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I HAVE BEEN ABSENT FOR LIKE A WEEK BECAUSE I WAS SICK, I WAS LITERALLY DREAMING ABOUT HIM AND TOMORROW I CAN GO BACK TO SCHOOL AND SEE HIM AGAIN UGHHHHH THIS IS AMAZING | Crushes |
How to describe the relationship between him and I…? I’d probably use only one word: Complicated.
I confessed some weeks ago but we decided to not approach that topic any further. (A/N: He also said he liked me btw)
Up to some days before, we’ve been texting and were pretty friendly with each other. I would had called us friends but never mind.
Last week I went over to his place because I had troubles with my family and I didn’t want to go home. We talked a lot. About what happened at home but also about everything else. Although we hung out some times before it was the first time we were alone.
That’s when for the first time he started the topic which would’ve probably lead to discussing my confession. That was also my cue to leave because I didn’t want our relationship to become awkward. And also because I’m still pretty sure that he doesn’t want any relationship with anyone at the moment.
But it did get awkward anyways. Even though we had been texting each other constantly over several weeks, he stopped answering me. I don’t think that my crush on him is as bad as it used to be but it still hurts because I did consider him a friend of mine.
And losing a friend is much more hurtful in my opinion. Also I just would like to know why he’s avoiding me like that and what exactly I did to make things that way. | Crushes |
for context he asked me out two days ago. and of course i am absolutely overjoyed to be able to date this guy, but man, he makes me so so nervous, like teen girl in a rom com squeal type nervous-excited, and this has genuinely never happened to me before.
this hasn’t happened with any past crushes, and hasn’t happened with my past partner too, which feels so strange to me, hell im usually the more confident one. but in this case i am a melty mess. usually id be one to initiate the firsts, first kiss, first hug, things along those lines, but with him, god he just makes me melt. | Crushes |
(highschool)
16F(me) 16M
He used to make eye contact with me every now and then and glance in my direction quite often
Keep in mind he's one of the reserved introverted shy guys, so he didn't look at anyone else of any gender just me
But suddenly he just stopped, and i guess he doesn't like me anymore? I dont know what i did
But Anyways maybe he was never interested in me to begin with?
I used to try and chat him up a few months back he barely replied but he blocked everyone else(so i take it as he doesn't want to talk to anyone else but would sometimes with me?)
He actually blocked me too, Anyways i hit him up with some cryptography project (which he didn't know much about surprisingly, I knew more about it's workings then he did) since he took compsci in high school, but then he unblocked me still didn't talk much though
Regardless he glanced at me a lot in school so i thought he might be interested in me but suddenly he doesn't do that anymore like it's literally nothing now, did i just misunderstood him?? Any tips on moving on please i just want to forget about him but it feels sad, i started liking him too | Crushes |
ok so basically he's on my close friends so i made a poll saying that I was removing people who didnt want to be on it bc i post random shit. He didn't respond yes or no so i texted him :
answer?
wait \[name\]?
bro mb i prob added you on accident, you can stay if you want otherwise tell me :)
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thats what i said idk. Is it bad??? | Crushes |
Old college friend (we just graduated) moving to the same city as me and asked to crash at my place for a week. During stay, we watched TV and played board games with pretty much any free time we had.
Nothing was initiated and I was shown their Tinder profile and current matches.
However, they want to keep meeting up to do stuff together.
What gives? | Crushes |
I’m a teenager (won’t share exactly bc that’s kinda weird) but I have been wanting to ask this girl out. Problem is that she is going to a no-phone camp for about a month and a half. I thought maybe to send her a message and when she gets her phone back she sees it, or just go down the normal route (we are meant to go to a show of an artist we both really like). If we do, how do I ask her? Any help would be awesome about both ideas or share some in the comments. Ty | Crushes |
Long story short
So Today we were supposed to go the theater FINALLY after 1 FULL MONTH OF PLANNING but she had to cancel because she has an online meeting with a school she candidate for her Master degree today (I also candidate for this school same degree but 0 news for me)
Anyway I don't know what to should I confess by text or not telling her I want you by my side and vice-versa even as a friend or more if you want.
I will ask her if she really want to go with me and change the theater because the one we planned to go cost 10.50€ 💀😭 and ask her if she prefer to go more in Paris where it's 5 to 7.50€.
Anyway I hate feelings and all I am a like Miyamaru from Horimiya or Hirotaka and his brother from Wotakoi Love is Hard for an Otaku. I have 0 xp with love at 21 y.o , I only feel it by k-drama and stuff | Crushes |
One night a few weeks ago, me and a guy I have a crush on were playing video games until the very late hour, like 2 or 3am. After we were done, we continued to talk. We started talking about if we still played with children's toys and I blushed when he said that he did. He mentioned this one fluffy children's toy that he likes to play with until this day but I'll keep that detail hidden and I thought it was so utterly cute. We haven't talked a lot since then but I just remember talking for hours that night and I think about it a lot.
Anyway, his birthday is coming up in like a few days and so while I was just struggling hard, I bought him a color of that toy that he said that he had wanted. It came in the mail today and when I saw it, I absolutely lost it because now I have to give it to him and I'm so nervous. I have the text ready to send if it's okay if I come by to give him the present and I have been thinking about sending it for hours. I don't know how to start a conversation with him, I'm just utterly shaking and wondering if I should do it tonight or wait for another day or maybe just never give it to him and keep it as a reminder of how I never and will never shoot my shot. I've fantasized about this day a lot, he'll drop his things and give me a hug, he'll invite me inside, I don't know, I've never done this before in my life.
Maybe I'll keep y'all updated on how it goes, but I'm not feeling well right now. We'll see...we'll see.
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i look for him in places he won’t be, i see him in my mind when i close my eyes at night, i heat his voice if i let myself drift for too long.
i went to the beach today and i kept looking for him, even though the chances of running into him there were astronomical. i don’t know why i keep letting myself hope.
i have no way to contact him, i can’t see him until august, and i just… he’s probably forgotten me. there’s no point in hoping anymore, not when he’s forgotten about me… as if i made an impact in his life at all.
sigh. it’s fine. i’ll move on at some point. but not any time soon. | Crushes |
So I met this person quite a while ago I would say 2-3 months ago and we’ve hit it off super great, I told her I liked her and she responded with she liked me back but prefers to know me better in person. she’s moving to my city soon in august and I really like her, I find myself always making time for her and stuff but I’m not exactly feeling the same response and I understand she’s probably busy with stuff like school and life so I try not to be so selfish. But is it a red flag that she’s sometimes online yet doesn’t reply to me ? Or like sometimes leaves me on seen? I feel like I sometimes want to just ask her where or what’s going to happened between me and her but I feel like maybe in august things will get better but I could just be lying to myself. The only thing I’m afraid of is if I choose to let her go in my life then I won’t get that excitement or at least that happy feeling in my heart when she reply’s I’m just not sure what I should do anymore I’m slowly feeling emotionally exhausted. | Crushes |
i need confirmation if my crush ever liked me back or not. okay so one major thing i still think about to this day is how he made a twitter profile because i told him to make one and i was the first person who followed him and who he followed back. he would be so nice to me and we’d send tiktoks to each other. OH YEAH he made me follow him on tiktok and we would send tiktoks to each other. and i feel like i lost my chance cause i was too nervous to make anything of it. please was this one sided or mutual also i haven’t seen him in like a month so i wanna ask him if he ever liked me back but i feel like it’s too late now. | Crushes |
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I feel like I’ve always considered myself straight. But I have this really close friend of mine that’s a girl (I’m a girl) that I find really pretty. Her laugh,her smile her humour is just everything. We stay
up every night just talking on FaceTime and do shit like play games and watch movies. Even fall asleep accidentally on call. I was the first person she called when she broke up with her boyfriend, and the feelings I felt when she spoke about how he’s been treating her made me feel annoyed because she deserves so much more than what she was given.
I’ve been holding on to this secret for around 6months when I first started getting feelings for her, but I know I must get over her because she’s straight and she wouldn’t date a girl. This crushes me every time I think about this . I can never tell her because it would ruin the good friendship we have together and plus idk what sexuality I am.
How do you get over a crush? | Crushes |
Relevant question... | Crushes |
So yeah, I’ve been thinking about writing her a letter telling how beautiful she is (like a secret admirer kinda stuff), but I just don’t know how.
We share a single class together, so the window is quite tight. And the way the seating arrangement is in my classroom means there’s no way I can drop it off without anybody noticing. To make matters worse, it’s finals week and we’re literally buried in exams. If I can pull this off, I’ll probably include some encouragement as well. But she’s too busy to be hanging around in one place, let alone by herself (she’s pretty sociable).
We have a couple of mutual friends but I’m not that close to them, so no passing. Plus, I want it to be as secretive as possible.
