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What went wrong??? Why did we stop??? Everytime one of us liked eachother the other didnt reciprocate back and fourth, I miss you. I cant Listen to tv girl without thinking about him, he was my other half, the guy version about him he was so amazing, I never thought someone could understand me so much. I miss him. I miss calling. I miss everything about him. Making playlists we weren’t dating but I wanted to so bad I want to so bad. When i think about him it just hurts because he didn’t even tell me why we stopped talking. found out from a girl I’m not even close with.Even when he knew I liked him he would tell me to rate girls he liked (I’m bisexual) or or tell me everyone who wants him.After all he’s done with me I throw myself on my bed when he texts me and kicking my legs in the air. I love him so much it hurts. Why did we stop being friends?? It was only 3 days we “dated”. I wish he could just talk to me and not leave me on read, I don’t think there’s a part of me that doesn’t believe I’ll always be head over heels in love with him. | Crushes |
I just really want to talk about this and get this off my chest 😭
Ok so weeks ago i (F18) started taking a class at this foreign language school, and the teacher sat me beside this guy (M17). At first it was really awkward and stuff but eventually we started talking (not too much though because he doesn't speak much english) . Now I'm like so into him its crazy, like his personality is one i've never seen before. Anyways i've been getting subtle signs that he might be into me, like he asked for my instagram and he gave me his main account and his spam, which only has his friends from his country so its rly private yk. This was when we barely talked. Recently he's been asking about my interests and stuff. His face gets all red when we talk, and he looks at me when I talk even though I can't keep eye contact. He constantly makes jokes when we're working together, but hey, he's a funny guy. Every time i seem confused in class he'll go on and ask if I'm okay, whenever I answer a question he starts clapping. He tucks my chair in for me, stuff like that. I'm a huge over thinker so i went online and apparently body language is a big thing. Like he sits way closer to me, i think he mirrors my body language (or i might just be delusional), and he leans in when I talk to him( I might just be quite). That other day I posted a pic on my story and he ended up liking it while he was sitting beside me and i kinda gave him a look and we both laughed but idk maybe he just liked the song I put with the pic, or he just did it because I was sitting beside him. Yesterday I was like I should text him so i asked him how he thought he did on the test we had earlier that day and we talked a bit and he mentioned he was playing fornite, so i said I play with my sister sometimes and he asked if I wanted to play with him today (but i feel like he just asked because he had nothing else to say). But like I texted him like 7 hours ago bcs I had a question and he hasn't replied but it ok i'm not going to think about that. So yeah like idk its weird, like I wouldn't say we're friends or anything but I can't tell if he's just really nice with everybody (he is) and I'm just reading into it way too much.
**tl;dr** I seriously like this guy and I can't tell if he might like me or if he's just being nice. | Crushes |
So, my old crush and I are more than acquaintances now and more like classroom friends, we're not like, the best of friends but we talk sometimes. He talks to me a lot more during class and sometimes on Instagram too, but mainly about school stuff. Although, we talk about other things too. He asked me once if I had a crush on him and I'm not exactly sure so I just told him maybe. Idk if that was the right idea but he doesn't seem to mind. Idk how he feels about me, my friend tells me he likes me but idk. The only signs of it is that he always thanks me for helping him in class and that he always views my stories on Instagram. I'm not even sure how I feel, I wouldn't mind having him as a friend but I also wouldn't mind having him as a boyfriend! I want to talk to him more but I can't start conversations to save my life, and even if I do, I can't ever word it right and I never know what to say. In fact, I wanted to ask why he always views my stories first but I thought it was weird and I couldn't think of how to make it not weird. I just hope we can become better friends at least lol
P.s wasn't sure what to tag it as, hope I did it right! | Crushes |
Do you think her response was a positive one? I don’t see my crush that much because of my hours. I told her I miss her, she said you miss little ole me? I said yess just a little or a lot. She said well god works in mysterious ways. I said yea I just felt I was going to see you. She turned red and I walked away. Was this a positive interaction? | Crushes |
This girl in my lab and I were talking and apparently she is in my lecture as well. She asked me where I sit in class and before I could answer her she instantly told me she sits in the back. She was also talking to me even though she finished her lab. She was also reciprocating and asking me questions during our convo so it p much was not a one sided convo. My friends are telling me that she wants me to sit next to her in class bc of the way she cut me off and told me where she sits. What do you guys think? I think she’s pretty cute and it would be nice to get to know her more and hopefully pursue her romantically. Please let me know what you think. Thank you! | Crushes |
I recently became pretty good friends with my crush and most likely we are going to the same college we have a kind of group of friends that play games together and I really like our friendship. However, I have feelings for him but he’s confided in me about his feelings for another girl (who he never spoke to in person) and of course it’s a little tricky but I would rather keep things the way it is if that’s the situation. I don’t plan on telling him anytime soon about my feelings of course it’s a waste of time. This sucks, I mean I’m happy I have a good friend though. I mean there’s gonna be some cute guys in college. How should I go about this to keep the friendship but get over it? Anybody have some words of affirmation? | Crushes |
So i kinda confessed today except I didn’t because I chickened out of it. One of my friends was actually close to her so my friend confessed. I was told that she already knew and that she didn’t like me. Another friend said that i gotta keep trying. I said to him that it’s pointless because I’ve been rejected several time. So yeah that’s pretty much it | Crushes |
So I have this guy I like he’s so cute but I’m socially awkward so our school had a dance I wanted to ask him.I couldn’t ask him and hear I am trying to forget him cause I know I’m out of his league.The more I try the I like him. He found out around Valentine’s Day so I was more distant so he’d forget.And now to him we’re just friends...
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He told me he wants me to post more on insta so he can see my interests and things, but couldn't I just tell/show him them instead?
For context, I have zero posts on instagram. Also, I know he likes me. I just don't understand his thought process... Is there any special meaning? Specific reason? | Crushes |
He has MANY female friends, and he’s been looking for a girlfriend (dating around)… I’m not really even friends with him, but I just know it (I’m friends with one of his friends). And the fact that he hasn’t made a move when he’s looking for a gf… He probably doesn’t like me 😔 | Crushes |
I’m not saying all of you are bad but 90% of you are little bitches that only care about your self esteem and ego like I try to post something to just get some answers and I get shut down for being to mean or saying something bad like keep it to yourself have y’all’s parents never told y’all if you don’t have anything nice to say keep it to yourself or is this generation just fucked beyond repair 🤦♂️ | Crushes |
He asked me out to grab a coffee. Due to circumstances we can’t meet until after 2 weeks. I then kinda ended conversation instead of continuing. I didn’t want to make it boring or stale if we just kept chatting daily until the date.
I texted him today. He replied to me asking how I’ve been etc. Then he pointed out how we’ve been both busy and asked If I noticed the same. | Crushes |
He doesn't like me. I know that because I asked him. I feel so stupid but also confused becuase he always smiled and me and blushed and eye contact and he even grabbed my waist from behind one time but he doesn't like me..? Alot of stuff has happened lately and even though i know he doesn't like me I want nothing more than him to just hold me right now and comfort me. It doesn't make sense he has never even hugged me but I haven't felt actually safe around a guy in so long. Obviously I respect he doesn't like me but even though I'm upset with him thag he was like touching me of he didn't like and I'm upset he doesn't like me part of my brain just wants him to hold me and comfort me.. | Crushes |
This is a throwaway because I don’t want anything to lead back to me
So for background, two months ago, I noticed that I’ve caught someone’s eye, a guy in one of my classes (yes I’m in high school) and I really didn’t do anything about it because I didn’t feel the same. But after a month passed, I had an incident where I was running late to leave class, and he waited for me just so that he could stare intensely at me in awe, hold the door, and then leave.
At first, I ignored it, but caught myself gaining feelings and of course, the first thing I did was tell my friend. She immediately told me that he’s not all that and I shouldn’t try to ‘get someone under your league’. Of course, I didn’t think much of it because she’s usually judgmental of guys and has high standards herself. Even after she told me this, I still pursued him. So now, for the past month, she suddenly became all excited and eager to go with me to the library, both of us knowing that my crush would be there. She would always want to go places where we knew he would be, and would always be vague/ignore me when I spoke about my feelings for him. I of course never noticed this behavior because at that moment, I thought she was just being annoying and helping me get closer to him.
Now two days ago, I had gotten frustrated of the usual routine of just my crush and I staring at each other with puppy eyes, and made the first move by asking him out. He said yes, so I was absolutely ecstatic and ran to tell my friend about it. She gave me a small congratulations and quickly changed the conversation, which I thought was weird but ignored it and kept going with my day. Yesterday, my crush and I had a date, we clicked immediately and had great chemistry, I came to the conclusion that he is someone special and that I don’t want to lose him.
