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I recently started talking to my crush for maybe a little over 2 weeks. Anytime I sit by her at the lunch table we talk. She watches a movie on her phone during lunch but to be fair she pauses it anytime I say something. An incident happened the last time we talked where one of my “ friends”did something stupid like basically telling me to get her number while she was sitting next to me and started saying stuff like “I’m not leaving until you get her number” look at my last post to get the whole story. I wanna ask for her number and plan on doing it the next time we speak which will possibly be Tuesday. Is there any way to know it she actually likes me | Crushes |
Hi I might as well get straight to the point cause it’s been annoying me a lot a week ago I found out my crush liked me back I thought he would stop liking me since we r in a talking stage and are VERY on and off but whatever moving on a certain person has always tried to come between us and they told me how my crush must just find me annoying waste of time exc I decided to tell my crush online how I felt about this and if it was true and I said he didn’t need to always respond to me if it felt annoying and exc I think I was very nice about it anyways he said he never said that to him and turns out YH the guy was lying but what really annoyed me was he didn’t even ask simple questions like are you okay? Or just some comfort lol cause u could really really tell I was deeply upset I told my bsf this and she agreed and I blocked him then on my number I said a petty comment and he just replied with cool it’s obvious he doesn’t like me anymore but am I in the wrong for wanting more comfort? | Crushes |
We've been friends for months and I've spent a lot of time with him. Both irl and online. I've called him cute, like twice? Or thrice. I told him his eyes are pretty too, but he doesn't seem to say thank you or he tries to avoid it. I guess it makes sense cuz he did say he's not used to compliments, esp from a girl. He doesn't have much experience with girls also hmm.
Still, it makes me overthink. Does it make him uncomfortable? Maybe it does I guess. Should I keep complimenting him though? That's prolly an attempt to make him like me. I do like his smile and how hardworking he is in school, and he's smart too. I don't compliment him in an excessive and overwhelming amount btw. I hope he doesn't think I'm weird. | Crushes |
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Me and my crush have been texting on snap for a while now and idk if I should make the move or not. Usually when I see her with her friends, she’s talkative and shi, but whenever she’s around me she’s just quiet. Also she sends me “streaks” individually instead of group snapping me. Don’t know if that’s a sign or not. One time she texted me and then deleted it so I asked her what it was and she said wrong person. But I was literally the only one that she knows that has my name. She even opened some unopened snaps 30 seconds later. And to even send me a text she’ll have to click the little text button like she was avoiding opening my snaps. I’m genuinely confused. Like do they like me or nah | Crushes |
Hoping for suggestions :> | Crushes |
(Asking for a friend) | Crushes |
We've been friends for a long time but I recently developed hard feelings for him like 4 months ago.
He's older than me by a few months and we used have a siblings ish relationship?? He called me "Mei Mei" which is little sister in chinese. Not often, usually when I'm struggling to get shit done and he's like "ur older brother will help" (we are not related lmao incase there is confusion)
I also called him gege like "older brother" back then cause he felt like an older brother to me. We'd also didn't get along sometimes. Our friend group said we were definitely like siblings.
It's like super fucking weird but last year we stopped doing that. We stopped calling each other Mei Mei and gege. And now if I say "Ur like the brother i never wanted smh" he gets worked up like "I'm not ur brother" type of thing. But also I wanted to grow out of that title.
We were playing a game, and we have matching nametags. A random asked if we were dating and he used to gag and was like "gross ew no" but today he just laughed?? He's also is a lot nicer to me?? Maybe he's grown up. Also a lot of eye contact. And we would text back and forth often during class. I feel like our relationship has shifted but idk if he likes me that way. | Crushes |
he invited me to go over to his house. im so nervous lol
this will be our fifth time hanging out
idk what i should do HELP | Crushes |
me and my crush kissed for the first time today and agdhanahsv im so happy!!!! I went over after my graveyard shift to their house and we cuddled and i started to fall asleep on them so we went to their bed, and when i was laying on their chest, i looked up at them and asked if we could kiss! and they said yes!!!! | Crushes |
Im in middle school, and theres this one girl in my class ive been crushing on, im like the ugliest guy in the class for the females, so ive been thinking if i even have a chance
(were like both 13) | Crushes |
I'm a 17yo (M) I don't know how to talk to girls | Crushes |
I (14F) realized lately that I have romantic feelings for my best friend(14F)
At first i didnt think they were romantic at all but i did a lot of thinking and found out its not just a simple crush or a little romantic attraction im… in love.
I have never once in my entire life been in love. Sure i mightve felt love but BEING in love ive never felt before not until recently. Me and my best friend have been having these late night talks lately where i vent to her and she tells me what to do and idk it made me feel closer to her in a way i think id feel if i was more than best friends with someone. Its not that feeling where your heart flutters but that feeling where you feel safe with them and them only. I cant even trust my parents though they are very open with stuff. Shes the only person i trust and i love everything about her. After a day at school shes the only person i need to text then id be ok.
I was just reading a love realization fanfic when it hit me, im in love with my best friend. And now i dont know what to do with these feelings because were now closer than ever and i dont want these feelings to ruin that. Please give advice on this…
Tldr: i came into terms that im in love with my best friend and i dont know what to do with these feelings. | Crushes |
No questions about what either of our ages are, but we're both 25+ | Crushes |
I already told this in last post that he called me 'sister' and how upset i was. Despite trying my best to move on, i still had some hope and today it has been officially shattered. So basically we both and one more girl are going for an inter school quiz competition. Me and the girl are going for the same quiz. Let's make the girl 'Z'. So Z said that last time when she went to that school, there was a canteen and so and so. My crush said that 'Introduce her(me) to some boys' while smiling which basically implies that i should meet some boys. It hurted me so much. But i laughed it off. I don't know i am trying my best to move on from him but he is my first crush, and it's hard to move on. And i am such a reserved person that i can't crush over someone else very easily(except for celebrities lol). So just for checking his reaction, i called him 'bro' in our conversation, and maybe i saw him stop smiling for few seconds but then again he continued smiling. I will once confirm it again tomorrow. Nevertheless, any advices on moving on from him, if i see him daily? | Crushes |
I told my crushes little sister that I like her sister(my crush). I’m F18 and my crush is F18, her little sister 13. So I told her, and now my crush is sending me some odd videos, this video specifically was about love and never leaving my side and that I’m hers forever. so Idk if her little sister told my crush that I like her. I’m scared Aaah | Crushes |
This girl in my class who sits near me started calling everything I own cute, my notebook, my hoodie, and even my handwriting. The weird thing is though, we're in college...
