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I have a crush on this girl we haven’t known for long at all but she has a boyfriend. How should I go about handling it? Wait it out? Open to all advice | Crushes |
I recently deleted IG, it didn’t bring me any kind of happiness and just created drama. I see a lot of dudes here talk about how girls have asked for their IG or snap.
Would you date someone who’s dark on social media? I honestly started to hate Instagram, I don’t plan on getting it back either. So I’m just curious | Crushes |
^^ | Crushes |
Known the person for about a year now, we are quite close and go out in a group/message daily basically.
But I don’t know wether it would be a good idea to ask their close friend first what they think of me confessing my feelings for them? Or just go straight for it? | Crushes |
Omggg I asked my crush why she was wearing a Jacket when it’s hot out today and she said “Oh it feels like you’re not wearing anything since it’s open” Then she got SO flustered and was trying to correct herself, it was soooo cuteeeee!!! ALSO when is the right time to go beyond just being friends? | Crushes |
OH MY GOD EXACTLY WHAT THE TITLE SAYS. IT'S OFFICIAL, WE ARE DATING
WE WERE BOTH VIDEO CHATTING AND I WAS JOKING ABOUT DRINKING SOME BEER, HE SAID "AH, THE STRUGGLES OF HAVING AN ALCOHOLIC **GF**" AND I SAID "HOW ABOUT I CALL YOU BF TOO" AND HE SAID SURE;!;@,
AHAHAHAHAA SHIT I HAVE A BF NOW AND HE CALLS ME ADORABLE FUCKKKKKKKKK JESUS ALMIGHTY THANK YOU FOR THIS BREAD | Crushes |
I consider myself to be a daydreamer when it comes to reality. I prefer to be stuck in my own thoughts and world, rather than having to deal with the real world. I tend to feel quite weighed down and depressed when it comes to having to be myself where people can see me and judge me.
With that being said, I'm currently head-over-heels in love right now. I have a massive crush, and can temporarily block out my depression and anxiety when I'm with him. Hell, even if it's just an hour playing together on Xbox, it completely changes me.
The issue I see is that it's such a 50/50 thing. There's no subtleness in it at all, it's just from one extreme to another. It's painfully obvious when it happens, too.
One of my closest friends always makes jokes about how I change when my crush appears, like from being really serious, to bubbly and giggly.
I guess it's just worrying me that I'm reacting so differently around my crush versus when I'm distant.
If anyone can offer some advice on if this is normal and okay, I'd greatly appreciate it.
Thank you for reading. | Crushes |
I’ve had this crush for a little while now, if you can still call it crush at this point I’m pretty sure I’m in love.
So he’s my colleague (not for long tho) and he’s always been nice and kind to me. Making jokes at work, tickling me and poking my sides to scare me. I think it’s cute and it’s what made me fall for him.
And when we met outside of work or when we were smoking after our shifts end he’d always greet me or say goodbye to me with a hug and a kiss on the cheek.
Last week I met him and a few other colleagues for a festival that was in our city. Turns out one of the colleagues is his girlfriend, he didn’t even tell me one of the other colleagues did because they were starting to make fun of me because they noticed I had a thing for him.
He and his girlfriend made out right in front of me, that imagine burned into my head. It really makes me want to cry.
After that he pulled me aside and asked me if I liked him, Of course I admitted it, what’s the point in hiding it? He told me things like “You’re my type, and you’re really cute” and “If I was single I’d try to kiss you just to see how you’d react”
I thought he might get more distant after that but no, we texted almost everyday since that night and today I even was at his place. And he sent me text messages that had a really flirty/sexual vibe to them. I don’t know how to feel about them.
I’ll probably go to his place again this weekend or start of next week(He asked btw) Should I just bring it up again? He told me he’s always open to talk about anything.. but I don’t wanna kill the mood. I feel too attached to him to just let him go, ik it’s stupid but for some reason I hope he breaks up with his gf and tells me that he likes me
too.
What should I do know? Are these mixed signals or am I just paranoid?
I’m really frustrated ,please leave some advice thank you. | Crushes |
I get a boner real fast around my crush (wich is more of a girlfriend now) and I don't know if she feels awkward about it when hugging or cuddling, so i'm curios how other girls feel about it. | Crushes |
So I have a massive crush on my best friend and yesterday we went to a baseball game (GO CARDS!!!) I live in st louis if you can't tell lmao. During the game I was just fantasizing about seeing us on the jumbotron when they did the kiss cam and just going for it. It wasn't very likely and it didn't happen but it was fun to think about. Oh and the cardinals won the game the rockies can suck it 😎 | Crushes |
This song really makes me think of mine https://youtu.be/jHs6CKDdwvc | Crushes |
Interest that shouldn't be at all , but is there.
So this guy is a po and I have a huge amount of interest which I shouldn't but , I do . I know this will never probably happen . I also just got done getting cheated on. Out of no where I got feelings. Really not sure as to why because we don't even have good conversations and know nothing about each other. Biggest red flag is ....he slept with a cops wife ......impregnated her and uh yeah lol. So I'm just sitting here trying to find a way to stop being drawn to him, but I can't see to stop no matter how hard I try. (30 f) (unknown age for m) . Sorry , but I had to let this secret out some how thank you and it's been almost two years. But, thank you. | Crushes |
My crush and I are about to go into sixth form together and we're rlly close friends. We also went to prom together (her friends too but it was like 90% us talking). We took photos at a booth, her friend took one of us together, and one of us we had our arms around eachother. I've told her I like her about 2 years ago and this stuff happens anyway, and I'm debating whether to mention it again. I've had a crush for 4 years now and it's a little distracting by now. There have been way more signs after I said how I feel and idk what it all means. My previous post mentions a lot of these but in short we go out for dinner, movies, bowling theme parks, do datey activities and her and she's hugged me multiple times. Should I talk with her about it before we start school again? I really like her and she's my best friends so when people joke 24/7 about us as a couple it gets distracting. I'm also worried to bring it up again because I'm shy and it feels awkward to bring up again.
