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So i am a girl, And recently I saw this senior who goes on the same bus as me, we had a very short interaction one day and that was it, i would notice him staring at me from time to time. Which i would tend to do aswell but not noticeably. One day I wasn't home and got his friend request on instagram aswell as snapchat, I was pretty sure i never told him my name because I didn't know his either, but I figured that he might have heard it from rest of my friends in bus. I accepted the request on snapchat. but not on insta, he send me the request once more and I still didn't accept it because I got nervous. Now i regret it because this is his last year in school..and I won't be able to see him from next year, we did talk on snap once. About why i didn't have a snap streak. but that is all, should I send him a request back on insta or would it be awkward because he is older and I really can't talk to him face ro face...And always endup trying to ignore him..and regret it later because of my shyness... | Crushes |
I feel like I am ruining things. I am doing research with him this summer, and have been going to his office hours to ask questions about the course often , but I feel like recently I've made things awkward. Let me tell you the backstory. So during one office hours session he was impressed by my spanish after seeing me talk to a classmate(he asked me about it after overhearing us talk). I then asked if i could do research with him for the summer (something i had long planned to ask), he agreed and said that I could teach him some spanish too when we begin work. I felt like things were good after that meeting, and he even warned me that I would be called on for the next class session to prepare myself. I feel things started to go wrong one day when my friend and I (she's also in his class) were heading to her car after leaving school and we saw him exiting the school. I kind of squealed about it to her and awkwardly stood outside the car looking around for seconds longer than I should have. My friend ended up yelling for me to get into the car and before I did, I turned around and said hi to him as he obviously noticed us freaking out. You can see he was laughing about it to himself. This isn't where things got awkward. It was when I went to his office hours the week after and told him I had a few questions to ask to which he replied "that seems to be a reoccurring theme with you and then 40 minutes later you're still here". I was caught off guard and just awkwardly laughed and said "oh i do this to my other professor too!". He just smiled and said "its okay, I dont mind". Once I finished asking all my questions he said "oh thats all?" and then proceeded to ask me how I was doing in general. We started talking about spanish and music and I offered him some good songs to listen to and learn from which he wrote down. He got really excited asking me how i learned it and told me he wants to travel and stay in another country for 3 years to learn spanish like I did. I told him he should go and shouldn't beat himself up about not knowing as much as he wants to before traveling and that he was already fluent in other things like being knowledgeable about our course. He chuckled and thanked me for the song and I left in a hurry. That was last week. Today I went to his office hours again to review my study guide and the door was closed a first. Another girl classmate came in and we all asked questions until she had no more and left. Once she left, he made some excuse of needing to "print something" and that he'd be right back, but you can tell he just wanted to prop open the door (it was no problem with me if thats what he wanted to do originally). I just felt like I made him feel awkward that he felt the need to come up with an excuse just to open the door to the room. I know how school conduct codes work and that he probably did this to follow it, but this was something he hadn't done before until our last meeting. I also just feel bad because i just always feel extremely uncomfortable when I am around him because I feel he now knows I have this stupid [crush. How](https://crush.How) do I get over this feeling ? | Crushes |
my friend told him. He seemed pretty happy because when he heard the news he smiled and said ”really?” I don’t know if he’ll confront me about it because today he was looking at me a lot. If he confronts me about it I’m not nervous or anything like that.
if he does confront me I’ll edit this post :) | Crushes |
I don't know what to say | Crushes |
Yall I cant believe little coincidences like this happen all the time. They mean nothing and are so small but it feels like its a hint with nothing to find😭. So I have a hallway crush and me and my bff gave him a code name lets say it rose, a month ago I had this feeling of what I bet his name is (lets say its Pink for privacy purposes) Pink. Then I started to find this other cute guy, and his name turned out to be Pink 😱. I saw this guy in gym a year ago he gave me his backpack to "watch out for", I wanted to sneak through it lol but yeah so it was getting late and I went to give it to the teacher but he caught me before so I gave it back. Im not even gonna date this boy but I already had a startup interaction 😔 | Crushes |
I recently invited my crush to a concert next month. I got the tickets months ago and have been waiting for the right time to ask. Plus, I had to wait for work to confirm I can get off that day.
Anyways I asked him and he replied, “cannot”. I don’t know how to feel but I am sad. | Crushes |
So basically what happened was one of my friends told me a story/song that was made up I found it funny and lighthearted so I told it to my other friends which then told the other person in the song that I like her. How should I tell them and her I don't like her? I'm good friends with her but I don't want to ruin the friendship so I can't be blunt and rude. | Crushes |
So I’ve kinda liked this guy in and off since August or September. We are in online school but in the same area and we still have events like normal. We met through a mutual friend, really messy situation aka she’s evil, and he asked for my number. Said no at first but she convinced me to talk to him so I did. He was in Germany at the time so he’d show me pictures and everything. I got SUPER stressed and busy with school so I just stopped texting anyone who wasn’t in my house. We started texting again during Christmas break and had our first FaceTime in Valentine’s Day. He had to get off the phone for dinner, he was back in the states by this point, and told me to call him the next day. I chickened out and didn’t. Since then it’s been very school related. I’ve tried to call but nothing. We had a test today and we have one tomorrow, but we didn’t really have time to talk. Kinda over it but I say that fifty times a day so who really knows. Should I just give up? He’s really nice and he hasn’t done anything that’s actually wrong. I just went through some stuff where I don’t want to be the only person putting effort into any relationship(platonic or romantic). Still want him as a friend though. Any advice would be appreciated. We’re both juniors. ❤️ | Crushes |
Im confused by what is happening. This guy I like seems weird to me. He sometimes stares at me in class and when I’m talking to my friends he stares and moves closer to me sometimes. When he sees me looking at him he smiles. He seems to want to grab my attention. He shouted into my ear to get it. Checked to make sure he had my attention. He has waited for me before. I once saw his face turn red when he saw me looking at him. It’s just weird for me because I haven’t seen him do this with anyone else. I’m just so confused. My friend says he likes me. Does he? | Crushes |
Never approached my crush bc I thought a guy like him must have been cuffed ages ago. Learned recently he’s been single this whole time. Kind of kicking myself for not attempting to grow closer to him. At the same time I don’t bc he ended up getting a job in a different state and my job is remote but contingent on me remaining in state. Wouldn’t have worked out anyway.
I see him for the last time forever at graduation and it kinda kills me inside :/ | Crushes |
okay, so i think i have my first crush and it is on this really attractive guy. i've never had a real life crush and i have no clue what to do. he happens to be super charming and charismatic, very flirty- kind of the life of the party. i'm not like that, i tend to be more of an ambivert and have to warm up to people but he's got this super intense personality that's pulling me in. i'm just trying to be myself and figure out ways to start conversation. i saw his insta and noticed he's been in a few relationships and has a lot of girls that comment on his photos about how good looking he is etc. is this a red flag?
i'm experiencing all these butterflies and stuff around him which feels so childlike and silly. he's also a few years older than me so i would imagine he's much more confident in relationships and has actually dated unlike myself.
i've just come here to get some perspective and ask how the heck do i even know if he likes me or knows i exist and is this is something i should pursue or is the first crush sort of something that just comes and passes eventually?
