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If you haven't read Part 1, you may want to read that one before this one so it fills in the gaps and so you know what I'm talking about, please don't judge me.. this is my life and I just want to share that with you, thank you!
6th of March, Monday 2023
So... Yesterday matt and jarred (my best friends) went for a walk and on their walk they saw Mr Grierson walking his dog which is a coovodle dog, so cute! Then today at school I had double classes with Mr Grierson. I went out to assembly and went passed him, then when I was seated on the concrete floor I looked at him for a bit and then of course because people say that people can sense when someone is looking at them, he looked at me and Iooked away and about 3 seconds later I looked back and he was still looking at me with his head to the side but he was looking at me with one corner of his eye, of course I got flusted like always and looked away for a minute or so to make sure he wasn't looking at me still. Then I looked back and he wasn't looking at me anymore... which was good because I don't want to give of the idea that I'm attracted to him, I just want to look at him because he's so gorgeous! Then I saw my opal score (a score you get that presents your overall performance in class e.g. if you dont talk when the teachers talking or when you answer a lot of questions and ask alot of questions in class) in Biology, for Mr Grierson subject (Business studies) I got a 8 which was pretty good! Dylan's (one of my friends) and Seth's (one of Dylan's friends) was an 7, I thought they would get higher because they salute him and make out he's the boss and everything! Then they heard I got an 8 and they pretty much said that they were going to come to my house and kill me... anyway... then in Business studies which was 4th period, we just did work like always but he said we can move rooms because it's too hot in the classroom for us! He's so nice! So we moved to another Dem which was Dem 2 instead of our normal Dem which is Dem 6. Anyway, we work in our books that we had to write on the board and he walked and stood pretty much at the back of me all lesson if not behind me, he sat beside me on one of the tables.. yep he don't seat in seats.. he sits on the tables.. anyway, that was all lesson back and forth. I'm sure he has ADHD or he's Hyperactive because he's either swinging his legs as he sits on the tables or twists a pen on his fingers! Hehe he was so hot today.. like always of course! | Crushes |
We started texting yesterday, although all of our exchanges have been short. We talk loads irl. I'm awful at texting, how do I text them without it seeming forced? Thanks | Crushes |
so uh.. i been posting this guy but um.. yea 😭
so uh, he found out that i like him. how he found out was from his ex (who used to be my friend , she practically left me for him). someone told her and she unadded me on everywhere. here’s the part where he found out
so on Tuesday, she confronted me (all three of us have bio together) and was all like “i heard my name in conversations about us not being friends which aren’t true” and said sum about how this is the last time and that i shouldn’t be doing that. and i told her that i wasn’t talking shit and then yea but i accidentally said that i said shit out of anger (which actually wasn’t true?) and then she said “okay well we’re not cool and tell those ppl that you said shit out of anger” and i think that was it of the convo. at one point in the convo, she mentioned how i have a crush on him and she deadass POINTS at him and bro looked up at her all confused and shit brooo it was so awkward 💀.
anyways well, yesterday he avoided me a lot. like for bio, we had to work on this lab and we had to be in a group of four. me and this girl paired up and as we were looking for another two ppl, he and the guy he paired up with came up to her and asked her if they wanna work with us. throughout the entire lab, he wasn’t really engaging with us. when we had to record our data, he never asked me for my data but he asked the guy he paired up with and my partner for their data.
oh and not only that, but yesterday when our teacher made us talk to our partners (me n him sit next to each other for bio), he never even engaged really. i was mainly the one doing the talking. which was weird bc in most cases , he would be the one that talked first.
anyways, idk what to do from here on out. he makes me hate myself every time i leave that class. i feel like i annoy him. and not only that, but now i hate looking at myself even more bc i feel like he secretly makes fun of how i look.
ANYWAYS i jus needed to vent 😭 | Crushes |
There is this girl I have liked for a pretty long time and she was at my schools high school dance yesterday and she came up to me to ask if I was who she thought I was (I lost a lot of weight and got taller by like 4 inches). I said yes but I was dancing with some friends and I didn’t really talk to her and kinda just said yeah. I felt bad about it and messaged her on instagram and said I was sorry I didn’t really talk to her there. She was completely understanding and said she wanted to make sure I was who she thought is was and she said I look a lot different then she said “in a good way. “ I asked a few questions to catch up with her and she was quick responding and really nice and then she had to go to sleep. How do I continue the conversation? | Crushes |
HE SAT NEXT TO ME
ok so bascially I was with my classmates in a class, and we were playing Kahoot. We were settling down and as soon as i sit down on the floor (no one was sitting on the floor at the time) he sat right next to me
we also shared so many answers for kahoot lol
so yeah does he | Crushes |
My and my "crush" have been friends for about 2 years. I always did everything to make sure she is comfortable and happy. Recently my friends told me to ask her out and I did but she said no. I thought I was gonna feel heartbroken but honestly I did not. I still love her but in a different manner. I never truly liked her as a crush but I loved making her feel safe and happy, it almost felt like a job to me, like I had to make sure she was happy. For a while it was my one purpose in life, and now I feel empty that I see that she has changed dramatically and no longer needs or wants my help. I know that is sounds weird to what I am going to compare it to, but I never liked her as a girlfriend but more as a daughter because when I first met her she seemed so shy and scared that I felt obligated to care for her. Now that she has become alot more independent and is even talking to a guy right now, I feel so sad and happy that she is all grown up and no longer needs me. I also think she no longer want to be friends no more but I could be me being over dramatic. What should I do now? How should I come off of this? | Crushes |
I remember before when he sat beside me and he keeps on complimenting my handwriting as well as keeps on borrowing my wipe out. I swear he was so noisy like he keeps on saying jokes and yet I keep on laughing over it. But as he knew that I was not only quiet but also smart af, he just keep his mouth shut everytime we sat beside each other. But sometimes I notice that he still keeps on complimenting my artworks and testpapers. We always work together during computer class and he had no choice but to cooperate with me, well that's so rare for him to work with somebody especially he is super lazy. One time, I send him a friend request (he accepted it so quickly) and on the other day, he keeps on staring at me as if he thought I was into him. Earlier I notice that he keeps on leaning back and forth in his seat whenever I do it opposite from him or sometimes he do the same thing as me. I swear I laughed earlier because I just lean back then he lean forward pretending to check his phone. I also notice that he keeps on copying my gestures. He would also leave his chair and hesitates to came back again, he would just sit back when the professor comes. I also remember whenever we sniff in sync because we both have runny nose sometimes, and I would just control my nose not to sniff in sync with him. I really just hate him that much because before, he accidently broke my water tumbler and he didn't even say sorry. He felt guilty that I pick up the broken pieces of my tumbler so he decided to wipe the spilled water. Maybe the also reason he doesn't talk to me much. I just hate it when my classmate mention my name and his surname together, then the guy's friend heard it and said "Ohh, she's for _". I swear I just freeze over there but my classmate mentioned that I was blushing (as if) but I just didn't react to it. Well, I just notice it everytime because he is more extroverted to others but he is pure introvert beside me. | Crushes |
I chickened out of asking her out today, now I won’t see her for at least two weeks 😭. I would say it was 50% not finding the right moment, 50% being a p*ssy. I have a good feeling that she likes me. She says hi all the time, waves to me, and maybe flirts with me? Idk well when I see her at work she comes up to me a lot to see what I’m doing, we talk a lot, sometimes she teases me for stupid things I say/do. She stands really close to me when we chat, she kind of just bugs me a lot. I don’t know, maybe she just sees me as a friend? What do I do now? | Crushes |
He saw me staring at him multiple times 💀 And I feel like I'm making a really bad impression in general. (We're acquaintances but don't talk regularly btw.) I can stop doing what I'm doing but how do I fix that aspect of it? | Crushes |
okay so, ive had a crush on this guy who's 2 years older than me since 8th grade(I'm in 10th rn) but ive thought he was pretty/attractive since 4th grade. we became friends last year, and we were pretty good friends. i trusted him a lot.
then, in September, he started dating a girl i also have a crush on. long story short, he's barely talked to me at all since december. i went from hugging him daily to being lucky if i have a conversation with him once or twice a week. the worst part is i have no idea what i did wrong. idk if im being annoying or boring or what. what do i do? i still love him so much, platonically and romantically, and i don't want to lose him :( | Crushes |
In reference to my last post? I don't know how to link it sorry but here's some updates from not even 24 hours later.
