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So I’ve started taking guitar lessons earlier this year. I found a music school in a town over and they set me up with one of their guitar teachers. I liked him as my guitar teacher and that’s it but recently started to develop feelings for him. I want to keep him as my guitar teacher and not ruin our student/teacher relationship but my feelings won’t just get out of the way, the more times I see him the stronger they become, they make my lessons uneasy for me cuz I get nervous around him.. What do I do about it? I also don’t want anyone else as my guitar teacher, his teaching style fits my learning style perfectly. Btw I’m 26 and he seems to be around 28-30.. he’s also definitely single | Crushes |
We were texting and she said she wished she could hug me but she was in a hurry. I really like this girl. | Crushes |
TLDR my crush some days acts like she crushes back and other days acts totally disinterested.
Hey all. I thought I got a hang of talking to the ladies, but I clearly don’t. She confuses the hell out of me, and one second I think she likes me and the next I think she hates me. Let me explain.
For a few months I’ve been acquaintances with her, and within the last month from friends to closer friends. About a month ago I got her snap and we’ve texted nearly every day since then.
The texts started off slow and distant, and especially in the last week or so it seems like her interest picked up. She texts me first, she sends selfies more frequently (she almost never did unless I actually asked), she was genuinely upset when I didn’t invite her to a school event I was a part of, and we seem to have good chemistry.
A few days ago we even flirted a bit, with ultimately admitting we found (one thing or another) cute about the other person. I of course initiated the flirting; but nonetheless she seemed in to it.
Seems like things are going good right? Here’s where the confusing part comes in.
In spite of the what seems like obvious interest, she often contradicts her self and makes it seem like we are strangers or at the very least she wouldn’t have any romantic interest.
When we get to see eachother in class, she’s usually pretty quiet, unless she’s either joke angry at me (she likes the middle finger quite a lot) and even when I literally pick up a chair and move it to her table to sit next to her (and some of my other friends) she will more often than not get up and sit next to a different friend a few minutes later, despite her laughing at like all my jokes during a good conversation.
And some days the texts will be SOOOOOOO dry. Like I’ll try to keep the conversation going and I’ll even say “how do I respond to that” and she’ll just leave me on opened…
How can she convey so much interest (there’s more than I included in the post) yet some days completely be opposite and make me doubt she likes me all over again? | Crushes |
i feel so corny that i have to ask random ppl on reddit about this but fck it..
so there's this dude who lives on campus at our university, and for a while, he would wait with me at the bus stop until my bus came. he would text me asking me where i was or if I'm at work etc but not in a consistent manner. i also noticed that we both would inform each other if we were at school and if we wanted to see each other (the thing is we're not close enough to hang out in a nonchalant way like that).. so it has made me wonder like.. what are we doing? and what are we? LOL
anyways i truly felt like we had something going on but then one day he started texting back super late and i completely cut myself off from him because i was going insane waiting for his text LOL. anyways because he turned cold, i also turned cold on him. i just don't know what led to it. i do remember one time, i told him not to wait with me at the bus stop anymore because i felt bad. i'm not sure if that put him off, or if he was just being nice and never really had feelings for me. he has texted me a couple of times after that, and i texted him too, but the convo wasn't flowing like before.
i have shown him signs that i liked him, but i don't know if it reached him that way since i am more of an extrovert and i treat everyone with the same enthusiasm. he's more of an introvert, the shy type, and is so so academically driven (he's pursuing med school😭 he's amazing actually).
i honestly think i know the answer to it which is that he doesn't like me, or if he does, he doesn't like me enough LMAO. but i just need opinions regardless haha | Crushes |
Midterms end this week, and we’ll be off for Christmas break. By the time break is upon us, I’ll tell her over the phone. Wether she rejects or reciprocates my feelings is up to her, and whatever the answer is I’ll respect it. We’re still friends after all | Crushes |
I was planning on asking my crush for her number today, but moments before I was going to I started feeling really anxious and couldn't get myself to do it. Any tips? | Crushes |
not super sure this is the right place but i mean i have a crush on him so??
We're in college, both 22. Here athletics has a formal at the end of semesters and this guy who I just met this semester asked me to go with him. I'm ngl I didn't even realize that he thought of me (hopefully?) as a friend.
I said yes, and I think we had a good time. He picked me up, for most of the time we just talked with friends and everything was normal. When they played slow songs a lot of the couples went and danced. The second time this happened he asked me if I wanted to dance and we did. I felt awkward but think it was nice? My friend told me that people were asking if something was happening between us.
He was also super nice when he dropped me off at the end of the night. He then didn't really reach out, I did and we had a quick convo about exams. We've met once in a big group since then but didn't really talk one on one.
I've never been in any sort of relationship, I know he has. I'm also not super feminine. Am I crazy hoping he likes me? The thing is not a lot of time has passed, so I know I shouldn't expect anything fast. I just wish this didn't happen at the end of the semester, I won't see him again for a month. I just feel like I'm going to drive myself crazy over this.
TL;DR Title. Would you ask a girl to a dance, get the car door for her and slow dance with her if you thought of her as just a new friend??? | Crushes |
I(F) first met him(M, lets call him A) fall of 2020. It was also when I met my now friend group. I never saw any of them as potential crushes, at least not until recently. Me and A were friends but I wasn't too close to anyone. We would meet several times a month and I always thought of us as just friends. Recently we were at this event with the whole friend group. There, B(F) suggested the guys in our group carry us. A ended up carrying me and from that moment I knew I fucked up. There was just something about him that I found so so attractive. After that moment I couldn't stop thinking about him. Around this time he started sending me some really flirty and honestly what I would consider more than friends texts. I knew I liked him and he even started visiting me after school even though it would take him 1.5 hrs to get back home. One of these days, we were walking around my school and out of nowhere he faced me and asked me if I wanted him to kiss me. My stupid self panicked and said no. I regret it so much now. Later that day I told B what he said and told her to ask him if he liked me. He said yes! but that was not the end of it. He said he didn't want to date because it could mess up the group and because we are family friends. I was sad at the time but honestly I am really enjoying our flirty moments. He is very touchy which is honestly perfect for me because I would say my love language is physical touch. He is so sweet and caring and we can talk for hours. Idk how long this will last but I want to enjoy it for as long as can. I don't like people easily so he is really really special to me. The point of this was just to share my full story because honestly I need a place to share ALL my thoughts.
TLDR: I like my friend and he likes me but we are not dating. I am still ok with that. | Crushes |
I've had a couple crushes before and I've never had this problem. I'm so confused as to why this happens with him 💀?? Like I be eating and then all of a sudden I think of my crush and I get nervous and I don't feel hungry anymore. Is this normal?? | Crushes |
Nothing even happened but this scene is engraved in my retinas. There are a couple situations like this with her.
We were just doing our thing at work when I wanted to remind her to remember Christmas because I'm going to put a ton of chocolate in the break room. But there was a meeting going on in the next room so we had to speak quietly, as a result we were close. Our faces about 6 inches apart at most.
God she has the cutest smile, and just the way she looked up at me. That's another thing, I didn't even realize I was taller than her until this. I've always thought I was short. 90% of the people at work are my height or taller, and I'm around almost exclusively women, and ya know... men are on average taller than men, so I've always felt like a manlet. Apparently I'm 5'10.
I don't know, just this whole scene. Whispering quietly, looking down at her with her looking up at me, our faces so close, and that SMILE. GAHDAYUM. THAT SMILE. | Crushes |
Theres this girl in class (14NB) that i (14F) may or may not have developed a crush on. They’re extremely nice and unique, and all their friends say that I should go for it. Their friends are really supportive of me for some reason and have been helping me getting close to her.
They’re popular and alot of guys in school likes her. (shes lesbian btw) And though her ex-gf is pretty toxic to her, compared to me, their ex is prettier and is pretty similar with her. I like him alot but i dont know if I should think that I have a chance.
Tldr: She’s out of my league, but theyre super nice. Do I have a chance on them? | Crushes |
He texted me and I got tired of those butterflies it’s annoying.