TL:DR
* first crush- bunch of feelings- have no clue how to proceed...? | Crushes |
So this is gonna be a lot, but I just can’t go without advice anymore, he’s destroying my brain. There’s this guy I’ve been interested in since I moved out when I was 18, and he was 26 at the time. When we first met he didn’t take me seriously at all and basically just used me for a fuck, and that hurt, and then we fell out and both just moved on without saying much, he moved to a different part of town and I didn’t hear from him for about two years. Fast forward to now, I’m 20 and he’s 28. We met each other again unexpectedly this year in February and have been seeing each other since. When we met again he apologized for how he treated me, and took me out to dinner, and told me he wanted to be serious with me. This threw me head over heel, I don’t have the best exposure with men, so when we initially met and he took interest in me first, I think I put him on pedestal at that moment and haven’t been able to take him off since. So back to this year, we we first started hanging out again it was great. Both of us seemed to miss each other and be happy to have one another back in our lives, and he made me think he wanted something. Now this dude is a very blunt guy, which I don’t really mind honestly, I see myself as that too, but something feels off. At some point of us hanging out again things started to become very mixed signally. He eventually made his own definition of what “serious”means and he meant that when we first met he only wanted to fuck, and he sees that isn’t right, so now he wants to “really get to know me” and take me to meet his friend and be apart of his life, which honestly seems like bullshit. We kept having very serious conversations, which these are necessary, but the issue is that he’s in the end of his school (and he fucked up the first time and got kicked out so he had to start all over again so he’s trying really hard to stay focused) and I’m the last month he’s only been able to see me every Thursday because he’s busy in every other aspect of his life, or so he says. I could believe that, he has a time sheet in his room on his wall with every part of his week planned out down to the minute intervals, but again, which him only being able to see me once a week, it seemed like bs to me, and everytime we saw each other all we had time to do was talk about some of my insecurities between us, which i know is not the only thing people wanna do in a relationship. During the first few weeks, I was in the middle of changing jobs and figuring out how to go back to school, and I was thinking about getting a temporary sugar daddy, just to pay my rent and then i was going to be done, and when the guy I’m talking to found out about this he came over and gave me and ultimatum, in his words “if you’re gonna have a sugar daddy I don’t wanna do this” and I agreed quickly bc I didn’t wanna lose him, and I have a feeling he knew he would get that response, and is using my fears of losing him against me, which is fucked. After one of our “fights” I talked to him about having time to go out with me, and he invited me to an outing him and his friends were going on over the weekend. I went, even though it felt like he didn’t want me there and he just did it to get me to stop complaining, which no women wants at the end of the day, and that made it hard to be around his friends, not to mention I was trying to figure out the few days after he invited me what I needed and what time I needed to be ready by. He told me the night before at midnight to be ready by 7 which is when the event was beginning, I texted and asked if he meant 6 and he said “for sure!” So I planned to get ready by 6, I also started a tech school the same week as this for reference, so I was trying to divide my time up to study and get ready, and look nice. This dude calls me at 4:10pm and is like “hey can you be ready by 5” when I’ve been asking for days what time I needed to be ready by. Fast forward to the next Thursday he can see me, which he also didn’t plan to see me until I said “hey Can we talk on Thursday? I have some things I need to address so I can put my full attention on school” and this wasn’t a good conversation. I told him that it feels like he doesn’t values me, I told him I’m sick of feeling like I’m the only one to initiate things, I told him that a lot of guys at my new job have asked me out and I said no because I’m trying to figure things out with him and he goes “why even bring that up? Like I’m talking about all the dms and message?” I talked to him about how I felt going out with his friends, and he said “my friends had nothing but good things to say about you, but, they don’t see us together, they could tell I was stressed” and I’m wondering why the fuck he would bring that up unless that was a clue to get lost. I told him that all these feeling make it hard especially since we’re having sex, and when we do that he gets my body (I have some trauma due to sex working around the time I moved out, in order to support myself) and when I told him that he said “you act like I can’t get that anywhere” which I honestly can’t believe he said to me, all I said back was “gotchu” and just say there in silence as he kept digging into me, then he proceeded to say that because I’m starting school and he’s ending school, that we should take a break to focus on that, but wait there’s more. Continued in comment section | Crushes |
I just have to clear my conscience and I know this seems dumb but she is my first true love and I’m confused. Context me (M19) have been friends with (F19) for quite a few months. We’ve stayed close for the most part (hanging out after school, FaceTiming all night, etc) and I’m infatuated with her. Her beauty everything she says and does makes my heart skip a beat. I see her sometimes laughing at me about me to her friends and I don’t know what to do, I’m hurt. I don’t know if I’m overthinking and overreacting I’m just confused. I don’t know if I should keep pursuing this and pray things go the way I hope they do or stop to save myself from the heartbreak if she possibly doesn’t feel mutual. I’m not sure what to do. | Crushes |
Ok, this is probably really fucking stupid but I really need advice. So I have a crush on this guy who goes to the charter school connected to my arts school, he’s a junior and i’m a freshman so I really never see him except for when he is in the lobby at the end of the day, in the hallways(rarely), and I know when his study hall is(in the theatre). He’s really cute and I know that he is into hiking and the outdoors like me! (we would literally be perfect together!!! Also: i’m a gay male if that helps anyone answer this 😭. I want to talk to him but he doesn’t even know who I am and wouldn’t it be weird to just go up to him?! Like what do I say, how do I say it, and how do I make it so it’s now awkward or anything… thanks if you have any advice! 😜 | Crushes |
First thing to note, we aren't really friends or anything, maybe like acquaintances, but we don't talk to each other at all other than saying hi. Second thing is that I'm not an artist but I randomly decided to try and draw her from a photo I found on instagram. The drawing kinda looks like a person and I don't know if it's any good; I drew it at 1am and on notebook paper. I just want to know if this is a good idea since we don't really know each other and if it would be weird that I was looking through the photos of people she follows for a photo of her. Oh and also I'm the quiet kid at school which means I don't talk alot and kinda have no friends so will this will add another layer of weirdness? | Crushes |
So I’ve kinda liked this guy in and off since August or September. We are in online school but in the same area and we still have events like normal. We met through a mutual friend, really messy situation aka she’s evil, and he asked for my number. Said no at first but she convinced me to talk to him so I did. He was in Germany at the time so he’d show me pictures and everything. I got SUPER stressed and busy with school so I just stopped texting anyone who wasn’t in my house. We started texting again during Christmas break and had our first FaceTime in Valentine’s Day. He had to get off the phone for dinner, he was back in the states by this point, and told me to call him the next day. I chickened out and didn’t. Since then it’s been very school related. I’ve tried to call but nothing. We had a test today and we have one tomorrow, but we didn’t really have time to talk. Kinda over it but I say that fifty times a day so who really knows. Should I just give up? He’s really nice and he hasn’t done anything that’s actually wrong. I just went through some stuff where I don’t want to be the only person putting effort into any relationship(platonic or romantic). Still want him as a friend though. Any advice would be appreciated. | Crushes |
My first love, everything went great until he lost feelings. Then came a fight and all that stuff, kinda useless to point out since it happened a year ago. Ive been thinking about it and to be honest its reasonable he broke up with me. I wasnt in the best mental state. He was one of my only sources of happiness, I got attached and all that stuff. I hate to say it but I started to sort of manipulate him into giving me assurance all the time. Telling him inner thoughts that slowly broke down our relationship all because I wanted his assurance and words of comfort. I would worry him day and night over stupid stuff that went on in my life. For some reason I cant remember our relationship much. Mental block, idk? All I remember is the end of our relationship, and how it slowly came to a downfall because of me. We had our first and last argument on January 23rd of last year, he told me he didnt want any communication from me, so I stopped our communication. Im glad I did that before it could get worse. Overall though, I hate my past actions. I hate the fact that I ruined something so good by sort of manipulating a totally innocent guy. I wish I could let him know I apologise for all my actions towards the end of our relationship, and fortunately I haven't done anything of sorts in any of my future talking stages and stuff. I hate my old self, and prolly so does my ex, but in the end our breakup was the better outcome for the both of us. I realised my mistake which I have attempted to fix, and he probably moved on to find someone worthy of his love. Im glad it panned out to this level to where I can gain control of myself before it got too late. Anyway sorry for such a long post but thanks for reading of you did. Love ya till heaven rat 🩷 | Crushes |
I doubt this will get any attention but I think I really need advice here.
I really like this guy who I met a few months ago, we share the same humor and I really enjoy being in his presence. I've actually always thought he was cute since I first seen him a few years ago but we never met until recently. The thing is I don't think he's directly looking for a relationship, but I mean, it wouldn't hurt for me to try? I'm not sure, I know he had a girlfriend in the past but they decided to remain friends instead. I really want to at least hang out with him over the summer or something, it sucks because I'm a junior so I won't graduate with him. I don't know what to do I guess. Should I ask him out or at least ask to hang out? | Crushes |
Heyo! So yea, basically I (17m as of tomorrow) have a crush on this girl (17f) in my class. I've talked to her a little, like we've done a little bit of like group project work together, but not a whole lot of just friendly getting-to-know-you kinda talk, farthest I've gotten is stuff like one time she awkwardly pointed at a book on my desk and gave me a thumbs up once, shes laughed at some jokes / same stuff I was laughing at, the other day I had a funny video on my computer and we were watching it and then she helped me play scribble.io (we sit next to each other in one class as of like a couple weeks ago), she told me good luck when retaking a test, and today she took my paper and turned it in for me (all that mixed with some noticeable staring from both parties)
So, yea. Any advice is welcome, thanks for reading if you did cc: | Crushes |
So there’s this girl I like at my school, but idk if she’s giving me signs or just being really friendly.
For some context we’re both in 12th grade and we’ve been good friends since we started high school.
I talk to her everyday at school and after school and we also hang out most weekends. Whenever we hang out I always catch her staring at me for a little while before she looks away. She is also very open with me and tells me whatever she is feeling or how her life is going.
We’ve made jokes in the past about being a couple or something, but those conversations never really carried on and she often forgot about them. She also says that she loves me from time to time. I understand that that’s a regular thing for friends to say to one another, but she doesn’t say it to other people really.
Though an answer might be clear, here is when it gets a little bit tricky:
She is really pretty which leads to a lot of other guys constantly hitting on her. She has never really engaged with their advances, but she has told me about other boys that she has liked. I also know that one of our other friends in our group likes her and is moving pretty quick with trying to let her know that. It makes me scared that if I don’t act fast I would lose her.
I just need some advice and have no one to talk to about this. | Crushes |
We are friends, I'd call us close but I don't think he would. He's very reserved, shy and introverted. I got to know him in the beginning of the year through a mutual friend and we bonded over our obsession with music and our similar sense of humor. I really liked him first as a friend but the more I got to know him the more I got attached. He was the embodiment of my type; cute and nerdy, although a lot more introverted and a little less attractive. We shared so many similarities and I felt like he gets me. He's a forgetful person, while I have a very strong memory especially when it's something that has to do with someone I care about. He always apologizes deeply for forgetting stuff I told him and keeps insisting that it's because he has the memory of a gold fish. I choose to believe him.
He was the first person I have ever came out to and told about my confusion with my sexuality, I felt safe talking to him about this. In return, he told me about the girl he likes. At the time, it didn't devastate me as much because I was still denying my feelings for him, and because the girl was so beautiful I, myself, had kind of a thing for her. He has liked her for quite a while, he didn't know her much but he had intense feelings for her or that's what I got from the way he talked about her.
Weeks later, I started acknowledging my feelings for him, he meant so much to me, I loved him and there was no escaping it, and he heard through some mutual friends that I loved some guy (I never mentioned him to anyone) so he wanted to know who it is, he wanted to know my type apparently yet I refused to tell him aka to confess.
Things got complicated with him asking me about the guy I like every now and then and like a fool I said:"I can tell you an answer that will shut you up." and I told him it was him in a joking manner. I knew he wouldn't believe it because I didn't show my feelings in the least and he never viewed us as more than friends, I said so just so he can drop it, and to see his reaction as well.
