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Im bored so im here to help | Crushes |
So a few days ago, we finished middle school, and our teacher decided to make us write compliments to each other, and on my page, only 4 girls wrote (the rest are my friends, mostly inside jokes), and my crush was one of them, one of the girls who wrote was a girl I know has a crush on me.
P.s. she could just not written anything, and move the paper to a different student like I did. I want to ask my friends if she wrote compliments for them also, but I'm afraid they will call me obsessive sbout her | Crushes |
(I just woke up from a dream about her) | Crushes |
first off: I am aroace so I am not talking about romantic or sexual attraction, nor am I talking about sensual attraction as I am uncomfortable with physical touch.
I think I like one of my classmates. I know I am aesthetically attracted to them but we run in different social groups so I don't talk to them enough to have much emotional attraction, though when we do talk we get along. I am unsure if I actually like them or am just platonically attracted to them and want to protect them as our teacher is a AH to them. I also think I may just be attracted to the idea of them, not actually attracted to them.
Does anyone know how to work out what I'm feeling or know what I should do in this situation? Also note, I have social anxiety and would never be able to tell them/talk to them about it and I don't feel entirely comfortable talking to a irl friend about it yet.
Thank you in advance to anyone that can help in even the slightest.
Edit: I say I would never tell them mostly because I have no reason to believe they like me, though I probably will be moving next year so maybe towards then (if I do/still like them) I may say something. So if you think I need to say something to them I will consider it I just don't want to embarrass myself. | Crushes |
Help my crush won't stop responding to my messages with the word "because". I don't know whats wrong with him and im just rather confused. The context is that i told him something which he disagreed with and i asked him why. Now he wont stop responding with "because". Does anyone know how to fix this glitch? Many thanks. | Crushes |
we snap back and forth and she occasionally puts a lot of effort into the photos and i just want to let her know she looks pretty.
i don’t know if she feels the same way but she replies fast (like 1-5 minutes). she also replies pretty late. we don’t talk too often but sometimes it feels like i need to. what mostly discourages me is the fact that she doesn’t solely reply to me and her snap score goes up fast.
anyways i would like to tell her something like that but if she is just mass sending phots on snapchat i think that would be pretty weird, what should i do? | Crushes |
Well, i confessed my feelings to her one month ago and she said she *doesn't feel* the *same way* , but she said we can stay friends (classic) , but we ghosted each other. Yesterday she had birthday so i texted her, i was telling her that im really miss our conversations and want to fight for the friendship, but she said "its better that we arent texting each other anymore"( smth like that). Do you think its totally over ? I didn't think she would be so disgusted with me, i did nothing wrong .... but love ruined everything i guess :D :D | Crushes |
Hi everyone! So. I'm gonna be a senior next year (already a big bite to take), but one thing that's almost constantly on my mind is the prom in November/December. In the country where I live, it's sort of a tradition for each senior class to perform a waltz routine, and me being a sappy romantic, I of course want to take part in it. This is where the dilemma comes in : who to dance with. As some of you may know, I have three crushes, on two guys and a girl (Amadeus, M, N). I've already dumped the idea to dance with Amadeus, but the other two are still options. And I adore them equally, so yeah. Oh, and if it isn't enough, I'll be wearing a tux for the dance, and as an AFAB nonbinary who isn't out to everyone yet, it's, to say the least, gonna be an interesting situation.
(And if neither works out, idk how to proceed, but that's the future's problem at this point)
If anyone by any chance relates to this, feel free to share your experiences! | Crushes |
Hi there,
I am willing to confess to my crush. Is there any specific moment for a confession or can I confess right away? I am asking since a friend of mine has told me to wait a little longer so that me and my crush can know each other better. | Crushes |
After 3 months of breakup, I finally get over my ex.
I knew a new guy through dating app 3 weeks ago. We both keep the conversations going. However, we haven’t asked each other’s past relationships or anything real deep.
We met in person 1 week ago. He is a bit shy and loves smiling in person. When we were about to leave, he said let’s meet again next time. (I hope he was not just acting polite to say so)
We still keep texting each other every day after meeting for the first time. He cares about me like told me to sleep earlier, whether I have enough food for lunch. He also told me when he hangs out with friends, when back home etc.
Yesterday we are talking about Marvel and I asked him whether he is interested in watching Thor 4 together?
He said, “I planned to watch it with my friend who will be back from Japan this week. But I can also see whether have time to watch again.”
I said, “okay. You can watch it again if it is good.”
Then he started another conversation with me.
I’m not sure if he just acting nice or afraid to reject my movie invitation, or he really means to watch it again with me.
PS He has many female friends. Maybe I’m just one if his female friends:( | Crushes |
So I (M15) am bascically in love with this girl (F14) an she also likes me we went to the same school together and even where in the same class so we were constantly next to eachother and at the start of our relationship i guess there were tons of guys that also liked her but she choose to ignore all of them and even always came to me and so on but now that school is over im completly panicking all the time that we wont see eachother again she lives on the other end of the town not far away but still yesterday was a festival and we wanted to go there togheter and we did but we went after like 10 minutes because of the weather it was windy af i always walk across town and pick her up but yesterday i was walking her home andd she wanted to go alone she always feels bad that i go across the town just to pick her up even tho i dont mind but im overthinking it and i know that nothing i think is treue but its so exhausting to not be able to relax because i think she hates me or she doesnt like me anymore or even sometimes we joke around and have these little fights not real figths then she blocks me like for 5 sekonds and then unblocks me bbut yesterday i said well that was great that i walked half the silk road to get to her for just 10 minuters and so i said sarcastically that il block her i didnt block her she said i dare you and know i have been blocked for 1 night tf have i done or is this even a serious problem i dont know anymore so please help me get over this overthinking and to understand if this is a serious thing | Crushes |
so i have a huge crush on this guy but another guy i have been talking to for a while basically kinda asked me to be his gf. i feel like this should be easy since the one guy is only a crush but it’s actually really hard to decide if i should say yes or no. part of me is holding onto what could be with my crush. | Crushes |
I (20f) didn’t know I liked girls let alone anyone, but this girl (22f) has made me fall head over heels for her. But I have NO IDEA how to act around her, I’m like super aware of every single movement I make and I get super shy and most of the time don’t dare to speak!! I sometimes doesn’t even dare to greet her when I see her!
I’m worried I’m sending mixed signals because I’m quiet and probably look like I’m in a bad mood when I’m around her which isn’t true I’m just really nervous. I literally never met anyone anything like her before.
I keep trying to find out if she likes me or not, I have been getting hints like she wrote my name with an heart after on a paper cup to me yesterday, and she often gets flustered or laugh when she talks to me.
I keep counting the days for when I get to see her again, I want to be able to send more clear hints that I like her romantically because she either likes me or she wants to become a good friend of mine (I would be glad either way). Any advice to get less nervous and to give hints?
(Also this is my first time on Reddit and I’m guilty of scrolling this thread hoping so I decided I should write this instead haha) | Crushes |
I'm falling in love with one of my best friends. I've known her for 8 years. She is going to highschool (grade 9), while I'm going into grade 8. She is basically one of the smartest people I know and I'm just me. My last crush was her friend so.... yeah. I need advice... | Crushes |
So, here’s a briefing of the whole confession plan. I intend to send a message stating I am developing a crush on her, but since I am not good enough for her I will block her on all fronts (WhatsApp, Instagram and all that stuff) . Then I plan on getting over her this way. Is it a good plan? If she somehow likes me she would tell me, otherwise I will block her in order to prevent feelings from developing further and save our friendship. Does this even make some sense? | Crushes |
Sort of a long story but I feel like I need to get this off my chest. I have a crush on my best friend, and I’m not sure how I feel about it. I think I should start off when we first met back in march. Me and her have known of each other’s existence for around 7 years but she was sorta just in the background until I realized that I had feelings for her at around early February. One day I get a notification and I see that she added me on Snapchat, and I sorta start to panic, but eventually I calm down and send a snap. Over the next few weeks, we started casually snapping each other and she seems interested. Then around late February her best friend and my best friend are talking about crushes and it gets out that I have feelings for her. She later asks me about it and says that she really enjoys talking to me, but she is already in a relationship with someone she met on discord. Even after this, she still texts me every morning and we end up being really close, but I realize that my feelings have only gotten stronger. I don’t tell her how I’m feeling because I’m afraid that it would ruin the friendship and that’s far too risky. So after around a month of talking (early April) she tells me,”I love you” which is obviously quite shocking. I take a minute to breathe and eventually say it back. From early April to mid may is when our relationship had been the best , but throughout this entire time, there’s a lingering pain in my chest whenever she mentions the guy she likes. Anyway back to April. Over the weeks that pass in April we become closer than we ever were, saying “I love you” at least 3 times a day and playfully flirting(calling each other cute, saying we want to cuddle etc.) everything’s going great and I start to feel like I might actually have a chance with her. this continues into may. Around mid may, we’re having a conversation about the guy she likes and notices I’m not as happy as I usually am. She asks if I’m alright and I say I am because I don’t want to worry her but she keeps asking. I tell her that I’m feeling kinda lonely because no girl has ever liked me blah blah blah you get the point. Then she says something I didn’t expect at all and says” well, if I’m being completely honest, I had feelings for you around mid April.” I’m kinda shook so I hesitantly ask,” do you still have feelings for me?” She says not really which obviously makes me feel worse but then she asks me how I feel about her, and that my answer won’t change anything about the friendship. I decide I should probably tell her so I say,”sometimes I see you as my best friend and sometimes I wanna date you so bad it’s not even funny” she says something like,”I felt the same” basically we talk for a bit and she says that she’s not a cheater and she’s just not ready for an irl relationship. Of course I’m fine with that but it still hurts being rejected a second time. I tell my other best friend what happened and he says that I shouldn’t give up and that ,”she liked you before so that means there’s a higher chance that she’ll like you again” I decide that I’m not gonna give up and he sorta motivates me like “yeahhhh you got this” type of shit. Anyway as the weeks pass, I notice she’s been more distant, saying “I love you” less and less and completely stopped playfully flirting. Her mental health hadn’t been the best at the time (mid June), so I don’t put too much thought into it. Until she starts pointing out flaws, which I am very aware of, and expecting me to know everything. This had started to take a toll on my own mental health, since she was the only person I felt comfortable being 100% transparent with. Now, as the boy she likes becomes more present, since school is off, she seems to care much less about me and it’s gotten me feeling really down lately. At this point I’m not even sure if what I’m putting myself through to maybe get her to like me is worth it, even though I still have feelings for her. I really don’t know if I should give up or not.