P.S we never hung out before I told her (too shy and felt like nothing would be platonic) | Crushes |
I think I might have a chance with this guy I like but I wanna be sure before I try anything
Last night we somehow ended up telling eachother a bunch of pickup lines | Crushes |
So, tomorrow I'm confessing to my work crush. I did the truth/dare thing on another post, chose dare, got dared to tell him.
He's shorter than me, has beautiful brown eyes and tan skin, awesome hair, a laugh that makes me just want to hug him. He always makes me laugh and helps me out. I hope he likes me back. | Crushes |
I used to never ever crush on people. Now, in my mid-twenties, I'm becoming infatuated with people left and right. I feel like this is rare for a guy to experience, idk. | Crushes |
I have never even talked to this person before and we aren't even in the same grade but someone random girl gave me her snap but she wont start the conversation why would someone do this if they wanted to be friend which i doubt would happen cause we have no common interest also no classes together am I overthinking orrr | Crushes |
Like today I went on a run and everytime I wanted to stop I'd tell myself "no! Keep going for her!" And I'd pretend she's there on the sidelines cheering me on. But anyways gonna see her in like 2 hours so I'm going to meditate! Wish me luck! | Crushes |
So… I really like this girl, we were in the same class and now where both going to different colleges.
We only had small talks, not really big conversations about personal things. Now we only have contact via Snapchat. (Only the daily streak). I’m giving little hints. And sometimes she does too.
What I should add is. ( I did last year texted one of my friends a day before his birthday. With open this on 0:00. So I wished him a happy birthday although I was sleeping.)
So when she had her birthday. I didn’t do that, but she said: ‘I wanted it (in a joking way)‘. So I said to her:’Okay, when we are not talking to each other, I will send this 0:00 message to you.’
I really want to do this and, hopefully I am not nervous then, I want to confess.
The only thing what bothers me is that she has a brother. I’m really good friends with him and I don’t want to ruin that relationship with him. Because I want to confess to her.
For the people who still reading. Thanks for your time. :)
Hopefully one of you got some advice.. | Crushes |
She’s a good friend of mine and I want to keep talking to her but I don’t want to feel weird talking to her. | Crushes |
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Edit: It's the next day an everything's fine, it was a good day | Crushes |
What the title says. We've known each other for around 9 months, and she's started calling me those and little occasional nicknames after we became bit closer. Plus she always sends me tons of voice notes and hearts almost every message I send her on Instagram.
For the context, we're both queer and know that about each other (she's a girl, I'm enby). | Crushes |
So I’ve just found out my crush, who I’ve liked for almost a year, has been screenshotting all my social media posts, is this obvious proof she likes me or is something else happening | Crushes |
I can’t lie, I like that guy so much. He is studying medicine and I’m nothing compared to him but I feel my heart beating every time I see him. I can’t pretend for so long… I hate it. On the other hand, he is a good tutor and I don’t want to lose him… please help me. | Crushes |
slay
EDIT: i folded after five mins | Crushes |
I am not even kidding, he's one of the tallest boy in the class and definitely doesn't look 14, but me? I've been called very young for my age, I have baby hands and I am very short (hardly 5"0) Compared to my crush, people would probably assume I'm his younger sister :') | Crushes |
Hi everyone, I have decided to remove the content of this post as I do not want it to appear on their reddit feed.
I have decided to confess since we will part ways sooner or later. But I will still think of when will be the right time to do so. Thank you! | Crushes |
Hopefully my irl friends don't find out about this post lol
(sorry for the long post)
So maybe like 4-5 months ago I met this girl through a mutual friend. Something just clicked from the moment we met. We had the same last name which was interesting, so I started calling her my sister as a joke and soon she was calling me her brother. About 1 month in I started developing a crush on her. We started to talk with each other everyday and I felt like I had a chance at getting a girlfriend. She was so nice to me and that made me feel extremely good. For context, I spent all three years of middle school trying to pull a girl I had 0 chance with. We don't go to the same school, which is quite unfortunate, but we were able to meet up irl a couple of times and every time she was very excited. Hopefully we can meet up even more, but that's dependent on whether our parents will allow that or not. I'm not sure if her parents know about me, but she told her little brother about me. Over the summer, I began to seriously consider trying to turn our friendship into a dating relationship. I began asking people for advice on what to do. For her birthday, I wrote her a quite flirty birthday letter to which she responded with a "thank you" and an "i love you." I wasn't sure if this meant that she wanted to date so I decided to wait. A few days ago, she found out that I liked someone, she began trying to guess who it is but I guess she isn't expecting that its actually her lol. I then asked her who she liked and she responded that she wasn't interested in relationships and didn't like anyone right now. Oh well, sucks to suck i guess. I think the reason she was so nice and friendly to me is because she never viewed me as a potential date. Also, I'm always the one who texts first.
Anyways, any thoughts or answers?
Am I in the friendzone? | Crushes |
So I had to go to staples, yeah? And a crazy cute girl happened to be the one who helped me get the chair I was there to get. She was really beautiful and sweet and nice. She didn't seem as scary as most people normally do to me, and in an ideal world, I'd really love to see her again. Maybe in a date, maybe seeing if that could be anything.
But I didn't say anything when I was in the store, and of course neither did she cuz no one ever does to me. I did take the little receipt survey thingy that she heavily implied would be helpful to her, but I'm sure that's anonymous and that it wouldn't mean anythjng to her even if it wasn't.
I have some ideas of how I could maybe ask her out, but they sound dumb and romantic and probably wayy too forward to the point that it could be somewhat reasonably considered mild harassment. I certainly don't want to be a nuisance to her. I just would love to be able to get to know her more, if she she'd be down for that.
But idek how a normal person would handle this, let alone my self hating socially anxious ass. Did I just straight up lose my chance with her? Or is there a normal way to go about this?