It was fun to watch to say the least, his mind glitched for a moment, he believed it for a second and then he took it as joke and he remained in the same cycle for like a ten minutes and all I did was laugh then he said:"If you're really serious I'd have nothing to say really, except that you have great taste." I said I was only joking, that I messed with him just to not bring that subject up again. And we just talked more, sincerely this time, I told him that he was a great person yet I didn't think of him that way, it kinda hurt to lie like that but I didn't want to be brutally rejected and I knew that if I actually confessed it would start becoming awkward between us. He already started acting weird since I said to him what I said.
He's a pretty smart guy and I do not think he actually believed I was only joking and he tried to act normal during the next days, it was the same as before. I know I made some mistakes handling this but I don't think I can keep hearing him talk about the girl he likes anymore, it started to be bug me how I never meant to him as much as he meant to me, I feel like there's no coming back from the feelings I have for him.
It hurts so much, I do not know what to do and there's no knowing what he actually has in mind since he's not a very open person.
What should I do? | Crushes |
So a few days ago my crush invited me to go grocery shopping with her just to hang out, I met her through mutual friends who we've both realized aren't exactly the best people recently. So she wanted to hang out just us and said even though it was a little unorthodox it'd be fun. At first I was skeptical because I was thinking: "Does she just want me to come to just help her do chores or does she actually want me there just for me?"
Turns out it was the latter, once we got there she told me that she wanted me to come over after and she could cook dinner, and I was kinda shocked. I realized: "Dang she actually might like me." It was super cute shopping, she's only like 5'3 and I'm 6ft. So I was able to help her reach things she couldn't.
We went back to her place and I helped her cook, I had no idea what I was doing since the most I can cook is like eggs and bacon/sandwiches. But it was a lot of fun, we ended up watching a movie too before I left.
I was thinking of trying to kiss her, but I don't wanna overstep yet. We've only known each other a couple months. But this was a huge step in the right direction. Thinking of asking her to go bowling, she's also a huge Star Wars fan and Return Of The Jedi is gonna be in theaters this weekend for the 40th anniversary, so I might ask her to that | Crushes |
I’m in a super small close knit graduate academic program. I’ve had a crush on this guy since day 1. I always catch him looking at me at school. We sorta hooked up at a party 5 months ago (not all the way.. but I did sleep over) but prior to that I was too nervous to talk to him and after I was again pretty nervous. Since then we snapchatted a few times but he didn’t seem really interested. A couple of weeks ago he started snapchatting me and we’ve been snapping constantly. He complements me a lot, and responds so fast. I’ve heard rumors he was on and off with his ex and don’t know if that’s still a thing. This guy has… a high status one might say, super attractive, and all around a great person. I come from a very opposite background with a questionable past, but I am also objectively very attractive. I really want him to ask me out or something or just want to know what his intentions are. I’ve hinted at doing something with him but we are both very busy and I have invited him to go out to bars with my friends which I don’t think is really his scene. I feel like I’m being impatient but I am so tired of being single and lonely. If that isn’t going to work out, I want to know so I can pursue others. Should I just ask “do you like me”? Or any other suggestions to gauge where this might be headed | Crushes |
So her (f18) and me (m18) have been very close friends since the start of the year and have gone out to do stuff on multiple occasions (seen in my previous posts)
Shortly after I posed my previous story we were done with our classes earlier than usual and she asked me: "Do you want to go out for something to eat or do you want to go home, I missed my train anyways" so I said yeah we can go out to eat something and we did.
Eventually she said lets walk around the city for a bit so we basically walked around clueless on where to go to and as usual just started chatting about life and other random subjects. Eventually she says "Yeah lets go buy some clothes, I still need some new ones for the summer" so we started walking towards a few clothing stores where she wanted my opinion on some nice clothes. every time that she entered one of the dressing rooms she kept joking around with sticking a foot out of the room or standing on a little bench to get her head just above the stall when eventually she found something nice and mentioned that she has a tight abdomen and the clothes sit a bit too loose so she wanted me to check what size clothes she currently had. After about 20 minutes of joking around and fitting new clothes she found what she wanted and said: "I actually still need some swimming wear for my holiday."
After going to a much bigger shop she looked at some bikinis and other swimwear and wanted to know what fit the best and my opinion on if they fit her, eventually she also mentioned that she had seen some nice blouses and shirts for me as well so after we both tried on some clothes there and the continuous joking around with each other we got what we wanted and started walking back to the train station.
When her train arrived I mentioned and thanked her for the great day we had spent together and she did the same and when she stepped on the train she wished me an awesome vacation and that she'd message me later on that day and in the weekends together with promising to keep me up height with some nice images from the holiday she is going to. (so far she kept her promises hahaha)
tl;dr. she asked me to go shopping for clothes, we kept joking around in the dressing stalls/rooms, she asked my opinion on her clothes and swimwear and we thanked each other for the great day together. | Crushes |
I have a crush on a cutie that has a small online following. We’ve interacted with each other a few times before but I’m not sure how to let them know that I would like to get to know them more in depth. I don’t want to come off creepy or fangirly but as a mature adult just looking to see if there’s a spark. but alas, I am naturally terrible with words and even more so in situations like these
Any tips on what to say or how to approach this situation is greatly appreciated ❤️ | Crushes |
Should I tell her I like her?
I f(15) really like this girl I’m not really close to her but I basically met her through a mutual friend. She is gay to but I honestly doubt she likes me and the only real “signs” she could’ve shown were calling my eyes pretty and telling me I look “flustered”. She used to try and talk to me over snap a bit but she doesn’t start conversations anymore. I have tried to start a convo with her once or twice and she didn’t seem to want to continue it so I stopped talking to her so I didn’t continue the conversation. She leaves my snaps delivered for hours sometimes which kinda sucks too so I don’t try talking to her over snap. I only want to tell her how I feel to come clean about my feelings and get it off my chest. I wouldn’t really hesitate to tell her but I don’t want things to be weird between us. Should I just keep my feelings to myself or tell her? | Crushes |
So I have been crushing on this guy for about 6 months, but we've recently gotten closer. We aren't friends exactly, but we text pretty often. Some of my friends are dating his friends, so they usually have lunch with him. Apparently he mentioned that he was talking to 3 girls right now now, but he has 1 main one. My friend asked if it was me, and he said yes. Is this a good thing? I've been thinking of asking him out recently. | Crushes |
I have no classes with her (in college) but she is in the class next door and gets out at the same time. So I was thinking I could just walk up beside her, say hi, and ask if I could walk with her. (I’ll probably be noticeably nervous) and talk as we walk to her next class
Bad idea?
I don’t think I have much of a choice tbh. Besides maybe handing her a note but that seems worse | Crushes |
bye | Crushes |
I have a crush on this girl from my college class. We only got to meet up a few times though because she was usually too busy to go in for classes. I really liked talking to her and she seemed to like talking to me as well. The problem is that she never reaches out first. We’ve gone out a few times but I was the one to initiate. We went out just the two of us for drinks and I don’t think she would have gone out if she didn’t at least see me as a friend. But it makes me feel like she doesn’t care when she doesn’t reach out first. I understand she’s busy because of work but it feels like she doesn’t care.
What should I do? | Crushes |
So I posted another one if I should chase my crush further and I was gonna confess to him, I didn’t mention this in the post tho, yet things have worked out differently…
He knows I like him and has been telling his friends. He refuses to look at me but his friends always watch me to see if I look at himmmmm. And he’s a popular guy so I don’t want all his friends knowing I like himmmmm
Help? What do I do? | Crushes |
Have a huge crush on a guy that doesn't make any direct moves but will ask me to braid his hair n give massages and climb into his arms so he can lift me n exercise n shit. He's my brothers best friend so I can see how he acts on contrast towards my brother and we spend a lot of time alone when my brother can't hang w him or leaves us, he's a tad bit younger than me so I don't know if it's his playful innocent behavior such as play fighting or teasing like children or if he's developing a crush on me. I play it safe just Incase like I'm flirtatious but not2 much, I really don't want to ruin the friendship so I will probably never tell him because I respect him sm and I don't want him to feel sexualized but I can't help to rack my brain why he spends so much time w me and insist on giving me massages and advice to help me feel better, he could be just a friendly person who's only friends happen to be me and my brother but I'm kind of hoping I have some sort of shot because I've never loved someone this much.. so guys would you let a girl you only saw as strictly platonic braid ur hair, lay on you, and spend days and nights together exclusively?
I've spent way too much time on this subreddit reading subtle signs he likes u and my perception always falls smack dab in the middle, are some guys just naturally more mellow than others and I'm overthinking this or does it sound a lil sus | Crushes |
To preface this, we’re both gay dudes in high school so I know he’s at least in my dating pool. We’ve been friends for a maybe 4 months now but have grown closer pretty quickly. He’s also a part of my huge friend group of like 8 people.
