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Decided I would confess to her. She didn’t take my confession to kindly i guess | Crushes |
So me and this guy have been on a talking stage for 3 months now. We've been texting everyday and had some great conversations. Here's how it goes with him, sometimes he's extra enthusiastic and sometimes I feel like he's going through something, and this dude never opens up. Never.
Also, he takes too long to reply most of the time. He's often showed interest in my dating life but whenever it gets personal he deflects and asks me to date other people and whenever I talk about a male friend he'll ask me if the friend is cute and stuff and if I want to date him. He'll make plans for us to hang out and never follow up on them. Also he once told me he had autism but I'm not sure if he was trying to be serious. He looks like an extremely social and bubbly person. But when he's talking to me he sounds depressed and often calls himself lonely. I am not very educated about autism.
Night before last night I got really mad and explained to him that I don't know if he had trouble deciphering hints or not but I liked him. It felt freeing, I actually felt so much lighter. Few minutes later he tried calling me but I was too overwhelmed. I told him we could talk later. Yesterday he texts me and acts like nothing happened. Tells me he got drunk the night I told him, I don't know if it was before, after or during.
It's the same _How long will he take to reply_ bullcrap all over again. I'm back in the loop of _Will he try? Will he text me? Would I have to bury my self esteem again to get him to talk?_ I'm willing to ask him what went wrong because it's more of a 'hurting my ego' situation than a crush situation at this stage and I'm really not afraid of confrontation. I know I chickened by avoiding the call but that was ONE time.
I think my unability to move on lies in the fact that I really need the closure. And that I really think I like him and I've grown attached to him and the fact that he's left me hanging is messing with my head.
What do I do? | Crushes |
I've seen a lot of ppl doing these and I wanna talk abt him :D | Crushes |
I’m not sure what to do. Me (16nb) and my best friend (16f) have known each other for nearly 7 years and for the past few days i’ve been questioning if I have a crush on her. This isn’t the first time i’ve questioned it, it’s kind of an on and off thing that will just randomly happen but it’s definitely been happening for a while.
I have imagined what it would be like to be in a romantic situation with her a few times before and right now I have butterflies just thinking about it. I have caught myself smiling while thinking about her before and being excited to hang out with her but the problem is I can’t tell the difference between romantic or platonic love.
Do I really like her or could it just be my brain tricking me into thinking these things?? | Crushes |
On Friday I decided to ask out one of my friends, but I was too much of a cowrad and didn't. Today I knew I had to, plus we don't see each other in lessons so I had to ask at break and our friends were waiting for us so I wanted to say it. I practiced what I would say, I planned for it to be in the library so it would be just us, but it all went south. First we were outside and the friends who knew what I was doing were staring, second I couldn't get the words out. I said that i had to tell her something but i chickened out and just said it was nothing. Thankfully she wanted to know more so it pushed me to tell her. But I couldn't say it. I planned to tell her I like her, then that I understand if she doesn't feel the same, and finally to ask her out. But I was just an anxious mess and she made a joke about if it was me proposing which lightened the mood but I was still scared and anxious this could ruin my friendship and it would be awarkard forever. But then she asked in a kinda jokey manner but not, that if I was asking her out. I silently nodded and waited.
She said yes.
But she asked to keep it low which I could but somehow a gossip girl found out and already told people in the next class. Keep in mind i did this when it was the end of break and it was already going around. Now I feel like a terrible girlfriend for that the one thing she asked me off, happened. But I'm trying to enjoy it | Crushes |
I really like her and i kinda think she likes me but i cant be sure, we were talking earlier and she talked about people who liked her and people who she liked and how she had rejected all of them, i just dont wanna be like them. | Crushes |
I don’t know my crush very well. Valentine’s Day is coming up and I’ve been considering just writing a heartfelt letter about how amazing I think he is, and how he’s had a rlly positive impact on my life. Not rlly with the intent of getting together with him, but I just want to let him know how much he means and he deserves this ego boost. I do hope that we can be friends someday tho. Any advice? Is it a bad idea to do this on Valentine’s Day? Is it weird to write this on letter instead of saying it out loud? Thanks! | Crushes |
I am used to suppressing my feelings because I am scared to be perceived as a creep | Crushes |
I changed my picture to a recent selfie and my crush texted me “also that’s no way that’s you in ur pfp” and i was like “wym? it is” he said that “It’s like you put a completely new face on top of that body, also i don’t remember you having tattoos.” i don’t know if that’s a good thing or a bad thing but to make it make sense we know each other since high school but i looked very different back then and didn’t get a lot of attention from guys. | Crushes |
This gives me so much joy. It was nothing special or remarkable, but it means a lot to me that he said something to me! I was talking about how Toy Story 3 scarred me as a child. He turned to me saying that he couldn’t finish Toy Story because of how it scared him as a child. Ahhh I’m so happy hehe | Crushes |
I will try to be concise.
my crush (22 M) told me (22 F) about his mood swings which disturb him and which consist mainly of the fact that he is easily moved and cries easily. we discussed it and I told him that I found it beautiful and cute to be able to be touched like he is. when I told him that, I was slightly tipsy and perhaps overemphasized that I found his reactions beautiful. he replied "I opened my heart to you and told you about my fears and you think it's cute" adding that I had to be crushing on him to think that. I avoided the last part and just insisted that he didn't have to be afraid of this sort of thing and that it was even a strength to be sensitive. he responded with only a few words and said good night to me in a rather cold way and since then I have not received any messages from him even though he has been texting me at least once a day for a month. I really feel like I screwed up and that he's angry with me for my reaction or that he finds me weird/stupid. have I been too much? or maybe even insensitive towards his feelings? I don't know if I should talk to him about it again and apologize.
Thank you in advance for your feedback!!! | Crushes |
I have a question for all the guys…I have this gymcrush I've talked to a couple of times, because he's often helped me out at the gym. The fact is that despite this, when he sees me he doesn't greet me, and neither do I, also because I'm very shy and he embarrasses me. Among other things, I noticed that when he passes by me he doesn't look at me, and today when I wanted to say hello to him, he had his head down and didn't meet my gaze (with the exception of one time when I was the only person in the room and so he said goodbye). I'm sure he doesn't like me back lol, but I was curious if you guys (like I do for example) don't make eye contact because u’re shy or something like that, or just because u don't give a damn about that girl | Crushes |
This is big for me. We texted about getting food together,and then he asked me what our situation meant.
Ofc, I panicked, played it down and told him “Uh Idk tbh whatever you want it to be”. His answer was very dry.
I then told my friend about it and she was mad at me for “closing my eyes” and told me to quickly text him something else too. He is already asleep, but still. This is big for me since I have never told anyone I like them really.
I’m still very scared since my attachment issues are massive and I still think he doesn’t like me like that but my friend says his signs say sth different so yea I’m just waiting. | Crushes |
I go to a fairly small school only about 100?
I'm male, and there's been a girl that I've been crushing on since like November. I kinda? Know her friend, but I just wanna talk to her, I've told my friend, but he has no clear advice. So how do I approach her without seeming weird, any good times? Thanks for whoever responds | Crushes |
I'm a girl in college for Architecture and I have this studio class and we have a lot of projects. So, I see everyone in my class in at studio a lot. Anyways there's this guy in my class and I'm just realizing I'm developing a crush on him. We've become good friends this semester. But I can't stop thinking about him. The best way I can think of describing him as he kind of gives off Nick Miller energy from New Girl. Lots of self-deprecating jokes and he says this kind of stuff like it's not a joke, but I find him hilarious. Like dry humor. I can't do anything about it because I go to a community college and after next semester he is transferring. We are on break from school rn and I can't wait to go back to school and see him again. I was just at school yesterday and saw him and I miss him already. Anyways does anybody have any advice on how to deal with this stuff because it sucks rn. I don't think he'll ever find out because I'll just act everything is normal and just joke like everything is the same.
Update: we just got back to school Tuesday he is so cute <3. I need to get over this!!! I'm going to miss him so much when he's gone
Update: I haven't told him yet but now we are on a month break and I it's only been two days since I saw him, and I have been crying over him I'm going to lose my fucking mind!!
Update: School goes back in a week a can't wait to see him!!! | Crushes |
I realize this post is going to be quite long! I apologize lol
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I need some advice regarding my crush.
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So there is this girl at work who has worked for a bit over a year now but it was not until spring last year that we started working very closely together. At that time, I didn't feel like there was anything special between us other than just being two colleagues who had fun working together.
