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I'm always second guessing everything she says and does and overthinking about everything I say and do as well. I never know if she likes me as a friend or if she likes me back. Whenever she tells me me loves me, cares about me, or just compliments me, I'm really happy because it means a lot to me but at the same time it's really sad because I feel like it's not in in a romantic way.
Sometimes she would go for ages without texting me (and we can't see eachother irl anymore because we're in different countries now) so I'd try to get over her but as soon as she starts talking to me again I spiral right back.
This is the longest time I've ever had a "crush" on anyone and I've barely ever had any crushes in the past. And when I did have "crushes" I wouldn't even know if actually liked them or just found them aesthetically pleasing or cool. I don't know if I'm just infatuated with her because we're best friends and I'm too clingy or if I'm "in love" or something else.
Yeah sorry about this lmao | Crushes |
I'm such a fkin coward I fkin hate everything. AAAAAAAAAAAAHAJNDJDNSNA.
I'm sry | Crushes |
I (13f) have had a crush on this guy since the second quarter of school.
So, on Tuesday, during history class, I overheard my crush saying that he doesn't like me to one of his friends. So, my hope was basically finished. It turns out that he probably does like me. One of the greatest girls in my group sits next to him in both of my History and English classes, so him and her are friends. She had him respond to one of my many emails to him, and they chose the one where I asked for his number or snap, email text below:
Hey girlypop,
So I did try recording a video, but I cannot get it right, so I am just writing you an email. I understand that I have gotten weird, but I am genuinely not great with emotions and genuinely want to know if you have a positive outlook on the sitiation.
Uhm, so Taber, the chick who told you that I like you, is quite persistent on me getting your Cell. If you would not want to do that, My snap is *******, so, if you do want to add me on Snapchat, there it is. I am getting tired now and sure you are almost asleep and have low chance of reading this.
I am actually surprised you responded to the email, but if you would respond to this one too, that would be great.
I'm falling asleep now so I am going to bed. I will see you on Monday
goodnight person - Evy
🥑🥑🥑
This is how he responded:
Hey My mom does not let me get snap and I would love to get your number.
I mean, his grammar is alright, but this could be the start of a relationship. I gave him my number and we have been talking for 3 days now. Yesterday, he said good morning first. This guy (unlike the last) may actually give two shits about me. I'm thinking of waiting until next week to ask him to be my boyfriend if he doesn't do it first. The school year is almost over, so I am on a limited schedule, we have 24 - something days of school left, but I live by one of the best farmers markets in my state. that's pretty much all my thoughts, I gotta get ready for school now. | Crushes |
im a girl and i had a crush on my boy bestfriend for 6 months. the reason why he became a "past crush" of mine was bc i found someone that i have mutual feelings with.
this guy that i talk to rn admitted that he loves me after a month of talking. on the other hand, my past crush admitted that he loves me after 4 months of thinking everything thoroughly. its like he alr liked me last january but he never admitted his feelings until he was sure of it.
anw, what do you think is the best thing to do? im still confused whether i know that i like this guy that i am talking to or if i feel that i like him. who should i let go? | Crushes |
My friends keep saying to “rizz” her up but I don’t know how, please teach me the ways of rizz. | Crushes |
So I(22 f) met him(22 m) in college. I met him during the first semester and didn't really felt anything about him till the 2nd semester. I just felt comfortable around him and we always had great conversations. Not all of our interests coincide with one another but I just find our conversations to be so interesting and have always had great banter and our humors match well. He also have shown some hints but I don't exactly know if they count since he is the type of guy that is nice and is friends with everyone. This is actually the main reason why I don't know if he might reciprocate the same feelings that I have for him. But since our finals is coming, I don't know if I would still be able to see him after this and I also want to clear my head (and to move on) before getting ready for the exams.
As for the confession plan:
I'm planning on telling him that I have feelings for him and though it was not from the very beginning, those feelings grew as time passed. I also plan on telling him that he can do whatever he wants with that information, EXCEPT to tell it to anybody else. And that I think it would be best for me to tell it to the only person who it actually matters to. I am also planning on explaining that I am fine with staying friends (since I have done so with other , tho less significant, crushes), but might not want to face him for a week or so... (due to obvious reasons) | Crushes |
“I’m not trying to hurt your feelings, but it’s just the truth”
“I wouldn’t confess if I were you”
That conversation lasted mere seconds, but it felt like I died a million times over.
What’s sad about it? That person was right.
“Spare yourself the heartbreak and move on”
Yeah, as if it’s not already broken.
Having feelings for someone you know will never reciprocate tends to do that.
But hey, thanks Sherlock! Good call. | Crushes |
I guess I can’t escape it, no matter what I try…
Had a crush on a girl. A big crush. She found out in a way I wouldn’t have wanted but tbh I probably wouldn’t have said anything anyway, at least not for a long time. It’s been nearly half a year since she rejected me. I thought I was over her, I thought I’d moved on. And maybe if I wasn’t put in her f**king class for the second year in a row, maybe I would be over her.
Part of me knows I have no chance, that she’ll never like me back, and part of me hopes that maybe she will, with all the mixed signals, who knows for sure what will happen…
Thought I’d done a final entry here a long time ago, but I guess it’s going to be nothing but vents from now on, should I decide to post again. | Crushes |
I (23m) am crushing on a man (25m). I lost touch with him for 6 years and just recently got in contact with him again but he is married and at most I have a chance to be friends but I don't think that's a good idea because talking to him again made all the feelings flood back like when we were teens. My heart aches thinking about him with his wife in bed sleeping sound while I'm awake hurting and guiltily daydreaming about him. I can't get him off my mind all over again. He's just absolutely my type in every way and I know if I saw him in person my whole chest would ache from his presence like it always used to. Was reconnecting with him a mistake??? What am I supposed to do if appx 6 years away from him didn't kill this crush?? A part of me feels desperate like I'd do anything to be his but I logically know I need to move on I just don't know how. I physically haven't been able to stop thinking about him here and there over the years, and now that we talk again the yearning for him is amplified all over again | Crushes |
My crush who sits next to me has these new traits that she didn’t have before. I think it’s somewhat clear to her that I liked her: I try to say hi to her everyday, I gave her a small gift for valentines, and such. Anyways some things i’ve noticed was her looking at me after class, when class ends we walk downstairs then walk the same path until I split ways not far from her next class. It’s always random who gets out of the class first we’re always ahead or behind each other when walking, well one day when she was pretty ahead of me going downstairs I noticed her looking up at me dead in the eye, I personally would not even dare to look up going down the stairs even if it’s to look at crush since I find it kinda dangerous , but anyways other times in the corner of my eye I notice her turning her head towards the way where I split ways. In rare instances we end up walking next to each other and uses her phone upon realizing probably cuz it got awkward?
Other stuff that I noticed was her coming out of her shell more. She’s a quiet type, I usually try to answer the teachers questions when nobody else does as a way to impress her, and since then she’s been doing it more .
Yet again I’m most likely not even the cause of it, just some coincidence that I overanalyze. | Crushes |
So today I was meant to break up with her and she decides not to come to school and gives me another reason which of course I’m not believing
She says her stepdad should’ve dropped her but he had to rush to work and she acts like there’s no option yet she can definitely take a bus I just want to get this shit done with her I’m tired of it
She’s like that when somethings wrong she just wants to bring breaking up as an option or just avoids me (incredibly selfish) | Crushes |
I’ve only ever texted him twice in one week one time, and it was because we had plans. Texting is our only form of communication at the moment until he gets back from college in like a month.
Last Tuesday night we had a really good 5 hour conversation which ended with goodnights, and I kinda want to text him again today (Friday) but I don’t know if it would be weird or clingy. Also he has a lot of days where he’s a bad socializer/texter (introvert 😍) so idk if bothering him twice a week is a good idea anyways. Help?
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So I (M22) have had feelings for a coworker (F19) for a little over half a year now. Here are the reasons that I think she could be into me (or at the very least likes me a lot platonically?)
-There have been a few times where she has blushed as I approached her
-She mentioned how she really only likes a few people at our workplace. “ I like you…” paused before listing the others. If I remember right none of the other coworkers she said she liked were dudes
-There was one time where she mentioned feeling distressed over feeling like she was sweating. I said “You look fine, I think :)” with a slow smile. She responded “Don’t look at me like that.. Just kidding” playfully
-The the first and only time she’s responded to one of my story posts of a trip was last month and it was along the lines of “No fair, i’m so jealous, i hope you have fun 💓💓”
-She went a party thing the other weekend and said “Wish you were there at one point.
-We were having a somewhat deep conversation at one point and she started mentioning her physical insecurities. Which I guess shows she’s trusts me
The potentially bad signs would be that she mentions guys she finds attractive before. But she also has made it apparent that she’s scared of rejection, at one point straight up saying that she was scared of rejection
I’m personally really bad at both seeing signs and showing affection (outside of a relationship anyway) so that doesn’t help
With all that being said
I figure my next step would be to ask her to hang out.