Heck, I just want her to know how I feel, is there a way I can do this? I guess texting is always an option, but I think that takes away the specialness (if that makes any sense). And we barely know each other, so that’d be weird. Again, emphasizing anonymity.
Any advices or tips from the sages of this subreddit would be greatly appreciated. | Crushes |
i miss her. i miss someone i barely know but would like to get to know. maybe we could become friends or maybe something more, i don’t know. the other day i was so sure she maybe liked me back and then the next day when we got off the bus it’s like she was in a rush to get away from me. or maybe she’s just weirded out by me with all my longing glances (if that makes sense)? i do and don’t say anything because i’m too much of a chicken. these past few days i’ve been avoiding seeing her/distancing myself from her so my feelings would go away but what do you know? i see her at the bustop waiting for the bus and then it’s like all of those feelings came rushing back. sometimes i wonder if i’ll ever find love in my lifetime. wow this was long. if you read all of this then thanks? i guess? just needed to vent a bit | Crushes |
I have always had crushes on boys for as long as I can remember. The earliest that I can remember. The earliest that I can remember was when I was in kindergarten. He had chubby cheeks that I just could not only adore, but to pinch as well. At one time, I pinched him to the point that I accidentally bruised his cheeks. Needless to say, not much was known about what happened next, but he moved to a different school the next year.
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For the years to follow, I had another total of six crushes, not counting casual, celebrity, and fictional character crushes. These six boys had given me a hard time to ignore my intense feelings for each of them. I often fantasize myself with each of them in several love scenarios, like going to a water park date, getting married, and starting a family with them. However, it always ended either with my feelings faded with time or they downright rejected me. The latter hurt me so much that I felt like I was on the brink of experiencing depression. My last crush before my current one actually took me about a few days to no longer cry and a month or two to get over my feelings for him.
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Speaking of my current crush, this is rather unplanned. Let's call him Koala (because why not 🤭). So, ever since the fiascal rejection by my last crush, I vowed to myself to not have a crush on any guy until I finish my studies (as I am currently studying the Bachelor of Early Childhood Education and previously Certificate III and Diploma in the same field) by 2023. I succeeded for the first two years (2020-2021) mainly because most of my classmates were women and also the pandemic. By the time I moved from my aunt's house this year's February, I was confident that I would continue to go ahead with my life without giving too much care for attractive guys, let alone the long-dreaded and yet guilty pleasure feelings.
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It was at this point that my resolve for no crushes slowly faltered. The day after I moved in, there was a free pizza event to welcome the new residents. I first met Koala when I was introduced by one of the residential leaders (RLs; similar to RAs in the U.S.), stating that Koala would be the RL for the floor that I am currently living in. The first few things that I noticed about him were his eyes, his smile, and his overall friendly demeanor. We introduced ourselves to one another and had a short chat before I moved on to catch up with one of my roommates. I did not take much notice of how I felt around him by that time, but the seeds of feelings had once again been planted.
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Not much happened for the next few months between us because of COVID-19, assignments, classes, and lectures. At the same time, I slowly got to know him more after hanging out with him and the other residents at both family functions and events. But even though my feelings for Koala grew steadily, strangely enough, I hid them so well that even I was clueless about having them in the first place. 🤦🏻♀️
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No one really noticed that I have feelings for Koala, but my older sister. Eighteen days ago, while having brunch with my sister before going to stay over at my aunt's house since it was my aunt's birthday, I was talking about the trip to an art gallery with Koala, my best friend, my other friends, and other residents the day before. I told her about it like any other normal conversation, but my sister was suspicious about something. She pointed out that I might be hiding feelings for a certain someone. I did not know if I misheard it or not, but the first person that came to mind was Koala. I tried to deny having feelings for what she thought to be my alleged crush. As it turned out, my sister meant the stranger sitting next to us that day, but it was too late anyways because I already got the feel for Koala.
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The next day, after debating whether or not I have feelings for Koala, I could no longer deny having a crush on him. I wrote a very long love letter, which included a mini quiz in the beginning, and submitted it anonymously to my university's love letters group with the help of the group's admin. Not long after, when I was about to head to the elevators after dealing with my laundry, I spotted Koala from afar as he also headed for the elevators. He entered the elevator first and kept it open for me, which was gentlemanly of him to do so. We talked for a bit, and we both could not stop smiling at one another. I did not know about him, but I felt a twinge of sadness when we had to go back to our own apartments. I also told my best friend about my crush on Koala.
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We did not get to meet each other for the next twelve days because we both had exams to study and assignments to complete. However, we texted each other on two, no, three occasions. Whenever we texted one another, I always felt a special connection between the two of us. I was so happy that I had to control myself and not text him too often as it would be annoying to the receiving end.
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I did not text him for a few days so that I could focus on my assignments. It was five days ago that I finally completed my final assignment and got the chance to go to the End of the Trimester Party. Koala was there too, along with the residential advisors and the other RLs. When I first saw him there, I moved myself away to the nachos table. After getting some nachos, I ate them when Koala tapped me on my back. I turned to him and had a conversation with him. While talking, he made a glowing headband for me. I smiled at his sweet gesture and thanked him before meeting my best friend to dance with her and the other residents. The party was so much fun, but I often stole glances at my crush, wondering of his whereabouts when he was not in my sight.
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When the party was finally over, I looked for Koala. He was at the back, trying to bend the glow tube around his wrist to create a bracelet. After trying a few times, he asked me to wrap the glow tube around his wrist, and I was like sure (as an excuse to touch him). I then suddenly wanted one and tried to make one for myself. Seeing that I was struggling, I asked him to help me with my bracelet, and he agreed. Soon after, the residential advisor told both of us that we could bring the remaining glow tubes and sticks home as she was about to throw them away. We thanked her and left the place together.
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As we went upstairs, I randomly asked Koala which room number he is living in. In response, he showed me the way to his apartment and brought me there. We experimented with the glow tubes and sticks and had more conversations about our siblings, our dreams, and our passions. At the moment, Koala is studying IT, but he said that acting has always been his passion. I can relate with him as my true passion lies in art and creative writing, even though I am doing a teaching degree right now. It felt like we had a lot in common, like the fact we both do not like drinking coffee. After a while, he made a necklace out of three glow tubes, which I appreciated from the bottom of my heart.
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But that was not even the sweetest thing he had done for me. When I was about to go back to my room, he uttered three heart warming words to me:
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"You are beautiful."
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Oh. My. Goodness. The whole world paused for a few seconds. This was the first time that any of my crushes called me beautiful, let alone complimented me sincerely. Yes, my past crushes did compliment me, but this felt so different. I mean different in a heart fluttering way. I just could not describe this electrifying feeling in words. I struggled to return it, only saying that I enjoyed his company.
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Not long after, he asked me whether I had seen a platypus in real life before, which was random (but alright). After saying that I had not, I said goodbye to him and headed back to my room. I just could not stop smiling for the rest of the night. I often replayed those words like they were music to my ears. From that night on, I often pondered about him and wondered if I do really have a chance to be his girlfriend someday.
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A few days later, while bringing my best friend's laundry to her room, Koala noticed me and greeted me. I said that I will talk to him later and moved on with what I was doing. After bringing my best friend's laundry back and getting some free food, I met up with Koala again, along with my other friend. The three of us talked for quite a while before my friend brought up the mystery of the love letter. I laughed so hard, but they did not get any clue who it was despite me being very obvious. After giving a few more clues, Koala finally found out that it was me. His reaction was very sweet, in that he only hugged me once, but also at least three times. Koala also offered to print some posters for the decorations in my room (I am redecorating my room) and buy some groceries for me.
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While that was very sweet and kind of him, I didn't really want to burden him. So, I only requested a bottle of honey. Yesterday, I went to his apartment again to take the honey and we chatted, mostly about Harry Potter and sci-fi stuff. (He is a Gryffindor by the way, and I am a Ravenclaw). 😉 Some of things that I did notice the last time we talked were that he kept on playing with his hair and that his cheeks were pinkish red. He was shy, yet comfortable with me.
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TL;DR I have a crush on an RL who lived on the same floor, and he may have liked me back. By the way, I have asked the Residential Advisor, and she said that RLs are able to date each other and other residents. However, I do still have questions that are still not answered. Could it be that he is having a crush on me too? Is there a chance he might like me back based on what I observed in our interactions together? What do you think? What should I do next? | Crushes |
I’m 17, she’s 19 we are co workers, I have a crush on her if you want me to specify and shi and you really care dm me i’ll tell u the whole thing | Crushes |
I responded to her story and she put my response on her story! I'm smiling just typing this out. | Crushes |
I met this boy during my 1st week of middle school back in 6th grade. He was a 7th grader and 2nd year member of the Lego robotics club I was joining. Ironically I remember thinking "damn this boy is the ugliest boy I've seen all day". I of course never said that out loud and got to know him as a friend while we were both members of the same club. After about 5 months of getting to know him I realized I was starting to like him. But I still denied the thought of it for a few more months til one day I accepted that I was 100% in love with this boy.i confessed to him at the very end of the last day of school, gave him a hug then ran away. I saw him again after summer when he asked me out. I at the time was a very good girl who followed all rules, and one of my mom's rules was I wasn't allowed to date. I told him just that and then said we should still be friends and that regardless I still liked him. But understandably we drifted apart and didn't talk much during that year. Being a year older then me, he then left for highschool while I still had my last year of middle school left.
