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So I got this woman whom I really like. I think I have already fallen for her, but there is a catch our age gap is really high like she's at the point of being ready to settle down in her life and have a family, and for me, I'm not ready for that. What should I do with my feelings should I confess or just let it slide and just move on? | Crushes |
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I went on an exchange about one year ago and met this amazing guy (who was also on exchange). We were both about the same age (we were both 21 at the time) and he was cute, friendly, funny, and before J could notice, I was falling for him. He was, and still is, my first crush and I just can't stop thinking abour him. Before we left, we went on a school trip and were paired in the same hotel room. I know it might be just some confirmation bias, but I never knew someone could be so attentive and caring.
Anyways, ever since I came back I didn't talk much to him. I follow him on aocial media and we exchange the ocasional likes, but nothing more than that. The problem is, every time I see something from him, I get butterflies in my stomach and remember the all the good things about the time we were together.
To put my mind and my heart at ease, should I tell him my feelings? If your answer is yes, how should I do it?
Thank you for your help!
For Context:
- I am a gay man, and I don't know and never questioned his sexuality. I did mention this, and "came out" to him and he seemed excited and happy at first, but then grew indifferent. We were both in the military, so it was assumed that we were all straight.
- We both libe in different countries.
- As far as I am concerned I am not aware of any relationships he might be in at the moment. | Crushes |
So I kind of liked this boy for a bit of a while, he's um 3-4 years older then me ik ik reversed pedo but many parents age difference are 5 years or less maybe more else well, I don't exactly like him but I'm interested in talking to him in the future when we both adults, but the thing is he's so fineeeee bro but tbh ngl Im slowly starting to lose feelings for him cause like I remember recently we had a eye contact when I was in the room and when he walked in my eyes were almost filled with tears (I wasn't crying) and I was shaking like I was so anxious for what 😭 btw don't come at me just ppl my age around me ugly asf and all basic white ppl (I'm kurdish btw), also he knows but he doesn't care which is for some reason good | Crushes |
I'm currently enrolled in college and I think my professor's teaching assistant is flirting with me.
We both use they/them pronouns-- something we've kinda bonded over haha-- and I guess we're just pretty similar in personality?? They're always a little extra nice to me, they keep sitting on my desk when theyre looking over my work which they don't do with anyone else, and I don't know ?? Like theyre always so nice to me, their voice is always gentle and soft when they talk to me haha
Two weeks ago, they weren't in class for whatever reason, and the class after, I wasn't in. Class a few days ago, they came up to me and said AND I QUOTE
"Hey, how's it going? I missed you last week. Is everything okay?"
And their voice was all gentle and raspy and soft and I just AHHHHHHHHH
Literally their exact words.
I mean I definitely have a crush on them and I look up to them a lot too so that's why I wanted to ask, do I'll think they like me back? Or that theyre at least flirting with me? | Crushes |
Okay so like i'm kind of torn it's like i'm in love rn with my bf he's the best bf i could ever have but i still like my best friend, I think I'll always have feelings for him. He was probably my first real love. Every time compliments me i just really get so happy and he makes me so nervous but I never loved any one as much as my bf tho like my bf taught me how to be happy and i'll always love him too idk what to do. my best friend has a gf tho and i'm happy ASH for them like really they're so cute together. My boyfriend taught me how to love and he loved me through everything like really y'all don't know how much stuff we've been together through so much. I love him more than anyone but i don't think the last few sparks for my best friend left so idk what to do i'm not going to stop being his friend fs bc i need him and i can't talk to my girl best friend about this bc i'll seem hypocritical lmaoo.. I'm going to keep dating my boyfriend tho bc i truly love him idk about the best friend tho i don't think i really love him like that but i do have some sort of feeling for him it's annoying | Crushes |
okay soo there’s this girl in my math class that i’ve been kind of crushing on recently. at first i wasn’t sure if what i was feeling was a genuine crush or not but after coming to terms with it i realized that i do.
here’s where it gets interesting tho: I’ve noticed that she would sometimes look to her left (which is where i am) and through my Peripheral vision i have kind of noticed that she sometimes would look at me (keep in mind there’s no one aside from myself who sits in the back since there weren’t any available desks when i sat there since the start of the school year) and not only that but there’s also this thing that i’ve noticed has been happening recently where as soon as i finished my work to turn it in she would get up to turn her work in as well as soon as i got back and sat down (this may just be a coincidence) i’ve also noticed that sometimes she would mimic what i do (wether that’s putting her hand on her head while looking at her phone) although im not sure if im the one mimicking her or if she is as my memory seems to have proof for both possibilities.
Also we’re both the only people in our class who (rarely) talk/dont talk to anyone else and i know she would sometimes glance to where i am even when she’s on her phone
I know this may be far fetched but is it possible that she likes me/or wants to talk to me or something? (Also i’m pretty sure she’s shy which is fine because i’m shy as well)
Also if that’s the case, do you guys have any advice on what i could do? | Crushes |
We're both swimmers and I sit down in the curbside for my mom to pick me up and hes used to approaching me most of the time and then we talk and sometimes we talk in groups of people and when its like that, when hes about to leave he says bye or waves at everyone in the group and only fist bumps or hand shakes me and one other guy. Could it be that hes interested in me? Its kind of hard to tell. This has been going on for like a month or so | Crushes |
[VENT/NEED ADVICE]
Sorry there’s a lot to this! It’s more complicated than it sounds, I’m so confused and I feel sick.
(We are in high school)
~Part 1: Recently~
So I’ve been friends with “L” for about 2 years, she’s a very friendly person to all. For a while we were just casual friends, but recently we’ve became really good friends! She’s really nice to me, we share our music with each other because we both have a really strong love of music, we dress similarly, we walk in the hallways together, I get this fluttery feeling when I’m around her now, it feels like a movie you know, like everything has happened perfectly. And I may be delusional but I feel often as if these feelings are reciprocated, I’ve almost really felt comfortable to tell her how I feel recently, even though I’ve never been able to do that with anyone before! That is up until a few days ago when…
~Part 2: A few days ago~
She told me she has a crush on someone, “J”. She said she’s never had a boyfriend before and she’s become recently infatuated with “J”. The thing is, I know “J”. I sit near him at lunch because he’s a friend of a friend, I know what type of person he is. He talks grossly about women’s bodies, he talks about talking to multiple girls at once, hell he’s dated two girls at once before in school! He talks about how he can get any girl he wants and how it’s hard to not talk to just one at a time. I’ve been hearing these things consistently for the past year. “L” doesn’t know any of this, she hardly knows much about him at all. So after she told me, I humbly explained these things to her to which she was shocked by. Over the past days, we’ve been figuring this out together. She’s explained how she likes him and how much she wants this to work, and I’ve explained how she’s only seen his charming lovey dovey side. I told her to talk to him about it, she told him she likes him but needs to know the truth, to which the past few days he’s been telling her the exact opposite of what I know. She’s torn, she’s confused, on one hand she’s hearing all these bad things about him from multiple people, and on the other hand she want to believe and trust so hard in the person she likes right now. I fear he just said he likes her back because it was easy for him, just another throw away? I know I’m probably a little love blinded myself, but I feel I am just trying help her, I don’t want her to get hurt you know! Yesterday we had multiple long conversations with each other, she agreed with me, that he is lying to her, that he doesn’t deserve another chance, it felt good knowing it was over and she wasn’t going to get into anything crazy, it felt resolved. That leads us to…
~Part 3: Today~
Today she told me she had one last conversation with him the night before, she him asked for the pure truth. To which he charmingly replied how he’s never cheated before, supposedly he’s always “despised cheaters” and has always been “very respectful to women”. She told me today her decision was to go through with it, that she believed him. I was mad at first, but later told her it was her decision and whatever makes her happy is right for her. After the days I had went through to try and explain to her, I gave up, especially now it seems pretty set in stone, she loves him… Meanwhile, I’ve felt sick all day, not only that I’ve lost someone for whom I’ve felt deeply for, but that she will almost definitely get hurt, it’s her first time and I know that will be hard for her. I already feel a distance from me and her, of course we will still talk, but it’s not the same, no more hallway walks or midnight chats, all deep feelings now reserved for “J”.
What am I to do, how do I proceed. Not even just with her but in general, I’ve felt sick, I can’t eat, half of my music playlist is her music and it makes me feel sick. Love is so confusing, it sucks, because I know half of this is made up in my head. I just don’t know what do do, but I really needed to vent this somewhere, thanks…
TL;DR best friend/crush likes another dude, the dude is an asshole but she’s so blind and hopeful she doesn’t realize or want to believe it, now I feel sick, I’ve not only lost her but I know she’s gonna get hurt in this relationship
HELP | Crushes |
[VENT/NEED ADVICE]
Sorry there’s a lot to this! It’s more complicated than it sounds, I’m so confused and I feel sick.
