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In my personal opinion I say no. Like I tend to have one major crush and a few minor crushes. I have no set contract of exclusivity. it also pain my heart because it's not as easy to get over a crush! Putting your energy in one person your not guaranteed to have a chance with is quite emotionally damaging hearing from rejection stories on here itself. The goal should be to find someone compatible and no matter how attractive the person is it shouldn't earn them all your interest especially if they hasn't shown the same but If you are incapable of having more than one crush because your mind tend to work that way, that's fine too. | Crushes |
Whenever he leaves, he gives all the other women goodbye hugs. I get an awkward wave. Sigh. | Crushes |
We don't talk to each other tho we are together in the same group for group activities before.
My crush randomly tried to talk to me. He suddenly asked me a question what I want as a exchanged gift and he told me that his seatmate is the one who pulled out my name... I know he's lying...but Why???
I know the name of my classmate who actually pulled out my name and not his seatmate.
But before all of this I know I did gave my guy classmate a snack using my hands lol and I rarely interact with a guy so could it possibly be jealousy that he found a reason to talk to me suddenly? | Crushes |
So I (F19) met this guy E (M19) this year in feb, but we became sort of close from summer on as we work together. I started developing a supposedly crush on him about 2 months ago, but I’m still not sure if I actually do like him or the important question if he likes me.
We see each other only at work at least 2/3 times per month as we are both students (both 19). And sometimes he doesn’t even have a shift and drops by, which I assume was because of his sisters who also works there, but he ends spending the night with me by my side and we’ll just talk for hours. And then he leaves.
I once asked him why he always came and if it had something to do with his sister, and he said no. He was simply bored and decided to drop by.
When we text, I’m always the one to initiate it. Hence why I don’t think he likes me. And the reason why I don’t think I like him is because I don’t think about him daily and can go fine
without texting him as opposed to my other crush experience, where they were almost always on my mind.
Nice thing, when I text he almost instantly reply and always wiling to help. And we interact by sending cute gifs.
Problem right now is. Last week I went to the bar where we work at and he was working, I was drugged but luckily my friends took care of me. I don’t remember the night vividly. The next day I woke up expecting a check up text from him and he never texted.
I spoke to my BFF to find out what happened the night before and to fill the blank. She told me that she also believes I was drugged as the drinks E poured for me where heavily diluted, because I gave her some. And I only had 2 drinks that were made from him, so the theory that I was drunk is out the window. As he doesn’t like it when I am drunk. (PS: I am insinuating he drugged me, I know he wouldn’t do that.)
In the evening, E texted. I was happy and was honest telling him I wasn’t sure. He joked I should be banned from drinking alcohol and I asked if I had done anything stupid. His response pissed me off, as I felt he was victim blaming and thought I was drunk that night (he said if I wasn’t too drunk to stand up, I might have done something stupid.)
I left him on read cause I didn’t want to answer till I was better. The next I explained that I most likely drugged. His response, (Mmmh. Wether you left your drink somewhere or not, it's still a good habit to always watch your drink.
But I think your smart enough to know this yourself 🙂
PS: You can always Drop it of at our Bar.)
Again felt like victim blaming and mansplaining to be honest. I’ve been ignoring ever since. | Crushes |
I'd like to believe this is not it. This is not destiny, he is not my destiny. But how tho? Everything I do and everywhere I go, they all lead me back to him. Is it just me who noticed how we literally get entangled in each other's lives for almost 10 years already bruh, I'm tired for real. Can't wait for the moment where we no longer have to see each other | Crushes |
I made a deal with myself to stop expecting that he will reciprocate my feelings..
I fell in love with him and everything about him and I say I’m okay with loving him silently and become good friends with him because eventually we will part ways..
but the thought of him never becoming mine hurts so much..
I keep saying it’s okay but as human I always want more and it’s annoying and I just wanted to say it out loud..
I don’t want to confess because it will complicate things at work..
and those dreams of him will remain dreams, hoping one day I will stop feeling this way because if I stayed like this until the day he leaves, I will completely lose it.
*literally breaking down* | Crushes |
Honestly I am so lost. I don’t even know or recognise myself anymore. So 3 years I met this guy S, S was an introvert at the time and I somehow tried to break his bubble. I started talking to him and developed a crush, long story short he rejected me. I told him via insta that he was my crush and his reply was “I don’t think anyone can fall in love that fast.” When I never said that I loved him. So fast forward today. We are not friends, have mutual friends and in the same school. We have the habit of, we’ll mostly me of talking and then ignoring each other for months. It happens so often that my friends ask when I bring the convo, “which stage are you in right now? The talking or the ignoring.”
I hate this because whenever I bring this topic up to our mutual friends, they’re always like just talk to him. Which I did, and he will speak to me as if nothing happened. When I say hi, he said hi back, but I noticed he never says hi first, so I stopped. It’s been months now, almost 6 months the longest we’ve gone without interacting and seeing each other every week.
Btw we are both 19. Maybe this might help.
I want this thing to stop. I’d rather we either be friends again or stop altogether and not this in between. It’s really awkward for me as when we make eye contact, I have to pretend I don’t know him.
He pissed me once, when walking past him, he scoffed before passing me when he realised I wasn’t going to say hi, at least that is what I assume. As it was just the two of us on the road. | Crushes |
I am introvert and never spoke to a girl, I have a crush on a girl in my college... I just wanna talk to her
she is not from my class and she is a junior. | Crushes |
I’m so confused about why she did that, and I’m a bit worried weather it’s a ‘bait’ or not. I had a good time but afterwards was so confused and had no idea why or what she was thinking. Any advice? | Crushes |
pls | Crushes |
***My Flame***
When I saw you, I knew you were special
From the way you smiled to the way you talked
From the way you laughed to the way you walked
It all made you special
​
What do you call it?
The butterflies inside evolve into doves
Doves flying on wings of love
But it’s not love.
At least, it’s not complete love
I love you, I loathe you
I love you, I loathe you
Like a pendulum swinging back and forth
​
My own personal flame, warming up the winter
Only a precious few are allowed to enter
Into this beautiful, lovely centre
All fun and games, until all this banter
Turns to scorn
​
All it took was one leak
One loose thread
One traitor
One puff of wind
And the flame went out
​
You’ve changed from the person I used to know
Your smile is a snare
Your chatter turns to trash-talk
Your laugh is a mocking
And you eyes
Hold the last embers of the flame it once was
​
Yet even embers can start wildfires
I surely hope you're not the liar
That this mess can just retire
That we can be back like birds on a wire
Because to me, you're still special
​
**(please don't copy/steal this, it took quite a while to write!)** | Crushes |
Crush said hi to me and I said it back and it was an amicable encounter. Later in the hallway in college there’s this 10m long corridor where we saw each other coming and we made eye contact but neither of us smiled and I had to break eye contact because I walked to my left into the adjacent classroom. This is the typical awkward hallway encounter where you don’t know where to look/how to act lol
Later I caught him staring at me wide eyed and when I caught him he looked down in embarrassment because I noticed it. He was the first one to break eye contact
Then later I felt bad and casually said something in passing about something that was happening to make up for not smiling lol
Did he think I was being rude/uninterested because I didn’t smile at him for a split second during the hallway encounter (I mean I had to go into the adjacent room lol)
did I screw up or am I overthinking? | Crushes |
Hey reddit. So just for context I recently turned 18, it's been months since my last relationship. There's this girl I've noticed around my school lately, I'm in year 13 and she's in year 12. I hadn't noticed her before but now I can't get her out of my head. Even if I don't have a lesson I'll get up and walk around during lesson change over just to have the chance of seeing her. I've tried finding her online but that's hard considering I know nothing about her. I've wanted to approach her and say hi for a while but it feels weird cus we have no mutuals and she's not even in the same year. I noticed her with another male student and got a bit jealous if I'm completely honest.