Guess who got sent paragraphs at 1 am in the morning again? I'm not even kidding, I was calling my friends and just having a good time, and I exit the screen and I see 77 notifications from him. What. He's messaging me like "oh I'm so sorry for shit talking you and everything". He said that he only talked shit about me to one person (which is a lie, so many people have told me that he's talked shit about me), and the other 20 messages are him going "I KNOW YOU'RE READING THIS PLEASE RESPOND".
Also sent me snaps, and Instagram DMs of him going "STOP BRO LITERALLY FUCKING RESPOND YOU'RE DRIVING ME INSANE." uhm. I'm scared. This was right after we agreed on having a break btw. He proceeds to berate me for not responding again, while I'm rlly pissed cuz like:
1. I'm not obligated to respond bro what are u on about
2. Give me at least like 10 minutes to generate a proper response
He ended up asking if I wanted to remain as friends. This is were I made a huge mistake. Everyone was telling me to just continue as friends with him, we were in like 2 friend groups and a lot of people were like "just stay friends he's already heart broken". I said yes. I don't know why. I am regretting that decision so much.
He then sends me like a ton of messages. First asking me to unblock him on WhatsApp and the rest were just like "haha omg just like the good old days!?!??" And I played along. He also sent me a bunch of Instagram reels. Most of them were those breakup ones like "if you like someone a lot, you should just stay as friends". In my mind I was like, man why didn't I cut this guy off...
Anyway instant regret. Don't know why I chose to remain friends with him but I don't think I should message him suddenly and go "no. I don't want to anymore." Bc then he'll tell everyone that i led him on again and he's friends will berate me for ruining everything 💀💀 I dunno why those like half of his friends were also like "I expected this", because apparently they warned him about how I was a wh//re and how I played around with guys a lot. Ouch. Ok.
Tbh tho I let this man disregard my wishes for a break, spam me with messages, be obsessive and demeaning for like the past 24 hours and I still forgave him. I'm really stupid... | Crushes |
Why do I feel bad about this?
This is the dumbest thing
Alright, so basically I was hanging out with my buddies at a place. This group of people are near and I make buddies with them. One of them was my friend's cousin. Now, she was attractive. Really attractive. Heck, my buddy even gave his blessing to rizz her up. Anyways, I'm buddies with these people now and this one guy likes her too. I decide to do the honorable thing and attempt to set them up. He ended up getting her Snap. Now, from what my friend told me and what I noticed, she had a few signs that she actually liked me a bit. I help this man try to get closer to his crush and I succeeded. So why do I feel bad about this | Crushes |
I (13m) are in 6th grade and for the past two weeks have started to like a friend I met when I first moved around a year ago we didn’t talk to much but in stem we sat close a talk during free time here and there but never liked her but on the bus she was just stunning and I have wanted a gf for a while but I’m scared to ask her out because we once had to put something on paper say something about are selves we did read each others at are table when she said she feels a sexual witch needs u like no gender but she only said this because she only likes anime charters but back to now I want to talk to her and ask her but I can’t find words for her and just keep quit what do I do? Sorry for the long text just needed to talk. | Crushes |
my crush's doggies dislike me. It just feels so hurtful...they just don't know how much I love them😭 | Crushes |
I was talking to my co-worker yesterday and she asked me if I had a crush on anyone in our work. It caught me off guard because she was the one I used to have a small crush on before I found out she had a boyfriend. She caught on to my hesitation to answer and has been bugging me trying to find out what I was going to say.
We are good friends and I stopped having a crush on her 3 months ago. Do ya think it would be weird to tell her the truth? We are pretty good friends and I don't think she will react weirdly but I am just looking for other opinions | Crushes |
Yesterday I had 8 hours long convo with my crush was like heaven | Crushes |
this boy from school started chatting with me, it started out really nice with him sending memes and us joking around and i thought we got on really well. about a week into this, he kept saying ‘i love you’ and he wanted to kiss and make out with me, sending selfies saying he wishes i was cuddling him in bed. we hung out once at school, so i hardly knew him, but it was kind of nice for a change. then we arranged to meet up but never did when he kept pestering asking if i’d had my first kiss. when i explained i’d rather not talk about all that so soon, he freaked out on me completely, saying he has nothing good in his life, and to leave him alone as he was done. so a few days passed and i sent a sweet message apologising and wishing him well, to which he never responded. i stupidly stalked his socials and found out he’s now commenting lovey messages on another girls instagram, the same compliments and stuff he was saying to me- was i played by him? because i liked him so much and part of me still does, even if he did upset me. how do i move on from it all? i didn’t even know where to post i just needed to vent | Crushes |
Ok let’s just say I’m a wimp, and this guy who I’ve been crushing on for awhile now is leaving school to do this apprenticeship thing, and I’ve been told by one of his friends that I should confess. My friends know how much of a scaredy cat I am, and so one of my friends said she’ll do it for me… (bc I’ve confessed my feelings twice before and im probably traumatised to do it again) So yeaaa… earlier today my friend told him and he said “Thank you for letting me know.” Btw I’m a biggg overthinker, so I’ve been thinking about what he said pretty much the whole afternoon trying to figure out what it means and ranting to my friends…
So uhm… did I get rejected??? Is it time to move on??? Help…
ps. I’ve never talked to the guy before either so yea… and my friend thinks that I shouldn’t talk to him since there’s nothing I can do… | Crushes |
i realllyyy wanna talk about him! ask away <3
(fyi, i’m not a huge reddit user.. this is my first post ever, sorry for any mistakes!) | Crushes |
For some days now I have no appetite to eat and I’m constantly in pain with my digestive organs. I thought about what I’m doing wrong and I found no reason as to why I’m feeling this way. My diet hasn’t changed, the weather is the same and I’m active.
A couple days ago I saw someone post here about getting actually sick from having a crush and said some similar symptoms happened to them. I found it unbelievable until I did some research on it.
It’s still weird, but it kind of makes sense since you’re sad and occupied by the obsession, thoughts and imaginations.
I just wanted to see if anyone else here experienced physical reactions to having a crush 🤔 | Crushes |
i know it could never work out. i just have to ignore my feelings so i don’t ruin our friendship. there’s just so many things making it not possible for us to date ever :/ he just makes me so happy when i talk to him, i cant tell if it’s just platonic love or romantic love at this point. but i know relationships ruin friendships so it’s just too much to risk. i just want a bf | Crushes |
So I’ve been liking this guy for a while right, we hangout so much because we play the same sport together. But the thing is he’s a play boy. I swear man I get so upset because 1: he’s a horrible texter and 2: he acts like he doesn’t talk to a lot of girls. Referring to 1: he takes hours to respond and I mean HOURS and I’ve gotten used to it but god I mean I could do so much when he decides to reply back. 2: his dms are filled with girls and I just feel like I’m another added to the list, I mean while he’s had the chance to not reply back, he could post on his story showing that he’s hanging out with a girl. he acts like he doesn’t have a bunch of girls that aren’t interested in him and it makes me so upset because i know there is. i like him so much and I know it’s not good for me but idk what to do. | Crushes |
I confessed she friend zoned me | Crushes |
I've known this guy since grade 7 or grade 8, but I've never properly known him beyond seeing him around in the school every now and then. And I've been noticing him a lot more this year for some reason and it's probably because he grew his hair out and it looks really good on him, though I also realised that I still noticed him even before this year since I always acknowledged he was nearby more than I normally did with anyone else I'd recognise.
I always thought he was kinda pretty for a while, but he's kind of annoying and obnoxious in class. He's the type of student to be constantly called out by the teacher since he's talking to his friends all the time, and/or he's off playing a game on his device. But I noticed he's pretty considerate and nicer when he's not around his friends, and he's quite charismatic with everyone (though the nice and considerate part is probably just for the sake of keeping up an impression lol)
I'm very awkward though, I don't trust myself to carry a conversation face-to-face let alone with someone I find pretty and prefer to stick with someone who doesn't mind it at all and is the one who does and initiates more of the talking. So me getting to know this guy and seeing where my feelings go for him is kind of out of the question and the most I'm comfortable doing is this, I guess.