(We are in high school)
~Part 1: Recently~
So I’ve been friends with “L” for about 2 years, she’s a very friendly person to all. For a while we were just casual friends, but recently we’ve became really good friends! She’s really nice to me, we share our music with each other because we both have a really strong love of music, we dress similarly, we walk in the hallways together, I get this fluttery feeling when I’m around her now, it feels like a movie you know, like everything has happened perfectly. And I may be delusional but I feel often as if these feelings are reciprocated, I’ve almost really felt comfortable to tell her how I feel recently, even though I’ve never been able to do that with anyone before! That is up until a few days ago when…
~Part 2: A few days ago~
She told me she has a crush on someone, “J”. She said she’s never had a boyfriend before and she’s become recently infatuated with “J”. The thing is, I know “J”. I sit near him at lunch because he’s a friend of a friend, I know what type of person he is. He talks grossly about women’s bodies, he talks about talking to multiple girls at once, hell he’s dated two girls at once before in school! He talks about how he can get any girl he wants and how it’s hard to not talk to just one at a time. I’ve been hearing these things consistently for the past year. “L” doesn’t know any of this, she hardly knows much about him at all. So after she told me, I humbly explained these things to her to which she was shocked by. Over the past days, we’ve been figuring this out together. She’s explained how she likes him and how much she wants this to work, and I’ve explained how she’s only seen his charming lovey dovey side. I told her to talk to him about it, she told him she likes him but needs to know the truth, to which the past few days he’s been telling her the exact opposite of what I know. She’s torn, she’s confused, on one hand she’s hearing all these bad things about him from multiple people, and on the other hand she want to believe and trust so hard in the person she likes right now. I fear he just said he likes her back because it was easy for him, just another throw away? I know I’m probably a little love blinded myself, but I feel I am just trying help her, I don’t want her to get hurt you know! Yesterday we had multiple long conversations with each other, she agreed with me, that he is lying to her, that he doesn’t deserve another chance, it felt good knowing it was over and she wasn’t going to get into anything crazy, it felt resolved. That leads us to…
~Part 3: Today~
Today she told me she had one last conversation with him the night before, she him asked for the pure truth. To which he charmingly replied how he’s never cheated before, supposedly he’s always “despised cheaters” and has always been “very respectful to women”. She told me today her decision was to go through with it, that she believed him. I was mad at first, but later told her it was her decision and whatever makes her happy is right for her. After the days I had went through to try and explain to her, I gave up, especially now it seems pretty set in stone, she loves him… Meanwhile, I’ve felt sick all day, not only that I’ve lost someone for whom I’ve felt deeply for, but that she will almost definitely get hurt, it’s her first time and I know that will be hard for her. I already feel a distance from me and her, of course we will still talk, but it’s not the same, no more hallway walks or midnight chats, all deep feelings now reserved for “J”.
What am I to do, how do I proceed. Not even just with her but in general, I’ve felt sick, I can’t eat, half of my music playlist is her music and it makes me feel sick. Love is so confusing, it sucks, because I know half of this is made up in my head. I just don’t know what do do, but I really needed to vent this somewhere, thanks…
TL;DR best friend/crush likes another dude, the dude is an asshole but she’s so blind and hopeful she doesn’t realize or want to believe it, now I feel sick, I’ve not only lost her but I know she’s gonna get hurt in this relationship
HELP | Crushes |
it’s been a few months since he broke up with me, i was really busy dealing with my own mental health and going to therapy & stuff like that. it drained my ex to see whenever i have new scars or whenever i’d just have a breakdown on call, he tried his best always but at one point he got tired of keeping up with my bs since a lot of the time he blamed himself that he wasn’t able to keep me from relapsing when it wasn’t his fault.
he broke it off knowing it’d be the best for both of us to just work on ourselves for now, months later i’m doing way better as im living a happy and healthier life and so is he, we occasionally still talk as friends and i feel butterflies in my stomach whenever i see him and hear his voice and it hurts knowing he’s my ex.
some of his friends who are also mines say he still talks about me in a good way like when i post pics online he’d tell our friends how im pretty and he gets jealous when i’m hanging around my guy friends ,i also notice how whenever we hang out he never stops staring at me.
we went to a friends birthday party 2 months ago and i got drunk as hell that at one point when my ex saw me drinking he kept the alcohol away from me and brought me upstairs where there was no noise and got me a glass of water, we didn’t speak but we were laying beside each other on my friends bed both using our phones. he helped me go down the stairs when he decided it’s time i go home.
at college during our classes his eyes are never off me and my friends will always catch him looking at me then during a pool party after i caught him staring at me and we made eye contact he tried to approach me but my friends pulled me away, overall these just got me thinking if he still likes me the same way i like him so 2 days ago i confessed again and apologized for the bad stuff in our past relationship hoping we could get a fresh start but he never replied.
he still views my instagram stories and we’ll have to see each other tomorrow for classes. idk what to do anymore help | Crushes |
(This may be a tad bit long, so bear with me)
For some background, my crush (16f) and I (16m) have known each other since the last school year, but we only really started talking this school year. About two weeks ago I was preparing to ask for my crush's social media, keeping notes of what to say in my phone and whatnot - and I kid you not - when I get to class that very day, she asks me for *my* contact info (ikik, manifestation powers??). But anyhow, we exchanged Discord user's and really hit it off, she recently asked for my actual phone number (she said it was so she could destroy me at Game Pigeon, but idk). She's pretty quiet/introverted for the most part, so I was not at all expecting her to do this.
We now spend a vast majority of the school-day hanging out with each other (it's pretty much no secret to my friends lol), we also text for hours, going past 2 AM sometimes... She started giving me snacks, and I bought her favorite flavor of gum for her - **AND YOU GUYS, THE WAY SHE LIT UP WHEN I SUPRISED HER WITH IT GHSIOHIFSIOHDIOBWISBINSFNSN**. She even started inviting me to hang with her friends, and I almost always take her up on that offer.
So here's my predicament, there are some good signs that she likes me back, but I don't know how to confess/ask her out (there's also the possibility that she's just been being nice...) | Crushes |
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this happened a few days ago but i think it’s amusing in a weird way
little context; my crush borrows my phone charger every day in our one period we have together or he texts me to meet up and give it to him
we were in class and he had the charger
he got my attention and i looked at him with my usual “what do you want” expression
“they dropped your charger out the window” *points to some girls he’s friends with sitting close to him*
he had his usual smirky smile one his face and i could see him putting the charger behind him because he thinks he’s slick when he is in fact not
“… i can see the charger”
i went back to my work and then he yelled my name and i turned around to look at him again
he had the charger hanging out the window and he said he was gonna drop it
“do it i don’t really care”
“if i dropped it you wouldn’t get it”
“no i have another one, i don’t need it”
“you wouldn’t care if i dropped it?”
“nope”
he pulled it back in with a small sigh and went back to his work
he drives me absolutely insane and makes no sense but that’s what i like about him | Crushes |
there’s this girl at my hs that i have been interested in for a while. we get along great and talk about almost anything we think of. the thing is there are also other guys she gets along with in the classes we don’t have together. i thought my efforts to make her laugh and her being interested in what i say would definitely make me stand out to her, but it looks like im actualy towards the bottom of the list. | Crushes |
so i’m going on my fourth date with this guy, i’ll call him A (15M), so i know for sure that A likes me and i like him. ive (15F) never even held hands with a guy before but i really want to try to make a move and hold his hand, but having no experience, i have no idea how to make that move. advice? (if it helps we are going to a restaurant for our date) | Crushes |
Ok so I just had a dance at my school yesterday night, and my crushes friend(s) came up to me and said "Hey (his name) wants to ask you something!" And I was really confused. But then he came up to me and asked me to slow dance with him! So of course I said yes. But usually people at my school don't really like in that way so I asked him "Hey, were you dared to dance with me?", but he misheard me and thought I said "I was dared to do this". So he said "Oh yeah, I was too, I'm gonna be paid 5 bucks after this". So after we danced we went back to our friends, but one of my friends goes up the the boys group (I don't remember why) and she came back to me saying that it wasn't a dare and that he actually wanted to dance with me. So once I got home I got a text from him saying "Slightly scary experience I guess ". And I agreed with him because that was my first time slow dancing with someone. And I asked him about the whole "dare" thing and he said that he wasn't actually dared to do it, but he made bets of it. And he asked me if i was dared to do it, and I said no. And I can't really tell if he is just saying that because he is nervous, or if he actually made bets off of it. Please help me figure it out! | Crushes |
not to be in a relationship, but to just be close and comfortable | Crushes |
We went on a date and I was so nervous and awkward and our friend told me that she told her that she can't imagine us being together because she didn't feel a connection but she said she's still gonna give me some time anyway. If only I wasn't like this things could've gone so much better. I'm afraid that sooner or later she's gonna decide that she doesn't like me because of all this. | Crushes |
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I'm a teen if that helps any context.