I don't know what's happening to me, just thinking about myself thinking this way gives me the ick. Im starting to feel like a creep. I don't really know how to explain it and I don't know what to do. I've never felt this way before. What should I do reddit, any advice? Is it worth approaching her and possibly humiliating myself, should I just wait for a perfect casual moment to say hi, or should I just forget all about her.
I feel this might also have something to do with my ex, if you look at a previous post of mine I shared what happened after I broke up with her. My 'friends' all ghosted me after and now she's dating one of them. Maybe this is influencing me now. Idk...
Any advice would be great, I'm probably just over thinking things but it would still be interesting to hear any thoughts. :) | Crushes |
So, we've known each other for 4 years but i confessed only 2 months ago or so. After a rollercoaster of a journey, i now am pretty sure she likes me as well and I'm planning to gift her a ring with "i love you" written over it in 100 languages along with a poem that describes our 4 years of knowingness. But the thing, how should I give the ring? Should I hide it somewhere and ask her to check that place on Christmas or should I give it in person? If in person, what should I be saying?? | Crushes |
Ah yes now I've become the matchmaker for the guy I really like 😂, it sucks it also hurts but I really care about him so I'll do anything that would make him happy cause he was there when I needed someone in my tough times. So yeah he asked me if my friend was single and hes super interested in her and asked me to match him w her. Anyways yeah so this is what I wanted to vent. | Crushes |
I’m getting the warm and tinglies! I was half zonked out tonight, (fever, I dunno) and he told me something about being my secret keeper. His pictures are so freaking weird but they’re very endearing!
I don’t know what’s going on, and i’m a bit scared to pursue anything. Haven’t felt proper feels like this in a loooong time but maybe it’s the fever is just getting to me. Right? | Crushes |
I have been friends with this guy for 2yrs now. He's my best friend and I like him a lot. Whenever we hang out we get along well. He teases me a lot and is playful. Sometimes his teasing though can be mean. But I don't take it to heart most of the time.
Well, yesterday we hung out, and like the day was going quite well. He was playful and seemed happy. He like knee'd my behind and took off running, and I chased after him. He let me try his food, and we talked casually the entire day. But, at the end when I was supposed to be catching the train home, instead of taking a taxi to the terminal He wanted to take the bus, which meant I would be late for my train. So naturally I got a little upset because I would be sitting at the train station by myself.
Well, apparently he changed his ticket so he could wait with me. Except when we got to the train station, he seemed tired and sat behind me on another bench and put his headphones in. I said a few words to him and even asked him if he was tired, and told him I wouldn't bother him since he's tired. Now he's angry at me that I hardly spoke to him for that hour because in my mind he said he was tired, so I won't bother you. Granted I am thankful that he waited with me, but like he didn't hug me when he left this time like he usually does.
Then when I talked to him today, he said he wouldn't hang out with me longer next time basically because I didn't talk to him because he just doesn't wanna sit there.BUT HE DIDNT EVEN sit next to me. He didn't bother talking to me either so I'm confused. I do not understand this man sometimes, and honestly have no clue if he likes me or not. He sends so many mixed signals where I just kind of give up. I'm not experienced when it comes to men, and dating as I don't have a lot of experience. But I'm generally confused.
Can someone provide some insight to this situation? | Crushes |
We’ve been friends for 3 years and we’ve never met. It’s a pretty real friendship to me as any other physical one. We live on different continents😩 12 hour time difference and met during the start of the pandemic when everyone was online. Our conversations are out of this world! We’re always so in sync and he’s so supportive I feel like we’ve watched each other grow because of all that’s happened in our lives independently.
The other day I had the worst day ever and I just texted him asking if we could watch a movie together, he wasn’t home, he parked his car somewhere and watched with me. It meant so much to me! We listen to music together a lot too which I feel like this is how we bond and ‘hangout’
He sees right through me and I feel comfortable to be myself when I talk to him. He’s such a great person! My favourite thing about him is despite all life has thrown at him he’s risen from all that and made something of himself, he’s hardworking, he’s kind and the list goes on.
I sometimes think he likes me too but we’ve never said anything. We just joke about it, he more than me, every conversation almost always ends up with him throwing a comment about how I should be his gf or why don’t I date him. The other day I asked him how he liked something and he said “I like them but not more than I like you”
He always throws them as jokes which throws me off.
We both wouldn’t do long distance or date people we’ve never met which I feel is one of the reasons I feel like it’s so impractical but I’ve felt this way for like a good 2 years now. I just get the feeling him and I there’s something real there. I sometimes even feel crazy when I say this cause it’s someone I’ve never met. These days all I think about is hugging him. I don’t know if I should say something or just let it rest. Help😩 | Crushes |
It feels great to be anonymous for this one😅
So Im in high school and have a crush on a teacher. Im 18 and he is 30. I have always been attracted to older guys since they are more mature.
Worth noting is that we no longer have classes toghether so he is not formally MY teacher.
And I know I should let it go, it will never happen etc. I dont have high expectations he will like me back. But I want to let him know how I feel. So that IF he by some chance likes me back he will know.
I wrote a poem about him and wonder if it would be weird/creepy to give it to him.
The poem is called ”Time” because it is about how as a teacher I feel he doesnt have time for me:
Firstly
a medical stat.
The two tumours in my brain are:
your humor that is lame and
the way you light up everytime you hear my name
Secondly
some solid facts:
Each time you compliment me for my freshly cut hair
you’re confirming that you notice me and that you actually care
Lastly
the truth is that that
The virus on earth is flooding every clock
Give me time for a beer and a good midnight talk
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Like your crush saying someone else handsome? Idk man I feel like it's just a me problem. I swear to God if I'm the only one | Crushes |
So today I proposed my crush and asked her if she likes me or not . She rejected me by saying that she don't like these things . | Crushes |
I have a crush on a fictional character and cant get over her what should i do | Crushes |
She likes me too! | Crushes |
I'm pretty dry in conversations. It's so hard to show my enthusiasm while doing other things (I'm so bad at multitasking). He always seems like he wants to talk to me (when he's done with his task and when he's bored). I'm just very awkward! I process conversations quite slow in general..with him, it's extra hard to maintain a conversation sometimes..so he always end up talking to me for a short time (I can sense the awkwardness) I can only talk to him casually when I acted like I don't like him or when I'm around our friends (he acted like this too).
Or should I just give up? Because it shouldn't be this hard. Potential partner/soulmate should be comforting to talk to. I'm tired of my feelings!!😭 | Crushes |
i just want to log my crush journey somewhere! i’m 16(f) never been in a relationship and he’s been in a great many. like 5+ which kind of deters me! we’ve been friends for 7 years roughly but recently i’ve developed feelings. he told me around a year ago that he used to have an intense crush on me but i didn’t think much of it til now.
we usually don’t snap but since monday we’ve been snapping every day! today i started the conversation for the first time. every other day he’s been snapping me first. he hasn’t opened it yet because i think he’s at work. that makes me nervous. i feel like i’m being invasive by snapping him while he’s at work, but he’ll probably be fine with it once he’s off. ahh everything about it makes me nervous. one good thing is that he’s very quick to snap me back once he’s online. like, scarily fast meanwhile im taking like a minute to choose a pose lol!
this is the first boy i’ve ever flirted with ahh i don’t know if it will work out but i needed to tell someone other than my mom lol | Crushes |
So I basically met someone a few days ago and I think he’s like the sweetest guy and seem to have an infatuation.
