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I've lost that feeling of having butterflies in your stomach or that feeling of warmth and giddiness when I saw her or was near her. I don't see myself wanting to date her or anything like that anymore.
I'm not attracted to her anymore but I still find her attractive if that makes sense.
I still want to try to be her friend, she seems like a cool person and she's in a tough spot in life right now. So, I am still going to try to help her when I can and support her. Give her compliments once in a while still since I like making someone feel better about themselves, and I find it easier to compliment her anyways.
I don't know if I should say that I no longer like her to her since she knew I liked her before. But she doesn't really need to know that or told that, so I won't. I'll only say if she asks. | Crushes |
All the ones I truly like leave my life and this is what I mean I’ve never fallen in love like actual love just the fake mushy stuff but with this one girl it felt like a different kind of love one that you can only find once in a lifetime. A four leaf clover and I can’t move on her name her face her smile its engraved in my mind and I’ll probably still think about her when I’m in my sixties but I know she won’t be thinking about me I bet she hasn’t made 3 Reddit posts about me i bet she hasn’t written all about me in her notes so why do I still like her ? | Crushes |
So I (21f) have been crushing on a friend (29m) for a little over a month now and I have no idea how he really feels about me anymore.
We first met online through a mutual friend and for work reasons he came to visit me in my state for a week. I stayed over at his rental airbnb to get away from my not so great living situation for a little bit, and we kind of got some sexual tensions going and at the end of the week we ended up having sex. I really like him and he's told me he likes me too, but is emotionally drained and not ready for a serious relationship after a good number of really hard break ups and a failed engagement. We had a talk and I told him I'm willing to wait for him to be ready...
Fast forward to now, after our first meet up he's been confessed to by 3 other people. Our second meet up he was way less intimate and way less flirtatious (we still had sex a few nights of his stay). It really did a number on my self-esteem and I'm pretty sure these feelings are one-sided. The 3 other women who have confessed to him all (assuming) live in the same state as him while I live 1000+ miles away from him. My jealousy is also starting to get the better of me whenever I hear about his female coworker who is extremely (and personally uncomfortably) close to him. Not to mention the 8 year age gap and the fact he has siginificantly more expirience than I ever have.
The only things we've been doing is text each other almost daily, have online movie nights, and play video games with a group of friends.
Do I even have a chance? Am I just giving myself false hope? Is this love worth it?
Will he ever love me like how I love him? | Crushes |
So I really like this girl, had a crush on her for the past two years, and I finally found out that she liked me a couple weeks ago and we went ice skating. I haven't told her I liked her, but she knows (I have a very leaky friend). The date was actually tons of fun and we flirted a lot, but afterward something changed. We used to text everyday and now we texted once the whole week, and that was a chess GamePidgeon. We talked a little during the class we had together, but there was nothing really special. I feel like I'm losing her, what should I do? It's been a full week since our date now. | Crushes |
its a little more deep than what it seems like
i wanted to ask somebody for advice so feel free to dm. | Crushes |
Last time we hung out we played animal crossing and he said “I wish there was a kiss button so I could give you a little kissy” and was making little kissy noises
Like ummmm helloooo!!! I know he’s not flirting because he’s in a relationship, and I’m like 99% sure they’re monogamous! Do people do this? Is this a thing that people do with their friends? | Crushes |
OK so back story time. I've known this girl for years now but we've only hit it off as friends last year at the start of 10th grade. We've talked a lot the whole year and my feelings only kinda got serious in the past few months. We've been talking much more lately and I even got her to play video games with me kinda late at night.
She trusts me enough to get open with me about her past experiences and we have a lot in common.
The problem is she's so confusing and her signs are very mixed. My friend who's in touch with her friends says that her friend thinks she likes me but she doesn't drop clear signs with me at all and I just find it strange. | Crushes |
I know, I know, the whole *having a crush on your best friend’s dad* thing is a huge cliché, but I still want to get it off my chest and talk about it. Also, this is maybe a bit TMI, but the more sensitive parts of this story did not happen when I was underage.
Some background: My best friend and I have known each other since freshman year of high school. I spent summers swimming with her family or babysitting her siblings or generally being present since she and I spent so much time together. Her parents are divorced and her dad has primary custody of her and her 2 younger siblings. Generally, he’s responsible and his ex-wife is a bit of a mess, so he’s been the main parental presence in her life. He’s in his early 40s, single, charming, kind, and a genuinely good dad.
So, I’ve always thought he was handsome (he objectively is) and pretty hot (he’s super fit,) but those feelings got more intense over the last year or 2. His smile gives me butterflies and he’s always happy to see me. I have an open invitation to use their pool or crash in their guest room whenever I want, which I’ve done on occasion (it isn't weird, my best friend and I have keys to each other’s houses for emergencies and my parents extended her the same offer,) and I feel incredibly myself and at ease around him. There’s a familiarity there that’s genuinely very nice.
A weird thing that has started happening with me is that I get really turned on whenever I see him being a good dad to his kids. Like, watching him be a responsible and kind father is a HUGE turn on for me. I’ve always admired (and respected) him for being a great dad, but watching him being a father now makes me feel all yearny. It’s weirdly primal, I don’t know. In that moment I get why it is that people feel the urge to have kids, and seeing him being a dad just turns me into a horny mess.
He and I have seen each other on the way to and from the shower when I was staying over (not truly nude, but close enough to spark my overactive imagination,) and I’ve thought about that relentlessly. At least once I masturbated while staying overnight in their guest room, and there’s a chance he knew it was happening since I’m not super subtle and it shares a wall with his bedroom (this is speculation; it’s never come up.) However, I’m pretty sure I’ve heard him do it once through the wall as well (again, also speculation.) I definitely masturbate while thinking about him often, though.
**Tl;dr:** I have a big, messy crush on my best friend’s dad (who’s a perfect gentleman and has never done anything intentionally untoward) and it’s maybe awakening stuff in me. | Crushes |
Is time to move on and find someone better | Crushes |
Am I going crazy? What does this imply? When something intimate happens do you often think a lot about it ?
This isn’t a mind reading post I just want to get some outer perspectives so i can gauge my response
I (19f) am friends with (20m) and as a group we all usually hangout sometimes get drunk and do various things
The other day a few of us were hanging and eventually me and my friend got very very whiskey drunk, everyone else had gone to bed and we were chilling and chatting. Eventually my head was on his lap and we chatted like that for a while and fell asleep holding hands (which I’m pretty sure he initiated) and he was even doing the hand holding stroke shit
I don’t want to give more specifics because i want this to be as anon as possible and we didn’t kiss or anything but it felt very intimate and sweet, just us sort of giggling and smiling, and I’ve been thinking about it sort of confused. Could he like me? Is it crazy of me to be thinking it over ?
It’s not that i have a crush on him persay but i could I’ve jsut avoided it cause we’re friends and stuff idk.
The next day we just sorta chatted normally and we’re all chill but it all sort of took me off guard | Crushes |
I guess she was just being friendly when she admitted to obsessing over me. I guess she was just being friendly when we argued over who loved the other more. I guess she was just being friendly when we talked about moving in together after highschool. I guess she was just being friendly when we fell asleep on call all those times. I guess she was just being friendly when she complimented everything about me. I guess she was just being friendly when she said i was the only reason she smiled. I guess she was just being friendly when she told me she was always looking forward to the next time i text her. I just don't understand where i went wrong 😕. | Crushes |
This sounds weird and out of the ordinary but I want my crush to reject me . She’s all I ever think about , I cry thinking about her , she’s my number one desire , she’s my everything , I manifest her to like me back , she’s clouding my judgment to the point where it’s not even healthy . I can write an essay about it . So…. her rejecting me can put an end to it all . I’ll be able to live my life without love interfering . I could’ve dated many girls but turned it down . I’ve never cared much about love or dating or girls until I saw her . She’s the only girl I’ve ever had feelings for . I rather have a temporary wound than have a permanent one . Might as well get it out of the way and go up to her tomorrow and ask for her phone number . I doubt any teenager is emotionally available I know I’m not . I’m insecure , possessive, I get way too attached , and I don’t deserve her .
Plus falling in love is scary . | Crushes |
I was drunk last night, got in a car with a friend and we parked on the side of the road waiting for others.
My ex and a couple of her friends walk passed the car.
As we first saw them from afar, my friend took to opportunity to get some information out of drunk me. From what I remember, I only said stuff like I know that she can’t forget about me and stuff.
I jokingly had to idea of talking to her right then and there though.
My sober friend tells me I won’t and that I’m scared. We know how that goes…
So I joke around at first by rolling the windows up and down while laughing.
When they get close, I rolled the window down once again and I’m pretty sure I just said "wassup <her friend’s name>" and then bursted out laughing.
Her friend said wassup back and I’m pretty sure they started laughing (Idk how my ex reacted though)
My sober friend told me I was fucked up for doing that as she was laughing like crazy.
