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I’m 16 and like this girl who’s 14. I don’t like her in like a sexual way tho. She just really cool and i like hanging out with her. Is that wrong? | Crushes |
So, I liked this guy since middle school, and I'm now a senior in hs and I have not liked anyone ever since. This does not seem normal, is this normal? | Crushes |
My friend previously had a situationship (unofficial relationship) with a guy who I didn't know, but I was aware he went to our school. After finding out that they had split I tried finding out why but she wouldn't tell me. I decided to leave her be. Then, I started a new semester in highschool at the start of February (approximately 2 weeks ago) and a boy in my class immediately caught my eye. He showed interest first, it got to the point where he would turn around to look at me every 10 or so seconds (no exaggeration). I started showing interest as well and we would regularly make eye contact and I would catch him blushing and smiling. After this started happening, I figured out that this was the guy my friend was talking about and I immediately felt guilty. However, I decided to come clean to her and she was surprisingly supportive, she even gave me advice and told me about what he is like.
After noticing this obvious mutual attraction, our teacher sat us together a few days ago. I tried to make small talk by offering him gum or asking the date (lame attempts but I have my reasons I swear), but it never worked its way into a lengthy conversation. I also gave him a compliment on his hands, but other than that nothing happened (I know its cheesy and cringy please don't come for me). My friends would also catch him staring at me in the halls & I am suspecting that he told his brother about this as he started weirdly observing me after this whole situation started (Not unusual for him). I also tried smiling at the boy in the halls, but I never noticed him smile back in this 2 second interaction, he would just simply keep looking at me.
Last week on Friday (before the new seating arrangement), I added him on snap as I only had him on Instagram previously, but no conversation ensued. I decided to risk it and message him today **\*Tuesday,** "how do you think you did on the test?" to possibly start a conversation, but he hasn't replied. It has been over 8 hours and he is online and sending snaps, leading me to believe that he saw the message. He hasn't opened it but he has been viewing my stories almost as soon as I post them.
What does this mean? What should my next move be?
**TDLR:**
Fairly obvious mutual attraction between me and my desk buddy, but he isn't replying to my first message to him or attempting to start a conversation. What should I do? | Crushes |
Alright so I had posted last night that I was shitting my pants about giving my crush this heart chocolate thing with skittles and a note telling him how much I appreciate him and today I got the balls and gave it too him. He was super shocked when I gave it too him. He kept saying why and I was like because and he kept saying why then he said thank you and his voice cracked (lol). I told him that he’ll understand when he reads the note I wrote him. Technically in the note I said I appreciate him very much and I am so grateful to have him and to be able to geek out with him. And I thanked him for always listening and being there for me. I just was so happy he accepted it I thought he was going to reject me😅. Me and this dude call everyday we game together sometimes sing together, he teaches me how to become better at games and we’ve even gone to the movies together. I just hope he gets the hint. Do you guys think that was good?😭 | Crushes |
Im gonna make it simple. I like someone and im not sure they like me back. Whenever I’m near, they always get closer to me, we always make eye contact and I’ve caught them staring, on snap they sometimes add questions, and their friend CONSTANTLY ask if I like them. But I’m stuck because we don’t talk that much, I’ve gotten left on delivered for maybe a day, and one time they just instantly didn’t want to be my partner for some volleyball activity? Please give me advice or just straight TLEL me if they don’t like me back! | Crushes |
I don’t know why I was scared to give him the present but I did it after my last class and it was so cute :D he surprised me too and gave me a letter but I haven’t opened it yet. Best first Valentine’s Day ever w bf <3 | Crushes |
I'm not 100% if she was joking or not, but today, she made a heart out of a gum wrapper for her friend in one of my classes. And jokingly I said to my friend I was sitting next to, where's mine? And she said "I was gonna make one for you, as a friend"... My friend looked back at me and we both looked each other in the eye and went back to work.
I don't know if she was serious or not... Some of my previous posts in some other subreddits explain more of the story. | Crushes |
I confessed to her then she said they were mutual feelings, then she asked to be my valentine. We had a good day and then when I got home she sent me a message asking how my valentines was, I said I really enjoyed spending time with her and then she said she did too. Then I asked what she has been up to and then it’s just been silence. I might be overthinking it but was it the right thing to say? | Crushes |
We are dating! | Crushes |
Hello lovely people, it's been a while!!
So if you remember my theatre crush that I rizzed up with my ring a while ago, I have some updates.
Starting last week, we chatted after class and I got to know him a little better, his family history, stuff like that. I shared mine with him. We made plans to join a martial arts class together!
I also posted on my insta story this long ramble about the Margaret Atwood quote that starts "male fantasies" and he liked one of the stories in that ramble series so I texted him about it and asked him what he resonated with. We talked about it for hours and I even snuck in a little compliment about something I knew he was insecure about <3
Then today, the title. We were in class, AND HE CAME TO SIT NEXT TO ME despite there being plenty of empty seats. He looked nervous, playing with his rings, and we whispered and joked to each other. During discussions, we ended up bouncing ideas off of each other a lot.
At the end of class, I pulled out my secret weapon.
Hershey's Kisses. That's it, that's the clickbait. So I offer the bag to a bunch of classmates and ask "can I give you a kiss?" and of course a bunch of people do and it's lovely and then MISTER MANS steals TWO OF THEM. So I gave my crush two kisses. :)
How should I text him to reference the stolen kiss? Something like that he owes me one, or ask if I can steal a kiss back in exchange? | Crushes |
me: happy valentine’s day (their name)
them: xD
….nice | Crushes |
So my crush cancelled plans of helping me because he had an event that day, but offered to help between today and tomorrow. I gave him the times I was available, but he did not respond (not the first time he has done this). I was already frustrated with him for kinda leading me on (I confused his lack of personal space, radiant smile and golden retriever energy for something more), then letting me down in the most harsh way by ignoring/avoiding me (he had done this to me for 3.5 consecutive months after I was nothing but nice to him and was not touchy or approached him too much). I do not think I came off too strong right before he started giving me the cold shoulder, however I could see how he picked up on a vibe that I liked him. I think there were a few times where I came off a bit strong (but that was only when I noticed him getting distant, which triggered every kind of separation anxiety and emotional detachment I had in my bones). Though this avoidant behavior seemed to carry on into the next semester (though I just stopped seeing him much altogether), he finally gave me an opportunity to see that he was not a complete ass all the time (he helped a few times last semester, but ruined it by ignoring me like I was nothing). I was just really irritated, but today was an exception as I felt like I did not do as well on an easy exam as I could have, regardless of all my studying and office hour visits. I was so overwhelmed when I saw him glancing at me repeatedly, as he never used to stare at me that often, but I suppose he was waiting for me to approach him. It made me even more mad that he wouldn't approach me, but had the audacity to walk past me like I was another stranger just to go to the bathroom. So, I decided to mimic him to give him a taste of his own medicine; I ended up looking down at my phone whilst he was looking up smiling at me ready for me to approach. Instead I walked out, not even acknowledging him. We did not set a time to meet, but he expected me to approach him as that was the time I said I would be available. Was that wrong to do? I ended up emailing him (not apologizing), and telling him I could meet tomorrow if that works for him and telling him I was not prepared for today. It has been hours and he has not responded. I feel awful now and can't stop thinking about the one chance I had to actually talk to him this semester, which I ruined. I was just so sick of him always expecting me to approach him, like he was too good for me and I was lower rank, so I always had to come up first. I honestly think that he should have came up and said something to me first for once in our lifetime of knowing each other (especially since he did not notify me he would be showing up). What do y'all think???? | Crushes |
Before I begin this, I just want to congratulate everyone who took a shot at their crush today! It's such an accomplishment and bravery, and I want you to know that I'm proud of you for that. But anyway, I failed to do anything for my crush today of 6 years (on and off). This year in particular is important because it's our last year at the same school, and I may or may not ever see him again in about four months. I'm kinda disappointed in myself because I'm so shy that whenever he talks to me or helps me out, I either just smile or say the driest answer (not on purpose). This year he's actually showing signs though but I'm confused: (such as helping me out, staring at me, initiating conversations, complimenting me, etc.). But I'm scared that I'm just being delusional and that he doesn't actually like me, because if that's the case I have some heartache waiting for me. I already kind of feel that way, it's kinda sad because some days I feel like he likes me, and other days I feel like he doesn't and likes one of my friends instead. Because of this and that I feel like I'm bothering him, I don't initiate anything. I'm angry at myself because of this but sometimes I wonder that if we ended up together, would he really like me? I wonder if he would go for someone prettier, smarter, and fun to be around. I've kept my feelings in for so long that I'm thinking that he would never be able to know the "real me" and that I'm not as boring as I seem. I practically spent the whole day watching my close friends getting gifts for Valentine's Day, and I was super happy for them but lowkey kinda wanted that. Not jealous of the gifts, but the fact that the person that they liked actually liked them back and they were not scared to initiate things. Yet I'm scared even to initiate things with my own crush, and I'm just confusing myself at this point. Anyway for listening to my rant. If there are any tips I would appreciate them a lot! | Crushes |
life feels more and more complete.
the entire world seems at my feet.
yet even in this glorious time
i'm still wishing you were mine.
