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I got rejected yay (im actually happy because now she knows and i dont need to carry all that weight from this all) i prefer being not rejected but whatever | Crushes |
i have serious attachment and misunderstanding issues and whosoever talks to me nicely or even tares at me a few times makes me think that they have a crush on me, please tell me some signals that tells that a boy is interested in me and he is not just being friendly. boys tell me what signals you'll give which u want girls to know when u are showing interest in them, maybe this could be very helpful for a lot of hopeless romantics out there | Crushes |
How should I deal with a shy girl and figure out if she likes me?
I have been texting with a shy and insecure girl for almost 1 week after she gave me her number. A few days ago she asked me why I texted her and I told her why she was cute and other compliments, then she told me she thought she had nothing interesting so she didn't understand why I texted her, then after that she told me just friendship for now. Now that I am talking to her a little more frequently she is always sending me good mornings first and then she is copying the way I write.
ps i'm 3 years older than her, what should i do and when should i ask her out? i'm afraid she's too shy and wouldn't accept, we're even sending each other voice messages | Crushes |
So I have this crush on my senior.
Today in games period, I was playing basketball with the girls and when I play basketball, I get really hyped. i scored a shot and got very excited so yk my mood was really good, I jumped in excitement. Then I look back, my crush was walking up to the basketball court with his class and he looked at me. I suddenly realise the tall guy walking towards me is him! I start blushing and I just freeze until he comes and asks for the ball. I had the ball in my hand so I politely looking into his eyes, offer him the ball and he looking into my eyes, gently takes it!!
Now I know this isn't a big deal but oh god, he noticed me atleast. | Crushes |
Ok so me and my friends had this weird idea to play "Careless Whisper" whenever our crushes were around and chant their name (looking at this now make me want to puke)
So it was recess already so we went to the canteen to buy food my friends were all sitting at a table with the speaker playing music when one of my friends crush walked by so we started playing the song, they were both laughing and embarrassed but it was ok since they've known eachother for ages.
But then my crush suddenly went out of his class and everyone in my friend group turned around and started chanting my name and his name teasingly, he went inside the cafeteria but he also looked at us as my friend told me so. I was so embarrassed then we went inside the cafeteria again but they stil chanted and chanted, silence came and it was finally over, we were going back to the classroom and I was asking if it was bad or if it was ok since there were alot of people, I MEAN ALOT, and my crush isnt the type of guy whos boastful he's shy and quiet.
So when I asked 3 of my friends they both gave me the same answer. He looked disgusted his already slender eyes grew even smaller and his eyebrows sitting on his eyes. Im truly regretting this moment and I just want to wake up the next morning seeing jesus.
Worst part is tomorrow is his birthday and Im afraid I have already messed this up.
Im promising myself to uncrush him and do whatever it takes to get rid of this feeling.
Im even practicing on what to say or what reaction ill make when my friends tease me again. If you were in my situation what would you do?? Im genuinely asking. | Crushes |
We are both very shy
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I know it's a dumb question but I always see her and I'm quite nervous to make convo with her but my feelings are growing more and more since I saw her at the start three months ago and I don't want to embarrass myself since seniors have like kind of a respect and I don't want to ruin it | Crushes |
So I really want to just confess, and get it over with. It is causing me way too much stress. I just believe whatever is gonna happen is gonna happen, y'know, so better to know than to just wait and never know. | Crushes |
okay guys, i went for it. ghe bell rang for our furst period and i was slowly waking next to him, then i approached him and said “hi, goodmorning, would you like to have a donut”? the response i got…i’ve never met someone so shy in my life. he just mumbled nervously. he couldn’t even look me in the eyes and say anything. he said a little “ah”. like he became frozen and he looked very very shy and nervous. he didn’t even give me an answer. then i said “okay” and we both walked to class. what do i do after this? should i just keep waving at him and say hi? | Crushes |
so basically my crush has a girlfriend apparently, is it wrong if i still keep staring at him, like im not making a move and im never gonna confess but i just can’t help but look at him because i think he’s so cute and im just wondering if that’s wrong of me ??? like i don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable but idk. | Crushes |
So, I'm a guy and I have a crush on a girl. She seems to like me too and I want to make a move on her, but the last time we saw each other I laughed at dumb boys jokes one of my friends told in the group, while she was just sitting there looking skeptical.
My friend also showed the others his and my dumb discord chat, where we're just sending sus / "funny" gifs to each other without context, all while I was just laughing uncontrollably.
My crush got to know me as a quiet, reserved guy, who I am, but now she saw this weird side of me where I can't control my laughter. Will that make her stop liking me or will she just think "boys..." and focus on the rest of my personality? Thanks! | Crushes |
just a few things about me for those who need it for better advice: 21M, autistic introvert, polyamory but heterosexual, and hopelessly cuddle addicted towards anyone who likes cuddling too, including other males, and pretty much all my friends are fine with my cuddle addiction. im in love with two of my friends (and both of them dont know that) but one is aro/ace so gg me, following situation is about the other one.
So, about the Situation:
(this happened pretty much a year or two ago already but i didnt use reddit so much back then)
sometimes when we watch a movie or series on the couch and lay down for improved cuddling, i lay my head on her chest because I absolutely love hearing the heartbeats of the one im cuddling with, it gives me some kind of feeling safe i cant really explain.
so on that one day, she took my hand and layed it down on the other breast my head was not laying at, and started making caressing movements, which i was hella confused about but adapted and continiued caresing when she put her hand away again, but it was only that day and never after again.
on the same day when she was back home i asked her via chat why she did that because i was still confused, and she replied with "I dont know😅"
so, was this a sign i straightup overlooked or is this simply "comforting", but if yes, why only one day?
should i have not asked this question perhaps, did i ruin something?
on another note for the women here, does it hurt if theres a head laying on your chest and she just doesnt tell me or are you generally fine with that in the sense of "it does not physically hurt"? | Crushes |
so i'm already close friends with my crush and we talk quite often, and this week we walked together to the subway station (to get back home from school) twice in a row. only two times, and we talked as usual, nothing weird. but the day just after we walked together for the second time, she asked one of her best friends (who is also a close friend of mine, who knows about my love) whether if I told her friend something about feelings for her. My friend, to protect me, answered 'No, he didn't say anything about you' to her.
