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(English is not my first language so I appreciate every correction in the comments, thx :))
I (f14) really like a guy in my class ( m14). When i first saw him, i thought i've never seen a more beautiful guy.
And i'm still pretty sure about it.
Now we're friends, we always talk during lessons and we love to tease each other.
He's so smart and funny and we always have a great time.
I told a friend of mine (which is like his best friend. he knows that we're friends) and she told me that they were talking about me and she asked something like: "do you care about (my name)?", he replied: "i can't tell you".
What does that mean?
Anyways, everyone in the class told us that we would make a great couple (and I obviously agree but I'll never admit it) but we used to laugh it off or just ignored it.
They talked about that to me while he wasn't around and they said that it's kinda obvious that he is pretty much into me.
This really boosted my confidence and I actually thought about telling him by the end of the year. Well, today one of our classmates told us again what awesome couple we would make but he (the guy i like) told us that he already likes somebody else.
Was he lying? What do I do now? Literally ANY advice is going to be useful so thank y'all < 3 | Crushes |
my crush and i have been very close in each other and i kinda see myself in her.
we mostly dont talk when we meet but, we consistently been chatting nonstop until midnight for a week. (yes a week, bcz i finally got my balls straight up to make a first move) and our conversation is going on a good flow, we sometimes share our deep thoughts on our life, but im having doubts on myself when i wanted to chat her, i always think that "maybe she was replying to me to not make my feelings shattered into pieces"
and when she told me when i ask her abt having a relationship, and she said that she "don't want to entertain guys right now"
note: she knows that i have a crush on her | Crushes |
I am glad to say that I have just started a relationship with a great person and we are almost hitting one month of dating (we have been keeping it on a low so not many people know about it just yet). Our relationship is great and the person that really loves and truly cares for me. However, this person is an introvert and I am more of an extrovert so this is where the problem is. This person usually loves to talk to me and makes great jokes and truly cares. However, sometimes they can be really quiet and won't want to talk to anyone. They will put in their earbuds and just ignore the world. I know that this is more of their introverted side and was just wondering what to do in a situation like this. I don't want to lose such a great relationship with this person and I truly care for this person. Can someone please give me some advice on this? Thank you very much! | Crushes |
Ok so this sunday i was cleaning my basement when i came across this box with pictures i had forgotten about. While going through then i found a picture of my childhood friend...we used to go to school together, then we went to the same high school too, but somehow we went into two different universities...he was my friend...best friend...the only best friend i ever got...along the years i started having feelings for him but i never let them known to him...but somehow deep down i always knew that he knew how i felt about him...but i was so afraid of losing a friend that i didn't talk about my feelings. After going to different universities we lost contact...now we barely talk to each other...and when we do its very brief...somehow i miss his version before he grew up...i still wish to spend time together with him but i know its not possible anymore | Crushes |
We are both born in the same month so as soon as he turns 20 in two weeks I’ll be 23. He left high school last year.The whole age gap thing has been going around online which I think is great because it brings awareness, but now I feel worried and maybe I need to reflect on myself here for a second.My friend who’s 21F and dating 18M thinks I’m over thinking this, but still. It’s been in my head ever since I saw a tik tok of a couple, 25M started to date 18F. And everyone reacted in disgust.
Obviously I’m crushing on this guy and we get along really well. Small vibes going on and such. But idk. Thoughts? | Crushes |
So, im at college and i have a crush on this girl since august but haven't told her anything about it. Our campus is small so i see her very often. I just really admire the things she do, like, she's so creative, so down-to-earth (it seems, cares about ppl. But i can't help but only foolishly smile and shy away when i bump into her. Like, she literally makes me so nervous :p
Just daydreaming about her is driving me crazy. i keep telling myself that i will talk to her by the time there is the perfect opportunity. but idk 😭 how should i approach her? fyi, i kinda know some of her friends (but not closely).
Is it better to not make it obvious that i have a crush on her and try to just get to know her and be friends first?
i don't know what to dooo honestly | Crushes |
Avoiding crush was horrible thing to do.. but I did it anyway for the peace of mind.. I was lost.. I feel better today so I tried as much as I can and never get caught when I 👀 from somewhere far( hardly few times I looked at him but wasn’t like usual long dreamy stare) and I dint make him uncomfortable today I believe☺️ I hope he enjoys his daily life happily and comfortably😗I like him more whenever I look at him but I know it’s not gonna work..I can’t be selfish and just gotta move on🤗 | Crushes |
So there is some context needed before i begin, my crush, let's call him M, and I have known each other for a long time. We liked each other since middle school, but neither confessed back then for whatever reason. When we first started highschool, we entered a friendgroup and due to some drama we drifted apart. In that time, we both missed each other a lot, but we didn't talk again until a year later, when we finally reconnected. It was perfect and we both liked each other, but after he did something that put in danger one of my personal projects that i cared a lot about because he was impulsive, i got second thoughts about getting in a relationship with him, so when he finally confessed i endes up rejecting him, while also being harsh, which i deeply regret.
After this i cut him off, which i also regret, but after a while realised that I had made a big mistake and that I still loved him. I thought very often about apologising for the things I said and done, but I never went thriugh with that because I thought it would just open old wounds for him and make him worse off. The one time I was ready to propely talk to him and apologise was exactelly when he got together with his actual girlfriend, which made me give up alltogether.
Well skipping to the present, we both happened to go on a trip together. I ended up fighting real bad with another friend which led to a breakdown, but it was M that made sure to take care of me, making sure I was alright. After seeing how kind he was to me, i broke down even harder and ended up apologising for all the things in the past between us, and to my suprise he broke down as well because of the same reasons. It was a pretty emotionally charged evening, but after we calmed down we started talking to each other, filling each other on our lives. Thats when he said that he always loved me and that he had lots of relationships in this period so he could fill the void I left in him. I panicked because i knew he had a girlfriend and didn't want to have any negative impact on their relationship because I've met her before and she's a cool person, so I just told him that sometimes you have to learn to love someone, which looking back was a pretty stupid response but I was too tited to give actual good advice.
I know that he was most probably sincere because I found out from other common friends that he said he had strong feelings for me and that he is lying to himself when he tells his girlfriend tgag he loves her, which I also find horrible on his side.
So now I am really conflicted on what I should do. Personally I was thinking that I should stay out of this entirely, but another part of me wants to talk to him and explain that he has to make a choice: either give up on me and focus on getting better for his gf, or leave her and try to get together with me if he has such strong feelings, because I love him very much as well. Sorry for the long post but I'm hoping I will get some help, I'll also clarify any other details that could be needed about this situation!!! | Crushes |
ok so I have one class with my crush (but I do a lot of extracurricular things with him). so in class, we talk a decent amount. no one really talks in the class but he often turns to me to make stupid comments or talk (over the other people at his table). but today he kept turning to me, looking at me, keeping eye contact for a second and then looking away. it was really strange in the way he did it and he did it multiple times. does this mean anything? i already think he probably has some interest in me but i was just wondering :) | Crushes |
God. Today my school went to a play for a field trip. I saw my crush and her friend cuddling. So confused as to whether they have an inside thing or she’s lesbian. I don’t know. Either way, I felt really anxious today. If you saw my last post, you’ll know that I put my number in her locker yesterday. I’ll have you know she never texted. She could’ve easily not seen it but still. | Crushes |
I can’t date him, we work together, I just can’t go there especially with another colleague being in trouble for harassment and me being one of the people he’s harassed, I can’t do it.
Today is the last day I flirted with him. I need to move on
I’m so sad I can’t move | Crushes |
So my crush who I'm pretty sure is into me has a friend now this friend has been flirty around me from complements to laughing at something I say that no one else laughs at | Crushes |
So I was talking to a girl who she's freinds with as we were working together so she got really close to me and made sure I was talking to her to and she insulted her not in a bad way but amped it up as we talked. The funny part about this is I was talking to this other girl but she has a bf no response | Crushes |
I work in a supermarket and i have strong feelings for a girl that I work with. We are both in our early twenties and work in different departments and will bump into each other and make small talk at work. I know she is interested in me but we can be quite shy around each other and be awkward. Sometime I get mixed signals from her but I'm sure she likes me at the end of it. I know she will graduate around July and may leave work for her grad job, I am also the same. I know dating Co workers can be weird and awkward, so should I wait for us both to leave or tell her how I feel soon? | Crushes |
I’m so fucking sad. Yesterday was our last show as a cast together and honestly I didn’t think I’d cry as much as I did. We all did.