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an old affliction that just won't die?
the lure of a feeling sweeter than pie?
a desire to give my life some spice?
regardless, thinking of you just feels nice.
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am i doing all of this for you?
am i the real solution to your blues?
i'm just fueling my own dreams.
you need me as much as you need beans.
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so why is it i still yearn for you?
is it the hope that you yearn for me too?
maybe it just makes life a bit more fun.
anyway, you're still my special someone. | Crushes |
There's a girl in my a friend/ acquaintance group that I liked. She's cool, has a social life and an interesting fashion sense. I liked her voice, the way she was kind to me and we have a lot to talk about. I don't know much about her sexuality/dating life because we rarely see each other and when we do it's in social settings lol.
Anyways I met up with my friends last week and got reminded of how much I'm attracted to her and how much of insecure fool I become around her. I had a show that I was going to watch alone and asked my friends if they wanted to come, all of them said no but she said she was mostly be free and wouldn't mind coming. I sent the link to the group chat and got no response. I send an update to the group chat again today after 4 days hoping she'd follow up but she and everyone else ignored my message.
I was hoping for some alone time with her so I could figure out if I liked her enough and also if she liked girls lol. But even if she did it would be futile because I don't think she's that interested in me romantically yet alone as a friend. | Crushes |
I was rejected…but honestly i’m not super surprised so i’m not really sad about it! He said he liked me but not in the same way and wasn’t ready to be with someone so soon so maybe i’ll have a chance later not sure?! | Crushes |
I’m in love with my 23 year old brother In law who’s dating my sister. I’ve had a crush on him for quite a while , ever since he moved in and he moved here in 2020 just after the first lockdown. There’s also another problem I’m 16. Does anyone have any tips or anything to help me | Crushes |
Literally 2 days ago, I developed a crush on my friend of 6 years. And now, I have butterflies in my stomach, even when I’m not thinking about him 😭😭 I’ve been having this feeling in my stomach since yesterday. Ngl, it’s so nice to have a crush again but at the same time it’s horrible since he’s gonna be all I think about 😅
The reason why this crush developed all of a sudden is because of an event that we along with some of our friends went to after we graduated. A lot of stuff happened during the event but notable moments include dancing with him, holding each other’s hand while dancing, and lots of smiling and eye contact between us. I actually did have a crush on him when I first met him, but that faded away since I could tell he only thought of me as a friend. Now I can’t believe this crush has reappeared again 😭
To whoever’s reading this, thank you! I just needed to gush about this new crush since I don’t want to tell my friends about it since they know him too. | Crushes |
Hey,
Long story short:
- Girl really liked me.
- I like her too but I caught on WAY too late.
- Starts becoming embarrassed and nervous when she would see me. Even cold towards me at times.
- Things get awkward between us as we are not communicating.
- She will try to get my attention, then go back to being nervous and avoidant; repeats this cycle.
- Unable to see her in person so I messaged her online. I apologised for the way I was towards her and that I do care for her, but she ignored me. She seems angry and upset with me.
Should I try talking to her when I see her - in a lighthearted sense - or just leave her alone?
I’m an avoidant person. Haven’t been overbearing in any way and gave her lots of space.
I’m assuming she thinks I’m lying in my message since I showed little concern in person.
I don’t know what to do as I care for her and feel bad for how I may have embarrassed her.
Thanks. | Crushes |
Mines probably “You belong with me” lol | Crushes |
I told him! He just liked my message I have no idea what that means so wish me luck!!! | Crushes |
So I (17m) am going to the water park with a girl i like (17f). A couple times shes invited me over to her house to play video games and watch anime but thats about it. We've been friends for a while. Recently She asked me if i wanted to go the the water park with her next weekend and go get something to eat after. What should I do to let her know I like her? | Crushes |
So... For some reason, even when my crush told me she likes someone else am not feeling anything. It's not that kind of: "I don't feel sad or happy, I just don't feel anymore"
It's more like: "oh well, there's nothing I can do about it, now I'll just keep hanging out with my friend and do things normally"
It happens with friendships too, maybe just 1 hour (at max) of feeling down but it eventually fades and am happy again. I even tell my self: "cool, now I don't have to love"
Btw: I really liked her, she was really perfect but meh. | Crushes |
I know it is not easy to tell, but at least some hints? | Crushes |
Some of you might know me from my comment history. I know my advice has been somewhat pessimistic, but I promise it’s with good intention and I only try to be pragmatic.
I’ve been texting this girl for a little over a week. Before we started talking over text we would talk in culinary and she was coming up to my table at time during lunch.
I noticed she would take a longer route to walk behind my table at lunch instead of the quicker route she would take before we started talking.
Anyway she always replies but sometimes I will be left on delivered for several hours before and other times we will have a longer conversation with quick couple second reply’s.
Last night we were talking bout suckin 🍆. Not a great conversation I know. She said that white guys weren’t really her type and she likes black guys. I’m whole btw. She wouldn’t tell me this if she liked me right? I just want to know if I should start getting over her. | Crushes |
We've talked before but I don't think I've told her that I like her. She has the most beaming smile and laugh. We're both in high school. | Crushes |
I've stopped asking the internet dumb questions like this a while ago, because I either shared too little or too much all the time. I'll try to be as accurate as I can with this one, because I really want to think this through.
So there's this girl (16F). I (17M) kind of like her, and been wanting to date her. I've only let her guess at that with little flirty comments and compliments here and there. I've been planning to ask her out at the end of summer.
But... here's the issue. We go to different schools and don't live too close to eachother, so 99% of our interactions have been over text. I met her a few times in a friend group, and then she asked me to hang out one-on-one. I couldn't make it around that time, and it ended up not happening for months, we even met once in the friend group in that time. Then it finally worked out, and we actually went on a "date." It was purely platonic, but we did spend quite a bit of time together and even watched a movie. We decided to repeat it sometime. I was patient and only asked her a month or two later to hang out again. The reason I don't know when exactly is because she agreed, but them postponed it. And then again. And again. We met half a year after the previous "date."
So far so good, you're all thinking she's not interested. I'd be thinking the same thing if it weren't for the way she acts. Both times when we were together there was pretty much non-stop conversation between us. I let her start it, because I'm not sure if she'd care about the nerdy stuff I usually think about, but I can listen to her pretty well and we got pretty deep into beliefs and future plans and stuff. Both times she spoke and acted like she was really enjoying herself.
Her texts are the same. She tells me so much about her day-to-day life, pretty much everything, and she also always listens to what I have to say, or asks me to tell her about my day if I don't do it by myself.
But... she started postponing again. I'm a single summer away from asking her out and I've barely met her twice. We've talked over text every day for over a year, but when it comes to meeting me, she somehow doesn't have time.
Her excuses aren't great either. Sometimes she last-minute cancels the plans because of something she really isn't needed for. I respect that she has responsibilities to her family, or she has to study or things like that. But it's just happened too many times and too easily. I feel like if she wanted to meet me, she would put more effort into arranging it. I've told her that I'm free pretty much all the time, she can pick any weekend. It wasn't enough, so I said she could also pick weekdays, just for shorter little meetups. To that, she said her social battery is usually drained then, so it won't work.
And all this wouldn't concern me so much if she wasn't able to make time for other people either, but she does. Last time she went to a *friday evening* get-together with another friend group I'm not a part of. Her social battery's surely drained all right on that day, and yet she could go. They only told her like a week prior at most and didn't arrange for her at all, just invited her on an already set day. And she went. Just like that. I usually tell her weeks earlier, but she always says she can't know because of her family's spontaneous programs.
It just seems impossible to me that she's actually this busy. But why would she be lying? She trusts me with inner secrets, tells me all about her day all the time and even sends pictures and videos of herself randomly. I'm always kind to her and she's always kind to me.
TL;DR: The girl I like is super friendly with me over text, but she never seems to make it to in-person meetups, and her excuses are getting less and less believable. She seems to trust me deeply and I've never done anything to hurt her.