But now fast forward to today, my friend told me about her feelings for my crush and told me that she has had feelings for 7 months. I thanked her for telling me about it but now I don’t know what to do. I understand that it’ll be hard for her if I just ignore it and continue on to date my crush. I haven’t told my crush yet, it’s just me and my friend right now. I need help!! | Crushes |
There’s this girl at my school and I have a crush on her,but we don’t know each other at all, she’s one of those kinda popular latinas with a lot of friends, and I walk past her everyday. So should I just randomly go up to her and tell her that she is cute or start a convo that could be dry or lead to nothing? | Crushes |
Alright so there’s this guy at school who I’m starting to suspect may like me.
If that’s the case, then I’m kind of worried about that because I’m not sure if I even have a huge crush on him or anything, and also he and my best friend broke up a few months ago. I feel like that’s be super super awkward and just not a good idea.
How should I go about this? | Crushes |
My (female 18) best friend (female 18) has a younger brother (male 17) who I used to like when I was 15 and he was 14 we both liked each other but weren’t ready for relationships at the time. We’ll time has gone on and some of his cousins still refer to me as his girlfriend even though it’s been years and I think I’ve liked other people but whenever I stop talking to someone my mind still goes back to him and idk if I still like him or it’s just because he’s there you know. And I’m struggling to figure out if he still likes me because as far as I’m aware he hasn’t dated or talked to anyone since. Am I crazy or could we still happen maybe? Any advice? | Crushes |
So my friends gave me his girlfriends friends snapchat and she’s really pretty but I don’t know how to start talking to her without sounding creepy but I wanna talk with her and get to know her, also we don’t even rly know of eachother and I’m sure she doesn’t know who I am. | Crushes |
(throwaway just in case, y'know?)
I rarely ever get crushes. It's just not a standard experience for me. I could count the ones I've had on one hand. And I rarely ever *notice* when I have crushes; I always realize after the fact when I've moved on enough to be able to laugh about it. I can look back with rose-colored glasses to when I was unknowingly head over heels for the pretty blonde girl in my fifth grade homeroom or the boy in sophomore year with perfect comedic timing.
But this stupid boy. Christ.
We're not close. I tried, but unfortunately my eyes are too big for my mouth. I made promises I couldn't keep, and I don't judge him for being frustrated with me. I know people haven't been the best to him, and I don't think I'd really be that much better in the grand scheme of things.
But *he's* tried. When I told him I didn't think we'd be best off as friends because of my skittish and indecisive nature, he told me he wouldn't give up so easily. He said he thought I was just like him, and though I don't quite agree, the sentiment means a lot. He's just such a cool person and he's so *funny*. He's got that quiet type of voice that makes all jokes stand on their own weight and I love it. He has some of the prettiest hair I've ever seen, and I can't tell whether or not to be jealous lol.
I use his spotify playlists for music recommendations. They're perfect to put on shuffle so I'll discover bands I've never heard of and never knew I needed to listen to.
He thinks I'm a girl. I can't be fully open as trans at school because of safety concerns at home, but I'm out to my friend group. While I don't think all of them really grasp what being nonbinary is, they're all so kind to me and I appreciate it so much. But my circle only has the slightest overlap with his, and it's really fucking hard to come out. I don't know if he's homophobic, or transphobic, or anything of the sort, and I'm scared to find out.
He asked me out to prom on Tuesday. That was when I realized how huge of a crush I have on him. And it scares me.
I turned him down. You see, even if the gender and sexuality shebang was out of the question, the thing that makes me feel the most horrible about this whole thing is that he's my friend's ex boyfriend. I didn't even know they had broken up when he asked me; it was only a month or so ago and I was out of the loop. I can't believe that I've had a crush on who was at the time my friend's boyfriend. I feel like a scumbag even though I know it's not particularly controllable.
The last thing I want to do is make my friend uncomfortable. We may not be the closest of friends, but she is such a great person and she deserves the world. I understand it might not be the healthiest thing, but I will always put my friends' happiness and peace before myself.
That's about it. | Crushes |
So I am in a relationship, but I have developed a really big crush on someone else however he is engaged and we would never work out ahhh.
I know I shouldn't be having these feeling but it is literally impossible to not. We have also become really good friends and talk everyday on messenger and he offers to drive me to work a lot which is nice.
How can I accept that we will only ever be friends.. its kinda soul crushing atm | Crushes |
Not going to see them for another 12 days…. | Crushes |
I’m gonna wait for her to reply then say I like you | Crushes |
Ok so I had posted a reel on my story about a video with that CUPID song trend and I wrote "me and who 😻😔".
It was definitely my intention that he saw it or it get a reaction out of him lmao.
And he did 😭 he replied to it saying something along the lines of finding that song very relatable and he mentioned that he hasn't rly had a crush on any girls at his school bc none of them were Christian,, and he knows I'm Christian? I def found it sus that he said that knowing that I'm one 🗿 could that've been a hint that he's into me??? I don't wanna jump into conclusions buuuuuut 😭😭 | Crushes |
I’m on her close friends story and she posts pictures of her fit and I comment on it sometimes with 🔥 or something like that then one time I commented 🔥 and she replied back with 😍, then I did 😍 back to another story and she replied back with 🥰. I also said ur cute and she said thank u) then I said no problem💀ik that’s cringe and then she replied back with 🥰. But I think my friends are probably right, she wants to be friends and shit but I needa just give it a shot and say I like you in person tomorrow because we go on break in a week so she might forget if I get rejected | Crushes |
Ask me anything about my crush, and I’ll answer, to be honest I just wanna talk about her so- | Crushes |
Any ideas? | Crushes |
We work in the same place and we have all the same supervisors. Today I went in to look at my schedule and my supervisor stops me and says "I was talking to (crush) last night about prom and if she was gonna go with anybody, and your name came up. I think you should ask her before she asks you!".
She's my favorite supervisor and I trust her, but it sounds super out of character for her to just tell her boss who she's going to prom with. Idk. I'm just really happy. Where do I go from here? | Crushes |
Tell me about your crush! Maybe someone can help me with mine, plz DM. | Crushes |
I love him so much more than I could ever say. Every time I see him, my body trembles with excitement and my heart races. His looks alone are breathtaking. He has a head full of soft, brown hair that's always styled just right. I absolutely adore way his luscious brown hair frames his chiseled face and falls in lovely waves. His hair color is like rich, warm chocolate, and it complements his skin tone perfectly. It's like he's been kissed by the sun and blessed by the stars, and every strand of his hair is a work of art in itself, as every strand falls perfectly into place, as if crafted by the gods themselves. And then there are his eyes, those deep pools of dark brown that seem to hold the entire universe within them. His brown eyes are like deep pools of mystery, holding secrets that I long to unravel. I am hypnotized by their beauty, their intensity, their warmth. As I look into his deep brown eyes, I get lost in a sea of emotions, a tidal wave of love that crashes over me with every passing moment. And don't even get me started on his hands. They are the epitome of masculine beauty, with veins that seem to pulse with life and strength that could move mountains. Every time I see him, I am struck by his beauty and his charm. He is so incredibly cute, with a personality that is just as endearing as his physical appearance. His sense of humor is contagious, and he always knows just how to make me laugh, even on the darkest of days.
I love the way he listens to me, really listens, with his undivided attention. Like that time where he refused to eat his pizza and let it go cold because he wanted to listen to my voice and to just focus on me. Silly yet loving gestures like that are why I'm so in love with him. His voice is like music to my ears when he speaks, bringing me peace and tranquility. His sentences flow with a poetry-like rhythmic cadence that calms my soul every time he talks. I could listen to him speak for hours on end, lost in the beauty of his voice, enraptured by the emotions that he conveys. Even our calls, when we're miles apart, are like a lifeline that keeps me grounded and connected to him. It's like we're in our own little world, lost in our own conversations and inside jokes, and nothing else matters.
Even our texts. We could text for hours and never run out of things to say, and even the moments of silence feel like a warm embrace. He gives me butterflies in a way that I never thought possible. It's like every time we talk, every moment we spend together, my heart flutters with excitement and anticipation.
I love how he's patient with me, always willing to listen and help me find my way. With him, I feel like I can be my true self, imperfect and flawed, but still worthy of love and acceptance. He's helped me grow and learn, to become more confident and comfortable in my own skin. I stutter and hesitate a lot when I speak, my words tripping over each other in a jumbled mess. But he's always there to listen, to help me find my way through the maze of my own thoughts. He never judges me or makes me feel small, even when I struggle to express myself. His patience is unwavering, even when I'm at my lowest, or going through a terrible BPD episode. I love how he makes me feel, how he brings out the best in me. With him, I feel like I can be myself, completely and unapologetically. He accepts me for who I am, flaws and all, and I know that I can trust him with anything.
