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I (20M) am beginning to start getting a crush on a girl (20F). When we need to walk towards the classroom and arrive she always stands next to me or infront of me looking and smiling at me for a long time. Even if we are in a conversation she keeps looking and smiling at me, not paying attention to the one who is speaking. We sit next to eachother in class and have good and fun conversations. We also joke alot and I have noticed that she even laughs at my not funny jokes. I was sick last week so I missed the classes I have with her and she asked why I wasn't there to sit next to her. If we sit next to eachother in class she always randomly touches my hands and she's not doing it on accident.
I noticed that she's always smiling and keeping eye contact with me even if we are studying. If she wasn't cute I would find it kinda creepy. If I look at her and smile back for as long as she does she is getting red looks away only to look again sometime later. She's also intrested in my love/sexlife and had a small conversation about hers and mine. She also asked me if I wanted to have a relationship or if I would rather remain single.
Yesterday she only asked me if I wanted to come over to her house this week, when we were in a group with classmates/friends. I am starting to think she's into me, but I dont want to ruin the friendship we have. So I'm not sure if I should shoot my shot or what to expect and what to do.
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Sorry for bad grammer, English isn't my first language. | Crushes |
I used to like this girl a lot but quickly understood that it was going nowhere as she already had a crush on someone else and she talked (and to this day still talks) with multiple other dudes, but I wasn’t mad at all, in fact I wanted to stay friends with her because she was amazing back then.
Unfortunately, she made it clear that this wasn’t an option by telling me that I was insignificant to her and she didn’t want me in her life but I could still try and maybe one day we’ll eventually become friends, but let’s be honest I’m not the best looking or most interesting dude in the world but I still have some dignity and self esteem so there was no way I would’ve done that.
The reality is I was feeling down for a long period of time after this but I respected myself and her choice by not texting or talking to her for over 6 months, I even considered reaching out to her during summer but I quickly remembered why I distanced myself and continued avoiding her.
Now here’s the interesting part, as soon as we got back to college she started starring at me intensely every day and she started hanging out a lot with a girl who tried to ruin my mental health two years ago, but everything was fine until she confronted me and told me that she found out that I liked her and then started calling me names for ghosting her and even asking why I did and not accepting the fact that I did it because that’s what she wanted from me, I was pretty shocked but brushed it off and continued minding my own business and living my life.
What baffles me is that after that she still continues to stare at me whenever I enter class or talk and laugh with someone that is not too far from where she sits and I find it sad and ridiculous, to think that she spent her entire summer break thinking about me scares me but at the same, and I’m sorry for what I’m about to say, gives me a massive boost in self confidence knowing that she pushed me out of her life but then regretted doing so. | Crushes |
Having never asked anyone out before, I would be very nervous, but half of that comes down to not knowing what to say.
Do people say "would you like to go out with me?" and (assuming they say yes) they are now together, or does it have to be "would you like to go out with me to lunch? (or some meal)". If so, what would be good wording for "would you like to be girlfriend" because that sounds rubbish.
I may be overthinking it a lot, but I don't want to feel dumb. I'd be happy to continue a conversation in the comments if need be. | Crushes |
What if she's toying with me or I'm over thinking it | Crushes |
It hurt me more as I thought she liked me back but after talking to her made me realize I was wrong and she is barely interested.
After nearly a month after conversation, it still hurts... | Crushes |
I am M21 and she is F21 and we are students and in the same classes in the college, she is just amazing and weird and I like her weirdness a lot it’s super cute but she is from different part of my country and after college maybe I’ll go and study abroad for my masters and maybe she will study somewhere else too and whenever I see her I just want to be with her but I don’t know if I should tell her because I don’t want to loose her as a friend plus the future is uncertain BUT EVERY ROMANTIC SONG I LISTEN TO REMINDS ME OF HER AND EVERY TIME WE SPEAK MY MOOD ELEVATES I NEED HELP | Crushes |
My friend used to like this guy "J " and during her whole time of liking him, he was extremely dry and when I say dry I mean SUPER day so after that she stopped liking him ( and she confessed to him and got rejected idk if its impt ) so recently ive started getting close to "J" and idk why and how. so, ig i started to develop feelings for him and i haven't told my friend grp that has her inside? okay anyways there was a period of time whr i tried to deny my feelings for him and tell myself bc my friend used to like him it's not good that i like him now :" but ig that failed :"" but i've also realised that "J" and my friend are like lowkey beefing,, and idk I've realised that hes not dry at all to me unlike the way he treated my friend last time? idk what this means and i dont plan to make a move on him until im sure that my friend is totally okay with it but can someone tell me what this means 😐😐 i don't think he likes me but is purely js being nice but like idk vibes yaknow??
TLDR: friend used to like guy, friend stop liking guy, i start liking guy, haven't told friends, guy is way nicer to me than to most people, pls tell me what this means 😞 | Crushes |
I've got a crush, and I've kept around 70-80 photos of her saved on my phone (all from her stories, snaps she sent, and profile pictures) and some portraits of her that i made back in January this year. Apparently, a friend of mine told her about the portraits and now I'm thinking what if she sees her photos on my phone? I don't know if she even likes me, so, is it creepy? Should I delete the photos? | Crushes |
my life is actually fucked up because of him
mom knows m into him and my teacher told my parents some shit about him,,,and now my parents hate him sm
dad told me to stay away from him
my dad thinks i failed in two subjects because of him damnit and he failed too 😭
this shit sucks asf
his life is fucked up too cz i could feel him
i feel really bad rn
i wanna know what he's doing and how he's feeling
i can't see him depressed
just want him to be happy | Crushes |
yeah just ask questions cause idk what to do | Crushes |
He knows I like him, I told a week before his birthday. (Just last month) He keeps looking at me in class, we sit next to each other in one class, whenever he can he talks to me and compliments me. He’s always touching my hands and stuff and I just AAAAHHHH!!!! I DONT EVEN KNOW MAN HES MAKIN ME BLUSH | Crushes |
I’m totally into one guy. We hooked up a few week early. Since then we sent messages forth and back and one day he told me his uncle died of covid and he just stopped texting me. Yesterday was his birthday and I sent him “Happy Birthday” and he just replied “Ty!”. I want to text him,” hey how have you been?, how’s the school going?” Should I? | Crushes |
So me and my crush were texting and at a point she said "i don't know anything about you and you don't know anything about me" and i asked "you wanna know about me?" And she just replied "not really". Wtf? Is it a bad thing? Should i be sad? | Crushes |
I think I finally have the confidence to message her and tell her how I feel, but the problem is that I don't know what exactly to say. Please give me ideas. | Crushes |
I just wanted to tell y’all about how I gave him a gummy frog and then he started jumping all around the room.
He’s so goofy. I love him. | Crushes |
I'd appreciate some advice, haha. First time poster. My amazing coworker (28F) is truly one of the best people I've ever met. We have so much in common and have become friends outside of work. I (22F) haven't felt this way about anyone in a long time.
Usually we're in group hangouts (I've formed a little trio at work lol) and we have AMAZING chemistry. I kinda feel electric when we interact. I don't want to say she likes me back because I don't think she does, but we flirt all the time. Friendly, teasing flirting, but flirting nonetheless.