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I had two other colleagues who I got really close to as friends and they started teasing me saying that they had started noticing that me and this girl were flirting with each other but I kind of shook it off because I didn't look at it that way. We both have kind of similar names and we even gave each other nicknames that sounded very similar as well, which was kind of cute but also pretty cringe. It was not until a few weeks after, I realized that I was interested in her. The day before our last day together, I came to the conclusion that I really liked her. So I called one of the previously mentioned colleagues (friend), telling her about it, and she was excited about it, telling me that I should add her on snapchat, which I did later that night. And this girl accepted it and began our conversation with sending me a snap.
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Summer came along and we were about to go on summer break, and the last day, after work, we stayed and talked for a few hours until we decided we should get going. So I said that I'd follow her home even though I live on the other side of town. We walked all the way through town, through pouring rain, talking about everything and nothing. It felt great!
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When we were saying goodbye, I asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime during summer and she replied very enthusiastically that she wanted to hang out.
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A few days later, we were sending snaps back and forth and we somehow started talking about meeting up. So we met up in town in the middle of the night, sitting on a park bench talking for several hours until 3 am. A few drunk girls passed by and started teasing us, asking what our "relationship status" were, to which she replied with "We were colleagues before". She did not say "We're just friends" or something like that. That got me very confused. However, I still felt very certain that things were going well between us.
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This is where everything went downhill. After that night when we hung out, everytime I proposed to seeing each other, she started making excuses. Summer went on and we had some contact on snapchat, but she started to reply much slower than before. It could be anything from a few hours to, sometimes, even a few days. My colleague who insisted I should add her snapchat told me that this girl had not replied to her for over 2 weeks so she thought that I was still prioritized given the fact she replied to me much quicker.
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When we returned to work after summer, she was acting very weirdly. It was not the same as it used to be. I noticed how she started to ignore and avoid me. Sure, if I initiated contact, she replied of course, but she no longer initiated any contact, which she used to do before. I was very confused. At one point, we were heading in opposite directions and as soon as she saw me, she started looking at her phone to avoid contact. So one day I asked her if I could call her because I wanted to ask what was going on. She agreed and when I called her, I told her that I felt she was ignoring me and I asked her if there was anything wrong. She gave me a nervous laughter and said that there was nothing wrong.
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Next day, she still kept ignoring and avoiding me, so I thought that she did not want anything to do with me. So I decided to not approach her unless absolutely necessary. We did small talk from time to time but it was pretty awkward. I kind of noticed how she looked at my direction from afar very often though. She didn't seem to have any problem talking to other male colleagues and being near them, just me.
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This has been going on almost since then. However, recently, things has become a bit better between us. We have slowly started to tease each other. She pulled a harmless prank on me a few days ago for the first time in a very long time. She used to pull pranks on me all the time but of course stopped when things got awkward. She laughs at almost everything I say and smiles very easily when we talk and make eye contact.
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However, a few days ago, another colleague of mine who I am very close friends with, told me that she had been talking to this girl discussing relationships etc. (My colleague/friend knows I'm interested in this girl btw.) Apparently, my crush had told my friend that she doesn't catch feelings for guys very easily and when she does, she ghosts them completely. She also said that she has commitment issues.
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She told my friend that she usually falls for the bad guys, who most of the time end up hurting her and then she regrets not sticking with the nice guy. I was speechless. Everything matched with what had happened to me.
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As late as today, I was getting off work an hour before her. We were talking and she jokingly asked me to stay with her until she got off. I thought what the hell why not, because once again, she did that for the first time in a very long time. So I stayed and we were talking and joking. I really get the feeling that she gets excited when she talks to me. She gives me a big smile when I say almost anything to her. And as I mentioned before, I manage to make her laugh very easily.
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Nothing really happened when she got off work this time. We walked out the building together, talked for a few minutes and said goodbye, and that we'll see each other tomorrow.
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If you have made it this far, I really appreciate you taking the time to read this. Thank you!
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Now, what do you guys think is going on? She seems like a shy person who might have been hurt before. Has anyone experienced something similar to my situation? What happened?
What would you do?
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**TL;DR**
I met a girl I liked at work and after working together for a few months, she seemed interested in me as well at first. After meeting up once in the middle of the night talking about everything and nothing, she started to ignore and avoid me, both online but also at work, while she seemed to have no issues talking to other male colleagues and being around them, it seemed to be just with me (she's 1 year younger than me btw, and we're both in our early 20s). The other day, I was talking to my friend who knows I like this girl. She told me that my crush had told her that she doesn't catch feelings for guys very easily. And when she does, she ghosts them and push them away because she has a fear of commitment. I felt like this matched very well with my situation but I didn't know how to react when my friend told me.
Apparently, she also falls for bad boys who tend to break her heart and then she feels stupid and regrets that she didn't stick with the good guy.
I'll have to say that I feel like it's getting better between me and my crush lately. We can sort of joke with and tease each other, but maybe not to the extent that we used to do. She also smiles a lot when we talk and make eye contact. I also make her laugh very easily, almost no matter what I say.
What do you think is going on? Has anyone experienced something similar to my situation and what would you do?
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**Thanks! Cheers my friends!** | Crushes |
What's the threshhold between having a crush on someone and loving someone? | Crushes |
So I hang out with my crush a lot, she’s one of my good friends, and I’m not sure if she’s just being friendly or hinting cuz I was thinking about asking her out soon. So we have loads in common (like music, and habits and shit), she laughs at my jokes (maybe a bit too much) and we like play fight a lot (like lightly punching each other, obv with consent it’s fun for both of us). And like more shit but idk 😭 does she like me? I’m M14 btw. I’ve realised I probably havnt given enough info and I’m said like way more times then necessary. | Crushes |
So for a little background on me before I rant: I'm definitely not a social person, or a person who'd usually go out of their way to date someone. Now that that's over let's get to business. So I'm in HS and I get my new classes, great. I'm very excited to go home and then I get to my 6th hour. Get in my seat, normal day, normal week. Time skip. About 3 weeks later same hour, I look around my class, and I see this girl, we'll name her River, because that's what her friends call her. I lock eyes with her for barely a second, but they were so beautiful that I remember it like it lasted 10 minutes. From then on I was obsessed with her, the only girl I ever felt something for. Now that we have a story and some context, I'll explain why I need advice. So I know nothing about River, I don't know if she's gay or anything like that, all I know is that I'm terrified, of even speaking a word to her. I really want to get her number, and get to know her, but I can't seem to get a good situation to talk to her, she's always around her friends and I'm also too scared to ask because if she says no, I don't know if I'll find another person that makes me feel the same. Before anyone says it, I know "Plenty of fish in the sea" my response: "I don't care about the sea I want a genuine answer." Also, it's been a full semester since that story. Please, somebody help me. | Crushes |
I(13m) have had a crush on this girl(13f) since day 1 of school. Right before winter break, we were really starting to become closer (we both had crushes on eachother, so we basically never talked and just glanced at eachother from across the classroom), then winterbreak hit and I completely forgot about her and everything that had happened. Then today, we go back to school and I see her and everything comes back rushing. Except the bond we were making, was gone.
I felt completly like we were starting over. I even felt deja vu from the first few days of school. I feel worried talking to her, thinking that I will embarrass myself, just like the first few weeks of school.
I feel like its just going to take sometime to “heal,” but I really hope everything goes back to where we left off quickly. | Crushes |
Share anything about your crush. What are you doing these past days? Does he/she talked to you? What are the moments you spend with this person? What are the things you thought that this person might not be into you? Did you already make the first move? | Crushes |
I told her I was into her last week while I had a gf. I broke up with my gf of 3 years today in aspiration for her❤️. We hang out practically everyday for around 3 hours. When I said I was into her she sort of looked perplexed and walked into her crib after murdering some stuff I couldn’t make out since I had headphones on. I’m planning on having her and a couple friends sleepover at my crib this weekend. She alr said yes and them as well. If she says yes to basically everything I say. If I see her almost everyday just hanging one on one; do you think I have a good shot at her. I won’t pop the question, but I’d like a kiss first. Lmao I’m not gonna force her by no means but besides questioning her intentions, how can I best go about acquiring a first kiss given the scenario presented.
