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We hugged multiple times during the closing night performance then at the after party we hugged backstage (we were alone) for like a solid 15 seconds (it felt wayyy longer than that but realistically that’s probably what it was) and we whispered mid hug about how glad we were that we met each other & we hung out for the rest of the night, and he seemed super enchanted when I gave him a little sentimental gift. but also a he’s started talking and actively hanging out with his ex again. So, maybe you can see my confusion.
Quick note, it doesn’t bother me that he’s talking to his ex again, if he’s happy then I’m happy for him, I’m just confused about where that leaves me? Like are we just friends? I just want someone else’s opinion on the matter. | Crushes |
Okay, this is hopeless, I'm throwing in the towel. We have 8 sitting days left in the school year and I haven't made any progress in months, and with 8 days left, I doubt that a miracle can happen, so it's pointless.
Hopefully, over the summer, I can clear my mind and this will be behind me for my senior year. I'll take the L and move on to the next.
K, if there's any chance that you're reading this; you're great, I still like you. this is not your fault, it's about me being a dumbass and waiting too long, you deserve the world.
At the end of the storm, there's a golden sky.
Cya R/Crushes | Crushes |
I’ve (transmasc) been best friends with my friend (F) for 4-5 years or more and since the day we met I’ve had a crush on her. It’s been years and we have made it clear we will only be just friends yet my feelings for her won’t go away. we were playing a game over her girlfriends house and I got water on my shirt and the shoulder was soaked, so she gave me one of hers to wear. now she let me keep it so “ now i have something of hers” (her own words). I wish I could date her because I really like her but I don’t want to get tipsy one night with her and end up crossing the line between friends and more then friends, possibly ruining our friendship and her relationship. | Crushes |
I didn’t have any classes with him, but sometime in April he would come up to me and talk to me with a smile on his face, We sorta knew each other our friends are friends. It caught me off guard because we had like barley ever talked before. He did this hm 2 times in the span of 2 days. The first time I was at the vending machines with my bestfriend and I dropped a coin under the vending machine. He was walking by and of course greeted me with a smile and got on the floor and tried to get it. The next day me and my best friend were leaving a classroom and he walked passed us waved at me with a smile and said “Hi (insert my name here)!” Not addressing my best friend though. This was odd to me but I went with it! About two months later (June) we were sitting on a bench talking a bit back and forth and a boy who I think was in his band asked him if he could scoot over ( it would’ve made him way closer to me ) he looked down at his phone and said gotta go! My parents are here! Which they were in the parking lot. I was a bit discouraged. And then flash forward to our school camp trip the bus ride back to the school. I get on the bus after him and I’m to his left. Not on the same seat but in the same row where if I look to my right side I could talk to him. He smiled at me and said two per seat with a smirk. I didn’t move, I wish I had. Anyways we talked and laughed and he mainted eye contact and smiled the entire time. but the boys were starting to get annoying so he’d put his head inside his bag. Then later on a boy next to him said a comment that I didn’t like so I slapped him and then boy who I slapped, slapped me twice back and we started fighting, my crush slapped him back and smiled and me. From then on the boys got even more annoying to the point where he flipped someone off and put his head into his bag. I said give me your number and I’ll text you when it’s over and he said I’ll pass and put his head back in the bag. I felt awkward. But we still talked and laughed and smiled later on. I think he might just be interested in me as a friend… | Crushes |
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We’ve both known we liked each other since around October but haven’t dated due to school and my own mental health reasons but now that school is about to end and I have gotten better since then I feel like Im ready to ask her and am planning to at our class picnic for our grade but I just want to know if it would be a good idea to before I go through with this plan or if I should do anything different or wait longer | Crushes |
Context: I am 15 and in grade 9 (Canada). She's in grade 10. I've liked her for a while but the only times I see her is in the hallways and on my bus at the end of the day. Tbh she intimidates me, and I always get nervous when she's around me, even if she's just walking by in a big crowd. How do I even begin to talk to her? She's a year older than me and has no idea who I am. I don't want her to think I'm some creep by just talking to her out of no where. Also, one of my friends is in grade 10 that sort of knows her, if that's of any help. I haven't asked him to help because it seems weird setting up your grade 9 friend with a girl a year older (however he does know I have a crush on her). I don't know what to do. | Crushes |
I have suspicions that a high school girl (I'm 16) likes me because of some signs that I'm going to list:
1) a friend of hers grabs my notebook:
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i was talking to a friend, moments before i left my notebook on my desk, then i moved to where my friend was and we started talking about irrelevant things, after a while i look to where she was with a friend and i see them with my notebook, i didn't give much importance to that because sometimes i lend my homework to her friend, but in this case she didn't ask me and i knew that they (her friend) had already handed in the homework, also we were in another class (too late to hand in that homework), I'm sure they were looking for my cell phone number (which I have written down in that notebook) and I'm sure she didn't want my number for anything school related (I don't do group work with her nor am I friends with her, but with her friend I do).
2)the way I act when I am around her.
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on one occasion she was behind me in the classroom in class and I noticed that she was very anxious, like she was afraid, and this sure wasn't because of me (I am a very calm and kind person). | Crushes |
there was a moment or i should say my entire second semester where i had a crush on one of my friends. there was a bunch of things that happened that made it less ideal, like me having a crush my first semester on another girl, but it was through my first crush that i realized i enjoyed spending time with her better. another major thing that happen is the fact that one of my first friend who im close with actually had a crush on her. ofc i didnt tell him i also had a crush on her because i felt it was unfair for him and he should have the ability to like someone without worrying about other people. there was a month period where i sorta stayed away but once second semester started, i sorta went into helping him win her over? giving him advices and such. ofc it sucked for me, but idk. i knew he had a crush on her a long time ago and i did many things that allowed him to get closer with her. my friend eventually gave up, but i still felt like i shouldnt chase her cause it's obvious. i sorta just continue to talk and chill with her. im confused about her feelings and her intentions. sometimes i think she is hinting at me and sometimes she is mad at me. it's been a month since first year ended and i havent texted her nor did she. i think it's pretty clear that both of us are just sorta moving on, at least i am. maybe i shouldve asked her out, maybe i shouldnt. im not a very confident person myself and i do suffer from severe self-esteem issues, so for now, ill just move on and forget about her. if we continued to be friends next year, i hope we can get even closer, but who knows... this is just smt on my mind and i just thought i should vent it out and let people know instead of holding it in my chest. | Crushes |
I might delete this post in the next week or so. It’s the last week of school and I want to tell my crush I like her but I don’t know how. Any advice? Ps: I think she kind of likes me sense she’s always asking me questions and getting closer to me. | Crushes |
I thought that there was a really good chance he was into me. Either that or we were just best friends. I didn’t know but I had hope.
Some stuff happened over the weekend and he hasn’t reached out once. Kinda made me do a lot of thinking and I realize that he kinda uses me. I drive him everywhere, let him use my vape, pay for things. I realized that he’s just around me because of how I benefit him and not because of our friendship, let alone the chance of him liking me. | Crushes |
how do you ask someone their orientation and if they're currently seeing someone without being invasive? I wanna know before I try to get closer and ask her out. | Crushes |
\-crush has matching pfp on discord (not with me)
\-is a couple pfp with characters in love
\-presumably with someone else, but also not necessarily as idk the slightest bit of where or who other person is
\-pfp is hard to find, meaning that they or (other person if they exist) must have looked deep to find it
\-or could have found it on some random place, which is admittedly much less likely
\-every search (or almost every search) for this image turns up couple pfp
What could this mean?? sort of hoping it was probably for a joke, like them and a close friend trolling people pretending to be e-daters, or even just a friendly relationship between (just happening to use a couple pfp). Maybe even just using it for the picture, and not considering the other half. | Crushes |
And I got rejected which is pretty much what I expected.
