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I’m about to go to bed so if you see this, help a girl out:
I talk to my crush everyday, and we talk on the phone almost every night, I can never tell if he likes me back, it always seems back and forth, give me some things to do or say that will get me a better idea on if I should actually make my move! | Crushes |
New guy came to my work for the summer, he’s from france and came here to improve his english. He is out of a romance book for real. . . The other day we looked into each other’s eyes so deeply after I told a joke and he stepped closer to me to walk by and he’s like 6 feet tall so our faces are close but he is taller and he had this wide smile, and for a split second we were suspiciously close to each other, long story short I got butterflies 🦋 | Crushes |
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So I have a crush on this girl and she is really pretty and I see whenever I go to soccer training. I really want to talk but I don’t know how to go up to talk to her. | Crushes |
so I texted my crush like a week ago and I have no idea what to say or do next because I feel like it would be weird to just say “hi how’s it going” again after just a week. Any tips or ideas would be greatly appreciated | Crushes |
I (awkwardly) told my crush I like her today, and she likes me back! But I'm not sure what to do now, because school just ended today and we live too far apart to hang out. I have her discord though, so we can still talk. What should I do? | Crushes |
Our church youth group went swimming and me(guy), my friend(guy, other friend(girl), and crush(girl), were playing with this weighted ball, and doing like a 2v2 keep away, and my friend was guarding one girl who had the ball, and I was guarding my crush, I’ve known her for a while and she wasn’t hesitant to grab my arm to push me away which I’m not surprised about, but what did surprise me is that she remembered that I was ticklish on my stomach, it surprised me because the last time I remember telling her was when we were little (8-10) probably. So that happened | Crushes |
Kind of a big step for me because if he doesn’t feel the same, I don’t want to ruin our friendship. I sent him a snap selfie and he sent one back. I sent one again and he said “aww how cute” and so I said that his were cute too and I told him I thought he was very attractive. He replied with “thank you, I appreciate that”
What do I doooooooo?? | Crushes |
ive liked this girl for a couple of months now and i don't think she likes me back, i've told her but never asked her if she likes me back because i don't wanna be a pain in the ass and make her talk to me. i always feel like she likes me and i also don't, i don't know her well and she doesn't know me well and i don't wanna force me and her to be good buddies bc. just dont wanna.
i have tomorrow and the day after then it's summer, i feel like i should just try but there's something in me holding me back. i genuinely feel like its a waste of time and i keep trying to think positive but i just cant. "if stuff dont go right, it wasnt meant to be" "there's plently of fish in the sea" "I'll be fine" stuff like that i keep saying to myself.
is there a point in me trying to talk to her? or should i shoot my shot while i have the chance still, i think.
anything will be helpful. | Crushes |
ok, i met my crush at a summer camp. we are really similar because we both… my username is asusgomogsus, that explains enough. unfortunately, the camp ended before i could ask her for any form of communication. and i have no social skills, so i never even got her name. what makes it extra confusing is everyone started calling her a completely different name on the last day. is there anything i can do? my cousin also went to the camp, she’s also a girl, and i think they got eachother’s text. i would just ask my cousin (who is the same age as me), but that would be awkward. what do i do? | Crushes |
I’ve been thinking. Thinking about a lot of things. But the main one has been how we ended up. I know we never dated and we weren’t even that close of friends but something made me fall for you last November. I don’t exactly know what. It was probably a combination of things.
I’ve been thinking about how I felt when you first told me no. It was horrible. I was embarrassed and, in a lot of pain. I full on expected a yes as the 2 girls I had liked before, there never was any chance with them. Their both long stories but I had hoped this time it could be different. I’ve come to learn that I shouldn’t really expect a yes. No matter how good your chances may seem.
I know it’s strange for the two of us now. We haven’t really talked or interacted in a while and the only reason we would is because I was getting snacks for lunch and you were working that day.
But I think you should hear this. Even though you said no, and you may be angry, or upset, disappointed, annoyed or whatever it is. I want you to know I’m thankful for having you as my friend. I think your a great person. You and Bella were the only 2 people who showed me kindness that one Thursday at pe when I was terrified out of my mind because of what happened the day before. And I’m thankful for that. Not many people are like that, at least the ones I know. You saw the fear and the pain in me when most others saw weakness and cowardice.
You are a great person and you helped me a lot. Even if you don’t know it. Sometimes the only thing that would get me through a hard day was thinking about a fun time with you, like when I accidentally sprayed water in your face from my bottle and we were all laughing like it was the funniest thing ever.
Without you I may have never even stuck with wrestling. Those first few practices were tough and sometimes the only thing getting me through them was me thinking to myself “what would she want to see from me?”. Now I’ve find my favorite sport and something to plan to stick with all the way through.
I know that may seem a bit or maybe really creepy but it’s the truth. I’m thankful the thought of you helped motivate me to be the best I was at that sport. Even if you weren’t physically there mentally you were always cheering me on up in my head.
I like that. You gave me the vibe of someone who would cheer on your friends and people you care about for some reason. And I think that’s good.
Right now, I plan to work on myself. Watch some tv shows and movies. Train. Maybe write some more stories of my own.
I hope you have fun with soccer and volleyball and track. You do your things I’ll do mine, it’s probably for the best.
I can’t say I’m perfect. I’ve still got a lot of things to deal with and personal demons to fight. Things that no one knows about for a reason.
But for the most part, I’m ok. I’m ok that I didn’t get the answer I hoped. I’m ok that I’m alone right now. Because no matter what, I’ll be fine.
As bad it’s going to sound I’ve been through a lot worse then this, and I’m still in one piece.
And that’s what matters.
Wish you the best,- a friend | Crushes |
I kinda forgot about this subreddit, but I have made so many accomplishments! I asked my crush to the school dance, and she said yes! A couple weeks later, I fully confirmed that I had had a crush on her. She also revealed that she did too. Now we’re officially dating, and we had a great time at the dance. I have even hugged her and held hands with her. I know this all sounds corny, but use this as motivation! I wish everyone the best of luck with their crush! | Crushes |
I know for many of us it may be unreciprocated by our crush's but the feeling of truly loving someone is so pure and genuine.
I want to be clear I mean Love not lust. The idea of someone may seen nice but if you truly love someone you love them whole. Every part of then even the flaws which to me I like because I can see them as a human. Not some perfect angel when that doesn't exist in reality. You love their physical features, their personality, their morals, how they treat others etc etc
It's a very random post but idk, I have a crush and hopefully I'll continue to get to know her but I genuinely want the best for her. I mean fingers crossed that's me lol but idk she is just something else and I know she's been through a few rough patches lately. I hope she gets through them and gets to do everything she wants cause she's amazing and I hope she doesn't change her values and morals cause to me she's got the right balance if everything :)
God pls gimme a chance 🥲 | Crushes |
I (18f) just got out of a two year relationship a few months ago and I finally feel ready to start getting out there again. I just literally have no clue on how to start up a conversation with a guy over text. There’s this guy I’m interested in talking to, but I haven’t talked to him in so long idk how to do so without making it awkward. someone please help lol | Crushes |
Okay Everyone, Read Please. There Is A Six Feet Tall Ghostly Bride Animatronic That Home Depot Had Last Year That I Very Unfortunately Was Not Able To Get Last Year. It Has The Exact Same Tall Height That I Do. I Am Madly Infatuated With It And I Must Honestly Say I Have Developed A Tremendous Crush On It. I Pray And Knock On FRICKING WOOD That Home Depot Brings Her Back Again This Year So That Way I Can Get Her This Year. Please Everyone Please Pray And Knock On FRICKING WOOD That Home Depot Brings Her Back Again This Year So That Way I Can Get Her This Year. I NEED HER.
2017 | Crushes |
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I (18 F bisexual) and my boyfriend (20 M poly) have been together for one week, we met June 5th and have been together since June 16th. Yesterday he disclosed to me that he has feelings for one of my friends (who I introduced to him prior to us getting together).