I haven’t had a crush on someone for like 5 years.. so I’ve lost my ability to detect any signs hits.
These are the few things he’s done that I find confusing
1. He’s always complementing me. And called me smart
2. He’s asked me on a stroll a few times now
3. Even though it’s been a few days he said “I’m glad it gave me a friend like you”
IDK
IM SO CONFUSED | Crushes |
So I thought that I am above this stuff and had no hope. During Covid I had like zero Human Interaction so I didn't know how to talk and was feeling anxious talking to people After giving Test I got admission in a decent Medical College but it was not my dream college.Its fees was way too high and I thought it was waste of my gap year. My chances of getting in that college were very less. When I got in college I was not talking to anybody and sat alone during lunches and lectures. But during our practicals we needed a lab partner so I was paired with this girl. She was really good to me and because of her I started interacting with my other batchmates. Though I felt better but there was still a hole in my heart that I didn't get admission in my dream college but I accepted my fate and knew that nothing can be changed. I started texting with this girl we used to talk but not much. She had similar interests like me in movies and books. I thought she can be a good friend as I didn't have a lot of friends that were girls. After 2 months of college suddenly I got a mail that I got admission in my dream college. I was really very happy. Even the girl congratulated me.But after few days I felt empty inside because I knew that I will never meet her again. In the college I couldn't talk to a lot of people. I had lab partner here to but we didn't talk at all. I really started missing her and slowly started developing feelings for her . I didn't text her because I didn't want to come out too strong on her. One month passed and I was still thinking about this girl. I know this is little toxic but I don't know why I started getting jealous of other boys around her. After a month there was a college fest and in a music competition she was participating so I went to see her performance. She was stunning. After the performance she sat next to me but for few minutes she didn't know that it was me. But when she saw she asked me whether I am participating or not but I got stunned and I didn't utter a single word out of my mouth. This was the last time I saw her in person. I still see her in social media but I get more and more sad because I couldn't talk to her.
It's been 9 months and I haven't even texted her but I still miss her. And I think I might have crush on her . What do I do now ? | Crushes |
How to confess to crush she is as old as me 13 we are both in grade 7 | Crushes |
ehehehehhehehehehehe i finally got the wish that i'd been hoping for.
and he's the final person to wish me happy birthday <3
(hopefully he'll be the last person i ever like this way lol)
cheers to another year of being alive! | Crushes |
Our school did the shitty pacer test about a week ago. This girl kept trying to say my name until I heard her, and then she said good luck on the pacer. She doesnt really talk to anyone except to about 5 girls. She also asks me random, not personal questions. I dont have a crush on her but I want to see what you guys say | Crushes |
This Saturday I'll try to ask her out. Even being rejected would be better than this feeling of uncertainty. I don't really know if she sees me as a friend, not interested at all or just a little bit shy. All three options might be the case, cause I met her recently. I just wanna distract from this for a while but I can't.
And also I feel kinda stupid. I don't even know if I have any chances with her. I hope that I do, but I also think I might be delusional. | Crushes |
She texted me,
"Hey, I uh, need your advice a bit. I saw a boy at school (she's at a private school to begin with), he's 1 year older than me, and I'm kind of stalking himmm.... Do you know how could I chat him a up? I'm a bit social awkward hehe..."
I don't feel anything. Just emptyness. I read her message for the second time, and then just left her on read.
I won't be in any help for any of this. Goodbye. | Crushes |
My crush is so gorgeous, she could easily be a model. She has luscious brown hair that's a little bit curly, she has beautiful green eyes, big pink pouty lips, and her body, holy Christ... She has a slim waist, and a real big butt, aswell as smooth thighs, She's also very funny and cute.
I'm about 2-3 inches taller than her, think about her a lot, I'm almost creeping myself out writing about her. She is very popular, so there's a small chance that she likes me back. She has lots of guy friends, but she is still a virgin, they're also popular. They sometimes tell me that she likes me, she denies it most of the time but not in a terrible way. She has complimented me once or twice and says hello to me, I'm pretty quiet and don't talk much, to her or any of the other popular people anyways.
There's a chance that she likes me back, but what are the chances that she and I make a move? really like her, she's perfect, but we're pretty much opposites. I think that makes me like her even more though... | Crushes |
I happened to meet one of his friends, and we instantly clicked because we have a lot in common! We shared our life experiences openly with each other. He asked me to come around and hang out because we have the same interests whereas the guy I like never cares to invite me anywhere -_-
I'm not sure how close they are aside from the fact that they hang out and know each other, but right now it makes me feel happy to have gained an awesome friend regardless of what my crush thinks.
Btw, I'm planning to ask him if he's down to hang out within his circle of friends because I don't wanna be awkward if he shows up at the same place and sees me there.
I'm scared that he might turn me down again simply because he doesn't wanna see me! | Crushes |
I want to confess to my crush TODAY or on Christmas Eve or day.I usually listen to songs to encourage me so I want to hear what you guys have | Crushes |
Both in our early 20s. Well, guess this one's over. Funny thing is, it's the first time I felt the girl was making advances at me. Like she wanted me to tell her when I'm free so we could meet up. She sentenced it in a way that it genuinely sounded like a date. She also texted me that we can "meet up in the next year and hang out or whatever ;)". Also always smiling at me in class.
Since we're in class and she's across the room from me now I texted her to focus on class and stop smiling at her phone and stop texting that "ultra cool guy" (me) and she just replied "Brooo hahah". She uses that word sometimes in her normal speech but still, I got it.
Guess I'll be moving on. No point in trying, don't wanna be that guy. | Crushes |
Non sexually | Crushes |
hi:) so i’m a 20 year old gay dude and the past few months every now and then my mind has been wandering back to a guy i used to have a crush on, we met online, he is gay too but didn’t talk much mostly because i was scared to talk to him and he didn’t seem interested, this was back in june 2020 and i got over him around a year later and just unfollowed him on stuff, had another crush after that, over him thank goodness lol he was a knob and now i’ve met someone else who i may like but i really am not putting labels on stuff rn. but yeah as for this old crush i know i don’t romantically like him anymore and im not forcing myself to and it’s just lust i feel towards him, this intense sexual attraction now but i wish it was more than that. i’m going with my intuition and being as real as i can be with myself but there are some odd signs that say otherwise like when i hear his name i get butterflies and i go back and occasionally look at his socials, it’s probably for the sexual attraction i feel t towards him now even tho i wish it was more. don’t ask me why i honestly don’t know lmao i don’t think i’ve ever wanted to crush on and old crush again until now. i know i still wanna cuddle him and be his friend but as for practically everything else i don’t feel that way anymore, like i don’t miss him and stuff and i wish i did but yeah i just need advice on what this could mean, thank you:) | Crushes |
I always send funny tiktoks to my crush and yesterday, I confessed to her. She said she likes me a lot, but only as a friend, should I keep send her tiktoks or just completedly stop it? | Crushes |
I offered a date to a girl cuz she wanted to talk to me abt something at the last day of school but we didnt have time then. Later on whatsapp i told her we could go on a date to talk abt it. The date was for today but i cancelled it because something came up. Now shes responding like a crazy person. What do i do? | Crushes |
i'm just waiting.
if they don't say anything before 12 then i honestly think i might just let them go for good, not that it bothers me to not get a wish from someone i like, but i'd just take it as a sign.
everyone i used to like never really lasted long enough to make it to my birthday, it always felt like some kind of curse lol. they'd always just end up fading away. thus it would become sort of a personal challenge for me to see if people lasted until my birthday.