It was all fun and games and still is to me lol (I’m sober now), but I saw both the friends my ex was with this morning. I said hey to both of them and neither answered me lol
There’s nothing I can do about that little situation anymore but it was funny in my opinion.
This was just a little story lol but do you think what I did is messed up ? | Crushes |
I met this girl during a seminar at my college and became friends with her. She was perfect - so fun and friendly and sincere and smart and strong-willed. We had so much in common and I genuinely wanted to be with her. But when I confessed, she turned me down. I think she might've known I liked her, since I made it pretty obvious and stuff, which now thinking on it is embarrassing. She'd said she wasn't looking to date now and as much as I want to respect that it still hurts to be rejected.
Anyway, she said she wanted to be friends and stuff, but ever since I've just kinda avoided her. She's texted me, asking how I am and stuff, but I've started to ignore it. Whenever our friends meet up, since we're all in the same friend group, I don't go. I'm just trying to get over her and move on. I know that if I'm around her or talk to her then I'm just going to end up liking her more, and I'm trying to move on. But I feel guilty that I'm doing this because I don't want to hurt her feelings. | Crushes |
so I’m a girl in 8th grade (I’m 14)and like I don’t have a lot of dating experience. I dated 2 guys before but they were both terrible tbh. recently these 2 guys who sit behind me in math class have been telling me their friend likes me (I’m gonna call him G). G went to my elementary school so I kinda know him but we never talked after elementary school so it’s kinda weird. his moms my social studies teacher too so this is really weird. The other day at lunch his friends came up to me and said I should get with him and that he wants me/thinks I’m cute and stuff. He ran over to them and pushed them away from me and he ran back to his table. Then the same thing happened 2 days later and they said G was gonna talk to me and ask me out. He looks really red in the face and embarrassed. But the thing I don’t want a stupid 1 month relationship I’m looking for a healthy long relationship. Also I forgot to mention that this guy is way out of my league he’s really athletic and attractive. He’s popular (we have the popular kids at school vs the unpopular kids and I don’t think I’m popular). He’s nice, smart, and he’s not that annoying compared to some of the guys at my school. Everyone keeps pressuring to get together with this guy but I just feel like I need to talk to him and get to know him more. I barely know anything about him. I want to get to know him for like a month maybe but is that pushing it? Cause maybe he’ll lose interest in me or something idk. I think he’s like the guy that meets all my standards and everyone thinks we would look good tg but idk. He’s a football player and popular but I’m an unpopular singer, dancer, actor, artist and I think that makes me look kinda nerdy? I’m also really introverted at school and I get so scared about talk to people, especially guys. But I think G is scared to talk to me (kinda weird..) and he’s kinda shy about it but I don’t wanna come up to him and talk to him. I don’t even have his snap yet. Maybe I should add him on snap but he’s not on my quick add list so would it be weird to add him by search? I just need help figuring out if this is gonna work for me or no. | Crushes |
https://www.reddit.com/r/findapath/comments/129wdf1/which_should_i_major_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf (for man I am w for longest or father of kids)
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Every night I daydream about her. Usually about cuddling with her. Imagining that I was falling asleep in her arms, or with her in my arms. Or about playing with her hair while she’d lay with her head rested on my lap falling asleep. Just generally being cozy under a bunch of blankets together and just existing in each others presence.
I hope some day those daydreams will happen for real. Unfortunately for me however we live nowhere near each other, and we’ve had a lot of issues between us lately. But who knows… Maybe things will even out and one day my daydreams will become reality.
Thinking those things makes me feel almost as safe and comfortable as I’d imagine it really happening would. It’s just about as close to perfect as I can get without it really happening. | Crushes |
I visit him everyday to watch him play drums (which is just fantastic) and i cant even tell him Hi without wanting to piss myself right after lmao cant i be normal agrg! | Crushes |
Has anyone in the history of the world created a guidebook to all the different crushes a person can have?
Like, "brushed my hand and made eye contact" or "makes me feel like I'm struck by lightning when they're near." Then we can start rating, using statistics.
Catch -in -the throat crushes are for flirting only. Forget -your- name crushes are entertaining to pursue but not sustainable. But the ones that make your heart bounce all over in your best, your face fill will anticipation, your breath catch, those are the ones that you'll picture instead of your partner if you don't pursue the crush now. But then, if you do pursue the crush, it will destroy your life. It will launch 1000 ships. It will put the hot teacher in jail and the student in therapy for the rest of his life.
I'd love to hear about all your crushes, how they compare to other crushes. How you prioritize. Or even, what do you do when you're already in a relationship and then crushed on someone else. | Crushes |
Dm | Crushes |
Of the adults I presume Karen since she doesn’t have mental health issues, of the older teens probably Steve Nancy or Billy but what about the younger ones
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Im interested in this guy who I see often bc he works at a store I go to practically every other day but I don’t know him and we’ve never spoken to each other. The most we’ve done is just take a fee glances at each other. I didn’t think about him much bc when he started working at the store I didn’t see him, my mom saw him for the first time and was telling me how there was a cute guy that looked my age and that I missed my chance of seeing him lol (my mom is like my best friend I love her so much omg) but I eventually saw him and thought he was really cute but didn’t think anything further. I would look at him if I happened to see him but that’s about it. Then one day I went into the store with my sister and he was there. We kept making eye contact (he’s so pretty and I was glad that he was looking at me) but I still didn’t think much bc it’s something we’ve done before but then I noticed as i went to different areas of the store he would be there to so then I started thinking is he following me? Then next thing I know he’s walking right beside me and I got so nervous that he was going to talk to me that i pretended not to see him and called someone. Since that day I’ve been thinking about him constantly, when I think someone is attractive I don’t fathom that they would think the same about me so now that it seems like he may be interested too it makes me want to know more about him but I just feel so weird thinking about him this much since we don’t know each other. Not to mention I’m worried that he thinks I dislike him which is making me think I about him even more and I’ve started to over thinking a lot my self image and becoming self conscious bc I’m scared he might not think I’m attractive | Crushes |
I’m a girl
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https://www.reddit.com/r/findapath/comments/129wdf1/which_should_i_major_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
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I'm a 20 year old male with a lack of social skills. I make up for it via intelligence and manipulation, I got my first partner 5 years ago and kept them for a while via said intelligence and manipulative tactics. They eventually dumped me. I got them back via further manipulation, In the end though, They left for good.
Fast forward to now. I have a desperate crush on a girl, I'm using all the manipulation and intelligence that worked against my ex, But it doesn't work on this new girl. Every tactic I'm trying, Everything I learned worked on my ex, This new girl isn't succeptable to any of it. She's far smarter than my ex and far smarter than me. And it's mentally and emotionally destroying me. I'm here trying everything, Nothings working, I'm trying to think of new tactics but I can't, She's too smart for everything I fucking try and it's burning me out! I don't want to be fucking alone forever! Hence why I play to my strengths of intelligence and manipulation, However she's just too smart for me, My tactics do nothing and so I have no way to proceed, No way to get close and so I'm left alone, All because she doesn't fall for anything I try! This shit's absurd, My ex would fall for all this shit, She was easy to get, Easy to keep, I had the upper hand, I'm used to having the upper hand, And when I discover someone like this girl, Immune to all my plans, She has the upper hand, And it puts me on the back foot. And I do NOT like being put on the back foot. I'm not used to being outsmarted. She's the first person who's been able to beat me, And it's ruining me because I'm doing all I can not to be alone, I don't want to be alone, I HATE being alone | Crushes |
i feel like i’m going crazy i love him but hate him only thing that keeping me content is that i’ll find someone who’ll choose me even if it isn’t him | Crushes |
He (25m) said he will always care for me (24f). We are unable to be together right now for a handful of very legit reasons and we decided to be friends.
But I’m holding onto him saying he cared for me as maybe there are still feelings on his end and maybe some day in the future something may work out. Am I reading too much into it | Crushes |
Hello! I’m hear for some outside advice on my situation. :)
I dated a guy (let’s call him X) last summer for about 4 months. We were pretty close friends before our relationship. When we broke up, however, it ended in a fight that lasted for 4 hours and I cried the most during that time. It was a really nice relationship in the beginning, but ended kind of messily. There were a lot of flaws with him in the relationship and me for promoting bad habits, but ultimately he left because he was insecure and began to like others. We had no communication.
Fast forward about a month or so, we make up. I’ll spare you the details, but apologies were exchanged and we became best friends again. We consider each other to be on our top 5. :)
We have been best friends again for 4 ish months. I dated someone in that period and recently ended it with them because we had opposing goals. Anyways, I was watching X play basketball, and suddenly, I felt the familiar surge of emotions again.
Turns out he likes me again too.
