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So basically I like someone cool great well I thought this time around I’ll be first choice. Nope I’m second once again cool whatever, but that’s not the worse part their dating a toxic person. I don’t wanna seem jealous but I kinda am, because now their always talking about them and if it’s bad I help them because that’s what a good friend would do. Deep down I don’t want to be I’ll feel guilty if I don’t and know I don’t know what to do because my friends tell me to leave because I’m getting play and at the another’s say trust the process. | Crushes |
feeling a little sad on this sunday afternoon. | Crushes |
Bro… every time I think about my crush, ESPECIALLY the moment when we cuddled, I scrunch up with joy. Like- my entire body just kinda squeezes up and i hug myself or something and I want to squeal out of pure happiness.
I have to try so hard not to do it when I’m with him though- like when we watched a movie sat next to each other and leaning on each other I was trying so hard not to just squish up with joy. It will happen one day. AAHHH | Crushes |
I'm not sure if this is the right flair if it's not I'm so sorry but on with the post so I met this girl about a month ago I talked to her and got her snap and I'm pretty sure I have a crush on her she's funny kind and so nice shes also so cute but everyone I've talked to said it's not a crush because I've only known them for a month so I'm wondering if I even have a crush or if I have to know them for longer I know this is dumb but I'm new to crushing so some advice would be largely appreciated | Crushes |
This boy and I started talking and he's confessed that he has a crush on me multiple times. I want to try to keep this short but basically I like him back, but shortly after I started liking him back a ton of drama started happening.
One of my freshmen friends is obsessed with him and I was told that he was flirting with another girl, which he said was a lie. My art class thinks that me and this girl are dating, we're not, but she keeps telling me that I dont need him and a ton of other stuff. And last night, another girl was dancing on him, his hands on her waist and everything. (Obviously I'm not mad at the girl for dancing on him, she couldn't have know that we were talking).
He told me that I'm the only person he likes/has a crush on though. I just can't stop these third parties from interfering, what do I do? | Crushes |
(This happened 2 days ago btw)He stood right beside me during the morning ceremony. BUT he was standing on the wrong line as lines are separated by grades (there was only a few centimeters between us aaa)
Also it was very unusual because he usually stands at the back rather than front so yeah. I don't know if he did it to be close to me or for some other reason.
Now I wonder if he'll do the same thing tomorrow too. I'm probably just high on copium lol | Crushes |
We started flirting a lot just two days ago, and we’ve said we love each other. I absolutely love how direct and forward she is honestly, but I gotta admit it feels like it’s moving really fast.
In two days of talking we’ve said we love each other, does that sound too fast for you or do you think it’s just right?
Tbh I kinda want it to slow down, I still have things I need to sort out, but I’m curious what you would feel in this situation. | Crushes |
so for context, this guy (C) and i have know each other for a really long time. his friends have always told me that he likes me for the longest time, which he denies. he asked for my number a few days ago, and we have been sending memes back and forth. the thing is he's really mean to me, and i asked him why and he said that i give off a "good reaction", whatever the hell that means. he's always given off vibes that he likes me, and he was kinda sad when i didn't sit with him during one of the camps we had both gone to. so... what do i do about this predicament? | Crushes |
This is probably the least person you're expecting to be writing this. I mean, we barely know each other, and we started talking only a few months back.
The first time I truly saw you was during the farewell, where you were friendly to me even though you had never talked to me before. There was something in that friendly charisma that charmed me.
I tried to get closer to you, you know? But you make me so anxious. Thinking about you makes me get butterflies.
We did get closer eventually, I guess, by closer I mean we aren't complete strangers anymore. I love the way you make me feel when you're around me, I love the way you hug me, love the way you lift me, love the way you talk to me and notice me.
When I think about you, I really can't stop. Even though I try, so hard, I can't stop. You're in my dreams, my daydreams, you're the only thing I can think about..
But, unfortunately, I'm not the thing you think about. You have someone else, someone who seems like an awesome person too. And trust me, I'm trying to move on, I really am. But I have never struggled this hard to get over someone. You really are something, there is something different about you.
But then you go around giving other girls the same attention you give me. You know how much it hurts? Hurts to fall off your pedestal, getting punched with the harsh reality that you aren't at all what you thought you were.
I really wish I could've met you in 11th grade, when she wasn't in the picture. My heart fills with regret everytime I think over that fact, and it physically pains me. How could I be so blind. Your eyes, your earring, your rings, your hair. Thinking about you fills me with warmth. I hope writing you this letter would help me climb a little step, leading to a state where I'm completely over you. | Crushes |
Now he’s the one guy I have added. And he spoke to me for the first time a few days ago. I thought I wouldn’t have any progress till next semester (switching into a couple of his classes because dual enrollment) but maybe not?😃 | Crushes |
Omg help me | Crushes |
17M here crushing on a 17F. It’s frustrating, especially in my current state of mental, to see my crush giving very opposing interactions at random timings.
An example is saying hi in the hall,
One day, I’ll say hi to her and she’ll give me back the driest hi you’ll ever hear (sometimes not even a hi :( which is very sad ), and others times she’ll come up from behind to come say hi and then we would walk around for a while talking.
Same during the class we both have. There are days where we hardly talk. Even if I talk to her the conversation dies out really quick. Then other days she’s very talkative.
We would be texting, and one day she’ll reply with texts drier than dried fruits, and other days be really engaged with emojis and text emojis like this :) ;)
Any thoughts…? Any female out who might be able to relate to her?? | Crushes |
Okay so I (18F) just moved into college about a month ago. I met a girl
(18F) through some hangout with a bunch of other first years about around the same time as well. We only interacted a little bit with each other; I was mostly talking with other people.
But later that night, she requested to follow me on instagram despite me never telling her my instagram.
Then throughout the week, we would run into each other on occasion until finally she added me on snapchat randomly.
She’s initiated most of our conversations on snapchat and we’ve been talking for the past two to three weeks on there.
So I’m wondering if y’all have any idea why she’s doing this? I did find out she’s a lesbian the first day we met each other, and I’m bi. I just don’t want to jump to conclusions and presume that she might like me or something, because queer women can definitely be friends without dating but I’m kind of into her so I hope she is too. | Crushes |
She (20F) was the first person who I (22M) felt was special enough to share a future with. We met each other February of last year and became great friends. I found that I had never met anyone -- male or female -- with so many common interests, similar senses of humor, etc. We clicked so well that people would ask from time to time if we were dating (or how long we had been dating for). But it took me until February to develop romantic feelings for her, and after she met her now-boyfriend, those feelings only intensified until they became a couple. I would have asked her out as soon as I caught feelings, but literally within the week that I started having feelings for her, she said some stuff about how she didn't want a serious relationship with anyone at the moment. Looking back at it now, I think she somehow could tell that I was starting to develop feelings for her and was trying to let me down easy and I didn't realize it. I felt trapped for those next couple months, and all of my friends were telling me to wait for her if she was someone who was worth waiting for (I thought she was). And yes, I feel horrible for being friends with someone who I had romantic feelings for. But I didn't know what else to do and wanted to show her that I respected her current needs.
I tried to be myself during this whole thing, and I think 99% of the time, I felt like I was truly myself around her -- which is a huge deal considering I have Asperger's and have always struggled to be myself around anyone. I did a handful of things to show her that I'd be great boyfriend material, but overall, I just feel like I was a disaster.
