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So I totally have this crush on a girl and I'm obviously scared to tell her.
Thing is I don't NEED to date now, is there just some way to lay down the pieces so they can figure it out without me telling them? | Crushes |
Like- he's an amazing person. He always will be...but this was the worst time to have a crush on someone lmao | Crushes |
I confessed and said I like him and he rejected me in the nicest way possible. I feel relieved at the moment because this will allow me to stop over analyzing every interaction and worrying about everything. Now I can get over my crush peacefully. Also I work with him but I don’t think it’s gonna be weird as we’re two adults. I’m just glad I got to say it. I’ve been sitting on this for a year. | Crushes |
It’s been stressing me out for weeks because I started to think I have a crush on this guy I’ll call “N”. N is a year older than me but we’re in the same marching band for our high school.
I was so stressed out when I realized I had a crush on him because I just didn’t want to worry about that kind of stuff until, I realized trying to suppress my crush for him was making it worse and stressing me out more.
Now, I have no idea what to do because I want to talk to him but during band he always hangs out in the big group so I can’t just come up. I’d come up with my friend to make it less awkward, but you gotta understand that none of the people in his group talk to us because we’re younger and therefore seem annoying ig (?). I could like follow him on socials and stuff but his insta is private so that seems weird too. I don’t know what to do. | Crushes |
i searched my crush up on insta with a alt acc and my main was obiovusly still logged in but i didn’t use it to see her page. She didn’t have any new stories, she did have highlights and i did look at them but it’s all from many weeks ago and i’m pretty sure stories doesn’t show who sees there stories after like 2 days. a few days later, she privated her acc. Her posts has also shrinked down. I’m worried that she caught my alt spying on her with some app/website but what i’m mainly worried about is if she can see what my other accs are, like my main acc with app/website. She’s still privated and also she has came late to my class only so i feel like she knows it was me who stalked her and is now uncomfortable. She did come early to class sometimes but bc you can get punishments for when your late for class. Other then that she sometimes comes late. Maybe she doesn’t know it’s me tho cuz during a fire drill she was walking besides me but i feel like maybe she wanted to see what i would do? No idea tbh I think i’m overthinking but the more times she comes late the more times i think that maybe she knows. | Crushes |
so I've been crushing over this girl for almost a year now and I really like talking to her but she doesn't really respond to texts so I feel like I should just bite the bullet and ask her if she wants to hang out but like idek where we could go and im just like ughhhhhh 🫠 | Crushes |
I’ve liked him for about 3 months, since may, but now I’m unsure if I still like him or if i ever really did.
He has liked me before but that was quite awhile ago, somewhere around February/March.
He knows that I like him. He found out about it like a month ago and he hasn’t acted really awkward around me or anything but that’s also just his personality in general. To me, after he found out, it felt like we started getting closer. He started talking to me more often, being around me more.
I explained the situation (how he found out and other stuff) to his friend once and he replied that he (the guy I like) would eventually like me back. I agreed because that just seemed to be the way he is. But it isn’t like this happens for everyone that likes him. He has rejected someone else before and didn't end up liking them
In addition, yesterday, his friend also told me that he’s started to be unsure of whether he likes me. The friend thinks that he does but he just doesn’t want to admit it.
After hearing all of this, I was happy, but more about that fact he thinks I’m pretty and other stuff. I like it when he talks to me, when he gets near me, when he smiles/laughs, when he looks at me, but ever since hearing that he might (probably) likes me, I just didn’t feel as excited as I thought I would be.
For us to like each other has been all I ever wanted for such a long time. I don’t know whether I feel this way because it’s not confirmed if he likes me or not, or because I’ve already moved on since the rejection. To be honest, I feel like the more I talk to him, the more I find out that there are things I dislike about him.
I’ve also thought about how it would be like if we did end up liking each other and it kind of scares me. I get the feeling things would feel the same, but I want to be a lot closer with him.
I don’t want to end up leading him on if i really don’t like him anymore. What do you think? | Crushes |
(i'm a male and this has been on my mind for a while) i forgot when and it was a 17:36 train to Sutton from Blackfriars and i saw a male in a white shirt black shoes and thin navy dark blue trousers that i could see his beautiful peachy small tight arse move in them he had hazel brown hair and a little bit of white hair (birthmark i'm guessing) he looked about 6'1-6'3 and i absolutely adored him and couldn't stop looking at him he then got off to my dissapointment i think at Streatham or before that (i don't know) and was the last i ever saw of him but yh that was my story hope you enjoy! :) hopefully might see him again if i'm lucky he was pretty fit too (if you know what i mean) 😝😜 | Crushes |
I got rejected about a year ago even though I was sure she would say yes. One of my female friends thought so too. She showed some really obvious signs (We thought) but she still said no. What are some signs, obvious or not, should I look for in the future that could prove/disprove whether or not she likes me back? | Crushes |
I just daydreamed about cuddling and talking with her for an hour idk why I just did I never daydream ether so I guess this is a hard crush | Crushes |
Okay, I really REALLYYY like this girl and I don’t know how to tell her, or if I should tell her. I’ve liked her for a while (maybe 2 years or longer) and she means the world to me, but as we go in our final year of high school, I can’t decide whether or not to hold it in or tell her because what harm can it do, right? Someone help. I have a huge fear of rejection but not telling her is weighing on me. And if I do tell her what do I say?
To add onto my decision of why I think I should tell her, or rather I’m at a good point to tell her:
- She gets into my favorite things and learns about them for me
- She learned ASL for me (i’m HoH)
- She jokes many times about us dating
- If we ever do anything she prefers we do it alone
- She sits near me every chance she gets
and more, but these are big things… | Crushes |
I need some advice. I (14M American) have a crush on the new transfer student (16F Spaniard). She’s sending all the signals that she’s into me, bikini pics, both instagram accounts, calling me cute and saying that I am one of the only things she likes about America. The problem is that she takes forEVER to text back. She’s not leaving me on read, as it says delivered until she responds, and she always responds, but It’s usually hours later. What does it mean?
Update: She is now sending videos of her by the poolside and her in her house | Crushes |
I (19 female) have known my (19 male) best friend since I was three. He recently got out of a 3 year long relationship and we got really close again after his girlfriend was no longer saying how much she hated me and how I was I love with him(she was right). I made sure to stay out of their relationship and only talked to her once but she hated me. I told him I had feelings for him when we were 13 and it was awkward but we were fine, I think he told her that which is why she hated me. I have been in love with him since I was 12 and don’t know how to tell him again after the summer weve had I don’t want to ruin anything but, he almost kissed me in my car this summer but I turned away out of fear. I didn’t know what to do but we just acted like it never happened. All my friends are telling me I need to make the first move but I’m scared to lose him. Relationships are either you stay together and get married, or you break up which is terrifying. I’m looking for advice. I have a wedding coming up soon and was thinking of asking him to be my +1 to get a read of the situation. Anyways any advice is helpful thanks. | Crushes |
For the last year or so I’ve only had a crush on this f1 driver lol but I just started school again and I think I kind of like a kid in my class! I honestly don’t really know why I’m attracted to him, he’s really not that cute but he has cool style and he’s kinda tall and has glasses. He’s pretty popular though so I don’t think we’re going to talk much this year and he might have a gf lol I don’t really know. Ugh he just gives me butterflies or something its so weird. Something abt him makes me feel all fuzzy inside. I’m glad I finally have a crush thats my age bc it just makes school more exciting. He probably doesn’t even know who I am but Idc I’ll just admire from a distance. :) Not looking for advice or anything just wanted to gush haha. | Crushes |
We were texting and she said, “My entire room smells vaguely like you now because of the gifts you gave me.”