Sum: a girl who I am severely attracted to seems to be in on whatever I do or ask of her, I love thinking ab us possibly in the future. Do I have a chance, and how do I tackle this equation what will help me best solve my dilemma. | Crushes |
my crush well the other day he wanted to ask me a question and he asked me if I would get offended if he asked me the question and I said no and he asked if I was disabled I said no but I need your opinion you think it was okay for him to ask that question?? | Crushes |
I (16F) have a crush on (16M). He’s in two of my classes and he’s really smart and cute but the only problem is he’s pretty shy. I’ve made small talk with him once and he seemed a little nervous. As an extrovert I obviously like putting myself out there but I don’t know how to approach him. I really want to talk to him but don’t know how to without coming off as strong. The last thing I wanna do is scare him off. Pls help….. | Crushes |
I'm leaving my place of work because my crush became my bully. There was huge drama that unfolded after I rejected his romantic intentions. To be fair, there was a lot of warning signs early on. This person love bombed me from day 1 at work. It took me some time to realise that he was covertly abusive, however, and it was a mistake to become friends at all. I'm tempted to enact some kind of revenge.
Our friendship developed from talking about shared interests at first. We would talk about life drama and stuff, and then we'd laugh and make lighthearted jokes with eachother. "Great!" I thought, "i have a guy bestfriend."
However, sometime during his first month on the job, He started to text me and ask me out in really obscure ways. I consider this behavior to be inappropriate for work, so i tried to let him down gently. I guess he was one of those guys who consider resistance as a sign to try harder. I dont want to date a co-worker, so I told him no, and we continued to text like normal.
Regardless of that, I had to enforce my boundaries very firmly because his "ick" behavior didn't stop there. For example, he would come into work when he wasn't scheduled in order to see me, or to bring me gifts unaanounced and unwelcome. He developed a vendetta against me. I had been fond of him, so it was never my objective to hurt his feelings, but it happened regardless i guess.
I didnt want the friendship to erupt into conflict. He became butthurt however, and he is a person who i dont recognise anymore. I've never dealt with somebody embodying so much spite and anger - ever - & that's coming from somebody who waitresses early on Monday mornings and witnesses people at their absolute worst. His behavior has been absurd and over the top -- Mocking, interrupting, yelling, sarcasm, excessive criticism, and constantly trying to humiliate me in front of co-workers.
Recently, the situation escalated into a huge argument. Somebody submitted a one star Google review about the environment because they overheard him being abusive and berating another employee (me). He interrupted me mid-sentence to yell, "nobody is listening to you!," at least 6 times from across the kitchen. I tried to stand up for myself, but unfortunately my self-confidence has eroded a lot at this point. The argument was loud and explosive and it was heard throughout the whole building (embarrassing) 😓! I apologized to management immediately for my part in the disruption, but there's only so much that management can do to mediate in a situation which has already gone to shit like this.
Somehow he has the other staff convinced that I am just crazy. The whole point of my proffesionalism was to curb drama before it had a chance to even take place, but it created that problem exactly. I'm speechless and crushed that I have to leave my work after 2 years of service just because of this asshole. My resignation was submitted right after that. I'm still in shock, upset, stressed. I want to scream. The plan was to enact some petty revenge, but im really too disheartened to do anything at this point. In the meantime take it from somebody who had to learn it the hard way, and don't ever catch feelings for a coworker. | Crushes |
Crush is into me, but they’re just looking for a fling. Feels bad man 🤡 | Crushes |
When you ask someone if they're flirting with you and they respond "idk, am i? "what is that supposed to mean? I have literally no idea T\^T . I was just complimenting his cats because he sent a picture of them and he was like "you and my cats are at the same cuteness level" and I responded "nooo I can't compete with them" and now I'm just so confused because my friend has told he had the tendency to flirt with girls over text a couple of years back so... Im not going to like I really can't take a hint, when it comes to romance I'm kinda dense. | Crushes |
I (14F) don’t understand my crushes motives (15M)
For context / background info, me and him are mutuals on Instagram since we go to the same school. We only have one class together and one mutual friend (14F). So there wasn’t much of a reason for us to talk to each other. Out of nowhere, he DMs me the day after I told my (ex) friend that I thought he was cute. So we talked for a bit, the day after we called for 4 hours and he tells me a lot about himself. After hanging out for some time, I became curious and ended up asking him what made him want to message me in the first place. It turns out he texted me because my ex friend told him I liked him, and he wanted to see if it was true. He said that after talking to me, he thought i didn’t have a crush on him and specifically said he decided to just stay friends with me. When I confirmed I did have a crush on him, he glossed over it.
What do I do? Normally it’d be easy to take a hint but the way he phrased it made it sound like he wanted more, but settled for being normal friends. Am i making he right choice by backing off? Does it mean something if he started conversations with me, knowing that I liked him? Or am I irrational? I don’t understand dating / how crushes work in high school, so this is all very new to me. | Crushes |
There is this boy in this grocery store that I go in often (like 2-3 days out of the week). i think he is really cute!! We haven’t spoken to each other yet but whenever i go in the store we give each other glances and In the moment i assume he’s looking because he’s interested but then I go home and over think about all the reasons why that couldn’t be the case.
There was one night where I went into the store with a family member and me and the guy kept looking at each other and it seemed like we kept being in the same area of the store, at first I thought nothing of it but then I realized that he was perhaps trying to get my attention, there was a moment where he was walking beside but i got so nervous that I just kept looking at the things ont he store bc i don’t know what to say or do and now bc of that awkward situation i feel like I ruined my chance of talking to him or I made him think i wasn’t interested even though I am. What should I do? Should I approach him? what if misinterpreted the whole glaces and almost convo situation? Do you think I’m just overthink and should just go with the flow? | Crushes |
i rarely get crushes. let alone celebrity crushes. But this one is killing me. It’s Greg Lake when he was young. I always listened to his songs but never knew who he really was. I went on YouTube and started watching some YouTube videos of him and went down the rabbit hole. Now I have a full blown crush on him. We share similar beliefs but he’s literally dead. I love his voice and he seems so sweet. I also love his music. How do I get over this? The feelings are too intense and I can’t stop day dreaming about him.
[Greg Lake Live](https://youtu.be/MM_G0IRLEx4)
[Greg Lake Gif](https://images.app.goo.gl/GfSBFW91BCGt9Dd46) | Crushes |
I just found out today that. My friend who is in my health class, knew ive liked this girl for three years, (she is practically the female version of me), that my friend is dating her. My soul feels like it has left my body. He knew i liked her also. I dont know what to do. The only time i see her is when we are moving to different classes at school. | Crushes |
There are two guys that like me right now. I think I like one more than the other, but I think only because he's more physically attractive and I feel validated by that fact more. But the other guy- who I liked for a long time and tried to make like me- is an amazing person and very intelligent, but just not attractive to me. I feel like he is a lot more respectful than the attractive one- but I feel very conflicted. Maybe it would be better to not involve me with them entirely? Oh, by the way, these two guys are best friends. Does anyone have any advice as to what I should try next? I also made a pro-con list for each, but it's more for me:
1: pros
\-Plays guitar
\-We both enjoy philosophy
\-Reads many books
\-Quiet and a listener, very emotionally mature (MY TYPE)
\-kind
\-same music taste
\-nice hand hygiene(healthy nails?)
cons:
\-not very physically attractive
\-very very awkward around me- which is hard for me to deal with as I have social anxiety
\-doesn't take care of himself(no sports, no extracurriculars)
\-I am good friends with his sister
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2. pros:
\-very very good looking
\-6'2(I am 5'6)
\-good sense of humor
\-works hard in school
\-works out a lot, good at running(wow I am very superficial)
\-my very good friend
cons:
\-not emotionally mature at all
\-can be excessively masculine
\-my very good friend
\-I am very good friends with his sister and his father teaches at my school
\-doesn't intellectually stimulate me
\-listens to country
\-doesn't get along with my best friend
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okay so I think I'm realizing who's better.... anyways. | Crushes |
Im 17 and I've been talking to a girl and she's been very forward about things. First kiss among other things. I haven't kissed someone since I was 5 and I also don't know if I really like her. I think about her all the time but getting into this relationship is intimidating since it would be my first, any advice? | Crushes |
I responded to her private story with 🔥, and she responded back with 😍. It was a picture of her playing FIFA on a ps4, so should I text her to say I also have a ps4? | Crushes |
I developed a crush on a friend at work. Honestly, when I met her, I knew she was attractive, however, she didn't catch my eye instantly. We got to know each other more and more as time went on, we hung out, striked conversations with each other, etc. A few months ago, she and I were talking, one thing led to another and we started flirting in the middle of a conversation, we both got flustered. That's the point at which I noticed I had feelings for her.