I don’t think anyone cares but just in case, TL;DR: I have a massive thing for my best friend but she has a boyfriend over discord.
I don’t even know if this is the right sub but oh well. Have an amazing summer. | Crushes |
so im a she/her, pansexual, 15 and i have five crushes…
1. he’s so handsome and sweet and i like him very much and i think he likes me but i can’t date him - we both have bad mental health
2. i don’t know him, i’ve spoken to him twice briefly complimenting his outfits. he’s SUPER attractive but i don’t know him. from what a couple of people have said he sounds very kind, and he loves rock music which is great. i think i catch him looking at me a lot, but he’s always backlit with where he sits and too far away for me to properly tell.
3. my ex’s friend, we’re on sticky uncomfortable bitter terms. im also lowkey jealous of her so that’s not great.
4. he’s funny and we get along. he’s attractive enough, but i don’t exactly drool over his looks like i do with 1 and 2. at the end of the day that doesn’t matter though. he’s my friend’s ex but im not super attached to my friend and i never really see her, she barely talks, cancels last minute most of the time and stands me up for other friends. i get the sense she still is into 4.
5. here we go… the lana coquette lolita romanticism bs (im allowed to say that, i am a lana stan and lowkey coquette)… a teacher. i don’t take any of her classes and not will i ever, she teaches a younger year. she’s probably in her early 20s, seems to match some traits and looks i manifested someone to have (i uh, did also manifest this person would be 20-something because it’s based off a character), and i have no valid excuse to talk to her.
just like, any advice on anything i said or any of my crushes, please im listening | Crushes |
My classmates have been shipping me with this guy. We're friends and we hang out often. However, all these rumours are making things kinda awkward between us. I've had friends come up to me asking about us and he's heard the rumours as well.
I actually like him, but I think he just sees me as a friend.
I've asked him if he was interested in anyone and he responded 'noone' and that he's going to live alone.
Should I just move on? Or do I carry on with this friendship? | Crushes |
my crush invited me to play mobile games and his friends are teasing him saying he has a crush on me and he didn't denied it, also he initiative convo with me, should i assume that the feelings is mutual? 😭 | Crushes |
To C
You are more then a crush for me. You are something special something stronger then a crush. You are someone I couldn't stop thinking about. Couldn't stop loving even after all this time. If you come across this just know. I love you with all my heart. I hope we come together again soon. I'm sorry for everything. I want you to be in my life. I want to be in your life. I want to be with you forever. God I love and want you so bad.
Hopefully soon. Love you forever ❤
M. | Crushes |
In the past couple of weeks, I (18f), have developed a crush on one of my coworkers (18m). The issue is that idk if he's dropping hints or I'm just gaslighting myself into thinking he is. Multiple other people have told me that he really doesn't talk to them much, but he talks to me quite a bit. He even laughs at my jokes (even though I get nervous around him so they're kinda shit imo), and the couple of times we've been in group settings together I noticed him side-eyeing me. We've also kinda developed this thing before we started talking where we'd just raise our eyebrows at each other in greeting/frustration (we both work retail) when I'm dealing with a particular customer but we both make eye contact with each other, but it turned into him fully greeting me and telling me good luck when I clock in for the day. I even got him a drink the other day and he smiled and thanked me three different times.
The problem is that I fucked up at work (acted impulsively and stole some shit, just snacks but now I'm on suspension) and have the probability of being fired. That and I also leave for college in mid-august, and he leaves for the airforce. My coworkers that I'm friends with are helping me get his number and stuff just in case I do get fired (fingers crossed I don't but I'm not that hopeful), but idk if I'm reading into it too much.
He's just the first guy I've had a crush on in forever and he's very pretty to me, so I don't want to fuck anything up. I was wondering if he is actually dropping hints or if I'm just being delusional with myself. | Crushes |
This sounds really stupid, but it makes me gush all over. At work, we have to sanitize the restrooms every forty five minutes. My crush went to sanitize the men's restroom. When he came back, he handed the bottle to me and said "here you go, "m'lady"
I know it's stupid, but it was like music to my ears. Now, I don't think this should be considered flirting. After all, I saw an Instagram comment where he referred to his female friend (they're platonic) as "m'lady" as well. But It still made me gush so much | Crushes |
I really like this dude. We talk all the time, but I’m nervous to tell him how I genuinely feel. He already knows I like him, he likes me too, but sometimes if I want to go up to him and talk or give him a hug I don’t bc I can’t tell if he’s actually into it. What should I do? He also sometimes drops comments where he feels he isn’t good enough for a relationship. Advice pls | Crushes |
I have a friend of a mine who idk if he is interested on me. Like we have such one of the healthiest relationships I ever had. But idk if he likes me.
1. We talk way too much via text messages (like literally everyday by starting with "how you feel?" because is sort of a tradition between the two) (we even stayed up until 2:30am talking about VERY personal problems we have, and we gave the other solutions).
2. We tell the other our goals and random stuff throughout the day. Like, it's in between clases, and he is texting me. He went to his friends house, and he literally sends me videos about it.
3. We have started to hang out when we go to clases sometimes. We wait or "run" to have a chat.
4. The other day he shared with me one of his airpods (like i had one, he had the other) and we were listening to a song which lyrics described being confused when the person appeared and that (i was about to ask him if he meant it, but i didn't)
I'm confused because today happened this. I'm going to an MUN, and in MUN there is a sort of system in which you dedicate roses to people. So i told him "do you imagine if i receive a rose from someone?!" And he told me "i you will receive at least 5 roses. i bet 30 bugs" and we have ACTUALLY BET. like i swear he is gonna lose, roses in MUN are 5 bugs each.
However, he also told me today that he met a girl who was BEAUTIFUL and give me the name of her (they were on campus tour). I searched the girl's name on internet but nothing??!!
Then (after talking some other things) he told me i was PRETTY, and MANY thought that.
can someone tell me how i'm supposed to interpret all this? what this means??? </3 | Crushes |
just wanna to rant to someone | Crushes |
Long story short.
A guy from my ex job
. I got a huge crush in him
I thought he is also into me cause he was staring smiling and once he tried to talk to me and flirt.
I had to quit that job but I'm still crushing on him after 1,5 year.
Finally I was fed up.
I wanted to start some conversation with him, even from distance because now I'm in other city ..
I did send him something I thought he was interested he just responded with 👍...
What a cringe ;( | Crushes |
Just wanna know because I kinda want my crush to know I like her without confessing just yet. | Crushes |
I am (30f) trying to work in the proximity of my new (33m) manager of several weeks.
I find myself looking over at him to see if he'll smile at me, as he often does, and if we then strike up a conversation, we will go on until something/someone distracts us. He may think that this is all friendly/plutonic, but that is not how I feel. If only I could post a photo... And:
He is new-ish-ly single from a LTR - before I started - and I am fully over my ex.
I like this job and company but it is so difficult to focus on the work when we're together. Gah! | Crushes |
I have just confessed to my crush recently and her response was the “idk what to say” type thing she’s made it clear to her pervious confessors she’s doesn’t feel the same but for me it’s different now I’m tryna go for her what do I do while I wait for her | Crushes |
So im a girl in a group of 4 friends. 2 are non binary and one is a trans guy. And I have a crush on two of them. And everyone think im dating the other one. And also another girl she’s a year older than me and we’re geeky people I met her in book club and we like Percy Jackson. And I haven’t talked to her in three weeks and can’t get her out of my head. I can’t get my two friends out of my head either. Another issue is that the friend I don’t like has a crush on my other friend. And I’ve had a crush on the trans guy for three years but he thinks I like women only because I liked before I knew he was as a guy and though I only like girls and then he came out and socially transitioned and I like him I definently like guys.
So basically, 2/3 of my crushes are off limits and the third one thinks I wouldn’t date him and is light years out of my league. BUUUT I can’t stop thinking of all three of them and how I really want to go out with someone and I want to be in a romantic relationship for physical contact.
