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My crush and I are in most classes together and whenever we lock eyes she smiles for a bit then looks away. Could this mean she likes me? | Crushes |
There’s a trend of people making accounts based around there schools like “___couples” or “___outfits” and I, unfortunately, was posted to one of them. I had seen it a couple minutes after it was posted but my crush had already liked it before me. At the time I figured that he followed the account so obviously he would like the post but I went back to it now and I noticed that he never liked any other posts from that account. Then I looked and saw that he doesn’t follow the account and they don’t follow him either. So now I know that one of his friends who liked the post and know who I am must have sent him it as soon as they saw it. I don’t know if this is a good or bad sign but I’m so confused. | Crushes |
So this girl 22F is my college mate , we are not close and I heard that she's in a relationship ... This week I met her in the library and she asked for help on something I helped her , then I started a long conversation with her about life and love and poetry and she said she watched a tv show I love so I told her to marry me in a joking way ... After a day she texted (we are not friends on Facebook) she texted me asking for the name of the poetry that we discussed the day before..... Idk she's not the kind of person who talks with the boys and I'm afraid to give myself a fake hope... Any help bcz it's the last semester... | Crushes |
nothing serious I just asked him if he wanted to come to the library and do history homework with me and a friend (originally her bf was gonna come too so that’s why I said “double date” but he said he might be busy)
anyways yayyy?????????????? | Crushes |
I hate having crush on someone. Once you realize you like someone the first few days are fine because you're just so busy indulging yourself with all of those awesome positive feelings... But after a few days once you realize your crush doesn't like you back and you can't talk to her everyday, your mood suddenly goes downhill. Can't focus on anything. I become so pathetic, impatient, and sad. I want to stop this. I know this feeling is hopeless because we're living in different States. It was that dumb trip we had together(+other friends). That one event ruined me for months. Why do I fall for someone so easily... I just want to stop thinking about her and feeling this way, but nothing seems to help. | Crushes |
We used to talk a lot online. He started acting weird last month ghosting me out of the blue , unfollowed my trash insta account in the beginning of this month. I asked him why he did that and he said " no particular reason" and i asked again why he was being dry and he replied he doesn't have interest to chat. Didn't sent a message to him again. But last week he unfollowed my main account. i honestly don't know what to do at this point. i feel lost
what should i do???
if you need more context, dm :) | Crushes |
Just curious what y’all would think about if this came up with you
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What do you do with old crushes who come back into your life? THeres nothing going on here except memories. We have different lives and different paths with spouses and kids, but have IMd about professional topics since we are in the same profession...it has been pretty friendly.
Man, we had what I would consider some of my most killer dates - walks around historical parks in the summer at sunset turning into night with fireflies - dancing in Harvard square...kisses....
It did not turn out because internet dating sure is complicated.... but man for a little while I thought she was 'the one', even if we have our different lives, getting back in touch with her again and cooresponding, even if its just a morsel...sure does put me in a good mood!
Ladies what do you think? Am I going nuts here? Would you even have anything to do with a guy in this position? given your separate lives? or would you enjoy the appreciation?
BTW I have crossed that great divide with other female crushes/dates and they are real good friends now. This woman is a little different because she had 'girlfriend' written all over her LOL.
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I (26F) decided to approach my gym crush today because I’m moving gyms next week so figured I’d say something. He was using an equipment and I just suggested using it on a different area since it would be easier to use on another specific area at the gym since I find it works better for me and that I use that equipment sometimes and find it’s easier and he just laughed and said he’s just used to using it on that area, and just as I was getting ready to think of something else to say he goes “we’ll have a goodnight, bye!” and left.. | Crushes |
He showed me a cool video on his phone in class and let me use his headphones and was watching and commenting on my reaction 😁
He also gave me one of those springs from one of his pens haha :D
(Could he like me??? <3)
Ah | Crushes |
Im still not sure but this Valentines Day, my crush asked me if I had a Valentine and then pulled one of our friends in front of her to hide behind. I can’t tell if she has a crush on me or is just embarrassed about just asking a person about their Valentine | Crushes |
Fuck I’m so sorry for being ugly, stupid and everything else you don’t like but I find you so attractive. The very first day I ever met you I thought you were such a fine man. You’re such a hard worker and you seem mind even tho you get easily irritated and talk shit about people. I’m not gonna lie I have a strong lust for you. I want to please you in ways she doesn’t and in ways that would blow your mind. You always seem so stressed out and I want to be the one to allow you to release that stress. I know my face is ugly but I try to work on my body so there’s at least something you could be attracted to , sometimes I think it’s working… other times I think you’re just doing your job and being cordial with me and secretly hate me to the point you want me dead … it’s so stupid that these lustful feelings are forcing me to want to confess my feelings for you. I want to tell you how sexy and adorable I find you, but I don’t know how you will react. You have such beautiful hair that looks like a lions mane. Your arms safe so thick with veins I can’t help but imagine your choking me… I feel like a fucking weirdo loser for saying this shit
But I want to please you in the way you deserve as a man … but I guess I’m just not attractive enough for you… feels like I can’t even properly hold a conversation with you..
I wonder what you truly think of me a lot of the times | Crushes |
I know, don’t sh*t where you sleep but I couldn’t help it with this one. We (both 24) met at work and she’s perfect, I even broke up with a short-term girlfriend just so I could have the opportunity to explore it. I really like her, we laugh so much and she’s such a kind soul. I could go on and on but I’ll stay focused.
We flirt all shifts we work together but are worried about others influencing our relationship, so we just keep everything on the down low. The other night we went out and drunkenly got on the same page… well sorta. I admitted I had feelings while I was dating the ex, she explained how she just didn’t want to get burned. Things…progressed well that night so let’s just say we have good chemistry ;)
I’ll see her this weekend but it’s gotten to the point where I think I need to DTR. I know we’ve only been romantic for a very short time, but just for my own sanity I think it’s what I need; Long story short, I had someone really mess my head up a few years in a love triangle. It’s made me really hesitant to genuinely LOVE someone like I do with this girl.
Either way, I’ve got a couple questions:
1. Am I moving to fast, we’re both clearly passionate but have only been romantic for a short time
2. How do I do this sincerely, and get her to shoot me straight
3. Any other advice I should know before a convo like this?
Thank you Reddit family, it’s been a long time coming with this one | Crushes |
Even though me and her barley talk every time we do, she makes me so fucking happy. I could be having the worst day possible, and she could make me so happy and make me smile and grin like an idiot, whenever I’m not with her either I just feel alone and empty, but when I’m with her I’m just happy. | Crushes |
So I met A over the weekend at a mutual friends birthday party. There was a clearly a connection but I felt uncomfortable asking for his phone number in front of everyone. We really got along and I want to get to know him more. The only issue is if I want to find him I either have to ask my friend, who would tease me relentlessly or find him online with nothing more than a first name.
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I’m in 10th grade and I have a crush on a girl let’s call her Becky and she likes my best friend and he doesn’t like her. me and her talk a lot all of us eat lunch he calls her names but she still likes him but I am nothing but nice to her I give her stuff compliment her but she doesn’t like me what am I doing wr | Crushes |
Hi I’m new here so happy to be here!
I’m leaving my job and I’m going to be taking a new job. I have had a huge crush ok this one coworker of mine. He’s literally fine af, he has a swagger too. His style is fire.
In the summer one time during lunch, I felt someone looking. I turn around and it’s him. I look around to see if he was looking at someone beside me but he wasn’t. He saw me noticing, he kept staring.
I literally couldn’t absorb or ingest the situation at the time, I just ignored him at the time. After some time and thinking about it more did the full weight of the situation hit me.
I wasn’t crazy. That happened.
