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I just really wanted to tell someone about this. Last night a got to see my person(non-binary) we have been talking for awhile but never made it official because I (f) hadn’t been allowed to date till now. Last night they finally asked e out and I am so excited. We have been planning it all day today and I’m so so so happy I have been waiting for this for almost 8 months now. We are going to a park near by and we r going to have a picnic and just mess around at the playground. Sorry this is badly written I just really wanted to talk about it. :D | Crushes |
Flying in august second. Will vacation and meet him on the tenth. Originally we were gonna spend the week together but he got the days of his vacation wrong and it was too late to change the flight. So we are squeezing in one day and breakfast the next morning. I can't wait. Ive been counting down the days. I feel like it's going to be the best day of my life. | Crushes |
He has a gf. That’s it. | Crushes |
sooo there was this boy (my classmate) who i started talking to online and i started to like him a lot even though we only talked about homework.
we once talked about something and i asked him a question and he left me on seen for two weeks straight. each day was pain, i felt like trash. it made me anxious and i just didnt feel good. one day after two painfully long weeks, he asked me through another platform to be his pair for homework and i rejected (cuz i was upset lol). i said it as nicely as i could but he could probably sense my upset-ness lmao so the next minute after that he apologized about it, saying he was busy. it was true tho, it was a busy week.
but i liked him a lot less. i even went back to liking an ex because of it (unbelievable right). idk if thats a normal thing but oh well.
sooo being left on seen is such a bad feeling pls never do that to anyone y'all | Crushes |
So I've liked this guy for a while now and I confessed like a month ago but got friendzoned. (something that irks me about his response was how he phrased it- "I think we should keep being friends, at least for a while")
To be clear, I never want to push this guy's boundaries and assume that he likes me just because I want it to be true. We used to make sex jokes and flirt even before I confessed to him so it could be totally normal and him trying to get our relationship to how it was before. But now they hurt because- you know- there's a little hope inside me that I have to crush every time something like that happens.
The reason I'm confused is because a mutual friend I trust very much keeps saying how he looked sad when I didn't go out with him one day and instead hung out with another friend. Or how he looks happier sometimes when I hang out with him. And just small stuff like this that keeps giving me hope. I really like the guy and I wish there could be more between us so I probably can't be objective about this. However, I don't want to make him uncomfortable and really want to respect his choice, so unless he somehow comes straight up to me and confesses, I won't say anything. We're probably both just confused gays tho. Opinions? | Crushes |
progress??? Last week me and my crush started going out way more. We talk like everyday and the other day we decided to go to a fair, we went on a group and most of the time we were put together, at one point I started talking to another guy friend and my best friend told me his face while looking at me talk with my guy friend looked like he was bothered by us talking. Later on we were in the car sitting in the back AND OH MY GOD. we were so close, our faces were VERY close I was so nervous. The next day we had a party and then party hadn't even started and I was in a swing for 2 and one seat was empty, he sat down and we just started talking so nicely, we didn't talk for a while until it got dark. I saw him with a group of my friends so I just went with them and since I didnt know what they were talking about I went up a little hill and just stood there and not even a minute later he was in that hill with me, and we were just there standing there. Then we made our way back to the group and he held my hand and we started playing that thumb game and then we got bored so we stopped but he was still holding my hand. time passed and we went to sit down in a bench and I had this glow stick rope and he took it and put it around my neck and moved my head up so we were just face to face just staring into our eyes. then he walked around the bench and stood infront of me and opened his arms, at first i was confused but then I just stood up and hugged him and that same hug thing happened 2 days ago when we went to the cinema. ALL THAT HAPPENED AND YET HE STILL TELLS HIS FRIENDS HE DOESN'T LIKE ANYONE. I don't know what to think. | Crushes |
Few days ago I realized that, since she has Spotify premium, i could find her account and see what she listens to (half just curiosity, half wanting to find something that I know she likes for me to play when we'll see each other).
So, I find it and I start snooping around in her playlists, among them there is a song in which the singer asks the listener to confess his love (btw, she 100% can't have added it thinking about me, she added it way before we met, feels useless to add but idk), I'm almost in a complete mental breakdown... | Crushes |
She’s been my best friend for as long as I could rember, w h y, W H Y. It could have stayed that way but no, I had to go and contract f e e l i n g s. Why did she have to be so compassionate and cute and understand me on a seemingly different level than everyone else? AHHHHHHHHH | Crushes |
I have been best friends with a guy for about 8+ years. (Im 16 and hes 15) Everytime he comes over to my neighborhood at summer break we just spend time at his grans house. Last week when we were watching TV i leaned my head on his shoulder he didn't make any comments but just made jokes about me breaking his bones and calls me weird for resting my head on him and doing things "couples do" We continued doing that for a week. Yesterday we were in the bedroom watching TV lying next to each other and we held hands on his chest and i was resting my head on his shoulder.
The thing is i have no idea if he feels the way i do, 𝙝𝙚 𝙘𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙨 𝙢𝙚 𝙗𝙧𝙤, bullies me about my heigt sometimes and says im weird for laying his head on him or anything. Today he sent me a video - ‼️
(when u have a girl bestfriend was the title and then - "u would look so cute together" (things people would say to us).. I do really like him but does he? Help
PS: he sometimes moves far away from me or sometimes lays next to me.. ? Im confused | Crushes |
back to a stage where i have absolutely no crushes. idk which is better but i think i will stick with this, no overthinking and worries. at the same time, i think with a partner/crush, life would be much more vibrant.
been hella stressed with school honestly this isnt even the right sub but i think school made me move on from my crush... even when i spend 3hours doing a simple task i feel productive it really makes me feel so damn guilty
just gonna go sleep bc i literally have a class in 4hours
oh also. dont get too attached. | Crushes |
So, the guy I have been crushing on (I met him once at an audition and never saw him again and didn't ask for his socials) and I was just casually scrolling on my fyp on TikTok and I see a guy who looks like him, then they have the same name + sound the same...it's literally him. He's kinda even famous, and is a model. Do I contact him and say "Hi! One of us posts came up on my fyp and I'm pretty sure I met u at --- audition!" Or is that too creepy sounding? Please help me idk what to say without sounding weird, and he may have forgot about me. He might also just ignore my message since he has a lot of followers.
I also don't want it to seem like I have a crush on him lol | Crushes |
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I go to an iceskating rink every weekend since i got into it since covid and ive been noticing this guy looking at me and doing tricks in front of me or smth and the other day i was standing and my guy just came and stood right behind me like back to back and he was soo close i could feel his back against mine (mind you i dont know him) but i go there daily and we both see each other a lot since people with any shoe other then the rentals are memorable (idk why dont ask lol) and so at first i was just oh maybe its a person just passing buy or they just bumped into me and i look behind me since they are standing there for like 2 mins and im like ??? and i look back and see this dude and he looked at me at the same time and then after a few second he goes away he wasnt holding his phone or talking to anyone and i was just looking for my friend so we both just skate away and then i go back to the same place a few mins later and he comes back and stands behind me I LITERALLY DIDNT HAVE A CRUSH ON HIM I THINK HE DOES THO IM NOT SURE **HELP** I THINK IM CATCHING FEELINGS BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT THE BACK TO BACK THING MEANS AND IM GOING THERE TOMORROWWWW (he keeps spraying ice on me when he stops too MANY GUYS DO THAT WHEN THEY SEE SOMEONE ATTRACTIVE OR SMTH IDK IM NOT SURE BUT HE KEEPS ON LOOKING AT ME) | Crushes |
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I was right, she is just too far out of my league. She has been severely lacking in texting me back over the past few days, even though we just hung out two days ago. Whatever was there is fading fast if it hasn’t already. Even though I doubted myself in the last post, I had faith that I could win her over. I couldn’t. That doesn’t just hurt my feelings, it destroys me mentally.