Any advice on anything here is appreciated lol. | Crushes |
like im not even kidding. recently, they always appear in my dreams. sjdksjds i like them so much TT\^TT is this not even a crush but literally just a love LMAO | Crushes |
A couple of days ago, my crush sent out a poll on his Instagram story. He had a video game tournament today, and asked if anyone wanted to watch it. I voted yes. I was kind of hesitant. I wanted to support him, but I was just worried he wasn't going to want me to watch it. Not that I think he dislikes me or anything, but I've just had really bad experiences with guys I liked in the past. Also, even though we get along well, we don't talk or hangout outside of school.
He personally messaged me today with the link to his tournament. I'm on one of his discords now. He and four other people are on the tournament team together. There were nine people on Discord in total: the five team players, and four spectators, including me. I watched the game for about fifteen minutes, but I had to leave to do something else. | Crushes |
I just want to get drunk so I can drunk text him. Is that so wrong? Yes. Damn conscience keeps me from doing anything stupid. Just want to ask him all my burning questions. 🤣🤷🏽♀️😬🤦🏽♀️ | Crushes |
Okay so there’s this guy I’ve been talking to for a while now, and I’m kinda starting to like him. He always asks about my day, how I’m doing, tells me whenever he gets a new PR at the gym, and we both like a lot of the same things, but, we’ve never actually hung out in person. I go to our regular high school and he goes to our school’s career center (like a technical school and we’re both 17 btw), so I don’t ever get to see him. Everyone else I’ve asked says he does like me, and that he’s just too nervous to make the first move and ask to hang out (that’s what the case was for one of his friends). I really want to hang out with him and talk more in person, but I’m super nervous myself that he doesn’t actually like me and that I might make it awkward between us… | Crushes |
that’s it. that’s the post. idk what to do. or if I should try to pursue it or just leave it alone. we are developing a really great friendship too. i’m so bummed. and once again we are all poly so it wouldn’t be weird in that aspect at least. | Crushes |
I find many times when I have a crush, especially if I’m not already friends with them, my reflex is to ignore them and avoid eye contact or any form of interaction as much as possible when I’m in their proximity (and then proceed later to sulk about how our relationship is going nowhere lmao). I think for me personally it’s because I have a fear of being judged and I struggle immensely with consolidating being vulnerable with a healthy self-perception (like whenever I open up to someone, I often regret it afterwards and feel like I’m weak). So, in the case of a crush, I get scared that somehow they’ll be able to garner my feelings or that I’d be make myself more vulnerable by interacting with them or expressing any sort of interest, and so I cope by just ignoring them and pretending that I have absolutely no interest in them outside of the bounds of our already existing relationship. Obviously there are occasions where I manage to break out of this pattern but I find that’s predominantly how I react to having a crush.
So what about you guys? I’d imagine many other people have similar reasons for doing it but I’m curious to hear other perspectives. | Crushes |
For context, I have this habit of "stealing" my friend's things until they notice. I stole my crush's mechanical pencil and started using it to doodle (because he has like 5 other pencils and he doesn't use it, so he wouldn't notice otherwise) when I brought it to his attention and gave it back, he said "Did you like drawing with it?" And when I said yes, he just put it back in my hands, without saying anything.
Just that is enough to get me embarrassed, but right now I'm almost screaming over the fact my response was a quick "Really? Thank you" instead of properly saying thanks. I'm really grateful for whatever superior being made it so that my embarrassment never shows on my face.
The other day, when we were in the library, he was sitting on the ground, and I went to stand beside him so I could take a look at the books and see if there was anything interesting. When I was about to walk away, I looked down and saw that he was holding onto my ankle. When I asked him why, he just looked at me like "What are you talking about?" Without letting go at first. My friend, who was there and I pointed it out to seemed not to see, but I'm pretty sure I didn't make it up in my head. The day after that, I did the same thing but while he was standing, and he mentioned for me to get closer, when I did, he just put his arm over my shoulder and when I asked why he just said "Just a hug" without even looking up from the book. Again, thanks for the higher being that makes it virtually impossible for me to get red. | Crushes |
Having a crush on a fictional character is one thing, but one of my own OCs?
Feel free to ask any questions | Crushes |
Waar do you normally do in a relationship like I’ve never been in one so if this works out with me and her what should I do next | Crushes |
Yeah the title says it | Crushes |
okay so for some context im 15M and i have a crush on this girl 15F and Ive had feelings before and never told her but now in regaining feelings recently and i dont know if i should tell her or not (further context shes transferring schools so we wont see each-other every day like that) and shes also apart of my online friend group so if i tell her i have no idea how it’ll affect our already existing friendship. But anyways im like seriously into her because sometimes i literally cant sleep at night thinking about what will happen if i tell her, shenanigans like that. please give me some advice, thanks! | Crushes |
Long story short, we’ve been friends for 3 months (we met in school but he graduated so we’ve kept contact via Snapchat). I didn’t start liking him until a month ago, I started being slightly flirty and he’d be somewhat receptive and we’d basically talk all day everyday but it would never go further than that. I was also his #1 bestfriend on Snap (basically means I snapped him the most out of everyone I had added on snap and he snapped me the most out of everyone he had on HIS snap.)
3 days ago I had enough of receiving mixed signals and so I blocked him. No explanation, we hadn’t fought but I could feel he was distant and that was my last straw (among other things). It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do, I sobbed as I blocked him on every social media app I followed him except messages because I couldn’t bring myself to.
There hasn’t been a single hour that’s gone by where I’m not crying. And from what I’ve heard from my best friend (who is a mutual with him) he seems okay. I just don’t understand how he can be okay when I’m suffering every single second. Even if he didn’t like me romantically, we were FRIENDS. Maybe I’m being toxic right now for wishing he’d reach out after I basically ghosted him but I just want to know if I ever meant anything to him at all, whether romantically or platonically.
I feel like reaching out but I’d probably embarrass myself…What do I do? I can feel myself slipping back into my depression | Crushes |
I've been crushing on him for awhile. I do this from time to time so, I didn't think much of it. But, it's been taking up alot of real estate in my head so, I told my co-worker/friend about this problem. I assumed (because I'm ten years older and a good 100lbs heavier than my crush) that my work friend would let me down gently and, that would be the end of it. The opposite is happening. My work friend is trying to play matchmaker and, I am so fucking embarrassed... was told, in not so many words, that my crush is aware of my desires and, to his credit not much has changed. We are still super awkward around each other but, my crush did make a point to brag within earshot of me, about all the land his family owns. He also spoke of feeling generally unwanted and isolated and, of having an old man personality. I love his old man personality! I think he's the shit but I don't want to fuck up my job. I also know that I'm not great at reading people.... No idea what to do... | Crushes |
My dreams don't look like you
They don't look like much at all
My dreams don't sound like you
They don't sound like much at all
But you
My faceless dream
Are the one I want to
Live and live through life with
P.S: it's a stupid post, but I can't sleep and with the lucidity one can have in the middle of the night I wrote this to clear my mind, but it would be useless if no one ever read it | Crushes |
im normally good at starting conversations but I’ve gotten horrible at it. i don’t know what to say to start something. im scared to say anything because i will get anxiety about it. i just need some tips or advice or anything. | Crushes |
Need to know | Crushes |
Just a throwaway, i just feel like i need my thoughts to be sent in the world
I'm not gonna try to say he's perfect, he's not
But he has such beautiful eyes, they can go from looking so deep and scary, to the softest look that'll melt you to your core
When he smiles the cutest wrinkles form besides his eyes, though I'm sure he's self conscious of it
He keeps saying he's not handsome, that he took weight, but the lil bit of Chub he put up makes him look just so cuddly and simply more human, and i wish i could tell him he looks gorgeous and he would just believe me
He looks so tough but if you start playing with his hair he just melts into this adorable sleepy goof, and i just wish to lull him to sleep
He has this way of making you feel giddy inside whenever he's close to you, he's able to make me relax simply by being near
He's a great cuddler, gives amazing hugs, enjoys physical contact just as much as i do
I'm honestly unsure we'd ever make a good couple, there's a lot of things i feel would clash
But idk what i would give to be able to see his adorable sleepy face when he wakes up every morning
To have him pull me closer for a hug and kiss the top of my head
He's not perfect, but neither am I
But I'll always melt when I get to see him smile, truly smile | Crushes |
Gosh gosh gosh Why do I even like him? I’ve literally never talked to the guy and never heard him ever talked just once to me indirectly… like more than a year ago and I don’t even have classes with the dude anymore … I just see him in the hallways. I literally don’t know anything about him. I want to know about him but I’m just so nervous when I get near him like the other day I just walked away like I didn’t saw him… why was he there in the first place like I never see him there anyways but he was there?? Gosh what… I’m seeing him more than I used to and it’s driving me crazy… maybe I am crazy | Crushes |
Hello! I need some help concerning my crush:(. For context, I have known him from distance for about 4 years (we are in the same grade) but never talked to each other. Until this year, we have been in the same class. I was kinda interested since the beginning of this scholar year so for 6-7 months or so but it has been more than interested for 3-4 months now. A few months ago (3ish) we started playing a video game together (I made the first move on that one). The problem is we only play the game and nothing else. At first, there was no almost conversation but then he started to ask about what I did in the evening/after school but it was very brief every time. We played almost every day for the first 2 weeks but we didn't play much recently (once a week), it was mostly because of his hockey practice, matches and tournament. I was asking for help because I thought it might be reciprocal but I might be in denial and romanticized everything so I wanted some help.
