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I'm so unsure. We can laugh and talk for hours at work and you look at me with this beaming intensity that melts me to a puddle; yet, I'm still finding myself holding back.
I see plenty of men flirting with you throughout the day, and would hate to be added to that group in your eyes... or have you think that I only enjoy your company because I'm attracted to you.
The truth is, I think we both like each other ALOT, but I worry so much about ruining our current relationship and being the guy who misinterprets kindness for romantic interest. I just wish I had a little more reassurement that I was headed in the right direction. I'm trying to take you out and stare into those beautiful brown eyes a little longer. | Crushes |
Just to be clear this was during the summer, but I’d just thought to post it on here now. During summer he asked to get footage of me (in Roblox, don’t laugh at me) so he could edit it. Later he said that he could also do a 3d aspect to the edit but that was after he finished it, really. The thing is that he used a cover of Lovefool by The Cardigans even though I gave him an audio to use for it. I’m still unsure of what to make of this, the thing is that he’s really good at editing too but whenever he posts an edit in his tiktok he always ends up probating or deleting it later on. I’m not sure if that was a sign he could have liked me back, but I’m just going on here for some advice about it. | Crushes |
Just want to know thoughts on those situations | Crushes |
So my work crush (M/27) and I (F/29) have been texting over our office phone. Last month he texted from his line, not his group chat, directly to the office cell phone about watching a superhero movie in honor of his last job. I responded with something to get us taking (texting). It went back and forth a bit talking about the film and when he got back to the office we continued chatting. Mind you he and I are both shy and kinda awkward when we are nervous/uncomfortable. Fast forward to a couple days ago, I message him jokingly that I’m sure he’s relieved to not have to pick up an extra job. He responds saying that he’s glad cuz he’s tired and how tough the work was today. We message a bit more and that was that. The next day I message him again about not having to do extra work and He sends me back an image of a superhero meme sort of thing. Is he just being friendly or this considered sort of flirting? I need to know if I’m reading too much into this. For some context, the phone we are communicating on is the office phone and other people use it to communicate, he knows that in these instances that it’s me messaging. | Crushes |
I'll endeavour to make a long story short. I've already posted about this on this account, but I wanted to write about it here.
So there's a girl (a friend of a flatmate) I met at a few parties. She was exactly my type. Same music taste, same sense of humour, a real delightful smile. I tried not to think about it, because I have been through a lot of shit romantically and after a traumatic experience spent three years resolving not to crush on someone until I felt ready. Despite that, I couldn't help myself.
Long story short, she flirted with me a few weeks back, we went clubbing and ended up spending the night together. Nothing sexual, but she was my first kiss and she fell asleep on my chest. I was so happy. We went on a date and it was the first ever date where I genuinely thought things could work. We drank hot chocolate at a cute coffee shop and went clothes shopping.
However, thanks to a ton of shit I found out afterwards, it turns out that she recently broke up with her boyfriend, and it's pretty likely I was set up as a rebound. I'm in an immense amount of pain about it, I won't lie. I hate the fact that we still talk. I hate the fact that I can't stop thinking about that night. I hate the fact that, although I'm almost certain that nobody gave a shit about my feelings, a tiny part of me noted that she never said I was a rebound outright.
I'm just crushed. First girl I liked who genuinely liked me back, and it was just another mistake, like all the rest. | Crushes |
We're both in high school and won't be out of it for a few years. Everybody I've told Abt it has said it won't sign out but I really want it too and I think that we have like a good connection and like yeah.
Feel free to ask me abt her :) | Crushes |
And we were playing tod and she was like there needs to be some kind of punishment when we don't do the dare ds and so she turned into strip tod except it'd like not sexual it's just like idek how to describe it. She also said that I was more romantic than her and idk why idk if she likes me or stuff | Crushes |
We're classmates and we're having our school break rn. We aren't that close and we don't talk that much irl. But we started chatting and i told him i liked playing a certain game and now we chat on a daily basis and play that game together. | Crushes |
So we had a party and her friend and I were super close all night. We ended up playing spin the bottle and we kissed so many times. Each time got longer and better. I love my girlfriend but her friend has me confused because I sorta like her now. She was attractive as hell too. It feels so wrong but right at the same time. | Crushes |
Okay so basically he's been talking to his best friend non stop about me, he always initiates the hi's and yesterday he sent me a voice mail (unprovoked btw) asking me the stupidest freaking question about a class that literally every one of his friends is taking. | Crushes |
My friend told her that I like her and according to him, she said “oh”
Does this means she likes me. She acted normal around me afterwards. | Crushes |
My crush is the only one who remembered my birthday today and wished me a happy birthday without me having to tell him (and this includes my family). I feel so soft right now. | Crushes |
Do you know, or is it just me? When I got home from the hospital, you were the only one who cared enough to ask how I was doing. You make me laugh harder than anyone has before, and I love every second that I spend with you.
You asked me once if I had feelings for you, and I said it was too early to know. Maybe that was a bit of stretch, but I don’t like being vulnerable. It’s hard. We’ve only really known each other for a month or two, though it feels like forever.
I’m here, gushing my heart out to Reddit, and I haven’t told anyone else yet. It’s easier to do it anonymously, without the fear or being judged, or anyone knowing who you are. Like you, I’m just a non-binary teenager trying to figure out what to do with their life.
You have beautiful brown eyes which are hidden under your chunky black glasses, and a cute button nose, with some adorable buck teeth. You have long, dark brown hair that goes down to the bottom of your only slightly oversized tie-dye sweatshirt. You’re a little bit shorter than me, and pretty self-conscious, though you have nothing to be ashamed of.
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You’re a huge Star Wars geek, and you’re named after a color in the rainbow. I wonder why you chose it. It suits you. You take Spanish, not French, and are older than me, but not by a lot. And I’ve never seen you without your hoodie off before. | Crushes |
I fell in love with my best friend. She knows and is okay with it. She's there for me in my worst times, and has genuinely made me change my life for the better. Nowadays, I try to lose weight, I work out, and I try to improve myself as college has been ruining my mental health, and I'm lost in life in general. And these positive changes are caused by her advice and support. But almost every day, I keep reminding myself that we'll never be together. Every time she mentions Tinder or a guy, it hurts, even though she has said she's on Tinder just to chat and isn't interested in dating. I wish I didn't hurt so much, but I do. | Crushes |
Ok to start, maybe this is not the correct flair(correct me if i have to change it) and this may sound a bit strange
A bit if context first, i have allways been shy, socially akward and introvert (i know those arent the same, im still all those) and even at my 23 years im still virgin. And i allways had a fear of my first time not being with another virgin(due to many insecurities). But some days ago i was talking with my crush, and for some reason i dont remember we ended talking about her being bi (first notice i allways thought she was 100% hetero, not that it matters) and also talked how she prefers watching lesbian or gay porn over hetero she saying "i've got no interest in watching something i can expererience" which i said then that she could also expererience lesbian which she said she never had the chance and althought didnt want to get in details(nor i asked for them) when asked she did admit she did have sex with a guy before, to ease the focus on her i told her im still a virgin. As the conversations continued she said things like each to their pace, there is no hurry etc, we also both agreed on not really liking the idea of having sex with whatever random person that is horny enought that we both want to like that person before.
So the sensation of relief i talk about on the title is that even if i was conviced she was virgin the revelation of her not being virgin didnt scare me(i was scared of the posibility of my insecurities getting in the way if i were to know she wasnt virgin), in fact, following the conversation, seeing how she understands slower paced people like me(she even is basically the same than me except that she had a previous relationship) and how we pretty much agree on who to have sex with, i totally lost not only the fear but also the doubts. This conversation also reafirmed that she is not only a person i love romantically, but also a good friend i can count on.
I know i have like the level of a teenager that is still experiencing his first crush even if im 23, but as i said earlier im everything in the "how little social interactions experience do you want?" pack. At least she knowing me since we where both 3 years old knows how abysmally akward i am, she even is a tad introverted herself(i would say even more than me) just not as akward as me.
On a side note, later that night i even told her i liked her, she "ghosted" me 5 minutes to listen to a song to calm herself and then after me saying that she could answer me when she could, we talked about how dense she is to not realize a 5+ years crush, i was like "come on, the guy who never approachs anyone much less approachs women out of shynes is allways trying to do something with you" | Crushes |
i hate having a crush sometimes ughh... HE'S ALSO MY (16F) FIRST CRUSH!!
i dont want to raise my expectations cuz i'll know i'll get disappointed in the end.
we just text but i always initiate the conversations🥹 i mean it's not like he's dry either when we text. he engages well and we send pictures to each other while talking abt random stuff. the convos r also somewhat long. he has only initiated the convo once so i'll take that as a win ig?😭 but i don't wanna assume he's interested in me in that way tho. he's probably just being nice. and in real life we don't even acknowledge each other. he probably thinks i'm ignoring him on purpose but i get scared even just saying "hi" let alone talking face to face w him. WHY AM I LIKE THISSSS.
also feel free to talk abt what you overthink sometimes abt ur crush! | Crushes |
Just venting because I need to tell someone.