There's been some other strange stuff but that situation was confusing. | Crushes |
I see her a lot (like 5 times per day at least) of time staring at me and sometimes talking with her friends while looking at me (her friends look at me too).
I am trying to make it pretty obvious that I like her. I don't really know if she likes me or if she knows I like her and that's why she looks at me.
I think I am overthinking this... | Crushes |
Two days ago, we were talking at around 1 AM. She said she’ll be back in a moment, and told me not to got to sleep.
Except she never did. That night passed, I thought she had fell asleep. I waited all day yesterday for some sort of explanation or a regular conversation we have almost every day. But she didn’t even come online. Today, I waited for her all day, she still didn’t come. Her Best Friend doesn’t know what happened either.
I’m also worried about her, it’s odd for her to not contact anyone for such a long time.
The funny thing is that a few days back, she confessed that she liked me too. But now I think that she was lying or she’s getting second thoughts. | Crushes |
Didn’t know what to title it but anyways I noticed that with all my crushes I have/had I didn’t start having a crush on them until I got to know them for over a year or two. Won’t consider that a bad thing because I’m a person who likes to build a friendly relationship with before even thinking about a romantic one. Idk but anyways I just wanna see what your guys thoughts are, I just find it very interesting to say.
As a update to a post I’ve made couple weeks ago. I’ve noticed we started to text and talk a whole lot more. I’m mostly starting the convo but she does respond back very quickly at some points and sometimes a few hours but ik she is a busy person with school. Anyways we also send each other snaps here and there which I find cute haha. I am keeping my conversations with her very friendly and just wanting to get to know her more but when it comes to telling her how I feel or asking her to hangout idk man, that is another story on its own. | Crushes |
Me and my little brother were on the bus and she was sitting behind me and he just screams out of nowhere that I like her I'll post an update when something happens | Crushes |
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Whenever I see him walk in, my stomach churns with excitement and sadness because I know that he's not interested in me. He wants nothing to do in my life, yet he's all I've been thinking about. I invited him out with a couple of people, and he rejected me again, which is the second time. I'm never going to ask him again. I try so hard to ignore him, but my stupid eyes always look for him. When he sat behind me, I really didn't want to look at him, but I did, and it was me who initiated the conversation—again!! I mean, I'm so mad at myself for the lack of self-control!! It's just that I can't help but be happy in his presence which sucks so bad because the feelings aren't reciprocated. I don't know how to ignore him. He's made it clear that I'm not worth his time, so why the f am I like this???! At this point, I'm not sure how I should move on. I'm just really sad. | Crushes |
so i think i have a crush on someone but i don't no if its truly a crush why do i think that? well here is a little list 1. i think about that person really much 2. i stare a lot at that person 3. i am happier when that person is close to me 4. i get happier when i hear her talking 5. and more
but when i ask myself the question what do you like about her i just don't have an answer | Crushes |
wat r yall thoughts bout it? | Crushes |
So I have a gf Angelina, she's amazing and I am planning on spending my life with her lol. But recently Ive been friends with someone named Irene. Despite having a different personality then Angelina I am starting to feel the same way I did about Angelina before we started dating. And I can't stop it, I want to block this feeling out of my head but I can't.
It's not like I can just get rid of Irene as a friend but I also can't get rid of the feeling. I feel like I'm a terrible boyfriend for this and Angelina doesn't deserve someone like me because I basically have feelings for another girl as well. I don't deserve to be with anybody because of this. I just don't know what to do because I don't wanna leave Angelina but I don't wanna just feel like I'm cheating by this.
Im not asking for sympathy or anything, just want people to know what's going on and give advice.
Any advice? | Crushes |
even tho it was mostly about sus shit talking is talking. | Crushes |
To start it off I (14F) have been friends with my best friend (14F) ever since we were 4. I am a demiromantic lesbian, while she is a straight ally.
This questioning of my feelings for her started earlier this year, when i got into terms with my sexuality. She has been helping me with everything im feeling and has been telling me that its normal and ok. And earlier this month, I started to ask if i feel like im in love with her.
Ive never been in love i think but ive had three crushes on girls i have been close friends with(thus concluding that i am demiromantic) and now i think i dont just like my best friend as a friend. She has been always kind and accepting at first i thought they were just platonic and pushed aside any thought of mine thinking if it was romantic but i had no choice but to address so called feelings when she said we could be scared of life together, that shes always here for me, and said she loves me. The things she said were very platonic and it also felt that way.
We go to to different schools and had told me about this new friend she has. I wouldve been ok with it but she said she was cute and had beautiful eyes, i know its normal to get jealous of your best friend forming new bonds with people but i was jealous of how she described the girl and how she never said that about me.
For some reason she is also the only person who understands me and is the only person i could tell everything to. My heart sort of flutters when she makes little messages of assurance(we are not sappy at all and banter almost everyday), out of everyone i came out to telling her was the hardest even though i know she would support me, and I get awkward when i try and hold her hand while going on strolls.
I dont know what to do and how to know what i really feel. Please help.. | Crushes |
My crush and I recently became friends (though we had some kind of mutual attraction) and we always would sit together on the bus. The past few days we haven’t talked that much and he had liked my message on instagram and just left me on seen. Today when i was getting on the bus I assumed he was on before me so when i got on and he wasn’t there i just sat next to a random person. Turns out he got on after me. I feel weirdly guilty now because it’s like i was ignoring him.
Now I’m wondering if i should text him just to make conversation. But honestly I don’t think he’s overthinking it like I am. Im also admittedly a bit irritated at him, as he calls my cute and pretty but still talks to me about other girls he finds attractive. Overall figuring out what to do now is just ruining my mood.
Should I text him now or just approach him tomorrow? | Crushes |
Write it all down. I'm just curious.....
