selftext
stringlengths 1
40k
| subreddit
stringclasses 2
values |
|---|---|
Hey everyone! I’m splitting this into two parts because this update is LONG
Again, names, specific ages and aspects of my job have been changed, but the fact that their is an age gap and everything else is true.
Summary of the situation: I (32/F) have a crush on my male co-worker Steve (24/M). He’s sweet, hysterical, intelligent, and handsome. Yes, he has flaws and I can 100% see them, but this crush is not going away anytime soon. He’ll stay after work with me for hours after the work day, walking me to my car has become a daily habit (ahhhh~❤️) and yes, he is straight.
Some things have happened sort of recently that have made me suspicious of the fact that he may actually like me back… BUT I’m trying to stay calm about it. At minimum I know he likes me as a friend, a very close friend even, but I’m not sure how he sees me as a romantic option. So let me tell you all about some recent occurrences and you tell me what you think:
Situation 1: a little less than two weeks ago, we were having our usual break talk. Every day, he comes to my office at a particular time and we spend the majority of our break talking about how the work day is going and making jokes about it.
During one of our talks, my phone is facing up and he sees I’m getting a ton of messages on Reddit (the two people messaging me: you two are the best 🥹🥹🥹) and he says “is all that coming from Reddit?” And I said “yeah x) I’m making friends online on a specific subreddit and she’s just teasing me” and I giggled at my phone because the messages were gushing about our respective crushes.
VERY IMPORTANT NOTE: I’m pansexual. I love for the soul (but hairy forearms are a plus 😍) and he’s the only one at my job who knows this. Everyone else at my job assumes I’m straight.
Back to the story: immediately after I giggled at my phone he said “actually, I’m talking to a girl on Snapchat. We met on hinge.” It came out of nowhere, but I was crushed… at first. I put on my mediocre poker face and wished him the best of luck, while I was dying on the inside.
Then, I really thought about it. Why would he mention he’s talking to a girl on Snapchat immediately after I was talking about my friend on Reddit? Then it hit me: I think he was trying to make me jealous. Again, he has no idea why me and the girl became friends, or what subreddit I’m a part of, so he could assume I’m dating someone online! (I did that once and btw, NEVER AGAIN.)
Fast forward a week later, I decided to clarify with him what subreddit I’m a part of, before I could do this though, he said “ i’ve got a big update about the girl on Snapchat :)”
Again, my heart sank and I put on a good poker face and asked what happened. He said “she stopped talking to me 3 days ago 🙃”
I apologized but I was literally dancing on the inside. I feel like a bad person, but that was the best news I’ve heard all day.
I then talked about my friend on Reddit and mentioned that we were both part of the subreddit r/crushes, where everyone talks about their crushes. He then said “ I was wondering what subreddit you’re a part of. So, is your friend gay?”
I smirked and said “ no, she’s straight and not my type. Why do you ask?”
He said “just curious.”
Bullshit. I know it’s more than just that he’s curious, but I let it go and we went back to our normal conversations. | Crushes |
(the full story on my crush is in my profile pls check it hehe)
so i went to a party last night and my crush was there. my friend didn't tell me that a guy from a previous party, which i didn't even talk at all but found my ig and started dming me he told my friend i he thought i was cute and asked me out and stuff but we didn't go on a date. (im not interested in him, i think he actually likes my friend lol)
i left him on seen last week so i thought it was over and i didn't he was coming to the party.
when i arrived i said hello to my crush and i noticed we made a lot of eye contact even tho we were far apart. then the guy came and just said hi to me (i actually did see him before he said hi but i didn't want to talk to him lol)
then we kinda got into a circle with my friend, the guy, my crush and a couple more guys. my friend asked my crush who he wanted to be on the kisscam with from the circle (it was literally just me and the guys lol) and he got kinda nervous bc he was like asking and asking again "wait from this circle of people?" and he chose (as a joke) a guy that was literally beside me (kinda hurt) (they didn't go lol)
after a while i was alone asking for a drink and the guy came and started talking to me a lot like for a while about what i like and why i left him on seen and whatever. and my crush was like really close and i noticed he was looking at me and we made a lot of eye contact while i was talking to the guy.
then we went inside the house and i was talking with my friend then my crush came and started listening to me saying that i left the guy on seen and stuff (i wish i had told them both that im not interested in the guy and that i don't want to go out with him so my crush would know hehe)
another guy (we just met that night) came into the conversation of me, my friend and my crush and told me like hey your nickname is ---? (its a funny nickname that my friends and also my crush used to call me at school) and we started laughing and me and my crush both looked each other while smiling ( i missed that tbh) and we talked and laughed a bit about it (my funny nickname)
then i went to the toilet and the guy (the one im not interested in) started talking to me again and my crush was again rlly close.
for context pls read my previous post on my crush and the comments there's a lot of detail lol
i wish i had talked more to my crush :( i was actually pretty confident that night and i wanted to be bold and show him that im interested in him :(
and i wish i had leave it more clear to my crush that im not interested in the other guy, he just knows i left him on seen and that's it
do you think he thinks that im like hanging out with the other guy? or that im interested in him? | Crushes |
I am hosting a party in two days and she is coming i am gonna slip a compliment in the way ;) | Crushes |
HE IS LKE EXACTLY MY TYPE AND HE IS FROM A DIFF CLASS, I DONT THINK WE HAVE ANY SIMILARITIES BETWEEN US OTHER THAN VOLLEYBALL AND MAYBE BADMINTON. AND ALSO HE IS PRETTY CLOSE WITH LOTS OF GIRLSSSSSSS. HE BROKE UP WITH HIS GF A COUPLE OF WEEKS AGO AND SINCE HE HAS BEEN WAYYYYYYYY CLOSER WITH THIS ONE FEMALE FRIEND OF HIS BRUH THERE WAS A WHOLE RUMOR ABT THEM DATING BUT I DNOT THINK SO (i hope iits false :'( ) ALSO THE ONLY MUTUAL FRIEND OF OURS IS THIS ONE GUY BUT THIS GUY AND HIM HASNT BEEN TALKNIG AS MUCHH LATELY :((( | Crushes |
When i have a crush its not that obvious imo. None of my previous crushes noticed i had a crush on them till i confess but this current crush somehow did? THe only interatction we had was eye contacts (fyi im not friends with my crush nor do i talk to him at all, he is in a diff class). also he is pretty close with girls and one if his female friend straight up asked me if i had a crush on him and i obv said no.. my crush even told my guy friend that he is pretty sure i have a crush on him.
i only had eye contacts with him and followed him on ig (he followed back :D) | Crushes |
Advice! It’s not a BIG embarrassing secret, so what should I do to make him still like me? | Crushes |
What was your crushes behaviour before you told them?How did they act towards you before they knew you also liked them??
please tell me | Crushes |
i was talking to my friend and then my crush walked by so he yelled “_(his name)____, help me!!” i was standing in front of my friend so i could not see my crush’s reaction. then, my friend and i were silent, but he was just smiling. idk | Crushes |
My crush is so darn pretty it just hurts seeing him, knowing so fucking well he doesn't like me and I can't have him in this life.
What to do? | Crushes |
So my crush has a crush on someone and they already went on a date but he said he told that girl he wants more time to actually ask her out, so like now they're dating but it's not official yet. I supported him even though I didn't want to bc I still want to be his good friend. :')
Anyways he had also recently told me that he had a crush on me few months back and he wants to date me but he's too afraid that our friendship might be over if we ever break up.... And again after time to time he had asked me if we can be like friends with benefits but personally I don't like things like that so I said no even though I like him...
And then today he asked me if we can be a couple ONLY until we graduate it'll be fine for both of us, since I don't like being friends with benefits. That's what he said. But I said no bc it felt like he only likes me for my body and that's all.
I truly love this guy and I want him so bad. But I don't want to put myself in danger knowing that it's going to lead me to a heartbreak in the end. But again my mind is telling me I should give it a chance and I can change his thoughts so that he wouldn't break up with me after we graduate? Like idk I just want him so bad. Can someone give me some advice please 🥺😭
FYI:I asked him about his unofficial gf when he "asked me out" and he said it doesn't matter since they're not a couple yet so yeah
And sorry if I have any grammar or spelling mistakes my mother language is not english | Crushes |
I don't understand him. He'll say weird things to me all the time. Like "how often do you think about me" and "I'm just planning for the future" (after asking me a question, says that one a lot). He's told me he loved me a few times, I haven't heard that one for a hot minute though. But despite saying things like this I'm pretty sure he has zero interest in me. I can't tell though and it actively hurts. I wish I just had confirmation on what he's thinking but I can't ask. There's more layers to it but I can't say further in fear that he'll somehow see this. Pretty sure he's a redditor. | Crushes |
any idea why he might do this? | Crushes |
Heyy all ;) hope all are doing well ! I NEED TO VENT AND JUST GET THIS OFF MY CHEST.