Now, I'm not the kind of person to gift things to people, as I'm pretty shy and demotivated in these sort of situations due to a bad, past crush (it was a similar case to this one, to top it off) but as soon as I realized I was crushing on her, I did my best to catch her attention, I was taking better care of myself, striking conversations more often, giving her gifts and taking her out to eat if our schedules coincided.
Last week, I found out that one of my friends at work also has a crush on her (the three of us are part of the same friend group). Now, he has known her for longer than I do, and honestly, I did not feel jealous, instead, I felt happy that he and I bonded over mutual feelings, and cheered him on, tried to boost his morale, give him tips, listened to him, and so on.
Today, both he and I found out that our friend, the girl we crush on, has someone else she's interested in, and she's planning on talking to the guy, who is completely unrelated to the friend group we're in. I felt sad for a while, but I kind of knew this was bound to happen, as she told me previously that "dating people on her friend group is not something she would do, though she would appreciate the sentiment, she would reject them". I was heartbroken at first, but I took everything as good as I could. So I have decided to move on from the crush I had on her, I'm happy that at the very least, she considers me her friend.
Now, my other friend, I'll do my best to keep cheering him on, as he's told me he still wants to try out something before he quits, it makes me happy he confided what he feels for her to me, and I'll do my best to not see her in that way again. 👌 | Crushes |
I don't know why it took my dad passing away this week to have this thought in my head, but life is too short to not tell people that you love them. Even a crush. I don't care if she has a boyfriend or a he has a girlfriend or whatever, people deserve to know when they are wanted, and it might very well make their day.
And I know people are going to say, "Easier said than done." I know that, I went to the bar/lounge that my own crush works at today just to show my family it because its my literal favorite place to hang out when I get the chance (which really isn't often) and saw she was working the bar today and seriously considered finally telling her, even though I know she has a partner through her social media I managed to find online, with no expectation of anything to happen outside of me letting her know because hey, it might make her day better than mine has been, but I chickened out because going through my grieving, my mind isn't in a good state and the last thing I want is to accidentally say something the wrong way not thinking it through and lose access to one of my favorite hang-out spots... One of these days though... | Crushes |
The Boy at chick fil a 😫😩
I frequent my local chick fil a sometimes
Multiple times a day for ice cream and ice mainly omg I love their ice. There’s a boy who works there who is an absolute master piece I just mean gorgeous. I didn’t even notice him at first I finally like actually saw him one day and was like damn. He’s usually always the one taking orders so every time I go In he’s like hey ms. Jay how’s your day going and we have little conversations every time about whatever thing that day and today it was beautiful out so I was wearing a dress and I went to get some ice cream and he asked how my day was and I said good how about you and he was like it’s going really well and how I had on a really nice dress and what i was dressing up for and I replied i just like it ya know and he went on to tell me how his sister does the same thing and stuff and I got my order and he told me to have a good Saturday and yeah. I really like his vibe he seems like a sweetie and did I mention he’s beautiful dimples the works Omg I want him to like ask for my number or something I wanna know him. I was considering just eating there one day and slipping him a little note on a flash card like hey I think you’re cute and sweet here’s my number if you’re single and interested but I’m nervous of seeming thirsty and guys usually Pursue so idk I don’t wanna do the wrong thing. But I wanna know him. How long does it usually take guys to like shoot their shot? I’ve never met a guy irl and had a conversation and seen enough to build a ________ idk.
Is he even interested? Is he just friendly? Is he waiting for me to shoot my shot? Am I wasting my time? | Crushes |
DISCLAIMER:SOME OF THESE THINGS DIDNT HAPPEN TODAY THE HAPPENED ON THAT SAME DAY THEN YESTERDAY
we cleared things up a few days ago when i decided to tell him how i feel but then another thing came on that same day that i ended up getting jealous at (he joked abt it) then yesterday he was walking with his ex,and ik who she is and i’m not sure if it’s abt him but she talks abt how much she misses a certain ex of hers but he doesn’t know that (i think) it the whole think just feels uncomfortable | Crushes |
ok so hes not really a crush anymore BUT AAAAA i just love him so much hes so cute and adorable and hot and attractive and smart and kind and funni and understanding and im so lucky to have him
hes fun to hang out with and talk to i swear i could spend days with him and never get bored
he makes my days so much more fun and bareable and hes all mineeee hehe
he still makes me nervous tho i cant even look at him straight for like 10 seconds BECAUSE HES HOT AND MAKES MY HEART GO SHSIHSIANSKWJDISKM
ok yes anyways that was my mini rant about him because i adore him 🫶
p.s. IF U (yk who u are) SOMEHOW FOUND MY ACCOUNT AND ARE READING THIS RN UHHH IGNORE THIS LOL | Crushes |
Should i tell the guy i’m talking to how i feel or will i ruin things, i wanna tell how i want him to put in energy, the last time we had that energy he told me that he was “matching my energy” and i literally don’t understand what he means like should put in more energy before he does or what, i literally don’t know what to do | Crushes |
I’m so depressed that I didn’t make a move and now she is gone. I hate myself for it.
We met at work maybe 6 months ago. I knew I had a huge crush on her from the day I met her. I always thought she was so cute and one day she sat near me during lunch and was watching Demon Slayer so I just had to introduce myself.
She came and sat with me at lunch a few times. We would talk the whole time and I blew it by not asking for her number right then and there. After that she started eating lunch by herself. We still talked here and there but I just became more anxious as time went on and it became harder and harder for me to ask her out.
About a month ago I got to the point where I was trying to hype myself up and finally do it. I just could not stop thinking about her and knew that she was the one I wanted. The day I told myself I was going to do it, she told me she’s moving to another state. She said she hated being home. She didn’t actually talk to a lot of other people. Hearing this crushed my heart. The month went by so fast and yesterday was her last day. She came to my department to buy something, which I never see her do. I helped her out and said goodbye and good luck on your new adventure. That’s all I could get myself to say. It was such an awkward ending to everything and I left myself with nothing but regrets. | Crushes |
Its been a while but I decided to give you guys and update on the relationship i got into with your guy's advice. I really loved her I truly did, she was clingy and I was fine with it. Her dad didn't really like me, he would trash talk but I never cared. We both loved and supported eachother, everything fell apart after I got grounded for not getting good grades though. She started to get mad at me because I was "ignoring" her, and everytime I told her my parents wouldn't let me hang out with her because I was grounded she would get really clingy. Then she started to trash talk my friends and I for no reason. Then my grandmother had to get surgery, of course I was going to help my grandmother so I had to cancel plans I had with her that day, and THAT SET HER OFF. I'm not gonna lie we hadn't really argued so I was caught off gaurd and suprised, the last straw for me was after I told her my mom needed help finding my grandmother a rehabilitation center because my mother had also had surgery. And of course my ex asked me why I had to go, and after I told her my mother couldn't walk properly still she responded with "and?". Then after I told her we should be friends over text she ignored it and then tried to GUILT TRIP ME BACK INTO IT BY TELLING ME I WAS "the best thing that had ever happened to her"! Then after I told her the next day she followed me to my next class and tried to prevent me from going. The next day she tried to find me but I hung out with another friend group, then after she found me she tried to bribe we with $3, and told be to take the money and talk to her. I then started walking to my next class and she followed me, then she blocked the door and wouldn't let me get in, then when my friends opened the door for me she sunk her nails into my arm and tried to prevent me from getting to my class, I pulled away and went to class. She still looks at me and it's really weird, she also runs from me when ever she sees me. I'm glad I'm out of that relationship. | Crushes |
What does it mean if I start thinking about my crush a year but the next year stop thinking about him and when i think about him it is not because my heart beats very fast do i evne like him ???? | Crushes |
Help! lmk what things a guy will do or how will he behave if he has a crush on someone, preferably answer this if ur a guy but if not thats alright. | Crushes |
I am crushing on this girl but i am conflicted if she likes me back.
I notice she would keep staring at me so, i stare at her in her eyes for a long time too. when i am doing something she will always be staring at me from a distance for a while. We always make eye contact and when i talk to her she looks down to avoid eye contact.its kinda weird tbh i am conflicted if i should get over her or she is just playing with my feelings. | Crushes |
My crush and I became official should be a moment to celebrate talk with friends and people congratulating.
That’s what I thought would happen.
The polar opposite.
I decided to make this post because I don’t think people are aware of this side of relationships.