And of course, this is all just theory. I highly doubt I'll do anything, because I'm a feckless coward. But I still would like to know what I'm even supposed to try to do, here. | Crushes |
Not sure how to start this but I’ve had the fattest crush in this girl that’s an instagrammr and fitness influencer… I actually got her attention for quiet a while but messed up by not taking action. She’s lost interest since… haven’t really talked to her for a little over 2 years also because of a relationship I was in… honeslty she’s been in the back of my head those whole time….She lives in Texas and I live in California, what should I do? I really want a date with her, I’m willing to fly out lol | Crushes |
i really liked him SO MUCH!!
i was head over heels for him, his personality is amazing and that’s why i fell for him.
tho last month he friendzoned me :(
it stuck w me and he flirts so much with me and even asked me on a date to see our favorite movie but idk if he actually meant as a date date or not.
i have bad anxiety asking people if they being fr fr or not so IDK WHAT TO DO
i’m really hurt i got friendzones and him flirting a lot right now is confusing me | Crushes |
She and I are great friends and she even said I am one of two people who make her happy in life. I mostly talk to her online because she has social anxiety and in irl, i like to respect her boundaries. Well my friend decided to start talking to her much more often and they stay together almost all the time during our class breaks. I know what it’s like to be obsessive so I decided to cut my losses and just be a great friend for her. Even if she likes me which I doubt, she should just be honest, | Crushes |
Guys, how did you meet your crush? | Crushes |
My crush told me he liked me and thought i was cute but yet still leaves me opened all the time when hes the one who texts first, he let me know hes a shitty texter and apologizes. hes liked me for about 7 months and when i finally started liking him back he gives off mixed signals, maybe hes right hes a shitty texter and im overthinking, but on his phone i saw him and his ex's text (theyre really close friends) and it doesnt seem dry. honestly confused. when we go out its good but then we dont go out for like weeks (hes always the one to ask) help! | Crushes |
I’m 16f for context.
ive heard this is some type of sexuality idk, but very few times whenever someone i dont know confesses to me, it gives me the erks. Not because of their appearance or personality, but I can never imagine myself dating some stranger. I feel like I have to date someone who has been my friend for some time, or maybe I’m just paranoid I’m gonna get murder by some guy I start dating. I know u would have to get to know someone better on a date, but my social battery runs out quickly and I’m not comfortable to show who I really am to some stranger.
maybe this is all bc I’m just a teenager? | Crushes |
Guys I'm tired of having so many missed opportunities with him, next week is my last week and I want to let him know that I'm interested. We both suck at communicating and we're both awkward around each other lol, but imma grow a pair and make the first move. Wish me luck 😭 | Crushes |
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what the title says. how do you imagine or want your 'romance' with ur partner to be ? | Crushes |
There is this girl in my class and she is my crush. We talked everyday(messages) this week and I was wondering if I should ask her out. I don't plan for a date. More of a friend meeting at the cinema. The thing is someone else from my class likes her and she is more appropriate(they are closer firends) to him than me. I am afraid he will make a move and I will lose her. Thanks for any help! Need an answer fast. | Crushes |
Ok so a few months ago I realized that I had feelings for my coworker. I work with my father and I confessed to him my feelings towards my coworker and this isn’t anything new to him since it’s a male dominated field so I get to see a lot of attractive men and for some reason my brain goes to the guy I least expect which would be my coworker. Since we all work so close with each other I put the thought of him in the back burner and focus on work and my studies. Apparently the coworker has been talking about me but in the nice way like he would comment to other people that I looked nice that day. Two days ago he mentioned to me that he liked when we go out to lunch and I agreed that it was nice but then yesterday I also mentioned that I like eating alone and when lunchtime came about he actually left me just so I can eat alone in peace. Don’t know if that was thoughtful or he was just mad. But either way I was just glad that I had some alone time with myself. A friend of mine says that he was flirting with me which went right over my head 🙃. Now I don’t know what to do because I don’t like mixing business with pleasure | Crushes |
1.Just how jelous i am.
2.I still like her and im thinking too much about her eventhough she rejected me. | Crushes |
He spent the majority of last night laid down in my lap while I played with his hair or ran my hand up and down his back. Occasionally we would hold hands. Then later on after he had gotten up from my lap I had my head on his shoulder and he leaned his head on mine. It all felt so right. But in the back of my mind I’m thinking about how I know it doesn’t mean anything. When we first started becoming friends I thought it was a good sign. But I learned when he’s sad, he does crave this physical affection. It ended up being maybe 75% me who gave this affection but two other friends of ours were holding him and stuff as well earlier in the night.
I’ve told him how I feel. He does this but he knows. He doesn’t feel the same. He just likes the attention. I can sit there and think about how he chooses me to lay onto and stay on to. About how the hug goodbye for us was longer than usual. I can keep these what ifs going of if his mind is changing. I can continue to cuddle up to him drunk or tired and be content in how much I love it. But I know in the end this will probably lead to my heart being broken. And for some reason I’m almost okay with that. | Crushes |
I confessed to her but it didnt go well, basically rejected me. | Crushes |
We are friends but she never talks to me unless i start the conversation. | Crushes |
I prefer girls either shorter or of the same height
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ive been liking this guy since the start of highschool, were in our fourth year now. hes never had a gf before and i never had a bf. we get along well, have nice conversations, and were kinda friends. hes aware of my feelings since my friends told him lmao (yr8). in the following year i told him i like him myself and he was very thoughtful in the way he responded, (asking if i was embarassed etc). he said we can continue to be friends and then we stopped talking ever since school started. we barely hang out at recess or lunch because his friends hate me and theyve spoken behind my back before. we only hang out in the classes we have together. one time we were texting and i asked what his type was because i was curious. he basically said i wasnt his type (athletic etc). im the opposite of his ideal type. i was sad, but what can i do?we also dont hang out with each other outside of school, we only text (like once every two months). its always on and off talking with him as well. we talk for a few weeks, then he disappears for a month of two. we dont talk at all, bc of his friends, his sport activitives, or just bc.
