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It's kinda different for me and I have no idea where else to ask.
First off I wanna say I (M 23) am straight and have nothing wrong with the LGTBQ+ community, but it is very awkward to be in this situation.
I don't have a crush, but my friend (M 22) does... on me... he's openly gay and I could care less, love whoever you wanna love.
But he's trying to force me to become gay or bi, I accepted my sexuality as straight and that's what I classify as, but I feel like this guy is being way to forceful and even downright rude if I refuse.
I have a female best friend who I know since kindergarten, he decided to start threatening her with violence (and I know he has a few firearms) if she doesn't back off from me, I don't want to have to be rude as I don't like to, but I feel like the best thing is the cut contact with him.
I don't know what I should do... any advice? If I have to get anything legal involved I will if it comes down to it. | Crush |
My close guy friend and I recently had a small fight, our fights last like a day or less, mainly because I felt like some of the things he said were said in a tone that seemed like he was mad at me. It really hurt because he means so much to me, I mean I think at this point I might even love him. I ignored him for most of the day, but him knowing me he put a message on his Discord status reaching out to me. "It's okay to run and retreat, but realize sometimes you're not only running from your problems but your friends too." I just kept thinking of the situation and what he said that I eventually caved in. He was on a call with our other friends but when I messaged him to talk he left and got on a call with me immediately to talk about it. We started to talk and he mentioned how he wasn't upset/he never meant for it to seem that way and that I should be more open-minded about things, that the things people say don't necessarily mean that they're saying it to hurt me. He said that seeing me act like "Oh I'm not gonna do this because they said that" and proceeded to get choked up. We had a heart to heart, talking about our pasts and made up. I've kinda thought about how he choked up a lot, everything he said and showed through his emotions has made me realize just how much he cares and protects me. I wonder if he might even love me? We really connected that night, he told me things he hasn't told anyone, not even me up until that point. | Crush |
I have BPD and it can lead to obsessing over specific people. There's this person (Mark Davis) I've been fixated on since around 2015. It's like when I saw him, there was this INSTANT interest/bond.
Ever since, it's like I HAVE to learn everything about him, even the most minute detail like his favorite color, what his medical history is, details about his job (Prison Warden) his political views, everything, and they're quite similar to mine. When I found out what his full name was, I was literally giddy and in a daze for a couple days.
Just seeing the videos he's made makes me happy, I can be really stressed out or just feeling depressed, or anxious. But then he makes me feel better. I just love how dorky he is, I think he's absolutely adorable and he's always so lively..
I haven't met him in person yet, but I hope to eventually. He isn't exactly a friendly person all of the time, he can be an asshole to people at times. I remember impulsively going full-hate mode on him when he said that he hated children. Then I snapped out of it.. I think he may have BPD himself too. But I'm still attached to him and sometimes he even finds his way into my dreams then I get upset because it seems real.
He comes into my mind several times a day, like during dinner time I think, hmm I wonder what he's eating for dinner, or wondering when he's got home from work, when he'll be sleeping and then imagining him nice and comfy in bed. I wonder how he's doing right now.
I've had these horrible nightmares where I'll dream that he died and I'd wake up literally sobbing, if he died I can't imagine how depressed I'd feel. Even now when I'm imagining him dying I literally feel physically sick to my stomach. I feel like if he died I'd have a nervous breakdown and I feel like crying right now just because I'm having to even bring that up.
Problem is...I have no way of directly contacting him and I'm not even sure if he'd want me as a friend or not. I don't know what to do and I don't feel like I want to discuss this with a doctor because I'd seem crazy and stalker-ish. I sort of consider him as... a friend? Almost. | Crush |
Ok guys finally I've made it after 2 years of internal(just thinking weather or not,but so hard and deep) fighting .
I sent to her a text message on her bday
At first it took her a while to talk about 15 min to reply back then we chatted for like 5 min about studies and things .
But the issue here is that she sometimes takes minutes or hours to reply back. Which makes me confused wether she is interested or not ,wether to continue or not.
Ik that sometimes it may start with zero interest to gf(ofc requires hard-work and caring) but sometimes this doesn't work.
A thing to be taken into consideration is that most of the time I only chatted her at night like 1:40 am here .
Meanwhile I am an introvert and first time to chat a girl, so I barely know how to chat :)
I tried articles over the internet but most of them suck and copied from each other
TIA | Crush |
Crush truly is the feeling you get when you realize as a gay guy, that your crush just flirts when they want you to do something for them. And you do it. Why do I seek this approval? Is it a result of lack of a father’s approval throughout life? They making twice what I do, and yet get me to do his hard work. And all it takes is that smile. Why? Why do I fall for this? | Crush |
I've been insecure all the time | Crush |
(Sorry for any grammar mistakes.)
Okay, so if you have followed my post awhile you might know that I have a crush on my bestfriend, and a few weeks ago she told me she liked me. I'm not sure if we're official yet, but we feel the same. | Crush |
So how come I have a crush on a girl, really cute and funny... I already asked her out and she said she should " think about it ". But besides that we talk to each other alot through gmail
2-3 months later.
I join a club she's in and I was missing out on the entire fanbase she has (obviously they also have a crush on her) and it's sending me into a confusion of if she like me at all or hates me entirely
Help meeeee | Crush |
So theres this guy that works a few stores away where i work. He seemed really cool so i decided to ask for his number. He was surprised but he gave it to me right away and talked to me for a bit, he seemed really interested and asked a lot of questions about me. I had to go so i waited a few days and texted him
So he replied a day after asking whats up and after my reply he ghosted me lol. I dont know what went wrong or if he just didnt thought i was attractive. Im just wondering why he gave me his number in the first place, i even told him he doesnt have to if hes not interested in getting to know me. But he just said i should definetly write him. I talked to a few people that know him and they all told me that hes really weird when it comes to other people (he told me that also) and everyone told me that he hates human contact and has no interest in other people. So i guess that could also be a reason lmao but im just wondering why he gave me his number then. Im just really sad cause it took a lot of courage to ask him and i would have loved to get to know him. I also had a great feeling about the situation, so any ideas what i could do or should i just let it go cause its hopeless?
Thanks :) | Crush |
I’ve been working at my job for over a year now and every day I make my rounds doing pickups and drop offs in a van. There is a woman at one of my stops that I can’t stop thinking about. We get along really well and are always being silly with each other which I really appreciate. I can’t help but light up whenever she’s around. I feel like there is something there but she gives me mixed signals time to time. Unfortunately she is in a relationship (not married) and has 2 kids. I would never make a move or anything and I genuinely would want only the best for her. It feels likes like she pulls away because she doesn’t want things to get out of hand. So I do the same as well...but it’s extremely hard to get over her since I see her everyday. I’ve been dating quite a bit but no one seems to Ignite the same fire she does. I know it’s silly and pointless I just don’t know what to do. I’ve even thought about leaving my current job because I’m tired of riding this rollercoaster of emotion. I’m the type of person that wears their heart on their sleeve and sometimes I wish I could just tell her how I felt. I would hate to live my life never fully expressing myself to her. But at the same time I don’t want her to look at me differently because her friendship is just as valuable to me. She’s such an amazing person but it’s hard for me to be around her. Any tips or words of advice would be helpful thanks everyone | Crush |
So, May 10th is the day for the World History AP exam, and I'm not so. My crush is online and she is AP, so she has to take the exam in school and I plan on seeing her right as she leaves the testing room. Here is my plan
-Around the time the students are about to leave the testing room, I'm gonna ask if I can see the counselor (which I actually am after this)
-If I see the students leaves I'm gonna go see my crush and finally have a conversation in person finally, our conversations have mostly been in text since last year, we saw each other in April for STAAR Testing but it was only a few seconds.
-If I dont see them, I will lay low in the bathroom until one of my friends tell me that it's showtime
- Finally get this over with
I just need to know, when does the World History AP exam end, like when do students get released? I don't wanna miss my one and only chance and have to wait until August. | Crush |
We’re talking now. she seems interested in me | Crush |
I was at a restaurant with my family and there was this really cute waiter. So after we finished eating I went up to him and asked for his number. He ended writing it down for me. I forgot to ask for his age, bc im 22 and I wanted to make sure he wasn’t a minor ofc, although he looked around my age. So after adding him to my contacts IG added him to my “people you might know list” and I saw that he had a lock and a date in his IG bio. It’s been two days since I asked for his number and I never texted him because it looks like he’s taken. But I feel like I should text him only because it’s one of my favorite restaurants and I want to go back without it being awkward. Should I text him or no? How do I explain that I’m not interested anymore?