And when he's sad, my heart aches with his. It's as if his sadness seeps into my soul, and I can feel it weigh heavy on my chest. The world seems to lose its vibrancy and color, and all that's left is a dull gray hue. It's hard to see him like this, to watch the light in his eyes flicker and fade. He's the most precious thing in the world. The most important thing to me. My number one priority. And I want nothing more than to wrap my arms around him and hold him close, to be his shelter from the storm of emotions that stir within him.
He is the most lovely person I have ever met. His kind and caring nature never cease to amaze me. The way he shows his love and affection is beyond compare - always making sure that I'm happy and comfortable. He takes care of me in every way he can, whether it's by sending me cute reminders via text or voice messages, or just talking to me and listening to how my day was, or even sometimes what dreams I had. I've never felt this strongly for anyone before. He's shown me what it means to truly love and be loved in return. I just wish the distance wasn't keeping us apart. The depth of my feelings for him is indescribable - it's like a well that runs deep and never runs dry. I'm constantly in awe of his strength, his compassion, his intelligence, and his beauty - both inside and out.
He deserves the world, and I feel so lucky to be able to share even just a small part of it with him. Sometimes I can't believe that someone like him would be interested in someone like me. He's intelligent, driven, kind, and thoughtful. He has a heart of gold and is always willing to go out of his way to help others. When I'm talking to him, I feel so loved and confident. He has a way of making me feel like I'm the most important person in the world, and that's a feeling I've never experienced before. His mere presence is enough to brighten up my day and make everything feel better. But the truth is, he's way out of my league. He's the kind of person that makes you want to be a better version of yourself, to strive for greatness in everything that you do. I often find myself wondering how I got so lucky to have him in my life.
I've never felt this strongly for anyone before. He makes my heart skip a beat with just a glance, and I find myself daydreaming about him constantly. Sometimes, I'll lay in bed, staring at the ceiling, thinking about him, and then smile uncontrollably like an idiot. He's always on my mind, and I wouldn't have it any other way. I even dream of him every single night. Sometimes, we're exploring new places together, holding hands and laughing. Other times, we're just cuddled up on the couch, watching our favorite movies. No matter what the dream is about, he's always there, and it's always perfect.
Yet somehow, in some way, even after all of the words I've written and no matter how many more sentences I write, no languages, no paragraphs, no sentences, no words, nothing could even come close to expressing how much I love him. And though distance may keep us apart, my love for him will never fade. I'll love him forever and always, until the end of time, and nothing could ever change that. | Crushes |
I don’t know what’s happening but I feel like I’m being friendzoned by her for some reason. | Crushes |
we hung out a couple days ago and i said fuck it and finally made a move on him by holding his hand as we were going home. he was really shy about, but he seemed fine, and texted me after and said he was sorry for being awkward (not like i care, i think it's cute) and that he'd 'make it up to me next time'..... guys this is how you get someone on the hook lmao. i've been thinking about him nonstop for days and i feel like a ditzy high schooler. after so much disappointment in my life lately (not even necessarily romantically) it's just been so nice to finally have someone reciprocate my affection :3 let's hope this goes somewhere lol | Crushes |
He’s been talking to his friends about how he has a crush on me but doesn’t know what to do because I’m 17 and he just turned 19 (idk why he’s stressing) we’ve stopped talking and he’s been talking about me since yesterday. His band just released a new song will it be weird and pointless to text and say I like the new song. Idk wether to reach out again or leave him alone lol he keeps liking my instagram stories | Crushes |
I (F17) had one of the biggest crushes I have ever felt in my LIFE so far and it’s with a friend.
Ever since we first met, I have had the BIGGEST CRUSH on her (F17) until 2 months ago. I honestly could never get her off my mind and I just love being around her. She brightens up my day SO MUCH. Over the following months, we had gotten closer as friends and to this day I don’t think she knows I had a huge crush on her. If she does then she’s good at hiding it. I’m also not describing what made me fall for her cuz I don’t want to feel like that towards her again.
During the first few weeks we got to know each other the topic of dating came up and she stated that she had no interest in dating. This broke my heart, but I just dealt with it cuz what am I gonna do about that? It’s her opinion. So the following months we got closer as friends, but once my friend group found out that I had a crush on her they told me to get over her. The reasoning they had was that although she doesn’t know if she’s gay or not, she wasn’t even interested in dating and so that I should just give up. I get where they were coming from, but I really just did not want to.
But then I kept thinking about it the following weeks while hanging out with her and in some way I did eventually get my feelings towards her to somewhat disappear. So I thought if my feelings are gone then we can just be friends. And my feelings have been on the low side so I thought that this was progress.
Now here’s the part where I’m just confused, me and her are super close friends now and I wouldn’t change that for the world but time from time again I would think about my feelings for her and think about what about her made me fall for her. And here I am on Reddit venting about my past feelings for a close friend of mine. I still haven’t confessed to her btw.
I honestly don’t know what to do. I hope that my feelings will go away so we can just be friends. I really love her company platonically as well. | Crushes |
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am conflicted and don't know what to do and just want to tell someone and get advice and stuff and I don't know. Plz DM me!!! | Crushes |
Hello i have been talking with this guy for a year. Well i wouldn’t say a year. Last year we were talking but then stopped because i found out he still liked his ex. After that sad moment i tried to move on thinking he didn’t like me anymore and just dated someone to get it off my mind but the relationship only lasted abt 2 months. I told my ‘crush’ this and he said wow i didn’t know you liked me that much, and now we just laughed about it after. I tell him i don’t like him bringing up my past like he doesn’t like me bringing up his.Now this year he we finally reconnected and like each other. We have made good memories with each other and both like each other very much. Last night i was on the phone with him. And he was mentioning something about his friend being desperate for a girl. After he says this remark he mentions i was desperate for him because i couldn’t move on from him and still likes him til this day even when i tried dating someone else. He laughed and i’m pretty sure he was just saying it to tease me but idk i didn’t find it funny, and i don’t want him to think i’m THAT desperate for him. Am i overreacting for thinking it’s not funny? | Crushes |
I've been reading through a lot of questions and comments and noticing that quite a few of the people asking for advice are on the younger side compared to me (I'm not old, mid 30s). It feels really odd to hear myself say "I have a crush" because for some reason it feels juvenile. I don't why. But here's the thing...I do have a crush. We have known each other since high school through mutual friends and sometime in our 20s, I don't remember when exactly, I had a crush on him and I told him. At the time, he shut me down saying he only liked me as a friend. I accepted the humiliation and made no further attempts. Fast forward to now, after he and I lost touch for some years and been through our share of failed relationships, I randomly saw a post of his on it and just decided to message him to say hi and catch up. I didn't feel anything romantic then. That was a year and a half ago, now there's definitely a crush. He's really laid back, easy to talk to, funny, smart, and I've even given him a nickname because of his personality, "Teddy". We have somethings in common but not a ton. We both love HP, food, anime, bad dating history with similar issues, ect. I live an hour away from him as he still lives in our hometown but we do still hang out when I come into town which is actually pretty often. It's only an hour, after all. I introduced him to my tattoo artist and a couple of my friends who work at the shop, we've had a movie night. There was a day that we spent at the shop while he got another tattoo and we'd previously made plans to go out to eat afterwards, which we did. He paid for my food, there was zero hesitation. He just did it. I have really bad anxiety, I'm horrible at reading signs, and I even behave oddly sometimes due to my anxiety. We never discussed anything about who would be paying and I felt weird about it because I didn't want him to think I just made him pay or something, idk my brain works in weird ways sometimes, so I sent him the cost of my portion through cashapp. We do talk a lot but here's one of the biggest problems, he's suffering from depression right now. He is being treated but we all know depression isn't an easy thing. He's the type that when his depression is really hitting him hard, he falls off the face of the earth until it lightens up a little bit so there are times when we go from talking all day every day to MAYBE one message a week. I miss talking to him during those times and all I want is to do something to make him feel less bad, whatever it is that may help. I also suffer from depression but it presents differently in me. I can cover mine up unless I've had a manic episode and I "bottom out". That's the only time I can't conceal it. I never thought that I would be his type and I actually got curious one day and asked him what his type was, he replied that he didn't have a type, he dates whoever he clicks with. I want to be with him so bad and I know his depression is a red flag but that's not something he can control and going silent is the only toxic thing he does because of it. I want to be with him, I want to make him happy. I just want him. But I've already been rejected by him once and I don't wanna ruin our friendship by revealing my feelings to him a second time. It's also hard for other reasons, too. I don't get to talk to him during his "silent" times because...well...he's silent. And even if I found out that he also had feelings for me (he's shy too), my self confidence is so low its basically in hell. I have an autoimmune disease and I've had to have countless surgeries as treatment and as a result, I have some very noticeable very hideous scarring on my body and I've unintentionally convinced myself that there is nobody who would be attracted to me because of the way I look. I've said so much and I've yet to even ask a question, I think that's because I'm needing to vent along with getting advice. I just wish I knew how to move forward with him... | Crushes |
Have a crush on a girl, liked her since around October, have spoken to her about my exes before that’s probably the most I’ve ever spoken to her about my love life. I need some sort of encouragement bc I don’t think I have a chance at all | Crushes |
I went on a long field trip with my (18f) crush (18m) and our other friend K (18f).