I've had a crush on this one girl for 6 months (I know, not that long compared to some) and she's exactly my type and we're friends as well. A few weeks ago she started liking one of my best friends and I thought "fine, he won't like her anyway." Well the other day she decided to do something about it, told him she likes him. Worst part: of course being his friend he got me on a call to help decide what to do, he knows I like her (probably not to the extent that I do though) and I just had to sit there and help, pretend I was totally OK with him saying yes. He conveniently started liking her 3 days earlier, hmmm... I only did it because I know she doesn't like me at all but this is gonna be so hard to see them together at school and I regret letting him say yes (he asked me if it was OK). Gotta try and stop liking her now I guess.
Sorry for the wall of text | Crushes |
Not sure where to post this bc he’s not really a “crush” but whatever. I went to a store today and there was this cute guy who checked me out. I read his name tag and his name was pretty unique, so I decided to look it up. He’s famous. He came up in the autosuggest. He’s on famous birthdays. I went to his page and unfortunately it looks like he’s taken but I’m shook and I have no one else to tell. | Crushes |
I actually love her. I don’t like her as I did in the beginning (you know the normal crush stuff) but now when Im with her Im just happy. Shes so pretty and funny. I just wanna be with her 24/7. I don’t know if she feels the same way for me but I have noticed we have been more “together”. I don’t know how to explain it. Now during the winter whenever shes cold she wants to hold and hug me. When we sit close together she almost always leans into me. I haven’t seen her doing the same with any of our other friends. Prom is coming up next year so Im gonna ask her out. I have been thinking about her more for a couple of months and I realized I probably want to spend the rest of my life with her. She is just perfect in every way. I noticed now that this turned into a vent but its nice to write down my feelings. I do actually love her. | Crushes |
Aight so I confessed to my crush in my last post. Most of the people I know were rooting for me :). Thing is - I DIDNT HEAR WHAT HE SAID. I mean I did hear something but that might just be my brain making it up yk? Honestly - if your confessing to your crush - do it - I thought i was gonna be embarrassed or smth like that but nope, I felt like it was a normal day and I acc felt better. Even tho I think i might have rejected. | Crushes |
So me (13m), my friend (13m), and my crush (13f), are all in a club. My friend was supposed to be helping my crush organize something for a fundraiser, be was being hyper idiotic to her but it was too funny. He wasn’t saying rude or hurtful things to her or anything, he was just asking stupid things, repeatedly asking the same questions after an answer was given, and just being plain dumb. She eventually just became so overwhelmed by his stupidity she almost popped (I think). I felt really bad, but it was just way too funny. Anyway, that experience I think got us closer. | Crushes |
I’m 17 ( a senior ) and she’s 14 ( a freshman ) would it be weird for us to be together? We have a lot of common interests and some people think it would be weird but others don’t | Crushes |
I’m a guy. I have a crush on a girl I work with. We work in the same department but different sections. The first day we started talking we would catch eachother looking at eachother a lot, we’d chat about music because we like all the same music. Talked about our pasts. Then I went home. Next day comes around, I ask her if I can give her my number and she said something quietly, I’m still not sure what she said but I know she said yes. I wrote it down and gave it to her with a smiley face next to my name. Soon after she proceeds to tell me she had a date last night and that he bought her a really nice expensive necklace and that she was wearing it. Talks about how she was on onlyfans. And talked about how my other coworker asked her what she looked like outside of work and she said she showed him some pictures and he asked for her number and she gave it. Pretty much immediately after her saying all that I just kinda stopped talking to her, looking at her, and interacting rracting with her in general. She texted me later that day and I pretty much ignored it and eventually replied with “I’ll text you when my band gets a show” and after some one worded texts back and forth that was the end of that. Today we were back there again and I never looked at her once, or even said a word to her. I could tell she was looking at me a lot and standing close to me on purpose multiple times throughout the day, probably hoping I would say something. My question is, am I just being childish by letting the things she said get to me or am I justified in losing all interest, but still liking her (for now anyway)?
TLDR: had crush on coworker until she said some stuff about herself and I suppose her being into other dudes and ignored her all day. Am I being childish or am I justified? | Crushes |
we were talking for 8 months. in the middle of that, i did talk to other people and he knew about it. he asked me "so youre going out with them?" "so youre gonna lead them on while you have another one waiting?" while i didnt go out with him. he kept saying he was busy so i told him i dont wanna go anymore. then i didnt talk to him for 3 months but i returned and apologized. he was answering consistently for a month but then stopped and said he was busy. i waited bc hes busy.
i told him i want to stop texting if we arent going to hangout, basically breaking up with him. he answered 10 days later, after i posted a selfie (which makes me suspicious bc he was online and only answered after i posted) he said hes confused why i want to end things. so i told him again why. now i see that he didnt answer but hes online. i dont usually do this but i looked at this snapscore and it went up by like 20 from last night to now.
what should i do? we're 21 if thats needed. if you have another option, comment
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We were playing truth or dare today bc it was the last day of school before winter break and me and my crush were both in the circle.
I didn’t even need to say it myself and someone asked her if she had someone in her heart right now, she said yes. I had discovered their name and my emotions are very confused right now. I’m not sure how to feel or act.
Since they’re technically not dating and are in the talking phase, does that mean I still
Have a chance? But she doesn’t necessarily look like she has much interest in girls so I can’t tell if she’s straight or not..
But I’m not giving up, i need to be down right rejected for my heart to settle about this. | Crushes |
I'm at University (34 m), I met this girl (25 f), we hit it off straight away, the amount of similarities, I'm thinking she probably think I'm just pretending to be into all the things she likes but I genuinely do. I think she is fucking amazing in every sense, I won't bore you with it all and yeah, its probably infatuation but I have to say it never the less.
Normally these feeling aren't so strong, I've met and dated attractive women with similar interests but this person I'm developing a massive fat teenage style crush on, I was expecting her to just ignore me, because she is too cool and hot, or to just like me as a friend, but she sends me texts and phones me up loads, I have never been phoned up by anyone in my life as much as her. I kind of just think she only likes me a friend because she has a boyfriend and she has that kind of flirty sexual vibe you get with some women. Sending me very affectionate message, flirty photos, phoning me all the time, literally never had anyone call me as much, only known her for 2 months. I can't tell if its all just a cocktease designed to make her boyfriend jealous or what.
But I think I just have to tell her I have a crush on her, if she doesn't feel the same way then that's fine, disappointing but at least I can just move on. At the moment I can't get her off my mind, she is fucking perfect. It may well just be infatuation and not real but that's how I feel. It will probably ruin our friendship but I can't really go on like this, it takes up too much of my thinking time.
What should I do? Just wait, wait and see what could happen. I reckon she gets men throwing themselves at her as she is stunning so she is probably pretty used to it. I need to do something. | Crushes |
I came here a month ago to say my crush and friend are together. So much has happened- here’s the tea
They were in a bit of a situationship then the crush called it off cuz they like someone overseas. My friend was devastated and I was still trying to uncrush. The person is very physically affectionate. Keep this is mind
So last Friday I had a movie night at my place where me, my friend, and the crush hangs out (THIS WAS PLANNED PREDRAMA OKAY DONT JUDGE) and they were very physically affectionate with me. We sat hugging/holding hands for 3 hours. Thanks a lot trying to uncrush. Then this week my friend was away and I have seperation anxiety so I was shaking. And the crush pulled me over and kinda spooned me (sitting).
I’ve made several OBVIOUS comments to them and tried to make it obvious that I like them. But theyre stupidly and very cutely oblivious
My other friends tell me that I need to uncrush- not fall in love harder (cuz my goal is to uncrush). And they told me to just pick someone and crush on them. I have difficulties with emotions and even this one crush was pretty much hell to find. First crush in my 17 years of existence.
Here’s where it gets messy. I’m friends with my crushes ex and we have been joking about dating. They’ve said they might just have a crush on me once we come back in January. And I feel so guilty but I feel like they are exactly what I need. Emotionally/ physically available, loyal, kind, funny. But I don’t want to date with them just so I can stop liking my crush. And maybe I’m an idiot but I stupidly have some hope that maybe they will like me in the future.
Also I gave them a origami butterfly today forgetting that I wrote a little note for them inside. I WAS DRUNK FROM FATIGUE AND PAIN OKAY. I wrote “Heather 1:27. You’re so oblivious it hurts.”
I hope they never open that butterfly
Help I don’t know what to do | Crushes |
I am in my mid twenties (Female) and been single all of my life. Last weekend I went to a Chrisrmas party through my young adults church group with my best friend and her husband. At that party I met this guy (Let's call him W). At the end of the party I asked if he had an Instagram and he did. The next day I searched him on IG through my friends IG and I saw his account. Not thinking too much of it I gave W a follow and went on with my day. But no, not even a minute in he not only followed me back he liked my latest post and messaged me twice that day. Also not to mention every time I message him on IG he replies back pretty quick. And what really made speaks fly with me is that he added me to the cloee friends list on IG and made several posts there. I'm not sure if he likes me back and I know I just met him but I am crushing on him so hard it hurts. I get butterflies just thinking about him. I feel the blood rushing through my cheeks and chest whenever he replies back to me. I just want to get to know him more. I've been posting more on IG to get him to notice me. And the reason why I didn't ask for his number right away was because of how shy I was. But the next time I see him in person I will get his number. But also I want to mention as thrilling as this sounds I also get intrusive thoughts. What if he doesn't like me back? What if he isn't into women?(I really hope this doesn't come off as homophobic for I am bisexual. Just pointing out because of how I feel) Thinking about this makes me so broken hearted because I don't crush easily but when I do I fall for them hard. If anyone has advice please help. Sorry if this post seems to be all over the place but I just want to get this out!! | Crushes |
I've started liking this girl from my class and we've started casually talking. I really enjoy spending time with her and at some point I want to get closer. The problem is, we graduate in the summer and have to go our separate ways.