I said, “I sprayed the gifts with some of my cologne lol.”
She replied, “So that's why, it's nice, it smells sweet.”
I replied, “Yeah, it’s great :)”
She then said, “Well that's nice, it reminds me of you now :)”
I just melted at that point- she has also told me that I smell of cotton candy and bubble gum. 🫠 | Crushes |
i have a question….. ok so my crush talked to me first… like we never talk before and he talked to me first!!! so I want some convo starters for people who usually don’t talk. nothing like “What’s your favorite color” we will be in school so I want some good things to ask him that WILL start up a convo. Please help!!! | Crushes |
So Im a junior in high school, and have a crush on a girl. At the beginning of school we go to the gym, and when she walks in, I get a smile on my face, I am genuinely happy to see her. Whenever I'm in class I get an uncontrollable urge to look at her because she is just so beutiful. When I'm not near her I think about her often. I really have never felt about a girl like this before. I've never experienced love and really do not know what it is, so I just wanted to know everyone else thinks. | Crushes |
Pls dm. I’ll tell u everything!! | Crushes |
I have been talking to this girl for like 1-2 Weeks now, and I’m her livestream (she has a pretty good YT channel) someone asked “Do you have a crush” and she replied “no, not at the moment” on top of that I keep sending her texts that she looks good, and I am the one to always start the conversations, I don’t know what to do :< | Crushes |
So, context: My crush is a cashier at a supermarket near where i live and i often go there. Lately these past few months we'we've been staring and smiling a lot to each other. I even caught him staring at me without me realising, he follows me with his gaze, moves to stare at me if someone block his sight from me, smiles, waves...and tons, TONS of intense staring and smiles.
Today idk how and why but Facebook recommended me his profile. I was so happy and over the moon about it!! But i made a quick research and i think (THINK) he's got a wife and a child (found out through comments & a few photos)
i'm disappointed, heart broken, and confused as fuck? why does he stare & smile at me? Or even, often turn his head around randomly to stare at me without taking his eyes off me and smiling? Or he follows me with the gaze, and i always catch him staring at me without me realising??? And when people are in front of him, not allowing him to stare at me, he just moves a bit to the side and stares at me...is he just being kind?
I of course will do my best to move on, but how?? Was he just being kind, or does he like me even if he has wwife and child? I'm SO CONFUSED and i feel bad about it! Help me out. | Crushes |
Can't stop thinking about it, I gave her some music recommendations, told her to give them a listen and tell me what she thinks. I didn't say it out loud but if she likes those ones I def have more for her. She said she will but won't be at work for another week.
Which would have been the perfect opportunity to say, "Well how about we trade numbers, so you can tell me what you think? I'll definitely have a few more you'd like if you like those ones"
But didn't out of fear of looking like a creep or embarrassing myself. I know I'll see her again eventually but I can't stop thinking about, "THAT WAS THE PERFECT OPPORTUNITY YOU DIPSHIT" | Crushes |
This is to go off a previous post, but what my crush and I (20 M and F, respectively) do often is tell each other “I love you” and “i love you more” when we say goodbye after seeing each other or hanging out (we’ve been close friends for 2 years but I’ve only recently developed feelings for him).
Every time I say “I love you more” to him, he says something along the lines of “yeah, right” or “you’re crazy, that’s impossible”. Then I say “oh you’d be surprised, are you sure you wanna know?”. Then he usually has to go somewhere cuz he’s always busy yet somehow always makes time for me.
Does he like me? Should I shoot my shot? | Crushes |
My crush totally is into rock music and I listen to rock to for some time, but I’m not really known for it because I also listen to a lot of other genres.
Together with her and some friends we went to rock festival with some cover bands and at some point I showed a friend of mine a song that I wished to be played by the cover band and she was confused that I knew it and made some jokes about it (still in a nice way) and said that she thought I only listen to The Weeknd. I told her that I actually was into rock music and knew a lot of stuff but it was so loud that she overheard me.
So this week I sent her a snap for streaks and you could see that I was listening to nirvana, which is her all time favorite band and she texted me right after it “uuui nirvana” and “nice music to study” because you could also see how I was studying.
The thing is that she might thinks that I was just listening to it because of her which isn’t true actually, but I have to admit that it completely seems like this. However to come back to the title maybe sent the snap to get a reaction from her and this could be pretty obvious and it would be even more problematic if she thought I just listen to it for her. | Crushes |
So there I was, sitting next to the closest friend I’ve had in a while a few weeks back. Incredibly close, both figuratively and literally, because we were watching a scary movie together, almost/practically cuddling. She meant a lot to me and genuinely made me happy, and I decided to hide my feelings because she already had a lot going on in her life and it didn’t feel like the right time, so I hid my feelings for her happiness.
Cut to today, where she is now one of the figuratively furthest friend I have and now gives off the impression that she wants nothing to do with me. So much changed between those few weeks. I don’t know what I did or if I didn’t do anything and it’s just one of those things, but ffs it bothers me a lot. We never do anything together, hardly talk to each other, she says she’s always (conveniently) busy even on a 3 day weekend with no homework, and she sometimes seems annoyed by me. Again, I can’t tell if it’s just how it is, maybe she actually is busy, maybe it is my fault and I’m annoying, or maybe I overthink everything.
She seems very different too, she seems a lot more bossy and loud, and not in the good way like before. She seems to be putting herself first in a lot of situations now, and she didn’t really do that before. It’s definitely started to make me think differently of her now, and at this point, her problems aren’t really an excuse anymore.
Sorry for the rant, I just wanted to talk about how I feel about the feeling rather than how I feel about her at the moment but whatever | Crushes |
Will I seem creepy complimenting the girl that sits next to me, school started 7 days | Crushes |
THIS HAPPENED LIKE NOT EVEN 20 MINUTES AGO…. They normally always call me loser, dumbass, dummy etc.
ANYWAY…
Important note: I was texting (I’m sick so voice is dead) they sent voice memos!!!
They made fun of me saying “no…I need to live so I can make you the lil origami flowers” and they said “well you look like a flower…SHIT I MEAN… bitchless loser.” And I was like “got me blushin and shii omgggg” and then they go “well your smelly like flowers, fuckin twat, wait that wasn’t an insult uuuhmm shi im off my roll here. gimmie a sec…”
And I was like “omg you have me rolling on the floor..” and they stammered “good” and it was really cute. | Crushes |
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Preferably the vibe of "I really like you and I hope we become something" | Crushes |
I feel lost.
He shared his drinks with me. He always lent me his only working earbud just so I could listen to music. He chatted with me till 3 AM nearly every night. He told me some of his darkest secrets. I told him some of mine. I vented to him. He vented to me. He told me he's afraid of losing his job. Getting addicted to drugs. That nobody will ever love him. Dying alone. Becoming the disappointment his mom says he is. I'd comfort him when he said this. He said he's never told anyone this, not even his best friend. I was the only person he trusted enough with that, supposively.
He'd try to sit close to me. He'd talk to just me on many instances. He looked at me like no one else has ever looked at me before. When I talked to him he made me feel like I was worth something. Like I was important. He'd lean close to me. He'd sneak glances. We made a playlist together. We fangirled about rappers together. We laughed together, shared stuff together, shared food together. I felt like I was finally wanted.
All my friends told me he liked me back. I've loved him for almost 4 years now.
And it's not like he's my best friend now. I've just noticed he's gotten closer. Before we just knew each other, but now it's like he's gotten closer.