**Too immature**: there were a couple of times where were out in public and found ourselves having to work together to solve an unexpected inconvenience. Nothing bad happened, but not sure how else to describe it. I had an opportunity to take the lead and show her that I'm a responsible person, only for my phone to be dead and force me to essentially serve as a bystander as a result. We also went to see a movie together one time, and I just remember being a nervous wreck that entire night and blanking on basic social cues that I know 99% of the time, like asking people to stand up so we could make our way to our seat. There were a handful of other times where I felt like I could have been a little more mature, but the three events above were the main ones.
**A bit pushy sometimes**: there were a couple of times where I felt like I was a bit too pushy. The main time was when I asked her if she wanted to be my plus-one to a take-a-date event that our social organization we were in was hosting, and she asked if she could think about it. I was admittedly caught off-guard by that answer, since 1) I wasn't expecting anything but a yes or no answer from her and 2) I was supposed to be visiting my hometown the weekend of that dance and needed to know as soon as possible if I could push up my flight by a day so I could get back in time to go to the dance with her. This dance was a big deal for me, and I wanted to go with her because I loved spending time with her and felt that we were close enough to go together even if there were no strings attached. My response to her uncertainty was "when can I expect to have an answer?", and I could tell that response made her feel uncomfortable and put pressure on her. She ended up rejecting the invite on the basis that we were in the same social organization, but she also said that she would have accepted if the dance was hosted by a group that I was in but she wasn't.
**Lack of knowledge in certain 'relationship' areas**: I went to an all-boys Catholic school growing up and 95% of my friends growing up were guys. That percentage decreased a bit in college, but it was still very heavily skewed in favor of guys. Throw in the fact that I grew up in a very religious and socially-conservative family, and it makes sense that I have next to zero knowledge about sex or anything related to women's interests (i.e. fashion, makeup, etc.). There was one time where we were talking about makeup and I asked her where exactly on the face mascara went, and I felt really embarrassed about that. We would also occasionally talk about sex (not regarding having it with each other, but rather just sex in general), and I apparently didn't know what I was talking about, because she'd occasionally say stuff like "that's not how it works". She told me one time (before I developed feelings for her) that sexual compatibility was a big deal for her in a relationship, and looking back at things, I wonder if she rejected me at least in part because of my lack of sexual experience.
**Other stuff**: for whatever reason, a couple of weeks before she met her now-boyfriend, I started dedicating even more attention to her and making it seem like she was the most important factor to my happiness. That level of attention only intensified after she met him and started losing interest in me. I did a bad job of showing her that I had other interests in my life and stuff like that. I also felt like I could have done a better job of compromising. We cuddled a lot (nothing beyond just embracing each other in bed and talking about anything and everything late into the night) and we did that a lot more than actual 'friend' activities like getting lunch or seeing a movie. I remember one time she wanted to go play racquetball together and I said that I wasn't in the mood for that and just wanted to cuddle. At the beginning of things, I thought I did a good job of making her voice heard, but as time went on, I found myself doing an increasingly worse job of that. I also never really complimented her aside from a handful of times. I tried to give her advice and encourage her the few times she talked about issues she was facing in different aspects of her life, but I feel like I did a bad job of giving advice and didn't help her feel any better. And we never really talked about what our goals in life were, but the few times we did, I feel like I did a bad job of communicating my positions on things.
It's been four months since I confessed my feelings and since we last talked, and I don't feel much better. She's an amazing friend who handled my confession incredibly well and is giving me time to sort out my feelings, but at this point, I'm really scared that my feelings for her are always going to be romantic. We care so much about each other and I've been trying my hardest to put aside my emotions and be happy about the fact that she's happy with her boyfriend, but it hurts a lot just to think of the fact that I thought this girl and I were perfect for each other and instead she's now with someone who I just can't compete with. They've only been dating for four months, but knowing her history of long-term relationships and some other factors, it feels like they're going to be a couple forever and I'll always be asking what-ifs and stuff like that.
I've been seeing a therapist and have been getting support from friends and family. I do feel marginally better than back in June when we had the talk, but I just feel so defeated. I had made so much progress in so many areas of my life in the year leading up to me developing feelings for her, and I feel like I lost all that progress and then some. I'm trying to distract myself by applying myself to my new job, going to the gym every day, and pursuing other interests, but I'm finding that the thoughts always come back. I'm trying to meet new people and stuff like that by playing in an adult volleyball league two nights a week, a soccer league another two nights, and going to a trivia night at a bar near me once a week, but I'm not really enjoying any of that as much as I thought I would. I ended up going to the park last night and crying for an hour just because my feelings overwhelmed me yet again, and I didn't get any sleep last night (I'm typing this at Starbucks right now just so I can have some coffee).
I have no idea what to do -- why haven't things changed for the better yet? Is it even possible for me to ever comfortably be friends with her again? Am I overthinking all of these things? The past four months have been a personal hell and I just want to be happy again. I feel so embarrassed about writing all of this, but I don't see my therapist again for a couple of weeks and feel like I'm really regressing in the progress I've made and I think my friends are starting to get tired of helping me. I just feel like I handled everything about this so horribly, likely forever changed my friendship with her, and just feel horrible overall. | Crushes |
It's pretty clear that he likes me back but I'm struggling to believe it.
I like him so much that I can't believe he likes me. I don't look attractive. I don't feel attractive.
Is he just lonely? Desperate even? Why me?
I want him so badly but I'm feeling the urge to pull away. That I'm not going to be what he wants.
idk | Crushes |
He's one of my best friends ever, he helps me through things and he's really protective of me. Hanging out with him is always so fun and ever since I met him I've actually had someone I trust. He's never broken a promise or told anyone anything I've asked him not to. I've only known him for a few months but I feel confident saying I'd do anything for him, not only is he my crush but he's my best friend. What's even better is his family treats me better than mine does so I know I can trust everyone in his family, I've never been wronged by him and I'm hoping it stays that way | Crushes |
Its been a whole year since i fell in love with her. And almost a year (15 October 2021 Friday) since i waited in the storm just to see her face and got sick afterwards.
Asked her out on December 2021,got rejected.
My post a year ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/uitfdi/she_is_a_fucking_goddess/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
I cant forget her. Nothing works. I am aware that time is going to fix it. But every second i live in unberable pain. She finally changed her Instagram pfp and she looks gorgeous. Every time i look at her beautiful almond shaped wood coloured eyes my heart melts and crumbles at the same time. Its like i have a vaccum in between my two ribs sucking my whole life energy off of me. And the thought of her loving another man,hugging and kissing another man as she started university is devistating me.
Another solution im hearing is replacing her with another. I wish i could. I really wish there was a girl as pretty,as feminine,as natrual,as non-attention wanting,as elegant as her. I cant see any. I cant see any around me. Its like a piece of my soul is missing. Funny. I dont even believe in souls.
Everybody used to call me a cold,emotionless man but she took my stone heart,softened it,then made it even harder and crushed it into a million pieces.
