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I thought we had a staring game going on, but it would seem I need to have my eyes checked.
I put a note in his bag telling him how I feel. Whether he rejects me or not, I'm tired of feeling so stressed out by this. At least if he rejects me, I can move on.
If he doesn't, then cool. | Crushes |
Need a little help here guys. So i asked my crush out and she accepted. Thats good and all but now i am not sure if i should get a haircut or not. I have a regular barber that i go to and i will most likely get my regular haircut if i do get a haircut. But what if it turns out shitty? what do you think I should do?
is it even that important? I should also mention that there are still a few days before the meetup. | Crushes |
So like... I was thinking why I like him and here are the reasons:
I like his humor; We have similar interests (anime, math :/, sports); we're both kind of loud and obnoxious in friendly ways; He's tall and I personally think he looks fine.
My friends reasons why I could de better:
He ugly, he's loud and obnoxious, he is gross, he is ugly, I could do better. (They’ll support me no matter what tho)
IDK what to do because I can see how people without the hopeless crush lens would think that. Also the school year is ending so I might never see him again cause we are graduating. | Crushes |
School ended 2 days ago and I got her number the 2nd to last day of school so we’ve been texting a bit, but our texting conversations aren’t near as good and she’s not nearly as engaged as when we talked in person and I want to get to see her in person again. I feel like something good for this is bowling but I’m not really sure, so I wanted a Reddit opinion. Plus I can casually ask because I bowl quite a bit so I have a few opportunities to bring it up and then say something like “we should go sometime” or something like that. | Crushes |
We used to have pink heart on snap as well as 150+ snapstreak until......... Idk where I messed up.
She got back with her ex too.... Kinda tears me up from inside. | Crushes |
I just found out my crush has a boyfriend and i really really like her how do i tell her i like today at lunch? | Crushes |
I talked to her today.. I was talking with a good friend of mine, and I told him about the girl i like and that I messed up with. We talked and stuff about it, he said to talk to her. I said but I messed up and he I don't remember what he said after that. But he gave good advice and then we were talking and he saw her. 👀 he told to GO TALK TO HER because she was basically alone and it was the perfect opportunity. It was scary. I was afraid I was gonna regret doing that decision. Then at one point I was like "Screw it" and I went. He said to trust him on it and and did. Then I went up, said her name, and she looked up at me. She didn't try avoiding eye contact or anything, she was just throwing the ball with 4 of her friends. She looked up at me and I said "Are you comfortable with me talking to you?" She first was like "Uhmmmmmmmmm" and i didn't really get what she said after that. It was just quick. Then I said "I'm sorry. I didn't really get what you said" and she didn't acted like she heard me. I then said her name I think and she looked at me again. I said I didn't get what you said, and she said "I don't know". Then I didn't say anything and walked back to my friend. I said she said that she didn't know. He said something like it could maybe mean she might like me a little, or she's just not sure. He said if I really care for her I should go talk to her, something like that. But I plan on talking to her tomorrow or Monday and ask if she's made up her mind. I'm slightly leaning to tomorrow, but I wanna give her enough time. And one time something happened that I thought was good, and that whole weekend I was on cloud 9 cause I thought I was gonna be with this girl, only to be crushed because her friend answered for her. (This was a while back). | Crushes |
Yay | Crushes |
He makes me so happy and genuinely excited for the future. :)))) | Crushes |
So i've talk to my crush ocassionally now but like sometimes i've run out of ideas cause we dont have much common interest so if anyone could give me a suggestion that'll be great. | Crushes |
My crush talks to me and interacts with me quite often like most days if not everyday now, we aren’t even jn the same class and year group so and I really hope he likes me, we went on a trip out today and he payed not much attention to me, he spoke to me twice but It was very random and I felt like it was a reason for him to talk maybe. anyways, all the other people in this trip don’t talk to me no where near as much as he does or even interacts with me, but it really felt like he pretended I wasn’t there and he kept walking of with his friends and even his friends looked at me and spoke to me more. Whenever I explain the whole situation people say he’s into me so I hope that but just the lack of attention he pays to me when he’s with his friends brings me down. | Crushes |
Ok, so I was on this field trip with my class the other day and we were using a boat to get to where we were going. So on the way back from the place where the trip was, me and some of the other girls in my class decided to talk with some of the boys because why not and we were bored. And when we approached the guys, the friend that was sitting next to him asked me if I wanted to sit there, and I said yes, because why not. When I sat down we talked for a little bit, but then he decided that he wanted to not sit there anymore, but his friends made him sit down again. After a bit he managed to get away but then they made me sit next to him over there again. After a bit, he was like I have a girlfriend but refused to show pictures of her and all that stuff. And all the other girls and guys in my class were saying why not have another one. Also when I asked if I did anything to the guy, his friends said he was just playing hard to get. Please help me cause I have absolutely no idea how to take this.
TLDR; My crushes friends were making me and my crush sit next to each other and his friends were also teasing him about getting a girlfriend while I was around. | Crushes |
Obviously I would prefer to be in a relationship, but even if it never comes to that, I still think she’s an interesting person & I’d like to be her friend. | Crushes |
Every time I think I’ll get an opportunity to talk to her IT IS JUST STRAIGHT UP RIPPED AWAY FROM ME I get 0 chances and it’s just SADDENING 😭😭😭 hegurgrg
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GIVE ME A CHANCE 4 REAL | Crushes |
(Feel free to comment any thoughts about this)
So this was a shit show.
Let's call my crush C. And the two friends that told him I like him T and M.
M is one of my 2 closest friends, but we've decently drifted after this but that's a different story.
I'm walking out of school with a friend, he will be called N, and he told me something C told him.
That C knows someone likes him.
I was freaking out and N told me he would text me details later.
Fast forward, N tells me details.
C does know I like him. And T was the one that told him. I got real pissed and texted T saying "I heard you told C I like him."
T said "you're welcome."
He acted so arrogant about it and did not care.
I asked him why he told C and T said "when someone told your last crush you liked him you started dating"
1. My friends had asked for permission before telling my last crush
And 2. What makes him think my current crush likes me that way
I started complaining to my two closest friends P and M.
P was mad with me while M kept leaving us on read and did not say a word.
During that time M told P what happened and texted T that I knew about what happened.
I asked M for her thoughts and that's when she told me she was also there when T told C.
I was mad. Our little trio tell each other EVERYTHING.
She told me it happened 2 weeks ago.
She told me the reason she did it was cuz it seemed like I was giving up and she needed a straight answer from him.
So that was fun for me to realise my crush has known I liked him for 2 weeks, and that one of my closest friends told him without telling me.
I wasn't even that mad she told C I like him, I was more mad she didn't tell me.
The next day me and M gave each other the silent treatment. Both of us didn't know how to talk to each other.
Let me tell you now, M texts C every day. And he's constantly talking to her at school. It bugs me yes, but M definitely doesn't like him that way as she has something going on with another guy.
While I wasn't talking to M I was hanging with other friends and becoming closer to them. This comes into play because right now I'm starting to hang with them more and M is not happy.
But back onto the story, T was still acting like an a**.
The real reason he told C I like him is that people told T's crush be likes her, why can't T do that to someone else?
1. T has liked this girl for 4 YEARS. Of course she's gonna find out
2. It wasn't even me who told T's crush
I'm still mad at T. Especially cuz he kept saying "you're welcome".
2 days after I find out, M apologises to me in person.
So we were back on track there.
M told C why me and M were mad at each other. And in doing so asked him if he liked me.
He said "no offense to [my name], but she wasn't going to find out if I liked her or not by not doing anything. And I would prefer to be good mates with someone before I date them. But I don't like her that way."
That was very disheartening to find out. I've always wanted to text and talk to him more but I can't help being nervous and a bit scared to do it out of the blue.
M told me if I want to take a chance I'd have to start texting him. I don't really want to now that he knows what's behind it.
This all happened a week ago. I'm still mad at T, haven't talked to him since. He hasn't apologised to me and is still acting like an a** about it.
And I'm currently stuck in 'I still like him and 'I need to get over him'.
I've given up denying I like someone cuz everyone knows now. C has even told others about it.
Nothing between me and C have changed. It's still a normal friendship.
Just that we've been making eye contact a lot more cuz he's realising I look at him a lot lol and he's probably thinking about how I like him.
