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So as time has went on, I've been gradually feeling more and more like I shouldn't even bother trying with my crush anymore.
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Not only have my wingmen been giving me terrible advice and have turned out to be very unloyal friends, but I did something so stupid that I feel super guilty and disgusted over it and wish I never had the audacity to do. (I kissed him on the cheek without his permission. I apologised to him twice, and he just replied with "ok" which he always replies to my messages with.)
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I don't feel ready to let go though, and I feel like I'll never meet someone like him again. I don't know why I try so hard with him. He's stupid but I love him so much and I don't know why.
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I keep wishing for the day would come where he'd just confess to me and admit he has a crush on me, but lately I'm starting to think I'm just fucking delusional and he probably doesn't like me. I'm getting so many mixed signals and I don't know what to do. On one hand I'm getting overwhelming evidence but my inner voice is still doubting it.
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I can't play this game anymore, but I don't have the strength to give up on him either.
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I love him, I absolutely adore him and want to care and protect for him. I love everything about him and I wish I could spend more time with him and be boyfriends, but I have a gut feeling that I shouldn't try.
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He has no idea how many times I've cried over him. I can't believe I cried so many times over someone so fucking stupid | Crushes |
Context: I have a crush on a girl wha's a year below me and know basically nothing about, but now I've absolved my last day at school.
I've started like her about half a year ago. And during the time, I've developed myself a lot. I had a huge glow up in appearance, I grew much more mature and confident, and most importantly learned how to socialise with people (mostly in the last couple of weeks). But from the beginning, I knew that I was fighting a losing battle, and now that it's finally lost, it's kind of a relief. If I was put back at the start of the year in my current state, I could easily get a close shot, but what's done is done. Also as someone on the younger end of my year, I sometimes wonder how things would've been if I went into school a year later, like my mom always wanted me to do.
This chapter in my life has been closed and I should look forward to a new start. I should be proud of myself for how far I've come, but it still leaves a bitter taste in my mouth. | Crushes |
We both started college a week ago, sadly we don’t really share the same group of friend but I do believe that she thinks that I am kind (obvly she might not feel anything more than that for me).
Now I got her phone number as she wanted me to send her a certain video and I am wondering how to go on from now on. Should I ask her out for a drink or a walk?
It would mean the world to me if you would help me! | Crushes |
So me and my crush haven't really talked to each other, just some small talk or for school things.
Days have passed and I found out he's an asshole: whenever he gets a good grade better than everyone else he has to flex it to everybody and put everyone down; and whenever someone gets a higher grade than him, he calls them "bastard".
He thinks he's like a god and that he's better than everyone else. I'm actually really tired of it. He also laughs when someone does a mistake or smt.
These are the reasons why I really would like to move on from him. Any suggestions? Thanks in advance! | Crushes |
I got a crush on a girl from the parallel class-room some students ship us together... we sometime hang together but it because we have some bets and the one who loose buy to the other his/her prize and well it funny how it turns out the we can somehow be the whole day outside. Well she nice to me but she is the same to everyone from my pov, so idk. And there is a prom in the end of the year and i want to invite her but evry time the subject come up i get cold feet i guess ill ask her out first because our "dates" is only after school and because of bets | Crushes |
And then you just want to be friends with that person? | Crushes |
THIS IS SO LONG IM SORRY!!
Okay so, as I said in another post on here my boyfriend and I will have been dating for 5 years on April 28th. It’s insane to think we’ve been together for HALF A DECADE!! We started dating when we were 13, and now we’re 18. So, we’ve dated for an entire life phase (teenage years) and it’s kind of insane to think about. So, here’s our story because so many people say middle school relationships don’t make it! They CAN. It’s rare, but as long as you two are committed and communicate well…it can happen.
So, one random day I posted a clip on my Instagram story of me playing Call of Duty and thanking my brother for buying me the new game (it was WWII) and a few minutes later I get a DM from a really smart and quiet guy in my class that I knew because we had honors classes together and he asked “you okay COD too?”. Now, a ton of girls were talking about his “glow up” that year because the year before he was shorter and chubby, but unlike me, those same girls made fun of him so after he grew 7 inches and got “handsome” he really didn’t care for them. Of course, at the time no guy had ever liked me. I was the freaky Harry Potter girl (this was before JKR was openly transphobic, mind you) and I was “annoying” because of undiagnosed ADHD. Well, turns out he’d had a crush on me since 6th grade (idk how I was so awkward looking because I had just started growing so my neck was disproportionate and stuff but you know, 6th grade). So, I thought he just wanted to be friends. I friend zoned the HELL out of him and I’d just broken up with a girl that I had been with for a few months because I was in the closet at the time and it’s hard to have a relationship in the closet. Me and her are still cool to this day.
Anyways, he messaged me and we quickly clicked and started talking back and forth in Instagram DMs. We were both SO awkward that we didn’t know how to talk to each other in person so even though he sat two seats over we’d just look at each other. I talked to some other guys that I saw as friends because I have two brothers and just kind of grew up around dudes so I could easily joke with guys that I didn’t have a crush on…and my poor boyfriend at the time thought I liked another guy that I actually hated because I’d call him an asshole all the time but he thought it was flirting. We’d been talking for about 5 months and we all went on a school trip to Washington, DC. We texted the entire 14 hours there and my mom knew about us talking and approved of him after asking some teachers and they gushed about how smart he was and that he was a good kid. Once we got to DC, his friends started playing wingman…and so did my MOM!! So, we started actually talking in person and soon I was walking with him and his friends and we were laughing and joking around. On the way back one of his friends got up and moved and said “you can sit there!” And my mom said it was fine since it’s not like there weren’t monitors on the charter bus. The whole ride back we talked and got closer and of course my friends were being stupid about it.
Months later, he knew I had a crush on him. I literally TOLD him but he has anxiety and was scared to asked me out in fear that I would reject him even though I TOLD him to ask me out. We talked for 8 MONTHS in total before he finally asked me out. Actually, he missed my lips on our first kiss. He was super nervous so he turned and quickly kissed me, but he ended up kissing my chin and then got so nervous that he just kept walking (we were hiking together) and then he awkwardly asked me out. Of course, I said yes and the rest was history. Despite my mental health issues he has stayed by my side and supported me through it all. I didn’t come out to him as bi until 2 years into our relationship and he was like “I kinda knew” LMAOOO.
He gave me a promise ring a few years back and he’s planning on proposing sometime soon. Moral of the story, don’t let people tell you that your relationship won’t last. It 100% can. | Crushes |
TLDR: A guy I had a crush on for quite a while got a new girlfriend. At the end of the day, I have to accept it and I'm not entitled to anything. But it's still great to see him happy and it's probably a sign for me to move on. Feel free to PM me if you're going through something similar.
I'm going to try to keep it short since it's kind of a long story.
It wasn’t even supposed to happen. He was given a dare to flirt with someone and they just so happened to fall in love. He told me he was head over heels for her now.
I’ve liked him for the past year and seven months. It took me a lot of effort to get to this point. And I really did try.
For a brief timeline, I’ve pretty much had a crush on him since the moment I first noticed him on August 2021. I don’t know why, but he just felt familiar to me, like I’d known him for the longest time without even meeting him. Eventually, he moved schools in October of that year. I never gathered up the courage to actually talk to him at that time and I thought I would never see him again…until I accidentally found him on Snapchat the next month.
We gradually got closer throughout those months mostly through Snapchat. Eventually, I got his number too. But throughout that time period, I only hung out with him irl once because it’s so hard having that connection with someone when they go to another school. My life didn't revolve around him, but I would go to great lengths just to find a way to start a conversation with him. There were times when I would help him with his most vulnerable moments, even though he hated showing vulnerability. At times, I would play the "wing woman" role when he was struggling with girl problems. He would always tell me that he thought I was an amazing person and that I deserved the world.