When u get into one they are on your priority list and u tend to focus on them more. You end up talking to your friends all about him and how just a little touch lit up your day. But then comes this part
I was chatting with my friends and noticed they all were moody. That day my bf touched my leg while we were sitting down together during a pep rally and held my hand. Not only that I was on his shoulder. Should be a moment to celebrate and normally your friends should be excited for u. So I told them all about it. YK what they said.
"Great. I saw. I thought u wanted to keep your relationship private. Not only that everyone saw. Some people were even making fun of you."
No words
I just left
Texted them later and they brought it up saying all I do is talk about him. That I rarely spend time with them anymore. I apologized but then said that I'm still trying to get to know him. They then stated that I need to stop talking about him and making everything about him.
No words
Just apologized and moved on
Today.
Texted them now trying to spend more time with them
No answer
So texted my bf
Answer
Tried again
No answer
Texted my bf again
Answer
Tried a 3rd time
Answer
"How's your day" (me <M>)
"It alright" (a friend <F>)
"Anything exciting" <M>
"No" <F>
"Well alright is there anything that I missed during this week since I haven't been talking to you guys as much" <M>
"No" <F>
"Well um" <M>
I panicked
Talking to them was difficult. They weren't giving me anything to work off of.
So I just stopped continuing the convo
<f> "oh I found these photos while cleaning out my phone"
<f> "HOLY shit lol"
<f> and <f> have saved a photo
<me> "could u maybe delete those actually"
You wanna know what those photos were...
Pics of my ex
<f> posted a new photo
<f> and <f> have saved a photo
Another pic of my ex
I hated it
I don't like him I love my bf and these people are trying to annoy me about it yet I can't bring him up.
<me> "delete those photos. I don't feel comfortable with those, please"
<f> geez chill out
<f> FrFr
It annoys me. Their actions have an effect and it honestly annoys me when people bring my ex up tho I'm in a new relationship.
Hated that they didn't respect my wishes as well. Cuz they kept the photos up.
Idk what to do. Do they hate me? Did I do something? I just want to be in a relationship but they are ruining it. They never even supported me dating him as well. Never supported my feelings for him yet wanted details. I feel like I did something. Please help me Reddit | Crushes |
i apologize for posting so much… i created this account only a little while ago, so i haven’t been able to write down things that have happened before…. this happened a few months back, but i only found out a while later 💀
goddamn this is embarrassing but basically .. him me and a few other of our mutual friends were having a sleepover, and after a while i got tired and decided to lay down on the bed while the others were still in the living room. but he followed me!!!! and also laid down next to me. somehow we ended up hugging probably cause i wasn’t feeling the greatest? and we kinda fell asleep like that …
and he didn’t say anything to me afterwards but APPARENTLY i had been like calling out his mfing name in my sleep asking where he was or something 💀💀💀💀 (it wasnt a weird dream just to make that clear) I DIDNT EVEN KNOW UNTIL HE MENTIONED IT LIKE A MONTH LATER?? he said that i sounded for lack of a better term kinda worried/desperate ..?.????
im very lucky he didnt end our friendship over this .. lmao | Crushes |
I was left on delivered for a day by her but she posted 2 pictures to her private instagram story. In the first picture, it shows a picture of a backyard with snow and she was in the mountains. In the second picture she has a ps4 controller and is playing fifa 21. What should I say? Should I ask for her ps4 account so I can add her? | Crushes |
I'm 80% sure this girl liked me, and even my friend thought she liked me and would tease me about it but the teacher changed our seating charts and we could talk anymore.Now she seems to not look at me anymore and once she saw me and walked away, is there anyway I can make her like me again?? | Crushes |
Im M16 and It’s been basically a month or 2 since I’ve been talking to her ( F17 ) I have a crush on her for a year now but I don’t know what to do it seems awkward for me to ask her out or anything but I don’t think I will talk to her that much if I don’t do something in the next months bc of the new school year What should I do ?? | Crushes |
So I’ll try to make this short but if it ain’t sorry lol. Anyway i met someone in class 4ish months ago and became slight friends, semester ends and i thought i’d never see her again because we don’t go to the same base high school and only had an elective Film class together at another school that teachers trade skills. However we ended up being partners on a short Film project after school together. 2 days no one else on our team could make it so it was just me and her with our teacher. One day our teacher was late by 3 hours so it was just me and her alone for 3 hours and we became much better friends. Now everyone else including my teacher knows i like her and apparently it’s obvious because both of them figured it out before i confirmed it with them. She’s very physical with me (i’m pretty sure she’s physical with everyone but my teacher said it’s nowhere near the extent she is with me, but i disagree with him). She’s like pushed me against a white board and held me there, she chased me down in the rain to walk with me, will slap me off i say something stupid or “mean” to her (that’s sort of how we joke with eachother, by being “mean”), asked me for my tie and had me tie it around her because she can’t tie it herself, among other things. My teacher thinks she likes me and so does my friend. He also constantly says stuff like “rizz” when we’re both talking with her and i say something, and the other day said “shoot your shot” when i was right next to her which makes me think she could know i like her. But yesterday i decided to add her on snap and she added me back immediately and sent a text. it said “Took y’a long enough 🙄” and then we texted for about an hour and i had just buzzed all my hair off and she got mad at me and wondered why on earth i would have done it.Am i Stupid? does she like me? | Crushes |
She leaves me on delivered for a day, then she posts 2 pictures to her private story of her on vacation in the middle of nowhere. She might have bad Wi-Fi or something in the mountains but idk | Crushes |
So I’m female (16),
ever so since I joined college in September I’ve kinda liked this guy, I knew him from sec school beforehand and we have very similar timetables so always used to bump into each other. He started to talk to me more and more at school and I thought things were progressing. My friend thought we were dating as we spoke so much. We went on a walk together, were very close at a party together and played video games together regularly. But he never messaged me or called me outside of college, which I found weird. Even when I texted him his responses were short like he didn’t want to speak. It’s been 6 months since we started talking and hanging out and nothing has happened. He’s become more distant and we’re talking alot less. And at first that kinda made me sad, cause I thought I meant something to him. I thought something was gonna happen - or he would ask me out. However a week ago I met a guy (we sit together in a class) and we started talking. We text each other every day, he’s so chill and has genuine conversations with me. Making me realise how much the other dude ignored me outside of college. We’re planning to meet up next week outside of college and want to talk more in college.
But part of me feels like a player or a cheater. I feel bad abt the original guy I met, and how there is such a small gap between talking to him and this new guy. In all honesty I feel like a whore and like if ppl knew they would make fun of me. But maybe that’s just what society wants me to think?
I feel bad and like I shouldn’t be doing this, but I’ve never had a proper relationship before.
Another thing to add is that I’m acc bisexual, and I struggle to understand the difference between platonic and romantic relationships. Basically I just need advice on the whole situation. Am I being a whore? It it too soon to talk to another guy? How do I tell if a relationship is platonic or romantic? | Crushes |
Im M16 and It’s been basically a month or 2 since I’ve been talking to her ( F17 ) I have a crush on her for a year now but I don’t know what to do it seems awkward for me to ask her out or anything but I don’t think I will talk to her that much if I don’t do something in the next months bc of the new school year
What should I do ?? | Crushes |
The thing is if something goes wrong it's would be extremely uncomfortable to run into each other 😑.
We go to the same university .
The first time I saw him he was glancing over at me at the bus stop, and while we were at the bus I again saw him looking at me. Another time we met at the stairs and just said hello...I've seen him at uni sometimes and that's it...
Now I know staring and greeting isn't much but I think he is pretty and I would like to get to know him, my friends say to follow him on Instagram but idk... | Crushes |
I've been liking my crush since I started college. I'm very self conscious so I never make the first move when I like someone. I'm convinced that nobody will ever like me romantically, because of my looks.
Last year, many things happened and I was convinced that my crush actually liked me back. It was a first for me to think that someone could like me.
I am really shy around people I'm attracted to so I gave him my number because I didn't know what to do.
I then didn't see him for a long time because of summer break and other things. He never texted me.
I thought that I was over him but when he came back to college I realised that I wasn't.
However he doesn't act like he did last year and it hurts. I used to be happy to go to college and see him because I loved how he acted around me. Now I feel so empty, even more when I realise that he seems to be avoiding me while casually talking to other classmates, like my former friends (who kept talking behind his back about how they hate him...).
I feel miserable because my feelings for him are so strong, but I'm now one of the only classmates he doesn't talk to at all.
I spoke to him a few weeks ago, I wasn't the one who initiated the conversion but a common friend did. He listened to me talking to him but he didn't look me in the eyes. He just stared at the table.