It's difficult for me to say whether or not she's attracted to me. We trust each other and are still getting to know each other. The line between friendly flirting and flirting with intent is difficult to figure out bc I feel like queer women communicate like that pretty often. We're both bisexual too, and she knows I'm looking for a partner.
She always tells me I look cute or pretty, almost every day honestly, but I do the same with her and other coworkers. I'm a really nice person to everyone, and she's said multiple times that I'm one of the best people she knows.
My coworker has sworn off of relationships, and even though I know that, I'm still foolishly hopeful. Should I be content with just being friends? Or should I make it more obvious that I'm flirting with her on purpose? I don't know if she *knows* I have feelings for her.
We might be watching a romcom together on either Friday or Monday, and this will be our first time hanging out alone. I'm really excited but don't want to be too obvious. Should I dress up? She mentioned that we could bake cookies together and that seemed really sweet. Idk.
Truthfully, I'm just terrified of screwing up our friendship because it's SO hard to make friends in adulthood already lol. Otherwise, and if not for our age difference and being coworkers, I'd ask her out in a heartbeat. Just looking for some advice, haha. | Crushes |
So I have said how I just can't move on from her because she's just a nice, cute person. Well I recently saw that i was invited to my crushs' 15th birthday. When j first saw this, I was fucking so excited because I still haven’t moved on from her as I still had that little part of me still wanting to be with since we were both little. So, i'm planning to just focusing on being great when I show up, and if I don't reconnect with her, then I will be sad for a week, but then finally move on, and in the process, I'll also move on from my current crush. For a quick cath-up, I was like 90% sure she had a crush on me before but I messed it up by not talking to her years ago. Saw her again a year ago and tried to reconnect. I thought she moved this summer but apparently I still see her family in my neighborhood walking ( as I believe they don't have a car ). My first ever post was about how I'm attendiher 25th birthday but I guess I was wrong because this one is her 15th birthday. Guess i just didnt know her age. With my current crush, I kinda distanced myself from her the last 2 weeks as it's the only way i can move on. However, I didn't want to lose our friendship and came back on monday and I don't regret it at all. I'm much more happy than I was before (even though I have an immense measure of stress on me). So, let's gooo. Have a good night people! (Or good morning or afternoon!!) | Crushes |
I finally confessed to her and I said specifically “I really don’t want what I’m about to say affect our friendship and I don’t want you to feel obligated to do anything that you don’t want to but I like you, and I have for some time” and she asked if I was joking then I said no and she said she felt the exact same way. So I did it. I landed. I scored. I’m so happy right now, things haven’t been this good in a long time | Crushes |
I was gonna talk to her today and yesterday but I chocked out and thoughts keep going through my head, like what if she hates me?? I get so anxious and nervous that I choked out | Crushes |
Tell her, don’t tell her, something else? Really need help here.
Hey guys. I’m a sophomore in high school that really needs some advice, and under the circumstances can’t ask any friends for help. The story is long and complicated but I will sum it up as quickly as possible. I’m friends with this girl (I’m male, if that matters) and have been since 7th grade. I liked her for like a week or two in 7th grade and again in 8th grade, and that was that. Freshman year of high school, I haven’t talked to her in a while but we become very good friends that fall. I quickly started to like her, and soon after we became closer friends again we were texting and she admitted that she liked me at one point in 8th grade, so I did too figuring it was safe, but didn’t admit current feelings at the time because I was scared of ruining the friendship, which is my problem right now. My friends caught on that I liked her a lot, despite me ignoring them but not denying it. My friends all get together and tell her, so she texts me and asks me if they’re right. She was and still is giving mixed signals, so I just tried to shrug off the question to see what she thought. She asked a few more times and she had finally asked me if I would ever answer the question, and I just said we can just forget about that whole thing if you want. (I know, very stupid but for some reason I thought that was hinting.) Many people thought she liked me and we were great friends throughout the school year and were very close, but I still never told her. I never got to see her over the past summer which really sucked but that’s just how it worked out. I had hoped to tell her over the summer while hanging out but it never happened unfortunately. Now this year we haven’t gotten to see each other as much as last because of schedules and such, but we are still friends and she says she misses seeing me everyday. She asks me if I wanted to go to homecoming with me and our mutual friends, and I was super excited until she got asked to homecoming and completely dropped those plans. That hurt a lot even if it was just a friend thing. I didn’t even want to go anymore after that but I felt like I couldn’t back out now. I am being very honest here. This whole situation over the past year has been really bad on my mental health. I have struggled in the past in 7th and 8th grade for other reasons, and she was always there for me and I could be honest with her which was why I started to like her back then. As an overthinker, these mixed signals and now the person she went to homecoming with has been destroying me mentally. Throughout the whole past year I’ve felt I wasn’t good enough and I’ve been depressed on and off, now more than ever. I struggle to feel happy even doing my favorite things. Seeing her at homecoming last night with her date was awful, especially because I had to watch her dance with him right next to me and pretend it wasn’t killing me. She hung out with me alone a few times last night, which definitely didn’t make things any easier. In short, I’m scared that especially now with her possible boyfriend that telling her would ruin our friendship, which would really suck. I really want her to know how I feel and my mental health can’t stand holding it in any longer. I can not ask friends for help as they know her too and that could end in disaster. I’m going to say that she is very special to me and I think that I love her, as nobody I’ve ever liked before has made me feel this way. To me she is different and she is the only one I feel like I can be with and truly love. These are the things I wish I could tell her but I am scared.
Sorry if that was super long, but what should I do based on what I said? Despite the circumstances, do I tell her? Do I say nothing knowing either way I can’t make myself get over her? (Tried so hard.) Is there another option?
Thank you so much in advance I appreciate any responses and just the read. If she manages to find this I am very screwed.
Edit: Keep in mind that besides her admitting that she liked me in 8th grade, all of the times my friends said she liked me was because of what they saw, not what she told them. At least as far as I know. | Crushes |
so tomorrow at school, im going to hangout with a girl i like, heres my story.
i made a friend who i’ll call lily from a friend (just call her kelly) in my science, shes in my sci and history. we were talking and i told her abt this girl i see in the hallway. (we’ll call her gigi)
she got excited and she said she could set me up with her. very nervous and not really sure abt it since i was hoping to avoid relationships in school.
i was kinda excited. later she tells me the girl is here, and that she was excited too. BUT heres the main conflict.
gigi stays home sometimes because of ‘personal problems,’ and did say a while ago she didnt want a gf. (kinda like me) i feel like this isnt gonna work out and it’ll end in awkwardness and one of us has to break it off.
i havent been on a date before, im scared this wont work out since i dont even know gigi and it would be hard to see her. im PRAYING tbat we could also just be friends if it all goes a different way.
its VERY rare kids in my grade stay in relationships that’ll last, they usually end in a week, less or more. i dont have any classes with her or anything. we would probably be in a boring and awkward relationship.
i dont know about it anymore, im relieved my friend lily and kelly will be with m so its bot too awkward, and we have a school dance in 3 days.
lily tells me gigi wanted to take someone to the dance, and i obv have noone to go with, so i was excited about that.