Eventually, I confessed to him last year in August. He gave me the "You're super pretty and you have a personality of a goddess, but I can't date you right now because I need to focus on myself." It's a classic lie, but I gave it the benefit of the doubt because he actually was facing some girl problems a few weeks before (a girl he really liked kept ghosting him, but he stopped having a crush on her by the time I asked him out).
And I guess here I am now, March 2023 and he got a new girlfriend just last week. When he told me, I felt nauseous, jealous, and lovesick. I wasn't mad at either of them, but I was mad at...I don't know...the universe? How was it that I did everything right to the best ability, but this random girl gets him by a stroke of luck?
This past few weeks, I've been drowning out my emotions with music. Lots and lots of music. I also had a championship this week and I've been using all the emotion pent up in me to perform better.
I went through a lot of thinking and journaling to cope with my pain. I just found that in the end, there's not much I can do and that it's not worth having bitter feelings. I'm not entitled to anything. I can't force him to like me. Whatever happens naturally is just...what happens.
I think that in the end, I just want him to be happy and I genuinely mean that. I genuinely like him as a friend too and I love giving him advice and hearing him in his happiest moments. I still don't have closure and unanswered questions, but I'm learning to accept it.
But all in all, it might be my time to move on. I'm graduating in two months and I'm going to college next year so I'm about to start a new chapter in my life and leave all this behind. There are just other things I need to focus on in my life right now like my upcoming championship. I'm thinking of giving him all of my creative date ideas/advice that I've created and saved in the past for his relationship.
But if anyone is going through something similar, feel free to PM me and we can maybe vent to each other :) | Crushes |
I have a crush on a boy and it’s been going on for 7 months now. Last year he joined me and my friend’s roblox game bc he has my friend added and i started being mean to him, like rlly mean. But recently he has been giving clues on his discord who he likes and they all sum up to me. I wanna try talking to him knowing that we r in the same class. but idk how to, do i say hi and what? | Crushes |
Hey there everyone. I've been crushing for 2 years, but now it's over. Not in a bad way. We are now together and happy. I hope everyone, even if things go bad, has a fun journey through their crushing journey. If you have any questions, go ahead and ask me.
Thank you Reddit & the community, for helping me out.
Peace. | Crushes |
Basically i have a crush ive been liking for 7 months now and he is in my class this year so i’m like really awkward around him and i my cheeks turn red. on his discord he was writing clues on who his new crush was, most of them summed up to me when me and my friend were figuring this out. he recently wrote abt how his crush also keeps staring at him and i know DAMN well im constantly looking at him. what do i do?- 🥹 | Crushes |
So I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 years (5 years on April 28th!!) and obviously he’s my crush. I’m going to put our story on this sub, buuuuut I have a ton of fictional crushes that I need to gush about 😭 and see who else has a crush on them. Is that allowed? Don’t wanna break any rules. | Crushes |
Hi,
I (F) play a lot of videogames with one of my online gaming buddies (M), among other gaming buddies. We have never met, but we seem to have a lot in common. We are both awkward and shy, and share the same humor and interests. We have been gaming for about a month now, and have gotten many inside jokes. We don't always play in a group sometimes it's just the two of us.
I am a person who never realize when someone likes me, and always just thinks people are being friendly. We have flirtatious jokes between us, but that's also kind of our humor. But he has started to compliment me, and last night after playing he really complimented me, telling me I have a kind soul, and I'm a good person with an amazing humor and he likes we get along really well, and that he's happy he got to know me, and he will play again tonight. He laughs at all my jokes and says I have the cutest sneeze, to be fair, when I sneeze it sounds like a bunny sneezing or something. I have been made fun of because of that before, so it was nice to hear.
I'm not used to getting compliments at all, from anyone. So him complimenting me caught me off guard. So that's why I'm here.
What makes me even more confused is that he has said that he has never had a female gamer friend before, so he thinks this is very cool. My friend thinks he said that just in case I would turn him down if he tried becoming more than friends.
Do you think he likes me? or is he just being friendly? | Crushes |
So guys I've done a project in group and there was one girl who I really liked. After that I want to get to know her better but I felt something for her I am shy and can't talk to her, this makes me so uncomfortable. She always walks with her friends and will it be normal to ask her out when she's with her friends or should I wait to find her alone. You've might have experience in this kind of situation and I would be glad if you can help me. | Crushes |
So my crush and I go to separate classes and we have been on some school trips together. We havent really talked much, just a few questions abd thats it. Now I dont know if I should ask her out or not. She is most of the time with her best friend and I would feel akward not asking her alone, and Im discouraged because of our lack of prior contact. I dont know if I should ask her out when I find her to be alone sometimes or not. I dont really have a problem with approaching her, I just feel like it might be wiser to wait a bit because I think that we might get a bit closer in the future. | Crushes |
Been talking to this girl Recently and she likes to talk to me but I asked her if she liked anyone and she said she didn’t know.she asked a few questions about who I liked but I don’t think she realises it’s her. Any help? | Crushes |
This girl has been in our friend group for a few months now and I’m pretty sure that I’ve got a crush on her. The thing is…my other friend makes her laugh more and overall she seems like she enjoys spending time with him more. I really hate seeing them in discord calls together and even when I’m in there, it doesn’t help. | Crushes |
His voice his face his hair everything makes me so happy.
But my self esteem is too low to be with him. He deserves someone secure and stuff. I'm too insecure for him.
But I dream about him, and I'd give him the world!!! | Crushes |
I'm posting this on a new acc just in case.
so I've been crushing for around a month, on a year-long friend...
issue is she might think I'm gay, and a fun fact is she used to date my sbf...they ended on good terms and are still friends, idk nothing about what to do.
she is super sweet and energetic, we'll call her kara.
we don't have many classes together, around 4-5.
btw I'm ftm, and I came out to her first.
she's also a cute little matchmaker, crap now I'm just rambling bout her......
sooooo, any help? idk if I should tell her, ig at some point I will.
but for now, please just some advice. tysm bye <3 | Crushes |
And I'm a junior and we go to different schools. The different schools isn't an issue and neither is the age difference but I'm just not sure about the grade difference. It means she's going to college next year and I'm staying in high school. It feels like it would be impossible to maintain a relationship and I don't really have much hope but we seem mutually interested so I really think something between us is possible. Just not sure if its worth it. There's always prom but what about after?? | Crushes |
guys i need help. so this guy and i have known each other a while and every time we see each other out we end up going home together and being cute & wholesome. we talk occasionally but not all the time, and whenever we see each other i have the best time and am really starting to like him. last time i saw him he invited me over and was saying cute shit like we would have cute kids and that he missed me and whateva. hung out the next day & he bought me breakfast (🥺) but now it’s radio silence. do i reach out or is it pretty clear he doesn’t want anything to do w me? help a girly out 🤲 | Crushes |
I got rejected but I don’t mind TOO much. I understand but it is sad that I got rejected but we’re still friends. I read someone’s post about how their crush was actually really mean(sad face), my crush didn’t do anything mean :) | Crushes |
It's the only damn thing I really want in life. I want to be able to talk to that someone. Get to know that someone. Care for that someone and hold them dear to my heart. I want to be always there for them and I want to be happy with them.
And I did for a bit with someone.
But knowing what love feels like is driving me insane. I don't want to keep hoping. I don't want to keep doubting. I don't want to constantly keep putting myself down because things didn't work out. I don't want to keep disappointing and hurting myself. Getting so angry at myself. I just don't want to think about love anymore... | Crushes |
I hope in the future you’ll lose me. I hope I move on and find the guy of my dreams. I hope you’ll think of me when she breaks your heart. I hope you’ll remember how much I cared, how much effort I put in, how big i smiled when I was with you, how much I loved you. I hope you’ll miss me. I hope you won’t be able to get me out of your head. I hope you’ll dream a dream of me and never want to wake up. I hope you’ll reach out to me. I hope you’ll see how I’ve moved on. I hope you’ll realize that youll never get me back, ever. I hope know in your heart you lost a good thing that you had. I hope you know I would’ve done anything for you. I hope our memories together will haunt you at night. I hope you’ll wish you could’ve changed the past and ended up with me. I hope you feel this same heartache I feel right now. I hope our roles reverse. | Crushes |
We both started college a week ago, sadly we don’t really share the same group of friend but I do believe that she thinks that I am kind (obvly she might not feel anything more than that for me).