I have a big crush on this girl. We are not close but we do play on a sport team together in uni. She's amazing. She literally perfect. Her eyes, smile, her laugh. She has an amazing personality, shes a good leader, an understanding person, determined, a hard worker, funny, motivated. Everytime I think about her my heart pumps. She feels like a dream.
I fill like I'm never unfortunately going to ever get close to her because she seems like shes always busy. Were both are like different personalities. She very outgoing, fun , and has so many friends. I am however very shy and introverted (and got no real friends). I feel like this is just my heart looking for love as of right now I'm currently
currently dealing with the biggest mental health I've dealt with in my whole like.
Maybe I just want to feel wanted ? I keep think about the times that we have made eye contact and maybe I'm just over thinking it. I don't know. Maybe I'm mistaking friendliness for something else.
Ahh I hate having to see her it crushes me and make me feel upset and sad. I don't know if shes into girl or if she even feel anything. Oh well, | Crushes |
So. A little backstory. I emigrated (think thats the right word; between that and immigrate and migrate) to Spain when i was 9. Lived there for a while, till my 15th. Then for reasons we had to move back to our homecountry of Belgium. This is my first schoolyear back.
Since i have lived in Spain during specifically that period of my life, and because my parents had difficulties getting a dental insurance, i was and am still stuck with quite a noticeable overbite. Now that we're back in Belgium i can hopefully soon get a procedure done and finally start fixing my teeth. Having lived with an overbite thats that noticeable, you notice that it entirely messes up your looks. Theres no going around it. This is not an "oooh im so ugly oh nooo" kind of post. Overbites, atleast to this degree, where you're scared just to open your mouth to talk, are just objectively ugly.
Both in Spain and now here, I've always been able to have good friends, which is nice. I just know that, the way i look rn, no one would ever like me romantically. My crush (F15) and i (M16) are actually pretty good friends which just makes it such a shame that i just couldnt have my teeth fixed before i met her. | Crushes |
If you find out that a guy (close friend) likes you and you don’t feel the same, what do you do? How do you act?
Have you ever gained feelings for a guy based on knowing they have feelings for you?
My story:
I started gaining feelings for this girl pretty early on in my second term of uni. Over time we started hanging out in a group and now she is one of my closest friends. She and i did a 4 hour road trip recently. She called me at 5pm, I was packed in half an hour and we left by 6pm, driving at night. I told her recently about my feelings for her (I’m 99% certain she’d known at this point) and she said that she finds it hard to gain feelings like that for friends and that she didn’t feel the same, but wouldn’t act any differently. More recently, she and I did an hour and a half trip to go see a friend (after I confessed my feeling) and we had a good chat | Crushes |
If he ever said he doesn’t look good I’m entering yolo mode and shoving him with compliments he’s literally so perfect. | Crushes |
Crush and I are current university students. I'm crushing on one of my guy friends. Unfortunately, there are moments where I can not focus because my brain decides to focus on him instead. I've dealt with this before and suffer from it. I let my grades, responsibilities, chores, and other things slip.
I've heard of spending time with your friends, your hobbies, and even talking to a therapist helps. Getting to know your crush and reflecting also helps too. I know why I'm crushing on him. These reasons are suited for a therapist to hear.
I'm planning to confess for closure and move on.
tl;dr: I'm easily distracted about my crush. What advice do you have to balance life and these intense crushes? | Crushes |
Relationship Advice
I have barely used reddit, I got no idea if this is gonna help at all but whelp.
Alright so I (16M) have had this crush on a girl (16F) in my Maths (Calculus) class for the past month or so, but I've got no idea how to approach her and talk to her casually. I want to ask her out, but my socially inept self is preventing me from doing so. I have never spoken more than a few words to her btw.
I just don't want it to seem weird
Any advice would be greatly appreciated! | Crushes |
He took another girl out. I am hurting, but I can't at the moment. I have a huge work event tomorrow and it's important that I keep my mind focused. Any tips are appreciated! | Crushes |
I don't know if I want to follow him anymore or if I just need to get a grip and realize he wasn't for me anyway. Until then, how do you know? | Crushes |
When I would talk to my crush last year, I just let the jukebox play and my confidence would run out. Like I would just be talking with no fear and when the convo ends, I snap back to reality and I’m like “holy shit I looked so good”. I’m a pretty confident person in general but I get nervous pre convo before I talked to her or approach but if she approaches me I’m chilling. | Crushes |
The only girl in the world who attentively listens to my stupid talk. I am completely heartbroken! :(( | Crushes |
So it was the last day of term 1 in my lesson I was talking to my crush alot and I helped her withba desing because my teacher said I had ez and good example
After helping her, me and her went to the sewing machine With her and my friend
My crush acted bit weird and my friend said
"If you touch Harvey you like him(I'm Harvey)"
She touched me.
I was red
My friend burst laughing.
After calming down, me and my friend teased eachother.
My crush decided to join and she flick me in my shoulder
WORST AREA
I burst in pain while she laughed.
We three all teased and then she went to my friend and gaved him a lil hugg
I burst laughing but inside I felt jelouse
So nothing much happend and term 2 other than alot of rumors of me liking someone
I use my voice like Eminem for that whole term
So it was term 3 and it was Friday aka 3 days ago.I found my way to my new class and I saw my crush, we talked for a while like 2mins then the teacher came and told everyone what is going to happen. I was sad because I thought I wouldn't be in a table with my crush. Then god just made a miracle and the teacher told me to sit with 4 people
They where
One of my friends, a person raley anyone talks to and my crush. I prayed to god since.
So when we started and the teacher gave everyone the tour around the classroom, me and my crush where like next to eachother everytime my teacher stop and told us what each thing does. After that we all sat down to start learning. Me, my friend and my crush where like working together and we all talked for a while. My teacher gave everyone a piece of paper and she put in a board some pictures of stuff we would use in a couple of weeks. I was drawing the stuff then my friend and my crush were talking random gibberish so I intervired and we all talked. I laughed technically at almost everything she said. My crush started talking like a cat so I joined in and we just kept on saying meow.
When lesson ended and it was hometime I try get out then my crush started chasing me because we were playing. I bolted thought the school.
So at Monday, it was fine for the past 3 lessons until Music. If course since since I like my crush I sat near her but not next to her To make it not obvious.
And god made yet another miracle so I was working with her and 3 other people. I was drum leader so I was kinda like the leader. It was fine for like five minutes then everyone messed around. My crush touched my drums so obviously I didn it back. My friend and my crush where talking so I got jelouse and started insuling my friend( not sure how no one found the obvious that I liked my crush) so then I started getting laughs from her. Good. So after we all went back in the classroom my friend said she wanted to hit me so I was like Im scared then my crush said something then I said something and the. She said I'll get my bf on you.
Ok so I think it's a joke she doesn't have a bf but my mf stuff was mad inside but not outside.
Also this other girl I don't know kept saying hello at me. I don't know who she was then my friend said she's stalking you
I said yeah yeah but after class I kept looking everywhere just to make sure | Crushes |
anyone? | Crushes |
I liked someone for almost three years, but I think I am getting over him this semester. I still think about him, but I don’t like him as much anymore. He has shown possible signs, but I don’t think he feels the same way. I thought about the pros and cons of confessing. If he says yes, I get to date him which I still kind of want. If he says no, it would speed up the process of getting over him. It would also give me closure. I am scared he might say yes and then change his mind, because stuff like that has happened. I would still feel hurt if he said no. Should I even bother, if I might forget about him this semester. | Crushes |
so i was chatting with a girl and she randomly sent me a pic of her outfit, to which i replied something along the lines of "looking good👍". she then replied with "thx bby👌"
what does it mean i am confused | Crushes |
I started university the last month and i met a girl that i am still not understanding how beautiful she is,
She is sooo quiet and i think that she is very shy, but also very cute and i just want to speak with her but i am afraid from this step cause she isn’t the kind of people that make you feel that they are close to you.
