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She’s in my astrophysics course, I’m 18 and she is 20.
Over the last 2 weeks I have been trying to speak to her more. She has never had a bf, and has a strong personality, which I like.
But around me idk she acts shy or disinterested. Very strange compared to how she is with other people.
I worry that I made her uncomfortable or something. I have been alone with her 3 times over the last 2 weeks, in the library and going shopping with her.
She did open up a lot more those times. But other times she asks I shy. Idk how to take it.
It really does string because I like talking with her.
I want to ask her out on Tuesday, in person. | Crushes |
I am always suspicious of people, but I am not making any moves about them, especially if they show some signs that they like me. Sometimes in the back of my mind I think that they somehow like me, but as I look through it at the end of the day, it was nothing. It made me so clueless to the point that I don't look as likeable as I thought. So what are the signs that a guy likes you at school based on your past crushes or even some of your admirers? | Crushes |
Days now are just going wasted ever since that day incident, no progress in personal as well as professional too soo much thoughts and flashbacks just disturbs during these works ....
Thought to see reddit as a last resort to open up neither any near one of me are to be talked to or say to them . | Crushes |
the only girl i like said no
now i feel empty and soulless
i wanted emotional self harm and i got it | Crushes |
I recently got a big fat crush on a guy in my class we barley talked before and he is in a complete different friend groups from me.
I really want to talk to him and get to know home better so that I can ask him out in the future ( if I do that right now I know he will reject me because he barley knows me and honestly I understand how weird it would be for him).
But the problem is we only have a few weeks left of school like we are in our final year and there is like a big change after these weeks that I will never see him again like I said we don’t share a friend group or anything.
I don’t know what to do cause for the last week I tried approaching him or his friends but he seems distant and well even with his friends it’s clear that we are not close (only talking smalltalk with like no possibility of meeting outside of school or after school has ended) .
I’m also super awkward around him and i can only bring myself to talk a little.( also I know he doesn’t like talking about school so starting conversation with that doesn’t really work. I know his interest but I don’t find a good enough excuse to talk to him about it)
What should I do have no clue how to help myself and my friends can’t really help me either.
And like I said every day that’s passing It gets closer and closer to never seeing him again. | Crushes |
Just yesterday I just found out that my crush likes me too. I was not expecting that but kinda was expecting it because I prayed so hard to God for how many weeks. But still I can't stop thinking about it! The way I found out about his feelings for me was kinda cute and funny.
Because we were at the church and my crush was passing notes to his friend talking about mangatoons. I didn't know he was looking at me and they were also talking about me. My one friend asked him through notes that if he likes me and he did this👍and wrote yes. I was trying not to smile but he was looking at me!!!! He went to our classroom first and when I looked up at the school building he was looking at me through the window. I was like- act fool act fool act fool...
I tried to talk to him and he can't even look at me and doesn't stand still he kept moving XD. I gave him the poem and then I ran like naruto.
And also he has adhd and ocd. I'm scared that he might hyperfocus on me and then gets bored after... | Crushes |
I like a guy and cute is the main word that comes to mind when I think about him. Do guys like that or are there better things to call them?
I call him cute because his smile is the cutest thing ever and he's really cute when he dances. I like looking at his face because I think he is good looking and it helps that he is a similar height to me so it's easy to look into his eyes and see him smile.
Sometimes looking at him gives me the same feeling of seeing something really cute. The 'ahhhh my heart' kind of feeling. So should I say he is cute or something else? | Crushes |
I’m going to tell you about what’s going on with me.
As I always tell you if you’ve read the other parts, you’ll understand the story.
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Last Tuesday, I did 3 hours of gym because the history teacher was not there, and so he had to stay with us in those hours.
When he was fixing up the gym, he was looking me in the eye and like I was saying something.
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I look the other way, sometimes I look at him wrong and he looks back.
My heart hurts me and I told him ,then **he tells me: BUT IT HURTS YOU FOR LOVE?**
**I said, No, but you think.**
I was shocked, he keeps looking at me even if I wasn’t looking at him.
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Last Thursday, He wouldn’t look at me when I looked at him, he ignored me for a while, at the end of his hour, I had gone to the bathroom I was tired and I put my head on the wall when he passed he turned and saw me.
After a few minutes I go out of the bathroom and **I bang with him for a few cm,** I do not know why I always find him in front of the bathroom!
I do not know why when I leave the bathroom I always bang with him, it is not the first time!!
When I almost banged with him, I changed position there were so many people coming out of the class and nobody noticed,he was attached to the wall to pass I was next to him, then he drags me with his arm touching mine.
I heard him say **NOOO when I was in front of him.**
We were in the hallway and nobody saw what happened.
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I don’t say anything to anyone because he hasn’t done anything wrong.
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Advice? | Crushes |
I already knew my crush for five years. I liked her since 8th grade. I didn’t knew back then that she also liked me. She wanted to tell me but then I moved to a different school. We kept having contact with eachother. Then I wanted to ask her out . But then she got into a relationship with her ex bf. I was devastated. 1,5 years later she broke up with him. Then suddenly she asked me out. Didn’t expect that at all. So we went on a date and now it’s official | Crushes |
"You're a great guy, but I'm not good with relationship stuff. We can still be friends though."
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TLDR: Goodbye clumsy beauty. I hope you find someone that makes you happy and appreciates you more than I do. I salute all of you that have had to go through the process of moving on.
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From here on, it is just venting really.
Knowing how she not only went out of her way to let me know, but did so in a gentle manner and as to not make me feel bad about myself, only made me like her more afterwards for it.
And now, of course, I am very very sad. I don't get to explore life with this person that made me want to make them smile, feel safe, and better myself for my and her sake. I wanted to hold *her* hand, I wanted to call *her* eyes beautiful, and I wanted to be the one to make sure she gets home safely and progresses through life with whatever support she needed.
It just hurts knowing this person will, eventually, find someone that will make her happy and enjoy life with, and that it won't be me. Which then leads me down to take things personally going "they'd probably be taller, more masculine, confident, kinder, smarter" etc etc, despite knowing full well as the person doing the rejecting that you don't really get to control who you like or why as much as we'd like.
I've had many crushes before, but this was the only one where I actively wanted them to know my feelings, the only one where I wanted to make them smile and make them feel safe in life. Granted, they do have a shy and somewhat timid demeaner, so I would imagine this feeling would be by no means unique to myself as a result, but yeah...
What also sucks is, whoever my partner will be, I want to make them feel loved, special, and unique, because who wouldn't? It's just one of those firsts that you lose and don't get to give to your special someone. Or at least, I am someone that values this sort of thing very much, which does not bode well for me going into the future, since it's an unreasonable expectation. It's naive of me really, since the older you get, of course the more likely and the more people you and others will have met and experienced life with. Some you regret, some you don't.
I still have to see them, and I know the offer as friends is there, but I like many others cannot change how I feel about someone, when that someone has not done something bad or wrong to warrant a change in my feelings. Which leaves me with two options. A) Be friends, and constantly be in this half-denial pain phase of hiding feelings, trying to move on, while hoping something changes, or B) become more distant, more akin to an acquaintance than a friend, but be of course be friendly and cordial, since they have done nothing wrong, but rather do it for my selfish sake of wanting to move on and not be stuck feeling lonely and emotionally trapped to someone that rejected me, but instead just lonely.
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Initially, I thought they did also like me. But it turns out this person is just naturally very friendly. It hurts to look back on the more obvious signs that they did not ever see me in that light.
But, at least I know the answer. I can confidently say she rejected me, rather than wondering "what if" when we must go our separate ways. | Crushes |
Wednesday recap; we had p.e. and we did shot put which was extremely boring. Everytime after my turn she would get my ball for me and give it to me then tell my friend why he only got his ball lmao. We then had to do it again but this time the teacher was gonna grade it. She kept encouraging me saying "Go (insert my nickname)" and after i did it she said "Wowww (insert my nickname)" teasingly. We finished early so we basically had 2 free periods cause the p.e. teachers cant even come up with a simple task lmao. So my friend and I were playing football/soccer and she then joined us with our other friend. She asked me to juggle the ball cause she remembered me doing it 2 months ago. I did and she said "You gotta teach us that someday". Then we went to our schools outdoor fitness. We were seeing who could hold on to the bars the longest but i kept laughing and almost choked on my gum 😭. Then she and our friend asked if my other friend and i wanted to play tag in the school halls. We thought it was a bit childish so while they were running away we just stayed there lol. They came back saying they were watching us do nothing the entire time. So they let us go hide this time. They found us within 20 seconds lol. Then we got 3 more classmates to join us and we found them in like 2 seconds 😭. Then we had to go hide and they found us in 2 seconds too.
Yesterday (friday) we had 2 free periods at the beginning of the day because 2 teachers were absent. We were sitting with our 2 best friends (mentioned above) and she was sitting diagonally in front of me. The first 5 mins we did our own thing (we had a chemistry test that day so we studied a bit) and then she asked if we wanted to play uno, the others said yes but i said no cause i was kinda tired. She still gave me cards so i just played lmao. We stopped halfway through cause it was taking years to finish. So we were just on our phones the rest of the hour. She kept saying "(insert my nickname) look" showing me videos and photos trying to make me laugh, one made me cry of laughter 😭. I then showed a picture of me when i was younger and she said "how cuuuute". And everytime someone was talking to me she would tease me by saying my nickname with this weird voice 😭. When my friend was showing me something i could see her looking at me from the corner of my eye with dreamy eyes(?) while smiling. I dont know how to properly explain but just that look you usually see that women give men theyre interested in in movies.
Later that day, during the 6th period, we had 2 hours of french because the french teacher thinks we like her for some reason. My crush came was late in class cause something happened to her bike (we had lunch the previous hour and she went home). She told us what happened and then went to the bathroom to fill her waterguns with water(i dont know why she had them 😭). When she came back she sprayed some in the air and it landed on a girl sitting at the front of the class. She looked up in disbelief and i burst out laughing 😭. She then did it again but didnt see it cause i wasnt paying attention. She was tapping me on the head and shoulder and pulling my chair towards her. I thought it was my friend behind me (my crush was sitting diagonally behind me), but it was her. I said "what?" and after i realized it was her i felt so bad. I hope she didnt think i was mad or anything. She then sprayed some water on my neck and ear. My friend sitting behind me also had a watergun and some dude snitched on her 😭. Good thing he didnt see my crush doing it. We then went to another classroom the following period and were forced to watch a boring comedy show that wasnt even funny lol.