Now I got her phone number as she wanted me to send her a certain video and I am wondering how to go on from now on. Should I ask her out for a drink or a walk?
It would mean the world to me if you would help me! | Crushes |
We were talking on the phone together, I was having so much fun talking to him. I like him so much I wish I could talk to him forever. But then he just pretty much stopped talking like he just wanted me to leave. I felt like I was bothering him or something. Did he not enjoy our conversation as much as I did? We laughed so much, im so confused. Am I not interesting enough for him? I would do anything to be enough for him if that means he’d like me the way I like him. I wonder what he thought about after I awkwardly ended the call. Did you feel bad? Did you think oh good riddance? Did you smile? Are you thinking about me right now? Stop acting like you love me then starting acting like this. You’re so cruel. Please please please i want him to tell me he feels the way I feel. I want him to reassure me, to tell me it’s all in my head. | Crushes |
You know that feeling you get when you've met your person? It shocks you because you weren't expecting it, but at the same time you're ready for it. When I met him I knew it wasn't time, and was okay with waiting. When I saw him again year's later I thought it was our time, yet he never showed any signs of liking me. There's that but its all far too complicated to tell him how I feel, not only that, but I'm so much younger than him. I only come on here to just shout into the void, instead of it pillow at night. I've never loved another person like this, but on the other hand I've never had a relationship. Nothing between him and I ever happened, just hanging out. I never wanted to make him uncomfortable, and I've tried to show signs, but in my heart I feel like he doesn't like me. He would have shown it by now, like I have, or shown interest in being friends at least. I mean, he dates really pretty girly girls apparently, I'm like not really that. I can be girly, but masculinish on some days. He's more feminine energy and I have masculine energy, we balance each other out. We reflect each other in the most beautiful ways, good and bad. I didn't fall in love with quickly, it was like when you fall asleep. It happened slowly at first, then it's all at once. Yet I was the only admirer and observer, the only one falling, I've always been that. I can't help I feel this way, but I feel disgusting for it too. I know I shouldn't, but he's so much older, and it's all too complicated, he's in my life too much too. I let go of him, but ill see him on Instagram, or somewhere else. It comes flooding back to me, just the sight if his face, it brings back why I love him. He's too involved with the people close to me, but I'm mature enough to keep him in my life. I can hide my feelings, and not make him uncomfortable, thats one thing I don't want to do. So many women have fallen for him and make him uncomfortable, because they won't leave him alone. I want him to stay, even if that means being friends, or whatever he thinks of me as. Not everyone feels the same towards each other, and that's okay. I'm just scared one day ill have to watch him fall in love, but at the same time ill be happy for him. He deserves someone to love him as much as he loves others, even if that means more than me, or someone else. I want him to be happy, I want him to feel the way he makes me feel. He's perfect, to be me he is, and he deserves to know that. He always willake me feel this way. I won't love anyone as much as I love him, because no one ever cam be him. | Crushes |
In person as the poll result. I was planning on in person as well but wanted a confirmation.
They said yes! Prom is still away for good amount of time. Hopefully they don't change their mind. | Crushes |
Dm | Crushes |
I have a great online friend with i fell in love for a long time. We met in a religious group around two years ago, full of really nice people. We've been in great moments together and shared a lot about ourselves. There was a time when we literally talked every single day, same hour. She became a sweet part of my life. In fact, i can easely say that nobody has been so open to me before. Having the same faith and struggles, we basically helped each other a lot of times.
I fell in love so hard for her. We talked about this some times. She said she wanted to be with me once.
I like her a lot, but i don't believe online dating is a good idea... it would leave us both frustrated. So i want to keep being her friend. But i can't deny the desire to get more intimate once again. Go back to those days were we talked for hours, had no trouble saying out loud that i loved her and get the same anwser back.
But i somewhat see this love as dangerous. She seems to be very depressed and lonely. She needs a friend to be at her side. I know her, and a relationship would create a lot of damage for both.
So i tried so much to get over this romance and keep things as a friend that i ended up getting her mad at me. Last time she said that i treated my love for her like something wrong and impossible. That it seems like i regret falling in love for her in the first place. I probably hurted her feelings...
Yes, i like her a lot. So much that i'm trying to do the rigth thing instead of acting based on feelings. I know her (and me), dating would create a lot of problems for us. I want the best for her.
And there am i, 2 pm writing this, getting no sleep.
Aaaaaa | Crushes |
Because of nerves, I never confessed to my crush like [I was supposed to do](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11m87n0/ahhhhhh/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb). This has made me crazy for her, and I can’t take it, so I gave myself an ultimatum: either confess by next Friday or cut all ties with her and move on.
I know my chances are lower than before, but I don’t care. Not dating her but not being rejected by her is a terrible feeling; it feels like you’re stuck in transit with inertia tying you down. Hopefully by next Friday (I hope to do it tomorrow), I’ll have some good news. | Crushes |
The excitement and happiness is wearing off. My boldness is going to my downfall and I am filled with self doubt.
I overshare way too much and I feel like a pick me.
I thought you might like me, but maybe I'm wrong, maybe you just want to be friends. Or maybe you realized my flaws and decided it wasn't worth the trouble.
I think I'll hold back more and stop pushing my feelings and thoughts on to you. Hah... this sucks. | Crushes |
I have little crushes on some cute guys in another department. Nothing crazy—I just think they’re cute and want to know them better. Recently found out we have common interests and thought it was a step towards being more friendly and less shy, but, well…
Two of them were laid off… and I think I’m a little heartbroken.
It always brought me a spark of joy to see them, even if it was only passing each other in the halls or the elevator. I feel insane for being upset because I was chasing the infatuation. I wanted reciprocation but not actually committing.
I knew about it before they did and the knowledge felt like a burden. I’m also a little upset for them because it feels so unfair for them to be cut the way they were.
I feel insane for wanting to cry about this. | Crushes |
I really am sorry if I don't make sense, but I really need to talk about this.
So I've had this crush on this guy since about January, a little bit after an ex blew me off for another girl. For a while, I just thought this guy would be a hallway crush, y'know? Never talk to him, but slowly admire him throughout the highschool hallways.
Well, luckily, I'm friends with someone who is close to him, and somehow during a high school basketball game, while we were in the pepband stands, I got to finally talk to him. My friend actually got some pictures with him and sent them to me, and it made me fall even harder, because he is really cute, and really my type. Well, with him getting those pictures, I finally went up to him, (as pictures were on my phone,) and asked him if it was ok if I dmed him them, since it is awkward if they knew someone took a picture of them and they never got it, and he said yes!
So, after he said yes, I went to go dm him on instagram, and sent him the pictures, and said like, "it was nice talking to you, you're really cool," the usual, and meanwhile me inside is fangirling a lot because I finally got to talk to him, and our dms continued out for a few days! After that, he actually gave me his number to do game pigeon with, and honestly the messages continued and conversation flowed from then on out, but, it's gotten to the point I'm crying over him.
This could be because of past childhood trauma, but I fear I talk too much in conversation and he's slowly not wanting to be friends with me, and it's making me super upset. Along with that, he talks about his ideal partner, and how he feels about certain things, and it honestly just feels like I'm not wanted anymore, and he doesn't even want to talk to me, and he only does it because I'm a friend of his friend.