And when he started acting like this.. I felt something change. For the first time in a long time, I felt something different. I haven't felt emotions in years. But I felt happy. It was so weird to feel. I woke up every morning thinking of him, instead of the cold crushing miserable fact that I woke up to see another day on this damned world.
And I've never felt happiness like this before in my life. And to think, maybe, just maybe, he likes me back? It's like a dream! But after all this, I can't help but ask myself..
Was it all in my head? Was all of this just my hormones, telling me how he likes me back when he doesn't? Or is he just trying to make me jealous?
He showed all the signs. So, so many, that it was undeniable that he liked me.
But he's mentioned loudly right in front of me how there's a hot girl in his class that simps for him. He told me 1 on 1 he'd date his best friend, my cousin, in the future if things got boring for him in life because he was afraid he'd die alone. He told me that his sisters friend is going to hook him up, and he was excited for it.
Was everything I've gone through a lie?
I told myself I wouldn't be fucking lead on. I feel like a dog. He's attractive and funny. All the girls like him, who am i kidding? It'll be so easy for him to get whoever he wants. He's a really good, diamond in the rough type of guy. There's no other guy like him, and he doesn't realize how amazing he is.
Why would he want me?
Before anyone says "he's a player" "you wouldn't want him anyways" and all that shit, no he's not. I've known him for more than 5 years. I know what type of person he is. And I'm not saying this just cause I like him; he's got a good heart and good intentions. He just doesn't realize what he did to me by telling me this.
I'm so confused and lost and defeated.
I want him to be happy. I want him to feel loved. And If I can't provide that for him, I hope Vannie does. She sounds pretty. And I heard she's nice.
He says he wanted a girl with a good personality. I thought that girl was me. But I guess it wasn't.
Everyone said that he liked me back. Everyone. Did I miss an oppurtunity? Did I fuck something up? What did I do wrong?
All I could think of was this last couple days.
Parents arguing about divorce, screaming at me for not cleaning my room, discovering my secret pphone, dad close to losing his job. It was all too much. I took some vodka out to our field and drank the whole thing, smoked a few cigarettes. I stumbled back laughing to myself, hopped onto my laptop, drunk texted him through the xbox app. About my parents being close to divorce.
He got concerned and texted me back. But it didn't feel the same.
I mean, now that I think about it, all the nights I played fortnite and late talking with him, it seemed real.
But not this time.
All the sudden he seemed cold and distant. I gave these big long rants, paragraphs and paragraphs, in my drunken state. Not cringe drunk texts, but just miserable. "Mk" "Damb. Thats rough" "I dont think it will turn out so bad" "I think he just big dramatic."
What is this? Then that was when he told me he had a story. A girl spending the night with his sister is supposedly going to hook him up. (No sex. Its a christian family like me, just go on a date i guess, talk, see how it goes.)
And at that moment I felt it all drain out of me. Like, I felt defeated. I've never felt like this before. I lost all sense of reality again, the emotion and love seeped out. I felt like my consciouse was just in an empty shell, spectating the world with a blank face. Right as I thought maybe.. just maybe, I was something different to him. Maybe I mattered after all.
i guess i didnt.
I acted happy for him, yk. Gave him the "yayy" "ohh thats great!" "thats fun!" "oh yeah how old is she? 15? sounds fun!" messages. I asked if she went to his school. He said he wished. I asked if he was excited. He was.
I knew that he was handsome and good hearted enough for any girl to fall for him. I'm generally picky. Personality wise, at least. He made me fall for him. All he has to do is develop feelings for a girl, and he's set for life. No way as hell would any girl give him up unless they were fucking stupid.
I didn't think it would hurt. I started to cry. And I cried for about 30 minutes. But then I just stopped. I couldn't let anything else out. I lie down on my bed and stared at the ceiling. It was a lie, wasn't it?
I'm only 14. He's 16. I guess he sees me as a friend. Or worse, a little kid.
I see myself like that too.
But I've gotten so much more mature, I've lost weight, bettered myself, I take care of myself and eat better. For him. What am I doing wrong? I tried to stop myself from saying all the possible "what if's?"
I'm just telling myself that it's done. He doesn't want you or else he wouldn't have told me he's hooking up.
I just feel lost and defeated and terrified of the future. I haven't gotten over him. I'm telling myself I deserve better. I'm amazing, I'm smart, I'm talented, I'm special, and I deserve so much better than any guy that will treat me like this. But every time I look at him, I fall all over again.
Even worse, I see a boy in public, a boy I know, anyone. He reminds me of *him.*
And that's a roadblock for future relationships.
I dont want to put any boy in the position where his girlfriend cant get over her old crush that doesnt even like her back, when he's right there in front of her who loves her 10x as much than the crush ever has in his whole life. Im terrified I'll hurt some lovely boy's heart all because my selfish, blind, and stupid ass cant get over something that was never meant to be.
I want him to be happy, be with someone who makes him feel loved. And if its her, I hope it works out. He grew up in a rough family like me. And at least now I know you are finally going to be feeling that happiness you needed in a potential girlfriend.
Even if it's not me. | Crushes |
oh my god i wish this was a joke. he responded to my story about narcan, and i made a silly d34th joke with it. then bam, 24/7 talking.
i think the world is against me, he lives in the town i literally moved 1600 miles from.
but hes so amazing. i feel dumb falling for a dude i met a week ago but i dont see how i cant. maybe the bar is on the floor but ive never had someone be so... great to me. he replies fast, holds and starts conversations, asks me about my day, listens. he compliments me, genuine compliments. not sexualized ones. actual. compliments. hes so sweet, nice, great, amazing, awesome, cool. we have the same zodiac sign, he loves all the same shows, movies, and books as me. hes so beautiful, not even in looks but all together as a person soso beautiful. some more shallow things- he knows grammar, hes really fucking attractive, he actually reads.
ranting about him makes me happy, it doesnt make me want to cry. thinking about him brings me a genuine joy i havent felt in years.
weve talked about it, and hes expressed he feels the same way. i dont want to rush into it. i recently got out of a rough relationship, but i see this possibly going somewhere in the future. it wouldnt be a complete online relationshi, because i have family back there i have to visit. and im saving up money to get my own place. not saying we would live together, but who knows what will happen!!
ahhh i really like this man. | Crushes |
She said “love you goodnight”. W tbh. | Crushes |
Ppl of redit I have a crush on this girl who has a crush on a different boy. She always comes crying to me cuz he hurts her in some way. And I warn her abt him being a bad person and just using her for her body but she still going back to him. What do I do? | Crushes |
I've known this girl for like 8 months now and she's become my friend. The problem is I developed feelings for her and I don't even know how, it just happened.
I am 99.9% sure she doesn't like me back and that she knows I like her, but I gotta tell her I like her because talking to her everyday is killing me and the pain of imagining things that will never happen between the two of us is to much.
So essentially I'm gonna tell her that I like her, but because of that I can't see her anymore because of what I just said above. I'm going to tell her on Tuesday after her final exam.