Again too afraid to ask her out | Crushes |
The thing is if something goes wrong it's would be extremely uncomfortable to run into each other 😑.
We go to the same university .
The first time I saw him he was glancing over at me at the bus stop, and while we were at the bus I again saw him looking at me. Another time we met at the stairs and just said hello...I've seen him at uni sometimes and that's it...
Now I know staring and greeting isn't much but I think he is pretty and I would like to get to know him, my friends say to follow him on Instagram but idk... | Crushes |
Had a crush on this guy for a few months now and I'm wondering if he reciprocates my feelings. I haven't really told anyone in my life about him (my mum really wants me to have a boyfriend and I don't want to ruin what I have by telling her about it).
Anyway, my crush has done the following for me: Slowed down his pace for me so we could walk together from class once, tried to catch me after class. He stares at me, blushed at me while talking to me directly, thinks I'm funny (I've made him laugh), he makes me laugh and smile A LOT, and we have a wee inside joke about one of our tutors aha. He's held doors for me, complimented me on my handwriting, he asked me if I'm seeing anyone after telling me he went on his first date a wee while ago. And I caught him staring at me again last week after I dressed up a little bit for him (I was wearing a black lace top that I normally don't wear).
I know it may seem obvious to some people, but I'm a girl who doesn't know until it's too late. And I'm GENUINELY SO AFRAID to tell him how I feel! And I travel to uni twice a week because I live in a different area, so it's harder for us to hang out together :( . Any advice would be appreciated! | Crushes |
I (14F) decided to go no contact with my crush (14F) because I’ve been getting very crazy obsessive over her (however obsessive you think it is, you’re probably underestimating it) so I decided to no contact with her starting from next week.
Yesterday we had a school field trip and I don’t know why, but she decided to partner up for the whole event (even though her friends were there too) and we had lots of fun, told lots of jokes (and not to brag, but we also got 1st place in many competitions)
I feel really shitty for just abandoning her like that, but she doesn’t care about me too much, so hopefully she’ll take this well.
I just kinda had to vent, so thx for reading I guess. | Crushes |
Okay basically there are two guys. The first guy is like super nice, we snap a few times a day, keep making eye contact, he plays soccer which is def my type, i think i’ve heard him talking to his friend about me during homeroom cause he sits behind me and last year he did this whole waist thing that I’ve commented about a lot. Guy 2 is also super nice, plays soccer as well, we talk and bicker a bit. I def like the first one but idk if I like the second one and my friends say that I should. What do you guys think? | Crushes |
Ahhhhhhhhhh someone help me!! , y'all know the guy I've been crushing over 8 years?? Yeah, my first crush/love. Idk if it's just my imagination idk maybe im fucking delusional, but I've noticed him looking at me SO MANY TIMES LIKE WHENEVER I LOOK AT HIM, I FIND HIM ALREADY LOOKING AT ME AND HE DOESNT EVEN BREAKS EYE CONTACT ITS ALWAYS MEEEEE CAUSE MY DUMB FUCK ASS CANT LOOK AT HIS FACE, BUT HE ALREADY LIKES SOMEONE ELSE IDK WHAT IS HAPPENING, IM GOING INSANE | Crushes |
I lost interest in her.
So all of us had a party and during the party there was a slow dance. Ofc I wanted to ask her out but I'm really shy. By the time the dance was about to start, I just saw her with someone else in the middle of the place. Everyone even created space for them. By that time my level of interest just dissapeared. But in the end, I'm dissapointed in myself but I'm happy for her.
(btw during the slowdance, no one literally wanted to dance with me) | Crushes |
I(19M) have been crushing on my girl best friend for years now, it was mostly on and off feelings. We would always talk online if any of us is available but we would never hangout irl(in real life), i asked her about some time ago why dont we go out to hangout like eat or stuff her answer was because her mother was shipping us(for example she was not allowed to go out alone without me because she was weak because of her illness) after that i just tried understand it without questions. Many months later after her stressful scholarship exam she became free like she literally doesn't do anything at her house and was bored so i took the chance to ask her again if i could come to her house maybe we could eat and talk, she agreed immediately so i was shocked but thinking for sometime i thought she was just really bored but our hangout plan keep adding up next week we're going to the gym, hangout and recently talk about swimming because it's summer, am i just delusional??. | Crushes |
So, I have a roommate. She's awesome. And she has a crush on this other guy. A guy friend of ours.
The crush and i are as friends as well, and he had told me in the past, that he kind of had his eyes on a particular girl, but he wasn't sure about his feelings or what she'd feel. I asked him who it was, and he refused to answer.
Fast forward, my roommate confessed to him. But she knew that he didn't like her back, so she made it very clear to him that she isn't looking for a relationship of any kind, she just wanted to tell him. He was really happy that was the case because he didn't want to lose a friend either.
Being her roommate, I shipped my roommate with her crush and told the same to him as well. After sometime, he stopped talking about the mystery girl he's interested in. And he even reconfirmed my roommate's stance on this whole thing, because he said he knew how painful crushes could be......
Then they happened to talk about ideal types......
He said "I like tan short girls who has a pixie cut, loves George Orwell, someone who makes me feel comfortable, and laughs very easily and melodiously"
And......... The thing is...
I'm short.... I'm tan.....I have a pixie cut.... I love George Orwell and he knew that because he was one of the only people I could talk to about that....... And he said that I made him feel very comfortable and that I have a beautiful laugh.
I started feeling a tad bit uncomfortable when he said that.... But my roommate didn't seem to realise anything.... She just said
"ah, even that girl(me) loves tanned guys...."
To which he replied
"I'm tan...."
She replied
"yeah. The both of you will be perfect. Go start a fan club!"
So yeah..... I'm not sure, but I feel like he may have a crush on me 🙄
Or am I just being a narcissist and overthinking this whole thing?
And, I don't have a crush on him. I just didn't know where else to post about this 🤧💔 | Crushes |
Guys idk why but i have like u know some game character make mens horny or worse crush. And i didnt had it for any characters since today, its like i always wanted a rocker girlfriend cuz im playing electro guitar, im listening Rock full day or even when im happy im listening sad songs like marcy. I fell like her sometimes because my parents are terrible too like they accepted that one time while they were on phone, having a life like marcy make me more feel like her, i realy dont know why but i think i have crush on her, im watching adventure time since im a little child and i didnt feel like that,before but 2 days ago when i watched adventure time again, u know. Idk if its normal that feeling like this for fictional characters but i think my next girlfriend will be like marceline. When im watching her scenes i feel im falling down, im passing out. | Crushes |
Today I asked myself what did I do wrong for him to treat me like this. To ignore me and block me. I went through hell for him, losing my parents trust, opening up my shell, facing my trust issues, telling him my childhood trauma only for him to block me. At the beginning of this whole situationship I told him I been through shit with my ex, so tell me your true intentions before I open up to you. I don't like ppl who play games. He told me he want to get to know me and be more than friends. Ok, we start getting closer at this point we are holding hands, hugging, making out, he is coming over to my house. Now all of the sudden he take a trip and he starts treating me like shit hanging up in my fucking face when literally said the day before he left that he wanted to fucking date me that shit don't make no sense. You know I cry when no ones looking so they don't see me at my weak point. I'm so fucking stressed cause he did this of the middle of me getting ready ro move cause of a shitty landlord. Right now I needed him the most, I'm just so fucking drained mentally, emotionally and physically. I have been thinking about what I would do when I see him again. Cuss him out, tell him how I feel, or just don't say nothing at all and give him his shit back. He just gonna be shit out of luck cause when he come back talking about baby I miss you like he always do when we are apart, imma be gone in a different state. Cause he blocked me when I was gonna tell him I was moving in a few weeks not a few months | Crushes |
He tried last night to make plans with our friend group but they couldn’t hang so today i suggested we hang just us two and we decided for the mall. We had a great time and we just walked around the stores and chatted about our lives and what’s going on. Being out one on one with him made me realize how bad I have it for him. But I had so much fun!! I’m trying not to think too hard about anything he may say or do cause it’s funny usually in a group setting we’re always hugging to say hello or goodbye but today we just waved at each other for hello. And he walked me back to my car for me to drive him to his so he put out his fist for a fist bump to say goodbye lol. Which leads me to believe he doesn’t like me back but again, I just enjoy being around him.
My favorite part was looking at the home stuff together cause I was supposed to move out of my family’s house but then things got a little complicated. But anyway we looked at all the stuff I would have been buying and joked about how legos were considered essentials cause how else would you decorate your new place? And it felt so like domestic and cute in a way and at times it felt like us looking at stuff for a place for us. But we had talked before about being roommates as an option to solve our housing issues so it’s not really like /that/ but i still enjoyed it!
So yeah it was a a chill day with him and yeah it’s great when I get the chance to see him! | Crushes |
i really like him but damn am i that unimportant
does he even care 💀
honestly im half convinced he’s just dating me because he wants to know what a relationship feels like
i *wanna* trust him but i dont even know anymore | Crushes |
hi if u were at bixby bridge on jul 9 around 7pm taking pics w a camera on a tripod i was the asian girl w my family | Crushes |
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So, I have a gym crush at an indoor rock-climbing gym, and so far, I haven't asked her out yet. We've been talking to each other in person since March this year. Originally, we would just say "Hey" or "What's up," but around April we began talking even more. We walk around next to each other looking at puzzles, watch each other climb, and offer beta (climbing advice.) She really grew on me, and I was planning on asking her out on a date. My idea for the date was to get ice cream and go for a walk in the park. However, the day I was going to ask, I ended up breaking my fibula... (a bone in the ankle) and had to take two weeks off. We still talk, and she asks how I am doing (specifically my ankle) but I haven't been climbing with her since my incident, and usually just work out at the gym instead of watching her climb. I don't know if asking her out now would still be a good time, or if I should wait for my ankle to heal which may be another 3-4 weeks. I can still walk around with a crutch for a little, until my walking leg and arm start to numb up. Any advice? | Crushes |
I mean... i guess its only special for me, but today we weren't just on that on off conversation, i write, wait hours, she writes, waits hours etc., but she actually didn't only answer but initiated some conversation! And then she sent a selfie:)))))). I mean, I haven't seen her in 5 weeks and still look at old pictures, so that was Dopamine Overdose at it's best! And honestly, as I just really love her personality (she is sooooo cute) i'm really happy if we just have contact :). Just gonna enjoy this right now. | Crushes |
Theres this girl who I have a huge crush on, however she’s very quiet and reserved and I don’t know how to approach this. Can anyone help? | Crushes |
He’s giving mixed signals, but here’s the thing: I am too.
