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Basically I asked my crush "in a scale of 1-10 how much do you like me?" Because I was curious af and didn't know what to do. It felt like a horrible question tho, it felt like I violated her personal space. While yes I did get a response it still felt horrible. | Crushes |
Basically I got curious and asked her "In a scale of 1-10 how much do you like me?" While yes I got a response it felt like it was a horrible thing to do. | Crushes |
the title basically I’m just wondering a crush and her friends can think you’re annoying if you don’t see the signs that your crush likes you and you don’t take any action.
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basically the title
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I got a girlfriend four months ago, it was pretty nice at the start, well, actually, it was nice for the whole 4 months but recently I've been feeling a lot of stress for jealousy, anxiety and fear in general, I feel insufficient and just a pair of minutes ago cried about it. My self esteem went to the floor and the last thing I want to do it's become toxic.
I know the smartest option it's to break up but am scared of doing it since we broke up a time ago for the same reason and she cried pretty bad about it. I know the problem it's me and I'll work as hard as I can to start learning stuff to become "sufficient" (guitar, taekwondo and poetry) but I know I can't do it while on a relationship, why? To be honest... I don't know why, I just know that.
So... What should I do? | Crushes |
Okay, so I'm gay, not all the way and I have had a crush on this guy for a while now. I'm very introverted and still not out of the closet yet. We're seatmates for a couple of weeks now and I still haven't started a conversation. If it concerns school stuff then yeah we talk a little.
I've started to notice some things that are strange though. There was one time when he asked me to pull on his hand really hard(?) though it was probably to test my strength since I'm as thin as a twig. I also started to notice how he would change the way he spoke whenever he talked to me. He was very loud and extroverted when he's talking with other people but when he talks with me he softens his tone a lot and also becomes very patient with me *(when I talk with people other than my family, my voice shrinks)* He also speaks out for me when my voice can't be heard. There was also that one time when he asked me if he was hot??? He was with a friend though so maybe it was just a joke.
I've heard him say before that he's straight though so I don't know if I should still have hope. Any thoughts? | Crushes |
I may just be in my own head but this girl I’ve liked she’s sweet kind and pretty. The other day I was asking her why she is really nice and then gets mad at me like that. After that she told me how she feels jealous when I snap her with other girls or send her pictures with others girls. And I pressed her more last night about it and it seems like she likes me but when I ask her that she says “dont worry abt thattt”. f16 m15 | Crushes |
An awkward yet frustrating situation to say the least.
Last year when I lived in a freshman dorm, I would always see this really cute guy around. But, I obviously never approached him, he was just like any other good looking man on campus (fun to look at, but never to be approached).
One night, near the end of the semester, I had a ton of econ homework to do and I was hungry, so I decided I would go to the dining hall and do my work there (this dining hall is open 24/7 and it was around midnight when I decided to go). And so I'd been sitting at this table for about an hour and I've still got a bunch of problems left to do, when out of nowhere the cute guy from my dorm sits at the table directly across from mine.
I was pleasantly surprised, but also I started getting really self conscious about how I looked. But thankfully this was one of those nights where I still looked somewhat presentable. So I continue doing my work and I noticed him take out his laptop to do some work too. And at this point I'm thinking about how nice it would be if he noticed me. But I kept doing my thing and he was doing his.
But then of course the most cliché thing occurs: we made eye contact. And I'm talking about that 3-4 second kind of eye contact! I immediately got so nervous and giddy. At this point I am really struggling to focus on my work. After a few minutes though I glance up again, and we make eye contact again! And then it happened one more time again, but this time when we locked eyes he sort of smiled and silently mouthed a gentle "What?"
I FELT LIKE POOPING MY PANTS! I immediately looked back down at my keyboard and REFUSED to look back up! In retrospect I think he did that to be cute and initiate some kind of conversation, but in that moment I got so intimidated! I knew I wasn't going to be able to finish my work anymore so I literally threw my stuff into my bookbag and left that dining hall so fast!
I didn't see him around the dorm for the next week or so, and we only had like 4 weeks left of the semester. I was really starting to regret running away like that. But then finally one day as I was leaving the dorm to go to class I saw him again, and we both noticed each other, but obviously did not approach. And then it kept happening for the next 2 weeks. We would keep running into each other and look at each other, Yet, we never once spoke! The tension was real.
So on the second to last week of the semester I decided I was gonna go up to him and say hi. And guess how that went?
IT WENT HORRIBLE! I won't go into the cringeworthy details of that encounter, but basically all you need to know was that nothing came of it and that all I did was embarrass myself and make myself look like an extremely socially awkward person.
Anyway, the semester ended and I thought I would never see this man again.
But of course, God has a sense of humor and decided against that! HA
So typically second year students move off campus, but I decided to stay on campus again during my sophomore year. And luckily I was able to move out of the crusty freshman dorm and move into the nicest dorm available on our campus. And guess who lived not only in the same hall as me, but the same floor?? CUTE GUY FROM FRESHMAN YEAR!
We were like 1 week into the semester when I saw him walk into the dorm and I remember thinking Holy shit what are the odds? The chance of this happening was so low, there are literally 25 other dorms on campus for upper classmen to live in plus off campus housing.
So for context, I live on the second floor and there's this study room on the second floor that is unfortunately placed right in front of the main hall entrance, so there's a window that everyone can look into, but its the most convenient place for me to study late at night, because I hate walking back from the library by myself. Anyway so this specific study room has been my go to study location all semester (I think most everyone on the second floor knows this).
But back to the main story.
So this semester, not much has changed. We have kept running into each other in passing and we'll glace at each other but obviously we have not spoken a single word. And sometimes when I'm in the study room I'll notice him walk in and we'll briefly look at each other but that's the extent of it. It's mostly just this awkward tension whenever we walk past each other. But anyway, I stopped really thinking about it and tried moving on from it.
That is up until a few nights ago...
So, this week is the second to last week of the semester. And let me tell you, I have not had time to get cute AT ALL. I've been wearing the same 3 pairs of leggings all week and have been in desperate need of washing my hair. And usually I am pretty put together. ANYWAY So, Thursday night I really needed to study for a stat test and the first floor study room was empty so I went in and set my stuff down on the table.
Then I went to my room to get dressed in some comfy clothes. And usually I have nicer pajamas but I hadn't done my laundry all week, so the only option left was this ugly pair of gray sweatpants and this stupid shirt I have from 9th grade that says "The book was better". And because the first floor study room is always freezing I put on the ugliest beanie ever and I grabbed my blanket. I also hadn't had anything to eat so I grabbed a yogurt too.
So there I headed back to the study room, minding my own business, with my silly red hat on, my ugly wrinkled t-shirt, blanket and yogurt in hand, when I open the door to the study room fully expecting it to be empty. BUT GUESS WHO IS SITTING RIGHT THERE IN MY STUDY ROOM (that I had claimed by placing my stuff down)??
Yep, you guessed it! Cute dorm crush!
I was so surprised I LITERALLY said "HOLYYY" And you should have seen the look on his face lmaoo.
I think he was thrown off by my inner monologue coming out like that, his expression was one of slight confusion and shock too.
So I sat and put my stuff down and I felt dumb for bringing literally my whole dorm with me into the study room lmao. And he looked at me and kept typing on his laptop and so I started trying to do some work too. So here I am being very self conscious about my appearance, wishing I'd washed my hair and put on a nicer pair of pajamas, all while attempting to study.
And some minutes pass by, then half an hour passes by... still no word from him. Another half hour passes by and nothing happens. He would occasionally look in my direction but mostly he just kept typing and he'd stop to take a sip of his drink and play with his hair, and then he would type again. And I tried my best to not look at him and focus on my work.
So there we are. The both of us sitting there, not a one of us saying a single word. Then two hours pass by and I notice him pack up all his things. And then he just sits there. He doesn't look at his phone or anything. He just sits there for a good 10 seconds. And then he looks over at me. Making it very obvious this time. I look at him. And then he gets up. And he leaves...
WHAT THE ACTUAL FU-
I AM BEYOND PISSED. I AM FRUSTRATED. WHY?? WHat kind of sick joke is this???
I felt like dying right then and there. My heart was shattered into tiny bits. Why didn't he say anything? Why did he go into that study room knowing fully well that someone's stuff was in there? I'm certain hes noticed that I'm always in that study room. He NEVER goes into that study room! Maybe it had nothing to do with me and he was just changing his routine all of a sudden so late in the semester? Or maybe he got too nervous to say anything? Whyy
I honestly felt like crying and was not in the mood for studying in that room anymore so I left and decided to study in my room that night for once. I felt pretty shitty going to bed that night. Did he know that I liked him? Did he have no interest in speaking to me and simply really was there just to work?
Anyway. Then the next morning I got up kind of late and had to rush to get to my class. And guess who I see first thing when I walk out of my room? (and this rarely happens by the way)
Him.
Yep.