Since then if we’ve crossed paths at the office I just look down… defense mechanism.
I see him sometimes from afar and I know he’s so cute he just really blows me away lol
He’s also super freaking smart!!
Im intimidated, and I get told I’m intimidating
Anyway yeah. Im in my last leg of my time at the job and I can’t stop thinking about him and Ive been trying to push myself but hadnt been successful.
Help? How do I get this going lol? Running out of time 🥺😋😋 | Crushes |
Unfortunately my gf\crush was forced into homeschooling for an unknown reason. I sadly won't see her for a long time, but we're still together and she keep in touch by text. :(
In conclusion: parents are assholes when it come to relationships
I want to die rn | Crushes |
Suppose A told you she likes you, but you like C. So, you reject A. But because you were still friends with A (and had told her you guys will always remain friends and that A will find someone better than you), you ended up falling for A. Did it ever happen to you? | Crushes |
i skipped my homeroom last week and posted it on my private story (that he’s on)
when he walked in later that day he was like “did yk she was skipping? i don’t rly give a frick tho can i get gum?” and then he continued to talk abt me skipping for the entire period to anyone who would listen for more than 2 seconds 💀
later that same period he walked by my desk and said “don’t skip your classes! i’m aboutta snitch on you next time”
i gave him a look like “be fr” and said his name in that tone
“don’t skip your classes!!”
“ok i won’t!”
bro took that personally lmao
anyways today we had homeroom and i put “ew homeroom is today” on my private and he replied “Don’t skip”
“ok”
“I’m gonna snitch”
“ik you would”
that’s still on delivered 🫠 lmao
originally i thought he wanted to get me in trouble but he wouldn’t be telling me not to skip if he was trying to do me like that
anyways i thought this was weird and kinda cute so thought i’d share 😭 | Crushes |
HELPP!! I HAVE NO IDEA IF MY CRUSH LIKES ME BACK!! so basically I have a crush on this guy, let's call him Monday, anyways I've liked him since last year the day he arrived. I never got a chance to talk to him because he was new and everyone was all over him. but a few months ago I started hanging out with him because he seemed lonely. Recently we've been getting close, but I have no idea if we're getting closer romantically or like friends. First he always wants to hang out with me. Second he comes up to me immediately if he sees me. Third I always see him looking at me, (if he sees me look back for long enough he'll wave) fourth, he got me something for valentines day.(chocolate and a plush) fifth, his family call me his gf (this made me want to write this) and lastly he let's me touch his hair . but he's a nice guy just not as nice to everyone as he is to me. he's got me confused and I have no idea if I should make a move or not. he's a really sweet guy but I have no idea if he's being extra sweet or if he's hinting that he's into me. please tell me if you think he likes me or if he's being extra sweet. | Crushes |
So my crush is in the same major as me and it's pretty small which means I have classes with him. Anyways, semi-recently he liked my Hinge profile and I decided to match with him but neither of us messaged each other or talked when we saw each other in class. Then, about a week after, he followed me on Instagram. We will randomly make eye contact and stuff in class but I'm way too scared to go up to him :/ I want to make a move and message him or something but I guess I'm secretly hoping he will first. Ahhh I can't stop thinking about it. I'm just worried he doesn't actually like me or something and then I'll have to keep seeing him in class...
If I do message him, what should I say??? Or should I even do anything? Help lol | Crushes |
Dumbass question I know. I’m bored. | Crushes |
Today I kissed my crush in the cheek. The problem is that she has a boyfriend
We were on the bus, it was a nice day and she was specially chatty and happy.
I was happy too so I kissed her in the cheek, and I thing it was no big deal.
She didnt get mad but she did get serious and tense and she told me that she wasnt looking for that type of thing
We talked it out and it went kind of well.
But now I feel sad and confused. She seemed okay afterwards (not so chatty, but okay)
I’m probably too old to be so silly and childish sometimes, but I don’t understand how to seduce while controlling my impulses | Crushes |
So I was just sitting in class, talking to my friend. We were just talking about who we had liked, and things like that. I had told her who I liked, and we’re gonna call him T. The girl I told, was T’s cousin. I kept begging her not to tell him cause he’s not gay, and his gf just broke up with him. She said she wasn’t gonna tell him, and I calmed down. I went to my next class, and he was in it. Him and his friends was walking toward me, and they called my name. I said I needed to get something and I left. I didn’t come back. During my class, T just kept looking at me and and waving and trying to get me to come over there. I just shook my head no and kept talking to my friend. I know I’m gonna have to encounter him tomorrow so like what do I do. Also I’m not gonna be friends with that girl no more cause she said she wasn’t gonna tell nobody but she told everybody. So yeah. | Crushes |
…have we not talked with or texted each other. i’m not always the one to initiate. we see each other all day at work, sometimes chatting for a while in their car afterward, and then we text in the evening and on the weekend. that’s not normal gal-pal behavior is it???? | Crushes |
So I met this girl in college and from the start we loved talking to each other, always engaging and laughing. It really felt like a balanced conversation.
Then I added her snap and I just started streaking her because I wanted to be able to have a way to connect with her daily. So when we streak she would send like a normal random (sometimes a selfie) snap, I would snap back with something random or a selfie if I’m feeling good then she would send a selfie of herself. Not a crazy selfie, not showing off any clothes/jewellery, it was just a selfie of her.
Some extra information is that she doesn’t really use snap and didn’t start streaking until I started doing it with her. We planned on doing something online, we could have called on snap but instead she sent me her number and asked if I wanted to facetime. She is comfortable talking to me and I’ve noticed she doesn’t really bother trying to talk to other guys in class when she doesn’t sit next to me.
I’m really just trying to look for the breakthrough sign, that’ll give me confidence that I won’t be rejected if I asked her out. | Crushes |
I cant tell if the guy I’m working with likes me or if he’s just friendly. We don’t have other female coworkers in the store, so I can’t really compare how he behaves with me to how he behaves with other women.
When I first met him, he was really closed off and stoic. I almost thought he didn’t like me at all but I suppose he’s just a bit of an introvert. Now that he’s gotten comfortable with me, he talks to me all the time.
He never fails to ask me how I am, for updates on my life and work. He also always updates me on his days with so much enthusiasm. Like its a sort of routine we’ve gotten into where we tell each other everything whenever we have shifts together.
Every time we’re next to each other, he will find something to talk to me about. Either making a teasing comment about whatever or just coming up with a random topic on the spot. He will remember details about things I mentioned to him in passing too, which surprised me. Overall it seems like he loves telling me about his life and asking me about mine.
I once jokingly said “I hate working with you” and he coyly responded “you’re lying, I’m your favourite part of work”.
I was out of paper for work that day and just mentioned it in passing, and he went all the way to the store room to get me a new stack of A4s.