summary: I’m going to have a “date” before school starts with my crush and friends, and im not pumped about it. pretty dreadful about it. | Crushes |
i have this HUGE crush on this guy in my history and chem class, but we have only talked a little bit. i get INSANELY SHY around him where i literally feel like puking at the thought of making eye contact w him because of how nervous he makes me. how the shit do i get over this- being shy around him, and then once i do what do i say to him? i recently got his number and we’ve talked but the convo is one sided where in asking all the questions and hes answering. does that mean hes not interested in me? it was like that too irl. PLS HELP ME 😭 | Crushes |
just curious 🙂 | Crushes |
he’s been giving mixed signals and it’s hurting my brain😭😭 | Crushes |
So we were talking in a game lobby, just the two of us, and the topic of crushes came up and we started doing an exchange of hints about our crushes. I eventually asked what the gender of his crush was (bc our combined friend group, who he had stated his crush was in, had more men than women) and he said she was a girl, which narrowed it down to 4 people, which after accounting for those in relationships became 3, and it wasnt one of our shared friends, so it became 2, me and another girl. so the chance is 50/50 and... i think imma talk to him tomorrow about it | Crushes |
Help | Crushes |
It seems that i am that kind of person that does not move on until i screw up everything 🥲
I was trying things with my crush and today i sent a post of a buger to her instagram.
She replied that she likes it a lot. but its bad for her diet.
I replied, that it's nothing wrong with eating something like that rarely, ( i was in theory inviting her to eat there )
She said that it's alright, but when she has money, that she feels "embarrassed" with me that i pay the food again.
I sad that there's nothing wrong, that i would don't mind paying her the burger.
Then she replied:
"Pedro 🙃🙃🙃🙃"
Then i asked why those emojis:
She replied
"Is that i feel embarrassed"
Then i said:
"hahah it's ok"
She replied:
🙃
I replied:
🤔😶
Then she sent me a voice note and changed the subject completly, asking me something about another thing.
And that was it.
I feel like i just made her feel uncomfortable after all.
I really hate how i act with someone i like.
I Wish that i would do things better when i was meeting her. But it was impossible after all. I always find ways to screw up things. | Crushes |
“sorry sorry. im rambling, that’s my bad”
“no no! it’s cute when you ramble. i enjoy it”
im pretty sure i kind of giggled lmfaoooo | Crushes |
he never texts me. ill ask him a question and it rarely gets answered until i send another text about it. ill ask to hang out and no response- but if i call him to ask i get (obviously) an immediate response and he always agrees? we hang out a good bit, we have plans for future hang outs too… he just doesnt answer texts. what does this mean!? i don’t understand- he seems interested and talkative in person and over call but the second its over text its just crickets.
it’s frustrating and i do rlly like him so ill be upset or confused when theres silence then when he finally replies, agrees, and the plans go well im back to feeling like feelings are mutual. Maybe hes just not a huge texter? or maybe he just isnt into me i really cant tell. Ahh it drives me crazy ! Crushes are both wonderful and painful to experience. | Crushes |
It's a victory boys! Me and my crush are finally dating and I couldn't be happier :) | Crushes |
So, at the moment I’m completely confused and I don’t know what I feel because I haven’t seen her in nearly two weeks and because the contact was so weird. We both went on school trips so we chatted sometimes, however both of us had a lot of program which meant we didn’t have much time to text. Then some weird stuff happened there and I got really close to another girl which is soo nice and a great friend, but I don’t like her the way I think she likes me.
My crush and I planned for weeks to go partying together with friends, the problem was that both of us caught Covid at the same time and that plan had to be canceled. My only opportunity to see her before she goes on vacation are Thursday and Friday and if I want to do a little party obviously both of us need to be negative. Then I have the problem with this other girl. I should invite her to that party, but firstly she isn’t really close to anybody than me there and is the only person who isn’t close to most of the people which would make it weird for her and for the others and I’m scared that I talk to her the whole time and don’t have time with my crush.
As the title says I want to ask her if there’s something between us, I really want to be sure because she gave me some signs but it’s hard to tell because our relationship is always so unlucky. Soo many events of us were canceled because of so different reasons. Sometimes she was sick than I was sick or something more important came up and yeah we would have spend more time together if it weren’t so unlucky. | Crushes |
Just not name or age:) | Crushes |
So today he was looking at me a couple times today but I also think I might be overthinking because I like him a lot idk what should I do😭 | Crushes |
Ah gee whiz I had the perfect chance to wave at her today. She was on the other side of the hall and we were walking to the same class. We were facing each other and we have talked before because I used to sit next to her in the class but aw drat I was too nervous to do anything... she was also alone which would have made it easier. How do I get the confidence to do this stuff? | Crushes |
just wondering what to avoid | Crushes |
some answers may not be what youre looking for. keep in mind that we don’t talk much. | Crushes |
So, I've (16m) had a crush on this girl (16f) I know for 6 or so years now. Lot of stuff's happened between us (won't get into in rn but if anyone wants to know I'll say in the comments), I don't really think she likes me back anymore and I'm (slowly) moving on.
So, is it worth it to tell her I felt the way I did or should I let it die out like it is? I think she's got a relationship rn, she's had many in the time between I started liking her and now, I've got new crushes who I won't ask out cause I'm a nervous wreck, so, yeah. | Crushes |
I have a crush on someone. she seems to ignore me. when i talk to her through message or irl. I think not confessing to her is good since she doesnt want me. she also I think has a crush on someone? she has someone who she talks everyday. And it hurts me so bad yet I think not talking to her is the best thing I can do, and also forgetting this feelings for her. | Crushes |
I’m not even sure if this could even be called a crush honestly, but there’s this girl I’ve been friends with for a while, and since we started getting closer recently I realized that we would be perfect together because we have similar values and backgrounds (like religion, ethnicity, etc). I don’t necessarily feel super strongly about it emotionally at this point but more and more I find those thoughts forming in my mind whenever I think about her or talk to her.
Besides trying to figure out if I even like her, I’m also trying to figure out how she feels about me. I keep seeing a bunch of things that *could* indicate romantic interest, but don’t necessarily have to. Like last week we were studying together at her house and she just started a conversation asking me about my feelings and this led to a super long discussion about marriage and her telling me that I need to try to find a girlfriend. Which, considering the circumstances, kind of seems like a hint? But also I’m not sure. On the other hand she keeps using the word “friend” to refer to me in contexts where it’s not completely necessary to use the word, like during one-on-one conversations between the two of us.
Idk I just need another person’s advice. I don’t want to keep doing this thing where I assume no one wants me (which she actually told me I need to stop saying to myself) but at the same time I don’t want to give myself some sort of false hope and end up ruining a good friendship because I’m trying to get something more out of it. Thoughts? | Crushes |
So their is this guy I have a crush on in my Algebra class but he hasn't been here for like three weeks. He either left the school, dropped out of the class, or is just absent. I kind of know a little about him from before I liked him ,cause I had a geometry class with him last year and from what I heard him say he didn't really care about school. Also one time last year he didn't show up for like a month and then came back and this year he was often absent a lot or showed up super late.