I cant tell if he likes me or not. I really don’t know. It’s driving me crazy and I’m paranoid about it. Because I don’t want to mess up or anything.
He’s amazing. I really like him. It’s so hard to tell if he likes me back though. I’m pretty sure he’s bi, so that gives me hope.
But I really don’t know. | Crushes |
For the longest time he and this one girl have had an on off friend ship but i learned recently that she had a crush on me from the start of the year and i told her that i liked her too and we hit it off from about a month because she wasn’t allowed to date for a year because off her family but her mom looked through her phone and found are messages and she had a giant talk and she’s allowed to date now and we are going on a first date soon
(ignore any typos or grammar mistakes i’m really happy) | Crushes |
Hi i am 14 making 15 in the end of this month.I had recently found this girl on instagram because she was followed by my big sister.She is 16 and lives in the same town but studies in a different school.When i opened her profile and started looking at her photos i instantly got a crush on her she is cute short also plays game just like me.I want to ask for your advice because i dont want to be just random creep who just text random girls and make a fool of myself.She doesnt even know about my existence so yeah.Should i follow her and text her? | Crushes |
# A Letter Addressed to Nobody - July 10, 2022
*Note: All names have been modified for privacy reasons*
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I was lonely back then. It was my first time in a new and stressful environment: a rigorous and competitive private high school in Southwestern U.S.
I didn't fit in. I didn't know who to talk to. I would sit by myself at lunch, as there weren't many people in my grade. It was very isolating. It was Freshman year.
All of a sudden, I met an enthusiastic, fun, and caring upper schooler who introduced me to something awesome: math club.
I wasn't sure how to put it into words, but I loved all the students who were in math club. I didn't even consider myself to be a "math" or "STEM" person. I was a creative-- a visionary, a writer, an artist.
But math? I wasn't that good at it.
Yet somehow, every time I stepped into math club on Friday with these passionate, friendly people, my heart would well up with an inexplicably warm feeling. Was it love? Admiration?
I'm not sure. But I looked up to them in some way, and I distinctly remember saying, "I really like the people in math club. I'm just drawn to them for some reason."
There were two people in my grade who were particularly good at math. One was Chinese: a lanky, extroverted math genius who was incredibly humble, friendly and down-to-earth. His name was Seven Bee.\* The other one was much more quiet, cool, and reserved: a South Indian with an unearthly industriousness and work ethic. His name was Pranav.\*
Although both of these boys came from different backgrounds and had different personalities, they had similar aspirations, world views, and interests. They balanced each other out. They were two peas in a pod. They both loved math tournaments, soccer, and competing each other in games of chess-- challenging and striving against each other-- pushing each other to be their best selves.
But something that frustrated me was the social dynamics of my private high school. It felt like these people were out of reach-- because I wasn't in their clique, their circle. There were various people-- not just these two boys-- that I was *dying* to talk to. I wanted to be their friends!
Yet how could I express my feelings? *"I really think you guys are cool. I really want to hang out with you."* Throughout my high school career, I "crushed" on a dozen students like them-- girls and boys alike-- in a purely platonic sense. I didn't have any romantic feelings for any of them-- only that I admired them from afar, never getting a real chance to befriend them.
But this changed in the beginning of 2020.
It was Junior year now, and I opened the door to the Study Room that was quietly tucked away in the corner of the library. Inside was Pranav and a Senior who were making casual conversation.
Once the Senior left, I was feeling like my usual, normal, friendly self, and sparked a conversation with Pranav.
"Hello Pranav. How was your break?" I asked.
He told me he spent it at home with family, and that his cousins came over. I told him about my own break as well.
It was the simplest conversation ever.
But after that small exchange, something began forming inside my stomach. It felt fizzy, cool, and nice-- like sparkling soda. Like a *crush.*
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"I don't know why," I said to my older cousin, as we carpooled home with her friend, "But I kind of *like* Pranav."
"*Ohhhhhh* Maria\*!" my cousin teased. "*Pranav*? Why now? *Ohhhh.*"
I smiled. "I don't know, we just had a small conversation in the study room. We never actually ever talked before this. I don't even have any classes with him!"
"I wonder what you talked about," my cousin said.
"We just said hello."
"*Hello*? Just that?"
"And talked about each other's breaks--"
"Marry him!" my cousin's friend laughingly urged me. "I would love to marry an Indian! They are rich and make a looooot of money. You chose well Maria! OHHHHH!"
"No no no no!" I panicked. "It's just a small crush. *Really!* I can feel how small it is. It will go away really fast! Like in a week or two!"
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The more time passed, the less exciting things became.
"Hey Pranav," I said.
"Hey," he said back.
Before I knew it, the small crush I had on Pranav sputtered and fizzled away. The fact that I didn't see him for another year due to COVID didn't help, either.
In other words: the soda went flat. No more bubbles.
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I was genuinely convinced that my crush on Pranav went away. Like I said, it was "gone" in one or two weeks. But in reality, my feelings for him were like a dormant volcano: unconsciously building up during Quarantine.
And a year later, when we saw each other in person during the spring of Senior Year, the volcano erupted.
We fell in love.
It was so painfully obvious. We were crazy about each other!
We never held hands, or went on a date, or admitted our feelings for each other.
But we were *synchronized*, and we both knew it.
For example, we would look over our shoulders at the exact same time, and make accidental eye contact.
We had a mutual understanding. We communicated only in the ways we were allowed to-- finding creative loopholes to express things in the most indirect manner. We exchanged gifts and surprises, in the form of foreign words scribbled in yearbooks, Bollywood song lyrics, smiles, or even simple glances.
And then the school year ended. And I didn't hear from him again.
I went onto college in the East Coast and made new friends, and created a new life.
And Pranav was always only an hour away. Coincidentally, he went to college in the same state with me.
We don't have each other's numbers.
We don't even have each other's emails.
All I feel now, God, is this long, drawn-out silence.
*Blink. Blink. Blink.*
God is training my patience.
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**INSTAGRAM -- July 10, 2021 -- Coincidentally, Exactly One Year Ago --**
**Me:** Give me reasons not to like him
**Janie:\*** He's too tall
U guys won't be able to kiss properly
**Me:** BRUH HAVE YOU SEEN HIM STAND NEXT TO SEVEN BEE💀
Seven Bee is tall
Ew I don't like kissing
Not actually but I really don't like it
**Janie:** Omg I'm crying
**Me:** I LIKE HIGH FIVES THOUGH
**Janie:** These are solid reasons tho
**Me:** I could give him all the high fives in the world
**Janie:** Solid
He's too tall
U can't even high five with him
**Me:** Yeah hes a giant compared to me I guess 😂
**Janie:** U might accidentally slap him in the face when u high five
**Me:** BAHAHHAHA
***\*A couple of Instagram messages later\****
**Me:** I also like him because he likes math
I think people who like math are really cool
**Janie:** No way
U love him because he like math
Do u like math?
**Me:** No i hate math
I just admire people who could like math because thats genuinely amazing that someone could like math
**Janie:** Wow there
U dun even like math
**Me:** Nope
**Janie:** But u like someone who likes math
That's so supportive
**Me:** Yes
Yeah I'd be wiling to learn math for him
**Janie:** That's so cute ahahhahaha
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To be truthful, me liking Pranav because "he liked math" wasn't 100% accurate.
There were many people who liked math in my school, so obviously that wasn't the *only* reason.
Do you want to know the real reason my crush started?
It's simple: *there is no reason.*
He wasn't like my other crushes. I could pinpoint an exact reason for why I liked other boys-- perhaps they were blonde, or had blue eyes, or could solve a Rubik's Cube in under thirty seconds.
But here are the original words I wrote in my diary about Pranav, as a testament to you:
*Why do I like him? I don't know. There's no good reason why. I just do. There are boys who are more talented than him, smarter than him, more handsome than him. But the other boys don't interest me. No, not at all. I like* ***him***.
Honest to God, I can't put into words *why* I liked him. I just did! There's no reason why.
Does there have to be a reason?
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In the beginning of college, I started off with an advanced level math class. But after two weeks, I realized it was taking too much of my time, and I wanted to drop it to a lower level.
I lamented over this-- I *wanted* to give more time to math, but it wasn't in my best interest, as my time could be better spent somewhere else.
"Man, I feel so bad that I dropped the math class," I admitted to my friend. "That's why I want to marry a math professor one day."
My friend began to laugh.
"Yeah, that's right." I said. "That way I can hear about math all day long, and make up for me dropping this class."
When I said these words, I felt a little bad, because I had a feeling that Pranav wanted to become a mechanical engineer-- not a math professor! It was like I was betraying him, in a way.
Well, turns out, I was wrong.
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**Text Conversation With Seven Bee,\* July 9th, 2022**
**Me:** Also how is Pranav doing? Haven't heard of him in while either
**Seven Bee:** I think he's doing well, he's doing comp sci research over the summer
He was wanting to be a math professor for a while but now he's thinking about practicing medicine
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I read those two words: *math professor.* I fell down on my bed and began to cry.
*He wanted to become a math professor? I knew he like math. But I didn't know he like math THAT much!*
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Do you ever feel like you want to express to someone how much they mean to you?
But you don't have the words?
Or you just *can't,* because of the circumstances?
Do you ever feel crazy? Or insane? That you're waiting for something that will never happen?
That you have an ocean of words within, but not an ounce of strength to say them?
That's how I feel right now, staring at this blinking cursor, that has been taunting me all this while.
*Blink. Blink. Blink.*
\* \* \*
*It's hopeless, Maria,* I think to myself.