She is very silent and i just want to speak to her
Every second in the class i am looking at her and thinking just about her
I can’t handle that anymore | Crushes |
She’s made it pretty clear the last few months she doesn’t like me, but I can’t seem to get over her. I see her in class everyday and it’s hard not to look. It’s hard not to dm her on snap, even if I know she doesn’t want it. I’m just so confused on why I still think about her at all. Why can’t I let it go? Anyone else in a similar situation? | Crushes |
I (f18) have a crush on my friend (m18), we are both seniors in highschool. We have only been friends for this school year, but i have known him since freshman year.
I can't tell if he likes me back though because he has mixed signals, and also I can't tell what's friendly vs if he likes me.
Some signs are that anytime we are in a group he will look at me when laughing, even if I'm not the one who told the joke. He seems genuinely happy when we talk, but also he doesn't really ask me anything or initiates conversation, in fact today was the first time he said something to me completely umprompted (it was a joke). When we do talk the conversation mainly consists of me asking question and him providing simple/non specific answers, also conversation at lunch is stifled becasue my other friend will interupt us to talk about fnaf or kpop. Sometimes if we had talked alot that day or the previous day he will look at me, and when I turn to look at him he will turn away so fast it's almost like looney tunes, when i look at him and he keeps his gaze i do believe that its good eye contact. Other than that though he does not really look at me that much.
I know he is single and as far as I'm aware he has no crushes
We don't hangout outside of school, and we have 2 classes together, 1 of which is a shop class were we do group projects together. Today I gave him my number because the currant project we are working on requires stuff from home, I saw him put my number in his phone but he did not text me yet, so I don't have his number.
I just want to guage if he likes me, but if I can't figure it out I will ask him out on valentines day. So please no "just ask him comments". Any questions are welcome. | Crushes |
Hi, I've never posted on Reddit before (thus this post will be a jumble of words), but after a few months of lurking here I've decided to vent here, since I really don't want to tell anyone I know.
I religiously check this sub as if one day my crush is going to post something, when I don't even think they have a Reddit account. I click on every post which seems close to something they might write and then I read it and disappoint myself.
I even know they don't like me, because I've figured out who they have a crush on through watching them (sounds creepy lol but we share classes). I'd feel good even to see them post something about the person they like, even if I know it isn't me.
I guess I just want to know more about them, since we really talked only a couple of times and that was because we were paired up by a professor. I have them on social media but they don't post very often. I find myself going out for walks just for the small chance I might see them somewhere along the way..
I always sit somewhere in the back of the class, and they sit at the front. So sometimes they would look back for whatever reason (maybe someone from the back rows is answering a question etc) and my eyes just go crazy, even if I'm not looking at them directly, if I notice them turn their head this way in my peripherals I can't relax and act like a normal person. They probably think I'm really weird, which to be fair I am.
I just want this to stop. | Crushes |
A few months ago i met a girl at a club around my age and she keeps smiling at me and looking at me and stuff. Thing is I’m not into her. And when i try and talk to other girls that I’m interested in she seems pissed and everybody thinks I’m seeing her or something. How can i tell her I don’t see her that way? I want to talk to other girls | Crushes |
I’ve had a crush on this guy for more than a year and we only recently started texting a few months ago. I get sick a lot so it’s not uncommon for me to be out of school for a week or two, and he messaged me a few times asking how I was. I wouldn’t think anything of it but he messaged me more than any of my other closer friends and it was almost daily. If I missed school after being there for a while he’d say how he noticed I wasn’t at school and if I was okay. And then he started texting me good morning a few times a week, asking if I had plans, etc. last weekend he texted me every day and asked how I was in the middle of the day which is different from the usual. He usually responds to my texts within the minute and the times I’ve seen him outside of school he’s seemed happy to see me. He even asked me to slow dance with him at a dance we both happened to be at. Him and I don’t talk that much at school and we have completely different schedules so I thought it was a bit strange that he messaged me so much and after thinking about it I feel like he could like me back, but then again he’s said he isn’t interested in dating when a friend asked him. I worry I’m reading into this too much, so do you think he’s just being nice? | Crushes |
As the title goes, she got me (if she hasn't traded another one for me ^_^). She bought me a vexillologist book and some cool tea which is great news as I love tea and I'm really into vexillolgy!!
I'm so happy about this!
The signed the bag with:
"*My name*
with love *her name* ♡"
I don't wanna get to excited as she might be lgbt but I honestly don't know what to look for in that, I don't know anyone irl that's lgbt (it's 100% legal but it's just really rare), all I know is that she had a pride flag (I don't know which one, but not something common as I wound indentyfied it otherwise) and there are also "jokes" about it (she doesn't confirm it, nor tell us it's not)
What do you think? (Also excuse my broken English) | Crushes |
We became friends about 6 years ago now and at the time I was in a relationship. After 5 years we broke it off and I’ve been healing from that ever since (almost a year). Since the breakup I’ve had a few flings but out of nowhere I started catching feelings for one of my closest friends. It started over the summer and got really bad about 2 months ago. We talk every day and hangout almost every weekend. Sometimes alone but mostly with our other friends. We’re the type of friends that made one of those pacts to get married at 40 if we aren’t already married to other people. I just don’t know what to do since I’ve never been attracted to him until now. I’m worried it’s just because he’s nice to me and gives me the attention I’ve been missing since my last relationship ended. He’s also never been in a serious relationship. Should I talk to him about it or do I just keep it to myself? I don’t want our friendship to be ruined if it doesn’t work out. I also don’t want to say anything until I’m sure of my feelings but is this really a school girl crush if it’s been going on for this long? | Crushes |
Before starting it is more of a story and question in end but i will give a brief about my life then (2017) and now please bare me a bit it's a complex thing and i need help real quick(p.s english is not my first language, if errors in my grammar or sentences please cooperate) and it will be a good story i promise
So thing got started in like back 2017 i was like probably 12 13 years old and i use to play guitar and sorta good voice due to which i can say i was first time invited at function outside school and orchestra ,carol an other major events in school...
So i was asked to play at my school farewell function for std 10 (in my country people have important exam at age 15 and 17 and they are termed as 10th and 12th) and with god knows what luck i was placed write in front of girls sitting.
Now ,as part of this functions all girls where dressed traditionally and i didn't have any problem with it to be honest so i was like i will just get my work done but then ofc she sat right infront of me (now please take into CONSIDERATION i didn't have crush on any girl before i use to look every girl as sister and she was 15 and i was 12 or 13)
My heart just did complete 360 on spot like she was so well dressed ,confident and was like just perfect.... i just couldn't take my eyes off her until sir told me that the one who was suppose to play has gotten permission to play and i was asked to take a seat below exactly infront of her.(the guy i mentioned was suppose to play but it was his farewell i was a substitute of him because of my skils and i only use to play play chords,some tabs ,solo and sing whi h was enough criteria then)
So i sat in front of her on a chair not to far staight my face towards her now because of a disturbance cause by chief guest there was a big blunder there (he was our school chair person) and we(me and my fellow musicians from orchestra)were just sitting there in silence as function was going ahead when she looks at me and says "hey play a song for us" (us=she and her friends) now we were given strict rules for not play guitar in free time therefore i regretfully and politely said i can't she looked a bit hurt she asked me "don't i look pretty?"I said" you really are looking"
Then she kept on insisting for sometime but i kept declining her.
At last when function continued, i got to know who she was let me name her"A" for now .she was our school president a topper i true sense she was so confident so elegant i literally can't forget that day not only because of her beauty but also because we were kept six hours hungry due to the disturbance and our tiffin bags missing. So that's how my day ended i thought well i will never see her again
Welll ofc god had other plans for me
Well like i said before i was invited for function first time in that year i was also invited for a similar function in a extra study classes where i use to go for studies other than school (we asians are really dead serious with studies). It was like a farewell for std 10 and 12 and the teacher there specifically requested me to play but i wasn't serious i picked some normal songs and decided to play them.
Now the night came when i had to play ( consider that i haven't met any of my seniors in my classes) i enter the room and take a stand in center of room without looking ahead (stage fear to play infront of unknown people)and i look forward i was too stunned to do anything because it was "A" i focused myself and sang the mix i made and enjoyed that night but someone else's eyes were pn me let us say peeson "B" and She was a cute girl won't lie( i am a good observer about my surroundings) still much didn't happen later that night and i was typically sure i won't meet her again.
