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So I have a crush on this guy. And my one friend, who is kinda friends with him, told him I thought he was cool and wanted to be friends. So once we had eachothers snapchats, he texted me first before I got the chance to text him. And we started talking from there. We've been talking for about 10 days now. After talking for about 3 days, he already wanted to FaceTime me. Which I did. We've factimed twice since we've started talking. He's very sweet, and nice to me. He texts me almost every single day, except for two days because of life getting in the way. He has already asked me if I wanted to hang out with him (and even watch his favorite movie). He said before he enjoys talking to me. He gives me advice on certain issues that I'm dealing with, talks to me about his friends, and stuff like that. He even noticed that I seem to hate on myself. When we were on FaceTime he asked "you seem to hate on yourself a lot, are you okay?" So he seems to care about my well being.
I've never had a guy seem interested in me, and wanted to get to know me more. It's exciting but scary for me. I kinda like him, but I'm confused on my feelings for him. And I've told my mom, and some friends and everyone says he's interested in me, or at least that something about me seems intriguing and that hes trying to impress me. So I just want to see if anyone else believes he's interested in me, or not. | Crushes |
I keep making plans but I hope this post will give me that final push. I have been crushing on her for 2 years (friends for 6 years) so I feel it’s time for me to enter a self-love era and put myself first - instead of crushing on a girl who could never like me back.
Because we’ve been friends for so long, I’m going to confess like I don’t like her anymore; like I’ll say that I used to like her. I think it will be enough for me to get over her. I’m also going to make up some fake new crush so that it seems more real. I will still see her basically everyday so I am worried that she’ll start getting awkward but I’ve been keeping it to myself (only told 1 friend) for so long.
I know my feelings won’t fade immediately but I think telling her that I ‘used to have a crush’ on her will help this. New year, new me. Does this sound good? | Crushes |
I told her that I liked her, she didn’t know what to say but texted me later to say that she panicked because she didn’t expect it but she doesn’t like me in that way. She is very happy to still remain friends which I guess is a little disappointing but it is cool that I get to be friends with someone awesome! | Crushes |
I (f22) caught my crush(f22) staring at me so often and eye contact me for a second then she looks down. I approached her and talked to her a few times, we hanged out for a few minutes and when i asked her to hangout again, she left a seen and she still stares at me even after this. | Crushes |
I think my crush likes me back. At least he genuinely appreciates me as a friend, which is unexpected since I'm usually the grumpy low energy friend. We held hands several times lately, friendly-ly, but still! He walked me to my bus stop twice this week, and sat next to me at the bar. We often end up next to each other somehow.
I don't know if we're both trying not to be too obvious or if he's trying to put distance between us for some reason, but sometimes he acts a bit cold out of no where and I'm scared that he might loose interest in me. But I'm also not confident enough to make a move.
I don't feel like ruining our friendship and group dynamic in case he doesn't feel the same, but what if he thinks the exact same thing lol? this is stupid | Crushes |
I like this guy. We aren’t wanting to date but I will say getting his attention makes me very happi. He is usually gaming or at work so I only get like one a day so I feel silly for liking him… he lives in a different state. We exchange dirty pics but I’m definitely giving more than he gives me. Sometimes he’s too busy gaming that I see him online but he won’t open my chats. Maybe he only wants to message when he’s horny? Idk what to do about this. Because he checks all my boxes except the one of him showing true interest… is he interested? Is he prob talking to other chicks and that’s why he doesn’t text me as much anymore? Hard to get over him I feel so lame to put myself out there for someone like this. He has nice qualities.. any thoughts please | Crushes |
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In a nutshell, there is this girl I find attractive, I've talked to her multiple times, very slowly getting more and more interactions. Thing is, her signs also make it seem like she wants me to approach, lots of eye contact, she approached me 2 times etc. So I asked multiple people how she actually is, some girl told me that all her snapchat stories are about guys, she plays hard to get unless you are close to her. If she wasn't into me I wouldn't have approached, but people are telling me there's a big chance that she likes me as well. Should I just do it even though her personality might not be great? | Crushes |
My crush asked me for my number a few days ago like 2?? And they have been sending me a lot of “Good morning ❤️” or “sleep well ❤️” texts even though we just started talking 2 days ago. I asked one of our friends we had in common if they use hearts a lot in which they replied that they do with friends. So she probably doesn’t like me. We text a lot and they usually send me very long detailed paragraphs when talking about stuff but since their my crush I’m so awkward and I don’t know how to talk to her in person nor in text. Can anyone help? | Crushes |
Yes, we are still talking, a lot. From the last update, people have started shipping me and my crush. Teasing us about liking each other. Also every time I walk past him, he tends to stare at me, he would also occasionally try to come up to our friend group and try to talk to us (that’s why I’m thinking he might like one of my friends). When I hang out with out guys he stares intensely then walks up to us, to butt in the conversation. He also likes to ask my a lot of questions about myself and if I didn’t answer, he would ask me the same questions 20 minutes later.
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Does he like me? | Crushes |
What to do?
I have a crush on a gril in my class but i am not friends with her and not many boys in my class are friends with grils .
So how to approach her? | Crushes |
MY crush and i are really close friends. we hang out sometimes together , we talk a lot on messages, we study together .
One day , I sent him out of no where "i miss you " ( we didn't see each other for a good time (a month ig) )so he responded : " there's this event comming up this week , wanna go together ??"
might he be into me ?? or he's just being friendly
thank you for sharing your opinions | Crushes |
Title. | Crushes |
I have always been a more quiet person and I’ve always looked at the people who always seem happy as kind of weird because it’s not something I’ve been able to understand. My crush is one of those people who is pretty much always just happy and I love it, it makes me so happy to even just be around her. We always joke with each other and mess around and it gives me this happiness that I’ve never really felt before. I have in my recent years (especially since I started high school) just felt either sad or tired all of the time to the point I don’t hang out with my friends as much but when I’m around my crush I forget everything and fully focus on her. The feeling seems to almost go both ways because she goes and talks to her friends but always sits with me and my friends and walks with us. I cannot put into words how much fun she is to be around and I can only hope our relationship keeps growing. | Crushes |
I've had a crush on a coworker/friend a little while now, but I recently got out of a long term relationship. He is aware of this and it seems like it is what is stopping him from making a move. But also I wonder if maybe I'm just not his type.
Anyway we went on a work night out and during it he:
. Let his arms/legs brush up against mine when sitting next to me and didn't pull away
. Gave me playful punches / nudges (he does often)
. He told me to pinky promise, and as he did he then held both my hands between us for a good couple of minutes
. We spent most the night together chatting and joking around
The thing is he was quite drunk and I don't know if I'm just reading into it? I don't have a lot of male friends so I'm not sure what is normal | Crushes |
There is someone I like, but I'm definetly not obsessed with her or something like that, and I honestly can't even tell if I like her in a romantic way or if I just think she's pleasant to be around. Does something like this count as a crush | Crushes |
For those who are actually friends, dating, or any kind of relationship with your crush; have you thought about what you want to give them? Share what you'd like to give them or maybe what you hope to receive | Crushes |
I have a crush on a gril in my class but i am not friends with her and not many boys in my class are friends with grils .
