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I need some advice. I like this girl that I'll call Faith, we are both seniors in high school and there are only 16 days left of high school. I'm a guy(17) she is also 17 and after school is over we will not see each other again. We have been in the same classes as each other since freshman year but this year we had no classes together. Of course I didn't have any feelings for her, freshman, sophomore, or junior year but this year towards the end of the year I have developed feelings for her. I honestly don't know how I could go to college knowing that more than likely I'll never see her again. I want to ask her out so badly but I have no idea how to, I have never been in a relationship before or ever asked anyone out before because I have such low confidence. I really have no idea what to do. Should I ask her out? Also does anyone have any advice on how to help me raise my confidence level? | Crush |
I’m pretty sure this coworker has a crush on me and I have a crush on her. We take all of our break with each other, we flirt constantly. One day she randomly texted me saying how her takeout order was double the amount they usually give her and she wanted to give me the rest so she drove to my house and we chatted for ten or so minutes she gave me the food then left. We used to text 24/7 but now I’m lucky to get a message back. Nothing at work has changed but now she just doesn’t text me at all and I’m really confused about it. | Crush |
So, I wanted to ask you all what it looks like to have a healthy crush on someone? I know for a fact that the last time I had a crush it was very unhealthy, and I developed a whole commitment complex that has affected me for the last few years. I am kind of catching feelings for someone, and my first instinct is to shut my emotions down, but I don't think I really want to do that.
I just could use a little advice.
Thanks guys :) | Crush |
I’ve genuinely never felt this way towards anyone in my short life in this world, I want to give her time to heal after just getting out of a bad relationship maybe a week ago, but I also want to take her places and maybe a date. But I’m too scared if I push it with the sweet talk, I’ll lose her. We’ve known echother for 7 years, but we’ve only really got to spend a few months together, I’ve been through many relationships and I know, this is different. This love I feel for her, triumphs all prior. I don’t know how to push forward, a date? Maybe something like taking her to a cafe? Read a manga with her? Out of anything, from all the shit she’s been through, people who’ve hurt her, I want to give her the happiness she deserves for being such a hero, it if it wasn’t for her, I wouldn’t be here today. I’m so confused! | Crush |
I met her august 2019. I was on my way to a trip in the countryside to meet some friends there and a girl I didn’t know picked me up and offered me a ride. She was nice and sweet. But the girl that was with her in the front seat.... I instantly got a crush on her and that happens very rarely.. she was hands down the most beautiful lady I’ve ever seen
we started talking and our conversation just flowed easily and effortlessly. There was like an instant connection. I threw in a few jokes and got her smiling and laughing.. the ride was a couple of hours then we arrived at this friends place and there were like 20 people there, maybe more. And we were all going to spend the weekend together.
I kind of lost track on her during the stay there, she was a bit all over the place having a good time and she met some girls there she really liked. I was also having a good time and minding my own but we talked here and there just short small talks.
But every time I got eye contact with her she smiled. And it wasn’t no regular friendly smile. It was a smile that could easily be interpreted as “ I like you “
I even approached her from behind once, just to make her acknowledge I really liked her. I put my hands on her shoulders and said hi. I tried to do it so she wouldn’t get a fright and she didn’t. She looked comfortable, she just turned around and gave me the biggest smile like she had hoped it was me before she turned around and we talked a bit.
Then the last day came.. this woman was from abroad and her flight was that night. She said goodbye to everyone and then she came to me and we had a moment in private.
She said she really hoped to see me again and that she would miss me. And tears came out of her eyes. It kind of caught me off guard. I just smiled and said don’t worry we will see each other again.
A week later I looked her up on Instagram and I found her there. She liked some of my posts and I hers: But I didn’t send her a message or anything
a few months later she said hello and asked me how I was doing and what I been up to and we catched up a bit , she seemed to be happy and doing fine. then she said “ you know I would really like to talk to you on the phone soon” I said I would really like that.
And then.... nothing... for some months I hear nothing from her. So I got a bit pissed off and started thinking she probably found someone else I mean she is in another country. Hypocritical of me really because I had been dating and having flings myself.
So I unfollowed her, and I noticed some days later she had unfollowed me back as well.
Last night I sent her a message, it was a drunken message but from the heart.
I told her basically how I feel about her and that she is the most beautiful woman I ever laid my eyes on and I would do anything for her. I asked if she could give me a chance and that I would fly to come see her
She hearted every single message but her reply was : I feel you, I do
What does that mean? | Crush |
I have two classes with a girl that I haven’t had a crush on before. We talk sometimes in one class. Recently, we got new seats in my math class, and she came directly to sit with me, like she didn’t hesitate at all. She acted nervous and was playing with her hair a lot. She also laughed a lot at things I said. I’m pretty sure she likes me. What do you guys think? I kind of have a crush on her now that I think she likes me. Should I try to be her friend first? | Crush |
Listen fellas, I've had many crushes, none of em worked out. I've been rejected to my faced or subtly. I've helped my crushes with their crushes, they even left the country. I've cried, etc. Not really a fan of my romantic feelings. And now it's gonna happen again and even tho I'm doing my best to control it, i have a feeling it won't work. Because, well, it didn't work in any of the other cases.
So I'm really asking for your advice. ¿How do I stop myself from hurting again?
Thanks you and goodnight | Crush |
She is the most beautiful woman in the world. I have had a crush on her for a year now. The first time she spoke to me, my heart was beating so fast I thought I would pass out. I see her sometimes at work, but never had the nerve to just ask her out. | Crush |
There was this asian girl named Janty that I met in 8th grade in history class. i was asian too. i wasnt into her yet. We sat together the whole year and became friends. During the year she was always coming up to me and teasing me with her friend, Isabella. and showing a lot of affection. In history, jan, isabella and i sat together. jan always tried talking to me but I was really awkward. we both were into music. i joked about having a emo band and both of them were in on the joke. jan was into ariana grande and i liked pop punk. During the end of the year she liked to greet me and hug me tightly whenever she saw me. we took pictures at the 8th grade dance. thats when i realized i liked her. she looked beautiful with the dress she was wearing. at the day of promotion, we greeted each other and took pictures together. it was a nice day for me. during summer we talked a lot on instagram. i always commented on her spam and joked with her. it was cool.
at the beginning of 9th grade we hugged each other everyday and jan told me she missed me so much. in september, i started teasing her that i liked her. by texting about life and stuff. but she wasnt into it which was weird to me. but i eventually told her i had a crush on her by text but what she said was “no you dont” i said i did again but she was denying it by saying “you dont like me” i was confused so i kept telling her “i really do” it was this back and forth conversation for 8 msgs until she stopped answering. the next day, i went up to her in school but she just ignored me and walked away from me. i soon realized she rejected me. i thought we were both into each other but we werent friends anymore, she took me off her spam and i became extremely sad(idk if i was depressed) i became closer with her friend Michelle talking about my situation and we hanged out more. (not elaborating but shes cool) later my crush got a boyfriend named alex in october. he was a tall, mexican and a wrestler. i started to forgot abt her but it made me a little more sad. i kept seeing her with him during cross country practice. alex was also in xc. janty wasnt. it me jealous and annoyed. eventually they broke up (idk when) i knew they were on bad terms
in december, jan and isabella saw me in the hallway, they both talked a little bit about my fake band which i joked about in eighth grade. it made me uncomfortable. they both teased me for skipping the steps on the stairs when i was trying to get away from them. it was weird but at least janty noticed me. later jan talked to me again in lunch with her friend maya. talking about my shirt which had billie eilish on it. jan wanted me to say “im the bad guy” because i had a deep voice. i said it and she laughed at it. it made me happy for a moment. during january, febuary and march before quarantine, we started saying hi to each other in the hallways. i felt like we were on good terms again. then quarrantine happened. and thats the end of the story. im not rly into her anymore but its cool that we dont pretend that we werent friends. | Crush |
I've had a crush on one of my coworkers for two years now and he recently left. I'm heartbroken but I just want to know what's the quickest way of getting over someone I've liked for so long. | Crush |
Hi people,
I'm not sure if i am at the right adress with this but i have met a girl in university and we basically have the same schedule so we already spent a lot of time together and we do a lot of stuff in our leisure time. At this point we are close friends and i can talk to her about everything.