I've already explained that I have accepted the fact that he is poly however that is something I am not personally into. I don't know how to explain to him that him forming a relationship with my friend would negatively impact my insecurities and make me unhappy in our relationship, as if I'm not enough for him. | Crushes |
Seven months ago, I (16F) went to my best friend's (16M) birthday party. The night before, I had felt my stomach ache and knot, and I was filled with anxiety, like I knew something was gonna go wrong, but I ignored it, didn't tell anyone and assumed I was just paranoid. The night of the party, we made out. He initiated it and I didn't hold back. It was only a one time thing and it never happened again.
The next morning, I was shocked. I couldn't put my head around what had happened, it seemed very much unreal. I got terrified. I stopped talking to him, without giving anyone any kind of explanation. I was shaking every time he passed by me (and we shared all of our classes). I knew I liked what had happened, I knew I wanted it to happen again, but I was too much of a coward to face anything.
He put signs here and there, showing me that he was willing to continue with this. I wanted it to become something more too, but as I said, I was a coward. I did everything wrong. I messed up for real.
We were pretty distant for about three months. I wasn't feeling comfortable talking to him, and since he is actually a pretty smart guy, he saw how I stood on things and stopped trying. We had a few fights, but we managed to make up for the lost time and we became closer than ever before, as friends.
The thing is, I actually like him. Well, I don't just like him. It's more than that. I don't wanna say "I've fallen in love", but I definitely feel emotionally attached to him.
A few weeks ago, I finally told him that I was interested in him. I knew I would get rejected (and I did [?], will elaborate on that later). I didn't do it because I expected something good to come out of it, I did it because I couldn't hold it in me anymore. We almost got into a fight again. I told him some things, maybe not exactly how I wanted to, but I tried my best.
He stated that he wasn't interested. And that's okay, I would never make a big deal out of that. But his reaction was weird. Right after I told him that I was interested in him, he shouted "FINALLY", hugged me tightly, kissed me on the arm and told me to call him when I got home (i was a few minutes away).
I didn't call him, just so you know. I got scared again.
I've been very distant after that. I don't know how to feel about it. I thought that after speaking to him about this I would feel better, but I just feel more and more confused each time I see him.
He has always been a "physical affection" kind of guy. Kisses on the cheek/arms/hands, hugs etc. And it wasn't weird to me before, but now, even though he knows how I feel about him, he ASKS for a kiss on the cheek from me and even goes his way to give me pecks while hugging me.
It didn't feel weird before but it does know. It makes me both uncomfortable and confused.
I know he's always been like this, but shouldn't it kind of ring a bell that... y'know... treating a girl -who you know that she likes you- like this is...not the most "normal" thing in the world?
Last time he asked me for a kiss on his cheek I went my way and asked him "isn't it weird for me to kiss you when you know all of this?" And his answer was "no, why should it be?".
I may be overthinking a lot of this, but something just doesn't seem right.
I know I've been distant for a while now. I really miss him. I called him about two weeks ago and apologized for that. He told me to take all the time I need and not worry about it a single bit.
I just don't really know how to feel about this. I don't know how to interpret it. Any ideas people?
I'll be happy to answer any questions that may come up! | Crushes |
so im friends with this guy, and we recently only started becoming closer in the past couple months. we met through a mutual friend and a class we had together.
now only recently, he's started jokingly picking on me. he does this with everyone but not to the same extent he does to me. we bully each other a lot, but it's always a lot more??? physical??? there's always a lot of physical contact and it's just so weird to me. he doesn't put this type of contact with other friends. he's also a foot taller than me and always makes fun of how short i am compared to him.
gentlemen, does it mean anything? | Crushes |
haven't seen them for over a month since last time met them outside by chance. dk how theyre going and when I can see them again. miss them so much! | Crushes |
Update: I got my closure from the guy I really liked… the only thing that bothers me is that he told me he liked me but decided to distance himself even though I would constantly tell him that I liked him and decided to get a girlfriend which I found out through Facebook.
Even after we talked about it and I got the answers I was looking for I decided to block him on every social media I knew him on because (I really don’t care if this is a petty reason) he posted him and his girlfriend together with a heart saying “happy 1 month” which made me mentally snap, he rarely posts anything on his instagram (let alone his story) and it was a dagger to the heart when I saw it. The only sucky part is I have to constantly see him at my workplace but baby steps right?
Side note: I don’t conversate with him unless it has anything to do with work. I would say it sucks that it has to be like that but I know me and I just want to be happy and put this behind me | Crushes |
An its like nooo cos that was the only time in the day we got to be close together an I moved
I hope I make up for it tomorrow
I was also moody on the night so did t say a word in the car when we was both getting dropped off
I waited like 40 minutes for him to get off his phone at work while I was sorting my work an he was on it the whole time, phone call then practice theory test.
I dont know if he'll take me home when he gets a car but I would like it if he does, we share a lift together.
Want him.. I just want a bf but I keep looking at him like "bf, theres bf, he'd be cool bf" like no stop it OP its not gonna happen but damn, want to talk to him more.
Anyway 2 more days left before he switches shifts which he does every week an I want a bf. | Crushes |
Each day I think about her and we don't talk I just look at her
And talk to friends next to her... | Crushes |
I have been trying and trying with different crushes over the year and year nothing has seemed to work. I’m just about trying yet I can’t help but still want it. Although I want it I will never be able to receive it | Crushes |
Today I went out on a trip with school and it was great, I met a lot of new people from other schools, I've always gone to the same school and never properly talked in person to people my age from other schools and it really opened my eyes and long story short in one day I've gone from thinking my (ex) crush is the nicest and most beautiful person I've ever seen to being pretty average. | Crushes |
If you read my past posts you would probably think, wow. He sounds so cute and lovely and we’re so gonna get together.
I thought so too. And we were getting there. But now, every time I see him in work I get more and more agitated. Nothing bad has actually happened, but he would do little things that give me such an ick and we just clash so much. The humour code doesn’t match and anytime I’m not being the cute girl he likes, he’ll get annoyed at me.
I’m not like that ALL THE TIME. I crack jokes and mess around. I’m not an innocent school girl. It feels like he’s painted an image of me in his head, and anytime I’m not acting that way. He’ll assume somethings wrong with me and pester me about it. My feelings are fading more and more each day, and that probably is why the cute side he’s used to seeing is fading away too.
Don’t know what the point of this post was, I’m just frustrated. And wish I never liked this guy cause he’s kinda weird and not very socially adjusted and I’m only seeing this now. What’s wrong with me. | Crushes |
I was in class and the teacher said my name another guy as joke said who is that, before I could say anything my crush said my name? We don’t speak with eachother to much but recently she asks me questions Does she like me?thanks in advance | Crushes |
Hey fellas, I plan on asking my crush to hang out some time in the upcoming days. The few destinations I’ve come up with are bowling/movies. Don’t really know her that well yet. Some ideas would be awesome in regards of places to chill and hangout. | Crushes |
Some time ago, I made an IG account hoping to have another platform to interact with her on. I messaged her for her handle and she told me she doesn't have an account.
Eventually, I came across her under my "suggested for you". I initially thought of report it thinking it was fake (she's pretty popular and has had experiences with people pretending to be her online), but both her closest friends, one of which is my sister, follow it. So, I requested to follow.
It's been a few days and she hasn't approved my follow request. In fact, I think she blocked me because I can no longer see her account.
She has every right to decline whoever she wants, but I'm really confused and hurt. She still interacts with me like she normally does. And her friends told me to not make a big deal out of it because she only uses her account to post "random stuff", but I don't understand why she doesn't trust me, especially since they've told me she likes me back and is just too anxious to deal with it.