1) Do I ask her to hang out at work or should I wait until the next time we both close and are out of the workplace
2) How do I ask her to hang out? Should I have a specific hang out in mind or should I leave it more open? “Hey (F19) do you wanna hang out sometime” sounds a little basic you know. I just can’t figure out how i would word it without it totally sounding like a date. i mean should it sound like one? Helpp | Crushes |
I think I'm unfortunately almost in this situation... | Crushes |
There is a girl in school who I've gotten closer to in the past months. I've been friends with her for a couple years now. (I'm also a girl btw, and she has said she's liked a girl before, so that problem is out of the way) **sorry this is long, there is a TLDR at the end of every paragraph and it will be bolded.**
To give you some back story on her, she's very friendly and physical affection is how she shows she cares. She hugs, pushes, pulls on backpacks, you probably get the gist. **TLDR: She's very physical, but that's pretty normal**
Anyways, a couple months back, me and my whole group of friends (she's in this group) all had a sleepover. We were outside and it was cold (probably around 50-60 Fahrenheit). Me and here were sitting down on the floor while others were standing. She's cuddling up against me, and we're talking. **TLDR: Was cold, she huddled with me**
Later, because the house we were staying at was rich, we all (5 of us) slept in one bed. Three people near the bedframe, two lower down on the bed. It was big. We decided to watch a scary movie, but it was more funny than scary and we mainly just made fun of it while watching. This girl though, she found *many* times to hold on to me, pretending to be scared. I feel like most people in the situation would grip on, then let go once they realized what they were doing, but she stayed on. And it wasn't a shoulder grab, it was a full on hug that didn't end for a while. **TLDR: not scary movie, acted scared and cuddled anyway**
The friend in front of us turned around saying "Ooh, you guys look cozy." Me and her jumped away from each other, but she ended finding a way to cuddle again. **TLDR: was joked about what she was doing, later continued cuddling anyways**
I have a large interest a video game, and after we stopped watching the movie, she started to play the game. She then asked the group if we could sleep in these positions, and ended up doing so. **TLDR: looked at my interests and wanted to stay near me during night**
Now (a couple months later), She waits in the halls for me. She also, every day, waves at me with a smile that I've never really seen on her before. She's less touchy with all her friends as well. We talk after school now, which we didn't really do before unless it was with the group. **TLDR: she's closer**
Also, when our friend group is in an irl group, we seem to talk to each other the most. She was also the one to walk me to my car when she didn't have to. Even in the pool, she's always gravitated towards me and always ends up riding on my back. **TLDR: extra friendly with me specifically**
One time (by the same person as before) she was teased of having a crush on me. She got extremely defensive and kind of panicked. If it were with another friend, she'd go along with it as a joke. She also acts excited when every we see each other in the halls or meet up. She also been a lot more open with me about the stuff she's into and how she's feeling. She's also been asking me about the classes I've signed up for next year *a lot*. **TLDR: idk, acts different**
I guess it could be obvious, but the thing I'm struggling on is the fact that before, she was very friendly, so I can't tell if she likes me, or is just being friendly still. **I think this paragraph is short enough.** | Crushes |
This is my first time making a Reddit account, although I'm a long-time lurker on this subreddit and many others. I just genuinely can't take it any more, and I have to share my crush story because I might go insane if I don't.
I'll leave most of the identifying information out to protect my identity, by the way!
So, our story begins last year, in my senior year of high school. He and I have known each other for several years at this point because we've shared a lot of the same classes and extracurriculars. At the beginning of March 2022, I realize, "oh shit, I like him". This is the beginning of the end.
All of a sudden, we have one conversation and it KO's me for the rest of the day. We bicker a LOT and I've never been so glad I don't have a visible blush because it's become super hard for me to keep my composure around him when he teases me. He gives me that grin and I just want to scream because I like him so much but he genuinely has no idea.
So, there's something unique about high school seniors: a lot of us go to college the next year. I've already made my decision at this point, but haven't told any of my classmates yet. I really want to know where my crush is going, but let's be real here, I'm not going to take the chance of being influenced by his decision. After decisions are due, I ask him the next morning where he's going.
His reply? "Oh, \[name of university I'm going to\]"
Naturally, I say "Oh, that's cool! Me too!"
With a grin on his face, he teases me and says, "Wait, really? Oh, damn, never mind, gotta switch my decision right now." I want to *scream*. Because now I know I'm going to the same college as him. I'm so happy. I'm so doomed.
We don't keep much contact over the summer (we're friendly acquaintances, but not close friends), but we still message a couple times. Unfortunately, I find out that we don't share any classes at our university because we have completely different majors.
Even at university, we haven't hung out much because we have completely separate friend groups. Somehow, though, he always manages to catch me when I look my worst! It's gotten to the point where I go into the dining hall with no makeup (yes acne), hair kind of mess, dark circles, the works, and I think to myself "he's probably going to show up, isn't he?" And he *does.* It's almost a superpower at this point I swear.
Every time I think I've gotten over him, especially when we haven't talked in a while, he shows up again with his stupid smile and his stupid laugh and his stupid arms and stupid teasing and I can't function for the rest of the day. Once it almost interfered with me submitting a homework assignment. It's *that* bad.
I already know he doesn't like me. We had dinner together at one of our college's dining halls back in October and he asked if this other girl in my dorm (who he coincidentally knew from orientation) was single. So I know I obviously don't have a chance with him.
I just wanted to share this. To get the whole story out because some of you might be able to relate. Mostly, I just wanted to gush and complain at the same time.
A few songs that remind me of him (feel free to share your own crush playlists in the comments!):
Cupid by Fifty Fifty
Heart Shaker by Twice
Hype Boy by NewJeans
Rumors by Jake Miller
Sunday Morning by Maroon Five
Teeth by Maroon Five | Crushes |
I am a freshman in college and my crush (R) is a senior. I met him via some female seniors who lives above me. I used to hang out with them, but then I got busy with my classes and couldn't see or talk to him like I wanted.
It wasn't a first sight thing. My feelings for him developed very slowly and I don't think anyone have noticed it.
So yesterday night, it was one of the senior's bday and the female seniors who I am close with asked me to accompany "R "get a cake from the shop and I immediately agreed.
So I got on his bike and we went to the shop and I was leaning awfully close to him to hear him properly over the wind sound, since he was driving so fast.
He gave me a lot of study tips , remembered a thing I asked him to do in the past and explained why he didn't do it for me(without me asking), took a detour to show me the shop from where he got my bday cake.
Later we got the bday cake and I tried to balance it on my right thigh, but then he told me to place it on the left side , so that it will be easy for him to ride. But I couldn't balance it, so I asked him to keep it in front and he told me that then I will have to balance it from behind. Tbh, I was more than happy to do it, since I get to be more close to him and feels safe.
Later when we were all taking pics and I was talking to him , so I didn't hear when the guy who took the pics called all the girls to come in front and then that guy got a bit mad that I didn't follow his instructions and came up to me and told me to go in front.
Anyways I am so happy that I get to spend a few hours with him in close proximity. This was a beautiful unexpected encounter for me and I am really thankful to God for that.
I wish I knew whether he likes me | Crushes |
The guy I like brought his girlfriend and introduced her to his friends. The whole time I was like, "What are you doing stupid, he's in a relationship." She's so pretty and friendly and sincere and sweet. She hit off with everyone really well.
Meanwhile I'm over in the corner shoving pizza in my mouth while my guy friends fence with sticks. My mom said I was "tomboyish" but I've never felt like I am. She is the complete opposite of me and it goes to show that I'm way out of his league.
This sucks. | Crushes |
There is this girl that I actually like, however I want to find out if she likes me too. Sadly this is at work, which makes things a bit tricky.
When at a group event at work. I was sitting with others of my team. We were just having a casual conversation jumping a bit all over the place. She laughed when I was making some casual jokes and fun with others. However the girl I like (and this has been going on for months now) always seems to ignore/avoid me in the presence of others, both in presence and eye contact. If I talk in a group she doesn't look at me, but more to the others. However she does talk and look at others I noticed. Furthermore, she always gives me a very nervous vibe when talking to her (not that this happens a lot). I sometimes notice that she does seem to look/observe me when I am not looking. Anyway, during the event, I noticed this again. So when I suddenly looked at her I caught her looking me straight in the face/eyes. She totally froze it seems, like a deer looking into headlights. Is my assessment right in that she might actually really like me too, but feels very conflicted about it? | Crushes |
They’re so funny and cute 😖 | Crushes |
I was going to ask out my crush on the 30th but I'm not sure anymore. I knew she was some kinda gay and I was praying for her to be bi but my friends really think she's lesbian, currently I feel phisacly sick because this is the second time I've liked someone and their lesbian, plz help idk what to do. | Crushes |
So I have a crush on this girl and I really want to let her know that I like her (over text because I have no balls).
We’ve never talked irl mostly because she’s in a grade above me, however we do make eye contact pretty often? She seems really shy and I never really see her with people at school. I have her instagram and we both follow each other, what should i text her?