I mean I might be crying my eyes out right now but actually I'm taking this better than I thought I would | Crushes |
We were FaceTiming with a couple mutual friends, and we were just sort of chatting for a while. Eventually, the subject changed to crushes. Uh oh.
Then my crush asked me what I thought of FriendsName + FriendsName. I said something like “eh, I guess I can see it.” Then she said “go tell him, like the alpha male you are.”
And tbh i don’t care if this means nothing, I’ve been shy all my life until maybe a year ago. So it felt really good, especially coming from her. :)) | Crushes |
Just as the title says. My DMs are open for anyone who needs advice, has questions or just want someone to hear them out. Whatever is said will of course, stay private. I'm not a gossip | Crushes |
if you want lol i’m bored and i can’t stop thinking | Crushes |
I've recently fallen for one of my friends, me and him play MC all the time together, and we chat a lot, he teases me, I tease him, you know, the whole "great friends" thing.
He is perfectly supportive of my gender identity, he tries as hard as he can to use my pronouns, he already uses my name, it's just amazing.
This is my first genuine crush, not just the usual "I would date them if I had to", I actually think about him a lot, I love being around him, I JUST WANT TO HUG HIM DAMMIT.
It's just everywhere for me, I've never felt like this before, and it's crazy, it's the last week of term 2, I don't know if I can handle asking if I could visit him, and I don't have a phone, so I won't be able to keep in touch unless I can bring myself to ask .\_. help- | Crushes |
I saw someone doing this and I want to do the same :) | Crushes |
so I’ve been crushing on this guy for a few months now. He’s tall and plays lacrosse and has black hair. He’s super nice and genuine and he’s super smart too.
I haven’t actually “liked” someone in a very long time , since like elementary school. So feeling this way about a guy is obviously a sign im really into him. We met in one a half- year course this year and became good friends.
He doesn’t know this but he’s like my only friend. I’ve struggled with severe depression and haven’t been able to keep steady relationships. He’s #1 on my snap best friends list, im #3 on his.
Im like in love with him. He’s always in my dreams and we share a lot in common. He likes to read, study and wants to go to an ivy school (he def has grades for it too)
He’s called me pretty a lot of times, but it’s mixed signals. He will leave me on delivered a lot. And there are obviously two other people in front of me on his bff list. I think he may still be stuck on a ex girlfriend. So I don’t want to tell him I like him. Im not sure he knows I like him. And if he even thinks it, he doesn’t know how crazy I am about him. I just hate myself too much right now to want to pursue it , but god, I wish I could just tell him. But like I said, he’s my only friend - and I try not to make that evident. We don’t even FaceTime, we FaceTime once and I loved it. That was two weeks ago.
I don’t know what to do but im in love with him | Crushes |
Lmao | Crushes |
Being a 30 year old guy, I'm a little embarrassed and feeling a little awkward being on here with how the majority of posts I read on here are boys and girls in their mid to late teens, but here I am regardless, head over heels for someone. With the amount of social awkwardness I experience around her though, I might as well be back in my days as a 15 year old.
What started out a couple of months ago as an innocent venture to be someone's friend have turned into something else, on the day I went to her café and asked her what pastries available were made by her, and she said none of them - I mentioned how I'll just pretend that whatever it is I bought was indeed made by her.
"Yup, made with love." Her Duchenne smile coupled with those words were so striking, but rather than hitting and affecting me like a lightning bolt then and there, it was like a sneaky creature that made its way to my brain until all I could think about was that moment throughout the day and the next. I knew then and still believe to this day that that was just an innocent phrase. You know the ones customer service folks say when being friendly. Yet it hit me regardless.
It began from there. I picked up origami because of a flower tattoo that she has. I started scribbling hearts on her drink whenever she orders from my store with a casual mention of how it was made with love. I "joke" about how whenever she and her coworker comes to order drinks that I am only capable of making drinks with love for her alone and not her coworker. When I heard she had a rough couple of days, I drew a little heart on her hand which later on became "our thing" to do when we see each other. I gave her my number in hopes that I could talk to her outside of those small interactions at each other's workplaces, but her busy schedule means scarce messages.
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After a while, I finally found the courage to ask the question - if she's free, would she like to hangout with me outside of work. She answered with a maybe, mentioning how her schedule was erratic, that she's on call to work at a moment's notice. I waited a couple more days and asked for her to tell me if ever she would have free time, she said yes to which we made a pinky swear. But now with her having even more responsibilities at her job, I fear that that promise would just be forgotten.
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Now in this thickening haze of admiration, I'm at a loss on what to do and thinking more on who I actually am to her. Does she like me too, or am I just some guy she does cute stuff with cause it's fun? | Crushes |
So as you know school ended. (well at least for me.)
But, there's a guy i didn't like at the beginning of the school. It all started when he bodyshamed another guy. Some of the girls heard about it and their opinions on him changed.
However, over 2 to 1 1/2 months we got put across from each other. I usually arrive early to class and once he was early too. So with nothing to do, he talked to me. Idk why but i felt sparks within me. And his face was pretty hot ngl. Then my birthday came, but the thing is he already knew my birthday. But we ended up having a snow day on the 4th and the 5th cause it snowed! (My birthday was funNNNN!)(his birthday is the month before mine on the 18th, he was out sick and i was out cause my friend got covid and to not spread any germs i had from her.) So at the end of the month a video played and we talked throughout it!
But the thing is, the guy next to him. He was annoying af. They hated each other. He only lasted a week and a half. (He asked the teacher to move seats.)
Then new seating. We got placed together (yet again!) but he got a very very very bad haircut.
I felt like a hair makes a person for the first time-
And he thinks of me as a really dumb person. (but i'm actually smarter than him-)
Then we got a new student, so he offered to move! I felt sad honestly + when we were writing, he was talking to the teacher about his story and i heard my name?!
He moved near my friend (the one who got covid) and i kinda started shipping them ngl. Though it hurt me, i noticed that he was interacting with her more than he ever did w/ me. On her birthday me and my other friend were spying on her cause she cried cause someone said sm to her, and i made a heart shape (with my hands) and inside were him and my friend. He noticed and started blushing, idk what it looked like from his pov or if he thought sm different. + Once he was coming near me and he hit the top of my head with his notebook.
New seating once again! He was placed with 2 other girls. I got a good view of him. But i felt like he liked one of the other 2 girls. I saw how they would touch eachother and do some gestures. Ig i felt jealous. But i started gaining another crush at the same time. My crush on him was not as big as it was.
My other friend actually liked the new crush before so i had to ask permission and she said yes cause she'll always like another boy who she simps for (i could reddit about their love story- cause i always third wheel )
But this time i put a effort to know his personality. He was a funny guy, and from my friend- it seemed like we have a lot in common. We sm would stare at each other (we had PE together)..
But then, the other guy aka "him" bounced back to me. All my friends new i wasn't over him even if i said I was. And I soon realized i wasn't. I could not get over him. For the first time i think i felt real love. But, he wouldn't be there for the next 3 years.
I think i should add this one in just in case: During science we were doing dna sorta stuff so we had to take pictures for physical and he was near me with my friend (the covid one) and he said i looked weird w/o my mask...... but it was sometime in march.
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Then second to last day of school, we kinda had a mini date. (from my pov) we got to go to strikez (or whatever) and i was with my friend (the covid one) almost all day except for bowling. When we had to go to the bus again him and his friend teased me cause they found out i stole a crabby patty (dont put me in jail! thanks \~) from the little gift shop. Then on the bus me and my 2 other friends got moved to the back to fill up a space and it was right next to him! He started giving his candy out to us (and his other friend whos also my friend but hes gay af so...) i got a lot....
and on the last day of school, his friend (a different one who's also mine b/c we both are dirty minded-) said "\*name\* l-" then he said "shut up!!! no i don't" like a little baby. It was so cute lmao! On the last day of school it felt like he liked me. My friend (the one who i had to ask permission yaydadyayadablahbalh) was planning on making me confess cause it wouldn't matter if he said no, cause i wouldn't see him for the next 3 years. But, i never did confess. I kinda regret it now, but hopefully the future plays out! My friends say i'll forget about him and move on.. but i doubt, cause i think he was my real first love. Even on vacation i can't forget abt him. I also dream about the future with him..
