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I(f17) asked the guy(m17) i like out on a date and he said yes. We know when we r going, he wants me to have a think about where I'd like to go tho.
I'm not to sure and have never been on a date before so I'm looking for suggestions as to what we could do. | Crushes |
I just don't understand what went wrong, she locked eye contact with me a hundred times, even my friends noticed. She'd be sitting away staring at me the whole time and won't even try to hide it. I've always acted like I didn't notice because it was just too awkward.
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Is it because I took too long to take the first step? did she lose feelings? Is it because she doesn't know me well? I'm trying so hard to understand why she keeps giving me mixed signals, but she's so hard to decode. | Crushes |
I need help | Crushes |
I work with a friend of the girl I have a crush on and I’m thinking of asking her what my crush would think if I asked her to prom (I’ll probably just ask to go as friends). I’m pretty sure I can trust her not to tell, and if not it’s not a big deal. Is this a dumb idea? | Crushes |
And tell her i wanna see return of the jedi with her not even asking for a date i just wanna tell her that | Crushes |
I’ve seen this guy at the gym for a few months, and when I started to notice him more we locked eyes one day. The next week I got the courage to casually talk to him and complimented his tattoos, he complimented mine. We introduced each other and talked a bit about what muscle groups we were working out.
I found him on instagram and debated on messaging him. I did, and said I’m shy, but thought he was cute. He said he was glad I messaged him and said I was very pretty. I gave him my number and the next day he texted me. We exchanged a few texts, but it’s been a few weeks and neither of us has reached out.
Today we saw each other at the gym and he walked up to me, but then right past me to talk to a guy who was behind me. I’m pretty introverted so I didn’t say anything.
Soooo should I just text him and ask him out? I think he’s also shy…? | Crushes |
Does she have a crush on me or am I overreacting? There is a girl in my class that always helps me. Last week my scissors broke and she took them home, glued them together with hot glue and gave them to me the next day. Some other day she helped me fix a broken bag I had. She always waits for me before going home from school too. Is she just nice or does she have a crush on me? I sure do! | Crushes |
Why would he even bother to read our old messages...? He also had to scroll A LOT to reach that message... | Crushes |
I gave my crush the most awkward side hug 💀💀 | Crushes |
I've had a crush on this person for 4 or 5 months now and I had a feeling that he felt the same way abt me . We made eyecontact several times and I catched him staring at me when I was talking with my friends or being busy doing something. but I just ignored it and believed that I'm imagining it and that it is all in my head because I really liked him . Yesterday he set next to me and started talking to me for the first time , he asked me abt my name abt my work he also asked me where I live and told me where he does .. he told me about his height , his routine after work and his future plans (studies and work) he offered me advices abt my work as he is more experienced than me , he told me" that he sees me everymorning " and he told me some jokes that were actually funny 😆 i really enjoyed the conversation it was lovely and we spoke for abt 45 min till it was time for him to go back to his work , I noticed that he was a little bit nervous as he was fixing his voice whenever he started talking ,but it was fine . Now I'm confused whether he likes me or not ? What do you think ?
And should I talk to him next time I see him ? | Crushes |
Hi everyone. So I ran into the girl I’m dating now at a concert back feb. A few days later we matched on Facebook dating. Did the awkward well this is weird but I’m the guy that ran into you and profusely apologized to you at the show. Anyway we hit it off. So I send a screenshot of our convo to the guys in our group chat with her last name blocked out. Anyway one of my “friends” goes and finds her profile on Facebook. And does some digging. He tells me all this shit about her, which I didn’t know. Found out through him that she had weight loss surgery, and has kids, when her last relationship ended. And stuff like that. So on our first date when we told me all of this I had to pretend like I didn’t know. My buddy said he did it with good intentions just looking out for me. But what rubbed me the wrong way, Is that he said if we hit it off and get nudes if I could send some his way. And I ignored it. Today. I went to the group chat and said he she’s adding a few of my friends. So if she adds you, can you not creep on her? He got defensive and one of my other buddies from the group chat backed me up, and saying all he is saying is he’d appreciate if you don’t ask nudes from his future girlfriend since he’s being serious about her and wants to ask her to be his girlfriend. After that he got more defensive and blocked all of us. But with him leaving the convo even though I called him out to respect a boundary, why do I feel like an asshole? | Crushes |
I have this problem where I always find a guy cute to the point I have a tiny crush on him. Recently it’s been multiple guys and I don’t know exactly what that’s called or what to do. If he’s even remotely cute I’m going to like him idk why. I’m usually not friends with guys, not because I don’t want to but because it makes me feel all weird and awkward when talking to one. Whenever I’m holding a conversation, I keep embarrassing myself and acting all weird/shy even though I’m the total opposite with girls. I don’t have any experience being friends with guys so I’m not sure if this is just me wanting to be friends with them or me actually liking them. | Crushes |
So, i've met this girl a couple months ago and she is genuinely like me sm and pretty, cool. She always looks at me, we always look at each other, is this a sign she likes me? thats what i wanna know and sometimes we smile at each other or just look. Then we always go out and she always says yes to us going out, so is that another sign or is she just being friendly? shes recently offered to teach me how to ride a bike since idk how to cuz i never been taught and i thought it was rlly nice and sweet of her so idk if she js being overall friendly with me or not, but like i need advice guys.
Let me know if she likes me or is just being really friendly, and gimme starters on how to acc propose these feelings and yeah. Okay thanks | Crushes |
I did everything, nice profile picture, enthusiasm in the txt, everything. I even found the excuse to ask him a question about an anime and he answered me enthusiastically and even complimented me. But he didn't follow me back and takes a long time to respond, I guess he doesn't like me
My Heart is broken | Crushes |
There’s this guy that works at my yoga studio and I can’t tell if he’s being nice to me just because he works there or if it’s something else. So the thing is I always go to yoga with my friends and he says hi to all of us but usually holds eye contact with me. And then last week when he was saying hi to us and kinda gave me a wink, (couldn’t tell if it was just friendly acknowledgment). I always feel this weird tension when it’s just me and him and can’t tell if it’s all me. A few days ago when I left I saw that he was watching me through the windows. I want to see if I can try to make more conversation with him but I’m not sure if the eye contact and all that is only because I’m initiating it and if he would just do the same with my friends. Anyways lol any advice on what I should do? | Crushes |
Hi all! I am a 19F college student. I am embarrassed to say that I haven't really been in a relationship before and can be pretty clueless when it comes to intimacy. There is this guy in my friend group that I really like but I cannot for the life of me figure out how he feels. We're in the same friend group and we met in September but didn't really become close until probably around March. We have a bunch of similar interests and get along really well. We regularly hang out alone (though we are still in a common space) and play video games. He's even declined or put off hanging out with our guy friends before so we can play. He makes a ton of eye contact with me, will sit near me, laughs at my jokes, and sometimes I notice him staring at me. The only problem is that he has a girlfriend. They've been dating for years, but they fight all the time and the relationship itself is really unhealthy. He hasn't made any indication that he's gonna break up with her, but honestly, he probably should. He's accidentally called me by her name before, but our names do start with the same letter so it could be an honest mistake. Idk. Is he just being friendly or could there be something? What should I do? | Crushes |
he likes me but I think he thinks I have a bf…
I want to ask him to a dance at our school but IDK he’s in eighth grade im in sixth so IIIIDDDKKKKKKK what if he says no? I see him every day and we live pretty close to each other (like 3 minutes I think) so that would be so awkward | Crushes |
I had a rough day. She saw it. We ended with our normal walk. She could’ve said a million things when I picked a flower. She looked at me, smelled it and said “I’m in love with buttercups.” And did that big toothy grin, you know. The real one. ❤️ | Crushes |
I joined this group chat that my crush is in with three other people, and while scrolling through some of their past messages, I noticed he was genuinely a lot sillier and more like himself before I joined. Now that I’m on the group chat, he’s more serious and less goofy, which is his genuine personality. Why is he doing this? I really like the silly side of him. It was why I was attracted to him in the first place! For context, he knows I have a crush on him. | Crushes |
That's all | Crushes |
There's a guy in one of my classes that I'm crushing on but we've never had a conversation. He appears a bit intimidating and I'm a pretty big introvert.