I don’t really come across girls that I like too often. I usually wall off my emotions to prevent this very situation. She moves back to school in about 3 weeks, there is simply nothing left I can do but see how she’s going to hurt me. | Crushes |
The first I asked over text and then changed his mind saying he thought it would be a bad idea and is also seeing someone now. The second one I asked in person and he smiled (I’m guessing because flattered), paused and said he was actually talking to someone too.
My confidence isn’t shaken at all. It’s crazy, what are the odds I get rejected the same way? | Crushes |
So, there's this girl I really like. I'm shy and awkward and she is pretty much the only person I have had conversations with in school since they reopened after the pandemic, and we weren't even in the same classroom. We got along pretty well, but the conversations were mostly limited to education and studies.
She moved to another school a couple months ago, and we have been talking through text every now and then (still limited to educational stuff). It's always me who texts first and initiates the conversation, while when we used to talk in person, it was the opposite and she was the one who initiated. She's quite extroverted so I think she might not like texting. She always replies though.
Should I keep texting her anyway? I think the reason why we mostly just talk about studies is because that's what ***I*** used to talk about. I was known to only talk about studies, and whenever we (and this happened very rarely) talked about something else it was her who brought it up so maybe I should try texting something more friendly or casual? I'm worried she might be bored by all this school stuff.
We're both 16, I'm a guy. | Crushes |
First reddit post ever.
We've known each other for few years from school and became a lot closer friends at a party. Where we talked about how we both had a crush on "not very good people"( don't know how to say it without swearing lol). After the party we kinda texted about dumb stuff. And I've ran into her few times. Where we both shared a good laugh.
Now here's the thing. After that party I started to like her A LOT. AND I MEAN A LOT. I want to be with her. During texts she often addresses me as bro and dude but during jokes and sarcastically. She also said that I am cute when drunk(yay). However I feel like she only sees me as a friend. Nothing more nothing less. Not a frindzone thing more like we've known each other but now we're officially friends kinda thing If that makes sense.
I'm very bad with woman. Don't know how to approach them. Talk to them. I've Never even kissed a girl before.
So I need some advice. How do I transform that friendship into a relationship. Idc about risks of losing frindship just want her to be with me. So what do I do and how do I do it?
I'll take any advise and answer any questions.
Thank you.
P.S: I know this post is a mess. Sorry about that I just need advice soon or she'll make go crazy. | Crushes |
I posted about me liking this one toxic guy, and since then, I stopped liking him. I moved on from him and a few months later, I met a guy who became one of my closest friends very fast. After a few months, we ended up dating and it turns out, we both liked each other from the beginning. I'm glad I moved on from an asshole crush to one of the nicest people I have ever met. Good luck everyone! | Crushes |
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How would I confess my feelings towards her without it being awkward/random via text | Crushes |
Once I have this huge crush towards this male. Then I got the courage to confessed toward him via text. Suddenly I just felt the absolute opposite feeling toward him. It's very weird how my feelings change toward him so fast as I have been crushing on him for 3 years. Has anyone ever been through the same thing? Is it normal to feel like that? | Crushes |
i’ll try and keep it brief. also not quite a “crush” but i haven’t felt what i felt today in a very long time. so, i (19M) have recently been going through an anxiety/depression relapse and am finally getting some help for it via citalopram. went to the doctors today to get a higher dose. as i walked in i noticed straight away this beautiful girl. pretty much my ideal type. slim, fit, pretty, curly hair etc. i usually ignore these types of encounters i have due to my state and i just focus on my phone or something of the sort because i know i’m not worth what it takes to be with.
anyway, after i spoke to the receptionist i was seated in the waiting area (only a small place) , keeping to myself. and i start to notice that she starts turning around again and again smiling at me. like i said i’m not used to that at all. if ever - i haven’t even gone out to see my friends going 3 years now because of my condition - and even though this interaction was so small it made me feel worthy for the first time in a long while.
of course i had no balls to even start a conversation so she was purely interesting in my looks (which are minimal) but even then. for one of the few times, a girl who i would place on a pedestal was potentially interested. shocker for me.
even sadder thing is i doubt i’ll ever see her again as this doctors is quite far from where i live and even if it was closer i never leave my home so there’s that.
i wish i could just go back in time and say… well anything.
it’s the very few times like these where i wish i wasn’t so fucked up so i could actually move forward with my life and try to enjoy it for once. maybe one day i will but i doubt a girl that perfect will ever see whatever she saw in me ever again.
if you got nothing at all from this, all i ask for you is to seize the moment before it’s too late. regret is a strong feeling.
if by any chance you see this (which you wont) ur a baddie <3 | Crushes |
I (m16) like my coworker (f17) I won’t disclose any information about me or the person.
I told her how I felt and she never said she didn’t feel the same way just that she’s not mentally stable enough to be in a relationship and maybe in the future, What should I do? | Crushes |
so basically i know this person since we were kids and used to have a very good bond. didnt talk to him in a while, and i found out that he left to attend med school overseas. i have his insta so i thought that maybe i should send a text wishing him the best. should i?
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So… I started working extra hours just to get a chance to see him some more. Not even bump into him or get to talk, just watch his car pass on the little bridge in front of our company.
This is getting ridiculous, I don’t know how to get out of this though.
NB : no hate towards fans of anyone, I just didn’t get it before | Crushes |
Apologies for any english mistakes in advance.
I met her end of last year via an online game. Ever since then we chatted every single day.
In the beginning we send each other a lot of date me/ kiss me / make out with me memes. We have a shared pinterest board with like cute wlw pics saying back then; ' o we should recreate that'. We dont rlly do these things anymore.
She talks very open about sex etc., I am not good at that. But it's killing me every time she mentions details because I think I really like her.
We always text goodmorning and goodnight with hearts and ask about our plans of the day (we live in different countries).
Her birthday is coming up and i got her a card with a small gift from her favorite anime.
Like when I summarise what we do and how we communicate it sounds like a; 'omg shes into you as well' but what is throwing me off is the calling each other bestie all the time. I don't have a lot of female friends and def none who I call bestie so this confuses me so much.
I want to confess to her before the end of the year but I am so scared. I know she likes women so that's not an obstacle thank god but I am so scared but I like her so much and aaargh. | Crushes |
I waited 7 years to confess her i tried to be brave. I finally talked with her she said she has a boyfriend and dont want to talk with me anymore. Then blocked me immediameltly. I will never do this again to anybody. | Crushes |
(TL;DR at the end) My crush knows that I have a crush on her. Did I plan on that? Not exactly... It has been over a month now, but I want to tell you guys about how I was basically forced into a confession by my friend.
What I felt for my crush was more of a soft spot at first, a bit of a weakness. My feelings were there, but not strong enough to call it a proper crush. My friend knew about this. After she broke up with her boyfriend, I felt bad for the dude more than I thought "maybe I have a chance now", but my feelings grew stronger.
Fast foward to about a month and a half ago, and I got a random text from my friend saying: "I kissed \[Crush's name\]". You know that feeling when you just suddenly get a very intense emotion that you were not all expecting? I felt so jealous, and above all: I felt betrayed. My friend knew I had feelings for her! I told him to not tell me anything else, and spare me any details. He understood that I was upset, and apologized yet he also felt the need to tell my crush that I was upset, for they were still together at that time.
My crush immediatly texted me and asked what was wrong and if I was angry at her too, and why? Try to understand the situation here: My crush knew that my friend had told me, that they had kissed. I got angry and upset. My friend told my crush that I was upset. So she knew I was upset about my friend kissing her. I had no way out! I could not lie! If I lied she would have known, and I didn't want to lie! So I had to confess... there was literally no other option.