P.S I’m desperate | Crushes |
okay so some background info first. by the way x means the country I'm in right now and y is another country (you'll get it). PLEASE READ THRU EVERYTHING!
okay so it all starts with one day where I'm walking down the halls and i focus on this person's rucksack in front of me (i'm really observant), and on it says a brand from y that nobody from x has ever heard of (from the people I've met). so naturally, i tap this person's shoulder and ask, hey, are you from y?- but I'm cut off. i was just about to say, i saw your rucksack- I'm from y too! but instead, he gives this little sass while saying if i weren't from y why would i have this brand on? i laugh it off because mind you this is 1 of 4 people i know from y, including me, and i'm ecstatic.
however i have never seen this person before and assumed he was in another grade. so about a week or two after that incident, i start seeing this person around. i didn't get too much of a facial profile, but ill forever remember those beautiful bluish-grey eyes- it's this person, i know it. after each period, i see him again and again. i guess after that i just picked up his schedule, because again, i cant help but notice little things like which rooms he goes into each period.
recently, I've been a little bolder. I've tried to make eye contact with him. i'm good at eye contact, really good. but this guy? on another level. i keep noticing that before i even look at him, he's already looking at me. ALWAYS. never breaks eye contact. makes me weak in the knees, butterflies in my stomach, hence the nickname Papillion. the moment we walk past each other, i smile. hardd. i break down into this gleeful mood for about a minute, then i get sad again, like usual, so people don't notice as much (i haven't told anyone yet).
another thing i forgot to mention was our social hierarchy. i wouldn't call myself popular, but most of my friends are popular. I'm glad he isn't popular though- they're all stuck up. I'm an extroverted introvert. he's an introverted introvert. so i dont really know how to talk to him. i know this is even more to add but we have none of our classes together and his best friend is my ex friend. which means that they're constantly together, and talking to him is.... yeah. he also has no social media (he's a keeper omgg). i'm not really looking for a relationship but i want to be friends with him at least..
WHAT DO I DOOOO??? DO THEY LIKE ME?? (feed into my delusion but dont\_ | Crushes |
So there’s this guy at my school that i’ve known for years now, but I only really got to know him this year when we were cast as the leads in a musical. If you’re wondering, the musical was Bye Bye Birdie and our characters mostly fight throughout the play but then we get married and live happily ever after blah blah blah… So I developed this crush on performance week when my mental health was really bad, but it was so comforting to see him and hold his hands and hug.
Back then, this wasn’t a huge crush or anything but now it’s grown a ton. Even just when I’m around him I get anxious, flustered and my face will easily turn bright red. He’s even caught me glancing at him several times before. So it’s pretty obvious that I have a crush on him but I just have no idea what he’s thinking or what he thinks about me. I don’t know if it’s wishful thinking that he might have a crush on me because his body language really doesn’t say anything like that. I mean I’m pretty attractive and we both acted as if we were in love onstage, so maybe there’s a chance?
Well now there is a dance coming up and I don’t know if I should ask him. But the thing is that i’m pretty socially awkward around him and I have no idea how to start a conversation. I mean we only talk whenever necessary. But I need to do something about this because of how nervous I constantly am around him, any advice? Do I just need to get over him?
Extra details: We are both 15; I haven’t asked for his number yet (I know I know I need to ask but I am so terrified(*´◒`*)) | Crushes |
Should I (19M) confess my feelings to my crush (19F)? I know that’s she’s already taken but I just wanna do it and move on. What should I say to her? | Crushes |
im having my friend confess for me because I never get the chance to talk to my crush alone. Not because I’m nervous lol. So my crush (Andrew) has been giving good hints that he also likes me. His best friend (Orlando) has been showing my friend pictures of their conversations and they were abt me. Orlando would tease Andrew about me and that could mean something. Orlando would also straight tell me “Andrew likes you” or “you and Andrew would look cute together“ My friend also asked Andrew if he liked me and all he did was smile and say “don’t worry about it.” One time I saw him talking to his friend and they were looking straight at me. Him and my friend were talking about me once and according to my friend he was “smiling like a little girl” and today he was just smiling at me when we were talking to our friend.
if my friend gets the chance to confess for me tomorrow I’ll edit this post and hopefully everything goes good. | Crushes |
okay guys so lemme clear this
I m not trying to steal him from his girl so pls don't come at me
I was in love with him since day one and yeah we kinda became close and really close we ended up sharing a lot of time together and doing lots of things together
I didn't know what he used to do with this girl in the club, they used to makeout all the time when they weren't even dating or when they didn't even know each other
I'm sure back then I knew him more than her when rhey were kissing or doing whatever
now they are official and
she says " I can't believe I lowered my standards for someone like him "
GIRL THEN FUCK OFF
I've seen her not care about him or care for him at times when he needed her the most
he knows I like him , there were times I was ther for him and she wasn't
and he told my bestie
I know she gets sad eveyrtime she sees me sad or depressed and she's happy when she sees me or she smiles when she's with me
he very well knows and I know he cares for me as a friend but the thing js I've tried to maintain distance from him
I stopped hanging out with him and stopped texting him because it hurts a lot
I can't look at him as a friend because I never did and I feel like im doing a sin or crime for liking someone who has a gf
but it's obvious his gf doesn't like him and is using him and is selfish
because I've heard so many people say this about them that it's not gonna last because this is just for physical aspects
and also she's very touchy with another guy friend of hers I mean who locks hands with a guy friend when u have a bf
and people from our friend group think she's gonna hookup w her guy friend and leave him
it's obvious to everyone
honestly she cares more for her guy friend than her boyfriend
my heart hurts
only if this boy knew how much they all didn't like him
I really wanna protect him from all
I remember how he told me he hated this place a lot but the people here made him like this place
I wish they liked him the way he liked them too
and I'm not over him
I'll always love and care for him
but it hurts a lot
I know we can't be together even if they breakup
hurt a lot | Crushes |
he tried to "rizz me up" twice because i tried to flirt with him last time.
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So I have a crush on this girl (we are both lesbians) she LOVES Billie Eilish, and so do I. She is a grade above me but we talk sometimes in pur clean crew (a clean crew is a group if people from different grades who clean a certain classroom at the end of the day) Anyway, once we were talking about Billie Eilish and she asked me what my favorite Billie Eilish song is. (Also, throughout the year I have brought up that it is my favorite song) now, almost everyday, when she gets to play music she always plays the song. And she has even gone out of her way to point out that it is her favorite song too. What does this mean? | Crushes |
So I think I like this guy from my school, he's 16M and I'm 15F. To start, I in no way want to be a homewrecker or put his relationship in jeopardy because I can tell he really loves her, I'm not sure how long they've been together but I'm going to guess they've been together a while. I'm not really sure what to do because like I said I don't want to deliberately break them up or whatever. I hate myself for liking him knowing he has a girlfriend, but I just don't know what to do because I tried to make these feelings go away for the sake of just being respectful of him amd her but I honestly am so conflicted. I haven't liked anyone this much since my ex (we ended it mutually) and I don't just like him for his looks but his personality and how I just like to be around him when we are with each other carpooling, or at school, etc. I feel bad for liking him because of the situation but I don't know what to do. | Crushes |
I [15F] keep trying to catch him [17/18M] on his own but he’s always surrounded by friends. We have one class together and he sits beside me in it, but my ex is also in that class and I’m worried if I make a move in class, it’ll come across like I’m trying to make my ex jealous (the breakup was 3 weeks ago). I can either ask him before my ex gets to class in the morning, or I can catch him at his locker (though he’s usually talking to people there as well).
Assuming I do get him alone, I’m not sure what to say either. We’re both very athletic and have similar outdoorsy interests, but he’s much better at hiking/rock climbing than I am, and it’s too cold outside to go swimming right now. I don’t want to embarrass myself so I was thinking just a lax picnic hike or something, but that’s so obviously a date that it feels too high-stakes. I’m not even sure if he’s interested in me.
Maybe I could offer him tickets to a comedy show in my area or something? Right now my main goal is to get his number so we can figure out what kind of date we’d both be interested in (he doesn’t have any social media, which is a green flag but also quite frustrating when I don’t have his number yet).
For that matter, I wonder what the likelihood of him reciprocating is? We met back in September at a party, but he kind of seemed annoyed with me back then (and to be fair, I was a little bit of a nuisance while drunk at that party). We didn’t have any classes together last semester either. I was already dating my ex when second semester started but he’s always had a kind of teasing relationship with me since the beginning of our class together, and he’s always kind of had a chest-puffing contest type thing with my ex where he would always humiliate the ex in class when the ex and I were still together (deserved by the way). We say good morning to each other and chat idly about scholarships and such but we’ve never really had a proper personal conversation. We do however stick to one another like flies to orange juice: he always moves to be a part of my group in projects when he has the option, and I follow him around like a lost dog when we go on class excursions. I also frequently catch him looking at me and he always meets my eyes before leaving the room, it’s like a silly goodbye. He’s a bit of an aloof dude in general so I’m not sure if it’d be at all obvious that he has a crush on somebody.