I can't take this pain any longer. | Crushes |
I keep trying to remind myself to just be friends with him but its so difficult. I literally just met the guy 😭 i have a problem | Crushes |
She sits next to me in one of my classes, but we only really started talking recently. After school, when we bump into each other, we usually take the same train home. However, I usually alight at an earlier stop to transfer to a different train, while she continues to take that first train. Recently, she started to alight at the same stop as me and takes an alternate route home - a route that is slightly more inconvenient for her. So maybe she likes to spend time with me?
She does seem to maintain decent eye contact when talking and she appears comfortable talking to me. Also, she initiates and sustains most of the talking, and sorta remembers details about me.
Unfortunately, I’m still reluctant to jump on the idea that she likes me. Outside of our conversations, she doesn’t look at me very often. She also talks to a decent number of guys and mainly only talks to me about school. I’ve also been rejected once before so I’m a little scared lol.
What do you guys think? | Crushes |
She messaged me on Tuesday and said she wanted me to be with her. we been texting each other every day and night. i tell her good morning and good night and i do my best to comfort her. we have each other as our wallpaper as well 🥰 being with her has made me less insecure about myself and i feel extremely happy. i love her so much.
Update: she just asked for more pictures of me im so happy | Crushes |
Liked him last year, he turned out to have girlfriend, apologized and ended my feelings, things are awkward for the rest the year.
This year I had planned to not get any romantic feelings until college. UNFORTUNATELY NONE OF MY PLANS EVER WORK. Things had started getting less and less awkward between us and eventually he asked for my number to "exchange memes because we had such similar humor" I try not to think much of it but that night he had texted me and we ended up having a very interesting conversation that lasted until midnight. Afterwards within one week he has got me to fall for him all over again, it's a nightmare that I'm inlove with! I would typically tell myself I'm overreacting and that he's just being friendly but jevbwkwbsbofy3g MAN are there so many hints! He's given me three things (Apple sauce, Cookies, and Pumpkin bread), went all the way to the cafeteria to get me a spoon, went out of his way to ask about my drawings, and few other things. Which it's great that I like him and it's fairly obvious to think he likes me back, but I just don't know how to hint that I'm also interested. My friend told me to flirt with him (to be honest I don't know how to but according to google I have been for years?), and so I've spending more time talking to him in the halls and starting conversations in class and text, but now I'm worried that I looked desperate.
I really hate human emotions and the fact that I don't know the right way to express mine especially when he uses emojis and texts with full punctuation THE MAN PUTS A PERIOD AFTER EVERY SENTENCE | Crushes |
Sunday. 10/9.
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Oh god
I wish I could send this to you
And say "hey, look at this thing i wrote about u."
And also say "i'm over it i just see u as a friend dw lmao but
i wanted u to see this bc i think its cool"
(and not be lying about seeing you just as a friend)
(i would be)
​
I do want you to see this, at some point
If not for the fact that it's about you
Then for the fact that it's a genuinely good poem
At least in my mind
​
But you'd be weirded out by it
I'm 98% sure of that
And I don't want to lose the scraps of friendship we have because of this
​
Maybe I'll send it to you
Right before the semester change
Who knows?
I won't be lying then, probably.
​
Even if I do send it to you then,
There's less that can go wrong
Because we probably won't have as many classes together
Just orchestra
And it's easier to pretend I don't see you in a class of 80 people
​
Maybe over summer break?
No, that's too far away.
​
There's not much to save, anyways
The reason I'm thinking about sending this to you before a break
Is to give it time to aleviate the awkwardness
To preseve our friendship
​
What is there to preserve?
I talk to you first 95% of the time
Give you little things
Tell you jokes
Smile at you
All of these things
And you don't do them back
(Which is fine)
Friends talk to each other, at least a little bit
It's a two way street, like I said earlier
​
If you've lost ALL feelings for me, romantic and platonic
Then I have absolutely jack shit to lose by sending you this
​
I know I'll regret both sending this to you and not sending this to you
So I might as well hit send
​
I've imagined this conversation between us several times in the last week, so I figured I'd write it down:
you: i don't find you annoying, caden. i'd said it before and i'll say it again.
me: yeah, you say that. and i want to believe you.
me: but there's a difference between saying "oh i'll tolerate this person" (ie, they don't annoy me) and saying "i enjoy being around this person and i willingly seek out their presence" (ie, what i wish you felt.)
you: ...
me: yeah. and you dont do that. you sit next to me at lunch sometimes, but that's probably just to talk to kate. you dont walk me to class or text me first or tell me jokes or put your arm on top of my head or send me videos of you playing your balloon guitar or ask me how my day was
me: and i really like being around you so i do all those things but the fact that you dont do them back tells me that you dislike being around me and i go ahead and ignore those signs and im really really sorry because thats a selfish thing to do and that makes me a shitty person
​
And in all the times I've imagined me saying that
Every single time
I've never been able to come up with a response.
What would you say?
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Ah, fuck
I wish I could just send you those verses as a kind of apology
But that would be talking to you
And like I said, shitty person.
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December break can't come soon enough
(68 days)
Because once I send this to you
I think I'll finally be able to get it into my head
That I feel all these things
And you don't
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I so badly want to see you as just a friend
You have no idea how much I wish I could just turn off these feelings
I admire your ability to do that
(Or at least to hide it)
(I wish I could)
​
I worry that I make you uncomfortable
Even though that's the last thing I want to do
​
But I can't help it!
You're an amazing person and I love being around you!
And I need to realize that you don't feel the same way!
Fuck!
​
I'll back off, I promise
Come Monday (tomorrow)
I'll just
Take a step back.
Give you the space I should have months ago
​
I should've done that the second
The instant
We agreed to just be friends
​
But I didn't
Because some small part of me
Hoped that you mirrored my feelings
​
I invited you to the football game two days ago
Just to say:
"hey. want to hang out with me on purpose?"
(i wasn't trying to ask you out, truly. i just wanted to spend time with you.)
​
You said that you didn't reply because you were sleeping
(yeah, I still don't believe you.)
Which is a random enough excuse so that I might not think you made it up
​
But what person is sleeping at 5:45 on a Friday?
How dumb am I?
Why did it take you saying THAT for me to realize?
​
I'm sorry. | Crushes |
I am not sure how to write this but here we go.
So I was commonly bullied as I grew because of my weight. Beginning of the 9th grade I had a serious crush on one of my classmates. She is a beautiful volleyball player. I gave my shot and it didn't turn out well. I learned from her friends that she was even disgusted by the idea of me liking her. Then I went into a bad depression phase for months and started to go to Sport regularly and lost 30 kg (66 lbs) in six months of time. I still don't have abs but with good lighting and a little flexing they show a bit. While in that period I was nearly always sad and frustrated, during this time I learned about black-pill and such and became even more depressed. Sometimes I even thought of suicide. I am extremely grateful that my friends and family supported me trough all of these.
Fast forward to summer. I was in Germany for a month to attend a language course. I tried my chance with a girl of my age but it didn't work out. Then one month ago our school was reopened.
Due to a student exchange program lots of students from the same class went so the school decided to separate that class. Due to that a new girl come to our class. I talked with her and her witty personality was really attractive. I wanted to learn what she thought of me and asked the girl before, my 9th grade crush, to help me. She accepted and asked her about the boys in our class. My crash said her that she found all the boys in our class unattractive. This time I wasn't depressed like the first one because I always said to myself beforehand "Don't have high expectations, it is better to be surprised than to be disappointed.".