She found it adorable, and cute, but of course there was no chance of me being with her. I was like an older brother to her, woohooo... Good thing is though, things didn't last between my friend and my crush. He was wayyy too pushy and had weird thoughts about how relationships worked, so she cut it. I still don't have a chance with her, but at least I don't have to be jealous anymore.
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TL;DR: I was forced to confess to my crush after my friend told her I was upset because he had kissed her. | Crushes |
It's probably the worst timing and I might ruin everything but I just feel like I need to tell him that I like him and get it off my chest.
When we first started talking he would give some hints and I was too dumb to understand or make a move so now it's been three weeks and it might be too late, maybe he stopped liking me by now...
But I will never know unless I actually tell him so yeah... wish me luck. Hopefully he wasn't just being too friendly and actually liked me. And hopefully he still does...
Edit: He is online rn and I just feel like I can't do it... I'm really nervousssss
Edit 2: He told me he is busy rn so we agreed to talk tomorrow. Well, more updates tomorrow...hopefully it will be fine.
Final Edit: I got rejected... but it's fine coz we agreed that it wouldn't be awkward between us and we will remain friends :) He told me that there is nothing wrong about me in general and he is not rejecting me because he finds something wrong with me or a flaw or something, it's just that he is very specific with his preferences and it's actually very hard for him to like a girl bc of it, and he sees me as a friend.
But I feel much better now and afterwards we talked a bit about random stuff and it seemed to be alright so yeah... I don't regret confessing at all, in fact I think it was a good idea coz we can now communicate much more clearly and I can move on properly. | Crushes |
So I’m entering Sophomore year and I’m wondering how I should come in the first day to try to draw the attention of girls and boost the chances of eventually getting a gf? | Crushes |
For the past few months I've been dreaming a lot more than usual, and my childhood crush would appear in most of them. It's really odd because I haven't been in contact with him since primary school, which was the last time I saw him in person. Occasionally I'd see him on my FB page with his then gfs, but nothing more. I don't think I was particularly close with him either, he was in the same classes as myself for 4-5 years or so. We talked, we played, we were alright, but he was not my best friend per se.
I do have distinctive memories of having a big fat crush on him but refused to admit it. I even had his face darted/covered/hidden in our yearbook and team pics. I was so embarrassed I never looked him in the eye most of the time.
He'd often tease me a lot and we'd argue about the stupidest things. One time, we were walking up the stairs together and I tripped myself and fell. He laughed at me so hard, he even sent me an email after school about it. He titled it "hahaha you fell down the stairs". Now that I think about it, that was fkin hilarious.
I've always thought that he would somehow hit me up someday and tell me how he was crushing on me back then etc etc but I never gotten any of that. I never had closure about this. Seems silly but maybe I cherish this memory a lot because I lost most of my childhood/teen (about a year after I stopped contact with him) to a long battled eating disorder. It was definitely the simpler times.
I'm currently in a happy 5 year relationship. My current partner is my first proper bf, I've only dated 1 other guy before him. I'm living 8 hours flight away from home, away from my family. I'm thinking maybe all this dream was because my subconsciousness was trying to tell me that I miss home or the simpler times?
Or is it to tell me that I need to contact him and get some sort of closure?
BTW the constant dreams I had of him weren't sexual or anything. They were cute, like boy meets girl, girl shy, boy likes girl back, vice versa, etc etc.
Ok help. | Crushes |
Okay, so a couple months ago, I posted a few times about my crush, and I ended up telling her how I felt. She didn’t feel the same, which hurt, but I respect her and still want to be friends, so I’ve been trying to move on. I’ve done pretty well with it and think I’m pretty much over her, which I’m really surprised by since I’ve been crushing on her for like 3 years. Anyway, there’s another girl that I’m starting to have feelings for, but it just kinda feels weird.
I’ve only ever told one other girl I liked her, and she also friendzoned me, but after that, it was probably a good 6 months or longer before I started crushing on anybody else. Is it weird to start developing feelings for someone this soon after getting rejected? | Crushes |
Alright so, long story short, I’ve (16F) had a crush on him (15M) for like about 2 years now? Anyways, I FINALLY confessed it to him after mustering up the courage and he LIKES ME BACK. And we were talking about how we had a crush on each other and stuff, but turns out he liked me for about 3 years and so we’re finally together now and Im literally so happy. We’ve told people and they’re all happy for us. I just can’t believe it. | Crushes |
I admitted to her via snapchat and she responded with ”Yea im sure it won’t be a problem and i won’t tell anyone” and then with <33 :). I don’t know if i gor rejected in a fancy way orr???? | Crushes |
So, lately I've been talking to this person, and we just click together really well. Sleeples nights talking to each other and just spending time together. Sometimes it was really flirty. It was just a matter of time till I started smiling whenever their name popped up on screen, or them showing up in scenarios before sleep.
Today we texted as usual and they told me, they think they have a crush on someone. And they proceeded describing this person and it was 1:1 what we were doing and I was so happy, because I thought my crush was requited and I thought this person felt the same about our relationship. But then they mentioned one specific thing that wasn't related to me at all and my world literally crushed down. I've been crying for the past few hours and I can't stop. And it hurts as hell, because I know who they were talking about. I'm not an ahole so I'm obviously not gonna get in their way, I wish them luck, because they deserve all the happines in the world. I feel so stupid for thinking they were talking about me and thinking that it was my turn to get a happy ending 🥹 | Crushes |
He keeps hugging, putting his arm over my soulders and rustling my hair and all thay
Love it, love it so damn much
Jesus I can't concetrate on the conversation, or anything, when he does that!!! | Crushes |
Like what did your crush do that made your feelings for them die immediately? | Crushes |
Wow I don’t know how I’ll write this without sounding ancient and nerdy as fuck or not we’ll see.
So back like 5/6+ years ago on cod there were montages, you know like the thing FaZe got famous from but they just lost popularity.
About 3 months ago I met this dude at my work. He was with his friends and they were just joking about cod, I find him cute, I play cod so I speak up bring out some ungodly rizz and get his gamertag.
Since then we’ve been playing cod, me, him and his 3 friends he was with and we have this Google drive where we’ll just upload sniping clips we hit together bc that’s the only thing we do on there.
Now he’s been working on a little montage just for the 4 of us, I thought it was just the montage and that was that.
But today he finished it and it’s the cutest shit ever. It starts off like any montage would, just clips on clips on clips. But like about 2/3rds of the way through the music gets quiet and you start to hear him and his friends talking about me, him saying how much he likes me n shit.
And then it cuts to him in front of a camera asking me to be his girlfriend and then it closed with a clip we hit together, he got a quad, I got one then he got one, after each other.
It was super cute. I wouldn’t have wanted anything else of course I said yes.
It’s not like it was a surprise don’t get me wrong we have had a few dates, it was clearly building to this but I still loved it
There’s someone out there for everyone, sharing here because my friends don’t get it | Crushes |
We’re already friends, but not the type that you openly walk up to and have conversations with everyday. He’s already really nice to me, I just don’t know how to keep a conversation going. I’ll ask him something, he’ll answer, occasionally make a joke, I’ll laugh, then that’s it💀 How do I find out if we share an interest? Atleast that would give me something to talk about tysm if anyone can help me with not being awkward 😭 | Crushes |
we went out today on our 4th date and he asked me to be his girlfriend. so yeah then we kissed. yay!