I broke when my friend hugged me goodbye and it didn’t stop. A lot of people were leaving around the same time. My crush was also crying, and I hugged him and i really didn’t want to let go.
It’s so hard to let go. | Crushes |
I want to be loved so much that they would wish they loved me in every universe. I just really want to experience being loved and also loving someone the same way. I can't imagine finding someone to experience this. | Crushes |
Context: I watch her kids in a daycare setting and we have already exchanged numbers and texted a bit before.
Before they left for the day on Friday, I asked her if she and her kids would like to go with me to this family-friendly activity. She seemed excited about it and said yes initially. So I told her I will text her the website to the place so she can look into it and choose which date/time works best for her. She said “Ok thanks I will let you know!”
The weekend is now over and she has not texted back yet, but she could be waiting to let me know in person when we see other on Monday.
What do you think? | Crushes |
Sorry this post will be a bit long
So I (20F) was in an open relationship with F (24M) and I met B (21M). I really liked B, like really. We have a lot of things in common, he is super kind and I've been really obsessed with him for a couple of weeks now. We are also both poly (a person who can love an be in relationships with 2 or more persons). We see each other every week, talk by text everyday, he always talk about helping me finding a job and about hanging out with me in a lot of cute places around here. We don't know each other that much and it feels super weird because in one hand it seems like he really likes me and in the other hand I really feel like he's too good for me. I mean I don't talk a lot, I don't say very interesting stuff, sex is not that great with me. Also english is not my native language so it's often hard for me to connect with people. I feel like he's very self confident and I'm not so I don't know how it's possible that I made a very good impression.
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3 days ago I broke up with F, not really because of B, I have a lot of other reasons to break up. We were supposed to talk about it Friday evening just so I can say why I want to break up and if I want it to be a break up break up or just a break. I decided to tell B about something bad that F asked me to do to B without him knowing about it. I'm not gonna tell what I did but it's like very very very bad and I thought B would stop talking to me. He wasn't mad at me. He asked me to come to his place that evening and that if I needed to talk to F I could do it anyway and he would be my emotional support. When I told him I didn't want him to be there for me he got offended and told me that he was hoping for more with me but that this text made it clear for him that I just wanted sex. It wasn't true but I didn't know how to say it so I just told him I was okay to see him. Tbh I wanted to see B but it made me feel really bad to lie to F and B seemed super worried by that F was texting me all the time. And like yes ?? We were supposed to talk ?? I just broke up with me it's normal he wants to talk about it ?? So I had to deal with F, B, and the fact that I got super high this night so NOT A GOOD MOMENT. And since this night I feel super weird about everything. I mean B is perfect and he did nothing wrong he just worries about me but I don't want him to, I feel like he sees me like a poor little thing who was dating a bad guy and I don't like that even if it's a bit true.
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Today I was working on set and I wrote B a text just to tell him I don't like him worrying too much about me. After that he asked me if F was still texting me every minute. I was like brooo I just asked you not to worry but when I asked why he wanted to know that he told me that he needed to know if I was really single to ask me something. I was like ?????? So I asked him what he wanted to ask and he asked said "Ask you to be my gf. You know if you want ? We can also just stay fwb" and when I asked him why he wanted to be my bf and what if would change he said "I mean, it's mainly just a title thing" "More romance" and "Because I like you".
And tbh I was dreaming of him asking me to be his gf for weeks but I was like "wow, that's all ???". I mean. I was working and he knew it, I just broke up with my 2,5 year ex-bf. I feel like he's asking me that the same way he would ask me how my day was. And "I like you" ?????????????? I mean I like my roommate, I like eating pastas, you can't ask me that and just LIKE me. I feel like I'm super annoying for thinking he asked me that the worse way at the worse moment. I answered this :
First I think you're too good for me
Secondly I don't think you know me enough
Thirdly for me it's like a bit important to be someone's girlfriend and for you it's just "more romance" and something you can ask by text the same way you would ask me how my day was
Fourthly I feel bad about F I mean we just broke up
Fifthly I waited 3 years to be alone and free and to have nothing else to think about than what am I gonna eat tonight
Sixtly I think that maybe I'm just not made to be in a relationship idk
Sevently I leave in 3 months
And his answer was........ "okay, never mind then"
I asked if I offended him he said no. I said sorry he asked me why I was sorry I said I felt bad and he stoped answering for like 1 hour. When I asked when he was free next week he answered instantly. I said "okay", he saw my text and stoped answering. Usually we don't talk like a lot but everytime he sees my text he answers. If he doesn't answer it's because he's not using his phone (I guess).
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I feel super bad. He's always super kind, he asked me to be his gf and I feel like he doesn't really care. I said I felt bad and he just ignored it. I have no idea how he feels rn or why he acted the way he acted. I have no idea if I did something wrong or what. I have no idea what to do. I'm just sad and confused. Please help | Crushes |
There is this new girl that joined my friend group, and I might have a crush on her…but my other friend gets along a lot better with her. I can’t help but feel really jealous, to the point where I actually am a bit disheartened. How should I deal with this? | Crushes |
A girl in my class. I usually catch her looking at me. sometimes, she stares for a second or two. Most of my friends say that she seems to like me and I should try to talk to her.
But when it comes to girls, I am horrible at it.
I am not going to lie. I like her. she seems perfect.
She's got a perfect personality and the perfect smile when I catch her staring at me ( yes, she smiles when I look at her also, she bursts out laughing when I make a joke )
So, I need some ideas on how to approach her and hopefully be together | Crushes |
Just confessed to my almost 4 months crush in school. Texted her, confessed my feelings then dipped. She replied, saying that "Things are all of a sudden, to fast that she can't even think".
But still after that, she appreciated my courage and shit. And she shows her gratitude on me telling my feelings for her.
The Reply was more of on the Nuetral side but I want to know what are your thoughts about it?
Is there any hope, or am I flat out rejected? | Crushes |
I haven't had a crush on anyone for years but there's this guy I was sitting next to in English and he's so funny and sweet. I didn't even really realize I liked him until this weekend but I do.
I'm so sad about it though because he has a girlfriend already. I don't know who she is or anything but he talks about his girlfriend sometimes. It feels like he's flirting with me sometimes but then I remember that he already has a girl and maybe he's just being friendly.
When I was sad earlier I look at one of his Instagram videos and it made me so much happier. I also had a dream about him last night and I don't remember exactly what happened but I woke up smiling. I can't get him out of my head and I don't know what to do. Help!!! | Crushes |
I did, for the first time Friday . I hate loving people sometimes | Crushes |
in my friend group is a dude i barely know but still have a crush on, but now a friend of mine and he are getting closer like romantically and they fit really well so i don’t wanna be a burden to them and to myself and just let him go finally. but all i can think of is him and that sucks especially since i see both of them together evertime we hang out . | Crushes |
Hello! I am 15 1/2 M and I really want to ask this one girl (same age) out. I have the confidence, but don’t know how to execute it well. Any advice is appreciated! | Crushes |
Everytime class ends with my crush, she just walks off without saying goodbye. I have tons of fun with her in class, messing around and all. But when the lesson ends, she doesn't acknowledge I'm there anymore, she just speedwalks away. Today she said "I'm abandoning you" and just walked off without a goodbye or anything. Does she not like me? It seems like our conversations flow really well but she does this? I'm so confused and worried that maybe she just doesn't like being around me longer than she has to. | Crushes |
Now this might sound weird. I’ve never spoken to her. She sits at a nearby table at lunch, usually alone. I might have seen her looking at me a couple times, but she usually just plays a 3DS. So my main question is, could she still like me even though she’s never really paid any attention to me? | Crushes |
Okay so I added my crush a few months back on snap and she blocked me because she thought i was an automated fake sugar daddy.. I don't talk to her much and dont wanna ask her to unblock me but my female friend said if I think of an excuse for my friend to tell my crush to add me she'll tell her it....People help think of non chalant excuses | Crushes |
this is terribly written but im on the verge of tears
my crush kissed me on the cheek and we dated for 5 days. i was actually so fucking happy. we held hands together and shit but it turned out be was only pretending to like me. ~apparently~ he did everything just so he could convince people he didn’t still like his ex girlfriend. i feel like a fucking idiot. i wish he hadnt done anything if he didnt mean it.