I'm glad C hasn't changed the way he acts towards me. It would've been worse if he started talking to me less or acting awkward or cold.
But yeah. That's been my past week and it's been one hell of a roller coaster.
Especially since today two of my friends FINALLY got together after 2 weeks of obvious pining. I'm so happy for both of them and jealous but I can't admit that to them. | Crushes |
but he never ever mentioned her before and we’ve been friends for the whole school year. and he was like “i can’t get involved because right now, as of may 26, i have a girlfriend” and like bro why do u have to say it like that “as of now” 😭 also it’s possible he just said he has a gf to let me down “easy” cuz also it’s the end of the school year and neither of us can drive so it would be impractical, but still it hurts
and the thing is there were so many signs he at least somewhat liked me non-platonically so now i just feel played. like i didn’t wanna tell him because i was worried something like this would happen, but my friends convinced me bcuz they knew i’d simp all summer if i didn’t do anything about it. So i guess it’s good i told him and got it off my chest but i really don’t like feeling vulnerable like this
now i am regret personified | Crushes |
but sometimes it is a bit overkill | Crushes |
What’s the best way to ask my crush about what her summer plans are? | Crushes |
Welp, I confessed and he pretty much friendzoned me. He said that he likes being friends with me and would hope to stay as such. I'm just glad that at the very least I won't lose him as a friend. | Crushes |
Note this is a repost as I had no answers.
Im a guy and I’ve had this crush on a girl for 4 years. They found out last year that I had feelings but this year they are unaware I still do. It started one day I was chilling and sitting on some rocks big enough for sitting. Then they say; hey (my name), then I’m like yeah? Then she says I wonder, who do you have a crush on? I simply stated that I wouldn’t be informing them. Then they suddenly blurt out random girl names in school. After a bunch of names they say; is it me? So casually they said it.
Fast forward to this year (2022) I’m in the same sporting team as them for my school and the same after school class. I notice that they are placing their things next to mine in both sport and class. Lately I’ve been noticing them texting me first and making the first move, which for me to have a normal conversation with them I’d have to make the first move. Then suddenly they wanna play video-games. I’m noticing that they are doing things more with me than their childhood guy best friend.
Then she is suddenly introducing me to her family members. I notice in classes that they try to sit next to me a lot. One time I saw them glance at me for roughly 5 seconds. Then they go get their things and put it next to the desk where my things were. Keep in mind though that they rejected me last year. So I can’t really tell if something has happened.
Edit: my best friend also said that one time when I entered the classroom that she was talking about me to her friends but immediately stopped once I entered the classroom. Not sure if that’s 100% true because well my friend said it.
Edit 2: At a school assembly I was elected to do a speech. My friend stood near my crush to figure things out for me, he didn’t have to but he decided he would anyway. Anyway what my friend heard was something mentioned in this text already in edit 1 but I’ll repeat. So my crushes friend said this; hey isn’t that (my name) up there. Then my friend says that my crush stops looking at me and looks lower down. Like they were looking at my shoes. So it would look like they were looking at me unless you payed deep attention and saw what exactly what they were looking at. | Crushes |
It started when i told a friend of mine that i have an immense crush on a girl. Few weeks later on a party, it was on my friend place(the one i told), me and my crush were singing and dancing, when the sun started to rise, and when we were very drunk, she went to bed and i went home. The day after i did go there again because i forgot my jacket and my friend told me that he has slept with her and made fun of me. The moment when he stopped talking i had an outburst and punched him in the face. This was 2 weeks ago, after i calmed down, i started to become lovesick and i feel so bad. It wont stop. Has anyone of you an advice | Crushes |
Wednesday I gave him my bracelet for some reason and he ended up wearing it the next day. Later that same day we hugged and he took it off(his necklace) and gave it to me saying it would mean a lot to him if I were to have it!!! The thing is he had been really excited about getting that necklace so I’m amazed he gave it to me. I’m never removing it :) | Crushes |
So I have some feelings for a girl. We are about to be juniors (we go to different schools now tho but we call each other sometimes). I have liked this girl since middle school and I still thought of her A lot even tho we were at different schools. Somewhat recently I regained connection and contact with her by getting her number through one of my old friends. I still like her now for some reason. I like her a lot. My question is after all these years of thinking about her, almost longing for her, do you think I'm in love?
To give a little info about this girl, she is cute and is just the sweetest person I've ever met. She's nice and I remember she would help me on japanese tests in middle school and I would give her snacks in return. We get along very well I would say. As a anti social and awkward teen I think she is one of the few people i feel comfortable with. So what are your thoughts? Am I in love? | Crushes |
So I'm pansexual but I just got rejected by but rejected by a guy And I still like the other person so There was a guy I liked before him with the same name And I swear to God I only like people named Jack I don't know why How do you get men women or any other gender as a 13 year old | Crushes |
Granted the snap was from her shoulders up but still I think I’m getting somewhere!! | Crushes |
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So she usually sits in front of me or behind me in class and I will say I found something for you and give her a note. On the note it will say.
Hey (her name),
Would you like to eat something together on Saturday 14:00.
Yes(check mark) no(check mark)
Greetings (my name) | Crushes |
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so i've been talking to this girl for more than 2 months, i like her a lot. and 2 weeks ago we told each other that we like each other and it was reciprocate. so a week ago, we decide to see each other, like in a proper date.
so we were supposed to see each other yesterday. but she told me that she couldnt come bc of family reasons. and then i saw she was hanging out with a really really good friend of her. and she's not texting me anymore btw.
should i be worried ? maybe she just doesnt like me back anymore ? | Crushes |
Today I had a lesson with him and he looked at me right at my eyes and my soul. Damn. He did a mistake in a question and I was to busy focusing on looking at him and he was like “why didn’t you correct me” lol. I’m becoming a bit less shy around him. I feel like he is my person, he is motivating me to get to my goal even when I’m busy with other things in my life, every time I’m smiling he is smiling too and I’m totally into him. | Crushes |
Alright so there is this girl that a few months ago was new to our school and she quickly became friends with the popular people of my school and one day one of the girls asked me if I wanted her number because she wanted to contact me I was shocked cuz I thought she was way out of my league but anyways I texted her and it was amazing she wanted to get to know each other and so on so we did but there was this other dude let’s call him G he probably had a crush on her and started flitting with her he said he told his mother about them that he loves her and so on and he was always trying to talk with her no space I thought she would go with him he’s pretty popular in the school but no she blocked him after a while but I already ruined it by that point anyways like 4 months later I still had a crush on her and I started to talk to her again and it was sooooo amazing we were in those haunted rollercoaster things with the jumpscares and stuff and she took my arm and held it thight and I was pretty anständig she did that because we were just talking at that stage and we had so much fun as if we were a couple you know but then few days later we went outside together and it was amazing so much fun but in school all the other guys are trying to get her and because I got an injury from boxing I was pretty much afk while sitting in school because of the pain but anyways she talked to me and I too her and stuff but other dudes were constantly with her I talked to her about this because G started to talk to her again and he says she loves him the fucking moron which she doesn’t he’s a bloody Buffon but I think she’s loosing interest in me she always says she can’t go out on saturdays cuz she drives somewhere with family sometimes she just says she doesn’t want to and under the week she hates going out because of school and we haven’t went out in 1 week now I’m probably overthinking this right now but I just want to know what you all say if this can even work or what I can do or if she’s loosing interest or what ever so please help | Crushes |
It’s a genuine question. I won’t get into it but obviously it’s about a guy. I haven’t known him long but I’ve known OF him, and we’ve had a few interactions. But ever since we’ve become friends I’ve gotten to know him more and more. And I can wholeheartedly say that he is very bad for me, but I can’t help but like him! Why is that? | Crushes |
Before you guys think she's shy around me because she too has a crush on me, it's very unlikely.
We don't even have a friendship and never talk at all in the four years we've schooled together. I've only texted her a few times this year but i guess i made it obvious i like her because i keep trying to start convos with her through text and she sees me stare at her sometimes.