« tout est bien qui finit bien » as the french say:) | Crushes |
I don’t really want to make this too long but basically I started talking to a guy about this time last year. We were mutuals on Instagram and I thought he was cute but I didn’t really think much of him he was just one of the people that I followed on Instagram. fast forward to about March we talked here and there short conversations. He had come to my area a few times when I asked him for favours and it was nothing too serious, I just had a little crush on him. So one day we decided to do K together so I went to his area we walked around for a bit we talked hung out it was chill. After this time, stopped talking to me for a bit. I kind of just assumed that he was like a bad Texter maybe he wasn’t on social media that much.
Although he did have like a TikTok Instagram Snapchat which he was very active on (silly me)
I ended up stop trying soo hard to talk to him
and thought If he really wanted to talk to me he would text first and put more effort in so I kinda left it at what it was.
Fast forward to about May, one of his friends had passed away and I knew that he was going through it. He texted me asking if we could hang out and that he needed to get out of the house and I said sure.
We ended up doing molly together in a nice park. This is where the more important details come in. Although I’m aware molly alters the way you think feel act and behave he did tell me that he liked me and kissed my forehead and was overall very affectionate. It did kinda surprise me because I didn’t think he felt the same way I did about him. However when it wore off he was kinda stand offish and on the bus on the way home (it was about 12am this time we got locked in the park) he barely talked to me and was looking at me very weird which kinda confused me but I was like whatever.
Because of this the next day I asked him if everything he said was true and he said yes he does like me but he doesn’t want a relationship which I was completely ok with. The next couple of days he was being very short with me and clearly didn’t want to talk to me. Long story short he basically ghosted me (for absolutely no reason)
I had texted him one day saying I feel like you used me for drugs and you didn’t actually like me at all. This seemed to set him off and said something along the lines of, I know I’m a drug addict but that really hurt because I wouldn’t do something like that. I guess that gave him a reason to hate me now.
We ended up not talking for about 4 months as he blocked me on everything
About 3 weeks ago he texted me saying hi it’s (name), he apologised to me and I asked him why he was texting me and what he wanted. And he asked to be friends again. To which I agreed because I still do really like him.
We talked sporadically and a couple days ago we decided to do acid together and go to the arcade in town. We had alot of fun, I have a lower tolerance than he does so it kinda hit me harder, he was very caring and made me feel very comfortable. To summarise we spent the whole evening together, shared cigarettes talked and laughed and he took me home when he asked for a hug.
He also told me he has autism. Fast forward to now we haven’t really talked much and I feel like he’s going to ghost me again, I don’t wanna assume because he may actually just be bad at communicating online because irl he’s completely different and kind. I do want to tell him I like him again but I don’t want to ruin things. I hate feeling like I’m chasing someone who wants nothing to do with me but at the same time this could just be the way he is and how he communicates as an autistic person.
Side note: I hope this doesn’t come off like I’m trying to other autistic people I’m just trying to be considerate and understand the situation from someone else’s viewpoint. We both have adhd also so that may come in to play.
+ sorry for any spelling mistakes | Crushes |
So I went to hoco with this one guy we went as friends and to be clear that is all I wanted. Anyways we were walking around and he like grabbed my hand and I let him as I thought maybe it would be fine ig to mabye start something. Anyways after that night I realized that I didn’t want to pursue a relationship or anything. The problem is I’m trying to drop hints but he doesn’t seem to get the memo and idk how to freindzone him politely or if I should just tell him directly.(also he like texts me non stop and It’s starting to become annoying) | Crushes |
I would normally be in the 10th grade, but I failed two times in school so I am in the 8th grade.
The school year started some weeks ago, in the first week I developed a crush on a girl, she is as big as me and I thought she was 14 or 15, I never thought that she is more than like one and a half years younger than me.
Two weeks ago my class did a trip to the cinema, there she said to my that she is 13, I was shocked but still sat next to her because we were already friends.
The big problem is that I still have feelings for her, I feel very bad about this.
I would never do anything romantically or sexual with her, I know it would be bad for her.
Is it ok to still be friends with her and hang out?
And is it ok to hug her or would that still be immoral?
Is it immoral that I fantazise about hugging her?
I wish these feelings would stop.
I want her to be happy, so what exactly should I do?
My plan is to just be friends with her.
Am I a bad person? | Crushes |
This dream was really vivid. It was like me lying down on my bed texting him in a infanite black dark & red void. So there's one part in the dream where it was extremely vivid I almost want to talk about it to him but, idk.
It was me replying back to him first about us talking about how things are gonna work out between our friendship or not and it was right after I fell asleep trying to reply back. Was it my intuiton trying to warn me about something? It was like me and him were fighting about him saying I should stop talking to him but, I doubt that would happen.
I'm still scared asf for his reply. What am I gonna do if he talks to me in person at school tomorrow about it?! He was so nice to me but, something just keeps telling me or us that it may not work out. I still have high hopes. Omg it's like I can never find anyone. The dream stopped seconds right before he got agressive with me in the dream. | Crushes |
I met this girl not so long ago and we connected immediately, became very good friends and texted until late at night and just both had a good time seeing each other. (We only saw each other a few times but then again our life situations can’t allow for more.) I really fell for her but I don’t think it’s mutual and lately our friendship really became stale and dry. I am depressed when I can’t see her or when I think she isn’t stimulated enough by what I have to say. I have articulated a very well said message to end the friendship explaining everything and that I need time for myself and that I understand if the feeling isn’t mutual, but I’m afraid of making her sad and depressed too because I’m thinking that perhaps I’m just overreacting. Should I send her the message or should I do something else? (P.s. I don’t think the feeling is mutual)
Thanks for any advice | Crushes |
Yesterday I was drinking with my friends and I was drunk...I decided to text my crush, who I thought he liked me too, cuzz he liked the quotes I posted in close friends (he knew that they were meant for him). Also he liked all the pics I posted of myself.Anyways...I asked him what he's doing, how is he etc. And I tried to like, joke around(not in harmful way, or in a way that I could disrespect him) and he replied with "Hahaha okey sure". I felt like wasn't interested, cuzz the way he was texting ,I sent him emojis "😊😊", so I could see if he is interested in continuing the conversation. He just liked the emojis.... | Crushes |
Send this to ur crush today! I just did! (Although I’m gonna troll him) | Crushes |
so i (16m) might have two crushes as the title suggests. idek if i do have a crush on them but let me introduce them to you.
first one (17f) is a girl ive had a crush on since i we were 10 or 11 and weve known each other since we were 6. first few years i dont even remember but then we got to an argument and i slapped her. and before you think anything im all for equal rights and i dont make differences in this case. she offended me and i slapped her, like i would slap anyone other, regardless of their gender. so few weeks pass and she apologized, so did i and thats when we really start to talk to each other. and ive probably liked her since then. fast forward to autumn/winter 2021 and i got bored so i started to read old chats with my old friends and i stubled upon her. and as i was reading i got a small feeling that she might have liked me back. but i wasnt in contact with her so i almost cried into my pillow thinking how could i be so stupid. decembers rolled around and i saw her on my bus stop. what a coincidence. so we got to talk and caught up on whats going on and stuff and until end of the school year we went to school together (she visits different school but takes the same bus). so yea it reminded me of her. and we are really good friends and everything so much so that i dont even notice how gorgeous she looks. because of her i find ginger people hot af. cute face, nice hair and i think she has good tits but i really dont look so idk. and kinda bums me out cuz boobs are the best thing in the world. ok, to sum it up, looks great, we have a special bond because of how long we know each other and shes just great overall.