Before, I had a crush on two people, a guy and a girl. Ive been great friends with the girl for years and still am, but ive only had like 10 conversations with the guy, total.
Anyway, I see the girl every day at school and with valentines day passing recently, I just couldn't go on without telling her I liked her, even though I knew she probably wouldn't like me back. She didn't, and while knowing has helped me be a lot less nervous around her, I'm still dealing with it and trying to get over her. And to rub it in, there's this guy I barely know who is probably in a relationship with her, which I only found out after I confessed. Sorry sorry, getting off topic I just needed to vent about that lol
So now there's the guy crush I mentioned earlier. He seems so freaking awesome but I barely know him. I've started focusing more on this guy now that I know the girl crush doesn't like me back. I only got friendzoned by the girl a few weeks back, so I'm just wondering, is this a normal/ok/healthy way to cope with friendzoning? | Crushes |
So I think this guy is cute, we work fast food, he's known for the past 2 weeks that I enjoy his company and well slowly from working together we've been getting closer, he taught me everything when I got hired not too long ago.
I'm a petite woman and he sees me struggling to carry/ grab things and etc and he insists he does it himself, he opens doors for me and etc but I wanna be as helpful as possible since I won't always be working with him and we're a busy place.
Yesterday I went to go grab something from the back and he said the reason I don't let you grab things is because what kind of man would I be if I let you, he called me stubborn and I laughed and he said that was cute. | Crushes |
How do to confess?
When is the right time to confess?
I'm scared that I might confess in the wrong time and then he might get distracted a lot and then he might have conflicts or something so I have no idea how can I go through with it | Crushes |
I recently told my crush I like him, I always knew I would tell him eventually but I ended up doing it randomly after making a bad joke where I called him the live of my life. (I make jokes like this all the time, just not with him, I thought he'd get it, its a whole thing)
So I tell him that I like him and I don't think he likes me back because I was like 99% sure he liked another girl and I was just being delusional. (hello people from my other post, I'm an idiot, I apologize) anyways HE LIKES ME BACK, this is a first for me because even though I've had people like me back I've never had them tell me, they always rejected me then confessed way later after I'd lost feelings.
Yeah, so I'm an idiot, but now I'm kinda-sorta dating the most awesome person to ever walk the face of the earth. | Crushes |
I hope this letter finds you well. I have been meaning to write to you for some time now to express my feelings, which I have been keeping inside for far too long.
As you know, we have been working together for over a year now, and during this time, I have grown to admire you deeply. I value your beliefs and your unwavering motivation to be successful. Your passion for science and your desire to make a difference in the world is truly inspiring.
Your intelligence, combined with your dedication to your work, is something I have come to admire and respect deeply. Your drive and commitment to your research is contagious, and I find myself constantly motivated by your example. I am in awe of the way you approach complex problems with ease and your unrelenting desire to find answers.
But it's not just your work ethic that I admire, it's also your character. Your kindness and support have been a source of comfort to me, especially during recent challenging times. Your genuine care for others and willingness to lend a helping hand is truly a rare and wonderful quality.
I know this may come as a surprise, but I have also developed feelings for you that go beyond just admiration. I know that we work together and any action would cause complications, but I could not keep my feelings to myself any longer. I have to tell you how I feel.
Your mere gaze makes my heart skip a thousand beats. Your crystal blue eyes make my knees weak, and your infectious smile warms my heart. I know that I should not feel this way, given our circumstances, but I can no longer deny this ache in my chest whenever I am around you. I've never felt this type of way for anyone... ever. Not even him. I desperately look for excuses to see you. Come in early, or even when I don't have anything to do... just so I can find reasons to talk to you, even if there should be none. I'm sorry. I had to take the risk and share my heart with you. Whether or not you reciprocate these feelings is one thing, but I hope that you can understand.
-E | Crushes |
The first one has gave me hope one time, when we were at my friends house for a sleepover, and we had gone to sleep and we slept together the I got up to eat some snacks. And when I got back I found her with my best friend(m).before that night we were kinda dating but never only us two alone, every time whit a group. I think that she never even liked me.
My other crush is the kindest girl i ever knew she always has a smile on her face every time she sees me, and she’s at least a 10. My friends that I’ve told that I had a crush on her always tell me that she likes me to.
What should I do ? | Crushes |
Is it wrong to be exited to hang out with your crush when you know (as in you have been told by them) that they feel nothing romantic towards you? Is it ok to think of them in a romantic way despite that? They never gave you permission to think about them in that way. Same with sexual, is it ok to have sexual thoughts about the people you love when you know they wouldn’t approve of that? What gives you the right to be so happy around them from the simple feeling of love? I say simple but love is anything but. Is it wrong to hope that something happens when you know it’s not. You know they are just caring and affectionate, you’ve seen them be so for so many others so why should you be allowed to feel such bliss when I’m her arms? She is just trying to comfort you as her friend and because of that it makes you feel like your betraying her trust and manipulating her for your own sake without meaning too. I don’t want to make her do that to me. I want to be able to be happy without feeling like I shouldn’t be allowed to. But whether it’s wrong or not isn’t concrete. You could say everyone does it so it’s fine but everyone in the past has down horrible things and thought it was fine because they justified it with how many people do it. But that doesn’t make it fine to do. What if in the future it’s seen as horrible and abhorrent? Would that mean it is now? Or does it become bad rather then having been bad? There is no right or wrong answer. It’s all about how you want to see it. Love is something that you can’t say whether something you feel is right or wrong. People thought same sex love was wrong when it isn’t so does that mean all love is good? No because some love is toxic and hurts people but it doesn’t mean all love is bad because some love brings people more joy then they ever could experience otherwise. So let me ask you. Do you think it’s ok to love someone when they don’t love you? I’ve had panic attacks over this stuff and I never know. I can’t know. I won’t know. Best I can hope for is that I get to see her happy. Cause that is all that truely matters.
Please, spread your love where you can. So many people could use a little bit <3 | Crushes |
I met a guy on Grindr a few months ago and we’re been hooking up pretty frequently since. I’ve gotten really attached to him he’s so sweet to me, I think he has some feelings for me. He Stays with me for a while after we’ve had sex to cuddle me. He started kissing my forehead recently, it’s so gentle and affectionate it’s really made me think he likes me more than just in a sexually way.
We don’t really talk much, I’m very shy and I think he is to. I don’t really know how to approach this situation, I want to be with him so badly. | Crushes |
my friend at lunch told my crush i liked him and all he did was have a shocked face and said “i just liked studying” and ran away ? and now he acts like it has never happened, i just assume this is him letting me down in a weird way or something because he is shy and doesn’t talk much or at all to anyone but he stares at me a lot and smiles like what does that mean what am i supposed to do? i don’t think he really likes me because we don’t know each-other very well and i’m not the most prettiest but i just want to know why does he keep staring and smiling at me? he doesn’t just do this when i’m around like i’ll be across the school and i can see him staring at me😞 | Crushes |
And I'll ask you something about yours! | Crushes |
so me and him sit next to each other in school and he’s by far the loudest in the class… and i feel like everyone knows there’s something going on. even the teacher. at first i was thinking it’s just coincidences but now he’s being brought up in random conversations to tease me!!!! (pls kill me) any advice ?? i have no idea if its everyone making fun of my crush on him or if they all think it’s two way.
this is so humiliating pls give me advice | Crushes |
Y’all I’m currently so confused. Alex is giving me mixed feelings. Alex is my ex we broke up about seven months ago. We remained friends yadda yadda. We FaceTime all the time. By all the time everyday for about 1-2 hours talking about random stuff. This caught me tho.