My friend then told me what happened after, and now I can't stop thinking about this. According to my friend though, my crush didn't seem disgusted or embarassed when she asked the question. So, what do you think I should do now? And do you think i still have chances with her...? | Crushes |
We were sharing humor, didn't know she also have a bit of dark sense of humor, lmao. I was smiling the whole night. Gosh, I'm so delusional. But hey, atleast we're getting along | Crushes |
so basically my crush took a screenshot of my profile photo with him inside and said nice
I didn't know what he meant so I said oh it is quite a nice photo cuz I look pretty good in this haha
then he proceeds to ignore me
shld I be sus of him, and is he sus of me? | Crushes |
We meant back in the begging bc of the second semester of school and he got comfortable with my quick and would talk to me everyday. I started liking him a week or two after meeting him but never did anything about it since i didn’t want to ruin our friend ship. We didn’t talk that much over the summer and i moved to a different school but still lived in the area. Recently he replied to a photo of me and complimented me then on another story he thought i had a boyfriend and kinda said he was sad. Idk if this is him hinting at liking me or not. Also if this is important he would randomly say he missed me over summer. | Crushes |
I'm ready to get rejected 99.999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999 percent. | Crushes |
the first day of my highschool life, 1st period started, i saw a girl that was like a little bit shorter than me, has pretty short hair ( below the shoulders ) and a good personality, i immediately found my first crush then a few days/weeks later, she talked to me, i dont pretty much remember what she said but all i know is that i had my first conversation with her, her name is Rosales by the way, then we chatted in messenger just saying:
"Hi, kamusta ka?"
"Okay lang ako, meron lang akong sipon at ubo"
"ah okay, pagaling ka jaan"
"okay thanks"
(likes my message)
Translation:
"Hi, How are you?"
"Im okay, i just have a cold and cough"
"ah okay, be well soon"
"okay thanks"
then 7 hours ago when we were in last period of class.
she sat next to me
put her chair directly beside my chair
then put her head in my shoulder
then me without hesitation, i put my head on top of her head
one moment later she wrote in her notebook: "i love you ( two hearts )"
my heart almost went up to 190 bpm
then when i got out of school i said quietly: "seems like i won"
now i just need advice on how to get better being with your crush since i have:
0 speech
0 charisma | Crushes |
I (20F) have been friends with (21M) *we’ll call him Bear* for 2 years now, and he’s been nothing but an amazing friend. Me and Bear became roommates with our other guy friends and lived together for a year. Bear and I have been platonic since the start and got close after having a working relationship and being roommates.
After living together I soon started a relationship with my current SO of 1 yr+.
Now my boyfriend and I have been through our ups and downs but we are in SUCH a solid relationship now, he’s even flying home with me to meet my family.
But somewhere down the line when we had our problems, i started to notice Bear more.
I would never realistically date Bear, and we don’t live together anymore. He’s not my type, our views don’t align, and he doesn’t like me.
But why, why do I think about him?
We write music together, and not often but when we do call every few weeks we talk for hours and hours. Whenever I got drunk I’d talk to him and any physical touch would give me some type of feeling. Whenever we talk we never mention my bf, and i never rant to bear abt my bf.
I’ve never prioritized Bear over my bf but my bf sometimes gets jealous when I talk to Bear at parties even if it’s just a few minutes. He suggested bear likes me, but i disagree since bear never texts me, doesn’t remember certain things about me (like crushes do), never asks to hang out, and is way way way too busy.
I’ve tried to ignore whenever i would think abt bear just as a crush that people randomly get, but now that my bf and i are in a good place im not sure why i still feel this way. I’d never leave my bf for bear, but i confide in bear for work problems and when we catch up it just feels really nice. Bear is really sweet and even mentions how his dad misses me and wants to take me to their favorite restaurant.
But whyyyy. Bear is not my type at all!!!!
TDLR; i have a crush on my friend even though I have a boyfriend, but i dont even realistically like this friend because he’s not my type and i have the perfect boyfriend. | Crushes |
Title. AAAAS | Crushes |
I have a crush on my classmate. He’s only been my classmate this year but I heard about him through mutual friends. He always sounded like my type but I never met him so I didn’t think much of him. He moved to a different country in 2018 but came back due to COIVD. I had already forgot about him until I found out he would be my classmate. So I asked our mutual friend if she could hook us up. The entire school year she’s been trying to get us to do something but we’re both to awkward. But today, she finally found a way for me to interact with him. She is our class president and our teacher allowed her to pick the groups for a project. Then while discussing, I jokingly asked if I could hold her hand. She pointed at my crush and told me to hold hands with him. I did that awkward thing where you move back and said “no I’m good”. She told me that he was about to reach out but I made it awkward. What do I do? | Crushes |
We have been texting each other till basically 5am lately, our messages were basically normal but now we're sending each other pictures or voice clips, like he'll send a pic where he's at or his dog or something.
Last night we were talking about relationships and our thoughts on love (brought it up because we were sharing our favorite songs and my #1 favorite is a song I find romantic)
He asked what my type was, my thoughts on love then asked if I was interested in someone, I said I did and he told me to go ahead and make a move then but I said I wanted the person I'm into to make a move first.
He asked if it was him I was interested in, I denied, he then guessed my close friend which I also denied, he then started hard accusing that I liked my friend then other guesses which I kept denying, he then stopped guessing and said that he knows who I like but he isn't going to tell me who it is he thinks it is unless I tell him who it is.
I didn't give in and asked if he was interested in someone, he said he was and teased at why I wanted to know so badly and offered me to guess who it was, I didn't want to because if it was someone then I know it would bruise my self esteem and just said that I wouldn't know who because I don't know who he talks to.
He kept telling he that it's a small world, I did try to guess a few people but he said he wouldn't say who unless I did and we just left it at that
Idk, I told my close friend and he said that he thinks my crush was acting like that because he likes me but I don't want to get my hopes up
Thoughts? | Crushes |
Basically the title, I'm just interested as to what your favorite memory of your crush is.