During that year I largely forgot about him. I knew what highschool he went to. But I didn't care about that by the time that I was ready to decide on what highschool I was going to. I choose an art school but once my mom saw how long the bus ride would be, she made me apply for the high school down the street from our apartment, the school he attended. I thought I was over him, and if I hadn't reunited with him then I most likely would been completely over him, but once I saw him in the hallway on the first day of highschool I was a blushing mess. It took me a few days but I finally get the courage to talk to him again and ask for his number. We texted but as far as I know he wasn't very interested anymore.
I low-key stalked him during the first 5 months of 9th grade. I was 100% willing to stop if he asked me to, but he always played along and gave me attention so being childish I kept talking to him and going up to him in the hallways.
I even asked him out of a date once but he turned me down quickly. I was so desperate it's embarrassing to look back on😅.
I moved away halfway through that school year, from the US to another country. I didn't really know the language that well and didn't fit in at all in my new school. I decided to start texting old friends so I could at least feel less lonely.
On one particularly lonely night none of my friends answered my texts, so desperate for some human interaction I texted him. He answered and we talked for hours into the night, I don't remember what we talked about but I know it left me happy. I then started to text him very night I had time and we started texting regularly for hours at a time into late nights.
This lasted a few months before again we lost touch. This time because my parents found my chats with him and hated it, (our chats weren't always wholesome) after that I abruptly stopped messaging him and it's been almost 2 and a half years since I've talked to him.
I've gone about a year without really thinking about him, but recently I saw a song on TikTok about someone's first love and how the feelings came back after running into them again. I instantly thought about him. To make matters worse I'll be visiting my old city, the city he most likely still lives in next week. Running into him would be a crazy coincidence. I willingly didn't date for the longest time because I kept thinking about him, but Im currently in my longest relationship and everything is going great. I admit that my bf doesn't make my heart flutter the way my 1st love did but that's because I love him in a different way. I'm feeling guilty about thinking of my 1st love again while I'm with someone. But at the same time I've realized that I never got proper closure from the my middle school crush and that in a way I still love him, or at least the memories I have with him. I met him when I was 11 in the beginning of middle school and now I'm 18 on my way to college.
I have friends from my old highschool (the school he attended) that can give me his contact info, so I can contact him if I want. And if I weren't dating someone I know Id do it. Idk what to do but really wanted to share this with others. | Crushes |
I hope this isn't too vague but I wanna know some methods or ways I should ask my crush out, the setting of my predicament is this. So I'm 15, male, in highschool, the school year just ended, and my only way to physically contact my crush is no longer viable. I have her snap and insta, but I don't use both very often, I know the basics but not much after that. I didn't talk to her that much so we don't know much about each other. And whatever conversations we did have were less than a minute long. Like 80 percent of these conversations were initiated by her. To be honest, I just need some help here.
P.S. She and I are both apart of the school ASB and the studenr body has meeting at school at the end of August, so that's my current only option. IDK IF ILL HAVE ANY CLASSES WITH HER NEXT YEAR SO, IF I DO ANYTHING IT MIGHT ONLY HAPPEN ONLINE OR IN MEETINFS.
TL;DR Me have crush, me can't talk to crush physically, only online rn, me and crush don't know eachother well, me need help. | Crushes |
Back story. She was my crush in 5th and part of 6th, she also made me realize my sexuality ok ok nothing to bad lol but yesterday in the middle of the night I accidentally liked one of her TikToks, and like we haven’t talked in years (nothing bad happened we just drifted away from each other) AND today I was looking in my TikTok notifications and I saw that she looked at my profile!!! She probably was like tf is ____ likening my TikTok’s in the middle of the night. Yeah that happened anyways ignore the terrible spelling and grammar lol. | Crushes |
He rejected me because he thinks I am a nerd. | Crushes |
I had a huge crush on this girl and we were really good friends and was really close and my feelings where killing me. So I confessed my feelings for her and the next day I get a text that she doesn't even wants to be my friend because my feelings for her just ruined our dynamics for her. I always knew she was not a relationship type of person. But now I feel like my feelings for ruined everything. I see her everyday and I can't even smile at her. I'm literally heartbroken. | Crushes |
There’s a guy I like, and I’ve been crushing on him for nearly a year now. All my friends are pushing me to confess to him…Can anyone help me find a way to confess without embarrassing myself? | Crushes |
And I haven’t brought myself to reopen Snapchat Oh my gosh! Ahhh | Crushes |
It's only been a month, and I'm starting to miss her, I won't see until September. | Crushes |
Hey guys! My crush wasn't answering a few days, so I decided to ask him what I was to him (whether that's a friend, someone to just talk to when bored, etc), and he replied we were friends and that he liked talking and vibing with me. He also did apologize for the lack of communication. What does that mean? Did he friendzone me? | Crushes |
I've had a crush on her for so damn long, and I feel like I need to make the move, but it feels impossible. I make everything awkward. I've tried to tell her things like "I like what you did with your hair" or when she's feeling down on how she looks I wish I could say "I think you look nice" but I always choke and don't say a word. I just don't know what to say. | Crushes |
Anyways I had a huge crush on this girl in my class, let’s call her G. And in the middle of class she asks another dude from my class to be her bf. He accepts and I don’t know what to do. I haven’t gotten over her and idk what I should do now. | Crushes |
I'm finally going to tell her today I have feelings for her. It's been 3 months and I can't hold it now.
I'll post it here what she says :) | Crushes |
I just noticed everytime she snaps her face to me, I keep on falling more in love... goddamn it☺️😩. | Crushes |
I’ve made a post about this crush before. We were in a group for our final project this past school year. I have his number from the group chat we made. He’s a year older than me.
I texted him about a moment that happened this past year that I was talking about with another friend in a different chat but he never responded. It didn’t exactly prompt a response but I was hopping for a “lol” or anything to build a conversation off of but nothing.
Should that mean that he’s not into me?
Because I’ve figured out recently that I’m not good at small talk so I decided it would be a pretty good solution to rip the bandaid off quickly and just ask him on an old fashioned date to the movies or something.
Would this be a good idea or would I embarrass myself? | Crushes |
Just a question | Crushes |
Long story short, I got rejected by my crush, I should have expected it but she just brushed me off. Anyone got some sad songs to listen to? | Crushes |
I really want to talk to her but I just don’t know how to start. I want to have a nice long conversation with her. I feel like a random “hey, how was your day” would be too weird because I’m very introverted in person and it would be awkward too just change personalities like that. | Crushes |
I have a crush on my closest friend, but they have a boyfriend. More than anything I want them to be happy, but I don't think they are happy with their current boyfriend.
They are in a long distance relationship with him, and talked to me about how they haven't been able to call him very often, and all the text conversations they have are dry. It sounds like he stopped putting effort into the relationship a while ago.
I know I could do better, and it hurts to think about them struggling. Even if they were in a happy relationship with another guy, I would be so much happer knowing my crush, but also my friend is happy | Crushes |
What do I do when a girl doesn't reach out to me ever? We hung out a few times. Had some great sex, mind you also We didn't have sex every time so we actually hung out and watch TV. would send each other snaps back and forth she never really wanted to do anything different like get food except one time we went out with her friends and it was an awesome time. I bought everybody drinks and food
Last week and I asked if she could hang out and she said no but I haven't heard from her in almost a week and she never reaches out anymore.
Is it a lost cause?
Feel like if I reach out that'd be kind of beta and I actually want to attract them
To add to this then, what if I accidentally ghost her? Like she is waiting for me?
Or should she also be willing to reach out also and I shouldn't think that
# learning | Crushes |
Me and her sat beside eachother in free classes and we rlly hit it off imo and I've caught her looking at me once and she's caught me looking at her once or twice I know that's not much evidence but when I'm with her i feel we connect very well and I even got a full ahhh 20 euro game because of her. Idk I feel like I needed to vent my feelings and thoughts here. | Crushes |
God, this girl is lile literally the prettiest girl I've ever seen. I've known her for about two years, but i only started actually crushing on her this last year. Even when i had my eye on someone else, I've always thought she incredibly beautiful, just stunning.
We only really started hanging out and talking this year, and the more i get to know her the sadder i get that she doesn't see this in herself. She doesn't see herself as being pretty even though she is pretty, not just from my eyes, but like conventionally prettt, and I'm sure half the school i go to has at least a little crush on her.