Well it was true till certain extent i didn't meet A and B for few years as they went fo different high schools and all and i made a girlfriend in a year or two ( things didn't worked out amd broke up later but that's another story) but i still thought of both of them and wished for their progress and happiness
( i kepted doing aimilar functions)Then lockdown happened and i passed my 10th(successfully)and 11th (somehow as someone close to me died and took my mental peace ) so to get good in studies again i joi same extra classed whivh i left after 10th and then magic happens
Both A and B have been working there since my 11th as supervisor and teachers who check tests and conduct vivas and all where A was biology teacher for class 12th
And at that moment i cussed myself for dropping biology in 11th( i know it is way to long bare with me for last few part)
And i had been doing some gym and all lately currently i look like a man in his 20s while i am 17 and they were 19 or 20 and were sorta flattered looking at me at first i thought well just a year it will go quickly... and then A did something very awesome ( recently i didn't had good time talking girls so i was in a low self esteem) and she just used to pass near by me brush her arm agaist me or leg or finger one time she even held my hand and a month or two later i did same 'accidentally ' of course and her voice pitch rose a bit high i was getting positive that she is openly flirting with me when she stoped addressing me and gone super strict( now because of my low esteem i didn't risk and shoot my shot at her don't get me as not interested in her) and suddenly B whom with i was ina good terms started to get teased actively like you know how girls tease a girl when she is around her crush .. my other teachers did same and i was really confused because due to certain punishment i was the only boy in room this late and all other were girls so i took it as she like me and it was new year time so i thought yeah what ever happens i will complement her .and gathering some spirt did that too but she started ignoring me too and was a bit of angry mood (i can sense people mood and habits by their body language and gestures) and i don't know i delt like she was waiting for me to make a move i didn't know what will happen i got confused where today i noticed A started her gestures again
This thing has gotten me really confused i don't know what will happen this is really frustrating like they both are equally cute awesome , hot ( gods don't kill me)
For your information A is more intelligent than B and B is a bit more cool
A is a extrovert and B is a introvert
Me ultimate introvert
Now if you have read till here i appreciate if you could give me solution over this...... the side story of past was important for my decision of what to do and not i am basically not good with talks with girls so i really want some good tips and i am good in studies don't say go study and
Thank you | Crushes |
So there’s this girl I like, I’ve known her for three years now and she lives about a block further. I’m friends with her older brothers and am also pretty cool with her. I think I want to try and see if I can get something going, but I don’t want to come off too strong, or in case of rejection, make things awkward between us. She’s also gotten to see me mature of the last three years and said that it’s nice for me to have developed further characteristically. I’ve also complimented her a lot of times, the most recent being two days ago over her darker lipstick, saying that it suits her.
What do I do? | Crushes |
We’ve never met in person, and the circumstances of us even meeting online are… complicated at best. I’ll just leave at that - trying to keep this post vague. But I really fucking like him. I think he’s perfect in every way and it makes me so happy to see him happy.
I’m trying to keep things platonic at least at first just because I don’t want him to think that I just have ulterior motives and wanna date him and that’s it. I do really genuinely love him as a friend, and he’s been through a sort of rough patch in life where I think he could really use a friend. But I would be lying if I said there are no romantic feelings there. And tbh… he is really flirty back, I think the feelings might be reciprocated - or maybe he’s just a flirty person, idk.
Anyway. We only know each other online and are a little bit far from each other. Personally that doesn’t deter me as many of my friends are online. I’m completely fine being friends online, being in a LDR temporarily, and even (thinking WAY ahead here) willing to relocate if it ever comes to that. Side note but I’m a pretty nomadic person and I was thinking of moving to a new city again anyway, he’s also mentioned considering moving where I am, not for me, but cause he likes the city. That said, I definitely want to meet up with him and see how things go. I invited him to meet up for a weekend getaway in a month and he said yes. Right around valentine’s day too although that was actually unintentional lol.
I’m really fucking nervous… He doesn’t have to want to date me, I know how to manage my expectations. I just hope he doesn’t end up hating me, or that I don’t embarrass myself or make things awkward or something. I tend to love fast and hard, even platonically lol, and I really don’t want to just scare him away by being “too much”. He’s been treated so poorly by another person in the recent past and it’s fucked up his confidence a little, and while that has nothing to do with me I’m stuck between wanting to show him that he really does deserve love and understanding and should be proud of himself and like himself, and “playing it cool” so that I don’t potentially fuck things up. I kind of think the fact he even said yes to the getaway means he might be interested in me too, but it’s tough to say. I just hope it goes well. I hope no matter the outcome he at least realizes how awesome he is. I care so much my heart hurts. 🥺 | Crushes |
I honestly don't know what to do about this. There's a three-part story about my crush from high school on my profile, and I will link it in the comments, but basically I had a crush on this girl in HS, I blew my chance, slowly forgot about her, and then she re-entered my life years later by working at a place I delivered to for my old job, re-igniting my vehement attraction towards her. I quit that job over a year ago to escape that situation, but she is still constantly on my mind. Not a minute goes by that I don't think about her. Back in high school she wasn't in any of my classes so I only saw her in the halls, and this was in 2004 to 2005. To this day I have recurring dreams of wandering those halls in my old high school, looking for her. This happens at least once a week
I don't know why this obsession got this bad. I think the main reason is because I blew my chance to talk to her. Usually, when I push myself to talk to someone I have a crush on, the anxiety disappears and my attraction towards that person usually wanes a little. But since I never talked to her, my attraction towards her is still every bit as strong, if not stronger, than it was in high school. I'm sure if I did talk to her, It could make me feel better, but how do I go about it? The only potentially active social medium she has is an Instagram as far as I can tell, and even if I did reach out to her, what on Earth would I say? I can't just randomly message her after that long of a time and just unload my feelings onto her. It would definitely be way too much for her to unpack and randomly messaging her in hopes to get over these feelings wouldn't be fair to her, since it's not her responsibility to make me stop feeling the way I do. Plus I don't even know if she would remember me (for context, she did know I had a crush on her back in high school, and for a while I believe she even reciprocated that crush until I lost my nerve and backed out when it came time for her friends to introduce me to her. There's more to it but you can read about it more in my previous story for context.)
Part of me wants to reach out and talk it out but it's such a delicate situation and I don't know how it would go down. I constantly bounce back and forth between thinking I should reach out and thinking I should just leave her alone. I talked to my therapist about it but I am not really sure if I am vibing with my current therapist and may switch to a different one and see what they say.
This literally feels like a mental illness, somewhere along the lines of OCD. The rush I get from seeing her or even seeing a picture of her is almost like an addiction. It gives me a surge of feel-good chemicals and a massive boost in drive and motivation that nothing else in this world gives me. This alone has pushed me to pursue and accomplish bigger and better things in life so is this really a bad thing? I need help. | Crushes |
I confessed to them today and they said that they like me back, we're a couple now!!!!! I'm so damn happy | Crushes |
A guy in one of my classes I’ve caught looking at me more than a few times but we don’t talk outside of class. How can people tell if someone is interested? | Crushes |
Basically what can I say to her to start a conversation. For context I have her on snap and she sent me a picture of her and she looked amazing like always. Basically is there something I can say to start and get a conversation going and not just snaps? Would just simp compliment work? Where would I go from there? | Crushes |
I've been following a guy on instagram. He isn't a content creator, just a random guy. But he's super handsome, we are into the exact same music, his overall vibe in general is so lovely and positive. I've actually been crushing on him. I want to direct message him but I'm too nervous to do so. I was thinking of messaging him something nice, in hopes of befriending him. But like I said, too nervous to actually go ahead and message. And if he responds, I hope he continues talking to me and becomes friends with me. Should I reach out to him or not? If so, what I should or shouldn't say to him? How do I go about this? Omg I'm so scared. Any advice or tips would be appreciated.
One of the other reasons why I'm hesitating to reach out to him is because I feel like I'm not on his level. Like, I know I'm a attractive woman too, I've been called that a lot. But still I'm insecure. He also seems like a super creative guy, making music and all, and I feel like I'm boring. And I've noticed, he interacts with supermodel looking girls mostly so I don't know if he'll like me 🙈
I'm new to this whole sliding into DMs on Instagram thing lol | Crushes |
Is that d love or crush?