He called me for an hour he barely spoke he eventually hung up. He called me again asking me for a girls.I tell him no I don’t have it, cause I don’t. I asked him why he wanted to talk to her.He told me looks don’t matter. I reminded him he changed. So I asked him “ didn’t you raise your standards” he say yes. He told me he raised his standards to a seven and then proceeded to rate me a seven. I thought it was weird. Then he got on the topic of finding me a bf, I told him we’re in highschool they’re kinda pointless he kept reassuring me they aren’t didn’t work on me. I told him I’ve been waiting for someone for eight months. He says “ it’s Been that long since we dated” I reply “ yes”. So I asked him why did you wanna remain friends after we broke up. He told me “ I realized I messed up”. Then something in my head clicked everything made cents. He then recently started to take FaceTime photos of my all the time out of context. Y’all I think he has feelings for still. Y’all help a home girl out. | Crushes |
Me (F15) and my ex (M15) decided to stay friends after we broke up..bad idea. I still have feelings for him but I don’t know if he feels the same. We usually FaceTime everyday for an hour talking about our lives. But this one day was different.
Yesterday he FaceTimed me for an hour saying a couple of words from time to time. Then he FaceTimed me again. We started off being normal.the next minute he says “ we need to find you a boyfriend”. I told him I don’t need one they’re pointless sometimes. He runs his mouth a lil bit. I asked him if he raised his standards, he did. He told me he raised it to a seven. Then he proceeded to rate me a seven, isn’t that a coincidence.Then I asked him why would you want to stay friends with me. He told me “ he realized he messed up. That had me thinkin does he miss me too
Ion know y’all tell me how y’all feel and be honest. | Crushes |
Whenever i’m reading this sub, or daydreaming, or a love book, or thinking about a loved one, i always listen to this playlist and it makes the experience much better for me, so i’d thought i would share it :)
https://spotify.link/pgiUdSSlhyb
ps: but for real this thing was a game changer for me when i was daydreaming doing everyday tasks,it gives so much more emotion to the feeling! Recently i have kinda been feeling a crush towards my best friend, and now i kinda cant stop thinking about him while im listening to these type of playlists, its really addictive ahahahha | Crushes |
Anyway, AMA about her! | Crushes |
Me and this girl had been classmates for almost a year,nand i had been secretly in love with her for just as long. But i've been too scared to express my feelings, and she had given up, thinking that i wasn't interested in her. How the fuck do i deal with this situation. | Crushes |
let’s chat about our crushes! i’m bored and i wanna to hear about y’all’s love life so put anything about your crush | Crushes |
if a guy sends red heart emojis (❤) is that a 100% sign that he likes you??? idk how common is it among girl and guy friends to send them non romantically
we haven't been friends that long so idk if thats just how he talks | Crushes |
Today I was practicing driving with my dad and I drove through a small village that she is living in. There are about 5 houses here and as I drive I hear my dad saying:
"Hey you know, you have an aunt living her - your mom's cousin. But I can't remember her name now"
One of my dad's random lines, but after that there is a literall nightmare as I drive.
JUST TELL ME THE NAME ALREADY SO I'M SURE IT'S NOT HER MOTHER I CAN'T BE HER COUSIN I'M ALREADY DATING HER DAD.
Happily it was not her mother so I won't have to go through the biggest pain in my life 😁 | Crushes |
im a teen girl that has a crush on a guy we didnt really talk before i started to like him cuz hes a very shy person but hes so sweet and fucking beautiful tbh so where i fucked up at first was i wasnt at school that day but i was going to give him my number so i asked my friends in a group chat to give it to him and he SAW THE NAME OF THE GROUP my friends were making fun of me and named the group C/N IS DADDY AHHHHHHH and he seen it my friend gave him my number and he has never texted me kms we have lots of friends in common so i asked his bestie what happened (im a very tall girl 5'9) and he said he probably doent wont to date a girl bigger than him he says hes 5'4 but you now how guys are i asked him to ask my crush what he thinks about me and he said he didnt care about me and that hurt i feel like a creep he keeps rejecting me and i cant stop liking him AHHHHHH I HATE MYSELF SM RN i need help plz some1 | Crushes |
In an exam i was sat adjacent to my crush (almost, there was me in row 1, row 2 had an empty seat, row 3 was crush's seat) and it was completely silent save for the whale song of my gut. I have to be honest I wanted to die right there and then. Do you think I have ruined my chances????
3 things I am currently clinging to are:
the fact that he was about 1.5-2 metres or more away
the fact that I may be blowing this out of proportion and it might not have been as loud as I thought
And the fact that he might not have known the exact source of the sound i.e. he may have thought it was someone else
I was planning on actually talking to him but I feel that my chances have been destroyed by something out of my control!!!!!!! Thoughts? | Crushes |
I miss you so much 😞♥️ I miss your hugs, I miss your voice, I miss your presence, I miss everything about you | Crushes |
So...my crush has a few female friends who are younger than him and he asks them to follow me on social media. Due to some issues, his family is stopping him to use his phone for a short period. So, one of his female friends reached out to me and said that he might text me using her phone to "stay in touch". Thing is, he lives far and we don't even go to the same school. I remember him texting me and telling me things like, "Even though i can't meet you, i still miss you a lot" and "I can't talk much but take care and we shall meet soon".
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ENJOY MY RANT GUYS BAHAHAHAHAAHAH | Crushes |
I really don’t want to make false assumptions but I cannot resonate with my thoughts about it.
There’s this guy in two of my classes and I find him looking over at my direction a lot of times rather than looking at the board. At first I thought he usually just zones out, but where we sit accordingly, his eyes and body is always towards me, and where I sit is not in front of the board. I sit on the far right corner of the room for one class and I sit in the back of the room for another class when he is in front. I usually never pay attention and just shrug it off, but when I do look at his direction from an itchy feeling of a stare I look over and he is. It’s been going on for months. I’m not particularly the social kind, I’m rather quiet and mostly refuse to stand out in the crowd, and he’s usually the social butterfly. So I’m kind of stumped. | Crushes |
so i recently got a crush on a new person! but i don’t how to talk to him. the last time we talk was during the super bowl because we both wanted to the eagle to win but i kinda made a dumb decision and put a valentine in his locker and he found that i did it so now it’s super awkward. i thinks he hates me now lol. but now how do i talk to him? | Crushes |
Flashbacks, I’ve(15f) known J(15m) since we were 8 and in children’s church. He is probably the kindest, most respectful, and cutest guy I’ve ever seen. He makes me blush whenever he says hi or walks past me, he inspires me to do things I’ve never done, he’s very outgoing and every good thing you could think of. But the problem is we haven’t really talked as much anymore because of the pandemic and we kinda sorta drifted apart (along with other friends and we’re just starting to talk a little more). But we only see each others on Sundays and occasionally on Thursdays (we don’t go to the same school so it also makes it more difficult). Me being very not open with my feelings, I barely talk to people and J is one of those people. And I’m super shy but I’m working on, and I thought about it and I thought why don’t I just go ask for his number to not be shy and maybe get closer to him so that I can maybe get with him. But it’s taking me weeks to do this, so now I’m thinking about doing it tomorrow Sunday. HOPEFULLY and PRAYERFULLY I get the courage and strength to do this. If you guys could give me some advice, that would be great! Thank you! | Crushes |
Hey guys I’m thinking about passing a note to my crush, should i? | Crushes |
Ok so there is this guy from my uni course who makes me at times extremelyyy anxious.
Started about 6 months ago. It started with him staring into my eyes and then we were making a lot of eye contact in lectures, there was clearly a mutual attraction or tension, there is no doubt about it. For example sometimes him going bright red or smiling to himself. I also noticed sometimes when he saw me, he would look at me as if in shock, or even sadly sometimes.
For a while he would often seem to turn up where i was, however he would not acknowledge me or look me in the eye often, for example if I smiled at him or whatever he would not be able to meet my eye which was kind of frustrating because I wanted to talk to him but he just didn't seem to want to engage, despite his staring from afar...?
One time a couple months ago he even followed me home, i am sure of it but he sat at a distance from me on tram and we were sort of looking at eachother and laughing. I also noticed that whenever he saw me he would have a huge grin and then not hold eye contact. This big grin when he saw me but not looking at me happened even a couple of days ago.
Then a couple weeks ago he solidly looked me in the eyes for 30 seconds, the 'eyefuck' or whatever so I thought to myself ok this guy is trying to tell me something.
So when I ran into him at the tram stop I decided to go speak to him and he seemed kind of shocked at first.
He gazed into my eyes without saying anything for a good few seconds and we spoke a little, but shortly after his tram arrived he seemed a little eager to get away which maked me question if he really was interested in me. Or perhaps was nervous. At the end he did smile and seem happy though.
But then a week later I bumped into him again and we got talking for longer this time. He asked me loads of questions about myself and conversation was easy and he even laughed at my jokes. It was really cool as often guys just speak about themsleves but he seemed genuinely interested in me. At the end he smiled at me too, a genuine smile. Other positive signs I noticed when we were talking was him mirroring me which means he at least likes me as a human, even if he doesn't like like me or isn't interested in anything else. Oh another thing when we were talking I noticed him kind of closing his eyes and smiling to himself which was cute.