This is super hard for me cause everyday I have Algebra I'll be getting ready for school hoping he'll show up but then he isn't there and I'll cry on the inside. Any advice would be helpful. | Crushes |
this ted talk is amazing it’s called Why You Should Ask your crush out on a date. Really inspiring made my stomach hurt def recommend watching it | Crushes |
Just like the title says. Is it creepy or weird that I'm obsessing over her? For example, yesterday I was going to sleep and I couldn't stop thinking about her. As I was falling asleep I was holding a teddy bear that I have and I would imagine that it's her that I hold. The weirdest thing for me is that I couldn't stop thinking about her even when I was asleep. I had like three different dreams about her and when I woke up I was thinking about her too.
I feel like she would be grossed or even creeped out by me, if she found out. We're friends, but still. She's an introvert so I wouldn't be surprised if it would make her uncomfortable...
So what do you think?
Edit: thank you for your answers. I now know that my behaviour is normal to all people and maybe even fluttering to some. I feel better about myself now, thank you:D | Crushes |
I know I'll never be with her or anyone ever really. I know that I won't be loved by anyone, I'm a mess in the head I'm not attractive I never will be.
I hate admitting that but it's true.
I roped my friends into a shit friendship. I'm an asshole and I will never be loved.
So why should I try? It's going to end in rejection every time I have a crush on someone. It doesn't matter who it is, it will always end in me crying myself to sleep for a week after. | Crushes |
So I have a crush on this guy let's call him Nathan. I recently got his number after asking to be friends (cause I hadn't currently been friends with him at the time). I really want to like try and get the confidence to ask him out but I think I need to spend more time with him. At school he doesn't really say hi or anything but when I text him he answers and all that good stuff. I want to actually hangout with him though wether it be just us or with friends. But as the overthinker I am I feel like I'm being to forward with this stuff when I'm just being myself. Like everytime he has a band competition thing I wish him good luck. I'd like to ask him to hangout this weekend and that he can invite his friends, but I'm really honking scared. And I feel like he will just say no or catch on that I have a crush on him, what should I do? | Crushes |
he's so pretty and elegant and interesting, i could watch him move around all day and listen to him talk about his life and his thoughts for hours on end.
whenever i see him i feel the need to be close to him, to touch him and i need to try so hard not to be creepy and weird and make him uncomfortable.
fuck, i just wanna hug him and find out what he smells like and touch his hair and be close to him | Crushes |
Pretty much as the title says, I recently got with my awesome crush, I love him so much, he’s the greatest person in my life, but I’m terrified I’m going to be the reason we break up at any point. Recently I’ve been withdrawing from conversations, due to paranoia over spending too much time on my phone, and because of some other not so good stuff that’s just been happening. I want to tell him all this but idk how to say without coming off as needy and pity-seeking. It’s taken so long for us to get to this point and I’m scared I’ll ruin it | Crushes |
My crush doesn't say a lot, most responding with sarcastic comebacks and eyerolls. Today we had our normal string of conversation and I expected to be chased away as usual, so I said "As always, Another time?"
Then she said Absolutely
Never, in the years that I have known her, as she said that word unsarcastically.
I sm still in shock. | Crushes |
I have a crush on a girl, same age as mine and same class as mine. We talk everyday, mostly she calls me and i initiate most texts. I feel like she is out of my league. When it was 3-4 months into the crush I debated telling her. Not asking out. Just telling her. Just when I was about to tell her, she mentioned to me that she has a crush who is a year ahead of us. I couldnt gather up the courage after that.
it's been like 3 or 4 days since then and I really don't know what to do. I feel like she just thinks of me as a friend.
I don't wanna tell her on text (too un-emotion-ed), and I don't think I can ever tell her in person. I'm just a confused piece of really bad apple pie right now. | Crushes |
I started having a crush on my very close friend. She and I are very alike, we both have same hobbies and play games together everyday.
I always found her somewhat attractive but this crush started like month or two ago. She doesn't want a relationship with anyone and I am pretty sure our friendship wont be the same if I confess my feelings.
I just want this crushing over her phase to be over. I still want her to be a close friend. Shes 24 and I am 20 if that helps. | Crushes |
So my crush told me yesterday they dreamed abt me. What's this suppose to mean💀 | Crushes |
So I've had a crush - no, actually I've been in love - with this one guy in my church ever since I started going there six years ago. We never had extensive one-on-one conversations but I always get butterflies when I'm around him. Some of the best songs I've written were about him. We share so many common interests and the directions in which our lives seem to be going seem to align. The only thing is almost every other girl who knows him likes him too.
I'm a hopeless romantic, which means I have the tendency to pine or to romanticise life. This has been everything but beneficial in this particular case, as I am sure this love is unrequited. Yet, I keep thinking about the what-ifs. I must admit that the state I'm in is a rather pathetic one and I would love to get out of it as soon as possible. Six years is far too long. So the idea I had was this:
I confess my feelings to him. Not a romantic confession with hopes and dreams attached. I just say it as it is. Factual. Short. Sweet. If my feelings are not reciprocated, it would be a win for me, because I finally get to get over him and move on. If they are reciprocated... well... do I even have to say it?
So my question is: should I confess? Or am I being stupid?
TL;DR
I've been hopelessly in love with one guy for six years and can't take it anymore. Should I confess?
UPDATE:
I did it and he said that we should focus on our friendship and I’m honestly relieved. Chapter closed. | Crushes |
Hello beautiful people.
Three years ago I had a major heartbreak with a girl who eventually didn't want me back. Ive actually never felt anything similar to another girl since then, and the tragic thing is that the only time I spent with her was 1 month when on holiday in France. Didn't know her before, didn't hang out with her after (except from 1-2 times when we met up briefly).
We had our moments, there was obviously some energy between us, but in the end she didn't want me enough I guess. Mind you we never actually kissed. She was half hot and half cold with me. Ive never felt anything similar to another girl and knowing her for that small amount of time made me even more supprised by the intensity and depth of my feelings.
I have hard time coping with this. It's been 3 years since I last saw her, we had 0 communication since and I still think about her, dream about her and can't help but compare every woman I meet with her. I think I'm still in love with her.
What do I do? How can I find true love when she's all that I think about? Chasing after her again is not an option (she is engaged and pregnant).
Thank you for reading this. A man with a broken heart | Crushes |
today was the first time i saw him irl since like 2wks ago since we both got covid. i thought maybe hed act different and maybe more distant, but hes the same as he was before.
he was nice to me and we got to talk quite a bit since we had classes together today.
I WAS SITTING ON A TABLE AND LIKE HE SAT ON THE TABLE PARALLEL TO MINE SO LIKE OUR LEGS WERE HELLA CLOSE AND OUR FEET WERE FACING EACH OTHERAND ALL AND LIKE I DIDNT KNOW WHAT TO DO I WAS SO NERVOUS LOL
i lowkey feel bad since one of the girls in my class still likes him but like ig its not my fault that he doesnt talk to her anymore 🤷♀️
IDK IM JUST HAPPY HES BACK YAY | Crushes |
Long story short.
I have liked her for about 4 months now and she is probably the first girl I seriously wanna get involved with.
I have asked her 2 times before but she always needed time...
That has changed and now we are flirting with each other. She hugs me all the time, says she loves me? Air kisses, and when we listen to music we sing the songs keeping eye contact. She has also told some of my friends that she wants me to ask her out first...