Also, what do guys think when girls make the first move?? | Crush |
I have/had this super big crush on one of my best friends, a few days ago I decided that I was going to ask her out. Once I saw her I panicked and didn't do it now if I want to ask her out I have to do it over text. But.... as soon as school got over (it was my final day in high school) I got a text from a different girl that I was interested in a few months ago telling me that she was going to miss me so much next year and that she loves me. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do? I don't know whether to pursue my crush or pursue this girl who loves me (it's unclear whether she only loves me as a friend or romanticly). | Crush |
I've been crazy about this girl at work for so long now its actually making me go crazy. I've been close to telling her but I can't go through with it. She invited me to go for some drinks with some co workers and I should of said no coz its hurt me so bad. She was flirting with another guy from work and didn't show any interest in me when normally its the other way round. I got upset and left without saying anything to anyone. I feel like the only way out of this is to get over her and try not to be in contact with her
I feel like I'm being immature about the situation, I wish I could talk to her and find out how she feels but I got a feeling I know the answer.
I've unfollowed on socials and instantly regret doing it coz she might notice eventually and then I'd have to make an excuse.
Its not healthy thinking about someone this much I dunno whether to just talk to her next time I see her or keep it bottled in forever
Any advice greatly appreciated thankyou! | Crush |
She definitely saw the flower pot I built outside her window on our Minecraft world, I couldn’t tell if she was looking at it or went AFK while looking at it though
She also took her cat Dandy, that she usually sits on her bed and leaves there, and moved it onto my bed so that might be something to note | Crush |
So I’m in love with a girl that I met in 8th grade middle school and now a senior in high school. A girl I know almost nothing about, nowhere near enough to call her a friend, and yet every time I see her time slows down, but my heart beats fast. You know how in movies when the guy/girl sees the other walk by and time just slows down like if it was “love at first sight”? It’s exactly that. I wish that it was just about the looks, but it’s beyond that. The problem is that she rarely notices me and I’m pretty sure it’s just to be nice. (Junior year) It’s bad where I dated someone who was really in love with me, she was willing to change everything about her for me, and yet I couldn’t help but wish it was the one I really wanted. I broke it off because of it. It’s the shittiest thing I had ever done.
I don’t know what to do about these feelings I have for her, I’ve tried getting over them, but just seeing her or hearing my crush’s name brings all those feelings flooding back. What should I do? | Crush |
They say there is someone for everyone, but nobody shows interest in me :( Am I forever alone? ;/ | Crush |
Ok so I was talking to some friends and long story short they said it seemed like I had a crush on my coworker and we kept talking about her and uhmm yea I really like her and they think she likes me too | Crush |
My crush has this sort of cycle, wether it's intentional or not, I don't know. He leads me on, making me think he likes me back, as shown on my last post on this subreddit. He then goes on saying he doesn't even know his sexuality yet and he doesn't wanna end up finding someone else when he's figured out all that crap. Its like dating a closet case.
And he does that, over and over, somehow I still fall into it. I'm not rlly sure what to think anymore.
Closet case - for those of you who don't understand that term, closet case means someone who is either still figuring themselves out or wants to keep your relationship a secret because there not out yet - | Crush |
Basically there's this girl in our friend group,and we know each other since like the 3rd grade,or something like that.In the last 2,3 years I've noticed that I started liking her more than just a friend.Sometimes we would get a little flerty but nothing special.The rest of the friend group even started teasing us about liking each oher,even tho no one said anything about us.I think it was probably because of our similar interests.I don't know if she sees me just as a friend,or potentially something more.Don't know what to do,would realy like to try something with her cause I started liking her more and more.I think I'm just afraid that if I try something it'll mess up our friendship and maybe the whole friendgroup.Someone help,I need all the help I can get! | Crush |
so i'm a girl and i like this guy( we will call him john). We work at the same store and we've been talking for awhile. he seems to like me, he always says how much he loves having me around and we have great convos. There's a problem though there's this other girl who we will call "Amy". Amy is nice to me but today she came up to me and she said she has a crush on john i asked if they were in a relationship. she said that 3 months ago he had a crush on her but then he stopped liking her and wanted to just be friends. But she still likes him. I have been kinda ignoring him now but i really like him and i wanna talk to him more since hes leaving to university in a month, what should i do? | Crush |
Soooo, this was my first account. If you want my now account, it is HappyHarpy5. Connor is so cute! He has straight brown hair with piercing blue eyes! Like no other color besides blue!!! He is always super grumpy when I am not around, but he has a mischievous side when he schemes with me which is adorable! He is really charming, and he loves fishing, which fits with me perfectly!!!! He is so adorable!!!!!! | Crush |
So I just graduated middle school and me and my crush are going to the same high school thank god but I don’t talk to her like that anymore. I used to fool around with her but we never followed each other on social media or have each other’s number. I’d really just like to get to know her better anyone plz? | Crush |
I was gonna ask her out. But shes married. This sucks :/ | Crush |
I just figured out a customer that comes in my store may have a crush on me.
1.) gifted me something I mentioned I like before
2.) mentioned to me they signed up for a yoga class after I mentioned To them I do yoga
3.) complained about not wanting to be with her fiancée and that it was only supposed to be a fun night but he never left. Talked about how he annoyed her because he never argues back with her and he follows her like a little puppy (Tf?)
4) asked what I was doing over the weekend. I replied “nothing. I like being alone” she then said awkwardly(I like being alone too” ( I wasn’t trying to assume she had a crush or something because I don’t like being put in situations like that and I don’t see her that way so I brushed it off)
5) I told her I deleted my social media and then she says “yeah I deleted mine” ( the fuck?) the way she says things in her voice seems like she’s just saying things to make me like her.
6)When I started thinking she felt some way towards me I mentioned that I have a crush on someone and she goes “if she doesn’t like you back she’s stupid”
I treat all of my customers the same and in no way did I even think this person thought of me that way when I got the small gift. A lot of old customers do sweet things like that so i didn’t pay much attention to it. I ended up putting a ring on my finger so people can assume I’m married. She keeps starting at the ring and she’s acting down. I’m annoyed as hell because she’s a regular costumer and I always bond with regulars. If I would’ve not been so damn oblivious, I would have cut convos short and not accepted that small gift. I am now non stop thinking about this because I’m so mad that I didn’t notice when all of the other stuff was said smh. She probably thought I was feeling her or something smh. I like women but I’m not the type to just like any women I see! The way I interact with women is the same way straight women do! I don’t gawk down women’s throat at all. I mentioned this to her when I started wondering if she had a crush. The person I had a crush on is now my Gf which happened when the customer stopped coming in for a few months because our hours changed due to corona virus. I hate hurting people’s feelings but I’m thinking about this non stop because i regret having convos with her and on top of it I hate hurting people’s feelings smh. I keep analyzing every interaction and I get mad because how could I not realize ? Smh I was just trying to give nice customer service. If she comes in next time should I mention my Gf or should I just hurry up and say have a good day and walk away?? Do you think I’m being paranoid and shes probably just being nice? How can I get her to back to go without being rude since she’s being s | Crush |
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sorry for the long post but please hear me out
I’m a third year international student in uni who has graduated recently in a certain university in England. I was enjoying my uni life fully just like everybody else and I was part of this Taekwondo club where I met a guy who I have a big crush on.
He was a member that has joined since the very beginning so he kinda have his own clique. Note that I’m both asian and a guy, on top of that I’m socially awkward, I may seems very hard to approach so I barely spoke to him. We had so little interaction that number of times I’ve spoken to him are probably within my fingers count.
Even so, I was slowly becoming unhealthily obsessed with him. I would push myself every time we have training and force myself to show up on social nights(even though he’s always absent on those I’m attending) and in the end of the day, I would report to my best friend the every little progress I had made even if it is only in my own head.
But because of the pandemic, my journey of getting to know him better has ended abruptly as now that both of us who are third years has graduated as well. He went back to his home that was around Plymouth (I think) and I will soon start to study in Edinburgh.
It seemed to me that there are just so many reasons that stops me for pursuing him, hence I tried to forget about him and filtered him out my head. But I kept going back to him, occasionally I’ll think about him, have dreams about him, when I see his pictures on social media it pains me with regret for not being more initiating when I had the chance.
Even so, I would like to let him know how I feel. The closest thing that is connecting us right now is just social media. But not knowing he is straight or not, I am afraid of reaching out to him. Is there any way I could talk to him on social media out of the blue without sounding like a creep? Is there a future for us? | Crush |
https://youtu.be/fuYVASJfOf8 | Crush |
I really tried getting over her, because I didn't want to waste my time with a hopeless Crush again, and now after seeing her again I just fell so confused.I was at a party with some of my friends and I could often catch a glimpse of her looking at me, but I still don't know if she got any feelings towards me, and over the last weeks I really tried getting her out of my head and now I am constantly thinking of her again and it's just so exhausting. Now I don't know if anyone of you has experienced something similar to this but if so I would really appreciate it if you could tell me what you would do now, because I think about texting her again or confessing to her so I can make my mind clear and on the other hand I believe it would be just better to let it go completely. | Crush |
Hey so I'm in big need of some advice. So I'll get straight to the point I've been crushing on this guy for a while now. I've never actually met him but I've been chatting with him on the internet. I've known him probably for 6 years or so. Ok so here's the thing. He's my brother's best friend. Yup they met a couple of times and they talk everyday and I know they are very close friends. I don't really know what to do I've been trying to get to know him and he's really nice and sweet and funny and only one year older than me. But I really don't want to hurt my brother's feelings. I'm really close to my brother too and I don't want to ruin our relationship, even though my crush on his friend is growing stronger and stronger every day. I've never had a boyfriend before and I really want to experience love and for the first time I feel like a boy could actually love me back. Should I just ignore these feelings and move on or should I make a move. Thank you for reading this long text btw lol sorry 😅 | Crush |
So my friend(m17) and I(f16) have known each other for many years now. We flirt back and forth CONSTANTLY but idk if it's just flirting or if there is something there. We talk everyday and we usually ft every night. he's also liked me before, but I don't know if that still stands | Crush |
I’m not like a simp or needy to them in any way, but idk does it make me a simp in a way, like do girls not like guys who like them? Like at my age (17) it doesn’t seem to be that way, I do t know what it’s like when your older | Crush |
Update: she answered my last message about me playing guitar and said: do it!!!! After my exams:)
I hope I'm on the right track 😅
Hey everyone!