The only interactions I've really had with this guy was when he'd ask me and my friends questions(I assume it was because one of my friends used to be part of his friend group), this one time he told me he was reading this same book I was reading back in gade 8 and this other time he helped me carry my stuff when it was pouring. Not a lot, but somehow I always kept them in the back of my mind.
I don't think my feelings towards him will go any further than that especially since I always doubt my boy crushes cause of unpleasant platonic/romantic relationships with guys (especially ones kinda like him) in the past, but I felt like letting it out somewhere and kind of want some outside perspective on everything | Crushes |
Man I do not get how so many of you are able to be so confident with your crush. I can plan out a whole conversation with them, but the minute I see him my mind goes blank and I stay quieter than I planned. Same with asking for numbers. How do I get rid of the nerves? | Crushes |
It was kind of rushed, it was just as we were walking out for class today on the last day of term. I went up to her and said I liked her, she told me that's nice in a sort of sarcastic way and then we had to go separate ways. Should I follow anything up, does she definitely not like me, should I say anything when I see her at school again in a few weeks? | Crushes |
So I have a crush on a person who works in the same shopping center as me. He’s rang me up a few times before at his work but we never talk. Anyways he always parks his car next to mine (we don’t have assigned parking or anything). Today I got to work and was waiting for the elevator to go up but I forgot something in my car. So I walked back to my car and to my surprise he was barely arriving and parking his car. I got nervous and was thinking fuck, I need to say something to him this is the perfect opportunity. We were the only ones parked there so no one else was around. Typically I would chicken out but this time idk what came over me but as I was walking to my car to pass his, he had his door open at this point and I waved to him and was like “wow so this is your car! I always wondered who parked here because we always park next to each other”. We talked for like a minute or two. Then I went back to my car to get something. I saw him again waiting for the elevator and I told him something but I lowkey felt awkward lol. I went in the back of the elevator and he was in front of me and when he was getting off he told me bye, have a nice day and I was like same.
I feel like this is one step forward because I would never do something like this. There’s question just simply stating what happened lol. | Crushes |
Hello, I'm 17 year old boy and have a little crush on 17 year old girl that I met on friends party 3 weeks ago. When I saw her on party I approached her, we talked but I was pretty drunk and as I can remeber she really wasn't drunk or she was really a bit, but I would say she wasn't. So we talked and after some time I asked her if I could get her number and she took my phone and typed in her number and aside her contact name wrote <3. After a bit more talking I asked her if she want's to have a drink with me next friday after her shift in my dads restaurant, because she works for my dad as a summer job as a waitress. She said yes, but she works that week only on tuesday and wednesday, and she really worked only this two days. After that I can't remember really what I said but my friend told me that as he can remember I asked her out after some time of talking and that she said yes. So when I casually come in that restaurant I can see her sometimes looking at me or I'm just thinking that she's looking but when almost every time I pass her way she looks at me. She also sometimes tease me like for example, she had to take a box of beer that's not really hard to take and said look at Leonardo he's only looking, wouldn't he rather help me?
I'm thinking about asking her for that drink but I just can't get courage because I was drunk that time when I asked her but as I said she said yes and I think she wasn't drunk. | Crushes |
could you just be an asshole just to put me somewhere familiar..?
no. i dont want that, i like you how you are.
the perfect balance of all the things i need..
new is terrifying.
i’ll be terrified for you.
🖤 | Crushes |
I (F16) have a crush on this guy (M17). We hung out for the second time ever today in a group of friends. I can't really tell what he thinks of me though, so here are some things that happened today and you tell me what you think he may think of me.
\-He latched me into a baby swing at the park
\-I pushed him in said baby swing at the park
\-He actually engaged me unlike last time
\-He showed up even though he had a final this morning (a perfect excuse to cancel, yet he didn't)
\-He stayed after the only other guy left (for reference, he refused to come last time if this other guy didn't come.)
\-He mentioned the fact he was single a few times
\-He said he'd be down to hang out again (I sent a text about a possible party to a gc he's in around 8 pm and he hasn't answered yet, but he might've been busy.)
\- I REALLY awkwardly shook his hand/dapped him up and said "See ya later... dude." when he was leaving because I had no idea what to say.
I haven't heard from him since he left, but I'm not too worried about it. I really just want him to like me as a friend for now. I'm always afraid people don't like me in any way, let alone romantically because I act really childish when I get excited or am in a large group of people. I kind of have a lot of 'squirrel' moments, my voice gets really loud and shrieky, and I do a lot of dancing and jumping and spinning. And keep in mind, this guy is like a dream guy. All my friends like him as well. He's cute, kind, funny, smart, talented. I'm weird, awkward, nervous and not attractive at all. My friends who barely know him have a better chance with him than I do. I digress though, what do you guys think? | Crushes |
So I have been her friend since last yaer, but to me it feels like we've been friends for years. When we met for the first time I obviously had a crush on her because she was pretty and because I actually talked to a girl other than for class work.
It wasn't until she told me she got a boyfriend that i just moved on from that feeling and just decided I'll stay as a friend to her. They however didn't last long because her parents found out she had a boyfriend and told her to stop it. She did and just a few months later (2-4 i think) she told me and my other friends during our last period of school that he is now dating her friend. She seemed really upset and my friend was being mature, but I can't handle strong emotions because I have been told the "Men don't cry" thing (now i know we can, but i've been told that for so many years it's hard for me to stop believing that). Instead of not crying, I just can't handle serious situations because I have to be emotional. So my dumbass tried to cheer her up (i think it did, but i know i was meant to be emotional), and i regret doing that. However, (i forgot when, but I know it's between Jan. - Apr. of this year) she called me Bae, or Baby once to me.
So I started developing my crush for her again (but like an actual crush this time) when we both started summer school and we've been spending time together (not in a whole class and another friend there listening, not to be mean to my friend) just talking. We used to only see each other for our last period. But we now only see each other for and i feel that we got more along well when we're alone (what a suprise). She now started to talk to me more, call more names, and started touching me more (as in like just like tickles and stuff like that not the other things). I feel way more comfortable around her and she always laughs at what I say (she literally laughed today when i said the word "shattered). I think the most important thing since we met each other is that she gets me, and i get her. And I'm sure that I'm her only friend that she acts the way she does around me (she has a lot of friends. And i've seen her around her other friends, she's never that playful around them except for me, that i know).
Like today when we met up (for like only 10 min.), she bought me food and when I told her I don't want it, she told me to keep it. She bought it with her own money without me asking her (i feel like that's just her kindness, but no one has been like that to me before except another friend I had).
Anyways, the reason I don't want to have a crush on her is because I already have crush on someone else. I've had this crush with this other girl since we were both in 2nd grade (I'm in 10th now), and I'm pretty sure she's got a cursh on me (she gave a guge hint in 5th grade and almost a year ago, but I think I already have a post on that). I don't want to have to choose between the 2 of them, I really don't. I already love one, but I'm now starting to fall in love with another one. However, the difference is that I'm not sure if my friend has a crush on me or not. And I know with the stuff i said before on this that it's sign that she does, but I've never seen her tell me feelings to me, only show them. So I have plan to try to get her to tell me (and I know this is probably not a god thing to do to her, but I told myslef that I'll do it this one time, and I'm just too curious). If she does telk me some of her feelings towards me then it will be so much harderd to me to stop crushing on her. What can i do so I can stop crushing on her? (I'm so sorry this is so long.) (I also don't if she has reddit so I have to edit this whole thing again to delete ages, grades, and appearance) | Crushes |
Basically some context I was messaging him on Snapchat a couple days ago and I mentioned that I found out I’m Omnisexual (search it up I can’t explain it very well 😭) because I thought I was a lesbian. I said that a guy was making me question my sexuality so that’s why I identify as Omni now. So ofc he asks who in which I respond “Uh I’ll tell you Saturday” because I didn’t want to confess my feelings at like eleven at night. So encourage me I guess?
Also I’m probably gonna be up for a little while (might do an all nighter) so ask me about him!! | Crushes |
I have a huge crush on this guy I used to have class with. For the first time in my life i confesses to someone (him) my feelings. Soo because im shy I left him a note saying how I feel and how id like to get to know him & if he did not feel the same way he could let me know.