Mine is when everything was too loud and when he came to tell me that things had quietened down (it was during a school performance, I asked him to), he took hold of both my shoulders and patted one with his hand. Not a hug, but almost. : ) | Crushes |
This pretty girl in my art class keeps flirting with me.
She says "hey handsome" every morning, and always jokes about biting my lip rings and making out. She always compliments me and jokes about dating with me.
Does she like me? Is she just hyping me up or joking?
I've never had much luck with girls because I'm short and kind of nerdy looking. She's way out of my league. Please help | Crushes |
Since my last post a lot has changed somehow (I’m wanted more rn than at any other point in my life) so after my first breakup with Julia who wanted us to just be friends I took a week long break from our friendship, I was feeling incredibly low and sad but last Friday we started talking again and the next day a different girl I knew named Emmalee admitted that she had a crush on me and we decided to maybe pursue a relationship but then as the day was coming to a close my ex told me
“Oscar i regret breaking up with you. i was just scared of a relationship so i came up with excuses and i really really regret it. i know you have your thing with emmalee and that’s amazing i’m happy for you with that and i understand completely if you don’t want to, but i want to get back together with you. Honestly when we were dating i was just so happy and after i broke up with you i’ve just been depressed and i realized it’s because i regretted breaking up with you and i wanna be in a relationship with you. i totally understand if you don’t want to no hard feelings but i just wanted to ask 👍”
I replied
“Umm… idk what to say, I still like you too, but I don’t want to hurt Emmalee, can I please have some time to think about this, I do really like you and I was really happy when we were together too, but I don’t want to hurt her. I’ll try to tell her tonight but the results might not come until morning”
That was 4 days ago
Me and Julia are back together and happier than ever and we’re not leaving each other for a good while | Crushes |
I met this girl back in the beginning of summer, we’ve never spoken much but she gave me her number a few weeks back. We’ve talked a bit since then, but it usually takes a while for either of us to reply, we’ve both been really busy and I don’t think either of us are on our phones much. We were talking about school and she asked if I wanted to study sometime. Sometimes she texts me good morning or that she’s thinking of me, so I don’t know. | Crushes |
Okay so for any confused today. I have an ongoing crush on this guy. I have already talked about the gist of it on another post I made earlier in the week. I have an update. I don’t know if this is another sign or if I’m crazy but I was waiting after school to get picked up. I usually wait half an hour or so to get picked up and mostly everyone from my school left or got picked up. I had gone to the nearest store to buy an energy drink meanwhile to kill some time. I was still waiting not too long, but in the time I had been waiting I saw the guy👀. I had gotten scared so I was just playing it cool. But then he came up to me. I was dying inside because I did not expect for him to come towards me. He had approached me and said hey and I said hey back. I know I’m super awkward💀. He continued to ask me if I had been waiting for my bro in law and I said no, not today and told him I was just waiting to get picked up since we sometimes wait together after school to get picked up. He then said, “I always see you two going in the same car. I had thought you were waiting for him”. I then relied, “Sometimes we drop him off and other times he just does his own thing.” I and referred to having him dropped off his house. He pretty much nodded and said goodbye. I nodded, too nervous to say much. I’m starting to think he has a crush on my bro in law now since most of the time he has asked me anything has been about him and I. I need some feedback guys. No one bothers to ask me this and let alone him of all people. I only have a class with this dude and I don’t know if he might be finding an excuse to talk to me? I’m probably once again just imagining things. But what do you guys think? Is there a chance he likes me too? | Crushes |
Should I tell her straight up in person
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Well. He likes me, I like him. And we spend hours talking on the phone with each other. It's really interesting because I'd never thought that I would find somebody I had so much in common with, who understood me so well. But he really seems to get it. It's strange because I thought that I was alone in my anxiety. For a while I really thought that I liked him a lot more than he liked me. And then out of the blue he just confesses that he experiences the same thing I experience on a daily basis. Picking up on the slightest differences in behavior, always wondering if he has said the wrong thing to someone and that they're not going to want to talk to him anymore. Story of my life. And that he overthinks and over analyzes everything.
At least I know that I'm not the only one who's been doing it. And it seems like he also wants something more serious. And has mentioned that he wants a more permanent sort of relationship which is what I'm looking for too. But feels like he can't get something like that, even as a friendship, because he feels like even though he cares a lot about his friends he just doesn't matter to them and they kind of forget he exists. Which honestly? I've dealt with the same thing my whole life. I've always been the person people only call when they're bored or when they need something. Not because they actually care about me or like having me around. Just an option, not a priority. And I think the fact that I have met somebody who has faced the same issues, who understands on such a deep level these kinds of things gives whatever this is real potential.
It's interesting because I didn't see him that way at first. We were just a pair of people who had a lot in common and tended to talk a lot. But then I started to see him differently. The only issue is he's so damn far away. And we both agreed that we're not going to make anything official until we meet up and see each other in real life again. We knew each other from college and now we live in completely different states. I just hope I'll be able to see him before the year is up. | Crushes |
you guys might’ve seen my other posts about me venting about my crush.
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fissy, I fricking love you, I cannot lie. You’re the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen, you are the definition of perfect, I could never ask for more. The way your eyes shine brighter than the stars I could get lost in them forever, you are just perfect. | Crushes |
For the past month I've had a crush on a girl in my class, we're both seniors in high school, and honestly I'm at a stalemate with myself. I want to try and ask for her number/instagram, but I really don't know how or if I should even try. She's an extrovert with tons of friends and super involved in school while I'm an introverted nerd who's barely involved in school. The only reason I'm even considering that I could have a chance is that I've seen her looking at me a couple times in class, but that's shaky evidence at best. So should I go for it or just chalk this up as a pointless crush? | Crushes |
Shorty said her friends called a group of boys cute but she found them to be ugly and I said shes right they need better taste like me, now shes asking me to send a pic of the girls I liked how tf I tell her that its her without being corny or weird | Crushes |
I want to talk to him more, what are some ways I can do that? | Crushes |
so, im at college and i have a crush on this girl since august but haven't told her anything about it. Our campus is small so i see her very often. I just really admire the things she do, like, she's so creative, so down-to-earth (it seems, cares about ppl. But i can't help but only foolishly smile and shy away when i bump into her. Like, she literally makes me so nervous :p
Just daydreaming about her is driving me crazy. i keep telling myself that i will talk to her by the time there is the perfect opportunity. but idk 😭 how should i approach her? fyi, i kinda know some of her friends (but not closely).
