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I have identified as Aroace(Having little to no romantic or sexual feelings) for years, but when ever I think of this guy my stomach hurts. I can’t tell if it butterfly’s or some other shit. I can’t tell when I want to be in a platonic friendship or in a romantic relationship with a person, maybe I’m interpreting this wrong but I have absolutely no fucking idea what the hell to do. | Crushes |
So I've posted about 20+ post about my crush who used to bully me then became nice and then kind of mean again giving me mixed signals and what I should do on different communities including this one. Half told me that he's not worth it and I probably shouldn't try anything and others said to try giving him hints. Which I did and he hasn't really reacted. I don't know If I'm grasping for straws with excuses or if they're actual reason he could like me anymore. He was singing a song and looked directly in my eyes when it came to the part about love dating and romance. He'd always get so touchy with me and one time he was doing a joke where he closed everyone's laptop while they went out and me and him were the only ones in the room. Then when he closed me and it was obvious I didn't find it funny he started apologizing in a jokingly way if that makes sense and even hugged me. He has never done either of those things to anyone. The problem is I'm gay and I don't know if he's gay as well. One time he asked me if I was gay in a jokingly way but my school is pretty much homophobic and everyone was around us. People also always ask me that question in a joking way so I just said no. Since then he hasn't really talked to me much and he's going back to being mean and stuff and I honestly don't know what to think or feel anymore. It's so frustrating and confusing. Can someone please help. | Crushes |
Maybe about a month ago, my crush was giving out stickers in class. I decided to ask for one and she kinda looked startled a bit, but said yes instantly. (i was the only boy she said yes to) There were other people in front of me so I watched them and it sort of seemed that she wanted me to have one because she told me she could still get one even though they were taking a long time. Eventually she picked out one she though I would like, which I thought was cute. I put it on my cheek and kept it on for 2 days straight.
I know it might sound weird. | Crushes |
I just asked her out over text. It’s very late. Awaiting a response… wish me luck | Crushes |
So I have a “date” with the girl I like and I’m so happy!!!! She’s coming over to my place and we’re gonna hangout and eat a crap ton of food. Not even joking we just made plans this weekend and I’m uuuuuhhh!!! I can’t even explain how happy I am to just spend time with her and just talk, I am so excited!!! I really hope this goes out well and we end up getting closer then we already are.. | Crushes |
IM TALKING TO THIS PERSON AND WE HAVE NICKNAMES N STUFF I FEEL LIKE THEYRE TIRED OF ME A LITTLE BUT I REALLY LIKE THEM | Crushes |
hi reddit so i’m in a really gushy mood right now and i wanna gush!! but also maybe get advice idk!!
so i (19f) was in a long term relationship for 1 1/2 yrs and he broke up with me this past december and it sucked really bad. i had a few crushes but nothing that worked out so far, until i matched with this guy in my major (19m) on tinder and we started talking. gonna keep things vague just in case.. we knew each other existed (we were in the same club last semester) just never talked because our friend groups crossed but not enough and i had a bf yanno. but after my break up we matched on tinder and these past 2 weeks we’ve been talking and it’s been great. a couple nights ago we went on a walk around campus for the first time, it was our first time actually hanging out. it was cool! we planned to hang out on friday (yesterday). skip to yesterday and i had so much fun. we went on a walk with friends, did some college kid activities, ordered food, watched a movie and i ended up sleeping over. we did cuddle when sleeping and kiss a bit, but nothing too far. we held hands!!!!!!!!!!!!! i told him i liked him and he said he liked me too!!!!!!!!! pretty cut and dry right?
well he’s a dry texter and my brain loves to overthink and obsess. and since this is the first time i feel happy since my breakup, i guess my brain just wants to cherish it? i cannot stop thinking about him and last night. it makes me all warm but i know once monday comes this is going to start getting in the way of my school life cause its already in the way of my normal thoughts… i just cant stop thinking about him!!! i want to hang with him again tonight but he’s busy, which is ok but i’ve been daydreaming all day lol. the dry texting is making me feel like i’m annoying… but he legit said he likes me. but maybe he just said that to save my feelings…. i don’t know. it’s a curse. i just want to know what happens in the end i feel like i’m in emotional pain rn LOL
so yeah if anyone has advice for that lmk but thank you for gushing with me and have a splendid night<3 | Crushes |
Sorry for taking a lot of time of yours but please read the whole text.
Background story - All this started from last week, I (19M) am having a medical issue due to which I was communicating through only college society and personal groups and thus, I was not able to reply her (18F) and this happened 2 times (we usually instantly reply each other) for which I apologised and also mention the medical reason on WhatsApp but she didn't check that message (I know she saw that from notification bar as I send it when she reacted my last message) and I think this happened because she didn't know what to reply. I then waited for 1 week and I again messaged her (I went to college that day because of my practical and tried to find her also but I wasn't able to find her) asking for help thinking that this time she might reply but she didn't (might be feeling Awkward) and thus, I am clear she is not interested and respect her feelings that's why trying to move on.
The current situation is being a senior society member, I have to send task in the society group and everyone is supposed to acknowledge them. That's why, she also has to do it but I am feeling guilty that I have done something wrong and I am just traumatizing her by all this 😭😭
She is my crush and I want her to be happy and can't see her that she is awkward due to all this and at the same time she has to do all this. I also have seniors to me that's why I cant stop the functioning of the society.
Both of us wants to be the part of this and nobody want to leave. I know I should meet her offline and make things correct but due to different year of study and courses, I am not able to find her and due to which after I week I decided to text her again. I don't want her to follow my commands just because of the heirarchy as it will make me a hard boss in her eyes rather than a good person who loves her and cares for her.
Everytime she react to my society messages, I feel that I am the biggest defaulter and I want to solve this ASAP.
She usually misses the calls that's why we were talking via chat only but now she is not responding to that also.
I also thought to send her the society task personally but I don't want to force her to check my messages by using these cheap tactics.
I know, I might be overthinking but she is the first person I liked in the college and don't want her to force to do what I say even if she don't feel like 😭😭
Please give some advice what should I do? | Crushes |
I texted her and said tbh I like u and she saw my text but she didn’t respond then like right after that she posted a story with a picture of herself . | Crushes |
I (17M) have been crushing on this girl (16F) for eight months now, and because I don't see her every day, I think it's just better off to end it right now. Sadly I don't think she likes me back, but I just want it to end.
Confessing through text isn't my style, but I don't think that I have a choice. Today I'll be seeing her but it'll be in a very inconvenient environment.
What do you think?
Tldr: I'm thinking of confessing to my crush through text although it's not my favorite way to do it. | Crushes |
There’s a guy I knew from church. I knew his face, but we never talk or cross paths. Then a couple years ago, my mother became best friends with his aunt & would sometimes help him in times of need & often times for translation (We’re both Vietnamese but he came to the US several years ago as a foreign exchange student & I‘m American born. His English is passable, btw).
Last weekend on Easter Vigil & Easter Sunday mass, he said hi to me & naturally, I said hi to him back. He does have a pleasant tone. After that, I kept thinking to myself, ‘Does he like me?‘ I start to get curious & decided to check him out. I followed him on IG & he followed me back. He’s fashionable & kinda cute. The ONLY thing is that he’s 4 years younger than me (I’m 26 & he’s 22) so I’m kind of freaking out.
I told my mom about it & she said that it may be due to the fact that she & his aunt are now close friends & trusted confidants & her being available to help him, like dealing with a car trouble. On his recent trip to Vietnam, he got a couple things for us.
He’s going to graduate college next month, go to Vietnam for his sister’s wedding, & after coming back home, move to another state. I agree to attend his graduation with the purpose to see if he’ll react the same way again. I just have a gut feeling that he might will because now, my interest in him is at it’s peak & if we’re on the same page, I’m gonna strike like a champion & go for it.
So what does someone saying hi to you 2 days in a row mean? Is it a sign that he might like me or just being friendly? | Crushes |
TL;DR: I (15F) have feelings for my best friend (15M), who also has feelings for me, but they are in a relationship and have feelings towards them (15M) too. Do I tell them (best friend) that my feelings haven’t changed? Do I continue to conceal these feelings? What’s the best move to not lose him?
This is my first reddit post thingy ever, so please bear with me. If I miss any vital information that could help with advice, please let me know. So me (15F) and my best friend (15M), we’ll call him billy, have been friends since the beginning of 2021 (I think). We didn’t really click at first, we both kept to our own business, but once we had one good conversation, we were friends. Not exactly besties, but friends. We didn’t see each other during the summer because we were both still closer to separate people and drifted during then. Then we went back to school in that fall and we got closer again. We got closer and towards the end of the school year in 2022, I realized what bond I felt towards him wasn’t platonic. Since the fall of 2021, I was slowly catching feelings for him, it was the little things that would make butterflies erupt and I would get so much happier when he was around. I wanted to tell him my feelings, but only one thing was stopping me, he was dating somebody else. So I didn’t tell him.