I was so upset. I did not look his way at all. I saw him try to make eye contact with me but I was not in the mood. I walked out of the building so fast. I didn't even wait to hold the door for him or anything. I just left. Just like id done before and just like he did to me the night before.
So basically. That is the state of this awkward situaiton. I am not sure what to do. I dont really think there is anything for me to do. I'm just gonna try to move on. Because like they say, if he wanted to talk to me, he would have done so already. Or maybe he's just a really shy guy? I don't know...
Anyway! If there are updates I will be sure to leave one. | Crushes |
Ok, so there’s this guy my younger brother’s told me he liked me, I didn’t believe them then bc there kids and they lie to me and exaggerate a lot of things, but then one of my closest friends told me he liked me. By then I figured he actually might like me if my friend told me he did, but I’m still not sure. Can you help me?
Ps: i sorta kinda like him too but idk bc I have a really close guy friend that I kinda like to.. is it bad to like two guys at the same time? And if so who should I go with? | Crushes |
uh | Crushes |
What does this means? | Crushes |
Oh shit nooo! I’ve been making good progress with my crush upto a point where it seemed like she was ok with getting into a serious relationship and we weren’t just stuck in the talking stage forever. So with all the courage I could muster I wrote her a confession and sent it on WhatsApp (I agree the message was too long and included all small details like the way she talks and smiles) and she’s left me on read 😭 ps: I feel like I’m overreacting cause I sent the message just 5 hours ago and sent it at 2:20am and understandably she’s sleepy but I feel like I fucked up 😭 I need opinions, what do y’all think? Am I just overthinking or have a fucked up the little progress I made over the days? | Crushes |
I’m asking if y’all can each write a sentence that will help me transpire my feelings about her without being too casual. Stuff like, how the plains of Iowa remind me of her. Everyone, be romantic as possible!
E.g. When I think of you, I'm reminded of the beautiful plains of Iowa. The distance between us is breaking my spirit.
My time and experiences without you are meaningless to me. Falling in love with you was the easiest thing I've ever done.
Nothing matters to me but you, and every day I'm alive, I'm aware of this. I loved you the day I met you; I love you today, and I will love you for the rest of my life.
(Ps. Got this from a movie) | Crushes |
I’m actually considering going and talking to her after our many weekends of making just the cutest eye contact. | Crushes |
It felt like a big joke that was meant to hurt me because it I feel like humiliated I felt like they weren't really my friends at that moment cuz I told them about how he wouldn't text me back and I thought that would be that but when it was lunch time he started trying to get his name even though they knew what his name was they tried to get his name and then after that one of my friends paid my other friend to ask him for his number and he explicitly stated my name when he asked for his number I felt shame and anger I was defeated I didn't know what to do so I just didn't do anything I told them to stop and the thing is is that one of my friends she just sat there and she laughed about it she instigated it and when I brought up how she was the one that told them when I told her not to when I told her stop telling them she didn't apologize she didn't say she was sorry or anything of that sort she told me "you didn't tell me not to tell anyone" and while that is right I wouldn't think that that's a valid excuse to do what she did because what they did was humiliating and embarrassing and I don't think I can even look him in the eye I don't think I can even be near him anymore because of what they did I feel hurt I feel like I should have never told her and that it was my fault because I trusted her with something that I didn't think she would tell anybody because when she had a crush on somebody I refused to tell anybody I made sure no one knew who she liked I would have never done this to her why would she do this to me why would any of them do this to me it was embarrassing they had me begging and screaming in the lunchroom out of embarrassment because I was hoping to deflect from it and they would move on but they didn't they did this the entire lunch period And I just decided to move over to the table at my other friend was sitting that asked him for his number when he moved to ask him for his number and there was no sorrys or I'm sorry exchanged it was just get out of my seat and then I moved back to the table and it genuinely made me mad I don't know if I still want to be friends with them with the way this happened and how they thought it was funny it wasn't funny to me it was embarrassing... Please just tell me if I did something wrong here I don't want to stop being friends with them but this made me feel funny at first it was funny in the beginning and then they went too far and the one who paid my other friend she didn't even feel a little bit bad and they all thought it was funny it wasn't funny to me it made me I didn't embarrassed and now I'm spending my weekend crying and being angry about this because it was awful and I didn't like it at all. | Crushes |
English is not my first language
So, I'm 15 and my crush is 14 my crush is my seatmate he's kind, smart, and an introvert. he's not showing signs that he likes me but my best friend says he likes me, we eat lunch together and study in the library together sometimes. I want to ask him if we could study together for our exam but I don't know how? | Crushes |
So I've started trying to text the guy I like. When I keep trying to start a conversation, all he responds with is 2-4 word sentences. I don't know what to do. I want to get to know him but it's hard since he either never answer or he gives short responses. I understand that he might be busy. I don't know what to do. Should I leave him alone? | Crushes |
I don’t know what words to pick, i am not as manly and tall as her exes are, but i was with her all that time, and i love her truly with all of my heart. We are very close already as friends, but that’s as far as it goes without a romantic relationship. I need help, what words to pick, how to tell her, and how to not be this afraid. | Crushes |
I like to go to social outings such as church , parties , and occasionally visiting the night club. I am pretty good at approaching a girl that is alone and shooting my shot with her but I am having a difficult time approaching a girl that is with her group of friends.
How should I approach a girl when they are with their group of friends? | Crushes |
i (F18) have a gay guy best friend who is trying to set me up with a new friend he just met at our school.
so my best friend sent a picture of me to the guy and asked him if i was hot.
he said “i mean she’s very pretty”
then my best friend told the guy “i asked because i know you are both single so let me know if you’re interested”
he replied “alright word. i’m kind of talking to someone right now so i’m just seeing where that goes”
my friend tried figuring out who the guy is talking to. apparently this guy has the biggest crush on another girl at our school, but he’s too nervous to talk to her. my best friend said he talks about this crush all the time with him. however, this is not the girl he’s talking to.
i don’t wanna disrespect the situation if he is talking to a girl, but i don’t think it’s that serious because he likes another girl anyway. i don’t wanna sound cocky, but i am WAY out of this guy’s league. he’s basically a “loser” in terms of popularity, not that he’s actually a loser, just idk what other word to use. this guy has never had a gf and said “he can’t pull” to my friend. should i go for this guy and send him a dm on insta? | Crushes |
My crush and I have liked each other for a while now. I'm 22, and I've never had a boyfriend before, but he's had one girlfriend. They were together from the end of middle school to freshman year of college. They were high school sweethearts. There was one time where they went to a yearbook summer camp where all the kids got to stay in the college dorms for a week. Another time, he and his yearbook club went to the mountains about three hours away from our town for a few days.
The reason why the two of them broke up was because she came out as lesbian. While they were together, she identified as bisexual and nonbinary (pronouns she/they), but lesbian now. They were together five years. I'm pretty sure they've had sex, at least once. It just makes me insecure because I'm miles behind him. Granted, 5 years of being in a relationship is above average for the average 22 year old, but I haven't had anything. I haven't even had my first kiss yet | Crushes |
She says " I think I like you" but i cant tell if she means like she doesn't know whether she likes me or not, or that she likes me. She told me she just realized she liked me a couple days ago. So I cant help but worry :') | Crushes |
I heard a rumor that shes really obssessed with another guy and i even saw them being real close together, however my she still flirts with me and touches me alot, and even my friends are confused abt does she like me or not
I cant help but to think that shes trying to trick me into thinking she has feelings for me just so she could reject me (???) idk | Crushes |
I heard a rumor that shes really obssessed with another guy and i even saw them being real close together, however my she still flirts and touches me alot, and even my friends are confused on does she like me or not
I cant help but to think that shes trying to trick me into thinking she has feelings for me just so she could reject me (???) idk | Crushes |
this feeling isn't even fun anymore. I've been depressed for quite a while and I keep having bad luck between me and my crushes. Fuck. I feel so numb. a friend said that if he was in my shoes, he's gonna quit trying. I just want to be loved, is there all I can ask for? | Crushes |
Why would my crush move next door, then not make time to see me? | Crushes |
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I think my breath probably smelled bad too. He didn’t say anything but I think that it did. What if he thinks I’m weird now?? I’m so paranoid | Crushes |
So I (26F) met a guy through FB marketplace 2 days ago and we met in a parking lot to complete the transaction. When we made eye contact it was electrifying and I’ve never felt this strong of an attraction toward anybody in my entire life. We didn’t get to chat other than saying “hi “, “thank you”, and “have a good day” until he messaged me on marketplace an hour later telling me he hopes I enjoy (the items I bought). It might seem like nothing other than friendliness but his messages before meeting in person were really short and drab. After meeting, it’s like he was trying to continue the conversation and was being really enthusiastic with me. The tone just changed completely, and was borderline flirty on his end. I felt bad because I was too nervous to entertain the conversation, but even if he wasn’t trying to be flirty, I definitely want to shoot my shot with him, but don’t know how. If he hasn’t friend requested me or pursued the conversation any further should I just assume he’s not interested? | Crushes |
OK so, theres this boy in my english class. lets call him snoopy (for the peanuts crewneck he always wears) and I need help figuring out if he likes me, or is even bi. For starters, he paints his nails sparkly pink (and the occasional purple) and wore pride bracelets (there was one time he wore two, one said "I love t!tt!es" and the other said "I love d!ck". This leads me to believe he's bi- ALTHOUGH he hangs around the most straight boys you could ever meet, and from what I know has only really dated girls.