Is it better to not make it obvious that i have a crush on her and try to just get to know her and be friends first? | Crushes |
What the title says!! | Crushes |
So I like this guy and he responds to my stare and I thought (hoped) he is Interested too.. his actions were clearly like that nmp🙄).. fast forward in few days he is in and off.. if I start to avoid he keep staring at me and if I stare back he avoids me.. but now I feel like it’s enough annoying him because I like him honestly and I don’t feel good making him uncomfortable.. I work with me we usually interact face to face .. I just need help avoid him completely and ignore his stares too.. I am confused and worried I don’t want his work life to be irritated and I want him to enjoy his daily life and not ruined by me 😓 I’m stressed now how to avoid bothering him pls suggest something | Crushes |
So there is a girl who CLEARLY likes me and has feeling for me, but I’m starting too randomly develop feelings. I never felt this way abt her and for some reason now I find her cute af… WTF BRUH | Crushes |
Gotta get this off my chest 😮💨
So like everybody in this group I smoke to relax, unwind, and forget about things for a while. Sometimes it makes me sad and paranoid. Other times it makes me giggly and sleepy. I like it when it does that. Not so much the sad part because it, well, makes me sad. It makes me think of my life in general. Like I start realizing shit. Idk how to put it in words, or describe it for that matter.
I was gonna post something about someone I went to high school with. I saw that he’s a teacher and it made me realize how old we were getting and shit. Plus I had the biggest crush on him.* I realized how we’re different in a lot of ways but I also looked at what I like in him. It made me even feel more sentimental (that’s the word I was looking for), so I felt a little better. I’ll always love/care for him.
I wrote it all down, like I’m doing now, but as I was getting ready to post it, I felt a little better. Then I felt sad again. Then happy. Then idk what. Maybe I should lay-off the weed for a bit lol. 🥴🫠
*Still do, lmao | Crushes |
Yes or No, and why? | Crushes |
For all the marred people out there,how many of you all married your high school sweetheart? | Crushes |
I mentioned in my previous post I have a massive crush on this girl in my school. I didn’t mention that we run track together and that’s mostly how we are friends. Almost all of the interactions I’ve had with her have been in real life but should I try like snapping her more? I have her Snapchat and all that but I’ve never wanted to look to desperate. I also find something about relationships that involve more real life interaction to be much better. What do you guys think should I try and reach out more? | Crushes |
I only message her about school works and whenever she asks me a question I kept trying to prolong our conversation is that a good thing or annoying? and because of that, she left me on seen lol or maybe she's just busy? (I also added her on Facebook and she accepted my friend request) sorry for this nonsense question btw this is my first time having a crush on someone | Crushes |
I’ve been crushing on someone so awhile now! We talk a lot and almost daily, but I’m afraid of getting heart broken again | Crushes |
So I added this girl on Snapchat and she never accepted, though it was only 1-2 weeks and I'm not sure if she actually uses snap, cause ik she doesn't use insta or other social media. I'm not sure if she saw it and ignored it or didn't see it so should I ask her for her snap irl or nah? | Crushes |
i’ll try not to make this super long. but i had a small crush on a guy i see occasionally at my gym. a week ago i figured i’d ask him for his snap. he gave it to me and made conversation for a few minutes too, then later he came back up to me to talk a little again and said we should train together sometime.
the first night we texted he seemed very interested, he called me cute, referred to me as “bae”, and responded quickly and made good convo. we made plans to workout together the next day. it was pretty fun, both of us were talkative and joking a lot. one thing was he was on his phone a lot and for some reason kept going to the bathroom like 3 times. at one point he also put his arm around my waist in the gym.
we talked more afterwards and i went into his car for a bit. he complimented me a lot again, said he always saw me and thought i was pretty, said my body looked good, called me “jacked”. we ended up kissing a bit and he did get hard and made a joke about it.
here’s where it gets a little weird. after we kissed a bit he said he’d love to “stay and do more things with me in the car” but he had to go home. he also seemed rushed to leave and said “he was tempted to do things with me that he shouldn’t.” (he’s a serious christian so i assume that’s why.) i told him i don’t hook up with people and that wasn’t my intention, i just liked being with him. i will admit i was a bit clingy about not wanting him to leave which i wonder is where i went wrong. he ended up saying “you need to leave” bc he had a curfew.
the next day he never messaged me so i texted first and apologized if he felt i was pressuring him into anything. he said it was fine. we texted a bit more. he swiped up on my story and complimented me. still seemed interested bc it was a pic at the lake and he said i should i bring him with me some time.
he starts being drier/not texting first over the next few days. thursday i ask if he’s going to the gym so i can come say hi. says he probably isn’t bc he’s having a family dinner. i go later that night and as i’m coming in he’s leaving. i didn’t say hi and pretended not to see him bc it was a little awkward.
friday i see it’s his birthday bc the snap bitmoji tells me so. i thought it was funny bc he lied and told me he was already 18, (i’m 18 as well) but i just said happy birthday and didn’t mention him lying since it’s just a few days. he’s replying quick and talking ab a tattoo he’s getting, seems talkative again until he leaves me on delivered for the entire rest of the day. i snap him again the next day thinking maybe he forgot and was busy. i said: “hiiii, i wanna see u”. he opened it a few hours later and hasn’t replied since. (this was saturday).
i guess my question for anyone who read this whole story is am i crazy for feeling really confused? to me it really seemed like he was interested and found me attractive but i guess since i got ghosted maybe not? was it something i did maybe? did he find someone else way better? i can’t make sense of it and it confuses me so much. it makes me really sad tbh and i don’t think i’ll shoot my shot again for a while. | Crushes |
We keep either staring at each other or glancing at each other and looking away quickly after
Yet we haven't talked in a week and that was just her saying hi to me and before that it was well over a month since we spoke
I don't even know what to think anymore can someone help me make some sense of this | Crushes |
I’ve had a thing for this girl for awhile. We’re pretty good friends at this point and we talk a good bit in real life. I’ve asked her to go out with me and a few friends and she pulled out last minute (said she had other plans with family)
I’ve been talking to her about a reschedule and she seems happy about it, but this is what I’m worried about.