Before i decided to do that i thought about it a lot. What convinced me were the small interactions we had (and my friends who would not stop telling me to do it) the last interaction we had i was 99.99% sure he liked me back or that there was atleast a little something there. And my friend was too.
Turns out hes in a commited relationship and is thinking about marriage. I respect that and I am incredibly happy for him and part of me has no interest in him but I cannot get over my crush. I have absolutely no intention of keeping contact with him or to try to be in places where i know he is at out of respect for him and his partner, also over respect of my own feelings. But I still think about him all the time and i dont know how to move on.
I am not religious or spiritual and I know im most likely delusional. But it felt as if we had been meant for each other or as if i knew him in another life. I know thats really dumb. Its the first time ive had this type of crush.
I really want to know him and what he likes to do and listen to and what his family is like. But i never will.
How do i start to move on? | Crushes |
And my family but still
It’s two nights and him and I are literally sharing a tent. Which he semi-suggested.
My family will be in a trailer.
I fully plan to watch the sunset on the beach with him. Maybe if I’m lucky we’ll dance together to nonexistent music.
Maybe it’s fine because we’re both guys. | Crushes |
i’ve liked a friend of my friend for a few months now, and after my friend kept asking me about who i liked i finally told her. my friend told me she’s a lesbian….. pain. and my birthday is tomorrow. happy birthday to me :( | Crushes |
I told him I liked him!!!!
We are talking on the phone right now and he feels the same! He is scared because of a 1 year age difference, I’m a senior in high school and he just graduated, but we’ve been talking about what we think! Wish me luck! | Crushes |
I’ve had a crush on her for the past school year. We’ve talked a bit and sat next to each other in class but, ever since school ended I haven’t had the chance to talk to her. Until this week, I remembered an old group chat that our teacher used to send out announcements and I figured should send a message directly to her. So today, in order to make it seem not so desperate I first asked if she could fill out a random survey I made for what people were doing this summer break. She filled it out and it seems that we are both on a swim team (different). I then ask her a few other things such as what she’s been to keep cool during these hot days. Then I tell her a dream I had which related to said teacher above and she thought it was really funny.
I’ve felt very depressed for the last two years but, talking to her today just really changed my day, if not my life for the better.
I really want to get her phone number and get off the platform we are using to text on (Remind), but I don’t know how I should ask without coming on too strong or desperate. I also don’t know anymore good conversation starters. Any advice? | Crushes |
So, there is a girl in my class. When I first saw her she was cute but now I'm finding her a bit too cute. The way she talks and just looks melts my heart. Whenever I look at her during class, she sometimes looks back. HOWEVER, i heard her saying to her friend that I'm looking at her (her friend) and i was like bruh. We haven't had like a real conversation, just like some questions about the class and eye contact. What do i do? I think engaging in some conversations with her make her think otherwise? | Crushes |
For a while I had a crush on one of my friends. I had met her through some of my other friends but we ended up being in our main group of friends.
It seemed like we both really liked each other. It had been a while since I had seen her and with time from the pandemic I didn’t really have feelings for her. She looked into my eyes for extended periods of time. I could only assume that she felt the same way I did. After all she did smile when we looked at each other. She periodically put her head on my shoulder which made my butterflies in my stomach flare up. When I would go out with my friends sometimes she wanted to compete with me. Some nights when we were in the arcade she would lean on me.
I enjoyed my time with her. Eventually I realized that I had potentially fallen in love with her. I decided to just think of us as friends. We went to prom with all of our friends and that day she stuck mostly with me.
Eventually I told her that I had feelings for her. Our friendship went downhill from there. She started to ignore me after telling me that she valued our friendship. I tried so hard for weeks to talk to her about how I just wanted to remain friends at the very least.
After a few weeks of being ignored she talked to me a little but she wasn’t so close. She told me we were still close friends but it was completely different.
Now I’m just trying to get over her. I miss the friendship we had but I’m afraid that I lost it forever. Deep down I don’t want to move on without being friends. It would just suck to be strangers after all these years. | Crushes |
* I really enjoy being around him
* I feel jealous when other girls talk to him
* I think I just realized that I might like him but I'm unsure
* I feel sad when I don't see him at the sports place I go most of the week but I get over it
* I would be happy if he told me that he liked me
I'm just confused about my feelings right now, maybe I'm just attracted to him?? I don't know :,)
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Alright, so this is kind of an update to a thing from a while ago where I talked about when me and a girl kind of stopped talking. So basically, we’re talking again, and around a week or two ago, she started saving all our messages and idk why. Anyone have any idea why she might have done this. Does she know I like her maybe? | Crushes |
I’ve liked this guy ever since we went on a school trip weeks ago. While we were on that trip my friend told him that I liked him unexpectedly and a week later she asked for his Instagram for me. I followed and dm’d him saying hi but he didn’t follow me back or even open the message. I’ve always seen him around school and today was the last day. I really wanna say something to him but I know he’ll turn me down probably because I’m not really pretty and also very shy. Please help😭😭 I’m also so scared that If I do say something I’ll get rejected and I don’t think I can handle the embarrassment 😅 | Crushes |
I'm honestly so pissed at myself thinking liked/likes me. I know all the signs say she does/did but she does it to mostly every guy. All our mutual friends told us we liked each other and we should date but no she barely gave me attention or tried to talk to me it was just some other dude. And look I'm not mad at her at all shes a decent person and a good friend I'm mad at myself for being so fucking stupid. I shouldve just asked her out earlier to see if she liked me now I'm watching her slowly lose interest (if she had any). I wasted too much time thinking about her that I shouldve thought about myself.
To whoever is reading this with a crush just ask them out. It's better then wasting your time day dreaming about them.
Now on I'm going to just focus on myself and starting to be a better person both physically and mentally.
I'll try to move on from her.
And even if she likes me (or ever has) then I would reject her. Because I dont want to like someone right now i. | Crushes |
I met my crush Justin last year while we were playing tennis. We grew close when we became lab partners in our chemistry class. We would talk before class and walk together in the halls. He was sweet and considerate and I really got the feeling he liked me. However as soon as the school year ended, we stopped talking. The thing is, we both participate in a summer tennis program and see each other almost daily. As I see him talking to his friends, I realize I never really knew him. He was always super mature and considerate with me, but around his friends he is the opposite. I’ve tried inviting him to hang out so we could talk one on one, but he always says he is busy. I’m just so disappointed that we drifted so far so fast. I was very optimistic before school ended, but all the hope is gone now. | Crushes |
i need your guys’ help, i’ve been talking to a girl in my class over text for the last month or so, nothing serious but just talking about exams and stuff and i’ve started developing like really strong feelings for her, i want to message her confessing this but i’m worried this ruins our friendship or comes across to creepy, any advice? | Crushes |
he’s quitting so im gonna ask him out, so that i dont have to see him everyday and be awkward if he says no. :D i hope he says yes! i’ll update when i do :) | Crushes |
So I just moved, going to a new school, didn’t ask my crush if she liked me at the last school, so any advice to get her to like me or to know? | Crushes |
So to star off , I am a 17 year old male (will turn 18 next month) and she is 20 years old.
in order to provide some background , I am very similar with this type of girl , we want the same thing is a relationship , we mostly like the same things , we definetely thing the same way , and we are just really really similar with each other.Our catch phrase is "great minds , think alike"
I was hosted at her house while I visited another city and a lof of (in my opionion) awesome things happened.
Firstly after having a conversation with her on my bed , she asked me if she can hug me , and me as a total idiot said "whatever you want" and we opened her arms and I just fell on her arms.Afterwards I took off my glasses and hugged her , and before I knew it , we started cuddling , sometime passes , and she went changed to her pijamas afterwards and came for some more cuddles and she wanted to sleep in my bed (and not with her female roomate) while cuddling too . It was a great night , and I remember in the morning , we just looked at each others eyes for 2 or 3 times and at the first one it was complete silence , on the second one we said good morning to each other and on the third one we just laughed. It was so intimate.
After that , her roomate that was sleeping on the same bed with her left for vacation , and on that night I asked her if I could sleep on the same bed as her , she accepted.After laying down with her , I asked her if we could cuddle , something we did and right after that I was the big spoon and then fell asleep.