A few points on why I think he might be interested too. (1) When his friend and he do something dumb, he seems to look my friend and my way (+my other friend told me one time when we were working on a project, his friend and him, did something stupid and my friend told me he looked my way to see me laugh). (2) Once, I was at the back of the classroom with my friend and he came to the back of the classroom alone when he is usually with his friends. Then he asked his friends to come but didn’t so he left to see them instead. He then came back to the back of the classroom alone and kinda slid along the windows/wall to approach and talked to my friend and me. (3) Once in a class, our desk was very far from each other but he pushed his desk to be closer to mine. (4) He comes randomly to our conversation or comes randomly to play whatever games we are playing. (5) He talks to me a lot in classes when our seats are close to each other. (6) He sent me a few pictures of him after hockey out of nowhere.
Now a few reasons why I think he doesn't like me. (1) Asked to play 5 times and only played once (2 weeks or so) and didn’t propose once to play. (2) He is not consistent, he leaves a lot to talk to others (for example, once we were on a bus going to the theatre and he kept leaving our group to talk to another one and shift in both every time). (3) HE IS ABAD TEXTER (dry texter). He is chill in calls (almost one-sided for him;-;) but in text, he doesn’t really reply to what I said and replies with a pic or some shit. (4) He is really friendly and extroverted. He talks to a lot of people so I might just be a friend to him. Our conversations are usually one-sided I feel like, he talks and I laugh most of the time and I feel bad.
Sorry, it is very long. I'd appreciate any kind of help;-; Thank you, and have a nice day! | Crushes |
For the past to days I have made it my goal to say hi to my crush everyday(thanks to eome good advice) , failed both days, I don't know why I never seem to talk to her unless I need too. I'm always so ready to talk to her, tell her some jokes, share my interests, maybe flirt a little and just build a good relationship with her, but as soon as I see her I pretend like I'm too busy talking to my friends. And I always start hyping myself up after the school day is over. Trust me it's not like I dislike talking to her, infact when I am talking to her I Thoroughly enjoy it and never want it to stop.So, now what do I do, and how do I talk to her without getting spooked and forgetting to even try? | Crushes |
We’ve been casually flirty off and on building up since Thanksgiving. She initially started it, but was just ending a long relationship. She’d get cold feet and kind of back off. We text hot and heavy, talk on the phone, boom, it slows down. She’s an introvert who likes her space which doesn’t really bother me. We’ll have these days where it’s like I know she cares, then boom I feel crazy. Like I’ve lost my mind because of how fast and much I feel. I can’t decide if she’s wanting me to pursue harder or if she’s weary of it all together.
Today, I invited her out spontaneously impulsively. She immediately pulled me to her in a hug. I was shocked so she lingered with her hand on my arm. Called me honey. But also said you’re so sweet. (I always feel like that’s bad) We talked about our love languages. We discussed a possible date without using that word… she said “put it on our list.” She couldn’t go due to other plans- she’s a busy person with family. But of course I’ve been too scared to ever flat out admit my deep feelings. Just slow and steady. Should I… be… more direct?
It’s the staring. The winking. The telling me that I’m attractive. I just don’t know what to do. | Crushes |
Why do I (19M) have feelings for him (40s or 50s not sure of his exact age)? I hate that I have these feelings of attraction towards him. He's literally 20-30 years older than I am and he's a professor at the school I attend. | Crushes |
I wanna text her Good Luck tomorrow have a wonderful Day bc shes basically by herself at work tomorow but shes just gonna brush me off and i should say Peace but i just keep hoping shell let me have this one
i gave her a unique compliment the other day and she said thats cool and was Smiling | Crushes |
I can’t keep a track of how many articles, tik-toks, youtube shorts etc have I seen on the ‘correct’ method to make your crush like you.
I read a few posts asking the same question and I felt obliged to make this post.
There is nothing like Rizz ( except for Riz- which means rice in French) , or flirting or scientific way of attracting someone. It’s all a fragment of trends made by media and celebrities.
You don’t need to make overly suggestive comments, flirty jokes to have Rizz. You don’t need to have a perfect mathematical equation proven face to attract someone, or to flirt. You don’t need to be an extrovert ;visiting clubs/bars to meet people.
Kindness in my eyes, is the ultimate Rizz. So is being genuine. There is nothing more flattering than being YOU around who you fancy! Don’t suppress your excited self just because your crush looks mature and serious. Don’t pretend to love dogs because your crush does. Don’t blast heavy metal on your phone just to prove that you have a similarity.
Don’t be kind to only THEIR Friends. Be kind to everyone; rumours spread fast, but so does praise. Don’t google “pick up lines”. I once had the perfect opportunity to compliment my crush with the guise of it being an activity. But time was running out, and so I wrote the first word that popped up in my mind from when I had first heard him speak. “Wise”. Not the best rizz, but the next time He gave me the most sweetest smile on this planet. From there our friendship blossomed and in fact is still in progress. His friends too love me.
Don’t listen to what others say, don’t listen to what media says, or what viral tik toks say. They attract people superficially and get equally shallow people.
Be Yourself. Because in the end, you are your only soulmate. | Crushes |
I’ve had a tiny crush on this guy since October.
I play volleyball and he does XC. When it would rain, he’d run inside the gym. For reference, the track is above the courts to where you can look down at the courts. I payed attention to when he’d stop running and look up, and he’d be looking at me. This happened numerous times, but nothing else happened. At this time, I’d seen him around and we followed each other on Instagram and he’d comment on my posts and such.
Fast forward to November/December, he liked all of my Instagram posts (which was weird but I thought it was cute)
Found out we had a class together in January. He talked to me for the first time. He is always so smooth talking and funny, but he came up to me and he kept stuttering and couldn’t say anything. I thought it was the cutest thing. I was still nervous to talk to him.
Flash forward to now, we talk everyday and consistently make eye contact. He gives me compliments and always makes the best jokes. When he smiles, my heart melts. He truly is a one of a kind soul and I wish everyone could meet him.
The downside: he is leaving for the military and college in a month. Meanwhile I will be stuck in high school without him there, which sucks. I am trying to know him as much as possible before we part ways. It’s upsetting to think about. | Crushes |
Like, why ask how I’m doing, just to leave me on delivered for a day??? Bro… why ask then? You’re the one who started the convo and now you’re leaving me on delivered??? UGHHHH | Crushes |
Reasons why I think he likes me:
1. He wants to spend time with me alone and not just with our friends.
2. He consistently plans ways we can meet outside of classes, sometimes even asks me to stay back with him. With anyone else he usually makes an excuse to leave for his dorm early.
3. Calls me or texts me daily and checks up on me regularly if I am doing fine.
4. Wants to know about my friends and never finds it boring when I talk about them for hours.
5. Tries to hug or touch me a lot (not in a creepy way though). It's very playful and platonic but we have had our moments.
6. Looks uncomfortable when I mention other guys, or if it's just us and a new guy shows up who I would know he pulls me close.
7. Might not notice small changes in my appearance like my latest haircut or the fact my hair were colored different but the moment I tell him even the tiniest bit about myself he remembers it forever.
8. Talks about our future and pushes me stay close to him given I have same job offer as him (I would be joining just a year later) but when I tell him I have plans to pursue further studies he supports it and reassures that we will cross paths again.
9. Teases me when I accomplish something or look good like "oh, who are you trying to impress" or "I didn't know you were this smart".
10. Gives me advice on things he knows matter to me or whenever I need help and keeps asking me if I need anything when I not well. Would often try to reduce my load by doing some of my work whenever I need a break, even though he would be busy too.
11. Will do things like read a novel or watch a series I like with me even though I can clearly tell he is not having fun.
12. Always respects me and had never made me feel weak or worthless. Has always been there for and hasn't used any of my insecurities or vulnerabilities against me.
13. Would warn me about shady people in my life (and has somehow always been right) but ultimately respects my decision and keeps his boundaries about me and any of my acquaintances.
14. We got drunk once and got really close and cuddled a lot. Although we both don't talk about it now.
Reasons why I think he doesn't like me:
Not much just that he might just view me as a good friend and not have any romantic feelings for me.
Ok some of these are just how good he is but I just want to know if these are signs he likes me... | Crushes |
I'm a guy crushing on other guy in my uni. At first my plan was just to get over him.
We ended up as friends, I'm happy about it but it is driving me mad.
I saw him the first day of uni, thought "he's cute, probably won't see him again" - then boom, we are in the same group.
I started talking more with other group of people instead, thought "we'll naturally end up in a different friend circles" - then boom, I come to uni next day and he is chatting away with them.
He went to his hometown for a winter break, I thought "we probably won't talk that much after" - then boom, the day he returns he goes out of his way to sit with me and invites me over to his place.
Now that some time has passed, I stoped being dazzled by his looks, he can look kinda awkward actually. I thought "now I'm getting over him".
Like hell I do, instead I learn more about him and he is kind, he can be curious and passionate about things, we have a lot of same interests and things to do together. | Crushes |
Pretty much the title, how do you text when you're texting your crush?
(Optional but if you want to just also say your genders so we can see the difference between everyone that'll be great :)) | Crushes |
Over the past year, I've been talking to this girl. Recently I caught feelings for her. I asked her mutual friends to scout out the situation - there have been positive and negative signs.