Why could she be doing this? Does anyone have a similar experience? | Crushes |
So to give some context, I started working at this restaurant near my house and there is this guy that works as one of the servers. I think I developed a crush on him.... I can never seem to get him off my mind at work and I just think he's really cute. But I know for a fact he is going to waste my time and is a walking red flag. He only wants to hang out after work at night and he doesn't even bother to text me or take me out on a proper date. It would be easy to get over him if I was not working with him, what should I do? I have been trying to avoid him or just little to no communication recently. Plus, I try to show no displays of affection but somehow can't help but be a little affectionate since he has a cute tendency to hug me and thinks its cute when I get angry. Last night, I cut my finger and he helped me put some bandages on it and he kissed it... my heart just melted a little bit. What should I do? I really want to get over this silly little crush and spend time with someone who actually cares about me and wants to give me the world. | Crushes |
When we see eachother in school we hug eachother we talk so much we have so much fun and we talk about everything it’s amazing but we haven’t went out for 3 WEEKS NOW and she responds pretty quickly but I think she’s loosing interest what do I do | Crushes |
I work at a grocery store and every few days we have people that work at Pepsi that come in and stock the shelves with soda and what not, and every Saturday, same time, a girl comes in and I just feel Starstruck every time I see her. I wanna say something but I don't know what she's like I just know I really like seeing her and I don't wanna be unprofessional and just hit on her. I never have the opportunity to have a conversation to get to know her but I would like to. Should I say something or just leave it alone? | Crushes |
Almost 2 years of small talk and awkward crushing, she said yes. She said yes in the best response ever. Guys, I fucking made it. | Crushes |
I like this girl in my class, we’re both 15 (I’m like 4-7 months older) we have no way to talk without making it weird, we have no mutual friends, we don’t sit anywhere close to each other, don’t have any other classes where we sit next to each other.
I would sometimes look around class and she would be already looking at me (she sits behind me on the other side of the class) and I would look at her for a bit before she would look down and smile at her desk, in the hallway going to different classes she would also look at me and smile, we have never talked before and we are both pretty quiet people.
Last Friday was the last day of school so I can’t see her there anymore until next year, so what should I do if I see this summer and what should I do next school year?
And does she like me?
(I’ll answer question in the comments) | Crushes |
All I want to say is I need to get better at talking to her. | Crushes |
This week, a couple of classmates and their friends invited me to go out with them to have a drink. My crush was also going, so I couldn't say no.
At first we went to a pub and just talked, had a few shots, then we left. Nothing out of the ordinary. Then, we met a guy who they met when they went out drinking 2 weeks prior. We got him to buy us some booze, as he was over 18, all was well.
However, my crush and another girl got pretty drunk. Not black out drunk, but they definetely weren't in full control of their emotions, so the other girl's boyfriend and I had to watch over them, no big deal really. We knew we're attracted to each other so watching over her quickly became just standing there, hugging. After a bit, she started whining "Please just let me have 1 more sip", even though she told me earlier to not let her drink more, so I didn't.
She kept saying that from time to time, it was really adorable actually, but after a while she switched to "Let's go home then, I wanna go home", so after a bit everyone started leaving, but the 2 of us stayed behind to look for the wine bottle's lid we were drinking earlier as it still had some. When we found it, she again asked for a sip, I said no, so she said "At least give me a kiss then" (she didn't mean on the lips, our language differentiates between them), so I said okay, leaned in and we made out.
After that, skipping over some details, we went back to my classmate's flat we were sleeping at. Due to 1 more girl joining us than first anticipated, to make room for her, my crush and I slept in the same bed. Before falling asleep, we just layed there, talking, making out a few times. After one of these times, she said "I have no idea how to kiss", so I said "Me neither, you're the first person I've ever kissed", and to this she replied "I wish I could say the same.. but last time, when I got drunk, some guy came onto me and kissed me.." I went silent for a bit, so she asked me to "please don't be sad, it didn't mean anything", and I said okay.
I didn't really care about it while we were still together, but after coming home and having a whole day to think about it. I'm not sure what to think. It feels like she doesn't actually like me. I'm a firm believer of the phrase "Drunk minds speak sober truths", so it just feels like she would've done that either way.
When I asked her if she kissed back, she said she doesn't remember, but she said that about everything about that night, and more and more things have come up from then, so I really just feel like she didn't want to tell me. I've seriously questioned if I should even ask her to be my girlfriend. It feels like shit, even though we weren't boyfriend and girlfriend then, and we still aren't. It's not like she cheated, but I don't know what to do, and typing this I realized how anxious this made me, please, tell me your opinion.
TL;DR : went out drinking with my crush, we kissed for the first time, when we got back to our classmate's flat we slept in the same bed, and once after making out she admitted that another guy kissed her last time she went out drinking. She said it didn't mean anything, but when I asked if she kissed back she said she doesn't remember, but she's said that about other things that she later told me happened, so I'm not so sure she didn't. This whole thing made me question everything about us, please share your opinion on this, I need some serious help. | Crushes |
So my (f20) crush (m26) is also my private tutor but we don’t have the boundaries exactly of a student and a teacher. He is very professional and on point but we do laugh together and are very smiley with glances throughout lessons. I have no idea if he looks at me and smiles out of being kind or something more because in our previous lesson, before he shared screen of questions his face was shown in the center of the app and my face was shown in the center for him too in a big size and we just talked and he smiled at me as if I was the most beautiful thing he saw. But it’s just my interpretation for all of this. | Crushes |
So basically, as you can see by the title, I went to a sleepover and my crush was there, it was honestly going pretty well, she was quite nice to me, asking me to come over if I was sitting alone (although I reckon anyone would do that, it seemed cool that she did)
Also during dinner I was on the other end of the table to basically all the food so she kept passing me stuff, I felt bad about that but I did think 'hmm, maybe that means something?'
But anyway, later in the night we started to play games like truth or dare or never have I ever, and the problem happed during the latter.
Just to give context the basic rules are, if you've done it you put a finger down, along those lines
And 2 or 3 people out of the 8 there knew I had a crush on this girl and said 'This is targeted heavily towards you' and said 'Never have I ever had a crush on someone here' Now I put a finger down because my crush was obviously there, but my crush did not put a finger down, suggesting she does not like me back. That's the issue here lol.
Generally I take things like this decently but it kinda hurt, I always knew that she probably didn't like me back but having what is almost conformation feels horrible. But a part of me is still thinking 'What if she does like me and was just shy?' That's why im here, I can't tell if she was shy or not and wanted someone else's opinion/outlook on the situation, so any help would be appreciated!
Thanks! | Crushes |
It's a long and complicated story, but I'll do my best to sum it up. I want to know if I made the right decision.
I met a guy a little more than a year ago on a language exchange app. I'm from Venezuela. He's from U.K. (sort of). We got along splendidly. He gave me his number, so we started chatting on WhatsApp. At that time I was rediscovering my sexuality, so I told him that I was straight, but at some point I started flirting and asked to trade. He had me download Snapchat for that purpose. We traded on Snapchat. Awkward session and to be honest I wasn't particularly enchanted by him at the time.
I thought it'd be over then. But in the following days, he starts texting me again. We start sharing really intimate stuff. We become close. We send cool nudes to each other from time to time. We start having video calls once or twice a month. For 2 full hours. Palpable chemistry (though we never ever talked about feelings or romance - he's fairly reluctant to talk about emotions in general).
We grow even closer. I know what's he's going through: he wants to leave his hometown. He's closeted, but engages in hookup culture from time to time. He doesn't like his current lifestyle. He feels stuck. He's a bit depressed, even if he denies it. I show my sympathy and my support. We start following each other everywhere: Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, etc... We shared loads of vids on TikTok. On Snapchat, I got the emoji that shows that I'm the person he talks to the most. I started feeling so special!
I start having feelings for him. He confesses to having a crush on me as well. It's reciprocal now.
I always noticed that he would take about 10-20 minutes (or even hours) to reply, because he was talking to other people on that language exchange app. But since I didn't have feelings at first, I didn't really care much. I start caring now, though. I start getting jealous that he's trading with other guys, but I can't complain because... firstly, we're not a couple, and secondly, I've been aware all along that this is something he does quite often (his snap count was about +550k, so it wasn't a secret at all and he wasn't apologetic about that).
I get too attached and let him know. He insists that he doesn't text anyone the way he texts me; however, he states that we're definitely not under ideal circumstances to invest in romance - see what happens in the future. That was the last time we sent nudes to each other (December 2021). I sent him a nude again in February, but he quickly changed the course of the conversation.
I start going to therapy. Therapist advises that I should set boundaries and keep my distance. I let my crush know. He agrees, saying that whatever happens, he still wants me in his life.
I still like him a lot even though I think I don't. I start getting a bit sad by him taking so many hours to reply to my messages - he's literally always online talking to other people on that language exchange app or sending nudes to other guys. I'm miserable, so I make the choice to stop texting him for two weeks and think about it all objectively. He starts texting me that he misses me and is thinking about me. I start talking to him again thinking I can start seeing him as just another friend. I fail.
I also start having some personal problems involving money and my alcoholic mum. I can't handle all of it. It's too much. I stop texting him as much, as I got rid of social media. Only WhatsApp remained.
One month and a half later, he is like "don't you want to talk to me anymore? :(". I come clean and tell him the whole truth. He says that he sees me as someone that he genuinely likes and cares about and he still wants me in his life, that it's also true that even though he doesn't like me as strongly in a romantic way as before because it's hard for him to maintain that online, it isn't impossible for him to feel that way again. I'm moved by this and we start talking again. This time I've had enough time to think about everything and I feel kinda ready to go for a regular friendship.