What I'm saying basically, is that I don't feel wanted by him anymore, and I feel like my childhood self wondering why nobody likes me, and why they won't talk to me.
I really don't feel good enough for him, and I don't even feel pretty anymore, my confidence has somehow dropped lower than I though.
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Thanks for reading this vent, idk if it even counts as one, but to me it does. :') | Crushes |
I've liked this guy for a couple of months and I'm not sure how to approach him. Now I'm not sure if he's straight or not but I don't wanna worry to much about that right now. I see him around school almost every day but I don't always have the chance to talk to him. Recently though I have had chances but I'm just so nervous and anxious that I never go through with it. I was so nervous and anxious at one point that I felt like throwing up and I wish I wouldn't feel that way I hate being shy I just wanna talk to this guy and at the very least befriend him. I only have 2 months left as a senior in high school so I need to make a move fast before I graduate and never see him again probably. I really need some words of encouragement. I just want to stop being so nervous and anxious for once :( | Crushes |
I caught my crush doing a ninja-stealth move to check out my boobs...but what does it even mean? I had taken my jacket off and got that funny feeling that someone was watching me so I turned my head to my crush and he was checking out my boobs.!!! (Yeas!) He turned away so fast so I thought it was a one time thing. It happened again today when I took my jacket off so i'm thinking he *might* be interested. What do these looks even mean?
Tagged NSFW for using boobs and boobies in post. :o) | Crushes |
So my crush and I both like each other, but we live nowhere near one another. We really wish we could date, but don’t think online dating seems like such a great idea especially since we won’t be able to see each other irl for at least a couple of years.
Are we right to not date? Should we say “screw it” and date anyway? Do you guys have any tips or advice for making online dating work? Are we just doomed cuz it’s likely we’ll never live near each other?
We really wish we were dating and agree that we would if we lived closer, but we aren’t certain about online dating, so any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you! | Crushes |
I love talking to him but idk how to talk to him even more, im so interested in him I just dont know how to ask him when I run out of things to ask. Thankfully we’ve been texting for days now but I feel like I keep asking him the same old stuff. (We usually talk about concerts and kpop since we both like that stuff, idk how to deviate from that topic and ask him other stuff) what other stuff should I even ask him? Anything will help seriously. | Crushes |
Y’all.
I cannot take this any longer. I (20F) hangout with this man everyday/night. We sit super close together, he taught me how to play pool and chess, we occasionally hold hands in the car, and I touch the back of his neck and his hands all the time. I told him I liked him and he said that he likes me but it’s hard for him to express his feelings.
TEL ME WHY when I go to tell him (over text) in a flirty way that I should have kissed him last night, he goes “I don’t know what to say”. This man (he’s 20) said he’s dated 6 people. What kind of stalemate bullshit is this? Like how am I supposed to proceed? | Crushes |
But, you still feel that emotional connection or have known them for a long while, just aren't really attracted to them? Not that I was promposed to, I was just wondering | Crushes |
I was pretty tired at the very last block of school so I decided to take a walk outside bc the weather was nice.
Lo and behold, I pumped into her. We said hi to each other.
Got back to class, felt recharged and finished it on a high note. Can’t believe such a small thing like that can make me feel the same way i did. I know It wasn’t much but for me it’s everything. I’d kill to be able to live that brief moment again. | Crushes |
Debated posting this. I probably would die if she found out. I’ve had this friend for 5 years. We’ve gotten really close. I recently came to realize I just feel so comfortable with her. She knows everything about me, except for my sexuality. I’m still in the closet.
My mother passed in December. We had her funeral in January. This close friend was practically at my side through it all. Literally at my mom’s funeral, she smiled at me and I just felt something. Never in my wildest dreams I thought I would ever for a moment feel an attraction to her. Maybe it’s the grief. My mother and I were close. Problem here is my friend is happily married, to a man. That’s a strict no touch zone. I wouldn’t dare. Plus I definitely feel like it would ruin any type of friendship we do have. I’ve tried dial downing the relationship, but she gets worried if I don’t talk to her.
I’ve been keeping her at arms length for weeks. She thinks it’s just me mourning. Some of it is, yes. But these feelings for her don’t seem to be letting up. I have other friends, few. But none like her. None as close to me as she is. Cutting down the contact with her, while also not having my mom anymore has created a very lonely situation for me. | Crushes |
And he doesn’t even know me …
I like him so much but it’s so surface level because I cannot even talk to him… T_T he probably doesn’t even know I exist and plus we have no classes together !! He’s a whole senior and I’m a junior… >_< I will never get a chance …. | Crushes |
Throwaway account because i know she has reddit, just in case.
So i like this girl, we have met multiple times. Mostly just casual movie nights at our places. I think our meetings go well even tough we dont even talk that much, so just awkwardly watch movie and then call it a night and awkwardly say goodbye. (Shes really quiet in person, like we almost whisper when talking, and shes very calm)
Over text things are a bit same, she is super dry and almost never texts first. If i text her, she answers in 15 min to 2 hours so fairly quickly, sometimes with more intrest and sometimes just some dry answer like "okay or yeah" and some emoji.
I have noticed she only texts first when shes really bored, like i recently texted her and she was just watching tv and gave dry answers at the time too.
I have told her that it feels stupid and tiring when only the other person is initiating things and asking other one out etc. And i said it would be more than okay if she initiates too so i dont have to stress over this always, because she knows how i react to stress and how anxious i get. And she just responded "yeah absolutely".
That will be the last time i say about that, and i hope it makes some change but so far nothing.
She never asks how i am doing really, like not just "how was your school day" etc, and if i say it was bad, shes just "ohh :(" like she seems not to even care about it, feels like she wants the conversation to die. She doesnt ask why something is going bad etc.
We are each others only friends that we see face to face, and i know shes been always alone and never in relationship so can it be shes just inexperienced in these kinds of things.
She gave me a good hug when i asked for one but i dont want to ask for new one because that kills the mood.
She is shy / introverted like me.
Please give some tips or personal experiences :/ | Crushes |
There is this guy that I've liked since last year and we slowly became good friends. But now I'm slowing losing feelings, like there is nothing about him that makes him different from any other guy. If yk what I mean. Like he's not super funny, he's OK looking, not the smartest but not dumb. But I still find myself feeling a teensy bit jealous when he talks to other girls and I still try to get his attention and I respond straight away to his texts even after he's left me on delivered for 25hrs. | Crushes |
Hiiii I have an update about this post right here
https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11lep53/he_might_likes_me/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
So I followed him yesterday and he followed me back in less than 15 minutes (that doesn't mean anything it's just because I thought he wouldn't follow me back 😭)
This morning I checked his profile and it turns out that he followed a friend of mine that I haven't seen in like five whole years which is weird that just means he checked my following on insta lolol and she didn't even follow him back he doesn't even know she goes to a diffrent school.
I've been also feeling kind of insecure like he literally only follows women from the hijabis to tweaking women lmao that's just weird and unattractive to me.
I was thinking about confessing my love for him through texts because we won't see other for three whole weeks starting from this week that's why but that just turned me off kinda but I still like him. I'm scared if he turns out to be a player or smthng.
What do you think? | Crushes |
We work together and he’s a team leader. We are all friends and often hangout together. I think we both know that the bond we share is different than all other friends. There is care, respect and trust. He lets me be and lets me get away with things other people don’t. We both tease each other and say things like “oh thank the lord i don’t have to see you tomorrow”. Idk how to say it but i know it’s different. He also said that i am his favorite person on the team and another coworker said to me the other day that oh, he has a soft spot for you.
There could be something or i am overthinking? please help | Crushes |
I’m crushing on a girl and we tease each other a lot. I roasted her pretty good about something and she joked:
“he’s being mean now? what a red flag”
You’d look for “red flags” in someone you wanna date right? Is she joking about dating me?
We also joke about being each other’s stalker, and annoying each other.