ive caught him staring at me a few times throughout the year but recently ive caught him staring at me a lot. he's started to make more effort into socialising with me in classes (not at recess and lunch tho). he also tries make me laugh a lot. im also his only female friend. he doesnt talk to other girls as often as he talks to me.
idk i think he likes me but i also think he doesnt. this might just be a stupid thought. like i said earlier, im not his type (which is sad because ive been liking this kid for four years). what do you guys think?
tl;dr | Crushes |
I just wanna say, i did it, thanks guys but ill be leaving now 😂 | Crushes |
I had gym class and my section was standing in a circle doing stretching exercises. My crush and i were 2 and 7 (imagine wheel positions for this). My friend was next to me at the 6th position, at the bottom part of the circle. After we were doe with the stretches my crush “stretched” and his entire shirt lifted up showing his abs and hairy ass happy trail🤢 . This was when everyone was done stretching and he clearly though it was the perfect time to show off his abs. I couldnt help but feel annoyed cuz it was clearly on purpose. He grabbed the sides of his shirt but acted like he was stretching and he just raised the shirt.
The group got quiet and he made eye contact with every single girl to the left and o the right of me. Even to my friend which he held the contact even longer with and he completely skipped making eye contact with me....of course.
Soon after i I had to turn around cuz i rolled my eyes so far back in my god damn head, I honestly cringed and almost started laughing in a "wtf" kinda of way. My friend started gigilng and pulling my arm because of what he had just done. I couldn't help but think "are you kidding me right now?" At that point i distanced my self from him cuz that was a hell no for me honey.
He also had 3 girl-friends who clearly all WERE SIMPING FOR HIM AT THE SAME TIME. FOR YEARS it seemed. I was getting hella open crush-ship vibes from all three of those girls and by that i mean they spoke amongst themselves about the fact they are all okay with the fact that each of them have a crush on the same guy. It was giving "may the best girl win" type shit. Hell to the god damn no. | Crushes |
So..like the title says, I confessed to my crush, who I had been talking to since December 2021, got rejected (into the friendzone) was completely floored but realised that I still wanted to talk to her and atleast be friends but now things are too awkward and I really don't want that to be the case. What can I do?? | Crushes |
So i have a crush on this guy M13. Idk if he likes me however he gives off a lot of signs of liking me.. he looks at me then looks away when i look back at him... he recently told me he hasnt had a crush on anyone and he has tried really hard to have one.. so we were talking about it and i told him i will tell him how it feels so we had a long chat about it.... do u think he likes me??? | Crushes |
We're already really close friends. We buy food together. We hang out a lot. We watch movies together. Hug and cuddle. Kiss on head and cheek etc.
I get the feeling there's no point in telling her I really REALLY like her... like what would I get out of that? | Crushes |
hello everyone i am back
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thank you to everyone who took their time to message me and also read my post. it turns out he was a player and doing what he did to me to three other girls even tho he is an adult now as he turned 18 and they are younger
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im now happily taken by the love of my life who showed me what its like to be in a normal relationship without being hurt used abused played or mislead and he asked me out and we told each other that we like each other normally. hes a gentleman and i really love him <3 | Crushes |
If you would choose an asset for a partner, that dominants others, what will it be?
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Women of reddit do you prefer short hair guys or long hair guys?
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For me its when i asked her ,, do you even like being around me,, after saying that i realized how awkward it sounds and her answer made it even worse, im an idiot. | Crushes |
Me and this girl met like a week ago we aren’t friends, but I’m interested. How do I make sure I don’t get friendzoned? | Crushes |
In my situation she found another guy and rejected me. | Crushes |
I posted around 2/3 days ago I think a post here saying idk how to move on from a crush(?) I had for the last 1.5 years, and now I told her and I feel weird. I didn't plan on telling her but my friend had to sit like two hours with me and convince me to do it. It was a no, I'm not surprised, and overall her reaction was the best realistic reaction I could get. But I still weird. I feel on one hand a slight relief that I did that and finally heard what she had to say about this after so long, and on the other hand I wish I wouldn't have said anything. If you guys have any tips on how to move on after I told her, and maybe feel less regret and a little more confident I would highly appreciate. TIA. | Crushes |
There’s a girl in my class (both 17) and we’ve had a decent connection so far but I don’t know if she’s just being friendly so I wanna give her a compliment that kinda shows my intentions without being like overly aggressive. If anyone has better advice to give me I’d be more than open to hearing it. | Crushes |
Ok so I've been talking to this girl for over a year now and we became pretty good friends and I kept it like that. I knew she liked me but I was in a place in my life where I couldn't see myself in a relationship. I didn't feel really attracted to her either back then.
So time passes and she keeps crushing on me until I start having feelings back too. We start hanging out more and things are great. This was in june.
One night when we were basically almost dating at that point she confesses that she has trust issues and hard time to commit to anything. She said that she needed time to get to know what she really wanted and "didn't want to lose me". I understood her and was glad to remain friends if that's what she wanted.
I was also moved as fuck by her telling me that she didn't want to lose me. One time also when I asked her why she seemed sad she told me that it was just her resting face and she typically smiled all the time because of me. That made me literally cry. I knew I didn't want to lose her.
Summer coming to an end and she has never been as distant from me than now. She told me that she wanted to be just friends and though I was bummed I was ok with it. However now she seems to damn near avoid me. Like wtf. How do you go from "I don't want to lose you" to only answering me shortly when talking to her.