To me all of this feels like he does like me to some capacity but I have been so out of the game for so long, maybe I’m just imagining things. | Crushes |
i moved countries a little over 4 months ago and i expected to get over him within about 2 months, since its just a silly little crush, but that is not what happened. everyday i miss him more and more and im worried that im never going to get over him, i have nothing to contact him on so its not like i can even message him.
i never confessed, and i never dropped any hints that i liked him because i was so scared of him rejecting me and now i kind of wish i had just gotten it over with but i know that i cant even do it now since i cant contact him at all.
i knew that nothing would have come of my crush on him because i know that he wouldnt like me for various reasons that i do not feel like getting into right now, so all i really wanted was for him to consider me a friend. im not sure if ive achieved that goal, but it doesnt matter.
its been 4 months. i just want to get over him. i keep crying over what couldve been if i had confessed and by chance he liked me back, and i know its stupid to do because i cant change it now.
im sorry this is all over the place i just wanted to let this out:(
tl;dr i moved before i could confess to the guy i like lol | Crushes |
So I met this guy off of plenty of fish a few months back and we’ve been talking here and there. I wish we talked more. I told him I was going through a rough time and needed a hug. He basically set up a hangout for Friday with me. He said he wanted to meet me at my house and then go out and get something to eat. I am afraid he will back out on me. I am trying to stay positive because I absolutely need this! I’m so excited to see him again. | Crushes |
Let me start by saying that we’re both over the age of 19. This is not our only thing to talk about and neither of us has “music intensive” as our only personality trait as so many people seem to post about (I’m sorry, it genuinely angers me). We text all the time, and sometimes he just sends random songs. No context, no build up, nothing. Some of them are really pretty and romantic, but some are just stupid noises. I like him, but I’m not sure about him liking me in general. I just want to know what general consensus is for why he’s sending me songs. I’m not opposed to it- just confused.
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I'm 15M and xey(uses pronouns) is 15F, and shes part of my friend group from middle school. I had a crush on her 3 years ago, and suddenly feelings have resurfaced. I tried to ask her out, but she ended up posting the screenshot of it to our group chat. I love her, but I know she thinks of me as a friend, probably even less. What should I do? | Crushes |
So. I had a dream about this Girl I really really like.
She has a Boyfriend (They started dating like a week or so after I realized I liked Her, back in December.) and that has sucked for Me cause Her and I match up perfectly but I am glad that they seem Happy together.
But that's not My story for today.
So, last night I had two different dreams about Her. In the first one She just sent Me a text where She asked Me to a dance, the text was something like "I'll explain another day, but will You go with Me?"
I woke up at like 2AM, so freaking happy then realized it was a dream xD
Fell back asleep and then another dream came around, this time We were walking outside some building and She asked "Would You hold My hand even though it's burned?" (She got burned real bad this last week.) I said "Will it not hurt?" And then I woke up.
All in all, real weird and cheezy... I realize now it's also a bit of a gush, oh well.
Thank You for Your time, I Hope You have a Lovely Week! | Crushes |
I'm pretty terrible at reading people's intentions if I'm being honest. We met on a dating app, and it's been a little while and I've developed a huge crush on him (can you call it a crush if you met on a dating app?) I've noticed in his text patterns that he takes ages to reply (5-6 hours between messages), but when he does, he's very engaged in the conversation. I'm not sure if that means he's a bad texter or just not that into me. I feel like if he wasn't, he wouldn't reply at all, or at least not be as into it as he seems.
We haven't actually talked about dating or anything like that and I'm not sure if he knows how into him I am. He's joked that he's met a lot of friends online and I'm not sure if that's him hinting he'd rather bee friends. What to do? | Crushes |
Okay, so this is probably the worse moment I should type this. Don’t even know if I should send it here, but it’s not like I have friends to get advice from. (Since they’re busy with their bfs/gfs after all.)
This is probably the 5th time I’ve told this story and at this point I’m getting tired of saying it but I really don’t know what else to do to be honest.
I’ve tried a lot. I genuinely look bad so I’m trying to self improve in order to look better and mentally improve in the first place guess that’s the only thing that motivates me from not being sad all the time. Don’t think I’m depressed, since it’s a mix of sadness through a range of times.
Anyhow, I met this girl (yes, no shit right) and she already got my attention when I met her at first. A lot of things happened, she suddenly had a 180 change because of my hiatus from talking to her for a holiday probably because of the first confession; it’s genuinely sad. I can’t comprehend why, but it might be because my dumbass decided to confess to her twice (please, DO NOT ask me why I confessed twice.) From time to time, she sort of talks to me (when she has a problem - using me basically. But I chose to accept her offer, so I guess I’m the desperate one here.) Usually, and more so recently, she always calls every time that happens it genuinely hurts lol
A few days ago, since I saw her in front of me (coincidentally) I went up to her and said hi. We talked, but then I had the sense that she sort of distancing from me (to be honest, fair enough.) Then she straight up went to her friend so obviously I can’t really intervene much in their conversation. I’m quite sure her “reason” for rejecting me was probably because of my looks because that’s all society values about nowadays. Might be my shitty personality, but who knows.
It’s like this dream of me being with the girl herself is lost. One of my closer friends even ratted me out about my crush. Can I even trust anyone anymore? Lol.
At this extent, I’m genuinely obsessing (?) to the point where it’s unhealthy and I know people would say “Let go” but it’s really hard to and not really practical too.. | Crushes |
we’ve been talking online for about 2 months now we’ve had a few deep convos but we’ve never talked for a while irl cause she’s unfunny amounts of shy around me since we started talking and i’m a bit introverted so it’s hard for me to spark up irl convo. she doesn’t have her phone rn should i ask her out now and let her see it whenever she goes back on it or wait for a actual convo or whenever we call next? i kinda wanna wait until we. talk i bit irl first should i wait? | Crushes |
There’s this girl I know and every time we’re around each other she makes me laugh like literally every single time. A few week ago she asked me if I was single and when I told her I was, she said she was too.Are there any signs in general to whether or not someone likes you? Also she is a lesbian just for context. | Crushes |
l've had a crush on this boy for a long time, since the beginning of the fall semester (idk why)
He got my SC (long but short story I don't feel like explaining) in the beginning but recently texted me last week. Also, a few weeks ago he asked for my name and said he seen me around before. We texted each on SC and a couple of things that stuck out to me in our convo is that he says he has friends to talk to but not to do things with or hang out, and he said we have some similar interests after I told him I had a minor in management (we're both stem students). He also invited me to this group chat for this company he works with and stuff.
[just don't know. I know I'm over analyzing things but I need advice or thoughts. | Crushes |
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He’s very particular about it his hair, I feel like a lot of guys are. We’re doing a thing currently where a lot of people need their hair styled and I offered to do the men’s hair because it’s easier and I’m not very good at anything else. So I go up to him and offer to do his hair and he’s hesitant, tells me about how he only ever likes his hair when he styles it even if the other person does a good job. So I eventually convince him to get in the chair and I start working on his hair. Now, I’m not gentle, I want their hair to look nice so I’m not exactly worried about pulling and tugging and he did complain about that a little but not a lot, it was more playful then real complaining. I finished, let his hair set and pinned it, and the event had a second thing going on later so everyone got their hair redone again, and the first thing he did was come directly to me, he said he wanted me and only me doing his hair from now on and he likes how I do it. I had to do this other guys hair before him and kept checking in with me, asking if I could do his hair, asking multiple times while he sat next to me and watched me doing this other guys hair. We stared at each other and we’re with each other for the rest of the night, and now he’s texting me saying he’s happy that I was there.
We are friends, and we were always really friendly before this.
So I’m wondering if maybe this is a sign that he likes me?
ALSO! There was one key thing he said that kinda threw me for a loop, he said he really liked how I did his hair the first time, which is why he came back, then I asked if he liked it more the first or second time he said he never saw it the first time time. I said “how’d you know you liked it the fist time if you never saw it?” and he just kinda laughed it off. I dunno if this changes anything or not but I thought I’d include it. | Crushes |
I 18f am in love with my best friend 18m
Hmm it
Is hard and I’m sure you can all relate
Can’t tell him it might stress him out and i don’t wanna lose our friendship because 50% of me thinks he doesn’t like me and 50% of me thinks he could
So any movie recs on this ? Maybe on unrequited love ? Specifically unrequited love ? Or maybe someone pining after someone and finding someone else ? Friends to lovers ? | Crushes |
So on the day before valentines she set her note on Instagram as 'i want apple juice for valentines day'. So I got her a tiny bottle of apple juice, removed the brand label on it, and made my own label that I put a shit ton of inside jokes in. I then wrapped the label around the apple juice bottle.