We also have a ton of random inside jokes. | Crushes |
They call me daily. Its sometimes annoying but i dont mind. And sometimes when my friends call me constantly she gets upset because im not calling her. | Crushes |
Is it creepy if i was to do so? my flirting game be striking me out at times man not gonna front, but she did jokingly alluded to getting her a gift and I responded with "Say Less"😂 but I don't know her so I'm of course I'm not gonna go all out. Any pointers and/or suggestions? | Crushes |
A day or two ago, I made a post about my girlfriend and a different girl I like, and since then A LOT has happened. Yesterday, my girlfriend broke up with me. I know i betrayed her by liking someone else, but she didnt know that. Out of the blue, she texted me saying “I can’t do this anymore” and just blocked me on everything. While this doesn’t excuse my crush, I’m confident I never did anything wrong to her. In fact, she always said how I was nice and sweet and made comments implying that she wanted something long-term with me. I know I am at fault here, but I don’t feel guilty anymore (and I’m probably evil for it). If anything, I feel a sense of relief. My point is that after the breakup, my crush, we’ll call her AB, noticed I was feeling off. We talked about it, and she comforted me, something I like about her: she’s so nice and caring. Today, I don’t know how the topic got brought up, but I found out she likes someone. Just recently she broke up with her boyfriend, and I was checking up on her. I think this is how it all started. She feels relieved because her ex was, in her own words, an “asshole” to her. While we were talking, she mentioned how she also felt relieved because she liked another guy. I probed a little more and… First off, she told me that she met him about 3 months ago. That is when me and her started talking. Next, she said they only talk through Snapchat. That is how me and her talk. Then she said hit me: “He lives far, like in a different state”. She lives in the west coast, me in the Midwest. While talking to her about the girl I like, she kept telling me that i should tell her. This, combined with the fact that she always watched my video game streams, made a list of songs for me to listen to, and gave me her account to watch anime, is telling me something. Does she like me? Do we both like each other without actually saying it? Is she giving me hints? Am I delusional? I need help, because I dont want to mess this up. If she does like me, Im telling her tonight howI feel. Thank you to everyone who commented on my previous post and to those. who will comment on this one! | Crushes |
I don’t normally crush on people and my last crush was about a year ago on a guy from work. Funny enough, I went back to crushing on this guy that I had liked somewhat over 2 yrs of working there. We have the same schedule it seems but since we’re flexible I only really see him on weekends.
He’s been popping in my dreams recently and it only makes it worse. They’re just normal dreams of us talking. I’ve never talked to him and Ik he only talks when talked to and with this other guy who is older than us. I’ve talked to that other guy, he’s cool. When I was working in this area with both of them his friend was asking me questions and he was there listening. I don’t really talk either unless I’m talked to. I used to be highly extroverted, but there comes a time where you just choose to keep to yourself after interacting so much and it gets tiring.
I don’t really like getting my hopes up and ik I’m not ugly. But I feel if he had a gf, I wouldn’t want to make things awkward between us if I told him he was cute/ or get ignored. I think I also grew attraction to him because we dress similarly. He wears baseball hats, jeans and a tshirt. I do too but i switch it up with hoodies. We have matched on more than half the ocasiona which is scary.
Thank you for listening. I feel better getting this off my chest. And whoever you are, you’re cute:) | Crushes |
Is it better to keep it to yourself or just let the other person know whether or not you want to or they want to pursue anything …. | Crushes |
I found a heart shaped note addressed towards me saying that I stole their heart and don't know how to feel. I'm honestly convinced that someone is trying to mess with me and that it's all a prank but that also doesn't seem likely. It doesn't have a name so I don't know who it is so I guess I'll have to wait it out. I feel like there's no way that it could be real though since I think I'm not really that attractive | Crushes |
After telling her about how and why I like her, which went really well. We never really talked much after that. I am still too scared to annoy or bother her which is why I didn't decide to say much after that. And I don't really have good social skills 😅
When we walk pass each other at school, we would give each other a smile and a nod. But slowly and eventually the more we walk pass each other, she no longer really looks my way and there isn't a genuine smile.
I was planning to strike up a conversation again the next time she sends a snap. But she literally left me on delivered for 5 days! 😭
I then sent another snap just asking how are things going. Which she is currently leaving me on delivered for a day. Hopefuly we could get talking soon, but I think I messed up or am going to probably continue messing up a possible friendship with her😮💨 | Crushes |
i had a crush on a guy, and im pretty sure he didnt like me back. i think hes just been leading me on tbh, his texts are so dry that sand looks moist, and salt looks hydrating
yet hes much more engaging on call? Buts a hes a shy person so its complicated.
Like in person hes shy but still makes more effort and is adorable, he does it in silly ways,
but his texts are have recently been nothing more than two words. ive only gotten one word answers and his story had confused me a lot ( we were using social media to chat not phone #’s)
tried to keep this short and sweet but i really want to know what tf is happening.
ill try to reply to comments asking for more details and example if u need. | Crushes |
So I’m new to this subreddit, but I need help. I want to tell my crush how I feel, but I don’t know how. You see I’m a bigger guy and every time in the past four years I’ve told someone i like them I’ve been rejected and shot down. But I feel like this girl is different. The way she talks to me and looks at me gives me hope but I’m not good at reading body language or signals like that.
Anyways, I really want to tell her how I feel but I don’t know how to start. We’re really good friends and I don’t want our friendship to be awkward or possibly ruined if she doesn’t share the feelings. I don’t want mine and this girls friendship to be over because she’s one of my best friends. Just being around her makes me happy and I want to tell her. I don’t want a relationship just yet, but I want to get this off my chest.
How do I tell her? Any advice helps. | Crushes |
So basically me and this kid like each other but he can’t date till he’s 16 (which is in like 6 months) but he’s said before that he’s had a list of people that he could basically shoot his shot with and has had as other options. I talked about it with my mom and she said is was bs and I’m better than just being an option. We again aren’t dating but he’s said he kinda planned on us dating when he turned 16 if we still liked each other. But he still has other options apparently. I don’t care that he likes other people but I find it disrespectful that he still thinks he can keep me in his back pocket. Do y’all think it would be a good idea to tell him. | Crushes |
I asked a guy I like if he wanted to go out for lunch over Spring Break and he said yes! Oh my god I think I am ***LITERALLY*** to pass away. | Crushes |
I’ve liked my friend A since February last year, and no matter how hard I try I can’t get over her. I know she doesn’t like me, but I can’t bring myself to not like her. Any advice would be helpful | Crushes |
So I (16F) have been “talking” to someone (16M) for about a week now? We haven’t explicitly said we have feelings for each other but I have feelings for him and his texting has suggested he might too. He’s asked for my Spotify, listened to my playlists, we’ve talked until 1am before, he’s given me his number, and we’re even planning on going out for dinner and a movie on Friday. One of his best friends said that he is certain he’s into me based on what I’ve told him. All of these seems like concrete evidence he likes me, right? And that’s what I’m thinking, too. The catch is, today he’s been a little “off” I guess. I’ve been the one texting first and asking questions when usually we both equally do so, and I vented to him a little bit about how my anxiety has been acting up and instead of comforting me he kinda just changed the subject, maybe this was his way of helping? I’m not sure. He has work today, so that may explain it, but I’m scared and I don’t know what I should do with this. I just need help and hopefully maybe answers. I’ll keep you guys updated. | Crushes |
But I don't want to! I'm (19f) not even friends with this girl and didn't even know she knew my name until she said hi to me before class. It surprised me since I don't have any close friends, and the only person that says hi to me when they see me is the janitor.
I never had a boy/girlfriend before, let alone kissed anyone. Maybe someone liked me before, but I have no idea. I've definitely had crushes before and I told one of them I liked them back in middle school.