I started having a crush on her and now i don't know what to do. When i spend time with her she sometimes looks at me and is smiling as she is really happy to be with me at the moment but she is not really blushing or anything like that and i can't tell if she just want to be friends with me or if she is crushing on me to.
So basically I want to tell her and add a "romantic component" to our relationship but I don't want to risk our current relationship
Thanks for your answers in advance
(sorry for my grammar and writing, English is not my first language) | Crush |
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I wanted to share that since I know a lot of guys want to be nice to people and be as nice as possible to them. However, sooner or later you realize that some people will take advantage of them. It's better to break it off with toxic people and meet new people to make new friendships or relationships.
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Hey guys...I am kinda in a dilemma...basically, I like a girl and we've been friends for a while. I had asked her out when we first met 3 years ago, but she said no. We've still been good friends, but I felt that she was closer to me now than before (although I could be very delusional). I have written something for her, could you guys please help, because I don't know if I should I ask her out, or protect our friendship?
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Thank you so much for all your help guys, really appreciate it. | Crush |
I have a friend who is a girl (I am a boy) in college. We both very rarely talked on what's app as she took too long to reply.
During this lockdown she got into a relationship. So I began to feel insecure. I started messaging her daily then and tried to talk to her more and even started sending good morning texts. Things got wierd between us and then she asked me why do u send me goodmorning texts daily to which I replied," I wanted to talk to u more and I thought good morning would be nice to start convo"
But then I stopped sending her messages as while replying she started calling me bro and also because I was waiting that she would say something as the things ended up being wierd but she never messaged.
So I took it upon myself then to break the silence and started sending her snapchat stories which I found interesting. The problem here too was late reply. She used to reply to my texts after 2-3 days or sometimes even a week. After getting Frustrated with so late replies I stopped messaging her again.
Then one day in our online class some gratitude activity was going on in which I paid her gratitude for being a friend which she too paid back.
Day before yesterday I messaged her hey as I felt like I am losing her which I don't want to which she replied today helloo with a yellow heart.
What should I reply to her now?
I don't have anything in mind I just don't want to lose her and not share her with anyone. | Crush |
So there is this girl named Isabella and me and her have been friends since we were born ( our mothers are both related ) So can I please have advice on how to start dating her? | Crush |
Did I do the right thing? would be nice if you guys comment.
It all started when we were chatting each other as friends (we knew each other beforehand), we were just goofing off, updating each other's life, comforting one another, calls, ...etc. Months passed by, I grew feelings for him and I didn't liked it.
Because:
a.) He just broke up from a long term relationship
b.) He is still healing and figuring things out
c.) He thought he's never going to heal
Therefore, I confessed in hope of being rejected. Kill it while it's still fresh. He did reject. It wasn't painful. No treatment was changed. I also asked him to temporarily stop chatting me, so I can assess myself but we ended up chatting on the next day lmao 🤷🏻♀️
And again, a month passed by, he confessed to me that he likes me more than a friend with sending some mixed signals, and I like him more than ever. I am attached to him, a day without talking to him is incomplete, the moment he confessed I wasn't entirely happy, because I know this is wrong. He is still hurt. He is still confused. He is still healing. (Don't worry we talked about this, so it's safe to conclude)
And I felt, I was not enough and I'm just adding further to his confusion. I have to admit it's kinda painful hahah
So, I directly told him (finally) to have a break with communicating with each other. We said our goodbyes and talked about it. This time, we're taking it seriously. It was hard, I have to admit, both of us knew that we are attached to one another but I need to end my feelings for the sake of myself and for him. For the sake for our friendship too.
I also don't want to hinder his process of healing himself. I will miss him badly, our little moments, our laugh but I have to prioritize myself more.
I ended it not because I want to, it is because I have to. | Crush |
I'm a beach lifeguard, and I was at this guard party, and this girl I work with asked me to dance. I was sitting, and she was like, " come on, I won't grind on you, I promise." Lol. What does that mean, guys? .. | Crush |
Ngl feelings really do fade away fast
If you text them so much, they get annoy
If you text them so little, they’ll get upset why you not texting them or rather than don’t even care about
But if you text like regular, you are most likely to miss them sooo much, want to know what they are doing and want to talk to them more
See and I feel like I’m annoying and bothering him
Aughhh 😔 | Crush |
I have a crush on my mum I love her I think she likes me back as your crush as well | Crush |
We talking here and there yesterday but, it sucks
He played with his friend girls and friend guy and I was aloneeee
But it’s all okay ig
I met new friends yesterday though!
It was nice
I somehow think since I’m so nice to him he think of me as a friend
Oh and I feel like I should work on my gaming skills instead of playing with him
It’s almost his bday
So I should gift him something :) | Crush |
(I think she is the one)
I prayed to God about the girl of my life. Unexpectedly, I met her in college. Everything about her is what I have been praying for. I loved to play chess and there she is, playing chess too! We are both October peeps! To cut it short, we are really compatible. We went out 2x already. Just a night walk from MOA (Mall of Asia) to a certain terminal. Clearly it is not her first time doing that(I am aware, she told me she did it with her 'guy' friend). But it is my first time so it is really special to me. There is also 1 time we went to adventure (to a place we do not know). She also plays the game I like. Her hometown is my province. FOR REAL! UGH! I just can't let her go away. I always keep her updated in acads so she can be Dean's Lister too and I get a chance to meet her in stage :) Well, good intentions.
But there are problems:
1.) She calls me "kuya" or "bro" even if she is older than me by 9 days. Sometimes I tried to talk to her about it. She said she got used to it. That is why just let her be. "Nasanay na ako eh, hayaan mo na". Well, as long as I get to talk to her, I am in. I havent asked her yet if there is a chance that I can get her to call my real name.
2.) There are times when she does not respond to my message for days. I keep the message cool. I do not spam. I just let it flow. But there are times I think she does not care. Sometimes we stayed late at night playing games or just chatting. Then next day it was like nothing. I know we really give time for each other. But the inconsistency is confusing. Sometimes we stop chatting for a week then start again. At first I always initiate the convo, but now she sometimes do it first.
3.) Tho we have simillar interest, we are a unique duo. I knew she is kinda famous because she is soooo pretty and kind! I saw she has 800+ followers in FB. Then she hid it. Reason I never send her request even if we are chatting for months(just to let her know I am not so much into looks). Well me, I am not that good looking. But I am a good guy and hella smart! Top of my class :)
Recently, she send a request. Now we are friends in FB.
4.) She is an LDS(commonly know as Mormon) and I am Catholic. She is really into her religion. I mean she is commited to her religion. I have no problem in our difference in religion. But I think since she want to be a sister(she wants to finish a mission), she will also look for an elder(guy who finished a mission). Do I need to convert if there is a religion problem? I dont mind because there not much difference? Or I don't know what I'm getting myself into? Should I stop?
I dont know if I have a chance. Should I stop? It has been 1 year now of chatting. I REALLY WANT HER. I do not know about signals. But but but! I always show her that I am into her. I MEAN SHE KNOWS I LIKE HER. BUT STILL, SHE KEEPS ME AROUND. If I dont have a chance, she will show more signs of uninterest right? We first met in chess competition. We both became varsity and our teammates said that they somewhat support me for her. I WAS TOO FOCUSED ON MY STUDY AND THE POWER OF LOVE IS REALLY OVERWHELMING! It is affecting my academics now. | Crush |
I had just recently starting liking this guy. But in the same time I kinda don’t. Like he’s funny and cool but it feels like the more I become friends with him..the more we’ll lose our friendship yknow. I just started talking to him and ask if he wants to talk and play games. And we just connect from there. But today and yesterday we kinda lost our conversation. There were less talking, less laughing, and less emotions to our conversation. And I kind of feel like his friends won’t like me talking to him. He had guy friends and friend girls. One of the girls like him but he says he doesn’t like her. His guy friends want to play with him but instead he rather play with me. He’s a year younger than me but- I feel like they’ll hate me
I don’t want him to lose his friends
I don’t want to hurt him too
OH YEAH HE STILL HIS EX’S POSTS
Sooo hm yeah
I pretty sure it’s okay because he say he’s over her
But I don’t get how people can still like their ex post unless they just became good friends again
But idk
And he seems cool and goofy
But again I feel like we are going to lose touch
I want to just get something out of my mind
Maybe give me advices, comfort, or something to not think about it :/ | Crush |
I've met her this year, same age as me, she is cute and we have only seen it other by the online class.