So during lunch period we were sitting with our usual friendgroup. I texted her 'hey guess what' and then immediately slammed the bottle on the table. As soon as she saw the label she laughed her ass off for like 3 minutes or so. Her face was super red from laughing it was the best feeling ever.
She definitely saw the gift as a joke and nothing more though. | Crushes |
I have a crush on a boy that I've never really talked to before and I don't know what to do with myself, I'm ok with nothing ever happening between us and I'm ok to admire from a distance I just needed to tell someone because I don't think I could ever tell my friends | Crushes |
I have my doubts on this, since they are currently figuring out your sexuality and/or romantic attraction.
But they have said/done things that have been making me question their feelings towards me.
For some context behind our relationship before this, we're both very touchy people who exchange affectionate words with friends such as 'ily' (mainly over text, but still). We've known each other about 5-6 months, but we've grown really close to each other in that time.
Starting with a few weeks we were hanging out at their house. Everything was going like it would normally. But they asked to hug (which is a normal friendly thing they do to everyone), and then they grabbed me and hugged me (with my consent ofc). We were sitting down on the couch, so I was leaning against them. That was a bit unusual but I didn't really think it was weird at all. Later that night tho, they also told me "I want to hug you so badly rn" over text. Which again, at the time, I didn't think it much.
Fast forward a few weeks
We would walk to their house every week for a weekly event that we and a few other friends of ours went to. That's when they asked me if I wanted to come to their birthday along with some close friends of theirs. I was surprised that they considered me close enough to hang out with them since we had only been friends for such a short time. We hugged again, which is again, a normal activity that we both did quite regularly. But afterwards, they asked if they could pick me up (⁄(⁄ ⁄•⁄-⁄•⁄ ⁄)⁄
And they did (they're quite strong, I'm jealous)
Ok, so far, unusual. but not enough reason for me to suspect something like this. I didn't think much of it. We sat next to each other as well, just appreciating the silence together on their deck, shoulder to shoulder. It was an innocent event in my mind, but they got really close really quick while we were sitting there.
After the event, we hugged again in their car, the longest hug we've ever had (I believe). And for the first time they told me that they loved me in person. It wasn't short or quick, they spelled it out, and that's when I began to doubt my doubt about this.
Ofc, it can also be friendly, but all those events just seemed to click together. That perhaps there were some other feelings behind their friendly affection toward me. During the drive, they mentioned hanging out in the holidays (again) and when they finally dropped me off, they again, told me that they loved me.
And then a few days later, they messaged me when you were having a hard day. Which is when this started to REALLY bother me. They could've went to someone else, maybe they did, but they still came to me just to talk because they had a tough day.
I know this is kinda all over the place, and that's cuz my thoughts are all over the place. Could my friend like me? I would ask them, but I also don't want to make it seem like I jumped to conclusions too quickly or confuse them while they're still figuring out their attraction. | Crushes |
Probably deleting this later cause it’s embarrassing. I was in a relationship with my best friend all through high school, broke up (on good terms) beginning of college and took the first semester to heal. Now it’s the middle of the second semester and I have a crush on this dude who is way cooler than me!!!
We’re both art majors and he’s pretty much the most talented artist at our college, he’s likely considered conventionally attractive, and he’s also in a BAND! What makes him on par with me is that we’re both still losers haha!
I’m not someone who particularly dislikes myself (at least as much as I used to) but I’m not particularly conventionally attractive, at least my face isn’t. I don’t get told I’m hot or attractive often, which could just be people being as nervous as me lol. What’s going for me is that I’m a decent artist, I have a sense of style that I get lots of compliments for, and he genuinely enjoys hanging out with me.
My problem is, I don’t know if we’ve been friends long enough for him to fall for my personality lol! We (and my best friend) hung out in a library for like 6 hours, and just earlier today we hung out in the dining hall (just the two of us) for way longer than he originally planned cause he enjoyed talking to me. He even made a “we should go out” joke at one point and didn’t tell me what he said when I asked him to repeat it!
I’m so bad with social cues for relationships cause of being in a relationship all throughout high school, so I really don’t know if I’m overthinking things or should go ahead and confess!! Anyone have any thoughts or tips? | Crushes |
I've always viewed her as a friend, but recently I've noticed that when she walks into the room,
My eyes instantly go to her, and I get nervous when she talks to me. I'm constantly catching myself staring.
Her and my best friend are close and I don't want things to be weird. I didn't choose this | Crushes |
I am catching feelings. So I have this friend which we will call Aaron, Aaron and I have become very good friends and soon I had met his bestfriend, who we’ll call Mike. Me and Mike have also become close friends as I had with Aaron, but the thing is, I think I’m catching feelings for Mike. Before you jump into any sorts of conclusions cause I know some people will since they’re kinda wacko😭. I love how me and him have the same sense in style of clothing and music, we have similar humor. I love his personality, he funny and kind and always tries to make me feel special. I love how he dyed his hair and how it always fits him. I love his septum piercing. I love the way his face is shaped. I love how he looks. If this is some trick for me to fall into tho, it definitely is. I really think I’m falling for this guy. | Crushes |
Like she just says "I love you" And stuff like that regularly, but she also seems to do things like that with a lot of her friends, so idk. It's weird, it felt like we're talking like a couple already, but we aren't, it's not bad at all or anything, but it's just weird | Crushes |
never love anything | Crushes |
If you haven’t seen my last post, you might want to look at it: https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11frjkf/what_do_these_signs_mean/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
So basically, my crush gave all the signs he might feel the same, and I told him last night and he said he didn’t like me. Which I found odd, because an hour before I asked him we were high key flirting, we held hands, and were talking and laughing so hard both of us literally fell to the floor. But he said no. Sort of suspiciously too. I don’t know if it means anything, but when he said no he seemed like really nervous? Like nervously laughing and smiling. And then I saw him today. He was really touchy. And I mean really touchy. Always had an arm or hand on me and was joking and talking to me. I can’t tell if he’s hiding something or not but I can’t tell if I should just let it go. Thoughts? | Crushes |
There’s this really cute girl in one of my classes, I met her this year and she’s super fun to talk to and really nice and funny. I recently finally worked up enough nerve to text her (we send each other gamepigeon games during particularly boring homework and talk during it) and I’m not sure how to proceed from here. I get a good chance to talk to her in person every Friday, other days are usually not good opportunities. I’m a little worried, as she hasn’t answered my last text (I sent it yesterday and she read it today), but hoping for the best. I find her really fun to be around, she’s really attractive and funny and smart and so many other things, and even if this doesn’t lead to a relationship I’d be happy being good friends…I just need more excuses to text her/talk to her! | Crushes |
i have two crushes but only have a chance with one. i want to lose feelings for the other. how do i do this? i can’t block her out of my life, i see her everyday. how do i lose feelings for her? | Crushes |
He must think i'm some kind of monster...
I mean true i was a little obssesed but I can't handle everything I feel. I'm not used to that falling in "love" stuff. It rarely happens. I only talked about him because of how I felt and school gt too nosy.
I can't talk about anything anymore. And I was only talking about him cause I was hoping that I finally found my missing thing in life but I geuss it's still missing.
He used to be so friendly but now he's cold hearted and calling me weird and obssesive and names. All men and guys are jerks. I feel like I'm the monster.