Alright now I’ve talked about things he’s done that were kinda possibly flirting on this sub before but what happened today seemed particularly weird. I don’t remember how it started but basically he started talking about his ex and how crazy he was. So we talked a bit about how much his ex sucked and then we starting talking about dating and how hard it is as a gay guy in highschool. He started talking about how hard it is to find a decent guy because a majority are straight and even if they are gay a bunch of the gay guys at our school are either really cringy, furries, crazy, unattractive, or make being gay their entire personality. He then said that he wished there was at least one guy that was like him(not too feminine, not making being gay their entire personality), a genuinely nice guy, and goofy like him. As he said this I was panicking internally because he literally described me. We’re both the kind of people that do things to make others smile or laugh and don’t care if people judge us like go all out for spirit days or draw on our faces just because it’s funny which was what he said he was looking for and he knows me, he knows that describes me. On top of that we started talking about crushes and stuff and he said that a lot of his friends in the past have had crushes on him even after knowing him for only a short period of time. So he was literally calling me out and I’m not sure if he knows it or doesn’t. Then as we were leaving he dapped me up, put his hand on my shoulder, and started to say that if I ever needed something to just call or text him but he stopped midway through because he forgot his phone was broken so it ended up being, “hey, look if you ever need me for something….wait till I get a new phone.” I just feel like there was a lot of tension in these moments and it felt like he was going somewhere with it but I was too scared to make a move or anything. So does it sound like he might like me or is this just something normal? | Crushes |
whenever my crush is absent, i still stare at her seat like she’s there. | Crushes |
basically i liked this girl for months but recently been losing interest because i didn’t think she was that interested, and then we had easter break and i didn’t think about her much or talk to her so i thought i was over it.
and i’ve been talking to this boy and i quite like him and he’s expressed interest in me too.
but now because of class changes and stuff i’ve been talking with her more and i honestly think i still like her 😭 idk what to feel ab it | Crushes |
we had two weeks off and came back but it’s been nearly two weeks back and hes not back , he liked me back but if he rly liked me would he come to see me idk? idk why he’s off someone said he just couldn’t be bothered lol his friend has been off too.>.> I’m just rly sad thinking he won’t come back | Crushes |
tomorrow is the last time im seeing him how do i get over the fear of talking to him i wanna cry | Crushes |
I take after school classes. She sits next to me but we don't really have anything to talk about.
Idk how to really describe our relationship. I do have her phone number and we try to talk to each other but conversation don't end up lasting long. | Crushes |
Hi,
there is this person at university i had to do group work with.
They sent me a msg saying "hi" after we exchange numbers to do group work, but i didn't know what to respond so never responded.
I responded to the groupchat instead. We didn't talk much outside of thr groupwork, we just say hello when i see them at university.
How should i go from there if i'm interested in knowing more abt them | Crushes |
I've liked this girl for months now (She is 20 I am 21), I want to say we are just a little bit above "friends", she is always happy to hang out nearly daily, enjoys talking etc. However I feel like I am not doing enough to really make that sort of bond closer. I will admit I have a lot more other things to be focusing on at the moment but they are temporary and ideally when the free time comes I'd want to actively do more things with her. Any tips on what I could generally do, nothing too "extreme" but just enough to give a little push.
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Side note: Despite my age I have to admit this is the first person I've truly liked as a crush and can easily talk to so I feel like this is very new to me :) | Crushes |
Here's a corrected version of the sentence:
Just a few hours ago, a girl asked the same question to boys, wanting to know what kind of guy girls like. The options were: (1) a guy who talks to you nicely and gives you attention or (2) a guy who ignores you, gives you attitude, and doesn't give you any attention. According to my experience girls are more attracted to 2nd type
Share your views | Crushes |
I was so in love. I didn't see that coming. I know him for 7 years and I realized I have crush in him last summer. I tried everything to make him smile, make him feel so loved. I tried everything to show my love for him. I didn't realize it's all meaningless.
We were outside together one week ago. He looked so pensive. There were an awkward silence while we were eating. He was chatting on his phone. Suddenly he looked at me and he said "Did you know I have a crush on *his crush's name*?" I was so shocked. And he looked so happy when he says her name. I couldn't talk yet I couldn't cry too. I smiled and said I didn't know. I can't believe he never said something about this before. We were so close for 3 years! What was what I believe. He told me how hopeful he is and everybody's so sure their feelings are mutual. I know his crush too. I suddenly realized how they looked at each other, how they treat each other. I was so blinded with my own feelings that I couldn't even see the truth. Until that moment I just thought they were two close friends. I kept smiling, told him "I'm also sure you both like each other. I'm sure you would be a great couple." He was so happy to hear it. After a while he asked me if there is someone in my life too. Stupid boy. I hide the truth, said no. And then he said "Oh right, you are the threapist that always give the best advices and never has a lover." These words cut like hell. But I couldn't do anything. After that, we went to a park, ate the cookies I baked for him and chat for a while. And I don't even remember what we talked about. I feel so dizzy, I was waiting him to left and when he finally left I burst into tears.
And we haven't talked since then. We used to send each other funny Instagram reels everyday. But I deleted Instagram that day. I couldn't act like I didn't get broken.
And do you know what's the worst part? He didn't even text me then. Even as a friend. I was not ready to talk him, this is true but I wish he wondered how am I. I wish he wonder why I don't see videos anymore. I realized I don't mean anything to him, even as a friend. I was nothing. Everything I did... Was meaningless.
I know, I can't make him love me if he don't. I respect his feelings, I'm very happy for him. But I can't help it. I can't stop feeling heartbroken. He gave me hope, I don't know he was aware of this act or not, but he made me feel like I have a chance with him. We had so much special moments! I guess they were only special for me.
I don't know what to do, whenever I tried to sleep I can't stop rewatching the moment I learned his crush reluctantly. I miss him so much but I don't want to talk to him anymore. It hurts so much.
But I hope he is happy.
I wish him happiness... | Crushes |
I (24M) have a crush on my distant relative daughter who's 3 years younger than me. Met her last year after 13 years and she's all grown up and beautiful, I began to like her at that moment. She lives in a different country, but my parents frequently travel and get to visit her and her parents. After 1 year, decided to follow her but it's been 3 days and still pending, neither accepting nor rejecting but her following and followers count is increasing means she did see my request.
According to her parents she loves my parents company and she did try to talk to me but I was nervous and that didn't go so well, might as well put a bad impression on her
Should I cancel and send her request again or wait few more days?
(In my culture it is normal to live with parents doesn't matter what age you are, so please don't judge) | Crushes |
It was adorable!
First of all I got a friend to give it to him for me, because he always looked busy with someone else, and I got her to give him a note about why I couldn't give it to him myself and to wish him happy birthday.
Anyways, so the update is, apparently he loved it!
She says that he proper liked and he seemed SO happy (ahh it's too cute to even imagine). She says that when she saw him, he was holding the present proudly (bear in mind this is a wrapped toy gun the size of a teenager's arm).
And apparently when he got it he said it was really cool and he kept showing it to everyone in his class!
Fair to say, I'm pretty sure he loved it! I've been told he was really happy with it. He looked very proud, too. I'm not sure what to make of the 'proud' bit, but I can barely imagine it and it's so adorable! | Crushes |
It was adorable!
First of all I got a friend to give it to him for me, because he always looked busy with someone else, and I got her to give him a note about why I couldn't give it to him myself and to wish him happy birthday.
Anyways, so the update is, apparently he loved it!
She says that he proper liked and he seemed SO happy (ahh it's too cute to even imagine). She says that when she saw him, he was holding the present proudly (bear in mind this is a wrapped toy gun the size of a teenager's arm).
And apparently when he got it he said it was really cool and he kept showing it to everyone in his class!
Fair to say, I'm pretty sure he loved it! I've been told he was really happy with it. He looked very proud, too. I'm not sure what to make of the 'proud' bit, but I can barely imagine it and it's so adorable! | Crushes |
Ykw? I was in a relationship for 3 years and broke up last year on January. I spend my entire three years 2018-2021 with him and so I was never alone... After my breakup where we mutually agreed to (because I had no other option than to leave him) I felt really lonely.. and sadly I fucked up my entire 2022 by letting people come into my life whenever they wanted. Basically, I had no boundaries set. I got to know a lot of people who really fucked up my brain.. some were narcissists, some were slaves of intoxicants, some literally blackmailed me for rejecting their proposal and so on.
This year I have been on my own without a boyfriend or any form of connection and it's been really difficult for me because I have never been alone before... As a young teenager I often had crushes or admires or lovers around me...
I am 19 years old now and ... Uhh.... You know, I want to be alone but at the same time I feel really sad and I know my heart craves to have someone beside me... But also what i noticed last year is that I really can't settle with people anymore. I found some boys who were really good and kind hearted too but i don't understand why I had to reject them when they had no problem. Love cringes me and it just suffocates me, I want to enjoy being alone but crap! This heart hates being lonely.
Do you guys feel me? Am I making sense???
I am happy with the progress I am making and I really hope I continue to do so... My problem is just that I don't know if it is just me who wants to be alone yet craves for someone's presence and love. | Crushes |
So I am just a teenage girl and I have these odd feelings for this other girl in class. I just know that she is way out of my league like she has pretty good looks, talented, and has a good social life while I am just a bystander. Plus she likes someone else. And honestly, I am not too interested to commit into relationships yet so I just admire her. So basically my only problem is that I just want to feel normal whenever she is around me. Basically whenever I have these crushlike phases like on someone or a fictional character, I get excited whenever I see them, making up scenarios about them, etc which I know is normal. It just comes with the price of feeling anxiety or nervousness about them and making me feel really uncomfortable to what I am doing like sometimes I wouldn't do my tasks because I felt really awkward thinking about them or like I had a hard time trying to sleep because I couldn't get them out of my mind. Maybe those things are normal for some but I just don't like it. About the girl I said earlier, I told my friend about it and she just said sometimes I looked nervous around her or I was quickly taking a glance at her, which was quite true. The uncomfortness and anxiety about her is killing me and those are the same things I feel for my older crushes. I don't even know why I feel that why about them or maybe I don't know why I admired them in the first place. Whatever it is, I just wanna feel normal and not feel insane in front of the girl. I wanna know why I am like this and how could I resolve this? | Crushes |
I’ve been crushing on him for 2 months now. Cause he’s smart, he’s kind and he doesn’t look bad. Plus he has BIG DREAMS. Kinda like me 🤭
He and I met cause we were working on this creative project together. We had conversations but it’s mostly about our project.
There were times when he initiated a non-work conversation with me. Sometimes, the way he words his messages sounds like he’s interested in me. But the thing is, I just don’t know how to respond to him in a way that keeps him in his toes. I’m just too…direct to the point, and I don’t know how to flirt. Help 😭 | Crushes |
I posted a while back about my lab partner. He gives me butterflies and is so very cute and I’m into him.