What do I do? | Crushes |
So basically there is a girl in my school where her behavior around me is so dry compared to everyone else she talks to, no matter girl or guy. I know this because when I see her with her other friends in my classes she seems normal. But with me, she’s so dry and almost seems like she is completely disinterested and annoyed at me . I don’t understand because I haven’t done anything that would make her mad / uncomfortable and we’ve known each other for a few months now. We hung out a decent amount of times after school and she comes to watch all my basketball games . It’s like every time we talk , she seems like she wants to leave . Like even smaller things like the way she greets me is different and seems so much more dry and cold. Like when she sees me she says hi and starts walking with me but like she seems like she doesn’t want to talk anymore, it’s so weird. I started becoming more dry to her because I have been trying to brighten up the conversation everytime we talked but it won’t work . | Crushes |
Hi, I’ve posted recently about this same topic, but i’m still kind of unsure about what I should do (mobile formatting btw). You can look at my most recent post for backstory, but pretty much my ex and I broke up in January, had a fight a few weeks after, but have just started talking in person again over the past week or so. We’ve also hung out with a mutual close friend recently. This close friend doesn’t think my ex likes me anymore, and is fairly adamant on that stance, even though they’ve never really talked about me. However, i really do get the vibe that my ex is still into me from our one on one interactions. Should I trust our mutual friend and completely forget about it, or trust my gut feelings about her? | Crushes |
Ok, to make it short, basically i’m on summer vacation right now and because of that I can’t see my crush in person (boarding school). We became really good friends over the last month or two of school but we built almost our entire friendship up in person, and now we barely talk because we don’t know how to interact with eachother online. We send tiktoks constantly to one another, but I want to have an actual convo with him, and I don’t know how to start one without it being weird. I really want to facetime him or something but I don’t want to come off as clingy. The only thing I have going for me is that he wrote in a letter to me that he “wanted to talk my ear off all summer”, but I still don’t know how to make a move. Advice? | Crushes |
me and my crush are close friends not bestfriends but somewhere between friends and bestfriends. So we would always argue and get on each others nerve so our other friends saw us like a sworn enemies. But one day while chatting things just happened. We were sending tiktok videos to each other and one of the videos she sent happened to be about a safety wife/husband. She ranted how she think she might not be able to get married easily then insert bunch of reason bla bla bla which I just laughed at since she's very cute and pretty, had excellent grades in school as well. She's near perfect
Then she asked me if i wanted if i wanted to be her safety husband on which I agreed, I mean why not?
If I'm going to describe myself I'm not that handsome not ugly either just average. Though I think I'm smarter than average but not a genius. And I think I'm a little funny but I'm horrible when it comes to talking to girls. I've never had a gf so I thought the deal was not quite bad.
But then we started openly flirting around which is something we've never done once before. Then she sent a tiktok video saying somewhere along the line "would you date someone that is {insert characteristic that fits her}"
In which I replied "it depends". Then she got a little upset saying she's gonna sleep already even though normally she sleep very late. I asked what's wrong then she said its because she thought I didn't like her then bla bla bla fast forward in a few days. She suddenly asked the big question. She asked if I wanted to officially date or just keep flirting around with no label. ofc i chose the former then we started dating. I remember exactly the feeling I've felt that day, it just seemed too good to be true I didn't knew having my first gf would feel like this.
Few weeks into the relationship it didn't seem that we would break up and be together forever and spoiler alert we did break up. She broke up with me two days before Christmas, I wouldn't say the reason since its a complicated one but none of us cheated. So it was the worse Christmas ever.... Anyways we got back together after a few weeks then she became distant and cold then broke up again cuz she said it didn't feel right to not be able to reciprocate my feelings so yeah
We didn't talk for several days till I told her that we should return to our normal interaction and be friends again since we're in the same group in our several school projects and I didn't want to have an awkward atmosphere whenever we're having a group meeting.
I asked her out valentine but she declined saying she's still not ready to be in relationship. Fast forward to this month and yeah I don't know what to do but I still like her a lot already tried moving on and talking with other girls but it didn't feel the same.
TLDR: My closest female friend became my first gf but we broke up but I still like her and can't move on
Ps: sorry if there are parts with bad English | Crushes |
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my crush used to look at me all the time during our music classes. school reopened and he acts like i'm not there. does he like me? or maybe does he like my friend who's always with me?( shes not in my school) is it that I felt he was looking at me? maybe he was looking at somebody else, is that possible? should I give up on him? | Crushes |
What are some tips to get myself to stop constantly thinking about how lonely and touch deprived I am, because no matter how much I try to punch off the thoughts, I can’t stop thinking about how much I want companionship that I’m just not getting. | Crushes |
Hi guys! I hope that you could help me to figure this situation out, because I am not good in male psychology and have no male friends to ask..
So I have a crush at my teacher in university, he is somewhat around 40 years old, not married (I am in my early twenties). He is very attractive and a lot of girls swoon over him. I was attending classes with him in a small group for a year, so we know each other pretty well.
So the other day we had a lecture with him where I sit in a front row. (Here I would mention that I don't particularly do anything to show I like him or do anything extreme). I was sitting and looking at him while he was talking when this happened. He took a pause, than looked directly my way (at my desk precisely) and had this little smirk for a second, then continued talking as usual.
I just wonder, does he find me amusing in any way or genuinely like me? Is this some kind of flirting? We continued to interact as usual after that, but something changed in him, I can't quite figure out what it was. | Crushes |
So 3 Days ago i told her that i love her (i was severely drunk but that doesnt matter) she asked if i really love her the next morning i said yes then she asked like what kind of love (platonic or sh*t) i said i love her but not platonic from then she didnt chat back or said anything abt it and only chatted abt other themes like nothing happened and now she aint even reading my messages what does that mean? I hope she just wants to tell me in person that she likes me back when we next meet.
Edit: she never said she doesn't like me | Crushes |
I (17M) have been crushing on this girl (18F) in my class for the past four years. She's said she's always liked me too, and her biggest regrets have been turning me down those two times.
It's been a month since we got together and I just wanted to talk about this and her with other people>< | Crushes |
Mostly posting this to gush because im stuck in my feels at the moment. Ive liked this guy for so long and it just feels really nice to get attention from him.
We've been friends since highschool and currently living together and entered a friends with benefits relationship about 2 months ago i wanna say???
Hes so cute tho like, he walks around and poses like a toxic fratboy, but hes the biggest dork on the inside. I love watching him get excited about his nerdy little hobbies and music, especially music. Im not musically talented but hes always trying to teach me things and is eager for me to practice so i can jam with him. He also just takes me everywhere with him and he calls them our 'bro dates'. This past weekend he crawled in bed and snuggled with me first thing in the morning for a few hours and it was so sweet. We play with each others hair and give each other kisses.