So how to approach her? | Crushes |
I like this one girl, and I wanna hang out with her and she wants to hang out with me to. The thing is her parents don't let her hang out with boys. What do I do? | Crushes |
So I have a crush on this girl and I recently followed her on Ig. She pretty much followed me back instantly and I felt very good Abt it. The next day at school she seemed a lot different around me. She usually walks in the back of the lunchroom to go to her table but this day she walked right by my table. In class I didn't notice a whole lot but she seemed to be facing towards me and seemed a bit nervous. I didn't make any moves as it was the first day after I followed her. I was going to talk to her the next day(last Tuesday) but realized I had a dentist appointment and couldn't make it to school. So this kinda messed up my plans to talk to her cus after Tuesday we were on Thanksgiving break so I had no chance to make a move so it kinda sucked. The next day out of nowhere she unfollowed me on Instagram and tiktok. I was confused cus I didnt think I did anything wrong I mean nothing rly happened. Then she posted a TikTok on a brand new account talking about a "crush" so I thought to myself am I the "crush" or did she already move on after 1 day? Friends have told me she's just playing games with me and just wants to get my attention or something. Idk but im confused as to what this means? | Crushes |
Hello, all. First-time poster here. TL,DR at the bottom. Today I wanted to share about my ongoing struggle with a crush I have on someone. An attraction towards another person so powerful that it almost feels like an illness, and I wanted to vent about it anonymously to a community that may have had similar experiences in hopes that it helps me deal with these feelings. Throwaway account since my GF is also on Reddit. She knows about the whole situation but I don't think she knows how serious it is, and I don't feel comfortable discussing it with her for obvious reasons. So I decided to log my experiences on this sub-Reddit both for the sake of catharsis and in hopes that some can relate and even discuss.
Let's travel back in time to 2004/2005 , my senior year of high school. A time of self-discovery and many regrettable decisions. I was the typical nice guy^(tm) sans fedora. I learned all my social cues from video games and had very little knowledge of how to actually impress a girl in the real world. I was abused as a child, emotionally and physically, and suffered a lot of bullying in my younger years, so my self-esteem was something I struggled with greatly at the time. Even though I was reasonable to look at, I found it unconscionable that a girl whom I crushed on would reciprocate due to my severe lack of confidence, and this is where my problem would begin.
So there was this one girl in my school who we will just refer to as "E". For some time, E was just another face I would pass by in the halls during passing time. She wasn't in any of my classes, and for a while I barely even knew she existed, until one day.
Now, this is where things get weird, and I don't know if anyone has had a similar experience. As stated before, I barely knew E existed. But I still knew she existed. One fateful night, I had a strange dream that to this day I remember vividly. I was at a school dance in our high school's gymnasium. It had a formal vibe like homecoming and it was packed with students dressed in formal attire. The only thing that was off was the fact that there were booths and tables set up in the gym, so it was a combination of a school dance and a fancy restaurant, with servers walking around balancing platters of food and drinks. One of the servers who was carrying a large tray of drinks had fallen over and the glasses all came crashing down, causing everyone standing around the area to back up in a circle around the whole mess. I was in that crowd, and E was standing next to me. I made some off-hand, witty remark about the situation to her (I don't remember what it was) that made her laugh, and then a slow song came on, so I asked her to dance and she agreed, at which point I woke up.
Immediately after I woke up, I couldn't stop thinking about her. It was crazy to me how one day I hardly knew this person existed, and the next day I was obsessed. When I went to school the next day, I started to keep my eyes peeled for her in the halls. From then on, every time I merely saw her in the halls, I felt absolutely ecstatic. It was a feeling of happiness and giddiness that was unlike anything I had ever experienced. She was just that attractive to me. Naturally, I figured the next step would be pursuing her. So I started to ask around.
Since she wasn't in any of my classes, and I had no clue what her name was, all I had to go by was the location of her locker, which I had discovered by wandering the halls in the morning before school started. So I did some detective work and found out through one of my friends what her name was and who she hung out with.
Because this was so long ago, I don't remember all of what happened but I somehow started to talk to her core group of friends, and like a typical high-schooler, I told them I liked her and wanted to know if she liked me back. Later, they came back and told me that she "wanted to go to a club with me", which was basically to say that she was interested in going on a date. I was floored. Remember how I said I was reasonable to look at, but had such serious self-esteem issues that the notion that someone I crushed on so hard would reciprocate that feeling was unimaginable? Well, I didn't believe it. No way someone so attractive could be into me. I thought her friends were lying. That's how bad it was.
But it was true. I did indeed have a chance with her, and being so unsure of myself, I shot my shot without having any real plan for what to do in the event of a positive response. So the next step was to have her friends introduce me to her. During passing time when everyone was out in the halls, I went with her friends to go meet her, and what did I do as soon as I was offered the chance to meet her? I was consumed with paralyzing anxiety and backed down. That's right. I turned around and fled with my tail between my legs. I was so lacking in self-confidence, and so sure that I would screw things up that I felt like the better option was to just not go through with it. To this day I wonder what could have been.
However, things weren't completely over just yet. I still talked to her friends, and if what I knew about high school girls was true, they were damn sure talking about me, as I was about her to my friends at the time. There was still time to work up courage to make a move. Later on, however, something would happen that would ruin things completely. Back in high school, I was a smoker. I would always hang out across the street from the school in the mornings and smoke in the strip mall near the Chinese restaurant across the street from the school where all the smokers would congregate, since smoking was forbidden on school grounds. I had one friend over there with whom I would smoke and chat before class. We will just call him "NB". One day in the school hallways during passing time, I passed E and her friends, and NB was walking right behind them. Now, I had kept my tobacco use as hidden as I could from her, thinking that she would mostly be repulsed by that sort of thing. My plan was to get with her first and worry about quitting smoking later. NB then very loudly asked me, within clear earshot of E, if I had a cigarette. I Immediately looked back at E and saw her head jolt. You know, that thing that one does when they overhear something about someone they like that is deal-breakingly repulsive. It was then confirmed for me that she did, in fact, have a thing for me, and that it was ruined right there in one fell swoop.
Once the school year ended, I had graduated, and would no longer see her. But I didn't want to give up that easily. Back in the early 2000s, before TikTok and SnapChat and Facebook, my generation's go-to social medium was MySpace, an early social networking site similar to Facebook. At the time, such social media was groundbreaking, and I was amazed that I could just look someone up and communicate with them on the computer. So I looked her up and stalked her profile. You see, myspace had these surveys where you could answer a bunch of questions about yourself and post it publicly on your profile. Naturally, being as obsessed as I was, I found her profile and looked at what she wrote on her survey and learned some new things about her that only made me desire her more. Then, after much debating and hyping myself up, I sent her a friend request. The request would go unanswered, of course. It was probably just because she was repulsed by my smoking, but I, being the self-esteem-lacking pessimist that I was, thought she was creeped out by me, hated me, and wanted absolutely nothing to do with me. Whatever the case, I eventually found a new relationship with a new girl that would take my mind off of E. I even remember going to a nearby well-known fast-food chain restaurant with my new girlfriend and saw E and her friends there, and was holding hands with and hugging this new girl right in front of her. After that I slowly began to forget about E, and high school would be the last place I would ever see E on a regular basis.
Or so I thought
Stay tuned for Part 2 of this saga, as there will be plenty more. Thanks for reading, I hope it was enjoyable/relatable.
TL/DR-I develop a massive crush on this girl in my high school, get my chance, blow it, and severely regret it. | Crushes |
This is, really, seriously, dumb, but, at the end of last school year my crush asked me to play Kirby with him through-out the summer. I, of course, said yes, and, I *LOVED* that time. It was so fucking fun and sometimes I would even wake up to texts of him asking if I'd play Kirby, and I'd fangirl so bad over it...
Then, mid-summer, he left for vacations for about a month. I hated it quite a lot, I mean I was happy for him, but we lost contact and barely talked through-out it, compared to how we used to talk.
Then when that ended, he didn't give actual responses if I wanted to play Kirby (though to be fair I barely asked), and I felt a bit hurt.
Sooo, you're wondering why I'm telling you this, right? After summer break we regained a lot of our closeness, and it's been hella fun, and, well, he's now asked me to play Kirby once again with him this christmas vacation! AND he even wants to play it this weekend too since we've just finished most important exams.
AASSSJSHAHAA idk I'M SO HAPPY
I cannot wait! | Crushes |
I really like my crush and would love to do more with her. Right now we only talk at school and walk to the bus together.