Since then, we’ve exchanged numbers, gone to study by ourselves (and just ended up talking the whole time), gone on a walk around campus, and followed each other on Instagram. From what I’ve seen, he does not have a gf. But - he is from another city so there’s no friends of his around that I can ask or confirm this with.
We were gonna go to church together today, but he forgot a family member had a birthday so he has to drive back to his city tonight, but had been very enthusiastic about coming.
He’s still in college and I’m about to graduate. I want to stay in contact and still hang out some, but I don’t want to put myself out there and him say he isn’t interested or has a gf. He’s super shy so I tend to be the initiator, but he’s warmed up a lot over the past couple of weeks.
How should I proceed so we don’t lose contact, but also make sure I don’t get my feelings in something that won’t even work? Should I just ask him if he is comfortable hanging out some? And that I don’t want to impede on a relationship if he’s in one? | Crushes |
I've spent a lot of time trying not to think about you, not because I regret anything, but because It's hard just to even look at your photo knowing that you might never be my future.
I say 'might' because you never know the way the world works, and sometimes, the least expected occurences can happen. I don't have my hopes in it though, I'm moving forward with the notion that if by chance I find happiness with someone new before the possibility that you would walk into my life offering to be the holder of my heart, then I'll let you go.
I never really believed in the notion 'right person, wrong time'.
Mostly because it seemed odd that the right person would ever *have* a wrong time, let alone appear in the wrong time.
I know that it's possible now, because that's what this is.
You might think that it's enough that two people like eachother, but it's not, at least, not entirely. One person could be prepared to give their love to another person, but that other person might not be ready.
Why not wait? You might ask.
To be honest, you just know when it's better to move on. Sometimes it's better to keep moving forward. If they want you to wait, chances are, they'd tell you.
That's how I go about things. I'm not going to take silence as a request to wait. All it takes is a message or two, and if nothing comes around, then I'm not going to keep myself occupied with the thought of them offering to be a part of my life forever.
I still love them, very much so. The memories we made together and the small moments between us are one of the most beautiful parts of my youth. Even if they're not my forever, they'll always have a special place in my heart.
And that's how it is when you love someone.
Letting go isn't easy, but if you really love someone, you'll be willing to let go so that both of you can live in peace.
It's just better that way.
So even when the colour green passes my vision and your smile flashes in my mind, I won't feel sad.
It's these bittersweet reminders of you whom I love that make my life a little warmer.
Even if my hand is not the one you'll hold while walking down the isle one day,
I'll always glance at you with a smile in hopes that you're happy.
Truth be told, that's all I ever wanted.
For you to be happy.
Every piece of candy i've left for you, every can of coffee I gifted to you, every drawing and every smile I dedicated to you.
It was all because I loved making you happy.
And in the little moments in between where you'd call my name and smile sweetly beyond the knowledge of others, I'd feel happy too.
Maybe you're the next best thing that'll haunt my dreams.
But I don't regret a thing.
And I hope that the little bags of grape jelly candy you see in stores and the tinned coffee that we both liked to drink will forever remind you of me.
I hope that when you open up the papers with drawings of you and the notes I wrote you, you'll remember me.
I hope that with every cat you come across in the world, you'll think of me.
Even if you forget my name one day or forget the way I look.
Never forget the way I loved you. | Crushes |
my crush appears in my dream basically every night? how is this normal? how am i so obsessed it’s too much. i cant take this anymore. | Crushes |
Hi All,
I (20M) have been talking to an internet friend (20F) from mutual friends on Instagram. Recently, the two of us met up in person after texting/calling and replying to one another's stories on Instagram. An hour meet-up ended up being an entire day with one another. While we did our work - which we did not do really - we ended up sharing earphones criticing films (as it is her second job). Suddenly messages go a bit dry after a day of meeting them - busy with work or playing hard to get? The following week (this last week) We text quite freely and I ended up "going out of my way" to drive her to the airport (we live 50 min away from one another) through her family member could've driven her (backstory - I asked if she needs to be picked up from the airport and they suggested being driven to the airport a day later)
Anywho I think it's best to breakdown signs that are good and bad
Pros:
* They go a bit out of the way to comment on my posts. sometimes send me reels?
* Messages me frequently
* Conversations carry over to the next day
* Laughs about stupid/small things a lot of the time in person - a bit more than they should I'd say?
* They remember certain things that I forget myself
* Comfortable talking and texting me freely - I do the same
* Share similar music tastes - share songs on Spotify
* Discovered she has an ex- recent-ish ex the first 5min we met in person
* We've touched hands a few times over "accidental things"
* Went for dinner and breakfast the times we've met up - I paid (She asked if she should pay - but I insisted)
* Talked about family things a bit - the weird quirks of our parents
* We Tease one another a lot
Cons:
* Talking comfortably a bad thing perhaps?
* Slow/fast and dry-ish responses at times
* Wasn't able to meet when I suggested meeting for something - didn't offer an alternate date?
* Perhaps she laughs a lot with everyone from seeing how she interacts with her other friends
* Spam when they message and make spelling mistakes - aka messages a bit carelessly
Overall. I'm probably overthinking one way or another, I just don't want to fall for someone again after being heartbroken before.
What are your thoughts? We don't have any close mutuals - we always have talked and met up one to one. | Crushes |
Ever since we met I've been secretly calling him ch'ígoná'áí (which is apache for sunshine, i'm apache lol) because he just lights up every room he walks into. his smile and his eyes are so bright and friendly. and he's always smiling. AND DEAR GOD HIS LAUGH. GOD I JUST LOVE HIS LAUGH SO MUCH. EVERY TIME HE LAUGHS I FEEL SO WARM AND COMFORTED. he's my sun. fr. Whenever I'm feeling down I just listen to the voice messages he has sent me, the ones he laughs in, and i instantly feel like i'm being hugged. he is the warmest, sunniest person I have ever met. | Crushes |
The story is that back in September, I had a crush on a girl named Marybeth and I asked her out to homecoming but she rejected me because she dating my friend who is an asshole and didn’t care about her except for her body so they broke up. We officially became friends and I think that I like her again. We are still friends.
Marybeth is the best person I have ever met. She is like so nice to me. Like she never said anything mean to me…..she is just kind to everyone. She is talkative(outside of school)and she walks fast. She is shorter than me(like 4,11 or 5,1). She is very smart. SHE HAS STRAIGHT FUCKING A’S. She is a nerd like me. We both like Marvel, horror movies, and cantaloupe.
She has the cutest walk I have ever seen, short hair, indie style with the way she dresses, kinda flat nose and she has big blue eyes. I am glad to have her in my life. She is one of the greatest friends I have ever had. I care a lot about her and I wish her the best. I know that she doesn’t like me so I wish that she finds the best guy in the world and I’ happy if she’s happy. | Crushes |
Hi!
I kinda have a crush on this girl I've met online. We're both the same age and queer, but we live in different countries and are also of different races (which might be problem if anything happens because my family is... very conservative)
We met through LGBT server on Discord, so we both knew that we're queer from the start and we later moved to other social medias- we've known each other for 6-7 months at this point.
We kinda clicked from a start, like we had very similar interests (we both like history, arts and books a lot) and we just never really ran out of topics to talk about- since she's from a different country we talked a lot about our cultures too, and just... Anything. We have similar opinions on a lot of things too.
I think we kinda got close over time, we have our own little inside jokes, and we tease each other a lot, and we borderline flirted a bit... And we also kinda call each other love, but I have no idea if she means it in a platonic or romantic way. Also, we tend to compliment each other a lot, even on little things like nail polish or jewelry (like I sent her some picture and you could see my hand on it and she complimented my rings and nails).
Plus we've opened up to each other quite a lot over time, she told me things she herself said she doesn't really like to talk about, and we always try to talk to each other even if we're busy. And she once admitted that I'm one of probably three people she talks with consistently outside of her family.
She also knows that I have some sleep issues and she asks if I'm getting enough sleep, or if I slept well and etc. She also mentioned few times that I made her day much better just by talking with her...
I'm just unsure if I'm overthinking it all and she just considers me a friend she trusts or if there's something more. I know, that maybe I could just... Talk to her, but I just don't want to ruin our friendship and make things awkward. | Crushes |
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I see a lot of posts about how people got rejected, not so much about how people rejected others, and more specifically, close friends.
I was rejected or destined to be rejected by a few crushes, and I know how badly it hurts to be on the receiving end. But what about on the executing end?
I mustered up the courage to do it. Take the plunge and confront my friend because it was both obvious and awkward for us and the people around us. It took a lot of courage and confidence because it felt surreal, as I never heard it from him.
I never believed any guy was capable of liking me, because I was still hurt from other situations. So I went into it without being ready or understanding that those deep feelings I had had for other boys, actually existed in a guy towards me.
After I tried my best to reject him compassionately but clearly, it still didn't hit me. But about 24 hours later, and I felt immense pain and sorrow for him.
How could I inflict the same pain another person did to me on someone else? He told me things in a text later that were the exact same as my mindset when I felt rejected and unloveable, and I was the catalyst for those same thoughts and feelings to appear in him - someone who I loved as a friend, someone who I'd never want to hurt.
This was my first time experiencing having a guy like me, experiencing rejecting someone, and it sucks. I can't imagine some people actually reject others in cruel and heartless ways, when even with the most compassion I could have put out, it still made me feel super guilty and crappy as a person.
Maybe it's because I have low self-esteem that these emotions are so intense that I'm not thinking straight, but I'm such an emotional person. I didn't feel worthy of the kind ways he was treating me, even more so when I didn't feel the same way. I didn't feel confident enough to be loved, regardless of the person.