One day, late at night after a party, he texts me saying that he still likes me. That when he's drunk he can connect with his emotions more easily, constantly thinking things like "I kinda want to spend the rest of my life with [my name]" and then confesses that he felt hurt when I stopped texting him.
I'm so happy. I realise I genuinely still like this guy more than I ever liked anybody else and this felt like a sign, as I was watching "Heartstopper" and was asking myself "will someone ever like me that way?". It's literally the first time we have a conversation where we both reply immediately. For an entire hour. It feels magical.
I start texting him every day. He starts being super sweet for a while, saying things like "my favourite person". But I realise that it's me who's always reaching out. In fact, he rarely texts me first. But I don't let more than three days pass by without texting him. One day, however, I decide to stop texting him first. 2 weeks pass by without saying a word to each other, and when he does reach out, he's just like "hellooo".
I start questioning whether or not I'm really wanted. I was like... "even the straightest of my friends wouldn't let so much time go by without checking in, so why would the person that claims to still like me do it?".
I realise I can't even remember the last time he said "how are you", "how was your day?" "Good morning, I hope you're okay" spontaneously. It's always me asking how he is and him just saying "how about you?".
I feel exhausted, frustrated, and incredibly confused. I muster the courage to finally tell him that he's being emotionally irresponsible and dismissive of my feelings and that I think it's best to stop talking for good. He reacts quite positively, apologising for not appreciating how much of an impact his words and actions had on me and that he's certainly never written off the chances of us ever being more than just friends - he wishes me the best, says he really will miss a lot and that he'll be right there if I ever do want to talk to him once more. Finally I just say "thanks for understanding. Goodbye".
Did I make the right decision? Am I being too dramatic? Is this me being an insufferable narcissist and too impatient for him to like the way I want him to?
His birthday is exactly in one month and I know myself: I won't resist the urge to wish him a good day. Would that be a good idea? | Crushes |
He is my friend | Crushes |
I asked her out a few days ago. She says yes. She ghosts me for a few days and now she's changed her mind. She said she didn't feel comfortable. I thought she actually liked me and then she pulls that?? Despite how it sounds, she was actually nice about it which made it hurt less. I'm just going to take a nap hoping that this isn't really happening. We had so much in common too. I should have saw the signs that she never started conversation with me irl or in text. She never really did like me and it was all in my head. She was most likely staring into space or out the window instead of at me. Until next time.
Edit: Just some more things I wanted to say.
Well, I got rejected. I honestly thought she liked me. I should have seen the signs earlier, like how she never once started a conversation with me and it was always me asking the questions to get to know her. She was staring out the window, not at me, and when I looked over at her from seeing her in my peripheral vision, she looked away not because I caught her looking at me, but because I randomly 360'd my head to her. I realise now that I probably looked weird or like a creep in those situations. When I asked her to go out irl, she just said "Sure!" and got up and left. In my mind I thought this was a win, just because of the answer, but my goofy ahh never even thought about the fact that she immediately left afterwards instead of making conversation. My brain was taking in all the negatives and making them look like positives. I should have known that she was never comfortable around me, and that I probably seemed like a generic ass 'nice guy' just trying to get her. She ghosts me for two days and out of the blue says she isn't comfortable going out with me. An hour of thinking of what happened, and I think of writing this on this song. This is very out of character for me to be doing something like this, but I just want this to be out here in the world. Nobody is going to see this, and dear God, if she sees this and knows its me. I had my first heartbreak today and it feels awful. I'll never see her ever again which feels surreal. I had a good run though. But I'll never get over the fact that she was most likely pretending to actually care about me. I genuinely cared about her. I loved her personality, and I was completely fine with just being friends. That's how this chapter of my first love interest ends.
Ich liebe dich | Crushes |
My crush asked for my snap and he snaps me first everyday and we have a streak. Today he opened my snap from late last night and it’s been left on seen for a few hours. Like I said, he snaps me first everyday never me. Is he waiting to see if I snap him first to make sure I’m interested? Helpppp! | Crushes |
I put the full story on /r/TrueOffMyChest. We have known each other for about 2 years,we talk often and i just got over a break up only 4 other people about my crush and i feel like telling her but i have no intention of telling her. How do approach the situation? Here is the link for it
https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/v5jarx/i_have_a_massive_crush_on_a_girl_on_one_of_my/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf | Crushes |
Background, both 17 in America in high school. I've known her the entirety of high school but only developed a crush this year. She is beautiful inside and out, I love her personality, how she is smart but also down to earth and jokes around, her eyes are also very beautiful.
Over the past months I've been talking to her in class and she responds and actively seems to enjoy talking with me, 90% of the time it was her starting the convo because I'm too nervous to talk to her. Sometimes I think (or maybe my brain hopes) that I see her staring at me in class, sometimes I look around and I catch her eyes for a second. She sometimes joins into convos I had with other people to answer my question or add her opinion, even when I'm not directly talking to her. When I walk into the room sometimes she looks up and looks at me with wide eyes then looks down. This is probably just normal but I notice because I really like her eyes :)
Anyway I confided in my friends about a month ago and theyve been egging me on. But three days ago for whatever reason they decided to spill the beans to her and her friend group in order to "help me" when I wasn't even there, I was inside doing something else during school. Well apparently she knew I liked her because a friend told her. I don't know for how long, I only know that. She didn't say she wasn't interested in me, but that she knew I liked her. Apparently my friends kept talking good about me outside near her after that, and one friend came in and told me what happened. When I went to class with her she didn't say anything and acted normal, I didn't talk to her and for the past two days I've been avoiding being near her so I don't really know what to do. I just acted like nothing happened. Idk for how long she knew but I haven’t noticed her bro much different towards me.
I feel like I have no chance, even though she didn't say that she doesn't like me I feel if she knew and liked me she would've talked to me about it. But if she didn't I feel she would've also came to me and said she didn't like me...? I don't know if I still have a chance or if she likes me at all, probably not? Maybe she's just to shy or thinks my friends are joking or it's hearsay? What do I do? | Crushes |
Just curious since I find myself daydreaming about hanging out with her or her confessing to me etc. Wonder if yous do the same or similar! | Crushes |
so my best friend (F) and i (M) have been crushing on eachother for a little while now and we've confessed already. we hang out a lot and sleep in the same bed (nothing sexual) and cuddle for hours, and literally EVERY TIME there's a moment in which we almost kiss we both chicken out and laugh it off lmao. i RLLY want to do it but I'm scared that our friendship will be ruined and we won't be as close anymore (i think she's fearing the same thing)
not asking for advice or anything, I'm just tired of being a loser and i should get over myself and just do it already | Crushes |
So I gots a q, cos I don’t wanna overthink this, but:
What if a girl is open to you talking to her, asks things like taking care of her stuff, idk, but does it mean anything | Crushes |
This guy takes hours to reply... or at least 10/20 minutes, even if he was the one starting the conversation!!! If I decide to not text him, he will send me a reel...
What is going on?
Is he playing hard to get, or what? He is 24 and before you ask, no, it's not because he is that busy...
EDIT: He's online a lot, I even noticed he tried restricting me on messenger, because I suddenly couldn't see his activity, but my friend was still able to see that he is online, and the messages went through... he unrestricted me and replied, restricted me again... and he probably saw that I am not continuing the conversation... and cancelled the restriction. 😂 He did it last week, so it just seems that he is trying to seem really busy to me? | Crushes |
me (18M)
there is this girl (17F) i know...we have social media connectivity n all bs
the thing is i have a massive fucking crush on her. But she currently dating another guy (A). Now I know from some other sources, that this guy (A) toys with her doesn't give her the proper respect and also ignores her alot. i really do not know what to do in this situation. a bit of help would go a long way :D | Crushes |
I guess you can say we’ve been flirting quite a lot in the past few weeks then the day before I send a kissy face emoji (only to say np cos they said thank you) and then they said “oh” and I said “what” then they said “I just wasn’t expecting that” then I said “sorry” and was internally freaking out cos what if I made them uncomfortable and I didn’t realize….then they said “just don’t like me too much😅” but now they’re flirting with me again so I’m a bit confused….. | Crushes |
So there’s this girl that I really really like. I’ve liked her for months now, but finally got the courage to talk to her a couple weeks ago. And I really thought that she liked me once I started talking to her. I have social anxiety and am usually really bad at reading social cues, but I thought I had a really good chance. She’s kind of shy, but she would wave hi to me whenever she saw me, try to find me to talk to, and initiate some conversations, which went pretty well (and I suck at talking to people), she added me on snap, and I kept catching her looking at me. We even got invited to the same party, and she was on the fence about going, but she said that she’d go if I went. I know that there’s other, better ways to see if someone likes you, but I thought that might at least mean something.
Either way, it might not mean much. I tried snapping her, and she responded a couple days in a row, but recently stopped altogether. It’s been about a week. When I talked to her even 4 days ago, I still thought that she liked me, as everything had been going great for a few weeks, and our interactions were pretty positive that day and the day before, but this makes me think otherwise. For a little while I was like she’s busy or whatever, but I’m sure that she’s just purposefully doing it at this point. I know this is stupid, childish stuff, but I still feel bad.