Problem is that I am a 16 year-old, who haven't even had his first kiss yet. It feels like I am not deserving of love. This hits me when I am least expecting of it. Like in a cold night or chatting with my friends on the beach. My feelings for the last girl is still existent but greatly lessened. I don't know what to do.
P.S: English is not my native language sorry for grammar mistakes. | Crushes |
Idk what to tell him do I admit before its too late? | Crushes |
I've had a subtle crush on this guy at my college for the past few weeks. He's on my bus at least twice a week, and I'm in the same lecture and lab section as he is. The other day I managed to have my first conversation conversation with him, which was really nice. But from this conversation I learned some rather interesting news that has caused me to reconsider this little crush- I don't think I'm the gender he prefers. He says he's probably bi, but I could tell he was insinuating that he leaned more towards men.
So I'm going to be gradually letting go of any notions I've built up the past while. Which is all the while more confusing, because I really got a lot of hints that he might think I'm cute as well. He held the door for me in a weird way where I could only enter by ducking under his arm, and after that he gave me a silly smile. And then on the bus, he pressed the stop button for me even though he had to lean over me and I could reach it myself. Then he gave me the silly smile again which admittedly gave me butterflies.
But deep down I know he is bi with a preference for men, it would be silly to think I'd happen to be the exception. But I haven't seen that smile before in my life, and I can tell there's something to it. Right now I'm going through the motions of accepting that he's probably just going to be a nice bus buddy, but my god do I think he is adorable.
What should I do? | Crushes |
i hate this part of the process. it sucks. it hurts. i spent 2 hours crying yesterday cause of old texts and over a boy who will never see me more than a friend or even stranger at this point. he started to ignore me cause his new best friend dislikes me and tells him what to do, and im 110% sure treating me like absolute shit and dirt was one of them. | Crushes |
when it's just the two of us talking, texting, or hanging out, he's literal the sweetest, funniest, most mannered guy and I really like him. but when we're hanging out in our friend group and he's talking with the other guys, they're always making such dirty jokes and doing stupid things idk how I should feel abt this? | Crushes |
I am literally shaking rn....we were flirting and he randomly says "You are the best thing that happened to me." Now, that's a big thing but I'm an idiot so I panicked and said "thanks" and ran away. I mean what else was I to do?! | Crushes |
i hung out with my friends yesterday and my crush was there too. But it was so much fun yesterday. I like how our friend group is right now. I feel like I'll ruin things if I keep liking him not even knowing if he likes me back. What if i try to make a move and it just ruins everything. But like the two of us exchange like big upside down smiles when we pass by each other in the halls or when I pass by his class and like ahhh my heart just can't. but I dont want to ruin our friend group I'm scared | Crushes |
I'm so happy that it happened but I'm scared to date her... her parents approve of me and me and her have been friends for 5-6 years... what should I do? | Crushes |
we’re both really into music and last night we were texting and we decided to recommend albums to each other and i mean firstly the album he recommended me was fucking incredible and THEN he said that i had amazing taste in music and that he wanted to swap recommendations again some time ahhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | Crushes |
((Firstly, sorry for any grammar mistakes, English isn't my first language lol))
Also: Me (15F) and him (15M)
So I met this guy at school, at the very beginning of the year. And we've been friends since then, we've discovered we're really alike. We both have the same hobbies, the same music taste, the same sense of humor, the same thoughts, we like the same games, etc etc. And I've only realized last month that I have a crush on him, and that he shows somes signs too!! He constantly tells me how I've changed him to a better and cooler person, that I'm one of the best friends he has ever made in school, hell, he even hugs me sometimes bruh ((one example is that, last week, I was really anxious cuz I had to present a school project, he noticed that and hugged me lmao)), but idk, I'm still not sure...
So, about the title. This is actually not the first time I've been to his house, I went to his house earlier this year to celebrate his birthday, but I was with our friends from our friend group. This time, however, I'm going by myself and I'm so anxious about it!!1!
For context, I really like the movie BladeRunner 2049, and I reference it a lot around him lol, so one day, he randomly sent me on discord "yo yo yo let's watch BladeRunner in my house someday xDDD", I said "sure lol", but I'm so nervous and anxious as I'm going by myself!!1
That's why I'm asking, random strangers, I need some encouragement!! Any advice on what I should do?
If you read this far, thank you so much, kind stranger!! | Crushes |
I can't stop thinking about her. She isn't the best looking tbh. But her sense of humor is great. I love her personality. To bad she ain't single :D YaY. | Crushes |
Haven't confessed or anything, still keeping it to myself. Next week I have an exhibit for a project I had to do and parents will be there, so I want to impress them. How do I go about that, especially when they may be slightly strict? | Crushes |
Exactly 2 years ago I fell for a 23M (Luke) bc we were always calling, texting and he was helping me with personal issues. At the time he would initiate the convos and movie nights which I thought was weird. I caught feelings for him as we hung out more and we even had a few all nighter calls which BARELY happens to me with any friend.
after a few months I confessed to him and he rejected me bc he has been interested in my friend for a while which is fine. It's just that over the pass months Luke was giving mix signals and i just wanted to make sure if the his feelings were mutual. I still wanted to be friends which he was chill about. after that it was hard to look at his face and i tried to forget the whole confession and pressume our friendship.
I did and still have a small crush on Luke. Everyday I tell myself that he's not interested and i know that he has been texting my friend basically everyday so i cant do much there. Back to present day, we still hangout together with our other friends and recently my feelings for him have been growing more n more everyday.
u know when u like someone so much u begin to have dreams about them...well I have over the past week and it's really hard talking to him. what do I do to get over Luke? | Crushes |
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This guy and I started dating recently, however we haven’t kissed yet.
For context we met through a friend of ours, and started talking over the summer, found out we had lots of things in common etc.
Anyway things have been going really well. When we go out it’s genuinely so good, like we laugh a lot, can be silent with each other without it being awkward, so the chemistry is there.
However, I’m pretty shy when it comes to physical touch and I’m kind of scared to kiss him. Thing is my first kiss ever was terrible, like the guy really traumatised me tbh, and I’m not sure how I can overcome that/ talk about it with him. I know he would understand but I’m still kinda scared.
What can I do to make him understand that I want him to kiss me? Or should I kiss him? | Crushes |
Okay, so I’m crushing on a a guy. This wouldn’t be weird except for the fact that I’m a lesbian.
I’ve never been attracted to a guy before, girls have always been the ones I liked. It gets even more problematic because he’s two years older than me and has a girlfriend. He’s not even really my friend either.
We used to talk about music on the bus a couple years ago but he stopped taking the bus home and started biking instead.
He’s back on the bus and sits close to me but we don’t talk about music anymore. Really all we do is stick the middle finger up at each other jokingly whenever we see each other. I’m basically just hoping my crush on him goes away because I have absolutely no chance with him. | Crushes |
So I’m a freshman at university and since I saw this guy who’s sophomore according to my investigations;) I just can’t get him out of my head. I followed him on insta and he followed me back. SINCE I AM SO STUPID I replied to his story some kind of nonsense and his response was dry af. I have no idea what to do or how to get to know him PLEASE HELP | Crushes |
I just wanna tell him that I got them feelings for him. I mean I feel the same emotions each day. Idk it feels very weird. Am I in love? Idk, like staturday ad sunday im frowny but mon-fri im all giggling when ever I see his messages or him. I also blush like crazy. Idk how he doesnt know yet or maybe he might. | Crushes |
Hi!! I’m thinking of asking him out or just confessing him sometime this coming week. Also feel free to talk about your crush or something relating to the question you ask about mine!! | Crushes |
Go on ask questions | Crushes |
To be honest I thought it was over because I had already confessed with a not but then she stopped talking to me for a while and avoiding me but everything changed Wednesday when I kept catching her staring at me at a pep rally you guessed it ,I saw her looking over at me and not to mention eye contact, lots of eye contact.