Sometimes she gives me hugs as a goodby but sometimes we just say bye and it kinda makes me crazy. At some times it seems like she likes me and the other times it's more like she just is friendly towards me. She used to tease me a bit by flicking my head once and pulling my hair but that was about 1 month ago and I knew she had a boyfriend that time.
They broke up a few weeks ago and I don't wanna rush things because she may not be ready. On the other hand I asked her once if she wanna go to a club someday and she agreed.
Oh and she sometimes says that her friend (the german word for boyfriend is the same as friend) is writing her and I don't know if she has a new one or it's just a friend. | Crushes |
The guy I like has always been reluctant on telling his friends when his birthday is, until like 3 weeks ago.
I was born on June 2005(17). He was born on November of 2006(16, 15 when he told us his birthday). That's a 17 month age gap, and alot of his friends and I were legit surprised to find out that he's younger than most of us.
I'm a senior in highschool, and he's a Junior. Still just 1 grade apart.
Is this age gap too big, or just fine? It's not even a year and a half apart.
So what you you people think, is the age gap too big or just fine? | Crushes |
it does not mean anything, does it?
Im a girl, he is a boy, we are classmates. | Crushes |
hey, I am bisexual and so is my crush. it’s the first time I am picking up some kind of signal, but the thing is straight girls do this too? I find it hard to spot the difference between being friendly and liking each other when it comes to girls. it seems to me that they act like they’re dating meanwhile they’re not and are just besties. any tips?
like today she gave me her number and named herself “poesje” which means kitty and saved my number as kitten. she then gave me a look while doing it, idk what kind of look but a friendly one just to see my reaction I think.
should I pick that up as her being interested or just her being friendly? because apparently you don’t give your number to just anyone my friend said
(poesje in my language is just a cute way to say cat, not kitten) | Crushes |
so this guy, who i was kind of friends with through summer school, liked me over the summer and i like him back but neither of us did anything about it
since we moved to college (we go to the same school) we’ve grown apart quickly bc we don’t see each other anywhere so we haven’t really spoken since. so i kind of started to give up on the idea of getting with him
a few weeks ago he randomly texted me at like midnight asking how it’s going (first time he’s ever initiated a conversation) and we had a good talk but when i asked to meet up he said he was too busy and that’s the end of that.
i don’t know what to think anymore and i’m really tempted to just tell him that i like him and that i miss when we were friends. but i’m also scared of ruining whats left of a good friendly relationship. which isn’t much but i still cherish it a lot. i’m just really confused about what i am to him now and what i should do. | Crushes |
I really like my crush and would love to do more with her. Right now we only talk at school and walk to the bus together.
Sometimes she gives me hugs as a goodby but sometimes we just say bye and it kinda makes me crazy. At some times it seems like she likes me and the other times it's more like she just is friendly towards me. She used to tease me a bit by flicking my head once and pulling my hair but that was about 1 month ago and I knew she had a boyfriend that time.
They broke up a few weeks ago and I don't wanna rush things because she may not be ready. On the other hand I asked her once if she wanna go to a club someday and she agreed.
Oh and she sometimes says that her friend (the german word for boyfriend is the same as friend) is writing her and I don't know if she has a new one or it's just a friend. | Crushes |
I matched this girl on bumble, and she is an entrepreneur in the process. What should I say to her to sound smooth and funny. Please help. | Crushes |
I sent her a message two days ago and she hasn't even looked at it but the weird thing is we were having a conversation and she just suddenly stopped responding or looking at the message I know it's normal for stuff like that to happen but it just feels bad because it reinforces the Idea that they don't like me I'm probably reading to much into it is it a bad thing if they haven't responded yet? | Crushes |
He's literally every where i go and all its draining me rnn i really want to move on bad fr
I was anxious around him currently I'm not feeling that anxious type of feeling around him... So kind of progress ❓😕
But yeah i didn't completely moved on.. so yeah tips??🗿 | Crushes |
Apparently she is actually nice and my trusted friend lied to me...
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like the amount that I have been scammed or someone lied to me or betrayed my trust I lost count | Crushes |
I know I have. I'm weak | Crushes |
In my class there's like 20 guys and 2 girls (including me). I catch guys staring a fair bit, some more than others etc etc. These are some of the different stares I get:
1) Quick glances (fairly normal, 99% accidental)
2) Only staring when given the opportunity to look my way and get away with it
3) 'Sneakily' staring, gets caught, face goes red
4) Full-on staring and blushing without breaking eye contact
5) Looks past objects that are blocking his view to look at me
6) Changes sitting position, but in the process he slightly stands up and looks at my general direction (unclear whether this stare is even intentional, does it even count?)
I always thought the majority of these were just normal, day-to-day accidents. But over time, I began to notice some of these happen quite frequently. It's not like anybody sits behind me either, so uh yeah. I've never been approached, so I'm just confused | Crushes |
In my class there's like 20 guys and 2 girls (including me). I catch guys staring a fair bit, some more than others etc etc. These are some of the different stares I get:
1) Quick glances (fairly normal, 99% accidental)
2) Only staring when given the opportunity to look my way and get away with it
3) 'Sneakily' staring, gets caught, face goes red
3) Full-on staring and blushing without breaking eye contact
4) Looks past objects that are blocking his view to look at me
5) Changes sitting position, but in the process he slightly stands up and looks at my general direction (unclear whether this stare is even intentional, does it even count?)
I always thought the majority of these were just normal, day-to-day accidents. But over time, I began to notice some of these happen quite frequently. It's not like anybody sits behind me either, so uh yeah. I've never been approached, so I'm just confused | Crushes |
In my class there's like 20 guys and 2 girls (including me). I catch guys staring a fair bit, some more than others etc etc. These are some of the different stares I get:
1) Quick glances (fairly normal, 99% accidental)
2) Only staring when given the opportunity to look my way and get away with it
3) 'Sneakily' staring, gets caught, face goes red
3) Full-on staring and blushing without breaking eye contact
4) Looks past objects that are blocking his view to look at me
5) Changes sitting position, but in the process he slightly stands up and looks at my general direction (unclear whether this stare is even intentional, does it even count?)
I always thought the majority of these were just normal, day-to-day accidents. But over time, I began to notice some of these happen quite frequently. It's not like anybody sits behind me either, so uh yeah. A bit perplexed | Crushes |
basically i have crush on this guy and i really like him but we’re a part of the same friend group. i just joined the group and i wasn’t gonna act on it but things have happened that makes me think he likes me too. he’s constantly flirting and very touchy feely (we’ve spent multiple nights cuddling each other and we’ve all but kissed atp) even though he’s not very expressive w emotions and feelings and other friends have said that they think he likes me too except for his two girl besties…
one of them gave me “permission” to like him and the other implied that i was no one special to him. and i feel uncomfortable talking to him 1 on 1 when they’re around bc i don’t want any tension in the group but i don’t want him to think that i’m mad at him. and i also am starting to doubt that he actually likes me bc of them. i was also pretty close w their other friend but i feel like since they noticed that we’re pretty close, they tried to close me off from him.
i just don’t know whether i’m reading too much into things or if he actually likes me or i’m reading too much into the girls. i really like all of them tbh so i think i should just back off from the guy??? | Crushes |
Ok, so it's a common observation that guys prefer darker colour outfits and most of them own a couple of black t-shirts. Right? Guys feel it gives them an edge, right?
But what about a guy that has never been seen owning a black top? Like this guy I'm interested in, is always seen wearing bright colours and softer tones.