Still, it doesn't make it hurt any less. Any advice? | Crushes |
i said to her that i liker her and if she wants to be my gf but she replied that she need to think about that because she broke up with her boyfriend weeks before and she asked me when did i start getting feeling for her and i wonder what is the point | Crushes |
Married but separated…been crushing on a coworker for months. Pretty sure they feel the same way but we haven’t made any moves. Gave me work so I can work with them. Can’t think straight all day just thinking of them. Considering making a move…should I? Age difference is 14 years. | Crushes |
Okay okay so we had this challange thing right. Me and my crush The entire time we kept making eye contact (this was like 24 hour challange thing) and like idk sometimes he seemed nervouse when I caught him staring though but idk and he even started some conversations with me but small talk and like one it was like 1 or 2 am and like we both looked at eachother and he waved at me and smiled and I waved back and but like I almost died and then he kept standing by me but I doubt im his type or even in his leage man benajgr but like what if!! Hrjaygr AHHH I havent told him but im pretty sure he already knows. What should i do from this point on 😣 | Crushes |
she’s really sweet to me, & will do stuff like play with my hair in maths & whatnot. i know she’s a lesbian so i do have a chance, at the very least — but aRAFSGH it’s so frustrating trying to tell how she feels about me. i want to talk to her more, because i really do like her,,, but i’m clueless when it comes to talking to people and i need advice. confessing isn’t an option until i have some view on how she sees me,,, | Crushes |
Where do I start. There’s this one girl in my class and I have a huge crush on her. I’m not certain if she likes me. Like a year ago she seat next to me for a few weeks in physics class and she always tried to tickle me. I didn’t realize anything at that time. Then there was the second lockdown in my country and we had homeschooling. After that we didn’t talk or interact much but than around 3 months ago we were assigned to sit at the same group table. Since then I sometimes notice that she looks at me when I’m looking at the blackboard and if I tilt my hat just a little bit she looks down on her papers. Also in math class she always ask me about my solutions to check if she has the right solutions and if I have something wrong she mocks me in a friendly way that sometimes she’s better than me in maths. Also she told me yesterday randomly about a movie she watched. So what should I do? | Crushes |
I can’t even walk outside or be in public I get so nervous she’s gonna see me I can only be seen by her when I’m perfect I can’t risk her seeing me yet | Crushes |
A few years ago, we became really good friends and I developed a MASSIVE crush on him- he was my first crush and I really hoped for something more, but we moved to different schools and ended up falling out of contact. Recently he reached out to me, first by asking if I was single, and then saying he liked me. This was the first big conversation we had had in about three years, other than some messages here and there. We’ve been talking daily now and always ending our conversations with ‘<3’- Does this mean he really likes me and wants a relationship? I’m not sure where we lie on terms of relationship status, I really want to ask him in person but we both have a lot of things on for the next few weeks. I have a feeling he might want us to be boyfriends but I’m still uncertain, although I’m glad there might be a chance after so long :) | Crushes |
Update, more so for myself to stay commited to it.
I care for this guy so much and honestly there's 0% chance of him liking me back or it ever becoming something so I'd rather just stay friends with him, he's so important to me so this is the best thing to do ya know
:) I'm happy with this choice | Crushes |
I am a male and i have a crush on a girl in my class, we have lot in commom and i like for a couple months now...Im regularly a extroverted person and i hangout with her very often...
But she has a best friend (also mine) who is always with her, like if i even get a moment alone with her, he just calls her or simply appears, i rarely can have any "moments" with her...i don't know what to do and need some advices. | Crushes |
Hey guys.
Two months ago I met a girl at a party, we hit it off right from the get go. We have been out on about 6 dates, and each time is more enjoyable than the last. It seems like we skipped the “getting to know you” phase, and instead have wonderfully complex conversations. I think about her all day, and am at the point where I told my best friend that “if she dies tomorrow I will forever be left feeling like she was the one I was gonna marry”. I’ve always been very picky with the girls I go out with, but she is wonderful. She’s also moving across the country in September…
I’m really stumped as to what I should do. My dad and friends have told me to just enjoy the time with her, and let it sort itself out. I realize that I should live in the moment, I’m just feeling kinda bummed. I would appreciate some guidance :)
Many thanks,
Your boy. | Crushes |
I went to a festival the other day and this guy came up to me and complimented my art as I was drawing at the time. He had a bit to drink a couple hours after meeting him and told me he loved me. He also gave me a note of his currency (from South Africa) to “remember him by”. He got me a hot chocolate because I was cold and had his arm around me a couple times. My mate told me he asked if I was single a couple times while I was off with another mate and we exchanged a few messages yesterday which look like this:
Me “Yoooo, was awesome meeting you and your brother last night, should meet up again for a smoke”
Him “yesss definitely, i'm in [redacted] for a couple days but staying in [redacted] mostly”
Me “That’s cool, I’m busy until Friday anyway”
He liked the message and that’s been it since. Admittedly I can’t stop thinking about him and I just wanna get another opinion on this and see if it was the alcohol talking or if he’s actually interested in meeting | Crushes |
My crush (17) is dating my friend (17). I have confessed before the two started dating and my crush still wishes to stay friends. Im feeling bad because I know Im not going to have sort of the bond my two friends have. I really wanted to have that bond and being like this makes me feel left out. Idk how to move on... I tried distancing myself for a while but that didn't really work out. It just hurts seeing my friends be together even if im happy for them. I still really value them as friends of course just not sure how I can cope like this...
TDLR: I confessed to crush, they said that they would like to stay friends and they are dating another friend of mine. | Crushes |
so there’s this boy. lemme just get STARTED.
he’s a musician, violist, which is something i’ve always been attracted to as a singer, actor and lover of music. he told me he wants to go to NYU for music and how passionate he is about viola which was undoubtably something i liked. so he caught my attention ages ago, but was always just someone i *could* like. my heart first did a little flippy doop when he did the smallest thing as insist i tell him what i did over the weekend, and then congratulated me for being a state qualifier in musical theatre. he *always* listens to me. so yeah, at that very moment, for whatever stupid reason, my dumbass fell for him. since then, i can’t stop noticing. his low, soothing voice, the way he’s always pushing back and messing with his long brown hair, how smart he is, his warm, sleepy eyes that always calm me, how kind he is, how he’s the *perfect* size to cuddle and to hug (subjective).
and then i found out yesterday he rearranges the desk in our fourth period every. single. day. so i can sit by him. he usually gets there before me, but for once i got there before him, and there were only three desks against each other rather than the usual four. he came in and said “aw man, i was too late” and told me he’d been rearranging the desks every single day without me knowing so i could sit there. i was actually speechless. there was another incident with the desks. i came in one day to see that some girl in my fourth suddenly decided to steal my seat. i was absolutely seething already that day from other events, and i asked her to move. so she stole the desk of another girl at my table. yknow, cause she’s a bitch. i was clearly upset. the next day, she did it again. but this time, she didn’t move. i was, again, very upset. later that day, he texts me and asks me if i was feeling okay, and listened to me talk all about what i was going through. the next day, he had rearranged the desks so that there were five seats. that way, both that bitch AND i could sit there. he does this for me before i get there every. day. he’s like my very own knight in shining armor :)
he cares so much about my understanding and my grades, and he listened when i talked about how bad my grade was in pre calc cause i had so little time with rehearsal, then helped tutor me and talked me through stuff. we studied together over facetime, and it was *so* hard to focus, but i managed. he told me he had to go about 30 minutes in. he said that he was actually supposed to be helping his parents like 20 minutes ago but decided to help me instead.