So what do you guys think how should I go about this let me know. | Crushes |
He hasnt talked all day yesterday to me. Hes talking lesss. Im staring to feel like he doesnt like me or doesnt wanna be friends cause I think he doesnt even get my messages. He may be busy I geuss? Only time will tell. Its also gonna be extremely difficult cause its my time of the month and I can get extremely emotional rn like more than usual. I just wanna tell him I got them feelings for him but, idk cause I think if I did paper it would be weird; plus we only have lunch together. HELP What should I do?! Cause I know I did NOT do anything wrong and that would make me pissed off. | Crushes |
When the pandemic started, I used texting to my advantage to meet new people. I got my ex-girlfriend because of it, and I met some great people. One of those awesome people is my current crush. I didn't realize I had a crush on her because I buried my feelings for her. I was scared of having feelings for someone again after my last relationship, and I cried two days ago because I got feelings for her. She told me once how a good amount of her friends develop crushes on her. She'd talk to me about how awkward that would be. So I vowed to be a good friend and be there for her. Now, I find out that I romantically want to be there for her instead. A day after that realization, she told me she would like to set me up with one of her friends. I politely declined as I'm interested in some other people, but I'm scared to have feelings for someone again. I don't want to lose her because of them. I'm sure she sees me as a good friend because that's what I made myself to be for her. I feel so bad about all of this, what do I even do in this situation? | Crushes |
i like this guy sm
but i really wanna confess and actually end things cz i don't seem to be getting over him
he's just messing w my feelings | Crushes |
I doubt she was implying she wanted ME as her bf, but we were snapping, and sorta out of no where she just said "I want a boyfriend". I'm kicking myself on not asking if she was thinking of anyone in particular. This isn't a sign is it? | Crushes |
So just for fun I asked my crush to list 5 red flags and green flags about me, and one of the green flags she said was that im "not crushing on anybody" and I'm just super confused about what that's supposed to mean, y'all got any thoughts? | Crushes |
so we have our freshers in three days and i really wanna be w him on freshers
man idk
like i just wanna be only w him
i wanna take lots of pics w him
i want us to be together,dance together,walk back together
But just him
Shud i confess on freshers day?
I mean it's in a club and he'd be drunk
So he won't remember even if i say | Crushes |
Im good at crushing on people that have bad intentions or that don’t see me that way in the slightest. :) gg I cba anymore :_) | Crushes |
So I was messaging my crush and we somehow ended up on the topic of eating people, and I asked her who would she eat and she said "I'd rather eat myself than eat anyone else" and I asked her: "Not even me?" And she said: "You're too precious to eat"
I have no idea what to make of this | Crushes |
guys m so done
we're actually getting more closer and comfortable w each other like he teases and plays a lot w me and it's cute but it hurts me a lot at the same time too
I mean I wish I knew what's going on in his mind
Mayb he knows m into him but this shit idk
i made it so fucking obvious that m into him
other girls who were into him r kinda now done w him but i was actually into him since day one but i kept hiding my feelings
M done hiding everything
I wish I could tell him i actually care for him and wanna be ther for him everytime he feels like shit i wanna be ther at his worst i wanna make him feel good i wanna make him feel happy
I just want to be w him
He will never get it
He lifted me up two days ago, it was cute, that evening
mannnn
straight out of a movie
I can't believe
I was just hiding his keys and messing w him he kept saying all the time that he'll lift me up but i thought he wasn't serious i thought he was joking
But he actually did
How am I supposed to feel!?
How am I supposed to feel when the guy i reaaaaaaly like a lot lifts me up!?
Happy?Sad?Confused?
What the fuck are we?are we even friends?like what the fuck?wud u actually do this to a friend?
I texted him saying what happened today was not funny and he said it was funny to him
I said it's not to me but he said it is to him
I said the way we see things like this is not the same and this guy fuckin didn't get it and started acting dumb
I said nevermind just forget it
He'll never get it
He'll never get how much i like him
How much i actually care for him
He'll never get it
This situation is weird
Whatthefuck am i supposed to do tomorrow when we meet!?
like we've never met after he lifted me up and i told him he shouldn't have done that and he didn't even apologize and now facing him is gonna be so awkward
we're actually cute together but now it's kinda weird
i mean it's cute if he's into me but it's not if he's Just messing w my feelings
I tried telling him but he's dumb
BOYS R DUMB | Crushes |
So there was this girl I had a crush on for a couple months. Before this, we would have some small talk cause our lockers were right next to each other, and we were talking about each others classes etc. My friend also told me she saw one of her friends pointing at me/nudging at me. We recently went on a trip to an amusement park, and when we came across her and her friends, her friends were pushing us to ride a roller coaster together, and I could see her face getting red/blushing. I agreed cause why not, and her friends were always repeating to me, that I'm going to sit next to her. My friends were screaming to me to go catch up with her, so they were standing probably 20 feet away, and didn't come on the ride with me. After that, we got out, but everyone else wanted to go again, but she moved 1 seat back to sit with her friends, so this time i was sitting next to someone I knew from school. After that, we left and I went to my friends cause they were waiting outside. Couple days later, we were doing some community service, and she was one of the people that handed dinner out, while myself and a couple others were playing an instrument for background music. We took a break and waited on line to get some food. When I finished picking up food and was about to head out, she gave me a cup of water and smiled at me. I smiled back and went to sit down to eat. I asked my other friend who was with me there if she smiled at him but he said no. It's been about a week of us talking pretty much every day during school, and out side of it. When I texted her hi around a week ago, she responded hi? and my friends thought that wasn't a good sign but then yesterday, she texted one of my friends she wanted to keep this conversation with herself and my friend, and she asked if I had a crush on her. He responded yea I had feelings for her because our whole friend group was pretty positive she liked me, but then she said she wasn't ready to date, and said she just wanted to be friends/locker buddies. Summer is coming up in around 8 school days, and there is another trip to a water park, which is the third last day of school. What advice would you guys/girls give to me? Talk with her? Try to get closer with her? Ask her what are her intentions? Or just completely try to forget about her? | Crushes |
This is one of the greatest moments of my life. | Crushes |
There‘s this girl I work with who I fell for a little bit. She almost certainly doesn’t feel the same (I asked her out for drinks and she never really got back to me when she was free even though she said she was down for it), and I’ve been getting over her, but while I’m fine with just being friends, what hurts is not being able to be there for her like I’d like to be.
She’s probably one of the kindest and most caring people I’ve ever met. She always puts others first. She always has so much going on and just battles through it smiling and laughing. She’s hilarious, she’s so smart, she’s just a massive ray of sunshine and I know from talking to others that almost everyone who meets her agrees how great she is. She’s just a great person.