So when a close friend was so amazing, so kind, so caring to me... I knew I didn't want to lead him on or hurt him later, which is why I wanted to make my feelings clear. But now that I understand the depth of the pain he feels, I feel super guilty.
I know that if he couldn't control liking me, I can't control not liking him back, but I still feel super bad for him. He deserves better than me. I'm a horrible person. | Crushes |
(I'm a female bisexual. Thought I'd start with that for some context.)
I'm at the end of my freshmen year in high school and as of right now I'm kinda crushing on 4 different people:
1. Some guy in my english class I've barely spoken to but he's close to my best friend.
2. A friend of mine who I talk to in a few of my classes but rarely outside of the classes we have together (we're not super close, at least we weren't until I made the mistake of asking him to a school dance which he said yes to but it was the most awkward thing ever)
3. A girl on my lacrosse team that I've known since preschool (we're also not super close, and I'm pretty sure she's straight)
4. One of my best friends who just got a boyfriend (she's pansexual)
I have no idea what to do with this. I've tried to just forget about my crush on everyone but one of them since he's the one I have the biggest crush on, but I just can't. Am I the only one? | Crushes |
Dm | Crushes |
If anyone one on this page wants to vent about their crush experiences, please message me. I had a crush on someone I worked with for over 2 years, and I understand it, I’m now able to navigate through it and I may be able to help other in the same position! | Crushes |
Hello everybody, I'm just going to write everything right here one time. I can already tell this one is going to be a long one. I have no idea how to add a tldr short enough to sum up everything I'm about to say, so if you don't want to read this, no hard feelings. Anyways here I go:
A month ago I see my crush that I've been obsessing over for months start acting differently. But not for me, someone else. I try to ignore this, brush it off as nothing. I knew I was wrong.
Things in life haven't been going too well for me recently, family issues at home and social issues at school. Borderline depression and some other things that I won't get too in detail about, it just hasn't been good to say the least. A few days ago crush and me are together, about a week prior to this we both talked about a crush we have on someone, so we agree that they tell me their crush and then I'll tell them mine. You know, textbook confession where both parties realize they actually like each other and everything works out in the end. I wouldn't have done this, I shouldn't have done anything, but I mean, things already aren't good, so what more do I have to lose? Another mistake. They tell me theirs and what else could I have expected, it's not me. It's the exact person I noticed they've been acting differently around. It's so obvious isn't it, how could I every be so oblivious. Lying to myself, planting these thoughts into my mind to believe that there was every a chance you liked me. But where was that kind of attention when I was there by your side? I know you chose not to respond to me when I texted sometimes, maybe I just have that aura. I have been acting like nothing but the best for you but did it ever mean anything to you? I'm not mad at them or anything, I'm not saying that they are wrong and they should like me instead. I respect their decision, and I know there is nothing I can do about it. How could I be mad? You can't control that feeling you get around that special person, I should know that after all. Anyways I lied. Made up some fictitious person they conveniently have never met before.
"Yes, oh my, I have the biggest crush on them. Oh how do I know them? Yeah, I don't know either."
Now I somehow feel worse, not only do I know the truth but I know I lied to someone who would never lie to me, I think. Alas I lied to someone I care about, and now I feel like I have betrayed them. It's just something else to add on to the pile of hurt I guess. Now I put on a big smile and act like nothing is wrong, I play matchmaker with them trying to connect them to their special person, knowing that my special person is standing right in front of me. It hurts doesn't it, having this uncontrollable feeling you know was never and will never be reciprocated. Well I guess it does. I don't even know how to feel anymore, heartbroken? Relieved? At least I know the truth right? I mean, they are still my friend. And that is amazing, it is one the best things I could have asked for in this universe. I may sound like I am obsessing over them, which is true, but I have my justifications. They saved me, when the world was falling apart and I wanted to end it all they came into my life, and it lit up once more. Anyways I'm rambling, and I know it's not important to anyone but me. I guess the reason for posting this was to get it all off my chest, put it into the open without anyone actually finding out about it. I'm starting to realize it now, but I think the real reason I didn't confess to them for so long was because you were the only real reason I woke up everyday wanting to be a better person. I worked hard on myself for you, but I guess that's pretty selfish isn't it? Anyways I don't know what to do now, I feel directionless. It's like I knew what I was doing before, what I wanted to do, and how to get to it. I still have all that, but have lost all motive. I mean what's the point to doing it all now? For myself? Seems worthless if you ask me. I feel like a compass with no magnetic pull, if that makes any sense. They were the thing that made me worthwhile. I also found out a day after this exchange of crushes that some of my so called friends have been participating in a group chat talking bad behind my back. I guess I am both unattractive and unpleasant to be around. Interesting.
Anyways yeah I really don't know what to do anymore. If you have made it this far, I thank you, but I also apologize as I have just wasted much of your time consuming you into my own problems. Also I refuse to reread my writing, which may sound like a jerk move but I want it all to be authentic, fresh. So I also apologize for what I can imagine the multiple grammatical errors. Also, I really am not trying to sound mad at my crush, it simply is not a reasonable thing to do. I will always have nothing but the utmost respect for them, no matter their liking for someone. If anything I am mad at myself, for hanging on to seemingly nothing for so long.
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Believe what I have written or not, that is up to you. Nevertheless I am very sorry for making you read all that. You, you beautiful human being, have yourself a wonderful day. | Crushes |
Hiii I feel the need to post this somewhere but I think I might have a crush on the boy. Idk if I’m just like d!ckmatized or if I’m actually crushing but I haven’t felt like this excited or getting the hots for someone in so long im really happy with that but like going crazy at the same time. It’s like feeling something for the first time ever all over again. Him and I talked for a while maybe 5 years ago and I was head over heels at the time, then we went out separate ways- I dated a few people and he was in a long term thing till a few months ago and we’ve recently reconnected and started going on dates and sleeping with eachother. I think I just need good vibes from people or someone to be proud of me for feeling like a normal emotion and help me identify if like what im feeling is normal <3 | Crushes |
So I met a cute guy today when playing Pokémon Go Fest. We talked about the game for a bit and then I asked him “What’s the best way for me to keep in touch with you?”, towards the end of the event, when I had to go, and he only gave me his Discord name, as opposed to giving me his number and or social media accounts. I would suppose he would have at least given me his number if he thought I was cute too.
Am I in the right to think this, or am I overthinking it, honestly?
Discord is pretty much an app/website where gamers talk about stuff. It’s kinda like AIM (from back in the day!) but for gamers.
I was too nervous and shy to directly ask him for his number. | Crushes |
I reallyyyyyy like this person but I don't have the balls to make a move. She knows that I have a crush on her and she's still reacting to my IG stories and FB posts. We sometimes see each other and she waves at me still. What does that even mean. Is she into me, too? What do I doo. We're both women btw. | Crushes |
yeah, my crush doesnt like texting very much. weve had a few good convos over text but it's hard to talk to him because he doesnt like to text very much. im very anxious about calling,, weve called one time but im scared to ask him if he wants to call or whatever. idk:( | Crushes |
I never really thought my crush knew that I liked him until I told him. Well he didnt tell me directly that he knew but a friend told me that he told her that he thought i had a crush on him.
Yeah maybe you think you're not being obvious but like what if u are? What if they can like... feel ur vibe change around them or whatever
I still like him and I think he knows that lol. Kinda embarrassing to think about but I cant really do anything about it ig | Crushes |
I have a crush on someone I've known for years. I may have had a crush on him for most of that time. I met him when I was 14, and I'm 20 now.
He has always made me cackle laughing. He's one of the only people I can look in the eyes. I can share so much with him. He is so similar to me. I thought since it's pride month and we're both pretty gay it might be a good time to confess to him.
But I'm really scared. I genuinely adore our friendship. But it hurts me that he doesn't know how I feel? But I'm worried that it might sully something.
He slept over my house and I couldn't sleep because I was panicking about it. There is no way I'm confessing verbally, I suck at spoken word far too much. I want to message him some day very soon about it.
I feel like I'm going to get rejected, because maybe I'm not what he's looking for. And I can probably recover, because I love him so dearly as a friend, and I could manage. I just don't know what it might do to his perspective of me. At least he has told me I'm never getting rid of him, but maybe it might do something to sour me for him.
Very worried. He's so cool, and pretty, and I adore him dearly. I am planning on possibly messaging to him about it tomorrow, but I may become a coward. We'll see. I have a friend encouraging me on it. | Crushes |
so ive liked this boy since like september 2021 and we went to the same school and hes always been absent alot like pretty much every friday and monday and he just recently said hes moving schools so i need help lmk if i should keep trying to talk to him or get over him | Crushes |
I want to tell my crush I like her but I don't know what she will say. So, I don't know what to do plus,I am on the same track team as her, plus there was a school dance that happened recently. I was going to tell her but I flunked out. So I am stuck on trying to tell her If anyone have some advice for me please let me know. | Crushes |
I was going through my old posts and i remembered how i felt about my crush a few months ago. I haven’t gotten over him yet but my feelings have become more controllable now. I feel comfortable in this state and wish everyone could find their comfort. | Crushes |
I am beyond DONE with this crap!! I want to scream my head off at him, because he's letting the fact that I like him screw up a friendship that means SO much to me!! I want so bad to get over him, but I don't know how!! If I could, I would! Just stop ignoring me, please! You were my best friend once, I'm not sure who I am without you anymore. Please, please stop shutting me out... please? I need you | Crushes |
My opening line was "you're like an NPC, you're always here". I could see that being taken poorly but he luckily didn't. We chatted for a few minutes between sets, and I'm giddy like a school girl. | Crushes |
I had messaged my friend 2 days ago asking if we could meet up, because I needed to talk to him about something and he asked what time.
We met up at 1pm yesterday, we went to the woods near my house and we stood in the shade, he asked what I needed to talk to him about and I chickened out. We walked around for an hour and then went back to mine, we continued watching a movie we didn't get to finish the last time he was at mine.