It's just a stupid crush that hasn't gone away. A stupid bug that turned into a stupid love. *He doesn't like you anymore. He moved on, stop liking him!*
*Forget about him!*
Yet even after I stop typing, even after I run out of words to say, even after the cursor of the mouse stops blinking...even after I close the laptop, and shut my eyes, and go to bed...
He's still there.
He's still there.
He's still there.
He hasn't gone away.
I can still see his wonderful expression in my mind. The way his eyes brightened! The way he grinned! The way he smiled with pure joy after I signed his Senior Yearbook with a simple Hindi phrase:
मैं चाहता हूं कि तुम्हे ज़िंदगी में सारी खुशियां मिलें
*I wish you all the happiness in life.*
I had been preparing all weekend. I rigorously trained myself to write Devanagari script until my hands started to ache. I didn't know Hindi. I didn't even know if *he* understood Hindi!
It was all a shot in the dark.
Thank God he was able to read it. Thank God I didn't actually end up skipping school the day they decided to pass out the Senior Yearbooks. Thank God I had a chance to sign his yearbook at the last possible moment, the last possible passing period before the last block of the day.
And when I told my cousin about the yearbook signing, this is what she said:
"Maria, you know how *thoughtful* that is? He's *never* going to forget that. He will remember that for the rest of his life."
But she made this clear to me: the romance between us wasn't meant to be. We were of different religions, ethnicities, and backgrounds.
"It's a sweet memory," another cousin said, smiling. "He will have sweet memories of you, and that's okay. I think it was just meant to be this way, a nice memory from his past. But nothing further. He will move on with his life."
\* \* \*
I'm convinced you've moved on, Pranav. It's been an entire year now. How are you doing at college? Are you still in math club? Do you play soccer? Do you ever miss your family back home? How is your little brother? How is your mom, and your dad?
Are you still there, Pranav? | Crushes |
It was very early , we were with some friends on the city centre and I was shocked and said "Oh my god , I haven't got my pill yet! , I am going to be sad forever" and when she heard that she hugged me and told me "I dont want you to be sad , but if you dont hug me back I will want you to be sad".And I was like , ok , she wants it too!.
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Ive heard that if someone finds an excuse for engaging to hug or do something similar , is a pretty good sign. Is it true ? | Crushes |
Just burned a small note I got from him two years ago. It meant a lot to me, as he prepared quite a sweet way to give it to me. But moving on requires action, so out of my wallet and into the flames it went. The only problem was, there was a drop of water on it, as I decided to burn it in a cup. This way all, but a small part vanished. The part that remained was freaking heart shaped. Universe, don't play with me now! | Crushes |
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Hello, I (m17) like a girl (f18). So it all started when we were in club dancing and in one moment we started kissing. That was like almost two months ago. We didn't talk since that, but she is from my school and almost everytime when we walked pass eachother we were looking at eachother and I'm pretty sure she thinks I'm attractive. She added me two weeks ago on Snapchat and wrote to me: hey handsome, what color are your eyes beside that they are beautiful. Ans I said: haha blue but why. She said: I need to know for some bet with my friends. And I decided to write to her yesterday and don't really know what to write to her since I'm a bit nervous if she likes me or not, so I would be happy for any suggestions. | Crushes |
This story is about two female friend, for rectification. Me, she and crush. Sorry for spelling mistakes.
I had a friend. She was one of the best people in my class for me and did not offend me like the rest. What was strange, when I wrote more honestly with her about "am I weird?" She arranged sentences strangely and indicated that I doesn't fit into any group and I should change. It was very strange for me but it's another story.
Not long ago, maybe a few months ago, she helped me make an meeting with my crush, with whom She is friends (they leave school together, etc.). It was very nice of her.
But around the end of the year, she told me:
"You know, I want to be honest with you and I don't want you to be mad at me, but me and (crush name) aren't just friends anymore."
It blew me off the board very badly. If I remember correctly, I couldn't pick myself up after that. She knew exactly as one of the few people that I liked him very much from the beginning of high school. He is the only one that gives me butterflies in my stomach and this is the first such deep feeling in my life.
I don't know why she said that. I'd rather never hear it and never worry about it.
Sometimes I care more about him that it makes me awkwardly excited at his one touch, or I don't care at all.
Since I noticed how close they are sitting on the benches and talking to each other in general, it scared me more. Another emotional storm rushed in me and I already figured out what this might be about.
And now, when crush, after our meeting, wrote to me that on Sunday he invites this "friend" to a night of horror movies because no one is at home, he has filled me with regret and jealousy to death. I'm also afraid that she will invite him to the prom first, and not me...
I can't learn to control this jealousy, I don't know what to do completely. Do you have something similar and can you give me some advice? | Crushes |
I’ve had a crush on this girl for a while now, she was my lab partner last semester, I didn’t like her straight away though, but as I got to know her I really started to like her a lot, I mean I didn’t and still haven’t found anything I can’t stand about her (maybe other than the rather recent dry spells and no contact). We hung out a couple of times since the semester ended, but I live about 30-40 min away from her and campus so I have a hard time seeing her, though we did hang out a couple of times outside of class. But she has been rather busy with her work and friends, which doesn’t make me feel too good but I only met her a few months ago and her best friends are back in town with her so I can understand. But I still tried to talk to her and I asked her out a couple of times again, but she never had the time, and it started to seem like she didn’t want to talk to me so I gave up trying that and thought I’ll see her again next semester so maybe things will pick up again, but she just texted me after a 2 week hiatus and I was genuinely surprised and she texted me kinda about something random so that boosted my confidence because she still thought of me. But then I responded and she never texted me back, granted my text wasn’t too much to respond to because I didn’t really know how to respond to an observation of something rather mundane, but I’m still really confused, why does she text me if she doesn’t want to talk? | Crushes |
Dream about kissing my crush is is one of the most remembered dreams by far.
He felt so real but I've never kissed before. Maybe I fantasize too much about kisses that are AWAY from reality, but I sincerely hope that someday he will kiss me at least once (more me, but that's a detail). | Crushes |
(She has She/they pronouns)
I have her. They are my girlfriend. And i think it'll last a long time.
I woke up to the most beautiful paragraph i have seen. It spoke about how long she has liked me, and how i have helped them truly feel validated in their transition (trans) and i honestly couldn't feel more appreciated.
I know this is for crushes and not partners but I've still gonna have a huge crush on her. They have been in my life for a long time and a hope they stay too.
- from Lexy's girlfriend
(She ended her parahraph with from your girlfriend ISN'T THAT ADORABLE) | Crushes |
I'm not sure when I should message him or call him though but I'm so excited!!! | Crushes |
Basically I got hurt by this girl and told her it’s best we don’t stay in contact anymore because at the time I couldn’t. But now after a while I feel bad because the root cause of it all was miscommunication and I feel both of us are responsible when it comes to that. I want to reach out and apologize for being immature in the way I handled it. but idk if they even care to hear from me again. I’m also still not over this situation it’s been months. Idk what to do. | Crushes |
basically the title, I'm gonna confess in person and I'm expecting to be rejected so how do I like prepare myself for this, as I am someone who over thinks and is quite emotional. I feel like its gonna plague on my mind for the rest if the summer especially since it will be the first time doing something like this.
I'm just preparing myself for the worst case scenario , which is probably gonna happen | Crushes |
What does it mean when ur crush (girl) logs into her snap on my your phone and she didn’t even remove it does this mean she trusts me or whatever ??? | Crushes |
So, I'm 21 (M) I had a crush on this guy for a while now, but in this past two weeks we spoke like just saying Hi, what shift are you and exchanged names. I am struggling to keep a conversation because I don't want to seem weird or freak him out. He works in a different department and we bump into each other now and again during the day. He eats lunch alone and its abit uncomfortable to just walk to him or follow him and start talking. He's straight but I want to build a friendship first and see from there...
In a nut shell please help... how to I start a conversation with him and not just say Hi, how was your day... with out seeming weird or creepy. I would also like to get this number one day...
All I know about him is that he loves wearing black, he always wear trackpants and a hoodie and he likes stranger things... | Crushes |
That's it ladies and gentlemen. I am just going insane over here. | Crushes |
I love that she has a kid, and I am very happy for her.
For the last 6 months, I've developed a massive crush on her. I am 50/50 on whether I know she feels the same way. I think she also likes me, just from everything we do when we see each other at her work.
Should I continue this crush? | Crushes |
Title pretty much. I met a girl on a dating app like a week ago, and we have been playing switch games together like every night. We seem to get along really well such but here is the catch. We are both kinda slightly awkward people from what I gather. I mean she had awkward in her bio lol. So I’m kinda struggling to like flirt and a guess cement where we stand. I really like her so far and have caught some feelings. We are going ice skating on Wednesday as well so there may be some opportunities there as well. It really doesn’t help that I’m not super experienced with this so I guess I just need help flirting mostly. Cheers, thank you!
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Hello there. My name is Marvin and I am a 21 year old dude from Germany. Ther is this girl I really get along with. We have the same kind of Humor, a similar Taste in music, TV Shows, movies... lets just say we have a lot in common. The class we're in is part of our vocational training and we just met last year in September when the class started. I didn't had a crush on her since recently ( maybe 1½/2 month back). We went swimming last week at a lake with a few friends of me and her and then they talked about guys who where around if they where cute and would be a nice Match. And then my crush descriped a guy which also could be me. And one of her friends mentioned that I couldnt see her reaction or I dont remember it but I was curious so I pretended, that I only heard my name and asked what they where talking about so her friend explained it to me, that they saw that guy ,which my crush thought looked cute, who's description would fit me etc.
but the the girl I had a crush on responded that she couldn't imagine something with me because I remind her to much of other guys from her past.
And that made me really inconvenient. I thought for a few days, that I had no chance. But then we sended each other really often messages and voice messages like over a hundred a day for 3 days. Which gave me a boost. Now the weekend was a bit less exciting. We wrote daily but not nearly as much as before. So I don't know what to do now. I still feel unsure because of the day we where swimming. What should I do? Oh and btw. I celebrate my birthday next month (28th of August) and she will be there too. I dont drink alcohol and it looks like a good opportunity to maybe ask her out or should I keep going like right now and just get closer step by step?