Now i'm super tired like literally but I HATE HIM SO MUCH!!! | Crushes |
There’s a girl who likes me and I know she likes me because my friend showed me texts and some of her friends outright told me in front of her. Anyways, I try talking to her and getting to know her because I’m a little interested too. I don’t know her well and I only met her recently, but so far she seems to be alright except for one thing
Whenever I go to talk to her to hangout or text her or anything at all, she’s really dry. Short 1 word answers or blatantly ignores me to talk to her friend, which she says is because she’s nervous. She’s apologized a few times and I understand how she feels, but it’s not exactly something I like about her. Is this a red flag? Should I give it time to see if she loosens up a bit? | Crushes |
I've had a class with this girl for a few weeks now and I decided to compliment her today. We had presentations to do for a project and after she was done I said great presentation. (It was genuinely really well done.) We sit close to each other, just the walking space between our desks. It was a group presentation in groups of 2. We both sit with our partners for this project.
I'm really shy and this was something I've never done before. So I was really nervous about doing it and for awhile after. But I haven't had a crush on a girl like this in a long time so I do want to ask her out eventually. I'm just wondering if others think she likes me.
I often catch her looking at me. Today, for example, I just turned my head a bit and saw her quickly look away out the corner of my eye. I also see her looking at me out the corner of her eyes sometimes or see her take a quick glimpse in my direction. Even just while waiting for presentations to start or watching them I'm pretty sure she looked at me a few times. Her eyes are also always dialated when she looks at me.
Usually I go to the library during lunch and catch up on work if I need to. I mostly sit on these comfy chairs or at one of the desks there. All of these are in the same area which you can easily see when you walk into the library.
For the last few weeks, I've seen her in the exact same area as me. One of the first times was when I was working at a desk and she asked someone if she could sit with them.
We could both see each other clearly. I swear we made eye contact when she went to sit down. When I was working on the comfy chairs one day, she sat in the same set of four chairs, which are back to back. She didn't sit directly behind me but the one chair over.
The next day she did the same thing but this time she sat directly behind me. She moved as soon as a desk became available but chose to sit facing my direction instead of the window.
Also some of these times there were definitely other comfy chairs available. There are also a few more times that she's done this that I haven't listed. One more thing is her body language often seems to point in my direction.
Anyway, after I complimented her she said thank you. Now all presentations were now done so there wasn't nothing really to do and this was last class. The rest of the period she just looked at her phone. Kind of looking the other direction. She also normally waits at her desk but she walked up to the front this time and she wasn't really facing away from me just walking around a bit at the front. To be honest, she did leave quickly.
But I don't think it was weird to compliment their presentation. It was very good. Although I was very nervous when saying it. Was I wrong or am I just over thinking this? I felt like there were some good signs. | Crushes |
confessed a few weeks ago. our conversations are so awkward now - he always calls me bestie now, but we don’t talk nearly as much. idk. | Crushes |
I get to my class early and so does my crush. He looked around and said, "I need a friend," (in a sarcastic voice). And I was sitting on my chair and I had/have a feeling he was looking at me and said, "Will you be my friend?!" (Still in the sarcastic voice). AND I IGNORED HIM BC I WAS SCARED HE WAS TALKING TO SOMEONE ELSE. I was also ignoring him bc I was deep in thought (about him). | Crushes |
Context before I start. guy I’ve known since 5th grade, let’s call him shorty (he over 6 ft tall) and we are in gr 12 now. In gr 7+8 I used to like his friend, pineapple (I’m now over him) but Shorty knew this. I never really interacted with Shorty until last year where he sat two tables away from me in bio class and I would ask him questions and he would politely answer. Shorty is a smart guy, however he doesn’t put in a lot of effort in class. He skips many school days (maybe for legitimate reasons??) and doesn’t really put effort in class.
Shorty also almost always hangs around guys whenever I’ve seen him, never with a girl. HOWEVER he does hangout with a guy I don’t like who is a red flag, idk if that would mean anything.
Last semester he was In my French and I would watch him come in class then glance back down and he did the same. When I walked in class late, he like WATCHED me. This isn’t like a “oh ur late ok” it was more than that. I would talk to him since he was usually alone in that class (despite being really popular) and I would ask him about his assignments, like “have u finished” and he said yeah I’m working on it. I had a convo where I gradually asked about his next semester courses and what he wanted to be, and he said he was going into business, and he asked me what I wanted to go into.
BUT GUYS, this isn’t the best part IT GETS BETTER. So me and him, for some reason I feel comfortable with him knowing him for so long and he has that kinda face where I smile when I see him. He was presenting and I started smiling/giggling because the question he asked was silly and he started laughing a little too. I was walking in the hall and I saw him and then we passed by again on our way to class so I smiled at how silly he was AND HE SMILED BACK. Then i walked back to class with. Him and we talked about the math exam, I was worried and he was relaxed. He said he got 100% on a quiz and I was like “look at u smart guy” and he was like “I’m not that smart haha” then I was like “yeah u are, when u TRY” and he goes silent. Then we go back in class.
A COUPLE DAYS AGO I TALKED TO HIM AGAIN OMG. I was talking about an optional exam (for certifications) in class with my friends and I was like *Omg perfect opportunity to talk to him.* I turned around and asked him “are u taking the exam” and he’s like what’s that??? I’m like oh it’s this thing u were supposed to sign up for and I start smiling cuz it’s way too late to sign up and while smiling he goes oh shoot is it too late to sign up?? And this is all while keeping eye contact. HE ALWAYS KEEPS EYE CONTACT WHEN WE TALK. Like he doesn’t seem bored, but he doesn’t have much to say. We talk about that and he’s like well damn Ig I’m too late. THENNNNN I ask him about his ethnicity, I never actually knew what he was and he told me, and I was like ohhh I always thought u were Arab, and he explains the country to me a little more. Then he goes “wbu? What’s ur ethnicity??” And before i could respond he guesses my ethnicity and my jaw DROPPED. The country im from is not well known by white-washed people, and it is often mixed up with other countries. I was like wow, howd you know?? And he just smiles and shrugs and then I say wow well I’m impressed, I turn back around then I have to go to my next class.
LIKE THIS MAN NEVER COMES TO SCHOOL, HOW DOES HE CARE ENOUGH ABOUT MY ETHNICITY?!? I have never directly told him before so it means he definitely pays attention to me.
However I’m always the one initiating the convo and I don’t wanna seem desperate, but him smiling and occasionally glancing at me, plus he stretches more often after that convo (in my direction) which he never used to do that often before. Idk if I should just get over him. Am I looking too into this, does he know I like him or does he wanna play me(cuz of his toxic friend)? | Crushes |
So there’s this girl in my class i think is really cute and has a nice personality and i’ve spoken to her every now and then because we’ve been in the same class for six years but never really had any substantial conversation, so i’m wondering what would be the appropriate approach to try and get a date with her.
It seems simple but my main fear is that i’d end up getting rejected and then it’d be awkward for the rest of my final school year and would have to deal with things like gossip about me getting rejected, but maybe i’m overthinking it. I just don’t want to regret not shooting my shot. | Crushes |
I feel really weird because I'm crushing on several people right now, and it's not just like a "oh they're cute" it's like full on massive crushes. I just wanted to know if other people had multiple crushes, and if it's normal. I'm just confused because I think they're all really interesting people and they're all friends but what do I do?? Pick one I prefer?? I don't think I prefer any. It's just odd. Hoping for some advice. | Crushes |
I feel like, I get attracted to so many females on every now and then, but I never go for it or even very rarely, for example in 2 years I made 2 moves one each year.
What would be your advice guys for me?