I guess I just need some advice. Relationships are hard for me, and I think to much, and over analyzing everything and not having an outlet gets me really down, which isn’t good for the depression that I already have. Should I continue to try and talk to her when I see her tomorrow, or take a step back? Should I risk it if things might only get worse? Will it hurt more if I still ask her out and get denied? I’m not sure.
I still really like her but I don’t know what to do or what to feel about this right now | Crushes |
Okay title was a little dramatic.. First of all I fell right on my mf face as soon as we got there. I was so nervous that I literally could mot handle myself. We were high and he probably thought I was high af and that’s why I was being that way but no.. I was literally just hella nervous. He let me start his car(v8) and we cracked a couple of jokes.
He texted me after the date though said “next time..” and I was a little happy..
I will say that the funniest thing was that because I look so young that when we went to the beach there were police there and they were following us.
He’s a sweet low talkative person..like he seems genuine too.. I love that. | Crushes |
How would you people start a conversation with a girl you don't know but see now and then at school? With intention of getting her number? | Crushes |
i work as a lifeguard and there is this asian woman with a shaved head that swims every morning who is literally the most BEAUTIFUL WOMAN / PERSON I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY LIFE. her face is ethereally gorgeous like she has incredible cheekbones and her cupids bow is so prominent and her eyes are mesmerising. she also has with the most insanely fucking muscular physique i have ever fucking seen not just on woman but on a dude. her thighs could crush a watermelon & ive always been a sucker for well defined traps and calves. like everytime i see her i start shaking lmao literally the most attractive person i have ever seen. and im not just putting some random woman on a pedestal and blowing things out of proportion because im an incel tht live in their parents basement, like not trying to be conceited but im a hot guy and im 6'5 but this woman is just something else. like she is definitely out of my league bruh i could never ask her out. this is genuinely the first woman ive ever felt extremely anxious around.
soz for bad english | Crushes |
This dude I see like twice a week, i think he's attractive. I've never talked to him so I cant tell if he likes me back. We always notice eachother, but i can never hold eye contact. So I just saw him drop his phone on the ground in front of me and I kinda just...stared at his face with a blank expression for a second before he did that weird white guy smile thing and looked down. And when I went back to what I was doing I noticed he kept looking to see if I was looking at him...and when our eyes met he made that face at me again. Now I feel embarrassed for staring at him like that. I hope he doesn't hate me. | Crushes |
So the problem is that after I wrote her that I would like to get closer to her and she replied that we could chat and talk irl more often, she never writes first. Even if I try to start a convo she gives me just short replies after like 4 hours. For example I asked her how her week was and she just replied „pretty good,how about yours?“ so I replied that I had a pretty stressful week and that it’s finally weekend so it’s okay and she just opened the message without replying.
For information, I always contact her on Snapchat but maybe it would be better to try whatsapp (I know it sounds naive). I just think that she isn’t interested at all even though she said yes to chat with me and I also told her that she could just say no if she isn’t interested but she said it would be nice.
Another problem is that I have seen her only once in school last week and even when I see her more often I don’t how to go to her to speak.
Would be nice if someone had an advice for me :), I feel insecure about what she thinks about me, whether she likes me or doesn’t want to have anything to do with me. | Crushes |
I'm leaving this subreddit for the forseeable future, because I don't want the concept of mutual romance lingering in my mind at the moment. Instead, I'm facing the truth that attraction merely happens, and that it isn't my fault he (presumably) doesn't feel any spark between us. Put simply, you like who you like. If he feels that way about another girl, one who in turn is not interested, it isn't anyone's fault. A cruel twist of fate, yes, but love is the antithesis to control. It's not remotely within the bounds of anything I can comprehend. Sometimes, things happen that you feel almost serve as testaments to life's utter meaninglessness. But I think I'll find meaning again.
For now, goodbye. I hope that my words don't ring too cynical. | Crushes |
Basically the situation is rlly wierd, I'll explain more in private chat | Crushes |
in 2020 i had a crush on this guy (he looks straight but im an obsessive hoe so)..
this one guy is friends with my crush so yk i did what i gotta do.. so i talked to my friends crush. never said anything about me having crush on him but me and my crush became close because of him.
so my flirting style is ghetto.. i mean ghetto.. i became like a sugar daddy BYE. (its not that i gave him expensive stuff but would give him dollar for a chips in school and stuff) would give him kisses chocolate bc thats the only candy i have lol..
he kind of flirted back?? his friend would say if he loves me and hed say that he loves me (ong im blushing rn..) (and im so stupid bc i was too embarrassed to say i love him back) and one time in the stair i thought he was going for a bro handshake but he hugged me (So ofc had to keep my cool but i was blushing like a tomato its such a cute moments) LOL. a lot more cute stuff happens but gotta keep this short
2021-2022 (this is where i get really STUPID. i mean really stupid)
first day of school (he sat at the back) i sit in the front.. nothing happened.
his friend says if i love him and i said i don’t know him 😿😿 (im just so embarrassed to admit i even said i forgot his name and ignore his friend)
he said his friend that he loves me but never flirts
when his friend moves, all of sudden we just ignored each other (i ignored him but i just cant forget about him) i felt so stupid i didn’t do anything. and get this we would always see each other in halls!! (ik he tried going to another hallways but we just keep seeing each other..)
and its the last day of school and yet nothing happened as always.
(im also really stupid bc i never got to follow him on any of his socials..)
as im reading this i don’t think he never liked me.. (i know its my fault but im so confused!!!!) is it too late now? and did he even liked me or that was just his thing…
idek if this is gonna work out since i moved to a different state but i am coming back in a year… | Crushes |
hi!! i’m going to try and keep this short and a little vague.. also it’s nearly 5am, so please don’t mind any grammatical errors.
for brief context: i (f20) have been working with him for a few months now. he’s almost 8 years older than me, and we became work acquaintances maybe two months ago. and, this past week, we’ve been texting outside of work.
i can’t tell if he is actually interested and likes me, or if this is just his personality…. so i’ll list a few reasons as to why he may like me, and why he may not.
good/potential bigger signs:
- this past week we’ve been texting almost daily…. sometimes we have long conversations that go until he falls asleep, and other times it’ll just be a few, casual texts.
- when we work together, i believe he does his best to go on his breaks whenever i get my lunch. it happens faaaar more than it does not.. pretty much 100% sure that it is on purpose.
- he frequently makes dirty jokes in our text conversations.. this one might just be his personality lol.. but still. can’t help but wonder if he would make the same jokes to a male friend.
- he offered to hangout one day, if i ever wanted to
- i mentioned that a location he always mentions sounds so nice and i would like to visit there one day. he said that, if he ever moves there, i should visit.
- we make each other playlists of songs that we think each other might like. he has made maybe a couple more than i have, but it’s because he wants to gauge my music taste and introduce me to more stuff
the questionable signs:
- he talks to me about his ex girlfriends. this is including one that was very recent and very long term. to me, this is a sign of trust(?) and that he sees me as a friend. i don’t want to break that trust with my feelings.
- he also has spoken to me about some of his preferences in girls.. like hair color and whatnot. nothing too specific
- he has talked to me about his history with relationships and sex.. and side note: i currently have zero history. i am an absolute virgin LMAO, haven’t even had my first kiss, and our drastic difference in experience makes me really anxious.
- he’s almost 8 years older than me lol…. i fear that he sees me as too young or in another phase of life.
- he’s mentioned that he has been lonely lately. i feel weird putting this one, as i find it as another sign of friendship and trust that i don’t want to break. but still, he may just be interacting and engaging with me because he is lonely.
i don’t mind being there for him as a friend whatsoever. i enjoy his friendship and talking to him, despite whether or not he may have feelings for me.
i just want some insight.. because i really do not want to ruin our friendship because of my feelings. i don’t want it to be like i’m expecting some sort of romantic relationship while he’s confiding in me, you know? plus, i might just be overanalyzing everything..
thank you, if you read this far. :] | Crushes |
I have a classmate with whom my friends tease me with. I'm pretty sure he knows about it and his friends tease him with me too (I'm not completely sure tho). He doesn't talk to me in class AT ALL. But he texts me after class. He talks to me about KDramas and everything. He guides me on my interviews. He even helped me with a few tasks at clg. He also asked me to join with him for a project. We are not even close and I'm scared if I gave him a wrong idea. I want to be friends with him. Does he like me? If yes, how do I give him hints about being just friends with him without hurting him? | Crushes |
Is he upset with me? Did I do something wrong? M23 F18
Met this guy two years ago - we slept together the same night we met. Everything was super complicated and we ended up loosing touch but we’d still see eachother sometimes. He gets around a lot and is very self aborbed. I saw him in the club tonight and he blew me a kiss and came over to say hi but I didn’t say hi back and I pretty much turned around and walked away … I did this because he never responded to my text and now he’s acting all friendly?! Anyway - I’m dancing with other men and having a great time and he’s staring at me pretty much the entire time … and then he leaves.