I need some help so that next year I can ask her out. I know a lot of her intrests bu gathering information through all the classes. Please can anyone help me?
By the way we are on 8th grade. Just an vigger friendship an hold hands. | Crush |
I'm a beach lifeguard, and I was at this guard party, and this girl I work with asked me to dance. I was sitting, and she was like, " come on, I won't grind on you, I promise." Lol. What does that mean, guys? Another time, our lifeguard crew was getting ready to play waterpolo(a water sport) and i didn't feel like playing, and she came up to me, begging me to join them, and playfully trying to pull my shorts off. Lol | Crush |
Hello, I am a highschool senior and I have this crush on my male bestfriend. We've been very close friends since 8th grade, the problem is we're both in the same social clique and he's the only guy. He ain't gay or anything and all the five girls including me, I think we all like him. We both share the same hobbies and interests, we both like art, anime, books, and music. I'm also very close with his family and I ate lunch with him everyday at school. I am scared of confessing and putting our friendship on the line. Plus he likes one of our friends. What should I do? | Crush |
I can’t stop thinking about her. She’s the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen. It can’t be put into words, but if you saw her you would know. God I want her to love me so bad | Crush |
I'm a beach lifeguard, and I was at this guard party, and this girl I work with asked me to dance. I was sitting, and she was like, " come on, I won't grind on you, I promise." Lol. What does that mean, guys? Another time, our lifeguard crew was getting ready to play waterpolo(a water sport) and i didn't feel like playing, and she came up to me, begging me to join them, and playfully trying to pull my shorts off. Lol | Crush |
I have a crush on a girl in my school
Lets call her j
So one day i was adding people on facebook and seeing their profiles and looking into their mutual friends and adding them
So i added her she accepted the friend request and we became friends
I followed her on instagram so she did too
I loved her personality and the way she talks
She is soo pretty and cute
She is not the prettiest in our school but she've got a really nice personality
We started talking and she was responding and she was so humble unlike most of the girls in our country/city/school
We did not talk to much but i really like her
One day she replied to my instagram story
I was so happy cuz she started the conversation
The insta story was about
Do you have twitch installed on your device?
I was asking to know if my friends and my relatives even know this thing
She was the only one that replied to the story
She said wtf is this thing followed by some emotions
(This 😂)
So i explained its a streaming platform mostly for gamers
And she already know that im a gamer
So i asked her if she know cod and fortnite she told me i heard about fortnite
Then followed with
I might try it if its cool
I told her yea you should try it
But you cant get it on google play
She asked
then from where?
I sent her the website link and she just saw it and said
Oh ok thanks seif
I hated that
She is not going to download it
But she asked for the link
She made it look like i want her to download it
This was the last thing said in our chat
Im really shy
Its so akward
Idk what to say or type
I need help
And please know that i dont want her to know that i like her
I want her to be my friend
But i love her
I cant explain much
Btw im 18 and she is 15 | Crush |
Ok. So I (21f), just texted my high school crush, with whom I also had a friendly relationship, asking his number. We just kinda went our ways and I didn't have a mobile that time. He still hasn't come online, not avoiding me tho considering our freindship we once had, but still.....he doesn't know about my crush and I don't intend to tell him now, not after all these years but it would really mean something to me if I get his number because I always wanted to. Like just save his number on my phone and acknowledge each other's existence.
So as of now I'm waiting for my message to be seen. Hope to feel better soon. | Crush |
So I know this girl, backstory is pretty much irrelevant now. Anyway, she added me on snapchat in march since we were talking quite a lot or something. Been snapping for a while, always worked well. We lost our streak sometimes but gained it back too.
Now, recently, things were getting a bit weird between us. We talk, less but we do. And yesterday, I noticed that she wasn't looking at my snap the entire day. Yet in the evening, I recieved an snap from her. (Probably one she sends to nearly everyone). Now, today, same thing. But, I just looked and she hasn't looked at my snap from yesterday or today (hasn't responded today tho, but it is early still). We still talked today, but she kinda teased me or made a joke 'about' me. Whatever that ment.
tl;dr she didn't look at my snap yesterday, responded tho. Hasn't looked at todays for now either. Talked today though.
What does that mean? | Crush |
Alright, I used to like this girl about 2 years ago, and just recently after speaking to some of my amazing friends, I've gained a lot of confidence and started to like her again. We're not in any of each other's classes, and I don't know how to talk to her. I'm a quiet guy, and I don't talk to many people outside my friendship group.
From what I've been told, we have quite a lot in common. She sits at the back of class and does her work, she's not overly popular, she laughs at extremely dumb stuff that you probably shouldn't be laughing at, she goes to the same place as me during the holidays, we both have horses and siblings.
Apparently, her and my friend's cousin used to like each other about four years ago. My friend's cousin is quite similar to me, somewhat skinny, similar hairstyle, not that athletic, smart, and quiet. This really got my confidence going and made me think that I might have a chance.
A couple of nights ago, I had a dream about her, which got me to start thinking of her even more. That morning after I got off the bus at school, I started thinking of ways I could say hello to her, or even try to make her laugh. As I was thinking about this, she walks into the school gates just as I did. I was thinking, "Oh, I can just say hello to her now, we're basically alone and there's not too many people around." As walk up to her to say hello, I become incredibly nervous. My knees start shaking tremendously and my eyes start watering. I end up not saying anything and I comepletly regret it.
Later that day, our classes join up in PE and religion which is something very rare and now I'm starting to think that none of that was a coincidence. I'm not much of a believer myself, but that made me really start to think that I was supposed to dream that dream and she was placed in front of me multiple times to give me the opportunity to say or do something.
I really like this girl. I don't like her just because of her looks, but for her amazing personality. I like things about her that nobody else would generally seem to even notice. The only times we come across each other is during sport, or between math classes. I just want to cuddle with her, be in her pressence and talk to her. | Crush |
this is a long story, buckle up people!!
So, I really like this kid in my class. I'm not sure if he likes me back but some of the stuff hes done has made me question if he does.
Last term, I was sitting at my desk, he sits on another. And he moved his chair over right next to me, and I was sorta feeling sick so my head was down and I didnt talk to him, after a bit, he left, I put my head up, he looked over and started to come back. I put my head down again and he stopped. And I was kicking myself for the rest of the afternoon because I didnt talk to him.
One time he jumped out the window during maths, and started running around. Once again, I felt sorta sick so my head was down and I was sweating. My friend tapped me and I looked up and hes at our window, waving. I'm not sure if it was at me or his friends that where over from us, but they didnt say anything about it, which I thought the would have. When I noticed, I was super surprised and over come with anxiety l. I said "oh" and he ran off to somewhere else, idk where, I was too shocked haha.
During the holidays, I grew some balls and desided to add him on snapchat because he was on my for you page. I started texting him a bit and he even said happy birthday. As the end of the holiday came, I got super scared, like, what if he tried talking to me when we get back to school? Or brings it up around his friends who are assholes and are kinda mean to me and my friends. So I did the dumbest thing in the history of crushes and I told him I had the wrong person (there are two people in our class with the same name, my crush and his asshole friend. So I said I meant to text the asshole friend). He called me a player and told me <asshole friend> had a girlfriend. (Which I already knew). I asked him what he meant by calling me a player, and he never responded. At school first period he brung it up when he was with his asshole friend, but wasent that mean? He accused me of lying and said I wasent cool. I was super sad, but I did look over at him sometimes still, and when I would, he started looking back, I'd look away and outtake the corner of my eye, I'd see him still staring for like, 3 more seconds after I stopped till he looked away. He usually positions himself behind me and my friend in class, never really talks to us tho. But isnt mean either, like, hes nice to us than anyone else, theres this other kid in our class who he threatened to hang if he kept the class in, once.