I'm a guy and I've been texting through instagram with this girl (20) for about a year. We've met once before quarantine, had dinner and went for some drinks, and planned to do some things together (concert, hanging out) which obviously got pushed back. We still text, kinda flirty, kinda friendly. Many times, she will initiate by asking to see me, with much enthusiasm. We planned to go shopping, to go eat, that I play her some songs on the guitar etc... after her exams last June. Lately, we've been trying to hang out but plans got always delayed for various reasons. Our texting habits kinda changed too: she starts answering every two or three days to my texts. I mean, that's fine by me, I'm not the kind of avid and obnoxious texter either. I always keep it light and fun in our conversation.
So last week, we would talk and she would ask 'Are you free to meet next week? :P' and I said yes, of course. She tells me she's going away for the weekend, so we will keep in touch on Monday. Then nothing, I don't hear from hear. So I text her on Wednesday, asking simply 'hey would you like to meet and chill this week?'. But got no answer. She came back to me yesterday evening telling me 'oohh yeh hmm mm...not sure when I can bc I have to study again x' (she got exams in September). I told her okay fine, then she proceeded to send me a few more texts, saying 'yeah I'll get through it hahaha' and 'btw I loooove your guitar skills' (I had just posted a guitar video on Instagram that day). I then told her 'Thanks, maybe one day I can play for you haha'. But got no answer.
So sorry for the detailed post, but I needed to contextualize. What would you make of that? A girl who asks to see you and then cancel the plan she made? Or why would she ask me to hang out and suddenly the next week be super busy and 'not sure'?
If she wanted to ghost me or letting me down gently, I guess, she wouldn't answer me or give me the time a day. She still watches my stories and likes my posts. But I feel confused. Could anyone give me an insight on her behavior? That would be really appreciated.
Thanks for reading! | Crush |
For a bit of backstory, I have liked this guy for a while now and he seemed to maybe like me too so I gave him a note that said I thought he was really nice and wanted to get to know him better and had my name and number on it. He works as a door greater in Walmart so I thought if things went wrong then I could easily avoid the door he was working at when I had to go in, well things did go wrong and he didn't text me and I was upset at first but got over it. Now I have successfully avoided him for a few months now so my plan was working, Walmart's counting system, however, does not like my plan. Since quarantine, my Walmart has been counting people going in the store so they don't go over the safe amount of people in the store and that is not a problem. They started by closing the garden door for easier counting, and now they have closed the middle door, leaving only one door open, the door that the guy almost ALWAYS works at. I didn't know that only one door was open until I was there and on the way in. I'm sure you guys all know where this is going, he was at the door. My mom was with me so I planned on hiding behind her while rushing in the door and acting like I don't even see him and I'm not bothered, I'm confident in my plan. As soon as I got close to the door, the plan goes bye-bye and mushy panicked brain takes over, and I start hiding behind my mom, the confident part of me was lost and as I get in 20 feet of him I can see him looking at me, at first I decide to ignore it but it takes me a bit longer to actually get in the door because there was a line of people just walking slow. He was trying to make eye contact with me because he never stopped looking at me, (I know that might seem like a stretch but you know how you can tell when someone is looking at you and wants you to look back? I know that sounds weird unless its happened to you but just trust me.) Since I know he is looking at me my impulse decision making comes out and I decide to look at him, as I make eye contact I go completely blank and just stare at him and he basically does the same, since I was so panicked I don't even remember if he smiled or not but we held eye contact for a lot longer than what I wanted to while I wanted to run in the store. Why would he try and make eye contact with me if he rejected me? I would think if he rejected me he wouldn't want to look at me or feel awkward, right? I am almost certain he knew it was me, he acted differently with me compared to the people in front of me and my mom. He is so confusing and I am hooked in like a fish. Even if he were to text me now I know that I wouldn't reject him or be cold to him (unless he has a girlfriend or something like that). If he is having second thoughts about texting me I wish he knew that it wasn't too late. | Crush |
Why didn’t I say something when I had the chance to | Crush |
Hello!
I'm going to tell you all my story, and the reason behind that is I just want you to feel better, to regain your confidence, to remind yourself that life can be very unpredictable and honestly, anything is possible.
It all starts with me, back then 20 years old girl working in a corporation during another gap year. Not gonna dwell into that, but I had no plan for the future, went through many failed relationships, still, I was really happy, but that's for another post.
After half a year of working in the same place, I see a cute guy. But a really cute guy. I think immediately "he will be my boyfriend". I'm pretty confident, but I had never before said to myself anything like that. Many things have been alluring about him. He's tall and handsome, amazing body, cute face, all that you've wished for. You can tell he's super-intelligent, very polite, very funny. Perfect guy, right? Guess what, he's also Spanish.
I had to talk to him, but all I managed to do was saying "buenos dias" every morning. Thankfully one day we actually started talking and trust me, I've never felt so good before while talking to someone for the first time. But LITTLE DID I KNOW my perfect man had been in a serious relationship for 5 years back then. Well, that changes a lot, doesn't it?
I stepped back, we became friends. And only because I don't want to make this post any longer here's a quick update: I've been in a relationship with the same exact guy for nearly a year now.
Even if you don't end up finally with this crush, trust me, there's someone perfect for you and you will end up with him. Just open yourself for possibilities that may seem very unreal right now. Cause truly, anything can happen.
EDIT: We broke up.
Leila | Crush |
My husband is involved in a court case, pretty serious case and I am so sexually attracted to his prosecutor ( I am a witness in the case) but I will not testify against husband so not a cooperative witness. In fact the man could ruin my life he HAS ruined my life, actually, but I think about having sex with him all the time. I’ve only seen him a few times in person but he looks into my eyes o deeply ( prob a lawerys trick,) but I mean I want it so bad it’s crazy.i am crazy. Anyone else attracted to some one thy should not be? Like wildly so. It goes with out saying I will never act on this but oh my mind obssses. Sometimes when he sends me an email I get to excited, and these are dry emails, and I will began my response with I want to suck you dick please , please let me. And then erase it , of course , but it has been my only release. Some one tell me this will pass or something..... i am hoping by saying something somewhere it will free m from my mental obsession | Crush |
She's a childhood friend, but I recently moved from her. We've been talking every day about visiting each other, we even made a bucket list for when we're old enough to go on our own adventures. I think she's the person in this world who knows me best. I love her so much, and she says she loves me too | Crush |
Hey everyone!
Long story short: I've been talking to this girl for over a year over text. We've met once before quarantine. Wasn't really a date, more a friendly encounter, but we both enjoyed it. We text regularly, at least every week. Great interaction, kinda flirty, we start caring about each other etc... She often initiates the conversation, says she wants to see me and makes plans like going to eat, shopping... She even asked me to play her songs on guitar at one point.
Over time, I learned about her, I know she doesn't have a bf, things like that.
Now I'm in a situation where lately, we've been texting more and trying to see each other (we don't live in the same town). She often asking me if I'm available, with enthusiasm etc... So last week, she ask me 'are you free to meet next week?' and I said yes. It was before the weekend. Then she said 'im going away for the weekend, so we will talk on Monday'. I was like, ok, cool.
Then nothing. I've send her a text on Wednesday asking if she wants to meet, but got no response. It's been a week, I know she got the message, she's watching my instagram stories, but no answer. I'm starting to lose perspective on this. Does she likes me? I can't believe she's playing me, she's a very sweet and sensitive girl.
Thanks for reading! | Crush |
I am preserving something that's inevitably gone-
I know how he made me feel but I've entirely lost the sensation of how he looked like. | Crush |
Basically I have a crush on my co worker, I’m a male btw. I can’t tell if she likes me or not, like sometimes I feel like there are signs but I always have doubts. She’s super nice and chill and it seems like we enjoy talking to each other but I don’t want to mistake this for really being her nice personality. What are some other signs I should look out for? | Crush |
Just wondering if anyone else is gay or in a gay relationship? Say your practically best friends with a guy and along the way you’ve caught feelings. He shows a lot of signs, like a tonne, you’ve had like weird romantic interactions, but if anyone else asks he says he’s straight, maybe because of the age and he’s scared ppl will judge but why not tell me if he is? He’s shown signs, looks out for me, but then never says he likes me to my face it’s always been flirting or funny comments but never straight forward, I don’t really want to ask him cause it could be awkward but I need some help here from one of you on what to do! Ask any questions if you have any! | Crush |
Do you sometimes come on here hoping to see if your crush comes on here to talk about how they feel about you?