news flash, they never did.
but today's the day and i don't know.
it's not like i can stop liking them, but i think i'd let go of the thought of having them in my life.
i don't want to be pathetic and constantly go for someone who might not ever want to be associated with me.
truth be told, all i really want to know is if i have a chance.
if i never do, then i'll let it go.
moving on would be hard but i wouldn't have any trouble with letting go.
cheers to the jolly month of december.
perhaps i'm just too much of a wishful thinker. | Crushes |
So I (20F) have a huge crush on someone in my college since past one year or so. I am very shy and introverted so I have never talked to them because of my nervousness. Now that my college is about to end in few months I'm caught up with the fear of regretting later that I never talked to them. I'm not sure if they're single or not. There is no hope for us becoming friends now as they solely hang out in their friend group and we are rarely in the same class. What should I do? I was thinking of sucking it up and asking them out for coffee during our semester end exams which are starting two weeks later. But I feel weird as we rarely even say hi to each other despite being in same course for 2 years. But trying to become friends seems futile at this point. | Crushes |
I had this dream last night that I just can't seem to shake. I'm posting this at 8 at night and now some details are a bit vague but I'll try.
In the dream, I met this girl, I'm not sure where or when in this magical dream timeline but it was fresh. I can't even describe the face now, but I've heard about how your brain is not capable of creating faces out of nowhere, so I've seen this face somewhere before. It felt familiar and I've been vigorously searching for this face all day, a face I don't know. She had a name as well, it was Laura but strangely enough I don't know anyone by this name, it has no importance to me. This is where the story starts to fade, I remember that we got along really well almost like she liked me. I'd only ever felt this from one person before. But the last time I had seen that person was almost 2 years ago now. The dream was so complex and lengthy that it felt like I had spent days in there but at one stage I asked her for her number. I know not a big deal but I had never done this before, it felt alien, strange, unnatural. But worse off, it was in a weird place, the front gates of my primary school. I handed her my phone and she added her name with a little heart. Cringy shit, I know but what meant more to me was the familiar feeling of those little moments I once had. A moment of bliss where I wasn't sad or angry for not saying anything years ago but a pleasant reminder of what it felt like.
TL DR: I had a dream where I met a girl, it was all too, idk, detailed and I woke up this morning with an urge to find out something. But it was nice cause it felt familiar, a nice little moment.
If you needed a sifn today, or when ever your reading this, just do it before it's too late cause you'll save yourself some sanity for later on. | Crushes |
I never talked to him cause of depression but now i want to talk to him first but didnt know how to do it as a friend and acquaintance, what should i private message | Crushes |
For example, you were seeing this woman for a while and after that you told her that you are not ready for relationship. And you removed her from your life. Social media, etc. but you don’t block her. You guys don’t talk to each other anymore. For a long time. And recently, you unliked all her instagram pictures.
Why would you do that?
It’s more make sense if you block her or something 😂🤣 | Crushes |
In my dream she called me and excitingly told me that she loved me and i was so shocked and happy, but i just woke up and realized it was all a dream. I wish i could have stayed on my dream, and had the courage to confess in real life | Crushes |
I was at the movies and there was this cute guy who kept staring at me when I walked in the building. He was in line at the concession stand getting popcorn and a soda. As I was walking he was staring at me the entire time as I walked in line. There was 2 people behind him and they were in front of me. He gave me a cheeky smile as he lowered his down and chuckled to himself. He looked very attractive and way out of my league but he is my type. He had dark black hair, looked on the Hispanic side but I’m not sure, he was wearing a grey polo shirt that was tight around his biceps and hugged his body. Okay okay I’m getting carried away😭
I smiled back but it was weird cuz I never had anyone smile at me first. But if anyone were to smile at me I always smile back. Anyways he got his ticket and food, he was seeing the same movie I was. When it was my turn to get my food and ticket I saw him standing at the end of the hallway where youre supposed to turn to the room of the movie you’re seeing.
Since I been here before and saw the movie before so I knew he was supposed to turn but he didn’t. He was messing with his hair and slicking jt back. I was looking down at my phone cuz I hate making eye contact. He said “Hey” with that smile again and I said “Uhh hi?” He asked “Black Panther?” I said “uhh yea” he said back “nice.”
He asked me what was my seat number and I told him, he told me his and we didn’t have the seats next to each other. I was nervous as hell and he said “after you *chuckles* we don’t wanna miss the movie, now do we? After you” I walked in front of me which I bet he did it so he can check out my ass 😭😭I say at my seat but he continues to follow and sat next to me. AHHHHH😭guys I swear this actually happened. I’m freaking out. I decided to ask for his number which he gladly gave it to me.
He didn’t make much moves and I didn’t either cuz I just met him but he was very attractive. I wanted to kiss him right there but We just met Lmfaoo. After the movie he asked if I liked it and I said yes I asked him the same thing. As I was leaving the lobby he said “You not gonna kiss me?” I swear he said that but I didn’t wanna assume anything and asked him what? He changed the question saying “Uh you not gonna kiss me? Hehe” he rubbed the back of his neck and he was clearly nervous.
I chuckled at him and said “Have a nice night” UGHHH I WISH I KISSED HIM BROOOO. did I do the right thing? I mean he wanted a kiss but I just….idk. I wanted to take a picture with him but idk I thought that was a little weird but I do that with all my friends but we jist met. | Crushes |
I used to have this major crush on this chick. She was perfect to me. Really pretty, great personality, entertaining to be around. Then came this years homecoming dance. She had a crush on my best friend, of course he says yes when she asks him, made me hate his guts blah, blah. Come to find out, she liked me at the same time I liked her. So now I'm sitting here thinking "how did I fuck up this badly". I'm such a dumbass. | Crushes |
I work in finance and am still fairly new in my career. I am super careful of how I am perceived because I want to be respected.
This colleague and I have hung out outside of work once as a platonic coffee chat and I always initiated our conversations. I did genuinely want to know him but it would be a lie to say I didn’t think he was cute. Eventually I developed a crush on him and looked forward to interacting. I felt embarrassed and didn’t want to be obvious about it so I began distancing myself. I noticed suddenly he began asking me to lunch, smiling at me from across the room, mingling with my friends, touching my arm or making little comments. He once waited for me in the rain to walk together to the subway and sat next to me on the way home. All of this made me like him more and I feel like I may have come on too strong (like sending smiley faces, asking to grab coffee, texting, swapping socials, and suggesting to hang again outside of work with other colleagues to which he never said yes or no to) but had a tiny bit of hope he liked me back or at least found me attractive.
Recently I hung out with some mutual colleagues outside of work. They do like to gossip and out of nowhere when my crush’s name is brought up one of them is like ‘oh didn’t you want him?’