I discussed these situtions with a female friend , and she told me that the girl was hitting on me , that she may like me.Well I sure do like her a lot , and I was wondering if she liked me to with these kind of things
what do you thing
another post I made that provides some more background : [https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/vg7g6t/cant\_help\_but\_fall\_with\_her\_ventmoving\_on/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/vg7g6t/cant_help_but_fall_with_her_ventmoving_on/) | Crushes |
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a huge part of me wants to say i love her, but another says that I'm not ready for a relationship nor handling love.
(16m) I've never felt any sort of affection in my life until a few days ago, but I went to her house one day and while me and her were watching a movie, she starts to come close to me puts her head on my chest (fyi we're still just friends) and I was on the brink of tears just simply for the reason of feeling any type of affection even if it was from someone I'm not even in an official relationship with. I still don't know why she did that to me in the first place especially bc she always brings up another guy that she says she has a crush on. I'm surprised I haven't gained full feelings for her yet, she's told me herself that me dating her has crossed her mind but ik she's more interested in the other guy than me. I congratulate him more than anything bc of that and if she gets with him, they both have my full support. But still, my feelings for her have been all over the place. I wanna say I love her, but her being more interested in the other guy has my feelings for her at halt. I cry thinking abt her, I feel like I'm never gonna find any love when she brings up the other guy. Ik I sound cheesy asf, but that's just my current state. | Crushes |
Just got friend zoned after confessing. She said she’s pretty new to the school so she’s not sure if she could go out with me, and she said I think of you as a important FRIEND. | Crushes |
I've known my crush since last year in grade 7 and known her since then.
Before that i was doing online school...I hated it. IT was annoying waking up in the morning, booting up my Chromebook and sitting in class for a long ass time. Eventually i just stopped doing it and my mom was oblivious not happy about this. Over some of not joining school my school program set me up for in-person teaching. I thought it was dumb since i wasn't feeling like going in-person but i went anyways.
....And that was the best choice i think I've made since...
Anyways.... I first met her (My crush) when i was drawing while break when she first approached me, Complimenting about my art. That's when she asked me for my gmail for contact. So i gave it to her and that moment is when i Fell for her. We became friends over time and started talking.
We used google hangouts for the time being we talked a lot and had similar in food and things we liked.
After summer break i was now in 8th grade. New people. New teacher. Different things.
It was different for sure and also most of my class from last year about 12% were in my class instead
And yeah she was in a different class. "No problem" i thought it's gonna be like last year but With more work..Right?
I..was a bit wrong, yes it was hard in some places but i really enjoyed my year, Though the only problem was talking to her.
She was (Some-what) always around her friends since they were distanced from her. (Her friends were in my class last year). It was kinda hard talking alone with her since i didn't want to make it oblivious that i liked her.
4 days ago we had our grad dance at a big hall. Saw her dancing and got the courage to ask her for a dance. She said yes and we danced.(And no i didn't get a kiss) I really enjoyed it and after i asked for her number and got it! 😎 (Though i forgot to give her MY number)...
3 days ago I went out with her (and her friend) and got some ice cream. We talked about stuff when she mentioned about a pride parade she was going to attend, Nothing wrong with that.. Till she joking said: "Finally i can tell the world that i'm gay"
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When i first heard it i didn't know what to think of it, though it bring me back a few months ago in October when i (unintentionally) eavesdropped on her friends. Discussing about People who were bisexual.
My crush's name came about it. I was a bit shocked when i heard it but i tried to ignore it. since then it's been showing a lot. I just couldn't ignore it anymore
My point being is that i'm torn apart about what i should do, Being her friend would work well since my friends started getting suspicious about me having a crush on her.
She's going to a different school (A bit) far from me.
I-i'm just torn okay? i need some advice for what i have to do. I only a week of school left with her. | Crushes |
What are some signs that someone likes you? I’m apparently oblivious to this stuff. | Crushes |
I used to know this girl, and im trying to get closer to her now, but I think its too late cause its almost the end of the year. SHould I tell her how i feel? how do I get a closer relationship with her? we are in separate classes | Crushes |
Last night, we had our school awards ceremony today and ✨she✨and I got the same award. So, when we were in line, I congratulated her and she returned the favour (because that's the kind thing to do).
(Side note: she looked so pretty OMG 😩😩😳😳)
BUT! It gets better; I was sitting on the bench near the gym entrance and she had to go. So I looked up and she looked at me, smiled at me and did the little finger wave thing and so I was having an internal panic attack.
The only problem is that I don't know what to do because we've now gone on Summer break until September. | Crushes |
Often my crush flirts with me, but i get really flustered and never know whether i should flirt back or just say thank u or something else. Any advice, pls??? Thank u :) | Crushes |
i want to send her pictures of a bunny (she has her own) that was in the park by me but she hasnt texted me back all day | Crushes |
We're not that close anymore nowadays. Well sometimes we say hi to each other at school but never a full conversation. She used to be my bestfriend but.. I AM SCREAMING SHE GREETED ME AT 12AM JUST RIGHT WHEN MY BIRTHDAY CAME (12:03am to be exact) I dont know if she had an alarm or.. like because she was doing her schoolworks (because so do i but i probably finished earlier) I READ THE MESSAGE LIKE PROBABLY 15 MINUTES AGO AND I CANT CALM DOWN LOL. I am basically nearly lacking of close friends but I do have people I talk with and she was the first one to ever greet me right exactly at my birthday. It was so sweet, she even apologized. I'll remember this birthday. She's making me act so corny and goofy, I lovw it.
Sorry for the terrible grammar Im writing this fresh ofd my mind and cant think right.
70% of u probably dont care but I just wanted to document this, I apologize! | Crushes |
It happened a few days ago but she texted me for the first time in a few months (she left me on read since the middle of may 😢). We’ve been talking somewhat regularly since then. she invited me to hangout with a friend for the fourth of july. i am very happy. | Crushes |
There have been a couple of times where i just feel her going ask me out u big dummy or give me a hug silly And her going whats up to me the other day when i was trying to get my thoughts together i think she cares about me | Crushes |
Ya’ll- does anyone know how to tell if a guy is flirting or just being friendly…? i struggle big time | Crushes |
I actually found her tiktok just by looking up her first name i guess bc shes in the same area as me otherwise idk bc it doesnt come up under her phone | Crushes |
Probably sounds kinda weird, but I'm really afraid of not loving my crush anymore. The last time I've seen her is already 1½ weeks back because we met in a kind of clinic (for depression, trauma, etc., german health system is great), and she was the first person in my age group (around 16) who was ok with bonding with me from the beginning, who didn't only make me smile, but who would also smile when I said stuff. Who managed to keep things not awkward, and the first person for whom I believe I could do a lot of things right. And I guess there are a lot of girls with great bodies and shit, but I don't care about that. I do think she is extremely cute but what I really love is her character, her interests, her smile, the way she mimics me crunching up my face. And I am really scared of losing that, because although it hurts so much it's one of the only things keeping me away from suicide. I would give almost anything for a hug from her right now, the feeling of there being someone. It's so painful, because she doesn't even know and I'm too much of a coward to tell her because I don't want anything to be awkward and not having contact at all anymore | Crushes |
Can any of the boys out there explain to me why my crush starts texting me for an entire week, on the same day countless times, and then suddenly ghosts me for another week? It’s confusing me and driving me nuts! Plus, we’re great friends and unfortunately, he has a girlfriend—if that’s even necessary. | Crushes |
Just feel like talking about it! | Crushes |
So I'm working at a site this week.. all week I've seen this pretty, sexy girl walking to her work place. I really want to talk to her! So badly! Since tomorrow is my last day at the site for a while, I want to do it tomorrow but I'm nervous af! Idk what to say, last time i talked to a girl I wanted to date was 2 years ago! And that didn't even go well.. I suck. I probably won't even do it. | Crushes |
So I (17M) have known Sara (16F/My Crush) for just over a year. We go to the same youth group and I started catching feelings for her about 2 weeks ago. We didn't really start to talk until this week when our youth group took a trip to a Christian Summer Camp. She basically is with her best friend Abbie (16F) all the time, and they tell eachother everything and they do everything together. I talk with Sara and Abbie a bit but not much to be honest. The only sign I really know of as of right now is I have caught Sara making eye contact with me but I try not to look at her to make her look way so instead I just kind of sit there while she looks at me and I just pay attention to her through the corner of my eye while she does it. We have made eye contact a few times, but it could honestly be nothing. Knowing Abbie, I feel like I could tell her I like Sara and I feel like she wouldn't tell her but on the other hand, I might tell her and Abbie will tell Sara and just make things awkward. The only problem is that I can never really catch 1 of them without the other so its hard to just talk with 1. I know both of their snaps because we made a message group chat for the trip and it transfered their contacts to my snap. I haven't added either of them but I feel like there might be a way I can just add everybody from youth, thry won't think it's weird, but even then, i would have to make the first message and I have no idea what I should say.