*but here’s the problem*. he’s ALWAYS stuck in his own head. never paying attention to anything that isn’t straight ahead of him. and i don’t think he has the faintest clue that i literally want him in the *worst ways*, and don’t think he ever will. everyone keeps saying i’m so out of his league and that i should be going for someone “hotter”. so i worry he’ll think the same thing and will never suspect anything about the way i look at him. the closest thing he does to look at me other than when we talk is how he waves to me every time he comes into a room i’m in or when we pass each other in the halls. if only i could figure out some way to let him know i’m interested in him so he at least has the idea in his head. idk, he just makes me so shy. idk how to talk to him… | Crushes |
Hi I’m honestly writing because I’m upset and a bit confused I was recently talking to this guy for a month now and ik it’s not a lot but I thought he would at least be Intrested in me considering the things he does for example i got his number and he texts my best friend about me too (this is when we argued jokingly) but he texted her cause I wasn’t replying and he was concerned. Anyways there’s more but I wanna keep this somewhat short i found out his ex now wants him back and I was having such a bad day I was upset as my friends even told me this so I didn’t want him if he still had smth going on with her I didn’t wanna be in a love triangle did I? No so I blocked him and his number whatever but then all my friends said i was being over dramatic and that he was a good guy already feeling upset he did message me but I was rude but to be fair he wasn’t the nicest in that message either next i asked my bsf to intervene and she honestly makes me laugh as she made a whole gc called counselling session anyways in that gc he was kinda dry and rude and I feel like he wants his ex back even tho people are telling me he doesn’t I do not know but a part of me feels like i was delusional for even thinking he would have any intrest in me even tho it was just for a month I really liked him 🤷🏻♀️ | Crushes |
I (f21) dated this guy (M23) for period of two months and then half a year later again for a period of two months. We clicked really well, could talk about anything and had the same kind of humour. Both times I stopped the contact because I wasn't 'feeling it'. I didn't have the crazy: 'woah he's amazing, I am so in love' kind of feeling, but I did care about him a lot and I did feel safe with him. His character is literally perfect, I admire the way his mind works and he was so considerate with me. I really regret not falling in love with him. Now we are talking again everyday and I am confused as to why we are doing this. We talked about it, and established it is just friendship. I don't know why I am so interested in him, why I want him to know everything about me, why I feel so safe with him, why I want to see him, and why I regret 'dumping' him. I'm thinking about him a lot and making up scenarios in my head in which we start a relationship. Why am I doing this, am I in love or am I just craving attention and is he filling that need? We cannot start dating again, I have hurt him a lot by dumping him and I do not want to do that to him again. Because what if we start dating again and I don't 'feel it' again? Is it just the commitment issues that made me stop it last time or was it my intuition telling me that it wasn't right? I am so confused and can't think straight anymore. Advice is very welcome, and just getting this out helped me already. | Crushes |
I followed her on Instagram today around noon It said requesting.
I checked now and it says follow.
I’m so lonely. | Crushes |
So i haven’t been to work in awhile at my 2nd job and i me and this coworker haven’t seen or talk with one another in awhile, first thing she mentions when we do see each other is ‘hey i feel i havnt seen in awhile (touches me lightly) i told her that i barely work here like 1 night a week ’but your here tonight 😀’ now i will admit im not smartest person to catch ques from woman mainly because I’ve never put my self out there and only focused on my self and earning my money. So any input would be appreciated? | Crushes |
There’s this girl that I’ve been crushing on for months, I see her a few times a week at the gym and we smile at each other a lot. I finally got the courage to talk to her and asked for her number and it was as awkward as it could get, it was like a school presentation where you stutter the whole time. She still seemed into it and we exchanged numbers, I flirted over text, we got along well, I think she’s still into me despite my weirdness. Although I built this up so much in my head that when I see her I cannot talk to her without stumbling over every other word.
I feel like I’m at a point where I can get over my fear and approach her again but not without my probably making her uncomfortable from my awkwardness. I hate making someone else uncomfortable but I want to resolve this tension.
Does anyone have advice with overcoming crush anxiety? | Crushes |
my crush works as an actor, and he's naturally very charismatic and outgoing. It's his personality to be friendly. I'm somewhat the same way, in the sense that everyone knows me at work and the feedback I get from people is that I'm bubbly and uplifting. But I can't tell where his "friendly, personable" behavior starts and stops.
If he's an actor, would I be able to tell if he actually likes me? I'm really curious to know if anybody here has dated an actor before. Because I know my crush as someone who enjoys engaging people's attention a lot, I question the moments when he flirts because maybe he does that with every girl.
For example, one time he handed me an item and our hands touched briefly. He held eye contact and said "our hands touched" with a big cheesy grin. Another time, I said something about him having everything he needed, and he replied, "I've got everything I need over here except for you". When I got a smudge of Nutella on my mouth, he wiped it off with his finger. My crush always asks what's going on if I seem stressed or worried, one day he offered to listen if I needed to talk about anything. He also talks about himself as somebody who is successful in life whenever I'm within earshot.
In other news, he's driven me home from my work recently, three times. He made a comment about how he's starting to remember where I live. One time I was lamenting about how he would be unavailable for the upcoming week because he has a job doing video editing. He said something along the lines of, "oh yeah you're going to miss me?" And then, " is this something we should talk about?"
I thought he liked me back before, but I'm starting have doubts because of overthinking. It could be he is just one of those really, happy go lucky friendly guys that overtly flirts with everyone. I see him talking with other girls sometimes, but he flirts more aggressively with me in comparison to anyone else. However it could just be nobody else reciprocates or likes him the way that i like him.
Does he like me back or am I just reading too much into his behaviors? | Crushes |
Basically, I have this huge group of friends who I eat with everyday at lunch (some are in my classes, some are friends of friends, some are people I know from elsewhere...)
There's a guy who's been in that group since the beginning and I've always thought of him as a good friend, but then about a month ago we both decided to participate in a concert organised by the school and, well. We've been spending so much time together rehearsing, and I swear he is so talented that I immediately fell in love with him. I'm pretty sure he likes me too.
I want to give him a Valentine's Gift where I kind of confess, but I never, ever get to spend time alone with him. I'm trying to find ideas of gifts that'd be more discrete, so the others wouldn't notice anything out of place.
I've thought about giving everyone a gift, but then how do I make his in particular stand out and be special ? | Crushes |
I get so excited and happy whenever we text, I love talking to him even when I have nothing to say. I want to just be around him all the time. | Crushes |
Hi, I currently have a crush on someone who is in a very elite university and who is at the top of his class. He is incredibly kind, humble, and a genius. And very attractive. Im crushing bad. I’m trying to not have a crush on him. The reason I know him is because my parents and his parents are close. How can I just shut this feeling off? | Crushes |
For the past few months I've been obsessed over a (not that famous) musician. This started soon after I found out about them and it's been getting worse since. It was previously to the point where I had almost no other thoughts than them, but this greatly reduced my productivity as I'd spend nearly all my free time thinking about them. I realized how lazy this caused me to be, and have since been improving myself by focusing more on my studies and working out. However, the only motivation for this is to increase the chances of this person liking me. I previously had other sources of motivation, such as money, however these have now all been reframed in my mind in the context of increasing my chances with this person.
This is made even worse by the fact that I have no way to contact this person--they don't check messages on any platforms. So even if I improve myself significantly enough, I may not even be able to talk to them. And I know that, even if I improve my appearance to the maximum, there's so many other people who look far better. I'm currently a 1st year engineering student, but I'm thinking what the point of it all is. I am trying to work hard, but I'll likely end up stuck at some office job for the rest of my life and living in mediocrity. Even if I have a good amount of money, I'd just want to be with this person and spend it on them. If I was to kill myself, I'd want them to know it was over them, as it will likely boost their confidence, and they'd notice me. I know these feelings are likely temporary and I'll likely get over it, but I don't want that to happen as it would eliminate my (already slim) chance with this person. If my life is going to continue with these cycles of obsession with no outcome, I don't see what the point of it all is. | Crushes |
I've finally gained enough confidence to ask out this guy I see in the hallways at school and say hi to sometimes to the school dance.