I usually refer to her as my crush but I don't think that's the case anymore as I've been loving her for more then 2 years (and increasingly).
I still have the social skills of a potato so we talk about 2-3 times a week (usually not even smalltalk) but even though I hear people saying that "if she loves you she will talk to you", I also hear as many people saying "If she loves you, she will avoid you"
I don't know what to think anymore | Crushes |
So today my crush asked me if I had lost weight since last year and I have lost weight since last year, but I just thought that was a really random question to ask me. Also I was told that it was a typical question for his culture, but I was still very confused. What do you guys think? | Crushes |
Well I ended up confessing to her and honestly it kinda hurt she said she I was amazing person and would be down only also saying how I always check up on her make sure she’s okay only bad think is we live 2 hours away from other for a car ride and if I need to take a bus it’s 5 hours and tbh I don’t know if she said it out of true feelings or just didn’t want to hurt me we still talk but not by much anymore. | Crushes |
I like him, and i think he likes me but he said that he still doesn't know what he feels about me yet, what does that mean? | Crushes |
After my friend tried but haven't succeeded to be her bf.
I'm trying to move on.
I think she doesn't care about me and she's also trying to get away from me I think.
I've seen that I only ask about her grades and other school-related stuff and she doesn't.
I'm saying "Thank god" because this crushing time was driving me to hell about everything and I hope I'll succeed to move on from her. | Crushes |
I have a crush on a boy in my school we are from different classes.We became friends after playing pinball and riding the same bus for a few times .He is very social and he has many friends while I have no friends and people don't like me. i am very unpopular in my class my classmates also belittle me.i don't want to look like a loser to him what should I do?I feel comfortable when i am with him.He is a great listener.He never ridicules me and he gives me value unlike the other people.I have fun when i am with him.Everything bad that happened in a day just vanishes after i spend time with him. In break times he always walks around the corridor with his friends and he sees me . i am afraid to look like a loner to him .And he is so valuable to me that i don’t want him to pull away from me i don’t want him to feel strange from me.I don't know what to do ? I want to look like a cool person to him not a loser. | Crushes |
Please..😟😟😟😟 | Crushes |
yesterday i was all like well screw it, im getting over him, im really angry at him so yk FUCK him. i just woke up this morning after having a dream and in that dream he was being really sweet to me and now im pissed 😭 | Crushes |
I sit next to my crush and bestfriend in english class(foreign language to us), she always acts strange when I sit next to her, for example:
•she just randomly looked into my eyes for 1 second then looked away
.My friend asked me what a word in english meant, as I was about to tell him my crush got really close to my face( i guess to her the word but it was just too close, i respond pretty loudly anyway) should also mention that i'm in between them 2.
•My friend had some oranges, my crush wanted one but I got the last one right before her, she would normaly get mad but she just smiled at me and said a minor insult i dont think its even considered an insult( I did share it whit her)
•overall she just acts weird around me, from what ive seen she acts different whit the other boys in my class.
•Not only in enhlish class but all troughout the day ive seen her staring at me
Do these mean anything? Im just curious. | Crushes |
she don’t care about me. Just likes the attention. | Crushes |
I have a crush on someone that I talk to everyday but recently I feel like he’s been avoiding me and being cold towards me. Normally he replies quickly and we talk for ages but recently, I haven’t been able to talk to him much and I wait for a reply for over an hour and often more. I understand if he’s busy but it is the school holidays so I’m not sure whether he is or not. Also when either if us goes to sleep, he usually always says good night but recently, all he’s been saying is “I’m gonna go sleep now bye”. No good nights whatsoever. I feel like he hates me and I don’t want that to happen but I can’t seem to figure out what I’ve done wrong. Am I just overthinking? Should I just leave him alone? | Crushes |
There's this guy I've been following on Instagram for a while now. I don't know him, but I have a crush on him. Omg I'm crushing so hard on him! He's like the most beautiful man I've ever seen 😍 Looking at pictures of him smiling, makes me feel like he's actually smiling at me lol 🥺 I feel like a teenage girl, who's having a crush on the cutest guy in the entire school, but is too nervous to approach him 😭 lmao except, he'd be a cute nerdy guy than a jock or something haha I want to kiss him and I want him to kiss me back so bad omfg 🙈🖤🖤 Not gonna lie, this is such a good feeling though. I haven't felt this way for anyone, not in a long time at least. I know we haven't even talked yet, but still. Be mine 😩 handsome stranger! 😜
I'm soooo nervous to approach him. I'm afraid of it not going well or him having a lack of interest in me. Maybe I should not reach out to him and just admire from afar.
He has no idea but he's already playing the main character of my story, starring in my imaginary movie and music videos haha
He looks like an angel. Has a lovely vibe about him as well. He's pure poetry! 🖤
This is just something I wanted to share ☺️ | Crushes |
So me and my friend are basically almost the same. We only talk in school but I think maybe she might have a crush on me. She brings up some of the past like “ Do you remember this?” She also when shes bored grabs my paper and writes stuff like circles or words. | Crushes |
WOOO
hoping to get his number soon🤭🤭 | Crushes |
So, I’ve had a pretty big crush on this guy since the beginning of the school year. He’s so incredibly genuine, smart, adorable, and he just overall checks all of my boxes. He’s what I’d call a “walking green flag” and I really like him but I’m almost most definitely sure that he does not like me in the way I want him to.
For some context he runs this club at school which I decided to be apart of mainly because of him, I first got to know him because he would often do work in my Pre calc teachers room during lunch time which I also do at times. I found him very attractive from the beginning that I saw him and so we talked and as we talked he persuaded me to join his club. I thought that I could get close to him by joining his club but it hasn’t really worked out like I planned.
It’s been months since I joined and all of our convos have been short and they’re always school/academic related. I’m a really shy girl and although I’d like to genuinely get to know him better as a person I don’t know how to. An opportunity to ask him more questions about himself just simply hasn’t arisen, I’m also not sure if getting to know him is even worth it since he’s a senior and I’m a junior, and in a few months he’ll graduate.
I’m so conflicted on what to do, I’ve also thought about confessing to him at the end of the year by writing him a letter just so that I can get these feelings off my chest but idk if that would be cringy or not. I’m just at a loss, he’s a great guy and I have an intense crush on him but I simply don’t know how to exactly get close to him without making it awkward or weird. Someone please give me some advice on what to do in my situation. :( | Crushes |
Sorry my English is not good
So me (22m) I had a friendship with a (23f) we started to talk and hang together in college ... Our relationship became so deep we can talk about anything like it's normal jokingly I said to her let's date and she doesn't react about it bcz yea we became that deep in our friendship..
So she was older than me and she wasn't thinking about be in a relationship again after her breakup and she told me that many times ... After years since I knew her I started to have feelings for her, I conffessed to her even I know she will not accept due to age gap and due to her situation (don't want to be in relationship) ...
I conffessed, the surprising thing that she didn't turn berserk as she told many times that if a male friend told her to be in relationship she turns mad
For me she just smiles and tells me that she's older than me ( 11 months that's all) and she told me that I have courage to tell her that... And for the rest of the day we hang together she kept smiles and denies to be in a relationship but at the same time she turns to be calm not as I knew her before (more noisy and powerful) we kept talking as normal for the rest of the day now the college ends and probably I will not see her only after two weeks and it's for the last time...
Idk , is she waiting for me to ask her again more and more ? ... Or she just rejected me in a polite way just to not lose our friendship? Even though I should say she's not into texting to much I use Facebook more she uses ig ...
So help | Crushes |
We've both already confessed to each other but I can't help but feel inferior compared to his other pretty female friends. This is so stressful | Crushes |
I (19F) don’t know this guy very well, as we’re both college freshman we met each other just a few months ago. He’s the only one who lives near me from our friend group and would bring up several times that we should hang out together over break. I mean I don’t have anything against him and I think we’re good friends. I don’t know if he’s wanting to hang out as more than friends though. I’ve asked if there’s anyone else we’re meeting and he said no, so it’s just the two of us hanging out in a couple days.
He’s extroverted and seems to have no trouble hanging out with guys and girls. He’s really nice to girls in general too, so I can’t tell if he’s having special interest in me. Everyone in the group thought he was gay because of this and for Halloween he dressed up as the little mermaid. But he told us he isn’t very clearly.