I never once voiced this to anyone and it completely threw me off. I am now worried my crush spread the rumor I want him/am obsessed with him. It makes me super uneasy. I don’t know how our colleagues would know because I was conscience of treating him like everyone else and the moments I mentioned above were all in private. I suffer from anxiety and this situation is really stressing me out. I feel like I look really unprofessional and I want to squash any rumors about me liking him. I thought we were friends so the idea he may have complained about me coming on too strong is making me so anxious. Now I feel like I know he definitely doesn’t like me and I want to just control the narrative in some way. I am very introverted and don’t have any straight male friends to compare his behavior to but again I did think we were friends at the very least even if my crush wasn’t reciprocated. I don’t want to be perceived as that ditzy weird girl with a crush mixing personal life and work. I don’t know how to combat that assumption about me. Should I confront him to see if he made the rumor or just stay away from him? Did I come on too strong? | Crushes |
Should i follow crush and check up on him? I didn't know what happen to him, but should i lightly check up, how should i text? | Crushes |
The problem is she works in the kitchen and I'm a server and she's kinda shy and just will hide in the kitchen all day or when she does come out of the kitchen, it's when I have like a million tables to serve all at once and have to focus on that. So I just never get to ask her for her number. And the irony is that when I leave next month she's going to take over my spot as server. It's like ugg yall couldn't have made her a server before I left so I could talk to her and get her number?!lol. But yeah my last day working there is in 18 days because I'm being forced to move basically 2 hrs away and I'd like to stay in touch with her and even ask her out. I have to find a way to ask her. Hopefully I'll run into her in the walk in cooler or when I'm doing my side work or something and can ask her if I can have her number. Or may even have my number written down in my pocket as a backup plan if I have no time to ask her and I'll just give it to her and say "here's my number if you would like to stay in touch" or something along those lines. I'm gonna make it happen. I can't live with myself having to move away and never see her again and didn't even attempt to get her number. | Crushes |
Can someone tell me what to say 💀 i have never confessed before so i dont rly know how this works
But i just wanna know what he feels about me, so i can move on!!
I think he will reject me bc he dosent rly know me that much
I want my confession on point and i dont want to pressure him, and how do i say na dont tell this to ur friends or alot of ppl bcs its embarrasing and that i just wanted to get it off my chest
Ty and stay safe guys!
And good luck to me 💀 PLEASE I WANT HIM SO BAD THO
-rio | Crushes |
I have a friend. I’ve know him for years, maybe 5 or 6 years? He is such a good person, like he actually cares about me and other people on a level that I don’t see from anyone else other than like myself. He used to be mean, like so rude to me. I feel like over the years he’s grown so much as a person and I can’t help but feel like I’ve contributed to that. I just want to see him do amazing badass things in life and I know he will. He’s so smart, caring, and passionate about everything he puts his mind to.
He has a girlfriend, I’ve known her longer than I’ve known him. I hate her. I know hate is a strong word but she just manipulates him. Everything is about her, she is so selfish. He is a completely different person when he’s with her, like I don’t even recognize him. But when she’s not around he’s himself. He is that great amazing person that I know he is and I’ve seen from him so many times.
I just feel like he deserves so much better. Not even from me, from someone who respects him and supports him for being his genuine self. And the reason I say I’m okay with not being HIS soulmate, is because I’m okay if that person is not me. I don’t feel good enough for him. If he were to meet someone that he could be happy with, not that I know for sure if he’s happy with his girlfriend, but someone that treats him like the king he is. I feel cringey saying that but it’s the only word that felt right. I give everything if it meant his happiness. And that is a lot. I would stand in his wedding, supporting him in the whatever endeavor, smile on my face for that matter.
I just laugh, because I know it would never happen. But a girl can live in her fantasies right? | Crushes |
my crush and friend whos doing rehab programs says:
We don't need to rush into anything and you know I care about you and your feelings. I don't want you to think I'm looking for a full on relationship right now. It's not something that would be healthy for me.
It's been a long time for me. I really need something emotional and physical.
is that still interest? He’s also working on himself right now so I’m giving him his space | Crushes |
I’ve never seen a guy get creeped out when they know someone has a crush on them. | Crushes |
After a whole month she'll be back and luckily we have a class together. I'm excited but at the same time nervous not of if I'll ruin my chances more of how affection she'll be If she is extremely affectionate I might get a little down bad and we all know where that leads. | Crushes |
I would every day be thinking about this girl who unfriended and ghosted me completely. I loved her so fucking much and she seems to have loved me too. It was long distance which was the reason why we decided at some point to remain as friends.
Still was going great till it slowly went to shit and she unfriended me and ghosted me.
It didn't hurt as much right away, I was kinda expecting it. But then I just became worse and worse. Feeling so shit and returned back to the state I was before I met her.
Began feeling so depressed, started to bring myself down on anything, slowly didn't want to do anything (aka being lazy), struggling to talk to people more, stuggled to focus and keep up with schoolwork.
I lost that joy and happiness I felt, I was the happiest I had ever been when I met her.
But recently I've been thinking about her less and less. Today I didn't even think about her at all till I was in bed in the darkness, in the silence and just laid there thinking about random shit which then I realized "Oh shit, I didn't even think about her today!"
It seems like I am very very fucking slowly feeling better. So, I am glad that I think I am making some progress for myself. I hope I can be better and maybe one day find someone who I could truly love and spend my life with. | Crushes |
So… for context I a) am in college b) am a girl and c) didn’t have a strong relationship with this guy, so it may be different for you guys but this is my experience
I thought he was really into me since he made the first move and everything (ik naive) but he just wanted to be fwb. He texted me to hook up but I wasn’t interested, but then a week later I decided to messge him out of the blue… and he rejected me. I won’t go into detail because just thinking about it embarrasses me. Okay so now that I’m writing this out I’m realizing how stupid this sounds, but he was my first kiss so I was sort of obsessed with him.
Anyways, like 2 months later I just got back from a date with a guy and I regret not being more bold. I should have been more flirty and ugh. But it gave me the chance to think back and realize how glad I am the other guy rejected me. I’d be stuck thinking “what if” and “oh but he liked me” lmao no.
So…. Yeah. It’s definitely not a super similar situation for you guys I’m sure, but I hope someone’s able to take something away from this. | Crushes |
Is there any chance this is still just being friendly in the workplace? She even tells other coworkers that she wants to talk more with me specifically.
I have a lot of people at work I’m friendly with and seem to enjoy talking to me but she is the first to suggest I talk to her more than we already do.
I am not her superior by position but she definitely sees me superior to everyone else in the office by experience. Is she being especially friendly with me just because she wants help growing in her work? She does reach out to me when she needs help but now this seems like opening the door for more personal conversations. | Crushes |
When a girl is acting all giggly around you I tend to think something is up. Still some could be ice cold, show no emotions, have a stone face, and maybe even be really mean to you. | Crushes |
I followed her ig and she followed back. On day one I started the convo, and we talked for about 1.5 hrs nonstop. The next day, I started the convo again and we talked for like 2.5 hrs nonstop. Both times I had to end da convo bc of it getting too late, tho we gotta say night a couple of times before we stop talking.