Please send advice for what I should do? Should I keep glancing at him? Or somehow talk to him? (Idk how that would work since I have rlly bad social anxiety around boys). Or snap him again | Crush |
This may sound crazy but basically Ive had crushes before, I've been all nervous; hyperventilating, laughing a lot, tucking my hair behind my ear, staring at them a lot. But those have always gone away. And I have a crush right now where I just keep on staring at him and tucking my hair behind my ear (which btw.. is not a crush I should pursue cuz it's inappropriate lmao), so yeah I have that, and maybe it's a diff type of crush. And I had a crush where I just liked them because of their looks, and kept on staring at them and got butterflies in my stomach. But basically, it's so confusing to me. I watched a YouTube video by the YouTuber Anna Akana, and she said a crush where you're really nervous and all that stuff, is a red light and not good, and a real crush and a good crush is where you like them but you're comfortable with them. So that mightve been where this thought process started.
But the thing is, I've gotten over most of my crushes and I haven't had one that's really love (maybe besides the one I have now since idk why it happened and why I like them besides how they were nice to me in a way I feel like others weren't).
And I feel like I'll never have a crush that does form into a relationship where I still like them. And that makes me think I don't even know what liking someone is like (especially with the whole, you're comfortable around them part) because I don't know how it's different from liking someone as a friend. And I'm wondering if the only way you know you like someone is that you're nervous around them and if you're not, it's not a crush. Especially because sometimes the nervousness goes away and I don't even like them
TLDR: I feel like I don't know what a crush is because it feels like being nervous around someone isn't a crush, especially because they always go away | Crush |
my crush knows i like him 🙃 what do i do?
i’m 18 and still can’t read guys for the life of me and overthink everything.
i just started working at a new place almost a month ago, and met my co-worker. he has been making a point to come talk to me, and teasing me a lot these past two weeks, but hasn’t asked for any kind of social or # yet.
i found out today he pretty much knows, but not really anything else since we been busy and couldn’t get that much info. i’m just embarrassed and i guess even that he knows he still talks to me.
i’m just an anxious person and haven’t been involved in anything for a while now and really want to just stop being a wuss and ask for his snap or something like that. is it worth it or do you think if he did like me he would’ve asked already? (ik i sound like a middle schooler 😂) | Crush |
So a couple months ago me and my crush were texting each other about colleges and where we might end up going. He asked me where I might go and I told him. Then, almost a month ago he asked me the same exact question. I gave him the same answer I gave him a month ago. Later, he asked me the same question...again 2 weeks ago. I told him the same thing again. And now today he asked me the question again...? I have no idea why he’s asking me so many times. It’s not like I’m going out of state or anything. Is it possible he’s running out of things to talk about so he just ends up asking me this question? | Crush |
I have a crush on a girl since last year. This year I have mustered the courage to talk to her(via whatsapp) and tried to become friends. But I have not been able to talk to her in person as I feel extremely nervous and scared.
She said that she wanted to be friends with me since last year but could not as she seemed that I was imtimadating.😐
i need some tips on how to talk to her!! | Crush |
A couple nights ago I (18F) went out with my friends and ran into a guy (20M) we also know, who ended up spending the rest of the night with us. He ditched his friends to hang out with us, held my hand the whole night (but didn't make a move on me beyond putting his arm around me), and walked me home. We then talked for 3 hours about anything and everything. I texted him to check if he got home ok and we chatted a little more.
I woke up the next day super confused. I think I have a crush on him, but I can never really understand my feelings until I know where I stand with the person. He left me on seen the morning after we went out, but then messaged me the next day out of the blue asking a question related to what we talked about when he was with me. I tried to keep the conversation going but he seemed really dry/uninterested after a few messages, I left him on seen when he gave a really dry response.
My question is should what should my next move be? Does he like me or was he taking pity on me? Is it worth texting him again when our last conversation was so dry? | Crush |
So this girl who is my crush we will call her zarexa
Zarexa was not that popular and still isn't but i like her so one dau she asks me what does ship mean so i whisper the meaning in her ear and i just felt different all of a sudden and a couple of weeks later I still have a crush on her and we are pretty good friends and she started staring at me alot then my freind says to me are you two like best friends and i say maybe idk and i sensed he started to catch on to me having a crush on her and a couple of weeks later at my school athletic day she invited me to sit with her and we laughed and had fun but then 3 other kids joined in and one of them said i sense a connection and pointed to me and Zarexa we freaked later that day me and the kid who started to catch on were hanging out and we were talking and i admitted i like her to him and this is the end for now i plan in asking her out soon
Update:
So basically me and zarexa got partnered up on a pe activity today and zarexa's freind started laughing and when me and zarexa were gone my freinds asked zarexa's freind why she was laughing and she said because zarexa has a crush on (insert a fake name for myself here) and when zarexa and me got back one of my freinds said zarexa likes you back. And later on my house got to leave class 10 minutes early for break time and zarexa's freind came up to me and said i told zarexa and she also said that zarexa said that she liked me back. During break me and zarexa cross paths and one of my freinds said to us why don't you kiss and me and zarexa say LEAVE US ALONE. and after school i say to zarexa did your freind say anything during my 10 minute early time and she said yes amd said that she did not like me back but... All my friends asked her earlier whether she was shy and whether she liked me and she responded to them with yes (apparently) and they say that zarexa is just too shy to tell me
Does zarexa like me? | Crush |
I and my crush are in freshmen year of medical colleges , we don’t study at the same colleges but we studied in same high school , that’s why I know him. And yeap, we accidentally met in the party so we talked , that’s the last time we met in person. Then we texted a bit , finally he left me unread. He’s that kind of person , I get it. But I still miss him and think of him , think about the things we talked when we were together and I realized back in high school when I asked him to be my dancing partner in dancing class, he approved the request because HE THOUGHT I WAS SO PITY, I remembered when he took a little peek at me while I told my female friend “I am desperate “.Now I make a conclusion that my crush actually be my dancing partner , talked to me and be with me just because he felt sorry for me. I mean , yeah I look so sad to people , people around em really think I am always sad, my best friend is honest with me so she directly told me I looked like I was gonna literally cry and that made she wanna cry.omg, I didn’t see it coming though, I thought I seemed fine to people but it turns out differently. | Crush |
Hey y’all, just trying to get some sound advice on an issue I’m having with having a crush on this guy. Him and I used to work together for a bit before he got a new job. Even when he left though, I managed to get his Snapchat. We’ve chatted on and off for a bit now, but over text he just really doesn’t seem interested romantically in me. It’s just difficult because in person when we’d work together or whenever he stops in for food, we vibe really well and I could have sworn before he got his new job that he was flirting with me/atleast interested a little bit?? Should I just forget about him and try to move on? I just don’t know what to say to him and I’m too nervous to ask him outright if he’s into me. I’m also assuming he doesn’t want anything to do with a relationship and would rather have a friends w/ benefits and I’m not sure I want that. :/ what do I do | Crush |
Ok new here but I’ve had this on my mind a lot. I’m a senior this year and I’ve never ever had a girlfriend and I just turned 18. I’ve had a crush on this girl since freshman year. She is so beautiful,funny and cute I don’t know how to act around her let alone just look at her she’s the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen. Here’s where I messed up. I’m a really shy guy so I can’t just go up and talk to girl. I don’t have the balls too and I down myself a lot. I keep saying she’d never go for a guy like me. I’m ugly and and she’d never date me. I’m not sure what I did wrong but I think she hates me now. I was never a jerk to her and I’ve never spoke to her but once. In 7th grade she asked me if I wanted to be her bae but I thought of it as a joke and said no. Now here I am in love with her. I got out in this group with her but I didn’t wanna work with her cause I was nervous. My friend tried to put us together and she seemed down but me as stupid as I am said no. From there I guess she was done. I’d look at her sometimes and look back really fast but stopped because one time I did that and she sighed of annoyance. She also frowned at me one time and we were doing group work and again I was in her group but very distant and she and her friends were chatting about me but I didn’t know what they were talking about. I never had the courage to ask her out and now I think she hates me. And I texted her asking her if she did and she never ever responded. I asked a friend of hers to tell her about me and she said that she didn’t wanna date anymore which was a lie and I think she was letting me down easy cause last year(jr year) she had a boyfriend and she flirted with other guys even after she said she didn’t wanna date anyone. Did I fuck up? Whatd I do wrong. I don’t think they are together anymore but I’m not sure. The first few days of senior year they sat together but now she sits with her girl friend. She seems lonely and I wanna talk to her but I can’t. I just know she won’t except me. What do I do I really love her despite never even talking to her. I don’t even think she knows I exist. I wanna be with her have my future with her what should I do.(Ik it’s long sorry, I had to get this off my chest) | Crush |