We’ve called for a few nights until 5 am, flirting and talking. But I’m extremely uncertain. We have two months of school left, and we are going to different highschools. We could make it work over the summer like last time, but I don’t know. I’m hesitant to enter another relationship for a multitude of factors:
1. My mental health as been increasingly unstable and I’m scared to commit if he hurts me again. I couldn’t move for days after the argument (I have bpd)
2. He has changed since then, but I don’t know to what degree
3. i don’t know if either of us are emotionally mature enough to enter this relationship
4. I’m just.. generally hesitant
5. I’m not prepared to fully commit to a relationship, or stay friends, but i think he’d understand(?)
But I like him—a lot. I’m not in love (I’m young, I barely know anybody) but I’m very attracted. Some of my friends encourage it, others don’t, since he is an ex of mine.
What are your outlooks on it? I could really use some advice. :) | Crushes |
Guyys so here's a brief story -
I met a guy and it's been a year knowing him. He''s really sweet, caring, calm and humble person.He got a great personality and he got the qualities i look in a guy but the thing is that he's like 8 or 9 years elder than me and we share the same surname and having the same surname is like related. We're really good friends,we have a really good bond and he treats me like his own younger sister and we also hung out a lot. The thing is that i kinda caught a little bit of feelings for him. We text almost everyday and recently stopped mainly because i was giving my finals but we did have a little misunderstanding but we did resolve it though but later we completely stopped texting
Few days back i texted him to ask about a programme timing (yes only that) and right now for a week or so we are not texting at all. it's just that we are kinda in an awkward situation (i think I'm the one feeling awkward 😭). Yesterday i met him in a gathering and the thing is that I'm actually kinda ignoring him cause i felt awkward cause we didn't meet for so long and i seriously don't wanna ACTUALLY fall for him as I'm like his younger "sister" and i know him he'll only see me as his younger sister and a friend and i only want to see and look up to him like an older brother and yesterday it was not my intention to ignore him actually we saw each other from a distant,it was kinda awkward though but he was looking like he wanted to communicate and i thought of waving at him saying 'Hi' but just then something went inside my eye and i turned around to ask my friend to check if something went in my eye and we was busy trying to remove it ( why does it have to happen only during that time 😭) after that i just realised that he will be thinking that i ignored him💀 but by the time i realised he already went away. Neither of us talked to each other and our bond is kinda sour right now
Idk i wanna ignore him cause i might actually really start to like him and i really MUST NOT! But i don't want to ignore him cause i really value our friendship and our good bond
Idk what led to all this
I feel like yesterday i messed it more up. What shall I do?
Shall i approach him first? But it's so awkward since we didn't text for so long
And most importantly How do I get over him?
Please help me!! | Crushes |
I’m a student, female. Currently trying to see if a guy is interested in me over Snapchat. We share a lot of close mutual friends and I met him in person at a party last night.
He’s a genuinely nice person and we talked very briefly at the party. I made a point to somewhat hang around him, but only talk occasionally. A mutual friend introduced us but we parted ways right after saying hi.
I already had him on Snapchat and we were sending normal photos, but today I started talking to him about where he’s going to college and then I brought up something that happened at the party, but then the convo ended and we’re sending face photos again.
Any advice on what I can do to see if he’s interested? I’m pretty bold and wasn’t afraid to start the initial conversation, but I think he needs to talk next so I don’t want to start another conversation.
I’m thinking about having one of my close mutual friends (girl) talk to one of his close friends (guy) and say that I think he’s cute, as this is common in our friend group, but I’m not sure if I want to be this ambitious.
Does anyone have advice on this? I know if he’s interested he’ll make a move, but I really like him and want to start talking more. Thanks in advance! | Crushes |
my ex crush told me he hates and is never talking to me again because I stalked his socials, and now I have to go and see him and his friends on Thursday, I'm terrified because he already didn't like me and now him and his friends are calling me a stalker. The thing is I just started going out with someone new so I don't know if this brings any light into the situation concidering the fact that I've moved on or doesn't it change anything. | Crushes |
I guess she was just being friendly when she admitted to obsessing over me. I guess she was just being friendly when we argued over who loved the other more. I guess she was just being friendly when we talked about moving in together after highschool. I guess she was just being friendly when we fell asleep on call all those times. I guess she was just being friendly when she complimented everything about me. I guess she was just being friendly when she said i was the only reason she smiled. I guess she was just being friendly when she told me she was always looking forward to the next time i text her. I just don't understand where i went wrong 😕. | Crushes |
I’m only posting this on here because this is the subreddit i was most active on.
Over the last few weeks, anytime I would post something on here, I would get some really nasty responses. Like some that people would immediately delete. I’ve deleted multiple posts on here because of some aggressively mean comments.
At the end of the day, I just wanted an outlet to talk about a confusing crush. A crush from a guy who shows no interests in me one minute and the next asks me really personal questions. Like sexually personal questions. I just wanted a place where I could process these feelings and be relatively unknown. I just wanted a place where I could talk about these feelings and just understand why a guy with no interests in me would tell me really sexual things and ask me really sexual things back.
I just wanted advice. Not comments telling me that he’s laughing behind my back or comments calling me delusional or an idiot who needs to get a life.
So, I’m not going quiet. I’m sorry that some of your crushes didn’t work out, but that gives you no right to take it out on me.
Thanks to everyone that was nice though. I hope everyone on this subreddit finds happiness. | Crushes |
So basically a few months ago me and my friends all went shopping and through out the trip one of my friends kept on hinting that I had a crush on this person ( which I do), who is in our friend group and was also on this trip. For example all my friends would joke that he was hot then she would turn to me and say isn’t that right *my name* and smile like she knew I had a crush on him. Then she continued this throughout the trip with little comments obviously this didn’t make me angry but I was so confused on how she knew that I liked him.
So I was wondering if I should text her asking if someone said I liked him, is this a good idea?
Also if anyone could help me with phrasing that text to make me sound more curious than me just straight up saying something like “how did you know I liked him” because I don’t want to tell her that I actually do have a crush on him because I’m worried she would tell him. I would be grateful if you guys could help. Thank you! | Crushes |
Do you wait a while to not annoy them, or would you instantly reply or somewhere in the middle? | Crushes |
I've kinda liked this girl since last year and that's around the same time my ex bsf (m) liked her (I didn't know both of them liked each other at that time too 💀) and I told him everyth ab how i felt. Anyways, she confessed to him start of this year but they aren't dating. She posts stuff ab him like their convos and like the way he makes her feel. We just talked yst after a while of not talking and she ranted to me ab him. He was being a biatch to her and she felt hurt and stuff, said she didn't know if she was losing feels or just getting used to him since she didn't feel the spark anymore. How did i start thinking that she might like me back though? Well, we've always flirted, though it was always as a joke. One of the things she's said before was "if you were a guy id date you, but if you were a girl I'd date you too" 💀 she's weird but HAHAHAH
and yesterday while we were talking she said "you know damn well if you were a guy we'd experience the enemies to lovers thing" and that she felt super bored the past few days that we didn't talk.
Actually typing it out makes it seem like shes just joking and isn't implying anything serious but I just have a feeling. I mean we've been shipped before and she wasn't like grossed out or anything so yea. | Crushes |
My crush who I have liked for a while (girl). Sat next to me before I came into school assembly one morning, when someone else took her spot. I also think she looked at me but I didn't look at her so couldn't tell exactly. Maybe this is a sign BTW we don't talk mutch. | Crushes |
So I just got out of a relationship not too long ago and I’m finally feeling like trying to get back into the dating game and there is this one girl that liked me at one point in my relationship that I would talk to here and there but my ex heard about the girl and how I had her on Snapchat so she made me unadd her, well now I’m single and I’m thinking about going for this girl but idk if she still likes me or not and Idk how I should go about trying to get with her. Any suggestions on the approach I should use or how I should go about asking her out? | Crushes |
This might be long so if it is sorry!
The girl I like is 15 (I'm 14) and she is in the grade above me. I've only talked to her 3 times from what I remember. The first time was our mutual friend introducing us. The second was at a wrestling match she asked to sit next to me. The third was her asking me to send her something, but i heard her say to her friends that she was nervous to talk to me. I recently started liking her and told my friends. After school one day they told her what I had told them and they gave her my number and told her to text me. My friend also took a picture of her (she posed knowing it was going to me). Idk if any of this means anything. Recently, I found out that she liked someone else. Idk if that is true, but I do know that the person she supposedly likes doesn't have mutual feelings.
I'm expecting some dream scenario to playout, but I know I'm just being biased (and maybe a bit delusional). I would really appreciate a second opinion from someone who isn't biased or some advice. Thank you! | Crushes |
Well. I asked, and found out, and she said... no. But, in a weird way, I am happier now knowing no than I was not knowing anything. (This is pretty long: warning).
She wrote me back such a heartfelt response, which I will know just summarize. She said that she was honestly busy but opened my chat soon as she woke up this morning. She thought what I said about her was so kind and she was so truly happy we have grown so close together. Unfortunately, she sees me as one of her closest guy friends, but nothing more than that, though she did understand where I was coming from based on her behavior towards me.