Should I wait for her to start the conversation? Or should I continue texting her? Also, how many days of texting before I should ask her out? I’ve known her for 3 yrs, but never talked to her till now. | Crushes |
So have a friend who are also close friends with crush and they recently found out that I have a crush on someone and have been trying to get me to tell them but I’m scared thing would get weird between friend and me because he said as a joke ( I hope ) that “ it better not be c” because he feels overprotective of c and I not don’t want to tell him should I suck it up and tell him anyways ( tried asking others around me and got mixed opinion on what to do ) | Crushes |
This is my second year in highschool, and my friend is in his third year of highschool. I never really had any feelings for him in my freshman year because he was really charming and good looking, and every freshman and sophomore girl liked him. As I spent more and more time with him on school (NJROTC events) that went out of state and lasted for days, and hours of community service together, we became really good friends. I only saw us as friends until my last NJROTC out-of state trip during the summer a few months ago. It was just me, him, two other kids from another school, and the instructor of that school's JROTC and his wife. We had fun, but got even closer in the car ride, event, and last day of the trip. On the last day, we ended up dancing on this beautiful park center that had really nice railing and roof that was at the center of a beautiful park. He started to play music on his phone and the other two kids (who were dating) started dancing, so he grabbed my hands and we stared dancing. I might have been a bad dancer, but my heart never raced so fast. After that, we went on many-many-MANYY other trips together (ofc not alone) and got a little bit closer. He is a real charmer, and great guy, but I can't seem to tell whether or not he sees me as a friend or a little bit more. He calls me a woman, and does many gentlemanly thinks like opening the doors and stuff like that, but that's who he is. People who sometimes comment and ask, "is that your girlfriend?" and he would say, "oh she's a sophomore" But as of a month or two ago, he has made it clear that he is interested in being in a relationship. He was in a short-lived one with a girl who was already in one and broke up because she thought he was cute, and he looked so reluctant to be in it. As a good friend of his, I supported him no matter what I was feeling for him. But recently, I picked up one of this jackets and dusted it off, and he said, "you're like my little girlfriend" I though my heart was about to explode, so I didn't respond to his comment. I think that may be a sign, or maybe he was joking? I think I might have fallen for him just a little bit over the 1 1/2+ years that I've known him. Do you guys think he likes me back? Should I make a move? Hit me with some of that genuine advice! | Crushes |
So I asked this girl to hoco but she already had plans, she was super appreciative of the gesture and thanked me for it. I let that get to my head and thought she didn't like me at all, so I took a break, found another girl and started talking/liking her more. I'm losing interest towards the second girl because she doesn't put in as much effort. The first girl followed me on ig. Tiktok and added me on bereal. I really want to text her something along the lines of starting over but I cannot talk to women. I need help
Short: how do I try to start over with a girl I kind of fumbled | Crushes |
Well I’m still in this, but I had slight feelings for her but thought I liked someone else but the more I’d see her the more I swore i’d see our eyes meet. But I thought it was me going crazy and then the night before the Christmas dance for school I had a dream we’d dance ( So i naturally assumed it was just my fantasies) But the first slow song of the dance she looked over and asked me if id dance so ofc I said yes but as we talked she asked me a few times whether I liked someone, and I told her no and that it never works out and she said it’s ok there is someone out there for everyone and she said the person she is with she’d never of thought she of been with… so that ends that but I am not crushed or even really dismayed she deserves someone Im just depressed that Im letting myself fall for someone who is taken. So is there any advice?? (Sorry for the bad punctuation i wrote this on a comment in this group and it was just a big vent) | Crushes |
So there's this girl I'll call Her "L". So L is in 2 of my 7 periods, principles of biomedical science, and art fundamentals, I saw her the day of orientation and I couldn't keep my eyes off of her, she is so gorgeous. Anyway i kind of messed things up and didn't talk to her much and asked to to hoco. She said she was already going with her friends but "the gift was really sweet" (gummy worms &poster) I was dissapioted but I said that I respect her decision. A few months go by and she follows my Instagram, big deal whatever but then she follows my tiktok and adds me on bereal. Idk if she likes me and I'm just thinking too much or she is just being friendly. But my problem is there is this other girl, I will call her "M" so I talk to M a whole lot more, but she never responds to my texts and I feel like I'm putting in more effort than it's worth. So on one hand there is this super pretty girl that I kinda of messed things up with and on the other hand there is this nice girl that talks to me but doesn't show as much interest. What should I do.?? | Crushes |
Okay so I've made a few posts about my hallway crush and I want to give an update! I managed to get enough courage to give him my phone number and we started talking recently. We have SO MUCH in common, specifically a few really niche interests like authors etc.... but we still haven't had a conversation in real life. We don't have any classes together because he's in the grade below me and only ever see each other in the halls sometimes BUT I FINALLY ASKED TO ACTUALLY HANG OUT AT LUNCH WOOOOO!!!! AND HE SAID HE'D LOVE TO! So tomorrow (or today ig since it's 12:30am) we will be meeting up at lunch! It'll probably be awkward as hell but I'm still so excited.
I have terrible anxiety and just seeing makes my heart beat out of my chest so I'm scared ill be a stuttering nervous wreck, any advice would be appreciated. | Crushes |
This is a very dumb thought but I cant stop overthinking about it. So me and my crush have been #1 best friend for almost 2 months. Normally, we sent around 30 to 90 snaps a day but its winter break and hes 12 hours a day so that decreases to like 5/day because I would be asleep when hes awake and vice versa. He just travelled to that place for 1 day and we just lost the red heart like just now. It was there before he woke up and the moment he sent me the first snap it disappeared (or sometimes after that bc I was watching a movie and did not reply immediately). It's not that big of a deal but im now on my bed bawling my eyes out because of this dumb snapchat algorithms. | Crushes |
On saturday I was at a party and while at the party I saw a guy there I thought was really cute. I was scared to talk to him because he had alot of girls coming up to him so I got my friend to ask for his snapchat for me. We have been talking everyday since then but the conversations have gotten really dry.
At first he sent back long answers and would always ask questions about my responses but not he mainly answers things with one sentence and doesn’t really seem to care about my answers. However, he continues to keep the conversation going. If the conversation is coming to an end he’ll ask a question to keep it going but then continue to be dry after asking the question.
I don’t understand why he try’s to keep the conversation going if he’s going to put absolutely no effort into it at all. I asked him if he wanted to hangout on Sunday (day after we met) but he said he was busy so now i’m scared to take it a step further and ask again because I don’t want to be rejected. Not really sure what to do because I like him but talking to him is becoming a chore.
I’ve tried asking him questions and he used to have really good answers but now he’ll answer with only a couple words and never expands on the answers (Ex: i would ask him how his day was and he used to tell me what he did and things like that but now he just says good how about yours) | Crushes |
Couple years ago this girl I crushed on rejected me. I was like cool,whatever, she got a boyfriend like the same week so she probably was just crushing on him when I asked her. So I moved on. I stopped texting her, unfollowed, and never tried to stare or initiate eye contact of any sort with her again. I tried to cut her off since I really had feelings for her and even being friends with her would make moving on MORE agonizing. Thankfully she reciprocated and we never really talked again. -
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Until.. recently. We have a class or two together, we also ride the same bus home. All of a sudden she is staring at me in class, standing in my (very) close proximity and trying to initiate eye contact like her life depended on it (she used to try to avoid even being several feet near me after the rejection) and is giving me the vibe that she wants to talk to me again? I have no clue. I think this is wishful thinking and just the remnants of my pent up feelings for her that never managed to completely fade, trying to somehow convince me to go chase her again. I’m never going to go for her again. Maybe the awkwardness vanished and she sees me as a normal classmate again? I hope it’s just that. Please help. | Crushes |
Any tips on how to confess to someone that has the same sex as you?
I think she already knew that I like her because I keep dropping hints through social media but I want to confess to her properly this time. We're not that close though. | Crushes |
I feel like if I did she would feel bad or something cause she didn't get me anything | Crushes |
I was randomly scrolling through my followers on Ig when I saw my crush name amongst many. Apparently he followed me last month but since Im not active On Ig, it took me a month to discover his follow req. So I immediately approved his req and chatted him. He started working out so he’s looking so much better now than befor (health-wise;)but thats not the only reason Im chatting him. He’s a great guy, a great friend and a wise one. He’s currently an architecture student in on e of the greatest universities here in Philippines. But when I asked him if hes intersted in ANYONE, he said he’s only interested with ONE woman only. Im pretty sure thats not me. But I like him. I rlly do.Should I pursue or just let things be?? | Crushes |
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It’s now the summer holidays and I have managed to get his phone number, so for the past couple days we’ve been texting back and forth and getting on calls with my friends,his friends and us. Recently I’ve had this feeling that my crush likes my friend who is on our call regularly. So I asked him if he liked her and he quickly responded “no”, then I asked if he liked another girl who he used to always hang out with,but stopped since there was drama in there friend group, he also said no.