I’m more kept to myself and an introvert so I have no idea what to make of this situation. I wouldn’t go out of my way to hang out with a friend who I don’t know too well, especially if it’s someone of the opposite gender and especially more if it’s just the two of us. Is he into me?? Or just being nice? | Crushes |
So my crush wears cologne, and to me, it's really intense. And my nose isn't too great, I can't smell a lot of things that other people can. When my crush walks by me, the scent of his cologne lingers in the air for several seconds. It's really hard to concentrate sometimes, because *dang*, it smells so freaking good. It's especially hard if I haven't eaten anything, I guess I just have less self control when I'm hungry. But anyway, the point is that my crush obviously wears a lot of cologne if I can smell it. Definitely more than a light spritz.
Anyway, I got off work today and my brother took me home. When we arrived, I turned to him and said "Maybe you should subtly tell (crush) that he wears too much cologne. I mean, it doesn't smell bad, the problem is that it actually smells really good, it's very distracting."
Then he just laughed and said "I don't ever smell his cologne." And told me that he hadn't even noticed that my crush wore cologne at all. Like, he'd never once smelled his cologne, and he's closer with my crush than I am. They've even hugged before. How did he not smell the cologne? And my brother's nose works better than mine.
He told me my nose is probably more sensitive to his scent because I have a crush on him. Which might be true, but argh, that means I can't ask anyone to ask him to wear less cologne, because they'd just look at me all confused and wonder why I'm so worked up about just a tiny bit of cologne. Because apparently he wears so little that my brother can't smell it even when hugging him??
Sorry for the super long post, it just blew my mind when my brother told me he couldn't smell my crush's cologne and I had to kinda rant about it. | Crushes |
i deleted my posts i think as i made them but the guy i liked we'd been talking every day for months playing games watching shows and just having lots of fun convos and then finally we hung out in person since he lives still in the same state as me, not the closest but not the worst for distance, and he essentially asked if i liked him, i ended up saying i hadn't really thought of it and stuff and lied saying nothing weird since he expressed not wanting to lead me on, then he confessed and said he actually didn't view me as just a friend and i think my soul left my body and i had to awkwardly admit i had just lied out of my teeth 😭 then we held hands and i've been having so much fun getting to know him more personally the days following since then and i'm very excited to see him again soon im not sure if i should write a letter or maybe make a little dating application as a funny way to express that i would like to date im not sure but aH i feel eeeeeeeeee <33 | Crushes |
Like this guy was 𝘵𝘩𝘦 blueprint of what my type would be. I knew him for quite some and I couldn’t get enough of him and with the way he looked. Now the guys that I get attracted to look similar to him and I can’t shake him off. The way I see it is him literally being the blue print for the guys I am attracted to today. I’ve been trying to find my type for a while and once I met him…that was it. So yeah.
He has dark brown hair I believe and that’s the color beard and a mustache so now I’m attracted to guys that have beards and mustaches in that specific color 😭I hate when I get attracted to guys I just think him of instinctively. I’m sure it will pass.
PSA: I’m not crushing on the guy I’m taking about I’m crushing on the type of men in into. He was in my life as long as he needed to be✌️going into the sexual route for a bit-It’s literally a deal break for me if the guy doesn’t have the peen he has. Dear lord forgive me 🤣 | Crushes |
he has the cutest smile ever and his laugh is the best thing i’ve ever heard 😭 OMG his waist & arms.. i just want to hug him again | Crushes |
having a stupid little crush is so embarrassing and shameful for me, whhhyyyy???
I promised myself to focus on loving myself more instead of falling in love but now I’m crushing on this person and I feel so shameful which makes me have anxiety around them .. Aaaaa I’m scared | Crushes |
I have the biggest work crush on one of my coworkers. I only get to see him 3 days a week. hes maybe 35 years old.. and i’m 23😭. my crush developed when me and some work buddies went to a bar and got super drunk, when I went to say hello to him he hugged me.. by the end of the night we were chatting it up and he offered to take me home. I said no, even tho I wished I wouldve said yes. we hugged goodbye. every once in in a while at work he’ll ask me to throw another get together, and in my head thats me thinking he wants to hang out with me.. but then I humble myself and tell myself theres no way. theres no way.. I try to give signals that I like him, but theres a bit of a language barrier and i’m worried he might think i’m too young for him. I need to get over him, but i’m not sure how😭 I know hes much older than me but he doesnt treat me the way the other older guys at work treat me. hes so sweet to me.. and is playful😔 the other day he trained this one girl and I realized how much I liked him bc of how jealous I was seeing them interact. at the end of the day hes much older, theres bit if a language barrier, and I just dont see why he would want to actually be with me. | Crushes |
I’ve posted this here before, but my crush plays flute very well, despite having only played for about two and a half (?) years.
Here’s my problem: I like to listen to arrangements of hymns on YouTube (like [this one](https://youtu.be/6V4bzKWrMhM)), and whenever I listen to one with flute, I think of her. This has sort of caused me to fall in love with the sound of the flute, as well as reinforcing how much I like her.
Is this a problem, or should I not worry about it? | Crushes |
Context: Him (18M) and I (18F) are friends. We are in college. I usually only see him during class, and we talk throughout and before/after class. I studied with him alone once and went to football games with him.
How do I make it obvious to him I like him without it being weird!!!! I really enjoy his friendship, so I don’t wanna make things awkward bc I need to stay his friend so we can study for this extremely difficult class
I think he possibly likes me but also could just be super friendly (for more info see my only other post I’ve made) | Crushes |
First of all, me and her had a rough breakup but it happened about 2 months ago.
And I believe it is objectively because of her decisions that we didn’t workout, i would’ve loved to still be with her and I do still miss her.
However about 2 weeks after the breakup I did say some things about her that she didn’t like and that is why she is so mad at me (I think)
Now, it’s been 2 months and I know she has had at least her eyes on one other guy. So I assumed she had forgotten about me and that she didn’t care anymore.
But now out of nowhere, i hear that she has cut off 2 of her friends just because they occasionally hang around or with me (in groups)
And I don’t even understand why she’s doing that now all of a sudden because I’ve been friends with her friends during these 2 months and there’s been no change in behavior with any of us.
I am honestly confused and I feel bad for the friends (one of which is her best friend) because they had nothing to do with the breakup | Crushes |
I’ve been trying to remember what color my crush’s eyes are, and I finally did it. Every time our eyes lock I go into a trance and forget everything. I am pleased to now say that his eyes are blue! | Crushes |
Its not our first time meeting after we came back but its still exciting. I got my yellow heart on snapchat back after 3 weeks of losing it due to time zone difference. During the break, i also asked my mom to print a bunch of photos of me and my friends for me to decorate my room. But she printed a few extras so I decided to give him a picture of us (us going out for dinner and he asked to take a selfie together) today. He better keeps that for the rest of his life at least.
At the end of the day, i got really exhausted from socialising and i met him on the way to my friend's dorm. After saying hi and seeing that my friends are not seeing, i reached out my arms and approached him. Without saying a word, he went in for a hug and we held there for a while. Afterwards, i thought it would be awkward or he would at least ask why but he just asked me random question about my day and my class. | Crushes |
idk what to flair this, it’s gush/vent/rant thingy lmao
i think my crush likes this one girl in my class, nothing is confirmed and ion even know if what he does is really “showing signs” but it still hurts a bit.
i don’t think she likes him at all either.
but, even so, here’s what really matters; his happiness.
i might like him a lot, maybe even love him a tiny bit. so, if i feel this way about him, wouldn’t i want what’s best for him?
i want him to be happy with whoever he wants. and there’s a high chance it won’t be me, maybe it won’t be anyone.
i want him to have nothing but good and happy days with the one he loves, whoever that may be.
he deserves it, and, if it’s not me, cool :)
i hope they love him a lot
i want him to go on all the dates he wants to with them, i want them to go to all his games and cheer him on. i want them to pick him up when he’s sad, or tell him he did his best in a test or in a sport.
i want them to love him unconditionally and *never* tell him he’s too much, he’s too good for this planet tbh
i just want him to be happy and treated well. i know he’ll be loyal and try so hard to make them the happiest. i think they’d be the one to break up with him, unfortunately.
i’m not letting him go just yet, but one day i’ll have to, and i want to let him go hoping he finds someone better than me who can be his everything. and with hope for myself that i’ll be someone’s everything <3 | Crushes |
There is this girl, not my crush right now though. She broke up with her boyfriend due to him cheating on her when he kissed another girl on New Years day.