Summer came and I was forced to be at my aunts all summer and we weren’t able to hang out at all. We texted all summer though, almost every single day. We talked about how his relationship was going and how our summers were going. I even helped him plan a date with his partner. Before anyone says anything, yeah maybe you wouldn’t do that, but he’s still my best friend and all I wanted was for him to be happy. School came back around and his partner ended up breaking up with him because apparently they didn’t have feelings for him. It was a really big mess and it killed him. I spent all my time comforting him and reminding him that he’s worth being loved. We got closer and in September 2022, I told him that I had feelings for him. He wasn’t sure about his feelings for me which is completely understandable, he was still confused about his past relationships and himself. After that we seemed to have started to test the waters of a romantic relationship. One of those times, I spent the first night at his house and we cuddled all night and morning. On the bus before and after school, we would cuddle on the bus when nobody was around (so nobody would get uncomfy with the pda) and would have more physical contact at school (subtle stuff like standing close enough that we are touching and leaning unnecessarily closer when helping with school work). We wanted to make sure that none of our friends would know about it unless we were official. It would just put too much stress on us while we are still learning our feelings towards each other.
But then October came. It was the weekend and he went to stay the whole weekend at a friends house (we’ll call the friend reg). We didn’t talk much that weekend, which we usually don’t talk when we are at friends houses so I didn’t worry at all. Then that Monday, we all went back to school and during first period reg showed me their matching bracelets with billy. okay cool. i didn’t think much of it. Then during lunch I have reg and a couple other friends in that period. keep in mind that billy isn’t in this period with me. So reg was talking to one of our other friends about his weekend and I wasn’t really listening. I was about to put my headphones in when reg told the other person “yeah we’re dating now”. I deadass dropped my headphone and leaned down to pick it up and sat back up and asked reg “wait so you and billy are dating now?” and he said “yeah I told you that this morning” and i was like “no you just showed me the bracelets” and he just shrugged and went back to his conversation. I wanted to start balling but i was too far into shock to even hear the bell ring. My day went so numbly and I didn’t talk to anyone for the rest of the day. I couldn’t look billy in the eyes. We didn’t sit together for weeks. I didn’t even want to. I was mad, not because they’re dating, but because i heard it from regs mouth and not Billy’s.
After a few weeks, we got closer again but we never brought up how it all happened and how he could just forget about me. He told me that he was gonna ask me out and now im stuck wondering what changed. Now we are still best friends (although it’s not like it was before, we both have feelings for each other so the tension is wild but it’s never more than just friendship) and im just confused all the time. He talks to me about reg and how much he feels for him but when he talks about me, it’s on the same scale. I want to talk to him about how I’m feeling but I don’t want to stress him out. I give him advice on his relationship because he seems really happy but i just don’t know anymore. He talks about how reg makes him feel but when he comes to me about the bad stuff, it just sounds so toxic.
Im always hurting because of the confusion, the heartache, and how much I still love him. Reddit, what do I do? Im not gonna lose him, he’s my best friend, but im just hurt so much. is it better to just stick it out? do I say something? im just so lost. please help me. | Crushes |
it was earlier in the morning and i already forgot how exactly he acted and why, but he was so emotionally open, excited, and happy about something we were talking about. in real life he can state he feels happy or show it when he finds something funny, but in a pretty introverted and calm way. but this dream he was a lot more energetic. it’s kinda sad my brain came up with this dream.
i wish i knew how to start and carry on conversations with him sooner bc now it’s getting really late to befriend him. bc idk what to say. | Crushes |
so i really like this guy, and he’s giving me mixed emotions. he calls me nicknames, like for example “grassy john” my friends call me “grass john” but HE calls me grassy john. when i fell during gym class, he asked me if i was ok. “yo grassy, you ok?” but the thing is, he doesn’t notice much girls or anybody! so i guess we’re friends? my older friend came up to him and asked if he knew me, he said “yeah, why?” then my friend said to me that he was smirking and blushing just a bit. (this happened yesterday and my friend NEVER lies) does he like me or are we just friends? :/ | Crushes |
of course he's here. why wouldn't he be? I was thinking there'd be more people. crazy nervous about talking to him | Crushes |
Just me imagining things, but I think I would say something along the line of "Cause you deserve the best" or if I am bit tipsy I'd say "I am falling for you but I know you don't feel the same way. I can step back if you want me to" | Crushes |
Okay long story short I actually had a crush on this guy back in February for 2 weeks let’s call him blonde boy he’s actually a son of one of the teachers at my school and there’s was a school dance in February 3rd we started talking we even dance in the circle I mean obviously I already knew him but I thought he was straight and everyone keeps letting me that he’s straight and they also kept telling me that they don’t really know so I actually stop talking to him so I wouldn’t fall for him I stopped talking to him for 2 weeks and that’s where I met MR beanie head aka the one I always talked about and obviously that didn’t end well because I started falling for him but we know what happened next he ghosted me and this Thursday I started talking to blonde boy again the one from the school dance and I got his number on Thursday and I started texting him and I also see him at the hallways a lot my school is pretty small only like 200 people are there because Everyone knows everyone so he’s not popular and also I started falling for him again… so please give me some advice🙏🏻 | Crushes |
I like a girl who is like hinata
Loving protecting
Shy but wholesome
Caring and flawless
(For those who don't know
Hinata is an anime character wife of Naruto
And she once almost died for Naruto
And she is soo shy that she fells when Naruto comes over )
Hinata is so awesome man
(I love one girl exactly like her from 12 years) | Crushes |
So i have a crush (obviously) and i hate keeping things to myself so i didn’t tell my friend, i told this online boy i met on discord and i even sent pics of him 🥹. He said he doesn’t know him and will keep it a secret. Later we stopped talking and we both are in a server run by my crush, and i see he’s an exclusive member! WTH HOW IS HE AN EXCLUSIVE MEMBER WHEN HE SAID THEY DONT TALK OR KNOW EACHOTHER?? and i hope he didn’t tell 🤞. Next i told a girl i’m not very close with, she said she won’t tell and she’ll keep it a secret but IT TURNS OUT SHES GOOD FRIENDS WITH HIM 🥹🥹. I hope she didn’t tell bc i don’t think she’s that great at keeping secrets, and next i ask one of his girl online friends on discord “who is his crush?” she said she didn’t know. I kept begging her not to tell anyone anything and she was getting pissed at me bc i kept bothering her not to tell. TURNS OUT THEY ARE VERY CLOSE FRIENDS 🥹🥹🥹. **Do you reckon these people would’ve told?**
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I have a friend and I wasn’t initially attracted to her. But one day I developed a huge crush on her. The thing is I’m not sure why… and the worst part is that she confuses me. I think she might be straight tbh. However she always try’s holding my arm or holding my hand and making really intense eye contact. She also makes some really weird comments like would you let me kiss you and she pretends she’s gonna kiss me but then she says she’s jk. So to me it seemed possible that she does like me but it could actually just be jokes but it’s driving me nuts. Also she talks about other guys sometimes.. not really to me but to my other friend… Am I being delusional or could she really like me? | Crushes |
Whenever I'm missing my crush, she does his Russian accent (acting is one of her many talents) and talks dirty to me. 🥵🥵🥵 She's my go-to therapist!! | Crushes |
So there’s this girl who showed lots of interest in me before and I liked her but when I asked her she had a bf and bows she’s broken up with him and she’s been going on an off flirting with me but it was at a high a month ago and me being a shy and distant person I didn’t notice but my friends pointed it out but I don’t wanna ask her again because I think that’s just embarrassing if she says no but I catch her look at me in peripheral vision and she also does what I do and tease me but she’s shy as well I’m just getting so annoyed | Crushes |
Hey, so there's this guy I'm totally crushing on right now. He's super popular and everybody knows him. We've been hanging out a lot lately and walking home from school together. He seems interested in getting to know me and asks me a ton of questions. He's a pretty nice guy too. I remember one time he was talking to a bunch of girls but cut the conversation short to come over and help me carry my heavy textbooks. He's constantly texting and calling me, I mean seriously, every half hour! He also showed up at my band concert and took a bunch of silly photos of me just to tease me. The other day, we both freaked out over a giant bee and he joked that people might mistake us for a couple. But here's the thing - he's a total social butterfly and acts that way with everyone, so I'm not sure if he sees me as just another friend.
But then, the other night, we hung out at a park in the dark and it was so romantic. Our fingers accidentally touched, and we even held hands for a moment before pulling away. And now I'm beating myself up for not making a move because graduation is coming up soon and time is running out. He always wears a clown mask and tries to make everything funny, so it makes it hard for me to confess my feelings. Do you think I should just tell him how I feel? I can't keep pretending to be just friends because it's driving me insane! | Crushes |
I’m trying to move on from a 7 year long crush. It’s not going so well. I can’t get over this girl no matter how much try.