Also, in english we're kind of class-friends (the type of person you're only really friend with in one class, the only class you have together) and I always catch him staring at me. 80% of the time hes staring and smiling, 20% (about 20%) hes just doing it to be funny (or maybe 100% of the time?) BUTTT every time I smile and look away (and feel myself blushing) he does too. HELP ME IM SO CONFUSED
P.S. also if he ends up not liking me then hes just a flirty person, but if he's straight i will be angry | Crushes |
SO SO SO MY CRUSH GAVE ME A SWEATER TODAY (we're virtual but they sent me a picture of theirs) VSHDHJEJEJD??? | Crushes |
So I had plenty of chances of confessing my love to a girl, I had the best opportunity on Thursday when she was sitting alone in a empty hall. But anyways we don’t really talk, we don’t really know each other that much except for names and we had like 2 classes together sitting near each other and yesterday I wanted to tell her but I chickened out. But I found her snap and I wanna add her and just tell her how I feel. Is that a bad idea? Or should I go through it. | Crushes |
Ive liked her for months, 6 to be exact, and im getting to the point now where im really struggling to bottle up my feelings for her, and im on the verge of asking her to go on a date. But i dont know whether she likes me or not,
- Ever since last week we have been texting non stop, we dont send ‘goodnight/goodmorning’ texts but our conversations carry on over night, she gives decent responses (not dry) but is usually a little slow on replying, i think on purpose (i see her reading the work groupchat while still being on delivered sometimes)
- We dont speak much at work because its work, but when we do the conversations are always really interesting and she always asks me questions, and even remembers little details about me (like for example she knows what my favourite band is)
- We also go to the same college, sometimes if we’re passing by we’ll speak to eachother, the other day i was on my own in a study period and she came over and sat next to me and we talked for an hour, which was nice
The issue i have is that Im scared that im misinterpreting her gestures, she is the sweetest person ive ever met and wouldnt hurt a fly, so maybe she could be doing this just to be nice and friendly, or maybe she could actually have an interest in me, im just not sure
I thought id come on here and ask for advice, shall i ask her out on a date? | Crushes |
We used to date. I know that sounds like a bad idea, even my best friend has been really skeptical of the whole idea. But here me out. It was about 3 years ago, and we only dated for a month because he loves kinda far away, and I didn’t get to see him very often, so after a while we both felt like it wasn’t working out. And that’s that.
Now here’s the other thing. We started talking again, back in October, and it’s been going really well. I talked to him a lot last year because he was in some of my classes, but over the summer we kinda disconnected after we both graduated. Now starting in October we started becoming friends again and I’ve been able to hang out with him a few times now since we started talking. The feelings sort of came back maybe a month ago now? We kind of flirt back and forth, kind of as a joke but….
Sometimes I can’t tell if it’s a joke or not. He’s honestly such an amazing guy and has never done anything wrong, never hurt me on purpose. And I mean that truthfully. I feel like the flirting might be something real again, like how we used to be 3 years ago when we were stupid teenagers. But I also don’t want to feel like I’m being played either. I don’t want the flirting to be a fake thing and a misunderstanding.
I talked to him earlier tonight and he was talking about how he “needed a cat girl” even though he’s not 100% into that, he’d just be willing to try it. I kind of made a joke like “dude I’m right here😈”, but I also kind of mentioned, “that may or may not be a joke” kind of thing, and then I got all nervous because of my RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria) that I have. I immediately started regretting what I said like “what am I saying I’m such and idiot. And I explained why to him. He didn’t have much to say about me wanting to do the cat girl thing, but he at least followed a long with my explanation of RSD. He then said “anyway I’m gonna go to bed, I need to catch up on it since I haven’t been getting a lot this past week” and he said goodnight and left. I immediately felt so stupid because I was afraid I made things really uncomfortable, which I definitely did. I feel really badly about the whole situation. I’m not sure if this is me looking for advice, or just ranting out. Feel free to give me advice if you want🤷♀️ | Crushes |
im really confused with whats going on with everything. I told my crush i like him, he is my close friend and i accidentally fell for him about a year ago. I got too comfortable with him so it was so easy to confess, it was like telling your close friend about your crush ykyk. I told him i liked him, and he liked me. but i told him its better to stay friends, cause of school stuff you know. But ever since i told him i liked him, there has been this distance betweens us. I really hate that i told him i liked him in the first place now. I regret every single thing about it, which makes me scared, cause its making me feel so selfish about my feelings. Its like, i want him to do something about us, while i literally told him that it would be better to be friends. i am really not sure anymore if we are hating eachother, or its just me again. this really sucks. i just wanted to write this cause it really need to get out of my head. thanks for reading. | Crushes |
a bit abt me first, im a feminine presenting non binary and im 15 and a panromantic asexual
im gonna go in order of weakest to hardest crushing
okayokay person 1. they're so sweet to me and i love them. and they're pretty attractive too 😭 HOWEVER. they'd be in their 1st year of college rn if they could afford it, so- 🥲 they're also across the country lmao
person 2. an irl friend of mine. they're so sweet to me and they're funny and they're always there for me and a great friend and they're so frickin cute too. but they have a boyfriend and they're graduating this year 🥲
person 3. she's so attractive holy shit. she's not a friend of mine but we're acquainted. she's really funny and very social and it's very very difficult for anybody to not like her. however, she also has a boyfriend and is straight. she's also graduating this year and random fact is person 2s best friend.
person 4. oh. my. god. he's. he's so. he's a good friend of mine an he's SO FUCKING GORGEOUS. he's funny and sweet and not a dick lol. he cares a lot abt his friends and he just makes me so happy. but. he's dating person 3. how bad is my luck 😭 | Crushes |
This last week my crush has absolutely murdered me.
On Monday he (16M) came up with at least 5 nicknames for me (15F), then said a rhyme that he couldn't really remember the rest of so just said that we had tums full of love or something.
On Wednesday he was just really disappointed in me because I forgot where I put something (I put it somewhere where I wouldn't lose it, then proceeded to forget sed place and panicked about it). His face was freaking adorable xD
On Friday there was a screening for the school production so the people in it could actually watch it. We're both on the backstage crew so had already seen it loads of times, but went with another friend of ours (also on the backstage crew) so we could just sit and watch. Pretty much as soon as it started, his energy came in and he started to dance a bit. I kept telling him to stop it, and ended up grabbing his arms and trying to keep them still. This continued for a VERY long time, until I basically just ended up grabbing his hands and holding them on his lap. Instead of trying to stop me, after they were down he basically just stopped trying and said something along the lines of "I was just letting you hold my hands there." After he asked if I wanted him to try and break free. I actually squeezed his hands while I was holding them at one point and he didn't object (like when I held them on his knee). After the interval, he said he was bored and put headphones on. I told him that it wasn't the same without his interruptions, and he started again. At one point I put my hand over his mouth to physically shut him up and he felt really warm. I didn't notice him being red or anything, and my hands are quite often cold, but he did feel warm. I also kept shoving him and he just kept annoying me.
He only annoys me too. He's always making jokes about me having to wear a support boot and never teases anyone else about anything. I keep asking him why he does this, and he always says that I'm so easy to annoy, but then always smiles and laughs, almost like he's lying.
We sit together in the lesson first thing on a Monday (by choice) and I'm not quite sure how I feel about it since things between us have almost definitely changed.
Tl;dr: he teases me a lot and I think he liked it when I held his hands on his lap. Also read the paragraph second from the bottom. It's important. | Crushes |
Sorry about the reading. There's been this girl in my class whom I've caught looking/glancing at me multiple times throughout the semester. We also somehow bump into each other a lot outside of class, even though we don't know each other's schedules. I think she has a crush on me or at least finds me attractive, but I haven't bothered to talk to her because I'm really shy and introverted😭, and I'm pretty sure she is too. However, we both talk in the class group chat on WhatsApp, and recently it has been going somewhere. She had been asking for help with homework, and had replied to me asking me how to do it so I asked to DM her. It actually went really well because the conversation felt effortless and it flowed easily and she wasn't dry unlike most people, and definitely had an interest in talking to me and even complimented how I helped her understand the material (cute emojis too).