Positive:
\- We were all drinking, mutual friend played truth or dare with her and asked her who she would kiss in the group, and she pointed at me and this mutual friend said "I knew it" as in she knew she liked me and then she laughed (I was too faded to understand what was going on, I was told afterwards)
\- She asks me about my ex and whether I'm over her a lot
\- She calls me by an affectionate pet name
\- She tells me that she really loves spending time with me
\- She texts me that she missed me over break
\- We've done 1 on 1s a lot- and have gone to fairly romantic places.
\- She walks me out of her apartment and lingers saying goodbye
\- Bunch of other small signs that I might be over-reading
Negative:
\- She sometimes invites people into our 1 on 1s (but I have too)
\- She is known to have a more flirty personality- she admits this as well, so all of these signs might not be signs at all.
\- (Probably should've started with this but) She told one of my mutual friends that she's gotten a clue that I might like her. During this conversation, my mutual friend said my crush was caught off guard that I liked her and she initially was unsure how she felt towards me. However as the conversation progressed she said she probably liked me as a friend. However, my mutual friend said it wasn't a full rejection bc she was initially unsure how she felt and to just spend more time with her as she said really positive things.. She also mentioned potentially distancing herself from me but didn't really want to do that bc she was unsure how she felt about me and really loves spending time with me.
**Knowing this, how do I proceed?** | Crushes |
I’m thinking about sending him a biology meme (he’s going into evolutionary biology). Any suggestions on what else I could say to him as our first text?
I’d meant to do it yesterday because my ex was supposed to be absent, but he showed up anyway so I chickened out. I tried to revv myself up for it in class today but chickened out then as well, BUT! I sat with my friend and we pep talked me during my spare block and at the end of last block, I caught him at his locker. He was talking with a girl but she left JUST as I came up to him so I scored him alone (he’s NEVER alone LOL)!!
My friend whom I’d been walking with continued walking as I stopped at his locker. I said “Hey [Name], reckon I could get your number?”
He was struggling with his lock so he asked “like… now?” and I said yeah
He tried to get into his locker a couple more times and made a joke about not being able to get it, I said “yeah I’ve broken like five of those locks haha”
He said “fuck it” and gave up, pulled out his phone, and gave me the number
I was SUPER red so I said “cool” and walked around the corner where my friend was waiting, I sprinted down the stairs so he wouldn’t see me but I was shaking soooo hard from nervousness and my heart was in my throat haha | Crushes |
So today I was texting my crush(19F) and I (18M) decided to pour my heart out. She moved into uni a week ago so she's been a bit tired and her responses were getting dry and she didn't even reply me for two days before I texted her again. I decided to apologize for how I acted towards her in the past. There was a time it looked like she was interested in me and I knowingly detached from her, I know what I did was wrong but I had no choice. I didn't see any chance of us ending up together so I withdrew myself mentally before I'd end up getting obsessed and heartbroken.
I apologized to her and started talking about how I messed things up before when I thought she liked me and how I valued her so much and that she made me finally feel happy in a long time. She responded with "I don't like how this sounds in my head". Basically she didn't respond to any of my attempts to confess to her and when I said it was my fault for treating her badly she simply replies "it was definitely your fault" and I haven't heard from her since.
I know I really messed up and I regret it. I think I'm gonna go cold for a while before I try getting back into the dating scene again.
P.S: Prior to her I never really fell for anyone, I was more of a flirt that avoided romance but loved the chase and somehow never had a real gf. I guess karma finally caught up to me. | Crushes |
So I'm 14 yrs old and shortly said I like a guy in my school, but his friend thinks I like him (crushes friend) and has told my crush, my best friend and another boy about it😭😭 I dont like him! I like his friend! I feel like I have no chance with my crush anymore if he now thinks I like his baldass friend. I cant even talk to that guy and tell him that I dont like him because of the way I found out (the guy told my best friend, my best friend then told me despite not being allowed to)
He also keeps staring at me everytime I even glance at his direction (more like my crushes direction) and goes to complain to my best friend that im soo weird for "staring at HIM." I cant. I will take his eyballs out soon. This guy doesnt even like me and hes all confident thinking I love him soo much I am shy totally because of his shining head and his battle royale shirt💯💯🔥 In all seriousness I dont know what to do anymore | Crushes |
She plays soccer, most likely does cross country, and is fucking gorgeous. I am a new kid that has probably made a bad impression and says some really stupid stuff sometimes.
I don't understand why she would have a crush on me
Odds are this post will get no attention whatsoever but I might as well try.
She let me walk her to class yesterday. She sat on my desk yesterday with me sitting in it, said we were bonding up close.
Yesterday was my birthday and when the class sung happy birthday she stood on her desk.
She has been really touchy with me in the past few weeks and has been talking to me a lot more than she used to.
Her friend got moved away from her in the seating chart in English, she started to talk to me more. Hopefully I'm remembering that part correctly.
I asked her what she wants to be when she grows up, she answers. I answer and say "I want to go into engineering or physics". She says, my boyfriend Michael wants to do that too.
This is what confused me.
She has a boyfriend?! His name is Michael, just like me!? This has confused me for a bit now.
This is going to sound really fucking weird but under what circumstances would a 16 year old girl make up a fake name for a boyfriend, based of their crush?
In hindsight, this post was a really fucking stupid idea but at least I find out that she has a boyfriend.
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started texting with this guy and we had AMAZING chemistry, like literally sweet banter vibes, funny, really into it from both sides, second day also chatted quite a lot, after that 3 days in a row I initiated conversations but he went colder in his responses, so I decided to eventually stop messaging him. He doesn’t message me at all now, and I’m just wondering if I did something wrong or if it’s just something from his side | Crushes |
then, I have no longer written parts because I think you can tell me: why not bring it back from the principal.
(if you have read the previous parts you will be able to understand well)
I honestly do not want to ruin the life of this professor, he also has a girlfriend and then I do not understand why he behaves so with me.
I once did not do P.E because I did not want and I had remained with my friend sitting, he was away from me but he looked at me from a distance and was a little nervous, he kept touching his hair and his face was kind of red, he seemed agitated.
at the end of his hour the girls were in the locker to change and some had gone to class I was in front and the teacher was talking to the janitors, then he followed me to class was behind me and kept moving the keys to get my attention, At some point I turn around and I smile at him looking down at him he was already looking at me or maybe even my butt.
When I looked at him he was nervous I did not understand the reason, after a few days I did not feel good, I was dizzy but I did not tell him because I had no courage, I was attached to the heater of the gym he was in front of me fixing things..
I was leaving at a certain point he stops me and asks me: how many are you in class today?
I answered him with: I don’t know maybe 26.
He approached me with his phone as I walked down the stairs, he approached and I went down.
I was not well, I got on the ground while the others were playing volleyball then my classmate comes and says: but are you okay?
I say, no, my head is spinning.
then he goes directly to tell the teacher, at that moment the teacher did nothing er sitting in the chair to look at me from afar, at a certain point I ask him if I could go to the bathroom, he makes me: SURE!! with a strange voice.
when I went to the bathroom at some point he followed me into the bathroom next to the female one **was for professors.**
When I came out of the bathroom, he came out too, he was behind me too close, he was looking down and whistling then I turned was almost attached to me.
then he tells me if I was sick I can call home, I told him there was no one home.
thenhe said to me that he doesn't know how to help me, I was in the bathroom sitting on the floor in the bathroom that is in front of my class, I do not understand why always a look at the bathroom. | Crushes |
Bruh.
You know I was really obsessed with this one girl who's a good friend of mine. I confessed my feelings for her, and she doesn't reciprocate and is already in a relationship.
At first, it was incredibly difficult for me to cope with this, and it only got worse. As time carried on, I began to realize that I'm able to look past it.
Would I say I'm "over her over her", in that I wouldn't date her if given the chance? No, but I can look past my attraction to her now and move onto other things and people.
I got done with my shift today at work, and I saw one of my coworkers approaching the building, although she was doing so as a customer instead of an employee. I work at Starbucks, and you're not allowed to get free drinks if you're not working for the day, so I offered to use my drink markout so she could get the drink she wanted.
I did that, and she offered me a ride home because I usually navigate by walking. I'm in the car with her, and we're just chatting up like good friends, and I realized the energy she gives me is too good.
There were so many things I like about her in terms of her humor, her intelligence, her appearance, but one thing that stood out to me is that she is a vegan, and I've been wanting to date a fellow vegan for some time now. I feel like there's a connection between us.
But... here's the little caveat. I don't want to deal with heartbreak for a **SECOND** time.
It was already so difficult for me to move past the first crush, and for me to just develop a new one sounds like asking for me trouble. Granted, I think there's more flexibility with making this one work than the other one because there were numerous intricacies (including the whole "she has a partner already" thing) that couldn't have made my first crush work regardless.
On one hand, I'm happier than a motherfucker, but on the other hand... I have relationship anxiety. I don't want to ruin anything or make anything worse with her because I value her so much as a friend.