She always turns around and face the other way when she sees me. Is this a sign she wants nothing to do with me? | Crushes |
OK so I have liked my crush for two years. I don’t know if I’m imagining things or if I’m actually making progress so I came to reddit for help. I need to know if these are signs he likes me. Whenever we’re in class my friends always say stuff like ‘ don’t freak out but he is totally staring at you ect ect’. As well as that when a teacher told us to work together he had the biggest grin on his face and kept turning to his best friend smiling. I have more information but I figure that this should be enough to get an opinion thank you for your time | Crushes |
We were best friends since 9th grade and we still are best friends we became best friends after just 2 weeks of talking we shared alot of personal things and made memories, we both are sophomores in the same college i used to like her alot and she rejected me nicely and explained why she couldn’t date, and now after 3 years she told me she likes someone and explained how he understood her well, i think the reason for the jealousy is that i know what guys want and what he will do to her, and based on what she told me he dont sound like a good person and, another thing is she told me she never wanted to date anyone and all i wanna know is what did that guy do that I couldn’t, what did he do in just 2 months to make someone who never had feelings for anyone develope feelings,i dont even wanna bring the idea of me still liking her as i have a gf which id take a bullet for. we have a laugh or two about it from time to time. Its just i wanna know why is he so special. Its like an old mystery i wanna get the answers to. | Crushes |
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Want to message her and say hi eventually get to telling her I like her it will be my first message to her. What do I talk about to start the conversation? | Crushes |
Seriously why? | Crushes |
Long story short, we have a little circle of people that al hang out together in it are: Me, my cousin, her 2 cousins, her best friend and some other friends.
Her name is Marina
My Cousins: Alex
Her cousin (my closest person): Daniel.
So, we met each other about 4 years ago thanks to Daniel. At first we both hated each other, last year we got friendly and well since Jan we have been getting closer and closer. In February I started noticing her acting different with me, like much closer. She started looking at me more frequently, hugging in me, doing stupid jokes, punching me randomly etc. I quickly fell in love for her and I kinda might've rushed it. I have asked her out 2 times at this point and both ended with the same answer, "idk I need time". Last time was over a month ago. She was in itsly for 3 weeks and now she came back. First thing she does when she sees me is hug me for like 30 seconds and very tightly. Through the whole day all she wanted to do was to be with me and every chance she got she was hugging in me telling me how much she likes me. But honestly idk what to do after 2 semi-rejections.
The other thing is: She is dating my cousin who is a spoiled brat. She doesn't love him (we have talked with her about this) but Alex keeps begging for hee to be with him. As of now he has ordered her airpods (they've been dating since she went to italy). The thing is, she doesn't hug, doesn't kiss him, gets mad at him for simple things, bad talks about him most of the time.
What the fuck do I do at this point? | Crushes |
I(m13) have a crush on my best friend(f13) and I want to ask her out but I don’t know how to ask her out, she is sweet, kind and beautiful, what more do you want, | Crushes |
I like this guy but he’s been giving me mixed signals (or maybe I’m an over thinker). Anyways he’s very comfortable around me which gives me the impression that he only sees me as a friend, but there are other instances that makes me wonder like when i unconsciously lean in, he won’t move away, he gets excited when we meet, he slightly raises his eyebrows when we interact and his body faces me when we talk. (According to psychologist, there are sure signs a dood is into you.) other than that, we barely text and we don’t wish each other well before tests or anything like that which makes me wonder if he likes me but he’s too shy or if he doesn’t like me and can’t give 2 💩. Yikes. Someone please help me rationalise or give me some advice :( | Crushes |
This was my first date like, ever, so naturally I got pretty shy too compared to when we're just texting. I'm kinda worried that I was maybe too boring. He was a little bit reserved and closed off too but I can't tell if it was nerves like in my case or he was actually bored.
Feel free to ask me questions, I'll gladly answer in detail. <3 | Crushes |
I've been having a crush on this girl for quite sometimes now (and my god she's beautiful and soooo nice and cheerful all the time).We barely talk, I only get to see her for a period every morning in Chem and sometimes (if I'm lucky) she's in the chess club's room during lunch time.
School ends in a week, so I plan to do sth normal me would never do: walks up to her and asks if she wants to play a chess game with me (she's a avid player too, won an in-class tournament I think).
If you're that girl, how would you react? Assume that she has absolutely no interest in me, would she say yes? Would you?
And if (big if btw) she said yes, what would I even talk about during the game?
FYI if she's a perfect 10 (she is) than I'm a solid 6 (and that's me being VERY generous to myself) :)) | Crushes |
This guy keeps saying a line that when you don’t look for someone someone will come into your life that is the right person, then he says but I am glad we are friends.
This is a friendzone… | Crushes |
sorry if this is incoherent lol i wrote this at 1am
they liked my story which was just me showing something i made. they usually just view my we don’t talk to each other a lot, but idk if it’s because they’ve noticed me looking at in class, but we’ve had eye contact. the thing is, i’m hesitant to text them or talk to them because we’re radically different (ie. he’s a popular white dude-i have like two friends and im asian, theyre rich/literally goes to a country club-i’m not etc…..) and because idk how to start a conversation because i’m really awkward. the good thing is, is that it’s currently summer break so even if i get rejected or make things awkward i won’t have to see them at all. idk what to do lmao | Crushes |
So I'm in grade 6 right so I am kind of considered a weird kid and im a good human when you get to know me and respect me but I am shown in a really bad light due to the fact that if somebody wrongs me I have a policy to give them a really bad version of me and if your good to me il be good back its just my rule but many people have a hit that bad point so to say the least I have some problems to start with second I liked this girl for awhile and she is pretty popular and really a nice decent human being who is really kind and this is why I like her and she is also really attractive of a person might I add so after a really bad turn of events my Crush and the whole class found out I really am not in a great spot and I need help badly so I can be a bit less weird by most peoples standards please help | Crushes |
alright so this is a long story & therefore is gonna be a long post to get thru but i will try to keep it as short as possible & include a TL;DR. (im a girl crushing on a guy btw if that matters)
How we met:
we went to the same middleschool. i had a crush on him since day 1 bc he was so hecking cute like oh my gosh. back then i had some pretty bad Social Anxiety so i couldn't talk to anyone. so naturally i just admired him from a distance in class & all that. he did speak to me a few times but not much (& when he would he would make eye contact & smile at me so i always suspected he liked me but wasnt sure so i would just smile & make eye contact as well to show mutual interest), mainly hungout with the other boys. the night before valentines day i made him a card confessing my feelings (signed with my name) & the day of i brought it to school & slipped it on his desk quietly from behind him when i got up to turn something in bc i was shy. i returned to my desk & looked over at him & i saw him look at the cover & flip it open briefly before sticking it in his bag & he never brought it up for the rest of the day so i assumed he just looked at it & would read it when he got home. the next day i went back to school as usual & come recess i was walking to the playground alone when he caught up to me & told me he had read my letter before walking ahead of me looking over his shoulder & smiling at me & it was the cutest freaking stuff ever. for a split second i forgot that i had given him that note & in my head was like what letter? & then i was like omg but i was like he most definitely likes me also from that interaction we had. then nothing else happened for the rest of the day but after that i remember writing on post it notes & handing them to him in class & we flirted constantly (him more so playfully teasing). at one point i sat down to eat lunch in the cafeteria & he sat at the table in front of me (facing away from me) & he leaned back resting on my table & asked me if i wanted to go on our first actual date when he turns 16 bc thats when his parents would let him & my parents had the same rule. i couldnt hear him the first few times so we had to keep inching closer to communicate but when i did hear him i simply nodded & we returned to our lunches & i felt a spark of electricity in my chest & i was smiling bc i was so dang happy 🥺🥺🥺 it was amazing. when we started 8th grade a bunch of ppl joined our class so he hung out with a bunch of boys more & i would try to get his attention sometimes but he just ignored me so i assumed he stopped liking me & didnt care abt me anymore. middle of that year i ended up switching to online school so i lost contact with him as he didnt have a phone at the time & we had never hungout outside of school. & when i left i thought i had gotten over him as well but when i would think of him the feelings would all come back so i still liked him & tried to find him on fb & ig. i found his sisters & parents & then him on ig when he got a phone 7 months after i left. i wasnt sure if it was him bc his pfp is from a game & he didnt have any selfies posted at the time so i reached out & we started texting.