Short summary:
I (17M) have been to a youth group for about a year where my crush (Sara/16F) also goes. We are at a summer camp with our youth group, catching feelings about a month ago makes me feel like this week would be the perfect time to ask her. (She has a bestfriend named Abbie who is always with her and they do everything together. Knowing Abbie, if I told her about it and asked her not to tell Sara, she wouldn't tell her.) My ideas for trying to figure out if she likes me as well are these:
1. Add Abbie on snap and tell her I like Sara but I'm too nervous to tell her and ask if she thinks Sara likes me back.
2. Add Sara on snap and just tell her I like her.
3. Try to catch Abbie without Sara at some point during the day and tell her about my crush and see what she thinks.
4. Try to find Sara without Abbie at some point during the day and tell her how I feel. | Crushes |
So tomorrow is the last day of school and I really want to confess my love to my crush but I'm really shy and I'm afraid she doesn't like me so im writing this post so you can try to encourage me and give me advice. Or maybe you think I should tell her by text, that could be easier for me.
Sorry for my bad english. | Crushes |
We just had our graduation party at our school, I had so much fun, I laughed and ate good food, I danced and sang with my classmates,
our teachers lit fireworks and opened champagne.. It was amazing but I knew my crush,
he wouldn't come..
But at the last 30 minutes I saw him! He came!
The day was completed as a solid 100%. I was overjoyed!
Today was the last day I ever laid my eyes on him since he lives far away and school was my only way to admire him from afar..
I hope we can meet again someday and maybe by then I'll have the courage to talk to you , until then I wish you a great life | Crushes |
totally motivated to get over him he’s such an asshole and idk why I even thought he would text me.He’s been talking so bad abt me with other ppl! Can’t even imagine that there are boys out there that don’t manipulate girls and break their hearts. Do guys cry abt girls? I want someone to cry over me but I don’t think I will ever be important enough to someone.
Anyways I had a great bday (when I wasn’t able to think abt him) and I got really distracted bcs I spent the time with my friends.
Makes me sad when I think abt it.
But this really gave me the last sign.
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Und das geht an dich.Wenn du diesen Beitrag siehst, dann sei dir bewusst, dass du mein Vertrauen für jeden weiteren Menschen auch missbraucht und zerstört hast.Du hast meine Zeit verschwendet und mir mit deinen Aussagen mittlerweile klar gemacht, wie du wirklich bist.Ein Teil von mir wird nie damit klarkommen, wie du mir das antun konntest.Es geht mir ums menschliche.Bist du wirklich so ein herzloser mensch?Du warst doch nicht so?War ich so dumm? Ich frage mich immernoch ob alles gespielt war.Ich habe alles ernst gemeint und es war fast schon die schönste Zeit meines Lebens.Ich bin einfach immernoch do verwirrt.Du sagst, das “ganze” ist irreparabel geschädigt. Ich glaube diese Achterbahnfahrt von Gefühlen hat mich irreparabel geschädigt.Das wars.
Deine “Verrückte, die dich schon seit einem Jahr stalkt.”
Du weißt schon…
“Die mit der komischen mudda” | Crushes |
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We had the talk about his feelings and while I’m flattered and love being his friend, I just don’t see him that way.
And it’s weird to me because if it were literally any other guy in our friend group I might be open to being with him at some point. Just not him. Idk why.
And I feel like a horrible person but at the same time he puts me in such awkward positions with his comments and the way he acts.
I wish his feelings for me would disappear. I used to want male attention and hoped some guy would like me to feel validated… but now, I would rather have zero attention from guys that way. | Crushes |
I kinda like this girl and we've been snapping a lot and talking a decent amount and I want to show that I like her but I don't want to weird her out. I also want to find more opportunities to hang out with her in real life. Any tips on how to better talk to her? I have almost no experience. | Crushes |
So there is this girl that I think I might like but I'm not sure how to show interest without seeming desperate or creepy and know if she feels anything. I've only ever dated one girl and it wasn't even much of a relationship because of lack of maturity and it was a situation where we both knew one like the other and it was pretty obvious. With this girl, we snap a lot and we do text a bit but I want to show that I kinda like her a bit but like I said, I don't wanna be creepy. I also would like to make more opportunities to see her irl so we can do more than just text to also send the message. | Crushes |
I have a crush which is my coworker, we talk casually to each other but not often. There were days where we don't talk at all. It's even hard to get to this stage where I'm being friendly to him.. (introvert problem).
I'm thankful that we at least talk to each other, we used to pass by and being in the same room and never say anything. So, I really cherishes every moment we have a conversation. Even something as simple as giving me biscuits ( he gave it to everyone lol) makes me fluttered😂 the thing is, his reactions is so inconsistent. We could talk and throw some minor banters and then we're back to being awkward again.There were days he asks about what I did when he saw my whatsapp status but also, there were days where he don't talk to me at all and act distance/hard to approach while he talks to everyone. One thing I realize about him is, he seems to be brighten up a bit when I response or talk to him in a friendly manner (I always froze and don't know what to say usually hahah). I also, act nonchalant about his presence and what he said because I don't want to seem eager. I really want to talk more and approach him but I'm afraid he'll find me weird because it happened some times before, so I stopped trying. Also, he seems to avoid being alone with me sometimes and he only talks to me a lot when we're in a group of friends. This might be a dumb question, but should I still pursue him and what should I do to deepen the relationship/friendship?
Thank you for reading and also sorry for my bad grammar.. I'm not a native speaker. Have a good day everyone! 😊 | Crushes |
i have no idea what to dooo
i've started liking this guy who's in my friend group (we've all known each other for a long time and just graduated together). i never thought i would like him but he just changed so much and he's so charming and makes me laugh. we make a lot of ~~prolonged~~ eye contact and laugh together, not only that, my friends make it OBVIOUS (making little comments about me to him, trying to push me into him, making us sit next to each other, etc.)
and last night, when he was dropping us off after hanging out, my friends started telling him to walk me to my door and he started getting out the car and i got so shy, i told him "you don't have to" so instead, he said "ill watch her \[walk to the door\]" and stood outside the car. he yelled bye to me and i said it back.
i just don't know what to do, ugh. 1. he JUST broke up with his gf so its kind of... bad timing, no? he didn't like her that much, but its still kinda eh 2. he's going away for college (4 hours away) and im not sure how we both would do with long distance IF i did take a chance 3. he's so GOOFY, i never know when he's flirting or joking
crushes never go well with me so my confidence & self-esteem is low already but i cant tell if im giving myself false hope or not..
im praying he isn't on this server somehow and figures out this is me... PHEW 💀 | Crushes |
So I wanted an excuse to talk to my crush. We’re both in the same music class and she happened to have some music that I didn’t. I texted her and asked her to make a copy of it for me and bring it to me during the next rehearsal (which was yesterday). Anyway she said she had to see if she could find the music and I told her thank you. Later that day she told me she had a volleyball game and wasn’t sure she would make it to the rehearsal. (Side note: both the volleyball game and rehearsal were at the same school) fast forward to about 1/2 way through the rehearsal, I told my teacher I didn’t have music and she gave me the original copy that she was using and told me to just give it back at the end of class. Then my crush comes sprinting in and Hands me the music, and then sees that I already had a copy. She runs back out before I told her that it was an original and then it was just temporary. She comes back in about 30 minutes later near the end of the rehearsal. She said she was done with her volleyball game and could join us for the rest of the rehearsal. She said she didn’t feel good and she thought she had a concussion. She didn’t talk to me for the rest of rehearsal and I was too scared to talk to her.