Today my teacher told me I should help a girl who didn’t understand smth. on the Ipad... So I helped her and the break started at this moment. So her friends came into our room and saw me helping her and they said: „so this is your crush“ and my mind gone, WAIT WHAT? xD Was this serious or wanted they only to mess with her? | Crush |
I looked over at her and saw her staring right at my chest. I had saw in my peripheral vision that she had been looking for a while. When I looked back at her she quickly looked away. My 1st period teacher told us that we get to choose new seats tomorrow, so I will most likely not be sitting next to her anymore, as it would seem weird if I just so happened to sit next to her again. I can’t ask her out or anything similar as I have not even had a conversation with her yet. I just can’t get over how beautiful she is. I can’t even describe it. I do not want to tell anyone I know about her, as last time I did something like that they told everyone. She could even have a boyfriend already and I just don’t know. I have just never seen anyone more beautiful than her. | Crush |
My freinds said this if you don't tell your crush you like them by Friday we're going to tell them | Crush |
so I started this fake discord relationship with this boy a few weeks ago.. and I think im catching feelings. He's super nice and funny and honestly treats me like a queen. We're around the same age and we've also been on call with each other. I know I shouldn't be getting attached to some boy online but I cant help it! I don't think he likes me back that way and I have no clue on what to do!! ugh I just get sad over the fact that it's not real. I need to get over him :((( | Crush |
How can I get my crush back? Long story short I made a dumb mistake due to some insecurities and trust issues I’m working on. Texted her some hurtful words recently and part of it included something she’s insecure about. I ended up apologizing a few days later because I had realized it was out of line and unnecessary. She told me that what I said basically changed how she saw me, she accepts my apology, etc. But that ‘she doesn’t like me anymore’ because what I said really hurt her feelings. We’ve been talking since August and going on little dates but never asked her to officially be my girlfriend. I was planning on asking her in November, well later this month or something. But now since my insecurities got the best of me, I don’t think I really can anymore. I really started kinda falling for her, and this is hurting me knowing that I hurt her. I want to try to win her back somehow, even though I know what I said will be with her for a long time. I want to work towards her getting comfortable around me again. I want to ask if she wants to at least be friends so that way there’s not much of a title? I’m not sure what to do here. But first I’ll give her space for a few more days or weeks then maybe I’ll ask if she wants to meet up? 🤷🏽♂️
Lately, I’ve started talking to other girls to keep my options open just in case and also working on myself too.
Honestly dating/talking in this generation/ my generation is confusing and toxic. No one ever knows what they want, or they claim they want one person but flirt and f**k other people.
P.S. I’m 21, in college, and apart of gen z sadly. | Crush |
She is so pretty and beautiful | Crush |
Okay, so last night I (15M) told my crush (also 15M) a joke and he said that it was the funniest thing ever. I was modest and said it wasn't, but he insisted. I said thank you and told him he was pretty funny too. He said I was funnier. I said that he was funnier. We went back and forth until we agreed to disagree. Do you think he likes me or is he just being nice. | Crush |
So this girl I liked, when we was ice skating we had a long talk cuz all her friends were sus I liked her but she wasn’t into that, so I denied it and said I had thought about it before but decided nah, EXCEPT we actually get along rlly well and it’s really hard for me cuz I just have this vibe that in a few years it could work out into a relationship | Crush |
I have had a major crush on this guy for as long as I can remember. We have never actually had a conversation one on one (we are both shy and we have separate friend groups), but we know of each other. We both follow each other on Instagram and I have noticed that he has liked almost all of my pictures, but rarely likes pictures that our mutual friends post. Maybe I’m over analyzing but does this mean anything? Do guys pay attention to which pictures they like and which they don’t? I’ve been thinking about reaching out to him, and feel like this could be a sign that I’ll get a positive response. | Crush |
A girl in my first period class is beautiful. Not just a “oh she’s cute I guess” way, a jaw dropping way. I can’t get over it. She sits next to me in my 1st period, and because of Covid 19, she has an assigned seat near me during lunch. I just can not get over her. The thing is though I have never talked to her. I just barley learned her name. I just had a dream about her and I went on here to tell someone. Does anyone have any advice? | Crush |
So, this girl in my class. That's what imma talk about.
I liked her since the day I found out she liked the same things as I do, since then, I have been sending her memes (not too much) about Harry Potter, cuz we both like that. Now the past few days she seems to notice me a bit more, I can catch her looking at me every now and then when I say something Harry Potter related, or just when I sit behind her class, she often Peeks behind her. Is this a sign? Could it be a coincidence? What should I do? | Crush |
A year ago I had this crush on a girl I never talked to and we weren’t really friends because she only talked to me once last year when we had a class together and she talked about the video we were watching in class. Anyways I texted her a couple weeks ago on insta after following her and she only ended up replying with, “Hi” and never texted me again. I then asked if I was annoying her and she was on her Instagram at least 3 times after I texted that, but never once did she opened the message. I’m guessing she saw it in her inbox but never opened it and I thought I had my answer, but I still have a crush on her and I don’t know whether I should drop it or not. Advice? | Crush |
i like this guy for about six months and i felt like he liked me back and i was right. He likes me but he doesn’t know what he wants exactly. And the problem is i don’t know either. Should i tell him i like him or should i figure out on my own what i want before i say anything? | Crush |
I told a guy I liked him and that i hope I didn’t make things awkward by telling him. He said we were good and that he is single but thinks he’s not ready to get into a relationship right now... he’s totally down to hangout like go bowling. But ahhh I really like him but I don’t know if I have patience to wait till he’s ready to start dating again. I don’t know what to do... do we keep talking and just being friends... do I move on? | Crush |
this is mainly just a rant so bare with me... basically, i really like one of my teachers at school. (and please don't worry i have no intention of even mentioning this to them let alone pursuing it, i'd never dream of getting them into trouble, besides i doubt they'd even do anything if i tried). but they're my biology teacher and i cannot stop thinking about them. i have biology everyday so it's really hard to put them to the back of my mind. i keep acting up in class just so they'll speak to me. i'm at my last year of school and i'm kind of dreading leaving as i'll probably never see them again, they don't even suspect i have a crush on them so i don't know what to do. i can't tell any of my friends as they'd all just make fun of me, i can't tell my guidance counsellor as she'd probably make it very awkward, and i can't tell my parents as it's a bit complicated with me being the same gender as my teacher (i'm not sure what sexuality i am just to make things even more confusing). i ain't expecting much from this - just needed to get this out my head i guess.. :/ | Crush |
Hey Redditers! I'm back again and this kinda connects with my last post because it's about the same guy. About a 2 weeks after I first posted on r/Crush, my crush has been talking to me a lot more. I the library, there was a seat that his friend saved for him but he wanted to stay with me. His friend is being mean to him for always being with me and I feel bad for my crush because he is such a nice guy. I wish I could do something but I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any suggestions on what to do about this? | Crush |
I want to ask my crush for his insta but I need help lol. What’s the best way to ask him? We only see each other at work & that’s when my shift ends & his shifts starts so we only talk for like 5 minutes. Before that our shifts overlapped. It would’ve been easier to ask him if we saw each other longer. | Crush |
I’ve been crazy about this guy who I get along with great and consider a friend for three years. At first he was a bit infatuated with me and admitted it to me (before he admitted it I had already developed a crush on him) and we kept a mutual admiration for each other, but it was short lived. Because he has a girlfriend of three years who he loves very much and plans to spend his life with. I’m very happy for him but I can’t help but want what they have together. I can’t help but want to come home to him a the end of the day. You should see the way he moves. He’s so passionate about life that you can feel his heart beating in a way that with every step he takes, I feel it reverberate through the ground and up through me. It’s so beautiful. He acknowledged how weird it was that we are so similar and liked all of the same things in the beginning. But I think we both felt how wrong it was to entertain the thought. I don’t intend on pursuing a relationship with this man because of this. So please can someone help me find strategies to implement to move on. We already haven’t seen each other in months but I can’t get him out of my head. And it’s not in anyone’s interest to know that I feel this way | Crush |
This guy has this cold vibe and he doesn't seem to like people he doesn't know and he barely knows my name and once reffered to me as her ;( because im shy...so how do i talk to him? With my shyness and without making him annoyed? | Crush |
I'm currently in high school. Three years ago I had a huge crush on this classmate. But I suppressed it down because compared to him, I'm quite unremarkable. He looks handsome and has a decent personality, while me, except my good grades I'm quite average.