wish me luck | Crushes |
The guy/s I dated this year are all between 23 - 26 years, blonde, bubbly, really tender/emotional, kindhearted, and they love psych or have high EQ. :D my favorite is guys with high empathy and leadership skills. | Crushes |
I have this big crush on a guy friend for a very long time. We have gone separate ways since he graduated first and had a job right after graduation. He would randomly send me photos that reminds him of me. Would ask me out once in awhile and hadn't dated anyone for years now. Should I go ahead and let him know about my feelings? Do you guys think I'm wasting my time on this? Lol. | Crushes |
Like I don’t think that’s how you approach a crush but anytime I tell one of my friends one of the guys in my grade is being rude/mean they’re like “oh he probably likes you” like shut up bro that’s stupid and if it’s true?? That’s even more stupid. So any guys on this subreddit, is this true? So guys make fun of girls they like? | Crushes |
So my mum has a friend, 30 Male, who is bad news. Hes been in and out of prison but because of similar mental health issues we get on like a house in fire. I am 18, female, and i met him 3 months ago when my mum had invited him over. We became quite close friends and he provided support whilst i was in mental health hospitals. Over the last few times of seeing him, the times he has stayed over whilst my mum is asleep we tend to cuddle closely, but now its becoming more intense such as grabbing at my underwear or shorts, pulling my body close against him and i sense alottt of sexual tension however i dont want to act on this tension as he is not a good person to fall for and he is my mothers friend. WHAT DO I DO! | Crushes |
I've been crushing on her hard lately because of our last interactions. She out of know where told me I'm funny when I'm not trying to be. Then later we were starting to painting with our group of friends, and she then asked me if I knew her favorite color. I responded yellow, and she responded saying she hasnt liked that color in over a decade. Then told me her favorite colors (only one I can remember dark grey because I can wear that as a shirt) As we were starting to paint. I then complimented her on painted trees, and her older sister said I'm gross for liking her trees. I was completely speechless after that probably blushing looking down. And last interaction I will mention is when she was showing off her list of friend requests she hasnt accepted on facebook. (I tried following her on Instagram days before and completely chickened out and deleted it after 2 days of not getting accepted) I dont know if those are linked but damnit it got me thinking.
I'm going back and forth about this. I tried telling my best friend(her older brother) that shes been acting weird around me. He didnt follow up anything.
And lastly, I knew her older sister used to have a crush on me years ago until she learned that I think of her as a sister. But now I am thinking that she might of been scouting out for her older sister.
I dont plan on doing anything, but I just needed to vent. I didnt know how to explain these interactions to my best friend. Since I dont think he was paying attention to our conversations. | Crushes |
Like y’all don’t understand
I’ve had a crush on this dude for like 6 years. He’s my friends older brother(I’m 18 he’s 22) so nothings ever happened. Frankly I wasn’t even sure he knew who I was, he always did his own thing.
Well anyway
I took her home tonight because she was out drinking, and I had to walk her to do the door because she could barely walk.
He answers and oh my fuck I nearly fainted right then and there
Bro was wearing nothing but a hoodie, slides and his Calvin’s, not only that but when he was letting her in his hoodie kind of lifted and the body, god just makes me bite my lip thinking about it.
And he’s dyed his hair blonde which is fucking hot, got a bunch of tattoos which is even hotter and he makes music, bro please marry me I’ll do anything
I should go to sleep it’s 4:30am, gonna have to try and do something with him | Crushes |
I developed a small crush on this senior girl during my first week of Uni when I was sitting next to her bag which I didn't realize and when I was listening to love songs I was lost in my thoughts when she approached the table I was sitting on and I swear to god she was so damn cutee!! and smiled at me and I handed the bag to her and minded my own business then the next day (yesterday) i was sitting on my own with my friends she came by to see her other friends and I didnt realise I had a huge blushing smile when I saw her and she smiled back and waved hi! I was shocked and turned back to see if the hi was directed at me and it was and I waved back and she went to talk with her friends and I guess she knows I am attracted to her since every time I turned to see her, she was already looking at me and then talks to her friend. I really like her but nervous to at least try to pursue her since she is a senior and there is this unwritten rule that junior batches cannot pursue senior girls or they come to fist fights and i don't want to fight since I'm not a physically strong person nor do I like fighting | Crushes |
I've never talked about this person on here so my other crushes post aren't about them
During gym I talked to them and I gave them my phone number after that we hit it off we talked for almost a month straight and eventually I worked up the courage to ask her out to the mall the date is next weekend and she's already calling me her bf and I can't wait I'm so happy right now 😁 | Crushes |
How would you make the first move on a girl in College (same class)? | Crushes |
So for this year's musical we are doing footloose and back in December we started running let's hear it for the boy and I made a joke to myself about if there will be a couple dance. A few seconds later he says “time for the couples”. Me and my crush were the first ones called to be a couple.
The first day of being partners caused me to be extremely flustered and making dumb mistakes, but he wasn't mad at me instead he would just smile while helping me.
Day 2 was much better because we had an actual conversation during the practice and from time to time he would just tease me jokingly and when he does something funny he tries to get my reaction.
Day 3 was interesting because we had to do a couple pose and he put his arm around my shoulders, but I jumped because I get startled easily so he suggested that I dip him (dance move), but instead we just held hands.
Day 4 (today) during the number I accidentally stepped on his shoe then fell into him and I was extremely embarrassed and apologized, but he said it was ok with a smile and put his hand on my shoulder to comfort me.
tl;dr | Crushes |
Personally I'd find it very flattering, but do you find it annoying? | Crushes |
Ok, so I (17M) and my crush (16F) have been close friends for about four months. About a week ago, I realized I had feelings for her. We were close enough that I felt comfortable telling her, expecting rejection. She did say she did not like me in that way, and I was ok with that. The next day, she texted and said she realized that she did actually like me now because me telling her I liked her reignited an old crush she confessed she used to have on me around eight months ago. Unfortunately, she also said she didn't feel ready for a relationship and I accepted it and said I was happy to remain friends.
Enter today. We were planning on hanging out because I wasn't working today, and we were going to go see our school's spring theater production. When we were watching it, she suddenly reached over and grabbed my hand. I was afraid to commit to anything, so I gave her probably the worst hand holding anyone ever has. A few hours later, I asked her about it, and she said that she had been feeling very conflicted about wanting to date me. I reassured her that whatever she decided, I would be ok with it, and we had a long talk in my car where I helped her work out her feelings about me and us dating. She decided to call her mom and ask for advice. Jsyk, she has a great deal of love and respect for her parents, so she says if they said no she said we wouldn't date. I stepped out of the car so they could talk. When she signaled me to get back in, she told me her mom had been very supportive at first, but then her dad heard them talking and interjected, saying she's not going to date until she graduates high school.
We talked more about it, and she said she doesn't want to date me unless her dad is on board with it. For clarification, she said she definitely does want to, but if her dad says no then she won't. And from the sounds of it, he's pretty stubborn about it. But also, this was a very fresh thing, so maybe he just needs time to think about it? I don't know. What should I do? To be clear, he has nothing against me personally, he just isn't comfortable with his daughter being in a relationship during high school.
tl;dr: Me and my crush like each other, we want to date, her dad isn't comfortable with her dating during high school but her mom is supportive | Crushes |
like bruh, i've kinda suspected she likes me but at this point it's just dumb cuz everytime something happens and we have an argument she doesn't even ask for me to apologize and that kind of makes me feel sad for her tbh.
like bro, it's the 3 time we've had an argument since we started texting each other and everytime something happens we always start talking again like nothing ever happened and she is usually the one who apologizes. and this last time i was mean asf and a few days ago i've unblocked her to ask her a favor (fully expecting her to just tell me to go fuck myself) and she just fucking helped me without even batting an eye or demanding for me to apologize and we've started talking again like normal and that just makes me feel sorry for her if i'm being honest. idk what to do | Crushes |
As the title says, I (F22) mustered up the courage to tell my crush I liked him. The thing is, I’m not emotionally ready for a relationship. I knew this guy in high school and we became friends after. I started liking him and I always felt like I got mixed signals from him. I decided it was best for myself to move on, and to do that, I felt like I needed to tell him for closure. So I was honest with him, and told him that I liked him but I wasn’t in a place for a relationship. I didn’t want to assume his feelings about me so I also told him my reasoning, and that I still wanted to be friends.