cut to now:
we are good friends & have been texting for almost a year now. at first i flirted with him a bit (mostly flirty instagram posts) but he didnt really respond to it so after his 16th bday (im a month older btw random detail) i asked him out & he said he wasnt able to go bc his family got sick but he didnt say no to a date just not at the time so i took that as him reciprocating my feelings just wasnt available at the time. so then i asked him out a few days before valentines day for v day but he said he had like a play at school or smth so he couldnt go but again didnt say no to the date itself. i was starting to feel frustrated bc he seemed to always be busy so on valentines day itself i just decided to write him a love letter basically. i texted it to him on snapchat & no longer have it but i wrote a whole paragraph something like this "to tell the truth, i still liked you after i left middleschool & thats why i had been looking for ur acc on insta & i still dream about you sometimes. we've been friends for a while so if ur interested in being bf & gf lmk otherwise just ignore this & i'll delete it later". i waited all day & saw he opened the message but didnt respond so my hopeful ass was like "well, maybe he got distracted & forgot to respond?" so the next day i just texted him "why not" & he said "ur just a friend to me". my heart shattered, i had like this heavy pain in my chest & almost cried & was very upset about it for days. i said "ouch couldve told me sooner". i was rlly irritated bc i was giving him hints left & right & asking him out & he never said that he didnt like me back until then so i felt kind of confused & led on. its May rn so its been a couple months since then & we're still good friends & text often. i got over the rejection mostly but i still love him & want something more. & whenever i talk about this to anyone they give the basic old "just move on & stay friends, you'll find someone else" which is good & all but we both liked each other in middleschool & one of us lost feelings while the other still has them so i feel like if he liked me once theres a chance of him liking me again? & im confused as to why he lost feelings but i didnt. so basically, im asking for some thoughts on this matter & maybe some advice on what i can do? preferably something other than just moving on bc ive heard that a ton already.
TL;DR: we met in middleschool, liked each other at the time & agreed to date in the future, lost contact, the future comes & he doesn't like me anymore. looking for help as to what i can do, more details for context in the full post. | Crushes |
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I like a girl she says she likes me back and she touches me a lot yk on my arm or my head or whatever is it normal to get a bit turned on when she does that? (I'm 15 if that means anything) like just physical contact bruh | Crushes |
I did it, I confessed. I'll give y'all an update tomorrow on what he replies
update: I got friendzoned | Crushes |
Ill try to keep it as brief as possible. So there’s this girl that just got hired at my job and I wanna ask her out, any advice on how to do it? Personally I’ve been worrying about her feeling weird about it since i dont want it to ruin anything at work. We work in different departments so I have minimal daily interaction with her, so if it doesnt work out I should be ok. I worry that since she’s new and we haven’t got much time to talk I dont wanna come off as to aggressive since she’s been on the job for less than 2 weeks. I dont mind being rejected (shooters gonna shoot), i just dont wanna jus dont wanna come off as a creep in any shape or fashion. Ive asked girls out at work and had success, but they were customers. This is the first time im asking a coworker out. PLS HELPPP!!🙏🏾 | Crushes |
So 3 days ago at school I met this girl and I slowly developed a crush on her in a day and I was happy to be with her. She really reminded me of an old crush of mine who I am still loving about still to today. Like I mean height, hair, voice, her personality, and her actions. Today we had a graduation party and I was wanting to tell her how I felt. I had a blast and I was hoping to tell her before I left but my parents arrived and she was in the pool with a bunch of people so I said my goodbyes and I never told her how I felt. She isn’t going to the high school I’m going to so this was probably the last time I’ll ever see her. For some reason I decided to put my number in her yearbook so I am hoping she sees it and doesn’t ignore it. | Crushes |
The absolute choke hold this girl has on me. She has a bf and I’m not a home wrecker so it will never happen . But it’s also just my luck that this is honestly the first real crush I’ve had.. I’m 16 almost 17 and although I’ve thought people were attractive and cool, I also have ADHD and I think that all my prior “crushes” were just hyperfixations.
However…
This girl.. makes my heart flutter every time she texts me. We snap everyday, usually just about random shit that happened in the day but she could legit be talking about makeup (which I have no interest in) and I would be so content with life.
She also does the smallest things that just mean the world to me. When she’s snapping me while driving (not safe in and of itself but ya know) she will make a point of putting her seatbelt on because she knows it upsets me when she doesn’t. When I don’t understand things she takes her time explaining them to me and never makes me feel like a burden..
I could honestly go on and on.. I- yeah | Crushes |
They broke up a while ago I think and have been "friends" I guess.
He cheated on her and fucked a lot of her best friends. But they’ve been friends ever since i met her (not long) and she’s been single ever since.
So I started talking to her after she had been looking for my attention and there was obvious chemistry and attraction between us.
Long story short, we were talking and we’re trying to plan a date. But then I learned that at a party she had been trying to fuck her ex. Even tho she was drunk, I’m not going to be her back up plan.
And it proves she still likes him.
So I haven’t talked to her in a week, ever since the party.
She hasn’t texted me either but every time I see her in person, we have eye contact and she’ll to try jump into my group conversations.
Like I’ll be talking to a friend or more, and she’ll come just at that time to talk to them, and she’ll stand next to me.
She’s obviously doing it on purpose but I also know she is texting him. So I’ve just been ignoring her.
I’ll just hold eye contact for half a second because yes, I still like her. So it’s instinctual.
What should I even do at this point ?
It’s been a week and I don’t get why she tries to get my attention when she is still in love with him | Crushes |
Hi fellow humans that crush on profs
Guess you saw where my post is going today. So I’m in this Math class (college btw) and I have this big fat crush on my prof I can feel a slight sexual tension idk whether it’s him as well or it’s just me playing into this. Stuff that happens : when I ask a question after class is over he would come down to my height like sit down on the desk cuz I’m short (5’2 )move a little closer , but sorta doesn’t do that to other students that ask doubts stands a bit apart and heavy eye contact while he teaches smthg and I just return the eye contact.( I’m tryna observe other behaviours towards me ,I’ll edit when I get anything new ). I know I know I sound a little ditsy , but it’s almost like I want this guy to make a move on me .
Help out a girl , advise on how to get over this. Cuz every time I talk to him I can feel my heart beat out of my chest which is not helping me when I have actual doubts lol.
(Also I feel like he already senses it )
Anything is appreciated
Thanks :) | Crushes |
I’m 14 and she’s a few months short of being 14(so currently 13) she’s a daughter of one of my moms friends and I got her snap and We’ve talked constantly everyday for the last month and a half or so and we’ve meet irl a few times I have a huge as crush on her but I just feel that I’m so unattractive that it would never be Mutual for that reason I have no plans on ever acting on my feeling but I want to know what everyone else thinks | Crushes |
Let’s see what happens | Crushes |
This might just be me, but I am always seeking out a new crush to daydream about. It distracts me and I use it to kind of cope with my problems because it's so nice to think about them instead of thinking about my problems. This just leads to me getting way too deep into this rabbit hole and me crushing on them super hard even though I just met them. I think I'm crushing on the version of them I made in my head, not the actual person. Then reality sets in because I know I can never have them because a) he's a sophomore and I'm a freshman, also waaaayyy out of my league and b) I literally do not know him at all, and I'm just crushing on an imaginary character I made in my head. Then the cycle repeats, with me finding another crush to distract me from thinking about this last one. Idk it feels like my whole life is revolving around crushes. | Crushes |
So basically we both got chosen for this dance thing that is really hard to get and only 8 people were chosen. I found his Instagram and I thought he was really cute and he started liking my photos and viewing All my stories. We will have one week together at nationals doing stuff like assisting with classes, handing out awards, photoshoots, etc. I really want to make a good impression and get his number and make the most of our week 😭. Nothing special will happen probably but I can dream :D. | Crushes |
TLDR my crush some days acts like she crushes back and other days acts totally disinterested.
Hey all. I thought I got a hang of talking to the ladies, but I clearly don’t. She confuses the hell out of me, and one second I think she likes me and the next I think she hates me. Let me explain.
For a few months I’ve been acquaintances with her, and within the last month from friends to closer friends. About a month ago I got her snap and we’ve texted nearly every day since then.
The texts started off slow and distant, and especially in the last week or so it seems like her interest picked up. She texts me first, she sends selfies more frequently (she almost never did unless I actually asked), she was genuinely upset when I didn’t invite her to a school event I was a part of, and we seem to have good chemistry.