I then told him that I also liked someone (him) and he immediately thought I liked a guy I always talked to, I said no. I thought that would be the end of our conversation until he started begging me to tell him my crush, he was so desperate.
A few minutes later we got on a call with a couple of mine and his friends, he started telling everyone that I liked someone and begged that I tell him, I told him that I will tell him next time but he still wanted to know, so I left the meet in embarrassment.
He also remembers every little detail about me
Does he like me?
What should I do next? | Crushes |
So. I really like this guy who i have known since elementary school but i hardly ever see him. Everytime i do its in a group social situation but like its also maybe once or twice a year. I have known him since i was literally 5. He is the most gorgeous person ever. Like ever. I don’t know how to talk to him. I had been in a relationship for 4 years and i have totally lost all my ability to talk to guys since then. I feel like i am ready to start talking to other people now after fully healibg from my breakup. But i don’t even know how to talk to a guy. I really like him and i want him to like me back and ask me to hang out with him but i don’t know how to do it without being too obvious in case he doesnt have any interest. I want him to want to get to know me better, without having to ask??? i don’t know.. What should i do? | Crushes |
so i’m a girl and ive known him since 5th grade and been friends since 10th but i’ve only had a crush on this boy for about 4 months now and we’re both seniors (i think he’s my first love). i want to confess to him but am unsure if he likes me.
Here’s reasons why i think he could:
Very thoughtful, easy to approach. Sends me good night pictures of his dog pretty often. Initiates a lot of the texting we do and it’s 50/50 for how much we talk in school. Has similar music taste and will share airpods with me. Told me he missed me over the breaks and will hangout with me and some other friends outside of school sometimes. Jokingly flirts a lot and always jokes abt being in love with me or being my boyfriend to other ppl. Sometimes walks with me to class and will chat before. Let’s me touch his hair and sometimes compliments me. Has told me a lot of personal things
Here’s why im not sure:
Majority of his friends are girls and he is very sweet to pretty much everyone around him. Kind of a dry texture so unsure abt his responses. Sometimes jokingly flirts with others still less than he does with me but it makes me unsure. Some people seem to think he could be gay but he’s mentioned liking girls in the past and wanting to get married/have children in the future.
For context, we both haven’t been in serious relationships before. Please help a girl out! | Crushes |
I didnt know if i cant stand by him, but i just want him to know someone will care about him, but i didnt know what is going on in his life, should i check up on him but will it be weird? I didnt want to lead him on or play feel, i just want to support him emotionally as friend as someone that helped me | Crushes |
So ive liked this girl at school for all of this year and it is now christmas break so i dont see anybody at school, including her. My friend begged for ages to tell me who i liked so then I finally told him and during those 5 minutes my chest was like pounding just like thinking about her yk. Now like 30 minutes after, I feel nothing... I feel like i dont like her anymore, this girl that I would think about everyday. Every time there is a break this kinda happens and then whenever i see her again I remember how much I like her but for once I just feel empty inside... No joy or sadness or worrying if she likes me or anything. After telling my friend who my crush is i feel like maybe i dont like her after all. What is happeningt lol | Crushes |
She playfully kicks and hits me
She dances around me
She makes fun of me
She kind of ignores me over text
She usually goes right to see me
When I talk to someone else she bugs me to get my attention
I initiate all the convos mostly
She claimed she playfully hit other people too when I asked her but those people told me she doesn’t
Uggghhh | Crushes |
Should i check up on him as a friend? He seem to need emotional support, but i muself is in rough time, i am fear of triggered myself, i know he is in rough time, why did i cry? I didnt know what happened to him, will my care suddenly showed up feel fake? Like why will a person not talked about 3 years ask you how you are? But he seem unfine, i am worried, can I check up on him as kindness cause i am grateful to crush help | Crushes |
im so down bad it's crazy. two weeks ago i was still trying to decide if i liked him, but now practically every time we look at each other or talk, we smile at each other. it's gotten to the point where i actually miss him outside of school. like it's not JUST a crush anymore, i want to spend time with him. and that's how i know it's real, i think. like it's not just physical attraction. i like who he is as a person and i want to be with that person. crazy thing is, i think he feels the same way. hopefully i'll find out soon | Crushes |
1. He's hot and cold.
2. He doesn't recognize the difference between the screen and reality (he'll believe a bunch of fake crap on screen)
3. He puts people on pedestals, WHICH IS MY PET PEEVE!
4. He will step on others for his entertainment.
5. When he says something like, "Wow you look pretty" and I didn't hear it clearly, he'll say "WhAt?" Or "Hm? Are you okay?" It makes him seem like he wants attention
Normally, I'd know what to do in this situation. But, I just can't seem to shake him off, and I don't know how to talk to him about it.
A while ago he said he likes me, and then he said he doesn't anymore and told all my friends who never really liked him either. I ratted him about and we made up. I thought we were still good friends.
Not long ago, I was teasing him about him liking an anime character and he was denying it. He said, "I don't like them, ^(I like you)".
So I said, "Wait what" and he said, "What?" **which is so friggin annoying please never do that to your crush to get their attention they will absolutely hate it**
So he used to like me, stopped liking me and told my friends, and now likes me???
What.
So what I'm asking for is, how can I talk to him about his red flags? He was very defensive when I brought it up when he liked me.
**TLDR**: Immature guy stopped liking me, but now likes me. I don't know how to talk to him about his immaturity.
>!I know I'm an advisor but I really need some advice right now 😭!< | Crushes |
So i was gonna put an image or something she said the other day and say “shut up and go out with me” but that just sounds offensive so i wanna keep it like really short but idk | Crushes |
EEEE SO I was at a average collage party right and I was hanging out with my crush aka my girl best friend (shes bi and I’m a closeted lesbian) so she drank too much and I had to drive her home and when we got to her dorm her roomate wasn’t there so I stayed with her for a bit and she asked me to stay the night so I did and we laid in her (twin sized mind you) bed together and watched disney movies until she fell asleep curled up next to me then about 15 mins later she woke up and looked at me and just kissed me on the cheek and fell back asleep | Crushes |
Like the title says | Crushes |
So I like someone (and I think she likes me) and want to confess but I been having trouble with how I should do it. And today I had a idea: I'll write a poem about how I feel. Currently writing it but I want to ask if writing a poem is a good idea? Have anyone done it before? | Crushes |
We're both (21) I've liked them for literally 1 year
They always say hi/bye to me
They always look me in my eyes
Compliment my features
Compliment my clothes
They call me cute
Recently she's been getting a little shy around me I think?
They offered to drive me home
They always are close to me like physically for some reason
Talk to me specifically in a group
I complemented their eyes because they're green and pretty and they blushed and walked away
They laugh ridiculously loud at my jokes for some reason I think it's cute tho
We have the same music taste
But they also hang out with another person in our friend group and I'm unsure if they're just friendly or not they've known each other longer than we have
Pls help I'm not sure if I'm getting the wrong idea?? We're not super close we go to the same school so I don't know if she broke up with their partner of a few months I can't ask tho | Crushes |
I wanted to do it after class today since winter break starts tomorrow but this mf decided to talk to the teacher about the test that’s after break instead 😭 I’m so sad lmao and like to make it worse he’s the one mf who doesn’t have any social media so I can’t like message him instead :( on the bright side we made eye contact and he immediately looked away and smiled!! It made my heart fill up but also that could literally mean anything 😅 | Crushes |
I wanted to do it after class today since winter break starts tomorrow but this mf decided to talk to the teacher about the test that’s after break instead 😭 I’m so sad lmao and like to make it worse he’s the one mf who doesn’t have any social media so I can’t like message him instead :( on the bright side we made eye contact and he immediately looked away and smiled!! It made my heart fill up but also that could literally mean anything 😅 | Crushes |
:)) | Crushes |
I've sworn off online dating because it never ends well, and because I am scared of commitment. I feel like an a-hole for what I've done regarding the being-scared-of-commitment thing, wish I could remove that part of myself.