apparently he wrote a note saying he’d never like me as much as he liked his ex so my friend texted me about it while she apologized for telling me. im subconsciously hoping shes lying to me but i doubt it. i tried giving him a letter basically apologizing for not communicating with him but he just threw it away immediately after reading it.
he never even admitted anything to me he wont talk to me he keeps avoiding me i think i embarrassed him
Goddamn it i still like him | Crushes |
Tell me why they’re your type or whatever. I tell a random comment mine. Totally not a excuse to gush | Crushes |
Yes I said it, I have been questioning it but I came to the conclusion that I like her. There’s a few signs she might like me back but it’s hard to tell since she’s already my friend. So we’ve been talking a lot more recently, and staying up late texting (usually in a gc after everyone else is asleep) but she also dms me a bit more now too. We also stayed up late on FaceTime, after everyone fell asleep, just kinda talking and I sent her a picture of my dad because she wanted to see him and she said I have his smile, so I’m curious if any of this means anything.
I really don’t know but I’m pretty stupid with this stuff so.. please help. | Crushes |
I tend to get obsessive when I have crushes. I have a crush on a boy that I don't even know that well, and its bad because its only because I find him attractive. I keep thinking about him even tho I never talk about him. How can I stop this? | Crushes |
Why would a guy sent me an unrequited love song about a pretty girl who's mean to him because she doesn't love him back?He also sent me the pinched short animation about a guy who's fighting his demons and at the end he meets with an old flame who makes his life more bearable?
Last month I met with him for the first time in 4 years since college ended and spent almost an hour with him in the cold, I realized he didn't care about me as much as I thought due to him wanting to keep it secret and not tell our friend group. The notion of secrecy and lying hurt me a lot and afterwards I told him I liked him but that I need to move since it's clear he doesn't. On a call, I asked him if he ever did and he told me that he never got feelings for me since we didn't spend much time together back then. I cried and I felt how cold he was in his silence. A very painful 13 minutes. I still wanted to remain friends with him so I would text him there and there to see if he's okay, to show that his friendship still matters to me but he never once asked anything about me, how I am, etc. It's much different now and he feels like he's taking distance from me. He told me 2 weeks ago he met with an old girl friend of his and yesterday he watched a movie with 2 of our old colleagues, one of which he would sit close to often furing our courses talk to often and liked all of her Instagram pictures. Honestly, I'm glad he's trying to spend more time with them. I know he's aslo moving on. It just feels so lonely, he never asked me to watch a movie with him, he never invited me anywhere, I was always the one initiating and he was passively give me the attention I thought was love. Until a week ago, I'd sent him a song every few days and he would reply with another. But I noticed he started to do it less and less so I'll back away for now.
I just... don't understand. I care so much about him and it still hurts, the healing process is taking way more for me and I hate it. I want to be happy and loved back too, but I feel like his mixed messages all these years are just making me question the actual truth and all I want are explanations.
Why did he send me those videos so casually? | Crushes |
So I’m into this girl and we have been talking at school and snapping daily. She’ll write whole paragraphs when i snap her but I’m person she seems distant or avoids me altogether. Other times I person she is laughing and having a great time. I’m just getting mixed messages. Any advice from ex freshmen?
Also im thinking of asking her over snap what she wants out of this “friendship” and im not sure if it’s a good idea. Thoughts? | Crushes |
I'm gonna be honest I literally have never had a conversation with him in my life, maybe in our younger school years but I very much disliked him as a pre-schooler. Anyway people change and so did I and I developed a fat crush earlier this year and I don't have the confidence to say anything, I'm ok with admiring from a distance though, I love his personality (from the conversations I hear) and the physical attraction develops from that. I just needed to say something | Crushes |
I 17F am so bubbly girl stupid over my teacher 48M. He’s so funny, he’s incredibly charming, and he plays guitar and reads Sylvia Plath. He’s basically the type of personality/guy I want to be with and it is so painful knowing that i’ll never have him in my life the way I want him. He has a wife and two kids and I feel guilty sometimes when we talk and laugh after class. There is a chance that he could like me too based on the fact that he looks at my chest and sometimes initiates the conversations after class. Because I think there is a chance he likes me I can’t get over him. My thoughts and sometimes the things I wear are influenced by my thoughts of him. Every now and then I give myself this whole speech to improve myself and get over it but then we laugh and he smiles at me and I get sucked in again. Any advice? | Crushes |
So we have this group of boys in class and boy1 crushes over my bestfriend since day 1 bcs he said she is very friendly. I ship boy2 over my bestfriend bcs she said he looks so cute whenever he smiles or laugh but she somehow hates him. I told the boy2 about it and burst in laughter with boy3.
After that, boy4 complimented me. We would always bump with each other and make strong gaze. He would also tease compliment(whenever I got high scores he would say 'there's nobody in class can do like her, ofc she got the high score'), and makes me laugh. That time, I thought to myself that maybe he is into me.
After that, boy3 appeared and their group would say our initials like "boy3 likes _" infront on me. One time, I also notice boy5 shyly gave me a change(money). He even encourage me to join the contest since I am the only one who can really present the class. I am not sure about him and still founding out his intentions.
After that, I ramdomly friend request boy6 then the other day he would always look at me like he thought I was into him. One time, my classmate say my name and boy6 surname which is super cringey to me. Boy1 heard it and laughed saying "ohh, she's into him" like what?!
My bestfriend say those guys are afraid of me since I look simple, smart, and intimidating. I don't know if those guys are playing over me since to myself I feel that I look small. | Crushes |
I have no idea how to start conversations, so every day I've just been sending him weird memes/shitposts I find (I even consulted a friend who's friends with him to ask what kind of memes he likes and based it off that lmao) in the hopes it may make his day slightly better if he laughs. He never responds but he always opens them, which for some reason makes me really happy. So am I just a complete weirdo for sending him memes every day? Is him not responding a sign I should leave him alone? I've only been doing this for a couple days now and we've never really talked in person aside from one brief exchange during home ec and that was two marking periods ago way before I liked him lmao, so I've no idea what I should be doing, if anything. | Crushes |
Last Friday, my crush’s friend, with my crush, came up to me and said “My friend (my crush) likes you”. Just before I could confess, my crush started blushing and ran away. She said “I have to get on my bus!”, but her bus wasn’t there, and she was hiding with a crowd of what seemed to be her friends, so I knew she didn’t want to talk to me. I knew I wasn’t the best to look at, but damn, I must be insanely hideous to have women LITERALLY RUN AWAY FROM ME. | Crushes |
(If there is any extra info you want to know you can ask). I (F15) have had a huge crush on a guy who is on my sports team (M17) for MONTHS now. Ik there is an age gap and to make matters worse, I'm a freshman (older end of my grade) and he is a senior (younger end of his grade, he turned 17 a couple months before I turned 15). We are kind of friends, and don't talk that much, but he is funny, respectful, and SO SWEET. I am 99.9% sure he does not like me back but I feel like I just need to get it off my chest. My parents really like him and they are okay with me dating someone older (if it gets to that point). The season is ending and I see him for the last time on Tuesday so I want to text him and tell him after that so if things get awkward I wont have to see him again. I have never been in a relationship or really had a serious crush before..IDK WHAT TO DO! | Crushes |
what does that MEAN?? he said that to me with a big smile today when I was trying to say something and stumbled over my words.
can any guys tell me what that implies because I'm so confused 😭 surely I don't seem THAT dumb?? | Crushes |
Some backstory: before this crush, I had an obsessive crush on an unhealthy guy who accidentally tried to kill me and didn’t even apologise. He always put me in uncomfortable situations and blames everything onto me. He blames his friends’ selfishness onto me all the time. And if he knew I was mad at him, he would try to “cheer” me up. I’m still friends with him, just scared. I’m scared when I’m with him, not in a flustered way. What he did really traumatised me. I’m nearly over him. It’s been 6 months since he nearly killed me.