Btw. I only had a crush on one other person before when I was like 17 which I didn't asked till this day (dont have a crush on her since I am 19.) So yeah never was in a relationship and I have no clue what I am doing. | Crushes |
so since about an week school has finished, and my crush and i were at a festival togheter today one week ago and before school was over she once mentioned that she needs to buy some stuff for a vaccation with her family and she did so now i tink shes on vaccation but my friend lives close to her and says that her lights were on and that all the cars were there she also has a new number since last week so i havent spoken to her what can i do to contact her or what do i do if you have questions i can explaine everything | Crushes |
I love her so much, I love her that much that I could kill myself for her, I could give her my heart if she needed. I love texting with her, if I could do only 1 thing forever then I would just text her forever. She is super sweet, funny. I just love her so much
But i hate my self. Not cuz im ugly, not cuz I dont have perfect body. I have my self cuz I love her. I hate myself for texting her everyday. She likes to ask me some questions, and if she would ask me what I like and hate then I would say what im saying here. I hate loving her, I hate myself for loving her beautiful smile I could look at for hours, I hate hate myself for loving her perfect brown eyes.
Most of it all I hate myself for thinking that one day she will text me that she loves me. I know it wont happen but i hope it will. I am addicted to her. I tried many Times to forget about her, to stop texting to her, but I cant, cuz I think that she will forgot about me and conection we have.
The funniest thing is that she maybe love me. She is very sweet to me, she is always happy, she likes texting to me (she told me that many times). She send me her pics and I send her mine. I think we got great, even amazing connection.
But I cant feel love. Maybe its some yk trauma of being the oldest brother and of that, that my parents havent care about me. I feel i love her, but I cant feel that anyone love me. If I say to someone i love her then I know its truth I can feel it, but when someone would say to me that (no one ever did that lmao) I wouldnt believe it, for me it would be just dumb words that someone just said not knowing what they mean.
All I want is to her anserwing faster, and her starting conversation, and to tell me that she loves me. I would be happiest guy on entire earth if it would happen, but it wont.
And I hate myself for thinking that it will happen
Pls tell me what I can do, or can I do smth | Crushes |
i’m feeling a little lost rn. I’ve grown up super fast and was dating guys way older than me, doing things i shouldn’t have been doing at my age, moving out at 16, etc. someone took me in about a year ago, and in march at my job i met the first person i ever fell in love with.
he was a little younger than me, and taught me a lot. our relationship was something i’d never had before, it was all new and innocent and exciting. he always looked out for me and gave me advice when he saw that i needed it, he was playful and funny and always knew what to say and it came to him so easily, like he wasn’t even trying. the time we spent together meant so much to me & i changed and grew because of him. he taught me that i didn’t have to do anything i was uncomfortable with to have a relationship and i was so grateful. the whole time neither of us confessed that we liked eachother though, so it was just a drawn out crush.
until i got kicked out. i was planning on moving states (26 hrs by car) at the end of the summer, around october. my friends who i was moving with just got a place down there last week. So i ended up having to move within the week. i only got to work one last shift with him and he drove me home afterwards, and i finally asked if he knew i liked him the whole time. he said he did and that he really liked me too, but he didn’t want to start something that messed with work. we said our goodbyes and the next day i got on the plane to leave.
i don’t feel like i’ll ever be able to get over him right now. he meant so much to me in the short time that i knew him, and his impact on me as a person was huge. he doesn’t know this. i don’t know how to get over it, as i feel i wont find someone like that ever again. he meant the world to me and he was there when i needed him most.
i know i should just be thankful for everything he taught me & the time he spent with me, but i just can’t leave it like this. how can i get over him? i’m not ready for him to not be in my life anymore but i’ve already been in my new state & new house for a week. i don’t have the money to go back and i know that’s not what’s best for me as i was in a toxic situation when i lived down there but i desperately want him. if you have any suggestions please let me know. dating apps aren’t the same & i just don’t want anyone else | Crushes |
I don't know how to say it... Where to start?? Let's start from the beginning of all this... Lets go back 5 years ago When i(22M now) first saw her...she was absolutely gorgeous. She was sitting in the front row of class and so was I. Throughout the day I couldn't think of anything else but her. Her curly black hair and her sparkling eyes...she is the most beautiful thing I ever saw( though many of friends disagreed with my view.. But to me she was a beauty bomb). At night i couldn't sleep because I kept thinking of her. (and all the thought of talking to her... enjoying hot tea in a cold weather with her...Givin her the best of me and whatnot...). I said to myself that it's normal...i will forget her. Its just hormones... But i was going to be wrong and in the most painful way. Days went by... Months went by... 2 Years went by... But my feelings for her grew stronger and stronger. I would woke up in the middle of the night and the first thought that I had was of her. But I was afraid to confess to her. I wasn't as attractive as she was. I was shy. I had low self Esteem at that time. I was a MESS!! But I wanted to tell her my feelings so bad. But then something very strange happened. She stopped coming to classes. It worried me. And my heart was sinking with strange thoughts day by day. But after a week or so i heard something that broke my heart. I can't forget that day. It rained heavily that day and stood numb for hours in shade of a tree... Thinking what i had missed. She left the city because she got accepted into top college of my country. My chances of getting into that college were zero to none. I couldn't possibly afford that college. But i did my best and got accepted into 2nd best college of my country( i also got accepted for 100% tuition fee scholarship) . I, too, left that city. Now we were hundreds of miles away from each other. I lost all those opportunities to confess to her. I started therapy at that time because I felt that needed it. I was diagnosed with depression and Social anxiety disorder. Now after four years of therapy(every week!!) and multiple visits to psychiatrist, i m finally getting better. I m much more stable now. Though i feel like this battle is lifelong but now I know how to cope with it. College life made me more confident. I m a better and a skilled human now. I have improved a lot over these 4 years. Through all these years, i couldn't forget her. She was away but she was always in my thoughts. Over these years I have been staking her on social platforms( what a creep i am) but she hasn't posted a single post on any social platform in the last four years. I thought of spending a long text to her explaining everything but i feel like she isn't there.
Yesterday, i saw her Twitter account and she posted a picture of her there and a few tweets(about two weeks ago).
And now i don't what should I do?? Should I tell her?? But i don't know if she is in a relationship or not..
I feel like i finally have a chance to say to her about my feelings but I don't know what to say to her...she might not like me or she might get upset because of my confession...its been four years and she might not know who am I?? There's a lot going on in my head and I can't seem to navigate what's good thing to do here??? | Crushes |
Sorry for the title, but I couldn’t explained myself. To give some context I’ve known this girl for a long time and in the past we hooked up several times. Fast forward to this year in which she broke up with her bf and now she is single. Mind you I too was on a relationship while she was with her bf. We basically broke up almost at the same time. My ex broke up with me and after 2 weeks she broke up with her bf.
Our relationship between us is weird and idk if it’s my stupid brain, but I feel some kind of sexual tension with her.
So yesterday I didn’t had a date with her, but we went to a house party, and after that we went to a rave. We went only the both of us and yea I didn’t know how to see if she would wanted to hook up or something. I got the vibe, but I didn’t wanted to come off douchey. I tried to flirt with her but yea idk I’m not very good with social cues.
Cause I really like this person I wouldn’t like to lose a friend also.
So I need advice on what should I do. | Crushes |
it’s as the title says, i’ve been ignoring my crush. the whole reason i’ve been this way with him this past week-ish? and i feel like absolute shit about it. lemme give you all a little bit of background, so you can better understand WHY I’m ignoring him. so my crush and I have been friends for a few months now, due to a random seating arrangement from my teacher a few months back. we talked a bunch in class and eventually I ended up asking him for his Instagram, initially as friends. After a while (a weekend), I realized that all my feelings for my old crush had dissipated, and that I really liked this guy. So naturally, I wanted to talk to him as much as possible, so that’s what I tried to do. I texted him daily to every other day, but he never replied consistently. One day you could have a 3 hour long conversation, the next you’re left on seen for 2 weeks. Naturally I absolutely hated this, but I powered through until just about a month ago. Now if you look onto my page, he hasn’t been exclusively ignoring me as we’re great friends now and have hung out outside of school before, and our friendship has definitely grown since we first started talking. Anyway, back to a month ago. I got really tired of him being hot and cold to me, and me just being hot all the time, if that makes sense. So, I confronted him (via text) and we both shared our sides of the story. In his own words, “Whenever you dm me ill respond, but sometimes my brain just self implodes and i just have no idea how to respond to anything and eventually just close the app.” We talked a bit more about it, mainly me expressing that I truly enjoyed talking to him when I could, but that I absolutely hated his inconsistent replies. That… changed almost nothing, to say the least. He responds every time I text him, but he just doesn’t uphold conversations. Now obviously I know he’s not obligated to devote every second of his life to me, nor do I want him to, but it just sucks to put forth all this effort into a friendship/crush that I only get “good” things out of once in a while. So anyway, that brings you up to speed to this last week. I, once again, got annoyed of him just disregarding everything I say and ignoring me, so I, in turn, have been giving him the same treatment. I know it’s not helping my case at ALL, but I just have no clue what to do and I’m so, so lost about this. I haven’t been completely, flat-out ignoring him, but I’ve been holding back more on replies. For example, we both have each other added on tiktok, and send each other videos. Usually I would send him every single video I found entertaining, and he’d send me 1-2 and not respond to them. So instead I’ve been sending him 1 tiktok every time he sends me 2. Once again, I know this isn’t helping me at all and it’s really, really immature. Another thing is whenever he would text something in our friendgroup groupchat, I’d be the first one to reply. I’ve stopped replying to him in the groupchat unless he directly addresses me, which isn’t terrible, but he’s definitely caught on. Whenever I did this to him in the past, which was twice, he would send me a bunch of messages like multiple tiktoks in a row (at one point, 17 over the course of a day.) Or, he would bring up something I talked about a few weeks ago to gauge a response out of me. I don’t take any pride or enjoyment from ignoring him, as it literally sickens me to my stomach, but I just don’t know what to do. I’m afraid to confront him because I feel like I slightly strained our friendship after confronting him the last time, and by not talking to him as much these past few days. If anyone has any advice, please help and thank you for reading this far! | Crushes |
On insta
She started following me
What next | Crushes |
I've had a crush on this guy for months now and before I was too afraid to even say anything but over these past few days I've gone a major confidence boost and I'm finally going to talk to him today. I spent the whole entire morning laughing out loud about the whole situation. It just seemed so crazy to me how set I was on doing this. I feel like if I don't tell him now I never will. Everyone keeps encouraging me saying that it's gonna go good for me so I'm believing them. I'm gonna keep you guys updated on how it goes. | Crushes |
We are both 16 and live close to each other and she is a quite Mexican girl that is very pretty how do I become like friends with her need advice. | Crushes |
I want that person to notice me once more. I really feel this person already forgot about me. | Crushes |
Me and My Crush are getting along very well, and things seem to be looking up. I even managed to hang out with her a few times.