It might be the age difference preventing him from making the first move out of fear of looking like a creep (and for clarification, I’m in 10th grade with a September birthday, he’s in 12th grade and I’m not sure when his birthday is. We’re both grads of 2023 and are heading to the same university however, as I’m gradding two years early). Or maybe that’s just not his thing, I’m not sure. I’m planning on asking our mutual friend whether he’s interested in anybody.
I guess I’m just looking for suggestions about what to do and, if applicable, suggestions about where to take him / how to ask him on our first date. | Crushes |
Dm me if you know that phat ass teacher. She teaches geography and has that biggest ass and loves to show it off. I don’t know if she does it on purpose or just doesn’t think. And that ass jiggles soo much. Dm me if you know her!! | Crushes |
(kind of a small rant?) okay so, i’m lesbian and i feel like i *might* have a crush on this girl. but from how everyone explains what having a crush is like, it feels like i’m faking my feelings for her or don’t really have a crush on her or whatever if that makes sense.
i like this girl but why don’t i get butterflies around her like everyone else? she just feels like a regular person when i’m around her but not so much at the same time. it’s so weird. however, i do get this kind of “awkward” feeling when i see her or when i’m around her but it’s nothing much.
i just wish i could have an “actual” crush ig like everyone else and not be confused. i wanna feel butterflies around her and stuff like that. but i don’t.
maybe i just don’t have a crush on her and just admire her. but she’s so beautiful and i like her a lot. so is she even a crush at all if i don’t feel these feelings that everyone gets around their crushes? maybe i’m just more of an admirer than someone who even gets crushes ig. idk 🤷♀️
yea, i just needed to get this out. i’ve had this question for like a year and i just feel like now’s the time to get it out. i feel like nobody will understand me tho. hope one person can at least 😭🤷♀️
(btw, i have never talked to her, ever😭 but i feel like if we were friends, it would still be the same. and sorry for any mistakes, it’s kinda laggy) | Crushes |
So there's a girl in my world history class and she's really attractive and she keeps staring at me and then looking away when I do and she always dresses nice but we barely talk and I don't know if she's just shy or if I'm doing something wrong and I think I might talk to her tomorrow but I'm really nervous. Does anyone have any advice? | Crushes |
So this guy that use to work at my job back in February ask me for my snap from there we started talking and going out things were going pretty good out of nowhere he started being distance like not texting back or taking hours to text back. Last week I decided to text him and ask him if he still wanted to talk he said yes and the reason he hasn’t been texting is because he’s going through some family problems right now, but the thing is he’s active on snap because if I post something I &check and see that he have seen my story but not answering my text and it’s been 3 days. I need some advice should I just move on or wait until he text. I really want to just move on cause if he really did care like he said he would have text back it doesn’t take 3 days to text someone you claim you want to be with. | Crushes |
I walked her to class and she didn't object | Crushes |
so, I don't have a crush on her anymore.
because she and 2 friends gave me a note where they said that they didn't want to be friends anymore, well hangout and said we can still be 'friends', saying I made them all claustrophobic by hanging out with them, since there were so many people there, when they already had a huge \*ss group. And I spent almost an hour crying, hooray. Well, that's my story. I wish it went somewhere good, but I suppose life isn't always a fairytale. Life lesson, remember your trust issues exist for a reason, use your gut, don't be blind, stick to your true friends, and live your best life. My true friends are already talking crap about her, already were, but more now, I feel like crying. They were always right, I'm an idiot.
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Well, farewell, probably won't be on here for a while. Cya, thanks for your support guys. Hope you won't get your heart shattered like mine, or broken like her ex. | Crushes |
There's this guy that i really like, we are friends, and he is dating someone but i really want to tell him...
I have his hoodie and his bike key, both he said i could keep.
So, idk what to say or do. | Crushes |
any advice would be rlly helpful!! | Crushes |
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We are also neighbors, or at least we get down at the same stop for sure. I do find her pretty and I do want to talk to her but some insecurities like acne and the fact that I am Indian(worried about the bob’s stereotype) is worrying me. I came to the US from India 7 months ago and I am still taking time to get used to it. My main worry is to not come out as creepy that is why I usually don’t maintain eye contact. Maybe the fact that I am Indian doesn’t make a difference and I am just overly scared about it. | Crushes |
Ive got a crush on this girl in the same college interest group and we work together for organizing events. She has mentioned that she studies in a pretty intense major. We rarely text about topics other than work, and when we do she seems to be shutting the conversation down by using reactions or stickers. There was once, I casually mentioned asking her out as part of a joke but she said i was scaring her. However, she does respond and laugh to my jokes in group chats.
When we interact IRL, we do talk and make occasional eye contact, but there seems to be some awkward tension in the air between the both of us which i cant seem to explain apart from these 3 reasons:
1) She likes me back but is just as shy about it as I am
2) She's just too busy to have a crush
3) She can sense i like her, but doesnt like me back and she just wants to be left alone
I also cant ask her out directly as we need to plan events together so i dont want it to be awkward if I got rejected.
Please send help 😭 this crush is making me crazy | Crushes |
my crush just referred to me as a random person (in front of his friends, who i dont talk to) 😭 even though he knows my name
does this mean anything? am i overthinking? maybe he said that bc he was with his friends who probably don’t know my name?? | Crushes |
My crush is giving me mixed signals she speaks to me a lot some days and some days she is quite dry and I love her even tho I’ve been crushing for like 2 months but we have a great relationship and I think about her all the time man she just perfect but ik afraid she doesn’t feel the same way anyone got any advice please like what to do next bc I want her and she leaves me on delivered max 1hour even tho she goes on her phone during that time but doesn’t snap me but she only does that during the day. Advice please | Crushes |
I’ve been planning on asking my crush on a date but I’m too nervous Ti I love her even tho I’ve been crushing for like 2 months but she’s hovering me mixed signs like she speaks to me a lot on some days and sends voice notes and other days she’s quite dry and not want to talk to me we spoke for a long time in holidays | Crushes |
No answer yet | Crushes |
So basically my crush acts so different around me than other girls. He’s so hyper with other girls but not with me. My crush knows that I like them and he’s known for months but I didn’t know until my friend asked him about me. But when my friend asked about me she wasn’t like “ew she likes me” instead he was smiling like a little girl according to my friend and said that he wanted to talk to me but didn’t know how. She also asked him to describe me and he said that I was smart and athletic. His best friend ships us so bad that he’s always telling me how cute we’d be together but he doesn’t know that I like him. Another friend also asked if i wanted him to set me up with my crush but again i never told him that I liked him (my crush always talks with the guy btw) and the other day my crush said hi to me and he was talking with this guy and the guy asked “is that your crush?” And every time I’m alone when I’m walking home my crush always says hi to me and he always smiles when we talk. And this one time I was telling him about how this person called me “hot” and he was like “i was about to say something but it would sound weird” and I begged him to tell me and he said “fine I was gonna say fr” then he laughed and smiled at me. Sometimes I just look up and I see him looking at me and then he looks away. And the other day him and his buddy were talking while looking directly at me.
So yea what do you guys think? | Crushes |
Hi!
First of all, this is my first post and I have no idea how this works 😂
(Long story short will be at the bottom, but I'm including quite some back story in case people are interested)
Buckle up people, this gonna be a long one 😅
I kinda need advice, kinda need something off my chest regarding my work crush cause it's been bugging me for a whole time now..
(Long) back story:
Where do I even begin tho! So I started working at my current work place about 4 years ago, and not long after I started, a guy started as well. From the moment I saw him, it did something to me. Funny truth to be told, my contact lenses back then weren't exactly the right ones, so I had to really like, stare at people just so I could figure out what they looked like 😂
Which means that I stared at him quite often too and everytime he noticed and looked at me (he always smiled cause he's a really nice and down to earth guy, very friendly), I immediately looked away.
Months went by without anything happening but then I noticed that he started to like, always/very often pass me by. We work on the same floor but we have a different job: he fixes things while I, you know, break things 🤷♀️😂
So everytime he had to go fix some malfunction, he always came by the place I was working at. And espesh when he went home..there are 3 exits and he always chose the one I was working at. Always.
The thing is..I had never experienced something like that in my life before, and I was (and still am) nervous everytime he was near me or when I just even saw him, therefore I acted in the WORST way possible; I was a b*tch and never answered him when he simply smiled or said hello..
And oh boy do I regret that now!
Also, whenever I saw him, I looked away. But he did the same. And then, the times when I did look at him or just his way, he also did the same. And that went on with multiple things: when I did something, he did too
So it was really like this cat and mouse game going on
After awhile I noticed he didn't really pass me by anymore, but hey can't blame him tbh
Anyway, fast forward to something more recent:
I went to a gig with my best friend which knew all about my crush/obsession. And then I saw him. He was there. At the gig where I was at also. And my nervousness started to kick in..