She's just so funny, smart, caring, and beautiful inside and out and she has all the qualities one could want in someone, and it's so painful to hear her say stuff like "yeah, but i don't think anyone would like me" "i don't think I'm pretty enough for him" "they probably won't like me" "I'm not the prettiest to put it that way" like Excuse Me. You're literally ten times more attractive than ANY guy I've ever seen. Now i might be gay, but i know when i guy is good-looking, but she's actually drop-dead gorgeous.
God, knowing that she struggles with her self image is so heartbreaking because she literally deserves the world. I try to reassure her, of course. I don't have the balls to tell her what i think of her, but i still wish i could do more, within my comfort-zone too. And i feel as though it won't be as meaningful to her either way, because I'm not even conventionally pretty (but I've made peace with that).
Idk this is kinda a rant but also kinda me asking for advice on how to build up her self-image. Any advice? For context our friendship is kinda based on her teasing me and then i tease her back a little bit and then i do or buy whatever she wants because i feel bad. | Crushes |
I (26m) met my (23f) crush almost 3 months ago at work , we started talking occasionally as we were sitting next to each other , then she asked gor my social media and later number , that's when we hit it off and quickly became close . Up to that point , even tho i liked her it wanted to keep it casual. One day i asked her if she wanted to see a movie to which she agreed , it was a really fun night and it felt like going on a date , but maybe only from my perspective, we ended up going a second time , but because i have social anxiety and no experience in dates, i didn't make any move .
Fast forward to now , we talk every day , it feels like there a lot flirting going on but I'm not sure if it's just her being friendly or more , we compliment each other often , ask for each other's opinions regularly.
I've many times of confessing to her , but i value her friendship so much that i don't want to risk loosing her . Because i know how confessing makes it weird when its not reciprocated.
How should approach it ? And is it possible that i wasted my chance the 1st time and now we've nothing but buddies ? | Crushes |
So we never send each other videos on snapchat, we don't even talk, it's just dry snapping so you can imagine the surprise when she sent me a videosnap at 12:10am on a random tuesday. She was just showing something she bought but it made me incredibly happy nonetheless. Pride month wasn't all that bad after all i guess, got me going to bed all giggling and shit. Oh, well. | Crushes |
I stayed with the person ive been seeing for a little over a month in their town for the weekend. I decided to ask them if they wanted to become official and they said yes. Ive been with a good amount of people some for pretty long periods but ive never had a partner before. I cant even describe how my first one being someone im so head over heels for feels.
I was planning on only staying there for a Friday night and saturday but i ended up staying until tonight. I met a bunch of their friends and went to a street fair in their town. Even just laying in their front yard painting in the sun i was happier than ive been for a long time. This whole weekend ive just been seeing the potential for our future together.
Theyre going outta town for a little over a month next week. It sucks but even how we discussed handling it i already can tell that well be able to communicate in the future even if problems arise. Im just so overwhelmed with joy i had to say this somewhere. | Crushes |
I gave my crush a letter on the last real day of school (friday) and I wrote that we should stay in touch with my number. These last days are for finals and it's been a few days and I don't know if it's because she's busy or if she doesn't like me and I'm overthinking it, but how long should I wait before I give it up? | Crushes |
I’ll probably delete this later but yesterday online I was talking to my crush and the topic of crushes came up and when I asked if he liked anyone at first he said possibly then later on he said he didn’t like anyone. Um I’ve liked this guy for a couple months and I thought he liked me back bc he kind of hinted at it but now idk what to do :( I told some of my friends and they told me to keep trying but I don’t wanna push it on him and we’re already good friends so I don’t wanna ruin it. I love talking to him and I would love to stay friends but idk if I should follow my friends advice. Uh but yeah. I’ve been trying to stop liking him I’m just so conflicted and it’s kind of hard | Crushes |
Hey guys. So to make a long story short, I’ve had a crush on this guy from my school for almost 2 years now. We had class together in 9th grade biology, since we were lab partners, and now it’s my senior year and we haven’t had class since (and have never talked in person, only over text). At first we started snapping about homework; I know, he was just using me for answers and whatnot. But it got deeper. He started opening up to me and we would vent to each other about really personal things. We have the same sense of humor and can relate to each other on a lot of different topics. I’ve tried to drop hints of my attraction towards him, but either he’s not picking up on them or he’s just stupid (I’m also very VERY vague because I’m extremely afraid of rejection). I don’t know if this is important, but both me and him have only had one relationship in the past and neither were serious at all. Safe to say we are both very inexperienced. Fast forward to this year. We have gone to a few parties together and have actually talked in person and gotten closer; but, he likes my best friend!! I know, super awesome. She despises him though, and is talking to another dude (but my crush doesn’t know this so I think he still wants to pursue her). He made a comment the other day about how he “fumbled” two girls at the last party we went to (me and my best friend). All this time I thought he maybe just found me unattractive and ugly, because clearly we are emotionally compatible personality-wise. So if he would have done physical stuff with me too, why is this such an unrequited crush?? Whatever, point is, it’s getting way too mentally taxing to keep pining over him when I know he doesn’t like me back. Like it actually hurts so bad but I can’t help it. I think I need to confess and get the rejection over with, what should I do?? I left out a lot of details but if you want those let me know. It’s pretty clear he doesn’t like me romantically, don’t get me wrong I’m delusional but not THAT delusional, but I just can’t do this anymore. | Crushes |
Note: I apologise for poor grammar, it’s late where I am and I’m half asleep.
(posting on an alt because he has my main account)
So I (16M) have a crush on a guy (16M) who’s in/into a lot of the same kind of activities as I am (band, theatre, martial arts, video games, mostly band though) but here’s my issue. As far as I know he’s straight, but recently he offered me his jacket (he doesn’t wear too often because the weather is awful where I am) when I mentioned the bus we were using for a school event was cold. Also that same night, I fell towards the aisle across from him because of a large bump and he leaned forward about a foot from my face and “jokingly” kind of blew a kiss ((??)I’m not sure how to describe it to be honest). He’s the type to say “it’s not gay if it’s with the homies and/or you have socks on” so I honestly think I’m overthinking it. It may just be him just joking around but at the same time, I’m not too sure. I apologise for the word overload, but crushes subreddit what do you think? Overthinking or he may actually have a crush on me? | Crushes |
HES SO CUTE HES LITERALLY SO ADORABLE HES TALL AND HE HAS LONG HAIR AND SO MANY FRECKLES ON HIS FACE AND HES SO SKINNY AND I LOVE HIM SO MUCH HES EXACTLY MY TYPE AND HES SUCH A DUMBASS ITS SO ADORABLE AND HES SO ANNOYING H E LITERALLY PISSES ME OFF SO MUCH BUT I KINDA LIKE CUTE GUYS WHO PPISS ME OFF OH MYGOD | Crushes |
Hi I’m 18(f) and I have always found this guy really attractive but scary ever since year 8 ( 4 years ago now) but I suppressed my feelings for him since he started dating my one of my friend’s friend’s. She broke up with him for reasons I am unsure of but he has never been the same. He acts like he hates women now. ( Doesn’t talk to girls, posts them American psycho memes) One time I went out with his friends and I attempted talking to to but ended more talk more to his best friend. Me and his best friend became quiet close and talked everyday just thru text. Due to my mental health I was struggling to talk to his best friend everyday so I became quiet dry to talk to and I was ghosted by his best friend. Turns out he liked me , I had a feeling but I was certain since I had never had someone like me before. Now I have left high school I want to attempt talking to the guy I have always liked. Is there any point or since it’s breaking bro code should I now bother. Is a girl shooting her shot unattractive or will he just laugh at me if I do try talking to him? | Crushes |
He knows I like him, I mean I was obvious as hell. I didn’t try to hide it but I didn’t try to spell it out for him.
My friend, R, told me that he said ‘I think {my name} has a crush on me.’ And R had asked if he liked me back and he had responded with ‘no I’m not gay.’
I mean I already knew he was straight so I doubted I had a chance even tho he semi flirted with me or it felt like it was flirting.
Anyways yeah I guess I gotta move on. | Crushes |
He’s so dry over text its so annoying. In person, he’s so much better but since we go to different schools we can only text for now, and its not like he’s changing his way of texting cause 1. He texts like this in gc and everywhere else and 2. when he confessed he was texting like this. It’s like i text him and forget how dry he is and instantly regret…maybe its me?? I have no idea. If someone were to read our conversations it would feel like eternal hell. 🤦 On another note, all he wants to do is meet up, but we never end up planning anything, like i text him smt and he just responded with “when u wanna meet” or smt similar but its just so random. He’s rly cute n nice tho, like he sent me characters that reminded him of me and videos he thought i would like 🥹 i have contradicting feelings. | Crushes |
Already made a couple posts but just wanted to add this, a couple days ago I kissed her and it led to a few points where she'd kiss me or I'd kiss her. Then tonight things got a little more intense but over message, it ended with wholesale talk of things like "I really wish I could cuddle and kiss you". I'm just in shock I guess, this is real, I have someone and it's amazing to me. This is new so we haven't actually said anything about being bf and gf yet, but I don't care, this is amazing to me and I just melt every time I talk to her.