Me: I like her eyes. | Crushes |
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so I asked my friend to text my crush to see if he likes me and so she asks him, "you and [my name]?" and since it was instagram dms, he just reacts to the text w a skull emoji... then she was like "tf was that answer." and he said, "what I do." I'm pretty sure he was dodging but I can't tell if this is a good or bad thing. | Crushes |
IS IT CONSIDERED ASKING OUT IF YOU LITERALLY JUST SAID, HEY LETS WALK WITH THE PARADE? THIS IS LITERALLY THE FIRST EVER MOVE I'VE DONE ON HER. AND I'VE KNOWN HER FOR 5 YEARS
ANYWAY IM SUPER STOKED SHE SAID YES AND THE PARADE STARTS IN 2 HOURS, AND ILL LEAVE AN UPDATE TO SEE HOW IT GOES | Crushes |
I finally told my crush that I liked him. It was a bit more awkward since his friend and his friends mum were there but I still managed to do it!
I pretty much just walked up to him, said his name to get his attention, gave him the note then legit RAN away. My heart was beating soo fast and my legs actually felt like jelly after giving it to him.
Idk how he’s gonna react but I’ll update again tmrw or whenever he actually reacts. It’s gonna be super awkward tmrw!
Btw I am a GIRL. Ppl on my last post kept saying things like ‘man’ and ‘brother’ and other stuff similar to that suggesting I’m a boy. I’m ok with it so no need to apologise. Just letting you know that I’m not a boy/male. | Crushes |
I am in college and I am taking an Education class and I am also in the dungeons and dragons club. There is a girl in both of them lets call her "Ally". She is nice I feel like if I talked to her more me and her can become good friends, I already have her number. She is very cute and quirky. She has braces and blonde highlights in her hair. She is very good at D and D and always asks questions in class. Sadly she said she has a boyfriend, lucky man. I have made a few jokes to her and she kind of did not get them. Very strange. | Crushes |
I just confessed to my crush. I gave him a code and let him decode it. At first I was a bit relieve that he doesn't know how to decode it but after a few attempt he started getting it so I hurriedly go offline. I message him "While you decode it, I'm going offline for 2 days". I really did ignore his message but only for an hour. I replied to his messages and he said "I knew you can't do it. Ignoring me for 2 days isn't like you. You feel guilty easily". Then he confessed saying "I was very obvious and you still don't know that I like you? I know I was your crush since Day 1 but I let you confess to me to higher your confidence and don't let your fear decide for you". Now we're in talking stage. I've been asking him several times if he's really willing to take the risk in dating me and if he really wants to be in a private relationship. He answered "I'm willing to take the risk with you and I understand why you want to keep our relationahip a private. I can wait until we can finally date in public". Keeping our relationship private is for my own and his sake. I said it before I have a strict and very religious family. If they ever find out that I'm dating someone, they will use their connections to people to find out who I am dating. I don't even want to imagine what they would do once they find out. Now, I really wish we won't be awkward tommorow. More like ME getting awkward 😓 | Crushes |
Hey guys.
I am 24F and I have a crush on 23M.
He’s okay at first, really understanding and can carry a conversation.
But after we had sex, I still like him but I didn’t bomb him with how I feel, I thought I’d just go with the flow.
But day by day he’s getting abusive in his manners.
The last straw was that he told me that my mom is hot and I’m not.
He kept making sexual jokes about my mom too.
Funny thing is, his mom passed away.
It’s really disgusting and disrespectful.
I cut him off.
Having a crush can confuse you because you think they don’t owe you anything, right?
They do ☺️ they owe you basic respect.
Maybe if you’re confused with your crush and you came across this post, it’s a sign.
Never tolerate disrespectful behavior 😊
We stop it now. Never forgive and never forget.
If I enabled him to bully me, imagine what would happen in the future 🫤 | Crushes |
We wanted to hang out at the mall tonight. It ended up being more of a date then just hanging out, and we talked a lot, cuddled a lot, and we got so much closer. She is so amazing, and I feel so incredibly lucky to be with her!! To top it all off, we kissed! That was my first kiss ever!
I want some of you guys to know something. Just a few days ago I really felt lonely and that no one would ever wanna be with me. I felt like I would have a hard time getting a chance with anyone. So if you have the mindset that I once did, hang in there. There’s gonna be someone for you, it just might take time and patience. So good luck to you guys who have these thoughts :) | Crushes |
Today I hung out with my friend and her brother 😻
I accidentally wore my mom's pants (she likes getting the same pants as me) and they were super long on me but I was running late and didn't want to keep them waiting and I didn't even notice so I had to go buy new pants
He was so sweet and he held the door open for me and I accidentally dragged them to like 3 different stores because their pants were so expensive so we all decided to take a break and go to Starbucks and they each got some kind of refresher and I got a pumpkin spice latte because I wanted to know why everyone liked it so much (it was ok maybe a bit overhyped imo) and he asked for a sip and he liked it so I said he could help me drink it and everytime I took a sip he would take a sip right after me ♡
I was so sad because I had to leave early since my mom was upset with me for no reason and we were supposed to look at the toy section together and then all have dinner ☹️
We might all meet up tomorrow though so wish me luck!! | Crushes |
in response to me confessing my crush, he said he felt something there too, but didn’t wanna ruin our friend group.
fuuuuuck man, couldn’t even give it a shot.
told him i’m probably gonna have to create space for a few months. like completely block him out. kinda difficult in the same group. ugh.
any advice? | Crushes |
So If y'all don't know I recently found out that I like my boy best friend a lot. He's changed me in a good way . He's so cute. He really saved me bc I got my heartbroken twice before him. I recently left the hospital a day ago and he makes sure I eat and take my meds. BUT ANYWAYS THAT'S NOT WHAT I WANTED TO GUSH ABOUT IT BRO. Ok so my bestie's mom told me about this dance every year in november that she likes to have where the girls or whoever doesn't do the asking DOES THE ASKING LOL. It's like sadie hawkins but more modern ig and including. I'm pretty sure she told me that just to ask her son (she's the principal at his school and she randomly told me about it and *I DON'T EVEN GO TO HIS SCHOOL) on s*aturday i asked him what he would hypothetically say and he said if i "hypothetically asked" he would love to go with me!!! I WONNNNNN YAYYYYYYY. I really like him bro he's like actually made me feel beautiful and lucky to have fr. I'M SO EXCITED. Ima do a whole proposal and go all out bc he deserves everything so yea | Crushes |
So there's a girl in my classroom, i had met here some years ago, but some weeks ago we had a casual conversation, where i got my crush on her, that conversation (that was about a voleyball competition in my school my team won and other minor topics) went so fluenty and we both showed genuine interest in what we were saying, from that day on we started to talk more frequently, it EVEN got to the point she invited me to her house in a friday plan with some friends of her and where i was initially not considered.