So he saw me, even told his friend he was with that he prolly recognized me from work cause they both looked our way multiple times. But I pretended that I didn't see him. Childish, I know, but again: I got (and still get) VERY nervous when he's around and I act COMPLETELY different than I normally would.
Anyway, during the gig, he walked past me and we shared a look and a brief smile and he held out his fist for me to fistbump him as he was going through the crowd. I even stood in front of him when the wall of death was about to begin.
The next week I was like: this is it, this is the perfect ice breaker for us to FINALLY have a conversation so I could show him that I wasnt a bitch but just some nervous and awkward friendly coworker 😅
Didn't happen.
Two weeks after, I had to be near him and I took the opportunity to talk to him and I started to ask him if he liked the concert and whatever and truth to be told..he was like "uhmm..what concert?" And he acted really evasive to my other questions
So yeah, I took that as a: he doesn't like me back, he's not interested
It was weird after that
But then the week after, he smiled and looked at me again 🤷♀️
That's a bit (oh yes, trust me, this is just a bit) of back story.
Long story short:
I have a crush on somebody at work where I really get so nervous around and he prolly thinks I'm a total bitch cause I never really smiled or said hello to him. I have no idea how to approach him, let alone make small talk with
He is on my mind 24/7 and even tho I recently changed shifts and never see him again (apart from very rare occassions where he still happens to be working late at night) I thought the crush would go away but I cannot forget him.
But this crush turned into an obsession and I know that it's wrong of me to obsess over him.
I get nervous when I see his car still parked at work, I still get nervous when I see him and suddenly forget how to smile and act normal, I often stalk his facebook, I often stalk the Youth Organisation page he's a part of.. and I know it is sooo wrong!
All I want is to show him that I'm friendly and not a total b*tch. All I want is for him to get the fudge outta my head. All I want is to get over this crush.
I need help 🥲 | Crushes |
I’ve seen a post like this but it didn’t have good comments so I’m posting my own. This girl so hot. So hot. We’re friends too, and I know she has a crush on this dude (we’re both Bi) or at least she says it’s a dude idk his name she wouldn’t tell me. How can I tell her I love her or have a crush on her without saying it? Like In a phrase that hides it. | Crushes |
I just texted her "I know this is out of the blue but I wanted to tell you something, I like you" and my head is exploding, I want to die but I'm also super happy. I'm like 60% sure she doesn't like me but I want closure so I can move on. Still waiting on a response, will update later. | Crushes |
I’ve been liking this boy since last year and he is in my class this year. I’ve been so embarrassed and awkward around him. He writes clues on who his new crush is on his discord profile and they all sum up to me when me and my friends were figuring out. I always look at him to see his behaviour around people (ik this is weird) and i wrote on my discord about me “i’ve been here since last year staring from afar✨✨” and then the next day he writes about how his crush constantly STARES at him and he just looks at a wall wondering why she’s staring. Like i really badly wanna talk to him and become friends but idk how to- 🥹 | Crushes |
My fwb and I kiss after he eats me out but he doesn’t like kissing when I swallow his cum cuz he says it’s gay.
I go brush my teeth after and I don’t mind at all, it’s his personal preference
I’m not upset or anything just curious if all straight guys feel similarly | Crushes |
I was texting her telling her my bad I haven’t texted in a while, I’ve been busy with school, then she said me too then I asked her if she wants to hang out this weekend and she said thanks for inviting, but I really can’t, I have a couple missing assignments because it’s the end of the term. | Crushes |
Hi, I'm relatively new to reddit, so forgive me if my formatting is bad lol.
I've always been a hopeless romantic, and tbh this is making it worse.
It kind of all started with me (m15) and my crush (m14) on a trip. We are apart of our schools band program, me on the dance team, and him playing bass clarinet. We're lame, I know but stay with me. We were on a trip to a big amusement park to perform in a parade, and it was an overnight trip.
Since this trip meant we had to you know, sleep somewhere, we had to have hotel rooms. 2 beds, with 4 students in each room, maybe 3 if you're lucky. My crush was put in a room that was uncomfortable with him being in there, so by some chance he was put into our room, and we had 5 to a room.
We had talked before this, specifically about music taste, and our friendship grew from that (We really like car seat headrest). My group had hit it off with him too, and we even hung out in the parks a good bit, and this dude could not stop telling me how attractive I looked.
One point during the trip we went to a shopping center and me and crush got separated. Eventually we met back up and he said "dude thank god you're okay! I was so worried this entire time like what if something happened to you?" And he was checking over me and making sure nothing bad happened to me. Of course my dumbass (who just went to the mnm store) asks if he wants some mnms.
But even after the trip, he comes and talks to me in the mornings before class and I see him smiling.a lot more when he is around me.
Got any advice guys? | Crushes |
i miss him, i’m not gonna be able to see him for a while, maybe a week or so, but things have gotten so much better.
i opened up to him on wednesday and he opened up also, he’s an awesome guy bro.
as i said before, he’s my brothers friend. my parents own a caravan in the same park as him so we see each other frequently.
it used to be “when are you and your brother coming up?” and now it’s “when are you coming up?”
sorry if that’s confusing. i’m off for easter and he’s going up tomorrow but i’m going up on sunday, the day he’s going home 😭😭 i’ll be able to see him next weekend though
not to mention he’s just been like
“why not come up on saturday?” yk? i’m really getting my hopes up…
i’ve also said that on the 28th june, if i still like him and nothing has happened yet, i’m gonna tell him. good luck to me! | Crushes |
my friends told me i should, i have maths homework and maybe if i ask him what he's done for it, since he's in my maths class, or would that seem weird? since i have other friends in that class, it feels weird to ask him | Crushes |
Just thought to leave this little message. Because my fellow hopeful romantics, I have succeeded. (We kissed) Yes, I guess I am bragging, but many times had I hoped for my own love story to come true while scrolling through this sub and it's finally here. If I managed to do it, as someone who always had been scared to talk to other people especially about feelings that I hold dear, as someone that never really had that much self-esteem, and as someone that has experienced what it's like to frustratingly admire someone from afar for 3 whole years, then you can too. It does take a bit of character bending and development, but it is so so worth it. For me, it really was just being straightforward with what I wanted. I can confidently say that they're not lying when they say confidence is key. So what are you doing? Talk to them, ask them out and get to kissin' before you're stuck with a frustrating crush you will not be able to shake so easily (before it gets harder to let go) | Crushes |
So I've liked this guy since last September, we text a few times, he stares in school and says hi, he likes stories of my face, lingers and follows me around the school, and had me on his insta cfs... he texts me first and my friend who used to be friends with his ex told me he never texted her first or did anything he does with me with her, he texted me first again 2 nights ago, stared at me in school and liked a story i posted of myself but he removed me from his close friends story? i still have him on mine so I'm confused. He did this before but added me back the next day but he hasn't added me back this time or liked any recent stories of mine, but they aren't stories of me so I'm scared to post myself and he doesn't like it because i JUST liked one of his. What is he doing????? | Crushes |
Dealing with an unrequited thing here fellas, I'm head over heels and tumbling deeper into some brambles at work. See her way too often and at an awkward distance. We went out once a couple months ago, I blew it, can barely talk to her now, but am still essentially hopelessly attracted to her.
Need a battle plan/guidance for how to shake out of this. Getting jealousy bombed every time I see her chatting (and especially laughing... horrible) with other guys, which is pretty straightforwardly toxic of me.
My plan was essentially to ignore her as much as possible, cold shoulder her up a little, act like the guy I guess I'd like to become. But I don't know if I really want to become that guy and also don't want to cause her any pain. And I'm also in denial to some extent and desperately wish that she felt similar feelings for me to my feelings for her. Short the toxic sleep-ruining ones. | Crushes |
For some context, the last two days in PE we have had to be with a group to do some testing things. We ended up in the same group because she didn’t have a group and the group I was in didn’t have enough people. The group my friend and I joined happened to be hers.
Technically we also talked yesterday, but not as much today (I can do a separate story if people want). Today we were doing a speed test, by running 40 yards and I asked her if there was a specific time she was going for. She asked the average and said she was gonna try to get about that, maybe a little faster. Then she asked me what I was trying to get, I replied saying the same thing.
We happened to be grouped with some girls from the grade below, and they were messing around. She was complaining about how they were messing around and I pointed out how the girl who had just ran was walking back, and she shouted to the girl about how we needed to hurry. This continued every time either me, my crush, or my friend weren’t the ones running.
After I ran my second attempt, she asked what I got and I told her. When she came back I asked her and she said she was a hundredth of a second slower. After every attempt, we asked each other what time we got. After we were told we were running the wrong way, my crush was the one writing down scores and I was the one timing. We both said to each other that this was definitely how it was supposed to be done, because it was faster (She also asked if I was ready every time).
We finished and went over to the next thing we needed to do, and all the girls in the grade below were walking, and we were all upset, because it caused us to not be able to get scores in.