Well I am just going a bit crazy overthinking it all, do you think it sounds like this guy could want to pursue something with me ? Apparently if you are unsure if a guy likes you that means he doesn't, apprently if he likes you you will know. And I am unsure so that's making me doubt it.
And he hasn't asked for my number... | Crushes |
You are immensely in love with someone and you are extremely desperate to be in a romantic relationship with them, you've felt this way for over a year and are completely sure that starting a relationship with them is the correct thing for you to do. You've never confessed or admitted your love to them. There's one problem, they are leaving the country forever tomorrow and you're guaranteed to never see or hear from them again. You know you're guaranteed to spend time with them in person today. What do you do today when you spend time with them in person, knowing that they're leaving forever tomorrow?
I'm interested how answers and opinions vary depending on demographics including age, gender, sexuality, nationality, social confidence, etc. It will be interesting to read replies to this post.
**REMEMBER, THERE ARE NO WRONG ANSWERS OR INCORRECT OPINIONS! ANSWER AS HONESTLY AND FREELY AS YOU CAN! I WON'T JUDGE, I PROMISE!** | Crushes |
He said this, and I quote: "For what? Cuz I ignored you in game?
Were you lost? Poor thing
Un add me while ur at it
The fact you tried to gaslight me into dating you by killing yourself? Look whose still here! I wish you did it honestly, just go fuck yourself twat.
This is exactly why you got rejected fucking loser
Enjoy life or don't I'm fine with the second option I hope you stay lonely for the rest of ur sad life go shower or touch grass mf do something else"
Am I the asshole for blocking him? | Crushes |
I’m not extremely close with my crush, we don’t talk a lot in class. Recently though he’s started texting me every other day asking how I am, if I have plans, about books we like and just small chatting for a couple of hours a day. He also sat next to me on the bus (he’s never done that before and there was plenty of space elsewhere) and he’s started interacting with me more. I sometimes think I see him watching me and he always seems to be near. He seems like a very nice person and we have a lot in common, but everyone ships him and our other friend together and I have a feeling he likes her. I’m worried I’m interpreting this wrong, I have autism and just not great people skills, and even though I do like him, I’d rather he and my friend be happy and I don’t want to make him uncomfortable.
Do you think he’s just being friendly? | Crushes |
We are both in drama and French classes in my high school and we in year 10 | Crushes |
long post ahead.. damn!
ever since he told me that he liked me back a year ago, I've been **obssessing**.
i keep thinking that it could work -- that i *want* us to work, but he keeps doing and saying otherwise.
which i respect; we're both just not interested in dating bcoz there are more important self-matters to tend to.
and i have already asked him if he's sure that his feelings are gone (to which he laughed at and changed the topic), i just cannot fuckin help myself from imagining future scenarios.
even if his morals are different from mine! even if he doesn't treat me as caringly as i do to him! why! can't! i! just! let! it! go!
it's seriously frustrating. i don't want our friendship to end -- but i really really *really* want to fully confess and get this over with.
i feel lost, man. on one hand, i want him to stop being a coward and just be honest with me. on the other, i want to really stop pushing something that's immovable. i am so sorry | Crushes |
I’ve been single for about a year and a half now, I was dating around for a while just to get a feel of what the world was like after an 8 year relationship. No one really sparked anything in my until a few months ago, and now I feel like there’s a fire in my chest any time we talk. It feels like my first love all over again but even better this time and I don’t know what to do with myself. He’s incredibly smart and funny and sweet, super empathetic. He even has quality traits I like to see in a man, he’s really hands on which is so hot 100000% of the time. I’ve never been the one to chase a relationship this is the first time ever. He’s aware of how I feel since I don’t like to let emotions bottle up inside but things are moving slowly since he also got out of a relationship, his was just a bit more recent. The fact that he’s taking his time to get to know me makes me want to be with him even more but I still feel like I have to tread lightly and respect that he needs time to process whatever happened in his last relationship. Sometimes I just want to brag about how great he is though, what better way to do that than to a bunch of strangers in a forum who (probably) won’t get sick of hearing about it.😅 I’m thinking of him constantly, all of my art ends up being about him, I feel stupid in love and have been feeling this way for months. My last relationship was very damaging I came out thinking love might not be real, that every man was out to hurt me, and that the life I wanted and the love I wanted was a pipe dream I should let go of. He’s only been in my life for about 6 months now and he has brought pieces of me back that I thought died with my ex. I’m dying for the reciprocation 😵💫 | Crushes |
What are some good conversation starters or just something to talk about? I need help | Crushes |
so yesterday I was at my crush house we were watching youtube videos on her ipad and she asked me “Do you love me as a friend or more.” me being unaware and zone out said “I don’t care as long I am with you.” and she said “Well I had a crush on you!” and OMGGG I WAS SO HAPPY EEEK IT WAS SO AWKWARD THO THE WHOLE TIME AFTER THAT! We cuddle for a bit and then I went home. I AM SO HAPPY!! | Crushes |
Why would a guy call you “sis” and pretend to be your big brother, but then come out and say that they have feelings for you? Wouldn’t it be “forbidden territory” to like your “sister”? Like what’s their game? | Crushes |
For about 3 weeks straight she would send me a text every day before school just saying good morning. I never missed it and would always respond. I’ve never gotten these before so I was loving it especially because she would text me good night some nights as well. As of 2 days ago she has stopped sending me these texts and hasn’t sent me anything. I still try and talk to her and she will respond like normal but she won’t start the conversations anymore. What’s going on? | Crushes |
Is it totally weird if I'm kinda mad that my bf wants another girl to post him on her socials? cause its driving me nuts and I don't wanna overreact. I post him A LOT on my socials, in fact I'm always gushing. it just made me feel horrible on so many different levels idk why.. | Crushes |
I have crush on since a month ...but i have always seen her staring at me whenever we cross paths like since last year. She looks quickly to side or looks down or sometimes even blink her eyes so fast when my eyes met hers. Her friends stare and giggle/smile a lot whenever i am around. Once when we are coming on opposite ways on footpath .She was walking in middle of her 2 friends and i saw them giggling. Then all of a sudden she came front faster than them like she walked really close even though the entire path is empty.
One day when i was not looking ..i was talking with my friends...she was going somewhere with friends and she was looking at me with a smile on her face while walking past us even turned her head sideways over shoulder. Also seen her looking at me during class then suddenly keeps her head over desk or looks side when i look at her.
So today i messaged her on Instagram....like i said "Hi have you completed so and so assignment"
She replied " Yyaaaaa"
We never talked to each other till now ..
Pls give some advice for next move also help me get some insight on what's happening..
P.S: Sry for bad English.. | Crushes |
I’ve been crushing on this guy since late September 2022, and we finally got to hang out!! We walked around 4 different parks together held hands and even kissed twice (he’s my first kiss, although I’m 18 I’m kinda late lol) But now it’s been almost 24 hours since we’ve hung out and I’ve been on delivered for 18 hours :/ | Crushes |
Okay so me and this guy have been talking a lot and we both admitted we liked each-other. Skip to yesterday there was a party me and my friends went and he was there. In the beginning he was holding my hand then left with his friends. He was hanging out with this girl a grade younger than us the whole time. The only time he talked to me or anything was when he hugged me when i was about to leave. And i know the girl who he was hanging out with likes him. So what im asking is am i loosing him? He was with that girl for 4 hours straight. Help what do i do. Im actually stressing so bad rn. Should i let him go? Hes been leaving me on delivered for over 2 hours even though hes been online. Am i just overthinking all of this? Hes still sending me full faced pics. | Crushes |
He finally did it! So nice😁 | Crushes |
Four people including you and your crush are at a casual restaurant. There's tables for four in the shape of a rectangle; two people sit on each long side, but your table is connected to someone else's table. For simplicity when you look at your table from a bird's-eye view, we'll label the vertices A, B, C, D in clockwise direction starting from the top left corner. X's represent strangers. Your crush is the first to sit down, at seat D. Where do you sit?
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The situation (hopefully formatting isn't messed up):
A B X X
D C X X
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How do I NOT make it obvious that I have a crush on someone in my class, cuz I'm tryna move on from my crush, but I feel like I stare at him alot, and I'm scared that others might notice that, and find out I have a crush on him- | Crushes |
ahhh I can’t shes so cute | Crushes |
I thought we had something going but it I seen her talking with and hugging another guy. This happens with every girl I try to get with, like what’s the point of trying if they’re just gonna up and leave me? | Crushes |
My friends and I were watching the basketball game finals of our High School. Before the game starts I saw a group of familiar people walking from the entrance of the stadium and my intuition was right, one of them was my old crush, technically not an old crush but it sounds better if I say " my previous crush". After the game, we're walking outside the stadium when I saw her coincidentally talking to my classmate (She and that classmate that I mentioned were both my classmates back in Junior High).