.She text me extremely dry
.I always text first
.Ever since I asked her out on the original date she hasn’t spoken to me as much
I just don’t know if it’s even worth trying to date her. I love her but I feel she won’t return my feeling if I ask her out. Is being nice and complementing her just not it?
Any recommendations for being more of a “catch?”
Thank you so much :) | Crushes |
ok so ik that an age gap >5 isn't that big of a deal compared to some other age gaps but when your young... how much does it matter? how much is too big of an age difference in your opinion? | Crushes |
She clearly isn’t into me. I can accept that. That’s fine. I’m only in this stupid fucking scenario because she used to be so sweet to me. She (not knowing me prior) would make it her intention to talk to me and hang out with me when she could, and even would rest her head on my knee and hold my hand. Great! She must like me! I get her snap to communicate with her and we snap back and forth for a while, mind you I know absolutely nothing about Snapchat but full face snaps are good right? Anyway, it’s going pretty well until one day she stops responding, which oh well probably just forgot or something. 1 day becomes 2 becomes 3 becomes a week, then two, and I’m currently sitting at 2 and a half weeks left on delivered. But I still see her all the time in class, and it seems like she just doesn’t like me anymore? Maybe I did something wrong? One thing’s for sure: the spark definitely seems to be gone for her. I can take a hint but it hurts a lot more when I think about what could have been if maybe I was a bit more interesting, or easy going, or funny, or whatever the hell. I know nobody is going to actually read this far and I don’t really know what advice could be given except “just get over her” but… idk. Thanks for reading I suppose. | Crushes |
In person was not an option due to our busy schedules. Should I confess my feelings by video call, or wait until I'm available in-person which will be in several (3+?) months? | Crushes |
so basically last school year i had a crush on this dude but never asked him out or anything and then we grew apart so the crush faded. well NOW i have a crush on him again. i seriously doubt he sees me as anything other than a friend. but he just makes me so bsdhdbdbsbbs. idk what to do. yeah. | Crushes |
super scared to... but I'm gonna die soon anyway so why not right. I would love some encouragement!!! | Crushes |
Soooo one of my very good friends is Turing 15 in a couple months and she’s invited me to be part of her quinceanara, so I would be a Damas. One of the chambelanes is my crush. So we’re deciding who’s going to dance with who and I told her, “ I don’t care who I dance with.” So she is having my crush and I dance together. I’m freaking out but excited.
Any advice? Thanks! | Crushes |
title :D | Crushes |
I AM BEING ANSTY AND STRESSING MYSELF OUT!!! WHY DO I KEEP CHECKING TO SEE IF THEY RESPOND!?! BSBSJDJSNDJDJSJSJNQWEYSYSAIAIOAS AHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! | Crushes |
so basically my friend has had a campus crush this semester and he's in one of my classes. She's never spoken to him, while I've gotten to know him through our class. He recently asked me out and idk whether I should say yes or not bc my friend really likes him. I'm conflicted bc even though she's literally never talked to him, I know how much she likes him (or at least the idea of him lol) | Crushes |
okay so i’m in high school and i’ve had a crush on this one varsity basketball player. he’s in my grade. and recently, i’ve been finding myself falling in love with him but we don’t have classes together and we only see each other in the hallways. and i dont talk to him😭😭 LOL but recently, i’ve been thinking he maybe is slightly interested in me because i’ve caught him staring at me. today, i had to give a waterbottle back to my dance teammate and when i first walked in, he was slouching and laying on the table but when i was done talking to her, his posture changed. like he was halfway up. but i’ve heard from one of my teammates that his best friend told them that he is basically set on basketball and he KNOWS that girls want him. and its just like whats the point of dressing up for him to stare at me for 1-2 secs and i freak out that he stared at me yk? whats the point of trying knowing that i’m so hooked onto him and he seems like hes avoiding me. i’m so afraid of talking to him because it feels like he won’t be on the same page as me. as if i’m just being delusional. i tend to compare myself to other girls who are blonde, skinny, athletic and i can’t keep doing this. i feel like it’s embarrassing me on my end and it may come off as stalker to him.
there was an incident where i was on the presentation video and apparently one of my friends caught him staring down/at his friends smirking/smiling and as we were exiting out the gym doors, i caught him staring at me directly.what does this even mean?
do i just stop trying to impress him or am i just a scaredy cat? | Crushes |
so question, how would you feel if a girl walked up to you and asked you if you would like a donut? please answer this. i am bringing a box of donuts to school for my teachers. an idea popped up in my head and i think it will work but i still need advice. i see my crush every morning at school. he stands close to me while we wait for our 1st period bell. what if i walk up to him and ask him if he would like to have a donut? would it be a good idea to get his attention? he dosen’t talk to anyone and he is very introverted, so i was thinking i would get his attention more by noticing me. HELP PLEASE. i was thinking of exactly saying this “hi good morning, would you like to have a donut?” i feel so confident in doing this but i still need advice ;) | Crushes |
I confessed my feelings for my crush, she said she didn’t see me that way, but after a week, things started to get more intense. Now she wants to hang out more, tell me and show me things she previously said were so secret nobody knew about (but me now), if i feel down she runs to my place for comfort, when parties she asked if we are going together, we share food, swap drinks, we use the same spoon for desert. She thanks me for the go outs, like thanks for this day, etc. she says she doent like to do certain things but she will do it for me. And so on. And lately, we started to talk about sex, our fetish and how we like it, experiences and so on.
Is it possible that after my confession she is evaluating me in a romantic way? Should i make a move? Or am i deep in the friend zone? | Crushes |
I talked to him and confessed to him he gave me his number and after we talked as he was walking home he couldn’t stop smiling. The height difference with me and him is ♥️♥️♥️ | Crushes |
Just like I thought I wouldn't. To be fair, I barely saw her, and she seemed like she might've had somewhere to be. But I'm not here to be fair, I'm here to give a voice to all the irrational and viciously cruel thoughts I have in my head right now aimed at myself
I'm so mad. I'm freaking out thinking that if I wait a single extra day, then she'll find somebody. This is insane, there's no way shed alone. I'll let my inner incel out for a second here, but if she's alone, its gotta be by choice. No way someone like her can't find somebody, no fuckin way. So its stupid for me to even act like she doesn't have a partner.