It didn't go anywhere and I honestly don't remember what happened after that. So because of those experiences, I don't want to have a crush on her because I know it won't go anywhere. I can talk to her after class, but I doubt it will get anywhere past acquaintances. I'll try of course, but I'm keeping my expectations on the floor for now.
Plus, she's a girl and is likely straight. I don't know her well, and I don't want to be disappointed when my "pursuit" fails. Thoughts? Am I being too hard on myself? | Crushes |
I'm just not sure what to do about her, any help would be welcome, thanks | Crushes |
So I posted a story earlier, here's the link: [https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11pixb0/story\_about\_me\_and\_my\_crushs\_history/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11pixb0/story_about_me_and_my_crushs_history/)
So I'm might come off as desperate and rude, and if I do, I apologize greatly.
So, I have a crush, whom I'll call K for privacy reasons. When we were in the hallway and passed by each other, she used to glance over at me before we went our opposite ways. During my sophomore year in high school, she would glance at me in the hallways, and once we made eye contact, we both would smile and laugh. She doesn't do that anymore, but she still glances my way when we are in class together.
So I did admit my feelings for her, but she said that she wasn't ready for a relationship at the moment. I respected the decision, because I didn't want her to feel pressured about my confession. However, the glances still sorta continued. When we were in class, she gave a glance or two at me, and we sometimes made direct eye contact for a second or two. Two weeks ago, I was too lazy to wear my contacts, so I just wore my eyeglasses. The next day, she comes to school wearing her glasses, which either was a coincidence or wasn't, because she almost never wore her glasses (I think I only ever saw her wear it once).
I'm just curious as to whether these were actually signs she liked me or just complete coincidences and glances that indicated that I was being a creep. Thanks! | Crushes |
as per the title, my crush showed interest first and I took that as an opportunity to make the first move because he seemed really shy and nervous every time he was around me and couldn’t make eye contact with me but he could be playful towards me around other people. On top of that we didn’t really speak but he was always staring at me to the point where i got my friends to see if he was staring at me (in case i was being delusional) and they told me he was in fact staring at me.
so, i made the first move great! and the vibes felt nice until i got his number and he left me on delivered for a few days. then said he didn’t get the notification for the message. We haven’t spoken since, he hasn’t texted me and it’s really eating me up. Did I make the wrong move by being so forward?? because I didn’t see him making an attempt to make a move on me outside of him staring every time he came near me, going out of his way to do things for me almost every time i’ve seen him in person. Everyone i’ve spoken to said it seems like he likes me so i’m not sure where his heart is at right now or what i should even do. | Crushes |
So to make a long story short, There's this lady who works downstairs at my college dormitory. I haven't really ran into her as often as I would want to, but when I would come down to get mail, she would always poke at me about the amount of packages I would have sent there every month (Yeah I know, I'm an online shopping junkie 😂)
Last interaction, I came down to pick up more packages, and she jokingly said something in the lines of "You get sooo many packages, that they're a whole shelf with nothing but ur stuff" and she jokingly said "You at least owe me a gift or sum for the amount of packages we be holding for you when you're away" and I replied "Say less" 😂😂😂 I lowkey had a crush on this chick for a minute and I'm deadass considering if I should surprise her with some flowers and some chocolate, as a nice gesture basically.
Do y'all think I'm overdoing it with surprising her with flowers? I been lowkey wanting to talk to her for a minute not gonna lie, but I just haven't had the balls to take action fr. Any Suggestions Fellow Lover Boys/Girls? | Crushes |
Well, there’s some guy who seems to be into me, and he asked me on something that seems to be a date. I innocently thought he was just trying to make friends and accepted, but there’s so much hints showing otherwise and now he probably thinks he got some chance but i only see him as a friend.
I feel super bad for him and i just needed some advice to indirectly make clear i just see that guy as a friend without being weird or whatever. Thank you! | Crushes |
Does it make you feel uncomfortable? Do you feel flattered, do you not want to be friends with them anymore if the feelings aren’t mutual? I’m just curious because I have a crush on a guy and I haven’t told him because I don’t want to make things weird. I’m very curious to know what it’s like for the person that’s being crushed on. | Crushes |
My crush and I are going on an official date soon! We haven't discussed when or what yet. But we're thinking a plant nursery or art store perhaps! Ahh I'm so happy :') | Crushes |
okay so i have a billion thresher of this one crush and although i have moved on ish he still gives me butterflies ok
but tell me why he’s a barista and like my friend knows him bc she’s been through my whole up and down w this crush, he makes us free coffee alot of times
he was super high at work yesterday so he messed up my drink a little and i was sad bc he’s usually so good at making it
when it was his turn to work cashier and my friend came he gave her a free drink but also a funny nickname to go under for the order and she had a funny moment w the person that made the drink when she had to get it and my crush and i watched it happen from the table, i felt jealous that she can laugh and connect easily like that.
she doesn’t like him at all like that but i’m always just so socially awkward and shy when it comes to him and his friends there so i feel lame and a little jelly i can’t do that? idk i just keep thinking about it and feeling loserish | Crushes |
It's not been too long since we started seeing each other but tonight kinda changed everything a little. Before even discussing labels (like if we're bf and gf or not) she ended up admitting she is actually in love with me, I love her too and I'm so happy she feels the same | Crushes |
I don't know how to tell my Crush I like her. Ever since we had a Tornado Warning, she has acted differently towards me. I'm in a rough situation. So if anybody has any advice, please let me know! | Crushes |
Hi gues i have question i fellow in love in one girl (14) yo
And I never text she I was with she in Macdonald white our friend Help Pls | Crushes |
Hi gues i have question i fellow in love in one girl (14) yo
And I never text she I was with she in Macdonald white our friend Help Pls | Crushes |
I recently developed a crush on a boy that’s one grade above me at a school I transferred to about 5 months ago. I went up to him complimented his outfit and he was really flattered by the compliment and then made a joke. I asked what his name was and he told me and he asked what’s mine and I told him I recently transferred them the conversation went on for 2 more minutes and we said bye. Later on the day I saw him said hi and he asked me how I’ve been we then had a short conversation. Throughout the rest of the week whenever he saw me he would smile and say hi to each other and he would sometimes ask me how I’ve been. I saw him once and we glanced at each other at the same time and both looked away quickly. Whenever we talk he’s usually smiling and is actually interested in the conversation. My friends told me hes a really nice person. Is he being nice or could he possibly be interested. | Crushes |
So I've had a crush on this girl who's in a few of my classes for a good while now. We've had a few pretty lengthy conversations, but they've been with other people at the same time. I can never think of a good reason to approach her on my own, and if I can I don't have anything interesting to talk about.
She's pretty quiet, but really smart (Mostly grade 9's/A's in America) and cute. She always seems to be really engrossed in whatever she's doing in class, so I feel like it would be weird or rude to talk to her then. The problem is that I don't see her around school, and if I do she's with friends.
Last Friday, I kinda messed myself up - or my friend did. One of my classrooms has these 4 big octagonal tables, and the one she sits on is kinda behind mine. I was bored at the end of the lesson, standing up, so I was looking at the wall display that was sort of above her. I guess she must have noticed and thought I was looking at her, so she turned and smiled at me.
Her smile is amazing, so I don't know what happened afterwards cause my brain basically short-circuited. All I know was that my friend next to me burst out laughing and said "You just got caught in 4K" - basically giving it away that I liked her.
She didn't say anything afterwards, but my friend said that she blushed and started playing with her hair afterwards. <- I find this hard to believe, as she's totally out of my league appearance-wise and I can't think of anything about me that would make her blush.
She also smiled at me in a later class as she moved a table near me. I think she asked me something, but I short-circuited again so I don't know.
The other problem is that, on both these occasions, I got so caught up in how cute she looked that I just kind of went red and didn't smile back or anything, so she might think I'm weird.
What do I do? Do I talk to her? Does she like me?? Why would she like me???