I'm wondering if it would be better to: 1) try talking to him first and build a friendship or 2) directly ask him out after the school year? We're both graduating so I feel like if I choose the second option, I can quickly get it over with and don't have to worry about talking to him again if I'm rejected. However, some people say it's better to become friends first.
Also, if the first option seems better, any advice on how I can start a conversation? We don't sit near each other and have our separate friends, but walk the same way after class in the halls.
Thanks! | Crushes |
Aight first post on here and yea i think its going well. We keep talking to each other on text and in the last few weeks shes asked to sit next to me in all the classes we share (there’s usually either a space or another girl next to me). And she gets very happy when she sees me and we keep flirting. | Crushes |
so i just need to vent/rant and advice and stuff but, i really like this guy and he likes me too. he told me that and i told him. but, things are very slow for me. i know it’s just a me thing because, all of my other relationships have always been fast paced and just like, mainly sex sadly. but he isn’t like that. and it’s scaring me so so bad. like, i just wanna be his boyfriend and him be mine and get it over with. i think imma tell this to him next time i see him but idk. should i tell him about my anxiety with the whole situation? we’ve only known each other for like 2 and a half weeks so maybe i am moving super fast. but damn if i’m not stressed and stuff. like i need reassurance from my friends all the time that he still likes me
also, i have bpd and i’m just horrified of the thought of that coming out or something and him not liking me anymore, which is why i don’t really wanna tell him how i’ve been feeling but i also know that if i just bottle this shit up then imma just be so scared and depressed.
ALSO! so sorry but does anyone have advice on how to like, subtly flirt or show interest in person? i have absolutely no rizz so plz help. | Crushes |
they're really average looking, but they're so nice... | Crushes |
Like… I know it’s gross cuz you don’t even know them and you’re trying to hit on them based on… what? But at the same time I wished I could be more like that because it wouldn’t be so hard to ask the person I like out. I have real reasons to like them and sometimes I even know they’re somewhat interested in me but I still won’t ask them for their number. I’m not scared of rejection I just never find the right moment or the right way to do so. Also, I don’t want them to think that I’m like those ppl that ask everyone out to see if one would fall. | Crushes |
I can still smell his perfume on my skin, and I am fucking melting…. That’s it. That’s my post. | Crushes |
sooo there's this guy that i'm into and a few days ago he gave me his number so i could send him the hw answers. he's a very VERY intelligent guy who rarely cheats so i assume that was his way of asking for my number (i hope so at least 💀)
the only problem is that he hasn't texted me at all.. but when we are in class he's the first one to talk to me, have full on convos, and genuinely seems interested. he's a very friendly guy, so i could get this all mixed up and wrong in so many ways.. but the reason why i assume he's interested is because that same day, i shot my shot with him in a very subtle way and after a few minutes he gave me his number
i just need advice on how to start moving our convos from in-person to texting bc i really enjoy our conversations and they end so quickly.. but i also want to know if he likes me or is just being a friendly guy
thanks :))) | Crushes |
The main reason why I don’t approach guys is because I don’t want them to think I’m weird and make them uncomfortable. Since I don’t really have practice I don’t know the right way to do it so I’m trying to avoid mistakes.
Has a girl/woman make u feel uncomfortable? what was it that she did that was so bad? | Crushes |
I (17 ftm) have this crush on this guy and we've been pretty good friends but lately I've been overthinking the situation rn. These past few week or two has been really quiet, normally we would talk a decent amount throughout the week and he helped me a lot when I was dealing a lot of personal issues. Now we barely talked and I sometimes think he knows I like him and I made him uncomfortable
I'm afraid that he's avoiding me because I made things worse, as I want to get close and I wanted to continue being friends with him. Even wanting to invite him for my grad party. I wonder if it's time to move on or something. Planning on just telling him my feelings sometime soon in the future which I'm nervous.
I really don't want to lose this friendship, I feel lonely as no irl friend knows about me having a crush, honestly just want some help in this situation | Crushes |
Think of something disturbing you don't like about your crush...
If u can't find one, let me know, I"ll make one in the comments but warning ⚠️ it will be disturbing but worth it. | Crushes |
We left the playground and I swung with this girl. On out way back to the class she said. "DO you have a phone number" | Crushes |
Need some help | Crushes |
Our first date was last night. She came over and spent most of our time in the hot tub. She wrapped her legs around me, sat on my lap, and positioned my hand on her thigh. At one point one of her boobs slipped out of her bikini (still don’t know if it was on purpose or accident)
Anyway we got another two dates planned and I’m meeting her parents soon | Crushes |
My guy friend knows I find him attractive and that I pleasure myself to the thought of him. He says he doesn't mind it when I talk like that to him but when I asked him if he thought I was completely unattractive he just said "I wouldn't say that". He has never complemented me on my looks and I worry he thinks I'm ugly. But he has let me give him a bj before as well. I'm confused as to if he finds me attractive at all or not. | Crushes |
ok guys i dont wanna make this too long but i talked to him (after fucking 8 months geez) and he basically said yes about getting to know eachother and stuff so today i handed him my number. how long do you usually wait for a text til its obvious theres no interest (hes a busy person) | Crushes |
Help with my crush | Crushes |
i was assigned to a group project with this cute guy and started liking him. we started talking a week ago, and he never mentioned anything about his girlfriend (which in retrospect is kinda sus and confusing...). i had even tried bringing up topics about relationships, but the word girlfriend never came up, so i thought he was single. so then i seeked advice from his friend, who is also in the same group as us, and found out that he does in fact have a gf.
i feel so stupid. i know it wasn't my fault because i didn't know, but i just can't help but feel that way. i also feel bad that even though i know he has a gf now, i can't get rid of my feelings (even though i won't approach him again or do anything of the sort). i also feel shitty because this is the first time i decided to come out of my shell and approach someone in college and this is the luck i have :D | Crushes |
personally, or in your experience, what would or what do you think a girl would do when they like you? as specific as possible?
im just curious..... just say anything on the top of ur head | Crushes |
I (14F) have to frequently interact with my crush (14M) and he is currently taken. I don’t vibe with breaking people up, so how can I get over him? | Crushes |
Even tho he barely uses fb, he still added me🤔 | Crushes |
I told my crush today i liked him in my lesson sat next to one another he said he doesn’t know what to say
At first in our lesson we were bantering then I blurted out to him that I like him and he continued the banter”OF course from the size of my brain”and I kept going I’m not joking and eventually he said he doesn’t know what to say and now I’m worried cuz what it was super awkward and what if he doesn’t like me? Cause almost everyone IKNOW has told me has a crush on me has he just gotten shy or has he lost interest? And I’m scared on how awkward it was and I’ve been more upset on the awkward silence | Crushes |
So it’s been a few months since I had a crush on my best friend, and while I feel like I’ve moved on, I still get that anxious feeling around him. It’s not a bad anxious feeling though. But the thing is, when I’m without him, I get anxious as well. I don’t know if this is me still having a crush on him, or if it’s just me worried that I might lose him as a friend somehow. Because I’m not gonna lie, I have had worries that somehow in the future, our friendship will fade. In the back of my head I keep thinking that SOMETHING is gonna break our friendship, I don’t know what though.