Anyway, when the next class came, I wanted to text her and ask where she was sitting in order to make sure the person I talked to was actually her (her username hinted to me that it might be her). But then my shyness chickened me out and I thought it was too early to ask since we've only talked once. I did catch her staring at me again, and this time, a lot. After class, she even decided to get close to me and follow me out of class and into the train station to head home but didn't try to talk or anything. At this point, I realized maybe she was waiting for me to talk to her and I didn't.
A day later, I ask her about the homework but she sent only two messages and the last message that I sent got left on read. It has now been more than 24 hours and no reply. I feel like I've screwed up because I didn't bother to talk to her in-person or at the very least ask her where she was sitting. I feel like I've ruined a good opportunity, and I never get these good opportunities (I'm 20 and never had a gf), so I was willing to take a chance with anyone that likes me since girls rarely do. But I fear she has lost interest in me. | Crushes |
Sorry if I post it again but it's because I've received no answer or advices...
I'll make this story short with the main points.
There was a girl that I liked at work and I confronted her, we start chatting and I told her that I like her. First she was live accepting the thing and she said that she likes honesty guys (and also to remain the way I am).
After some time she started to ignore, so it was a way to say she's not interested I guess. The thing is that she acted in a way that seems she is interested and later it's a completely different thing.
It's been 3 months, I don't send her anything but I can forget her even though I should. Does anyone have ever been in a situation like this? What can I do to stop thinking?
If you want to ask me something feel free. | Crushes |
i \[17M\] have had crush on this boy \[17M\] since 8th grade. but it is so complicated and i dont know what i should even call these feelings.
(just want to add this here in case some things need context, but i am ftm trans and only started identifying as trans in sophomore year)
in 8th grade i met him in my science class and i had a few other classes with him. i met him through my other friend. we were pretty chill for a little bit, i honestly cannot remember much but i know around the end of october that year i started developing feelings for him. it was very subtle at first until it started getting obsessive.
as an 8th grader (and just someone who had a poor grasp of boundaries) i didnt know how to properly express these feelings, so i would become very "flirty" or whatever my understanding of what flirting was in my 13 year old brain. i would annoy the piss out of him by turning off his chromebook which had gotten so bad to the point he had to completely change his key bindings so i couldnt do that anymore.
TW for this paragraph: sexual harassment
other than the plain being annoying, i would say suggestive things to him. i cant remember most of the things i said or did, and the ones i do remember are so embarrassing it makes me physically ill. but i do know it made him uncomfortable. i assume he did tell me to stop and i recall he was visibly annoyed and angry. at the time, i didnt see this as a sign to stop. only freshman year i had started to realize what i did was basically sexual harassment.
this has went on for all of 8th grade, i didnt know how to keep any of my feelings to myself. other things i recall are a couple of the times that maybe i had been bothering him with his chromebook or just the plain annoying things like that, he had hit me. not hard but kind of just to get me to stop.
8th grade is a blur, but i did at some point confess to him over text around possibly march which he never responded to. around june is probably when he did and he said that he knew the whole time obviously and i essentially got rejected, rightfully so.
over that summer i had a lot of reflecting to do as a person (not just because of him but because of other problems i was having with friends). either before or at the start of freshman year, the friend who i had met him through was having a deep convo with me about 8th grade, and had mentioned my crush. he told me that he said he forgives me, and that before i got weird he actually used to think i was cool. he also informed me that he is thinking that maybe he is gay. so at this point i had kind of "gotten over" him. all i had left was feelings of guilt and regret.
ironically, freshman year i identified as a lesbian. so i hadnt really thought of him at all that year. i had seen him in the hallway maybe a couple of times, and sat at a table with him once. this year was also when covid hit, so i basically never saw him again after that. and sophomore year i had moved to another school. which is also when i started realizing, i like men too, and im not a girl at all. at this point, he was completely out of sight out of mind, but i would occasionally have dreams about him where everything went right, where i never treated him like that and we were good friends. some dreams were also dreams where he was the one who liked me instead.
i would say i was over him, but any time i had dreams about him or thought about him i would feel heat in my ears, tingling in my head, throat, my heart dropping, and pretty much anything else you would feel around a crush.
junior year, i had an infatuation with someone else completely different, but this time i wasnt weird about it, i didnt do to them what i did to him. i had actually gotten over this one pretty quick, and eventually found out they actually annoy me. around june of junior year, i stumbled upon his instagram. i just remember the first thought being in my head "oh. my. fucking. god". because at that point i had almost forgotten what his face looked like. i had just looked through his account, feeling so confused. i had no idea what i felt. i just saw what his sense of humor was like and i was giggling to myself. and he also just looked so attractive. i cant remember if thats when i followed him, but after that i just put it away. i didnt want to think about it.
my dreams of him had happened more often, all of them were just us reconnecting after me being at my new school for 2 years. over that summer i had also reconnected with some other friends, so i was thinking about what i would do for senior prom. i thought that since at my school at the time i had no friends, i would go to their prom instead. and then i started realizing that holy shit, my crush would be there. i would get so nervous thinking about it, like what would happen if we started talking? i was driving myself insane with fantasies where he would be interested in me.
it wasnt something that i thought about a lot, but in october this year, i had a sleepover with my friend that made me decide i wanted to go back to my old school. and somehow, within a little over a week i was back at my old school. i honestly wasnt really thinking about my crush, until i passed him in the hallway. and then i just felt every single feeling come back. and i tried so hard to ignore it.
ive had 2 people tell me they /think/ he has a girlfriend and that hes bisexual, but nobody has been able to confirm the girlfriend part. the current situation is that my friend has been telling me about him (because they have a class together) and theyre trying to get me to talk to him because they think that we could reconnect and be good friends but im very doubtful because of everything that has happened, and well hes never said he would be interested in being friends. he may forgive me but that doesnt mean he would want to be around me.
we have just been sitting in the auditorium for lunch, which is where he sits with his friends, and we have basically gotten nowhere with this.
im just trying to relfect on how i feel, im not entirely sure if this is a crush or anything like that, it could just be a desire for closure and to fix things. but i can name the things that i like about him, and why i like him or think i like him. i mean hes obviously attractive, i really like his sense of humor, i think he has cool interests, and he is friendly with other people and i just like his personality, but at the same time i know nothing about him, ididnt really even know much about him in 8th grade. so i feel like this is also a desire to know more about him since hes very mysterious, and the people i know who know him also dont really know much about him.
i also just want to know how he feels, i want to know if he doesnt want anything to do with me, i want to know if he doesnt want me to talk to him, because i understand. i just want to know so i can work on these feelings and get rid of the lingering hope that we could ever be friends or more after everything. to be honest, i dont even know if he cares about any of this. he might not even remember me.
but i also know that after what i did i dont really deserve anything from him. and my feelings are really just selfish. i dont even know anymore
tl;dr ive had a crush on a boy since 8th grade which i acted on in a very creepy way, and now that im seeing him around again my feelings are coming back along with guilt and regret | Crushes |
i really really like one of my best friends. for context i recently moved to a new school for my senior year and i instantly became friends w a really sweet guy. he is one of the kindest, smartest, funniest people i’ve ever met and i’ve never connected with someone so quickly. we are very very close friends , we facetime very often, we have a lot of classes together, i’ve met his parents and he even invited me to go with him to his beach house w his family and stay the night. i went last week and it was so much fun and to me it felt like a long date but nothing romantic happened. i’m kind of obvious about my crush on him but i don’t think he realizes. he’s the type that’s very academic smart but not as people smart and he’s very similar to me in that he has little to no romantic experience
a lot of people assume that he’s gay because his friends are only girls. i’ve asked him about his sexuality and he said he’s not sure and said he’s “probably a little fruity” i think he could be bi but i honestly have no clue. i’m scared to do anything regarding my romantic feelings for him because i don’t want to risk the great friendship we have. if anyone has advice i’d greatly appreciate it 😭😭 | Crushes |
i have a big crush on a boy i work with (it’s only a christmas job) we both work on the register and i’m super introverted so it’s a little bit awkward when the store is quiet because i never know what to say ?? i’ve been making the effort to talk to him, but it’s only really been small talk so far, so what should i talk to him about. i literally have 0 dating experience lol | Crushes |
I (18M) have had a crush on my lifelong best friend (also 18M) for a few years. we're a lot closer than the average best friends. i'm bi and last year he came out as bi to me (i wasn't out yet) and it was perfect. but i was still struggling with my sexuality and coming out, so i waited too long. about a month or 2 after he came out he got a bf in a long distance relationship. a few months later i was able to come out to him, and ofc he was supportive and i think we've gotten even closer bc of the shared experience. but i can't help thinking what could've happened if i came out sooner. and i especially am stuck on what i even do now. over the last year of them being together my crush has only gotten bigger, going from a small thing since we were already best friends to i can't stop thinking about him and want to be with him always. they seem happy enough and don't seem like they're breaking up anytime soon, so what do i do. our relationship has definitely gotten closer despite that, so i really think it could still be possible, but i know i shouldn't be. i can't just move on from it. my current probably delusional plan is to wait for them to break up at some point and after a bit get with him (bc i still want to be a good friend, im not gonna homewreck), but what if i wait all this time ignoring possible new experiences so this could happen and then they just never break up? what if i wait all this time and they do break up at some point and he doesn't even like me in that way? (even tho i like to think we would be together if he wasn't in a relationship already). my brain goes back and forth between the possibilities in waves. how long will i have to wait to find out, and what id i'm just wasting other chances for something that was doomed from the start? but even with all this, i always go back to what if everything does work out, they break up in maybe a year or so, i wait a tiny bit to not become a rebound, and we do end up together like it was meant to be our whole lives of being best friends? and this possibility is what keeps me going. what am i supposed to do?