I wanna know could there be any specific reason or indication towards his character. Guys, what's your opinion? I'm intrigued because I haven't seen a single guy (other than him) that does not own a black shirt. | Crushes |
A little bit of background. So, I’m not really good at recognizing my thoughts. I don’t have an inner narrator (it’s just like gusts of wind that tell me stuff, idk how else to put it) and I also have this thing where if I tell myself something over and over and over again and can make myself believe it full heartedly. I believe it has something to do with a mental disorder I have but I’m not positive. Anyway, as a kid I always thought I had to have a crush, and I’d just pick someone and tell myself that I like them, and I’d tell myself that for years. Because of stuff like that, it’s made it really hard for me to realize if I actually like the person or if I’m just telling myself I like them. I’ve been in two relationships, I ended both of them because I lost feelings. It makes me think that maybe I was just playing myself again. I always seem to lose feelings within a week or two of thinking ai liked the person.
But, there’s this guy in my class now. He’s really funny and always managed to make me laugh, and he’s also really smart. I got moved to sit next to him a few weeks ago and I realized that he’s really cute. We’ve been talking this last few days and I even found out that he could sing?? Also, whenever I would imagine a guy for a story I would write (I write stories a lot and am thinking about becoming an author) they’re typically the kind of person I find myself liking personality wise. Well, this guy has the exact same name I give to like half my characters because I always loved it. I don’t know if that plays a part in it. He’s also my type but a bit different. In the past the guys I’ve been with have been more geeky, but his personality just seems so much closer to mine. We laugh at the same jokes, we both like debate, and we’re both the type of person to be the classroom clown but also the most dedicated kid in said class.
Anyway, he’s a year older then me so I don’t have any other class with him. The class were in together is an AP class that supposed to only be for Juniors and Seniors. I was able to get in a year early as a Sophomore because of my academic level. He’s asked me if I’m in AP Prep, and I told him I wasn’t (because I’m not, Sophomore) but he’s in that class right now. Could he have asked me that because he’s trying to find more common ground or a place we could talk outside of that class? Maybe I’m just wishful thinking.
I’ve been on the brink between thinking of if I like him and if I don’t. I don’t think of him constantly, but when I do he pops into my head at the most random times. Like, with no trigger at all. I’ll be making a snack and then something he said in class that day will pop into my head. Though, the main thing that makes me really wonder is because next semester I’m supposed to be switching hours. Meaning we won’t have the class together anymore. It made me really sad, so much that I asked my counselor to put me back in the hour with him, making it so much lunch hour switched, meaning I won’t have lunch with my three best friends. I don’t know what to do. I don’t even know if he’s not straight. (I’m non binary but I was AFAB).
Do you guys think I like him? I think I might. What do I do? Winter formal is coming up and I kind of want him to ask me, but I have PTSD with rejection and I change the idea of people knowing I like them. So how do I go about this? | Crushes |
Drop some good tips please. Avoiding and less talking is not helping. | Crushes |
im a (19F) i always told my self that i wouldnt date someone from my job but it started to get harder when i kept seeing him everday. i believe he's 21. at my job, he drives a forklift (the one where you stand) and i would see him drive by all the time and never really looked at him the way i do now. but it all started when i got my nails done. I got my nails done as my favorite color aquamarine and i liked them at first. After awhile i wanted to change them because the color felt too bright and in my mind i thought if that people who were walking in the opposite direction of me would notice my nail first then me. So i decided that i wanted to go with a darker blue (not sure what kind of blue) or either with fall colors. thats when i first noticed lets call him (M). M was driving the forklift past me and i first noticed the color of his sweater. it was close to a royal blue but not quite. I really liked the color and was thinking about chosing that color for my nail but wasnt sure. He then rode past me again and in my mind i was like thats a nice color on him but then we locked eyes. The next day he rode past again but this time instead of a sweater it was a shirt in the same color. the third day he wore a black jacket with burgundy sweatpants and i found myelf saying he looks good in any color. (a little disclaimer, i used to take art in school so please dont get weirded out with me because im constantly talking about colors, i'm always intrigued with different shades of color so blame my art teacher and not me) anyway so i decided to go with the blue that he was wearing. i honestly really liked the color. and it really did look good on him. after that day we always keep locking eyes and it honestly pisses me off that sometimes i can feel his presence and when i turn around he's there and then again we lock eyes. im not really good at having a conversation and i only talk when im comfortable around someone. but now my job has made it where we all come in at the same time and have to leave at the same and now i cant help but run into him. And yesterday while we were walking out the building he was vaping. And i always told myself that i didnt want to date someone that smokes but i dont even know anymore. please help!!!!!! | Crushes |
ummm.....
so I was studying in the library and I actually love ice cold water so I filled it for me
but then he comes and sits next to me
I can't believe I actually finished the entire water bottle so that I could fill hot water for him again cz he was sick
and he never drinks water and is always dehydrated asf
but when I thought of giving it to him
she came and I thought it wasn't right
I should've given it to him
:")
idk man it's ok let's get over it | Crushes |
ummm.....
so I was studying in the library and I actually love ice cold water so I filled it for me
but then he comes and sits next to me
I can't believe I actually finished the entire water bottle so that I could fill hot water for him again cz he was sick
and he never drinks water and is always dehydrated asf
but when I thought of giving it to him
she came and I thought it wasn't right
I should've given it to him
:")
idk man it's ok let's get over it | Crushes |
In a nutshell, there is this girl I find attractive, I've talked to her multiple times, very slowly getting more and more interactions. Thing is, her signs also make it seem like she wants me to approach, lots of eye contact, she approached me 2 times etc. So I asked multiple people how she actually is, some girl told me that all her snapchat stories are about guys, she plays hard to get unless you are close to her. If she wasn't into me I wouldn't have approached, but people are telling me there's a big chance that she likes me as well. Should I just do it even though her personality might not be great? | Crushes |
Me and my crush have been friends for 3 years but never too close. We ussualy just did homework together.
After high school finished we stopped talking for around a year, and 3 months ago have reconnected.
Also, the whole time we knew eachother she had a BF but they broke up not too long before we started talking again.
I've been trying to take it slowly since the break up, but to use the opportunity to try and get out of the friendzone. Over the last 3 months our relationship had gotten stronger, but I'm not sure if it is because of romantic feeling or us becoming better friends.
Recently she started asking me for help with which photo of her food she should post to her website (she has a bakery side job). I should mention that she takes her photography very seriously and is one of her biggest hobbies.
Is this something you would ask your close friends or someone you have a romantic interest in?
We also moved from talking once-twice a week to almost every day in the past 2 weeks, though it's mostly us sending memes to eachother | Crushes |
So a girl an I like each other, which is great, but she’s very nervous around me still and doesn’t like talking much. Basically, I’m asking how do I start a conversation where I’ll be doing most of the talking | Crushes |
Just actively flirted with him and told him i thought he was handsome and now jokingly flirted saying that i have competition with his best mate and that i have to "steal him away"
Boy do i love life /s | Crushes |
I need advices. I like him for a year now and I'd like to get him to know that. | Crushes |
title \^ | Crushes |
I told her that I liked her and she didn’t know what to say. I’ll be honest, it didn’t really surprise me. She didn’t really seemed surprised by it either, at least I got it off my chest. | Crushes |
idk I like him sm
I really like him
idk
he just makes me happy
he just makes my day
miss his voice n the way he smells rn | Crushes |
Managed to speak to her at college and initiate conversation, even though they were only quite small. We sit next to each other a lot in most lessons but because we’re both really shy we don’t talk much - so seeing her face look so happy and relived when I finally spoke made me feel all happy :DD!