The logical move would probably be just to stop talking to her but it's hard as hell when I have never felt the same way with anyone other than her. It genuinely felt like she cared | Crushes |
I just can’t. I can’t like him anymore. It’s a bad idea. It always has been. Every time I hear something about him interacting with another girl that’s prettier than me, I lose it. One of our coworkers did his hair for him. It’s driving me crazy imagining it. I know she has kids and has a partner but it still bothers me like hell. I can’t do this anymore. I won’t. He doesn’t even like me. What doesn’t my brain get about that? I refuse to waste anymore time on him. Even if it means quitting my current job and starting out fresh. I’m hating it there now anyway. | Crushes |
School starts in a week and I think I fs have no class with him. I’m so sad ab that. I got bored and wondered what he looked like again so I searched up his acc to see his pfp and OH MY GOD!! I forgot how attractive he is. I wanna scream my lungs out I feel like he wouldn’t like like me. I were so far off from eachother. He takes regular classes and has no friends while I have quite and few and am in IB. We only had classes together cuz of PE and Art but now we’re jrs and I take film studies and idk what he takes. Maybe he wants to be a director like me idk😭 but honestly, I doubt he would be in that class. Sad to see that I can never really get to know him again :( it’s ok. Maybe it’s just a high school phase. He’s the first real real crush I’ve ever had I feel like. He’s the only crush I’ve had that I was 100% confident I liked them. Womp womp for me.
Edit: think ab it his pfp and smiling so hard cuz he’s so cute💀💀 in it, he’s wearing a pretty necklace and I remembered how my friend told me he has one brother. MEANING HE BUYS JEWELRY?? NOT TO MENTION HE ALWAYS HAS LAYERS OF BRACELETS ON ALL THE TIME UGH!
EDIT: turns out I can’t take films studies since my diploma doesn’t align with it😕 so I have to take regular Econ. Maybe he’s in it? IM SCARED | Crushes |
There is a new girl in our school and she is super cute and silent how can I talk or I don't have a topic to start so I need 🆘 help | Crushes |
My crush likes me (i think) basically im gay hes straight but someone told him i liked him last grade and after that he started hanging around me alot more heck once we needed to return some books to the school libary and on our way back he held hands with me for a second and smiled at me (i just started laughing {i sounded like a 13 year old girl} and he didnt say anything about it) well now we moved up a grade and im not in any of the classes he's in and the only time i get to see him is when he passes me when im walking from 3rd period (guitar) to 4th period (science) now im not exactly sure but i think he might be a bus i dont exactly know though but i do know that he doesnt get on my bus but i do have a little bit of time before my bus comes so should i try to find him and get his phone number or something and tell him? Also he might be in a after school program and one of my friends is in that so i might try to ask him if logans in there (i dont usally see him in the bus ramp) if he is in that group ill try to join anyway ill edit this post if anything happens | Crushes |
So as the title suggests i told her i have a crush on her, before we even became somewhat close as friends. It was fine at first, we were becoming close developing a strong bond as friends, but day by day i fall in love. I tried pushing her away, yes i know it’s selfish. But to my surprise, she pinned me down. Even as far as going to my classroom and confronting me why I’m avoiding her, at that that i was unable to tell her why as I did not want to admit to myself and want to destroy our relationship as friends that i fell in love with her. We were eventually able to figure something out, we continue as friends after telling her that i have a crush on her. Sometimes it’s awkward yes, but not by a lot we are still able to hang out. These past few days we even call each other, it’s not something we used to do. Hang out more often, but even after telling her i like her, she’s considering my feelings, like the time she apologised replying late, hurting my feelings, sending me a snap with a boy who was apparently her step brother. Yesterday late at night, 2am she was drunk? We ended up calling each other for quite a long time after my shift, even her joking about me going to her house to bring her food, but before that i invited her to get some dinner, she said that it would seem like something more than just friends would do. Which i openly agreed, I am super confused, this is not something i’m used to, in my POV this is definitely not something a friend would just do. Or am i mistaken, is this something more to this? | Crushes |
(well it does make sense, as most of the girls are taller than most of boys, like only 3 boys in a class are taller than most girls ) | Crushes |
Update to the post from yesterday, I couldn't sleep with that thought so I asked reddit their opinion and someone told me I should just ask them or I won't be able to move on and they were right. So when she got home from work I asked my crush(I'll call her Hannah) "I have one final question to ask and I'll leave you alone because I want to respect your current relationship. This was her response
Hannah: "You're not bothering me bishhh, I told you I wanna listen lol. And yes I shall reply to your question. You're not disrespecting at all, you're just hurt"
Me: You've probably already answered technically idk but I just wanna ask. Did you like me back?
Hannah: Like you back like, have I ever had feelings for you?
Me: depends. Whats ur definition of feelings
Hannah: Well I had a crush on you before but that was when I wasn't allowed to date yet. We grew closer to each other, I started to love you as my little bro/bestfriend. And right now that's also what I feel
we just talked after and she was trying to comfort me the whole time. Not very depressing batman sigma of me I know lol. I'm glad I got some clarity though because I constantly wondered if she actualy liked me back. I feel bad she even said this next text
Hannah: "But I'm really grateful you loved me like that lol I admit it but I'm stupid for not going to you, but I don't want to play with your heart"
That's pretty much it for now on our story. For now I'll try to move on but best believe I'll make a move if she becomes single again. Maybe one day. I'll definitely update | Crushes |
basically do as the title says, but ill also ask you about them in return | Crushes |
I haven’t talked to her sense July and I really miss her. I just want to know what I should do. | Crushes |
My friend likes my crush and i feel like i don’t have a chance.