How do I keep in contact with her after we graduate? What do I say and when? | Crushes |
I met my friend around the same time I got together with my (now ex) boyfriend. I always had a crush on my friend which became more apparent to me once lockdown had lifted and I could see him in person more. I loved my boyfriend and we had history and lived together, so these feelings for my friend never became more than just feelings or thoughts.
My car broke down earlier in the year and my friend started giving me rides to help me out and we grew a lot closer, around the same time a mutual friend had set him up with a colleague and that sort of made my mind up for me - he’d be happy with this girl and I’m happy with my boyfriend. My friends however were constantly rooting for me and my friend to get together, as my boyfriend grew more and more distant with me despite my affection for him.
My boyfriend last week turned around and told me he didn’t feel the same anymore, that he doesn’t love me anymore and he’s felt this way for months. This of course was devastating and I’m incredibly shocked and upset, but I can’t stop thinking about my friend.
If my boyfriend had been honest with me months ago, I could have told my friend how I feel before our mutual friend set him up.
The day after we broke up, my friend took me to dinner to be there for me and we went for a walk afterwards and looked at the stars, it was incredibly sweet. He was however texting the girl he’s dating a lot. He has never called her his girlfriend.
I’m aware that if I want to tell him how I feel I have a fairly small window to do it in before he gets too serious with this girl, but I don’t know whether I should or how I should do it. I don’t want to ruin the friendship and am scared of too much rejection in one go. I have had a crush on him for 3 years and would sorely regret not telling him, but like I said, I don’t want to ruin the friendship.
What should I do? | Crushes |
So I work in a store setting and I have this customer that I've known for maybe 9 months now. I never really thought of him as anything more than a customer until a couple months ago he started coming in more often and we started talking more when he came in. Well now he's been texting me sometimes just to ask how I'm doing but the conversations don't go much farther. He even texted me everyday I was off work with covid to see how I was feeling. I really have a feeling he's into me but l'm also afraid I just like him so l'm making this into more than what it is. Is he interested in me or is he just friendly? | Crushes |
for the sake of staying anonymous, I am B (W14) and crush is C (M14)
background: we both go to a really small private high school in the US (and i mean REALLY small)
there are only 30 teens who go there and about 10 teachers so the teachers can connect to each of our learning paths in a unique way that best suits the student (we're all really big nerds). this is great and all, but it also means that the freshman and sophomores have EVERY class with each other. we share the exact same schedule! because of this, I'm actually really good friends with everybody in our classroom.
the problem though is that i accidentally fell really hard for one of the only boys in our small classroom on the 3rd week. my teen hormones went off the walls, and i actually became best friends with him! of course, this meant i liked him even more, but ig everybody started to notice after some point and that's when things got weird. literally, everyone started shipping us and making jokes about how cute we were. this started in December!!! we've known each other for a few months! the worst part about this story is, I think he likes me back.
this should be a good thing right? no! from all of the many high school movies I have consumed in my entire life, I know that high school relationships only last around 2 weeks. there's no way that I'm losing this guy as a friend! he is the only person who actually likes me for me, he doesn't judge my trash gaming skills, and he is the only person who shares my humor without being racist or homophobic. this guy my bestie! and with the way he's been reacting to the shipping is seriously telling me that he would date me. noooooo.....
so my question is, should i tell him i like him, even if it means i lose my favorite part of school rn? should i stay friends, and maybe hurt his feelings/suppress mine, or should i stop thinking about this altogether?
we have another 4 years ahead, what do you guys think? | Crushes |
So..
kinda awkard but, theres this person i met 3 days ago, she transfered, let's call her "A" for privacy reasons *(also i'll use their prefered pronouns so don't mind it too much).*
We really got close on the first day, what am i saying! first hours! we even sit at the same desk!
but anyway, he is amazing, and she really cares about me, she's the first person that noticed that "hey, there's something wrong with that girl, i need to make her feel better", nobody was ever so nice to me, i know, sounds like a typical "A mistreated person falling in love with the first person that acts nice to her", but that is something special! even if the feeling fade, this is amazing, god! crushes are great! and i want to live, first time since 2 years!
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i still feel his hug.. 💝 | Crushes |
It’s the weirdest thing, I like this girl but I feel like it’s pointless as fuck. The worst part is seeing them at work. I could move on if they weren’t there, but I gotta hear her and see her which sucks. It’s like whenever I crush on a girl, my entire day starts to feel terrible.
I just want to talk to them, but if she’s not interested I’d rather not talk at all. Weirdest part is visually she’s not even my type at all, but for some reason I like her. I hate it. It almost feels like a cancer that feeds off my feelings, and makes me feel awful. Wtf do I even do lmao | Crushes |
For a bit of context, today we did a new year celebration at school since we go on vacation by saturday, basicly we sing, dance, and do some traditional stuff, it's pretty nice.
She went on the stage whit some other girls and sang a bunch of songs for about 20 minutes and in that 20 minutes i catched her looking at me like 8 times and immediatly break eye contact.
After the celebration some friends and i went to get something to drink, (we're under 18) i ussualy avoid drinking alcohol but this time i went whit the group, when she saw me there she was like: ohh(happily smiling) [my name] is here, i'm more of a quiet, chill guy so i won't add that much to the group, thats why i questioned why was she so happy to see me there. What do you guys think? | Crushes |
Throwaway account btw, you won’t find anything else on my acc | Crushes |
[Please take time to read this first!](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/ye85oo/aita_for_ignoring_her/)
So 2 months have passed by, and there's been a big twist, can say a complete turnaround in my life. I was lazy to write about it but just 3 days after the original post she messaged me, and asked if we could talk.
Apparently and fortunately, I was wrong all along. She dumped me because she wasn't emotionally "available" to be in a relationship or able to develop feelings for someone. That is, until like the period of no-talk started, when she started feeling remorse and guilt that she hurt me, and that I wasn't reaching her out anymore.
At the time, 3 (of 5) months into that period I was abroad and hoped school would start before my arrival, so that she would briefly think I was gone forever, but that didn't happen and we (specifically me) had to wait for another 2 weeks until our last high school year started. At the time she was completely into me, she admitted her feelings to herself and her friends, but then, I was just not there for her anymore.
I had given up on my actions, never on my goodwill and intentions, so I wasn't "begging" her anymore and instead my only and last hope was praying to Allah for her. Turns out, when I was ignoring her I was indeed being an AH, because even though she didn't entirely blame me for it, it did indeed hurt her.
The real reason her friends would escort her through my classroom's hallway was, well, non other than me. She hoped I would get the message and contact her but I was completely oblivious. She was way too shy to directly message me, but fortunately she didn't give up and at last gathered the courage to do it. On October 29th she asked me if she could talk, and after my acceptance she proceeded to explain everything and asked if I still shared the same feelings as before. I was \\\*shocked\\\* but I still didn't hesitate to admit the fact I never doubted my feelings.
A week passed by talking all day long then I told her I love her (and yes, it flows both ways), and we concluded we were in a relationship. Of course it's still going on really good and I hope it will for eternity. I love her more than myself and I'm very excited for our future, we've been planning a lot of things and by Allah's will they will all come true.
Now comes the advice part. Please always follow your heart and never let someone down. To me, I'm the best example of how someone can trust their intentions and deeds and their heart down to the bottommost parts. I'm obviously not the purest person out there but when I prayed for her I did really, really feel I was doing the right thing. Never did I ever feel regret for meeting her, and I would never do even if I would never see her again. So never do you if you feel like you're right.
Regards and happy new year from a fellow lover! | Crushes |
I met a girl in chemistry this year and at first, it seemed super obvious that she liked me. The way she communicated with me and looked into my eyes. Also resting her legs on top of mine in class, within a couple days knowing her. We've also held hands skating and gotten in the same hammock. But, shes got a few other guy friends that she hangs out with the same way lol. She holds hands with this other dude who's in the same class and do each other hair n shit. She posts pictures really close to him and stuff and it's honestly so confusing. Should I just ignore her?