A few weeks ago we were cuddling and making out and i slipped up and said that i liked him a lot and he got a little tripped out about it. Him and i kinda agreed that our relationship we have is no strings attatched and theres no plans to make it anything serious. And if i was getting confused about it then we could stop whenever. Neither one of us are really ready for a relationship at this point, but i cant really help that hes catching feelings back for me? Or im just reading into it too much and kinda just living in a fantasy idk. | Crushes |
🎶Remember me
I feel you so close to me
I hope you still think of me
even I know you found another love
you took away my chance to
be with you forever
to be your love and stay together
you gave away the precious love
that we had to somebody else
oh baby I wanna tell you
remember me
remember everything we used to be
can you feel my heart pounding, pounding
will be forever, will you
remember you, remember me
I remember everything we used to be
'cause my blood is still pumping, pumping
will be forever, will you remember me🎶 | Crushes |
I've been crushing on this girl for about 4 months now, we met about 7 months ago or so. We have half our classes with each other, meet at lunch nearly everyday, and text every night. We both draw and have similar interests. Although we talk a lot, I'm usually the one to start the conversation, she usually shows interest but normally doesn't start the conversation. Back in March (so like 3 months ago i believe) i asked her if she wanted to do anything fun during spring break, she said she would've liked to but her mom is very strict and se had plans with a friend already. A month later we went bowling as a group and i invited her to the arcade and left the group along with a few friends, we played air hockey (which happens to be both her favorite and my favorite game there) and she beat me 6-2. She said she had fun and we should do it again sometime. The school year has 4 days left, i thought that I was going to have to change school but apparently not, she still thinks im changing schools. I had a goal to ask her out before this friday but I've been having doubts as to whether i should since we have good chemistry but I always have to be the one to start the conversation. (She's usually quiet so there isn't many conversations started by her with anyone but the point still stands.) Should I go for it or is too risky | Crushes |
I'm an artist, I love sketching every now and then and lately when thinking about what I want to draw and I just wanna draw him, I wanna draw some moments we had together and some ideas I have that I think will turn out really well.
But if I do draw him and I'm proud of it then I'd want to show him or my friends but I feel like it would be creepy | Crushes |
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We went on a couple successful and really fun dates and we even started dating and we even started 2 shows together. He asked me to be his girlfriend and I thought heck yeah I won! We did have a lot in common (anime, dance, etc. I thought we clicked). I was even his first kiss.
Well 3 days after we started dating he tells me he thinks we’re too different from each other and he would want someone “more likeminded” to him. So yeah, he broke up with me after 3 days. I appreciated his honesty but it did hurt. While we were together I didn’t suspect anything was wrong and I thought our feelings aligned, guess not. It felt like I was on an emotional rollercoaster experiencing the most romantic week of my life and he just ended it suddenly.
Judging by his breakup text, I have some suspicion his eyes are on someone else and that’s why he ended things. I think we both felt anxious over how fast our relationship progressed. I’m still recovering from everything but I just wish him the best. I still appreciate the time and experiences we had together. Don’t know if I want to be friends but hey, that’s life I guess. | Crushes |
My crush/best friend 18 female and I 18 male have been friends for years and have helped each other through so much the problem is I have a crush on her and don’t know what to do she is currently liking a guy who also like her back but she doesn’t want a relationship with him right now. I have asked her out once in the past about 3 years ago Should I shoot my shot or should I wait for something to happen. | Crushes |
It's late at night and I'm thinking. Probably not good for me
There's this girl, she is really cute, I love her for the way she acts, her smile, the way she talks.. I don't know how to feel. I hardly talked to her, if at all, because I was afraid of messing up in the slightest, destroying my image and losing any chance. I pushed her out of my mind eventually, but in these late nights it comes back to me. The school year just ended, so I don't know what to do really. I don't have a way to talk to her. I guess I could find her snap but I feel like it'd be creepy for me to search for her like that. I don't think I'd even have a chance if I did manage to start talking to her. I don't know. Uuuugh
I haven't ever felt anything like this before, haven't thought of anybody like this not once. She keeps popping back up in my mind. I don't know what to do. It's almost painful the extent to which I have no idea what I'm doing. I have no clue at this point as to what I should do. As I said I didn't talk to her much, we know eachother on a first name basis, we ride the same bus and used to talk quite a bit with other people as well. I talked to her brother a lot, but I don't think she really liked her brother. I don't know where to go from here. I have been telling myself to go talk to her, see where it goes, but I'm terrified as to what could happen, and what would happen if I don't. It's hard for me to overcome these irrational fears. I don't understand it, I could have the best pep talk with me myself and I, but still put it off.
I kind of find it funny, I'm so scared to talk to this girl, but I pour my heart out to some random place on the internet, hoping for some sort of guidance. | Crushes |
So my crush didn't come to school today so he has been calling me throughout it. One of his friends told him I was flirting with a guy and they describe best friend(who is gay) M. This man call me up while I was cooking at 8 pm talking about you are a player. I was like what and he said you is out here playing with my feelings I am hurt. I can tell he was joking but I can also tell he was jealous. He started sulking and I tried to explain to him that the guy I was talking was my friend. Then he gonna ask me if I was going to give him a kiss, then proceeds to give me one. This man is just adorable | Crushes |
Asked them to go do two different activities at separate times. They gave an excuse saying they were busy the first time but would definitely go when they weren't. Never asked again for a couple months after that. They brought it up again that we never got to go skating together yet so I asked again. We went this time. I just feel like they were being nice because they knew I wanted to do that stuff rather than them wanting to actually spend time with me. They never initiated any hang outs on their own or even talked to me outside of when we weren't around each other. Thoughts? | Crushes |
and does it make a difference if it's gay porn? (I'm a girl btw) | Crushes |
For context, I’m an 18F who has only dated guys before and I’m pretty sure I’ve always been pan or bi or queer or whatever.
But I definitely have a crush on this girl. She is so cool, in every way. I won’t gush too much. I am not 100% sure she like girls, or if she likes anyone else right now, but I do know that I like her and I want to shoot my shot. I’ve asked people out with nice heartfelt letters before and to be honest I am not doing that again because of how it turned out last time for me (a crappy rejection).
I want to be nice and creative, and ideally do it in person, any ideas? | Crushes |
So I had been crushing on this dude, he didn’t feel the same even though we had phone sex. I got too impatient to commit a relationship with him, I’m such a bitch. I’m crying right now. We met through Reddit, I fell for him a month ago. I’m so stupid, like why the fuck he did this to me 😞.. | Crushes |
She told me today because she thought I deserved to know and out of respect and stuff but yeah apparently the both of them have been texting for the past little while and went out on a date and kissed and are going on another one soon. Felt numb when she told me and now I’m just incredibly sad. I realize I was way more attached to this man than I thought. I can’t even get mad at her though because he was fair game and I was too cowardly to have taken a shot. It just hurts. My lesson to you all is to be brave enough to ask whoever you like out— there are far worse ways of finding out they don’t like you. | Crushes |
So I like this person, REALLY like them, and whenever I think about them my stomach basically aches. Either that, or I get random heart palpitations. Sometimes both of these things can hurt and I've been losing my appetite because of the stomach aches. If I see a picture of them, my entire chest feels weird as if someone's applying a pressure onto it. Is this normal? | Crushes |
Asked her to our school’s dance, and she said yes! Afterwards texted me saying that she liked me as more than a friend. | Crushes |
We met through a club and had limited interactions for a year now and just recently started messaging online so I listed some things he has done below:
\-Stick around me and accompany me in the club even if we aren't talking (he is very sociable I'm the opposite but he doesn't talk to anyone else while I'm next to him, only when I'm gone)
\-Lots of eye contact, locking eyes in the halls, we sometimes communicate by giving each other looks
\-He only talks to me one on one but not when either one of us are with friends
\-happy to see me I think?