I love talking about her so any questions are welcome and I'll try to answer any I get. | Crushes |
Ok dude how tf do people hold eye contact?????
I've realized that I'm ALWAYS the one to look away first 💀💀💀💀 I dont think I've ever actually been the last one to look away...
Like how do people do it? How do you not look away immediately? How do you just.... stare at them for more than .1 seconds 💀
And what do you do while staring at them anyway? Smile? That's kinda awkward ngl 😭 or maybe that's like a me problem
Oof especially if ur the one looking at them first.... I've been caught staring like 2 now and I always look away first 🤡🤡🤡
So um yall wanna share ur wisdom or nah 👉👈 | Crushes |
So here's the story, She was my leader during my work immersion week. We already met face to face but haven't talk to each other. We're from the same school and batch. But different section. Then I followed her yesterday afterwards a minute after She followed me back. Then I have a friend who knows a friend of my crush. My friend asked the friend of my crush if she's single. And She said yes. So I don't know what to do right now. I mean I wanna make a move but is it to early? I have another week to make a move because our work immersion ends next week. Or I'll just keep this feeling to myself? I don't even know how to start a conversation with her. | Crushes |
Okay, In health class we recently had our seats moved about 2 weeks ago and this girl has sat across from me, shes cute, has the same hobby interests, same height etc. She is basically the female version of me. I have a crush on her however i would like some advice.
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**Course Of Action 1**
Ask "Hey can i send you this drawing?" And exchange phonenumbers and escelate from there, and it will be non-akward
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**Course Of Action 2**
Admit feelings for her although it be the akward way and ask for her number. | Crushes |
My crush was organizing a party with 50 something people in it. I came to her place and we talked a little. At one point she just hugged me and said "I love you" and took a pause after I didn't respond and said "You are so nice". I was in shock and I didn't respond. Later she just kissed her female colleague on the mouth. When I got more drunk and started hugging her she said to me "You are really drunk, arent you" When I left I hugged her one more time and said "I love you" to which she responed "I love you too". Maybe I am overthinking but I dont know how to interpret this situation. Does she really mean it? | Crushes |
My crush shows signs that he likes me/at least likes spending time with me.
I'd been obsessing with him for more than a month now.
I am not interested in dating cause if I ever want a relationship, I would want it to be long term which essentially leads to marriage.
Cause attachments hurt.
So, I want to get it off my chest by telling him. We may lose our friendship and the good times that we have talking and teasing. But it's fine. It will help me move on.
He may have a crush or a GF, I don't care. I am not gonna propose, I'm just going to let him know what I feel and admit that I want to get over him.
Shall I do this?? If yes, what shall I include/not say while I'm confessing?
(this is something out of my comfort zone and that's another reason I want to do it) | Crushes |
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What is your opinion on someone who’s barely an adult having a crush on someone older than them?
I have a crush on someone that is already twice my age and I’ve been thinking about it a lot and it worries me what other people would think if ever I started dating this person. I know I like him and I think he feels the same way too. I actually don’t know how I should act around him so I try to appear not interested hoping that I wouldn’t be so obvious that I have feelings for him. The thing is I never dated before and this guy had relationships before so that’s also one thing that makes me overthink. Since I don’t have any experience at all when it comes to dating and he does plus the age gap. So now I’m not sure if I should take the chances of confessing to him or maybe reconsider my choices and look for someone that’s on the same league. What should I do? | Crushes |
By nature I am an introvert, and I have friends that are both extroverts and introverts so I have an idea of how both function.
There’s this girl in my class that I like. We sit next to each other and do our class discussions together. I sometimes greet her but she is on her phone a lot so I feel like I am disturbing her.
During class discussions, we usually have good convo. We get into deep convos and we also think alike about a lot of things. She talks a lot but she doesn’t look at me at all and smiles a lot when talking. Idk what that means. I have an introv friend that does that and not gonna lie I do that sometimes.
Also, she’s into stationery like pens and so am I. We had a long convo about pens.
Other than that, we barely talk outside of class because right after class ends she just puts her AirPods in and I just leave asap to my next class. I would talk to her but when she puts her AirPods in I don’t wanna bother her.
I just wanna know what I should do in this situation? Should I still try to talk to her as much as I can? Or should I just leave it? Ideally I would want to talk to her more and ask her out eventually. The thing is we have the same class next quarter. It is a part two to our current class. Please let me know what I should do. Thank you! | Crushes |
My crush, lets call him B acts like a cute puppy around me. (He's usually not like this.) He makes eye contact often. Talks to me whenever I run (in gym) , asks me for advice and pours his feelings to me and he turns all smiley. Am I in the friend zone or does he like me? | Crushes |
So I first would like to say, no the teacher wasn't my crush.
So, like a few weeks ago, My friend and I were walking to our class which was upstairs and we encountered our old French teacher running down, it was like a scene from those dramatic movies, I swear to god. When we reached our French class we found out she had an epiphany and realized teaching wasn't for her. Good for her Ig but now because of that, I can't talk or even stare at my crush. What I mean by this is that when she was our teacher we did many activities that required talking to our other classmates; and she put us in groups, which coincidentally, I was sitting in front of my crush. Because of these groups, I was able to talk to my crush and even look at him while talking( BROS EYES ARE GORGEOUS; THEY ARE LIKE DOE EYES). Now that we have a new teacher we don't do any of those activities anymore and I sit far from my crush; what's worse is that I can't even admire the man. Like; I sit at the back, and he also sits in the back, but we are on opposite sides of the room AND there are these big ass dudes(buff) blocking my view of him. WHAT'S WORSE IS THAT I COULDA GOT HIS SOCIALS TOO CAUSE WE WERE GONNA START A PROJECT WITH OUR GROUPS THAT REQUIRED AFTER-SCHOOL TIME UGHH. | Crushes |
No way my crush has a boyfriend I knew it was too good to be true there no way she would like me I knew I was delusional as fckk there no way anyone will like me anyway | Crushes |
So around two years ago I (M) got to know this girl through my sister, and I liked her ever since. We're best friends, we talk almost every day, about everything, and we've done so all this time. And we've done so many things together. Had a couple of sleep overs, she even slept in my bed a few times, even kissed once, just as a challenge though. But that was later, as I started liking her ever since we met. The problem is, we've had our problems, times when we didn't talk, mostly because of her reasons. She even did me bad a few times (such as saying "I'll need some time for myself", and she went back to her ex, who she was trying to get away from. Again, just as friends, but she basically put me aside so she can talk to her ex, because he's the kind of guy that says "you can't have guy friends", and that was one of her complaints), but she acknowledged her mistake(s) and I forgave her. We're still best friends. Every time we hang out I get her a chocolate, or a flower, or something small, cause it makes her happy, and we hug each other and she's always so excited, and I love it when I can make her happy. And I do that because she's my best friend, and I love her so much, and I care about her more than I could ever say. But I can't say I don't have feelings for her anymore. Those hugs she gives me, if I think about the last one, I can still feel it a few days afterwards.
But the problem is, I'm not her type. She's very active, she has a lot of energy that's mostly expressed chaotically, she's extroverted while I am calm and... Completely opposite. And in this situation "opposites attract" doesn't work, she's just into a different kind of guy, I know her well enough to know that. And I feel like when she'll get a relationship, I'll feel happy for her, but also bad for myself, cause I can't have her. I love her so much, but I can't have her. And I've tried, going for someone else, keeping her as the great best friend she is, and that only. I tried looking for other people, I liked other girls. But my attempts at literally anyone never worked, and in the end, I still ended up liking her. Or, I'd say Alright, screw that, I'll keep myself busy and forget about that. Self development too I would say, focusing on myself. And that works, until we hang out again, I can't help but look at her like looking at a treasure, I just ... I don't know, she's so precious and I love her, and there I am, I like her all over again. And I don't have an explanation for it, but she's... Pretty, she's smart, and this chaotic energy of hers, while not the best for me... Makes me love her even more every time.
I know, a lot to read, but it's a problem for me. I want to improve and focus on myself, and sometimes it works, but other times I just can't get her out of my head... and I can't really have her, so it's pretty pointless to think ab her all the time, but I can't help it... I hope I didn't get lost in it all and forget something. Opinions? Maybe some advice? =) | Crushes |
So recently me and the girl who friend zoned be last spring she started talking again and I’ve caught feelings for her again. We’ve grown really close, she talks to me and asks me for advice about a bad situation with a guy that likes her.