I wanna hear you people’s stories. Maybe that will help? | Crushes |
BRO...I just saw some selfies of my crush and GAWHD.
I was literally giggling to myself, kicking my feet in the air, covering my face LOL .
he says hes insecure, i really wish I could tell him how good looking he is and that he doesnt have anything to worry about. at all. HIS SMILE IS SO CUTE!!!?????????? LIKE ACTUALLY. I CANNOT EMPHASIZE HOW GOOD HE LOOKS., i could look at him all day.
I was catching feelings for him before even seeing him but his looks are like a bonus. GOSHHHH IS HE FIIIINEEEEEEEEEEEESJDHURUIJHUJ
I nearly melted when I saw them lmaoo, I wanna tell him how I feel and im probably gonna do it tonight.. im really scared. and ive been shaking almost all day thinking abt it. | Crushes |
it's been 3 years since i left school but i still like the same guy even though nothing has happened between us. every-time i see him on a night out he comes up and says hi, should i say / do something? | Crushes |
She replied with “I am thankful you were honest. I am actually talking with someone I really like and it’s something I want to pursue. But thank you for telling me I know that takes guts and I admire that!”
It’s over. I’m absolutely devastated and heartbroken. I’ve had feelings for her for over 8 months now and can’t help but think what if I asked her sooner.
I replied with “Thank you for letting me know. I’m happy that you found someone you really like and I wish you nothing but the best :)”. I know it’s not healthy to hold onto false hope, but deep down I hope it doesn’t work out with that someone else, so that I may have a chance with her in the future.
I’m depressed. | Crushes |
It's kinda ruining me :') | Crushes |
A year ago, i confessed to someone I thought I had feelings for from the college I attended despite the fact there was no connection and got rejected. Ever since, i've been watching all these alpha male dating coach advice vids telling me how to do it better and I thought I wouldn't find someone I liked for a while but here we are a year later. I found someone new I like and we've been flirting and been friends for a few months now. Unfortunately after summer, we're heading for different schools and may never see each other again. But after watching those tik toks, idk if I want to confess knowing what may happen and i'm trying to tell myself to learn from my mistakes from last year to get it right. Should I wait, make my move, or pass?
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I have usually been joking about a lot of the posts I've made here but this one is serious. I still kind of have a crush on a person I have liked from time to time for the last 9 months. I want to get over it, I feel like ever since I started liking this person I have been blinded of other people (meaning I don't think anyone else looks attractive and what not) and I wish I could just move on. I don't even want a crush or do I have to have one. I want it to be on someone different next time I have a crush and I don't want to go back to this person. There's nothing wrong with them, I just want to get over them. It's been almost a year now and I somehow still sort of like them. | Crushes |
Stuff that makes me think he likes me:
When I turn around I find him staring at me in class many times particularly from afar
Recently when I was walking from a distance he stared me in the eyes for like 20 seconds and I kept looking back and looking away and looking back and he was still looking
Sometimes makes a huge smile when he sees me
When we spoke he asked a lot of questions and seemed really happy like his eyes were creasing and he also laughed a lot
During the conversation at one point he smiled and looked down like he was shy
Sometimes he used to not be able to make eye contact up close but would still try to make eye contact from a distance and show up where I was
Sometimes his face flushed red when he saw me
He followed me around a bit too
Stuff that makes me think he doesn't like me:
He has a lot of females around him who he often sits with in class and I am sure at least one of them is really into him and she wears little to no clothing and flirts with him
He has not asked for my number | Crushes |
Recently I made a post about how I had a major crush on this girl. I talked to her only for a little bit. And now every time I try and text her I don’t get a response. She didn’t block me because if she did than I wouldn’t be able to see her posts. Maybe she’s busy? I kind of doubt it because I seen her posting stuff on Facebook basically partying. Or maybe she’s grieving? Because she did just break up with her ex boyfriend and maybe she doesn’t want to talk to any guy so I guess that’s fair. I don’t know. But I think I’m gonna take the L on this one and move on. | Crushes |
This is also technically classified as a “advice needed”, but as far as I’m aware I can only use one flare lol!! My ex-boyfriend (14M) and I (14NB) broke up about 3 months ago. And we dated for 5, almost 6 months. We didn’t break up because we didn’t love each other, or because of any bad reasons, we split on good terms. We broke up for three main reasons:
Firstly, busy schedules. We were both very busy at the time, so we didn’t have time to text each other very often. We would plan dates sometimes, which would then lead to cancellations because of bigger priorities. So because of those, we started to not talk to each other in school either, because we couldn’t maintain the connection outside of school. I tried to talk to him at first when I was able, but he just didn’t do the same, so I eventually gave up on it.
Secondly, people shoving their heads into our relationship. People in school, for example, kept butting their heads into our business, kids bullied us non stop. But the main reason being because my boyfriend at the time was shorter than me, and we got blasted on social medias for months. But the principals didn’t care all that much.
Lastly, because I came out. I came out as Non-Binary a few months ago, and my boyfriend, who is a cisgender heterosexual, didn’t know how to handle it. He supported me, but he just didn’t know what say, and that was it. We split.
I had a convo with him over the phone a week or so ago, about possibly starting over. Which he brought up, btw. We went over what we want our next relationship to look like boundaries wise, do’s and don’ts, and how things will be the same or different.
I want to be with him, because I love him, but I just wanna make sure things won’t go back to there old ways. Advice, thoughts, questions, and suggestions are appreciated! <3 | Crushes |
some of things he's done/said (were long distance) :
.we text everyday, hes like 16 hrs ahead of me but we text from when we wake up/late at night, hes even texted me while hes at school or running errands to tell me why he may respond late and such
.replied to my ig story about the cupid song where i wrote "me and who" and said something that song is relatable and that he hasnt liked anyone bc of none of the girls are christian? (he knows im christian)
.he said he's glad he met me 😳😳😳😳😳😳
.he said i can call anytime
.said he isnt this talkative irl, hes introverted and that only talks this much when he trusts the person?
.mentioned me in his close friends story saying we should be minecraft buddies lol
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these do look like pretty good signs but idk if its just a riend kinda thing cause his texting style is the same w his friends, also i want to tell him how I feel but I have no idea how to do it and Im scared he wont feel the same and ruin what we have rn. | Crushes |
He’s the first crush I ever had. I met him in 7th grade and it was kind of a love at first sight thing - he wasn’t conventionally attractive, but something drew me to him. I’m now 19 years old and we reconnected. We’ve been texting for over three months and hung out for the first time, and I have NEVER clicked with someone so fast in my entire life. I laughed with him in a way I haven’t laughed in years. Conversation was just so easy, and even when we were supposed to separate to go home when I seriously needed to pee, we just could not stop talking and it took forever after our last ‘bye’ to actually part. Everything has been pretty platonic so far between the both of us, but my feelings are so strong I don’t know what to do with them. I’ve always been the one to make the first move pretty early on, but I like him more than I’ve liked anyone and I want to do it right. I don’t know if it’s too soon to confess, I’m not sure what to do. | Crushes |
Last time he only spoke to me while the whole group was just silently listening to us, he also called me (probably drunk) at 3am to apologize what his friend said to me, he always teases me whenever he gets the chance, holds eye contact and kinda gets nervous when he‘s talking to me even tho he‘s really confident. Others who‘ve known him longer than me say he acts different around me. On the other hand he doesn’t seem all that interested sometimes, doesn’t follow me on instagram or texts me.
Whats his deal? | Crushes |
Last time he only spoke to me while the whole group was just silently listening to us, he also called me (probably drunk) at 3am to apologize what his friend said to me, he always teases me whenever he gets the chance, holds eye contact and kinda gets nervous when he‘s talking to me even tho he‘s really confident. Others who’ve known him longer than me say he acts different around me. On the other hand he doesn’t seem all that interested sometimes, doesn’t follow me on instagram or texts me.
Whats his deal? | Crushes |
I've been talking to this guy for a few months now and he has been really nice and considerate!! We are both in school and have decided to wait before meeting up but I'm not sure if he likes me or not. He has never mentioned anything sexual or has commented on my appearance at all in terms of compliments or anything close to that. Sometimes I will try to compliment him but he never says anything in return. I know I might sound insane and he might just want to take things slow with me but usually guys who have been interested in me in the past showed some sort of interest in my appearance. I'm scared of asking him because I don't want to force him into anything. | Crushes |
Why did he have to be cute, smart, and hella gentlemanly?
I like weird dudes *so* much. Just dudes that dude the fuck out of themselves. Dudes who don't change a goddamn thing to fit in. I appreciate that quality of his so much (even though I also tease him for it).