\-Compliments my outfits
\-For example one time during an event he said "You look dashing in your suit. I'm swooning right now"
When messaging on discord:
\-seems to check my status and profile and points out when I've changed something (which I often do)
\-We tease and try to "expose" each other and compare who has weirder interests/fetishes
\-I complimented him once and he spammed me asking me to answer him if it was a compliment or not
If he finds this post I will throw myself out a window, thank you :) | Crushes |
every dude I’ve liked I’ve always (even if we’ve never talked) I always try to get their attention, whether it be talkin loudly or trying to act different I just end up embarrassing myself later. Every dude I liked is attractive and athletic and skinny and pretty and popular and I’m average at most im fairly athletic but not as much as anyone else im fat and im not popular, so think how that turns out, they always find someone else. If I do get asked out it’s always as a joke. istg im hopeless | Crushes |
(TL;DR at the bottom)
So recently, I had an experience with a guy who liked me that kind of ruined my perception of him.
Basically what happened is my guy friend who is friends with pretty much everyone in our grade and knows everyone's secrets and crushes started trying to help this guy. This guy had a crush on me apparently, and wanted to ask me to the dance. My friend is slightly annoying, he is very.. persistent. The type of person who kind of guilt trips you if you didn't call him back or respond to his texts. Anyways, this friend was helping the guy ask me. Basically- it was a rollercoaster. He wouldn't tell me who wanted to ask me to the dance (even though this guy was texting me "hi" and "wyd") I knew it was this guy and when I asked if it was him, my friend said no.
Well fast forward to the day of the dance, he still didn't ask me. FINALLY my friend comes to me, tells me it WAS the guy and asks if I want to go with him. After a while of feeling nervous and saying " I don't know" I tricked myself into thinking I wanted to go with him because I felt bad saying no. (Note the fact I had never talked to this guy before in my life) Anyways, it made me feel nervous and put into an uncomfortable position. I never ended up talking to this guy as he didn't talk to me at the dance. I understand he's shy, I am too, but I feel like he could of at least said hi or something, considering the fact that I'd said yes and it's not like he would get rejected. To this day I still have never spoken to him and everything feels awkward around him.
**Anyways- the moral of this story is:**
Talk to your crush before you confess or make a move- it might *sound* nice in your head to have some person see you and start crushing on you, but it really is just weird.
and
if you hire a middleman, make sure they won't guilt trip your crush into saying yes and put them in an uncomfortable position. | Crushes |
So basically, There is this girl on my swim team. and shes AMAZING. I really Like her. BUT, I don't know if she likes me? I really hope she dose. She often looks at me. She often compliments me. I just really want her too like me! How do I know if she likes me? | Crushes |
Like he went to a drag show with me. He knew nothing abt drag queens and stuff like that and kept telling me he was only going because I wanted him to go. My cousin asked me if him and I were on a date and I told him to respond and he responded (as a joke), “and what if we are?” And during the whole thing he let me sit close to him.
He told me to colour in a sketch he drew. I finished his drawing for him and he said it was really good ☺️☺️
Idk if this means anything but I was messaging him abt how I was going to some pride event and randomly without any context whatsoever he sent a snap that was a 4 second video with some stupid audio. He was just like smiling in the video and it was shoulders up but it didn’t look like he had a shirt on-
He wants to have a sleepover with me. That’s a normal friend thing but still
He trusts me with some of his biggest secrets. And I trust him.
One of his friends thinks he likes me and some of the others ship us
Edit: I forgot to mention he looks at me sometimes in class. Like one time I was looking to the right (he sits on my left) and I looked in front of me and out of the corner of my eye I saw him quickly look down at his phone. His head had been turned in my direction before.
I cant think of any more at the moment because I’m sick and I had a fever this morning- | Crushes |
my crush is known as the super quiet kid in school and he's really nice. he's super humble and lots of other girls have had crushes on him but he always turns them down. I'm only as close with him as I am because im friends with his best friend. he graduates next year, how can I get closer to him?
I cant say he's every shown "interest I me" because this is my first crush. I'm super awkward and get embarrassed really easily. I don't think he knows about my crush on him. he's kind to me and shows support when I'm upset or something and laughs if I tell a joke but to be honest he does that with everybody. | Crushes |
So me (F) recently confessed to my best friend, and she rejected me, which I was expecting. But she told me that she already knew I liked her and that I was basically I was "Two weeks too late and a year too early", basically meaning that if I had asked her 2 weeks prior she would have said yes, and that if I asked in a year she would have said yes. Which kinda threw me and a few other friends for a loop. But I digress.
So we were at a friend's house for the first time since the confession the other day and she sits next to me and makes a bunch of joking about sexually harassing me (which is a common joke in our friend group). Anyways, were playing this card game called "What The Fuck" and basically have to answer questions that apply to the reader of the card.
So the one I get is about a lover. So I read "What three words would my lover least want to hear" to the group, and they come up with their own responses. When it's her time to say her answer im shocked because she answers as if she is my lover. And even openly brings it up after she finishes outright saying that she is my "lover" in the scenario. But she had just rejected me a few days before hand and is already doing things that give me hope.
I know she said that maybe in a year, but to me knowing how girls reject people that just sounds like an excuse to have my feelings get less hurt. And that maybe she is hoping my feelings go away before than. But yeah thats that, she just confuses me when she does things like that 😮💨 | Crushes |
So…I think I like this girl in my class. She’s really pretty and I think about her a lot. I know she’ll never like me but I don’t know if i like her? I think about her a lot, i like the way she dresses and acts, her personality is really cool, but I just don’t know if I actually like her. Help? | Crushes |
My crush/best friend and I have been friends for years and have helped each other through so much the problem is I have a crush on her and don’t know what to do she is currently liking a guy who also like her back but she doesn’t want a relationship with him right now. I have also asked her about before and she said no but it was 3 years ago I really like her but don’t know what to do should I shoot my shot or should I wait for something to happen. I really need help! | Crushes |
I've liked the boy for a awhile, I never got the courage to actually talk to him Yada Yada. The summarize I got his number, and today I texted him. I told him where I got his number from, then apologized for being awkward and "failing" at talking to him. I have bad anxiety, especially social anxiety. So I was very nervous, and didn't even want to check to see if he read it. After like, an hour, I checked. And he read it. He never replied. I think that's a sign. I've sent him an email before, asking for his number, but he never replied. I have no clue if he saw it or not. I dont even know. I sort of got my hopes up. Of course he wouldn't give me the time of day, I'm me. Nobody is interested in me that way. I don't think I'm ugly at all, but I'm just not the type of girl boys find attractive ever. I'm openly queer and my fashion is pretty bright and I paint flowers and stuff onto my face everyday. He never rejected my efforts to talk, but he never came up to me first either. He probably thinks I'm creepy. I wish I was outgoing so I could just talk to him in person. Sometimes I make myself look hyper feminine (I usually dress in baggy clothes or something more masc) incase he would find me more attractive that way. I have adhd, and my personality is a bit more masculine. I feel like nothing about me would be attractive to a straight cis-man, which I assume he is? I am just gonna give up, I think. | Crushes |
It's been long enough, we've talked awkwardly since November and I'm not getting anymore confident around her than I am now unless I full on ask her out. I want to ask her to hang out 1 on 1 at some point this week, but I don't know what to do if she says no, or suggests inviting more people. I have an idea of what to say, I just don't know when or where to say it.