So basically there is this guy i’ll call him A. A abs me are really good friends, we have a rapport and he generally calls me by my surname and banters with me. I am also friends with this girl i’ll call her B. B is really nice and we have been friends for a while. The problem is she likes A too. A and B are closer than me and A cause they sit together in chemistry and idk i think A likes her too. I haven’t told B about my crush but did ask her indirectly what she would do if her friend also had a crush on A. She said she would shoot her shot and if it happened it happened. I’m just feeling bummed cause i really like him and we are good friends. any advice? | Crushes |
its been exactly a month since we first met and since i first started falling for him and things have really changed a lot!!!!a lotttttt
i m the only one who's into him and he just treats me as a friend or just like he treats everyone else and this sucks....i don't blame him
he got his ear pierced today!!!cool!!!i was so happy seeing him smile after getting his ears pierced
he's living his life but wtf am i doing? the only thing m doing is just think about him and care for him and ntg else
i just feel like I'm wasting my time but i can't help it.....i wish we cud date but ik i am not his type mayb idk
cz we're totally opposite to each other
i remember i told my sis i would never date someone who does this that blah blah
but this guy is everything of what I said i would hate in a guy and m still falling for him and i hate it but ig i love it idk | Crushes |
I’ve had a crush on this guy for a few months now, and at some point we started talking but then he got so busy and I know he deals with a lot of stress so I stopped speaking to him, and at this point I’m just so nervous and intimidated around him in fear of stressing him out and I’m not sure I like him anymore, but if I didn’t then I wouldn’t be so nervous around him
I have a friend who recently started liking me, and while he said he’s okay with being friends he does still say and do some suspicious things that I try not to think to much about. We do honestly get along so well and he makes such cute facial expressions, but if I’m honest I would not like him if he cut his hair, and I believe that I shouldn’t be dating someone who I won’t be loving all of. His hair isn’t even what I like about him, he has such bold features and cute puppy eyes and a funny and quick thinking personality, but seeing pictures of him without his hair (although i could just not like it because he was younger in those photos) made me realize that even if I like him it wouldn’t be all around true
But maybe I’m just out here liking people to fill the void. I don’t know what to think anymore | Crushes |
What does that even mean? | Crushes |
I'm good with making out poetry and stories. So choice of words and most of the wishes won't be a problem. The clock will strike 12 in about an hour and a half. I just wanted some suggestions from the girls on how do you want someone to wish for you and what to include in the writings. Along w the gift what would you usually like to have and does it have to be something that's long lasting or just food and chocolate. Thank you for the assist I hope I can express my feelings to her soon. I've been keeping it secret for 8 years already | Crushes |
I (M13), have a crush on my best friend (also M13), and have no idea if he likes me or not. I'm gay and closeted, I don't know about him. We've known each other for years but I realised I like him about a year ago.
We message each other almost every day and 2 days ago he came to my house to play a new game together, we've played the game together with online multiplayer yesterday and today, and we have a lot of inside jokes and have a similar sense of humour.
He isn't very clear about his emotions towards anyone, he often just jokes around a lot so it's quite difficult to tell how he's feeling. I'm always nervous around him and often don't speak clearly or make typos, he sometimes acts similar but not as much.
Could he like me? Any advice? Ask me anything if I should have put more info. | Crushes |
I(F somewhere between 20 & 50 to keep it vague) also am demi as hell(which I'm not entirely sure if it was developed as a defense mechanism or if I've always been like this). Lately though I've started feeling like I have feelings for a friend(F somewhere between 20 & 50 again to keep it vague but the same age as me), I know I like guys so I'm not fully questioning. But I think I might be like? Diet Bi? I've had close female friends before and I never developed feelings for the same way I've had close male friends I didn't develop feelings for, but I HAVE developed feelings for male friends before. So it's not entirely uncharted territory but at the same time it is.
The issue is I'm pretty sure she's not exactly straight(I know she's demi but we've never really talked about relationships outside of when I was dating my ex at the beginning of our friendship before he dumped me)(it's been awhile so I'm over it and this is not a rebound thing) but she definitely knows I've identified as straight. It was only recently I realized I might like her and I just? Some of the things she says make me think she might like me but not want to say anything because she 'knows' I'm straight and I really have absolutely no idea how to address this. I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice or just to vent, but I needed to talk about this somewhere and my go to friend I would talk to about this has been really busy lately because her and her husband are in the middle of building a house. | Crushes |
I have liked one of my best friends for a while now and I’ve spoken a lot about her on here. I know she’s straight and I know she has a boyfriend but I thought I could handle it. She texted me today saying that he kissed her.
I feel gutted. I don’t know what to do with myself. I knew this was gonna get me hurt but I just didn’t anticipate how much. I obviously can’t tell her so I’m stuck with acting supportive and hyping her up, which isn’t the worst thing in the world but still. I don’t know what to think or feel. Help me. | Crushes |
I don't know what to say to her so it's mostly just "hi" so any ideas what to say to her that maybe will start a conversation maybe? | Crushes |
I love this girl so much but I know she doesn’t like me back. It’s like having everything crumble around me I’m failing my classes cause of what feels like my life ending. I feel numb knowing I’ll never have her
Please.
Help. | Crushes |
I (17F) HAVE 10 SCHOOL DAYS LEFT BEFORE GRADUATION AND PROM.
He’s extroverted and in almost all of my classes. He is also in my homeroom. We don’t talk at all but there has been various instances in the past where we had to due to being in the same school for 10 years. I only started liking him at the start of this year.
I believe that I’m quite socially awkward and possess quite a bland personality. I’m not good looking at all either. I also don’t put that much effort in the way I present myself in comparison to others my age. All in all, I don’t think we’re compatible but I do just want to simply tell or express my feelings to him.
Initially, I was planning on doing it on the last day of school as i do not want to deal with the awkwardness or the ‘I don’t want to deal with you’ phase after a confession. It would still quite be inevitable however as I would still continue to see him for our post-graduation final exams. At the moment, i just want to drop minor/major hints (so that the confession is somewhat expected) and see how things play out.
I don’t know where to begin or how to play it off smoothly. He’s always with his friends during break and in the library after school. It would definitely look weird if I just started approaching him out of no where.
I don’t know if this would be relevant but he’s been in a previous healthy relationship (2 yes back), but I believe it was him who broke it off. I do not know if he is with someone else atm.
Some of the things I thought about doing leading up to the confession:
>Asking him if he likes coffee and handing him some coffee flavoured candy. (THIS IS LAME IK)
- possible outcome: he’d probably say no and feel uncomfortable
>Asking him about class work.
- P.O: He would simply answer and the convo ends there bc I have nothing else to talk abt
Some of the things I thought about for the confession:
>Asking him to hold the flowers I hand him following with a walk out.