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Also, in google chat in the earlier beginning of January some ppl in my class made a chat and hes in it!
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I have more to the story if anybody wants to know more about this.
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also, should i make a reddit about my friend (the permission one) and her crushes love story from elementary till now?
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my friend (the covid one) and her obvious crush on her crush, but her crush is clueless and oblivious even when i've said it to his face (i'm friends with him)
also sorry for my grammer! | Crushes |
Idk. She isn't giving me any signs she doesn't like me. I mean today wasn't the best considering we didn't talk much. Yesterday was really good, and so was the day before. I understand if she was just a little bit more busy today than usual, and we just started talking so I can expect her to put everything aside to talk to me. I was pretty busy too tbh. Anyway away from the negatives, I found out she lives extremely close to me, and goes to a park that's literally 30 seconds away from my house pretty often. So now I'm really considering going there everyday just to get a chance to see her there.
The Spanish stuff is going good too. I can definitely say I know more than I did before I started trying to learn it. Which is obviously a good thing. I would also like to point out the fact she is still on my mind. Every day. 24/7. I legit can't even think about anything else, especially any other girl. I even slower down on talking to my friends. She is literally so perfect, and I kinda hate it. If things don't go well, then I don't think I could ever get over her. Like that's just not how it works. I wouldn't be able to look at anyone else without thinking that she's better. She really is though. | Crushes |
I was about to write what is going on with me and my crush, but I decided against it. Its too much info, and in the end the person that can take the best decision is me :)
Im going to believe and trust myself more. I dont really care if it ends up working or not with this girl, its more wanting to see what im able to do. Doesnt matter if I end up dating her or confessing to her. Making her happy or talking to her, while destroying my shyness and putting my self esteem in a better spot, is already a huge deal for me.
I would obviously rather if I found out she likes me back, and maybe start a relationship. But I just want to improve myself overall, and one day I might "click" with someone ;)
I wish you all good luck. I probably wont be able to make anything happen with this girl, but with every crush I've had I've evolved, first one was just purely awkward, second one was just a bit of texting here and there *didnt talk to her IRL AT ALL XD*, and this one, talking to her irl and texting is ez now, and I even went to watch a concert *she was part of the orchestra, it was classical music, maybe I'll invite her to a concert, to actually be with her and not watch her and be with her like 5 min at the end :/ *
Looking back at stuff I am ashamed of reminds me of how much I improved, how less shy I am currently, and overall just how I keep improving myself.
Sorry for the long text :), but for everyone once more, good luck, and trust yourself! :) | Crushes |
Recently, I realized that one of my friends likes me. We ended up talking for the last two weeks of college and we both really enjoyed hanging out together. Unfortunately, we live in two different cities and live about 5 hours away from each other and we haven't really dealt with being long distance well. There has been a lack of communication between us as soon as we got home for summer and now, I'm really confused because we were doing so well while we were together. After this time away I still really like her but now I'm even more confused because I think that I have some feelings for one of my best friends who has a boyfriend. Does anyone have any advice on the situation and what these feelings for my friend might mean? | Crushes |
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we've been dating for a month and i just want to gush please | Crushes |
I need a nice outfit that I know would get his attention but of course is work appropriate | Crushes |
already, i'm guessing she doesn't, but i'm just wondering what all of yall think
so here's some things she does:
\-whenever i walk up to her and say something even as simple as a "hello," she always sort of sparks up and immediately starts talking to me
\-she smiles a lot when we talk to each other
\-she asks me for help on her math homework, like every time we get a new assignment
\-always vents to me about schoolwork and stuff
\-she's pretty open to me, tells me about completely random stuff
\-sometimes she messages me out of the blue, just for completely random reasons
those are the ones that come to mind, there might be more, idk
i can elaborate more if you need | Crushes |
My crush and I went to the pool yesterday and hung out and we talked for a while afterwards is this a good thing | Crushes |
Can be good or bad experiences ~ | Crushes |
hey guys
so I’ve had this hair stylist for 1 year and I’ve always felt something for him i don’t know to explain .
we saw each other this week for my hair appointment and he said he liked my outfit before we went to the salon, he cares about me a lot, always asks if i want something to eat when i feel dizzy or something.
we spoke a lot when my appointment was done, we also talked about drugs bc he’s into that and he was messing with me saying stuff like “so can you get me this stuff?” and laughing when i was about to leave
he’s pretty far and i barely get my hair done bc i like giving it a break, we don’t see each other for months like 3 or 5 even more
i can’t explain but i have a huge crush on him, i can’t tell if the feeling is mutual, maybe he’s just being nice or friendly?? i feel like I’m so stupid for falling for this
i have his number but i only text him to talk about my hair nothing else cause i feel like it would be weird but we are more close now… help??? | Crushes |
Been crushing on this girl in my fraternity and we've been talking on snap over the summer. things started out dry but now we have really engaging conversations. Im usually always the one who initiates and she usually doesn't respond for hours at a time ( I assume its cause she's been busy with stuff) but when she does she always puts alot of thought and effort into her responses which is a good sign I guess (at least two sentences). We've been mainly talking about anime and summer plans so far and alot of our conversations have been really engaging . For example I told her a long time ago that I hadn't seen demon slayer and then recently when I asked her what shows to watch when I was in quarantine cause of covid she told me to watch that. And when I told her I finished she said she was so happy and glad that I finally saw it. We also talked alot about are summer plans and she told me about her internship and trips so far and asked me how everything was going at my job and stuff. I feel like I have a decent chance with her, but the only problem is im honestly not sure if she even knows if I've been crushing on her at all or even likes me back. Everyone in our pledge class is really close so I feel like she might just think I'm just being extra friendly with her. Im pretty sure everyone in our frat knows I like her and the ones I've told say they can see us being together, even her friends, but I'm not too sure. I've definitely thrown signs and stuff to her (i sit next to her alot, ill always ask her if she's going to a party or club and if she says she can't ill say something like I wish you were here), but part of me feels like she just thinks I'm a friend.
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(calling him C for convenience)
so, we haven't talked in a good month or so, at most just saying hi in the halls. today at lunch, he got in line right behind me, so we started talking. I get distracted w another friend, and C pulls out this pen, or something, and holds it up to my face and says "this is you," it said 'ultra fine'. 😭😭 he's done shit like this before, when we were talking more. thing is, im pretty sure he has a girlfriend. they may have broken up but idk??? he's super friendly and has absolutely no problem saying i love you, and stuff like that. i should probably talk to some of my other friends that are close with him so i can ask, but id still like yalls opinion. please help me 😰 | Crushes |
I've had a crush on a girl that goes to my school for roughly 3 years now. It's clear to me that she's very shy and quiet as I hardly ever see her speak, and when she does, it's very quiet. We have had a few classes together in past years, but with both of us being shy and reserved, we never spoke to each other. I'm in my third year of high school now and I no longer have any classes with her, but we both do track, and I've seen her around because of that.
Anyways, since I'm heading towards the end of my high school career, I decided that I would put a little bit more effort into talking to her and maybe get something to happen. About a week or two ago, I tried starting a conversation and sent her a message on Snapchat, asking about whether I should do track or tennis in the spring (we had both done some tennis and it was my first year running track). She responded fairly quickly, and with a long, detailed response. I continued the conversation, asking another question about her experiences and opinions on spring track. She responded with another long, detailed response, but this time, it took her much longer to respond, taking around 24 hours. I continue asking more questions about her to try and keep the conversation going. And she continues to take around 24 hours to respond to each message, but always gives good, detailed responses that are never dry. However, she never seems to ask me any questions in our messages.