She told me she does not want this to cause any tension between us though or for us to lose the friendship we have.
She lastly thanked me again for all I said, said how glad she was that we are friends, and commended me for the courage it took to write and send that, even though I didn’t do it in person.
The most important detail, which I think signifies our bond is that she promised me she would not tell anyone about this and would keep it between us, even though we will both never likely bring it up again.
I think that this is the best possible outcome I could have achieved, outside of her saying she liked me back, and I didn’t really expect her to say that anyways.
I suppose this’ll be it for a while. I didn’t expect the journey to be over this soon, but I suppose it is for the best. Never in a million years did I think I would ever ask someone if they liked me and never in a million years did I expect someone to say that they did. At least I defied the odds once.
We have known each other since childhood, but I only developed my feelings around a year ago, and I thought it would have taken me another year before I could even consider being honest.
I am taking it as a victory for my self-confidence, and also feeling much happier that there should not be any awkwardness between us in the future and I shouldn't have to try and act a certain way around her, I can truly be myself.
I think I am going to take a break from any kind of crush for a while. One of my friends once told me that you'll find the person of your dreams when you're not looking for them, and I am going to take that to heart. Maybe in the next few months I'll find someone, or maybe I won't.
I feel like the mind is interesting, as all of the situations that I envisioned will now never come true, but hopefully I will find someone some day that I will be able to be with.
I'll probably make one last post when I see her in person in a few days, just so we will both have closure on the whole incident and be able to move past it.
Thanks for following the journey. | Crushes |
we were talking and they said im exactly their type coincidently, i know its corny af but we have a “no u” good night fake argument every night when saying goodnight, she sent me a good morning text and we flirt but usually /hj also we joke about kissing the other | Crushes |
I met a guy three weeks ago and we clicked so well ! He even asked for my instagram which is the first time someone asked me that. We have so many common interests and almost same future path( we are seniors) . However,we met during a project and he lives in another town. We spent almost the whole day talking to eachother and he was such a gentleman honestly😅 He hasn't texted me at all, we both posted some stories on insta but neither reacted however I posted a story with a photo of a prize I just won and he saw it imnediately but no reaction. I was feeling bummed out but after like half an hour,he liked it.
Um,I don't know what to think about this ? Any advice? | Crushes |
Y'all I'm so tired of it.
My bff has been saying that my crush is an ass***e for a long time and even when we told her that maybe my crush likes her, she was like "don't worry I won't take him away from you, I'm not interested". But I'm honestly so tired. She keeps sending us their chats, and it seems like she wants to make me jealous or something, as she knows that I was sad when I discovered that maybe my crush likes my bff. And also when my crush asks something in our class group chat, she's almost always the one who answers him first (she usually doesn't answer much in that group chat).
I'm kinda upset. I may be overthiking, but I feel that something is going wrong in this situation and I honestly don't like it. | Crushes |
My friend asked me out twice this week
She said we should go to a sports event and another day said that I should go to her gym class too
Not sure if this was just a joke? She mentioned it would be our ‘first date’ but this was said in a jokey way and not quite sure how to take this
When I joked about the favt that she asked me out twice this week, she didn’t really deny it
Thoughts? | Crushes |
Hi everybody,
I'm (21M) pretty sweet on this girl I met at work (20F) but since I don't see her very often I'm looking for another way to reach out to her. I only work maybe once every three weeks so I have a long time until I see her again. I want to ask her out to lunch, but I don't want to wait another three weeks until I can do that. We go to the same university and I've seen her only once there. This is awful but I'm terrible with names and forget her first name, but we're pretty friendly and have complimented each other in the past.
What are some ways in which I can link up to her outside of work? Any suggestions would be great!
Thank you. | Crushes |
Hi guys. Just created this account to ask advice regarding this situation. PLEASE HELP THIS CONFUSED GIRL OUT.
I (F23) have a guy (M27) who I have been crushing on in University. The guy had been taking a social media break while I had been crushing on him all this while. Observing him whenever he came to university from afar.
So here's what I did: I messaged him from a fake account on Instagram and he happened to reply to the texts one day. IT WAS CRAZY. I was dead ass texting his instagram knowing way too well he wasn't ever coming back on social media and even if he did he would never pay any heed to texts from a fake account. But he did.
We connected so well we talked all night the first day we both were online. It was a dream come true. My crush talks exactly the way I wanted a partner to talk like. His humor, his comebacks and overall tone of talking everything was just what I wanted. Even better because it was reality. We only texted all night for two days and otherwise he would respond to my texts whenever he was free. He was so nice and everything and there was this exam week where I saw him everyday and told him that he looked cute that day, he looked good this day, he made me lose focus by standing at the front of the exam hall on a certain day, ALL THAT CRINGE STUFF I TOLD IT ALL TO HIM BECAUSE IT WAS BEHIND A FAKE ACCOUNT. IT WAS FUN TO HYPE HIM AND HE SAID HE WAS FLATTERED.
Now, he told me multiple times I could come out to him. He wouldn't ever judge and he would never tell anyone. I am sure he hasn't told anyone even now but yeah, I eventually came out with my actual identity to him. This is where it broke my heart: even after telling him my identity his replies were at the typical slow rate, responding after 30/31 mins. I did tell him my identity telling him I WAS NOT DOING IT EXPECTING ANYTHING but just to end this anonymous thing (he even said he would want to go on a coffee date and all) but just because I said I was revealing myself to end this whole set up, doesn't mean I didn't want him anymore. The lack of interest, that is talking about one topic from 10 pm to 1 am the first night I told him who I was REALLY BROKE MY HEART. The next morning I just reacted to his texts and then I never sent a message again.
It has been one week and he hasn't initiated ANY SORT OF CONVERSATION. Albeit I didn't directly ask him out but he knows how hard I have fallen for him and how much I am into him because I really hyped the f out of him when we were communicating anonymously. He did mention to that anonymous account that he hopes he isn't leading me on... but don't I deserve closure?
What does his lack of response or lack of initiation of conversation mean? to me it just seems like he doesn't care. What should I do?
Please don't ask me to message him because I've already thrown all my ego aside and after being embarrassingly candid with him about my feelings, basically thirsting over him TO HIM anonymously, I cannot bring myself to initiate a conversation again.
HE IS THE FIRST GUY I EVER ASKED OUT AND WHILE HE IS NOT OBLIGATED TO LIKE ME BACK BUT ISN'T LATE REPLIES DISRESPECTFUL AFTER I GAVE HIM MY IDENTITY ?
p.s - we haven't met at uni after my confession because he doesn't really attend classes he just comes to clear exams. so an upfront interaction hasn't happened. also, I've posted 3 stories since he's been on my real ig but he's only viewed one. | Crushes |
I (18m) walked into my communications class at my school. Then a couple minutes later, this girl (18f) walks in. At least from her side profile, she looked so pretty. She wasn’t in the class yet, but was there to register for it. It’s only on Saturday mornings from 8-11:35. A couple weeks go by, and I finally built the courage to start talking to her. I usually never have a problem with this, but for her it took way longer than expected to break that wall. After class, I asked her if she started the song analysis we had to do. She said that she hasn’t even chosen a song, so I started to talk to her about what music she likes. I honestly only meant to talk to her for a couple minutes max. Maybe build to have a longer conversation in the future, cause I ain’t ever talked to this girl, not even once. While walking out of class, she makes the effort to not split the pole. We deadass talked for almost an hour, just standing outside of the college library. We both completely lost track of time. I have a lot of trouble keeping eye contact, but I felt so at ease when her and I were talking. I usually never fall fast, I never have my hopes up because I expect disappoint. But this feels different. I’ve never felt a feeling this strong this early. I don’t love her, but I definitely do like her. Hopefully that’ll change one day :) | Crushes |
I (18m) walked into my communications class at my school. Then a couple minutes later, this girl (18f) walks in. At least from her side profile, she looked so pretty. She wasn’t in the class yet, but was there to register for it. It’s only on Saturday mornings from 8-11:35. A couple weeks go by, and I finally built the courage to start talking to her. I usually never have a problem with this, but for her it took way longer than expected to break that wall. After class, I asked her if she started the song analysis we had to do. She said that she hasn’t even chosen a song, so I started to talk to her about what music she likes. I honestly only meant to talk to her for a couple minutes max. Maybe build to have a longer conversation in the future, cause I ain’t ever talked to this girl, not even once. While walking out of class, she makes the effort to not split the pole. We deadass talked for almost an hour, just standing outside of the college library. We both completely lost track of time. I have a lot of trouble keeping eye contact, but I felt so at ease when her and I were talking. I usually never fall fast, I never have my hopes up because I expect disappoint. But this feels different. I’ve never felt a feeling this strong this early. I don’t love her, but I definitely do like her. Hopefully that’ll change one day :) Around | Crushes |
Okay so basically theres a guy I’ve liked for a bit and we’ve kinda started talking to each-other (maybe on our way to become friends) and i am way to nervous to ask for his number so i want to follow his insta however there are two issues with that 1. I don't know if I know him well enough and it’d maybe seem weird and 2. I don’t know him from school so i have no mutual friends with him which also may seem weird if i follow him due to the fact id have to search up his account and find his specifically rather than just be reccomended it. So basically is it weird or not and if it is weird should i just gain confidence to ask for his number | Crushes |
When you download a app called Wizz to literally get over your crush but those mf don’t even answer you back 💀💅🏻 and just ghost you I guess everyone is the same | Crushes |
I was drunk last night, got in a car with a friend and we parked on the side of the road waiting for others.