He offered that we share the alcohol drink I got earlier during our friend's birthday, as I guess he could tell I looked overwhelmed by the amount. I thought it was so fucking sweet. The tiniest things, guys...
There definitely is chemistry between us (as stated by others, too) -- even if I am already rejected. We are that good at being buds, but I still can't help but want more. I kind of... resent that mindset.
It feels like I'm chasing something, hoping that it changes. But even if it does, it's not like I want to date anyone -- that shit's tiring. PLUS, we're graduating in two months... so... it would be much more arduous. This feels pointless.
I can't stop flip-flopping over if I *do* want him that much or not. It's frustrating. Such a silly guy, though. I physically cannot get him out of my head. Crushes are so dumb (copium). | Crushes |
I sent the girl I like in one of my classes a very long paragraph of how much I like her and how beautiful she looks. And she just sent me a message appreciating if I stop texting her. After seeing that it really crushed me and now don't know what to do. | Crushes |
Idk, I was just wondering... | Crushes |
I cant add an image so i copied the text haha
“I like you a lot
That's true and I know it
Regardless of how it is and everything. My feelings are like this.”
That is what she sent me.. But i didnt really reply. I just sent an image and changed the topic because i was confused. Before, she was talking about how i am “special” to her. Then i kind of started arguing about how im not that amazing and not that good of a friend. (i dont know why either..)Then she sent that. Its not the first time she has said that she likes me, but i can’t tell if she means it platonically. I guess i should have just asked, but that would make me look desperate. Probably. This was a few days ago, i cant ask now. If i do, she will know i have been thinking about it lolol | Crushes |
It almost doesn't seem real tbh, her friend just randomly messaged me asking whether I liked her or not and similar questions to that to which I was a bit vague about and eventually she just straight up told me that she likes me. I'm so happy rn. Apparently she wasn't meant to tell me, so she doesn't know that I know, should I make a move? Sorry if the post is hard to read, I'm very sleepy. | Crushes |
I (14F) am having a huge crush on the second violin leader(16M), but I don’t know him well. I don’t even know if he has a girlfriend. The only thing I know about him is that he is in high school and he plays the violin. I sit next to him in orchestra practices, we share the same music stand. I am having a crush on him because he is really talented and he plays really well, he is really considerate and he always teaches me how to play. How can I be friends with him and get to know him more? | Crushes |
I used to think he has a the kindest person. Because that's how he acted around me and our mutal friends. He was silly and accepting and kinda of weird but in a good way.
But we had a class meeting yesterday. I sat infornt of him and his other friends. They were so cruel. Heckling the whole time, complaining about the location of our expense free class trip. I wish you could have heard what they said. It was so hurtful and just rude.
It's was a jarring contrast to everything I had known him to be.
He wasn't always nice, he could be mean, but he was never cruel. Now I don't know what to do. I really liked him. | Crushes |
So there is a girl i like soo much. We start talking and we start vibing. we talk for like more than 2 year also hangout for like years.I loved her but she say she is not ready for a relationship. But for me talking all days, being part of day , hanging out sometime like once in a week was enough. I never asked more than that. But slowely she becoming dry texter and when i complain she told i am like that if you wanna talk , talk else dont i wont change for you. now she is acting diffrently and asked me if we stop talking because she felt bored with me. I do love her very much . What should i do???? | Crushes |
What is it called when a person “promotes” positivity and “treat others how you would like to be treated” sometning like that. But they are actually the most rude narcissist vile person to walk the earth. They make their entire platform and speak about respect but walk all over ppl.
I had the unfortunate luck of crushing on someone like this. They were all about treating “women” specifically, with respect. But behind closed doors they are the most verbally abusive, psychotic, egotistic bully ever to women. I mean, if you look through their phone you’d see so many instances of them trying to tear these women down to feel powerful and “more” than them. They are even ina club that promotes “respect of women” like fucking a man. | Crushes |
Basically around 7 months ago i was rude to my crush online, (im female, he’s male). So it’s likely he would hate me right? but when we are in groups he does talk to me and the other people but sometimes i feel like he’s nervous. Im on a discord server with him and when i text something he would reply (on the server) and i don’t think he could hate me if he puts time to reply to my text. As well i wrote on my about me “i’ve been here since last year staring from afar” meaning i always stare at my crush when i believe he’s not looking, then he puts on his about me “pov: you see your crush staring at you, me: gawd why the fawk she staring at me” (emojis etc). Idk if he could like me bc i find it bazar he could even like me after being rude to him. ps HE HAS SIX CRUSHES!! but he has a main one (i know this off of his about me). He puts everything on his about me, he was putting clues about who his crush was and believe it or not, most clues lead up to me so yea. | Crushes |
Ok so I hung out at my guy best friend’s house today I had so much fun. I met his mum, sister and niece. We chilled and watched movies, listened to music and danced. I had lunch and dinner with him. He let me lay on his shoulder for hours and we hugged. I filmed some TikTok’s with him. When we hugged I felt his arms wraps around me and I think it literally made my knees go weak. He waited for around half an hour in the rain with me while I was waiting for the bus to come and we hugged like 3 times. I accidentally forgot to give his hoodie back and I felt really bad bc I didn’t realise until the bus left that I was still wearing it. I’m not gonna lie I’ve never felt a crush like this and I think I might’ve fallen in love with my guy best friend. He has reddit as well so I hope he doesn’t realise it’s me if he’s on the crush reddit. But if there are any guys in the reddit pls tell me if he’s showing signs of liking me and I’m too stupid to realise. | Crushes |
so there's this guy and he's really fucking hot and he's over a foot taller than me and idk I just wanted to say it somwhere | Crushes |
we'll be graduated from highschool in a month and we'll never see each other again.he is my classmate and i wouldnt call us a friend cuz we are not that close.
Should i confess my feeling to him?
i mean i dont Expect anything from him but mu friends dont agree about confessing my feelings to him.they say "you two didn't even flirt and dont really talk"and its true..should i confess him or not 🤧🤧? | Crushes |
Silly question I know, but I wonder what is it like for conventionally attractive having crushes? Are they scared and anxious to make a move like the most of us or being knowingly attractive give them more confidence to act on it | Crushes |
Right so when we text goodnight he always says the sweetest things but I can’t tell if he means anything more than something. Like lately he said
‘Does really mean the world to me to get to spend time with you —- I never would thought meet someone as wonderful as you are am really just the luckiest to have you in my life —- just really don't have the words to describe what you mean to me just are a real angel always make me smile and will always have a special place in my heart are really one in a million really so sweet.Has been lovely talking again —- is just my favourite. I hope you have a nice day tomorrow, hope you sleep well too, Goodnight —— X.’
Does this seem more than friendly or am I dumb ??? | Crushes |
So, I have this classmate and a leader in our research who I admires for a very long time now since before our face to face class. He was always kind, respectful, and compliments me even to little things I do in our works or I do (and just me in our group)... Usually we pm in messenger bcs I'm shy to our gc... I always talk one on one and always asked for his advices here and there...
But ever since I got a bf also in our classroom (who is an ex now) things has changed... and I am not sure if this is my delusions just playing but anyways bcs I have feelings for him still and have to set boundaries now, I tried to chat informally then like a bit more casual than before, chat in our gc instead, and started to not care about my works anymore (like not asking for advices) and he started replying much later and brief...
He started to be a bit much casual too like not just in chats but also in personal (a bit meany), encourages me no more, and even give me more responsibilities even if I have done equal works as everyone, and even if we have members who can do it too.
Moreover, ever since my ex got together I noticed his physical appearance has started to decline, his enthuasiam arent as much as before and starting to look like he becomes bored with life.
So yea, idk. maybe it was all just coincidence and he is just returning my treatment of him bcs Im shy, quiet, and kindof timid (?) Maybe he was encouraging me then, and now that I kindof not anymore he feels like he doesnt have to do so too anymore.
I also have a bit of a habit to not pick up hints so here I am guys.. I just want to have clarity here... | Crushes |
I have zero idea what this means, or why? I work with this girl and she's nice, we talk a lot of shit and we generally get along, she also seems 'shy' especially to other people she talks to. We were talking about social media and she put her instagram in, but she was like "I won't accept the request", so I don't understand why she would put her instagram in if she would not accept the request?