The field trip went pretty well between us and even if he doesn't like me romantically we are definitely good friends.
The issue is however was when we were sitting around talking and K was talking about how much she loved her new stuffed animal that she got from the gift shop, when crush showed a picture of ex? who I'll call M, and some stuffed animals he got her. I then asked if they were just friends or if they dated when crush replied " I really don't want to talk about it..." I didn't want to overstep boundaries or anything so I just said, "that's ok" and changed the subject.
I have posted similarly about M because last year, near the end of the school year. We had run into M and he was very friendly towards her, so I asked him then if they were dating, and he said they were just friends. Earlier this school year however he referred to her as his ex, and stated how he really misses her. It is important to note that over the summer M moved to Florida (several states away) and I believe that crush no longer has contact with her.
If he is hung up on her does that mean I have no chance with him?
I really can't tell if he just likes me as a friend or not... Whenever something funny happens he immediately looks at me and smiles (and he doesn't do that with K). And for the whole field trip we were pretty much right next to eachother. He also let me play on his switch and wants me to get splatoon 3 so we can play together. He recently has been walking me to my locker and out to the busses at the end of school (even though he doesn't have a locker and could just leave immediately) I also believe that recently he has been specifically waiting for me so he can do this, and he tried to pass it off as "I just decided to take the long way today".
Alternatively though, he has alot of female friends (completely non romantic) so it wouldn't be unusual for him to just be being friendly. Also he doesn't look at me often, which seems to be a big sign if someone likes you or not.
If he does like me, would he be more hesitant to ask me out or to prom because of his complex relationship with M? Do you guys have any ideas on what may have happened between them? Does it seem like he even likes me as more than a friend? Any imput at all would be appreciated
Tl;dr
had fieldtrip went well but crush said he doesn't want to talk about whether he was just friends or dating a girl who has since moved away. And I can't tell if he likes me as more than a friend | Crushes |
Not only did she decline my offer to go to the school dance with me, but then she pours salt on the wound by telling me of the guy's into and it isn't me. After she held hands with me and let me lean my head on her shoulder, it was just false hope.
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I can never win. | Crushes |
She said yes | Crushes |
I wasn’t gonna talk about this but maybe venting about it to strangers will help me move on.
It turned out for several months as we were getting to know each other, she was looking through all of my Reddit posts, and she even somehow got a hold of my alt account when I started posting on that instead.
She knew everything I had to say or even think about her. The good, the bad, everything. I had a feeling it was happening but at the same time it felt so absurd that I just ignored it. It felt like such an invasion of privacy, as well as creepy and maybe even a little obsessive.
A part of me feels like that’s the reason why I felt like she hardly cared or even liked me. I always wondered why she never bothered to really question or have talks with me about our feelings toward one another. She already knew. She said the posts didn’t really change her view on me, but I think it did, subconsciously at the very least.
She apologized, but basically told me that *I* had to be the one to hide all that from her. That’s just absurd. She went out of her way to find my account, and CONTINUED to look at it.
It just, I dunno. It’s been a couple of months since she’s revealed that to me and things just fell apart between us. I doubt we’ll even be friends ever again.
I’m sharing this because maybe venting about this experience will help me move on. I figured I’d give whoever’s reading this some advice so they don’t have to deal with what I had to deal with as well.
Just, be careful. Make sure that whatever you post online cannot be easily found by certain people. Especially do not post to an account that has the same name as like a game username or something, that’s how it happened for me. Some people might be crazy enough to spend time to actively search for even hidden things. Try and alter aspects of the stories and whatnot you’re sharing, and definitely don’t use real first names, ages, classes, etc. Maybe change up unimportant aspects of the story too. Anything to throw them off.
If she is reading this, then… I don’t know. I’m just disappointed if she is I guess. | Crushes |
I posted the story about my crush liking me back the other day but I post this to ask a question that I'd appreciate some opinions on. Does she really like me back or does she just feel bad?
Short context is I was sick with covid and still sad about the fact that my crush had a BF now. Those 2 combined made me snap so I was typing all of my feelings, everything I ever wanted to tell her in our dms, not actually planning to send them to her but she caught my typing for so long and asked me what it was. Eventually she told me that if I shared what I wrote she'd tell me her darker secrets so I was easily influenced.
Sure I could have lied I know but I wouldn't have forgiven myself if I did. Anyways one of the paragraphs I said something along the lines of "I know I didn't have a chance to begin with but blah blah"
She told me reading what I wrote made her happy and that she really wanted to tell me something she's been hiding but didn't want to hurt me more. I told her to just tell me anyways cause whatever it was, it would probably help me move on. I was expecting her to say "Yeah I'm sorry but you're right, you didn't have a chance" not that mean sounding but something like that. She ended up saying the opposite, if she had known that this is how I felt then she would have dated me.
I have no reason to believe this is a lie because if she truly thought it was going to hurt me then I don't see why she'd lie about it. Here's some other things she said to me. I'd post the pictures of the texts but I don't think it lets me.
"I'm not lying. I mean, having to know you for so long, being so comfrotable with you, you knowing me and my dark secret. I know I would have given you a chance, but right now I'm in a relationship with (we'll call him Andre)
"Honestly, dating Andre is a little hard, doubts are there, but he tells me he loves me and stuff. But it's different when If it would have been you, because I know there wouldn't be doubts."
"you have a really good loving heart lol, and you fit all my expectation SURPRISINGLY. I'm choosy but your heart overpowered it so be confident 🤣"
Here I asked her what she was referring to when she said she had told her sister.
"About my feelings for you. I told her, I wouldn't date you because I see you too much as my brother, but because I was dating Andre already, It felt wrong for me to say that I would consider dating you because I understood better on how you felt lol"
Anyways sorry for the looong post but if anyone can drop their opinion on whether or not she actually "liked me back" because I just don't know and would like to on the off chance she ever becomes single again. Before anyone says yeah I know she says she would date me but judging from these texts I'm asking does she like me back though | Crushes |
I've noticed a change in behaviour from my friend and some of the signs lead to maybe he likes me... or maybe he's not wanting to even talk as friends? It's confusing. He's very extroverted, loud and confident - he used to be like that around me and my friend group all the time, but now he's changed when he's around me. With other people he's still the same, very sociable, but it's just around me his behaviour's changed. He's started to avoid initiating conversation - I have to be the one to initiate conversation. Whilst in conversation he seems very awkward and I tend to have to carry the conversation along, ending up in small talk because I'm not so confident with social situations. He does ask plenty of questions to me, for example he asked me how a class went or how my day was or if I was cycling or walking home. Still acting awkward and I can't tell if it's because he likes me or just doesn't want to talk.
In our friend group he will still be his very extroverted self, and whilst we'd talk less one-on-one he would make eye contact with me much more than others in the group. If I'd go out of sight for a brief moment or something he'd ask "where's \[my name\]?". Sometimes when he wants to talk to me or share an opinion with me he'd stand very close. He also offers his help, if I need it.
It's confusing me slightly - the awkwardness to not initiating conversation to the eye contact and other signs. Thanks in advance! :) | Crushes |
i started talking to this boy a few weeks ago. he reached out to me and told me i was attractive and i said the same thing back. we started talking after, day and night literally until like 4:00 am for days. one day he had work and told me he’d text me after but he never did so i’m confused. whenever i post a selfie he likes it( idk if this means anything) and he even added me to his close friends story 3 days ago. it’s stupid but i can’t stop thinking about him and idk if i should leave it or not. | Crushes |
So recently I was in a conversation where my crush was there too.The most smart girl of my school was also there, we just met her and I know she's a good.and my friends say that she has no interest in dating,anyway .my crush and her known eachother for a few years.they went to same course and they were in same class in the course
i am kinda shy so i was not really active on chat but luckily they didnt make meel outcasted.anyway.
what i realized was that he was making fun of her but not in bad way,he was more comfortable talking to either that girl or with her friend.
