head like I lost a really good guy because I was nervous and stupid.
I genuinely can’t get over it and it breaks my heart. | Crushes |
So I have this classmate that was basically well known by everyone that likes me and we talk occasionally and became good friends. They have given me gifts on valentines day and on the first year I did like them (kind of) but now on the 2nd year I dont anymore.
So I decided to tell them that I dont feel the same way and they took it fairly okay. They’re still talking to me and isn’t ignoring me which is okay since we used to talk fairly a lot prior to me rejecting them.
But I have seen/felt kind of them liking me still and trying to pull something.. I dont know if its just me but I can still feel like they like me.
Their birthday is coming up and Ill definitely wish them a good birthday but I don’t know if I should give them a gift because I have don’t want them to overthink especially after I rejected them a couple of months ago..
But they’ve given me valentine gifts before which I didint reciprocate which I also feel guilty for. I kept on receiving their gifts😭😭
But me being guilty holds nothing, If im going to make them overthink and think they have a chance (not that I hate them or anything, I sincerely dont think I like them that way and I think they deserve better than chasing after my dumb ass) | Crushes |
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