Any suggestions? We have to be alone because she's very shy, I don't want to do it over text, and calling isn't the best idea because she isn't a huge talker and she shares a room with her sister. | Crushes |
Hi all, I have a slight problem/mental game i kinda need help w:
So recently, there’s this part timer who I’ve worked w for a bit @ my previous workplace back when I was a supervisor and now, and I have been sharing some closer-ish moments, where I’d catch her looking at me(either openly/discreetly), and asked me qs like if I brought my bad so she can out her stuff w mine and taking care of her stuff, and also seems more receptive to my text & verbal communication this time round…
Would it be weird, if I were to ask her, be it irl or over text:”I don’t wanna sound obnoxious by asking this, but how do you see me, or rather, do you like me? Like as a close friend or something more than that? | Crushes |
Oh my god. she has made it clear she doesn't like me back, and recently we got in a fight over something stupid (not that i liked her it was something else) and she ended up blocking me, and so i gave her space to let her have her own time.
now over the past few days, shes been complimenting my shop stuff, and then when i re dyed my hair. she asked if she could touch it (shes like a toddler at heart. and very strange) and i was like "okay you weirdo" and she was just entertained at the fact that my hair was SO blue 😭💀
she also constantly reassures her friends that think shes gay that shes not, and im like an extremely masculine girl, to the point where i act like a cis het boy, (not trans but extremely masc) so i always have the same demeanor as her other male friends and i think thats helpful for keeping us as friends and just chilling how we are relationship wise.
also, on the topic of her being literally a child in a teenagers body, her and her friend during class today were playing patty cake for like an hour, and she was actually genuinely amused, she was laughing, not like small laughing but like laughing to the point where you could actually see joy, and she was turning red. you can practically give her anything childish and shed be entertained.
(shes not usually happy at all, but hes her closest friend apart from the one she grew up with and is starting to drift from) and so seeing her happy is enough to keep me happy even if its not from me.
me and my friends always call them the teenage children duo as a joke and they just keep proving it.
sorry im drawing this out so far, but also, every time i see her in the halls she has the biggest cutest smile, scrunchy face and everything, yet somehow she denies being cute 😭💀 like miss girl have you looked in a mirror?
ALSO, QUESTION FOR YALL THAT GOT THIS FAR.
what should i randomly have with me tmr to see if she gets entertained by it? | Crushes |
Started a new job about 9 months ago. First day I met a girl who I thought was cute. Couple months later after getting to know her a little better I shot my shot and asked her on a date. She said she'd go but only as friends, which I accepted.
Since then an actual friendship has grown from it. We hang out pretty regularly after work, and also see new movies from time to time. Usually we smoke but recently we've been watching TV shows together at my place. We always have a good time and end up laughing the whole time. I always look forward to us hanging out whether it's at work for a few minutes or after work for an hour or 2.
Thing is, this whole time it's just cemented the fact that I really like this person. Like full on head over heels. Everytime I make her laugh with a corny joke or reference it makes my heart melt. It's no secret that I like her. It's kinda hard to miss when you're the only person I hang out with after work. People at work that I've talked to (whom I trust) keep telling me that good things come in time and the best relationships start out as friendships. It's just killing me inside that I can't express how I really feel about her without the fear of ruining a friendship.
We've had the discussion about how we both very much enjoy each other's company and value the friendship. I'm doing my best to be respectful and not push too much or crowd her. It's just hard when you feel the click you feel like you've been missing.
All this is to say that I wish I had the courage and the mental balls to tell her how I feel in a "non ultimatum way". If she ends up not wanting anything I still plan on being her friend. I just hope she is or ends up feeling the same way. | Crushes |
say literally whatever you want idc | Crushes |
Just left me start off by saying it's been a while since I texted her my last text to her was me wishing her a happy birthday anyways, she recently got a job at a restaurant and obviously I looking for a job a restaurant as well so I decided to text her for advice like is working at a restaurant hard etc. She left me seen but I don't blame her cause it's been a since I wished her a happy birthday or maybe cause I started my sentence "Hi um this might seem random" also just let me state that our conversations are never that long it's usually "hi" "hi" "how you been" "oh good" "that's good" etc. I feel so dumb right now I don't what to do. And sorry for dragging this for so long I make such a big deal out of everything my bad | Crushes |
okay SO. oh my gos hehehe. a couple weeks ago we went on a night out just as friends and she was saying that she loved my eyes and she says that i’m super pretty and that i’m like the whole package and i was like FUCKING HELL OMGGG inside and then we hugged cause she said that she felt insecure so i was like omg bestie no. and then a couple days ago i sent a tik tok saying that i look at my friends and i’m mesmerised by their natural beauty and she said omfg stop ur so nice that’s me with you. and then she was also saying that whenever she first saw me (the night we went out) she thought to herself oh my god who is this beautiful goddess. IM GOING TO FOLD😭😭 I CANT HAVE A CRUSH ON A STRAIGHT GIRL OH MY GOSHSJDJ BUT AHSHEHJSJSKS | Crushes |
(14M) I just want some advice on if I should ask out my crush or not. We’ve been talking a lot for a while now and last night we were on an hour and half long call that ended at 1am. I can’t tell if she likes me back or not and I’m considering asking her out | Crushes |
I friend zoned one of my close friends recently, and he’s a great guy, I tried to be really nice about it.
We both hope for the awkwardness to absolve and to remain friends, but neither of us really tried today to talk.
I know it must be hard on him, but how can I make this easier and just get rid of the awkwardness between us?
Should I just take the plunge and try talking to him? Or wait it out? | Crushes |
She is moving from the town and I can't do anything about it. She also doesn't want to move. I said goodbye with her today and talked with her that I will miss her. Now in the last night until she is gone I am texting her. Right now. I wrote her my last goodbyes and I am talking to her about all the things we experienced together and with our other friends. She texted me that she is crying... and I started crying too... I am crying right now... I told her how much I will miss her and I care for her. She asked will I remember her or will I just forget about her. I told her that I will never forget her, we exchanged phone numbers, promised that we will text each other... She told me that she wishes she doesn't has to move. I didn't tell her I felt something more than friendship for her. Maybe some day I will tell her. I will definitely tell her that I was attracted to her. I don't even know will I ever see her again, maybe we will, but who knows. I could just cry all the night like I do right now but... all of this... all these tears, they are not only from sadness... I feel kind of happy... Today I realised that she also cared for me, that she liked me... that she will miss me... I am so unstable right now... I am also mixing it with the most bittersweet song I know... If all of this don't have any sense sorry. I am just broken in million pieces by texting her... but only like that I could realize how much I will miss her. How much I will miss her when I will lose her maybe forever. The only thing that is left for me is hope. Hope that we will see again someday. I wish her the best. Damn... Pauline I love you... I love you so much... I wish it would not end that fast... | Crushes |
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