Anyways, moving on. My best friend has this friend, we’ll call her A. A is basically her mom’s friend’s daughter. Whenever A’s around my best friend, I don’t feel any romantic attraction. Not even disappointment, I just feel platonic happiness.
However, when A is alone with me or directly talking to me, I don’t know. I get nervous. Like, romantically nervous but not all fidgety. I get nervous because I’m selecting the words I should use.
Am I bi? Is this a phase? I really don’t know but A’s my first female crush. My heart beats a little faster thinking of her but I don’t really think of her, you know? I just get on with my daily tasks and occasionally on my breaks, she just pops up in my head and I smile internally.
I’m also scared of loving because I know I’m probably going to never confess to her since my crush isn’t that big. I can’t even tell my best friend, otherwise she’s going to make it too obvious. Also, (I think that) A’s straight considering her past crushes but it’s okay because I’m not planning to commit to a relationship currently. | Crushes |
so this girl and i (both f15) confessed to each other a while ago and agreed we wanted to get to know each other more and we never really took it further. we’ve done stuff that i think we both kinda felt like was a date but didn’t say anything. basically, i wanna do something that she would like thats inexpensive and doesn’t scream romantic date, but also shows i pay attention to her interests. she loves philosophy and reading and art, so i was thinking we could go to a museum or a nice book store she hasn’t gone to. i was also thinking maybe just the mall honestly. we both also plan on going to see my favorite band together sometime. i know she likes me romantically but i’ve never been the one making the first move and im running a blank aghh | Crushes |
I asked her how she has been lately, she left me on seen, then liked my story. What does this mean? She’s been acting really weird lately? Any advice? What do you think? I personally think she might be going through something. I might talk to her about it on Tuesday. | Crushes |
Hello everyone! I'm a current member of my city's orchestra and I have the fattest crush on one of the double bass players! This probably sounds really bad but I've never talked to him (I'm not normally someone who falls for people because of looks, but this is an exception because he looks INSANELY attractive) Anyway, any tips on how to start talking to him? I've looked for his social media accounts and nothing pops up. (I'm not a stalker hahahahahahahaahahah...) I'm looking for basic or clever suggestions! | Crushes |
so he’s popped up to my story and its a small clip of me with a new set i bought. he first put ‘its fly’ and i put ‘i agree’ and then he’s put ‘you look really good icl’
how would you respond to it? would you put a simple thank you or flirt back etc etc 👀 im curious | Crushes |
About a year and a half ago, me (19m) and this girl (19f) started becoming friends. We went to hs together, and just before u left for college we started snapping each other.
I was pretty quickly into her, but never picked up on any of the stuff she did. She immediately wanted to come see and give me a hug when I came back, she always wanted to hangout, ect ect. Unfortunately, I never acted on it and she didn’t either.
Recently, after about 6 months or so of just normal friends to friend snapping, I realized some stuff change. She started looking at me differently, and people noticed it and pointed it out to me. She started sending me full face pics all the time,some full body pics, gym pics and a hell of a lot of videos of her talking in snaps. She “accidentally touched me or hits me or bumps into me and apologizes for it, but it’s a lot more frequent than anyone else.
In the past two weeks, it has kinda amped up a bit, more hints I should say I guess. One or two more “flirty/sexual” looking pictures, asking me what we are doing tonight a couple times, and she has send me videos of two songs that she says are “amazing”, one of which being the song bedrock and another with the same type of name.
The kinda twist in all this is she currently has a boyfriend. Personally, I can’t stand him, Hate the way he treats her and talked to her, because it’s with such a lack of care and respect to her, and just generally feel like she deserves so much more from someone.
So idk what to do, I don’t want to be that “guy best friend” or be a home wrecker, but I can’t help but think of how much more she deserves and how bad my feelings for her have been and still are. On top of that, I am a over-thinker so it’s hard for me to believe this is flirting and not just her changing a little bit, as well as believe she could be into me.
So, does any of this sound like she’s flirting? Hinting and stuff like that, and what’s my best bet to go about this. Also, what’s the wrong thing to do here? | Crushes |
Genuinely can’t stop thinking about him
And I’m not even scheduled with him until Saturday 😭😭
Raaahh having a work crush is tough | Crushes |
Alright, so I've been up late nights thinking what it'd be like to finally cuddle with someone again. Very cliche stuff, but I just want to be with someone and goof around with them.
I had a boyfriend for around 3 months, but I moved away, which ultimately ended our relationship.I felt so sad not being with someone. It feels like the loneliest feeling in the world, but I knew it was for the best.
When I moved to my school, people weren't into me or anything, and I tried to be someone I wasn't. I tried being serious for some reason. People ended up hating me, and that was that. I decided to be myself for a while, but my friend group found me annoying and kicked me out after a while. Found a new friend group, which I am currently in, which is so much better.
Going back a bit, this girl in my school DMed me on Instagram, and we talked for a while, and then I asked her out because I wanted to know what it felt like to be loved again. But I didn't realise I had to be so committed, so I dumped her after 3 days of dating her. We didn't talk for a while, but around a year or so later, she messaged me, and we started talking again. She ended up coming around my house, unfortunately my first kiss, and then she unadded me on snapchat because I was clingy and stupid and overall annoying. Around a month later, she made a tiktok about me but didn't mention my name, and it hurt a little.
I don't really have a crush right now, but this guy in my PE keeps coming up to me asking if I'm alright. I'm pretty sure he likes me, but I couldn't be so sure. He goes up to me every single time without failure, and I try my best to ignore him, but I can't. I don't want to date him, but no offence to the guy, but I can't imagine myself being with him, and he looks like flat Stanley, which is not my thing.
Since my last kiss, I haven't really been into anyone, but everyone around me is in a relationship, and I feel like somebody I liked did like me, I could seriously commit to it this time around.
I can't tell if I've been falling in love or not either, which is really weird. She's in my friend group and just a nice person. I don't think I'm in love with her, and I respect she has a boyfriend, but honestly, I don't even know anything at this point of who I'm really in love with or this and that. But I JUST WANT TO BE LOVED AND LOVE THEM BACK.
This is so stupid, I'm writing this at 1am about my whole love life or whatever. Is it too much to ask for a long-term relationship when we are both adults we watch netflix shows and eat pizza and sushi? I just want to cook together with someone and go on nice dates where we laugh so hard together I can barely breathe.
If you're reading this still, thanks for listening to me. Just some rant about me wanting to be with someone I love. Thanks. | Crushes |
First ever school crush I had was white, I’m black. I didn’t know any better at the time since I was in middle school so I thought it was ok to like outside of your race even though I still do it. Ended up telling me I’m ugly and called me the hard R. Liked this guy sophomore year of highschool and he knew. we talked during the summer, only because he wanted to trauma dump on me which I didn’t mind, but that was all he used me for. Otherwise he wouldn’t give me the time of day. Junior year and I liked this light skin guy. He finds out and leads me on and becomes my actually school bully physical and emotionally. Now I am here liking a Colombian guy knowing damn well how this this going to turn out and I still like him like an idiot. | Crushes |
If you have seen me before, I like the person that rejected said bff. And there is no way I am telling her I like HIM. (Carly if you see this pls don't kill me) | Crushes |
For those who never expected that their feelings are reciprocated, what is your story? I’d like to know :)) | Crushes |
Who was the one to make the move? How long were you crushing on them? | Crushes |
Hey, so this is a bit of a continuation / update on another post I made, please read because it'll give some more context :) You don't have to, but I would appreciate if you did:
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Also (for those who read my last post) to clarify, him and I have become friends over these past few months
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So I went out with my crush and some other friends today (one of which was acting as my wingman, she knows I like him and helped me out) and it was just..
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At this point, I was on the verge of giving up on my crush, but he was weirdly touchy and close. He kept saying over and over he wasn't gay and definitely isn't into me, but gave me a piggyback ride, didn't mind me touching him and even SLAPPED MY ASS and claimed that he does that to all his male friends.. We even got pretty close to kissing (our faces were pretty close and we were looking ) but he commented on my teeth and just kinda ruined the moment..