I really pictured myself telling him just so it could be over.
Is there such a thing as getting tired of having a crush? | Crushes |
Please ask me questions about him! Specifically I want to find out if I actually like him or not :D | Crushes |
Ok I need advice I really like this on guy everyone says he likes me he acts like he likes me his friends say he likes me etc but both him and me have been brutally rejected and it gave us both like fear of telling people we like them , and I want to tell him it’s hard though should I? And what to say I want to say it as nicely and calmly as possible but also he told me people said I liked him and I said no but not mean because I was way to anxious to say anything ! I need help!!! | Crushes |
My crush is leaving soon and keeps talking about meeting beautiful women and finding a beautiful wife and it’s like being punched in the tummy each time.
I have to try to stay normal and not groan. It’s so fucking hard.
I have never wished I was young and beautiful more than right now.
😭
I’m happy for him and I know it’s selfish and stupid of me to even be sad about it. I wish I didn’t have feelings. | Crushes |
I'm assuming a lot of these can be answered with, "It depends on the situation" but I might as well ask.
1.) Is it better to ask a girl out(Would you go out with me?) or tell her you love her(I love you.)?
2.) Is it better to write a love letter(Planning out something that can be read in private, but not as personal) or confess in person(Planning out a conversation that could go off the rails at any time, not always a chance to be private, but genuine and personal)?
3.) Is it better to go into a confession thinking realistically(rejected) or positively(mutual love)? | Crushes |
meeting my college crush after nearly 10 years
Not very good with English, please bear with me 😅Well, I had a huge crush on this girl (lets call her Sally), we hung out on the same circles and had a lot of common friends, but because I arrived a semester later than her, she already started dating a guy with whom I later became friends. (Not best friends, or something like that, but we shared some nice moments).
They were a couple for the entirety of the uni days, so I tried to forget about her and I did a decent job. We hang out occasionally with our circle, but I think that she picked up that I sometimes tried to avoid her intentionally, so she was almost always playful around me, not flirting per se, just a little tease from time to time.
Shorty after graduation, I learned that they broke up, but I didn't thought much about it. Years later, some of our guys group had a mini reunion, I met and got talking with her ex, and while he was getting ready to marry his new girl, he admitted to me that Sally was the one for him, but nevertheless he was happy with his soon to be wife.
Fast forward to this year, we live in different cities (not very far, about 2,5 hours drive) we are friends on social media but we didn't really talk all these years, just the occasional happy birthday for example. I am the best version of myself, I started my own business these last years and doing pretty good after a lot of bad and low income years, and I started thinking about her a lot and thought that now it's my time to approach her. I admitted all that to a mutual female friend we have that we both still have a good connection and talk often (I knew that). She said to me that she was single and that I don't have anything to lose if I wanted to pursue her, she told me that she believed that we could be a good match. I texted Sally this summer to inform her that maybe I would come to her city for a couple of days and we should maybe hang out, she liked the idea but it never materialized because of my work schedule, then our mutual friend tried to organize a mini reunion so that we could meet there, again to no avail.
I then took the matter in my hands, and the past week i texted her that I would come to her city for the weekend, and we agreed to meet for drinks. I saw her and felt the exact same things, she is the same nice, fun, smart and witty woman now. I felt good vibes throughout our date and she proposed to me that we should go for lunch the next day and also go to a bar after with some of her friends. I agreed of course (I was meant to ask her for another date myself, so I was happy that she asked me first) and we had so much fun together. I told her that night at the bar that I always found her beautiful and charming, even more now. She took it good and we continued our night on good spirits and a lot of fun, but I didn't try something more, I thought that I couldn't escalate things just like that after 10 years without contact. The next day I had to leave but I talked to her that I wanted to see her again before that for a quick coffee and she agreed. We eventually met for lunch and walked to the shopping mall with coffee in our hands. We had a nice time again, the conversation was flowing, we had fun, and she told me to come back again maybe in summer, that she was glad to see me and that she can maybe introduce me to some of her lady friends. I playfully asked her about that proposal and if she wanted to set me up with potential wifes and she answered me that I should have a good time. I told her later that I was glad that I spent time with her that weekend and got a first real taste of her, she liked that. We took of in my car to drop her near her place and then drive back to my city. I wanted to say goodbye properly, so I got out of the car, she told me again that I should come again whenever I wanted, maybe summer to have fun on the beaches nearby, but she knew that it'sgoing to be difficult with our work schedules etc. I told her then that I don't want to say see you in summer, because if we have will and we want it a lot, we could meet again a lot sooner. She hugged me and kissed on the cheeks, and then I told her that I had something more to say to her, and if she wanted to keep in mind words or not, that was her choice. I looked her in the eyes and said to her that I wanted to have a chance to really get to know her. She didn't say anything, she just hugged me again and kissed on the cheek, I hold her some seconds more and kissed her close to the ear. We then said our goodbyes and left home. She texted me that night to ask me if I returned safe, we exchanged some meaningless texts and we said goodnight.
So, I am already in good mood, whether or not should we see each other again, I wanted to have a chance to have a date with her for all these years and now I am feeling good that I finally did that. Of course I want more but either way I am pretty satisfied. Our mutual friend will tell me if she has news from her side (she told me that, she wants to help) and I am thinking that I should let some days pass to her think all these and then try to maybe establish some kind of connection with her and talking from now on. I am willing to go to her city again and again if I have the chance.FYI, her ex is happily married 4 years now with 2 children and we are not very close for my defense. I am thinking that life is short and I should start to live a little again, doing what makes me happy. I am not sure what to do next. I really want to see some answers about this.
Ps it's my first post on reddit, never thought i would do that. Oh well....😇😅 | Crushes |
Okay, so I have a crush on this guy, and he might (maybe) like me back, but I can’t be sure. There’s a major problem though, he’s my friends ex. But I’m not so sure if she’s my friends anymore. I used to think of her as my best friend, but recently she’s become mean and toxic, and I’ve been thinking about breaking off the friendship for a while. But I’m scared to confess my feelings for this guy. Because there was a another girl who had a fate I’m afraid of.
A few months ago this girl admitted she had a crush on my ex friends ex. (My ex friend still likes her ex). The guy admitted he liked her too and they started dating, but the relationship didn’t last long. Immediately my ex friend went off, she turned everyone against this girl and told everyone all her secrets, they got in a huge fight. All she would talk about for days was “how u can’t date ur friend’s ex”. Which I do agree with, but my ex friend was taking this way too far. (Plus I also have a crush on this guy) this girl got so stressed she was out of school for days, and she and the guy had to break up because of social pressure. Even if I completely break off contact with my ex friend, I’m still scared she’ll ruin my life like that other girl. So, what do I do? | Crushes |
I honestly wanted to give him a candy cane today but i just COULDNT. i'll do it by thursday i swear | Crushes |
Okay so I've had a crush on this person for a while and we do see eachotyer often, in a work context. Over the past few weeks I've noticed their behaviour towards me kind of change, like they're more smiley, they've been saying they're going to miss me when one of us leaves for a short period of time, and they've been complimenting my appearance when I change my hair or I wear something different. They've moved to be in my eyeline to wave hello and have moved my things off of the floor onto a chair or table randomly.
I'm not too sure how to approach anything without making it weird, cause we are quite good friends. Any advice Reddit? | Crushes |
I I’ve been talking to this girl from time to time lately, mostly when we are studying for our test. We’re both in grade 9 and she seems pretty interested in talking to me and she always seems very confident about what she’s talking about and usually goes on for a while and when I talk she seems very focused. Honestly I just want start as friends with her and get to know her better. On our way out of class, she starts walking with me and talking to me. That hasn’t happened yet.
We were also studying during break but she was with her friends and she waved at me and came over and asked me where I was at with my work. Whenever I was about to leave the class she was kinda just looking at me and standing still for about 10 seconds while I was getting ready to leave and then she went on to her next class.