Think I’m gonna try and talk to her again when I’m in college again now that the initial fear of starting the conversation is waning (I still get very nervous but it’s not as bad.) | Crushes |
Idk if I’ll go through with it and not totally flake out, but I’m at least going to try to. I’ve assured myself that I will at least do it before winter break. But I also see him next Saturday as well so i have an easy backup
Im absolutely terrified to do it though ☹️ My plan is to tell him I like him and then ask if he’d like to do something with me sometime. i just hope he says yes. Im scared as hell he doesn’t like me :( | Crushes |
this is q a long story but basically i rejected this guy at the start of the year because he said smth q ass to me.. (he asked me out at the start of the year and then told me that he had a list of girls he wanted to ask out and ended up asking me out cos i was at the top of the list or smth… like wtf LOL that’s so:/, he also told me he had a bunch of other girls up in his dms)so obv i rejected him because who likes being on a list right?! plus he’s kind of known as a player so i alr knew he wasn’t srs about it. on top of that we barely knew each other so i just assumed it was infatuation because i did. like him but i never knew why since we weren’t close
anyways he wished me happy bday in march over dm and i j said thanks back and then recently in october it was his birthday so i wished him happy birthday back j to show that there isn’t any bad bloood between us, and kind of courtesy uk… u wish me so i wish u… i didn’t want anything more
BUT he kept the convo gg after that😭 and ngl i think i have slight feelings for him still but it is def not as strong as it used to be since i did. try to get over him and time rly heals. he asked me out again recently and i have a lot of mixed feelings about it since i don’t want to be played and what he did in the past wasn’t nice
so well, my question is do u think he’s being srs about this and should i give it a chance or not (considering the fact that my feelings have faded a lot but is slightly still there ) cos he’s gg to be my first everything that’s why it’s kind of big for me if u get what i mean | Crushes |
okay. it’s a bit of a weird situation but i’ve known this guy since probably may. we are both in addiction recovery- and he recently had to go to jail. well i was the one to take him. we talk and joke everyday and i was sure he was feeling me, so the more i thought about it i decided yes i like him as well. we grew up in the same area and never knew it which is way down south. he was walking around yesterday in a community area we share and he said “hey cousin” and immediately i was like 😳😳 what. im the only one he talks to currently and i don’t want to corrupt him lol. he’s added me on fb and all the socials and shit and comments/ likes like a mf. i need help lol | Crushes |
he called me this morning to wake me up. took EVERYTHING in me not to say “holy shit your voice is hot.” i was tired. | Crushes |
I'm asking for nothing much
this day everyday
PLEASE | Crushes |
feels good
feels soooo gooood
he makes me the happiest | Crushes |
Hi everyone! This is a throw away acct just in case. Anyway, I would like some opinions. I have this gut feeling that my coworker (we will call him Jim) is into me, but it's hard to know for sure and it goes back and forth. Just curious what people think.
It is important to note that I am a plus size woman and unfortunately by default I assume most men are not attracted to me, so that is also affecting my judgement here.
I recently started a new job about a month ago. During my initial interview I was interviewed by my boss and 2 coworkers(one of whom was Jim). By the end of the interview, I could tell Jim liked me as a candidate and I had a good feeling about it. I could tell he and I kinda clicked at least. A week later, Jim emails me and invites me in for a second interview with him and one other person I hadn't met yet. I haven't thought much about this situation yet other than I was excited to maybe work at this place and I knew I could tell Jim liked me during the interview, so I was happy to have been correct. The interview went well and I brought in some previous work to show and they both seemed pretty into it. The conversation started to feel a lot like just some friends talking toward the end.
Anyway, I asked about hair color bc i have abnormal colors in my hair. After telling me it was fine, Jim made some comment like "I actually think it's pretty cool!" Then, at the end of the interview the other person left to go and get my now boss. When she was out of the room, Jim made another comment along the lines of "for what it's worth, I've been really pushing for them to pick you bc blah, blah, and blah." I told him I appreciated it and assumed he was just being nice. They made me the offer and I was super excited.
I can't exactly remember every single thing that Jim has done for said that gave me the feeling he was into me, but I'll do my best to summarize some stuff after I started there.
The first week or so is normal, Jim helps me set up my computer and get everything going. Keep in mind a have another coworker, but he and I rarely speak and he doesn't work with me much (until more recently). I'm taking some work off of Jim's plate, so it makes sense.
After the first week, I start shadowing Jim. Jim is pretty introverted and so am I, so there's some awkwardness there. I was also super nervous bc this is my first job in this field and imposter syndrome was hitting hard. Jim took things super easy on me and showed me how to do pretty simple stuff toward the beginning. Then we started a project together and he was asking for my opinion on what to do for a lot of it while I shadowed him. Basically, he is just super helpful all the time and made sure things were very easy for me at first. He makes it obvious he cares about my opinions and wants feedback from me on things. He compliments my work and decisions often too. He also would (and still does) check in with me about certain things that he doesn't need to. Like checking that I completed open enrollment before the deadline or reminding me to sign up for this yearly health screening they do (this is in no way part of his job).
After about 1.5 to 2 weeks of working with him, I kinda started feeling the vibes that he was into me. Just small subtle things. I started thinking back to the interviews and realized there could have been more there that I just didn't think about at first. The first thing that got me thinking was Jim trying to make me laugh. Things were still kinda awkward and I was shadowing him and we ran into a problem. He asked our coworker for help through a messaging system we use and after asking he said something like "it's kicking my ass." Knowing I would see it and laugh and lighten the mood a little bit. I started to pay a little more attention after this and noticed things like, when I'm sitting with him he tends to fidget with pens and stuff, his tone seems a little different when talking with me vs other coworker, he tries to make little jokes or comments to make me smile or laugh, etc. It could all also just be friendly and how he is normally, too, though.
I feel like my gut feelings are usually correct, but some doubts I have are because of things like...
When we talk, it's mostly about work stuff. He hasn't asked me much personal information. But he also seems like he tries hard to be professional. He has asked me about some stuff (one day my cat was sick and I was late coming in bc I had to take him to the vet, he tried to ask abt it but I was upset so it got dropped, I went to a work event that he didn't attend and he asked how it was the next day, etc.)
He doesn't linger with eye contact much, but when talking to me, he does look me in the eyes (when not looking toward the computer screen). Especially if I'm talking, he is very attentive and usually turns toward me more. It's mostly him talking since he is teaching me things, but he seems very interested when I do get to speak. Also, if he comes over to my desk to answer a question or discuss something, he seems to linger toward the end. Like, it seems slightly awkward before he goes back to his desk a lot of the time. Could just be that he's making sure there wasn't anything else he wants to say or something... idk.
He always seems happy to help or talk to me about something. I've also noticed some stuff like, he pays a lot of attention to how close he gets to me when he's at my desk. He even made a comment one time about not wanting to be too close, I think he's worried about being respectful which is great. But, I don't know that my other coworker would even think much about it, if you know what im saying. Like, maybe he's thinking about it because he's into me and doesn't want to show it or seem creepy.
Idk, I'm not sure what else to say. I'm sure this post is kind of a jumbled mess and I apologize! There's just a lot when you interact with someone daily, y'know? There are a lot of subtle things but also a lot of things that would be missing, like trying to spend time w me after work or touching me or something like that obviously.
I should probably also say that I 100% did not have a crush on him at first but after becoming aware that that was maybe going on from his end, I started to develop one for him. He's smart and obviously has a good sense of humor so that is attractive to me.
Thanks so much for reading and let me know or ask questions for clarification if needed!
TLDR: I think my coworker might have a crush on me. He is very helpful, friendly, and he tries to make me laugh. He cares about my opinions on things and asks for them. He is very attentive in our conversations and makes eye contact, especially if I'm speaking. However, he is also introverted and we don't talk abt much besides work related topics. I don't know him super well from our conversations yet. He doesn't necessarily come to me unless I ask him about something. What do you think? | Crushes |
cute
I love this moment smmmmmmmsbsgqhwjsn | Crushes |
What would u do if one of ur bestf is dating ur crush and they tell u 4 months late, crush is quite close to u too And the reason is "we didn't tell any of our close friends either, we dint have a choice” | Crushes |
She is younger. (She is of legal age. DM me for details.) She is generally friendly with me, but she seems shy, and I have made it obvious that I like her. Now I think I have made her nervous.
I keep asking myself, “Should I leave her alone? Should I forget about her? Am I being foolish?” I thought she might be too young. Also, she is my coworker. I thought it might be inappropriate for that reason too, but now she is quitting. I am being cautious. There have been some signs that made me think she may like me, but I don’t want to make any assumptions.