Also my birthday was some days ago, everyone in the classroom knew it and greeted me, but she did not know tho, but still that day i spent most of the time walking/talking with her, that day i made quite evident to her and some others my will to stay next to her, but she stayed nice with me, and later that day, she texted me greeting me for my birthday.
THE PROBLEM IS: I talked to a friend who knew her quite much more than me, he told me she ain't interested in loving/having a relation until graduation, but i have hope, i believe restricting to feel something for someone is one of the hardest things for humans to control, and we're just 1 year away from graduation.
This week is a holiday week in my country, so i will not see her for these days at school, i fear a change in our relationship, so i'm considering inviting her to some place, but i also fear the possible rejection. Should I invite her, or directly declare my feelings to her, or stay calm until we go back to school? | Crushes |
Sometimes I think about what it would be like to be with her then I remember I’m not good at maintaining and fostering relationships. I feel distant yet close to everyone I know. I try to connect with and get to know other people but I just get to know them not connect. I don’t like this feeling. I don’t like the feeling of coming home and the house is empty because everyone else is out. I hate being alone but I think I just can’t get actually close to anyone. | Crushes |
So school just started a month ago and I already picked for my broken recently healed heart a new crush. Hes in one of my classes. In the first class, he was sitting right opposite me, in the 2nd class, he sat at a different table. And then from the 3rd class until now, he would sit next to me. I am in college so the seats are pretty much up to you, the prof doesnt even care.
After two weeks, I asked him to study with me and he immediately agreed. After each study dates, we would go eat together and he would sit with my friends. In our 2nd study date, we prob talked for like 70% of our time instead of studying. He is very introvert. When he eats with me and my friends, he sometimes would sit down with my friend first. He wouldnt even say a single word to them. But when we are together, its so easy to get distracted and just rant on about random things.
One time we were studying with my friend and i asked him to proof read my works. He asked me a few questions while reading and we slowly got off track. We were too talkative that my friend reminded us we got to study instead of conversing.
In our nearest study date, we were joking around and he accidentally hurted himself. He jokingly told me that i hurt him and then my friend asked where, he replied that i hurt his heart. I choked so hard idek what to react at that point.
In one of the events that i told him to come with me, he also asked me if we can go eat at a restaurant sometimes.
But other than these, we almost never text each other. Most of the plans have been me initiating it, especially the study dates. I know for a fact that he enjoyed it because he talked about it a lot afterwards. And although the texting game is not great, whenever i come to class, he would greet me and ask me something or talk to me. We would also laughing our ass off during class at each others dumb jokes. The only concern is hes 3 years younger than me. | Crushes |
There is this girl that is a grade older than me she talks to me a lot and I think she likes me she used to send me pictures of her in underwear in a mirror but seems like she talkes to a lot of others guys but I don’t know she’s nice and pretty what should I do | Crushes |
I liked this girl for a while now. We have been getting dinner together after class and I thought there was something there. I was planning on asking her out in a few weeks. However we went on a class trip and she started making jokes about marrying someone else in our class. I’m very confused right now and was wondering if I should still ask her out. I can’t tell if she’s joking or not. | Crushes |
So i got a girlfriend a couple months ago.
I just dont really feel like we're *that* connected and we never really hang out
Theres this boy that i also really like and hes really nice and i want to be in a relationship with him
The only thing is that i have no idea how to tell her that i want to break up. She only told her parents a couple days ago and yes, i like her, but i dont know if we were really meant to be in a relationship.
Shes said she likes being in a relationship with me
Please help, i have no idea how to tell her, and i dont want her to be crushed when i say it | Crushes |
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Me and her have never talked, but every once in a while we'll catch each other looking at one another. During math class I had looked over at her and she was also looking at me. Also, when I came home that day we had a conversation on Snapchat and she kept calling me smart, like this:
Her: What grade do you have in Math?
Me: 91
Her: You're pretty smart
Me: No, being smart and having good grades are two separate things.
Her: Just like a smart person would say.
Me: Uhh ok. What do you have in Math.
Her: 74
Me: Ok, what do you have in Civics?
Her: 96. What do you have?
Me: 99.
Her: You're smarter than me again.
Do they like me, or are they just nice? | Crushes |
I gained a crush on a girl at the bigening of last quarter in 8th grade, and in 8th grade she was acting like she might have liked me!
I first talked to her when I gave her a Starburst, and I will never forget how she looked up at me and smirked, it was on of the cutest things I girl had ever done to me, then she walked away and said "thank you!!!" Thn I the next days I just said hi to her, And she had a cute response, like the first time she turned her hole body toward me and said "hi (my name!!" In a high pitched voice or something like that.
One time in gym I told her how many pull ups I got, and and she was super impressed, it was super cute! Then a bit later I needed a partner but I wasn't looking for one, I was just standing there but she said out to me "(my name) I can be your partner!!!" And then she ran up to me and asked "do you need a partner?! I can be your partner!!!" In a high pitched voice. She was doing cute stuff like that, and I saw her look at me a bit.
Towards the very and of 8th grade I asked her out to the dance, and she said maybe. The dance was at the last day of school. So when it was the dance and the last day of 8th grade I was so nervous, one of the most nervous I have ever been in my life! I knew I needed to ask her if she wanted to dance with me, but I was too nervous, and already out of my confert zone. One of my friends asked me if I was sick, I was that nervous. She looked at me a couple time, once about the time my friend asked if I was sick, and she furod her eye lashes, and one Towards the end of the dance looking like maybe she wanted me? But idk. So I never asked her if her maybe was a yes.
So the summer went by. It's now my freshman year of high school and now she doesn't seem to even notice me, I only talked to her a few times. She doesn't really look at me, the only time she was looking at me was when time in art where I was on the table behind her and she kept looking at me, over and over, one time in math where she looked at me once.
I confessed to her on the third day of high school and she said that she doesn't want to date anyone, because things like high school just started and stuff. She made it very clear she didn't want to date ANYONE, not just me. So idk, maybe she might come back around, but she hasn't been noticing me. So why did she seem like she liked me in 8th grade, but now she doesn't notice me? And will she come back around to me if she feels like wants or ready to date? | Crushes |
I honestly don't know why I like him. I haven't talked to him in about 3 years, and even then I didn't talk to him all that much, it was more like he would talk to me (I tend to be really awkward when talking to people I don't know that well, or that I find attractive). I don't even know if we'd get along or if he even really remembers me.