Is it normal for them to be close even though they're not very close since they've known that girl for a long time?how can i understand if he cruhes her..
btw i met with him this year, i was a new girl in a school,and he started to know me 2 months ago ig.
btw i kinda know he has no interest on me,but taking antideprresant makes me feel more confidentn and finally I can make eye contact with him and have a little conversation.and we will be in same class this year.omg i talked so much im sorry <33333333333333im just confused | Crushes |
Now granted, it was in a strange situation. I told her, “No, Sydney, I would not beat up a group of eight year olds if they were to swarm you.” And she said “I love you, but you’re not a real one.” I laughed, and then I realized what she said. I wondered if she meant that in a friendly way, or if it was Freudian slip. Either way we got over it, and the rest of the night was normal. She seemed a lot more comfortable standing next to me. I also didn’t move away when we touched arms or legs this time.
She also texted me like an hour ago asking if I was busy, and I wanted to say no so bad, but I actually really am with school work.
REMEMBER FELLAS, EDUCATION BEFORE CRUSHES | Crushes |
Ok so this girl didn’t post any stories yet do I wait or what ?do I text her to get a convo I was thinking I was gonna send a goofy pic of a bad haircut and ask openion on if it’s fresh or nah. | Crushes |
So there is this google forms where I can see previous responses and I saw my crush's name in the name section. I am desperate to get her phone number and email, but there are like a 100 responses in the phone number and email portion of the responses. Luckily they were all required and none to seem to be N/A. The problem is that I don't know which phone number and email is hers since I am unable to get individual responses. I tried to find some way using forms / sheets api to attempt to extract the responses individually, but it seems like this method is impossible. My only thought of this was to ask the owner of the forms directly to get the response so I emailed the owner of the google forms. At the same time, I didn't want the owner of the forms to know that it was me so I used a dummy account to send the email. When I received a response, the owner told me, "Who is this?" and I have no idea how to respond the owner back. I also didn't want to put my crush's name in it because I am afraid the owner will try to email her or call her to verify that it is her. Is there a way that I can have a good response back to the owner and have the owner give me access to see the individual responses of the form or a method to extract individual responses from the google form?
Edit: I can't see her for a while since she went online and she doesn't seem to have any social media accounts that I can contact her. | Crushes |
So my [17M] crush [16F] has not been at school or answered my calls or texts since Monday. I was getting worried about her so I called her up dad who told me she never came home on Monday. He told me there have been search partys and that the police have been searching for her as well but she hasn't showed up yet.
I hope to god she is okay. If she isn't I don't know if I could even go on. What should I do about this? | Crushes |
This is a long read. So, there is a summary of it in the end, with the question.
Ok. There is this girl who I've been crushing on for quite some time now, and these days, it wasn't easy for me to deal with that fact. I am pretty much certain she is not into me. I overheard a conversation between two of our friends, about her having dumped a guy last year who confessed to her, but then she regretted it and is crushing on him back now. That would seal the deal, right? This guy who said it is a long time friend of mine, and he knows I am into her. He didn't hesitate to talk about the guy knowing I was there listening anyway, so I'm guessing he is trying to help me, by pushing me away before I get heartbroken, and I thank him for that. Going home, I got sad the rest of the day because of that, but then, I rised up again with more confidence after taking to time for me, myself and I. I am sure now that I want to move on from her. And I am feeling that this is the time. But, I've been having trouble with that lately. Some of our mutual friends said to leave it, some of our friends said it that I don't necessarily need to give up even if multiple people are after her, so since I've been having problems moving on, I decided to tell her about my feelings, because then I will be able to sleep at night knowing that I am finally over it. I know I am going to get rejected, but what I really want is to take it off my chest, and I think I am ready for the pain. I would like to still keep the friendship though. She is a very polite, shy and friendly girl, I'm sure she'll understand, even if it gets awkward at the start. And I really hope that she is happy with the one she wants. Either way, it's time to focus on me. Should I do it or should I just leave it alone?
Tldr: Gonna confess to my crush. I know she'll reject me, but I want to just get it off my chest and still keep the friendship. Should I tell her or leave it be? | Crushes |
My crush is very flirty, very physical and very attentive to my needs in a way that I don’t seen him treat others. We’re friends and I like him but he’s also just a very out going person so I don’t want to assume … the kicker we’re both boys (I’m gay. he’s confused )
We text just to chat everyday and we see each other very often. He’ll touch me very intimately (lower back, chest, thighs, feet) I’m mostly ok with it. He has pet names and nick for me. Last time I was over I was napping and I woke up to him tucking me in. We have a very domestic dynamic that I don’t see him have with anyone else especially his other male friends He called me “babe” at a kick back in front of his homies. It was a moment that he tried to move past very quickly and he acted like he slipped up.
My gut is telling me there’s more going on but he’s adamant there’s nothing. I’m just wondering if any of this sounds normal, especially between men. | Crushes |
I love my friend, she’s amazing and so beautiful, she have a perfect body and a pretty face. I started talking to my crush and I think that things are going well between us. She knows him because he was one of her old friends, yet she has him on her private story, and she post a lot of pictures of her looking absolutely stunning. I don’t know why, I hated that I felt that way, but I got a bit anxious regarding that, I mean he told me that he finds me beautiful and he likes my body although I’m over weight. I know I might sound insecure and jealous, but I felt that way because few years ago there was a guy who liked me and wanted to date me then he met her and I was there and he started talking to her and stopped talking to me. They started dating afterwards, -she didn’t know back then that he had feelings for me-. That situation made my confidence drop, I love her and consider her a family member. But, I’m feeling a bit insecure, what should I do? | Crushes |
Everyone in my class started shipping me with the most beautiful girl I have ever seen and I am acting like I don't like her like that when I'm with her but in our group chat I jokingly call her crush and tell her good night and good morning she is the class president so l call her miss president. One of the people I made friends with is one of her best friends and I think she likes me even miss president thinks that her best friend likes me. Please help me should I shoot my shot with miss president? BTW I am NOT that good looking (I am
chubby) | Crushes |
Background: I liked him and I texted him and then we got mad at each other. Now: so he goes to my school and I only have one class with him on B days. I see him through the halls only on B days and barely on A days.
But for the past days, idk if it’s a coincidence, but I’ve been running into him way more than usual. Like I saw in the morning walking to my class. I got right beside him while passing period. I see him in lunch and study hall. I see him in the hallway. We made eye contact a few times more than usual. Idk what’s going on with him. Does he like me, r is it that he can’t me off his mind since the text messages? | Crushes |
I just really need to gush bfbfjfdgjdhfbghf | Crushes |
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i really, really need some help with my crush.
so i've got this crush on this girl for about one and a half years now, and i think i am losing her. she's pretty shy and i've seen alot of changes in her behaviour towards me.
so last year i had her in my class for about 60% of the time, and since we are both relatively shy, we where pretty scared to talk to eachother. and i know this might not sound like she liked me, but she was kinda similar to me when it came to love. we would both easily talk to other people and have chats with them, but when it came to talking to a crush, we would both just fold. and since i can read people a little bit, i could see a change of behavouir when talking to me.
but this year, it's different. as school started again, i quickly found out that i only spend 3 to 4 hours a week in the same class as her. and i seriously don't know if she has moved on, or if she's taking more risk. she's been talking to me much more, and alot of you might think this is good, but now my mind is taking more spins than a ferris wheel.
and though school has only really started "like a week ago", i'm already more confused then last year. last year i knew pretty much that she liked me back, as she was less eager to talk to me then to all the guys in the same year. even her friends said that she's scared to talk to crushes, but this year just looks and feels off.
can you guys and girls give me advice on how to deal with this, because i'm lost. | Crushes |
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Im male 17 years old, 2 months and im 18. when i was like 15 years old, i confessed my love to a girl, when i got rejected i got to knwo that i never had feeling it was just, why everyone falls in love and not me thing, and i got to know i just found her cute. fast forward a year, i see this girl who gave me a feeling that i should be with her till death. i confessed my love to her, she friendzoned me.