and the second crush (also 17f) is a girl ive known for 6 years and fallen for her maybe in the last couple of months. shes great i must say, but has her flaws. her head is kinda messed up, trying to figure out who she is, anxiety, problems with parents etc. but thats something that makes me like her more, because she is perfectally imperfect. shes a total hottie. id say a 10 no matter what others think. shes very kind and caring, a bit shy, bookworm. also, we have this class where they teach you etiquette and social dances. so shes my dance partner. and i gotta say we dance pretty good. like normally you take two randoms and they stand a bit far, we dont have that problem cuz like we probably dont mind holding each other. man, and shen she smiles, i forget about everything. so to sum this possible crush up. shes a 10, good friend (but not as crush 1), we actually have social interactions on daily basis, kind, caring, she will give you a helping hand.
also a bit bout me so you know what im dealing with. i dont really care about my looks, but id say im at least an average. but what do you know? i also think of crush 2 as a 10 even tho she may not be. im pretty confident, smart, respectful (ive learnt my lessons). and i care so much, mostly about mental state of people. like people need to vent and show their feelings and not just let it boil until you do something bad. also it improves connections with people when you confide in them and vice versa. but i just dont wanna show it cuz then ill look vulnerable and unmanly and stuff. but they dont know hot much i care. and thats because when i was going trough some bad shit i had nobody and that is the worst. so now i try to be there for my friends. yea now you know me id say.
so do you think i have a crush? or two perhaps? should i focus on just one. or is it just temporary. also, what if feelings arent mutual? cuz that would crush me. so i just keep hoping they make a first step, because i dont wanna sacrifice or otherwise hurt our friendship if i confess. id rather be stuck as friends than not. so am i crushing and if yes should i do something about it? thanks. | Crushes |
I can't talk to him, and I wish that we were closer so that it wouldn't be as random if I started talking to him again. I guess I'll just have to admire him from afar. ;-; | Crushes |
So my school is going to have their homecoming dance on October 28, and within the weeks following up to the dance, I plan to ask out my crush, F(17), to the school dance. I plan on making a sign, with help from some of my friends. Currently she doesn't have a boyfriend, neither she is currently talking to someone, however apparently there is a possibility that she has a crush on me since some of her friends have told me so. However I'm too nervous and still haven't decided to ask her out yet. However I plan on asking her out to homecoming though. I want to make a sign to ask her out, but I don't know what I put on the sign that will ensure she will say yes and make it look like I did a lot of effort in doing so. Any ideas on what I write? | Crushes |
TLDR: Her and her bf broke up. She's single again and I have my chance when I see her again in November.
After months I finally have hope again. Her boyfriend confirmed they had broken up due to her having some problems and she pushed him away. I don't know the full story yet, she had told me a few weeks ago that she was having some problems and I tried talking to her about it but she said it was too much to explain over text so maybe when we called. I haven't called her in almost a month now though due to me coping that she was taken.
It had been awhile since we texted so after I found out, I didn't plan on telling her that I knew, I decided to let her tell me when she was ready. I sent her a meme to get a convo started and she read it immediately after I sent it, basically telling me that she was already in our dms. She sent a meme back instantly and said "oh wow our timing is perfect". I asked her how she's doing, any new tea?, the usual stuff. She just said a lot but she must contain and wait until it's all finished.
I don't know the full story yet so I'll probably call her soon this week and we can finally talk it out. Whether she's waiting to tell me then or in person, or she doesn't want to because she doesn't also want to push me away I don't know. Now that she's single though my plan to turn our November hangout into a date is back in action. | Crushes |
Today we were groups of 4 for half of the lessons and she was in my group, she didn't have the book we were studying on so i sat next to her and we did the questions together. I made her laugh or smile in a lot of occasions and we were doing it pretty well. To add in another lesson she was in front of me (cuz of the groups) and when i got yelled by the teacher she looked at me and smiled (in the same lesson i made a joke that made her laugh so fucking much that she had to cover her face with her arm so she couldn't laugh loud) What does this mean, i'm still not sure if she likes me or not. | Crushes |
So a co-worker of mine was drunk a few nights ago and told me one of my co-workers has a crush on me. I didn't believe her since she was drunk but I asked her again today when she was sober and got really shy and annoyed that she spilled the beans haha.
To be honest, I do really like the co-worker with a crush on me back but our schedules don't really line up often and I have no idea how to even make a move on her, casual flirting can only go so far haha.
So how the hell do I go forward with this, do I just straight up tell her someone snitched on her, I've never exactly been in this position before so I'm very lost lol. | Crushes |
So there is this guy who might like me and he looks at me in the middle of classes and sometimes tries to make me laugh, once I was giving him something (when we were doing a project) and he was touching my hand while taking it. He has been giving me hints that he might like me. I didn’t think of him that way before but now I might have started to like him. I told his sister to ask him (but not to mention that I asked her to ask him) and when she did he said “I don’t like her at all” and when I heard that from his sister I was heartbroken! I got rejected indirectly!! What I don’t get is why would he give my false hope if he didn’t like me all this time, I mean he always sits behind me!! I really need some advice to make me feel better. | Crushes |
The trip is of 3 days and obviously, I wouldn't have to wear the uniform and follow the dress code so I won't look so bad. What can I do to get close to him? Whenever he's close to me, I squeal like an mouse and can't stop giggling and staring. He's a senior btw, one year older than me. | Crushes |
Just like the title says if you need more information then just ask in the comments | Crushes |
We have hung out a few times at work events and today I went to eat lunch with her on her lunch break and I asked her what she was doing Saturday and she said “idk that’s for away” and I asked if she would be down to go on a date idea I had and she said just to text her because she has a lot of plans with family lately and she said I could just text her and she if she was busy? She did say she was open to me eating lunch with her. I can’t tell if she is not interested or just really busy lately. | Crushes |
So I (19M) work part Time in a store and I had a Crush on one of the cashiers (18F). My sister (22F) also Works There has a cashier and is Friends with my Crush.
She is really shy and barely talk to anyone. She doesnt like attention so it was hard to try to get closer to her.
After one work shift because we spoke a little bit and she laughed and everything so I was like ok it now or never. I wrote my number on a piece of paper and we our shift finished I gave the paper to her. So I gave her my phone nomber to see if we could get to know each other and see where it goes.
Later that night she did text me and I was so happy. We both Said that we would like to get to know each other more.
We then started texting each other for like two days before I asked if she would like to go out to Do an activity together. She was more than happy to accept and you can imagine I was too lol...so I proposed to go to a ceramic painting place. We then continued to get to know ourselves by text before the Day we go out...
Then the Day we went out, she sends me her adresse, I go Pick her Up and we go There. It was SO fun and we both had a great Time and talked a lot...I paid, we go back to my car I open the car door for her and I leave her at her house. Later that Day I text her to Say that I enjoyed our day and asked if she would like to go out again soon to Play mini golf (she Lives near a mini golf place). She then agreed and everything was super great...
Then my sister got covid so we had to postpone our activity. She also started to take a bit longer to answer to my text than usually.
When I saw her in person at work later a asked if she was still down to go play mini golf and she Said yeah!.
So we went to Play mini golf on a night. It was super funny and we laughed a lot but the game was short. We than decided to get a slushie/Ice Cream and we sat on a picnic table eating and talking for more than two hours. Since the people There were looking at us we decided to go on a little walk alone before heading home. I wanted to take this opportunity to hold her hand during to walk, but I was too nervous and didn't Do it. We head back to my car and I oppend the door for her again (I dont know if girls still like this but 🤷) Then I left her at her house...
The morning after, I asked her if she wanted to go on a walk (in a cute spot Near where we live) she agrees but is unsure about when she will be available. She finally gives a Day she would ne available. That Day comes and she cancels our plan and Says she cant so we should go another Day. And basically she cancelled again that other day because she was preparing stuff for her birthday.
During this time I was wondering what was going on...
We still kept texting but you could Tell she was busy because she was answering less...
A week later, school restarted and we talked about school so I Said: Do you want to go on a little walk date ?