I just walked passed through her and pretend not to care at all, but my eyes can't take anymore so I gave her a glanced and after that I feel I'm having an heart attack cause I noticed that she also looked at me briefly before taking her eyes back (That is what I remember). I'm acting so hype up ever since that day I couldn't even stop thinking about her and makes me think of those 3 years that I've wasted because of my f@cking disability of being unable to have a conversation with her. | Crushes |
My husband and I (30ishF) are polyamorous. He has a girlfriend who is amazing. She’s sweet, quirky, artistic, generous, thoughtful, and very cute. She says she enjoys my company and wants to know me better. I wish I could date her, but she’s had bad experiences dating couples in the past and doesn’t want to do it again unless she has a deep trust built with someone. (For the record, I’m not interested in a throuple dynamic. I’d like to date her as an individual.) I know all I can do is be a good friend to her and show her through my actions that I’m someone she can trust, but this crush is seriously crushing me in the meantime. I think about her all the time. I look at her art. I listen to music she likes. I wake up in the morning and wish I could make her a cup of coffee and hear her voice. My husband texts with her everyday. I wish I could talk to her like that. I see them kiss and wish it was me kissing her. I feel like I should spend less time with her so it will be easier, but I can’t pull myself away. I get more excited to see her than my own girlfriend. I know myself, and if I’m not careful I’m going to fall in love with this girl. But even if that does happen, I can’t confess my feelings because it would likely force her to turn me down, and I don’t want to do that to her.
Thanks for reading. | Crushes |
So my best friend and I were playing roblox and minecraft together. He had his friend over and he was having a lot of fun with him. But why is it that when this happened I got anxious or sad and my heart started to beat really fast and my body and face got super hot when this was happening? Was it because I was afraid of being abandoned or is this because I have a crush? Like the more I’m thinking about it, the more I’m wondering if I’m confusing having a crush with the fear of being abandoned. I’m not sure, like sometimes I feel like myself around them, and then other times I feel like I’m gonna lose him somehow and I don’t know why; and as a result I’m like getting anxious for something as simple as talking to his friend about like hanging out together. Can someone help me figure out what’s going on? I need some advice on how I can stop feeling this way and to know what this feeling is. Is this a crush or just a fear of being abandoned? If it is a crush, can you give me some tips on how I can stop being so obsessive and clingy?
Ps. The only reason why I’m not telling my best friend this at the moment is because I’m afraid it might scare him off and then he’ll for sure not wanna be friends anymore. | Crushes |
I've just been wondering, I really am not the person to show a lot of emotion, or desire to be with someone, although I wish to know them better. I really never invited any girl or just approached her because she looked cute or whatever the reason may be. And I keep "seeing" other people do that in such normal ways, it literally is something out of my usual behaviour. How do you guys/girls act when you want to talk/know someone? | Crushes |
I know this VERY vauguely fits here, but its work a try since many people here have dealt with heartbreak
Me and my friend are both 13m, and the we like a 13f that goes to our school.
Alright, so we went on a class trip and he ended up telling me that he liked my first “real” crush. For most of the trip, I tried hiding my feelings about it eventually, I decided to tell him that we liked the same girl during the next school break, but he insisted I tell him that night, so I did. We were very chill and great friends about it, but most of all, we didn’t want it to interfere with our friendship.
so, let's skip forward a bit. He enjooyed snapping her but got really doubtful because she constantly kept ghosting him and then if I snap her, she would almost instantly repsond, as if she was using him for streaks. nonetheless, a few days ago he confessed to her. she ended up saying she liked someone else at the moment.
now, recent few days. He has been really hard on himself and is really trying to get me and her together, thinking that there is no way she doesn’t like me. he just told me that hes doing it because he feels guilty for almost completely preventing me and her from getting together, because he was being a selfish dumbass and not seeing the signs of him being friendzones. (his words not mine). I tried to get him to relax and calm down. It went on like this for a solid few minutes.
I dont know what to do. I promised him I would continue to ‘try’ to get with her, so yes, I’m gonna do that, for him. But thats not really what I am having difficulty at. Its supporting him during this massive heartbreak while not having him feel guilty and upset at himself and feeling like a selfish dumbass. | Crushes |
So thats my question , but this varies from a scoiety to another one or a culture to another one , in my country is almost immposible for a girl to ask for your number or anything , i mean this is different from a european country , things here are different women doesn't have that much freedom as in europe or other countries , i have chance to talk to him weekly due to university schedule , has anyone experienced something like this ? | Crushes |
Well since I am reminiscing, here's a short story
My crush used to wish me bye every single say when we were on talking terms ,if she forgot to she would somehow try to find me in the hall way just to wish me bye ,when I used to be just at the gateway with my friend group she'd make it seem like she isnt noticing me and then when everyone isnt looking at her she'd whisper bye in my ear and carry on moving towards the gate
One day I was in the class as I had some stuff to do and she forgot to wish me bye ,she came back from her bus ,outside the school ,into my class telling our class teacher that she forgot her bottle in the class(she didnt ,she didnt bring a bottle that day) and got scolded, just so she could wish me bye ,she is such a dumass but yeah , in 2 days its our last exam after which my school life will be over and I wont get to see her beautiful face I'll miss her man sadly wont be able to tell her I love her and I'll miss her :/ but ig all good things come to an end | Crushes |
so i met this guy on my school “camp” and he gave so many signs that he may possibly like me like
- changing his walking pace to walk next to me
- talking to me only in the entire week apart from a couple of his friends and i had only just met him
- following me around and starting conversations
then after camp he asked who i liked and i went yolo and confessed
he was really sweet about it but anyways
we followed each other on ig and he kept asking stuff about me liking him, like how long have a liked him for, if i still like him and stuff
aaaaand he has a gf 🥲 i mean i’m happy for them cuz they’re both super nice and cute together but likeeee
is he just being nice and am i misreading the signs?? idk if i should just give up and try my best to stop liking him 😭 | Crushes |
So around a week ago I posted [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11opaw1/does_he_like_me/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) post abt this guy who I don’t really have any classes with but go to clubs with and am friends with (but we’re not too too close or anything). Anyways, I had that same club today. When I walked in, he was there, so I sat down where I usually sit next to him and just start talking to the people in the room who had greeted me when I entered. We’re club besties and always have fun together when we’re there but then he kinda just goes “if our club president isn’t here then can I just go because I wanna go home” and then he actually left but then returned like 3 seconds later with another guy in our club. He ends up staying for the rest of the club meeting and we have a lot of fun taking 0.5s of each other and laughing about random crap. I also was really stressed because some other people were comparing math test question answers where they all had the same answer but I had something different. I was also just tired so I was laying my head on the table and he leaned over to so that I could see him and told me that it was alright and that everything would be ok which I thought was sweet. When I gave my presentation to the club he also told me that I slayed and high-fived me, and we sent random snaps to each other of each other for the rest of the club basically. We also left together and talked about random stuff on the way out. Idk I thought he liked me but I feel like if he did, he wouldn’t have wanted to go home instead of come to our club. Am I overthinking things?? The whole club also thinks that I like him and that we’re flirting whenever we’re there haha 😅 | Crushes |
I'm going crazy over her | Crushes |
When I(17, F) first caught feelings for my crush(17, M) I barely even remembered what he looked like. We only knew each other for a couple of weeks then, and mostly mingled online. Our monthly class schedule was: one week of class in the school campus, and online class for the rest of the month.
I just really loved the way we interacted and how we matched each other’s sense of humor. We also have certain values and principles that are similar. It was just a happy crush back then and I didn’t expect anything serious.
But then we kept chatting each other. At first, it would be about school concerns, but in no time it would turn into hour-long convos about anything and everything we can think of. This happens multiple times a week. One thing we like to discuss in particular is One Piece, in which he encourages and guides me in my journey of watching the anime.
Besides that, we’re able to talk about ourselves and certain topics that are considered personal, deep and reflective. There have been times where our convos reach 6+ hours. Mind you his curfew is at 10pm but he sometimes goes beyond that just to continue chatting. We also like to share and ask for advice from among each other.