Next period, I asked her what had happened because she had been attacked in a way by a rather interesting class mate (she has foot/knee/elbow fetishes) and she said that she needed to clean her knee because she got spit on.
I was nervous talking to her today, but it’s definitely improvement for me! | Crushes |
I've been friends with my crush for a good while now and since Easter is starting I have two weeks off school, I really want to ask my crush to hang out but every time we've hung out for a reason like going to watch something in the cinema, I just want to ask her to hang out randomly but I want to do it without seeming creepy or needy | Crushes |
We kissed a lot today. Holy crap I'm too happy | Crushes |
Mine are his beautiful hazel eyes | Crushes |
I think I’m ghosted I had texted my crush like 3-4 hours ago and still no reply | Crushes |
i dont want this to be all “woe is me” or whatever, but i just cant talk to anyone about this. I hate everything about myself. Im chubby, im ugly, my personality is really sarcastic so no one takes me seriously, and i dont even dress like a girl. Ive seen LITERALLY every girl i hang out with have a boyfriend, or at least have a guy interested i. her and no matter how much i try to put if off and say i dont care, i really do. I just want someone to rlly love me, and it sucks. I see girls that, personally, i look better than, get boyfriends and i makes me think that it’s actually just me. Sure i have my moments when i think im pretty but right after i go back to thinking how gross i am. Its gotten to the point i really dont think anyone will be attracted to me. Like ever. | Crushes |
**Apologies in advance, this will be a long one and a TL;DR simply won't do it justice.**
I cannot state clearly enough how fricking gorgeous she is! The most beautiful girl in school by far! And a big part of that beauty is obviously because she seemed very much like my type, but of course I couldn't know because we hadn't said as much as a word to each other.
So, shy as I am, I decided to send an anonymous message about her to the currently only active instagram gossip account run by students from our school. I knew she followed it but I doubted anything would come of it, especially since I had mentioned her there in the past.
But lo and behold, yesterday afternoon, a few hours after my message had been posted, I got a notif for a new post from the account so I checked it out, once again not expecting anything, but there it was: a message from someone claiming to be her best friend asking "who the f*ck wrote about [her]". At first I feared I had done something wrong but then I read the rest of the message: "I can be your wingman 😉".
My heard was pounding, I couldn't believe my message had actually been seen and definitely not that it had the desired effect! I replied with another anonymous message and a while after it had been posted, my crush's friend wrote again, demanding I reveal myself because her friend was really eager to know.
I didn't want to reveal myself publically so I realized my only option was to send a DM. Problem was, I didn't know her friend. Sure, I could guess who it was based on who my crush hangs out with at school but I didn't follow her on insta. My only option was to DM my crush directly, because I did actually start following her earlier because a few friends convinced me to.
And so I sent a DM to her simply saying that I was the one who wrote about her. And then I waited, heart pounding. Unfortunately I had to eat dinner while waiting which is next to impossible for me while nervous lol. But then, while I was sitting at the table, her reply finally came. She said it was brave of me to confess and from that spawned a very brief conversation about how I finally decided to bite the bullet thanks to her friends messages.
But I didn't really pick up much interest from her side so instead of jumping into smalltalk, which I'm not a fan of anyway, I decided to just end it there, feeling slightly disappointed, but still fairly content.
The evening went on and my overthinking started kicking in. What if she thought I was just really boring due to that short conversation or that I decided to end it because I immediately lost interest in her or something. Clearly just paranoia but these types of thoughts are inescapable to me.
Eventually I got a new notif from the gossip account. This time the post contained a message simply stating: "I was joking about [her]" and I immediately realized that this had to be from a person earlier who for some reason decided to claim to have been the one to have written about my crush. They hadn't been serious since they hadn't mentioned their name so it ultimately didn't matter but nonetheless they had now seemingly decided to repent.
Immediately I realized how this could be misunderstood, however. Since the messages were all anonymous it could've simply seemed like I wrote 2 replies to my crush's friends first message and that now, especially after the uneventful conversation with my crush, I had decided to throw a dick move and announce publically that "I was joking about" liking her in the first place, *after* we had already talked.
This thought process may also have been paranoia and overthinking but I felt the need to clarify that it wasn't me in another DM to her and take it as an opportunity to restart the conversation, so I did, and as it turns out, she did actually initially think that I had written the new message, so my overthinking was actually useful for once lol.
I explained my theory to her and the conversation continued for about as long as the first, for the same reason as the first. It went much better but when she ended with a short reply I decided not to force it any further.
So I went to sleep, feeling better than before except for an unbearable nervousness for the next challenge at hand: school.
Since I still felt so unsure about how she felt about me and she might think I felt about her, I had no idea how she would react if we were to lock eyes in school the next day. Heck, I wasn't even sure if she knew who from school I was since we had never interacted. She could say hi to me and start a conversation, alternatively her friend could, fulfilling her promise as wingman, either of which scared me as I'm much more awkward in person, or she could ignore me which would leave me with nothing but overthinking about what it could mean.
Now, in anti-climactic fashion, I didn't end up seeing her today, as I often don't on Fridays but I was incredibly nervous the whole day and I could barely eat anything for lunch as a result, so when I left I felt very relieved, but as soon as I sat down in the metro train, I started regretting the missed opportunity, and what's more, the paranoia from yesterday was still nagging me, so eventually I decided to send her another DM explaining that I assumed she wasn't interested and therefore didn't want to force smalltalk upon her, and I know what you're thinking: "why? That's a bad move". I agree but I thought it over long and hard and it didn't feel that bad and every time I went over it in my head, my nervousness calmed for a bit, so I hit send.
Then I waited, and waited, and waited, and I started to worry. What if she saw the notif, cringed, and decided it wasn't worth answering, ghosting me just like a previous crush did which left me feeling devastated.
But finally, right *before* dinner this time, the reply came, and it was a long one in which she, in the nicest way possible, explained how she wants to focus on school now in the final few months before graduation and is therefore not interested in a relationship at the moment, along the way revealing that she took so long to reply because she was out eating dinner with family, but also that she did indeed know who from school I was and even recalled when we were briefly in the same English class.
And sure, it's entirely possible that she's not attracted to me personally and used school as an excuse to reject me, she was really excited about knowing who had written about her after all, but I'm actually not so sure because after that message and after I, as politely as I could, replied that it was all good and that I took no offense (which is completely true btw), we actually had a slightly longer conversation about broader stuff than the situation at hand, where she also showed more interest than previously, and it was here that she revealed stuff like how I was the first guy to confess to her (which honestly surprised me considering how beautiful she is) and how she could relate to my shyness which sparked this entire situation in the first place.
She also thanked me for taking the rejection so well and to that I thanked her for being so honest since I had been ghosted before. She replied that that was the least she could've done which was so incredibly refreshing to read. All the while heart emojis were being thrown around and we talked about school stuff and it all honestly felt amazing, even though I was just rejected. Seeing her in school before she always felt way above my league but there I was having a very heartfelt conversation with her; the most beautiful girl I know, and I still feel happy from it.
I still don't know her that well but everything I've learned so far just confirms that she's my type and, who knows, maybe we'll get back in touch after we graduate, although I'm not entirely sure how to do that properly, so feel free to suggest. Either way, despite my constant overthinking I feel like I've matured a lot the past 2 days thanks to this new experience.
Anyway, thank you for reading that incredibly long post that took me almost 2 hours to write lol! :) | Crushes |
So today I was just sitting, waiting for the bell to ring (we were in the school's kitchen because we just had a cooking workshop), and my crush asked if she could use my crutches, of course i said yes. Then after about 2 mins she was standing next to me i was looking down at my phone so i wasnt really paying attention to what she was doing. Next thing i know, she has her hands out and just randomly starts hugging me from behind while im sitting. She was standing behind me. She had both her hands on my arms and was resting her head on mine. She then gave me a little shoulder massage while doing so. She just kept on hugging me. (She had to take her phone, which was on the table, but didnt want to let go of me so was still hugging me with 1 hand while leaning on me) This lasted for 2 minutes. The warmth of the hug, her scent, her hair, everything. I could feel it.
The best hug ive ever received
Even more happened during th workshop but i dont have the time to share lol | Crushes |
I've started not long ago high school. There was this boy, who was the first boy I've talken to in my new class. Well.. days have passed and we've become great friends.
One time he also comforted me when I was almost crying at school: he danced weirdly in front of me to make me laugh (and he succeed :) ).
He often teases me and he annoys me a lot.
A few months ago he started to message me. He started the convo with a lame joke. As a response I messaged back with another lame joke. Now our chat is made of lame jokes and funny videos.
At school I often catch him look at me. And he also comforts me whenever I'm not satisfied with a result of my test. Actually he comforts me a bit indirectly, smt like this: "ahh it's ok I've got that too".
Today I was called by my professor to answer a few questions, and I got really anxious that I started trembling. He's kinda sitting near me and he looked at me and did something that made me laugh.