And here was her answer:
"Hi, listen I'm going to be honest I'll consider you more as a friend than a boyfriend, I don't have a lot of lessons but despite that it takes up a lot of my time and I don't feel ready to enter into a relationship. . I'm sorry but I don't want to waste your time..."
I was sad to read that but Said: "Ok Alright 🫤 I respect this 😅
Then two Days later was her 18 birthday so I wished her a happy birthday and she Said :
"Thank youu! Finally major 😝"
Then nothing...we didn't see each other and didnt text.
So I went to pick Up our ceramics painting we did on our first outing and I decided to leave hers in her work locker dicretly.
We she saw it she texted me: "Thank you for the elephant ☺️"
I Said : "No problem 😊"
Then my sister who also work at our work place organised a "diner" for all the cashiers at our work including my crush. So my crush came to my house...and when she saw me she looked the other way...i didnt say anything and she went back with the other girls.
Basically for a couple of weeks when we where close she was avoiding me and acting stange... basically she seemed unconfortable. And I still dont know trully why.
My sister was also surprised when I told her what happened.
I was a bit sad to see this.
But this weekend its been a month since she kind of rejected me and it was the first Time we worked at the same time since.
She suddently didnt act so strange and didn't really avoid me and was more confortable, but we both didnt acknowleged each other so we didn't talk. We did cross path and she looked straight at me and was smiling, but I didn't really noticed so I barely looked at her...
But every time a think about her I get a little sad and disapointed it didn't work out and we ended like this suddently.😕
So I decided to text her again after one month of silence and I asked her if she was still down to talk and be friends...
She said that of course she would be ok with that.
-- So now I'm wondering if I should try to talk to her in person more next time and see if There is still a chance that it might work with time...or if I should just stay "friend"-- | Crushes |
I got to see him from a closer view today (and he looks WAY cuter up-close). And I realized that we both have a mole on the same spot! And I can't stop thinking about this | Crushes |
We were talking for 2 months straight and then here and there (but mostly not) for 4 months. There was already mutual interest but I flirted first and then he put in even more effort,, but he was mostly just asking about my day so I decided maybe i should stop replying for a bit. After 5 days, he stopped asking then I stopped talking to him for 3 days. Then I came back and he was enthusiastic. Almost like he missed me.
This went on again, but this time I told him I’m gonna be busy so I can’t text but I’m not ghosting and he said it was okay.
A month later, I asked him out and he said yes but he said he’s busy. I didn’t ask a specific date and time, which I should’ve but it was my first time asking someone out.
Then we didn’t talk for a long time because he was busy and I wasn’t sure if I should text him. But I realized it was me who was making him be this way, from showing attention a lot to nothing. So I apologized for being confusing, told him I don’t wanna be friends, and that I’m starting to like him. He said he wasn’t confused, he doesn’t see it as friends, and I should talk to him more. I texted him and asked what he wants between us and he said he wants to know me better first. I only texted him like 2 after because he doesn’t answer even though he said I should talk more. After that, I decided to just not text him anymore since he doesn’t answer.
Then he found out I went out with other ppl and he knows I didn’t enjoy my time with them (went out once) and I said I don’t wanna go out with him anymore and he was like ‘what? I won’t treat you like they did’ but I still didn’t wanna go and he asked if I was still gonna go out with them and I said … yeah. And then he said I’m gonna lead ppl on… maybe that’s how he feels about me? That I was leading him on. But I actually didn’t go out with the ppl again because it wouldn’t make sense to, I didn’t like it. But he doesn’t know that I didn’t, he thinks I did.
Now, I text him more (3 times so far) but he only replies one or 3 words. Sometimes it’s even soooo dry to the point where it doesn’t even make sense that idk what to reply. So I gave him my number but he didn’t contact me. A week after (2 days ago) that I told him that I wanna talk to him and get to know him better through calling, not texting. He hasn’t seen it yet but his snapscore goes up even though he told me he hasn’t been on snap lately (so he lied?)
Should I continue to show my attention and wait for him or leave?
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It was so amazing. We were just standing there with his friends and a slow song came on. I then heard one of his friends whisper something like “ask her”. He walked up to me and asked to dance and we did. My heart was beating so fast because I had been fantasizing about this for a week. I planned to tell him I liked him when we danced but I got so nervous and couldn’t. He’s taller than me so he has to look down at me, and the way he started smiling a bunch and looked down at me made me want to explode. It was so hard to keep eye contact. I was smiling just as much as he was. His hands were so warm too. I can’t stop thinking about this. | Crushes |
so we go to different schools so the only place we see each other is a quiet teen group held once a week we've known each other for a month or so. I have her phone number (neither of us has texted or called)and we chat every once in a while and play video games together and sometimes we sit next to each other and she definitely talks to me more then anyone else but I don't know if we're just friends and I have zero courage and don't know how to ask and I really need a confidence boost
Update: I didn't ask her out but I probably never will. I just learnt she's too old for me where I live | Crushes |
Last night I told my crush (who I have liked for a year) that I had a crush on him and he left me on read. It kinda sucks because his friend actually ended up telling me he wasn't interested in me, but like I could care less about that part. I think I am more upset that he couldn't even tell me himself, but if he didn't want to upset me I think I understand. It just would've been nice to hear it from him. I wasn't even planning on telling him like at all, but his friends ended up finding out. So I figured if he was going to be told, I should be the one to do so. Anyway it's safe to say his reaction did it for me and that I no longer like him. | Crushes |
Hello all! So I have a major crush on one of my friends. We've known each other since we were baby's so there's a long history there. The problem is that we live on different continents. He's from Australia and i'm from America. (I'm half american half Australian and go to Australia once a year.) We can text but we can really only text each other really when the other is asleep. I have liked him since we were 6 and i figured out what liking someone was. Sadly in the pandemic we drifted apart since we didn't get too see each other in 3 years. When I went and got to see him again a few months ago he wouldn't stop looking for the first few days and i'm not sure if that's just because I've grown up a lot since last time or he thought I was pretty. Over the past few months we've texted a bit more and he's helped me with my mental health and boy drama at school. I'm just not sure if he likes me back and I don't want to tell him and him not like me back and our friendship be weird. If we did date it would also be long distance. Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to this! | Crushes |
talking abt A rn, im guessing all future posts will be about her noe | Crushes |
so all of our friends were sitting in a group and my crush was sitting right infront of me and the other girl whom he had a thing w was sitting next to him and my friend next to that girl
so the girl he had thing w left and i was supposed to share food w my friend so i came and sat between the guy i like and my friend
but as soon as the girl he likes came , i woke up from her seat and went back and sat in my seat
but they were talking about me right infront of me , like he said her she sat here she had the food
Like whatthefuck?
I was scared that the girl might kill me so i left as soon as she came and sat infront of him
but wtf like actually wtf
m done
and then i actually put salt in water so that he'll drink it and it'll be funny and he actually drank it but everyone gave me 🙄 look
everyone was annoyed at me like wtthefuck
my friend told it was obvious that i like him cz i put salt in the water just for him to drink
How is that obvious?How will that make it obvious!?
and the girl was saying if she knew it why wud she give it to him
Now ik everyone will talk about me and fucking judge me
My friend said it was obvious that i like him
Whatthefuck
I didn't wanna make it obvious 😭😭 | Crushes |
Before you say anything, Ik this sounds bad for myself but listen.
I have a crush on my favorite person ever, he's a close friend of mine and he's just perfect, he's sweet, he's kind, he's smart, he's funny...
But I've thought this through and first off I've gotten quite a lot of signs he just likes me as a friend, and then again even if I like him so much, I'm more than happy with our current relationship too, he's a sick af friend and I couldn't wish for a better one.