But this goddamn terror, dude. The absolute fear I feel when I think about me finally getting off my ass to ask her out only to hear "oof, this other person asked me out yesterday. Soz, boss" is unreal.
Also, I saw a dead body being pulled out my apartment complex today, and my coworker was talking with a client about moving to Canada, so I've been thinking all day about how little influence I have on people, and how I have no reason to go anywhere. I'm just meat flowing in deterministic winds, doing whatever's easiest. And it makes the fact that I couldn't just fucking ask this girl out that much worse. I feel like a goddamned NPC, unable to even try to change my life for the better. It feels like I'm locked behind my eyes and forced to watch my life happen to me.
I'll see my favorite noncrush coworker tomorrow. She's nice, she said she had depression in middle and high school. If anyone can understand why I'm feeling what I am, it'd be her. But these days she actually has her shit together. I think maybe I'll try to talk to her about this. Cuz realistically, I'm not seeing my crush this week. And asking this girl about it seems safer. But the way my mind is right now isnt safe, I need to talk go someone. Idk if that's fair to ask of her, but I'll try to word it so it doesn't sound like a pitiful cry for help, so that I'm not emotionally manipulating her into agreeing to talk to me. Maybe I can offer to buy her a coffee as payment and we can talk over that. Which I guess sounds like a date, but she knows I know she has a girlfriend, and as soon as the conversation started ig would be glaringly obvious that a date is not what I was after.
Idk how I'm gonna do this. I'm so scared. The whole world is so fucking scary, and I just want out if I have to be alone in it | Crushes |
Guys help me out…This girl has been sneaking glances at me in the gym but never makes direct eye contact..We occasionally make the same exercises and she seems very friendly when she approaches me or vice versa for doing some machines that I or she is working in..and I even noticed that her voice when she talks to me gets a bit softer in comparison to when she talks to another person..Should I make the first move or I’m getting it wrong cause she is shy and I can be seeing these signs in the wrong way.. | Crushes |
So... i just entered college this year and this boy I'm talking about... he was the first person i met from my class. We don't spend much time together, but when we do, before or after classes, we manage to laugh a lot and even got to have some inside jokes.
Recently i came to realise he kinda sorta maybe... tries to hug me from time to time, when i say i did bad in class... ironically, both of us manage to do the same mistakes in tests... so i realised that I'm the only person from class that he does it with... the weird hugging... he puts his hands on my shoulders from behind and kinda pulls me closer to him.
Today we had a test and i got anxious before it so i drew on my arm... i do that when im stressed and he holded my hand for quite a long time looking at the drawing and he did that weird hug again right before the test.
Also, boys in my class shake hands when they meet and he shook my hand once, but... it was a really long hand shake... it even became awkward because other people were around and they commented on it.
So... is there a chance he genuinely likes me? The thing is...im not quite good at reading signs and he might just be polite and i overthink everything...he has a sister and he bakes quite often... he really is a sweet guy, but idk if i just misinterpret his friendliness as him having a crush on me. | Crushes |
I'm gonna be off of work for like a week due to surgery, so I won't be able to see my crush. Whenever I work with him, he always asks me about a game I'm playing that he's played. I also got his phone number, but not because he gave it to me; he asked me to come into work early lol.
Is it a good idea to text him my progress on the game while I'm out? He's my shift, so I'm not sure. But whenever we talk, he seems to genuinely like talking to me, and we bounce off each other. | Crushes |
So:
* You ask something about my crush
* I answer and ask a question about yours
* The conversation follows :))) | Crushes |
SHE LIKES ME BACK BUT ISNT READY TO DATE BUT IM WILLING TO WAIT COS SHE DOES LIKE ME SO WHEN SHES READY SHE WILL MOST LIKELY DATE ME | Crushes |
I really like this boy and even if we have been friends for over 3 years i never felt like this until 2 months ago. I actually feel really confused because i noticed a change in his behavior, he pays way more attention to me. I started being way more chatty with him and asked him to go to the cinema with me, unfortunately he always says yes but at the last minute says he cant go anymore (like 2-3h before) and when i say you want to reschedule or not he is always really sweet and says: no i really look forward about going with you im just really busy. i would think he isnt really interested but at the same time he always asks me to make drawings on his hands, his body always points at me, he takes glances at me pretty often, makes body contact when he can… one time i was talking with a male friend of mine and he, abruptly, jumped on him jokingly and pushed him away from me saying: rascal! my friend replied: i’ll leave her to you. they aren’t that close so maybe he was jealous of him? what makes me even more confused is how one day he is sweet and talks w/me but other days he almost ignores me all day. i dont know what to think… he likes me or not? should i confess and end my overthinking? ps sorry for any error, english isnt my first language and im being delirious in bed with a high fever. | Crushes |
I had a crush on this person fron 7th grade im in 10th now. (The reason i will use they is bc its thier pronouns). So my 7th grade crush changed genders over the summer it didint change anything because i like them for thier personality and looks dont mater that much eventho their hot. Past week ive been leaving little hints on thier locker just posted notes including little drawings , where they can find me,poems,songs i wrote so on.it also started including hints to my name locker number snap . Yesturday i went to the libary to work on homework and i saw my crush.... Today when i got to school i saw my crush looking at me so i smiled they smiled back i went to talk to them and they were really nice turnes out that we both are afrade of swands they are scary i dont like swands . At lunch i went to them and talked the whole lunch we actualy have a friend that we both know. I think they know its me that sticks the posted notes. I think they also like me because at the end of the day i saw a note on my locker and it just had a heart on it .ITS SO CUTE | Crushes |
This is an update on AT. We've been walking together regularly and today I asked him if he had a crush on anyone and he said yes, then he asked me and I said yes. We were talking about it until we got to my bus stop then we went our separate ways. I've been thinking about it for a while, but I don't know when to do it. Is it too soon to confess to him? How should I do it? I need advice 😫 | Crushes |
We’ve kinda been talking a lot more lately. I think they are flirting with me but I’m not 100% sure. We where talking and in the middle of the conversation they checked me out. Also my best mate made a joke asking me to pinpoint my ding dong size on a ruler and so I did and she said a couple minutes later “can’t stop thinking about that size thing” am I over thinking or are they flirting with me? | Crushes |
We used to be really good friends up until 5 years ago where we both said things to each other that we didn’t mean. Pride got in our way and we never reconciled. After a bad breakup, I messaged her and finally apologized and she apologized too. We started talking again as if no time went by.