At some point in between these messages, we had a track meet which we both were running in. After we had both run, I saw an opportunity to talk to her and asked her how she had run. This was my first time speaking to her in person, and she was really quiet. We had good eye contact and a decent conversation, talking about how we did in our races. She referred to something that I had told her in our messages, and also asked me a question or two before I gave her a fist bump and went back to my seat.
All of this is giving me mixed signs and I'm not sure what to take from everything. She takes a long amount of time to respond to my messages, but gives me really nice replies which reflect a good amount of effort. She has yet to ask me any questions about myself over texts, but has asked me questions in conversations in person. I would appreciate any ideas or possible explanations of all this. Am I doing good? Am I asking too many questions? Is she interested? Is she not?
I'm also thinking about asking for her phone number to see if she simply doesn't use Snap often and if she'll respond faster through texts. So I would also appreciate any suggestions on how to ask for her number!
Sorry this is so long btw, I didn't expect to have this much to talk about lol. | Crushes |
I've never talked to him, but I've looked at him a lot. I avoid him mostly, but decide to write letters to him and give stuffed animal. I only wrote 1 letter at first from a surrogate, then a letter, and then another letter telling him that if he doesn't like me, at least telling me he doesn't is good, and he should to give me closure since it feels bad and maybe it's understood. Friend overheard him sharing the letter to some girl or whatever. He said I was weird without saying I was weird and told whoever he was talking to where I usually hang out during my break and said that he wanted to lie that he had a gf or just doesn't say anything more. It seems he's toying with me, and does not appreciate what I do....... I want to say something mean to him maybe. I dunno. I feel bleh because I'm shy and I don't usually have such fascinations with people often. It's draining, and I wish people would appreciate other people's efforts at least. I have the nerve to go up to random people, but I just feel too vulnerable. What should I do... I already know I seem weird, but I wish another weird person would just get the queue already. | Crushes |
for context, i liked this guy for 2 years and for the past few weeks he was giving off mixed signals that he liked me. i felt that need to finally let go and tell him face to face what my feelings were for him. it was literally engulfing me and i was holding back on telling him for about a week or so.
i'm still in school and at the end of the day, i was planning on telling him how i felt since we shared the last class together. i'm pretty sure he knew that i liked him but when i was trying to tell him that i had to tell him something at the end of the day, he straight up ignored me. a bunch of excuses were made on why he couldn't talk to me even when i made it clear that it would only take a few minutes at most. once the bell rang, he just bolted out the door and started running while shoving my friend out of the way.
i just hate the fact on how he wasn't even willing to talk to me and just acted so immature about the whole situation overall. i'm planning on moving on because chasing a guy who treats me like this just isn't worth it. | Crushes |
I need to talk about him omg | Crushes |
Okay so, I'm STRUGGLINGGG to make a move bc I get so nervous and I can't find the right time to make a move AT ALLLL. I want to be subtle but direct at the same time but idk how 😓 I sit next to him in 5th period but only when the teacher forces assigned seats but other than that ion sit next to him in any other period. Sometimes he sits next to me and my friend in 4th but lately I haven't been sitting near him as much and I SUCKK at holding convos. We do have sum funny moments tho but IM DESPERATE TO MAKE A MOVE!!! I js dk how and I would appreciate help 😓 | Crushes |
Thank you so much, but unfortunately he rejected me. I'm still bawling my eyes out here, but thank you for the support. | Crushes |
is it ok that i havw a crush on my friends ex. i cant stop myself from really liking her, but she also got with her boy bsf a month after breaking up with my friend and i dont know if its bad that i have a crush on her or not. | Crushes |
I’m in 12th grade and there’s this girl in most of my classes, the only time I’ve talked to her was when she said he had a room swap for our class and that was it, so I haven’t really talked to her before but for some reason I really like her, my friend told me that she’s slightly autistic like me, and she seems shy and awkward like me.
I think it would be weird for me to ask her out out of nowhere since we haven’t really talked, how do i befriend her when I have crippling social anxiety, how do I approach her and what would I say? She doesn’t have ig or snap.
(In short how do I befriend her/ eventually ask her out) | Crushes |
Okay, so. There’s this girl I sometimes see when I’m heading to class (my schedule goes 4th->lunch->5th) and I think I’m her hallway crush?… Either that or I’m just having mind games played on me.
She’s walked behind me leaving lunch with her friend for a while now, but our first actual interaction was a little strange. I was just walking, holding a Diet Coke, and then I felt someone touch my hand, I turned around and she had basically reached to grab it, and then turned back away and apologized. Then asked if she could have a sip of my Diet Coke (Which is why me and my friends call her coke girl). That’s it…
Then, the other day.
Again, she’d been following behind me on our way to class. I’m like 99% sure she told her friend she liked my outfit, and then she walked up, and held my hand, for actual for realizes. I had no idea how to react, so I just said “alright then…” and then we walked a little more until we went our separate ways to class.
I legitimately have no idea who this girl is, what her name is, we don’t have any classes together. Am I just over analyzing this or something? 😭 | Crushes |
My crushes this year have only lasted 1-3 months , I know this one will too, but he’s already In my fantasies so might as well enjoy it while it lasts🙃 | Crushes |
reposted but with poll since no one said anything.
today my crush didn’t even sit behind me. Later one of my aquitqnces came to my crush and her friend and chatted with them. My aquitance has a bunch of ids and yesterday i gave him my old 2021-2022 id.
So today my crushes friend and my crush was just looking at all the ids and my crushes friend saw mines and i think she asked him if that id was me but i don’t remember. Then my aquitance said “That’s his id from last year Hw is right there You guys should talk to him” then my crushes friend replied with “yeahh no” or it was just a simple “no” but i think she said something before the no but i forgot that too lmfao. Later my crush wanted to look at some of them and she decided to take some. She didn’t take all the ids tho. Hopefully she didn’t see mines cuz it’s embarrassing lol but she most likely did. I feel like my crushes friend and my crush might not like me but if they didn’t then why does my crushes friend and my crush sit near me
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there is this girl at my school that i have mixed feelings about. i had my eye on her for a while because of how she looked, but could never get the chance to know her.
this year we were finally in the same class, and recently put in the same group for a project along with two other girls we both already knew. at first, i mutually got along with her since i was good friends with one of the girls, and was the first time we actually interacted with each other. throughout the course of working on the project, i got to know more about her and we definitely had a good time. it turns out she likes some other guy that does not go to our school, which was kinda disappointing, but it was already enough for me that we got along and made each other laugh.
yesterday, she gave me and the other two girls a picture of her senior portrait, and i was not sure what to do with it. i tried reassuring her by saying that it would not leave my backpack, but then she said that i would not be able to see it so she insisted i put it on the back of my phone case. i do not know if she talks to any other guys in her other classes, but i know one of her friends also has the portrait on their phone case.
once the project was completed, we no longer sit/interact with each other as we normally sit on opposite sides of the classroom. now i have a picture of a girl on the back of my phone who i am probably not going to talk to again.
i thought i was lucky, finding out we were in the same group, but now that i think about it, it could have been any other guy taking my spot and given the photo. i thought that our short period of finally knowing each other would make us closer, but knew deep in the back of my mind, it would not last very long. if anything, isn't it weird for her to just give a portrait of herself to a guy she never met before?
now i am wondering if i should i remove the photo, or keep it (not to be weird, i promise im not) as a reminder to stay humble.