Is this my feelings for him coming back, or is this just my anxiety of losing him and being abandoned again. | Crushes |
Last year, I met this guy at work and we used to talk casually when we saw each other around, fast forward to when we were out one night in our mutual friend group, we kinda had this strong chemistry and attraction which everyone around picked up on and started teasing us. He started avoiding everyone including me for a few weeks (probably didn’t like the attention and got self conscious). We haven’t talked since then but I’ll see him around here & there, catch him looking at me often etc, had a burner account on IG stalking me for months and recently found out it was him through talking on it and he revealed he had a crush on me.he keeps calling me “cute” and “cutie” which I love ❤️ I told him I had a crush on him too. (We still avoid & are awkward around each other in real life like he talks to everyone but me & same here)
I have a rule where I’d never make the first more or ask a guy out but given he’s so shy I decided to break my rule and just texted him last week “let’s go on a date” “let’s go for drinks” and he said “I’m down, it’s a date then”. He was also chivalrous to say “drinks on me”. He also said he will text me beforehand so I expect him to follow through. I told him “just don’t go MIA” & he promised he wouldn’t. I was super excited, planned my dress etc and our date is supposed to be tmr but he hasn’t even texted me anything about time/place or if the date is even on..
I don’t wanna ask because I’ve made the first move already and he did say he will text so I do expect that… I am starting to feel like it’s not that he’s shy he’s just not interested.
What do u think? | Crushes |
Hi. I had gym crush and we had a wonderful eye contact for months. We both didn’t talk to each other. Recently I had a fever and didn’t go to the gym for two weeks. Once I went to the gym I didn’t find him. I just saw him one day for two minutes but I had to leave. I really couldn’t see him for a week now. Now I need to find his name. I am not sure if he quit. Will the front desk help me? | Crushes |
So I've been having this woman at work crushing on me pretty hard, I've caught her timing my arrival at work and watching me from a long distance from her car when I leave after her, and I just realized and figured out that this person that has been texting me from a fake phone number for months was her. So the last time she texted me from a fake number she sent a picture of her holding a wine glass not showing her face, but where she goofed was she didn't realize her reflection was seen in the glass if you look closely, and it was 100% her. I don't understand I already told her I like her and asked respectfully if she was available and she told me she was in a relationship via chat at work (although she seemed like she wanted to say more but deleted it), so why would she still continue texting me from fake numbers for months and showing all this interest, I mean it's really obvious that she really likes me so why do all of this especially since she knows I like her? I kinda stopped showing interest as much after she told me she was in a relationship which seems like her interest is showing even more. I won't confront her about knowing it's her texting me from a fake number, but what is it shes trying to gain any thoughts? | Crushes |
I \[M19\] am really into a girl \[F19\], that goes to my college. About a year ago, she suddenly seemed really interested in me, she started snapchatting me and asking really random questions that I can't really remember right now, but for some reason she told some of our mutual friends my answers and they thought it was weird enough to let me know about it. Additionally, she had me over in her house alone a couple times, and offered to let me sleep there a couple times when I got too drunk. There are weirder things that she has done towards me, but nothing explicit. Some of my mutual friends think she's obsessed with me, but isn't into me. I wasn't into her until recently, which is unfortunate because she's stopped showing these signs of interest in me and for whatever reason, started acting like a normal friend to me. If enough time passes I will definitely get over it. What should I do? | Crushes |
It's long story.... In short: she(16F) is my(17M) friend for like around 9mo now. I am totally confused and it's even vague or I never gotta time or never could figure out what is it!!! There's LITERALLY not a single day that I don't have any thought about her since I met her. It's so much complicated for me...
It was short info for context.
We had some coincidences like when I got a bad dream about her the same night she got about me. We ended up keeping suspense just let each other know that happened bcz for me it was awkward/(idk what to say) to tell her. And some more coincidences too.(sorry for wrapping up all roughly but it gets too long when I begin to explain it in words.)
Today, just randomly, totally randomly, a thought about her popped up in my head while I was studying. and unconsciously I started to imagine some **"so cute"** scenarios about her and me together. Like about after five minutes, I just realised and stopped it.
I used to think that this happens when the other person is thinking about you, and bcz of it, you got a thought about them. But I just ignored it for that instant. But after about 4 hours, I checked WhatsApp and she uploaded an image as "whatsapp status" of advertisement of tution classes where she was going an year ago. She was at the first place there. so in that photo, her photo was on top among totally 4 toppers. And the name of that tution classes is same as mine!! Mere coincidence, right? The thing is she uploaded it and might thinking that I will see it as my name and that classes' name is same.... So she might thinking about it at that time when suddenly thought about her arisen in my head. And when I saw that status, I was literally surprised!
Have you experienced something like that or have you thought like me? Is it weird? Am I just overthinking? | Crushes |
I’m nearly 18 and nobody has ever wanted me , finally a guy in my class likes me and I was so happy I heard him speak with others so that’s how I knew and I already liked him too , but after Easter break he wouldn’t show up and turns out he’s left the class:( no i don’t have contact info.
I just feel so at a loss I’ve been trying to not be obviously sad in front of people all day after finding out . I was so happy to see him coming back after some weeks off but I just feel so sad now. Everyone around me always has a bf I can’t relate to anything I want to feel wanted so bad I have nowhere to meet people and yeah when I’m 18 apps exist but I just wanted to experience someone crushing on me back yk? I feel so unmotivated to even go to class that feels pathetic but idek I had to rant .. | Crushes |
I dont know if Im just overthinking things but my crush always react to my stories. Like every single one of them. I kept thinking about her everyday that i dont even realize Im copying ber haistyle, how she talks, how she walks Idk why😭 and the today its my sis' oath taking and I tried her hairstyle where its like 1/4 pigtails and yeah I post on my story my pic with that hair and with my sister and she didint react to it she just seen it goshhh MY OVERTHINKING MINDDD and then last month I also borrowed her dress for my prom | Crushes |
Obligatory “I’m on mobile” before I start, formatting will suck, sorry <3
—So a while back I posted about asking my crush to prom, he said yes! Prom was last Saturday, the 22nd, and I’ve been meaning to update for anyone curious. It went super good! We tried to match our outfits, I had a pink dress and he wore a pink tie, it was his idea which I thought was super cute. He came to my house before we left, met my family, took some pictures, and then we drove to his house so I could meet his family and so we could do another round of pictures with them. His family’s very nice I liked them a lot :)
—The dance was really fun too, we hung around and danced with our friends for the most part. When they played the slow songs and our friends broke off to find their dates or take a break, I asked if he wanted to dance with me and he said yes. The first song was Thinking Out Loud by Ed Sheeran and the second was Tennessee Whiskey by Chris Stapleton. During the first one, our friends who weren’t dancing were standing behind me - to where he could see them but I couldn’t - and they motioned for him to get closer to me. He had his hand on my back and pulled me close enough to where my head was on his chest. *Swear. To. God. I stopped breathing.* After those two dances we said bye to our friends and left early. We went to get some food and then back to my house to change and watch a movie. He left around 1 in the morning. Nothing crazy, and we’re not dating, but I had fun :) | Crushes |
Hi I'm a 14 year old. I have begun liking this 14 year old boy in my school, but we are not in the same class. I have had 1 other crush in the past but I didn't talk to him, so I don't have any experience whatsoever. I am lost on how exactly I could talk to this boy now? We have talked before but it wasn't really a conversation it was just questions and short answers, when we were paired for this one thing 2 months ago. How can I talk to him? If it helps, I have seen him reading books I have also read, so that could be one topic, but I need someone else's insight on this. Thank you | Crushes |
How do i know if a shy ( or extremely shy girl ) has crush on me , she doesn't show any huge signs but i feel like there's a tendency from her ( maybe i'm delusional ) . | Crushes |
So.....Iam a male and I have been close friends with this girl for months, altho we haven't met much face to face, it's mainly textinf...she is basically the most charming, friendly, supportive person i have met from school. I never got any feelings for her, tho got one incident when i got butterflies right after i ended texting her , which went away soon....that was months ago...