Just imagine 🥴🥴
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I did my best to show that i like him that i love him. I waited for him already when he mad, i chased him already when he ghosted me. Now, it it time to stop. If we meant to be, we will meet again in future but for now that's it. It is not that i dont wanna fight for him but because i have other thing in life i need to take care of. Good luck, my crush. I wish you a happy good life. | Crush |
I had a crush on her, I told her that I liked her and she also liked me for a time. As we got older she no longer liked me in that way while my feelings remained the same. In seventh grade, my mother moved across the Bay taking me with her. I was so upset, because even though we never dated we were best friends and we could always depend on each other. We continue to talk over the phone and on Discord. Every once in a while, while I was visiting my dad, I would meet her at our favorite ice cream parlor and we would hang out for a good portion of the day, I would meet her friends and I began to form a sort of circle even though I wasn't there a lot. They invited me into their Discord server and it was great. Then Senior Year of High School came along, I had stopped going over to my dad's due to a lot of unrest and dysfunctionality. I stopped going on Discord as often because I was slipping into a dark place and I didn't want to push that onto others. I didn't adjust well to High School and I never really fit in with anybody which meant I never really made any friends which didn't do great for my mental health on top of my messy home life. One day, I went into the server and I joined in on a game of Jackbox with the girl and her friends. We were having a good time, all was okay. Then I royally fucked up, we had a channel in the server called "cursed porn" and I decided it would be the funniest fucking thing to photoshop a minecraft creeper head onto a hentai girl and post it in that channel. Needless to say, that ended horribly. I was promptly banned from the server and all her friends stopped talking to me. Her and I talked for a bit and basically tried to calm down the whole situation but it never got better. We didn't talk as often after that, we would occasionally talk about recent events in our lives, but I was always the one who had to initiate the conversation. It occurred to me she wanted nothing to do with me, and so I obliged. The last time I talked to her was to let her know that I was being kicked out of my apartment, and that I was going to move across the country to try and find a place I can afford to live. She informed me that she was also moving, but that she was staying in California. That's it so far, and I know I ruined it no need to tell me. | Crush |
I (17m) have a crush on a girl (17f). Recently she went abroad (ALONE BTW) out of the blue to Korea for her studies. Just before that happened I wrote a song for her, where I expressed my love for her. She has rejected 3 guys ahead of me and gives them her cold shoulder, but somehow she went polite on me and said that she was speechless. She still talks to me normally, but the distance is killing it. I am the valedictorian of my school and she frequently asks me for help and that's IT. Never have I been asked "What's up?" or smth like that. I have tried every trick in the book: Asked for her hobbies, called her out on a date, utilized EVERY single opportunity to comment good about her, helped her out in dire times. I spent 5 years of my school life crushing on her, and it has been 2 years in college and i still have not changed my crush. She has gone abroad, away from her parents solely to study, and I dont think that this is the right time to re-propose her and pile up her burden (as if she didn't have her hands full). But i am afraid when she returns, she might be taken away. Any advice what i should do? | Crush |
For some context, there is this girl that I met on an app called hellotalk, where you can practice foreign language with natives in the language you want to speak in.
We've been talking since march when quarantine started and have built a solid friendship, by giving each other our Instagrams, and making video calls on skype. We would have good conversations and just laugh a lot.
But there have been multiple occasions where she would reply in 4 days to a week. There was even a time where she said that she was "busy" and didn't respond for a month.
It's now been a month since I sent another message to her, and she's been looking at my Instagram stories, posting on Instagram, but still no contact or response to my message. Yeah, she still follows me, but To be honest I feel disrespected and i really want to confront her about it, but afraid that I will scare her off. I know that confrontation is scary, but I just hate when people can't be straight forward about things. I mean we were on good terms and I didn't do anything wrong or so I think. The only thing I can think of is forgetting to answer a message for 2 hours.
The more I think about it the more anxious I get.
Should I message her and see what's up and tell her that I feel disrespected?. How do I go about this? Any advice in the comments will be appreciated. :)
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Yo guys, should I tell my crush, that I like her, even if we met only one time and I didnt write with her 11 days(we know us like 2 weeks only) | Crush |
Hi all, im have always been a passive reader, then stumbled upon a reddit on this issue. I would like to share an issue of mine as I am desperately in pain and in need of peace not just now, but hopefully for the future.
I am a uni student current doing my thesis, and developed feelings for my group mate who in my opinion is an almost perfect girl (beautiful, smart quirky in the right ways). However she sees me only as work. Our conversations never go beyond that. I know i dont have a chance in hell with her, as I have been told I am not her type, she never asks about me, and she has never shown me any signs of interest in all our years of knowing each other. In fact she doesnt really think highly of me.
Worse of all in January, I discovered she had been talking to another guy in our class for some time already, and through a series of events I became obsessed with stalking their Whatsapp (WA) online and offline timings to see if they were talking. Long story short, I have been monitoring them for 6 months and after much mental agony I found they have been talking almost everyday. Their activity levels coincide too regularly whereby if one were not online the other wouldnt be online, but at the very moment one did come online, the other would too within seconds... I have seen them talking from 12am to 2am in the morning, I have even once seen them talk for 5hrs... How did I know all these? Saying i spent alot of time glue to the Whatsapp screen monitoring their online timings is an understatement. I have even paid money for apps that monitor WA online/offline timings...
However, in Jan and June, I have asked around friends who knew them and they all said there was nothing between them, and that they were just close friends who were in a rock climbing group. I thought to myself "maybe they dont know the full picture" and so in March i plucked up my courage and asked the guy directly if there was anything going on. He replied that there wasnt, and he just felt she was good company. I was initially relieved, but then doubts started creeping into my head "what is he was lying? Wht if he just wanted to keep his relationship a secret? What if they talk until they start to become a couple? What if...." So in April I asked him twice more intending to find out the contents of their conversation... However I did not get much out this time other than him stating they chat mainly about "church, rock climbing, studies...", that he did not know her much other than rock climbing. He chided me that I should pursue whoever i wanted and he wasnt my dating coach. He sounded annoyed after the third conversation so I stopped asking him after our talk in April.
So now I have 2 conflicting sources of information... On one hand, friends and the guy in question denying anything between the 2 of them. But on the other hand, which guy would talk to a girl so regularly for the past 6 months if there wasnt anything between them? IS that possible? Even now as I am writing this through tears I am watching their WA online and offline timings alternate indicative of a conversation taking place. (they have been talking all morning today, and yesterday they were virtually absent from whatsapp, only appearing whenever on appeared, then both ceasing to come online after 7pm until this morning.... You can only imagine the thoughts that raced through my head as I watched.)
I know I said I do not think I have a chance with this girl.. But my mindset now is of sourgrapes... I dont want to confess to her for reasons I did not include in the summary, but yet I cant bear to see her with anyone else... I cant bear to see her happy while I am always the one getting rejected... Why does the guy get to have the girl I want but cant be with? Why must life be so unfair? Why am I the loser all the time?
If you have taken the time to read through my pain. Thank you I really really do appreciate it. I know you may even probably think I am a creepy pathetic stalker. I know my situation sounds like a screwed up personal hell I have created for myself. It was how i responded to try to cope with the initial pain but it spiraled out of control and I am now addicted to checking up on WA. But I truly truly am lost and in such pain and the situation is driving me insane... And at the end of everyday after the pains and anguishes all i feel is emptiness, as if I am putting myself through an endless hell and my soul is corroding day by day. The pain is so bad I just want to die...
So redditors out there, I come to you all broken and in need of good advice. 1) do you think based on everything I said if they are together?
2) is there any personal wisdom for me now in my situation?
3) is there any personal wisdom for me in the future if i manage to survive this situation
Thank you. | Crush |
So I had this old crush from about last year. I keep having a dream about her every few months periodically and I’m not sure why. Any assistance will be appreciated. | Crush |
I (17 F) have been working with this guy (27 M) for a few months now and over that time I’ve developed a small crush for him and I honestly have no clue what to do about it. He’s 100% my type and we get along great, he’s probably one of my best friends at work. We have the same taste in music, interests in medicine and science, and just talk about philosophical shit a lot. I can see that he’s genuinely a really good person from how he interacts with other people which just makes it somehow worse. I’ve been working almost all of my shifts with him and we’re often left alone and there’s always a different energy, but idk if that’s just me.
To make matters worse, he and another one of my coworkers have a thing going on, talking stage I guess, and I know she really likes him. I obviously don’t want to interfere with their relationship either.
And yes he is just as aware of the age gap as I am, to the point where he didn’t want to admit his age to me when it was brought up. I was honestly surprised as he looks much younger and I guessed that he was around 19-24 years old.