Honestly I just really want to get to know her more her since she seems very nice. Are these good signs?
We don’t really talk often either but one time me and her were both studying for our test in a room for people with learning problems like ADHD and stuff like that. I didn’t really know where to sit so I just sat by the table she was working on. She even said, you can also sit in this chair if you want. That was the chair right beside her. I was too shy so I just said no that’s okay and sat on the chair across from her but she seemed quite interested in talking and she always had a smile. She asked questions about me and I asked questions about her.
I’m going back to school tomorrow because that was last week, any other tips on how I can approach her? | Crushes |
It's soo exhausting to be around her with having this feeling.
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She asked me out last night and I am genuinely interested, it’s just I find it really hard to express how im feeling or act how I feel. I sometimes don’t reply right away and I don’t want her to feel like im ignoring her. I messed up my last possible relationship because Im so used to pushing people away. I don’t want to mess anything up. | Crushes |
[(this note)](https://imgur.com/a/mh3aRvy)
I want to give it to her if I see her again before the break is over, but probably won't end up giving it either way. I was going to give her my number after our final exam in Japanese, but got nervous and fumbled my chance. For some context we sit across from each other in first period Japanese and talk every day, more than I talk to pretty much anyone else. I'm scared that if I don't find her and give it to her before the break, we will just become strangers, as that's happened to me with a lot of different people. | Crushes |
He' leaving after Finals, sometime in early January. I have his snapchat and we talk in class everyday, should I tell him how I feel or is there no point? I'm afraid I won't ever see him again so I don't know what to do. | Crushes |
I started liking my coworker at the end of August, we would hang out a lot due to our job (we work at our college campus) I would openly flirt with him because I’m bold but never bold enough to actually say that I like someone but it was very obvious (he very much flirted back when I did) now he’s got a girl and I’m very respectful of not flirting with him anymore. Kinda sad though, I also didn’t say anything because I felt like if I vocalized it, it would make things weird and we still have a whole semester left of working with each other :/ | Crushes |
So I just came to this school 2 months ago and I've developed a crush on this guy I guess but this is my first gay crush and I don't know if he likes boys. Let me describe him. He's tall plays basketball has boy friends but also has girl friends. We've only spoken to each other maybe 3 of four times with very few words. I remember one of them were just like "someone sits here". One time he did playfully say "-insert my name here- I know your not on your phone". He's in 2 of my classes. I very oblivious to things like this so that's why I'm asking here. Do you think its possible he likes boys or even possibly into me? If he likes boys how do I get him to like me? How do I find out if he likes boys or not? Being gay or bi is not really the type of thing people will admit in my school btw. Im bi btw | Crushes |
So if you haven’t seen my last post, i found this guy cute and got his snap. i’ve been taking to him a lot and i see him looking at me very attractively…. 🤭 i asked him to hang out and he said SURE. SO IM LIKE AT WORK BLUSHING AND SHIII LIKE WHERE DO I GO WITH HIM THIS IS MY FIRST TIME BEING WITH A GUY TBH AND I WANT TO MAKE IT SPECIAL BC I REALLY LIKE HIM. | Crushes |
So let's give you guys some backstory on this absolute rollercoaster of a time, because otherwise you would not understand.
So me (M16) and this girl have known eachother for quite a while. It really started with a PE assignment, but pretty soon i developed a little crush. Then next year rolled around and we were in the same class. Hooray right? Sorta. Though i liked her alot at that moment, i was pretty shy and overthinking those days and never really made moves.
However when school started this year we were both more confident and more eager. We started talking alot more and then we started testing. But here is the screw up. I sent her a text and a sound that kind of hinted but also joked about the idea. To be clear i was relatively zazzed. But she didn't seem to like it and then PHISYCALY ghosted me for about 2 months. But then 3 weeks ago we started talking again like nothing ever happened.
Now i do have to say that this whole story was over a span of around 1,5 years but now i don't know if she likes me anymore. Like, was the ghosting like a punishment or like a game of chicken to try to make me budge and apologize? Like WHAT.
Please help me with this insane show of crazyness, because i am beyond lost right now. | Crushes |
Long story short found out my crush wasn’t interested in me but I’m finally learning to open up more and want to put to the test how far I can go. Found this dude online that i think is cute and doesn’t live near me, want to push my luck my messaging him and seeing how far I can get it (numbers, hang out, etc.) is this a smart choice? Lol | Crushes |
My crush and I used to work at a fast food restaurant. We're the same age, and got hired at the same time, but about three months into us working there, he got promoted to shift lead. One morning, he came in and asked me if work had been slow. I told him yes, and he said "really? So you were just hanging out looking pretty the whole time?"
I consider myself to be a fairly attractive woman. I wear a full face of makeup everyday, and there's been several customers at the restaurant that have stared at me or hit on me. Was he just saying it because it's a catchphrase? Trying to hype me up? Or trying to hit on me?
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I still have 2 to 3 weeks without her left luckily I won't be in school for much of it because of Christmas but it still hurts especially when she dropped a huge hint on me before she left and now people are picking on me but make sure to not do anything that'll let me start a fight without getting in trouble it started because this guy was jealous of me and her how we talked and were really close I have a feeling he's trying to see if my temper will snap and get her to hate me witch I know she wouldn't hate me if I got into a fight unless it was unjustified but then it would be deserved | Crushes |
Any advice would be appreciated. Still, I would like to stay friends with him. | Crushes |
I should've asked for her phone number, but I didn't | Crushes |
ok so like cuffing season right - i started dating my situationship start of october then he’s a massive dick and is horrible to me so i broke up with him almost a month ago and felt relief more than anything. there’s a boy who’s part of my wider friend group who i am crushing on atm and he’s just really lovely. embarrassingly i was very drunk at my friends bday last weekend and kept following him around because he was nice to me after i threw up. but i’m pretty sure there’s just no interest from him whatsoever and don’t know if it’s even worth crushing on him because it’s probably gona just be weird in the friend group if he knows i like him. has anyone else had anything similar w a guy please 🙏. maybe it’s just december getting to me who knows. | Crushes |
I should've asked for her number, but I was too scared | Crushes |
I’ve been following this girl I met through mutual friends for a year now and she seems so cool and is incredibly beautiful and she always post these risky photos of herself and I always wanna slide up and ask her out but is that too forward? | Crushes |
i like you. i really, really like you.
i like your hair, and the way it falls perfectly down the sides of your face, framing it like art.
i like your eyes, and how hard it is to keep contact with them.
i like your lips, and how they ramble passionately about what your talking about. or the way they curl up when you’re holding in a laugh- i like both.
i like your nose, and how it sits right in the centre of all the wonderful things on your face.
i like your voice, and how it’s usually silent around your annoying friends.
*God* i hate your friends.
i like the way you walk, and how it’s like you’re the only person there.
i like you. i know i do. and to my extreme discomfort, i have to admit it. whether that be to myself or someone else is up to me.
i just feel like i need to get this out of my system. i’m sick of holding it in. and as cringey as this may be every song is starting to be about you, like your some form of pulchritudinous plauge. but i don’t think i like it. liking you is wrong, and i shouldn’t think in this way towards anyone- let alone you. though every time you walk by i hold my breath, and everytime i hopelessly gaze at your oblivious face i pray that your eyes fall upon me when i least expect it.
i think this exceeds liking you.
i think i love you. | Crushes |
Let me tell you, she’s also my best friend and I’ve liked her for a really long time 😭 she casually texted me if we can kiss on Thursday in my room after our Christmas Party from school HAHSHWHDHHAHSHDHEH my mind is going blank. The fact that we’re going to be each other’s first kiss just astounds me. K, I hope we can be more than just besties 🙄 | Crushes |
HE ISSOCUTE WHAT THE FYCJ?!?!,!, | Crushes |
Hey guys, so I am good friends with one of this girls. She was originally into me in 2019 in high school, we used to hold hands but I wasn't interested in her at the time. We drifted apart in 2020 and soon after that I realized there's something special i had for her in her because i missed her alot
Anyway we caught up in April this year and we have grown quite close. I flirt and she flirts with me as well, I don't want to make a move tho because am not ready for a relationship but I want her to be around till am ready. I have an issue tho, she likes my instagram stories and comments on posts she also copies some of my comments and uses them as tweets sometimes (i take it as compliment) I think from that we can say we are on the same page except that sometimes we can text and boom she leaves me on delivered and never gets texts back and then after sometime she reaches out. That makes me feel unimportant and as if she isn't interested. I want to know what you guys think and what I should do about my situation. Thanks | Crushes |
So my crush apparently had a crush on me too. I ended up taking the slow route and trying to become friends first. Also, by the time I found out she ‘truly’ liked me and not some people making both me and probably her uncomfortable by practically forcing us to hang out sometimes, she “didn’t like my anymore.”