tldr: big crush on best friend who is also bi, but he has a bf and idk if it's worth it to wait for the possibility it works out | Crushes |
I tried to be funny and texted her a message basically calling her stupid. I didnt think of it much then, but looking back i am idiot.. She read it and didnt react. Should i apologize or what? I really regret it.. :(( | Crushes |
I have a crush on this girl from school from the next class. We are kind of looking at each other from time to time and I think those eye contacts are not a coincidence... We follow each other on IG, but apart from that, we have never said/texted anything to each other. I feel like it's time to find the courage and talk to her, but I have absolutely no idea what should I talk about with her. Of course, I'll start with the introduction, but what next? Should I start talking sth school-related or should I ask her some questions about her to get to know her better? I'm not sure when and where I'm gonna do it, so I have no idea how many minutes I will have. Please help! | Crushes |
I (16m) really want some advice on how to rizz the heck out of this girl that I’m crushing on, I feel like I’m not making any progress even though we are fairly good friends. | Crushes |
So she texted me on snapchat asking if I have a crush on her, at the time she texted me this she was having a sleepover with her friends and one of our mutuals may have told her. I want to confess in person and not over text, what should I do? | Crushes |
I had a crush on a girl for 8 months and she said that we should just be friends. I’m not really sad about the rejection but I don’t really know what to do with my life now. She was my main driving force and thinking about how to advance our relationship was the main thing I thought about but now I don’t have any idea about what to do. I’d love to have another crush and there are a few people who I know who it could be but I don’t know what to do and I’m not sure if forcing myself to have a crush on someone is a bad idea. I could just focus on other things but I’d love to be in a relationship. Does anyone have any advice? | Crushes |
Almost a month ago a new teacher came by and ever since then my world has turned upside down.
During the very first days I discovered we have a few friends in common. I also offered to help with some work stuff because a new school is always complicated.
Everything was perfectly normal until two weeks ago I brought breakfast to the teacher’s room (like everyone does almost on a weekly basis) and I said it on the school’s gc. He came by and when I asked if we wanted food, he said “I came for you”. Everyone laughed at the joke and then he disappeared.
After that, though, haven’t been able to stop thinking about him. My life feels like a fucking rom-com these days.
Last week we met at the supermarket with our parents and we talked for about 10 minutes. He slipped a “Her job is very tough and complicated but she’s great at it” in the middle of the conversation that almost killed me.
This week, I was running down the corridor and I fell on my knees right in front of him. A few coworkers saw it and everyone made a joke about me being very straight-forward with my proposal. He laughed at the joke and offered to help, but I was so embarassed I blushed and ran away.
Yesterday, he came to my class while I was teaching a group to tell me someone was calling for me. It caught me so off-guard that I blushed, but I don’t know whether he noticed or not.
Aside from these episodes, he’s been asking me a lot of stuff related to burocracy and so on, but I don’t know if it’s because I offered or because he also wants to talk to me more????
We have two more weeks until our school’s Christmas dinner and I don’t know if I’m going to be able to wait for so long. I need ANSWERS but I am terrible at anything concerning feelings. What should I do? | Crushes |
So many things I want to say and if you see this you'll have no choice but make yourself seen or heard. | Crushes |
So basically I've been friends with this guy for a while and recently we became FWB but immediately after we had the first sexual encounter, I developed a huge romantic crush on him.
Unfortunately, he is very obviously romantically interested in this other girl(he's told me that) and that hurt, but then this girl who doesn't even live in our state slid into his DMs and started flirting with him and he said she's hot and was talking about how she "doesn't live too far away" and I was like damn. I guess I'm either ugly or have a shit personality. I think it's both because the girl is a million times hotter than me + she actually has tits(I'm an a-cup) and I just want to fucking die, I don't know how much longer I can deal with this.
My other friend told me to just tell him I like him but I can't do that, I'll ruin our friendship completely and I don't want that. I just want to stop feeling this way. | Crushes |
I have a big fat crush on my coworker and I don’t know how to handle it. They are relatively new, started just a few weeks ago, and at first I thought they were hitting on me. During the past week, though, it feels like they calmed down and now the one who’s crushing is me. I just wanna know if they were really flirting or if it’s just me who fell from the very first day. I’m also an aquarius who struggles with feelings. | Crushes |
I’ll just give her response directly “i’m sorry i’m just interested in someone else you’re really nice tho !” | Crushes |
Back in August I started a new, full-time job. This other girl also started the same day as I did doing the same thing, but she is only part-time. When we first met, I thought she was cute and seemed "different." Although I didn't think much of it at the time because I barely knew her and also I had a girlfriend. 2 weeks later my girlfriend and I broke up, and a few weeks after that I started crushing on this new girl. I began noticing things about her that further intensified my crush. She likes the same music, dresses differently from most other girls I see (but in a good way, I think it's cute), and is very introverted and shy like me. There are a few others but those are the main things.
Anyway, we work in the same department but in different areas, so we aren't working with each other directly. In fact, we have never had to talk to each other for anything work-related. We do see each other every day though. We have had only 2 conversations. First was about a shirt she was wearing of my favorite band and also about how we are liking this job. The second time was shorter, I was just offering her something to make work easier/more comfortable for her, which she appreciated. That was a month ago though, we haven't talked since. I really want to but I suck at initiating conversation in normal scenarios, plus I get very nervous around he. However we have said hi to each other and/or smiled at each other when passing by on occasion
I am very interested, but I don't know if she is. We have both been the first one to tell each other hi, but I am the only one to have ever initiated conversation. I have never caught her looking except for maybe one time but I think she was looking at something else. It probably isn't purposeful but she seems to avoid walking near me in some circumstances. She does park near me though lol. Besides the parking thing, this all leads me to think she's uninterested, but like I said she very introverted and shy, maybe even moreso than me. I notice that I try not to make it obvious I like her, so maybe she is doing the same thing. The only way to know is if I ask, but that would be pretty weird to ask when we barely know each other and she isn't showing many/any signs.
What do you guys think I should do? Should I keep trying to put in effort to try to talk to her? If so, I would really appreciate some advice on how since I am a very awkward and socially anxious person and have never tried to pursue a crush before now. I just don't want to waste my efforts if it is obvious that she isn't interested.
I would greatly appreciate any help, thanks :) | Crushes |
So my crush who has been my crush for around 4 months now recently got a bf around 2 months ago.
And ik that it's wrong to like them or whatever but we have a really special relationship. Everyone always think we're bf and gf until we say we're not. We're always joking and messing around, msging everyday, seeing eachother everyday and the person she's going out with isn't a necessarily bad guy it's just everyone else thinks id make a better bf and that there happier around me. I'd never try break them up but I just wondered is it ok to like them and have thoughts about being more than friends.
Someone tell me if it's ok to still like them and if it is ok would I have a chance because there so unique and amazing | Crushes |
I (28f) feel a bit pathetic, but I've only ever had 4 crushes in my life despite how old I am, so it's just really rare that I like someone. I met this person (23m) a few months ago, we both got out of long term relationships and sort of bonded over that. A month in he kissed me. It was great, we made out another time, but then decided to call it off because it was a bit too soon from our breakups. His friend (26m) asked me out a month ago and my crush told me to go for it and in the sick desperation to move past my feelings for him, I went for it thinking it could be both a good rebound and force me to move past my crush. There's no chemistry with this guy so a week ago I find myself again kissing my crush. He asks and I confess to hooking up with his friend. He definitely gets upset that I slept with his friend despite saying it's fine, meanwhile we've only kissed because we both sort of know it shouldn't go further because we care for each other as friends.
Well yesterday he meets this acting major at our school and immediately is like planning a future with her and wants to ask her out. It hurt to hear the way he talked about her to our friends. But it made me realize that maybe he should date someone more age appropriate since I'm older than him. Later that night he asked for my phone to play music in the car as I was driving people home from the bar and whispered for me to listen to the lyrics which said "darling you're the only one I want" so here I am just confused. We texted today, it does seem like he wants to go for it and ask out the actress. I wish I didn't sleep with his friend, I ruined any chance for us because I'm chaos and doubly heartbroken. It was my second hookup outside a relationship and hooking up is just so awkward.