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I am so confused lmao | Crushes |
Yesterday was my school's drama club show and everything was a disaster as expected but we had fun. But 2 days before the show a guy kinda did things me and it really scared me. I told my close friend and crush and he promised the guy who did all that would never touch me ever again. So the show went on expect the guy who did that was in the show. I manged to get through my part of the performance and I bumped into the guy who did that to me and i ran to the dressing room and curreld in a ball crying and having a panic attack on the floor. everyone came over asking what was wrong and how to help and I just kept mumbling "-name- go get him, I want -name-". so the stage manger went around trying to find my crush but he was on stage, our stage manger whispered to him on stage
"-my name- is having a panic attack" and he ran offstage. (thankfully our other friend coverd for him on stage) my crush went straight to the dressing room and when he saw me crying on the floor surrounded by a ton of people he shoved past them and ran over and moved next to me and I grabbed his arm and he moved and held me while I was crying and panicking. he kept whispering "your safe, I'm here now" and stuff like that after a few minutes everyone on stage bowed. (he misses final bow to stay with me he for real said screw the show) after the people came backstage everyone was yelling and being loud then I saw the guy who did that to me, and I started balling louder and my crush pushed my head into his chest while I was saying "save me please protect me" and he just kept holding me and promising me I'm safe. the teachers showed up a few minutes later and threw everyone out expect my crush and 2 friends. they asked what happened and through my panicking and trouble breathing I could not speak very well so I manged to tell my crush to tell them so he did. the teachers were trying to help me do breathing exercises but I could not calm down until my crush started breathing with me I felt his heart beating it was fast and I slowly breathed with him one of the teachers even made the comment "is feeling him breath with you helping". after a while I was calm enough to talk and my crush looked at me after I apologized because I felt bad that he always has to come in and save me and he looked at me and said "it's ok, I will always protect you, and if that guy ever comes up to you tell me and I'll beat his ass your safe now." The teachers even threw the guy who did that out of drama club. Me and my crush walked out of the school together with our families chatting. I was still shaking and quiet but he put his arm around me and I asked "promise you'll protect me and you won't leave again" he pinky promised me he would and handed me a flower. (Sorry for the long paragraph and bad grammar) | Crushes |
So me (22F) and my ex (24M) broke up after a 4 year relationship. Nothing bad happened I just stopped being fully happy but we are still best friends and still live together due to leasing contract. When we broke up we started going out to a bar with one of his friends (who is really hot) let’s call him T. T is a really nice guy and a really smart person so naturally me and him start developing a friendship and started talking about some mental health stuff and bonded over that and also over the fact that he broke up his relationship recently to. At first all 3 of us would talk and bond but as time went by we started talking more alone (me and T) and really talking about some stuff we have been trough. I really don’t talk about some of that stuff with anyone but I really feel comfortable with him and really heard. One day we went to the beach and had a really good day, at the end of it the sun was setting and we went for a spontaneous dive and we were really happy. All smiles. We saw the sunset and we drove me home. We talked in the car about some issues I have with intimacy and self esteem (it’s really hard for me to talk about it but he made me feel really comfortable). The thing is when I arrived home I really felt something I am not used to feeling. I felt so happy and at peace with myself and I felt so much emotion and love (not sure if it was love for the situation or him) I even started crying in the shower just because I was feeling something so strong I couldn’t understand. Lets have in mind that I am really insecure (specially around men) and I was in a bikini at the beach running and coming out of the sea with him and I didn’t even think about how I looked. I also was really overwhelmed with my emotions because I am going trough a really hard time mentally and I didn’t felt that happy in a really long time. This was a week ago and we haven’t talked since. I really miss him and a I really want to figure out how I feel and how he feels because I never felt nothing like that. I’m so confused because I usually I’m not comfortable around men I am attracted to and in this case I really forgot every insecurity and every bad thought. I thought of him as a friend and I think he thinks about me as a friend too but I want to know how he feels but it is really strange because we became friends trough my ex and we both love him very much. I find myself wishing that I find him at a party or in the street randomly just to talk to him. Should I just ignore this situation? If not what should I do? | Crushes |
Not sure if this counts as a vent I’m autistic so I really struggle with this kind of stuff. Me and my crush have a lot in common and get along really well. I’m a very emotional person though and he’a more reserved and gets calm. I have noticed he is more nice to me than he is to others but I think it’s because we’re both autistic so he might just be more comfortable around me. PLEASE I JUST WANT SOMEONE TO LIKE ME BACK FOR ONCE. | Crushes |
So many of you are scared to ask the question of if your crush likes you back. Believe me, I'm in the same boat. I wish I could do it for you and be the middleman, that way the question gets asked instead of floating in limbo.
I feel like if it was done tactfully (almost treating it like a company) it could work, but I suppose there's also that fine line between sweet/creepy.
I don't think I'd ever act on this idea, just spit balling I suppose. | Crushes |
So I had a crush on this girl in my colleg so I decided to talk to her and it went super awkward and she looked barely interested so I decided to get over her. (Took nearly a month)
So now we are in same class and will be in the same class for 4 more years. Sometimes I start thinking how cute she is or start dreaming about her.
The problem is dating her is very difficult as she is super shy/introverted/studious and also doesn't want a bf.
Any suggestions how not to develop a crush again as it would be a waste of my time? | Crushes |
I proposed the idea since our places aren’t that far and she said yes. | Crushes |
I had a crush on a guy till last month but then I got to know he already likes someone else. Now when I liked that guy, I met a new guy in my office. I met him during our 14th anniversary of our company. Well, I liked him suddenly and he tried to flirt with me too but at that time, I was serious about my crush and loyal to him ( he was not mine in the first place, still! ), So I stopped him by not flirting back and changing the place in the party. I am not sure if it was rude because he smiled at me in the lift ( smile that said he finds me cute ) but now as I am finally over of my crush, I started looking for someone because of not being lonely, but because.. I want someone's company, someone to hold hands and hug. Now I wish to approach this guy ( the new one ) but I feel like am I doing something wrong? I feel hesitation.. plus I am afraid what if he think of me like I am a lady who is never sure about what I want and all.. Dear guys, would you feel bad or good if someone who didn't sho any interest on you previously, approaches you?
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I’m not sure how to tell if I like him or not. I’m always thinking about him and sometimes he pops into my head when I see things he might like. I enjoy his company and he comforts me and I couldn’t feel safer. Though, he’s really clingy and I’m not sure I can reciprocate these feelings of attachment. I’m a bit scared of these kind of feelings. I don’t want to mess up and I don’t want him to feel bad if I can’t act the same way to him. I’ve never been in a relationship before nor are we dating. What should I do? | Crushes |
I'm 20M, extremely introverted🥲. so in 2020 i met a girl online she was very cheerful and talkative and we started talking and she forced me to be her friend later she even said that she likes me but at that time I thought that she's joking 🥲. we talked everyday and i grew attached to her. now in dec 2022 her college started and she stopped texting me i then told her that I feel bad about it and can't stop thinking about her, she says that found a boy in her class and she can't help it. frustrated and angry me decided to never speak to her ever again no matter what happens. last month she texted me that she misses me and asks me to come back but i refused. SO NOW THE QUESTION IS - should I talk to her to tell that i miss her very much( i really do) but I want to forget her and then cut her off completely OR just doorslam her without a final closure. | Crushes |
something that happened back when i was around 11 years old. i never got to call him a "friend", something i still think about and wish i could have done.
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there was this dude whom i had a platonic crush on. at that time, my feelings were really confusing. people assumed i had a crush on this dude because i'd talk about him sometimes. but i was confused because i knew that i did not like him in a romantic way. i just found him really funny and i wanted to be friends with him. it was only as i got older that i found out that i'm aroace and what i had was a platonic crush/squish. but it's close enough to a crush, hence why i'm posting in this sub (dont mind me)
this dude was probably the most well-known person amongst teachers and students for being a bad student lol. he was disruptive, rude, and got into fights. most of the girls in my class probably hated him
i didnt mind this because i found his disruptiveness funny. i didn't mind that he got into fights because watching fights in class was entertaining. i didn't find him rude because he was strangely very nice and helpful to me (this is why i sometimes wonder if he could have liked me too. gonna elaborate more on this)
i remember as the music rep of the class, i had to stack the guitars after lessons. i am quite clumsy and not good at stacking and keeping things neatly. he would always complain about me being slow then proceed to help me keep the guitars. in the end, we would regularly keep the guitars together.
when i first joined a club in school, i did not know where the venue was. i was planning to look for someone to ask for help. before i could, he offered to show me the place after our classes ended.
later on, during training, we had to do skipping ropes, which i'm terrible at. once, after i was done, he asked to see how i did it (for no reason). then he laughed at how terrible i was and proceeded to show off.
he called me "cute" on different occasions. i couldn't understand what was so "cute" about what i was doing because i was either fumbling around because i was embarrassed about something, or i was just using my shirt to fan myself because it was hot.
i also found it funny when he would volunteer my art work for the teacher to look at. i was horrible at art but he purposely did this for some reasons unknown. embarrassing but funny.
he may or may not have liked me. it would be nice if he did, but he might not have since there were people teasing him about liking another girl. oh wells, doesnt really matter. we were young and dumb anyway
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i wish i could have talked to him more. all the other platonic crushes i've had were "successful" in a way. i got to be friends with them so i no longer felt the intense need to be their friend, and the feeling went away. or in another case, i found out she wasn't really a nice person so i no longer wanted to be her friend. | Crushes |
So there’s this person I like and their behaviour towards me kind of changed. At one point they started asking me to hang out really often and they always started the conversation. We spent an entire day together one time and they were leaning towards me to a point where we were practically touching, teasing me, putting their head on my shoulder, and just generally being fairly touchy. I started liking them that day. But then the next time we hung out, they weren’t acting the same. They didn’t touch me at all, which might not mean anything since they know I don’t usually like to be touched, and they stopped reaching out to me afterwards. I asked them to hang out and they agreed but there was no more conversation.