We've been going to the same school since I started school (he's a year older then me) and we live in the same neighbourhood. I see him in the halls (we're now in high school) and on the bus but that's about as close to interaction that I've come, besides some eye contact that may have been accidental but I'm honestly not sure.
Maybe I just like him because I feel like I need to like someone and I don't really talk to any guys, and already have trouble talking to people because I have social anxiety. But honestly I've liked him for quite a few years now.
I've tried all I can think of, working on myself, avoiding looking at him, etc. But as soon as I feel like I'm getting over him something "happens" aka a LOT of eye contact. It's hard to explain.
He's also someone who's pretty social, talks to a lot of people, has a lot of friends. I on the other hand only have a handful of friends, I can count on both hands the amount of people at school that I talk to. It wouldn't make sense for him to really even want to talk to me.
I'm so lost of what to do, I need help. | Crushes |
Doing this short since I don't like doing this. I told her how I felt, and she didn't believe me. For context, we are pretty good friends, so when I told her, she just thought it was something from a show. Even when I told her I was dead serious, she wouldn't believe me for a bit. It was embarrassing and discouraging. I shouldn't have said anything. I feel like I embarrassed both of us. | Crushes |
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My crush doesn't seem to show must interest in me. I told her I liked her drawings and she just said thank you. A few days later I asked her how long she was doing them for, hoping it would lead into a conversation, but she just said she wasn't sure. So I asked if it was something she was interested in, and she said "a little bit" and just kind of walked off. Any way I can keep the conversation going? She is definitely very introverted and quiet from what I've seen. So is she just shy or something? I sometimes feel like she is staring at me though. | Crushes |
there was this guy i liked since i was in elementary school and this year things changed with us and we ended up talking but then once school started he just started to ignore me. i thought it was bc of football at first but he still had his weekends and he just never made time for me. he then left me on delivered for 4 days and i knew he probably wasn’t interested in me anymore. so i decided to leave him on opened, it’s been almost 2 weeks since then. nothing is getting easier. i really miss him bc we were also really good friends so i lost someone who was very important to me in more ways than one. is there anyone who knows how to move on from this in a healthy way? because all i’ve been doing is crying lol | Crushes |
I (33f) feel extremely guilty. I have a secret crush on my best friend’s (32f) boyfriend (32m). To top it all off, I am also in a committed long-term relationship. So not only do I feel guilty for having feelings for my friend’s partner, but I also feel guilty for having a crush while I’m in a relationship with my sweet boyfriend (32m).
I feel like there is definitely some sort of connection and attraction between me and my friend’s boyfriend. We’ve gotten to know each other better and spent a lot of time with one another recently. I even went as far as to confess to him that I have feelings for him when we were alone together. He seemed slightly surprised and was pretty vague about his feelings toward me, aside from saying I’m “attractive”.
I can obviously never act on these feelings without blowing up both of our lives. So how do I best deal with these feelings when I know nothing good can come from them? Is time the only thing that will help? | Crushes |
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Well I didn’t. My so called best friend did. After I specifically told them not to.
They had told him last Tuesday, I found out on Saturday about what they did. I was and still am livid. He’s straight so idk what my ‘friend’ was getting out of this.
He’s not looking for a relationship nor would he date me if he was.
Now let’s just say I’ve guaranteed lost any physical affection from him in the future. Thanks to my friend.
I confronted my crush abt it seeing as I know what my friend said. We agreed to stay friends and I’d like to say nothings changed, but I know it has in both our minds.
It’ll never be the same, not until I convince him I like someone else, I’ve gotta find a reliable option.
I’m hurt by my friend. And rejected which I didn’t plan to be so soon. | Crushes |
I have a trend in my crushes. Almost all my crushes play baseball. I mean that’s not the thing that makes me like the guy. I develop a crush and then later find out he plays baseball
Why do I have crushes on baseball boys? Do they act the same or smth?
Crushes are weird. For the entire yese two years ago I wanted to have a crush (I love that feeling) and j tried to like this one guy but I just couldn’t like him. (He plays baseball) but last year a new guy came and he plays baseball but I liked him immediately. He’s kinda tall but height doesn’t really matter. He has a deep voice which is hot. The first thing I thought was “he looks a year older than me” (I didn’t like him then) then literally and hour later I started to like him. It’s cause of how he acts he’s energetic and cool and she loud
For me I’d say my type is kinda mature and immature at the same time. Energetic and sus. Like my crush kinda that personality where if he beats his friend in smth he yells and is just freakin cute in that energetic way. Also idk the word for it but example: Someone: I got a bruise from when u kicked my knee crush: cause ur weak. OR some kid talking abt random stuff crush: and?. IDK ITS JUDT HES KINDA IMMATURE BUT CUTEE and also he chases ducks which is so adorable
He’s also sus | Crushes |
He looked so good today I couldn’t focus at work. I wish I could tell him how good he looks all the time…🙃 I told him I liked his jacket and his smile as he said thanks and looked away made my heart melt!! | Crushes |
My class crush(21M) asked if I(20F) wanted to go to a record shop/bookstore over our fall break and I said yes and now im going tomorrow to meet with him but I'm nervous af!! My crush is kinda (very) cool but too cool for me! How do I handle this tomorrow??? How do I act normal??? I haven't been on a date that was implicitly a date before??? Like in the two dates I've been on before(a long time ago!), it was kinda obvious, or we were already together before our first official date. But class crush kinda jumped the gun and asked to hang out at the cutest little shop and I get the serious feeling that this is low-key a date and idk what to do. | Crushes |
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I still love him to bits but me and him never get to hang out. Should I ask him if he got my message when I see him, but what if...? Idk. I really need some advice for tomorrow. | Crushes |
So I let my emotions get the best of me last night and told my work crush I had a thing for him. Left me on read. I mean that's fine and all but I feel like there will definitely be a weird vibe at work now. Plus I'm so embarrassed...I consider him a good friend too which makes this even more humiliating and sad. I don't know what I was expecting, maybe a "Thanks but I don't feel the same." Would have been better than no response at all. Time to go crawl into a hole and cry. | Crushes |
Like once the reject you/you just find out there not interested | Crushes |
I (13f) have no classes with my crush (13m) this year. For some context, I knew him last year, and we talked a bit. We weren’t friends but we knew each other and he was really nice :> We have a lot in common, from what we talked about but the thing is, he’s really extroverted, and I’m shy. I keep trying to interact with him somehow, but it never goes as planned.