Edit I lied, this was last year and I haven't spoken with her in a while. Should I message her and ask about it to clear things up or stay quiet? | Crushes |
Aaaaaww 😭😭😭 | Crushes |
How many people here just lurk around, but don't even have a crush? Just seeing all these people with crushes and success stories just wishing "Damn, I wish I was them right now?" Like, I know having a crush is super stressful, and some people might want to be rid of it. But right now, I just think it might be better to feel something than nothing right? This is exactly what I am going through right now. I recently had a tragic personal event take place in my life, and since then, I just feel empty. I feel tired, I feel stressed. I'm at a point now where I'm just hoping to find someone. A new crush. A new reason to get out of bed every morning. Just fresh hope. I just miss the feeling of gushing over someone without them knowing that they are the reason I wake up every day. I miss that innocent happiness. The world just felt so much brighter. I haven't had a crush in almost two years, but it feels like it's been 10.
This might be the wrong sub for this, but can anyone relate, or not. Cuz I'm really feeling lonely right now. I still love this sub. Y'all are incredibly wholesome. Love ya! ❤ | Crushes |
idk what to do | Crushes |
I saw my crush for like 3 hours yesterday and. He talked to me pretty normally but I noticed some stuff
I felt like he looked at me even when he was talking to other people and when he was messing around with his guitar he was looking at me the whole time and smiling weirdly
And when it was just the two of us it was pretty awkward and neither of us spoke but he spoke normally when we were in a group. And I feel like he laughs at what I say x10 more than at what others say. So opinions ? His parents think he likes me and most people I know do too but I’m just nervous as hell 😀 | Crushes |
Hello! So as the title says I’m not sure if he is hinting or just joking around. Now I think I should mention that sometimes im good at picking up hints, other time im not and this is one of those times. We have talked about crushes and relationships here and there and for the most part they were jokes but there was this one event that happened earlier that left me thinking “is he hinting?”. To break it down I texted saying that it was so cold in the place he was in at the moment (because he’s traveling) and replied saying he knows how cold it is and that it would be nice to have a girlfriend to cuddle with, and then it lead to another conversation about relationships and pulling people. I know this is all jokes but this caught me off guard and like I said, left me thinking if he was hinting.
I could totally be overthinking all this but do guys really joke about having a girlfriend or talk about crushes and relationships a lot to a girl who he is just friends with?
Thanks for reading! | Crushes |
My crush gifted me a copy of his favorite book ( in french, which is the language he prefers reading in) today.
Since he loves reading as well, I wanted to gift him a copy of my fav book (in english) but would that not look unoriginal?
So, what are the other things i can buy for him? | Crushes |
I am student(20yo,male), and i have crush on one girl for 2 months now. We are going into the same class in college, literally sitting next to each other every class. We are good friends, and i think she is not into me, but not 100% sure tbh...
She is texting me everyday, but only about studies, homework and school. Somethimes she freak me out by sending me 9 ot 10 messages at once qsking me how to something or aking me for an advice(i am a really good student btw)🤣🤣.
When we are sitting at class, we get bored like every studebt form time to time and she starts to poke me on my arm or tap me on my back( like when someone want to ask you something), and when i whisper: what do you want, or mesthing like that, she says: nothing, i am just bored and messing with you, and then she smiles. 😑
College is really hard, and i know i need to focus on studies to keep my marks high. That's my priority.But she is in my mind all day, every day....Sometimes when i forgot about her and start being productive she messages me about school....
I am kinda pissed btw, i like her a lot and don't want to lose her as a friend, but her presence are making unproductive.
What's your opinion on this one, people? | Crushes |
That title is probably confusing, but let me explain.
So basically, I genuinely believe that my crush is the most beautiful person I've ever met. She has absolutely gorgeous eyes, gorgeous lips and has amazing hair. Everything about her is just so perfect. She's literally the most attractive person I've ever seen.
But one thing I've found weird is that a lot of my friends think the opposite. Some have even called her ugly.
Besides the fact that they're plain wrong, I think it's really weird (but sort of interesting) that someone can perceived as the most beautiful person ever by one person, but an ugly person by another.
Just a thought that came to mind lol | Crushes |
She is a girl from my classes. Due to the pandemic we had never met for about a year but then when the offline thing happened, we met. I was a bit shy and tried to sit away from(because she's so fucking beautiful and I didn't want to come off as a creep). But eventually in like a month or so. I started sitting behind her seat and slowly but surely started talking to her.
I'm a class clown and I used to crack jokes. And the whole class would sometimes crack up. But sometimes not everyone would get it but she would. I asked her how and she said she watched a lot of memes too. I was taken aback and i told her that she had a lot of knowledge of memes. She smiled.
Then one day after the classes i went downstairs to wait for my friend. She was there , i didn't want to go up to her or else it would have been too obvious. But i could not control myself by here cute self. I went up to her and asked what she was doing downstairs. She was waiting for someone too. The next day, after classes, when i proceeded to go down she told me to wait as it was hot downstairs,and me being the absolute dumbass, i sat next to her but left a lot of space between us. She didn't mind.
One day i was eating lunch and she took some pills. I asked what for, and she straight up said with no hesitation that they were for cramps.
(I understood that those were for periods).
But i got a bit uncomfortable with the topic as no girl had ever been so open with me.
But i decided to shut up and continue playing chess. She took interest in that. She asked to play. Obviously i said yes. I asked her to download the game. She was hesitant and instead turned back 180 from her seat and was facing me and told me to play on my phone. Her legs were in between my legs and i just wanted to not touch them or else it would make her uncomfortable.After a few days , i say next to her as there were no seats available and i arrived late. She wanted to compare hands and started comparing. My palm was on hers. I was blushing but somehow controlled myself. Then she compared our heights. Then a few days later she compared hands again.
A few weeks later. She mentioned her Instagram. I asked for it and she gave it to me. I just followed her and she followed back . I never sent a text. But after a few days . She decided to text me . She sent a relatable meme. I was very happy and got butterflies. Then we talked for a bit.I asked her about her performance in the exam , she said it was poor. I asked why. She again replies, periods , now at this point I'm genuinely confused. Why would anyone like me, why would she tell me that. Why. I'm too ugly anyways. No one could like me.
Then she told me she was going to watch a movie with a guy from our classes. My heart sank. I tried to not show that in my texts and continued being happy.
Then we kept talking. Again a few days later she told me that she was approached by a completely different guy from classes(i was like , why are you telling me this , I'm literally no one to you).i convinced her that the guy may have a crush on her. Then we went to sleep.
Then she texted me and i left her on seen for the whole day. She then texts at the night " Why would you leave me on read 🥺🥺🥺". And that melted me , but i was honest and told her that i thought that i was Annoying and maybe she didn't wanna talk to me. Next day we meet in our classes. She enters,turns back and says " YOURE NOT ANNOYING" with a reassuring tone and smile.i gave a smile back.
Since then we have been texting daily. Once i didn't text her for 6-7 hours and she texted " Where you at bro 🥺🥺" at midnight. I told her . And now she is talking with me everyday. Unfortunately we got separated as the batches got separated. Her best friend from the classes who is a smart girl went to another batch. She was sad about that and told me. And then she also snuck in this message " well u and me got separated too." And I laughed it off. After a few reels, i sent a sad one about me never finding a girl. And i said "i have accepted that no girl would ever like me ". She replied "nah. i like you broo" and honestly i couldn't fathom, i just ignored that and she changed the topic. Somehow i told her that all the guys she has met are garbage. She just said.
"No , you're nice. You're good. You're not a creep like them." Butterflies in stomach instantly.
She told me that she had a crush from classes. I thought it was the movie guy, but no it was the other dude. She liked him a lot and has had a crush on him. I wanted to cry, but i tried to get her with him. But he betrayed her and just called her very dumb and stupid in front of that class and backstabbed her. Obviously she told me and started crying.i was sad , but i hated that guy.
She has even shared with me a lot of her childhood stories, the current matter of her house. And she daily texts me either a message or a reel. And when she doesnt ,i do it. She has even told me that she has rejected a lot of boys in her school. She has told her type of boys who are smart and athletic. I fail both of them , I'm dumb , ugly, but good at sports. I tried to tease her with the guy she went to the movies with. But she denied it. She told me that he tried to learn towards her and she just went to the completely opposite side. She told me of her old relationship which ended because he was clingy. ( Now I'm clingy too, like a lot. If i like you i will be constantly talking to you).
Now she liked this new guy and has told me about it. I went through her follow list. I literally died. I was the ugliest one in her list. All others are soo good looking than me , have something going in thier life. I k no one would want me, but this girl.🙂🙂🙂, She gives me hopes. Although ik she just likes me as a friend but still somehow i think she likes me. She texts me everyday about something or the other. We have so many inside jokes. She has told me stories of her brother and her father. They are hilarious 😂😂
But i just don't see a possibility that she could like me more than a friend. I'm scared that she will be surprised. And when i confess. She will think that all the men are same and need sex. But i genuinely enjoy her company and her personality its just sooo loving. How can I not fall for her. She is literally perfect. I just wanna have her , forever and ever. But the fact that im ugly, prevents me from even thinking that. U might think I'm harsh on myself.but trust me , u won't want me. Im the most hideous guy in the class. I'm funny but that never helped me coz at the end of the day , thay all just rejected because of how i look. I just donk know. 😔😔😔.
Before you make ur decision just keep this in mind.
She has 2 boy bestfriend.
She is extremely friendly to all the people in the class. Like very friendly, so im just thinking I'm no one special.