(she also added me to her close friends on IG, but idk if i am on it anymore) | Crushes |
I have a crush on a junior, im going to graduate this June tho. Okay clearly its just lust type of crush, if anything other than nasties or fun dates happen thats okay but im not going to push anything. All Im going to do is give him a little sticky note saying "hey I find/think u/ur cute, heres my snap if u ever want to talk" something like that in the last day (mine is earlier than his) of school because its not pressuring, matter of fact ill even add that im a senior in the sticky note so he feels even less pressure to say no if he doesnt want to since I wont see him like ever again. Its the most simple and nonawkward way to hit someone up tbh, Im tired of asking people who think im ugly if I should or shouldnt because theyre obv going to say no and I need to put myself out there so even if he never hits me up Id still accomplish something Ive never done in HS at least | Crushes |
There’s this girl in my class that I’m having a crush right now. I’ll call her Heather (not her real name). Me (M) and Heather (F) used (?) to be very close friends a year ago but we stopped talking to each other. Nothing happened, we just moved on. I discovered that I have a crush on her and I don’t know how to start talking to her again without it being weird. It’s just really confusing, I guess we’re more like classmates than friends. Our relationship right now is probably good enough for me to strike a conversation with her but she’s always surrounded by her friends and I almost can’t ever talk to her in private.
I really want to ask her out because I haven’t had a crush in years and I lost a lot of opportunities. I don’t want to lose this one too. | Crushes |
First thing, I try to act with my crush as I would do with anyone, because I'm afraid he has a gf, so I don't want to be too daring. But I don't know how to take the following things:
This evening we met at a uni event and we've been there together. And when it finished, as I was saying goodbye to him, he, all of a sudden, offered himself to walk me home, since he had spare time. But we walked around the city and talked for 1 whole hour, and then he walked me home (and was almost late for his train). In the meantime, he said something like: oh there's so many couples in the street (he pointed it out). When he left, he suddenly gave me a hug, which I didn't even expect. So if he turns out to have a girlfriend (which I have no idea, there are only assumptions of mine), why would he do that? I'm very confused about all of this, not gonna lie. | Crushes |
it's a long ass story but basically idk if a relationship would work given our circumstance's but I love her more than anything what do you think?
(PS if you want to know more feel free to dm me.) | Crushes |
So me 15M when on a fild trip awhile ago to Washington DC and I meet a girl on the trip that was in the same class. We talked alot and gave me her phone number only after know her a week, fast forward till awhile later into the school year she sends me a message on snapchat and deleted it right after it turned out her find took her phone and said something but I couldn't read it and 2 people she knows keep saying we are dating/she has a crush on me and she keeps getting semmingly nervous everytime I find one of her social media's. Dose she have a crush on me or is she just being friendly | Crushes |
we met here on reddit, he messaged me first and we instantly said we find each other cute. we started talking on instagram and we've been talking pretty much every day for almost 2 months now. he's always happy to talk to me, recently started complimenting me more and acts flustered when i do the same lol. he's insanely beautiful to me and i'm well aware he's out of my league. i really want to confess and ask him if he would be open for some kind of long distance relationship, bc being "just friends" is kinda starting to hurt. im so lost😭 | Crushes |
How do I ask a girl I've never talked to out? Or is that weird and if so how do I approach her to get to know her. Thanks | Crushes |
I think I want to actually ask her out on a date. What would be cool/nice/cute ideas for a first date? I was thinking that she might like going to the mall together, and maybe we could grab a drink or meal if we're there. When I discussed this with a mutual friend, I was told that she would actually like that and I know her quite well if I thought so. So I think I'll go with that.
But do you guys have any other ideas? Just to compare and have a different perspective yknow | Crushes |
i have a very close friendship with someone and i get nice warm feeling when i’m with them.we’ve been friends for a while and i really like them as a friend,but i can not tell if it is a close friend ship or a crush.can you guys help me? | Crushes |
Only problem I’m in year 10 and she’s in year 8. Idk if I should even really try and talk to her or just ghost her. | Crushes |
I have a small crush on a guy at work. We work very different hours and rarely see each other. We worked with each other for about 2 hours today before he got of. I went over to say hi when I got to work and he was sitting with another coworker.
The other coworker said “oh sorry, I took your spot. I’ll leave in a minute» before I got to say anything my work crush said “it’s fine you can just sit on my lap” I was so taken aback by his comment I just laughed.
When the other coworker eventually left I went to talk to him. As soon as I approached him he said “finally! It’s just the two of us, now we can talk”.
I feel like I’m reading to much into it and that he’s just being his goofy usual self. But with me having a small crush on him I can’t let it go.
First time we met he told me he was single without me even asking. And the last time we worked with each other he asked about my dating life and if I’m seeing anyone.
It could just be him trying to make small talk and being funny but I don’t know.
What do y’all think? | Crushes |
i'm 17 (turning 18 in april) and i told her that my guy "friend" asked to hang out with me. firstly, she said she wouldn't let me even because i am too young and it looks indecent (implied) because i'm christian. she also said it doesn't look good for a girl to hang out with a guy alone.
the "compromise" she gave me was that she wants to come with us and supervise. (separate cars cuz he has his own) i offered an alternative "what if i just shared my location with you?" and she said the only way i'm getting to hang out with him is that if she comes with us and supervises. how do i get through to her??? (believe me i've tried but any advice??) | Crushes |
okay so me and my crush have this weird thing going on we always look at each other but no one makes the first move even though I know he tried to make it multiple times but folded like idek, today for example I took a long route alone in order for him to have a chance to talk to me in case my friends were the ones stopping him from doing so and when i went out he was there with his friends then he passed by me with a guy that I know always wants to help my crush, so he went to the buses route which he doesn’t take cuz he goes by car and that’s usually my route I go by bus. He stood with his friends and one by one they began to turn except him so it was obv that he was the one saying something while me and my friend passed by. Then when we passed by the gates his friends left him alone and one stood close by but not close enough and he stood there looking at me eyes focused and mouth opened while his whole body was turned to me, we kept I contact for a bit and I have this problem where I have a bitch resting face I could’ve at least smiled at him. It was obv he wanted to talk but I only realized that when I went back home. His friend came to his rescue when he didn’t talk and he had to take a longer route to go back to his original one while I entered the bus. So I requested him and even put myself as a pfp for him to know me but he still didn’t accept it’s been hours. What should I do? | Crushes |
There‘s someone who has a crush on me, but sometimes I‘m not a 100 % sure if that‘s (still) the case. He is very confident, open and so on, but around me he seems kinda shy?
What does this mean? | Crushes |
so there's this guy m interested in who i noticed stares at me. on multiple occasions i'd turn around randomly to find him staring at me and he quickly looks away when our eyes lock. it's been a few months like this. besides he dosen't start conversations even thoough he dosen't seem to have trouble interacting with people. i tried initiating a conversation with him a few times, but it'd always end so short and he'd give stiff replies.
do you think he might have a crush on me ? | Crushes |
I talked to my crush on Valentine's Day, it was a lame question like "didn't we have the same class last semester?" but he was responding and asking me questions as well while we were walking to the parking lots. He asked for my name before we parted ways and I thought it went well. That Thursday, he sat closer next to me than usual and initiated conversation with me before class and then asked for my number after class. We ended up texting all day but then when I gave him my Instagram, I saw some pictures on his account that were from 2015 and onward of him with drinks and stuff.
Turns out he's 11 years older than me. We're both freshmen in college, the only difference is I graduated from high school last year and he's done I don't know what since he graduated and now. He said he understands if I don't want to talk to him anymore, and I suggested staying friends and due to the age gap and how it would be better and safer for both of us. He agreed and said he'd see me in class next week, and I thought everything would be okay.