I feel hopeless. I know that now he will never want to even be friends with me. I feel so jealous when I have no right to be. I'm still craving for his attention, I try to look good everyday in hope that he will like me, even though I know that it is hopeless. I have never liked someone this much before, and I feel like I won't get over him. | Crushes |
Okay okay I know it sounds bad but I promise it's not 𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙧𝙞𝙗𝙡𝙚.
So I've had a crush on this guy Liam, for about a year now, I don't know him or anything I just see him around school and he's a grade above me. From the get go I found him very attractive and seeing him became a staple in my day to day life at school(cause my life is pretty boring tbh) I thought nothing serious of the crush or anything, just that he was my type and I needed someone to ogle. Over time I started paying more attention to his body language etc. instead of his face and started to like him even more.
At one point in November I had had enough of my crush and decided to ask him for his number. We walked pass them earlier that day and one of his friends (we'll call Evan) nudged him, which I thought was a good sign!
So I go up to talk to him! Or well more like my bestie taps him on the shoulder for me and tells him I want to talk to him, he 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙥𝙡𝙚𝙩𝙚𝙡𝙮 𝙞𝙜𝙣𝙤𝙧𝙚𝙨 𝙪𝙨 and tries to walk of but not before Evan shoves him towards me saying, "Yeah go talk to her!", in the most enthusiastic tone I've ever heard. This he pushes past his friend and carries on walking.
My bestie and I laugh about it for the rest of the day but then the heartbreak sets in over the holidays. I 𝙨𝙪𝙧𝙥𝙧𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙮 don't get over him after that and carry on crushes but now I'm like, " Oh well, I shot my shot and the bullet got dodged so~".
I started kinda looking for more attractive guys to ogle after that and I found this one guy, Ethan absolute looker, complete gem, just my type both personality and looks wise. Like let's compare the two of them, Ethan is obviously more my type, my brain should be looking at the more attractive one cause it's all about their looks right? Yeah no I'd still pick Liam any day(stupid brain).
Now back on track, a while aho Evan came up to me(the rest if the guys were behind us) and told me that Ben (the best friend) liked me, I froze in place and then they walked of. Later we passed them again and Evan screamed ridiculously loudly, "Ben loves you!!". I did talk to them obviously (never did so why start now) and like a few weeks later after some convincing my best friend Ariana talked me into giving Ben my number cause it was my chance of getting a boyfriend (she's single btw). I agreed but only on the condition that she gave him my number (she did that 𝙖𝙣𝙙 told him that I like him).
Later I regreted my decision so much and started doing back and forth with my friends about, " Liam or Ben? ", they kept saying Ben cause he was actually interested so I let it be and waited for him to text me. He never did which made me think about my feelings towards him even more.
I never could like Ben no matter what I told myself and my friends, it was always Liam, he's the one I'd look for, he's the one I'd stare at whenever I'd gotten the chance, he's the one I gushed about for 2 straight bloody hours to my whole family! (Dad, cousin, cousin's bf, aunt, uncle, grandma,mom was at work) , he's the one I found adorable when he played in the rain like a kid with a huge grin on his face, he's the one I found myself so enamour by whenever he laughed or smiled, he's the ones body language I copied when he used to fold his arms and he's the one I still like to this very moment but I never got the chance to tell him because 𝙀𝙫𝙖𝙣 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙛𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝘽𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙙𝙖𝙮 𝙄 𝙬𝙖𝙨 𝙜𝙤𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙤𝙣𝙛𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙇𝙞𝙖𝙢.
So now I'm asking Reddit if I should pull him aside, lay out my feelings for him and how terrible I feel about this whole stupid situation. I don't care if I get rejected, 𝙄 𝙙𝙤𝙣'𝙩 𝙘𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙩 𝙖𝙡𝙡. I just want him to know how I've felt for him all this time that's all, it's just a high school crush I'll be over it eventually but right now he means a lot to my heart. He's entitled to his feelings and I'm entitled to mine, I'm just worried about hurting Ben I already know he was rejected by the last girl he liked(my friend is friends with that girl) so I don't want this to be a punch in the gut for him especially since this is his best friend we're talking about.
You know even now I still cling to some stupid drop of hope that Liam may like me but, it's all because of his stupid eyes, whenever he looks at me he has this shocked expression on his face when he realizes I'm there and it make me feel so pathetically hopeful. I hate liking him, if I confess and get rejected all this will just do away...
So Reddit, should I tell my crush that I actually like him and not his best friend? | Crushes |
I’ve already seen threads for what song you would dedicate to your crush so why not songs about what the other party thinks of you lol. | Crushes |
This time last year one of my former friends told my crush that I had feelings for her. This was the first time i had ever felt this way for someone but i had no skill when it came to speaking to girls so thought it would be best to not go anywhere with her until i knew how to smoothly start a conversation. But because i told my mate and she found out i had to communicate somehow and became a double texter. A year later and the feelings have yet to shift for her. Im not goong to try hard to get her. Ive lost weight became one of the top athletes in my school and have started talking to her a bit but she seems to be awkward when speaking to me. Im not sure if this is because of what happened previously, but I really need some advice as to how to go about this to get her back after she rejected me. Her and her friends laugh at my jokes and talk to me quite a bit so Im not sure whether this is a good sign or not and i dont want to be given an inch and take a mile with her. Any advice on how to recover the situation would be great! | Crushes |
Never thought I'd be making a post with this flair, because I always felt like it's such an obvious no, but recently I'm a little confused
When we went to the mall a week ago, he called my coat pretty. Now, normally this would not be such a big deal, except for the fact he almost never compliments people. He also bought me the latest DOAWK book (because I have a collection), despite me repeatedly telling him I wanted to buy it myself (worth mentioning he did try doing the same thing like 2 years ago, so it's not that important). Before that, we went into a store that had perfume displays, and I sprayed him with women's perfume because I thought it was funny, and as a joke he said "If my mom asks me about it, you're going to buy the same one and meet her". This week there was a fair amount of wind blowing at school and I said "ugh, so windy" and in response he told me "your hair looks pretty in the wind"
Also what made me so conscious was that mu mom, a very smart lady that doesn't usually make fun of stuff like liking boys, said she thinks he likes me, so I could be very much be crazy here.
Please do confirm for me that I'm insane and this is normal best friend behavior because he also shared an earphone with the girl he likes last week and also said he's not interested in anyone after a friend told him something like "you're really not dating?" (About the girl he likes) | Crushes |
So basically I really like this one guy and from what he has told me he likes me too. We are currently just talking and aren’t in a relationship but I can’t stop thinking about the fact that I have 0 experience in this. I have never kissed anyone, I haven’t held hand romantically, I haven’t had a boyfriend and overall i don’t know what to do. Will it matter to him if we do start dating? Will he think I am a horrible kisser or something just because I don’t have experience? | Crushes |
I met a cool girl at my krav maga class and decided to get her number. We were going the same direction when leaving the class so one day we started talking and when we had to go separate ways, we exchanged phone numbers. After that we met for pizza. On our second meetings we went to the cinema, and then went on a shopping mall rooftop, talking, stargazing and listening to music. The whole thing took around 5 hours.
I thing it's goin somewhere, but I don't want to end up in friendzone. I thought about maybe kissing her on another "date" or maybe going on like two more meetings and telling her I have a crush on her. She isn't the shy kind of person. I don't want to ruin this relation we have now by confessing the crush or trying to kiss, but Idk, tell me what you think. Also we're 16. English ain't my native language so sorry for any mistakes I might have made. | Crushes |
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There’s a friend group of girls that I met and have been hanging out with on the weekends. (I’m in college btw) of the 3 of them two of them snap me one of them quite often and the other a couple times a day. The girl that doesn’t will occasionally snap me when she’s drunk. The one that doesn’t snap me is the one I like. My frat had a wedding (dated party themed around 2 people getting married) and she was supposed to be my date but one of the other friends didn’t have a date and said she’s coming too. She was super drunk when she showed up and told me I look really good then grabbed my shoulders and stared at me. Her roommate was also there and said she’s heard a lot about me. This made me think she’s into me but her other actions make it seem like she’s not, so I’m really confused. I got a FaceTime from her at 2 am last night when she was at my frat but I was elsewhere. I texted her what’s up I just saw your ft the next morning but she never responded. I’ve never been so confused by someone. It feels like I’m friendzoned but she also thinks I’m attractive. Idk | Crushes |
We‘re classmates in school | Crushes |
Like the title says. | Crushes |
I’ll keep this vague because in the actual story there’s a lot more but I’m scared he’ll see this. There’s this guy who I never dated but I have strong feelings for. There was some sort of distance between us so we weren’t in contact for awhile but once we started seeing each other again(as friends)he told me he missed me and he was actively trying to pursue me again. But I messed everything up within days because of how nervous I am. I don’t know what it is about him that doesn’t let me put my guard down. He just makes me so nervous and I just can’t be myself around him. I act all weird and I’m so mean to him by accident. I push him away when really all I want is for him to stay. Now I don’t know how he feels anymore, it feels like he stopped trying. Honestly it feels like within days he’s already lost feelings. I know he’s liked me before the time where we were in no contact but now I think all those feelings are gone. And I don’t blame him. I know it’s my fault and it hurts but I wish I could redo everything. He probably doesn’t think we’re compatible anymore due to the fact that I can’t be myself around him, it’s like I’m someone else. I’m always saying the wrong things. He doesn’t even go up to me anymore when he’s with his friends but it’s my fault because I kept acting like I didn’t want him there. | Crushes |
What do I do now?