😔😔😔😔
Also one day i showed her my collection of sport trophies. She bluntly texted," Damn, why don't you get any girls." And then texted , "Hold up imma come there (my house)".
I forgot to add something, once after the classes, it was raining. So we were all just taking out our umbrellas. I had it in my hand so i just started walking. From out of nowhere she just joins me in my umbrella and then we both are walking in an umbrella. I dropped her till the point where it wasn't raining and then went home. That was something marvellous that happened. I didn't want to talk about it over text with her. I thought it was a smaller thing not too big. And if I text her about that she will think I'm desperate or a creep. But then she decided to text me about it over text. She texted "Thankyou for the umbrella" and i was so happy | Crushes |
So there is this girl in other class, I wouldn't say I like her but more like find her attractive for some reason(like weaker version of love at first sight). I never really talked to her or got a chance to but I would like to get to know her better.
We go to a couple extra classes together and our classes have religion together(one class per week at Wednesday) and I occasionally would see her in the hallway waiting for class to begin. That's about all the times I even get to see her.
I did notice today that she was looking at me before school in hallway, but it didn't seem like lovely look, more like just wandering around.
Now my question is: Where and how do I start? It feels weird to just start talking to her all of a sudden and I don't know how to spend more time with her. I don't wanna be too obvious and just don't know what that first step is. | Crushes |
That is all | Crushes |
Let’s say there’s a man where you work (but you don’t work with him, rather you happen to work in the same building), office worker, dresses well, not bad-looking but certainly not big and tall, a few years older than you, and over a few months, even though you’re not talking, you’ve been generally friendly/smiling with him, perhaps a taaaad friendlier than with the other men who work there. But you still see each other just a few seconds a day. Eventually after a few months the man in question decidedly notices you and starts smiling back more. One day after you’ve been away for a few days you start waving at the guy when you see him, he waves back, and you smile at each other but you’re still not talking, or even know your names. One day the guy nervously introduces himself, and you introduce yourself (just first names). The guy then manages to find your last name (easily, building directory type of thing) and finds you (easily) online, asks if he can follow you, you say “sure, no problem!”. The guy messages you a few times, in your language that he gets by in, wishes you a nice vacation, you reply “thanks!” with a smiley face. The guy sends you a few other messages commenting your posts and such but you don’t reply. Still, you continue to smile/wave at and greet each other in person, and on one occasion *you* start a conversation with the guy, asking about his vacation, but the guy is visibly super nervous, mumbles a few things and then is the one who leaves abruptly. You continue to smile/wave at/greet each other, but as far as you let on to you there’s nothing more, and in any event you have the attention of a lot of guys.
One day the guy nervously hands you a small handwritten envelope with your name on it and then underneath it says, not just in your language but in your dialect (that he found out from your posts about where you’re from, and you’re very proud about where you’re from), “this isn’t exactly what you think it is”.
In the envelope there’s a small handwritten note on stationery paper, still in your dialect, where the guy writes that he has something difficult to tell you but that he just wants to move on. The guy writes that as you’ve probably noticed, he likes you, but that he knows you don’t feel the same way, and that that’s OK. The guy says “let’s continue to say hi to each other if that’s OK with you”. The guy then writes that he’s been lucky to have met you, and that he thinks you’re a beautifully, serenely confident, graceful and impressive woman. The guy then wishes you everything you wish for, signs “affectionately”, then his name, then a smiley face.
How do you react? | Crushes |
She knows I love frogs and decided to paint. I wish I can show you guys. IDK WHY SHE GAVE IT TO ME ALL OF A SUDDEN BUT IM KEEPING IT FOR ALL ETERNITY 😭😭😭 | Crushes |
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So it's been a since we have been talking since six months. We met through a mutual friend online on IG. I noticed her first time when she said I am wholesome we were talking on a group chat. So once I put up a story of a sitcom she replied asking do you watch this, I said yeah then we had a small talk regarding sitcoms and gave each other some recommendations. The other day she sent me reels regarding sitcoms, then I thought great I made a new friend. Then we exchanged those for few days then we both came to know we are the younger siblings then we started ranting about our siblings. Then we came to know we share the same interest for football. Surprisingly we both have extra-ordinarily many things in common (can't mention them all <3). Eventually I developed a crush. Two months ago, all of a sudden, out of nowhere she sent a photo of her being in college(she sent that on my personal chat). I had to take deep breathes cause I couldn't handle the cuteness :'). I complimented her saying she has beautiful hair(I couldn't think of anything T\_T ) Then one day I sent a pic of me with a bicep pump saying gains from 3 months of grinding, she saw that and sent pic of her posing the same as me(she is skinny so it looked like a stick and that was the cutest thing <3) and she said gains after 0 months of grinding T\_T. I don't know what to say she is the cutest crush and I have never been so close with a crush before!! | Crushes |
Am all ears. Make it quick <3 💕🥀✨ | Crushes |
We both were glancing/eye contact at each other for nearly a week in class.
So today, I introduced myself and then she asked me 2 questions. I answered but then I got really shy and even she got shy too then she said bye.
I have no idea where is this going, tell me what to do next (tomorrow). | Crushes |
F -
OMG (Crush) SMILED AT YOU THIS MORNING
I forgot to tell you
Me -
DID HE?
DETAILS
OMFG
WHEN
F -
yk when we were waiting for (other friend) ???
Me -
Yeaaaa
F -
And he got out of the car near us?
Me -
Yeaaaaaaaaaaaaa?
F -
he looked up at us, smiled AT YOU like laugh smile ykyk
and then looked down and walked away
Me -
AWHHHHHHH
Next one:
(Groupchat)
F1-
GUYS YOU SHOULDA SEEN (crush)
LOOKING AT (me) THIS
MORNING
F2-
Ngawwww did he smile?
F1- yessss she walked into the room and he got all excited and smiley it was sickeningly cute
Last one:
F1 - (crush) didn’t take his eyes off (me) the whole assemblyyyyy
F2- AWHHH SLAYYY
me- really?!
F1- yesss it was so cute he was sitting behind you and I was sitting behind him. Dude was glued to the back of your neck swear to god
:)) 🥰 | Crushes |
:p | Crushes |
hi guys i hope ppl see this. so school started a month ago and there’s this cute guy that always catches my eye whenever i see him in the halls. He’s one grade above me so it’s DEFINITELY not a case lmao. i have no idea if i like him yet so i want to get to know him. I HAVE NEVER TALKED TO THIS MAN IN MY LIFE JUST SO YALL KNOW. i’ve had no courage to go up to him but i’ve had so many opportunities WHICH MAKES ME SO FCKN MAD. one time he was sitting alone at lunch which was hella weird cause hes always with his friends. my friend nudged me to go to him but i freaked out and couldn’t do it. i’ve been doing some thinking and the only way i could think of starting a convo with him is like this, “hey do you have a girlfriend?” if he says no then i would ask him for his ig BUT IDK HOW TO APPROACH HIM IM SO AWKWARD i need tips fr guys. PLEASE IF YOU SEE THIS PLEASE HELP ME I GOT ZERO RIZZ HELP A GIRL OUT🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 | Crushes |
So I have a friend who I never thought about at all until she started hanging out with me more in school. It was so out of no where that I thought maybe she just have no other friends except her bff ( this is bcuz everyone apparently finds her annoying but I find her so nice tho), for the couple days we kept texting each other until 1am, and she told me that she was actually gay too and she kept flirting with me, she told me we should go to a hotel together for a night and drink alcohol just us two, and bcuz I never kissed anyone she offered to be my practice partner. I rlly don’t know what to take on this, and I was thinking about it and I don’t see myself in an actual relationship with her but a casual relationship would be fine. | Crushes |
a boy recently revealed his feelings for me, but heres the MAJOR PROBLEM….hes my 3rd cousin….im
not into no incest shit fr but WHAT DO I DO. like he does make me feel happy but i always thought of him as family that i have a great friendship with… then BOOM he drops this bomb. WHAT WOULD YOU GUYS DO IF YOU WERE ME ……having extreme anxiety | Crushes |
i saw this guy at my friend’s party last year and immediately developed a crush on him but didn’t have the balls to actually pursue anything. i would just quietly admire him at school and i was happy with it tbh. a month later, friend #1 confessed to having a crush on him. at this time i barely had feelings for him, it was more of a hallway crush so i got over it quickly. girl code. and i never told anyone. a couple months later, we had more classes together and once i got to know him more, i had the biggest crush on him. he was such a genuine and sweet guy. plus, we had such good chemistry. rather than accepting my feelings, i pushed them away because i didn’t want to ruin my friendship with friend #1. when i finally realized how stupid this plan was, i just accepted my feelings in hopes that i would get rid of them quicker. during that time, a new friend #2 started hanging out with this guy more often. i prayed for them to not get together but it happened. she never knew that i was crushing on him but would that have changed anything? im just unsure of what to do now. they’ve been dating for 2 months and i can’t get over it. they look so good together and they’re both insanely happy. me and the guy have also become best friends which makes it worse. schools starting soon too so now i’ll be forced to see them everyday. friend #1 got over her crush so quickly and is even dating a new guy. i also just feel like shit because all my friends have boys that like them and want to date them but i don’t. im trying very hard to not let this crush affect me but there are many other issues going on with my family and with school too, it’ll be too much. i can already feel the stress coming. | Crushes |
I haven't spoken to him since our last day at work. a few months have gone by. I've dated and saw other people since then. Just trying to put myself out there and have an open mind. Every time I talk to a new person it's such a dry conversation. I can't help but thing about how it was so easy to say something about nothing just to keep the conversation going with Gabe. The way Gabe protected me at work and dropped everything to help me with my problems. He never asked or expected anything in return even though he went above and beyond for me. These guys on dating apps can't hold a conversation or they just want to hook up. I'm so over it. It seems so impossible to find a real connection with someone. But with Gabe it felt so organic and natural whenever we let our guards down around each other. I miss those moments. I miss the jump of excitement I get whenever I saw his notification pop up on my phone. I miss talking to him about our goals and plans. He inspired me and motivated me to be a better version of myself. I keep thinking about all this but remember that when I finally did ask him out, he never replied. just nothing. I just feel like I'm going crazy over this. I just wonder if any of it was real or was it all in my head? I makes me so mad that I was doing so good getting over him and then this random night I'm up at 2am all restless after the 3rd Hinge guy this week has annoyed me with their BS.