ALSO I IGNORED HIM TWICE.. lmao its embarrassing, but i didn’t think he was talking to me, and i was just really shy so i ignored him :/
And, I think he might live on my street? I saw him riding his bike, and he was walking down the ramp after school, where i go! But i only saw him twice, and it’s been weeks now.. i also dont see him walk that way anymore.. i doubt he moved, but maybe he was just visiting someone?
Back to what i was saying with trying to talk to him. I go to the library almost everyday, and so does he. We’ve only made eye contact a few times, but nothing else. Also, i made a plan to befriend his friends (who are in my class) but it turns out they aren’t very nice :/
What should i do? | Crushes |
No like seriously how
I need help with this :') | Crushes |
We were texting each other for over an hour just now. Is this a sign that they like me or | Crushes |
So my crush has a cousin that goes to the school. Today ms moved our seats alone with eachother and his cousin sits at a desk that is in a group which is right across from us. He kept wispering to him and smiling while looking at me and my crush kept telling him to stop while laughing lol. His cousin started looking at me and started smiling again and I was like stop he doesn’t like me and he was like he will? Like what does that even mean lol? And everytime I tell his cousin he doesn’t like me he or my crush doesn’t confirm it. The only reason me and my crush aren’t together right now is because he said he needed time because he was confused about what he wants. To be honest with you I don’t even think he likes me, he is a very touchy person but he sometimes does it with other girls to just not as much as with me. So I don’t know if he’s just friendly with anyone and I’m just being dramatic and they where just making fun of me because he doesn’t want to sit next to me so his cousin was mocking him or if It is because he does. | Crushes |
I’ve known this girl for many years. We were such great friends she made me laugh so hard and we had so much in common. We watched all the same shows and had the same interests.
Around February 2020 I started feeling like I really liked her. But I was too scared to ask her out because I was afraid of being rejected.Then the pandemic happened we couldn’t talk due to Covid. Even when school came back we didn’t see each other since my school was half online half at home. So we just stopped talking after that year. Not even on bad terms just stopped talking.
Even almost 3 years later I cannot get her off my mind. I cannot stop thinking about how hard I blew it. We had so much in common. I see her in school nowadays and cannot stop thinking about what could have been. If we had classes it would be easier to talk to her but I don’t.
Even if she rejected me when I asked it would be so much better than what I have now. At least knowing what she would say instead of thinking about it could give me closure. But it’s still open since I didn’t have the courage to ask her.
I just wish I wasn’t so scared when I had the chance. | Crushes |
Just curious | Crushes |
now i can move on, right? hopefully. | Crushes |
so recently the girl I've liked for any 4 years started liking another guy. I always thought I had a chance with her but I realised how little I made an effort to talk to her over that time. it feels really weird seeing her flirtig with this guy who I've never really liked that much anyways. I think he likes her too. the whole thing made me realise how important it is to talk to the person you like and to not get scared of it. it's the only way you'll ever make progress with someone. even if it makes you a bit uncomfortable, do it. it'll be worth it in the end. and don't be afraid to confess your feelings. it makes you feel better and lets them know as well. I posted oh here before abt that girl, asking what I should do, and the main response I got was to talk to her or confess. I never did really. and now she's crushing on someone else. I know how impossible it feels to talk to the person you like sometimes, but coming from a person with personal experience, please do it. cos of the whole situation I told myself I'm gonna be a better person and not chicken away from stuff like that.
anyway, I've been trying to move on and there's another girl who I've been friends with for abot half a year. gonna take my own advice and talk to her a bunch. all it takes is a friendly conversation at first that can then turn into something if you and they want it to. wish me luck. and please please just talk to them, even if you don't want to ask them out or tell them you like them. it'll be worth it.
feel free to leave a comment with your own experiences/questions. I can try to answer if you want me to. | Crushes |
I found out he is liking another girl who studies medicine like him. I’m happy for him but at the same time I feel like a loser. I tried so hard to be the best at his lessons and to show him I’m capable of getting there too but I guess I can’t compare. It’s like a knife in my heart because I truly liked that guy so much I thought about asking him out after the test he is preparing me for. Now all I feel is that I’m not worthy, that I wish I was good enough for him and that I lost my kind of person. I thought that maybe he had some interest in me but I guess not… Someday I will get to medical school too and prove him I was on this level of worthiness too and apart from that - medicine is my dream. He judges me on what I am now but he is wrong… | Crushes |
So I recently developed a crush on a female coworker of mine, which is my first crush in over a decade, and it makes me too sad to know it could never happen. I never develop crushes cus it’s pointless but this girl has shown me some attention (basically started a conversation with me and says hi or bye when I leave sometimes) which is really all it takes for me to get attached. I want to stop having feelings for her but she’s so beautiful and nice but seeing her just makes me too sad. What should I do to get over her? | Crushes |
Excuse my shitty english 😅😅
Soooo basically there's this guy in my school that I've liked for a couple of months now.
He's really cute, he's tall and knows how to draw very well. I guess you could he's my hallway crush. On a few occasions I would see him hanging out with some friends that I know of. So, I've asked one of his friends if there is a way I can talk to him without making things awkward and what are the type of things that he like, you know that sort of stuff. She told me it might be a little difficult to communicate with him as he can't talk. I asked why and she said that back when he was in grade 10, he was diagnosed with tongue cancer and had to amputate his tongue, Which is why the teachers allows him to use his phone as thats his only way of communication. I felt bad for him :((. Having to go through all of that at a young age must be very hard. " ohhhh ok" I responded. I still like him ofc whether he is mute or not. She told me that he is very extroverted, super sweet and has a good personality tho which is good in my book. I still wanna befriend him tho but idk how i could do that when he is mute :(
*UPDATE*: Ya'll I finally befriended him yess :))) and just as my friend said he's VERY sweet and he's suprisingly VERY outgoing JDJCHXHSHCJHVJCJSJCHXSJ | Crushes |
There this girl I like for about 6 month, we talked before but not everyday. I want to confess to her but not sure if I really want to cause few years ago I been rejected before and that shit painful | Crushes |
been talking with her for 3-ish months, we started by chilling in her car after work just talking until 4am whenever we finished together. i asked her to hang out like a month ago, had her party last week at a club where she was super flirty with me and we ended up semi-cuddling and holding hands on a stool (lol) and holding hands on an uber otw home. we're finally hanging out tomorrow after having this planned for a whole month and im so anxious about it. i never specified it as a date or anything, although she knows im taking her to a place i was gonna take this last girl i liked that i never went out with. i shouldn't doubt if she likes me considering all that but i'm 20, never had a relationship and have no clue what the hell i'm doing. i just wanted to vent that out :) | Crushes |
Soooo..... I'm chatting with this girl for almost 3 and a half months now, I know it's wayy to early or premature? (idk the word lol). But, what she said 2 months ago to me still echoes in my mind.