But this is what I don't understand. Me and her are getting along well, but whenever I leave our work, or i'm done texting her or something, i feel this overwhelming sense of sadness overtaking me. Like, they day could be perfect, but whenever everything is over, i feel like a part of me is missing. I've been on the verge of tears all morning just thinking about this. I think I really just miss her. Or maybe I'm just being immature, idk.
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But if everything is looking so great for me, why do I feel this way? Why do I feel sad over something that I should be happy over instead? | Crushes |
He didn't even try to get to know me. He just immediately cut it short. He didn't even text me himself; I had to hear it from a friend of his. In fact, for the first time in so long, I texted first, having hope it will go well, and it's not like I said something offensive, I typed a simple hey. He didn't reply, and on top of all, I asked him if he wants to maybe be friends. He rejected me there as well, claiming he didn't want to "do something stupid" or "he has given up on love" while I a week or so before we followed each other, he had tried with another girl.
I feel so bad now. That's the 5th rejection in a row for me, and I honestly can't take it. My confidence is under the ground at this point, I'm crying almost every day, I find more and more reasons why someone wouldn't like me...a bad habit I also picked up is comparing myself to girls around me. Skinnier, prettier, hotter if you will. I'll never be my crush's perfect one because I don't fit into society's unrealistic stereotype. And that's the god damn truth. | Crushes |
Why do I have a crush on a nurse. It could be a guy from college but nope a nurse. Why. And the last time I had him as a nurse was back in February but I haven’t washed my hair in a week and my clothes were randomly picked. Pls help | Crushes |
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like it’s just so genuine and full and happy i love it sm | Crushes |
ok so, ive known him for 2 years and we were together for a while, but then some people in the friend group i met him in pressured him to get in a relationship with another person and yeah- scarred both of us- ANYWAY now its been a loooong while since that and i still love themmmmmm soooo im planning to make a gift for his birthday like a big thing that i started to make like yesterday even tho his birthday is in January and ask him the big questionnnnn
yepz plz wish me luck :'> | Crushes |
I work at this company in Austin and every time it’s lunch I leave to go the Whole Foods to grab a pizza or a smoothie. So one time I go during to get a smoothie and I saw the most beautiful girl I’ve seen in a long time, and I wanted to ask her for her number or if maybe she’ll like to have lunch with me one day. But I don’t know how to really approach her because the smoothie place she works at in the Whole Foods is busy during lunch time but I also don’t want to pass up the opportunity even if she tells me that she has a boyfriend I at least know I tried. Every time I see her it just makes my day 100x better. I don’t know guys should I do it or just keep it pushing? | Crushes |
I go to the same church as my crush and he usually sits at the front while I sit in the middle row. Today he was unusually glancing back a lot my way. I sat 2 rows behind him but there was nobody in the row in front of me. He was touching his neck and turned his neck around and looked towards my direction but I didn't check if he was looking at me directly because I didn't want to act like I cared. He did this not just once but several times during service so I'm wondering if he was trying to look at me. Then when service ended he turned his whole body around and looked at me. What does this even mean? I'm a little confused since he never did that when I sat a few rows behind him.
I'm also in the same cell group as him for our youth group and he was fidgeting around a lot with his hands. We sit in a circle and I sat next to him (unintentionally) He usually does not fidget at all.
Also we are friendly with each other and do exchange greetings and goodbyes but today he told me to get home safely instead of the usual goodbye. | Crushes |
DDoes it mean anything if your crush says "get home safely" instead of the usual bye? I'm not exactly close with him, just friendly since I'm close with his older sisters. He never says that so it threw me off. I might just be over-reading it but I CAN'T STOP THINKING ABOUT IT | Crushes |
Okay so I have a new crush and I think he's flirting with me but I would like some outside views on it.
So we have met up a few times and I guess we are sort of familiar because we are old childhood bestfriends (we haven't seen each other for several years up til now though). We get along well.
He is a little bit touchy and it feels like flirting, he grabbed onto my hand to drag me into the water while laughing at me and has put his arm around me to turn me around. He always walks close to me and our shoulders are always brushing against each other and turns and looks down to me when talking to me (I am a good deal shorter than him). He also let me smell the shirt he was wearing so I could smell his cologne and when I was smiling widely, he was smiling widely while looking at me. I catch him staring at me quite a bit, resulting in a, "What?" "What?" Back and forth.
He also made fun of me when I told him about how much of an asshole my old crush was and constantly teases me about anything, including my height most often. | Crushes |
Months ago when I was walking in the corridor of my school there was always an open door to a classroom, and I noticed a beautiful girl, with black hair, brown eyes and a look that gives you goosebumps. Every time I passed we exchanged glances, but my thought had always been to know his name. I found her on Instagram, followed her but she didn't reciprocate, even if that's not the point. I would like to know in your opinion how I should move to try, because at least a no would make me feel better than doubt for life. | Crushes |
i wish i never said anything to you. i wish i just kept my mouth shut and pretended that i was into you. i wish i just… didn’t. now, we don’t talk as much. we don’t hang out as much. even though we both like each other that way, i still wish i never said anything.
cause now i don’t exist anymore. | Crushes |
Yesterday I went to a June party (which is a Brazilian cultural party) and there was this "famous" elegant mail, which you send an anonymous letter (in the shape of a heart) usually to a crush or even to friends, so I decided to send it one for my crush. And with the help of a friend, I wrote things like "Haven't you noticed that I like you?" (Since we BOTH have been showing more affection towards each other) And when he received it, I was with him. (And I played stupid right, because no one around us knew it was me who had wrote that) and said "jeez, who do you think it's from?" And he said he thought it was from a girl he thought was pretty (which is a girl who he doesn't even know the name) and in the inside, I was like: "wtf are you blind?????????" But my expression was just "🤡🤡🤡" noice. | Crushes |
I'm (17 non-binary) and I've been friends with (I'll call her S) for over five years. We get along well and never had any major problems. Anyway she has a brother (H) two years older than S and I. We've become friends along the way, and somehow bond more on an emotional level that I don't quite have with S. I went camping with S's family and H and I talked for over three hours about all these random topics while everyone was asleep. It was fun and easy to talk with him. Recently though my thoughts have consisted of him which has resulted in quite a few sleepless nights. At first I ruled it off as me just being conscious of his presence because I don't really want a crush right now. It's inconvenient since I'm graduating and leaving to another town in a few months. I will mention that I've seen him staring at me or notice it and just ignored it to continue talking to S. He's also said certain things that have made me question whether he likes me or not, including some flirting. I notice it but ignore it because I've always been told liking or dating a friends brother isn't a smart choice. I treasure the friendship I have with S so currently I just need advice on how to get over a crush so I can get over it quicker rather than later. | Crushes |
Got her number, did some messages, etc etc. Same college, different class. She's like really beautiful.
I(18) don't show I have a crush on her, I don't linger around her too much; yet I feel she's knows.
She's amazing.
It also seems that I have competition because I told you she's fairy and also puts work in her studies(which I do too, so no problem there). And others get to talk more and spend more time with her😢
Whenever I message her, I keep it brief, so that she doesn't get annoyed.
If anything else to be told, ask me.
**Any tips? ** | Crushes |
A little bit of back story, so at the beginning of the semester me and the bois as you know where checking out the girls and i saw this girl who i instantly fell in love with
After school i asked for her insta and she suprisingly gave it to me, after talking for a month we started to appearently flirt, idk man i was oblivious,
And then i mustered up the courage to ask her weather she'd like to watch a movie with me AND AGAIN SHE SAID YES as you can tell i was freaking out
Anyways so the appearently flirty conversations continued, and by that point i has mustered up enough courage to think of a day to ask her out
But SUPRISINGLY ENOUGH WHEN I WAS GOING TO ASK HER OUT SHE INSTEAD ASKED ME OUT
only my 2 bsf knew that i had a crush on her or so i thought.. THE ENTIRE FREAKING CLASS KNEW ?
Anyways i am super happy rn | Crushes |
(17M)
TL;DR at bottom
Although she hasn't told me upfront, I can already assume that I've been rejected by the fact that she takes an hour or longer to reply to my messages, went online but ignored my messages, and never initiated a convo of her own. She has been really polite and friendly with the messages she's sent, but the delayed responses (and sometimes lack of a response) make me want to go cry in a corner.
I've been coping in the last couple of weeks by myself, hoping that things would eventually get better and I would find someone else. But today, I made a GRAVE mistake.
I accidentally looked at her pfp on Instagram.
She looked absolutely stunning. As if she was having the joy of her life on her vacation.
Now that I've seen it, I can't unsee it. It makes me want to get false hope that she might still have a crush on me, and want to chat with me. It makes me want to try talking to her again, no matter how idiotic that may sound.
Part of me just wants to confess. Get it done with. Get an answer conclusively. End all my worrying.
But common sense tells me that it would just make the problem worse. She's just been friendly with me so far, and the chances of her liking me back as more than a friend are almost 0. I would have to be a fool to continue to pursue someone who has already showed their lack of interest.
It hasn't really helped with my depression either. Every time I think of her, I feel like just crying in a corner. About how the girl of my dreams would go out with someone else, and I would be left in the dust. About how all my hopes were crushed.
I really don't know what to do man. It feels terrible being in this state where I can't decide between either thing. I don't want to end up looking like an idiot who's desperate for a gf, neither do I want to pass up a potential opportunity to form bonds with someone who may like me back.