Why did he have to be so great? Now none of these other guys that come my way can't even compare lol | Crushes |
Hi, so I have a crush at the office. I'm 29M and she's 25F.
She's been there for a year and a while, and I've been there for a few months.
She was the one who trained me and although I was only a couple of weeks working in there, I noticed that she was always staring at me, sometimes looking away when I caught her doing it. It was because of that, that I realised I was/am attracted to her. She would just go to my seat to let me know stuff about the job, and message the others. Anything was a good excuse to go and talk to me.
I also noticed she'd talk to everyone, she's always laughing and having a good time.
But with me, it's different. At least in public. Other people have noticed the way she stares at me. I've seen her noticing me outside the office and turning around, pretending to not see me, so when I walk by her, she turns to me and says "hi" or her friends ask me something so I come close and talk to her.
She's always staring at me, like, always! The whole day! Even "friends" at work have noticed too and tell me when she's doing it. Her body language is always tense, trembling and touching her hair when I approach her in public. But, as I said, alone, I hold her, give her a kiss on the cheek and we have a "way" of talking between us.
She talks about "us", "we", "together", we have held hands a couple of times, always lean into each other. I was talkin to a supervisor the other day and she gave me a hug from behind talkin good about me to the sup. That was nice.
She low-ley asked me for my number, then I asked for hers. I texted her, but she doesn't reply right away. She takes HOURS to reply to me. I was told that, she likes me, but isn't sure. Kinda 50/50 thing. Everytime I write her on teams at work, her female coworkers make fun of her and she blushes and gets all red on her face.
So, I honestly am really, really confused. Because, I take one step forward with her, but 20 back.
I've asked her to go grab lunch with me, and we've done like 3 times. We always have a blast, laughing and all. So, I asked her out, and she said yes! But, the day prior to our date, one of her friends saw me outside and told her: "Look, there he is!" as they were walking next to me and she was shaking and looking at the floor all shy.
I said hi, tried to make small talk with her outside the office and she saw something on her phone and said: "See u inside!" and ran! Her friend and other people came to me asking: "What did you say to her? Why did she leave? What did you do?". I was as shocked and surprised as they were. It kind of hurt a little, because I was just telling her about her hair, and she took off.
We had our first date yesterday! But, we didn't talked about us, or relationships, or anything like that. We talked a lot about us, likes, dislikes, jokes, food, family, dreams, getting to know each other more. We went Ice Skating, she's never done it before, I taught her how to do it, and she fell 4 times. We texted a little at night and that was it. She did mentioned social media, that we don't have each other. And I said it would be cool to add each other and she went "I can't remember my username on Instagram". And we changed the subject. These are the kind of things that confuse me.
At the office she's really weird with me. When we're alone, she's herself, when there's someone else, she becomes shy and tense. I was late for work the other day and people who I haven't told about my feelings for her, told me that after she arrived, she went straight to my desk, didn't see me, turned around looking for me and went back to her place without even saying "hi" to them.
So, I don't know. I'd like to know if she feels the same. Because I really, really like her and I'd love to keep going out with her. We have a lot of stuff in common and I feel good when I'm with her. She doesn't have a boyfriend, a friend of hers told me. I'd like to keep on getting to know her more and going out, but, if she doesn't feel it, I'd rather know and leave her alone. So, how can I know if she likes me or how can I let her know, that I like her? Everytime I like someone, I just don't know what to do.
Anyway, I hope you guys can help me out with this one.
Thanks for your time and for reading.
- TLDR:
I have a crush on a co-worker, she seems to like me back, but, she's confusing and I want to know for sure how she feels about me. | Crushes |
Like I know the typical "oh your hand is so big" but isn't there something else?
A bit more info: My crush and I are walking dogs and usually we joke around so I don't really think there is a right moment to just grab his hand. My roommate and the lady who's dogs were walking and a very good friend of his are very convinced that he is crushing on me as well. I can also kind of see it, but I am always second guessing like why me and stuff and I will only believe it when something big happens.
He was already putting his arm around me while walking but semi jokingly I'd say. But they said I should just grab his hand for once, but for me it would feel awkward. I really need a reason. I'm so overwhelmed xD | Crushes |
One of the things that I noticed when I’m with him is that he reads my body language and facial expressions and would always ask about how I’m feeling.. or do something about it. He’s a good listener, even when I interrupt him when he’s talking -mostly because I get too excited- he would let me talk. He remembers what I say and pay attention to details. Yet, I’m not sure if he’s just being a nice person and this is part of his nature or is it because he “cares” for me. My female friend, she knows him for more than 10 years, but is not close to him. Yet she told me that he’s a gentle man, and he’s a polite guy. We made love twice, and he told me that we should see each other frequently. He responds to my texts quickly, most of the times. He complements my looks, my style and the way I talk, he notices almost every detail about me for example my hair style, what I’m wearing… etc. Yet, I’m still not sure about it, because when I told my friend about him she told me that he always know what you want to hear, and he has high social intelligence. After that, I asked him once he complemented me, “how do you know what to say?” He responded, maybe because I’m being honest about it and it’s exactly what I feel. I know my friend is extremely careful with me and she’s being protective over me and doesn’t want me to get hurt. But her words is kinda blurring my judgment regarding my situation with my crush.
Edit: before I follow him back on insta, I have asked my friend if there was anything between them and she told me no, there was nothing between them and he’s a very good and polite person. Few weeks later, she told me that she had a crush on him 10 years ago. Then told me “if it didn’t work out with me, I don’t think things will work out with you”. I know for sure that she really cares for me and doesn’t want me to get hurt. | Crushes |
She’s in my dream
(Background) I 17M met her 17F at work
A few days ago I had a dream about going back to school, since it’s my final year in high school, and I don’t remember much of the dream but we were somewhere and it was just the two of us and she started taking and it lead to us kissing/making out.
I’ve had thoughts before of making out with my crushes but that was after hanging out with them and getting to know them. This was different we don’t talk to each other but she’s really nice, appreciative and very gorgeous. Her hair is just beautiful. Is this just lust?
Tbh I don’t know why I’m posting this because I don’t want to make it awkward at work if it weren’t to work out. Though I’ve really haven’t had dreams about a girl just thoughts. | Crushes |
After 3 months of just texting and sending snaps he(M21) left me on read for a whole month, I(F20) reached out the following month (yes I know that was dumb of me) then we hung out a couple times and talked a lot for 3 weeks and I thought the spark was back but now this whole past week on Monday I was left on delivered all day and then he read that text and I was on read for all of tuesday and then he texted me good morning on Wednesday? and then we talked until Friday but like barely because he would take 2-5 hrs to respond and then I was left on delivered since Friday 8pm and then today 9pm on Sunday left on read. I give up, I never really dated my whole life but this is tiring so I don't have the energy for this, maybe this is my emotions speaking right now but I'm done I feel so tired. Should I still wait for him? should I just give up on the idea of dating if this is what it is? idk, thanks for reading...<3 | Crushes |
so there’s this guy i’m talking to, he’s pretty attractive, no doubt, like a greek god yk. but there’s a vid of him that just give me an ick. on it his eyes looks too far apart idk. his whole face looks so weird in that vid. am i over exaggerating? does this still make me like men? -i’ve been question myself so long that’s why i’m asking. at this point i feel like im lying to myself. im looking at his pics constantly finding out whether i’m attracted to him testing it out. some pics i do genuinely feel attracted, like makes me scream, he looks good in some i’m it lying... but there’s that one vid of him where he’s just cringy? is this normal? or am i just drain getting myself into a relationship.. last night it’s was the only thing that was bothering me the whole entire night. my brian kept telling me “oh what if i get myself into a relationship with i guy i don’t like” it’s fucks me up | Crushes |
I 15m was going with my brother to one of his friends houses to play video games with him and smoke herbs. I was smoking some herbs and my brother's friend said his friend will be join us. I did not pay much mind to this because I meet new people all the time when I go over to his place but it change that's day.