Now, I wasn’t 100% sure if she really didn’t anymore (probably an inner cockiness that grew inside me because no one has liked me before 🥲) but today was pretty crazy for me. I still like her, lets just get that down. Also, we are both ONLY 13! ONE OF HER FRIENDS IN CLASS CAME UP TO ME AND SAID SHE WANTED TO ‘MAKE OUT’ WITH ME! This is where this all took a turn. Normally, when they do something like this, it’s usually something harmless, before they had us sit next together during a play in a school field trip. Afterwards they asked if she put her head on my shoulder. That’s harmless, a LITTLE UNCOMFORTABLE, but HARMLESS! They had me flex in front of her multiple times. HARMLESS. But this?!!. That was too far. I am not sure if it was a joke or not and I HOPE I am just overreacting but IDK.
Also, both of her friends asked me “similarly”. That was just one of them, the other said she needed to tell me something during lunch. All of us are in a club together, that has a competitive ‘meet’ about once a month. Her other friends asked if I would kiss her at the next ‘meet’.
This in my opinion is too far as WE ARE ONLY 13!. But, I don’t want to come out as rude or aggressive. I thought that she said that she said that she stopped liking me to stop all this chaos on her side, and if I’m right, I COMPLETELY understand.
What should I do, and how should I handle this. I like her, I don’t know if she still likes me, but basically the whole grade knows that she at least did like me at some point. The attention this is getting is too much. | Crushes |
Sooo I've got this crush, she's a year older than me and I think I like her but yk I'm not really sure I like her that way. But she's really nice, pretty and just so sweet. The thing is, I don't know if she likes me back and I would never confess my feelings to anyone because I'm too scared that they'd reject me. Yeah that was it✨✨ | Crushes |
So I met this guy who I think is pretty cool. He seems to like me too, at least as a person, and makes well-meaning comments on what I wear and stuff and has asked me other stuff, like why my last name isn't Chinese, even though I am myself and about what Chinese food I like. He clearly likes to talk to me and enjoys my company.
He is coordinator in a lab where I am participating in a research study. Our last session is later this week and after that, if he doesn't contact me in a few days, I plan on sending a semi-anonymous, self-addressed letter to his lab with my number on it. Semi-anonymous, just in case it winds up in the wrong hands.
I've done this before to someone else and we went out, but it didn't work out, for other reasons.
Thoughts? | Crushes |
I (f) asked out my crush a bit ago like a week or 2 maybe? And she said yes! We are dating now!!! She’s my gf!!! | Crushes |
We talked via text and she wrote that maybe she will find somebody in the future.
Is it good? Because she told me she's single
Is it bad? Because I don't know, somebody doesn't need to mean me | Crushes |
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She said - Please don't get hooked on me. I am scared that it would only hurt you. I don't see it like that for now. I don't want to lose you.
Do I still have a chance ? Or is it simplier put rejection to not hurt my feelings that much ? | Crushes |
Maybe one day my drean will come true | Crushes |
so, i’ve liked this guy for a while freshmen year to be exact i rlly want to get to know him better (not even romantically it would be cool but ykyk) but everytime i try and he just sends mixed signals, my friends claim they thought we were dating when they first met us and so did our old group we aren’t touchy feely or anything it’s just the way we act around each other i help him out or he’ll only rlly talk to me at the table etc
welllll me n him have also had a few rough patches ig? i’ve confessed to him once on my own and then the other got to him by accident tbh at the time he ghosted me and then came back saying that he missed being my friend and wanted to be cool again, and then the second time he tried to act like nothing happened & i confronted him for not being upfront with me when he was telling my friend he didn’t like me he said “she’s cute but she’s just not my type” because i was too outgoing / loud around him (it honestly makes sense i put on a chad persona probs the first time i liked him i remember i was going through mania so) so im trying to tone it down he knows ik we kinda talked abt it he texted me first after a while wtv but my anxiety gets to me really really bad today i gave him a gift, j a plushie with a dumb pin i found with a game he loves on it and oh my god i felt so fucking bad n scared and just nervous i could tell he could tell to because i crossed my leg and you could see me aggressively shaking (i have a rlly bad fear of being annoying or a burden and when i panic my body language shows, sweaty hands, tremors etc) i got the vibe he didn’t want me around and i also don’t want him to think i still like him because i don’t he’s just a really sweet guy but since i was already stoned and trying to talk to him it felt like disaster all of my swag was out of the window 1000000% i gave it to him and he shook his head and smiled and was like “i don’t think it will fit” me not wanting to bother the poor man i was like “uuuh just try n cram it :,) do you want it?” and he was like “YEAH i want it thanks” and then he just went back to being quiet and watching his show, i felt bad for looking on his phone and got a stank look from his friend so i just told him i was gunna go so i wouldn’t bother him and he smiled n nodded
i think the biggest issue is around people i actually want to be friends with im too outgoing? i feel like i’m always the issue yk? if anyone has advice feel free to ask to dm, the whole situation has a few layers so :,3 i<3untreatedbpd&panicdisorder | Crushes |
I was talking to my crush while studying on Thursday and Friday and she seemed pretty interested in me. I want to continue that since we didn’t really get a chance to talk today and to be honest, she started and continued the conversations we had.
I want to keep this up and try to start the conversations instead of her starting them before she loses interest.
Any good ways of approaching her and starting a conversation? Even if it’s just small talk or a compliment. Without coming off as weird though. | Crushes |
it's not like i'm *in love* or something. it's just so fucking unfair that my crush ghosts me for a week and some random dude at a party wouldn't leave me alone because he thought i was so cool. why are those two not the same fucking person | Crushes |
I (a boy, sixteen years of age) have a crush on a girl in my class. We have only known each other since the school year started (about half a year), but we are friends, though not super close. Even though I sit with her and a couple of her other friends at lunch every day.
I did tell her that I have feelings for her a couple of weeks ago, but she said she did not feel the same and that she just wanted to stay friends. Several of my female friends say that they believe her feelings will change over time when she gets to know me a bit better throughout the school year, and that it is just a bit early in our acquaintance for such at this point in time. As we do have several mutual friends, I know for a fact that she does not have a crush on anyone. So even though she does not have feelings for me, she does not have feelings for anyone else either.