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He knows I'm super into him too, I told him I liked him 2 weeks ago (he just said okay and didn't seem to care), he recieved screenshots of messages I sent detailing how much I like him (also said he didn't care) and I flirted with him a lot while we were together.
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My friends think he likes me but is in denial / being secretive about it, but I genuinely don't know what to do. Please help me, Reddit! I would greatly appreciate advice, thank you :P | Crushes |
Bit of a long one
Even though it has already been 5 years, I still remember everything about that day, and don't worry, no-one dies.
Anyways, in 7th grade, when I was 14, I was friends with this really nice girl in school. We were very close friends. It was after the midterm in 8th grade when I developed feelings for her, she was the purest soul I ever met. It was a kiddish crush at that time but I was mature enough to know that I should not tell my classmates and stay as friends until we were a bit older, cuz I knew she was extremely emotional. This is where the good part ends and things go south.
I think I need to give a bit of context, I was the guy who wrote down the names of latecomers in the art class and then gave it to our art instructor. Weird but true.
It was almost the end of 8th grade, maybe our 2nd last art class of the year, I was diligently doing my job. When I gave the list to him, he called this one guy by the name of his girlfriend. Literally everyone knew about this guy's relationship. Now I was standing next to him so the entire class thought that I had told him, my sudden laugh at the situation didn't help much either.
Even though I had been extremely careful, people guessed that I had a crush on her judging by how close our friendship was and then swarmed her, calling her names, some even started referring to her as my wife, now imagine, you're an 8th grader, and 20 kids just swarm you and starts calling you someone's wife, you will get overwhelmed and exactly that happened. She burst out crying and ran out of the class, I stood there angry but powerless, she didn't talk to me for the next two weeks, 2 years of friendship gone in 2 minutes. After that the year ended, I moved somewhere else, I got to know that she also moved to a different state from our mutual friend.
I lived with the regret of not talking to her about it for 2 whole years until I saw her new insta account on my recommendation, I dm'd her, talked to her about it, but our friendship was never restored.
Today I found an old picture of us and the memories came rushing in. Thought about sharing this story with you guys. | Crushes |
js a little question that i probably desperately need to be answered becuase i have no clue if the guy likes me or not…😭 | Crushes |
So my initial crush is back home, and I've been attending church trying to get my life in order. Working on it. Last week there was a cute guy, we met we talked a bit, then I saw him the next day at church he talked to me again. He seems to come up to me and ask me questions to try to get to know me. Today I saw him again, he sat next to me while we were all eating, we talked a bit but I didn't know how to talk more as a church friend and a couple other church members talked so much. He then left early. Then I heard from my church friends that he already had a girlfriend. So I feel unlucky. My mood isn't so good lately. Hope any other future guys I am interested in and I seem to click with, are single and interested. I don't want to meet another guy I think I like who has interests fitting with me and who I find attractive to be another let down. It's too tough. I guess it's ok and great if I am friends with said men through church at a distance, but wow I am struggling to keep relaxed today. I want that friend/ love interest, whatever, that gets me, that I actually like, with good things in common, who I can talk to about certain random things and have fun and love. My heart feels yearning and let down. Well at least I know I like my crush who already rejected me and this guy with a girlfriend I just got to know for a lot of reasons only I could see. Hope to keep working on myself and someone else amazing comes along. I suppose I pray to be happier, and productive. | Crushes |
I told her about my feelings 😭😭😭😭😭😭 | Crushes |
I have never been very close with any guys so I have no ideia how their brains work. Here’s the signs: I keep catching him looking at me very often, he seems to be uncomfortable and not himself around me (compared to when I see him with his friend group), and I just kinda feel this weird energy/tension when talking to him. Ik I could be biased to think that he likes me because I like him back but I’ve had crushes before and I was very aware that they didn’t like me back. He doesn’t try to get closer to me though. I also don’t bc I don’t want anyone to find out my feelings. Could he be doing the same and there be some mutual attraction? Would a guy act like this if it wasn’t the case it all? | Crushes |
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Alright, ill try to keep it as short as possible.
A few weeks ago, i found this dating app called Turnup, which is a dating app based on your musical taste. I found the idea interesting and downloaded it. Didnt find anything interesting until i came across her profile. Instant crush. AND she likes the same bands as i do (metal) and goes to the same festival im going to. I then proceed to like her profile, and turns out she liked me too, so its a match (you then have the opportunity to message the person you matched with).
After looking at her profile with a bit more attention, she put her instagram handle, so i go check it and BOOM, i realize that she followed me a few days ago, but i didnt think much of it (bc we have common friends on insta). Then the realization kicks in and i remember i also put my insta handle on my profile. Which means that she liked my profile and followed me on insta ?? I was a bit struck on the moment bc nothing this kind ever happened to me. By looking at her insta, i then remembered that we went to the same school, i was just a year higher (she lives in the village next to mine) and we have common friends, bur ive never actually talked to her irl.
On this app, you can see which bands and songs ppl like, which concert/festival theyre going to, etc. And she likes the same bands that i absolutely love too and is going to the same festival in june. And she's super cute too <3
Alright. Thats a lot of green flags for me. Now, i dont wanna mess this up. How do i start up a conversation, do i talk abt music or something else ? I have social anxiety, i struggle to start up conversations and open myself up to ppl, how do i not mess this up ? She is litteraly living rent free in my head for 2 days and its driving me insane. I crushed hard and I need to do something.
TL;DR : i (18m) matched with a girl (18f) on a dating app, turns out we like the same bands and live in the same area. She also followed me on ig. I instantly crushed on her and i really really dont wanna mess this up. How do i start up a conversation and what do i talk about ? Help !
Any help is appreciated <3
Your friendly neighbourhood introvert. | Crushes |
Whenever I start to have a healthy, normal crush on her, I get obsessed all over again. I know it’s not healthy to think about her nearly 24/7, but I can’t help it. I wanna be able to get on with my life without her distracting me, please help. | Crushes |
So I was planning on confessing to my crush tomorrow at school but she said she’s skipping school tomorrow, I really wanna confess to her tomorrow I REALLY do and i want it tomorrow i don’t wanna delay anymore. So would be weird if i asked her now (12am in my country) to not to skip school? (Ik she isn’t sleeping rn because she always sleeps really late but if she was, i will delete the message and pretend nothing happened) | Crushes |
i have this crush and i just want to see if he falling into any of the signs, and get the small hope that he maybe likes me back. | Crushes |
3 days ago this guy I was talking to initiated a convo with me. He was sending mixed signals that confused the fuck out of me so I blocked him. He texted me a question on his other account to which I answered it. But he kept saying I was lying about my reply which pissed me off even though I kept telling him the truth. This went on for a while and I was irritated that the chats weren’t going anywhere. So I decided to ask him “if you think I’m lying, what do YOU THINK my reply means??” And he says “oh idk” I was so frustrated. So much back and fourth for just a “oh idk”??? I felt like i was talking to a toddler. I was laughing cuz how mad I was getting!! I genuinely felt like my time was wasted! I was getting bad shitty vibes from him.
So after that I didn’t text him AT ALL the next day. He seems to text me when he’s bored but when he has someone to chat to he will completely ignore all my messages. Anyways around midnight I was sent a text from him and it woke me from my sleep.
It was already 12am. He sent me a meme. I was waken up at 12 in the damn morning for a meme….I figured he wanted to start a convo so despite me being tired i still put effort in my text. He didn’t even reply ….until the next day 10 hours later. Now this is where I start to get crazy.
This is the equivalent of texting someone hey at 12 in the morning just for them to reply and NOT text them back the entire day.
And all he said was “lol”. Are you fucking kidding me? My reply wasn’t even funny.. And his reply didn’t even make sense to mine! Why the hell would a guy send a meme in the first place? I waited 10 hours for a “lol”????? If I knew that was gonan happen I wouldn’t have replied in the first place!!!