You may say to me just stop talking to her right away, cut her off. The thing is, I am uncapable of doing that without giving her a reason, I just need to do this for me, to get closure, wish me luck. | Crushes |
Last year I found out my ex has pulmonary cancer. When I found out, i was together with a guy that wouldnt allow me to text him because he considered that cheating, even though he had a bad form of cancer. Thing is, even tho we were together and broke up at one point, he helped me a lot and I considered him my brother. Now its 1 year later, I broke up wjth the control freak and now I dont really know what to do. He's kind of in the final stage of cancer and I wouldnt be able to live with myself if i knew he died and i didnt get to thank him for changing my life, we went through so much shit together. Im really not sure what to do, but I'm having a mental breakdown and I just need to get this off my chest. My palms are sweating so bad if i even try to imagine what would happen if i went see him in the city he is in rn. | Crushes |
Hey all ! I'm sad because my crush was so nice to me in the past - he would react to my instagram stories, he once reacted with a 100 emoji to my selfie, it really seemed like he cared. But this year we got into an argument over text. After the argument, nothing was the same. Even though, i apologized....Even tho i didn't do anything wrong. After the argument he said, 'it's all good' and I said 'u sure ? ' and he said 'yes' but he didn't mean that. Because he started ignoring my attempts to talk to him. It hurt so much. We are coworkers. Sometimes he would just randomly make up rules like 'i don't want to talk about work outside of work hours.' we are coworkers. Once he was like 'no personal discussion.' We were friends for like 3 years!!!! I swear!!!! He threw me out like garbage. I guess he was done with me. | Crushes |
hello!! so me (20) and my ex (23) broke up because he was being too friendly with this girl (20) & we used to argue all the time because of her. She was literally the girl he told me to not worry about
the thing is one week later after we broke up she started following my socials, and commenting my stuff being really nice. She even comments my selfies, bought the same earrings as mine. I followed back and started being nice too. I feel bad being nice suddenly because i used to dislike her but i don’t dislike her anymore since i don’t fw with my ex anymore.
since me and him broke up i realized they aren’t close as they used to be like i get so confused. Sometimes i wonder if he was flirting with us both at the same time or if he did the same to her and now she relates to me?? i don’t think he would be able to cheat but i’m so confused. | Crushes |
I was rejected. He said he liked me as a friend but the problem isn’t that it’s that he acted like he was interested. It’s just hurtful honestly i’m really sad cuz he’s EXACTLY my type so um…idk. | Crushes |
Just discovered the term Alterous attraction and I think it may describe the 'crush' I have. Has anyone else come across this or felt this before? | Crushes |
It’s such a roller coaster ride. High highs and low lows. Whenever im around him it feels like I’m in heaven. It’s almost euphoric. He makes me so happy and just seeing him is enough to make me go insane. But the minute he leaves I am sad and thinking about how I wish I could tell him how I feel. We have a great friendship which I value and I don’t want to ruin it by confessing my feelings. But holding all this end is literally destroying me. I have to pretend that I’m not dying internally every time that I see him. Every second of my day is thinking of him. I can’t even go 10 minutes without him popping into my brain. Sometimes I feel like it wouldve been better if I’ve never met him at all. He’s just so amazing and I love him so much. But I’m not sure if he’s into guys and I don’t want to make a fool out of myself. Sigh why did I have to meet him it’s so painful. | Crushes |
I (f15) have liked this guy (m16) for months. it’s almost embarrassing at this point.
I’ve usually been able to get over somebody fairly easily and quickly. But this has been different. it’s been months, even approaching a year. and the feelings have only gotten stronger.
It started when i was dating someone else, i know i’m terrible, but i broke it off with them the moment i realized i kind of was interested in this other guy. Ex came out after, so i guess it worked out fine but but that’s not really the point of this post.
I kind of ignored it for a few months then we went on this like trip thing together with our families. and that’s what did me in. we talked for HOURS about everything and anything. And then summer came around and we saw each other a few times and talked but not like we did.
My mom made a comment in July that he kept looking at me and such and that kind of like, idk, made me assume he liked me as well?? I never did anything about it but it became the most obsessive crushing i’ve ever experienced.
He’s actually just perfect. and i think it’s because i don’t know him well enough to see any flaws. but i don’t think i ever could, seriously.
The issue is he is SO far out of my league. Like more than i can express. He’s an actual angel. And i would love to confess but I don’t think i could ever recover from that rejection. I don’t know what to do anymore. | Crushes |
I flirted heavy with my crush and then I said “you should text me” she said text you? I said yes I challenge you, she “said you challenged me”? But guys I didn’t give her my number 🤦♂️ but I did once in a email.
What are my odds guys?? That she’s going to text me? | Crushes |
I always had crush on bad boy kind of guys,now why did I fell for this super nerd with this big glasses mysterious personality and all that.I’m really shocked myself why did I? | Crushes |
I kind of have a crush on one of my best friend and I’ve been telling her to leave her boyfriend because he is toxic (he is) and she did leave him, but I feel like if I told her I like her I feel like she would think I did everything I did to get with her, when that’s not it I just after time caught feelings, I vented to her yesterday saying no one is ever gunna love me and she said trust me they will. I then told her what I’m getting at is I have this girl I like and I feel like she won’t like me and blu blu blu we talked for a bit and In the end she had no idea I meant her 🥺🥺 | Crushes |
I finally asked the girl I like out in my class after two months of crushing on her, but she didn’t see my message until later in the day. She apologized she didn’t see it earlier and I told her we’ll do it next time, she said yes.
Should I still go for it? I mean, she said yes though. | Crushes |
Okay, so...
I've been trying to get over my friend for a while now and I've been talking to this guy and we've sent some pictures to each other (not nudes, just things like 😏 clothes I've bought and whatever else)
anyway, I recently bought fishnet tights and wanted to show them off to this guy so I took a picture in my bra with the fishnets and jeans on (it was a lacy sort of see through bra). It was all fine and I was waiting for a response when I got a snapchat notification saying my crush replayed a snap. I was confused since I hadn't sent him anything and yep. you guessed it.
Somehow I'd sent the picture to him instead of the guy 🙈
he ends up replying with a pic of his shocked and confused face and I was immediately texted him and kept apologising saying it wasn't meant for him and that I'm so sorry he had to see that.
I need up facetiming my friend and she ended up messaging him just telling him that I was freaking out and he needed to like calm me down or whatever. He ended up texting back saying how it was all good and i didn't need to worry and it wasn't even a bad photo.
Anyway it's all sorted now and its not awkward at all. I'm just cringing at how stupid I can be to send the picture to not only the wrong guy, but MY FRIEND WHO I HAVE A CRUSH ON. | Crushes |
Last friday when we worked together we talked all the way through and laughed alot. Today we didn't say anything. I'm too big of a pussy to go talk to her but I'm not sure if she isnt trying or if it is because we weren't really crossing paths today. I wanted to confess last Monday, she wasn't there. Last Friday I couldn't get myself to go for it and today I didn't feel right about it. This is also because she has another friend at work she knew before me, and everytime he is there she always just talks to him and I feel ignored. I can tell there is no romance between them but the fact that he is more of importance to her than I am makes me feel like I have no chance. I have no clue what to do now and I feel hopeless about it all.
I shouldn't be this sad because I am doing good in money, my family loves me, I have great friends. Yet this one part of me wants this so bad and now I can't be happy. I'm not sure if I'm just being spoiled and that I want everything, or if this genuinely is something important for me. All I know is that I feel shit at the moment | Crushes |
Is it weird to ask to date someone you see often but never talk to? For context, both knows each other just to the point of acquaintances. | Crushes |
update with the shy girl
finally after 20 days of chatting I was able to see her,on Friday I drove her home, so I only saw her for 5 minutes (inside the car) in chat before picking her up she had told me "I will be embarrassed," as soon as she got into the car in fact she spoke very little so I had to talk and I could see she was laughing a lot.
this Saturday and Sunday however in chat I saw her cold, she told me that she is someone who always organizes everything and studies a lot, in fact this week she had important tests at school. Do you think it's normal that we really messaged very little this weekend? | Crushes |
So I asked they guy I liked to get lunch together. He said yes and I would say we had a great time talking to each other. The problem is that one of our friends saw us and was like, “are you guys on a date?” My crush got visibly flustered and afterwards he was like, “uggh why did he have to ask that,” and the whole “I’m not ready for dating” spiel (I think mainly because of his academics). In the end, our meeting was officially classified as a “la cita.” Was this just ‘cause he was embarrassed, or was this his way of letting me down? Or do you think that school is just too much, and when it calms down he’d be interested? Idk what to think. Also a bit confused on whether he just sees me as a friend or not. Regardless, I’m probably just going to try to take it slow, and slowly get closer to him over time.