My ex and a couple of her friends walk passed the car.
As we first saw them from afar, my friend took to opportunity to get some information out of drunk me. From what I remember, I only said stuff like I know that she can’t forget about me and stuff.
I jokingly had to idea of talking to her right then and there though.
My sober friend tells me I won’t and that I’m scared. We know how that goes…
So I joke around at first by rolling the windows up and down while laughing.
When they get close, I rolled the window down once again and I’m pretty sure I just said "wassup <her friend’s name>" and then bursted out laughing.
Her friend said wassup back and I’m pretty sure they started laughing (Idk how my ex reacted though)
My sober friend told me I was fucked up for doing that as she was laughing like crazy.
It was all fun and games and still is to me lol (I’m sober now), but I saw both the friends my ex was with this morning. I said hey to both of them and neither answered me lol
There’s nothing I can do about that little situation anymore but it was funny in my opinion.
This was just a little story lol but do you think what I did is messed up ? | Crushes |
why do i feel unloveable? | Crushes |
So i had a crush on a girl for past 6 months. We talked to each other during and after classes but I could never bring myself to confess to her. Today I found out she has got a bf. I'm late, again. I don't know why I am like this.
So if you guys have a crush, please tell them before it's too late. Now I'm gonna go and sulk in the tartarus in my mind. | Crushes |
It’s almost prom and some girl I wouldn’t mind taking but I actually have no relationship with added me on snap and instantly followed back on Instagram. We have a streak on snap but that’s about it. Should I ask her through Snapchat or in person? I don’t want to overwhelm her in person or make her say no and it be awkward, but I feel like asking in person increases the chance she’ll say ya. I have mutuals with her mutuals so I’m lost, all my friends are getting dates and I know if she gets asked by someone else I’ll be sick. | Crushes |
So, as I mentioned in my previous posts, I met this girl online about 9 months ago. We are best friends and we even call each other soulmates. So lately, she has been trying to limit her social media usage. She does good for a while, but she always comes back partly because she misses me too much. So in the past we discussed being roommates one day. I did not realize she was so serious about it. Her goal now is to better herself so she'll have a "glow up" by the time she meets me irl, which is hopefully in the next few years. I tell her she is perfect to me the way she is, but she insists she wants to better herself so that we live happily when we are roommates in the future. That is what she told me. Then she said she wanted to try leaving social media again for a bit and she said "don't you dare get into a relationship". I told her I won't but still that was random. I mentioned in my last post that she called me handsome and said I have perfect hair and pretty eyes. Well somewhere in the mix of our conversation yesterday, she said it again. She is very sweet and she always talks about wanting to dance with me too. I kinda just want to hear from other people's perspectives if whether this could be evidence to suggest she likes me or not. Just curious. | Crushes |
Oh God you guys! I met the most amazing man last night!
Oh God! I hope I get to see him again 🥰😍. He's so tall and smart and handsome and funny!
I'm so sooo glad I went out last night. 😍 | Crushes |
Can’t stop thinking of her. She is so pretty. We don’t talk much, but I want to get to know her better. What’s the best way to do that? | Crushes |
Hi there, i’m 13 years old, and a bit stupid.
Now, i need help deciding whether this girl likes me or not, because she sends alot of signals but i don’t know.
We’ve been friends for around a school year now, and we’re actually really good friends. she’s asked to walk me to my house before, and she’s also had me protect her while holding my arm hiding behind me from a group of jokers. i like her but i’m worried asf that i’ll mess up our friendship by going for it. may i also clarify we’re in the holy month of ramadan (a thing for muslims) please help me. | Crushes |
We were mutually but he wasn’t in a good position in life for a new relationship and offered to be fwb instead. I rejected it because know I love him too much to be able to healthily handle that. But now I regret my decision so much. I miss him so much. | Crushes |
Well. I asked, and found out, and. No. But, in a weird way, I am happier now knowing no than I was not knowing anything. She wrote me back such a kind response, saying how my words about her were so kind and she was so happy we have grown so close together. Unfortunately, she sees me as one of her closest guy friends, but nothing more than that, though she did understand where I was coming from based on her behavior towards me.
She told me she does not want this to cause any tension between us though or for us to lose the friendship we have. She lastly thanked me again for all I said and commended me for the courage it took to write and send that, even though I didn’t do it in person.
I think that this is the best possible outcome I could have achieved, outside of her saying she liked me back, and I didn’t really expect her to say that anyways.
I will probably make one final post tonight or tomorrow, but I am just going to spend the rest of the day being proud of myself for having the courage to send that, and to know that I have such a great friend. | Crushes |
I wake up thinking of him, spend my entire day thinking of him, then fall asleep thinking of him. I really wish I were exaggerating
Please I am losing my sanity it's been three months trying to hide my feelings well and I can't get over this help | Crushes |
We don’t really talk that much, but I want to get to know her better. If you have any recommendations to how I can get to know her better, then please help. Thanks. | Crushes |
Going to prom alone this year. I hope to make the most of it | Crushes |
Pretty much every time I try to ask my crush out, everything seems to go wrong. I only see him on weekends when im working so I have limited time every week.
I finally decided I would be brave and ask him out, except this was 3 weeks ago. This week he was sick so he didn't show up to work. It gets discouraging and I know I have to just go up to him and tell him but I'm so anxious that I won't get the timing right.
Only good thing that happened this week was that my coworker found out my crush is single. I might have a chance considering he seems to like talking to me although we're both pretty shy. He's very cute, always smiling when im around and approaches me first.
I just need some positive vibes here before I lose my mind with this haha | Crushes |
I am sorry for the constant updates but I am too scared to even open this right now. I got the notification (I did this over Snapchat) that she sent a chat and I can’t believe that both I even sent my feelings and that she sent a reply. My heart is pounding right now, I have wanted to send this for over a year and I finally will know my answer when I open the chat. I am in a public place now so I may wait until I am alone just depending on my reaction… | Crushes |
Hey so I (14F) like a guy in my school and I was thinking about talking to him (I have reasons as to why but it'd make the post too long) but now I feel like my chances are all gone. Because, he has this one friend who thinks I like him and has told my crush about it. We are all 14 btw.
How I found out was when my crushes friend told my friend about me "acting weird", being shy and "staring" at him, and he also mentioned that he is sure I like him. Wtf? This is a bit ridiculous to me because I have been staring at my crush not him, I am shy around everyone, but I havent ever even talked to him so what does he even mean by that??? And he always looks at me first then when I look back he thinks it means something.
He told my friend straight that he has told 3 people about me "liking him" these people being my friend, my crush and my crushes other friend. I dont like that he went to tell people around this when he never got my word on it.
Please help me, I wanted to talk to my crush but now it just feels useless if he thinks I like his friend :-( I would talk to this guy but he did tell my friend to not tell me about it, so he would get angry at me and my friend.
TL;DR - My crushes friend told my friend and my crush that he thinks I like him, now I feel like not talking to my crush since he thinks I like his friend | Crushes |
Hi everyone, I am a 21 yrs old female and I have a crush.. he gave heart reactions on my ig stories (a picture of myself) and invited me to play an online game with him then because of that, we are currently texting but HE IS A DRY TEXTER and currently takes too long to reply on my message (maybe 7-12hrs) and I don’t know what to do now because I noticed that I am the only one who keeps giving topics that we can talk about, so our convo is mostly about ME and I want him to at least ask me something or inform me about his things.
I like him so much but should I stop texting him? | Crushes |
So im(19 f) in love with my best friend (18f) for three years, and we’re living in different places rn so we’re in a long distance friendship. We hadn’t talked for a while, and then recently started calling more often and texting everyday. It made my feelings for her become really strong again. I’m fairly certain she’s straight, and I know for sure she doesn’t feel the same way as I do. I was feeling overwhelmed and so I googled “what to do if your in love with your best friend” like an idiot.
Later that day, I was on a discord call with her, and I was sharing my screen. I was looking up something, and I typed in “what”. For a brief second, google filled in my previous search of “what to do if your in love with your best friend”. I quickly typed something else so it was only up there for a flash. But she probably saw it? I’m not sure. She didn’t act weird or like she did see anything, but now I’m driving myself crazy because how could she not have seen it?