Do any of you people on Reddit have any advise on anything I can do to try to maybe increase the chances of her gaining any feelings for me, similar to the ones I have for her over time? | Crushes |
Crush is avoiding me, I need tips so I can be
sane. | Crushes |
so we were talking and then he asked if i was going to prom. i said that i wasn’t sure because i have no idea what to wear. he said that he feels like i’ll look good in anything. he wants me so bad😫😫 | Crushes |
So I have this one online friend I met through a game. I have known him for 4 months. Once I became close with him, I was invited to a discord server he made. He is a very polite and friendly person and everyone likes talking to him. Since I have never been a forward person, I never actually took any initiative to invite him to play games. Usually he would invite me first and we would either play games together or with his friends. Everytime I would stop playing to got to bed, he would messaged me goodnight or thanks for playing today etc. We would play games together everyday with everyone and once when I wasn't online for one day, he had messaged me asking if I'm okay. Naturally, I developed a crush on him. It was going all right until one day he suddenly stop messaging me for four days and I was completely baffled but I was too afraid to reach out to him in case he was busy so I just left it like that while overthinking everything. On the fourth night while I was playing games with some of his other friends, he suddenly joined but me being me, I was too nervous to speak with him so I acted like I was afk and an hour after that I said to them that I'm going to bed. He messaged me again that night saying we should play games tomorrow and starting from that day, he started messaging me again and started inviting me more but one weird thing is that we would play in public call instead unlike before where we would sometimes call privately. My friend adviced me to take the first initiative so I tried asking him if he wants to watch movie together and he had agreed to it. I was excited but then he asked me to come into public call since he was already in there and there is someone else too in the call. When more people started joining us while we were watching the movie, one person said that we should play games instead of watching and out of nowhere he agreed to it in the middle of watching movie so the movie session was cut short and we ended up playing game instead. I was completely disappointed since we already made a promise but I went along and played with everyone. After playing for some time, I decided to go to bed early. He messaged me again saying let's watch movie together privately after that. I did replied back to him properly but I was really disappointed about the whole thing. One day, he said he was going to travel to another country to meet his online friend while we were on call in public server with his other friends and I just congratulated him and asked him to send a lot of pictures in which he did. On the night he was traveling, he suddenly messaged me and ask me if I'm free to call and while I'm still not over of what happened before, I decided to just call him. Usually when we were calling, we would either play games or watch movies so when he said that he didn't have anything other than his phone and ipad and we can't really play games I was quite shocked. He ended up showing his drawing and we talked a lot. At some point I realized he was acting off and I asked him if he was okay and he said he might be drunk and after that he said to me that he can't sleep because he is in a different country which is why he decided to call me in the first place. Unlike his cheerful self I felt like he is more calm and not as talkactive as before and I find myself liking this side of him too. He went back to his country the day after that and I found out while me and him were on call with his closest friend (I will call him A) that he went there because a girl he met online bought him a ticket to go there. He said that she seems to be interested in him but he is more interested in becoming friend with her. Surprisingly though, while I did sometimes think about it, I wasn't as sad as I thought I would be? I found it a bit weird that I wasn't as affected as I thought I would be. Starting from that time though I felt like he messaged me a lot more than he usually did (literally everyday) and everytime he invited me to play games together this time we would call privately instead of in a public call. He talked about going to a trip together with me and his closest friend (A) and he is quite serious about it too. He would show me a video about some nice country that the three of us can visit together and pointed out some place he would find nice and said to me that this would be a good place to have a date with me which he had mention that multiple times before. I never gave any special reaction and would just laugh to it because I thought he was just being friendly. Even when I met him the first time in the game ( before me, him and A would exchanged pictures) he would compliment that I'm cute but I'm not sure if he is doing it out of friendliness or if he is totally interested in me. He start messaging me out of nowhere about completely random things sometimes like the time I played this one game and it showed up on my discord status that I'm playing the game, he suddenly messaged me about how he also just started playing this which he had never done it before. He had also asked me more than one time if I have a someone I'm dating or I'm interested in. We would talk about crushes and how there is no one we are interested in and even about our past relationship. There was also this one guy that is also in the group. He would critique about how bad I'm at playing games and when it happened too often the guy I have a crush on would said to me that he is worried that I would start hating the game because of that guy. He had also ask me a lot of time if there's any game I would want to play since I never explicitly ask him to play games that I want to play so he said that he wants to play a game that I would enjoy too. Honestly I had exhausted all of my brain cells trying to think if I'm just reading all of this wrong or I'm reading everything correctly. I just want a clear answer if he is interested or not but I'm not brave enough to ask since I'm afraid that it would somehow risk our friendship which I don't want to because I really do think of him as a dear friend of mine.
English is not my first language so I'm sorry in advance if some part is hard to understand! | Crushes |
So we were talking about how much i want to wear glasses and my curiosity got the best of me and asked him if he wears glasses because of genes or something and he replied to it by saying it's genetics but idk if that annoyed him or not so please tell me if it's ok because i'm overthinking this situation rn | Crushes |
Long story short, my crush is my close friend (or...she used to be that close). This month we haven't really talk, and i asked her about a week ago if anything's alright between us, because it's so unusual of her being this quiet (she used to talk about everything with me, even when she's busy with a lot of stuff). She said that it's fine.
Tbh it's not really reassuring. Anyway, most of the time i can distract myself but sometimes i just miss her. I really want to say that i miss her but i am afraid it's gonna be awkward. At least, i wanna say that i miss our conversations...
How can i say that to her? Is it a dumb idea? Should i just stay silent? | Crushes |
I sometimes think that I maybe like the friends I make. How do I know for sure? | Crushes |
(For context: Im a junior in high school) This boy has tried talking to me in the past but I get too nervous and end the conversation. Now, I don't think he likes me because I can't find a way to make myself talk to him and it's really having an impact on my mental health. Does any wise person have any tips for me? I know this may be a stupid teenage girl post, but all help is appreciated!! :)
(im sorry if there has already been an answer to this but I'm kinda new here) | Crushes |
Okay, so he's literally perfect ??? First of all, the first time we met I wasn't on testosterone yet, and he still treated me like one of the boys. Literally hugged me like he did the other guys, talked to me like the other guys, it felt great being around him ! I was 17 then, he was 25 or 26, not sure, and when I told him he backed up right away. I didn't actually know he had a crush on me until a week ago, when we met again after 5 months at a bar. He saw on my Instagram I had turned 18, and we talked some more on there until we met at our fav bar. I was with some friends and the funny thing was my friend, who was with me then, found him just as cute as I did. Fortunately for me, it wasn't the same for him, so we ended staying together for the night! (With my crush, not my friend)
And then we spent the past 2 says together ? The night before yesterday, all of yesterday and today morning before he had to leave :')
As a person with bpd, I feel when the love I feel is toxic, I've experienced it many times, and even my friends, who usually trash my boyfriends, find him nice !
He's the most understanding cis guy ever, and he's totally my type. I like older guys, and ones who are extremely masc, and ??? I found the perfect one by pure chance
I don't know if it'll ever get to the point of a relationship (I am now scared to death he'll find this and disappear but yknow, need to talk about how awesome he is)
He also treats me like his boyfriend really often, like holding my hand in the street, being protective, etc.. great all around | Crushes |
I texted him, asked him out on a date and he said sure and when. I suggested a place for drinks and then a time and he said that time may not work because he has a class.. but they may stop meeting soon. I said alright and for him to let me know what works if anything and then I got left on delivered. That was like a week or two ago. Mind you we’re in a group project together and he talks to me like normal (mostly through text) but I never got a follow up about the date. I’m just confused if he changed his mind or what because I’m still interested in him. I need someone to knock some sense into me lol. | Crushes |
A while ago, I posted about how much I loved her, and even had a day planned out for when I'd ask her out. Today, I overheard her talking about a boy she's been talking to. It crushed me. He's even got the same name as me, so at first I thought she was talking about me, but when someone else blurted *insert my first and last name* she said, "no, it's a different *my name*" I'm still going to tell her how I feel, but I don't think I will be asking her out. Best case scenario, she WAS talking about me, but was too embarrassed when someone mentioned it out loud, but I doubt that . I will keep all of you guys updated if I find any more information
Thank all of you for all of your help | Crushes |
I have a crush on someone and I’m sure they like me back. She continues conversations, laughs at all my jokes, makes glances at me, and plays around me sometimes. The problem is, I’m not sure WHY she likes me. I’m really a below average guy. What should I do? | Crushes |
I go to an all boys school and there are only girls in the Sixth Form. I just started sixth form last year and saw this girl who was in my Philosophy class, she's very pretty and despite the fact that we had never spoken, started to smile at me as we crossed paths in the canteen. This went on for a few days and I would see her sit down with friends but I would always walk past and it took me a while to pluck up the courage to sit with her. Eventually I did and I surprised myself by doing it as I am quite shy. I sat directly opposite her and she said hello and we spoke a bit but I slightly embarassed myself with my hands shaking. Anyway, that was before Christmas and I couldn't believe it at the time, I was thinking 'this is just like the movies'.