And the other question is how to not over think it and to communicate interest in a simple friendly way | Crushes |
I've posted this on another tread, but I'll try here, too. My best friend is dating our friend who I really like but never told anyone. It breaks my heart to see them together, and I'm thinking about distancing myself. I don't know. I really can't stand seeing him so happy with her. It's not their fault. It's mine. I'm wondering if I should distance myself from them. I sound really toxic, but I swear I'm not. I'm just upset at myself at the moment. | Crushes |
I (15M) talk to a girl a lot in the hallways during passing time. I don’t play any sports (I would like to start to) so it’s sort of a miracle this girl talks to me. I’d like to start texting her but whenever I do she leaves me on delivered for a long time and I don’t even have a whole lot of conversation starters. | Crushes |
Okay, so I need some advice.
Earlier this week, I (19f) told my crush (18f) that I liked her (to add to this, I didn’t want to date or anything. I just wanted to get it off my chest so I could move on and just grow our friendship)
Even though I told her a bit ago, our whole vibe has changed. We barely talked in class, and then she sat in a seat away from me when she usually sat right next to me.
Can someone tell me where to go from here? I would like to know what I did wrong so I can possibly fix it. | Crushes |
Okay, so not sure if this should be in r/crushes because I'm dating her, but I just need to gush about her because aaaaa
I just love everything about her, I love the dumb flirty memes that she sends me, her smile is just wow, just the way that her eyes crinkle when she genuinely smiles makes me dhsksgsjsbdhdhd
And when she gets nervous at me meeting her gase she's just like "..hi! :)", i just love watching her focus on her doodles like its the most important thing in that moment to finish this doodle of hooty, i love her soft hands, her soft face, her soft lips, her humor, how bold she can be sometimes, she's just so shaksdgsisjdh aaaaaa
Oh and if your seeing this Isabelle (because I know you follow me on here) uh...hi! Don't mind me basically writing a mini love note on fucking reddit :P | Crushes |
So I text him if I am his second choice and his response was 'how could you be my second choice,if I never said I liked you'. Is there hope? | Crushes |
I'm a female 17 yrs old, I have a crush on this guy who I work with 20 M and I told one of our mutual coworkers I think hes cute, today he brought up our mutual coworker in casual conversation and he said he wanted to ask me something about something she said and I already knew what it was he was gonna ask if it was true I panicked and my tummy started hurting so bad so I went to the restroom and was pacing around, I don't work tmrw and I ruined the perfect opportunity to be open with him ill see on sunday or monday how do I respond to his question? | Crushes |
I can’t tell if I have a friend-crush or a real attraction to this guy?
hii, 21f here.
To start out, I hesitate to call it a crush. I’ve talked and joked with this guy a lot but it’s always very work related & nothing too personal so— I can’t say I have a proper crush on him. I just.. have this weird pull to him. He’s very attractive, and I really like his laugh, and a odd want to talk with him more.
I have a pretty big fear of making people uncomfortable, I was a lil weird in high school (it was just the social anxiety) so I have cleaned up my act & gotten significantly better about it but I do sometimes still get flustered and red when he is around me. But when we talk it’s so easy to fall into a banter. I relax almost immediately.
We do work together, and I know: don’t shit where you eat but please save that, I have no intention at this time of trying to invite him out or anything flirty. But theoretically if I did… I know how to stay professional and we rarely cross paths as is with how busy things are. So please allow me to have my affections in peace ;;
I just wish I wasn’t so nervous around him?? I know good things can just slip right by and I have this.. weird feeling. I have had that only once before and it only failed to continue because of my move of states. Even now we are still in contact.
Is there any good ways I can get to know someone in a quick paced environment or do I have to make the jump for a social media/number if I wish to? .. it feels like a scary thing to ask for.
And what is this weird feeling? Has anyone else ever felt like this? What should I do? | Crushes |
I LITERALLY ASKED HIM TO HANG OUT LIKE JEEZ TAKE A HINT | Crushes |
So there's this cute girl in my college, we only have one class together,but during activity hour, I've noticed that she's sitting alone for a bit. I'm thinking about starting a small chat with her,then depending on how she reacts,ask her out on date(for a coffee possibly). We've actually never interacted,but she sits behind me so she probably knows my existence and she was kinda eyeing me(looked like it, don't wanna be cocky). I'll start with a small chat about the course,if I sense that she doesn't feel awkward, I'll ask her out. Is this too straightforward? | Crushes |
Basically a girl has started texting me, we’ve had about 3 convos over text so far everytime she’s initiated. I know this girl in person now for about 3 months I only see her once in a while though but when we do we talk before she started to text me I had feelings she might like me but still wasn’t so sure. Back on track tho, she’s been texting me and basically she said that she’d like to go on a drive in my car sometime this I know is a good sign as she’s basically opening the door for me. Of course I told her we will sometime im thinking sometime within the next 2 weeks, I’m just wondering what can I do with her should we really just go for a drive and is a drive a good idea do you guys think for a first meet up? I was thinking we could drive about an get some ice cream an talk in the car would this be a good first link up to get to know each other more? | Crushes |
I think I have accidentally started crushing on my friend, I want to ask her out but she gives mixed signals, there have been a few times where it seems like she likes me (me finding her staring at me from across class and me once smiling at her and then hearing her say "he smiled at me" excitedly to her friend) but at the same time I think she's out of my league and I don't think she likes me | Crushes |
Recently I have been crushing on one of my friends and I was looking for advice because I really like her and I want to ask her to hang out (for context we have only hung out alone once but hang out in bigger groups) i really like her but I don't want to ruin the friendship | Crushes |
I think I’m in the talking stage with this guy? Not yet 100% sure but how do I keep the conversation progressing. I really want to get to know him more but I feel like I’m just being boring. And I want him to initiate conversations too. | Crushes |
I’ll catch this DROP DEAD GORGEOUS girl and her friends staring at me every now and then.
Yesterday she asked if she could join my group, her friend was in my group already because she was assigned there.
I know it’s a super small thing. But I’m getting excited haha | Crushes |
we're theatre kids, we see each other almost every day, and im now sitting at her table every lunch. it used to be every other day, but im serious and want to become close.
we actually were decent friends before i realized my crush. in october, we would rehearse, our characters would interact a lot, and that's when we spent a lot of time together for the first time. before i realized my crush, i was even shyer than i am today. my confidence improved so much in the past month, in terms of my skills. but now i need to be confident with my crush...
last saturday, all the theatre kids went to see a local musical, and i gave her a book. i told her i'd give it to her once i finished using it, and i was excited that the time had come. she appreciated the kind gesture, and we talked a bit abt it. then i sat next to her for half the show... i think there was an awkwardness there? i had to leave early, so i sat somewhere else for Act 2. she then moved even farther away from me...
every day i would gain more self awareness on my awkwardness, so i'd make sure to try something new the next day. i keep a list of tips like
\- smile at her
\- open body language good posture
\- hand gestures
\- dress your own style
\- don't think too hard, SAY what's on your mind
\- be a disagreeable bitch sometimes
\- don't be afraid to make the conversation about yourself sometimes
\- give the impression that you've got a busy happy life
some days this week, we'd have fun, energetic interactions. those made me the most happy. but sometimes, there would be cold, awkward moments that would hurt. today, it was only those moments...
i passed by her in the hallway and said "hi". i remember having a relaxed, happy expression. but she paused, stared at me for a second, put her head down and said "hey," kept walking. she's normally the friendliest person ever, so that hurt
in class, i tried to be extroverted and involved, interacting with my friend group more than usual. i'd say things out loud to the class more often, taking charge, i guess. because that's what she does!! but it seems like whenever i'm not in the group, that's when she joins. but i can't just join \*her\* group, that would be clingy and awkward. i can't keep watching her group creepily like i always do. so that's why i don't actively go and interact with her.
at lunch, a theatre kid took my banana as a joke. i pulled it back in a way that made it look like i was pointing a gun at them, and then my crush faced me, and made a gun signal. she pointed out that the banana looks like a gun. so then i created a whole bit around that, and let other friends at lunch play pretend with it. when i got it back, i made eye contact with the others who haven't used it, asking if anyone else "wants my weapon." my crush shook her head disapprovingly. she's the most playful out of all of them??? why did she look serious??
am i just annoying to her. do we have zero chemistry. i've accepted that we can't date, but i at least want to be her friend.... | Crushes |
so im 17f and i like this guy that works some where near my house and i see him almost every time i go for a walk and i just make eye contact with him (dont judge me im so scared of talking to strangers speacially boys)
and i want to talk to him or ask for his insta
what do you guys think i should doo
pleas helppp | Crushes |
I've(F14) liked this boy(M14) since October, she(F12) just met him yesterday, hasn't talked to him and I don't know what to do about it? | Crushes |
She sits in my English class and we talk a little bit but I always initiate the conversation usually by asking her how she is doing.