But she goes through so much and it hurts me a lot seeing her down. She struggled with serious illness in the past, which she’s recovered from, but has recently threatened to come back and left her immune system a wreck so she’s almost always really sick. She’s got family issues and deaths recently, she’s been in shitty relationships and had some sexual abuse happen in the past. She struggles with depression, anxiety, PTSD, I know she self-harms regularly, etc.
And I just wish I could be there for her way more than I am. There was one point it felt like we were getting really close. We’d be constantly joking around on shift, messaging all the time outside of work, hanging out outside of work from time to time, etc., but I think after I asked her out there’s been a weird bit of awkward distance between us. She stopped replying to my messages so often or reaching out, and every time we’re together there’s this weird settling in phase for a little while where it feels awkward between us before we settle back in to being normal with each other, like we don’t know where we stand.
Don’t get me wrong, we still get on great. It’s just a little awkward, which isn’t helped by me being socially awkward myself and probably acting a little weird about it. If she’s really having a bad day I’ll still give her a hug, we still message from time to time, we still joke around, but it all feels a little forced and distant compared to before.
And while I’m getting over her, I just wish we were close enough for me to comfort her more and be there for her like she deserves someone to be. I know no one person can solve someone’s mental health issues and problems in their life, but when I see her sad I just want to blurt out how amazing I think she is, how she’s always there for everyone, how she brightens up mine and tons of other people’s days just by being around, how she’s so fucking strong and I’m lucky to have met her, and how she doesn’t deserve any of this even though I know she thinks she does somehow, and that she thinks she’s a shitty person who somehow earned all the bad shit that happens to her.
Instead I’m stuck with a wall between us and all I can do is tease her and joke around sarcastically to try cheer her up, and check in where I can and occasionally give her a hug when it gets particularly bad for her. I wish I wasn’t this awkward fuck up who always says the wrong thing and I could just somehow communicate to her all these things without it being weird. It just sucks so fucking much caring about someone who’s such an amazing person and knowing they can’t see themselves the way you do, and not being able to tell them that. | Crushes |
So basically I was good friends with her but then it kind of died off because of a rumor. After a few months I asked her and she said that the rumor was a lie. And now I’m here I wanna talk to her but I keep getting nervous and only saying hi. | Crushes |
So ummmmm here's my OG post [https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/v6c0cj/well\_its\_been\_fun/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/v6c0cj/well_its_been_fun/)
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Yeah so she ended up responding, I'm just one impatient boi i guess lmao. She said no, but was really kind about it. We'll both move on with life and who knows what the future has in store. So yeah, that's the end of my story. Thanks everyone who helped me on my deleted account and that's peace out for me. | Crushes |
You might remember me from my post around a month ago about getting mini panic attacks thinking about her, so I decided to just to go all in and give her a note, I left it on her locker and she took it but hasn’t responded yet, I’ll keep you guys updated on how it turns out | Crushes |
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I've recently been crushing on this girl from uni and I kind of think she likes me as well but I'm not totally sure. I feel like she's just genuinely a nice person to everyone but I get the vibe that she's extra nice to me and I haven't seen her like that with any other guy but I just can't shake the feeling that I'm just imagining all of it and it's not real. That she would never settle for someone like me. Even though I don't have any problem with self-image and I even consider myself decent looking, I just think she's unreachable to me and I don't deserve to be with her and I don't even have a shot. I'm 20 and have
never had a girlfriend before mainly because of the same problem every time. The other problem is I can't just ask her out because we have too many mutual friends and at least 2 more years of uni together and I really wanna stay friends with her and not push her away.
Also for you to judge if you also think she likes me, the huge amount of eye contact, smiles and her randomly addressing and talking to me directly in group situations are some of the tells I got.
I don't really know what I'm looking for here, advice or whatnot. but I just needed to say all this to someone. | Crushes |
We've been talking since November, I'm only getting more awkward everyday, so fuck it. Tomorrow is the day. I mean unless she has work or some shit. But in the next few days I'm gonna tell her how I feel. My current plan is I'm gonna figure out if she has work or not, and then I'm gonna text her sister who usually comes with us when we go for walks, and I'm gonna say "Hey, you know what'd be pretty cool? If you stayed home for this walk 😉". Her sister is smart and I know she knows, so I hope she'll catch on.
Wish me luck | Crushes |
okay so about a month ago i made a present for him as a graduation gift and it was a box of “open when” letters! today he texted me to let me know that he opened another letter and when i tell you I NEARLY CRIED. he said that it was so so sweet and that he had no words. he was telling me that he was having a bad day and had a headache but after he read the letter his headache was gone. i’m going to sob😭😭😭 HE IS SO SWEET MY HEART CANT TAKE IT | Crushes |
I have been single for the past 23 years of my life. I had crush on many during my school and college time but, I never dared to ask any of them out. I have always been afraid of rejection.
Currently, at my work, there is this cute girl with whome I get along and like to spend my time with. The way she talks is a bit different and I find it adorable.
We text each other once or twice a week, generally talks about movies and series that we like and have a the same taste.
There has been multiple occasions when I got her dazzled and the way she reacted were the best moment of the day for me. I often get this thought, "was that a hint for me?". I was never certain of this thought and never dared to ask her out.
There has been a few occasions when I felt like I should drop this idea.
TLDR: A girl with whome I get along and like, not sure if she thinks the same, should I ask her out? | Crushes |
Gusto kita. Do you know what that means? It means "I like you" in Tagalog. I like you. Yeah, I know I already told you, but that time I said I USED to. After that I started liking you again. I dont know why. I'm just that stupid I guess. I really wish this could work out. But I've thought about it and I know it wouldnt. I'm sure you wouldnt want it to anyway. I'm gonna miss you in highschool. I hope you find someone that likes you as much as I do. I hope you find someone that can make you happy. Maybe we can see each other again if you stay in contact with R. Or if you dont wanna see each other again that's ok too I guess, haha... but I hope we can at least be friends one day. Have a good summer. | Crushes |
We've known each other for the past like, 3 years? We're seniors now, and we're about to finish high school soooo it's also our last summer in our town. We've come pretty close over the last months. We've been talking about shows we've watched, video games, movies, books, musicals, everything.
We're in the same friend group, so I never thought of anything romantic with her this whole time buuuut we've been hanging out a lot recently and idk she ends up in my mind very frequently 😅. We both love video games, so we shared our Steam Libraries as well, so I can play the games she's bought and likewise she can play mine. She also brought me carrot cake the other day!
We've been both hyping up about meeting up in her place to watch a movie or play some games after exams are finally over, but it actually happened by accident already. Yesterday we all went out as a group but it started raining a lot and most went home. Me and her stayed alone and she invited me up in her apartment.
Her parents have me a different shirt cause I was soaking wet from both the rain and the sweat, and they went in bed after that, leaving us basically alone in her place.
We hanged out until 5am yesterday night.. we played some games in Steam, she showed me her Minecraft world, she talked to me about a musical she loves, she made me some hot chocolate, laughed our asses off at some memes, we chilled on her balcony for a bit; I personally had the time of my life. I love listening to her man. I left early at the morning, keeping the shirt they gave me (I'll return it)
At some point we were watching a YouTube video and I just sorta hold her really close for the most part, with her head leaning on me- until we both backed off at some point cause I needed to leave as it was getting veeery late.