Could this be because I didn’t seem to reciprocate that they pulled away? Or did they just lose interest? Or did they just never like me in the first place? | Crushes |
As the title says,wish me luck 🤞🍀🍀 | Crushes |
🙏 Need help! 🆘 My crush's birthday is tomorrow 🎂 and I don't know what to do 😩. She's an old friend and she already knows that I have a crush on her 😳. Can you suggest something? 🙏 | Crushes |
So basically I think my crush has a little interest in me but Idk if I’m delusional or if I’m onto something. When I stare at him (out of nowhere) I often see him staring back at me and when we make eye contact like that he looks away fast. For this one Idk if he’s naturally blushy but when he was explaining something to me and while I was making eye contact with him I noticed his face got a little red. Also he often makes physical contact with me when he doesn’t do them to others (high fives, fist bumps, small stuff like that). The only times I saw him make physical contact like that was with kids and with me. Other than that sometimes he does avoid(?) me and treats me like other people. I told this to my older sister and she thinks I’m crazy. Any thoughts? | Crushes |
Why is it when you start to treat a guy right they treat you the complelete opposite? You could compliment him, show your admiration towards him, show him what it’s like to be loved, admired, cared for, help him when he’s sad or feeling self conscious. But once YOU feel that same way or just fucking exist, they tear you down as if they are “better” than you.
I like using the anology of a small meek, shy, polite kitten on the street. You take them in, care for them, show them what it’s like to be loved and admired and respected. But they treat you like shit, walk all over you, disrespect you and betray you after eveything. When you meet them they are meek, polite and shy.
In reality sense what I mean by “take in” is to “talk to them” get to know them, treat them right, give them that confidence.. I hope some realize what I mean but that’s the best anology I could come up with.
Why is that tho? Why do they do that? Genders can be reversed but for me I’m 18, female dealing with a shit 18, male like that. It’s funny when I match that enegry of disrespect I’m seen as the bad guy…imagine that.
Like I treated you like a person and not a object and I get treated like I’m “less than”??? Fuck off. Like you were in no position to even be the way you are today. | Crushes |
So, I (M24) work at a school as a janitor and I'm crushing on my coworker who is a vocal teacher (F early 20's... pretty sure we are the same age).
She works the normal teaching schedule, 8:45 - 3:15 and I work a 1:00-9:30 pm shift. We have talked during her free periods multiple times about Broadway musicals, our upbringings, and music in general.
She is an extremely nice person. I asked if I could play her piano when I was on break and she wasn't at work, to which she agreed. I also wound up getting free singing lessons from her after complimenting one of her singing groups and jokingly asking if I could get some lessons.
She agreed to giving me lessons.... more on that later.
School was out for spring break March 31 - April 7 and I ran into her on March 31, hung out cracking jokes and talking more while I was playing piano and she was grading some assignments.
Time was running out where I had to get back to work, she had to head home, and I thought "What the hell I've been wanting to ask her for a while so I may as well go for it!"
I told her I had received a promo in the mail offering discount codes at a local theater and if she wanted to go. I did this to be just a friendly thing, but I could tell she knew exactly what I was trying to do. Yada Yada Yada, she told me "We'll see" and began talking about our singing lessons. I told her to think about the play as a form of repayment to which she said I would never had to pay her, then I told her to just let me know and she said "we'll see".
Then, I wished her a good spring break hoping that the ten days away from her would allow me to just really put an end to the whole crush. Yeah, it sucks but I'll get over it. She's still into the singing lessons which I am excited about now.
Something I forgot to add earlier: I have been leaving, not necessarily notes, but pieces of paper on her piano that have a music joke and music fact written on them, kind of a "I'll leave you this as a small token of thanks for letting me use your piano". She kept them and began hanging them up on her classrooms bulletin board.
Now, fast forward to this Monday. I'm outside taking out trash and she allows her class to go outside. I really don't want to see her... she rejected me and I want to get over her. Me, doing my best to avoid contact in order to make the crush subside noticed her walking out but kinda ignored her. I then hear her say hi to me but kinda ignore it. She then says it again and she is waving to me.
I know that people can overthink things but the vibe felt different. Instead of a "Hey Cody" it felt more like a "Heyy Cody :)" Aight cool. Maybe I'm thinking it's a bit flirtatious because there's still some feelings left but eh, it's probably whatever.
Previously, I was usually the only one initiations conversations, even when we were in the same room with only one person. But almost everyday this week has seen her waving and saying hi to me, giving me smiles while waving while walking by the janitor hang out/break room, smiling and waving if I walk by her class and we just happen to see each-other, saying hi, and honestly, just seeming much happier than ever to be around me.
Our singing lesson was phenomenal. Holy shit is she a good teacher and we connected on even more levels.
While I did say she's very nice it's important to know that there has been a definite much happier shift in our dynamics.
It has rekindled my crush and I'm not sure where to go next. Should I hold on to this crush, give it a month to lay more groundwork and try again or should I just accept her initial answer as how she will always feel?
Thank you for your answers! | Crushes |
Lol well I knew he wasn’t into me but I just wanted to ask him out anyway since I don’t want to wonder about the what ifs. I am disappointed that he didn’t respond at all..wish he just declined but yeah I guess technically no response is a response :3 I can finally move on after an year of crushing :) | Crushes |
Sorry for the long post...I (27F) have had feelings for a coworker (30M) for about 1.5 years, we never really talked much, but I thought I was getting multiple "body language signs" over said time, I obviously misread his signals and got it in my head that he liked me back the way I liked him. I ended up confessing my feelings for him while drunk over text (which we all know how that goes) I feel like I put him on the spot and he suggested we go out for coffee and hangout the upcoming weekend.
So that day comes, he sends me a message saying he should have thought about all the stress that he's been dealing with etc and wasn't in a good place to be getting involved in anything serious. A few weeks go by and I'm over thinking about what he's said, thinking maybe the way I was talking during the confession made him second guess me as the kind of person I was.
So I really put a lot of thought into a new clear headed confession and I gave him the option to not hear it although I did admit the previous on was alcohol Induced. He said he'd like to hear it. So I send it and he responded he didn't want to give me false hopes of a committed relationship and being depending on or depending on anyone himself and he hasn't put himself in a situation like this very many times, he then brought up being casual but if not then he would absolutely still be my friend. Which I declined and said I'd like to just be friends because I don't like being intimate without deep emotional Connection.
I invited him over to hangout with some friends on the weekend while we all had drinks and a good time, he said he'd like to stay longer as everyone left. We chilled for a bit but I eventually had to much to drink and got the spins and blacked in and out. He took care of me the whole night, put me to bed and that was it.