TL;DR - I don't know how to talk to my crush, she caught me looking at her and smiled, and I forgot to smile back. | Crushes |
So my crush and I went on a date and everything went great, now she won’t text back. It’s been almost a day now and now I think that the date didnt go as well as I thought it did. Am I overthinking this? | Crushes |
I have been talking to this girl and I asked her out on Christmas Day of 2022, we have decided to keep this relationship a secret since we are in very different friend circles, and for privacy, there is only one other person who knows about it and that is her best friend and we both trust her.
The main story is that I am going on my first date with this girl and we are hoping not to be spotted by someone in our class, we are going to a nice quiet cafe beside the beach, and her friend is coming, I'm really hoping it won't be awkward, is there any advice anyone can give me for the first date????!!!! | Crushes |
I'm gay and recently, I've developed this crush on my coworker. Let's call him Dave. There's a few layers of complexity here.
First off, I don't know if he's gay or not. I have a suspicion after some small comments he made, but I'm still not positive.
The second issue theres a bit of an age gap. I'm 28, and he's 19. I'm no stranger to age gaps while dating, but I'm used to dating older guys, so me being the older one in this situation makes me feel weird.
Thirdly, all my dating experiences are from online dating. The only way I've ever met anyone is through dating apps. I have never asked anyone out IRL.
The crush has developed slowly over time. We both work at the same retail store. He's been around for a few months. I thought he was cute right away but wasn't really interested until recently. We've been short staffed, so I've been working with him more, and I really enjoy talking to him. He's kinda shy, but I've been making an effort to talk to him more, and he'll tell me random stuff and we'll joke around. Not sure if he likes me back or if we're just work friends. | Crushes |
Okay I'll be honest. I don't know if this is the right place to ask this question. It's the only subreddit about human relationships that I am comfortable with. So I am open to critisism about it.
So explaining that - I'm currently in relationship with my girlfriend (who I frequently asked questions about on this sub but thats a different story). We are together for not so long, 2 months or something like this. We have different friend groups. She hangs out only with her female friends who I don't really know yet and I hang out mostly with my male friends, however sometimes we go out with a group of girls (mostly partys or nighs out). These girls are one of the boys' girlfriend and her friends.
And among these girls there is one, lets call her Lucy that I was told by many people that she likes me. My best bro told me that, three of my female friends, goddamn even my cousin told me this. And Lucy always tries to be near me when we are meeting anywhere and I always try to avoid her. She surely knows I am not single, because everybody in my friendgroup knows it and it was widely discussed... sadly... Until now it wasn't something really disturbing, I would never even consider confronting her about it to not come out as a freak myself.
Until she confessed to me pretty drunk at a party. I was driving so I was sober as hell. Lucy hugged me and told me something that she really really likes me and we really match each other. I calmly told her to stop hugging me and responded with something not so offensive. But that didn't work and she continued with asking me to dance with her and that we should hang out together as two. I told her that I'm sorry but I have a girlfriend so it won't happen. Lucy was silent for a moment then said that 'she won't know about it' and after hearing that I was so pissed off that I walked away to another room to talk with my friend.
And here is my question. How do I manage this situation without triggering a massive shitstorm, without my girlfriend discovering this situation and without Lucy going crazy on her (I don't know if she is stable tbh) Help | Crushes |
Guysss, in a previous post i mentioned about my crush on my anatomy professor. He has been absent for a month now and nobody knows why!? I wanna check up on him so bad but I'm scared to do so. Will it be appropriate?
I miss him so damn much and i miss his classes! Literally the only classes i look forward to! His histology sessions are the best😭
I hope he's doing fine! Please come back soon Dr.M!!!!! | Crushes |
you know the deal!
No tanks pls thank u so much 🥲
Little background information: we are in the same school. He transferred last school year and was in my grade back then. Now he‘s a year below me | Crushes |
So I [25 M] had a crush on a girl in my university class three years ago but I didn't make any advance then and flashforward to January this year, i randomly popped into her dm and asked her out nothing romantic just a causal friend meet-up, but the thing is we were never really close before or went together to eat before this was really the first time, i had a blast we talked and had our food,i said i had an wonderful time and she also said likewise,so we said we should go out again so we did a week later,the second time it didn't go as planned, we went to the mall,i suggested bowling,she said yes but she didn't want to play and was adamant,so i just bowled on my own and she just took pictures, clearly that ruined it, the rest of the day,it was a cringe fest,we didn't talk anything personall just old university days stories and all, so we then had a meal and went our ways, and we texted a few days following the conversation was getting drier and drier so i decided to count my losses and move on,
Two weeks later i uploaded a status and she replied saying she has communication issues, that's why her texts where dry and after that we text often, talked movies ,songs we sent eachother kdrama clips, Taylor Swift songs,all the melodramatic stuffs,
Ofcourse i like her but I just don't know what to do next , any pointers would greatly help me, | Crushes |
Dare me to say something to them (besides the obvious of just asking them out cause that makes it less fun) or a truth. Thought this would be fun but I know it’s posted a lot. Feel free to awnser the questions yourself if you wanna it’s kinda a truth or dare for everyone | Crushes |
His smile alone is enough to make me happy. Just being in his presence makes me feel so safe. I could be having the worst day ever but talking to him just always makes me feel better. I get so excited whenever I get to see him. And I miss him the minute he is no longer around. Obviously having a crush is quite painful as well but man it’s pretty fun too lol. | Crushes |
so i was crushing on this one girl i met at the park who's my age and we hangout a lot, like frequently, and i just liked her personality and looks and i have a crush on her..
however, about 30 minutes ago when we met up again, she was on facetime (this is normal for her) while i was with her and she said "i like this one boy i don't know how to tell him" and i blushed because i didn't know what to say since i like her.. she told me she was on facetime with her right now and i smiled but deep inside i just was sad.. she shown me a video of him and said "hes so fine" and i just said "damn" feeling even more sad then ever
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so yeah, i honestly dont know what to do at this point i wanna confess to her how i feel about her but i don't have any hopes of her actually liking me back considering she likes someone else, but it feels wrong to confess to my crush when my crush likes someone else.. | Crushes |
Im going to write down in a piece of paper my emotions, and just give it so him.
Wooooawoooooaoow what a shock, but im gonna do that!
He hade a crush on me at the beginning of the school year.
Apparently im anoying and a dramatic queen, I've asked people about it and they say that i ain't.
People mostly say that he most likely found a group of cool kids, and the cool kids make fun of me, so in order to get in the group he is saying those things.
Im gonna risk it and do it.
That's like in three months?? I think??
Wish me luck 💪 | Crushes |
i have had a crush on this guy for almost 3 years and ive always been too shy to talk to him :( i really have no reason to anyway since we share no classes anymore. but we went to the same elementary school and i believe he liked me for around 1 year in elementary and 1 year in high school (which im still in) because he would always smile and stare at me (unless im delusional, but i promise i did observe these signs LOL). except, we both never made a move as we were probably too nervous. but i dont think i made it obvious enough that i liked him which is why he gave up?? :(
ive been thinking of just confessing to him, and as i dont have the courage, ill be doing this through a friend of his. i was talking to this friend, and apparently my crush thought i was dating someone… but i really want to clear up the misunderstanding and scream that i like him and have liked him for so long to the point where its embarassing :’). i suddenly got this ounce of courage because i dont want to regret not telling him my feelings, even if i got rejected. afterall, i dont think ill ever find the courage to become friends with him.
do you guys think this is okay? | Crushes |
so i was saying bye to them and hugging them as usual, and then of a sudden they pretend kiss me on the cheeks ?!? (like in the air) this is common in france (e.g la bise) and other countries, but definitely not where we live!!!! i was just shocked and then they jokingly asked why i didn’t do it back, im so confused !?!? | Crushes |
I knew of my coworker for like a year now and it’s like an ongoing crush. I went to ask him a week ago if he needed help with moving stuff and he said nah. Then I ran and bumped into him again like 3 times and I think I just made it awkward so I just avoid him cause what if he found that cringy. I noticed he sent me a message and I never replied 💀 like that same day. Over the summer while we had the same exact schedule he would make an effort to talk to me like show me memes and music. I’m planning on just waiting and seeing if he has a gf. Tbh he doesn’t seem to have one idk. I told my friend and she said he seemed cute and I was like NOOOOO. Maybe that’s just how he is but I don’t know. He’s a cool dude and I just stutter talking to him 😭 I need to stop living like this | Crushes |
Before continuing, no, this isn't a confession about something fucked up.