Anyways, so she had told me that she tends to ghost people who have confessed to her, i asked her if i get a crush on her, should I tell her and she replied yes, and said i wouldn't cuz she don't find herself to be a crush material and said it will be harder for me to fall for her ( technically already two guys had confessed to her within this year lol). She also had a bf for some time, but broke up...
Anyways a week and a half ago, at midnight, i relasise that i might have feelings for her. Then next few days i got some panic attack like sort of things , increased breath rate at times , also could feel my heart beat so hard...this was due to my nervousness in telling her, i had to tell her tho, onlu then i felt these feelings would go away, i value the friendship between us more than these feelings, and i wouldn't want anything to ruin it.
I told a friend and he adviced me to not tell cuz she might not see me as a close friend anymore or something...anyway i took the risk and told her, she told me " why does this always happen whenever i get a guy friend" and then appreciated that i told her. I then jokingly asked if she would ghost me or not, and she said" tbh iam not sure"....then later she said " it's K we r good"....and it's been 4 days since she texted me.
Ok so the problem is, she had told me that day ( before i confessed) that she was trying to limit her screentime, and i also felt she wasn't much online, also she was busy due to a lot of thjngs....so idk if she has actually ghosted me or it's because of all those reasons. Anyway I am gonna wait some time , then gonna ask her..idk what to do exactly tho, i thought I'll be honest and tell her and she would take it as a joke or something, idk ...what do u guys think? | Crushes |
Hey everyone, it’s my first time posting here.
I have a huge crush on that one girl I’ve seen on TikTok like 4 month ago. She’s not famous, it was just one video that kind of blew up. I think about her all the time, I’ve never had a crush so intense, it’s weird.
My first problem is, she lives in Canada and I live in Germany, like the title says, that’s like 6000km (3700miles). Problem number two, I don’t know how to get her to notice me, I tried sending her a dm but no answer. That leads me to my third problem, I’m surely not the only one trying to get her attention because of that one TikTok. (If you’d seen her, you would try as well, trust me)
Then there is the doubt in myself, I’m not particularly handsome, but not ugly as well. I don’t do anything special and I’m interested in finance (that must seem boring af).
Sorry for the long text, I’m just desperate and don’t know what to do.
Also I’m sorry if the flair isn’t right, I don’t really know what they mean 😅 | Crushes |
ok so bascially I was with my classmates in a class, and we were playing Kahoot. We were settling down and as soon as i sit down on the floor (no one was sitting on the floor at the time) he sat right next to me
we also shared so many answers for kahoot lol | Crushes |
Is this a sign she is interested? | Crushes |
And she said she is still recovering from a situationship. And she likes me as a friend. I feel betrayed and disappointed and ive been ignoring her since then . Is this normal? I just dont want to be just her friend. All opinions and suggestions are welcome | Crushes |
Hi hi all! I'm new here and not really used to posting but I'm running out of ideas so I need a lot of help.
So there's this guy I've been seeing quite awhile and I kinda wanna give him a unique birthday present since well... He's cute! So, this guy's got a bigggg handlebar mustache and it reminds me of Mr. Pringles. I was thinking of making WhatsApp stickers with his face photoshoped to things or big mustache characters like Pringles. I wanna make a few though, probably 15, but I can only think of Pringles and Lorax for now. His birthday is in 5 days, anyone knows anymore iconic mustache characters I can Photoshop his face to?
Thanks a lot for your time and help btw :) | Crushes |
i have a crush on my classmate but i dont know what should i do.....
i cant stop looking at him and always thinking about him :(((( | Crushes |
So I had a crush on a girl in my school last year. I didn't talk to her for 6 months. After 6 months I gathered courage and started talking to her. It went well, but since I was holding myself for a long time, I eventually told her within a week of talking that I liked her. She asked me for time, obv. After 15 days she told me that everything's restrained till friendship. It hit me very hard, cuz I felt our vibes were matching, and many of our interests matched. From then situation worsened, and one sudden day I told her that I'm unable to be a friend. This made her angry and she stopped talking to me. I realized my mistake very soon and tried to apologize in every way possible, msgs, poetry, music but nothing worked, so I stopped trying. She talks to me a little when we're in a grp, but not in personal. I want to apologize and assure her that this won't happen again, that I'd become a good friend. But Idk how. Pls help. | Crushes |
So I have this girl in my class that I have a crush on (Surprising I know) and she is smart and beautiful. I\`ve been on the lookout for body language signs and I've found out that she stares at me for above average time (probably cuz I stare at her but that\`s not important) and she is sometimes copying me (big sign fyi) and I want to tell her that I do indeed like her just to get it off my chest.
So anyway the question is when should I say "I Like You A Lot"? Cuz I'm feeling like in summer break to give her a lot of time to think. (Bonus question) Any other signs that could indicate that she likes me? | Crushes |
We talk pretty frequently, just about every day, and some nights we talk into the night for hours.
She’s got a date with some guy and she’s nervous. Some days she tells me how she’s smitten and some days she tells me how she doesn’t think it will last. Hot and cold.
Last night she said that I understood her type very well but she didn’t know mine. She asked for pictures of my past crushes.
I gathered some together and texted them off to her.
She started hating on them and didn’t really say much more…
I’m so confused if she is doing this just to mess with me, or if she’s doing it bc she doesn’t want me to like anyone but her…
I need honest advice. Bc I don’t want to get hurt, and I don’t want to make things weird. | Crushes |
She and I and a few other people were at a fundraiser event. She was participating a lot and I was making an effort to participate and at the same time talk to her during the break and help her out as well. I just couldn't do it. She was with some of her friends and I freaked out even though I mentally prepared myself before the event. Then after that one of my own friends started helping her out and she gave him a hi-five and they had a great time chit-chatting. Whenever I went near her she didn't do anything and when I sat near her once she got up in 30 seconds and left. Man this is tough. I liked this girl so much... I made such an effort chatting to her last semester, trying to make her laugh,matching with her interests and she was actually paying more interest to the conversation earlier. Then came the holidays and now she doesn't even talk to me that much. Its so formal now. I hate this. 2.5 months of hard work all gone to waste. Now I won't see her that much due to other initiatives and stuff. Aggghhhhhh I liked this person so much and I have to let her go because of my own self confidence issues. Man This Shit is Tough.....
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I am so devastated. | Crushes |
I (21F) got rejected by a really sweet guy (21M) about 1,5 months ago. He never rejected me as a person, but said that he likes someone else and they already have something going on (whatever that means). I was okay with that and also ready that our communication from then on is going to be awkward and embarrassing, but it's the exact opposite. We have a mutual hobby (dancing) and he seems to pay attention to me during practice. For example, I catch him looking at me and yesterday we made eye contact for quite a bit and he smiled. When my friend (his dance partner) caught the two of us smiling at each other, he seemed to be a bit embarrassed (he made a funny grimace). He also has nothing against physical contact (we have to hold hands during one of the dances and he usually holds my hand longer than necessary). Last week he approached me after practice and we ended up walking home together (he has never approached me like that before, although he didn't have anything against walking with me before rejecting me either). So I'm really confused about his behaviour. I thought he's going to back off and be rather distant not to give me any wrong signals, but I still catch him looking at me (not only once, but several times during dance practice) and he definitely pays attention to me.