To be fair I’ve been relatively flirty around him and he doesn’t shut it down at the very least. It’s a very back and forth sort of thing. Still, he’s a really respectful guy and never pushes it or anything.
Recently he has mentioned that a name I use is cute after teasing me for it, which kind of triggered me to post this. I’m definitely not averse to him calling me that, and I’m not sure how reasonable that is.
TLDR: I’m starting to really like a guy who is 10 years older than me and idk what to do about it. | Crush |
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I had a crush for about a year on someone I didn't know and only saw them once. Then when I saw them again I talked to them and I'm pretty sure they don't like me at all and instead like my best friend....heh.... I am so smart. I feel completely terrible I wasted a whole year on this. | Crush |
Yelp, So there is this one girl I really like since the 4 grade we’ve been talking a lot lately and I’ve been dropping tiny hints. That I like her but she seems to not understand and laughs it off as a joke, so I come over to her house ( I live in New Zealand so it’s ok since we don’t have many Covid Cases ) so while we’re playing I was chasing her around in the back yard in a game of tag when We both trip due to a small hole in the ground she’s top I’m on bottom I’m 4’10 Shes 5’3 we are just both there. Bright red She jumps up and says sorry like a million times and I’m just covering my face and after a few more minutes I left. Any help any tips so I can confess to her? thanks Reddit! | Crush |
I have crush on a guy which is my best friend, and currently I have a boyfriend which I truly love, but this guy happens to be my crush since the very first time I met him ( more than 7 years ago) and now he looks like he wants to give me a chance to be with him but I'm in love with my current relationship. so I thought that this guy was actually going to be my impossible love, the one that will never happen. and now it seems to be that I actually have chance but I don't know if I wanted, because I actually have very good relationship with my current partner but still this guy just make me melt I didn't know what to do. he make me go crazy! by the way, I just don't want to end the current relationship that I have right now, but I still don't know what to do with my crush because he's flirting with me and obviously that's make me go crazy | Crush |
Context since I deleted mine: I messaged my crush, and we talked. Then she brought up many random things and its like those "did I ask" kinda random. She said she loved me, which I took as a joke, but she insisted she meant it, so I went along. Then we talked more, still no arguments and then I get a message from her friend on her account so I was like ah crap I thought I was talking to the real person. Then my crush came back on the account and pretended to act like her friend still wasn't on the account, and her friend messaged me clarifying she didn't talk most of the time. Later I saw a message from my former crush calling someone else a swear word, and I found out someone else ended a friendship with my former crush.[https://photos.google.com/u/1/photo/AF1QipP5fPRQntKMTt3dhMQYeDVlQJ7sltHZvD-\_Q1WL](https://photos.google.com/u/1/photo/AF1QipP5fPRQntKMTt3dhMQYeDVlQJ7sltHZvD-_Q1WL) | Crush |
So I liked this guy pretty much all year and we were always pretty friendly whenever we saw each other and he’d stop to talk to me and basically exchange banter. We had stuff in common and tbh we were always edging on a little flirty. My original plan was to tell him how I felt at our organization’s year end party, but COVID kinda shot that plan as our organization’s operations suddenly ceased in March. After that, contact between us pretty much cut off. I still have feelings for him all these months later, but I’m really conflicted if I should bring it up. Mostly bc a) he told a mutual friend that he was only in the organization for strictly professional reasons and b) it’s been awhile and we haven’t been in contact, so if I did say something, it would be out of the blue. I really don’t know what to do, and I don’t know if getting my feelings out in the open would help me move to other people or if the rejection would be completely debilitating. What do you guys think? What should I do? | Crush |
So, I have had a crush on this girl for about a year now (we're both 16 y/o's to clarify). We both spent 8 years together in the same primary school until we were 12 (elementary school in the US). We both went to two different single-gender schools for our further education so we haven't talked as much since. We have also played traditional music together for about 5 years or so, competing in various competitions and attending many sessions and events where we had to play.
She has shown the some signs that show a person is into you, such as me catching her staring at me on the schoolbus (we have went on the same schoolbus for years since we live relatively close to each other) a number of times, obviously before COVID-19.
We also keep sending each other snaps on Snapchat (we do keep a streak but she opens my snaps quite quickly and often sends a pic of herself back to me which leads to us sending multiple snaps back and forth where I'd goof around a bit to make her smile. She always sends the first selfie). Although we would rarely text each other but when we do she seems to save a bit of what I say to her.
I do remember one time back when we were in the same school together that two of her friends came up to me and said "[crush's first name] likes you" but there were two people with that same first name and those friends may have been referring to any one of them since we were a pretty tight-knit year group. Also, that could mean very little, given how long ago it was.
I would love to hear any opinion on this matter. Thank you in advance if you decide to read this and maybe even give your opinion. I can provide any extra info should you request it | Crush |
I’m not so sure how this format thing works to be very honest with you but here’s one story that kinda messes me up. All of my friends who knew my situation and about him claimed that he liked me but I thought other wise because he’s so hot and cold. This is a throw away bc I don’t need anyone to know who I really am 😔👉👈
On with the story :)
So I was a guard girl for my school marching band my sophomore year. I barely joined and I didn’t know anyone besides one other guard boy (and the co captain). After a couple of weeks, I finally settled and made lots of cool new friends who I talk to still to this day. The guy was a junior and the thing is, I didn’t develop feelings for him until maybe like mid October of 2018.
There’s a lot of stories I can tell you about this dude but one thing that really irked me was how petty he was over anything. He also had a gay best friend who literally graduated out of high school like 2 years already but he comes back to help. Yano, stuff like that. He’s also never seen w/o him so the chance I got to talk to him was when the other dude wasn’t there. Either way, I still didn’t talk to him bc I was too shy .
Fast forward to a couple of dry encounters and weird, awkward stares we would give to each other... this story(one of them) takes place in 2018 sometime around parade/ competition time. This is one of our earlier encounters along with others:
One day we were all chillin and I was on my instagram scrolling through my timeline. He over here, looking all over my shoulder and saying “why you hold your phone like that”. And I’m like: “why you looking at it?” Then I also said “Chill, brother.” (i pick up sayings and random words that my brother says and i use them bc I like to be trendy and keep up with what he’s interested in) So he didn’t say nun after that and he didn’t talk to me for the rest of the week.
Then Saturday of the same week, we were going to do a parade at the local fair. he went to McDonald’s with his friends. before we all left to get on the bus, he comes back with a frappe and my fat ass is all like “can I have summm?” And he’s like “sure.” So he hands me it and I look at the cup(cause there’s a straw right there) and I’m like: what do I do with it? And he’s like: just drink out of the straw since I’m your BROTHER(y’all he said it loud too smh 🤦🏽♀️)
I was only asking what he want me to do with the cup likeee , do you want me to pop the lid open or? Some people are germaphobes you know!!
Back to the story, so I looked at him like: 😐 and everybody was around us in front of the band room and they all looked at him like 🤨
Like tf you don’t talk to me for a week and you mad over sum shit I said on a Tuesday? damn!!!!
There’s so many stories I can say to you and I feel like if I go on and on then you guys would be like: sis are you dumb? You can’t take hints? And blah blah blah so yea 😔
Sad part is that I still kinda have feelings for him. My friends say that he’s shitty and “has no personality” and is “probably gay.”
He already graduated and I’m a senior now 😔
If you want me to start a series about my hopeless love life, lmk 😔🤚🏽 | Crush |
Ive liked this girl for 7 years and now we're juniors in high school we've been talking for so long and she just blocked me in the middle of a convo we've had a million times what did i do wrong? | Crush |
So basically the idea is I've liked this girl for the last 3 years. We used to talk quite a bit during the first year or so since I met her because we were in the same science class. Shit happened, we grew apart and barely talk now. I dont think we were really close to begin with, but I hope that we couldve agreed on being friends back then. Anyway, I used to think about her A LOT. Now Its just dying down and I dont really feel anything. On the off ocassion she talks to me, I get a bit nervous but I think thats more awkwardness and me being stupid than the angst of being next to/talking to your crush. I think its finally time to let my 3 year unrequited love die. Few ups, and lots of downs, but I think it was a good experience. Now I'm getting more interested in a girl I work with. She seems to tollerate talking to me, and has a dark sense of humour like mine. Maybe theres something there? We'll see. Anyways, thanks for listening to my Ted Talk.
Edit: Spelling | Crush |
so i told my crush that i liked her even though we dont even know each other i just found her on twitter and since then i followed her so i already knew she was gonna say no but i still wanted to try .. i mean its fine i respect her decision !! but she told me that we could be friends and im just hoping that i wont make things awkward for her and now i feel bad cause it feels like she needs to be my friend so that she wont make me feel bad so idk what to do | Crush |
I like this guy and I met him in a professional setting. I overheard him tell coworkers that “he likes ending the day with me as his patient”. What does that even mean? He’s helping me with a injury. His coworkers joke that they thought something was going on between us because he stays late to finish treatment with me and they joke that he’s got a crush. As far as I know he’s never admits to it but he also hasn’t shut any of that stuff down. Why doesn’t he just shut it down if he has zero interest ? | Crush |
Does it mean something?