My Frustration is misplaced because I haven’t spoken to this guy in like a while so just engaging in this stuff makes me realize that this isn’t normal to experience? If that makes sense. | Crushes |
he isn’t active on social media and i know some of his classes but i don’t know how to go up to him and talk to him, we don’t share any classes together and have never spoken before but i want to get to know him, what’s a way to talk without being awkward, like starting out becoming friends maybe | Crushes |
in 2018, the 7th grade, i started crushing on this guy in my class. now, 5 years later, i'm in the 11th grade and i still like the same guy but i'm not sure if it's a crush anymore. i'm not sure if it was ever just a crush cause i've had "side" crushes that came and went but the feelings i have for this boy are so strong, it doesn't seem right to just call it a crush. but i'm not sure about calling it "love" either. when talking about him, i always end up all giggly over him and smiling so big its insane. i think about him everyday and whenever i see him, i get the sickest case of the butterflies. he's so perfect in my eyes. we almost started something, me and him, back in late 2019/early 2020 because we ended up in the same small friend group in our science class but in march 2020, covid hit and school closed and i lost contact with not just him, but nearly all of my old friends. i still have his number in my phone, if he didn't change it. ever since school started back up again in fall 2021, we haven't spoken even once. we have 1 class together. through the 5 years that i've liked him, my attraction to him never waned. i once saw something in an article that said "if a crush lasts longer than 4 months, it's love." ever since, i've been wondering if thats true and if i really am in love with a boy who doesn't love me back. please help me!! | Crushes |
Aight. I posted here before but haven't gotten far.
I (m16) messaged my crush (m14/15) on Snap after finding him there. I wanted to talk online because I can't deal with social situations with people I don't know. He ofc didn't reply to my message. I'm pretty sure he doesn't know who I am and that's why he didn't respond.
I kinda wanna make it up but still can't bring myself to talk to him IRL. Does anyone think I can fix this online? In general advice would be nice. | Crushes |
There’s this girl in my grade that I really like, I can’t explain why cause we dont have any classes together or anything I just see her in the hallway from time to time. My friends said I should text her but Im too nervous and don’t know what to say.
The girl has this friend I used to have a small crush on, but my other friend payed an absurd amount of money for a gift and sent it to her in my name so it made it look like I was just falling really hard.
I want to talk to her, but I think she thinks Im a weirdo. | Crushes |
My crush has been staring into my eyes very intensely (almost felt like he was looking through me), and especially looked at me when I was smiling or laughing. He smelt like he drowned himself in cologne and did that thing where guys take their shirt off, and the undershirt rides up to expose his stomach. He would lean in very close to me to view something on my laptop even if it was within reach, and would crack jokes with me a lot. I was sending some subtle flirtatious gestures such as swooping my hair back to expose my chest more, staring into his eyes, smiling, sitting close to him without invading his space too much and I had followed him on insta a few days prior after months of talking to him and not being friends on social media. We were making a lot of hand contact as he was demonstrating this physics concept to me (but even before that, he would place his hand really close to mine). I guess he took that as his sign to advance further and press one knee against my butt and the other against my leg for a few secs. Neither of us moved, but I felt shocked and uncomfortable as he did not normally do that (I think I can maybe recall one other time he did that, but at the time he seemed much less interested in me). Towards the end, it seemed like he was hinting at talking or meeting up again sometime without actually asking (and being very subtle), and I don't exactly remember what I replied with, but I told him I had a lab I had to go to soon, so I ended it a bit short in the most polite way possible. He said bye to me twice as I was walking away, which he also doesn't normally do (but I felt like his were glued to me as I was leaving, possibly even my butt as I just so happened to be wearing leggings that day). What confuses me is the fact that two days before, I saw him eating out with this girl in the campus dining center (but I also saw him doing something similar with one of his lady friends last semester). He has many lady friends, so I don't know whether to feel like crap for flirting with him because he may be dating someone exclusively, or if it is just something casual and not too worry too much. I also feel confused because not long ago he was being very avoidant towards me and wouldn't do so much as just give me fist bumps very rarely, which seems like the most friendzone gesture ever. So why the sudden change? Could it be that I followed him on insta and he saw this side of me where I can look pretty if I put more effort? Is he really that superficial, or is he using me as a backburner? He was pretty intimate with this girl who hated me (she is also obsessed as she stares at me a lot, is always the top of my insta story viewer list and top 3 to like my insta posts) last semester around the time he was uninterested in me and avoiding me, but I think she broke it off with him (not that they were in a serious relationship anyway). He still likes her posts on insta and tries to get her attention, so he does not seem to be over her. It just hurts that now that he seems more interested in me, he still isn't putting as much effort with me as he did with that girl. That girl also happened to spread a shitty rumor about that could've gotten him into a lot of trouble, when it turns out that she was exaggerating it (I am sure he knew since word gets around fast, but still stuck around her). He also didn't like my insta post, but liked my more attractive friend's insta post in under an hour (even though they do not talk to each other much and she is in a relationship, which is obvious to see if he look at the posts she was tagged in with her bf). I strongly suspect he is a player and is most likely flirting with me out of boredom or need for validation especially since he is no longer interacting with that girl he was intimate with. But a lot of the gestures and mannerisms he has been portraying feel like signs of genuine interest, or at least some kind of physical attraction. I feel like I make him laugh a lot and generally have a good personality, and he has great charisma, so it seems like we have good chemistry together. I just feel like something is definitely holding him back from pursuing me. I just don't know anymore and I am scared to get hurt again, but at the same time I really like him when I feel I shouldn't bc he has been a bit of an asshole before and manipulative. | Crushes |
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https://www.reddit.com/r/Crushes/comments/11hkuuq/should_i_post_the_story/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
so turns out that i actually had him hidden so i unhid. then when i went to go check if he saw it, he actually did pretty quickly. then he unhid me from his story. also i unhid me probably some time ago but not to where he could’ve found out about it (i think, hopefully).
we both left it at that so i have no idea how Monday is gonna go. also is there a reason why he hid me in the first place bc this game is funny to me? 😭 | Crushes |
I was thinking about doing that for like a week or more now, but there’s always a reason that makes me back out. I was determined that I’m gonna confess to her tomorrow but she’s planning to skipping school tomorrow, and I don’t wanna delay it any longer, so i’ve been thinking of confessing to her through text, but our last chat was of me teasing her and she was pretty teased, so please help me out whether i should do it over text or wait until Tuesday. And if i should do it now please help me with ideas. I was planning, if it was face to face, to tell her about my feelings directly. But now, thinking of doing through text it can a little more complicated. | Crushes |
I was really surprised when my chat in-game popped up and it was from him. We play this game called Genshin Impact and it's an open-world RPG and players can co-op in each other's world.
He asked me if I'm doing quests and if need help at the moment. I don't always get to play with him so I agreed right away. We talked a lot more than we played. He told me it sucks that I can't go to his world yet because my level is still low. I kind of laughed when he asked me "can I go into your world now?" so we can start our co-op gaming, I thought to myself at that time, he's my crush and he's always gonna be a part of my world. Haha.
I was making assumptions that he likes me because it takes a great deal of mental preparations for introverts to reach out to someone...or maybe he's just a good friend who's trying to be nice to help me get better in the game. | Crushes |
I’m going to try not to make this incredibly long, but it probably will be, so I will have a TL:DR if it is.
So, to skip on the looong backstory, I’ll just start by introducing S. We met in theater class in freshman year, and from then on I was hooked. We talked off and on for two years, with MANY ups and downs. Eventually we went on a date, though neither of us called it that, and it went pretty well.
The morning after I told her outright that, if she couldn’t tell, I liked her, and she responded with “I sure can tell.”
Ouchie. I was pretty hurt, and we stopped talking. For about 3 months I had avoided her.
Our school theater performance was coming up, and we were both involved. I knew I’d have to talk to her eventually. We made good small talk, and she eventually texted me out of the blue to apologize for her text 3 months prior. I forgave her, but it still hurt. Whatever.
It should be noted that I never stopped crushing on her regardless.
At rehearsals for the performance she starts getting more touchy. She wants me to follow her everywhere, she sits next to me, our legs touching, occasionally resting her head on my shoulder. It’s sweet, but I try not to overthink it.
On the third and final night, the producers of the show usually host a party for the entire cast of around 40 people. I’d been having a pretty shit day, so I wasn’t planning on going. But S needed a ride home, so I agreed to take her to the party.
However, my mom wanted me home by 12, so we would have 30 minutes at the party before we had to leave. We decided that our time was better spent elsewhere, so we went back to a dock by the river we had sat at a few days earlier.