Months later we have spent so much time together. Talking everyday. We confide in each other in ways we don’t with other people.
The other week she asked if I wanted to go drinking with her at her house. We sat on her porch for hours until the sun came up. The conversation never slowed down or fizzled out. I never wanted that night to end. I had to look away from her every now and then because I couldn’t help but blush and felt my heart race when she looked me in the eyes.
I catch myself smiling at my phone whenever she messages me. She’s the only person who can genuinely make me laugh and forget I was ever sad.
She has a boyfriend but that’s okay. She’s happy with just being best friends. I’d rather be what she needs right now and that’s to just be her friend.
I’m just glad I found you again.
I won’t lose you a second time. | Crushes |
My (M17) crush (F17) has done things no other girl has done, we casually talked as classmates until summer 2021 where she texted me out of nowhere saying ‘I know this is random but it would be a shame if we didn’t talk all summer break’ since then we have gotten a lot closer and I developed a pretty major crush on her. We started talking a lot more online and at school, and right now it’s getting to a point where she reacts to every single Instagram story I put up with heart eyes, and we even started sending the blow kiss emoji to eachother. I want to confess my feelings, and logic tells me that the chance of her liking me back is pretty big (especially compared to earlier crushes), but I need some conformation, so, should I go at it and confess? | Crushes |
I think I found love because I have meeted this guy and he is really nice and caring. The tonight we were just cuddle not saying a thing (this is in vrchat) and just cuddling that’s it and we both really Enjoyed it. Is this true love. | Crushes |
So there’s a guy I have a crush on but idk if I truly have a crush on him or not. It’s hard to interact with him and see how I feel or whatever around him because he’s pretty older then me, he doesn’t live in my state and I barely know him. He’s close to my family through my uncle so that’s how I know him. I think about him all the time and he’s been in a few of my dreams(he’s my only crush that has ever been in any of my dreams). Idk how to tell if I truly have a crush on him or not, usually I know if I have a crush on a guy or not so idk why this situation is different. | Crushes |
After a many months scrolling through this subreddit, today I have finally asked my crush of 8 months to be my girlfriend. And let me just say it feels pretty damn good. Thank you all for your advice and stories that I’ve read during my time on this sub, but it is time that I bid you all farewell. I wish you all the best of luck, I have faith in all of you. | Crushes |
Read the title bitch | Crushes |
There was a girl who liked me in 7th grade, but I was too inept to notice. The pandemic hit during the middle of 7th grade, which left us with no way to communicate. I spent most of that time playing Fortnite since we couldn't really do anything.
I remember her and another girl asking me if I had Instagram early of 7th grade. I didn't at the time, but when 8th grade came, I finally got it and I added her. I tried to DM her, but she only left me on seen.
For awhile, she wouldn't view any of my stories. When 9th grade came, she started to view my stories again. In like November of that school year, she unfollowed me.
But I thinks there's still hope. Some of her closest friends started following me throughout the year for example (which they might be spying on me for her, but more on that later)
During the whole summer, there hasn't been a day where I don't think about her. I always hope to have her next year in 10th grade. Sometimes, I send her follow requests in her accounts, just to take them back. I even once even sent her an empty email. I don't know if I know why I'm doing this, but I'm doing this in hopes she notices.
If I find out I have classes with her, next year I'm gonna cry in tears. I wish I could hug her, but I'm too chicken to try. I'm probably just gonna try to continue from where we left off.
I went out with a friend a couple days ago and he told me in 7th grade, he had a class with her and he said that if he remembers correctly, she overheard her mention my name once.
In 7th grade, I remember she would always say hi to me out of nowhere when we were in PE class, and talk to me with her friends. During a trip, she and another girl were talking to me about random stuff (like TikTok dances and kissing games). I was very timid in the inside I tried to get out of it.
At the end though, I just want to have classes with her next year, since school starts in a month. | Crushes |
Hi all. I’ve been thinking about this lately and wanted some outside opinions.
I moved into my college dorm for the first time last year. I ended up meeting someone pretty quick into the first semester that year through a mutual friend. We ended up eating together and one of the first things they asked about me was my sexual orientation but I didn’t think much of it. Their building was next to mine so we’d end up walking back together and I’d always walk them back, we’d sometimes sit outside for a little to talk, once I rubbed their back during a hangout with our friends, the walk back, and the time we spent outside and they kept telling me that I was sweet for doing it. As we got closer, we got onto the topic of our love lives, and they were describing their type as someone who seemed to look a lot like me, but they were seeing someone. I go to a performing arts school and we were cast in a student film where we had to kiss and they either got nervous or would talk about how they wanted to make it a realistic kiss whenever it was brought up (at the end of the semester, they confessed that the only reason why they wanted to do the film was because we’d kiss). We’ve been in a few uncomfortable situations where someone would hit on them and I’d ask if they wanted me to put their arm around them or something and they’d always say yes. Once we were swiping on our friends tinder and they came across someone and exclaimed how good looking they are, but immediately followed up with “not as pretty as you.” They always call me babe or baby, and once told me that they use certain phrases around people they like to see if they’ll reciprocate. Before the end of the academic year, they told me about someone they had a crush on who they ended up hooking up with, but the person they described didn’t match the type they previously told me about. They’re super spiritual and told me that they’re really good at picking up on social cues and body language, so I’ve noticed that they usually look at me when they speak in a group, or whenever I crack a joke they laugh like it’s the funniest thing they’ve ever heard.