Here’s where the story takes a turn - I end up loosing my wallet so now I’m stuck at the club and can’t pay for a taxi back home. As I walk outside of the club I see him playing blackjack (gambling) and I swallow my pride and I go up to him. We live close to eachother so I asked him if he brought a car to the club and he says yes. Then I ask if he can give me a ride home and he says he’s going to be gambling for a while - I tell him he’s my last resort and I wouldn’t be asking if I hadn’t already asked everyone else. He tells me to go find his friend who I think he’s jealous of because I went out with his friend literally once and he happened to bump into us.
Anyway I ended up getting it all figured out and of course he’s still gambling.
I’m wondering what you guys think of the situation?
Would you have given me a ride?
Was I being rude?
Does he want nothing to do with me?
It’s not even a situationship but I have a strong feeling that he likes me he just is insecure about it and he is too immature to actually admit it so he runs away wether that’s by drugs or girls or whatever the hell.
TL;DR confused with situationship - need external opinion pls | Crushes |
I asked my crush to come over to take some photos for my art project for school. I already knew he didn't like me back, I could just tell.
But it made me VERY uncomfortable when he showed up to my house with hickeys and I am now having to edit them out of the pictures so I can use them for school.
I got lots of icks which is good because now I can safely move on, but damn 😳 | Crushes |
I'm a high school student and I've crush on this girl from past 2 years. I really like her a lot but never even talked in-person. But now I'm leaving my school and town(only me) to prepare for an exam. Should I confess her that I've crush on her? We talked only on Instagram DMs. | Crushes |
Sometimes when I lie awake in bed, when I’m thinking of her, I feel an urge to just whisper her name. Or sometimes “(Name)… I love you.” I guess a tiny part of me hopes that even though it’s not logically possible, she can hear me somehow. | Crushes |
So my bestfriend is a boy and I’m a girl, we’re very close and we tell eachother everything and hang out every day. We’ve always been just friends and I’ve been happy with that… but recently there’s been moments where we’ll be sitting right next to eachother, either talking or watching tiktok and I’ll look at him and suddenly I get this strong urge to kiss him/hug him/put my head on his shoulder and IDFK WHAT TO DO. I obviously can’t do that cause I don’t wanna ruin our friendship or make it weird but it’s hard to ignore these feelings yk? Is this normal? What do i do? | Crushes |
Background, both 17 in America in high school. I've known her the entirety of high school but only developed a crush this year. She is beautiful inside and out, I love her personality, how she is smart but also down to earth and jokes around, her eyes are also very beautiful.
Over the past months I've been talking to her in class and she responds and actively seems to enjoy talking with me, 90% of the time it was her starting the convo because I'm too nervous to talk to her. Sometimes I think (or maybe my brain hopes) that I see her staring at me in class, sometimes I look around and I catch her eyes for a second. She sometimes joins into convos I had with other people to answer my question or add her opinion, even when I'm not directly talking to her. When I walk into the room sometimes she looks up and looks at me with wide eyes then looks down. This is probably just normal but I notice because I really like her eyes :)
Anyway I confided in my friends about a month ago and theyve been egging me on. But three days ago for whatever reason they decided to spill the beans to her and her friend group in order to "help me" when I wasn't even there, I was inside doing something else during school. Well apparently she knew I liked her because a friend told her. I don't know for how long, I only know that. She didn't say she wasn't interested in me, but that she knew I liked her. Apparently my friends kept talking good about me outside near her after that, and one friend came in and told me what happened. When I went to class with her she didn't say anything and acted normal, I didn't talk to her and for the past two days I've been avoiding being near her so I don't really know what to do. I just acted like nothing happened.
I feel like I have no chance, even though she didn't say that she doesn't like me I feel if she knew and liked me she would've talked to me about it. But if she didn't I feel she would've also came to me and said she didn't like me...? I don't know if I still have a chance or if she likes me at all, probably not? Maybe she's just to shy or thinks my friends are joking or it's hearsay? What do I do? | Crushes |
No matter what it is, if it’s an ability to do something that helps you be validated in general society or even just talent in something that can be learned, I just get this spike in envy of who I’m in love with that completely takes over my thoughts. Currently, I’ve fallen for someone whom I connect and get along with, except that there’s some things in her life that are superior to my situation and she has more skills than I do. She’s a sweet girl that I’m proud I’ve met yet I don’t feel like I deserve to have met someone as great as her. I shouldn’t be feeling this envious but it just keeps happening. It was kind-of a similar situation with a different crush also.
I’ve dealt with trauma for a fair amount of my gadolescence, which is the root of my own self-hatred and useless feelings of jealousy that end up being prevalent. Hell I’m even jealous of this girl for not having PTSD and coming off as more stable/content person, and often think of her as someone smarter and more likely to be successful/valued than me. Never told her my thoughts, as I’m worried about losing her as a friend. I don’t want my own mental health or my developed insecurities to continue being in a dominant position of me and my surroundings. | Crushes |
I think I’m fucked It’s currently about 5:00 in the morning and I can’t go to sleep because I’m thinking about a girl that I thought I got over. But recently my feelings for her started to float back when she added me on Instagram a week after we last met. So now I keep thinking that is a sign. Thinking that she was probably thinking about me and might have searched for me so she could add me. In reality I know it’s not a sign and I know I’m over thinking this. I also want to text her but I don’t want her to think I’m weird or whatever for texting her out of the blue. She will and is my one regret as I never had a problem letting others know my feelings before. I’ve had many opportunities to let her know I feel and I didn’t and now I’m typing this paragraph about her. Why do I care so much, it’s even worse when people tell me to get over it and that there are much “better” looking people you’ll meet later in life. What they don’t know is that it isn’t as easy getting over one person like they preach. I just wish that my feelings for her could just dissolve ahhhhhhhhhhhhh! | Crushes |
so i have this crush on this guy i met online and we have been talking for the past two months nonstop everyday. the thing is he is acting weird out of no where. he used to be so sweet and invested on what’s going on in my life. he would let me vent to him and he would comfort me. he would compliment me all the time but was respectful about it. that soon changed about 3 weeks ago when he stared to lag on me. i don’t have a problem of him lagging on me it’s just started to make me feel weird when he would take like 9 hours for him to respond to me which he has never done before. back then he would probably take 2 hours max if would lag on me but now it can be up to 15 hours. because of that i feel like he is losing interest in me. i realized he never asks me anymore how am i, how is work, or even just checking up on me because he knows that i have mental health issues. idk if that’s asking for too much but i feel like that’s the bare minimum he could do. the thing is he is really really honest with me like it can brutal but that’s just how honest he is so i know he would tell me if something is wrong but in this case i’m not sure because idk if he just doesn’t want to hurt me. i like this guy and i know he likes me too or at least liked me too but idk if that changed. should i confront him about it to know if he still wants to talk to me? or should i leave it alone? am i overreacting? | Crushes |
it was so cute!! he mentioned how since he cant come on my birthday trip he wanted to bake me a cake and give me a few gifts the next time i visited. a lot of the letter was him talking about us moving to england/france. he mentioned how proud of me he was for learning it <3 and he talked about some cute cities we could move to in france. he also sent this little drawing of us in france(just us next to the eiffel tower lmao) and hes such a good artistvdjdhdh. he also sent some stickers and im so excited to see him again | Crushes |
Just wondered what is was like for other people when they’re the one being crushes on | Crushes |
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so i stayed a few nights at their place and overall couldnt get the courage to confess or find a moment. but they had also mentioned how one of their now ex friends had been really creepy towards them and was in love with them. he mentioned how they would always be touchy when he never said they could and they were just weird. so i thought it probably wasnt the best time to try to ask them if they have a crush. ill just have to wait for the next hang out </3 | Crushes |
first he joked about coming to my country to play gigs there and he also said to hurry and come to his country so we could meet up 😵💫 | Crushes |
So I been talking to this girl in my high school a bunch for months now and I even gave her handmade origami for her birthday and random occasion. We usually sit together and go to other classes together, we have a great vibe in short. My friends told me to confess to her days ago cause he thinks she likes me back a bit (he has a girlfriend and she is my crush friends so I don't know if that counts as his instincts) but whenever I try to lean in to the more romantic side, she kinda doesn't reject it but like at the same time take a step back so like I'm confused, does she like me or not. I am planning to confess soon probably cause even if she rejects me I need an answer man but it would still be good to know if she likes me or not based on these assumptions. | Crushes |
I'm gonna text her and pay her a compliment when school ends (in a couple of weeks).
Not planning to do a confession or anything, just: "Hey, I'm that guy in your chem class, and I think you're really pretty" (i'll work more on it, ofc). This way hopefully we'll get to know each other better whn g12 starts in September.
Quick sidenote, we BARELY know each other.