She said that she has a crush on me, but didn't like me, and she's not stable (mentally, or more than that, I suppose) to return back what I feel about her (I confessed that I like her prior to what she said).
But we're still talking, and I think, got a little bit closer to each other. I just want to ask if she like me in a way? We both have crush on each other. I know she doesn't want a relationship, but, is it rude to ask her if I have a chance?
I just want my head to be clear. I really really really like her. I'm asking this question because if she does like me, maybe there's a chance of us, just idk...maybe... | Crushes |
Hi guys I’m pretty new to the whole crush thing like I’ve had little crushes here and there but nothing like this. As soon as I first saw her I knew she was something special.
We met at a friends party and as soon as I started talking to her and got to know her I just started getting more and more feelings toward her.
So here is the problem, I am absolutely terrified of talking to her. I told my friend that I like her and I got spread around until it eventually reached her I know that she knows. I’ve never felt this way before and I’d like help from you all. I want to ask her out on a date but I’m scared of rejection I’ve gotten so close to asking her but I wussed out. I need advice on how to ask her out, I don’t want to ask her to be my girlfriend just yet but just on a date. I’d love any advice it’s all appreciated thank you. | Crushes |
I don't care if it does not mean anything, the fact that my crush most of the times views my stories some seconds after i upload it makes me giddy and happy. This just happened and it made my whole day like I'm not kidding. He's even the first one not even my friends and family are this fast. | Crushes |
I (25,f) never been a relationship, and I didn’t even affectionate someone for 4 years. But I am now crushing someone very much. I started working with him (30,m) 3 months ago but not everyday, I am just assistant in his project. He is very warm,kind, and handsome man. He has very good manners. He is really good at his job. He is also very helpful person. I am really happy to work with him. Unfortunately for me, he is in very deep relationship and will getting married soon. So, I try not to fall into him. But these days, my feelings getting stronger, sometimes it’s very difficult to control myself. Therefore, I try not to chat with him except for work and stay away from him. But that time he came to me, ask me and try to help in my work. Also he is really care about me and always ready to help me. He always support me when I am in trouble. That make me confuse and grow my feelings for him. I don’t have experience about this kind of things. Beside, there are many small gestures that make my heart flutter. I am not sure he is just a kind person or I am just misunderstood in this kind of situation. How can I move on from him. I don’t want this kind of situation. | Crushes |
I have been thinking about this since it happened, so I was just doing my leftover work when suddenly I get a message from him but it doesn’t show (which means if I received it but can’t see it he deleted it) I ask him what was that, he says “no” then when I ask he doesn’t answer, what was the message | Crushes |
My crush and I have been regularly texting, talking and hanging out since the end of April. A few weeks after we first started hanging out I knew I liked him and so I got up the courage and just went for it and told him.
At the time, he told me he just wanted to be friends. I was a little but hurt but I respect him and knew I would gladly take friendship also because he is an awesome human.
We have hung out a lot more since then, and since then he has been the one to initiate the proposal of hanging out. We've been texting each other every day now too for at least a month.
I thought I was doing well as just a friend until this week, and we hung out 2 days ago and it wasn't anything I thought it would be. Firstly, he had a cup of coffee waiting for me when i came to hang out with him. He makes coffee for me a lot now. He took me to his secrete foraging spot for a specific local food. Which is a big deal around here. And secondly he kept making "jokes" that felt strangely like they might not be jokes. Usually his humor has me laughing so hard I cry, but these felt strange and I didn't know how to respond. For example, a song came on that was a little bit lovey and he called it our song. And at the spot he said "this is where we are going to build our house" and "I was going to ask you to marry me here".
I didn't like these feeling like jokes because he knows how I feel and I think it's still obvious how much I like him. So I called him out and said joking that way was cruel to me. After a few minutes of awkward quiet we continued our day and he ended up walking me to his favorite pizza shop and after he kept saying how happy he was to take me there. We watched some TV, drank a little bit, and took a walk to the river to stargaze a little and we had a good playful time. When we got back it was late, and somehow I ended up sleeping on the couch for the night because neither of us felt like I should drive home. He asked when he should wake me up and I told him whenever he needed me out and he said, "I want you to get really good sleep, you work nights and I know you need to sleep tomorrow so you can stay as long as you need". He asked if I was absolutely sure if I needed anything else like a blanket or water and I was already half asleep so I didn't need anything.
In the morning he was as quiet as he could be with his morning routine, but I ended up waking up and felt bad I was in his way, but instead of rushing me out he and I talked for a while and he made me breakfast.
I am so confused, and I'm trying to not read into it because what he said was he wanted to be friends. I feel like if he wanted anything else he would tell me, but maybe he was trying to and I missed it?? He's been very considerate and respectful but after this last hang out I am so deeply conflicted.
What is happening right now?? | Crushes |
probably my favourite sub rn. idk why maybe fate? i moved into the same place as my crush. and now i take the same bus as him. where should i sit, i’m not very close to him tho lmao i’m just curious. maybe sitting at the back?? idk | Crushes |
I'm honestly just bad at reading social cues but there was times where he would call me sweet names and say things that seemed a little flirty but I was always too scared I'd embarrassed myself so I'd avoid saying anything too crazy. He even called me cute...but I said not to say that (even though I wanted him to) because I'm such an idiot. We honestly have so much in common and I think that's what really made me fall for him. He's said I'm so different from a lot of people in a good way. He's honestly just so sweet. There was even a time where things got on a slightly intimate topic but even then I avoided saying too much.