When I met him 17m. I thought he was hot but that was it for the time I was there with him. So school started back up a few days after that interaction. I found out he was in my weights and again paid not mind to him.
But! A week ago it just hit me I like the guy a lot more than I have ever felt for someone I had to tell my friend because it was a new custom to me. I was becoming head over hills for him every little thing we talked about and things we did I just loved. I hope by the end of the year we can get close. I just want his snap right now though. But man I just love the guy to much. All I needed was to get it off my chest because I have not came out yet, just to friend.
If your wondering he's 6 something dark dirty blonde hair and skinny and lanky. I did not even know he was my type.
His name is John | Crushes |
What it says above, preferably no NSFW | Crushes |
Is there a time period in the one you should say your crush you love her or is when you feel prepared for it? | Crushes |
I am a senior, and I’ve recently been interested in this girl that I sit next to in orchestra. Something about her really makes me attracted to her. I have no dating experience, and I’ve really wanting to get into a relationship, but I am not sure if it’s worth shooting my shot right now.
As mentioned above, me and my crush are seniors, preparing to get into college. Both of us are interested in majoring in Engineering, but it’s very unlikely that we’ll be in the same college.
I really enjoy talking to her, and to me it seems as if she feels the same way. (Not sure whether this is just her being friendly or not)
She also seems fine with hanging out with me by ourselves. We did go to a festival together and had a lot of fun! But, my honest thoughts are that she only sees me as a friend. Period. Or I might just he thinking negatively too much.
Sounds foolish, but I am not confident in myself, and I fear rejection and failure. I am scared that our friendship with fall apart if I confess my interest in her, and that class with her will be awkward for the rest of the school year. It is very unlikely that we will have seat changes since our chair placement is pretty much locked in by our conductor/teacher, so I won’t be able to avoid sitting next to her.
It would be awesome if I can get a chance to date her, but I feel like it won’t be for long even if we date with college coming for us.
If anyone was generous enough to read till the end and willing to give their opinion or advice, please help me!
Do you think it’s worth the shot? I really want to make my move before homecoming, if I were to make a move lol.
Also, any advices for self confidence boost? :)
Thank you | Crushes |
asking for a friend heh | Crushes |
Everytime I tell people these things, they say yeah, so vaguely I’ll ask again
- She always finds a way to learn about the things that interest me
- If I’m sad, she always embraces me so I can be calm
- She will physically find a way to be right next to me or as close as she can to me
- When it was my birthday, she made it the best day for me by taking me out and doing things for me that she knew I’d love
- She always looks at me with love in her eyes and even tries to make sure we are making eye contact (this is just from my perspective though, she could be doing this with everyone)
- She supports me in everything I want to do, even when no one else does, and she always reminds me that she loves me
- She always invites me out alone and then jokes about it being a date (once we went on VDay and she said this) | Crushes |
I moved to his town in 2013, don't even remember meeting him, he was just kinda my friend out of nowhere. over the years I've known he's liked me cause he's let out hints and stuff but I've only ever seen him as a friend. we graduated in 2020 and have seen each other only a handful of times since then so i thought he might've gotten over me but his friend told my friend that he never got over his thing for me. I'd say since friday I've been starting to develop feelings for him. my town had a festival over the weekend and him, my best friend, her boyfriend, and myself all hung out and walked around and the whole time we were walking next to each other my hand was involuntarily flexing and moving to stop myself from reaching over and just holding his hand cause i wanted to SO unbelievably badly. I want to go for him so bad but i don't want to fuck up our friendship if i go for him and we break up. he literally yelled at me when he found out I've never watched any of the ghostbusters movies so I'm planning on asking him for a marathon of those. i want it to be a date but I'm sooooooo nervous. i truly don't think its a fluke but theres a part of my brain thats telling me to wait and see if this passes to do anything but i want to so fucking badly. i also wanted to give him a hug really badly too haha. according to my best friend i was a lot more touchy with him too and i didn't even realize so i don't think its a fluke. i honestly don't know what to do at this point, I'm on my third glass of wine cause I'm so stressed about this haha. | Crushes |
I (F 23) have had a crush on said coworker for nearly a year since I started at the job. But for some reason I think he knows that I have eyes for him because when I suspected this, he started to become more quiet towards me and not as calm and chill (which is what drew me to him in the first place). He would avoid eye contact and not start up small talk, which is cool so I respected that and have remained quiet too. He’s seeing someone (who I really like too and respect wholeheartedly) and I wouldn’t want to be seen as “that person.”
It’s just nice to admit that I do have a crush and it has been a long time since (mainly because they never work out because CLEARLY I have horrible timing and crush on the wrong people). I haven’t felt nervous or giggly or that goofy stupid smiley feeling with someone authentically in so many years. It sucks because nothing will ever happen, but the scenario in my head is beautiful and I wish I had the opportunity *sigh* | Crushes |
I have a crush and I’m friends with him. We’re good friends btw. But we didn’t even become friends until this year. So here’s the story. Girl likes boy. Boy doesn’t know. Boy finds out from Girl’s friend. Now he knows. Boy acts weirder towards girl during school. Boy seemed nervous. Boy suggests they start talking. Girl agrees. They “talk” and Girl finds out Boy lied about his feelings. Girl is sad but they remain friends. Girl then tells Boy she is over him even tho she really isn’t. They talk over summer and then during a conversation Girl tells Boy she likes him again. Boy says this is great. Then Girl turns around and Boy likes someone else and they have a thing. Later during the summer Boy and Girl talk. Boy asks Girl if she likes him and Girl lies saying no. Boy says she makes its seem like a bad thing if she does. But Girl doesn’t wanna tell him cause she thinks that Boy and the Other Girl still are a thing. Girl then finds out after the conversation that Boy and the Other Girl are over. Girl is relieved. Girl and Boy remain friends. During the new school year out of no where Boy starts hugging Girl every-time he sees her. Girl is confused and starts overthinking. But secretly, Girl likes this. Girl and Boy hug again after school and even stare into eachothers eyes for a few seconds while listening to a song. Boy and Girl walk to the buses while listening and Girl tells Boy she’ll see him later. And Boy says “you’re not gonna give me a hug?” And Girl gives him a hug. And that’s where it’s at for now. Still questioning myself and going crazy over the question “what if he does like me?” | Crushes |
idk she makes it seem like i attract her , we barely met but we met like the second week of school and it was in my 7th hour like couple weeks ago i was leaning to the side so she was to the side of me and i looked at her and she put her hand under my chin then i was going to put my hand on her cheek and in the process of doing that she backed away and looked down snd stuttered saying smth like “oh-oh sorry idk why i did that” and omg i think i made her nervous 😭 she told me she was bi after i asked if i looked gay and i said “omg really?” and she said “yeah i don’t look like it huh?” and we were talking abt it and she said she wouldn’t date a girl publically so im guessing she’s not completely out yet or she’s scared what others might think. just recently she asked me if i was going to the water park bc the whole school was going but i said i had work and she looked disappointed idk if she was serious but looked like she was playing then the next day she asked me again if i was going to the football game said no she looked disappointed again and she said “work again?” nodded yes and she said “damn you’re always going to work” and she’s always tryn to grab my attention twice, i came in and was looking the opposite way and she poked my shoulder looked back and she said “hi!” , then couple minutes later i was on my phone felt her hit my leg with her leg so then i looked back and she started talking abt smth last week i put my arm around her shoulder and got the urge to put my temple next to hers but looked like she got awkward abt it so i stopped half way tho couple days later she put her arm around me and i put both my arms around her and this time she put her temple onto mine, last week she sticked her hand out for me to grab we sit across from each other and so we just sat there holding hands and talking we had to let go for someone to pass and i rested my hands on my thigh assuming we weren’t gonna do that no more but she immediately sticked her hand back in front of me and said “wow” like she got offended and so we continued staying that way
she kept whispering in my ear even when she didn’t need to she would just whisper she did it three times, first time she called my name and went on her knees in front of me while i was sitting and she came right up in my face for me to hear her she told me abt this boy tryn to get at all and tryn to get back together w her and she don’t want to like ok 👍i said “tell him no” she said “eh idk” second time she said smth in my ear but somehow didn’t hear so she moved a piece of my hair out of the way and got closer to my ear and felt her hot breathe lmfao and third time she grabbed my arm to grab my attention whispered in my ear and again showed me messages abt the guy and at this point i feel like she’s doing that to see my reaction all abt boys and showing me tea everytime . also the football players were passing by and she said “if you see a guy with a bandana that’s my crush” so when i saw the guy i told her “him?” she nodded and didn’t take her eyes off of him but that doesn’t look like her type😭 every boy she tells me abt complete opposite of him but could be bc idk her that much. she told me to just drop camp girl(girl i met a camp) at this point bc of how she’s treating me which she’s right i also went to look at her and she was already looking at me and i asked “wtf you looking at?” and she jokingly says “you” i blushed bahah sometimes when i come in to sit i can see her looking, when i was walking in the halls with a friend she was coming to pass us from afar and moment i looked at her i see her head look away to look in the back of her probably at something but it was weird, then the friend she was with i see her probably look at me while they passed like she knew me. idk my head was probably just seeing things but ima ask her to homecoming saying “if a girl were to ask you to homecoming would you say yea?” and if she says yea i’ll say “wanna go with me?” depending of her answer | Crushes |