BUT the funny part is i never heard a small story of some girl liking or finding me attractive.
why is this? | Crushes |
ok so I don’t remember the entire dream but I do remember being somewhere (school I think?) at one point in the dream. What’s weird was that I didn’t see my crush in the dream but like, I could “feel” her energy. I could feel her presence when walking around but I didn’t see her ONCE. This probably doesn’t mean anything but I just wanted to share lol. | Crushes |
So, I’m pretty shy around girls and stuff, more introverted, from Australia (now in the us) play soccer. any chance or no? | Crushes |
not sure if this is the best sub for this
15f i know she likes girls and she knows i like girls too, but i didnt really care. my other friend thinks she likes me by the way she looks at me? i find her attractive but i dont have a crush on her.
i noticed that shes been acting kind of weird recently towards me, as in she stares at me much more during class over two seats. we recently changed our seating, and she used to be was beside me. i sometimes would feel her staring at me for long periods of time and smiling, but i assumed she was looking at the sky and ignored it or just turned and grinned back.
shes kind of private? im not really close to her i think. she has a friend group but from what i see they leave her out, maybe not intentionally?other than that i dont know if she talks to anyone else. we have similar personalities and weve had great convos before. the only problem is that shes hot and cold, one day shell go up and talk to me and itll be fine but the other shell ignore me and pretty much everyone else for no reason. i dont really text her but when i do, she leaves me on delivered a lot, even though shes always on her phone. most of my other classmates ive talked to see her as bitchy or closed off, but shes really friendly and nice when she wants to. im not sure why she does that but im chill enough to just go eh okay. shes really cute when she goes on tangents and starts gushing about things, also when she glares at random people walking past. maybe because shes 145cm and im 162cm. shes kind of like a moody cat sometimes hehe sorry past the unneeded details
i think she kinda had a good reason to act like this when these happened, but
1. we were sitting with our other friend and i shifted my chair towards her to get closer, but i wasnt looking in her direction and my knee went kinda into her thigh. i quickly said whops sorry lol and moved a bit backwards, but she was blushing kind of hard and we ignored it.
2. we were play fighting violently and snatching a pencil case when our forearms touched and she paused to stare at it, then the eye contact and mood was kinda awkward?? we were normal when we wrestled before, though
3. her hand accidentally pressed into my left boob once while we were holding a paper and she froze during our awkward eye contact. i laughed it off but she was embarrassed and kept glancing at me for the rest of the day
4. i was fixing my hair and wondering why she was staring at me for so long when i realised she was blanking into my shirt sleeve. i just stared back at her and when she realised she quickly just stumbled back to the front. | Crushes |
I’m sure you guys heard this story before. But anyways; there was this girl I was friends with since we were children. We stopped talking at some point, but then we had the same class last school year, and we started talking again. From there on out, I began to have feelings for her (even though I didn’t want to), and we started texting a lot. But once school stated again, it’s been so weird between her and me, and I would feel ghosted by her. At some point, I texted her saying that I’m sorry if I bothered her too much. She later told me that she knew I liked her, saying that she didn’t expect me to like her and always saw me as a friend, and telling me that she wasn’t feeling ready for a relationship right now, explaining some of her bad experiences. Of course, I was very hurt, but I told her if maybe I could still wait till you’re ready (bs, I know; don’t judge me), just wanting to be hopeful. My friend said she’ll think about it. But now, recently, she texted me that she just met this other guy last Saturday, and how she just wants to be friends. And now, I’m hurt so much, feeling like I wasn’t good enough for her, physically or otherwise. Tbh, I thought I had a good chance with her; we talked about a whole lot, have similar music tastes, both kinda weebish, and I have some physical traits that she finds attractive in guys. It pains me to let her go, but I just don’t think I could still be friends with her if I wanted something more. I still hope that things don’t work out with the new guy, but that sounds selfish, huh? It still hurts now. | Crushes |
i love how reddit is practically anonymous. so i guess im spilling my innermost feelings here.
i don’t know how i feel about you. i loved you for 3 years. butterfly inducing, heart pounding, in-awe staring crush on you. i finally, FINALLY managed to get over you. 3 horrible years of crying over someone who’ll never love me back, no more pain of overthinking that we ever had a chance.
well. you’re now my best friend. you no longer give me those nerve wrecking feelings. no more crazy obsession over you. no more thoughts of you in my dreams or my day dreams. you make me so comfortable. even on bad days, you make me so happy. i look back on our pictures and videos, just as we separated ways. i smile like a complete idiot, without even noticing. you are the type of guy i wish i had. because you’re one of a kind, one i never want to let go. sometimes, i’m secretly happy people dm me saying we look cute together no matter how much i deny it.
i don’t know how i feel about you. my crush is over. my obsession is over. but i cant bear seeing you with a new girl. i know sometimes you tell me you find this girl cute. i feel fine. but i’m not sure how i’ll feel when you actually get one. i’m scared. i’m scared we won’t be able to hang out like we always do. i’m scared we won’t go home the same way and part ways at the fork of the road, when we only live across the road from each other.
i don’t know if i’m happy how far our friendship came, or i’m feeling like this because i love you and i don’t want to ever accept it, in fear of becoming the same in pain girl 3 years ago, ruining our friendship. | Crushes |
I have a hard time moving on. I once had a secret crush on a guy, for 7 years *(ik)* who didn't like me back and who I considered a total flirt.
But things changed when COVID hit and that distance pit a wedge in my feelings. I *(F15)* then moved schools and found a refreshing new surrounding. A year passed and then I met this guy *(M15)* from a class. He was really funny, nice, kinda weird and encouraging, and WICKED cute in my opinion despite everyone else thinking he was ugly. Months passed and I started to develop a crush on him, and from the looks of how he interacted with me, I was 98% sure he liked me back.
But after a new semester started, I didn't share anymore classes with him, barely got a chance to talk to him, and it was really disheartening. 10 months have passed and I still really like him, but I'm 92% sure he doesn't like me anymore, if he did at all *(and ik that's just how it is, I mean, we all move on).* And ik I should too, but it's hard. Because I really want to like him and I want him to like me and I want to spend time with him and learn more about him and I really miss him. But I was a chicken and I didn't try to make any moves because I'm emotionally crippled in the sense I am terrified of being vulnerable with people I like.
Anyway, I know I should move on. It's been more than 10 months, he clearly doesn't seem to like me, and there's no point in holding onto that. But there's always this little spark of hope in my heart that maybe a chance will arise in the future for us to become something. This guy I'm talking about seems like the kind of person who doesn't like to be vulnerable, kinda like me, which is HILARIOUS because I ALWAYS develop crushes on people who are emotionally unavailable.
It's come to a point where every little thing reminds me of him and I'm like "this has got to stop". The hyperfixation has kicked in and I don't want to be stuck in another unrequited crush that lasts for the rest of highschool. But the moments that I don't think about him as much, suddenly he shows up and I feel my mind go blank. For example: yesterday in class I was sitting there, talking to my friends, my heart not feeling heavy, when suddenly WHO walks in but my STUPID CRUSH, despite this class not even being his, and he strides over to his friends and they talk for five minutes before he leaves.
Like what the heck?
Another example: I'm leaving lunch when I'm walking upstairs. Whose in front of me but my crush and his two friends. I kept going up the next flight of stairs, but not before I made eye contact with my crush as he waited by the doorway for his friends. That was enough to make my heart thump.
UGGHH. I hate this.
It's as if the world is trying to keep my mind fixated on him. I want to move on, and yet I don't want to. It's all so confusing. I just want to get out of this limbo, whether it means I move on or something happens and I get another chance. | Crushes |
Recently I met this woman. She is an amazing woman, is very kind, easy and fun to talk to, adventurous, a hard worker, motivational to people around her. I really think she is amazing and I am kind of shocked she is entertaining herself with me tbh. I am starting to feel like maybe I'm falling in love with her. I imagine her with me when I'm trying to fall asleep. Last night I found myself looking at engagement rings. I really do feel a sense of peace and home with her and have imagined her in my future. The thing is, I haven't known her very long at all, like a month and a half. And I am one of the first people to say don't get married so soon after meeting someone blah blah (to make it clear, I don't plan on proposing to her soon but I can see us dating and me doing it in a year and two. which is kind of bizarre because I think I had shut the door of love in my heart. I didn't even feel like I was the person who was allowed to have a relationship and get married. I still kind of don't. But I find myself thinking about it and we have even spoken about it a bit)
Maybe I am wanting people to tell me this is obsession not love and I am just in the beginning stages of getting whipped around by a new thing. It's important to add that I am a lesbian and this is one of the first girls I have talked to and I haven't been with a girl still. This was after about fifteen years of denial and trying to be straight and no real sexual or romantic fulfillment. So I was worried that because of that, I am making everything bigger in my head. I care about this girl a lot and I want to make sure I am always coming from an honest, mentally stable place. I don't want to project my pain and issues around women into this connection, building her up as my dream wife and eventually hurting her when I come down from it. But part of me also thinks, maybe she just is my dream wife... I do have to admit there are a lot of little things about our connection that make it seem like fate. I do have to admit that I get this feeling of peace when I talk to her. She also makes me want to be a better person so I feel more deserving of her.