My emotions are so mixed right now. Why can't I just stop catching feelings? | Crushes |
So I (16m) am on a school trip to a popular city with people from my school and my (17f) crush is on the trip as well. Today we went to the top of one of the tallest skyscrapers in the country if not the world. When we were in front of the building I was chatting with some of my friends and I was jokingly freaking out because of my fear of heights. I was making jokes to deal with the fear like flipping off the building. Welp as I flipped off the building my crush walked up and asked what I was flipping off. I told her the building and one of our mutual friends told her about my fear. The mutual friend said that I should go to the edge and look at the city for at-least like 5 seconds to which I responded with “I’ll go to the edge if you hold my hand!” And without any real hesitation my crush who was standing nearby said “I’ll hold your hand if you want me to [insert my name here]” and I agreed obviously. So fast forward to the top of the skyscraper and she texted me asking where I was and when I walked up behind her and poked her shoulder she looked back and smiled at me which honestly gave me butterflies. We walked to the edge and she took pictures of me and forced me to squish my face against the glass. Worst best moment of my entire life. The fear was crippling but my heart forced my wobbling legs to walk. God I’m so in love. Do y’all think that’s like a sign that she said she would so fast when I didn’t even ask her? | Crushes |
Basically im 15m above average in attractivnes and theres 2 girls i like.
Girl 1 is really my type, very good looking face like 9/10 and is very cute and i would like to get to know her, but she goes to different school than me and we dont have mutual friends i sonetines see her walking with her dog she so cutee but i get so nervous around her im instantly running lmao. i feel likw because of this its almost impossible for us to be together but we would be sooo pretty couple and yea.
Girl 2 is from my school i like her less kinda but shes like my type shes hot her face is like 7.5 and seems like good personality and idk i just like her kinda. i see this girl often i dont have mutuals if i do its like people i dont talk to much, like we had all first grades in cinema for sone drug talk and that girl sat like right in front of me and i looked sonetimes at her idk if she noticed but yea she soneyimes would like sleep there in a kinda nice way, but we didnt make eye contact,i made eye contact with her friend lmao. but yea those both girls dont really give me signs but its hard to say because before i had girls who acted kinda cold to me and they had crushes on me and girls who gave signals and had crushes.
should i try makimg eye contact and smiling at them and see if any of them respond positively? if both do which one should i approach ?? i would rather have girl 1 but i feel like chances so low ;/ | Crushes |
I've been close friends with someone for a year now and a few months in I started developing a crush on them. When I confessed, they told me they honestly really liked me but due to personal issues they were dealing with and the fact that we lived far away from each other made them turn me down and say that they didn't want to pursue a relationship at that moment.
Obviously, I was heartbroken but I respected their decision. It just felt like we were the right pair who just met at the wrong time. I was sad thinking that if we could've met at a different time, maybe I would have gotten the happy ending that I wanted with them.
Anyway, we still managed to keep our close friendship. Hell, they're my best friend and my partner-in-crime. We still talk, tease, and joke a lot with each other every single day with seemingly no boundaries, entrusting secrets and continuously sharing our life experiences because we were just that comfortable with each other (yes, including sexual jokes, although they're no longer seriously directed to each other like we did it before ever since we settled on just being friends). It's been about 6 months since I gave my confession and the talk we had about them not wanting to pursue a relationship due to their current state.
The thing I need advice on is that sometimes I feel like they have feelings for me, but I'm not so sure of it anymore and I'm scared to confirm it because 1) we've settled on just having a solid friendship; and 2) it's been 6 months since they told me they liked me back and those feelings may have faded already. I just don't want to give myself anymore hope that we could work out as more than friends and get myself hurt again. I know that if they reject me again, it might impair our friendship from now on because it would be too hurtful that I might need to stay away from the for a longer period. Or maybe for good if I find myself having a hard time moving on with them still being around. And we both don't want that to happen because there's been a time before that I actually attempted this.
I also have a hard time determining whether they meant things just platonically or romantically. Sometimes they tease me and say that I'm hot, and I can't help but read some personal biases into it that they're attracted to me. They also say "I like you" when I ask them why they still keep talking to me, drop me good morning and good night messages daily, and compliment me all the time. I don't know if these things are normal for two people who are close to each other (we're M and F btw) but I'm sure it's the mutual emotions we had for each other before that messes with my head on how to take in their words and affection.
I don't know what to do about this. But I really don't want to get hurt anymore. Can someone give me some advice or honest insights on what they think is happening between us? | Crushes |
She really likes cute stuff, from what I noticed, ducks in particular. | Crushes |
he told my friend in class he wanted to know me better, what does this mean? | Crushes |
so basically, there’s this guy in my class and we sit next to each other, talk a lot and laugh a lot. He’s in a completely different friend groups than mine and don’t see him outside of that one class often, with the exception of 1-2 parties we have crossed paths. We both smile and say hi to each other in the hallway which is nice haha. I’ll start with why I think he might like me:
- lots of playful joking or like “bullying” but very light and obviously jokes (trust me on this one fr fr)
- For group projects even though his partner is someone else he stays in the seat next to me.
- Initiates conversation for tests or a joke and we just talk for a while
- we are on eachothers bsf list
- he sends me some videos
- he follows me on all socials including spotify 🤔 (1 of 2 people haha)
Why he might not:
- hes going to prom with someone else :)
- That said date is also his #1 and so is she to him
- Doesn’t snap me when online but sometimes we snap like for 10 minutes back and forth
please help 😭😭 | Crushes |
I have just meet my crush this year I am in the closet and he is Straight I want to know if he has the same feelings I have for him and to know if he's gay and not out myself at the same time he comes from conservative area but I always catch him staring at me always wants to be my partner and he even pulls my book bag to get my attention we have even touched legs and he has even called me cute always talks to me and bumps into me and always smiles at me but he makes fun of one gay person also he gets made fun of his friends for his race. Does he even like me? | Crushes |
It's so stressful whenever she is around like AHHH!!! I MALFUNCTION LIKE SHIT 😭 | Crushes |
So a couple days ago I posted talking about this guy I like(go to my profile if you want, it’s should be my last post) and more stuff has happened now. I can’t tell if he’s just being friendly or flirting but I still thought it was sweet also it’s a pretty funny story.
So me and my friends were at lunch sitting in the school courtyard and they decided it would be funny to take me shoes off because I was sitting in a nearby tree and my legs were hanging off. So they succeeded and started playing football with my shoes(we’re really stupid, chaotic people so just bear with me). I jumped down to get my shoes back and it obviously became monkey in the middle except with like 7 of my friends against me. I’m getting tired and laughing too hard to actually do anything and my crush proposes the idea of him joining my team to make things even. So he does and we separate, he tries to get one shoe while I go for the other. Everything’s going fine and then I look over at my friend holding the shoe just as she decides to throw it to someone behind me(I think) and accidentally hit me in the face with my own shoe. Not a light hit either but a full on throw at my face. Fast forward, I’m on the ground being dramatic on purpose but also because it did hurt and nearly all of them are standing over me except for my crush and another one of my friends. I’m just kinda laying there for a bit and my crush runs over with my other shoe in his hand. I get my shoes back on, thank god, but they’re all still huddled around me sort of. My one friend says I’m bleeding and that a bruise is already starting and my crush tells me he’s gonna get me an ice pack. I say no because I’m stubborn but eventually after the second no he gets it anyways from his lunchbox and holds it on my face himself. I lightly pushed his hands away again saying I didn’t need it and he tells my friends next to me to hold my arms down so he can make sure I’m actually okay and won’t push his hand away again. So he’s just sitting there looking at me holding an ice pack to my face until I finally relent to holding it on my own. I just thought it was really funny but also kind of cute that he cared so much. | Crushes |
I’m (16F) and about to lose the card this weekend ifykwim. I’m not dating the guy, we’re more just fwb or talking. I don’t really know what we are, but i don’t care what we are cause i want to do this yk? He might think we are talking, and if he does then i’m okay with being in that stage with him. If he just wants to to be fwb that’s fine too. i don’t know how to explain it. But if you have any comments about it lmk. thanks. | Crushes |
I wanna ask my crush(my group mate from uni) on a date but I sorta don't know how to do it. We've talked alone but never outside of uni so I'm sorta nervous. BUT I'm definitely gonna ask him out before June cause that's when he'll leave and I'd like to keep talking even from a distance.
Any advice on asking him out?? | Crushes |
As you guys can see what happened last time. So fast forward a few days since last encounter. We were about to go out for lunch date after classes. That's when I knew that she liked some guy online that she never saw face to face and I was just some kind of backup. I told her there is no use of going out and do shit if we don't have any future together and it'll a waste of both of our time. So we cancelled the date and she departed. For the next month I see her text and call that guy extensively and felt really really bad but I just let it go. So moving on a month, I came to know that the guy stopped talking to her for some reason. That bitch immediately started talking to some other guy when our group was together for about 3 fuking hours. Her friends were surprised about how fast she can move on. We stopped talking since then but lately I see her staring at me and trying to touch me, although I ignore all those actions , I kinda feel bad. She told me long ago that she just used my friend as an emotional punching bag when he was with her during her time of depression. Tbh he was kind of an asshole and wanted to sleep with her so I ignored that fact. I should have known what kind of a person she was. But now she got what she deserved. She's probably crying in her home right now but I don't care anymore. There was once a time when I would've given everything to make her smile and happy... But now that time has passed. | Crushes |
For some context I've been into this person for the whole school year. Every so often I'll pull away and deny it but I know I can't move on. He keeps sending mixed signals and I'm getting annoyed AF. We're not super close, more of chill acquaintances rn. How do I know if he feels the same way or not? I'll catch him staring in class. He jokes around with me in class. I've heard him say my name while talkigg to friends, heard his friends say my name, seen his friends turn him towards me ect. But I still don't know. He hasn't made any moves at all this year and it's driving me nuts. | Crushes |
My crush (21M) and I (19F) are in a school club together. Recently, our club's advisor did something to upset me, and I vented about it to my crush. He offered to talk to our club's exec board on my behalf. And he said that he would make it seem like the problem was his because he would rather have any drama caused by it be on him instead of me.