How would the lovely ladies of this subreddit react when a guy you barely know slides into your dm and give you a compliment? Wouldn't it be weird? What would you do? | Crushes |
Okay, so if you know your Raging Potato lore, you will know that I have a crush on a girl who is in my Student Leadership class/Student Council, if you don't, that's okay, it's just important information to know for later in this story.
So, I don't even know if he knows he's doing it, but my Student Leadership Teacher is the ultimate wingman. On Wednesday, during our weekly meeting, he called for any junior students to help with the upcoming graduation ceremony up at the University. As is my nature, I put my hand up right away, (sweet, a day off of school who wouldn't pass that up?) and then what he said next made me do the irl equivalent of the 😳 emoji; he called out for ✨Her✨ and said, “Potato and [Redacted], your two names came up for this, and I think you two would be up to the job!”. This basically cemented the theory I had that he definitely knows I have a thing for her.
I then went to see him the next day to follow up on what I had signed up for, and he said “Your two names came up for that, you just need to sign 4 more people to help you guys, and I know you guys will be able to handle the awards show as well!”. I have watched many Tik Toks saying that teachers pair people who have crushes on each other up on “random assignments” because they know, so I'm pretty sure he knows.
Like bruv, you're the reason any of this has a even the smallest chance of happening, you'll already get a wedding invite, don't you even worry about it lol | Crushes |
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OKAY OKAY I JUST LIKE REALLY LIKE THIS GUY HSADHHAS
I (f) really like a guy and i have been crushing on him for like... So long now(around half a year or so?). I have started to show that i like him by subtle things like making bracelets for the both of us (HE WEARS HIS ONE AND I WEAR MINE AAAA!!!!), spending more time with him, and just giving him random things i find and stuff. And also teasing him!! jeheheha
Though what makes me question if he likes me is today, we were just in class watching a presantation or so and i caught him staring at me(dont know if i'd really call it staring but he was looking at me, like his head turned in my direction with a relaxed look. Not like usually when you'd just glance at someone)twice actually! Like i'd turn around and he would be looking at me and he just looked so beautiful hhhhhhhhhhh
And also a teacher or so was asking us why we were fighting (not fighting like actually, just tickling eachother and giving eachother light pushes) and the teacher asked us :Why dont you just become a couple instead of "fighting". I didnt really see a reaction from him but im very very sure i was blushing😰
Also when the guys from my class bother me (which is normal, they bother everyone) sometimes he'd push them away kinda or tell them to leave me alone!
So yeah im just lost and dont know if he likes me or not | Crushes |
so in class i keep catching my classmate/crush staring at me, like, a lot, for the past month or two. in class yesterday i caught him staring at me like 5 times.
yesterday he was doing that thing where you tilt your chair on the two back legs and use the table for balance. he lost his balance and almost fell over backwards but steadied himself just in time. as soon as his chair was back on four legs he looked at me to see if i saw.
when we talk, he makes eye contact a lot, idk if that's related or just random tho.
i think he might have a crush on me, but then again i could just be delusional in thinking this cuz i want him to like me back. | Crushes |
ok so I have one class with my crush (but I do a lot of extracurricular things with him). so in class, we talk a decent amount. no one really talks in the class but he often turns to me to make stupid comments or talk (over the other people at his table). but today he kept turning to me, looking at me, keeping eye contact for a second and then looking away. it was really strange in the way he did it and he did it multiple times. does this mean anything? i already think he probably has some interest in me but i was just wondering :) | Crushes |
**TR;DR : Just answer the title if you're not interested in the story below**
I'm trying to learn about the psychology of crushes because I think a girl I know is crushing on me (or at least, had a crush on me few weeks ago) and I really suck with emotions so I'm trying to know more about all of that work you know ?
I have plans to ask her out next week, but I'm not sure if she has or will have the crush anymore at this point.
Is it possible for someone to completely stop crushing on someone else in the span of few days / weeks because of some stuff in their behavior ?
If the person is still respectful towards you, but you noticed some really weird things in their behavior, would that break everything ?
For example :
\- Your crush is having very contradictory behaviors, makes a lot of illogical decisions when interacting with you
\- Is completely detached from the reality, they can talk about stuff in a completely incomprehensible way that makes you impossible to understand
\- The incomprehensible things they talk about can also be related to you
\- Very awkward, will sometimes says something and then push to move on to something else instantly, for example they will text you a large incomprehensible text from their mind and right after tell you to forget about it and move on if you don't answer quickly
\- Sometimes speak alone without realizing it, for example they will start to tell you something and finish their train of thoughts in inaudible mumbling
\- You can sense some kind of inner chaos within them, their decisions don't make sense, they change their mind all the time
\- Basically feel like they're slightly deranged or mentally unstable, but not dangerous either
\- Alternate between : Friendly, confident, talkative / act like they barely know you
Because I'm basically describing my behavior, I think this might turn her off, but the thing is that I don't want to force myself to be "normal" otherwise it's not the real "me" and that means she doesn't like the real me but the illusion I give of myself, so a non-real person that will cease to exist if anything serious happens.
However, I'm worried that she might be turned off by the time the day I will ask her out, or maybe she's already turned off ? Most of the hints that makes me feel like she has a crush on me were a bit earlier, and I did more weird things recently.
It's not about changing my behavior but to know what to expect, if she doesn't like me like that she won't be able to like me in a relationship where I want to be myself | Crushes |
Long post ahead.
So, we were talking yesterday and one of my girl-friends was talking to my crush and she referred to my crush as "bhabhi", a term that we use for brother's wife in our language. My crush replied to her as "bhabhi😅, thanks dude". Then, after they had their conversation, she told me the same and we laughed about it and after a couple minutes, she said, "what if I say yes?" I was like, would be fine and we talked a bit and then she said, okay propose me... And just because i thought she was kidding i reacted with "🙈" but then she was like dude I'm serious, if I had to tell you how to propose, it's done (in a joking tone anyways) and then I was like, really? She was like yeah... And after a couple more minutes, i realised she's kinda confused.. i mean, i felt it. It was 12:30 midnight and i thought it might be those overwhelming feelings that are commanding her to say so. After 1 min of inactivity in the conversation, she said we'll talk tomorrow, I'm confused. And i felt yeah that's the right thing, now i don't want to ask her regarding it because she already knows i like her from the past 3-4 years (i told her a month ago and we have become good friends since then) so, i thought asking her from my side might lead her into thinking I'm kinda forcing that stuff so I kept quiet and she didn't raise that thing today. Now the thing is, she said we'd talk about it when we meet and we didn't meet today. Neither we did yesterday. We are gonna meet tomorrow and that is just gonna be for like 20 minutes or so and i can be sure that if she really wanted to say a yes, she'd bring up the topic tomorrow. so, is there something I need to do? I mean, I'm confused as hell because i know she wouldn't say yes to a guy without actually thinking about it and even if it were for a joke, she said she's serious two times but the thing that's refraining me is that she basically has told me that "till now", she sees my as a friend. I mean, it's not a problem for me but i don't want to force anything by directly asking her so here I am waiting for it.
Edit: she knows about all those clingy stuff like saving her photos, drawing her into a portrait and some other stuff that I've done. She has seen it and is fine with it. | Crushes |
So there’s this girl in some of my classes and we’ve only ever spoke when I sat next to her in science I know she likes me as I always catch her staring at me in class. I really like her to the point where she’s the only thing I’m thinking about but I’m to shy to ask her out and even if we did go out I’m not very good at starting convos with someone I haven’t known for that long. What should I do ? | Crushes |
GAH this is so dumb, but, he and I are the only ones in our friend group who have Nintendo online services and I just really like fighting him and helping him fulfill his pokedex, and again, this is dumb, but I guess my insecurities just make me really worried if some other friends had Nintendo online services too that he'd stop playing with me. Cringe, I know.
And yeah.
Also since I'm already venting/gushing according to a friend he said was bummed he didn't get to be in an English project with me cause he thinks I'm smart and we would've gotten a ten.
I doubt he said *that* and my friend probably just mis-interpreted it, but, I'm fangirling at the possibility anyways lol | Crushes |
As much as I loved her I have to let her go now. Might still post here occasionally for some updates cause who knows what could happen. I'm now in a dating relationship with my best friend Charlie and my old crush Hannah is the one I have to give up. Obviously before proceeding to further this relationship I had to straight up ask Hannah how she felt about me, get the closure. She said whilst at some point she did have feelings for me in high school, since we got close she just saw me as a brotherly figure/Best friend. oof, but that's honestly completely fine with me now and I understand.
Other friends have been telling me she'll clearly be bothered by this since she did like me and blah blah but I got my answer from her and that's that. She isn't bothered and very happy for us but just one condition from us was to please not make her the third wheel. So I can happily start to move on and date Charlie. And no, I'm not just using her, I did have feelings for her despite all I said. I just didn't want to admit it because I still wanted hannah. Now that I got my closure with her I feel free.