I have talked to her a bit about after what I have gone through in life and how its hard for me to trust my own feelings. I spent years trying to convince myself I was straight so now there is part of me that says what if I am just trying to convince myself that she is "the one" because I am just so over the moon to be talking to this woman and the potential we could have. Sometimes I feel like a hurt child who has never experienced love or much compassion even, so any of that would make me go overboard and get hearts in my eyes. I don't want to do that because I want to take the relationship seriously and I want her to take me seriously. But I also don't want to be overly judgmental of my feelings and reject the possibility that it could be real love because of what I think of myself and my feelings on love. Does that make sense? Thanks in advance for any advice. | Crushes |
I’m not going to say mine here, because I’d rather not, but I’d love to hear yours! | Crushes |
I have a crush on a girl, lets call her R. We text each other a lot and have much fun. When we meet its the same thing and we go along really good. I really do love her and she is the most beautiful und cute girl on the world for me. I would do anything for her.
But here is my problem: Her signs couldn't be more confusing. When we meet, we usually end up cuddling or at least holding hands and it feels completly normal and (i think) we both enjoy a lot. I think so cause she is mostly the one to begin holding my hand or something like that.
Its the same when we text each other. My mental state wasn't really good the last weeks and she was there for me and listens to, but then there are this days where I think she doesn't she isn't interested at all. We do not text much and she needs like 4h to respond.
I dont know if she likes me at all or if she's just nice to me... | Crushes |
I replied asking why his culture is so good at socializing.
Time to LOL hard and tease him.
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update: okay we’re gonna make him watch anime and get into internet of my country. | Crushes |
I sometimes dream more than one dream about him per sleep, sometimes just one long dream. I’m fortunate that I remember a lot of my dream afterwards. Do you ever tell your crush that you dream about them? Should you? | Crushes |
this guy.....idk what kinda person he is
its confusing......ik he likes me just as a friend and treats me like he treats everyone else but
so tdy i was just walking home with friends and i was kinda walking slowly alone lol and all the friends were in the front...i was talking to my dad and my dad said smtg that ruined my mood...?myb that was visible in my face lol
he asked me " what's wrong?...u look tensed"
OMGGGG I JUST LOVED IT WHEN HE ASKED THAT
LIKE 😭🥺😭🥺😭🥺😭🥺😭🥺🥺😭
and i was like no m not that's just how i look lol | Crushes |
My friend, lets call her g, recently started dating a boy called, lets say k. K has had a history with another girl and he sexually assaulted her and she could have taken him to court but she decided not to. So since my friend doesn't have reddit she asked me to make this post concerning what she should do in this situation. Btw before she started dating him she made it clear with him that he wouldn't do it again, but as they say old habits never change. Thanks for any advice in advance. | Crushes |
I had a dream with my crush but it turns out that I was pregnant with his kid so I decided that I should confess to them today. Really nervous about today because I don’t know how he’ll react but I just need this weight of my shoulders. I don’t even expect them to like me back even or to start dating. I want them to know how I feel about them. Wish me good luck everyone I’ll update everyone later on | Crushes |
I've thought a lot about the overall aspect of things and how many people view things differently.
Sometimes it kind of just sucks when you remember that not everyone could be as.. neutral as you, does that make sense?
Of course, different people have different things to consider and some aren't open to bending their values for someone who's close to their ideal lover yet not quite.
But when it comes to simple things like a persons visual appearance, height, wealth level and so on and so forth, I feel like those things kind of fly past your mind the moment you have feelings for someone.
I mean, I don't know about you, but when I started liking my crush it wasn't caused by anything particularly specific.
One day I just had feelings for him and it was undeniable.
Of course he's somewhat handsome, not the kind of handsome that people here would necessarily be attracted to, but the pretty kind of handsome. It's subtle, not inherently obvious sparkly eyes or beautiful lips or refined nose, he's just--pretty in a simple way.
Still, I didn't like him for that reason alone, if I did, it would have taken me much less time to like him.
Much like any other person, I sort of have an ideal type too, it's not something I view seriously, just a few perks here and there that I think would be nice if I found in a person.
Does that mean I would deny every human being that doesn't exactly fit that standard? No.
At the end of the day, I think, when you like a person, you just do.
Maybe you want someone taller or someone with some particular features, but when you end up liking someone, those things don't really cross your mind.
At least that's how I am, I don't know about others.
Maybe that's why it kind of puts me in a sad corner when I think about my crush.
Are they the person that fits my ideal type? Not inherently, no.
But do I like them nonetheless? Yes, very much so.
Is there a possibility that they may view things the same way as I do?
I don't know.
That's what keeps me thinking a lot.
I'm willing to accept every flaw of theirs, and in general, everything about them.
If it means that they'll be by my side in this sad world, i'd be happy to carry whatever weight that comes with being their partner.
Would they want me though?
Would the thought of being with me ever cross their mind?
I don't know.
It's somewhat agonizing in a way.
Liking someone so much, yet having no real clue if you'll ever get a chance to be with them.
Longing and longing and longing for them to show even the slightest bit of interest.
Perhaps he's just subtle.
Perhaps I observe too intently.
Is it wrong?
I can't help but to feel such longing when I see him.
I keep dreaming and dreaming of a day where I may look his way one day and know that he's mine.
That when he looks back at me, he'll smile, the world around us oblivious to our feelings.
But will day ever come?
I don't know.
Would he settle for someone like me?
Does he think i'm someone worth paying any mind to?
I don't know.
I don't know.
I don't know.
It's a pain.
If he knew just how sincere I am about my feelings,
Would he want me?
If above everything that he may not want, that I may be, lies something sincere,
Would he want me? | Crushes |
yep cool maybe i shouldnt try so hard when all he does is let me down omfg. Like i kee trying to hard to talk to him and yk show my appreciation but UGH im gonna kms i know hes not worth my time and all but i love him sm (subject to change) | Crushes |
What does it mean if, I female, and my male best friend, sometimes snuggle up to each other and sometimes he kisses me on the neck and head. Last night he kinda felt up my thigh. Can’t work out if I like him like that or the other way round. The kicker is this is only when we are quite drunk. | Crushes |
She's texting me at 2 in the morning why are we both still awake lol | Crushes |
So I have a crush on this girl and I just told me friends about it. (This was a couple weeks ago) Later today i discovered that she figured out I like her. I dont know what to do now please help me internet. | Crushes |
I might be overthinking this but I might have lost feelings for him.
I've liked my crush since 3rd grade (I'm a senior in HS now (12th grade)
He's super kind to me, he texts me first, he's respectful, he takes on my hobbies, he's *really* handsome, and honestly, he's all that I could ask for.
However, when I see him, I don't get butterflies in my stomach, when I see him in the halls, I don't look at him, I **avoid** him. He makes me really happy and doesn't display any major red flags to make me lose interest but I feel like that is happening.
I think it's because we only talk through messages, I haven't talked to him irl in years...
Is it because of that I've lost my interest in him? How would I light our spark again?
I'm quite the outgoing person and this has been bugging me a bit :( | Crushes |
We have been friends since middle school and we just have nothing to talk about. The other day we literally talked about how we don’t talk to each other like at all at school. We made a whole plan to talk at school too, it’s gotten that bad. I really want to still be friends and I think he does to because he said don’t be scared to just walk up to me at school. Idk it’s so awkward and I don’t really know what to do, but he also said that it’s only with me he doesn’t know what to talk about :/ | Crushes |
All of this happened a week ago but I was too lazy to type it out lol.
So the day I celebrated my birthday my crush decided to sleep over at my place and we both slept together in my bed. Overnight he held me close and we cuddled a lot, so when we were both cuddling together and were talking I asked him what's the deal between the two of us. He said he could imagine something serious and went on about how much he fell in love with me. I was overwhelmed by emotions and blurted out that I love him....he told me he loves me too and now we are dating!! We cuddled some more afterwards and I'm so happy that it finally worked out!!