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Now, let me explain. About nine months ago, my crush rejected me. As bad as it is, I don't blame her. But ever since, the heartbreak has become worse and worse with every day that goes by. I read somewhere that being heartbroken can take up to several months to heal. But I don't think that almost 3/4 of a year are normal. Help guys. | Crushes |
So i've (F/17) known my crush (M/16) since 3 years and he always called me beautiful, asked me if i am single, took care of me, always texted me, it was perfect.
so on valentines day I told my friend to tell my crush that I like him since then he has been acting weird to me. I regret everything. he stopped flirting with me and all but gets jealous when i'm with other guys, he doesn't like being alone with me is sometimes even rude to me. it feels like i'm pushing his ego or something. yeah I don't know what to do help. | Crushes |
So I (GF 15) just started dating my(14F) girlfriend 2 weeks ago. I asked her out using a note though it was in French cause I’m a coward. I handed it to her and like semi speed walked me way to my next class. She forgot I gave her the note, she thought someone put it in her pocket. But she asked me out 2 days later and I obviously said yes. We haven’t made it like entirely public that we are dating because of how homophobic and repressed our high school is.
This week we have a group project we are doing and her and I got put into a group with 2 girls I don’t know and one who used to be my closest friend but now isn’t for reason I won’t get into. This one girl I’ll call S started getting like really touchy with C (my girlfriend) and was what I believe flirting with her. So the next day the same thing happened. But there was a fire drill and we all went outside.
When we were allowed to go back inside I just grabbed her hand and we walked hand in hand. I think S noticed that and she kinda stopped for a few minutes but tried to continue. C I think noticed that I was like uncomfy with her like also messing with the girl. I don’t intend to be like you can’t have any other female friends than me. She was just like a little to touchy. C stopped messing with her and S tried like tugging in her sweatshirt to get her to like do things again but C ignored it all. I tend to overthink a lot so yeah.
And what I mean by messing around is S kept taking C’s things, was like constantly touching her and things like that. So I'm happy C noticed and stopped. | Crushes |
So I was at an event with my crush and we were just standing closed to eachother, facing each other. And I popped up the question. I asked him How he felt about me and he said we **"locked in."** He said we have a lot in common, we have the same energy/attitude and he can just be himself around me. We were leaving and he was hugging people goodbye, giving them a side hug especially the girls. But when I signaled him to hug me he squatted down(Due to my height). I put my hand around his neck and he placed his chin on my shoulders lightly. I then thought he was going to pull way from the hug but he didnt move so we just stayed there for a while until we got interrupted. He also stares at me alot and we have been texting eachother and having deep conversation late at night. | Crushes |
So I have crush on this guy for awhile now, and I can't tell my friends because they know him....we go to the same gym and he is nice to me, talks to me occasionally and my favorite he hypes me up when I do my PRs... I know he is just that tho, he is just nice... but I can't help it, I know this crush won't lead anywhere.. I also thought he was just 2-3 years older than me but turns out he is 8 years older than me.. That's kinda too much of an age gap to me. So I think it's best to get over him. How? I have no idea lol... Especially because I think about him a lot and I even had a dream where I hugged him which fed my delusions even more hahaha..
Well for starters I will try to go to gym in different time and avoid him as much as possible, even if I happen to meet him I will just say quick hi and be on my way.. I think the "out of sight, out of mind" thing will work... I hope...
Wish me luck everyone lmao | Crushes |
Hey, so if you’re a shy guy or your crush / so is a shy person, how do they act around the person they like ? | Crushes |
Ok so I have this crush on a girl and in the past two months I would say we've gone from just classmates who know each other to proper friends. We are in only one class together but we sit right next to each other and so I've been noticing recently that she's started being more open with me. Like she would make jokes and playfully tease with me, talk about her day and ask about mine, she would sit so close to me in class to the point that we would be constantly in contact, and she's always hold long eye contact.
Now, three weeks ago I had the balls to start following my crush on Insta and I was super excited when she followed me back; the day after, she posted on her story once and that has been the only story I had seen since then. She doesn't post often, maybe once every 5 weeks, so I didn't find it odd that I wasn't seeing her stories anymore. But then today I was scrolling on Insta and I decided to look up her account and when I clicked on it I was puzzled because I noticed she had highlights and so I thought that maybe I just never noticed it but when I realized I wasn't on my main account viewing her profile. So then I switched to my main account that is following her and sure enough the highlights weren't there.
So now I'm over here freaking out like "why would she hide her stories from me?!?!?!". Maybe she thought it was weird that I followed her on Insta, maybe she realized that I like her and she's trying to distance herself from me because she isn't interested. But if she isn't interested why does she act so friendly with me in person? Now I'm starting to think that there's nothing special with the way she treats me in person and that she's just this kind to everyone. I'm really hoping that I'm just being pessimistic and there's some other explanation but it's driving me crazy. | Crushes |
Let me start off by saying yes I know dating a coworker is a bad idea, but please, humor me anyway.
For the last 6 months or so I’ve had a crush on one of my coworkers and actually worked up the courage to ask him out a few months ago and he said yes.
We had a great time (at least I thought so) but he didn’t message me or anything after. I finally got him to admit he felt weird because we work together and he also said he had a lot going on at the time and didn’t want to mess anything up.
Lately (the last two weeks or so) he’s started to touch my arm, hand, and even made a joke the other day about how someone can be mean to you (we tease each other all the time) even though they actually like you.
I really like him but i understand we’re coworkers and it could be weird, and I’m not happy that I had to force him to explain his lack of communication after the date. It’s just confusing, I’m not even sure if he likes me like that or not. | Crushes |
So yesterday i spoke to my crush saying i liked her etc she was shying away and not looking at me in the eyes hopefully thats a good sign? She was also blushing later on she said she needs to process it and give her space.
The next day i saw her in the kitchen she was shying away from me again with a little smile while she walking out i spoke normally with her hows your day etc etc. I don’t really know if things are going in the right direction lol. | Crushes |
I moved into the neighbourhood 2 years ago.
I noticed an older attractive guy that lives RIGHT outside my house. Like, all my windows are facing the front of his house.
I think he’s married. So naturally I avoided all eye contact. I’ve seen him around way more than all the other neighbours. Maybe it’s because my unconscious keeps an eye out for him, or what. But I see him around, and maybe he’s also seen me around?
Here are the signs:
1) about a month ago I pulled up to my regular parking spot at the grocery store. He was parked right beside me, still in his car. I completely ignored and went in. Inside, I think he noticed me and tried to smile but I pretended not to notice because he’s married.
2) a few days later. He’s walking outside of his house. I just got out my house and went in my car. There was some people yelling up the street so I was watching that. When I turned my head, I see him walking. It takes me about 4 seconds to realize I think he’s staring directly at me. I turned my head. It felt like he wanted me to see him.
3) I drove past his house once while he was outside on his driveway. When I drove passed, he definitely watched me and I looked over and smiled so I wouldn’t look like a creep. But he notices me for sure??
Are these signs? Im not going to say hello first. But this is really hard because he’s seriously right outside my house. Every time I look outside, I am curious to see if he is out there or not. | Crushes |
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