A few days ago we even flirted a bit, with ultimately admitting we found (one thing or another) cute about the other person. I of course initiated the flirting; but nonetheless she seemed in to it.
Seems like things are going good right? Here’s where the confusing part comes in.
In spite of the what seems like obvious interest, she often contradicts her self and makes it seem like we are strangers or at the very least she wouldn’t have any romantic interest.
When we get to see eachother in class, she’s usually pretty quiet, unless she’s either joke angry at me (she likes the middle finger quite a lot) and even when I literally pick up a chair and move it to her table to sit next to her (and some of my other friends) she will more often than not get up and sit next to a different friend a few minutes later, despite her laughing at like all my jokes during a good conversation.
And some days the texts will be SOOOOOOO dry. Like I’ll try to keep the conversation going and I’ll even say “how do I respond to that” and she’ll just leave me on opened…
How can she convey so much interest (there’s more than I included in the post) yet some days completely be opposite and make me doubt she likes me all over again? | Crushes |
I wanted to write this little piece on experiencing romantic rejection in life, sometimes repeatedly, as I’m dealing with my own emotions about this.
I just wanted to heads up that this may come across as a little blunt and negative (to positive) if you are fresh out of rejection right now, you may skip it until you feel more reflected about it but it might help you gain perspective and deal with your emotions better. That’s up to you.
Okay so. Here are my rejection reminders and lessons I learned from many, many rejections in my life:
* When someone rejects you, it’s not an invitation to change their minds, try harder, or up the contact.
This is the number one way to make them dislike you, even as a friend.
Do you get a no in any shape or form?
Respect them and stop trying. Don’t try to convince them to date you. Don’t beg them to change their minds. Don’t increase contact.
Let them know you respect their decision if appropriate, wish them well, and delete/mute their number.
* You can do all the ‘right’ textbook flirting moves on somebody and still be rejected.
That’s a hard pill to swallow, but the truth. You can’t make anyone like you. You can read one thousand techniques and apply them excellently- for the wrong person, they’ll still not work or be missed out on. Let it go. It’s not meant for you. Save your moves for someone worth it.
* If you misinterpreted somebody’s flirting signals, there’s not necessarily something wrong with you.
Signs of liking somebody can be incredibly confusing even when you had “confirmation” that somebody likes you. To misinterpret signals happens a lot. People can be unsure about you, themselves, what they want. With a rejection you don’t have to wonder anymore. You can choose to see it as a relief given time.
* You can be the smartest, kindest, most emotionally mature, talented, committed etc person in the world and still not be enough for, for meant for, someone.
This one is also hard to accept. It can be easy to imagine what you lost with this person and what could have been.
Sometimes you don’t even get a reason why.
But if the person wasn’t meant for you, isn’t your energy best spent elsewhere?
You can focus on what you want and what matters to you as single. Do whatever activity you want freely, all the time.
There will come someone who’s worth it, trust me. Trust the process instead of getting stuck with the wrong person.
* Sometimes someone who rejects you is actually trying to protect you from bigger heartbreak because they know what you’re looking for and can’t offer it.
Especially applicable to older adults in relationships.
They seem serious, you say. Why don’t they like me?
Maybe they’re straight, you’re queer and your attractions don’t fit.
Maybe you’re into serious relationships and they aren’t.
Maybe they don’t have time, or your values would make you incompatible.
Sometimes the most mature thing for someone is to break it off before they break your heart.
And sometimes they’re not who you think they are, and they know before you do.
* Never lose sight of your important unrelated commitments such as a job, school or uni even though you’re grieving.
Do you have an important job, school or uni due?
Take your time to process your feelings, but never do that your education or salary suffers. Your commitments matter, while relationships for the most part are more temporary. Sometimes the work can be a welcome distraction. On the day of my last breakup, I spent 5 hours in uni.
* Especially if you’re young: Life goes on after a rejection. It’s not the end of the world, you’ll face many more in all areas of life.
There’s always the risk you have to make a plan b for something. It’s not the last person you will be turned down by, or there’ll come a time where you have to reject someone. Something new and different will be waiting for you. Process your feelings and then be open.
* Learn how to handle a rejection gracefully.
You do this by a simple thank you, I understand, I wish you well. And leave it at that. Be calm and level even if the other person isn’t. It can be helpful for some to distance yourself while moving on, but be sure to keep it friendly if you do run into them again.
Note that this doesn’t apply to abusive dynamics. Be more careful and seek professional assistance.
* Take space.
Do you need to mute, delete, stop notifications? Do it! It can be really helpful to get rid of reminders from the failed crush. See them less if possible.
If you weren’t close friends, you can remove them from social media too.
* Use healthy coping mechanisms to deal with grief, anger and sadness.
Being social, getting exercise and journaling are great ways to process your emotions. It can also help to create a sad and a comforting playlist.
* Be grounded in reality.
Try to see the connection in a realistic light. It’s appealing to dream, but what wouldn’t work?
Are they going abroad next year?
Are they too clingy?
Are they rude to other people?
Do they believe the French chicken invasion of 1796 was justified?
Do they never clean up their messes or attend lectures?
There’s your answer. Deconstructing your dreams helps you moving on.
Sometimes people seem like the best dream match for you, but you don’t see their shadow side until much later.
* Learn your lessons.
Did this person bring up unhelpful patterns in yourself you need to work on?
Uncover these as you learn your lessons but don’t forget to be kind to yourself as you grow.
The self work you do now will benefit you later in the right relationship.
* Try again when you’re ready.
One rejection isn’t the end of your love life. Try again. Find your kind of people with hobbies or online. Be authentically yourself.
Identify your goals and desires and communicate them with your person of interest.
And remember: There’s nothing wrong with starting off platonic. It can even be a big benefit. <3
Feel free to add yours if you have anything more:) | Crushes |
I wish it was as easy as getting some chocolates. But she doesn't like anything sweet, or too hard. I've tried chocolates and krispy kreme but she can't eat them, I don't know what to do. | Crushes |
We were friends for like 5 years She said that she had feelings for me from the moment she knew me and i had some feelings too but then after a couple of dates that went really well and we both had fun on them she suddenly stopped talking to me and after couple of days she said that she was confused about her feelings and want us to be more than friends but don't want a relationship right now but she sends me signs all the time and I'm starting to want more and made that kinda clear
I tried to be understanding I tried to give her time but I'm starting to get anxious and sometimes I think she's just leading me on what should I do
Should I just call it off or I should give her more time | Crushes |
I don’t know what to do. I haven’t even told my friends this because I’m scared they’ll drop me, (and if anybody says that my friends are bad people for wanting to drop me because of this, we’ve been in fights many times before so this might be their last straw).
Basically, there’s this guy in my school. I’ve known him since Kindergarten, all the way up to my current year (yes he went to the same primary and high school as me) but the whole time we mostly just bantered. One time I got him on discord, because another guy friend of mine gave it to me. Yes, I know. Uh-oh. Discord. We would talk, but if I’m being honest, he made very rude and horrible jokes. Like nine- eleven jokes. He would say the n word. (He’s very white) and it got to the point where he made fun of me.
He targeted me. He made fun of my weight. Called me a fat whale. Called me a pig. I cried so hard over it and I told the teachers and they helped me out and got the guy in detention. But, even before the situation, I had a crush on him.
Not because of his personality, and I know, you should strive for personality. (What I’m about to say is kinda risky to post so PLEASE bare with me.) and if I’m being honest, I feel if I dated him, I could change him. I feel I could make him a better person. I know, that’s very typical teenage girl.
But that’s not all.