What does it mean if a guy asks you if you hangout with anyone? | Crush |
It is very rare that she texts me first espessially on a weekend but she just texted me "who do you like 😶?" My heart immediately started racing so I just acted really confused and asked her where this was coming from and she said she remembered that I told her my mom told me that I could never get with my crush. I just told her that it was nothing against her but I'm just not comfortable telling anyone at the moment until I'm 100% sure my crush likes me back. She basically said that she was fine if I didnt tell her but she would be my wingman if I did. What does this mean? Did I react properly? | Crush |
So I like this girl I've known her about 2 months more or less and she knows my sister and is good friends with her, but when she comes over she mainly comes to see my sis but ends up talking to me 50% of the time and we just have a good convo and we have good banter (she is year 11 im year 10) she makes strong eye contact with me and sometimes just makes eye contact and doesn't speak for a good 5secs, but she recently said that she doesn't think of me as my sisters lil bro and considers me a friend, I'm so fucking confused help, I'm 75% sure she knows I like her but im not sure. | Crush |
So i have this crush on a boy since august 2019 and he’s 3 years older than me , so we met on summer vacation at his house in my home country, so at first he kept glancing at me in awe and constantly wanted to be around me and would talk to me sometimes and smile at me and help whenever i needed it and so when i was leaving to the airport he seemed kinda sad and hugged me and said goodbye.
fast forward December 2019 I made the worst mistake i could think of 🤦🏽♀️ so it was winter break and he , his mom , his older sister and his nieces came over to visit us because its winter break obviously , so one unfaithful day our families decided to go on this one hour waterbus trip to some cool place where you can lots of stuff and go to nice places so there I actually made the giant mistake 2 days ago by telling his niece about my crush
so i was sitting on this bench and thinking and she asks me “ what are you thinking hyhy (using my nickname since i dont wanna use my real name ) “ and i stupidly say “OH JUST THINKING ABOUT SOMEONE” and Then says oh XXX hyhy loves you blah blah blah! INFRONT OF EVERYONE (and the saddest thing was XXX looked so happy hearing all of this before this happened —> i said “IT WAS A JOKE OK? STOP BELiEvING everything i say” and then i noticed the death stare look on his older sister’s face and then him trying to hold back tears looking heartbroken .. ughh it hurts
So he leaves on jan 4 we were too shy to talk to eachother and i kept trying to give him a confession note before that incident happened but i could never bring myself to do it
Now i have not seen his face and voice in 9 months since jan 4 and i can not contact him but i did send him a follower request to his private insta and he didn’t accept it yet andd i know he rarely gets to use the laptop he and his nieces share because his dad will not give him a phone and i dont think he accepts anyone but friends , teachers and family and sadly i do not know if he has moved on , got a girlfriend or has a new crush because we cant talk at all and he’s overseas so yeah hope you enjoyed this post
-hyhy | Crush |
so ive had a crush on this girl since 2018 and like i dont even know her but i just saw her on a post and since then ive known her twitter but im scared to dm her ... i dont even care if she were to tell me that she doesnt like me but what should i doooo because im gonna go insane i mean shes literally so cool her outfits are seriously the bestttt | Crush |
Planning to dm (on Instagram, he fllwed me back) this guy I’ve crush on for a year+ started with just eye-candying him but as the mths go by, I’m just more in love (?) with him....so yea I barely have any guy friends that can tell me good advice cuz they’ll just embarrass me with the ways they come up with for me to start a convo so I’m here, just tryna ask if anyone have any ways for me to start a convo with him so it’s not so awk for him, because he’s like rlly rlly shy and I’m not rlly that shy so idk if the ways I thought of will be too ... for him yea. We’ve actually nvr talked before not even a hi cuz we’re from diff classes haha but yes a few eye contacts on the corridor & tats basically it.. so I rlly need some advice on how to dm him haha, esp from guys & also girls who’ve done it before! No idea how he’ll react, still pretty nervous but btr than regretting right haha 😌 | Crush |
So I sorta have this crush. We are both 15 and we don't really talk that much but we do run cross country together and we are both very good. She sometimes will look at me with that...well you know look like she might like me. Then when we make eye contact she either just looks away or smirks almost emabrrassingly then looks away. So im asking mainly girls here but guys i could use your advice too. Do you think she has a crush on me? | Crush |
I have a crush on this guy and I was told he likes ending the day with me. I also heard that mutual acquaintances poke fun at him regarding me. For example they joke that he’s got a crush on me and according to the guys he just blushes and laughs it off. Why doesn’t he just shut it all down and tell them I’m hideous and he’s got zero interest in me. That would shut it all down, right? What does this all mean? Is there potential interest? | Crush |
I’m 1 year older than the guy I like, we’re from different class but I managed to find his ig and we somehow actually had a class tgt and we often will see each other in school. He’s vv awk & looks rather shy too, so I really dk if I Shld continue liking him.. we had a few eye contacts and I really regret not saying hi to him immediately because I was scared of rejection etc. I hate it now tho because he deleted ig to focus on our major exams, even tho I dmed him a few days ago but deleted it cuz he didn’t reply for a day. I have no idea what to do now, I’m scared of his personality being the opp of what I thought and observed from him, cuz tats wat happened abt my ex crush lol. I really like him a lot and have no idea if I should shoot my shot after our exams and also since I’m older than him..confess after our exams or nah? :’ | Crush |
So there is a girl same age as me (15M & F) we’ve know each other for 4 or 5 years and have never really been friends, just someone that we’d see every once in awhile that we could joke around with
But this last 2 or so months it’s changed. We’ve exchanged PlayStation usernames (haven’t actually played anything because my control has been broke for 3 or 4 months), she added me to a group chat and then a discord when everyone abandoned the group chat and with the discord we’ve started playing Among Us on a semi regular basis
Then there’s stuff she’s sent to me personally not the group chat, So firstly she asked me to help with some Ronan history stuff she had for a class, I’ve made it known I’m a history buff so easy enough to say she thought I know, I didn’t and recommend another friend of mine to help but the big thing is she sent a TikTok that was one of those “The person that sent you this thinks you are” video and as I’m watch it I’m think “is this it an I finally gonna get an opportunity here to get a girlfriend” but no she apparently just thought red was sus
Alongside that there’ve just been normal memes
I’ve been thinking about this a lot the last 3 days and honestly only started to like her a few weeks ago, for last few years I thought she was cute, but was either trying with someone else or not looking for a girlfriend. I honestly dunno what to do because I’m not good at picking up sighs with this kind of stuff, for all I know she’s already told me she liked me and I just didn’t pick up on it. | Crush |
I have a crush on this guy and I was told he likes ending his day with me. What does that mean? Is there potential interest? | Crush |
Guy gets nervous when I look him in the eye?
I've noticed when I talk to my crush that he gets a little nervous when I look at him in the eye when we are talking.
He kind of says whatever he is saying nervously and he looks away quickly.
I also get a sense that he needs to look away or not at me to collect his thoughts or something, because he has seemed to forget what he is saying when he holds eye contact with me.
I can tell he looks at me when I am not looking at him, just when I do look at him he seems a little nervous to meet my eyes.
He has said some really cute things while smiling and he seems like he doesn't know where to look- he will smile and look anywhere but at me, or make eye contact with me specifically.
It's not like he doesn't make ANY eye contact in a conversation, he will make it briefly. It's just that he seems to be a little nervous while doing it.
I genuinely don't think he is avoiding eye contact with me because I creep him out or that he dislikes me in any way.
I just look at him the amount that I would when talking to anyone, but would it help if I didn't look at him quite as much when we are talking?
I just noticed that he is more confident when not making eye contact or when I am looking somewhere else and I just want to make him feel at ease. | Crush |
At the beginning of school, I was taking virtual for about a week before I decided to just go back. Now when I went back I had a class with this girl who said hi to me and all that and I sat next to her. Now at this moment she was really nice, funny, and caring. We would always always text but she always took hours to respond and usually not that active on social. I honestly cant tell if she yk has feeling for me as well because she is extremely hard to read. Even though I showed some clear signs but I just dont know if she feels the same. But she always does act different towards me a little bit. For example, I was at my highschool football game and she would always glance at me for a quick second from a distance. Even in school aswell some more glances. Any advice that you guys could give? | Crush |
This is a reoccurring theme I have. I see a girl I like, I don't know her but I keep thinking about her obsessively . One day I get the guts to talk to her and it doesn't go as I planned. I know I'm doing it wrong but it happens every time I like someone. I wish I could just find the girls that feel the same instead of developing feelings for someone who doesn't. I try my hardest to not like someone until I actually know them now but it's still hard to not crush on certain girls. | Crush |
I met this cute girl at a tennis court far from where I live, and just to see her, I choose to play there even though it's far. She's really pretty cute and her eyes are just so beautiful and when she smiles, you will literally melt. The only problem here is that we never really talked and I heard that she has a boyfriend. She always smiles at me every time she caught me looking at her. And every time I got a chance to talk to her I literally don't know what to say.