I decided that I was gonna tell him, so I paused the movie and looked over at him, I asked him to guess what it was that I wanted to talk about because I didn't think I could say it. He asked for a hint and I mentioned the show Lucifer, just because Lucifer falls in love with his friend. He then said that I shouldn't have said Lucifer because he got it almost instantly.
He said that he knows that I used to have a crush on him and he asked if it was a full circle kind of thing (which I'm not sure I know what it means).
I sat back on my bed and he asked if I had feeling for someone in this room, I wanted to have a joke and pointed at my poster of Jack Skellington and he said someone living and breathing, I said that I obviously don't have feelings for my self.
We didn't really talk about it much after that because he didn't know what to say, he went home about 20 minutes later and we spoke on facetime an hour or so later. Near the end of the call I asked him about the fact that he didn't really say anything after the whole thing and he said that he didn't think that there was much left to say.
I asked my brother if he thinks my friend likes me and he said that he does like me, I even asked my friend how to tell if a guy like you, he told me look back on the things that you have gone through with the guy and it should be clear if he likes you or not.
I did that and there is a lot of mixed signals because one minute he could have me pinned up against a wall and the next he could be distant on his phone.
It is so confusing, so can I get some advice kn how to proceed | Crushes |
The girl I’ve like for 3 years now is about 9 months younger than me. I was planning on asking her out, but my anxiety is stronger. So tomorrow is my birthday and I turn 18 (you know, adult age). I was wondering if it would be weird to ask out a technical minor even if I’m only a bit older than her. But like seriously I don’t want to do anything morally wrong. | Crushes |
So last friday, off the idea that she liked me back, I told her how I felt. I thought this was a good idea as she always seemed very happy around me and several people thought she liked me. She doesnt have any friends that I know of so it was hard to get info. I did get her number earlier in the year and I got as close to her as i could. When I texted her she would usually send a dry response after a day or two, until she stopped altogether. On this past friday, I asked her to meet me in the hallway after free period, she agreed and went out there together. I got straight to the point and told her i liked her. She told me something along the lines of, "wow, ok, im sorry, but i havent really had any crushes this year. But you are really brave for telling me" I kinda just shook it off and took it fine. I never explicitly asked her out and I feel like I really blew it. We agreed to keep being friends but I dont know how to start a conversation now without it being awkward. Did I mess up by not asking her out then? or do i still have a chance to ask her? | Crushes |
A few days ago, I made friends with this guy on my course, at placement. We hit it off really well. And i mean-so well. The conversation just flowed and we had so much to talk about. It feels like I could talk to him about anything and everything as I was unusually comfortable with the guy. Having an instant connection with someone is something that has never happened with me before so, for the past few days, I havent been able to get him out of my mind. I’ve been very elated, anticipating the next time we’d speak again. I’ve thought about it and I don’t think i have a romantic crush on him and I feel disgusted thinking about him sexually&romantically. I think it’s a platonic crush more than anything but a delibitating one where I can’t get him out of my mind. I think it’s because i have never really made platonic friendships with the opposite gender so it’s gotten me feeling really giddy. However, it’s starting to impact my sleep as i find myself waking up abruptly thinking about him and creating scenarios and conversations in my head. Does anyone have any tips on how to set my head straight again? There’s no doubt i really adore this person despite our very few conversations. I was thinking on telling him about how i feel like he’s a great person and how I’ve never had such a instant connection before. But there’s no promising it will happen given our contradicting schedules from now on. So i’m stuck and i’ve literally woken up at 2am to write about this as i simply can’t get him out of my mind. Has anyone experienced this before? If so, how do you stop it?
Tl;dr
Developed instant connection with a new friend and I’ve developed a platonic crush on them where i can’t get them out of my mind, to a point it’s affecting my life. How do i go about alleviating this? | Crushes |
So basically I ask this girl if she wanted to hang out next week and she said "perhaps" , then she followed up with this message basically saying " I might in your area soon tho because I have college friends/ family coming back ". Is this a rejection, I feel like it is but at the same time why would she say the second part. Is it? | Crushes |
I’m thinking about telling him I like him. We hung out together and he said it was really nice hanging out with me while I was leaving. He’s super sweet but i’m scared i’ll ruin an almost friendship i’m not sure what to do. I feel like I should just get this over with tho! | Crushes |
I have a crush on this girl "Lisa". I don't think I've ever spoken to her but a few days ago our eyes just met eachother and I just instantly developed a crush on her.
I'm not trying to be exaggerate the whole thing but it was like from a movie!
Anyways, she is in the class "9b" and I'm in the class "9c", we have no overlap in classes so the chances of us sparking a conversation is near to zero.
From Tuesday-Friday we had some eye contact during the breaks and in the mornings before we went to class. The eye contact is probably nothing but I feel like there's something.
On Wednesday was my perfect opportunity to start a conversation with her because she is part of a class that has more sports. My friend and I were talking about the sport event on that day and how only her class is participating from the 9th graders.
She was standing right in front of me and I could've just said "You're in the 9b, right? Isn't your class the only class participating from the ninth?" And so on but I didn't! It would've been the perfect oppurtunity to start a conversation with her/talk to her! And I just wasted it! | Crushes |
i say ex crush because i don’t have a crush on him but i still have feelings for him.. does that count as having a crush on him? i’ve been having feelings for years. XD lately i’ve been having dreams of him. what does this mean??? | Crushes |
Ok so I’m struggling to decide if I’m just being biased or something might be up. So I have a couple things that might hint towards her liking me back including the fact we have only recently started actually talking and almost everyday since we’ve talked in some form, we’ve spent hours on discord talking (text and voice) several times, we play games too, she’s jokingly said something a little *interesting* to me once, she laughs at a lot of the jokes I make and she’s randomly said hello several times during school. That might sound good but we haven’t been talking properly for too long as I said, for the past 2 years we’ve been nothing more than just classmates and a lot of the time she takes ages to respond to my messages so could any of you clear this up? Thanks and sorry if this came out bad I’m in need of answers. | Crushes |
I actually know her quite personally and we are really goods friends. To the point where i can even hold her hands as a joke.
But when i asked her if she wants to hang out with me she said that she is quite busy and needs to find time to hang out.
But it was already 10 days
Should i ask her if she actually wants to hang out. You know regardless if she has time or not but if she personally wants to.
Or should i just ask again
Maybe it was an excuse. Thats why I want to ask her if she actually wants to hang out or not. But idk if it is ok to ask her that | Crushes |
So to start i go to a middle school in usa
Im 7 grade 13 end of year shes 6-7 grade 12-13 my same height see seems nice see her somtimes noticed she just started paying more attention to me staring at me looking at me blushing seems different around me need help on how to approach her. | Crushes |
A bit of a background, I meet her at the gym I go to. Our first conversation was me complimenting her on how she's a good runner, because she had been sprinting 8 laps, and how I haven't ran in a while and i genuinely wanted some advice. We didn't exchanged number but promised to meet again. The next day saw her at the track and we talked same as the first time but this time I had mentioned how I work late and on certain days I don't get to the gym till past 7 pm. She said that she would stay there late on Friday, this was last week, and meet me by the track so we could work out together. Come Friday I didnt get to work out with her because it was already late, i caught a glimpse of her already leaving so I just told myself "oh well I'm still gonna work out myself". The weekend goes by and I can't stop thinking if she was just playing around with me or genuinely trying to get to know me. Come Tuesday of last week I see her after I finished running. She was already talking to another guy so I just went ahead to grab my stuff, which they were both standing in front of, as I grab it and start heading out she yell out to me "hey your not gonna say hi?". I play dumb trying to remember her. Not sure what it was but she was quick to ask me for my number and we ended up working out together, said our goodbyes and I went home. I didn't text her that night but the next day I did trying to invite her but she doesn't text me for over an hour and I don't text unless texted back so when she said she wasn't gonna go because she went already at 2 I went eitherway. We didn't talked for over the Memorial day weekend but at the start of the week went to the gym after work and it's when I say her leaving with her girl friends. I didn't look just pretended she wasn't there. Same thing happened again the next day. When I was off on Thursday I went early and load and behold she came up to me and said " I was here early". I didn't take it as anything else. We ran a bit and she told me " I have to go work out with my friend but we could do our workout there". Looking back I didn't see it as an invitation, idk what I was thinking. I left early and since Sunday we haven't talked and just today I went shopping and we ran into each other. Tbh it bothers me because I keep thinking "I'm ready to quit and move on but I want to see how things shape cause I'm the kind to stop dating for months cause I get caught up on all my mistakes". I need advice guys. Am I wrong to quit now or try to explain myself next time I see her. | Crushes |
I really really like this dude but I don’t know how to talk to him. He’s 17 and I’m 16. We have some mutual friends but we’ve only exchanged like 3 dms which are just us reciting lyrics from mask by dream (not one of my proudest moments). He’s told my friend that he wants to become my friend and that he thinks I’m cool because we have a lot in common like how we both like Minecraft (that’s why I dm’ed him). We also have no classes together but both of our last block classes are right next to each other and we take the same exit out of school. I thought about telling my friend about my crush but they had a thing (never dated or kissed and she has a new boyfriend now) I also don’t want to intrude on their friendship. Idk help lmao 😭 | Crushes |
I'm M15 and she's F15
I had a crush back in October who I added on Snapchat. We’ve never talked but she was on quick add so I said why not and added her. 6 months passed and she still hadn’t accepted the friend request so I lost interest and decided to leave it there.
(Late April) A few days after giving up I noticed her looking at me (periodically about 4-5 times) in class. The next day she’s doing a presentation and she makes eye contact for 2 seconds. About 2 hours later she accepts the friend request that I sent 7 months ago!