What do you think is going on? I'm trying not to overthink it, but I really need some objective opinion on this. Thanks in advance! | Crushes |
Right so there's this girl who I'm rather keen on and she's just stuck "oh to be in a relationship" on her Instagram status... I wanna respond to it and get her talkin and that but I really don't know how to start it, any suggestions? The ludicrouser the better ofc | Crushes |
If you haven't seen part 1, you may want to go and see that first in my posts but it's up to you, just if you want to catch up you should read them in order. Please don't judge me in the comments, this is just my life and I wanted to share that so if you don't like it just ignore it please, thank you!
2nd of March, Thursday 2023
So... Today Austin wasn't at school so I couldn't play basketball with him... and couldn't watch Mr Grierson try to beat him like last time, I didn't have business studies today either which was sad... but I did see him last period (period 5) which he was Jarred's study period teacher for today so, I sat outside so I could see him each time he came out of the classroom because I know the periods when Jarred has his study period with Mr Grierson! He came out the first time and Dylan and I were watching funny videos and he walked by us and to the other enclosed area to see his class (part of his class) and after he saw them for a couple of minutes, he walked back to the classroom but as he was doing that he looking over at my area (friend group sitting at the table) or the other tables .. but I looked away so he didn't think I was staring, then he came back out again about 20 minutes later and he talks to Renee then comes and walks behind us and watches for about a minute and after the funny video ends he laughs and walks off and again like the first time goes to the other area then he looks over at our area, I just look away again! Lol! | Crushes |
If you haven't seen part 1, you may want to go and see that first in my posts but it's up to you, just if you want to catch up you should read them in order. Please don't judge me in the comments, this is just my life and I wanted to share that so if you don't like it just ignore it please, thank you!
2nd of March, Thursday 2023
So... Today Austin wasn't at school so I couldn't play basketball with him... and couldn't watch Mr Grierson try to beat him like last time, I didn't have business studies today either which was sad... but I did see him last period (period 5) which he was Jarred's study period teacher for today so, I sat outside so I could see him each time he came out of the classroom because I know the periods when Jarred has his study period with Mr Grierson! He came out the first time and Dylan and I were watching funny videos and he walked by us and to the other enclosed area to see his class (part of his class) and after he saw them for a couple of minutes, he walked back to the classroom but as he was doing that he looking over at my area (friend group sitting at the table) or the other tables .. but I looked away so he didn't think I was staring, then he came back out again about 20 minutes later and he talks to Renee then comes and walks behind us and watches for about a minute and after the funny video ends he laughs and walks off and again like the first time goes to the other area then he looks over at our area, I just look away again! Lol! | Crushes |
If you haven't seen part 1, you may want to go and see that first in my posts but it's up to you, just if you want to catch up you should read them in order. Please don't judge me in the comments, this is just my life and I wanted to share that so if you don't like it just ignore it please, thank you!
28th of February, Tuesday 2023
So.. Today was pretty good overall it's been 4 days since I have stopped having a crush on Luke so... it's been lonely in my mind but the teacher is in their most time now. Today I had a class with Mr Grierson and he once again sighed on my name and looked at me and smiled... so adorable! Then he had to handout paper and he remembered that he had to cut the paper into 2 pieces so he looked at me and said "May I use your scissors?" With a smile and then I just smiled and gave them to him! Then he cut everyone's pages then he said "I won't leave you hunting for your scissors, I'll give them to you properly" while cutting Renee and my paper and then after cutting our paper amd giving it to us, he said "Thank you!" With a big smile and handed my scissors back to me! Ah, he was so cute when he smiled and gave them back to me.. like always of course! Then Renee was asking him questions and I was looking up qt him as he was talking and he kept looking at her then at me and and he was intensly looking at me when he said the word "relationship" because he was talking about the relationships of businesses. Then he stopped talk and pulsed and then looked at Renee again and continued to talk! Today he seemed sad, not as happy when it looked like he was thinking/daydreaming, he didn't look happy at all... I felt so sorry for him! Hopefully he's happier soon! | Crushes |
Gosh, is she amazing. We've been hanging out since November but we've both been busy with our work as of late. I was giving her space to do her thing, but we message every day about anything and everything. Today, she suggested we have a movie night again later next week. I saved the message as it was nested in with several others where she was asking questions about schoolwork. I planned to respond eventually, but the topic changed abruptly as I helpd her out. Then, hours later, she sent a message saying:
"Hey, mister, I see you conveniently saved a chat of me asking to hangout late next week but didn't respond to my request. I can only assume you never want to see me again."
This floored me. The level of playful attitude I adore. This lead to a flirty back and forth where we made a couple digs at each other. It culminated in:
"The gentleman accepts the lady's request. The gentleman also requests that for dinner at a place of the lady's choosing."
"The lady joyfully accepts the gentleman's invitation to dinner and will choose a suitable place in due time."
Very dorky and fun. Maybe a bit much to some people, but it's so refreshing to talk playfully with someone, especially her. I can't wait. She is such a pleasure to talk to and be around.
Sidenote, this came after I told her I wanted to give her something today but didn't find the opportunity. She doesn't know what it is, but it's just some snacks I know she likes. She had a rough Wednesday where she cried and felt realy down, so I figured she could use the pick me up. Finals are on the horizon, so she'll probably actually need them here and there. I'll be giving her them tomorrow.
I'll be adding more updates as things progress. Feel free to check my previous posts for more context. | Crushes |
So I'm in highschool and just recently confessed to my crush, she said that she is not ready for a relationship which i respected, and that i understand becuase she has been more focused in her studies lately and that i said that i will wait for her to be ready and now i dont know what to do while i wait for her. So i came here for advice | Crushes |
I go to an all boys school and there are only girls in the Sixth Form. I just started sixth form last year and saw this girl who was in my Philosophy class, she's very pretty and despite the fact that we had never spoken, started to smile at me as we crossed paths in the canteen. This went on for a few days and I would see her sit down with friends but I would always walk past and it took me a while to pluck up the courage to sit with her. Eventually I did and I surprised myself by doing it as I am quite shy. I sat directly opposite her and she said hello and we spoke a bit but I slightly embarassed myself with my hands shaking. Anyway, that was before Christmas and I couldn't believe it at the time, I was thinking 'this is just like the movies'.
After that I sat with her most lunch times and became part of her group but the cruellest thing was that by the time I had plucked up the courage to speak to her, her boyfriend from her previous school who was not originally coming to mine, managed to transfer. I see them together all the time and I feel like I've got myself a bit friendzoned. In those early days before Christmas it felt like we were really close and we had some nice times alone together but now she seems distant and will sometimes completely ignore me and other times we'll have prolonged eye contact across the classroom. I feel really torn and don't know if I should wait it out and see what happens or just cut my losses. To make matters worse her boyfriend sort of sees me as his friend now and I don't want to go after someone else's girl but I really like her and it tears me up to see them so lovey together.
tl;dr I met a girl at school who seemed to like me and we got on really well but then her boyfriend turned up and now she seems distant. | Crushes |
I (m20) always sit alone at university and I rarely talk to anyone. I haven't talked to my crush a single time.
Because of my reputation of not talking, I feel like it would be weird and quite revealing for me to suddenly go talking to her.
I am afraid that it would make her and/or other students think ill of me.
The best option mighty be waiting for a moment at which I can naturally start a conversation, but I am too afraid when the opportunity is in front of me. I never learned to have good conversations with people, because I find it difficult to react to things people say.