I know some of this might seem like a no brainer, but they’re super flirtatious like this with everyone. They use the same nicknames on everyone they’re close with. I think that if they liked me, they wouldn’t have seen someone who isn’t their type. It isn’t like we saw each other often, we didn’t speak a lot but when we caught up it was usually a lot.
So what do you guys think? | Crushes |
Am I supposed to do something about it? I want to msg her about it | Crushes |
[Original post :)](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/w9zon3/confessing_tonight) I'll paste his message (with slight altercations for grammar and anti-doxxing purposes)
Lemon I’m so fucking sorry for this wait and for not answering your question. For some reason I’ve been thinking all night about you. I was going to have you come meet up or something so we can talk about this in real life instead of texting because I think that would just be better. I can’t do that since I’m going camping tomorrow and I’ve been busy all day. You know I really do like you, you're so pretty and have the best and silly personality, but I just don’t feel ready for a relationship. And I’m sorry for not contacting you again for a minute idk I kinda just froze Into thoughts. But if we can be best friends for long enough until *insert school year* maybe I’ll change my mind. | Crushes |
So a girl I was with for a short time and I broke up recently, I don't know if I like this other girl or not, she seems interested in me and a friend already mentioned that we could be together but I am not sure if I like her. She is gorgeous and an amazing person but I am not quite sure it would work out since she is my "ex girlfriends" friend (they aren't close but they keep in touch from time to time) and on top of that I have a basketball season that is about to start so I won't have as much free time. I would greatly appreciate it if someone a bit older would give me some advice! | Crushes |
He lives on the third floor. We met a few weeks ago, he was rescuing a baby bird in the hallway. Now I can't stop thinking about him and I think I have a crush?? we havent run into each other since unfortunately.... what should I do? Leave it to fate? | Crushes |
I introduced my friend and a girl I kinda had a crush on and now they’re dating. I didn’t see them liking me but dating my friend is unfortunate. | Crushes |
I see her in the halls, we’ve known each other for a long time. I’m leaving the details for when I get asked about what happened but every single time I see her, in the halls, bus or library, she’d pretend she doesn’t know me and just ignore me. I did do something that upset her but it’s literally been a year. | Crushes |
i’m not going to give away too much info because i don’t wanna get doxed LOL
but basically, i’ve been talking to this guy for awhile, and recently (past ~2 weeks), hes been barely talking to me and it just seems like he has lost interest. this doesn’t make any sense, because he told me he really liked me, and we went on a few dates and we were literally discussing commitment and stuff. i tried asking if anything had changed and got a bs excuse. very confused, what do you guys think? | Crushes |
This crush, was just a crush, yk I thought she was cute, and had a beautiful voice, but I don't know that I can love her anymore. She's cute, but tall. Beautiful voice, and I'm sure she has an amazing personality, but I just can't love her. A couple of weeks ago, I tried to get her snapchat, but she said she doesn't have one, as her parents won't let her get a snapchat until she graduates high school.
She's in high school, and I didn't know. Let this be a lesson guys, get to know your crushes, cuz mine is still in high school, and I had no idea.
I'm 19, so legally I'm too old for her, what makes it kinda a lost cause from the start, I don't even know her. I just would like to get to. | Crushes |
I don’t want to have a crush anymore. It feels terrible. How do you do it? | Crushes |
Its so cute watching you guys gush over someone. I'm also gonna try and reply to every comment so go go go! | Crushes |
So both my crush and I are college age 20+ year olds. We've been friends for awhile. A month ago we went to my first Pride festival together. It was great. We made jokes and their smile just made me blow up inside from happiness. On the way home we ran into someone with road rage. I tried to end on a high note and ask them out. they blushed and told me they were flattered and they like me a lot, but not in a romantic way. However they are open to being with me that way should feelings develop.
Now it's a month later. We text every few days, always checking in. I asked them to hang out and they invite me over to their place to watch movies. We watch one with their roommate but then the roommate decides to go to bed. So then it's just us. We watch another one. End of the night and we're both real sleepy, just sitting their half falling asleep. We both wake up enough to realize I should get going because I have a long drive ahead of me. They hug me before I go.
So I was raised as a cis male in a Christian upbringing. That means I wasn't really exposed to affection through friends. My friends and I didn't hug much. So am I reading too much into this, or does my crush possibly like me? Is it time to move on? | Crushes |
She said she liked a very popular drink in my culture and I want to say something like marry me right now! Or something along those lines but what can I say that can both come out as friendly play and a little flirty. | Crushes |
Ok so basically in my English class the seats were arranged in groups, and my desk got grouped with the desks of two other girls (one of them was really cute, the other one not really). Pretty much whenever I made any comment that could be even remotely funny the cute girl would say something like “your’re so funny OP,” in a kinda sexy voice (that’s the only way I can describe it) or do a cute giggle. And this more or less continued for like two weeks until our school went on winter break, and when everyone got dismissed, the cute girl said “see ya OP.” I guess I never got the courage to get her number so our chemistry died out and we never really spoke after (especially since the seats got moved back so communicating was impossible). I was just wondering if this girl really liked me and her saying bye to me was a hint for me to get her number. Idk | Crushes |
Yeah so i have a crush on this girl, and we have talk er for a hvile now but she keeps bringing my friend in the convos.
I dont know if she likes me or Just wants my friend | Crushes |
I’m interested in the time frame because I’m wondering if I took things too fast | Crushes |
So for explain it I don’t know if I love her , I don’t think about her everytime and I don’t talk to her since 1 year she’s not really in my mind but when I feel bored , annoyed or sad and I think of her I feel better I majorly see her in my vision of future I want and don’t want to be with her
Can someone explain what is it ? | Crushes |
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Idk if I have a crush on my friend but I feel like the signs were so weird. The signs:
- touching my shoulder while we talk
- taking my phone from time to time
- not talking to me at times
- squeezing my hand when I do something wrong with him (ex: pinching, teasing)
- waiting for me to finish my work and then leave with me.
- treating me a lil differently from the others in the group like not teasing me, calling me names, giving song recommendations, listening to songs using the same earphones etc.
I mean we just met a few weeks ago in this big group so idk. Dm me to know more. | Crushes |
Is it there personality, their eyes, their ambitious goals to take over the world? Let me here it! | Crushes |
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