So what I've decided is, if telling him will definitely only ruin our friendship, and I am pretty happy just being friends with him, why ruin this?
So yes I'm gonna keep fangirling, if I need to vent my emotions I will, but I've decided I'll just do nothing about them from now on and enjoy him as a friend! | Crushes |
I 16(M) had a crush on a girl 16(F) in my class since 1 year. I used to be a fat ass when I first met her, I was 170 lbs and 5'8.
We were just kind of acquaintances but I never really expressed my feelings to her in fear of getting rejected based on looks.
Here, comes my friend (who is very trustworthy), who knew about my crush on her and he broke this to her, and he told me that she rejected me because of my fat.
Later on, after 2-3 months, I started to workout and diet to loose weight, and ended up loosing 44 lbs in 5 months and gained height to 5'9. I did a pretty good transformation.
Now, my crush acts very differently, in the sense that she smiles at me whenever we get an eye contact, she also called upon me with a shy smile to sit with her in the class a couple of times.
She also smiles and shy alot on my flirting.
Did she changed her mind about me or no? Is she interested in me? Or she is only making a fool of me? | Crushes |
I need some advice on my crush
Alright so I have a crush on this girl I met her about a month ago and I'm planning on asking her to a school dance in about a week but I'm not sure if I should first she's left me in delivered for about three days she doesn't normally do that and I know she's been using snap because she's posted on her story and another thing she's mentioned likeing someone already so I don't like my chances so any advice would be great. | Crushes |
i confessed to her that i love her and this is her response :
"I really got out of a relationship recently and I don't think I need to get into something new with someone yet, plus you and I are friends and we are not that close to be more than friends, I hope you understand me, I don't want to spoil what we have now "
ps. i am not native English speaker sorry for mistakes*
Edit: i forgot to add but the thing that makes me go crazy is that she gave me signs that she liked me , complimented me we hang out together , alone etc. | Crushes |
What the title says
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I don't want to like people but I just can't help it. I just love, well, love. The idea of somebody to care about me regardless of any superficial factor. I long for that feeling of being cared for but all of the pain that I experience on the way doesn't feel worth it. I don't want to keep falling in love, I just wanna worry about myself. How can I stop liking people so much (preferably all together). | Crushes |
Last weekend, I was out of tutoring class with some of my friends, decided to Hey let’s go see the cosplayers (aka one is my cr) at the mall that is few lots of miles away from here under the boiling heat of the sun. Was it worth it? Heck yeah, I got to meet her, my whole body was shaking, getting butterflies all over, I took some few photos with her there and then.
Moreover, it was a one time experience, and I won’t know why I will meet her again, so my friends convinced me to buy her a gift, I got her a cat plushie, her voice when she asked intriguingly “ is it for me?”, her voice…. My face was red like a peach. IN ADDITION, she smiled and asked if I wanted a hug. Bruhhh I thought this was a normal Friday, who knew I would get to meet my cr, and also get a huggggg, my friends were silent screaming, tip toe dancing in the background. I couldn’t even look at her face, my face was smiling like an idiot and I was wearing a mask the whole time.
I feel like the happiest person alive, I didn’t let it be known my social media acc to her cuz of reason for another story time, but she posted a story thanking for the plushie<3 tho.
Finally, I like to thanks my friends for your time, your sacrifices, couldn’t ask for a better friend, and I hope I get to meet her again next time, I want to hug again just a little longer this time. | Crushes |
i have a few good signs so far but i suspect that my crush is avoiding me because they think i’m into someone else
i don’t want to confess because we’re in the same friend group and it’ll make things awkward, so idk how to clarify that i’m only interested in him
help what do i do | Crushes |
(M24) me and this girl (F19) get along really well, we have a laugh and share stories. We talk everyday and pretend to flirt. When we are watching movies we sometimes cuddle. I have been invited over to her families to have dinner. I've because close friends with her best friend and I've developed a crush on her. I asked her about her opinion on the matter and she said "you're too old" she still acts the same around me but if I keep it up I'm gonna get hurt. If I stop she's gonna be upset. How do I stop feeling this way | Crushes |
So, let me give ya some back story. (If ya wanna skip it go to the ** mark)
So I've known her for a while. Since middle school if memory serves me right. We grew up together cause our sisters were best friends, and the moment I met her, I instantly liked her.
I waited and waited for years, until we were both sophomores in highschool. I asked her out, but she had a recent boyfriend that I didn't know about at the time. I accepted she had found someone, and we still remained friends.
So a couple more years pass and we are in junior year of highschool. We decide to form a friend group and we all still talk to this day / hang /are very close friends. (Me, her, and two other guys that I trust with my life)
So, about a month or two ago, she texts the group that she has broken up with her boyfriend. (Apparently he tried to control her and didn't let her live her life.) I've met the guy, and he had the signs, but she loved him and she didn't seem unhappy.
So when she texted the group chat they broke up, I was simultaneously shocked and fireworks were going off in my head.
Now, over the past couple of weeks, we've chatted in the group chat, and one on one. She has been very bantery and flirty with me as of late. I don't know whether to take this as a sign, or to just let my love for her boil.
**So, should I tell her that I'm still in love with her / wanna go out, after she recently broke up with her bf and I've known her for over half of my life?**
Any Advice at all will be greatly appreciated. | Crushes |
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A bit of backstory to start off with;
I crushed over a girl I work with for about 4-5 months. Over time we became great friends. I eventually got the courage to ask her out, and we went out on a date. She was very career focused so she didn’t seem to want to make more time for me. It took me too long to realize she just didn’t feel the same way about me.
After about 9 months of grief, pain, and regret I eventually got over her. We also managed to stay good friends (though it may have been because we work together 30/35 hours a week). In fact she’s the closest person I have to a best friend.
Now here’s my dilemma, I’ve recently got promoted to a position that forbids me from dating/be friends with fellow coworkers outside of work. And my boss (who knew about my romantic feelings) has noticed that I treat my “ex-crush” differently than the rest of our employees. Part of it I can say is because of the friendship we built over the course of our work careers. But another part my boss pointed out to me is also because I may still have small dormant feelings for her… I guess I still see her as a damsel in distress that I can rush to help whenever she needs, even if my new position needs me elsewhere.
So my question is this: How do I stop my dormant romantic feelings from coming up? I want to squash them out, I live in constant torment because of this. I’m teased at work by my boss. My ex-crush can see my pain and constantly apologizes for something that isn’t her fault. And a line that is constantly thrown in my face by anyone who knows is, “She doesn’t and will never have romantic feelings for you.”
I tried to express everything as best I could, but if there’s anything that isn’t quite clear feel free to AMA in comments | Crushes |
i have a huge crush on this guy but whenever i interact with him or need to pass by him i lose all personality. i don’t stare at him, i don’t even acknowledge his presence and I have even given him dirty looks when we have made eye contact. IDK WHY i keep doing this. I am
super friendly and able to talk with other guys at work but I can’t seem to be in a room with him. plus i get paranoid that he might find out i like him and so
I intentionally will try and look unbothered and look rude lol.. is anyone else like this?? | Crushes |
Mild rant: (skip to dilemma if not interested) Firstly, I just want to say I hate having crushes. I used to think of them positively, but now I only see them as hindrances on my ability to think and interact as a human being. Currently I am awake at one in the morning wondering what I’m going to do, and so I’m posting here to get some advice and temporary peace of mind.
Dilemma: I really like this girl, to the point that it has become frustrating. She is single, which doesn’t help, and is a part of a group of friends that I have made on my campus. My desire to ask her out is currently battling my wish to not cause any issues in the friendship. Since I don’t think she is the type to mean or vindictive, I am more scared of things becoming too awkward between us if she says no. We are relatively new friends, and I’m afraid asking her out will ruin things. I really like this new group, and I don’t want to do anything that would cause problems, but I can’t keep losing sleep over this. Any advice would help a brother out.