-My thoughts: not explicit enough. Essentially this would not accomplish anything.
>Just telling him straight up in addition to asking him to not feel obligated to reply (I really don’t want him to feel uncomfortable) followed with a gift… idk what yet.
Although the latter seems the most reasonable, I cannot figure out the right timing and execution! I would appreciate any advice or opinions given but please if you do, do it soon! | Crushes |
I've always tried to not think too much about "signs" girls give. Because it seems, most of the time, it's not as deep as you think, and they just act nice.
However this girl i swear.. I'mma list some "signs" that i think are valid to take into consideration
- she told me when we were at a party that i look "sexy"
- she once said that she would "totally hook up with me"
- she always tries to get my attention "Hey, come here" "can you come with me, i'm afraid of going alone there" "Here, i made a gift for you"
- she looks for ways for me to compliment her
- she seems to try to impress me "oh i was at this party it was insane omg"
- she is almost always near me. She will sit next to me in class, during breaks etc
- she drew a picture of me, it was cartoon picture sort of and took her 3 minutes or so but still
So despite all of this, sometimes she will act the EXACT opposite.
Especially when we are not at school. Like when we are waiting at the bus stop or something, she will pretty much ignore me.
And you could say she is just trying to look good in front of my classmates or whatever, but when we are in school it doesn't matter if other people are there or not, she is completely engaged with me.
But then as i said after school, i can barely talk to her because she has zero interest, it seems.
She also made sure to not forget my birthday by writing it into her calender, yet she FORGOT IT.
So yeah.. I have 2 taken on this.
1. She is into me, but doesn't really know how to show it
2. She just enjoys the attention
Let me know your thoughts | Crushes |
So whenever i am alone with my crush it's usually very comfortable, like sometimes it's a bit awkward but overall we have a good connection.
Sometimes we flirt and joke around, and everything is smooth.
However there is one dude in my class who subtly bullies me and it's killing my confidence.
Like recently he saw how i tried to flirt with her and made some sarcastic remark while smiling and i should get her or something, but i could tell he wasn't being serious, he was treating me like that weird dude that won't ever get the girl anyway, so he made fun of the situation and how absurd it was.
I know that because before he bullied me there was a different guy. He was a lot more socially awkward then i am and whenever he tried to make a move on a girl, the dude made the same comments and laughed about it etc
So now i feel like that social awkward kid that doesn't get treated serious, just because of him.
How can i keep my usual confidence when I'm around him? Any advice? | Crushes |
GUYS. look. im not one to be hopeful cuz i know stories like this are unlikely. BUT OHHHHHH i just spent 2 hours cuddling with him and even tho we’ve done that before something in my head just told me ‘im going to marry this boy one day’ like?? i trust my intuition VERY much so i was like super weirded out cuz im still young of course, but this itching voice KEPT incessantly popping into my head and going ‘IF I DONT MARRY THIS DAMN BOY’……… guys stop ive never felt like this before…
TW: mentions of ed and the big sleep
so like ive been kinda sick and half assed-ly trying to get better for him so we can have a future together, but like idk i never really BELIEVED it could actually happen yknow? like ofc i wanted it but now i know i HAVE to have a future with him, im going to try my ABSOLUTE BEST to get better!
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thanks for reading if you have <3 have a nice day! | Crushes |
Alright so basically like a few weeks ago I kind of met him at an after-school club. I knew he looked extremely familiar and so I tried to get my friend to let me ask him so she gave me his number. We started talking and I introduced myself. We clicked pretty fast and we started flirting eventually. It was very innocent it was just like sending each other tiktoks that had like cute hearts and whatnot. We sent each other cute pictures but we were not dating. Tonight he said "love you" after telling me good night and I'm like shaking?! Like I'm just so shocked. I wasn't really expecting it but it made my heart rush. I just sent "😳" but I am honestly out of words!! What do I do? What does he mean? | Crushes |
So my friend knows I like him (as a crush) and earlier he did one of those status things with a send a red heart if you would date me and blah blah blah but then I sent the red heart and he said that he didn't realise I would actually wanna date him lmao and he asked me out and I said yes!!!!!! | Crushes |
we were in class when out of the blue, she sang “i kissed a girl” out loud. my friends started laughing, and her singing that song shocked me (in a good way) so i just let myself laugh too because i found it adorable (not too sure about my friends tho). unfortunately, it made her think that i was laughing at her. i wish i could explain to her that i was laughing because it made me happy and all that. she also has such a nice voice, i could listen to her all day | Crushes |
we are in same class and course.we are not really friend but also have a random talks.i feel like I felt like I would have a chance to be friends with him.
I don't know if I should confess to him one day.cuz this year we hboth have university entrance exam,and we are focusing our studies.
should i tell him after our exam passed(btw exam is 8 months later)and after exam we'll graduate from high school and we'll probably never see each other again... | Crushes |
My friend has been bugging me to tell my crush I like him for around 1-2 weeks now, they say its obvious he likes me and if you look at my other posts about my crush you'll probably think the same thing. I personally just am unsure about it still, anyways I made a deal with my friend that if neither of us(me or my crush) confess before the 7th(its the 4th) they'll have my full permission to tell him I like him and I can't lie to him about it. I'm getting scared because even tho there's a high chance he likes me back I'm still kinda worried hes just messing with me | Crushes |
I’m a senior in college and a girl who went to my high school goes to the same college. She’s a year younger than me and I see her every once in a while but I do not know her personally. I think she is so attractive but I have no medium to start a conversation with her. I’m pretty shy and it’s difficult for me to start a conversation on the street with someone who is basically a stranger to me. Does anyone have advice on how I can make my move? | Crushes |
I have a serious crush on the guy. I see him all the time and he sees me too. Sometimes when he’s there, I go into produce just so I can see him and he can see me. It’s so hard for me to speak up on crushes. So, I always give him the look. You know the one. And he notices and he does the same thing. Straight eye contact and then he always asks me how I’m doing. I say fine and ask him how he is and he says good but then I get so shy, I never know what to say and I just go about my day. I think he knows and wants to say something but I can’t tell if it’s because he works there or if maybe he has a girl friend.. Ugh. What should I do? Ask him if he wants to hang out sometime?? No that sounds stupid. I need help with this lol any advice? | Crushes |
okay for context, i've known her for about two three years now, and idk the past years were really messy. we fought a lot, i got jealous, etc etc. by the way, i'm going to be leaving A LOT of context/detail so this post isn't as long...