I texted her telling her I cheated on a bio quiz and she said and what did the teacher say. I said I got a 0, and there’s no retake so I’ll have a C then she said OMG it’s terrible. What are you gonna do? I said I’ll only have one C on my transcript so it won’t do anything and then I double texted replying to her text saying what are you gonna do by saying maybe not get caught cheating next time. And now I’ve been on delivered for a whole day and I need advice on what I should do? Should I text and clarify or should I switch the topic or should I just wait for her to text back? | Crushes |
I texted her telling her I cheated on a bio quiz and she said and what did the teacher say. I said I got a 0, and there’s no retake so I’ll have a C then she said OMG it’s terrible. What are you gonna do? I said I’ll only have one C on my transcript so it won’t do anything and then I double texted replying to her text saying what are you gonna do by saying maybe not get caught cheating next time. And now I’ve been on delivered for a whole day and I need advice on what I should do? Should I text and clarify or should I switch the topic or should I just wait for her to text back? | Crushes |
I've been freaking out about this for the last 4 days. I really don't want to read too much into it, but I kind of like him so that's hard.
This guy in question is my coworker. He's a great person to work with, very supportive and hardworking.
To give context we have to work in a small space so there's a lot of bumping into each other depending on how many others there are.
Everyone, is running back and forth. I might have gotten in his way a few times. He then gently guides me forward with his hand on my lower back. He doesn't linger or touch where I'd be uncomfortable, but I have definitely lost my train of thought.
He does this a second time later, when I'm stopped in front of him flustered (because I can't tell where he's going) doing the back and forth, "where am I going?" move.
Hope that makes sense ~
I guess I'm just not really sure what to make of it. It was casual enough that it could be only that. But it's also not a normal thing, usually we'd say "On your left" or something to let each other know where we are moving.
Any advice? I probably just need to wait, see if he's trying to give other signals but I feel like I'm going stir crazy cause I don't work with him till Tuesday.
TL:DR- The guy I like put his hand on my lower back 2 times. Should I take that as a signal or not read into it? | Crushes |
So at this point I just keep thinking more and more it's not a date. My friend told me she saw him today and he mentioned he went on a 'date' last week that he thought was a date until the girl told him she had a boyfriend and then he was like wtf and left; she texted him after and said she'd broken up with her bf and could they talk but he said no. All I know is that it was last week, and last Friday in the evening he asked me out on what I think is a date judging by his vibe but now I'm worried because the timing is so strange and he might have just meant it as friends, but it's almost worse if he didn't because I'll just feel like the second option.
I need some serious advice on this one guys. | Crushes |
Amazing news to end of my Saturday. I found out from one of my mates that she likes someone else. | Crushes |
I wish I didn’t think so little of myself. I want to add someone from work on Instagram because he seems to be flirting, but what if I am wrong? I wish I just thought someone could be genuinely into me. It’s very safe for me to think no likes me because I hate dealing with the feeling of rejection. | Crushes |
The title says it all. | Crushes |
2+2 isn’t making 4 or maybe I’m in denial and slow😭 | Crushes |
I remember like I was saying that I have never loved anyone more than her. It took me 8 months to forget about her. 8 long months of pain and suffering caused by her absence in my life. One day, I just realised I don’t miss her anymore. I feel like I’m finally free and I’m happy about it. Hopefully, it will stay that way… | Crushes |
ok, so recently we’ve been snap chatting a lot and i do really like him and i’ve figured that i may aswell give it a go because one of my friends has heard from one of his friends that he likes me. i think i’m going to ask him if he wants to see a movie with me (probably beetle juice because they’re showing it for the 35th anniversary) but i’m going to ask him during the easter holidays then there’s some time to settle if it all goes south. does that sound ok?? thanks! :) | Crushes |
The thing is if something goes wrong between us it would be extremely uncomfortable to run into each other 😑.
We go to the same university .
The first time I saw him he was glancing over at me at the bus stop, and while we were at the bus I again saw him looking at me. Another time we met at the stairs and just said hello...I've seen him at uni sometimes and that's it...
Now I know staring and greeting isn't much but I think he is pretty and I would like to get to know him, my friends say to follow him on Instagram but idk... | Crushes |
what does it mean if youre crush calls you a bitch for the first time ??? | Crushes |
Okay so I am 24 and I’ve never created any real type of social media account when I was younger, instagram, twitter, etc., but now I wish I did. There is this guy I like, and I just so happened to have found his IG account.
I’ve worked up the nerve to try and go up to him and ask him for his number, but I failed the two times I tried. I got to admit, the first time I attempted, I feel like I hesitated for too long and by the time I knew it, he was already gone. Note, I was being somewhat icy toward him prior to my first attempt I guess out of nervousness. But this last time he just seemed to have poofed into thin air by the time I got outside, and I was only like 5 seconds behind him!
I’ve only ever had brief positive interactions with him. Like for one instance, there was a time I saw him coming and for some reason I kept on staring at him even when he noticed me staring and started to stare himself, I couldn’t stop looking (I guess tunnel vision) until he got close enough for me to put my head down, then he said hi to me surprisingly.
But this last time he seemed extremely nervous to be around me and couldn’t look me in the eyes. Lol, maybe he figured last time I was going to ask him for his number and got spooked (I highly doubt this; I’m paranoid), which could possibly explain this last interaction. Or maybe he felt a way after I was being icy toward him from our previous encounter. What do you think?
Im sorry for making this so long! But anyway, I won’t see him again for maybe the next 6 months, and I really don’t want to wait that long for another failed attempt. So what do I do? Do I just DM from my random (0 followers) account? | Crushes |
So I’ve grown to like this girl over the school year and for the past 6 months I’ve had a crush on her but we only have one class together this year and don’t talk much at all. I feel like she might like me as well from things but I don’t know what to do. Yesterday my friend said that he’ll tell her I like her because what’s the worst that could happen. To me that seems kinda weird and that wouldn’t even do anything. He has a gf and stuff so I trust him but like that seems kinda dumb for him to tell her. I didn’t bring it up or anything it was him btw. I am like always thinking about her tho but feels like if we started a relationship than like what would we even do. I feel like I’m so boring that it would just end quickly lol. Then again I have many friends and they say I’m funny but I don’t get how.
Any suggestions on what to do? He may have already told her but idk rn. I feel so dumb typing this but I am just writing my mind out lol. | Crushes |
So he's taking really long to reply to my messages all of a sudden. Right now it's been almost 3 hours but yesterday he asked me a question out of nowhere, I replied and then he didn't say anything after until like 4pm today. I'm worried about him being distant because previously it's always been a sign that a guy is losing interest and now I'm just worried that he's already got tired of me :// | Crushes |
I (23M) got out of a year and 4 month long relationship last year. I really thought I was going to marry her (20F) and although the end of the relationship was on good terms, I wasn’t in a good place for months after. We still kept in touch, supported each other and saw each other, but I knew it was over.
For quite some time now my life felt as if it was starting to take direction again. I finished college, made more time to hang out with my closest friends, doing more of what I love, and move on from my lost love.
A few weeks ago, I met someone online, and I was hesitantly at first, but we hit it off. We started talking, FaceTimed a few times,learned about each other’s interests, talking day and night, and before I knew it I had a crush.
Before I noticed I liked this girl (19F) I felt like I was happier than normal, I was more productive, I smiled every time I saw a text from her, and that’s when it hit me. “I have a crush on this girl.”