Lately she seems bothered or upset over something. Which is probably that. I've asked a few times if she is doing alright. Which she said no ever asks that and said thank you.
She keeps saying she is fine, but it doesn't really seem that way. I don't want to keep asking to the point she is annoyed. But I just kinda want to know if she is really okay. | Crushes |
Okay so for context my crush and I have been fake dating and flirting etc since the middle of last year or something, yet in the past few months i’ve realised i genuinely like her which is all fine and dandy BUT, my friends are constantly joking about how we’re ‘in love’ and what not
we’ve gotten close and like i mean really close over the holidays and have made plans or ‘dates’ and have even mentioned our future together, all of our interests and hobbies are similar and we’re constantly bonding whenever we’re hanging out- ANYWAY so that’s just a brief explanation of us i suppose but the main thing is, she has autism and adhd and basically hyper fixates and just enjoys basically everything so i can never tell if she actually likes me or if it’s just an autism/adhd thing
note: if enough people can convince me she might actually like me- i’m going to ask her out :)) | Crushes |
I have a small crush on a guy in my math class, we've never spoken or anything but I think he's cute. Anyway, I told my friend about him, and he immediately texted him about it. Now my crush knows, but he doesn't know.
What should I do?
Should I lie to my crush and tell them my friend was joking, or should I just stay quiet?
I don't want this to completely kill my chance of becoming friends with him. | Crushes |
So often times she randomly asks me if I like her outfits out of the blue.
Also someone told me that she likes me but that was last year. Also last year one of her friends turned to me and said “she has something to tell you“ and she laughed and said ummmm and I said ok, but that was last year. Last year she went over to the place where me and my friends hang out with her other friends who I knew used to like to me and my friends had to tell her to go and stop “flirting with me“ because I was getting kinda annoyed sometimes.
She has two friends who kept saying the other likes me (accompanied her) and she was like “are they annoying you?“ trying to make them seem crazy and stuff.
In math my math teacher sat me next to her and she was laughing and turned super red and my math teacher said “what’s so funny", but for some reason when she is sitting next to me she is super quiet. I was told she was also really glad to sit next to me by her friends.
My friends say “she likes you“ and “I could really see you two together“. Also she randomly waves to me in situations it’s almost weird to wave in and smiles, and randomly tells me things that honestly don’t matter. She also is always saying: “ go (my name)!“ and “let’s go (my name)!“
Its been three years but I have her Snapchat now because she asked for mine and we send random snaps every day but nothings happened. Do y’all think she likes me? | Crushes |
There Is A girl in my class and I started noticing she was giving me looks, until I caught on what she was doing. I don't know how to appraoch her what I say? Im introverted so sometimes I feel nervous to look at her and give her a tempting look. I don't want to miss this oppurtunity and I want to make my move.
Thank you | Crushes |
(Take note of the flags in the title)
Ugh he is just so hot. Like him and I send snaps back and forth and at night I can tell he doesn’t have a shirt on and each time I see anything that implies he doesn’t have a shirt on I freak out. Idk if it’s cuz I wish I could do that without hiding so much of myself or because I’m just rly attracted to him. Probably both. Sometimes I send snaps back without a shirt on, it’s not like I’m showing anything. You cant even tell I have tits. | Crushes |
SOMEONE HELP. 😭
Like we’ve been hanging out lately, we don’t really hug we meet.
But I (23F) feel like I should start with that?
But like how 😭😭
Would it be weird to start off randomly?
I don’t want him (24M) to feel weird
(He does find me attractive)
(But he too shy) | Crushes |
Last post I was upset my crush loved someone else. Drum roll pleaseeeeeee 🥁🥁🥁🥁🥁I confessed and they like me back! LOWKEY thought I was gonna get rejected. Any tips for what to do now? :) | Crushes |
ok so i have a really good friends who’s name is isabella and her bf name is clayton and i need a shipname for the them help me out pls 😭🙏🏽 | Crushes |
I want to be with somebody... But I can't develop a crush on anybody. And I really want to. How do you get a crush on someone? | Crushes |
alright here we go
so me (m) likes this girl (we will call her “crush”…..
Context- we are in the same ski race team and school ai we spent lots of time together.
so let’s start at the beginning. I start liking a girl on the team but then i find out that my friend likes her too. so i started talking to her friend on the team (we will call wing). I figured out that my friend who likes crush is friendzoned and when wing asked crush if she liked any one on the team she said “Maybe”.
let’s skip forward a little bit we took off our gloves on the chairlift and held hands saying our hands were cold (this happened multiple times that day)
later on the bus she played with my hair for like 20 min because it was “ entertaining”
we have still been talking and i don’t know how she feels.
what should i do | Crushes |
i dont even remember when it started tbh but ive liked him since the beginning of this school year (16f and 16m) hes genuinely so funny, cute, and he such a nerd its insane. you could ask him to give you fun facts for anything and he could spend three hours just explaining something. everytime i see him its like i get more attracted to him. i get jealous anytime he talks to another girl. i swore i would never be one of the people that would get jealous like that but here i am and we’re not even dating. he us everything that ive ever wanted. but ive never been in a relationship or even kissed anyone so im not gonna tell him. but i dont hide the fact that i like him ans quite a few people know at this point but i just wanted to talk about him to more people besides my bestfriend and my family lol | Crushes |
This is going to be a vent so hold my cup. You know it’s so strange how this turned out. I’m honestly confused, sad n frustrated. This all started back in 2021 when I wanted to watch the new spider man movie. Didn’t have anyone to ask so I just randomly asked my friends. All rejected but one. Her name is…. Let’s call her ( Jessica ). So me n Jess kinda planned our outing tgt one on one, I was really surprised bc I’ve nvr been on a one on one and she has also watched that movie already, so she’s willing to watch it again with me. For context I didn’t rlly like her then. Aight so we went to the movies ps; it’s not a date so don’t worry. To summarise that outing, we actually hit it off well. I rlly enjoyed my time with her even tho it was my first one on one especially with a girl ( I’m introverted n shy), that also happened on the 31st of Dec so it was also a bit special u know. She chose to spend that last day of 2021 with me.
Aight fast forward to February, my grp of friends decided to go on an outing and during that time I’ve developed a slight illness that causes my hand to shake. So I told Jess that my hands will be shaking and everyone would see that n it would be so embarrassing. Next thing she said ‘ I’ll hold your hand it u want’, ngl I was so shocked n didn’t know how to respond. The day of the outing comes. My hands started to shake and I quietly told Jess my hands r shaking quite badly. She then offered her hand. But my stupid introverted attitude went like ‘………..’ yes I got so flustered n didn’t respond to that question, so she said ‘nah you don’t want to hold my hand right’ all I did was just kept quite I didn’t know what to say my brain just froze( I’ve nvr held a girl’s hand). Aight so after that grp outing was done we head home.
During March, we were preparing for an exam and I told her that it’d be cool if I went over to study like a study SESSION. Emphasise session bc she later then said, ‘ we can have a study DATE’. Again I took that as another hint that she might be interested. So as I got more comfortable with her I too started using ‘our study date’.
April…… the month of reckoning. The final last kind of romantic gesture she did for me was to make a music playlist. She knew I liked RnB and we’ve been exchanging our music interest for a bit and out of no where she text to me and said’ hey I made an RnB playlist for you, hope you likey’. Again I was shocked. At this point I rlly liked her, I mean she did some things that really close friends or couples would do. So naturally I tot she liked. Towards the end of April 2022 she dropped a bomb. She told me and I quote ‘ hey just wanted to say I have a boyfriend now’. When I first saw it was had no emotion I was just like yeahhh just my luck, but the following days later were hard bc it was then I realise that I really do like her and can’t help but felt very sad and I didn’t have the motivation to do anything.
You could say I took too long to make a move in her but I didn’t for a reason. She also showed signs she wasn’t interested like she would talk awhile to text me back like half a day to a day. She also called me bro occasionally.