He’s just got the cutest smile. And he’s just so.. idk how to explain it. His smile is just the best and I always refuse to look at him because I know he’ll catch me staring💀he also smells really good💔 but every time I think of even dating him I know what a horrible person he is. It’s so bad that I haven’t even told my friends. I don’t know. Someone help lol | Crushes |
I recently asked out my crush who I’ve been friends with for about a year, and she said yes. This would have been my first relationship, but as the title says a couple days later she asked to talk and told me that she’d rather remain friends and she doesn’t feel she’s ready for a relationship. The reason she gave is she doesn’t think she’s able to reciprocate affection in general, and my asking her out finally pushed her to seek therapy for it :/
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I know it’s completely her right to feel that she’s not ready, but I was still kinda surprised and disappointed. The reason she gave has kept me wondering too. Is she holding back for my sake, because she thinks she’d hurt me? Or is that just wishful thinking? I’d be willing to try to make it work with her… I guess I’m still wishing she’ll change her mind, but I also don’t want to pressure her in any way… Should I just try to get over her? I’ve taken a couple days to process what she said, but I’m still pretty confused :/ | Crushes |
I’m 14 and I had my first kiss ever with my current boyfriend yesterday but I lowkey don’t remember it. So we were hanging out and he left but he accidentally left his wallet at my house so I texted him to come back and get it so when he got here I opened the front door, handed him the wallet and kissed him. But I fully blacked out. I gave him his wallet I know that but I don’t remember kissing him tbh. I don’t know if i said anything, I don’t know if I like held his hands or grabbed his face, I don’t know how long I kissed him for. All I know is that afterwards i said “okay bye” in a panic and shut the door to freak tf out. I know that I did kiss him because he talked to me about it later but if he didn’t tell me I probably would believe it didn’t happen because I just fully don’t remember anything. Is this normal I’m so confused. | Crushes |
We had our first date past Saturday. And it went better than I had hoped. We went to a Christmasmarket, then watched Star Wars at my place, after we got some ice cream and drove up a hill with an overview of the city where we snuggled in a blanket. After a while she put her head on my shoulders, I put mine on hers. We're meeting again this Friday. Any tips? | Crushes |
My crush and I are close friends and I’m heading to her city in a couple days (both uni students gone home for holidays). I messaged her and asked if she’d want to catch up and she said she’d probably be free and that she would. She knows that I like her, doesn’t like me like that and we’ve had an open conversation that brought us closer as friends. I bought two tickets to an event and my friend can’t make it any more. Should I ask her if she wants to go with me, do I have anything to lose by doing it? | Crushes |
So I liked this guy and he liked me, told me I was his soulmate and how we was meant to be. Had loads of things in common and got on well. However, one day we was at the gym working out together and his friend goes “she’s a bit on the chubby side, you could do a lot better than her” in which he never defended me, instead, he agreed with him and started ignoring me. That same day he went home and blocked me on everything. He liked me up until his friends said otherwise. It explains why he wanted to keep me a secret though. | Crushes |
It's exactly how it sounds, today was the day I was going to ask out the cutest girl in my class (imo) and I accidently danced around it too the point I just ended up sending an email.
My original plan was to wait out side the school grounds until I saw her walk by in which case I would ask for her number, easy right? Wrong. After final period ended all my friends decided to drag me out of school early, completely butchering my plans.
I don't blame my friends for anything they were just having fun and it was my fault on holding out to the last day to ask her out, so I thought I'd just take a shot in the dark and email her.
The email I ended up sending her:
Hi. As you can probably tell, this email came out of nowhere, but it's the end of the year so I might aswell take a shot in the dark. I think you're pretty cool and I wish I got to talk to you a little more then I did, I was originally gonna ask this in person but my friends dragged me outa school early so naturally I thought "WhY dOnT i EmAiL hEr", but anyways I'm getting a little side tracked. Yeah I think you're pretty cool and by the rare chance you're actually reading this, I think it would be cool if we could hang out sometime, cheers
-My name | Crushes |
Has anyone here ever had that feeling when you saw your old crush in public and tried to avoid them? I couldn't stop thinking about her after seeing her. It felt weird. I just start smiling out of nowhere whenever I think about her. | Crushes |
I felt so nervous but my friends helped my with a push so what i did was i gave her a chocolate she said thank you and hugged me saying “I love you “ to me so i hugged her back and we both confessed | Crushes |
Ok, so say if your talking to your friend and you start talking about how weird they are. And this guy he’s right in front of you, and you say like yeah your really weird to your friend and then the guys like well if she’s REALLY weird than your even weirder.. I get this really might mean nothing but it was so out of the blue and kinda unnecessary like he just said it, I don’t even know who he is.. actually I kinda know, he’s my crushes friend but still what does it mean?
Oh, and I’m just saying this to vent. but like my crush told me his friend wanted my snap.. and I low key was mad, Because I wanted his snap not his friends snap, but all day that day he kept following me and telling me to get his friends snap but he eventually gave up ( btw this isn’t the same guy from the top story) anyways if you have advice for either it would help! | Crushes |
So I (18nb) like a guy (20m). Tl;dr known eachother since early may, he stopped talking for a few months and then came back. but even before he came back he talked to me sweetly, and still does. says that im like "serotonin as a person" and that i make him happy. he is very busy lately, with work and college, so we haven't talked much but he wants to hang out as soon as he gets free time. im nervous and i wanna tell him how i feel eventually. idk how he will react. help lol | Crushes |
I'm (22F) having a hard time getting over a ridiculous crush on a coworker (28 M) that I feel like I have a connection with. The fact that we work at the same restaurant as managers- at a similar mid-level, different roles, and he’s worked there so much longer than me- makes it all the worse. It's hard to let go of because of how I like that we joke and tease each other, but we still make sure that the other is doing well and is taken care of. He is a wonderful coworker and fellow manager, and is one of the most dependable people that I have on the team. He is not the greatest with kind soul-felt words, but you could see in his soul-piercing blue eyes that you don't suck, just merely on basis that he can associate and converse with you. You can say a long run-on sentence that takes a minute to just string together, and every word would be taken into consideration. All that, but I avoid him like the plague when he has pepperoncinis around him, since it's been a long time thing that he will throw a couple at me to tease me, as he knows I'll retaliate by doing something silly in return. There’s so many little inside jokes that we have, and it’s a constant thing that we razz each other in front of our crew. I’d guess that they just think that he and I just give each other crap all the time. Whenever it’s just us somewhere, it’s always slightly tense for me, because I’m trying so hard to not give him any sense that I like him. Honestly, I hope he never knows about my little “thing” for him. It would be too embarrassing, since it’s been a thing I’ve been hiding for 10 months. I could also never tell him for the fear that one or both of us would have to leave our jobs. I love my job, and I know that he does, too.
I know that he probably will never be the someone for me, and that is okay. I know that it is always hard to get over someone, and it feels like this is my learning lesson. I feel a bit better already, since I see my thoughts before me, written out to purge my mind and to feel less alone in my ridiculous infatuation. | Crushes |
Like I don't know what's wrong with me, we've been texting for like almost a year, she has told me that she doesn't really have any friends and neither do I, we seem to get along well enough through text but I still just refuse to talk to her
It's honestly ridiculous at this point, we text eachother for hours on end, so she probably isn't just being polite, and she's said that she'd be cool with hanging out multiple times, but I still just can't bring myself to talk to her at school
And it's horrible because both of us seem to be getting worse by the day, I know I am, and she seems to be doing worse too, she barely shows up at school anymore, especially during lunch and break, and she also seems to have maybe lost her boyfriend of like a year as well
So it's honestly awful, I don't even know if she's a crush at this point, but she's still the only thing close to a friend I have, and I think I might be the same for her, but despite all this I still just can't do it, I have no idea why but it's just impossible, I'm just too afraid to just go up and be seen by her, or th accidentally disappoint her or let her down, even though at this point there is probably nothing that I could do that would make her hate me completely
I just have no idea, I just can't do it, even though I desperately want to and she might want to as well, I just can't | Crushes |
He keeps telling me over and over again to the point where he asks me if i think i am mature or childish. What do you guys think? | Crushes |
So, i like this guy a lot, and today, as a fault of my friend, he found out. BUT HE LIKES ME TOO! he asked me to hang out after our classes tomorrow, and go get lunch with him, and i’m so excited. hes so sweet and nice and i have never liked someone so much! im terrified and ecstatic at the same time lol | Crushes |
so ive been best friends with this guy for 5 and a bit years, and ive had a crush on him for a bit over 2 years (idk why my crushes are so long lol). were really good friends and we often get shipped together by some of our friends. hes bi so theres a chance hell date me. we often make flirty jokes with each other like calling each other stuff like babe, and making some sexual jokes with each other. we also make jokes about liking each other, and we touch a lot, sort of playful wrestling sometimes or just laying next to him touching. we also say we love each other sometimes
he’s basically been my only friend for the past 5 years so im not sure whats normal lmao. what should I do??? | Crushes |
So everything was going okay with me and my crush untill they left me waiting for almost 4 hours at the restaurant then finally deciding they're not going to show up | Crushes |
I need advice on how to get my crush to like me. I have to this girl I like and I talk to her, but only the bus cause thats when I see her. We don't talk often but when we do It lasts the whole bus ride. Today I was feeling sad for reasons I will not get into. She saw me and tried to cheer me up by offering me cake. FYI, this is the first time she has ever done this, and we have known each other for more than a year. She saw me sad before but never did anything about it before. I know people are nice just because they are but maybe its a sign. I would also appreciate pick up lines I could use on her without making it too obvious I like her. Thank You! | Crushes |
We cuddle. A lot. I cuddle my other friends too, like leaning on them, letting them lay their heads on my lap, but with this guy...Im just melting.