Being friends is much safer, and it is more likely not to end badly. So why the freaking fuck did I get a crush again? Pretty sure he actually cares about my interests, will back me up and comfort me when I'm the big depressed, sends me probably 10 terabytes worth of memes including cat ones, he and I love to play pretend in games and it's so fun when we actually do it. AND he is so supportive of me, it's just awesome.
We'd be better off as friends, I'm sure most relationships online don't last especially when you don't ever plan to see each other IRL, + he probably doesn't feel the same anyway so no point in it. Damn you filthy human brain chemicals | Crushes |
He’s so sweet. idk what to do. I feel like I still kinda like him. He bought me a christmas present based on one of our many inside jokes. Also he called me a couple days ago and the call lasted an hour. He told me I was his best friend on there too.. idk what to do. I like someone else and everyone at my (very small) school (including my crush) knows. | Crushes |
She bought me it because my secret santa gift i got off my freind was really bad and IM SO FRICKING HAPPY IT ARRIVED TODAY ITS A LITTLE SEAL PLUSH (she also bought a little crab for my younger sister) | Crushes |
I have been in love since this Spring and have continued to fall deeper in love. The guy I love goes to school with me. We used to talk when getting ready for the lesson. I would ask him all sorts of questions about his day, weekend, family, and favorite activities to do in his freetime.
Well... I have been noticing things. He never says "hi" to me first. I always say hi and his name together. I know people love hearing their name. I've been the one to always ask him questions. He never shows interest in my life or asks any questions. So, I've been volunteering information to him, hoping to spark conversation. He just remains quiet and I end up carrying the conversation.
It has taken me 8 months to realize this... I feel like shit. A couple weeks ago I asked what his favorite cookie is, and he replied "raspberry cheesecake from Subway." Well I decided I would do even better than that and make them homemade! I spent 3 hours making homemade raspberry cheesecake cookies with creme filling for him. I brought them to him and he said thank you. I texted him later asking how he liked the cookies... He said they were delicious and he could tell I put a lot of work into them. Then I texted "It was worth it to see you smile". He never replied,
God I feel so awkward. We had our school holiday party last week. I had never gone to a school function like this, mainly because I am very shy. I picked out my outfit and did my hair special. I wanted him to notice me and think I am cute. Anyways, I sat in the corner away from the main crowd. (I have anxiety and was scared to interact with everyone else.) I saw him and waited for him to say hi to me, he didn't even acknowledge me.... (This was after the cookies too.) I felt so sad an deflated... I have been trying so hard to befriend him and learn more about him.
It was a moment of humiliation. I cried after I left the party. I only stayed about 30 ish minutes. Now I realize he doesn't give a shit about me. It took me 8 months to realize he doesn't give a damn about me. He won't even say hi to me... I feel like an idiot and my heart is crushed. | Crushes |
I have a small crush on an assistant from a PT place I have been going to. Since today was my last day, I meant to ask if she has insta but she was busy so I couldn’t talk to her. I won’t be going back to the place because it was my last appointment.
We’ve talked a bit throughout the different sessions. I believe she might have mutual feelings so I feel like it’d be a shame not to try to reach out. I don’t know what to do.
Since we both follow the same Instagram for PT, I quickly found her account under the PT followers list. It feels too creepy to DM her but that’s all I can come up with :(
Should I just take the L and move on? | Crushes |
Hi, so I have a crush on this guy.
We work together and I’ve liked him since about March. We see each other almost everyday because we kind of work in the same area, and often (either one of us) will go and see the other to talk during our shift. He is like the coolest person ever and I just can’t tell if he actually has feelings for me too, or if he is just that nice of a person. I know he is really kind and friendly, that is just his personality. But there are also some things he does that give me hope he likes me too. I’ll go over some here:
- He often comes over to talk to me even when we are far away at work, or he will smile and wave at me, he always comes to say goodbye when he’s leaving for lunch (and comes back early to sit and talk with me)
- He compliments my clothes all the time (ex. “Cute dress” “that’s a nice sweater”) and sometimes will like grab on the fabric and say this is nice.
- we talk about a lot of interesting things and have deep and meaningful conversations
-he always reassures me that I’m not bothering him and he likes talking to me
-when he leaves work before I do he always comes to say goodbye and often stays to talk with me for a while (30 minutes at least and a few times over an hour)
- we can talk about anything together (like even crazy stuff or things that we don’t tell other people)
-we have made jokes that we are going to open a bakery together some day
- we hang out pretty often (most of the time I ask, but just the other day he actually asked me)
-when we hang out we usually just play games, talk, go shopping, and last time he made me dinner (so cute and it was delicious)
- he buys me snacks sometimes and brings me homemade almond milk every week
-we have this thing where we match every Saturday at work (we both wear a shirt with mushrooms because we love them)
-he is always happy when I come help him at work
- I swear we have the best time together, like we are always laughing and joking around always smiling
-he bought me a book when we went to a bookstore the other day, and even gives me books to read that he thinks I would like
-he defended me the other day at work when people were being rude
- I know I’m one of his best friends
- he sometimes says cute little flirty things and we are always teasing each other
-when we are around each other it is like there’s no one else in the world, no one else matters
-he always does me favors when I need it and has said before “I would do anything for you”
-we text sometimes and when we do he’s always joking around (I think it is kind of flirty but idk)
- we have sooooo much in common and get along so easily, like we became close very quickly
Anyways I just don’t know because he is just so nice, he is nice to everyone else too…but sometimes it just feels like it is different with just us two. I have also never had a crush like me back before so I don’t know what to look for as a sign. I feel crazy because I keep going online searching for answers. I would confess to him but I need to wait until I’m 18 (just like 1 more week) because he is older than that. I feel like we have such a strong and meaningful connection. But I can’t tell if it is friendship or something more. It is killing me going back and forth I wish I could just be sure. | Crushes |
My crush is a Guy, Junior, 16 years old, BI
I'm a guy, senior, 17, also BI
I've liked this guy in the group I hangout with for 2 months at this point, and I think I would like to ask him out for the festival the school is having on Friday.
My progress has been slow, but he's seemly starting to warm up to me a bit over the past few weeks. He definitely doesn't treat me how he treats the others, but it's still something.
But idk if I should get closer to him or to ask him out now. He's definitely interested in a relationship, infact, he legit had a date earlier this week or had one scheduled, but didn't go so well. He seems kinda desperate, and even said something like "which friend should I ask out next". This kinda puts pressure on me, because he could potentially ask someone out, and even if it's unsuccessful, it still ruins my plans for Friday.
He is open to blind dates. So that's something that could work in my favor.
Should I just go for it, regardless or should I make more progress? | Crushes |
I know this sounds dumb. But I really like this person and seeing them talk to other people like how he talks to me, it just makes me feel like just an option? Like someone who he could date.
Maybe I'm thinking about this too much, I know they are allowed to talk with other people, it just makes me sad knowing I'm not the only girl he flirts with and such
Please tell me if I sound stupid, I already know I'm gonna get my heart broken I just wanna know If I don't sound ridiculous | Crushes |
I have a crush on this guy and we talk a lot in person but when I want to talk to him online it’s always an emoji or one word response | Crushes |
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