I don't really know how to move past this crush. I've tried putting distance between us, a literal person between us, and stopping communication. I've never felt this magnetic to anyone before and it sucks. It's confusing that he kisses me and tells me he likes me only to pine over someone else. I knew when my crush developed I wouldn't tell him because guys like him don't go for girls like me, but then he kissed me and I spilled my feelings. I just feel stupid and vulnerable. Part of me wishes he never kissed me and another part of me just wants to kiss again.
tl;dr: My crush doesn't like me back despite the mixed signals and I just don't know how to move on. | Crushes |
For a very long time I've had problems approaching to her and talking to her. I don't know what caused it but since Monday last week it's been getting wayy easier to talk to her, it feels natural, even. And I don't think it's one sided either, cause she started initiating conversations with me more too. Really looking forward to seeing her again next week because she got COVID this week :( | Crushes |
We have been talking for about a month, and we’ve hung out a few times. We text everyday, but some days we text more than others. He compliments me sometimes, and whenever we hangout he’s very touchy (i’m also a very touchy person). He’ll move my hair out of my face, and put his hand on my face and turn my head to look at him. He has kinda tried to kiss me before but i got nervous and hid my face. I feel like i start the conversations more and try to keep them going. he usually only texts me at night. But he also hangouts with friends after school or maybe he wants downtime after school. my parents say if i have any doubts then he’s not that interested, but what if i’m just thinking to much ? he has told me he likes me in the past, but is he just saying that or how much or in what way ? we haven’t kissed yet and he has still stuck around so i feel like if he just wanted to mess around he would if left by now. | Crushes |
We established that we could maybe like “date” date about an hour ago, but then he immediately asks if I want to “watch a movie at his house, his parents aren’t there” and like bro I hate when people aren’t direct but isn’t that a little too direct? I wouldn’t have a ride back if I went to his house so basically I’d be trapped and I said I wasn’t available today but like bruh I don’t feel good about that | Crushes |
I (22 F) invited my friend (20 M) to come stay with my family and I for a few days over winter break and he said yes! We met last year at uni at a Halloween party although I recognized him because he followed me on Instagram at the beginning of the semester. Early on I started to realize that I had feelings for him, he is extremely extroverted and is very popular around campus whereas I am introverted and have a smaller circle of close friends. We've talked about this before, but he and I both didn't think we would end up becoming friends when we first met. I thought I was so awkward and made a bad impression because I was quiet and he was talking more with the person next to me. He, later on, told me that he thought I was so sweet but he felt like I might not like him because he was so loud and would not like his energy. Since then we started hanging out throughout the last year, we would tell each other about going on dates, had a few heart to hearts, and we've introduced each other to our friends. One of the friends he introduced me to and I've hung out with a few times was this nice girl and they had gone on a road trip together and they were telling me all about it. Later in the year, over the summer I saw this girl post a photo of the two of them hanging out together but they are out of state students so I thought that it was cool they made that trip to get together. He and I didn't really chat much over the summer and so I hadn't heard from him in a while. This school year we've been hanging out a bit and catching up which was nice, but he told me that he and this girl he had introduced me to had broken up because she cheated on him. Now, I was kind of in shock because I didn't even know they were together. Then he asked me about my dating life and I mentioned that someone I thought I was going to be friends with and I were hanging out but they thought it was a date and I didn't know or want that at all. Then, my friend decided to joke about us being on a date (I wished we had been), he mentioned that when we first met he told his best friend about me and asked her to monitor him so he wouldn't cuss in front of me, he also told me that he feels like I’m one of 3 people he feels closest with, and we have been bonding over our love for the film La La Land. He's so wonderful when we're together in person, but he has also been flaky and distant at times which really confuses me. He also has a lot of friends that are girls and I don’t know if I’m just another friend or if he perhaps feels something more. We are both out of state students and I am pleasantly surprised that he said yes to coming to stay with me for a few days over break. I know that it's a lot, but I have wanted to tell him how I feel for a while now, but I'm scared about how he'll react. We’ve been friends for about a year now and I want to tell him how I feel before it’s too late. I have a plan on how I want to tell him, although, I am worried that it may ruin our friendship. Should I tell him how I feel after break or does this just sound like another ordinary friendship? | Crushes |
You eye fucked me? The only reason I eye fucked you nonchalantly is to not seem so eager and thirsty. But the only thing I want is to see you again right now. | Crushes |
I am a pansexual female and I like this girl (she's a lesbian), she dresses pretty masc and she's so pretty. She's in my friend group and we went ice skating. She's a good skater and she helped me around the rink a little bit, she also looks great ice skating. The same day our friend group we went to lunch and sat on the ground. I leaded against her and she didn't seem to be against that! yay! Her hair is so pretty when she flips it. We talk a lot and we saw a musical together and she didn't bring a coat and I did, she hung onto my arm and said "you're warm". I'm also considerably taller than her, and I tease her about her height a bit, but I find her height very cute lol.
Just wanted to talk about her to someone! | Crushes |
once again I am not a girl but I am AFAB and not out yet so I was worried about that, but nope. THEY'RE BI!!! I AM UNREASONABLY HAPPY RIGHT NOW CONSIDERING I HAVE NO CHANCE AT ALL | Crushes |
anyone to talk to | Crushes |
She followed me on snapchat and she started to talk to me and we were talking for a bit. Eventually she asked to see what I looked like. I sent a photo and she said "ur kinda cute ngl". That might have been the first (or maybe second) time in my life that a girl has ever called me cute. She later sent me a picture of her and I called her cute too and she said "awww ty". I want to talk to her more but I only have snapchat on chromebook and I usually don't have a lot of time during the day and sometimes she leaves me on delivered. Plus, snap is like the only social media she has. | Crushes |
Hi reddit, okay this is gonna be long but I hope I'll make sense.
Okay so I met this girl (let's call her emma) in grade 11 (Highschool) and we immediately became friends. After a while of being friends I realized that I liked her and wanted to be more than friends. I didn't have to guts to tell her that I liked her so we stayed friends. After a while I convinced myself that I was the only one who felt this way and the better thing to do was moving on instead of waiting for something that would never happen. At the same time another friend of mine (we're no longer friends) told me one of the girls we were mutually friends (let's call her rosy) with liked me. I thought she was nice and decided go date her (I'm not proud of using her as a rebound). I dated rosy for a couple of months but I realized that I couldn't get over Emma and it wasn't fair to rosy because she had been nothing but great to me. I decided to break up but before I could do that I found out that rosy cheated on me so I was like oh okay that makes things easier and we broke up.
After breaking up with rosy I realized that I was never over Emma and that I probably never will be for a while. Then Emma told me that she liked me during the time that I liked her as well and I was so shocked. After that we were just casually flirting and were basically dating for around 9 months. We don't go to the same university and we visit regularly. I was supposed to visit her and thought that my visit that time would finally seal the deal and we'd be able to put a new label on our relationship and move forward as a couple. Unfortunately a couple of days before I was supposed to come she told me that she saw how ambiguous we were and would rather stay friends than ruin our friendship if we date. I was devastated (still am)
Like a week or so later she starts talking to me about the people she meets on dating apps and send me videos of couples and says things like "when will it be my turn" and just so openly talks about how she wants a relationship so bad. It hurts so much to continously hear her talking about that when I'm right there and still waiting for her. I then decided to download some dating apps to put myself out there but I feel like it's gonna be a rosy situation again. I literally cannot see anyone else as more other than her.
We talked this morning and she sent me one of those tiktoks again and I admit I am kinda fed up so I was kinda dry in my answer and she was like what?? And I said that it's not something I want to talk about but I will talk about when I'm ready ( we had talked about being more honest with wach other and communicate instead of letting things bubble up. I want to talk to her about that but I'm not ready yet) she sort of got mad at me but she just texted me saying we'll talk when I'm ready. I don't know how to go about that. I don't know when and how. If anyone got some advice please help. | Crushes |
This girl I like (pretty sure she likes me too) has started to give me dirty looks. Now I haven’t talked to her in a long time neither have I tried to make any big moves towards her (just kept the convos about school) what could be the reason she’s doing this? | Crushes |
Ok so I’ve liked this person since the beginning of high school and now we're both freshmen at the same university.
I’m not attracted to their appearance or personality, yet I like them romantically. I can't figure out why. There's people I've liked in the past that were better looking or had greater t personalities that really went well with mine but that the case with this person. I Don’t even think our personalities and opinions really go well together yet I can't stop liking them and I DON'T KNOW WHY????