We hugged as usual for goodbye and then went home. Wow.
We're both hyped for either watching a movie or doing a marathon of Stranger Things next time I come over.. and yet I don't know if she likes me back xD
Yesterday she was wearing such a pretty dress and she looked so beautiful oh my god
That's it that's the post
It's a throwaway account as well, cause she would recognize my Reddit username
Just wanted to get it out of my chest since I'm writing Physics Exams tomorrow lol
I don't even know if it's really a crush from my side, but I genuinely enjoy spending time with her | Crushes |
Mine was when he was over ( we were home alone), and my mom came home early so he had to run out of the house in less than a minute.. but she found out and now my summer is ruined. oops..
edit: another one is being kissed in the rain, it felt like the rain had stopped which still messes with my mind to this day- now we just joke about it. pretty funny tbh | Crushes |
I kind of have a crush on this guy. At the time I was in school, I didn't have a crush on him, and I think he had a crush on me im not sure, but I had to leave school for a year and go homeschool, and I developed a crush on him during that 1-year time-span. I'm coming back to school after summer break, and I planned to confess to him, but here's the thing. One, I don't know if likes me after one year. Two, I'm worried our relationship might cause drama. I know my school. If any relationship happens something down-bad is going to happen. It's like a relationship curse. I'm not the type who cares about what others say about me, but when it comes to relationships, it kind of makes me anxious. So what should I do? | Crushes |
We don’t talk anymore since school is over but we never even talked much at school either. | Crushes |
i love him, but school is over.
I feel like I’ve sort of missed an opportunity (which I know I am partially to blame for) even though I still have the chance to communicate with him through text. (idk what I would say though, we didn’t really go deep into knowing each other that much over the year but I’m 100% sure we like each other)
He’s so cute, it’s almost unfair.
It almost feels like he’s too good for me, yk? But he likes me back, which makes it feel even more like wasted potential…
I could have this wonderful guy as my lifetime partner if I just do something and don’t mess it up…but it’s not that easy for me to do something.
I don’t know if we need to get to know each other better before confessing for him to accept me [still be in love with me and want me as his partner], or get to know each other more after I convey these feelings to him to have him accept me.
I feel I like the latter more. I’m not good at creating or maintaining friendly relationships.
what can I say, what do I do | Crushes |
as a girl I was just curious because there's this guy who likes me and is always staring from the corner of his eye or just looking at me then looking away but whenever I initiate eye contact he looks away. | Crushes |
Turns out she liked someone else this entire time and now they are talking, hanging out, idk what else they doing. This will probably be my last post here. Good bye! | Crushes |
So my neighbor is SUPER hot, long strawberry blond hair, similar interests, fit, you get the idea. Here's the thing, I always thought I was a lesbian but this man is making me question everything. I'm just confused and needed to rant.
Update!! it's his sisters graduation party and I have to go I don't know what to do!! | Crushes |
Starts with a D, his nickname has 5 letters n his real one has 6 | Crushes |
me (F20) and this dude (20) started talking about 3 months ago. we met through a friend and we been exessively talking since then.but ever since my friend told me he has a crush on another girl I've been distant but he won't stop asking me to watch movies with him or play games. we finished a saga lately and I thought maybe he just wanted to finish it then he'll stop asking to do stuff together but he suggested we start another saga.. he did show some signs of interest but my friend keeps confirming to me that he likes this other girl and wants to get together with her and i keep thinking maybe i mistook kindness to flirting
am i being played ladies and gents? 🗿🗿🗿 | Crushes |
I met this girl about a month ago at this typical bar I go to on a weekly basis. We hit it off almost immediately. After two weeks had to courage to ask for her number, we texted daily and everything was well until recently. She has been taking forever to reply, literally hours to do so. Last night she replied to my morning text, I just left her on read at that point. Should I just keep moving along or what do I do, any suggestions? | Crushes |
I'm done with love, I'm done with pretending to be something I'm not, just so someone can like me. If you don't like me for what I am then you might as well forget I exist, I'll never be there for someone that doesn't appreciate me. If nobody likes me, then I will like nobody. | Crushes |
We've known each other for few years now. Our paths will however go to different directions next year. We both are going to upper secondary school but different ones. You don't answer to me, you don't want to see me. I don't exist for you. Once I saw you but I was too afraid to ask. Now I just hope we'll see even one more time. I miss you. I'd die to explain everything to you. I'd. | Crushes |
He is a senior to me and is leaving college in a week and tomorrow will be the last day, I'll ever see him again.
I used to see him around the college months ago. But thought nothing of it, but several weeks ago, I saw him atleast once in two days. I developed this liking towards him. Never spoken a word to him. We sit in the same class during the exams, I would sometimes stare at him and he had caught me looking at him many times. I found his insta finally. I am hesitant to send him a request, I don't want to come across as pathetic because then he will for sure know I like him. I have copied the profile to perhaps give him a request in the future when I get over my crush or when I am sure he will never see me again. | Crushes |
I met one of my friends at my high school and we have been friends for a few months now. He’s a nerd, he’s obsessed with robots and cars. He’s pretty freaking hot, too. He’s tall and he has shoulder length hair. He’s very nice to me and I asked him to hangout sometime to watch Netflix and he said yes 😌 I’m like 99% sure he hasn’t had a girlfriend before which is probably why when I hugged him, he said “That’s the first time a girl has ever hugged me other than my mom.” Ugh. He’s cute. | Crushes |
Nah because he legit likes my bff 💀 and I can’t stop crushing on him HA, but we listen to music together alone sometimes BUT no way he would view me romantically. | Crushes |
Once at this school assembally, back when we were enemies, he was staring, just full on giving me this
"HELLO I AM NOT A CREEP" stare.
Like geez dude-
He also will occasionally stare at me during lunch.
Does he like me idrk- | Crushes |
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^ hes so pretty its not fair ☹️☹️☹️☹️ i just want to fall asleep in his lap so bad ☹️☹️☹️ but ik i have no chance with him so idk | Crushes |
I've posted in this subreddit 2 weeks ago that I would finally confess to a best friend I had for 12 years that I have developed feelings for her since she's moving to another country after our graduation and I know I would regret it if I didn't tell her. Unfortunately, she told me she doesn't love me or see me that way. Although a lot of pressure was lifted from me, it stings a lot right now. | Crushes |
I (16f) like a guy in the year above (17m). I’ve never spoken to him, I only see him in passing sometimes, between classes. I’ve been thinking of going up to him and asking for his insta, but I just don’t know how to go about this naturally, and not come off as weird. Anyone have any ideas for how to approach him? Conversation starters? How do I introduce myself to him naturally? | Crushes |
So i was talking to my crush at work. Picking up in the middle of the convo:
-Her: It’s my day off tomorrow
-Me: Ah nice, any plans?
-Her: Well no, I’m not doing anything tomorrow *giggle*
-Me: Ah, cool
Convo ends shortly after, she leaves
Me 10 mins later: Wait a minute, Nooooooooooo!! | Crushes |
I (19F) have realized that I am a very idealistic person and I have very high standards in love. I know that romantic relationships are not perfect, but I have always tried to find a person who fills me with truth and not just anyone who crosses my path. Because of this, it is very difficult for me to have crushes or be interested in boys, and I can say that I have never really fallen in love.