It was dark, and the moon was beautiful. We sat and talked, watching the occasional dolphin popping up through the chop. Eventually we laid down, feet hanging off the dock, and I did my best to point out all the stars I knew by name. While I was doing this, she put her arm around my face and started playing with my hair.
In that moment, everything was right. The only interruption was when we would check the time to see how long we had left, and groan about how we wished it could last forever.
Eventually, though, we did leave.
The whole ride to her house she rested her head on my lap, and her hand on my thigh. All I could think about was how much trust she had in me. I nearly cried.
I was scratching her shoulder slowly, only taking my hand off to shift gears. Eventually, she moved my hand to her head, where I played with her hair. After I woke her up a little, she got sad realizing how close we were to her house. She gathered her stuff and left, telling me thanks for driving her, and that she’d see me on Monday. I replied, suggesting that we should do this again on spring break, to which she agreed.
The drive home was bittersweet. I wanted nothing more than to be back on that dock, gazing at the stars with S.
TL:DR: I think my crush of two and a half years finally likes me back. | Crushes |
So, i have a crush on this girl and im pretty sure she has a crush on me too but we started talking like 3 months ago and she lives 4h away from me and we haven’t even met in person yet but we text everyday and send each other (❤️🤭🥰☺️) type of emojis and say good morning and good night, say stuff like ”ily/ilysm” (omg i’m cringing at myself i’m sorry) but i don’t know if i should confess or not cause we haven’t met in person and idk if it’s a good idea | Crushes |
I (19F) have been talking to my best friend about my last interactions with my crush (18M) and she thinks that it looks I am also giving him mixed signals now. How do I ask him out? Do I just say 'I like you, wanna go out with me?'
I think he likes me because he acknowledges that he asked me to study with me on Valentines day and he clearly emphasized 'Valentines Day'.
However he is pretty shy and so am I but I am afraid I won't see him next term (we are in college) so I have decided I really should just shoot my shot. I have never asked anyone out before. Help me out lol | Crushes |
I (25M) have a crush on a coworker (30F) but I don't know if it's "real" or just my brain pranking me because of "affection shock".
My 4 year relationship ended in November: she (30F) became obsessed with getting a high paying job immediately and was willing to throw everything else away to get it; she adopted a hugely toxic behaviour like asking me not to talk to her about my life because the relationship should focus only on her. I tried everything in my power to help her realising what she was doing: I always accepted her ambitious nature but she always realised when her ambition was becoming obsession, this time something broke. She then left me.
A few months earlier, I lost my job but quickly found another. I met this girl and I like to have her around: she is very smart, honest, strong-willed and arrogant (in both a good and a bad way, sometimes). I think she likes to have me around her: she reaches for me, asks me out (in group), she is also a bit cuddly at times (she is very sociable so I don't think these counts as signals she has the same sympathy for me). Right now she is not in a relationship but I think that if she wanted one she wouldn't struggle to find a good and handsome man (I mean, I'm good but a little too much skinny-fat).
I think I have a serious crush on her right now, but I don't know what to do. Is it real? And if it is, is it something worth pursuing? How? I also fear I might idealize her or that she might hurt me in the future. What should I do?... | Crushes |
(English is not my first language, sorry if i write anything wrong)
I'm a 15yo girl and two days ago I was in school waiting for my friend's mom to pick her up (I'll call her "L"), we were with another older friend just talking and doing funny stuff. Then she went home and I stayed there waiting for my mother while I was talking to the older guy.
Suddenly he asked me "are you sure you're a lesbian?" and I said yes, then he asked me "do you like L?", I was shocked bc I never thought about it before, he kept saing that he noticed by the way I was all shy with her and stuff and I couldn't stop thinking about during the night.
Idk how to differentiate platonic love from romantic love, and I'm still confused about it.
Even though it sounds like an outburst, I wanted to ask: how do I know if I'm in love? | Crushes |
I had a crush on my friend for a year, and after long session of thinking and debating with my bestie i decided that i should tell him. He deserves to know, with a little bit of luck we can stay friends afterwards. I'm 90% sure that I will get friendzoned, but I won't know if he feels the same if I won't try!
If I get super lucky(not gonna happen xD) then we will start dating!
If not, then I will try to move on.
Sadly, he is kinda busy now and can't meet, but i can wait. I waited to tell him for 3 months, but didn't have a courage, a little more waiting won't hurt.
(sorry if there are any language mistakes, english is not my first language) | Crushes |
I like one of my closest friends and I don't wanna lose him as a friend but at the same time I want him to be mine please help what should I do ? | Crushes |
I keep thinking about him. Constantly. He’s so pretty. So damn charming to the point where it literally makes me cry lol | Crushes |
Hey, 21f here. This may be all in my head, please do be honest. But have you ever met someone and felt that ‘you may not be right now, but you will be eventually important in my life.’ ??
I met someone half a year ago that makes me feel that way, our chemistry was sudden. The day I met him I felt he would be something important but I wasn’t focused on that because I had more pressing things in my life to deal with: I didn’t want to deal with guys or anything outside of my responsibilities. I am finally settled and happy where I am in my life and recently the feeling has grown and gotten louder in a way: I’ve been quick to speak with him frequently and he’s been reciprocating that, we were alone just three days ago and instead of trying to take advantage of it — I ran. He seemed a little disappointed, I wish I hadn’t. I should have seen how it felt to interact entirely alone, with nobody else around to interrupt us. That ‘what if’ has been on my mind the last few days. I am hopeless ;;
I hate it, lowkey. Because I can’t tell if it is my intuition or something else that is clouding my judgement.
I have had this feeling only twice now in my life and the first time I was correct, they eventually did become a lover but things didn’t work out due to conflicting schedules and life goals. I also moved 1,000+ miles away to find myself, I finally have and I am so happy.
I haven’t allowed this to influence me too much but I definitely get flustered around them until the banter starts and we are both giggling at a joke he cracked. I do not enjoy that I also can’t gauge if it reciprocated because of how loud my own feelings are. I can’t seem to shake him off.
If you have ever met someone that has made you feel that way: how did it go? Where are you at now? Share if you please. | Crushes |
I'm failing in love with the shy guy of class. Any advices from does who already know how to flirt? | Crushes |
**Getting involved with someone else is the best way to get over a crush or rejection, imo.** Go on that dating app and find someone new who's actually worth it, or start giving the person who likes you some attention, and you'll eventually lose feelings for your crush. I know you're having a hard time getting over them, and you're trying things like journaling or venting, but it probably won't work.
I personally tried so hard to hate my ex-crush; I even blocked him, but that didn't work for me. I kept unblocking him and replying to his texts even though he's a disrespectful perv and you know why? because I was attention-deprived, lol. Just the thought of my 'crush' flirting with me over text despite dating some other girl made me feel better about myself because I liked the attention he gave me and I feel so shitty rn. I can't believe I let myself get treated like that, even though he saw me as his second option.
I took my own advice and met this guy at an event who's totally my type and treats me so well omg. I can actually imagine a future with him. | Crushes |
so basically ive known this girl for about a year now and weve gotten really close, we hang out all the time,she walks me to and back from school,we never argue, in a whole shes just a really great person to be around.
but theres one thing. i like her. i allways have like since the day i saw her ive had a crush on her, but not just because of her looks. its everything about her. her personalitly, her smile,the way she dresses, the way she talks. but theres one thing i didnt know about her. she likes me to. i only found this out maybe 7 months ago?? and we both havent gotten over it,i think she still likes me. she always gives me THAT look, were really touchy with eachother, we honestly just act like were in a relationship. but she has a boyfriend.
dont take it like im in a friendzone because im not, its different. i catch her staring at me 247, she calls me beautiful and i know its normal but i think she means it in a different way, she talks to other people about me (in a good way), whenever i look at her she either blushes, smiles or we just stare at eachother intill one of us breaks out laughing.
i think the only reason why she hasnt asked me to be with her is because she doesnt want other people knowing shes bisexual which is understandable because when a girl and a girl are together i feel like its more obvious than not. shes a really sweet girl, were best friends but i just dont know how to tell her because im worried she doesnt like me back.
i really need some advice | Crushes |
I’ve been working at my company for about 5 years now and I’ve become attracted to my coworker.