After that I sat with her most lunch times and became part of her group but the cruellest thing was that by the time I had plucked up the courage to speak to her, her boyfriend from her previous school who was not originally coming to mine, managed to transfer. I see them together all the time and I feel like I've got myself a bit friendzoned. In those early days before Christmas it felt like we were really close and we had some nice times alone together but now she seems distant and will sometimes completely ignore me and other times we'll have prolonged eye contact across the classroom. I feel really torn and don't know if I should wait it out and see what happens or just cut my losses. To make matters worse her boyfriend sort of sees me as his friend now and I don't want to go after someone else's girl but I really like her and it tears me up to see them so lovey together.
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tl;dr I met a girl at school who seemed to like me and we got on really well but then her boyfriend turned up and now she seems distant. | Crushes |
When you figure out that she's not interested in you and has the same body language around others and does the same things with others.
Just makes me give up hope even if it was going well | Crushes |
I (20 F) started talking to this man (23 M) through hinge about a month ago. We really hit it off starting with the very first date it was like everything came naturally. We hooked up a few times and went on 4 dates, I ended up confessing that I had feelings for him and although he said he felt the same, I think he was taken aback from it. We went on another date after I confessed and I apologized about the way I came off and he told me not to worry. But he’d started to become distant and recently he left me on delivered for 17 HOURS. Sadly this was a deal breaker for me as I could tell his snap score was going up, and even though I truly liked the guy, I don’t have space in my life for this behavior and it just hurts my feelings; so I cut him off. Now I’m feeling pretty sad because I feel as though I ruined a good relationship but how hard is it to simply just reply- or state how you really feel? My point is, I am just needing some emotional support/anyone who’s been through this because I’m kinda going thru it and regretting my decisions 🥲 | Crushes |
Ive had a crush on a girl last year, couldnt know if she has a boyfriend or not. Ive asked many of my friends including the one i suspected, he didnt say much. However, ive made a strong bond with her after gathering enough courage to talk to her until we became friends, yes just simple friends cus shes incredibly extroverted, she knows everyone. So basically im just one guy among everyone else, i didnt know this until i tried asking her out and going with her out many times, she shows in many ways that shes rejecting so i gave up, until i f**ked up by confessing on dms. She just acted as nothing happened, deleted the message, and soon after she brought a random context to move on. Few weeks and months pass by and i realize how bad of a mistake ive done. She doesnt even talk to me when she sees me now. | Crushes |
There's a girl who I have a crush on. I really like her, and want to pursue this girl, but I don't know how to approach her. Any suggestions? PS; I have gone up to crushes in the past and introduced myself to them and a way of approaching them first, but I have been tabled as "weird" because of that. | Crushes |
That. Disclaimer yes my crush in kinda an unhealthy crush | Crushes |
This is very weird and not healthy.
I gave her flowers on Valentine's and she rejected me and I thought Id move on after a bit. But I still dream about her everytime and I cant stop looking at her and having feelings for her. I really need to stop | Crushes |
So, I have a crush on this girl I had a class with and spoke with her the other day. We know each other a little bit but not much. I would like to know her more and become good friends. It’s vacation now so I don’t see her much. I want to text her something to start a conversation but I never really texted her and I doesn’t want to sound weird. What could I do / text her?? | Crushes |
I work at a hotel as a receptionist. Last week a housekeeper my age came up to me and asked if the person in her quick adds was me to which I confirmed.
she added me that night to her private story and posted a semi provocative pic followed by one with her hamster.
I commented on the story and we got to talking. She then deleted the provocative pic straight after.
I asked her out and she said: “yeah we could deffo do that. But you live far away” I asked her when she’s free and she said I’m free after the 31st of April because of exams if that helps. So I said okay let’s sort it out another time since this was still around the 20th.
she popped up to me the next day and I said she can come and grab me when I’m free to go upstairs and help her out with the rooms to which she agreed. She started to give me dry replies so I left her on read but she double texted saying I really should come up next time.
I popped up the next two days but last night she started off the messages with “yo yo “ and asked me when my birthday was because she said she was trying to guess the whole day
I thought she was interested but she said “goodnight bro “ when I said goodnight. Have I been friendzoned? | Crushes |
I have a crush on this female and she has a private insta so you’ll have to request to get in. I requested and left it like that, 2 days later I checked and i still wasn’t in the account but I see she let someone else in. Also I’ve never spoken to her I’ve gotten her insta from one of my friends, is this bad? | Crushes |
So my friend likes this guy and his friends kept staring at her so she asked if he wanted to hang out and he said yeah. Then like a week later she asked again and he said no. Anyways, about a month goes by and they talked a couple of times but it doesn't go anywhere. However, his friends keep staring at her all of us. So she asked again if he wanted to hang out and he said "Thanks but no thanks". But they keep staring at us so we're all a bit confused. | Crushes |
I have a crush on this female and she has a private insta so you’ll have to request to get in. I requested and left it like that, 2 days later I checked and i still wasn’t in the account but I see she let someone else in. Also I’ve never spoken to her I’ve gotten her insta from one of my friends, is this bad? | Crushes |
I met this guy through mutual friends on discord, basically we'd go group vc with ~8 people for games. Initially I really disliked him because he seems to take gaming too seriously and is over competitive with bad attitude. But I still hung around the group vc regularly and that meant I'd have to interact with him. We'd play even more and he'll start to say things like he's been waiting for me, tease me, playfully flirt with me and try to grab my attention by showing off. He could be an ass sometimes but it's… kinda cute. Yet he said that he don't plan on ever dating anyone ever again after what his ex did to him (idk what that means, it's personal so I didn't dare ask)
Is he just being friendly or is he showing interest??? I really hope I don't get friendzoned :( | Crushes |
First of all, i want to say thank u to everyone that will read and reply to this question.
So, starting with my very brief "story", my friend had a basketball match against this guy (my crush) and he posted a video on instagram. I asked him if he could give me my crushes instagram and he did, so I started following him: bear in mind, he doesnt know me. His profile is public and he's a student athlete so he has a little follow. He didn't follow me back. Last week I replied to one of his stories and we literally exchanged 4 messages, but I left him on read because I didn't want to be annoying and I didn't want to look desperate. Now, I would LOVE to get to know this guy but I don't think he is interested, otherwise he would have followed me back right? What do you all think?
Thank you for your opinions :)) | Crushes |
It’s like I could be having a bad day and just talking to him or being in his presence makes me feel 1000 times better. | Crushes |
I actually thought they knew about my crush but they've never actually mentioned it, just indicated it.
Today, in class I went to the guys next to her and compared their solutions with mine.
After that, I just kinda sat there because the seat was empty. And that automatically ment that I'd be sitting next to her. (We even talked a bit, yayyy)
After the lesson they made jokes about me "simping" for and crushing on her. And then later I found out that they even told the girls sitting in front of us.
While I knew I was kinda being obvious, I didn't expect them to be this sure of it though.
And I don't really know if should just tell them or not, what do you think? | Crushes |
These past few months I’ve suspected that the quiet girl in my class likes me. I’ve noticed quick glances and sometimes she’d look at my direction but never at my eyes. It could also just be me but she seems to stand nearby me whenever we have to stand in line or such in school. She also seems fidgety when I’m right next to her or she could be fidgety in general (tapping feet, etc) I decided to ask her about something related to class today (the first time I’ve ever talked to her) and she immediately turned her head and made eye contact. Does anybody think these signs mean she’s into me? I kinda am into her too cause she’s quiet and I find quiet cute. I really don’t want to start forcing conversations with her if she isn’t into me. | Crushes |
I’ve liked this guy for a while and originally I planned to just let it fizzle out, but now we’ve become somewhat good friends and he’s been really nice, but I get so nervous every time I’m near him that I freak out and accidentally completely ignore him. Like blank stare, pretend he doesn’t exist. The other day we had an awards ceremony and I was the very last person called and just about everyone had left by then, but he was one of the only people out of our group that stayed to clap and when we made eye contact I panicked and walked right past him, blank stare. I feel really bad and at this point I don’t care about him liking me, I just don’t want to come off as rude or a bad friend.