Still fun talking about all these stories here and getting advice, I'll still be around as well to give advice to others and help them out. Till next time | Crushes |
Writing a romantic comedy, and I'd love to know which love interest you like best. These people are all in their late teens-early twenties (the book takes place over a span of five years). You can also choose by the cutest quotes since the descriptions are so long
MC: from the west coast. Black hair, brown eyes, loves makeup. Comes from an upper middle class family, and has constant pressure from her parents to be beautiful and perfect all the time. Her mother was a former beauty queen, and MC's considered attractive as well, but she's nerdy, like her father. She knows all about politics, different cultures, a part of many fandoms such as Game of Thrones, Harry Potter, Handmaid's Tale, etc. She went through
Nicolas: from a Latin American country. Blonde hair, green eyes. Comes from a wealthy family, and is expected to be the new head of the family business. He's a bit of a party animal, but paradoxically is afraid to talk to girls he likes. Meets MC on vacation, and is attracted to MC's inquisitiveness and intelligence. Another guy on vacation, Connor, tries to hook up with MC, and Nicolas gets jealous, drunkenly telling Connor (amongst other people) that he likes MC. However, Nicolas is in a relationship (a dying relationship, but was arranged by his parents), and he cuts off all communication with MC. Nicolas decides to break things off only a month later, but doesn't want to reach out because he knows how hurt MC was by his actions. When he sees MC years later, he shows her a pile of poetry he wrote her.
Connor: from the American South. Blonde hair, blue eyes, tall and lanky. Comes from a middle class family, who want him to enroll in the military. He's not as intelligent as James, nor as conventionally attractive as Nicolas, but he's charming in his own way. He's a bit of a douchebag; initially wanting to be with MC for a quick hookup, but after the situation with Nicolas, he feels responsible for MC. He and MC come from very different political backgrounds, and they banter about politics.
James: from MC's hometown, and attends MC's university. Brown hair, brown eyes, wears glasses. He's a scholarship student, and is a hard worker because of it. He enjoys video games and arts and crafts. He has an absent father, and went through a great deal of bullying, causing him to be avoidant. MC and him bond over their eerily parallel bullying scenarios. He's gone through a great deal of therapy, whereas MC hasn't, so even though MC is a few months older than James, James takes on a protective role, almost like a brother or a father. While he doesn't struggle to talk to girls like Nicolas, he struggles to ask MC out. People even tell MC to forget him because he's slow.
Love interest quotes
Nicolas: *In a poem he wrote about MC* **"There's no fixing what I did. There's no denying that I tried to deny my Aphrodite. I always saw your worth, and I pushed you away because I wanted** ***her*** **to feel worthy, but in denying you, I made myself unworthy. I don't blame you for never taking me back. I'd be honored if you accepted me as your servant.**
Connor: *Over drinks, MC breaks down over Nicolas, saying, "he doesn't think I'm beautiful", to which Connor replies* **"I think you're beautiful!"**
James: *When MC is having a mental breakdown after her mother criticizes her appearance, James holds her in her arms, and tells her* **"You don't have to change anything about yourself. Ever. Let me take care of you".** *James proceeds to then wash her makeup off and take her shoes off.*
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Just looking for advice on if this person likes me or if I should ask her out.
Me and her met online through a friend during this summer, we talked a lot and played a lot of video games. We stayed up until literally the next day playing games or watching shows and talking. This continued for a while and eventually my friend told me that she and I were bad for each other and said he'd leave if I didn't block her. So I did and we didn't talk for 2 mo seenths but she kept reaching out and eventually I caved and recently unblocked her and we are all good again, talking just like before if not better. Before I blocked her we had hung out once in person and last weekend we did again.
I caught feelings for her and I can't tell if she has feelings also, since she is the "flirt personality" type. We will joke about things but she also refers to us as friends or a duo, and she's also mentioned before that guys will think that she is into them when she just wants to be friends. However on the contrary she also said that she would date a friend if she was attracted to them and comfortable being around them. There's so many things I've left out to consider but that's the majority of it. She also lives kinds far from me, around a 45 min or 1 hour drive
I wanna ask her out and I'm really close at this point but I know if she turns me down things won't be the same. What's the right choice? How do I know if she likes me? | Crushes |
i like someone but idk what to do lol | Crushes |
Whenever I’m talking to them I just can’t shake this feeling that they don’t like me, that they have high expectations for me that I’m not meeting, like I have to say something witty or interesting whenever they talk to me. Whenever they go and talk to their other friends I feel like I’ve let them down and that I’ve bored them, that they like them better than me because they seem to have better rapport. How do I combat this overthinking? | Crushes |
we go to different schools so the only time we meet up is at a queer teens group once a week and this week we played magic the gathering and while playing i really feel like we bonded. | Crushes |
Ugh | Crushes |
So I’ve been crushing on this guy at my office since he came to our department in March. We started messaging through our work messaging app in June and eventually I got his number! My supervisor at the time had predicted we’d be best friends since the day he joined our team and I couldn’t see why until we started talking. From the moment we started talking we never went a day without, and still haven’t.
A couple months ago he said he wanted to get a matching bracelet with me so we did and got each others nicknames engraved on them and that’s when I knew he liked me back. I still did nothing and neither did he until come Halloween he put his big boy pants on and he took me to a haunted house and yadadada. No moves were made because it also happened to be the haunted house our boss was performing at and yes we saw him but he didn’t see us.
A few days after he was telling me abt his friends calling him a simp bc he wouldn’t shut up about me and then he finally admitted to having a crush on me and I did the same. That following Saturday we went on a date and he KISSED ME and then HE ASKED ME TO BE HIS GIRLFRIEND so I said yes but of course and we’ve been together since and having to hide our relationship at work, but still manage to sneak in kisses hehe so I’m happyyyyy | Crushes |
So my crush and I will hang out after school tomorrow to talk about homework. I’m really nervous lol. We’re both girls btw, both 18, and in the same circle of friends, just not super close and we don’t hang out together that much. She doesn’t have a bf and I know that she’s straight. So of course I’m going to respect her boundaries and treat her as a friend. I’m just scared it’ll be awkward since I often don’t know what to say when I’m around her. I’m talkative with my closer friends. But when I’m around her, I’m really quiet.
Wish me luck!😭 I’d appreciate some advice and encouraging comments as well! | Crushes |
So guys there’s a guy at work who stare at me everyday and say hi to me although I never say hi, after many months I fell for him , he stare when I’m not looking, I thought his eye contact meant something, but after I figure out he has gf and I started to look away then two day later he came to ask about work which rarely he came and he avoid looking at my eyes, is what I felt was illusion ? Or real ? | Crushes |
So we were sitting in the class then straight out of nowhere she asks me"do i look beautiful" then i say "i know you know i have crush on you" then she says"hmmmm" then i say"its a animalistic feeling i can deal with it" and she says"yes" and i wake up | Crushes |
I (15m) really like my classmate (15m). I don’t know if he is attracted to boys, but he has friendly attitude towards me. He iniciates conversations, but i’m shy and maybe even boring sometimes so it’s hard for me to talk to him.
I think he knows that I like him. I look at him often.
What should I do?
Should I give him a paper with a drawing of me sucking his dick? | Crushes |
Your the only guy that can stand me your the only guy that can make me smile I like you for you your handsome your funny you know just the right words to say it and you make me feel better when I see you every chance I got I ran away due to me not wanting you to see me blushing I tried to tell you on our class trip when we were getting back to the school but couldn’t and was to nervous to do so especially when we were in public heh I was embarrassed for not telling you while still in school I know I’ve could’ve told you at lunch or came to your homeroom but like I said I didn’t wanna tell you in public only guy that complimented me in elementary for graduation that’s how I started to like you it’s silly I know but I couldn’t help I tried to push those feelings aside but they kept on coming back I love you I don’t have many friends yes but I feel like you fed me to the wolves even you like I said I’m not mad or angry you blocked me I’m just sad upset and even hurt that you did that this might be the last text I sent you who knows heh maybe I miss you you make me feel good about myself and always know how to put a smile on my face I may have been invisible to you but you were the only guy that catches my eye every time there was a crowd
My last letter to him I am gonna try my best and move on from him | Crushes |
i don’t know what to do now, it’s over we’re over we haven’t even begun, i lost feeling i feel terrible i feel like shit i really wanted to have something with her but i lost feelings i don’t know why. | Crushes |
I develop crushes on the same font of guy. They're all so sweet and nice but I feel like I might not be their type. Anyway. My latest fixation has been a guy I liked a lot but I rarely speak to him besides saying "Hi" when I see him in the library or at the grocery store. Something tells me he'd be interested in me if he knew more about me. I'm back home and I can't stop thinking about him. I've resorted to stalking him on spotify but I put an end to it because my friend says it's weird. I agree. What to do:????? | Crushes |
I have been crushing on this boy for many months now, and since we’ve been getting to know each other these past few weeks, I decided to ask him to semi as a friend. He saw through that, and told me he was not ready to involve himself in romance as he is still healing after his last relationship which ended about a month ago, but he appreciates the invite. Am I wrong, or is this a nice way of saying “I’m not interested in you?”
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