I still love my ex, and the love that’s still in my heart makes me feel guilty in a way for having a crush. Even though we both moved on, there’s that small part of me that wishes we are still together. I made peace with moving on, but my heart is pulling me in two directions.
TL;DR : Broke up with SO last year, but feels guilty for having a crush that makes me feel truly happy again. | Crushes |
I created an insta account, followed some of my classmates, and then followed her friend that most uses insta. Then she followed me and i followed back. Days later i fucking made a math account where the result is my age, BUT the first number is a junction of our initials and the second one says "hi" (cmon its not that dumb), then sent an story and waited. Sometime later she replied, we talked for 30 mins and now i feel more confident to start conversations
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I just needed to do a move | Crushes |
So there is this guy in my college I am crushing over, never talked to him like only talked to him once that too for some work purpose. He is nice and sweet but we have this kind of rivalry with his club (we are in 2 separate college clubs with leadership positions). So like his friends and all don't like me and we also don't like them either we avoid each other however when it comes to him I loose myself. I have tried having conversation with him but he just won't respond. He still talks nice when it comes to formal conversation. Also he is like very shy unknown kind of guy in college nobody knows him and he has limited friends (members from his club) so I can't catch him without those people to even start a proper convo. Ah what to do in such situation. | Crushes |
I've always wondered if anyone has ever had their airport crush approach them. I've always been too scared to make a move but I'm sure someone has talked to their airport crush maybe even dated them? | Crushes |
Any advice? | Crushes |
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so basically he asked me out on tuesday, i said yes. and then he winked at me in one of the classes on that day, but then he wasn’t in school on wednesday - friday and now his guy friends like told me that he doesn’t know if he likes me or not now, i really want to wink at him on monday even tho i literally couldn’t even maintain eye contact with him on wednesday (he was in school in the morning but then he went home in afternoon) even tho i knew he was my boyfriend! and i’m just scared! and i know it sounds stupid to say i’m scared but i’ve never really been in a long relationship before, the longest i’ve had is 6 days! and that’s all because of my shyness and quietness around people i know. it’s like… i can talk with other people only if they- start the conversation! anyways what should i do ? am i acting crazy ? | Crushes |
For context / background info, me and him are mutuals on Instagram since we go to the same school. we only have one class together and used to have one mutual friend, so there wasn’t much of a reason for us to talk to each other. Out of nowhere, he DMs me the day after I told my ex friend that I thought he was cute. So we talked for a bit, the day after we call for 4 hours and he tells me a lot about himself. After a week, I became curious and decided to ask him why he messaged me in the first place. it turns out it was because my ex friend told him I liked him, and he glossed over it when I said it was true.
What do I do? Am i making he right choice by backing off? I don’t understand dating / how crushes work in high school, so this is all very new to me. Does it mean something if he started conversations with me, knowing that I liked him? Or am I irrational? | Crushes |
So basically, I took a small break from school to be in a therapy program (I'm 16 for reference) and there's this really cute boy (also 16) who reminds me of someone I used to know so much that it's scary - I'm not supposed to ask for contact information with people but I genuinely want to. I've never had this before as my social group tends to be fairly limiting. By now I don't care about my suspicions that he shares alot in common with a friend of mine from the past.
My possible last day in the program is this coming Monday, and if I'm being honest I have no idea if I'll run into him ever again after this. Every person I've told has encouraged me to say something but I'm absolutely terrified.
This could be my last chance to say something and I just have no idea where to begin | Crushes |
We went to elementary and middle school together ,but we are going to different highschools. I had no idea where she was going to, but yesterday she reached out after finding me on Instagram. So far we've just been catching up with everthing that has happened in the last 4 years (seniors in highschool) but after seeing a photo of her I can definitely say I'm still attracted to her. We were good friends, but I never understood dating in middle school so it never was something I really thought about.
Mt question is this: How do I transition from catching up to possibly flirting, and hopefully asking her out? | Crushes |
I’m struggling at the moment. I’m crushing on a manager at my work, and I don’t know whether it is appropriate to tell him about my feelings. It’s a factory so it’s not like an office environment.
He keeps physically touching me such as rubbing my back, putting his arm around my shoulder - I’ve seen him be touchy with other co workers. I was thinking about asking to speak to him in private and I was going to say that this is upsetting me.
Do you think this is acceptable? | Crushes |
She’s leaving the orch aka the only way I can meet her in person
Thought it would last for at least a year :( | Crushes |
There is this guy (17M) who I've had a crush on for the past months. He is in my class but we had never really talked before. A few months ago, we started talking casually, asking for lessons etc but it was all.
We sometimes take the same bus and we are the only two people at our stop. Lately, we started talking in the bus about classes and stuff (but never really personal), and he keeps rekindling the conversation until my friend comes and sits next to me. I also had noticed that he was looking at me during lessons, as in I turn my head to look at him and he is already looking at me. Once in class, we had a group task and I was with him and another friend. My friend was writing so we helped her but also chatted a lot for an hour. He told jokes and was a bit flirty I think (but it's maybe just my imagination).
However, these last 2 weeks, I haven't seen him looking at me anymore. Moreover, he seems to be friendly with lots of people and I can't determine if he's particularly friendly with me or if it's just his way to be. I kinda had lost hope and resigned myself to forget him.
BUT yesterday something happened. We both didn't have a lesson while my friends had one. I was alone in a room and he came in asking for a brioche (we are selling brioches with my friends for an association). I told him we already sold them all and expected for him to leave BUT he instead came in and sat down. We chatted for an hour about personal stuff (what we want to do next year and why, sports we have played since we were young...). The thing is his friends didn't have a lesson and he could have gone with them but he stayed to talk to me. I can't determine if all of that means something or if I'm just making films in my head. Please help me, could there be a chance he is interested ?
Ps: I can't tell everything about our conversations it would be too long but there are also texts in which he seems to be overly friendly (telling me good night instead of just bye...)
Ps2 : sorry for the length of my post and sorry if my English isn't perfect, it's not my first language | Crushes |
he said that it fills him with a primal joy when i have a specific facial expression and that it’s cute!!!!!!!!!! he’s been talking abt it for the past few days lol
my heart is djakhrjsvdjsjshskfhsjshd | Crushes |
So I met this girl at work and also realized that she goes to my school, through work and school I quickly fell for her. We haven't talked that much, asides a few smiles, greetings and the occasional chat. I soon started hanging out with her, aswell as her friends and thought that we were progressing in our relationship. However, this new guy that started at our work that also goes to our school started getting close to her. They always mess around at work together, nothing at all with me. With me its just a quick smile as she walks past me, but with him its teasing him about how he does his job and full on conversations with him. I know it may seem like jealously but I really wish that it was me instead of him. Then he started hanging out at school with us and my hope just plummeted from there. It was raining pretty heavily recently and her friend group, the new dude and I had gone into a games club that runs at our school for cover from the rain. As a joke we picked out this game called "Head's Up!", in which you pick cards for each other and you have the guess the prompt on the card through yes and no questions, or that's just how we played it. Whenever anyone else was going up or even I was going up, she still played but stayed very reserved and asked minimal questions. However, when it was the new dudes turn, she wanted to pick his card, being very persistent on being the one to pick it and even fought over his friend who wanted to pick a card for him. But as soon it was my turn, she didn't pick a card for me which really hurt me. She always laughs at him, never me, even when he isn't being funny. When I make jokes she never even smiles, not even a pity mom laugh. Does she like this other guy and if she does how do I get to like me more? | Crushes |
my crush is two years older than me. She doesn't know I exist but we have mutual friends. The problem is that there were still unresolved complications between some of her classmates and a friend of mine. I don't know if they are friends and therefore if he is angry for these reasons, but I'm afraid so. What do you believe? | Crushes |
My crush and I are very similar, but unfortunately only from the point of view of defects. I am in eighth grade and he is in ninth. We both have an eating disorder, anorexia. Neither of us told their parents, only a few friends know. Neither of us is in a serious state yet and neither of us wants to be helped. But he is getting worse and I'm afraid that if we get together I will only make his condition worse as I know he doesn't want to be helped, and to disobey him, even if it's for his own good, would mean me being hospitalized too. So what do you think I should do? | Crushes |
To the movies. On Monday. Putting this here as a promise to myself.
If anyone has any tips on how to ask I’d love that! My current plan is to say something like “did you know that the xxxx movie is coming out next week?” and he’ll say yes or no, and then I’ll say “wanna go see it once it’s out?”
We’ve talked abt the movie before so he definitely knows about it :D | Crushes |
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