i mean third time is the charm haha? i started talking to her again after a long break, and so far this is the best that's happened so far. she's talking to me more, we're starting to hangout almost every other day, like honestly life right now cannot get any better for me.
in this short period of time, i feel like i shouldn't have developed a crush, but i want things to go more towards where we're closer. i mean she's the closest friend i have right now, and i really don't have any issues with her like i had the previous years, and i don't know i really like her. i don't know what to do because as much as i want to ask her out, i don't really know if she's doing all this and putting this much effort so she can just have a close guy friend. i'm happy she seems comfortable with me, i mean i really am happy that she can acknowledge me as somebody she's comfortable with, but i really want her to acknowledge me as a potential boyfriend...
i mean honestly, i'm overthinking way too much, and i know i shouldn't be venting about me and her relationship on an online subreddit, but i'm really out of options and i want things to go well this time. i don't even know if i should ask her out because she's heading to college in the next two and half years, but it seems like a big thing to her, and i don't think she wants to be in a relationship that could potentially not be long term, but imo i feel like it'll still work really well, and in the two years, i feel like a lot more can happen. i mean like, we've done so much in a month, like we made so much progress in a month than we did the past years, and idk i really feel like this is the year.
another issue is, i fear rejection, but even worse, i feel like my question might be avoided or it'd can get awkward knowing her personality. i feel like at some point i should, but how do i know if she likes me or not? repeating again, but i can see she's putting it in a lot of effort, she's doing a lot right now, but what if she's doing all of this just to have a close guy friend you know? i mean i already know i'm the closest friend she has, but i just want to be more meaningful as selfish as it sounds. | Crushes |
Welp she just ranted to me (which I love it when she does) about her liking someone and not know what to do...
So I'm just listening to "when I was your man" nonstwh for the past hour and now I kinda wanna cry | Crushes |
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I thought my desire for people was dead. But I’ve finally met someone who I don’t see 24/7 that im developing this attraction to… and I feel AMAZING. It’s so weird because ive only ever dated girls (19F) and he’s a boy, but I really just want to kiss him and touch his hair and get closer to him. So fresh and exciting. I’m not even at the point where I’m super worried about him liking me, since I’m fairly sure he’s a little attracted to me… I’m just happy to feel the feeling. So grateful right now. I have little to no experience with boys when it comes to anything other than sexting, so does anyone have any advice for how to flirt with him/get closer to him when I see him? He’s my sister’s friend so the times we’re left alone together are short, but I’ve been noticing this growing desire towards him every time it happens. So many little things like him getting on the floor to sit closer to me… my mind is harping on it so hard and I just wanna see him again to see if these feelings will stick… but we only hang out through my sister! Tips s’il vous plaît!! | Crushes |
On the second day of school, she approached me to talk about vtubers because I had brought my ita bag to school and I haven't stopped thinking about her. She's pretty cute and I've been told by a lot of people that she's really nice. And guess what? She is! She's soft spoken so sometimes it's a little difficult to hear her, but I enjoy her presence and she gives off good vibes. Earlier, she told me my music (I have an Instagram highlight of me singing) was really good. It made me really happy and I wanna get to know her better. | Crushes |
Idk, I feel like no guys flirt with me or are interested in me romantically at school and idk if I'm dense and can't pick up one cues or if I'm legitimately ugly 🤷🏾♀️ | Crushes |
basically i forgot to mention this… but we call each other gf and bf. we’re in the early stages of dating, testing things out :3 im so GLAD!! i find him so cute aah | Crushes |
Yesterday at the game during the start of varsity’s, my friend and I had come back from the bathroom and were then walking to the concession stand. We then were underneath the bleachers since were walking to the concession stand and my friend was a bit in front of my, and bit towards my side. And I was on my phone when, she moved a bit more towards the side and so did I, since I felt a bunch of guys behind me. All of a sudden, some guy taps on my shoulder and I looked behind me and it was on the JV players. He says, “Hey I saw you during the game, and I thought you were pretty cute. can I get your number?” I was like, “Hmm… sure.” He held out is phone and well I might’ve been rude but I took his phone out of his hand and put in my number, and gave it back to him and was like, “Here you go.” I then looked at him and he held out his hand and was like, “Thanks, my name is Damien” and I was like, “My name is Kate.” And then my friend and I got out from underneath the bleachers and they left, and honestly I felt excited.
Also, my brother and friends said he is a good guy, but did have a not-so-good past but he did change. And my brother said that if he tells this guy, Damien, that he is my brother, that Damien will respect me more. And, also that my brother approves of Damien talking to me. Damien and I talked last night after the game was over, and I texted him today but he never responded, and I probably or might not seem him until I go to school on Tuesday, but what do you guys think? Do you think he is interested in me?
Please let me know your opinions. Thank you. <3 | Crushes |
so tomorrow I’m going to talk to my crush about something that happened that might have caused a misunderstanding and I will try my best to get his number too!! I’m not that nervous but I know when I go to him I’ll get super super nervous! so if anyone could give me a little bit of confidence I would really appreciate it!! | Crushes |
I called and when he picked up, he said "Hey whats up?" I thought I'd be cute and cocky and replied with "What, can I not miss you?" It caught him so off guard he paused and stuttered before replying "no".
I'm both mortified and proud of myself.
Anyways, the call ended a bit awkward since we ran out of things to talk about and honestly I almost fell asleep while on the phone. Maybe I'll text him tomorrow. | Crushes |
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