When she first started I didn’t really pay too much attention to her. We rarely spoke and seeing how it was during the pandemic, their wasn’t really much opportunity to actually talk with one another. We also rarely had overlapping tasks at the time so I never gave her too much thought.
About a year ago, my tasks got reassigned to cover hers as well. We also started going back into the office on a semi regular basis. We became work besties pretty quickly.
Come to find find out she’s in a relationship that’s always looking like it will end. I had met her bf a couple of times, nice guy but they just seem incompatible. She always feels comfortable enough to tell me all the intimate details of their relationship as well. I find myself thinking that I would be a better option for her. Outside of work we hangout very regularly and always communicate with each other. We get along really well, and it hit me im crushing on her hard. I can’t stop thinking about her. She’s stated that in unrelated conversations how her type would be something I don’t look like at all, and that how a coworker isn’t a potential drama she would want. I knew she was trying to give me the hint that I’m not what she would be looking for.
As time has gone on, she’s expressed a desire to leave the company and move. It’s so heart crushing to hear, because I know that while I’m not her type and a relationship with her wouldn’t work, I’m scarred of the idea of her not being around. We’ve become really great friends, and I don’t know how I would handle not having that anymore. | Crushes |
hii i have a problem. Why is it so easy for me to talk to guys (classmates) I dont find attractive but when it comes to my crush/es its so hard for me when I know they’re just the same with any other guy. like I wanna talk to my crush/es just like how i talk with other guys. helpp | Crushes |
Idk if this is just me but I'm terrified when it comes to looking my crush in his eyes- so what I do is I look at him through either the mirror reflection or through the reflection of my computer since he sits behind me... I feel like this is just a me thing tho lmao | Crushes |
It’s been a while since I liked someone and my last crush experience was really traumatic so I made sure that if I do like someone again, I’ll be careful with my actions and be more thoughtful. Anyway, I finally found someone I genuinely like and I met him in my PE class. We are actually group mates and we have very few interactions during class. However, last Wednesday, we chatted for a bit and when it was dismissal time, we were going down the elevator when he offered to drive me & my friend home. I was really shy and all but that moment really encouraged me to shoot my shot because I thought there was a potential there. Being the shy person that I am, in exchange for that car ride, I offered to help him in his quiz for this one subject by sending him a cheat sheet from a friend who was in the same class as him. Because of that, I was able to start a conversation via Messenger and we kind of had a few banters. He even called me a “passenger princess 👸🏻” ya’ll. THAT GAVE ME BUTTERFLIES. After a while he took so long to respond, around 5-6 hours. I sent him the cheat sheet, then after that he said, “thank you.” I then told him, “no problem, I gotchu. make sure to study though because I’m not sure if the cheat sheet is exactly the same as the exam.” HE NEVER RESPONDED AFTER THAT. NOT EVEN A READ, A REACT, A SEEN. MAN COMPLETELY GHOSTED ME.
Right after that though, I couldn’t stop thinking about him. I was overthinking that maybe he found me flirty and annoying. So, I tried to send a bit more signals that I like him. I added him as the only person in my close friends list on Instagram and posted a story of “Strawberries & Cigarettes” by Troye Sivan. He immediately saw it and even heart reacted to my story.
So, what do I do now? Do I stop liking and ignore him completely? Or give it another shot? If I do give it another shot, how do I do it? | Crushes |
So there's this guy i really liked i have been crushing on him for over a year then i decided to tell him that i like him he said "uhhhh wow" and "sorry" idk now I still like him tho | Crushes |
HOW DOES ONE FLIRT SUBTLY AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA | Crushes |
Okay so I've been talking to this guy, he is from my high-school,we are the same age but he is year junior.a we have been talking on insta for past 2 weeks now. I planned to ask him out on 21 March when my exams end, but today he hasn't replied for 17 hours, normally the max is like 5 hours. I excuse aa he might me busy. But the important part is he saw my story but still hasn't replied, which means he was online. Now idk if he is gonna reply or not, if he doesn't it's the end anyway but if he does what do i do? Should I reply or just end it? If I reply should I follow the plan of asking him out on 21st or just let it go?
Just tell me whatever yall think would be right pls | Crushes |
So I, M14, kind of have a crush on this girl (F16). I'm saying kind of here, because we never really met up, but chat everyday and I really like her. She is definitely interested in me too in some way, otherwise she wouldn't be checking up on what I'm doing so often (I guess). Now, I have asked if she'd like to meet up, just for a walk, even together with a friend of hers, over text, but they either kind of ignored it or said they were busy without suggesting another day. I feel like she / her and her friend don't want to meet up, even if it is completely platonic. Is it because of the age difference or because of something else? I feel like things would be a lot easier if we met up and I don't really see a point in not doing so
Thanks | Crushes |
Last easter I(15nb) met this boy(15m) and I just cant stop thinking about him. It was a scoutcamp and we got placed into the same group, so the five days there we talked alot. I have never met anyone like him before and I guess that really stuck out to me.
He is confident in himself, he has no problem joking around but he is also sensetive, hugs his best friend good night and can talk about his feelings. He has brown curly hair, blue eyes and paints his nails. He dresses kinda alt and listens to 80's rock music. His hands are androgynos and when he focuses he scratches his chin slowly.
When the camp ended almost everyone used commut traffic to get home and he offerd my friend group to sitt next to his. When I got home I listend to some of the music he had recommended and then I texted him about it, saying was good. We talked a bit on text after that , on and off in fall. Then in february I ran into him on a open house for a school. I actually didnt see him until he made a suprised face and said
-hey (instert my name), you're here! I didnt expect that.
On the inside I kinda just died right there and the only think I manage to say was : hey! You are also hereee....
After I got home I message him and we talked a bit about the school and stuff. I recently got snapchat so I asked to add him and since then we have been snapping back and forth. We mostly just send face pics and sometime we talk about just small stuff.
Then he just ignored me for 8 days. He didnt open my snap and I could se his snap score go up. He finally answerd , just a normal pic of him. I dont know why, but it bothers me more then I want to. He dosent like me, but Im still just waiting for him to snap me. I dont know what to do and I just wish this was easier.
(Sorry for spelling, english isnt my first language) | Crushes |
i(f21) have been talking to this guy(m27) for a few weeks and tonight he just started asking me questions like if i ever wanted to get married, have a long time partner, or have kids. it’s just been a few weeks or so and he’s always expressed how much he enjoys being around me/chatting together but i’m oblivious as hell and idk if this means he’s interested in me romantically lmao help | Crushes |
I think I may have weirded out or made my crush uncomfortable. Do I try to set things straight or should I try improve the relationship in other ways? | Crushes |
So a bit of context my friends helping me get with a girl I like. He posted on he’s IG a pic of me saying how much I love a band that she also likes (it’s not a lie I do genuinely like the band). The idea was that she would notice that we love the same band. She basically commented saying “best band” but what was interesting to me is the fact that soon after she changed her pfp to the lead singer of the band. I can’t tell if this is random or she’s doing it because she knows I like it idk. Please reply with what you think. Thank you for listening | Crushes |
I only have his instagram and I know he likes cars and going to the gym.
What do I say to him to start conversation?
Or do I say some cheesy pick up line?
Or ask if he’s single ?? 😭
Why is it so embarrassing to shoot your shot. | Crushes |
If you've seen my previous posts, I'm madly in love with my crush. But even though he makes me so happy, I'm intimidated by these feelings. I want this to be forever or even for a long time. It makes me feel selfish to hope for him to want these things too. I feel like I'm forcing him to do this even though he tells me he wants this. He's a sweet guy and I get no negative vibes from him, but I'm filled with anxiety. I think it's the idea of entering a relationship that's scaring me. I'm scared I'll be a bad girlfriend, and I'm scared we'll split.
This guy is my best friend, I can't bear to lose him again. I want him in my life no matter what. He tells me he cares about me and that he wants to be with me too, but my brain somehow convinces me that he hates me. He's done nothing but be kind to me. I hate how much my anxiety is getting in the way of this relationship. I want this so bad. I was ready for it yesterday then suddenly, I'm not and then, I'm ready again. This is so weird. If you read this, thanks for hearing me out. | Crushes |
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