Here's some things I have noticed
- She doesn't talk that much to other people as well, not even her table partner.
- I sit behind her in class so when I talk to her, she faces sideways and tries to talk to me.
- I added her on snap and she didn't add me back but was wondering if in conversation I should ask her to add me back.
- When I ask her about her hobbies, she said she does nothing else besides going to work and going to rock climbing. (Maybe hinting that she is open for us to hang out?)
I honestly don't know if I should bother to ask her out, I'm one of the few people in the class who talk to her. Any advice is appreciated | Crushes |
Sometimes i get scared that my crush is in this subreddit 💀💀💀 idk it's VERYYYYY unlikely but still lmao sometimes when i read some of these posts they sound a little similar the beggining and i start panicking | Crushes |
So I’ve been crushing on this super cute guy in my university. He is so cute and so hot that I just wanna have a conversation with him. We’ve acknowledged each other so far and that’s it I do wanna make him notice me and I wanna take the step first but I don’t know what should I do bec whenever I’ve done something like this before like approaching them first it was always a disappointment:(( | Crushes |
Me and the guy I’m dating had been friends for almost two years before we started got together…
Last night when I asked him, “when did you start having a crush on me?”
He said, “I never thought about having a crush on you. I was just always into you. I always thought you pretty.”
I don’t know what that means | Crushes |
Yo! :)
I've met this guy only two times, so I don't really know how he behaves normally. :( But I think he's been kinda sus. Here are things I've noticed:
\- shy, he was really awkward sometimes, but not in this negative way
\- a lot of accidental hand touching
\- teasing
\- yesterday we were in cinema and he was looking REEEAAAALLY obviously on me for a few seconds a few times, maybe he thought I haven't noticed? idk
\- very nice hugs (tight, long)
\- goes quiet for a few mintues but doesn't have problems with having a conversation
\- started texting me more often lately (we met through internet and started talking a few months ago)
\- trying to be around me physically a lot
I just don't want to misinterpret his intentions, ESPECIALLY THAT WE MET ONLY TWO TIMES. Do you guys think these are some signs of being interested in me? I probably forgot to mention a few things anyway lol | Crushes |
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so i have had a crush on this girl on my class for maybe a month now, and im just asking for how to make some progress. i wouldnt say we are friends, we rarely talk. maybe i have noticed her looking at me a few times, but maybe im just overly paranoid | Crushes |
1. She plays basketball, her jersey number is 62. When our teacher asked us to pick a number, i picked 6 then 2. She looked at me and winked.
2. When i told her my handwriting isn’t that bad, she said “ik i just wanna tease you”
3. She called me “little chick” when i got shy over something she said.
4. When i asked her to hand me her notebook so i can copy what i missed, she gave it to me and sat right next to me for no reason.
5. When I opened a wrong page and i was confused why are they reading something different, I realized then that it wasn’t the right page so i slapped my forehead and said oh my god, the whole class was laughing over my reaction, but she was looking at me smiling.
6. When we were playing basketball and i said I don’t play basketball that much but I watch the nba, she said i know, I never told anyone about that.
7. She always remembers every single detail about me.
8. When i was doing my hair i noticed her looking at me.
9. When she said “it’s fine to cry, i’ll wipe your tears”
10. When she miscalled two girls by my name. | Crushes |
I (29F) wonder how many Millennials are here and how you deal with your crushes at this age?
I'm a young widow. He was my first boyfriend and was my highschool crush. Now I'm crushing on someone new and slightly older at 41. He's still a Millennial tho so we still have a lot to talk about and in common. But since my last proper crush started in highschool, I can't help but fall back to old teenage habits and I feel like a giddy and lost teenager whenever I interact with this new guy.
How bout you guys? I wanna know that I'm not the only Millennial being weird and awkward around my adult crush. | Crushes |
Everytime I have a crush and see that my crush will be better with someone else that me and than I am a second choice, I sit with my crush and his friends and the past two days I feel like a second choice with one of girls in that friend group who doesn't likes me in particular and I think both of her and my crush would be better,should I tell I feel like that I am his second choice? | Crushes |
My crush and I have been in the same boxing class since we were little kids. I don't know why, but he can't stand me. You think I'm exaggerating? When I try to talk to him he just looks me in the eyes and goes straight away. The moment he looks at me you can seriously see all the joy leaving his soul :,,(.
However, when he talks to others he seems like the sweetest and nicest boy alive! He is very polite and cute to everyone except me. :(
Help! I would be so happy if someone could tell me how to approach him or how to at least make him stop hating me.
Thanks in advance! | Crushes |
*Tl;DR - Interested in this guy who seems sweet and nice. Left him my number, but he never texted and seems too busy to hangout. Remembers the little details and looks at me like there might be something there. Conflicted about if I should ask him out, continue being cordial or just move on and avoid him altogether.*
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So there's this guy that I'm kinda interested in. We met over 4 months ago now, very randomly over games, and ended up talking and laughing a lot. We vibed pretty well and I thought he was cute and so left him my number. But he never texted lol. I'm sorta guilty of that too where I meet someone, we have a fun time, they leave me their number and it slips my mind to text them back. So I'm not sure if its that or if he's just not as interested.
Anywayyy, we met recently again, and he's very sweet, he hugs me every time he sees me and we talk for a bit, and then he either has to rush to class or we run into each other at the recreation center where he comes in to play table tennis. I wanna hang out and spend more time with each other to just chill. But he has been busy with classes when I've asked to hang. I also asked him to drop me a text so we could plan to meet later, but he still hasn't, so i'm not sure what's up with that.
Last week, there was a fest at university, and I wanted to spend the day with him roaming about, but he was with this other girl. I've never seen him with her before, but we met, he hugged me, talked for a bit and then said he'd see me later. I suggested we all go together, and he said they wanted to take pictures and that let's meet inside the hall where the performances were going to happen. Ngl, that was such a bummer.
I just moved on to enjoying the performances, and spent the rest of the time with my other friends. It was a fun evening!
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Anyway, about this guy now. The way he looks at me, and talks to me, makes me feel there's something there. He remembers and notices the little things about me, but with the other stuff I just mentioned, I don't even know anymore. That evening, I wanted to just tell him how I felt, that I honestly just wanted to spend it together, and it was kinda disappointing that he doesn't see it.
Communication and being authentic are my essence, so I can't any longer pretend like everything's cool between us and that I'm happy being friends. This leaves me with the options of either telling him that I'm interested in him and if he wants to go out, just let things be as they are, or avoid him because I can't pretend.
I saw him yesterday, and just avoided him. He came in to play tennis, and I was there with my friends laughing over card games. We both know we're there, and momentarily we make eye contact, but I look right through him, because I honestly felt hurt, and I don't wanna talk and put on a facade that everything is good between us. He registered that I was avoiding him and so he also didn't come over to say hello. It is what it is.