Flash-forward to this week, he avoided me all day. I didn't know what I expected, we only talked last week out of interest and not with intentions of being friends at all, but seeing him sit so far away from me and go out of his way to leave the class ten minutes before dismissed made me feel different kinds of hurt. Like he really wanted to avoid talking to me, interacting, anything. I liked him since last semester and I guess having this just crash and burn in front of me is making me regret ever going up to him in the first place. | Crushes |
hi there! first post on a throwaway account but i need you guys's help (be aware that this will be a long post)
alright, a few months ago during mid July, i confessed to my best friend of 4 years on text. i was planning to call him and confess but as it turns out, our busy schedules didn't permit it. (we are also online friends but we plan to meet next year once i graduate high school)
so his reply was something i didn't exactly expect lol. he was flattered, but said he was on the aromantic spectrum, specifically desinoromantic (google it idk how to summarize hsgsh but basically you can somewhat feel attraction)
then he followed up saying that he likes me too but since we have diff timezones at the moment since we live like 2 continents away, it wouldn't exactly work. (maybe this would be different if this was irl, but again, im not sure)
so im lowkey just confused lol, does he actually like me back? i know he reassured me saying that he didn't but a part of me can't help that he probably said it out of panic given he was panicking the whole time since it's his first time dealing with a love confession (same honestly) + the whole desinoromantic thing kinda confuses me hhh
im well aware i have to wait to meet him irl in a year to further try and take things to the next levels, but i've been second guessing what he means so yeah. sorry, i overthink alot.
tldr: confessed to bestie of 4 years, bro says he is desinoromantic (basically on the aro spectrum) but regardless says he reciprocates feelings but i feel like he said it out of panic or in fear of not hurting my feelings. help. 🫠 | Crushes |
There‘s this guy who seems to like me, but I don‘t think I like him. I have absolutelyno idea how to act around him | Crushes |
I have a massive crush on someone from my school and shes really beautiful and cute and nice and everything positive but I just know that I dont have any chance of getting with her. I know youre probably gonna say i have a chance and that I should be confident but I seriously have no chance with her. Ive always kept my crush to myself but now I need some advice and some help what to do. Ive tried getting over her many times but its just impossible. I have too big of a crush on her to just forget her or to just get over her. I think about her literally all of the time and when i walk past her i get extremely nervous. Im not like this around every woman, Im just like this around her. I always daydream and fantasize about getting with her and holding her hand but deep inside I know its never gonna happen. I need to get over her or just forget her. Everytime I see her I need to try my best to not keep looking at her because shes so pretty but Im not a creep so I have the ability to stop. I dont really wanna stop thinking about her but I have to because I have no chance with her. Please help me out. | Crushes |
my crush maaaaannnnnnn omg
i’m from california and he moved back to his hometown in portugal, so we’ve been facetiming (almost) every night, but because of our big ass time zone difference, one of us is awake at some ungodly hour
i’ve been staying up at like 4/5am and i’ve only fallen asleep on ft twice. the first time was two days ago and he texted me, “you must be sleeping,” and “you talk in your sleep 😼.” i asked how long i was asleep for and he said a few hours, but he stayed on the call with me and only hung up when his mom called. bro.
then last night, we were watching a movie and he was trying to get me to go to sleep because i was half awake at that point, and i did end up falling asleep, but i could still hear him talking and he said, “hellooooo? are you asleep? yessss lets go!!” but he was whispering and it was so wholesome
he mutes his microphone so he doesn’t wake me up, and this morning i woke up and i saw that our call was still connected and he said he stayed on the call with me for 4 hours. in fucking silence bro. and i forget to mute my mic so he just dealt with the sounds of me talking in my sleep
my cold little grinch heart is growing | Crushes |
Me and my crush have been becoming friendly every day we see each other. Though I wonder if I should be feeling that hot and shaky feeling when I see him like I've seen people describe. When I look at him it's kind of odd, he's not the type of person I would usually go for, though I want to be with him every second of the day. I am starting to wonder if I just love him as a person, wanting to grow closer to him just to be surrounded by someone I generally enjoy the pressence of, or if I am just crushing on him, looking for a relationship. Though I know that one day in the future, I would pursue him, even if it is nothing serious, such as asking him to prom if he doesn't have anyone to go with. Though for now, I'm hoping on seeing where everything takes me and going off of that. Wish me luck | Crushes |
Being in love has its upsides and downsides.
That feeling of butterflies in your stomach and the constant need to think about a person accompanied by a call for self expression in the form of lyrics and songs. Wanting to admit your feelings but fearing the risk of rejection. Daydreaming about conversations that will never happen and reflecting on the things you've said already. Trying to interpret their feelings based on body or vocal language. Gaining hope and losing it on the rollercoaster that is emotions.
But facing the dark side of love seems inevitable sometimes. When you lose hope. When you lose faith in your own feelings, not just theirs. When you overthink every detail, driving you to the edge of insanity. When you feel like giving into the doubt that's been biting into the back of your brain all along and when you finally stop loving because you were too scared to act on your feelings. You told yourself it was not worth the risk. That it was unlikely. That it would be embarrassing. Now you will never know for sure.
There will always be a tiny "what if" luring in your thoughts. A "what if" that keeps coming back when you look into that person's eyes. A "what if" that might just one day be answered if you manage to reignite the fire that was never really burning to begin with.
Stop asking yourself "what's the worst that can happen?" Stop dreaming about the best thing that can happen. Either do it or don't. But stop wasting your time on indecisiveness.
...Like I did. | Crushes |
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Using the word "sweet" to describe someone just hits my ear wrong. Positivity in general just makes me sort of uncomfortable (I told my friends that one day... without hesitation they told me to get therapy)
But she's used "sweet" twice now to describe me. I know it's dumb but it's nice hearing it in her voice. I am a grown adult. Why am I like this | Crushes |
So yeah, there's someone who's been showing signs of having a crush on me or liking me in that way, and I'm just not sure if I like her in that way, and I don't know how I'll respond if she asks
So idk, is it okay to say either of those in response, especially if it'll take a long time for me to make a decision after? Like it feels like it would be rude to say I need to think about it, then leave her waiting for weeks or months as I figure it out | Crushes |
my fucking anxiety and depression is getting worse
I cry everyday every single hour can't stop tears and hate going to college I hate that fucking place and this guy he's the only one who makes me smile laugh and I feel so comforted around him it's annoying atp
he literally talks to these people who are next to me just to talk to me
I mean he started talking to this another girl who I kinda hangout w now ever since I stopped being w the group and everyime he comes and talks to her and then talks to me
fuck I love him so much
today he literally took my chair and ran away and I was like stop that's mine lol
my friend was like do you not have morals lollll
the way she said was funny asf
he was like no I left it at home
when he took my chair they were like stop stealing others stuff fuck I miss how we used to steal others stuff
fuck I miss him sm atp
I was sitting on my chair when he came and stood behind me and literally spinned my chair
I was kinda mad but honestly it made me happy but I was annoyed bc I don't want any attention from him bc its hurts bc I like him and I hate how he tries to make it better for me I hate him
I was like man wtf wtf is wrong w u leave me alone
and then he comes and asks me if I draw his records he'll buy me momoms wtf
I was like no I need coffee he was like okay how much
30
just 30?