I’m beyond happy with the close friendship we now have but I can’t stop thinking about how perfect we would be together, and although I’ve liked other people in the past she is by far the most flawlessly perfect person I’ve ever met. From her personality to her morality to her looks, she is everything I’ve looked for in a woman.
Despite all this I’m pretty confident in the fact that she only sees me as a friend but my feelings for her are weighing heavily on my heart and I feel it’s only right if she knows how I feel. | Crushes |
So, I met this super cute and shy guy in band class last year, and I've had a major crush on him ever since. While I've been really focused on getting into college, it's meant that I haven't had much time to pursue anything with him. However, now that I've been accepted into my dream school, I'm thinking about making a move!
The thing is, I've been a bit of a mess and didn't really interact with him properly when we hit it off in junior year. We texted sometimes and even played video games together (which he doesn't do anymore), but when senior year hit and college applications started stressing me out, our conversations fell by the wayside.
Nowadays, we only see each other in our quiet CS class, which makes it tough to start a conversation. Graduation is just two months away, and I'd really like to at least be friends with him. While I used to have big expectations, like going to prom together, now I just want to talk and hang out. I'm not even sure if he has a girlfriend!
My big question is whether it would be weird to suddenly start talking to him again after all this time. What do you think? | Crushes |
Yeah | Crushes |
So, there's this super cute and shy guy I met in band class last year, and I have a major crush on him. But, I've been so focused on getting into college that I haven't really had time for a social life or to pursue anything with him. But hey, I got accepted into my dream school, so now I'm thinking about making a move! Here's the thing though, I've been a bit of a mess and didn't really interact with him properly when we hit it off in junior year. We texted sometimes and even played video games together (which he doesn't do anymore), but when I hit senior year and college applications started stressing me out, I kinda dropped the ball and we stopped talking altogether. Nowadays, we only see each other in our quiet CS class, so it's tough to start a conversation. But graduation is just two months away, and I'd really like to at least be friends with him. I used to have big expectations, like going to prom together, but now I just want to talk and hang out. I don't even know if he has a girlfriend. I'm just not sure if it would be weird to suddenly start talking to him again after all this time. What do you think?
So, I met this super cute and shy guy in band class last year, and I've had a major crush on him ever since. While I've been really focused on getting into college, it's meant that I haven't had much time to pursue anything with him. However, now that I've been accepted into my dream school, I'm thinking about making a move!
The thing is, I've been a bit of a mess and didn't really interact with him properly when we hit it off in junior year. We texted sometimes and even played video games together (which he doesn't do anymore), but when senior year hit and college applications started stressing me out, our conversations fell by the wayside.
Nowadays, we only see each other in our quiet CS class, which makes it tough to start a conversation. Graduation is just two months away, and I'd really like to at least be friends with him. While I used to have big expectations, like going to prom together, now I just want to talk and hang out. I'm not even sure if he has a girlfriend!
My big question is whether it would be weird to suddenly start talking to him again after all this time. What do you think? | Crushes |
I've liked this boy for months now and I think he likes me but I'm not sure?, We talk pretty much everyday and he invites me to everything including his families birthdays, BBQs etc and we're always getting asked if were dating. He flirts all the time and he starts conversations and stuff but I'm not sure how or if I even should confess. | Crushes |
I think it's just a coincidence
Teenage me would definitely call it fate/destiny 😆 | Crushes |
But I can see he watches each of them even tho he follows like 1500 people. Still, this is probably just him speed scrolling to get rid of the circle :’D
Is there a chance he might care but just isn’t in the habit of liking stories? | Crushes |
Just vent a bit about sad facts | Crushes |
I (16f) have known my crush (17m) for a little less than a year, we met through a club at my school, and since we're in different grades we have no classes together.
When I first met him I didn't really speak to him, but we started becoming closer after I helped him with a project last December. I try to make him feel comfortable as much as I can, and while I haven't always liked him I knew I would start to if we got closer. He just has one of those personalities where you know that if you get closer you're going to want to be more than friends.
Anyways, we text a lot, and eventually we get to talking about music. He starts talking about his taste in music, which isn't really my speed, but I don't dislike. And then I mention an album I really like.
Hes read it but doesn't text me back, so I assume he just doesn't want to answer the phone. But a little while later he texts me saying that he likes the album and that it's really good. And... GUYS HE LISTENED TO THE ALBUM FOR ME. I told my other friend about it and it literally took her weeks to listen to it, but he did it the second I mentioned it.
He talks to me in person too, and sometimes we'll sit next to each other, but I feel like he is either too nervous to talk to me in person, or I'm reading into the way he texts me too much.
Should I start dropping hints to get a more clear answer?
Tl:Dr i think he likes me because we text a lot and he listened to an entire album just because I said I liked it, but we don't talk as much in person. What are my chances? | Crushes |
Well, yesterday my (now ex) bf got upset that I wanted to hang out, and him and I got into an argument and then we both just agreed to end it.
He was always busy and stuff and never could have time for us. I could not do it anymore. I couldn't put my energy into that relationship knowing it couldn't go somewhere.
I hope someone else is out there for me. Someone who has time. | Crushes |
We were joking and then she sent me kissing emoji then I told her stop kissing she replied you wish I kiss you , is that flirting or what , she into me ? | Crushes |
Hey yall,
I (19f) liked this guy throughout school, which was really weird because I'd never been attracted to anyone ever before. We only spoke during the first couple of months of school and it was just a basic convo but even I don't know why I liked him I just liked him from the first moment I saw him walk through the door and I've had this with only a few other people in my life where I feel something for them the first moment I see them and then when I finally get to know them they change my life. sometimes it'll be years until I speak to them but it feels like my soul already knows them. But anyways this guy... I've tried absolutely everything to get over this crush..like literally absolutely everything because how am I at uni and I still like him?? I've tried liking other guys but just can't, tbh I thought I was aromantic(experiencing little or no romantic attraction to anyone; not having romantic feelings.) until I met him.
Anyways I never told him I liked him also cuz I had really low self-esteem at school and looked absolutely fugly. But I kinda transformed for uni, it's a bit crazy I'm actually getting attention now and people say I look like a model and I get random beautiful strangers complimenting me?? my friends back home also say I look like the before and after transformation of the princess diaries lolol.
He never had any social media (i asked him)but 7/6 months ago I got a gut feeling of something telling me to check his name on Instagram and boom new account anyways I followed from my main account, but he didn't follow me back and then I told my friend and then she showed me his tagged photos and he had a girlfriend and I was like ohhhhhh and then I unfollowed and got drunk and cried but yh. But two weeks ago I got drunk and messaged him at 4 am from an anonymous account that I have and confessed to him thinking that it would get rid of my feelings. But it didn't he messaged me back asking who this and I said you'll never know mahahahaha. And then we started talking I felt like I could talk to him easier cuz hell never know it's me even though I said a joke that only someone in our class would know lolol. but anyways after a few days of talking my friends said to ask him if he has a gf and one of my friends said don't cuz that might scare him away but instead, I asked how was your valentines cuz that's like hinting y'know. but he left me on delivered for like a week and a half ummm one of my friends said that's not a long time but some said it was cuz he was replying every day to me. But anyways I feel like I scared him away because he asked me a question about uni which I answered and then I replied back with the valentines question. I was thinking of maybe sending a funny meme or something or maybe just waiting for his reply if he ever does lol but I don't know maybe one day ill tell him it's me. But if he ever finds out it's me without me telling him I will actually move back to the village on top of a mountain that my dad's from that has no internet connection or a toilet.