I know it is as much of a social problem as it is a crush-case. Any advice regarding my crush? | Crushes |
I have been talking to this girl that I met at a function. She looked really interested in me as she kept looking at me. I realized she goes to my school and I couldn’t talk to her there cause there was too much people. When I left I realized we were mutuals on instagram. She texted me first and we started talking. We met up yesterday and it was amazing she was showing so much interest in me and I did too. Had a feeling she likes me. Now comes today there’s a confession page and someone wrote a mean thing about her and I said LMAOAOA on text cause that’s what I usually say when something fucked up happened. She text me back saying smhh. Then I said that’s fucked what he said. She’s been really dry with me after. Idk what to do now. | Crushes |
So I will be going out with a friend of mine who I really like and I’m sure she feels the same but of course there are always doubts in my mind. It’s not necessarily a date (at least I don’t get that impression), we’re just getting together to have coffee and catch up.
The problem I have right now is deciding if I tell her I would like to be more than friends or do I just let things happen more naturally? She is one of my best friends and I don’t want to rush or make her feel pressured to decide anything but at the same time I feel I need to get it off my chest how I feel about her.
Secondly, if I do tell her, how do I tell her? I was thinking of something along the lines of telling her how much she means to me and ask her if she sees us eventually being more than friends?
Any thoughts are appreciated | Crushes |
this is gonna be a pretty long story that all happened in a rather short amount of time so bare with me while i try to explain it in a fashionable way.
it starts about two and a half months ago when i started talking to this boy who we'll call james. james and i instantly hit it off as we had personalities that went with each other perfectly. even though i had only known him for a short amount of time i had felt so comfortable, care-free, and happy talking to him. he literally always made my day. we flirted often within the first two-ish weeks of knowing each other, and we made it very obvious we liked each other.
it got to the point that we were talking/acting as people in an actual relationship would, and we practically were except it wasn't "official". so about a month or so into being friends we decided to make it official that we were together. everything up to this was absolute perfect. i was the happiest i had been in a long time, and he had expressed similar feelings. it was all good. we were seemingly inseparable because we worked so well together.
im not exaggerating when i say three days after james asked me if i wanted to make everything official he ended things. he said that he wasn't ready for a relationship, etc. i didn't get verbally angry with him because i respected him and wanted him to be comfortable and everything. however, me being petty or whatever, i was dry with him and didn't go out of my way to talk to him for a few days. i absolutely didn't want things to go south in our friendship, but there i was being rude to him.
when i say it took energy out of me to not talk to him i mean it because i had gotten so used to telling him so much everyday. i couldn't handle it anymore so i reached back out to him about five days after the break up saying sorry and whatnot for ignoring him, etc. he said he was sorry, too, all that stuff.
mind this is a little over a month of james and i knowing each other.
it was awkward at first, us talking to each other again, but we eventually got back to our old selves. but then he started not just flirting but wanted to do/talk about more. i had expressed in the past that i was uncomfortable with that, and he had respected it then. but now when i told him i wasn't up to it he seemingly got upset and didn't bother with me/was dry.
we would switch back and forth between being fine and dry with each other for about a week or so. we're now about two months and two weeks into all this, so from my time right now everything that im about to say happened about two weeks ago.
i kept trying to make conversation with him like we had during the first few weeks of knowing each other, but he was giving a few word responses. it popped into my mind that he had started talking to another girl. a feeling that made my heart ache even though i was supposedly over him and just wanted to remain friends. so i decided to lay off him to see if he ever decided to say anything to me. he didn't.
again, me being petty, i decided to block him over snap (what we used as our main form of talking to each other). before blocking him i made some excuse that my parents had forced me or whatever and if he needed me to dm me on instagram.
about a week later from my blocking him he dmed me on instagram. he had asked me as to why exactly i had to block him, so i upheld my excuse. the conversation quickly died out. but then i decided to say something about how i didn't like that we weren't talking like usual, etc. we talked and things seemed like they would get back on track. except they didn't. we haven't spoken since that conversation.
im near certain he's talking to another girl as me being the obsessed person i am, i noticed he started following a new girl on instagram. without having to give context i can tell he followed her because he ultimately is talking to her.
i hate not talking to him. it's driving me crazy knowing he has probably moved on, yet here i am sulking about him still. i didn't even know him for all that long yet he's having such a major effect on me. i miss him so much. i miss telling him about stupid things that would happen during my day and just talking about random stuff to him. i really want him back more than words can describe. i don't really even mean this in a i want him back as my boyfriend type of way. i just want him back as a friend like we were. cut out all the flirting i don't care, i just need someone i can feel myself with. it's stupid how much i care about him, and i want to know he's always okay.
i don't know what to do. maybe my feelings of wanting him back are stupid, and i should just really try and move on? i feel like we're at the point where if we even had a heart to heart conversation things aren't going to heal. someone please help i hate this. | Crushes |
in case you need background context, i’ve posted about it [here which is the 1st](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11v9vi2/im_confused_can_anyone_help_me_figure_out_what_to/) and [here for the 2nd post as well](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11z0azr/i_suspect_its_possible_that_my_crush_likesis/) (as i’d rather not be repetitive and get straight to the point)
soo basically we had class today and things were going fine as usual buut as we were getting ready to go before the 5th bell rang i was walking to my table to get my backpack when i saw my crush get up and me (being the anxious person in am with ppl in general) walked past her but as our shoulders were about to touch i unintentionally moved my shoulder away from her as i didn’t want to come off as weird and she kinda looked at me after i passed by and now i feel like i might’ve given her the wrong signal that i’m purposely avoiding her (when in reality i’m not, im just anxious in general)
Also in that same day she was kinda passing by me alot more than usual (as well as i kinda sensed that she was looking at me but idk)
what should i do? And am i just overthinking it or did i mess up and im just being an oblivious idiot about it rn? | Crushes |
2 times i failed, in these last 2 years i've like 2 girls, 1 failed because she is my best friend, and the other one, the most recent one, i just found out she likes a senior, well rhe senior is going to graduate but, yeah i just feel like, when it will be my time? it feels like im not good enough, it's makes me feel like there is a void in my heart, and i question myself am i that bad? | Crushes |
After liking the same guy all throughout college (he was interested too but we played games), he snapped me after graduation (May 2022) and we made plans to get coffee the day we were both planning to move out (we both would be moving to the same city in a few months). Plans were for 9:30, I sat in the parking lot waiting… he texted me at 9:45 am that he slept through his alarm bc he had been up all night packing… had no intentions of showing up late. I responded and indicated I was upset. Then he asked if he could call me, I was too busy crying so I denied. Then he asked if he could come by and say goodbye, I was too busy crying so I denied… we had only spoken 3 times from freshman year through graduation.
I told him maybe we could get coffee when we were both in Chicago. He snapped me, but I really wanted to get to know him in person and don’t really use snap too much, so I left him on opened. All summer long I held out hope that I could get coffee with him once we were both in Chicago. End of July he starts posting he now gf on snap, so devastated I remove him and he removes me back.
I cannot get over him. I have never gotten my hopes up so much after waiting so long for him to ask me out, only to be let down. And for him to then start dating another girl.
That’s long story very very short but I need help. All I do is cry over a man I hardly know. | Crushes |
So I just started working this new job in February and I found out back in mid-March that one of my co-workers find me cute and this was after I started to talk to her a whole bunch and started to find her cute as well. I wasn't interested before but after finding that out I thought, well, I just see what happens. I never ended up having feelings for her but I did become inserted in seeing if a relationship can come out of this. As time passed things were not progressing so I decided to be upfront about it and ask her basically what the deal.
So I find out she is not interested in a relationship but more in a hook-up. While I am not against that I do lowkey still want to see if things might change. Should I keep trying or just keep it as a hook-up thing? | Crushes |
So, I like someone but like we NEVER talk. His friends also ship me with him and one of his friends told me that he likes me but I’m not sure if he actually does cuz they might be lying abt it. Do you guys think he likes me? If not how doo i get him to like meee | Crushes |
So I always have problems talking to this guy, and I’ve never had problems talking to any other crushes if they start the convo. And this dude is like super nice. Idk why I’m so nervous.