Also a few days ago we started, as usual, to insult each other (we both know we're joking). I've said something that wasn't funny at all lol and he said "and that's why you don't have a boyfriend", as a response I said " and that's why YOU don't have a girlfriend".
He usually teases other girls too, but not as much as he does with me. A lot of my girl classmates also say that he's obviously in love with me. Idk.. what do you think? | Crushes |
I want to make the first move but I’m not sure how he’s going to react. Plus I feel like I’m hideous and question if he would like someone like me. Whenever he looks at me I try to dodge eye contact bc I don’t want him to see me the way I see myself and sometimes I think what if the reason he hasn’t made the first move is bc he thinks I’m ugly. which that would be his opinion ig but i think that maybe I’m over thinking. this sounds odd to say but ppl call me pretty sometimes but I can’t get myself to believe it and just assume that everyone is lying and that I’m as ugly as I think I am. | Crushes |
I hadn’t texted her for a week because she didn’t text first but then I got the courage to text and say sorry I haven’t been texting, I’ve been busy with mcas, which is a standardized test. She said it’s ok I’ve also been busy with it, then I was like oh fr, and she was like haha yes, then I said I’ve had a strange week, she said yea same the last week of quarter is always weird. Then I said the mcas had me so tired I couldn’t even focus and then I said I mean I deadass can’t remember anything I did this week, then I triple texted and said I’m probably gonna go to the mall on Saturday but I’ll be free Sunday. She didn’t respond for like an hour, she gave a thumbs up to my message about my plans, she said sorry I was working on my english essay then she replied agreeing to my message saying the mcas had me so tired, then she said I can’t say it was too hard but i felt it was a super long and annoying text haha, then I said you took the mcas? I thought that was only 10th grade, then she said she needed it to graduate so she had to take it, then I said it’s so boring but there’s no way you can fail, and she was like yeah probably. And finally, I said you wanna hang out this weekend? She said, thanks for inviting, but I really can’t, I have couple missing works which I need to finish. My friends are all saying I got rejected but I wouldn’t say so, I just asked if she wants to hang out, hopefully she just sees me as a friend. I had an opportunity to talk to her at lunch, but my friends all told me not to and to stop obsessing, but I thought if I just talked to her in person, I’d truly find out if she likes me or not. But it’s ok I can talk to her sometime next week. I just can’t text for a while, and I’m not gonna text unless she texts me. I think I’ll try to talk to her in person sometime because we’ll be on break in 3 weeks, so I’m hoping I can hang out with her next week or something. I hope she was being honest about being busy. | Crushes |
Today after class I was talking to an old friend that also happens to be in her class and I asked him if they were dating because I've seen them together a lot, he laughed and said that she's not his girlfriend but he's "sharing" her with some other guys that I also happen to be friends with. He told me that they ran a train on her a few times and asked if I wanted to join in next time. I rejected, I really thought she liked me. Terrible way to lose feelings for someone but safe to say I don't like her anymore | Crushes |
I have a crush on a boy, he’s in my class but I can’t understand if I’m delusional or he actually appreciates me, when we’re in PE class I ALWAYS catch him looking at me and at first he was shyly looking away but now he stopped looking away and he just started looking straight into my soul, that’s just so scary and it just makes me feel like he hates me 😭 also my friends already catch him looking at me. Sometimes he’s just so cold and other times he’s the sweetest boy, he already gave me a heart shaped lolipop that’s just sooo cute. It’s literally so hard to find out if there’s something because he’s the shy and kind with everyone type of person and he’s like soooo popular. Sometimes I think that if he liked me he will just come and talk to me but I like him and I don’t do it either cause I’m shy too and he also prefers staying alone so idk I’m just so confused. And everyone thinks he’s in love with his cousin who is not actually his cousin, he already gave her a sweater !!! but she has a boyfriend. I’m completely lost
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So there's a girl in my class who I've always had a crush on, like for 3years and it was very obvious she liked me for a bit 2yrs ago but I was to scared to go do anything
about it. Recently i started getting a bigger crush on her ( it's always been there but not always as strong ),we started talking a bit everyday, we have a mutual friend so we do hang out a bit. She started getting rly
weird around me? Like she was really red
,talking rly fast, I saw her looking at me a lot in a few classes and she asked our mutual friend if she could swap seats with her during class and then she spoke to me that
whole lesson?? Idk am I just being delusional bc I like her or is it something???? | Crushes |
So there’s a girl in my class who I’ve always had a crush on, like for 3years and it was very obvious she liked me for a bit 2yrs ago but I was to scared to go do anything about it. Recently i started getting a bigger crush on her ( it’s always been there but not always as strong ), we started talking a bit everyday, we have a mutual friend so we do hang out a bit. She started getting rly weird around me? Like she was really red, talking rly fast, I saw her looking at me a lot in a few classes and she asked our mutual friend if she could swap seats with her during class and then she spoke to me that whole lesson?? Idk am I just being delusional bc I like her or is it something???? | Crushes |
I finally got her number and texted her a bit asking how she was doing and thanking her for having lent me a calculator a few days ago.
What am i supposed to do now? How do i start a conversation? | Crushes |
So I have a crush at work. I’m in a relatively small work group chat on Snapchat with about 15 active people that she is a part of. We talk and are friendly when we work together and I’ve always felt that there was a serious spark between us but it’s always just felt too intense for me to relax and initiate anything. She literally makes me speechless. Not to sound full of myself but I consider myself attractive and most people especially at work tell me this often so it’s not often that a girl can make me feel this way. But yesterday was my birthday and also another coworkers birthday and everyone in the group chat made a point to tell me and my coworker happy birthday even ones who I’ve met only once, except for my crush who only said happy birthday to my coworker, and honestly it just hurt. Why would she do this? Is she trying to tell me that I’m just not right for her? | Crushes |
i ended things, my heart is broken again i hate this sm i wish things didn’t end things and i want him back but at least i didn’t chase him away ig, i wish he cared and loved me as much as i did for him but he didn’t, i wish his ex was never around and didn’t have feelings for him and i wish that he wasn’t so flirty to girls and i wish he didn’t do to me but that’s life ig but he couldn’t even the bare minimum for me and i’m crying all over again he did the same thing that the other guy to me, i hate that i’m so in love with him and that i loved him for this long, i hope faith brings us to each other and he comes back to me and he does everything i did for him for me too, ik i sound crazy and delusional but i can’t help it, i wish i wasn’t this mature | Crushes |
Yesterday I told her that I like her and if she wants to date, and if we could talk about it, and she said that she doesn’t want a relationship right now, but next week we can go talk about it and grab a drink! So I think it’s going somewhere, it’s fine that she doesn’t want to date, if she wants to talk about it, that means something | Crushes |
At school, I (14M) was told by someone that their friend (14F) liked me. I added the girl on insta and tiktok but I havent spoke to her yet, and its easter break now. What should I do next? | Crushes |
So there is this girl I have a crush on at a local store who I've talked to 3 or 4 times. We seem to get along really well, and it always feels like she smiles extra around me which feels nice. Actually the first time I met her there was a product out of stock so she asked if I could write down my name and phone number and she would let me know when it came in, which I haven't been asked to do before. I asked for her name last I saw her and left on a good note.
Next time I see her I would like to ask her out or let her know I'm interested. Should I just give her my phone number or ask her out on a specific date, and if so what should I say?
Any advice helps. | Crushes |
I've been crushing on this guy for quite a while now. I'm quite reserved so my friends have only just found out who he is, and they keep suggesting he's gay. It's not in a mean or joking manner, they genuinely think he's gay. I haven't asked him yet but one of my friends have told me that my crushe's friend thinks he IS gay, but my crush keeps insisting he's not. I, however, don't know anything about the topic and have only heard rumours/speculations. Either way, this has bothered me immensely. Anyone have any ideas on what I should make out of this? Do you think he IS gay? | Crushes |
So, me and my crush used to be friends and we would talk every day. We had mutual friends and were part of the same friend group. A few months ago our friend group stopped hanging out together and talking to eachother that much. My crush still would tease me or come to talk to me. He would also message me asking to play video games together.
Some time ago my best friend came over to my house. She told me to message my crush asking him if he had a crush on me. He replied asking if I wrote that message. My best friend told me to explain it to him at school so I didn't text him back. I sent that message on a Friday and on the next Monday I wasn't at school because I was sick. My crush texted me asking if I'm going to reply to him. I replied saying that that message was my best friend's fault. He said that our mutual friend told him that I had a crush on him and wrote that message to see if he has a crush on me. I told him that our mutual friend had some wrong information. He then suggested playing Doors together. We played for about half an hour and then he said he has to go. He hasn't spoken to me since then(2 weeks).