What do I do? I never really felt this way before. I think of her every time, and this time, I'm pretty sure I'm in-love. | Crush |
She is amazing. I like her a lot but she is hung up over her ex still. I hope she gets over him. I want to show her how special she is and don’t want to break her heart. Hopefully she gives me a chance. | Crush |
Im using a spare account so my friends don't see this on my main. So I'll start with the bad and go into the good. I think she hates me now but I'm not sure. She said to my brother "I saw _______ eating 🤮" at lunch and she's agreed to some bad things about me. She's also best friends with my mentality unstable twin brother who hates me and paints me out to look like hitler. And currently she has a bf although things don't seem the best between them but then again i don't really know. Anywho now to the good. Shes always been really nice and has always cared and defended me, even when we weren't really friends. And a kid on our bus asked if she'd date me and she said "i guess" although she was probably being nice i thought I'd mention that. When we were really good friends she always talked to me when ever she could. When some of our friends tried to set us up with eachother she didn't throw away the idea of dating me, although she was probably just being nice. She was also always comfortable around me and didn't mind touching me and what not. And now that we're not really friends she still always pays attention to what I'm saying even when I'm not taking to her (idk if that means anything but I do it to her so I thought I'd mention it). Thats all I cant think of rn but I'm sure there is more. | Crush |
So, I need advice. I am awful at reading people and I have trust issues. And my crush is a very complicated person.
I have been crushing on this long time friend for a long time. Like,really long. I was still with my ex when I first realized I felt something for him(a common friend.)But I thought it could be I was just unhappy with my relationship and looking for someome else and projecting and idealizing this friend of mine. Well I eventually broke up with my ex and guess what, still very into him.
Time passed and I thought this would eventually fade away but it really didn't. And I know it's not just a stupid crush, I have known him for years and years. We recently got very close and talked almost every day during the past few months. I know him really well, I may be in love with this mf.
He is a very complicated person tho, not at all easy to read and very cold and aloof.
I feel something, something I think might me mutual. Tension, lingering looks,etc.
Point is, I am super scared of telling him,because he is a really really important friend and I don't wanna make it awkward between us. But if I am imagining things, I need closure and to move on, because this has been going on for way too long.
Thanks and sorry for the messy post, I am really bad with dealing with my feelings. | Crush |
So, there's this girl i have a huge crush on. She was in my class at high school and we didnt have attention for each other, but now we are following the same study. We travel together and we talk a lot. She often texts me with question where the answer is obvious(?)
she could ask someone else from our study, but she always text me.
But in the weekends she sent me nothing, like zero, and on snapchat it's often quiet at her side but when we've seen each other at university see do sent snapchats and text me.
So is it me or does she see me as a school friend? Or like nothing at all?
She often sent mixed signals so im really confused, oh btw i'm also really nervous and shy so that doesn't help the cause lol
I hope you guys/girls can help me because i can't stop thinking about her....
(I'm sorry if my english or the story is confusing as hell) | Crush |
So im using a throwaway account cuz i don't want my friends seeing this on my main account. Anywho imma say the negative things first and then the positive. So she somewhat hates me (I think). Like she's talked bad about me a few times, one time she said to my brother "I saw _______ eating today 🤮". She has a boyfriend, and is best friends with ny mentality unsable twin brother who i don't know would be capable of handling me dating his best friend (that's if I somehow have a chance and get with her). She also thinks im kinda of an asshole but thats mostly due to misunderstandings and miscommunication. Now I guess on to the good stuff since I can't remember anything else bad. So she was on the bus and said she date me. She pays attention to what I say even if im not talking to her (idk if that's a sign but I listen to what she says even when she's not talking to me so I thought I'd mention it). She's still nice to me despite the fact were not rlly friends anymore. When we were friends she wouldn't mind being near me. She was really comfortable around me and wouldn't mind getting physical with me. She'd always talk to me and say hi when she had the chance, and when i ever need her she was there for me. She'd also always defend me even when we weren't really friends anymore. That's also all I remember rn so do you guys think I have a chance? | Crush |
Becuase of alot of stuff I went threw as a young kid I kinda grew up really fast. I have always gotten along with older people more then my own age group. Normally around 17ish. But this time I met someone at the foodbank I volunteer at. They are 20 but I can really relate to them and they always make me smile and luagh. I dont know what to do really I dont think of them in like a s*xual at all just romantically. | Crush |
I’ve had a couple of girls ask out or even just start talking to but I’m not sure why I haven’t been able to. Sometimes I think why if my strict parents find out or what if she tells her friends and they start buzz about it. Anyone have any words of wisdom or tips to help with this? | Crush |
So I liked this guy and me and him were really big Lana Del Rey fans and even went to her concert together. Then a few months after we kinda stopped being friends I told him I liked him and he didn’t feel the same. And lanas having a signing but do y’all think it’s a good idea to ask him to come with me. It’s been like 5 months since talking to him. | Crush |
So i don't think i would have lived through this whole Covid thing without him cheering me up but anyways awhile back my asshole sister and cousin made up a lie saying that he said he would slap their vaginas which is obviously not true cuz i was there and it was on Facetime and i was holding the goddamn phone but you know no one believed me but we finally got to talk again after a bit. so the real thing is i sort of told him i like him but i played it off as a prank and he got piss he got over it and i now realized that i played with his feelings. Then another time wanted to tell him by saying that if we cant talk again (back to the lie) i wanted to tell him something but i chickened out and just said your like my best friend and what not but he is open and acts like he likes me but im not sure and he also talks about sex like alot even when were alone. FYI im twelve also we get teased as like a couple by other kids. Could ya'll comment what u think? | Crush |
\*DISCLAIMER I
AHvGJVJVUSV just found out my best friend still loves me... a year or two ago she mentioned she had feelings for me but I thought those feelings had faded and now my ex best friend sent me screenshots of a convo she had with her. My best friend said shit like "I can't live without her" and "I thought it was just a crush but I've loved her for years". She always wants to cuddle and now that I know I always feel so uncomfortable talking to her, never mind cuddling with her. And the worst part is that she won't tell me she loves me. She tells me I'm the most important person in her life so I'm terrified to reject her because I don't know what she'll do. (She's depressed and i'm worried she'll self harm.) And also I'm the person who's been helping her through her depression so if she doesn't have me for support I'm worried about what'll happen. I can't keep being friends like this though because I feel awful and uncomfortable.
also this is mostly just a rant post and I just need a little bit of advice... | Crush |
Does anyone want to help me? There’s a person I like and I really want them to know that I like them. Almost like some secret admirer or something like that. I really want someone to dm them that some person that they don’t know likes them. It may be weird, but.. I’m high and I want to try this out | Crush |
Okay. So my friends and I have been going to this boba place for over a year and there's this cute curly-haired guy working there. My memory is literally the worst but I believe I noticed him the first time we went there. I think my friends just said "he's cute" but I didnt pay him much attention other than that.
Fast forward to a few weeks. I went there by myself. He was there working. I took my order and had a seat. Few minutes later he brings my drink and me wanting to be polite I took my drink and then proceeded to raise my head to look at him in the eye and thank him. This man was literally looking at my face the whole time he was handing me my drink and the moment we made eye contact he gave me a kind smile. It lasted seconds but it felt like eternity. I might be reading too much into but hey. This is literally the moment I started crushing on him. I exited the shop internally freaking out and told what happened to my friends.
Now, at this point my friends and I start going there weekly and chill for an hour or two. We usually went there between classes and when there's literally no one sitting at the place. One day, one of my friends decides to take a video of him cause I had mentioned him to another friend who was studying abroad and who wanted to see what he looked like. Looking back, it's pretty creepy I'll admit. My friend is the biggest paparazzi I know. She takes the video, shows it to me in the shop and sends it to me. The same evening I'm at home watching the video and I notice something. My friend was sitting on my right recording. In the video you see him, as he's making his way out of the counter to give somebody their drink, his eyes linger on what I hadn't realized was literally me. So at this point I'm at home and I'm freaking out. Again.
We go there a few more times and this one time, as my friend and I are ordering, he gives me and my friend an additional stamp on our loyalty card and said "Et un autre parce que je suis gentil" which is French for "and one more cause I'm nice like that". I'm French btw hi! Again! I might be reading too much into it but oh well! Another time, as my friend is ordering her drink, my other friend already sat at the table waits for me to come and tells me "Meuf quand elle était en train de commander il te regardait". Which is French for "girl when she was ordering he was looking at you". And I freak out. Again.
At this point (if you're still here) you might be wandering why I haven't done anything. Or maybe you do know why I haven't done anything about it because you know how scary it is to approach somebody. I have to say. I have gained so much respect for men who regularly approach women despite the fear of rejection because it's so difficult especially when it's literally expected of you. Anyways, back to the story.
The pandemic happens and everything is locked down for almost two months here so no boba. Fast-forward to late August and I go back there for the first time in MONTHS. And he just so happens to be there (forgot to mention he's not always there). His hair is suuuuuper long now, it's dark and his eyes have changed colors to now a grayish green. That freaked me out cause wtf. But apparently that happens to some people.