Since then he's been texting me everyday to ask how my day was and we keep sending snaps on snapchat (I'm on vacation so we can't see each other for a while) | Crushes |
I usually find it easier to move on from a crush if they treat me like crap after I confess but harder to move on if they stay nice to me | Crushes |
Hurry and answer please!! I wanna talk to him :( I’m at a party and I just wanna talk to him | Crushes |
I’m in a friend group of 4 Jack, Max, Emily and me (fake names) and we’ve been friend for almost a year but we act like we’ve been friends forever, anyways school started last week and we me and Jack have lunch together and we also have lunch w this girl I’m kinda friend with les call her Kathy, Kathy is nice and funny but she gets kinda weird sometimes, last week at lunch the bell rung and Jack and I were gonna dap each other up cuz that’s what we do and he grabbed both my hands and pulled me across the table and as I’m leaving with Kathy cuz we’re going the same way she says “you and Jack would be cute together” and then this week, me and Jack are sitting next to eachother at lunch and Jack does this thing we’re if he’s next to you or behind u and you don’t know he’ll push you and be like “bro who did that?” (Only to ppl he knows) and I’m sitting next to him and Kathy is sitting across from me and Jack pushes me and goes “bro who did that I think my friend did that or something bro” and then Kathy gets on her phone and starts typing and then shows me a text saying “he pushes you now ur blushing” and Jack knows about what Kathy said the week prior so I show him a note on my phone saying “bruh she said I’m blushing 💀” I don’t think I was cuz sometimes I turn bright red sometimes cuz of rosacea and then he dapped me up again and pulled me again and Kathy js did a weird ass wink or some shit lmao and know I’m thinking sometimes like Jack is cute but idk I see him like a brother sometimes but idk I think I like him idk and now him and all my other friends want to know who I like 😭
AND MY SISTER, MY FRIEND FROM ANOTHER STATE AND LIKE 2 OTHERS THINK “they’d be cute” | Crushes |
So I have had this crush for a while and he has been honest with me saying that he went out with several girls despite being in only 4 serious relationships. He has been flirting with me for a couple of days and he told me that he is a loyal person whilst dating. But here's the thing, I am like 1900 miles away from him and have been cheated on in my past relationships. I told him I couldn't trust easily and he told me that I didn't have to, that he would earn it. However, whilst talking he mentioned talking with other girls and them asking him out on a date. Although he didn't go, it was because that girl had dated his friend. What should I do? I'm very confused.
Edit: I'm afraid he wouldn't be able to stay without going out on a date lol.
As silly as it sounds, I really need your opinion. | Crushes |
So this is a continuation on a rant I posted here recently but basically a girl I’m really into has a bf that she visits very rarely and portrays like she’s happier without him. I’d really like to take her out sometime and really get close with her but I’m just forever confused cause I can never rap my head around if I should try my luck or not. I’m leaving the city soon as well and I have no idea when I’ll be back which makes it worse. I’ve tried just having conversation and we’ve talked a little but I can feel that it’s getting a little dry and idk what to do. I’m not scared of rejection if she says no then I’ll just move on. But I’m really into her and I’d prefer the latter. So I’m just here forever thinking of a reply that will ask her out but at the same time be interesting and inviting. | Crushes |
Just curious for some answers | Crushes |
So basically a few months back (around jan/feb) I started liking this one girl who i knew in like year 5 but was kind of starting hanging out with again along with a few other friends and it did really seem like she liked me up until this kid that i pissed off (i dont remember how) he somehow knew that i liked her and decided to tell everybody in the whole goddamn school then we stopped talking and haven’t really spoken since and although this seems like a giant misunderstanding all i really want to do is apologize. Any advice? | Crushes |
I am absolutely in fucking love with someone at my school.
This isn't a "it's just a crush you'll get over him" kinda thing. It gets to the point where my whole day is ruined if he doesn't show up at school and I can't see his gorgeous ass face with his cute smirk. He volunteered to help fix my friend's computer today for a fee, and hearing this I was absolutely devastated because I want to talk to him so damn much but I literally never have the courage to talk to him.
This is going to sound so cursed but my crush on him gets to the point where I'd follow him discreetly around school to get his whole schedule, I'd observe what he eats for lunch every day, I'd take a peek at his address when I'm helping with passing out schedules. I'd feel hatred for everything he has come in contact with his beautiful fucking skin, because I wish that it was me. I cannot resist the urge to just stare at him, and I always find a way to include a piece of him on everything I make. Whether I draw a character for a school poster, and I'd engrave his initials as the character's pupils.
He knows I like him, and he doesn't know why. I value his happiness over anything else in the world, and I would give anything to befriend him and see him smiling every single day. My friends have tried to convince me to stopping liking him so much, but I can't. I don't care if we can't ever speak a sentence to each other. I don't care about anything except seeing him everyday. He is the only reason I still kind of look forward to going to school. I absolutely adore him. Whenever I have a dream about him, I'd refresh it in my mind for over months. Just like the dream I had last night where he was holding me in bed, smiling gently.
Phew. Got this off my chest. I know I sound like a total very mentally unhealthy weirdo and creep but I just needed to discuss this with someone. Thanks. | Crushes |
So today I told my friend I was gonna ask my crush out and for the whole day up until that moment we’ve been planning on what I should say.So we decided that i should just write a note and give it to him at the end of class BUT I backed out. I told one of my other friends that I liked him and she literally said it to where he could hear her and when I looked at him he looked at little angry at us…I completely give up,He hates me. | Crushes |
Do you ever just feel magic in the air? Like this moment is just too perfect? Imagine that for an entire night. It wasn’t so perfect to send off any alarm bells that say “this is too good to be true.” But it felt so so good. He was there, making me laugh and we were just getting closer and staring at each other all night. We decided to leave the bar and just talk and walk all over town. He took the time to touch me and even hug me.
I really needed a night like tonight :) | Crushes |
I want to apologize to her and leave her alone. I also want to tell the truth and explained what happened. I had gotten her number from a work list because I thought she was gone, but she was on vacation. I pretended to be someone and she found out two days ago. | Crushes |
I have another crush now, this time on a girl who sits next to me in art class. You see, we have assigned seats at the moment and we have about 3 weeks left until we can sit anywhere we want again. This girl is an extrovert, an open minded person. And she’s sort of friends with a couple of the most annoying Freshman (high school) I’ve ever seen (we are both sophomores). She has other (closer) friends in this class which means she will be sitting next to me until the shackles are breached. She is rather talkative to me for an acquaintance of mine. I’m a introverted, courageous piece of work. My “friends” are practically satellite’s. We talk sometimes but my anxious ass can’t accept the smallest bit of change. Opposites attract? This girl is extremely cute as well, her long luscious locks encompasses her beautiful eyes and poetic lips. Her personality is up for interruption in the future. I now have two crushes and both of them are way out of my league. Also, I can’t do anything to stop it. | Crushes |
Not too long ago, i decided to make a spotify playlist for him because i kinda wanted to share my music taste with him. after i sent him the playlist, he told me that he liked the smiths and this made me incredibly fucking happy because thats my favourite band! I cant express how happy i am that hes also a fan of that band!! This interaction kinda reminded me of that one very popular scene from the movie "500 days of summer" LMAO | Crushes |
hes dating his crush now :( | Crushes |
So long story short, I gave my number to this guy and told him he's cute. He actually texted me and now we agreed to go out for coffee next week! Kind of nervous and excited at the same time. I just hope he doesn't cancel on me last minute! This is NOT the guy from my last post. Different people. | Crushes |
Help | Crushes |
Basically there’s a guy who’s in my class and we have lectures and tutorials together. We make a lot of prolonged eye contact that can be definitely considered flirting. I am actually interested in the guy however, I do not know how to break this distance naturally, to be honest I would just go over and talk to him but it seems that this method might be coming on to strong or over barring. I only say this bc it’s worked somewhat in the past but nvr got me far tbh. It’s also quite intimidating to approach him in the lecture setting but I’m not apposed to doing so in our tutorials except for the fact that he always stays back and chats with the teacher so I don’t really get a chance to pull him away ykwim. But any ideas or just how I’m supposed to approach him for the first time? | Crushes |
context:
i kind of ignored them for a year because i did something embarrassing and lost feelings due to time. but i saw then again a few months ago and i decided that this was way too awkward.
so, i started waving at them but they kind of just stared at me??? but then this time after class they saw that i was in the other room and came to me to talk to me (i had to leave like right after that unfortunately but still lol).
i tried waving at them again to seem friendly but they just stared at me. then the next day they came to talk to me?? HELP THESE MIXED SIGNALS | Crushes |
How should I feel about it? What should I do?
Why would they crush on me? There is nothing attractive on me. I am way too talkative. I am way too crazy. Noone has ever crushed on me in my life. I have always crushed on someone, but I have awlays gotten rejected.
What should I think about that? What should I do? I came to the conclusion that noone will ever love me... but that is too depressing... right? | Crushes |
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