coffee for a week
fuckkkk missss how we first started texting
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saw them hold hands and all and felt likeshit
I love him sm jqoqk3mskw2kkfnrjw
I can't take this anymore | Crushes |
I’ve had a kind of like hallway crush on her for a while now and I want to approach her but I don’t really know how to without it being weird or awkward and I’m a bit shy at times. Im (M17) and I had a class with her (F17) when we were in 8th grade but I didn’t talk to her during that year and it’s senior year and I’ve been seeing her in the hallways and have developed a crush on her but I’m a bit shy to approach and start it and don’t know how to without it seeming weird. | Crushes |
So we had practicals today and me and my friend were late so by the time we arrived only 3 seats were left and both me and him reached out for the same seat so he said i can have this seat but i was hesitating (tbh my brain stopped functioning) and he assured me multiple times that I can have it so at the end i silently sat down and he took the last empty chair and sat behind me
After our practicals when our whole class gathered in the hallway to submit notebooks, i glanced at him and our eyes met while he was running his hands through his hair and i held myself back from clutching my heart (i know I'm overreacting) coz that was so hot | Crushes |
TW: Vaping/ Smoking
(If any of these trigger u I suggest to click off)
Alr, so where do I start? Well I got into a relationship with some dude but my friends started annoying him. I felt bad and would have to constantly chase them or pull them to stop them from annoying him. This was on a daily basis. I got so tired of it I asked my specific friend to stop annoying him which he did but I later realized that my bf at the time would just stop interacting with me entirely and I had to do more work to keep the relationship alive so I broke up with him. The day before I broke up with him I told my friends I was going to. They all said they never liked him in the first place and never approved. I thought maybe it was because I was breaking up with him they are telling me these things so I never really bothered with it. Then I had a new crush. He was super duper kind to me, I never had to work for attention he would just talk to me. Told my friends who I liked. They all said they approved and I was like ok. Asked him out. Now they don't approve. This is when I was confused. They then start telling me rumors about him which I know were lies. One of those happened to be that he vapes. Me and him have had this convo before and he straight up told me that it was just a rumor and the only reason it started is because his friends said he looked high. So I discarded this and told them I'll give him the benefit of the doubt. Instead of just leaving it along my friends searched for actual evidence and even went as far to ask someone they think is close with him (Newsflash: they aren't) they asked her and she's like yeah he vapes. And now are trying to convince me not to date him. This constant of trying to make me not date him is now actually starting to work and I'm feeling bad because I did actually have strong feelings for him and now my friends are ruining it. Is there anything I should do cause I still like the dude just not as much? | Crushes |
I’ve just been having second thoughts about having a girlfriend. It just doesn’t really feel right. I mean I’m only 14, I shouldn’t be focused on relationships. I feel like I should be biking around with my boys and having fun. Not that I’m not having fun with her, it’s just doesn’t feel right for some reason. She doesn’t communicate too well either, not that it’s her fault in any way.
I also just really don’t want my or her parents to think that we’re doing anything weird, because we’re not and I don’t want to. Im only 14, I want to keep this relationship very simple. More like a fun experience.
Any advice? How can I feel better about this? We’ve only been dating for about a week and I don’t want to just leave already. I’ve already shown interest. Im so stressed out. | Crushes |
I have always thought of monogamy as something "normal" or "natural" it just came up in my previous relationships. But it's possible to have a crush on two people? I keep in touch with both people through the internet. We have flirted with M for 3 months and with F we have been talking for 1 month (I prefer not to say the gender of both). M is going through a bad time, they recently received a diagnosis of bipolar disorder but I prefer not to delve into it because it is not up to me to talk about it. I also try to be as understanding and empathetic as possible with the little information I have on the subject. For me nothing changed in our relationship, that is not an impediment for me because a diagnosis does not define a person. I also understand the importance of being there for M and the importance of treating them.
As for F, I feel from them that they has quite a strong emotional maturity. That reassures me and I feel that it is what I need at this moment, I also have mental health problems that I prefer not to talk about. I feel that it is not my time to be taking care of someone as I feel that I should do for M
Despite this difference in both I feel that both could attract me but I don't know how to tell them I feel that it would be totally unfair to put myself in a position of having to "choose" because I would be lying to the other. | Crushes |
Buckle in lol, this is gonna be a long one
I (15M) met my best friend (16F) a few months ago and from the minute we started talking we kinda hit it off. At first we were just friends, then I started developing feelings for her. She at this time also started having feelings for me. After about a month of us just kinda talking and loosely flirting, I told her I had a pretty big crush on her and asked her out. She said yes, and I felt like I was on the top of the world for an hour. Then, after about an hour, I get home and see a message from her. She said she wasn't ready for it for a multitude of reasons, which sort of made sense to me at the time but as time went on made less sense. Anyways, we agree to keep on being just friends, and for about a month we kind of just move on like nothing happened. During this time though, my feelings for her continue growing, and closer to the end of this month I start realizing I'm in love with her and would quite honestly do anything for her, I care more about her than I do my own family or anyone else in my life. I tell her I still have feelings, and just ask her whats going on, because of some of the things she had said since were kinda confusing me and I was like well maybe there's still a chance. She tells me shes sorry and handled it horribly. She says that she's never had a crush on a guy for more than a month, and she just didn't want to subject me to going out with her then have it fall apart. She thought at first that this might be different, and she wanted us to happen, but I guess not. She said she's not sure if its just her not being mature enough, or her just not being really into men (neither of us are straight, I'm Bi and I'm not sure about her BC when she mentioned she wasn't straight I didn't press more because she said she wasn't completely comfortable with it), as selfish as it feels to say I hope it's just her not being mature enough. At least that way there could be a chance of something happening someday. I really want us to end up together so much, I've never loved anyone as much as I do her and it would honestly kill me not to at least have something happen at some point. I'm glad were still friends though, as much as I hate the thought of us not ending up together, I hate the thought of her not being in my life at all and honestly not sure I could live without her in it. I'm very codependent and its something that I wish wasn't a factor with me because in the past its caused me a lot more pain than I'd like to admit. Anyways, how do I contain my emotions for her? I want to be as affectionate to her as possible without over stepping boundaries as friends. I also really want to tell her I love her, but I'm not sure how to do it with proper discretion? Any advice would be appreciated at this point honestly. I've got so much love to give her and it's killing me not being able to. I know that this post would be better suited for r/relationshipadvice, but since I'm a minor I can't post there.
TLDR: I fell in love with a girl and she had a crush on me and shes my best friend now but I don't know how to deal with the feelings I've still got for her considering it didn't really work | Crushes |
Me, (16F) and my crush (17M) have been really close for the past few days, and I'm seriously thinking about confessing to him. Sometimes he asks me if I want to heart his pickup lines, we match icons on Discord and WhatsApp and sometimes he gives up a lot of things just to stay with me. Does he like me back? He's coming back in 5 and a half hours, so I need quick answers! | Crushes |
Are thir ways to talk about her interests without saying it abruptly? | Crushes |
It's pretty straightforward (pun ahaha) so I am BI and I have liked my straight friend for a bit now this is the first time something like this has happened so idk what to dooo. Amongst our friend group we joke around about me "being obsessed" with her but no one knows that I actually do like her :0. I have decided it is probably best to move on plz tell me howwww🙏 | Crushes |
do u think seggs bots in instagram are people who use third-party apps or websites so they can watch other user's ig story? | Crushes |
He’s supposed to be away for a couple of years but he’s not too sure himself. Could be longer, could be shorter, could be forever. We do have each other’s numbers if we wanna stay in touch but I’m afraid I’m at a point now where I might be coming off as annoying and almost obsessive so I don’t wanna text him unless he wants to which I doubt he does. I need help just dealing with this whole thing because he’s the only thing that’s been on my mind the last few months. | Crushes |
So I liked this girl that sit Infront of me, I talk with her and have a conversation, I'm just a quiet guy so normally I would ask her how's her day is, what do you like, what's up and bla bla bla (while keeping and eye contact)
But recently I started to notice that sometimes she pause for a short period of time while looking at me in the eye and then continue the conversation like she realise something (like she took a pause and look at me in the eye). I noticed this but didn't really ask her.
As usual she smile while talking to me or while she paused
As far as I remember my face is as normal as it is | Crushes |
We were assigned seats for an event at school and he was assigned beside me. We didnt talk but him being around me is enough for me. | Crushes |
I’m planning to ask my crush to hang out sometime, but I get nervous easily, so I’m asking them through a note, but how should I deliver the note? | Crushes |
I came to work on tuesday to my crush getting down on one knee and handing me this hand made paper box, with a rose in it. All the while my manager threw rose petals on us. He folded the box himself and arranged the rose leaves and rose for it to fit, and said he spent some time on it. He even wrote "open it" in English (not our native language but I'm fluent and he's learning) and in Korean (which I'm currently learning).