Do ya’ll have any advice on how I could improve my composure around him or what I should do? | Crushes |
Okay so there is a guy at the gym who I think is super cute and so me being extremely scared and awkward I had my friend go up to him and tell him that I thought he was cute. It went well, he said that I was really sweet and smiled super big and was a bit flustered. So the next day we were just doing our normal workout and my crush and his friend come in and immediately start on the machine right next to us. And so not thinking anything of it we move to our next machine and then about 5 minutes later they move to a machine right behind us. He never talked to me but I could tell he was staring a few times in my direction. Do you think he might think I’m cute or like me back?? I overthink a lot and need validation from strangers 😭😂 do you also think he is just as nervous as I am and that’s why he didn’t come up to me and talk? Or do you think he isn’t interested at all? | Crushes |
I need people's opinions. So I started this new job nearly a month ago ok and theirs this guy that works their and on the very first day I started I walked into the tea room and he gives me a look like at least 2-3 second look now ever since then it got even weirder I swear. I would be walking past him or near him and he would give the same look. He would just look at me, not a quick look then turn his head after a minute. I mean a 2-3 second look and that went on a few times and then I started being anxious around him to the point I couldn't even sit in the tea room or want to go in their without knowing if he is or is not in their because I would laugh of my anxiety. Anyway time went on and anyway one day I was sitting in the tea room, he wasn't their but I heard the door open that leads up stairs and I just had the feeling it was him and well I was correct anyway he come up the stairs and I was like fucking hell in my head and anyway he started talking to me it wasn't really much as I left because I couldn't handle it but after that we have spoken a few times and anyway yesterday I showed up and I had cut my hair short and he came me the look again and then today he did some type wink at me when he was leaving work and I just need to know people's opinions because he has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend but I'm sensing something and I have no idea lol, I don't even know if I like this guy but I do know things ain't normal when you go making friends.so please give me your opinion everyone
Does he or does he not like me
And do I and do I not like him?? | Crushes |
I really like this guy on my wrestling team. I know it’s not smart to date team mates, but I REALLY like him.
We’ve been friends for a year now and we’ve been getting closer and closer, so I didn’t think it would be suspicious if I asked him to go rollerskating, and he seemed really excited about the idea when I brought it up in person. When I texted him about it he did not reply.
I brought it up next time i saw him and he made some excuses, saying he can’t roller skate and doesn’t wanna fall and hurt himself. So when I asked him why he didn’t reply to my text he said it’s cuz he was at work and when he opens a msg and is unable to respond right away he forgets to respond. The thing is he couldn’t have been at work cuz i msged him 2 am on a Friday night. And he did go out with a group on Sunday night (I invited him for Saturday).
I feel disrespected and like he’s just making excuses.
Personally the only time i don’t reply to someone’s text is when I don’t like them very much, and I think it’s like that for everyone.
Am i reading into this too much?
He did send me a happy birthday text yesterday tho, does that count for anything? Lol
Please give me advice about how I should go about this.
I’m thinking I just shouldn’t give him attention anymore unless he starts a conversation.
I feel that if I accept his excuse I’ll be disrespecting myself and demeaning my self worth.
What do u think? | Crushes |
Okay, it's happened before, I (20m) notice a guy and start liking and wanting to see him all the time, then fantasying about developing a connection with him. But this time feels different, I thought this guy (22?) was stuck up the first time I interacted with him. I'm a cashier, and while people do small things that annoy me, usually not saying thank you is one of my main ones. People, after waiting for more than a minute to be served, turn into little passive aggressive children. I usually expect it from ppl who work at the hospital I'm in, so it wasn't a big surprise. A few weeks later, I'm back on tinder because I'm bored and lonely, and then I see him.
I'm not 100% sure he's into dudes, sometimes straight guys fall through the cracks and end up on my feed. He slightly reminds me of my ex, which is not great. I'm usually nervous and not talkative with strangers, I'm especially anxious when I find them attractive which is not often, I get tongue tied and I lose my voice. I'm usually not attracted to guys at work, unless something about them catches my attention, and I guess his tinder profile did because after I started thinking about him more. I'm afraid he saw my profile, because I'm not out to a lot of people at work, and I've heard a lot of transphobic things over the pass 2 years I've worked there.
I'm also afraid to talk to him, because what if he did see my profile and just didn't like me? Or what if he's transphobic? The last guy I liked and conversated with at work didn't seem to be, but that friendship kinda ended(?)
I mean, I don't really see him as stuck up anymore, but a lot of people are being nicer to me after I broke down at work a week or 2 ago, so maybe he is too?
I tend to be infatuated with people after the smallest interactions, which is not awesome but that's how my brain works. I'm afraid of a whole bunch of outcomes, and I don't wanna go for something that has a huge risk factor. He doesn't seem to be interested in conversations with me, and I'm not huge on start conversations either.
Honestly, this is more of a vent. Thank you for reading. | Crushes |
So I have a crush on a guy who I’ve met only once through mutuals and although we follow each other on Instagram we have never really texted but we used to game together a lot.
So the thing is that he has a gf and bc I don’t wanna be a home wrecker I just stayed away from him and haven’t made a move. But one of my close guy friends who is also pretty close with my crush knows that I like that guy so I usually ask him for information about my crush.
And he has been sending me screenshots of conversations with my crush saying things like “I’m only going if —(me) is going” “where is —?” “I’m only gon stay loyal with —“ or “— babes is also pretty” when talking about his gf. (Btw all that is in a span of a month)
My friend has made it clear that my crush isn’t interested in me and is only saying those things as a joke between them. But do guys really say those things as a joke when they aren’t interested in a girl at all? | Crushes |
I was in a pub with her and a couple of friends 6 beers in. And when I'm drunk I'm clumsy. So ofc when I reached out for something her drink was in a way and I managed to spill it all over her lap.
I apologized and bougth her a new drink. Felt like shit for the rest of the night. When I got home I apologized again. She said "it's no big deal".
Now I look like an idiot. Did I handle it well? | Crushes |
Hi! So, I’ve known my friend for a little over 8 months now. When we met, it was an instant click with one another. We’re super duper similar and share a lot of the same interests, have a very similar sense of humor, and agree on a lot of overall topics. We talk daily and call almost every night, with a lot of those calls going well into the early hours of the morning.
We’ve had some playful banter back and forth and have both said some very flirty things to one another, but she’s also told me before that sometimes she just flirts for fun which I mean, I get it, I do the same thing too sometimes. The only issue is that I don’t know if she’s actually joking or not. She’s made a lot of comments (I don’t know if they’re meant to be teasing or not?) about expressing to just live together and going into business together, and even at some point said something along the lines of it would be crazy if we DIDN’t end up dating each other.
This might be super obvious, but I can’t pick up on social cues easily. I’m absolutely terrified of reading too deep into it and somehow ruining our friendship because of it. I don’t want her to think that I’m only talking to her because I want to be with her romantically. Dating would be nice yeah, but I value our friendship a lot too and don’t want to make her uncomfortable because I wasn’t able to pick up on if she was just joking around or not.
Any advice helps :’) Sorry if this is all over the place. | Crushes |
so last school year my crush (M) told me he liked me (F) and when I say I was SO HAPPY. like at that point I had liked him for like around 5 years already? but um anyways, at that time my friend (M) liked my crush aswell, he's bi but my crush is straight.
anyways he got so mad at me and there was so much drama. me and him have a mutual friend (F we're a trio) and she sided with him. I was really sad and stuff but I still have other friends, so even though it hurt to lose some of my best friends I still had other support systems.
me and my crush didn't start dating though as my parents are VERY strict so we're kind of in the flustered mutually attracted friends stage. anyways this school year I skipped a grade (it's a long story) so we don't see eachother alot anymore but are still friends.
and my friends (M and F) are still mad at me :( or well the friend who liked my crush is, my other friend is just kind of unsure who to side with. | Crushes |
Sorry for the huge post, I tried to summarize everything as much as possible :P
This post is going to be divided in two parts (I hope you can help me)..