Will appreciate some advice thank you! | Crushes |
Anytime I'm in her vicinity, she moves away. We haven't talked in 2 months, but nothing bad happened between us, and she never tryed to reconnect, so she has no reason to dislike me but at the same time when were not in class shes always lurking around me at lunch I sit in the same place every day and she always walks by that table right behind me or infront and started sitting at a table with her friends 50 away from me and when I'm going to 2nd block our path intersects and I have caught her staring at me and in class I have to and one of her friends started randomly talking to me witch is a weird as I never knew this person and stayed with my own group. Confuses me, do like me or hate me, make up your mind. | Crushes |
just this week i saw this person for the first time in the halls and i guess over the past few days he has become my hallway crush, and somehow each day i’ve learned something new about him like his name
he doesn’t know who i am but i really want to start talking to him, but i don’t have any classes with him and i don’t want to be awkward, i know his instagram (sent a follow request) and snapchat (but it’d say found by search 💀) and i’d really like to get to know him
i do know he goes to a class for extra help sometimes and i speak to that teacher sometimes just for casual conversations although i don’t have that class this semester so i’m not sure if i could use that to have a conversation
i can explain more if needed but i really want to get to know him and i’m having a week off after the upcoming week so i would like to at least try talking to him before then (it’s fine if not) | Crushes |
I have been friends with this guy for almost 3 years, to start he wasn’t really my type in terms of personality but there was just something about him that I liked.. ehem dominant energy. We started to flirt here and there, he would say I’m cute, pretty, kind and sweet, we would even hold hands even hug. One day I asked him if he likes someone, he said he did, ngl I hoped he would say me T.T Then I asked who it was and it was some girl he knew before and apparently “the only girl he has ever really liked”. Then playfully I asked him what about me? He said he cared for me as a friend. Like what the fuck. He really acted like he liked me. I got really upset. I asked him why he didn’t like me, he said that he liked girls that have the opposite personality as mine and that he just doesn’t like me like that. Yet he still thought I was “the prettiest” which made me really angry. Ugh I’m so frustrated, men are so weird.😾 | Crushes |
I(M18) have had a crush on this girl for almost a year and a half now and only talked to her twice, both times in a group setting. She has a boyfriend and I’ve been trying to get over it but can’t. The past week or two I’ve been having more thoughts about her than ever before and it’s actually distracting me from schoolwork and daily tasks. I don’t want to intrude in her relationship but I can’t keep my feelings buried away forever.
How do I get over it? I’ve been thinking of just telling her how I feel or asking her to be friends. Any and all help would be greatly appreciated. | Crushes |
I've never really been the type of person to deny my own feelings. Instead, I deny the feelings he has for me, even about three months after he confessed. (Technically it was his sister, but that doesn't matter.) Like, out of ALL the girls he could've chosen to like, why me? Does he *actually* like me? Did anyone guilt-trip him into liking me, especially because he knows I really like me and doesn't want to break my heart, especially because I've been "such a good freind to him". (I find how he sometimes misspells words really adorable.) If another cuter, smarter, cooler, beautiful-er girl came along and also liked him, would he still have feelings for me?
He says (and sometimes shows) that he likes me, but are those feelings real? | Crushes |
So I had a crush on a girl last year at school. I got rejected by her when I confessed on final day of highschool. I was a lot next to her in class by the way. 3 days ago I got a message from her on insta and she tells me she had a crush on me before I had one on her, then she moved on without confessing. She lied when she said she was in a relationship back then because "she wasn't ready".
LIKE WHAT THE HECK WHY ARE YOU TELLING ME THIS NOW. WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO NOW
The worst thing : I think I fucked up because she said "I can't do anything if you moved on" and I think she meant she wanted me to talk to her but I think it's to late to restart the conversation
I'm lost and it's in my mind since
I moved on but I don't have a problem about letting her try from the start again | Crushes |
For context, please read this first:
https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/103kply/should_i_ask_her_to_hang_out/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
Anyways, it took a while because I had to get adjusted to everything.
So now me and her have gotten along but never really hung out together. As we were playing 2v2 billiards together with other friends at my college, I mentioned that we should bet on the game. Obviously I made it as a joke and it was all fun and games. I proceeded to text her on Discord that instead of betting, I satirically said that I should pay her traffic fine (around $200 or so, different story). She wasn't sound with the idea, but I then said (verbatim from Discord):
"okay how about this"
"if you win the 1v1 you get to choose anywhere to go and its my treat"
she said:
"are you just finding ways to spend your money 💀"
"don't waste your money! 😭"
i made a joke again:
"okay if I win I get to pay your $200 fine"
her:
"bro r u fr 💀"
...... so on and so forth.
She said that "we are friends" (I mentioned I want to make new friends and pass my program at the college) and I said "so lets go bond sometime. She said after our midterms and not on the weekends since she goes back to her hometown an hour away and shes sound with going anywhere.
Does this seem cringy? What do you all think? I don't know I don't have any experience at all so harsh criticism is fine with me. | Crushes |
Soo I’m just gonna Name one weird thing that happened rn. I havent used instagram and snap (which are the most used social medias in my city/general area) in a while and I decided to again and since I’ve switched cities and shit I decided to add my current classmates one which is my crush. I followed them all and added them and all and my crush accepted my request on Instagram but didn’t follow back, but added me on snap?? Likee I don’t think he would’ve added me if he thought I was weird or smthin so WTFF? It just seems weird to do that- I should mention it’s pretty late rn sooo did he forget or what- it just strikes me back as weird andd also he does give me mixed signals a lot of times in class and shit. Idk what to thinkkk | Crushes |
So I (F) liked this girl last year and still kinda do (I’m in grade 11 now), but I never found out if she was straight or bi. Since then I went out with a couple girls but I was never completely over her.
Recently I found out that her little sister (2 years younger) has a crush on me through the girl I’ve been hooking up with (who is close friends with the little sister). The little sister is the kind of girl everyone wants, but I don’t really know what to do about it.
Just an interesting situation. Thoughts? | Crushes |
So every time i got a crush on someone, they liked someone else and my heart would be broken. This time, the guy i liked, actually liked me back and told me. But i rejected him and now i'm trying to get over him and move on bc that's basically how i always did things. I'd have a crush on someone, then i would try to move on. The thought of the actual relationship scared me and now i'm more at ease trying to move on rather than dating him. Am i insane? | Crushes |
Hi so basically the title explains everything. Back in spring and the summer time I dated this girl, let’s call her V. V meant everything to me. She made me feel emotions and felt so loved that I have never felt before. We would talk every single day 24/7 and we had so much in common and she was super pretty. She would even send me love messages when I was asleep. Everything was going super well with V, until in July she ended things. I don’t know why but she said it’s because she doesn’t want to lead me on. After we broke up I felt incredibly heart broken. I would cry every single day, but even tho we broke up she would still view my stories after she unfollowed me on socials. Back in October, she hits me up randomly apologizing for everything what happened and so we started texting again. At this time, I THOUGHT I got over her and I would just text her as a friend despite the fact she still had feelings for me. Now I’ve realized I still have feelings for her but I think she truly got over me. I know I shouldn’t still have feelings especially since they’re the ones who ended things first, but I’ve always loved her. I’ve deleted most of the pics I’ve had of her and our messages but there’s a still a few left in my camera roll, and I always go back to those screenshots and just get really sad. I’m also so mad at my self for realizing too late I still love her when she finally started getting over me. I want her back really badly but I feel like it’s too late. | Crushes |
So my crush and I go to the same school. I had a class with her and got her insta because I knew her name. I didn't talk to her at all during the class, so I started dming her. She is nice to me, but I always have to dm first. Then, she added me to her private story and posted a picture of her with the 🙈 emoji. And every time I see her, she makes eye contact with me and this one time, she saw me and smiled. I still haven' t talked to her yet because I get too nervous, but I swear one time I heard her say hi to me in the most quiet voice ever. This one time, I basically called her a nerd then I said she looks good with her glasses, and she said thank you haha. I also feel like she isn't just responding, but she is putting effort into the conversation. I saw there was a hockey game tomorrow and it isn't far from home, so I was wondering if I should ask her if she's going or not? | Crushes |
I(F14) constantly miss talking to him(M14), I've liked him since October and we genuinely became pretty close we used to talk every day, but often we'd go through phases of having nothing to talk about and points where we hadn't texted in like a week but after a while we'd start talking even more than we used to. I haven't talked to him in a while ( about 2 weeks) and I'm genuinely hoping that it's going to be the last time we've talked because I really love talking to him. The thing is every time we've started talking it'll be him starting the conversation by replying to something on my story or him just telling me something he did, every time we've had a conversation I've never started it because I don't know how, I don't know if im close enough to him to the point where I can just randomly text him "hi" out of the blue. Any advice on how to start conversations with him? | Crushes |
Hi everyone!
There's this girl I've been crushing on for the last couple of months.
She laughs at some of the things I say, she touches me sometimes, even when it's unecessary. When I took her home, one night, she hugged me (I don't usually get this, so, yeah, that meant a lot to me). We also talk on Instagram and when we we're talking about zodiac signs, she sent me this meme that described her "type" of guys and I think I can identify myself on that type. She has also complimented me, but she's so nice to everyone, so yeah...
The thing is: (again) she is very nice to everyone, so I don't know if I'm any different than all the other people. She also talks about other guys next to me, and says she would "smash" them, and that makes me think she isn't interested in me. Could this just be her playing hard?
I have never dated anyone so I'm completely blind if she's, somehow, hinting me.
I also don't want to confess to her, knowing that I don't have many friends, and that she's atm my best friend, so I don't want to be left alone, in case I confess to her and she doesn't like me back.
Can you guys please give me any tips on how to see if she really likes me?