She’s my best friend and honestly my only close friend that’s left. I’m so scared she saw it and is gonna act awkward with me. I think I’m always gonna be wondering if she saw it, I’m not sure if she would say anything if she did.
Now I’m just super stressed out and analyzing every text she sends to see if she’s acting differently. What should I do?
TLDR: pretty sure my best friend saw my search history that said “what to do if your in love with your best friend” | Crushes |
Im not sure what i should do they don't really let her date and i asked her out and she said she would think about it recently she hasn't been texting and i figured she might have gotten her phone taken so idk what to do
(btw we both like each other and we are sort of talking) | Crushes |
Basically i have this really close friend and she claims she doesn’t have a crush. and no one knows but i have a crush on this dude (honestly not a crush im lit in love bc i’ve loved him for 7months now). Me and and friend talk and call abt people in our class and he’s in our class. My other friend thinks he likes me <3 but she (other friend) always denies it or doesn't agree. we were on call and she was sharing her screen and we recently stopped talking abt ‘him’ and im talking abt wat happened in class and she goes out of the app that she was screen sharing and goes to his and her private messages and starts scrolling up. i started stuttering and forgetting what i was supposed to say bc i felt so … and she makes it obvious that she likes him but when i say a boy likes u she starts listing why i’m better than her… idk what to do. | Crushes |
How do I start off conversations and how to I keep them from being dry. Please help 😭 | Crushes |
There have been a couple of instances where both me and my crush have initiated hugs (e.g. two happened in one night at work due to being gifted for my birthday and then later to say goodbye) but I wanted to know if hand placements, duration of hug etc., is important in finding out if someone could be interested. | Crushes |
So theres this girl, we'll refer to her as M (23), Ive(25) been trying to figure out her intentions for a few months and still have no real answers. I would usually be more direct but Im a little nervous because shes my best friends fiances best friend and I dont wanna make things awkward
we've known eachother for a couple years and up until January had only hung together with our friends a handful of times. This last christmas I invited my friend, his fiance and M over to my house to take shrooms and spend the night. It was overall a lot of fun and by the end of the night I had caught M glancing at me a few times, but tried not to think much of it bc we were all on drugs lol.
so nothing happens that night, we just had a good time and they left next afternoon. Shortly after they leave we realize M has left her air mattress at my house. My friend asks me if his fiance can give M my number so she can coordinate picking it up. Idk why but I said "nah thats alright, I'll dm her, I have her on insta" which I probably should have just let her give M my number. side note, M followed me on insta last july after a party we were at, and I sloothed a bit and found she doesnt follow any of my friends other friends. we also have matched on tinder in the past, and my friends fiance has also asked my friend about setting M and I up together multiple times but my friend usually shuts it down cause I havent wanted to date in a while and M is also complicated. so I feel like those are good signs she likes me, but she also very awkward, anxious, quiet, shyish so shes very hard to read.
so anyways, I was out of town after christmas for a couple weeks but I message M when I get home. She comes by my house to pick up her air mattress and we make small talk, before she leaves she ask if I wanna hang out and smoke some time, I said sure.
after this I call my friend to see what he knows, cause even though I feel like she likes me shes never like flirty or anything. I talk to my friend and he says that shes seeing someone, but planning on breaking up with him. Im like okay, we can just hang, I figure shes vetting me as one her next options, whatever.
so over the last couple months we hung out a few times, but dont really txt much which Im fine with cause I dont like to text, but usually I find txting regularly is big part of starting something. Eventually I ask her if she wants to go to an art museum with me and get food after, I never literally used the word date but I figured that seemed like a date. she agrees, we go, we have a nice time. so then a few days later I text her and asks if she wants to get food that weekend, didnt say date but still. then she responds saying shes busy the next couple weeks with family and her boyfriend. that kinda through me for a loop bc she had never brought up that she was seeing someone the last couple months. i tell her no worries and leave it at that. I figure it was just rejection. I also felt bad cause my friend did tell me she was seeing someone, I just assumed that they had broken up. cause to me its a little wierd to spend time alone with a guy you barely know if youre in a relationship.
2 or 3 weeks later M txts me out of no where asking if I wanna get food and hangout again, Im like sure. I talked to my friend again he says that M has broken up with said BF since last we saw eachother.
so yesterday shes coming, she txts me saying her car broke down, but shes like 5 mins from. so i go find her, fix her car the best I can and we go to my house. we just smoke and talk, I asked her about getting food, and she says shed rather do take out than eat at the restaurant, which i take as a bad sign. she also like wasnt dressed like neatly really which i took as a sign of I dont care what you think.
we hang for a 3 or 4 hours, nothing eventful happens, she leaves. later that night she txts thanking me for my help today.
Im just very confused because from what Ive heard from friends, and some of stuff shes done she seems like shes into me, and we tend to talk a lot when we've been hanging one on one. But i feel like if she straight up tells me she has a boyfriend regardless of how serious or not it is, thats just her turning me down. and I feel bad cause if she does want to be just friends Im gonna have a hard time doing that if I have feelings for her and feel rejected
also I feel like Im sending mixed signals cause Im too nervous to be forward or direct with what I want cause Im scared she'll say no. I aslo feel bad hanging out with her if my intentions or romantic and shes has a bf.
so Idk, someone tell me what to do. | Crushes |
So, I have a crush on my classmate and me and my bff are in the same class.
She always said that my crush is an ass***e, that I should find someone better.
Days have passed and we both thought that my crush maybe likes my bff. I got upset and my bff said to me "don't worry, I won't take him away for you, he's totally an ass***e, I'm not interested".
But every time my crush asks something in the class group chat, she's almost always the first person to reply to him and lend him notes when he needs them. She also writes things like "hehe", "I'll send it to you asap", "you're welcome", which she usually doesn't write to others (maybe less than with him).
Idk if it's important to say this or not, but my bff likes attention. Like a lot. For example when she told me that my crush may like her, instead of comforting me she was happy that another person is in love with her. But she also said "well, don't worry, I won't take him away from you".
So what do you think? I may be overthinking a lot, but idk.. I feel like there's something wrong in this situation. | Crushes |
So, I have a crush on my classmate and me and my bff are in the same class.
She always said that my crush is an ass***e, that I should find someone better.
Days have passed and we both thought that my crush maybe likes my bff. I got upset and my bff said to me "don't worry, I won't take him away for you, he's totally an ass***e, I'm not interested".
But every time my crush asks something in the class group chat, she's almost always the first person to reply to him and lend him notes when he needs them. She also writes things like "hehe", "I'll send it to you asap", "you're welcome", which she usually doesn't write to others (maybe less than with him).
Idk if it's important to say this or not, but my bff likes attention. Like a lot. For example when she told me that my crush may like her, instead of comforting me she was happy that another person is in love with her.
So what do you think? I may be overthinking a lot, but idk.. I feel like there's something wrong in this situation. | Crushes |
I live in a university flat with 7 other people, 4 girls and 4 boys. For the last couple months I had been getting a lot closer to 1 girl in particular, and I had started to get feelings towards her.
About 2 weeks ago we were sitting on the couch and ended up snuggling and talking to eachother alone, until about 4am. However whilst we were doing this she was literally on her phone messaging this other lad. Which had me confused, the next night we ended up doing the exact same thing. About 2 days later, I had a family emergency and had to go home for 4 days, she messaged me everyday to make sure I was okay. However on one of the days I was gone, she went on a date with this bloke she had been speaking too. When I came back we were talking and she said we needed to clear the air. She told me, that she did like me and she found me attractive, however things went from 0 to 100 so quickly and she was talking to this other dude and it all just confused her, and she said she didn't think I was interested because I went home for 4 days when things were just heating up (I had no choice in this, my father was taken to the hospital).
I wanted to tell her how I really felt. But didn't have the courage. And just said I liked her too and maybe things would be weird blah blah blah. She then said she wished she would have known more 6 months ago. I asked her what she meant and she didn't really give an answer and that's been playing with me the whole time.
I've been told by my other flatmates that she's talked about how much she likes me in the past, and they have said I'm "too nice". I want to tell her how I feel but also don't want to make things awkward and I also already slightly feel like an asshole for doing this whilst she's speaking to someone else? I see her everyday and I can't get her out my head. My friends have all said to try and drop it because she has red flags, like having her head in my chest whilst messaging someone else. Also it just seems that drama follows her everywhere. Like all her other exs are crazy too. But I can't help but have these feelings towards her. I don't know what to do about them or her. | Crushes |
I’ve been hanging out with this guy for a few months, and he’s just so fine. He gives all the 5 languages and never been hot n cold to me. Sometimes he caught me looking at him and said “stop doing that death stare.” even it’s not 😶. He told me that I look intimidating. He’s an introvert, and I dunno if I should confess to him in real life of just over text since he’s more confident in text. | Crushes |
If there’s another universe I hope I am in a healthy relationship with him | Crushes |
Hi, i've been texting my crush almost everyday for 2 months, but in these past days she suddenly only replied with "yea", "no", and anything less than 3 words, she usually seems interested in chatting, but in these past days she looks like she is trying to avoid me? and she also usually replied under 10 min, now it's like few hours. I think i messed up, or probably it's her way of saying "i've gave you 2months worth of chance, but im not interested in you"
What do you think?? | Crushes |
I have a crush on a guy I work with and I’ve been initiating the conversation all of the time tbh.