Most of the times,I like someone, I idealize them, I get obsessed with them and, seeing that they don't meet my expectations, I lose interest and so on. I don't know if it's normal, but I have a hard time being truly interested in someone to the point of wanting to maintain a relationship with that person. Also, I am looking for meaningful and long lasting relationships, not just casual hookups or encounters.
When I'm talking to a guy and things start to get serious, I lose interest and run away. And I don't think I have any comminment issues either, it's just that the idea of being in a relationship appeals to me, but then I realize that there is no guy that I want to get to that point with. I don't know if it's because of my expectations or because I haven't found the right person yet, but sometimes I tend to overthink this too much.
Throughout my life I have been attracted to many guys, but not to the point where I really liked them. Also, I'm a very picky person and I've spent a lot of my teenage years without crushes, which was pretty boring hahah. The problem isn't that guys aren't attracted to me, it's that I hardly like any of them. For someone to really interest me, I usually take my time. And when that happens, either that person is unreachable (because they live far away, have a girlfriend, etc.) or they don't like me, they don't want a relationship or whatever.
The last time I was romantically involved with a guy was two years ago (just before the pandemic), and it ended pretty badly. We didn't even get to go out officially and he cheated on me with his ex. The thing is, it wasn't the best experience, but it wasn't like I was in love with him either, so I was able to get over it relatively quickly. That is why I think that I will never get to the point of falling in love with someone, and it is something that scares me, because I have never experienced a relationship of this type and I would really like it.
Seeing all this, what would you recommend me to do? Do you think it's my internal problem and that I should change or is it something normal that happens to many people? | Crushes |
So there’s this girl I have a really big crush on and I’m not sure if she likes me or not. I don’t have the guts to tell her yet. She moves soon and comes back in 2 years. We make eye contact in class a lot and sometimes we lock eyes across the room and giggle. Sometimes when we are near each other we will just lock eyes laugh and say hi. We talk in class a lot but she also sometimes talks to other guys. When we text her responses are always detailed. I’m just really confused. | Crushes |
I have a mega crush on this girl who’s in my class. Whenever we talk she always giggles and we talk quite alot. She talks to other guys as well tho but it seems she talks to me more but idk. Sometimes we lock eyes and just start smiling then laughing. Sometimes when we run into each other we both say hi and just start laughing. | Crushes |
i have one girl best frnd through chatting we chat each other more than anyone else am starting have crush on her. she talks about her sad thinks. another day she told me that she loves it when my notification pop up with your text. deos she like me? | Crushes |
As the title says! What's your favorite moment you shared with your crush? Why is it your favorite? | Crushes |
It doesn't matter if it's something irelevant and stuff like that. Just be careful about people's privacy. I doubt you'd want to browse a subreddit and see relevant things about yourself, etc. Sure, things like your first name, year of birth, month, date, zodiacal sign, etc. can have them. anyone so with that I doubt there will be a problem. | Crushes |
He's been talking to me more often. Although he said we weren't friends, he seems to not think that anymore. School is over, but he even said he'd be delighted to come to my house. He allowed me to hug him 0.000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000001 more seconds than usual (the usual is 0 seconds), and even signed my shirt. I hope that he likes me back >///< | Crushes |
I really like this boy and the last day of school is on Friday for me!! 😭 ( I’d say we are on a friend basis! Should I ask him for his number? I need help 😭 | Crushes |
Dear Matt,
I needed to get this off my chest. I think the only reason I chose to use your real name is because part of me hopes that you will see this. Even though I know you don’t even use Reddit. I don’t know what it is about you. The way we can talk for hours about literally anything. The fact we can laugh at dumb shit together and not that fake laugh stuff, like near tears crying. I feel like I can be myself around you, not the fake version of my that I put on to impress others, but truly and genuinely me. I can tell you almost anything about me and I don’t feel judged.
You listen to me ramble on about anything, and you listen. You say you don’t but I know you do. I know you listen and remember almost anything I say. You understand my anxiety, you know when I am feeling uncomfortable and have gone out of your way to avoid putting me in more pain. You care about me. I don’t know if it’s because we’re friends or if there is something more, but I know there is love here.
That love is so powerful and it tingles in my body like a small flame that urges up every time you look me into my eyes. When you stand across from me all I want is nothing more than for you to walk up and kiss me. Part of me is convinced that you feel it too.
When I am with you I don’t feel “awkward” I don’t feel like I need to change what I am, who I am just to make you happy. The only time I feel like we have awkward moments is because there is so much tension that it seems like I can just reach out and grab it with my hands.
I don’t know what it is about you that makes me so happy, so comfortable, so familiar. But nonetheless it is there. So whether you ever read this one day or not, I truly care about you from the bottom of my heart. If there isn’t a wedding then I know at the very least you will be in my life forever.
If that means never expressing these feelings then so be it. I would rather hide them than risk having to live my life without you. | Crushes |
Alright i have a crush on this guy at my school (we're both 16M) and i really want to get to know him but im so scared to talk to him. My plan is to ask him to sign my yearbook on the last day of school and possibly try to start a convo with him and get his contact info to get to know him over the summer? Is this a good idea?
For clarification, no, i dont know if hes also gay, but worst comes to worst, i would still be friends with the crush i was so scared to talk to.
I need yalls opinions on this. If u dont agree, maybe give me an idea that you think would work. Thanks in advance! | Crushes |
I think I just won’t tell them | Crushes |
The worst thing just happened, I heard from my friend that my crush used to like me. And now she doesn't. | Crushes |
*I have bad grammar so forget me*
So 3 years ago, I was a senior in HS & I was friends with a girl in my peer counseling class, we sat next to each other that how we became friends we were also the 2 new students at that class so we just talk to each other. We got to know each other very well & even exchange Social Media, I started to really like her but I didn't want to make a move because she had a bf at that time so I didn't want to invade "bro code"... fast forward to when I was about to graduate, she said goodbye to me & we hug she was telling me how much she was going to miss me, we remained friends over the summer until she stopped responding back to me which I was confused why she wasn't responding back anymore and it didn't really help that I was very short temper with everyone that year so I express my feelings on Instagram which she read which I assume is the reason why she got mad at me that why she unfollow me on IG. 3 years later to present days, I have gone back & tried to reconnect with her but it's not working one bit, it still seems that she upset with me over my Instagram stories. Idk what to do but I really missed her & want her back because my life was alot better with her in it. Thank you for reading my life.
P.S sorry for the bad grammar | Crushes |
Is there any fixing this? So the other day I decided to go up to my crush in the gym and ask for her snap even tho I already got it just to make conversation. I go up with my friend who isn’t good with girls at all. She’s with her friend and I say hey can I get your snap she starts laughing and says you already have it. I said oh what’s your name? She tells me her name. I say Oh alright. She was just laughing the whole time. I say you hitting legs she’s like yeah. I said have a good work paused in the middle of saying that bc I realized my friend is abt to shit his pants just on his phone and scared. I tell him hey you want their snaps he says “where’s the snacks” I tell her have a good workout and leave. I definitely didn’t come across as confident I know that but I also wasn’t shaking or my voice trembling. I later snap her and say hey wanna workout sometime? Delivered for two days. I not a bad looking guy at all and pretty built. What went wrong? | Crushes |
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