He also told me that he wanted to ensure I was completely comfortable with still being a part of the club. At the end of our conversation, he texted me that he appreciates that I confided in him. He also complimented me about my courage and speaking ability. I don't know if this means anything or if it's just his personality because I know that he cares about making our club a welcoming place. | Crushes |
Hey gang! Before I begin I’d like to say this is going to be a hurried post (I want to finish it before I start up some schoolwork) so I apologize if it doesn’t flow well/has errors.
So, there’s this one wonderful girl (20F) in my college class, we’ll call her Lily (she uses Reddit so I won’t be using her real name ofc). I (21M) was instantly intrigued by her; she’s an extremely eloquent woman, reserved but extroverted when she’s comfortable (if that makes sense), listens to the same music as I do, and is overall a joy to be around.
I’ll describe how it all began. My fellow students and I were to present a speech detailing our lives, speaking about what we enjoy, etc. The second she walked up to give her speech, I could just feel the air shift; her idiolect felt so welcoming, everything that came out of her mouth was spoken with confidence and intelligence. That (combined with the fact she’s uhhh drop dead gorgeous) made me feel something I hadn’t felt in a long time; the subtle anxiety of a crush. As her speech reached its end, I decided to do something that my anxious OCD-ridden ass never does; I raised my hand to speak. I spoke to her about the music act she mentioned as one of her favorites (a certain quirked up Australian lad) and suggested that she listen to the music of his wife if she hadn’t done so already. She smiled and said “I’ll make sure to do so!” Now, that may seem like nothing at all to most people, but to me? It was warm and exciting.
The following days passed by and it was time for me to give my speech. Not gonna lie, I was looking at Lily the entire time lol. Towards the end of the speech, I mentioned my passions (writing and films) and was met with the question of “so what is your favorite movie?” by another student. I answered with a few of my favorite films but the movie “Her” will come into play later in this story.
After a couple more days, we were given the new assignment of creating a group presentation. I decided to be uncharacteristically bold, asked her to be in my group, and…she said yes! As we worked on the project, we discovered that we had a lot in common; similar music tastes, morals, views on society, gripes with people, interest in psychedelics, etc.
Time flew by, and we soon found ourselves walking around campus. When the topic of music came up again, she said that she was looking to trip on psychedelics one of these days (she had done so in the past) and would like some trippy music. I took the opportunity to ask if she would like my Spotify. She said yes and I gave it to her (she’s the only one that follows me and I’m her only follower which made me kind of giddy for some reason). After I mentioned that I would send her my psychedelic playlist, we switched the topic to movies. This is the part that made me internally click my heels together; I brought up the movie Her again while showing her my Letterboxd and she said “I love that movie! You want to know something though? I watched it right after you recommended it in class :)” By then, my heart was doing somersaults but I’d like to think that I maintained my composure. I told her that I would make her a list of other movies she’d most likely enjoy (sent her my list of books as well after she asked) and she was receptive to the idea!
We said our goodbyes, I went to the parking lot of my school, and immediately started searching for my psychedelic playlist. However, after I found it, I realized I hadn’t updated it in years. Tldr; I spent a LONG time in my car perfecting it before I sent it to her.
After this encounter, we starting conversing with each other more and more; waiting after class to talk about everything going on in our heads, walking together, etc. The day of our group presentation arrived shortly, our group’s task was to talk about romantic relationships (lol) and provide examples of healthy/toxic communications. My section went by smoothly until it came time to improvise a scenario. Turns out doing it by yourself doesn’t provide the desired effect so my professor decided to throw me a bone; he called on LILY to act out the scene with me. We performed it extremely well, shared a hug at the end (our first hug if it counts), and received applause from the rest of our class. After this, I noticed her disposition began to be more…open in a sense. She would smile more with me, laugh at everything I said, and talk to me specifically when we were in groups.
About a week or so ago, I went to talk to her after class. She suggested we sit outside and she shared a piece of fruit with me. We spent hours with each other but this time, I wanted to be a LITTLE bit bolder. When she mentioned music festivals, I suggested that we go to one together in the future and she said she would love that. Towards the end, I pushed my anxiety to the side and initiated a hug when it was time for her to leave. She wrapped around me and my god, an instant seratonin boost shot through my brain.
Steady progress is being made but a part of me keeps hesitating about escalating. I’ve been thinking of things to do with her (we live in pretty small towns so it’s hard to come up with stuff) and I decided that I will ask her to go mini-golfing/to this adorable little ice cream shop with me! The hard part is…I have pretty bad unmedicated anxiety right now and part of my apprehension comes from the fact that I have a fear of misinterpreting things. I don’t want to read too much into her actions and mistake platonic actions with flirting. However, I have no intention of being platonic lol I want to ask her out with romantic intentions. That day will come soon enough but I just need to shake my consternation and get after it.
Welp, that’s all guys! Any questions, words, etc. will be greatly appreciated haha I just wanted to get this all off my chest. | Crushes |
So basically, a guy friend of mine texted me on Instagram after bumping into me by accident in school. We definitely are just acquaintances and haven’t talked to/seen each other for awhile so we had a small talk over ig (small talk tht constitutes only 5 texts)
Then suddenly he asked me for my telegram handle which I gave directly but wondered why does he want it when we are alr texting on ig
After adding me on telegram, he started texting me everyday till tdy
What questioned me so much is, I don’t know if he actually have a feeling for me or is just lonely and wants to vent to someone who actually will listen
For context, he often share his life w me such as when he’s studying/working, but never once asked me what am I doing
In addition, he also does use vulgarity when he’s ranting (eg: small rant about work)
But sometime, he provides help for me initiatively without me asking (for help), such as explaining some doubts that I encountered in school work and providing me with extra resources (agn, I nvr ask for it)
So, I’m srsly confused and wonder what is he thinking, I tend to catch feeling easily so I want to avoid catching feeling at all cost if he’s just treating me as a ranting/venting/dumping machine
Thank you for reading and providing your view (if any) !! | Crushes |
I'm in 3/4 classes with her and I do my labs with her. I did get her number and we mostly talk about the college work, but not much besides that. We don't talk in classes unless they are labs because we don't sit next to each other all the time and I focus on the class and then I have to leave school right after because it's late so I can't really stay around and talk to her (and I get very shy). Talking to new people (not family or close friends) has been insanely hard since being quarantined by the pandemic for 2 years, which doesn't help my case at all. I try sometimes to ask her questions to get to know her better by text even though I'm shy, but conversations don't last very long. I also get worried that I might ask her something to get to know her better, but I'll seem like a creep or she'll start disliking me. I have two questions
1. Do you think she's interested or how can I tell for myself? maybe she's not interested? maybe she's also shy? maybe if I asked her out she would be interested? I don't know what to think.
2. If she is potentially interested, do any tips on how to talk to her and get to know her better?
Again, this is the first time I've experienced something like this, and am very lost. I do my labs with her so I'm also worried that if I tell her now then I'll lose her acquaintanceship and someone to the labs with. I appreciate your advice. | Crushes |
So recently, my crush sometimes sends me her pictures while she’s in her bed. Before going to sleep or after waking up, only if I was texting her at that moment. I asked my friends about this but they all say it’s just normal. But I don’t know if that’s normal in any country or it’s just me that overthink about it. Please give me your opinion about this. Smh | Crushes |
So I M15 and her F16 texted me this “hey I wanna ask you a question can you be honest with me” at first I was very nervous, which I should’ve been and she texted “do you like, like me“
I was so nervous as soon as she asked this question I was calling all my friends saying what I should do, and they said to be honest with her
and so I did, I confess to that I really really liked her, even though we just met up last week, she said that she only viewed me as a friend, but I hope we can still be friends, for some odd reason I was kind of sad, but I feel like we works better as a Friendship, no, I am I’m kind of glad, she says
“sense that I already know what your standards are. Maybe I can help you find a girlfriend, I’ll give you some tips on how to not be obvious and properly have the Rizz”
this honestly made me happier because well now she knows what my standards are. We are still friends obviously, but I’m glad that she’s trying to help me. | Crushes |
A guy in my school always looks at me and I think he likes me. Should I try smiling at him the next time he looks at me? Cause I kinda have feelings too. Or could I be completely delusional? 😂 | Crushes |
I got a crush on a guy and I show interest more than he does. I always stay as long as I can behind my locker so that I could see him, I sometimes go during our breaks to look at him, I stare at him in the bus (he does too but more discretly) and smile or giggle etc. But the only thing he does is eye contacts. I'm bet he didn't ask about me with his friends and I doubt he knows my name. And this annoys me. I know there's nothing wrong with a girl pursuing a man but I don't wanna ask someone who simply doesn't put as much effort as I do. Thoughts? | Crushes |
So, there’s a guy who I’ve liked since I saw him in December. He goes to the same university as me but is 7/8 years older than me (I’m 20F). From the moment I saw him I developed an intense infatuation and just obsessive desire to ‘have him’. Also everyone around me thought I was being crazy because he’s ‘not good looking’ to them and older and very nerdy and just a bit random. Our first interaction I was convinced he liked me for some reason just cos he’s nice.