At present I think I’ve almost fully moved on. I started to care abt her less and I’m working in myself like hitting the gym and doing hobbies that make me happy. After this incident I just felt like no matter how much a girl can show her interest, you can’t be too sure. I rarely text to her now so that’s one said thing. We used to be so close. A man is dangerous when he healed his wounds himself | Crushes |
So my crush is actually my manager who is around 14 years older than me.. there was something about him right away that drew me to him, but I’m not sure what. I’ve only got to speak to him more this week after being new to the job and having no experience in it, hence not doing as well as other starters who are older than me (im 19), but he’s been really understanding about it. He’s extroverted and even told me that I’m the most quiet person he’s worked with since I’m naturally shy and quiet, especially around people I’ve had a crush on in the past.. I just don’t know how i can get closer to him, i know i can improve in my job the best I can | Crushes |
For me, I'm about 45% sure my crush likes me back. We've never spoken, but based on brief stares and mannerism, I can literally feel it in my gut lol. Idk. What do you think? | Crushes |
title. she kissed me | Crushes |
Helloo, this is kinda a update to my update post from last time. Anyways, the guy I liked says he liked me BUT idk at this point. He acts dry n I can't make a convo with him. He also opened about having multiple crushes a while back; he's hanging out with one of them a lot. Please give me advice, thank you! | Crushes |
Seen a lot of people doing these so I thought it’d be fun | Crushes |
*Copying this from another forum I posted on, which has a character limit, so I apologize for any awkward wording or punctuation.*
I'm at a new school this year (sophomore), and as we go into the second semester, I've realized I developed a crush on this boy named B. For the record I go to a small school with 21 kids in my grade and everyone is in almost every class except when we spilt for honors. B is really funny. As the months have gone on he's been really friendly and likes to make small talk. I'm not exactly in his friend group, but we still chat in a few of our classes and in the halls waiting for our rides home.
The World Cup happened recently, and since I love soccer (football) I got really into it and talked about it with my friends. B joined the conversation and after that seemed to have a sudden obsession with the sport after that (unusual because we live in America). Sure, World Cup brings in loads of new fans. But whenever we would talk about it, B clearly didn't know much about the sport. I wasn't trying to gatekeep or anything, but he could only name two players and at that mispronounced their names. I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt but it was obvious he hadn't watched a single game.
Besides soccer, I also like video games. I've been wanting a PS5 since it released and talked about it with B. He mentioned anytime he saw one in stores to me after that. I ended up getting one for Christmas, but since I didn't have him on Snap or his # I had no way to tell him. On the first day back from Christmas break, a girl from his friend group shouted across our home room, saying B wanted to know if I got a PS5. I replied yes, and then she said he wanted to tell me he saw one the day before and added the comment: "he was thinking about you" Obviously I just kinda smiled. I helped him quite a bit in English class the next day, so I guess he didn't get too embarrassed by the comment, even though he seemed agitated with his friends.
Now we're at the Monday following that day. He wasn't at school today but I saw his account as a quick-add and he hasn't added me back (2hrs ago). Why? | Crushes |
So basically I done a multitude of stupid, cringy moves; when one move succeeds I screw up and go back to where I started, a sad,lonely mess of a human. I've emailed her, gave her a drawing I made oh and wait, NOTHING ELSE. I've tried getting over her but every time I try I see her, I end up falling for her again. We used to be friends, good ones even, but ever since then we've never talk. I have "flirted" with her via email but most of the time she responded with "huh😭😭😭😭" which got irritating after a while. At least one good thing to come out of this mess is that I keep catching her looking at me which may be a good thing. So now you know I need advice, ill take advice of any kind. | Crushes |
How do i ask my crush out?(without it being straight foreword) so im about 85% sure that she likes me. I don't want too say (hey wanna go out with me😏) can someone help me??? | Crushes |
Continuing this never ending saga of me wondering if Laura (crush secret name) likes me, today was a building day.
In gym she asked me to be her rebounder and I carried through that promise as well as talking with friends. Then when gym was wrapping up, I was putting mats away and Laura was lying on them and as we put them, she gets back up. Laura asked why we didn't let her sleep on the mat. Then waiting in line, I felt her grab my shoulders and jumped on me almost like she wanted to get on my back (I think...).
In science, me and her made a handshake (she wanted to) cuz why not and one of her friend says it was a gang thing and she said don't mind him. I was personally confused.
Then throughout the day she did the thing of saying bong as she hits my bottle (I wanna do it now tbh...).
Oh Laura, I wish I had to guts to tell you have I feel... hopefully this week. | Crushes |
I've known this boy since I was 6 year old; I'm currently 17 Right now. He was at my 6th birthday party, then he did the most cutest thing ever. He got on one knee and attempted to propose to me even though we were kids, then he begged my parents to arrange a picnic date with me 🥰 So Basically, he was my childhood crush. Unfortunately he moved away, and my parents lost touch with his parents, so I haven't seen him in YEARS.
However, my mother messaged his mom on Facebook, and made a plan to reconnect with him again. I've seen his pictures of being my current age and OH LORD HES HANDSOME. Also, I just FOUND OUT that he's a ACTOR in couple of movies, which is incredibly shocking to me. Very excited and nervous!! | Crushes |
I’m a sixteen year old male just so you know who you’re dealing with.
This story is quick because I’ve told the prologue countless times before. I’ve liked this girl for almost a year now. The other day one of my friends randomly made an open guess about who I liked; he was right. Him and his girlfriend saw right through me. The two of them knew the girl I liked, and so I asked if they could see the two of us together in which they said yes. They did bring up a familiar thing I’ve noticed however, the girl I like has never really been interested in relationships. I had had one conversation with her about it almost two years ago, in which she said she didn’t prioritize dating but it would be nice. My two friends offered to bring it up with her and let me know, and so I unfortunately woke up to the news that “She doesn’t like anyone.”
It really sucked to read that message. All that time I felt as if very recently something was there but it turns out not in her eyes. And now I’m faced with the question of whether I need to let those feelings go or not. There’s a multitude of stories I’ve heard about the type of guy who only stays friends with a girl in hopes that they’ll date him, and I’ve never wanted to be that guy. So with that said, I feel like I should abandon these feelings for her, and it’s that right there that hurts me most. Even being hurt, I can’t even cry. God I wish I could cry but I can’t push a tear out for the life of me. I want to cry over her but my body won’t let me be sad. I need this sense of relief so please why can’t I have it.
Let me shed a tear and cleanse myself of the way I feel for her, and then let me move on as if those feelings were never there. Let me just be her friend again like we once were. I want that status quo.
It’s hard to get over a girl so beautiful. Not in the sense of her looks, but beautiful in the way that she embodied every detail of what I can only now describe as my dream girl. Because it was only now that I realized she were only ever a dream. | Crushes |
There’s this cute guy on the track team with me. I find him cute and developed a crush on him. He is a grade older than me so I never got the chance to talk with him. I asked him once about our teacher but that was it. He was looking at the side instead of looking at me in the eye. He never looks at me face to face and has his head down or playing with the front of his hair. When it’s only two of us walking after workout he goes to the bathroom. Today I walked out of the exit he usually does but he went downstairs instead of outside. I’ll say it’s probably because there is a basketball game today and he wants to stay after school and watch but it was 20 minutes before the game. I don’t know what to do. I want to talk with him in track but everyone is nosy. No one knows I have a crush on him either. I want to ask a guy that he’s friends with if he has a gf but the guy is friends with some of my friends and they talk a lot. I need help. Is he shy or ignoring me? Should I give up? | Crushes |
Last semester at school, I gave it my all every day, and I did actually end up getting the courage to go talk to her two times. But, here in the second semester, I'm down trying. It's drained me so much, trying. It hurts, but I've now realized that unless I get really lucky (she talks to me, we get put together, etc) I'm not making any progress at all. It hurts, because I wanna be with her so bad, but I just can't keep trying anymore. And assuming I don't get lucky, it's all over bascially. And it hurts to think about. | Crushes |
I’ll start, DIOR J'ADORE | Crushes |
My crush wears the same style of jacket every single day: fleece thing with a zip up. I found an oversized one in the exact same style but a different color on SHEIN. I bought it on a whim cuz it reminded me of him, expecting to just wear it at home. (that part is creepy, I know)
I realized it’s actually really cute despite being super big. And warm for winter. If I wore it to school do you think it would creep him out/he would clock it as copying him (he vaguely knows me)? Or would he think I have a boyfriend cuz it’s big? Or am I overthinking things? Pls help it’s so cute | Crushes |
Subsets and Splits
No community queries yet
The top public SQL queries from the community will appear here once available.