To sum up his first response, he basically was going on about how bad of a person he thought he was, and that I “deserve so much more.” Also something like I didn’t need someone like him and that he likes me as a friend but that I shouldn’t like him. He also doesn’t think he would be ready for any relationship ever. Feeling obviously rejected (confusing, I know), I told him that I wish he didn’t think of himself that way, as well as other things. I also told him that I needed space to deal with it so I was going to remove him from social media for a while. This is where his second response confuses me. He told me that he prefers to stay friends but that he also wouldn’t be opposed to trying it out in the future. He told me to take care and that he cares about me. I assume he means he cares about me as a friend. The “I wouldn’t be opposed” part is telling me he never thought of me in that way until now? It also contradicts his entire first response. I’ve been thinking about it a lot, and based on his response, he’s probably right. We’re better off as friends. But I’m really bad at getting over crushes. What are some ways to actually move on? I feel like he threw in a line to keep me hooked. I don’t want to get stuck on an empty possibility. | Crushes |
Her lips are really pale and her jaw is kind of... sharp, for lack of a better word. But when she smiles, her lips retract and she has the BIGGEST teeth I've ever seen on a human. And somehow, with all of that thrown together, it just works. You expect it to just look like a blind man with Parkinson's tried to draw a person after feeling a woman's face who survived a disfiguring car wreck, but nah, it all works.
Sometimes we'll do that awkward glance. Today at work I was standing there looking at my paper, when I turned around to walk by her and she was staring straight at me. I just sarcastically "What the hell are you looking at?"
She put that signature smile on, "You, that a problem?"
I just walked away, later went back to give her a quick thing to do (I was in charge at work today, I wasn't mean to anyone don't worry)
She did not say a word, just put on her cute-ugly smile as she stared at me. I tried to be funny "Uh, are you ok? Looking at me like that"
She just stared at me for a second, nodded yes, "Yeah I'm fine"
Ahhhh man, I love it. | Crushes |
As the title says, I (F22) mustered up the courage to tell my crush I liked him. The thing is, I’m not emotionally ready for a relationship. I knew this guy in high school and we became friends after. I started liking him and I always felt like I got mixed signals from him. I decided it was best for myself to move on, and to do that, I felt like I needed to tell him for closure. So I was honest with him, and told him that I liked him but I wasn’t in a place for a relationship. I didn’t want to assume his feelings about me so I also told him my reasoning, and that I still wanted to be friends.
To sum up his first response, he basically was going on about how bad of a person he thought he was, and that I “deserve so much more.” Also something like I didn’t need someone like him and that he likes me as a friend but that I shouldn’t like him. He also doesn’t think he would be ready for any relationship ever. Feeling obviously rejected (confusing, I know), I told him that I wish he didn’t think of himself that way, as well as other things. I also told him that I needed space to deal with it so I was going to remove him from social media for a while. This is where his second response confuses me. He told me that he prefers to stay friends but that he also wouldn’t be opposed to trying it out in the future. He told me to take care and that he cares about me. I assume he means he cares about me as a friend. The “I wouldn’t be opposed” part is telling me he never thought of me in that way until now? It also contradicts his entire first response. I’ve been thinking about it a lot, and based on his response, he’s probably right. We’re better off as friends. But I’m really bad at getting over crushes. What are some ways to actually move on? I feel like he threw in a line to keep me hooked. I don’t want to get stuck on an empty possibility. | Crushes |
I need help. I confessed to my crush 5 months ago while we were still in the online class. I messaged her that I hope my confession won't hinder our interactions in school, especially in group projects. After that, we didn't really talk much because I was overthinking things too much HAHAHAHA. After some time of my classmates teasing and encouraging me, we finally started chatting online. I'm always the initiator but our conversations are good. We can joke around and laugh, and her replies aren't short.
However, when f2f classes started, we haven't really interacted with each other. One time, I tried to approach her while we had practice for a class project. She wasn't really doing anything at that time. The interaction didn't really go as well as expected. I messaged asking how cringe/awkward that interaction was, and we talked and laughed about it. After some time again, I gathered up the courage to walk up to her in class and ask if we could chat. I asked if I could sit next to her, and she said yes. At that time, our interaction went great. We had some laughs and talked about our interests.
BUUUUTT, after that, we went back to being strangers HAHAHAHA. Our convos online are still good, but like I said; we kind of went back to acting like strangers to each other in f2f. She's kind of introverted, she usually doesn't initiate chatting with her friends in class. The funny part to me is we had a new seating arrangement and now we are sitting next to each other but still no talking HAHAHAHA.
So, I think she is uncomfortable with me, but I asked her before on different occasions if she is uncomfortable with me and she said no, she's not uncomfortable. But with the way she's acting, I don't know, maybe she's faking it? or just trying to be nice? She didn't really reject me, but she did open a bit about her ex two years ago who cheated on her 3 times. I know she is still not ready after that painful experience, but I guess I can't help to hope that maybe one day she'll open her heart again.
So, I need your help. Do I give up? or continue? I'm having a hard time reading her whether she is comfortable with me or not. Sorry if I haven't realized any signs that she's giving that seem obvious to you. I don't really have any experience in these kinds of things Cuz she's the first one that I really wanted to pursue her. | Crushes |
Tbh, I feel a bit dumb posting about a YouTuber. I used to watch him as a kid but recently came across his videos again. I can’t believe I never realized how handsome he was. I’ve been rewatching edits of him before going to sleep ever night and just thinking about him throughout my day. I’ve even been praying for a guy like him to come around. I just needed to get this off my chest | Crushes |
She’s starting to reply to my texts a lot quicker now, I sent her something she likes and told me I should buy it for her on her birthday, not completely sure if she’s joking or not but she’s seems more interested now, I might ask her to be my valentine or ask her out earlier. | Crushes |
I feel like this is 90% of my crushes and why I stopped having them. It feels like most people I have crushes on goes nowhere. I can even sense now when it won't turn into something so don't engage. Flirting and eye contact mean nothing if you can't properly ask me out. | Crushes |
ok so basically i’ve liked my crush for over a year, and when i got his snap last year i was like- incredibly annoying and he ended up blocking me over the summer
fast forward to now, we’re pretty much friends and he followed me on insta and shit after he had blocked me on snap a few months ago
he had recorded a vid on snap that i wanted him to send me (he was the only one who had it) so i asked him to send it to me
he told me he didn’t have me added, so i told him i knew that bc i was blocked
“what? look up ur @“
i did, i was blocked ofc
“oh i’ll unblock u- how do u do that?”
then he gave me his phone and told me to unblock myself so i did
then i texted him later asking for the vid (which he didn’t end up having 💀) and we haven’t talked on snap since then (that was 2 days ago)
i will not be texting him, i don’t even know how to approach that situation, but i am considering sending him a snap literally just for streaks
i don’t wanna risk him blocking me again or bothering him- so i’m not sure what to do
please offer any advice or ask questions if you need to!! i will be deleting this soon since i live in fear of him finding my reddit account even though i don’t think he has reddit 💀 | Crushes |
Lately I've been really confused about my feelings for this girl (f19). Sometimes it feels like I'm in love with her for every single thing and on other days it's like I only see her as a friend.
I also imagine doing things with her like hugging or going out. Heck I even dream ab it sometimes.
Still there is another problem. What does she think ab me. She's kinda giving mixed signals. Some dasw we talk more and sometimes less. She even asked me what I think of her ideas for a new haircut. | Crushes |
So this is very complicated and I don't expect anyone to be able to give me any good advice or even understand, but I'm going to try my best to explain. I'm an 18 year old straight guy btw.
My possible crush is a "system" which basically means there is more than one person inside the brain. This happened because of some trauma they probably don't want me to share. I believe there are 63 people inside their brain. I do not expect you to understand that but please don't say something mean.
The thing is I'm pretty straight and their body is technically female. Some people inside the system are guys, non binary, girls and more. Also some people inside the system already have partners. The people I know I've met are single and really fun to talk to and just hang out with. I just don't know how to feel that I'm crushing on multiple people inside the same body. I also don't know how to feel about some of them being guys.