1. there is a girl in my class that I love (I don't consider her a simple crush anymore) and last month I invited her to go see the Mario movie at the cinema with me (it's far away, so I offered her a ride), at first she seemed excited and I was supposed to send her a message during spring break to set a date and time to see the movie (this all happened at least 3 weeks ago), when I sent her the message (which was in the form of a funny video) she thanked me but said she probably couldn't (I believe it might be for personal reasons and not lack of interest). To this day, I have never touched the subject again and I feel that every day I am drifting away from her (it is something that often keeps me up at night). I was determined to talk about the movie today but for some reason I felt it wasn't the right time (my problem with socializing is that I think I am constantly bothering people). When and how can I bring it up again and set a date right away (Monday we don't have classes but I don't know if I should set it for so soon, I want her to think about it).
2. Yesterday I had one of the worst experiences and all thanks to my problem socializing with people (I'm more open with people I've known for a while). My crush started hanging out with some friends from another class during breaks (breaks that I used to talk to her) and yesterday I thought it was a good idea to walk with her (with permission) to the place where she spends her breaks with her group. Instead of looking like the fun guy, I just stood there staring at nothing (after a while I adopted the "phone technique"); So as not to look weird (I think I made it worse) I said I had taken advantage of the place to use the school's internet to do an assignment. I want to erase this embarrassing image from my mind but at the same time I want all the memories where she appears intact... I feel that I may have gone too far yesterday and invaded something more "personal". The worst part is that every day I think she is liking me less and less (it makes me rotten inside).
Thank you everyone and sorry for my bed England :P | Crushes |
I’ve noticed a guy in my class that like stares at me, when I don’t see. He so nice to me. Sometimes he gives me compliments, often on small things like earrings. He always smiles at me and he tries to help if he can. When we sit together he always asks idk, maybe silly questions, like “why do you love pink?” or “why you don’t eat?”(i was on diet). Maybe he is just kind, but my friends say that he doesn’t behave the same way as he does with me, like he is never complemented others. Idk, maybe i am blind or he is just kind person. | Crushes |
so there's a guy I've had a crush on for like two months. We're not in the same grade, so until recently, I thought he had no idea who I am. A month ago I requested him on IG & snapchat and he followed back both times. We didn't interact until Sunday, when I finally had the courage to snap him. He snapped back and we talked for a couple days. He mentioned that he saw my covers (I posted some on Instagram) and I was a bit shook because that means he stalked my profile a bit..? while I thought he didn't know me..?
Anyway, after I told him I wasn't sure if he knew me, he replied "Musicians know each other :)" which I thought was really sweet but now I'm confused and scared because we haven't snapped since tuesday after he left my last snap on open... It wasn't really something he could've replied to but wouldn't he have tried to keep the convo going if he wanted to build contact? Even as just a friend?
I really really like him and we have tons of things in common which is why I wish we could build something up (even just as friends) but I don't wanna come off as annoying and pushy.
how can I tell if he's too shy to snap me or if he's just not interested in getting to know me? but then why would he mention that he saw my covers and everything? | Crushes |
Listen bud, I really like you, like I mean I really really really like you. But I feel like you need a reminder to text me back, it kind of hurts.
I see you active on Snap and on insta, and it hurts knowing you've left me on opened with no response and then message me 3 or 4 days later with a response, usually after when you've seen me at work - it feels like you needed a reminder I exist.
Please let me know! I'd much rather know you don't want to talk to me, be that platonically or even romantically.
I'm a clingy emotional person who gets emotionally attached to nearly everyone around me, so if you do just end up ditching me I need to know so I can stop feeling let down every time I see that "opened" text or when you ignore me at work, my brain doesn't work the same way yours does :(
- thanks for listening to my message | Crushes |
Many people ask me to look for more signs so first of all, he is ALWAYS facing me. His body is always faced to me. Coincidence? Maybe. Secondly he’s been ✨staring✨. I mean I kinda always stare at him so there’s a chance he could be thinking i’m weird. But he got called up to come up in front of the class and everyone was staring at him so i turned my back to look too and he was staring back but ofc like the girl i am i broke the eye contact. And when he said my name, TEYZUXHUDGJIBGC I LOVE IT AHHHHHHH | Crushes |
Hey there, as most people here I have a crush lol. He's been my teacher for nearly five years until last year when I graduated from school. I always liked him, because he's funny, he teaches my favourite subjects and he was a very caring and fair teacher. Although in the last two years I had lots of classes with him and he also helped me on some personal accounts (he wrote me references for gap year, supported extra curricular activities like contests etc.), I'm nearly 100% sure he never saw me as more than a student.
I also never admitted to myself that I fell for him, although it was pretty obvious lmao. However, now that I'm out of school for a year, I cannot stop thinking about him and it drives me crazy. I even have dreams about him, regardless the fact that I haven't seen him in months.
Also, during my graduation, there was a moment where I felt like something clicked between us, it's hard to describe but it felt like there was a magnetic pull between us, because someone called my name but in this very moment we just couldn't look away, ik that sounds stupid but I can't stop thinking about that. And also during our graduation "party", there was a moment where I was just being silly with a friend as I felt like someone is watching me and when I turned around, he stared at me with a unreadable expression that I never saw on him before that. now that I write that down, I realise once more how silly that sounds but I have no other words for it.
Nonetheless, I want to forget about that crush. I can't imagine that he is interested in me, there is no way. I just want to clear my mind from that and stop thinking and dreaming about him.
What should I do to forget? Confess to.him? If so, I won't be able to do that in person, I don't have the guts. But I could slip him a letter before school summer holidays, as I intend to visit my old school because another of my former teachers is retiring and I wanted to say goodbye to her.
I would be so so grateful for any advice on how to get over him!!!
On a side note: I'm 19, nearly 20 now and he's about 29 or older, I'm not sure, there's at least a gap of 10 years | Crushes |
I’ve had a crush on this girl since the 6th grade and I’m now a sophomore in high school. We went to different middle schools but we started talking to each other again our freshman year. In the second semester of 9th she joined the tennis team and got switched out of our class land we never really talked after that except for every now and then. I want to join the tennis team with a few friends but I don’t know if she likes me back at all and I don’t want to make her uncomfortable if I do join. I also have no past experience in tennis so I feel like I’ll embarrass myself. Should I just join the team and see how it goes from there? | Crushes |
It’s been almost two months since I told her how I felt and while I wasn’t able to really do it “properly” since I was really shy and couldn’t really go into detail how I felt, I still told her I liked her. Even still, I haven’t stopped thinking about her. I think about her even more now. Any advice? | Crushes |
I've had a crush on a guy who works at my local supermarket for months now and I always pushed my mom to go grocery shopping every day, so that I could see him. I've never had the courage to talk to him and always just stared at him from afar. A friend of my mom got scared for me that he suddenly gets a girlfriend because I just didn't talk to him, so she just asked him out herself. She went grocery shopping and as soon as she saw him, she stopped him and asked him if he has a girlfriend. He said no and my mom's friend told him that there's a girl who likes him and doesn't have the courage to talk to him and that I'd love to have his phone number. He seemed really happy and knew that she meant me and he told my mom's friend that she should tell me that he doesn't have a girlfriend and that the phone number thing isn't a problem either, I'd just have to talk to him. The problem is that I'm so incredibly shy, I really don't know how to manage that. I already thought about writing my number on a piece of paper and just giving it to him, without saying too much. Would that be a good idea? | Crushes |
I’m just super nervous, but I plan on getting this done now since I’ll be out of chances later. (We haven’t talked, at least not that much.)
If all goes well, Friday should be okay. If not, it will be pretty awkward in our next class together… | Crushes |
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