I see him at work and my feelings have still not gone away, when we talk, when I look into his eyes. I tried deactivating my Facebook so I could stop the feelings and hyper fixation, that didn't work. It's always in the back of my mind that he is maybe self sabotaging and maybe he will change her mind. But I know that's not the case. I really want him in my life somehow, and I'll take him as a friend if that's the way it has to be, has anyone had a similar situation? How do you get over the feelings while still being friends? Or am I just going to have to pretend they aren't there when they will always be hidden away inside my mind? | Crushes |
So I've never had a crush in my life before. Like never at all. This means I never experienced romantic feelings for someone else or really understood it in the first place. On top of that, I'm a gay male. So I joined my school kinda late after doing online school for like 4 years which then basically got rid of all my social skills and made me socially nervous. When I joined the school this guy (lets call him Ben) was immediately mean to me for no reason. He would tease or just make fun of me and stuff. I immediately crushed on him (not because he'd tease me and stuff but because he was just attractive.) Ben also has a friend group who do the same thing to me. I never really talked to Ben because I was always too scared. One day we nearly got into a fight. He pushed me and I needed to look all cool and brave so I wouldn't look pathetic and drop in the social ladder. So I pushed him back. Then he came all in my face dropped his bag and basically did the tough bro thing where they say "You wanna go bro?". So at this point it looks clear that this guy does not like me but just keep reading. In the end we never fought but he started teasing and kind of bullying me more than he did before for a few days. One day I had a terrible haircut (Pretty much bald) and I had to go to school with it. In my school you can't cover your head with anything so I relied on my teachers to be nice and let me wear a hood.. They did of course but then a staff member caught me with it while walking to class with my classmates. She caused a whole scene and made me take it off in front of everyone and another class that was there. Everyone was laughing but the one person who didn't laugh and didn't even look amused was Ben. Of course this isn't enough proof. So continuing in the day Ben told my next teacher that I needed to keep my hood on because of my hair. Not in a joking, rude, mean, or teasing way. In a completely honest tone with someone having good intentions. After this I became friends with someone who was friends with Ben and we started talking like decent friends. We grew closer because of my friend (lets call him Zion) and we even played a game together once. He was still teasing me but in a friendly way. He was also getting VERY touchy and close to me all the time (I'm not complaining though). One time he was singing a song and the moment the part about love and romance came.... He looked. Right at me. Right in my eyes. And I looked at him. All I could do was smile because I was too scared and nervous and didn't really know what to do. One day he asked me If I was gay. Before I continue let me explain. My entire school is pretty much homphobic when it comes to boys being lgbtq. They think it's weird and you WILL get bullied and your entire time at that school will be ruined. I was also surrounded by classmates. And I still wasn't 100% he even liked me and if he found out I was gay he would probably tell the whole school if he really didn't like me. Asking if someones gay at myself is usually just a joke as well and he said it in a semi serious joking way if that makes sense. So I just said no. He said ok and then zion moved schools. He now didn't really talk to me at all. One time he closing everyone's devices while they went out the classroom and closed mine when me and him were the only people in the classroom. He saw I clearly wasn't amused. Then he said "sorry, are you okay?" in a kinda joking way then hugged me tight. I have never, once in my life. Seen him hug someone. Anyways now he's been kinda distant from me and the only thing I can do for now is stare at him and hope he gets the hint. I wanna ask for his number but I'm too scared. I don't even know if he really likes me and maybe I was just stupid. He called me a "nasty as hell" because he thought I was gonna eat some food on the floor. I honestly just don't know anymore. | Crushes |
YALL YESTERDAY MY CRUSH CAME OVER AND WE WERE WATCHING MOVIES AND IT WAS ALL FUN ETC but then we started laughing so much to the point I accidentally farted and I WAS SO EMBARRASSED.... im a girl btw and hes a boy but HELP I AM ACTUALLY SO EMBARRASSED I CANNOT BELIEVE I DID THAT....
HAS ANYONE ELSE DONE THIS? WILL HE CARE? HELP ME PLS I WANNA CRY😭😭 | Crushes |
Okay so this boy and I had been talking starting from the end of January 2022 and everything was going really great. We called everyday, talked late into the night, teased each other a bunch, it was just so good.
Then around the end of April 2022, he just stopped talking to me. It was like he just forgot who I was and decided to ignore me if he even saw me.
Fast forward over two months after we stopped talking, we went on a church retreat and he hugged me twice (which he’s never ever done before), and he was just super flirty the entire time. And he’s been so flirty like this in so many other instances even after we stopped talking, so it confused me.
Skip to February 2023, I found out that he did like me but ghosted me to focus on himself. He left me in the dark for a year and I had to hear it from someone else. It wouldn’t have hurt to just give me a heads up or anything, would it have?
And now he’s lying that I confessed my feelings to him and he rejected me when I never even did anything of the sort. He’s told his friends that and I don’t know when exactly, but it’s been known like that for a while now according to them.
I don’t know if I should confront him and get some closure or just ignore him or what?? I don’t want the next three years of high school to be awkward… | Crushes |
i made a post a few weeks ago about me being absolutely devastated at my first heartbreak. after that, i was in denial and went into a phase of persevering, so i kept chasing after my crush. but today at work i realized my feelings for him have kind of dwindled. he's not into me, he doesn't see me as anything more than a co-worker at best. im tired of having to pry conversations out of him by agonizingly premeditating on conversation starters i can use (im a raging introvert so this was rlly hard. the things i did for this guy.)
either way, i feel kind of relieved that i came to this conclusion. he is very obviously not interested in even being my friend outside of work, and he's not worth my effort if it's not going to be reciprocated. he doesn't engage in much conversation and i find that lack of effort unattractive. but it feels good to know that i can go to work without watching my every move in hopes that he sees what im doing and feels something idk.
this was my most intense crush ever but at the end of the day ill find someone else who actually wants to talk to me outside of business endeavors. but it rlly puts me at peace. sure ill still be his friend/acquaintence but im glad i dont see him as a romantic opportunity (?) anymore. | Crushes |
I’ve been talking to this guy who I matched with on a dating app for a little over 2 weeks and he’s just so cuuuuute!
I know I haven’t really met him yet and chances of us working out is probably not very high but I do like talking to him so much. He’s just a cute little dork and I just want to give him a hug :) I can’t get over how wholesome and sweet he is all the time hfdfjshz | Crushes |
So let's start at the beginning. Around half a year ago I (25M) broke up with my ex. We were together for about 8 years, but unfortunately, it did not last. It has been a rough few months with ups and down (moving out, processing everything, and doing a lot of self-reflection), but I could finally leave things behind me and I started to feel more optimistic.
A few weeks ago I found out that a girl at work (26F) broke up with her boyfriend. They were in a pretty long relationship (I think around 3 years) and they even moved in together a few months prior. Before her breakup, I just had a good connection with her and we were just friends. But since she broke up with her ex, I kinda developed a bit of a crush on this girl.
I am gone give her enough time and space to let her process the breakup, but I was wondering what is the best plan to approach this and make my feelings clear eventually. As mentioned above I have been in a relationship since late high school up til a few months ago, so I am not really good at knowing how to approach a girl and reading the signals in the right way. It seems to best to keep it low level for the moment, but what is low level? Could it hurt to send an occasional text? And when is the right time to approach her and tell her how I feel? What is the best way to eventually approach her? | Crushes |
Haven’t actually talked to them or seen them in a couple months. But it’s his birthday tomorrow, and I need some cute flirty things to say to break the ice again! | Crushes |
were gonna call again in a few minutes,, He js mentioned that he has a clock for NY 🤭🤭🤭 (were long distance (,friends 😪))
we been texting everyday for a week straight now 😶 Idk if I should tell him how I feel yet tho or hint at it, cus theres a few things that Im worried about, one my parents dont let me date and I suck at hiding stuff, and tbh I dont want to hide him from them I genuinely think hes a nice person and they'd like him but bc I met him thru the internet theyre probably gonna be super skeptical, Idk what to do 😭 | Crushes |
So I met this co-worker back in January when we started a new internship. I didn't think much about her at first but we got placed in the same hall and we got closer as time passed. I started to find her attractive and actually told her that. Fast forward to February, I learned from another co-worker that she finds me cute. So while I wasn't inserted was open to anything happing. It has just been a go-with-the-flow kinda vibe. We flirt from time to time but that's pretty much it.
Fast forward to now and I'm just confused. Sometimes it feels like something there but other times it feels like a friendship. While I am interested I don't think I have a crush on her or anything. But I would still be open if anything happened between us. Our internship is ending soon so I was just thinking about speeding things up. I was planning on talking in person or texting her straight up, asking her "What is happening between us." Would this be stupid? Should I do it another way?