Fortunately, the teacher made us sit next to each other (still sitting next to him). We casually became friends. I didn't try to flirt and didn't even tell anyone about my crush. I found out that our personalities and interests are quite compatible. He is willing to share his stories, his opinions and even his vulnerabilities. He is matured for his age and makes plans for his future. He is totally my type.
As we became closer, my feelings shifted. The fire in my heart gradually calmed down and I no longer felt hot at the sight of him. I started to see him as a person, as a friend. When a girl had a crush on him, I encouraged her. When he found a girlfriend, I gave him advice. When he complained about confessions, I teased. (idk, he got popular) I realized I could never look at him as a love interest again. Even though I had a crush for almost a year.
Two years later, we are now best friends. I never told him about my crush. :)))))
Looking back, what has happened? How can emotions so strong at first vanished into thin air?
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Just wish I knew for sure if there was some interest on her end. I mean we’re constantly making eye contact and she’s always tossing smiles my way, yeah I know she’s just being friendly, but idk.
The other day I helped her at work and she seemed really happy I approached her and she seemed a bit different like maybe she was acting off because of me? I don’t want to say “nervous” but like maybe something like that. After that we were looking at each other some more and like she waved at me when she left which she never did before. Idk it’s all child stuff but I guess I just really like her and don’t know what to do about it. Probably gonna try to get her number and see what happens. | Crush |
So I saw a girl on tinder months ago and figured I’d just chuck her an add on instagram instead of waiting for her to match and after devising a cheeky plan I’ve managed to start talking to her, and for the past couple months we’ve been messaging but we message like once a week and as much as I would want to talk more she takes days to reply however she is never blunt with her messages and always sends me paragraph after paragraph in response to my messages. We have a lot of similar interests and so far I’ve been teaching myself to love without attachment and it’s not bothered me at all tbh, but I do get such a joyful expression when I see her message pop up on my screen. Even though we message once a week the conversation continues to flow which I’ve really appreciated. How do I go about this? Should I lose hope in it or continue to venture on and hope one day I might be able to progress things. Does anyone have any similar experiences? I can’t ask to meet up with her just yet because my state is currently in a lockdown because of the virus but I’m hopeful that one day I’ll ask if she wants to hang and see where it goes. But yeah does anyone have any advice on what approach I should take, I’ll take the hard truth if I need to! | Crush |
I knew this guy when we were in first grade and I liked him since. He found out because I told my sister that I liked him and she told his brother who she is friends with and lastly he told my crush. I was so embarassed but he never really acknowledged it after. A few years later we were chatting during quarantine and he mentioned how he used to like me which he never told me ever. I dint have feelings for him anymore since I liked another guy and he told me and me only that he liked another boy and I told him that it was cool and I supported it. While he was talking to me and many more conversations later I caught feelings again.
TLDR i liked a guy best friend of mine and he liked me back and now he likes someone else and I just realized how crazy in love im in with him and i need advice in what to do now | Crush |
I just made a reddit account where I think I’ll just talk about things to get them off my chest bc I’m insecure. This post is one of them. This will not be well written or interesting.
background on me - I’m gay, in the closet, & insecure
A new guy moved to my school and he stayed for about 1/2 or 2 years idk. In term 2 of grade 10 he moved schools. Throughout the time he was at my school I guess I kinda had a crush on him and thought he was cute but I didn’t like his personality because he was kinda a douche to me, not mean, but not nice. I think he thought I was weird and probably gay too. One time he even flashed me his butt which which was strange. I honestly can’t remember how I felt at the time but I don’t think I was bothered or embarrassed by it. Anyway it’s been probably over a year since he left school and I still think about him, i even regularly check his public Instagram😂 Earlier this year I woke up sad over him I guess and cried about him. Even while getting ready for school I was still upset over him and trying to hold back tears😂 God my emotions about him are so weird because I didn’t even like him, just thought he was attractive yet I have some weird one-sided emotional bond towards him.
Maybe he was bi, I did scroll through thousands of accounts he follows on insta. Around 3 pointed to the possibility of him liking men but idk. I posted this because I just felt like getting it off my chest as I’ve told no one about this.
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TLDR - Crush on guy who a year later after he moved I still think about :/
I guess this is my first crush...🤦♂️🥴😂 | Crush |
Kinda want to date and kinda want to stay single. Ya'll feel the same or is it just me ? Lol | Crush |
I desperately need help communicating with someone I really like | Crush |
So I am a (21f) and he is a (24m) ex coworker who I really got along with with and I’ve been friends for like the past year. So I had a bf but eventually I realized I was spending more time thinking about him then my boyfriend so I decided to quit my job and on my last day I decided to go and talk to him about it. I told him I had had a crush on him and I didn’t mean to put any pressure on him or anything. He said he liked me too but he still had a gf. It wasn’t really awkward but as I was leaving I told him to text me in a month or so. I broke up with my boyfriend. We started texting and he goes I want to get to know you better. We keep talking and he asks if I want to go hang out so we do and he kisses me like 5 times puts my hair behind my ears and kisses my forehead. Am I crazy or does he like me too? | Crush |
i just met this girl like a couple weeks ago and tbh i think i caught feelings for her but i’m not sure if i like her or not. i need advice on how to make sure i like her or not before i make a move. or maybe should i wait a lil and get to know her even more before i make the move? i’m just stuck. plz help | Crush |
So I caught feelings for a friend of mine and I really don't want to like this person my question is how do I stop liking her | Crush |
I have this crush from middle school and i confessed to him after the entrance high school exam. He didnt reply to me and I was too shy to ask him anything further and I was not intended to ask him to be my lover. Since then, I have been dreaming about him. Maybe a few times/year ( and its been 4 years since I confesses to him). In my dreams, he always appears as my boyfriend and oh my god I did enjoy the dream but like its getting weirder and weirder especially whem im not even seeing him any more and we dont even keep in touch.
Then 2020 happened so I exposed my dreams to him but i only told him that i dreamed about him a LOT! and that is kinda scary to me although i enjoy every dream about him.
Last night, i dreamed about him accepting me as his girlfriend and 👁️👄👁️ I keep having these butterflies all day long, from something unreal. I should be worried instead of being like l
In reality, he once hurted me and i was sad for soooo loooong so I un-crushed him (this is from middle school). After that, someone told me that he liked me and then haha guess what i fell in love again wtf.
Anyway im messed up. Its a bad thing trying to approach him again...
i dont even know if this is a good thing or not but my feelings for him keep coming back ... And i dont want it | Crush |
So I have been snapping with a girl, only some streak snapping so not really conversations. We don't really know each other but I find her attractive and I think she is a nice person. I really want start a conversation with her and getting to know her better but I don't know how. Do you guys have some advice for me?
Edit: I accidentally typed something in her chat didn't even send because it was the wrong chat. She sent me a chat why I typed something I said is was the wrong chat. Then she scolded with cancer so now I know she is a total bitch not worth my time.
Sorry for bad English | Crush |
What things do girls do that make you interested in them/ what is a turn on? | Crush |
This is somewhat long and the formatting is probably off because I'm on mobile, forgive me.