I just feel bad because I made her go out of her way for me, and then she might have felt betrayed that I already had music. On top of that she came down to find me in the middle of her volleyball game. And even worse she had Been stressed out all day and had been feeling bad.
I know probably no one will read all of this and I know it probably doesn’t make very much senses because I’m really bad at explaining things, but I need advice. | Crushes |
He says their friends are saying stuff along the lines of: “hey, ain’t that (my name) over there?” but in a you know manner. | Crushes |
i had the courage to confess over text to my crush who doesnt know me .i just just keep seeing him in the hallway . ( i dont post on insta bcz i just dont feel like it ) and we kept making multiple eye contact which encourage me ro confess more . but when i did he asked me " idk ur name but if i saw u i might recognize u " ( im not really photogenic so i have no good pic to send) soi just told him my class so he might recognize . but he left me on read .now just feel so embarrassed of myself bcz he could've just said no or sorry i dont like u or im already with someone else . and he if doesnt like me why does he keep direct making eye contact . | Crushes |
Eng's not my first language
Earlier this month we had a discussion in a gc with my(15f) closest friends about our sexualities since it's pride month. I've had a crush on one of my closest friend(15m) for about five years now and I learned during that conversation that he was asexual and/or aromantic but he wasn't really sure. We explained to him what it meant since he isn't really familiar with lgbtq+ terms and he said it fitted him but he was still not sure.
I was proud of him for coming out but a little bit ashamed for assuming he was sexual and romantic so I tried to move on. But it is really hard. Not really relevant to the situation but he was my first real friend and it's really hard for me to love him in a platonic way. Also,his humor is really just flirting(among us and pp jokes too but let's not talk about that)Last year I rejected a guy who was obviously flirting with me because I liked him.
I think I still have a little bit of hope since he said he wasn't sure (and like I said his humor is flirting)but i'm ashamed of that. I want to talk to him about it but I'm scared he'll figure out I have a crush on him. | Crushes |
And all that caring stuff. First of all I thought men's are ignorant of fragile things but the way he cared because of his job ofc and his looks and all him just turned me on. At last when we landed the lady asked us where are we going , I said sister's engagement and then took the moment to tell him that he is damn handsome I was 15 years old back then just 2 years ago and after that incident I realised more things about myself that what I like and what turns me on or not. | Crushes |
I really crushed on a classmate of mine and i had the whole year to ask her out, at least to become a friend. No, my smart ass decided to not do anything. Thhe school year ended and now im almost in tears that i couldnt do it. Fk me and my anxiety | Crushes |
I’m seeing him (hopefully) this next week for the first time since school let out. What are some subtle ways to compliment him? By the way we’re both guys, if the matters. | Crushes |
ive been crushing on the singer in my band for the past few months now and im starting to suspect that she likes the other guitarist in our band and/or he likes her and is making moves.
we've all known each other the same amount of time so the little social bond between the four of us is still pretty tightly knit, and it doesn't feel like there's some kind of pre-existing friendship or relationship going on that i'm new to. but the two of them have brought up past conversations so it's clear they've been talking outside of the hour and a half our band meets every week. but at the same time, my crush and i also have a pretty clear bond when it comes to musical ideas as well as friends, and she's dropped a few hints, so i feel like there's a decent chance she likes me back. but i think if our guitarist tried to shoot his shot, he'd also have a decent chance because i can tell the two of them do have a bond.
i hate thinking like this, it feels like something out of a romcom or some shit, but it feels like there's a decent chance that me and the guitarist are competing for her and/or my crush has to choose. i feel so stupid typing that, it just feels weird and wrong. i don't want my life to be some stupid teen drama but that's what it looks like lmao. plus our drummer is moving to georgia this summer, so soon it'll just be me, our other guitarist, and our singer, and that's only gonna increase this "tension."
there's a chance i'm just overthinking this but damn, if i'm right, that could be pretty awful. would hate for it to ruin our current friendships if she chooses one or the other or things become awkward or something. i love the music and being able to work out ideas together and having fun playing, but i'd hate for.. whatever *this* is to ruin that.
i hope i'm overthinking it and that's all in my head but it seems like it's real. idk man. | Crushes |
Long story short we both put out phone numbers down in a group chat since we're graduating soon.
We usually talk on insta or Facebook messenger but after today's meeting I just decided to text her on WhatsApp. I was just saying it was nice to see her on the call and hope she's doing well at her firm and not overworking herself.
Does it come across weird that I messaged her on another platform. I'm really thinking that it's gonna come across as weird and maybe desperate idk.
EDIT: SHE SAID WE COULD GET LUNCH OR DINNER :D | Crushes |
I unfortunatly don't have a crush and I just want to hear some of your stories :P
Edit. Some context: most ppl here are saying they met their crush really early (in my opinion) I'm in 7th grade going to 8th and I still haven't found anybody that I have a crush on. Everyone is saying that having a crush is such a wonderfull felling (and having a girlfriend) and I just want to expierience it :/ You can say that I fell empty.
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Thanks everyone for commenting, I'll try to respond to every comment ✌️ | Crushes |
So there was this girl (17, F) that I (17, M) was talking to for a little bit about 6 months ago (we stopped talking cause she said she wasn’t ready for a relationship). But recently she’s gotten a lot more flirty with me and more touching than normal. She’s always super sweet and makes the funniest jokes when I’m around. Does she like me? | Crushes |
I only knew the guy for about a month but he was my first ever (sort of) relationship. I feel a little clueless, because I knew he’d only broken up with his ex about a week before we met and constantly talked about her too (lol I know I’m oblivious). But it still kinda hurts. Thankfully I got over him a while ago, but revisiting it knowing this is a little strange | Crushes |
But like what could be some signs she actually likes me | Crushes |
I hope it’s ok to post here. I started work about 7 weeks ago at a small shop, it’s only every Saturday but it’s something for me to do and I enjoy it very much. My boss is lovely.
I knew that some other people had the same shifts as me but they hadn’t turned up until my 3rd week of working there.. Which is when I met my coworker :(
I’ll call him A. He’s been working there for two years, and he’s absolutely gorgeous. I don’t even have the words to say how utterly beautiful he is lol. He’s shorter than me with lovely brown curly hair and the most gentle blue eyes ahh :( and his voice is just so calm and soft spoken. He’s a sweetheart.
But the problem is is that he doesn’t like me, at least I don’t think so. He actually seems to go out of his way to ignore me and make me feel bad. For example the only time he ever smiles or laughs is when our boss makes a (lighthearted) joke about me being self centred or to stop checking how I look on my phone lol. But when I get a glance at that smile it brightens my whole day 💕 sometimes he does smile a little at my jokes and stuff… but most of the time he tries not to talk to me. He’s only said something to me first once and that was to tell me how to do something :(
He generally just keeps to himself, and we got asked to work near each other last Saturday (we had to do the same job sorting something) and idk man I tried to make conversation but he just responded in little quips like ‘yeah’ ‘I don’t know’ etc. I only know his first name, he’s not even asked mine, he’s so mysterious to me I think that’s part of the attraction?
I ask him what he does when he gets home and he just says he doesn’t know :( meanwhile I’m the type of girl who could talk the head off a donkey so it was … sad.
I played some music too quietly wondering if maybe he’d like any of it or even just say something but he just kept quiet. It makes me a little mad tbh but I still fancy him.
It’s getting so bad that last Saturday I planned my outfit for an entire week before and woke up 3 hours early to shave my whole body and do perfect makeup and everything even though he’d only be seeing my face. I literally shaved my pubes just for him to barely glance at me 😭😭😭. A good thing though is he’s motivating me to work out more so I can lose weight and look better for him :)
I think about him all the time and he makes me smile so hard, seeing him makes my whole day. I wish I knew more about him. He’s so so lovely. I wish he felt the same way but I guess I’m just not his type :( it’s horrible I try so hard. I want him so badly that I’d jump off a cliff if it meant he’d understand.