P.S. I plan on asking some irl friends for advice too since they are closer to the issue. I just wanted some extra advice and to finally get some sleep by asking for help. | Crushes |
was jokingly saying "aw man i was planning to kiss (friends name) later" and then she went "AYOO???? Man i wish i was (friends name)" | Crushes |
I've liked this girl for a while and we're close friends. Recently she has said that this week will be really busy for her and I want to do something this week to make it a little bit better. I don't really know what to do, but I don't want anything too strong just something to help her get through the week. Any suggestions? Preferably not going somewhere since she probably won't have the time. | Crushes |
me: male, 16/ subject: female 18
My crush is graduating soon... well in fact, this is her last week.
Her brother is my close friend and he knows that I have feelings for her. How can I get her to be with me with least time possible?
p.s. we are in the same school. she is super introverted and never talks to boys.
Thanks for all the help! | Crushes |
new year of school, i only attend one class with him in it. but holy crap, its the highlight of my day. we have a little thing where i give him a granola bar he apparently really likes, and i always get really nervous right before, because i’ve been doing it for so long, i’m worried it’s obvious i have an interest in him. but he always gets super excited about it, sometimes he’ll give me a high-five. he has the best smile!! my friend advised me he was a geekier kid, but my younger self was not much better. but anyways, i only see him near the end of the day, and last year some other kids were talking about him having a crush on another girl i’m on friendly terms with. but things change, and i’m not ready to give up a shot i have. a problem i have, i find it a lot more difficult to talk to people i don’t know as well. i do know him, but if it ever came down to confession, i would not know what to do. as the title says- how can i talk to him more? | Crushes |
man whytf is this so hard | Crushes |
I haven’t been posting here much BUT SO MUCH HAS HAPPEN ILL MAKE A WHOLE OTHER POST ABOUT SOME TIME LATER. Ok last week I was walking out of my 3 period class and I walked pass my crush who was walking with two of her friends. She and I looked at each for a while and then she said I love you (my name). Obviously I said it back BUT OMGGGGGG!!! I then went to math and literally couldn’t stop thinking about it and her. | Crushes |
This isnt a bot account due to my karma haha the guy im speaking about likes to stalk my other reddit account so it wouldnt be a good idea to post on there lol so the other day my crush was asking me about he has been perusing to hook up with me about 5 times now but nothing really happens. Its quite annoying cuz nothing happens.
The other day he asked me about my car and which i told him i do have and he kept asking for screenshots of the car which i wasnt sure why but i felt like he wanted "proof" to see if im for real. But idk why it matters to him if i have a car or not? In the past he has mentioned me driving to his house "as a joke" in the past so i of course didnt take it seriously then. But he has had the same convo with me a couple of times even after he explain its a joke so idk why hes yk...In this convo he asks about my sex life too and see what tricks i do in the bedroom as he states he will use a masturbatin material and knowledge to know how id be in bed WITH HIM.
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The very next day he messaged me around 1 am which woke me up and he asked about cars again. Asking "have you ever done a late night drive, just by yourself?" I told him i never have done such a thing but i plan to do it and i asked why? He said since i have a car i could just go out and drive. I told him thats the plan but they might be strcit with the times i can drive out and he asked me how long doi think the restriction would be? I felt like he was planning something against me, or planning something right under my nose and this wasnt a normal convo.
I would reply and leave him on open and hed ask me more questions. For a convo i assumed he only wanted to know if i went on late drives he started to ask me if i ever been out SPECIFICALLY at this time of 1 Am? Not sure why hes asking for the certain time of 1 Am but i told him yes when coming back from long trips with family and he TOLD ME HE ASKS SOLEY ALONE WITH NO PARENTS? I tell him no because i didnt really have anything to go out for at 1 in the morning. He tells me to just go out. But where? Most places are closed at this time, i changed the topic and he tells me again to go out right now as we speak but never specified where. Atp he was coming across as strange. I change the topic and he says it again "go out at this time".
How is he gonna tell me to just "go out" at 1 am? Like where am i gonna go at 1 o clock in the morning where most places are closed. I tell him "you ask me have i ever gone out at this time AND tell me to go out at this specific time but you dont say where as most places are closed" He says "Go near the park or an parking lot or the mountains." The mountains in my hometown are forests, he wants me to be in the forest at 1am? What? This dude planning to kill me or hook up? Cuzzzz. I dont know. hahah.
Now why would i ever wanna be in a parking lot **alone** in my car at 1 AM?? Hes not asking what i THINK hes asking right? And he specifically wants me ALONE in all these scenerios. The park he speaks about is right across from his home. In no way he spoke about me driving to his house but i think this was the endgame of the convo he started. THERES NO WAY THIS DUDE WOKE ME UP TO TALK ABOUT ME DRIVING ALONE TO THE MOUNTAINS AT 1 AM AS A "SUGGESTION". I noticed the areas he told me to drive to are right near his house. But he didnt list his house in the list so i feel like itd be too bold to assume but did this guy just ask me to come to his house at 1AM? he he has dropped me in the past of knowledge about his parents work schdule telling he is home alone at this time too since they work third shift...and has mentioned he wants to drive to his home at that time. but this convo that wasnt spoken of once, this time he speaks of mountains and forests😂
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I really like this guy sexually and he saw this post and it made him think i didnt wanna speak to him anymore. I just wanted to see what others would say about this situation if he was beating the bush about asking me to link up with him. I mightve came off rough as if i have ill feelings but i dont. Im just confused but he took it the wrong way | Crushes |
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Tomorrow is the day I will give my crush a confession note! | Crushes |
I've been in love with her for 2 years now I think, we used to be closer but then 2020 happened, I decided to wait before asking her out, she got a new friend group and we barely even talk anymore. I really thought she was into me and we used to talk daily and watch movies and stuff but now I think it's too late, waited too long. I think it's time to forget about her but I can't :( | Crushes |
I gave her a Sanrio backpack filled with a lot of her favorite things the day after. I think she liked it. | Crushes |
I have an inappropriate crush. I know he’s not married, unless he doesn’t wear a ring?? We are coworkers, kind of. We work at the same school, but different programs. Is he just friendly? Am I making up the connection? He’s 19 years older than me. | Crushes |
I see him as a friend but I also imagine what it would be like to date him. I mean, I can’t imagine him and I ever dating in the future but I want to imagine what it would be like. What’s going on?? | Crushes |
I got lead on by a girl, though she was the one 😔 | Crushes |
Ex: calling them ‘daddy’, jokes about wanting ‘it’, saying you’re c*ming, wordplay…etc.
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So the situation is that theres this one girl that ik likes me and she doesn’t know i like her too. and I really don’t know the best time to tell her and for some reason I’m still really nervous to say anything. Its been like two weeks and i worried that she’s going to lose interest. | Crushes |
She is so pretty and we talk and laugh a lot during class and she even messaged me on snap a couple of times. I want to go out with her though but every time I try asking her it’s like I get really nervous and scared. I’ve had girlfriends before, my last relationship was really short though and I want it to be different this time. | Crushes |
I was working with a coworker that was hired at the same time as me, and we get along really well. So she was helping me, and I said her name in a weird way as a joke.
So she said, "oh my gosh you know who you sounded like just now? You sounded like [crush]. That's exactly how he says my name."
So I'm picking up his mannerisms now I see. | Crushes |
I literally just want talk about her. | Crushes |
Today my crush asked me out on a date and he kissed me! Part of me doesn’t feel like it’s real. | Crushes |
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