I really need some advice 😔
TL;DR Looked at my crush's pfp on Insta and got false hope that she likes me again. Don't know whether to pursue or continue the painful task of moving on. | Crushes |
She’s not my 1st crush ever, but she’s one I confessed my infatuation to. I think she was initially interested and we went out a few times. Long story short, she says she needs time and that she is emotionally numb.
I dunno what to do now. I actually really like her. I dunno if I should message her or not. | Crushes |
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Fuck. Please let me move on. I hate you so much but I cant let you go, i literally love you or some shit. Youre an amazing friend but i hate that i cant treat you like a normal fucking friend. If i told you this right now you'd literally say "okay". You never put any effort in our friendship and im so sick of watching you just say hi to me and then happily greeting a girl bsf. Sometimes i wish i never fucking met you. I liked you since middle school. I know YOU want to be let go too. im so sick of being disappointed and crying because the picture i painted of you in my head wasn't reality.
I waste all my fucking tears and energy on you and I cant cut you off. You've done nothing wrong. I have nobody to blame but me. i hate you so so much, im literally crying writing this. we never even dated. I hate the fact you know i like you aswell. im sorry i have to be the girl who has some weird obsession with you. I dont wanna love or care about you anymore. youre my fucking friend and thats it. what the fuck
im probably gonna be emotionally bound to you forever and i hate it. i know you don't exactly like me either but you dont hate me. fuck you and i have nobody to be mad at but me | Crushes |
TLDR will be at the bottom .
I think I really like this guy. And not even in the cliche highschool way. Like, I respect him and I want to be apart of his life and grow with him. I want to be there for him and vice versa. I want to make sure he's ok.
Last year, February, after maybe a few months of knowing him I think, I told him I liked him. Because I did. I was mainly unsure of if I liked him as a friend or as more than a friend though.
He told me that "I don't know what to say. No-one's ever told me they liked me before. I think you're a good person but I don't think of you the same."
Naturally I was kind of crushed but we continued being friends.
It's only a year lately that I've been worried. Cause I think I really do like him. But I've told him once before and I don't want him to think I only like him because he's a crush or whatever. I don't want to him to believe I don't value our friendship. Because I really do. I've ... Thought of him in ways I worry would upset him. Thoughts I haven't had consent of his to think of him like that.
Friends have been telling me to tell him again. That he's probably thinking "She liked me a year ago. There's no way she'd like me now".
He liked to call me when he was drunk and we'd chat for hours. We called so much I don't think I've been happier and valued our time more. To my knowledge, he only called me when he was drunk. He would go away from everyone so no-one was around too. We talk about everything and nothing. He has told me he "treasures the time we spend together" and that "time spent with [me] is time well spent". He talks to me about his family sometimes. He remembers small things I tell him on a whim. He is kind and gentle but still funny and a good cunt /pos. I worry he might not like me back though. He's ... I don't know. I worry he treats me like friends do. And that I've already told him I like him, wouldn't he be the one to tell me if he liked me? I worry that I'm nothing more to him than a good friend. And that telling him will do that thing where girls find out a guy is only friends with them because they want to sleep with them. I don't want him to feel like that or me to cause that. Because it's not "I want to fuck you so I'll pretend to be your friend." It's "I've been your friend and .. I think I like you more than anyone. I'd like to be apart of your life, if you want me to. I've seen you and I think you're... Fantastic. Inside and out. I'd be ok if you don't like me that way but I'm happy as long as you're ok and happy."
I think he might not even like me like that and I'm too caught up in a beautiful fantasy to see he only thinks of me as a friend.
But regardless, lately he's been distant. I really really really want to be there for him. I want to help. Even if not in a romantic way but as a friend. I haven't seen him at the last 2 friend group meet ups. Someone as a throw away comment said to go to his house instead. I really hoped we would. I would have rather driven an hour to go to his house than watch a stupid movie anyway.
I worry he's depressed. I want to see him. To talk to him. Keep him company. It's important to be around friends and loved ones during hard times. Romantic or platonic, I really want to go and see him. I miss him. And it doesn't help that he's leaving soon. Off to work down south.
I've been told I should tell him I like him. But as I worry he's depressed, I'm worried this isn't a good time. If I visit him and tell him and he hurts... I really like him but I don't want to hurt him. Ever. At all. I'd rather die than actually hurt him.
But, should I? I really want to try but I don't ever want to ruin what we have. I really do think that ... We'd be good together. But there's too much at stake. So I'm asking for an outsiders opinion. No bias. No pressuring me to get with him because I like him. Just facts.
TLDR; A guy I like I think likes me back. I've been told to tell him but I think he's becoming depressed and I don't want to make him think I only am around him because I like like him. And he is going to leave soon for possibly 6 months. Do I tell him? In person? | Crushes |
My crush and I talk at least for two hours a day, today she was venting to me about her friends and she said I’m probably the closest thing she has to a real friend and that she feels like she can be herself when she’s around me. I said that the feelings mutual and she said she’s glad i feel the same way. Did i get friend-zoned?
Edit:changed it to two hours | Crushes |
Hi subreddit- I have been a lurker for a long time but never posted! Thanks for all the times you gave me comfort by being able to look at your stories and successes!!
I met this guy recently and we've been texting a lot and he started saying a lot of suspicious things like sending red hearts or calling me "beautiful". I don't know how I feel about him since we haven't known each other for long but I know that when he does it, it makes me anxious even though he's probably the kindest person I've ever been friends with, and given enough time, I might have liked him. I've been trying to indicate that I just want to be friends but I was thinking of calling him to let him know how I feel (that I don't know what to feel but I don't feel the same way and I don't want to lead him on or waste his time if he's only looking for a romantic relationship). I don't know if I'm being too forward about this or acting too quickly/assuming especially since we haven't been talking for long but I wanted to know if it was better to act now rather than to regret it later. I'm worried it will ruin our friendship or I will like him later down the line but I don't want to be selfish.
TLDR: Met a guy, don't know how to feel, want to call to let him know how I feel? Don't know what to do. | Crushes |
Lately he has been calling me by "baby" in most of our conversations while looking deeply in the eyes and always touches my arms or hands while talking. He's been also wanting to "teach me how to dance" in every opportunity he has. I give some signs as well and I am so close to confess to him but I'm too scared of things going wrong. | Crushes |
I feel like everyone else is taken, that i’ll never find someone | Crushes |
She keeps leaving me on opened, she doesn’t try to talk to me, I know she won’t like me. I think I need to move on from her | Crushes |
It’s really hot today so I told her that I’d love to go swim (I’m on a swim team). This is where I then ask her if she’s doing any sports. She responds with “yeah”.
How do I respond to this without sounding pushy or desperate? | Crushes |
So i bought my crush a necklace. To understand the situation we've been, i can't really say dating but rather going out with each other for quite a while now, and i'm not sure whether she likes me or not. I'm seeing her in a few days and i don't exactly know how i should give it to her in a way that is cute and preferably not weird... | Crushes |
my crush (m26) who is also my (f20) private teacher is always making prolonged stares at me. It happens to us a lot that we end up looking into each other’s eyes and I don’t know why I can feel intensity while that happens. It’s like I’m trying to focus on his face but it’s like blur and intense. After I called my dog to come near me I returned my head to the screen and he was staring at me already with a little smile and his eyes like lingered at me like shiny and stuff.
Why does it happen everytime? and he also recorded our lessons… | Crushes |
She and i mostly only talk online..so would it be okay if i just randomly started ignoring her texts? Should I give her an explanation? I mean it's not her fault at all..she's already got a boyfriend so I'm trying to move on. | Crushes |
It's been 2 days and a lot has happened.
I told L like I said I would and I also told him something else very personal (if you want to know then dm me) and he was understanding of both.
I told someone else who I'll call S both things and she supports me for one and asked me who it was I had a crush on but at that point I still didn't know her name. I told S a description of her and they said they think they knew her name, Elysia.
I mentioned it to L and they were good friends in primary school and confirmed that she is called Elysia.
In all my other posts I've mentioned someone named Kelly who I had a crush on but my feelings for her have faded and I only like Elysia now.
I am going to put something in your hands. I have another friend who I'll call C who I'm debating telling about my new crush. If you comment on this post then please put yes or no at the end of it, I'll leave it for a week and whichever has more votes is what I will do.
If you've read this far then thank you for taking the time out of your day to read what I have to say. | Crushes |
I have a crush on my friend but she’s in a happy relationship and she lives in another country so there’s no chance of anything happening. I’m happy that she’s happy but at the same time I am envious of her bf. I think she’s the most incredible person and the times I’ve spent with her have been awesome. She’s one of the few people I’ve ever met that have really understood me. I know I’m not her type and that even if she was single she wouldn’t see me in a romantic way. I guess I’m just really bummed out that I never had the chance to tell her how I feel and even if I did, nothing could have happened because of the long distance. Anyways, I hope I can get over this soon. | Crushes |
ok this is as much a vent as it is an update because wow i am so confused.
context, ive been crushing on the singer in my band for the past 3 months now. the band met and formed through this music camp/studio for teens and kids back in late march.
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**TL;DR**: this post is written kinda weirdly because i started writing it this past tuesday night, right after i told her about my feelings. but its saturday now, and ive had time to think on it. my feelings have gone from confusion to almost complete regret. she didn't reject me, she said she'd be open to something, but her response still has me feeling unsure and scared of everything we have falling apart, namely our friendship and the band. i finally have something good going in my life and there just might be a chance i ruined it entirely. plus i'm starting to realize that because of my wack ass mental stuff, i may not actually know how to love another person.