He’s 19 and I’m 18 btw | Crushes |
She came out as a lesbian but I have a huge crush on her and we have tons in common. How do I move on? | Crushes |
So I’ve been talking to this guy for a while and it’s clear we both like each other. Some background when we first started talking he was really into me even saying if I keep kissing him I’m gonna fall in love and suddenly he got kinda distant. We stayed talking and still hooked up for a bit but it wasn’t the same as it was originally. I also know that he was not seriously talking to anyone else during that time so it’s not because he met someone else.
To fast forward we hung out one day and got to talking about real stuff and not just flirting and after that day I would say we formed a genuine friendship. Recently we have been talking nonstop throughout the day, playing video games together, and it’s quite obvious that he has feelings again and I do as well.
Well today He went completely cold and got mad at me that I told him I care about him being depressed because he’s my friend. He told me it’s not my problem and that he doesn’t care about anyone else so I shouldn’t care about him.
Can anyone please help me understand why someone would switch up like that and treat someone they clearly like so poorly? | Crushes |
Why did my crush unfollow me when i dyed my hair but after few months he viewed my story (my insta acc is public) | Crushes |
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Dunno if this is the right place for this but yeah, I'm a male 25 yrs old with a longtime female friend, cue intrinsic guy nature and yeah, feelings on my end (romantic interest) are bounding.
This is far from the first time, and a Relationship isn't an option: polar opposite personalities, wildly conflicting career, lifestyle and religious differences, plus, pointless personal drama, us being in terrible spots for relationships and she's never been remotely interested me in the first place (I'm genuinely not her type, and that's more then ok).
Granted, she's not my type either but "feelings" don't seem to care much do they.
So, what should I do? We are both good friends who really enjoy each others company and have a ton of mutuals. And this is one of those situations where actually DON'T feel much for her when we are together, then, she just feels like a friend, it's just the before and AFTER when feelings like to do their creeping.
As far I have personally come up with, have two feasible approaches before me right now: the **"take a break and make distance for a little while"** approach, and the **"Face my feelings head on"** approach (Basically, get closer as "bros", feelings will fade). Both I have used on and off to... mixed effect... over the last decade.
Both surprisingly both work well enough for me, but with some serious drawbacks (making distance strains the friendship, "facing the feelings" either works perfectly or catastrophically fails with no inbetween)
Now, obviously I can't explain the entire nuanced history of an incredibly nuanced friendship between two (insufferably) nuanced people, the but the whole "confess love and get it over with" approach won't work. I've done that before, that left a nasty mark on our friendship (She's one of those who has never had a guy friend NOT be interested in her before, cue emotional distress and so on). And as every guy knows, you give feels and inch, they take a mile, so things would get really intense for me real fast.
And also, simply getting with a different girl would be sub-optimal too, since as I mentioned before, I am REALLY not in a good spot in life to be in a relationship, plus, in my circle/area, options are just nonexistent at this point (trust me, I've tried.)
So reddit, I must ask: What is the best thing to do here? If I fully catch feelings, then it's gonna be years of lovesickness for me and a strained-ass friendship, and that's already happened before. If I just distance myself and hope the creeping feelings go away... well... I end up screwing a great friendship anyways, which I have ALSO done before..
Again, we are genuinely good friends who genuinely enjoy each other's company, so I don't WANT to strain/break things off. But, having thought through this extensively before heading to reddit (*shudder*) I am really at a loss on what to do next.
TLDR: Starting to catch feelings for a longtime female friend as I do periodically, inbetween a rock and a hard place where no good can come out of it, with limited options anyways. I really don't want to break off the friendship. What should I do? | Crushes |
So I was at this Christmas parade and she was in the parade for our school and I saw her it was nice but we didn't talk but I'm 99% sure she saw me I was at the front and I'm 6,3 at least so I'm hard to recognize | Crushes |
So I met up with this guy from tinder, we both aren’t looking for anything specific just playing around and see what happens.
So I get to his place, things are good, he’s saying my name a lot while talking, we hangout, do some stuff aha, hang out some more. Then I call my Uber, as he walks me outside he hugs and kisses me good bye told me he had fun and tells me to let him know when I’m home.
(Note during activities he told me I was a good kisser, said I gave the best head he’s ever had and said something like “next time it’s your turn” like after I was done)
I texted him and said that I was a bit shy at first and sorry if I was awkward and he said I wasn’t awkward and he he had fun, to which I replied I had fun too.
The next day I’m waiting and waiting for a reply, and finally I get one, but it’s him asking me if I could do a favour and get a vape for him since I’m of age, I tell him sorry it’s out of my way and he says it’s okay and not to worry about it.
I tell him that I had fun and Id like to see him again, to which he replied “y’a I’d be down” (I haven’t replied yet).
I really wanna get to know this guy and don’t wanna screw things up, what should I say to like be interested but not too clingy?
Like this guy is so so nice and funny, like ugh I really wanna like have him give me a shot. Just the slow replying really throws me off about if he’s interested or not :/
TLDR: guy replied back to me saying he is down to hang out again and I don’t know how to reply without sounding clingy/ coming off too strong | Crushes |
We knew each other several years before I developed the crush. I've had several crushes before, and not once did I cry for them. The only girl I cried over was my ex from middle school, who I only cried over for maybe a few days.
For my friend tho, I cried for months, 8 months I believe. I've had several crushes before, so what's different about this one?
Btw, I'm 19M, and she's 18F. | Crushes |
There a dude lol who keeps looking at me... figured it out a few weeks ago. It not just like a regular looks yk...it was a " want you to notice me kinda looks". His friends sometimes do it to my friends to but ofc they are telling me “he might like me”🥴Keep ignoring it and was kinda scared. I figured why not give him the looks to for fun yk. Now I think I'm falling for the dude and I don't want to but kinda want too. Idk and I don't wanna take his "signals" as a wrong sign. | Crushes |
you know it's funny i had thought i'd spend the days leading up to my birthday and my birthday. being sad my Ex wouldn't be there. but instead, i've spent them contemplating inviting my Crush than thinking about it'll go seeing him for the first time. huge improvement if you ask me. i will say though its become a bit complicated. I'm no longer sure what I should call him anymore. I don't want to just call him my friend, cause he's so much more than that to me. but i can't call him my boyfriend either cause we aren't dating. It's funny though because a part of me is pretty sure he's realized I like him by now, I'm not that suddle. Though he's mentioned he's probably on the autism spectrum in the same way I think I am. so it's also quite possible he's completely oblivious too. I just hope that if it turns out I was right from the beginning that he doesn't like me that way. things don't get completely ruined when he does find out. but i'm starting to feel like he could genuinely like me. Last night he took the time to record himself playing piano just for me. I hadn't even asked him to do that. I don't think there's really a platonic explanation for that. but i don't want to do anything till i see him face to face atleast once. i feel like that'll make everything clearer. today is almost over. i only have one more day till i see his face. | Crushes |
My crush is very handsome and extremely smart, any woman could see why he’s a catch. I want to seal the deal with him eventual (a commitment relationship) but I get so shy at the idea of texting him. Mind you, we’ve been on multiple dates and have even done “other things”. He’s very busy so I don’t want to feel like a bother to him but we still do have a romantic friendship at the moment, I’m just so scared of fucking it up. How do I talk to him casually without getting too nervous ? | Crushes |
It is time. I will start complimenting him and seeing how tf he reacts. Im honestly done with waiting around. For the past week ive been thinking about him and missing his voice and smile like crazy. If he doesn't show signs of liking me back at least I can move on. | Crushes |
Not sure why i was expecting something different | Crushes |
English is not my first language so if there are some mistakes i’m sorry.