Help pls...any advice or insight would help | Crushes |
My used-to-be work crush told me he was quitting. So I confessed. I’m super humiliated cause he said it was obvious. Not even sure why I did, because I didn’t want anything to change. Sure having a crush is nice but I don’t want a relationship. If you had to do a visual comparison between my life and a dumpster fire you wouldn’t be able to tell the difference. So I wouldn’t want to bring a boyfriend into this. But anyway, I don’t think I want to be friends with him either. We don’t have anything in common really. I guess I just gushed over him cause of his looks. He even said himself I don’t know him that well. I haven’t heard if he went through with resigning yet. For selfless reasons, I hope he does stay, the job does pay really well. For selfish reasons, I hope I never see him again, and I hope to forget all of this ever happened. Luckily it was only 3 weeks worth of crushing, so not feeling too bummed. I’m not mad or upset at him for not liking me, I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. I’m mad and upset at myself, the biggest emotions I feel are humiliation and embarrassment. On the bright side, at-least I came clean about the crush and I can move on with my life. I hope the rest of you have better luck. | Crushes |
I’ve been friends with this guy for about a year and a half. We are very close and I’m pretty sure he likes me but I’m not 100% sure. He considers me his all time best friend and says when he ever gets married one day he won’t get married to someone who won’t accept me or like me as his best friend. He says I’m the only one who he feels like he can open up to and he’s told me things he’s never told anyone before. He says I love you to me and hugs me a lot and I’m the only one he hugs. He always makes excuses to hold my hand and is just very physically affection sometimes, he’s even kissed me on the head a few times before. We call for hours almost every day, sometimes we call for like 6 hours. My mom thinks he likes me too lol. Could I be misinterpreting this all or could he actually like me? | Crushes |
Is calling my guy best friend for at least 2 hours almost everyday normal? Or could there be feelings involved | Crushes |
My sister just told me that she stopped at my work for a coffee, and she overheard my crush talking to another coworker and saying that she (my sister) looked a lot like me (I don't think he's ever seen her). He then went over to her and leaned over and asked if she was my sister. | Crushes |
We send snaps to each other all the time, and we imitate each others photos and send them. How should I start a conversation? I'd really like to get to know her better because she's a great person and extremely beautiful. | Crushes |
Shes extremely dirty minded around me. She definitely set this up but she asked how I could see over that person I said because I was taller than she proceeds to give me a very sexual look like eyes focused on me giggling and giving the smirk. | Crushes |
I'm just adding to it all the time despite knowing I'm probably never going to share it lol. Just had to confess | Crushes |
Hey everyone! I'm kinda embarrassed to post here since I'm probably among the elders of this subreddit but let's try, haha.
My crush (27F, let's name her Lucy) and I (26F) have been good friends since high school. While our contact has decreased a little, we still make time for each other. It's been only recently that I started thinking about her romantically.
A crumb of context here: we're both bisexual. Sometimes Lucy and I playfully flirt with each other. Or is it all playful? One thing's for sure - I love her dearly as my best friend and want only good things for her. While *technically* this could work out, neither of us look for a relationship.
Is there a way to stop developing feelings? I don't wanna confess and risk losing Lucy. Don't think she suspects anything either. | Crushes |
hi everyone ! posting for a friend since she does not have Reddit
“ Hello, I am a hopeless romantic like crazy. I really like this guy at work but he’s really quiet. He always keeps to himself and does not talk unless spoken to. I’m a cashier and he’s a manager, I only talk to him if I really need something. I started to think he was really cute about a month or two ago. It’s hard talking to him cause he’s small talk all the time. People tell me to make my move but I’m scared cause he’s so quiet. Does not pay no mind to me or anyone that I know of. Anyways, we have 10 minute breaks sometimes and he began ringing me up for my items. My card was not working and I was going to put them back but he decided to pay for them. I don’t know if he was being nice or cause my break was only 10 mins 😅 . I basically told him I’ll pay him back and when I got back from my break I asked for his cash app he pulled out his phone and put it back in his pocket and said “ I forgot it “ which was weird when he has his phone out . I said do you have any thing else ? He said nope your fine.
I never really see him say bye to anyone unless I just don’t see it but I was working and he just randomly said out the blue said “ I’ll see you around “ . He never really tells me bye at all or tell anyone bye that I know of. 😅 I don’t know what to do. I think it just the hopeless romantic in me. Doesn’t even sounds he interested in me. What do y’all think ? Just being nice or just the hopeless romantic in me . “ | Crushes |
idk if it's nsfw i just liked the praise but today while joking on a game my crush gave me advice and i went "thanks mom" and was told "good girl" and i think my heart skipped 200 beats and my soul left my body x_x | Crushes |
(If you read this whole thing, I'll love you forever)
Here's everyone in the story so it makes it a bit easier to read:
Me (female, 17)
L (male, 16) - my crush
E (male, 18) - crushes brother
D (male, 15) - my crushes best friend
So, I (17f) home school and go to a one-day-a-week tutorial. It's a really small school with 13 high school students and like 15 middle school students in total. Anyways, a new family joined this year with an 18 y/o boy (let's call him E) and his younger siblings (13, 11, & 9). E's sister invited her friend (my sister being one of them) to a pool party at her house. I was forced to go, but i didn't swim. I sat by the moms as they talked, and i listened to E's mom talk about how E's brother (16) went to a public school instead of homeschooling. His mom left to pick him up from school and she took a while before coming back. When she did, I saw that E's brother (let's call him L) was the hottest dude I had ever seen. It was kinda awkward because we were the only kids just standing there in a group of moms, but I never talked to him. We left the pool party shortly after L came.
After the pool party, I kinda just forgot about L. I knew I would probably never see him again anyways, so it didn't matter.
A few months later, we went to our tutorial's annual camping trip, they're always so fun. The camping trip was three days and two nights long (fri-sun). I bet you'll never guess who showed up on saturday... yup, it's L. (Only E & L came) I was really happy because i thought that would be my chance to talk to him. All the high schoolers and some middle schoolers played volleyball most of the time. L was really good too lol. The camping trip was the time where I started to like L. I never talked to him :(.
So there's this 15 year old boy that thinks he's the coolest and hottest kid in school HAHA. But he is really nice tho. (let's call him D, because he's an important part of this story). So D & L are appartently best friends. At the camping trip, D came up and said to me "Hey, L is only one year younger than you, and he's really hot." That was a little weird but I totally agreed.
After the camping trip, I once again forgot about L. I still occasionally thought about him, but I didn't have an official crush on him.
A few weeks after the camping trip, D's family hosted a bonfire at their house. L's whole family showed up. When most of the high schoolers were standing around the fire, L and I made eye contact countless times. (This made me sure I liked him hahahah). So yeah, now I had a crush on him. (not only because of the eye contact tho).
When we got home from the bonfire, I knew I wanted to get to know him. So, I texted D and asked him if he had L's number. He didn't, which is weird because he said they were best friends. But, D asked E for L's number, and a few DAYS later (L's family isn't big on phones) he finally gave me his number.
I texted L and he answered a couple days later. It started kinda awkward but then it got pretty good. He even asked me if he should join our tutorial next semester. I literally screamed. I told him he should. We texted a bit more and then a couple weeks later i texted him "hey how are you?" and he ghosted me. I sent that text almost a month and a half ago. A few weeks ago was our tutorial's christmas party. L was there and it was so awkward because I told him i liked him over text. And guess what, this is embarrassing, but i didn't even talk to him once at the party after we texted. I wanted to cry, actually I did when we got home. I texted D (because we text about our crushes to each other) about how much I regretted it and how bad I felt and he answered with a long paragraph. That was the first time I had seen him act so nice and not so full of himself haha. I haven't seen L since the party, and now I learned that he's coming to out tutorial next semester, that's just great hahah :(. I'm glad, but also scared because D said I should probably talk to him or that would be weird. Agreed.
So now I'm not sure what to do. He ghosted me on text but now he's gonna go to the same TINY school as me... I NEED ADVICE.
(also, sorry if this story was kinda badly written and hard to understand, there was just so much to say haha) | Crushes |
That was like, a shot through all of my vital organs. That hurt so much, she was my best friend. I don’t think I was ready to confess. Yet my sister called me a coward and practically forced me to do it. I’m trying by best to make things not awkward, but I can’t help but to feel sadness and guilt whenever we text now. I really wish I hadn’t told her, I would have been better off wondering for the rest of my life. | Crushes |
it's Christmas break right now and can't really talk to her directly, but at least wanna message her. I don't really get crushes until I've met her. I've been losing sleep thinking about her and been wanting to start messaging her but don't know how to start it. I know we both don't really know each other well but I wanna at least try. Can anyone tell me how to star a conversation? | Crushes |
I'm starting to doubt myself, she has given loads of signs but i'm doubting that she likes me. We have a mutual friend and she speaks of her so highly. She is way out of my league too. She might of had a crush on me in the past but has gotten over me. | Crushes |
I don't really get crushes often but when I met her I have been having enough sleep thinking of her. Been wanting to text her but don't know how to start. Do you guys know a good way to start a conversation? | Crushes |
Ok just some stuff that may or may not mean anything:
He has a nickname for me
He's always making fun of me
He smiles around me
He comes to me and talks to me sometimes
He usually starts the conversations
He always says hi/bye
ahh omg im crazy about him. I'll clarify down in the comments if you need more info. ty all sm | Crushes |
It’s kinda boring not having a crush I don’t think about my old crush no more and now I feel sad and bored that I don’t have no one to crush on I’m starting college next year in January and I hope I get a new crush since this isn’t my high school so I don’t have to worry about nothing but hopefully I’ll find love every time I look at a post on here I start to gush about future relationships I will have. | Crushes |
So yeah, G11 female here, he's G12 Male.