There was one time where I was very very down, and he reached out to me about school again, then soon let our convo turn into a rant session. He listened to everything. He actually had his own frustrations that time as well, so he also asked me for some advice. Turns out, we both had the same problem—overthinking and the inability to focus. After that, I felt so comforted and understood. We agreed to have our chat as a safe place for self-development. I told him I’m glad I met him. He loved it and told me the same. For the rest of that miserable week (it was already full face-to-face classes at this time), he kept me company and checked up on me.
Now that we always have regular class, he always finds a way to be near me every now and then. When my seatmate/rowmate is absent, he sometimes sits in their seat. We keep chattering and laughing.
I almost forgot to mention: he has ALWAYS been helping me with all the hard tasks in school, since I always get the leader’s position in group activities. We even have an inside joke that he’s my right hand.
Several people also told me they really do notice something among us two. My best friend said she noticed some sort of tension between us from the way we lock eyes with each other.
NOW, THERE HAS BEEN A RECENT SETBACK..
I told a reliable, sociable friend of mine about my crush, while we were RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIM. Now, he didn’t hear anything, but it seems he understood what we were talking about. I had to pretend it wasn’t him and ended up saying smtg like “He’s not in this class.”
If he actually DOES like me back, hearing me say that ig might’ve crushed him.
Then the week after that, on Monday, the same friend told me she talked with my crush and asked him who he was into. He had said he was currently crushless but started to like a girl from another section “just this week”.
I thought I was finally free from the confusion from our weird talking stage, that it’s finally clear he doesn’t like me back. But now I’m suspicious because of the sequence of events that lead to this. I tried to distance myself a bit, but eh. It’d also be weird for me to suddenly pull away from him when we’re already this close.
This happened around a month ago. Now, we’re back to being “buddy-buddy” and we’re even closer and more intimate than before. Last week, I told him that my mom read his compliment about her cake and she wanted to give him some. Then he wouldn’t stop smiling at me. The day after that, I gave him the cake and he patted and thanked me. The day after that, he thanked me again and told me it was delicious and his mom liked it too. I told him he could get a free bday cake from us and he flipped lmao
We still stick around with each other until now. Idk exactly what to do, but I think I won’t say anything. I just love being with him and having him in my life, regardless of what we are. I don’t wanna risk losing what I already have.
That’s pretty much it. Ik that was super long😅
What are your thoughts? Is there a chance? | Crushes |
This is not my main account cause I feel a bit weird about it.
I find me crush very attractive, she is one of the most attractive girls I have ever seen.
The problem is that I feel more sexual feelings for her than romantic ones.
Whenever I see her I get an erection and can't stop thinking about doing sexual things with her.
I am am scared that she maybe sees it or will feel it when I maybe can hug her in the future, I don't want that she feels weird.
Most times I masturbate I think about her and I feel bad after it cause I don't want to see her as a sex object.
I just want to see her as cute girl who I love and not someone I sexually desire that much.
Of course I have no problem at all that she is attractive but I am still annoyed that I feel those feelings so strongly.
I would sill love to hug her and play with her but I think having sex with her would be the best feeling on the world.
Sorry if this post is weird. | Crushes |
we were in the same event a month or so ago, and he left a lasting impression on me because of his bright and friendly personality. also the fact that he’s my type and he’s so damn cute.
I enjoyed talking to him in person and we had a fair bit in common so conversation flows well. But I haven’t talked to him since then and I want to reach out to him over text.
The issue is that I am terrified of awkward situations and I don’t have a lot of natural conversation starters. When we talked in person we just went up to the other and talked about whatever was currently happening. I can’t exactly do that over text. I’m also concerned that conversation will just die out since we’re both rather busy.
I don’t want to confess or anything, just talk with him more because I think he’s interesting. Any solid conversation starters or advice will be helpful. Thanks in advance :) | Crushes |
I love her with all my heart. I wish to be with her and I also wish her all the best in the world. I wish her to be happy. I do wish to have a committed relationship with her, but I will admit that maybe she doesn’t think of me the same way.
Occasionally, there would be times that I find myself acknowledging other girls, even worse, sometimes her friends that they are pretty and attractive. I don’t know why, but I do get a little nervous around them and I do try to think of ways to approach them, I don’t know why!
I don’t know if this means that this was all just infatuation | Crushes |
So I (18M) have just moved into a halls of residence in a new city for university and there is a girl (18F) from my town who I've developed an interest for. I denied it for a week or two and have now accepted it and changing how I approach the situation. I've been saying hello more confidently and making conversation (which for me is unheard of as I can be dead silent in group conversations for a long time, and barely even do the most basic of small talk) we get along well as we can relate to things from home and plenty other things coincidently.
But I've been looking at her a lot when I see her, consciously and unconsciously, and a couple nights ago in a small group, I noticed when she laughed or we all laughed she would look at me, and would dart her eyes towards me at times, not as much as me but she did most times, even when she wasn't laughing. Even crossing the road another day we locked eyes for a split second and didn't say anything as I didn't want to interrupt her conversation, but I saw it. We do also smile to each other from a distance. But it's all still so vague
Would you say that eye contact and other small things like this might just be casual and normal? or something more.
I also feel like I'm coming out of my shell since being here ive noticed which is good.
I do know asking here probably won't do me much good as there's not a lot to work from, but I thought why not | Crushes |
*sorry for bad english*
She:Z
The guy who likes her: H
The mutual: A
Ok so I (M15) am with this girl (Z) (F15) as her best friend, we were like brother and sister but later i found out that I'm developing feelings for her, and when I was completely sure of my feelings, it was a piece of cake for me to move on from my temporary crush.
She goes to a tuition centre where there is a guy (H) (M15) who likes her, at first she rejected H saying that she don't know him that much to get into a relationship with him, but later one of their mutual (A) who knew about all this told H saying that Z is interested in him and told Z that H wants to get to know him more, both were lies tho. Z and H later cleared the lies out but then Z wanted to know him more and H wanted to continue the conversation, so they remained in each other's DMs and talked to each other.
It's usual getting deliverzoned by her for like 8-10 minutes when she's online and talking to someone else or simply scrolling instagram, but in these past 2 days when she started talking with H, she left me on deliverzone for like 25-30 minutes and even on seenzone for short time periods as she's talking to him. It's like either getting ignored or listening to her abt H.
Yesterday I asked her if she has any feelings for that guy? Adding 💀 in the end to make it look sarcastic, on which she replied I'm sad to say but ig yes. That broke me apart, now every compliment of H is giving her butterflies and shit, some of my friends said that it is beginning and she thinks she loves him but it's not true, atleast it doesn't seems to be.
Then i confessed to her through a reel in which it was stated that idk why and when i fall for you, but i did and now you're the only one in my heart and mind, she was shocked and said she can't lose a friend like me just for my feelings and that we're like brother sister, on which i agree, she even said that i can take some time for myself then come back when the feelings are gone, well ik they won't go as she's not only the one i love but the only one i talk to, she's the only one for whom I don't need any kind of social energy to interact with. And ik the feelings won't vanish.
In the end i told her it was all a prank and she was a lil mad at me but then boom she again started talking abt H and how he slept while talking to her. I then continued with my normal behavior by saying, oh, wow and shit which I don't want to say! But it I don't, I'll eventually lose her.
I also told her that If she gets into a relationship with H she shouldn't tell me anything happening between them (as she tells me everything about everyone in her life) on which she said "okie I'll smile it away".
I'm unable to eat or even sleep, I just want her to be away of relationships and focus on herself and maybe in future she develops feelings for me just like i did for her, there are changes on which I'll rely happily but god please no relationship for her all i want is Z to focus on herself.
Also lastly, moving on isn't an option for me, so kindly give an advice by which i can put him out of her heart and mind, he also smokes which is smthn she hates the most, she even made me quit it. Please people just give some advices my mind is messed up rn. I'll gladly be her friend for now and will proceed further in future, but please why is she getting into a relationship? It's killing me. | Crushes |
Soorryyy it’s so long!!