Today his friend, who I also know pretty well, asked to borrow my ruler in art class and ofc I said sure because why wouldn’t I. And then he gave it to my crush and said “hey that’s (my name)’s so give it back to her at the end of class,” so then my crush came up to me and gave me a fist bump and told me thanks and that I was really nice. I couldn’t even manage “youre welcome”.
Last time we spoke he complimented a drawing I was doing and it took me a minute to process that he was actually speaking to me so I did manage to say thanks but it took a while and i was real quiet saying it. It didn’t help that he watched me draw for like a minute or two after that.
How do I stop being so nervous because really I have nothing to be nervous about ? | Crushes |
We only ever speak online, never irl. She’s kind of quiet, and I don’t know how to go about starting a conversation. I’m not particularly social, so I wouldn’t know where to start- please guide me!
More details in dms | Crushes |
Today I was rejected before even having the chance to confess. I was aware for a while that he wasn't interested in relationships, but I still held hope regardless. What if he was just shy? What if he was just inexperienced? This was wrong, and today he made his intentions fully clear. Part of me is glad that I finally found closure, that I no longer have to worry. Another part is empty, left with a gaping hole in my heart. Honestly, I don't know how to feel. We're still friends, and for that, I'm glad. But even though I desired to be friends with him, another part of me wanted something more. Maybe it's because I'm bad at relationships in general. I don't really have any friends, and for that, I'm sad. All I want is one close friend to talk about everything with and do everything with, with no superficial worries. To me, that is what a lover is. Your best friend. He wasn't that person, but hopefully, I can find one in the future, whether it be romantic or platonic. I went out of my way to be with him, something I never do. A variety of failed relationships in my adolescence essentially traumatized me, and I hope one day I can recover. That one day, I no longer fear becoming close to people and fear them leaving me. My parents, although they are here for me now, won't be with me forever. I hope that one day I can leave the nest and start my own. In conclusion, rejection sucks, but even more than that, loneliness. | Crushes |
Not just any date. It's with a pretty girl from another school and they are going to a book store then the movies.
I'm SICK 😭😭😭
And we just started actually talking smh. | Crushes |
There’s this one kid that sits next to me in class and we were playing the cryptic blooket game and I was trying to cover up my password when they offered me their jacket to cover the screen and I got a warm feeling in stomach but I think I covered the screen too long, I held it for around 5-10 minutes it was very embarrassing. I don’t know if it’s a crush or not | Crushes |
so i just got into a new school and became friends with this one kid. he told me he had a crush on this girl i never even talked to. after that, i started to like her. fast forward, and now it’s january. now, i love her. she is all i think about. not sure when, but i was with two other people in a math class and we played around too much, so our group got separated. this will be important later. during this time, the guy i first told you about, we don’t like eachother anymore. what seemed weird, is that she started to actually show signs that she liked me. of course, i was stupid and did nothing about it. and the guy that told me about how he liked her knew each other from their last school and everybody ships them and i think they like eachother. i heard something about them dating but isn’t confirmed. that other person who got switched in math, he got switched next to her and i got put in the front. i didn’t care much back then but now i hate that. i have no proof but i think she likes him. she laughs a ton near him, even when he makes the unfunniest jokes possible. based on him, there is a very low chance he likes her. i’ve been trying my best to show i like her, but she doesn’t see it. i am too scared to tell her how i feel because if anyone else knew about it, the other guy will probably not be nice about it. also, it seems like her signs are decreasing. we still talk sometimes and she laughs sometimes at my jokes but it is probably normal things and not that she likes me. the worst part, i will probably be the one to love her the most and be the one for her and miss her and think about her at the end of the day. these people probably don’t care. i don’t know what to do. i don’t want to talk to my family about it and my friends won’t keep it a secret. this is the only place i can talk to people about my crush issues. if she does like me i would genuinely surprised. just isnt fair man. im done. | Crushes |
I (M 18) have a huge crush on a friend of mine (F 18). I’ve known her for a couple years but only really took an interest in her in the last 8 months, but I can’t stop thinking about her.
I want to tell her my feelings, but I don’t really know how. Firstly, she’s probably not really interested in me romantically. She is on tinder and I am not, so I don’t really know if she is talking with someone. The biggest problem is that I never get a second alone with her. I’ve gotten really close to telling her, because we share a class and sit next to each other, but she also has to go study elsewhere.
Please give me advice or motivation. Should I wait, and try to drop hints? How? Or do I just tell her? I can also text her, but I don’t really want to do that. Summer is almost here, so I might miss out on my chance. | Crushes |
I (31F) have a gym crush. I’m super single and frustrated with dating apps. Additionally, I work as a teacher (heavily female profession), so I am not having any luck meeting eligible guys. There’s a guy at my gym that I think is my age. He’s super cute. We’ve made eye contact a few times and I’ve looked up to see him looking at me once or twice (probably just by chance?)
Anyone have any not creepy, not embarrassing ways to subtly shoot my shot with him without getting publicly rejected at the gym? We have never spoken - most people at my gym just do their workout and don’t talk to people they don’t know. I have no idea what his name is or if he’s even age appropriate for me…he could honestly pass for any age from 22 to 32 🤷🏻♀️. Maybe I should strike up a conversation first, but not sure how to do that without coming off as weird/overbearing. Any advice is appreciated! | Crushes |
Yesterday I was in the bathroom washing my hands and I unexpectedly saw her in the bathroom while drying them off. I just waved goodbye to her and left the bathroom. I then heard her say "SHE'S RUNNING AWAY!" That's my short (but random) story. | Crushes |
I’m having a hard time determining if I’m just not over the relationship, or I’ve moved on and have developed a crush on him again. Long story short, we dating for two months, then he realized what he was feeling was platonic and not romantic. When I see him, the only pain I feel is the same as when a crush doesn’t like you back, not a break up pain. This feels totally different than it did a few months ago when I was getting over the relationship. This feels like any other crush.
Ugh hep. Thanks for letting me rant :) | Crushes |
So I’m regular at a business near my work place. I usually go 1-2 times a week so I see the people that work there pretty regularly. For context I am a gay man in my early 20s. I don’t date often, nor do I get frequent crushes, to simplify my situation let’s just say trauma from growing up in a conservative town prevents me from putting myself out there.
So there’s this guy that works at this place that is very friendly toward me, complimented me, talked to me about stuff we had in common. Well one day my car broke down in the parking lot of the business, and I ended up waiting inside for 45 minutes for my roommate to come pick me up. I talked with this guy the whole time. And I started to realize I had a crush on him.
I keep going in to make small purchases just to have conversations with him. We exchanged contact info and have plans to go to a show together soon.
I have no idea if this is like a date (I would really like it to be) or if this is a guys being dudes nothing homosexual going on here type deal. I’m so confused. I saw him wearing a pride shirt one day so I think I might have a chance? Even if he IS gay maybe he just wants to be friends.
I have a bit of a complex (result of the trauma) that often has me thinking no one will ever find me attractive, that dating is dangerous and bound to end in horrible heartbreak. But I just… I want to to give this a chance… | Crushes |
So I am extremely shy but I have finally started to talk to him on dms. We have only exchanged one or two messages. He just told me his favorite colors (in response to mine). What do I say next? I want to complement their favorite colors but I also don't want to end the conversation | Crushes |
A flip of the heart,
A shock to the brain
Crimson petals dance,
A familiar pain.
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Bliss comes,
To balance the scale,
Eventually, it was doomed to fail.
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Eternal Blossom,
Mortal Bud.
Dying out quickly,
Or turning to love.