**ACTUAL POST**:
so good news, i guess, i confessed. this shit had been driving me crazy and i'm glad i've finally got that part over with. it was like ripping off a band-aid, just shut the brain off and did it. i tried to be very chill and casual about it. it was something along the lines of "hey i like you, if you wanna go out and do something sometime, that'd be cool, but if you wanna just stay friends, that's also cool." but her response has left me so utterly confused and feeling every single emotion at once.
basically, her response was a maybe. she appeared very flustered and taken aback by it, which looked like it could be either a good or bad thing. she looked like she was blushing under her hat but i couldnt really tell, and it mightve just been her makeup. she also didnt keep eye contact for very long. could be an indicator she likes me back or could be embarrassment/she doesn't want to be seen by me but hey thats probably just me overthinking it.
she then said something about her not viewing herself as "the first person in the picture." and i had no idea what she meant by that. i probably should've asked, but we were kinda pressed for time and i guess i just didn't think about it in the moment. my guess is that's some sort of insecurity/self-esteem issue she's talking about but i can't know for sure. that phrasing is very odd. she then went on to say, kinda tentatively, that she would be open to it. she did mention that her friend is setting her up with someone, but she didn't rule me out.
i made it abundantly clear as we spoke that i was totally fine if she just wanted to stay friends, because i'd hate for any awkwardness between us to occur and ruin our friendship and/or the dynamic we have in our band. i'm so happy with what we have as a band and it'd kill me for the band to lose steam based on some weird relationship thing happening. to me, she'd always seemed mature and civil enough to be able to share that view and move on if things appeared that way. and for the most part, i do think she is. i even said that exact thing to her, that i don't want some awkwardness to occur and ruin what we have as a band, and she said she agreed.. but man, based on her response, i'm not sure how able we would be to move on and salvage the band if things got weird like that.
and lately i've been thinking even more about what i actually want from this or if i made the right choice. maybe i just acted off lust and i didn't really know what i was feeling/wasn't thinking logically. or maybe if we do try something, i'll remember that because of my stupid brain and semi-functional emotions, i don't think i actually know how to love someone. and based on her weird comment about how she saw herself, coupled with that aspect of me would make for a pretty difficult relationship to make work. i'm actually tempted to text her and tell her to forget i said anything, because maybe that would keep the band together and stop me from getting hurt by her/hurting her later. i almost hope that things work out with the other person she's being set up with, because then i won't have to deal with managing my own emotions and, in turn, the band isn't at risk.
idk, the more i think about it, the more i'm really scared that i made the wrong choice. maybe i should've waited or just never done it at all. but i can't change it now. she knows.
this summer will be interesting. | Crushes |
So, I made a post here about a ukranian girl I met. We've been out twice already. And well, last night after I walked her home, she kissed me. Taking me by surprise. I've learned some Russian and she has learned English for me as well. And well after the moment passed, she said in the best english she could "I love you, since I saw you". I just froze as she embraced me, I told her that I'll see her soon. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad there's an attraction to each other. But is it possible to love someone after you just meet them for a few days? Especially when you barely speak the same language?
I mean...When we've been enjoying each others company but only for a short time. I'm afraid if I cave and admit my feelings that I'm developing, that maybe I won't meet her expectations. Mostly cuz I'm a starving Uni Student right now and I've got little to offer. Could her feelings be real? Is it just infatuation? Or some underlying thing could be going on? | Crushes |
As the title says, I think I'm confessing on Monday the 4th of July. I haven't decided when but I surmise it will be in the morning. I'm hopeful but prepared for the absolute worst. Wish me. luck. | Crushes |
Hi there,
I've managed to put together and convey all my thoughts into one message. If anyone wants to help me out and tell me how to edit it in order to make it sound better DM me. The confession is quite long. | Crushes |
Sorry it's just been bugging me lately. I've had someone(a crush) shame people and their friends(myself included) for communicating with them too often(like, once a day or every few days) since they were having trouble keeping up(I get it, it happens). I understand getting mad at WAY too much communication but this feels a bit 🚩 to me as someone who values communication. I dont mind that frequent messaging overwhelms her but for her to complain about people before she even SETS the boundaries rubs me the wrong way. | Crushes |
for context, i do a youth program in aus called cadets. this guy started coming to cadets around the start of the year, one of his sibblings run it. I dated someone about a year ago, they were quite abusive and i haven't let myself have feelings for anybody since because i was scared. when i met this guy at cadets i thought he was really nice. he had/has such a good sense of humour and knew how to make me laugh pretty fast. his smile lights up a room. i only realised how much i like him recently, but i feel bad. we haven't known eachother very long and I don't want things to be awkward if i bring it up again. (i told him when i first realised and i told him that it was probably just platonic) but for a little while I've been certain that it isn't. he makes me really happy and I don't think he knows that. he's smart, well mannered, handsome, sweet and has good values. he is genuinely a gorgeous person and i want to say that without making it strange. he told me he doesn't feel the same and as disappointing as that was for me i understood/understand. we're good friends but I can't help but smile everytime i see him, read his texts or hear his voice. he laughs at my stupid jokes and takes an interest in listening when i talk about what i enjoy. i love listening to him talk about things that he enjoys, it just makes me smile. I don't care if he doesn't like me back too much, as long as he's happy. what should i do? thanks my loves <3 | Crushes |
This is my first time posting in this Subreddit, so forgive me if it may be too long, lol.
I'm a little confused with how my crush interacts with me and honestly, I shouldn't even be thinking about it since I've been single for almost 3 years but lately, I go crazy just thinking about her and I'm just not sure if she's taken an interest in me too. Just to give a little context, she's someone who I just deeply admire, someone who makes me feel really happy for her even by just doing the simplest things and not someone who I plan on making moves with, although I wouldn't mind it if she tells me she likes me.
She's been my "happy" crush since the start of the semester in college, and midway through, she got accepted in one of the prestigious colleges in the country where only **really** **smart** people get chosen. Since I wouldn't be able to interact with her if she goes to another college, I picked up the courage and bid her farewell and hit her with a "it's a shame we'd lose a cutie in class". I know, it's corny, but to hell with it lmao. This was around August 2021, and occasionally we'd reply to each other's IG stories or give each other messages at night wherein we'd continue talking it until sunrise sometimes. January 2022 she got sick, and she invited me to watch a movie with her in Discord after I come home from the gym. I took this as a sign that she's interested in me too, but after that, it went back to the occasional messages and conversations didn't take too long to finish. So, I thought that maybe I just assumed too quickly. I've recently gotten into Formula One, and for some reason, she's taken an interest in the sport as well because of the things I post. She'd send me a post related to the sport and ask me something, or like my F1-related post. Now, every time I try and keep the conversation going or give her the idea that I want to hang out, she'd say she's down, but it always feels like she's forcing herself to say that. I'm so hung up on her, and it's just making me sad that she might not be feeling the same at all or even see me as someone she'd like back.
TLDR; my crush gives me mix signals, and now I'm confused whether she's interested in me or just sees me as a friend. I'm not sure if telling her she's my crush is a great idea, so is there any other way for me to know if she's really into me or not? | Crushes |
Every time I see that they sent me a post or that they messaged me back or that they responded to me I think “I love you” bc I love them and they were thinking of me and decided to message me or send me something🥺 | Crushes |
I’ve (20M) known her (20F) for over a year, but we’ve never met in person. She’s also never seen my face before. I didn’t think we were that close, but four months ago she casually invited me to hang out at her city across the country. I was dumbfounded that she’d want to spend time with me, but I took her up on it and booked flights two days later. I was cut with anticipation the entire time, I went through swings of excitement, depression, panic, fear.. a lot of fear. I was so scared of meeting her. I used to be terrified of talking to her, but somehow got over it, and the day finally came. Today.
Initially she was supposed to be too busy today. Stuck with work. But I texted her saying I hoped she had a good day regardless and that it’d be cool to hang out if she had any spare time inbetween - and she invited me out to dinner, which I happily accepted.
The evening couldn’t come fast enough. I was scared, excited, afraid - I went through the day doing tourist stuff and getting settled in, and spent a good two hours getting ready for the not-date with my taken crush. The first time I’d ever hung out with someone I liked. The first time I’d ever met her in person. I sat down at a bench and tried (and failed) to concentrate on reading a book while I anxiously waited for her to text me that she’d parked. My heart was pounding the whole time, I couldn't stop shaking and I knew for a fact it wasn't because of the cold. And then… there she was.
And suddenly, all my fears vanished. It’s like they all just melted away. She’s a full head shorter than me, dyed red streaks in her hair, dark brown eyes.. we stared at each other for a second. She looked me up and down, while I was transfixed with her face.
“Your hair is about what I expected.” (I have long red hair).
“I meet your expectations?”
“Yeah”, she said. “Nice pins,” she said, eyeing my jacket.
“Thank you,” I blushed, “Nice hair,” I replied, trying to think of a sincere compliment I could return.
“Thank you”, she said, smiling a little.
Her voice is a little deeper than I remember. But it felt so nice to hear.
After that I don’t remember what we said that led to it, but I remember remarking “Tch, coward,” and she stifled a laugh, giggling, “I’ve been called a coward in real life. Oh no,”
“And you’re gonna take it?”
(Having recovered, but still smiling) “yeah.”
“Wow, a coward and pussy.”
She burst out laughing.
We went to dinner, a ramen place she knew - normally a man is meant to pay but since I'm a guest she handled it this time - and bought me a beer, which was nice of her. She laughed at everything I said that she was supposed to laugh at, and she made me laugh too - though I had to do my best polite poker face when she brought up her boyfriend. Which was three times. *O h w e l l !*
This isn't the part where I pull the rug out from under your feet and say we ran off into the night - because no, this is real life. That kinda stuff doesn't (or rarely does, if ever) happen. We talked, walked around the city, accidentally walking in a circle twice because we were too busy paying attention to each other than to our surroundings. I wonder if she noticed me trying my best for her. I'm autistic, so social situations can be hard, but for some reason everything that haunts me, all the scars from decades of hurt and trying to survive, they all disappear when I'm around her. Talking to her felt so effortless. No awkward pauses. No silence, no "oh, where y- oh no, go ahead". Just seamless interaction. It all went perfectly.
We walked back to her car and I gave her - before I left I said I'd get her a souvenir from my city - a gift I'd gotten beforehand, which ended up being a doll of a mascot for a local theme park. She laughed hysterically at it, declaring it the ugliest thing she'd ever seen, boy she loved it anyway. She smiled at me again. God, she's beautiful. We hugged before she left - she squeaked a little and grunted out "too tight!", apparently I'm too strong for her - okay, so I need practice. She, on the other hand, is incredibly soft and so very small (she is 5'6", I'm 6'1"). It was great.
I don't know how far this'll go. I keep initiating, she keeps reciprocating, and even sometimes the reverse. She invited me to her hometown tomorrow to see the local markets. I can't wait.
TL;DR got dinner and hung out with my crush. It was amazing. | Crushes |
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