But even this, I'm very soft and sensitive, and i'm the most friendly and acknowledging person I know, so avoiding someone and not communicating directly is so not me.
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What would you do in my place? Ask him out, act cordial and like everything is cool, or just avoid them? | Crushes |
Started talking to a classmate i've had for 4 years (basically never even even exchanged words with her throughout the 4 years) around 2-3 months ago, coincidentally the time I started having a crush on her. It kind of started from nothing and it was unexpected since she is a pretty closed person and I'm pretty introverted but it's morphed into a good friendship and I'm one of the like 3 people to call her a "close" friend and vice versa. Throughout these last 2-3 months we've been talking daily steadily and I've managed to get myself deeper and deeper in the friendzone while the crush is simoultanously evolving to annoying highs.
Under different circumstances I'd have no problems expressing my feelings, but taking into account that we're in the same class, and have been for 4 years and will be for 2 more, the worst thing that can happen is not her just saying "no". The relationship I have with her and our chats brighten my day, and she's helped me with stuff and I've helped her, by her saying no this friendship immediately would stop and I'd just hate to lose that (not to mention the amount of gossip that would go around our class, which has also remained the same for 4 years).
Normally, I comfort myself by thinking "eh it is what it is" and trying not to care, but I always end up caring. Lately, it's been becoming more and more annoying to deal with, the fact that I really like this girl while there's a 99% chance of me being in the mariana trench of friendzones. It's gotten to the point where I'm considering taking that 1% chance and losing all of my contact with her, and some of my classmates and being ridicouled by the rest, but at the same time I really don't want to. Every time I try to do what I believe is the right thing and try to lose feelings for her and ignore her I just can't.
Worst part I think is that we're in a joke "relationship" (more proof I'm in the rockbottom of the frienzone) and I have to cope with it all the time.
So I guess I'm asking for advice? | Crushes |
i told him i wanted to hang out more. is this weird? how would u feel if someone u liked or anyone in general said this to u? | Crushes |
I (24M) have never dated anyone before and thought I should start soon. I'm currently in university doing my Masters. I saw this girl in my class who had newly joined this semester and found her quite cute. On the first day of our class, we were made into groups for a group presentation, and me and she were grouped together.
We had another class in common later that week, and although we exchanged pleasantries, we couldn't speak much. She doesn't meet many new people and she has made a friend with one of the members of our group presentation, who is also in this class, and they always seem to hang around.
How do I strike a conversation with her? How do I become a good friend first? How and when do I admit my crush to her? How do I come across as attractive to her?
I have a few more classes with her after which I'm afraid I'll never see her again. | Crushes |
I (18F) have a crush on a woman (≈30F) in my school.
I plan on tell it to her on June, before I'll leave the school forever.
I don't know how she will react, and I don't know if in her eyes our age difference will be acceptable.
That's why I'm asking your opinion on the matter. | Crushes |
I've been friends with a woman I met online for several months now, who I've been on days out with a few times and I've developed a crush on her. I'm just not sure if she feels the same way but there are several potential hints that make me think she might. Can you help me figure out whether these are hints or if they're just something any female friend would do? I'm neurodivergent so I'm terrible at social cues and working out all the signs, I just need some advice really!
* Always wears strong perfume when she meets me
* She puts on lipstick in front of me
* Brushes against my hand a lot when we're walking together, this might just be an accident though
* She'll always use an opportunity to get close to me, like when we're on the bus or sitting on a bench
* Sometimes she'll rest her head on my shoulders
* She's sent a few selfies and outfit pics to me when she's gone on nights out
* Says she's cold all the time (I hear this is a hint about wanting a hug, but I don't want to overstep boundaries so I just try to offer her my coat when she says this instead lol)
* Sometimes she'll smile while briefly gazing into my eyes but then she gets shy and looks away
* She wished me a happy Valentine's Day (although friends sometimes say this to each other just to be kind)
Oh, and one more thing, she called me "bestie" a couple of times in the past. Is this instant friendzone or just a fleeting comment? And sometimes she won't reply to me for a few hours or in not much detail but she is very busy so that's understandable anyway.
TL;DR: I want to know whether or not my crush likes me, are these hints?
Thanks everyone! :) | Crushes |
So I confessed about a week ago then the next few days I greeted her good morning, good afternoon, good evening, and good night. She was reacting with heart everytime I do so and even reply at times. She's pretty busy knowing she's a school leader and the class president. 4 days after confessing I asked if I had a chance or not and she responded back with a "sorry I'm not really interested with that kind of stuff, study first". But the other day our teacher made us recite the resistor color coding and I kept on catching her eye but she tries to avoid mines. I'm confused on what I should do next. | Crushes |
So I've had a crush on a girl, she openly said in front of me that I was her type, from our mutual friends I learned that she was also into me, this couldn't be worse tbh, because what makes her not wanting to get into a relationship with me is because we're 800+km apart, I understand this but f.
Our mutual friends told me that this could work out if we both are willing to get into this type of relationship, long distance relationship, where we could see each other once a month at least, possible but difficult to say the least.
Besides I noticed I dream about her a lot recently, if that means anything?
What do y'all think? | Crushes |
Thirteen days ago, I had posted something here:
https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/114ybva/how_can_one_guy_go_from_askin_me_how_my_day_went/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
I was wondering at that time, how can this same guy (let's name him Stoffel) go from asking me how my day had gone, he was actively sending me both text-based messages on Instagram with one after another after another batch of VoiceMessages.
Heck, we went from SFW to NSFW from January to the end of February and start of March.
First of all, in contrast to this sly cheater's behaviour, I had a different Crush (let's name him Benn with a double N 😹 what a great human being he was and probably is) who disclosed that he had a GF both by SMS and in-person straight to my face, and that he is still following his employer's rules (he works as a Pool Bartender/Server at a Hotel/Residence I was regularly going to) that employees are not allowed to go out with people like myself, and that at every turn of the conversation he is loyal to his girlfriend and that he kept it Professionally straight up the whole way through. This guy Benn restored my faith in good people, congratulations to the parents who raised such a dedicated motivated decent human being.
Well, I am glad I know from that encounter with Benn that what Stoffel has been doing illicitly with and without me is just plain WRONG yet it does happen all the time.
And, I know my worth, I'll just keep teasing Stoffel (you fucking sly cheater 😹). Not mad at him, but, not going to give him a slice of my good life, nope. To think I was going to surprise him with a mini gift (related to Motorcycles as we both are into that throttle-life).
Girls and guys, be careful... some people are really wired to have a wandering eye and can't keep it straight up about their having a boyfriend or girlfriend whilst wanking about "flirting" fooling around without consequence... | Crushes |
So to keep it short, I developed a crush on a girl 1 grade below me while not having any information about her, so it's basically a hallway crush. At that point of time I only had 6 weeks of school left as I'm in my final grade. As of now, I have refused myself from trying to do anything because it would be hella stupid to do so with exams flying around left ang right and 3 weeks left in school total. I still don't know anything about her other than a little bit about her routine. Even though my feelings are messing a lot with me, I still think the most sensible option is to focus on myself, for the simple reasons that I don't know her and that I can always find someone else to like (there's plenty of fish in the sea) | Crushes |
On this guy at my husband's work. My husband knows, don't worry. It's just so weird because besides my husband I haven't had a crush on anyone in years. It just came out of nowhere. Hit me like a ton of bricks! Nothing will ever come of it but I just had to tell SOMEONE. It sucks, I'd like to forget it but I can't stop thinking about him. Crushes can be so wild, lol. | Crushes |
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