He said he wanted to give me a gift, but one that was handmade. And that if it dries well, I could keep it for a long time. So I said that was exactly the kind of gifts I would give someone I really liked (sadly in my language it's more often used in a friendly way), because that's definitely something I could give my crush. I love to handcraft gifts and it's one of my favorite ways to show people I care about them/love them. And he then responded that he adored/loved me.
That man does not know what he's doing to me.
Side note, I'm a coward and I left a postit note in his jacket pocket saying I have a crush on him. I don't work tomorrow so hopefully if he does find it (we received new jackets so he might not use it), he won't mention it. | Crushes |
idk why but my crush sometimes just look at me, like sometime i look at her, then we make the awkward eye contact, idk did she reacted or something bc i always just look away after that. or she is just like this, like she is always so talkative to boys and sometime even wanted to sit with them, so is it just me thinking too much or what :( | Crushes |
i got a crush on my classmate on form 2 but in form one she was in another class, and she got close relationships with him, like she will always stick to him no matter what, i asked him why and about their relationship and he will just keep admitting that he don’t love her, but each time i see them is just like they are dating, that feeling is really hard to get over :( | Crushes |
Ill be having a mental breakdown one second and then he'll be like "bitch stfu i got thru this shit so u with ur willpower and big heart (thats not cold) can do this" and then ill start giggling and shit
Bro brain stop it he literally has a gf ejjrkwgdjfhej | Crushes |
Alright I have a crush on my childhood friend who i've known for over 20 years. I(m21) and her (f21) have been friends since we were little and we basically grew up together. We used to play together a lot when we were kids and our parents are good friends with eachother. I've kinda had a on/off crush on her during my teens but never really made a move on her.
Now I feel like i've caught feelings again and would like some opinions on whether she likes me back or not. I started university last fall and during every break I usually travel home to see my parents. During those trips i would go see her at her parents place and just hang. We would usually just talk for hours and watch movies with her mom on the tv. She's really easy to talk to and will smile and laugh at my dumb jokes and stories. I would usually stay at her place late into the night talking about random shit and watching movies but never really spent the night there.
When we were watching movies we would sit really close together shoulder to shoulder and share a blanket. One time when I was sitting a bit further away she kinda motioned to me to sit closer to her so i obliged and we snuggled underneath a blanked on the sofa. One time I mustered up the courage to hold her hand underneath the blanket, she didn't really react to it negatively but didn't really try to hold my hand either so im kinda confused.
On winter break our families were together on a cruiseship and spent christmas together with her. We would walk together around the ship and hang out with her and her younger siblings. But when we were watching some kind of performance or were eating together she would sit right next to me.
One time when I was at her house when little sister and her boyfriend called her. They saw me sitting in the background and started teasing her over if we had started dating yet. She kinda panicked and got flustered, she told them to be quiet and to stop while she was kinda nervously laughing.She then stood up while walking away to stop me from hearing anything else they were saying. Later that day I teased her about it by saying that i didnt know we were dating but she didnt really respond to it with anything.
Now that winter break is over she and I have been texting a lot over snapchat have been talking almost daily on there. Shes kinda slow to answer or read my messages but when she responds she types an entire paragraph of text. Im usually the one to start a conversation with her and she doesnt really ask me questions over text so I end up doing the heavy lifting. But recently we have been facetiming a few times a week and we talk for hours on end. One time we ended up talking till 4.30 in the morning even though she had an early morning class the next day. Last time we talked on facetime she showed herself wearing my old shirt that had gotten too small to me that we had given to her family as hand me downs so I dont know if that means anything, I just thought it was cute how she was wearing my old clothes.
When talking, we usually get deeply personal and talk about things that you wouldn't tell just any other guy so I kinda have a feeling she might like me back. But I don't want to make things awkward between us if i tell her about my feelings without her liking me back. She's one of my oldest friends and would feel bad about ruining our friendship due to my selfishness if my feelings are one sided.
So what do you guys think,do you think she likes me? | Crushes |
So me and my crush used to have prolonged eye contact for like 4-5 secs but now whenever I try to make eye contact she doesn't look in my eyes she just looks somewhere else pretending that she has nothing to do with me | Crushes |
Hi! How do you deal with office crush? | Crushes |
I don't know why, but I confessed to her last night in person and she rejected me (of course), but I didn't feel anything at the time. Last night though, I didn't get any sleep AT ALL. I was just crying thinking "What's the point? I really loved her. But she doesn't even like me back. It's always the same.". What should I do? I feel nothing but love and respect for her, and I could never hate her, but again, I feel incomplete without her. Maybe I'm just obsessive. | Crushes |
I used to be able to come up with casual conversation besides school but I keep on fumbling and not Knowing what to say and it ends up more like a job interview… | Crushes |
a couple of days back, i confessed to my crush..he told me he likes someone else.. honestly, i had been expecting a "yes" first because he had shown a real load of signs he liked me back but there were mixed signals too..but whenever i had seen him and the girl he liked together, i had a feeling he might like her.. and that was it.. the moment he said so, i was devastated, my whole body was trembling, my heart felt ice cold yet shocked and i can't tell you..i couldn't even cry for a day..and then i shed tonnes of tears..
he practically begged me to still remain "friends forever" ..and even said that it felt painful when i said "i'll just move on".. but i know he really likes her because they are almost always seen together and today when i had a class with him (the girl doesn't take that class), the girl even came 2 times to wave at him (and some more friends but mostly him) from outside, and his friends teased him with "his heart lies outside this class" when the professor pointed at him to concentrate.. he told me he had confessed to that girl around 10 days ago but still didn't know if she likes him back..he takes care of me, still asks me if everything is ok when i reply late, asked me why i was kicking him out of the conversation when i texted him "good night".. it is all so weird..i mean, he has practically told me he doesn't like me that way, likes someone else (and with the way they act she might like him back but tbh idk since she then should have said it right away, not make him wait for a week.. but who knows), and still i keep hoping that someday he might like me too.. maybe cause the way we texted, the way we take care of each other, the way we have delved deep into each other's lives in such short span of time of knowing each other, the way we look into each other's eyes, the way his friends have stared at me so many damn times, the way we shared some cute private moments, the way he makes me feel..it was all too good to be true..
i wish i could shut my heart to their acts of attraction towards each other, i wish so bad i could just fulfil my duties as a friend and genuinely support them both in this, i wish so bad i would not be jealous of them like this.. today was the worst. worst tbh. | Crushes |
You ever just know that they're the one but you fuck up with them and now they'd just rather not talk to you?
Sorry, to real? Eh, pass the bottle. | Crushes |
Content warning: talks of insecurity, not eating or sleeping well
I (17F) went to find a part-time job last year after my exams. I ended up meeting this guy who is the same age as me. He was interested in getting to know everyone, but there were times when he would try to talk to me and get to know me. I'm very quiet due to certain things that happened in my childhood, so someone being interested in me for once was nice.
He would say "hi (my name)" whenever he walked past me (we worked in a restaurant), and would ask me questions about my hobbies, and stuff like that when we were free (but I'm pretty sure he did this with everyone). I asked if he had a number (to ask him where the canteen was, because I didn't know where it was at), and after giving me his number, he asked if I had instagram. Maybe I'm overanalysing his actions.
Now, he goes to another school. He goes to a much better school, in fact. I did message him recently, and he asked me where I was going. Now I just realised that I liked him, and I feel like I've lost my chance of getting to know him because he has lots of friends, and we don't really talk anymore.
When I had crushes in the past, they were almost always mean to me, and I was called ugly. Now that I have a new crush, I feel so anxious. I haven't been sleeping well or eating well recently. I have also been tearful. I just feel like I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life...
(P.s I'm sorry if this post doesn't make much sense. I couldn't sleep all night and only fell asleep at 6am, and woke up at 12pm.) | Crushes |
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