They definitely trust and like me as a friend and one person told me some of them think I have a crush on them. That's when I started thinking about it and about how it would work considering the one(s) I'd be dating wouldn't always be present.
So yeah that's basically what's been keeping me up at night. Please be respectful even if you don't understand anything of what I just said. | Crushes |
though this may not be an actual relationship but basically there’s a girl who I’ve liked for almost 7 years now but never got to really express my feelings because my best friend had feelings for her too, she was initially interested in him too few years back so I had to let them do their thing without interfering. Tho nothing really happened in the end. Therefore I’ve been suppressing my feelings for years now. I’m still in contact with them today, however I started dreaming a lot about her lately. Waking up in the middle of the night. I thought maybe it is a sign which my mind needs to sort out and that being me expressing my feelings without any regret. The reason why I’ve never really expressed myself was because either I felt it would be too awkward and destroy our friendship and also because one of my best friends liked her as well and I didn’t wanna ruin my friendship like that. Any advice from the pros? How can I express my thoughts without any regret and feeling awkward and cringe about it. | Crushes |
A few months ago this guy I liked had tickets to a concert that I really want to go. Anyways fast forward, a few days ago he comes up to me saying he still has them. Why would he lie to me about them, and then ask me if I want them? (He also implied that we should go together) | Crushes |
I’m asking my crush out on February 17th!
You must be like: Why that day?
Here’s why, and a little bit of background information. My crush is currently on a break from dating. We dated for about 3 months and broke up but stayed friends. This was mostly because their ex is crazy and constantly guilt trips them for not liking them, and also flirting with them on top of it. This lead my crush to feel insecure and wonder if they had feelings for their ex. After this my crush decided to take a break from dating. They said they would take a month. This happened on January 10th. I think that I should respect their boundries and wait a month. And I added a week so it wouldn’t feel to fast!
I’ll tell you how it goes! \^\^ | Crushes |
I need help the three ppl I held close to me and one of the ppl I held closest to me basically broke me and idk what to do I've changed for the better but they don't want anything to do with me and besides no one really likes me | Crushes |
So I've had "crushes" on boys in elementary school ( most likely finding them attractive ), but I started having feelings for a girl, and it feels completely different from those "crushes" in elementary school. Also whenever I picture myself with someone in the future, it's usually not a man, but a woman. | Crushes |
Yes, I don't know how to make my own decisions, so I'm going to ask reddit (a site known for having really good takes) to make said decisions, or at least make it look like it is making them.
First of all, I (16M), have a crush on one of my peers (16F). Although we don't go to the same class, we do see each other a couple times a week in some extracurricular activities. Cool.
Problem is, I am quite socially awkward, and even though we have had some conversations, I'm pretty sure she thinks I'm completely out of my mind. At least that's what I would think if I spoke with myself. However, she seems to be able to stand my devilish personality (crazy shit) to the point where we have hugged and where she sometimes actively seeks my presence.
Not sure if that means anything, but regardless. In our highschool, some students are organizing a valentine's day thingy, where you can pay them a dollar and they will buy a carnation (a flower, in case you didn't know) to a person of your choice. Anonymously. Great! I will surely send her a flower, without previously considering every posible outcome! WRONG.
Let's evaluate the posible outcomes of me sending a carnation to my crush:
Case 1 (less complicated): I send it, she sees it, forgets in a couple days, moves on.
Case 2 (Actually imposible): I send it, she gets it, cool. I receive a flower, she then tells me she sent it. I then tell her I sent her's. We get married and live happily ever after. Or anything involving she sending me a carnation.
Case 3 (Something I made up in my head but that actually makes a lot of sense): So, my crush is very cute and nice to everyone and friendly, and she basically is friends with half our highschool (which would be 1k people, so I might be exaggerating). There is the possibility she gets a shitton of carnations. What does this mean? It is not that I have competition, of course; firstly because it is not a competition (she is not a prize, but a people (I think)); and secondly even if it was I am no match for anyone... in general... she is like way out of my league.
Heck, I don't even know if she has a partner! Or even if she is into dudes!
There is also the option of sending the carnation with a message, which is out of the question.
If I don't send it, nothing happens, plus, I can play the spectator role, and see if she gets flowers, like in the actual paranoia I made up, at which point I would just move on with my life.
Furthermore, if I do send it, she can probably track it down to me, due to her good connections I mentioned before. Not good.
To sum up, sending it has many more bad outcomes than positive ones. However, there's a part of me that wants to cling onto that impossible hope of she liking me back, so I conjure thee, reddit to choose the path I may follow.
If you have any arguments, towards whether ai should sent it or not let me know, I will gladly read them.
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I'm (16f) exceptionally confused about this guy (same age) in my english class. Okay so I guess I'll start from the beginning. At the beginning of the year, I vaguely knew him. He's on the guys XC team and I'm on the girls. We're both at around the same level in that. I had a single conversation with him over a year ago only because my friend knew him. It was interesting, but nothing special. We parted ways that day, neither of us caring about the other. Something changed in that time. At the beginning of this year, I think we confused each other. Pretty much what happened was I looked up from what I was writing at the same time as him and we made eye contact. I was trying to figure out why he was looking at me, so I stole another glance. I guess he was trying to figure out the same thing, so we made eye contact again. This happened throughout the full first quarter of school. It was driving me up the wall so stopped looking. He kept looking. Once I realized that I wasn't crazy, I started looking again at the same time he stopped. I figured when he stopped that I have just been crazy this whole time and dropped any feelings I had for him like a hot rock. I think there were certain things that he liked about me during this time. I stood up for one of his friends in front of our crazy teacher, and he started looking at me more after that. I once had a panic attack and he saw me trying to get through the halls and I think that made him curious about me. We also have the same off period which we both spend in the library, at separate tables. One time, I realized that he was facing my direction, which was weird because his chair was facing away from me. It went on for a minute and half and I was confused, so I looked up and realized he was looking at me this whole time. MIND YOU. WE HAVE NOT HAD A CONVERSATION SINCE LAST FUCKING YEAR. Well, we had something close to it. I run our school's community service club along with a girl who definitely ranks higher than me on the social scale who draws other people of her "status" towards our club. Just so happens that this guy is also has very high status (which makes this all so much more confusing because I have like, two friends that I talk to regularly.) He came to our club for one meeting and he's normally a VERY confident dude. Would not look me in the eye. Boo. We had a two-minute conversation about whether or not he wanted to join the attendance sheet. The girl kept telling him all about how she didn't think that he would be the type of person who would want to do community service (he responded on how he had logged around three hundred hours watching kids at his church) which I think may be the reason why he decided not to come back. Anyways, we stopped this weird glancing game for about two months around the holidays. And now he started again and I'm so fucking confused. At first it was during out course registration meeting when I looked to the right of me just to catch him staring, which was really damn confusing because this area was packed to the brim with people. Then it was english class once again. Every time I looked his direction, he was looking at me. Every time. I can't do this anymore, I'm not even sure I like the guy. We have a lot of similarities, we both like running, we both care deeply for our friends, we're both in the honors program. But we also have a lot of differences; he's a big hot shot and always surrounded by people, which I can't handle, we have very different political views, which I can get over, but it's mostly that I'm an introvert and I'm not sure what he sees in me. I'm very insecure in myself, but I know that there are many other girls who are much prettier than me, are intelligent, and would be outgoing. AND I'm not even sure if I like guys to begin with. I know I like girls, and if I like him, which I honestly, now that I'm typing this, think that I do, this would be the first time I liked a guys in my whole life. And it could just be because he's giving me attention. I don't know. But I love the possibility. I just really need him to break the wall of glances and just come over and talk to me. I know that I could do stuff too, but that's not how I roll in any relationship. Anyways, I guess this was more of rant than anything else, but I REALLY want to know what y'all think. I feel like he might be interested, I can't see why, but I also think maybe he has different intentions? I don't know what those could be, but what do the good people of reddit think? I think if we had a conversation, I would probably fall for him, but I barley know the guy. If you do think he likes me, how could I break the boundary? | Crushes |
We never really talked much other than hey or hi. One day out of the blue she started acting weird around me, as she has never done this around me. Anyway, I only get weekends at work to talk to her. But as of today and the last two weekends, I never got the chance as she was off. I want to shoot my shot, even though I know it won't happen with us. There is another reason that makes me doubt that. I'm still going to it.