So First post ever on Reddit but hey lets go.
I have a major crush on this girl from work but only see her once a week because we both are students and word different evenings.
When we are ‘working’ we talk a lot and like to keep in close distance while we are doing our work things.
She agreed to having drinks like a week back but it didn’t come to those yet.
And this week i heard she is back with her ex, it has been on-off with her and her ex for say like a half year.
Do i still take her out for drinks?
And does it mean that i can go forward even tho she is in a relationship? | Crushes |
hi, i'll just keep this short. i'll use these guys' real names too because im 87% sure they don't use reddit. i like these two guys karsten and joel, and i'm pretty sure they like me too, but i don't want to confront them and ask. i'm a) having trouble telling if they like me or not, and b) want one of them to ask me to my school's winter dance
so joel is a goofy guy and kind of rambunctious, he's stared at me in classes before, and he is physical w/ me. one time, we were sitting against a wall when i was falling asleep, and he kind of leaned in. but he's physical with everyone so idrk.
karsten is kind of quiet, but he seems to genuinely feel more comfortable around me and likes to talk to me. he also rizzes me up in the most gentle way, i get soo butterflies. i've known karsten for 8 months? and joel for a bit over a year, so i dunno if either likes me or if either have the balls to ask me out. any advice or opinions? | Crushes |
I'm tired.
I had an awful crush experience a few months back. I really don't want to talk about it (nobody got hurt except my feelings). All i can tell is that i had high hopes, only to see them crushed. I was crushed. I moved on, but the memory lingers. Always here to remind me of my past failures.
Recently I've developed a crush on another girl. She's actually one of my close friends, we're pretty similar and I really like her. A few weeks ago, we used to talk daily and basically all day together, about anything and anyone. It was awesome. But then all of a sudden, it just stopped. No more messages. No nothing. We'd still talk together IRL, but when we talked on Instagram it was always I who initiated the conversation. That, and the fact that she has (or at least has very high chances) a crush on another guy who i personally don't even like as a person. Why does everything goes wrong when I started getting attached to someone? I'm just feeling awful about myself right now. It hurts. | Crushes |
Idk, I think it would be fun. She already shared her wrapped up 2022 with me, sooo... Why not? | Crushes |
have been friends w crush for a while now, there's some chemistry plus lots of banter exists,
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BUT red flags are that - they've size shamed me earlier, a friend has expressed interest in them (though this came much after I realised how heavy my crush was on them), and and and they've been v touchy feely w me \[context being in their house party, when both are tipsy, lots of intimate moments but no verbal expression of interest???\]
My friends have all expressed that I really should get on with life and beyond this but I somehow keep looking forward to their texts, thinking that maybeee it can be reciprocated...not sure if this is a "I can fix them!" moment but it sure as hell is pls ruin me...
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TLDR: crush has some 🚩 flags, trying to figure how to get this over with :( | Crushes |
Literally all I did was screenshot a pic of his profile to send to my sister (she thinks my crush is ugly but that's beside the point) and I didn't even think about it so I just changed my name to my sister's name and now I'm crying so..... yeah. I haven't got a message from him yet so ig thats a good sign. If he asks I'm gonna tell him my sister has access to my snapchat and that she didn't know who he was so she took a screenshot of his profile. Crying, puking, dying, ect. | Crushes |
For context: We've known about each others existence for a couple years but now I caught feelings for her.
We aren't friends but I'd say she enjoys being around me. It's always fun talking and she laughs about my jokes but she's rarely ever initiating the conversation.
I want to get closer to her but I'm afraid I'll get friendzoned if I stay too passive.
But if I ask her out directly things might get weird between us. | Crushes |
So ive liked this girl for a couple months and ive really developed a really strong bond with her, but i dont know how i should go about it
- A text is the easier and safer way to go about it, but a lot of things can be misinterpreted over text
- In real life feels a lot more sincere, but id have to find a perfect time where im speaking to her just so i can slide the question in naturally, | Crushes |
I want to ask her how she's doing and incite some conversation, any good ways of doing so that aren't too forward and obvious so that if she's not interested in me that way I'm covered. | Crushes |
So a couple of months ago I had an idea of how to ask my crush out. I would write letters with puzzles and ciphers at the end anonymously. I would pass the notes through one of her friends, so she wouldn't see me lay it on her desk. It went really well and she was liking the letters. Finally I sent the final letter and confessed my feelings for her. She sent me back a letter which (paraphrasing) said, "Don't take this as a rejection, but no." I've been formulating new ideas and me and some of my friends are gonna film a sketch in which i ask her out to our school's winter dance. I might include the link here after we film it. Idk what this was supposed to be. I guess maybe i wanted advice. It's hard talking to her, because I have a slight stutter, and of course it flares up to 11 when she's around. She's just so pretty, nice, and smart.
TL;DR wrote letters to my crush, got rejected but also not idk | Crushes |
My crush is my shift lead at my restaurant job. He's my age, and we liked each other before he got promoted. But as shift lead, either he or one of the other leads has to count registers at the end of the cashier's shift. So he counted my till, and he said "you're perfect".
I know he might've been talking about the till, but it still makes me gush all over. I don't know if he likes me or not, but I know he thinks I'm really pretty. He's indicated as such before. I see him do the eyebrow flash sometimes at me. One time he asked me if work had been slow. I told him yes, and he said "really? So you've just been hanging out here looking pretty the whole time?" So yeah, he thinks I'm good looking. | Crushes |
I know that we subconsciously do things that give away we like someone but I try my best to cover the fact that I like him. I don’t try to be flirty with him or anything.
Anyways yesterday I didn’t get to see my crush before he left and I wanted to tell him something. And I know I won’t be seeing him for at least another week so I texted our mutual friend if he had his number. He told me that he didn’t but that my crush told him one day that he wanted to ask me for my number but he never got a chance to.
This was the rest of our convo:
Him (mutual friend): “you both are so cute together tbh” .
Me: “wait what ?”
Him: “oh nothing don’t listen to me I’m just talking nonsense lol”.
Him: “but honestly I can tell you both have chemistry, I can see it”
Anyways, that means there has been at least two instances were the mutual friend of ours mentioned that my crush was either asking for my number or social media. So that means they have been talking about me right? so do you think my crush said something about me to our friend or do you think the mutual friend notices that I may like him. Or both? Or maybe he genuinely just thinks we are compatible?