She also looks at me when I enter the classroom. I tried maintaining eye contact once, but she continued to look at me after 3 good seconds. And it was 3 FULL seconds.
(Beginning of May) Another thing I tried was walking out and coming back into the classroom to see if she'd still try to look. At the time, she was talking to her friend so her back was to the door. I asked the teacher to use the restroom and came back 5 minutes later to see her turn around to look at me again. I thought "this has to be a coincidence" so I came to class early the day after and tried to see if she looked towards the door when someone ELSE walked in. The result? She doesn't look at the door when someone else walks in.
(Early May) Now that she's somewhat showing signs of interest, I decide to send a streak to see how she reacts.
I've been left on delivered since.
Any ideas of what happened back there? | Crushes |
I like this girl in my class, we had to sit next to eachother for a while so i know her already. Ive liked her for almost 2 years. We texted sometimes about school and stuff.
So a few weeks ago i took the courage to text her and ask if she wanted to hang out some time, she said sureee. I asked if she could go sunday but she said she had to go to church ( for my knowlidge she doesnt go to church) i asked if she could go monday, she said she would see if she could and would lt me know. She never texted me back about it. I had also asked her 2 months earlyer if she wanted to go to a movie with me. And she could cuz she had to go to a birthday.
So a few days ago i just texted her again and we talked about something school related as if nothing happend. In neither situations did i intend it as a date.
I really like her and dont know if i should text her for a date or just do nothing cuz it will do nothing.
What should i do? | Crushes |
we where joking woth friends (on snap they had her phone) and she goes wait do you like (ik it was her and not her friend) me so I went idk and now idk what to do bcs I thought she might of liked me but now I font think she does (one of her friend lied about her having a bf to make me jealous too I think) and now I'm like shaking while writing this to find out If she still want to be friends | Crushes |
As the titles says
Idk if I actually have a crush on her, I see her twice a week but around her I am way more comfortable and outgoing, but around everyone else I’m shy.
I don’t think I have a crush on her but any advice would be nice
I’m going to ask for her number anyway I want to keep in contact with her | Crushes |
Ive had a crush on this girl for like 4 months. Now that school is over and we both are changing to different schools. I decided that i got nothing to lose so im gonna ask her out on tuesday. Ill give u and update then. | Crushes |
Did I make an account just to ask this? Yes.
I'm going to try to keep this vague bc I'm not sure if the guy I'm talking about has reddit but, I (18 f) recently got asked by my friends to hang out after exams and I think my crush (18 m), who I'll call P, is maybe going to ask me to prom?
Without giving away too much, I'll say this:
My friend group is made of only girls, but almost all of them are friends with my crush, however, I've never really spent enough time around him to become friends (I make friends fairly easily but he's quite awkward whenever I talk to him). That being said, I was recently asked by one of our mutual friends if I wanted to hang out since **P** was arranging a get together. I said yes and was added to a group chat with him being the only guy, where I could see that he had asked what we'd like to do and when we were free.
Now, something you need to know is that P is also friends with my best friend (I'll call her C) and, from what I can tell, it was him that asked everyone aside from me (he has my number + my social media, so getting in contact w/ me isn't an issue). C asked me around this time if I'd want to go bowling and I had agreed and when I was added to the group chat I noticed that he bowling had suggested and so that's what we've arranged to do.
Like I said, he's the only guy going out with us which isn't really something that happens where I live and whenever I ask why he hasn't invited any of his guy friends, I'm told that it's because he thinks no one will talk to them (this is not true, most of us are friends with each other).
Another detail I feel I should add is that I was once at a party where he with him and his sister and when I entered she loudly announced "P has a crush on you!" which I assumed was a joke but she repeated it a few times throughout the night anytime he got too cocky or too quite. Aside from this, he was really nice and seemed to be having fun the entire time I was there but apparently he got cranky and wanted to leave pretty soon after I left. C had stayed for a while after and apparently the group played truth or dare after I left, but I don't really know much after that. C said that he probably assumed I have a crush on him (tbh I haven't actually hinted this to him at all. I'm a very flirty person and this is something everyone knows, so things like compliments / teasing are usually taken lightly) and his sister was probably trying embarrass him.
But there's also a small issue. P has already asked a friend of mine to go with him as friends (she said no) and I know that he doesn't want to go to prom alone bc he has some drama with a girl. (I can't give too many details but put simply; she likes him but he doesn't like her back and has made it very clear that he sometimes feels unsafe with her). So idk if I should even say yes if he asks?
I've been thinking about all these things for the past 2 weeks and I just needed to see if other people think I'm jumping to conclusions or if I'm making things up for my own ego.
P.s - if you think you know me in real life please don't bring this up that is so embarrassing. | Crushes |
I love him so much but he doesnt love me. He likes girly bubbly soft girls. :/
One time I kind of told him and he said he would date me but he doesnt want to ruin the relationship. Later on we got in an argument and we didnt talk for a whole year. 2 days ago we reconnected and he said he missed me and that when he broke up with his girlfriend she told him to go to me even tho he mentioned me once. | Crushes |
I feel like a loser for saying this but, why do I feel jealous of my crush? Like, why do I want to be in some ways like her? I don't want to sound like a creep or something but, I can't help it. For example, she started a skydiving course a couple of months ago. I plan on starting it next year as well. WHY? The reason isn't that I want to be with her and stalk her. No. Not at all.
She started running in parks and shit, suddenly, one of my goals is to go to the gym and start running too. It's like, everything she does, I want to get that into my life as well. Maybe because my subconscious makes this plan because it wants to be together with her or something. Show her that we belong together. It wants to make my life the same as hers because, in my view, she is perfect. God, sometimes I can't understand my brain. | Crushes |
So. Many. Signs.
My crush has kissed my forehead, hair, and cheek.
She’s cuddled me and held my hand in the dark as we watched a movie together.
She’s hugged me so many times, sometimes backwards.
She’s asked to compare hand sizes.
She’s teased me about having a crush on her and joked about her having a crush on me.
She stares at me in lessons.
She’s trapped my trainers with hers under the table.
She’s grabbed my chin and made a kissy face.
She lay on my lap,
put her arm over the back of my chair,
pulled me onto her knee,
held countless staring competitions,
picked me up and spun me around,
pulled me after her holding hands,
pushed me up against walls and leant against me,
collapsed against me purposely.
She punched me in the leg and rubbed my actual thigh ‘better’ for far longer than polite.
17 signs and I’ve seen her do almost all with other friends too. And I know it’s stupid but I feel insanely jealous and yeah I hate it. | Crushes |
so me and my crush are really good friends and she has been giving mixsed signals whenever she liked me or not. since i wanted to be nice and give her something to remind her of me, i bought her a plush. should i give it to her? she likes it but i don't know??? opinions#?#?$ | Crushes |
First time when I was drunk my crush was also drunk but not the first time. She offered me a sip from her drink and touches me couple of times.
Does that mean anything? | Crushes |
So me (17F) have the biggest crush on a boy (18M) from my school. (We are the same age I have just not turned 18 yet). We both are in the 2nd grade and I started to crush on him in the beginning of the semester.
The thing is back in September I made a fool out of my self that lead to me removing him from Snapchat because I was to embarrassed. (I added him some weeks before that)
And I did not really think about him, but then in January we looked eyes and I feel down the rabbit whole again. I added him back on Snapchat and surprisingly he added me back. We have been sending regular photos back and forth but we have not talked to each other
I really have a huge crush on him and I want to start talking to him so bad. But I have Jon idea to start a good and not awkward conversation. Please help me! | Crushes |
I've had a crush on my friend for 6 years now, and we both have liked each before. She was away for 2 years and just got back. I was really excited that we could be together now for real.
The problem is that she has a boyfriend now that lives over 6 miles away in another country (long distance relationship).
I dont know what to do, Im crazy for her and it makes me irritated when she mentions him. But at the same time, if I confess, maybe she doesnt want to be friends anymore.
I would love some advise, like what would you guys do? | Crushes |
ok so this isn’t a confession post, it’s something else. so basically my crush (15m) and I (16m) are pretty good friends, we eat lunch together (or ate, since school is over) and we hung out with our friends a few times now. he talks to me great in person, we have each other added on literally every single platform (he asked me to add him on most of them) but there’s one issue. he’s an absolutely horrible texter. what I mean by that is if I text him it’s 60/40 for him to not answer me or answer very short, the only time he ever texts me first is when he needs something, and he has quite literally never, ever texted me first unless he wants something from me or even asked me how my day is. I really value his friendship and really like him, but he makes the friendship feel so one-sided and makes it feel more like a chore. he likes a lot of the same things i like and i can truly relate to him and enjoy our friendship whenever we DO actually talk, but now that it’s summer break and we can’t really talk in school because we don’t have, I want to let him know that he actually makes me feel like absolute crap whenever he does this. i don’t want him to completely and absolutely devote his life to texting me, but I want to talk to him actually outside of school. I have a message drafted already and i’d like some tips on how to make it seem better, so lmk and ill dm it! thanks sm in advance <3
edit: i texted him on discord which he uses VERY often 2 hours ago right after he texted in our groupchat on iMessage and he hasn’t responded but he sent me a message on tiktok so I know he can use not to reply :/ | Crushes |
I have a crush on my best friend and ik she has a crush on me too so I am wondering should I confess or should I just wait for these feelings to go away, cause I don’t wanna ruin our friendship. We have been friends for almost a year and I don’t wanna hurt her because I like her a lot. I don’t want our friendship to be ruined. Everyone already thinks we’re dating. This is the first time I’ve had an actual crush on a girl and she’s my best friend too. I’ve already had a lot of ruined friendships and I also get attached too easily so I’m pretty scared. So what should I do? | Crushes |
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