Thank you! | Crushes |
So, I got a flatmate 2 months back. Both of them are doctors and work long shifts with different schedules each week. His boyfriend comes back home with her after their shift ends and they sleep for rest of the day/night. He doesn’t use the common area and I stay in my room as well. Sometimes like once or twice in a week I catch a glimpse of him entering when I’m studying in the living area. He used to pass right by without greeting. After a month or so I started to feel something for him and ever since then I’ve been getting eager to see him or talk to him. So, ( to my relief) my flatmate happened to have the idea of getting together with her friends and we threw a house party. I was hoping to find out that it was all a hoax and I won’t like him after meeting him but after that meeting my opinion is unchanged (for better or worse) and I still think about him constantly. I fantasise about accident flashing him some cleavage or a little ass or even just running into him when I’m dressed cutely. I know I can’t do much about this situation because he’s an unavailable man. I also have no plans of hurting my flatmate or doing any cheap trick. They have their problems in the relationship. The boyfriend admitted openly during the meet up that he’s looking for exposure with other women because his gf (my flatmate) is her first and only gf. My flatmate is also looking to continue her Pg abroad so can’t say for sure where their relationship is headed. But that’s a contingent situation and that’s beside the point. I haven’t had a crush on anybody for the longest time since my ex and I broke up. And I’m kinda relieved that I finally have a distraction involving some other man. I would have liked for this guy to ask me out for date but it’s not possible at least for a the time being. So all I have now is anticipation of running into him or getting a chance to hang out with him and friends. Give me ideas. | Crushes |
about 5 years ago i developed a crush in this boy in my class. he liked me back and we had a cute little thing. about 3 years ago our parents git into an argument that hasn’t been resolved. i thought that my crush ended but last year i would find myself constantly thinking about him. this year, we are in the same class after not being in the same class for 5 years. i’ve been able to get close to him as a friend and i talk to him everyday. i started to get a feeling he also liked me but then he started dating one of my friends. they were dating, the. he broke up with her, and then he got back together with her. she barely even likes him and i think she’s just dating him out of pity. i would still think about him a lot but i assured myself that i didn’t like him. yesterday i had dream that he kissed me on the shoulder in my house. i usually forget all my dreams after waking up but this one hasn’t left me. he sends so many mixed signs because he’ll be staring at me in class and we’ll make eye contact and stay like that for a while until something catches my attention. i always feel like he’s flirting with me during class, outside of class, and through text. he likes to seek my attention and only mine. he gets mad at other girls but not me. everyone in my class thinks that he likes me. i’m conflicted because if i confess my feelings and he likes me back, we can’t be together because our parents are on bad terms. and if he doesn’t like me i’ll be embarrassed and my friendship with him might be ruined. my crush never ended and i don’t know what to do. | Crushes |
Couple months ago I told her friend who’s also my friend rhay I think she might like me. Didn’t actually believe this but was just to afraid to tell them I liked her. Pretended like I was actually nervous that they liked me cause I didn’t like them. Even tho it was a private message they Told her I was assuming they liked me all night. Really just wanted to know if they did. Only found out they knew about the question when someone told me. Apparently they where kind of creeped out that I thought they liked me and thought I was full of myself. But didn’t really mind and gave me a second chance to be friends I guess because apparently she doesn’t care anymore and we talked a bunch especially over text since then. But they never knew and even tho I don’t talk to them much anymore I wanna tell them why I asked. I don’t want them thinking I was full of myself because of I was scared to tell her how I felt and asked how they felt about me in a dumb way (disclaimer: didn’t actually think they liked me was just akward) still mad at the friend who reworded what I said and then told a bunch of people. Even tho my question came of as me being full of myself she decided to tell everyone that I didn’t even ask and said I said “yeah _____ likes me” moral of the story don’t be akward and be upfront. Also should I tell her why I asked so she doesn’t think I’m full of myself | Crushes |
I've been having crush on this guy from my school and he's so fine 😭😭 but I don't think he would be in interested in me and I always try to make it obvious that I like him.
Also what makes it kind of worse is that he's one year younger than me and I get shamed by my friends :(( | Crushes |
I have been crushing for this guy at my work for all the time I’ve been working there which is 5 months now, but we don’t really talk, and I’m very shy around him. About a week ago I was messing around and I sent risky snaps to him while I was drunk with the text “I wanna be choked” to him, and he agreed to do it. I was shocked, but so excited to meet him up which was around 2 AM on a Saturday. He just came back from a bar, so he was quite drunk. He picked me up, and we drove off somewhere where no one could see us. We spoke a bit in the car and then we had sex. After we had done it, I asked him if he would do this again with me and he said yes, occasionally. I was so happy after we had done it, I am so extremely attracted to him. I felt like I had fallen in love after we did it, I felt so lucky and couldn’t stop thinking about it for days. I know that he wouldn’t date me or anyone, he has told me that before we went and did it, he doesn’t want anything serious. And the next time we saw each other at work he kept locking eyes with me and being friendly towards me and I thought he might’ve liked me. But after a few days, we had a chat about what happened on Saturday, he told me that it would not be happening again. He said that he can’t do that with coworkers, at first he said “idk” then he said he doesn’t want to and he’s not feeling it. I asked him if he enjoyed it he said of course. I don’t understand why he wouldn’t want to do it again if he enjoyed it, it makes me so frustrated and then I got really drunk again and confessed my feelings towards him and I think I scared him off and now it feels so awkward seeing him at work and I feel like I’m in pain every time I see him, because I want him so bad, I don’t understand why he would do it with me then decide not to anymore. How do I convince him? | Crushes |
My crush hugged me but as far as i know she has a boyfriend ☠️ | Crushes |
So basically I’ve had a crush on this girl for a while and she has too and we finally started dating. We even had our first kiss about three days ago and it was amazing. The thing is, after that day she’s been acting really weird. She was so happy that day though, we went skiing, we had our first kiss which was her idea, played mariokart, laughed. And she’s just been leaving me on seen. The day after that i texted her in the morning and said that I couldn’t hang out that day and then she said “oh that’s all good, I’m hanging out with my friends today and tomorrow. What about Monday?” And we agreed on Monday. That was fine. The message after that I asked her how her morning was and she said “Sorry busy ttyl”. She doesn’t usually stay stuff like that but I didn’t mind, maybe she was just busy.
Then I liked three things on her story which were all memes and one of them I sent a message saying “That’s so true lol😭😂” and then it was left on seen.
Then it gets worse.
A few days before we hung out she asked if I wanted to come skiing with her and I said that I’ll have to check my plans for March break but I should be able to come. Just today I found out I could go skiing with her and I messaged her about it and I’ve been left on seen for 2 hours. I also made a photo dump and put it on my story and it had pictures of me and her and she didn’t even like it or reply to it. She uploaded a photo dump a couple days before that of us.
I’m really worried. I don’t want to message her right now, I would rather talk about it in person. What do you think is going on. I don’t want this to end. I’m panicking. | Crushes |
Recently I made a post about how nobody has ever liked me back. Just remembered I’m pretty sure someone did, someone who was a whole light year out of my league. So far that it’s not even funny. We flirted all the time over text. She changed my name to daddy on snap as a joke. Called me hot, messaged me “ily” after 14 days of talking and I asked her what it meant to be sure and she’s said. It means “ I love you” idk if I said “you too” or just said cool. Probably the first. Talked about Omegle. Sends a whole body shot and says we should go on it sometime. Right after they said they broke up with their partner. And we had a 34 day snap streak … imma go cry | Crushes |
So, there’s this guy in my uni class that I’ve been crushing on for a few months now. I guess I might have looked at him a bit too much so that he noticed, and in one lecture in the fall he sat down beside me and initiated conversation (and gaaah I was painfully awkward). Anyway, we ended up sitting beside each other a few more times and talked a bit longer one time on the way home but nothing more (except saying hi etc). Then recently we worked together on a small school project and I just feel so inferior and stupid, all the while he’s smart, thoughtful, adorable, cute... I just feel like he couldn’t like me and that any ”signals” I’ve noticed are either completely wrong or he’s just being friendly. Or that he figured I was interested and wanted to get to know me at first, but realized that I’m not worth his while after working with me (it felt like he sort of avoided me last class we had together)...? It’s just so hard to read him. I could never just tell him that I like him (which I know is your usual recommendation on this sub and I totally stand by that for most people) because I don’t want to come off as a creep and I honestly don’t even want to try make it clear that I like him in any way. Plus, I mean it’s not like we’ve talked a bunch and we don’t even know each other so what’s the chance if him liking me. One time he said that he likes talking to me but it felt like he was either just being kind/something he says to most people/messing with me. But at the same time I just can’t stop thinking about him and probably would need to be rejected just to get closure. So, any advice on how to get (not way too embarrassingly) rejected? | Crushes |
I met my crush on a public bus a few years ago. He was in a year above me. We got along very well and we're still VERY close friends. He told me everything, he dated a few people but broke up with them after a few days. I like him alot and we get shipped but idk what to do ahah | Crushes |
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