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Yin and yang,
Opposites attract.
For once, that actually seems like a fact.
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Just friends? More than that?
Objectively reading the signals takes tact.
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Or you could roll with it,
Go with the flow.
A river rushing; full of sharp stones.
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They’ll pierce your skin,
Causing you pain.
The blood of a heart,
Gushing in vain.
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Sometimes the heart will continue to break,
Scratch by scratch,
Scrape by scrape.
Only if it makes it to the river's end,
Can it bandage its wounds and continue to tread.
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But sometimes it’s saved,
Pulled from their river.
Out of the uncertainty,
Not left to shiver.
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The river ceases to flow,
With no one around to capture and throw.
It’s over now,
You can rest.
Single or a couple,
You did your best. | Crushes |
I (15F) have a crush on my childhood friend (15F), let's call her Riley, and I don´t know what to do. Firstly, I'll share my history with her:
So, I first met Riley in kindergarten when we were 4, we were best friends. We would role play as a family, I was always the mom, she was the dad - she also had ear length hair and bangs, and she would wear a sleeveless shirt everyday (pretty obvious she was gay, I must admit). We would play even when there was no one around. I remember one time we went on a school road trip and she saved me a seat on the bus, she would always do that. She was really fast, so she would run to the front of the bus and save me the best seat. The whole path we would talk and still pretend we were a married couple (but she was the husband, obviously).
After kindergarten we still stayed friends, in the 3rd grade I watched “Titanic” and we would stand on the soccer goals (the tiny ones) like we were on a boat and recreate that scene - I was Rose and she was “Jacka”. Inseparable, until the 4th grade, when I moved to Spain. I remember she facetimed me and I showed her my room, but I have no idea why she facetimed me. After Spain, when I came back, she and my best friend had become best friends and they were kinda leaving me out. So, in the 6th grade I tried to hang out with different people (but I still hung out with them).
In the 6th grade I was the most miserable I have ever been, I had so many body issues and I would cry almost everyday about what I looked like. I hated myself so much. In the 7th grade it was the pandemic, I completely closed myself off. They would call me and just wouldn’t pick up, I basically didn’t communicate with anyone from school for a whole year and a half. I decided I wanted to heal myself, and start loving myself and doing things I like. I have a lot to thank for that phase, but man, that was a weird time. That’s why I completely blacked it out - I think about 2020 and it’s blank, like, nothing comes to my mind. In the second half of 8th grade I found out I was gay, went back to school, and I looked completely different. Rylie and I weren’t really close friends anymore.
In the beginning of the 9th grade I discovered Rylie was bi (obviously everyone knows she’s lesbian) and I kinda started crushing on her then. I guess she had a girlfriend that did an English course with her, but I’m not really sure. I’m a bit lost in the timeline, but, by the second half of 9th grade I had a HUGE crush on her (that’s where I still am now lol). I had written poems about her, fantasized and dreamed of her, painted about her, and had some stop points where I decided I was just not having a crush anymore, but always turned around.
Now, I’m in a class that is not with her, but I’ve been seeing her now more than ever before. I’m lunching at school every Tuesday and Thursday and she’s always there, and I get to talk to her, and repeat her name over, and over, and over… I just don’t want that to end, I just don’t want to ruin the friendship I’ve been working so hard to make happen, I want to keep repeating her name.
Our interactions have been good, the first Tuesday she said she still heard the playlists I made one year ago. I really like her, but I don’t think she’ll ever like me back. I have hung out with her every school day since February, and I started going really early to school ´cause I found out that she goes really early as well. So we just sit on a bench and talk until class starts. Being in a different class than her didn't make me more distant, it just made me want to be with her more.
There's also something I didn't mention, there's this girl that she had a thing with, it was really quick but it was her first kiss. I guess they aren't really together anymore, I heard that it's because the girl hangs out with really shady people and they drink and smoke pot together like every weekend, and Riley doesn't do that and hates it. Monday, this week I was going to be with Riley, like always, but she said she needed to have a important conversation and it turned out to be with the girl. I think I should also point out that I really disliked the girl, even before she had anything with Riley, because she's basic, dumb and just has no personality whatsoever, but I must admit she's pretty. So, anyway, she was walking around talking to the girl and she seemed to enjoy it, I don't know, but I think I saw them laughing. However, the thing that makes me feel safe is that Riley is throwing a birthday party and she's not going to invite the girl.
I was really sad after that day, but the next day she was super nice to me, actually, she was really nice all week. My head is just so confused, I feel like I'm totally in the friendzone, and I'm in it deep. I don't think there's a way out. I feel like if I told her I liked her she would think it's weird because we've known eachother for so long. But for me it's not weird because we both changed a lot, and I feel like another person now, but we do have a lot of history together. What should I do? | Crushes |
I told all my friends and one of them told her. I want to kill him. Best part is she doesn't like me | Crushes |
Tomorrow me and this girl I've liked for the past year are going to hang out alone together, we've hung out before but never alone it's usually eth others. How can I Make a good presentation or something, I want to be the best I can and hopefully spend some quality time together | Crushes |
Today is the day I DM'd this really funny girl I was talking too. I asked her to the Super Mario Brothers movie when that comes out and I am terrorfied to wake up in the morning. I'm scared she'll say no, but I am happy I asked. | Crushes |
I cant get ahead anymore. I don't care about anything, I only think about her all the time, she's all I want in life, nothing else, I would be fine being ill and starving as long as I had her. But I'm an ugly monster and she will never love me, I don't even know how I could think that such a sweet, innocent and beautiful angel could like someone like me. Now I just want to stop the suffering once and for all and I will. | Crushes |
this is literally a reverse on the situation most people have here that it's actually kind of hilarious
i split this into different parts so its easier to read (TL;DR is at the bottom)
to start, my crush has a crush on me too, but i have no idea wtf im doing. its only now that i wanted to confess to her now that the school year is coming to an end.
at first i just wanted her to like me back, and every day i was getting more and more sure that she did like me back, and when i was 100% sure that she did i was like "i knew i could do it" (I never really did anything to make her like me, i just slightly changed my behavior to relate with her a bit more, but we were basically the same) but i never really thought of what to do next after she liked me back
now im trying to confess, but i just fucking cant for some reason, i already have a note that im ready to give to her, i mean it should be easy at this point because she already likes me back, but for me its not for some reason, its just not, im still kind of skeptic if she DOES like me back, because the problem with me being skeptic and not being able to confess is that we literally barely talk.
i mean we're so shy that we avoid each other. we did interact a few times and there was definitely a spark between us that i could feel, SHE LITERALLY BLUSHED SO HARD WHEN SHE ASKED ME A QUESTION, IT WAS SO OBVIOUS ON HER FACE,
but since we barely interact i cant just go and text her "i like you" or go up to her in person and tell her, i already have a note that i can give her, and i SHOULD just give it to her because SHE ALREADY LIKES ME BACK, but my dumbass is waiting for the right time for some reason, BUT I CAN NEVER FIND THE RIGHT TIME, her friend is always with her and i dont want her friend to know, though idk why i dont, i mean she already likes me back so its not that embarrassing,
so i have 3 problems with confessing (even though she already likes me back)
1. im skeptic
2. cant find right timing
3. we barely interact
bonus: im a pussy
TL;DR crush also has a crush on me, my dumbass cant confess, and i need help
i didnt fully explain everything here, just ask me any question you might have about the situation | Crushes |
I got to know from a common friend at school that a girl had a crush on me so I started texting her. It's been a few months, and at the beginning she gave instant replies, and we talked for hours. I also liked her. Although we never talked at school we were something like 'secret' friends. we did talk sometimes, and it was great. but now she takes hours to replies and doesn't even reply most of the times. | Crushes |
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