I think the mutual friend talks more to him than me. And never have I expressed to him that I’m into my crush (he never has came up in convo before this). And honestly I’m not around both of them that often for him to notice how I am around my crush but maybe it is enough for him to know. | Crushes |
My dad has always LOVED the movie A Christmas Story, ever since he was a kid. So, ever since I was a kid, we watch it at least 15 times throughout the month of December. And.. when I was little.. I had a major crush on Flick (Ralphie's best friend)💀
I guess I have a type for the always-getting-picked-on-can't-stand-up-for-themselves type, because my catalog of fictional crushes also includes the ever-so-desirable Fletcher from ANT Farm, Johnny from The Outsiders and Greg from Diary of a Wimpy Kid (sos) | Crushes |
I'm 15 and havent had my first kiss yet, and all of my friends teese me about it like its something bad. | Crushes |
Hey all, this is my first post in a while, but you can check my profile for TL;DR’s of what’s happened so far.
Anyway, we’re going to *hopefully* hang out next weekend and have dinner with some friends (we were supposed to have done it 2 weeks ago, but he got sick. He said he really wanted to meet my friends, though!), so we’ll be together for a little bit at a friends house. I want to make subtle, not-so-subtle hints, but I also don’t want to make him uncomfortable if he’s not gay. Any ways for me to be more flirty, touchy, or anything else that isn’t too over-the-top would be greatly appreciated, and if any more info. is needed, I’ll gladly deliver. Thanks! | Crushes |
When I was still in school I had a vo tech class my first year I met someone his name was douge I miss him to this day still he was understanding and we we’re friends I liked him for being understanding with me in the kitchen and not in the kitchen me and him would talk if we got the chance to he helped me a lot doing cooking assignments cause I was scared to mess things up and fail he reassured me that everything was ok taught me how to do measurements for cups if I didn’t have the required cups when it was parents come watch their kids in action day our parents came and the chef was out he was a senior in hs and I was a junior when he wasn’t there I would get sad but I wish I still had contact with him to this day his ex gf cheated on him that’s what I heard from his friend we went to different school
Also here’s the conclusion from when the bus driver broke my foot I wasn’t able to find my pictures of my foot injured so I can’t go ahead with the lawsuit but he’s gonna get something coming to him in a minute | Crushes |
I have yet another update lmao, we’re going to get brunch together today and then we’re gonna hangout at my house after, I’m very nervous, but also very excited, nervixcited if you will.
Anyway, wish me luck🫡 | Crushes |
I always get put off when others are there | Crushes |
I texted a guy regarding asking him how I could return the favour (because I previously owed him a favour imo) and buy him lunch.
1. Is this considered asking him out in the guy’s pov? (I intended it to be so, but I’m not too sure whether it would be interpreted in that way)
2. I’m not too sure if he is even interested in having lunch though, could someone help me interpret he’s response?
- I wrote him a written note asking him if I could return the favour by buying lunch, he didn’t really text back a reply saying whether he wanted lunch or not
- I texted a few days later “ohh wait I’m j curiousss thoo, did u actually see the tiny paper! HAHHAH 💀” and he replied “yea i did, thanks so much for the … and the note!☺️”
- I kinda said that it would be nice if we could have the lunch after our national examination has ended, so naturally, a few days after the papers, I asked “heyy … HAHHA I was wondering if I could stilll likeee, buy u lunch? HAHHA I mean, if u still wanna!” and he replied “yea sure, maybe when i come back from …”
[from he’s somewhat lackluster response, and how he didn’t exactly initiate / ask about the lunch, does that mean that he may not be so interested in it?] | Crushes |
Silly thing to worry about, I know, but I'll explain towards the end why I'm insecure.
So I was 16 and she was 15 when we met. She just moved schools and she was new, and I greeted her with a smile with my hair in a half-ponytail (she remembered that detail), which she liked. We were on the same bus and she would try to talk to me often on the way home. One day, she found my Instagram, and she started texting me, saying she liked Led Zeppelin too and how it was cool I liked classic rock as well. She also soon discovered I played guitar, and I shared some videos of me playing. Pretty quickly, she developed a crush on me. She would often laugh at things I said (I didn't make too many jokes), always ask what I was smiling about (I just smile often), and very often asked if she could touch my hair. And she called me cute very often, which I found a bit annoying tbh, but I was a silly teen back then.
One day, we organised a hang out since we lived so close. It was more fun than I expected. We just talked about anything. I imagine she was pretty happy to hang out with me one-on-one due to her crush. At some point, we talked about music since we both liked the same type of music, and I started singing and humming some AC/DC while banging my head and doing the Chuck Berry/Angus Young duck walk, and she laughed, calling me a free soul.
I also liked to relay fun facts about stuff I'm interested, like old ocean liners, palaeontology, evolution, stuff like that. She thought it was cool when I identified which era a ship was from in geography class, which was unnecessary of me but I often liked to do that in class (and luckily none of my teachers objected to that, they even praised it sometimes). She enjoyed listening to me relay these facts I had sometimes. I wouldn't necessarily say I'm smart, I just take interest in certain things and research about them, memorise the stuff, but she however thought I was smart.
Some time later, she confessed, and I told her I was flattered but I didn't feel the same way. She seemed to take it well and we remained friends. It seemed that her crush on me continued for many months after, until some time after quarantine ended for us in 2020 (either slightly before or after finals, not too sure, never asked). She still called me cute very often, asked for guitar videos often, and apparently she still gushed about me to other ppl, saying stuff like "ugh he's such a cool guitarist. He's so cool," type of stuff. She somehow continued to crush on me despite the autistic meltdowns and outbursts that she witnessed. Then again, she's experienced panic attacks in her life, so she must've been able to empathise.
So yeah, she liked me because, according to her at the time, I was cute, sweet, friendly, had beautiful long hair, good at guitar, a rocker, funny, smart, a 'free soul' who didn't feel afraid to show how much he's enjoying his music, and probably some other things I can't remember. Great compliments if you ask me. I still remember the way she looked at me and the way she spoke when she talked about what she liked about me.
So why am I insecure? Pretty silly of me to be insecure now that it think about it. Well, the insecurity stems from the fact that one day, about 2 years later, slowly but steadily, I fell for her, but she no longer felt anything for me. Due to the pain of rejection, I became massively insecure and deeply unconfident.
I told myself that her crush on me "wasn't valid" or something silly like that. Thinking about the crush she had made me think about how superficial it felt. Felt like in terms of romantic lovability, there couldn't be anything deeper about me than a simple high school crush, and that a deeper romantic love towards me wouldn't be possible. Sure, our friendship deepened, but the heartbreak made me irrational, made me think about the wrong things. I felt unloveable. Felt like she lost feelings for me because I can only be romantically interesting as a superficial crush. She crushed on me because she found me cool tho she barely knew me, I fell for her because of the love, trust, appreciation and care that built over the years. I really loved her as a friend, I cared for her, and although we did talk a little less at some point, I always enjoyed her company. I really wished she would truly be in love with me, but she never was. I felt hurt, my ego and confidence was bruised, and I couldn't imagine someone being in love with me for who I was. Whether or not I was wrong, I told myself that she never truly liked me for me. Might be stupid tbh, but I wasn't able to think straight anymore.
She still considers me a very important friend, and has said multiple times how much she loves me. I still remember her telling me how much she loved me when I was giving her emotional support because her parents were being unnecessarily mean. I remember telling her how I saw her, and her saying she wanted to cry because she was touched. I remember going to bed that morning (yes, I stayed up until like 7am) telling myself to make sure to move on, despite the heavy feeling in my heart at the time.
I feel so stupid for falling for her because of how much I liked her as a friend. I couldn't pinpoint why I liked her, just that I rlly appreciated her and cared about her, and I would drop whatever I was doing to be there for her. How her happiness meant the world to me, and my world felt dark when she was in pain.
The suffering of my friends always pained me very much, but I honestly wish I was there for them more. Tbh, I wish I was there for all my friends more often, so I'm trying to improve that now.