I genuinely like her. I don’t want to move fast, but I want her to know that I care for her. I don’t want to make her uncomfortable, but her hugs feel amazing, and I just want to be close to her. She is so, so cute and lovely, and I feel like reality is more vibrant when she is present. She must know I like her, but I just haven’t said it explicitly. I am pretty sure that I will talk to her soon and properly ask her out. It’s just hard to do because I like her so much and I don’t want to mess it up, especially when she is young/shy/nervous. | Crushes |
Had a very akward interaction with the girl i like, well more so the girl im head over heels for. Things were going so well for me until this last night. It totally felt like she was avoiding me, but my friends said I was imagining it. Whenever I approach her now, the convos are short, shallow, akward. I'm really pissed off since I genuinely had good convos with her up until now. Point is I can't for the life of me tell whether she likes me or not. I feel like I'm an annoying akward loser to her but she won't tell me to sod off ever. She's incredibly nice and she still goes through the trouble of entertaining me even I when fuck everything up. I wish she just tell me to piss off so I can stop feeling like I have even a microfraction of a chance with her. | Crushes |
there’s this girl in my class i think is cute, we’ve never spoken before but i don’t want to make her uncomfortable or come of as a creep or anything.
we’ve never interacted before but one time she looked over her shoulder looking at me preening her hair, but i didnt look her in the eyes cos im a nervous guy and thought id look like a creep.
whenever i sit behind her she acts nervous or tense, idk why but i feel bad for making her feel like that. she seems lonely and i am too haha, don’t consider myself to be an attractive guy though
what you think? | Crushes |
I swear he was so close to me today istg
imma die
his voice
was so close to my ears 😭 | Crushes |
Tomorrow is my crush's birthday, should I send him a blessing?
He hadn't replied to my message for three weeks.
What should I do? | Crushes |
I have this crush, and I want to know if they like me back. I've heard that if someone likes you they'll mirror your actions, I've noticed they do this quite often. Another sign is that they'll hold eye contact and point their feet and body toward you, they do this too. They are more quiet around me than her friends but more talkative towards me over text.
Another thing to mention. So I have their number right, and they messaged me completely out of the blue and told me that I'm so cool, majestic, and special and that I have a comfortable presence. They complimented me for around an hour straight. Is this a sign or are they just being nice? | Crushes |
oh God pls
I shud stop but I love listening to his voice tf
it was cute today
he's cute stfu
I shud just stfu
but I can't help it
I can't control Idk man m just done
I shud stop this fr | Crushes |
man he's always nice to me and I don't understand why he is nice to me pls pls pls
everytime I start falling for him I keep reminding myself her name cz I don't wanna do it to her
and she treats him well
makes me happy to see him happy w her actually
I could never treat him the way she does
he's happy w her and m happy seeing him happy
he recommended me some songs and imma create a playlist and listen to them on loop
I'm happy how we're now
also I don't have enough energy for relationships but idk
talking to him makes me so happy idk why but hsjaiajsbsbs | Crushes |
So we usually have basically unbreakable eye contact but I'm noticing she's stopped doing it and another thing I've noticed is her glancing more and multiple times getting completely lost in my eyes I find it really cute when she does it though she kind of zones our its really adorable | Crushes |
The feeling of liking someone, but knowing that it would likely never work out or last more than a few months is terrible. Especially because it's online, cringe I know but whatever. And then not feeling the same for people who are ACTUALLY having a crush on you, makes me feel like a piece of shit.
I wish that I could simply choose to not have these feelings. It is much easier to be friends with someone, plus you have no risks that you would have in a relationship. I don't want to have crushes damn it, it sucks. It ruins everything. | Crushes |
I do, when he’s active I just type in the chat I LIKE YOU, a girl can dream :/ | Crushes |
so theres a guy that i like and i don't know if i might have a chance or if its all in my head. there's been a lot of moments where I've caught him looking at me or I've had friends tell me he keeps glancing at me. but on the flipside, i tried to text him ab school stuff and he's a really dry texter, and that convo made me so uncomfy that i just didn't text him after that because i got scared that he's judging me or something. he's started a lot of the in person convos but im super awkward so i couldn't rlly carry them (or even make a lot of eye contact which fucking sucks) so he did which was hella sweet but maybe he's a social person? also a lot of the convos were on school stuff so idk. there was this one incident where my teacher called out names for attendance and repeated my name cuz i wasn't paying attention and he was like "Oh yeah shes here" and he called out to me and that made me think maybe i have a shot. we haven't talked as much in the last couple of weeks so idk if he's lost interest in me or he wasn't interested to begin with and idk what to do im just confused at this point lmfao | Crushes |
F(22) that has a “crush” on M(he looks older than me maybe 24-26?).
It’s been a long time since I had a crush someone but I found a person that I’m very attracted to/curious towards… though I don’t know if I should consider this as a crush cause I don’t know anything about him but his name. We both have different lunch breaks (I’m in Lunch A, he’s in Lunch B) so I never had a chance to talk to him nor bother to, since I don’t have a reason to cause we’re practically strangers. Though he works near my station and we interact a couple times but we didn’t talk. I’m not even sure if he’s in a relationship. Though I always often catch him staring/glancing at me. But his aura is giving me mixed signals. I don’t know what to do? Maybe I’m being delusional? | Crushes |
What to do if ur crush doesn't like you back? | Crushes |
For those who saw my previous posts of questioning the guy I've liked and appreciated for the past year. Its happy and healthy so far.
Recap.ive (29f) known "Bob"(33m) since high school days. I was dating one of his friends for a year. I've always found him physically attractive, but never ever tried to pursue. Our mutual friend had us reconnect summer of 2021 after she (my bff of 17 years) moved hours away. Me and bob always hit it off. We havent known each other super personal before this past year. Our friend (my bff) passed away jan 2022 in an accident. It was (still is) extremely hard on all of us. Bob and mine schedule met up so well where we were able to plan things weekly and cherish everything in life. Both of us keeping each other lifted and driven through this hard time. My first personal time out with him, he took me to a dispensary to get my grandma CBD to try out. Second after was my birthday, where instead of "buying a cake for me" he thought "I'd like to bake and decorate instead" .which, spot on. Loved it. In spring I brought him flowers for his house, I was the first woman to give him flowers. He got my shoe size out of me in winter, that same spring he bought me *purposely * too small shoes so i could go exchange them for whatever shoes i wanted. WHO BUYS SOMEONE ELSE SHOES?!?!? That was the most sweetest thing. Again, many lovely nights filled with laughs till we went to an amusement park together. I mentioned a simple walk after I got my glasses, he 1uped it and said "no, we gotta go here if you can finally see". Wow. Then When he held his arm around me on the rollercoaster, got me to ride a ride I never would have, only for the "view at the top". That amusement park night was beyond memorable as friends.but at the end of the night, kissed me on the cheek. I questioned and talked myself down. No way, no way,no way. We had yet another nice evening going for a fall walk and picking out pumpkins and then going back to his place to carve them. Ended with a kiss on the cheek again before going home. Halloweeeeennnnnnn. Halloween night we went for a super lovely walk, dinner , and more walking and talking. Ended up at his place, confident enough to hop in the hot tub in my undies. After I was dried off and in his clothes, asked me if i wanted to "sleep next to him in his bed, got an extra blanket for me" and i obliged. All we did was sleep. The following week, he had the worst weekend at work, and i tried to convince him for hours to "get out for a stupid mental health" walk with me. He finally came out, I took him to dinner, gave him a gift and got a long hug and kiss on the cheek before he left to go home.the following time, we went out during the day together. Had coffee and a snack, walked, browsed antiques and mom n pop shops, to a pub for dinner, walked around the pier at night, got back to his place, chat more, hot tub again in my undies, back in his clothes, in his bed, me all anxious, he says "come here" and holds me close. And proof.