I asked him if he wanted to grab a drink, he said yes but he wouldn’t be around that weekend but would keep me updated.
I gave him my number so he could let me know and he did, he couldn’t make it.
Since then, when we’ve spoken it has been work related in meetings.
I did get the vibe he likes me, but he has my number and hasn’t used it once? Maybe my flirty vibes aren’t giving off what I think?
I just want to get to know him, be his friend but I’m getting nothing from him!
Do I just let him go? | Crushes |
So I've liked this guy since last September, we text a few times, he stares in school and says hi, he likes stories of my face, lingers and follows me around the school, and had me on his insta cfs... he texts me first and my friend who used to be friends with his ex told me he never texted her first or did anything he does with me with her, he texted me first again 4 nights ago, stared at me in school and liked a story i posted of myself but he removed me from his close friends story? i still have him on mine so I'm confused. He did this before but added me back the next day but he hasn't added me back this time or liked ANY recent stories of mine, but they aren't stories of me so I'm scared to post myself and he doesn't like it because i JUST liked one of his. What is he doing????? i wanna text him tomorrow or tonight but idk how | Crushes |
Me and this girl recently started talking (we met just two days ago). She basically knows I’m interested in her already because I asked for her number. I think I did it in a cute way?
I wrote in my phone’s notes, “Hey, I thought you were really cute and I was wondering if I could get your number? :0” then I showed it to her.
We started texting the next day and we last left off at me saying a cringy joke, no reply.
I know I don’t necessarily have to text her everyday but I feel like I should. Like at least a, “Hey, I hope your day is going well.”
It’s the weekend now so it feels a little awkward, I’ll get to see her tomorrow. I tend to do much better in person or on call.
What do I do? Should I text her today? Do I not text her? | Crushes |
it’s just been weird.
last night, he was out with his friends and his friend started texting me on his phone, saying stuff like
“you love adam”
“adam loves you”
and even replying to my snapchat sendit with
“U love adam❤️❤️❤️”
eventually, his mate added me on snap and started to send me photos of adam (fake name again)
i don’t know anymore, it’s weird.
my brother says i’m doing good and that it’s great that i’m actually getting to know him and stuff. i don’t know if i should move on or not.
fuck. | Crushes |
So... Next week we are having a test. The thing is no one understood anything in class.
One of my classmates managed to get the tests from other class and asked me if I could solve them. At first I tought that we will send them on the group chat but then he said that we are keeping the answers for ourselves. I tried to convince him but it didn't work.
Last night I talked to my crush(she is in the same class with me) about the situation and she left me on read. I don't know what to do. | Crushes |
I am a little surprised right now as I sent my confession to her over 12 hours ago and I have still been left on delivered. I have been anticipating her reply constantly. She did tell me before I sent it that she was busy so it could potentially just be bad timing, but I am not sure if this is a great sign… | Crushes |
Iam so fucking sad and angry right now , i regret not taking advantage of the opportunities , my and my crush are in the same group in ENGLISH langauge class . But iam just not good enough to talk to her . I can't because my friends would laught at me and call me a word which meaning is someone who loves to talk to girls more than boys ( used as a disrespect ) . I don't know what to do now , i missed like 5 opportunites . Blame me as much as you want guys in the comments. | Crushes |
im in high school, and i don’t know how to approach people. I know we have similar interests but I cant find any opportunities to walk up and say hi. we’re both introverted, but im just nervous to walk up to them as they have a big group of friends around them all the time. What do i do? It’s making me sad that im doing nothing about this. | Crushes |
Someday when you see your crush in love with someone else. The look in their eyes, the way they laugh at their silly jokes and the way they care about them, it is going to break your heart. You may feel like your existence doesn't matter anymore. You may think that you will never find love. But remember you'll move on, you will find someone who will love you. But it's upon you to decide whether you want them to be a part of your life or not. Look for someone who makes you feel happy, someone who pushes you forward to achieve your ambitions but you must also do the same. | Crushes |
hello, his friend invited me to his (my crush) birthday because he said it makes him happy if i come but i'm scared and shy please give me a tip or some random fact about meeting someone you only met online | Crushes |
Ok look, I dont use reddit BUT I NEED ADVICE, I really like this girl and im not sure if she likes me back. I met her in math class the same day i broke my finger, she looked really concerned for me because my finger was bent really weird LMAO. Me and her started to talk alot more slowly over the year. After a week or to of talking to her she gave me her phone number and discord so we could talk more. We started to hang out outside of school after and she started to hang out with my friend group. Every time we took a photo she would lean her head on my shoulder, she then asked me if I wanted to go to the dance and chill out (I said yeah) and we both went to the dance together. About two weeks later our school had a field trip to a theme park and she hung out with me and my friends the entire time. When we got into a line to wait for a ride we all started talking, after about an hour she learned her head on my shoulder and i learned mine on hers and we waited. When we got on any ride she insisted I always at next to her, So i did. And during my birthday (it was the same day as graduation) she MADE ME a card and then ate lunch with my family at a restaurant. And now that its summer we go to the movies alot more now. Today when we finished watching a movie her parents wanted to know if I wanted to help them help with their restaurants stand thing, I said yes and I helped them for a bit but after a while her and her sister asked her mom if we could look around and explore the stores and other booths and her parents said yes. So we walked around and they we went into the mall to look around, so she took us into a clothes store and started to walk around and look, and after a bit she said I could pick the outfits for her to try on, (IDK IF THAT A SIGN OR SOMETHING) but after she we were done looking around we went back to the restaurants stand and helped pack up. After they drove me home she got out of the car just to hug me and say goodbye.
(BTW WE CALL EVERY NIGHT AND WE HAVE BEEN HUGGING EACH OTHER FOR A WHILE, WE EVEN TEXT EACH OTHER GOOD MORING AND GOOD NIGHT) | Crushes |
hello, his friend invited me to his (my crush) birthday because he said it makes him happy if i come but i'm scared and shy please give me a tip or some random fact about meeting someone you only met online | Crushes |
Hi, I am (M)23. I had a relationship before, which ended when I was 17 or 18. It was a really hard break up which ended with me being depressed and no plan for the future.
I used the time until now to go to therapy and taking time to find a job.
Soon I'll be starting a new job, a job I am passionate about, which will probably lead to many opportunities in the future.
Anyway I met this girl in the work preparation course and was interested from the beginning. First we started talking occasionally. I couldn't say if she was interested at first, but soon we talked for hours and began texting.
We are both pretty shy in this regard so it took a long time.
I think she is awesome. She is into art, film and poetry. We both like the same music. We like to theorize about anything. We have a compatible sense of humor. She is smart and kind and really special
It's the first time since my last relationship that I feel like it's a mutual interest. I had crushes before but they were rather one-sided. This really feels like it could go somewhere. I am so inexperienced in flirting I really don't know what to do. I want to text her but don't know what to write about. I am shaking when I think about confessing my feelings in the future. I never tried it really, but I think she's worth it.
Now I am thinking about her all day long. She isn't in town this weekend but next week I will ask her if she wants to hang out or something.
I'm just rambling because I don't know we're to go with this feelings. It's present all day and I can't do anything about it. It isn't unpleasant it's just new and intense.
Well thank you for reading. I would be grateful for tips or your experiences. Have a nice day
Also english isn't my first language maybe this isn't making sense at all | Crushes |
So this boy who is 2 years elder than me, just graduated and he is the topper. I had already admired him. We never spoke to each other, hell he doesn't even know I exist.
So yesterday I gave him a follow request on instagram. He accepted and followed back. My friend gave too since I said and he accepted hers and followed her back too. I guess due to lots of mutuals.
So my friend says i should text him, but that will be hella awkward considering he doesn't know me even though we go to same school. He is preping for a competitive exam for which I'm preping too.
I'm so nervous. She said to congratulate him on being the school topper, she did but i cant get myself to. She is an extrovert while I'm an introvert.
I wanna text him but shouldn't look like a desperate girl. What should I do 🥺 | Crushes |
i literally miss them both so much, all i can think about is literally how perfect they were.
R had the best smile, he literally had perfect fucking teeth and he was understanding, and more coherent than anyone i've ever met despite slurring his words in an endearing way. he was also just so nice, and you could tell he really actually cared, and he really thought about the things he did before doing them, i don't think his friends saw that but i did. i wish i asked for his discord, that has got to be my biggest regret. and his hands were warm.