I might've gotten carried away at the end there, but I'm just here to rant. Yeah, honestly, writing this, I felt stupid for being insecure, but I'm not really rational. If you read this far, thanks for caring enough to read this whole textbook-sized post lmao.
Take care everyone <3 | Crushes |
I dreamed that he gave me the biggest hug ever. He held me for ages and ages and was kissing the top of my head.
Then he left forever.
Oof.
🤗🙃😭 | Crushes |
And I’ll do it tomorrow. We had a fantastic time at the party Friday, and he kinda said he would like to spend more time with me and get to know me better (something like “I am waiting for/looking forward to dinner at yours with the family” in this jokey way in front of me and my sister)
Here is the [full list of signs](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/zbdaxn/all_the_events_from_last_night/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf) from that day, btw.
Soooo yeah, until I get the courage to do that, I want to shoot my shot over text and ask him out for casual lunch or something after an extracurricular that day.
Pretty sure I won’t get a no unless he genuinely doesn’t have time, but I’m so nervousssss oh god. I miss him so much and I can’t stop thinking about everything that happened between us 😭😭😭 wish me luck because I need it | Crushes |
We are gunna call him J, now let me explain why i lost feelings for him. J is a cool guy we play the same instrument and we get along, but he’s rlly quite and akward. When I say jokes everyone else laughs but he just says or does the “tsss” sound??? Idk if that’s laughing in his universe but uh go for it? He also just, idk he seems so nice and kind but then again he’s a guy. Now I’m straight I don’t feel romanticly attracted to girls but guys at my school are like, dumb. One guy in my class smashed a guys head into a locker for shits and giggles. J drank a random bottle he found on the ground as a dare and he threw up in the middle of class. Uhhhhhhh.. yeah ig u can see why I kinda lost feelings for him. HES ALSO A DRY TEXTERNSNSNAKSNDNAKDNAKSJA | Crushes |
I tested negative for covid finally | Crushes |
I been talking to this girl that I like, she knows I like her but I don't know if she likes me back. Whenever I think of her it just makes me sad that we're not as close as I wanna be. What do I do? | Crushes |
Like 9 times out of 10, im always the one texting her first. She has texted me a couple times first like to wish me a happy birthday, but she's never sent a casual message like "Hey what's up?". It's almost always me doing it first. I've been texting her a bit less the past few weeks to see if she'd send the first message but so far, nothing. I still am unsure if she likes me but I do assume she at leasts thinks of me as a good/close friend since we talk in person relatively often and have hung out multiple times both with and without friends. Be honest am I just being paranoid? | Crushes |
So, I and he met on dating apps recently and we bring the conversation to another place which is discord. So we often chatting each other and he once call me yesterday for the first time. I will list out the things he often does here:
1. He always initiates the conversation by texting first and saying good morning.
2. However, he likes to sulk with me and he admits once before that he wants my attention.
3. He often asks what I’m doing and if I'm eating already or not. Like, he will make sure. Stuff like that.
4. He gives aggressive care since he saw as distant and dry in conversation recently.
5. He asks me to call him because he wants me to company him while he is driving which is weird.
6. But, he often goes and disappears especially when’s finishes his work/doing other stuff.
7. He admits that he is attracted to me because I’m attractive (I doubt that)
8. He did ask if I want to meet him in real life.
I really hope for yall advice since im super confuses rn. | Crushes |
There’s this guy in my class I really like but i’m too scared to ask him out. I’m worried i’ll make things awkward if I get rejected because I know we’ll probably have the same classes together next semester (we have the same major). We don’t really know each other that well, we’ve spoken to each other 3 or 4 times, we’re just barely acquaintances really. Would asking him out through instagram DM’s be weird/off putting? Is there a way to ask him out that doesn’t seem creepy or weird coming from someone that he doesn’t really know that much? | Crushes |
So, first time posting here...
I have a huge crush on a girl for about 1 year and last month we talked about the Mario movie that is coming out next year. Without saying it directly, I invited her lying that my phone operator is going to give me 2 tickets for the price of 1 and that my sister doesnt want to go with me.
Last friday (when the new trailer dropped) she talked about it again and now Im freaking out because this might be my last chance to get in touch.
The movie is coming in March from where I live and I dont know how I can make this "deal" live. | Crushes |
How do you feel when you have a crush? Is it extremely exciting like we see on TV and in novels?
Note: For people over 20, do you still crush on people easily, or does it get less the older you get? I am 22F if that changes anything. | Crushes |
I can literally ask any question I want and he’ll answer or send as many text as I want and he’ll answer but he won’t do the same or he’ll keep the conversation short. I think it’s because he’s introverted but then again I’m just dying over here | Crushes |
For a little context, me and my crush don't know a lot about each other yet and we started texting a few days ago. The class we share (only one) already has ended, which means I won't be able to see them again. Is it weird if I ask them to meet me up at school to study, even though we don't share any classes anymore, since finals week is coming up? | Crushes |
we were hanging out at the park and before i left he scooped me up in his arms and asked me :)
he looked like he wanted to kiss me but i’m not going to yet bc i don’t want things to go too quickly | Crushes |
he also hangs out with this kid that bullied me in middle school and got the entire middle school population against me🥲 they’re a huge group and he’s the nicest out of the entire group.
like this one time, me and my homegirl was chillin by the stairs and he came by to get his things and he was like “oh my bad y’all i needed to get my backpack my bad” and he was being overly apologetic like ahhhh🤭
i’ve had feelings for him since freshman year, but i was never fond of those feelings. i would just think about him a lot on a daily basis, but now i do have those feelings.
y’all he’s a curly head and he’s athletic, he’s out of my league but i want to talk to him IDK WHAT TO DO MAN 🥲 | Crushes |
If you were unlucky enough, how did you find out your crush was dating someone else? Mine is a long story but when I finally asked her out, she had just started dating someone at her college the DAY before I asked. | Crushes |
So me and my crush went out and it was akward, and she said she was going home. After that she barely talks to me, sends me one word responses or takes days to respond. Idk if I should just give up on her and move on or what? Also whenever we talked on discord while playing games things weren’t akward at all. | Crushes |
Soooooooooo uhhhhhh.. just a month ago, my crushs friends just told me.. she apparently likes me back? I was shocked, no comment, just said ok. I was so embarrassed, when I knew that, everytime We both see each other, she says “oh my gosh” and covers her face and runs. I too was embarrassed, I've known her for 2 years, one of my closest friends, just this year I've realized ive liked her. Then, after a few weeks, and present day, she doesnt seem embarrased anymore, she talks to me normally, she plays with me normally, and if we see each other, she doesnt hide her face and run. She says Hi, and bully me the same way she bullys me before hey said she liked me. Bullys mein a friendly way though. I just have one question, Does she still like me? | Crushes |
My Crush is so pretty, shes smart, and I have a lot of problems with her, 1. I try to look cool, basically, I try not to embarras myself, 2. I am very dumb, With my iq, I predict my chances with her are so low, 3. I, am just her friend not a best friend :( 4. I'm too shy to talk to her, 5. She, is, so, tall. Tell me what I should do to be close to her. | Crushes |
So pretty much he gave me his number a while ago and I have deleted it from my phone because I didn’t want to risk confessing to him over a text message and screwing everything up. But now I kinda wish I didn’t delete it because now I can’t text him at all now. I want to ask for his number again but I’m worried that he’d get offended that I deleted his number from my phone😞😕should I just lie and say that I had to reset my phone and that’s why I don’t have his number anymore. not sure what to do now. | Crushes |
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