He kinda got distant after that and came back with a girlfriend. I'm happy for him I really am but I keep having this thought that I maybe he figured I didn't like him back so he moved on. I wish I wasn't so scared and took the chance so I wouldn't have missed the opportunity. | Crushes |
Basically, I went to a baseball game with my friends one day, and one of my friends brought his girlfriend with, and her cousin came along as well. Her cousin was a year younger, and she is so pretty and to this day I wish I could tell her. Me and her actually never talked, yet since that day I've gotten a huge crush on her, EVEN THOUGH WE NEVER TALKED. I don't know why I feel like this. I've seen many cute girls, yet I don't know why I like her so much. I need advice on what I should do. | Crushes |
So recently I started liking a guy. We talked once after that I was to shy to talk to him IRL so I texted him and we started talking. After a week he asks me the reason I'm talking to him and I indirectly expressed my interest in him. His response was,
"I respect your feelings but I’m not looking for a relationship right now , I need to focus on myself , I’m just not ready to invest my time in anyone at the moment.
You seem pretty sweet and genuine so I’m not going to waste your time cause it precious but we should hangout/talk some times ;)".
I know it's a clear rejection but my friend thinks he might change his mind in the future as he doesn't know me too well and even my brother said y'all need to hangout first. What do y'all think? | Crushes |
We’re talking about something sexual
I say let’s recreate
She says okay bet
I say when and where
She says her house
Am I in | Crushes |
After a lot of thinking i decoded to give up on my crush cause nothing can happen. We are only in the same city now cause it's summer, when it ends we both go back to our own cities. And I just don't think I'm attractive enough for him. Anyways I was so set up on moving on and now I had such a big dream in my sleep about him 💀 the thing with me is, I almost never remember any of my dreams but for some reason i remember it's every detail right now 💀 just when I thought I could stop thinking about him, my mind is full of thoughts about him now 😭 | Crushes |
(Im a M17) Basically, I go to a really small school where there isn’t much of a social life. However, I am fortunate to have a friend that goes to a public school and he invites me to hang out with his friends which is awesome. As I mentioned, my school doesn’t have a great social life. Naturally, it is really hard to talk to girls so recently I have been attempting to talk to ones that are in this other group. Whenever we hang out, I find myself sort of left out. There’s just one girl in particular I like and I Snapchat her a lot on the side, but when we do this group hangouts, we don’t really talk and since I don’t go to their school, it’s difficult to chime in on their conversations. I fear that I’m in over my head thinking that I could get with this girl even though we never talk, what do I do? | Crushes |
IM TRYING TO ASK HER OUT BUT IM SHAKING IM SO NERVOUS HELP | Crushes |
So i like this guy right, and we’re kind of friends? Idk, but like I full on love this guy, and he doesn’t like me back (but we do make eye contact sometimes, and when I turn to look at my friend I’ll catch him staring at me) but he’s over heard me talking abt him so many times and one of my friends told him I like him. | Crushes |
I did it yesterday but turns out she is lesbian | Crushes |
So my guy friend had a deal with me that he would tell me the guys that liked me during the year after graduating. so today i was like "hey are you gonna tell me who liked me?" and he said, "he liked you in the beginning of the school year, it was \_\_\_\_\_" . I was pleasantly not-so surprised, but also sad because what if the spark was just in the beginning of the year? Whats kinda funny is that pretty much as soon as he stopped liking me, i started liking him. Anyways I told my guy friend that I still like \_\_\_\_\_ and he was like "WHAT" and "WHY DONT YOU ASK HIM OUT?!" and thats because i have a fear of rejection. So to sum all of this up, I will be telling him that I like him tomorrow and if things go south i will cry! (P.S. if you need more info on the situation check my other posts on this subreddit!) | Crushes |
I need to finally do it. I think about her all the time, we've known each other for so long, and I need to say it. I don't know what to say, she's had crushes on people before that she is still friends with. I have no expectations on how it'll go, but here goes nothing. Wish me luck. | Crushes |
idk if he likes me frl based on body language like we were watching tv on my bed with another friend and he propped himself up on his side leaning into me and he took my hoodie because he spilled taco sauce on his shirt and he said i gave him romantic and ethereal vibes but idk if he’s coming from a friends pov because my friend asked him about it and he said like oh idk maybe but the friend says that he never really will say if he is because he doesn’t share stuff like that so idk if he was being vague because he was being honest or if it’s like a he would know if he didn’t like me by now type of thing but he gave me a side hug and it was like around my hip lowkey like normally i feel like it’s belly button level it was just a little lower but i said i wanted pistachios at the store and decided not to buy them so i turned away and then i paid and he walks out behind me because i was the only one to buy anything and then we get to the car and he pulls the pistachios out of his waistband and gave them to me and also he always walks beside or behind me and idk he just never walks in front of me and makes it a point | Crushes |
I've liked an asexual friend of mine for a while now (I'm also asexual), I know they like someone but I don't know if it's someone besides me. Recently they got really close to my face and started speaking quietly and pats my had when we see each other in person and I'm thinking they might like me but is that just something most people would be comfortable doing with friends? | Crushes |
so, i met this person in the beginning of the 2021-2022 school year. he was really really nice and i crushed on he towards maybe december? now it’s june, he confessed his feelings for me and i reciprocated, only on call because we had to leave and i didn’t give a proper response irl. i’m really socially awkward with him, i think i feel nervous around him because i want to show the best side of me. the problem is, we’re supposed to meet up tomorrow and while i’m extremely happy that we both shared the same feelings, i’m extremely nervous about how to approach him especially since i opened up my feelings towards him (which took me a while because i’m not good with that);;; please give me advice! i’m kind of planning to just be natural but i find myself struggling to make convo which i wanna change. | Crushes |
So there's a girl who likes me. She's a good girl and I enjoy talking to her too. But the difficult thing is that she texts me very oftenly. Like she texts me 7-8 times a day which is wayy uncomfortable to me. She had confessed me once to which I had to reject (I did that in the politest way). So I just need advice how to maintain space with her without her feeling bad
UPDATE
Guys thank you sooo much. I replied her to decrease the frequency of her msgs. She replied "okay I will". She was kinda sad maybe but I had to do it. In the end things went better than I expected. Thank you very much. You guys are sooo wholesome :')) | Crushes |
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