We don't have any classes together, but we often pass eachother in the hallways and he just ignores me. Did I do something wrong? :') | Crushes |
So this is kinda weird. I started liking my friends twin like a week ago and we text alot. I genuinely think she likes me and a few of my friends say so too. I was at first hesitant to talk to her because of my friend cos I didn't wanna ruin our friendship but I talked to him and he was actually so chill abt it and he was excited for me. And I just wanna know how do i get closer to her now? | Crushes |
I started liking this boy once i realised how nicely he’s been treating me even tho we tease each other all the time, for example I tied his hair up while he was playing games on the class computer and he’s still wearing my hair tie, he was holding my phone so I grabbed his when he wasn’t looking and he hugged me and asked for it back.Anyways im not going to list all the things he has done for me, i’ve been trying to find an excuse to text him since we don’t have a lot of conversations at school because we sit far away on break time.I really hate texting just a “hi” it’s awkward and usually doesn’t end up anywhere, so how do i start texting him and keeping him hooked?? | Crushes |
They messaged me first and we talked about music. I mentioned my height and they said they thought it was cute. Also she said (after looking through some old story’s of mine) that she loved skater boys. I also sent them one of those “this could be us” Memes along with other memes. And she said “that’s already gonna be us fr. Is this just small flirting or is it kinda a sign? Idk | Crushes |
Message something random you would say in the middle of a convo instead of “hi” or “wsg”. It’s fun | Crushes |
I don't really want to say mine bc they might be here, but I've also talked about them a bunch idt I can hide much anymore XD
With regards to how they used to talk to me, they were a little thick-skulled when it came to my feelings bc subtext just isn't their strongest suit (unless it was, like, tonal changes in a score or smth like that which I respect immensely and even enjoy investigating myself). It has its strengths when they move on from previously heavy discussions that happened hours before in a group chat with a meme or a cute animal picture, but I recall a few times when I was too scared to tell them that something was wrong and I was already in tears when they realized it.
I think that was when I realized that we were less compatible than I thought, even if it was still my fault somewhat for not communicating properly. Aside from someone who actually likes me, for one, I'd like someone a little more attuned to my tells - someone I can be more honest with.
That's me tho, how about you guys? XD | Crushes |
straight up talking to him everyday for over a month and nothing has happened. all my friends are saying he likes me because we talk for hours at a time and give excuses to hang out.
months ago he led me on only to say no because we were in the same friendgroup.
yes, in theory, i could say something to him. i said something last time though. i feel like he’s just leading me on again. i’m literally so pissed off. i want him to make a decision for once. | Crushes |
I got to hug him but now I'm bawling my eyes out knowing he'll never be mine. | Crushes |
Hi, first time here and hopefully I can get advice. I met this guy , L, in November 2019 at a bar and we hung out a couple of times and we become friends which turned to friends with benefits. Nothing serious. Then we hooked up for the last time in March 2020 a week before the Worldwide lockdown thanks to Covid. A couple of months later, I found out I was pregnant with L's son. I was scared and nervous but I told him. During the pregnancy he would ask every now and then about my health but nothing else, it was like our friendship was gone. I thought he wasn't interested in our baby so I just didn't bother with telling him how seriously bad my healthwas duringmy pregnancy. Unfortunately our son came early, I told him I was in labor and when I gave birth by sending him pictures( In South Africa, I couldn't have anyone in the room with me when I gave birth)
In my son's first year, L only saw him twice( when the baby was 4 months old and his first birthday) because we lived an hour away and both of us didn't have cars. But after our son turned 1 L made more of an effort, he would do video call, check up on him every couple of days, we talked more and visiting him more. I started getting feelings for him, like he is the complete opposite of someone who I get feelings for. He's very quiet and intelligent which is not the qualities my former acquaintances had. He's a very handsome guy and has a dad bod and just has a cool demeanor but my problem is I don't think his family knows about our son. I don't ask because 1. I'm not his partner and 2. His family lives in a different province to us. We don't really talk about our personal lives unless it involves our son
I NEED ADVICE:
1. Do I tell him about the feelings I have for him.
2. Do I ask if he wants our son to meet his family.
Thank you everyone
To clarify, my family has met him. | Crushes |
read previous posts for better perspective
i confessed and got friendzoned. but before this there was literally a 4 month period of her staring and always acting weird and nervous around me. SPECIFICALLY ONLY AROUND ME. KEEP THAT IN MIND. there was no way i was seeing things, because it literally lasted for 4 months (and is still going on) because sometimes she would stare at me, and her friend would notice that she's staring at me too, so she definetly noticed.
but we barely interacted though, which made it seem unclear, until we got seated one time, we didnt talk to each other while we were seated but when we did it was because she asked me a question and she was blushing SO HARD. after that, she kept trying to find excuses to talk to me, find out more about me, etc. so she does like me, but is she interested in a relationship? i thought to myself
then i confessed, and she said she was super excited, asked her if she liked me back, said she didnt like me like that, liked me as a friend. what. so i said (trying to play it cool and not making it seem like im pressuring her) "now that i know this, i hesitated to ask this but i guess im free to do it now, what was all the staring at me and looking away stuff about?"
she. denied. it. whyyyyyyy... why would she deny it?? why would she deny all the staring if i already confessed???? why would she friendzone me if she liked me back??? theres no way those signs arent her liking me??? did she not like me all long???? is there any hope between us now??? what did i do wrong???? :((((( | Crushes |
It is weird for a girl to approach a guy first (context: who are strangers and/or have never spoken to each other).
How do guys feel when a girl approach them and show interest/ask for your number? How do girls feel about the societal standard that girls shouldn’t approach guys or show interest first? | Crushes |
we did plans a few weeks ago and it was fun and we’ve been texting for like a month now but lately they’ve been leaving me on delivered for days but said they were bad at texting back
but we talk in school and they seem interested when in talking in person
and i wanna ask them if they want to make plans again since we have break now, but im so bad at picking up social queues and idk if they’re just too nice or whatever to hint they don’t want to text or aren’t interested or whatever and i’m just missing queues, or if it’s just my self esteem is really low lmao💀(i’ve had bad friendships previously that really affected me)
but when they text back should i ask them to plans or just leave it??💀 | Crushes |
To you,
Incase you have ever wondered if you are a person worthy of love, I will always try my best to reassure you that you are.
Your eyes provide such an amazing insight to who you are. They betray you at times, and bare your soul to the world.
A soul that is so gentle, so kind and caring. A hardened soul that still clings to a child like wonderment of the world. A soul that speaks so loudly to the world it interacts with.
Your soul shows you are someone worth fighting for and protecting even through all the challenges of this world. To stand by your side is something to be proud of, not something to take for granted.
The universe will continue to throw challenges in your way. Some will be harder then others. At times you may want to give up and settle, but thats not you. You aren’t someone who gives up. You fight. You fight for yourself. You push and push for better.
At times the journey you are on may feel lonely. But I assure you, you are not alone. You are very loved, and cared for, unconditionally. If you ever need somewhere to rest, you only need ask.
The warmth you give to so many, I can only attempt to give back. But I hope at times you can stop, quiet the voices, and feel the love around you. The love I and others have for you. The love the world, moon, sun and stars have for you.
You may feel alone or abandoned at times. But you are not alone, and never will be. I cannot speak for others. How they will act or what they will do. But I for one, am not going anywhere.
You are someone special and if you dont yet know that about yourself, I hope you one day can see and feel that about yourself.
If you need to see this message, I hope you find it. | Crushes |
So when I started college, I have had a few crushes here and there, but always fleeting. However, when we started to go to our actual classes instead of online modality, I met an ireggular classmate who I share some of my classes with.
I didn't really took notice before but he really is good-looking to me. He's got this long hair, nice smile, and a few years older than me. I wouldn't say he's athletic but he plays frisbee and basketball.
Anyways, I spent my classes silently admiring this guy thinking nothing of it. It was thrilling to have a little motivation to class. Fast forward to our annual sports fest, he was playing ultimate frisbee. And ofc the simp that I am, went and watched it. I greeted him after the game and I wanted to test his reaction if he likes me too (I dunno what I was expecting). Seemed like it was meh reaction.
The last day of the tournament came and a professor that we share (his frisbee coach + my prof in a subject he wasn't in) leaked a convo from their frisbee players groupchat to ours that basically says that they need supporters for their final match.
And this guy jokingly said "Sir just send [my name]. We're gonna be good" I know this is nothing but dang its enough to make my heart backflip. Having a happy crush is fun. That's all, I hope you have a good day. | Crushes |
Since I came to this new school, I have had a crush on a girl from another class. Shes very pretty but also seems to be a bit lonely, and we have literally never talked or anything, but I have been thinking about talking to her at some point. Though I have a small problem, I have no idea what to say to her :D | Crushes |
She really likes "you owe me an OIU" by Hot Hot Heat. I'm trying to figure out what other songs she would like. | Crushes |
I've posted about her here before but I'll summarize quickly. My childhood crush messaged me out of the blue a few days ago, and we have been talking throughout the day. I still like her and she's still the way I remember in middle school.
Okay, how do I ask her to hang out? We never have outside of school back then and I don't want to pressure her or make her uncomfortable. | Crushes |
And then you just want to be friend of that person? | Crushes |
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