Okay so me and my crush text back and forth a lot and we are pretty good friends. I realized that they were mostly reaching out to me and starting text conversations so I decided that I should start the convo this time. Everything in me was telling me to stop and not text them today because I had no idea what we were going to talk about and didn't even know how to start. I told myself I was getting nervous for no reason at all and went for it.
I responded on the topic of and old text they sent the day before and they replied and we talked. The convo started to get a little dry and but they were still reponding super quick so I thought it was all gonna be fine. They sent a text face and I had no idea what to send back. I though of sending a "Soo wyd?" but felt like I had to wait cause it would be out of nowhere and weird. I ended up just sending a similar text face and waited for a response.
It was 4ish minutes until they responded and they said just said "I'm gonna go now". Seeing that really gave me a hurt and sad feeling I've never felt before. We usually text for hours but this lasted roughly 20 or 30 minutes.
Did I mess up and make them leave? Why did it hurt when they cut it short? | Crush |
I am a 23 female crushing on a 25 year old male. I am crushing on someone I know. We used to work together and went to the same undergrad. We were super friendly but never really close. We follow each other on social media. I have since had a dream about him and have been crushing so hard ever since. I’ve always thought he was attractive. We have dm’ed a few times via Instagram but like what do I even do? Would I be annoying if I tried to continue the conversation? Like how do I even strike something up. I’m going crazy lmao. Do I wait and try to respond to a story? What would you do if you were in my shoes | Crush |
So i was trying to forget about my crush (i got obviously friendzoned), and i was doing quite nice, i unfollowed her on all social media and didn't talk to her. And today she texted me some shit and all the feelings came fucking back. I think i'm in love, it's so fucking hard, i don't even know what to do... It's been 1,5 year now? And i have to start all over again? I hate my life | Crush |
Hi ,its my first post on reddit and i speak usually french so sorry for some writing mistakes.
I a pretty complicated story but long story short i had a crush on a girl in my nighborhood and about a year and half ago i took my courage and started to talk to her on instagram ,before that we talked a couple of times during family events ,while we were talking on instagram she sounded cold and answered just with yes and nos so i got tired of playing games and asked her i she wanted to go watch a movie she lied and shes sick and she would love to come, understood the message and no longer talked to her.
Two weeks ago it was my birthday and she sent me on instgram "happy birthay ❤❤❤" which was really wired because we havent talked at all for a year and half and because i live next to her i get to see her sometimes but it looks like shes hiding from me and now shes searching my attention and hiding from me irl idk what to think about it ....
Any advices ?
Ps: il answer to any questions ,as i said its my first post and the post might have unclarified points . | Crush |
So basically there’s this girl that moved onto our street about 3 years ago but I hadn’t talked to her at all or even knew she existed until May this year.
Right when I saw her though, I knew I liked her. Everything about her. I genuinely think she’s my soulmate. She was only 1 year older than me which was pretty good ig.
So we talked for about 5 hours (that being the first time I really saw her and talked to her) when we were waiting with my friend, we’ll call him G, for someone to show up who never did. She mentioned her TikTok account and I that night got all my courage up to add her SnapChat (which was in her bio on TikTok) and follow her TikTok. (Keep in mind I have social anxiety). She laughed at me a couple times as well during this time but I kept telling my self that the only reason she stayed was for G, who is 3 years younger than her.
We she added me back and we had a streak on SnapChat but then G’s younger sister asked me “what’s your last name? Oh your the one who added her. you know she doesn’t like you!”
This took a toll on me and I unfollowed her on TikTok because she hadn’t followed me back (my username was random that’s probably why) and our streak ended a day or two later. Also keep in mind that she hadn’t said anything when G’s sister was repeatedly beating my heart to death, which is better than her saying the words out of her own mouth.
So, a bit later, me and G went to a drive-in theatre which G’s little sister happened to bring along her. We talked a bit and she laughed at me and kinda showed interest but that was it.
Then a couple weeks later at G’s dads birthday party we all went in G’s basement to play video games and she came in. This is where she really showed interest and hit me with light up wrist ban thingys and laughed at me a bit. At the end of the night she took like 20 pictures of herself on my phone. Then we all went home and I haven’t talked to her or seen her since, and I just keep those pictures to try to get my courage up to tell her.
Now my question is should I tell her I like her or no? If she says she doesn’t like me or screen shots or something it would not only make me feel bad but make it awkward when I see her in person (I’m gonna see her again she lives across the road from me and is G’s sisters friend).
UPDATE:
So I talked to her in-person for the first time since I told her my feelings 277 days ago. We’re all good now. We talked for 2 hours again about everything, and she laughed at me, but she also mentioned to me and the G that she was talking to a guy that was 6’2. Idk if it’s true or if she’s tryna make me jealous and try and chase her again. Anyways, we friends again. I still lowkey have feelings for her, but it’s a thing of the past now. | Crush |
Hi reddit,
I have a question ( sorry for my bad english but I'm french and I'm using a translator for some sentence... ) I have never been in love with anyone ... Until now ...
I explain to you...
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I have just returned from a vacation not far from my home camping and it turns out that for a few hours I have been thinking badly and too much ...
I went there for 5 days with my crush from now and his best friend (as well as their mother so obviously I was the only guy, but I had my own tent ...) Except I have never been in love in True, I have too many girl friends as well as boys and I admit that I am tormented. I don't know what to do anymore, especially since she's going on vacation for a week and I feel detached and it feels weird ...
Advices ? or something?
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Thanks for helping me... | Crush |
hey reddit,
i like all three of these girls but dont know which one to ask out. if i get rejected by #2 it could ruin a friendship, and #1 is pretty popular in school and a lot of people like her so i could use some help deciding. thanks so much.
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Option 1 • Cute • Funny • Talks to me, talk to her • Idk if she likes me back • Popular
Option 2 • Like her a little • Girl Best friend • Funny and cute • Likes me as a friend
Option 3 • Younger than me • Cute and funny • Both like the same things • Think she likes me • Knows/ friends with some of my closest friends • Like her the most | Crush |
Hey so this is my first post on reddit and I wanted to ask for help and some advise
So I met this guy at a soccer filed where other farms come over and play against each other
He lives close by to the place.
I immediately took interest in him, I don’t how or why but like everything he did was attractive and the way he would smile and laugh was so attractive as he hang around his friends
We were close by and I kept taking quick glances of him, the only problem was I don’t know his name at all.
My friends kept advising me to talk to him, but like I’m afraid of rejection and really want him to talk to me. I had my hopes up and in the end of the day when I go home, I feel miserable.
Like he would look at me a bit and one time my sister asked me to ask him to open a glass bottle for us so I did and he kinda stumbled as I asked and started to get nervous (my sister told me) and when I walked around his friend and him would kinda follow me (my sister noticed too)
The last time I went to that place was last Thursday and he completely ignored me, he didn’t get close so like I felt heartbroken, I seen him stop midway and his friend kinda push him but nothing more.
Like I really like this guy, I try to search him up so like I am kinda wished there was more and I got my hopes up for nothing | Crush |
Boys, what something simple, that a girl does, that makes your heart skip a beat? | Crush |
I have had a crush on this guy for about 2 years now. I know him through a friend and initially we didn't talk at all, so it wasn't that intense. It was pretty much limited to me thinking he was physically attractive and cute. I'd sometimes stalk him here and there but that's all.
About 6 months back he texted me on social media as a reply to one of my posts, and from then on we've been talking non-stop every single day. Now I know a lot about him. And I'm pretty sure what used to be just a crush has converted to love. He is really smart, and even some of his flaws, I'd happily overlook.
The problem is, I am kind of sure that he doesn't feel that way for me. He occassionally makes me feel kind of important and close to him. But then mostly it's just normal conversations. Sometimes, I don't get replies for as long as a day and I am not that obsessive, it's okay if he is busy. But I look forward to a message that says it. Yes, he isn't into me, so it's obvious that he wouldn't care to inform me or anything. But things like this really hurt me.
These things have started to really bother me, I find it hard to concentrate on my work. And it has taken a toll on my mental health. I often just cry to myself in the middle of the day. I really really really want to get over it.