Next time before bed, we had some deep deep honest conversations. Hotub (this time I remembered a suit) and on his couches watching a movie. Me on one couch, him the other. Both too chicken to come to the other. I was unsure about if I was coming to his bed again this time, but he made it clear. Immediately got in bed, I said "dont mind me" as I cuddled him. Poof. Afterwards we talked about feelings. YES. FEELINGS, AS WE CUDDLED.. I cant even gain ahold of myself typing this, as a 29yrF. Neither one of us looking, trying, both not having a relationship for 2-5 years. Just happened organically. "Healthy" as he put it in words while holding me. We're both nervous, anxious and excited. We've talked more about it. I'm truly in disbelief. I'm glad to be able to have loved him as a friend first before going this far. We both respect each other tremendously too much to worry which way it goes. This really feels so healthy. ❤❤❤❤❤❤ | Crushes |
Same old, same old. I developed a BIG crush for a classmate and I have to get rid of it. I am almost certain she doesn't feel the same way and she has this kinda relationship on and off thing with a guy in another country.
It's been a long time since I've felt this way and even seeing her hanging out with a really good friend of ours (who knows I like her) makes me feel incredibly jealous, it's nonsense.
How can I get rid of this insecurity and crush?
I also can't do anything cus she's part of our friends group and I fear I might screw things up if I tell her how I feel.
I'm always falling for my girl friends :( | Crushes |
you heard me | Crushes |
I met a guy on a trip two years ago. He told mutual friends that he liked me, and he asked them not to tell me, but they did. When he found out that I knew, he cut off all contact with me. Two months later, he and his girlfriend broke up. I have to admit that before he was single, I'd look at his TikToks a lot. I never liked or commented on it; I'd just watch the videos. It's not that I wanted to talk to him, but sometimes, you like to admire someone from afar.
A few days before he and his girlfriend broke up, I noticed that my TikToks would go up a little bit. I only had like 3 followers, but whenever I'd watch his videos, a few minutes/hours later, my TikTok views on my videos would rise. I even tried doing it on certain days; eg. I'd watch his videos one day, watch it two days later, then the day after, and each time I saw them, my views went up, and on the days that I didn't watch them, they stayed the same. This continued for the better part of a year. Last year, it was still frequent, but less so. Now, it's every week that we do this. One time, he even posted a TikTok in English (English isn't his first language, and all of his previous videos were in his native language).
TikTok wasn't the only platform he was looking at me on. He would do it on Twitter, too. One time, I retweeted a picture of a Star Wars character. Less than an hour later, he posted a meme of that same character. The meme was in English, and it's not that I want to say that the meme wasn't funny, but it was obvious to me that he posted it just to post it. There's been at least three other little instances where he did something similar to that. | Crushes |
So this girl I kinda like has been giving off vibes that make me think she likes me, the most recent example was today, she was posting the same thanksgiving post that everyone else was on their Snapchat story, saying who they were thankful for the she asks “can I have a pic of youuuu🫣” which threw me off big time | Crushes |
I don't usually have problems talking to ppl but I just don't know how to actually approach someone I don't know that's in another friend group I don't know. | Crushes |
Wanted to tell you long time back but couldn't.
When saw you in ITT batch felt you were cute and wanted to approach you and wanted to know you.
But couldn't because at end you know results happened.
So I was wondering whether you interested to know each other better and hangout sometime soon.😃🤞 | Crushes |
I just want her. Im too scared to ask her to hang out. How do I ask? How do I say it? | Crushes |
I've seen so many people in my life, so many. Yet, nobody captures my heart the way she does. Her eyes are so beautiful. I could stare into them forever. She's just so beautiful, it's almost hard to imagine someone as beautiful as her exists.
Then you have the fact that she's really sweet and nice. She's always doing little things to help people and it's so sweet. It's the little things she does, she's just so kind in every way.
Anyway, just wanted to get that out | Crushes |
I just need to say how much I fucking like him and want to kiss him and get that off my chest so I can go back to being normal and pretending I don’t give a shit anymore.
Aarrrrrgggggghhhhhhhhh
I LIKE YOU SO MUCH
I HAVEN’T HAD ENOUGH TIME
I wish he wanted to hang out. :(
Ok thanks. Done.
Laterz | Crushes |
Hi everyone. So basically I am a college girl who is tired and wants to date and have fun w boys. recently I stumbled upon this FINE bball players’ Instaagram. He goes to my school. My roommate followed him for me and I didn’t care at the time because we were drinking. He has like 2,000 followers and follows about 1,000 people. so I figured he wouldn’t follow back. but he did! Then he liked my latest Instagram post. and I am wondering if he liked it because he thinks I’m attractive orrr if it just came up on his feed since instagram will do that when you follow someone new… either way. i’m not sure how to go about this because I think he is so attractive and I want to get out there and possibly shoot my shot but idk if it’ll MAKE IT. I always feels like I do the chasing. I don’t want to DM him but should i do something subtle to show interest? kind of like throw a bone? maybe like his insta story? or something…? | Crushes |
*all in Chronological order
1. She followed me back on Ig
2. Seemed to walk closer to me than usual the next day
3. Seemed nervous around me in class and was always facing towards me instead of being on her phone
4. The next day she unfollowed me on Ig... Okay
5. The next day she removed me as a follower on TikTok and unfollowed me... 😬
6. She made a brand new TikTok account and posted about her "new crush"
7. She still looks at my ig stories even after unfollowing me
I'm so confused as to what this could mean and if I'm the crush and the whole unfollowing thing is some kind of way of getting my attention of some shit. Or she lost interest in me in one day and has a new crush. idfk please help me understand :) | Crushes |
We've known each other since childhood days and now we're in our teenage years I want to get him to like me too. Thing is, We've never spoken in person since I just came from another country. How do you get noticed in chat? What should I say to keep the conversation going? And to make him interested in talking to me?
🥴🥴🥴 | Crushes |
I should’ve posted this sooner because this is literally the only thing Im think about nowadays, but…
Last month, I started talking to this girl I met through Xbox. Anyways, she’s really cute, kinda shy, but super funny around people she’s comfortable with, and she’s a gamer 😅👍🏻. I started falling for her the instant we started connecting, and a couple weeks afterwards, I confessed my feelings for her, and she felt the same 😄🥰. (I know that was definitely too early to try and ask her out, but it did work, so….😅)
Anyways, I just wanted to share this because she’s completely changed my life. I’ve had crushes in the past, when I was, like, 10 😅, but she was the first girl I *truly* fell for — I fell for her *badly* 😅.
This is definitely a new experiment for me, but I couldn’t be happier 😁. She’s everything to me, especially since she’s my first ever girlfriend 😅. Anyone who doesn’t think they’ll ever find their soulmate, trust me, you will 😁👍🏻. I didn’t think I would, especially since I never had a girlfriend until now. Just stay strong, and you’ll find them eventually 😅😊👍🏻.