This isn't her fault. But since I'm not getting the chance due to the reason above. I'm losing interest because of that. I don't know what to do. I've thought about hitting her up on FB but that feels weird and creepy to do that. Should I move on or what? | Crushes |
I'll go first. December 17th | Crushes |
She never initiated interaction but she always is looking at me from across class or if we’re next to eachother look at me and start smiling and then did talk to her and she’s start doing a nervous laugh am I being delusional or does she like me | Crushes |
I (21M - USA) met this girl (21F - Spain) at uni two weeks ago while studying abroad for a semester. During our time together she has run into my arms excited to see me at the club, held my hand in public, said a picture of us was “so cute” and “one of her favorites,” ordered drinks for each other and shared them, has said I’m “super fun,” and talked me up to her friends. Said that if I visit Spain "you will have a house" meaning staying with her. She even got slightly protective at the club when some guy tried giving me a hard time.
There’s no sight of a BF/GF on her Instagram and few clues otherwise to think she’d be in a relationship.
You think she likes me? Next time we party I plan on making a move. Wish me luck soldiers.
(Reposted in a shorter version from earlier. New to Reddit and didn’t know people don’t read long entries.) | Crushes |
All the time when I’m talking to her the people in the class will ask us if we like eachother etc(I like her) one time she started touching my arm and leaning on me and another she kept looking at me then turning away | Crushes |
I was once mean to this girl in my secondary school (current crush) I remember it so fondly it was her birthday she got tons of gifts from her friends and during lunch time me and my friend group were next to hers it started with one of my friends pissing me off(I used to be a angry person) then her friends started trying to irritate me and I just snapped and shouted at her it’s been 2 years and I still think about it and now everybody says she always flirts with me and I’ve noticed her touching my arm etc and I know I like her but I’m scared she’s trying to make me like her so she can make fun of me for revenge or something or am I just reading into this too much I’m | Crushes |
the guy i like, i've only been able to appreciate from afar because i only heard of him initially from his bestfriend who also happens to be my work bestie.
so with the new semester changing, it meant my classes changed and with the new route i take to my new classes, me and my work bestie happen to walk the same way but his BESTFRIEND ALSO WALKS THE SAME DIRECTION SO NOW I WALK WITH THE TWO OF THEM SO NOW I FINALLY HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY TO TALK TO HIM!!!! | Crushes |
This guy and I have been talking for hours straight everyday for a month. We have hung our twice as well. We talk about everything and he loves to laugh at the stories I tell him. He is always joking with me and roasting me and sometimes the text get really flirtatious.
I think he likes me but I'm not sure. He may just see me as a friend. I am pretty sure he knows I like him too. | Crushes |
so basically I've been getting ghosted for a long time now, and I've decided I'm moving on, there's no point in waiting for someone who was gone so long they made us think they were messing,
I'm not going to just be left on read for months and keep waiting for someone who might not ever talk to me again, and honestly I don't even like her anymore, she was great at first we would talk for hours,
I gave up sleep for her we would talk about everything, but that was a long time ago, clearly if she doesn't care enough to at least say hi once in a month I'm not going to wait for her, I might have took a bad persons side but it's not like I didn't try to make things right,
but anyway, I ain't about to cry over someone who eats expired macaroni and leaves me on red for five months, then shows up like nothing happened only to vent to me about her child trauma hangs out for a bit then dips again,
all the romantic attraction in the universe can't make me settle for that, guess I'll find someone else one day -\_- | Crushes |
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I was talking to this girl and she was flirty with me for a few months. I got really excited thinking that this was “gonna be it” but then she started leaving me on read for hours. She also talks about kissing and flirting with random guys and girls. She seems to be playing the “I’m scared of intimacy🥺what if I’m not good enough🥺” game by making me chase her while pushing me away. She doesn’t reciprocate any of my interest or concern towards her. It seems that she just wants the compliments and ego boost.
I’m so depressed. | Crushes |
Met a guy almost 2mo ago. We've seen each other maybe 5 times at the gym on the weekend, he works there. I'm very dense about reading between the lines and I'm shy around people: I'll either stutter, freeze, or run away. I'm working on it.
I caught him staring at me a few times but I thought he was just doing his job, making sure I was doing it right. Then we had a night where we just locked eyes and smiled. I got nervous and could barely say 'hi' before I ran. Yeah, I'm that awkward.
Now, with the advice of his friend (also works there), he's mimicking my earlier behavior and is running from me. It's like an snl act. apparently this is a form of flirting, but ow, I am getting better at talking to people...probably how he felt when I ran...
So now what do I do to respond? I was hoping to give him a compliment and actually talk with him but then he did that. I'm at a loss. | Crushes |
I'm giving my crush my number and I know I'm going to blush a lot and it's going to be embarrassing but I'm going to do it.
Wish me luck! If he doesn't text, at least I did something brave! | Crushes |
so he knew I had a crush on him and he kinds led me on flirted a lot and ig pretended to care for me idk
he made fun of me for liking him and not being able to look at him in the eye
and then apologized bc it deeply hurted me so I ignored him
ever since I've been getting anxiety attacks and also have ptsd every time I interact w him I feel like he's gf will get offended and everyone's judging me or talking shit behind me
I've got anxiety attacks almost 5times now and every time I got it , he was there for me
he made me smile , he made me laugh and asked me if I was okay, asked me why I was sad
2days ago I didn't sleep all night and cried
next morning he asks me " did u cry"
why is it only him who can notice how m feeling
I hate it
everytime I feel like running away and giving up on life he's there for me
yet
I can't do anything about it
she's his girlfriend
smtms he ignores me
but he's always there for me everytime I feel like shit
why does he care so much for me
does he actually care or is he just pretending | Crushes |
I knew he liked me bcos I kept hearing his friends talk about me to him after asking who’s his crush and everyday they’d be teasing him but the last two days even when I’ve been near they haven’t done any of that at all and idk I might be overthinking and they’ve done it without me around but I kinda miss hearing that lol .
I wanna make myself seem more approachable and happy around him but I get so shy and worried that’s made him lose interest. I wish I could be put in a group with him or something but we never do group stuff ugh | Crushes |
Theres a guy i've had a crush on for 4 months, i dont want to say too many words so i'll tell the story as short as possible:
He makes a move>i happily accept him>i feel the best i ever have>he thinks its all weird and backs up>all i feel for the next 2 months is grief and hollowness. He thought it was all a joke, i think its worth remarking that he said i was "too good" for him.
A couple of days ago ive made a painting for him to prove that im not joking and am actually interested. He was shocked. If i'm lucky he'll have time to go out next wednesday. He's got tons of questions and i see this as an opportunity to make him grow more interested again, but when i refused to answer over text he said "man f your intrigues". Im walking on thin ice but if i do everything correctly, my future is securely successful. So how can i? I just need to keep him interested for 4 more days | Crushes |
I’m in highschool and I’m crushing on a person, who I’ll call “D”. My friend “Z” knows that and sometimes sends me a screenshot of our mutual’s “BeReal” (it’s an app where you have to post a picture what you are doing at the moment at the app’s randomly given time and it shows who screenshots your picture) in which my crush is present. I’ve felt a lil bit creepy but I didn’t stop “Z”. Recently “D” texted “Z” about the screenshots, why has “Z” taken a few screenshots only when “D” is present in those pictures. I was planning to confess to “D” on a specific day but now I’m afraid that “D” will connect the dots and realise the reason behind “Z” screenshots. My friend “Z” is insisting on me telling after confession that it is the reason my friend screenshotted but it might be creepy from my side. I’m not sure what to do, do I confess everything, do I partially confess without telling about “Z” or should I not confess at all. | Crushes |
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