I just told him that I like him and he said he likes me too, but i told him that i LIKE like him, and he said he's not so sure at the moment, and he also said the reason he doesnt get into relationships is because he's busy with literally everything, and it's true. He has work, academics, he's part of 5 clubs and the leader of the 2 of the 5 clubs, and he's the captain ball in volleyball.
He and I just finished performing at a half time show today(just the two of us dancing) and out of the heat of the moment(and also because i was tired, and people are more honest when tired), I confessed to him, As stated above, he said he's not sure. He doesnt get into relationships cuz he's busy.
But it wasn't a no, He asked me if I was asking him out on a date, I said if he has time. He was like "sure yeah, then let's just see how things go." I dont know if he said that out of pity or nah.
What do I do now? I thought My feelings would be gone if I confessed but now im just regretting confessing but my feelings are still there. | Crushes |
Hello everyone! Ok so lemme give you some context on this.(sorry if it's too long :b) (and I'd like to apologize in advance if I have grammer errors, I don't speak English, so some parts of this thread might not make much sense, so thanks for that)
It's been years since we two were friends, we'd see eachother every single day, on our way to classes and the break time. As friends him and a few others(those who were also pretty close to us irl) made a group chat and so we began to chat leisurely daily there.
A few years passed and I eventually began to like him, going from something along the lines of "his face is kinda cute" to "I can't stop looking at him AAAgh." I just don't know how to feel, sometimes I think about him so much that I feel a strong pain in my chest, leaving me confused over my feeling. And the thing is I have nerver felt like this, whenever I had a crush on someone I'd either forget about them in 3 or 4 months, or just stop liking them for some reason, but this time I can vividly feel the difference, there's something about him that makes me more interested in him than anyone else, his kindness, intelligence, opinions, he's just so special to me.
And so after a year of constantly thinking about confessing to him, I did it. Although I was so stressed whether or not my confession will ruin our friendship, I did it anyway. I texted him (private message) amd said everything I felt at the time, I wanted him to know how much I cared about him, we talked alot and to my surprise, It went way better than it could've gone. He talked calmly and we discussed our thoughts and what we could do, and unexpectedly, he didn't really say much about his feeling, I just thought he would. We came to the conclusion that this might be a bitter experience, thus somewhat ruin our friendship, he was unsure he could handle the relationship I was willing to share.
I agreed and thanked him for all he had said. It's been months since then, and everyday that I see him, and every hour that passes I'm thinking about him. We still talk and hang out in school, we just pretend nothing happened between us two, so that others wouldn't notice.
I've started to think about him all the time, I can't focus on my studies anymore, he's taking over all my mind effortlessly, I don't have pretty much anyone to talk about this type of stuff, so I ask you fellow redditors, how can I possibly move on? | Crushes |
I'm going to ask her on date this evening via text. Advice and encouragement happily seen. | Crushes |
Did crush gt crush? Is it me? | Crushes |
I sent an insta request to my crush, and a msg with just his name in it. It’s been 17 hours but he hasn’t responded yet. I know everyone checks their phone atleast a few times a day, so now I’m confused if he’s ignoring me or if there’s any chance that he hasn’t seen my request or msg? He was my coworker, but just left our company last week. | Crushes |
So my crush likes me and someone else which is really bugging me out. | Crushes |
It doesn’t feel like it’s going somewhere she has snapped like once today and I don’t know what to do to get her attention without seeming like im weird. I just want to talk or hang out or anything like that but I’ve never done this before, I’ve never asked anyone to hang out, I’ve never been able to get as close to someone, I just don’t know what to do.
It’s winter break now, so Snapchat will be my only way of communicating with her, and I don’t know if I should start texting her instead of snapping or what.
Any tips, any advice, anything I’d greatly appreciate, I just don’t want this one to die down.
//16 yo | Crushes |
what does it mean when your usually confident crush becomes really shy around you?
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i was looking at his past behaviour and he slowly started becoming more shy around me?? | Crushes |
So I asked my friend I like to play video games together and she said idk maybe. Is that just a nice way of saying fuck no? | Crushes |
i don’t actually know this guy well because we don’t have classes together, but i always thought he was cute. idk something about him, he isn’t mean or annoying like the other boys, he’s really kind. i talked to him at our school dance and said «you’re really good» (cause he was dancing lol) and he whispered to me «you’re better» and that made me like him more. i should mention that i have catched him staring at me recently, but i wonder if that’s because i looked first or if he didn’t mean to. the thing is, he is nice to all girls not just me, he is popular and he has girl-friends. there’s no reason he would bother talking to me. ughh this shouldn’t be so hard. anyways, i want to add him on snap but idk if that’s weird of me, or he asks me «who are you» because i actually don’t think he knows my name haha. | Crushes |
It is hard to keep on Fighting for a dream when that dream is probably a Mirage...
#tamashamovie#favline#attrainjourney | Crushes |
It is hard to keep on Fighting for a dream when that dream is probably a Mirage
#tamashamovie#favquote#attrainjourney | Crushes |
Hi guys! I [23 yo female] have been talking to this guy [21 yo male] via text for a little over a month now and I would like to have your input on this situation: we only text on a Once a Day basis...
We followed each other on Instagram and started talking after he responded to one of my stories. It kinda started with a bit of small talk but it progressed onto deeper conversations about our interests, our goals in life.. That kind of stuff. I feel like we are in tune with each other and I feel an interest on his part. He usually texts back with pretty long messages and we talk about serious stuff that matter to both of us.
However, we only text once a day. He's a busy guy, he has work and a ton of other personal stuff he does during the day, so it goes: he texts, I respond whenever I can, and then he texts back at the end of the day (around 11pm, midnight, and so on). And we've been on this loop pretty much since the beginning. I feel like I'm being over dramatic, but since we don't know each other personally and have no way of doing so any time soon (we live kinda far away from each other), I feel like I'm talking to the Help button on a website.
I don't really have a crush on him nor do I think he has in me, but our conversations are getting a bit frustrating and I don't know what to do. I'm definitely interested in him but the fact we are never talking to each other on "real time" kind of takes away from us forming a bond or even wanting to discuss meeting up. I don't know what to do or what approach to take on this. I'd reaaaally like some help!
Thank you all! xoxo | Crushes |
we met through a mutual, and we have had little to no interaction. through my mutual i found out that he liked me even though we haven't talked at all, so i felt a little uncomfortable (i don't like it when guys only approach me bc they like me since there's always an ulterior motive to their words/actions). he's been dming me and i do want to be friends with him since he's always hanging w/ our mutual, but he's always pushing himself onto me, making it obvious he wants me to like him back instead of being friends.
for example he's always asking if i want to play games with him, watch a certain movie or show with him, and if i decline he get's super depressed and guilt-trips me into saying yes or rejecting him in a way that makes him think it's ok to keep doing it. i don't want to lead him on but i also don't want to make him think he has a chance bcs in all honesty i feel awkward talking to him while knowing he likes me and wants to date (he has said this to my mutual).
he hasn't confessed to me directly yet but it's so obvious with his actions and words and it puts me off when he's asking to do things with ONLY ME with an ulterior motive without actually getting to know me first. i've talked to my mutual about this too, but i think she's encouraging him so she's been lowkey disregarding how i feel about this.
i don't really know what to do without hurting his feelings, making things awkward with the mutual (bc she's close with him), or nicely declining his offers and leading him on... he's persistent too- one no doesn't mean he stops. ugh what do i do?
**TL;DR**: we met through a mutual and we don't talk at all but the mutual told me he likes me a lot and wants to date me (seen proof). he keeps putting himself onto me in dms and i feel uncomfortable w/ this knowing he's doing all this w/ an ulterior motive, and rejecting him makes him depressed. what do i do? (already consulted w/ the mutual, nothing got resolved) | Crushes |
(Highschooler 16m, crush on 16f, who's in a different class)
I usually meet her like once a day at highschool and we're just normal friends, usually not doing anything when we meet, just dap up and go to our own ways, because I don't know her for that long and that's just how we do it here 😂
How do I even progess from this? She's ALWAYS with a friend or friends, if lucky I'll see her 2 times in a day. We follow each other on IG, TT, only have talked with each other in our common friends group, tho once we had a small talk in a hallway.. that's it.
Like I don't want to be obvious that I have a crush on her, but I'm lost what to do and how to progress. | Crushes |
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