Ok, I got a massive crush on this front desk clerk at the gym I go to (she's got a dyed pink hair, and a bit of dusty blonde). My god, she's really pretty and all but ya know, I'm socially awkward so when she asked for my ID, I was just showing her my phone to scan the code. I couldn't look at her directly into her eyes, man. I'm freaking out right now. If I could just be brave and start a conversation with her. | Crushes |
i have this coworker. i like them, and i need to know if i’m just seeing/hearing what i want to see or if there’s a chance maybe they like me back. i’ve only worked with them for just under a couple of months, but in that time, we’ve shared a good amount with each other, mainly discussing shared trauma and mental illness, as well as common hobbies. they always greet me happily, and smile at me when i come into the store on my days off. i noticed that they kinda coddle me a little bit, and i’m not sure why that is really. they always let me talk at/to them about stuff when i feel like talking, though they seem to have shut down my attempts to talk to them outside of work (though they claim that’s because they just don’t like texting/messaging). they always go around work talking about all the dates they’re going on and all the people they’re talking to, etc etc. once they showed me a dating profile of another person and said “that’s a pretty person right?” were they trying to get a feel for my type? or tell me theirs? my other coworkers who are close to the coworker i like say that they don’t treat me the same as other people, and it almost seems like if i don’t make an effort to interact with them, they won’t interact with me. which they claim is the exact opposite of how they normally are, and that they will mostly make conversation with anyone and that they’re very social. i’ve heard that normally when people like someone they will act the opposite of how they normally do with others around the person. it seems to me that they either like me or they hate me. what do i do? is there a way for me to test the waters? please help i am autistic and cannot read signals for the life of me. ;-; | Crushes |
we went to the park. my lips were sore after. how did i get this lucky | Crushes |
This is a bit different from others, we’re actually dating :D | Crushes |
I think love is good, it is the thing keeping some people going, it heals, it mends, it brings out the true colors of things. I also think love is pain, love is the reason you get hurt, you get depressed, love is a contradiction of itself. (I am a writer in progress, bear with me if any of my works sound cringe or unworthy) | Crushes |
I think I might know who is responsible but I can't be too sure. There is an old guy in town who back in the 80s raped and killed a teenage girl. He was declared innocent in court but everyone in town knows he did it. If he is responsible for this then she is probably dead. I hope to god I am wrong. | Crushes |
Like they moved during summer or went to a different college or after graduation? | Crushes |
I am extremely shy and have severe anxiety. When my crush is around, I can’t look at them or return their stare when I catch them looking at me. I’m too scared.
How do I overcome it? It has been to a point where I have to pretend they’re not there when I’m in the same room as them. I don’t and can’t find the courage.
I hope someone sees this and answers because I really need advice. I want to become someone more confident that would be less nervous next to them.
Thank you so much if you answer this. Any piece of advice is appreciated. | Crushes |
I've been crushing on this person for about three months or so and even though i know they've moved on i still miss them. I told them i had feelings for them about two months ago and they felt the same way but they never showed it. I felt like i was either being led on or i did something to make them lose feelings. Eventually they told me they had feelings for someone else but they broke up with them a couple days ago. I've gone on a couple dates with this other person but i still can't get over my original crush. I just wish i knew what happened. | Crushes |
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Im a sophomore. Theres this girl i have for 2 periods. She seems queit and introverted. She doesn't rly talk much. She sits in the back next to me in Wolrd history. We keep looking at each other and then look away. Idk if thats considered eye contact or if its even a good thing. Either way maybe its just me and im getting the wrong idea. I kinda wanna get her ig but idk y i got so nervous. I dont ever like that much. I just think shes kinda hot ngl | Crushes |
Hey I need like gift ideas to give the girl that I have feelings for(she knows that i have feelings for her) . She going back to university away from her home and I wanted to give her something that reminds her of me whenever she looks at the gift.
Plz all ideas helps thanks | Crushes |
I sent her the text and she hasn't responded. | Crushes |
So I'm socially awkward right, and I've always kinda been like that, but the friends that I have have girlfriends, and they're my only real friends, so I always kinda wanna hang out with them, last year I was usually fifth wheeling on them when we hung out, then I was brutally rejected a few times, and then I just gave up on crushing..
Until this summer
This summer I met someone amazing, she's like my other half, and I was scared to say anything to her an the fact that I liked her. When I finally got some confidence, I told her, turns out she felt the same!! It happened about a week ago, but I'm still super happy about it!
I wanted to share this story because ik that liking someone and confessing your feelings to them is hard, and I also know some of us have given up on crushing, but what they say is true, there really is someone out there for everyone, you just have to wait and find them.
(Sorry for the long post) | Crushes |
so, for some backstory I have lived in California my entire life and I just recently moved cross country. ok now for the actual story. I met my best friend, who were going to call M, in our first period class and almost immediately started liking her. Turns out M liked me too but assumed I was straight so didn't try to do anything. To make a long story short we liked each other on and off for about a year, we both dated a couple other people during the offs, and we always helped each other out. Then I moved across the country and when I got to my new school, I started talking to this one girl for fun, let's call her Z, and before you say its evil or something, she had just gotten out of a long relationship and stated multiple times she just wanted to take her mind off her ex-girlfriend. I was ok with this because I needed to get my mind off some stuff too. I found out in the next couple weeks how clingy Z can be and soon enough she asked me to be her girlfriend and I kind of just said sure impulsively because she was surrounded by her friends, and I didn't want to embarrass her (I know it's stupid don't come for me). Z and I have been drifting and I realize that I'm not excited when I see her name pop up on my phone anymore, it just feels like a chore. I told my best friend about this and she suggested I break up with Z and the conversation slowly progressed to flirting. After that phone call I just knew that I never stopped loving M and that everything else has been a failed distraction from her. I tried shaking it out of my head because M talks about other girls at school and stuff all the time and I thought I didn't have a chance, until she asked me if I was still in my home state, would I date her? I said yes and we haven't stopped flirting since. I feel horrible because I'm in a relationship but I just can't keep dating someone I don't even like. I know this sounds like a stupid romcom plot but I need help. | Crushes |
Last year, my group of buddies would mess with me by saying I should get with this girl from my class. It started as a joke, but now, I've found myself thinking of her all of the time, and I have gotten to know her, and we are good friends, but I am starting to have feelings. We share a few classes together, but we are never alone to talk, and I don't even know if she is in a relationship. We both play the same instrument, we are both in honors English and Math, and sometimes, she seems flirty, but I've never been in a relationship before, so I cannot be to sure. What do I do??? | Crushes |
He’s excited about me visiting him but he doesnt seem like he wants to talk to me I miss him so much | Crushes |
So after being with my crush several days this past week in a non working environment I had plenty of happy memories, eye candy, and pics of him. After not masturbating all week I finally couldn’t take it any longer and jerked off while thinking about him. It was a bigger load than usual but afterwards I felt like I’d let myself down for not lasting longer than a week or the few short minutes it took to get off. I just wish I could tell him how I feel. | Crushes |
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I’m soooo confused so I was joking around saying i’m so special in a sarcastic way, and then he said you are, just not in the way you’re thinking. So I was like what do you mean? What do u think I’m thinking and he responded with I was mostly joking lmfao the other kind of special. Damn I see that as a friendzone is it not? | Crushes |
heres a poem i wrote a couple days agooo im sorry if its bad lol- if you guys have any poems id love to see themm :D
blood rush, red flush, heart palpatation
lovestruck, good luck
im falling in your eyes
amber eyes, pools of honey glowing like the sunset
ebony strands like the night falling over the fading light of day
in your arms of stars i feel safe
theres sunlight in my mind
searching for your love to find
hoping your smile might linger
flowers falling from my fingers
<3. | Crushes |
Okay so basically im new at this school but my step-sister has gone there for years but that doesn´t matter, I have a crush... he´s super sweet and just like chill but there´s this girl in my class named Taylor she´s super nice and we´re kind of friends she´s unproblematic and super pretty but she likes the same guy I like! What should I do cause me and my crush sit in a table where there's 3 boy and me and he's one of them but I feel like we have moments like last time a Ray (some boy in my table who he's friends with) left cause he was sick and since they're always talking and Jason the other guy had been gone it was just us and we kept on talking for like 3 hours straight he even opened up to me a little and me too and sometimes I also catch him looking at me playing with me like at gym he's always like playfully touching me or we make lots of eye contact. So what should I do risk my friendship with this girl or miss this crush? | Crushes |
Hi guys :) Just before the weekend I (F) finally had my first conversation with my crush (M). I think it went pretty well? But I’m not really sure about some signs he gave away because some seemed kinda positive (as in, he may likes me back) but they may just be meant as friendly. So do you know any signs in a conversation that your crush may like you back? | Crushes |
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