Either way, it won't affect our work because I know for sure there aren't; any feelings between us but don't know what her intentions are | Crushes |
So I have a crush on this girl, she is the prettiest, best personality in the school, I've had feelings for her for about 3 years. Last year, her and I talked a lot, she found out I had a crush on her and did all the oooh you like me and the "🤭" emoji, and would tease me about it. It made me feel like there was a comfort zone, a safe zone where I could talk to her about things and know she would keep it secret, and she could tell me things and keep it secret, and if it was a problem, help each other work through it. Before one of my games started, I told her that I wouldn't be able to talk for a bit as my game was about to start, she said good luck with the same emoji as before "🤭". her and I would talk without end, and we would also wish each other good luck in our games, sadly though, I made a bad mistake. I accidentally blocked her as I had thought I blocked one of those random bots, but once I realized my mistake, I quickly added her back, she hasn't added me back yet, and I haven't thought of it much, those feelings started off very light, and now, when someone says her name, I get butterflies and get all weird feeling, and all I think about is her, we talk a bit now(since we're in a few of the same classes) but that's really it, we hadn't exchanged phone numbers since we thought the snapchat messages and snaps were enough, apparently they're not. Every now and then when we get the chance, we do have some conversations though. Sometimes I catch her looking at me in class, admiring eyes, not the kind of eyes you would get when you're zoning out. I know I don't have a chance with her, but even the smallest piece of hope can make me believe she likes me back, I personally don't know, that's why I am taking this to this subreddit. If this all makes you the reader believe she likes (or liked) me, I will try to add her back on snap or tt if I can find it again, like I said, I blocked her on accident and when I added her back, I didn't know until her and I had a convo, but her phone got taken away, so she couldn't do anything on it. | Crushes |
There's this girl I've been talking to since the end of the previous year in high school. She is so fucking pretty, shy, and awkward. I like her so much haha. I like how she smiles, I like her sense of humor, she draws incredibly well and I couldn't be more happy for her and her accomplishments. I am an incredibly shy sensitive person so I have never had much luck dating. I've only ever confessed to one person in my entire life and they've said no so that's why I'm wary about asking someone out. She is the only person who makes me smile so hard. I also happen to share my 3rd period with her. I have wanted to ask her out for prom, but she said she isn't going due to not having a dress and no one inviting her. She considered prom a "Disney Princess Moment" which just makes me smile beyond belief. I made a subtle attempt to ask her in which it didn't seem like I was asking her all that much, but she was adamant about not going so I'll respect her wishes. There has been this plan as of recent for my 3rd period that, according to our teacher, we might go to six flags. SHE ASKED ME TO BE HER PARTNER!!!!! I said yes because I like her so much. I wanna make a move so bad, but I'm afraid I'll fumble. She's just an amazing person. She's there for you when you need her. She's this compassionate person who has helped me with my problems. I like her SO SO SO SO MUCH. Anyway, I'm sorry for ranting. I've told this to my family and a few friends who have encouraged me to take things slow with her. Thank you for reading this | Crushes |
So I have a crush on this girl, she is the prettiest, best personality in the school, I've had feelings for her for about 3 years and last year, her and I talked a lot, she found out I had a crush on her and did all the oooh you like me and the "🤭" emoji, she also sent shower pics to me, not full body, just neck up, her and I would talk without end, and we would also wish each other good luck in our games, sadly though, I made some bad mistakes, I accidentally blocked her as I had thought I blocked one of those bots, but once I realized my mistake, I quickly added her back, she hasn't added me back yet, and I haven't thought of it much, those feelings started off very light, and now, when someone says her name, I get butterflies and get all weird feeling, and all I think about is her, we talk a bit now(since we're in a few of the same classes) but that's really it, we hadn't exchanged phone numbers since we thought the snapchat messages and snaps were enough, apparently they're not. Every now and then when we get the chance, we do have some conversations though. Sometimes I catch her looking at me in class, admiring eyes, not the kind of eyes you would get when you're zoning out. I know I don't have a chance with her, but even the smallest piece of hope can make me believe she likes me back, I personally don't know, that's why I am taking this to this subreddit. If this all makes you the reader believe she likes (or liked) me, I will try to add her back on snap or tt if I can find it again, like I said, I blocked her on accident and when I added her back, I didn't know until her and I had a convo, but her phone got taken away, so she couldn't do anything on it. | Crushes |
So I confessed to a close friend a couple of days ago and she rejected me. But I still haven't like had a depressed day. I even know that she may be talking to someone currently. While it makes me sick to think about it I haven't really been sad, If I do get sad about it don't last for long and it just bums me out more than makes me sad. I don't really understand why I am not depressed because this is the girl I loved for basically 4 years. Any advice or just relating to what I am describing? | Crushes |
So I had reached out here a while back to confirm whether I should follow my crush who’s a nurse at the site that I do my clinical. I ended up following him over the spring break and he followed back and that was it. ImI don’t post much but I went out on Sunday night, and so I posted myself and all that. He swiped up on a story (with the 😂 emoji) on a post where I said something funny. I replied to that and he took it up on himself to continue the conversation by asking further questions about myself. We talked all throughout that following Monday, Tuesday until I asked how old he was which he replied “😂 I’m an old man hbu.” I kind of already knew his age which is 30 but I wanted to confirm so I replied with “ come on lol you don’t look any older than 25, but I’m 23” in addition to that response I answered other questions that he had asked. He usually takes a while to reply because he’s a nurse so OBV he’s busy. I eventually checked to see if he replied and low and behold I’ve been left on READ🤦🏿♀️ This was on Wednesday. Now I’m not sure where I went wrong. Is it the age difference or was my joke about him looking young offensive? I just deleted the messages and went on with my day. I can’t stop thinking about where it went wrong especially since he was the one that initiated the conversation and kept asking questions as if he was trying to get to know me. I see him next week Wednesday in the hospital, and I’m kind of nervous. What do I do guys. I almost double texted to ask if I offended him but I don’t wanna be pushy at all so I just kind of let it be. It was nice talking to him those few days and I’m a bit sad that it just ended this way so fast. | Crushes |
Hi Reddit.
I (14M) need some help figuring this out.
I'm pretty sure my crush likes me back. But i want your thoughts.
Let's call her (13F) R
Backstory:
I've known her for around 2 years from homeschool classes.
( I was in her class pre-pandemic 2019-20, but then COVID-19 happened and we didn't see each other for a year.)
Around 6-8 months ago Is when i first realized my feelings for her
So many reasons to care for a person like she is.
She's Interested in acting, singing and linguistics.
She Has a deep care for world issues.
She articulates sentences vibrantly.
Shares a passion for baking sweets.
Left handed (ok that's not a reason)
Humorous
Kindhearted
Thoughtful
Beautiful
Vibrant
Artsy
Filled of verve.
(Several more reasons too, simply; I can't write them in an organized fashion right now).
Now fast forward to more recent times;
The following has occurred in the Past 4 weeks
Recently we've started to stare at each other and looking away quickly. She'd blush...
Later on, I overheard her friends asking her who her crush was(if any-)
She whispered to her friends, they giggled and looked at me.
My mom reported that R told her that she was really interested in my guitar playing.
Later that week;
My mom told me R told her she's greatful that I'm in both Shakespeare classes this year,
because one else is sharing that experience with her of being in both plays. (Not a sign just worth noting that she actually thought of me)
**The largest sign yet;**
R's best friend wrote R+L boldly in heart on a white board, looked over at me.
Another of her friends asked who it was referring to, she whispered back and then giggled at me.
There are only ~50 kids at this small school.
R is the only person there with a name starting in R
I'm the only person in Her age group and class with a name starting in L.
So that's why I thought she shared the feeling.
It might sound very egotistical and convoluted but i don't care. Just had to write it down somewhere
These experience in combination with other subtle things. make me think she shares the feeling.
I feel like asking her to the dance or at least confessing. It would be awkward.
I can't thank you enough for reading.
Does she like me? | Crushes |
I (15F) currently have a crush whom I'm quite good friends with, although the way he speaks to me could be perceived both ways. we play fight a lot over stupid things like candy as a joke, when I hurt my arm he said he'd be careful, etc. we'd sometimes also admit to missing eachother if one of us is Inactive for a while or something. I'd just like to know if there's any way to tell whether this is romantic or platonic. | Crushes |
Apparently I asked her if she would be free for evening walks and she said yes but she doesn’t have in the slightest clue I like her, since we just started talking lately. | Crushes |
I’m still waiting for a response | Crushes |
I am 99% sure this girl likes me but I don’t like her back and I don’t want to date her but no reject her either should I just tell her I like men or sum? | Crushes |
(( | Crushes |
usually i have so many crushes but recently my mental health and everything going on in my life has just been so draining like i don’t really get butterflies or like have any crushes anymore :( | Crushes |
So basically we met about two months ago and we have been talking a lot over that time span, like we have stayed up till like 3-4 in the morning just texting, playing games and just having a laugh, when we’re out with our mutual friend we speak a lot between us however I think she’s just being extra friendly in person to get something off of me (if you really wanna know just ask in the comment bit.)
When we are out we are always sitting close with arms touching, holding hands kind of (just our index and middle finger) play fighting over stupid stuff like a Pepsi bottle and always getting our face close and staring until we laugh. I just need opinions on what you guys think because I don’t know whether she likes me or just wanting to get something out of me. | Crushes |
And tell me any related stories if you’d like to ! ^ ^
Inspired by u/sammuel_c_p ! | Crushes |
Crush has no classes with me!
With school staring recently, I (M) realized that my crush is in none of my classes. I only saw her in the hall a few times. Wish I could talk to her outside of class, when her friends aren’t around. I have her number but we haven’t texted for about 5 months. What should I do? | Crushes |
With school staring recently, I (M) realized that my crush is in no of my classes. I only saw her in the hall a few times. Wish I could talk to her outside of class, when her friends aren’t around. I have her number but we haven’t texted for about 5 months. What should I do? | Crushes |
i'm going crazy over Jodie..Foster... she is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen, and in the world.. and she isso natural... no plastic surgeries.. | Crushes |
I went to the store I work at with my friend on my time off to show her my crush. But he was gone already. So we ate some food nearby. I went back and looked at my schedule for next week and then I put my number in his locker. My locker is right above his. Hopefully he texts me. 🤞🏻 | Crushes |
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