My life’s now complete 😁👍🏻❤️. | Crushes |
I’ve been talking to this girl for a month or two but kinda just really started talking to her within the last two or three weeks. She helps me with essays and talks to me a lot asks me if she should buy certain clothes advice usually cry’s to me about anything very emotional and sweet so I don’t know we kinda flirt back and forth but I don’t know if she’s being nice or actually likes me.She’s really pretty but I don’t want to make the first move because I don’t know if she feels the same way what should I do? M(15) F(16) | Crushes |
need help with this confusing girl
So I've had a crush on this girl for a month or so now and haven't made any moves to show her my feeling until recently when I followed her on Ig. The next day she followed back and I was more than happy and felt very accomplished. It was a weekend so I had the best weekend of my life just thinking about what I would do on Monday. I didn't do anything on Monday... But I did notice that she acted a bit differently around me. She usually walks in the back of the lunch room when going to her table but this day she walked right by me so that was kinda weird. In class she seemed like she was facing me the whole class when she I usually facing the front on her phone. When class ended and we were in the hallway it seemed she wanted to stay in front of me at all times when she is usually the last one out of the class. Then we were on break so that was the only day I had to analyze her tendencies. And the first day of break she unfollowed me on Ig... I was so damn confused cus it seemed like she liked me back but this made me feel the opposite cus I ain't do shit to make her unfollow me. It was weird but then she unfollowed me on TikTok too and removed me as a follower so I couldn't see her TikToks. I was honestly dumfounded at this point cuz idk wtf I did wrong. After removing me as a follower she made a brand new TikTok account and posted about her "crush". This is where I'm just completely lost am I the crush? To put it in perspective she said in class to her friends she has never dated anyone. She also has never posted about a guy or a crush on her TikTok ever. I don't know if I'm overcomplicating things but I just don't understand the point of unfollowing me and making a whole new TikTok account to post about her crush. I just need some opinions on what is going on plz. | Crushes |
For the life of me a can’t unfeel things. We work together, they knew I had a crush on them, they’re older than me and they asked to kiss me when we were drinking, we had a couple great make out sessions and now it’s back like it never happened. I had a conversation with them about intentions and we agreed to just be friends but see I know they watch me, I can feel it.
I’ve been ignoring it in the past because I thought they didn’t like me back. Now I know they’re attracted to me, they admitted it. I wouldn’t mind a FWB with them but I don’t think they want that at all. Now I can’t get over it and it hurts cause it’s think I made them uncomfortable. I just wish I didn’t feel this connection and we could just be friends. This is agony. | Crushes |
I’m a terrible judge of people’s feelings, first of all. There’s this guy that’s super cute and super popular around my college campus is a part of one of the frats, and he’s a really nice guy. I’m in the sorority, so we’re connected that way.
But we are always messaging on Instagram, Snapchat, and TikTok. We like sharing memes, chatting, stuff like that. He’s always sending “😈” “😏” “😁” emojis whenever we text. And he teases me sometimes over text too, but sometimes he leaves me on opened. but the only time we’ve ever hung out in person was tonight. He came over only for a little bit so I could put some of the temporary tattoos I bought on his arms. He’s fun to talk to, but I can’t tell if he talks to all his friends like that. He’s never explicitly done anything huge in terms of flirting.
My friends are constantly trying to push me into asking him out or telling me not to take this slow and at my own pace. I’m worried that asking him such a thing could wreck my friendship with him and could make things super awkward in the frat and sorority. I thought about seeing if he would want to go to a movie with me, but I don’t know🫣. It’s all confusing. | Crushes |
before then i couldn’t even be around him lol. i would start shaking, sweating, and get this terrible stress headache that’d last for hours. now look at me! i can hold eye contact sort of. i realize this whole crush fiasco began because i was touch starved, and when we first met he dapped me up and i never recovered after feeling the touch of a person. if possible i just want to be his friend because he’s really cool. and i say “if possible” because i have done a lot of dumb shit like ignore him because of the literal headache he gave me 💀 even after all of that he still acknowledges me so hey? maybe i still have a chance at friendship? he no doubt thinks of me as a little weirdo but i’ll take it. | Crushes |
So back in 2020 this guy a knew of in high school slip into my dms (we were like 3 years out at that time). We spoke for a couple of weeks but the convo was kinda dry and we both knew that so we stopped talking. He reached out a couple of times but I told him it's better we don't continue talking as it felt forced.
Now earlier this week I lost my father and I posted about the loss. It's something that I am still dealing with and I have had a lot of people reach out to me to offer some caring words. This included the guy I knew. Be spoke about him also lossing his father a couple months back and he gave me so beautiful advice and said i could always talk to him. I appreciated him reaching out and not gonna lie I have always had some sort of feeling for him even when we stopped talking.
In the past it felt like the timing for us was wrong especially since back then I struggled to hold a conversation and thats changed. And I'm not saying it's right for this moment but i the near future do you think I should shoot my shot? | Crushes |
Her sister is in cabaret, we are both theater kids but cabaret? Not the show for me, or her for that matter. We are in a show together but we are in separate casts, but before rehearsal I hook her up with a bunch of snacks and “protection” from this boy, so anyways I go to the show and I’m already cool with her parents and grandparents and he asks if I want to sit next to her, so for 2 hours I do, it was amazing. Now I’ll just go back to subtly staking her during lunch because I have nothing better to do. Small victories are great. | Crushes |
I’m not mad or anything, I’m just bummed because like a month ago we were texting and he had asked when my birthday was (when it was briefly mentioned in conversation) and I had told him. He had even said it was a week after his other close friend’s birthday, and that’s how he’d remember.
Because I hadn’t heard from him at all yesterday, I’m just wondering if he had genuinely forgotten (even if it’s in text message) or just didn’t feel like acknowledging it. Either way I think it kinda shows how he doesn’t rlly care about it 😭. I think this might answer my question about whether or not he reciprocates my feelings bc don’t people usually remember details like that about their crush? If he doesn’t remember this then he probably doesn’t care to memorize things about me (aka doesn’t like me) 🫠 | Crushes |
long story short my crush and i have been pretty good friends for a while, we were comfortable to tell each other private things about each other, but recently she told me that she saw me as someone that she can trust and told me about a bad breakup with her bf that she didnt tell her friend group at school (which made me really happy to hear), but now a week or two later she is acting cold and distant towards me and acts annoyed whenever i try to talk to her, but she still follows me on insta and has me friended on discord so she doesnt have anything against me??
i dont know if this is something i should do something about or leave alone, ive been telling her how i feel and make distance for a little while but she is graduating soon and i dont think we would have nearly the same amount of chances to spend time together if i did | Crushes |
theres this guy ive been thinking about nonstop for the past week but the more i think about it the more i worry. do i truly like HIM or just the idea of liking someone? hes handsome, nice, we have a lot in common, etc. but that fear still lingers. how can you tell when a crush is truly a crush on someone instead of the idea of someone? | Crushes |
It's hard to tell, because we do really get along and have a friendly relationship, but sometimes I feel like he has a crush on me, it would be problematic since we're both in a serious relationship. We've always talked all the time at work and he sends me 30+ reels on insta everyday, compliments me (nice outfit, I like your hair today) sometimes he even sends me videos about trivial details like his new haircut.. maybe this is insignificant since he has a lot of women friends in general. The other day though we went to the bar with other coworkers, he talked a lot to everyone but I feel like he made eye contact a lot with me, with a smirk sometimes, I also tried weed since they were smoking, and he kept checking up on me (he seemed more worried than anyone else). He also brought me outside and opened up about his ex because she was there at the bar and it was making him feel on edge. We never had a relationship outside of work before that night, so I find that closeness a bit odd. The weirdest thing is that I saw a notification from him 30 minutes after he left and it said "I had fun tonight:)" but when I opened the chat it was gone, meaning he deleted it.
I would like to know people's opinions because it's hard for me to read those signs, and I don't want it to get weird. | Crushes |
We're both 25. She gives me all the green flags in person: an intoxicating amount of eye contact, inside jokes with each other, etc. I've seen her change plans entirely after finding out I'm involved in something and, more recently, she's mentioned getting distracted after we start talking.
I've tried texting her a little more than I have in the past (nothing crazy, just a few times a week), but the last couple of times she hasn't responded to my small talk. This is like a night and day experience when I'm with her in-person, and I feel like we've gotten closer, even just within this past week.
Should I be worried about this lack of response or should I weigh our physical encounters more? I keep feeling like the opposite is true and she only reacts like that in-person, because I have a captive audience with her, instead of the awkwardness of two people liking one-another. She's admitted not being a big social media person or texter, which I can relate too, but it's hard not to wonder if this is her quick and quiet way of rejecting me. I could use some advice. | Crushes |
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