M was literally beautiful. he was tall, and kinda intimidating, but he was warm when he shoved me against walls multiple times, and literally fucking pinned me against one one time until i literally couldnt fucking move /pos. his eyes were piercing and he kinda had a rbf but he was actually really nice and half the time i couldn't understand what he was saying but he communicated more by punching me on the arm. he had a good sense of humour, and when we raced he also psyched me out by pretending as if he isn't running, causing me to stop and yell at him, and then for him to sprint past me and fucking cheat.
bro i need a life | Crushes |
I've actually been starting to like this girl. She's a good bit younger than me but I really like her personality a lot. She's pretty attractive to me also. Most guys wouldn't choose her as their first choice to go after. She kinda small and I guess normal looking idk how to explain it. But im more drawn to personality than looks anyways but she truly is attractive to me. The problem is work isn't a good environment to try to pick up a girl. At least for me and for where I work, the restaurant industry(well I have had co workers from a past job hook up with like half the girls on the staff but that was a college bar where after work you'd drink with each other and then go to each other's houses and party and hang out. But this is more of a just work and then everyone goes home job) You already have limited time to talk cause it's usually always busy. Then also im a server and she does other stuff. And then also im a little laid back myself but she's pretty shy. It seems like to me that she likes me a little too and she gets anxious when around me. Which when I was around her age I was the same way around my crushes. So I don't really have much time to talk to her but I do talk to her like every day i work with her. And I will continue to and who knows maybe one day there will be a connection. | Crushes |
I have a crush on my old primary school friend and she knows I like her but we never talk to eachother anymore cuz we are too shy.
I know it's impossible for her to like me because I'm fat also unatlethic. I've caught her looking at me, suddenly walking slow when I'm near her but avoid eye contact when I look at her and she always goes to the same place I'm always at.
I'm feel it's just a coincidence but my friends always say it's not.
Her face is always stone cold when near me.. but my face would be the same too tbh. Am I making her uncomfortable or she likes me? If she likes me then how??? What is soo attractive about a fat teens?
I'm too tired to think about this, I've work my entire primary school trying to enter this highschool that I knew none of my naughty old "friend" could, but I never expect that she would be here too. | Crushes |
Hi everyone. I met a guy in his early 30s about a month ago through mutual friend. My info was passed along to him and we immediately went on a date. It went well and exchanged numbers.Texted him later and we began texting and went on two more dates.
I realized on the 3rd date he was super tired from 12 hours of work and was busy looking for new jobs/worked two jobs that day...then drove to a restaurant 1 hour away from my house.
Text begin to slow down, his reply was kind of weird. Last week ask him about work and didnt answer.
One more text "hey how have you been" and he might of turned off read receipt or left me on unread. YES I know there are many possiblity. I found this one strange.... ??? What should i do? | Crushes |
It's been going on since the term started, and she constantly playfully kicking me. Yesterday when we were talking on the train, she just started kicking me in the shoe. I am not annoyed by it. But what does this mean? | Crushes |
I (21M) have known this girl (21F) ever since we were 7 years old, literally in pre-school, and I had a crush on her. She's extremely cute and I don't know what went on my mind for me to fall in love with her. I told my classmates and teachers "She's mine", "I like her". Literally every close person I knew from my school knows my history with her, and by everyone, I mean including her since the start. I would get jealous if anyone else would get close, and I knew things would get uncomfortable from there. I did almost everything; I gave her gifts, asked her on Valentine's every year, some seat plans had us next to each other, here and there. Despite all that, she never liked me back, or at least never felt the same way. For some reason, I couldn't stop because it would be really awkward because we were classmates and I wasn't mentally prepared to adjust. I was a complete simp and it was really unhealthy. It felt like I was known from my school that I'm synonymous for having a crush on someone. It went on until after 10th Grade when she transferred to another school. It gave me a wake-up call that maybe that would be the end. It was a bit bitter. Imagine having a crush on someone for more than a decade and still not having her. It really sucked. I had deep talks with her. I straightup told her that I seriously wanted her to be my girlfriend. I knew my actions were some of the craziest ever, but it's just how I was. She was happy, flattered, but still unreciprocated. When I wished that we would still be in touch, I was unsure if it was gonna happen.
After that, I had nothing else to do. I focused on esports, hung out with my remaining friends, college stuff, I kinda was doing fine, but the memory scar was still there. Sometimes when her name dropped I would get some sort of trigger or a bit of attention because it's a literal core memory.
I had other crushes at the time, but some I made mistakes. Some are just a short periods, the feelings I had were just meh. Some are crazy, but it didn't compare to my first. Most probably just to fill that hole in my heart.
With that, I felt like I've gotten over it. I and my old classmates thought of a Discord reunion, invited all of our old classmates, just for fun.
At the time, my crush and I actually play the same games like Mobile Legends. When I found out, I was shocked because we could have had that type of connection when we're still classmates. I couldn't get to know her truly because of how I crushed on her so hard, every interaction felt too awkward to handle. Nonetheless, I chatted her in an in-game chat, we said hi. Played a couple duo queues. Somehow I felt relieved. In a way, I have gotten over, but only because nothing is awkward between us anymore. So I invited her to the Discord server, and all of them were shocked, that I, of all people, invited her, since they know my history with her.
Things are going fine, things are normal. We're not even talking that much until she asked me for help in Genshin Impact, a game that I'm most knowledgeable about, and she was a newb at the time and I would gladly help her out. I would guide her to clear the harder content, optimize builds, and whatnot. Because of how passionate I am with these games, and to play with my childhood crush, we were talking every single day. One time I asked to do a voice chat, and I got to hear her voice again, and the memories all came flying back. It wasn't supposed to happen like that, but I had a crush on her again. My feelings came back, but I know for a fact that I should take it in a different way than before. How I felt there was like, I'm satisfied already with this kind of relationship, like that's how I truly got to know her and I don't think it has to be super romantic or super grand scale. I like the idea of having a relationship, but at the same time we can mess around like friends and annoy each other from time to time; around the lines of having a platonic relationship. Like, who would have thunk that your childhood crush would be your gamer playmate just like that?
So I thought of having to meet her somewhere, but she's busy with school stuff so I waited patiently. I expected around Christmas but there's family stuff that she and I had to take care of. I wanted to give her matching hoodies, but it'll have to wait. We still passed the time by playing Genshin Impact and a bit of Mobile Legends. We did our own stuff for now, went to places but I still ask when we should meet. And so we finally had a plan, and I was so excited. I had to mentally prepare myself.
The day before my birthday, we finally met up and had lunch. How I felt at first was relief that we git to see each other again after 5 years, but deep down, a massive childhood nostalgia moment hit me, because she's just as cute as when I first saw her. She's still the same person I fell in love with 15 years ago. We talked a hella lot about Genshin, places we went, our families. We took pictures and we look frickin cute! It felt extremely good because some quality time with a special person can lift your spirits ten fold. And I finally gifted her that hoodie.
At the end of the day, I confessed to her. I did say that we had been talking again for almost a year, suddenly since it was completely unexpected. I never thought that I would actually get back in touch with her like this. I told her with full honesty that I did not expect it to happen, but my feelings returned for her. I'm in love with her again. It's not as super impactful as before, but it's in a way that it's more "normal". I don't want to go too overboard, I love her a comfortable amount. This type of relationship is what I wanted, just simple fun and games and we can communicate if things fo wrong so we can help each other. Maybe it's just things that I never got the chance to experience when we were still at grade/high school. I told her that I like her again. I was ready for any answer.
She told me that she's not ready for a relationship yet, or at least it's not her focus right now on her life. And I completely understood that because I can see that she's not the type to do it just yet. She is thinking about it, so on my book it's not a no. But right now, to this day, we're really good friends. She knows me well, I know her well, and she's willing to still talk like how we normally do. She's polite and understanding, she acknowledges the fact that I had to get it off my chest. That just makes me love her more as a person. I was kinda afraid that would be ghosted at first because she's not the conversation starter, but luckily we're good and we're still talking up to this day. I told her that if I would be in a relationship, I would hope to the heavens that she would be my first one. (I'd rather get a platonic relationship at this point) It would take about another 5 years to get her answer but I don't care. She knows how loyal I can get. This is a story that will keep on writing.
Maybe I'm still delusional, or crazy, or too much wishful thinking, and copium. But if you have a person that you can care for and care for you back, I don't think it's possible for a bond to break like that. There might be new challenges, but communication and understanding will glue literally any kind of relationship together.
What I have learned is that you should always cherish the people you meet and have bonds with. No matter how rough things get, you will have someone to give you life.
To the person I'm writing about, no matter what happens, I love you. | Crushes |
This might sound weird but the reason I got a crush is because my friends shipped me with him so damn much it got in my head, worse part my teacher made us work with each other and some other people a lot. Guess what I was a bit angry when my friends shipped him with someone else, that’s when I realized I had a crush. He’s a good guy but very sus(like he’d talk about weird stuff like “giggity.”)
This is my first time doing this | Crushes |
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