Now, last wednesday. I go there with quite a few of my friends including the one who was studying abroad. She was DETERMINED and I mean DETERMINED to see him because she had missed him so many times. I got there first with my friends and she told me she was on her way. A different employee was at the counter. Before I even had time to feel disappointment, he appears out of no where and is heading out sooo fast. Somehow in this 0.1 second we have time to make eye contact. I assume he was taking his smoke break and in the mean time I'm like "oh shit".
My friend finally arrives snd she's on a mission to see him. We sit near the counter and we start talking. As we start talking he comes back from his break and goes to the back of the shop and when I tell you. I've never seen my friend freak out the way she did that day. She literally scared me. I asked her wtf ? She told just told me "Meuf il est grave beau t'a des goûts vraiment!!". Which is French for "girl he's so handsome you got taste!!". Which made me feel good I'm not gonna lie. So we order and start getting into a really deep conversation about our personal lives. While we're talking I notice that he has switched places with his colleague and is now at the counter. My friend hasn't noticed yet. After a few minutes of me glancing at the back she finally notices and almost breaks my neck for not telling her the whole time.
At this point, I gotta be honest. I'm emotionally exhausted. It's been a year of me crushing on and off this guy and I want some sort of closure so I decide something. I say to my friend, "okay I'm gonna try to lock eyes with him and if it works I'll smile at him. If he reciprocates then I'll add him on Instagram". Also forgot to mention, while looking at the accounts the boba shop was subscribed to I found his account. The weird thing is, it wasnt there a few months prior. Cause I had checked. Again, I might be reading too much into this. BUT OH WELL.
So I proceed to start my mission. And after a few unsuccessful attempts I finally manage to get an eye contact with him. BUT. What he did next literally broke my heart. He broke the eye contact yall. Didn't even let it linger or anything. He just broke it to look at the horizon. After almost 3h just sitting there me and my friends decide to go and walk around. Weirdly enough, I didnt feel as bad as I thought I would. This is so weird I swear but hear me out. I have this thing for guys with curly brown hair and this day he had his hair shorter than I had ever seen him have and for some reason that made him less intimidating in my eyes lol. With his curly hair he kind of reminds me of Robert Sheehan. My friends told me maybe he was nervous and that's why he broke the eye contact. And at the same time I'm like well yeah but it's also possible he just lost interest and maybe he wasn't even interested to begin with.
The next day, my friends call me freaking out and tell me they found more info on him. My friends are literally detectives, they found his Facebook account. They found out his name but also that he moved a lot as a kid and one of the places he grew up in was Ivory Coast. I'm mentioning this because this is quite relevant in terms of what I would ideally like in a partner.
Being a black woman coming from a multicultural family and raised in France, it's very difficult for me to imagine my self being with somebody who doesn't have the same understanding of how culture can shape your perception, and how being around people from different cultures from a young age actually allows you to be more understanding, open-minded, empathatic and comfortable with different people. I don't care about race or ethnicity, but this is one of the things I know I will have a hard time compromising for. In my experience it makes things better whether it's with the person themselves or their family. Also, he's of north African heritage and being part north African myself, I know how things can get tricky when it comes to interracial dating (I've never heard of any problems in my own family but I've heard about it and seen it in my extent family and other people). It also somewhat comforts me in the idea that men find me attractive. I know this is a very universal feeling. As a black woman you're sometimes made to feel like your blackness is a deterrent or that you are attractive in spite of it. I'm definitely not one to look for the validation of men and certainly not non-black men to find me attractive. But it's nice when you feel reciprocity sometimes you know.
Basically I have no idea what to do. I'm so scared to shoot my shot especially now that I feel like the attraction is not as obvious as it was a year ago. On top of that Paris might go into lock down again next week. I also don't wanna let the opportunity of getting to know someone who seems really interesting and, in a way, the opportunity to choose who I want to go out with based on my own criteria and not just if they're attracted to me first.
If you're still here. First of all thank you for even getting this far. Hopefully that was somewhat entertaining and my English wasn't too bad. If there's need for clarification don't hesitate to ask me. I would really appreciate any advice, any idea on how you even approach an employee at a drink shop without it being awkward, any feedback. Be honest. Don't sugarcoat it. I'm French. We don't give a shit.
Thanks ✌🏽 | Crush |
So I dm my crush on instagram very often and we usually send memes and stuff to eachother and for some reason she likes all my messages, i get if she likes the memes but even on normal messages like ''Ok'' or ''Yeah, sure'' she likes those messages too, also when u like a message it puts a heart next to it? Is this a hint from her to me that she likes me, i really don't know.. | Crush |
So, I have a crush on a girl (she‘s also my neighbour), and i know her since 7 Years now. I started to really like her and we went to school together every day, back then I talked to her pretty much. She‘s now in an other class than me and I don‘t see her more that often. Over the quarantine I always thinked about her and she was always in my mind. And when I see her I get extremely nervous and when I talk to her, I always something weird to her, ‘cause I‘m completely overtaxed at this moment... So I’m to shy to write to her or to speak to her much. What should I do? What do u recommend me to do? | Crush |
I hadn’t properly gotten over him for a year. We stopped talking for a couple of months and recently got in touch. I just facetimed him until I heard birds chirping and the sun rising. My god what do I DO! Is that normal, 8 hours ?? I overheard him saying he didn’t like face-timing people because he is awkward and doesn’t know how to talk to people but it felt so effortlessly fun. Am I overthinking this ? | Crush |
So I recently moved and told my crush about it. Now he won’t stop asking me about my room specifically, how it’s going be, what I’m going to do with it. Wayy too many questions about it. And he never asks this many questions which is kinda making me a bit nervous. So, is there a chance he likes me or he just really wants to know how I’m decorating my room? | Crush |
Me m14
Crush f14
This has happened to me twice now that I have a great time with my crush but feel like shit afterwards. I feel great in the moment but wake up in a depressed mood.
The first time this happened was when we did a prom thing since the schools got cancelled where we went bowling and to dinner with her 15f friend. Me and my crush wore matching yellow attire and I have to admit she looked beautiful. I digress but she openly flirted with me by saying things like "we look like barbie and Ken" and grabbing my arms and calling me strong because I had recently started working out. Anyways we all 3 have a great night and she sends her other friend home. After dinner we went to a drive in where our moms gave us compete privacy. We shared redbulls, skittles, and sour patch kids while talking and not watching the movie. At the time I was hyped off of caffeine and went home and crashed feeling great. The next morning I woke up so depressed. I didnt feel like doing anything and spent 50% of the day crying.
This happened again today. My dad picks us up from school and he was running late so we stood in front of the school for 30min talking. During that time she too a bunch of snapchat pictures of us with filters saying stuff like "we're cute" and sending them to the same friend from earlier. She also made 2 tik toks of her getting really close to me and smiling. I felt fantastic at the moment but feel like shit now and cant focus on homework becaue I cant stop thinkig about her.
She is a very bubbly and flirty person in general so I dont know how to take her flirting. We dont call or text often because I have anxiety that she will be mad if I text her too often. She is my best friend so I dont want to ruin things if she doesn't like me. She is a popular cheerleader and I am pretty popular but not as much as her but she doent seem to care. My best guy friend who definitely has no chance with her has told me he likes her but would never date her. What do you guys think? If you need more detail or examples of flirting on sure I can think of some. | Crush |
I am a professional woman, I have multiple degrees and a respectable job. But recently I started exchanging emails with someone in a similar position to “show them the ropes” at work. And this guy is very cool and kind. We added each other on social media and have similar interests. I have started to develop a crush on him and we haven’t even met in person! I am very happy remaining friends, it’s just all very odd to me. I was in a relationship for years when I was in undergrad, but he didn’t support my decision to further my career. So I left him. Since then I haven’t really had a crush on anyone. It’s been years! So this whole thing with this guy is strange to me! It also comes as a bit of a relief because I didn’t know if I was capable of these feelings anymore. | Crush |
Mega gay zone | Crush |
I have a crush,and I’m like super shy.So today my phone died,and my friend told me to ask her for charger,I did so.She gave me charger and I was thinking what I could say to her,and I thought I would say “thanks,ur very kind” but instead I said “ur the real friend!” And all of her friends started laughing,I’m shaking so hard right now please help | Crush |
she was my crush for a really long time and just gave it a shot and it didn't work out early this year. now I'm just getting the vibes that something is up and my feelings are back again and i just kinda jealous of the two gutsy guys who always call her when she is with her friends and just find any way to worm their way into her lives. i'm sure two of them are chasing after her too. i just kinda want our close friendship back, i know maybe we won't work out but i enjoy her company a lot and it hurts to be so uninvolved in her life and having other guys that i know be more in the know than me when she only met them not a while back before and we have known each other for years now. i always do the subtlest things to get her attention, i always tell myself to go to a larget extent, but i've already been shot down once and i just don't know i want to move on yet i don't i'm just stuck in this loop | Crush |
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