This is the first time in my life I have ever felt so strongly about a boy too so people around me are quite surprised. I just want him, it makes me cry I even made us both on the sims 4 and had a little family with him :((( I just want to care for him and mother him, I wish he knew how I felt about him, it’s not like I’m a creep I honestly care about him. I wonder what he does when I get home. It’s pathetic because he gets me all twirling my hair and kicking my legs lol :(( please help :( | Crushes |
we randomly decided to go on a date and it was so nice, we vibed so well. i even confessed my crush and its requited! im so happy i cant stop thinking about him. its the first time in my life that i feel so comfortable AND safe around someone, and ive had relationships and crushes before but i feel so understood. boundaries are respected. im so happy!!! | Crushes |
so basically my crush isn't exactly the type of person to apologize or to down themselves for someone (only person who she apologized in my class is me) and recently we've had an pretty bad argument about something she did to me and i decided to go no contact with her and that i would prefer if she were the one to block me.
and yeah it was kept this way until past week when she sent me some messages about church related stuff and if she could give my number to one of the Shepherd's of our church of since i ended up giving the wrong number and he asked her for it. of which i've said that yes i was okay with her giving he my number but that i still wanted no contact with her but that i was Grateful for her asking for my permission first. and she replied that she would sent him my number. (really important that part because she *didn't send to him, and never even talked to him about that* so she probably listened to my conversation with him, and used that as an excuse to talk to me imo)
and after that she decided to sent me some huge texts saying that she was very dumb and stupid with me and that she was very sorry since she only kept insisinting in seeing the bad side of our friendship and that she was dumb for doing that, but that now she realizes her mistake and that she "kind of" liked talking to me and that i was a very cool person and that she would do anything for me to forgive her to show how much she regrets being an ass with me.
i've kind of responded to her but i didn't said anything of really substance since that weirded me out because it was really out of character for her to be this way to someone. and if this matters yeah, she showed some pretty affirmative signs of liking me to the point of everyone thinking that she either likes me or we are in a relationship but tbh i never thought she liked me as more than a friend, but it's not like i don't have an history of being dense asf with situations like this. | Crushes |
Guysssss!!!! I finally confesseddddd to my first love of almost 9 years I can't believe it my hands are shaking my heart is beating and im going insane but I confessed, I know he had a girlfriend but I just wanted to let it out we talked for 2 hours!!!!! | Crushes |
So there’s a girl I like who I’m friends with, and I am interested in her, but I have this loud nagging voice in the back of my head telling me to not try anything because he doesn’t want to risk being hurt again.
For some context, I’m in my second year of hs and last year around December I asked out a girl I had a massive crush on and she said no. It fucking destroyed me and left me extremely upset and depressed for a long time. Earlier this year I was talking to a girl who asked me out randomly because she thought I was cute, and then ghosted me shortly after. That one left me depressed for over a week and full of self hatred.
It’s clear to me by now that I don’t react well to heartbreak at all. It tears me down like nothing else can, but I genuinely want to try and be in a relationship, but after 2 failed attempts where both left me miserable and feeling almost nihilistic I’m scared to try, for fear of being hurt again and going back to that level of pain. Because o this level of pain does nothing positive for me, my grades drop, I lose interest in hobbies, i constantly feel like I’ve been robbed of love again, just thinking about it hurts.
It’s come to a point where I was talking about this with the school therapist a few days ago, and I mentioned this fear to her at some point. She sort of rudely said “you can’t let this hold you back, you can’t let the past ruin your future”.
I had an emotional outburst right there as I responded back angrily with “how am I not supposed to feel scared and anxious to develop feelings again?! Do you not remember what happened last year?! I was heartbroken for 5 months over a girl I never even fucking dated!! I was in pain! I wanted love and affection and felt like I was completely robbed of that! Seeing her at school felt like some twisted punishment!! Seeing couples at school made me feel angry and sad! It messed me up for so long, how am I supposed to just forget it and try again!?”
There were a lot of complicated reasons as to why it took so long to get over her, but nevertheless risking being hurt again feels so reckless and makes it look like I’ve learned nothing.
But I’m serious when I say I want to try, I just don’t know what to do to get that extreme fear out of my head. It seems like the natural response to all of this. Better to be safe than risk being in pain is what that nagging voice says. | Crushes |
Long story short I spent months not approaching my crush due to social anxiety and now she’s gone (left the work place).
I followed her on TikTok 3 days ago and she hasn’t followed me back since. Im thinking that because we didn’t have many interactions she perhaps just doesn’t recognize my name, so maybe leaving a comment on one of her posts would be a good idea.
What do you think? | Crushes |
Me and my crush are classmates, we always sat in opposite ends of class and such. And I never thought he liked me. No wonder he DID Drop some hints I mainly chose to ignore. But today, I sat in front of him. And something happened.
So...in middle of the lesson i had a fight with another guy in front of me, and he yelled at me. And suddenly from behind me I heard my crushes friend whisper to him, "ohhh~ see he is yelling at your love! Tsk tsk...now be this me I wouldn't let it slide"
I immediately got that by "your love" he meant me.
They think I didn't hear them....but I did....now I started thinking that maybe he likes me back? | Crushes |
Hi again everyone!
Sometime this year or on her birthday, I’m planning on giving her a gift. I have somewhat of an idea on what she would like because she has told me about her likes and dislikes for as long as we’ve been friends. I just don’t know when I should give it to her…
I’m planning on giving her gifts leading up to her birthday(like a week) or just give it to her on a random day. I want it to be like “here’s this gift. I hope you know how much I care for you, but I don’t want you to think that I like you or anything (because I do).”
I don’t want to tell her how I feel because I know it will ruin our friendship, and I really care for her. If I were to lose her altogether I would cry so hard and I wouldn’t know what to do. I just want our friendship to grow deeper to where she can feel even more comfortable with me.
My love language is gifting so I want to spoil her badly but not so much as to where she wouldn’t want to hang out with me anymore. She really likes the band Bôa so I thought of buying her the “Twilight” cd but nobody seems to sell it which made me sad. My options are:
• Greenday cd
•Radiohead cd
• some funny t-shirts
• band t-shirts
No idea what to give her or how I should do this. I just want her to know that I care about her and she means a lot to me without her thinking that I like her.
HELP!! | Crushes |
I have a massive crush on a boy in my class but we never talk or anything. I really want something to happen between us but I have no idea how to adress this situation, I should probably add I'm pretty introverted and I don't have the confidence to just go up and talk to him. I don't know what to do because I have a MASSIVE crush on him. | Crushes |
I have had a crush on this person for 5 years now. I have been trying to move on in those 5 years but it always comes back.
We recently hang out after 3 years of not seeing each other because of the pandemic and our busy schedules. And I think it's even worse now. I can't stop thinking about him ever since our hang out and everything about that day. I actually can't breathe sometimes because of this overwhelming emotion. I can't sleep. I can't eat properly. It feels like whatever I'm feeling toward him is consuming my whole body. I honestly don't know if this is just a crush.
I think it's so bad for me because he's the definition of the perfect guy. He's so ideal that every time I'm thinking about him, my insecurities' will follow and will make me think that I will never deserve him. He's such a green flag that I feel like a big red flag compared to him. I'm scared that he will know about all of this and will start distancing himself away from me. It hurts every time I realize that I will never have a chance with him because I'm far from his type. I guess I will just cry this out until these drowning feelings will subside.
I'm scared that these feelings will affect my studies negatively since our exams are coming which is why I just want to let this out here. I'm planning to go on a trip soon, maybe it will help my mind rest from overthinking. | Crushes |
Hi everyone hope everyone's doing well. My name is Tyson and I'm bring a bit of a update from almost 2 weeks ago. I've been helping her threw the few things that were upsetting her and this week has been abit different. She comes up and ask me questions about if I like something etc. Ex. She said "Hey random question, do you like sushi" and said she had gone there recently with her girlfriends. Now I hadn't had sushi in like 10+ years due to me being picky with food, over the past year I've expanded my food selection quite abit. I said that it's been awhile and said it would be something I'd like to retry. I asked her what her favorite ones were and asked what she'd recommend for a newbie to sushi. She gave some ideas and her 2 favorite sushi places. I asked her if she wanted to go to one of those places and she can show me what her favorites were like and she said "yeah totally"
I'm unsure if this is her just being friendly because we're friends or if she's trying to make the first move.
Any advice on this is always much appreciated 😊 | Crushes |
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