My friend group (mostly guys) were playing truth or dare and I got asked to reveal my crush. I did, HUUGEEE mistake but whatever. And they (2 guys and a girl) were the first to find out about it and promised to keep it to themselves. After I did, I started talking about him to my friends and they would tell me stuff about him too. Now, recently I was told to leave my crush for a better guy by one of the boys. Later, the same day, he told me that he has a crush on me and that’s why he was saying that. I got kinda disappointed and adding to that, he asked me to say yes or no to his confession. I want to reject him but wanna stay friends without “friendzoning” him. How do I do that? | Crushes |
So on the first day of school, he was my seatmate. We don't talk those days, and so one time I gave him an extra paper since no one offers it to him. That's the first word he said to me, "Thank you," and I wasn't able to respond because I was so nervous. He asked me about the assignments, but my classmate asked me something, and he just quickly ran away. I feel so sad about that. He always feels excited to check my paper. He also asked me, "Why are you so quiet?" and "Why are you hiding your answer?" "I will not cheat on you." He also asked my friend why I was always quietly staring at the wall, and my friend answered, "Oh, do you have a crush on her?" then he said, "No, I was just wondering why." and he added, "Is there a ceiling above?" even though they were on the ground floor of a second-floor building. He also asked me where I lived, if I spoke these languages, and so on. He would ask me anything once a day, and I would often just nod or laugh at him. He would also compliment how smart I am or how good I am at art, and I would not likely respond because I feel shy. He would also wave to me before. But as days passed by, I think he thought that I was hard to get, so I noticed that he hung out with my friend. I feel so jealous about it. He would talk, compliment, tease, and pat him on the head. I keep on teasing my friend that the guy likes her, and when my friend tells him that, I feel so embarrassed. But my friend said that the guy likes someone in another class. My friend asked him if I might know it, and he responded, "Nooo." What makes me more sad is that the girl and him like each other; the girl even played an instrument in the corridor near the classroom for him. I just accepted it and moved on, but I was still sad that I didn't befriend him because I was too afraid. But anyways, he still compliments me or sometimes teases me without being direct. | Crushes |
So I liked this guy for a while and spent a good while moving on from him.. And I did.. But now I like his best friend.. My heart is telling me he likes me too but he might just have been nice to me (which makes me immediately fall for someone lol) and probably just wanted to become better friends.. There are some signs he likes me too but i could be reading them wrong.. | Crushes |
I met this guy at an Alex G concert through another friend he’s in a band and just looks wow. He complimented my top and I could see he kept looking at me and basically by the end of the night he was as close to me as he could and kept looking at me and singing the lyrics lmao by the end of the night he hugged me goodbye and said text me when you get home NOW. Idk?? If he said it to me and I don’t recall him saying it cause I was a bit tipsy but my friend laughed and quoted him and said text me when you get home and then her eyes were wide saying omg he said it to you he was all over you. I got home and he had followed me on instagram and it’s been 2 days and I’m terrified to text because I’m scared I’ve read the situation wrong but I’m ALSO scared I’ll never see him again but I might at a birthday party or I’ll just go to his gig lmao. Idk what would anyone else do (he’s got millions of friends and just broke up w his girlfriend not long ago I’m more scared it all just meant nothing) | Crushes |
I'm board and should go to sleep but im gonna do this instead | Crushes |
how do i stop crushing on my close friend. i hang out with them all the time and i don’t want to stop being friends with them. they already know i like them and we both choose to pretend that i don’t. | Crushes |
Alright so my crush recently got out of a relationship around 3 1/2 weeks ago but recently she’s been responding to my text more often and switched from Ily to spelling it out “I love you” which I don’t think matters but she also compliments me more often yk. The thing is she wants to hang out more often than before but she sometimes calls me dude or bro and sometimes close/ best friend even tho she treats me like someone above that. So I’m just confused if she really likes me but isn’t ready for a relationship currently or she’s probably just friendzoning me and playing me? I grew up extremely unattractive and this year I’ve recently started to talk to girls with no trouble after I lost a lot of weight so this is one of the first times I’ve ever gotten so close with a girl so I’m oblivious to multiple things about dating so any advice would be good like if I should take thing slow. | Crushes |
I can't stop thinking about her she's the best person I've ever known she's smart kind and considerate she also has the cutest smile ever whenever I compliment her she looks away and smiles and shyly says thank you she's the best her biggest imperfections are 100× more beautiful then anyone else she's adorable I want her to call me hers so and me to call her mine I want to do cute couple things with her I want to hold her hand as we walk rest her head on my chest as we watch TV she's the best and I can't stop thinking about her. | Crushes |
he's got a girlfriend now, but...
what would've happened if I didn't tell him "I used to like you" in my confession? behind that message I was still crushing on him hard; just scared of rejection.
To this day I'm still wondering what would've happened- what do u guys think? | Crushes |
There’s this one guy I find cute in my class but I’ve barely spoken to him except for a few times. I kinda admire at him but luckily he hasn’t seen it (at least I hope he didn’t bc he didn’t say anything).
I’m kinda half tempted to ask one of my friends that I’ve made in the same class to ask him questions for me.
My other friend keeps telling me but I have no way to casually ask if he has a significant other. Our last class is in three days so I’ve simply resigned to admire from afar and wing it lol | Crushes |
Okay so basically I've liked him before (like 4/5 years ago, but I recently kinda started liking him again) and he's just impossible to read.
Like today he was talking about me, and I brought up something from when I liked him, I tend to not bring it up anymore cause it's embarrassing to me but whatever. And he says that he never talked to me then because it was obvious I liked him, which it true. But then it killed the whole mood, he was calling me nice and sweet and all that jazz and I'm at a point where I don't need him to validate me or say nice things about me, but it was still nice to hear him say cause it's nice to hear anyone say that. And it was like a buzz kill.
And later I was texting him (I replied to his story asking a question or something, but it's not relevant) and he starts asking about another person. Which was annoying, especially because this person is friends with both of us, but definitely closer with me. And while I've known my crush for way longer he's still obsessed with the friend. (this is too confusing for me and I don't wanna type names so from now on my crush is C and the friend is F)
Anyways, me and F were in a bit of a fight, it was mostly a miscommunication thing, but I had told C about this. C continued to ask about F instead of just texting them himself (probably because he knew they wouldn't answer, hmmm) as someone who is always scared that people don't care about me it's kind of a dick move to text someone and ask about another person.
Fun fact that gave me such an ick (I literally never get them with this guy) I don't even really know if I like them now after like months of me liking them.
Also they like talking to me but at the same time he leaves after a few seconds, invites more people to talk, or just looks mad that he's talking with me.
Like babe, you're the one that came over here?? Make it make sense.
Anyways I'm low-key over him because I can't take it anymore.
Good night/morning/ whatever. Really sorry to anyone who had to listen to my insane ramblings.
Pro tip: never get this worked up over a MAN. | Crushes |
So, me and my crush like each other and I've been trying to talk to her but I can't.
There's always people around her and I keep thinking if I try to strike up a conversation she won't be able to notice me because there's people talking to her, not only that, I'm also anxious. What do I tell her? What topics should we talk about? Why do I feel nervous when talking to her? Should I wait until we're both alone and then talk?
Anyway thanks for taking the time to read this, help is appreciated. | Crushes |
soooo i have a crush on a classmate of mine and i know exactly why. He's got a nice soothing voice. When he talks, it sounds so comforting and relaxing. Not to mention, everything he says are meaningful and idk, nice? So yeah, idk if i wanna be brave enough to tell him that i feel this way because I am personally not sure how much i like him. Maybe I dont like him too much that i would risk the awkwardness that id bring myself into.
But i catch him staring at me sometimes. We have made a couple of eye contact moments in a day. And i dont want to assume that it means something more.
He's kinda friendly to our classmates but everytime i try to talk to him, he replies in a very brief sentence. I kinda wanna be close to him so what do i do? We're in the same research group so i have opportunities to talk to him. But dont get me wrong, i have tried to talk to him about our project but he would rather talk to our other groupmates than me.
I think i should uncrush him, huh? And if no, how do i become friends with him? | Crushes |
So I haven't had a lot of dreams that include my crush, probably just like a dozen, but all but one of her have been very unpleasant, to the point of being nightmares
Like, most if them are her yelling at me, leaving me forever, telling me that she hates me, and basically just being angry in any way
There have even been dreams where she was literally attacking me, kicking me, trying to stap me and stuff like that
So I don't know, why am I getting these dreams of her, because she's literally the nicest person I know, or have ever known probably, I've never seen her angry at all, let alone at me, and she's honestly way more supportive to people than she should, so I don't know why I'm getting these awful dreams about her, it just doesn't make any sense to me. | Crushes |
i see my crush but not a lot we have been talking for a while and idk how to tell her that i miss her and that i wanna see her without looking desperate or a simp idk we have not reached that level of closeness to tell her that | Crushes |
A gir in my English class keeps looking in my direction, and I don't know of she is giving a 1000 yrad state because she is tired, board, ot if she is looking at me directly.
What does this mean?
P.S, I have a crush on her but we don't even know each other, am i over exaggerating? | Crushes |
I've been ever so slightly gaining a crush on my friend, like everytime I see and talk to him he's more and more attractive and his flaws are like looking hotter and hotter. Now this guy is NOT usually what I go for but like😵💫 should I try something? | Crushes |
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