I stayed hooked on the idea of him despite hearing he might have a gf.
Saw him one at uni and literally hyperventilated just at the sight of him. Later on finally had a convo with him where I realised he wasn’t as attractive as I thought and he mentioned he did indeed have a gf. I was besides myself and decided to end the whole thing.
However , the cycle kept continuing where I’d tell myself I’m finally closing the door but then we’d have a convo or something and I’d be back ‘in love’. Bare in mind the whole time this is happening I’m mercilessly stalking him cos I’m so obsessed .
Now, I just don’t know what to do. A part of me wants him to just like me so I have the option of being w him, even if I choose not to, but I’d also feel bad cos of how bad I’d stalked him / planned this in my head. I have some sort of attachment issues which is why I hyper fixated on him cos he seemed like a nice, safe, guy.
I just want to know what I should do atp | Crushes |
when i was with my ex girlfriend, there’s a friend of mine (a girl) who tried really hard to make me distance myself from her because she was bad for me and hurting me a lot. at the time, i was so blinded by my feelings i didn’t realize my friend was right so we had an argument around august 2022 and didn’t talk to each other for months. i reached out to her in january after breaking up with my ex because she broke my heart, and we’ve been talking again since then. and for a few weeks now, i’ve been really excited about talking to her and she makes me nervous when she’s around. could it be that i’m developing feelings for her or just the satisfaction that we’re friends again, as if the drama had never happened ? i know for a fact that i’m still in love with my ex and i feel like maybe i’m just trying to convince myself i have a new crush so i can say i’ve moved on. | Crushes |
i saw him box today and he was wearing a tshirt (he always wears hoodies bc it's cold) oh my god that was SO attractive first the tshirt and then he started boxing oh my GOOOOOOD
i don't find boxing attractive at all, i think it's just bc he did it | Crushes |
im 15f and i have a crush on this guy, he's pretty popular, and i'd say hes extroverted. Every time i look at him, my heart fully flutters. I used to talk to him last year, but that kinda stopped.
I figured that if i want any chance with him, I should probably snap him or text him or smth
But i'm so afraid that he's just think it's weird that I'm texting him and ss and show it to his friends. I really want to talk to him, he's so cute and his personality makes me so happy. I think we're pretty compatible. Also , i feel like as a 15 year old i should probs have some experience in talking to people by now but i dont.
Personally, it think that its bc I'm fairly quiet and even the guy that I do talk to, I don't really talk to
Also this guy knows that I liked him so .... yeah
I also told him that I don't like him
and I really just want to have some connection him
please any advice u have please tell me | Crushes |
My crush and I are in a club together. Recently, my club advisor did something to upset me and I vented to my crush. He immediately started to look for a solution and he offered to talk to our club’s exec for me. He also said that he would keep my name out of it bc he would rather have any drama/attention fall on him than me and he kept asking if I was comfortable with him talking about it. I think that this has made fall for him even more. | Crushes |
So I (M22) have had feelings for a coworker (F19) for a little over half a year now. Here are the reasons that I think she could be into me (or at the very least likes me a lot platonically?)
-There have been a few times where she has blushed as I approached her
-She mentioned how she really only likes a few people at our workplace. “ I like you…” paused before listing the others. If I remember right none of the other coworkers she said she liked were dudes
-There was one time where she mentioned feeling distressed over feeling like she was sweating. I said “You look fine, I think :)” with a slow smile. She responded “Don’t look at me like that.. Just kidding” playfully
-The the first and only time she’s responded to one of my story posts of a trip was last month and it was along the lines of “No fair, i’m so jealous, i hope you have fun 💓💓”
-She went a party thing the other weekend and said “Wish you were there at one point.
-We were having a somewhat deep conversation at one point and she started mentioning her physical insecurities. Which I guess shows she’s trusts me
The potentially bad signs would be that she mentions guys she finds attractive before. But she also has made it apparent that she’s scared of rejection, at one point straight up saying that she was scared of rejection
I’m personally really bad at both seeing signs and showing affection (outside of a relationship anyway) so that doesn’t help
With all that being said
I figure my next step would be to ask her to hang out.
1) Do I ask her to hang out at work or should I wait until the next time we both close and are out of the workplace
2) How do I ask her to hang out? Should I have a specific hang out in mind or should I leave it more open? “Hey (F19) do you wanna hang out sometime” sounds a little basic you know. I just can’t figure out how i would word it without it totally sounding like a date. i mean should it sound like one? Helpp | Crushes |
(Hi I’m back and not feeling literally like a psycho and I know I need help I plan on getting some kind of online therapy once I get paid next week)
Texting to him at 1am talking about life whilst giggling and twirling my hair around my finger and shit ngl | Crushes |
Context, we’ve worked together for almost a year went from purely coworkers to friendly to good friends and now we’re very close. We walk home when we work together or I drive her and we text everyday too. But since she became single last month what we talk about and our level of interaction definitely changed.
While she was with someone she’d rarely reply to messages, she’d unsave everything on Snapchat before he’d get her so it’s blank and be at arms length. I wouldn’t intrude on her relationship despite him making comments about me and stuff but as friends we definitely grew apart. After her breakup we talked a lot about her relationships and my struggles with never dating before and I let her know that I care about her and want her to be loved and safe and provided with what she needs to be the person she wants. But I didn’t tell her I liked her.
A few weeks ago something happened at work where really sexual comments were made by our mutual friend that made us both uncomfortable and she said she won’t date a coworker and it’s not her business etc. She didn’t like that our friend assumed how she felt about me and appreciates that our friendship isn’t built on sex, which I knew before as she’s told me that she’s appreciative of how I treat her because most men she dates treat her like shit and abandon her but that I “haven’t done that yet”. Anyway, after the incident I decided to tell her that I do actually like her romantically and that I wouldn’t cross her coworker boundary if it wasn’t something she was comfortable with.
Since that incident we talk a lot more, she sends me tik toks, songs and Instagram posts daily, she’s much more comfortable in my bubble, teases me all the time which I really like, sends me selfies when I send her one, asked me to meet her mom and dog, when we get rolling with a conversation it’s so good and she wants to walk with me instead of drive because it’s more time to talk. I even see her just watching my hands and looking at me in the exact same way I look at her when I’m just really captivated by her.
A different coworker even told me that the way her face lights up and how she goes on about me when my name is brought up around her was enough to ask her about me and she told him we’re really close and she appreciates how I treat her.
I know it’s a lot but I’ve had a friend say she’s only treating me this way because she wants attention and I see it a bit. When I’ve asked if she wants to go do something together it’s not a “yes” but a “sure”. Some days the texting is dry and I leave it, I don’t press or anything but all of the other stuff just makes me feel like there’s something there. I’m debating asking if she’d like to date as I am leaving our workplace in the near future and I don’t think it’d ruin our friendship but I just don’t know what to do. | Crushes |
What should I do? I’ve been talking to this girl for the past few months over text and I finally gathered the courage to see if she’d maybe want to hang out. I was sure she’d be okay with it since she’s very enthusiastic when we text, i’m a musician so she always asks for videos of me playing, when there was a fight at a gig that i was playing at when she heard about it on the news she immediately texted me to see if i was okay, hell even a few days ago she commented on my college commitment post. So i know she doesn’t hate my guts at least lol she does take a while to respond sometimes but now I’m worried. What should I do? | Crushes |
This girl is either so into the conversation or leaves me on read for days. No in between. I'M SO FUCKING TIRED. SHE STARTED TEXTING AND SHE STARTED TALKING TO ME. SHE DOESN'T GET TO START LEAVING ME ON FUCKING READ ALL THE TIME. IT'S NOT LIKE I SENT A DRY TEXT. FUCK THIS SHIT MAN | Crushes |
I’ve been talking to this girl for the past few months over text and I finally gathered the courage to see if she’d maybe want to hang out. I was sure she’d be okay with it since she’s very enthusiastic when we text, i’m a musician so she always asks for videos of me playing, when there was a fight at a gig that i was playing at when she heard about it on the news she immediately texted me to see if i was okay, hell even a few days ago she commented on my college commitment post. So i know she doesn’t hate my guts at least lol she does take a while to respond sometimes but now I’m worried. What should I do? | Crushes |
I caught feelings for her back in August. Told her a month later, and everything was fine for a long time. Until a few weeks ago, when I thought I was over my feelings and texted her about it, before realizing my feelings were still there. I texted her about my feelings still being there after that. The past 4 days we've been having some very serious conversations about it. She's tired of constantly having to look after other people's feelings, and tired of being so unsure about my feelings because I'm not sure about them either. For the past week or so I've been feeling like they are gone, but I'm scared to be sure about it because of what happened last time I thought I was over them. It's incredibly draining and maybe even a little toxic for her, and I'm noticing she seems to be talking pretty differently to me now. I have no idea what to do. I treasure our friendship so much. She's changed me so much as a person, the thought of this friendship being broken breaks me. | Crushes |
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