And sometimes, he'd give small pinches on my arm and wont stop until I just hold onto his hand (which we never used to do in public).
One of the habits I developed for my clingy female friends is that I put my hand behind me, palm open when were walking, so they could grab my hand if the wanted to.
Now I unconsciously do it for him too, and he grabs it softly with the tips of his fingers and hold onto my hand.
Now im not sure if this is normal for friends? | Crushes |
Can y’all try to describe what it feels like to have a crush on someone? I think I might’ve felt it once for a character in a game but that’s it, so I haven’t really felt it before. I just want to hear a description of what it feels like from people who are currently experiencing it. | Crushes |
I really like this girl, I cant ever stop thinking about her cuz shes the only thing on my mind the whole day. So, naturally, I'd like to ask her out but idk how or when. I only have her for a few classes. Also, Christmas is coming up so i was thinking maybe give her a box of chocolates or something like that but I don't know if I should and that's why I come to the people of reddit to ask what I can't ask anyone else... | Crushes |
This 'popular' kid is definitely jealous of me and her. She's gone for the month but I feel the jealousy coming off of him. Most other people in that class were quite find of me and zap it stops as she leaves I was getting more attention than I'm use to and he took it all away due to his stupid status. This one girl especially is an example she's really close with my crush and quite attractive herself and she would be flirty with me and I thought she would try to fill the void without her there but has only gave me looks of desperation and sadness like they think I did something or had said something but I haven't this guy used to be close with her but drifted away I'm thinking he has a play in my loneliness all because a girl who I'm really tight with doesn't give him the same level of affection and attention | Crushes |
I didn't want to do it this way, but you know better than most that I write better than I talk. And if you don't like where this is going, at least give me the light of day and read the whole thing. I may not be great at showing it, but these past few months have been some of the best of my life, and it's all thanks to you being there. Even though you constantly say you aren't, you're an incredibly intelligent person who can always make me smile with your witty jokes. You're an incredibly compassionate person and you always make me feel relaxed and cared for in any situation. And I use no hyperbole when I say you are the most beautiful girl I've ever laid eyes on. I know we don't have much time here. We've got a good six months left in this little town before we go off to bigger and better things. And I can't think of any way better to spend that time than with that whom I love. If you don't feel the same way, It's perfectly fine. We'll keep the same relationship we've had. I just need to get this off my chest before it eats me from the inside. | Crushes |
so, i like this guy, and have since the beggining of the school yr. we were best friends in elementary, but i moved schools, and came back. since the first day i liked him and eventually i told him, he rejected me in the nicest way possible, which made sense because atm we werent friends or anything and it had been 3 yrs. but, over thanksgiving break, i got his number. we started talking, a lot. we would stay up till like 2 am talking ab deep things or music. we were pretty close and we both have good views on eachother. i know he defenitely cares about me and puts effort into us, but i genuinely cannot tell if its in a good friend way or in a i like you way. he thinks that im taken tho so. but one day, the night before we had been chatting a lot, but he texted me " Good morning " as soon as he woke up, and I was confused because he never does, not right away atleast. and hes super nice and friendly (or flirty cant tell) by js "laughing" a lot, using emojis, using "!" and stuff.. idk. But, heres the catch. After he rejected me irl for that first time it was awkward so we never rlly talked. And we texted and bonded over things and became bestfriends. But we dont talk irl, we js send silly glances and giggle or whatever from across the classroom. But he or me has never gone up to one another to start up a conversation, and im my opinion we're both intimidating people. Hes strong and 6 feet tall, im tall for the girls at our school and I'm pretty confident. Im not sure if he's too nervous to talk, too intimidated, or he just dosent care to talk. But its even weirder because sometimes it feels like hes avoiding me.. not in a rude way but in a way where if im js walking in the halls infront of him he will zoom past me or whatever. So we almost never initiate irl but over text we're pretty good and close friends. He also beat a kid up for me because he was harrasing me. I know for sure he likes me as a friend, but its confusing. Does he also like me as more than a friend? Oh, and, sometimes he will randomly not reply back.. just out of the blue. Im not sure if It's because he falls asleep or if hes trying to see how eager I am to talk or something butt idk. We share eye contact in class, and I genuinley cannot tell if he dosent care that much or if he is nervous around me. As terms of body langyage go, like 60% of the time his body is facing, and i catch him looking a few times. But, last time I thought he liked me bc he exchanged eye contact soo im just really confused. Does he like me romantically? Because I atleast know he likes me as a friend, and hes not one of those guys who will just have a crush on any girl hes friends with. Im also like the female version of him so idk if that says anything. What do you guys think? What should I do!!
(P.S, i would initiate conversation but im far too nervous around him, and only him. no one else makes me feel like this) | Crushes |
We were texting, and she asked who my crush was, and then I reversed the question on her, and she told me she likes me!!!!
So what do I do know? | Crushes |
Just wondering
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I’m gonna put it on this subreddit cuz it will get more traction. But Idk what to do. I haven’t spoken to them in 2 months. They don’t actually care about me or like me, they like the attention I gave them. So I guess they didn’t get anymore from others which was why the contacted me two days ago. They watch me like a hawk but hate my guts. I always felt like they were jealous of me. They always made indirect comments towards me as a person and I constantly felt they didn’t like who I was. And I always had to change myself for them. But I still didn’t get treated good.
Even though I haven’t spoke to them in 2 months I felt the best I ever had in my life. Not taking to them made me realize how good my life became after I kicked this bully out. They got off to the pain they made me feel and humiliation. I think they are a narcissist. They didn’t really care about anything in my life but always tried to push mt buttons and tell me things that would make me jealous. It was constant distress. Constantly wondering how are they gonna hurt my feelings next? Or how are they gonna make me jealous?
Anyways I was out with my family watching a movie at the theaters and after I left the theater I got a DM from them. I didn’t know who it was until they told me. They have been keeping an eye on me in the past months and they still are cuz they told me. I looked on their profile and they made a post about me and talked smack. They straight up said in the title that they don’t like me. I didn’t get any title all my title was “girl”. Everytime i try to go under the radar and make new accounts to prevent them from spying on mt life they always find the accounts. They oddly are open about the fact they look at my stuff even thought they never gave a shit.
Since they said they don’t like me…..Well there’s my answer. But my mood was ruined. I had an amazing time with my family just for my ex hater to come and rain on my parade. | Crushes |
And serious about it? | Crushes |
I want to ask my crush out but I'm nervous to see what she says. what do I say what's the best time? please help me. | Crushes |
What's up, need help interpreting her signs, not sure what's going on. Never had a relationship or anything close (early 20s). Trying to see if I'm in the friendzone
Friendzone:
-chats me up every day I'm on campus and is not very nervous doing so at all
-has not gone into deep topics besides today
-is super friendly and did not mind bringing one of her
friends around me
-very easygoing with things that I say, takes some things less serious
- offered to buy me food and drinks here and there
-took me out to get food a while back after the gym
-MENTIONED HER EX MULTIPLE TIMES AND SAID SHES STILL GETTING OVER HIM A FEW WEEKS BACK
-TALKS ABOUT MULTIPLE DIFFERENT GUYS SHES NOT REALLY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH BUT CALLS THEM SEMI BOYFRIENDS
-is super open about herself
-told me a guy asked her to be a couple a while back and she said she's still getting over her ex
Actual interest:
-asked me for my number
-doesnt really care to much what I say in a sense where she won't get offended
-is touchy to some extent
-takes random pictures of me so that I don't notice
-holds eye contact that makes my brain stop
-listens when I talk and actually gives feedback (found that very little people do that today, especially that many people won't put their phones down when they are being talked to)
-laughts at pretty much every joke I make (I'm really not that funny, some things are actually stupid)
-when I said I'll make the taking me out for food up to her and it didn't work out that day she searched for an alternative day
-always waits for me after class and goes to the gym with me even if she doesn't really feel like it
-doesnt wanna be a "burden" when I offer to drive
-remembers details that I mentioned like once
-starts convos and sees if I'm around campus somewhere
-offered to get me a something to eat in the cafeteria again
-comes at me and makes insulting ish jokes on a good level (kinda trying to push my buttons?)