Do you think just telling him about my feelings would help me get over it? Or if you have any other tips, please share with me. Thank you. =) | Crush |
So this guy and I met through mutual friends 2 years ago and we're really close. We did lose contact for a few months due to our schedules at the time but we reconnected a couple months ago and it was like no time had passed. He invited me to hang out on a hike recently and we went and had an amazing time. I've had feelings for him pretty much since we first met but with my lack of relationship knowledge I have no clue how he feels. He's genuinely likes me for me and makes sure I'm comfortable. Any guy I've been around in the past just insults me but he's the total opposite. He does things to make that I feel wanted and is extremely patient and understanding. I honestly can't put into words all of the amazing things he's done for me. He asked me a question recently that made me think. It was "if a guy were to ask you out would you say yes?". Sure he could have just been asking out of general curiosity and the fact that I've never been in a relationship could have made him wonder but i have no clue. He also said it was surprising that I've never dated anyone. I've never even been approached by a guy who's had romantic interest in me so I have a hard time believing that someone could find me attractive so i highly doubt he likes me but maybe reddit knows better than I do. | Crush |
I had a huge crush on this boy in high school. We moved to different colleges and parted ways. We used be good companions neither romantically nor freindly, and did enjoy each other's company. It's been 7 yrs and we lost touch. I also liked another guy in college whom I consider as my first love(one side tho and was more intense than the high school crush) and after one year he moved to another college and I hardly saw him. But I still dream about my high school crush.It just lasts for few seconds but I feel so good when I wake up. It's not like I constantly think about him or want to be with, but he randomly shows up in my dream and I'm just so happy to see him.
It usually goes like we seeing eachother or hugging or holding hands and things like that, but still kinda makes my day. | Crush |
So there’s this guy that i’ve run cross country with in High School for the past year and I really really like him but i’m not sure how he feels. He’s the fastest guy on the team but he’s pretty shy.. or not shy just not super talkative. I’m the only girl on the team he snapchats/ talks to & we always hang out together at meets. I don’t get to talk to him THAT much at practice because he’s always in a faster group but when I do he’ll come over and talk to me/ sit by me while we’re doing core. Sometimes he’ll ask me questions over snap/ start convos/ send me pics of things he’s doing & we’ve gone swimming after practice just the two of us a few times as well. We are in the same grade & have had classes together since Freshman year but became a lot closer when I joined the team Junior year (he actually got me to join).. but yeah idk. I just can’t tell AT ALL. It’s not like he’s super flirty or anything but it just feels like something more than friends.. or maybe that’s just because I like him... I have a lot of close guy friends though and this feels different. Anyway, I wish I didn’t think about this this much, but I don’t really know how to progress our relationship past whatever point it’s at rn. I don’t want to force anything but it’s also our last year of High School & i’ve never had a boyfriend so it’d be nice if SOMETHING happened. Haha okay that’s it.. If anyone has advice lmk | Crush |
This really make me feel uncertain
When i back away she pull me back
When i move forward she back away
Is this situation feels similar to you guys? | Crush |
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3d3jncU6gzc](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3d3jncU6gzc) this is the video you will want to watch to beable to text your crush | Crush |
so I (23f) work at a pharmacy and he (31m) is one of the pharmacist but not the manager so in lieu of that he is technically my boss. recently he found out I broke up with my bf and he knew that my bf was 30 and he asked me is that my preference, we weren't talking about anything related and it was out of nowhere. he is more friendly with me in conversations than other coworkers I'm just trying to figure out if he may be reciprocating my feelings? we do have a policy that you can't date your subordinate but idk if would mind that? I don't plan on staying in this job past December anyway so it shouldn't be much of a problem. any ideas on how to find out if he likes me? cause if he doesn't I just wanna nip this at the bud and move on. | Crush |
Omfg she’s just perfect for me, many people look over her because her beauty is not enough for them, but phuckin’ hell, she’s just so beautiful, she’s less than ten years older than me, idk if I have a chance, but she’s gorgeous, she looks smart, she’s perfect, she’s everything for me.
“I’m on mobile” | Crush |
So this girl I had a crush on (she knows that I am madly in love with her) started using the word “we” and “us” lately. For example a few days ago, she said “I wish we won’t forget each other”. Today, which is also her birthday, she said “I want both of us to live as long as possible”. Is this a green light or am I interpreting her words wrongly.
She also uses these emojis (i’m sorry reddit for I have sin) : ❤️, 😘, 🤗, 😉 | Crush |
Hope it goes well :^) | Crush |
Sooooo if you haven’t seen my [first post](https://www.reddit.com/r/Crush/comments/i4p1rp/f_everyone_else_including_your_ex/?utm_source=share&amp;utm_medium=ios_app&amp;utm_name=iossmf) then uh maybe you should.
So today the girl and I started talking again...we went back to being regular in a way. In all honesty I feel like cutting ties with her but at the same time, I’m absolutely confused now.
I know for a fact I’m not leading her on but something tells me that I am but it doesn’t show. I know I should get to know her more but how are you going to turn around and say the things you said then friend zone me the next?
She thinks we’re good friends???
In all honesty I’m the same gender as her yet, she’s so confusing. 🥴🥴
I don’t know how to feel or what to say and now everything is awkward (at least to me it is).
Kind of need some advice(it would seriously help) but, at the same time I just want to rant. Thanks for reading :) | Crush |
My crush is staying at my house because he's my brothers friend and I am freaking out. What do I do? | Crush |
https://youtu.be/hATR4ppKLnw | Crush |
Soooo I (21f) have the hots for my older coworker (29m). I was fantasizing about him a lot for a few months while we weren’t at work due to covid. On my first day back, he walked into the room and said hello to me and for the first time in my life, my knees went WEAK and I was so grateful that I was standing at the counter for support. How dramatic right? I also had low blood sugar. And a strong appetite for him 🥺
I think we have crazy sexual tension and I hope that he is enjoying the chase! Only time will tell | Crush |
***ADVICE MUCH NEEDED****
So heyyy y’all LMAO. Lemme explainnnnn.
Alr so last year I(F17) got with this girl on early mid July of last year and we broke up recently 2 months ago.
It was pretty ugly because turns out she left me for a guy. I honestly didn’t even know but when I found out I was hurt. In the end we both wished each other the best and that was case closed.
Fast forward to a couple days later, I end up talking to this one girl who I’ll call Yui(idk I just like it. Go with it). So Yui and I exchanged our discord and numbers, so we text each other every now and then. Me as a person, I’m very straight foward with things and I say what I feel exactly.
Yui kept calling me cute which I didn’t mind. I liked it. But she was also too flirtatious as well and I automatically seen that as a red flag. I even gave her MAJOR point outs to indirectly tell her she needs to “slow tf down”.
Because overall the things she would say quite made me uncomfortable. As we only knew each other for maybe less than 2 weeks. That’s wayyy too fast for me
So we’re in a couple texts now on discord and she asks for my number, I was like, “mmmm why not.” I stalled for a little bit and then I asked her for her’s instead.
She had no issue with it but then later after that she said “I better end up your girlfriend”
“F*** everyone else”
“Including your ex”
Honestly, I mean I’m over my ex but I need advice about this chick. I’m kinda into her but recently she still came on too hard and I kinda uhm.. bluntly told her she gotta stop with it. Still, it doesn’t change anything with me but, is it wrong for me to like her? Like I seriously need opinions rn 😓😓
I wanna go out with her but like: it’s way too early and I personally think she has a boyfriend which is ANOTHER reason why I wanna back away from this mess.
Plus I wanna get to know her better but still, I suspect she has a boyfriend. | Crush |
[View Poll](https://www.reddit.com/poll/i42cnb) | Crush |
So I'm not sure if this is quarantine getting to me or not, and I'm just misinterpreting missing him for having a crush on him, but I might have a crush one my best guy friend. I've known him since first grade and we're super close. Whenever my favorite song plays I always think of how we could duet it (we both sing) and how romantic it would be. He always seems to be on my mind lately too, but I'm scared to admit that I have a crush on him when I'm still not sure. I don't want for things to become so weird between us. Please help advise me!
Edit: no one probably is seeing this but i finally confessed, no response yet but let's see how it goes! | Crush |
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