-is super open about herself
-seems to be interested in maybe spending more time with me | Crushes |
So basically, I've lost interest on my previous crush weeks ago because I feel like I wouldn't have a chance with him and that the stuff I thought were "signs" from him were just him being friendly. So I gave up.
Before, I was pretty sad at first, but while I was riding the bus, the bus stopped at the other high school where my new crush goes to. I saw a glimpse of him from the window at the bus stop and I felt something weird when I saw him again. I've talked to him once months ago but that was during when I was crushing on my previous crush. He is also Ukrainian just like my previous crush and my new crush was also my old classmate's brother. Back in 8th grade, my crush's brother Serhii straight from Ukraine moved in my class and he did not speak English but we sort of gotten close together by Google Translate. High School came and we went to different schools but our high schools are just like 4 mins away by walking and I even take JROTC class in that high school.
How did I first meet my crush? I was walking home and passed their high school and I saw Serhii on the bus stop and so I said "Privit!" (Hello). Serhii is always with my new crush because they're brothers, (at that time, I didn't know they were brothers) my crush thought I was Ukrainian (I'm Filipino btw and look Asian af) and started speaking to me in Ukrainian. I panicked and I didn't know what to say so I said "Ahh..uh..y-ya ni Ukrainins. Ya Filipinkka! Krasyva Filipinkka!" That was probably wrong grammar in Ukrainian but my crush said in English "oh, you're from Philippines?" And I was very surprised that finally someone acknowledged that I was Filipino! Him and I chatted and he translated stuff for Serhii. I asked my crush for his name but I forgot immediately when I got home.
After I lost interest in my previous crush, for some reason, I started thinking about my new crush. He just popped up in my mind randomly. I tried shaking it off but I just couldn't. When I and my new crush were talking when I first met him, I noticed his deep blue eyes. His hair was brown so his eyes were the highlight of his features. I thought his eyes were beautiful when I first met him. So after school, instead of messing with my friends at my school's bus stop like I usually do, I went to the high school to find my new crush. I tried going where he and Serhii would usually wait but I never found them at my attempts, until last Friday. I thought this would be the chance that I could find him again, so I went to the high school bus stop, and there he is, I found him where I first met him. He was playing snowball fights with the other Ukrainian kids at their school and I approached him and said "Hey, yak vas zvaty? Ya zubov." (Hey, what's your name? I forgot.) And he said it was Alex. He asked me "yak vas zvaty?" And I told him my name. Him, Serhii, and his other Ukrainian friends were pretty impressed by my Ukrainian skills, even though I only know few. I told them I knew how to sing Pidmanula Pidvela and Chervona Kalina and they were so impressed that my crush asked if I can sing them again and that he was going to send the video to his family and friends who are still in Ukraine. I noticed that he was taking the video on Snapchat so I asked for his Snap and we exchanged Snaps. After months of not seeing him and seeing him again like it was the first, him and I already exchanged Snaps. After that, we were just joking about gopniks. He had to take the bus and so we said goodbye. I texted him on Snap later that night and we were just telling stories to each other. He said he's only lived in America for 8 months and his real Ukrainian name is actually Sasha. So I sent him the video of that Ukrainian kid having a tantrum over a computer because the kid's name is also Sasha. He knew about that video already and he said it was a very funny video. I also showed him my notes in learning Ukrainian and he said I was very smart. I said no I'm not because I struggle with Math. He said he does too, haha.
Anyway, I feel like I got too carried away with my story telling. I'm just pretty sad that he doesn't go to my school but at least I got his snap. That's all for now. I'll keep y'all updated.
Ok quick story before I sign out. Earlier, I got a video of him speaking in Filipino and it was just the cutest. He was saying "Oh, *my name* is so cute. I love her." In Filipino in a cute Ukrainian accent and you guys don't know how much that melted my heart away. He asked what that meant and I just said it was an inside joke between me and my cousin, lol.
Alright, bye. It feels like I just wrote a whole book. And that's not everything! | Crushes |
😭😭 AHHHHHHHH | Crushes |
So yeah, we were texting awhile ago, and I offered her the burger we were making in my culinary class tomorrow, and she said she'd like to have it, but she's trying not to eat meat because she feels fat
But in response to that, I basically the same thing, that I was trying to give it to her because I'm doing that too, which I am
But idk, it feels like it was a little rude, or that I should have countered it, because she isn't fat at all, I think she looks fine and she also seems to be an appropriate weight for her height and all that, so I wouldn't just be lying to her by saying she isn't
But I don't know, this may also be something related to the last post I made, since there are also other concerning signs she's been giving off, so I don't really want to disturb her if it is related to that, since it could just make what she might be feeling worse
So I don't know, would it be weird to try and reassure her thst she seems fine, or is it something I shouldn't try to contradict her about | Crushes |
my friend (15F) was going to get his (??M) number for me wednesday (two days from now), because i (15M) know without a doubt he will never ask me and i will never ask him because he’s an introvert (same here).
well, my other friend (16F) take sit upon herself today to talk loud asf while he’s around about how i will “never get his number and be bitchless!!” and “if you don’t get his number by the end of the week you’ll be out of contact for two weeks (the horror)!!” she finds it crazy that i don’t have this weird obsession with this guy as much as she does with her lil crushes.
so, of course, i say hell no because i’m a coward and he was on the phone. we have this back and forth a couple of times, im getting more and more irritated.
i finally convince her to drop it, and what does she do? stare at him. he sees. he heard all of this. he was probably uncomfortable. i was uncomfortable. i want to dig a hole and bury myself alive. i never want to see him or her again.
RIP ME
if he ever reads this:
i’m sorry. i was basically pleading with her to make her stop and she didn’t listen. please don’t let this affect how you see me, if anything, let this affect how you see her. it was never my intention to ever put you in a situation like that and i should’ve never told her about my stupid feelings. im really sorry. if you do see this post never mention it to me or i might break down sobbing (our teacher would be proud).
L. | Crushes |
The guy's with her, not you. I'm so tired of reading posts that gush over not-so-single guys (or girls) flirting with them. No, he is not secretly wishing for you to confess to him because he is "unhappy" being with Jessica.
There is a saying that goes, "If he wanted to, he would." If he wanted to pursue you, he would make the effort to make it happen. Only an immature boy who is already dating someone else would give other girls his attention, and trust me, you don't want him. He is showing you exactly who he is. What makes you think he won't behave like this if he, let's say, starts dating you?
Taken guys who flirt with other girls do this to boost their egos. Some don't want to admit it, but they like it when lots of girls are into them. It does not mean that they want to be with you. They just don't like you enough to date you, they are stringing you along.
I feel like sometimes flirting won't even be the case. I think you would mistake his friendliness or anything else as a sign. It's such a strong accusation for you to think a guy with a girlfriend is flirting with you. Why you out of all people? You are making it up in your head. And some girls would actually flirt back, chat them up, and hang out with them with not-so-pure intentions. It's very disrespectful to the actual girlfriend. Put yourself in her shoes - how would you feel if you saw another girl and your guy flirting with each other?
Stay away from someone else's boyfriend, lol, whether they are in an unhappy or happy relationship. You are overstepping boundaries, and these "I can make him happier if I were her" posts are awful. You don't want to be *that girl*. | Crushes |
Hes giving some signs and I'm gonna go for it, hes pretty introverted and I see him around a lot, so how do I ask him out that doesnt make him feel pressured and still leaves room to be friends if he rejects me.
Side note: if he says yes whats a good first date spot? Not coffee, something that lasts like a good 3 hours | Crushes |
Im honestly in disbelief. Like literally! I guess we are now dating. Thanks for all your guy’s support and guidance. Cant thank you enough! | Crushes |
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